you are the less likely you are to fear social interaction This is because when you exchange eye contact speak out put down boundaries share your opinions people see you and respect you And too speaking up is a way to clear up misconceptions and miscommunications of which are inevitable in the social so the same distressing social dynamics continue to play out for you over and over again List in your notebook what your fears are before entering a specific social situation and next to each fear write out how you could respond and appropriately handle the situation should it occur What rejections could talk to me at all or will look away and it will feel like not even there volunteer to help the host or make the plan and initiate the event so be an integral factor What criticisms could I talk about my job people will think boring and that uninteresting talk a bit about my job but will highlight the positive smile and maybe even joke about it or vary my conversation to include my job but also my family or a movie seen What things matter to you that cannot be predicted in your