Metric evaluation problems in multi-node, shared file system

## Describe the bug
Metric evaluation fails in multi-node within a shared file system, because the master process cannot find the lock files from other nodes. (This issue was originally mentioned in the transformers repo https://github.com/huggingface/transformers/issues/17412)

## Steps to reproduce the bug

1. clone [this huggingface model](https://huggingface.co/PereLluis13/wav2vec2-xls-r-300m-ca-lm) and replace the `run_speech_recognition_ctc.py` script with the version in the gist [here](https://gist.github.com/gullabi/3f66094caa8db1c1e615dd35bd67ec71#file-run_speech_recognition_ctc-py).
2. Setup the `venv` according to the requirements of the model file plus `datasets==2.0.0`, `transformers==4.18.0` and `torch==1.9.0`
3. Launch the runner in a distributed environment which has a shared file system for two nodes, preferably with SLURM. Example [here](https://gist.github.com/gullabi/3f66094caa8db1c1e615dd35bd67ec71)

Specifically for the datasets, for the distributed setup the `load_metric` is called as:
```
    process_id=int(os.environ["RANK"])
    num_process=int(os.environ["WORLD_SIZE"])
    eval_metrics = {metric: load_metric(metric,
                                        process_id=process_id,
                                        num_process=num_process,
                                        experiment_id="slurm")
                    for metric in data_args.eval_metrics}
```

## Expected results
The training should not fail, due to the failure of the `Metric.compute()` step.

## Actual results
For the test I am executing the world size is 4, with 2 GPUs in 2 nodes. However the process is not finding the necessary lock files 
```
  File "/gpfs/projects/bsc88/speech/asr/wav2vec2-xls-r-300m-ca-lm/run_speech_recognition_ctc.py", line 841, in <module>
    main()
  File "/gpfs/projects/bsc88/speech/asr/wav2vec2-xls-r-300m-ca-lm/run_speech_recognition_ctc.py", line 792, in main
    train_result = trainer.train(resume_from_checkpoint=checkpoint)
  File "/gpfs/projects/bsc88/projects/speech-tech-resources/venv_amd_speech/lib/python3.7/site-packages/transformers/trainer.py", line 1497, in train
    self._maybe_log_save_evaluate(tr_loss, model, trial, epoch, ignore_keys_for_eval)
  File "/gpfs/projects/bsc88/projects/speech-tech-resources/venv_amd_speech/lib/python3.7/site-packages/transformers/trainer.py", line 1624, in _maybe_log_save_evaluate
    metrics = self.evaluate(ignore_keys=ignore_keys_for_eval)
  File "/gpfs/projects/bsc88/projects/speech-tech-resources/venv_amd_speech/lib/python3.7/site-packages/transformers/trainer.py", line 2291, in evaluate
    metric_key_prefix=metric_key_prefix,
  File "/gpfs/projects/bsc88/projects/speech-tech-resources/venv_amd_speech/lib/python3.7/site-packages/transformers/trainer.py", line 2535, in evaluation_loop
    metrics = self.compute_metrics(EvalPrediction(predictions=all_preds, label_ids=all_labels))
  File "/gpfs/projects/bsc88/speech/asr/wav2vec2-xls-r-300m-ca-lm/run_speech_recognition_ctc.py", line 742, in compute_metrics
    metrics = {k: v.compute(predictions=pred_str, references=label_str) for k, v in eval_metrics.items()}
  File "/gpfs/projects/bsc88/speech/asr/wav2vec2-xls-r-300m-ca-lm/run_speech_recognition_ctc.py", line 742, in <dictcomp>
    metrics = {k: v.compute(predictions=pred_str, references=label_str) for k, v in eval_metrics.items()}
  File "/gpfs/projects/bsc88/projects/speech-tech-resources/venv_amd_speech/lib/python3.7/site-packages/datasets/metric.py", line 419, in compute
    self.add_batch(**inputs)
  File "/gpfs/projects/bsc88/projects/speech-tech-resources/venv_amd_speech/lib/python3.7/site-packages/datasets/metric.py", line 465, in add_batch
    self._init_writer()
  File "/gpfs/projects/bsc88/projects/speech-tech-resources/venv_amd_speech/lib/python3.7/site-packages/datasets/metric.py", line 552, in _init_writer
    self._check_rendez_vous()  # wait for master to be ready and to let everyone go
  File "/gpfs/projects/bsc88/projects/speech-tech-resources/venv_amd_speech/lib/python3.7/site-packages/datasets/metric.py", line 342, in _check_rendez_vous
    ) from None
ValueError: Expected to find locked file /home/bsc88/bsc88474/.cache/huggingface/metrics/wer/default/slurm-4-0.arrow.lock from process 3 but it doesn't exist.
```

When I look at the cache directory, I can see all the lock files in principle:
```
/home/bsc88/bsc88474/.cache/huggingface/metrics/wer/default/slurm-4-0.arrow
/home/bsc88/bsc88474/.cache/huggingface/metrics/wer/default/slurm-4-0.arrow.lock
/home/bsc88/bsc88474/.cache/huggingface/metrics/wer/default/slurm-4-1.arrow
/home/bsc88/bsc88474/.cache/huggingface/metrics/wer/default/slurm-4-1.arrow.lock
/home/bsc88/bsc88474/.cache/huggingface/metrics/wer/default/slurm-4-2.arrow
/home/bsc88/bsc88474/.cache/huggingface/metrics/wer/default/slurm-4-2.arrow.lock
/home/bsc88/bsc88474/.cache/huggingface/metrics/wer/default/slurm-4-3.arrow
/home/bsc88/bsc88474/.cache/huggingface/metrics/wer/default/slurm-4-3.arrow.lock
/home/bsc88/bsc88474/.cache/huggingface/metrics/wer/default/slurm-4-rdv.lock
```

I see that there was another related issue here https://github.com/huggingface/datasets/issues/1942, but it seems to have resolved via https://github.com/huggingface/datasets/pull/1966. Let me know if there is problem with how I am calling the `load_metric` or whether I need to make changes to the `.compute()` steps.

## Environment info
- `datasets` version: 2.0.0
- Platform: Linux-4.18.0-147.8.1.el8_1.x86_64-x86_64-with-centos-8.1.1911-Core
- Python version: 3.7.4
- PyArrow version: 7.0.0
- Pandas version: 1.3.0