your future chances of success or getting what you want at zero And perhaps most importantly overgeneralizing means an end to trying For example if you stop believing you will ever get promoted you stop putting in the extra effort at work If you believe you find a romantic partner you stop trying to engage new acquaintances or actively date The second component of the anxious mind is that we underestimate our ability to cope if what we fear actually happens We tell ourselves we possibly manage the frightening situation our mind is way I even know what to do be able to deal with that would kill me go crazy In the face of a possible adversity we imagine ourselves melting into a puddle of anxious fear This reinforces the superstitious notion that worry itself will keep us I worry enough be okay I obsess over this project work harder I keep myself upset and on edge about this be better prepared when it happens This pattern can be broken capable of managing far more than you imagine Just because you want to deal with something or it may be hard to deal with mean you be effective You