no i didn't say it didn't exist i just meant to point out that the kind of objectivity you are imposing on our edits and discussions makes little sense when the person we're discussing could quite probably be our old school friend or our grandmother's neighbour not because we are deliberately exploiting a coi but because it couldn't be otherwise even trying to protect the anonymity of research participants is kind of farcical in a small population in light of our culture i think your rules about objectivity are antagonistic assuming you're not some mutant kind of new zealander that is and i wouldn't be surprised if someone makes a bigger deal out of your behaviour