BDSM

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'''BDSM''' is a combination of 3 acronyms:<ref>{{wpa|Glossary of BDSM}}</ref> 

*Bondage and Discipline (B&D)
*Dominance and submission (D&S)<ref group=note>In this usage, "submission" is often not capitalized. This leads to a whole host of other capitalisation issues and grammatical nightmares; where submissives refuse (or sometimes, are actively prohibited) to capitalise "i", Dominants always demand Pronounced Capital Letters  like Hers and He like They're [[Jesus]] Himself. And of course, the worst offender, the slash for group situations: W/we, Y/you, T/they and so on. Failure to comply with this standard may, in some cases, result in your squidgy bits being placed in a vice, or worse.</ref>
*[[Sadism]] and [[Masochism]] (S&M)

It is the giving and receiving of [[sex|sexual]] pleasure through the above practices (which can be exceptionally varied and beyond the scope of this article<ref group=note>See the London Fetish Scene's [http://www.londonfetishscene.com/wipi/index.php/Main_Page Wipipedia] and its 1300 articles for more.</ref>), engaged in voluntarily and with predetermined limits and safety rules set and [[informed consent|agreed]] to in advance by all participants (this is sometimes referred to as "safe, sane, and consensual": SSC for short. RACK is also often used: "risk-aware consensual kink").<ref group=note>In the absence of any characteristics of the second clause of this sentence, it is ''bad'' sex.</ref> Practitioners of BDSM are often termed "kinky."

==Queer acceptance==

Despite being a non-normative sexual activity, BDSM is not generally welcomed or included under the banner of queer (or LGBT) movements or activism. (This does depend on the groups in question.  For example, it is included in queer theory along with practices like [[prostitution]].)  To many people who partake in BDSM activities, the interest is just as much an intrinsic sexuality as being gay or straight, but despite this it is (unfortunately) often rejected from being considered part of queer/LGBT acceptance and social issues.  This is unusual because alternative sexualities and lifestyles such as polyamory usually ''are'' accepted as part of the queer movement, even though, like BDSM, they don't necessarily include sexual or sexuality issues in the same way as L, G, B or T issues do.  

This can be partially rationalised through the purpose of queer movements being to raise awareness of legal struggles; for instance, polyamorous groups can't get recognised legal status in the same way as marriage, which can only be two people, even if [[same-sex marriage]] is made legal.  But laws concerning whether someone can give informed consent to be harmed are often a stumbling block for BDSM practitioners.  As such, combating discriminatory or obstructing laws is relevant to BDSM.  If the purpose of LGBT/queer movements is to promote acceptance of alternative sexualities and activities, then there is also no reason to reject BDSM on these grounds; as choosing it as a "lifestyle choice" is still met with a similar level of stigma as any other alternative, non-normative sexuality. 

It may be that BDSM is viewed from within some sectors LGBT activism/movement groups as just an activity that anyone can partake in (indeed, BDSM-lite activities are practically mainstream), and thus doesn't need to be represented, but this would be no different than rejecting anything emblematic of queer culture because it's "just an activity".

An alternative argument against including BDSM is claiming it's a sexual fetish and the queer term should not include any fetishes.  This leads to a [[Slippery slope]] argument that if one fetish is included then all fetishes would need to be included.  This argument claims that most people have at least one sexual fetish, and so by allowing fetishes to be included under the queer umbrella it will mean almost everyone would qualify as queer and dilute the meaning of the term.

==Symbols==
[[File:BDSM Symbols.JPG|thumb|Symbols of the BDSM community.  On the left, a triskelion; on the right, a Ring of O.]]
As with many other forms of non-normative sexual activity, practitioners within the BDSM lifestyle have adopted or created symbols that represent the BDSM lifestyle.  Much like the rainbow flag is used as a symbol of the LGBT movement, the BDSM community use the {{wpl|triskelion}} and the {{wpl|Ring of O||,}} not so much as the symbol of a movement, but more of an identifying feature, thereby allowing practitioners of the BDSM community to meet up without the need to stand in the middle of a crowded pub and shout, ''"Who's here for the rope-play?"''  

The triskelion, used in many English speaking countries, needs to be of quite specific design to be recognised as a BDSM symbol, with the outer circle and spokes needing to be of a metallic colour (gold, silver, steel or iron are the most common), the background needs to be a solid colour and the three holes need to be holes, not dots, and are usually edged in the same metal as the circle and spokes.  The greasy thumbprint over the whole thing is entirely optional.  However, variations of the BDSM symbol do occur where the triskelion is represented by flowers, normally red roses, that have prominent thorns shown as part of the symbol.

The second symbol, the Ring of O, is used more in continental Europe, and is widespread in use throughout the German speaking BDSM community. Very, very loosely based on the ring that the fictitious female character wears in the series of novels "The Story of O," the ring consists of a large steel ring with an attached smaller ring which can be swivelled. The wearing of the Ring of O can also carry greater symbolism than just identifying the wearer as a member of the BDSM community. When the ring is worn on the [[Southpaw|left hand]] it can indicate that the wearer is a top, or dominant, whilst wearing it on the right-hand indicates a bottom, or submissive. In such cases a dom would normally wear the ring on the left hand so that their right hand isn't wearing a heavy, metal ring that could cause unintentional damage during use, whilst a sub wears the ring on the right hand to indicate a symbolic binding and surrendering to their dom. Obviously, this can mean that the symbolism can be reversed for people who are left-handed and so the wearing of the Ring of O can't be used as a reliable guide to a wearer's preference.<ref group=note>And let's not even start talking about "switches," people who like both roles...</ref>

==Psychiatric classification==
BDSM was listed as a psychiatric disorder under the name of "sexual deviance" in the both the DSM-I and the DSM-II. In the 1970s, homosexuality was removed as a disorder from the manual and sexual deviance was renamed to "paraphilia." With the release of the DSM-IV, paraphilias went through significant redefinition. As of that revision, paraphilias were only considered to be disorders if they caused the person distress or infringed on the rights of others (e.g., voyeurism). This definition continues to hold for the DSM-IV-TR. However, the definitions of BDSM-related paraphilias and activities are often fuzzy and ill-defined. This often allows therapists still convinced it's a mental disorder to skirt around the classification. In addition, many mental health professionals are often unaware or untrained in how to deal with patients' BDSM-related problems.<ref>[http://www.ipgcounseling.com/psychology_and_bdsm.html Psychology and BDSM], IPG Counseling</ref><ref>Nichols, M. [http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16803768 Psychotherapeutic issues with "kinky" clients: clinical problems, yours and theirs.] J Homosex. 2006;50(2-3):281-300.</ref> The current changes proposed by the DSM-V paraphilias work-group would definitively depathologize BDSM.<ref>[https://ncsfreedom.org/key-programs/dsm-v-revision-project/dsm-v-program-page.html DSM-V revision project]</ref>

The ICD-10 (used e.g. in Europe) continues to classify BDSM as a "disorder of sexual preference" in the latest (2007) version<ref>[http://apps.who.int/classifications/apps/icd/icd10online/?gf60.htm+f655 F65.5 WHO.int ICD-10 browser]</ref>, along with [[fetishism]] and [[cross-dressing]]; the current (July 2011) working draft for the ICD-11 retains this classification.<ref>[http://apps.who.int/classifications/icd11/browse/f/en#/@_@who_3_int_1_icd_2_F65_3_5 WHO.int ICD11 Alpha browser]</ref> Various groups, e.g. the ReviseF65 project,<ref>http://www.revisef65.org/</ref> aim to change this, and have achieved success in Scandinavian nations.<ref>[http://www.revisef65.org/finland_eng.html Finland Joins Nordic Sexual Reform]</ref>

===Freudian quackery===
BDSM has historically been taboo, but the definition of it as a mental disorder originated with [[Sigmund Freud]]'s belief that it was the result of [[child abuse]], mirroring another one of his crankier ideas linking schizophrenia to latent homosexuality. This idea is patently false, but it's likely that it continues to be a widespread notion because there is little research on BDSM and most of it is poorly designed. One survey conducted in Australia with a control group found no statistically significant connection between BDSM and childhood abuse. A number of other studies lacking control groups and with smaller [[sample size]]s have been done, and while they show a higher incidence of abuse than the general population, the majority of respondents reported no abuse.<ref>[http://kinkresearch.blogspot.com/2010/01/childhood-abuse-as-etiology.html Childhood abuse as etiology]</ref><ref>[http://www.news.com.au/top-stories/bondage-lovers-normal-maybe-even-happier/story-e6frfkp9-1111117296864 Bondage Lovers Normal, Maybe Even Happier]</ref>

==Religious and fundamentalist interpretations==
===Against the practice===

Most [[Fundamentalism|fundamentalist]] and socially [[conservative]] [[Christian|Christians]] do not approve of BDSM because it is a sexual practice that does not lead directly to making [[children|babies]] (although it certainly can, sex is not a requirement of all BDSM activities). In addition, the intercourse activities, when they occur, often take place in positions other than the "missionary". Nonetheless, some [[televangelist]]s like [[Pat Robertson]] are fond of using BDSM-sounding terminology in the course of their [[spiritual warfare]] incantations, with lots of talk about "binding" demons and "taking authority" over [[Satan]], kinky stuff indeed. 

People with anti-BDSM opinions may also concentrate on the unfair stereotype that it is practiced mainly by hot, sweaty, sexy [[gay]] men, wearing hot, sweaty, sexy leather, in hot, sweaty, sexy [[San Francisco]].<ref>{{wpa|Folsom Street Fair}}</ref> Indeed, pro-BDSM activists are often considered [[conspiracy theory|co-conspirators]] in or enablers of the [[homosexual agenda]].<ref>[http://www.wnd.com/?pageId=13607 Sex-freedom group battles 'right wing': Joins forces with homosexuals to defend sadomasochism], [[WorldNutDaily]]</ref>

===For the practice===
{{cquote|For God is not a God of disorder but of peace. As in all the congregations of the saints, women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the Law says. If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home; for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church.|||
1 Corinthians 14:33-35<ref>[http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20Corinthians%2014:33-36&version=NIV Bible Gateway - 1 Corinthians 14:33-35], a fine alternative to 1 Corinthians 13:1-13 when it comes to wedding readings.</ref>}}

Other Christian groups interpret certain [[Bible]] passages to mean that a D/s relationship is in fact supported by Christianity, some going as far as to say it is the only way to have a good Christian relationship.<ref>http://christiandomesticdiscipline.com</ref> This involves the man as the head of the household with the wife in submission to him (with both in submission to [[God]]). Marriage vows, for example, traditionally include the phrases "love, honour and '''obey'''" for the woman, and "love, honor and cherish" for the man, which, although the phrases are becoming less common, may be reinstated by a couple in a D/s relationship who are getting married and would like to drop a subtle hint. Almost invariably, support for these types of relationships by religion imply that the man is the dominant and the woman is the submissive, with no provision for the often naturally reversed scenario. Christianity also seems to make no admission of partners who "switch".<ref>http://www.sexinchrist.com/submission.html</ref>

Another way to be mean to [[Christians]] is to point out the B&D story of the Christ on the [[Fun:Crucifiction|cross]]. OK, there's some S&M there, too.  And it's easy to enjoy the story &ndash; if you are the beneficiary and not the victim. <!-- Implying that some editors get a kick out of crucifying people? Maybe... -->

On a more serious note, there is an organized effort within [[Unitarian Universalism]] to promote greater understanding and acceptance of BDSM and kink.<ref>http://leatherandgrace.wordpress.com Leather & Grace ~ Unitarian Universalists for BDSM Awareness</ref> This makes some sense, as Unitarian Universalists also led the way in liberal religious acceptance of [[homosexuality]].

==Feminist schism==
Some feminists, particularly of the [[radical feminism|radical]] variety, oppose BDSM. Many radical feminists draw on the aforementioned Freudian quackery to promote the childhood abuse idea. They also portray BDSM as a tool of the [[patriarchy]]. These arguments usually revolve around the idea that BDSM is an "acting out" of patriarchial culture in the realm of sex or that it is a means of abusing women. The definitive radical feminist anti-BDSM tract is considered to be ''Against Sadomasochism: A Radical Feminist Analysis''.<ref>[http://www.jstor.org/pss/3812200 ''Against Sadomasochism: A Radical Feminist Analysis''], Robin Ruth Linden, Darlene R. Pagano, Diana E.H. Russell, and Susan Leigh Star (eds.)</ref> Some [[Sex-positivity|sex-positive feminists]] reject this, and support BDSM. The general argument is that too much of feminist opposition to BDSM is grounded in pseudoscience, and that it ignores instances of heterosexual BDSM relationships where women are dominant and men are submissive, as well as same-sex relationships which incorporate BDSM.<ref>[http://www.black-rose.com/articles-liz/bitchgoddess.html Playing with Paradox: The Ethics of Erotic Dominance and Submission], Liz Highleyman</ref><ref>[http://www.alternet.org/reproductivejustice/148616/women_who_like_to_be_dominated_in_bed:_talking_to_bdsm_submissives Women Who Like to Be Dominated in Bed: Talking to BDSM Submissives], AlterNet</ref>

==Gallery==
<gallery>
Leather, Latex, and BDSM pride.svg|Leather pride flag, designed by Tony DeBlaise in 1989. Adopted as a symbol for practitioners of BDSM
File:BDSM-rights-flag-Tanos.svg|BDSM rights flag, created by Tanos. It is specifically to express that people who do responsible BDSM with consenting adults should not be discriminated against. Designed 2005.
File:Official Puppy Pride Flag Dog Pride Flag of International Puppy.jpg|Pride flag for puppy play, a form of human animal roleplay
File:Pony Pride Flag.svg|Pride flag for pony play, a form of human animal roleplay
File:Rubberprideflag.png|Rubber/Latex pride flag designed in 1994 by Peter Tolos and Scott Moats
</gallery>

==See also==
*[[Cops (TV show)|''Cops'' (TV show)]]	
*[[Discipling and Shepherding]] - where two Christians voluntarily enter into a D/s relationship.  D and S stands for both Dominance and submission, and Discipling and shepherding?  Must be a coincidence.
*[[Corporal mortification]] ''(Use of whips and other ways of causing physical pain as part of [[religion]])''
*[[Social networking websites#FetLife|FetLife]]
*[[Todd Bentley]]
*[[Jack Hyles]]
*[[Gorean]]

==External links==
*[http://fetlife.com Fetlife] - the Facebook for people into BDSM... or so I've been told.
*[https://ncsfreedom.org/resources.html National Coalition for Sexual Freedom], activist organization for fighting discriminatory anti-BDSM laws and media outreach.
*[http://clarissethorn.com/blog/ Clarisse Thorn's blog], pro-BDSM feminist.
*[http://fierceawakening.livejournal.com/718012.html? The Eternal Question: What Causes "Vanilla"?]
*[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KwCMttqrqtg BDSM: It's not what you think!]
*[http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/ Informed Consent, or IC] — Formerly a social networking site like FetLife, now reverted to an activism and information site about kink

==Notes==
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