We that the stove burners are off or that the doors are locked every time we leave the house We seek reassurance asking ourselves and the people around us you sure you still love I done everything I my child be they think poorly of I ever find a I I everything Living that way is exhausting and over time it diminishes quality of life The idea that we have to worry or remain hypervigilant so bad things happen to us is an illusion Bad things including suffering and sorrow are sadly part of life not your job to become certain of the uncertain The only real control we have is to accept reasonable uncertainty so anxiety rob us of joy or of the pleasure of being fully present in this life now MEETING NEW PEOPLE Before entering a social situation we can never know with 100 percent accuracy what will happen how we will feel or what others may think about us which is why social situations often involve a lot of uncertainty anxiety We can get so caught up in fears over possible that we become paralyzed at the prospect of hanging out with people The more assertive