Loneliness
Autor: William Malinverni | Publicado: 2011-08-01T19:36:00-07:00

Hello everyone!

Who among us&nbsp;has never felt&nbsp;alone?&nbsp;Who has never felt&nbsp;so left out?&nbsp;Or even&nbsp;around people&nbsp;felt the loneliness&nbsp;to be&nbsp;your only companion?&nbsp;What makes&nbsp;us feel,&nbsp;this feeling&nbsp;so bitter&nbsp;in our hearts?&nbsp;It was not us, who&nbsp;in many&nbsp;times and with&nbsp;our own thinking and attitudes do not&nbsp;put ourselves&nbsp;in this situation?
In many&nbsp;moments of&nbsp;our lives, we create&nbsp;an&nbsp;idealization,&nbsp;a&nbsp;plan, a story&nbsp;which&nbsp;we desire to follow&nbsp;the&nbsp;straight and&nbsp;so indisputable.&nbsp;This is because&nbsp;every human being&nbsp;needs a&nbsp;plan and&nbsp;a path&nbsp;so you can&nbsp;feel&nbsp;safe and&nbsp;know that there&nbsp;was "walking"&nbsp;towards life.&nbsp;But when it&nbsp;becomes harmful?&nbsp;When we begin to&nbsp;neglect&nbsp;our natural tendencies&nbsp;and needs of our hearts as&nbsp;it&nbsp;brings us, if&nbsp;not immediately&nbsp;but gradually, the loneliness.
These expectations&nbsp;are often&nbsp;unrealistic, often&nbsp;in&nbsp;search of&nbsp;a boot on the&nbsp;model of perfection&nbsp;and our&nbsp;social model&nbsp;idea&nbsp;of happiness.&nbsp;Of course&nbsp;... who&nbsp;dreams of being&nbsp;unhappy? However&nbsp;when in&nbsp;harms way,&nbsp;this idealization&nbsp;is formed by thoughts&nbsp;often&nbsp;neurotic&nbsp;foundations,&nbsp;which would be:&nbsp;adopt standards&nbsp;existential&nbsp;super&nbsp;strict, sometimes&nbsp;impossible to achieve,&nbsp;and pride&nbsp;(great evil&nbsp;of mankind) powered by the feeling&nbsp;of omnipotence, superiority&nbsp;and invulnerability.
This idealization&nbsp;leads&nbsp;often&nbsp;spiritual states&nbsp;of sadness, emptiness, boredom.&nbsp;But where did&nbsp;they come from?&nbsp;There are many&nbsp;answers.&nbsp;Some&nbsp;people become&nbsp;obsessed with&nbsp;their accomplishments&nbsp;because they feel&nbsp;a&nbsp;form of&nbsp;weakness in other sectors&nbsp;of their lives.
In most&nbsp;cases (detrimental), is derived from&nbsp;low-esteem&nbsp;of the individual, usually&nbsp;in childhood, where the individual&nbsp;feels diminished,&nbsp;or come to&nbsp;think of this&nbsp;due to treatment&nbsp;of those around him,&nbsp;making him think&nbsp;that&nbsp;is not good&nbsp;enough or&nbsp;is not worth&nbsp;the feeling of&nbsp;warmth and love.
This factor&nbsp;causes&nbsp;a variety of situations&nbsp;for an individual and one of them is&nbsp;this idealization, where&nbsp;it creates&nbsp;standards&nbsp;that they consider appropriate&nbsp;"to be&nbsp;noticed&nbsp;and loved."&nbsp;Cruel ignorance! &nbsp;Badly&nbsp;realizes he&nbsp;will become&nbsp;his own victim.
Because&nbsp;with&nbsp;time will&nbsp;gradually&nbsp;annihilate&nbsp;their existence&nbsp;on the false&nbsp;pretext of building&nbsp;a&nbsp;future (often achieve), but the&nbsp;heavy losses,&nbsp; to&nbsp;see with&nbsp;an&nbsp;achievement,&nbsp;an entire&nbsp;"empire", but lonely.&nbsp;Oh&nbsp;then realizes&nbsp;how foolish&nbsp;it was&nbsp;and afraid&nbsp;to live,&nbsp;to have&nbsp;been hiding&nbsp;from the opportunities of&nbsp;which his heart&nbsp;was often&nbsp;willing&nbsp;to obtain.
And this "hiding"&nbsp;over time&nbsp;destroys&nbsp;the&nbsp;healthy social life&nbsp;,&nbsp;and happy&nbsp;because the companies&nbsp;are close&nbsp;for convenience&nbsp;and not&nbsp;by affinity, and&nbsp;often&nbsp;prevents&nbsp;the growth&nbsp;and spiritual development&nbsp;of the individual.To&nbsp;kill&nbsp;the loneliness, we must&nbsp;get in touch&nbsp;with our&nbsp;essence. The resignation&nbsp;of&nbsp;&nbsp;idealized self, causes&nbsp;the individual&nbsp;to enter into&nbsp;an&nbsp;atmosphere of&nbsp;freedom.&nbsp;Of course&nbsp;I do not mean&nbsp;to live life&nbsp;anyway,&nbsp;because all&nbsp;we have to&nbsp;make plans,&nbsp;however,&nbsp;in a healthy way&nbsp;and not&nbsp;obsessive and&nbsp;neurotic.
Although&nbsp;many times&nbsp;to realize&nbsp;over time&nbsp;that these behaviors are harmful, they prefer&nbsp;to keep&nbsp;them&nbsp;created&nbsp;by&nbsp;a&nbsp;defensive barrier, and the fear&nbsp;of returning&nbsp;to feel&nbsp;"diminished"&nbsp;or&nbsp;let themselves be&nbsp;"exposed" the&nbsp;feelings, and&nbsp;increasingly surround&nbsp;these barriers&nbsp;that will eventually&nbsp;choke them.Love and respect&nbsp;for ourselves,&nbsp;create&nbsp;an&nbsp;atmosphere conducive&nbsp;to discover&nbsp;our true&nbsp;identity,&nbsp;bringing joy&nbsp;to live and allowing&nbsp;spiritual development.
Remember&nbsp;that loneliness&nbsp;comes&nbsp;when&nbsp;we deny&nbsp;our feelings and ignore&nbsp;our&nbsp;inner experiences.&nbsp;This behavior&nbsp;tends to&nbsp;make us see things&nbsp;the way&nbsp;we want to&nbsp;see,&nbsp;that is, as&nbsp;it is convenient,&nbsp;rather than seeing&nbsp;them&nbsp;as they really are.&nbsp;That is how&nbsp;we distort&nbsp;our reality.
Do not&nbsp;reject what&nbsp;we feel&nbsp;indeed.&nbsp;This does not mean indiscriminately&nbsp;live in freedom&nbsp;and without&nbsp;control,&nbsp;but recognize the&nbsp;place&nbsp;that corresponds&nbsp;to our feelings, not&nbsp;ignore them, nor&nbsp;let them&nbsp;be masters&nbsp;of our lives.If&nbsp;we should&nbsp;stay or not&nbsp;next to&nbsp;someone it is&nbsp;a decision that should be taken&nbsp;with spontaneity, harmony&nbsp;and freedom, without fear or&nbsp;mixtures of&nbsp;taxes.

Let's&nbsp;stop here&nbsp;to have&nbsp;a&nbsp;time to reflect&nbsp;and assimilate&nbsp;this part. Until&nbsp;Friday&nbsp;^&nbsp;- ^