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Autor: luis antonio freire | Publicado: 2011-07-15T14:53:00-07:00

dear &nbsp;son &nbsp;taue...
dear &nbsp;son &nbsp;peter... 

there &nbsp;has &nbsp;been &nbsp;sometime &nbsp;already…
that &nbsp;my &nbsp;mind &nbsp;“spaces-out” &nbsp;through &nbsp;some &nbsp;memories…
recalling… &nbsp;several &nbsp;moments &nbsp;that &nbsp;we’ve &nbsp;been &nbsp;together…

now… &nbsp;I’m &nbsp;with &nbsp;my &nbsp;life &nbsp;all &nbsp;settled-down…
here &nbsp;in &nbsp;the &nbsp;farm… &nbsp;with &nbsp;maria…
enjoying &nbsp;a &nbsp;healthy &nbsp;life…
a &nbsp;life &nbsp;which &nbsp;I've &nbsp;always &nbsp;dreamed &nbsp;about…

I’m &nbsp;taking &nbsp;care &nbsp;of &nbsp;myself…
eating &nbsp;the &nbsp;good &nbsp;meals &nbsp;prepared &nbsp;by &nbsp;maria &nbsp;with &nbsp;all &nbsp;her &nbsp;love…
in &nbsp;short…
enjoying &nbsp;a &nbsp;life &nbsp;where &nbsp;there’s &nbsp;nothing &nbsp;to &nbsp;complain &nbsp;about…

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but… &nbsp;the &nbsp;sentiment &nbsp;of &nbsp;missing-you-guys &nbsp;is &nbsp;enormous…
but… &nbsp;that’s &nbsp;ok…
I &nbsp;don’t &nbsp;want &nbsp;to &nbsp;interfere &nbsp;in &nbsp;your &nbsp;lives…
I &nbsp;want &nbsp;you &nbsp;guys &nbsp;to &nbsp;move-on &nbsp;with &nbsp;your &nbsp;lives…
with &nbsp;courage… &nbsp;wisdom… &nbsp;tenderness…
and &nbsp;kindness &nbsp;towards &nbsp;everyone &nbsp;surrounding &nbsp;you…


being &nbsp;able &nbsp;to &nbsp;stand &nbsp;up &nbsp;for &nbsp;your &nbsp;rights…
calmly… &nbsp;with &nbsp;good-manners… &nbsp;and &nbsp;without &nbsp;aggressiveness…

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since &nbsp;you &nbsp;are &nbsp;in &nbsp;the &nbsp;united-states…
and &nbsp;I’m &nbsp;in &nbsp;brasil…
then… &nbsp;the &nbsp;best &nbsp;way &nbsp;to &nbsp;diminish &nbsp;the &nbsp;distance &nbsp;between &nbsp;us…
is &nbsp;to &nbsp;write &nbsp;emails &nbsp;like &nbsp;this &nbsp;one…

emails &nbsp;where &nbsp;there’s &nbsp;no &nbsp;predetermined &nbsp;subject…
simply &nbsp;an &nbsp;email &nbsp;where &nbsp;the &nbsp;conversation &nbsp;flows…
motivated &nbsp;by &nbsp;the &nbsp;pure &nbsp;pleasure &nbsp;of &nbsp;the &nbsp;conversation &nbsp;itself…

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I’m &nbsp;willing &nbsp;now… &nbsp;to &nbsp;talk &nbsp;a &nbsp;little-bit &nbsp;about &nbsp;myself…
telling &nbsp;you &nbsp;a &nbsp;little-bit &nbsp;of &nbsp;the &nbsp;history-of-my-life…

as &nbsp;surprising &nbsp;as &nbsp;it &nbsp;can &nbsp;be… &nbsp;very &nbsp;often…
in &nbsp;spite &nbsp;of &nbsp;living &nbsp;together &nbsp;for &nbsp;a &nbsp;long &nbsp;time…
very &nbsp;often… &nbsp;we &nbsp;forget &nbsp;to &nbsp;stop… &nbsp;and &nbsp;talk &nbsp;about &nbsp;basic-facts &nbsp;of &nbsp;our &nbsp;lives…

usually… &nbsp;we &nbsp;are &nbsp;so &nbsp;absorbed… &nbsp;in &nbsp;our &nbsp;daily &nbsp;worries…
that &nbsp;we &nbsp;forget &nbsp;to &nbsp;spare &nbsp;a &nbsp;little &nbsp;time... 
to &nbsp;REVEAL &nbsp;to &nbsp;the &nbsp;dear &nbsp;ones &nbsp;that &nbsp;surround &nbsp;us…
such &nbsp;important &nbsp;issues &nbsp;which &nbsp;are &nbsp;the &nbsp;fundamental &nbsp;facts &nbsp;of &nbsp;our &nbsp;own &nbsp;history…


when &nbsp;I &nbsp;was &nbsp;six-month-old… &nbsp;me… &nbsp;my &nbsp;sister &nbsp;ana emilia… &nbsp;my &nbsp;father &nbsp;and &nbsp;my &nbsp;mother…
moved &nbsp;to &nbsp;boston…
my &nbsp;father &nbsp;got &nbsp;a &nbsp;scholarship &nbsp;from &nbsp;the &nbsp;brazilian-navy…
to &nbsp;study &nbsp;in &nbsp;the &nbsp;master’s &nbsp;program…
at &nbsp;MIT… &nbsp;( massachusetts &nbsp;institute &nbsp;of &nbsp;technology )… &nbsp; &nbsp; 

we &nbsp;stayed &nbsp;there &nbsp;for &nbsp;only &nbsp;three &nbsp;years… 
so &nbsp;I &nbsp;can’t &nbsp;recall &nbsp;anything &nbsp;from &nbsp;this &nbsp;period…
the &nbsp;only &nbsp;thing &nbsp;I &nbsp;can &nbsp;tell… &nbsp;from &nbsp;the &nbsp;stories &nbsp;my &nbsp;mother &nbsp;later &nbsp;told &nbsp;me…
was &nbsp;that… &nbsp;at &nbsp;this &nbsp;time… &nbsp;when &nbsp;I &nbsp;was &nbsp;a &nbsp;very &nbsp;little &nbsp;baby…
I &nbsp;didn’t &nbsp;want &nbsp;to &nbsp;eat &nbsp;at &nbsp;all..
then… &nbsp;she &nbsp;took &nbsp;me &nbsp;to &nbsp;the &nbsp;doctor… &nbsp;there… &nbsp;in &nbsp;boston…

the &nbsp;doctor &nbsp;told &nbsp;her &nbsp;to &nbsp;buy &nbsp;a &nbsp;funnel…
and... &nbsp;to &nbsp;make &nbsp;a &nbsp;soup…
and… &nbsp;to &nbsp; pour &nbsp;the &nbsp;soup &nbsp;down &nbsp;into &nbsp;my &nbsp;throat &nbsp;through &nbsp;the &nbsp;funnel…

and… &nbsp;can &nbsp;you &nbsp;imagine &nbsp;that &nbsp;she &nbsp;completely &nbsp;believed &nbsp;on &nbsp;the &nbsp;doctor’s &nbsp;advice…
and &nbsp;she &nbsp;tried &nbsp;to &nbsp;do &nbsp;exactly &nbsp;what &nbsp;he &nbsp;told &nbsp;her &nbsp;to &nbsp;do…?

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I’m &nbsp;stopping &nbsp;the &nbsp;story &nbsp;at &nbsp;this &nbsp;point…. &nbsp;today… 
because &nbsp;I &nbsp;don’t &nbsp;want &nbsp;to &nbsp;take &nbsp;too &nbsp;much &nbsp;time &nbsp;away &nbsp;from &nbsp;you…

later &nbsp;on… &nbsp;please… &nbsp;let &nbsp;me &nbsp;know &nbsp;if &nbsp;you’re &nbsp;interested &nbsp;in &nbsp;knowing &nbsp;more…
about &nbsp;the &nbsp;continuation &nbsp;of &nbsp;these &nbsp;stories &nbsp;of &nbsp;my &nbsp;life…

if &nbsp;you &nbsp;tell &nbsp;me &nbsp;that &nbsp;you’re &nbsp;interested…
I’ll &nbsp;be &nbsp;happy &nbsp;to &nbsp;continue…
writing &nbsp;emails &nbsp;like &nbsp;this &nbsp;one…

otherwise…
I’m &nbsp;going &nbsp;to &nbsp;find &nbsp;something &nbsp;else &nbsp;to &nbsp;do…

please &nbsp;feel &nbsp;free &nbsp;to &nbsp;ask &nbsp;me &nbsp;any &nbsp;kind &nbsp;of &nbsp;questions…
doubts… &nbsp;any &nbsp;kind &nbsp;of &nbsp;doubts…
any &nbsp;subject…
from &nbsp;the &nbsp;past… &nbsp;present &nbsp;or &nbsp;future…

all &nbsp;the &nbsp;care &nbsp;that &nbsp;I’ve &nbsp;been &nbsp;giving &nbsp;during &nbsp;all &nbsp;my &nbsp;life… &nbsp;to &nbsp;you…
still &nbsp;remains &nbsp;valid…
and &nbsp;you &nbsp;know &nbsp;it...
you &nbsp;know &nbsp;that &nbsp;I’m &nbsp;always &nbsp;ready… 
to &nbsp;do... &nbsp;the &nbsp;"possible" &nbsp;and &nbsp;the &nbsp;"impossible"… &nbsp;for &nbsp;you...

please… &nbsp; consider &nbsp;me &nbsp;always &nbsp;a &nbsp;friend…
never &nbsp; an &nbsp;enemy…

avoid &nbsp;listening &nbsp;to &nbsp;bad &nbsp;advices…
from &nbsp;people &nbsp;who… &nbsp;by &nbsp;some &nbsp;reason…
want &nbsp;to &nbsp;encourage &nbsp;a &nbsp;division &nbsp;between &nbsp;us

never &nbsp;let &nbsp;yourselves &nbsp;be &nbsp;deluded…
thinking &nbsp;that &nbsp;I &nbsp;don’t &nbsp;deserve &nbsp;the &nbsp;trust &nbsp;from &nbsp;you…
it &nbsp;would &nbsp;be &nbsp;a &nbsp;waste…
to &nbsp;think &nbsp;that &nbsp;I &nbsp;don’t &nbsp;deserve &nbsp;the &nbsp;trust &nbsp;from &nbsp;you…
and… &nbsp;as &nbsp;a &nbsp;consequence… &nbsp;to &nbsp;hide &nbsp;something &nbsp;from &nbsp;me…

I &nbsp;believe… &nbsp;that &nbsp;there &nbsp;are &nbsp;some &nbsp;people &nbsp;that &nbsp;keep &nbsp;trying &nbsp;to &nbsp;convince &nbsp;you…
that &nbsp;your &nbsp;grand-mom &nbsp;is &nbsp;evil…
that &nbsp;I &nbsp;am &nbsp;evil…

I &nbsp;respect &nbsp;these &nbsp;people’s &nbsp;opinions…

but… &nbsp;if &nbsp;we &nbsp;allow &nbsp;ourselves &nbsp;to &nbsp;listen &nbsp;to &nbsp;this &nbsp;kind &nbsp;of &nbsp;opinion…
we &nbsp;end &nbsp;up &nbsp;all &nbsp;“sinking”…
because &nbsp;one &nbsp;of &nbsp;the &nbsp;easiest &nbsp;way &nbsp;to &nbsp;weaken &nbsp;a &nbsp;person…
it’s &nbsp;to &nbsp;convince &nbsp;this &nbsp;person &nbsp;to &nbsp;be &nbsp;against &nbsp;his &nbsp;own &nbsp;father…
… &nbsp;or &nbsp;his &nbsp;own &nbsp;mother…

in &nbsp;the &nbsp;popular &nbsp;wisdom… &nbsp;there’s &nbsp;a &nbsp;saying &nbsp;which &nbsp;illustrates &nbsp;this &nbsp;fact &nbsp;very &nbsp;well:
“the &nbsp;union &nbsp;makes &nbsp;the &nbsp;force”… 
( &nbsp;I’m &nbsp;not &nbsp;sure &nbsp;if &nbsp;your &nbsp;keyboard &nbsp;deals &nbsp;with &nbsp;the &nbsp;latin-character &nbsp;“c-cedilha”…
&nbsp; &nbsp;for &nbsp;the &nbsp;word &nbsp;"forca"… &nbsp;"forsa"… &nbsp;"fortaleza"… &nbsp;a &nbsp;strong-person…)

so… &nbsp;a &nbsp;divided &nbsp;family… &nbsp;is &nbsp;a &nbsp;weak &nbsp;family…
everybody &nbsp;loses… 

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so…
if &nbsp;we &nbsp;start &nbsp;practicing &nbsp;the &nbsp;exercise &nbsp;of &nbsp;communicating &nbsp;more &nbsp;frequently…
this &nbsp;would &nbsp;make &nbsp;us &nbsp;stronger…
this &nbsp;would &nbsp;bring &nbsp;benefits &nbsp;to &nbsp;all &nbsp;of &nbsp;us…

a &nbsp;family &nbsp;where &nbsp;there’s &nbsp;no &nbsp;habit &nbsp;of &nbsp;talking…
becomes &nbsp;a &nbsp;weak &nbsp;family…
a &nbsp;fragile &nbsp;family…
vulnerable &nbsp;to &nbsp;the &nbsp;adversities &nbsp;of &nbsp;life…

you &nbsp;attended &nbsp;a &nbsp;good &nbsp;school… &nbsp;the &nbsp;notre &nbsp;dame…
fortunately &nbsp;you &nbsp;have &nbsp;good &nbsp;moral &nbsp;principles…
but &nbsp;these &nbsp;good-principles &nbsp;should &nbsp;be &nbsp;constantly &nbsp;updated…
constantly &nbsp;improved
constantly &nbsp;being &nbsp;aware &nbsp;of…

the &nbsp;world &nbsp;is &nbsp;always &nbsp;spinning…
a &nbsp;person &nbsp;can &nbsp;be &nbsp;very &nbsp;healthy &nbsp;one &nbsp;day…
and… &nbsp;on &nbsp;a &nbsp;wheelchair… &nbsp;next &nbsp;day…

complete &nbsp;attention &nbsp;sometimes &nbsp;is &nbsp;not &nbsp;enough…

let’s &nbsp;be &nbsp;even &nbsp;more &nbsp;united &nbsp;than &nbsp;we &nbsp;are &nbsp;right &nbsp;now…?
would &nbsp;you &nbsp;be &nbsp;willing &nbsp;to &nbsp;trust &nbsp;on &nbsp;me…
… &nbsp;the &nbsp;way &nbsp; we’ve &nbsp;always &nbsp;used &nbsp;to &nbsp;do…?

thankyou &nbsp;for &nbsp;reading &nbsp;this &nbsp;email…
see &nbsp;you &nbsp;soon…
a &nbsp;super-super-super &nbsp;hug…
your &nbsp;father…
&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; …luis antonio…