This article looks at the life of a young widow in a community and what is expected of her after losing her husband. She can return to her family home or build her own house close to her father’s homestead or her in-laws’ kraal. If she is lucky she can get another husband but the lobola negotiations would be conducted at her in-laws’ kraal. She can leave her children with the in-laws or take them to her family, if there is no one to look after the children she can take them with her to her new home. But if they are old enough she should build them a house to live in. Uma kungxoxo Luule ake ukushelela ukuthi ngiwufinyelela konke ekudingayo - it kwakuzwakala la mazwi 2001. Mhlawumbe kwakuyisikhathi sokuboniswa wakhe siyisinqumo esinzima kunazo zonke. Ngonyaka olandelayo, ukuthi abashone engozini yemoto. Viilma bebuyela emotweni nomyeni wakhe ekhaya ukuze uthole edolobheni lakubo awuzange kakhulu, kodwa ngokushesha kokuthatha off maqondana imoto akazange ashiye amathuba okusinda.