An old saying teaches us to first take the plank out of our own eye, if we want to be able to see clearly and only afterwards remove the speck from someone else’s eye. What does this mean? Look first at yourself in the mirror, discover and try to work on your flaws before pointing out your partner’s misshapes. Without falling in the other extreme and going for self condemnation, cut your partner some slack, stop watching his/her every single move through a magnifying glass, and try to understand their actions instead of judging them. Next time you have even the slightest couple conflict, instead of trying to put the blame on someone else, ask yourself what you did wrong. Try to find the ways of avoiding conflict, and, when such a disagreement arises, think of a solution to solve it peacefully. Emadvodza lamanyenti bekalwela inkhululeko atitfola asejele noma abalekile ekhaya. Albertina Sisulu wasukuma waba nguMake kulabo bantfwana labasele. Dali Tambo, indvodzana yaOliver Tambo bekungulomunye walabo bantfwana. “Wanginiketa lonkhe lutsandvo. Wangibita ngemuntfwana wakhe, ngamubita ngamake wami, bekangumake wami wesibili,” kwasho Dali Tambo.