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Timestamp | User ID of the person with a FetLife account who abused you: | FetLife nickname of the person who abused you: | How severe do you feel this violation is? | Abuse report: | Where did the abuse happen? | When did the abuse happen?
2012-10-26 22:51:56 | 1716784 | maymay | Severe | This person has made a social gathering place a hostile environment, repeatedly, by non-consentually and repeatedly dragging private information out into the public eye.  He is the rapist equivalent of a mass murerer.  He cares so little for anyone else's rights or privacy, and yet, calls foul whenever there is a hint that his own abuses might be shown to the world.  He repeatedly violates the rules and social conventions of that space.  I do hope, someday he becomes aware of how many people he has hurt, how many people he has chased away from possible education, and understanding, crippling them, as he claims to be crippled as a child. | fet life | repeatedly, daily
2012-10-27 07:57:59 | 1617545 | maymay | Severe | He has repeatedly gone out of his way to make a social environment hosile to me and mine by taking things that are or should be private, and dragging them nonconsensually into the greater public eye.  He violates my consent, on a global basis, like the rapisr equivalent of a mass murderer. | fet life | repeatedly, daily
2012-10-27 12:17:13 | 149561 | Abacus_Tsukei | Moderate | Bullied his way into joining the BDSM student group at his university, causing many female and FAAB members to drop out from discomfort; had a reputation for non-BDSM-related consent violations and for being a sexual predator on campus, including groping female students while they were intoxicated or unconscious and giving underage prospective students alcohol to get them drunk and then propositioning them for sex. | Annapolis, MD | 2011-2012
2012-10-27 23:35:30 | 573595 | hephaestus829 | Severe | When I was new to the scene, I briefly had a relationship with hephaestus829. During that relationship, he pressured me into having kinds of sex and play that I did not enjoy.  He had unprotected sex with others without my knowledge.When I discovered this, he gaslit my concerns about my boundaries and my health. After I ended the relationship, he sexually assaulted me while we were both sleeping over at a mutual friend's house. He got into the bed I was sharing with a female friend and put his hands under my pajamas, touching my back and genitals nonconsensually. He thought I was sleeping. I later found out that I wasn't the first person he abused this way; I met another one of his victims at a national kink convention. Their story was remarkably similar to mine. | Private residence, Baltimore, MD | September 2011
2012-10-29 18:18:39 | 555665 | SirRonC | Moderate | nonconsensual anal sex that caused bleeding | Baltimore MD | November 2011
2012-10-29 18:22:27 | 58297 | LawDog | Moderate | attempted to penetrate without a condom twice even after asking him to use one then had to physically fight him off when I resisted | private residential dungeon in DC | 2009ish
2012-10-31 09:52:59 | 173562 | Ozme52 | Minor | Yelled at me at a munch. Not that there's an acceptable reason to yell at someone at a munch, but he yelled at me for no reason. I no longer attend local munches because of this.   At the same munch he also did that acupressure squeeze thing on another attendee's thumb-webbing without her permission. Ostensibly he was trying to help her with a headache but he never asked to touch her, & the acupressure squeeze hurt her, she wasn't expecting it, & he didn't seem to care about her feelings (or mine) in the slightest.   I sent an email to a friend immediately after this incident. Here's the text c-&-p'ed:  ----------------------- Mar 12  So, Oz yelled at me the other night.  I went to the game night / munch. Was talking to M___ about diet stuff & Oz interjected himself into the convo to tell her she needed to take a folate supplement for her high blood pressure, doing the dismissive no-no-no thing to my suggestion that she could just eat more fruits & veggies. When I tried to rebut his shut down about the fruits & veggies he roared at me, can I just get one word in edgewise, or something similar. I was shocked. Nobody seemed to notice. I was icy towards him the rest of the night.  That was a line crossed. I'll not willingly share the same social space with him anymore ...  I've never seen him yell before, it was really strange, like sudden onset dementia that vanishes just as fast. But I recognized that it was abusive behavior. It was definitely the kind of boundary testing stuff that abusers use to figure out who they can get away with what when & how. I also think that he may have finally figured out I have him blocked on Fet & this may have been his indirect / subconscious communication about that?  Anyways, yeah. &. I don't particularly feel like making a fuss about this to the locals, tho' on the off chance he should show up at something I'm organizing I'll kick his ass out & be very clear that he's made himself anathema to me . .. .  & in a sorta unrelated note, later at the party, this other woman (& it felt like Oz didn't like her to begin with, frankly, he kept directing a certain amount of annoyance at her) was having a headache. Oz insisted she give him her hand (not asking, I carefully note, insisting). Then he did that accupressure bit between the thumb & forefinger, but it hurt her & she made a big fuss. I pointed out to him that I have arthritis in my thumb joints so bad that if he'd've done it to me, I'd've punched him, & I'm hip to that acupressure thing, use it all the time.  He's a little out-of-control.  Plus he was doing that I'm-the-dom-running-everything-&-having-to-be-the-center-of-attention-all-the-time thing. -------------------------------------- | Chico, CA | evening of March 12, 2012
2012-11-04 12:22:00 | 942215 | Taisdealach | Minor | When my friend was having a panic attack, told her he was acting on the authority of her Mistress to take care of her, which he wasn't.  [NAME] tried to get her to kiss him, despite her clear insistence that she didn't want to. | The Fires of Lughnasadh (in Redmond) | July, 2012
2012-11-06 14:26:43 | 91219 | Greywolfe | Minor | Greywolfe feels entitled to the bodies and servitude of others. He is one of those who feels that all women are submissive and all submissives must be submissive towards him. He has repeated made pass on myself and others who have told him repeatedly that we don't like it and don't want it.  He has told myself (a switch) that I have no authority because of my enjoyment of submission on occasion. Further, he has told female dominants in the community that they look nicer at his feet. I have yet to hear of a case where he has been anything more than pushy, manipulative, and creepy, but he sends out all sorts of red flag vibes. Just be careful. | Windsor, Ontario | Ongoing
2012-11-07 19:15:42 | 654112 | TheRigger | Moderate | Failed to discuss boundaries and limits before engaging in BDSM with a vulnerable individual who he knew was new to BDSM. Mislead the individual as to his intentions and encouraged them into a restrained position, then took the situation to a level that had not been agreed upon. Agreeing to one activity =/= blanket consent.   Later exploited the newness of another individual to get away with non-consensually acting upon the fantasies this individual had admitted to having. Expressing a fantasy =/= consent. | UK | 2011
2012-11-07 19:21:05 | 191485 | MayaTekla | Moderate | Touched my exposed breasts without asking, and without having any reason to believe I had consented to it. Generally poor with personal space and personal boundaries. Can be very presumptive as to acceptable levels of physical contact. | UK | 2011-2012
2012-11-07 19:29:25 | 185000 | _[NAME] | Minor | Seeks to exert dominance over women who identify as submissive (or who he perceives to be submissive women) that he is not involved with. Often patronising and uses diminutive terms such as 'girl' to refer them. | UK | 2011-2012
2012-11-08 12:05:59 | 1716784 | maymaym | Minor | Viciously attacks anyone who disagrees with him or criticizes him on the internet. If they annoy him badly enough, he outs them and says they deserve to be outed because they weren't understanding what it was he was trying to say.   Refuses to listen to what anyone else has to say unless it fits his specialized agenda and perspective. Has a particular grudge against female sex workers and male dominants. DO NOT ENGAGE. | the internet | recurring
2012-11-08 18:15:37 | 185000 | _[NAME] | Severe | have witnessed him punch his sub fill in the face at a club in a chill out area because she didnt want needle play .. preys on  the vulnerable unsafe needle player | birmingham | 2011
2012-11-08 18:16:58 | 1031400 | Olivander | Severe | has been convicted of a sexual case involving a minor which he has served a  prison sentence for | Buckinghamshire | December 2011
2012-11-08 18:18:52 | 654112 | TheRigger | Severe | made a total [NAME] throw up at his munch ( that he openly states is for him to pick up new subs) when he tied her up and then non consentually put a hitachi on her pubic bone | MKFN | sept 2011
2012-11-08 18:21:45 | 191485 | MayaTekla | Minor | very free with his hands has overstepped the line with several women groping them when not invited | MKFN and [NAME] | 2011/2012
2012-11-09 10:31:54 | 1716784 | Maymaym | Severe | Uses stalker and intimidation tactics against at least one former sex partner. | Online | Ongoing.
2012-11-09 11:17:13 | 1234515 | shutupjustshutup | Severe | He was my boyfriend at the time. He had known for months that I had a severe anxiety disorder and sometimes needed to take prescription Ativan/Lorazepam to the point that I was almost completely sedated. I had a severe panic attack one evening and took enough of these (at least 3 MG) that I could hardly move or talk. While I was waiting for this effect to kick in and crying my ass off on his couch, he actually seemed sympathetic and seemed to be trying to make me feel better. Obviously I assumed that I would be fine sleeping it all off in his bed at his apartment (I did not live there). But, he decided that since I was unable to consent or fight back, and he may have also thought I wouldn't realize what was happening (I was 100% aware of what was happening, but I was hardly able to speak or move as I said), he came in and sexually assaulted me. He flat out took advantage of me while he figured he could get away with it. Luckily there was no vaginal penetration, but he was sitting on top of me during this and I remember CLEARLY that I DID muster up enough energy to tell him to STOP numerous times, and that I COULDN'T FUCKING BREATHE. He just ignored me and continued on until he was done, and I was gasping for air through the whole ordeal (I'm a frail, average sized girl, he is much bigger and heavier than me and was sitting right on my mid section and my arms were also pinned at my sides I think). Afterwards when I was finally able to get up and talk clearly, I told him that he assaulted me and he tried to act like I was the one in the wrong. Two excuses he used were "I couldn't control myself so you can't blame me" and also tried to turn the tables by saying something like "how do you think I feel!? Don't you know how bad I feel about this!?". Unfortunately, there were no witnesses and I never bothered to file a report... I was fairly in shock/denial, and this scumbag constantly barraging me with "it's not a big deal, I said I was sorry, it's all better now, you're overreacting" did NOT HELP. I had seen my psychiatrist shortly after this incident, and I was so in denial that I didn't even tell her exactly what happened, but she would actually have the exact date in her notes and that I was obviously distraught.  I don't expect this guy to use fetlife in the future (hasn't logged in in a long time), but just in case, please know he is apparently a misogynist psycho. He is belligerent and will come up with any insane thing to make him feel like he isn't accountable for his actions. I was so afraid of him after that, when I dumped him, I had to get some things of mine from his apartment with a friend accompanying me. I honestly thought it was dangerous for me to go back to his apartment alone. | Halifax, Nova Scotia | Winter 2012
2012-11-09 13:34:59 | 12938 | Stricturism | Severe | There are many incidents of consent violation that I can report (including those of other FetLifers) but I will post the most personal and severe. When we were in a relationship, he asked me to have sex. I clearly and repeatedly stated that I did not want to have sex because him, his (then) wife, and I agreed not to have sex for a specific amount of time. He then asked if we could at least watch a movie in the nude together. Before I agreed, I very specifically stated that I would only do it if it would not include sex or any other sexual contact. Shortly after we begin spooning to watch the movie, he pins me down and began to fondle my genitals, even after I clearly and repeatedly told him stop and no. Periodically while he touched me, he would ask me, "How about now?" To which I continued to reply no and stop. (At one point, I even said, "What about <Wife's name>?" To which he replied, "But what about what I want?" Eventually, he stopped asking me and told me to shut up. He tried to penetrate me but I would physically inch away from him (I could barely move. He was much heavier and stronger than me. I don't know what stopped him from penetrating me. Perhaps because he knew it would escalate what he was doing from a lesser charge to a RAPE charge if I decided to report it to the authorities. But the why isn't really relevant.) He is a TNG group leader. I informed my local community leaders and the most prominent and active groups unanimously and independently asked him to step down in the best interest of the community. When he refused, they agreed to exclude HIM from community functions and his group is no longer sanctioned as a safe place by the community leaders (and a new TNG group has been started). None of the local presenters will participate in his group either. When all was said and done, 7 independent women came forward with reports of unsafe play and/or consent violations (sexual and otherwise). | Private residence | April 2010
2012-11-10 07:50:25 | 38110 | MsUnlimited | Severe | A rape that occurred in her home while playing.  [NAME] was passed out, husband was not home at the time.  Consent was unable to be revoked due to drugs that had been given to the victim by the rapist. | Columbus, OH | 2011
2012-11-11 07:13:50 | 38110 | MsUnlimited | Severe | When playing, she began calling me "Dad" and saying things like "this is what you get" before hitting and drawing blood.  Her husband was away so no one heard me yell my safe word.  She had this distant look on her face the whole time.  A few days later she told me she had blacked out and didn't remember a thing. | Columbus, OH | 2012
2012-11-11 22:39:32 | ff121241 | Philip_the_Foole | Severe | Philip_the_Foole put his hand over my mouth as I was tied up and he and a friend were punching me in the ribs. I kept safewording, but he would say things like"I'll interpret for you; is that the best you can do, you wuss?"  The other man was a photographer, by the name of [NAME], but it was [NAME] who would not let me speak and held me while I was punched by both of them.  My ribs were cracked and I was in bed several days, unable to take care of my children or work. | Sanctuary for the Lifestyle Arts, Dallas, Texas | February,2005 at night
2012-11-15 17:09:33 | 152476 | thenaturalking | Severe | Stalking, not honoring boundaries, mental abuse , harrassment | Providence , RI | On going  to many different people
2012-11-16 15:17:16 | 1621 | MasterDamien | Moderate | MasterDamien groped my ass, thighs and genitals without my consent while I was getting anally penetrated on his fuck machine, in his "dungeon room" at his home. | [NAME], NB | 2011-09-17 00:00:00
2012-11-17 20:29:03 | 1951213 | creepyguy | Severe | Aaaaaa!!!! | 90210 | 1977
2012-11-19 19:52:14 | 31515 | Sunshinelove | Severe | Sunshine and her accomplice took naked pics of myself and a friend of mine that were supposed to be private and posted them to google without our consent. Her and her accomplice gloated over this misuse of private information. I and my friend could have easily lost our job because of this. There was no reason for it. | google | July 2012
2012-11-20 06:39:29 | 232876 | ErnestGreene | Severe | ErnestGreene is well known serial rapist. He has used his connections in the film industry to lure in a number of women, including a very close friend of mine. When asked about it, he will tell people that he never raped anyone, that it was something he was doing for a movie. Luckily, he is getting to old to continue doing this, but one should still be aware that he is a dangerous person. Do no allow him to tie you up. | [NAME] | about 3 years ago
2012-11-22 20:30:09 | 517349 | Kaarg | Severe | This man has been convicted by the Norwegian government for having sex with his then foster daughter. He was convicted in 2010, and sentenced to two years in prison. That might not sound like much, but by Norwegian standards this is a relatively harsh punishment.   It should be noted that the foster daughter was an adult when they started having sex, and that the sex was consensual. According to her testimony she had sex with him because she was grateful to have found a good foster home, and because she was afraid of losing the good relationship she had with her foster family. | Norway | 2000-2009
2012-11-23 08:39:03 | 1305 | DarkAngel_64 | Severe | He lied and ripped of $30,000 from the Ontario Community Made promises about his camping convention that he didn't keep.  The worse one being there would be flush toilets...there wasn't. The portapotties he did supply were only cleaned every 2 days..shit piled so high, if you say down, you sat in someones else's shit | London, Ontario | 2009
2012-11-23 20:01:59 | 575863 | MYu | Severe | Attempted rape during a three hour paid massage/acupunture/mentoring session, ~summer 2010.  I'm a top, there was absolutely no reason for him to have thought this was OK.  He was staying at a hotel in town to try and raise money to get out from under his supposedly abusive ex-girlfriend; I believed he was sincere about being afraid of her and was glad to help as well as benefit from his skill.   [NAME] says he has a history of seeing what he can get away with (to the point where he is considred a serial rapist) once someone's tied up or in subspace that's gone on at least as far back as when he lived in Austin. | Seattle, WA | Summmer 2010
2012-11-26 22:18:08 | 121241 | Philip_the_Foole | Severe | Philip_the_Foole held me and he and an acquaintance were he punching me in the ribs. I kept safewording, saying "STOP" but he clapped his hand over my mouth and said that he was "interpreting."   He would say things like"I'll interpret for you; is that the best you can do, you wuss?"  The other man was a photographer, but it was [NAME] who would not let me speak and held me while I was punched by both of them.  I was injured by his impulsive, non-consensual actions. My ribs were cracked and I had to stay in bed several days. | Sanctuary, Dallas, Texas | February, 2005 at night
2012-12-02 19:55:52 | 12141 | Philip_the_Foole | Severe | Predator [NAME] (UPDATE) Please Read!!!!!  I received this e-mail from another group leader about a potentially dangerous individual; he has been banned from their group and will not be allowed into ours.  I want to pass along information on a predator to you. Phillip the Foole has come back to this area. He is an older gentleman, is very charming, manipulative, and dangerous. He has put people in the hospital, attacked people at play parties, and is sociopathic. He was banned from the previous Wichita Falls group years ago and until recently, has stayed away. The Dallas scene is "onto him" and so he came back. He has recently been banned from all the Wichita Falls groups(his hometown) and will no doubt be trying to find another place to look for victims. We think he will try your group, possibly OKC and then [NAME] as well. I am just trying to get the word out to as many people as I can. He is dangerous and uncontrollable. He is so very good at what he does. This is an honest plea to you: To keep your group safe, please keep this man away.  He is an older man, wears glasses, and has a distinct hearing problem  and uses it to draw in potential victims.. Almost deaf so there will be lots of repeating going on. He could change his name, but his ego will not let him. Here is a link to a shot of him on his profile: https://fetlife.com/users/121241/pictures/477310  He usually prefers older women who are alone, but he is bi and will prey on anyone he thinks he can charm. He is very intelligent and as I said before: charming.  Thank you for taking this seriously and be careful.  Be careful! This is one of the reasons to be in a group, not only for being social, but for safety. | [NAME], Texas | 2005 to 2012
2012-12-07 08:50:41 | 1889861 | [NAME] | Severe | http://trashycathy.tumblr.com/post/[PHONE]/this-guy-raped-me-the-other-night-im-just-now       This guy raped me the other night. I’m just now able to sit down without any type of pain and I’ve stopped bleeding.     I know his name is something like [NAME] (he told me his name was [NAME], but I saw his military ID).     He’s in the navy, stationed on base in Everett, Washington.     Any and all information you can get me is more than appriciated.     Please help. I refuse to be a fucking victim.      DON’T trust this man.      I’m looking for help. His number is [PHONE]. He’s 22.      His name on fetlife is mastersailor345  === His full name is [NAME], originally from Oklahoma. He is in the Navy. | Everett WA | Dec 5-6
2012-12-07 16:03:31 | 277648 | Mr_Daz | Severe | As barely a teenager, this man groomed, abused and raped me over an extended period of 3 years. He would force himself on me, convince me that no one else loved me or cared about me, and that he would kill himself and his children if I were to try and escape. If I ever refused he would physically abuse me until I complied with his wishes. It came to my attention over a year later through a visit from the police that he had admitted to sleeping with three minors and had been charged with it. This was only 4 years ago. | [NAME] and Stockport, UK | October 4th, 2004 until April 2007
2012-12-09 20:10:33 | 1661939 | Nuts4daBPDguy | Severe | joined group under fake profile | Helmand,Afghanistan | 5 moths ago
2012-12-10 11:17:50 | 1097970 | leftout | Minor | Sent random friend request, neglected to read profile before sending request. | Online | 2012-12-10 00:00:00
2012-12-10 18:44:29 | 871350 | Lasghand-Jinxy81 | Severe | Animal abuse. Animal crush. Non-consent. | Alamo, Texas, USA | Ongoing.
2012-12-10 18:48:33 | 1631340 | forgottenjewel | Severe | Animal abuse and live animal crush. Non consent. | USA | Ongoing.
2012-12-10 18:50:52 | 1539144 | MilindaMascaro | Severe | Animal abuse. Live animal crush. Non-consent. | USA | Ongoing.
2012-12-10 19:12:39 | 1540447 | TarraEveans | Severe | Live animal crush. Animal abuse. | USA | Ongoing.
2012-12-10 20:28:55 | 1094397 | NylonFeet4MyMeat | Severe | Profile contains live animal crush images. Animal abuse. | USA | Ongoing.
2012-12-11 12:43:15 | 11258 | d_k_ | Severe | Thinking FAADE is a great example of the worst of the bdsm community | Internationally | As soon as he found out about this pathetic idea
2012-12-11 13:07:46 | 11258 | d_k_ | Severe | It just happened | New York | Tomorrow
2012-12-11 13:08:58 | 11258 | d_k_ | Severe | He took one of my chocolate pop-tarts and took over 24 hours to replace it!!!! | UK | 2 weeks ago
2012-12-11 13:09:57 | 11258 | d_k_ | Severe | Laughed at my pain over him stealing my pop-tart | My Lounge | 1 min ago
2012-12-11 13:11:06 | 1 | JohnBaku | Severe | Why not? | Why not? | Why not?
2012-12-11 13:31:06 | 1158090 | Tai-Dachi | Minor | being to dam good with a whip! | space | in space
2012-12-11 13:43:08 | 11258 | d_k_ | Severe | Set up a campaign to break FAADE thinking it one of the worst ideas ever. | the end of the couch | right now
2012-12-11 14:52:04 | 25432 | pigtails_32 | Severe | having stupid pigtails | Fetlife | anytime
2012-12-11 14:52:30 | 1087361 | Domiguy | Severe | I don't even want to talk about it. | Chicago's most famous gloryhole | October
2012-12-11 14:54:06 | 388590 | anguissette_dia | Severe | Constantly distracts people with tight corsets and fantastic tits | many places | not often enough
2012-12-11 14:54:55 | 1588388 | talltemptation | Severe | She is too damn sexy!! | My house | tonight
2012-12-11 14:58:20 | 25432 | pigtails_32 | Severe | being cooler than me and taking the words out of my mouth, so i don't get to say the snarky things | Anywhere | Constantly
2012-12-11 14:58:23 | 40417 | O_3 | Moderate | HE TOUCHED MY BUTT BEFORE I SIGNED THE GODDAMN RELEASE FORM | internet | he's still touching it right now
2012-12-11 15:02:46 | 1007875 | fiestysub68 | Moderate | fiesty scared the crap out of me when she drove off the edge of a car park, where the car ended up having to bounced off the ledge. | Bedford, UK | 20/09/12 17:35
2012-12-11 15:03:42 | 1588388 | talltemptation | Severe | And having lovely boobies!! | Whever she wants | Yes please
2012-12-11 15:03:42 | 1087361 | Domiguy | Severe | likes wearing pigatils | Fetlife | anytime
2012-12-11 15:04:31 | 654112 | TheRigger | Severe | For being too hairy......have a shave you scruffy bugger!  lol | His house | Later hopefully :)
2012-12-11 15:04:48 | 1358815 | Chocomel | Severe | Reported me before I could report him | Online | Today
2012-12-11 15:05:15 | 39387 | GreatWhiteSnark | Severe | Likes cats a bit too much. And he is funnier than me | just now! | ?
2012-12-11 15:07:57 | 1358815 | Chocomel | Severe | She has boobs | dwd | [NAME]
2012-12-11 15:08:08 | 1358815 | Chocomel | Minor | Telling me to report a consent violation before I consented to being asked to do anything for her | fetlife | right now
2012-12-11 15:09:05 | 130186 | submischievous | Severe | she's too nice to me | today | 6pm
2012-12-11 15:09:09 | 39387 | GreatWhiteSnark | Severe | HE IS NONCONSENSUALLY FILLING UP MY ENTIRE FEED WITH TOO MANY STUPID PICTURES | FETLIFE | ALL DAY EVERY DAY, GET A JOB YOU HOBO
2012-12-11 15:09:59 | 1053286 | MissBehaviour13 | Severe | [NAME] poop! | wdewd | [NAME]
2012-12-11 15:12:37 | 130186 | submischievous | Severe | This redheaded lady keeps trying to turn me into a lesbian. I told her more than once that I was not interested...she still tries. | online | since i've been on fetlife
2012-12-11 15:15:19 | 1053286 | MissBehaviour13 | Severe | made my straight girl vagina wet | all the time | all the time
2012-12-11 15:18:50 | 1158090 | Tai-Dachi | Moderate | has a huge weapon of mass distraction... | united kingdom | november 30th 2012
2012-12-11 15:21:14 | 37287 | Helen_Back | Severe | For being too much of a bird and flirting with me. | Everytime we meet | All the time
2012-12-11 15:23:44 | 37287 | Helen_Back | Moderate | This should be noticed about this person that she makes one great hostess at the [NAME] munch, that happens every third Thursday of the month. | at the Barley Mow | every second thursday of the month
2012-12-11 15:31:19 | 37287 | Helen_Back | Severe | opps the mnch is on the third Thursday of the mont | Bedford, UK | every third Thursday of the month
2012-12-11 15:33:16 | 297919 | fori | Severe | Thinks consent violations are funny | FetLife | 3:30pm 12/11/12
2012-12-11 15:33:26 | 25432 | pigtails_32 | Moderate | General disdain | On the interwebz | Daily
2012-12-11 15:34:56 | 1 | JohnBaku | Severe | Loving photos on the daily that are honestly so-so | Cunukistan | Daily, usually in the evening (probably by his girlfriend)
2012-12-11 15:42:55 | 192953 | ghostpuppy | Severe | STEALING MY HEART | time/space continum | Too often to count
2012-12-11 15:46:42 | 1671461 | Princess_Gnorga | Severe | She has nice tits and nonconsensually makes me look at them every day. | In my house. | Every fucking day.
2012-12-11 16:07:54 | 25432 | pigtails_32 | Severe | Thinks consent violations are "awesome."  LOOK OUT PEOPLE, PIGTAILS_32 IS THE WORST KIND OF "PERSON." Only a monster would think that the violation of someone else's consent is "awesome" or hilarious. This is the kind of person that takes glee in the misfortune of others and obviously has NO CONSCIENCE WHATSOEVER. People who don't understand empathy for other people are the most likely people to become SERIAL KILLERS. I urge those in her local community to stay away from this potentially dangerous sociopath. | Fetlife | 2012-12-11 00:00:00
2012-12-11 16:33:37 | 11258 | d_k_ | Severe | Keeps buying my pets on the Tagged game "Pets"! | Tagged Website | Constantly
2012-12-11 16:37:03 | 40417 | O_3 | Severe | He beat me at [NAME] and hurt my soul. | Albuquerque, NM | Every day
2012-12-11 16:39:17 | 1007875 | fiestysub68 | Severe | She is slimmer than me. I did NOT consent to this. I demand she stops this instant. | In photos | Today
2012-12-11 16:44:59 | 1265161 | twiggle | Severe | Has a HUGE fluffy bunny that takes up half of the bedroom floorspace | her bedroom | Today
2012-12-11 16:47:05 | 1265161 | twiggle | Severe | not only does hse have the large one, but several more of varying size that always seem to be in the way | EVERYDAMNWHERE! | ALLTHEFREAKINTIME
2012-12-11 16:49:36 | 1339661 | da-kitteh-thief | Severe | Annoying as all bloody fuck | Everywhere | Fetlife
2012-12-11 17:03:50 | 349096 | Hays | Moderate | He writes better than I do and has better taste in music than me.  This monster must be stopped. | Fetlife | At least once a week
2012-12-11 17:06:25 | 25432 | pigtails_32 | Severe | Thinks that ^^^ is pretty funny | On her profile | 2012-12-11 00:00:00
2012-12-11 17:32:36 | 437043 | Alethiometer | Severe | Made my brain hurt with trying to comprehend levels of stupidity outside of my normal range. | Fetlife | To traumatised to be sure
2012-12-11 17:38:15 | 799555 | Parilia | Severe | He has a tendency to prey on the very naive, inexperienced and young (18-19 age bracket, younger than his own children) who enter the fetish scene | UK | ongoing
2012-12-11 17:42:35 | 799555 | Parilia | Severe | Has his wife act as his pimp to lure in unsuspecting submissives, so he can engage in sexual intercourse, Cock rules his head. Don't believe him if he states he is in a stable relationship with his wife. You may end up with baggage. | UK | ongoing
2012-12-11 17:45:22 | 799555 | Parilia | Severe | Was witnessed play with someone at a local play event. When they went into subspace he failed to put in the correct aftercare and left the person hanging from the cross like apparatus. Others had to come to her rescue. Not a safe player | Local event | Early 2012
2012-12-11 21:00:27 | 32337 | [NAME] | Severe | Has a penis. Obvious abuser. | Everywhere | Patriarchy
2012-12-11 21:02:20 | 555314 | IAMDUMPLYN | Moderate | Says she is a DUMPLYN, isn't really. False advertising. | fetlife | forever
2012-12-11 21:03:18 | 981386 | Sydney_University | Severe | Nonconsensually stealing peoples' personal information for research purposes. | Sydney University | Ongoing
2012-12-11 21:22:30 | 2011413 | DUCKYPOOP | Moderate | He touched my poop! | Fetlife | Just now
2012-12-11 23:40:42 | 1840785 | Cain_n_Abel | Severe | His brother violated my pussy! | in the backyard | 25 years ago
2012-12-12 01:17:52 | 654112 | TheRigger | Severe | To who ever made the above abuse accusations, would be interested in see what evidence you have to prove your accusations. Looking at the date of the said accusations it seems you have something festering about something I seem to have done to you. I am prepared to offer you an opportunity to be an adult come discuss this with me face to face, rather than play the school playground game. Lets have a chat to put some closure on what ever is bugging you. The alternative is to allow this to continue festering in you and destroy your soul, on my part I am not going to give this "rent free" space in my head.  To all that know me if you wish to believe above accusations - hey ho | UK | ongoing at time this was published
2012-12-12 10:13:02 | 1722024 | little_sami | Severe | Is so short I get a sore neck looking at her | everywhere she goes | constantly
2012-12-12 11:22:32 | 1722024 | little_sami | Severe | Posted pic of one girl one cone that I first noticed just before eating | on da internetz | when i wanted my supper
2012-12-12 15:24:33 | 435389 | pipkin | Moderate | This pippish kin queefed in my direction and never apologized. | Fetland | Between 1873 and 2078
2012-12-12 15:37:56 | 715251 | darkangels66669 | Severe | This "man" goes through the newer subs of both sexes, as well as convincing the newest Dom/mes that they are not good enough without his mentoring. He likes to act like he knows everything about everything, but he consistently violates the most basic ideas, like cleaning toys properly, rigging people properly for their weight, and sleeping with his mentees.  He sleeps his way through the newest female subs, uses people until they drift away jaded with the lifestyle, and tells everyone it is never his fault  His relationship with his wife is never stable, even if they say it is. Every couple of months they will have a huge problem, they'll unfruend each other, and then a week later be all back to normal.  Worst of all, they have had their kids in the house during a play party, awake and screaming, with guests circulating throughout the house unobserved. I saw this for myself. Appalling. When I brought it up, I was told I was stirring shit and asked to not come back.  They don't give a shit about consent, respect, or even exchanging ideas. They only care about sex, looking good, and fronting for their "playparties". | "The Schoolhouse" GF, ND | Every month for the past year.
2012-12-12 18:35:05 | 1927355 | VelveteenRabid | Moderate | She non-consensually farted on a Cybermat. | Just outside the TARDIS. | 1972
2012-12-13 06:49:26 | 1619687 | ClanSnarkyPants | Severe | being entirely too ropy and clannish also TARTAN | Fetlife | ongoing
2012-12-13 17:47:29 | 407945 | beginagain | Severe | Makes my mouth water for his cock | In my fuck hole mouth | so so often
2012-12-14 10:24:46 | 654112 | TheRigger | Severe | He was part of the MKFN crew and made an awesome first birthday happen. | Pink Punters | 13.12.12
2012-12-14 10:27:59 | 1588388 | talltemptation | Severe | Seriously smoking hot. She made my knees go wobbly. I'm pretty sure I didn't consent to fancying her. ;) | pink punters | 13.12.12
2012-12-14 22:23:43 | 608 | [NAME] | Severe | photoshop | fetlife | ongoing
2012-12-14 23:19:12 | 574399 | maymay | Severe | This person constantly has shit coming out of their mouth. Someone could easily be injured by the speed at which the shit is spewing forth. | NY | every day
2012-12-15 10:25:20 | 191485 | MayaTekla | Moderate | MayaTekla is, frankly, a bit of a sex pest. He coerced me into sleeping with him, he refused to wear a condom and ended up getting me pregnant!! And since I'm a man I can only conclude that he has some pretty powerful spunk!! Also he ruined me for other men... | Uk | not long ago...
2012-12-15 17:23:11 | 2020303 | GoddessVenice | Moderate | Crossposting amongst many many groups on Fetlife, in violations of the TOU, looking for online dominance, and based on her profile (Assuming she doesn't edit it) ProDomme situations. | Fetlife | 2012-12-15 00:00:00
2012-12-15 18:59:42 | 350672 | [NAME] | Severe | False Claims of Rape, a serious coke habit.  She has been a pretty serious coke-whore, going to the lengths of arranged to be the center piece of numerous gang bangs. After she has comes down,  she has made claims of being raped by several people.  She has even gone as far as detailing her harrowing "rapes" on fetlife in one of her writing posts.  When she has been encouraged to get the police involved, she has adamantly refused, Even to the point of ending friendships with people who have attempted to confront her accused rapists. Steer clear of her. Very little of the hard luck story she gives you has any truth to it at all. | Numerous Places | Current
2012-12-16 03:42:35 | 654112 | TheRigger | Severe | I think you will find that the person that threw up on that occasion, has thrown up at other events on more than one occasion. | [NAME] | Septemberish 2011
2012-12-16 13:48:13 | 980235 | -BACON- | Severe | Dude made me fat and clogged my arteries. Bastard! | My Kitchen mostly | Ever since I realised I could eat -BACON- whenever I wanted.
2012-12-17 02:05:46 | 1112488 | Sphvinx | Minor | She is just too yummy and nice.  I want to play with her forever. | Mainly between her boobs. | When?
2012-12-17 02:11:44 | 49781 | T5Tart | Moderate | I have witnessed several violations by this man including leaving an unconscious girl in the middle of a club - no aftercare. | [NAME] | Last year.
2012-12-17 03:01:48 | 1158090 | Tai-Dachi | Minor | Did you put the other two on yourself?  That has to be some sort of offense? | [NAME] | Now!!
2012-12-17 08:41:20 | 901509 | Winkie | Severe | In this man there is too much niceness for one person. | UK | ongoing
2012-12-17 08:44:37 | 191324 | [NAME] | Severe | Her baking will make you put on weight - she is one good cake maker | UK | all the time
2012-12-17 08:54:58 | 315314 | AdrianneSpring | Severe | She is  DANGER to other road users - especially those driving - she will distract you with her sexiness | Vancouver | 2012
2012-12-17 12:31:56 | 1113438 | powergen-italia | Severe | For having such rough and rampant sex that he knocks non-consenting radiators off the wall!!! | The Bedroom | A while ago
2012-12-18 18:46:30 | 21490 | Noctra_Corvus | Severe | He raped me.  we'd dated twice - maybe three times - and hadn't negotiated anything. A little kissing, which wasn't particularly good... a bit of camming... I went to his house to get something back I let him borrow, and he threw me on the bed. When I begged him to stop, he accused me of topping from the bottom; when I begged him to use a condom, he said he'd already stuck it in so it didn't matter anyway. DO NOT BE ALONE WITH THIS MAN. | portland, Oregon | June 2008
2012-12-18 23:40:55 | 2017556 | CattusCestriae | Minor | Likes to spam inboxes | FetLife | 2012-12-18 00:00:00
2012-12-19 19:59:55 | 1048810 | KyleStylez | Severe | unfathomable stupidity | fetlife | ongoing
2012-12-24 07:35:16 | 12938 | Stricturism | Severe | Stricturism uses his bigness and blackness to attract women and then ties them up, has his way with them, and sends them home with a smile ;) | His house | Repeatedly!
2012-12-25 09:06:02 | 532802 | Obsydian | Severe | He attempted to hijack a sausage ball from my plate on Christmas. ON CHRISTMAS!!!! This is definitely a severe abuse of my plate and hunger. | HERE | 2012-12-25 00:00:00
2012-12-26 15:20:57 | 532802 | Obsydian | Severe | He ate all the brownies!!! | In my Kitchen | Just YESTERDAY!!!
2012-12-27 09:53:24 | 1380 | KayLovelay | Severe | [NAME] routinely accuses people she has been in past relationships with as "horrible abusers" when they break up with her.  I know of at least one person who is taking her to court because of lies she has told to the community. | Online | HSe has been lying for quite some time.
2012-12-29 03:53:42 | 955170 | CoffeeStain | Severe | This person threatened to "Out me to the community for misconduct" if I did not do favors for her.  After refusing to placate her I later found out she was going behind my back to event staff trying to have me exiled. | Las Vegas | April 2012
2012-12-29 03:58:48 | 385524 | par_tgirl | Severe | User tried forcing their sexuality on me in public.  I was almost outed to my vanilla peers which could have cost me my job and respect in my casual social life.  When confronted about this she blocked me and refused to acknowledge any wrong doing on the matter. | Las Vegas, NV | May 2012
2012-12-29 04:23:57 | 650726 | EmeraldCityAlice | Severe | Repeatedly harassed me through my email and on the forums.  This person is well known for her power hungry nature.  Many people have mentioned privately that she is incompetent to hold a position of leadership.  Someone is going to get into a lot of trouble because of her incompetence if more people do not start speaking up. | Las Vegas, NV | April 2012
2012-12-29 04:38:58 | 894412 | StrangestAngel | Severe | User harassed me outside of [NAME]'s.  I asked her to calm down but she than proceeded to have an outrage telling everybody I was out to get her.  Nobody I knew of took her seriously but I later found out she was gossiping to other members behind my back.  She is highly suggestible and easily manipulated, I suggest any other users keep their conversations online where you can keep a record of what gets said. | Las Vegas, NV | March 2012
2012-12-29 05:02:56 | 809240 | [NAME] | Severe | Tried to incite problems among fellow community members after I said a simple hello. | Texas | Summer 2012
2012-12-29 05:26:14 | 1568915 | The_Beat_Lab | Severe | Causes drama, over reacts, gullible as the day they were born.  These people should be kept in check, period. | Las Vegas, NV | Summer 2012
2012-12-29 06:16:41 | 1486686 | Curiousgirllv | Severe | User resorted to spreading drama after becoming paranoid over trivial discussion.  This user has shown herself to be gullible and easily controlled by those willing to be less than honest with others. | Las Vegas, NV | July 2012
2012-12-29 06:25:49 | 1625089 | tasteytreat22 | Severe | User threatened to libel me if I came forward about their rude behavior as well as their mistreatment of my friends.  I showed nothing but kindness and respect when she moved here but that did not seem to matter to her.  I chose to grin and bear it but in the end she only spread more problems as a result. | Las Vegas, NV | September 2012
2012-12-29 06:28:44 | 601229 | katH20 | Severe | should not be allowed to post pictures as she is to dam sexy | on fetlife | when posted last picture
2012-12-29 06:38:49 | 1603279 | MeZnD | Severe | User practiced unsafe practices at one of their prior events and created escalating conflict with several of the other members present.  Thankfully I have not introduced this user to anyone I know.  I advise against sharing anything about your real life with this person. | Las Vegas, NV | Summer 2012
2012-12-29 06:50:08 | 76480 | [NAME] | Severe | User became hostile over a simple complement on their profile.  This person also has a big mouth and a real lack of common sense. | Las Vegas, NV | September 2012
2012-12-29 07:10:22 | 675610 | The_Sex_Man | Severe | User spread malicious rumors which could have ruined my reputation had they not been caught in time.  This was most likely an attempt to get laid which thankfully did not work for this... person.  Watch him like a hawk | New York | October 2012
2012-12-29 07:18:38 | 449252 | Cordial_Cherry | Severe | User proceeded to spread rumors after a dispute on logistics too place on the site.  She made a haphazard attempt to sully my reputation which, THANKFULLY failed to work. | Texas | October 2012
2012-12-29 07:50:21 | 1864529 | Lil-peach | Severe | Created drama among her peergroup after responding to a classified posting.  Play it safe and save any dirty talk for when of if you exchange numbers. | Washington | November 2012
2012-12-29 15:26:28 | 130981 | Darkrico | Moderate | He is not safe to play with.  He lies about consent, and will harass you if given enough infomation. | [NAME] | July Aug 2012
2012-12-29 18:48:12 | 1787929 | sweetsinner12 | Severe | I have a stalker: https://fetlife.com/users/1787929 <--- Do not believe anything this woman says!! The more you do for her, the more cruel and hateful she gets. I took care of her son and helped support her and tried to get her help for her pills/alcohol. Now she says I was a con man and is following me around fetlife writing crazy things.   She almost killed myself and her son while hopelessly altered on God knows what on several occasions. She even tried to kill herself a couple of times. She repeatedly threw things at me and tried to punch/kick/hit me and now says that I was "abusive". When ever she is altered she thinks it's funny to tell you she's going to go and commit sexual indiscretions with the neighbor in exchange for drugs(and sometimes actually does). If it's not that, you'll have to all but physically restrain her in order to stop her from taking her little son into the automobile at 3am while loaded out of her mind.  If all of that was not enough, she tried to have me jailed and then did a sexual favor for someone in return for him coming to my hotel and trying to cause trouble with me. Thankfully, there were five of us and he left without incident, but wow.   When ever this woman ever claims to be sorry for something, she's just buying her way back any way she can in order to have an opportunity to inflict more pain or cause more problems. Any time she manages to cause an issue for you she will laugh in your face about it because she's a sociopath (literally).   She is also a pathological liar - after all of her lying, cheating, stealing and abuse of myself and her son - she is CONVINCED that I lied to her, stole from her and that I was abusive to her. It is how she lives with being what she is, as far as I can tell it is more convenient than facing down her inner demons and admitting to her abhorable behavior.  If you visit her- be ready to DEVELOP A TASTE FOR SILICONE (everywhere) AND HAIR EXTENSIONS AND REMEMBER TO HIDE YOUR WALLET AND PHONE and DO NOT BELIEVE A WORD she says BE PREPARED TO BE ACCUSED OF EVERYTHING SHE IS ACTUALLY DOING.   She's a professional victim and knows how to make herself look innocent. I spoke with her for six months for hours at a time nearly every day and had no idea of what she was. I have NEVER been played by a female, before. If she can get me she can get anyone. | Cane Island Apartments in Kissimmee Florida | August 2012
2012-12-30 17:15:31 | 12141 | Philip_the_Foole | Severe | This event occurred on a night in March, 2008, just prior to Easter.   My slave, husband and I were invited by the leader of the Wichita Falls group to travel from Dallas be presenters at a Wichita Falls Meeting.   I am a well-respected [NAME] in the Dallas community and the head of our household. During the party afterwards, [NAME] non-consensually took me down to the floor and would not let me up. I was very clearly and loudly telling him to get off of me.   I have a lung condition and his violation of consent put me in danger.   It took two men to forcefully pull him off of me, when he refused to let me up.   He was immediately asked by the Owner of the home to leave after this assault, and not to return.  He was clearly "out of control" and unresponsive when it was made clear to him that this was completely unacceptable.  He is a dangerous, impulsive predator and will never be allowed at any venue over which we have the ability to intervene. | [NAME], Texas at a private residence, with many witnesses | March, 2008
2013-01-01 13:22:17 | 1619680 | themonkfishkid | Minor | Pretends to be scary but is just very cuddly and amazingly nice | In the uk | All the time..
2013-01-01 20:17:42 | 1380005 | stretch_me_out | Severe | Will steal your check book and take your belongings, was convicted of 5 counts of grand theft and forgery. | Boise, ID | April  2012
2013-01-02 01:39:51 | 1930111 | SweetCarnalSugar | Minor | Does not set emotional boundaries. Does everything she can to cause victim to acquire feelings she has absolutely no intention of reciprocating. Emotional user. | Here | Dec 2012 to Jan 2013
2013-01-02 17:23:26 | 121241 | Philip_the_Foole | Severe | Reposted as the initial post with 12141 was incorrect as the FetLife ID number.   This post is about "Philip the Foole"  This event occurred on a night in March, 2008, just prior to Easter.  My slave, my husband and I were invited by the leader of the Wichita Falls group to travel from Dallas be presenters at a Wichita Falls BDSM Meeting.  I am a well-respected [NAME] in the Dallas community and the head of our household. During the party afterwards, [NAME] non-consensually took me down to the floor and would not let me up. I was very clearly and loudly telling him to get off of me.  I have a lung condition and his violation of consent put me in danger.  It took two strong men to forcefully pull him off of me, when he continued to refuse to let me up. He retaliated by assaulting both of them.  He was immediately asked by the owner of the home and hostess of the event to leave after this assault, and not to return, ever.  He was clearly "out of control" and unresponsive while pinning me down with his full and substantial weight on me, when it was made clear to him that this was completely unacceptable and that he needed to cease immediately.  He is a dangerous, impulsive predator and will never be allowed at any venue  in which we have the ability to intervene. | [NAME], Texas | around March, 2008 at 7PM
2013-01-03 03:46:51 | 1544191 | MaxMyers | Severe | He repeatedly messaged me wanting to meet up. When I told him I would be available if a friend came with me, he became irritated and rejected my request which was red flag #1. He told me to meet him at his home, another red flag. I was beginning to get uncomfortable about how persistent he was, so I stopped answering. A couple of days later he flooded my inbox saying that "real slaves do not ignore dominants" and other nonsense. When I told him I was uninterested, he verbally abused me, calling me a bitch and a worthless whore. He accused me of being fake since I did not want to meet, then said I was too rude to be a slave and that I deserved punishment.  He warned that if I came to a play party in the area he was going to beat me for it. I instantly blocked him, and I want to spread the word to keep this abuser away from the community. | Richmond, VA | November 22nd, 2012
2013-01-03 03:48:52 | 1845567 | SirRonRVA | Severe | Raped me in his personal dungeon and I later found out that he filmed it without my knowledge. | Richmond, VA | August 15th, 2012 at 4pm
2013-01-03 08:02:54 | 217929 | Jorran | Severe | He is so cute :) , possibly the cutest person ever | everywhere | All the time..
2013-01-03 09:20:55 | 12938 | Stricturism | Severe | So we were playing and I was tied up and he was doing this thing where he used a stick to make the chest harness tighter by twisting it, it hurt like fuck!  When I screamed and bucked against the ropes he slapped me on the cunt HARD.  I looked at him and smiled.  He was like “oh!  U like that bitch!?”  LOL, I tried to sit up and say something but I was tied down too good.  FUCK I hate that he is so damn sadistic with rope! When I couldn’t get up he laughed and shoved his thumb in me.  Started playing with my clit, right when I was about to cum I was like “STOP!, wait!”  and that fucker just stopped cold!  It took me a min to even realize it because I was about to cum a second ago and when I didn’t get to my cunt was all swollen! I was like NO!  Don’t stop, please I am about to come so fucking hard! He was like “but I thought you said stop…”  I needed to come so hard I was sobbing and I was lke PLEASE!  So he slapped me and said “Make up your mind bitch!”  I got scared and even more wet but I was like I NEED TO CUM! So he started fingering me and when I came I squirted all over that vest he’s so damn proud of!  LOL. | Las Vegas | 2012
2013-01-04 12:17:53 | 29164 | SinCityVixen | Severe | After many years of using her position in the small, local Las Vegas scene to lie, cheat, and spread rumors about anyone who wont allow her to run events and/or groups SinCityVixen has been sued in court!  Ask her, and then ask the people who are suing her again.  She has a long history of misleading new people into becoming part of her "with us or against us" / "gang" mentality and bullying community members into keeping silent when she lies.  She threatens them with being "kicked out of the scene" by tricking them into thinking that she has some control over who plays with who.  She is a vicious, sad woman. DO NOT TRUST HER! | Las Vegas | At least 10 years.
2013-01-06 11:03:25 | 314461 | birddoc | Severe | Is currently stalking a local [NAME]. He's been stalking her for several years now and has outed her at work, has contacted her family, and has contacted the family of anyone connected to her. She does annual conferences at her dungeon/grounds, and he's sent friend requests to all the presenters she's had out.  "birddoc". Very bad news. Very persistent stalker. | Richfield, Minnesota, | Now
2013-01-09 05:03:00 | 121241 | "Philip the Foole" | Severe | Philip the Foole is ranting that the [NAME] in his last report did not file it.  1. Is he denying that he held her down, in a non-consensual takedown, against her will, at a party with at least 10-15 people observing, with NO negotiations whatsoever, and that she was screaming and kicking, tell him to get off of her?  2. Is he denying that she has a condition that made it difficult for her to breathe?  3. Is he denying that his glasses were broken, his back and arms scratched and bleeding as the [NAME]'s other two partners yelled at him and had to physically  pull him off of her when he refused to listen to her safewording?  4. Is he denying that he was told to leave the party as a result of this bad behavior and told not to return?  5. Is his often declared "radical honesty" dealing with the facts that he violated this woman's consent with MANY people watching it happen?  "Philip the Foole" has a long and consistent history of violating consent and causing injury. I don't think the women that he victimized are saying, "Gosh, THAT was fun!"  It's all "smoke and mirrors" and what magicians call "distraction" from the FACTS.  He has an often repeated phrase about magicians that bears repeating.  He brags about being a magician. | [NAME], Texas at a party at a private residence, part of the Wichita Falls Group | around March, 2008 at 7PM
2013-01-11 08:23:54 | 29581 | DaddyO | Minor | doesnt care about my or friends' comfort, pushy questions, pushy about playing, constant bugging me  No physical groping or threats tho.  I do not feel scared of him hes just pushy | wednesday munch | summer 2012
2013-01-11 19:20:16 | 1258979 | Sterling_Archer4 | Severe | Accused of murder: http://www.torontosun.com/2013/01/06/murder-accused-appear-linked-to-violent-fetish-website | Sarnia, Ontario | 2012-12-31 00:00:00
2013-01-11 19:20:47 | 1226649 | Lana_Caine | Severe | Accused of murder: http://www.torontosun.com/2013/01/06/murder-accused-appear-linked-to-violent-fetish-website | Sarnia, Ontario | 2012-12-31 00:00:00
2013-01-12 07:57:30 | 406901 | EvilWizard | Severe | This guy considers himself a "mad scientist" and manufactures a wide array of intoxicating, inebriating and illegal substances. He likes to "test" his creations by serving them to uninformed people with either insufficient consent or no consent at all. He lists himself as in a "complicated" relationship with one of his younger users who is now deceased. A second user jumped off a building while undergoing a negative reaction to one of his concotions. Be very careful about accepting drinks from him. | Various locations, Ottawa Ontario | Various times
2013-01-12 11:15:32 | 2010118 | -kitten-elf- | Moderate | This is a test on a sock puppet account, so I know how this system works. :) | My silly brainmeats | EVERY DAY OMG.
2013-01-12 11:19:49 | 718063 | ROBOCOP-SERLING | Moderate | Outs people to their work and families.  Slanders FetLife users.  Stalking.  Cyber-harassment. Continually changes user name to avoid reputation.  Former usernames include:  StopLeft, ROBOTS, MONSTERS, and possibly others. | Asheville, NC | 2012
2013-01-12 12:11:58 | 710657 | Rigger_G | Minor | Without announcing himself and without prior permission, [NAME] came up from behind and hugged an event attendee.  When reproached for this action, [NAME] brushed it off as "just a hug," despite explanation that Rule One of the community is "Don't touch without permission." | Submission 2 | July, 2012
2013-01-12 17:37:11 | 658457 | DomCat4u | Severe | being a prat | liverpool | tonight
2013-01-13 15:17:16 | 351219 | indigolaughter | Severe | This person drove her boyfriend at the time ([NAME]) to hunt down his other girlfriend, then watched him repeatedly batter that girlfriend with a closet rod over the course of an hour. She and [NAME] kidnapped the girlfriend to their shared home in Tacoma when the girlfriend's roommate interrupted them, then watched as Karlson-Martini humiliated, battered, and raped the victim several times. She then proceeded to cover up for the boyfriend for several months until they brought her in. Suddenly pled "mental illness" from which she instantaneously recovered.   Karlson-Martini was charged with kidnapping, assault, and rape. He pled guilty to lesser charges.   http://www.seattlepi.com/local/article/Charge-Woman-raped-after-beating-kidnapping-by-898463.php | Seattle, Tukwila, and Tacoma, Washington | 2010-04-30 00:00:00
2013-01-14 04:59:58 | 946880 | captainsean | Severe | Captainsean and I dated for several months. At one point in early 2012 (I'm sorry; I've blocked out the date) we were hanging out at his apartment, and he asked me if I felt like having sex. I responded 'no, not at the moment'. He ignored this and climbed on top of me and proceeded to vaginally rape me. I was afraid of making him angry, plus I didn't, at the time, want to acknowledge what was really happening, so I lay there until it was over. It was on a Saturday, if I recall correctly, around midday, in the bedroom of his apartment.  This was not the only consent violation perpetrated against me by captainsean. I had made it clear from the first time we met that any form of breath play was a hard limit for me. During sex one night (and I'm sorry; I did my best to forget this and cannot recall when it happened), without asking, consulting or warning me, he pinched my nose and covered my mouth so that I was unable to breathe. | Northbridge, Perth, Western Australia and Osborne Park, Western Australia | Early 2012. Apologies for vagueness with dates.
2013-01-16 14:16:27 | 1302857 | lily221 | Severe | lily221 has a severe problem with outing people in the kink community. I have witnessed her out no fewer than 4 people in under two months, primarily because she thrives on nothing but gossip. Beware the information you share with her, and avoid her if you want your business, and name, to remain private. | Butte County | Summer 2012
2013-01-17 16:18:03 | 814952 | kitkat_cupcake | Severe | Being amazing at sucking cock and a very naughty brat! | Various locations | 2012
2013-01-20 09:36:51 | 96978 | KnightCA | Severe | Convicted of felony molestation of a minor child in 2005. She was 14 at the time; he was 31. Has repeatedly claimed that the victim was at fault for telling him that she was of legal age, when in fact she made no such claim. Has been blacklisted from several annual events as a result of his crime/conviction. | Marin County, CA | 2004
2013-01-25 12:35:56 | 2010080 | misshilight | Severe | This profile is false the pictures used belong to a close friend of mine who is outraged over this she can be contacted on  https://www.facebook.com/shauna.a.mullen  And will confirm what i have told you. She would like the page removed and if possible get the user banned as the profile is impersonating her/ | Dublin | 25th January 2013
2013-01-26 11:13:53 | 980235 | -BACON- | Severe | non-consensual killing of pigs | all over the world | all the time
2013-01-27 12:10:11 | 194782 | LexFrost | Severe | Lex approached me on his social networking site. We began interacting via e-mail and he made it very clear that his intent was for us to interact via email, then phone conversations, then he would fly me out for several get togethers and see if we remained interested in a romantic relationship. If we did, I was going to move to his home in Plano, Texas. He went out of his way to present himself as single. He never mentioned his girlfriend initially, had no wedding ring and was listed as single on social networking sites. He also goes out of his way to tell any woman interested in him that “due to his being so well known” he requires his privacy and does not want them discussing any interactions he has with them. Two months into our interactions together a mutual acquaintance feared I was his “type” and he might approach me. Thus she warned me having no idea that I was already involved with him. He friend requested me here on fetlife. I went to his profile and noticed he had broken up with someone not less than several hours ago. I have since been told it is common for him to leave the person he is with (without them even being aware he has an issue with them) for someone he is newly interested in. I asked him about her and he stated he was seeing EveningKiss but she was not offering him the type of relationship dynamic he wanted so he dumped her. I chose to continue to interact with him only to find out  that he was still in a relationship with her. He presented to me that they were now in a poly relationship (The type of relationship he WAS looking for) and wanted to know if I would be interested in being in a long term relationship with both of them. I chose to stay and see how things went.  As my relationship with both of them developed, he asked me to be celibate as a commitment to them. I agreed though they did not make the same agreement. He told me this was due to my being so far away that his girlfriend didn’t think things would work out initially, until we began interacting. Hence, she wanted to meet women at clubs to see if they hit it off. After that he simply denied that they were considering anyone else.To my knowledge they pursued three other people, two of whom were on fet for an exclusive romantic relationship during this time. Lex went so far as to state that he did not know anyone by the name of [NAME] when I inquired about his interest in her. According to what he told others she is/was in fact a long term friend from high school. She, as per the pattern, was writing loving comments on every post he made and talking about how excited she was to be going out to spend time with them. She dropped out of site after the visit and has had nothing more to do with him (at least publicly she moved on to get into a relationship with someone else). He also lied to me when he stated that his now wife knew about our prior interactions. I found out from her that she had no such knowledge. I offered to give her evidence (and it would hold up in a court of law) but either he or she messaged me stating they weren't concerned about it. She knows it she just cannot accept it so pretends I am lying. Lex utilizes deception, as indicated by repeatedly lying(bald face lies, half truths, contextual lies, lying by omission and minimization) about even minor, seemingly unimportant things, use of aliases, and conning others for personal profit or pleasure.And he can be very convincing.  Most of this occurred while they are supposedly in an open poly relationship where his wife now states she doesn’t care who he sees. He doesn’t cheat and lie because women won’t give him the freedom he wants. He cheats and lies because he does not respect nor care about any of his partners. The warning I was given by our mutual acquaintance is that" he lies to women and tells them whatever they want to hear to get what he wants. When they confront him on this he twists things around to confuse them, making them feel like they are the bad guy for not believing his lies and deceit." I didn't listen as I didn't know her very well. If you are considering being in a relationship with him or them ask yourself the question I failed to ask myself;  If he’ll lie to his committed life partner, what makes you think he’ll be honest with you or anyone else? Lies have been his way of life for a long time now. With his past girlfriends, his prior wife (he cheated on her not the other way around...ask her) and now his current wife. If someone in a relationship with you is willing to accept that level of dishonesty in his relationships, what does that say about his sense of integrity and honesty?  Further;  If someone will lie to you and cheat on you even when the supposed obstacles preventing him from living the life he wishes to live have been removed, then they will likely violate your consent, too. Aside from the risks of a ticking time bomb drama fest, an unknown third, fourth, or fifth party  STD vector whom you can't ask directly about their history, and the ethical issues, the automatic inability to trust that a cheater isn't lying to you and you are helping to hurt someone so deeply that they may never be able to get over it; yourself, his wife (she can’t consent to everything and he lies about what she consents to),and whomever else he cheats on/with.  I have a general distaste of sneaky and unethical behavior and the implicit acceptance of it. What I did was WRONG. It is the first and last time I will ever make such a mistake. What he is doing is wrong and I am generally saddened by how many people know that he has been doing this for so many years and respond with tacit acceptance of it. I understand the reasons why but that doesn’t make it right. Not hurting people without very just cause is usually considered ethical. It matters to me whether, when I look in the mirror, I feel like an ethical person is looking back. I didn’t feel that way about myself when I was involved with him. I do care about having a personal code of ethics which involves treating other people the way I would like to be treated. And I don’t want to tacitly stand by while he continues to lie and cheat on his wife, other women and whoever else he wishes to use for his own profit at their expense.  You are not responsible for another person's behavior. You are responsible for your own. You can't decide whether he's going to cheat and lie, or not. You can only decide whether he is going to cheat or not with you. And how you feel about that choice.  I guarantee if you get involved with him it will permanently change your ability to trust in intimate relationships. It may not happen immediately, it may take years but at some point he will make a mistake and you will become painfully aware that you are living inside a lie. It won’t destroy your relationships with others altogether, but it is impossible to return to a state of perfect confidence, in any partner, once you have trusted someone absolutely and been wrong absolutely. You don’t have to do that to yourself, his wife or anyone else. Nor do you HAVE to believe me. The only thing I would ask if you are reading this is to at the very least consider what I have said and don’t let him isolate you before looking into this with anyone you choose. I have years of evidence to back up what I am saying. There is a breadcrumb trail of women all over the internet with the same stories about him. You have to dig due to the threats and intimidation but the stories are there.  Talk to myself or any of them before you LET HIM ISOLATE YOU so that you can make an informed decision. There is a reason his voice is the only voice his wife hears or will listen to and it speaks of places you don’t want to go and I won't discuss here.  I am not posting the evidence of our interactions here as it is several years worth. I wouldn't know where to start. Nor will I be returning here to read any comments. I am not interested in listening to his few remaining friends who have had no romantic interactions with him and thus no knowledge of how he treats women in these situations. I am only here to urge any women considering getting romantically involved with him to listen to the voice that brought you to this page to begin with. Trust your instincts and do your research. I WILL reply to direct messages from women who are/have been or are considering becoming romantically involved with him/them at the following email address:  [EMAIL] | long distance relationship | Oct 2009- Dec 2012
2013-01-28 20:54:42 | 90947 | ScaryBen | Severe | Disregarded safeword, inflicted very severe bite wounds, verbal abuse. Wounds took 2+ months to heal. | Brooklyn | June 2012
2013-02-07 06:44:03 | 19791 | Soulhuntre | Severe | [NAME] is so awesome it made me feel very bad about myself. When I specifically asked him to be less awesome to save my feelings he continued to be awesome. | Everywhere | My whole life
2013-02-09 02:58:59 | 1720901 | LittleGirlLost83 | Severe | after sending messages back and fourth to a dom  consenting to play  but then after play posting a blog that she never consented to non of it  and causing the dom nothing but grief this girl needs be left alone DO NOT GO NEAR HER! | Bradford | november
2013-02-09 05:20:59 | 1901485 | bartdj | Severe | he has a very offensive wepeon  its a plank of woooodddddddddddddd run for your lives | romford | romford
2013-02-10 09:48:12 | 1112436 | Jpherr77 | Severe | About a week after we started dating, I moved out of my parents' house into a hotel for a week, and then to an apartment that a couple of friends had in Albany. While in the hotel, he visited twice, and both visits involved sex. Neither visit involved condoms, against my wishes. Neither visit involved consent. Neither visit took into account that I don't like anal, even though he was aware of that.  The first involved him deciding to jump into the shower with me, when I said I wanted to be alone, and refusing to leave after I asked. He then dragged me to the bed, threw me down, and began fucking me. No condom, no consent, no heeding when I told him to stop. Rinse and repeat that part for his second visit.  Once I moved in with the two guys I lived with until this past summer, he began hitting me. Hard. "Don't do that" had no effect, other than making him hit harder. Same with "Get off me", "No", "That's too hard!" and various other things that a DECENT human being - even a Master - should take to mean that they've crossed the line. He never brought up safewords, though I doubt he would have listened even if I had used one. I began trying to limit the time I spent with him. And he hit harder when he saw me, because I was avoiding him.  Again, this was supposedly a poly relationship, but he was never upfront that he was going to meet other girls. He outright denied having sex with people I know now for a fact that he did. And, the last straw, he had sex with someone I said "no" about, after secretly meeting them.  When he told me and I expressed my displeasure, he told me that my reasons for saying no were completely illogical, and rather than talking to me about them, he was just going to ignore them.  He assured me that he had used a condom with her, but based on the history I already had with him, I wasn't inclined to believe it. He said that every other person knew about me. Considering the girl he was dating broke up with him very shortly after I had looked at her OkCupid profile (and she looked back - and therefore probably saw that I linked to him in my profile), I wasn't inclined to believe that, either. | Holiday Inn, Nott Terrace, [NAME], NY, [NAME], 78 Washington Ave, [NAME], NY 12305 | September 27, 2011-October 22, 2011
2013-02-10 14:00:22 | 1886828 | phyxated | Severe | Cyber-stalking. He put my Fetlife name into [NAME], then put that name into Google in order to try and find me everywhere on the internet. I rarely feel genuinely afraid for my safety and security in this community, but this guy made me really quite glad that I hide everything I possibly can from random strangers on Facebook. | Fetlife, Facebook | 2012-11-05 00:00:00
2013-02-11 18:30:40 | 20297 | RopePleasures | Severe | did not reveal that there were children in a room beside the dungeon in a play party after telling the people that there would not be children at the play party | [NAME] | september of 2010
2013-02-11 18:37:06 | 1 | JohnBaku | Severe | his penis is larger than mine | when he was born | where he was born
2013-02-11 18:41:08 | 36753 | gwendollyn | Severe | non consensually being cuter than a fucking button | all the fucking time | all the fucking place
2013-02-11 18:46:42 | 2012565 | GothicLizardMan | Severe | self reported that he had relations with a 15 year old when he was 30 | new york city | 2008
2013-02-11 18:49:34 | 1845567 | SirRonRVA | Severe | drugged me and made me have sex with a dog while filming it | his dungeon | 2012
2013-02-11 20:57:02 | 1801769 | nsfwneutronium | Severe | Self reported stalking and harassing a female member of my munch. Proceeded to locate my OKCupid account, which is not connected to my Fetlife and uses a different username. Threatened to show up at my workplace. Was banned from local munch, but still shows up at parties elsewhere in the area. Be careful. | College Park, MD | November 2012
2013-02-12 14:02:31 | 26900 | vabreezecouple | Severe | gossiping ... and lies... bold faced important lies,  whatever she thinks will move things her way. | all the time | everywhere
2013-02-13 09:14:14 | 851376 | [NAME] | Severe | doing an unconsented cutting on several female and males  back who are now scared for life because of this disgusting disturbed man | unknown | uk
2013-02-14 07:43:23 | 863669 | Iste_Maledictus | Severe | used me for money, made me hate myself, made me uncomfortable in the community, lied to me, lied about me, lied to his other partners | richmond | 2012
2013-02-15 18:57:07 | 12938 | Stricturism | Severe | Several women (including myself) have claimed rape/nonconsent by this "man." He raped me (I said no, my Dom at the time said no) in front of my 18-month-old son. | North Las Vegas, NV 89031 | Late February/Early March 2012
2013-02-17 06:41:37 | 253797 | dubaco | Minor | Continually makes posts of a derogatory nature against members of the community with unfounded accusations of harassment, bullying and persecution. Has not responded to multiple people attempting to address these concerns in a non-confrontational manner. | [NAME] | February 2013
2013-02-17 08:55:30 | 1777020 | justrobic | Severe | Being an absolutely sadistic baker of odd cupcakes. Then inflicting them on the good people of the Bedford munch.  Especially the Marmite cupcakes and [NAME] truffles | [NAME]. | December 2012
2013-02-18 21:59:54 | 625300 | Lil_Elz | Severe | Years after one break up he continues to stalk and harass his ex girlfriend, proposition her for sex, threaten to out her to friends, family and work, and to intervene in her future relationships.  After another break-up has made threats of physical violence ("If I see [her] again I will stab her in the face.") and used his military training as an attempt of intimidation towards her friends.   He is unstable and violent. | Chico, CA | 2012
2013-02-19 08:38:44 | 178334 | Rubby71 | Severe | BEING AN UTTER FLUFFY  WITH THE FLUFFIEST IMPLEMENTS EVER! | EVERYWHERE | EARTH
2013-02-24 03:12:09 | 298901 | Willow_Wyntre | Severe | spreads herpes like wild fire | since 2010 | to everyone dumb enough to fuck her without protection
2013-02-24 09:34:46 | 11258 | d_k_ | Severe | for being a total [NAME] who thinks he knows everything to do with bdsm  and who likes to beat the crap out of girls and walk away from them | here | here
2013-02-26 01:51:32 | 113811 | i_love_hoodies | Severe | [NAME] is one of the two elderly-abusing criminals described in this article: http://articles.chicagotribune.com/1998-12-11/news/9812110237_1_detectives-prosecutors-charges. She subsequently plea-bargained her way to a shorter sentence for turning state's witness against her partner, kind of like [NAME]. She's extremely paranoid he will want revenge and kill her, but does nothing to minimize her exposure on social networks and tells people about her past at the drop of the hat because she loves the attention and the pity. | Palatine | 1996-1998
2013-02-26 08:43:27 | 411098 | Deus_Ex_Deimos | Severe | D was my on again off again Dom for 8 years. I first met him when I was 14 and he was 21. He introduced my into BDSM and sex in general. We "dated" for a year. He was emotionally and verbally manipulative during this time and tried (some times successfully) to get my other teenage girl friends involved for 3somes. We got back together when I was 21, he was actually upset that I was taller and filled out and didn't look like a little girl anymore, his girlfriend/slave at the time did look like a little girl. He used sex and physical contact as a weapon in our poly relationship. He was allowed "unquestioned" sexual contact with whomever he chose but L and myself weren't even allowed to touch each other. He would use us financially and whatever possessions we had were up for grabs (my laptop was suddenly off limits to my and L wasn't allowed to use her car if he needed it). He would use her car to "just hang out" with some some two girls who hung around his shop (13 and 16 y.o).  He wanted to train me to enjoy pain more but did it by only using pain to punish me and going beyond my pain tolerance ignore or pushing past my safe word. When I broke my foot in his house he ignored it and I didn't get medical attention till 2 days later from a worried friend. He threw temper tantrums if he wasn't waited on hand and foot (we weren't 24/7) and manipulated and intimidated us in order to get what he wanted. He is an abuser. | [NAME] and [NAME] | 2004-2012
2013-02-26 14:39:03 | 93614 | Silk | Moderate | Threats of outing and attacking someone who he felt was not giving him enough attention. Emotional and verbal abuse for not submitting to him. Bad mouthing, rumors and lies spewed about those who he doesn't like.  When confronted and called out on his behavior, he threatened to ruin the reputation and relationships of the person who confronted him. | Baltimore area | 2012
2013-02-26 16:21:28 | 369747 | H20_FUN | Moderate | This user will 'out you' without your consent if you cross him.  He has at least one documented case of it, and has threatened others to out them if he didn't get his way. | Idaho | 2011
2013-02-27 21:10:28 | 2369 | Scootah | Severe | Is neither 22, nor female, nor submissive. FAKE! | Fetlife | 2013-02-28 00:00:00
2013-02-27 21:16:44 | 2369 | Scootah | Severe | Does not reply to very polite emails. Saw mutually compatible fetishes on our profiles and wanted to enquire about her interest in pursuing those interests together. Sent back very rude reply. Mocked the size of my penis. | Fetlife | 2013-01-10 00:00:00
2013-02-27 21:27:23 | 2369 | Scootah | Severe | Uses the Abuse Reporting system to make dumb jokes. Thinks the abuse reporting system is a terrible idea that will cause more harm than it prevents. | The intarwebs | 2013-02-28 00:00:00
2013-02-28 08:04:11 | 1 | JohnBaku | Minor | He fucked up and apologized! | Canada | yesterday
2013-02-28 11:02:41 | 1494600 | seanmw | Minor | Repeatedly asked for sexual play, despite being told multiple times that it wasn't on the table. Became verbally abusive when I didn't respond to a text message he sent me. | Washington DC | 2012
2013-03-01 10:40:07 | 296822 | T-Gunner | Minor | He lacks originality. He sends me the exact same sexually harassing e-mail he sends out to every other girl and then blocks me when I bother to respond to him positively.  He also can not spell, which tells me this 6'2 fit silver fox is not well endowed in the education department. | Sonoma, CA | February 2012
2013-03-01 10:44:30 | 47946 | NinjaMike | Moderate | This person fragrantly lies about his relationships, in order to say whatever will make his current interest comfortable about engaging in play, sex, or relationships with him. He has a very long history of cheating, even in poly relationships, and the sticky part is that he does it because he doesn't want to hurt anyone's feelings or make anyone uncomfortable. Users should know that if you are in any sort of relationship with him (even just play partners), that he will frequently break his poly agreements with you or his other partners, if it means he can have what he wants in the moment. I highly suggest not engaging in sex or play with him, because you never know who you or he may be inadvertently hurting by doing so.  He has initiated long term, power dynamic relationships with people without informing his other partners. He has had sexual contact with people without informing his other partners. He has lied about getting tested when his partners request him to do so. He has lied about test results (saying he is negative for things he is positive for - like HSV).   In general, he will do or say whatever it takes to get what he wants. | Maryland, and at events on the East Coast | He cheated on his first wife somewhere around 2001/2 (or at least, that's the only cheating he got *caught* doing, which ended in divorce.) He cheated on his second wife all throughout their marriage, with it ending in 2012 after they learned about a secret power dynamic relationship that was going on for over 2 years.
2013-03-01 16:41:56 | 1229084 | Wicked_Menagerie | Moderate | This is a dummy account for a party called [NAME]. When I attended this party, I was appauled at the unchecked underage drinking, the naked older men staring at younger, clothed women, and a lot of other skeevy behavior that made myself and my partner not only uncomfortable, but unsafe.   Someone tried to ask my partner for play, but they were so stinking drunk I wouldn't even let her out of my sight with them, much less play.   I feel these parties are unsafe, especially for women. | Rockville, MD | 4/2012
2013-03-03 11:57:27 | 513372 | ReadCT | Severe | On October 23, 2012, a girl met ReadCT for dinner at the Arboretum. While there he pushed her to the ground compressing her between a bag and the ground restricting oxygen.  He let her up after she stated she could not breathe.  He then threw a drink in her face.  Afterwards, he went behind her and held her against her will twice.  Both times she told him "NO, STOP, Don't touch me".  After the second time, he left and went to her car.  If you read back through his posts, you can see where he apologizes online for throwing a drink in her face.  Class C misdemeanor charges were filed with the City of Dallas. | Dallas, TX | 2012-10-23 00:00:00
2013-03-04 16:11:59 | 47776 | DallasKink | Moderate | DallasKink told me after we slept together that he has herpes. | Dallas, TX | 2012
2013-03-05 06:09:54 | 513372 | ReadCT | Severe | He was drunk and from what I have gathered high at Disturbathon. He did not secure the play space so when I was waiting in line, I was hit with a flogger by someone in another scene.  When I told Read, he told me to just move.  While I was on the Sybian, he was telling my Daddy to make me count my orgasms and screaming in my face (this was not negotiated).  He was kicked in the nuts for bad behavior and left. | Dallas, TX | October 2012
2013-03-05 20:39:06 | 1190729 | picturegirl | Severe | Has genital herpes, does not inform sex partners and refuses to use protection. Also threatens to out anyone who objects to being given an incurable VD. | Greenville, SC | ongoing
2013-03-06 18:39:17 | 1432073 | OniSith | Moderate | This person has posted pictures and my posts from Fetlife on other social media sites without my permission.  Furthermore, he exposed a whole private monthly party via a Google Review on the internet so that anyone searching for the building the party was held in could read about all the kink and sex that went on there.  He currently skulks around various Philadelphia parties and never plays, but always has a smart phone handy for recording and taking pictures. | Philadelphia, PA | Just after New Years
2013-03-09 01:00:57 | 2124545 | [NAME] | Severe | This user created a sock account to out me in a friend's status, using my real last name and alluding to my profession, neither of which I have ever used on FL. | Fetlife | 2013-03-09 00:00:00
2013-03-11 23:16:28 | 47946 | NinjaMike | Moderate | He never told his girlfriend he cheated on her. He cheated on her for two years, and she found out from other people, and more than eight months later and he has still refused to sit down with her and have a conversation about what happened. He's a lying douchebag and an unrepentant cheater. I pity anyone who gets roped in by his "I'm a guardian" bullshit; he's a guardian when it gets him attention and praise, but not when the chips are down; and he never hesitates to hurt the ones he claims to love the most. Also, his new girlfriend is a bitch. | Maryland | He started cheating on his girlfriend in 2011, and still hasn't told her (althoguh she knows now)
2013-03-11 23:25:04 | 332119 | girl_ali | Severe | This person has reported to several event producers that presenters she does not like, or approve of, are on the Sexual Offenders Registry. Even when it is made clear that they are not, in fact, nor have they ever been accused of a crime, she continues to tell people that she is right.   When I attended the [NAME], she was a DM, and her boyfriend was her boss. She touched my submissive without asking either her or my permission, in the middle of a scene. Later, she sat and watched a friend of mine play, and practically yelled comments about how my friend was "doing it wrong" (which she wasn't) and that if my friend didn't change the scene, she was going to throw my friend out. When I complained to her boss (her boyfriend), he told me she was in her rights. I went to [NAME], who told me that he had several, several complaints about the two of them and how they ran the dungeon, and that he would be talking to them in the future. I do not plan on returning to a JM event if they are on staff; even if it's something like the Steampunk World's Fair, I can't be assured that he won't instruct his security team that touching someone, especially someone half-dressed, is NOT OKAY without that person's permission. | Geeky Kink Event, NJ | Nov 2012
2013-03-11 23:30:59 | 5453 | JeffMach | Severe | I have been to two of [NAME] events, and both times, I was touched inappropriately by someone on his staff. The first time, it was at a Wicked Faire, and a security person grabbed my ass without asking or even warning me. The second time, I was at GKE and a female DM stepped into the middle of a scene with my boyfriend, interrupting, because she didn't approve of the way we were playing. She touched me several times, while I was naked. After the first time, I quietly asked her not to do it again, but she told me she was an EMT and a DM. My boyfriend complained to [NAME], but was told 'well, that DM's boss is her boyfriend, and I've been getting a lot of complaints." That's it?   I do not feel that his events are a safe place for anyone who isn't okay with random groping, touching, or disrespect. It's scary to have a security person harass you, because who do you turn to? Other security people?   I tell all my friends not to go to JM events anymore. It's scary and I haven't been able to go to another public kinky event since. | Somerset, NJ | 2011 and 2012
2013-03-13 07:39:16 | 673677 | [NAME] | Minor | I did not take communications with this guy past the interview stage because red flags kept coming up.  1) he wanted to meet alone, at my place to play for the very first meeting.  2) he refused my suggestions of safety (for him to speak with my other play partners to make sure I am a safe player) 3) he refused to negotiate on what his limits were, stating that a true slave does not have limits 4) when I stated My limits he pushed them (he would not meet my husband before playing, he would not meet in person as equals to negotiate before playing.  5) he would not meet at public events 6) he could not give references for me to speak to about His being a safe player.  7) he seems to not want to be a slave or sub, but rather have a specific and detailed fantasy of his played out to his specifications.  Giving youtube videos as his reference to what he believes a true slave is, and what a true mistress acts like.  8) he disregards any experience that does not line up with what He believes to be "true" M/s.  This thought behaviour could have escalated past minor, if I had been naive enough to meet with him in person as he wanted. | Calgary - skype conversations saved | 2013, March 5-12
2013-03-18 16:19:34 | 1948040 | ApocalypseBailey | Moderate | I lived with him for 4 months in that time when I tried to leave he tried to commit suicide if I tried to leave 3 times and had server paranoia that I was cheating   would go through messages and have serious mental episodes  would make up new accounts saying he was a therapists offering people help with mental health problems ..saying people broke into his house to clean it and freaking out at 5 in the morning crying mumbling on the floor like a small child and then driving iraticly off to come back five mins later saying it was because I did not cuddle him in his sleep   than it got aggressive at the end when I caught him going through my fet messages again to the point I had to leave  this guy has serious problems and serious insecurity's and self confidence issues   and he lies about silly things   there were quite a few off the wall odd moments where he was just seriously unbalanced saying he was a privet investigator by fouls fet accounts saying sorry for splitting me up but the company had to do it to stop him from getting married because of inheritance but I new this was just another odd episode he had con cockted  in his head to make me think it was not him it was some one else splitting us up he used 3accounts so far that I know off usernames Therightchoice  Subspanker and [NAME] but likes to close the accounts and re open them with new names just be careful | at his home in slough | jan 13 to april 13
2013-03-20 05:58:49 | 1597126 | KingKaiju | Severe | KingKaiju a hateful, hate filled cock monkey, and a sodomizer of goats and the elderly. He has a personality like a sock full of severed testicles and an attitude reminiscent of nails on a chalk board/a Justin Bieber concert. Avoid at all costs. | Fetlife | 2013-01-10 00:00:00
2013-03-20 15:24:31 | 237675 | chrissyhbc | Moderate | BLOCK THIS ASSHAT!  CHRISSYHBC   This sock puppet account is used by a regular abusive person and cyber bully.  The real profile he/she uses is unknown.  Stalking, harassment, and trolling is a regular activity for this user. | US | 2011-2013
2013-03-20 15:26:21 | 602240 | dinod | Moderate | This sock puppet account is used by a sometimes abusive person that participates in cyber bullying groups on FetLife.  The real profile he/she uses is unknown.  Harassment by group is a regular activity for this user. | US | 2011-2013
2013-03-20 15:27:11 | 60029 | [NAME] | Severe | BLOCK THIS ASSHAT!  RUBBERMAN!   This sock puppet account is used by a regular abusive person and cyber bully.  The real profile he/she uses is unknown.  Stalking, harassment, and trolling is a regular activity for this user. | US | 2011-2013
2013-03-20 15:45:16 | 58297 | Lawdog | Moderate | This user clearly does not understand FetLife TOU.  He posts pictures and posts in forums content that is clearly not allowed.   He is argumentative, fights with CareTakers.  I would not be surprised to see this user bounced from the FetLife site. | US | 2013
2013-03-20 15:48:39 | 12938 | Stricturism | Minor | An Anti-REAPs hate group member, known for harassing other members on FetLife. | AntiReaps Group | March 2013
2013-03-20 16:59:45 | 400589 | [NAME] | Moderate | AIDS STALKERs and PREDATORS.   This woman portrays herself as a resource to "help" others that are being stalked or harassed.    In reality she partakes in the harassment in some cases confirmed.  Her groups have many sock puppet profiles.  She maintains a sock puppet profile herself CONJUREONE https://fetlife.com/users/558241 to circumvent users that have blocked her. | US | March 2013
2013-03-20 17:01:34 | 558241 | Conjureone | Severe | BLOCK THIS PROFILE   This is a sock puppet profile used by [NAME] to circumvent blocking.   Profile known in aiding others stalking and harassing on the FetLife website. | FetLife | March2013
2013-03-20 17:07:04 | 463297 | MsNes | Minor | [NAME] PUPPET PROFILE  - This is very likely a sock puppet profile for [NAME]..  https://fetlife.com/users/400589 who aids STALKERs and PREDATORS. | FetLife Online | 2011-2013
2013-03-20 17:11:24 | 1123125 | THEREVERENDBLACK | Severe | Violates patient confidentiality!      Be cautious and involvement with this individual and his pro [NAME] girlfriend.   Major drama.    Immature,  and vindictive. | Philadelphia, PA | 2012
2013-03-20 17:14:42 | 55058 | GoddessDestiny | Moderate | MAJOR [NAME].   Stalking, Harassing behavior reported.  An accomplished proDomme, however very immature, and drama stirrer.   [NAME] not session with  her or give her any personal information.   Involved in a civil and criminal lawsuit with others on FetLife.   Evidence of her "Outing" others she does not like or has had conflict with exists. | The Avary Philadelphia, PA | 2012
2013-03-20 17:16:20 | 1395746 | Lucifer_elgato | Minor | SOCK PUPPET PROFILE for TheReverendBlack https://fetlife.com/users/1123125   Major drama, outing, violation of patient confidentiality.  Involved in criminal and civil suits other members of FetLife. | FetLife Online | 2012
2013-03-20 17:20:03 | 1332045 | Anon_e_Mouse | Moderate | SOCK PUPPET PROFILE.  Recommended BLOCK.  Will post and share confidential information without your consent of private conversations.  A drama stirrer.  An active member of hate group Anti-Reaps.  Obnoxious and persistent.  Ample time on his hands to harass others on line. | FetLife Online | 2012
2013-03-20 17:22:16 | 1526014 | Yazzzzzzzz | Minor | FAKE [NAME].  Recommended BLOCK.  Will post and share confidential information without your consent of private conversations.  A drama stirrer. | FetLife Online | 2012
2013-03-20 17:24:38 | 214838 | [NAME] | Minor | Member of HATE Group REAPs.  Annoying, persistent. | FetLife Online | 2013
2013-03-20 17:26:30 | 214838 | [NAME] | Minor | Violates trust.  Posts private conversations, disregards FetLife TOU | FetLife Online | 2013
2013-03-20 17:29:33 | 237675 | chrissyhbc | Minor | BLOCK THIS LOSER    He violated my consent in sharing with others private information publicly.   He participated in outing and harassing me.   Uses multiple alias profiles.  Ad blatant as 'socky' | USA | 2011
2013-03-20 17:32:40 | 14954 | crowe | Minor | This person supports predators who actively violate your trust and share personal information without your consent. Recommend BLOCKING THIS PERSON | Fetlife CYBER | 2012
2013-03-20 17:34:35 | 779071 | DieKonigin | Minor | Can be an abusive - not in a good way - person. Will reveal personal information with others. Very immature individual. | Online | 2011
2013-03-20 17:36:08 | 900558 | FootAndHeelLover | Minor | SPAMMER!!!  Block this asshat..  And ban him from your groups if you can before he spams your members and your group. | FetLife Online | 2011-2013
2013-03-20 17:37:01 | 620901 | louisrye | Minor | SPAMMER!!!  Block this asshat..  And ban him from your groups if you can before he spams your members and your group. | FetLife | 2011-2013
2013-03-20 17:41:03 | 1155392 | 239 | Severe | This person is stalking others on FetLife as of March 2013,  She has threatened to "Out" and extorted a family for money.  Threatening to display private photos if she was not given money.  We don't know her real profile, or if there is another one. | Hightstown, NJ | March 2013
2013-03-20 17:42:33 | 1378493 | LordDarkRaven32 | Severe | SOCK PUPPET PROFILE FOR A STALKER that has been banned from this website | Online | 2012
2013-03-22 14:08:08 | 2247717 | Therightchoice | Severe | nothing doing | Iver | 2013-01-03 00:00:00
2013-03-22 22:20:23 | 1 | Meitar Moscovitz (maymay) | Severe | This person posted a private conversation that included my home phone number and bank account numbers on his website. This could have been very serious and cost me my livelihood.   He seems to not care about how he might hurt anyone around him. Please avoid him at all costs. | New York | 2013-03-21 00:00:00
2013-03-29 19:34:34 | 650726 | EmeraldCityAlice | Severe | I have seen this user libel unsuspecting people for rape as well as censor anyone who speaks against her.  I STRONGLY suggest carrying a recording device in the presence of this person.  She is unqualified to be in any position of authority over anyone else. | Las Vegas, NV United States | 2012
2013-03-29 19:39:21 | 12938 | Stricturism | Severe | Disregard every claim that has been posted.  He has already taken this to court and they were told to drop this.  These posters are well aware that there are penalties for continued harassment such as this and are abusing the anonymity of this feature. | Las Vegas | 2012
2013-03-29 19:42:46 | 29164 | SinCityVixen | Severe | The same thing as above has happened to me as well.  This user threatened to claim that I either sexually assulted or stalked people when I questioned her authority.  Depending on your venue, remember THEY HAVE CAMERAS! | Las Vegas, NV United States | 2012
2013-03-31 17:26:22 | 1107653 | CPetronius | Moderate | I had negotiated with a scene with this man's wife and had already begun when he insisted on hopping in. I made my discomfort with such known and he chose to ignore it. I was then placed in the situation of being expected to either end the scene I was enjoying or walk off and quit topping for the night. I just felt so used and disgusting afterwards that I wanted to puke, like, geez, what kind of asshat impinges on a young domme figuring herself out? | Gainesville, Florida | February 2012 Gainesville Trinity Party
2013-03-31 20:19:29 | 1869170 | sexy-shadow | Severe | He physically forced me to perform oral sex on him, even though I specifically said I was not interested AND physically resisted him. He stopped forcing me and pressuring me to go down on him only when I removed myself from his immediate location. He has blatantly ignored my attempts to get him to apologize & rectify his behaviors, and refuses to respond to me in any capacity on the matter. | Baltimore, MD | February 2013
2013-03-31 22:19:39 | 861460 | [NAME] | Moderate | Came to visit me for a weekend, was supposed to be a kinky weekend. Instead he just sat and played Final Fantasy 11 at me the whole time. When I finally got fed up with it, he left and started spreading false rumors about me online. | At my apartment | June, 2009
2013-04-01 11:31:37 | 1889389 | Greenteaandlime | Moderate | Cheek bastard | https://fetlife.com/groups/71355/group_posts/3713680 | April 1 2013 @ 11:03AM
2013-04-01 11:31:43 | 1889389 | Greenteaandlime | Moderate | Cheeky bastard | https://fetlife.com/groups/71355/group_posts/3713680 | April 1 2013 @ 11:03AM
2013-04-02 15:17:18 | 2208589 | taste_me | Severe | cheats and spreads std's | tamworth uk | nov '12 to march '13
2013-04-03 12:06:50 | 926803 | dabat | Severe | sexually assaulted a woman after getting her drunk at a party; had harassed her for two years prior to incident | columbus | may 2012
2013-04-04 22:08:22 | 1852672 | awolfamongsheep | Moderate | This guy reeks of crazy. Defines a man by ability to copulate and capacity for violence. Lots of strange religious and inadequacy issues. He's a serious creeper. | on the interwebs | 2013-04-03 00:00:00
2013-04-07 21:20:09 | 2584 | nbat | Severe | drugged and raped a under age friend of mine. [NAME]. | Auckland, New Zealand. | 2012
2013-04-08 03:33:28 | 99930 | [NAME] | Minor | repeatedly ignored requests to stop tapping my cane on my behind during a event, repeatedly followed me around the event even when i told him to leave me alone. | Auckland, New Zealand. | 2011
2013-04-08 03:37:12 | 119784 | rodjnz | Minor | Violated the privacy of the Auckland BDSM community by allowing into his club the media who filmed on site, without alerting at all any person within the establishment of media presence. Actively tried to hide this behaviour. | Auckland, New Zealand. | 2012
2013-04-08 03:39:25 | 1873902 | [NAME] | Severe | Raped a woman by force at a party. Continues to deny this despite witnesses coming forward. | Auckland, New Zealand. | 2011
2013-04-08 04:39:04 | 44360 | Sir_LC | Minor | When approved with news that his friend was an abuser, claimed that he is sad that 'she changed her mind after the fact' even though both his friend and her admitted that it was rape. | Fetlife | July 2012
2013-04-08 04:40:26 | 17379 | HopefulOne | Minor | When their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted someone, they responded that "i'm sure it wasn't assault" | Fetlife | July 2012
2013-04-08 04:41:35 | 209700 | DuchessCorset | Severe | When their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted someone, they responded that "sounds like this woman just wants attention so is taking any little thing she can and blowing it up also if it was sexually abuse why has she failed to report it hmm.Sounds like she just wants to make drama for you best advice put her on block" | Fetlife | July 2012
2013-04-08 04:43:18 | 72443 | cherished_slave | Minor | When their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted someone, they responded that = Personally i think she probably now wishes she might have pushed herself harder to try & create a better perhaps deeper relationship with you back then & this is somehow a way (although a sleazy way...lol) to in her own mind create some reason as to why she didn't & it helps her to supposedly justify her own feelings for you. Anyway that's how it pretty much appears to me & i think you should try to just let her shit slide on by you & don't be so hard on yourself anymore. | Fetlife | July 2012
2013-04-08 04:44:03 | 1507440 | emi__ | Minor | When their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted a woman, they responded that = that woman is disgusting | Fetlife | July 2012
2013-04-08 04:46:08 | 1507440 | emi__ | Severe | When their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted someone, they responded that = 'who cares if anyone believes her' | Fetlife | July 2012
2013-04-08 04:50:10 | 1563075 | [NAME] | Minor | When their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted someone, they responded that = [in response to her making allegations] she's a manipulator | Fetlife | July 2012
2013-04-10 18:02:00 | 121241 | Philip_the_Foole | Severe | As far as what I have witnessed, I have watched him cover submissive's mouths at the first sign that they were going to stop him. I have heard him over and over telling people that HE knows best what they want and they should just let him. I've seen him get angry in a flash at people who weren't even talking to him. I have watched him scare and threaten subs into doing things they did not want to do. He also likes to take over scenes from other tops. I have watched him walk into scenes and completely remove the actual top that was running the scene. He is just so sneaky.  This man is dangerous. He's charming, and he's knowledgeable so it makes him soooo cunning. He knows exactly how to exploit submissives weaknesses and how to lure them in. I admit he is fun at first.    This is a predator who just wants to hurt people and quite honestly, the LESS they want it, the more he enjoys it. He doesn't want negotiated forced actions, he wants the real thing from someone unwilling and truly frightened. He has seriously hurt me and I'm not even a submissive. I have watched him harm others, and I have very close friends who have horror stories of their own at his hands. I would not allow him in our group, and I would encourage all other groups to ban him as well. Whatever knowledge this man could bring is not worth the devastation he leaves in wake. In my opinion, someone is going to die eventually.  So there is my story. I hope it helps you. I will be MORE than happy to speak with anyone who needs to fact check or if they just want to make sure I'm a real person. I have no problem at all with that. I hope this helps keep someone safe.  (Posted with author's permission) | [NAME], Texas | 2005-2006
2013-04-13 21:11:08 | 682350 | Domi_Nat | Severe | Insulted me. Made sexist comments. | fetlife | 2013-03-12 00:00:00
2013-04-21 08:47:12 | 15760 | MrDaws | Moderate | Took advantage, lack of negotiation, pushing of boundaries, unsafe coercive sex, emotional abuse. | britain | some time ago
2013-04-21 13:50:52 | 140535 | [NAME] | Severe | At a private party (not a play party, just a wine and cheese social gathering at a private home) in 2007, "[NAME]" a/k/a [NAME] was passing out business cards to promote his BDSM club, OKC Kink. He flirted with me repeatedly at the party. I had too much wine and could not get home, so the person in whose home the party was held let me crash on the sofa in the living room after most of the party attendees had left for the night. After seeing that everyone had left, those who were staying at the home (notably, "Master--R" and Mistress Collette, both from New York) went upstairs. Some time later, they came downstairs to discover "[NAME]" having oral sex with me while I was unconscious. He insisted that I had been awake and had consented, but I have no memory of even knowing he was there after I laid down; I was obviously too intoxicated to consent even if I had awakened (which I do not believe I did). They were disturbed because they had checked the house and locked the doors before going upstairs, leading them to believe that he had intentionally hidden in the house with the intent to violate me. Several members of the local community, including "makalove", met with me, Master--R and Mistress Collette the next day to discuss the matter. I was humiliated and appalled and begged them not to spread any information about the violation, to which they reluctantly agreed. "makalove", however, spoke about it with another prominent local dominant (with my permission) with whom she had an ongoing play relationship. He proceeded to do everything he could to make excuses for [NAME]'s behavior and to blame me for the incident, which caused "makalove" to break off their relationship. Because of this incident, I have avoided the local BDSM community ever since. | Private home, Norman, Oklahoma USA | late night April 28, 2007 or early morning April 29, 2007
2013-04-21 14:30:52 | 1927899 | _flame_ | Severe | bringing another sites drama to this site continued harassment and lies | in Email | about the march 25th
2013-04-23 19:45:32 | 17256 | JakiGriot | Severe | Jaki and I were married for many years.  Over the course of the relationship, Jaki repeatedly violated my consent during sex, including forcing a strapon into me while asleep more than once, screaming at me when I was not into sex, and making me stay in the upstairs bedroom and not come out at times when yo wanted to have another partner over.  Jaki also threatened to kill me if I ever left yo.  I left Jaki on 7/14/2012, and on 7/15/2012 went back to get some of my things.  While trying to get the Playstation 3, my back was turned to Jaki.  Two witnesses ([NAME] and [NAME], both of whom were in a relationship with Jaki at the time as well) saw Jaki try to punch me in the back of the head while I did so; Tex intervened and got between [NAME] and I.  This was at 2010 Letitia Avenue, Baltimore MD, 21230.   Jaki also stalked me afterwards through the phone, and attempted to get me thrown out of the safe place I was staying, attempted to force yo's way into the place, and has shown no remorse and made no apology for what has happened.  Jaki continues to be invited to leadership conferences and to put yoself forward as an abuse advocate despite being my rapist and abuser for years.  [NAME] continues to be offered opportunities to teach classes, attend events and hurt people again. | 2010 Letitia Avenue Baltimore MD 21230 | 7/14/2012 3 pm; also many other times throughout our relationship history
2013-04-23 19:48:58 | 17256 | JakiGriot | Severe | Jaki and I were married for many years.  Over the course of the relationship, Jaki repeatedly violated my consent during sex, including forcing a strapon into me while asleep more than once, screaming at me when I was not into sex, and making me stay in the upstairs bedroom and not come out at times when yo wanted to have another partner over.  Jaki also threatened to kill me if I ever left yo.  I left Jaki on 7/14/2012, and on 7/15/2012 went back to get some of my things.  While trying to get the Playstation 3, my back was turned to Jaki.  Two witnesses ([NAME] and [NAME], both of whom were in a relationship with Jaki at the time as well) saw Jaki try to punch me in the back of the head while I did so; Tex intervened and got between [NAME] and I.  This was at 2010 Letitia Avenue, Baltimore MD, 21230.   Jaki also stalked me afterwards through the phone, and attempted to get me thrown out of the safe place I was staying, attempted to force yo's way into the place, and has shown no remorse and made no apology for what has happened.  Jaki continues to be invited to leadership conferences and to put yoself forward as an abuse advocate despite being my rapist and abuser for years.  [NAME] continues to be offered opportunities to teach classes, attend events and hurt people again. | 2010 Letitia Avenue Baltimore MD 21230 | 7/14/2012 3 pm; also many other times throughout our relationship history
2013-04-23 21:38:48 | 161480 | Xs | Severe | Extensive history of consent violations with more than one of his ex partners.  Has outed several people as well.  Has been banned from TNG and other kink groups.  In a kink culture that often silences victims and rarely bans anyone, he has actually managed to be so blatant in his consent violations, lack of safety and lack of concern for others that he's been banned from multiple groups that, if anything, let too many abusers remain. | More than one instance, more than one victim | 2008
2013-05-02 14:16:23 | 919877 | Sweetnsexy810 | Severe | Stalking. | Dallas, Tx | Ongoing
2013-05-04 02:39:45 | 513372 | ReadCT | Severe | Read Kerr sleeps with strippers and whores. He can be found on multiple websites like SeekingArrangement.com, SugarDaddy4Me.com, Fetlife.com, Collarme.com and eccie.net under ReadCT, ReadTX or SlapnTickle. He cheated on his wife on their honeymoon. He cheated on his affair while in Costa Rica. He is currently charged with assaulting his last girlfriend. He is cheating on his current girlfriend. | Dallas Texas | 2005 on
2013-05-09 20:11:28 | 113811 | velveteenhoodie | Severe | [NAME] is one of the two elderly-abusing criminals described in these articles:   http://articles.chicagotribune.com/1998-12-11/news/9812110237_1_detectives-prosecutors-charges  http://il.findacase.com/research/wfrmDocViewer.aspx/xq/fac.20040319_0000544.NIL.htm/qx  http://www.questia.com/library/1G1-68879597/couple-accused-of-dismembering-70-year-old-chicago  http://www.highbeam.com/doc/1G1-68879597.html    She subsequently plea-bargained her way to a shorter sentence for turning state's witness against her partner, kind of like [NAME]. She's extremely paranoid he will want revenge and kill her, but does nothing to minimize her exposure on social networks and tells people about her past at the drop of the hat because she loves the attention and the pity. | PALATINE | 1996
2013-05-11 11:24:28 | 1484866 | MizzUltraViolet | Severe | MizzUltraViolet fist raped my puppy. Now it just cowers in a corner whimpering. | west yorkshire | Every thursday since december.
2013-05-15 20:38:58 | 1294925 | famluvr40 | Moderate | He repeatedly touched me without my consent on the night of April 20th 2013 at a BBN event. I gave consent to another male and Famluvr40 assumed he also had permission to touch.  He played with my nipples and touched my butt, and I had to have my friends intervene at three separate times throughout the night. | Rockville, Maryland | 2013-04-20 00:00:00
2013-05-19 21:04:39 | 1716784 | maymaym | Minor | Publicly posted links to my profiles on various sites, along with private information from those sites. | Online | Sunday, May 19, 2013
2013-05-21 20:37:29 | 97385 | HedonistPoet | Minor | Do not date this person unless you are comfortable being outed. He gossiped about my love life to people who did not know me well on repeated occasions, including outing me to a homophobic colleague while I was in the room. All the incidents I am aware of took place in Madison, Wisconsin. I heard about most of the gossip secondhand. The "outing" in front of my colleague took place in the UW-Madison computer lab in 2006. This occurred many years after I broke up with this person. | [NAME], WI | 2005-2006
2013-05-22 22:54:29 | 13064 | AedanSaint | Severe | During sex in a private residence, he stripped off the condom and came in me without my knowledge or consent. I tested positive for a bacterial STI as a result, though he claimed to be "clean." | Canada | 2009
2013-05-24 00:19:22 | 2061850 | LolaVan | Moderate | Her and her husband, Boss_Luci coerced me into participating in slave training which I was not ready for. They used [NAME] brainwashing techniques under the guise of teaching me "high protocol". For at least a week before I was approached, they went around the local community saying that I was a "actually a submissive" and that I "just needed the right dom" to show me that. During a pain training session(which I consented to, though we hadn't discussed specific details of where it was and was not okay to cause pain to my body) they ended up caning the bottoms of my feet, the most sensitive part of my body(including sexual bits). I am still fairly new to the community and after only a week spent with them I was nearly scared away from partaking at all and am still very wary of everyone I meet who is involved in it now. I have also been told that they, even after I told them that I was done and did not wish to continue with the slave training with them ever again, were going around the community saying that they still wished to take me on as a slave again in the future, still insisting that I was "just a submissive". | Kansas City, MO | End of January
2013-05-24 00:22:41 | 2061943 | Boss_Luci | Moderate | Him and his wife, LolaVan(Previously TheGodessLola) coerced me into participating in slave training which I was not ready for. They used [NAME] brainwashing techniques under the guise of teaching me "high protocol". For at least a week before I was approached, they went around the local community saying that I was a "actually a submissive" and that I "just needed the right dom" to show me that. During a pain training session(which I consented to, though we hadn't discussed specific details of where it was and was not okay to cause pain to my body) they ended up caning the bottoms of my feet, the most sensitive part of my body(including sexual bits). I am still fairly new to the community and after only a week spent with them I was nearly scared away from partaking at all and am still very wary of everyone I meet who is involved in it now. I have also been told that they, even after I told them that I was done and did not wish to continue with the slave training with them ever again, were going around the community saying that they still wished to take me on as a slave again in the future, still insisting that I was "just a submissive". | Kansas City, MO | End of January 2013
2013-05-24 08:05:56 | 363055 | Bydarra | Severe | likes to prey on younger, damaged women. violates limits and will do things that weren't negotiated. he teaches in the [NAME] group in Austin and does classes elsewhere. never play alone with him. | Austin, Texas | 2011-2012
2013-05-25 18:33:39 | 1856257 | Marquis_of_C | Severe | We played at a club. Not only did he make it impossible to say a safe word by gagging me when we have never played and beat me more than we agreed on (claiming he was just 'so caught up in it'), he was supposed to give me a lift home and instead took me to his house. When I refused he promised he would sleep on the couch and was just too tired to drive me home. Finally giving in, I was awoken to him raping me and claiming I just begged for it and wanted it. I had said no sex at the club, in the car, before the club even, and when we got in the house as well. I even told him on and get off when he started to rape me but he didn't care and said I was begging for it. | Ottawa | May 2013
2013-05-25 18:39:50 | 293392 | MasterVox | Severe | Before we even played he was creepy, claiming he didn't want anything but just to photograph me. He was pushy about using toys on me, even during the photography and always hinting at wanting to fuck me when he was supposed to be professional. One of my biggest hard limits is Anal or anal play. Not only did he gag me but he put in an anal toy that really hurt and told me to just deal with it.  Doesn't respect boundaries, very creepy and pushy. | Ottawa | November 2010
2013-05-29 02:55:23 | 2429969 | BusterTheDOG | Severe | Non-consensually licked a wound. | on fetlife | today
2013-05-29 20:08:25 | 6634 | CharmingPete | Moderate | Took photos/video of me without my consent.  Used my full name when introducing me to a stranger at a kink event.  (Half apologised when confronted, but also told me I was overreacting.) | London | September/October 2012
2013-05-31 15:22:39 | 2263402 | KaldorDraigo | Moderate | This guy is a serious creeper. Not only is he really only looking for sex and have no real interest in either Kink/BDSM or the people he takes to, he often blames others for that fact that he can not get a partner. He is stalkerish, rude, ignorant and only wants to talk about sex, no matter who or how often you try to turn the subject away. | Ottawa, Online, Fetlife | All the time
2013-06-06 19:33:08 | 942925 | Cumpdumper | Moderate | This man friends women and then adds them as his slaves without their knowledge. He has been caught doing it with 5 different women to date. None were aware that he had done this. | Online | Ongoing
2013-06-08 12:32:51 | 1158090 | Tai-Dachi | Minor | Yeah seriously, WTF dude. This tool is to alert people to massive problems in our community, not something to troll. Though the fact you think it's funny to do so tells me quite a lot about you. | Online | 2013-06-08 00:00:00
2013-06-11 22:04:17 | 608 | [NAME] | Minor | Seriously? Someone did a consent violation for "photoshop"? Show me a photographer who doesn't edit his/her images lol. | fetlife | never did
2013-06-17 12:03:17 | 5959 | PantherProwLs | Severe | Sodomized multiple times orally and anally and raped multiple times (vaginally). | Near San Francisco, CA. and multiple other locations | Multiple times over 3 years starting in 2002 until 2006.
2013-06-17 20:56:45 | 1427535 | Chris_23 | Severe | Surreptitiously filmed sex with multiple women without those women's knowledge. Two women have come forward so far. There are possibly more. He started out by claiming that he didn't know it was wrong because no one had ever mentored him. Now he's claiming that actually the women knew and they were asking for it. Since this is Fetlife, he's able to sling shit at the women who accused him, but they can't say a damn thing back. | Baltimore, MD | 2012-2013?
2013-06-19 08:45:32 | 1535875 | Sir_Sapiosexual | Severe | I played with him and his then-wife at his place twice.  He pushed past my limits on multiple occasions and disregarded my use of the term 'red.'  Additionally, he incorporates forms of beastiality sometimes in his play.  He is manipulative and dangerous to young women.  He is not as active in the scene but if you happen upon him, do not trust him even if he seems nice.  He is a scary person/stay away from him. | Manassas, VA | October 2012
2013-06-21 15:24:20 | 1181060 | TriEquis | Severe | http://www.seattlepi.com/local/article/Charge-Woman-raped-after-beating-kidnapping-by-898463.php  Charge: Woman raped after beating, kidnapping by lover  A Tacoma man is in King County jail on allegations that he kidnapped his long-term girlfriend from her [NAME] home after beating her and forcing her to crawl around the house.  King County prosecutors contend [NAME], 29, attacked the woman -- his partner of six years with whom he was in an open relationship -- after she was with another man at a swingers club.  "The defendant brutally beat the victim with a deadly weapon and then secreted her to his home in Tacoma where he sexually assaulted her," Senior Deputy Prosecutor [NAME] told the court, adding that he "fully anticipates that additional charges" will be filed in Pierce County.  In late April, according to police statements, Karlson-Martini arrived at a sex club looking for the woman, who had been seen at the club the night before with another man. The woman later told detectives she believed Karlson-Martini was jealous of what had transpired at the sex club.  Speaking with [NAME] detectives after the April 30 incident, the woman said she and Karlson-Martini had been in an open relationship for six years and were members of a swingers club. She told officers their relationship had always been "vanilla" but that Karlson-Martini practiced domination over another woman living with them.  Having failed to find the woman at the sex club, Karlson-Martini went to a [NAME] home where the woman had been staying and attacked her with a thick wooden dowel, according to charging papers. Karlson-Martini head-butted her in the forehead, then forced her onto the bed, where he hit her about 30 times with the dowel.  Another woman came to the [NAME] house and found the woman, stripped to the waist with her back bleeding, kneeling in front of Karlson-Martini, [NAME] [NAME] said in court documents.  "Karlson-Martini told (her) he was 'sorting out' (the woman)," Glover told the court. "Afterwards, Karlson-Martini continued to order (her) to crawl around the house on her hands and knees in order to 'learn her lesson.'"  The second woman told police she went to sleep, the detective continued. She said she awoke to find Karlson-Martini, the alleged victim and Karlson-Martini's other girlfriend gone.  Writing the court, Glover said Karlson-Martini and his girlfriend took the woman to a Tacoma house where she was forced to write a letter stating that she "should be beaten" and that "Karlson-Martini's word is law."  King County prosecutors allege Karlson-Martini then bound and raped the woman. That allegation is being investigated by authorities in Pierce County.  The woman began to lose consciousness at some point, prompting Karlson-Martini and his girlfriend to take her to Tacoma General Hospital.  Questioned by police at the hospital, the woman denied any attack, [NAME] said. Karlson-Martini said her injuries -- an apparent concussion -- may have been caused by "stick fighting."  Tacoma police remained suspicious but did not arrest Karlson-Martini at the time. The woman detailed her ordeal when she spoke with Tukwila police two days later after her release from the hospital.  Speaking with detectives late last month, Karlson-Martini's girlfriend affirmed part of what the woman had told police and said Karlson-Martini had threatened to kill her. She continued, the detective told the court, asking that Karlson-Martini remain jailed "as she was deathly afraid of him and certain that he would seek her out and kill her."  Detectives arrested Karlson-Martini on June 23, according to charging documents. During a search of the Tacoma home that followed they located several items described by the woman as having been used against her.  Asking that Karlson-Martini be held on $350,000 bail, [NAME], the deputy prosecutor, asserted that Karlson-Martini had been planning to attack the woman again.  "The state has grave concerns for the safety of the victim and witnesses in this case," [NAME] told the court. "According to one of the defendant's partners, the defendant … had been planning to abduct, torture and kill the victim, her daughter and other associates."  According to court documents, King County Superior Court Judge [NAME] set Karlson-Martini's $400,000 higher than requested by prosecutors. He remains confined at King County Jail on charges of first-degree kidnapping and second-degree assault. | Tacoma and [NAME] | 2010
2013-06-23 13:49:21 | 574038 | Covguy | Moderate | Private play at dom's home, no witnesses. Re-started play post-aftercare without negotiation, which I didn't want but was too headspaced to refuse.  When I asked afterwards to be taken home, he implicitly held ride home to ransom for yet more play, then ignored (reluctantly agreed and clearly stated) activity and timescale limits for that play, demanding further sexual services in "gratitude". | Coventry, UK | January 2012
2013-06-25 01:40:10 | 1 | JohnBaku | Severe | Does whatever the credit card companies require, but does not personally take a hard stance on bestiality. | Canada | It continues.
2013-06-25 06:11:33 | 2416598 | [NAME] | Severe | Emotionally abusive and manipulative.  Ex-school teacher who groomed and abused his pupils.  Controlling and jealous and emotionally abusive towards me over a 5 -year relationship.   Raped me on 24th January 2013 at his home.  Continued to harass and stalk me until April, when he was arrested. | Godalming, Surrey, UK | January 24th 2013
2013-06-25 06:22:00 | 713459 | puppetcircus | Severe | Assaulted me with a metal pinwheel with no prior discussion, negotiation or consent.   Spiked a friend's drink with Class A drugs without telling them. Online harassment and abuse towards me.  Spoke to my abusive, rapist ex ([NAME]) about things she was asked not to, leading to further abuse towards me from him. | Bristol, UK | August 2012- Jan 2013
2013-06-25 18:40:06 | 1073501 | Backtobadness | Moderate | [NAME] is not very forthcoming to subs about the existence of his marriage.  Also, he seems to think that shibari in the woods is a good first meeting activity, particularly with people new to fetlife. | Victoria, Australia | November, 2011
2013-06-25 23:37:34 | 131161 | [NAME] | Minor | What a wanker! Worse violations I don't want to report. | Auckland, NZ | It continues.
2013-06-25 23:39:03 | 1278095 | Misssugarkitty | Severe | Hot as fuck! | Victoria, Australia | All the goddam time!
2013-06-26 13:21:48 | 2404018 | JollyJayhawk | Severe | Does not respect limits, safewords or signals, doesn't understand no means no, bullies you into having his own way. Cares nothing for the emotions or needs of those serving him and is nothing more than a child with a flogger posing as a Top/Dom. | [NAME], KS | May/June 2013
2013-06-26 22:55:16 | 167036 | _Hammer 50M | Minor | Inappropriately tweaked a friend's nipple at event, possibly while drunk.  His apology is here:  https://fetlife.com/users/167036/statuses/5614491 | Victoria, Australia | 2012
2013-06-27 02:35:42 | 1811340 | Pomfink | Minor | He's a newbie and a pretentious wanker who thinks it's all love and rainbows, and will assist him to get laid cos all girlies are all OPEN and [NAME] and besides, he thinks he is a dom bloke, cos OMG he could NOT BEAR to submit to anyone cos that would threaten his shaky self esteem.  he's all about perving the girlies and getting laid  and it's all WONDERFUL and blah blah | Victoria, Australia | 2013
2013-06-28 23:30:12 | 2058735 | Elainea | Minor | Very new to the scene, promptly went on to stick cactus needles in a submissive who had expressed needles as hard limits. | Victoria, Australia | November 2012
2013-07-09 17:01:01 | 654529 | UntamedHarley | Minor | Boring snob. | mo | time
2013-07-14 13:08:47 | 1495193 | Rigaldo | Moderate | This guy sexually assaulted me in his apartment while I was on a larger than normal amount of my anxiety meds at the time. I was incapacitated and weak, I could hardly move, but I squeeked "no" more than once, he kept badgering me to say yes while he was climbing on top of me anyway. He inserted his penis into my mouth and I believe he ejaculated onto me while sitting on my chest so I couldn't breathe. I told him multiple times I couldn't breathe while wheezing. He had the "decency" to lift up very briefly every so often so I wouldn't, oh, you know, pass out and die. I think he to this day believes his own lies about what happened. He does not think he is accountable, and always insisted it wasn't his intention to take advantage of me. I don't believe him seeming as before this assault, he had previously "tested the waters" while observing me on my medication to see how docile I was and what he could get away with. Also, we were NOT in any kind of BDSM relationship. This guy also knew I had a fairly intense fear of not being able to breathe, and knew I had been sexually abused as a child. I think he's just a dangerously selfish person who will do what he wants and then make up any insane legitimization for it to make himself look like the "real victim". | Halifax, Nova Scotia | 2012-01-22 00:00:00
2013-07-15 17:28:07 | 927099 | aquacaerulea | Severe | This user repeatedly coerced me into sexual acts and assaulted me in a kink club by bullying me into submitting and trying to drill it into me that I was a switch really | Manchester, UK | 2011
2013-07-17 02:55:04 | 510889 | SlaveProtector | Severe | After an hour long discussion about how I didn't want to have unprotected sex with him, he then managed to slip the condom off when I wasn't looking, violating my consent. | Sydney, Australia | Mid June, 2010
2013-07-17 20:41:56 | 1930908 | GentlemanAndDom | Severe | - Does not negotiate scenes before play. - Unsafe practices regarding breathplay, including choking to the point of passing out his partner.  Did this multiple times without negotiation. - Does not adhere to stated limits and boundaries, including visible marks and physical harm. - Will tell others about your activities without permission. - Misled a submissive into believing he wanted an exclusive relationship in order to obtain sex. - Will suggest collaring, tattooing, and other forms of possession without the intention of actual ownership. - Will jump into and push for edgeplay. - Maintained several online and kik relationships secretly and simultaneously. - Punched a submissive in the face within minutes of meeting in person and left visible bruising without consent and against an established set by the submissive to not leave visible marks. - Asked for anal sex during scene without pre-negotiation. - Will ask for different acts and for pushing boundaries while the submissive is in subspace, avoiding pre-negotiation out of scene. - Will lie about his experience level in order to practice.  He has zero experience or personal knowledge of safe breathplay, whips, impact play, bondage, and anything else that requires advanced skill.  He is a beginner who is after sex and getting his kinks off.  He is not the confident, experienced dom looking for a long term partner that he presents himself to be. - Abandoned a submissive mid-scene, an intense physical beating with coerced anal after a night and day of domestic service, without aftercare.  Sent the submissive driving home in tears and texted that she have no contact with him again. | Sacramento, CA | 2013-06-22 00:00:00
2013-07-19 12:10:00 | 546051 | cheekycupcake | Moderate | Failed to disclose what STDs she had before we had sex. | Dallas, TX | October 2012
2013-07-20 04:03:33 | 2158577 | Dark_Aspects | Moderate | Uses the fuck or pass game to bait women for sex. When women reject him he gets very nasty.  Also uses images from fetlife to send to "partners" to provoke jealousy.  The following posts are about his behavior: https://fetlife.com/groups/73977/group_posts/3922246 https://fetlife.com/groups/73977/group_posts/3937340 | Australian (Melbourne, Victoria) Personal Ads | Ongoing
2013-07-21 02:25:28 | 929560 | [NAME] | Severe | Invited my girlfriend and I to his home one day, said his wife would be there but when we got there she wasn't.  While there he smoked a lot of pot and was constantly blowing it in my face as well as my girlfriend's face.  Against my better judgement I went back into his bedroom with him for some play where he tried to put a small baseball bat in my ass after telling him no twice.  after I ended the scene I went to take a shower and my girlfriend was in the bathroom with me, he lured her out and forced her to suck his cock at knife point and told her that if she told me, he would tell me it was her idea.  A few weeks later my girlfriend and I both experienced some burning and went to the DR.  and found out we had both contracted gonorrhea.  As he was the only other person either of us had any contact with in the last year, I called him and told him we got gonorrhea  from him.  he told us he knew and had already been treated.  I was fucking pissed and asked him why he didn't inform us when he found out, he was like, it's just gonorrhea get treated and no biggie.  In addition, found out later that he'd never told his wife about us.  This guy is a fucking douche on every level. | Winchester, VA | January 2012
2013-07-21 06:59:08 | 1975335 | Sadist_Gentleman | Severe | This user has been prosecuted twice for sex offenses relating to child porn, see link http://www.eveningexpress.co.uk/Article.aspx/2201848, he attended the local munch in Aberdeen and has abused several girls in the area. He seems to be very good at manipulating and isolating girls, he is potentially very dangerous | Aberdeenshire | 2013
2013-07-21 23:34:31 | 1908354 | TwistedCupcake | Moderate | not truthful about STD history before we played | Dallas | February 2013
2013-07-22 18:16:12 | 187018 | Mz_M | Severe | A complete sociopath!  Pretends to be very sweet online but in private is rude, angry and horrible to people.  Beware of her lies about people for her own benefit.  She has run many users out of the local community. | Honolulu, HI | All the time.
2013-07-23 13:19:13 | 636812 | Deleerious | Moderate | Ignored a safeword (claimed not to hear it) and on several occasions pushed established boundaries (asked to explain why a given physical boundary existed, if the reason wasn't good enough for him, he would argue about it.) | Oregon | 2011/2012
2013-07-29 10:41:29 | 26646 | MasterSadi | Severe | This guy is fucking dangerous. I went to a play party of his a few months ago and was viciously beaten and raped. There is an ongoing investigation against him by Charlestown, WV police.   He offered my partner and I a rope scene since I had very limited experience with it. He asked that my partner leave so he could get into his "head space". Apparently this is a common place for him? Weird rule if you ask me. He then did the rope as planned. After I was totally bound he threw me onto his bed and started to beat me with a whip even though I screamed red over and over. He smashed my iphone on his hard wood floor so that I couldn't somehow contact 911 or my partner. He then proceeded to rape me twice. By the time my partner got back, he had ran off. We called the police and reported him. As far as I know, he has still not been apprehended by police.   PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do NOT attend this man's "pool parties". They will get you raped and emotionally scarred for life. | Charlestown, WV and Winchester Area | May 2013
2013-07-29 10:47:20 | 26646 | MasterSadi | Severe | I thought I was the only person!!!!!! I had almost the exact experience as the user above and reported him to Fetlife. I hope his account is disabled soon!!!!! | Winchester, VA | 2013
2013-07-30 01:18:08 | 1021618 | DaffAttack | Severe | She is basically a prostitute... | online | today... july 29th 2013
2013-07-30 11:17:20 | 1975335 | Sadist_Gentleman | Severe | He was manipulative and violated multiple limits during the time I was involved with him. His play was dangerous, especially with bondage - leaving me alone while crying and begging to be let out because he'd hurt me in order to phone friends. He got angry when I tried to stop him doing things I was uncomfortable with, and would scare me into allowing him to do things I did not want.   I did not feel that I had any right to say 'no' in the relationship - any occasion where I did, I would be shouted down, quite literally, until I felt trapped and had to let him do whatever he wanted.   He isolated me from those attending Aberdeen munches in order to stop me talking about what he did.   He says he wants to only ever date girls who have been raped/abused so he can 'cure' them by 'play' raping them in exactly the same way they have been before, whether they want it or not. | Aberdeen, Scotland | 2013
2013-08-04 22:43:18 | 985561 | Mourn1 | Severe | "My relationship with [NAME] was extremely abusive-verbally, emotionally, and physically. He always used his bipolar disorder as a crutch and an excuse. I understand that he's sick, but it's not a good excuse for grabbing me hard by the hair and throwing me against the wall, especially since he refused to listen to the advice given to him by his therapist and others regarding how to control himself. He would terrorize me and then say "oh, it's not my fault." He especially terrorized me about my weight, screaming at me about my size if I ate foods he didn't approve of, and I was literally scared to eat around him. One day, when we were on our way to a party in Frederick, I told him about this. He started screaming at me, calling me a "cunt" and a "parasite" and screaming about how "all bitches are the same." He pulled the car over and tried to yank me out, threatening to leave me there, an hour away from home. I was terrified that he was going to hit me (thankfully he didn't). During the party, when he was being tied up, his neck got hurt. He ordered me to leave, and then the verbal abuse started again, this time worse than before. This sort of thing happened frequently. He would break things, or grab me by the hair. He also loved to try to make me feel bad about the fact that I grew up in a family with money. And whenever he was in a bad mood and I encouraged him to try to snap out of it, he claimed I was just being unsupportive, and the abuse would start. He just never wanted to make any effort, and he treated me like garbage when I refused to enable him.  Here's what happened the night I was forced out of Baltimore: I came home from work, and [NAME] and I were supposed to go see a movie together. He started complaining about his work hours (which he did frequently, and would then take it out on me and his family) and how miserable he was. I tried to encourage him to snap out of it (I know what it's like to be depressed, and I know that it's hard, but I also no that it's possible to fight it if you're willing to make a real effort), and he started treating me like garbage, and so naturally I got frustrated and we got into it. I eventually went downstairs to call my family in Cincinnati and let them know about what was happening to me. [NAME] flew down the stairs in one of his rages, screaming at his parents that I had to leave the house. I called my parents, and thankfully they were extremely supportive and agreed to pick me and my things up two days later, and they put me in a hotel until then because I feared for my safety. I have no doubt that if I had stayed, the physical abuse would have gotten much worse over time. Even now I sometimes get harassing phone calls from him in which he tries to tell me (with polite words, but a mean voice) to be quiet about what happened.  So here I am. No one has ever treated me as badly as he did, and words can't describe the damage that his abuse has done to me and my self-esteem. Thankfully,my family has been amazingly supportive; I'm closer to them now than I've ever been. I've been seeing a therapist, and she has helped me to understand what happened to me and to heal. This experience, as horrible as it was, has made me a better and stronger person. I'm doing a lot more work for the charity I co-founded, and I've applied to volunteer with an organization that helps abused women who aren't as fortunate as I have been. I also plan to go back to school next fall and get my Master's Degeee in criminal justice. I'm working with a nutritionist to deal with my weight so that I can rebuild my self-esteem. And, best of all, I've already started attending events and making connections in the local kink scene (and I plan to do even more), and I've already managed to set up photoshoots. The bottom line is, even though I've been put through hell by someone I loved and trusted who turned out to be a terrible, abusive man, I'm strong, and I'm going to be okay. Thank you to everyone who has supported me through this."  Quoted from Fetlife journal entry before the carebears could take out names. | Baltimore and Frederick, MD | 2012-2013
2013-08-05 13:36:30 | 1567976 | Autumnreign | Minor | This person enjoys the sport of mocking other people, and starts threads specifically to do that.  Beware, something is very wrong with this person! | N/A | 2013-08-05 00:00:00
2013-08-10 15:29:59 | 948218 | tapout415 | Minor | tapout is a troll. He states his home is in SF and he comes through the Sacramento area often and trolls for hookups here. When I responded, we exchanged phone numbers and arranged lunch via text.   He told me how he wanted me to dress, i.e., with short skirt and no panties. I'm clearly identified as a switch and was offended at his arrogance--I'm not his and he has no right to tell me what to do.  I canceled the date--politely of course--and he went off on me in a tirade that ended when I told him three times to "leave me the fuck alone." Among other charming things he said, he threatened me with arrest for harassing him (?!)  A couple of weeks later he RSVPd to a femDomme meeting in Sacramento even though he is clearly identified as a male Dom. I had already RSVPd, and although I had blocked him on fetlife, he could see that I was planning to attend the meeting. He did not shpw up, but I believe that he RSVPd to harass me. | Sacramento CA | July 2013
2013-08-15 04:11:54 | 65347 | MisterTorn | Severe | This man is a manipulative and dangerous person. I assumed from some of his appearances that he was legitimate. I was interested in talking with him, and his sweet talk made it easy to trust him initially. Soon after meeting him, I was forced into sexual relations through coercion and what seemed like underlying threats.  He smelled of alcohol during the encounter, which ended in the third time I have been raped. I really don't want to go into much more detail about it than that.  The worst part about it, is that he knew about my sexual abuse history from our previous talks. I feel like this man seeked me out due to knowing that I haven't reported any of my abuse to authorities. And sadly, I still don't feel comfortable doing so at this time.  Please be careful around this man. | San Francisco | August 2013
2013-08-15 04:17:02 | 65347 | MisterTorn | Severe | This man is a manipulative and dangerous person. I assumed from some of his appearances that he was legitimate. I was interested in talking with him, and his sweet talk made it easy to trust him initially. Soon after meeting him, I was forced into sexual relations through coercion and what seemed like underlying threats.  He smelled of alcohol during the encounter, which ended in the third time I have been raped. I really don't want to go into much more detail about it than that.  The worst part about it, is that he knew about my sexual abuse history from our previous talks. I feel like this man seeked me out due to knowing that I haven't reported any of my abuse to authorities. And sadly, I still don't feel comfortable doing so at this time.  Please be careful around this man. | San Francisco | August 2013
2013-08-19 10:36:46 | 2037 | bestbond | Moderate | I seen his profile online and his pictures of his rope work looked really good. He hosts the local pub munch so surely he must be well respected. We got chatting via messages then text as he asked for my number. He would send messages about once a week asking when were we going to meet up at a coffee house. Finally i gave in and asked him was it just for coffee?  He said that yes but the offer is their to go back to his to try rope work. Then i recieved messages stating that prehaps  would like to play before we even met face to face. he mentioned about his magic wand and fucking machine and he wanted at least a blowjob.  I was freaked out.  He runs the local munch in the area and I dont know why he is a predator plain and simple. | Via Text But In Gloucestershire UK | June 2012
2013-08-21 11:27:13 | Not spec | Not spec | Moderate | Malignant narcissist who over the last 18 months has gone mental on at least 6 different people in increasingly disturbing circumstances. Real tough guy when it comes to women. Too risky to name but will out himself sooner or later as he always goes nuts on his 'friends' before long, by which time, he's usually found some new 'friends' to protect him from the last lot. | West Yorkshire | Multiple occasions
2013-08-23 10:45:38 | 2055782 | DisciplinarianUK | Severe | Using subs and Pro Dommes for his own financial gain | online | 2008
2013-08-23 20:14:21 | 991551 | LordAlyan_PaP | Moderate | User has threatened non-consensual restraint, flogging, whipping/lashing of another in a public forum. User has also demonstrated statements and ideology in public forum that would raise a strong concern and risk that he would engage in non-consensual activity and abuse. | Sacramento | 2013-08-22 00:00:00
2013-08-26 09:42:42 | 530514 | [NAME] | Severe | Married and attempts to be secretive about his identity, likely to stop any reports of abuse. Though he has been an internet lurker for years, he seems extraordinarily inexperienced in real life. He demanded several acts from me that made me uncomfortable and when I refused, violated a hard limit that I had repeatedly given him (including just earlier that day), which is to say: I told him no anal, yet he proceeded. He got me in a position so I could not get up, penetrated me anally, was very quick about it, then hung about, as if nothing had happened. I had never had a partner so willingly abuse limits, especially in the first session, so I was confused and upset, but tried to address the issue over email. I was ignored. I see him as a predator acting out destructive fantasies, as he admits his home and sex life are lacking. | Columbia, MO | August 2010
2013-08-26 09:59:15 | 303462 | Living_Paradox | Severe | If you have been a victim, report it to the police. Your report will not be the only one on file and maybe if enough racket is made, justice will be served.   A predator who hides behind the concept of BDSM and the idea that submissives will not report his crimes, as it would be an admission of things the victims would not want publicized. Has sexually assaulted more than one person, which has included attempts to physically overpower partners, ignoring ("not hearing") safewords being screamed, attempts to make his partners say things that sound like consent so he can claim confusion (such as "I just want to hear you say [it] (examples: 'I want you to fuck me in the ass,' 'I want you to fuck me,' etc.), I won't actually do it").   He may be involved in lengthy negotiations, but will willfully violate them and not stop no matter if the partner is resistant, struggles, cries, or attempts to safeword. He will follow through, then attempt to cuddle and be friendly with the victim, even going so far as to contact them repeatedly afterwards as a "friendly" gesture (fits the profile of "gentleman rapist," which you can Google). One method he is fond of is to attempt to force a partner's head into his crotch (no matter if this is the first meeting, she is sleeping, or any other idea that maybe this is way too forward), and claims to misread signals, feigning apologies so he might try again.   He attempts to ruin the reputations of his victims to protect himself and avoid the severity of the situation and will willingly talk about any such past partners as if they were at fault. He lies about former partners openly, his own past, and his current status. He has a criminal record in Florida for several violent/destructive crimes (arson, domestic abuse, etc.), so BDSM seems to be a way for him to continue his anti-social behavior without fear of recourse.   If you have been a victim, report it to the police. Your report will not be the only one on file and maybe if enough racket is made, justice will be served. | Columbia, MO | November 2010
2013-09-02 02:46:30 | 853313 | ThePerfectKitten | Minor | rude and quick to tell a white guy she wants black cock | fetlife | september 1st
2013-09-04 01:00:22 | 999387 | Domosmoothest | Minor | Persistently hurls verbal abuse at every user who crosses his path. Best avoided. | Online | 2013
2013-09-08 06:46:21 | 2584 | nbat | Moderate | Initiated oral sex with me repeatedly after we'd agreed not to do it because it was triggering for me. Joked about and dismissed past abuse that I experienced. Performed sexual acts on me that I had listed as hard limits after whining and cajoling, without warning, because he "knew I'd like it".  Engaged in a D/s relationship with a minor. | His home, Auckland, New Zealand | 2010
2013-09-08 06:55:28 | 1152493 | Grucilla | Minor | Actively attempts to protect the reputation and social standing of abusive friends. Falsely claimed to be mediating a restorative justice/accountability process in order to misrepresent the victim's wishes and shut down discussion of her friend's sexually predatory behaviour. | Auckland, New Zealand | 2012-08-08 00:00:00
2013-09-08 07:03:50 | 1070170 | Sinister_Jade | Severe | Several different women have privately told their partners or friends that Jade forcibly raped them. I don't currently have any further details, but all of the women concerned made the same accusations separately, without contacting eachother and in private, so be careful. | Auckland, New Zealand | 2011
2013-09-08 07:08:19 | 674413 | nithhogg | Severe | Sexually assaulted a drunk minor. Routinely gropes/grabs women at parties. | Auckland, New Zealand | 2009
2013-09-08 08:23:33 | 1490268 | evilpepe | Severe | Has been charged with assaulted for smashing someone in the face with a bottle, causing injuries. | King's Arms Tavern, Auckland, New Zealand | 2013
2013-09-08 08:24:58 | 1490268 | evilpepe | Severe | Raped his ex partner while she was sleeping | Auckland, New Zealand | Unknown
2013-09-11 22:01:25 | 2395278 | MrCrazyNZ | Minor | he suggested a roleplay situation to me, i declined saying 'nah not intrested thanks' and here is his reply=  "Jeez. Go fuck yourself. Whiny stupid cunt. Waste of space. Cant spell either. Dumb cunt as well as sexually fucked in the head. Drug user too. Of course." | Fetlife | 2013-09-12 00:00:00
2013-09-12 23:47:10 | 795638 | Mistress-BB | Moderate | Unsafe and unclean top. Clearly mentally ill with some sort of paranoid thing going on. Equipment was dirty. Was fucking terrified when she talked to people who were not there while doming. | [NAME] | Tuesday 2nd July 2013
2013-09-14 15:03:12 | x1187162 | LadyGodiva110 | Minor | This is a very sick and dangerous person, beware! | N/A | N/A
2013-09-16 01:37:00 | 1013062 | The_Caretaker_ | Severe | He and I meet.  He and I smoke a joint..which is usual..He and I start drinking straight vodka.. (Absolut Rasp..which is my fave) lil miss with anxiety likes liquid courage, and drank waaay too much..I guess I liked the confidence...I dont remember much..but I woke up in a park in [NAME]..which is 2 hours from where I live.  I lost my phone, a wallet filled with lots of cash, my shoes, my orthotics, my puma sports bag and personal items such as ID and bank cards..I found my way back to said him and he briefed me on what happened..except it was extremely brief.  I dont know why we drank a whole bottle of vodka...and he wont really talk to me. and I cant let it go until someone says 'its done, or I cant hang out with you anymore'..and hes actually a pretty mean person..but because I dont remember what happened, its like it didnt happen :(  He only keeps me keen because he treats me mean ..although mean is now an understatement. | Victoria, Australia | September 2013
2013-09-16 01:39:11 | 2494594 | makhismo | Severe | New account for an Indian-descent man named [NAME] that needed a restraining order from two girls to back off.  Offers money (financial domination), foot worship and spankings.    Recent Reports:   t out reports to confirm its Vinny behind the account:  REPORT 1  Right, so this guy pissed me off pretty quick He started talking to me while I was still with ******* an clearly had that stated on my profile in the D/s relationship part but didn't speak to him first which kind of tells me that he either didn't give a shit I was with someone or didn't bother to take the time to look at anything other than my photo. Second thing he did to piss me off was he went straight for a play offer rather than trying to get to know me first, when I confronted him about it he said he was desperate. Which is a massive turn off me. He also kept demanding pics of my face and my phone number which made me worry. I realise I can be over sensitive about people online but I don't like him.  REPORT 2  Yeah I don't know him in real life. He messaged me randomly asking to bottom to findom & foot fetish play. I said ok lets me and he proceeded to make a fool of himself. (I will be posting the conversation with personal details removed to protect the stupid at some point when I have time.) I heard he might be trouble and took some caution, nice to have it confirmed that he is that [NAME]. | Victoria, Australia | 2012-2013
2013-09-18 09:50:24 | 1144327 | THE_KING_R_o_b | Moderate | Argumentative, abusive fucktard. Spews threats of physical violence at the slightest provocation. Best avoided. | FL | Internet
2013-09-20 21:15:55 | 65347 | MisterTorn | Minor | Any person that knows Mister [NAME] should be able to spot several details below that make it apparent this ludicrously vague story is also completely false.  Just another example of PAT-Fetlife being abused by an asshole. | Fetlife | August 2013
2013-09-20 21:18:10 | 65347 | MisterTorn | Severe | Any person that knows Mister [NAME] should be able to spot several details below that make it apparent this ludicrously vague story is also completely false.  Just another example of PAT-Fetlife being abused by an asshole. | Fetlife | August 2013
2013-09-21 09:40:20 | 2012924 | Mistress-BB | Moderate | I met this 'lady' and I use that term loosely in Manchester, her place was a shiot tip, there was rubbish everywhere and discarded needles. I had a really bad experience that is too awful to go into. | [NAME], England | August
2013-09-22 15:18:14 | 88960 | DustyHowler | Minor | He's trouble!  He acts like he's spiritual and drama free but is just the opposite. | Los Angeles | 2013-09-01 00:00:00
2013-09-24 17:52:33 | 1427535 | DarthVapor | Severe | DarthVapor is Chris_23. See the entry on Chris_23 for more details. | Baltimore, MD | 2012-2013?
2013-09-24 23:58:29 | 779570 | boyvert | Severe | Reports on Boyvert/Makhismo/Vin  I got to know him when he was hounding two 20 year olds last year. Went all the way to court for a restraining order. There's no proof of money.  REPORT 1  Right, so this guy pissed me off pretty quick He started talking to me while I was still with ******* an clearly had that stated on my profile in the D/s relationship part but didn't speak to him first which kind of tells me that he either didn't give a shit I was with someone or didn't bother to take the time to look at anything other than my photo. Second thing he did to piss me off was he went straight for a play offer rather than trying to get to know me first, when I confronted him about it he said he was desperate. Which is a massive turn off me. He also kept demanding pics of my face and my phone number which made me worry. I realise I can be over sensitive about people online but I don't like him.  REPORT 2  Yeah I don't know him in real life. He messaged me randomly asking to bottom to findom & foot fetish play. I said ok lets me and he proceeded to make a fool of himself. (I will be posting the conversation with personal details removed to protect the stupid at some point when I have time.) I heard he might be trouble and took some caution, nice to have it confirmed that he is that [NAME].  REPORT 3  I talked to him over the phone. He was definitely weird. Got a really off vibe from him. He was very cocky. [NAME] like he deserved the world and insanely self involved. He wanted to pay for everything including school tuition, housing etc because "let's face it, women are materialistic".  There were long pauses and he seemed to think he was so superior because he had a right sided brain and I had a left. And no great artist (left brainer) would succeed without successful right [NAME] behind them :/  REPORT 4  Vin may have started out being 'normal', professing maturity and respect etc but the crazy leaked out soon enough. He kept asking how he could be my boyfriend and my live-in slave and even though I said 'That is never going to happen.' on multiple occasions. Each time I said it only seemed to strengthen his resolve that there must be some special order, some way of doing things... magic words, if you will, that would change my mind.  After I told him our wants were in no way compatible and he should look to other Dommes for a long term / serious arrangement if that's what he was after, I believe he blocked me on Skype. He unblocked me a few times to have another 'go' at changing my mind a few times, has sent me 2 sporadic messages on here ("Would love an opportunity to serve!!!" "Looking forward to serving you!!!") as well as requesting, cancelling and re-requesting a FetLife friendship multiple times. Just in case I didn't see it the first time, you know? eye roll  That said I haven't heard from him in over a month so he's probably found someone new. | Victoria, Australia | 2012-ongoing
2013-09-25 00:00:36 | 2494594 | makhismo | Severe | REPORT 3  I talked to him over the phone. He was definitely weird. Got a really off vibe from him. He was very cocky. [NAME] like he deserved the world and insanely self involved. He wanted to pay for everything including school tuition, housing etc because "let's face it, women are materialistic".  There were long pauses and he seemed to think he was so superior because he had a right sided brain and I had a left. And no great artist (left brainer) would succeed without successful right [NAME] behind them :/  REPORT 4  Vin may have started out being 'normal', professing maturity and respect etc but the crazy leaked out soon enough. He kept asking how he could be my boyfriend and my live-in slave and even though I said 'That is never going to happen.' on multiple occasions. Each time I said it only seemed to strengthen his resolve that there must be some special order, some way of doing things... magic words, if you will, that would change my mind.  After I told him our wants were in no way compatible and he should look to other Dommes for a long term / serious arrangement if that's what he was after, I believe he blocked me on Skype. He unblocked me a few times to have another 'go' at changing my mind a few times, has sent me 2 sporadic messages on here ("Would love an opportunity to serve!!!" "Looking forward to serving you!!!") as well as requesting, cancelling and re-requesting a FetLife friendship multiple times. Just in case I didn't see it the first time, you know? eye roll  That said I haven't heard from him in over a month so he's probably found someone new. | Victoria, Australia | 2012-ongoing
2013-09-25 13:23:13 | 50738 | BartSideOTheMoon | Minor | Renegotiated mid-scene by refusing to use a condom even when requested beforehand.  Consistently exaggerates, gossips and outs other people. | Club [NAME], Portland Oregon | July 2012
2013-09-25 13:27:01 | 9013 | BossBondage | Severe | Went around the victim's Protector's back to have sex and did not negotiate or use a condom.   After pregnancy occurred refused to pay for the abortion. | November 2011 | Beaverton, Oregon
2013-09-25 13:33:21 | 1478277 | Moonshine | Minor | Has an air of entitlement about her which has led to many unwanted touches and flippant remarks.  She whines to get her way and the community obliges. | Local Portland Munches | 2012-2013
2013-09-25 13:36:16 | 82985 | [NAME] | Minor | Has outed innocent people who she simply doesn't like.  Does not wish to get all sides to a story.  Is reactionary and relentless. | Portland Oregon, BOTI House | 2011-current
2013-09-25 13:39:29 | 80778 | VeryGudGirl | Minor | Usually keeps to herself but when angered can fly off the handle and produce a huge tirade where non-consensual hitting occurs. | Local Portland Munches | 2012
2013-09-25 13:47:42 | 1485861 | Urbain_Fabre | Moderate | Uses mind control techniques to hypnotize his already susceptible victim into believing alternate versions of their life events so he can be seen as her "knight in shining armor."  In creating these alternate versions of reality, other people become villains and their reputations and honor are compromised. | Portland Oregon | 2012
2013-09-25 13:51:03 | 533768 | Moecifer | Severe | A known wife beater.  Uses violence to intimidate.  Also it quick to admit to having "had problems" though he claims to be cured, he is not.  He likes to put down others to make himself look better. | Vancouver, Washington | 2011
2013-09-25 14:05:25 | 2186091 | Sylvermouse | Severe | This man is a convicted sex offender and pedophile.  I am not going to give his real name, because that would be a violation of consent on my part, but once you know it, look him up in court records and match it against the registry. | McMinneville Oregon | Various times, see court records
2013-09-29 04:11:10 | Miss_Conda | Miss_Conda | Severe | Likes to make things up about what others has supposedly done to her  to make her look the victim | kent | 2013
2013-09-29 07:42:07 | 464436 | Everybody | Severe | BDSM is illegal in most places.  Even when both parties consent, a third party can press charges because one cannot legally consent to assault.  Also, even if some action (sex, impact, touching) is consented to, if the one being fucked, hit or touched is to later regret it, then consent can be withdrawn after the fact and completely change things. Therefore the intent of the alleged predator is deemed irrelevant.  To outsiders the behavior is all that matters.  So if you look at the behavior of WIITWD, then ALL BDSM is predatory, abusive, non-consensual behavior.  Screaming "no" while being "forced" to do things.  Being beaten.  Tied up.  Restricted and restrained.  When all a person needs to do to be labeled a "predator" is to have someone go on a "report a predator" program and type their hearsay and opinion, everyone is indeed eligible for "predatory" status.   And what is a "predator" anyway?  Apparently if someone is too "pushy" or is "always asking to play" they can be considered a predator.  Well, those who feel this way need to learn to say the words "sorry, I am not interested" and "no" as well as to learn safewords rather than using defamatory and vague gossip to slander and libel.  Yes it is a sad world when the ones who do not even consider explaining the concepts of consent use a newbies ignorance to take advantage of another.  But to fall victim to someone else changing their mind about a scene they later regret makes EVERYBODY a predatory, abuser and rapist. | Everywhere in the world | Since the beginning of time
2013-09-29 10:29:09 | 1895133 | onlinedom | Minor | He is a lying liar. He messages new sub girls who post in the Novices & Newbies Introduction thread, tells him he can "teach them some things", gains their trust enough to get them to perform on video chat, then makes up some story about why he can't talk to them anymore (he told me his girlfriend caught him on Fetlife, I doubt he even has a girlfriend). | Online, Skype | August 9th - September 6th, 2013
2013-09-29 22:29:14 | 1895133 | onlinedom | Minor | Amendment to original report above:  This man contacted me after I posted in the Novices & Newbies "Introduce yourself" thread. He asked if I would like some advice, and for him to "teach me some things". Exact words. Of course, you know what happened, he got me on video, we did the whole mutual masturbation thing (no not the very first time, he gained my trust first, I'm pretty sure that's part of the game for him), then he didn't speak to me for almost a week, although I sent him a message both on Fetlife and on the video chat service we used (I reported him for abuse there, too!).   He finally contacted me after nearly two weeks of wondering wtf, and told me the girlfriend story. HE NEVER TOLD ME HE HAD A GIRLFRIEND. I don't like being made an "other woman" without my knowledge. He told me he was going to have to try and go vanilla to patch things up with said girlfriend. I believed him. I had no reason not to (I was a little leery, I admit, because he told me all this over text, when he said he preferred video chat, but what could I do?). I expressed some disappointment at never being able to talk to him again, and he said he would make sure we still got to talk sometimes. HAHAHA...  He didn't take me off his friends list on Fet, and he didn't exactly "quit", but his activity did diminish. Then there was almost two weeks without any activity at all. During this time I was logging onto the outside chat service everyday and not seeing him online. I thought, OK, he must be telling the truth, and things are going well with gf. Good for him, I guess.  Then the Friday before I made this report I saw him add a friend. I was curious and clicked on her profile. It looked like she'd just joined less than week ago. I looked all the way through her activity and saw that she had also posted in the N&N intro thread. I messaged her and asked her about him. She told me he had messaged her and given her the "I can teach you some things" line. SO MANY ALARM BELLS. Today he added another girl to his friends list that was on Fet for less than a day and also posted in the N&N intro thread. I neglected to write her name down before I blocked him.  I have a feeling he likes it when girls beg for his attention, although he doesn't tell them this is what's going on. I knew a man like that once and it nearly destroyed my will to live. You think you're doing something wrong, when in fact you are doing everything right...for the abuser.  Since he is there fraudulently, he's technically violating the TOU, but I don't doubt Fetlife will just give him a warning and send him on his merry way, so I knew I had to let people know some other way. I wrote a post about him, but of course I can't name him in that, so I also wanted to make sure to get it up here.  Sorry this was so damn long! | Online, ALWAYS online | August 9th - September 6th, 2013
2013-09-30 14:16:50 | 1276730 | Daddy_Knight_ | Moderate | Became enraged, rude, and abusive when I refused to agree to call him daddy upon our 3rd phone call. Same for when I refused to send him photos of me in his favorite position (lying on my stomach facing the camera).  He has also plagiarized others writings, and then makes numerous posts linking to and bragging about "his" writings making it to "Kinky & Popular".  I have researched him more and see other women with similar stories going back at least a year ago. And another recent victim with similar encounters with him. He apparently has left a trail of victims in his wake. Watch out for this one! | New York NY | June 2013
2013-10-03 22:05:19 | 2352242 | EagerSub23 | Moderate | This little fuckbucket likes to prey on women in committed relationships, and won't take no for an answer. | The herpes clinic | 2013-10-04 00:00:00
2013-10-04 17:41:24 | 147435 | angelxxx | Severe | Uttered threats to publicly humiliate me with lies if I ever attended a public fetish event. has history of badmouthing people and manipulating people. | [NAME], Ontario, Canada | october
2013-10-05 01:39:01 | 1895893 | Kuzo | Severe | he keeps inviting me to ranked league games after i said no. no means no. | on the interbutt | now
2013-10-06 12:09:32 | 2807188 | fifi454 | Minor | This user is misrepresenting himself. He lies about everything. Just looking to get laid. Not a true Dom. Asked to KIK so I did. His Fetlife profile says he's 40. While texting told me 27. Then said 35. I asked how long he had been a Dominant, said 5 years. Then 12 by text. He was very pushy by text message and just wanted to see pictures of me. I said no. He wouldn't stop texting me on KIK. Had to block him. Just be weary. | Ottawa | October 6, 2013 at 3pm
2013-10-08 13:01:23 | 152411 | LovingMaster45 | Minor | He has severe issues with accepting others kinks to the point of becoming rude and abusive and rationalizes and justifies his poor treatment of others based on his judgment of their kinks.  I witnessed him openly disparaging a man because of his poor English skills.  He then ridiculed and disparaged the same man for being an exhibitionist.  When I called him on his poor behavior, he then lashed out at me like a small child with anger issues.  He made comments such as, if I was to defend someone, at least it should have been a woman.  This indicated that he seems to only be a decent person if it can get him some pussy.  And then only if the person has good English skills and their kinks meet his standards. | Wilmington, North Carolina | 2013-10-04 00:00:00
2013-10-10 16:32:15 | 2226366 | lovesheelsguy | Moderate | This guy is an abusive, idiot with no respect, manners or skill... a real wannabe loser | his pc | oct 11th
2013-10-11 02:54:33 | 1949211 | Eris_Strife | Minor | She angers easily and without provocation.  [NAME] out without any reason.  When asked what angers her she retreats and does not give reason.  Has a lot of unprotected sex.  No STDs that I am aware of, but due to her unprotected sex it is only a matter of time. | Munch in Portland | October 2013
2013-10-11 02:55:57 | 1743644 | Jillybeans | Minor | She makes very derogatory statements about others and spreads gossip. | SE Portland Munch | 2013-10-10 00:00:00
2013-10-12 17:41:53 | 1427535 | DarthVapor | Severe | He has changed his Fetlife name, privately messaged individuals at the TNG council in order to blame his victims, played on the "I'm new, I didn't know this was wrong, nobody taught me" card, but has yet to take any responsibility, accept a ban of any sort, or reach out to his victims to apologize and fix issues with them.  He has showed himself repeatedly to be only concerned with how he is shamed or disciplined, not with the very real effects his actions have had on his multiple victims.  In addition, just look at his profile.  He mentions murdering someone and raping their corpse. Abuse red flags all over. | Maryland | Multiple
2013-10-13 07:48:35 | 1275170 | DunkelEintraegen | Moderate | Was playing and he got carried away.   I safeworded and he did not stop.  Others had to stop him- he was like someone possessed.   This was not agreed! | Whitby , Unite Kingdon | Summer 2013
2013-10-14 20:07:31 | 2336085 | dr-queertastic | Severe | Has a history of coercing and manipulating partners into having sex against their will. Does NOT accept "no". | Edmonton, Alberta | 2012/2013
2013-10-15 10:12:31 | 2466146 | SadoBehr | Severe | Rape, sexual assault, threats of physical harm, emotional abuse, stalking. And that's just one girl. He physically assaulted his ex-wife multiple times, tried to kill both her and his child (who he likes to use as his pity card), has tried to kill his mother, has touched his son in a pedophilic manner (as his father touched him), is a neo-Nazi and uses the fetish for Nazi uniforms to excuse his racism and misogyny, has multiple restraining orders out against him from his ex-wife, and he's spreading herpes without informing his partners that he's infected. He has a long and troubled criminal history and has raped at least six women, three of which are too afraid of speaking out because of the threats he has perpetrated against them. This man is incredibly dangerous and will do anything he can to lie and cover up his past. Can't hide from a background check. | Sacramento, CA | 2010-2012
2013-10-15 14:31:46 | 823419 | jmslave_LM | Minor | Fisical agression | [NAME] | 28/09/2013
2013-10-15 17:26:14 | 1178979 | sexanfun843 | Moderate | This person talked with me online and we arranged to meet up for coffee at 4pm one evening to talk.  I had been very clear about my intentions for this meeting to be only in public, no play, and no exchanging of addresses/personal information.  I don't like to feel pressured into a sexual situation immediately.  Two hours before the meetup, he started asking me if I live alone, and other red-flag messages.  He also started saying he hoped it'd be a 10 minute meetup and that he wants to follow me back to my place for more.  I re-iterated that I don't feel comfortable answering that information AND that I would not be inviting him back.  He tried to pressure me more, until I called the meet up off altogether.   At this point, he confessed he was cheating on his wife and was worried her friends might catch him talking to me. | Charleston, SC | July 2013
2013-10-16 05:14:29 | 222930 | QLD | Moderate | This man contacted me several years ago initially and I found him inappropriately sexual and was constantly pressuring me to tell him where I lived (though I was too shy to tell him to back off - my fault, yes.)  He recently contacted me and tried to start up a conversation, but the memories came back and I flatly told him that I had no interest in being friends with someone who would try to pressure a young girl (I was 16 at the time) to meet up with a stranger from the internet. He tried to tell me that he was an upstanding member in the community I am now a part of and that it would be a shame if drama spoiled that, meaning I shouldn't tell anyone about his past behaviour. He also tried to sweep the matter under the rug by saying things like "you weren't that young" and "I wrote you multiple stories that you loved." I asked him to leave me alone but he continued sending messages. | Queensland | 3rd of October, 2013
2013-10-16 05:25:52 | 916834 | LordEternity | Severe | This man groomed me online for around 3 years before I decided to meet up with him (in a very busy and well lit spot, mind.) He then proceeded to force himself inside me even though I was trying to push him off and tell him no. | Queensland | 2012-01-25 00:00:00
2013-10-16 05:29:35 | 1585624 | pansy_paige | Severe | This man became very verbally abusive when I had to end our play relationship for personal reasons. I blocked him everywhere possible, but he continued to make new accounts and message me on them, telling me that he was checking up on me by reading about my life. I'm constantly telling him to leave me alone but he doesn't listen. | Queensland | June, 2012
2013-10-16 09:38:00 | 1919657 | BornFromTheAshes | Severe | At a private house party in Kennesaw Georgia, we were both drinking and chatting. He decided it was appropriate to shove his fingers in my vagina uninvited and with no warning multiple times, even after being refused insistently and after observing me as half asleep. He then tried to try to get me to consent by using misleading language, aware I was quite drunk. He did not cease until I was removed from the room entirely | Kennesaw, Georgia | 2013-07-16 00:00:00
2013-10-16 12:25:23 | 9013 | BossBondage | Severe | I had agreed to demo for rope for him.  He deliberately gave me rope burn on my inner arm that was bad enough I still have the scar.  He punched me repeatedly in the diaphragm, as I was saying 'no' and 'stop', and it took someone else stepping in for him to stop hitting me. | Texas | 2010
2013-10-16 16:13:21 | 1917940 | Fairey | Severe | User sexually abused and raped me for two of our three year relationship. Often would ignore my safe word and signals, or tell me to "shut up" or smother me so I couldn't do or say anything. Anal rape was consistent, with him saying that we'd done it before and I was submissive, so it was ok. | Central, SC | 2009 to 2011
2013-10-17 04:53:14 | 810296 | Panzer_Faust | Moderate | Sexual harassment via IM. I was made very uncomfortable and felt disrespected. | Online | November 2010
2013-10-17 12:14:13 | 893038 | Wren27 | Severe | I was in an abusive relationship with this person for ten months and I desperately want to believe there's some good in him. I want to think highly of him, I really do. But that being said...  He bound my hands and smothered me with a pillow so I had no means of safewording. He threatened to kill my ex then laughed and called me crazy for not being able to take a joke. He guilt-tripped me for safewording. He had--and still has, more likely than not--child porn on his computer. He admitted to only being with his other partner because it was like sexually abusing a small, dumb child. He would call twelve-year old girls or other young teens that he found attractive "trunks" (as in throw them in the trunk of his car). He had zero idea how to manage a poly relationship and did what he could to pit his other partner and I against each other. He refused to get tested for STDs, claiming "if I have HIV I don't want to know about it." He had me diet to get below a hundred pounds to prove I wouldn't get lazy in my old age. He laughed at a description on a domestic violence hotline website, saying that sounded just like us.  I was terrified of him. I'm still terrified of him. I went to the police too late and now I'm scared in thirty years I'll read something in the paper about him getting arrested for kidnapping a young girl. He's a wonderful sadist if you play with him ONLY in public and keep it at just that, but otherwise newbie subs and especially littles would do well to stay away from him. | Atlanta, Georgia | mid-2012 through April 2013
2013-10-17 14:51:23 | 267160 | natasha74 | Moderate | If you don't participate in her echo chamber, but instead ask for evidence for her claims so that you can believe what she believes, she bans you and calls you a "troll". | FetLife | October 17, 2013 at 2pm (UTC -8:00)
2013-10-18 08:44:05 | 1304852 | CaptainPhoenix | Moderate | During a scene, after being told repeatedly that nothing sexual was to happen, he repeatedly kept trying to touch me. After being in a head space, he touched, said you know you want it and continued to touch me until orgasm. | Baltimore | January 2013
2013-10-18 10:40:18 | 2842089 | wayneDavis | Severe | He was my stepfather. He raped my mother, beat her to the point where she had a concussion on 9/25/2010, the day her father died, and strangled two of my childhood cats. He was arrested for domestic abuse, but charges were dropped.  He's also still legally married to her, and another woman in New Hampshire. He's committed tax fraud, and still works with children in a youth soccer league.  He also sells his prescription narcotics to his co-workers at Chelmsford Water Department, and committed tax fraud by not reporting his marriages.   His name is [NAME], and if he wasn't evicted his still lives at 40 Burgess st. apt 2 in Lowell, MA. | Lowell, Massachusetts | 2000-2012
2013-10-18 13:20:40 | 263601 | downland | Severe | See the linked thread where he repeatedly attacks victims of rape and tells them to "sack up." Celebrates the rape of men. | https://fetlife.com/groups/5179/group_posts/4513790 | 2013-10-18 00:00:00
2013-10-18 15:57:31 | 893038 | Wren27 | Moderate | It was...bad. This man is a narcissist and will not look out for you at the end of the day. He gets into your head and twists each and every word you say into something else, causing you to feel like the crazy one. Stay away. | Atlanta, GA | over the course of several weeks
2013-10-18 16:00:53 | 876626 | wolfygent | Severe | This person is highly abusive. He seems kind at first but when he snaps, he snaps. I can't say much more, but you should stay away. It could cost you way more than you ever wanted. | Marietta, GA | 2013
2013-10-18 18:45:12 | 98378 | Master_Defiant | Severe | He openly admitted to violating a hard limit (post here: [NAME]).   He said "During the discussion, she told me to NEVER put my hands around her neck, she had been raped when she was young, and it "triggered" those things from the past. She had been violently choked into a forced submission, and then raped. (HARD LIMIT) Pretty heavy stuff, right? Well, I am a sensual dom/player, who can get pretty rough. I am also a healer, and knew I could get her past all of that. So during after care at the end of our scene? I started to "caress" her all over her body, slowly working my way up to her neck, slowly and very softly I got both hands fully around her neck, pulled her close to me and softly whispered in her ear "I though you did not like hands around your neck?""   After being repeatedly told by posters on that thread that this was a clear consent violation, he remained unable to understand that the supposedly positive outcome of his action did not prevent it from being immoral. He clearly believes that limits are something for him to ignore whenever he thinks he knows better than the person themselves about what's best for them. As Cowhideman said to him "there's really nothing other than degree between putting your hands around the neck of someone who just told you it was a hard limit and drugging their drink and raping them because you "know" better than they do that a good fuck is what they need to heal." | Unknown, but confessed to here: [NAME]? | Unkown, confessed to 13th October 2013
2013-10-18 19:04:57 | 97039 | EvilDragon | Moderate | He requires people to spell out things as limits before he will respect those limits (admitted to in this thread: https://fetlife.com/groups/347/group_posts/4467277?page=2#group_comment_48940828).  He said: ""I don't like having my face slapped," said to me (please examine profile) will fucking guarantee that you will get your face slapped" and that "A dislike is not a limit." because "it is not the Top or Dom(me)s responsibility to DRAG effective communication out of a bottom." This suggests that he will take advantage of ambiguity in your words rather than asking for clarification.  As Cowhideman said in response to EvilDragon's statements "That is not the statement of an ethical sadist. That may be the sort of thing that defines a sociopath" because "if someone expresses a dislike of something, unless they have explicitly agreed with you that you are both in a relationship where expressing dislike is a green like to exercise your sadism, you have to treat it like a limit until you clear up what they meant." | N/A | N/A
2013-10-19 12:33:37 | 2377661 | DarkIntrlude | Severe | He is on the sex offenders list for rape in Indiana, and I have PERSONALLY had to remove a drunk woman from his arms in the parking lot of a bar. DO NOT TRUST THIS MAN. | Indiana | 2012
2013-10-19 21:49:25 | 846425 | SirAleXXX | Moderate | During a Louisville play event, I was bottoming in an open touch table scene with common kink toys. Without any prior negotiation, SirAlexx took the opportunity to lean over and put my nipple his mouth without any warning or request for consent first. This was beyond a hard limit for me, and I was not even given a chance to deny consent before the offense had already occurred. | The Mix, Louisville, KY | Spring, 2011
2013-10-20 15:42:49 | 1481842 | bjorn76 | Minor | Attempted to interject himself into a rope scene under the guise of "helping with the knots" at Leather [NAME] 2013. | Leather [NAME] 2013 | 10/18/13 around 11pm
2013-10-21 16:29:24 | 140301 | drey_72 | Severe | sexually assaulted me anally after he was told repeatedly "No." | his home | summer
2013-10-21 17:49:16 | 93614 | Silk | Severe | Lied to me about his wife being ok with him having sex with me, just so he could have sex with me. I know personally of at least three other women he has lied to so he could sleep with them without his wife knowing. When I found out his wife was unaware and not ok with him having sex with other women he threaten to out my kinky lifestyle if I ever said anything. | Baltimore Maryland | March 2013
2013-10-21 18:16:43 | 2479575 | Quirky_Kittie | Severe | Outed someone in the military to their commanding officers. Threatened to do physical harm to someone. | Baltimore Maryland | March 2013
2013-10-21 21:24:58 | 1481842 | bjorn76 | Moderate | [NAME] was invited into a scene nonconsensually with me by a third party. Neither [NAME] nor the third party asked if I would be okay for him to be involved. When I told him I don't know him and don't want to play with him (especially with his bad reputation whispered to new people), he insinuated himself into the scene by just adding someone else, which did not solve the "I don't know you/want to work with you" problem. This happened at Leather [NAME] 2013. | Hotel Ramada Convention Center | Leather [NAME] 2013
2013-10-21 21:33:47 | 1146567 | abqspeedbump | Moderate | Invited someone into a public scene without sub's consent, and did not stand by her when she said she did not want to scene with the third party. | Leather [NAME] | Leather [NAME] 2013
2013-10-22 00:33:18 | 606228 | panravyn | Severe | [NAME] raped me. I consented to him spending the night at my house because he couldn't get into his apartment complex. As soon as we were in the house, he stripped and laughed that I would think he would "cuddle" with me with clothes on. I told him I didn't want to have sex without a condom.  I said "Not without a condom," "no," and "please don't make me do this" explicitly. We were not in a scene, so he had no right to ignore me. Still, he forced himself on me. A few days later, he sarcastically apologized when I refused to see him again (because he wanted to see me and "actually hook up," since once wasn't enough).   Please, please be aware of this dangerous man. He claims to be a part of the fetish community, but instead ignores the wishes of his partners to his own sexual benefit. He was my first introduction into the fetish lifestyle, and purposefully did not tell me about safe words or how subspace might affect my judgment. He clearly has no intent on changing his behavior for the protection of others in the future. | My house, Las Vegas, NV | 2013-07-12 00:00:00
2013-10-22 10:59:02 | 1310337 | Rausche | Severe | This guy is a mini [NAME] with an ego the size of Brazil. Also amongst the most ambitious empire builders in the scene and wont stop until he gets where he wants, no matter who he needs to harass and bully. Sok accounts, poisonous Blogs and vindictive texts are his favorite tools and he has the intelligence to use them. Sadly it is not just personality that make this character utterly repulsive. This guy cannot let a grudge go.....  His drinking and alcohol dependency make this person a ticking time bomb. This guy needs to be in therapy, not topping a vulnerable sub. Seen him being led away in a drunken heap at several play events.Drunken outbursts and an obvious "mother obsession" make him particularly bitter and twisted.Surrounded himself with a bad crowd and his nastiness continues to grow. Get close at your peril!!! | West Yorkshire | 2013
2013-10-22 12:06:44 | 1275170 | DunkelEintraegen | Severe | Formally known as Dark-Entries but also goes by many other [NAME]'s including [NAME] and [NAME] that I think is his real name.I made the mistake of going back to this guys "bunker" some time ago. I am not surprised he likes such secluded and private accommodation..noeone could hear me safewording and screaming when he continued to ignore my cries for help. He subjected me to ultra violence play when this was NOT agreed. I was a newbie at the time and was stupid in trusting his role as a mentor and protectee :(  He made me feel really safe and looked after at first.  After the incident he left Fet for about 8 mths. I was horrified to learn he had returned and  become a leader of a play event in Doncaster and immediately contacted the organiser to express my concern.It turns out there had been a number of "issues" with him and he was thrown off the team. I am so happy he is no longer involved with events!! | 2011 | Lincolnshire
2013-10-23 00:46:06 | 1237962 | handydan123 | Severe | He did not respect RED | Albuquerque | July
2013-10-23 10:35:18 | 735222 | PursuingPoetry | Severe | Is a non-consensual emotional sadist. Derives pleasure from intentionally causing others emotional harm without their consent, & enjoys continuing to inflict it in as many ways as possible. This has been an ongoing issue with him & I'm running a vetting tree to keep others from being harmed & harassed by him in the same way that I, & others are. Also enjoys non-consensually not using condoms with partners, intentionally puts others at risk for STD. | Denver, Colorado | April 2012 to Nov 2013
2013-10-23 10:36:45 | 735222 | PursuingPoetry | Severe | Has HPV, likes to tell women that he will use condoms, then takes them off without their knowledge, infecting them without warning them of the risk or intent. | Denver, Colorado | April 2013
2013-10-23 10:41:20 | 735222 | PursuingPoetry | Severe | Changes his screen name often to avoid detection by others on a vetting tree intended to stop him from finding new victims. Refuses to use condoms, often without his victim's consent, takes off the condom to give them HPV without their knowledge. | Denver, Colorado | October 2013
2013-10-23 16:16:00 | 2500418 | 0Muginn0 | Severe | This person cries "Predator" every time something in a scene or relationship (including friendships) goes wrong. | Albuquerque | October
2013-10-24 02:21:14 | 1804375 | DankFrank831 | Severe | *NO MEANS NOTHING TO THIS MAN.* He initially messaged me 4 months ago asking if I was single, I replied telling him I was in a committed and happy relationship. He continued to message me, asking for "a chance" until I blocked his account. As of last week, he found me on okcupid, messaged me only with obscene comments about my body, to which i replied "I'm not interested. I don't think this is funny. Leave me alone". He did not leave me alone. I blocked his account on okcupid, he created another to message me just to apologize and once again, beg me for "a chance". When I did not reply and blocked him once more, he messaged me on fetlife under a NEW account. I tried to explain to him that I was not interested, I did not owe him anything, and if he did not leave me alone, I would report him. He kept harassing me, so I blocked him once more.  Finally, he created a THIRD account on fetlife, to tell me how mean I was being and continue to send me unwarranted, unwanted obscene messages.  I later found out that he had tried to physically come on to a lesbian friend of mine, and she had to terminate their friendship. | [NAME], CA, 93950, United States | May-October 2013
2013-10-27 10:29:41 | 2286707 | BelGorean | Severe | He tried to rape me when we had a relationship. Tendency to stalk. | Belgium | Summer 2009 and after
2013-11-01 18:40:25 | 1550794 | HouseOfGames | Severe | sock account for [NAME] (user 93614) a known sex offender in California | Baltimore | 2013-11-01 00:00:00
2013-11-01 18:41:10 | 1241976 | Misfits_Cabaret | Severe | sock account for [NAME] (user 93614) a known sex offender in California | Baltimore | 2013-11-01 00:00:00
2013-11-01 18:41:56 | 1324409 | TheNerdgasm | Severe | sock account for [NAME] (user 93614) a known sex offender in California | Baltimore | 2013-11-01 00:00:00
2013-11-01 18:43:03 | 1383824 | Solstice_Ball | Severe | sock account for [NAME] (user 93614) a known sex offender in California | Baltimore | 2013-11-01 00:00:00
2013-11-01 18:43:23 | 1229084 | Wicked_Menagerie | Severe | sock account for [NAME] (user 93614) a known sex offender in California | Baltimore | 2013-11-01 00:00:00
2013-11-01 18:44:28 | 2539243 | DapperTheBunny | Severe | sock account for [NAME] (user 93614) a known sex offender in California | Baltimore | 2013-11-01 00:00:00
2013-11-05 02:12:52 | 2321329 | DV8nz | Severe | Physically threatened event goers. On more than one occasion has approached females at events and touched intimately without consent. Avoid this person and these events at all costs. Is infected with herpes and does not use condoms - plus does not inform partners. | Auckland, New Zealand | On going
2013-11-05 02:18:17 | 119784 | rodjnz | Minor | The issue mentioned at the event was handled correctly. I had not read the writings. Apologies to all for this report. | Auckland, New Zealand | May 2012
2013-11-05 07:52:04 | 735222 | PursuingPoetry | Severe | Gave me HPV, told me he was going to use a condom and pulled it off when I wasn't looking. | his home, denver, co | October, 2013
2013-11-05 07:57:42 | 769722 | [NAME] | Severe | Has now given 4 different women HPV & HSV-2 (herpes of the genitals), but refuses to use condoms or get tested. 3 of those 4 women are currently unaware of their situation. Has now given 2 women HIV. 1 of them is currently unaware of her situation. Uses OKCupid under the screen name Waldo1232. He uses it to get women to go on dates with him & date him, leading them into the false idea that he wants a relationship. He also has been taking pictures/video of women without their permission, has been posting them to various porn sites for profit. | Denver/Centennial, Colorado | From Jan 2012 to Nov 2013
2013-11-05 08:07:45 | 769722 | [NAME] | Severe | He is also very good at making sure he adds all his fuck buddies to his facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/darren.weldon.52 | Danver, CO | Oct 2013
2013-11-05 08:44:30 | 1 | JohnBaku | Severe | This 'database' is a joke. You can accuse anyone of anything - with no proof. Just ignore it. It is run by an idiot that has no idea. | Everywhere | All the time
2013-11-05 08:45:46 | 2584 | nbat | Severe | This 'database' is a joke. You can accuse anyone of anything - with no proof. Just ignore it. It is run by an idiot that has no idea. | Everywhere | All the time
2013-11-05 08:46:21 | 46452 | MistressD4u2srv | Severe | This 'database' is a joke. You can accuse anyone of anything - with no proof. Just ignore it. It is run by an idiot that has no idea. | Everywhere | All the time
2013-11-05 08:47:17 | 1873902 | [NAME] | Severe | This 'database' is a joke. You can accuse anyone of anything - with no proof. Just ignore it. It is run by an idiot that has no idea. | Auckland, New Zealand | All the time
2013-11-05 08:51:59 | 769722 | [NAME] | Severe | This 'database' is a joke. You can accuse anyone of anything - with no proof. Just ignore it. It is run by an idiot that has no idea. | Everywhere | All the time
2013-11-05 17:04:20 | 1984316 | London-Calling | Severe | Has sex with women without condoms without disclosing that he has Herpes. Has been known to state that he will use condoms, & instead take them off without their knowledge. Also uses an OKCupid profile to find women:  http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Doctor_London | His home | Oct 2013
2013-11-07 08:06:23 | 38110 | MsUnlimited | Severe | This user has been the target of a smear campaign by a sociopathic ex who will not let go.  Enjoy the fiction. | Dayton | Over the last several years
2013-11-09 13:52:42 | 119784 | rodjnz | Severe | Rodjnz here - Everyone has a right of reply. The good thing about this database is that comments can never be removed. Also - that is a bad thing. If this system was used only to report *confirmed* issues - fine. But, as always, a system like this is simply open to abuse.  My side - Yes - the 'incident' happened - though the way in which it is presented is only part of the story - as always. So - parts of the first posting here are patently untrue. Also - The poster has chosen to remain anonymous - the word 'gutless' comes to mind - though I would never say that! The incident to which it refers was dealt with. Event / Club rules were changed and the issue has never happened again. So - a non-issue. I have to really wonder about somebody's motives dredging this up after over a year. I never tried to 'hide my behaviour'. Once it was brought to my attention - in a public forum no less - I moved swiftly to deal with it. Both in private and *public*. End of story. No consent was violated. Actually - mine was! I was lied to. As my writing at the time clearly states. | Auckland, New Zealand | May 2012
2013-11-09 14:04:35 | 1 | JohnBaku | Severe | This database only ever presents one side. In every story there are 3 sides - your side, my side and the... truth! | Everywhere | All the time - gotta love the 'net
2013-11-09 16:36:21 | 131161 | [NAME] | Severe | Rodjnz here - How is this a consent violation??? Hmmm... just plain nastiness. And anyway - how can a female be wanker? Seems like someone is just plain jealous. LOL :) | Auckland, New Zealand | All the time - gotta love the 'net
2013-11-12 08:59:09 | 2060207 | slut-eddie | Minor | Copy/paste harassment, ignores or can't read profiles, approaches everyone as a Mistress.  Enjoy his cell number, already signed him up for catfacts:  [PHONE] | Montreal | nov 2013
2013-11-13 16:03:05 | 1839006 | Jellybabyboo | Severe | I was involved with this woman.  She previously worked as a prostitute (escort) n gave me genitel warts.  She didnt tll me nothing.  Be carefull with her. | Durham, UK | June 2013
2013-11-15 16:11:32 | 2644452 | Gordon93 | Minor | This user approached my submissive asking for "advice" on how to be Dominant. He had, in the past, shown obsessive behaviour towards her and she had politely rejected his advances several times. He then became defensive towards me when I suggested he toned down his language with her. He acquired a submissive of his own, who he suggested joined Fetlife. She then began messaging my submissive asking for advice and then the messages turned inappropriate asking for detailed sexual descriptions. After attempting to get in contact with her, she messaged us saying that the sexual descriptions were not asked for by her but, in fact, she had attempted to leave the kink lifestyle and [NAME] had reactivated her account in order to try to procure descriptions that he could enjoy in private. | Warwick, United Kingdom | 2013-11-16 00:00:00
2013-11-18 20:30:35 | 785033 | Dago1953 | Minor | This guy wanted me to meet him for play, but wouldn't send me a picture of himself or even give a first name.  He was all for meeting until I asked for a picture, then he "suddenly changed his mind."  I refused and have ceased contact with him since. | Pittsburgh, PA | 2013-11-18 00:00:00
2013-11-19 13:02:23 | 2455233 | TotallyClueless | Moderate | The type of guy that thinks one time saying yes equals consent for all eternity. | Ghent, Belgium | Early 2013
2013-11-21 09:55:46 | 1645640 | MASTER9988 | Moderate | I had not met him, instead it was an online encounter. He messaged me first, referring to me as "slut" and "whore" and telling me I needed to "submit myself to him like a good whore". When I attempted to stand up to him, the verbally abusive language worsened. He called me "ugly and disgusting", someone who will be "alone forever" because I was a "dumb cunt". When I blocked him, my friends on Fetlife warned me that he was going around trying to get my personal information to find me and "teach me a lesson that she won't forget." It was a scary experience and I ended up leaving the site because of it. | Online | October
2013-11-22 19:47:42 | 2505120 | SpankingCityHall | Severe | This person outed an entire local kink group to a newspaper reporter, in order to promote her book. While the group is public, we don't shine spotlights on people who might not want to be outed. She practiced no discretion, sought no consent, and acted altogether very irresponsibly.  Not everyone has the luxury of a six figure job and a book deal. Not everyone wants attention from the public. Now people are leaving the group, changing their names, and edited their picture preferences because of her.  Again, she sought no one's consent before outing us all. I recommend that anyone who deals with her practice caution. This is not a person to trust. | Indianapolis, IN | November, 2013
2013-11-23 17:32:59 | 55494 | robbystrauss | Minor | Will continually send you messages trying to "persuade" you to do something even after you say no.When finally gotten to go away, will insult you and try to make you feel bad. Gives off a very bad vibe. | Online. | November
2013-11-23 21:26:07 | 272448 | vae_ | Severe | Major [NAME], rumor monger, talks shit behind peoples backs.  Nightmare | Montreal | 2012
2013-11-24 05:49:44 | 130186 | submischievous | Severe | She iz teh lezbeing. | on fetlife | my whole damned life.
2013-11-24 06:56:20 | 1408543 | PorcelainMuse | Moderate | While not a consent issue, this user has a prolonged history of toying with individuals on-line for the purposes of later blackmail and extortion. Usually she is "data mining" (as she likes to call it) several persons at any given time and will even go so far as to convince them love is a factor in their relationship. This is easily observable on her other social media profiles. She will not meet with you in person as she lives with her fiancee who she has been involved with for over 10 years. Together they seem to get off sexually on twisting the emotions of these targets. She may be charming but it is a mask to hide these more devious intentions. Beware. | Minneapolis/Long Distance | Ongoing
2013-11-25 06:07:35 | 2071118 | AmabelLolita | Minor | randomly reported me for the following conversation.   Hi, just found your profile randomly, you from perth? I only started using fetlife today! btw you are gorgeous ;) xx AmabelLolita(report a consent violation by AmabelLolita) AmabelLolita 22F Western Australia, Australia written 1 day ago:  welcome to fetlife then :) im in perth.. what is it that brings you to fetlife? :) perthforfun111 perthforfun111 19M Western Australia, Australia written about 10 hours ago:  Thank you :) Well my friends just said its a good place to meet girls haha I have no problems picking up women in general but i guess i want to try something new...Something more out of the ordinary i guess ;) (if that makes sense) :P So what do you do? Are you one of those brutal, blood thirsty, chained up girls that ive been meeting so far on fetlife (it scares me to be honest) or are you a normal girl trying to have some fun? ;) AmabelLolita AmabelLolita 22F Western Australia, Australia written 27 minutes ago:  well if it scares you then your on the wrong website! you wont meet "normal/vanilla" people like yourself on here lma0 maybe your friend played a joke on you. AmabelLolita AmabelLolita 22F Western Australia, Australia written 27 minutes ago:  dont bother wasting your time, this site isn't meant for people like you. perthforfun111 perthforfun111 19M Western Australia, Australia written 19 minutes ago:  hahaha serious? Are you a vanilla girl? Dont get me wrong, I do enjoy a bit of BDSM, dominant, slave and hand cuffing, But not cutting and shit like that. perthforfun111 perthforfun111 19M Western Australia, Australia written 18 minutes ago:  Hand cuffing and being on top is my favourite ;) I guess thats dominant or master? ;) AmabelLolita AmabelLolita 22F Western Australia, Australia written 12 minutes ago:  no you don't, you're young and immature, and its insulting to us who take it seriously. perthforfun111 perthforfun111 19M Western Australia, Australia written 10 minutes ago:  wow, dont tell me this website has people like you who think they are the shit, and everyone around them is either lower then they are, dont meet their LOW standards or is more immature then they are. I'm probably more immature then you are [NAME]. Done talking with you. Have a good night. perthforfun111 perthforfun111 19M Western Australia, Australia written 10 minutes ago:  more MATURE* AmabelLolita AmabelLolita 22F Western Australia, Australia written 4 minutes ago:  Im done talking to a child. I will warn the community in perth of you. | Australia | computer
2013-11-30 17:29:37 | 129 | Cyppie | Severe | Has a secondary account, Hermies, used to lie and cheat on his partner and on the play partners pursued by the secondary account. | Victoria, Australia | 2012-current
2013-11-30 17:31:14 | 864910 | Hermies | Severe | This is Cyppie's secondary account used to pursue play partners without knowledge of his wife, and often without the play partner knowing either. | Victoria, Australia | 2012-current
2013-12-01 22:54:31 | 1409989 | Redvelvetlocks | Minor | She reported to the FetLife administrators that I had refused to take photos of her down even though I never received such a request.  Photos were of body parts too, no face recognition was apparent.  Then when photos were removed from my account she continued to keep them posted on her page.  Very hypocritical. | Oregon | Fall, 2013
2013-12-03 06:31:49 | 2940118 | MarmiteGirl | Severe | This scarlet lipped seductress is one of the most repugnant and dangerous harlots there is!  She will insert her claws in to you and play with you, sucking the life from you, her poor victim.  She will manipulate you and everyone one of the fake friends she has to make sure that you will never have a relationship again!    Take my advice and stay away from this [NAME] or like Viola you will be taken in digested and spat out like a piece of shit | Leeds, United Kingdom | 2011
2013-12-06 17:01:11 | 2536386 | tap-that-ass | Severe | He had his slave message me in capslock threatening to block me if I didn't accept his request. then he started to message me being an asshole. and then he blocked me himself when I wouldn't add him. More than just a mild cry baby. | myrtel beach | 2013-12-05 00:00:00
2013-12-08 15:13:46 | 1693700 | Altern8 | Severe | During an ageplay camp (Ageventures), this person shit in his diapers and proceded to try and cuddle or hug the girls present at camp without their consent. | Ottawa, Ontario | Spring, 2013
2013-12-10 12:04:37 | 1693700 | Altern8 | Severe | Touches people's butt without their consent during playdates. | Ontario | December 7th, 2013
2013-12-14 14:17:41 | 2093499 | LuckyLavey13 | Minor | Steels photo's that are not his, and pretends it 's his sub while she is from another continent, country and never heard from him | Miami | decembre 14, 2013 23.00
2013-12-15 08:48:28 | 2527873 | Muttleyxxx | Severe | Mutley keeps dry humping my leg without asking. I wouldn't normally mind but he keeps making a mess of my good leather trousers and I need to send them to the cleaners. | Aberdeen UK | Every Munch
2013-12-15 11:19:56 | 418822 | RezNoir | Minor | Says people who are *ugly* dream about being raped someday. | Fetlife | 2012
2013-12-18 16:50:28 | 304940 | Sharky_Crafts | Severe | Is widely known by regulars in the Cambridge scene to be a serial rapist and abuser. Ask people who have been in the Cambridge scene since 2012 and they will confirm this. As a result, he has been banned from several Cambridgeshire events.  He is very good at convincing people that he is safe. Please don't believe him.  As he quoted himself: "Seriously...if someone arrives who EVERYONE has an issue with, and warns you off, and tries to tell you they are bad...then do the world a favor and at least try and take their advice. Work with them, not against them." | Cambridge | 2012
2013-12-18 17:29:15 | 657590 | Master-Bacon | Moderate | Misrepresented himself, claims to be a Dom, only wants to get laid.  Hides the fact that he has a girlfriend.  If you refuse to sleep with him on first meeting, you'll never hear from him again | Montreal, Qc | 2013
2013-12-18 17:30:55 | 117170 | Lord-Saxnot | Moderate | Stole my pantyhose so he could wear them.  Got jealous when I refused to be his sub, and subsequently interfered in a scene with my new Dom, trying to claim we were being unsafe | Montreal, Qc | 2010
2013-12-21 00:14:59 | 3000410 | MissHailey08 | Minor | MissHailey08 will refer you to a secondary site to sign up for a paid account. She is just a promoter looking for referrals to make money off of. | Los Angeles | 2013-12-20 00:00:00
2013-12-21 10:13:19 | 705667 | [NAME] | Moderate | Scott finds it amusing to out people to the vanilla community and tells others about private scenes and who goes to different events.  He says it is much more comfortable for him to out people that way he doesnt have to keep secrets, than to keep quiet.  He tells people who have authority in the vanilla community and causes major trouble for the kink community. | MD | October 2013
2013-12-22 03:30:50 | 2593955 | SimpleApple | Severe | We never got to know each other, as we never really spoke or met. We had been texting here and there as friends over the past couple weeks. And She texts me today claiming that she "heard" that I was banned from the community for "violently abusing" and "taking advantage of" play partners. That is chronologically and physically impossible, as I arrived in the state a year ago, and have yet to play with anyone since my arrival. The last play i had was almost three years ago, and it was in a different state entirely. When I said that those were rumors, she said she didn't believe them at first, until she heard from another female who had a friend who claimed that I RAPED her. So now she and three others have decided that I am an abuser and a rapist. This is horrible and untrue. This is beyond childish, beyond drama and gossip. When I told her that since I am being accused of abuse and rape (which is slander), I want to know who is saying this. She said "I can't name names sorry". By acknowledging slander and accusations of abuse and rape, but not revealing the sources, she is in fact an accessory to sullying my reputation. | Boise, Idaho | 21Dec2013 11:37 PM
2013-12-22 05:55:03 | 253797 | fitta__ | Minor | Doesn't really understand how social boundaries work, so often does or says things that make others very uncomfortable; also frequently says things that are incredibly explicit when it's not appropriate | Edinburgh | -
2013-12-24 17:41:27 | 1749882 | phc_photo | Moderate | [NAME] is an amazing photographer. He really is, but a model shouldn't have to pay the price of unwanted, and unsolicited touching for shots. He does caning shoots, which by definition means you get caned, but what I wasn't bargaining for was his unnecessary and unrequested spanking. He has also tweaked my nipples without asking. | London | Spring 2013
2013-12-26 09:41:34 | 795638 | Bexetc | Severe | An extremely devious bully who has written and supported numerous hate blogs. Most recently she was overheard in the toilet at an event in Leeds boasting about she had outed a guy to his work and made it look like someone else did it. This is her idea of fun. Extremely manipulative with a fondness for attaching herself to anyone with influence.in the scene, This is also the same person who has the fetlife account Mistress_BB. | Leeds | December 2013
2013-12-26 14:22:56 | 2801650 | Qwesterr | Severe | Raped my girlfriend | Birmingham | Early 2013
2013-12-29 04:25:59 | 1310337 | _RSCH_ | Severe | Yet another incarnation of Rausche, [NAME] or whatever else he calls himself. Extremely manipulative and proficient at 'gaming' the fetlife ToU. Like most serial abusers, he claims that there is a conspiracy against him by a cabal of women rather than accept that he has abused again and again. | West Yorkshire | Autumn 2013
2013-12-29 07:31:06 | 50738 | BartSideOTheMoon | Moderate | He slapped my ass without consent.  We have never played before.  This is the first time he did it and I think he thought it was okay because I had just broken up with my Dom. | [NAME] at Crush Bar | 2013-12-26 00:00:00
2013-12-29 11:55:24 | 2949017 | imogen00 | Moderate | Spread false rumors about me on two separate occasions. When confronted, she claimed she had no idea what I was talking about. When I showed her the written evidence, she threw a hissy fit (due to being caught in her own lie) and said that I had no right to treat her like that. Chronic liar; two-faced. | Boise, Idaho | 29Dec2013 12:55PM
2013-12-30 04:31:51 | 3044742 | SaturdaySocial | Severe | Yet another sock of Rausche / Rausch / _RSCH_ in support of his empire building and intimidation. | Leeds | Since this guy has been around
2013-12-31 17:17:35 | 3010654 | GoddessGingerale | Severe | Those tits. . . They jumped out of the screen and smacked me in the face! WITHOUT MY CONSENT! I'm traumatized. | Against my face | Every time, ouch stopit
2014-01-01 16:24:32 | 1310337 | Rausche | Severe | This guy quite randomly went nuts on me one night and that was the start of a campaign of harassment that has gone on for over 6 months now. If you want to know how he behaves when he thinks no-one will find out see here: http://s1316.photobucket.com/user/KickAssMeany/library/  Highly manipulative and will not only publicly claim to be the victim, he will attempt to get other people to join in by claiming that his target is a threat to the 'community', will make claims of criminal wrongdoing to try and isolate his target, will claim that anyone disagreeing with him is trying to victim silence - all at the same time has engaging in harassment and getting the Fetlife carebears to file bogus DMCA notices against any hosting used to show people what his conduct is really like. | Leeds, UK | July 2013 to present
2014-01-02 04:36:08 | 1941017 | Dungeonmaster1 | Severe | Another clown who tries to intimidate and harass by making malicious claims dressed up as a public service no-one has asked for, evidence here: http://s1351.photobucket.com/user/MrWibblyHasNoNose/library/  of where he made  malicious false allegations against me, specifies the screen name I was known by in violation of [NAME], makes slurs against my mental health as an 'explanation' for why his own claims make no sense, continues to make said allegations after his own 'friends' have pointed out to him that his claims are not accurate and more chillingly, claims that people on Fetlife are updating him about my whereabouts in real life and makes a threatening prediction that I am going to be assaulted by someone who is scared of me when the only reason someone might do that is because they have read his hate posts. Grade A psychopath and a toxic 'community leader' to a toxic 'community'. The fact that in 50+ replies no-one wants to call him out on what is wrong with this says it all. | Wherever he posts from | December 2013
2014-01-02 15:26:12 | 1095226 | Majadoll | Moderate | She blocked me and accused me of something I haven't done. I literally just signed up on the website and she's talking about reporting me.  Not sure how well you vet people but she seems to be mental?!?  I'm in the process of creating a profile and responses like hers make me wonder if there are any non mental people on here. | England | 2014-01-02 23:19:00
2014-01-03 03:09:21 | 2744031 | Daddy-Dearest | Minor | Sent me a message suggesting activity my profile stated I wasn't interested in. When I turned him down directly (I literally only said "not submissive"), he got instantly aggressive and made misogynistic and abusive comments about women and me. He claimed that I didn't know what I wanted, but he did. Shows lack of concern about consent. Sent me a photo of a woman with a busted lip and black eye and told me "A cunt will always be a cunt... remember that, bitch." His profile also stated as of jan 3 2014 that he's looking for a 17 year old girl. | [NAME], TX | early-mid 2013
2014-01-03 11:37:55 | 715251 | darkangels66669 | Severe | Total and complete predator. Uses hard liquor to get females drunk and then takes advantage of them. His "wife" is more like a slave who has to do everything he says. His wife never gives any input of direction on what she wants, it's just him directing what he wants her to do to whatever woman is in his dungeon.   Toys go from person to person, he encourages excessive drinking, and he's always trying to fuck the newcomer. | Grand Forks | August 2013
2014-01-03 14:32:16 | 443613 | AngelusWings | Severe | Took me to the Sanctuary, and began to Scene with me in the cage, then began to have sex with me without stopping to put a condom on even though I told him no sex. I shouted red but he told the supervisor that it was OK and it was a play thing and he kept going.  He told me I was his then and that no one would want me.  Two months later I tested positive for herpes and chlamydia. Worst night of my life and the TNG people in charge did Nothing about it. | [NAME] | July, 2013
2014-01-04 20:25:25 | 1484859 | SodaSir | Moderate | Advocates violence towards those he sees as touching his property "in the wrong way" (the thread he is responding to is about an example of a munch host hugging and giving a touchy neck rub to a new munch attendee- hardly a violation warranting of "beating some serious ass").  Judge for yourself, here is a post he wrote:  "What in the fuck happened to men actually being men? I mean it is well known that if someone touches my girl in the wrong way and with out my permission, I'm am beating some serious ass. Not going online and ranting about it. I'm going straight to the offender right then and there and dealing with it head on. Guys want to call themselves a Dominant? Then fucking be one and protect your property. It's that simple. Women, if someone touches you in the wrong way without permission, umm slap the piss out of them, either verbally or physically. Your choice, it will get the point across. Point is, step up and handle your shit because it's your shit to handle. end rant" | [NAME] at Crush Bar | Online post 1-4-2014
2014-01-05 17:29:08 | 1323003 | animedingo | Minor | Lies to you to get you to tell you things, by saying he doesn't care about it, and then when you tell him, he turns around and says he does care about it. What's more, he says he's not looking for a relationship that is defined by sex, but in actuality, sex is the first thing he talks about in a conversation. | Seattle, WA | Sunday, January 05, 2014 at 5pm Pacific time.
2014-01-05 22:39:27 | 1679213 | JennaS | Minor | JennaS is a HUGE drama queen. I had spoken to her once, and we had a misunderstanding. I asked her a few questions, and she started freaking out and calling me a manipulative liar. I decided to block her, and this brought her to post on a man hating group about me, and reporting me to this site. The least I can do is let people know what an enormous pain in the ass she is.   Me wanting to ask questions about someone's very complicated gender and sexuality is normal, and does not make me an abuser or predator. | Online | January 5th 2014
2014-01-06 12:37:29 | 1984316 | London-Calling | Severe | He took me back to his place, then we had some wine.  We fooled around some, and he tied me up and made me go down on him.  I asked him to put a condom on, and he wouldn't.  He ended up coming on my face even though I asked him not to.  I later found out from someone he used to play with that he's got STD's that he doesn't disclose. | [NAME] | February 2013
2014-01-06 12:44:27 | 505770 | clr4lf | Severe | He tied me up once and started to rub his crotch on my face when I couldn't move.  After that he tried to start fingering my ass even though we hadn't talked about having any kind of sex.  He'd tied a gag on me too, befure that. I was thrashing and grunting as much as I could.  If it weren't for the people of Denver Bound watching the scene and asking if things were ok, I don't think he would have stopped there. | Denver, Colorado | Rope Class
2014-01-08 10:38:02 | 722448 | Sonic_Leopard | Severe | A "big" drama queen, with a troll face, (especially her brows and her eyes) She claims to be polyamourous, but cant handle the rejection. She makes up fake emails to attack you personally. You can also follow her posts in a male-bashing group where she posts your personal emails publicly. BE CAREFUL IF YOU WANT TO EMAIL HER, YOU WONT HAVE ANY PRIVACY. | Lowell, Massachusetts, United States | January 2014
2014-01-08 16:13:13 | 1419852 | Fox_VanWeasel | Severe | This man and his girlfriend befriended me and lured me in. They were very sweet, kind, and good fun. We arranged to have a threesome.  I went round to their house and was told she had to work late and would be joining us later, but she never did. He started all nice and gentle, gave me lingerie to wear for him, and initiated sex- he did some things I wasn't comfortable with like spitting in my mouth and holding me down, and then he tied me up, gagged and blindfolded me. I was nervous and scared but too naive to anticipate what happened.   We had discussed having anal sex and he promised to be very gentle and check if I was okay with it, but instead he just fucked me really hard. As hard as he could, it seems. I was screaming muffled through the gag and trying to pull away but he just held me to him and did it more. He did it for a long time, forcing me into different positions, then took me into the bathroom.   He made me get into the bath where he unscrewed the head from the shower, and stuck the hose up my arse. He turned it on and let the water fill me while I was bucking, screaming and trying to pull away. He just held me against him tighter, then let it out like a weird forced enema. He did it a few more times, then took the condom off (before all this started I insisted on a condom) and carried on fucking me anally. He alternated that and the [NAME] thing.     The whole thing went on for about 4 hours when he ran me a bath and started cooking lunch. He took off my bonds when I sat in the bath traumatised and shaking. My anus was torn but I didn't know it at that point. I was too scared to move. He tried to get me to do it again, but after feeling how swollen it was, he just made me give him head instead. I was there for about 6/7 hours in total and the girl never showed up.   I went to the police a while later, but there was insufficient evidence. | South Croydon | March 2012
2014-01-13 07:37:35 | 1751846 | Nitemare_Blade25 | Moderate | Went to a munch because I heard it was a good place to meet people. Chatted some, couple of drinks then back to halls. This girl walks home with me still chatting but I didn't notice right away she was going to come home with me I thought maybe she lives on campus too. Then when we get back she says she wants to fuck and play. She wants me to dom her but topping from the bottom and when I said I'm not into some things she wants, she threaten to go and tell my flatmates I'm kinky. I'd already mentioned there's neonazi skinheads on my corridor at the munch and she knew I'm a bit scared of them. Then when the munch change to a different pub she kept on emailing me and threatening again said she's not welcome there and she can't see the group with the details on but she wants me to tell her where so she can go and out everybody. | Lancaster University, Lancaster,UK | Summer 2012
2014-01-15 12:29:12 | 76766 | Single_Tail_Larry | Severe | Broke a first timer's back on her first visit to the Sanctuary.  Fractured multiple vertebra with a cane. | Denver, Colorado | Summer 2010
2014-01-15 15:20:56 | 285607 | [NAME] | Severe | This [NAME] doesn't believe that a submissive should have any limits or desires, that they should only exist to serve him and his wants.  He has absolutely zero real life experience and I sincerely hope it remains that way for the sake of everyone else on this site  https://fetlife.com/users/285607/posts/1993270  and in case he deletes his post:    I’ve read a number of submissive profiles in which they demand a monogamous relationship with their Dom and will accept no less.  To me this is not a true submissive.  A true submissive wants to please her Dom and maintains his loyalty thru service. It is natural for a man to want to mate with more than one female and a true Dom will do as he desires.  When I have a submissive woman who is ready and willing to serve me I have little time for other women. That said – whatever I say and do is correct. My sub should expect that I will do as I like and that I am with her because she pleases me. | Fetlife | 2014-01-15 00:00:00
2014-01-15 15:29:49 | 999692 | stopyelling | Moderate | Repeatedly stalked and harassed multiple subs across various social media platforms.  After being told there is no interest, continues to message on a daily or weekly basis, doesnt understand "no" [NAME] his behavior on aspergers. Also will keep "found" property at local events and send hostage pictures, promising to return it but never actually doing so | Montreal, Qc | December, 2013
2014-01-15 19:39:40 | 657590 | Master-Bacon | Severe | Has harassed me on FetLife, and OKCupid on multiple accounts: summer 2013, and the fall (november) under a different account. After I blocked him from OKC and Fetlife for being overly aggressive, pushy, and trying to get me to go to his apartment without meeting him in public first, a few months later he created a different account with different photos and pretended as if we've never spoken. When I found out he was the same person, he denied it, said disgusting things to me (pushing for details about sexual experiences with girls, telling me about his boners randomly, demanding I call him "sir" and "master", wtf etc.) and I blocked him again. He claims to be a dom and knows nothing about kink. Just a predator looking for women to control. | Montreal, Quebec | July 2013, November 2013
2014-01-20 13:01:08 | 2122739 | greatestman | Moderate | he posted a naked picture of me on his fetlife, without my consent, and the picture had my easily recognizable tattoos in it | schaumburg | june
2014-01-21 04:06:31 | 1259962 | SteamGirl | Severe | A Fake, in every way. She isn't kinky in the slightest. Not Bisexual, like she claims to be. And She has NO CLUE what [NAME] is. [NAME], and nothing else. She's been using this site and myspace to fool everyone for a few years now. | 83648 | For about eight years now
2014-01-21 04:08:18 | 1859348 | _Vall_ | Severe | Predator....in every sense of the way. Preys on younger girls who don't know any better. | 83648 | 29Dec2013 12:55PM
2014-01-21 04:09:20 | 2568733 | _Shy_ | Severe | Fake, in every sense of the word. She's not kinky, even in the slightest. Attention whore at best; drama llama at worst. | 83648 | 29Dec2013 12:55PM
2014-01-21 14:41:23 | 309532 | iamnotthere | Severe | creepster.  Refuses to allow an escort to a photo shoot.   Told him I didn't want to be naked for the photos, and he agreed until I was tied up and helpless | Montreal, qc | 2011
2014-01-21 21:54:50 | 122017 | mjranum | Minor | Claiming art is his when there is clearly no proof. Overall a complete waste of space and overly curl. | Online | 2014-01-21 00:00:00
2014-01-22 14:13:11 | 333462 | TransBear | Severe | [NAME] and [NAME] organise themselves around grooming and raping people. They are very feared by people who have been abused by them and there is a reluctance for any to speak out because of fear of physical violence from them. | Melbourne, Victoria, Australia | Ongoing
2014-01-22 14:15:44 | 142980 | Alex_De_Boot | Severe | [NAME] and [NAME] organise themselves around grooming and raping people. They are very feared by people who have been abused by them and there is a reluctance for any to speak out because of fear of physical violence from them | Melbourne, Victoria, Australia | Ongoing
2014-01-23 07:19:19 | 4292 | [NAME] | Moderate | This person talked about "pushing limits" during negotiating topping me and despite my negative reaction to it, did so by doing things never negotiated during scenes: minimal punching and boot-stepping close to and partially on my throat. He responded passive aggressively to some requests made during the scene when it was too much to handle, sometimes outright ignoring me. He didn't notice, or simply continued to play through a panic attack (which he induced anyway by playing through my requests to stop or pause so that I could process).   I am not the first person to have problems with this top, and I hope others speak up here soon. | New York City | 2014-01-17 00:00:00
2014-01-24 10:44:03 | 4292 | [NAME] | Severe | Violated my request to stop as he was hurting me. Claimed the whole thing was an "accident" and told people I was crazy. I've heard MANY second-hand accounts of this man violating consent. He's also notorious for being drunk and selecting very young, naive partners. | New York | 2005
2014-01-24 21:13:35 | 1021618 | DaffAttack | Minor | this isnt an actual report, just.... why the fuck is being a sex worker a bad thing? get off this site and spew your nonsense elsewhere | - | -
2014-01-25 01:00:25 | 1505799 | HumblyAwesome | Minor | Minor complaints about immature and shitty behaviors from multiple sources.  No details given. Evaluate for yourself. | Victoria, Australia | Ongoing
2014-01-27 09:30:20 | 32609 | Shystallion | Severe | I had told him specifically that Age play could not be sexual. He said he could do it. I felt safe because I didnt know better at the time, but I slipped into little space. We played and it was okay at first. When bed time came around I went to go to sleep and about an hour later woke up to him unbuttoning my onsie, my wrists in his other hand and him telling me to shush cause mommy could hear. Luckily, and the only time i ever say luckily for a trigger, I was triggered and slammed my forehead against his, which resulted in a split in my forehead [i have a scar now] and his and I managed to get away.  When [name redacted] and him had relationship he ignored her 'No sex' hard limit she had at the time and raped her while she was in such a deep subspace she couldnt talk and say no.  hes a fucking monster. | Baltimore, MD | 2013
2014-01-27 13:21:45 | 200595 | [NAME] | Moderate | Trolls and harasses people relentlessly without provocation. Do yourself a favor and preemptively block him. Interact with him at your own risk. | fetlife | Ongoing
2014-01-27 22:50:44 | 2629086 | MsRikkiTs | Severe | I was with someone who I shale refer to as BS, she was supposed to be the DM at this event, I had negotiated a scene with one person who I had observed as being OK for my tastes, The MSRIKKITS came to attend later. MSRIKKITS had previously threatened to do physical harm to me. During the scene, it became evident that another person had joined the scene. It was the close friend to the person who I negotiated with. So I consented even though my consent had already been violated, then things got crazy, and at some point I felt like I was hit with a baseball bat. I stopped the scene shortly after. I found out later that BS the DM had gotten into the scene as well as a bunch of other people, and the person who hit me so hard I felt like I was hit with a bat was MSRIKKITS the person who had previously threatened assault (followed thru on prior threat). I brought it up to the DM the next day and the group leader and was treated like shit.  So basically it came down to this, my consent was violated first by the second person to join the scene I who I had not negotiated with, and then by the free for all that followed, and by MSRIKKITS who used it as an opportunity to make good on the prior thread made to bring harm to me.  So I took my case public on fetlife without naming names after waking up the morning following my return home barely able to walk, turns out that baseball bat type assault done by msrikkits had cracked a pelvic bone according to the doc.   Soon afterwards I began receive threatening phone calls from BS. I was later contacted by another fetlife user, who had said they had to start a new profile because they had a similar experience involving some of these same people who are in the groups local to savannah ga area, and was hurt, and when they complained to the DM and the group leader they began receiving death threats.  Since then there has been some crazy shit happening in the area with these same people and groups, it appears multiple people outing people, people posting on fetlife threats like with words like "my glock" and such things in the content (veiled threats), threats of lawyers, police and you name it, from many people against many it seems (it's really hard to tell who its aimed at on FL).   The whole BDSM scene in the area seems out of control and dangerous. I certainly won't be doing anything with these people anymore. It's only a matter of time before something really bad happens to someone as a result of this out of control BDSM culture in the area. | [NAME], Ga | 2013, around september
2014-01-27 22:53:24 | 469658 | Brandie_Shores | Moderate | Was the DM where I was assaulted during a scene by someone who made a prior threat to bring harm to me who had entered a free for all that was in itself a consent violation the DM should have stopped as the scene had been negotiated with only one person. | [NAME], Ga | 2013, around september
2014-01-29 12:19:56 | 1930501 | fungurlhhi | Severe | Below is a letter she has sent to several groups  ungurlhhi: 12h You should let [NAME] know that he may expect the possibility of becoming a party to a law suit.  The only reason I did not take action against rikki and jay and brandie for what happened at his place was because I have a family member who has no exposure to the BDSM community and wanted to keep it that way.  But since brandie has threatened me with a lawsuit for expressing my criicism of you guys, that in effect would force that exposure upon this family member. This removing the barrier that kept me from acting in the first place.  So b------ has essentually forced my hand.  Remember BDSM is considered an illegal activity is most states, and universally every time consent was raised in claims of harm as a defense the courts have ruled that no one can consent to abuse.  You can expect me to bring the entire GA BDSM community into this since all the groups essentually share the same members into this lawsuit. J-- can also expect the base commanders from the nearby military bases to get furlough records requests as part of discovery since several military personel attended the event held at his house.  Keep in mind I know all the locations of every playhouse and what info I don't have will be able to obtain from the discovery process. And thus everyone involved in the community can expect to be publically named as part of this process.  I have already contacted the state police and a local newspaper concerning my knowledge of several police officers being active participants in the BDSM community. And thus have named [NAME] ------  gates in such tips.  I have no qualms about bringing the entire BDSM community in Georgia into the public view thru litigation and any other means. I could care less if the fallout from the public exposure means some people might lose jobs and worse, You guys brought this on yourselves.  Have a good day..... | [NAME] | March 2013
2014-01-30 10:55:13 | 3002705 | chimetime, chimericaldreams | Moderate | This person used two accounts to repeatedly harass, threaten, and insult me by PM after his post was removed from one of the groups I moderate. | Detroit MI | January, 2014
2014-01-30 10:56:03 | 3147189 | ChimericalDreams | Moderate | This person used two accounts to repeatedly harass, threaten, and insult me by PM after his post was removed from one of the groups I moderate. | Detroit MI | January, 2014
2014-02-02 06:12:50 | 1415571 | Moushtie | Severe | The first time that I met Moushtie at The [NAME] in Hudds she got really touchy with me without asking. I later met a woman who claimed to have been sexually assaulted by Moushtie 16 years previously when she was at college, in similar circumstances, and that this has happened a number of times since then. Moushtie is a huge woman who could overpower most women and her partner is even bigger. Moushtie appeared to lose interest with me when she found a 19 year old girl with mental health problems who she believed herself to be protecting because she was vulnerable, and rather predictably her and her partner than started playing with this girl. Very creepy and not to be trusted. | Huddersfield, UK | 2013
2014-02-03 01:19:18 | 2184219 | Lickfeetgirls | Severe | This man has harassed, stalked, and threatened with bodily harm dozens of females in the SE Michigan area. He is considered dangerous and psychotic by many he has come in contact with. | SE Michigan | 2013 and 2014
2014-02-04 11:10:06 | 3017096 | Golfer13 | Moderate | Sends frequent and harassing sexual messages, used sock puppets to continue sending messages even after blocked. | Colorado Springs, Colorado | Ongoing
2014-02-06 15:07:33 | 2265332 | RentonBasquiat | Moderate | Preys on new females in the scene, tries to snatch them away from other doms if they have one. Very reserved demeanor. Validates himself by criticizing others constantly. Touts his 20 years of experience at least once every conversation. Very self-important borderline delusions of grandeur. Operates on the sly. | Baltimore, Maryland | 2013-2014
2014-02-07 00:04:41 | 199853 | Tymkeepr | Minor | Tymkeeper, by her own admission, has outed people in the community (see journal entry "Contemplations"). She and her husband (spectrum153) are known to have an "open" relationship but she will become possessive of partners whom she is with, resulting in nasty demeaning private messages and fetlife comments (stalker/aggressive/nosey behavior) to you because you are also associated with her current sleeping partner. Also, by her own admission (see journal entry "High Road") there was an incident that resulted in "accusations," "loss of reputation," "we all make errors in judgement," that has appeared to split her local community or at least has caused someone distress with persons taking sides. | Knoxville, Tennessee | Over the years
2014-02-09 17:55:05 | 150963 | RenaissanceMan | Moderate | This individual obviously has significant issues which make him a clear and present danger to those around him. Review for reference: https://fetlife.com/users/150963/posts/2034397 | Costa Rica | 2014-02-04 00:00:00
2014-02-09 22:31:01 | 2132625 | passionswirl | Severe | He's an abuser who doesn't adhere to boundaries and limits (soft or hard). If you try to safe word out or even say no to something you're not comfortable with he doesn't care and will continue anyway. Has no concept of aftercare, let alone any thought of emotional well-being for whomever he plays with. Over all, he's nothing more than a child with a flogger and has the mindset of being a Dom means he can do whatever he pleases without having to adhere to anything that is safe, sane and consensual. | [NAME] | May-June
2014-02-10 17:12:57 | 387343 | JayRichmnd | Severe | This guy messages young submissive females with the offer of doing a free photo shoot for them. Then during the shoot he molests and pressures the girls into doing things that were not discussed before hand | Seattle, Washington | 2013
2014-02-10 19:40:07 | 387343 | JayRichmnd | Severe | Molested a model during a photoshoot. Asked her to masturbate in front of him and stroked her while she was posing. | Seattle, WA | 2013
2014-02-11 19:43:27 | 2645341 | Rough2tumble | Moderate | This woman is insane. She's a child in the body of an adult and enjoys toying around with men. She's a whore who's has HSV.   She manipulates people to get her way, and is NOT to be trusted. Now, she doesn't have the best life, but you should NOT give her sympathy. She'll take that sympathy and choke you with it.   She dated my friend for a couple months, the one time they had sex she faked a pregnancy on him, and cheated on him with multiple men. | Bothell | Fall 2012, when she was in high school
2014-02-12 12:30:51 | 2760357 | A80j81 | Minor | This person is NOT a female, but a male trying to line up two females for a 3-some. | SE Michigan | February 2014
2014-02-14 11:09:11 | 1187336 | lostd | Moderate | Sends inappropriate videos and messages to outside email accounts. Sends harassing messages. | New York | February 2014
2014-02-14 13:23:32 | 2822768 | Jack_Shadow | Severe | Yet another incarnation of Rausche/Rausch/RSCH who I understand has now been reported to the police by his ex after a 9 month campaign of hacking and harassment. | Leeds, UK | 2012-present
2014-02-15 07:13:02 | 3184064 | Rausche_Again | Severe | This guy has more socks than Primark! See previous entries for Rausche, Rausch, _RSCH_ and Jack_Shadow | West Yorkshire | 2012-present
2014-02-16 15:08:32 | 2911049 | Daddy-longlegs | Severe | New account of Wren27, previously entered here for repeated severe instances of abuse. | Atlanta, Georgia | July 2012--March 2013
2014-02-16 15:24:07 | 2016072 | [NAME] | Severe | This man is a complete and total fake who collects young and inexperienced submissives and uses them for sex and to collect other young naive women for sex. He does not claim ANY of his relationships on his page, but you can find multiple references to them on his comments. | SE Michigan | February 2014
2014-02-16 17:32:07 | 713444 | ninjayellow | Severe | This assclown posted the following: "This is for absolutely fucking everybody on this whole site. Copy and paste, write it down, do whatever you have to do: LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE! DO NOT CONTACT ME IN ANY WAY - LOSE MY INFO, ERASE EVERY TRACE OF ME PLEASE!! I AM NOT FUCKING INTERESTED IN ANYONE OR ANYTHING OTHER THAN MY WIFE AND MY MARRIAGE!! Did you understand me this hundredth millionth time?!? I DON'T WANT YOU - NEVER DID, NEVER WILL, SO JUST GO AWAY! I am VERY happy with my beautiful wife and my fabulous marriage and life in general. We just had an absolutely fantastic [NAME]'s weekend and I intend to make every day with her [NAME]'s - forever!" after soliciting ims from females to his yahoo account. | Fetlife | 2014-02-16 00:00:00
2014-02-17 17:20:14 | 93614 | Silk | Severe | He rustled my jimmies. :/ | Baltimore, MD | 2012
2014-02-17 21:26:27 | 613708 | somethingnot | Severe | Failure to disclose STD status until after sex, blatant disrespect for hard limits, lied about age (is 34 as of 2014), attends parties exclusively for female-identified people yet does not identify as such. NONCONSENSUAL emotional sadist. | Montreal, QC | 2013
2014-02-18 00:30:38 | 182685 | portmanteau | Severe | Current leader of the South Bay TNG group. Uses the munch as his personal poaching ground for female partners. Females that he has taken an interest in can depend on being isolated and monopolized at every opportunity, with any person you show interest in that isn't him being actively talked down. Males that either allow him first choice or don't register as a threat to him and his prospects are tolerated. Males that do register as a threat to his dating pool are talked down to and chased away if possible. Verbally abusive of others, uses his position in the community to get away with it. | San Jose, CA | Ongoing
2014-02-18 06:29:04 | 722448 | FerretRaver | Severe | This Landwhale is the biggest drama queen, hate mongering liar I have ever seen in my life. Fails to reveal her STDs only to reveal it after sex. She claims to be "curvy," and her pictures are as old as prehistory. Be careful with her because when you talk to her, your life will be posted in her hanemongering groups. Beware of the drama, STD and privacy infractions. She changes her name every now and then. | Lowell, Massachusetts, United States | February 15th and 16rh, 2014
2014-02-18 10:37:24 | 2590127 | skull540 | Severe | This is one sick son of a bitch. Avoid him at all costs. He has posted autopsy photos of nude people with their bodies sliced open and dead infants without regard for their human dignity or the feelings of their families/friends should they come across such horror. This guy is probably looking for someone to skin and make lampshades out of. | Grand Rapids, MI, Fetlife | February 2014
2014-02-19 18:48:51 | 93614 | Silk | Minor | Up above are all things likely written by predators Silk has called out or people he has called out for facilitating predators. All of the accounts for his events have been marked with other untrue statements such as he is a sex offender in California. He's a dick, but hardly a predator. | Baltimore | Never
2014-02-19 18:51:34 | 1383824 | TheGoldenTether | Minor | Above statement likely written by a sexual predator outted or a venue he called our for facilitating predators. Silk is not nor has ever been a sex offender anywhere. He's just offensive. :p | Nowhere | Never
2014-02-19 18:52:24 | 1229084 | Wicked_Menagerie | Severe | Above statement likely written by a sexual predator outted or a venue he called our for facilitating predators. Silk is not nor has ever been a sex offender anywhere. He's just offensive. :p | Nowhere | Never
2014-02-19 18:53:36 | 1241976 | Misfits_Cabaret | Minor | Above statement likely written by a sexual predator outted or a venue he called our for facilitating predators. Silk is not nor has ever been a sex offender anywhere. He's just offensive. :p | Nowhere | Never
2014-02-19 18:54:17 | 1324409 | TheNerdgasm | Severe | Above statement likely written by a sexual predator outted or a venue he called our for facilitating predators. Silk is not nor has ever been a sex offender anywhere. He's just offensive. :p | Nowhere | Never
2014-02-19 18:59:31 | 845742 | PrincessDeeB | Severe | Likes to write false allegations on people's walls for calling her out for holding events at a known predator's (DarthVapor) home. | Baltimore, MD | November 1st, 2013
2014-02-19 21:17:44 | 362448 | BayAreaViking | Severe | Has violated explicitly stated boundaries during a scene, resulting in the boundary-setter getting badly hurt.  Has also spoken of plans to get several girls drunk so he can rape them.  WOMEN, DO NOT EVER BE ALONE WITH THIS PERSON. | 2110 Santa Clara Avenue, Alameda, CA | Within the last 6 months
2014-02-20 13:16:59 | 2181076 | MayaOutLoud | Minor | This individual has been known to believe that she has called a safe word but witnesses to the event attest that no safe word was called.  This individual knowingly exposed multiple partners to scabies, which they caught from her.  This individual agreed to certain types of public non sexual play and then months later turned on the play partner and expressed how she was violated. This individual posted on her profile about the things her ex's did and called it 'abuse' when it was a mutual relationship in which things went wrong simply due to poor communication.  Please be careful if you play with [NAME].  Ensure that you take things slowly and have witnesses. | Orlando/Daytona/Jacksonville | 2013
2014-02-23 06:48:12 | 980216 | -Locked-in-Latex | Minor | Her quote: It's the most important part of the Bimbo lifestyle! using guys as your source of income (I didn't get to the position I am today by being shy about it ;) i've got plenty of girlfriends that do the same. as soon as the money has fried up, they are on to the next guy that can afford the surgery, otherwise we'd all be stuck with poor losers ya know | fetlife | 23/02/2014
2014-02-28 07:09:44 | 3064499 | briebrie12 | Moderate | "[NAME]" here is a very smooth Catfish. She and I progressed to talking on the phone, which is when the real time-sucking started. Her back-story: Allegedly, she's single, 19, and just fled 2,000 miles from a sadomasochistic 50+ year old faculty member at her high school in California (where the legal age of consent is 18) who impregnated her at 16, beat her unconscious until she miscarried at 17 (necessitating a hysterectomy), and then brutally anally raped her after that as a last act of violation before breaking up with her...get the idea? To continue, she's allegedly now living in a small town in NC, alone in a duplex house/apartment not far from her uncle/aunt's home. She's 'desperately yearning' for a relationship with an older man who won't abuse her or violate her trust this time around. And she's child-free, but she often babysits for her next-door neighbor's two little kids, which she offers for an explanation as to why children can sometimes be heard in the background....well, 20+ hours of phone calls later, I received a late-night phone call from a guy who said, "This is [NAME]'s fiance. I don't know who you are or how you got her number, but I want you to stop making harassing calls to my girl, otherwise I'll have to get law enforcement involved." I had one more conversation with [NAME] after that, and she had the audacity to continue to deny having a boyfriend or fiance! And she said that she guessed that her cousin had gotten my phone number out of her phone and prank-called me. Yeah, right. After that, the next time I looked at her profile, I was blocked. I never spoke with her again. So, that's the story. Now, is there anything that can be done to prevent this engaged woman (who probably has kids) from wasting the time of other well-meaning men on Fetlife? | Western North Carolina and telephone | Late January & early February 2014
2014-03-02 11:10:33 | 243491 | BallsofSteel | Moderate | Is not someone I would recommend anyone play with. Please read https://fetlife.com/users/1673951/posts/2081495 | Los Angeles | 2014-03-01 00:00:00
2014-03-04 13:01:17 | 1353228 | Jackpots | Minor | does not look like his photo, gained weight and starting to thin up top. dropped off the face of the earth after he texted incessantly wo even a polite "no thanks," and started pursuing a friend | arlington, va | february 2014
2014-03-04 13:02:36 | 2405823 | RichInDC | Severe | douchebag. I was home sick one day and randomly started chatting with him. Convo went: Him: what are you doing today? Me: I'm sick with the flu and a horrible fever Him: Mmmmmm lets meet tonight  Yeah... I really want to get out of bed with a 102 fever to go suck your dick. LOSER. | arlington, va | 2013
2014-03-04 13:05:30 | 1270140 | dk2201 | Moderate | Djk75248 5 minute convo, our interests aren't compatible, I'm a cunt who needs therapy. Seriously!! Dlk75248 sent me a perfectly nice, respectful message a few months ago. I responded nice and respectfully. Then he asked if we could talk on Skype, I said no I don't use Skype, and he got super rude, told me he didn't want any "email buddies" and then blocked me. [NAME] I got PM from dk2201 (formerly djk75248) yesterday and we chatted a bit. He insisted that we met in person but I told him he had to wait until we got to know each other well enough and established some trust. Then he went mad and called me a crazy bitch hahahahaha | va | feb 2014
2014-03-04 13:07:52 | 3197087 | DCAM0122 | Severe | he likes to hide cameras!! I was recorded 5 years ago and didn't know it! Posts videos of you w your name wo permission trying to ruin your relationship | philadelphia, pa | jan 2014
2014-03-05 04:30:47 | 2779043 | CountKristoff | Severe | Lied about being married repeatedly to several different people.  Also hid other personal things from others. | UK | 2013
2014-03-05 04:34:12 | 1158090 | Tai-Dachi | Severe | Bagged a naive and possibly learning disabled sub. Took photos and was otherwise distracted. Is also known to be epileptic. This was done without a spotter. | UK | 2013
2014-03-05 20:05:22 | 1389565 | princessfifi | Severe | Hot as sin, yet morally flawless. | Victoria, Australia | Ongoing
2014-03-06 10:37:45 | 1716784 | maymay | Severe | I have this guy (maymay) on block. After several interactions when he crossed my boundaries, after reading up on what other women have written about him, and after seeing his interactions with other women who are uncomfortable with him, I believe he’s an abuser who uses his position as a “consent expert” to build authority. These are the really scary ones. | multiple locations | multiple occasions
2014-03-06 13:27:41 | 137878 | speedhunter925 | Moderate | Every time I go to a TNG event [NAME] touches me or grabs my ass or gropes my tits even though I've told him I don't want him to.  I've asked him not to, and talked to his wife stacia too, and she tells me that's just the way he is.  The people in charge like Towt/Jake and Night refused to do anything too, and told me he's a leader and respected and no one would listen to me.  He's also older than the age allowed for TNG but they let him in anyway. | Denver Sactuary, Denver, CO | TNG parties throughout 2013 and 2014
2014-03-07 00:03:50 | 1716784 | maymay | Severe | http://www.academia.edu/4862306/Events_for_Kinky_Sex_and_Sadomasochists_Open_to_Children  Maymay (Meitar Moscovitz) insisted that children should be allowed to attend a kinky sex and BDSM (Bondage,Discipline, and Sadomasochism) event called KinkforAll. Last year, Moscovitz tried to hold one of his KinkforAll events in a high school in Maryland.  [NAME] wants to attract teens to his events. He wants to provide youth – including minors –with information about fetishes, bondage and sadomasochism. He believes that children should be allowed full access to sexual materials and activities. He characterizes legal attempts to protect children from sexual ideas, images and materials as “sexual adultism,” a form of oppression of children. Moscovitz has publicly stated “I strongly disagree with any move to make anything, including any age, a barrier that prevents anyone from choosing for themselves whether or not they want information such as that shared at a KinkForAll event.  Before a KinkforAll event, they discuss how to recruit children. They suggest contacting youth and Planned Parenthood organizations seeking access to their peer-to-peer high school sex educators.    Five days before the Providence KinkforAll, Moscovitz sent out a twitter call asking for examples where “college-aged and younger youth successfully fought for stuff they want, especially sex education.” In other online discussions, Moscovitz strategizes with others about how to contact children. One conversation discusses how children often go to libraries after school to use the computer   According to Moscovitz, children have attended previous KinkforAll events.  One person asked him how he would respond to a hypothetical nine-year-old coming to a KinkforAll event. He wrote: I would walk to that boy and say, "Hi. My name is May. What are you looking for?" | unconference | Mar 2010- ongoing
2014-03-07 15:42:30 | 137878 | speedhunter925 | Severe | During a humiliation scene he shaved my head even though I never said that was ok.  I lost my job and my family was pissed at me.  It wasn't anything we'd ever negotiated and he and his wife and the other girl they were with told me that if I didn't want them to do it I should have told them it wasn't ok when we negotiated but I didn't even know it was something they would do.  i was a mess and looked like a cancer victem for weeks. | his house | november 2012
2014-03-08 11:57:58 | 2673876 | ffoenix81 | Minor | Had a cockshot as an avatar. In an unrelated pm conversation, drew my attention to it. Then posted two more cockshots "just for me" (after previously talking about his wife...). Protested it was supposed to be cute and funny, not creepy. | Fetlife | 2014-03-06 00:00:00
2014-03-08 13:26:29 | 2994709 | Long_Haul_Fucker | Severe | I heard from a reliable source that he is a wife abuser and rapist.  He often does not get consent and if provoked flies off the handle.  Breaks most every rule in the book.  He plays drunk and one time angrily beat and raped his wife in an out-of-control situation without negotiation or consent.    She said "no" but he continued so he could "teach her a lesson".  He continues lurk in the local Portland scene and unfortunately has his wife convinced it is part of her marriage duties.  Also it is a pretty safe bet he does not use condoms unless he has to, as this is part of his impregnation fetish. | Portland Oregon | January 2014
2014-03-08 16:29:44 | 141840 | Domina_Elle | Severe | this woman is a dangerous person she is one of the last members of the waco koresh branch davidians -- she practices as a sex worker in colorado and has been known to be violent and abusive on more than one occasion she is a mentally unstable person with a history of drug abuse and violence  do not do business with her and for godssake do not allow her to tie you up,  she is a dangers person a liar and a thief.  Source: http://badboyreport.kr/2013/06/skekinah-avraam-koresh-leslie-eddy-domina-elle-july-4-1966-denver-co/ | Denver, Colorado | Numerous occasions
2014-03-10 09:14:03 | 48490 | DSCross | Moderate | He once negotiated a needle scene with me and one of  his partners, and told me it would be safe and that there was almost no risk, and that he knew what he was doing.  but then he used a pair of dirty pliers to bend needles without cleaning them and used the same needle on myself and others even though we weren't fluid bonded and didn't even know each other. it wasn't until later that someone who saw what he was doing explained the dangers in playing that way that i knew what was wrong.  [NAME] told me it was completely safe and that i had nothing to worry about, but after talking to real experts i know he was lying. | Denver Sanctuary | July 2012 TNG play party
2014-03-10 09:20:55 | 444349 | Sestra_Mae | Minor | She's mean.  She tells lies about people she doesn't like and gets them banned from events using her boyfriends clout.  One time she got me banned because the girl she had a crush on started dating me and she got jealous.  When I talked to the event organizers to explain the situation they understood and let us in, and Sestra stopped us and started yelling and cussing at us and even pushed my girlfriend who was the girl she had a crush on because she woulldn't leave me. | Denver, Colorado | 2014-01-18 00:00:00
2014-03-10 18:21:03 | 62061 | dgermaine | Severe | Sent an explicit message to my propperty. | Fetlife | March 10th, 2014
2014-03-10 21:02:38 | 19377 | CircleOfLight | Minor | She has been raped and if her story is true, this is very unfortunate, but she has taken it upon herself to spread rumors of boundary violations and vague allegations of "predatory" behavior. She also makes agreements with people and then goes back on her word (I have seen this myself), which sadly lends me to doubt her rape story's accuracy. | Minnesota, Oregon | 2009-2013