5 usathane ungumzingeli ololunya kakhulu. ngenxa yokuthi ujehova kafuni ukuthi sibanjwe ngusathane, usilungiselele imithetho esivikelayo ‘kumacebo obuqili’ avela komubi. (kwabase--efesu 6:11) yikho--ke ngasosonke isikhathi nxa sicabangisisa ngemithetho kankulunkulu, kumele siyibone njengendlela yothando oluvela kubaba wethu osezulwini. nxa singaba lombono onjalo ngemithetho kankulunkulu, izasenza sivikeleke njalo sithole intokozo. umfundi ujakhobe wabhala: ‘kodwa umuntu owukhangela ngenjongo umthetho opheleleyo oletha ukukhululeka, njalo aqhubeke esenza lokhu uzabusiswa kulokho akwenzayo.’​—ujakhobe 1:25. for him, it was love at first sight. something about the tilt of her head, the length of that proud neck, the lilt of her laugh. for a man who has never been in love -- who didnt know what it was to love anyone other than his children, who, at the age of twenty, had mistaken infatuation for love and married her -- to experience it for the first time at the age of 55 is perhaps more calamitous than getting caught in a lightening storm with no shelter in sight. but thats exactly what kidanes heart had done  gone helter--skelter and fallen in love with a girl less than half his age, a girl, moreover, who had been brought to addis from harrer as mogzit for his first grandchild.