Ons geloofgesprek: "Hy het my lief , want... "
Dit is hoe een of ander groot winkelgroep se Valentynsdag-advertensie begin, en dan gee die verliefde meisietjie 'n lang lys van goed wat "hy" vir haar gaan koop WANT hy het haar lief... Is dit nie verkeerde fondasies vir die liefde nie? Word verkeerde verwagtings nie só geskep nie? En wat is die gevolge daarvan?
Behoort liefde dan nou iets te kos??Kan mens nie dalk die betekenis van dié dag omkeer deur net vir 'n oomblik stil te staan en vir iemand na aan jou te sé jy is lief vir hulle en jy waardeer hulle nie? Al wat dit sal kos is slegs 'n drukkie, 'n woord, of 'n sms...
Ja Liza, ek gril elke keer as ek dié advertensie hoor - dis so "plastic", so oneg! Ek hou van jou voorstel...Ek sou sê ware liefde sê: "Ek het jou lief. PUNT." Geen "as" of "maar" of "omdat" nie....Het Jesus nie menslike standaarde juis op die kop kom keer nie, met sy "Ek het julle lief, TEN SPYTE VAN... "?
Ons enkellopendes hou baie van Valentynsdag. Dit gee belangstellendes die geleentheid om 'n haas uit die hoed te pluk!Verder stem ek met julle saam...GroeteMart
Lank lewe die liefde!!!!
Die mooiste love song wat nog ooit geskryf is:"You'll remember me when the west wind movesUpon the fields of barleyYou'll forget the sun in his jealous skyAs we walk in the fields of goldSo she took her loveFor to gaze awhileUpon the fields of barleyIn his arms she fell as her hair came downAmong the fields of goldWill you stay with me, will you be my loveAmong the fields of barleyWe'll forget the sun in his jealous skyAs we lie in the fields of goldSee the west wind move like a lover soUpon the fields of barleyFeel her body rise when you kiss her mouthAmong the fields of goldI never made promises lightlyAnd there have been some that Ive brokenBut I swear in the days still leftWe'll walk in the fields of goldWe'll walk in the fields of goldMany years have passed since those summer daysAmong the fields of barleySee the children run as the sun goes downAmong the fields of goldYoull remember me when the west wind movesUpon the fields of barleyYou can tell the sun in his jealous skyWhen we walked in the fields of goldWhen we walked in the fields of goldWhen we walked in the fields of gold" - STING
...en die verspotste liefdesgedig ooit...Happy Valentine ... LOVE POEM - KAAPSE STYLE !!!Valentine, oh Valentine,I smaak you stukkend, say you'll be mine.You're my morning, my sunshine, my moon and my stars, You're my airfreshenerfrom O.K. Bazaars; You're my beaded love-letter, my breeze in the night,You're my coffee, my Cremora, my Blitz firelight.You're my Crime-Stop, my Tracker, you're my AZT, My pap, Mrs Ball's chutney,my Nando's for free; You're my lambchop, my dewdrop, my partner in crime, Mychillie, my pepper, my vetkoek sublime.The list is endless and this isn't all,You're my Lotto jackpot, my dop and my zol.You're my 4X4 when the road is so hilly, You're my Floro margarine thatbutters my mielie.I smaak you, my poppie, so please be my life, 'cause, Baby, you're the Tomato Sauce on the slap chips of life!
Mart en Liza, die gedigte is so verskillend, en tog is albei so treffend - dankie vir dié blessings!
Dit lyk my historici stem nie mooi saam oor die oorsprong van Valentynsdag nie - ek kies doelbewus die nie-romantiese opsie , dan kan ek almal vir wie ek lief is betrek : familie- en gesinslede en alle vriende...
LIEFDESDOEPAThe Actual Chemistry of Love:There are a lot of chemicals racing around your brain and body when you're in love. Researchers are gradually learning more and more about the roles they play both when we are falling in love and when we're in long-term relationships. Of course, estrogen and testosterone play a role in the sex drive area. Without them, we might never venture into the "real love" arena. That initial giddiness that comes when we're first falling in love includes a racing heart, flushed skin and sweaty palms. Researchers say this is due to the dopamine, norepinephrine and phenylethylamine we're releasing. Dopamine is thought to be the "pleasure chemical," producing a feeling of bliss. Norepinephrine is similar to adrenaline and produces the racing heart and excitement. According to Helen Fisher, anthropologist and well-known love researcher from Rutgers University, together these two chemicals produce elation, intense energy, sleeplessness, craving, loss of appetite and focused attention. She also says, "The human body releases the cocktail of love rapture only when certain conditions are met and ... men more readily produce it than women, because of their more visual nature."Ag hoe romanties - Happy Valentine's Day...:))
Love Potion Number Nine-The SearchersI took my troubles down to Madame RueYou know that gypsy with the gold-capped toothShe's got a pad down on Thirty-Fourth and VineSellin' little bottles of Love Potion Number NineI told her that I was a flop with chicsI've been this way since 1956She looked at my palm and she made a magic signShe said "What you need is Love Potion Number Nine"She bent down and turned around and gave me a winkShe said "I'm gonna make it up right here in the sink"It smelled like turpentine, it looked like Indian inkI held my nose, I closed my eyes, I took a drinkI didn't know if it was day or nightI started kissin' everything in sightBut when I kissed a cop down on Thirty-Fourth and VineHe broke my little bottle of Love Potion Number Nine...[...]Die konkoksie bestaan seker uit dopamine, norepinephrine en phenylethylamine...;)
Ag ja, hoe romanties!Happy Valentine's Day vir julle ook!:)
1. Skippy heartbeat when you think of him/her.You think it's: LoveMedical possibility: Tachycardia which may lead to ventricularfibrillation and Myocardial Infarction (Heart Attack).2. Restless trembling of hands, feet and other body parts.You think it's: LoveMedical possibility: Parkinson's Disease 3. Constant smiling.You think it's: LoveMedical possibility: Bell's Palsy 4. Absent mindedness, forgetfulness, inability to focus on tasks at work or at home.You think it's: LoveMedical possibility: Early Onset Alzheimer's Disease 5. Frequent or constant sexual arousal.You think it's: LoveMedical possibility: Nymphomania 6. Weakening of knees and bursts of energy when he/she calls or comes over.You think it's: LoveMedical possibility: Multiple Sclerosis 7. Inability to stop thinking about him/her.You think it's: LoveMedical possibility: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder 8. Bruising on neck, breasts and other tender areas.You think it's: LoveMedical possibility: Leukemia 9. Insomnia.You think it's: LoveMedical possibility: Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia10. Feeling that you can smell/hear/feel him or her when not in his/her presence.You think it's: LoveMedical possibility: Schizophrenia
Haai, don't get carried away en gedra julle, julle twee - praat ons nie hier van die LIEFDE nie?? ;))))
Kom ons kry hierdie draad weer op spoor (probeer altans - hehehe!) :Ek dink die maklikste manier vir 'n liefdesverhouding om te ontspoor ( alle tipes liefde en watter verhouding ook al : man/vrou, ouer/kind; familieverhoudinge) , is om verkeerde verwagtings te hê. Advertensies, stories en artikels in al die vorme van media dra by tot die skep van verkeerde verwagtings. Veral advertensies word later amper soos breinspoeling : die deuntjies en woorde draai soms heeldag oor en oor in jou kop. As onderwyseres het ek dikwels met Valentynsdag gesien hoe die ou valetjies nóg valer word as die gewildes, die mooies en die sterkes, oorlaai word met blomme en kaartjies en hulle eenkant moet staan en toeskouers wees...Watter boodskappe word uitgestuur? Net sekere mense is "iets werd" - ek is niks werd nie, niemand het my lief nie , want niemand het vir my iets gekoop nie....
Teen hierdie tyd het die Valentynkoors seker al landwyd, bloedrooi nes masels uitgeslaan - en is dit ‘n malle geskarrel vir plekbesprekings in die restourante, om die bestellings vir die blomme-ekstravaganzas betyds geplaas te kry, finaal te besluit tussen die diamant oorbelle en die string pêrels en om op die ingewing van die laaste oomblik tog maar vir hom die peper duur bottel Lacoste te koop...maar ek wonder hoeveel mense knyp 'n tydjie af om werklik te besin oor wie hierdie Valentyn ou nou eintlik was - hierdie Saint wat dit elke jaar regkry om 'n koophisterie soos min onder die verliefdes en verlorenes te ontketen.Die mees populêre en algemene siening onder die historici is dat hy, St Velentinus, gedurende die derde eeu ’n biskop in Rome was wat onthoof is omdat hy geweier het om sy Christenskap af te sweer. Die Roomskatolieke kerk het daarna 14 Februarie as feesdag ingestel ter herdenking van sy martellaarskap. Die verromantisering van sy naam het eers in die 14de eeue neerslag gevind en gewild geraak toe die bekende digter Geoffrey Chauser dit in een van sy liefdesgedigte geinkorporeer het. Gedurende die negentiende eeu is daar vir die eerste keer kaartjies en allerhande snuisterye verkoop om dié dag te vier.Ja en so het die ekonomiese magte nog ‘n dag geskep as geleentheid om die sentimente van mense gruwelik uit te buit tot skade van die koper se sak en geestelike welsyn.Valentynsdag is niks anders as ‘n humanistiese Hallmark-en Kardie-okkasie nie... en as dit nie vir die handel was wat hierdie fees aan die lewe hou nie, sou dit heelwaarskynlik al lankal doodgeloop het.Volgens die U.S. Greeting Card Association word daar jaarliks ongeveer een biljoen Valentynkaartjies wêreldwyd uitgestuur - die tweede meeste naas Kersfeeskaartjies...