Student essay written in en (native language: French, CEFR level: C1, field of study: Sciences humaines et sociales)

Should we, as a society, adapt more to children with severe social disabilities, or should they try to adapt to us ?
Recently, I had a conversation with a friend who works in the social field, and we discussed the different issues we face regarding this question. On one side, if we are more "inclusive" with children with social disabilites, we expect them to adapt to us, to social norms and conventions. But this could be very difficult for socially disabled people who might feel pressured to change who they are, and change their boundaries. On the other side, if we adapt ourselves totally to each individual, then there is no norms anymore, we don't know what is good or bad anymore, and this means living in anarchy. Eventually, if we don't adapt to children with social disabilities and they don't adapt to us, they will be left all by themselves as soon as they will reach their majority, and they might be very lonely during their life, leading them to feel really sad.
Thus, we can't adapt to everyone we met, but disabled people shouldn't have to adapt so much to the rest of the society that they suffer from it. With this conclusion in mind, what can we do ?
After discussing these ideas with a friend of mine, a solution appeared.
He therefore proposed that social workers should adapt to the socially disabled person to create a relationship with them, and the child will have to adapt a little bit to them too. As the relationship will evolve, he added that social worker would have to adapt less and less, and that the social norms and conventions would be learned and applied by the disabled child. In this dream scenario, we would indeed be able to live inclusively with people with severe social disabilities by adapting a little bit to them, thanks to the social conventions they would have learned through the relationship with their dedicated social worker.
Another point emerges from this conclusion. If we need to pay a social worker for each disabled child, it will cost a lot, and the government might not take those necessary actions. Thus, what can we do as citizens to help children with severe social disabilities learn social norms and conventions ?
First of all, I think that we need to show to "typical" children in which ways those "atypical" children are different from them, and how they are similar to them. If we explain well to children that everybody have boundaries and that they might differ from an individual to an other, they might understand better why children with social disabilities don't interact the same way that they do. Also, by being around kids who don't have social disabilities, disabled children might imitate them, and interact with them more. If they see "typical" children expressing boundaries, they might try to adopt the same way of expressing boundaries instead of hitting the others or ostracizing themselves, or even shutting themselves down.
Finally, I think that we sould learn as a society that we don't all have to be the same, to be extraverted, or "socially conventional". If the socially disabled child doesn't hurt anybody, they should have the right to have their own interests, and to occupy themselves on their own if they want to.