How do YOU (again, as the decent, thoughtful woman you are) turn yourself into being more of a challenge? This can easily become the disingenuous game-playing that books like “The Rules” (Fein and Schneider) tout, which may not work for everyone and may leave you ill-feeling and confused about what to say and when. Instead, build up your life to be genuinely full and exciting—making you a true challenge to nail down a date with. Not only will it check off that whole “be a challenge” attribute that so ungracefully characterizes HQBs (that men find so attractive), but your date will feel that much more valued when you’ve made a point to spend your clearly valuable time with him. Njalo abasebenzi enkampanini yethu ukhonza zonke ikhasimende emhlabeni wonke nezimiso: inkonzo ngemfudumalo ungaphakathi ngaphambi; izinga elilawulayo kuyinto base nezinga lokukhula kwengane; idumela base sokusinda. Uma unesithakazelo imikhiqizo yethu, ungaxhumana nathi nganoma yisiphi isikhathi futhi sizobe uphendule wena ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.