""ukuthi bese kunesikhathi ngilindele igoli, lingaqhamuki. nakho ukushweba kukarashford, kungenze ngaphithanelwa yikhanda. hi,iâ??m zama i am 23 years old (student) and my partner is 35 years weâ??ve been dating for 5 years. my boyfriend has.2 kids no munye omuntu. my concern is that my boyfriend is not working and i have to do yonke into nje nge rent and buying food etc, and when i tell him to apply for umsebenzi uyakwata ethi okwesikhathi esincane kuzolunga uzoba nayo imali just not now and athi yena he wonã¢??t apply for a job heã¢??s not in that stage sokuthi afune umsebenzi he want to start his own businesses akafuni ukusebenzela omunye umuntu. inkinga yami ukuthi this has been going on since last year and angiboni any changes ayikho imzamo ekhona. heã¢??ll ask me ukuthi ngenze i loan so he can start his business so mina angisazi nginenkinga -- is this even normal? when i complain to him about our financial situation when i tell him about things i need heã¢??ll say i like complaining and uthi he gets the sense that iã¢??m not a woman that can withstand challenges ngifuna ukumosha (he gets so angry). angikwazi ukudla kahle imali yami i donã¢??t get to enjoy my money kumele ngimcabangele.