moment to reflect on your patterns of avoidance What do you avoid that only causes you problems in the long Here are clues that suggest ducking something that matters or has meaning to Saying you will do something but then not following through delaying a task until tomorrow then the next day and the next Making rationalizations justifications and excuses for why you do something alarm clock wake me up Wasting on trivial thoughts tasks and interactions as a way to distract you from what you should or need to be doing Frequently telling others or yourself that you feel well physically and why you do something Make a list in your notebook of what you avoid Keep this focus top of mind and see if you can catch yourself in the moment making the decision to avoid Then try to make a different WHY ARE YOU AVOIDING Even dysfunctional behavior continues or increases when rewarded People keep smoking because of the rewarding effect of the dopamine hit Without a serious desire to make a change this behavior continues in spite of the toll smoking takes on health and longevity important to identify what is reinforcing or strengthening your tendency