Assertion: shame's child | /r/CapableOf | feel shame
Facets:
value: deeply
type: DEGREE
value: often
type: TEMPORAL
value: in the usual situation
type: OTHER
value: in response to interactions
type: OTHER
Source sentences:
text: One study led children to believe they had broken an adult’s toy and determined behaviorally whether the child felt shame or guilt (Drummond et al., 2017).
text: When that connection is breached, such as when a child is scolded harshly, children feel alone and ashamed, unless the parent-child bond of love is soon repaired.
text: Some children may experience shame in response to interactions that express disgust.
text: These researchers found that children who felt shame behaved antisocially, by averting the adult’s gaze or hiding the toy, while children who felt guilt behaved prosocially, by quickly telling the adult about what they had done and trying to fix the toy as best they could.
text: Children who experience trauma often feel shame.
text: In the usual situation, children feel shame when they behave in ways which elicit disapproval from their parents.
text: The child who feels shame will cut herself off from contact with others.
text: Parents often simply wish to make the child feel ashamed of the behaviour being discouraged, believing that deterring them in this way is the way forward.
text: For example, some kids react to being caught stealing with guilt, but sensitive children are more likely to feel deeply ashamed, especially if the parent reacts too strongly.
text: Punishment is effective only to the degree that a child experiences it as painful, so while parents may think they're using “loving discipline," a child will never experience pain that is purposefully caused by the parent as loving; the child will experience shame.