Lineo wrote: MY husband and I have been together a long time and we have two children. I recently found out he had oral sex with another man he met in a bar on a trip to JHB.He said it was a mistake, he didn't enjoy it and he'll never do it again.I don't feel I can believe him because on his computer there's recent evidence he's been visiting websites for gays. Why am I not enough for him? Our sex life has always been good. Lineo nnake, what you are going thru must be shocking, but the fact remains, your man is definatly attracted to the same sex. My advise is try and understand your husband and do not listen to generalising statements.Edu cate yourself and read more about gay people.You have to make your choice based on your feelings and not what the community thinks about you. Remember your happiness and your family must come first, expecially your children. Discuss this with your parner and i am sure you can both find solution.If your gut feeling tells you to leave him, do so , because bisexual men dont change.The fact that you still enjoy his sex is a clear indication that he is capable of cheating on you for good.If you love him, then offer him support,encorage him to use safe sex after all hi is the father of your kids and that will never change.Maybe i must also tell you that not all bisexual men like Anal Sex or any form of penetration, they just enjoy being with the same sex. This is why hothoe baja mantoana.