Pieces of advice – For those who are starting…
Autor: Charlotte Duchesse | Publicado: 2012-05-02T00:00:00-07:00






Because in the end of the day, what you have for yourself is self
conscience.




Today I decided to start up with the end of my post.
Do you understand what it means to be caught up in the first quarter
(statisticaly speaking) of your life full of wonderful plans&nbsp; for your future, career, studies and all, and
find out that the plans you were making since you were a little girl – for 2
people – has become real life in which you must take action regardless of who
you’re with or if you’re alone or in bad company.


So, as you get old, your body doesn’t get any more Barbie doll’s, your
skin doesn’t get any more perfect, your clothes and shoes don’t get any newer
and you certainly don’t get any younger. But your wisdom… It gets bigger and
bigger.


These days I finally woke up of a dream. A dream that since I was 5 ou 6
(maybe) I have been feeding and it’s not that I haven’t realized it before.
It’s just that I woke up and looked at everything I used to be and everything I
am and all the plans I have.


Scaryly (is that word in the dictionary?), the dreams and plans never
left the paper. They were all in my head, in my Moleskine and in my Microsoft
Word files, but never into action.

That’s ok if I never ended up being a ballerina, a singer, or never flyed a
space ship. I never ended the game Alex Kid 3 and never put together the whole
Barbie House before 5 p.m, when I had to take a shower, have dinner and go to
bed when I was 4 years old.



I realized that I lost lots of time worrying about stuff I shouldn’t, running
after friendships and boyfriendships that I wasn’t supposed to, spending loads
of energy with the wrong people and careing about people that didn’t deserve.
The fact is, these people teach you stuff. Making mistakes teaches you stuff.
Falling and getting up teach you stuff. But you gotta be willing to accept the
consequences of these – deep – learns into you.


I’m sure most people find me rude, some must find me tick-skinned,
realistic, harsh, some must find me fair and honest. Others, might find me
judgemental but kind, sweet and loving. And some, might think that I’m just a
crazy sentimental bitch who don’t know the difference between marital status
and ego status.




All I can tell you is that life is hard. You’re gonna fall, that’s for
sure!! And also, it’s gonna hurt (like hell!). People are not as trustworthy as
they look – because looks can be deceiving - The thing that is not for sure is
whether you’re gonna rise again or not. It only depends on you and how you deal
with these judgements people are gonna make about you.
Maybe, I’m all of the above mentioned. But it’s only because I learned life is
tough, so I tried to be tougher everytime, that’s when I became who I am as
friend, girlfriend, enemy, ally, daughter, future mother, human being.
Don’t try to make excuses for your decays. They happen because something might
have been in the way of your happiness. So whatever you do, don’t make excuses
for your actions. The only person responsible for your acts is yourself.
Os meios não justificam os fins – Neved did, never will.
So if you get drunk, smoke, get high or got hit by a truck because somebody
made a full of yourself, forget it. You did it because you are hurt and was
caught by surprise. It’s only natural to react.
But don’t be weak, stand up and fight against it. And when you survive it,
you’ll notice you can handle whatever other problems life presents you.


All in all, don’t be caught off guard. Be ready for life and people’s
disappointments, because even the ones that you love the most are willing to
make that happen.
Whatever happens, don’t make it a reason for you to stop following your plans
and dreams. And whoever or whatever appears in your life after that, will justl
have to adjust to it. Don’t try to be ready for that certain someone, or for
that certain job, or that certain audition, university. Try to make THEM fit
your life.
Otherwise you’re gonna look back one day, with your bags full of
(un)accomplishments.




But all these, I’m sure you know and can relate to, if you are 25 years
old or more. As for those who are starting now… NAH! Forget it!
There is no use to giving you pieces of advice. You probably gonna read “yadda,
yadda, yadda” while you read them and/or you’re not gonna absorve the feeling
that you can only have by making your own screw ups and by rising of a fall all
alone by yourself. That’s when you learn stuff.
But I could never leave this message without telling you never to look back on
the things you did and make sure in the way, as much as you screw up, don’
regret it. Or you’ll spend part of your life mumbling about it all alone in
your car, in the traffic jam. 



Cheers,



XXX,

Charlotte D.