Wanna be that one in the crowd? Well, let's talk about it!!
Tags: career, startup, performance, podcast
Published: 2022-01-20 16:29:43

Hey there!! Let's talk about something people usually give you advice that you follow these five ways or points or et cetera then you'll grasp it!! But you and I know already that words like self-confidence, public speaking, influencing is not one-day learning or read it and get it thing!!
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Well let's start with this, Dale Carnegie once said, "Is there the faintest shadow of a reason why you should not be able to think as well in a perpendicular position before an audience as you can when sitting down? Surely, you know there is not. In fact, you ought to think better when facing a group. Their presence ought to stir and lift you. A great many speakers will tell you that the presence of an audience is a stimulus, an inspiration, that drives their brains to function more clearly, more keenly."

Now personally I don't get inspired but the quote above but it was fancy way to start also maybe you can read and it works for you, but now I'll dive you directly to what I feel developing courage and self-confidence is all about!!

**Number One: You should have a Strong and Persistent Desire**
Now what's that about? Let's say You have knowledge on a subject and you really wanna share it with others so what's that feeling of really wanting to do something is nothing but the desire!! You gotta present your speak in-front of bunch of people or a big crowd or let's not bother that right now but start it with a strong and presistent desire of delivering it. Arouse your enthusiasm for it.Think what it can mean to you financially, socially and the increased influence and leadership. It will give you leadership more rapidly than any other activity you can think of.

**_"There is no other accomplishment", stated Chauncey M. Depew, "which any man can have that will so quickly make for him a career and secure recognition as the ability to speak acceptably"_**

Standing in front of the crowd and making people think your thoughts after you, Man now that'll give you the feeling of strength and power.It'll appeal to your pride of personal accomplishment.There is magic in it and never to be forgotten thrill!! So you should keep thinking what this skill can mean to you until your desire is white hot.

**Number Two: Know Thoroughly What You are Going to Talk About**
Unless a person has thought out, planned or knows what he/she is going to speak to the audience about he/she will never be confident enough while delivering it. Knowing to jotting down already what you are going to speak about before you deliver it is a plus point. Pen and paper is not always required at least in your head you should always be aware of the topic or about the facts you might deliver to the audience who came to listen and maybe even learn from you.
There's a advice ran: "Don't speak until you are sure you have something to say and know what it is; then say it, and sit down."
Now in this we'll also talk about the term nervousness. People who lack self-confidence tend to get nervous while delivering the speech. Now we'll talk about a little trick that will help you throw off embarrassment if you can find something to do before audience- if you can exhibit something, write a word on the backboard, or point out a spot on the map, or move a table open a window, or shift some book or paper or pen- "Any physical action with purpose behind it may help you feel more at home." Here's a suggestion Use it if you can but use it only first few times only. The baby doesn't cling to chair after it once learns how to walk!!

**Third: Act Confident:**
Professor Williams James wrote as follows: "Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not."
To feel brave, act brave. Use all your will to the end, and courage fit will very likely replace the fit of fear. Apply Professor James' advice: Granted that you know what you are going to talk about, step out briskly and take a deep breath. In fact, take a deep breath for thirty seconds before you face your audience.
Now, what causes fear? It's the result of not knowing what you can really do. And not knowing what you can really do is caused by a lack of experience. When you have a record of successful experiences behind you, your fear will vanish, will melt like night mist and shine like July sun. So draw yourself to full height, look your audience right in their eyes, and begin to talk to the like they owe you money, or at least imagine that they do. The psychological effect on you will be beneficial.
If you are feeling nervous don't play with your hair or touch your clothes again and again. Learn how to deal with the nervousness in that situation and what you can do about it. Maybe fold your arms for some second or take your hand behind and twist your fingers gently. Deal with your nervousness on stage such that no one can notice you were facing it. Sometimes bad speakers hide behind the furniture on the platform. Maybe you can do that first few times or as mentioned above what things you can do to make yourself feel at home initially. Your fear, go out meet them, battle them, conquer them by sheer boldness at every opportunity you get!!
Sometimes think it this way you are a person who is there to deliver a message and people there are slightly paying attention to you and they are just there to listen to the content that you will deliver. Then talk as if you were determined to say it. And do that. High chances are that you'll master the occasion and master yourself!!

**_Last and the Most Important: Practice!! Practice!! Practice!!_**
Reading all this can't help you until you actually for the first time step-up to do it. The theory is not all that can help you in the industry of implementation. You can not make a product by just studying it, but implementing it!!
Practice here is nothing but the implementation of what you have in mind, the thoughts you feel can help you get courage and self-confidence in you!!

_**The first way, the last way, the never-failing way to develop self-confidence in speaking is- to speak!!**_ All this simmers down to one most essential thing that is Practice!!
Now you've been reading this article for so long. Why don't you put it aside and get busy with the real work at hand!!