Tone argument

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'''Person A:''' [bigoted statement]<br>
'''Person B:''' The fuck?<br>
'''Person C:''' Now, now, let's have [[civility]].<br><br>
Dear C: You came in one statement too late.|||John Scalzi<ref>[https://web.archive.org/web/20150414202023/https://twitter.com/scalzi/status/502085062540939264 Person A: [bigoted statement]
Person B: The fuck?
Person C: Now, now, let's have civility.
Dear C: You came in one statement too late.] by John Scalzi (August 20, 2014) ''Twitter'' (archived from April 14, 2015).</ref>}}

{{cquote|I have three things I'd like to say today. First, while you were [[sleep]]ing last night, 30,000 kids died of starvation or [[disease]]s related to malnutrition. Second, most of you don't give a shit. What's worse is that you're more upset with the fact that I said shit than the fact that 30,000 kids died last night.|||Tony Campolo (paraphrased)<ref>[https://www.patheos.com/blogs/divergence/2017/06/30/christian-you-are-upset-about-the-wrong-things/ Christian: You Are Upset About The Wrong Things] by Darrell Lackey (June 30, 2017) ''Divergence, Patheos''.</ref>}}

{{cquote|i regret to inform you, that by resorting to Swear language, you have forfeit this debate. Farewell my bitch|||wint<ref>[https://web.archive.org/web/20180328073935/https://twitter.com/dril/status/978625282222559233 i regret to inform you, that by resorting to Swear language, you have forfeit this debate. Farewell my bitch] by wint (@dril) (06:30 - 27 mar 2018) ''Twitter'' (archived from March 28, 2018).</ref>}}

The '''tone argument''' (also '''tone policing''') is a [[logical fallacy]] that occurs when an [[argument]] is dismissed or accepted on its presentation: typically perceived crassness, [[hysteria]], or anger. Tone arguments are generally used by '''tone trolls''' (especially [[concern troll]]s) as a method of positioning oneself as a Very Serious Person.

The fallacy relies on [[style over substance]]. It is an ''[[ad hominem]]'' attack, and thus an [[informal fallacy]].

==Forms==
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|2='''X''' asserted '''Y''' is true with bad tone.
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A variant is, rather than criticising some irrelevant aspect of your opposer's style of argument, you instead praise them for their politeness or nice penmanship, for their good command of the English language so different from those nasty [[rap]]pers with all their swearing, etc. In either case, you have effectively deflected attention from subject to style and enhanced your own status as an arbiter of taste and value.

==Examples==
*Dismissing or refusing to address an objective argument (''e.g.'' [[statistical]], [[scientific]]) for spurious reasons. The true objection is not to the tone.
*A reverse tone troll can be used to compare you, the "good" objector, to [[strawman]] "bad" objectors. At least you're not like those ''uppity'' objectors.
*"Shrill" or "militant": objecting sufficiently loudly that anyone actually notices, no matter the actual tone or style of the objection. Women are often accused of being "angry" in their tone when an equivalent output from a man would simply be read as "direct" or "forthright".
*Objection to a particular word in the argument to dismiss the argument and speaker henceforth.
*Objection to, or dismissal of, grammar or [[linguistic discrimination|dialect]] as response to a substantive point.
*Rich people responding to criticism with [[Psychological projection|"I don't like your tone!"]]

===Appeal to MLK===
The "appeal to MLK" occurs when an activist is criticized for (supposedly) failing to act entirely in accordance with the fictionalized saintliness of some activist. Most common is [[Martin Luther King, Jr.]], but occasionally Mahatma Gandhi or Cesar Chavez are pulled in. This example particularly fails in that Dr King's {{wpl|Letter from Birmingham Jail|"Letter from Birmingham Jail"}} was fundamentally a response to tone policers:<ref>[https://www.africa.upenn.edu/Articles_Gen/Letter_Birmingham.html "Letter from a Birmingham Jail [King, Jr.]", African Studies Center - University of Pennsylvania]</ref>

{{quotebox|I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that <u>the [[African American|Negro's]] great stumbling block in his stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen's Counciler or the [[Ku Klux Klan]]ner, but the white moderate, who is more devoted to "order" than to justice</u>; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says: <u>"I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I cannot agree with your methods of direct action"</u>; who paternalistically believes he can set the timetable for another man's [[freedom]]; who lives by a mythical concept of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait for a "more convenient season."}}

Appeals to MLK are also a form of the [[argument from authority]].

===Kafkatrapping===
Kafkatrapping is the practice of stating that someone defending themselves against an accusation is proof of that accusation; that is, only a racist would have to prove they're not a racist, and only a pedophile would have to prove they're not a pedophile. Since [[QAnon|insane people]] make [[Pizzagate|insane allegations]] all the time, this is rather a dishonest form of argumentation: If someone accuses you of being a subhuman monster for no reason comprehensible to the rational mind, just ignoring the accusation is not an option.

==Exceptions==
Aside from the obvious exceptions (e.g. threats of death or violence), it can ''hypothetically'' be employed honestly (in response to [[emotional appeal]]) — the tone argument is not always ''incorrect'', you catch more flies with honey than vinegar<ref group=note>Although [[apple cider vinegar]] is pretty good for catching fruit flies. [https://xkcd.com/357/ Comparative tests with honey are just waiting for a science fair project.] It also depends on what sort of fly; generally speaking, manure or rotten and decaying flesh will attract a greater number of flies than honey, which is why using ridiculous platitudes should be avoided, as they're almost always useless.</ref> — but it's not a very good argument because it falls to the style over substance fallacy. At best, it may be a way to point out [[Intellectual dishonesty|rhetorical dishonesty]] in a formal debate, but at worst, it is simply awarding victory to whoever is affected the least by what is being discussed.

You don't ''have'' to listen to someone and may find their tone offputting. Nobody wants an earful of an obnoxious person. In fact, most people simply do not tolerate obnoxious arguments — and will tend to think of any argument they disagree with as obnoxious — no matter how correct they are, which is why politicians go out of their way to avoid this effect. However, while being unhappy with someone's style may be valid, ignoring the content puts you in danger of being seriously incorrect about the world.

Of course, it can be valid to make the tone argument against someone whose argument lacks a claim or evidence in the first place. Angry venting for its own sake can be a healthy expression (''can'' be), but if they forget to actually articulate a point, there's no "substance" being ignored, and all that's left is "style". Sure, they may ''think'' their audience knows what they're alluding to, but some or all of the audience may legitimately be baffled about what they're getting at. You can't unilaterally scream obscenities at someone and then call them out as tone policing when they (or your allies) tell you to stop.

==Abuse of the term==
[[File:2014-09-19-1062sea.png|right|thumb|200px|[[Just asking questions|Sea lions]] seek out polite discussions all the time.]]
If you tread on someone's toes and they tell you to get off, then get off their toes. Don't tell them to "ask nicely".

The phrase "tone trolling" itself can be (and has been<ref>"[https://www.dailydot.com/geek/benjanun-sriduangkaew-revealed-to-be-troll-requires-hate-winterfox/ Acclaimed sci-fi writer exposed as notorious Internet troll]", ''DailyDot''</ref>) used to excuse verbally abusing one's opponents, so be careful who you accuse of doing it. Two common responses when it's deployed on you:
#First, make sure that you are participating in an actual [[rhetorical]] [[debate]] that both you and your opponent have consented to. Then, make sure that you either have your arguments together or the opponent is not debating in good faith. Bonus points for both, since it can backfire if your own allies contradict you.
#[[Flame war|Light the flamethrowers]].

The first of these is probably more productive.

==See also==
*''[[Ad iram]]''
*[[New tone]]
*[[Style over substance]]
*[[Pathos gambit]]

==External links==
*[https://geekfeminism.fandom.com/wiki/Tone_argument Tone argument] (Geek Feminism wiki) &mdash; includes many, many examples of the argument's use on women
*[http://www.dcscience.net/2011/11/05/science-philosophy-and-religion-which-best-offers-us-the-tools-to-understand-the-world-around-us/ Science, philosophy and religion: which best offers us the tools to understand the world around us?] — in which David Colquhoun points out that sweet reason didn't get [[homeopathy]] out of UK universities, it took long and loud public ridicule

==Notes==
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==References==
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