Question: what to do when someone plays victim?
Answer: Step 1: Check Yourself and Drop the Label. “She is such a victim, I don't want to deal with her” or “victims are so draining”. ... 
Step 2: Validate don't resist. ... 
Step 3: Speak to and listen for commitment. ... 
Step 4: Incorporate the physical body. ... 
Step 5: Support action. ... 
Step 6: Follow up.