Henrietta Frances de Grey
Henrietta Frances de Grey, Countess de Grey (22 June 1784 – 2 July 1848) was an Anglo-Irish political hostess and philanthropist. Early life and family. Henrietta Frances de Grey was born Henrietta Frances Cole at Florence Court, County Fermanagh on 22 June 1784. She was the youngest of the ten children of William Cole, 1st Earl of Enniskillen, and his wife Anne, daughter of Galbraith Lowry-Corry. Her maternal uncle was Armar Lowry-Corry, 1st Earl Belmore. From her early letters, it appears that she was well educated. She attended the viceregal court at Dublin Castle  from 1802. When her mother fell ill in 1802, her father placed her in charge of the household at Florence Court. She met Thomas Weddell de Grey in September 1803, who was "much struck by her". He proposed to her on 23 June 1805, and they were married on 20 July 1805 at the estate of Henry Luttrell, 2nd Earl of Carhampton, in Cobham, Surrey. They honeymooned at her husbands's homes at Putney and the Newby estate. The couple were close, and it has been noted that their correspondence shows a strong mutual respect. They had five children, with  only their eldest two daughters surviving to adulthood: She was affected by the early deaths of her two sons and a daughter for the rest of her life. Public life. As her husband did not smoke, and de Grey preferred not to retire after dinner to a drawing room, she was deeply engaged with male after-dinner conversations about politics in the library. It was here that she had influence on senior politicians developed. It was at these meetings that she started a deep, platonic, friendship with Sir Robert Peel. Through their letters he confided in her his frustrations along  with religious and political opinions he did not share with his male colleagues. She warned of the oncoming "bedchamber crisis" in 1839 which helped Peel negotiate the situation and led to him forming a government in 1841. She was opposed to Peel's invitations to her husband to become lord lieutenant of Ireland, as she did not want to leave their new home at Wrest Park and the wider society in England. In September 1841, her husband did accept Peel's request, and became lord lieutenant of Ireland. As his wife, de Grey was his firm supporter, and the newspapers  of the time note how frequently she was at his side. Having attended the Dublin court in her youth, de Grey held the largest viceregal levee in Dublin since King George IV's visit in 1821 in November 1841, continuing to entertain on a grand scale. These events had different motivations, including trying to bring communities together, and attempting to dissuade Protestants from marching in response to the Repeal meetings. Still interested in philanthropy, she suggested public works to boost employment in Ireland that were funded from royal estates, and schemes to encourage native industries in Dublin. From her letters , it is clear that she did not sympathise with Orange views, and contrary to allegations in the newspapers and biographies of her husband, she did not influence her husband's views towards Orange opinions. When he became ill in 1844, de Grey took over his political correspondence, going on to negotiate his retirement and the selection of William à Court, 1st Baron Heytesbury as his successor. After his retirement, she remained a supporter of Peel, including his policy to increase the Maynooth Grant. She did have great reservations as to whether Ireland would benefit from the repeal of the corn  laws, maintaining that the Irish famine was due to a "scarcity of money" rather than a lack of food. In early 1848, de Grey's health began to decline, and she died at 4 St James's Square, London on 2 July 1848 from cancer. She is buried in the de Grey Mausoleum with a tomb sculpted by Terence Farrell. Portraits of de Grey are held at Florence Court, the National Portrait Gallery, London and the National Gallery of Ireland.