Don't Worry About What People Think - They're Losing Anyway
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Published: 2020-07-08 22:08:20

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The people that are closest to you are your spouse, some family members, and probably your best friends.

Let's say you live with your spouse.

You two spend only about 4 to 5 percent of your waking lives together.

Your best friends and even some of your closest family members get 1% of your waking life if they’re lucky.

Really think about this: if any of them don’t believe in you, how much of your life does that affect?

A minuscule amount.

So why bother being upset about it?

## Prove them wrong.

Darren Hardy says there are usually one or more of five motivations when we set a goal: for our self worth, for our family, for contribution to society or community, revenge on someone else, or disgust with the situation.

If there’s someone crapping on your goals, use revenge to show them you were right all along.

You’re the only person who lives 100% of your life. 

Do what you want with it, [not what other people want](https://no-alarms-club.simplecast.com/episodes/dont-worry-about-what-people-think).

## Setting a goal.

There are lots of ways to set goals and we’ll get more into that later, but right now I want to share [a goal Sean mentions in this chapter](https://overlapbook.com).

> I am going to buy a Lamborghini in cash and I’m going to buy it when the price represents only 10 percent of my money.

This is a pretty cool goal. Not because of the car. I don’t care about the car.

What’s cool is how specific it is.

He knows how much the car costs. $400,000.

That’s 10% of $4,000,000 so he knows exactly how much money he needs to have before he buys the car.

And the car is the motivation because it’s a car he’s wanted since he was young.

This is what motivates Sean every day.

What we need to do is find our motivation and set specific goals.

## A million dollars is not a lot of money.
 
Something Sean says a lot is

> A million dollars is not a lot of money.

He says we need to get over thinking that it is.

No one in my family makes that much money. 

I think my cousin’s husband might have that much as his total net worth.

If anyone in my family does, it’s him.

But otherwise, no one in my family has close to $1,000,000.

So it’s a lot of money, right?

Not really.

I realized this years ago before I started listening to Sean when Facebook bought WhatsApp for 19 Billion Dollars in 2014.

I had barely even heard of WhatsApp and I didn’t know anyone who used it.

But Facebook bought it for 19 billion dollars.

A million dollars was no longer a lot of money in my eyes.

At this point, a billion isn’t even that big to me.

## The next 20 days of our life.

Sean wants us to go back to that list we made. 

{% link https://dev.to/garrett/set-a-big-goal-and-make-it-uncomfortably-big-28m %}

We’re going to pick one goal.

Just one.

We need to pick the one that would make the most impact on our life right now.

If you could snap your fingers and a goal would be complete, which one would you pick? Which of those would improve your life the most?

Highlight it, underline it, bold it. Do whatever you need to do to make it stand out.

Now make a new note. Put it at the top of the note with the date. Not today. One year from today.

We’re going to complete this goal in one year.

Make a bulleted list of 20 bullets. Each one is going to be something you can do every day to make that goal a reality.

It’s going to be tough to come up with 20 things. Do it anyway.

If you can’t come up with 20, come up with 30.

Really stretch yourself to come up with your list of things to do.

Then, every day, you’re going to do one of those things.

I wish Sean had included an example list here.

The thing about this list is that in 20 days we’re going to have these things done and be that much closer to our goal.

## Rinse and repeat.

This is what separates us from everyone else.
 
We have a goal. We have a plan. We have tasks to accomplish every day.

 We know where we’re headed and they don’t.