Am i addicted to sex? | Health24
Posted by: Annah | 2010-09-10
I am a married lady of 33 and hubby is 35. We both love sex soooo much, and sometimes when i am at work i fantasise about making love to him in his office. Whenever i am thinking about this, and i see a man i wish i can just grab him and -|- him. I don''t want to cheat on him on my hubby, but this is actually happening on daily basis. Do u think there is something wrong with me?
Sexologist It might be worth it for you to explore the underlying drives and urges and explore ways it deal with it. Fantasizing and desiring sex and having a healthy appetite for sex does not make it problem. However once it starts interrupting your day to day functioning negatively and becomes a threat to relationships you do not want to disturb or disrupt it might become problematic.
Ons samesyn was dan so lekker hierso! :-) Nee, ek het nie opgelet dat jy en andere swaarde gekruis het nie.Regterhand?... ek sal dit moet probeer uitpluis, maar niks kom tans op nie.Lekker aand, indien jy nog hier is.
Ja, hulle gaan ons binnekort delete en oor die fingers tik :)
Hmmm, om te vertel of nie... Ek is maar versigtig om dinge wat my maklik kan identifiseer publiek te maak. My man het gese hy sal nie baie gelukkig wees as hy mense by ons hek moet wegjaag. Indien jy dan nie weet nie, daar is ''n paar mense wat glad nie van my opinies hou nie :)Ek is die regterhand as dit sin maak :)
48 postings and growing!Geen wonder, kyk net die lekker interresante opskrif
Ek hunt ook voertuig se oliepomp het ingegee en bearings het seer gekry, nie die moeite werd om R12 000 te spandeer om te laat regmaak nie. Dis ''n frustrerende hunt, want almal wil ''n fortuin he vir dit wat nie soveel werd is nie. En ek het nie tyd aan my kant nie.As ek mag vra, in watter werksveld job hunt jy?
Hallo G,Soppie, ja, maar akuraat vir wat jy gevoel het op daardiestadium. Baie dankie dat jy met my gedeel het.Ek is besig om te job hunt vandag. Sug tog.
Goeie more la belle jolieDis baie nice, jy kon op daardie stadium al rustig terugkyk na die verlede, anders as die emosies wat ek ervaar het 14 jaar gelede:Rymdwang reminisceLast nightI sat on the shore like I’ ve done so many times beforestars were brightthe wind whipped the sprayoff the crest’ s of the waves, in the baytill they whither and die… while high above, in the skythere is a cryof a single seagull, in it’ s flightoh what a lonely sightFar away, a ship slowly moves on byIts lights are dim, where sea meets skyyou would have seen in your time the moon, big as a dimelike a big shining light reflecting on the black endless seastretching out in front of me… I thought: what would I sayto her somedayif we would ever meet again How and when just like an old friend?from across a busy street:“ Hi! It’ s been quiet a whilesince I’ ve seen that smileand how are you dear!(hope no wrong emotions do appear,I fear)Ja, it’ s also nice seeing youagain that’ s true.You look so radiant, never seem blue.” Feeling the sprayoff the crest’ s of the waves, in the baythe ship has moved on byits lights are dim, where sea meets skyit will never come in the quayother ships to be passed on the sea-highwaya journey taking it out of reachwhile I’ m sitting here on the beachSo what is there left to say… Lekker soppie, nê !
Nee, gits ek ken hom nie, ek gaan nie eintlik na live shows toe nie, en kan nie in detail met jou oor hom gesels nie, jammer :)Pen en ink want ander verander ek die heeltyd.Hier is een van ''n paar jaar terug, - one of a few i wrote for the rebound-guy:Suddenlyafter all the adrenaline and bumpy rides of a roller coaster lifewe have normality peacetime to knowexplore. We can drink teaor wineand philosophise about lifechat about our daysdream about our weekendMake plans for December and June.Without cynicismwithout hopetalking only of what will happenand not about what may.
Posted by: G | 2010-09-14
Van waar ken jy vir Piet? Hom al lewendig sien optree? (Nie ''n trick question nie).Ek het hom in 1997 raakgeluister waar die volle band opgetree het en was nie be-indruk deur die vreemde aanslag nie. Toe word ek deur my seun in sy motor op ''n laaang rit waartydens ek en hy van Pretoria af see toe gery het, aan " Suitcase vol winter" blootgestel. Ek het die cd oor en oor gespeel in die kar. En ek was gehook. Dit bly nog vir my een van sy beste cds, alhoewel van sy latere engelse cds baie goed is. Hy is ''n uitmuntende ghitaarspeler. Ek voel baie jammer dat sy ander ghiaatspeler: Jonathan, sedert begin van hierdie jaar, nie meer deel is van die groep nie, mens kan duidelik die verskil hoor, en ek mis hom as persoon.
Is dit ''n " kultuur" ding om net met pen en ink te skryf?Obviously is dit persoonlik, sou dit graag wou lees.
We''re doing nothing of the sort. I you don''t want to follow the conversation, you really don''t have to read it.
Posted by: MO3 | 2010-09-14
You guys wanna run in the forest naked elsewhere?
Eendag lank gelede het ek ''n swart kat gehad en sy naam was pikkie (ja, vernoem na ons destydse minister). Kom kuier daar vir ons ''n klomp hollanders en die een man, genaamd, Dick lag hom byna dood toe ek die kat roep. Vra ek vir hom wat''s kamtig so snaaks, se hy vir my pikkie is slang-hollands vir penis. Lag ek vir hom en se vir hom Dick is dieselfde. ''n snipperige tiener, dit was ek wel!Ek hou van die lirieke. Piet Botha is talentvol, en een van die min afrikaanse kunstenaars wat ek kan respekteer. Dis treffend mooi.Jou vraag - hoekom isdit moeiliker om ouer verlief te raak, ek dink dis ''n kombinasie. Ek dink dat as die liefde jou tref kan jy dit nie side step of ignoreer nie. Maar jy moet jouself toelaat om te val. En dis blerrie moeilik. Want hoe ouer jy raak, hoe broser raak jy.Ek skryf gedigte. Net in engels, net pen en ink. Soos jy self weet is ek ''n emosionele, passievolle mens. As ek nie skryf nie, raak ek bietjie mal :)
Hierdie kom van Piet Botha se eerste Afrikaanse cd af, hy sing meestal Engels. En hierdie is vreemd vir ''n ou wat hard Rock! Die liedjie begin met ''n hartseer viool inleiding en klavier.Jy sal dalk onthou en fotos in die koerant gesien het jare gelde waar Pik Botha by sy vrou in die horpitaal sit, sy is nie lank daarna oorlede nie. Hierdie liedjie verwys na ''n hospitaal opset en ek het gewonder of Piet oor sy Ma gesing het, maar haar naam was Helena. En eendag, jare later na ek hom eers goed leer ken het, woon ek op ''n keer ''n gig in Boksburg by en ek vra hom uit oor die liedjie, hy seg, nee, dit was oor sy Groot Liefde: Cathy, sy is met drugs in Weskoppies opgeneem, en het nooit weer daar uitgekom nie (oorlede). Ek vra hom toe of sy Vrou verstaan dat kunstenaars uiting aan hulself gee in hul kuns? Hy seg: " Jy word NOOIT vergewe nie!" En dit maak die liedjie soveel meer spesiaal vir my, omrede ek nou die agtergrond daarvan ken, persoonlik, uit die perd se bek gehoor.DonkermaanNou kyk daar is geen verskoningVir alles wat ons doenDoen ons maar netOm iets van die hemel te proeSondaarsirkel en brandewynstraatDis baie waar, veral vanaandChorusMaar vir jou sal ek nooit vergeetAl woon jy nouIn ''n huis vol spoke en geesteIn ''n wit paleisMense met spierwit klereVir jou medisyne bringVergeet van gister, te nabyAan die donkermaanNou kyk daar is geen verweerGeen vals eis, alles wat ons begeerWas maar altyd net ''n kamer met sonIn ''n groot grys gebouChorusCathy kom nooit weer huistoeMiskien net vir Krismis of NuwejaarMoenie so baie praat nieSlaan daai kitaarChorusxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxOppas, of ek dring dalk daarop aan om eendag vir jou ''n seleksie van Piet Botha/Jackhammer songs te kan stuur. Of elektronies of innie pos.
Dit is wonderlik, dankie, en volgens my, skryf mens net sulke dinge indien jou emosies joiu daarheen lei (al het jy die talent om te dig). Ek gaan dit hou, stuur asb nog sulkes van tyd tot tyd.Ek probeer nie die gesprek terug vat na musiek toe nie, maar, ek weet vir myself, lank gelede toe ek nog lekker verlief kon raak! :-) (raak mens met die tyd afgestomp/verhoog jou standaarde en raak nie meer maklik verlief nie, of kos dit net ''n spesiale persoon om die gevoel weer wakker te kry?) was ek gemotiveerd en het gedigte geskryf, natuurlike onprofesionele soetsappige goete. Ek het net eenkeer ''n liriek daarby geskep, wat vir my baie moeilik is, hoe skep jy ''n wysie wat jy nog nie gehoor het nie? My dogter is goed daarmee, toe sy op skool was het ek haar die basiese ghitaardrukke geleer en kort voorlank het sy seker ''n stuk of 40 engelse gospel songs geskryf en gesing.Die enigste ander keer wat ek emosioneel so meegvoer was, was toe my Ma oorlede is so 5 jaar gelede, oppad huistoe het ek ''n gediggie vir haar aanmekaar geplak. O, ja, ook die keer toe ek ''n nuwe gholf 1 hout gekoop het, het ek iets daaroor geskryf!En eenkeer, so 14 jaar gelede, het ek langs die see gesit en sommer verlang na iemand wat nie daar is nie en die volgende oggend ''n gediggie aanmekaar geflans. Nogal in Ingils, as ek nou daarna kyk, voel ek skaam, wat die emosies nie met mens doen nie.Hierdie gedig van Boerneef is vir my mooi, HARTSEER, eenvoudig.Die berggans het ’ n veer laat valvan die hoogste krans by Woeperdalmy hart staan tuit al meer en meerek stuur vir jou die berggansveermits dese wil ek vir jou sê hoe diep my liefde vir jou lê Reply to G
Ek sien wat jy bedoel. Ek voel so oor gedigte. Ek is mal oor die digkuns en lees baie gedigte, but it''s not precisely a hot topic of conversation! Poets speak what others fear to say. Like this one. Can''t you just picture this man, looking at this wamoan, watching her move and talk and thinking this:I CRAVE YOUR MOUTH... I crave your mouth, your voice, your hair. Silent and starving, I prowl through the streets. Bread does not nourish me, dawn disrupts me, all day I hunt for the liquid measure of your steps. I hunger for your sleek laugh, your hands the color of a savage harvest, hunger for the pale stones of your fingernails, I want to eat your skin like a whole almond. I want to eat the sunbeam flaring in your lovely body, the sovereign nose of your arrogant face, I want to eat the fleeting shade of your lashes, and I pace around hungry, sniffing the twilight, hunting for you, for your hot heart, Like a puma in the barrens of Quitratue.~ Pablo Neruda
Jy kan dit net doen met iemand uit jou era wat sal luister en sê : " Ja, ek ken dit,wow! Great song! En wat van hierdie liedjie?" Dit het meeste van die tyd nie vandag se klankgehalte, so jy luister vir ''n ander rede daarna.
So hoekom doen jy dit nie meer nie?
I''m listening to it right now on Youtube, what makes it wonderful is that it is not a remake, it is precisely how it sounded all those years back.Jy weet dan, musiek vat mens absoluut terug na hoe jy gevoel het/wat jy ervaar het destyds, in watter gemoedstoestemming jy was. Ongelukkig raak mens nou weer hartseer indien jy destyds hartseer was. Vandag kan ek na " Ma belle amie" luister en smile, destyds was dit ''n teer sakie, ek en ''n ouer vriend was verlief op dieselfde skoolmeisie, hy het die seven single: " Ma belle amie" vir haar gekoop, en ek het " Silence is Golden" van die Tremeloes vir haar gekoop. Sy het meer dikwels na " Ma belle amie" geluister. :-(Ek het so 5 jaar gelede onbewustelik ''n hobby begin waar ek al die liedjies van destyds wat mens verloor het, hetsy in ''n inbraak in jou kar of omrede iemand ''n LP geleen het en nooit terugbesorge het nie, weer op te spoor. Ek het die uitstaande lysie van om en by 200 liedjeis intussen afgewerk na so 5 wat ek nog soek. Sommiges moes ek vanaf LP/seven singles afhaal omrede hul nie op cd geplaas is nie. Daar is self van Neil Diamond se liedjeis vanaf sy dubbel LP: Double Gold wat nie om cd beskikbaar is nie. Tommy Roe se " Much more love" nog ''n voorbeeld. En om dinge te kompliseer, ek soek nie ''n REMIX nie!!En ek mis om saam met iemand voor die klankstel te sit en reminisce. Reply to G
I did a quick search on you tube. Saw the 1969 video :) I like all sorts of music. Each a phase in my life, each a memory of who I was.
Whose voice? Where did you hear it?Jim Morrison is this well known guy, but I find that there are few of his songs that I like. Ja, it is strange how versatile our choice of music is, Vicky is so far away from rock, she was great at the time.Did you know that the Rolling Stones song: " Angie" was Mick Jagger singing to David Bowie''s wife? And in return David sang: " Sorrow." One of the few songs I liked immediately. Those were my army days on the Caprivi border, also Seasons in the sun - Terry Jacks, Loving arms - Doby Gray. Oor musiek wil ek uuuure lank gesels. Daar is geen manier dat ek na Kurt Darren en sy vrinne sal luister nie.
Ooo, it''s stunning. I love the guys'' voice. Very nice lyrics too. I have a great love for the music of the 60''s & 70''s But I must admit, I prefer the rock - Jim Morrison, The rolling Stones and of course Janis Joplin etc. One of my favourite singers of the time is Vicky Leandros. So many- come what may, just as I am.Alternatiewe afrikaans, JA, mainstream afrikaanse bubblegum pop *vomit* :)
la belle jolie" Ma belle amie" gesing deur die Tee Set, in 1969 toe ek op Hoë rskool was, nou gee ek my ouderdom weg. Google seg: " The title translates to: " My beautiful (female) friend." So, my musieksmaak haak vas in die 60/70''s alhoewel daar natuurlik goeie goed later ook uitgekom het. My fav Afrikaanse rockband: " Jackhammer" van Pretoria met Piet Botha, Pik se seun. Persoonlike vriend.Ma belle amieYou were a child of the sunAnd the sky and the deep blue seaMa belle amieApres tous les beaux joursJe te dis merci merciYou were the answer of all my questionsBefore we''re throughI want to tell you that I adore youAnd always doThat you amaze me by leaving me nowAnd start a-newMa belle amie I''m in love with youCHORUS Let the bells ringLet the birds singLet''s all give my substitute a big cheerLet the bells ringLet the birds singFor the man after him waits hereFor the man after him waits hereMa belle amieYou were a child of the sunAnd the sky and the deep blue seaMa belle amieThere was a time that you thoughtThat your only friend was meYou were the answer of all my questionsBefore we''re throughI want to tell you that I adore youAnd always doThat you amaze me by leaving me nowAnd start a-newMa belle amie I''m in love with youCHORUS Reply to G
Do you mean like doctor Eve? lol! I suppose one day I''ll be an old hag. And hope by then I''ll be so ugly that I scare the kids away. However, looking at my mom who is an old hag now, I fear that it will be less the old witch more Bridgit Bardot! Thanks Issy, you made me giggle :)
Hallo G :)No, I am not in Pretoria, no I am not a teacher (I only studied French to enjoy the poetry :) Ek ken glad nie die liedjie, nou is ek nuuskierig... wie het dit gesing? Watter jaar? My musieksmaak is.... vreemd :)
Posted by: Issy miyaki | 2010-09-14
i''ve always suspected that woman was an old hag!
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Posted by: G | 2010-09-13
la belle jolieTydens my skooldae was daar ''n popliedjie: " Ma bella me" Ook Frans?
Posted by: H | 2010-09-13
Hallo Woman. Nee, ek het agtergekom dis ingils, maar toe my oog die eerste woord vang: " passes" , toe dog ek hier kom nog Frans." Vroulief" is nice, maar dit gaan nie gepas wees as ek jou so noem nie, " la belle jolie" sal moet doen, dis mos paslik/beskrywend, het jy besluit. Ek wou ''n nuwe " posting" skep, maar dan sien hul dit as chit-chat en verwyder dit. Hopelik lees jy hier.Kopseer, sy het self ook bietjie gaan navors en gaan moontlik van die bestandele/middels probeer wat van die mense genoem het. En dis regtig net ''n kwaai kopseer vir daardie paar dae, geen ander probleme of nie-toegangklikheid nie, inteendeel.Geraai jy gee Frans op skool vir die kinders, dalk in Pretoria. :-)GroeteG
43, I am so happy to hear that, a perpetual nightmare is that I wake up one morning not wanting my husband anymore. I can''t imagine not wanting sex with him on a regular basis right now. And he is soooo hot and he does everything just right. But you are right - women start to really enjoy sex when they realise how strong they can be. Sexual meteor showers can only happen when two people are meeting as equals. When they realise that their equality stems from their differences. Reply to Woman
Posted by: 43 | 2010-09-10
Hey Woman, thanks for answering, I am not complaining mind you, I love the peaking and I love the feeling of always wanting, in a weird way it makes one feel powerful, and at least I know I am not the " walking dead" , on the plus side when hby wants I never say no, and yes it is fantastic, maybe because I am waiting for it!!. Medical fraternity should prehaps research a bit more I am 43,had my kids in my twenties so they are off by a few years, but I guess being women none of us are the same!!G is right at 40 and 40 plus you do still feel the same if not better!
G- passes the peace pipe, means stuur die pyp van vrede aan. I understand german, but i do not have the self confidence to try and speak! Thaht comes from teaching yourself by book. So, I understand german and speak another 5 european languages (including eng and afrikaans). Germanic and Latin languages are easy for me. It''s the african, asian and middle eastern languages I struggle with. I wish I could learn mandarin, xhosa and parsi. Sigh, maybe one day..
G, you can cal me " vroulief" if you want - my husband does it toe piss me off, roundabout the same time when he asks why I ''m not waiting by the door, naked with a martini :DIf you want to go French, la belle jolie is a good one (it means " the beautiful joyous one. Why not. Tomorrow I might be the wicked witch again.I read the circumcision guy, and he has a point - as they say - lee blikke maak die grootste lawaai, but that is always the risk you run when you post to a public forum. Also, when writing, people don''t always understand what the person is actually trying to ask. And sometimes, a question is also a question in a question. But enough of the philosophy of the questions and answers.How is your girlfriend''s headaches? You should really give those supplements a try, I can''t guarantee it will take them away, but i can guarantee that she''ll feel a whole lot better. Hey 43, the medical fraternity says 32, with a few years before and after being the norm.Alternative research suggests that many women are pregnant during that time and that the sexual peak might be pushed out by a few years. I think it has to do with a combination of things like the type of relationship you''re in, stresses in your life, how healthy you live and off course whether you have an exciting lover or not. I for one am looking forward to peaking and peaking and peaking for many years to come. :)
Horny Guy, I am really sorry, I don''t have an anonymous address so it would not be wise. Chatting would have been fun though, thanks.
Posted by: Horny Guy | 2010-09-10
Ok 43 i understand - not that we were going to do anything except for chatting.
Horny Guy, nope sorry can''t do, anyway I know how to sort myself out. Just saying that I feel the same and that my drive is definitly higher at this age. Don''t know why though and sometimes it is frustrating. Woman: - Are our peaks at 30 or 40 and is this normal, I am asking because you sound very knowledgable, (no disrespect intended), maybe at my age I should know this stuff but I don''t and don''t really have anyone to ask.
Posted by: G | 2010-09-10
En dankie! Ek dog eers dis weereens ''n stukkie onverstaanbare Frans wat jy skryf.en - Ich weis nie was es bedeutenSien jy, ek is 3 talig, eintlik 4 talig, maar ek weier om die swart taal wat ek as skoolkind op my oorle Oupa se plaas geleer het, ooit weer te uiter.
Woman (Ons sal vir jou ''n mooi Afrikaanse naam moet kry)Lees die ou se reaksie wat gevra het oor besnyding, op die responses wat hy ontvang het. Ek het lekker gelag. En nes hy gevoel anderdag.
Mail me 43.
Hallo G, ek is ja, ek onthou ook ons woordespel met ''n glimlag. Jy het my iets waardevols geleer: hou emosie uit debat uit. Dankie daarvoor! *passes peace pipe*
Ha I am 43 and the feelings just escalate, but my man is older than me and doesn''t want it so much anymore. When he does then yes it is fantastic, but my drive is way myuch higher, unfortunately.
The good news is: At 40 you''ll still feel the same!!
Hallo Woman, is jy my Fransprekende, Engels/Afrikaanse dame?
Hehe G, you are right. It''s called the dirty thirties for a reason! Time to explore your own bodies and your sexuality. A woman''s sexual peak, the Saturn return. It''s the time where you''ve made peace with a lot of things. It''s fine to fantasise, but don''t go walking into problems. Only ever make promises (even with your eyes) that you intend to keep!
And those poor office guys don''t know what you are thinking.... :-)nah, it''s normal to feel like that (at certain stages of your life)Ask Woman, she''ll tell you.
I guess there''s something about being 30...
You are fortunate Annah.
Thanks for your responses guys. Its gud to hear that i am not alone, but my hubby really satisfies me.
Posted by: Homer | 2010-09-10
Geez you okes are idiots -
Annah sex is on my mind 24 hours. I dont think anything is wrong with you. Mial me hornyguy67 at gmail dot com.
Posted by: Dman | 2010-09-10
Please let me -i- you Annah, I guarentee you pleasure.
Posted by: buddie | 2010-09-10
Because the sex you get from your husband is good,and you think of him all day,it is normal to feel that way.But dont cheat on him, hold out, and then when you are with him, you -|- his brains out.
Reply to buddie Posted by: sexologist | 2010-09-10
It might be worth it for you to explore the underlying drives and urges and explore ways it deal with it. Fantasizing and desiring sex and having a healthy appetite for sex does not make it problem. However once it starts interrupting your day to day functioning negatively and becomes a threat to relationships you do not want to disturb or disrupt it might become problematic.