How To Be Alone
Autor: Jéssinha | Publicado: 2010-08-08T23:44:00-04:00

Muito meigo. Muito verdadeiro. Muito sábio. Antes de ser feliz com alguém, que tal tentar ser feliz consigo mesmo? ;)(Poesia de Tania Davis)If  you are at first lonely, be  patient. If you've not been alone much, or  if when you were, you weren't  okay with it, then just wait. You'll  find it's fine to be alone once  you're embracing it.We  could start with the acceptable places,  the bathroom, the coffee shop,  the library. Where you can stall and read  the paper, where you can get  your caffeine fix and sit and stay there.  Where you can browse the  stacks and smell the books. You're not supposed  to talk much anyway so  it's safe there.There's also the gym. If you're shy you could hang out with yourself in mirrors, you could put headphones in (guitar stroke).And there's public transportation, because we all gotta go places.And there's prayer and meditation. No one will think less if you're hanging with your breath seeking peace and salvation.Start simple. Things you may have previously (electric guitar plucking) based on your avoid being alone principals.The   lunch counter. Where you will be surrounded by chow-downers. Employees   who only have an hour and their spouses work across town and so they  --  like you -- will be alone.Resist the urge to hang out with your cell phone.When   you are comfortable with eat lunch and run, take yourself out for   dinner. A restaurant with linen and silverware. You're no less   intriguing a person when you're eating solo dessert to cleaning the   whipped cream from the dish with your finger. In fact some people at   full tables will wish they were where you were.Go to the movies. Where it is dark and soothing. Alone in your seat amidst a fleeting community.And   then, take yourself out dancing to a club where no one knows you.  Stand  on the outside of the floor till the lights convince you more and  more  and the music shows you. Dance like no one's watching...because,  they're  probably not. And, if they are, assume it is with best of human   intentions. The way bodies move genuinely to beats is, after all,   gorgeous and affecting. Dance until you're sweating, and beads of   perspiration remind you of life's best things, down your back like a   brook of blessings.Go to the woods alone, and the trees and squirrels will watch for you.Go   to an unfamiliar city, roam the streets, there're always statues to   talk to and benches made for sitting give strangers a shared existence   if only for a minute and these moments can be so uplifting and the   conversations you get in by sitting alone on benches might've never   happened had you not been there by yourselfSociety  is afraid of  alonedom, like lonely hearts are wasting away in  basements, like people  must have problems if, after a while, nobody is  dating them. but lonely  is a freedom that breaths easy and weightless  and lonely is healing if  you make it.You  could stand, swathed by groups and mobs or hold  hands with your  partner, look both further and farther for the endless  quest for  company. But no one's in your head and by the time you  translate your  thoughts, some essence of them may be lost or perhaps it  is just kept.Perhaps  in the interest of loving oneself, perhaps  all those sappy slogans  from preschool over to high school's groaning  were tokens for holding  the lonely at bay. Cuz if you're happy in your  head than solitude is  blessed and alone is okay.It's  okay if no  one believes like you. All experience is unique, no one has  the same  synapses, can't think like you, for this be releived, keeps  things  interesting lifes magic things in reach.And  it doesn't mean  you're not connected, that communitie's not present,  just take the  perspective you get from being one person in one head and  feel the  effects of it. take silence and respect it. if you have an  art that  needs a practice, stop neglecting it. if your family doesn't  get you, or  religious sect is not meant for you, don't obsess about it.you could be in an instant surrounded if you needed itIf your heart is bleeding make the best of itThere is heat in freezing, be a testament.