prevent the unpreventable Joy love and pleasure are magnificent aspects of life However in the small print on contract find that hardship loss suffering setbacks and yes anxiety are also part of the deal Instead of trying to rid yourself of things that be changed like distress and discomfort change your relationship with anxiety by accepting it Give up the futile struggle against your feelings and allow your anxiety to come and feelings always do Imagine yourself as a surfer moving with not against your waves of emotion and accepting those waves as they come You control the waves but you can take them as they are which will help you move through life more smoothly Accepting anxiety mean a victim of it or that giving up and allowing it to control you Acceptance even mean you like what experiencing Acceptance is the idea that it is what it is When you look out the window and see rain you say to yourself raining I have to fix You also say a victim of the rain or being abused by the rain or raining I give up Perhaps you love the rain but you pull out an umbrella you keep