Betrayal? Take him/her to the guillotine!
Autor: Andrea | Publicado: 2012-07-28T09:36:00-07:00


Oh well, I've decided to write this post cos of the latest news&nbsp;about Kristen Stewart cheating on Robert Pattinson. I'm not here to judge, as usual, I just wanna discuss it. There are many people who would answer the following question without hesitating "Have you already cheated on sb?" Well, I guess things become more difficult if you ask "Have you already been cheated on?" Of course many will answer to that with a simple "oh, I am almost sure not! I don't think s/he would ever do that." What the hell is that supposed to mean? You THINK that based on what? On your fellow's character? How can you be sure you know his/her character? After all, according to Nietzsche http://stinkheadswonder.blogspot.com.br/2011/01/conhece-te-ti-mesmo.html there's an angle even ourselves aren't able to figure out: our own essence. Taking that into account, sorry, but you'll never be able to be sure if your (I don't know how you call - bunny? love? darling? sweetie girlfriend? wife? boyfriend? husband? someone I'm going out with?)&nbsp;has ever cheated&nbsp;on you. 
Alright then, let's see from another point of view: let's take a little hypothetical situation, shall we? You have been dating for two years and that's only because you fell in love with that person! after all, why would that happen nowadays, right? dating sb just to prove something is out of question here. Then, you've lived two long beautiful years and you are glad about it, but sth is missing...you don't know what is exactly, but it isn't like the first days when you couldn't see anyone else cos you were blind. You still like the person, of course you do, s/he is still your body, your love and friend, and you are relieved of having so much intimacy with someone so you can stop playing a scene every time you meet a new target. But, you know, let's face it: sex has been all the same since you two have been together, and I'm not talking about changing positions so it doesn't get boring or consulting kama sutra as it would be a great solution to skip the routine. I'm not talking about having tried strip tease, dancing, romantic dinners, fantasies and whatever you might think of. You can do all those different stuff with the same person for quite of a long time: sooner or later, you'll get tired of it cos it'll not take you out of the routine, it'll only prevent it for a bit longer. Believe me, no matter how you love that person, you'll get tired of the same old thing again and again. That means you don't love your sweetie anymore? Of course not! You are just a human being noticing your neighbor's grass is greener. We, human beings, need to change from time to time, We need breaks, we need new barriers and we need challenges so we can think, at least, we are enjoying life as much as we can. The world is crowded of people and half of it is not worth it. I mean, the bad people...the ones who are doing everything to turn out the world is shit sooner than we think. But, c'mom! the other half? the other half is full of interesting people who have much to share. You think of getting to know them, talk to them, kiss them whenever you feel attracted to them. But hey, there's a problem: you can't cos your partner will get jealous for sure. But you want to go out with that new person on your life, you want it badly since you guys have so much in common, you know. S/he is also pretty attractive and it feels good when you two are together. You should think once again: that really means you don't love the person who you are with? We can't have different types of betrayals? The ones you do just cos you would like "casual sex due to attractiveness" and the ones you do because you have been getting crazy of trying to decide weather you still like your partner or not?
Now it's time to spit out another point of view&nbsp;I've been thinking of. It's kinda polemic since most people just can't agree with me. I truly believe it's totally possible to love (not maternal love, neither it is the love you feel for your friends) more than one person at a time. Two, three, I don't know, it's up to you. You know why? People can be pretty different, you know. And you, yourself, likes many different things that can go from&nbsp;fishing to boxing. Sometimes, two different people will call your attention at a same period of your life. For two different reasons. You like both reasons, you like being with both people. You know, liking one of them doen't delete the fact you can't like the other one. Is it your fault? Is it betrayal? When does it turn out to be a betrayal? When you take one of them to be your partner? So, that means that while you have been seeing both of them at the same period it's not a betrayal somehow? Hum, interesting...so, betrayal for you is only when you have established an OFFICIAL relationship? So, that means when you have assumed going out with a person you haven't had any kind of relation? 
It turns out that when a human being wants to bring up an excuse s/he does. When a person wants to betray (no matter the reason why) s/he does. Do we have to apologize? Do we have to accept such a situation and pretend nothing has happened so we can give the other one another chance? A chance for what, indeed? Will that be based on the reason why it happened? Will there ever be a reason for betrayal, actually? Can't you just give up a person, a relationship that hasn't been working out? Why not? So, why do you betray&nbsp;if you don't want to give up a relationship you already have? Can't you talk to your partner and try to fix what has been wrong? Sometimes what is wrong for you is invisible to the other one, you know. Maybe talking is your key to not regreting or making more than one person unhappy. Don't be so selfish! A RELATIONSHIP includes more than one person and sometimes it implies more than just commitment between two people (as in Rob and Kristen case): it implies publicity and&nbsp;public humiliation. And remember: Being able to REALLY LOVE two people at the same time doesn't mean you are betraying them. Two (or more) true loves is just something beyond humanity. It's something for few people, for honest people. Don't ever mix that with betrayal.