About fatty girls blogs that treat me like a sexual object
Autor: Graciely Santos | Publicado: 2013-08-06T18:13:00-07:00





Everybody Who knows me understands I am overweight, or how they call it today,
a fatty girl. Who really knows me, understand that I am not stressful about it
and that I try to care about my healthy.

I really like something like “fat pride” and these stuff, however, this week
happened something that let me angry.
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I joined to a community on facebook
about fatty girls, with lot of people who also joined to this community. When I
started to look at the pictures, with those cute and motivation phrases, I was
disappointed. The community owners posted some phrases, mixing pictures with
those cute drawings, usually, fatty girls, using the title “Facts about fatty
girls”. I selected some of the phrases:

- While some women are only bones, fatty girls offer filet mignon
- Double curves, double pleasure, double seduction: fatty girls are goddesses
on bed
- Fatty girls don’t walk, they are on a fashion parade

- The kiss from a fatty girl is simple:
you kissed her, you felt in love

- Don’t feel fatty, feel hot

- Do you have tires? Of course, all
the airplanes have.



Moreover, in this community had a
picture with a fatty girl getting marriage with a hot guy and an impact phrase
like “You’re not fatty, you’re hot, a sex goddess, specialized in kama sutra or
whatever”.
For my surprise, this publication, especially those with fatty girls’ pictures
had a lot of “likes” and shares!

When I looked at all this publications, I felt this like an offense to my intelligence,
to my capacity of self knowledge and felt just like a piece of meat. I understand
that every woman has your low esteem day, for lot of reasons like being
overweight, losing the job, the boyfriend, discussing with a friend, having a
bad grade, but, all this self affirmation is really necessary?
And yeah, I understand that is very important to a woman feel herself
beautiful, sexy and desired. But is this the only thing that matters? Why this
facebook page encourages this kind of self affirmation? &nbsp;

It looks like they are saying: “you’re
fatty girls, but you are beautiful too. Don’t feel ugly for having 200 pounds. You’re better than those
skinny girls. You Kiss better, make better sex, do everything better
and are much more prettier than the skinny girls”.

Every time I read this kind of shit, I really feel myself offended. These
groups try to help women that feel themselves ugly because they did not have the
pattern imposed and accepted by society. The magazine covers always try to show
beautiful and skinny women. They teach us that to be a beautiful girl, desired
for the men, you need to be skinny. Men, when look at Playboy magazine always
see hot girls, without cellulites, no belly and, with a little help from
Photoshop, they think the perfect woman needs to be super duper hot. The
society teach that to get a man’s heart you need to be fucking hot and skinny,
like on Playboy magazine. Everything turns around it: be accepted by a man, or
having a sexual partner, you need be like this or like that, you need to fit a
pattern!


I understand that all those behaviors were imposed by society. But, is really
necessary all this sexual appeal? Is really necessary say that a fatty girl can
do this or that better? Does not a woman know herself enough? Does a facebook
page know you better than yourself? It looks like, looking at the number of “likes”
that these pictures receive, that all this appealing is needed.



A woman is much
more than 20 pounds over or underweight. She is not a piece of meat, a garment
or a lampshade that you can choose by the model. She is more than this! She has
personality, intelligence, mood sense, she has an occupation! She doesn’t have
only sex to offer! She can be a good companion, has an intelligent talk that
make you talking to her during hours without thinking about sex, she can give
good advices, be a good friend and, yep, she can be super wild on bed, but this
is not all that matters!

A woman that loves and knows herself, she knows her worth! She does not need to
people or facebook pages telling her she is beautiful. A reasonable woman knows
who she is! If she is over or underweight, she knows it. If she thinks she is
pretty like this, it won’t be needed all this self affirmation, or that some
facebook pages do it for her. If she doesn’t think she is beautiful the way she
is, she will change to feel better with herself. I think the secret is to
accept yourself the way you are! 
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If you think you
are prettier being a blond girl, so, what is the problem in paint the hair?
Now, if people say you are prettier blond, but if you like to be brunette, why
are you going to paint your hair? The priority is you, is the way you feel
better. This is self knowledge!

I try to exercise this point everyday. I am overweight and I really don’t care
too much about it. I am not hypocrite saying that I go to the gym ONLY
because of my healthy. I don’t have problems in admit this is a little bit
about esthetic. I would like to have a thinner waist. And if “So and so” thinks
I am prettier or uglier being like this? It is his/her problem! I think I would
feel myself prettier like this. 


Girls, I know that sometimes is difficult being overweight, in feel ourselves
very ugly in some days, but, we are NOT defined only by the way we look like. And
if someone want to define you just for the way you look like, he/she is a
complete idiot and probably don’t know him/herself. And, of course, you won’t
want a person like this next to you!

We are much more than a hot butt, big breasts, thin waists or sex goddesses. We are WOMEN. We have a life, job,
personality. We are cults, intelligents. We are more than a “gift Box”. We are
what is inside. And no, we don’t have only sex to offer! These pictures on facebook
doesn’t make any sense!
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If you don’t feel yourself
pretty the way you are, change to feel better with yourself. If you are happy
like this, if YOU think you’re pretty like this, great! You don’t need to do
nothing to be accepted by someone! (There are some special cases, but they won’t
be discussed here). 

I watched a very interesting Latin movie called “Real women have curves”. It is
an story about an overweight girl that wants to study in USA. One of the cutest
scenes from this movie is about her first sexual relation. She and the boy are
together and then he turns off the lights.
She says: “Wait, turn the lights on. I want you to see me”. The boy turns the
light. She is in front of the mirror and say: “See, this is what I look like”.
I like this scene, cause this is high self-steem.

(From 1:55 &nbsp;http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lf5apkxo1Sw)


The self acceptance based in self knowledge is not something simple. I confess
I still have difficult to be in this level. But this is the only way to achieve
a complete level of happiness with ourselves.
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That is it, people!