Obsessive love
Obsessive love or obsessive love disorder (OLD) is a condition in which one person feels an overwhelming obsessive desire to possess and protect another person, sometimes with an inability to accept failure or rejection. Symptoms include an inability to tolerate any time spent without that person, obsessive fantasies surrounding the person, and spending inordinate amounts of time seeking out, making, or looking at images of that person. Characteristics. Although obsessive love is not contained in the DSM-5 as a specific mental disorder, it can often accompany other mental illnesses. Depending on the intensity of their attraction, obsessive lovers  may feel entirely unable to restrain themselves from extreme behaviors such as acts of violence toward themselves or others. Obsessive love can have its roots in childhood trauma and may begin at first sight; it may persist indefinitely, sometimes requiring psychotherapy. In November 2019 marriage.com reported that although it could be “a slight exaggeration” Netflix show You had got people talking about obsessive love disorder. The disorder most commonly associated with obsessive love is borderline personality disorder. Other disorders that are most commonly associated with obsessive love include delusional disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and cluster B personality disorders. Psychology. Sigmund  Freud considered that obsessive love might be underpinned by an unconscious feeling of hate for which it overcompensated - thereby explaining the sufferer's feeling of a need to protect the love object. Later analysts saw obsessive love as driven more by narcissistic need, the preoccupation with the love-object offering defences against worries and depressive feelings; while Jungians see it as rooted in the projection of the inner self onto another person. In culture. Marcel Proust dissected (his own style of) obsessive love in "À la recherche du temps perdu". You, a 2014 thriller novel by Caroline Kepnes portrays obsessive  love disorder. The novel was translated into 19 languages and has been adapted into the September 2018 Lifetime television series You, a critical success on Netflix from December 2018. Over 43 million viewers streamed the first season after its debut on the streaming service.