Uma weneme kakhulu uthembisa nangento ongeke uyenze. Le nto ifana nokuthi ungabosithatha isethembiso somuntu ophuzile futhi oneme kakhulu. Generally, a person doesn’t consciously say ‘I want to become a professional online dater’ then pursue it as a life goal. It is something that develops as a result of the person’s online dating experiences. He/she sees how ‘easy’ it is to get a new date and is introduced to new faces virtually daily. Before the person knows it, he/she is communicating with half a dozen (or more) people at the same time. When a date is arranged with one person there are still six prospects waiting in the person’s Inbox when he/she returns from the date. This, in turn, starts to develop a subconscious mentality that the next person may be ‘better,’ therefore it is easier to leave a relationship or dating experience at the first sign of trouble rather than work through those problems.