and one more sort of amy vanderbilt etiquette thing mostly folks post on each others discussion page and not the user page it's sort of like parking on the driveway as opposed to on the lawn it's not important to me but others might freak out and in any case knowledge in power and you should be at least aware of these things so that you're making informer decisions and i really am not or at least think i'm not quite the fussy curmudgeon that this makes me sound like life is good