Malungu ahloniphekile ukubhidlanga kobugebengu kusalokhu kuyimbangela yokuhlala kwabantu baseNingizimu Afrika besengozini. Okwenzeka nsuku zonke ezindaweni ezintulayo kanye nalezo ezakhelene nazo ngokufana kungezinye zezinto ezifakela abantu itwetwe lokuhlaselwa ngesidlozane. I think not. Otherwise we would not have learnt any lessons from Nomfazwe of ePotshini, a small village oKhahlamba. In a tribunal full of men she stood up and protested, claiming her entitlement to the estate of her lying, dying and cheating husband who wanted to divorce her. It mattered not how much she hated him but the many years of hard labour, hewing and fetching water was not going to be forfeited. She resisted. Or maybe we must look at the slaves from the Mississippi Delta who said we are not leaving America. It has become our home. It is built on our backs and its flowers are watered with our blood and sweat. That’s the ‘brutality and the necessity’  Moten, F. (2017). Black and blur. at pg 217 of this marriage that Matotiyana has identified as the cause of our burning houses. It kills us but we cannot just abandon it because so much of us is woven into its fabric.