again and again on autopilot Think about the following questions regarding your so you can make the voice inyour head more nurturing and less judgmental What is the tone of your internal Is it loud and impatient or is it warm and tolerant of going on with you and your immediate When upset does your internal voice try to soothe Or does it use language that makes you feel worse such as was bad suck never going to get this right hate you a loser Does your internal voice take away your moments of When happy or feel at ease does your voice intrude telling you things you need to work on tasks that need to be accomplished or fearful Are there certain tasks hobbies or people that bring out a kinder warmer side of you where your internal voice seems softer less If so these are the things you should do more of and the types of relationships you should cultivate If not experiment with different activities and people to find those that bring out your softer side Cultivate your capacity for ease and calm and encourage that is compassionate and forgiving means showing yourself a warm understanding of