The Surrendered Wife

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'''''The Surrendered Wife''''' ({{Isbn|0743204441}}) is a 1999 book by Laura Doyle, a self-proclaimed "[[feminist]] and former shrew," purporting to expound [[Kinder, Kuche, Kirche|a solution]] to troubled marriages, such as the one experienced by the author's parents.

==Contents==

As is typical of such works, it spends hundreds of pages stating what fits in one sentence; in this case, a couplet written in 1723 by Samuel Wesley the Younger:

{{cquote|Gently shall those be rul'd, who gently sway'd;<br/>Abject shall those obey, who haughty were obey'd.<ref>Wesley, Samuel the Younger. ''The Battle of the Sexes'', 1723. [https://web.archive.org/web/20070702044630/http://www.historycarper.com/resources/twobf2/pg29-30.htm Quoted by Benjamin Franklin, ''Pennsylvania Gazette'', October 8, 1730.]</ref>}}

Or, in prose form, as interpreted by Doyle: "Shut up and be a nice little doormat for your husband to walk all over; then you won't have any marital troubles." Some more specific examples include:

* A woman should not tell her husband that he missed the freeway exit to Interstate 5 in Seattle, instead letting him {{wpl|Interstate 90|drive all the way to Boston}}.<ref group=note>She seems to be missing the point that wives were specially ''made'' to nag their husbands until they ask for directions, thus enabling them actually to reach their destination. (Editor's note: Is it just me, or do we have a misandrist in the room?) (Nah, the Bible claims woman was created to be a help to man. Nagging is just a form of helping)</ref> (That'll teach him!)
* A woman should let her husband feel that he is in charge by giving him total control over the household finances, then from time to time 
begging for pin money
 getting an allowance payment. This is apparently true even if {{wpl|Rose Friedman|the lady}} has done Ph.D.-level work in economics while [[Milton Friedman|her husband]] {{wpl|Savings and loan crisis|makes a mess of the bank accounts}} and tends to run up really big debts.<ref>Jonathan Weisman, [http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A26402-2004Jun8.html Reagan Policies Gave Green Light to Red Ink]. The Washington Post, 9 June 2004.</ref>
* A woman should not suggest that her husband get therapy, lest she be a mistrustful busybody and control freak. (But this, of course, {{wpl|Cover your ass|does not apply}} to husbands that are in need of {{wpl|Anger management|a certain ''sort'' of therapy}}.)
* A woman should not buy her husband's clothes, even if he has only ''slightly'' more fashion sense than an English professor.
* A woman should "allow herself to be vulnerable," thus making [[Marital rape|intimacy]] the priority rather than control.

==Influence==

The book, being a ''New York Times'' bestseller, is popular enough to have caused the emergence of a contingent of [[Sucker|surrendered wives]], who under Mrs. Doyle's direction have set up a network of seminars throughout the U.S. taught by specially trained instructors. For $20, you too can learn how to [[Bullshit|fall in love all over again]]!<ref>http://www.surrenderedwife.com/surrendered_wife_seminars.html</ref>
==See also==
* [[Lies Women Believe]]
* [[Kinder, Kuche, Kirche]]
* [[Phyllis Schlafly]]
* [[Kaotins]]
==External links==
* [http://www.surrenderedwife.com/surrendered_wife_books_surrendered_wife.html Sample chapter of ''The Surrendered Wife'']
==Notes==
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==References==
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