Question: what not to say to someone struggling with infertility?
Answer: Don't tell them to relax. Comments such as “just relax” create even more stress for the infertile couple, particularly the woman. ... 
Don't minimize the problem. ... 
Don't say there are worse things that could happen. ... 
Don't say they are not meant to be parents. ... 
Don't ask why they are not trying IVF.