Cope

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A '''cope''' or '''coping mechanism,''' is a psychological strategy whereby someone rejects a harsh truth, and adopts a less disturbing belief instead. They do this unconsciously, to prevent stress (cognitive dissonance) from occurring. People can ignore harsh truths, but not prevent the consequences that arise from ignoring them. The term "cope" is often a response to people who say things indicating they are out of touch with reality.

Two common coping mechanisms are sour grapes (devaluing something after learning that you cannot have it), and plain denial of facts.
==Example usages==
===Example 1===
'''John''': "I asked Kelly out, but she [[rejected]] me. But I ain't mad, she was an [[ugly]] bitch anyway. It's her loss!"

'''Peter''': "Cope. You obviously wanted to [[date]] her. Otherwise you wouldn't have asked her out."
===Example 2===
'''David''': "Yes, I lost both my legs in a car accident. After which I lost my [[Wagecuck|job]], which led to my [[wife]] leaving me. But in a way, my life is better now. I've learned to appreciate the little things in life."

'''Peter''': "You are coping hard my friend. You've been depressed ever since the car accident. Stop coping and [[acceptance|accept]] the harsh truth."
===Example 3===
'''Simon''': "Look bro, this guy got a girlfriend so therefore you can get one too."

'''Peter''': "Cope, that guy mogs me. If I was going to find a partner, I'd have made some sort of progress by now, after 30 years."
==Popularization by FaceAndLMS videos==
In his YouTube videos, [[FACEandLMS]] defined coping as investing conscious effort to interpret positively hardship in order to master, manage, and tolerate the stress or conflict said hardship provokes. It's a mentality wherein one seeks to self [[bluepill]] in order to be protected from a [[red pill|harsh realization]]. That realization may be that a situation is worse than one is telling oneself or that there is no real solution.
==Examples of coping==
*"Yeah I'm [[balding]], but I'm not past my prime, I read that men peak at 40."
*"The reason that girls reject me has nothing to do with my [[Heightpill|short height]]. Once my [[Careermaxxing|career]] is established [[Betabux|girls will line up for me]]."
*"I'm not getting any matches on [[Tinder]]. There must be some kind of bug, I hope they can fix it in the next update."
*"There is nothing wrong with being a [[virgin]], it's not like I'm missing out on much anyway, [[sex]] isn't all it's cracked up to be."
*"I could have sex whenever I wanted to, I'm just not interested in having a bunch of soulless, loveless [[casual sex]]."
*"If you just work on your [[personality]] and keep a positive attitude, you will find a nice girl eventually."
*"You should join a club and meet new people, even if you don't get laid or make any friends, it'll still be good practice."
*"Just focus on [[Improve yourself|improving yourself]] first, everything else will come on its own later."
*"If you're ugly you can try [[mewing]] to get a stronger jawline."
*“Sex is insincere and creepy anyway.”
*“[[Women]] talk [[heightpill|tall]]? At least you don't suffer from over-attention.”
*“[[Old age]] is a [[status]] symbol!”
*“[[Circumcision]] is more hygienic! Who needs foreskin anyway?”
===Coping people and website examples===
*“Motivation porn” Instagram account “life.gedankentanken” from Germany: [https://www.instagram.com/p/B6QGcA7gzmD/ “I ACCEPT MYSELF. Comment ‘yes’ if you like to manifest this phrase in you.”] – Acts as if [[acceptance]] of being permanently confined to disabilities or low genetic quality were easy, while it is next to impossible.
*Greta Silver (Germany): Elderly, 73 year old woman spreads the idea that the elderly years are the exciting years of life (translated using Google Translate): “Welcome to my blog. If you want to know who I am, why there is zest for life and what makes me burn for my idea that old age is an exciting time and zest for life is easy to learn - then read on here.”, despite the elderly years being actually the unhealthiest, least potent, most disabled, most mortal and most diseaseful years of life.<ref name="oldage">[https://twitter.com/CircumCrippled/status/1203311140022960128 Tweet by gerascophobic intactivist @CircumCrippled describing the elderly years as ''“shitty, disabled, impotent, vigorless, bitter, deaf, ill, crappy, dement, cancerous years”'', which is biologically correct.]</ref> Greta Silver made that claim on no logical or rational basis, because there is none.
==References==
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== See also ==
*[[List of mental gymnastics for coping with unpleasant realities]]
*[[COPE or ROPE]]
*[[Cope society]]
*[[Acceptance]]
*[[Hobby]]
==External link==
*[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6aq0eGdHMkA WAW1.4: How Men Cope With Not Being Goodlooking], [[FACEandLMS]], YouTube
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