Kodwa-ke masingazikhohlisi: njengayo yonke impilo yethu, lolo guquko lusesemazingeni asafufusa. Kusenebanga elide okufanele silihambe. from what i have seen and experienced, in most cases, the man cheats on a woman and she has to decide to stay or leave. the usual response to that is, ‘men will be men.’ which is an old tradition. the idea that someone can’t change based on their upbringing is absurd. because if someone truly loves another, they will rise up and and become a better person for their partner or allow their significant other to find someone else who will not continue to hurt them. i am done hearing, ‘boys will be boys’ or ‘men cheat’ because that only lowers the standards of the kind of people that we should want to be. people who are respectful and create peace in each others’ lives. kusekhona umuntu inkinga: ngezinye izikhathi ebhange angamuvimba isicelo sakho noma ngasiphi isizathu. futhi uma impahla yakho wahlawuliswa isibonelo, endabeni izikweletu ku loan, bese kube kuhle yokuthi imali idluliselwe ngeke bakwazi ukuthola -- bona uphelelwa--akhawunti yasebhange, okuyinto wena nakwabangenangqondo.