Maak gelukkige kinders groot | Lizanne du Plessis
Het jy al ooit as ouer oorweldig, gedaan en ontnugter gevoel? Het jy al ooit selftwyfel en onsekerheid ervaar in jou soeke na die regte rigting op jou ouerskapreis?
Nie een of twee keer nie. Sommer baie kere!
Êrens tussen die roetine en sleurwerk van skottelgoedwasser uitpak, wasgoed opvou, speelgoed wegpak, werk inpas en aan ’n oorspronklike hoendergereg te probeer dink, het ek ’n oomblik van helderheid ervaar: Die enigste volhoubare manier om ’n ma te wees, is om my kwesbaarheid te aanvaar en te vergeet van volmaak wees. Ma-wees is soms skrikwekkend, maar ai, is dit nie wonderlik en vervullend nie?
Daarom het ek ’n besluit geneem.
Al wat regtig saakmaak, is om ’n vreugedevolle ma te wees terwyl ek gelukkige kinders grootmaak. Niks meer nie, niks minder nie. En dít is waaroor ek doelgerig sal wees.
Toe skryf ek ’n boek.
My boek, Maak gelukkige kinders groot, verduidelik vir jou die drie belangrikste beginsels wat die basis vorm om gelukkige kinders groot te maak:
Ons kinders se brein ontwikkel wanneer ons ’n hegte, betekenisvolle band met hulle smee;
Alle kinders het ’n sensoriese temperament wat hulle denke, gevoelens en gedrag beïnvloed;
Ons kinders sal gelukkig, kalm en gebalanseerd wees as hulle weet hoe om hul liggaam te reguleer, oorweldigende gevoelens te hanteer en hul denkvaardighede te onwikkel.
Maak gelukkige kinders groot sal jou help VERSTAAN
Wat in jou kind se liggaam en brein aan die gang is;
Hoekom beweging noodsaaklik is vir jou kind;
Hoekom jou kind ineenstortings en woede-uitbarstings het;
Wat vrees en angstigheid by jou kind veroorsaak;
Hoe stres jou kind se brein beïnvloed.
My boek bevat hope nuttige analogieë en is propvol praktiese oplossings.
Maak gelukkige kinders groot sal jou LEER
Watter soort beweging jou kind gelukkig, kalm en gebalanseerd sal laat;
Hoe jy jou kind kan help wanneer sy leer om oorweldigende gevoelens te hanteer;
Hoe die aktivering van jou kind se denkende brein hom vir die res van sy lewe sukses kan laat smaak;
Hoe om ineenstortings en woede-uitbarstings só te hanteer dat dit jou kind se brein help bou;
Hoe om koesterende rituele en aanpasbare roetines in te stel;
Hoe om grense te stel vir onaanvaarbare gedrag;
Hoe om jou kind se vrese en angstighede te hanteer;
Hoe om ’n vreugdevolle ouer te wees.
Hierdie boek is nie sommer net nog ’n ouerskaphandleiding nie.
Dit bied nie een algemene resep vir almal nie.
Dit is spesifiek gerig op jou unieke kind.
Dit is nie die soort boek wat jou sal laat voel dat jy die ouerskaptoets druip nie.
Dis ’n boek wat jou sal inspireer en jou die moed sal gee om die uitdagings van ons tyd te aanvaar.
Dis nie ’n boek wat jy net van voor tot agter gaan deurlees nie.
Jy gaan dit jare lank gebruik om jou geheue met relevante brokkies inligting te verfris en jou telkens weer die moed van jou oortuiging te gee.
Hierdie boek verduidelik nie net teorie en konsepte nie.
Dit is ook propvol eenvoudige oplossings en prettige idees.
Maak gelukkige kinders groot sal beslis die manier waarop jy na jouself, jou kind en verhoudings kyk, verander.
“Lizanne slaag in hierdie boek om kwesbaar sowel as behulpsaam te wees. Die insigte wat sy deurgaans in die boek deel, het my toestemming gegee om die ouer te wees wat ek altyd wou wees. Ek weet nou wie my kind regtig is en ek voel beter toegerus om enige uitdagende gedrag wat ons moontlik voortaan sal teëkom, te hanteer.” Tamzyn, Jack se ma.
ONTMOET VIR LIZANNE
Lizanne du Plessis is ’n kind van God, vrou, ma van twee pragtige dogters, arbeidsterapeut, skrywer en spreker. Lizanne se storie sluit jarelange vrugbaarheidsbehandeling in, die skielike aankoms van ’n vroeggebore babadogtertjie, die geboorte van ’n tweede kind in ’n vreemde land, en verblyf in nege verskillende huurwonings in drie lande oor ’n tydperk van dertien jaar. Dit is Lizanne se passie om ma’s aan te moedig. Sy skryf by www.lizanneduplessis.com oor haar missie om ’n vreugdevolle ma te wees en gelukkige kinders groot te maak.
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Wat ander mense sê...
“Maak Gelukkige Kinders Groot is ’n manjifieke boek met ’n belangrike boodskap vir ouers en mense in die professie – gooi die super-ouer-/super-terapeut-mantel af en verwelkom jou kwesbaarheid en menslikheid. Vir kinders om te groei en te verander, is dit noodsaaklik dat hulle deur ’n volwassene verstaan word. Lizanne slaag uitmuntend daarin om die leser te bemagtig om kinders vanuit ’n sensoriese perspektief te verstaan. Onontbeerlike leesstof vir doelgerigte ouers en doelgerigte terapeute wat aan klein mensies leiding gee.”
Sanet Schoeman, Opvoedkundige Sielkundige
”Ek het dwarsdeur Lizanne se boek my kop gesit en knik, want ek het myself en my kinders herken in die talle voorbeelde en situasie-beskrywings wat van Maak Gelukkige Kinders Groot so ’n genot maak. Ek dink Lizanne het dalk skelm ’n afloerkamera iewers by die Schöers versteek! Dié boek is ’n ware handleiding tot ’n meer vreedsame huis – ‘n huis waarin elke kind waarlik verstaan word, sodat sy kan floreer. Jy sal leer hoe om deur fyn waarneming ‘n beter begrip te kry van hoe elke klein koppie in jou huis werk. (Bonus: jy sal jouself en jou man ook beter leer verstaan!) Maar Lizanne los dit nie net daar nie. Sy rus jou toe met ’n hele gereedskapkis van deernisvolle wenke waarmee jy ’n sterk ouerskapstyl kan bou wat op alle vlakke sommer net reg voel.”
Helen Schöer, redakteur van Baba & Kleuter en ma van twee.
Ek prys die Here vir 'n boek soos dié! Vir 'n moeder van 4 woelwaters, is hierdie boek soos manna uit die hemel! Maak gelukkige kinders groot is 'n moet om te lees lank voor jy op moed-verloor-se-vlakte wil gaan sit oor jou uiteenlopende kinders onder een dak. Deur die beginsels in Maak Gelukkige Kinders Groot toe te pas kan jy jou daaglikse toetse van ma-wees en mens-wees in heerlike oorwinnings omskep. Lizanne help jou op 'n maklike-lekker-lees-manier om uitdagings prakties aan te pak en om te draai in pret vir jou kind en oorwinnings vir jou! Hierdie boek behoort aan mammas gegee te word op hul kind se eerste verjaarsdag! ‘n Atlas vir die pad voorentoe! En so maak ons gelukkig kinders groot!
Gwendoline Kriek, Liedjieskrywer en sangeres, Mamma van vier.
“Lizanne has woven a rich tapestry which reflects her deep understanding of early childhood development from the inside out. Raising Happy Children, which is based on the latest brain science, highlights the "role of play”, sensory processing, emotional development and the relevance of being an attuned parent. Her humorous, light hearted style makes for easy reading. This is the handbook for intentional parents in the 21st century.”
Kerry Wallace, Occupational Therapist and Clinical Director of Polkaspot Early Intervention Centre
“Lizanne succeeds to very skillfully translate and integrate a variety of approaches and constructs used by professionals into everyday language for parents and caregivers. She provides insights and tools that encompass crucial developmental, social emotional, relational and sensory processing paradigms in a practical and easy to implement way. In an ever evolving society where it is increasingly important to foster the capacity in children to relate, engage and be “socially savvy”, Lizanne maps the way in a very clear and concise manner to empower parents. A “must read” for any intentional parent.”
Karin Buitendag, Occupational Therapist and Director of Occupational Therapy, Sensory Processing Treatment and Research (STAR) Center, Denver, Colorado.
“Parenting today is difficult and daunting within a busy, overloaded and fast paced world. We need all the help we can get to take daily steps in nurturing, loving and guiding our children to be happy and healthy. Lizanne du Plessis brings exactly that in Raising happy children: A practical, easy to understand and insightful book that will not only make you as a parent feel more capable but also prepare your children to become resilient adults. A must read for every parent who is serious about parenting.”
Dr Annemarie Lombard, Occupational Therapist, Founder and CEO Sensory Intelligence® Consulting, Author of “Sensory Intelligence, why it matters more than IQ and EQ”,
Neither as a therapist, nor as mom, have I ever been so encouraged and inspired by a parenting book. Lizanne transforms one of the most daunting and complex tasks into a wonderful journey, with all the empathy, guidance and tools that one needs to feel confident about raising happy children. What a generous gift to all parents!
Nancy van Zyl , Occupational Therapist and mom of two
“Lizanne combined her passion for neuro-science and children in a remarkable way by bringing us Raising Happy Children. She draws from her vast experience as therapist and mother to illustrate the theoretical concepts that form a solid base for this book. Her deep compassion for parents shines through this work. I can’t wait to share this with some of my clients.”
Nita Lombard, Occupational Therapist
“Feeling overwhelmed by all the parenting “guides” available? Look no further… Raising Happy Children is one of the “must haves” for the whole family. This book will empower you as parent by not only giving you a full understanding of your child’s behavior, but also provide you with many practical strategies to deal with discipline, routines, meltdowns, conflict, emotions, and their unique sensory temperament. This valuable resource assists us as parents to embrace our children’s unique strengths and support, guide and understand their weaknesses.”
Leana Matodes, Speech Pathologist, Author of “Time2Play”, New South Wales, Australia
“Lizanne says it all! I enjoyed every page from the title to the last sentence. Lizanne’s experiences as a parent and as an occupational therapist gave her exceptional insight in the needs of children and parents. In my work I see many children with sensory processing issues, with learning problems, on the autism spectrum and with various developmental and emotional issues. Reading the book, I was hoping that Lizanne will address the many issues that parents and children have. She addressed each and every one in a practical and concise way to make it easy to understand and to implement in family life. Raising Happy Children will certainly help many children and families to enjoy life in general as well as family life. It is a tool to use towards happy children AND happy parents. I’ll recommend this book to parents with children with special needs but also to parents in general, including my own children, to ensure happy grandchildren.”
Marga Grey, Occupational Therapist, Author of “Sensible Stimulation” and “Sensory Motor Skills: Functional Implications”, Developer of CoordiKids programs, Queensland, Australia.
“This book deals with all the things that I’m passionate about: moms, kids and sensory processing. The bridge between a purely therapeutic book and a parenting book - the best of both worlds. The book provides theoretical knowledge of necessary and important concepts, address the emotional components linked to everyday life, as well as useful strategies for parents, therapists and kids. Lizanne has managed to transform complicated concepts into readily understandable, practical and fun information that will change the way that you parent forever”.
Marese du Preez, Occupational Therapist and new mom on the parenting journey
“Lizanne has masterfully, yet humbly, brought the complexity of parenting, the human body and relationships together. It is a must read for all parents and I look forward to rereading it when I have grandchildren. As much as this book is meant for parents of typically developing children, I would recommend it to all my parents of the children that I see in my practice. This book will help you take the stress out of parenting. This book makes reading facts fun and will help you enjoy parenting.”
Ray Anne Cook, Occupational Therapy, Chairperson of the South African Institute of Sensory Integration (SAISI).
"Lizanne's book is full of fun and practical advice to help parents navigate the often confusing world of rearing children. As a parent of a "hedgehog" and a "monkey", I have found that her sensory based approach has been incredibly effective in helping me to understand my children's needs (and increase harmony at home!). It should be essential reading for every parent who's ever stood in a supermarket watching their child meltdown in public!"
Kim Arnold, Mum of Hope and William
"They say that babies don't come with a manual, yet Lizanne has managed to explain important neuro-developmental concepts in a concise and comprehensible way that will help every parent understand their child better. But she doesn't stop there! Her practical strategies and real-life examples will help you get the best out of your children and really enjoy family life."
Melanie Peeke, Parenting Practioner at ADD-vance, London, UK
“Raising Happy Children is one of the most practical and insightful parenting books I have ever read. It makes so much sense and I’m wondering why I never saw my children’s behaviour from this perspective. Reading this book has helped me to understand myself, my husband and my children better. And love them even more.”
Sarah, Mother of Jonah and Katherine
“In this book Lizanne succeeds being both vulnerable and helpful. The insights she shares throughout the book gave me permission to be the parent I’ve always wanted to be. I now know who my child really is and feel more equipped to manage challenging behaviour we might face in the future.”
Tamzyn, Mother of Jack
“Understanding the difference between meltdowns and tantrums has transformed the way that I parent my toddler.”
Helen, mother of Ralph
“Occupational Therapist and mom, Lizanne du Plessis, writes in a wonderfully conversational way in this easy to read book. She demystifies complex concepts for parents and gives practical tips to help you transfer knowledge into practice. This is one of those books that you will refer to on regular occasions and not leave on the bookshelf to collect dust! This book has encouraged us to be more present and more intentional in the way we parent our little ones and will be a helpful tool both professionally and personally."
Lourdes Bruwer and Carly Tzanos, Occupational Therapists, Authors and moms