means about you write it down 4 Then ask yourself the same question about new thoughts does it mean about me as a person if this thought is actually 100 percent Then do the same for the next new thought Eventually you will funnel down to a core belief look at another example of the technique in action this time with Ahmed When talking with others Ahmed appears calm and collected but internally he is evaluating his every word While on a date or social outing he believes he appears awkward The downward arrow technique What does it mean about you as a person if your date thinks messed up I lost that opportunity What does it mean about you if you messed up an opportunity with that people will keep giving up on me What does it mean about you if people keep giving up on That I disappoint people What does it mean about you if you disappoint no one is going to want me reflects an unlovability core belief Deep down Ahmed believes no one is going to love him After you use the downward arrow technique with a number of your anxious thoughts you will see