we're probably struggling to agree my general view is a machiavellian one that the rational person ought to act in the way most likely to achieve the desired outcome when faced with intransigence though as in this case it probably doesn't make much difference either way also in general i think things would go a lot more smoothly here if more people didn't take such comments so personally and go running off to wqa or an i whenever someone upsets them that's just part and parcel of everday life sticks and stones fatuorum