judge your upset or overly pressure you to in some Did you not confide in them at Identify the link between the type of emotional support you were given in childhood and how accepting you are now of your emotional experiences Start changing the way you support yourself emotionally so you can be more unconditionally accepting of whatever you feel PRACTICING ACCEPTANCE Although it can be hard to accept painful not avoid or push them consequences that come from not doing so far outweigh the pain of facing whatever it is really feeling Come up with several examples in your life where your lack of acceptance of your feelings has only caused you more negative emotion or wheel spinning As you reflect on these examples be honest with yourself and acknowledge the feeling you tend to avoid that brings the most consequences to sadness anger anxiety guilt shame frustration joy Consider the results of avoiding this emotion Has it increased your Caused you to siphon off large amounts of emotional energy in Or has avoiding this emotion blocked joy and SITTING WITH DIFFICULTEMOTIONS It is likely you have avoided negative emotions because afraid of feeling them or you know how