[pause] Idan mutin ya kwatanta kansa da wasu da sike da shekaru ko matsayi matsayi iri ɗaya da shi, yana iya fiskantan nau'o'i na tinani da jin daɗi ko damuwa daban daban, wannan halin ke kwatantawa wani abu ne kwatanta wani abu ne da ya saba faruwa a rayuwa musamman a cikin al'umma, inda ake kallan cigaba da nasara ta zahiri, a wasu lokuta mutin yana iya jin ƙarfin gwiwa da farin ciki idan yaga yana samun nasarori ko cigaba fiye da sauran takwarorinsa, wannan yana iya kawo jin daɗi, kwanciyah hankali da kuma ƙara masa ƙwarin gwiwa domin cigaba da ƙoƙari, yana iya fassara hakan da cewa yana tafiya a hanya madedeciya, kuma hakan na ƙara masa bege da buri a rayuwa, amma wasu lokuta idan mutin yaga wasu sinfi shi cigaba ko kuma sina da wasu abubuwa da shi be samu ba, kaman ilimi, dukiya aiki ko mtsayi, hakan na iya janyo masa baƙin ciki kishi ko jin cewa be kaiba, wannan yana iya haifar da damuwa wannan yana iya haifar da damuwa, rage ƙwarin gwiwa da kuma sawa mutin ya fara ganin kansa a matsayin wanda be dace ba ko kuma be isa ba, a irin wannan lokaci yana da sauƙi mutin ya fara tambayar kansa tambayoyi irin su miyasa ban kai su ba? Ina na tsaya? Ko shin inada makoma? Wasu lokuta kuma wannan kwatantawa kan iya haifar da gasa me kyau wadda zata ƙarfafa mutin ya ƙara ƙoƙari domin cimma nasarorin da yasa a gaba, misali idan mutin yaga abokinsa ya samu ƙarin girma a aiki saboda jajircewa da dagewa ze iya ɗaukar hakan a matsayin darasi ko ƙwarin gwiwa domin shima ya dage, wannan yana koya darasi ne me kyau saboda idan har kaga wani abokin aikinka an mashi ƙarin girma jajircewashshi ce ta jawo akai mashi ƙarin girman to kaima idan kayi koyi da shi, ba wani abu bane dan ka jajirce kai koyi da shi da kaima har ka kaiga wannan matsayin da aka samu ya samu, a wannan fannin kwatantawa na iya zama wata hanya ta ƙarfafa juna da bunƙasa, dik da haka yana da mahimmanci mutin ya fahimci cewa kowa nada tafiyarsa ta rayuwa daban, abinda wani ya cimma yanzu wataƙila kai zaka cimmashi daga baya koma ka wuce shi, wannan bayani haka ike, idan wannan lokacinshi ne mutin ya samu cigaba ya mallaki abubuwa to kai ƙila wannan lokacin ba shine me alheri a gareka ba, idan Allah ya kawo naka laokacin se kaga har kafi wancan, so rayuwa ba gasa bace in kaga wani ya samu abubuwa to kaima kai haƙuri lokacinka na nan zuwa, in kace zakai gasar kuma za'a iya samun matsala, rayuwa ba gasa bace tsantsa, kowa nada lokacinsa da hanyarsa, kwantatawa da girmamawa zasu fi amfani idan aka yi su cikin natsuwa da fahintar ƙaddara, da banbancin hanyoyin rayuwa, don haka idan mutin ya kwatanta kansa da takwarorinsa yana iya fiskantan haɗaɗɗan yanayi na jin daɗi ko baƙin ciki, dangane da yadda yake kallan rayuwa da nasara, amma abu mafi mihimmanci shine a maida hankali kan cinm... kan cigaban kai fahimta cewa rayuwa tafiya ce da keda matakai daban daban, kuma kafi dacewa da rayuwarka, idan kai haƙuri da juriya to du'irin wannan abun idan muka dage muyi koyi da abu me kyau yanda wani ya kai wani wuri to muma mi koyi da wannan abun me kyau, ba wai mu rinƙai wa mutin hassada ba, ganin ai wancan yayi gida yayi mota yana da kayan sawa yana da wanan yana to ni dan bani da shi ka'imma shi hassada, ka'inyi baƙin ciki, ka'inji haushinshi in taya shi munna in lakacin nawa yai nima haka zanga na samu fiye da shi, so hassada bashi da kyau mi ƙoƙari muma mu nemi na kanmmu, mi koyi da abu me kyau ba...ba... ba hasadda ba.