And yet this attitude is completely understandable. We’ve all been there, ‘forcing’ ourselves to get in the game, signing up to the online dating sites, trawling through messages which sometimes make the skin crawl, too often from married men and other undesirables, and eventually giving someone a chance because he looks nice. Making contact, chatting backwards and forwards, perhaps even beginning to get a flicker of excitement – he seems nice, he’s quite good looking in the pictures and there is a definite connection. So you arrange a meeting. You are nervous, you spend lots of time and energy getting ready, you wonder if you are making a mistake, but you make the effort, pull on your coat, go out into the cold and travel to wherever (quite often a few hours even) to meet your date. You are feeling excited now, after all he could be ‘the one’. Ukwenza kusebenze isevisi itholakala kubo bonke ababhalisile of "megaphone". Umkhawulo uxhumano kungaba ngasiphi isikhathi, khubaza ezibangelwa yilokhu kuvinjelwa bakhiqiza njengoba kudingeka. Ukuphathwa kwamakhasimende ewusizo iphasiwedi ekhethekile (kubo bonke ababhalisele ngokwakhona efakwe njengoba inhlanganisela - 0000) kanye amakhodi uhlobo zokuxhumana ngamunye, ukuhlinzekwa zazo kungenzeka ukwenza kusebenze kuvinjelwe (ohlwini).