focusing on what is within your control Letting go of feeling at the mercy of life or circumstance creates a feeling of safety and calmness Here is a way to no longer face hardship with 1 Pick an anxious thought or worry trigger 2 Recognize the thoughts that keep you in a helpless state over this particular never find a way will always be like this 3 Come up with three actionable steps you can take and that are within your control 4 Take action For example Layla was anxious about an upcoming wedding she had to attend She had lost touch with many of the folks invited to the wedding and felt overwhelmed by worries over what they would think of her and how she would be socially on the outside In order to move away from wallow and worry toward healthy control she asked herself what she could do to improve the situation Reach out to old friends before the wedding Text call write a note Layla connected a bit before the event and even video chatted with one friend Imagine the day going the way you would like it to Layla visualized herself the day of the