Regular phone calls ​ — even daily if possible — ​ letters , or e - mails reassure parents that they are loved . ​ — Prov . 10:3 And he cried out with a great voice, in the manner of a lion roaring. And when he had cried out, seven thunders uttered their voices. “ Keep on the watch , therefore , because you know neither the day nor the hour . ” ​ — MATT . Bhala i-imeyili ku-inhlangano yomphakathi enikeza kuhlola zakho zokuziphatha ukuhlola njengoba yakhelwe? Ubungahamba yini ukuba benze ukuhlolwa njengoba kuhlongozwa? Yiziphi izinto okungenzeka ube nomthelela esiquntweni sakho? Thus the rare occasions when we visit the graveyard should serve as a reminder of our own death. Those few moments among the graves should not be wasted in idle gossip and worldly talk. While the burial is in progress, one should engage oneself in silently reciting whatever one is able to of the Qur'an with the intention of passing the rewards to the deceased. This would be of immense benefit to oneself as well as the deceased. May Allah Ta'ala enable us to remember our death often, especially while in the graveyard. Aameen.