Amadoda kwakushintsha ngokuphelele off by abesifazane abaphendukela nezinsuku zokuqala singene unake-the-one-let's-get-washada osheshayo. Akukho muzwa engcono sekufanele idethi emangalisayo lokuqala kodwa izintokazi, gcina “Ngiyakuthanda” imicabango yakho ngoba ezinyangeni ezimbalwa zokuqala. Ukuthola esingathí sina kodwa futhi ezwakalisa leyo mizwa futhi ngokushesha kuzokwenza umuntu run yakho. There are no real mourning songs of the Ngoni as singing and dancing were not part of the burial rites except at the death of a chief, though at subsequent funeral rites, some months later, it is customary to dance ingoma. The first one is sung to the igubu and is obviously a woman's mourning for her husband. The second I heard a woman sing at tl:e burial of her grandmother, and she said her grandmother had taught it to her. Many other igubu songs are in reality mourning songs. “Angisoze ngalahla izingane zami. Ngiyawuthanda umndeni wami akukho okungenza ngilahle izingane zami, uma sesixoxisene konke kuzobuye kuhambe kahle,” kusho uSgwili ezwakala ekhathazikile.