Esikhundleni sokuba kubukwe imisebenzi yalo emihle, kodwa kuzobukwa iqembu eliqhamuka kulona. Namanje ngisaphinda ngithi abaholi engibabona ukuthi bathwele kanzima ngabaholi bepolitiki noma bezombusazwe. Ngesinye isikhathi uthola ukuthi umholi uzokhuluma emsakazweni. hey trip, thanks for the excellent and thoughtful response to a difficult topic. like you i wasn’t pursuing any wife when i met michelle. she was available and i was available and we saw the world in the same ways. our race is not the most different thing about us and our faith is the thing that brings us unity. in the past i had dated and married a black women out of obligation (child) and cultural expectation (umndeni) than mutual affection. since i had no relationship with god beyond church attendance, i was ill prepared for marriage. while our skin color was the same we had very different values and after we separated and divorced god came into my broken heart to heal me.