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HJH Week 4 Dag 24 Herstel Geheime
Dag 24, Week 4:
maar eers n Herstelde Huweliks Getuienises
Haar Man het Heeltemal Verander!
Toe Erin onlangs n kerk besoek het, het die pastoor se vrou haar gevra of sy tyd het om n vrou in hulle kerk te ontmoet. Op daardie oomblik, het n jong vrou skamerig opgestap en haarself voorgestel. Sy het gesê dat sy telke male daaraan gedink het om aan Restore Ministries te skryf maar haar getuienis was te lank om te skryf.
Eileen het my vertel dat toe sy uitgevind het dat haar man by n ander vrou betrokke was, het sy in n diep depressie ingegaan. Sy het n vriendin gehad wat van Hoe God Jou Huwelik Sal en Kan Herstel gehoor en dit vir haar bestel.
Sy sê dat nadat sy die eerste hoofstuk gelees het sy soveel beter gevoel; sy het geweet dat dinge nie hopeloos was nie. Nadat sy die hele boek gelees het, het sy die vrouens se werkboek bestel. Die eerste ding wat sy gedoen het was om op te hou om haar man te kontak.
In plaas daarvan het sy gesê sy het weke spandeer deur net die boeke oor en oor te lees en dit is wat haar verander het.
Alhoewel Eileen vir baie maande nie van haar man gehoor het nie, het hy tot haar verbasing, een aand oorgekom en haar vertel dat hy die verhouding met die ander vrou vir goed beeindig het. Hy het gesê dat hy absoluut lief was vir die nuwe vrou met wie hy getroud was waarvan hy van so baie ander mense gehoor het.
Dit het amper twee jaar gelede plaasgevind. Eileen se dat die wyse waarop haar man haar behandel het heeltemal verander. Sy manier was nooit teer of beminlik nie. Nou gaan hy in die dorp rond en spog by sy kliente om sy vrou te kontak as hulle wil hê dat hulle mans hulle moet adoreer. God is MEER AS IN STAAT om gebroke harte heel te maak en die ONMOONTLIKE te doen!
~Eileen bly in Minnesota en is gelukkig HERSTEL!
Herstel is n baie moeilike reistog om op te gaan. MEESTE vrouens wat begin, droewiglik, maak nooit klaar nie.
“Ek het die goeie geveg afgelê; ek het die wenstreep bereik; ek het gelowig end-uit volgehou” -2 Timoteus 4:7
HOEKOM vrouens nie klaarmaak nie het die paar van ons wat die oorwinning behaal het stom geslaan. Elkeen van ons wou hê dat almal die 3 Geheime ken wat ons saamstem geblyk het asof dit die grootste nederlaag van vrouens was wat opgee en nooit klaarmaak nie.
Geheim #1 Moenie Verlore Raak Nie
Baie min kan die resitog alleen voltooi. Ongelukkig gryp vrouens na n vriend of n familie lid of hulle pastoor of berader-in die hoop dat hulle, hulle sal lei. Maar hoe kan enigiemand jou positief lei op n reistog waarop hulle self nooit was nie? Dit is soos n blinde wat n blinde lei.
Elkeen van ons het een ding geweet: Die ENIGSTE manier om by jou bestemming, jou herstel, uit te kom is deur SY hand vas te hou. Soos wat ons van die begin af gesê het, selfs meer as om die prinsiepe te volg wat ons jou geleer het, is die mees belangrikste ding om in jou intimiteit met die Here te groei
Elkeen van ons wat n herstelde huwelik ondervind het sal jou ook vertel dat ons dit nooit sou gemaak het sonder om n goeie padkaart te hê nie. Ons bronne: ons boeke en videos, is uit die Bybel dieselfde Bybel verse en beloftes en prinsiepe wat Hy vir elkeen van ons die lig op gewerp het.
“U woord is die lamp wat my die weg wys,die lig op my pad.”-Psalm 119:105
En om jou met jou reistog te help, wat vrouens wat voor jou gereis het nie gehad het nie, is hierdie nuwe lesse wat na jou toe gestuur is. Gaan jou Herstel Padkaart na (hierdie lesse) en belê jou tyd, om te weet in watter rigting jy gaan en om te leer wat Hy jou leer by elke stop.
“Moet nie Oorhaastig wees nie”
Geliefde Bruide, ek weet hoe moeilik dit somtyds kan wees om te verstaan hoekom ons deur soveel moeisaamheid moet gaan. As ek terugkyk na sommige van die baie moeilike tye, kan ek sien dat hulle uitgedraai het om van my grootste seëninge te wees. Hy is regtig so goed en is baie lief vir jou.
Ek word herinner toe my pa my vertel het dat ek “nie oorhaastig moet wees om groot te word nie.” Ek het dwaaslik nie geluister nie en gedoen watookal ek kon om na die volgende stadium van die lewe te hardloop.
Die hoofstuk “What’s the Point?” vanuit “Living the Abundant Life” het gehelp om my te herinner dat n herstelde huwelik nie ons primêre doel in die lewe is nie. Ek is lief vir hoe Michele sê dat dit te voorskyn kom dat alleenlik die met HHG die wenners is. Ek het dwaaslik vroeg in my HR dieselfde ding gedink. My hele fokus was om elke les te doen sodat ek n herstel kon verdien. Selfs onlangs na n tydelike herstel het ek n bietjie gesukkel met die gevoel dat ek op n manier gefaal het om weereens herstel te verloor. Ek het gedink dat as ek miskien my gevoelens meer met my AM gedeel het of hom meer gehelp het met sy worsteling sou ek verhoed het dat hy gaan.
Noudat my AM vir die laaste twee maande weg is en amper 3 jaar na sy oorspronklike vertrek, kan ek nie help maar om so n vrede en dankbaarheid teenoor Hom te voel nie. Dit is deurdat ek my eie wil vir Syne neergelê het dat ek finaal n lewe lei wat vry is van skaamte en seerkry.
Dit is deur my verwydering oor en oor dat ek meer na Hom toe gedraai het. Hy het my veilig in sy arm en ek hoef nie die vure te vrees wat kom nie. Ek het nou soveel meer alleentyd om saam Hom te spandeer. :) Hy maak my gereeld wakker om die sonsopkoms te sien en tyd in Sy lewende woord te spandeer. Ek het tyd om saam my jongste dogter te spandeer om haar te vorm en vir haar te sorg. Ek voel finaal vry en werklik lewendig!! Ek jaag nie meer die wind na en probeer om die volgende goeie ding te bereik nie.
Dit was in hierdie seisoen van verwydering wat ek finaal vry gevoel het!! Dit het gekom deur die getroude lewe te verloor wat ek gedink het my gelukkig sou maak om finaal te besef dat ek gelukkig is hier en waar ek op die oomblik is!! Ek het die lewe gevind wat Hy wou gehad het ek moes lewe voelvry en lig. Ek voel soos n kind sonder n kommer in die wereld. :) Ek dink aan al die jare waarin ek myself vereer het oor my self motivering waar dit regtig so n moeilike tydperk was. Ek het gedink ek het alles onder beheer. Ek het my AM gedruk om te baklei vir toesig van sy dogter. Dit het my eintlik kompassie vir die AV gegee toe ek hoor sy druk vir die egskeiding en die verkoop van ons huis. Sy streef eenvoudig vrede na en dink dat dit sal kom deur wat om haar omgaan te beheer. Ek was dieselfde!
Here, ek is lief vir Jou en dankie dat U my so baie lief het dat U my gekies het om so baie te verduur. U het my die hele pad beskerm. Help my om voort te gaan om my wil vir u sin neer te lê. Help my om my gedagtes en woorde te lei. Ek wil selfs nader aan U wees.
Dames, ek bemoedig julle om hierdie boek te lees!! Dit het my werklik gehelp om te sien dat alles wat ons deurmaak regtig n doel dien en dat die ware lewens voorbeelde hierin jou sal help om te sien dat Hy jou deur enigiets kan dra!
“Toe sê Jesus vir sy dissipels: “As iemand agter My aan wil kom, moet hy homself verloën, sy kruis opneem en My volg, want wie sy lewe wil behou, sal dit verloor; maar wie sy lewe ter wille van My verloor, sal dit terugkry” (Matteus 16:25)
Deur ons eie wil vir Sy wil neer te le is wanneer ons finaal die ware lewe beleef.
Geheim #2 Pak Lig
Jy kan dit nie tot by die wenpaal haal as jy te veel saam met jou dra nie. Meeste vrouens voel dat hulle, hulle mans, hulle huwelik, hulle probleme en n klomp sondes saam hulle moet dra. As jy jou man, jou huwelik, al jou probleme, n klomp bekommernis, of enige sondes saam met jou dra-sal jy dit nooit maak nie.
“Therefore, since we have so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us also lay aside every encumbrance and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us RUN with ENDURANCE the race that is set before us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith...so that you will not grow weary and lose heart” —Hebrews. 12:1-3.
Here’s the thing all of us learned: When you let go you can get a lot farther in a much shorter amount of time and with energy to spare!
Also, by letting go of your marriage and husband, it gives your husband the opportunity to find his way to the pig sty, realize his mistakes and sins (just as God has allowed you to do), and come to the place of repentance. In addition, you know it means you are giving him time to also invest into the relationship, which is what Eileen in Minnesota said she did!
Read all about the principles you need to know within the story of the Prodigal son in Luke 15:11-14.
Also, each and every time you speak or even hint at what your husband needs to change, what he has done or is doing wrong, or what he needs to change, you are building a hate wall that will make his feelings for you wax cold to the point of loathing you.
Secret #3 You need to understand how to Establish Strong & Lasting Relationships
The results have been heartbreaking and I am sure this is what you are experiencing right now! The reason this happens is due to simply not realizing how dangerous this is and how to avoid making this mistake.
Even though most of us have experienced the pain of the other party walking out on us and telling us that he completely wants out of our relationship, we do the exact opposite of what would turn this around. Instead, we just repeat this pattern over and over and over again making things even worse and more and more painful.
Here is what you need to understand. When someone invests a LOT while the other person invest little to NOTHING, it is extremely easy for the one who has not invested into the relationship to leave—since they have nothing to lose. And when that party leaves, the other (we) are devastated since WE had everything to lose!
Trying to protect ourselves is not the answer either. You'll need to learn and then apply the knowledge you're about to learn. You can either embrace this truth or reject it, but at some point the pain usually will drive each of us to do what we learned, what will work, and what will save us from any more excruciating pain.
Why do so many men NOT invest into personal relationships. Because they don't have to!
They don't need to be investing anything because we do all the investing. In other words, it's because we leave NO ROOM and NO TIME for them TO invest!
What you need to do is to make ROOM for the other person in the relationship to make INVESTMENTS. And what you need to GIVE them is TIME to invest. If they don't want to, or never get around to it, more than likely they never will—especially if we leave no room and no time.
Most women deal with the imbalance of their relationship by becoming so hurt and messed up (and often take medication hoping it will help, but it only makes everything much worse) or they become so hardened and bitter, which affects every other relationship in their lives (as if a bad marriage is not bad enough to deal with).
To make room for your husband to INVEST into your relationship, begin with your Facebook page and/or your Profile Picture associated with your email account.
If you're husband is involved with another woman, by removing yourself as her "competition" you'll find the OW will stop trying so hard to secure your husband as her own. The truth is, he is your husband, therefore you don't need to fight to keep him. (See Exodus 14:13 and Proverbs 3:4-6)
One way the OW can hurt you, or your husband will use in order to force you to let go, is by posting pictures of the "so-called" happy couple. The truth is, sin is only pleasurable for a season, which is how the enemy gets us caught in sin, but later that same sin will torment us.
Refuse to be tormented or to do something dangerous to your Restoration Journey and get rid of your Facebook page. Later, after Restoration, you and your husband can TOGETHER build a page yourself for the world to see and read your Testimony!
A recent article sited: U.S. divorce attorneys agree that Facebook is increasingly becoming a factor in marriage destruction:
“Social networking has become the primary tool for communication and is taking over from text and e-mail in my opinion,” a Divorce-Online spokesperson said in a statement. “If someone wants to have an affair or flirt with the opposite sex then that's the easiest place to do it."
Also, if there is another woman, the OW is going to fight harder to hold onto your husband IF you show you are still holding on to him. And as the saying says "A PICTURE is worth a thousand words" so if you still have your husband or ex in a Profile picture in your email or any other place—REMOVE it and watch the OW lessen her hold on your husband.
Later on, during your 2nd Course "Renewing Your Mind" we will encourage you to set up a Gmail account that will allow you to focus fully on your Restoration Journey, by setting up a new email account.
Here is the link to get ahead of the rest and prevent encumbrances or the usual schemes that we are not ignorant of (see 2 Corinthians 2:11) the enemy frequently uses to stop or slow down your Restoration.
In order to teach you the many principles and learning the CORRECT way of having a solid relationship, which is actually how God led us to set up our entire RRR—in order to teach you the right way to Establish a Strong Relationship—we have already started you off to experience just how it's done:
FIRST we offered or invested in you—by giving you encouragement on our website. Then we made room for YOU to invest into our relationship by filling out the Marriage Evaluation Questionnaire.
Then WE invested into the relationship again by offering you our eBooks as our GIFT, and made room for YOU to invest in our relationship by reading the books, writing down what you learned, and then we WAITED until YOU contacted US by filling out your first form.
Now, stop and read that again.
Look at how we made ROOM for you to invest in our newly established relationship. If we were to give too much, not allowing you to invest back so that we were mutually and willingly to BOTH investing in, then one of us would soon be hurt or offended, which ultimately would destroy or end our relationship—because we didn't leave the other (who invested more) offended or hurt.
Let's keep using this relationship as an example and watch how it began to grow. Once we received your book review forms, we again INVESTED into our relationship by offering you this 30-day Restoration Journey, which now keeps us in daily contact—but ONLY if you pour out your heart into EACH and every form.
Pour out your heart into every Lesson Form!
BECAUSE without submitting a form,
it means you will not be assigned an ePartner
during the Rebuilding Phase of your Restoration Journey.
IN ADDITION, we are also training you to understand the natural ways of men who says LESS than women like to say. This is why we are often SILENT and are trained to say LITTLE so you begin to understand what drove your husband away.
Please read how often the Bible warns us in: Proverbs 21:9, Proverbs 21:19, Proverbs 27:15 and especially:
Proverbs 30:21-24— "Under three things the earth is disquieted, and under four it cannot bear up . . . An unloved and repugnant [opposed or contrary, as in nature or character] woman when she [finally] marries."
Are you beginning to see how making room for others, and understanding the way men deal with us, needs to be practiced in our [yours and RMIEW] newly established relationship in order for your marriage relationship to work once or as it is being restored?
Now here is a key point, if at any time there is a break in us hearing from you [by way of lesson forms and praise reports] we will WAIT to hear rather than to rush ahead and find ourselves not making room for you to invest in our newly-formed relationship.
In the very same way this is what you MUST do with the relationship you are here to RESTORE. More than likely, due to YOU being the only party who made ongoing investment, you are going to have to completely REFRAIN and stop contacting your husband again until he contacts you FIRST—no matter how long and no matter what enemy tactics are used to tempt you that you have to. Because each time you do, you will cut even more emotional ties he has for you, and, any positive feelings he may still have, that are currently buried, will die.
Restoration is a Journey, and journeys that change people's lives take TIME. And though it is going to take time, it will be time well spent— IF you still want to establish a strong and LASTING relationship and experience a restored marriage. The choice is completely up to you.
There are always a few of you who will not be able to totally relate to each and every lessons. We do our best to cover the most COMMON situations we see in our forms; however there are always so many variables it would be impossible to cover them all.
To remedy this, we always read everything submitted in our forms in order to improve our lessons by revising them each time a new group goes through the course.
So it is with this lesson: If it was YOU who did NOT invest in the marriage, then this lesson can simply be applied in REVERSE. Begin to INVEST now.
STOP and think. When someone is hurt or angry, who has asked to be left alone, then the most important thing NOW is to HONOR and respect where they are NOW. No matter what, we can't go back, however, we can always move forward.
Those of you who need to do the investing in your marriage, but your investment would no longer be welcomed, then this is when you can INVEST into others! While you wait for GOD to open the door for you to have the opportunity to invest in your marriage (or former marriage)!! God will see this and HONOR you by opening a small door to invest in the near future.
This is very much like when you learn you were "supposed to submit" to a husband who is no longer living with you or you even have contact with. God will witness when you begin submitting to Him and to others in authority.
In the same way, if you were "supposed to invest" in a marriage that is now separated or divorced, then invest in another relationship AND help others who still are able to invest in their own marriages. Encourage them to invest before it is too late for them!
God will see this and HONOR you by opening a small door to invest in the near future. I can guarantee it only because I know God so well and have seen Him do amazing things when He witnesses a heart who wants to do what is right.
RMIEW and Restoration Fellowship
We invested in you,
so we hope you've invested back into our relationship
by submitting your lesson forms.
If not, you will probably get an email from us when you're ready to move onto the next Course, that reads something like this:
Thank you for applying for Course 2: Renewing Your Mind.
We’re writing because our records show that we have received no/very few “What I Have Learned” lesson forms.
* We want you to know you are free to move on, but that you understand this means you won’t be assigned an ePartner during the Rebuilding phase due to our Fellowship Ministers not being able to witness your growth.
Pour out your heart into your Lesson Forms every DAY!
The choice is yours, whether to move ahead and not really be connected to RMIEW and Restoration Fellowship OR to go back and fill out the forms.
**Just make sure that you don’t rush through just to “turn in an assignment” because that won’t work and you’d be wasting your time.
Instead, STOP right now and seek God for wisdom to know what to do.
“And I say to you, ask, and it shall be given to you; seek, and you shall find; knock, and it shall be opened to you.” Luke 11:9.
“But if any of you lacks wisdom let him ask of God who gives it to men liberally.” James 1:5.
Next, claim double for this error because He is longing to bless you.
If you were unaware of our instructions, He wants to bless you:
“I hate robbery . . . And I will faithfully give them their recompense And make an everlasting covenant with them...Instead of your shame you will have a DOUBLE portion”— Isaiah 61:8. 7
If you knew and ignored our instructions—He still wants to bless you:
“Speak kindly . . . And call out to her, that her warfare has ended, that her iniquity has been removed, that she has received of the LORD'S hand DOUBLE for all her sins”—Isaiah 40:2
Let us know what He’s led you do do by taking the NEXT step (NOT by writing back):
1. WAIT for the lesson to start, and just continue as you have been, and when we still don’t get any lesson forms, we will document this in your file and leave you alone :) OR
2. Go back and begin pouring your heart into each lesson form. Then submit them and we’ll know to watch your progress—knowing your intent is to be assigned an ePartner during your Rebuilding phase.
** And if you do have questions, ask the Lord, remember that’s the point of these lessons and the foundation of this ministry and every restored marriage.
RRR Ministry Team
“...and you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free." —John 8:32