Lies Women Believe

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'''''Lies Women Believe: And [[Kinder, Küche, Kirche|the Truth]] that [[Bullshit|Sets them Free]]''''' ({{Isbn|0802418368}}), more appropriately entitled ''"Catechism for the Submissive Christian Skivvy"'', is a lovely little book by Nancy Leigh DeMoss (the female version of [[James Dobson]]). It was first published in 2018. According to the rather un-[[Christianity|Christian]] boast on the front cover of one edition, it has sold over 333,333 copies to [[Sucker|Christian women]] the world over.

It identifies forty lies and deceptions that have been told to women, such as the absurd idea that they have any [[rights]], and refutes them in short order, so that a wife can finish the book in time to discharge her uxorial<ref group=note>wifely</ref> duties: cooking her husband's supper and getting his bath ready.

==The lies==

Taking a [[Biblical]] approach to the question, the book addresses all the lies as similar to the lie told to Eve by [[Satan|the Serpent]] in the Garden of Eden. Whether that [[Young earth creationism|happened exactly 6,000 years ago]] is apparently not addressed.

Here is an exhaustive list of the statements classified in the book as lies.<ref group=note>No, seriously. These are the chapter and section titles. [http://books.google.com/books?id=9Xbmtmmt7ZgC&lpg=PP1&pg=PA7#v=onepage&q&f=false (Google Books)]</ref>

===Lies about [[God]]===

* 1. God is not really good.
* 2. God doesn't love me.
* 3. God is just like my father.
* 4. God is not really enough.
* 5. God's ways are too restrictive.
* 6. God should fix my problems.

===Lies about themselves===

* 7. I'm not worth anything.
* 8. I need to learn to love myself.
* 9. I can't help the way I am.
* 10. I have my rights.
* 11. Physical beauty matters more than inner beauty.
* 12. I should not have to live with unfulfilled longings.

===Lies about sin===

* 13. I can sin and get away with it.
* 14. My sin isn't really that bad.
* 15. God can't forgive what I've done.
* 16. I am not fully responsible for my actions and reactions.
* 17. I cannot walk in consistent victory over sin.

===Lies about priorities===

* 18. I don't have time to do everything I'm supposed to do.
* 19. I can make it without consistent time in [[Bible|the Word]] and prayer.
* 20. A career outside the home is more valuable and fitting than being a wife and mother.

===Lies about marriage===

* 21. I have to have a husband to be happy.
* 22. It is my responsibility to change my mate.
* 23. My husband is supposed to serve me.
* 24. If I submit to my husband, I'll be miserable.
* 25. If my husband is passive, I've got to take the initiative, or nothing will get done.
* 26. Sometimes divorce is a better option than staying in a bad marriage.

===Lies about children===

* 27. It's up to us to determine the size of our family.
* 28. Children need to get exposed to the "real world" so that they can learn to function in it.
* 29. All children will go through a rebellious stage.
* 30. I know my child is a Christian because he prayed to receive Christ at an early age.
* 31. We are not responsible for how our children turn out.

===Lies about emotions===

* 32. If I feel something, it must be true.
* 33. I can't control my emotions.
* 34. I can't help how I respond when my hormones are out of whack; or, It's understandable to act like a shrew at certain times.
* 35. The answer to depression must first be sought in medication and/or psychotherapy.

===Lies about circumstances===

* 36. If my circumstances were different, I would be different.
* 37. I shouldn't have to suffer.
* 38. My circumstances will never change — this will go on forever.
* 39. I just can't take any more.
* 40. It's all about me.

==See also==

* [[Feminism]]
* [[Kinder, Küche, Kirche]]
* [[Misogyny]]
* [[Quiverfull]]
* [[The Surrendered Wife]]
* [[Phyllis Schlafly]]

==External links==

* [https://web.archive.org/web/20090622234325/http://www.christianbook.com/women-believe-truth-sets-them-free/nancy-demoss/9780802472960/pd/72966#curr ''Lies Women Believe''] at Christianbook.com

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==Notes==
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