thank you for your comments i understand your decision not to get involved and i won't press you on it i wish the advocacy service still existed though as least in theory it sounds like a good thing i too am surprised that the user didn't just shut down the account and start anew if a person were thinking rationally that would be the right choice but i don't think this person thinks that way just tonight i was talking to a relative about my grandmother and how she is emotionally explosive and childlike something that i think parallels the user my relative and i keep our distance while trying to help her as best we can but i think wikipedia has distanced itself from the situation for far too long and is myopic about each situation naturally one wants to let it go and move on and i'm a forgiving person absolutely but it's idiotic to turn a blind eye when you're getting screwed over dozens of times anyway take care and happy wikipedia editing