I agree that often times when people offer up the sayings you used, they don’t always make you feel better. My family and I experienced that this summer at my cousin’s funeral. He was shot and killed by someone he considered a friend, two days before his 19th birthday. None of the so-called encouraging words were helpful because the main question we all had was, ” Why him, he was just a ‘baby?” Kodwa, afterwards we look back and see that even though it was a sad occasion it brought our family closer together and reevaluate our relationships with each other and with God. We also gained a new family member not soon after in his daughter, who could be his twin. Ngokuqinisekile abantu abaningi okungenani kwakudingeka bayeke entwasahlobo phambi kwegceke noma engadini ethile, bengaboni ngokungaziwa isithombe esingavamile - i-pink enokunethezeka, izimbali ezimhlophe noma ezibomvu emthini omuhle nonomshini ngaphandle kwamaqabunga. Iqhakaza i-magnolia. Ekuboneni kokuqala kungase kubonakale ukuthi isimangaliso esinjalo singalinywa kuphela ngabalimi abanolwazi, bebe nezimali ezinkulu futhi bafaka umzamo omkhulu kuwo.