Question: what do you say to a friend who lost their son?
Answer: An open-ended offer — such as “I'll do anything, just let me know” — likely won't work because the bereaved person won't want to ask for help, Kulkkula said, or might not even know what they need. Rather, make it more specific, such as “I'm bringing you a meal tonight, I'll be there at 6 o'clock.”