system Emotional relief can come by talking with others with whom you have very little intimacy or contact such as a therapist or support group Even talking online with someone you know that well may help you feel more accepted and less anxious Go Deeper Express YourselfAs you explore the feelings table and begin talking about your feelings write down in your notebook the emotions that seem to come up for you the most Record one or two of these primary emotions This a writing test so worry about your writing style spelling or punctuation Simply ask yourself the following How old were you when you first remember feeling this What was the Was that situation at all similar to what going through Did you express what you were feeling to Did anyone comfort you or help you make sense of your See if in your writing you can comfort yourself now through compassion and Tell yourself okay to feel this specific See if you can let yourself believe that part of the problem is never having allowed yourself to reflect on and accept your deeper emotional experiences Underneath When we express negative experiences they become try to problem solve