Dealing with Failure
Tags: career, discuss, webdev
Published: 2020-03-27 18:08:24

This story begins in the middle.

# TLDR

This is anecdotal advice on how I deal with failure.

1. Don't put all your hope into one thing. If you decide this one thing is going to determine your happiness, you are doomed. 
2. Remember that we all fail. Reaching out to talk to people about it helped me get past it.

# The E-mail

Yesterday, I got *the* e-mail. Ya know, the type of e-mail you've been waiting a week for. However, the contents were not what I wanted to hear.

![Rejection email](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/5ue1pbx4gy5kpoa1otlb.png)

Yes, I failed another coding exam. I nailed the first two interviews, only to bomb the coding exam.

I could spend this entire article talking about why I disagree with the hiring process for developers, however, that's not really the point of this. What I want to focus on is how to move past the failure. It doesn't have to be a coding exam, it could be something else. Dealer's choice.

So, how did I get over it?

# Gaining New Focus

I can recall a few times in my life where I really failed. I mean, REALLY failed. Failed to the point of weeks-long depression. This easily could have been one of those times. It is so easy to be defeated. However, I like to think I've learned a little bit over my time here on Earth.

> It is so easy to be defeated.

I had put a lot of hope into getting that job, however, It's not the only place I applied to. I've been shotgunning resumes to every tech company within a 20-mile radius of where I live + remote jobs.

While I am waiting for the next interview call (it will inevitably come), I am still working on other things. I have some freelance gigs I am finishing up. I also decided to get back into writing music as a way of not thinking about dev work. It also allows me an opportunity to design stuff, which I love.

# Reach out

I am part of a slack group that is full of people trying to get by. I was talking to them about this, and they were supportive + empathetic. A few of them are devs and are well aware of the challenges of getting hired. All of them have experience failure. Often, I think just getting the words out, "I failed" is cathartic. If you accept it as a failure, you can move forward.

# Learn From It

You might be wondering what I learned from the failed coding exam? Well, for one thing, I'm a little bit smarter about what to expect from a Hackerrank test. For another, I learned (by talking to people) that this is fairly common. Also, I now know that regex seems to be a pretty important topic (I've seen it another test before too), so I should probably buckle down and get good at it.

Finally, this really solidifies the idea that I need to forge my own path. I have been a freelance developer for about four years now. I have worked at companies large and small. I CAN deliver. I know that. 

# Bottom Line

Sometimes, things don't go according to plan.

# Final Thoughts

I said in the beginning that this story started in the middle. It is true, getting the e-mail that I didn't make it to the next round is not the end. There are more jobs out there waiting to be applied to and more importantly, I have a lot more to contribute.

How do you deal with rejection or failure? I'd love to hear your story.

# Video

I made a video out of this article that expands a bit...check it out if you want to see me be uncomfortable lol

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# Plugs

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