FAQ for the Newly Deconverted

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{{cquote|The path from [Religion] to Atheism is a long one, and its first steps are very rough and very painful[.] The feet tread on the ruins of the broken faith, and the sharp edges cut into the bleeding flesh[.] But further on… the roadside is fragrant with all the flowers of summer… and in the distance we see the promise of autumn, the harvest that shall be reaped for the feeding of man.|||[[Annie Besant|Annie Wood Besant]], '' My Path to Atheism'' (1885)<ref>Besant, Annie (1885). ''[https://archive.org/details/mypathtoatheism00besarich My Path to Atheism]''. London: Freethought Publishing Company.</ref>}}
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First off: <span style="color:red; font-size:150%;">'''''[[Douglas Adams|DON'T PANIC!]]'''''</span> It will be okay.

If you found this article, you very well may have recently lost [[faith]] (or had your faith shaken) in your particular [[god]](s) or religious teaching. Some of us have been raised to think that [[life]] without [[religion]] is [[Belief in belief|utterly unthinkable]]. If so, a loss of faith can feel devastating. Indeed, someone enduring a "crisis of faith" may wonder if there's something wrong with them, and even think that their life is now devoid of meaning.{{cn}}
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This document's mission is to help you find your way out of this darkness and confusion and into a place where you are happy making [[reality]]-based and [[Open mind|open-minded]] decisions on your own. Whether you are recently de-converted, on the brink of losing your religion, or a long-time non-believer, these questions and answers aim to give an overview of life without religion. You have entered the world of [[atheism]], [[science]], and [[rationalism]]. Here we'll tell you what's important, where to obtain [[ethics|morality]], and how to face the peer pressure to return to the [[church]].

Choosing religion because you feel you have no other option is no choice at all. Choosing an alternative religion, or deciding to return to your old faith, because you've considered things carefully and have decided that's what you really think is accurate, ''is a fine choice''.  It's more important to be true to yourself rather than to just believe what others believe; just don't end up convincing yourself something is true because others want you to believe it.

==What do I believe now?==
[[File:Icon_religion.svg|thumb|The many religions in the world prescribe beliefs for people to hold. Without this, you are literally free to believe whatever you like. (Assuming [[doxastic voluntarism]], of course.)]]
The truth is, you're pretty much free to believe whatever you want, or more precisely, you're free to decide what you think is true about the world. That said, there are many concepts and ideas that have been put forward by atheists and [[freethinker]]s alike for centuries, and you may find that you&nbsp;— having either lost faith, or having it shaken&nbsp;— agree with them. You're still free to disagree with them, of course, and find your own way.

The originator of this FAQ ([[:User:EVDebs|EVDebs]]) is what is sometimes known as a "[[Weak Atheism|weak atheist]]", someone who does not ''actively deny'' the existence of gods but lives as if there are none. Other contributors from [[RationalWiki]] take different opinions; some are [[neopagan]]s, some are [[Christian]]s, some are or were other religions, many are [[agnostic]] or more overtly atheist.

"Atheism" is nothing more than the mere negation of the belief in the existence of any gods. Put that way, it is a very limited statement itself, sometimes called "dictionary atheism". However, for most atheists, this position is merely the starting point to establish alternative, non-religious theories about ethics and social life. There are various [[secular]] (i.e., "no god/religion") [[Philosophy|philosophies]] around; the most common are [[humanism]] and [[philosophical naturalism|naturalism]], but there are lots of others. Most of them are pretty similar, however. What we all have in common on this wiki is that we're '''[[Naturalism|naturalists]]'''. This is the principle that belief systems, philosophies, and [[worldview]]s (particularly those that inform one's behaviour towards others) should reflect what can be observed and tested, not what someone or something tells you to accept as true without [[evidence]]. We also employ [[logic]] and [[Rationalism|rational thinking]]. That means ''everything'' is fair game for scrutiny — as in [[science]], the only 'sacred truth' is that there are no sacred truths. If you renounced your faith and became an atheist out of a lack of evidence for God's existence, then you have already implicitly accepted some of our tenets. If you'd like to find out more about it, keep on reading, explore this wiki, the internet, books, or even try to form some original thoughts and share them with others.

Admittedly, you've already been [[bait-and-switch]]ed here. This isn't really a document about atheism itself; there's really quite little to explain there and this is not a bad thing. Essentially, knee-jerk atheism is no better than unexamined religious faith, as it can be, as often as not, a purely emotional response to an adverse religious experience. Also, atheism by itself only means that you don't believe in a god. It doesn't say anything more, and you'll find that despite the rationalist image put forward by some atheists, [[Bill Maher|some]] [[Sam Harris|other]] [[Richard Dawkins|atheists]] can believe in a lot of [[woo]], or be as clueless as the average [[wingnut]] about society. These people might be rare in religious-dominated societies like some parts of the [[US]], where becoming an atheist usually means you have questioned your peers' faith and dropped out of religion as an informed decision, but travel to secular countries in [[Europe]] and you'll meet them.

This document is designed to put curious readers on a somewhat better footing, namely a rationalist one in which you feel comfortable asking the questions that everyone always told you that you weren't supposed to ask. You've heard the phrase "curiosity killed the cat"? Well, actually curiosity is a great thing, and it's part and parcel of practically every great discovery in the history of [[humanity]]. Be curious. Do outside research, then research the research. Don't [[Confirmation bias|ignore inconvenient data]]. Strive to find the truth about everything. You're likely to find that people who have told you not to question something did so because the idea couldn't stand up to scrutiny and their insistence that it's wrong to question sounds much like the Wizard of Oz's "Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain".

If anything, the "thing to believe in" pushed by this article would be a form of curiosity-led rationalism. But don't take our word for it; do your research. We don't want you to just listen to us; you'd be missing the point of what we're saying if you do.

===Is this atheism or agnosticism?===
Whether someone is an "atheist" or an "agnostic" is a bone of contention for many&nbsp;— and arguments over the internet erupt frequently over it. [[Neil deGrasse Tyson]], for example, prefers no label at all but will take "agnostic" if pushed<ref>[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CzSMC5rWvos Neil deGrasse Tyson: Atheist or Agnostic?] (Apr 25, 2012) ''Big Think'' via ''YouTube''.</ref>&nbsp;— whereas [[Richard Dawkins]] is less compromising about his position on the subject, describing himself as "6.9 out of 7" on his [[Kinsey scale|Kinsey-style]] atheism scale. So, opinions differ on what one should label oneself: the technical definition of agnostic is someone who believes there can be no proof of a god, but the word is more commonly used to describe someone who's undecided on the question, so in many ways, the question of labels is really one of semantics. Often those who are very certain there's no god(s) identify as atheist, while those less sure sometimes use the term "agnostic atheist", a compromise that acknowledges a lack of belief (which is what atheism refers to) but emphasizes that it's not a 100% certain faith position. Some prefer alternative labels: nontheist (basically, "atheist but I don't want to make an issue of it"), [[skeptic]] (to emphasize the general goal of only accepting things backed by evidence), freethinker, nonbeliever, etc.

From a rationalist position, it cannot be overstated that these are just labels. The chances are that your own beliefs and ideas are as nuanced and as subtly defined as anyone else's&nbsp;— and two people calling themselves 'atheist' may differ from each other more than either would with someone else calling themselves 'agnostic'. The trouble starts when people begin to infer facts from these labels, and so they come with downsides. If you call yourself "agnostic" you might easily be accused of having some form of faux open mindedness and that you wouldn't call yourself agnostic about an [[The Dragon in My Garage|invisible purple dragon]] that sits on your shoulder all day. Yet if you call yourself an "atheist", you might stand accused of taking a [[faith]] position, and rejecting the existence of god(s) based on no substantial evidence&nbsp;— and that sort of accusation can come from theists and skeptics alike. 

In the end, though, what you choose to call it isn't particularly important. Go with "agnostic atheist" to get the best of both worlds if that's how you feel, or even choose some other label; the important part when it comes to treating God with rationality is the following:

*To treat all concepts of god equally (i.e., be as "atheist" or "agnostic" about [[YHWH]] as you are about [[Allah]], and [[Hinduism#Vishnu|Vishnu]], and [[Xenu]], and [[Thor]], and so on).
*To understand what would change your mind about the veracity of a belief system and stick to it (it's unlikely, but you never know when there will be a [[Project Blue Beam|booming voice from the sky]]).
*To ensure that the evidence in no.2 is not a [[straw man]] of the belief in question.

It might also be important to note here that the term agnostic has a rather different meaning in academic philosophy circles. There, it refers to the belief that one cannot know anything about [[Transcendental argument for God|God due to Its transcendental nature]], therefore this agnostic is making a bold epistemological concern (one to do with knowledge) while simultaneously being an atheist in that necessarily one cannot possess belief in the existence of something that one also believes nothing can be known about. Referring to oneself as an "agnostic atheist" would solve this problem of potential mis-identification.

===Is atheism a religion?===
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{{cquote|''figurative''. A pursuit, interest, or movement, followed with great devotion.|||''Oxford English Dictionary''<ref>''Oxford English Dictionary'', definition 4.b.</ref>}}
Most of the claims that "atheism is a religion" originate from a [[Fallacious argument style|fallacious argument]] (combining elements of the ''[[tu quoque]]'' and the ''[[non sequitur]]'') made by promoters of religion. According to this argument, atheists' criticisms of religion (particularly those of the [[New Atheism|New Atheists]]) are invalid because atheists are ''also'' religious, adhering to a different sort of religion often termed a [[secular religion]]. There are two ways of responding to this argument. One proposes that the answer is a resounding "no", while the other says that even if it was "yes", it wouldn't matter at all as the question is just an issue of semantics and clever wordplay.

If "clear" could be considered a color, "independent" could be considered a political party, "bald" could be considered a hair style, and "apathetic" could be considered a stance on an issue, then maybe "atheism" could be considered a religion. That's not the way reality works, however.

In support of the resounding "no" is the very structure of the word "atheist" itself. It's a-theist, not athe-ist: it's in opposition to the claim that is one [[family resemblance|common feature]] of religion. The prefix "a-" is a Greek term that simply means "without", or "not", while the suffix "-theism" is the belief in god, gods, a higher power, or something of the like. Therefore, "atheism" literally means "without belief in god". Since religion is a collection of individuals in a system or group who believe in a deity or relate life to a higher power, a group of people who did not believe this would be the antithesis of religion. Indeed, if "no religion" ''was'' a religion then we'd be in a very bizarre situation where "no religion" wouldn't be allowed. As comedian [[Bill Maher]] described it "Atheism is a religion like [[abstinence]] is a [[sex]] position".

Even if we assume some atheists can be relig''ious'', giving all atheists the "religious" label is troublesome due to the existence of ''implicit atheism''. An implicit atheist is a person who is not consciously aware of their non-belief, as opposed to an ''explicit'' atheist who is aware that they don't believe (and in many respects this is a more meaningful distinction than the "weak"/"strong" distinction). This is because atheism ("a" meaning "not" and "theism" meaning "belief in god(s)") is a response to theism and is framed in the context of existing religions. Without theism being explicitly defined, atheism cannot be explicitly defined. Given this, anyone&nbsp;— or indeed, anything&nbsp;— unaware of religion is atheistic, but only ''implicitly''. According to this definition, of course, even orange peels are atheists&nbsp;— and this is endemic of many problems with having to work with definitions. 

Broadening the meaning of religion to include non-religious atheists, implicit atheists, or even more ardent and vocal ones, would utterly destroy the ability of the word "religion" to mean what those folks want it to mean. If you were to consider "religious" as being anyone who was passionate about an idea, consider how many people would be "religious" and how many new "religions" would form overnight, ''by that definition'': fans of TV shows, sports teams, political parties, concert goers. All of these people and "religions" would, by this definition, be granted equal footing and equal claim to the "religion" label as [[Islam]] or Christianity&nbsp;— including tax-exemption status. Switching to a more narrow and precise definition&nbsp;— one that resembles the actual use of the word "religion", and one that can actually communicate a better idea of what a "religion" really is — it is completely invalid to lump even the so-called New Atheism with religion. (At most, you can call them "[[Atheist fundamentalism|zealous]]".)

Atheists, or those in the process of losing faith, wondering if atheism is a religion, need not lose too much sleep over the subject. It is ultimately a question of semantics and linguistic philosophy. A better question would be to ask what properties a belief system has that makes it acceptable or unacceptable, right or wrong, something to be encouraged or something to be scorned, and so on. Atheism, in and of itself, makes no requirement for an atheist to be ardent, devout, conscientious, or faithful about being an atheist. So even lumping it in as a "religion" means that it doesn't share many properties with the likes of Christianity and Islam, or their [[fundamentalist]] offshoots, as atheism doesn't demand faith or devout fidelity to a [[dogma]]tic code.

A question you'll see probably a little too often: '''"Which God do you not believe in?"''' The answer, of course, is [[List of gods that theists don't believe in|all of them]]. Even the ones you've never heard of. Especially the ones you've never heard of.

===If atheism is a ''lack'' of belief, why all the fuss?===
Some people find it distasteful that atheists should be organised, actively try to disprove God, write books on the subject, or generally try and communicate their lack of belief at all. These things make atheists seem as bad as the religions they protest (at least, to those being protested). And people are free to hold this opinion. However, there are some good reasons for atheists to speak out.

Firstly, atheism only makes sense when religion is dominant. As discussed above, "a-theism" only works when "theism" is a thing. So when religion is a dominant and influential force in the world — though not by the margins some apologists like to think<ref>[https://www.prri.org/spotlight/prri-2022-american-values-atlas-religious-affiliation-updates-and-trends/ 2022 Census]</ref>  —<!--Elaboration and a refutation of the Apologists beliefs vaguely referred to here would be appreciated.--> atheism becomes a more important and meaningful term than we've implied above. Atheism is essentially a non-normative behavior in most places on Earth; even the question "what religion are you?", which appears everywhere from forms to casual conversation, is loaded to imply that you have a religion of some sort. [[Belief in belief]] is also common, and a [[meme]] that almost states you ''must'' have a religion. While the [[burden of proof]] will always lie with the Believer (of any given faith), all of these factors mean that atheists can, and often do, feel the need to justify themselves. Others look into it as a question of why the majority seem to believe something that they don't — wondering if they are wrong, if there's something they've missed, and so on. Communication and discussion becomes integral to understanding this: '''it's okay to not believe''', so long as that's what you really think is true.

Due to the fact that atheism is such a fringe belief in places, the US "[[Bible Belt]]" for instance, atheists are often one of the most denigrated and persecuted minorities. People have been driven from their homes and places of work for their lack of belief, essentially being [[Other|the "them"]] in the prevalent "us vs. them" mentality.{{cn}} In countries run by [[fundamentalist]] Islamic governments, atheism and [[apostasy]] are punishable not with a cold shoulder and a blank look, [[Capital punishment|but]] ''[[death]]''.{{cn}} One may as well turn the question around and ask ''these'' people what all the fuss is about. The activism and community forms a vital part of protecting and helping this minority of people who are victimised.

The extremes of victimisation are fortunately quite rare, confined to [[theocratic]] Islamic states mostly,{{cn}} but the social stigma and pressure from family for people to believe is not. There are countless individuals who are probably not happy with their religious beliefs, don't get the "feeling" of God that their friends do, or simply just don't believe it at all. Yet, these people will be actively afraid of voicing their concerns, both for fear of the stigma of atheism and the instilled belief that it is ''they'' who are the problem, not the belief system. This has been a defence mechanism for religious belief systems for centuries,{{cn}} so atheists are there to let people break away from this shameless psychological blackmail; there is nothing wrong with you: '''it's okay to not believe'''.<!--(This one applies to the 'Citation Needed' templates in the last two paragraphs); Once again, checks out given what I know, but sources would be much appreciated.-->

In an ideal world, people would be free to leave their religion as easily as they can join one, while they figure out what to believe and not to believe. However, the world is not ideal, and people find it difficult to leave a mainstream religion, as well as [[cult]]-like sects. Activism, communication, and "fuss" is what is there to remedy this situation.

===What's the deal with this "Atheism+" thing?===
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Basically, if you don't believe in God, you're willing to question all (and we do mean ''all'') your [[prejudice]]s, and you think doing right by your fellow human beings is a good and necessary thing no matter what the reason, you're an Atheist+. There's a message board and a community, but at the end of the day that's all you really need to know.

==What about science? You rationalists hold it up as the be-all, end-all of human knowledge, but how can that be when it's always changing?==
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[[File:Science.jpg|thumb|"Science, which is based on observation and reason. Science will win because it works." — [[Stephen Hawking]]<ref>[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJBwKCHjlXI ABC World News with Diane Sawyer:Conversation with Stephen Hawking] (Jun 7, 2010) ''YouTube''.</ref><br/>"Science. It works, bitches!" — [[Randall Munroe]].<ref>[https://xkcd.com/54/ Science] by Randall Munroe, ''xkcd''.</ref>]]

[[Isaac Asimov]]'s essay ''The Relativity of Wrong'' addresses this objection eloquently, and is worth reading.<ref>[http://mvellend.recherche.usherbrooke.ca/Asimov_anglosaboteurs.pdf The Relativity of Wrong] by Isaac Asimov (1989) ''The Skeptical Inquirer'' 14(1):35-44.</ref> It is what gave birth to the idea of the logical fallacy, '[[wronger than wrong]]'.

A lot of people misunderstand the idea of scientific change, as if what we learn tomorrow will outright contradict what we think we know today.{{cn}} The media are to blame for a great deal of this, especially given their habit of hyping half-baked results and attention-seeking reports from groups such as the [[Center for Science in the Public Interest]] and [[PETA|People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals]], who often use shock tactics to get across a message that may be overstated or simply wrong.{{cn}} (Even [[Al Gore]], who won a [[Nobel Prize]] and an Academy Award for his attempts to raise awareness of [[global warming]], was once a victim of [[Pseudoscience|"scientific"]] [[charlatan]]s, supporting [[Parapsychology|psychic research]] and the like during his term as Senator from [[Tennessee]]. He's gotten better.{{cn}})<!--First one also falls under the 'Checks out given what I know but a source would be nice', second one applies to both the 'Media is responsible for this' and 'CgSitPI and PETA post bullshit' (Once again falls under the 'Checks out' category), and the third one applies to the Al Gore part as a whole.-->

In reality, scientific change is better described in an old saying, most famously stated by [[Isaac Newton]]: "If I have seen further, it is by standing on the shoulders of giants."<ref>[https://digitallibrary.hsp.org/index.php/Detail/objects/9792 Isaac Newton letter to Robert Hooke, 1675] ''Historical Society of Pennsylvania''.</ref> Any truly earth-shaking scientific discovery (as well as all of the more mundane ones) is what it is not only because it explains something unexpected, but also because it explains why the previous theory explained everything, but not the new observations. Thus it was that [[Albert Einstein]]'s [[theory of relativity]] supplanted Newton's [[Classical physics|classical mechanics in physics]] — Einstein's [[relativity]] explained why Newtonian mechanics broke down when trying to observe objects traveling near the [[speed of light]],{{efn|It also gave us a better understanding of gravity, and solved the anomalies that led to the creation of the hypothesized planet [[Vulcan]].<ref>[https://www.oddsalon.com/jan-2-1860-the-discovery-of-planet-vulcan/ Kurt Larson, Jan 2, 1860: The Discovery of Planet Vulcan, oddsalon.com]</ref>}} and in turn [[quantum mechanics]] explained why Einstein's physics did not apply in the obvious manner on very small scales.{{cn}}<!--Elaboration would be appreciated-->

Science is also [[scientific method|self-correcting]], and scientists are brutal on each other's ideas. Take the case of Stanley Pons and Martin Fleischmann, formerly of the University of Utah, who claimed they could fuse [[hydrogen]] in a palladium electrode at room temperature — this was the infamous "[[cold fusion]]" debacle. It was refuted almost immediately by [[physicist]]s and [[chemists]] who realized that Pons and Fleischmann were claiming the impossible. Importantly, they also tried to [[Reproducibility|reproduce their experiments]] and didn't get the same results. A core of "true believers" still think there's something to it, but they are considered [[cranks]] because the science just did not work. Scientists still look into low-temperature fusion devices as a possible solution to future energy crises, but they have long since abandoned Pons and Fleischmann's electrochemical approach, preferring to focus on what's known as "locally hot" fusion, where the fusion reactions take place at a high temperature on a very small scale, only negligibly raising the ambient temperature in the experiment. Should some out-of-the box researcher show, through reproducible experiments, that cold fusion occurs, then science would accept it as a real phenomenon. This is just one of countless examples where science has changed for the better.

"[[Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence]]" said the [[Carl Sagan|skeptic]], and scientists seek to oblige. If the [[evidence]] is there, papers are published, perhaps a Nobel Prize is awarded. If the evidence is not there, the claim is trashed, left only to crackpots and historians to fight over.

Reality doesn't change; mankind's understanding of reality does.

===What was before the Big Bang? If God didn't create the universe, how did it happen?===
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There are two simple answers:

*According to current science, there ''was'' no ''before'', as [[Spacetime|time and space]] ''did not exist''. If that doesn't cut it:
*[[Science doesn't know everything|We don't know.]]

Is that so terrible? Physicists are trying to work it out, though, which is better than accepting the unsupported claims of ancient writers. For those who want to know more and to hear what leading cosmologists and physicists have to say on the topic, please follow the references linked for the primers on most current theories from [[Stephen Hawking]]<ref>[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c7MO3up5bZs The Origin of the Universe — Prof Stephen Hawking] (Mar 15, 2018) ''YouTube''.</ref> and [[Lawrence Krauss]].<ref>[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ImvlS8PLIo 'A Universe From Nothing' by Lawrence Krauss, AAI 2009] by Richard Dawkins Foundation for Reason & Science (Oct 21, 2009) ''YouTube''.</ref>

===You haven't mentioned evolution.===
True, we haven't. Atheism and [[evolution]] are separate entities, although both are complementary in the way that they tend to apply [[methodological naturalism]] to the world. Atheism goes one step further and applies [[philosophical naturalism]] to the world as well. Fortunately, if you are curious about the subject, TalkOrigins.org FAQ archive can answer virtually all your questions and then some far better than we can or need to in this document.<ref>[http://www.talkorigins.org/origins/faqs-qa.html Frequently Asked Questions
and their answers], The TalkOrigins Archive''.</ref>

===Can free will exist without God(s)?===
[[Free will]] is something of a mental abstraction. Others would re-conceptualize questions involving free will, and ask, "How could free will exist in the presence of an [[Omniscience|all-knowing]] God?". Indeed, the question can be more generally asked, "Does free will exist at all?"

It is very difficult to devise a test for free will from the inside, since from the inside it is impossible to tell free will from ''[[Ex post facto|post-facto]]'' [[rationalisation]]. We cannot physically run ''100% identical'' situations and see if someone can exercise their will to take a different path. The human [[mind]] can be described in terms similar to those of [[computer]]s, and can be called a "state machine", which has particular properties. As a state machine becomes larger, it becomes ''exponentially'' harder to predict what state the machine is in now, and what state it will be in at some time in the future. It is entirely possible that the human mind is simply a very large state machine, and some physical evidence may suggest that this is the case. If all human actions are the result of a chain of causality, that chain is so complex as to be almost completely unknowable. To determine an individual's future behavior with precision, one would have to know and understand every aspect of that person's brain and hormonal system, as well as the state of any matter or energy which might interact with the person in the future. To simulate reality with this degree of accuracy seems impossible — indeed, you probably would have to create an entire [[simulated reality]] to figure it out. Thus, the illusion of free will and the unpredictability of humans, as individuals, is simply generated by a great many inputs from various external stimuli, and the internal chemical balance of each person's body — and this interaction, while [[Determinism|deterministic]], is ''too complex to predict'' and free will is what it appears to be.

Since it seems likely that we will never be able to prove or disprove that free will exists, a rationalist could alter the question further to reflect this reality, "Does the existence or otherwise of free will have any bearing on one's life?" It would seem like a harmless assumption to believe that we have free will, and to then try and choose the best possible action in any given situation. Or, one could believe that one's tendency to try to find the best possible action in any given situation has been set up by one's [[biochemistry]], in interaction with past events, and simply go with it. Of course, you still have the problem of knowing what the definition of 'best' is, but that's another discussion. Most people make the assumption that free will is real and ignore the [[paradox]] it forms with an apparently predictable universe — as we have said, it is a mostly harmless assumption.

For those coming to atheism from Christianity or Islam, it's worth knowing that it's possible to turn this question around and ask if free will can exist ''with'' a God who is all-knowing and all-powerful, since God would know all one's decisions before one made them and could change any of them at will (or could mess around with one's options in life, [[Book of Job|Job]]-style, to force one into a different path).

==Shouldn't all those theologians who have spent time in college and seminaries know what they're talking about better than me?==
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Once one starts to consider that there may not ''be'' any gods out there and therefore no divine influence, claims of expertise in theology and religion look a little shaky. Indeed, one can then wonder if there can be ''any'' relevant "expertise" on the question of God's existence that can ''only'' be attained by studying theology. One needs to ask oneself why a [[priest]] or academic should be better placed to tell you that God exists than a gardener, a [[police]] officer, an English teacher, or anyone else. For that matter, why should one place confidence in the expert opinions of ''Christian'' theology, and not on experts and theologians from other religions? The basic assumption of theism, that God ''does'' exist, and that it's specifically the god(s) of the religion in question, hasn't been backed up with evidence that's convincing to anyone outside that religion — so arguing the finer points of the nature of God is rather pointless.

[[Theology|Theologians]], and especially priests, are obviously not independent experts on the question of God's existence; their status as experts is dependent on the public acceptance of their tenets and doctrines. If the wider public tended towards explicit skepticism of God's existence, apologists would quickly find themselves without a job. They have a very strong vested interest in defending religion, regardless of whether or not its fundamental premise is actually true. When dealing with apologists, one should keep [[Upton Sinclair's Law|Upton Sinclair's]] famous quip in mind, "It's difficult to get a man to understand something when his salary depends upon his not understanding it."<ref>''I, Candidate for Governor: And How I Got Licked''. Upton Sinclair (1935) University of California Press. Reprinted 1994. ISBN ISBN 0520081986.</ref>{{rp|109}} 

When theologians demand that critics of religion first immerse themselves in [[apologetics]] before addressing any arguments, they are employing a special tactic known as the [[Courtier's Reply]]. This can either be to quash dissent, or stave off embarrassment, by deflecting attention away from their shaky and uncertain foundations and towards the supposed sophistication and detail of deeper theological arguments. Atheists and agnostics will tend to agree that discussions about the ''nature'' of God are moot until the ''existence'' of God is established. There's even [[ignosticism]], which posits that even God's ''existence'' is moot until you get around to actually defining "God" properly. The importance of the fact that religious apologists were often indoctrinated with outlandish beliefs from childhood simply cannot be overstated. Because of this, their views tend towards just assuming God exists and working from there — what is known as [[presuppositionalism]].

In all areas of rationalism and skepticism (not just in terms of atheism), it is important to never just accept what you are told as outright truth. If something you've been told does not make sense to you, but the person telling you is insisting that you rely on what they're saying, it's your responsibility to educate yourself on the subject — to examine the company behind a stock, to understand the [[laws of thermodynamics]] and [[Mass (physics)|mass]]/[[Conservation of energy|energy conservation]], to understand a new invention, or to understand the cultural context and authorship of a [[Bible]] verse. Ask questions, as anyone who is relying on [[fact]] should be able to answer them (even if they utter an honest "I don't know"!) while those who push [[woo]] and falsehoods will misdirect you and try to get you to be quiet. This is called [[due diligence]] in business, and it's your best protection against [[scam]]s and [[Deceit|liars]], including those who hide behind a [[credentials|Ph.D]] (which includes most anyone who makes a big deal about having a doctorate).{{cn}}

If all this seems daunting and incredulous, consider this: a degree in Bible studies is pretty much equivalent to a degree in [[literature]], except the diploma holder will have studied significantly fewer books.

===What about the Bible?===
[[File:Holy bible with warning sticker.jpg|thumb|The Bible regularly comes under fire for its content. [[Incest]], [[rape]], and [[Examples of God personally killing people|mass murder]] make regular appearances in the [[Old Testament]].]]
Ah. The source of all good things according to Judaism and Christianity, yet a source of endless vexation to nonbelievers. But not for the reason you'd think — while many preachers would have you think the Bible's truths are self-evident and all-sufficient, most non-believers find they are anything but.

Bible studies (that would be church-based study, not historical scholarship, which is often quite thoroughly researched) very often dance around or outright avoid the context of the creation of the Bible. The fact is that the Bible, as important as it is to Western literature and thought, was begun in an area that was almost a backwater{{cn}} — Iron Age Judea, whose single most significant factor in its time was the fact that it happened to be located near major trade routes (and on the military invasion route) between Assyria and [[Ancient Egypt|Egypt]].{{cn}} For proper perspective, the original territory of Judea began somewhere a little north of modern [[Jerusalem]] and extended along the Dead Sea into the northern reaches of the Negev Desert. While modern [[Israel]] extends all the way to the head of the Gulf of Aqaba, ancient Judea had another [[Hebrew]]-speaking nation, Edom, occupying that area to the south{{cn}} (although both [[RationalWiki:Annotated Bible/1 Kings#1 Kings 4:24|Solomon]] and [[RationalWiki:Annotated Bible/2 Kings#2 Kings 14:7|Amaziah]] managed to conquer it).

In other words, this was a country that, on a good day, covered less than a third of modern Israel and the West Bank. Judea was a tiny, mostly agrarian temple state based in Jerusalem that for much of its existence was overshadowed by the nominally coreligious but far more cosmopolitan state of Israel to the north, and it didn't manage to come into its own until Israel was crushed by Assyria after making a number of hostile (and rather dubious) political alliances.{{cn}} (The question of whether there was ever a united kingdom of Israel containing all twelve tribes of [[Israelite]]s is, at best, murky. It's clear that both kingdoms shared much common tradition, but there is little evidence of much activity at Jerusalem at the time of the early [[King David|Davidian dynasty]], if one uses Israel Finkelstein's chronology.{{cn}}{{efn|Finkelstein's pottery chronology, which lowers [[archaeological]] dates by 50-80 years compared to the variation of the Albrightian chronology used today, therefore, making what is Solomonic, Omride and what is Omride, 8<sup>th</sup> century, is mostly based on the fact that, in order to make the traditional pottery chronology work, Philistine pottery has to be introduced in 1177 BCE, but, such pottery is only introduced at non-coastal sites, such as Lachish, in the 1130s BCE. The Finkelsteinian chronology, by way of third Philistine invasion, pushes the first appearance of this pottery on the Canaanite coast into the 1130s BCE.<ref>"Radiocarbon Dating Khirbet Qeiyafa and the Iron I–IIA Phases in the Shephelah: Methodological Comments and a Bayesian Model" by Israel Finkelstein & Eli Piasetzky (2016) ''Radiocarbon'' 57(5):891-907. doi:10.2458/azu_rc.57.18336.</ref> The main reasons for it not being accepted by a majority of scholars are:
#There is no evidence for a third Philistine invasion.
#This chronology squeezes the Hazor strata.
#The traditional chronology is Biblically supported.
#Would you buy pottery from a nation which may potentially conquer your nation until such a nation has stopped its expansionist phase and settled down?}})
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Seeing an opportunity for development, the priestly caste of Judea combined the related but divergent religious stories of Israel and Judea into a common tradition, and any previously believed gods into the single personage of YHWH, the God now worshipped, in different variations, by Christian, [[Jewish]], and Muslim traditions, ruthlessly suppressing other traditional Semitic faith elements in favor of those that promoted Judahite—Jewish—identity.{{cn}} One tell-tale sign of this is that in the Old Testament, God sometimes refers to himself as Elohim, which is a ''plural'' form{{cn}} (long before the custom of the "royal we" came about).<ref>[https://www.newyorker.com/culture/comma-queen/lessons-on-the-royal-we-from-mary-queen-of-scots-and-the-favourite Lessons on the Royal We, from “Mary Queen of Scots” and “The Favourite”], by Marry Norris (February 24, 2019) ''The New Yorker''.</ref> From the original documents of the faith — believed to have developed into the modern [[Deuteronomy|Book of Deuteronomy]] — came an immense anthology of literature relating the history and faith of the Jewish people and their struggles to retain an identity of their own in the face of cultural encroachments of regional powers.{{cn}} Middle East researchers have found a great many elements common to many other Semitic peoples in the area — many of the details of [[Noah's Flood]] date back to the [[Sumer]]ian (i.e. pre-Semitic) ''[[Epic of Gilgamesh]]'', for example, and the [[Book of Job]] is known to be an elaboration on an ancient pan-Semitic folktale.{{cn}} This is the Jewish Bible.

[[File:JesusHealsTwo.gif|thumb|[[Jesus]]'s acts and sermons are a slight improvement on the Old Testament content, but their value as a verifiable historical account is questionable.]]
As for the [[New Testament]], its history covers a scant 70 years, from the birth of Jesus (itself a somewhat wobbly date, generally believed to have been somewhere between 8 and 4 [[BCE]] based on current calendar understanding{{cn}}) to the ministry of [[Paul of Tarsus]], who is the only Biblical writer outside some of the prophets whose name we know, and who wrote only about half of the material attributed to him in the New Testament.{{cn}} The [[Gospels]] — the most direct and contemporaneous biographical material of Jesus known — were compiled second and third-hand from other sources, now lost, of unknown provenance, and were picked out of a much greater number of books by a [[Catholic]] bishop named {{wpl|Eusebius}} around 250 years later.{{cn}} At least one Gospel of unquestioned early provenance, the [[Gospel of Thomas]], was lost entirely until the 20<sup>th</sup> century and never made it into any known New Testament canon.{{cn}} And the [[Book of Revelation]], so beloved of modern [[evangelicals]], had its canonicity questioned by theologians even as late as [[Martin Luther]].{{cn}}

How much of these stories is actually true is anyone's guess, though a great amount of [[archaeology]] has been devoted to investigating and/or [[Biblical archaeology|proving it]].{{cn}} What we do know is that the idea of [[Biblical inerrancy]] [[Biblical scientific errors|simply isn't possible or sensible]] — even the parts of it that can be verified by historical evidence often contain anachronisms or obvious literary license, [[Slavery in the Bible|and that a great many parts of the Bible simply do not translate into anything comprehensible to modern ears or thinking]]. Despite what your preachers tell you, [[Biblical contradictions|contradictions abound in the Bible]]; many are inconsequential in nature (the infamous "molten sea" of [[Solomon]]'s Temple, built with an impossible [[Biblical scientific errors#pi|pi=3 ratio]], is really only an issue for strict inerrantists who assert the Bible's "absolute" scientific truth), but many more — [[Biblical contradictions#Jesus' geneaology|such as the wildly inconsistent genealogies of Jesus]] or [[Creation Week|the poorly-reconciled double creation story at the beginning of Genesis]] — would be fatal in a [[peer-reviewed]] historic paper. 

There is quite a lot of material written on the subject of Biblical history, and the few sources mentioned below in the bibliography don't even scratch the surface of what has been written on the subject. One thing is certain — it's highly unlikely you'll get answers in your old church. Read. Read a lot. It's good for you.

===What about other scriptures? The Qur'an? The Book of Mormon? The Vedas?===
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These books have their own histories, some as colorful as the Bible itself. In Western cultures, histories of some of these books may be hard to come by, but with a fair amount of diligence and a critical eye, quality literature exists on the histories of all of these books as it does for the Bible. You might even be able to use that information to improve this FAQ.

==Does one need a higher power to have morality?==
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[[Morality]] is one of the more complex issues in human behavior. Our morality governs how we act and treat each other, so understanding and justifying the ideas behind our morals undoubtedly plays a huge part in philosophy. Some people, based on the fact that morality is complex, attribute it to higher powers, namely (their religion's) God. Think about this for a moment: if someone says that all that is preventing them from stealing, lying, raping, and killing to reach whatever ends they want is the dictates of God (or their fear of [[Hell]]), can that person really be trusted? To be held to a view of morality only by an external force, implies that should that force be taken away, the individual would resort to immorality almost immediately. Rationalist or atheistic views of morality are defined otherwise, and often look to the history of humanity in not only deciding what is moral, but why we would think that. This removes any external factors, and allows us to make our own informed decisions, with an end result that is just as ethical as those who attribute their actions to God alone. 

More philosophically, the divine fiat idea doesn't hold up. Is something bad because God says it is? Or did He just identify for us things that are bad? If so, what about the times when He violates His own dictates, [[Examples of God personally killing people|such as the many people He kills (or orders to be killed) in the Old Testament]]? And if he merely identified what was already good and bad, does that mean those things existed independently of him? But if not, then good and bad would be so arbitrarily at the whim of God, which hardly sounds right. Many would say, "Well obviously, God wouldn't do bad things because He's [[Omnibenevolence|all-good]]", but the aforementioned examples in the Bible contradict that assertion.

Humanity (and its ancestors, and many other [[species]] besides) has long found it advantageous to live in communities governed by an ethic of reciprocity, best summed up in the many formulations of the [[Golden Rule]] ("do unto others as you would have them do unto you", although this position is not without its critics). This moral code appears in some form in virtually all of the world's religious texts, but also in virtually every secular philosophy, and has been central to human society throughout history.{{cn}} This is not, as some people claim, because we obey God's moral guidance, but because it is basic [[common sense]] to treat others as we expect to be treated: that is, with courtesy, dignity, and kindness rather than loathing, spite, and murder. In fact, religion and morality were separate in many cultures whose gods were [[trickster]]s or simply unconcerned with the ethical behavior of mere humans.<ref>[https://web.archive.org/web/20140629061624/http://genealogyreligion.net/religion-functions-to-sustain-the-moral-order-starkly-wrong "Religion Functions to Sustain the Moral Order": Starkly Wrong] by Cris Campbell (2013) ''Genealogy of Religion'' (archived from June 29, 2014).</ref>

Despite what the works of [[Ayn Rand]] might tell you, selfishness is often counterproductive and [[altruism]] often helps society. Aiding the weak and sick, who might never get to contribute to a less social society, helps improve the lot of society at large. Many religions and [[nationalism]]s work against this, dividing society into [[Othering|"in-groups" and "out-groups"]], and frowning on helping those who are not part of the favored in-group. While the right form of competition is necessary in business and scientific research to foster new ideas and provide an incentive for product improvement, it is not always a useful thing in society, and is sometimes outright deadly, such as with [[war]]. The types of people who believe it is our duty to help to make society better generally fall under the label [[humanism|humanist]]. If they are non-religious, they're [[Secular Humanism|secular humanists]] — those infamous nasty words preachers love to spit out as if they're a term of abuse (spoiler alert: they're not). Nobody's perfect, and everybody has prejudices, but it does seem as if most people, absent a reason to hate The Other, are humanists at heart.

Remember: morality is not acting under the promise or threat of rewards and punishment (as doing good for selfish reasons like moral dessert in a perceived [[afterlife]] is clearly not actual morality), but acting because one thinks it to be the right thing to do regardless of the consequences to oneself.

===If everyone were atheist, wouldn't people just do whatever they wanted, no matter who was harmed?===
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[[File:Dublin Riots.jpg|thumb|Dublin riots, 2006: Ireland has been a place of political unrest and spurts of violence for decades. Atheism is very far down the list of causes.]]
No. That would happen only if people stopped caring about or respecting other people, not just because they stop believing in God. As noted above, it is perfectly possible to act in a moral manner without interference from [[supernatural]] beings, and it is arguably ''more noble'' to do so without their interference.

Regardless of religious beliefs, there are two main things that prevent most people from willfully harming their fellow humans. One is the gift of empathy — "How would I feel if somebody did that to me?" This is a natural qualm which humanity developed a long time ago, probably as soon as we had evolved the [[consciousness]] to understand pleasure, pain, and our abilities to inflict them on other people. It's at the root of the Golden Rule, and, for most people, empathy and respect for other members of [[society]] prevents them from wanting to engage in destructive behaviour.

Despite being naturally greedy, stupid, etc., humans also naturally have some innate sense of empathy. Research in [[biology]], [[neuroscience]], and psychology supports this idea. The study of the {{wpl|evolution of morality|evolution of morality}} demonstrates that empathic behavior is not unique to humans and that the "law of the jungle" doesn't always mean dog-eat-dog.<ref>[http://www.foreignaffairs.com/articles/61382/robert-m-sapolsky/a-natural-history-of-peace A Natural History of Peace] by Robert Sapolsky (January 1, 2006) ''Foreign Affairs''.</ref>

The second thing that prevents people from harmful behaviour is knowledge or prediction of the consequences. This does not have to involve visualisations of Hell, since there are plenty of consequences here on [[Earth]] for antisocial behaviour. Depending on the level of the transgression, we may suffer embarrassment, the disappointment of those around us, punishment, possible attacks on us, setbacks in our life or career, etc. With these possible consequences in mind, we do not commit that [[crime]], no matter how much we want to, or if we do, we suffer those consequences. (Before anyone asks "what about avoiding consequences?", know that the measures one has to resort to in order to pull that off — changing one's identity, abandoning one's home, relationships, and community, etc. — ''are consequences in and of themselves''.)

Of course, there are different levels of selfishness, and it isn't always harmful to do whatever we want. A lot of the time it can be harmless fun to indulge ourselves moderately in small ways.  Religions often instill a sense of guilt about these small acts of selfishness, which is unnecessary since they usually harm nobody else. Some other acts of selfishness might be more silly. One might want to stay at home instead of going to work, but one doesn't because we know that's a good way to lose one's livelihood. This is a case of predicting the consequences of a transgression, as is also the case with preventing more destructive acts of selfishness, such as a person who considers committing a crime but does not want to go to jail.

But would those consequences still be there if everybody was an atheist? Of course. Theists sometimes claim that we only have laws because of their God's commandments, but in fact the basic laws — prohibitions of murder, rape, violence, theft, etc. — have actually been common in some form to virtually all societies, regardless of religious beliefs.{{cn}} This is because they are founded on the principles of empathy (treating others as we wish to be treated) and aim to maintain a stable and peaceful society, something that every [[government]], and every member of society, has an interest in upholding, no matter what they may believe (or not) about invisible forces or life after [[death]].
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===Do I still need to follow "the Golden Rule"?===
God(s) won't punish you for being ''mean'' to people, and there is no such thing as [[karma]] as described, say, in [[Hinduism]], but there can be other consequences. For obvious reasons, you probably shouldn't be vindictive towards anyone you need to maintain a relationship with, like your boss, your customers, your teachers, your parents, or your landlord. In contrast, you probably don't need to hide your feelings about people who are an outright annoyance, like random [[Jehovah's Witnesses]] or [[Mormons]] bothering you at your doorstep, random [[Telemarketing|telemarketers]], groups like the [[Salvation Army]] teams soliciting outside of the grocery store, or random teenagers playing in the street when you are trying to drive to work. Although there can be consequences to hurting such people's feelings, serious consequences are unlikely, and rewards for being kind to such people are unlikely, so it is okay to tell those people to go fuck themselves. How you treat everybody else is up to you, but realize that other people will likely treat you the same way you treat them.

===What's the meaning of life, without gods or an afterlife?===
[[File:Heston, Two Ways to Go, 1896.gif|frame|center|200px|Two Ways to Go, Watson Heston, 1896]]
{{cquote|To learn to build sandcastles on the beach is to learn to live and die an atheist.|||{{who}}}}
The '''meaning of life''' has been pondered over for thousands of years, and may well be ''the'' question central to all philosophy. It's difficult to convey the answer in a few short paragraphs; indeed, there may be no one answer. So this, at least, is a very brief guide to a rationalist interpretation of the question and its various answers.

Rationalism tells us that, in all probability, what awaits us after death is pretty much what we experienced before birth: a total lack of any awareness. No one alive today was aware during the 16<sup>th</sup> century, just as no one alive today will be aware in the 31<sup>st</sup> century (ignoring any such conjecture of "[[immortality]]" being so close that the first immortal has already been born). This is a pretty scary thought for most people, as most tend to quite like being alive and aware, and well, death ''sucks''. If you are going to die, it helps focus the mind on what we want to achieve in the now. If one assumes that your current awareness is all that you will experience and that it is far from permanent, it makes it more special, and makes every second something to be relished and cherished. This allows a great flexibility and potential for people to discover their own meanings for why they're here, or even ignore the question entirely, treating it as irrelevant or just the wrong question to ask. An afterlife, on the other hand, actively diminishes the value we put on life as we see it now (since attention is focused on following a religion's instructions for how to reach the positive afterlife and avoid the negative one), despite how comforting it is to believe that consciousness can transcend the temporary nature of life.

[[Existentialism|Existentialists]] believe that life has the meaning you bring to it.{{cn}} One of the great liberties of being an atheist is being able to decide what it is that is important for you to get out of life, rather than have it thrust upon you by the weight of history and tradition. Some people see success as being the best person they can be within the bounds society sets out for them, while others will choose to find success outside those bounds. Other philosophies find an inherent meaning in a life that is filled with good works. Of course, what exactly constitutes a "good work" differs with each philosophy, but most agree fundamentally that living a good life is doing the best you can with what you have. Some things are seen as inherently more meaningful than others, and what is meaningful is not left up to personal discretion but typically that which will make the world a better place in the present and for future generations. 

If living on in some semblance after death is important to you, you have some practical options. [[Children]] are the most direct way of ensuring some continuance of both your physical attributes and your thought processes. Just make sure that the little brats behave themselves! Becoming an organ donor could enable many other people to have their lives extended or improved as a direct result of your actions. Achieving a novel feat or creating some new invention or idea is a great way to ensure something of yourself survives after death and benefits the future. Of course, performing acts of great evil will likely result in your being remembered in future generations, but acts of evil generally conflict with the principles of fulfilling one's responsibilities as a person and making the world a better place. It's exceedingly sketchy to think that infamy is better than obscurity.

If you can, in old age, look back on your life and identify but a few regrets, then you've probably lived life the best you can. Alternatively, you may come to the conclusion — or at least suspect — that [[Nihilism|life has no meaning]], that its meaning is beyond human knowledge, or that whatever meaning it does have is not very important. Any of these are plausible possibilities.

===Gambling? Drinking? Drugs?===
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[[File:Absinthe Parisienne.jpg|thumb|Remember [[informed consent]]: Before giving '''consent''' to drinking this [[List of medicinal plants#Wormwood|absinthe]], be '''informed''' that you may [[hangover|feel like shit]] in the morning.]]

Now that's an interesting question. Essentially, the answer is to a) know your limits and b) stop when the disposable cash and/or fun runs out, whichever comes first. 

It's certainly true that addictive behaviors ruin lives, and trying to suppress them is a big cause of people falling into the faith trap to begin with.{{cn}} The answer, as always, is [[education]].{{cn}} One of your authors{{who}} had a teacher in high school who didn't gamble because she always went gaga over radio call-in contests, and was afraid that if it involved actual [[money]], she'd be dragged into a vicious cycle. Some may laugh at that, but it's a perfectly sensible concern. 

When it comes right down to it, though, there's a big difference between enjoyment and addiction — a person at a [[wine]] or [[beer]] tasting is not likely to be someone who hides in the basement drinking Smirnoff 100 straight from the bottle, a college professor indulging in the occasional [[Cannabis|joint]] is a far cry from an ODing gutter punk with a syringe in her/his arm and a panicking buddy trying to decide whether to call an EMT, and {{wpl|Ken Uston}} organizing a card-counting team at a casino would have had almost nothing in common with a hard-luck case buying scratch tickets at a convenience store. But neither is there a sharp line between the two — addictive vices must always be approached with knowledge and self-awareness, and a realization that harm reduction must never take a backseat to pleasure. (That, in fact, is why we have minimum gambling and drinking ages.{{cn}}) If you can't handle it, don't get involved.

One must also take into account local laws, and the risk of consequences, for engaging in actions that are prohibited. Women committing [[adultery]] in certain countries may be stoned.{{cn}} Drug trafficking in [[Singapore]] may be punishable by death.{{cn}} Being a Christian in [[Afghanistan]], while maybe not technically illegal, risks [[torture]] and death by organized groups such as the [[Taliban]].{{cn}} Of course, there is a basis for knowingly going against laws and customs because you feel it is a moral duty; this is called [[civil disobedience]]. However, some acts are plainly irrational, such as smoking weed in front of a police officer in places where it is illegal if you don't expect or want to be arrested.

A smart rationalist does not condemn indulgence, but irresponsibility. Go with that understanding.

===Or abortion, or euthanasia?===
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[[File:10TerryPratchett02.jpg|thumb|[[Terry Pratchett]], on being diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's disease, became a vocal right-to-die spokesperson and was openly an atheist. On religious objections to euthanasia: "The problem with the God argument is that it works only if you believe in God, which I do not."{{cn}}]]
Atheism itself doesn't say much about this subject. Well, as atheism is a statement of ''lack'' of belief, it precisely says ''nothing'' about the subject. So anyone who has lost faith in a religion is free to choose whether they like these options or not based on their own ideas — perhaps you had a gut instinct to be pro-choice but were stopped by beliefs? We don't mean to presume, but do feel free to follow what you think, rather than what others are telling you to think. Despite the smears by the [[Religious Right]], atheists, rationalists, and humanists value life as much as anyone else, and it is up to them to choose what they would do in that situation and not to force that view on others. Really, only a very few people deserve to be smeared with the label "pro-death".  The issue could be summed up in the phrase "safe, legal, and rare", which acknowledges that abortion is far from an ideal resolution, but when it ''is'' needed, it shouldn't be done in a back alley using a bottle of bleach and a coat hanger.

That said, the trend is that rationalists and humanists consider both abortion and euthanasia to be a matter of a person's own right to determine what happens to their own bodies, and that these subjects are highly personal matters at that. That's truly what [[pro-choice]] means — you may not necessarily support it for your own self, but it's important that the option still be there and you do not infringe upon other people's right to decide for themselves also. While empathy is possible to a degree, no one can fully appreciate the dilemmas of being in a complex situation like having an abortion or ending their own life ''until they're in that situation themselves''.

Further secular ideas regarding the subject can be found in Don Marquis' widely cited 1989 paper, ''Why Abortion is Immoral'',<ref>{{wpa|Philosophical aspects of the abortion debate#The deprivation argumen}}</ref><ref> "Why Abortion Is Immoral" by Don Marquis (1989) ''Journal of Philosophy'' 86(4):183–202. doi:10.2307/2026961.</ref> which puts forward the "[[deprivation argument]]" and in Judith Jarvis Thompson's ''A Defense of Abortion''<ref>{{wpa|A Defense of Abortion}}</ref><ref>[https://eclass.uoa.gr/modules/document/file.php/PPP475/Thomson%20Judith%20Jarvis%2C%20A%20defense%20of%20abortion.pdf A Defense of Abortion] by Judith Jarvis Thomson (1971) ''Philosophy and Public Affairs'' 1(1):47-66.</ref> which features the famous [[thought experiment]] of being hooked up to a famous violinist against one's will. The bottom line, however, is to — as much as one can allow oneself — not infringe on the rights of others, and decide on one's own should one be in this position. One of the joys of atheism is that you don't have to listen to a church deciding morality for you; there is a large amount of explicitly secular literature on controversial subjects that a person can read and be exposed to. Or alternatively, you can just go with your gut.

===What about, you know, <small><small><small>sex</small></small></small>?===
It should go without saying that we, the FAQ writers, generally feel that what (and who) you do in your bed<ref group=note>Or on your kitchen table, in your car, on the living room floor… etc.</ref> is your business. The important things are [[informed consent]] and [[safe sex|safety]],<ref>[http://twitter.com/notch/status/1762997715758420071 Nobody would have to make me choose, she'd just have to be adult and give consent. And exist.] by Notch (Feb 28, 2024) ''Twitter''.</ref> and since that's quite a bit more general than the simple question of, you know, <small>[[sex]]</small>, we'll talk about those first, then get back to the good stuff.

====What is informed consent?====
Well, you've heard preachers and politicians complaining that if you allow gay [[sex]], then you'll allow [[incest]], and [[polygamy]], and 
man-on-dog
 man-on-turtle,<ref>{{wpl|John Cornyn#Civil rights and law enforcement}}</ref><ref>[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mg7YN-yCr4A&feature=player_detailpage#t=180s Bill O'Reilly wants to marry a turtle] by Rock-Ribbed Liberal (May 12, 2009) ''YouTube''.</ref> yada yada. This is an example of a [[slippery slope]] argument (which we'll discuss later), and is invalid for one simple reason: sex is a very private and personal thing to most people, and a key point in nontheistic morality is this [[informed consent]] thing. It relates to the matter of due diligence discussed above, and it is essentially this:

:''In order to take an action, the actor(s) are responsible for making sure that both they and others involved know why they're there, approve of their involvement, and understand what effect the action will have on themselves and anyone else involved.'' 

In the simplest sense, this is a matter of harm reduction — one don't want to be intruding on others with activities they want no part of, nor do you want others injured or otherwise damaged because you were unable or unwilling to let them be outside of the situation. But that isn't quite the whole story. 

If you've ever done or witnessed any evangelism efforts, you probably noticed that many people don't really like being approached cold by a stranger attempting to change their most fundamental mindsets. Whether distributing tracts or selling a product, most evangelists tend to ignore that people have their own sense of personal space, and do not particularly appreciate strangers encroaching on that space.{{fact}} Such approaches are perceived as intrusive, not because of unwillingness to hear a message or due to [[Demonic possession|demonic influence]], but because they're confrontational and set off people's fear mechanisms, "What is this person doing? What do they want from me?" They are being subjected to a sales pitch they have no interest in and have not consented to receiving. If the cause is clear and the person is interested, they may change their mind and stop, but the fundamental reason why any evangelization effort is difficult is because it violates informed consent.

So, fundamentally, in almost any activity involving several people, it's necessary for all involved to be fully informed about what they're doing and why they're doing it. If that isn't the case, very often someone will quickly and painfully learn the cost of their ignorance, whether it be losing money to a scam or losing quality of life to an [[STD]] or an unplanned [[pregnancy]]. (Or, in extreme cases, a [[Darwin Award]].) The lesson: when someone is trying to tell you something important, listen, and when someone seems to be failing to tell you something important, research and verify. And regarding the "slippery slope" examples given above, non-sapient animals such as turtles cannot given informed consent, and neither can minors (which is what's usually happening in incest cases). That's where the slippery slope examples suffer a pratfall (see what we did there?).

====So yeah, about sex.====
That's pretty simple. Educate yourself thoroughly on both biology and technique (you'll find some good sources in the bibliography below, and [[sex education|here]]), don't spread STDs, be aware of any legal or [[Roy Moore|social consequences]] for your actions,<ref group=note>For example, even if they are informed and willing, don’t fuck around with 15 year olds if you’re an adult living in the United States unless you are willing to take the jail time and the shunning on the chin, and don’t have unprotected sex unless you’re ready to have a child.</ref> don't try to tie down a player,{{efn|Unless they're into [[bondage|that kind]] of "tying down".}} don't try to play someone looking for commitment, don't use power to manipulate others for your own gratification, stay away from anyone and anything that can't or won't give informed consent, always listen and communicate, always be honest with your partners, and always have a safe word. More will be covered in the aforementioned books; in the meantime, assume "No" means "No" until told otherwise. Yes, sometimes "No" does mean "Yes," but you can't count on that because most of the time ''it doesn't.'' When someone uses the phrase to justify something they've done, it's usually just an excuse for failing to respect their partner's wishes. Be cool, not a tool.

That said, enjoy yourself in whatever way you're drawn to, be honest with your partner(s) about your intentions, and don't apologize for it. Just try not to leave any broken hearts (this takes practice, sadly) or burning genitals in your wake (this one is easy: play safe! Rationality does not stop at the bedroom door). Likewise, remember that moderation is usually the best path in all thing — people whose whole lives are based around one thing (be it sex, or [[gambling]], or making money, or anything else) tend to be rather shallow and one-dimensional, and they often end up rather unhappy (or worse).

==But I miss the social setting at church==
If you desire a nonreligious alternative to church's weekly gatherings, there are several groups that provide similar services.

*The {{web|[[Unitarian Universalist Church]]|http://www.uua.org/directory/congregations}} accepts essentially everybody, including the faithless. The UUA is probably the best bet for the framework of a church community.
*Check to see if there's a {{web|[[Sunday Assembly]]|http://sundayassembly.com/}} congregation near you. Sunday Assemblies are centered around the idea of secular, godless community that is devoted to celebrating life and making an impact in our world, all without any creed or religious beliefs. Their motto is "live better, help often, wonder more."
*Your local Humanist Association might have a chaplain; see if they conduct regular services.
*Recovering from Religion offers a peer support hotline in the US (1-844-368-2848) and support groups for people who have doubts and may want to change or leave their faith.<ref>[https://www.recoveringfromreligion.org Recovering from Religion]</ref>
*Look for an {{wpl|Ethical movement|Ethical Society}} in your area. The "ethical movement" considers the study of ethics and moral behavior very important ''and'' not derived from belief in a deity.
*There's nothing wrong with Sunday brunch with friends. Make sure you tip well&nbsp;— church crowds are, according to many waitstaff, notoriously and ironically cheap. (IMPORTANT: Make sure you go somewhere with waffles. You're always better off with the waffle option available.)
*If you have a particular interest, there may be a group that indulges it and can provide a fulfilling social setting. For instance, if you're interested in the European [[Middle Ages]], there are groups like the {{wpl|Society for Creative Anachronism}} that hold events which recreate parts of it. And, notwithstanding it's all about a very religious period in history, the SCA is wholly secular.

Of course, there is no reason you can't attend church if you want to go because you like the religious community.

==What do I do with my tithe money?==
For those who come from religions or parts of the world not familiar with the concept, a "[[tithe]]" is when a religion requires its followers to give them money (traditionally 10% of their income). Most people who regularly attend a church or temple make some level of regular contribution for its work, though the term "tithe" is now seldom used except in denominations which still expect churchgoers to donate 10% of their earnings. The really bad ones demand 10% of your ''gross''.

Well, it's your money and you can do what you like with it. You may find your finances easier to manage without the financial burden of religious contributions, and you may find that you can afford a better lifestyle, travel more or take up a new hobby, or even put money into savings. Donating to [[charity]] is a good way to put some of your money to good use, and to replace the charitable function of tithing. Remember to do your research and give to causes that you believe in and reputable charities that will use their funds constructively rather than sinking them in overheads.

==Okay, anything else I need to know?==
The most important thing: no matter what anyone tells you, you're your own person. You may not be accountable to God, but you still have to answer to yourself and your society; that said, however, you're also in command of who you are, what you do, who you associate with. Explore, travel if you can, always learn, and never be afraid to laugh at your mistakes and madnesses. Be flexible about everything but inflexibility; [[Paradox of tolerance|tolerate anything but intolerance]]. Get a library card. Watch a horror movie. Watch some [[porn]]. Do volunteer work — soup kitchen, community television, or the Peace Corps. Befriend someone your family just wouldn't understand. Or, spend hours surfing [[Wikipedia]] reading about subjects that interest you — education doesn't have to stop at graduation.

In case it needs to be said, atheism is no excuse for being a douche. You may be free of religious restrictions, but you're still accountable for your actions and everyone will notice if you act like a [[Asshole|dickweasel]].

''<big>"To thine own self be true."</big>'' — [[William Shakespeare]], ''Hamlet''

<small>And remember what we said about the waffles.</small>

==Bibliography and other reading==

===On skepticism===
*[[Derren Brown|Brown, Derren]],  ''Tricks of the Mind''. [[Special:Booksources/‎9781905026357|ISBN 9781905026357]]. While also delving into numerous tricks of mental agility, Brown sets his book against the background of his own deconversion from evangelical Christianity to atheism. Thus he delves into irrational thought and why people can be tricked easily. You can also learn some impressive card and memory tricks.
*Diamond, Jared. ''Guns, Germs, and Steel'', W. W. Norton, 1999, [[Special:Booksources/‎978-0393317558|ISBN 978-0393317558]]. One of the most powerful [[Anthropology|anthropological]] arguments against [[racism]] and related prejudices that there is, Diamond's thesis is that the only thing that separates us from less developed cultures is our ancestors' access to resources, and that perceived differences in intelligence don't matter at all. Despite a touch of "[[noble savage]]" drivel, this is otherwise an excellent book.
*[[Martin Gardner|Gardner, Martin]]. ''Fads and Fallacies in the Name of Science'', New York, Dover Publications, 1957, [[Special:Booksources/0486203948|ISBN 0486203948]]. Considered one of the first and most influential works on skeptical thinking in the Anglophone literature, ''Fads and Fallacies'' surveys much of the pseudoscience of the mid-20th century, some of which still appears in modern times, all of which is valuable for learning how to spot fraud and delusion.
*Pierce, Charles. ''Idiot America''. New York: Doubleday, 2009, [[Special:Booksources/978-0767926140|ISBN 978-0767926140]]. Takes the blend of analysis and mockery that Gardner created and applies it to the right wing of US politics. Despite somewhat of a lack of focus on the lunacies of the far left (especially animal rights activists), Pierce forcefully proves his point that the US is the best country in the world to be a crank.
*[[James Randi|Randi, James]]. ''Flim-Flam'' and ''The Truth about [[Uri Geller]]'', [[Special:Booksources/9780879751982|ISBN 9780879751982]], several publishers. Randi was the avatar of the fact that it isn't enough to know what you ''think'' is going on; you have to peek behind the curtains as well.
*[[Carl Sagan|Sagan, Carl]], ''The Demon-Haunted World: Science as a candle in the dark''. [[Special:Booksources/9781439505281|ISBN 9781439505281]]. The last great work of the astronomer-turned-scientist-to-the-people, this book summarizes the most important parts of Sagan's career as a skeptical writer, from his early splash as a challenger to the wild-eyed speculations of Immanuel Velikovsky to his late career as an examiner of all things [[woo]]. 
*[[Michael Shermer|Shermer, Michael]], ''Why People Believe Weird Things'', New York, WH Freeman and Co, 1997 [[Special:Booksources/9780716730903|ISBN 9780716730903]]. An in-depth exploration of subjects such as creationism and Holocaust denial, including the thought processes and motivations that believers follow.
*[[Erich von Däniken|Von Däniken, Erich]], ''Chariots of the Gods?'' [[Special:Booksources/9780425166802|ISBN 9780425166802]]. What is this doing here? It's an example of what to look for in bad science writing. ''Chariots'' is a classic of the [[crank]] genre, an example of how a little knowledge and an agenda can lead someone to write complete garbage that people still take seriously. Don't miss the constant [[Argument from incredulity|arguments from incredulity]] and von Däniken's nagging undercurrent of racism, not to mention his propensity for [[PIDOOMA|making up "facts"]] and jumping to conclusions based on visual artifacts and textual quirks, or his "interview" with German-American rocket scientist Werner von Braun (an example of how cranks often use chance encounters with famous experts to claim endorsements).

===On faith===
*Atran, Scott. ''In Gods We Trust: The Evolutionary Landscape of Religion''. Oxford University Press, 2002. [[Special:Booksources/0195149300|ISBN 0195149300]]. Makes the case for belief in the supernatural as a by-product of evolved [[apophenia|pattern and agency detection]] in the human mind and explores the social and cultural aspects of religion drawing on research in anthropology, psychology, sociology, and evolutionary biology.
*Baggini, Julian. ''Atheism: A Very Short Introduction''. Oxford University Press, 2003. [[Special:Booksources/0192804243|ISBN 0192804243]]. What it says on the tin.
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*[[Richard Dawkins|Dawkins, Richard]]. ''[[The God Delusion]]''. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2006. [[Special:Booksources/0618680004|ISBN 0618680004]]. A book of rational explanations as to why the hypothesis of God existing is ridiculously unlikely to be true, and why religion as it is usually practiced is actively socially dangerous. It is a useful "beginner's guide to atheistic arguments" and has helped many people with deconversion, such as former Pentecostal [[Derren Brown]].
*Henderson, Bobby. ''The Gospel of the Flying Spaghetti Monster'', New York: Villard/Random House, 2006, [[Special:Booksources/0812976568|ISBN 0812976568]]. Written to mock Intelligent Design theory, the ''GotFSM'' is a velvet fist of a [[satire]], mocking the hyperseriousness and intellectual bankruptcy of fundamentalist faith. While not particularly original (the [[Invisible Pink Unicorn]], may her hooves never be shod, and the Reformed Church of the Star Goat preceded the [[Flying Spaghetti Monster]], though perhaps not with quite the same level of detail), the ''GotFSM'' should be required reading for anyone questioning the limits placed on them by their faith.
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*Mackie, J.L. ''The Miracle of Theism''. Oxford University Press, 1983. [[Special:Booksources/019824682X|ISBN 019824682X]]. A thorough philosophical debunking of the major theistic arguments.
*Ray, Darrel W. ''The God Virus: How Religion Infects Our Lives and Culture''. IPC Press, 2009. Digitized 18 Mar 2011 [[Special:Booksources/0970950519|ISBN-10 0970950519]]; [[Special:Booksources/9780970950512|ISBN-13 9780970950512]]. Darrel Ray, Ed.D. is a psychologist and student of religion for over forty years. Raised in a fundamentalist home, he knows religion from the inside out. He left religion in his thirties, but continued to ask the question, "How does religion work on the mind and behavior of those it infects?" Because no other authors seemed to be answering this question, he wrote this book as a practical and theoretical guide to those who want to understand religions of all kinds and specifically how to eliminate it from our lives.
*Shermer, Michael. ''How We Believe'', 2ed. New York: WH Freeman and Co, 2000. [[Special:Booksources/9780805074796|ISBN 9780805074796]]. A must-read on the psychology of [[faith]] by a former believer who is now a leader in the rationalist movement.
*Tarico, Valerie. ''Trusting Doubt: A Former Evangelical looks at old beliefs in a new light''. [[Special:Booksources/0977392937|ISBN 0977392937]]. Shows that when on a reconsideration of what you've been raised to believe, your options aren't limited to literalist Christianity (or other extreme sects) and atheism — there's a whole wide spectrum of possibilities out there that you can consider and choose from.
*Various, ''[[Bible|The Bible]]''. It is often said that the fastest way to atheism is through reading the Bible. But importantly, it should be remembered that "atheism" only makes sense in the context of religions being the dominant normative belief. Thus, read and understand what people are believing in and where they get their information from. Besides, these books are a key part of language and literature just as much as Shakespeare or Tolkien, and so certainly should never be forgotten or consigned to a [[book burning]].
*Various, ''The Atheist's Guide to Christmas''. [[Special:Booksources/9780007389827|ISBN 9780007389827]] This collection of 42 essays from authors as wide as Richard Dawkins and Simon Le Bon examines atheism in an amusing and thought-provoking light. Also, the proceeds go to charity, so it's all good fun for a good cause.

===On the Bible===
*Finkelstein, Israel and Neil A. Silberman, ''The Bible Unearthed'', New York: Touchstone/Simon and Schuster, 2001, ISBN 0684869136. A somewhat radical but well-defended reinterpretation of Old Testament [[archaeology]] by an Israeli and an American archaeologist.
*Mack, Burton, ''Who Wrote the New Testament?'', New York, HarperCollins, 1995, ISBN 0060655186. An extensive survey of the documentary evidence behind the creation and collation of the New Testament by one of the leading authorities on its sources.
*Ehrmann, D. Bart, ''Misquoting Jesus: The Story Behind Who Changed the Bible and Why'', New York, HarperCollins, 2005, ISBN 9780060738174. An introduction to textual criticism of the Bible.

===On sex===
*Cox, Tracey, ''Hot Sex'', New York/Sydney, Bantam Books, 1998, ISBN 055338032X. Australian sexologist Cox discusses the basics of sex and relationships, bringing equal attention to the ecstasy and agony without judgementalism. She also has a sequel, ''More Hot Sex'', which expands on the first book and, among other things, includes information on same-sex experiences for straight people.
*Editors of Nerve.com, ''Sex Advice From...'', San Francisco, Chronicle Books, 2006, ISBN 0811850021. Nerve.com's column of interviews with ordinary people in various walks of life about their sex lives. Very good for understanding that either everyone's a freak, or no one is.
*Joannides, Paul, ''The Guide to Getting It On''. Equal parts titillation and information, this phone book-sized tome presents virtually everything you'd ever want to know about sex in as frank and approachable manner as possible&nbsp;— and we do mean everything. Health, technique, anatomy, normalcy, [[masturbation]], heterosexual, homosexual, group sex, BDSM, it's all covered. Along with a good book on the body, this might even be a good thing to give a teenager entering high school as an antidote to inept [[Abstinence programs|abstinence-only sex education]].

===On brunch===
*Jamison, Cheryl A. and Bill, ''A Real American Breakfast'', New York, Wm. Morrow, 2002, ISBN 0060188243. Even if you're not American, there are some truly awesome recipes in this book. (If you do live outside the US, you'll also want the rec.food.cooking FAQ from the [[Usenet]] newsgroup—there's a lot of gotchas with even the simplest foreign recipes, and the rfc FAQ will alert you to many of the biggest ones.)

===More about freethought===
===Resources===
*One great place for information is [http://www.infidels.org/ The Secular Web]. 
*The Freedom From Religion Foundation<ref>[http://www.ffrf.org/ Freedom From Religion Foundation]</ref>

===Poetry===
Here is some poetry about atheism&nbsp;- written by atheists:

{{cquote|
Today I am free
<br>No longer afraid to be me
<br>The shackles have been ripped off
<br>No longer needing to wear [[hijab|that cloth]]


Today I am free
<br>No longer afraid to disagree
<br>That your religion is not [[Religion of peace|one of peace]]
<br>No longer am I Islam's mouthpiece

<br>Today I am free
<br>To be who I want to be
<br>No one is telling me how to live my life
<br>No longer is my life in strife

<br>Today I am free
<br>And it hurts to a degree
<br>To have lost family and friends
<br>But this is not how it ends

I am free<ref>[http://archive.ph/x37aF An ExMuslim Friend of Mine Made This Poem. :)] (May 9 2016) ''Imgur'' (archived from 14 Jan 2020 02:57:46 UTC).</ref> |||An unnamed friend of u/DavidSlogan on the ex-Muslim subreddit<ref>[https://web.archive.org/web/20200114025634/https://www.reddit.com/r/exmuslim/comments/4iijj4/an_exmuslim_friend_of_mine_made_this_poem/ An ExMuslim Friend of Mine Made This Poem. :)] ''Reddit'' (archived from January 14, 2020).</ref>}}

==See also==
*[[List of gods that theists don't believe in]]

==Resources==
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*[http://debunkingchristianity.blogspot.com "Debunking Christianity"] - debunking Evangelical Christianity
*[http://exchristian.net "ExChristianDotNet"] - encouraging ex-Christians
*[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kAIpRRZvnJg&fmt=18 instruction manual for life], [[TheraminTrees]] and QualiaSoup
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==Notes==
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==References==
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