Like butter across too much bread
Tags: devadvocacy, life, burnout, devrellyfe
Published: 2019-12-06 18:48:00

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title: Like butter across too much bread
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date: 2019-12-06 18:00:47 UTC
tags: Dev Advocacy,Life,burnout,devrellyfe
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I knew it was coming. My team knew it was coming. My peers knew it was coming. One of the things we know about developer advocacy is that there is a really high rate of burnout — it’s because we care so much. There isn’t any time that I’m not running a constant background process of how I could help people more and do my job more effectively, but when combined with travel and environmental stressors and all the other stuff, it was less of a background process and more of a memory leak. Eventually, the system crashes.

My colleague Dawn wrote an excellent article about [burnout, which you can find at OpenSource.com](https://opensource.com/article/19/11/burnout-open-source-communities). I thought for a while that it might not happen to me, because I do feel empowered, and autonomous, aligned, happy about my product, well-supported by my peers and my management. If I only have a couple factors, it’s not going to be a problem, right? Wrong.

Because I knew it was coming, I had pushed to get a team in place so that my absence wouldn’t be a problem. Because I knew it was coming, I had made plans for leave. And then a month before I started my leave, I broke. I couldn’t write, I could barely attend talks. I gathered up all the resources and supports I had and made it through my last commitments, but now I am empty.

> I’m not ok, but I’m going to be ok.

I thought about structuring this post in a way to make it useful to other people in the same place, but I don’t have that in me right now. Instead, let me tell you what I’m going to do.

- I’m logging out of work. My slack, my email, all of it. I expect by the time I get back in a month or so, it’ll be safe to install Catalina. ![😉](https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/12.0.0-1/72x72/1f609.png)
- I’m not going anywhere. I am not getting on any planes, I am not setting any alarms. (I am, but they’re about parenting, not work)
- I ordered jigsaw puzzles – giant, elaborate, repeating jigsaw puzzles, because they are completely recreational. No one judges your jigsaw productivity.
- I’m taking Twitter off my devices. I love a lot of my Twitter friends, but I also recognize that I’m always at least a little bit working when I read Twitter. I’ll probably set up a posting service, but don’t expect me to get back to any DMs.
- I’m sleeping. I’m eating. I’m exercising. I’m doing all the doctor stuff that I skipped because have you ever tried scheduling a doctor around 80% travel?
- I’m giving myself permission to not do Christmas “right”. Whatever happens is what was meant to happen.
- My guiding principal is going to be “Do I find that nourishing?”.

 ![20191202_032504](https://heidiwaterhouse.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/12/20191202_032504-3-scaled.jpg)

A large jigsaw puzzle partially assembled, with a pattern of repeating circles with dots in them.

I’ll catch you on the flipside.