trying to find loopholes in everything isn't a good way to live your life if you find a loophole you find a mistake it's not that you found the true meaning of something in this case for example telling someone that they disgust you is incivil regardless of whether they do incivil remarks are inconsiderate offensive and impolite you already know that but i'm just telling you that these arguments based on loopholes seldom do more than convince yourself and as soon as they're closed you're back at square one and you wasted your time