He is not my husband = Temulume wandi (sing.), Tebalume bandi (pl.) Uma isikhathi eside ugcina izingulube epulazini, kuyabiza kakhulu ukuzondla futhi kube nzima ukuthi bangagula noma balimale. Ngakho-ke abalimi kudingeka badalule isikhathi esihle sokuthengisa izingulube zabo, ngokusekelwe ohlelweni lwabo lokukhiqiza kanye nemibandela, ukukhiqizwa kwezingulube abakhiqizayo kanye nokukhula kwezingulube zabo. The courts face a complex task when having to determine the best interests of the child, for there is no easy way of establishing what these interests are. This article examines interests of the child as listed in <I>McCall v McCall</I>. Most children who find themselves at the centre of a custody battle suffer the long-term and short-term stresses of divided loyalty. Several challenging questions remain: whether determining the best interests of the child means attending to everything that affects the child or whether certain considerations should be disregarded; whether the child&apos;s interest should be viewed from a short-term, medium-term or long-term perspective; whether they should be viewed from a subjective or an objective point of view. While the author submits that the best interests are to be determined by adult decision makers, on the basis of objective criteria rather than on the basis of a child&apos;s subjective wishes, he warns against conceptualising the interests of the child in terms of the interests of parents. End