Hoekom ek getroud is so jonk: From My Wife's Perspective — TRIP LEE
Hoekom ek getroud is so jonk: Uit die oogpunt my vrou se
Oor 'n maand gelede het ek 'n blog te vertel mense hoekom ek so jonk getroud. Ek was diep bemoedig deur die antwoorde van almal wat dit lees en my gebed is dat die Here sal ons help om meer Bybels te dink oor die huwelik. As jy nie kry om te lees dat die oorspronklike post check dit uit hier: Hoekom het ek trou so jonk?
Wel na soveel mense het na my en het my vertel hoe nuttig dit was vir hulle, Ek het gedink dit sou net so nuttig wees om my vrou laat, Jessica, beantwoord dieselfde vraag uit haar perspektief. So hier is dit. Wat het my vrou besluit om te trou so jonk? Sy sê…
Toe ek die eerste keer ontmoet Trip, Ek is nie van plan om enige tyd gou getroud. Maar uit die heel eerste keer het ons uit, Ek het geweet daar was iets anders omtrent hom. Hy was oor die Evangelie passievol in 'n manier wat ek nog nooit voorheen in 'n man van my ouderdom gesien het. Ek het ook nog nooit iemand ontmoet met so 'n wyse perspektief op dating. Danksy sy dissipelskap voor kollege hy het presies geweet wat hy gedink het 'n goddelike verhouding moet lyk en hy was nie bereid om 'n kompromie wat.
Ek sal erken dat ek gesukkel met hierdie eerste. Dit het gelyk of te ernstig en oormatige. Maar met verloop van tyd die Here begin om te wys my die wysheid in 'n verhouding versadig met gemeenskap, seksuele en emosionele suiwerheid, en dateer vir die doel van die huwelik. As jy nie gereed is om te trou, dan is sy waarskynlik nie 'n goeie idee om mekaar se harte te betrek. In Hooglied ons nie gewaarsku om liefde te wek voordat dit tyd. as vroue, ons is baie emosionele wesens en so toe ek 'n man wat passievol was oor die uitvoer van ons verhouding op 'n manier wat my hart sal waak ontmoet, Ek het geweet ek het 'n bewaarder :)
Tydens ons hofmakery gevra ons sekere mense om intiem betrokke wees in ons verhouding. Hulle sal ons hou aanspreeklik teenoor ons grense en ons te help om wyse besluite te neem oor ons verhouding. Ons het ook deur middel van voorhuwelikse berading voordat ons selfs verloof geraak. Hierdie twee dinge toegelaat dat ons die wysheid van ouer soek, wyser broers en susters oor die vraag of dit 'n goeie idee om te trou. God het ons pastore en mentors van ons plaaslike kerk gegee vir 'n rede. Hulle help ons dink deur ons besluite oordeelkundig en gee 'n Goddelike buite perspektief. Relationships that are conducted in isolation are putting couples at serious risk of sin and unwise decision making. I would really encourage dating couples to have other believers from your community intimately involved in their relationship.
As 'n groentjie in die kollege Ek het wat ek graag superwoman sindroom noem. Ek was baie onafhanklik en loopbaan gedryf, baie gekant teen die idee van dat daar 'n man. Ek dink nie daar is iets verkeerd met onafhanklike of loopbaan gedryf, maar in my hart dit was meer as dit. Ek was verag God se ontwerp vir mans en vroue. Ek sou nooit gesê dat hardop, maar as ek was eerlik, Ek was gefrustreerd met wat ek gedink het die Bybel te sê het oor vroue. Ons is swakker, Ons kan nie leer, Ons kan nie lei, ons is nie van die hoof van die huishouding, en my baie gunsteling, Ons is 'n sagmoedige en stille gees het. Ek het gedink ek niks, maar 'n sagmoedige en stille gees gehad en ek was nie geïnteresseerd in die verandering van my persoonlikheid. Al hierdie gedagtes het my gelei om te dink dat die huwelik was iets wat my terug sal hou. Dit sou my daarvan weerhou voortsetting al die loopbaan drome Ek het en 'n paar dae sou ek eindig met 10 and half babies on a farm somewhere.
Gelukkig, oor die jare die Here my geleer het en het vir my gewys hoe dit lyk regtig soos 'n godvresende vrou wees. Om 'n godvresende vrou is nie gedefinieer deur wat jy doen of nie doen nie. Ek weet baie van die goddelike vroue wat getrou die Here in 'n korporatiewe werk dien en talle vroue wat hul kinders en mans getrou te dien by die huis. Biblical womanhood is about understanding God’s unique role for us as women and delighting in the beauty of Gods design.
As 'n getroude vrou wat ek so baie oor wat dit beteken om 'n godvresende vroue geleer het en ek voel nie af vasgeketting deur my man of my huwelik. God se ontwerp vir die huwelik is vir ons 'n goeie en Sy heerlikheid. Ken en glo dit het my die selfvertroue om te trou op die ouderdom van 22. Twee en 'n half jaar later, Ek het nie spyt nie, en ek kan net bid dat die Here nog steeds ons huwelik seën.
Jdharden1 • Augustus 19, 2013 by 7:53 is • antwoord
Dis ongelooflik, how God can write the most perfect love story to those who hand over the pen to him. Baie dankie Jessica, I really needed this. This encourages me as a 16yr old to submit to God and let him have his way in my love life. God seën jou.
Jannon Fitzpatrick • Augustus 19, 2013 by 7:53 is • antwoord
I LOVE THIS!! We are youth pastors at a small church and I always tell the teens, “There are only two things you will ever do in a relationship… 1) Get Married 2) Break up. Breaking up hurts and creates baggage, so if you are not ready to get married, it’s best not to start in a relationship.” (Not that you don’t grow to be ready for marriage in a relationship, but I’m mostly talking to 13-16 yr olds.) Most people start a relationship thinking it will be a small, shortlived, fun thing. But then feelings develop, you fall into sin, and then it’s harder than ever to get out. If we would protect the heart God Gave us as precious, and go at relationships from this perspective, the perspective of it ending up in marriage to a Godly man or woman, we would be far less hurt and broken by the time that Godly man or woman God has for us comes around! Dankie dat U deel!!!
Demonslayer4god777 • Augustus 19, 2013 by 7:54 is • antwoord
I’m really glad I clicked on the link to read this post. Ek is 25 and my husband and I have been married for nearly 5 jaar. nou, I am the first to tell everybody that God is the reason we are married. Hou van jou, by 21, I was NOT looking for nor did I want a husband, shoot I didn’t want a boyfriend. 2007 was the year God completely changed my life. In January I had just discovered what God really wanted was relationship rather than religion so I was on high(spiritually) and zeal like nothing I had ever experienced before. Next thing I know a month later I was married. Crazy I know. But what can I say…God told us to do it. And five years later, we are still together, and growing together in Christ. nou, I wouldn’t advise to anyone to do it as rapidly as we did. But I wouldn’t advise against it, if you feel led by God, and have prayed and fast. I pray that God continues to not only grow your marriage but strengthen it. I pray that your love for each other also continues to grow. I bind up anything, anyperson, any spirit, that would try to divide you. I pray that you are blessed with great communication skills, and increased patience. May God keep you, in Jesus name.
Matt Novak • Augustus 19, 2013 by 7:54 is • antwoord
Ariep17 • Augustus 19, 2013 by 7:54 is • antwoord
Wow this was really great! as 'n 20 y.o. ppl look at me like im insane for having the desire to get married. I would love to see some expansion on what you mean by “emotionally pure.” I love the trasparency also in what you said. God bless yall
Philipns2 5 11 • Augustus 19, 2013 by 7:55 is • antwoord
Eintlik, when she says “emotionally pure” she’s talking more about not already in your mind trying to marry the guy or think that you are “exclusively” his just because you’re dating. That can lead to other sinful thoughts like, “sexual fantasies, lust,ens” You realize you’re emotionally impure when your vision of that other person’s character is so clouded that you make the relationship an idol in your own mind. That’s why Proverbs 4:23 is so important to live by,especially as a woman because we are, like was mentioned, “emotional” creatures.
Ariep17 • Augustus 19, 2013 by 7:55 is • antwoord
Kerai Riddle • Augustus 19, 2013 by 7:56 is • antwoord
ek hou hiervan!!!!!!!!! Sometimes you seem to forget that youre not the only one because so many around you mostly peers seem to think your “jumping the gun” so many people to me that i wasnt ready and im too young, but i truly believe this is what god had in store for me. I was scared out of my mind the day after because not only did i get married early at the age of 18 i also married a man i knew less than a year and he was only 19. We had a instant connection like our souls were destined to be together, i love him more now than i ever have hes my partner for life and i wouldnt change it for anything. We prayed together and went to church together got married and had a child together now here we are..It will be 3 years in february and i still have no regrets that i made this move :-) god has blessed me with a good man.. My vows mean the world to me and i wouldnt break them.. Thanks for posting this keep it up i love young love… You hardly ever see couples last til death but i strive to be that couple til death do we part divorce is not an option!!
Adrienne Kelly • Augustus 19, 2013 by 7:57 is • antwoord
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Robert Rivera • Augustus 19, 2013 by 7:59 is • antwoord
Pragtige!! God bless you guys!! baie bemoedigende…
Punchyko • Augustus 19, 2013 by 7:59 is • antwoord
Sjoe!!! good stuff, thanks so much for posting this blog! Grace&peace 0=)
Katherine2c • Augustus 19, 2013 by 7:59 is • antwoord
I so NEEDED to read this!!! Dankie!! I struggle with the things you once struggled with and I want to honor the Lord and my husband!!!! With that being said, I will continue to strive to be that P31 wife!!! Dankie!!!
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Iolene_Branch • Augustus 19, 2013 by 8:01 is • antwoord
I also had no intentions of searching for a man to spend the rest of my life with at 20 jaar oud, but here I am, and this blog is extremely encouraging. For me to stand beside him in all his endeavors and be the woman God created me to be and be by his side as God molds him to be the man he needs to be.
Dankie vir hierdie. I really do appreciate it :)
Arnold Mofor • Augustus 19, 2013 by 8:01 is • antwoord
Whao, Trip and Jessica! You actually do not know how far your lessons are reaching-I am in Cameroon. Ek is 25 yr-old and recently took a day in extended time with God to seek God concerning my future partner. Then I came up with a checklist/ Prayer points list of the kind of woman I want to date and eventually marry. Then a day later I met your blog. I think God is preparing me in special way. This is my Wife’s Checklist/ prayer points list:
Angela Johnson • Augustus 19, 2013 by 8:01 is • antwoord
What a Blessing You Both Are! Keep On Keeping On With HIM! You Won’t Go Wrong…..Het jy al ooit! I got married young but without the wisdom of HIM and others who were led of The Spirit to encourage us to seek HIM first……I must say that anyone who chooses HIS Way will be positioning them selves to receive HIS Plan for them and not their plans for themselves which is Far Greater than Anything we could ever “think of” for ourselves….TRUST IN HIM!:) I am walking by Faith and not by Sight (2 corinthians 5:7) Or I would have killed my self……Without HIM I saw no good thing. Thank You LORD For Sending The Holy Spirit Who Comforts and Guides me. JESUS Is LORD! ( I am still married and we Both <3 The Lord!) Stay Blessed!:) Much <3 and Peace!:) Very Inspiring of you both to have posted, Thank You Very Much!:)
aneetarh • Augustus 19, 2013 by 8:03 is • antwoord
thank u so much Jessica,dis is exactly wot i need right nw. God rilly bls u guys. I’m 21,in a godly relatnshp n my boyfriend wants us 2 get married ASAP. I wasn’t sure if it’s a gud idea cause i felt i wasn’t matured enuf bt i thank God 4 dis,if it’s God’s will den i totally subscribe 2 Dit
Rchllnndreher • Augustus 19, 2013 by 8:03 is • antwoord
WOW the reasons behind you getting marride are the same as mine were and what still make me believe I made the right choice I also felt God saying this is the one it is time to let go of the past only our pastor didnt approve which made it a hard choice in a way other than I was following God. Ek is 22 and just got married 2 mo ago. It may be a short time but God is growing us together and teaching us so much(for me how to open up be soft and be a woman as God created me to be) It was awsome to read this and I want to thank you for taking the time to write it. May God Bless You and Your House!
Rachel Wright • Augustus 19, 2013 by 8:03 is • antwoord
Dfletcher812 • Augustus 19, 2013 by 8:03 is • antwoord
I Totally Agree. Ek is getroud op die ouderdom van 18. Yes I was a baby but, the Lord spoke to me and told me not be afraid to take a leap of faith and being Obedient to the will of God i did. Now Im 24 with Three Kids and my Husband and I are very deep in ministry of music. God has done some impossible things in our lives and I love to hear that other young women and young men of God realize that God has given their soul mate to them and deiced to make the right decision.
Grabiel Rivera • Augustus 19, 2013 by 8:04 is • antwoord
thats great the same has happened to me and my wife , i was 21 en sy was 18. we let god direct us and be in our marriage and now he showing us his work in our lifes and in our marriage. may god keep blessing yah marriage like he has done in ours god bless
Addis Hunter • Augustus 19, 2013 by 8:04 is • antwoord
Thank you for your testimony, I can relate to you in many ways. I do have to admit that I struggle daily with “having a gentle and quiet spirit” part of marrige..Like you, I was and still am very driven and independant , and acknowledging my husband as the head of household and submitting to his ideas (even when I dont agree) is my biggest challenge as a young wife. I ask God every day to help me humble myself and submitt to my husband in every way. Dankie vir die deel.
Cy Hudson • Augustus 19, 2013 by 8:04 is • antwoord
Jennifer Ann Seller • Augustus 19, 2013 by 8:05 is • antwoord
21 jaar oud, and I feel like you’re describing me. I definitely have that Superwoman Syndrome. Thank you so much for your inspiring testimony, it gives me hope :)
Orinthea Mckenzie • Augustus 19, 2013 by 8:05 is • antwoord
Pulemolise • Augustus 19, 2013 by 8:05 is • antwoord
thnx alot Trip and Jessica,many adults nid 2 see dis,i m truly encouraged by you guys,I luv hw ur sides complement,-Trip met a godly woman and Jessica met a godly man,Sjoe!(dats why u had 2 trou,lol!) nd we thnk God 4 u guys,u hv shown dat u can b responsible adults at a young age wen adults at an older age cant evn manage a fraction of wat u r doing,big-ups 2 u,nd may God continue 2 bles ur marriage more and more with each day dt comes
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