Exposing my Instagram DMs (and replying here!)
Tags: instagram, dm, femalecreators, weirdmessages
Published: 2020-08-23 12:24:41

👋Hello beautiful people of the world!

In this post, I'll share some of my DMs from [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/elefintech/).
I started using IG exactly 85 days ago. At first, I was deleting the "weird" messages but then I decided to keep them and make (hopefully) a fun post.

**Notes:**
- I will not share names nor will I show anything unethical.
- I will also answer some of those messages here!!
- I obviously don't want to offend anyone. Maybe this post will help some people in their online communication skills.

😊I have categorized the DMs so it's a bit easier for you to follow my thoughts.


# Categories
- Hi
- Hello
- How are you?
- Nationality, are you Indian?
- Are you a coder, hacker, dancer?
- You are a beauty (and obviously a famous model)
- Shoutout
- Teach me to code / Solve my problem / Find me a job
- Being ashamed of myself?
- Miscellaneous: **Elon Musk, Astronauts, Sugar daddies, etc**



# ✌️Hi
![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/8pwryzyt4pugewj0yaon.PNG)

I receive a lot of messages saying "hi" but those people don't mention anything else so I really don't know what they expect from me...

Below you can find a list of... "hi"

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/19yl3mldqdl9jim3xqay.PNG) 
![hi](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/zlu020zmq0l0cf6k6ngp.PNG) 
![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/phtqb5uj6uz00uzsvpeh.PNG) 
![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/tpnoueuilaapcrbk30q9.PNG)
![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/7yx4kn60xu0qrjgis7cn.PNG)
![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/wkaxizxj71zpdqqtvdvh.PNG)
![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/0zdvzfwkbpnpy3ujetki.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/d6i6y1r1d29zbcoqcsc1.PNG)

*🤦‍♀️I think this guy really zoomed in on my photos!*

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/dgc8lobjb7ae7y792h7h.PNG)

*🤦‍♀️Well... we didn't exactly meet... I don't know even your first name*

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/hiyz3d2nsjauav1kwgpo.PNG)

*🤦‍♀️And you can also find the people who just spam*

I'm not a bad person, really! I just don't have the time to answer in those messages...

# ✌️Hello

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/cxqm0lx8tveyxmabqaoj.PNG)

Of course, there are multiple ways to greet someone. You can say "hi", "hello", "hey" or you can **invent** your own ways, such as **"hie", "helli", "hlo"**

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/2vw447nnfu97zx6etn2j.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/ehu2x9gwk15brl3fqho2.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/p9kj02i19whn1do2h900.PNG)

*🤦‍♀️You don't even type the full word... and do you expect an answer?!*

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/zuu6kpkta2gn9a29chj0.PNG)

*🤦‍♀️Dude, you don't even know me...*

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/ct9w5a443u8xf7srbedv.PNG)

*🤦‍♀️Maybe this guy tried to play with the words?! I m not sure... (My name nickname is Elli so did he actually combined my name with hello?!)*


# ✌️How are you?

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/gtysb2uowpjjzca696y8.PNG)

Some people are polite so they do ask me "how are you". I appreciate it and honestly if I had the time I'd answer these kinds of messages, but again I can't...

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/pxx29gprbbagq0hwnspl.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/1zdix1uu893mqw7wbrty.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/7mam4558yadcfdeu9l7t.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/1738gy3cg49tbxuxfsgf.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/2giulzddzsfwu4s4s55d.PNG)

*🤦‍♀️And there are obviously these type of people who can't stop on "hi, how are you?" they want more... but they don't even take the time to type the full question.*


# ✌️Nationality - Are you Indian?

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/7u9ubfe3kav16ttcanjv.PNG)

🌍I don't think nationality is something that should define us.
I've never asked anyone through social media about their nationality...
Anywho... since I noticed a lot of people wanted to know my nationality I added it to my bio.
Was that was enough?
Nope!! People kept asking me...
(Most of the time they assume I'm Indian.)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/duovdcz3hoeshyn9c90e.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/rfnmu9j2isecqy11nsq9.PNG)


# ✌️Are you a coder? a hacker? a **dancer** ?

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/0tz23rcghs7e01j63n5c.PNG)

The first thing I wrote on my bio was that I'm a **developer**.
Again, was that enough?
You guessed right! Nope, it wasn't.

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/o41zf1e877pgz86xy71f.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/fotpp9t6ydz8kcfyhlz3.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/jxpvzq27i48oaetxzqf6.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/7wwdyr23h0ppgux80tvx.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/cu9pw1kxlp4wponopsnr.PNG)

*💃Why did this person asked me if I'm a dancer?!*


# ✌️You are a beauty (and obviously a famous model)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/59dkcwc6d47ujvjgn3z7.PNG)

Thanks for your kind words, but I'm not on Instagram to show my "beauty". I'm on Instagram because I want to present my work, follow people that inspire me and hopefully motivate people to do what they love to do.

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/x8vatghxryedqx9i1d2q.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/8kk8vo6qstn7c6oom2ei.PNG)

*🤦‍♀️Am I famous model?*

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/a98ndof4jt0ody2ka3ti.PNG)

*🙆Thanks for considering me and my family. I do appreciate these kinds of messages. (I'm not sarcastic)*

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/la563vghmxxklsm2h6fn.PNG)

*🤦‍♀️You don't know me...*

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/ozbcg650udbsw9b49980.PNG)

*🤦‍♀️Well... I don't think we are best friends... Sorry. I don't know anything about you.*

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/uqsinpnfypl48agorugd.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/ckv5xs8nv98apug7i5l3.PNG)

*🤦‍♀️What do those people expect from me? I honestly don't know. I believe though we have different cultures and maybe I can't understand them.*


# ✌️Shoutout

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/nw28gy3p1do32plsd106.PNG)

To be clear, I'm not going to promote people that 
- I don't know and they don't introduce themselves 
- are working in a different field from mine (I mean I'm not going to promote clothes, mugs or dishes since my followers are mostly 'tech' people).
- I'm not personally interested in

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/ec4d2r93d1sd63v28hnq.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/5kbxealgd22xe5gr9rcl.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/g6mfoll2fex1or3ai0e2.PNG)

*🤦‍♀️Before I start working with IG I wasn't aware that this "shoutout" thing was so popular... Nowadays I receive so many messages for shoutouts.*

# ✌️Teach me to code / Solve my problem / Find me a job

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/ag11tdjyvxik819ib34u.PNG)

I also receive a plethora of messages from people asking me questions that could be Googled way to easily. I wish I could help everyone but I can't...

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/wfy7lozfpwvly64a91q5.PNG)

*🤦‍♀️For example a lot of people asking me Python questions. But I don't know Python. I never said I know Python or I'm interested to learning. I never used any hashtag related to python and I barely follow people who focus on Python*

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/1320x639d5rk4d8q34ar.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/pn4ikg4rw5m7swlcojld.PNG)

*🤦‍♀️Also, friendly advice, when you want to ask something introduce yourself, be polite and then ask the question. Don't say "I have a question", just ask that question...*

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/687ba5173glcm8k3t1au.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/cp9uqmydlxgsculb02v0.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/rpzv66fxcjeklhs0v4n8.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/uy0wj9zvezr78pv79ec6.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/a1tud4woivtd94fluii8.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/jp6jx17a0sb94p5ncsfh.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/51cxadoqurypebwrpq9t.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/2uk1e0khe0aagn57xtv1.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/8hfnnp6lei1632a1wjjc.PNG)

*🤦‍♀️I won't comment on all those messages, but I truly believe these questions have an answer on Google!*


# ✌️Being ashamed of myself?

Please do take the time to read the whole conversation and you'll maybe understand me.

- I don't think this person checked my profile before sending me.
- I clearly said "I'm not in a mood to talk" and he kept bugging me.
- **Please let me know in the comments if I'm wrong**


![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/mv3gwcvttienaye0dnwl.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/22m5sxzc13zkfn6p79wl.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/ujut5j7wrpp4mg216ew6.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/crwpyxtk5mnpwzcgyyu3.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/yelujtwcw1nufc5xak5m.PNG)


# ✌️Miscellaneous: **Elon Musk, Astronauts, Sugar daddies, etc**.

Sometimes I receive too weird messages and even if I wanted to reply I wouldn't know how...

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/k3hazwr3ji2w1ep7206y.jpg)

*💇For example: Did this person implied that I don't have good hair? And how could I possibly help him/her?*

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/fvua8xwbnphbf7igwdsf.PNG)

*🤔Ok, about my IG name I have received a lot of messages (who would have thought, right?!). Apparently people cannot read correctly my name... Probably that was a wrong choice made by me.*

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/o680069n6ifnjumb2fq8.PNG)

*🤖Did that person actually believe he was talking to a bot?*

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/tr84ua8ilgrxri2kks44.PNG)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/0c87ks0t8r8zaakhj27q.PNG)

*👽Am I an Astronaut and do I have internet in the space? well even if I don't Elon Musk is working on that🚀*

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/1p8a1qkk59kunbolrpw6.jpg)

![Alt Text](https://dev-to-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/i/31ferhai8zcbrk5l4nvz.jpg)

*🚼As for the people who are searching sugar babies on IG... oh well I'm not even bothering to comment*


### Ok, that was it guys!
I know this post was quite long.

The purpose of writing it and showing you those messages was because I wanted everybody to see how it's like to be a female creator on social media.
(And maybe it's a bit educational and funny at the same time!)

I don't imply that males or other genders don't receive "weird" messages. In fact, I have a male friend with more than 20K followers and he said he's receiving messages of hate of people accusing him that he's gay because he never shows girls on IG stories. 
I mean this is absurd.

## Final thoughts

When sending a message to a creator do at least those 4 things:
- Don't forget to introduce yourself
- Be polite
- Make some research on your own
- Describe the problem


Please comment on your thoughts so we can have a nice discussion about DMs on social media.
Thank you for reading.


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