Been a Son
"Been a Son" is a song by the American rock band Nirvana, written by vocalist and guitarist Kurt Cobain. It was originally released on the "Blew" EP in November 1989, which charted at number 15 on the UK Indie Singles chart. A second studio version appears on the rarities compilation album "Incesticide", released in December 1992. Origin and recording. Early history. Written in 1989, the earliest know version of "Been a Son" is a solo home demo, featuring Cobain on vocals, guitar and bass, that appeared on the compilation "" in November 2015. Blew EP. "Been a Son  was first recorded in the studio in September 1989 by Steve Fisk at Music Source in Seattle, Washington. Of the five songs recorded, only two were officially released, with both Been a Son" and "Stain" appearing on the "Blew" EP in December 1989. The session was Nirvana's first time recording on two inch, 24 track tape, and Fisk recalls that "when it was all over with, we played 'Been a Son' really loud on the big stupid speakers three times and stood up on the client tables in the back room and danced." Cobain would later dismiss this version  of the song as "slower [and] lamer" than the version later released on "Incesticide". However, American filmmaker, author and radio DJ Kurt St. Thomas called it the definitive take, saying it better displayed Nirvana's signature thrashing guitar sound and because of the more prominent bass guitar solo in the mix. In October 2002, it appeared on the band's first greatest hits album, "Nirvana", marking its first release since its appearance on "Blew". Post-Blew EP. "Been a Son" was first performed live on October 8, 1989 at the Lif Ticket Lounge in Omaha, Nebraska, the show at which  Nirvana also debuted the future "Nevermind" song, "Breed", which was then called "Immodium". On September 25, 1990, Cobain performed a solo acoustic version of the song on the "Boy Meets Girl" show, hosted by Beat Happening vocalist and guitarist Calvin Johnson, on KAOS (FM) in Olympia, Washington. This version of the song was released on the posthumous Nirvana box set, "With the Lights Out", in November 2004. In July 1992, a live version of the song, recorded at the Paramount Theatre in Seattle, Washington on October 31, 1991, was released as a b-side on the third single from "Nevermind , for the song, Lithium." Incesticide. A second studio version of "Been a Son" was recorded for the BBC program "The Evening Session" by Miti Adhikari, at Maida Vale Studios in London, England on November 9, 1991. It was released on the rarities compilation "Incesticide" in December 1992. Post-Incesticide. The final live performance of "Been a Son" was at the band's Bosnian Rape Victim Benefit show at the Cow Palace in Daly City, California, on April 9, 1993. The song was considered for the band's "MTV Unplugged" appearance in November 1993, but is not confirmed to have been  rehearsed, and was not performed at the show. Lyrics and composition. "Been a Son" represents one of Cobain's earliest commentaries on the issues of sex and gender. In his 1993 biography "", Michael Azerrad described "the instantly catchy" song as being about "the plight of a girl whose parents would have preferred a boy." Jenn Pelly of "Pitchfork" described it as "a comment on how patriarchy sees women as second-class citizens, on how it dictates what it thinks women should be." Stephen Thomas Erlewine described the track as an "indie pop tune". Reception. "Been a Son" has been cited  as one of the earliest examples of Nirvana's more melodic direction following the release of their 1989 debut album, "Bleach". As author Chuck Crisafulli noted, Cobain suppressed his pop influences during the band's earliest years, but after the release of "Bleach", he became more outspoken and confident about professing his love of John Lennon and the Beatles during interviews. Fisk, who produced the first version of the song, said that the recording featured "Total Lennon harmonies, right out of "Rubber Soul"". Azerrad wrote that Cobain's vocals were "draped in most un-Sub Pop-like harmonies", a reference  to Nirvana's then-record label, best known for their heavier grunge sound that defined most of "Bleach", with the exception of "About a Girl". English musician Tim Arnold described the song as part of Nirvana's post-"Bleach" "political thrust to the top of the charts." In his review of "Incesticide" for "AllMusic", Stephen Thomas Erlewine cited "the terrific forgotten indie pop tune 'Been a Son'" as one of the compilation's highlights. In 2015, "Rolling Stone" named "Been a Son" the 23rd best Nirvana song in their "No Apologies: All 102 Nirvana Songs Ranked" list. In 2019, "The Guardian  ranked it at number 11 on their list of Nirvana's 20 greatest songs".