Question: what do you say to someone who is suffering?
Answer: Sharing their own reactions: "I'm so sorry, "I'm so angry," "I feel so helpless; I wish there was something I could do," or even "I don't know what to say." Creating space for your pain: "Do you want to talk about it?" "It's OK to cry," or, "We don't have to talk; I'm happy to just sit here with you."