I am defrost for 1 year 4 months and my ex-wife is getting all here money and I pay more than I have to, now I have
Good day I am defrost for 1 year 4 months and my ex-wife…
Good day I am defrost for...
I am defrost for 1 year 4 months and my ex-wife is getting all here money and I pay more than I have to, now I have started a new job and getting more money and she want to give me trouble, because I am seeing somebody and going on leave with my girls money and never kept any money from them. If she just talks in that she doesn’t have money, I pay money in to her account. Now she thinks I am keeping money from them, and I don’t use any of my money on our leaves.
Can she ask for more? I have all the payments that I have made to her and the kids accounts. Please tell me what I can do.
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Apologies if this offends, but are you Afrikaans speaking?
Ja ek is afrikaans.
Sal jy asseblief hierdie vraag net weer in Afrikaans herhaal. Wees asseblief so spesifiek as moontlik oor wat presies jy raad oor nodig het.
Sy werk nie ek betaal al die geld wat ek moet en dan betaal ek nog ekstra,soos hulle spending as die geld klaar is in die maand.
Nou gaan ek en my meisie met vakansie,ek betaal nie daar voor sy betaal vir alles ek gaan net saam.Sy het dit uit gevind en nou wil sy my opskoef vir meer geld.Ek het my nuwe werk begin na ons geskei is,sy het nou gesien hoeveel, en wil my nou hof toe vat vir meer geld.
As ek SA toe gaan betaal ek vir hulle vir alles sy raak nie eers aan haar geld as ek daar is. Al wat ek wil weet wat kan sy doen of kan sy vir meer vrae?
Dit is net onderhoud vir die kinders?
Nee ek betaal haar kar,sell,huisfoon,petrol,dienste op haar kar,die bediende,die tuinnier,alles want sy kry nie werk en dit wat sy kon kry was nie vanpas vir haar.Sy wil nou he ek moet n mdies uit haal,maar ek betaal alle dokters,tandarts vir haar en die kinders, privaat so ek weet nie watkan sy nog eis van my?
Kom ons gaan net gou 'n stappie terug:
Toe julle geskei het, het die hof gesê jy moet onderhoud vir haar betaal?
Nee,en dit is ook nie in die skeibrief nie,maar omdat ek weet sy het nie werk het ek nog altyd uit gekyk vir haar, maak nie sak wat as sy iets nodig het en ek het geld gee ek.
Aangesien sy nie vir onderhoud vir haarself gevra het tydens die egskeiding nie, hoef jy niks te betaal ten aansien van haar lewenskostes nie. Jy kan dit staak sonder enige gevolge.
Indien die hof egter 'n bevel gemaak het ten opsigte van onderhoud van die kinders, kan sy vra vir verhoogde onderhoud. Dit is egter nie te sê dat die hof dit sommer so goedsmoeds gaan toestaan nie.
Eerstens moet sy, soos reeds genoem, die Onderhoudshof nader om 'n aansoek vir verhoogde onderhoud te bring. Die feit dat jy oorsee werk, gaan dinge vir haar bietjie bemoeilik om die stukke beteken te kry, maar dit daar gelaat.
Dan moet sy bewys dat die kinders het die verhoogde onderhoud nodig. Met ander woorde, sy moet bewys dat sy nie uitkom met die geld wat jy vir haar gee vir doeleindes van onderhoud vir die kinders nie. As sy die onderhoudgeld op haarself spandeer, kan dit uit die aard van die saak nie in berekening gebring word nie.
Punt is, sy kan nie meer onderhoud vra net omdat sy dink jy het baie geld nie. Sy kan net onderhoud eis vir die werklike behoeftes van die kind en net dit wat jy kan bekostig. Daarmee saam is sy ook verantwoordelik om die kinders finansieël te onderhoud dienooreenkomstig haar inkomste. Aangesien sy nie op die stadium werk het nie, sal daardie bedrag NIL wees of dalk baie klein, maar nietemin, dit is die beginsel.
My advies aan jou is om by die hofbevel te hou op hierdie stadium. Wat jy meer wil gee is jou besluit, maar regtens is jy net verplig om onderhoud te betaal soos deur die bevel bepaal en jy is geregtig daarop dat sy moet wys dat sy dit op die kinders spandeer.
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