diff --git "a/reddit_posts_fm.csv" "b/reddit_posts_fm.csv" --- "a/reddit_posts_fm.csv" +++ "b/reddit_posts_fm.csv" @@ -1,18 +1,18 @@ subreddit,id,title,text,url,score,author,date -theredpillrebooted,17c1wxt,My name is Benjamin Persits and I am so sick of women.,"Yes, I'm using my full name because I'm so sick off all of this. The women in my dorm have become so obnoxious. They are so fucking annoying. I try to talk to any of them and it's all ""sexual harassment"" and all that. I saw a cute girl by my dorm room sink the other day and we started talking. She wanders off and I walk after her while we chat. All of a sudden this is sexual harassment. Or when girls come on to me and when I lean in to kiss they don't want to all of a sudden. Absolutely ridiculous. I'm not going to be quiet about feeling this way anymore. I'm sick of dealing with women, in my classes, anywhere. I'm so done. ",,0,benjypersits,1697773233.0 -theredpillrebooted,16i06xc,WHAT THE FUCK!?!?!?!?,,https://v.redd.it/8d1eapsih3ob1,0,PatchesTheIdiot,1694642276.0 -theredpillrebooted,16a4ekb,Why is she an asshole with me and how to handle it?,"So I got this girl who's kinda my crush but I don't want her any way because I'm happily married. We don't meet often but recently after months we did in a social gathering. I was happy to see her, we happened to arrive together, talk a bit and take adjacent seats at the table. I had the impression from her smile she was happy to see me as well. Then we continued to talk to various topics then suddenly she says 'Don't you want to talk to John you haven't seen for a long time?' After I said no she said 'since we arrived you're just talking to me and coming closer' which was impossible since we were sitting in armchairs. She was suddenly explicitly rejective and deliberately an asshole to me, I was very surprised and honestly I was kinda hurt. What could I have done wrong? I thought we were just chatting. How do I handle her next time? Should I ignore her, don't talk to her, act unphased, or call her out for this unacceptable behavior? Please help.",,0,Worried-Horse-3408,1693862367.0 +theredpillrebooted,17c1wxt,My name is Benjamin Persits and I am so sick of women.,"Yes, I'm using my full name because I'm so sick off all of this. The women in my dorm have become so obnoxious. They are so fucking annoying. I try to talk to any of them and it's all ""sexual harassment"" and all that. I saw a cute girl by my dorm room sink the other day and we started talking. She wanders off and I walk after her while we chat. All of a sudden this is sexual harassment. Or when girls come on to me and when I lean in to kiss they don't want to all of a sudden. Absolutely ridiculous. I'm not going to be quiet about feeling this way anymore. I'm sick of dealing with women, in my classes, anywhere. I'm so done. ",,0,benjypersits,2023-10-20 03:40:33 +theredpillrebooted,16i06xc,WHAT THE FUCK!?!?!?!?,,https://v.redd.it/8d1eapsih3ob1,0,PatchesTheIdiot,2023-09-13 21:57:56 +theredpillrebooted,16a4ekb,Why is she an asshole with me and how to handle it?,"So I got this girl who's kinda my crush but I don't want her any way because I'm happily married. We don't meet often but recently after months we did in a social gathering. I was happy to see her, we happened to arrive together, talk a bit and take adjacent seats at the table. I had the impression from her smile she was happy to see me as well. Then we continued to talk to various topics then suddenly she says 'Don't you want to talk to John you haven't seen for a long time?' After I said no she said 'since we arrived you're just talking to me and coming closer' which was impossible since we were sitting in armchairs. She was suddenly explicitly rejective and deliberately an asshole to me, I was very surprised and honestly I was kinda hurt. What could I have done wrong? I thought we were just chatting. How do I handle her next time? Should I ignore her, don't talk to her, act unphased, or call her out for this unacceptable behavior? Please help.",,0,Worried-Horse-3408,2023-09-04 21:19:27 theredpillrebooted,15f45sl,Popular US vlogger Gonzalo Lira aka Coach Red Pill detained in Ukraine,"&#x200B; [https://chng.it/gFyFvqS5K7](https://chng.it/gFyFvqS5K7) -Popular US vlogger Gonzalo Lira aka Coach Red Pill detained in Ukraine",,0,Beautiful_Diamond980,1690870896.0 -theredpillrebooted,12wwyzc,Mrs. Rooster by Stinky Buckets,,https://youtube.com/watch?v=jK5BQngWne4&feature=share,1,LetsGoRedDevils,1682297448.0 -theredpillrebooted,11ns2tc,Sith Lord exposed for falsely accusing her husband of raping their daughters.,,https://v.redd.it/s8pkr5zg00ma1,5,Kohathavodah,1678461996.0 -theredpillrebooted,114onkp,Women believe that if a man will not be friendly with women in office HR should get involved,,https://i.redd.it/cxonpsx39mia1.jpg,5,Kohathavodah,1676647956.0 -theredpillrebooted,10wflja,Solve most of your problems with well placed lies.,,https://i.redd.it/rxngq2w0ztga1.jpg,4,Kohathavodah,1675809798.0 -theredpillrebooted,zgghrp,Money is not a God,,/r/SigmaSpot/comments/zgfdb5/money_is_not_a_god/,2,liuk_x,1670543839.0 -theredpillrebooted,yz87wh,Andrew Tate theme song... but AI draws English lyrics,,https://youtu.be/lKQRVRSW4vw,2,InsomnAI,1668850984.0 +Popular US vlogger Gonzalo Lira aka Coach Red Pill detained in Ukraine",,0,Beautiful_Diamond980,2023-08-01 06:21:36 +theredpillrebooted,12wwyzc,Mrs. Rooster by Stinky Buckets,,https://youtube.com/watch?v=jK5BQngWne4&feature=share,1,LetsGoRedDevils,2023-04-24 00:50:48 +theredpillrebooted,11ns2tc,Sith Lord exposed for falsely accusing her husband of raping their daughters.,,https://v.redd.it/s8pkr5zg00ma1,5,Kohathavodah,2023-03-10 15:26:36 +theredpillrebooted,114onkp,Women believe that if a man will not be friendly with women in office HR should get involved,,https://i.redd.it/cxonpsx39mia1.jpg,5,Kohathavodah,2023-02-17 15:32:36 +theredpillrebooted,10wflja,Solve most of your problems with well placed lies.,,https://i.redd.it/rxngq2w0ztga1.jpg,4,Kohathavodah,2023-02-07 22:43:18 +theredpillrebooted,zgghrp,Money is not a God,,/r/SigmaSpot/comments/zgfdb5/money_is_not_a_god/,2,liuk_x,2022-12-08 23:57:19 +theredpillrebooted,yz87wh,Andrew Tate theme song... but AI draws English lyrics,,https://youtu.be/lKQRVRSW4vw,2,InsomnAI,2022-11-19 09:43:04 theredpillrebooted,yvbysh,do I leave my girlfriend after her not caring about my country?,"I am a Ukraine immagrant. been in England for almost my whole life. my girlfriend that I have dated for almost 2 years and I were watching the news like usual and she just exclaims about how Ukraine should stop being talked about on the news because ""no one cares about it "" she immediately said oh shit becausr she forgot that I am an immagrant @@ -23,8 +23,8 @@ that really altered my view on her i just need someone's advice if I should leave after I just feel mad she said that about my country -thank you all for your time reading this",,2,Own-Mushroom829,1668458441.0 -theredpillrebooted,yv9sgi,Toxic men and the lie of lost men,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LS4s4Oezdww,1,taddy223,1668453974.0 +thank you all for your time reading this",,2,Own-Mushroom829,2022-11-14 20:40:41 +theredpillrebooted,yv9sgi,Toxic men and the lie of lost men,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LS4s4Oezdww,1,taddy223,2022-11-14 19:26:14 theredpillrebooted,y00bgq,One Flake too many in a relationship?," Let me know what you think I am a high-value man, the top 1% earner, well groomed,ed and take care of myself physically. I have been dating this Lady for about 4 months. She is a 6-7 physically but becomes an 8 via her personality and wit since I have been dating her. We went out multiple times (no flaking) at least 10 (due to my business reasons; otherwise it would be way more since she wants to see me more) and do our sexual things, and we both love it. This past Saturday, we were supposed to meet at 4:30 PM. She was out hanging out with her girls that morning then lunch. After lunch, she texted me saying, ""her mom wants me to pick her up"" <-- I am about 95% sure this shit comes from her girlfriends, trying to play games. @@ -52,7 +52,7 @@ Two options: 1. Drop her 2. Give her another chance -Thanks in advance",,1,akanoname714,1665360407.0 +Thanks in advance",,1,akanoname714,2022-10-10 00:06:47 theredpillrebooted,x3gj7v,High Stake Dating?,"Folks, So I met this gal who is 9/10. We met in Vegas, I came up to her and we talked briefly. She said she liked my confidence. I am an Attending Cardiologist, and Resident Surgeon (graduate this year). She lives in Oklahoma, and I live in South Carolina. We have been talking back and forth via texting and phone calls with some escalating sexual suggestions. She calls me, ""babe, Papi, etc..."""" and I called her similarly. we vibe well so far, so we decide to meet up this weekend. We choose to meet in Miami, so we'll be spending the weekend together. I dated 9 girls before (where I live), but I have never done this before where I met a gal in vegas then going for the weekend like this. We are meeting up this Friday, I have some things for us to do in mind, but I won't spill the beans unless Friday goes well. If Friday doesn't go well then I will just chillax myself and then just enjoy whatever without her. If things go well then I will just lead her to do what both of us may enjoy. I did tell her to pick out the restaurants, and I pick out the activities. @@ -61,7 +61,7 @@ Also, It seems like we'll be having some intimate time. I thinking of laying lo Also, what do you guys think is the absolute must-do on Friday? -Akanoname",,3,akanoname714,1662061189.0 +Akanoname",,3,akanoname714,2022-09-01 19:39:49 theredpillrebooted,wbbjkj,Need some advice,"There is a girl I'm seeing who I like very much but there are some issues that are making me feel a bit unsure about whether she is girlfriend material. For some context I'm a 20-year-old male who is currently studying finance at a great university and am managing to make over 6 figures a year and entering into my second year of college (I study finance which is how I'm able to make a comfortable living). I work really hard, and I have a high standard for myself and consequently any potential girlfriend (I'm not at all a hookup guy, it has never interested me). @@ -99,11 +99,11 @@ Pros: Sometimes I feel like she can be vain, promiscuous (maybe I'm unconsciously slut shaming her), or immature and it makes me feel a little off. I can't get it out of my mind. I think I'm looking for a more traditional woman since I try to be a traditionally masculine man, but I'm also unsure because this girl has a sexiness, empathy, and a little crazy that keeps life exciting. I'm deeply conflicted. -I would love your thoughts. I know I can't change her nor is that my job to do so. But I also can't ignore the potential issues because my time is valuable and so is hers. Just want to hear your thoughts. Thank you.",,1,[deleted],1659117816.0 -theredpillrebooted,waydi8,"My wife had sex with an executive at work, in his office. Need help",,/r/Marriage/comments/wav06a/my_wife_had_sex_with_an_executive_at_work_in_his/,3,[deleted],1659079827.0 -theredpillrebooted,w98uky,whut?,This isn't the matrix..... Wtf?,,0,officially_ender_,1658909283.0 -theredpillrebooted,vhq6kt,"Ok, which one of you geniuses operates their social media page? I can't get my bratwurst from this place anymore without questioning it...thanks guys.",,https://ktvz.com/news/business/2022/06/20/redmond-butcher-shop-sparks-online-controversy-with-post-criticizing-juneteenth-some-customers-cut-ties/,1,GlennClydeFox,1655852620.0 -theredpillrebooted,vh3k9y,Why I'm an Incel," as an infant, my life was always in termoil, both of my parents failed to show up when I was born. And I soon found my dad, not in the milk aisle at your local Walmart, but in a wheelchair after getting ligma. I soon found out the ligma was terminal and I was stricken with depression. I soon fell into a coma for 2 years after getting karate kicked in the testicles by a butch lesbian bodybuilder. When I woke up, I found my mother by my side, she soon told me that dad died, and that she took all the money that was in dads savings. I am now dieing of starvation and I’m currently sleeping on cardboard and news papers. My whole life I have been betrayed by woman, and I want my story to reach all of the BASED, NON-CUCKED, ALPHA MALES out there. Please don’t let these SHILLED FEMOIDS take over our proud America!",,6,MisandrySupremecy69,1655781881.0 +I would love your thoughts. I know I can't change her nor is that my job to do so. But I also can't ignore the potential issues because my time is valuable and so is hers. Just want to hear your thoughts. Thank you.",,1,[deleted],2022-07-29 18:03:36 +theredpillrebooted,waydi8,"My wife had sex with an executive at work, in his office. Need help",,/r/Marriage/comments/wav06a/my_wife_had_sex_with_an_executive_at_work_in_his/,3,[deleted],2022-07-29 07:30:27 +theredpillrebooted,w98uky,whut?,This isn't the matrix..... Wtf?,,0,officially_ender_,2022-07-27 08:08:03 +theredpillrebooted,vhq6kt,"Ok, which one of you geniuses operates their social media page? I can't get my bratwurst from this place anymore without questioning it...thanks guys.",,https://ktvz.com/news/business/2022/06/20/redmond-butcher-shop-sparks-online-controversy-with-post-criticizing-juneteenth-some-customers-cut-ties/,1,GlennClydeFox,2022-06-21 23:03:40 +theredpillrebooted,vh3k9y,Why I'm an Incel," as an infant, my life was always in termoil, both of my parents failed to show up when I was born. And I soon found my dad, not in the milk aisle at your local Walmart, but in a wheelchair after getting ligma. I soon found out the ligma was terminal and I was stricken with depression. I soon fell into a coma for 2 years after getting karate kicked in the testicles by a butch lesbian bodybuilder. When I woke up, I found my mother by my side, she soon told me that dad died, and that she took all the money that was in dads savings. I am now dieing of starvation and I’m currently sleeping on cardboard and news papers. My whole life I have been betrayed by woman, and I want my story to reach all of the BASED, NON-CUCKED, ALPHA MALES out there. Please don’t let these SHILLED FEMOIDS take over our proud America!",,6,MisandrySupremecy69,2022-06-21 03:24:41 theredpillrebooted,vh3vqg,REDPILL IS THE ONLY WAY TO BE BROSKI!,"Guys! We are in the midst of the next Holocaust! Gina Coreano was warning us about this! Sleepy Joe forced me to vaccinate my kid now he's a commie homosexual! &#x200B; @@ -120,15 +120,15 @@ I tried beating the shit out of him with a garden hose. Man, he just started tal &#x200B; -Vaccines are evil guys! #Qanon #SleepyBiden #Redpilled #2Trump2Spurious",,4,GlennClydeFox,1655782927.0 -theredpillrebooted,vh3gnc,Why I’m an incel,"as an infant, my life was always in termoil, both of my parents failed to show up when I was born. And I soon found my dad, not in the milk aisle at your local Walmart, but in a wheelchair after getting ligma. I soon found out the ligma was terminal and I was stricken with depression. I soon fell into a coma for 2 years after getting karate kicked in the testicles by a butch lesbian bodybuilder. When I woke up, I found my mother by my side, she soon told me that dad died, and that she took all the money that was in dads savings. I am now dieing of starvation and I’m currently sleeping on cardboard and news papers. My whole life I have been betrayed by woman, and I want my story to reach all of the BASED, NON-CUCKED, ALPHA MALES out there. Please don’t let these SHILLED FEMOIDS take over our proud America!",,2,IdiotsParadise,1655781561.0 +Vaccines are evil guys! #Qanon #SleepyBiden #Redpilled #2Trump2Spurious",,4,GlennClydeFox,2022-06-21 03:42:07 +theredpillrebooted,vh3gnc,Why I’m an incel,"as an infant, my life was always in termoil, both of my parents failed to show up when I was born. And I soon found my dad, not in the milk aisle at your local Walmart, but in a wheelchair after getting ligma. I soon found out the ligma was terminal and I was stricken with depression. I soon fell into a coma for 2 years after getting karate kicked in the testicles by a butch lesbian bodybuilder. When I woke up, I found my mother by my side, she soon told me that dad died, and that she took all the money that was in dads savings. I am now dieing of starvation and I’m currently sleeping on cardboard and news papers. My whole life I have been betrayed by woman, and I want my story to reach all of the BASED, NON-CUCKED, ALPHA MALES out there. Please don’t let these SHILLED FEMOIDS take over our proud America!",,2,IdiotsParadise,2022-06-21 03:19:21 theredpillrebooted,vh4poo,wake up liberals!,"Hey I'm no homo broski's! I am totally straight! 110 percent MGTOW advocate Straight Brah! I'm a real man! I ain't no homo! It's Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve get it right libtard! But I'm just gonna throw this out there. I would totally suck off Joe Rogan. That dude is based! Who's with me? -Who wants to suck Daddy Joe off with me?!",,1,GlennClydeFox,1655785690.0 -theredpillrebooted,ud4sh4,anon is a failure,,https://i.redd.it/i3ubl5k5dxv81.jpg,4,M_Salvatar,1651069445.0 -theredpillrebooted,qepxf4,Is the West for You?,,https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8JL_JCqdv5R1CujRSU_Sgw,2,[deleted],1635073134.0 +Who wants to suck Daddy Joe off with me?!",,1,GlennClydeFox,2022-06-21 04:28:10 +theredpillrebooted,ud4sh4,anon is a failure,,https://i.redd.it/i3ubl5k5dxv81.jpg,4,M_Salvatar,2022-04-27 14:24:05 +theredpillrebooted,qepxf4,Is the West for You?,,https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8JL_JCqdv5R1CujRSU_Sgw,2,[deleted],2021-10-24 10:58:54 theredpillrebooted,q5igm4,Feeling Fishy about this,"Hi, I have a question. I am an accomplished 35 years old or so male making about $1mil a year. I just started seeing this chic who is 26 years old. she is a nurse. She told me she is very sexual and loves sex. So I was like, I am down for great sex as well. We set up for a first date which may lead to sex afterward, but she didn't show. So I played it cool and wish her the best life. She text me 3 weeks later and tells me how horny she is. I was like whatever. We did a video chat. We got along well. During the chat, she talks more about her business and how she is a travel nurse and wants to travel with me, and so on. I just played along. I am going to Las Vegas and invited her to come. She accepted. She has been texting me daily telling me how horny and wet she is. I played along. When I asked her to send me sexy pictures. She said she is shy. Anyhow, what do you guys think? I have a feeling she will flake again. so two scenarios: 1. She flakes again - done, no more discussion @@ -136,22 +136,22 @@ theredpillrebooted,q5igm4,Feeling Fishy about this,"Hi, I have a question. I am Any advice will be appreciated. -Cheers",,4,akanoname714,1633905473.0 +Cheers",,4,akanoname714,2021-10-10 22:37:53 theredpillrebooted,ojj0lc,Original Male Space,"So I know where my guys are at. We get together. Have our chats, do stuff. -My question to this community is this? Where is your male space in the modern woke/feminist world?",,1,Xoshu,1626193193.0 -theredpillrebooted,nkkx1q,She Makes Her Own Money But She'd Rather Spend Yours #dating,,https://youtube.com/watch?v=0ImjsNnlelw&feature=share,3,Present_Rest6548,1621932136.0 -theredpillrebooted,mqz7xh,"Stay true to yourself and keep it real my dear Armenians, make your ancestors smile from the heaven ✊🇦🇲✝️",,https://v.redd.it/lpsdzchn16t61,10,NovaSociete,1618431913.0 -theredpillrebooted,m63gh5,"Thread: theories of Erich Fromm and Habermas on conformism, 5 types of modern personalities and social engineering",,/r/ArmenianRenaissance/comments/m63gdh/thread_theories_of_erich_fromm_and_habermas_on/,3,NovaSociete,1615879428.0 -theredpillrebooted,m5emsw,"Thread: The Cultural Marxist long march through institutions, the corporate take over of the movement (intentions behind the demoralization and deconstruction proces) and how to feed the mass the illussion that their ""progressivism"" is revolutionary or anti-establishment.",,/r/ArmenianRenaissance/comments/m5efxz/thread_the_cultural_marxist_long_march_through/,3,NovaSociete,1615790374.0 -theredpillrebooted,lkjcer,What do you need the most right now?,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgoHC6d_BlQ&t=71s,1,SundayDiscovery,1613412723.0 -theredpillrebooted,ljnhoy,"[Excellent New Video, Thoughts?] Masculine Frame and Humor | RedPill Masculinity is Not Funny?",,https://youtube.com/watch?v=LZULYl58BBc&feature=share,2,Sigma_Solo,1613305518.0 -theredpillrebooted,fiqrg4,Men as Property | Why Family Court Laws are Skewed in Favor of Women,,https://youtu.be/omPJ41JykjM,3,thevalentineyear,1584224643.0 -theredpillrebooted,f98onz,Take the red pill and wake up,,https://youtu.be/OS6N633Nv0s,3,thevalentineyear,1582628812.0 -theredpillrebooted,2mce9o,"Fuckin' women, man...",,http://thoughtcatalog.com/isabel-chalmers/2014/04/dear-nice-guy-i-wasnt-ready-for-you-before-but-i-am-now/,3,wiseprogressivethink,1416017755.0 -theredpillrebooted,2cizo8,"If you have girl issues and trp is too big to swallow, come this way.",,http://youtu.be/QLOfC1Xx3Ak,3,StaffOfTruth,1407097476.0 -theredpillrebooted,1ikdyg,I can feel it getting lighter.,,http://www.wikihow.com/Lighten-the-Colour-of-Your-Hair,7,appleman94,1374163584.0 -theredpillrebooted,1ik55o,BBC - Food - Recipes : Kaiserschmarrn with strawberry sauce,,http://www.bbc.co.uk/food/recipes/kaiserschmarrn_with_86930,3,[deleted],1374156558.0 -theredpillrebooted,1i0w26,The holy grail of /r/theredpillrebooted,,http://www.foodnetwork.com/chefs/100-greatest-cooking-tips-of-all-time/index.html,7,[deleted],1373481498.0 +My question to this community is this? Where is your male space in the modern woke/feminist world?",,1,Xoshu,2021-07-13 16:19:53 +theredpillrebooted,nkkx1q,She Makes Her Own Money But She'd Rather Spend Yours #dating,,https://youtube.com/watch?v=0ImjsNnlelw&feature=share,3,Present_Rest6548,2021-05-25 08:42:16 +theredpillrebooted,mqz7xh,"Stay true to yourself and keep it real my dear Armenians, make your ancestors smile from the heaven ✊🇦🇲✝️",,https://v.redd.it/lpsdzchn16t61,10,NovaSociete,2021-04-14 20:25:13 +theredpillrebooted,m63gh5,"Thread: theories of Erich Fromm and Habermas on conformism, 5 types of modern personalities and social engineering",,/r/ArmenianRenaissance/comments/m63gdh/thread_theories_of_erich_fromm_and_habermas_on/,3,NovaSociete,2021-03-16 07:23:48 +theredpillrebooted,m5emsw,"Thread: The Cultural Marxist long march through institutions, the corporate take over of the movement (intentions behind the demoralization and deconstruction proces) and how to feed the mass the illussion that their ""progressivism"" is revolutionary or anti-establishment.",,/r/ArmenianRenaissance/comments/m5efxz/thread_the_cultural_marxist_long_march_through/,3,NovaSociete,2021-03-15 06:39:34 +theredpillrebooted,lkjcer,What do you need the most right now?,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgoHC6d_BlQ&t=71s,1,SundayDiscovery,2021-02-15 18:12:03 +theredpillrebooted,ljnhoy,"[Excellent New Video, Thoughts?] Masculine Frame and Humor | RedPill Masculinity is Not Funny?",,https://youtube.com/watch?v=LZULYl58BBc&feature=share,2,Sigma_Solo,2021-02-14 12:25:18 +theredpillrebooted,fiqrg4,Men as Property | Why Family Court Laws are Skewed in Favor of Women,,https://youtu.be/omPJ41JykjM,3,thevalentineyear,2020-03-14 22:24:03 +theredpillrebooted,f98onz,Take the red pill and wake up,,https://youtu.be/OS6N633Nv0s,3,thevalentineyear,2020-02-25 11:06:52 +theredpillrebooted,2mce9o,"Fuckin' women, man...",,http://thoughtcatalog.com/isabel-chalmers/2014/04/dear-nice-guy-i-wasnt-ready-for-you-before-but-i-am-now/,3,wiseprogressivethink,2014-11-15 02:15:55 +theredpillrebooted,2cizo8,"If you have girl issues and trp is too big to swallow, come this way.",,http://youtu.be/QLOfC1Xx3Ak,3,StaffOfTruth,2014-08-03 20:24:36 +theredpillrebooted,1ikdyg,I can feel it getting lighter.,,http://www.wikihow.com/Lighten-the-Colour-of-Your-Hair,7,appleman94,2013-07-18 16:06:24 +theredpillrebooted,1ik55o,BBC - Food - Recipes : Kaiserschmarrn with strawberry sauce,,http://www.bbc.co.uk/food/recipes/kaiserschmarrn_with_86930,3,[deleted],2013-07-18 14:09:18 +theredpillrebooted,1i0w26,The holy grail of /r/theredpillrebooted,,http://www.foodnetwork.com/chefs/100-greatest-cooking-tips-of-all-time/index.html,7,[deleted],2013-07-10 18:38:18 RedPillWomen,13famda,We Found Where We Stashed The Checklist! Getting Started With RPW,"**Beginners Onboarding Checklist** - @@ -225,7 +225,7 @@ For a deeper understanding of the RPW red pill philosophy, community's core prax **Pro Tip 2**: While navigating through the search bar and reading highly-referenced articles, build a list of 2 or 3 endorsed/highly-starred contributors with whom you deeply relate. Follow and read their comments and theory posts; you'll find successful social models that align with your values and goals to learn from. -**Pro Tip 3**: [Personal Security](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7gn3zw/personal_security/). Participants on RP communities (TRP, RPW, etc.) will typically have a dedicated RP account. This is for anonymity and reducing probabilities of being doxxed. These dedicated accounts are also useful for writing theory posts, discussions, asking questions to get feedback and calibration, making field reports, and to ask for dating advice and relationship help. These systems are in place on RPW to keep you safe and accelerate your learning and skill development.",,42,FastLifePineapple,1683865535.0 +**Pro Tip 3**: [Personal Security](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7gn3zw/personal_security/). Participants on RP communities (TRP, RPW, etc.) will typically have a dedicated RP account. This is for anonymity and reducing probabilities of being doxxed. These dedicated accounts are also useful for writing theory posts, discussions, asking questions to get feedback and calibration, making field reports, and to ask for dating advice and relationship help. These systems are in place on RPW to keep you safe and accelerate your learning and skill development.",,42,FastLifePineapple,2023-05-12 04:25:35 RedPillWomen,13eeakb,RPW Back to Basics Mega Compilation,"This is a compiled list of RPW Back to Basics starting from 2020 to 2023 and will be synthesized with 2024 Back to Basics. **You will find the most current year in the comments.** * **Please note that each years post curators did not write the presented posts (unless stated).** @@ -294,7 +294,7 @@ Compilations are being selected from old posts from throughout the years and bei * [Back to Basics September - Relationship Dynamics Part 1](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/xftbg7/back_to_basics_september_relationship_dynamics/) * [Back to Basics September - Relationship Dynamics Part 2](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/xftmgc/back_to_basics_september_relationship_dynamics/) * [Back to Basics September - For Women Only - Insecurity & Affirmation](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/xl9pwo/back_to_basics_september_for_women_only/) -* [Back to Basics September - For Women Only - Providing](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/xl9rb7/back_to_basics_september_for_women_only_providing/)",,42,FastLifePineapple,1683783864.0 +* [Back to Basics September - For Women Only - Providing](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/xl9rb7/back_to_basics_september_for_women_only_providing/)",,42,FastLifePineapple,2023-05-11 05:44:24 RedPillWomen,1aic2r1,"Dating 4+ years, boyfriend hasn’t proposed and I’m ready to be married and have babies","Title really says it all. Been with my boyfriend 4 years now, he is it. I’m almost so frustrated that he hasn’t proposed because whether he’s broke, poor, rich, wealthy, who cares - he’s it. Our souls are the same, our morals align, and we have had discussions that we want to be together. I’m coming to an interesting crossroads though and I don’t have the parental guidance in my life to ask this advice. I want babies - I want to be married, I want to be pregnant, I want a family, I will keep my husband happy, all of it. I’m 27 so I’m sad it hasn’t happened yet. @@ -303,7 +303,7 @@ He says “we” need to be financially stable before that happens - but I know My question is - what would you do in my situation? I feel like IM ready, he’s not, and daring 4 years now should be plenty. I’m worried I’m wasting my youth and he’ll decide he wants better/different. -While he is 100% “the one” in my eyes - is he really if he won’t propose? Bc I’m 100% ready and I don’t want to be the 35 year old bride doing IVF.",,17,Public-Papaya-9586,1707010478.0 +While he is 100% “the one” in my eyes - is he really if he won’t propose? Bc I’m 100% ready and I don’t want to be the 35 year old bride doing IVF.",,17,Public-Papaya-9586,2024-02-04 01:34:38 RedPillWomen,1aid1tw,Moving in with boyfriend - dealing with parents?,"Hi all! I know we usually focus on romantic relationships but I’d love RPW minded advice for a parental one, mainly dad actually lol. This community has grounded me so many times. I (25f) live at home with my mom and sister but I’ve been strongly contemplating moving out with my boyfriend for a while now. This household has become extremely toxic and stressful and I share a room with my sister (14) so I think overall it’s about time I move out. I also love my boyfriend to bits of course!! @@ -312,8 +312,8 @@ My boyfriend and I graduated last December and he moved back home (2 hrs away). I’m Christian, as is my dad, and my goal was always to be married before moving in. But due to my home life getting worse I think I need to move out like, yesterday LOL, for everyone’s mental being. I know my dad has objections to me getting married cause when it’s been brought up in the past he says I’m too young, haven’t experience a lot of life, I’m too soft etc. Objections will be even greater since I’m moving in before marriage. He knows my home life situation and agrees I need to leave, however we had discussed me moving in with my grandma or even with him. However, as much as I love them, there’s not adequate space for me and it’d be me conforming to other people’s lives in a way. I have the opportunity to start my own life and with a man I love, with a dedicated space for me and my things. -Anyone have any helpful advice or tips? How did everyone’s convos go once the time came??",,3,pinkparadigm,1707013460.0 -RedPillWomen,1ai7y7w,What are some Red Pill related podcasts I could listen to?,,,4,slicedgreenolive,1706998953.0 +Anyone have any helpful advice or tips? How did everyone’s convos go once the time came??",,3,pinkparadigm,2024-02-04 02:24:20 +RedPillWomen,1ai7y7w,What are some Red Pill related podcasts I could listen to?,,,4,slicedgreenolive,2024-02-03 22:22:33 RedPillWomen,1ai0k6c,Husband has no hobbies or interests,"Reposting this here since I didn't get much help from the other sub. Hoping some more like-minded women will have some insight. My husband and I have been together for a decade now, and while our values, politics, pace of life and goals align perfectly, my husband has no hobbies or interests. He's always been this way for the most part, so it isn't new. During the COVID lockdowns I remember we tried to get him into a few things like wood carving, restoring watches and old furniture, etc, but nothing spoke to him. In general he is an extremely stoic and ""vanilla"" guy. He doesn't even enjoy listening to music, which is insane to me. He says he's been like this his entire life. The only thing he does that could even be considered a hobby is watching TV, and he's told me that he doesn't even enjoy it. It's just a way for him to turn off his brain. He works a ton so it's relaxing for him to not have to think. @@ -342,7 +342,7 @@ Aside from this issue, our marriage is very good. He is supportive, loyal, gentl Have any of you dealt with this situation? I have zero interest in leaving him, but I just wish we had something we could do together besides raising our son or shopping. I also want him to experience what it's like to have something that gives you purpose and drive (aside from being a parent, of course). -tl;dr: Husband has no hobbies and I want to find something for us to do together and for him to enjoy on his own.",,8,Nostalchiq,1706979388.0 +tl;dr: Husband has no hobbies and I want to find something for us to do together and for him to enjoy on his own.",,8,Nostalchiq,2024-02-03 16:56:28 RedPillWomen,1ai7u3b,what do you think of loyalty tests,"so im trying to learn of ways to really test a partners worth by a loyalty test via someone else testing their loyalty. I keep reading online after researching this topic that a loyalty test is manipulative. What i find odd is that a cheater is going to be manipulative regardless. So a loyalty test in my eyes is to determine if my potential with this partner will continue because even without a loyalty test, this exact test will happen inn the real world when im away. They will hide the truth at that point. So a loyalty test will confirm their response before it happens in another situation. I have to ask myself what if the test was played onn me. Honestly i believe i would be very happy and try to reassure my partner that i am 100% committed. I would feel only love because its a sign they really want to be serious. I would only want to do this test once however. Too often would be too much. @@ -351,14 +351,14 @@ What do you think about loyalty testing? Manipulative? or a smart test? If the partner is true to the relationship. I would tell them the truth and reward them. -Id recommend watching the youtube videos of loyalty tests and see for yourself. Without the test. Those people would be led blind by unfaithful TRUE manipulators.",,2,IrishPowerMachine,1706998660.0 +Id recommend watching the youtube videos of loyalty tests and see for yourself. Without the test. Those people would be led blind by unfaithful TRUE manipulators.",,2,IrishPowerMachine,2024-02-03 22:17:40 RedPillWomen,1ahq9z3,Aging and Becoming Less Attractive,"The only thing holding me back from going full-in red pill is the fact that men find other women sexually attractive. Fortunately, my (26F) boyfriend (28M) finds me very attractive (I’m his exact physical type) and I’m generally a conventionally attractive woman, but I fear the future and losing my youth, sexual attractiveness, and beauty. How does Red Pill teach us to cope with this? I’ve read the sidebar but have not found an answer. I already know the “do the best you can, maintain your weight, take care of yourself as you age” advice. But that only goes so far. I’m thinking about hitting 50, 60, 70 years old and at that age you obviously can’t compete with the 20 year old girls. At a certain age, there’s just not a way to be sexually attractive because a lot of female attractiveness is associated with youth. I feel resentment for men and my boyfriend, just because I know they aren’t capable of truly only having eyes for me. It hurts me and it makes me question if being in a relationship is truly worth it (as crazy as that may sound). I just want to be the only woman my boyfriend wants or thinks about, and the sidebar makes it seem like that’s impossible and I should accept that. I want to be full red pill but accepting “oh yeah my boyfriend finds other women attractive” causes me a lot of pain. And I would imagine the pain only gets worse as the woman ages, because she can’t compete with the younger women who are at their peak physical attractiveness. I know I’m getting the cart ahead of the horse and I should be relishing in the current beauty and attractiveness I have, but it’s hard to realize that I may lose my looks one day and my husband will still be looking at other women -- younger women I cant compete with. -I would appreciate any encouragement or insight. I’m hurt, sad, and upset by this realization and am having a rough time emotionally",,17,reddit_user_214,1706944065.0 +I would appreciate any encouragement or insight. I’m hurt, sad, and upset by this realization and am having a rough time emotionally",,17,reddit_user_214,2024-02-03 07:07:45 RedPillWomen,1ahu38q,"communicating being hurt over lack of communication vs begging for attention, how?","my long distance boyfriend hasn't called in 4 days, mostly because he's busy with friends (not on a guys trip or anything, he comes home every night) I don't mind that, I love that for him but a 5 min call when he comes home would be nice especially since we're used to talk daily. @@ -371,7 +371,7 @@ I keep wondering if I'm being overdramatic or overly sensitive, I don't want to but I don't want to be toxic and expect him to read my mind because that would be unfair. -any insight is highly appreciated",,4,throwra20035,1706959679.0 +any insight is highly appreciated",,4,throwra20035,2024-02-03 11:27:59 RedPillWomen,1ahqo0r,How can I be a soft landing space if I'm utterly drained after work?,"Hi beautiful ladies,I am a full-time teacher, also an introvert. I am in a school environment that is as good as it gets, with generally all-around-good children, yet it can get utterly exhausting. The emotional exhaustion then leaks into physical exhaustion. @@ -381,7 +381,7 @@ In the past, in my early years as a teacher, my exhaustion and stress somaticize It is difficult addressing others' needs at home after work, and I've found myself getting cross with family. -If you are in a job that centers around care and fulfilling others' needs, how do you rejuvenate your happy spirit? What are your regulatory strategies?",,8,Throwawaylikehay,1706945643.0 +If you are in a job that centers around care and fulfilling others' needs, how do you rejuvenate your happy spirit? What are your regulatory strategies?",,8,Throwawaylikehay,2024-02-03 07:34:03 RedPillWomen,1ahgvi8,Not Just For Anyone,"I had a conversation with my boyfriend on a drive home recently. I told him how yet another friend of mine ""wishes she could meet a man like I have."" And ""your relationship is so good."" @@ -392,13 +392,13 @@ I thought this was a good idea, and it also made me want to ask y'all: If a frie *I think this post is best for women in relationships (LTR or marriage) to reply to and for single women to get insight. But anyone is free to comment what they think. -I would personally say learn how to listen better. It's the best advice I've gotten. My boyfriend and I (27 F, 26 M for 3 years) have better conversations, communication, and understanding because I let him finish a complete thought.",,37,AmilliBee,1706914657.0 +I would personally say learn how to listen better. It's the best advice I've gotten. My boyfriend and I (27 F, 26 M for 3 years) have better conversations, communication, and understanding because I let him finish a complete thought.",,37,AmilliBee,2024-02-02 22:57:37 RedPillWomen,1ai2jzt,SEX WITH NO DESIRE?,"I (27F) lost my virginity when I was 12 years old as I was raped by someone I don't know... and I'm just sharing this for you guys to have a background on my sexuality history. Fast forward to my 18year old self I have my first time with a boyfriend. And I thought I had a high sex drive because I want it all the time, although we only saw each other once in a while (3x per month or even less). After breaking up with that boyfriend I had multiple experiences (counting 23 guys total in a span of 6 years years and no serious long-term relationship. When I was 24, Ive met my husband (30M) and I fell in love with him, I shared my whole history as we are very transparent people. During the beginning of our relationship we only saw each other in person once a week and we always had sex... we even had sex 9 times in the span of 24 hours once... BUT NOW HERE COMES THE PROBLEM... after we got married (Still 24 but turning 25 yo) and started living together I realized I don't want sex all the time like before and that I feel satisfied if I have sex once a week. He didn't like that as he has a very high sex drive. The argument about this comes and goes and it passed 2 years and the argument still comes back every time I say no. A while ago we decided let's have 2-3 times a week and the reality is that I can only do it twice a week as the third time I'm really not in the mood. I don't want to just do it to avoid a fight, as that makes me feel trapped. He tried to learn about what he can do but I don't know, we try massages, dancing in kitchen but it doesn't work when I'm not in the mood. today... I told him that if I just start kissing him and he immediately says ""let's have sex"" that turns me down and he says that's unrealistic as when he doesn't ask I don't ask for it. So I said that I work better when I have a schedule as that makes my mind aware of what's gonna happen... he says that makes him feel bad as we can never have spontaneous sex, which he loves. I feel like we are just not compatible. It's getting very problematic... -PS. IT'S FIRST TIME POSTING HERE, IF THIS POST IS NOT NECESSARILY FOR THIS SUBREDDIT LET ME KNOW AND I APOLOGIZE. I'M ONLY POSTING HERE BECAUSE I SAW ANOTHER WOMAN'S POST ABOUT SIMILAR TOPIC, BUT THE DIFFERENCE IS THAT SHE LIKES TO GIVE IN EVEN NOT IN THE MOOD BECAUSE SHE WANTS TO PLEASURE HER PARTNER AND UNFORTUNATELY THAT TRIGGERS ME AND I CANT DO IT.",,1,Silent-Effective-371,1706984614.0 +PS. IT'S FIRST TIME POSTING HERE, IF THIS POST IS NOT NECESSARILY FOR THIS SUBREDDIT LET ME KNOW AND I APOLOGIZE. I'M ONLY POSTING HERE BECAUSE I SAW ANOTHER WOMAN'S POST ABOUT SIMILAR TOPIC, BUT THE DIFFERENCE IS THAT SHE LIKES TO GIVE IN EVEN NOT IN THE MOOD BECAUSE SHE WANTS TO PLEASURE HER PARTNER AND UNFORTUNATELY THAT TRIGGERS ME AND I CANT DO IT.",,1,Silent-Effective-371,2024-02-03 18:23:34 RedPillWomen,1ahp22p,"“Daddy Issues”, love, trust, and respect for men","I’ve seen some great discussions here about being a good first mate when your own mother didn’t model the dynamic, and I’m curious about the other side of it. - If your father or father figure was not great at being a parent, or not great at being a partner to your mother/mother figure, or both, do you think this affected the type of men you prefer, or your ability to respect or to trust a romantic partner? @@ -411,16 +411,16 @@ My own father was a great dad, but not so great as a husband. My mother is very - Taking a cue from my mom, I try to focus on how my dad has been there for me and my siblings rather than how he failed her. We’ve discussed her mistakes as well, especially things she overlooked when vetting. My dad is happily remarried to a career woman in a classic L/HL dominance level dynamic, and to my knowledge has been faithful to her. What type of husband a man wants to be is just as important as what type of wife he wants for determining compatibility. -- I still do my best to have a good relationship with my dad. I don’t go into details about my parents’ divorce while getting to know a man unless he asks (since cheating is one of the few situations where my religion permits divorce, sometimes this makes a difference for men). Even then, I focus on how it reinforced my values, for example “I’ve experienced firsthand how infidelity can impact a family, so I think it’s important for spouses to feel comfortable honestly communicating their desires and to respect each other by avoiding compromising situations.”",,4,Mighty_Wombat42,1706939498.0 +- I still do my best to have a good relationship with my dad. I don’t go into details about my parents’ divorce while getting to know a man unless he asks (since cheating is one of the few situations where my religion permits divorce, sometimes this makes a difference for men). Even then, I focus on how it reinforced my values, for example “I’ve experienced firsthand how infidelity can impact a family, so I think it’s important for spouses to feel comfortable honestly communicating their desires and to respect each other by avoiding compromising situations.”",,4,Mighty_Wombat42,2024-02-03 05:51:38 RedPillWomen,1ahpzyc,Balancing career and a traditional man.,"I’m at a loss at the moment. I am a 20F going to a private university for Spacecraft Engineering. I grew up in a conservative household. I have a firecracker of a mother who always warned me to provide for myself to follow my career. I feel lost. I dedicated my life to building this career. I’m almost out of school and it’s been a struggle the whole way. I’m proud of myself and I want to be the legacy to my family name. But I also feel lost because I want to be a mother at home at some point. I want to be taken care of. I have a dominant personality. I grew up with brothers. I’m in a male dominated career and a school of mostly males. I’ve always had male friends. When I meet men they love how I interact with them. They appreciate my humor. And I also love being feminine and pretty but once they have me they don’t like the male friends. I don’t dress traditional, more alternative. They want that, but when they get it it seems to be Im not feminine enough, I think they just want to date a girl with black hair if I’m being honest lmao. -I’m so lost with how to balance these lifestyles. I feel like I can do all of if in time and I can balance so much, but recently men in my life make me feel like I’m not capable of that. I want to work on my career for a little bit then be a mother and eventually go back in as my kids are older. I am not willing to give up what I’ve worked for. But are there any women who have lived through this. How can I balance these and fight for both. Has anyone done it? Has anyone balanced their gender nonconformity with a traditional man and life? Did it make you happy?",,4,hellllomate,1706942984.0 +I’m so lost with how to balance these lifestyles. I feel like I can do all of if in time and I can balance so much, but recently men in my life make me feel like I’m not capable of that. I want to work on my career for a little bit then be a mother and eventually go back in as my kids are older. I am not willing to give up what I’ve worked for. But are there any women who have lived through this. How can I balance these and fight for both. Has anyone done it? Has anyone balanced their gender nonconformity with a traditional man and life? Did it make you happy?",,4,hellllomate,2024-02-03 06:49:44 RedPillWomen,1ahrxrk,"My bf is angry at me, what do I do?","Long story short: My bf has been super busy, trying to help our home situations and himself, he wants to be able to pay the bills, we are both 21 and I’m worried, as I kept going to his door, I’d travel for over one hour to see him, because I had missed him so much and i also didn’t enjoy how things were at home, he has anger issues and cannot talk maturely when he’s angry and he’d say things ‘of course I’m sorry for your home situation but i cannot do anything right now, i can’t move us out’ and he’d also mention how I’m getting in the way of things by going to his door as he’s busy and there’s a reason his phone is shut off as ‘he’s locked in’ and doesn’t want distractions… i always feel like he constantly finds reasons to demonize me, whilst I’m wrong for showing up unannounced his phone is always off.. so if I tell him I’m coming i also have this fear he’ll try to push me out.. So now yesterday, things weren’t great, he really wanted me to go and i was refusing especially as things were horrid in my home life, i desperately want him back as he’s not speaking to me and he said he may talk to me later, I’m very frustrated because he runs away from our problems and he’s pushed my boundaries of insulting me and attacking me, it’s not very masculine.. -What do i do for him to message me? I thought about showing up to his house but I’m worried his sister may open the door instead of him..",,1,PhyllisKepner,1706950862.0 -RedPillWomen,1ahoa03,What are some flexible careers or jobs for a mom/wife?,I recently had a baby and currently a stay at home mom. I am thinking that I want bring in a little bit of money here and there but don't want it to take too much time away from my husband and baby. Im not opposed to going back to college if need be. I do have a degree in elementary education but not sure if i ever want to go back to teaching. Any ideas?,,2,UnusualBlueberry2320,1706936785.0 +What do i do for him to message me? I thought about showing up to his house but I’m worried his sister may open the door instead of him..",,1,PhyllisKepner,2024-02-03 09:01:02 +RedPillWomen,1ahoa03,What are some flexible careers or jobs for a mom/wife?,I recently had a baby and currently a stay at home mom. I am thinking that I want bring in a little bit of money here and there but don't want it to take too much time away from my husband and baby. Im not opposed to going back to college if need be. I do have a degree in elementary education but not sure if i ever want to go back to teaching. Any ideas?,,2,UnusualBlueberry2320,2024-02-03 05:06:25 RedPillWomen,1agspf5,STFU or be vulnerable?,"Hello all! I need advice on whether to STFU or be vulnerable. @@ -435,13 +435,13 @@ I fully understand that men need time to process things before they’re ready t I feel like there’s so much left unsaid, and so many questions I still have. He’s unlikely to bring it up on his own, so I need to decide whether to deal with my questions internally and STFU, or be vulnerable and restart a conversation that was already difficult to bring up in the first place. -Thank you all!",,15,river_tam2x2,1706840346.0 +Thank you all!",,15,river_tam2x2,2024-02-02 02:19:06 RedPillWomen,1ag9gr8,Why are You a Red Pill Woman?,"There are lots of posts about how to be a Red Pill Woman; but I have not seen many that discuss our individual motivations to commit to such tough ideology? So why are you a Red Pilled Woman? * Because of how you were raised? * Because you think it is the right thing to do? * Because you see it has results for your husband? -* Because it makes you happy?",,28,TheRedPilledLurker,1706789159.0 +* Because it makes you happy?",,28,TheRedPilledLurker,2024-02-01 12:05:59 RedPillWomen,1agsl2v,Please help me vet men.,"Hi folks, right now I have 3 prospective guys who are interested in dating and I'm not socially astute enough to vet guys. As you know, I'm severe/moderate autistic (I've had the cops called on me for violent public tantrumming after age 30) 41, Asian, leaning toward Christianity, low body count and never partied. @@ -464,11 +464,11 @@ Which guy should I move forward with? The only one that makes over $50,000 or ha Have any folks on this forum dated a dude with a drug or sexual past that you're trying to ignore? What are your thoughts on this matter? -People think a psychiatric history is the same as a drug or sexual one. Thing is we can't choose our psych past but druggies choose to do drugs.",,0,SquirrelofLIL,1706839991.0 -RedPillWomen,1ag9lmj,How to have an emotional connection? *Cross posted*,"Well my last post was wildly judged, so I'll try a different route. I (38f) want an emotional connection with my husband (39m); honesty, communication, vulnerability, etc. He says he wants that now (not quite two months into attempted reconciliation), but that previously an emotional connection never occurred to him. We have been married 15 years. He said previously his ideal perception of marriage was sex and no fighting. My concern is that if I do all the things recommended I'll never get an emotional connection because he will be getting that ideal marriage. Important to mention he is severely avoidant and has intense difficulty with emotions. He has been able to get used to it with his sponsor, counselor, and support group, but he says its because they always encourage him and provide affirmation even when he is wildly in the wrong. I don't really know how to encourage him and make him feel good about when he hurts me, so I definitely feel like I'll never reach the level they are at. I would appreciate advice vs judgement please.",,7,Few-Laugh-6508,1706789617.0 +People think a psychiatric history is the same as a drug or sexual one. Thing is we can't choose our psych past but druggies choose to do drugs.",,0,SquirrelofLIL,2024-02-02 02:13:11 +RedPillWomen,1ag9lmj,How to have an emotional connection? *Cross posted*,"Well my last post was wildly judged, so I'll try a different route. I (38f) want an emotional connection with my husband (39m); honesty, communication, vulnerability, etc. He says he wants that now (not quite two months into attempted reconciliation), but that previously an emotional connection never occurred to him. We have been married 15 years. He said previously his ideal perception of marriage was sex and no fighting. My concern is that if I do all the things recommended I'll never get an emotional connection because he will be getting that ideal marriage. Important to mention he is severely avoidant and has intense difficulty with emotions. He has been able to get used to it with his sponsor, counselor, and support group, but he says its because they always encourage him and provide affirmation even when he is wildly in the wrong. I don't really know how to encourage him and make him feel good about when he hurts me, so I definitely feel like I'll never reach the level they are at. I would appreciate advice vs judgement please.",,7,Few-Laugh-6508,2024-02-01 12:13:37 RedPillWomen,1ag24d1,"If finances were no obstacle, how many children would you have?","Women of the Red Pill, -Realistically, as of now projecting into your future, if finances were very comfortable and healthcare was solid and you had a supportive spouse/partner/family, how many children do you think you'd like to have? Is there a limit on the number of children or on the age of last pregnancy? Has this been a contentious issue in past or present relationships? Have your views changed on this topic as you've gotten older or started having children?",,17,Key-Tie2542,1706760708.0 +Realistically, as of now projecting into your future, if finances were very comfortable and healthcare was solid and you had a supportive spouse/partner/family, how many children do you think you'd like to have? Is there a limit on the number of children or on the age of last pregnancy? Has this been a contentious issue in past or present relationships? Have your views changed on this topic as you've gotten older or started having children?",,17,Key-Tie2542,2024-02-01 04:11:48 RedPillWomen,1afvf5m,"Success story, and a lesson -","Love wins, again! Coming back to share a success story. About a year and a half ago, I posted an issue that was happening in my relationship where my man would get vocally frustrated over things I thought were extremely disproportionate. @@ -493,7 +493,7 @@ We just celebrated our 3 year anniversary, where he lavished me with my favorite All that to say. Please don’t trust every advice you read here. There are women here that don’t fully understand the whole picture, or aren’t actually redpilled, and you are likely telling the story in your own favor. Stick to reading books from trusted authors. -And - if you have made the commitment to love, then love. Do it well. Forget everything but love. It’s the most powerful force on the planet, and what our lives are all about.",,40,deviant_priestess,1706741851.0 +And - if you have made the commitment to love, then love. Do it well. Forget everything but love. It’s the most powerful force on the planet, and what our lives are all about.",,40,deviant_priestess,2024-01-31 22:57:31 RedPillWomen,1afvfk5,Wanting to stop birth control,"Hello, I would really appreciate some advice on birth control and its side effects, and how my situation relates to all of it. For some context: I have been on the pill since I was 12/13, and I am 21 now. My periods started when I was 11 and before starting birth control they were pretty heavy. The main reason I started birth control was to regulate them and clear up some bad acne that I had, and for about 4 years now I have had no issues with either. (However the clear skin could maybe be attributed to sticking to a skincare routine better than I did as a preteen.) @@ -510,11 +510,11 @@ As for stopping BC, obviously there is a higher chance of pregnancy, but I am al Anyway, if anyone has been in a similar situation I would really love to hear how these things affected you. Stopping birth control after a long time or continuing on birth control for a long time, and if any side effects have occured because of either. -(and to quickly note yes I am going to talk to my boyfriend :) and yes I am definitely going to talk to my doctor as well! The real reason I wanted to ask this here is because I align with a lot of the perspectives and opinions this sub holds and I am hoping some people will understand where I am coming from with my worries haha)",,16,tinkspace,1706741876.0 -RedPillWomen,1afh3f3,Why am I so combative and struggle with being pleasant?,"I (22F) have come to notice that I am someone that always has an answer, always snaps back at people and I almost always trying to assert some sort of dominance people. Example: ""hey have you bought oranges?"" instead of just saying ""yes"", I will say ""yes, you know i have"". Why am i like that? I feel like I do this sort of little thing all the time even to my bf (21). How do i mitigate it?",,27,Vegetable_Captain401,1706705349.0 +(and to quickly note yes I am going to talk to my boyfriend :) and yes I am definitely going to talk to my doctor as well! The real reason I wanted to ask this here is because I align with a lot of the perspectives and opinions this sub holds and I am hoping some people will understand where I am coming from with my worries haha)",,16,tinkspace,2024-01-31 22:57:56 +RedPillWomen,1afh3f3,Why am I so combative and struggle with being pleasant?,"I (22F) have come to notice that I am someone that always has an answer, always snaps back at people and I almost always trying to assert some sort of dominance people. Example: ""hey have you bought oranges?"" instead of just saying ""yes"", I will say ""yes, you know i have"". Why am i like that? I feel like I do this sort of little thing all the time even to my bf (21). How do i mitigate it?",,27,Vegetable_Captain401,2024-01-31 12:49:09 RedPillWomen,1af72la,Why do men prefer to try to make boss babes tradwives instead of going for actual women who aspire to be tradwives?,"I'm a woman who practices and admires traditionalism and notices that the men who are traditional seem to go for ""boss babe"" girls. Should I just go into the military and get a life and quit trying to be a wife? -Thanks for all the comments. im useless.",,45,PatientLeg3731,1706668989.0 +Thanks for all the comments. im useless.",,45,PatientLeg3731,2024-01-31 02:43:09 RedPillWomen,1afbgad,I need to forgive his sexual past but don't know how.,"My (38f) husband (39m) previously had a porn addiction and has been in recovery a little over a year. We separated a few months ago because of his addiction and his constant lying. He finally wanted to change after I slept with someone else and he realized I really would leave. Married 15yr, together 17yr. Initially reconciliation was going well, then I fell right back into the same pattern. I get triggered by his past and don't trust that he is honest. For reference, he started having to fantasize about porn or other women to even be with me when I was pregnant, then progressively stopped having sex with me altogether. Before he quit porn he didn't touch me for almost five years. He admitted right before we separated that he slept with me while closing his eyes and imagining the super hot waitress we had while we were on date night that night (who was literally almost 20 years younger than him). @@ -523,7 +523,7 @@ Here is the issue; he is showing me he really is sorry, but I can't accept it be He says that doesn't matter anymore, that he loves me and never wants to risk losing me again. I want to believe him, but I don't know how. I can't go out in public with him because its too much. I get enraged every time I see a woman that fits his ideal. Also important to the story...we have amazing sex, but I am the high libido partner. He was high libido when it was porn/lust, but is lower when its just me. His isn't low per se, but once or twice a week doesn't bother him in the least. Yes all his levels have been checked and are fine. Yes I have done everything possible to make sure the sex is amazing for him. -How do I even reconcile if I can't move on? How do you move on from this?",,8,Few-Laugh-6508,1706682901.0 +How do I even reconcile if I can't move on? How do you move on from this?",,8,Few-Laugh-6508,2024-01-31 06:35:01 RedPillWomen,1af61hh,I’m 24 years old: should I start dating to marry or dating for fun/self discovery is fine?,"Hello everyone, I can’t stop thinking about having children. All my choices seem to align with that desire. I’ve been going on dates and I’m struggling to feel like I could settle with any of them. Financially, it seems like our goals wouldn’t align, too much alcohol etc. Some are still fine, making me happy in the moment… I’m not having sex with any of them/not even a kiss but sometimes it still feels dirty. I feel like in 10 years, I’ll have a very different life from any of them @@ -532,7 +532,7 @@ Is it better to hold out for the right one? Should I keep rejecting people until According to you, what’s the ideal strategy for people in my age range? -Thank you✨",,14,codecadence,1706665985.0 +Thank you✨",,14,codecadence,2024-01-31 01:53:05 RedPillWomen,1af45tt,Is feminine appearance and energy enough?,"Hi:) I have been dating someone since summer and it’s really lovely. He is only 6 years older than me, but we are in pretty different places in life. I appreciate that… he is actually the youngest person I was fielding during my dating lol. I am drawn to older men who are successful and accomplished. The initial part of attracting that type of person was easy, and so was feeling like I brought something to their life. But… I am in nursing school and work full time & I feel boring right now. I have other passions that I want to dedicate time to (dance, arts/crafts, baking, gardening) but I have so little time to do them. I don’t want to overstate this, but I have been busy before and still made time, this is just something else lol. I am still maintaining my appearance 100% and feel able to drop the stress of the week and bring feminine qualities like playfulness, calmness, gratitude etc. when we spend time but… I am feeling insecure. Like, he has all of these passions and fun things going on (which he includes me in, and that I admire and express admiration for) and all I am doing is homework and work and going to the gym? I feel boring when I describe my week. I try to bring up the good things about school and work, but it kind of makes me feel small compared to him and the other people in his life. @@ -542,7 +542,7 @@ I was doing dance classes and more social stuff outside of seeing him last semes I know some of you have way more on your plate (and no advice is going to give me more hours in a week lol) so TLDR how do y’all navigate stressful times w/ grace and maintain your femininity? Not just in how you present yourself (in appearance and interactions, which I feel like I have pretty down) but in how you feel and live? What should I do about my insecurity that the heavy work/school focus of my life means I’m not as attractive? Is feminine appearance and energy enough, in your opinion? Any and all points anyone wants to address are very welcome and appreciated:) -Thanks❤️",,8,bbbunny123,1706660761.0 +Thanks❤️",,8,bbbunny123,2024-01-31 00:26:01 RedPillWomen,1aeue56,Bl*wjob vs Handj*b vs Regular S*x,"A lot of the theory posts and advice given on this subreddit seems to treat bl\*wjobs as the default s\*xual action wives should give to husbands. Why is this? What about handj\*bs or just s\*x? @@ -553,7 +553,7 @@ Are bl\*wjobs your preferred method or pleasing your husband over handj\*bs or s I am a virgin so I have no idea. -Thank you.",,12,TheRedPilledLurker,1706636777.0 +Thank you.",,12,TheRedPilledLurker,2024-01-30 17:46:17 RedPillWomen,1aenv2z,Extremely different sleeping habits,"I (22F) and my husband (23M) have very different habits . I: tend to tuck in later . Busy myself with whatever until 11 or 12. Put on music or rain sounds and drift to sleep with the fan on. My husband: sleep at 9-10 needs it pitch dark and completely silent and I cannot move in the bed whatsoever. @@ -562,11 +562,11 @@ This was whatever when we where dating for naps cause I was just so in love howe I like to play music or keep the tv going to tune out my thoughts cause I have bad anxiety and tend to over think. I also have a childish fear or the dark so it’s hard for me. I feel bad keeping him up but when I try to sleep I start over thinking and fear and scary thoughts of the dark keep me up. -What should I do🥹",,6,EquivalentHuman7658,1706619646.0 -RedPillWomen,1aexcol,does going for drinks as a first meet signify that he will want to split the bill/want something casual??,I will just say although I'm not a red pill woman i grew up traditionally and i appreciate and respect the standpoint when it comes to dating so ive come to ask this!! thank u,,1,itsalwaysdifferent,1706643854.0 -RedPillWomen,1aew0oq,Broke up with my BF (23m),"I'm 22 F, I was sleeping with a guy for last 1 year and I like him so much but I'm not sure about him because I'm a mess. The thing is I've a lot of attention and the guy I was sleeping with developed feelings for me and vice versa. Why am I afraid of getting with him? Also he's a bit traditional, won't allow me to wear revealing dresses. He wanted me to stop talking to the guys I have some romantic history with, although I'm not going to do anything with them he still wanted me to stop. He's handsome, tall, well spoken, treats everyone with respect and has tremendous self respect. It feels like he has got it all, a good physique, good job and sometimes I feel like he might end up more successful than I will ever be. But as of now I've ended things he hasn't even texted or called. Will he ever come back, will I ever find someone like him again 😔. Please help",,0,Unhappy_Panic2501,1706640658.0 -RedPillWomen,1aejx2u,Confused on what red pill lifestyle means ???,Can someone explain to me how to live as a red pill woman,,1,[deleted],1706604380.0 -RedPillWomen,1ae2l2v,How to avoid unserious relationships as a woman? Or men who just want s*x.,"I'm making this post because I know alot of women get into that situation and I guess I worry sometimes, if I ever was with someone and turns out they weren't as serious as I thought etc. Of course I have standards more now and I would only be with someone who seems serious... But some men even pretend. I would just like to hear any advice and stories lol. Plus I think it'd be helpful for other women :)",,14,beautyrosexo,1706553489.0 +What should I do🥹",,6,EquivalentHuman7658,2024-01-30 13:00:46 +RedPillWomen,1aexcol,does going for drinks as a first meet signify that he will want to split the bill/want something casual??,I will just say although I'm not a red pill woman i grew up traditionally and i appreciate and respect the standpoint when it comes to dating so ive come to ask this!! thank u,,1,itsalwaysdifferent,2024-01-30 19:44:14 +RedPillWomen,1aew0oq,Broke up with my BF (23m),"I'm 22 F, I was sleeping with a guy for last 1 year and I like him so much but I'm not sure about him because I'm a mess. The thing is I've a lot of attention and the guy I was sleeping with developed feelings for me and vice versa. Why am I afraid of getting with him? Also he's a bit traditional, won't allow me to wear revealing dresses. He wanted me to stop talking to the guys I have some romantic history with, although I'm not going to do anything with them he still wanted me to stop. He's handsome, tall, well spoken, treats everyone with respect and has tremendous self respect. It feels like he has got it all, a good physique, good job and sometimes I feel like he might end up more successful than I will ever be. But as of now I've ended things he hasn't even texted or called. Will he ever come back, will I ever find someone like him again 😔. Please help",,0,Unhappy_Panic2501,2024-01-30 18:50:58 +RedPillWomen,1aejx2u,Confused on what red pill lifestyle means ???,Can someone explain to me how to live as a red pill woman,,1,[deleted],2024-01-30 08:46:20 +RedPillWomen,1ae2l2v,How to avoid unserious relationships as a woman? Or men who just want s*x.,"I'm making this post because I know alot of women get into that situation and I guess I worry sometimes, if I ever was with someone and turns out they weren't as serious as I thought etc. Of course I have standards more now and I would only be with someone who seems serious... But some men even pretend. I would just like to hear any advice and stories lol. Plus I think it'd be helpful for other women :)",,14,beautyrosexo,2024-01-29 18:38:09 RedPillWomen,1adu6bc,Boyfriend defended domestic abuse (but has not been violent). Where to go from here?,"For background: I (23F) and this guy (31M) have been dating for almost 3 months - and, so far, we've had two big discussions; one where he was scared of starting a relationship and becoming vulnerable, shortly after our first date, and this one. We have been intimate. Things are great most of the time, as it should be. He's more conservative than I am, but we both agreed on a relationship that is male-led. I'm the soft landing spot, and he's the leader. Etc. We both want marriage and kids. Somehow, one of our conversations ended up being about a video I came across of a dating podcast, in which three men said women should endure domestic abuse. I thought it's absurd, and plain wrong, and assumed it'd be his reaction too but - he said domestic abuse could be an ""appropriate measure"" for ""some people"". And things went downhill from there. He's said he bets some women would provoke men to abuse them for alimony, that most of the abusive relationships he's seen had the female as the perpetrator of violence, that I just don't know if the physical abuse was caused by ""something they did"", etc. @@ -578,7 +578,7 @@ My position right now is that, if someone can justify domestic abuse for a speci I'm just scared that I may be overreacting and that, to other people, this may not be as big of an issue as it is for me. He's said that it'd be less of a problem for me if I was older, less idealistic and less of a liberal. And I do have some liberal ideas - at the same time, not at all. But I figured it was worth asking like-minded women (and RP contributors!) whether I'm being a sensitive snowflake and ruining something super early on, or if he's actually out of line. -Edit: I'll respond to all the comments soon, and thank you all for taking the time to reply to my most! I had a bit of FOMO and was caught in that sunk cost fallacy, which made me doubt my intuition. I've decided to break things off and stay away from this person and, as soon as I feel ready, I'll go back into the dating scene... hopefully now more capable of vetting possible partners. Thank you all again. :)",,19,templilwitch,1706531317.0 +Edit: I'll respond to all the comments soon, and thank you all for taking the time to reply to my most! I had a bit of FOMO and was caught in that sunk cost fallacy, which made me doubt my intuition. I've decided to break things off and stay away from this person and, as soon as I feel ready, I'll go back into the dating scene... hopefully now more capable of vetting possible partners. Thank you all again. :)",,19,templilwitch,2024-01-29 12:28:37 RedPillWomen,1ae0808,Accused of being the cause of his sister dying?,"Just looking for some advice here tbh. I'm completely and utterly broken. Husband's sister has end stage kidney disease, 2 failed transplants and only just begun dialysis several times a week. @@ -597,7 +597,7 @@ How do I deal with this? He's a gentle giant usually, can be quote impulsive and I understand and respect what he wants to do, I just don't think we are in a situation where it can be done with out extreme stress to us as individuals, our marriage and our household. -If it matters, other siblings have refused. She is a rare case, expectancy of new transplant is a mere 3 years or so if she's lucky.",,7,Ok_Student452,1706547854.0 +If it matters, other siblings have refused. She is a rare case, expectancy of new transplant is a mere 3 years or so if she's lucky.",,7,Ok_Student452,2024-01-29 17:04:14 RedPillWomen,1aduz30,Snoring boyfriend :(,"I’m in a new relationship and I stayed over at my boyfriends place for the weekend for the second time. He is a very loving and attentive man but he snores like a walrus! It was an issue the first time I stayed over as well but I tried to ignore it throughout the night. @@ -608,10 +608,10 @@ My boyfriend had been apologetic about this but isn’t sure how to change this, Does anyone else have a partner that snores extremely loudly at night? How do you get over that noise or has he been able to improve the snoring? -I am dreading the thought of spending another weekend with him and getting zero sleep :(",,13,-ladykitsune-,1706533877.0 +I am dreading the thought of spending another weekend with him and getting zero sleep :(",,13,-ladykitsune-,2024-01-29 13:11:17 RedPillWomen,1aecqcz,Does anyone that’s unmarried ever have an issue marrying a divorced person?,"Someone I kind of like but he’s got a child he visits often and I don’t know how I feel about being labelled as the “second wife”. Plus with a kid already -Not sure how this will work if i have my own kids with him",,2,KingNeuron,1706579572.0 +Not sure how this will work if i have my own kids with him",,2,KingNeuron,2024-01-30 01:52:52 RedPillWomen,1ad8jzc,Where are y’all finding men who want commitment?,"Hi All. I am a longtime lurker here. Recently, I ended things with my boyfriend of about 1.5 years. Things were quite literally perfect with him, we had so much in common, loads of fun together, and I loved him very deeply. Unfortunately, I am in my early 30s and know for a fact that I want marriage and kids in my future. We had had a few discussions previously about this, and it seemed the general consensus was to take things slowly. I figured I had told him what I wanted and planted the seed so to speak, and we could take our time and let the relationship flourish. I genuinely thought that maybe I was rushing/pushing him by talking my about this and needed to let it be his decision. @@ -628,7 +628,7 @@ How do you find the men who actually want to commit and have kids in their futur I am tired and feeling defeated. -Tl;dr - Are there men who still want marriage? Where do you find them?",,58,idontlikecockroaches,1706464642.0 +Tl;dr - Are there men who still want marriage? Where do you find them?",,58,idontlikecockroaches,2024-01-28 17:57:22 RedPillWomen,1adj17v,"Unplanned pregnancy— I want to keep it, he doesn’t","I accidentally got pregnant and want to keep the baby. He doesn’t. Is there a way forward for us or should I start planning to be a single mother? Before this, I thought this was the man of my dreams. Caring, protective, very motivated to provide for me, driving the relationship forward without my asking, etc. @@ -639,7 +639,7 @@ I originally felt he would come around and be the caring and protective person I He said he is open to having kids the proper way but that he doesn’t know me well enough. We have been dating six months. We are late 30s. I felt so lucky to have met him. Now I question if he is even a good person. -I read stories about how men who were adamantly against the pregnancy change their minds and become loving and devoted fathers. For my future child (if I should be so fortunate), I think having the father involved is ideal.",,3,vw51638,1706491738.0 +I read stories about how men who were adamantly against the pregnancy change their minds and become loving and devoted fathers. For my future child (if I should be so fortunate), I think having the father involved is ideal.",,3,vw51638,2024-01-29 01:28:58 RedPillWomen,1ad7z06,Worrying about the future with my partner,"I’m just really struggling here. I am naturally an anxious person, so I also struggle to see if I’m being irrational or not with some of my worried. I’ve(24) been dating my bf(29) for almost a year. He’s super serious about me, he talked to my parents about marrying me and plans to propose in a month or two. We align on values and what we want out of life for the most part. He’s a good guy, he is very in tune with me emotionally, very supportive and makes me feel safe, he’s great with kids, and my parents like him. He’s also very intelligent and hard working BUT- this is where I’m struggling. @@ -648,27 +648,27 @@ He has had this wonky path. Like he comes from a well off family, went to privat I just worry. Sometimes I feel a little mad that he made what I consider, pretty stupid and impractical decisions before he met me. I was raised by parents pushing me to be practical and financially responsible so I chose a stable decent paying career path. My younger brothers have done the same and seem to have more maturity or at least practicality than this guy did at 25. I wouldn’t be so worried if he was 24, because I get it takes time to figure it all out but at 29, I’m feeling like he’s a little behind. He wants kids sooner if possible so there is that too. If kids were never going to be involved, I’m not sure I’d worry so much as I’d plan to continue working. -Am I worrying too much? People like even my parents, tell me it will be ok because he’s smart and very hard working, but I don’t know if they realize that the economy is different nowadays. A random degree alone is not going to get your foot in the door in most places. Nor is his infantry experience. I’m worried about having to be the breadwinner long term as I know it would lead to resentment on my part. However, he’s a good guy and he’s willing to give and sacrifice a lot for me and wants to be a provider. I think one thing that really attracted me to him was his intelligence and knowledge, we can have intense convos about life and philosophy and I’m always learning interesting things from him. He’s super sweet to me and can practically read me, which I’ve never experienced before. Plus we share a religious background and family values which seems harder to find based on other guys I’ve dated.",,8,One-Introduction-566,1706463181.0 +Am I worrying too much? People like even my parents, tell me it will be ok because he’s smart and very hard working, but I don’t know if they realize that the economy is different nowadays. A random degree alone is not going to get your foot in the door in most places. Nor is his infantry experience. I’m worried about having to be the breadwinner long term as I know it would lead to resentment on my part. However, he’s a good guy and he’s willing to give and sacrifice a lot for me and wants to be a provider. I think one thing that really attracted me to him was his intelligence and knowledge, we can have intense convos about life and philosophy and I’m always learning interesting things from him. He’s super sweet to me and can practically read me, which I’ve never experienced before. Plus we share a religious background and family values which seems harder to find based on other guys I’ve dated.",,8,One-Introduction-566,2024-01-28 17:33:01 RedPillWomen,1aczcsj,Female friendships,"Context married 24f a full time teacher. Finding it difficult to make true, deep relationships with other women -Am I right to feel upset. Sorry just venting. Anyone else here always feel like they’re a better friend than the friends they have. I’m always the one to call / message, organise meet ups, get gifts etc despite working 10 hour days, 5 days a week and being married as well. I feel like I’m always put on the back burner because my friends have friends they deem higher. It’s always been like this since I can remember. If I don’t message or call I don’t hear anything for days / weeks. I am very content in being on my own and not having friends but it can get lonely sometimes. This feeling went away for a while but it has resurfaced recently. I’m the type of friend to give an arm and a leg if needed but I never feel it is reciprocated or appreciated 😞. I don’t know want I want from this post. Maybe just want to vent or seek advice. So many women around me just don’t value true genuine friendships. I got married at 21 and despite having more reasons to be busy it’s like I’m the only who puts in effort.",,16,akitty247,1706435962.0 -RedPillWomen,1ad0yb2,How can I be more feminine for my boyfriend?,"Here’s some background I’m a 20 year old girl and I have a boyfriend who is also 20 that I’ve been with for 2 years. Truthfully, I grew up with a mom who told me I didn’t need a man and a dad who kind of taught me the same thing. Of course, my father told me to respect men which I do but being taught to be like overly independent has kind of messed with me a bit as I’ve gotten older. Recently my boyfriend has been saying that I can be a little bit more masculine than he’d like me to be. He also pointed out some traits in women that he admires and they all seemed more feminine and submissive than the ones I currently possess. I do believe that I want to be a stay at home mom and we just moved in together so we kind of already adhere to traditional gender roles. However, I can be quite argumentative and I like to take charge more than I’d like to admit. What are some ways that I can be more feminine/submissive in my relationship?",,10,Sug4rCh3rry,1706442413.0 +Am I right to feel upset. Sorry just venting. Anyone else here always feel like they’re a better friend than the friends they have. I’m always the one to call / message, organise meet ups, get gifts etc despite working 10 hour days, 5 days a week and being married as well. I feel like I’m always put on the back burner because my friends have friends they deem higher. It’s always been like this since I can remember. If I don’t message or call I don’t hear anything for days / weeks. I am very content in being on my own and not having friends but it can get lonely sometimes. This feeling went away for a while but it has resurfaced recently. I’m the type of friend to give an arm and a leg if needed but I never feel it is reciprocated or appreciated 😞. I don’t know want I want from this post. Maybe just want to vent or seek advice. So many women around me just don’t value true genuine friendships. I got married at 21 and despite having more reasons to be busy it’s like I’m the only who puts in effort.",,16,akitty247,2024-01-28 09:59:22 +RedPillWomen,1ad0yb2,How can I be more feminine for my boyfriend?,"Here’s some background I’m a 20 year old girl and I have a boyfriend who is also 20 that I’ve been with for 2 years. Truthfully, I grew up with a mom who told me I didn’t need a man and a dad who kind of taught me the same thing. Of course, my father told me to respect men which I do but being taught to be like overly independent has kind of messed with me a bit as I’ve gotten older. Recently my boyfriend has been saying that I can be a little bit more masculine than he’d like me to be. He also pointed out some traits in women that he admires and they all seemed more feminine and submissive than the ones I currently possess. I do believe that I want to be a stay at home mom and we just moved in together so we kind of already adhere to traditional gender roles. However, I can be quite argumentative and I like to take charge more than I’d like to admit. What are some ways that I can be more feminine/submissive in my relationship?",,10,Sug4rCh3rry,2024-01-28 11:46:53 RedPillWomen,1ac7vll,Amazing RPW style blog,"https://wwnh.wordpress.com I used to read this blog a while back. Very excellent advice exploring female/masculine dynamics. He even responded to emails until he passed unfortunately. -I hope it can add some value here!",,17,Independent-Hall4929,1706350879.0 +I hope it can add some value here!",,17,Independent-Hall4929,2024-01-27 10:21:19 RedPillWomen,1acrjfo,I'm (30F) ia relationship with a single dad (39M) with a child (4M) and baby mama (40F),"I've (30F) been in a relationship with my boyfriend (39M) for over a year and have been living with him for 5 months. We have his 4yo child for nearly half the week. His ex (40F) and him have been together for almost 20 years. Dating my boyfriend is great and he is the best I've had. It's great when it is just the two of us. His son is sweet to me, most of the times. I cannot cope with being in a relationship like this though. The son and the ex is prioritized. His family friends are on her side. Being around his son all the time is exhausting. I've escaped home to my parents for the weekend. He and his ex has been separated for over 2 years. Their divorce agreement is taking a long time to be finalized because she is asking for on-going spousal support (separate from his large amount of child support). IMO, she shouldn't get spousal support because their marriage didn't hinder her educational and career achievement. She has a career going for herself. He wants to pay her a lump sum of money so they don't have to go to court. He may end up agreeing to pay spousal support, even continuous. I don't feel comfortable marrying a man who will be financially supporting his ex. I want to be married and have a child or two of our own. He also wants me to sign a pre-nup if we do get married (he said it's to protect his son). He never signed a pre-nup with his ex. I live with him and his son (4M) (he's there almost half the week) in a 1bedroom apartment. I don't have to split rent with my bf, but I do bring in a car which they use regularly. The apartment is constantly messy and dirty and I've scaled back on doing chores because I work full-time too and can't keep up. My bf pays for most of our dates and groceries but I also pay for a lot of my own and sometimes groceries for him too. We fought about cleaning the apartment and he suggested that I pay for a cleaner since I don't pay rent. I spend a lot of my time and energy being company to him and his child. I'm exhausted from hearing his child talk about his mom, of listening to loud kids music in my car with them, of going to their kids play dates, to seeing his family friends who prefer his ex over me and I never get acknowledged for the time and energy I spend on his child. My bf is a professional who makes a 100k/yr. I make substantially less even though I have a master's degree and work a full-time job. Even in this situation, given everything, I'm not sure if he is in a good financial situation to have a marriage and more children with me. He is also constantly tired from dealing with his work, child, and ex. Qualify time between us has declined a lot and he has gained a lot of weight. I don't like that he isn't taking care of his health and is constantly complaining about not having enough time to sleep and for himself. -I am trying to make this relationship work because I love him. But I'm not sure if it is a healthy relationship for me.",,0,Commercial-Nerve-550,1706407749.0 -RedPillWomen,1abw4ar,How Do Transition Myself From Girlhood To Womanhood?,"For some background I’m a 19 year old girl currently attending university. I’m going to be honest as of right now I’m a bit of a loser. I don’t have friends and I’ve never ever been romantically involved with a man. I don’t really get male attention (I’m very plain looking) but that might have something to do with the fact that I’m mostly a shut in, only leaving my house to go to school. I feel like mentally I haven’t aged a day past middle school. My mother still buys me clothes for goodness sake. How do I transition out of this perpetual girlhood I’m stuck in? I want to have new experiences and I want to meet a good man who’ll make me his wife. I’m currently focusing on starting to go to the gym and getting a job but other than that any advice?",,29,Lily_Swan1800,1706311277.0 +I am trying to make this relationship work because I love him. But I'm not sure if it is a healthy relationship for me.",,0,Commercial-Nerve-550,2024-01-28 02:09:09 +RedPillWomen,1abw4ar,How Do Transition Myself From Girlhood To Womanhood?,"For some background I’m a 19 year old girl currently attending university. I’m going to be honest as of right now I’m a bit of a loser. I don’t have friends and I’ve never ever been romantically involved with a man. I don’t really get male attention (I’m very plain looking) but that might have something to do with the fact that I’m mostly a shut in, only leaving my house to go to school. I feel like mentally I haven’t aged a day past middle school. My mother still buys me clothes for goodness sake. How do I transition out of this perpetual girlhood I’m stuck in? I want to have new experiences and I want to meet a good man who’ll make me his wife. I’m currently focusing on starting to go to the gym and getting a job but other than that any advice?",,29,Lily_Swan1800,2024-01-26 23:21:17 RedPillWomen,1abt3dn,Valentine’s Day Expectations,"Do you have them? Do you do anything special for your partner or vice versa? Any funny stories or mishaps to learn from? -It’s Friday so I’d like to pose a light-hearted question/discussion.",,12,throwawayfun_222,1706303554.0 +It’s Friday so I’d like to pose a light-hearted question/discussion.",,12,throwawayfun_222,2024-01-26 21:12:34 RedPillWomen,1ac1nxl,New SAHM to 2y.o step daughter,"I am in need of reorientation. For context: My fiancé and I have been together 1.5 years. He has a 2 year old daughter from a previous relationship (there was domestic violence issues and he had to leave shortly after receiving news of the pregnancy. Ive seen the police reports to corroborate this.) His daughter was taken from the ex by child services and has been very suddenly (literally 8 days ago) placed in our care. My fiancé and I were just settling in to me being a SAHW (something he requested and can afford, something I am more than happy with), and this has suddenly become SAHM of a baby that I don't know very well. I am already so in love with her, though. She's an angel on Earth. @@ -679,7 +679,7 @@ My fiancé and I typically have sex at least once per day, and he (of his own ac I asked him what he would suggest and he said ""Well, it would be ridiculous to ask you to have sex 3x/day, but thats just how horny I feel. I dont know what else to say about it."" -I'm just at a loss. I feel like we already have good sex very, very often. I dont know how we could manage the same pace or *more* with a 2 year old here that neither of us really knows. I don't even know what advice I need or what to expect from posting. Maybe I just needed a vent. My life has changed so much in 1 week.",,2,babyegirll,1706327447.0 +I'm just at a loss. I feel like we already have good sex very, very often. I dont know how we could manage the same pace or *more* with a 2 year old here that neither of us really knows. I don't even know what advice I need or what to expect from posting. Maybe I just needed a vent. My life has changed so much in 1 week.",,2,babyegirll,2024-01-27 03:50:47 RedPillWomen,1ac0k6m,How/why to become attracted to masculine men?,"I’ve always been attracted to a little bit of femininity in men. I’ve dated ballet dancers, nonbinary people, and trans women to give you an idea. But a few years I stumbled across that one RPW post that talked about how men are better at leading and making decisions, and how they’d throw themselves in front of bullets, et. @@ -690,13 +690,13 @@ However, I’m pretty internally masculine. I’ve started wearing makeup and dr I also really LIKE when a man is feminine, like a little bit emotional, etc. Not too much of course, and more and more I’m finding myself attracted to shirtless men’s magazines (whereas when I was younger I saw them as Communist propaganda lol) -I used to be transgender too, so it’s hard to imagine myself being authentically feminine. Anyway I’d love tips.",,0,Hopeful_Eggplant_658,1706323993.0 +I used to be transgender too, so it’s hard to imagine myself being authentically feminine. Anyway I’d love tips.",,0,Hopeful_Eggplant_658,2024-01-27 02:53:13 RedPillWomen,19fk420,What do you do when you realize you've been complaining a lot?,"I've come to the realization that I've been complaining about a lot of things in my life to my boyfriend. It's probably been a few months if not more of this and he recently let it slip that I should do X to stop complaining so much about Y. At first I was frustrated because doing X is a bit out of reach/doesn't really solve the issue in my opinion, but then I remembered that men don't respond to complaining which sparked the realization that there's quite a few things I've complained about to him lately, and quite a few more complaints that I haven't brought up yet, and these have probably dragged him down and contributed to some relationship tension we've had lately. The complaints I've been open with him about are unrelated to our relationship but are complaints all the same. I do have some internal complaints regarding him and our relationship and I know that obviously nagging or harping on him about these would make him feel bad, but I also don't want to let resentment build. -Anyway this is a bit disorganized of a post but any thoughts? Should we just never complain about anything to our partners? What do I do with my propensity to complain and all this excess worry? How do you know if something is a legitimate complaint or you just need to chill out?",,20,Difficult-Health-498,1706217365.0 -RedPillWomen,19feflf,How to be comfortable accepting money from boyfriend/future husband,I was raised by my Dad to very very independent and take care of myself. My Dad always told make sure you can take care of yourself and don’t be dependent on a man because they can change on you last minute. My boyfriend and I are long distance and I have never asked him for gas money when I drive 2 hours to see him. Today he sent me money to fill my tank but I feel really really uncomfortable accepting it. Any advice? I don’t want to bruise his ego because he really wants to take care of me but I feel uncomfortable accepting it,,21,BroccoliHead2009,1706203100.0 +Anyway this is a bit disorganized of a post but any thoughts? Should we just never complain about anything to our partners? What do I do with my propensity to complain and all this excess worry? How do you know if something is a legitimate complaint or you just need to chill out?",,20,Difficult-Health-498,2024-01-25 21:16:05 +RedPillWomen,19feflf,How to be comfortable accepting money from boyfriend/future husband,I was raised by my Dad to very very independent and take care of myself. My Dad always told make sure you can take care of yourself and don’t be dependent on a man because they can change on you last minute. My boyfriend and I are long distance and I have never asked him for gas money when I drive 2 hours to see him. Today he sent me money to fill my tank but I feel really really uncomfortable accepting it. Any advice? I don’t want to bruise his ego because he really wants to take care of me but I feel uncomfortable accepting it,,21,BroccoliHead2009,2024-01-25 17:18:20 RedPillWomen,19fd9ki,Advice for a single 26F needing to build up her feminine energy?,"Hello everyone! For context - I'm a conservative single Latina (26F) - I went to college, and now work a weekly 9-5 office job while living at home with my parents. My parents are near retirement age, and my priority right now is making sure I help them not only with living/medical expenses, but in any way that they may need. Thankfully, I have a job that allows me to help care for them and myself. I however, now have concerns regarding my dating life. I am realizing that my current lifestyle has me feeling more **masculine**, in a way. Without complaining (because that's not my intention at all), I realize that I'm usually just used to doing things on my own, helping myself when I've needed help, and basically just not expecting anyone to help me in my sad or difficult times - for anything. From the small things, to the bigger things. I am not very close to my extended family, but I know that I can count on my parents and on my surviving grandmothers for emotional support/care towards me (and I'm so very grateful for them in my life!), but I would not ask them for any help with things that required difficulties like physical labor or money. So, I am used to being my own help. Additionally, I have trust issues and ""walls"" I've built up since my prior two relationships. @@ -711,7 +711,7 @@ I go to many social events and on the occasional date - as I eventually would li &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,9,pertiii,1706200145.0 +&#x200B;",,9,pertiii,2024-01-25 16:29:05 RedPillWomen,19ewfax,We Really Should STFU,"I just witnessed in action why men get so frustrated when making something happen while women watch. My boyfriend is moving a very heavy machine that was a complicated endeavor. He's the only man available to do so with 3 women to help including me. @@ -730,11 +730,11 @@ STFU and be a support ladies. Not a headache. Update: He got me alone while ""putting away tools"" and gave me a kiss to end all kisses with roaming hands and a heartfelt thank you! -Edit: I don't want to be misunderstood. This isn't a ""haha I'm better"" story. This is a juxtaposition. I would never disrespect his mother. I adore her and we bake together. I did debate whether to post this because of the people involved but I decided the lesson was blatant and worth sharing. However I accept this can be seen as inappropriate so I don't judge you if you think so and express that. Thank you.",,113,AmilliBee,1706143446.0 +Edit: I don't want to be misunderstood. This isn't a ""haha I'm better"" story. This is a juxtaposition. I would never disrespect his mother. I adore her and we bake together. I did debate whether to post this because of the people involved but I decided the lesson was blatant and worth sharing. However I accept this can be seen as inappropriate so I don't judge you if you think so and express that. Thank you.",,113,AmilliBee,2024-01-25 00:44:06 RedPillWomen,19ezosk,How to let a man lead in a relationship?,"Hi everyone, I just want to know if anyone can help me with the ways to encourage/ let a man lead in a relationship. -For context, I grew up in a family where my mom had the tendency to overpower my dad in the household, she decides and does everything and my dad just follows. I know, for some reasons it worked out for them. That being said, I found it to be unnatural and I knew my dad did not like it most of the time but he just tolerated it. I realize the relationship dynamic between my parents really affects how I am as a person when it comes to dating. I tend to be over-independent and dominate the man I have been with even though I did not purposely want to. This ended up being detrimental to our relationship. At the end of the day as a woman I want to be cared for and taken care of. I want to learn how to be softer and submissive in a relationship and this is hard for me because growing up I never get to see this from my mom so like I don't know how to act that way.",,12,noname306,1706153035.0 -RedPillWomen,19f1rfg,Unable to strike a connection with the right men,"So I’m generally quite chatty with men and women alike and have no trouble striking up a conversation. Unfortunately it’s the opposite when I’m attracted to someone. I get nervous and end up avoiding them which would probably give them an impression that I’m not interested. Since I have no trouble talking to men otherwise, I noticed that some of these men end up mistaking my casual/friendly conversations for something more (I’m very mindful of not being flirty though). This leads to them either making a move or being clingy. I want to know how I can go about managing my communication with men I see as friends and learn to communicate better with men I’m actually interested in. Please help!",,5,Global_Moose_1991,1706159812.0 +For context, I grew up in a family where my mom had the tendency to overpower my dad in the household, she decides and does everything and my dad just follows. I know, for some reasons it worked out for them. That being said, I found it to be unnatural and I knew my dad did not like it most of the time but he just tolerated it. I realize the relationship dynamic between my parents really affects how I am as a person when it comes to dating. I tend to be over-independent and dominate the man I have been with even though I did not purposely want to. This ended up being detrimental to our relationship. At the end of the day as a woman I want to be cared for and taken care of. I want to learn how to be softer and submissive in a relationship and this is hard for me because growing up I never get to see this from my mom so like I don't know how to act that way.",,12,noname306,2024-01-25 03:23:55 +RedPillWomen,19f1rfg,Unable to strike a connection with the right men,"So I’m generally quite chatty with men and women alike and have no trouble striking up a conversation. Unfortunately it’s the opposite when I’m attracted to someone. I get nervous and end up avoiding them which would probably give them an impression that I’m not interested. Since I have no trouble talking to men otherwise, I noticed that some of these men end up mistaking my casual/friendly conversations for something more (I’m very mindful of not being flirty though). This leads to them either making a move or being clingy. I want to know how I can go about managing my communication with men I see as friends and learn to communicate better with men I’m actually interested in. Please help!",,5,Global_Moose_1991,2024-01-25 05:16:52 RedPillWomen,19f88uy,Advice for a people pleasing SO,"My (26f) partner (30f) is an angel and does everything he can to help others, including me. The problem is, sometimes he can spread himself too thin at this own expense - agreeing to too many plans, travelling many hours a day to see friends/work/spend time with me/drop by his parents' house etc. It's to the point where it's hard to know when he wants to do something/spend time with me and when he doesn't. @@ -742,13 +742,13 @@ I've tried to ask, but he insists that he doesn't mind/wants to because he loves It might all be true, but the people pleasing is to the point where I genuinely don't know and I'm starting to read into things more than might be necessary. -Is it one of those things you just got to stay quiet on and let him figure out? Or is it worth trying to bring up and have a conversation about (again)? We've touched on it briefly a few times. ",,1,doyoou,1706185819.0 -RedPillWomen,19em21a,i'm never the first pick,i just realized that the guys i wanted and loved eventually had to choose me because they couldn't get their dreamgirl/higher value woman. i'm so hurt rn. i wish i could be the first for once. what do i even do? get plastic surgery and go to the gym? i'm tired if not being good enough.,,25,dieamer,1706116177.0 +Is it one of those things you just got to stay quiet on and let him figure out? Or is it worth trying to bring up and have a conversation about (again)? We've touched on it briefly a few times. ",,1,doyoou,2024-01-25 12:30:19 +RedPillWomen,19em21a,i'm never the first pick,i just realized that the guys i wanted and loved eventually had to choose me because they couldn't get their dreamgirl/higher value woman. i'm so hurt rn. i wish i could be the first for once. what do i even do? get plastic surgery and go to the gym? i'm tired if not being good enough.,,25,dieamer,2024-01-24 17:09:37 RedPillWomen,19ex8yz,The talking stage - move on or keep trying?,"Hey ladies! Im about to turn 23 and am finally and for the first time actively looking for a partner. For context I'm Muslim, meaning we keep things pretty innocent until marriage and I joined a Muslim dating app. I matched with a guy from a very similar background as me which is so hard to find and I had a preference for. The conversation was fun/cute to start and we moved it over to text after a couple of days. He had made a mention of meeting up for a sports game pretty early on but the dates weren't working, and had paid me compliments calling me cute/funny, and the conversation was pretty playful. It's barely been a week and I feel like things conversation-wise have slowed down a lot. He mentioned having a busy job with long days to be fair, and he is responding like 3-4x a day, sometimes after 8h, sometimes after 5min, and the responses have become pretty short like a couple word answers and not really enough to carry the conversation without help from me. As a relationship novice, should I call it a loss and assume he's lost interest? I don't want to be pestering him - it's so rare to find people of a similar background and a lot of what he's shared has been what I've been looking for so it'd be a shame but I also want to be aware of when I'm not wanted lol. -Any advice appreciated! I'm so bad at the online dating/texting thing:')",,4,KeyChemist3607,1706145753.0 +Any advice appreciated! I'm so bad at the online dating/texting thing:')",,4,KeyChemist3607,2024-01-25 01:22:33 RedPillWomen,19eflxn,Feeling insecure about partners female friends who I’ve never met,"My partner and I are serious about eachother. We have spoke about marriage , and he wants to go engagement ring shopping with me to find the style I like. I love him and want to marry. There’s only one problem that’s making me feel so down. He has 2 female friends who he wants to invite to our wedding. @@ -765,10 +765,10 @@ But I’m really hurt deep down. I have one male friend who I meet every few wee My main issue is that I know very little about these female friends. When I ask him he doesn’t want to share more and treats me like I’m being ridiculous and as if this is a non issue, however it’s silently killing me inside. -I just don’t know what to do. I don’t think he’s acting inappropriate but I have no idea about the dynamic of these women, their personality or anything. I’ve never heard them speak to him. Am I just being ridiculous? Or should I try to speak to him again?",,7,Red_rose49,1706098016.0 +I just don’t know what to do. I don’t think he’s acting inappropriate but I have no idea about the dynamic of these women, their personality or anything. I’ve never heard them speak to him. Am I just being ridiculous? Or should I try to speak to him again?",,7,Red_rose49,2024-01-24 12:06:56 RedPillWomen,19e6mr4,How important is it for the man you want to marry to have a stable job?,"Are you comfortable marrying a man who chose a career in the arts or another area that is not very stable (e.g. hard to find work due to competition, low-median income)? Would this be a deal breaker for you if you plan to have a family? Are you okay with being the breadwinner? -With financial stress being one of the main causes of divorce, would this be a very important factor in who you marry? ",,24,Searchtheanswer,1706064440.0 +With financial stress being one of the main causes of divorce, would this be a very important factor in who you marry? ",,24,Searchtheanswer,2024-01-24 02:47:20 RedPillWomen,19dvn9w,How to support my bf looking into career advancement options?,"TLTR: My partner (27M, student) feels stuck in life and is not looking into career advancement options such as internships/jobs/practical studies. This frustrates me as I (23F) am more ambitious than him and know that his success is needed to have the life we both want (marriage and children). He will start therapy this week but I am wondering if there is anything else I can do. This is a throwaway as my partner follows my main profile and out of respect, I do not want him to see I am looking for advice on reddit – he knows though that I feel a bit frustrated with our situation. English is not my first language so please bear with that. @@ -785,7 +785,7 @@ I always thought that his problem was being lazy but recently I realized that th What else can I do? -I clearly do not want to give up this relationship as everything else is perfect. I am simply scared of our future and with all due respect to women who work more than their partners, I would not like to be in that position so I will be able to dedicate my time to children, house and hobbies, too. My mother sees through him and while she likes him overall, she criticizes him (privately to me) for this, and that does not help either.",,8,Able_Temporary_9236,1706035658.0 +I clearly do not want to give up this relationship as everything else is perfect. I am simply scared of our future and with all due respect to women who work more than their partners, I would not like to be in that position so I will be able to dedicate my time to children, house and hobbies, too. My mother sees through him and while she likes him overall, she criticizes him (privately to me) for this, and that does not help either.",,8,Able_Temporary_9236,2024-01-23 18:47:38 RedPillWomen,19dyqwc,Aging Gracefully or Do I Need Skincare,"Hello RPW! I am a philosophically aligned woman, partnered to my very own High Value Man™ seeking perspectives on how to prioritize aesthetic improvement in the context of a long term relationship. My partner's business success means that I have transitioned back into being a dedicated SAHM for our 2 under 2 boys and settling back into the domestic support role. In an effort to make my time as a support partner more fulfilling, I have been reading more RPW booke and trying to lean more into my femininity. Our relationship is always been the most exciting and enjoyable for both of us when we allow ourselves to become polarized in that masculine feminine energy. @@ -794,7 +794,7 @@ So obviously part of that has been paying more attention to how I look and how I I learned many years ago that my skin tends to be healthiest when I mess with it as little as possible. So I just use a face wash when I shower and that's pretty much it. I know I should wear sunscreen, but aside from that do I really need to spend time figuring out how to prevent my skin from aging? Or is it better to spend my time on markers of beauty that don't have to do with age? -How does wife goggles factor into the efforts we put into keeping ourselves beautiful as we age?",,5,Purple-Poppins,1706043358.0 +How does wife goggles factor into the efforts we put into keeping ourselves beautiful as we age?",,5,Purple-Poppins,2024-01-23 20:55:58 RedPillWomen,19dh5vu,How to be a Happy Human Being 101,"1. **Happiness is a combination of three things: enjoyment, satisfaction, and purpose.** Enjoyment is intentional pleasure. Satisfaction is the joy received from a job well done. Purpose is finding signficance if your life. If you have these three things in balance and abundance, you will have happiness. 2. **To figure out the purpose of your life, ask yourself the following questions: ""why am I alive, and for what would I be willing to die?""** If you are missing an answer to either or both questions, you will likely find yourself with an existential crisis. You need go on a search in your life to answer these questions, and the answers will vary from person to person. 3. **The way feel gratitude is to decide to be grateful.** You can achieve this through the process of metacognition: being aware of your emotions and what you're thinking. Instead of letting your emotions dictate how you are going to act, you allow yourself to bring your feelings into the prefrontal cortex of your brain and process them. In your prefrontal cortex, you can take your emotions into account but can consider other factors before making a decision on what to do next. Here's a gratitude/metacognition exercise: make a list of the five things you're most grateful for on a Sunday night. Every night for the rest of the week, spend five minutes looking at your list. Every Sunday, edit and remake your list. In 10 weeks, you will be between 15-25% happier because you made a conscious choice to be grateful. You will have managed your emotions instead of them managing you. @@ -806,7 +806,7 @@ I found [this video on happiness](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTmixSgeOI0) f We often talk here about being the ""goddess of light and fun"", needing to be in a good mental state before getting into LTRs, and taking responsibility for your own life and happiness. Sometimes it can feel so difficult to know where to start. I hope this guide proves useful. -&#x200B;",,21,ArkNemesis00,1705988126.0 +&#x200B;",,21,ArkNemesis00,2024-01-23 05:35:26 RedPillWomen,19d635t,Goals -- A RPW 2024 beginners guide on how to attain them,"If you’re reading this as a follow up to “**A Definitive Guide to Nun Mode:** [**Part 1**](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/18jd3tw/a_definitive_guide_to_nun_mode_part_i_an/) and [**Part 2**](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/18k43ia/a_definitive_guide_to_nun_mode_part_ii_the_3is/)” or came across this post by recommendation, you can use them together as companion guides for understanding your personal values, setting higher standards, and practicing boundaries both with yourself and others in your life in order to keep a high standard of loving discipline in respect to your life values and goals. --- @@ -855,14 +855,14 @@ From there, you can simply get started with **completing** and **achieving your This beginners guide gives you a process and system where you can set specific goals that are attainable and relevant. Making them measurable and trackable with real time feedback using an AI assistant if you’re not already using an accountability group like RPW field reports or mentorship and trusted friends/coworkers. And have a clear plan that’s scheduled with a time and place between your calendar and to-do list. -There will be a follow up post “**Goals -- An intermediate guide on how to attain them**” later down the road that will cover motivation and doing what matters (clear about and connected with your life values and able to take and sustain values-guided action), fear of failure and how to move on from them, handling setbacks and mistakes, and learning vs performance objectives and their connection to your mindsets.",,18,FastLifePineapple,1705956935.0 +There will be a follow up post “**Goals -- An intermediate guide on how to attain them**” later down the road that will cover motivation and doing what matters (clear about and connected with your life values and able to take and sustain values-guided action), fear of failure and how to move on from them, handling setbacks and mistakes, and learning vs performance objectives and their connection to your mindsets.",,18,FastLifePineapple,2024-01-22 20:55:35 RedPillWomen,19ddhd0,"Long distance relationships (LDRs): how to vet, and how to close the gap?","Asking more as a hypothetical and not so much seeking personal advice. I (23F) have a lot of friends in long distance relationships, and since we’re all in our early twenties, most of them are thinking about how they are concretely going to close the distance. I met someone who lives quite far from me, yet he and I chose NOT to start a relationship until we’d know for sure when and how we’d close the distance.When I told my friends this, they thought this guy and I were crazy for discussing all of this before even deciding to date each other. They told me to just “have fun with him” and see where things go… but I think it makes more logical sense to figure out if the relationship can even progress to anything more than monthly visits by plane. What are some ways vetting can be done from a distance, particularly if you are starting out long distance? -While closing the gap is imperative to the viability of the LDR, under what circumstances would you consider moving for your long distance partner? How do you know when it is time to actually close the gap?",,4,blakelivelynosejob,1705976301.0 +While closing the gap is imperative to the viability of the LDR, under what circumstances would you consider moving for your long distance partner? How do you know when it is time to actually close the gap?",,4,blakelivelynosejob,2024-01-23 02:18:21 RedPillWomen,19cqsmc,"feeling like a slut and I'm still a virgin, how can I get over it, and does my boyfriend think it too?","I met my boyfriend 4 months ago and we've been together for like 3 months. we're long distance and all we ever did was make out then he had to leave for college again. @@ -881,7 +881,7 @@ he's amazing and never made me feel objectified once, always tells me I'm beauti but I think everyone is judging me for something they don't even know, or I'm probably judging myself and projecting on other people. -I know this comes off more like a rant but I'm just very frustrated with myself and want some advice on how to navigate this situation.",,14,throwra20035,1705911080.0 +I know this comes off more like a rant but I'm just very frustrated with myself and want some advice on how to navigate this situation.",,14,throwra20035,2024-01-22 08:11:20 RedPillWomen,19ce6e7,Looking for hard truth,"Thank you I’m advance for taking the time to read this. I am single, 29 female. I live alone in an apartment. I was in a car accident and have been living off that, so no work or volunteer. I’m not feminine whatsoever, my energy is very masculine. Been diagnosed with a plethora of mental illnesses, BPD being most obvious. But to be honest I’ve looked at cluster B diagnoses and I could easily fit all of them. @@ -894,7 +894,7 @@ Basically I do not take responsibility for my life whatsoever and chose instead I’m selfish to the core. I’ve noticed that praying for people without telling them helps keep me in the moment and feeling connected to others when they aren’t there. I am very open to any suggestions. I’ve been healing since 25 and I may be missing something. -Update: thanks for the hot tips. Today I woke up reasonable, did a gym , cooked cleaned . Turns out I was incredibly depressed and needed meds",,13,Mobile-Ad-8925,1705872144.0 +Update: thanks for the hot tips. Today I woke up reasonable, did a gym , cooked cleaned . Turns out I was incredibly depressed and needed meds",,13,Mobile-Ad-8925,2024-01-21 21:22:24 RedPillWomen,19blznk,The Empowered Wife-Question,"My husband and I went through a very serious separation and divorce filing last year. I initiated it. The night before we were to turn in the final decree, I got cold feet. We have 3 kids. And I thought, if only for them, I should try again. I’ve been researching and asking around about how to get out of this hole my husband and I are in. I’m already in a community of like minded women, so Laura’s book was recommended to me. @@ -909,7 +909,7 @@ My biggest question is-How do I apologize when I’ve been disrespectful, for sm For example, today he told our son (2yo) not to bring a toy in the car and I said I think it’s fine. As soon as the words left my mouth I realized I had disrespected his authority as a father. He didn’t even care, he just said “okay” and off we went. -How should I have apologized for that? I’m scared he’s going to look at me like I have 3 heads because he doesn’t even question me anymore. And I know the point is to be vulnerable. But it’s scary. Help me!",,43,4_neenondy,1705784991.0 +How should I have apologized for that? I’m scared he’s going to look at me like I have 3 heads because he doesn’t even question me anymore. And I know the point is to be vulnerable. But it’s scary. Help me!",,43,4_neenondy,2024-01-20 21:09:51 RedPillWomen,19bipek,Deal Makers and Deal Breakers,"Wanted to open a quick discussion post on the deal makers and deal breakers that allows you to capture a man’s heart. These ideas come from various discussions I’ve had with different men in the redpill spaces on the common themes men share around things we considered relationship deal breakers. Quick thanks to u/redpilldad and u/VasiliyZaitzev for helping me organize and think over some of these ideas more recently. @@ -952,7 +952,7 @@ These are the visions of excellence and the [diamond rule](https://old.reddit.co --- -Think back to a moment when you knew you had a man's heart locked in. What did you do right? What was something that definitely went wrong? Let's discuss the personal deal makers and breakers that you've found pivotal in relationships.",,18,free_breakfast_,1705776438.0 +Think back to a moment when you knew you had a man's heart locked in. What did you do right? What was something that definitely went wrong? Let's discuss the personal deal makers and breakers that you've found pivotal in relationships.",,18,free_breakfast_,2024-01-20 18:47:18 RedPillWomen,19asu4z,Be pleasant + Allow yourself to be led + VET + Look your best + be affectionate,"I found RPW in early 2022 and it has 100% changed my life. I used to be hyper independent and thought that I did not want a relationship. Once I found this community, I became totally dedicated and read everything I could find. My favorite was going back to the old posts on theory and reading everything on the wiki page. I also read some of recommended books - Fascinating Womanhood, For All Women, Marry Him. @@ -971,15 +971,15 @@ I just wanted to come here and share some of the things that I believe changed m 5. Be affectionate. This is another HUGE one. Keep your sex life exciting and spontaneous and make your partner feel that he couldn’t get better sex with anyone else! Be excited about participating in sex, and give him kisses and hugs often and unexpectedly. Be open to new things and accepting of his desires. I know this one is controversial for people — but I rarely rarely ever reject my partner for sex. And he has expressed how much he appreciates and loves this about me. You should never do something you are uncomfortable with, but you should find a man that you do want to be sexual with! This one is key. If a man is going to commit to you, he is giving up having sex with other people, and you’re his only source. Therefore, you need to provide this to him (unless there are medical reasons, etc.) -Long post, but thanks for reading. I love this community so much, and like I said, it changed my life. So I wanted to give back and hopefully help some other ladies out there that are looking for their dream man ❤️",,85,Exstntial-strawberry,1705696014.0 -RedPillWomen,19b4vxg,6 years of hard work,"I just want to put something positive out here. I just joined this group… I’m 25, my boyfriend is 27. The 23rd will mark 6 years together. We have had a many lifetimes of ups and downs. Learning about what Love really means. Making the choice everyday. Working on being selfless. I’m trying so hard to learn what unconditional means and when conditional is healthy. The balancing act of a relationship where I want to be more submissive but was raised masculine and the truth of how difficult it is to let go of control and put all my trust in his character and his choices. I yearn to be his soft comforting home in this chaotic world! We are going through a tough time…he works solely off commission. He is strong, capable, aware of his inner and outer world, fearless, a risk taker but warm and grounding and yearns to provide for his family and truly embody the role of the man. A protector and a provider. I’m so proud of how much he has grown from meeting him at 21. We love. We fight. It’s a mix of every emotion but we both have so much joy and excitement for our future.. we are grateful for what we have here and know it will only get better.",,14,[deleted],1705730358.0 +Long post, but thanks for reading. I love this community so much, and like I said, it changed my life. So I wanted to give back and hopefully help some other ladies out there that are looking for their dream man ❤️",,85,Exstntial-strawberry,2024-01-19 20:26:54 +RedPillWomen,19b4vxg,6 years of hard work,"I just want to put something positive out here. I just joined this group… I’m 25, my boyfriend is 27. The 23rd will mark 6 years together. We have had a many lifetimes of ups and downs. Learning about what Love really means. Making the choice everyday. Working on being selfless. I’m trying so hard to learn what unconditional means and when conditional is healthy. The balancing act of a relationship where I want to be more submissive but was raised masculine and the truth of how difficult it is to let go of control and put all my trust in his character and his choices. I yearn to be his soft comforting home in this chaotic world! We are going through a tough time…he works solely off commission. He is strong, capable, aware of his inner and outer world, fearless, a risk taker but warm and grounding and yearns to provide for his family and truly embody the role of the man. A protector and a provider. I’m so proud of how much he has grown from meeting him at 21. We love. We fight. It’s a mix of every emotion but we both have so much joy and excitement for our future.. we are grateful for what we have here and know it will only get better.",,14,[deleted],2024-01-20 05:59:18 RedPillWomen,19au1a5,New to Red Pill,"I'm new to this community and looking for book recommendations to learn more about it. So any advice would be lovely 😍 -Thank you in advance ☺️",,6,Ok_Bee_8495,1705699054.0 +Thank you in advance ☺️",,6,Ok_Bee_8495,2024-01-19 21:17:34 RedPillWomen,19abkwv,Where to find affordable traditional clothing?,"Not new to the community but new to the sub/Reddit in general. Embarrassingly I’ve always dressed kind of boyish because of general insecurity/ and I’ve always been pretty smart with money because of a hard upbringing and can never force myself to spend money on nice things for myself. Recently my boyfriend has gotten a new job and has offered to get me some new clothes (I guess I’ve been complaining a little) but I don’t wanna go for the same, “safe”, unflattering clothes I’ve been wearing since early childhood. I’d really like some simple dresses/ more feminine clothing in general. We are young and on a budget and I would at least like to get a couple things which isn’t working when a HOUSE DRESS is 200$+ dollars o.o like I might as well buy a sewing machine. - For reference I’m around 5”, S/M US size usually, want them to be at least somewhat flattering but I will be moving around the house in them.",,17,Low-Whole-2431,1705641991.0 + For reference I’m around 5”, S/M US size usually, want them to be at least somewhat flattering but I will be moving around the house in them.",,17,Low-Whole-2431,2024-01-19 05:26:31 RedPillWomen,19a8lxf,Confused about hobbies and vacations that provider high value men like,"I'm 24F and been following the rpw since a couple of weeks now. It helps that I sort of immediately resonated with most of the ideas and realized where I come up short too. I'm currently in hard nun mode too as I'm obese, recently recovering from childhood trauma and need to find hobbies/friends etc. It so happens that I work in a software engineering field with a lot of such high value provider males in my office. While before I bemoaned the fact that there weren't any women on my floor to be friends with - I started viewing it differently and now I actually am happy to be surrounded by such men because I can easily learn from their lives with their wives and partners and what they look for generally, I can also see how ever since I started tapping more into my feminine energy from my predisposed masculine engineering energy I can sense them being more courteous and chivalrous with me unlike in engineering school where most male classmates disliked me and I had a series of feminine men relationships instead @@ -988,7 +988,7 @@ Its just that most of these provider men at my workplace seem obsessed with trek Am I wrong in thinking the latter just feels too masculine? For a feminine woman to enjoy? How do I go about attracting men who are high value and wouldn't dismiss me for not enjoying similar excursions? I worry about dismissal because theres a guy I like very very much and though he won't admit it probably cos I'm fat I know he is rather emotionally attached to me too and often asks me questions about my life but he seemed rather disappointed when I didn't react favourably to his hike in the wilderness that brought him great joy apparently -I'm really confused and would love to know how other rpw women have handled relationships with similar men or even have any recommendations for shared hobbies etc",,19,lilac-dream-girl,1705632624.0 +I'm really confused and would love to know how other rpw women have handled relationships with similar men or even have any recommendations for shared hobbies etc",,19,lilac-dream-girl,2024-01-19 02:50:24 RedPillWomen,19a4lrr,I'm starting to resent my boyfriend,"Hello everyone, I'm 21F, and my boyfriend is 20M. We have a very loving relationship. He is my first boyfriend. A little background on my bf: he had a very abusive upbringing, and has been living with his friends family ever since graduating high school. He has also been unemployed for almost a year now. He has no savings, no car, no drivers license, and no money. He is pretty much a NEET right now. @@ -1009,7 +1009,7 @@ I've never once demanded anything from my bf, and don't want to either. I know I I have such big plans for OUR future. I'm trying to do my best at university, and hopefully get me a good job, and I won't have to worry about finances. I wish he shared this ambition and at least tried looking for a job. -I want to know if I'm being materialistic/superficial. I just want to be taken care of. I've lived most of my life knowing that I only have myself to depend on, and I want to feel how it feels to put that trust into another person.",,16,4cidb4th,1705621353.0 +I want to know if I'm being materialistic/superficial. I just want to be taken care of. I've lived most of my life knowing that I only have myself to depend on, and I want to feel how it feels to put that trust into another person.",,16,4cidb4th,2024-01-18 23:42:33 RedPillWomen,19axcna,"My husband makes over 400k a year, I dont work and we split all the chores","I didnt follow any of the red pill rules. But i wonder what your thinking is - why it works for us in that way? maybe I am doing red pill stuff and don't know it? I am attractive, dress well and thin - that's about it. I am NOT super hot, I am pretty. I have a fun personality but other than that, I dont like to cook, I dont do laundry and we split all the chores. My husband worships the ground I walk on. He is attractive, 6'2 and funny. He isnt perfect but he is so kind and loving to me. He doesn't care if I work since he makes enough money. He bought a house before we were together and then put my name on it. I am a liberal woman who has strong opinions. Some weeks go by where I look disheveled or not cute, he still loves me and is nice. It can work a lot of different ways. @@ -1027,15 +1027,15 @@ This is why I think it worked for us: 9. We laugh ALL the time, I am pretty light hearted and playful (when Im not going through some random mental spiral) and we joke around a lot 10. I make him feel wanted and needed. I told him he has made me too soft and I cant go be on my own anymore and he laughs at that idea. (which is probably only half true) -Those are the things that I think contributed to our current situation.",,0,Mother-Grand-8608,1705707392.0 -RedPillWomen,19aucfk,What do you consider rich and what do you consider wealthy?,Is rich 200k a year? 300k? 400k? ( living in a city) Is wealthy 1 million net worth? 2? 3? Curious about what everyone considers rich/wealthy. Also curious about what you all are looking for in terms of salary. ,,0,Applepiessky,1705699845.0 +Those are the things that I think contributed to our current situation.",,0,Mother-Grand-8608,2024-01-19 23:36:32 +RedPillWomen,19aucfk,What do you consider rich and what do you consider wealthy?,Is rich 200k a year? 300k? 400k? ( living in a city) Is wealthy 1 million net worth? 2? 3? Curious about what everyone considers rich/wealthy. Also curious about what you all are looking for in terms of salary. ,,0,Applepiessky,2024-01-19 21:30:45 RedPillWomen,199id03,Got pregnant and shouted at husband,"When I got pregnant last year I was having triplets with a huge stress running on my mind. At that point my partner brought up sex and said we needed to address his needs may be try something new like a threesome. I got mad and yelled at him for being inconsiderate about my feelings and only thinking about his needs. Now we a year later with healthy babies, he still doesn't initiate or ask about being intimate with me. We have not had sex in a year. Feels like I have shut him out completely, how do I mend this? Edit- thanks to everyone for your valuable inputs, I think I want to layout a few facts just to provide more clarity. So me and my partner are over 40 and both of us are first time parents, have know each other over 2 years. My partner has been amazing in taking care of me during pregnancy. He believes in open communication, both of us have spoken about sex very openly, be it threesomes, sex toys or anyother fetish we may have. As a partner I am lucky to have him, he is always trying to make my life better, he has always proactively managed date nights, movie nights, having friends over, he even pulled off a surprise baby shower for me. We were sexually very active till we got pregnant, having triplets and two threatened abortions, the doctor put me on bed rest and I was emotionally very disturbed. May be the hormones and the stress with multiple pregnancy made me very intense with emotional outbursts often. I couldn't handle the open communication from my partner about his needs back then, and I felt insecure as well. He has been nothing but patient with me throughout the pregnancy, I didn't initiate sex with him as well. He has never made me feel guilty for my comments, either with sex or with any other topic. Whenever we argued he would try to reason with me, he always said one thing,"" if I'm not doing what you expect of me, please tell me, and I'll work on myself."" He jokingly mentions that it's been ages since we passionately kissed or made out. After a year through my pregnancy when my babies are 3 months old is when I started to realise that he must be missing sex, and please note even now he has not pushed me away when I'm near him cuddling or pecking. -I hear all of your comments about working on my communication and will be more open with him about his needs. Thanks all for taking time to explain. ",,40,Grouchy-Patience-442,1705554873.0 +I hear all of your comments about working on my communication and will be more open with him about his needs. Thanks all for taking time to explain. ",,40,Grouchy-Patience-442,2024-01-18 05:14:33 RedPillWomen,199tyih,How Do You Recover from Not Being a Virgin?,"I keep seeing everywhere on reddit about guys breaking up with or shaming their girlfriends for not being pure enough. For being ""run through"" (which is any number of sexual partners more than 1) If you have more than 1 sexual partners should you just give up on finding someone who finds you ""pure enough"" to value seriously? @@ -1046,50 +1046,50 @@ Because even though guys say they don't care, all the stories I see on Reddit se What to do? Perhaps give up? -EDIT: Thanks everyone! Your comments have helped me feel better. ",,3,[deleted],1705595047.0 +EDIT: Thanks everyone! Your comments have helped me feel better. ",,3,[deleted],2024-01-18 16:24:07 RedPillWomen,198whlg,Wish he was more independent.,"My boyfriend and I Iive together. He doesn’t have much of a social life, which is okay, but the problem is that he heavily relies on me for entertainment/ stimuli /whatever. Sure we’re friends, but I have my own life and interests. I’d be doing the dishes and he’ll just pace back and forth next to me, I’ll go into the bedroom to change the sheets, then he’ll follow me and continue pacing back and forth. Like help me out if you’re bored. I’d be in my own room, and he’ll constantly barge in every 30 minute, sometimes just to fuck with me cause he’s bored. I feel like I can’t relax. -Like do you have no purpose? What is this?",,23,AdministrationOk3971,1705497933.0 +Like do you have no purpose? What is this?",,23,AdministrationOk3971,2024-01-17 13:25:33 RedPillWomen,198xh73,Years have gone by and I still think about my high school boyfriend," I’m 30 and married with two kids but for some reason I sometimes have nonstop thoughts about an old high school boyfriend. I’ve dated other people after and before my now husband. We stayed kinda friendly after we broke up and talked a lot more often probably up until me and my now husband had been dating for a year or two. We eventually stopped being friends as life took us on different paths but remained on good terms. For the most part as time went on I eventually didn’t ever think about him anymore but sometimes I just can’t get him out of my head. Probably like once a year. I start rereading old fb messages and stalking his socials to see what he’s up to. Like I’m talking intense thoughts I can’t shake. Just wondering what he’s up to how he’s doing etc (nothing sexual) .. I contemplate reaching out to say hi for days and and at times I have, we briefly just catch up. And then we don’t talk again. And he’s out of my mind. I have no desire to be with him again and no desire to break up my family. I really want to move past this and don’t want to disrupt my life or his. I posted in an another Reddit thread and they said I was alpha widowed. Which I never heard of before and after looking it up doesn’t really relate to the situation -Tik tok is convinced it’s the sentimentality and nostalgia of a first boyfriend and I’m just romanticizing the purest most vulnerable version of my self.",,20,Fit-Welcome2277,1705500836.0 -RedPillWomen,198xqx6,How do you detach your emotional state from your partners?,"If you spend a lot of time with your partner, how do you 'be the peace', stay feminine, etc when your man is stressed out or angry at often with work/life stress.",,17,CharacterOrdinary551,1705501585.0 +Tik tok is convinced it’s the sentimentality and nostalgia of a first boyfriend and I’m just romanticizing the purest most vulnerable version of my self.",,20,Fit-Welcome2277,2024-01-17 14:13:56 +RedPillWomen,198xqx6,How do you detach your emotional state from your partners?,"If you spend a lot of time with your partner, how do you 'be the peace', stay feminine, etc when your man is stressed out or angry at often with work/life stress.",,17,CharacterOrdinary551,2024-01-17 14:26:25 RedPillWomen,1984l4q,Getting commitment after sex,"Hi RPW! I would love to hear from everyone here about the following: Ladies who had sex first before commitment, please share when you were intimate and what are some things you did to help you get commitment ranging from boyfriend/girlfriend, engagement, married, or all the above. Please also include the timeline from one stage to the next. Similar question for the men who had sex before commitment. How did your girlfriend inspire you to want to commit to her from dating to boyfriend/girlfriend, engagement, and marriage. -Thanks in advance!",,21,chrissycash,1705416563.0 -RedPillWomen,198jfuy,My ex boyfriend (M25) wants me back (F25),"I had a one year long relationship with my ex, this happened between 2022 and 2023. When we started I didn't know how bad his drug addiction was, his main drugs were alcohol marihuana and clonazepam. He lied about the gravity at the beginning but I soon suffered lots of relapses and promises he couldn't keep. He taught me a lot about the red pill and I started working so hard to make him proud, I went to the gym, started to dress more modestly and even deleted my social media. Nevertheless, I ended the relationship in April last year, I was crushed because I loved him very much but he was very manipulative and made me feel bad about my weight and other things, he was a bit blackpilled in my opinion. Now, 10 months later I sent him a text because I had a bad feeling. He told me he's just gone out of rehab (6 months in), he found God, he went back to school and he's working. We have been in contact for about one month and he's like a whole other person, he has apologized for EVERYTHING and has treated me like a princess. We've only met in person 3 times in person to have hard conversations and everything has gone perfectly. My family is really against me going back with him, but I have a feeling that this could work, mostly because I see real regret in him. I've thought about this and I feel I should wait a few months to see if this is real. I really love him, he's very attractive to me. Any advice is well taken. Thank you",,2,Kind-Bug-6169,1705452959.0 +Thanks in advance!",,21,chrissycash,2024-01-16 14:49:23 +RedPillWomen,198jfuy,My ex boyfriend (M25) wants me back (F25),"I had a one year long relationship with my ex, this happened between 2022 and 2023. When we started I didn't know how bad his drug addiction was, his main drugs were alcohol marihuana and clonazepam. He lied about the gravity at the beginning but I soon suffered lots of relapses and promises he couldn't keep. He taught me a lot about the red pill and I started working so hard to make him proud, I went to the gym, started to dress more modestly and even deleted my social media. Nevertheless, I ended the relationship in April last year, I was crushed because I loved him very much but he was very manipulative and made me feel bad about my weight and other things, he was a bit blackpilled in my opinion. Now, 10 months later I sent him a text because I had a bad feeling. He told me he's just gone out of rehab (6 months in), he found God, he went back to school and he's working. We have been in contact for about one month and he's like a whole other person, he has apologized for EVERYTHING and has treated me like a princess. We've only met in person 3 times in person to have hard conversations and everything has gone perfectly. My family is really against me going back with him, but I have a feeling that this could work, mostly because I see real regret in him. I've thought about this and I feel I should wait a few months to see if this is real. I really love him, he's very attractive to me. Any advice is well taken. Thank you",,2,Kind-Bug-6169,2024-01-17 00:55:59 RedPillWomen,19824tb,Annoying comments from Husband,"Has anyone else seen a reduction in disrespect comments claimed as jokes by becoming more RP? Comments like “make sure to keep using your chapstick” when you mentioned that you’re currently on your cycle. I’ve told him before that it annoys me, is a turn off, makes me feel like I’m married to a 15 year old. And last night I said it was disrespectful when he ask if I thought it was funny, because no, I don’t. No woman does. He always says “all guys are like this” and “I know, I’m a child”. Obviously my previous attempts to stop this were not the best or they would have worked. I don’t know how to handle this anymore. -(I do want to note that other than these stupid “jokes” he’s a great man. Takes care of me, provides, he also tells me all the time how much he loves me and is still so excited that I’m his wife, and spoils me.)",,14,Hang_your_halo,1705409276.0 +(I do want to note that other than these stupid “jokes” he’s a great man. Takes care of me, provides, he also tells me all the time how much he loves me and is still so excited that I’m his wife, and spoils me.)",,14,Hang_your_halo,2024-01-16 12:47:56 RedPillWomen,197htx1,A beautiful article about the joys of learning to follow,"I saw this in The Atlantic and I loved it and wanted to share. I love how the idea of following a trustworthy man is mainstreaming after decades of the exhausting Girl Boss era. Don’t get me wrong! I am very much in favor of women pursuing their goals and building a rich and fulfilling life for themselves whether they are in a relationship or not. But it’s high time we recognize that following is a skill, it’s a conversation, and it’s so much fun 🩷 Original https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2024/01/dance-salsa-relationships/677132/ Without paywall -https://archive.ph/ncyZP",,34,Margareydragonslayer,1705347878.0 +https://archive.ph/ncyZP",,34,Margareydragonslayer,2024-01-15 19:44:38 RedPillWomen,1983luq,Long distance: 2 months plan,"Hi all, I have been a follower of redpill for 2 years as is the length of my relationship. We do not live together, but due to a safety situation we moved in together for 2 month. Now for work I have now moved abroad, apart from him, for an additional 2 months. I noticed that when we lived together we got along harmoniously, we became warmer, but he started admitting how much he likes to 'follow' me, and he stopped exercising. I know of the natural betafication of men in a long term relationship. Even so, I am trying to understand what I did wrong that put him into more of that follower position. He wasn't like that in the begining. -What would be the antidote to this? I have two months to live alone, in which only long distance/opposite time zone communication is available to us.",,2,flower_power_g1rl,1705413844.0 +What would be the antidote to this? I have two months to live alone, in which only long distance/opposite time zone communication is available to us.",,2,flower_power_g1rl,2024-01-16 14:04:04 RedPillWomen,19748mr,Dedication to myself and using RPW as a tool changed my life entirely.,"tl;dr: I went from miserable and lost to fast-tracking my dream life and it’s because of this community and my own hard work. I found RPW on accident, coming to this group initially to “prove” that the woman who I had learned of its existence from was [insert any number of negative/disparaging beliefs about someone here]. I was 20something, convinced that my miserable situation was the result of literally anything other than my own actions. I had a horrible view of myself, of other women, of men, of the entire world. I was angry and not willing to take a single step toward *changing*, I genuinely had begun to resign myself to what I thought life was going to be forever. What I found was shocking and hard to believe… yet I stayed up way too late that night, reading and thinking. And I kept coming back. And it changed *everything* for me (well, almost everything - I still don’t have any fondness for the woman that got me here, but that’s another story). @@ -1104,7 +1104,7 @@ I started this journey at 23 years old. I’m now 25 and since finding RPW and u I’ve been thinking about making this post for weeks, and tonight I was so full of gratitude and pride in how far I’ve come that I finally did it. I couldn’t have done this without the advice, tough love, and support of the RPW community. This post is partially to celebrate myself, but more than that this post is a LOUD and EMPHATIC *THANK YOU!!!!!* to this community that I cannot mean more sincerely. -If you’ve read this far, I appreciate you. If you’re reading this and you relate - I believe in you. You are worth the effort it takes to create your dream life, and you are in the right place to learn how to do it. :)",,64,amityjeanklein,1705308676.0 +If you’ve read this far, I appreciate you. If you’re reading this and you relate - I believe in you. You are worth the effort it takes to create your dream life, and you are in the right place to learn how to do it. :)",,64,amityjeanklein,2024-01-15 08:51:16 RedPillWomen,197lr5x,Should I cancel the date?," After a year of dating break,I matched with a guy in my city on 16 December 2023. The chat convos was flowing greatly.He was curious and did take into account my bio, hobbies and pictures. No sexual talk. @@ -1123,11 +1123,11 @@ The date will be 45 minutes since the gallery closes and earlier wasn't possible He hasn't reconfirmed, not proposed he has reserved anything afterwards, not asked how I plan to get there. -Am I overreacting by thinking of not showing up and not giving him a heads up that I will not show up?",,0,Proper_Imagination94,1705356997.0 +Am I overreacting by thinking of not showing up and not giving him a heads up that I will not show up?",,0,Proper_Imagination94,2024-01-15 22:16:37 RedPillWomen,195uu50,Why is the answer to almost every relationship advice post on Reddit “leave them”?,"Almost every time I see a post asking about relationship advice (concerning couples), I come across the same type of answers like “when someone shows you who they are, believe them”, “this is clearly a sign of abuse and they will continue abusing you”, or “you should 100% leave them, save yourself”. These answers are very frequent, even when the problem is apparently not incredibly serious. -Why don’t people on Reddit advise on empathy, open conversations, or seeing a therapist and instead seem to consider every issue irreconcilable?",,62,supercalifragiwhat,1705171275.0 -RedPillWomen,195a8yl,Age Gap Relationships?,What is the best age range that a woman in her late 20’s should target?,,10,rightfullyso6744,1705104838.0 +Why don’t people on Reddit advise on empathy, open conversations, or seeing a therapist and instead seem to consider every issue irreconcilable?",,62,supercalifragiwhat,2024-01-13 18:41:15 +RedPillWomen,195a8yl,Age Gap Relationships?,What is the best age range that a woman in her late 20’s should target?,,10,rightfullyso6744,2024-01-13 00:13:58 RedPillWomen,1954ngm,How to keep the passion while working from home?,"Hello all, I’m 24F and recently got engaged to 33M. We’ve been together about a year and will be moving in together soon (I’m visiting my family atm). @@ -1152,7 +1152,7 @@ Tips on making this work? And advice regarding my anxiety of him losing interest He also got his party days mostly out of his system and wants to focus on our business and future family and doesn’t like adrenaline-like things (ie scuba diving running late at night psychedelic trips etc) whereas I love those things, but he’s not a fan of me doing the latter etc. So I need healthy ways in which to add excitement to my life. -Any advice would be great, thanks!",,5,Optimal-You-8238,1705090632.0 +Any advice would be great, thanks!",,5,Optimal-You-8238,2024-01-12 20:17:12 RedPillWomen,194lx97,Observing women who married to middle/upper middle class men.,"\*Middle and upper class men, sorry. I had to spend last weekend at a sport center that caters to wealthy children (Hockey, fencing, etc). I watched mothers get out of their(mostly) SUVs with their children, here are some common things I observed about the wealthier women: @@ -1162,14 +1162,14 @@ I had to spend last weekend at a sport center that caters to wealthy children (H \- They were all somewhat skinny. Probably not perfectly skinny, but definitely not obese or overweight. \- I would say about half managed to look stylish as well. -Also perhaps they made their wealth independently as well, but the above held true for like 85% of the women I saw with children there. I was surprised.",,87,SunflowerSerenade11,1705032768.0 +Also perhaps they made their wealth independently as well, but the above held true for like 85% of the women I saw with children there. I was surprised.",,87,SunflowerSerenade11,2024-01-12 04:12:48 RedPillWomen,194rhvv,"being afraid of coming off as a gold digger made me unable to receive, help","so it's basically the title, i can't receive anything from a man without being afraid of coming off like a gold digger my boyfriend, who I recently got together with, is coming home from a trip and is asking me for which skincare products I want him to get me, because he noticed I liked a post about girls liking when their boyfriends get them self care things. I smiled and said thank you, but I feel too uneasy to just tell him what I want, I was just googling ""cheap skin care products"" because I don't want him spending money on me. -how can I overcome this.",,24,throwra20035,1705053456.0 +how can I overcome this.",,24,throwra20035,2024-01-12 09:57:36 RedPillWomen,194llst,How did you master The Art Of STFU?,"How did you master The Art Of STFU? I am tired of nagging and criticizing and sighing and having a bad attitude. My husband has had it. Something needs to change because my marriage is suffering. @@ -1177,15 +1177,15 @@ Please give me all your advice on how you learned to stfu. I don’t just want t I’ve read The Surrendered Wife when we got married but it’s been almost 10 years now and I’ve still so much to work on and improve. -*edit:* I just got permanently banned from a motherhood subreddit for posting here.. what is wrong with reddit?",,46,JesusBBackSoon,1705031767.0 -RedPillWomen,194hv1p,Not turned on,"Has anyone else experienced not being turned on by their man? We’ve been together for almost 10 years and I don’t get turned on anymore. I’ve communicated to him how I want to be touched to be turned on and he took the advice. But when he does what I ask, it feels like he’s trying too hard and not genuine. I don’t know what to do.",,10,Pink_Pineapple7234,1705020787.0 +*edit:* I just got permanently banned from a motherhood subreddit for posting here.. what is wrong with reddit?",,46,JesusBBackSoon,2024-01-12 03:56:07 +RedPillWomen,194hv1p,Not turned on,"Has anyone else experienced not being turned on by their man? We’ve been together for almost 10 years and I don’t get turned on anymore. I’ve communicated to him how I want to be touched to be turned on and he took the advice. But when he does what I ask, it feels like he’s trying too hard and not genuine. I don’t know what to do.",,10,Pink_Pineapple7234,2024-01-12 00:53:07 RedPillWomen,1946ge8,Cardi B says...,"I don't cook, I don't clean but let me tell you I got this ring... ...and then you look at the relationship. Makes me want to cook and clean lol! -(Off topic but I found this funny. Not to hate on her relationship drama. A cheating spouse is never funny...but she did choose and advertise this to young women).",,38,AmilliBee,1704992380.0 +(Off topic but I found this funny. Not to hate on her relationship drama. A cheating spouse is never funny...but she did choose and advertise this to young women).",,38,AmilliBee,2024-01-11 16:59:40 RedPillWomen,193js4t,How to RPW a controlling boyfriend,"Hi ladies, as a loving member of this subreddit I have realized the great benefits of our lifestyle. There is an arena in which I wonder how to manouver. I have a wonderful traditional boyfriend, and we have great plans for the future in which he will provide and I will get to rear children! @@ -1200,7 +1200,7 @@ HOWEVER, today I seriously considered leaving him because he made a few comments I’m young and so is he, so I need some older ladies’ advice on what is normal and not. I quite frankly don’t enjoy micro managing my life to avoid being attractive? However I am asking him to be a provider and a leader, and therefore I should go with what he says(?) -Please ask questions should anything be unclear. And no I’m not going to leave him over this. I just got emotional for a couple sec, but I love him. I just want some guidance.",,20,jiji_sin,1704922257.0 +Please ask questions should anything be unclear. And no I’m not going to leave him over this. I just got emotional for a couple sec, but I love him. I just want some guidance.",,20,jiji_sin,2024-01-10 21:30:57 RedPillWomen,193igfa,Relationship with in-laws,"Hi everyone, hoping to get some outside perspective here regarding family dynamics when being in an LTR. My fiancé and I are planning to get married in a year, been together for 4. I didn't have any healthy or positive relationships with my family growing up, so I was hopeful when I found out that my partner comes from a close-knit family. Unfortunately, even after being together so long, I don't really feel liked by them. @@ -1221,7 +1221,7 @@ FIL has now been making offhand comments of them living with us, which I'm firml I'm trying to have a better understanding of this whole dynamic and the best way to navigate it. I'm not looking to be the center of attention or anything, because everything I do is of my own volition, but my concern is rather with what kind of example we'd be setting for our kids and how this can affect my relationship with my future husband. -Sorry this got longer than I'd expected; would appreciate RPW’s thoughts. Thank you.",,11,Unoriginalname003,1704919031.0 +Sorry this got longer than I'd expected; would appreciate RPW’s thoughts. Thank you.",,11,Unoriginalname003,2024-01-10 20:37:11 RedPillWomen,1934qs3,I (F27) discovered boyfriend's (M27) hidden home videos with his ex; he lied about deleting them. Would you break up?,"Guys, please help me, advise me on what to do. This is the first time I'm writing on Reddit. I've been in a relationship with a guy for almost two years, and we've been living together for one and a half years. A while ago, in the early stages of our relationship, I asked him if he had ever made home videos before, as we started speaking about making them too. He said that in his previous relationships, he did make home videos but deleted them when they broke up. @@ -1232,7 +1232,7 @@ I should mention that I also live in the apartment they moved into together with He initiated the breakup with her, and it took a long time before he actually ended things. I know he doesn't want to be with her, but everything constantly reminds me of her, even though he changed the arrangement and all the furniture after the breakup. Now, there are these videos. They were last opened on the day I was at work. Can you advise me on what to do? Is this normal? I don't even understand what's normal anymore. What would you do? -Would you break up?",,26,LeadingStudio8342,1704880408.0 +Would you break up?",,26,LeadingStudio8342,2024-01-10 09:53:28 RedPillWomen,192olhq,"Feeling down, What is the point of dating a man?","I am 24 and I'm in my second relationship (engaged, he's 9 yrs older). My last relationship was 4 yrs before (celibate during this time), to a guy my age in college. It started off great but we were both extremely immature, new to the college scene, cheated on each other, hurt each other, and basically destroyed the relationship despite there having been love (or so I believe anyway). My current relationship has been going on for a year, and everything's fine, no cheating or major disrespect (which I would not tolerate, at this point). I've been really lurking these subs and consuming content on relationships for the past few years, b/c I find it fascinating. In between these 2 relationships I've been totally celibate but went on lots of dates with all sorts of men. I am now engaged like I said and struggling a bit at times. I often feel as if, in a way, relationships are a trap for both genders, but in this post, about women specifically. I feel like women are conditioned from childhood to believe that looks are their greatest asset. Men seem to me completely obsessed and overtaken by women's looks. I've become rather focused on this topic as I do deal w dysmorphia issues myself, but I often watch my brother or partner or dad when they come across a beautiful woman or even a cute young girl. People in these subs often talk about how a guy is never good enough, and I sympathize with that, believe me, because I myself often struggle with being satisfied. But with women....it feels like we are never good enough. The novelty wears off and you will never be as exciting or attractive as you once were. With porn, OF, escorts, casual hook-ups, what have you, you will never be enough variety. You will age and lose a huge aspect of attraction. Even if you are beautiful now, surely you're lacking something and there's a girl who has that. By ourselves it feels like we are never enough. And all the stories about the cheating behind the wives' back with a new opportunity or even by paying women. They will always want more than what you can offer. @@ -1242,7 +1242,7 @@ I just want to know to what degree these thoughts are in my head due to my own i Back in the day, women needed men for literal survival and provision. And while my quality of life has improved lots because of my relationship, I still wonder if it's worth the pain of feeling like I can never be good enough, which I've recognized would happen regardless of who I'm dating. At least while single you're ""out"" of this game. I know wives are FAR more important to their husbands than their looks, and that men are satisfied more easily, typically, but then again--we are told our whole lives our desirability is what matters most to then have to resign to losing it (to a degree) while in a forever relationship (which I wonder if it's even possible nowadays). And btw, an open relationship wouldn't solve these feelings personally as if anything it'd just reinforce my ideas and it's just not something I want at this point. -I'd love to hear some thoughts and consolation, if possible. I get accused often of over-focusing on appearances as the most important thing, but God, isn't that the only thing that seems to matter nowadays? And it also feels like men are slaves to this over-sexualized world.",,16,Optimal-You-8238,1704831929.0 +I'd love to hear some thoughts and consolation, if possible. I get accused often of over-focusing on appearances as the most important thing, but God, isn't that the only thing that seems to matter nowadays? And it also feels like men are slaves to this over-sexualized world.",,16,Optimal-You-8238,2024-01-09 20:25:29 RedPillWomen,191tgyp,Was this inappropriate from fiance or is it in my head?,"Hello all, Me (24F) and my fiance (33M) recently got engaged after 1 year of dating. We have come visit my country of origin for the holidays and my mom threw a lunch with all of my family. Usually we have the same members but as of recently we have a new ""member"". Without going into much detail she's a distant cousin of mine whom I haven't seen in like 10 years since she just moved here. She's about 28 and had a baby recently, but was having major problems with the baby's dad and they separated for a while (apparently they're back living together now, not sure). When I last saw this girl she was beautiful and older than me, so I remember her getting lots of male attention (I was still too young) as she had this extremely feminine, sympathetic air to her and I remember admiring her myself and not feeling jealous. However, here's the drama, if you will. I have a brother of my fiance's age who is single. He works a lot and is a bit of a bachelor and would like to find a nice girl. This girl isn't related to him at all as we are half siblings and she's a distant cousin of mine. And given that we are a latin family with a bit of drama, my family told him a while ago that he should try something with her. @@ -1255,19 +1255,19 @@ I was devastated as dumb as it seems. His attraction to her triggered me deeply My fiance is overall a good man. He works hard, makes an effort to change things that bother me, treats me like a princess, doesn't watch porn or follow IG thots, or any of that. He just doesn't think things through sometimes, especially regarding this topic. It doesn't happen very often at all which is why I've been meaning to let it slide (since I already expressed my discomfort and don't want to seem THAT insecure, as my parents tell me I need to lighten up about things of this sort). And yet, I feel like shit. I feel super inferior compared to her (which is a ME problem, and probably fabricated on top of that). And just feel like she radiated this sexual energy and like he probably was super attracted to her, and I just feel awful about those comments. I, too, feel that way about other guys but never ever let him know. He also said that in his culture (european, liberal) he felt comfortable saying these things to his ex's and that it was never a big deal, but that with me he'll be more careful. Should I bring it up again? Or should I learn to deal with these kinds of a things in a ""pick your battles"" sort of way? -Thank you",,11,Optimal-You-8238,1704741864.0 +Thank you",,11,Optimal-You-8238,2024-01-08 19:24:24 RedPillWomen,191ysor,Should fat women date?,"I guess this is a question about whether I need soft or hard nun mode. 5’4”, 176 lbs, ugly-to-mid woman. Not good at makeup, can’t cook, “bad style” (whatever that means) -But I’m 26 and time is running out.",,3,[deleted],1704754636.0 +But I’m 26 and time is running out.",,3,[deleted],2024-01-08 22:57:16 RedPillWomen,190x29g,I dont like dating promiscous men,"It seems like I would get scruitinized by red pill men for voicing that. But studies have shown that very promiscous men are more likely to cheat (this is true for women too) and less likely to be happy in a marriage. Its also kind of gross, tho I dont judge anyone who sleeps around as being a ""lower human being"". Its just my preference. The ""fresh and fit"" types are a huge turn off to me. Actually this is quiet common and some red pillers tend to ignore that most non promiscous women dont like men that are promiscous. ""For short-term relationships, men were more willing than women to get involved (although the difference was not large). For long-term relationships, in contrast, there was virtually no sex difference. Thus, contrary to the idea that male promiscuity is tolerated but female promiscuity is not, both sexes expressed equal reluctance to get involved with someone with an overly extensive sexual history."" -But do women from this sub also have these preferences?",,112,LargeTry88,1704647949.0 +But do women from this sub also have these preferences?",,112,LargeTry88,2024-01-07 17:19:09 RedPillWomen,190nmeq,i think my bf acts too femininely. opinions on what to do,"recently the guy i’ve been dating for a few months has been annoying me with the way that he acts. i prefer “manly” men so he was out of my type, but he is a very sweet, caring, funny, and smart man. i don’t doubt he loves me and he does a lot for me, i just get the ick from him so much lately. 1. he complains and constantly needs verbal affirmation. i’m always hearing him ask “babe do you even love me” in a whiny tone or “do you really mean it” when i say i do, or him pouting and saying “you don’t even want to talk to me anymore” whenever i’m slightly busy while talking to him. “why do you even love me” is a popular contestant. it’s really offputting and reminds me of a clingy teenage girl. it’s gotten to the point where i have had to set a restriction for him to ONLY say “do you even love me” TWICE A DAY. and he’s failing so far. @@ -1280,7 +1280,7 @@ RedPillWomen,190nmeq,i think my bf acts too femininely. opinions on what to do," when he is not acting like this, we are very healthy and he is great at communicating with me. the sex is great. we laugh and have a lot of fun. but i don’t know if i can get past this when this is the other 40% of being with him. -he makes jokes about being the girlfriend sometimes it literally feels like he is. idk if its past me to do anything about it/talk to him or if i can salvage this. i try acting more femininely but it’s not doing much, i think he enjoys acting this way and idk what to do. would it be beyond me to tell him to “act manlier”?",,40,Useful-Size7567,1704616057.0 +he makes jokes about being the girlfriend sometimes it literally feels like he is. idk if its past me to do anything about it/talk to him or if i can salvage this. i try acting more femininely but it’s not doing much, i think he enjoys acting this way and idk what to do. would it be beyond me to tell him to “act manlier”?",,40,Useful-Size7567,2024-01-07 08:27:37 RedPillWomen,1913my0,Anxious newcomer,"(Deleted this post by mistake, here it is again!) Hi, guys---22F here, just getting into RPW more seriously. I've been reading up on it for a few months and it really resonates with me. I want intimacy and to find a serious partner to build a future with, but I wanted to ask about N-Counts, as I'm ashamed of mine. @@ -1291,14 +1291,14 @@ I know I need to face the consequences of my own actions, and I don't want to li I have been in a full-intentional nun mode for close to three months, focused on improving myself and getting fitter. I know that I'm not owed any man or relationship, but I want a family and someone to love more than anything and I'm having a hard time coping with the fact that I might have messed that up for myself because I didn't think through my actions. -Thank you for any advice anyone can offer.",,3,bunnybearears,1704664182.0 +Thank you for any advice anyone can offer.",,3,bunnybearears,2024-01-07 21:49:42 RedPillWomen,190bpyv,Feeling betrayed by RedPillWomen.,"I went super hard with RPW & the Surrendered Wife after I got married. I let him take the lead, bore him two babies back to back, cooked him gourmet meals twice a day, offered him blow jobs every day, tried every fantasy he had, everything. He was always low libido which made me sad but I figured it was stress and tried to just be a better wife. After the birth of our second baby and a fair amount of sexual rejection, I’m ashamed to admit I looked at his history and found regular porn use stretching back years. I estimated he’d seen 1000 or more naked women in the time since he’d last shown interest in seeing me naked. I was super crushed and hormonal, he felt terrible and after a couple attempts stopped using it, and our sex life improved and is now pretty great, as long as he focuses on just kissing and emotional connection because physically I’m covered with loose skin and stretch marks from pregnancy and he’s admitted it’s a turnoff. I’ve lost all the weight and toned up my body and had a huge glow up - frankly I look hot as hell with clothes on - but nothing I can do will make me look like the tight teenagers that turned him on naked. And even if some surgery could achieve this, what would happen when I start to age? I’m 29 now. I reread Fascinating Womanhood and Laura Doyle and more and I tried really hard to just be confident and feel sexy so he’ll think I’m sexy, etc but every time we have sex and he avoids looking at our touching the majority of my body and he closes his eyes and I wonder who he’s thinking about I feel used and cold toward him. I find my attention leaving him and I find myself more interested in other people and life outside my family because it hurts too much to be home with him. I was so devoted to him and our children, family, home, legacy - I sacrificed my body, career, and more and am left with less sexual value. -I’m sorry but I feel cheated by the RPW approach. It resonated with me and felt so right, but I mistakenly thought my devotion would be enough to keep him smitten with me forever.",,140,Fearless_Room_1970,1704579134.0 +I’m sorry but I feel cheated by the RPW approach. It resonated with me and felt so right, but I mistakenly thought my devotion would be enough to keep him smitten with me forever.",,140,Fearless_Room_1970,2024-01-06 22:12:14 RedPillWomen,190n08t,Realising what kind of a partner I have been,"I am new to RPW and I have spent the last few days reading up and learning what I need to know. This all makes complete sense and resonates completely . I can see how the red pill approach could completely change my relationship. That being said I will now be implementing and living by the red pill approach. Since joining this sub reddit I have realised I have a HVM that I have seriously taken for granted. I have nagged for years, been unappreciative and focused on everything he wasn’t doing rather than the many many many things he was doing. He is 17 years older than me and after being together for 6 or 7 years I can now look back and see I have been immature in so many areas. I have also expected so much from him without offering him any reason to want to fulfill these expectations . I have been pretty toxic when I think about it in the sense that I’ve often acted out of insecurity and a need to control and domineer everything. RPW has allowed me to see all the ways I have disrespected and emasculated someone who is actually a great provider and committed too. He owns his home, has a high paying job and has e sure I never go without. He takes me out for dinners and even upgraded my car. When we had a very short break up he kept my two dogs and cared for them as he didn’t want them to be rehomed. He’s a great man and Also I should of learnt STFU like 6 years ago.. On reflection I can see that I haven’t been showing respect or interacting in a way that would hype my man up and make him feel valued. @@ -1306,8 +1306,8 @@ Since joining this sub reddit I have realised I have a HVM that I have seriously From now on I will be dedicated to being a RPW. Any tips or advice for me? I imagine it’s going to take a while to see results/a difference in my man… this is because I think it’s going to take a while for him to be receptive to the approach after years of me being a bratty, entitled, childish bitch. I really need to build him up as a RPW. I am truly ashamed of my behaviour and this subreddit has only just made me aware of it now. Also, Do you think I should acknowledge this newfound realisation to him and express my commitment to respect and honouring him? Or not mention it but just change my ways pronto? -I know he has had some hard relationships and has been cheated on and scammed - even had an ex stage all his stuff being stolen for an insurance claim. He has also had exes standing on the driveway loudly degrading him by using his full name and making proclamations about the size of his penis for all of the neighbourhood to hear. He is also a full time father after his baby mamma disappeared when his son was three due to drug addiction. I don’t want to belittle him any further as this seems to be a theme for him in his intimate relationships. Please advise all the ways I can build him up and not be another shit women staining his self esteem and pride.",,20,Imaginary_Cupcake214,1704613557.0 -RedPillWomen,1901m9j,What changes have you seen in your man since RP?,"I’m just curious what long term changes you’ve noticed in him by implementing RP practices. Like does he pay more attention to your needs or get your door more often, small things like that. I know we can only change ourselves, but I’m wondering how that affects his actions.",,26,Hang_your_halo,1704552742.0 +I know he has had some hard relationships and has been cheated on and scammed - even had an ex stage all his stuff being stolen for an insurance claim. He has also had exes standing on the driveway loudly degrading him by using his full name and making proclamations about the size of his penis for all of the neighbourhood to hear. He is also a full time father after his baby mamma disappeared when his son was three due to drug addiction. I don’t want to belittle him any further as this seems to be a theme for him in his intimate relationships. Please advise all the ways I can build him up and not be another shit women staining his self esteem and pride.",,20,Imaginary_Cupcake214,2024-01-07 07:45:57 +RedPillWomen,1901m9j,What changes have you seen in your man since RP?,"I’m just curious what long term changes you’ve noticed in him by implementing RP practices. Like does he pay more attention to your needs or get your door more often, small things like that. I know we can only change ourselves, but I’m wondering how that affects his actions.",,26,Hang_your_halo,2024-01-06 14:52:22 RedPillWomen,190j9jg,Need advice on work relationship,"This is a throw away account, but I (34f) have been coming here to read advice for about 7 years and taken a lot of the philosophy to heart. For sure it helped me win my husband over while we were dating. And also gave me freedom in a lot of ways. My husband (37m) and I have been married 5 years. We have two children and an idealic life. I don't have many complaints about my husband. @@ -1318,14 +1318,14 @@ I have started looking for another job, but cannot find anything close to what I My feelings have been slowly developing for this guy at work for about two years, so this isn't new. In a few weeks I'm suppose to travel across the country with him and meet the rest of my team for a week. I wouldn't sleep with him or anything like that, but I am feeling guilty about looking forward to the conversations I'll get to have with him. Like it's an indulgence. He values my perspective, treats me with respect, sincerely apologizes when he messes up, and teaches me a lot about our industry. And he shows up. You know the ""if he wanted to he would"" man? This guy is always surprising me by how he's willing to show up without me asking. He matches my passion to go a good job. -We do have unspoken boundaries: we do not touch, ever. We don't even stand close to each other, unless we have too. We don't text/message each other unless it's about work during working hours. We rarely chat about not work topics unless we are traveling somewhere together. Then we indugle in philosophy and moral discussions. We don't talk about our personal lives that much and we never disparage our spouses. (We rarely mention them, I didnt even know his wife's name for over a year.) So we aren't doing anything wrong, that I can pinpoint. Its just my feelings getting in the way of things and I'm not sure how to fix it. What would you do if you were me?",,2,Anon012024,1704600620.0 +We do have unspoken boundaries: we do not touch, ever. We don't even stand close to each other, unless we have too. We don't text/message each other unless it's about work during working hours. We rarely chat about not work topics unless we are traveling somewhere together. Then we indugle in philosophy and moral discussions. We don't talk about our personal lives that much and we never disparage our spouses. (We rarely mention them, I didnt even know his wife's name for over a year.) So we aren't doing anything wrong, that I can pinpoint. Its just my feelings getting in the way of things and I'm not sure how to fix it. What would you do if you were me?",,2,Anon012024,2024-01-07 04:10:20 RedPillWomen,18zt2pk,Want kids before 30 but BF wants to wait,"Hi all. I’m 28(F) dating 28(M). We’ve been together 5 months and I asked him a week ago when he sees himself having kids. He’s told me before he wants marriage and a family. He said that he doesn’t want to be a young dad, and would want to be in his thirties for his first and be more financially stable and enjoy marriage first before kids. I understand this but ideally would want my first child by at least 30. I said by 33 I want to be a mom, and he said that’s not that far away. I have had a miscarriage before in an abusive relationship and want children more than anything, and know it’s more risk the older you get. My miscarriage was due to the stress of the abuse. I’m not established in my career yet due to layoffs and neither is he, so I very much see his point. However I love him very much, feel he is my person, and absolutely adore him and we agree on everything in life. But I don’t know what to do as I want to be a mom more than anything; but don’t want to start having kids mid thirties. -Thoughts?",,14,snootfly242,1704520870.0 +Thoughts?",,14,snootfly242,2024-01-06 06:01:10 RedPillWomen,1906t4a,Moving in with boyfriend,"My(28F) boyfriend(27M) wants us to move in History of us: We met in University, we do Master program. Become exclusive after 3 months dating ( after my push) @@ -1340,15 +1340,15 @@ His apartment, he used to live with his ex 1.3 year ago, and I dont like to move I also expect engagement before moving in How to put these argument in a subtle feminine way to encourage him to do more in relationship, and reject the idea of moving in? -( he is Germany, and I am Asian - to add more cultural perspective)",,2,Lopsided-Kale-193,1704566579.0 -RedPillWomen,18zpjk1,At what point does nun mode become redundant?,"I am revisiting RPW at 26, I admittedly have ignored rpw advice for a bit because I thought I was young and had all the time. I'm 26 now and have always dreamed of having a husband and 6 children and I'm getting very worried about my increasing age, especially considering I am NOWHERE NEAR ready to date, I actually need to break something off right now. I have never truly committed to a nun mode despite being advised to many times over by multiple different parties who don't even KNOW each other. I want to finally buckle down and do nun mode, and for as long as I possibly can without being unrealistic for the type of family I aspire to (I worry about running out of time for my body clock during this time I need BADLY to heal and don't want to skimp on this healing whatsoever!)-- even before I approached this time, though, I always wondered at what amount of time does being in nun mode start to backfire because you're not dropping your hankerch. I rven wonder for ""normal"" women who aren't as far gone as me, like 18 year olds or rpw followers of *any* age who have followed an average or more amount of rpw advice in her life, intentionally or not. I know there has to be a certain amount of time that starts to turn into what one would call, ""cat lady"" territory. What should I do for my situation, and what would you advise most rpw to use as the ""cutoff"" for nun mode? I know the wiki says a minimum is 6 months, but there has to be a maximum before you start looking like a, ""I dont need a man"" woman whether you mean to or not, and start sabotaging your future because your sense of allocated time is skewed ",,0,curiousrpwlurker,1704509598.0 +( he is Germany, and I am Asian - to add more cultural perspective)",,2,Lopsided-Kale-193,2024-01-06 18:42:59 +RedPillWomen,18zpjk1,At what point does nun mode become redundant?,"I am revisiting RPW at 26, I admittedly have ignored rpw advice for a bit because I thought I was young and had all the time. I'm 26 now and have always dreamed of having a husband and 6 children and I'm getting very worried about my increasing age, especially considering I am NOWHERE NEAR ready to date, I actually need to break something off right now. I have never truly committed to a nun mode despite being advised to many times over by multiple different parties who don't even KNOW each other. I want to finally buckle down and do nun mode, and for as long as I possibly can without being unrealistic for the type of family I aspire to (I worry about running out of time for my body clock during this time I need BADLY to heal and don't want to skimp on this healing whatsoever!)-- even before I approached this time, though, I always wondered at what amount of time does being in nun mode start to backfire because you're not dropping your hankerch. I rven wonder for ""normal"" women who aren't as far gone as me, like 18 year olds or rpw followers of *any* age who have followed an average or more amount of rpw advice in her life, intentionally or not. I know there has to be a certain amount of time that starts to turn into what one would call, ""cat lady"" territory. What should I do for my situation, and what would you advise most rpw to use as the ""cutoff"" for nun mode? I know the wiki says a minimum is 6 months, but there has to be a maximum before you start looking like a, ""I dont need a man"" woman whether you mean to or not, and start sabotaging your future because your sense of allocated time is skewed ",,0,curiousrpwlurker,2024-01-06 02:53:18 RedPillWomen,18ykqjy,Book Recommendation,"Hello all! There's posts from time to time about women wanting to encourage other women in their life to look into RPW; while that's understandably cautioned against, I'd maybe recommend this book as a subtle entry point. [https://www.amazon.com/Foot-Too-Big-Glass-Slipper/dp/1451692668](https://www.amazon.com/Foot-Too-Big-Glass-Slipper/dp/1451692668) This is a book by Gabrielle Reece about her marrriage. A lot of the things she suggests are RPW approved, such as cheerfully greeting her husband when he gets home, letting him be a man and lead, and regularly initiating sex. It also talks about the importance of women maintaining their own physical health with exercise and diet. -Given that this is written by a successful professional athlete, and it isn't openly RP, I think this might be a decent introduction for skeptical friends! I also just really enjoyed reading the book, so I wanted to recommend it to the community. ",,12,Valuable_Place1265,1704394505.0 +Given that this is written by a successful professional athlete, and it isn't openly RP, I think this might be a decent introduction for skeptical friends! I also just really enjoyed reading the book, so I wanted to recommend it to the community. ",,12,Valuable_Place1265,2024-01-04 18:55:05 RedPillWomen,18yj0d8,3 Act Journey,"A few recent posts from younger women got me thinking about a woman's journey regarding relationships. The choices one makes can profoundly alter one's path in life. I found it challenging to conceptualize, having never been a woman. Though most of us experience a relatively pedestrian journey, the 'choices in love' we make as we enter adulthood can alter our trajectory in life. Here's a classic formula for a 3 Act storyline. @@ -1393,11 +1393,11 @@ In my experience, most people tend to lead relatively pedestrian lives without d How does a career factor into this? It's a slow grind upwards to higher levels of grind. Lots of adversity and growth. Some make this their primary journey. Family isn't for everyone. -What's your take on this? Have you experienced any dark chapters in your journey? Did you have the benefit of strong mentors or role models to help you avoid learning things the hard way? Do you know any people who have experienced a dramatic fall from grace?",,14,RedPillDad,1704390308.0 +What's your take on this? Have you experienced any dark chapters in your journey? Did you have the benefit of strong mentors or role models to help you avoid learning things the hard way? Do you know any people who have experienced a dramatic fall from grace?",,14,RedPillDad,2024-01-04 17:45:08 RedPillWomen,18yll0e,Is it normal to struggle at implementing RPW tools?,"I've discovered RPW in the past couple of months and I've been working on implementing its tools with mixed results. I've done much better than before thanks to it, but I am still having points where I'm a shrew like my mother was before I catch myself. It came to a head last night when I held in my feelings too long and blew up at him, disrespecting him and doing the opposite of bringing his life peace. -I'm feeling discouraged and am wondering if it's normal to not succeed at implementing RPW tools at first.",,9,JustAnotherBoymoder,1704396575.0 -RedPillWomen,18y6f4i,Want kids but bf is poor,"I’m 35F and running out of time to have kids. My bf is red pilled, sweet, fun, smart, loyal, and sexually attractive. The only problem is I make more money than he does. He works but he’s in a dead end job. Ugh I hate it so much. It makes me feel manly. He hates it too and feels emasculated. We don’t talk about it a lot bc it’s such a sore subject. Should I cut my losses and run? Or try to “inspire” him via “feminine energy” to find a new career field?",,43,ColeIsBae,1704349765.0 +I'm feeling discouraged and am wondering if it's normal to not succeed at implementing RPW tools at first.",,9,JustAnotherBoymoder,2024-01-04 19:29:35 +RedPillWomen,18y6f4i,Want kids but bf is poor,"I’m 35F and running out of time to have kids. My bf is red pilled, sweet, fun, smart, loyal, and sexually attractive. The only problem is I make more money than he does. He works but he’s in a dead end job. Ugh I hate it so much. It makes me feel manly. He hates it too and feels emasculated. We don’t talk about it a lot bc it’s such a sore subject. Should I cut my losses and run? Or try to “inspire” him via “feminine energy” to find a new career field?",,43,ColeIsBae,2024-01-04 06:29:25 RedPillWomen,18y1caq,Do any other new comers feel 'silly'?,"Over the past 2 years or so I've been slowly transitioning to looking more feminine (acting more feminine is still a work in progress), but now that ive found red pill ideology i cant help but feel a bit silly that I even want to implement these tactics to become a ""better"" woman/partner I wouldnt say i was ever blue pill necessarily, but i do come from years of the mindset that I am good enough just the way I am, and if a man cant accept that then he isnt the right man for me @@ -1406,15 +1406,15 @@ Im sure there is some truth to this statement but the 'way i was' included no ma So here i am looking for ways to improve myself but I feel like im being a sell-out or compromising my personal integrity 'for a man'. The whole thing feels shallow, but I dont want it to. -Any advice or words of wisdom?",,18,[deleted],1704334152.0 -RedPillWomen,18yfdhy,Talking to first red pill guy,Hey just looking for some advice. I met an amazing guy a few weeks ago in like somewhere he struck up conversation and we ended up exchanging phone numbers. The first time we hung out after that I actually met his parents and some family friends. We spent like 10 hours together and then he asked me to spend NYE with he and his friends the next day. So far things going well until I was with him yesterday and mentioned something about my guy friends and he started talking about how that’s a red flag and all this. We had a really long 4 hour conversation about relationships and it was immediately clear to me he’s definitely an Andrew Tate mentality red pill guy. Which I’m completely fine with honestly but I feel like I messed up big time bringing up my guy friends and need some tips on how to show him I can be the red pill girl he wants. He is a gentleman has a good job and we are so similar on so many levels I could really see my self marrying this person and don’t want to mess it up. Just please any advice would be helpful,,0,CranberryElegant8675,1704381066.0 +Any advice or words of wisdom?",,18,[deleted],2024-01-04 02:09:12 +RedPillWomen,18yfdhy,Talking to first red pill guy,Hey just looking for some advice. I met an amazing guy a few weeks ago in like somewhere he struck up conversation and we ended up exchanging phone numbers. The first time we hung out after that I actually met his parents and some family friends. We spent like 10 hours together and then he asked me to spend NYE with he and his friends the next day. So far things going well until I was with him yesterday and mentioned something about my guy friends and he started talking about how that’s a red flag and all this. We had a really long 4 hour conversation about relationships and it was immediately clear to me he’s definitely an Andrew Tate mentality red pill guy. Which I’m completely fine with honestly but I feel like I messed up big time bringing up my guy friends and need some tips on how to show him I can be the red pill girl he wants. He is a gentleman has a good job and we are so similar on so many levels I could really see my self marrying this person and don’t want to mess it up. Just please any advice would be helpful,,0,CranberryElegant8675,2024-01-04 15:11:06 RedPillWomen,18xxb0x,F23 seeking advice on attracting the right partner,"Hey, fellow Redditors! So, I'm 23, and I've got this whole family and kids thing on my mind. But here's the scoop: I seem to attract guys I'm not into, and the ones I want – you know, honest, hardworking, respectful, in good shape – either aren't feeling it or aren't up for a relationship. People say I'm attractive, and I get random compliments from men,women,kids. I had the thought that I have to be a better person to attract the right kind of guy. But I feel like no matter how much I improve myself it is not enough. Am I really that broken? Is something else wrong with me? Now, here's the dilemma: should I lower my standards and settle for someone just to be in a relationship? The last guy I dated was generous and hardworking, in a good shape but super avoidant. I dated him for a year and I feel like I was never taken seriously when I talk about my needs and that he couldn't care less. Had to bounce for the sake of my sanity and self-worth. Currently, I'm with a chill guy who's easy to get along with, has self-control, but, does drugs sometimes and skips the gym. Mixed bag, right? -I keep hearing advice about focusing on myself, but when I'm caught up in my own stuff, when the heck do I find time to meet people and go on dates? Feeling the ticking clock, y'all, and wondering if I'm running out of time. Any advice or similar experiences out there? Share your wisdom please 🤔🙌",,9,Virtual-Locksmith294,1704323743.0 +I keep hearing advice about focusing on myself, but when I'm caught up in my own stuff, when the heck do I find time to meet people and go on dates? Feeling the ticking clock, y'all, and wondering if I'm running out of time. Any advice or similar experiences out there? Share your wisdom please 🤔🙌",,9,Virtual-Locksmith294,2024-01-03 23:15:43 RedPillWomen,18wzazi,Relationship Prioritization,"There have been recent posts on other subs that I’ve seen from women who are upset that their married friends don’t prioritize their friendship once married. A recent post actually said that she was “sick of married women always prioritizing their husbands over their friends.” I feel for those women and can understand that loosing a friend, no matter the reason, can be a painful experience. But, I’m also completely on the other side. When I got married, my husband became (and remains) my #1 priority. My family is my #1 priority and there is no one that comes before them. @@ -1427,11 +1427,11 @@ But, I wanted to hear your thoughts and the RP perspective on this. If you’re married, how did your friendships and priorities change after marriage? How did you feel about that? Do you have any regrets? -If you’re single, but experienced this from the other side, how did it make you feel to see those friendships change/fade? Did you blame the woman or her marriage for those changes?",,26,robikn22,1704227091.0 -RedPillWomen,18xquno,Men don't care about women with high body count if they are attractive,"you dont need to be smart to point out that, but if a woman is really beautiful, they won't care about their past since men are visual creatures, it's just a cope that they care about a woman not being promiscuous. That's why onlyfans women if they're beautiful, there are a lot of men courting them, and wanting to marry them..",,0,thatblackhair,1704308210.0 +If you’re single, but experienced this from the other side, how did it make you feel to see those friendships change/fade? Did you blame the woman or her marriage for those changes?",,26,robikn22,2024-01-02 20:24:51 +RedPillWomen,18xquno,Men don't care about women with high body count if they are attractive,"you dont need to be smart to point out that, but if a woman is really beautiful, they won't care about their past since men are visual creatures, it's just a cope that they care about a woman not being promiscuous. That's why onlyfans women if they're beautiful, there are a lot of men courting them, and wanting to marry them..",,0,thatblackhair,2024-01-03 18:56:50 RedPillWomen,18vsprs,Where can I go to find a man who is open to me being a stay at home wife?,"If and when I have kids, I want to raise them. I want to be there for them for at least the first 4 to 5 years of their life, that's when they need you. From a developmental perspective it's insane that we (americans) leave new born children with strangers and go back to work. Honestly this might be what's responsible for many of the ills in modern American society. -Finding a guy who is like minded about this seems unlikely. They will label me a gold digger, or not being feminist since i have prioritized my role as a mother over my role as a worker. I'm not religious and would prefer to not be with someone religious, however I feel this demographic might be my best hope. Willing to move abroad as well. Thoughts?",,51,Quirky-Schedule-6788,1704098743.0 +Finding a guy who is like minded about this seems unlikely. They will label me a gold digger, or not being feminist since i have prioritized my role as a mother over my role as a worker. I'm not religious and would prefer to not be with someone religious, however I feel this demographic might be my best hope. Willing to move abroad as well. Thoughts?",,51,Quirky-Schedule-6788,2024-01-01 08:45:43 RedPillWomen,18vetz2,I Asked My Husband to Pay Me a $1 an Hour to Clean,"###The Problem: I don't keep a neat enough house. We have a lovely home that my husband has earned us, and I simply don't do it justice. Now I have a lot of excuses for this, of which an energetic toddler and clingy one year old are at the top. But there's no getting around the fact that a messy house makes life less pleasant for all of us. @@ -1452,7 +1452,7 @@ The greatest point of satisfaction for me has come from tracking the data. I ori My time management is better. At first, I didn't really know how long everything took. Now, I know that no matter how messy the dishes may look, I can unload a dishwasher, partially load it, and hand wash a couple of the big items in just fifteen minutes. Tasks seem more doable. I track my average amount of time spent cleaning by the month, and have noticed how many minutes I need to spend per week for the house to mostly feel in order. The difference between a bad week or a great one is often only a few hours. -Identifying an aspect of our lives that needed improvement, coming up with an idea that feels as though we both got our way, and seeing it come to fruition was a major win. I've enjoyed becoming a bit more self-reliant in my chores and in my emotional regulation. It's very uplifting to witness how much power I have to improve the lives of my family. Going forward, we've decided to try to replicate our success here with a challenge to restrict screen time for myself and the kids. We hope to see similar results.",,48,ArkNemesis00,1704050162.0 +Identifying an aspect of our lives that needed improvement, coming up with an idea that feels as though we both got our way, and seeing it come to fruition was a major win. I've enjoyed becoming a bit more self-reliant in my chores and in my emotional regulation. It's very uplifting to witness how much power I have to improve the lives of my family. Going forward, we've decided to try to replicate our success here with a challenge to restrict screen time for myself and the kids. We hope to see similar results.",,48,ArkNemesis00,2023-12-31 19:16:02 RedPillWomen,18vkp21,What would you do?,"I apologize in advance for the long read.. my life is crumbling. I need advice… or tough love. I was raised in traditional Christian home. I come from a large family, so I was always surrounded with successful loving marriages. I knew from a very young age that my purpose in life was to be a serving wife, first and foremost, and a mother soon after. @@ -1469,7 +1469,7 @@ Throughout the last two years I called off the wedding and I’d threaten to lea Nothing was changing. His habits all stayed the same. So, in November, I finally left him. I took our son, and moved into my parents. A week later, I found out I was pregnant. And now crumbling. I’m raising a one year old on my own while dealing with a horribly nauseous pregnancy. We have no money to our name. My husband barely worked. He is a trust fund baby of sorts. But he made sure to open up his own bank account when I left him so we couldn’t use any of his parents money. I don’t know where to go from here. My family is really supportive. But i don’t know anyone who would want to raise two kids alone. Especially not me. Being a a wife was my dream. I love my kids. But my kids will grow up and raise families of their own. Who will I have? I feel like I have nothing to offer anyone now. My husband made sure to tell me that as well. -What would you do if you were in my position?",,7,Looseforbiden,1704067943.0 +What would you do if you were in my position?",,7,Looseforbiden,2024-01-01 00:12:23 RedPillWomen,18ud5gs,should I pick the guy I love or the guy that loves me?,"I'm 22 and I've been seeing someone I really like for the past 4 months, we met after days of breaking up with my ex. this guy, he's 25, we get along really well, we have crazy chemistry, we can talk for hours about everything and anything and not get bored, he makes me feel like the prettiest girl in the world, but he's still hesitant about the concept of marriage, haven't told his family about me because he has some problems with them and, is still studying so he doesn't know where he would be in the next 5 years so it's harder for him to include me in a future he's not certain about @@ -1482,12 +1482,12 @@ I'm afraid that I'll regret not getting back to him once the guy I'm talking to please help, I know no one can make this decision for me, but any insight is highly appreciated -&#x200B;",,14,[deleted],1703933637.0 +&#x200B;",,14,[deleted],2023-12-30 10:53:57 RedPillWomen,18uag8w,Red Pill Origins,"I'm very curious to learn about the origins of RP and RPW theory. When and how did it become a ""movement""/clear theory? Who established it? I understand that it's based on objective truths that you could say are timeless, but that's not really the answer I'm after. I've looked through the wiki and there doesn't seem to be any info on where this all came from. Do any of you out there know? Or can point me to resources that go onto it? -Edit: Thank you to everyone who replied! ",,13,FancyPants882,1703922818.0 +Edit: Thank you to everyone who replied! ",,13,FancyPants882,2023-12-30 07:53:38 RedPillWomen,18u6a0k,Dating,"TW: Sexual Assault Rape, herpes, drugs Im 29 years old and I never really dated seriously for several reasons. I was raised by my fairly conservative catholic grandparents from the age of 3 years old and grew up pretty sheltered, while the topic of sex was discussed and my grandparents let me know they didn’t approve of promiscuity in part due to my aunt getting pregnant at 17. My grandparents never kicked out my aunt but rather she lived in the spare bedroom and her baby daddy of course didn’t stick around she eventually meet my uncle shortly after and they have 5 kids all adults now and have been married for a little over 30 years. @@ -1505,7 +1505,7 @@ I am now 29, hoping to settle down hopefully have a long term relationship and p I’m on bumble and tried a STD dating site but was some reason kicked off. So I’m not sure how to go about dating? I’m also in therapy. I do have abandonment and codependency issues anxiety and depression. My parents are divorced and was placed with my grandparents due to my dads drug use he now sober. My mom I don’t really have a relationship with. My stepmom I do but she struggles with addiction as well. I have sisters including a twin who only had 2 bfs, my older sisters are happily married but we grew up apart have different moms. I’m working on reconnecting with them. -I’m hoping I can find a good man despite my lower SMV.",,10,Legitimate-Market363,1703908634.0 +I’m hoping I can find a good man despite my lower SMV.",,10,Legitimate-Market363,2023-12-30 03:57:14 RedPillWomen,18u5h8b,in love with a narcissist?,"hi guys, My ex is abusive & im pretty sure a narcissist & i still want him to love me… @@ -1547,9 +1547,9 @@ how would a redpill girl handle this? i obviously did a horrible job at vetting and setting boundaries and my heart is wayy to involved. i want to be happily married with a family and a man that loves me that i can completely trust and respect his choices. i don’t ever want to feel so invaluable again. i can’t really afford to waste more time on this man (24F) because i feel like it will take me forever to heal. -what can i do?",,5,sarahharttt,1703906094.0 -RedPillWomen,18txkkj,Birth Control Advice,"My boyfriend and I have a good sex life. We both have a high sex drive so any time one of us wants to have sex the other never is “not in the mood”. I really value our sexual chemistry. Neither of us like condoms, so the obvious alternative is birth control. But there isn’t a non-hormonal birth control for women that I’m aware of besides just using condoms. I’ve taken the pill before in high school because my period was irregular and my hormones were crazy with cramps and PMS. It helped me to be more regular but it really killed my sex drive. My period is regular and my cramps are normal now too that I’m older, but I don’t want to sacrifice my sex drive for birth control. The only one I’ll consider is nexplanon because the IUD is too invasive for my preferences and the pill and shot are too easy for me to make a mistake with. The only thing else I have considered is asking my boyfriend about a vasectomy since it’s reversible but I don’t know if he’d be open to it. Seems like a big ask. And a bit hypocritical since it’s invasive and I didn’t want an invasive procedure either. Any experience / advice?",,1,Fantastic-Ear-7164,1703884272.0 -RedPillWomen,18skq7d,Do men really enjoy providing or a coverup?,,,79,kroshkamoya,1703736850.0 +what can i do?",,5,sarahharttt,2023-12-30 03:14:54 +RedPillWomen,18txkkj,Birth Control Advice,"My boyfriend and I have a good sex life. We both have a high sex drive so any time one of us wants to have sex the other never is “not in the mood”. I really value our sexual chemistry. Neither of us like condoms, so the obvious alternative is birth control. But there isn’t a non-hormonal birth control for women that I’m aware of besides just using condoms. I’ve taken the pill before in high school because my period was irregular and my hormones were crazy with cramps and PMS. It helped me to be more regular but it really killed my sex drive. My period is regular and my cramps are normal now too that I’m older, but I don’t want to sacrifice my sex drive for birth control. The only one I’ll consider is nexplanon because the IUD is too invasive for my preferences and the pill and shot are too easy for me to make a mistake with. The only thing else I have considered is asking my boyfriend about a vasectomy since it’s reversible but I don’t know if he’d be open to it. Seems like a big ask. And a bit hypocritical since it’s invasive and I didn’t want an invasive procedure either. Any experience / advice?",,1,Fantastic-Ear-7164,2023-12-29 21:11:12 +RedPillWomen,18skq7d,Do men really enjoy providing or a coverup?,,,79,kroshkamoya,2023-12-28 04:14:10 RedPillWomen,18sybvm,Navigating the Leadership Landscape,"Although 'leader' is a general term, it encompasses various distinct leadership styles, each characterized by unique approaches and qualities. Transformational Leadership:A transformative leader in a traditional relationship is akin to a visionary captain steering a ship towards uncharted horizons. He inspires growth and positive change, fostering an environment where both partners can flourish and evolve. The transformative leader aims to elevate the relationship to new heights, creating a shared vision of a harmonious and fulfilling life together. @@ -1562,7 +1562,7 @@ Transactional Leadership:Similar to a seasoned trader navigating the ebb and flo Participative Leadership:In a traditional relationship, the participative leader is like a wise council seeking input from all members. He values collaboration and inclusivity, fostering an environment where both partners actively contribute to decision-making. This leader believes in shared ownership, creating a relationship that thrives on the collective wisdom of both individuals. -Servant Leadership:The servant leader in a traditional relationship embodies the spirit of a caring steward. He prioritizes the well-being and happiness of his family, finding joy in selflessly supporting and nurturing his significant other. This leader creates an environment where mutual service and support define the essence of the relationship.",,5,Objective_School_738,1703781921.0 +Servant Leadership:The servant leader in a traditional relationship embodies the spirit of a caring steward. He prioritizes the well-being and happiness of his family, finding joy in selflessly supporting and nurturing his significant other. This leader creates an environment where mutual service and support define the essence of the relationship.",,5,Objective_School_738,2023-12-28 16:45:21 RedPillWomen,18sqpza,Should I give up on the apps?,"Ive been using dating apps for 2 years now, almost 3 with no success. The guys i meet dont seem interested in a commitment, at least not with me. And ive only met two of these guys through friends, although the experiences wasnt much better. My experiences in dating have not been good and are honestly making me feel bad in general. I live a pretty stress free life, i dont have drama at work, school, with friends or family. The only thing I am worried about is school but it doesn’t drain me as much as dating has. It’s making me question if i am just not good enough for commitment at all, also considering on just giving up on dating and finding love in general. Although i dont *want* to do that. I’m trying my best when it comes to this. Im attractive and fit, i try my best to give them compliments on their looks and their interests/work, i try to communicate although ive given up on that now cause they don’t seem to care or like when i do this lol but when i did , i would try to ask questions and understand why they did what they did or thought the way they did, i would reassure them it was okay for them to be honest (cause sometimes i thought they were unsure if they could be), i try my best to use “I” statements if you have heard of that or know about that. I wouldn’t complain to them about things going on in my life, i mean again theres not too much to complain about but even if i did have something, i didn’t talk about it in detail. So i don’t believe I was adding stress to their life. None of them took me on real dates, they either said they would and didnt, or just invited me over to their place, or took me on one or two and that was all. Ive been here before so i know cook and cleaning for a man is important to getting him to commit but ive also heard that i should be doing this for a man whose not taking me on dates or showing effort. Yet doing that seems to be only way I can think about to get them to show effort. But i also dont want to do it myself, i feel its more for when things are getting serious or are serious and I probably wouldnt do it on a regular basis until there was a commitment and we lived together. Ive also tried lowering my standards on looks several times and recently resorted to just swiping on every guy, cause I couldn’t tell if i was just going beyond my league. Can’t tell if that will help yet. @@ -1570,17 +1570,17 @@ I’m trying my best when it comes to this. Im attractive and fit, i try my best Basically I’ve tried hard. But none of it seems to work and im not meeting guys who just naturally want to take me on real dates or commit. And i dont have issue with getting a second, third, fourth “date” and so on. Just real dates. And cant tell if thats because they want sex or not. So i cant discern if its just that i am meet the wrong guys or if i am just not doing enough or if im just not enough in general. Ive also asked two guys (the only ones i felt comfortable asking) that ive talked to for feedback, one said he wanted someone more solid and he wasn’t sure about my drive but he was also very mean and so i didnt know if i should take what he said as genuine advice, the other guy was seemingly infatuated with me or love bombing so he said nothing was wrong with me. So should I get off the apps? Or Should I be doing more? -If anyone wants to hear more about the situation, and give me advice that would be very, very, very much appreciated. Although i would only like to do it privately if thats alright. If not then that is fine and any advice would be helpful. Thank you.",,3,[deleted],1703758745.0 +If anyone wants to hear more about the situation, and give me advice that would be very, very, very much appreciated. Although i would only like to do it privately if thats alright. If not then that is fine and any advice would be helpful. Thank you.",,3,[deleted],2023-12-28 10:19:05 RedPillWomen,18shn1k,You RPW are worth finding!,"The women who try and run the show kill any attraction to their femininity. As a guy (46) I am at a rough spot in that a serious injury has slowed me down hard for about half a year. The feminine impulses to support and encourage are a super power. When men watch a movie where the hero gets patched up and sewn up so they can take on the world speak to our soul. Sounds quaint, but learn how to care for an injury. Not a “man cold”, but an injury. -You can make us feel like we can take on the world. And if you make us feel that way we’ll want to take on the world for you.",,15,vydgj42,1703727697.0 +You can make us feel like we can take on the world. And if you make us feel that way we’ll want to take on the world for you.",,15,vydgj42,2023-12-28 01:41:37 RedPillWomen,18scx1c,His mom loves me! But she said he needs a leader…unsure of what to feel.,"I’ve been dating my boyfriend (24m, 24f) for over a year now and thankfully, his mom loves me. I love her too! She’s so kind and sweet and compliments me all the time. One day she took me aside and told me how happy she is we’ve found each other and how she’ll always be there for us, help us in the future when grandkids are here haha, and was telling me how she sees all my beautiful characteristics and how hardworking and driven i am etc. It was all so sweet, until she started saying how my boyfriend needs a leader and she knows that’s me. She was saying it as a compliment but it kind of made me rethink things. I’m the one who wants a leader, I don’t want to be the leader. She said how she knows im the reason he wants to pursue grad school now, she sees how much I help him, and how that’s always been her role but now that he’s an adult he doesn’t need mom now, he needs a partner that’ll lead him and that’s me. She mentioned how he always needs a push but once he’s doing something, he will excel (which is true!). However hearing it said like this kind of freaked me out 😭 -Am I overthinking things or is it possible to still be in a red pill minded relationship in a situation like this? I don’t want to be the one doing all the heavy lifting..I’d like to be led too.",,9,vinesandflowers,1703715523.0 +Am I overthinking things or is it possible to still be in a red pill minded relationship in a situation like this? I don’t want to be the one doing all the heavy lifting..I’d like to be led too.",,9,vinesandflowers,2023-12-27 22:18:43 RedPillWomen,18s87bu,Man who is not leading and what to say?,"Hi all, Question… what do you say when you want to politely break it off with a man who is not leading properly? @@ -1595,13 +1595,13 @@ Even with our first kiss, I could tell that he wanted to kiss me... We were joki Another thing is that I found his TikTok account and he is following hundreds of thousands of “thirst trap” accounts. He’s 39 years old! To me, that is a huge turn off and I do not want to continue. -What would you guys say? I guess I could give a vague text, but I am the type of person who wants to give a reason because that’s what I would want if someone was breaking it off with me…",,5,Original-Possible238,1703703585.0 -RedPillWomen,18rlu9v,He doesn’t want to have conversation with me,"I love my boyfriend very very much. In almost every single aspect of our relationship he’s wonderful and perfect and goes above and beyond in making me feel loved and interactions are reciprocated. But conversationally he loooves to talk. And I love to listen, he’s engaging and interesting and I love him and anything he wants to talk about I love the excuse to bond with him and get to know him better. I always get super into whatever he’s chatting about and ask him a lot of questions and he loves it, and I love that he feels heard and engaged. But he rarely asks me questions, and when I speak up and tell him things about my day, my interests, what I’m focusing on, et cetera he shows little interest and doesn’t usually have much to say about it, “cool” “nice, babe”. I know he cares about me but I don’t know how to improve this. He says he cares about what I want to talk about but I don’t know, it doesn’t feel like it. I don’t want to just argue or say “you don’t listen!!” But like, what do I do instead?",,17,Fantastic-Ear-7164,1703634145.0 +What would you guys say? I guess I could give a vague text, but I am the type of person who wants to give a reason because that’s what I would want if someone was breaking it off with me…",,5,Original-Possible238,2023-12-27 18:59:45 +RedPillWomen,18rlu9v,He doesn’t want to have conversation with me,"I love my boyfriend very very much. In almost every single aspect of our relationship he’s wonderful and perfect and goes above and beyond in making me feel loved and interactions are reciprocated. But conversationally he loooves to talk. And I love to listen, he’s engaging and interesting and I love him and anything he wants to talk about I love the excuse to bond with him and get to know him better. I always get super into whatever he’s chatting about and ask him a lot of questions and he loves it, and I love that he feels heard and engaged. But he rarely asks me questions, and when I speak up and tell him things about my day, my interests, what I’m focusing on, et cetera he shows little interest and doesn’t usually have much to say about it, “cool” “nice, babe”. I know he cares about me but I don’t know how to improve this. He says he cares about what I want to talk about but I don’t know, it doesn’t feel like it. I don’t want to just argue or say “you don’t listen!!” But like, what do I do instead?",,17,Fantastic-Ear-7164,2023-12-26 23:42:25 RedPillWomen,18rlwt7,My 30M boyfriend is always upset about smth when we travel,"So my 30F bf has this frequent moodswings when we travel. I hate it. It really bumms me out to see him like that. I tried cheering him up but he gets in these sensitive moods, sometimes getting jealous or annoyed by other people checking me out and stuff like that. -Is there a way to improve his mood or is this a lost cause?",,10,lilsweetcake,1703634335.0 -RedPillWomen,18qzkth,What’s a good body count at almost 30?,"I’m wondering, since i’m feeling a bit insecure about having three guys i’ve slept with at 28.",,6,[deleted],1703564598.0 -RedPillWomen,18qy61j,Attraction towards a non compatible man,"I’m a 29F who just moved to a different country by myself. I’m single and know exactly the kind of men I’d be compatible with. However I seem to be attracted to this 20 year old guy who works at the local cafe. He’s sweet, but I can tell we’re very different and we simply wouldn’t make sense together. I also prefer older men in general but for some reason I can’t get this guy off my mind. What do you suggest I do?",,10,Global_Moose_1991,1703559986.0 +Is there a way to improve his mood or is this a lost cause?",,10,lilsweetcake,2023-12-26 23:45:35 +RedPillWomen,18qzkth,What’s a good body count at almost 30?,"I’m wondering, since i’m feeling a bit insecure about having three guys i’ve slept with at 28.",,6,[deleted],2023-12-26 04:23:18 +RedPillWomen,18qy61j,Attraction towards a non compatible man,"I’m a 29F who just moved to a different country by myself. I’m single and know exactly the kind of men I’d be compatible with. However I seem to be attracted to this 20 year old guy who works at the local cafe. He’s sweet, but I can tell we’re very different and we simply wouldn’t make sense together. I also prefer older men in general but for some reason I can’t get this guy off my mind. What do you suggest I do?",,10,Global_Moose_1991,2023-12-26 03:06:26 RedPillWomen,18qeym5,he doesn’t want me to solo travel and say it’s wrong. now i want to end relationship,"hello rpw, i’m working on myself and improving my confidence and want to start making solo dating more often thing. @@ -1614,7 +1614,7 @@ why it’s a problem now when i also want to do? i want to travel alone and more we have never travel together firstly even though i said i want to and again when i travel to spain few months ago to visit my sister he said to me ""i just hope that the fidelity is there."" so he thinks i cheat on him? -i don’t understand this and we not on the same page. he does not see the value in solo dating and how it makes me feel and me i don’t see the logic in his refusal for me to travel alone.",,20,velveteen08,1703494242.0 +i don’t understand this and we not on the same page. he does not see the value in solo dating and how it makes me feel and me i don’t see the logic in his refusal for me to travel alone.",,20,velveteen08,2023-12-25 08:50:42 RedPillWomen,18qd0wd,How should I (26F) proceed with my marriage to my husband (40M)?,"I want to divorce my husband who is 14 years older than I am, and I feel guilty about wanting to do so every day. I met my now husband 4 years ago through some mutual friends. I’m now 26, and he is 40. @@ -1637,18 +1637,18 @@ Despite everything I’ve mentioned, I also do love him and everything he does f I have no idea what to do, and would love to hear other people’s perspectives on this. I always have a feeling that even if I leave and find someone else, there’s going to be elements of a relationship that won’t be perfect. -Is it possible to get over this feeling of regret? Is grass really greener on the other side?",,21,[deleted],1703485489.0 +Is it possible to get over this feeling of regret? Is grass really greener on the other side?",,21,[deleted],2023-12-25 06:24:49 RedPillWomen,18oflo9,"Ladies, I wanted to get some objective advice on my current situation. I","Ladies, I wanted to get some objective advice on my current situation. I am a married woman with 2 kids, a toddler and a small baby. My husband and I have had a tough time because our latest baby was colic so there was constant crying and we had a really difficult first 6 months powering though. My husband is the provider and I have been at home with the kids mostly. My husband works hard and provides and I do everything else, which is in my eyes a lot and more than he does. I guess what makes it tough is that my husband doesn’t do anything else aside from working. He never cooks or takes the kids out so I can rest. I feel very burdened and over tired and resentful. At the same time I know my husband is working hard and is bringing in the money. An example: he didn’t sleep much because of having to work through the night and I didn’t sleep because our baby is waking up constantly and needs feedings. And yet he will sleep in in the morning letting me take care of everything while I am also exhausted. -Just fyi: I will also start a job in the new year as we are currently not making enough money. I am scared that I will then need to balance the job with also a lot of homemaking and kids.my husband has indicated he feels under appreciated and not respected by me which I know is not good. Is anyone in a similar situation? What did you do? Am I being crazy? I appreciate your feedback. Thanks ladies 🩷",,16,MiracleMorni,1703253689.0 +Just fyi: I will also start a job in the new year as we are currently not making enough money. I am scared that I will then need to balance the job with also a lot of homemaking and kids.my husband has indicated he feels under appreciated and not respected by me which I know is not good. Is anyone in a similar situation? What did you do? Am I being crazy? I appreciate your feedback. Thanks ladies 🩷",,16,MiracleMorni,2023-12-22 14:01:29 RedPillWomen,18o37r2,"""If he wanted to, he would""","Hi all. I've been lurking here for awhile. I'm mid-30s, have healed myself after a divorce and a really, *really* bad year last year, and I found this community. The philosophy and advice really seems like something I can naturally do, and I'm dating a man who really seems to respond to me being caring, building him up, etc. We've been together since April, official since June, and I met his daughter shortly after. He has majority custody of a 4yo daughter from a prior relationship, she and I get along well, he helps foster the relationship, and we both see me eventually having a caretaker role for her. But I need dating advice. I feel like a lot is geared towards young women dating for marriage. I'm open to marriage, but not especially interested in it again. Commitment yes, and the first few months with my bf felt great. But then his ex sued to gain custody, and he communicated he couldn't be around a lot until that got settled. We went from daily texting and weekly hangouts to seeing each other once a month (since Nov) with sporadic communications. I want to hang in there until his custody situation is settled, because I think he's a great man, and I hope we can return to the ""old us."" He appreciates that I give him space, that I reached out with Christmas presents for his daughter, that I don't pester for court details. But I'm not sure what to DO when we're not around each other or talking. How can I be supportive, a warm place for him to land, and take care of him when we're this distant? -I'm trying so hard to push away the toxic thoughts from most female communities, that say ""if he wanted to, he would."" They want the man to chase yet never get a reward. They think men should be texting us all the time, since it ""only"" takes 2 seconds. I LOVE to text, yet even I need breaks. And most advice towards step parents assumes they hate their man's kid, and want to get away, but I want to care for her so none of that advice works, either. So help, I just need reassurance and guidance. Thanks",,25,NoStuffTA,1703208946.0 -RedPillWomen,18o78kw,Is 3 years younger too big of an age difference?,"I am in a relationship with a wonderful high value man, but I come from a very traditional culture that typically frowns upon the man being younger. So I often get insecure and feel like our age gap is too much. I’m 27, he’s 24.",,0,sunflowwerjpg,1703222021.0 +I'm trying so hard to push away the toxic thoughts from most female communities, that say ""if he wanted to, he would."" They want the man to chase yet never get a reward. They think men should be texting us all the time, since it ""only"" takes 2 seconds. I LOVE to text, yet even I need breaks. And most advice towards step parents assumes they hate their man's kid, and want to get away, but I want to care for her so none of that advice works, either. So help, I just need reassurance and guidance. Thanks",,25,NoStuffTA,2023-12-22 01:35:46 +RedPillWomen,18o78kw,Is 3 years younger too big of an age difference?,"I am in a relationship with a wonderful high value man, but I come from a very traditional culture that typically frowns upon the man being younger. So I often get insecure and feel like our age gap is too much. I’m 27, he’s 24.",,0,sunflowwerjpg,2023-12-22 05:13:41 RedPillWomen,18njhzb,How do I (44F) Deflect Our Gift to His (44m) Niece (4F)?,"My husband's niece (S) has her 4^th birthday tomorrow. We bought her a bike as she was eyeing mine when they came by last. Some backstory, when I met S, she said that she loved me right away and told my in-laws that she wanted to be me when she grows up. We speak to them on video call daily (they're on the continent and we're in London) and her affection for me hasn't shown any signs of abating. @@ -1659,11 +1659,11 @@ Husband will present the bike to her when he visits as being from both of us, th The problem is not that hubby wants the credit - he couldn't care less, but that I want to give credit to the proper person. I've tried to deflect thanks and praise for the thoughtfulness of the gifts onto him, but S still doesn't get it. -Any ideas on how to make her realize that her younger uncle is extremely thoughtful and can serve as a good role model, even without me being there?",,4,LiteratureOk7716,1703152553.0 -RedPillWomen,18n83x5,I miss him TOO much💔 how to stop?,"I've been in a relationship for three years. (M25, F27) We lived together for a year. We are currently living apart again. I feel like I miss him more than he misses me… this is not how it should be! I'm not okay with it. I am constantly writing messages and calling… how to stop? what to do to make him miss me? I feel like I'm losing... I feel unattractive and abandoned...",,13,Available_Guidance45,1703113972.0 -RedPillWomen,18n1xin,Has anyone here saved themselves for marriage as a RPW? How did that work/not work for you whilst dating?,I’m going to be back in the dating pool eventually (I’m on the process of leaving my marriage) but would want to wait for marriage for sex. Is that even tolerated these days? What have your experiences of dating in 2023 and keeping sex off the table been like?,,30,littlemisslight,1703097913.0 -RedPillWomen,18nst13,How do you find a man to pay for you?,"All the men I meet are losers. They don’t want to be a man and pay for my rent and bills and other expenses. I’m tired of working. I want a provider. It’s just crazy cuz I know other women that date guys that pay for all their things like literally everything, my coworker literally gets sent rent money by her BF. But the guys I meet only pay for dates like when we go to a burger restaurant but I want to date a man that’ll be a man and pay for everything. I’m just over it. I feel like men aren’t men anymore. Maybe it’s because I’m only 27 but I’m not attracted to 50 year olds. The oldest I can date without gagging is probably 35 years old",,0,[deleted],1703181051.0 -RedPillWomen,18meye9,"More betrayal, now what?","My husband and I have had a lot of problems this year. We separated for about three months this summer, and then got back together. I had thrown myself into the Laura Doyle, empowered wife program and made some changes on my end and it really helped. I won’t say that I caused the majority of our problems, but the things I was doing were not helping. After we got back together, he told me that there had been another woman for a while but that was over and he was 100% committed to me. That killed me inside but I decided that I would just go ahead and keep trying. That was at the beginning of September, he has had several explosive episodes then, and reached out to her on her birthday, although he doesn’t know that I know that. When my birthday rolled around, he didn’t even say happy birthday to me let alone do anything for me. This past weekend, the kids and I went to my sisters to celebrate an early Christmas with my family. He did not want to go. I did not give him a hard time just said OK and left for three days. Not 12 hours after I’d been gone, he started calling the other woman. calls and texts went back-and-forth between them all weekend. I know this because I saw it on our Verizon app. I confronted him about it and ask him why he was doing that, and he cussed me up one side and down the other, told me not to come home and told me he was done and all sorts of other stuff. He was also drunk, so I just hung up and did not talk to him anymore. Yesterday when I was on the way back home, I received a pathetic apology text that just said he was out of line. Now, I feel heartbroken and dead inside if that is something that is actually physically possible. Now I don’t know what to do or what to feel. His family is gaslighting me bc I “just don’t understand how much stress he under”. He has got us in a mega financial bind and my kids Christmas will also be ruined as per usual. My daughter said yesterday that she just wanted to take our Christmas tree outside and burn it in the front yard. I know no one has a the magic solution.",,23,patchouliflowers,1703026294.0 +Any ideas on how to make her realize that her younger uncle is extremely thoughtful and can serve as a good role model, even without me being there?",,4,LiteratureOk7716,2023-12-21 09:55:53 +RedPillWomen,18n83x5,I miss him TOO much💔 how to stop?,"I've been in a relationship for three years. (M25, F27) We lived together for a year. We are currently living apart again. I feel like I miss him more than he misses me… this is not how it should be! I'm not okay with it. I am constantly writing messages and calling… how to stop? what to do to make him miss me? I feel like I'm losing... I feel unattractive and abandoned...",,13,Available_Guidance45,2023-12-20 23:12:52 +RedPillWomen,18n1xin,Has anyone here saved themselves for marriage as a RPW? How did that work/not work for you whilst dating?,I’m going to be back in the dating pool eventually (I’m on the process of leaving my marriage) but would want to wait for marriage for sex. Is that even tolerated these days? What have your experiences of dating in 2023 and keeping sex off the table been like?,,30,littlemisslight,2023-12-20 18:45:13 +RedPillWomen,18nst13,How do you find a man to pay for you?,"All the men I meet are losers. They don’t want to be a man and pay for my rent and bills and other expenses. I’m tired of working. I want a provider. It’s just crazy cuz I know other women that date guys that pay for all their things like literally everything, my coworker literally gets sent rent money by her BF. But the guys I meet only pay for dates like when we go to a burger restaurant but I want to date a man that’ll be a man and pay for everything. I’m just over it. I feel like men aren’t men anymore. Maybe it’s because I’m only 27 but I’m not attracted to 50 year olds. The oldest I can date without gagging is probably 35 years old",,0,[deleted],2023-12-21 17:50:51 +RedPillWomen,18meye9,"More betrayal, now what?","My husband and I have had a lot of problems this year. We separated for about three months this summer, and then got back together. I had thrown myself into the Laura Doyle, empowered wife program and made some changes on my end and it really helped. I won’t say that I caused the majority of our problems, but the things I was doing were not helping. After we got back together, he told me that there had been another woman for a while but that was over and he was 100% committed to me. That killed me inside but I decided that I would just go ahead and keep trying. That was at the beginning of September, he has had several explosive episodes then, and reached out to her on her birthday, although he doesn’t know that I know that. When my birthday rolled around, he didn’t even say happy birthday to me let alone do anything for me. This past weekend, the kids and I went to my sisters to celebrate an early Christmas with my family. He did not want to go. I did not give him a hard time just said OK and left for three days. Not 12 hours after I’d been gone, he started calling the other woman. calls and texts went back-and-forth between them all weekend. I know this because I saw it on our Verizon app. I confronted him about it and ask him why he was doing that, and he cussed me up one side and down the other, told me not to come home and told me he was done and all sorts of other stuff. He was also drunk, so I just hung up and did not talk to him anymore. Yesterday when I was on the way back home, I received a pathetic apology text that just said he was out of line. Now, I feel heartbroken and dead inside if that is something that is actually physically possible. Now I don’t know what to do or what to feel. His family is gaslighting me bc I “just don’t understand how much stress he under”. He has got us in a mega financial bind and my kids Christmas will also be ruined as per usual. My daughter said yesterday that she just wanted to take our Christmas tree outside and burn it in the front yard. I know no one has a the magic solution.",,23,patchouliflowers,2023-12-19 22:51:34 RedPillWomen,18maqqb,Dating Red Flags,"Hey, so I recently came across a guy who has told me that he will only pay for the date if he thinks I'm worth it. Should I consider this as a red flag? @@ -1672,11 +1672,11 @@ Should I consider this as a red flag? I'd like to thank everyone who has taken their time to share their views and opinions! 😊 --- Update: I texted him 2 days prior to our date, to clarify time and place (he did say earlier that he will find a place for us). He responded and said; We will see... I still haven't found a place. -Then he dropped another bomb saying that he is worried about money, and can't pay for us both and that's why he didn't choose a place. He did not offer an alternative plan. It seemed off to me, and I chose not to go on a date.",,31,idont_interact,1703015464.0 +Then he dropped another bomb saying that he is worried about money, and can't pay for us both and that's why he didn't choose a place. He did not offer an alternative plan. It seemed off to me, and I chose not to go on a date.",,31,idont_interact,2023-12-19 19:51:04 RedPillWomen,18m6hjh,Dating books for women? Recommendations,"I’m looking for some recommendations on books that explain dating from a red pill point of view from women. How to date from a feminine point of view. Last minute Christmas gifts hehe! -Appreciate the kind replies!",,8,h4cksforlife,1703004737.0 +Appreciate the kind replies!",,8,h4cksforlife,2023-12-19 16:52:17 RedPillWomen,18lmmhr,He hasn't hugged me or kissed me outside the sexual encounters after 2 months of dating,"I'm 26F I've seen this guy 28M for almost 2 months already. ; He initiated contact every day since we met, he plans the date with days of anticipation and is always looking for nice plays to go, and he pays for everything. He drives at 1:30 to see me every Saturday and we spend all day together. Some background: he lives with his parents, he has never had a girlfriend and he only dated some girls for just months, at first I even thought he was a virgin. I asked him for more information and he told me that girls are the ones who dump him. He also told me on the second date he was looking for something serious We didn't kiss until the 6 date in which I asked him why he thought that we didn't - I know it was stupid of me to do that @@ -1689,7 +1689,7 @@ At first, I thought he wasn't looking just for a hook up because he told me he w I am the crazy one If I want to walk away.? don't want to start a relationship and already want the person to change. Been there and done that for the past 5 years in my LTR -",,7,rosie00x,1702941273.0 +",,7,rosie00x,2023-12-18 23:14:33 RedPillWomen,18l5s8n,"I oversexualized myself and I fear I can't turn back without it hurting my relationship, help","I've been seeing my boyfriend for a little over 3 months and we became official a month a ago, we both come from very religious background (muslim) but he moved to a more liberal city while I'm still in our hometown and he's overall less religious than I am. 2 days ago we were facetiming and he was telling me he wants to masturbate but he's too tired and in the heat of the moment I told him I can help him, and I took off my bra and played with my boobs to help him get off and he helped do the same afterwards. @@ -1702,7 +1702,7 @@ i also fear he doesn't see me as innocent anymore and I know how much men value now I don't know how to take a step back, or at least keep things the way they are without it hurting my relationship -I didn't want to post on the relationship subreddit because they'll just tell me that I need to get loose, I hope some of you coming from conservative backgrounds understand what I'm going through and can help me.",,28,throwra20035,1702896063.0 +I didn't want to post on the relationship subreddit because they'll just tell me that I need to get loose, I hope some of you coming from conservative backgrounds understand what I'm going through and can help me.",,28,throwra20035,2023-12-18 10:41:03 RedPillWomen,18le2ef,Communication and Texting,"Hello RPW! I’ve been chatting with this guy for about 2 weeks, and we decided to be exclusively chatting a little under a week ago. He has a very demanding and intense job, which means that he doesn’t text very often. @@ -1713,11 +1713,11 @@ Am I going about it wrong? If so, how could I go about it differently? Because, Thanks for your help and feedback! -Edited to add more context (I also put the context in response to another’s message): We are discussing him visiting in February (we’re doing long distance, and he has to travel overseas for work for a month and I’m not able to accompany him), and he is already discussing him wanting to be my husband, and wanting me as his wife. We do call, I think we’ve called 3 or 4 times, but each call tends to last at least a few hours.",,5,[deleted],1702920058.0 +Edited to add more context (I also put the context in response to another’s message): We are discussing him visiting in February (we’re doing long distance, and he has to travel overseas for work for a month and I’m not able to accompany him), and he is already discussing him wanting to be my husband, and wanting me as his wife. We do call, I think we’ve called 3 or 4 times, but each call tends to last at least a few hours.",,5,[deleted],2023-12-18 17:20:58 RedPillWomen,18l4l2p,Tipps/Books for organizing for a very messy person,"Hello lovelies, I'm an extremely messy woman (ever since I can remember). I have a hard time being organized, keeping an apartment tidy (even though I clean frequently) or even noticing that something is messy. It's a huge issue and I need to get rid of that habit. Do you have Tipps/books for me on how to finally get organized? Maybe with really concrete plans like Monday ""you have to this and that"". I need something on toddler level. -Also maybe someone equally as messy can share their success stories on how they overcome their messyness. I would really appreciate it :)",,7,Lena_Maria0811,1702891074.0 +Also maybe someone equally as messy can share their success stories on how they overcome their messyness. I would really appreciate it :)",,7,Lena_Maria0811,2023-12-18 09:17:54 RedPillWomen,18kldz4,How to maintain a RPW mindset with a newborn?,"Hello all! My boyfriend and I welcomed our first child to the world 3 weeks ago. Overall, I think we’re doing really well as new parents. I’m hoping for advice with maintaining a RPW mindset during this time, as I’ve noticed new tendencies towards irritability and a more critical mindset towards my boyfriend that I’d like to nip in the bud. @@ -1729,12 +1729,12 @@ RedPillWomen,18kldz4,How to maintain a RPW mindset with a newborn?,"Hello all! M Obviously we’re both sleep deprived. He’s doing a great job at being a present father and supportive partner, while still not being able to fully decompress after a six-month submarine deployment. I worry about the impact that’s going to have on him and our relationship. I’m also having a slow recovery from my surgery and feel guilty for how much I have to rely on him, given he hasn’t had a chance to relax yet. I’ve never minded picking up after him before, but I notice myself getting really easily irritable when I see his clothes on the floor, dirty dishes on the counter, etc. I’m trying to focus on gratitude for the overwhelming amount of things he’s helping me with, but the sleep deprivation is **really** getting to me. -I’m definitely less of a soft place to land than I used to be, and I’m worried that this is his experience of our relationship now after being gone so long. How do I get back to patience, gratitude, trust, and respect? Or do I cut myself some slack during the newborn phase and trust that it won’t cause lasting damage to our relationship dynamic?",,8,dropdeadgorgon,1702831589.0 +I’m definitely less of a soft place to land than I used to be, and I’m worried that this is his experience of our relationship now after being gone so long. How do I get back to patience, gratitude, trust, and respect? Or do I cut myself some slack during the newborn phase and trust that it won’t cause lasting damage to our relationship dynamic?",,8,dropdeadgorgon,2023-12-17 16:46:29 RedPillWomen,18k88pj,He goes out while I stay home with the baby but every time we discuss this I want to control him,"Hi everyone, So we have a 6 month old baby who happens to be the most adorable human being. I love to spend quality time with him but unfortunately due to high cost rent I had to go back to work at least to pay my part of the rent, leaving my partner to pay for bills, his part of the rent and some bits and bops. He is a very social person also working in the hospitality industry meaning he gets to stay late quite a lot as part of his job. He also instead of coming home to have dinner or to spend some quality time he turns the tv on smokes some weed and just disconnects himself for a while. He is very loving and patient with our baby when he is taking care of him 2 days a week max. He also happens to stay out partying with staff members or friends until 3-4 am and every time I bring his awareness that this situation makes me feel very alone as if I was solo parenting he tells me I’m crazy or controlling and just it’s a never ending cycle of me feeling alone and not being seeing as I can’t go out and party or anything like this and I don’t have a proper support or this is how I feel from a emotional point of view. I would like another perspective from people who are experiencing anything similar. -Thanks 🙏🏼",,25,Little_Grand_2364,1702784153.0 +Thanks 🙏🏼",,25,Little_Grand_2364,2023-12-17 03:35:53 RedPillWomen,18k3fnk,RPW Nun Mode Compilation,"This is a compiled list of some notable RPW field reports on Soft Nun Mode and Hard Nun Mode: - @@ -1759,7 +1759,7 @@ RedPillWomen,18k3fnk,RPW Nun Mode Compilation,"This is a compiled list of some n * Field report of community members determining **if they’re ready or not to leave Nun Mode**: [Ex1](https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/w3qyiv/am_i_ready_to_leave_nun_mode/), [Ex2](https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/d424zs/nun_mode_vs_the_wall/), [Ex3](https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/tlpocw/how_do_you_know_when_youre_ready_to_leave_nun_mode/) * Field report example of **[when you may not need nun mode](https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/uhyzbg/importance_of_nun_mode_in_a_womans_life/) and things to consider** -* Some more [community advice](https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/d8ied7/best_ways_to_start_nun_mode/) on **Aims vs Goals** and more **general advice**",,16,FastLifePineapple,1702768888.0 +* Some more [community advice](https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/d8ied7/best_ways_to_start_nun_mode/) on **Aims vs Goals** and more **general advice**",,16,FastLifePineapple,2023-12-16 23:21:28 RedPillWomen,18k43ia,A Definitive Guide to Nun Mode: Part II The 3i’s and How to Nun Mode,"As previously mentioned in [Part I](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/18jd3tw/a_definitive_guide_to_nun_mode_part_i_an/) Nun Mode revolves around **three key practices:** @@ -1869,7 +1869,7 @@ Introspection and solitude are the ‘nun’ components of nun mode, on being ab With that being said, here’s a compilation of Nun Mode field reports for a practical view of applying all of this theory: -* **[RPW Nun Mode Compilation](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/18k3fnk/rpw_nun_mode_compilation/?)**",,7,FastLifePineapple,1702770821.0 +* **[RPW Nun Mode Compilation](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/18k3fnk/rpw_nun_mode_compilation/?)**",,7,FastLifePineapple,2023-12-16 23:53:41 RedPillWomen,18jw4up,"boyfriend says he wants a strong woman, can’t figure out how this fits into softer energy?","i (21F) have been with my boyfriend (21M) for not too long, however we’ve been best friends with each other friends for about a year where we have vetted and gotten to know each other. we are currently in a short distance (1.5 hour train ride) away from each other and try to see each other every week/other week if possible. he’s also the one who introduced me to the redpill ideology and i am forever grateful for this. i respect and look up to him the most, he always treats me with kindness, takes on the dominant role, pays for everything, makes sure i’m taken care of. and i cater myself to be the ‘soft landing place’ for him, show that i appreciate him, always communicate and lean on him if there seems to be a problem arise, and don’t turn him down for sex whenever i can. @@ -1882,7 +1882,7 @@ my boyfriend asked me if i thought i was strong, which i responded yes to and he i’m not sure how this aligns with the softer, feminine energy, and would love some help or insight into how to showcase that ability, especially in a relationship that involves distance. i know that i can do, and want to do, better for him. -tl/dr: what does it mean to be a strong woman and how does that correspond to the redpill ideology of feminine energy?",,25,darkksuns,1702747927.0 +tl/dr: what does it mean to be a strong woman and how does that correspond to the redpill ideology of feminine energy?",,25,darkksuns,2023-12-16 17:32:07 RedPillWomen,18jkpru,Is anybody here a survivor of Schrödinger’s Patriarchy,"A Schrödinger’s patriarch is a BROKE house tyrant. A man that wants the benefits of patriarchy but won’t fulfill the roles of a patriarch. I was raised by one. This man believes that women should take care of household tasks because of social conditioning. But then becomes a feminist every time the society expects men to be providers. How convenient. @@ -1895,7 +1895,7 @@ I don’t know if what I went through is a unique experience of Schrödinger’s Honestly I blame feminism for making men so comfortable saying that domestic work is just regular human responsibilities instead of a labor they need to pay for. Now a man can preach “house work is just adult responsibilities, both men & women can do it” while the wife does most of the house work. All talk no action. But this isn’t even the root cause. Feminism just made men more shameless in taking advantage of strong independent women they don’t really like. - I believe that a man that is grateful to have his dream girl wont put himself in a position where he can lose her. A man that truly loves his woman will provide for her despite being conditioned that 50:50 is okay. And to be honest, a man who loves his woman will also enjoy doing house chores because he would want to be around his wife. He would understand that work is 8 hours 5 days a week and domestic work is 7 days a week.",,55,Pro_softlife,1702706492.0 + I believe that a man that is grateful to have his dream girl wont put himself in a position where he can lose her. A man that truly loves his woman will provide for her despite being conditioned that 50:50 is okay. And to be honest, a man who loves his woman will also enjoy doing house chores because he would want to be around his wife. He would understand that work is 8 hours 5 days a week and domestic work is 7 days a week.",,55,Pro_softlife,2023-12-16 06:01:32 RedPillWomen,18jd3tw,A Definitive Guide to Nun Mode: Part I An Introduction,"**Defining Nun Mode: What it is and Why** - @@ -1955,25 +1955,25 @@ Now that you've dipped your toes into the waters of Nun Mode, being introduced t **In [Part II](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/18k43ia/a_definitive_guide_to_nun_mode_part_ii_the_3is/) where we go deeper on the when, where, and how to Nun Mode using isolation, introspection, and improvement** we will also explore the potential pitfall you should keep in mind when practicing solitude. -Beyond theory, we're also bringing you a **[compilation of Nun Mode field reports](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/18k3fnk/rpw_nun_mode_compilation/)** on successful Soft Nun Mode and successful Hard Nun Mode for a practical view of applying all of this information.",,15,FastLifePineapple,1702681978.0 +Beyond theory, we're also bringing you a **[compilation of Nun Mode field reports](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/18k3fnk/rpw_nun_mode_compilation/)** on successful Soft Nun Mode and successful Hard Nun Mode for a practical view of applying all of this information.",,15,FastLifePineapple,2023-12-15 23:12:58 RedPillWomen,18j8d76,Do you believe that religion is a necessary part of being traditional?,"Do you feel that it's a must? Do you believe a woman is able to hold on to traditional values without a faith in something greater? -",,16,AppropriateEbb5556,1702669186.0 +",,16,AppropriateEbb5556,2023-12-15 19:39:46 RedPillWomen,18j14nn,When he hosts his friends,"if your partner was having his guy friends over for a UFC night, what would you do? Im going to be home which im usually not. Im friends with all these guys. I was thinking of making them some appetizers such as buffalo chicken dip and and nachos and then spending a little bit of time with them, while leaving them to their fun. What food would you make ? -This is just a fun question. :)",,30,quesojacksoncat,1702649947.0 +This is just a fun question. :)",,30,quesojacksoncat,2023-12-15 14:19:07 RedPillWomen,18j1725,Family Advice Help,"Hello! I was just looking for some advice… 2 years ago, my grandma moved in with my Husband and I and for about a year and a half things were really great. For the first couple of months, we had two kids during this time and she would play for a little while with the girls. More recently, she would play for about a half hour or less than more or less live her life. She had space in the basement - the living room, bedroom, bathroom, and kitchenette. She was very grateful and lucky to live with us, until about May of this year. she started to grow almost resentful. Making rude comments about going to her “hole”, not spending as much time with the girls, etc. right around this time, she made a really rude comment to my husband, he stays home with our girls and she made a deragotorty comment like “oh well, you don’t deserve this because, you are just a stay at home Dad”. He tried to bring this up to her a couple days later about how it hurt his feelings, because he does also work, he is just the primary care giver during the week while I’m at work. Regardless of if he stayed home, he is still providing so much to our family. When he brought it up, she got really defensive and claimed he made it up (which he didn’t), but then from that day on, things got extremely tense and she avoided, ignored, made judgy comments about how our girls were dressed (I.e “oh no socks today?”), how we were raising them, and genuinely made it hard to live in the same house. In July we asked her to move out and she had a place lined up where she was on the waitlist, but we asked she be out sooner as that would be April 2024… so she found an apartment, and has been living there since August. We have had a couple family events and she will speak to me, but won’t talk to my husband at all. -We did not invite her to our house for our annual Halloween Parade and did not invite her to the Christmas Program for our girls daycare. She recently called my husband and left a voicemail this week, basically saying she did not know what she did, but she is sorry. She asked that he call her so they can talk, and that she loves him, me, and the girls. Anytime we have brought up a frustration or issue in the past it is met with extreme defensiveness and never any ownership. Additionally, she has held grudges against people for several years over small comments they have made. I’m worried if we call her back that things will get worse and she will get defensive and blame us again. Additionally, I don’t know if not responding is the issue either. What would you do?",,3,Fair_Farmer_236,1702650131.0 +We did not invite her to our house for our annual Halloween Parade and did not invite her to the Christmas Program for our girls daycare. She recently called my husband and left a voicemail this week, basically saying she did not know what she did, but she is sorry. She asked that he call her so they can talk, and that she loves him, me, and the girls. Anytime we have brought up a frustration or issue in the past it is met with extreme defensiveness and never any ownership. Additionally, she has held grudges against people for several years over small comments they have made. I’m worried if we call her back that things will get worse and she will get defensive and blame us again. Additionally, I don’t know if not responding is the issue either. What would you do?",,3,Fair_Farmer_236,2023-12-15 14:22:11 RedPillWomen,18inse8,RPW: How much does it impact your world view?,"I've posted here a couple times on another account when I was a bit younger. I eventually forgot about RPW, but then I kinda just started living it. I am in a happy relationship with a man that leads his own life and supports me in discovering my direction. I am very nurturing, supportive, bubbly, and loving. He is very up-front and decisive, while still being a deep and empathetic thinker. My personality and relationship falls very in-line with RPW and am and so comfortable and happy in my way of life that sometimes it's easy to forget -- *male led relationships and RPW aren't for everyone*. I don't want to look down on women that are just living their lives in all the different ways that bring them joy. I don't want to assume that ""beta"" men are living existences less worth living. Our individual personalities differ so much more than our sex characteristics.There are plenty of people who will find joy and fulfillment being submissive with their wives, captains to their husbands, or comfortably single. -I love, love, love my life I'm building with my man. I love that he treats me like a princess and I treat him like a king. I love that his dreams and my dreams our now our dreams. And I want that for each and every one of us here since that's what we want. How do y'all balance these feelings? Is RPW just your relationship or is it your world view?",,16,Ok_Praline_2819,1702601927.0 +I love, love, love my life I'm building with my man. I love that he treats me like a princess and I treat him like a king. I love that his dreams and my dreams our now our dreams. And I want that for each and every one of us here since that's what we want. How do y'all balance these feelings? Is RPW just your relationship or is it your world view?",,16,Ok_Praline_2819,2023-12-15 00:58:47 RedPillWomen,18hv3er,"I am more successful than my boyfriend, and I resent it","I \[21F\] and my boyfriend \[21M\] have been dating for just over a year now. He is the most perfect guy to exist- he listens to my needs, gives me gifts all the time, delivers food to my house on a whim, pays for most things, gets me flowers just because, and we have amazing physical chemistry. He is my first and only boyfriend I've ever had, and has said that I am his dream girl- and acts like it too. &#x200B; @@ -1998,19 +1998,19 @@ I think he does have the drive. He says he's always applying to jobs and he does &#x200B; -I do everything in a feminine way- I do not talk career unless its a big thing such as me getting a job, and nurture and encourage him to apply for jobs all the time- I think I am playing my part as a feminine woman fine. I know we're both young and not done with school, so should I stick it out? What are your thoughts? I feel this is causing some power dynamic shifts in our relationship, and I may be left with a feminine man if it keeps up.",,13,anoncrush1,1702511830.0 +I do everything in a feminine way- I do not talk career unless its a big thing such as me getting a job, and nurture and encourage him to apply for jobs all the time- I think I am playing my part as a feminine woman fine. I know we're both young and not done with school, so should I stick it out? What are your thoughts? I feel this is causing some power dynamic shifts in our relationship, and I may be left with a feminine man if it keeps up.",,13,anoncrush1,2023-12-13 23:57:10 RedPillWomen,18i1uwv,Why are beauty pageants seen as a big deal for nations? And well showing of gorgeous women in general in events unrelated to pageantry like international diplomatic negotiations and catering food services to foreign soldiers stations and other big national stuff?,"In the novel Anna and the King of Siam, the Siamese King's diplomat thought it important to impress the British diplomats by taking some beautiful palace servants, dressing them in Western fashion, and training them in dignified mannerisms as seen by British people. -So it provoked me the question- why do nations make it a big deal of choosing beautiful women as representatives and dressing them fancy along with making them learn appropriate etiquette and ""high class"" behavior? Not just in pageants but whenever they have diplomatic meetings, business deals, and other stuff do they always pick women who are the cream of the crop or at least take stunning women commoners (if they decide not to use the 2%) and train them to be regal in behavior? Is this a big deal in realpolitiks?",,3,YMCALegpress,1702533334.0 -RedPillWomen,18hnntb,Help! Looking for a particular post/comment,"Hi , I read an old comment/post where a member described a “12 days of Christmas” gift she made for her husband. Sexy themed outfits complete with matching accessories and notes/poems. She mentioned another user who had helped her with the creative process of putting the boxes together. I’m trying to search and find the post but can’t!",,8,Moovmntstudnt,1702492461.0 -RedPillWomen,18hfui1,Ladies who manifested their HVM—what qualities did you want? Did you get them?,And how have they affected your relationship/life?,,24,littlemisslight,1702470950.0 +So it provoked me the question- why do nations make it a big deal of choosing beautiful women as representatives and dressing them fancy along with making them learn appropriate etiquette and ""high class"" behavior? Not just in pageants but whenever they have diplomatic meetings, business deals, and other stuff do they always pick women who are the cream of the crop or at least take stunning women commoners (if they decide not to use the 2%) and train them to be regal in behavior? Is this a big deal in realpolitiks?",,3,YMCALegpress,2023-12-14 05:55:34 +RedPillWomen,18hnntb,Help! Looking for a particular post/comment,"Hi , I read an old comment/post where a member described a “12 days of Christmas” gift she made for her husband. Sexy themed outfits complete with matching accessories and notes/poems. She mentioned another user who had helped her with the creative process of putting the boxes together. I’m trying to search and find the post but can’t!",,8,Moovmntstudnt,2023-12-13 18:34:21 +RedPillWomen,18hfui1,Ladies who manifested their HVM—what qualities did you want? Did you get them?,And how have they affected your relationship/life?,,24,littlemisslight,2023-12-13 12:35:50 RedPillWomen,18haabk,The Real Reason So Many Women Are Doing OnlyFans | Lib Turned Red Pill Female Perspective,"[Vtuber red pill vid](https://youtu.be/zFVy9vPvrGA?si=mOhL7xsT9CAI-Z-q) I don’t hear this perspective often but I strongly believe a major reason so many women are turning to OF is because they won’t admit that working full time blows (especially in this economy) and they’d rather maintain their stance on feminism (independence) but also get the benefits of staying at home by leaving their regular jobs to do OF. -Do you think my theory is on point or that I’m totally off base? Let me know what you think below :)",,39,venatrix_wolf,1702447880.0 -RedPillWomen,18h14ms,Shopaholic,"Ever since my husband and I got married, I’ve noticed my tendencies to shopping more. At first we both worked, but once I had my baby I stopped working to stay at home with her. I still love shopping but we only have one income. I know I need to fix this but I don’t know how to start. Of course, self control is needed but do you have any other recommendations?",,12,GloveFar5016,1702424639.0 -RedPillWomen,18gl4ue,"Anyone here who was formerly in an abusive relationship but left, healed and is now living the RPW dream?",Please share your story and give a girl (who is working on leaving her abusive marriage) some encouragement!,,15,littlemisslight,1702385354.0 +Do you think my theory is on point or that I’m totally off base? Let me know what you think below :)",,39,venatrix_wolf,2023-12-13 06:11:20 +RedPillWomen,18h14ms,Shopaholic,"Ever since my husband and I got married, I’ve noticed my tendencies to shopping more. At first we both worked, but once I had my baby I stopped working to stay at home with her. I still love shopping but we only have one income. I know I need to fix this but I don’t know how to start. Of course, self control is needed but do you have any other recommendations?",,12,GloveFar5016,2023-12-12 23:43:59 +RedPillWomen,18gl4ue,"Anyone here who was formerly in an abusive relationship but left, healed and is now living the RPW dream?",Please share your story and give a girl (who is working on leaving her abusive marriage) some encouragement!,,15,littlemisslight,2023-12-12 12:49:14 RedPillWomen,18g5nig,She doesn't work because she wants to concentrate on her feminity. But her husband's income is not enough for two people ???,"I have a female friend that inspired me to learn about the RedPill topic. I learnt a lot from her, but there is something that makes me wonder. As she (33) wants to concentrate on her feminine site, she does not work so that her husband is the provider. They are a nice couple and have a great relationship, but I wonder how she can live that life with so little security ? His income is not that high, I'd say for two peolpe it's it is actually too low to live in the present AND provide for the pension of TWO people in the future. (below 3,000€ net) Maybe she has a side income or support from her family, I am not a 100% sure. But it seems that she has great trust in his abilities and believes that one day they/he will get rich. @@ -2019,11 +2019,11 @@ As she (33) wants to concentrate on her feminine site, she does not work so tha Now I ask myself: Should I take her as a role model as she really seems to trust her husband and really lives the ""feminine"" lifestyle? (not caring too much, giving financial responsibility away, trust, let go). Or should I trust my own instincts that say "" Never give your job up until your man can provide for you AND your pension a 1000% ? What if your man dies in a car accident tomorrow and is not a millionaire by chance so that you are standing there with nothing in your hands??? -What do you think about that?",,32,Remote_Meringue8,1702332275.0 +What do you think about that?",,32,Remote_Meringue8,2023-12-11 22:04:35 RedPillWomen,18g2xhg,Navigating Work Discussions in a New Relationship,"I'm currently exploring a promising relationship with someone I've been getting to know for four months, and I'm genuinely excited about where things might lead. He's in his late thirties and deeply involved as a co-founder of a successful tech company. Even though I have about six years of experience in the tech field myself, I've observed that he often leans towards discussing his work with me. I've been enthusiastic and receptive to understanding his world, but I've come to realize that his work environment is exceptionally intense, filled with conflicts and complexities. These discussions tend to leave me feeling drained and overwhelmed. I've attempted to talk to him about it, inquiring how he handles such a high-stress environment. It appears that he thrives in this setting, handling conflicts with less sensitivity compared to my own approach. While I genuinely want to offer my support and insights, the weight of these discussions takes an emotional toll on me. He's acknowledged that his past partners have experienced similar feelings, yet he's eager to share this significant part of his life with me. Striking a balance that feels both manageable and comfortable for me has proven to be quite challenging. -I'm seeking guidance on how to navigate these conversations about his work without feeling emotionally overwhelmed while still being supportive and engaged in our relationship. It's important to note that I don't foresee the nature of his work changing, so finding a sustainable way to manage these discussions is crucial for our relationship to flourish. Any advice from my fellow RedPillWomen?",,10,GoodApprehensive2371,1702325593.0 +I'm seeking guidance on how to navigate these conversations about his work without feeling emotionally overwhelmed while still being supportive and engaged in our relationship. It's important to note that I don't foresee the nature of his work changing, so finding a sustainable way to manage these discussions is crucial for our relationship to flourish. Any advice from my fellow RedPillWomen?",,10,GoodApprehensive2371,2023-12-11 20:13:13 RedPillWomen,18fv1fq,He doesn’t want children. Did I fail to inspire him?,"I’ve been dating a man for about 3 months now (known each other for 4 months before we started dating). I’m 31 and he’s 37. This is the first healthy relationship I’ve ever been in and the feeling of being at peace with someone is so comforting. (I had extremely low self esteem in my 20s and kept picking bad partners) Unfortunately when we spoke about the topic of children the other day he told me he does not want any, whereas I do. This is quite devastating to me as it’s a fundamental incompatibility issue and means we cannot be together in the long term, even though he’s such an amazing man. @@ -2034,7 +2034,7 @@ Many times I’ve heard that wanting children will come naturally to a person wh So I guess I’m wondering, when a man says he doesn’t want children, is he actually just saying ‘I don’t want children with you’? -I know it doesn’t change the outcome for me either way (we cannot be together) but it would be good to know if there are things I can do to inspire someone to want to start a family for the next time.",,8,-ladykitsune-,1702302807.0 +I know it doesn’t change the outcome for me either way (we cannot be together) but it would be good to know if there are things I can do to inspire someone to want to start a family for the next time.",,8,-ladykitsune-,2023-12-11 13:53:27 RedPillWomen,18f9ugw,Was told I'm a lady!,"Hello everybody! Quick field report I wanted to give. @@ -2049,16 +2049,16 @@ A few things that I've done, that I think helped lead to him saying that: 3) This is more of a personality thing, but I'm very happy and cheerful in general. I've had guys tell me it's nice how smile-y I am. 4) BIGGEST ONE: I don't say disparaging things about men. I used to jokingly say things like ""I hate men"" or ""fuck men"" with my friends when I was younger, but I'm actively working on avoiding those sorts of jokes, because I wouldn't be comfortable with a guy saying those things about women! -&#x200B;",,47,Valuable_Place1265,1702232837.0 +&#x200B;",,47,Valuable_Place1265,2023-12-10 18:27:17 RedPillWomen,18edg8w,I made one comment in this sub and I got banned from other subs wtf,"I didn’t know this sub even existed until abt 30 mins ago. Then I commented on someone’s cheating husband validating op’s opinion that her husband did cheat and offering her support. Then I get a notification I am banned from other subs for being an incel??? -Has this happened to anyone else beforeV",,75,Ok_Captain3855,1702127970.0 +Has this happened to anyone else beforeV",,75,Ok_Captain3855,2023-12-09 13:19:30 RedPillWomen,18ekqgr,I'm a widow. I've been single and celibate for 16 years. I've only been with 2 men.,"Not having a lot of partners has always been important to me. I was raised to be biblically submissive. Now, that I am re-entering the dating world, all of the conflicting dating advice is confusing me. Is what I am, not what men want? -*** I realized that someone called me Mr. I think it was a typo, but also my name is Tyler which is a traditionally male name, but I am a girl. I promise.***",,21,ctylerjamison87,1702149308.0 -RedPillWomen,18eca57,Signs he’s a good leader,"I’ve seen many comments bring this up lately. What exactly are the signs a man is a good leader, and not pretending? Especially early on.",,27,Independent-Hall4929,1702123691.0 +*** I realized that someone called me Mr. I think it was a typo, but also my name is Tyler which is a traditionally male name, but I am a girl. I promise.***",,21,ctylerjamison87,2023-12-09 19:15:08 +RedPillWomen,18eca57,Signs he’s a good leader,"I’ve seen many comments bring this up lately. What exactly are the signs a man is a good leader, and not pretending? Especially early on.",,27,Independent-Hall4929,2023-12-09 12:08:11 RedPillWomen,18cskp3,Struggling with less sex in my relationship,"Hey all, Thanks for reading. Feel free to read my previous posts for more context. Bf / soon to be fiancé (33) and me (24) are having less sex and it’s really having an impact on me. @@ -2082,7 +2082,7 @@ I’m just worried to never experience a honeymoon period again and that from he Thank you all -Edit: every time I mention I’m looking into new hobbies/activities to do outside the house, he insists all I wanna do is run away from him. I am someone who needs a lot of personal space so living together is difficult but if anything, I’m doing it for my own good and the good of the relationship. It’s like he doesnt admit to himself being together so much is a problem ",,15,Consistent_Sleep_341,1701944148.0 +Edit: every time I mention I’m looking into new hobbies/activities to do outside the house, he insists all I wanna do is run away from him. I am someone who needs a lot of personal space so living together is difficult but if anything, I’m doing it for my own good and the good of the relationship. It’s like he doesnt admit to himself being together so much is a problem ",,15,Consistent_Sleep_341,2023-12-07 10:15:48 RedPillWomen,18c5dbi,Should Women Defend their Men from Feminists who Call them Misogynists for wanting Traditional Wives?,"I was recently having a conversation about Red Pill stuff with a male relative of mine who is also in his early 20s. We both come from a family that is mixed between traditional and liberal – with different people going different ways. We are both probably the most traditional leaning two in the family. We are both currently single but both want to be in traditional relationships (with other people, not each other) with the man as the head of the household and the woman as the nurture. @@ -2115,19 +2115,19 @@ Are any of those any good? So what do you ladies think? -And are there any men here who have experience with being attacked for being traditional or being defended by your wives?",,56,TheRedPilledLurker,1701873603.0 +And are there any men here who have experience with being attacked for being traditional or being defended by your wives?",,56,TheRedPilledLurker,2023-12-06 14:40:03 RedPillWomen,18c79tj,"Ladies and gents, what are different ways that men/husbands show that they value and appreciate their wives/women?","And what are ways that a wife can show her husband that she holds him in high esteem? I’ve recently learned from a relationship masterclass that, in marriages and relationships, it’s vital for men to hold their women at high value (appreciation), and women to hold their men in high esteem (respect). Obviously this goes both ways at the base level, but you should hold your spouse in the highest of regards with these. What are different ways that these can be displayed? Specifically the first one? I (24F) think I’m missing the ways that my boyfriend (24M) is showing his appreciation towards me, I don’t always feel like he values me, but I might not be seeing the ways he offers that to me. Please help😅 -And the second part because, well, you can always learn more about how to love and respect your man.",,15,Twilight_Rose99,1701878833.0 +And the second part because, well, you can always learn more about how to love and respect your man.",,15,Twilight_Rose99,2023-12-06 16:07:13 RedPillWomen,18ccg7o,Different interests - RPW approach,"I really love being in the outdoors hiking, cycling, walking even when the weather's not ideal. My ideal vacation would be a multi day hike or something active in nature. My bf is different - he's more of a homebody and often sits in front of a computer screen the whole day even when he is not working. I get it, everyone has different ways of relaxing. He really tries to make me happy but he would much rather prefer to be at home. When I have kids, I really would like for them to be screen-free and to spend as much time outdoors, in nature and I feel that this is where we are not aligned. I'm tired of feeling so lonely doing things myself and can feel resentment and envy building up as I see my couple friends doing all the things I would love to do. -How should I approach this sensitively and work it out?",,7,Several_Macaron_1707,1701892212.0 +How should I approach this sensitively and work it out?",,7,Several_Macaron_1707,2023-12-06 19:50:12 RedPillWomen,18c7fih,Partner often frustrated/negative at things in the world outside of me,"I've noticed that my partner often gets frustrated, annoyed or mildly angry at things that to me seem relatively minor. Some examples include frustration at other drivers, if the internet goes out, if his dog barks, if the he turns maps on and it starts talking to him before he's ready to drive/when he's already arrived at his destination. These have ranged from him calling the drivers names, scoffing, huffing, ""ugh"", or making jokes about it. He doesn't direct this towards me, aside from occasionally using a tone I don't appreciate when telling me to ""wait/hold on/let me do x"" if I ask something while he's doing something else. @@ -2144,7 +2144,7 @@ We were at a free community yoga class. It was taught in a non traditional way b I'm really torn about whether this negativity/frustration is a deal breaker for me. He treats me very well, clearly he really cares about me, always apologizes when he does something wrong, and even has started improving in a lot of these areas. He had mentioned how it was hurtful when I raised the driving example recently again because he felt like he's been improving in this area a lot and feels like what's the point if I make it sound as if he hasn't improved at all and is still doing the same stuff. I acknowledged that he's improved and is trying and I do really appreciate that but it still bothers me. I'm wondering whether this is just an incompatibility with our communication style/view of the world. -Thanks in advance for any advice and guidance!",,5,business_cats,1701879262.0 +Thanks in advance for any advice and guidance!",,5,business_cats,2023-12-06 16:14:22 RedPillWomen,18bhge9,Disappointed We’re Not doing anything for my graduation,"I’m graduating from grad school in a week and had been really stressed out about my parents coming for commencement as they are estranged and divorced. They would be visiting from out of state. My boyfriend suggested we would just celebrate the two of us instead and I agreed. However now that it’s a week away, he suggested we wait to celebrate till after Christmas and I’m disappointed and have a feeling we will never actually end up celebrating. Is this a stfu moment? I don’t want to be a nag but he is the one who suggested this. I didn’t ask him why the plans changed because I’m afraid I built it up in my head since we never actually picked out a date to celebrate, I just assumed it would be when I was actually graduating. @@ -2153,10 +2153,10 @@ I am trying to fight the resentment I feel brewing in me that he convinced me no Edit: we’ve been together for two years. In the past at the end of my first semester he offered to take me out to celebrate and never did I think that’s contributing to the anxiety and resentment I’m feeling now. -UPDATE: I told him if he wanted to treat me i think it’s more special closer to my actual graduation date and he said of-course! I’m feeling very hopeful now!",,24,asoftepilogue,1701797844.0 +UPDATE: I told him if he wanted to treat me i think it’s more special closer to my actual graduation date and he said of-course! I’m feeling very hopeful now!",,24,asoftepilogue,2023-12-05 17:37:24 RedPillWomen,18bnoi2,"Women who are supported by their spouse/partner, how do you get him gifts?","My husband and I are genuinely curious. This is our first year married and we have fully joined all accounts and he does most of our bookkeeping. -I mean I guess he won’t know exactly what the gift is just where it’s from, but wondering how y’all do Christmas?",,7,Huge_Scientist1506,1701813644.0 +I mean I guess he won’t know exactly what the gift is just where it’s from, but wondering how y’all do Christmas?",,7,Huge_Scientist1506,2023-12-05 22:00:44 RedPillWomen,18au18w,“Beta Batman”,"Hi all! As the “manosphere” becomes more mainstream, I’ve noticed in some of y’all’s post that pretty toxic/controlling behavior seems to be a bit of a trend. These boys will breathlessly growl in a Batman voice: “You are my responsibility… *heavy breathing* I am responsible for your safety. So, to keep you safe… you are not allowed to come out drinking with me.” And in the next breath throw a childish fit about not being “allowed” to go to a strip club! @@ -2174,7 +2174,7 @@ I don’t usually make posts like this, but lately I have seen so much more of t Respect a man worthy of respect. Love and serve a man worthy of love and service. Women in male-led relationships are not doormats to any man who walks along… being highly selective is the tradeoff for the vulnerability, service, and value-added things RPW give their partners! -Thoughts?",,54,Scared-Tea-8911,1701723195.0 +Thoughts?",,54,Scared-Tea-8911,2023-12-04 20:53:15 RedPillWomen,18a4xfa,Should I (f18) let my bf (m18) go clubbing?,"My bf (m18) and I (f18) have been together for almost a year. We are doing great and we really value communication. That brings me to about a week ago when we talked about hanging out in the weekend and he said that he and one of his buddies would go out to drink (clubbing or whatever) he asked if that was okay and I was stumped. He then said he was just kidding and don’t plan on drinking or going out but he didn’t like the thought of me limiting him. Now I know I sound like a jealous or insecure girlfriend, but through out our relationship we have both quit drinking (it’s legal where I live) completely and we don’t really go to parties. That is just where our boundaries are. He says that I can’t go out because he says my safety is his responsibility and he can’t control what happens if I’m out drunk. And I respect that. We both agreed in the start of our relationship that going out was a single people activity that we wouldn’t participate in. @@ -2184,8 +2184,8 @@ And now he is bringing it up every time we’re together. I have tried to make it work for both of us and pushed my own boundaries by saying that I guess it would be fine if they went to a small pub or something, but he says that I should be large and it doe matter if it’s a small pub or a strip club because it’s about trust. I don’t know what to think, it would help a lot if anyone has suggestions for an alternative or give me their opinions -TLDR: my bf wants to go clubbing for “business” even though it’s crossing my boundaries and now he is trying to change my mind and saying I don’t trust him",,7,Majestic_Chemical_86,1701641653.0 -RedPillWomen,189q9di,Help!! How do I slow down a progressing dating phase?,"I’ve (18F) been seeing someone (18M) for a week. We met through mutual friends and he’s been so nice and respectful so far, yesterday was our first date. I feel like things are moving a bit too fast for my comfort, he asked me to come over and make out with him later this week and stuff. It’s getting very touchy very fast and I don’t know how to slow it down. I think he’s super nice but I don’t know if I want to be touched super fast.",,13,New_Initiative_2134,1701596731.0 +TLDR: my bf wants to go clubbing for “business” even though it’s crossing my boundaries and now he is trying to change my mind and saying I don’t trust him",,7,Majestic_Chemical_86,2023-12-03 22:14:13 +RedPillWomen,189q9di,Help!! How do I slow down a progressing dating phase?,"I’ve (18F) been seeing someone (18M) for a week. We met through mutual friends and he’s been so nice and respectful so far, yesterday was our first date. I feel like things are moving a bit too fast for my comfort, he asked me to come over and make out with him later this week and stuff. It’s getting very touchy very fast and I don’t know how to slow it down. I think he’s super nice but I don’t know if I want to be touched super fast.",,13,New_Initiative_2134,2023-12-03 09:45:31 RedPillWomen,18a5y0d,How soon do you have to kiss a new guy you started dating? (I prefer to take it slow),"How soon do you **have** to kiss a new guy you started dating? I've had relationships before but those started out as friendships and by the point we'd gotten to our first kiss we had been friends for a year or so already. I prefer to get to know a new romantic partner over a longer time before I feel ready to do anything physical, even hand holding and I am finding it challenging navigating dating apps where I feel that women are expected to get physical with men fairly quickly, e.g. kiss on the second date or sleep with them by the 5th date. @@ -2203,7 +2203,7 @@ I suppose I prefer to go slower in relationships, just because that's what feels My question to you, is what is the longest time I could put off kissing a new person I'm dating for? Can I just get to know him for a few more months (just like you would if you started off as friends first?) Or Is it awkward if you don't kiss them after the 6th date? -I am feeling pressure from him to kiss him and at some point I need to make the decision of ""do I break up because I don't feel ready to kiss him yet"". How long is it reasonable to date but not kiss for?",,0,Bright-Garden2720,1701644408.0 +I am feeling pressure from him to kiss him and at some point I need to make the decision of ""do I break up because I don't feel ready to kiss him yet"". How long is it reasonable to date but not kiss for?",,0,Bright-Garden2720,2023-12-03 23:00:08 RedPillWomen,189h7y4,My (20F) boyfriend (26M) cant let go of my past but doesn’t break up," My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months, we met through mutuals and instantly there was a lot of chemistry on our first date. Since I was single for a while after a very traumatic break up/relationship , I didnt want to take him so seriously from the start to avoid getting hurt or played. I was stupid and disclosed a lot about my past in detail since I thought we wouldnt go anywhere. @@ -2215,7 +2215,7 @@ I’m in love with him but because of this issue we have been fighting and he ha We are not talking right now and he hasnt reached out, I am worried that even if I have 99% of what he wants and has with me he will leave to go find and settle for someone that only has that 1%. I have taken accountability on my mistakes, I removed all guys from my social media, took down promiscuous pics, removed whoever tried to flirt with me, but he thinks that at some point I will go back to that and I don’t know how to show him I won’t, because I did those things cause I finally respect and hold myself to a high standard now, I want to be able to treat him the way he deserved and never got in past relationships but I am afraid he will treat me as less because of this. -**TL;DR;** How can we come back from this?",,14,PuddingLow1059,1701563312.0 +**TL;DR;** How can we come back from this?",,14,PuddingLow1059,2023-12-03 00:28:32 RedPillWomen,188qrxb,How to make HIM the leader - not you - fast!,"If you're in a stable relationship, but are interested in the process of changing roles from leader to being led, here are some tips that will flip your dynamic safely and quickly: 1. Ask him to establish roles between you two. Ask him enough ahead of time, before events or shared commitments. You can add your input, but avoid deciding, dampening, or brushing off his ideas. @@ -2228,8 +2228,8 @@ RedPillWomen,188qrxb,How to make HIM the leader - not you - fast!,"If you're in 5. Have an iron backbone. Respect yourself, adorn yourself, forgive yourself. Stop speaking ill of yourself or dwelling on your past mistakes. Just stop! Do not agree with him, or with anyone, if they ever say insulting words towards you. Practice saying "" I think you meant ..... because I am not as you said."" -6. Don't make jokes on his expense in front of others. Even if he laughs, says it's okay, or reciprocates. If you can't meet your friends without letting some slip, literally bite your tongue. If your humor exposes him when you drink, don't drink anymore.",,56,flower_power_g1rl,1701476442.0 -RedPillWomen,188xv4l,How can I become free from abusive mother to start my own family one day?,"I really need advice on what to do. I live with my mentally ill abusive mother, and she takes financial advantage of me which is stopping me from being able to prepare for my future & a life with more freedom one day. I spent the past few years building an online business that has finally made it possible for me to make a solid living as a 32 year old disabled autistic woman. Before that I was employed full time aged 16-27 I was forced to leave school & pay all of our bills & I wasn’t allowed to go to university or start a family or do anything most people in their 20s get to do. I was completely miserable in employment & with my mother being financially irresponsible & squandering my hard earned money & I had several breakdowns that resulted in my hospitalisation. I was late diagnosed with autism in my 30s (I went through medical neglect most of my life) & it’s been a huge relief & help understanding myself & that helped me to build this business which is very profitable & accommodates my needs. But the problem is because we live in a council house (we are in UK, I think they call it section 8 in America, basically we live in social housing provided by government for poor people) I’m not allowed to keep my own money to save, they have access to my bank account & so does my mother so I can’t even save up to move out, she either uses all my money or the council take it. I feel trapped & don’t know what to do because I finally am making good money now doing something that’s sustainable for me but it feels pointless I deliberately am turning down nearly all my sales and just making the bare minimum to survive because I’m sick of not being allowed to keep my own money & have any hopes for a future for myself. I feel really sad that I’ve missed out on so many normal things people my age have done & it sucks because I make great money & by rights I should be able to be free to live my life how I want but because of my mother & the way that the system works here I’m stuck & so I’m wondering what should I do? ",,11,New_Addition_312,1701499665.0 +6. Don't make jokes on his expense in front of others. Even if he laughs, says it's okay, or reciprocates. If you can't meet your friends without letting some slip, literally bite your tongue. If your humor exposes him when you drink, don't drink anymore.",,56,flower_power_g1rl,2023-12-02 00:20:42 +RedPillWomen,188xv4l,How can I become free from abusive mother to start my own family one day?,"I really need advice on what to do. I live with my mentally ill abusive mother, and she takes financial advantage of me which is stopping me from being able to prepare for my future & a life with more freedom one day. I spent the past few years building an online business that has finally made it possible for me to make a solid living as a 32 year old disabled autistic woman. Before that I was employed full time aged 16-27 I was forced to leave school & pay all of our bills & I wasn’t allowed to go to university or start a family or do anything most people in their 20s get to do. I was completely miserable in employment & with my mother being financially irresponsible & squandering my hard earned money & I had several breakdowns that resulted in my hospitalisation. I was late diagnosed with autism in my 30s (I went through medical neglect most of my life) & it’s been a huge relief & help understanding myself & that helped me to build this business which is very profitable & accommodates my needs. But the problem is because we live in a council house (we are in UK, I think they call it section 8 in America, basically we live in social housing provided by government for poor people) I’m not allowed to keep my own money to save, they have access to my bank account & so does my mother so I can’t even save up to move out, she either uses all my money or the council take it. I feel trapped & don’t know what to do because I finally am making good money now doing something that’s sustainable for me but it feels pointless I deliberately am turning down nearly all my sales and just making the bare minimum to survive because I’m sick of not being allowed to keep my own money & have any hopes for a future for myself. I feel really sad that I’ve missed out on so many normal things people my age have done & it sucks because I make great money & by rights I should be able to be free to live my life how I want but because of my mother & the way that the system works here I’m stuck & so I’m wondering what should I do? ",,11,New_Addition_312,2023-12-02 06:47:45 RedPillWomen,188wxrf,"New to Reddit, needing assistance with submission","Hello there! I am new to Reddit and still learning the ins and outs, thank you in advance for reading my post! @@ -2238,12 +2238,12 @@ My husband and I have had an ongoing problem with my ability to submit. We have If any other members of this group can give me some advice on how to better myself and be the best wife I can be, it would be greatly appreciated. I don't have any positive examples to go by, and I was hoping to find them here. -Thank you all again!",,5,Fox_in_socks1112,1701496072.0 +Thank you all again!",,5,Fox_in_socks1112,2023-12-02 05:47:52 RedPillWomen,187m4fg,"How do I as a new mom regain the lighter, fun, and more whimsical side of life?","New mother here…it’s weightier than I thought. Society seems to tell me I need to give every ounce to motherhood. I miss feeling like a woman. I miss the fun and excitement of getting ready and feeling attractive. I mostly miss the lightness of everyday joy I had…the freedom from guilt in buying something seemingly small for myself. I think RPW might get close to having a good balance with pursuing attractive appearance, happiness as a wife, and motherhood. I also think husbands have a great opportunity to take the weight off a mother and redirect her attention to the girl and woman she once was. Sex got the baby here in the end. -So mothers, how did you reconcile the disparate ideas of a sacrificial mother and a goddess of fun and light? I don’t think Laura Doyle had any kids, did she?",,30,intonine,1701360542.0 +So mothers, how did you reconcile the disparate ideas of a sacrificial mother and a goddess of fun and light? I don’t think Laura Doyle had any kids, did she?",,30,intonine,2023-11-30 16:09:02 RedPillWomen,187euz7,Relationship advice,"Hi everyone new here!! So I had a boyfriend who was a pilot and we broke up two months ago. Now I decided to go back to dating but every time I go out with a guy and we actually link after sometime they say the don’t want a relationship with me. I am not needy or I am constantly asking for things from them. @@ -2252,7 +2252,7 @@ The most upsetting situation was this guy we had a great time during this past w The thing is I have alopecia and I don’t have hair on my body but I wear wigs and use makeup that no one that knows wouldn’t be able to tell. ( I make them aware in the first date if they don’t want to continue is fine ) I think it maybe because of that I don’t have a relationship because guys just don’t want to have a girlfriend who is bald! -If you can help me or if I have to do anything diferent!",,9,Necessary-Sun-8411,1701337455.0 +If you can help me or if I have to do anything diferent!",,9,Necessary-Sun-8411,2023-11-30 09:44:15 RedPillWomen,186uy7t,"I want to work part time and focus look after the home , I don’t think my boyfriend will approve","I am currently a college student. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a few months and we both really like eachother. As of now, I have quite a lot of days that are off(study at home days) but I will graduate next year as a health care professional. My boyfriend is a junior doctor and he seems very keen for me to work in this job when I graduate. @@ -2261,7 +2261,7 @@ I also do all chores around the house- I cook every meal, do all the cleaning an The home life really appeals to me. I think I would work full time initially and then go down to part time. Would this be a lazy thing to do? I’m worried my boyfriend would find me lazy, as I get this impression. -Any advice would be welcome",,20,Valuable-Pizza-9713,1701278926.0 +Any advice would be welcome",,20,Valuable-Pizza-9713,2023-11-29 17:28:46 RedPillWomen,186disq,Partner & Onlyfans,"A little bit of background, I'm a SAHM to 3yo twins. I have been lurking in this forum for sometime on my main account and I have been doing my best to provide a happy loving home for my family. My house isn't always the cleanest with twinadoes, but I put in effort and make sure I always greet hubby with a smile when he comes home. @@ -2288,14 +2288,14 @@ I love him very much but I feel betrayed, and I don't know how we rebuild after I don't know what I'm asking for here, I just feel lost. -I feel like I need an action plan, but I don't even know what action.",,44,windowgoose,1701222632.0 +I feel like I need an action plan, but I don't even know what action.",,44,windowgoose,2023-11-29 01:50:32 RedPillWomen,186jojy,Did I sabotage a potential relationship by being needy and asking for communication early on?,"I (female) at 24, have recently decided to start dating men and possibly finding a relationship. Not dating before was a choice I made for many reasons including depression and only wanting serious long term relationships (which I finally feel ready for). I started seeing a guy(M30) and was open from the start about my situation and having no experience. First date went okay, except for the fact he invited me to a coffee shop then proceeded to not order anything or asking me if I wanted anything, when I went to order a coffee for myself the barista asked me if were with that guy and then they gave me the drink for free. I brushed it off, decided to go on a second date where we watched a movie and had dinner (I paid for my dinner which is understood). And I’ve been trying my best to text and stay in touch but he leaves me on read for a minimum of 14 hours. Last time we wanted to schedule date he said “let’s do something else” then didn’t reply to my texts for the rest of the day. I thought I was being smart by telling him today that I’m sorry but i really need more communication and reassurance and respect of time between us because I care about being in good terms with you. And I basically got two paragraphs saying that it’s not a big deal that he reschedualed, that he is being extremely accommodating with my lack of experience, I have not allowed him to kiss me or hold my hand and that other guys will be assholes to me once they know I’m a virgin. I’m honestly seriously shocked from getting such reply. Mind you the guy never initiated to hold my hand and kiss me at all within the first two dates so I’m not sure where that came from. And I thought I was being smart by being honest and open from the beginning. -I know it sounds like he’s not a very nice person, but did i really screw up and end a relationship early because of what I did?",,15,stellaok,1701242152.0 -RedPillWomen,186dn7m,How do you let go & let him lead?,"This one is especially targeted at those with anxiety. What are some techniques you employ in order to let go of that incessant part of your brain, and trust that everything will turn out ok, even if you have no control over the situation?",,20,CharacterOrdinary551,1701222963.0 +I know it sounds like he’s not a very nice person, but did i really screw up and end a relationship early because of what I did?",,15,stellaok,2023-11-29 07:15:52 +RedPillWomen,186dn7m,How do you let go & let him lead?,"This one is especially targeted at those with anxiety. What are some techniques you employ in order to let go of that incessant part of your brain, and trust that everything will turn out ok, even if you have no control over the situation?",,20,CharacterOrdinary551,2023-11-29 01:56:03 RedPillWomen,18626ni,Advice for young girls seeking commitment,"Hello ladies, I’ve been seeing a lot of posts lately about girls struggling to get commitment. I’m about to get engaged after only 11 months of dating (known each other thru work for about 1.3 yrs and having lived in the same city for only 9 months). And I’m 24 btw. It’s a long story as to why I say about to get engaged vs engaged—feel free to read my other posts—and it could all fall apart, sure, but I doubt it highly and even if it did I would use this advice on myself to attract a husband. I’ve had to cut it bc Reddit wouldn’t let me post it bc of length @@ -2326,7 +2326,7 @@ Edit: see comment below about men being like cabs. If he isn’t ready, NONE of 11-Finally. Cultivate a sense of destiny and/or religious faith. Both trust in the process instead of desperately seeking, and look out for signs/the chain of life/God that will bring you to him (check out The Alchemist). He’ll likely notice too and it’ll only make the relationship more valuable. And let it be his idea on the timing / commitment steps. You don’t want to trap someone who isn’t ready. -Hope this helped even if only a bit. Best of luck :)",,27,Consistent_Sleep_341,1701194257.0 +Hope this helped even if only a bit. Best of luck :)",,27,Consistent_Sleep_341,2023-11-28 17:57:37 RedPillWomen,185vm1f,Withholding Premarital Sex Age 40+,"Hi folks, so I gleaned that men marry to have kids. Here's the deal. They look for post fertility women for sex. This creates a dilemma. So, do the old rules from the 2010s even apply, or do men expect women of a certain age to automatically consent to casual sex? Is it even possible to withhold premarital 40+ ? @@ -2345,16 +2345,16 @@ Everyone tells me that the majority of women my age in NYC and even the South ar I asked for constructive criticism and it was one's body count being too low, and not having ""grown up in the clubs"". Terms like prude, and get with the times were used. What was once a cherished value, is now a dis. -So, doing casual daygame, it seems that most guys are either seeking platonic or sex from women 35+. Why has it changed so much? I thought it would be better because guys were less horny at our age. Any thoughts?",,9,SquirrelofLIL,1701176796.0 +So, doing casual daygame, it seems that most guys are either seeking platonic or sex from women 35+. Why has it changed so much? I thought it would be better because guys were less horny at our age. Any thoughts?",,9,SquirrelofLIL,2023-11-28 13:06:36 RedPillWomen,185h33p,How do I find a good man?,"I’ve (22f) been dating for about a year now. I know dating apps aren’t worth anything so I’ve deleted them and started going outside more to parks, coffee shops, bars, etc. Yet, I only meet guys wanting to hookup. (I’m not opposed to sex but I like to wait a while.) I want a serious relationship with anyone. I want to start getting ready for settling down and getting ready for a family. Apparently that scares everyone away. I tell them upfront I’m dating for marriage, I want to be a housewife or work part time, I believe in traditional roles and other basic things. I see everywhere online dudes talking about wanting to be passport bros to find a submissive woman because there are none in America. BUT IM RIGHT HERE!! I have a degree, I take care of myself mentally and physically, and I think I’m good looking. -Where do I find a man that’s ready and willing?",,40,Ummmz,1701127299.0 +Where do I find a man that’s ready and willing?",,40,Ummmz,2023-11-27 23:21:39 RedPillWomen,185tch9,"I can’t make a post, help!","Hello! I wrote some commitment advice/a guide for young girls on this sub but it’s not letting me post it. It is quite long so maybe that’s it, but I keep getting the message “sorry something went wrong” and doesn’t let me post. Thoughts? -Thanks!",,2,Consistent_Sleep_341,1701168713.0 +Thanks!",,2,Consistent_Sleep_341,2023-11-28 10:51:53 RedPillWomen,184u38d,Am I doing the right thing?,"I’ve (25f) been dating a guy (35m) for three months and desire a relationship with him. Things have been going well so far, but once we got to the three month mark, I wanted to make our relationship official, so I breached the infamous “what are we” conversation. He told me he’s really busy with work and doesn’t want to start a relationship when he doesn’t know where his career is going to take him, but does want to be in a relationship with me when he feels things are more settled. I told him that I totally understand, but I also have to move on because I’m dating for marriage and it doesn’t seem like he can offer the first step (a relationship) right now. @@ -2366,12 +2366,12 @@ Am I doing the right thing by giving him space to figure things out and letting Context that I don’t know where else to add: - we haven’t been intimate as we’re both Christian - I haven’t spoken to him in a few days, but he’s been reaching out to maintain contact -- please don’t hark on the age gap, we are actually very compatible values and goals wise",,23,studyofa,1701057980.0 +- please don’t hark on the age gap, we are actually very compatible values and goals wise",,23,studyofa,2023-11-27 04:06:20 RedPillWomen,184va7d,How do you know your SMV/RMV and All the guys are taken,"We all know that past performance isn't indicative of future results and that you can't time the market. However there are guidelines. Here's the deal. How do you know what your RMV or SMV are and when you're settling? -Also how do you deal with everyone being married already at your age (35+/40+). Any thoughts, strategies.",,5,SquirrelofLIL,1701062067.0 +Also how do you deal with everyone being married already at your age (35+/40+). Any thoughts, strategies.",,5,SquirrelofLIL,2023-11-27 05:14:27 RedPillWomen,1842vvd,Am I going for guys that are out of my league?,"I’ve posted here before and I’m ashamed to admit that I’ve backtracked more than I’ve made progress. I’ll make 2 strides forward then set myself back by 5 strides. I posted here last because I was concerned about my high body count. It hasn’t changed by much (only 1) but I’m disappointed in myself for continuing the patterns that caused my high BC. I have serious self-control and impulse issues. Logically, I knew the right decision was not to sleep with the most recent new man I was getting to know but I was so ‘caught up in the moment’ that I just let go and did what felt good. That situationship happened a year ago and ended badly. Over the course of this year, I’ve also “reunited” with both an ex-fling and my ex. I had sex with both of them again. Typing this out, I’m actually mortified at my behavior and I feel very ashamed. I feel like I can’t even recognize myself anymore based off how little respect and care I have I’m showing I have for myself. I know better but I am not doing better. @@ -2380,7 +2380,7 @@ The men I reconnected with have showed me in the past that they don’t respect Admittedly, I am very poor at boundary enforcement and my communication skills are in the gutter. I’m pretty sure it’s the main reason why I’ve allowed myself to be in SEVERAL situationships. I fail to have the dating intentions conversation and let things progress to the inevitable ‘what are we’ conversation initiated by me after sex and feelings have developed. Those never go well. I end up staying until I cannot bear the thought of just being a girl that’s in his life and not considered to be HIS girl. It’s happened with 4 different guys. -Now, I’m starting to think it’s because these men believe I’m good enough for the time being but not good enough for long term. I go for men that are 6-7/10 MAX 7.5 which I think is pretty attainable and realistic for my looks. Based on what’ve you’ve read thus far, does it sound like I’m shooting above my league or is it my behavior that’s keeping me in the ‘f*ckzone’?",,14,notknownfromhere,1700974202.0 +Now, I’m starting to think it’s because these men believe I’m good enough for the time being but not good enough for long term. I go for men that are 6-7/10 MAX 7.5 which I think is pretty attainable and realistic for my looks. Based on what’ve you’ve read thus far, does it sound like I’m shooting above my league or is it my behavior that’s keeping me in the ‘f*ckzone’?",,14,notknownfromhere,2023-11-26 04:50:02 RedPillWomen,183faj1,Dealing with husbands blindness,"My (f24) husband (m33) of 5 years went unexpectedly blind and my life feels shattered. We were in a very traditional relationship and I'm afraid things will never feel the same. As silly as it sounds, I always took great pride in my looks and it breaks my heart that they're useless now. I feel like I have little to no qualities to offer him besides my looks. I don't know how I can be attractive to him now that my main quality is useless. @@ -2389,7 +2389,7 @@ As silly as it sounds, I always took great pride in my looks and it breaks my he I also mourn the life I lost. He was always very protective of me, physically and emotionally. Now he can't physically protect me. He used to drive me around, which he can't anymore. I feel like I lost my captain and have to step up. I'm afraid I'll lose my femininity because of this. -He provides, he is the sweetest man I have ever met and he is the love of my life. I haven't thought about leaving him for a second. I'm just looking for advice on how to make our lives easier. If anyone has any ideas please share. I feel selfish because I know he's suffering way more than me, but I need help.",,30,Typical-Visit-7759,1700901120.0 +He provides, he is the sweetest man I have ever met and he is the love of my life. I haven't thought about leaving him for a second. I'm just looking for advice on how to make our lives easier. If anyone has any ideas please share. I feel selfish because I know he's suffering way more than me, but I need help.",,30,Typical-Visit-7759,2023-11-25 08:32:00 RedPillWomen,182pa2w,Boundaries about his friends?,"Hello ladies, Thanks for reading. Feel free to read my previous posts for more context. I’m about to get engaged and move in my boyfriend of one year. He is from a very liberal European country and in the past had liberal relationships (mostly monogamous but also hook ups, more open ones, etc.) but you know, going out to party with friends while girlfriend went out with her friends, etc.) I am 9 years younger (24) and though I did have a party phase, it has long since been over and I don’t really have friends anymore because of moving a lot. This of course has limited my social interactions a lot, especially considering most girls my age just want to party, and the couple of times I have gone out to a bar with another girl he has trusted me completely because he knows I’m not going to be flirting with other guys and it’s not really my scene, and once again in his culture it’s completely normal to do so. @@ -2402,7 +2402,7 @@ I have met him and got invited once to their going out (just having a drink) but Again they barely see each other and my boyfriend is otherwise showing his commitment to me, has quit porn, is respectful overall etc., but it just makes me super uneasy. However the last thing I want to do is to limit his freedom/restrict/put rules on him. In this country it’s super normal to go out with friends, even if the other friend is single etc., and he’s already changed a lot (not just for me, he prefers a more traditional relationship in general). -I just don’t want to dread these outings forever but I also don’t want to be the nagging girlfriend/fiancée who doesn’t let him hang out with his friends. Yesterday they hung out after like a month and they did work together at an office, and possibly went out after (I wouldn’t know because I avoid talking to him when he’s out with friends to calm my anxiety). And I just keep thinking how this guy probably talks about the girls he dates and how he probably cheats, and how they look at their pics and my boyfriend probably feels like he’s missing out or god knows, and it just doesn’t make me feel good in the slightest. I have a tendency to overthink/ruminate/sabotage, so I don’t want to create unnecessary drama but I also want respect. Advice?",,6,Consistent_Sleep_341,1700822004.0 +I just don’t want to dread these outings forever but I also don’t want to be the nagging girlfriend/fiancée who doesn’t let him hang out with his friends. Yesterday they hung out after like a month and they did work together at an office, and possibly went out after (I wouldn’t know because I avoid talking to him when he’s out with friends to calm my anxiety). And I just keep thinking how this guy probably talks about the girls he dates and how he probably cheats, and how they look at their pics and my boyfriend probably feels like he’s missing out or god knows, and it just doesn’t make me feel good in the slightest. I have a tendency to overthink/ruminate/sabotage, so I don’t want to create unnecessary drama but I also want respect. Advice?",,6,Consistent_Sleep_341,2023-11-24 10:33:24 RedPillWomen,182vjzw,Making my mother a red pill woman,"I love my mother so much and I want her to better herself. She finally divorced my dad who never allowed her to be in her feminine or feel beautiful or spoiled. She already started a new chapter in her life with a man who seems to be much better than my dad but she is still not feminine and not allowing herself to be. @@ -2413,7 +2413,7 @@ I don’t want to push her or make the choices for her, I want her to want it, I Any advice highly appreciated ❤️ -She is a woman in her mid 40s",,0,VeeIsLost,1700842337.0 +She is a woman in her mid 40s",,0,VeeIsLost,2023-11-24 16:12:17 RedPillWomen,18273y6,Being feminine in a crisis,"Flair for needing advice as my guy has me feeling dried up. We have been together for a year and seven months. He hasn’t worked during this time and I am the sole breadwinner. We aren’t married because we still have fundamental problems. He’s often doesn’t feel well. He’s not dealing with anything serious physically that we know of. @@ -2426,10 +2426,10 @@ Secondarily, he didn’t even invite me over to his family’s meal. Didn’t ev In all this, I am really struggling with if I could ever respect his headship. He always says he would never steer me wrong, but this has been proven false in the past and his recent actions cause me to not trust him in what his position is supposed to be. I can’t be treated like a doormat and I don’t feel cherished. -To deal with the financial pressures, I am applying for higher positions outside my company (although I love my current job) and even applying to grocery stores for a second job. How do I not become a raging girl dog and maintain my femininity during this crisis??",,42,DarkBaddie,1700762630.0 +To deal with the financial pressures, I am applying for higher positions outside my company (although I love my current job) and even applying to grocery stores for a second job. How do I not become a raging girl dog and maintain my femininity during this crisis??",,42,DarkBaddie,2023-11-23 18:03:50 RedPillWomen,182969y,Best way to act when husband is on a boys trip,"My husband is away and I have two small kids and two pets at home + working from home. I’m a bit overwhelmed but don’t want to come across as the stressed out wife. How should I act while he’s away? I don’t want to lie about things being easy for me at home but I also don’t want to make it seem super daunting to come back home to us (lol). -I’d appreciate any tips or advice or stories of your experience with your husband on trips and things that work or don’t work. My hope is to have him excited to come back home to us and also appreciative that I held down the home front and our mutual business while he’s away",,13,[deleted],1700768447.0 +I’d appreciate any tips or advice or stories of your experience with your husband on trips and things that work or don’t work. My hope is to have him excited to come back home to us and also appreciative that I held down the home front and our mutual business while he’s away",,13,[deleted],2023-11-23 19:40:47 RedPillWomen,1823qjm,Do Men Find Cuddling Effeminate?,"I was recently talking with a single male friend of mine about love languages. We looked up some examples including some for physical touch. He said he thought one of his love languages was physical touch and I said mine was too. We looked at a page of lots of different cuddling positions and I said my favourite was the one where the woman cuddles her man with her head on his chest. He said that that was also his favourite position, but reversed, with so his head would be on the woman's chest. He said he liked it not because it was a submissive position (which is what it looks like) but because it lets him get a good hold of the person he is cuddling, ""demonstrating physically that she is mine"" is sort of how he phrased it. He seemed rather unsure or embarrassed as he was talking about this. \[I did wonder if it might also be because the man's face would be near the breasts but I did not ask if that was also a reason he liked it\] @@ -2440,7 +2440,7 @@ He went on to say that women can like cuddling as much as they like and they sho I then asked if he thought that men could not ask for physical contact at all; he said that maybe it would be alright to ask for massages, but only to soften his muscles after extensive physical exertion rather than for pampering - and only ever occasionally. -I had never heard of this view before from men? Is it common? What do you ladies think? Would you find your man wanting to cuddle submissive? And if there are any men here, what are your perspectives?",,13,TheRedPilledLurker,1700753657.0 +I had never heard of this view before from men? Is it common? What do you ladies think? Would you find your man wanting to cuddle submissive? And if there are any men here, what are your perspectives?",,13,TheRedPilledLurker,2023-11-23 15:34:17 RedPillWomen,181zpab,How can I stop to be mad at my boyfriend beeing sick,"This is my first post and english is not my mother language, as you may notice. When I was sick as a child, my mother (very dominant and angry most of the time) would say things like: you're just lazy and do this for attention. You will infect me with your flu, stop whining about it. @@ -2450,7 +2450,7 @@ I hate thinking these bad things and would love to hear from you, how you care f Yesterday I cooked for him and made tea. But I still feel guilty because I could not be that loving. Thank you very much for reading this. Please share your thoughts. -Edit: thank you for the sweet an helpful advices.",,10,MultitudeSystem,1700740881.0 +Edit: thank you for the sweet an helpful advices.",,10,MultitudeSystem,2023-11-23 12:01:21 RedPillWomen,182llde,Thanksgiving,"I'm American. Sister-in-law grew up at a boarding school in Connecticut and loves to cook. Her husband and mine went to boarding school in the UK. We live in London, though different parts and they don't work together. SiL decided to make a Thanksgiving meal; and so, bought a large (45lb) turkey, made stuffing, pies, etc. We took daughter over to their place in Hammersmith. We went in, husband is a great uncle and revels in making everyone laugh. Their daughter, S, is 2, ours, N, is almost 4. @@ -2461,23 +2461,23 @@ So she goes back to her father and asks him why he isn't ""as much fun as uncle" Her father says, ""you're too fat for me to lift, S!"". When I heard this, I was tempted to call 101 this very minute, but didn't. Should I have? -I know my husband would never say such a thing to anyone. But, by the same token, he wouldn't comment on it or get involved if he hears someone else say it.",,0,LiteratureOk7716,1700807076.0 +I know my husband would never say such a thing to anyone. But, by the same token, he wouldn't comment on it or get involved if he hears someone else say it.",,0,LiteratureOk7716,2023-11-24 06:24:36 RedPillWomen,180xy1z,My boyfriend (M25) told me(F27) his relationship history and it made me feel sad and confused.," My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. Today my boyfriend(M25) and I(F27) were talking and he was telling me his previous dating history. He was telling me how a lot of girls have approached him and hit on him and he always turned them down. I am by no means ugly but I don’t know why I felt so sad and insecure hearing him say this. I grew up super strict and religious so I was not allowed to date and this is my first time ever having a boyfriend. Maybe I’m feeling insecure knowing that a lot of women find my boyfriend attractive? I don’t know but I left the the conversation feeling super insecure, sad and kind of worthless. -Tl;dr my boyfriend told me his relationship history and it made me feel sad.",,40,QueenKaay13,1700618260.0 +Tl;dr my boyfriend told me his relationship history and it made me feel sad.",,40,QueenKaay13,2023-11-22 01:57:40 RedPillWomen,180yq7b,What to do if you crave physical touch?,"I really want to avoid casual relationships but once in a while I feel the need for intimacy and physical touch. For anyone that has chosen to stay celibate, how do you deal with these emotions? I miss the cuddles, sex and kissing and it’s making me feel lonely. I feel like with where my life is, it will be years till I find someone and idk how long I can hold it. -Any suggestions on what to do besides keeping myself occupied?",,28,Waxflower8,1700620688.0 +Any suggestions on what to do besides keeping myself occupied?",,28,Waxflower8,2023-11-22 02:38:08 RedPillWomen,180e0sg,What does a healthy sex life look like?,"Hi, new sub here. I've got a relatively low libido now due to work stress and anxiety but I never used to be like this. It is probably connected to the fact I don't love how I look naked but I used to. I had this charm and energy which was so alluring to my previous sexual partners. I've lost her a bit now as I've grown up but slowly finding my new preferences but I gotta ask, those in long term relationships - how many times a week do you guys have sex? I'm in a 4 year relationship and previously there were long dry spells. -What was your longest?",,20,SheWhoObserves,1700562681.0 +What was your longest?",,20,SheWhoObserves,2023-11-21 10:31:21 RedPillWomen,180nokv,Seeking serious advice about whether to build a relationship with the current man I dating,"Hi all. I have been dating a man for several months now. I am 23, a student and he is 28 and a junior doctor. I have had 2 serious relationships previously and I want a serious relationship with a view of marriage. He has also told me he wants a long term relationship and children within a few years. His brothers are only a few years older and have wives and children and I think he is a little envious of them. @@ -2495,14 +2495,14 @@ Finally, we have some sexual issues. I suspect that I have vaginismus (involunta So all in all we get on well and I care about him but I do have some issues that are bothering me or making me insecure. I’m not sure whether I should accept these and try to work with it or call it a day. I am aware I’ve had several relationships with good men previously, and don’t wanna keep going through new men looking for something perfect as it never will be. Any guidance would be great, thank you -",,3,Melodic-Jellyfish-67,1700591149.0 +",,3,Melodic-Jellyfish-67,2023-11-21 18:25:49 RedPillWomen,17zwqpo,"Making myself more desirable, receptive and not reticent","As a dark skin black woman, I understand that there's a stereotype placed on me as a sapphire/jezebel and see the negative effect it has on my dating life. The men I'm into (traditionally masculine men --like firefighters/military men, etc) tend to go after women of asian/latina/European culture and I notice these women tend (NOT ALWAYS) present themselves as light-hearted, sensual and just a joy to be around. I naturally tense up around men (mainly due to teasing growing up) and sometimes find it hard to believe that I'm desirable enough. I'm reading books (the surrendered single, preparing to be a help meet, etc) to gain more insight. I'm also working on my fitness, mainly for my own benefit but also because I know it'll widen my dating pool. -I do want to fall in love and get married but know people may perceive me as an angry, bitter woman, especially with my closed body language. I want to be more receptive but without coming across desperate or creepy.",,27,purpleand20,1700508724.0 +I do want to fall in love and get married but know people may perceive me as an angry, bitter woman, especially with my closed body language. I want to be more receptive but without coming across desperate or creepy.",,27,purpleand20,2023-11-20 19:32:04 RedPillWomen,17yb8dx,How to increase my chances of getting asked out by a man?,"I (21f) genuinely want to know what could make a man want to pursue me/ ask me out on a date. The most I got from a man as a sign of interest are glances, maybe receive a compliment about my looks or even get catcalled by some randos once every few weeks. I come from a somewhat religious background. So casual hookups are completely out of the question. People are more or less secretive when it comes to dating. @@ -2529,7 +2529,7 @@ Even if I had to reject guys, which rarely happens. I'm entitled to my preferenc Arranged marriage is still part of our culture, so I could always skip the headache of dating. But I can't be 100% sure that the person I'll be getting married to is compatible or if they will treat me the way I deserve. Also there's no room for romantic feelings if I didn't willingly chose that person after falling in love with them. -Sorry for the long rant. I just want to know what can I do to not end up as a lonely old cat lady or worse, having end up getting married to a terrible person.",,27,SilverKnightLife,1700328153.0 +Sorry for the long rant. I just want to know what can I do to not end up as a lonely old cat lady or worse, having end up getting married to a terrible person.",,27,SilverKnightLife,2023-11-18 17:22:33 RedPillWomen,17xrdfj,Confidence for the Single RPW,"I have noticed a number of posts lately from single or dating phase women where it is apparent there is a major lack of confidence on the woman’s part, a fear of risk taking, and much excuse making. Many women come here looking for a husband but are not ready to accept the risk that comes with searching and I get it, it is scary and hard and frustrating. But as a long-time dater and ambassador to the unmarried RPW, I feel like we should have a discussion on this. **Reasons for Lack of Confidence in RPW** @@ -2564,12 +2564,12 @@ Book: Why Men Marry Bitches [RPW Post: The Art of the Bad Excuse](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7ad6eb/approaching_men_the_art_of_the_bad_excuse/) [RPW Post: Game Tips for Women](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/1ssn1e/game_tips_for_women_some_nsfw_content/) [RPW Post: Online Dating](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/16e8q6c/back_to_basics_september_online_dating/) -",,31,Jenneapolis,1700261076.0 +",,31,Jenneapolis,2023-11-17 22:44:36 RedPillWomen,17x8dtq,What I learned about respect at work,"At my job, I'm learning how to work in a new section on my department. My trainer, a married middle aged man, was telling me that he had a door that needed to be fixed at his house, but that his wife wouldn't let him do it. He had looked it up on the internet, gotten the tools to do it, and was just about to start fixing it when she walked in and told him to stop and said she just wanted to call someone to fix it. He told me that had wanted to try fixing things around the house for years, but she never let him, and so he figured he must not be good enough to do it. He tried laughing it off like it was a joke, but it obviously wasn't. The level of sadness and shame in this man's eyes and voice when he was telling me this... It was palpable. I felt the need to tell him that he should try fixing it anyway, and surprise her with it when she gets home. Maybe that wasn't the right thing for me to do, but when I said that, he instantly lit up. I just couldn't handle seeing him so sad, and he was a lot happier the rest of the day. -We as women tend to think stuff like that doesn't matter, but it does. Men love to help us and to feel capable. Let them. ",,72,[deleted],1700200576.0 +We as women tend to think stuff like that doesn't matter, but it does. Men love to help us and to feel capable. Let them. ",,72,[deleted],2023-11-17 05:56:16 RedPillWomen,17ww4g9,Having a Relationship with a Captain who has Autism?,"Are there any women here who have Captains with autism? (or autistic Captains who are married to Red Pill Women?) How do you find it supporting your man through his autism? @@ -2590,7 +2590,7 @@ Does it affect your bedroom? Does it affect your emotion/spiritual/romantic/carnal connection? -What advice would you give to a woman (or autistic man) who is considering a relationship with a Captain with autism?",,6,TheRedPilledLurker,1700165297.0 +What advice would you give to a woman (or autistic man) who is considering a relationship with a Captain with autism?",,6,TheRedPilledLurker,2023-11-16 20:08:17 RedPillWomen,17wwgk2,Birth Control Help?,"Hello ladies of RPW! I was wondering if anybody had advice on birth control. I’m in a bit of a specific situation; I can’t take estrogen-based birth control due to significantly increased stroke risk (from blood condition), and my cycle is very irregular, so I can’t do the fertility awareness method (which is what I read many women recommended on this sub). @@ -2604,19 +2604,19 @@ I know I’m being really picky, but I honestly hate birth control! I don’t li I’m currently single and for a variety of reasons, I want to wait to have sex until I’m in a significantly committed relationship. Part of me thinks not having birth control would be a good motivation to hold that boundary. However, I am aware that I have a VERY high sex drive and there’s always the chance that I’ll make a dumb choice in the future, which is why the safety net of birth control might be a good thing. To be clear I don’t sleep around (my n is 1), I just really believe in being prepared. Not to mention, when I'm in a relationship, I understand that my partner will want to have sex (as will I), and I'd like to be able to do that! Does anybody have any suggestions for birth control options, or how to approach this situation? Thank you all for your time! -",,6,Valuable_Place1265,1700166181.0 +",,6,Valuable_Place1265,2023-11-16 20:23:01 RedPillWomen,17wbckh,Is there such thing as too much sex?,"I saw the post in here a few days ago about how not turning your partner down for sex can help a lot in your relationship. Does anyone have advice for someone in the opposite situation? I feel like I ALWAYS want sex. We have periods where I feel like my boyfriend feels the same way and we’re having sex every day if not multiple times a day. But then we will go days without it and I feel like he doesn’t want to touch me anymore and I have to beg him to fuck me. -Really, we haven’t gone more than probably 2 weeks without sex since we started dating in May 2022. But I still get upset when we go through dry periods and I don’t know how to help myself through it.",,33,udrewstars_,1700101242.0 +Really, we haven’t gone more than probably 2 weeks without sex since we started dating in May 2022. But I still get upset when we go through dry periods and I don’t know how to help myself through it.",,33,udrewstars_,2023-11-16 02:20:42 RedPillWomen,17w5e09,How to support my partner without suffocating him?,"Context: My partner was in an accident about a week ago and ended up with a broken ankle and leg. We were sooo blessed to have a great medical team and quick surgery, we only spent two nights in the hospital and are now on the road to recovery. We don’t live together, and currently we are both staying with his family so his mom and I can be there to help him since he can’t put weight on his leg at all and is on a pretty rigorous course of pain management medications (we are all tired due to waking up every few hours for meds). His mom is an angel (and an RN) but I can tell having her fuss over him on top of having me by his side constantly is starting to feel like a bit much for him. I can’t imagine how it feels to be in that much pain physically or how mentally draining it must be to not be able to do anything on his own, and I assume it’s a little much to have both me and his mom around 24/7. I know he appreciates it (and he has told me this a bunch too!) but I can tell he is starting to feel smothered and I’m not sure what I can do. I’ve talked to him about it when I can, but there isn’t much that can change since he does need so much help at this point. -So, I come to the wise members of RPW seeking support, words of wisdom, encouragement, and any advice you can give as to how I can do what he needs without being overbearing or making him feel like my view of him has changed.",,12,amityjeanklein,1700086277.0 +So, I come to the wise members of RPW seeking support, words of wisdom, encouragement, and any advice you can give as to how I can do what he needs without being overbearing or making him feel like my view of him has changed.",,12,amityjeanklein,2023-11-15 22:11:17 RedPillWomen,17w94bl,New relationship advice needed (this is a positive step in my life),"My best friend of 22 years brother and I have been seeing each other romnantically lately and we both want to take things slow. We’ve known each other since we were pre teens and once had a brief relationship when we were 17 and 17 and half and obviously it didn’t work bc we were young and immature but it was a good relationship given our ages. @@ -2626,15 +2626,15 @@ We were each others persons We never stopped loving each other and never left ea He and I now are together but would like to take our relationship slowly but grow romantically and we are both the happiest we’ve been in years since being together. He’s a breath of fresh air and my soul feels so calm around him. And he feels the same way back. He spent the night smiling from ear to ear and being the happiest I’ve ever seen him. -How do we take things slow? There’s so much love here and I’ve already spent the night, had our first kiss and got mildly intimidate. And I’m going back over Saturday for dinner and to spend the night I’m used to guys rushing things and am used to that being a habit and how a relationship is but I don’t want that with my guy. I want to learn to love him and grow with him intimately and romantically the old fashioned way. I’d love advice. I’m excited to be with him!!",,6,itsmepingu,1700095323.0 +How do we take things slow? There’s so much love here and I’ve already spent the night, had our first kiss and got mildly intimidate. And I’m going back over Saturday for dinner and to spend the night I’m used to guys rushing things and am used to that being a habit and how a relationship is but I don’t want that with my guy. I want to learn to love him and grow with him intimately and romantically the old fashioned way. I’d love advice. I’m excited to be with him!!",,6,itsmepingu,2023-11-16 00:42:03 RedPillWomen,17w5dy7,How to support my partner without suffocating him?,"Context: My partner was in an accident about a week ago and ended up with a broken ankle and leg. We were sooo blessed to have a great medical team and quick surgery, we only spent two nights in the hospital and are now on the road to recovery. We don’t live together, and currently we are both staying with his family so his mom and I can be there to help him since he can’t put weight on his leg at all and is on a pretty rigorous course of pain management medications (we are all tired due to waking up every few hours for meds). His mom is an angel (and an RN) but I can tell having her fuss over him on top of having me by his side constantly is starting to feel like a bit much for him. I can’t imagine how it feels to be in that much pain physically or how mentally draining it must be to not be able to do anything on his own, and I assume it’s a little much to have both me and his mom around 24/7. I know he appreciates it (and he has told me this a bunch too!) but I can tell he is starting to feel smothered and I’m not sure what I can do. I’ve talked to him about it when I can, but there isn’t much that can change since he does need so much help at this point. -So, I come to the wise members of RPW seeking support, words of wisdom, encouragement, and any advice you can give as to how I can do what he needs without being overbearing or making him feel like my view of him has changed.",,7,amityjeanklein,1700086274.0 -RedPillWomen,17v8yme,How can I make more girl friends,"When I was unattractive I had more girl friends and less guy friends. I’ve been judged by other women for having a lot of guy friends but those same women don’t want to be my friend. I think girls are threatened by attractive women, I don’t like hanging out with men most of the time because when they are respectful they tend to ignore you since you’re a girl they prefer to kind of leave you alone, and obviously I don’t want to hang out with men who are disrespectful. I want to consume more feminine energy, I don’t want to become a “masculine woman “.I want to create or be in a group for only woman but I’m struggling to find any that are active.",,21,Adri7wolf2,1699987141.0 +So, I come to the wise members of RPW seeking support, words of wisdom, encouragement, and any advice you can give as to how I can do what he needs without being overbearing or making him feel like my view of him has changed.",,7,amityjeanklein,2023-11-15 22:11:14 +RedPillWomen,17v8yme,How can I make more girl friends,"When I was unattractive I had more girl friends and less guy friends. I’ve been judged by other women for having a lot of guy friends but those same women don’t want to be my friend. I think girls are threatened by attractive women, I don’t like hanging out with men most of the time because when they are respectful they tend to ignore you since you’re a girl they prefer to kind of leave you alone, and obviously I don’t want to hang out with men who are disrespectful. I want to consume more feminine energy, I don’t want to become a “masculine woman “.I want to create or be in a group for only woman but I’m struggling to find any that are active.",,21,Adri7wolf2,2023-11-14 18:39:01 RedPillWomen,17v6vbg,How to deal with the fact that your partner has expressed to you he is sexually attracted to someone else?,"I know its silly to live in a fantasy world that your partner only thinks you are attractive but this fantasy world keeps me sane and it was disrupted last year and I still feel sad about it. I have low self esteem which I have been and am working on very hard (therapy, counselling, healthy lifestyle, self help books + podcasts, plant medicine). @@ -2645,8 +2645,8 @@ I only ended up hanging out with this girl one other time after, and then our fr Our relationship is amazing despite this; he is loyal, supportive, loving and is my best friend. This really affected me and although I am handling this a lot better now that it has been a year, every once in a while I have a day were I feel very sad about this fact and today is one of those days. -How can I try and get over this?",,23,bananacandy16,1699981698.0 -RedPillWomen,17v1cly,What’s your reason of living?,"Sorry for such a depressing question but I’m genuinely curious! I’m okay I promise! I just want to know what RP girls’ goals and purpose in life are. I’m struggling a bit to make any meaning out of why I’m still here, hoping I can possibly get inspired by and understand the purpose of those who have similar viewpoints to me. Thank you 💓",,32,New_Initiative_2134,1699965534.0 +How can I try and get over this?",,23,bananacandy16,2023-11-14 17:08:18 +RedPillWomen,17v1cly,What’s your reason of living?,"Sorry for such a depressing question but I’m genuinely curious! I’m okay I promise! I just want to know what RP girls’ goals and purpose in life are. I’m struggling a bit to make any meaning out of why I’m still here, hoping I can possibly get inspired by and understand the purpose of those who have similar viewpoints to me. Thank you 💓",,32,New_Initiative_2134,2023-11-14 12:38:54 RedPillWomen,17v2xyt,About to get engaged and terrified/anxious,"Hello all, Thanks for reading first of all. Feel free to read my previous post for more context. Boyfriend (and I) decided that I shouldn’t renew my rent contract and after he talks to my parents, I should move in with him. He knows that I won’t live with a man without a ring and we’re traveling to talk to parents in January and I come back some weeks later. I will move in with him then and he assured me that he will have “everything set up” soon but that he also wants to keep an element of surprise to the proposal etc. I told him as long as he doesn’t lead me on for months, and he’s aware and says he won’t. @@ -2657,7 +2657,7 @@ And I’m just terrified about how living together often kills the intimacy and I’m terrified of feeling mundane and not exciting after living together etc., and of self sabotaging as a result (as I have had a tendency to do that in the past). I just have this idea that the beginning (first few months of a relationship) is the best part and after that the guy just sees you as boring/no longer new so meh ? And also the idea of forever is terrifying and just doesn’t seem like it ever even works nowadays. He’s quite calm and sure and mature and I feel like I half don’t feel good enough, half am terrified etc. he’s lived with two other girlfriends before in the past and I also don’t wanna feel like just another one. -Idk I’m definitely super anxious and insecure (doom scrolling on Redding about relationships / cheating doesn’t help). I’m also anxious about my parents/people judging us because they’re not that traditional and they might think one year is too soon. I love him, want to be with him, and feel lucky to have him and for things to being going smoothly. Now I just need to figure out how to feel worthy/enough, trust, and not self sabotage. I do go to therapy but she’s from the same liberal country and lowkey judges us I feel like. And would just tell me to wait longer when I don’t see the point, as we have the same goals and love each other. Anyway clearly I’m an anxious mess, any advice would help ❤️ I’m sure I want to do this, just don’t know how to feel positive or good enough, etc.",,8,Consistent_Sleep_341,1699970786.0 +Idk I’m definitely super anxious and insecure (doom scrolling on Redding about relationships / cheating doesn’t help). I’m also anxious about my parents/people judging us because they’re not that traditional and they might think one year is too soon. I love him, want to be with him, and feel lucky to have him and for things to being going smoothly. Now I just need to figure out how to feel worthy/enough, trust, and not self sabotage. I do go to therapy but she’s from the same liberal country and lowkey judges us I feel like. And would just tell me to wait longer when I don’t see the point, as we have the same goals and love each other. Anyway clearly I’m an anxious mess, any advice would help ❤️ I’m sure I want to do this, just don’t know how to feel positive or good enough, etc.",,8,Consistent_Sleep_341,2023-11-14 14:06:26 RedPillWomen,17uc2jh,Sex is truly the key 🔐,"I’ve been with my husband for 7yrs and I finally understand how pivotal a **healthy sex life** is in our marriage. It’s been the missing piece. For the last few years in our marriage, I’ve gotten lazy and selfish. I’d turn him down for sex regularly, with my only excuse being “I’m tired”. Mentally excusing it away as “I’ve had a long day” or “just not right now.” Then, seemingly unrelated, I’d get upset because he wasn’t affectionate with me how I wanted outside of the bedroom. Then I’d spiral and start to think “does he even really love me?” @@ -2670,8 +2670,8 @@ These past couple months I’ve totally changed my perspective when it comes to I’ve been craving that connection and affection so deeply and now I see clearly that I was the one standing in the way of getting it. It truly feels like we’re young again, love sick. -I don’t have a question and I hope a post like this is ok to share. I’m just so happy and feel like I have my marriage back.",,388,robikn22,1699886435.0 -RedPillWomen,17uoad9,Why does submitting make me love him more ?,"I want to follow him wherever he goes, it's like has a light, a sigh of relief to me. Since I have been following his leadership i see him differently, I not only want to make him happy, but i have foreign experience of safety. What's happening to me? did submitting to your man make you love him more? ",,55,FearlessStudy805,1699918139.0 +I don’t have a question and I hope a post like this is ok to share. I’m just so happy and feel like I have my marriage back.",,388,robikn22,2023-11-13 14:40:35 +RedPillWomen,17uoad9,Why does submitting make me love him more ?,"I want to follow him wherever he goes, it's like has a light, a sigh of relief to me. Since I have been following his leadership i see him differently, I not only want to make him happy, but i have foreign experience of safety. What's happening to me? did submitting to your man make you love him more? ",,55,FearlessStudy805,2023-11-13 23:28:59 RedPillWomen,17tzfrj,"Male acquaintance wants to ""hang out""","He's a good guy. But my boyfriend and I have a kind of agreement not to hang out 1 on 1 with the other sex unless their S/O is there. People say that seems controlling, but it just seems weird to us. Like we put time and effort into eachother and see it as kind of emotional cheating or just opening a possibility of complications that doesn't need to be there. @@ -2684,10 +2684,10 @@ I'm thinking I'll just have to tell him like that but I was hoping someone had s Also he's recently single and texted me at like 1 am asking whats up? I didnt answer until the next day when the sun was up. But it just had that vibe if you know what I mean. -Thanks for reading!",,24,Lacholaweda,1699838862.0 +Thanks for reading!",,24,Lacholaweda,2023-11-13 01:27:42 RedPillWomen,17tof5b,Sex and spending time together…,"This year has been a total roller coaster for us. My husband went off the deep end and we separated. Then I found LD and the Empowered Wife which really helped us get back together two and a half months ago. Now that the dust has settled and things have calmed down, I realized that for the past year, I’m the one who initiates sex and pretty much everything we go do. We haven’t had sex in two weeks bc I haven’t initiated it. I haven’t been standoffish or anything just haven’t initiated sex. So, now that we are back into a routine or normal life, he’s falling asleep in front if the tv every night by 7:30 and snoring while I go to bed by myself. This was not what I had hoped for. Instead of a playful passionate relationship, I have a albeit much calmer, boring, snoring relationship. I can appreciate the calm but I’d like to do something else besides what we are currently doing. I could go somewhere myself which I thought about doing last night, but one of his previous complaints was that I wasn’t available to him and was with other people. That’s bc I didn’t want to spend my life in front of the tv set watching his shows and listening to him snore 🫠 He likes for me to be around without actually having to interact with me. -I know this sounds like complaining bc it probably is, but I don’t know how to express any of this to him without making him irritated with me. I’ll probably cross post on surrendered wife too.",,21,SomberWinter13,1699808414.0 +I know this sounds like complaining bc it probably is, but I don’t know how to express any of this to him without making him irritated with me. I’ll probably cross post on surrendered wife too.",,21,SomberWinter13,2023-11-12 17:00:14 RedPillWomen,17tem4k,Men Become Aroused when Women Cry?,"I was recently reading an old post here called: ""*Back to the basics - are women capable of love?*"", in it the author wrote this: >When a woman cries and falls apart and her man helps hold her together, he will become s\*xually aroused (even if he'll try to hide it because it's inappropriate). @@ -2696,7 +2696,7 @@ Is this true? Do men become aroused by women crying or by comforting women who a I tried looking for other posts about this on this Subreddit but could not find any. -Does anyone know anything about this or have any personal experiences where you have seen your Captain become aroused when you cried?",,28,TheRedPilledLurker,1699771667.0 +Does anyone know anything about this or have any personal experiences where you have seen your Captain become aroused when you cried?",,28,TheRedPilledLurker,2023-11-12 06:47:47 RedPillWomen,17t32ou,Restarting my life to save my marriage,"Hi. Excuse the dramatic title, Recently read the empowered wife, it’s done wonders for my relationship and continues to do so. Little Background: together for 15 years, 2 small children. I played out my trauma in my marriage, I’ve had a lot of anger at the world and men specifically. And an absolute refusal to trust anyone or anything. My ptsd symptoms just ran my life, and my family’s. I came from a chaotic family, I fell into a lot of belief systems that advocated for my behavior rather than what was actually kind, decent or good for my family. My husband is a literal angel. He didn’t start to break until the last few years, I’m so ashamed. I want to transform and become the wife he and our kids actually deserve. It’s felt for a long time like he has been a caretaker for my mental illness and it’s taken opportunities from us, taken years from us and our children. My husband has shed tears about what we have lost with our kids. That was it for me and I’ve been working on this for about 6 months. It’s like night and day, I can say that much. It’s been a little scary how wrong I’ve been. I have a lot of work ahead of me, but for the first time I feel Hopeful. Here is where I would like advice: @@ -2709,7 +2709,7 @@ Hopeful. Here is where I would like advice: 4. General advice and encouragement. I can’t stress enough how lucky I am to have my husband, he’s supporting me through everything. He has his own trauma, but he’s very intent on healing together. I want to finally honor that. The skills have felt like the first breath of fresh air I’ve ever taken. But again, my social circle is total opposite. They would scoff at all of it. -If you made it this far reading, thank you. I never thought I would be here writing this.",,33,Single-Long-5668,1699734517.0 +If you made it this far reading, thank you. I never thought I would be here writing this.",,33,Single-Long-5668,2023-11-11 20:28:37 RedPillWomen,17tb2cc,Arguments from a red-pilled perspective?,"From young, I’ve had many inklings about life and relationships that red pill research has confirmed. That being said, I’ve been looking and can’t find anything on arguments. I was raised by a narcissist dad and an enabler mom and so arguments were basically the man who was supposed to love and protect me talking to me like someone out on the street. No respect for me as his daughter. @@ -2724,19 +2724,19 @@ If that makes any sense. What is your take on arguments? My idea is that it makes great sense to debate as a couple, even if it gets a bit elevated but generally arguing is unacceptable. -I feel like this also ties into shit-tests.",,4,SweetSecond5900,1699758050.0 +I feel like this also ties into shit-tests.",,4,SweetSecond5900,2023-11-12 03:00:50 RedPillWomen,17t4xhw,Implementing the 6Skills from the Empowered Wife book and hoping for some support!,"Hey y’all, I’m just a 30-something wife of a good Christian man and we have a 5 yr old daughter together… For the past 6.5 years of our marriage, things have been rollercoaster-y… We separated for 2 months our second year of marriage and separated for another 2 months this past summer.. I was desperate to figure out how to fix my marriage (I felt like my husband was distant, avoiding me, and tuning me out… It sucked, lol). Well I found Laura Doyle’s book The Empowered Wife this past August and really started strictly implementing the skills about 2 weeks ago. I am happier, my husband seems happier, our household is more peaceful - BUT - He still hasn’t started paying much more attention to me or seeking out time to spend with me yet… Part of me is concerned that I am not expressing my desires for this because I really don’t know exactly how to say it…?? Instead, as to not risk complaining or being disrespectful, I’ve been kind of quiet around him and just smile at him quite a bit.. LOL. Can someone help me for a true desire? Or… Is it just that I need to give it more time for him to eventually *want* to be with me again…? -I honestly so badly need a group of like-minded women to talk regularly with about this… So many of my friends and family are not very encouraging when it comes to fighting for my marriage… Any help is appreciated!",,5,Kmc6634,1699739549.0 +I honestly so badly need a group of like-minded women to talk regularly with about this… So many of my friends and family are not very encouraging when it comes to fighting for my marriage… Any help is appreciated!",,5,Kmc6634,2023-11-11 21:52:29 RedPillWomen,17syt7r,Desiring a good morning text,"I’ve been dating my man for 2.5 months (we have been official for a couple weeks). He is currently working abroad for the next 5 weeks (he travels for work about 3 months each year). He was doing really good with texting and sending me really sweet good morning texts but lately I have stopped getting good morning texts from him. He still texts me something usually but not good morning, because of the time difference I am 5-6 hours behind him so it seems like this would be relatively easy for him to pull off. Sometimes I beat him to it but especially the days he texts me a meme or something I wish there was a good morning included in this. I have an anxious attachment style which he knows about and I have expressed my desire a little, that I missed the good morning texts but I’m not sure he really registered it. My therapist thinks it would be really good for me to openly state this as something that would really help me feel secure and build a secure attachment for our relationship but I’m thinking of Laura Doyal and wondering how I can express this as a pure desire without being controlling. I know I’ve been advised that good morning texts can feel like a chore at a certain point for some men and I don’t want him to feel like that but it seems so low effort. I know he got aggravated the few times I expressed I was struggling with him not texting me as much or texting me back fast enough. He does have a demanding job where he doesn’t have much cell service (though enough to check Instagram and send me memes) and he does have to work pretty early in the morning. But today for instance, I know he is off with a 3 day weekend and he sent me a meme but no good morning text. He seemed a little disinterested on the phone last night but seemed really loving with me when he got off the phone with me. -TL;DR: Am I unreasonable for desiring good morning texts in a long distance relationship? What would be a good way to make this request if they have fizzled out? He all around seems like an amazing and supportive guy otherwise but I won’t really know how things will be until he gets home as we only went on 5 dates before he left on this trip. We have spent countless hours on the phone and video chatting though.",,11,Emotional-Train-1928,1699722518.0 +TL;DR: Am I unreasonable for desiring good morning texts in a long distance relationship? What would be a good way to make this request if they have fizzled out? He all around seems like an amazing and supportive guy otherwise but I won’t really know how things will be until he gets home as we only went on 5 dates before he left on this trip. We have spent countless hours on the phone and video chatting though.",,11,Emotional-Train-1928,2023-11-11 17:08:38 RedPillWomen,17spzl8,Attempting reconciliation while keeping traditional gender roles,"Hi ladies, My boyfriend and I are attempting reconciliation after an inappropriate incident on his part. r/asoneafterinfidelity and r/survivinginfidelity have been useful, but the advice does not really align with maintaining a traditional relationship which is very important to my boyfriend. So I'm wondering how I can combine some of the ideas of reconciliation with traditional values. @@ -2762,14 +2762,14 @@ The sad thing is that I'm pretty sure I could just get over it. I could just con I'm running out of ideas and he also isn't sure what to do. So here I am once again turning towards you ladies for any proposals. I am determined to give absolutely everything I have before thinking of walking away. -Also I know this would be the best option but neither of us have the money or time for MC or IC. Our previous couple's counsellor really wasn't helpful. I could maybe borrow some money for MC but this wouldn't be ideal so I'd rather try other things first.",,9,West_Army_160,1699690245.0 +Also I know this would be the best option but neither of us have the money or time for MC or IC. Our previous couple's counsellor really wasn't helpful. I could maybe borrow some money for MC but this wouldn't be ideal so I'd rather try other things first.",,9,West_Army_160,2023-11-11 08:10:45 RedPillWomen,17s81ir,Serious mommy issues,"I am the only daughter to a mother who is the most opposite of any red pill woman. She’s not feminine in the slightest, and has gotten in between my relationships with men. Think like angry feminist Karen. She’s miserable, but will never admit it. So I’ve never had a mom to show me the ropes so to speak about what it means to actually be a woman in this world. -And ofc, because like mother like daughter I am the same lol. I’m in therapy, which is helping, but at the same time I just can’t get over “always wanting a mommy” to even focus on the opposite sex. Because my needs with my mom were and never will be met.",,35,christy0717,1699634572.0 +And ofc, because like mother like daughter I am the same lol. I’m in therapy, which is helping, but at the same time I just can’t get over “always wanting a mommy” to even focus on the opposite sex. Because my needs with my mom were and never will be met.",,35,christy0717,2023-11-10 16:42:52 RedPillWomen,17seng7,I need help to make my bias go away,"Hello women! -i need help because i'm a super biased girl, and i feel like this is the best place to get help, i hate how i have an inner voice inside of me that makes me hate men for no reason and think they are monsters or mostly monsters, i hate how a voice inside of me makes me wanna side with women no matter what, but thankfully I don't do anything harmful in reality, but i hate being biased, i feel like it makes me evil, and i know being traumatized isn't an execuse, so any help to make this bias go away? or any eye-opening topic to me that can help? i just wanna be like the normal women in the past who weren't angry illogical feminists, even tho i'm not a feminist but it seems like feminism is a disease.. *sighs* so any help? especially that this bias makes me super angry and ruins many aspects in my life like relationship with male fam members, but i make sure to be justice too, i just hate the feeling, so it would be good to give tips!",,5,GEWEEKEKA,1699652633.0 +i need help because i'm a super biased girl, and i feel like this is the best place to get help, i hate how i have an inner voice inside of me that makes me hate men for no reason and think they are monsters or mostly monsters, i hate how a voice inside of me makes me wanna side with women no matter what, but thankfully I don't do anything harmful in reality, but i hate being biased, i feel like it makes me evil, and i know being traumatized isn't an execuse, so any help to make this bias go away? or any eye-opening topic to me that can help? i just wanna be like the normal women in the past who weren't angry illogical feminists, even tho i'm not a feminist but it seems like feminism is a disease.. *sighs* so any help? especially that this bias makes me super angry and ruins many aspects in my life like relationship with male fam members, but i make sure to be justice too, i just hate the feeling, so it would be good to give tips!",,5,GEWEEKEKA,2023-11-10 21:43:53 RedPillWomen,17s9omq,My ex-boyfriends best friend/roommate dm'd me on IG hitting on me...,"My(F27) ex-boyfriends(M27) roommate/bestfriend(M27) randomly followed me on Instagram today. My ex and I broke up two months ago.. (he dumped me for another girl) after dating a year and a half. The breakup was very messy. I hurt him by taking time for myself away from the relationship months ago, when I came back and was fully ready to be with him he was sneaking around with another girl who he'd been talking to the entire relationship. I went through his phone while we were ""working on the relationship"" and found out he was lying and cheating. His roommate heard a lot of our business being that he was one room over and once walked in on me yelling at my ex the day I found out he slept with someone else.. completely toxic and I am happy to be out the situation. Anyway, his roommate was always around and I spent a decent amount of time with him. I know that he has been in a relationship with a very nice girl who I was cordial with for at least 8 months could be longer I am not sure, just going off the timeline when I remembered meeting her. After my ex and I broke up, I went on hinge to try to move on and matched with a guy who I did not know at the time but is actually close friends with the roommate, even closer than my ex. It didn't go anywhere since I was so fresh off such a shit relationship. We went on two dates and he tried to pursue me but I was very honest about feeling emotionally unavailable and didn't think it would be a good idea to continue to see each other. @@ -2778,8 +2778,8 @@ When I was going through my break up there were a few times I thought about reac Today, I get a follow on Instagram, it's my ex's roommate. As soon as I accept the request he messages me ""Now that you are single I can tell you that you are sexy af\*drool emoiji\*""... I was shocked. This guy has no loyalty at all.. I responded ""Don't you have a girlfriend?"" and immediately he unsent the message, unfollowed me, and removed me from his followers. Now I feel super uncomfortable in this situation and I don't know how to handle it or if I should just leave it be. I think the right thing to do is to respectfully message his GF and say hey look I got this message \*insert screenshot\* I am so sorry. But I'm not sure if that's the right call because I don't want to stir the pot or cause drama around my name. -How would you handle this??",,4,nottobedramaticbuht,1699638974.0 -RedPillWomen,17rxryf,What makes a woman classy?,I’ve come across women from different walks of life and from different age groups who excuse grace and elegance but I can’t seem to put my finger on what it is that they’re doing right. What in your opinion makes a woman classy? And what are some dos and don’ts pertaining to the same?,,34,Global_Moose_1991,1699596708.0 +How would you handle this??",,4,nottobedramaticbuht,2023-11-10 17:56:14 +RedPillWomen,17rxryf,What makes a woman classy?,I’ve come across women from different walks of life and from different age groups who excuse grace and elegance but I can’t seem to put my finger on what it is that they’re doing right. What in your opinion makes a woman classy? And what are some dos and don’ts pertaining to the same?,,34,Global_Moose_1991,2023-11-10 06:11:48 RedPillWomen,17riwex,Is it better to invest on a Masters Degree or Plastic Surgery?,"I am in my early 30s and I earn around 60K per year. I live at home and currently saving either for a Masters Degree or Plastic Surgery. I get a lot of dates with successful men like doctors and dentists. They just want sex but none want to commitment due to my lack of schooling or attractiveness. @@ -2790,10 +2790,10 @@ I am planning to move to a different state with better men to choose from. But I I am deciding on what to do with my next step. If I jump to do a masters I will finish when I’m 36. If I get plastic surgery I will be 33. -Update: I never slept with this guy ",,58,playersexposed,1699552835.0 +Update: I never slept with this guy ",,58,playersexposed,2023-11-09 18:00:35 RedPillWomen,17rol27,It’s possible to fall in love twice with the same man?,"You fell in love with a man when you two where pretty young. Everything was perfect and beautiful, he is the most intelligent person you ever met, caring, romantic and fit. But eventually, you start noticing that the love cards, attention for little things and worry for his physical appearance disappear. You are still writing love letters, going to the gym to present him the best sexual version of yourself, satisfying him before your needs and thinking about incredible gifts to give him in his birthday. It has been 5 years, you are in your twienties and notice that you just gave him things too easy along your relationship. He is just used to you and comfortable in monotony. You start feeling disconnected, you are becoming two totally different beings, but damn, you still love him. Then comes inner anger, sadness, negotiation and acceptance, he just isn’t going change bc you made him too comfortable. The reality is that the only way that he is going to do so is if you leave him bc man only learn though trauma, and that’s a universal truth. But think about how bad it would be to see three moths later the perfect man that you wanted in him, with another woman by his side? Enjoying what you made the effort to build. Hard uh? So you decide to communicate, wait patiently and stay. -He knows that you are doubting and what are the thing that makes you feel bad. But he doesn’t change them or is not enough. Maybe you communicate them too late. Inevitably, you have lost illusion and kinda fell out of love. Maybe it’s because you are in love with what you one day had and not with what is now, but there is still something inside of you that wants it to work. It’s posible to fell in love back with the same man? How?",,5,Hot_Doubt5379,1699568036.0 +He knows that you are doubting and what are the thing that makes you feel bad. But he doesn’t change them or is not enough. Maybe you communicate them too late. Inevitably, you have lost illusion and kinda fell out of love. Maybe it’s because you are in love with what you one day had and not with what is now, but there is still something inside of you that wants it to work. It’s posible to fell in love back with the same man? How?",,5,Hot_Doubt5379,2023-11-09 22:13:56 RedPillWomen,17rn6wg,Is this a red flag?,"Hello all, Bf and I have been together for about a year. Everything’s going great, he’s 9 years older, we met thru work (we do social media and work together). He’s been masculine, taking care of me to the best of his ability, etc. Because he’s older, he often talks about how he wants kids, etc. and of course many months ago we started talking about these things, and I left it clear that I’d only move in with a guy if I have a ring on my finger + wedding date. @@ -2810,7 +2810,7 @@ But on the other side I think of all these girls on social media who always insi Am i overthinking as I tend to do? I also don’t want to pressure anyone but I don’t want to waste my time either. Though if he follows up with his implications of proposing 1.5 years after we started dating, that’s not wasting my time, and we do talk about marriage often and he’s going to speak to my parents in another country. Idk, this just made me overthink things a bit, he’s really overwhelmed and stressed with work, and we are in a good position right now (again I think the timing is good, I just don’t know if his behavior is a red flag.) thoughts? Thank you! -Edit: thank you all for the replies. He actually brought up this topic recently and said he really wished we could just live together already, and not have to extend the contract so long, but that first he wants to talk to my parents, and asked me if he thinks we should just do it right after that or wait this last extension, and we both concluded to just wait one last extension so that we don’t have to hurry everything, etc. ",,1,Consistent_Sleep_341,1699564386.0 +Edit: thank you all for the replies. He actually brought up this topic recently and said he really wished we could just live together already, and not have to extend the contract so long, but that first he wants to talk to my parents, and asked me if he thinks we should just do it right after that or wait this last extension, and we both concluded to just wait one last extension so that we don’t have to hurry everything, etc. ",,1,Consistent_Sleep_341,2023-11-09 21:13:06 RedPillWomen,17qphgu,How do Men Want to be Seen as Physically Attractive?,"From my experience, the one who is usually supposed to be seen as physically attractive and visually sultry is always the woman: Makeup, nice clothes, lingerie, visual flirting, flashing, lap dances and stripteases, etcetera - as men are more visual than women. I have often seen posts of women who are very hurt by the fact that their husbands do not seem to find them physically attractive or hot anymore. I had never really considered that men also might want to be seen as “hot” physically by their wives until a little while ago. I was reading a Reddit thread by a woman who was asking for advice about how to help her husband get in the mood. One male commenter gave her advice: “*Glaze at him as if you were obsessed with him and need and want him s\*xually like you cannot live or breathe without feeling him or tasting him; as if you were utterly devoted and enamoured with him. Like he is a movie star or musician or famous footballer, and you are his biggest diehard fan; like he is the king of his own country that is a safe paradise for you. Stroke him and caress him as you stare at him like he is the best thing since sliced bread – very, very softly and sensually.*” @@ -2831,7 +2831,7 @@ I feel like I have had my mind opened a little bit. What are your thoughts? * How do men really feel about it? Have any or your captains told you what they like? * How does the male sense of wanting to feel attractive compare to women’s? -\[Also this Subreddit just hit 70,000 members!\]",,48,TheRedPilledLurker,1699461102.0 +\[Also this Subreddit just hit 70,000 members!\]",,48,TheRedPilledLurker,2023-11-08 16:31:42 RedPillWomen,17pyg8y,"""The way to a man's heart is through his stomach""","In the past I've seen a lot of young women come on here that are similar to how I was: They're overwhelmed by the idea of learning how to cook. I'm here to be honest with you all this was me. My anxiety took hold of me and for the longest time I avoided cooking, even a couple years into my marriage. &#x200B; @@ -2885,10 +2885,10 @@ Farmhouse on Boone on YouTube/online The All recipes website -The Taste of home website",,55,Doom-Vixen,1699375377.0 -RedPillWomen,17pprem,Staying feminine during adversity,"I feel like being feminine comes easily to me when I’m in a good place in life, mentally and physically. Tough times tend to bring out a very masculine side of me where I can lose my cool and be ruthless. I’d like to know how you go about dealing with failure, rejection and the lows in a feminine way.",,35,Global_Moose_1991,1699345750.0 -RedPillWomen,17pyyu1,Something different from “I hear you”?,"What do you say besides I hear you that means the same thing? My husband says “I hear ya” to me in a somewhat dismissive way, so I think that’s what that means to him. Sometimes I will say “Wow, interesting” but he may be tired of hearing that lol",,6,SomberWinter13,1699376740.0 -RedPillWomen,17p6ewq,Damaged sex life,I have recently started applying the six intimacy skills by Laura Doyle. It has already helped tremendously but I'm curious as how to help with the sexual aversion on my end that has been created by his aggression in the past (he is no longer aggressive). I felt like I had to be intimate with him in moments I did not want to because he was my husband and now I pull away from him a lot when he tries to be flirty or sexy with me. It makes me cringe and I'm wondering if any of you have been in this situation and what you did to overcome or help it?,,24,Routine-Pickle7991,1699287599.0 +The Taste of home website",,55,Doom-Vixen,2023-11-07 16:42:57 +RedPillWomen,17pprem,Staying feminine during adversity,"I feel like being feminine comes easily to me when I’m in a good place in life, mentally and physically. Tough times tend to bring out a very masculine side of me where I can lose my cool and be ruthless. I’d like to know how you go about dealing with failure, rejection and the lows in a feminine way.",,35,Global_Moose_1991,2023-11-07 08:29:10 +RedPillWomen,17pyyu1,Something different from “I hear you”?,"What do you say besides I hear you that means the same thing? My husband says “I hear ya” to me in a somewhat dismissive way, so I think that’s what that means to him. Sometimes I will say “Wow, interesting” but he may be tired of hearing that lol",,6,SomberWinter13,2023-11-07 17:05:40 +RedPillWomen,17p6ewq,Damaged sex life,I have recently started applying the six intimacy skills by Laura Doyle. It has already helped tremendously but I'm curious as how to help with the sexual aversion on my end that has been created by his aggression in the past (he is no longer aggressive). I felt like I had to be intimate with him in moments I did not want to because he was my husband and now I pull away from him a lot when he tries to be flirty or sexy with me. It makes me cringe and I'm wondering if any of you have been in this situation and what you did to overcome or help it?,,24,Routine-Pickle7991,2023-11-06 16:19:59 RedPillWomen,17ow1ke,I am obsessed with my husband but he no longer is with me.,"Back when we were dating and first 4~ years of marriage, my husband seemed obsessed with me and I was riding a high like no other. Now, 5 years in, i feel like I’m the only one obsessed with him, and while he cares for and loves me, it’s just not the same anymore. My previous post goes into a bit more of our relationship dynamic. I don’t know what the answer is. How do I stop feeling like my world is falling apart every time he doesn’t act the way he used to? I love him so much but I just don’t feel that he cares enough to make me happy how he used to anymore. @@ -2897,15 +2897,15 @@ I’ll give an example for the sake of putting this into perspective. We spent t We were briefly attending marriage counseling but had to put it on pause for the time being. -I just don’t know how I’ll live the rest of my life remembering the relationship we used to have compared to what it is now. He’s always been an early riser and used to check on me sleeping at least once or twice. He no longer does that. He used to really empathize when I cried/felt a strong emotion. Now I look into his eyes and wish I could find the man I married . I love him so much that it hurts and I just want it to be like it used to. I used to feel like nothing in this world could affect me because I had him and the love he felt for me. I don’t feel that way anymore.",,66,abetterwifesomeday,1699249848.0 -RedPillWomen,17p597u,What do i do when he dont make me orgasmed?,"I met a great guy who have red pill qualities. Been dating for 1 and a half year, we talked about marriage. But he just cant make me cum. He tried going down on me and i let him but nothing.. i find him attractive and he turned me on so much but i dont know how to talk to him about this. I usually just fake it to not bruise his ego but i know this will make me frustrated and resent him. Please let me know how do i talk to him without hurting his feelings. 😢",,9,Embarrassed_Force565,1699284455.0 +I just don’t know how I’ll live the rest of my life remembering the relationship we used to have compared to what it is now. He’s always been an early riser and used to check on me sleeping at least once or twice. He no longer does that. He used to really empathize when I cried/felt a strong emotion. Now I look into his eyes and wish I could find the man I married . I love him so much that it hurts and I just want it to be like it used to. I used to feel like nothing in this world could affect me because I had him and the love he felt for me. I don’t feel that way anymore.",,66,abetterwifesomeday,2023-11-06 05:50:48 +RedPillWomen,17p597u,What do i do when he dont make me orgasmed?,"I met a great guy who have red pill qualities. Been dating for 1 and a half year, we talked about marriage. But he just cant make me cum. He tried going down on me and i let him but nothing.. i find him attractive and he turned me on so much but i dont know how to talk to him about this. I usually just fake it to not bruise his ego but i know this will make me frustrated and resent him. Please let me know how do i talk to him without hurting his feelings. 😢",,9,Embarrassed_Force565,2023-11-06 15:27:35 RedPillWomen,17p3x5p,Where do we go from here,"My husband and I have been together for 3.5 years. We have a 5 month old baby. When we got together we were both very in the red pill mindset, as that being a goal for a traditional relationship. We both have flaws. I did not grow up in a redpill/traditional household and I definitely need to work more on not nagging him, not getting annoyed with his decisions, and being more positive and happy to be around. I run into a lot of issues with this because he also did not grow up in a traditional household and has his own issues that we've identified together. I'm having a hard time moving forward because of resentments I've built up over his lackluster relationship performance. He recently came clean about lying about smoking weed and watching porn. Which was fine, I told him I wouldn't be made if he told me the truth and I'm honestly not mad, mostly because I already knew he was lying about these things so it wasn't news to me. I'm having a hard time with our views on family life aligning. He wants to push and push to do his hobby which involves him traveling for half of the weekends of the summer, and leaves me at home with the baby and the dogs to take care of. He covers all the bills currently, I work very very part time when I can. I feel like he doesn't prioritize saving for a house or having a safety net. We agreed I would only work 40 hours a week in years 1 through 3 of our relationship so I could do all the cooking and cleaning and care of the dogs, and he could save for a house. No money got saved for a house even though he was working tons of overtime. We have no savings. He has 2 car payments totally 1300 a month, one of the cars he only drives a handful of times a year. I've tried to talk with him about how it doesn't make sense to pay for a car he almost never drives when were trying to save but he does not agree. -He means well and is a very caring father and partner in many ways, but I am entirely burnt out being the mother, wife, chef, dog walker, house cleaner, part time worker, oh and I'm also trying to take over a family business so I can bring the baby to work with me. I feel like I'm hitting my head against a wall with someone who is not on the same page as me in reality, but told me when we got together that we had the same values and goals. There's a part of me at this point that just wants to get divorced, but I don't want my child to come from a broken home. I also don't want to find another husband and start all over again with a blended family. How do I proceed? Do I just accept we may live in an apartment forever? I'll never be seen being burnt out and begging for help and just have to keep on doing everything in a life setting that's not what I wanted to work for? Do we just get divorced?",,9,constantly_in_motion,1699280826.0 +He means well and is a very caring father and partner in many ways, but I am entirely burnt out being the mother, wife, chef, dog walker, house cleaner, part time worker, oh and I'm also trying to take over a family business so I can bring the baby to work with me. I feel like I'm hitting my head against a wall with someone who is not on the same page as me in reality, but told me when we got together that we had the same values and goals. There's a part of me at this point that just wants to get divorced, but I don't want my child to come from a broken home. I also don't want to find another husband and start all over again with a blended family. How do I proceed? Do I just accept we may live in an apartment forever? I'll never be seen being burnt out and begging for help and just have to keep on doing everything in a life setting that's not what I wanted to work for? Do we just get divorced?",,9,constantly_in_motion,2023-11-06 14:27:06 RedPillWomen,17p4is3,Is my(22f) boyfriend(25m) too comfortable?,"A better title: DID MY BOYFRIEND FAIL HIS MISSION AS PROTECTOR THIS TIME? @@ -2934,7 +2934,7 @@ So I expect him to provide me with confort and care in the way I need it. I expe When I texted him and told him I need him he wasn't there. I even texten that I was roaming around the city because I didn't want to be home because of my parents always yelling at med. He knew this and didn't even offer a comforting text... -Am I overreacting?",,0,Immediate-Seat-5632,1699282476.0 +Am I overreacting?",,0,Immediate-Seat-5632,2023-11-06 14:54:36 RedPillWomen,17oknrz,Advice on building female friendships,"Since puberty, I (26f) have really struggled to form close, lasting friendships with women. Some part of this is that I’m neurodivergent. So most of my friendships tend to be with other high functioning neurodivergent people, and there are just a lot more men in that group than women. However, when I do befriend women, I find that over time the friendship becomes pretty one-sided, with most of the enthusiasm / desire to spend time coming from me. Some of the problem, I’m sure, has to do with me being bad at carrying conversations and knowing how and when to ask more personal questions. Could make it tiring for whoever I’m with. @@ -2943,7 +2943,7 @@ I suspect another part of it is that I often get slotted into a “patient” ro I hate this ^ dynamic and don’t know what to do about it. It’s made it so hard to have close friendships. -Does anyone have advice? Do these things remind you of anyone you know in your own life? Please tell it to me straight. I would really appreciate some outside takes on this kind of thing, or suggestions about what I could be doing and how to improve, if anyone has ideas.",,21,SunRose42,1699215443.0 +Does anyone have advice? Do these things remind you of anyone you know in your own life? Please tell it to me straight. I would really appreciate some outside takes on this kind of thing, or suggestions about what I could be doing and how to improve, if anyone has ideas.",,21,SunRose42,2023-11-05 20:17:23 RedPillWomen,17o7bcq,What is your Preference for Male Body Type?,"A little while ago I was reading an old post here and it mentioned that generally speaking women were attracted to men who looked strong and then specifically mentioned muscles and a six pack as facets of looking strong. I thought that this made sense for several reasons: @@ -2987,7 +2987,7 @@ What is the male body type you find most attractive? Also what to you think about asking your captain to workout more or less so he has a body you prefer? How would you feel about him asking you to exercise more or less? -Edit: I know that shredded physiques are often not healthy, I am just asking for your physical preferences. Also assume no drugs, all natural.",,43,TheRedPilledLurker,1699171955.0 +Edit: I know that shredded physiques are often not healthy, I am just asking for your physical preferences. Also assume no drugs, all natural.",,43,TheRedPilledLurker,2023-11-05 08:12:35 RedPillWomen,17npzio,What to do after the first date?,"I just had a date with guy 2 days ago. It was our first time meeting in person after knowing each other for 4 days. It was great date. He doesn’t date often, and I’m trying this new RP way of dating. We both agreed that we prefer talking in person instead of texting, but he stills makes an effort to check in on me (I think it’s cute). Our conversation just doesn’t flow through text like it does in person. @@ -2996,25 +2996,25 @@ How do I keep him engaged until our next date? I already told him I want to see For our first date, I made it pretty clear that I wanted him to ask me out. Thankfully, he got the hint and planned the date. Should I plan the second one? -Update: looks like I was nervous for no reason because I just got a text from him planning our second date! 🤣",,18,Delilahr,1699117162.0 +Update: looks like I was nervous for no reason because I just got a text from him planning our second date! 🤣",,18,Delilahr,2023-11-04 16:59:22 RedPillWomen,17nem3y,Cooking for boyfriend.,"Hi everyone. So my (f26) boyfriend (m28) has suggested that he would like for me to cook for him more. I have cooked for him (well us really because it was dinner time and I am making my dinner) a few times when he has come over to my place but now he is suggesting me to cook at his place (him buying the groceries ofc) more often. Should I do this? I love cooking and really enjoy it but, I know that cooking moves more into wife territory therefore, I don’t want to give a boyfriend wife treatment… -Edit: THANKS for all the responses. they are all really helpful. I know relationships are trial and error, I just don’t want to do TOO much and find myself in the non-commitment bubble. ",,19,Swimming-Ad-4410,1699074916.0 -RedPillWomen,17n6n6l,Being the goddess of fun and light… when you aren’t feeling it,"So, LD talks a lot about being the goddess of fun and light. How do we be that when we aren’t feeling it? Sometimes, you just want to be like “whatever” …. 🫠",,20,patchouliflowers,1699049776.0 +Edit: THANKS for all the responses. they are all really helpful. I know relationships are trial and error, I just don’t want to do TOO much and find myself in the non-commitment bubble. ",,19,Swimming-Ad-4410,2023-11-04 05:15:16 +RedPillWomen,17n6n6l,Being the goddess of fun and light… when you aren’t feeling it,"So, LD talks a lot about being the goddess of fun and light. How do we be that when we aren’t feeling it? Sometimes, you just want to be like “whatever” …. 🫠",,20,patchouliflowers,2023-11-03 22:16:16 RedPillWomen,17n8myw,How can I be more social and feminine?,"I am very much an introvert and apparently do a lot of “masking” (aka hide my true personality and be who I think others want to fit in better). So a mixture of both just causes me to be exhausted any time I need to socialize. I end up avoiding as much socialization as possible and it’s affecting my dating life. It’s a bad way to live and also a bad look. I feel like an outsider around women especially. I want so badly to be a typical woman that has a close circle of friends and does all the planning/organizing/get togethers. Is there a way to train my social battery? Is there a trick to make close friends? -I am in therapy, but I’m really more looking for hacks and tricks, or advice.",,13,Justadumbagent,1699055306.0 +I am in therapy, but I’m really more looking for hacks and tricks, or advice.",,13,Justadumbagent,2023-11-03 23:48:26 RedPillWomen,17nbv8l,Advice on safe/modest dating?,"I feel like this may be the most helpful sub because it will understand my modest (maybe prude) upbringing. I’m 24 and have never been in a relationship, I came to the US and started establishing an independent life here. I have a desire to start dating and potentially find a husband and I know I’m quite late on that for a 24 year old, but I still am very concerned on safety and modesty if I’m honest. I’d like to save myself for marriage and I’m only interested in serious relationships. Do you think I’ll have a chance trying dating apps like bumble? Or should I keep focusing on myself until I meet someone spontaneously? -What are some general safety rules I should follow other than not giving your location",,6,stellaok,1699065068.0 +What are some general safety rules I should follow other than not giving your location",,6,stellaok,2023-11-04 02:31:08 RedPillWomen,17mt3td,How much have you changed your style for your partner?,"I’m very interested in hearing from other women on how and if they’ve changed their personal style for their partner? What was your style before, what is it now? How did the whole process make you feel? Do you regret it or feel happier? -I changed my style to something more preppy/basic for my husband, it’s quite opposite from my original style (black monochrome with hints of colour). Feeling unsure about it but want advise and experiences from women in this sub.",,16,mishkaforest235,1699011647.0 -RedPillWomen,17n9ky9,My period doesn't come yet,7 days from now. Didn't have intercourse in a long time and I have been very regular on the periods so this for me is an abnormal situation. I have my doubts on go the gynecologist yet so I want to ask to the ladies here if this had happened to you in the past and I should have be worried by now 🤔,,0,Direct-Ad-5394,1699058002.0 +I changed my style to something more preppy/basic for my husband, it’s quite opposite from my original style (black monochrome with hints of colour). Feeling unsure about it but want advise and experiences from women in this sub.",,16,mishkaforest235,2023-11-03 11:40:47 +RedPillWomen,17n9ky9,My period doesn't come yet,7 days from now. Didn't have intercourse in a long time and I have been very regular on the periods so this for me is an abnormal situation. I have my doubts on go the gynecologist yet so I want to ask to the ladies here if this had happened to you in the past and I should have be worried by now 🤔,,0,Direct-Ad-5394,2023-11-04 00:33:22 RedPillWomen,17mkk4o,Perspectives on priorities from a RPW POV?,"My life is in [City]. All of it, now. It's where my parents are almost certain to die, when they do; it's where I live and work; it's where I'm finally some degree of happy after a long period of struggling to fit in. I don't know that I can leave. So I don't know that I can entertain suitors who don't have strong ties here. Like, so strong that when we promise each other commitment, what we're promising each other is here. @@ -3027,18 +3027,18 @@ And then I feel sick. Because it feels like I have to choose between having a ca Is it okay to put your foot down about where you need to live to be happy and secure? How many of you have done just that? If you're a man, would you be able to tolerate that if you loved her? -TIA for any wisdom you can offer. Laying this one at the foot of the masters.",,0,diaryofalostgirl,1698977899.0 +TIA for any wisdom you can offer. Laying this one at the foot of the masters.",,0,diaryofalostgirl,2023-11-03 02:18:19 RedPillWomen,17luwxk,Regarding Body Count and not being a Virgin,"I’m 25 years old. There was a point in my life where I only wanted to persevere sex for relationships. This isn’t an excuse to do what I did but I eventually went through a phase of my mental health spiraling and got into casual situations. My count is 7 but I’m wondering if that would be too high and undesirable for men especially if traditional to consider me as a potential partner. I even dated two men where the situation didn’t end well for me or that I settled for whatever they were willing to give me and it’s just really messed me up a lot mostly from the first guy. -I just feel like because of my poor dating history and body count, I’d be seen as used and damaged. I just wanted to get this off my chest and to hopefully bring some relatability to anyone who wants to see other’s insights. Based on what’s said in men’s spaces, I don’t deserve any grace just because I’ve “learned my lesson” and that now it’s wrong to have the next man wait.",,25,Waxflower8,1698896988.0 +I just feel like because of my poor dating history and body count, I’d be seen as used and damaged. I just wanted to get this off my chest and to hopefully bring some relatability to anyone who wants to see other’s insights. Based on what’s said in men’s spaces, I don’t deserve any grace just because I’ve “learned my lesson” and that now it’s wrong to have the next man wait.",,25,Waxflower8,2023-11-02 03:49:48 RedPillWomen,17lg75w,Is it masculine to buy concert tickets for a guy I’m dating?,"Im 23f and have dated 26m for about 2 months now. He always paid for everything such as nice dinners, very girly exhibitions that I asked to see with him, drives me every where, sends Ubers if he’s too tired to drive e etc. He’s extremely busy and always has a lot going on throughout the day. I asked him if he liked this artist and he said yes, and that he’s up for it. The date is very soon and I’m scared that the tickets will sell out - so I decided to just buy both. I already know that he’s going to drive us there anyway and we will eat before. -I already know that guys in his industry are generous but skeptical of being used. I think I already proved to him that I genuinely like him because I started hanging out with him at our places. How do I go about showing him our tickets without sounding patronizing or masculine. Would a provider mentality man even be offended or just see it as me being nice?",,12,stayathomedaughter8,1698856568.0 +I already know that guys in his industry are generous but skeptical of being used. I think I already proved to him that I genuinely like him because I started hanging out with him at our places. How do I go about showing him our tickets without sounding patronizing or masculine. Would a provider mentality man even be offended or just see it as me being nice?",,12,stayathomedaughter8,2023-11-01 16:36:08 RedPillWomen,17lbglm,How can I have him understand that he hurt me without “nagging”,"Hi beautiful ladies. I am seeking advice on how to compose myself when he has done something to disappoint me. I express how hurt I am, but this always backfires. He tells me to stop being “bad vibes” and that he’s not enjoying speaking to me. So what can I do better? @@ -3051,7 +3051,7 @@ I get the impression that he’s trying to say, “I already understand how hurt Or maybe he _does_ understand and I am unsatisfied with his response. I want him to fix things, but I don’t want to *beg* him to fix things. But I want him to know that I want him to fix things… -I don’t want to be unattractive when I do this. How can I handle this in a feminine way? Thanks in advance.",,11,pinkmwah,1698843270.0 +I don’t want to be unattractive when I do this. How can I handle this in a feminine way? Thanks in advance.",,11,pinkmwah,2023-11-01 12:54:30 RedPillWomen,17lbidz,Tips for getting ready quickly,"My husband has asked me to simplify my morning routine, so I can get ready in less than 30 minutes. Currently, it takes me a little over an hour to shower, dry and style my hair, apply makeup and get dressed. I’ve tried getting up earlier so I’m all ready by the time my husband gets up, but the noise of me getting out of bed wakes him up. I think he wants me to be able to get up at the same time as him, and get ready in 30 minutes or less, so I’m done before our kids get up and I am free to get them ready while he leaves for work early. @@ -3062,41 +3062,41 @@ My job requires me to dress business professional and to be very put together on Any tips for getting through a shower, hair, makeup and into a suit in less than 30 minutes? -Thank you!",,9,StunningSort3082,1698843426.0 -RedPillWomen,17krtu5,What are your relationship rules?,"Hi ladies - as someone who has been single for a while but is now in a new relationship, I feel out of the practice of thinking about single girl behaviors vs. relationship behaviors. What are the rules you follow in a relationship? For example, no texting other guys, no hanging out with other guys alone, date night once a week, etc.",,24,scoutnsammie,1698777017.0 +Thank you!",,9,StunningSort3082,2023-11-01 12:57:06 +RedPillWomen,17krtu5,What are your relationship rules?,"Hi ladies - as someone who has been single for a while but is now in a new relationship, I feel out of the practice of thinking about single girl behaviors vs. relationship behaviors. What are the rules you follow in a relationship? For example, no texting other guys, no hanging out with other guys alone, date night once a week, etc.",,24,scoutnsammie,2023-10-31 18:30:17 RedPillWomen,17ktr81,Feeling vulnerable might delete later,"There are just some days where I feel extra vulnerable, and needy, and wishful or hopeful, and I feel like I can’t express that to my committed boyfriend because I feel that is an attraction killer. Can you talk some sense into me? Edit: We are in a committed, LTR -Edit: Thank you all so, so much ",,10,bluecat37,1698782029.0 +Edit: Thank you all so, so much ",,10,bluecat37,2023-10-31 19:53:49 RedPillWomen,17kezth,Initiating Promise Rings too Masculine?,"Christmas is around the corner and so is our anniversary. I’m curious on people’s thoughts. My partner and I call each other sun and moon, respectively. I was thinking about getting us sun and moon promise rings for an anniversary and Christmas gift combo but is this too masculine of a move or am I safe and this is cute? -Background, will be our 2 year anniversary and we are very serious.",,5,Forsaken-Savings4370,1698735126.0 +Background, will be our 2 year anniversary and we are very serious.",,5,Forsaken-Savings4370,2023-10-31 06:52:06 RedPillWomen,17jmp8b,The “girlfriend effect”,"There’s this new TikTok trend where women talk about the “girlfriend effect”. The girlfriend effect, apparently, is when an average dude transforms into an absolute looker once he gets a girlfriend. [Example 1](https://youtube.com/shorts/A3ogc0fqdhE?si=92PEZMPm4AXGjmvj) [Example 2](https://youtube.com/shorts/wFUVemaAHAU?si=66sSHQZkXpL6Glxb) What are our thoughts on this? Is this a real thing, or are these men just maturing? -More importantly, am I meant to be be subtly influencing my boyfriends style? Trying to influence my boyfriend to dress better sounds like the kind of thing a mom would do for her son 🤢I also have no idea how men’s fashion works, so I’m inclined to just look at this as a fun little tik tok trend. On the other hand, I want to do everything in my power to make my partners life better and there are clear social and career benefits for men when they dress well. If learning about men’s fashion will make me a better girlfriend then obviously I’ll start studying, but it just seems so antithetical to the practicing of respecting and trusting my partner to lead.",,49,Margareydragonslayer,1698645532.0 +More importantly, am I meant to be be subtly influencing my boyfriends style? Trying to influence my boyfriend to dress better sounds like the kind of thing a mom would do for her son 🤢I also have no idea how men’s fashion works, so I’m inclined to just look at this as a fun little tik tok trend. On the other hand, I want to do everything in my power to make my partners life better and there are clear social and career benefits for men when they dress well. If learning about men’s fashion will make me a better girlfriend then obviously I’ll start studying, but it just seems so antithetical to the practicing of respecting and trusting my partner to lead.",,49,Margareydragonslayer,2023-10-30 05:58:52 RedPillWomen,17jpx8a,My boyfriend asked for a 50-50 split on the trip,"My boyfriend (M27) and I (F25) have been officially together for almost four months, but we've known each other and been dating for nearly a year. While we've been intimate, we haven't attempted penetration because I'm a virgin. I shared a Facebook page with him featuring a stunning Airbnb that a friend recently stayed in, and he took note of it. We've discussed before that I want my first time to be special, though not necessarily after marriage, more like a honeymoon-level event in a nice resort or an upscale hotel at the very least. Last week, he mentioned planning to book the Airbnb in February and asked if we could split the rent 50-50 or if I could contribute a lower amount. I didn't say anything, but I felt uneasy about it. It wouldn't feel special to me if I also had to pay for the place, as it wouldn't feel like a gift. The Airbnb costs $80 for a 22-hour stay. While it's not cheap in my country, it's also not expensive. For comparison, the cheapest room in a 5-star hotel here is at least $250. This still bothers me, and I'm considering telling him that I no longer want to go there. Is it wrong of me to feel this way? -Edit: I appreciate all the comments and feedback, but I'd like to clarify my post. My concern isn't about giving my virginity to my boyfriend (I just include that part because he said that he's excited for us to finally do it in our first trip); it's about my expectation for our first trip. I was simply disappointed when he suggested splitting the costs 50-50 for the trip that will happen next year. ",,4,alwaysworriedgirls,1698660136.0 +Edit: I appreciate all the comments and feedback, but I'd like to clarify my post. My concern isn't about giving my virginity to my boyfriend (I just include that part because he said that he's excited for us to finally do it in our first trip); it's about my expectation for our first trip. I was simply disappointed when he suggested splitting the costs 50-50 for the trip that will happen next year. ",,4,alwaysworriedgirls,2023-10-30 10:02:16 RedPillWomen,17j89qe,My boyfriend (M31) wants kids one day and I don’t think I (F22) will.,"He’s in no rush for kids, and I know I am probably too young to actually know what I will want in 10 or so years, but I have multiple reasons on why I believe I will never want kids. The reason why we didn’t have this conversation in the beginning of our relationship was because the topic of children or not wasn’t in my radar a few years ago and he always said he didn’t care if he had kids or not. But I have come to realize what he meant was he didn’t care what time he had kids at. -I worry that in 10 years from now we will break up over this. He agreed that this will likely end our relationship if we don’t come to a common ground by then, but we shouldn’t worry about it until I’m in my thirties. I think he’s counting on the fact I will change my mind. Which is possible, but probably unlikely. Do you think I am over thinking this or is this something that needs to be dealt with right now and how?",,7,bananacandy16,1698601567.0 -RedPillWomen,17ij673,Cheating,Hi ladies! I want to know your opinions on cheating. If he’s a high value man would he cheat? If he gives you everything can he cheat? And if it’s ok with you define the terms in which it would be ok. Thanks :),,14,Zealousideal-Bus-17,1698515706.0 +I worry that in 10 years from now we will break up over this. He agreed that this will likely end our relationship if we don’t come to a common ground by then, but we shouldn’t worry about it until I’m in my thirties. I think he’s counting on the fact I will change my mind. Which is possible, but probably unlikely. Do you think I am over thinking this or is this something that needs to be dealt with right now and how?",,7,bananacandy16,2023-10-29 17:46:07 +RedPillWomen,17ij673,Cheating,Hi ladies! I want to know your opinions on cheating. If he’s a high value man would he cheat? If he gives you everything can he cheat? And if it’s ok with you define the terms in which it would be ok. Thanks :),,14,Zealousideal-Bus-17,2023-10-28 17:55:06 RedPillWomen,17iqrni,Food in the bedroom (not sex),"Husband wants to keep food in the bedroom. I always find him bringing snacks in and to me im worried about pests, especially since we already HAVE pest problems and it's hard not to judge him for not getting the clue when we found out about pests. -Actually, I can kinda see it working for me because I have a lot of nuts and seeds I always want to get myself to snack on but never do, because if I go to the kitchen I just grab food rather than nuts. I'm a stress snacker too, so having my nuts and seeds available to me in the bedroom 24/7 as we're lounging around can be helpful. But, what kind of thing should I keep them in, should I get airtight glasses or what, because I feel like no matter what I do to keep them safe, it'll never be good enough 😭😭😭😭 and I worry the snacks are ""dirty"" or contaminated even when they're perfectly fine",,2,Radiant_Ad2413,1698538029.0 +Actually, I can kinda see it working for me because I have a lot of nuts and seeds I always want to get myself to snack on but never do, because if I go to the kitchen I just grab food rather than nuts. I'm a stress snacker too, so having my nuts and seeds available to me in the bedroom 24/7 as we're lounging around can be helpful. But, what kind of thing should I keep them in, should I get airtight glasses or what, because I feel like no matter what I do to keep them safe, it'll never be good enough 😭😭😭😭 and I worry the snacks are ""dirty"" or contaminated even when they're perfectly fine",,2,Radiant_Ad2413,2023-10-29 00:07:09 RedPillWomen,17ig5er,dating younger men?,"does anyone here have experience with dating guys who are younger than you? could you please share what your life and relationship is like and whether you’d change it if you could? i’m don’t know if i necessarily believe the whole young guys = immature and older guys = mature because i think maturity doesn’t have much to do with age but with character. -i’d love to hear from women dating younger men bc i’m currently interested in a guy but we have a 2 year age gap - i’m the older one lol",,9,burner4567890,1698506931.0 +i’d love to hear from women dating younger men bc i’m currently interested in a guy but we have a 2 year age gap - i’m the older one lol",,9,burner4567890,2023-10-28 15:28:51 RedPillWomen,17ijgnz,How to make living together easier for him?,"Hi, I have never lived with my boyfriend, but we are urgently escaping our country to a safer one to seek shelter for a few months. So far we have split the tasks leading up to moving. We have both filled them responsibly, and we express gratitude for one another. I wish to maintain this positive energy even while we move abroad in the midst of calamity. @@ -3105,7 +3105,7 @@ However - we never lived together. Sometimes we have spent a few days together a I know I have to change to become the wife I want to be, so in recent months I resolved to be more calm. What really works is gardening, faith-based therapy, painting, relaxing music, meditation, hard exercise, and herbal tea. However, these work \~7/10 times. It's those highest levels of anxiety which are toughest to reduce. -I am looking for some advice from you ladies - perhaps tips regarding a daily schedule, or music, affirmations, manifestations, habits or prayers - which can help me during those times I *really* want him to come home but he just can't.",,2,flower_power_g1rl,1698516563.0 +I am looking for some advice from you ladies - perhaps tips regarding a daily schedule, or music, affirmations, manifestations, habits or prayers - which can help me during those times I *really* want him to come home but he just can't.",,2,flower_power_g1rl,2023-10-28 18:09:23 RedPillWomen,17hslf2,Advice wanted,"does anyone have partners who are very good at taking care of you with their actions but have harsh moments with their words? I’m a SAHM and I deal with feelings of inadequacy that make me sensitive and like I’m being criticized. My husband can have a harsh tone of voice, but he denies this and acts dumbfounded when we get into conversations about my feelings. @@ -3127,7 +3127,7 @@ I see his point of view too. But I still can’t stop myself from feeling emotio The outcome I want is for him to respond “oh shitt, I didn’t mean it that way” and then give me a hug. But I can’t seem to achieve this. -Ladies, thank you for the advice. Lots of good points for me to consider. Will update on whether the dynamic has changed after a few more months have passed ",,10,Moovmntstudnt,1698427249.0 +Ladies, thank you for the advice. Lots of good points for me to consider. Will update on whether the dynamic has changed after a few more months have passed ",,10,Moovmntstudnt,2023-10-27 17:20:49 RedPillWomen,17h24p0,Giving boyfriend your card under the table so it looks like he’s the one paying,"I (24F) was talking to my friend (24F) about when going out with your boyfriend, and giving him your card under the table so it looks like he’s paying. I have no problem doing that, she disagrees because she feels there’s no reason for him to be embarrassed that she’s paying. @@ -3136,7 +3136,7 @@ What are your thoughts? Would you do it? Edit for clarification: He DOES have the money and can pay. It would be you wanting to treat him but he’d be “paying” with his card -Edit #2: This is hypothetical. My friend and I are both single, we were just talking relationships. ",,48,-tratando,1698342368.0 +Edit #2: This is hypothetical. My friend and I are both single, we were just talking relationships. ",,48,-tratando,2023-10-26 17:46:08 RedPillWomen,17hfxrm,Tips for Mismatched Humor?,"Hi my lovely ladies! I hope you’re all doing well :) My partner and I don’t have the same sense of humor and I’m not quite sure how to respond in an appropriate way anymore. The main issue is that I find some of his humor distasteful and I’ve made the mistake of voicing this with a disapproving “sweetheart” or I’ve even gone as far as saying “that’s distasteful”. I recognise this is wrong and lately I’ve been trying to simply STFU or I’ll just smile and give a slight giggle or just say “that’s funny” (in a hopefully genuine way). @@ -3149,16 +3149,16 @@ I of course want him to feel appreciated for his humor as I imagine it would mak Does anyone who’s dealt with something like this have any tips on what else to do? Or should I maybe leave the humor thing as it is and focus on other aspects of his to cherish? -Thank you ladies!",,0,West_Army_160,1698382715.0 -RedPillWomen,17gp9ux,Raya for dating up?,Did anyone try Raya and had luck with meeting men who have provider mindset and want to commit?,,7,anabel0999,1698298052.0 +Thank you ladies!",,0,West_Army_160,2023-10-27 04:58:35 +RedPillWomen,17gp9ux,Raya for dating up?,Did anyone try Raya and had luck with meeting men who have provider mindset and want to commit?,,7,anabel0999,2023-10-26 05:27:32 RedPillWomen,17g9lch,2nd Date / Potential Sleepover,"Hi there! I've been speaking with this guy for nearly 2 months now, we talk all day everyday - he's very sweet and attentive, and I really like him. He does live slightly outside of my hometown (about an hour and a half journey on the train). We've been on one dinner date together, had a blast and parted ways at the end of the evening, he travelled to me to my hometown. This weekend, I am going to his hometown and he has offered for me to sleepover if I like but has made it very clear there is no pressure to 'do anything' I don't want to (and I know he's being serious). -My question is, as I like him and I want to keep a good clean image for myself, is it bad if I sleepover? Even if nothing 'happens' between us apart from a kiss?",,12,_hannahm123,1698253383.0 -RedPillWomen,17fw44c,Athletic nerds,"I’d like to know your take on the ‘athletic nerd’, a term I recently came across. I fancy a guy myself who fits the bill and is also quite shy. I’ve found it quite difficult to get to know him so you can understand my curiosity to know more about such guys and what to expect.",,10,Global_Moose_1991,1698206249.0 +My question is, as I like him and I want to keep a good clean image for myself, is it bad if I sleepover? Even if nothing 'happens' between us apart from a kiss?",,12,_hannahm123,2023-10-25 17:03:03 +RedPillWomen,17fw44c,Athletic nerds,"I’d like to know your take on the ‘athletic nerd’, a term I recently came across. I fancy a guy myself who fits the bill and is also quite shy. I’ve found it quite difficult to get to know him so you can understand my curiosity to know more about such guys and what to expect.",,10,Global_Moose_1991,2023-10-25 03:57:29 RedPillWomen,17fjjh6,how to respond and tell him i don’t want to see him anymore,"hi, i’m trying, reluctantly, to start dating again and i recently started speaking to a new guy. it hasn’t been very long, i’d say a couple days. also we haven’t met yet. we were supposed to meet this weekend but i don’t know if i want to anymore. @@ -3169,14 +3169,14 @@ this afternoon he sends me a text to apologise and tells me that he was busy wit i don’t think i’m being dramatic for not texting him back, tbh i’m done with unreliable men and i feel that if i don’t leave at the first signs of inconsistency it’s easy to get roped into the whole push and pull dynamic, which i don’t want. -how should i handle this? should i continue to ignore him or be honest with him and tell him i don’t want to see him anymore this weekend?",,13,burner4567890,1698171816.0 +how should i handle this? should i continue to ignore him or be honest with him and tell him i don’t want to see him anymore this weekend?",,13,burner4567890,2023-10-24 18:23:36 RedPillWomen,17ejnkx,Your favourite book!,"Looking for book-recommendations. Wholesome content that will feed the soul with nurture and peace please. -Romance, periodpieces, self-help, histori - anything you like, really! 🌸",,11,AppropriateEbb5556,1698065514.0 +Romance, periodpieces, self-help, histori - anything you like, really! 🌸",,11,AppropriateEbb5556,2023-10-23 12:51:54 RedPillWomen,17e7p65,How to let minor things go?,"Eek. Been together a year now (24f&m) and coming back from this great trip we took together when he’s scrolling on instagram and I see he’s searched up his female friend (who mainly posts booty pics at the gym) profile. His explore page had a few scantitly clad ladies and that’s honestly uncommon so I don’t know what to think of it. Im trying to be mature and bite my tongue even though I want to ask why he’s searching her up or make a snarky comment about the explore page. - I’m sure there’s better ways to deal with these emotions - anyone have any tips for times like these where you don’t want to be sour but something is irking you? I don’t want to sound like a nagging, annoying girlfriend but I’m also a little peeved although unsure if warranted.",,19,vinesandflowers,1698021037.0 + I’m sure there’s better ways to deal with these emotions - anyone have any tips for times like these where you don’t want to be sour but something is irking you? I don’t want to sound like a nagging, annoying girlfriend but I’m also a little peeved although unsure if warranted.",,19,vinesandflowers,2023-10-23 00:30:37 RedPillWomen,17ddk8g,Online Dating Past The Wall,"It's been about two and a half months since I signed up for three online dating services. I wanted to share a little bit of what I learned in the process, in hopes that some of you who are in similar situations take heart and don't let yourselves get jaded and mean. I certainly found myself slipping into very masculine/radfem thought patterns, and it was disconcerting! **You'll get likes from a lot of different men.** Some of them will have read your profile and also be absolutely perfect on paper! Some of them may or may not have read your profile and be the opposite of what you want! It might feel a little dehumanizing to be approached, essentially, because you're female and your pictures are reasonably attractive. What about who you are inside? What about your standards? @@ -3217,7 +3217,7 @@ So don't settle, because you're not the only one you're hurting by doing that. R When you give, give freely. Not because you're going to get something out of it. Because you want to be there, giving and loving. -I'm going to leave you with a beautiful song about a long-married couple that I hope to someday be. It's a duet by John Prine and Iris DeMent, called ""In Spite of Ourselves."" Enjoy! https://youtu.be/gA-vD5pyuS4?si=rX3u-LzU2tvJ_UH1",,37,diaryofalostgirl,1697925385.0 +I'm going to leave you with a beautiful song about a long-married couple that I hope to someday be. It's a duet by John Prine and Iris DeMent, called ""In Spite of Ourselves."" Enjoy! https://youtu.be/gA-vD5pyuS4?si=rX3u-LzU2tvJ_UH1",,37,diaryofalostgirl,2023-10-21 21:56:25 RedPillWomen,17df28r,Rushed into a relationship and now I [22F] feel guilty,"I know what I did wrong, so this is kind of a vent(?) with context of course. Also just wanted to let you guys know I slipped up. Not sure how to flair this sorry. So I have a big surgery coming up in January. I asked my therapist if it was a good idea to start dating before it and she said yes as long as I’m transparent and let potential matches know as soon as possible. @@ -3236,15 +3236,15 @@ I like this guy, so I don’t want to lead him on. He wants to have sex soon and I’m frustrated with myself because I felt so confident and thought I got passed my obsessive thoughts but I clearly haven’t. I’m not sure what I should work on, or how to fix it (by “it” I mean my mental blocks). -P.S. my therapist doesn’t know about my sex problems(?) and the sex value stuff. But I know she would give a more feminist answer. My mom is on the side of waiting till marriage obviously.",,4,Mika_Acorn8,1697929470.0 +P.S. my therapist doesn’t know about my sex problems(?) and the sex value stuff. But I know she would give a more feminist answer. My mom is on the side of waiting till marriage obviously.",,4,Mika_Acorn8,2023-10-21 23:04:30 RedPillWomen,17cq8on,Daily Wire Launches Kids Media Program 'Bentkey',"For those interested in showing their children television shows with values that more closely align with trad/conservative/religious parents, Daily Wire launched an alternate site to Disney+ today called Bentkey with some original shows and then a collection of other kids programming that they've vetted. The headliners are 'A Wonderful Day with Mable McClay', which is similar to Mr. Roger's Neighborhood, and 'Chip Chilla', which is similar to Bluey. My three year old boy liked the first couple episodes Chip Chilla a lot but Mable McClay kinda went over his head. We'll check out some of the other shows to see if there are other he likes (there's around twenty). First couple episodes are free, it's $99 for an annual membership. I thought some of you might find this interesting! I'm not too worried about kids programming but sometimes I find myself frustrated at certain morals of the story or the ways characters are portrayed. I'm hoping this resonates a tiny bit more. It's not trying to be as overt as something like Veggie Tales, making the content entertaining and appealing takes a higher priority. It reminds me of what kids programs where like when I was a kid. -Curious to hear if your littles like the shows!",,37,ArkNemesis00,1697849144.0 -RedPillWomen,17cbckk,WWLDD? What would Laura Doyle do?,"My husband and I are getting ready to go on a “romantic” camping getaway. He said he thought it would be fun but now that it is here, he has been grumpy etc. He just called me from the store to ask what I thought we should get for the trip and bit my head off for no reason. Also, he has been standoffish and cold to me all week. He has been stressed about work. And last week, got drunk and ripped me up one side and down the other about what a horrible wife I am. (Don’t make enough money, don’t have a good enough job etc) I want to have a good time on this trip (we are leaving today), but I don’t know how to act fun and light when he is acting like he could care less.",,19,SomberWinter13,1697808639.0 +Curious to hear if your littles like the shows!",,37,ArkNemesis00,2023-10-21 00:45:44 +RedPillWomen,17cbckk,WWLDD? What would Laura Doyle do?,"My husband and I are getting ready to go on a “romantic” camping getaway. He said he thought it would be fun but now that it is here, he has been grumpy etc. He just called me from the store to ask what I thought we should get for the trip and bit my head off for no reason. Also, he has been standoffish and cold to me all week. He has been stressed about work. And last week, got drunk and ripped me up one side and down the other about what a horrible wife I am. (Don’t make enough money, don’t have a good enough job etc) I want to have a good time on this trip (we are leaving today), but I don’t know how to act fun and light when he is acting like he could care less.",,19,SomberWinter13,2023-10-20 13:30:39 RedPillWomen,17booxk,Stressed out stay at home mom needing marriage advice,"Looking for advice on this sub because I know it’s the only place I’ll probably get some logical advice. I’m a stay at home mom to 2 kids, ages 4 and almost 2. I homeschool my oldest so our week consists of homeschooling and a lot of activities with his homeschool group. On the days we’re home I’m catching up on housework and running errands. @@ -3259,7 +3259,7 @@ I’ve brought up very specific ways he can help me such as watching the kids wh I understand that he works and need a a break too and he does cook a lot but it’s all feeling very one-sided and I feel like I’m losing my mind. I deal with the kids all day, then put them to bed just to have my husband start a fight most nights that I have no enthusiasm for sex. It’s all very draining. -I already know that things aren’t going to change so I guess what I’m looking for is how I can keep my sanity, get my libido back and not resent my husband on my own. I can’t keep going on like this and the more I try to get my husband involved the further it pushes us apart.",,19,rustichomemaker,1697736869.0 +I already know that things aren’t going to change so I guess what I’m looking for is how I can keep my sanity, get my libido back and not resent my husband on my own. I can’t keep going on like this and the more I try to get my husband involved the further it pushes us apart.",,19,rustichomemaker,2023-10-19 17:34:29 RedPillWomen,17c580x,"Why do I feel bad , what should I do ?","I ( 20F) started to have a friend (22F) one year ago. We also have friends in common , they are all males and we are the only women in this group.( Im new in this group) I used to love talking to her because she gave me this sorority vibe so I kept my guard down when we were talking about men. We love to laugh about guys in general and even guys from the group. It’s never in a mean way it’s just very funny. One day we happened to talk about a guy from the group and how cute he is. I also talked about him like her. For me it was funny because I’m seeing this guy as a big brother. Hes literally the type of men that give me a safe vibe. @@ -3269,7 +3269,7 @@ Today she told that she asked to one the guys in the group if the guy in questio I don’t know why I feel bad. I don’t know why she did that ? -Thank you in advance , have a nice day",,0,Rough_Coconut_5982,1697785969.0 +Thank you in advance , have a nice day",,0,Rough_Coconut_5982,2023-10-20 07:12:49 RedPillWomen,17ap8ff,Green flags in a guy,"Hey everyone What are the most important green flags / values / traits, a boyfriend/husband should have? @@ -3280,7 +3280,7 @@ Some i thought about were: \- loyality -\- resposibility",,24,skibunnyxx,1697630993.0 +\- resposibility",,24,skibunnyxx,2023-10-18 12:09:53 RedPillWomen,17al4du,this doesn’t make a lick of sense,"i’m 27. this age would lead you to believe that i’m just waking up to my relationship goals but that’s not the case. i got engaged at 19. he tried to shoot me so i figured he wasn’t the best choice for a husband and left pre-marriage right after my 21st birthday. i took a year off in “nun mode” and got into another serious relationship at 22 that i thought was on the road to marriage. we talked about it and seemed to be progressing well but right before my 25th birthday, i realized he had no intention of marrying me and cut my losses. i did about 6 months in nun mode to reevaluate and got back out there. @@ -3290,7 +3290,7 @@ for more than a month in that time. i’m trying everything. “intentional dati i know what i have to offer. i know what i want. i did what i was supposed to do. i’m at a loss and starting to think i’m gonna end up dying alone. -any advice or commiseration would be nice. i just don’t know where to go from here.",,26,[deleted],1697615223.0 +any advice or commiseration would be nice. i just don’t know where to go from here.",,26,[deleted],2023-10-18 07:47:03 RedPillWomen,17a9pan,Question for breadwinner women,"Genuinely curious how this works for you ladies who are the breadwinner in the relationship, whether it'd be by education or income or both. RPW advocates for the man to be the captain of the household, but this is 2023 where many men are unable and female breadwinners are on the rise. 1. Has this affected your relationship dynamics? @@ -3300,14 +3300,14 @@ RedPillWomen,17a9pan,Question for breadwinner women,"Genuinely curious how this 5. How does your partner feel about it? 6. What things does your partner do to balance out his masculine side? -Open to discussion.",,37,kroshkamoya,1697579225.0 +Open to discussion.",,37,kroshkamoya,2023-10-17 21:47:05 RedPillWomen,17aehor,"I've been told by a couple of men that I don't have a feminine touch e.g. ""don't know how to touch a man""?!","When one guy I was with told me I don't know how to touch a man I was a bit offended and was like what does that even mean? Of course he was the first guy I was sexually with and he was much more experienced so I told him ok? I don't know because I haven't been with guys this way? I figured I will learn. I tried to be more feminine and soft in general. Recently another guy who was interested in me (we never had any relations except kissing once but mostly friendly hugs and stuff) told me when I hugged him or touched him in anyway he felt like he was being touched by one of his bros; that I am apparently not soft enough with my touches lol. Maybe it's because I wasn't interested in him that much? -Being an only daughter with brothers and only male cousins my age I have been raised mostly among boys and never knew how to be girly. I was a tomboy until my late-teens but although the outside has changed I sometimes still feel like I'm not feminine enough. Do you have any tips or good books or podcasts on how to bring out my feminine energy more?",,17,Nibahbe,1697592192.0 +Being an only daughter with brothers and only male cousins my age I have been raised mostly among boys and never knew how to be girly. I was a tomboy until my late-teens but although the outside has changed I sometimes still feel like I'm not feminine enough. Do you have any tips or good books or podcasts on how to bring out my feminine energy more?",,17,Nibahbe,2023-10-18 01:23:12 RedPillWomen,17ad8ma,How do you embrace your femininity?,"(If applicable) How did you come to terms with the different versions of femininity and decide which suits you best? -Recently I’ve come to realize that I excel at being a calm, comforting presence to others when they feel distressed or tense. Men and women have told me some version of “I feel comfortable with you”, “You help people relax when they’re nervous”, or “You’re so chill”. In the past I worried that being quiet and reserved made me cold, and that I had to be more bubbly and outgoing to be ‘girly’. But I’ve learned that you don’t have to be a social butterfly or the ‘fun one’ to be likable as a woman. People appreciate a soothing, grounding presence as well as a lively one. This is something I really look forward to bringing to a relationship too— providing a space where my SO can just relax and recover from the stress of everyday life. (I feel like this sub calls it a soft place to land or being his peace or something?)",,16,Ok-Coat7665,1697588695.0 -RedPillWomen,17ailgj,Books for raising girls with a more traditional focus?,"Hubby and I are expecting (yay) early next year and am blessed with a little girl. I had very good teaching from my grandmother and mum, but times have changed and im wondering if anyone knows of any good resources? TIA xo",,7,aussiedollface2,1697605073.0 +Recently I’ve come to realize that I excel at being a calm, comforting presence to others when they feel distressed or tense. Men and women have told me some version of “I feel comfortable with you”, “You help people relax when they’re nervous”, or “You’re so chill”. In the past I worried that being quiet and reserved made me cold, and that I had to be more bubbly and outgoing to be ‘girly’. But I’ve learned that you don’t have to be a social butterfly or the ‘fun one’ to be likable as a woman. People appreciate a soothing, grounding presence as well as a lively one. This is something I really look forward to bringing to a relationship too— providing a space where my SO can just relax and recover from the stress of everyday life. (I feel like this sub calls it a soft place to land or being his peace or something?)",,16,Ok-Coat7665,2023-10-18 00:24:55 +RedPillWomen,17ailgj,Books for raising girls with a more traditional focus?,"Hubby and I are expecting (yay) early next year and am blessed with a little girl. I had very good teaching from my grandmother and mum, but times have changed and im wondering if anyone knows of any good resources? TIA xo",,7,aussiedollface2,2023-10-18 04:57:53 RedPillWomen,179ybp8,How can I decide if I want to continue this relationship?,"Hello ladies, I follow this sub on my main account, but for privacys sake I'm using a throwaway. This is also my first post here, so if I used the wrong flair etc please let me know, as I'm really in need of some RP advice here. I've been with my boyfriend for two years, living together for one year. We have a pet together. Right now he is the main provider, as I'm not in the position to really contribute due to participating in an education program. I pay my half of the rent and bills, but he pays for all groceries etc. This just to set the scene. @@ -3322,8 +3322,8 @@ I'm at a loss of what to do. I haven't spoken with anyone in person about becaus My dilemma is: I don't know if this relationship is salvageable. But we never fight, everything goes well, we like and care for each other. Our day to day life is good. On the other hand: am I lying to myself if I think this is an ok situation? I miss intimacy, I just don't know if this is enough to throw an otherwise solid relationship away. -I'm also wondering: if I break up - what would I do? I can't move out, as I don't have money and even if I did, finding a flat is impossible right now. Also, what would we do with our pet? I fear that these aspects may be clouding my judgement. If you have any thoughts, please enlighten me.",,8,algae_wafer,1697549153.0 -RedPillWomen,179yzlv,Messaging apps,Other than WhatsApp to keep in touch for people who don't use social media or wants to stay away from all the noise of it :b,,7,Direct-Ad-5394,1697551101.0 +I'm also wondering: if I break up - what would I do? I can't move out, as I don't have money and even if I did, finding a flat is impossible right now. Also, what would we do with our pet? I fear that these aspects may be clouding my judgement. If you have any thoughts, please enlighten me.",,8,algae_wafer,2023-10-17 13:25:53 +RedPillWomen,179yzlv,Messaging apps,Other than WhatsApp to keep in touch for people who don't use social media or wants to stay away from all the noise of it :b,,7,Direct-Ad-5394,2023-10-17 13:58:21 RedPillWomen,179htaa,Have you noticed whether it hurts/helps you if you have a career?,"I see a lot of sentiments from traditional-minded men saying that men don't really care for career-driven women, and that only things that matter for women are being attractive, kind, agreeable, marriage-oriented, etc. But my experience with provider men who make at least upper middle class income, they do have some desire for their partner being ""successful"" to some degree. And while they don't search for a specific income or educational level, I think it's because it still reflects highly on them, especially when their peers also have gfs/wives who come from similar social backgrounds. @@ -3334,19 +3334,19 @@ On the other hand, you have some men saying that intelligence and women who have My fiance and I assume a traditional dynamic despite both of us making upper middle class income, and he's told me before that in his social circle, a woman who has an elevated social background is commonly sought after in addition to all the ""standard"" things. -For those of you who have careers and follow RPW advice, did you experience something similar with men you were interested in?",,30,leosandlattes,1697492983.0 +For those of you who have careers and follow RPW advice, did you experience something similar with men you were interested in?",,30,leosandlattes,2023-10-16 21:49:43 RedPillWomen,17956s0,Whats an argument against men can sleep around but women cant.,"I m in an argument with a friend. He says its okay for a men to sleep around IN A RELATIONSHIP if they are honest with eachother. Women cant. His argument is because a men can produce multiple children with multiple women and when a men sleeps with a women, he knows its his kid. A women cant do that because if she sleeps with multiple men, no one knows who the father of the kid is, plus women can be pregnant once in 9month while the men can shoot out how much he desires. -I told him we are not animals. I mean every relationship models can work. But I personally feel one sided relationship is unfair. Either open for both or closed completely. Also we cant just watch on a reproducing aspect. We are humans with emotions. But I am looking for more arguments against his „thesis“",,34,[deleted],1697460443.0 +I told him we are not animals. I mean every relationship models can work. But I personally feel one sided relationship is unfair. Either open for both or closed completely. Also we cant just watch on a reproducing aspect. We are humans with emotions. But I am looking for more arguments against his „thesis“",,34,[deleted],2023-10-16 12:47:23 RedPillWomen,178tfj7,The meaning of sex in a man's life,"I'm thrilled about this subject. I had read and inform myself about the topic but I'm still confused. For my education and the way my parents raise me I ended up being clueless about relationships, especially with the opposite sex. Coming back to the present time, there's a ton of information and books and coaches that teachs about relationships and stuff. And this Saturday night, thinking about it, I saw that some men say that ""sex doesn't built an emotional connection"". That a man could have sex with someone and doesn't mean anything. And on the other hand we have the books where it says that for men is soo important having sex with they partners because is a way to create intimacy and connection. On the other side we have many young men that have girlfriends and even though they want to have sex with multiple women, they even say to their girlfriends that they ""want variety"" So what is the truth? What's the meaning of sex for a man? Is not important, is important, is an ego thing, is for the peer pressure of perform, it builts intimacy? Or not? When is ok to say yes to sex? When you want to have a relationship with him? -How does the other person sees you after having it?",,16,Direct-Ad-5394,1697416358.0 -RedPillWomen,178m36s,"Is it unreasonable to want a provider, but to not want kids?","I love the idea of being a homemaker, but a homemaker seems to be synonymous for stay-at-home mom. I like traditional gender roles in a relationship, but I feel like I am being unreasonable wanting a man to fit the mold of being the financial provider, while I don't want to fit the traditional gender role of being a women who will give him kids.",,23,bananacandy24680,1697395741.0 +How does the other person sees you after having it?",,16,Direct-Ad-5394,2023-10-16 00:32:38 +RedPillWomen,178m36s,"Is it unreasonable to want a provider, but to not want kids?","I love the idea of being a homemaker, but a homemaker seems to be synonymous for stay-at-home mom. I like traditional gender roles in a relationship, but I feel like I am being unreasonable wanting a man to fit the mold of being the financial provider, while I don't want to fit the traditional gender role of being a women who will give him kids.",,23,bananacandy24680,2023-10-15 18:49:01 RedPillWomen,178trp1,Ideas to meet potential prospect,"I need refreshing ideas on how meet new prospects. I want to activately search and look for potential partners. I think after a long time of not look for it I'm ready. After working on myself and improve aspects of my life -So I want to ask you gals any ideas on where and how to meet new people. Any of your thoughts will be very appreciated. Thank you 😸😸☺️",,6,Direct-Ad-5394,1697417381.0 +So I want to ask you gals any ideas on where and how to meet new people. Any of your thoughts will be very appreciated. Thank you 😸😸☺️",,6,Direct-Ad-5394,2023-10-16 00:49:41 RedPillWomen,178j7yn,"My boyfriend comments on how hot other girls are, continually follows other women on Instagram, talks about his past sexual experiences, watches porn whilst being sexual with me","Hi RPW. I am facing a dilema. Me and a guy been dating around 2 months. He’s a handsome doctor and apart from the following things we get on well and I like him. He says he likes me very much too. At first we would respectfully talk about other beautiful women. Then he started talking about how hot other women at a place we went together were which he told me later he said on purpose to see if I was jealous which would mean that I like him. @@ -3361,8 +3361,8 @@ Now he’s away on a trip with a friend and I’m worried he’ll meet a girl or Apart from these things I really liked him, but I feel so upset about all of this. -This is all affecting my self esteem. I feel quite worried. Are these red flags?",,21,Diamond-pearls21,1697387668.0 -RedPillWomen,178hzim,How can I help my boyfriend deal with his ADHD without mothering him ?,"My boyfriend has ADHD. This affects him in many ways such as remembering dates, events, things that need to be done, etc. Because I know him well I automatically take note of all those things because I know that it’s extremely probable that he won’t remember it. My problem is that reminding him of those important things makes me feel like his mother and makes him feel infantilised. An answer could be to only remind him when he asks me to, but often he forgets to tell me to remind him of something. How can I help him while making him feel like the leader ?",,9,MrsDarcy94000,1697384215.0 +This is all affecting my self esteem. I feel quite worried. Are these red flags?",,21,Diamond-pearls21,2023-10-15 16:34:28 +RedPillWomen,178hzim,How can I help my boyfriend deal with his ADHD without mothering him ?,"My boyfriend has ADHD. This affects him in many ways such as remembering dates, events, things that need to be done, etc. Because I know him well I automatically take note of all those things because I know that it’s extremely probable that he won’t remember it. My problem is that reminding him of those important things makes me feel like his mother and makes him feel infantilised. An answer could be to only remind him when he asks me to, but often he forgets to tell me to remind him of something. How can I help him while making him feel like the leader ?",,9,MrsDarcy94000,2023-10-15 15:36:55 RedPillWomen,1785npw,How do I get my husband to be more masculine?,"My husband and I have been together for almost 20 years. We’ve been through some rough patches, like any marriage, but we’ve always come out stronger together. A few years ago, my husband started wearing thongs. I expressed that I didn’t like it and did not find it attractive. He got upset with me and wanted to know why I cared what he wore under his clothes. I’m pretty non-confrontational, so I just kept my opinion to myself afterwards. He started to gain a little weight, then stopped wearing them. I thought that was the end of it. The past couple of years have been stressful and hard on our family. My husband wanted to sell our house and build a house on his parent’s land. I was open to this and we went through the difficult process of home selling. We didn’t have the money to immediately start building, so we moved into my Dad’s house for about 6 months. When it was looking like it was going to be longer than we expected, we decided to get an apartment while we saved money to build. @@ -3381,7 +3381,7 @@ I just do not understand. Maybe he is bisexual and hiding it. I’m not worried I just want him to be more masculine, but I don’t want to immaculate him by telling him that. I just don’t know what to do. -I’m sure I’m leaving things out, so just ask if you have questions.",,55,ammmarcela,1697337566.0 +I’m sure I’m leaving things out, so just ask if you have questions.",,55,ammmarcela,2023-10-15 02:39:26 RedPillWomen,178sfda,Grocery shopping nightmare,"Every grocery shopping trip the same thing happens. I live with my boyfriend, and every grocery shopping trip we have, I pick out the food because I love to do it and I am very particular and he will just eat anything I've asked him many times if he's okay with my food choices and he seems honest saying yes and he definitely scarfs down whatever lol. That's not the problem. @@ -3415,11 +3415,11 @@ And then my pantry food going in the fridge just zaps the flavor out of them and What should I do, idk. I already have to be in the car with him for so long which is stressful because he gets so nervous on the road and it in turn gets me all worked up seeing him be frustrated at being in the car, regardless of who's driving. I thought if I took over driving it wouldn't be an issue because I'd take the problem out of hid hands, but no, he does the same stuff and will be grunting and everything when I'M the one driving!!? And sometimes I just want a break from diving myself! So lately he's been driving and I'm pretty sure he's just holding in his emotions about the road but once in a while he'll get all irritated and scared. So this on top of the whole grocery shebang, it really takes up a full day, and picking out groceries is supposed to be MY HAPPY day, but it feels like he's zapping the joy from it. - I could start going alone sometimes but driving for THAT long, is just too lonely to do each and every time. Am I just being a bitch? Idk, what should I do?",,0,BriefBlueberry9538,1697413317.0 + I could start going alone sometimes but driving for THAT long, is just too lonely to do each and every time. Am I just being a bitch? Idk, what should I do?",,0,BriefBlueberry9538,2023-10-15 23:41:57 RedPillWomen,177nay4,Supporting husband through tough time,"Concisely put, the weight of the world is bringing my husband down at the moment, and I'd love to hear some thoughts on ways I can support him through it. Men have a lot to shoulder and it's understandable that sometimes it can get on top of them. The thing is nothing has really changed for him to suddenly feel this way, and he even said he doesn't know why all of a sudden there's an issue. This makes me think that it could crop up again so I'd like to have clear ideas to fall back on. -As I started writing this my husband literally just came to me and thanked me for supporting him through how he's been today, but I still have felt like I've been muddling through and would love to hear ideas or things that have worked for you.",,18,FancyPants882,1697282497.0 -RedPillWomen,177lsse,Chicken soup for sick captain :(,"Can anyone recommend me a good chicken soup recipe? Noodles, no noodles.. Something that you're other half loves?",,7,thingswedidaskids,1697276343.0 +As I started writing this my husband literally just came to me and thanked me for supporting him through how he's been today, but I still have felt like I've been muddling through and would love to hear ideas or things that have worked for you.",,18,FancyPants882,2023-10-14 11:21:37 +RedPillWomen,177lsse,Chicken soup for sick captain :(,"Can anyone recommend me a good chicken soup recipe? Noodles, no noodles.. Something that you're other half loves?",,7,thingswedidaskids,2023-10-14 09:39:03 RedPillWomen,177738i,My Unexpected Connection with RPW,"Salaam! TLDR: I am a Muslim and find a lot of similarities between my experiences and things discussed on RPW. @@ -3436,7 +3436,7 @@ I was mostly just wondering, are there any other women here from a similar backg If you're not Muslim I totally still welcome your perspectives on this! Thanks for reading. -A",,13,Asmarunns21,1697226658.0 +A",,13,Asmarunns21,2023-10-13 19:50:58 RedPillWomen,1774xbo,Single-Focused Men,"In my study of men in an effort to understand and inspire them for us to build a healthy relationship that gives both of us power; in turn highlighting our unique abilities and strengths, I've learned something. I'd love to get y'alls opinion and start a discussion. It's about the single-focus mindset of men. @@ -3451,11 +3451,11 @@ For example, a serial cheater and/or a man that is non-committal is not worth be When vetting I think it's important to observe this. How is his commitment to his work, family, friends, pets, heck even hobbies? -What do you think? Is this too harsh a judgement, or is it vital to remember?",,12,Automatic-Praline568,1697220698.0 +What do you think? Is this too harsh a judgement, or is it vital to remember?",,12,Automatic-Praline568,2023-10-13 18:11:38 RedPillWomen,1778mxo,Lab grown diamonds,"I am pretty sure my boyfriend will be proposing within the next 6 months or so. I told him I am ok with a lab grown diamond since they are more affordable. How do you all feel about them? Part of me feels like a mined diamond is so traditional and rare and means more….but I know he cannot afford a 2 carat natural diamond and that is the size I want. Thoughts please. Do not take offense if you have a lab diamond I am not trying to talk down on them in any way just want some other opinions! -Edit: thank you everyone!!",,3,babyyy_c,1697230950.0 -RedPillWomen,176yk4e,The Netflix film: Fair Play,"I wouldn’t say this is a perfect movie to illustrate how redpill women philosophy works. BUT if you watch the first half it illustrates very well, over and over, a man’s reaction when a woman is doing basically the opposite of what’s advocated for here. She doesnt necessarily only do « wrong » things but she innocently—she has her mind on other things and a completely different work view— does a lot of them and the man’s often subtle emotional reactions in that film are priceless illustrations, in my opinion. I highly recommend at least the first half to anyone who is unsure of the logic, or new here. Did anyone else enjoy it? Agree or disagree with my take? Are there any similar films you can recommend?",,8,gabyvfontaine,1697203106.0 +Edit: thank you everyone!!",,3,babyyy_c,2023-10-13 21:02:30 +RedPillWomen,176yk4e,The Netflix film: Fair Play,"I wouldn’t say this is a perfect movie to illustrate how redpill women philosophy works. BUT if you watch the first half it illustrates very well, over and over, a man’s reaction when a woman is doing basically the opposite of what’s advocated for here. She doesnt necessarily only do « wrong » things but she innocently—she has her mind on other things and a completely different work view— does a lot of them and the man’s often subtle emotional reactions in that film are priceless illustrations, in my opinion. I highly recommend at least the first half to anyone who is unsure of the logic, or new here. Did anyone else enjoy it? Agree or disagree with my take? Are there any similar films you can recommend?",,8,gabyvfontaine,2023-10-13 13:18:26 RedPillWomen,1768p08,Discussion: Sex & Feeling Sexy,"Most women have a receptive sex drive. We may not be into sex with our partners until things get going or he does something to trigger sexy feelings. I have noticed, for myself, that *feeling* sexy will put me into a much more receptive mood. This can mean getting dressed and doing hair and make up before sexy time starts. I've also found physical activities that get my body moving in a specific way (dance or yoga) can put me in a more receptive mood. @@ -3464,13 +3464,13 @@ What do you do to hack your brain to get in the mood? Does your partner have a h -*^(I have lots of thoughts on the matter, like that we spend all of our dating time getting dressed up and going out and then taper that down as we get comfortable and this is a contributing factor to lowered rates of sex later in relationships...but I'm going to leave this all for discussion in the comments -- but basically, anything discussion you want to have around the topic, let go!)*",,50,Deliaallmylife,1697121977.0 +*^(I have lots of thoughts on the matter, like that we spend all of our dating time getting dressed up and going out and then taper that down as we get comfortable and this is a contributing factor to lowered rates of sex later in relationships...but I'm going to leave this all for discussion in the comments -- but basically, anything discussion you want to have around the topic, let go!)*",,50,Deliaallmylife,2023-10-12 14:46:17 RedPillWomen,176dss9,Setting boundaries in feminine way / anxious attachment,"Hi, I am working on myself and my self worth. In the past I have struggled with holding boundaries. I am working on my feminine energy and anxious attachment style. I am open to any ideas on how to work on this more. -I also have a specific issue. I became exclusive with my ex again without him asking me to be exclusive. We are long distance and talk everyday and have been involved for a year. We do visit but he doesn’t schedule and it makes me so emotional. I feel really anxious when we don’t have time scheduled to visit and he hasn’t offered commitment yet. He knows that is what I want. He is avoidant attachment style and I am his first serious relationship. I am not getting what I need right now (scheduled visits and official relationship status). I want to date other people if he can’t give me these things. I shared what I wanted in a sit down conversation and email. We have talked again about it. I have made mistakes of trying to force these things instead of inspiring them. I become really anxious because he is avoidant and I want things to move along. How do you set and enforce a boundary in a feminine way? I want to book a trip there in two weeks and he knows this. The anxiety is excruciating. I can’t wait around forever. I feel like this man could be my husband. It’s been six months since we broke up and I have been patient. He freaked out about seriousness and that’s why we broke up and he has been exclusive to me. He does seem to follow some red pill ideology. He does call me everyday and is invested but I want more. How do you set and hold boundaries in a feminine way? How can I inspire him. Open to your ideas ladies.",,11,chirp20,1697135116.0 -RedPillWomen,176e002,Courses on female seduction and eroticism?,"Does anyone know recommendable workshops/courses, blogs or trainings made by or for high class escorts, concubines,geishas, sex workers etc. around the topics of seduction, eroticism,charisma and femininity? Language does not matter.",,2,New-Noise802,1697135636.0 +I also have a specific issue. I became exclusive with my ex again without him asking me to be exclusive. We are long distance and talk everyday and have been involved for a year. We do visit but he doesn’t schedule and it makes me so emotional. I feel really anxious when we don’t have time scheduled to visit and he hasn’t offered commitment yet. He knows that is what I want. He is avoidant attachment style and I am his first serious relationship. I am not getting what I need right now (scheduled visits and official relationship status). I want to date other people if he can’t give me these things. I shared what I wanted in a sit down conversation and email. We have talked again about it. I have made mistakes of trying to force these things instead of inspiring them. I become really anxious because he is avoidant and I want things to move along. How do you set and enforce a boundary in a feminine way? I want to book a trip there in two weeks and he knows this. The anxiety is excruciating. I can’t wait around forever. I feel like this man could be my husband. It’s been six months since we broke up and I have been patient. He freaked out about seriousness and that’s why we broke up and he has been exclusive to me. He does seem to follow some red pill ideology. He does call me everyday and is invested but I want more. How do you set and hold boundaries in a feminine way? How can I inspire him. Open to your ideas ladies.",,11,chirp20,2023-10-12 18:25:16 +RedPillWomen,176e002,Courses on female seduction and eroticism?,"Does anyone know recommendable workshops/courses, blogs or trainings made by or for high class escorts, concubines,geishas, sex workers etc. around the topics of seduction, eroticism,charisma and femininity? Language does not matter.",,2,New-Noise802,2023-10-12 18:33:56 RedPillWomen,1752xr9,How should I address the fact that I’m not physically attracted the men in my league?,"So I 28F am average looking (5-6 based on r/truerateme)and based on my experience the men who approach me 95% of the time I have no physical chemistry with. That has been the case my whole life. My first boyfriend was my looksmatch(we didn’t get sexual because I was waiting for marriage at the time and maybe also I didn’t have the urge to do it with him) and eventhough I really enjoyed spending time with him physical touch and kissing felt like a chore. I got with him thinking it will develop later but it didn’t so I broke up with him after 6 months. Recently I had relations with someone physically maybe ~2 point more attractive than me and I was very attracted to him physically but obviously he didn’t want to commit to me so I broke it off. It was very hurtful because we were involved for a year and a half and he was the only person I got sexual with but it teached me a lot. -I’m just sad I wouldn’t feel that passion with someone who is more my looksmatch and wants to have a long term relationship with me. I don’t want to be faking it for a lifetime and it wouldn’t be fair to the person neither. How should I deal with this problem? How can I manage my expectations?",,48,Nibahbe,1696990284.0 +I’m just sad I wouldn’t feel that passion with someone who is more my looksmatch and wants to have a long term relationship with me. I don’t want to be faking it for a lifetime and it wouldn’t be fair to the person neither. How should I deal with this problem? How can I manage my expectations?",,48,Nibahbe,2023-10-11 02:11:24 RedPillWomen,174goky,My ex husband is trying to take our child,"Hi there. I am scared, searching for answers and need the perspective of this community. Long story short, my ex husband and I got married in 2014. He encouraged me to go to grad school while we were still dating, and I supported both of us with my grad assistant salary. I finished my PhD in Agricultural Science a year after our child was born. When our child was 16 months old, he announced he had been cheating on me with his junior colleague for a year and a half and was leaving me. We never fought/argued, and I considered him my soulmate, so it was a serious shock. He never gave me an opportunity to address whatever issues he may have had. He never offered explanation as to what went wrong in our marriage. He is now married to his former mistress. I have since moved on with my life, with no shortage of better men who want to become my second husband. For the past five years, he has been paying his tiny amount in child support and has seen our daughter two days a week. I have always been civil to him, which was far better than he deserved. He and his former-mistress-now-wife have a 2yo together and she is a tradwife, and he is a RPM. I frankly don’t concern myself with what they do, as much as possible. However, he recently brought a custody case against me. He wants to try to take full custody of our daughter, based on made-up legal BS. She is almost 7yo now and definitely prefers the safety and stability of my home. I am a single working mom, her bedrock and provider for the past five years. I take great pride in being a great mom. We surround ourselves with community and our amazing neighbors and friends with kids, live close to my family, see grandparents and cousins often. I volunteer at her school and Girl Scouts, am involved in PTA, we do all the enriching experiences (camping, museums, beach trips, festivals, etc). She is a happy, smart, funny, athletic, straight-A student. She is thriving. @@ -3479,7 +3479,7 @@ Also, I will likely marry my BF fairly soon, who my daughter loves and who is gr So in this situation, with traditional family values in mind, why would my ex be suing for full custody of our daughter? What’s his motivation? Does he see me as a bad mom, just because I am a single mom? (He made me a single mom. I had no choice). Does he think our daughter would be better off being raised by his young tradwife, learning more gendered traditional things? Does he want to have control of our daughter, and resents that he doesn’t? Why would he want to take our daughter from me, her mother, who despite challenges, built a stable loving home? She would never recover from the trauma of being ripped away from her mom. How is that good family values? -Please help me understand why. I came to this community to hear your all’s perspectives on this situation.",,20,Dance-Bird,1696929157.0 +Please help me understand why. I came to this community to hear your all’s perspectives on this situation.",,20,Dance-Bird,2023-10-10 09:12:37 RedPillWomen,174fhbm,I really want more children but…,"I know whether or not to have more children isn’t something that the internet can tell me but I have no friends or family to talk it through with and would appreciate some input I have 3 lovely children, age 5 and under and in my heart I know I want more. I would love a big family and value my children and family a lot. I often look at them and feel so full of love @@ -3492,10 +3492,10 @@ My husband wants more children. Money isn’t really an issue, my husband doesn I just don’t feel like I’m doing a good enough job at the moment with the house and kids and I don’t want to add to that if I can’t cope with it. I have voiced this to my husband, he says I’m doing fine. Getting help from him with the house and kids isn’t really an option, I would like some help but I know he can’t and I appreciate that he is earning all the money for the family -I’m just really at a loss of what to do",,11,Ok_Awareness_3132,1696923920.0 -RedPillWomen,174jgci,Should I 26 F let my fiancé 30M sleep with other women?,"My fiancé ( M 30yrs) and I (F 26yrs) have been together for nearly 10 years and engaged for two. In the last few months he expressed and continues to express mutliple times that he wants to sleep with other women I’ve offered to compromise with having threesomes but he expresses that he would rather not have me there at all. He says I would make the experience less enjoyable or even sabotage it from even happening as I’d probably feel jealous. I am not comfortable with saying yes to him to sleep with other women. It’s basically become an argument abd he says that by not allowing him to sleep with other women, I am making him less successful because if he would be allowed, he would be more motivated to achieve more in life. What are your opinions for this relationship moving forward?",,0,ThrowRAsuccessbeach,1696939371.0 +I’m just really at a loss of what to do",,11,Ok_Awareness_3132,2023-10-10 07:45:20 +RedPillWomen,174jgci,Should I 26 F let my fiancé 30M sleep with other women?,"My fiancé ( M 30yrs) and I (F 26yrs) have been together for nearly 10 years and engaged for two. In the last few months he expressed and continues to express mutliple times that he wants to sleep with other women I’ve offered to compromise with having threesomes but he expresses that he would rather not have me there at all. He says I would make the experience less enjoyable or even sabotage it from even happening as I’d probably feel jealous. I am not comfortable with saying yes to him to sleep with other women. It’s basically become an argument abd he says that by not allowing him to sleep with other women, I am making him less successful because if he would be allowed, he would be more motivated to achieve more in life. What are your opinions for this relationship moving forward?",,0,ThrowRAsuccessbeach,2023-10-10 12:02:51 RedPillWomen,1731912,Trying to get back to myself,"Hey Ladies, I posted in here several weeks ago about us the LD skills and getting back together with my husband. After we got back together, he confessed to talking seriously with another woman for quite awhile. That really took the wind out of my sails and the past 4 months of surviving on anxiety and adrenaline has caught up with me. I have really withdrawn from church and work and any other social activities bc I feel like I just don’t have the energy and no longer feel like myself. I have been trying to do self care but not much interests me. Has anyone had this same experience? If so, what did you do and how did you get back to yourself? -** Part of the problem may also be that my husband is a homebody and doesn’t have much interest in being around people we used to associate with.",,10,patchouliflowers,1696777224.0 +** Part of the problem may also be that my husband is a homebody and doesn’t have much interest in being around people we used to associate with.",,10,patchouliflowers,2023-10-08 15:00:24 RedPillWomen,172bcaf,Non-violent communication hack,"Hi:) I have been aware of non-violent communication (NVC) for a long time (it is somewhat well known, has been around since the late 60’s) but I was reminded of it recently, looked it up and read over a summary of its principles and realized that it is in-line w/ what RPW suggests for conflict resolution. 1. Observations (objective, not judgments or evaluations) @@ -3505,19 +3505,19 @@ RedPillWomen,172bcaf,Non-violent communication hack,"Hi:) I have been aware of n I am so grateful for this space and all of the wisdom and instruction shared here, but I think that using outside resources to support us in strengthening our ability to practice what we learn here can be super helpful. There is the original book plus tons of articles, videos, and even classes you can take to learn NVC. -I thought I would share this bc I think I need to work on it myself and I bet that others could benefit too❤️",,25,bbbunny123,1696698539.0 +I thought I would share this bc I think I need to work on it myself and I bet that others could benefit too❤️",,25,bbbunny123,2023-10-07 17:08:59 RedPillWomen,172mcrb,"I'm looking for good cooking blogs / YouTube channels, books etc mostly by women.","I enjoy watching cooking shows especially by women, I also want to find more variety of meals because I don't know what to eat on a daily basis! I am tired of the same thing. I would like to be better to myself and make nicer meals for me and her & my loved ones.😊 I also find that throughout my life I didn't get to eat a variety of meals, like growing up I would sort of eat the same thing every so often but changed up sometimes. I would like to eat all different types of foods, but I genuinely don't know many meals! And by that I mean for breakfast it'd be cerial, lunch a sandwich or something and then dinner anything with potatoes. It's okay sometimes, but I realise now as an adult that I don't know many different foods!! Hence to why I'm trying to find any good shows or anything at all. I wouldn't say I don't know how to cook, I'm sure I could if I tried but I genuinely don't know what to make!! And even grocery shopping... How do I know what to get! Do yall write a list? Do you only get what you will definitely use? So are your meals planned etc?... I could be overthinking this, so sorry but I'm 18 & would like to learn things. 😊 -Oh and the only reason why I mostly want it to be by women is simply just because they are more comforting to me.",,6,rosettepearl,1696727543.0 +Oh and the only reason why I mostly want it to be by women is simply just because they are more comforting to me.",,6,rosettepearl,2023-10-08 01:12:23 RedPillWomen,1729p3v,Keep seeing this question,"I’ve been browsing some of the other women’s subs on this site and a question I keep seeing pop up is “why do men need emotional support from women?” They seem to acknowledge that men need emotional support but then cop out and say that men need to provide emotional support for other men, which is true. -The problem is that for a lot of men, we need emotional support from women. I don’t know why, it just hits different. Just in case anyone was misguided by these other subs, I can assure you that men do in fact want emotional support and validation from women and that it’s not something that other men can provide for us.",,17,Ecstatic_Dingo3730,1696694304.0 +The problem is that for a lot of men, we need emotional support from women. I don’t know why, it just hits different. Just in case anyone was misguided by these other subs, I can assure you that men do in fact want emotional support and validation from women and that it’s not something that other men can provide for us.",,17,Ecstatic_Dingo3730,2023-10-07 15:58:24 RedPillWomen,171ihh7,I don't enjoy getting ready / dressing up daily as much as I used to...,"I used to always want to do my makeup and hair... Even when I'm just home, even when I'm alone etc... When you look good you feel good. 😊 I have noticed lately I don't really want to do my makeup, but whenever I have to go somewhere then I do it and usually I want to do it but sometimes it's just out of routine or I don't feel very put together without it... The thing that is slightly bothering me is that I used to always want to do it, not just when I go somewhere. I stopped wearing as much makeup as I used to this year and eventually I started to feel more comfortable without it. I used to not even let family see me without it. I think its because of how I cut down on makeup... Because I still enjoy putting on a nice, comfortable and pretty looking outfit... And I make sure to do my hair and stuff but I just leave the makeup... Most days now I just curl my eyelashes, lately I have really been into dark red lipstick so I dab some of that on my lips and I honestly think it makes such a difference and makes me feel prettier ☺️ @@ -3528,7 +3528,7 @@ Idk it bothers me a bit ! Maybe I'm just getting more comfortable in my own skin Has anyone else experienced this?! 😞 -Partly it is just because I don't wear makeup as much anymore, on days that I feel good I will apply the red lipstick💄and curl my eyelashes. And style my hair. But some days I just feel like I don't have the energy ... Maybe I'm being hard on myself. But I hate those days because I love when I feel good and style myself how I like...",,14,rosettepearl,1696613552.0 +Partly it is just because I don't wear makeup as much anymore, on days that I feel good I will apply the red lipstick💄and curl my eyelashes. And style my hair. But some days I just feel like I don't have the energy ... Maybe I'm being hard on myself. But I hate those days because I love when I feel good and style myself how I like...",,14,rosettepearl,2023-10-06 17:32:32 RedPillWomen,171092p,Maintaining respect in marriage/ltr,"Hi, I am a full-time nanny which has allowed me to see a lot of marriages up close. I am aware that the period I am witnessing, when children are young, is one that puts stress on the relationship. But, I am struck by the lack of respect and kindness towards one another I see in parents, not as the exception to how they interact w/ each other, but as the rule in virtually all of my clients on a day-to-day basis. I have seen it so much but it literally hurts to watch and shocks me regularly, though I try not to judge. My clients, some of whom I spent years with, were/are respectful and kind to me, I think they are good parents and good people. I want to understand how this happens and how it can be avoided. @@ -3541,7 +3541,7 @@ I have read almost all of the suggested reading for this Reddit, and I also prac I would love to hear how women here have maintained respect (and esp. respectful communication, actions, even just like manners/courtesy) and healthy, loving relationships and have avoided normalizing treating (and being treated by obv, but I know our actions are the only thing we control) the man they love with disrespect. -Thank you❤️ and sorry for wordiness😅",,34,bbbunny123,1696557737.0 +Thank you❤️ and sorry for wordiness😅",,34,bbbunny123,2023-10-06 02:02:17 RedPillWomen,170u4un,"Those of you who waited until marriage to have sex, was it worth it? And those who did not, was no big deal?","I grew up in a fairly stereotypical conservative/traditional household. My family are not religious but they do hold traditional values, and I was always taught growing up (mostly by my mother) that it was best to remain a virgin until marriage - it wasn’t a ‘must’, more like ‘try it if you can’ sort of thing. I’ve been tempted a few times but never really felt a strong desire for any man, so for the most part this has been fairly easy for me. @@ -3556,14 +3556,14 @@ He’s been very patient with me, and made it clear that whilst he wants to slee I’m 30 so losing my virginity feels like a big deal. I have not told him I am a virgin, only that I was not ready for sex yet. I honestly want him to be my first regardless of whether we get married or not. -But at the same time I don’t know if it’s just my hormones talking! So I wanted to get some perspectives from all the ladies here - did you or did you not wait for marriage, and was it worth it? Or is it really no big deal in the end?",,43,-ladykitsune-,1696541763.0 +But at the same time I don’t know if it’s just my hormones talking! So I wanted to get some perspectives from all the ladies here - did you or did you not wait for marriage, and was it worth it? Or is it really no big deal in the end?",,43,-ladykitsune-,2023-10-05 21:36:03 RedPillWomen,17199f6,I spoke to him about us and if he can promise me future together after 2 months together. He was vague,"(He is 38 btw) We have been together every day since we started going out, and we are a match made in heaven. I know his family and friends, and I trust him. When we had the conversation to be oficially in a relationship he said he wants family and he doesn't have a family yet because he didnt meet the right person. Today the topic arose again as I have to make an important decision whether to move to another city. I told him this and he said that destiny arranges and will arrange things the right way, and no matter what happens it would be the right thing to happen (He is very spiritual too). He also said that its to early to be having this conversation. I dont know if he thought that I am directly asking him for a ring, but at least I expected a different answer. -I don't understand why he left this decision on me. I am really confused and dont know what to do.",,3,90210534,1696589820.0 +I don't understand why he left this decision on me. I am really confused and dont know what to do.",,3,90210534,2023-10-06 10:57:00 RedPillWomen,171f689,Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?,"Hello, I am a 25 year old guy, and I’m very curious about what the red pill women think about this. As we all know, a woman’s baseline goal is to get commitment and the focus out of the highest quality man she can find. A man’s baseline goal is to get sex with as many high quality women as possible. @@ -3574,8 +3574,8 @@ I know it sounds controversial, but if you think about it, it ends up making sen Also the reality of pre-selection, aka he’s hotter because other women want him or are around him, adds to this point no? -I’d love to hear any thoughts on this.",,0,Riskiest-Elk,1696605820.0 -RedPillWomen,1703ote,Uhm I commented and got banned from 3 SUBS?!,Has this happened to anyone else?? I only commented cause I got curious and now I’m banned from 3 subs that cater to black women and I’m so sad because wtf?!?! 😭,,66,BlackKleenexBox,1696465841.0 +I’d love to hear any thoughts on this.",,0,Riskiest-Elk,2023-10-06 15:23:40 +RedPillWomen,1703ote,Uhm I commented and got banned from 3 SUBS?!,Has this happened to anyone else?? I only commented cause I got curious and now I’m banned from 3 subs that cater to black women and I’m so sad because wtf?!?! 😭,,66,BlackKleenexBox,2023-10-05 00:30:41 RedPillWomen,16ztos7,"Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'ts","> Listen to Mustn'ts, child, listen to the Don'ts. >Listen to the Shouldn'ts, the Impossibles, the Won'ts. @@ -3600,7 +3600,7 @@ Should, in this context, sets up a covert contract of sorts. I've decided that h This can also be applied when giving advice. As RPW moves more and more in the direction of Traditional Values, we see a considerable amount of advice that states what an OP's partner *should do* because this community *wants* OP's partner to do that thing. Advice like this is often a waste of the time it takes to type. If a man doesn't pay one dates, or text enough, or cut out all the thirst traps or whatever, saying he *should* behave in a different way is not advice. It is us telling an OP ""we want your man to behave differently"". She wants that too, she doesn't know how to do get him to behave differently and ultimately she is only capable of changing herself. -Wanting someone to do something is a desire and no more. And as Laura Doyle points out, communicating your desires is much more powerful than nagging or demanding. When you find yourself saying ""you should"" try to rephrase it to ""I want"" and start your communication there.",,35,Deliaallmylife,1696441556.0 +Wanting someone to do something is a desire and no more. And as Laura Doyle points out, communicating your desires is much more powerful than nagging or demanding. When you find yourself saying ""you should"" try to rephrase it to ""I want"" and start your communication there.",,35,Deliaallmylife,2023-10-04 17:45:56 RedPillWomen,16zt9sg,A last attempt to fix my relationship,"Hello ladies. This is a bit of a vent/ brain dump/ seeking advice post. I've posted before about my relationship in terms of how to regain trust/ respect and what to do if you find out your partner is cheating. I ended up confronting my partner on his infidelity. He was upset in the way I handled things but ultimately reassured me that nothing had really happened and I was being told lies. We're still together but I'm really struggling in being a good girlfriend. I'm angry and crazy not as affectionate as I should be. We struggled with intimacy before and I understand it's an important component to him that lead to his borderline unfaithfulness and that I need to be more affectionate and sexually available to meet his needs. @@ -3624,7 +3624,7 @@ I know that most of the advice I've received and will receive will be along the Most of my feelings are extremely harsh and I can't see any kind/ feminine way to bring it up to him without completely ruining my relationship. I'm struggling with my attraction and respect. And so far my list making and trying to take note of the little things hasn't been as fruitful as I had hoped. I feel horrible saying this but really, in order for me to respect/ admire him... he needs to do something worth me respecting and admiring. -Obviously I can't make him do anything which is why I'm just trying to focus on what *I* can do. I want to respect and admire him and be more sexually available. Things now are ... fine. But this can't continue especially into marriage and children. I know a lot of this probably comes off as pathetic but I really want to try absolutely everything to make this work so any advice is appreciated.",,7,West_Army_160,1696440570.0 +Obviously I can't make him do anything which is why I'm just trying to focus on what *I* can do. I want to respect and admire him and be more sexually available. Things now are ... fine. But this can't continue especially into marriage and children. I know a lot of this probably comes off as pathetic but I really want to try absolutely everything to make this work so any advice is appreciated.",,7,West_Army_160,2023-10-04 17:29:30 RedPillWomen,16zg31y,Is it a red flag if he follows a lot of Instagram models?,"I finally felt like I had found my guy in my dating search. A seemingly high value man asked me to be his girlfriend and I decided I most likely will say yes so long as we are on the same page regarding children, biblical gender roles, and him being ok with me having some issues with my health that I haven’t revealed yet. He owns his own home in my town, has a good job that takes him traveling to where I’m from on an annual basis, has been kind, chivalrous, attentive, pays for everything and we have good chemistry. I wasn’t 100% sure if I was attracted to him at first but kissing and cuddling with him feels very right and he’s growing on me looks wise. He’s 41, never been married with no kids. He was engaged a long time ago but his fiancé died of cancer. He supported her through her treatments and hasn't had a serious relationship since as he was grieving for a long time after. He said he just wasn’t in the right headspace to have a relationship, women he dated moved back to the mainland, and maybe he just never met the right woman. I am 34, never married and no kids, and broke off an engagement 10 months ago because my ex turned out to be a sex/porn addict who was seeking prostitutes and random hookups on reddit, as well as likely had some clinical form of narcissism or sociopathy. @@ -3633,12 +3633,12 @@ Given my prior circumstances, I am trying to be very cautious with who I move fo We are planning to do a lot of video chatting while he’s gone and I’m hoping the distance will strengthen our relationship even more as the distance will delay us getting physical for quite a while. I’m exhausted of going out on 5-6 dates a week and my therapist really liked the sound of him and encouraged me to let the other guys go so I could focus on myself and getting myself ready for when he gets back (almost like a mini nun mode). I live in Hawaii in one of the most expensive towns so the fact that he owns a home here while working a blue collar job is very impressive and quite rare. -I did just come up against a wall however… we’re friends on Instagram and I decided to look at who he follows and there are a lot of half naked Instagram models, tacky ones with fake lip and cheek injections, etc. This is a major red flag for me after dealing with my ex who followed hundreds of the same accounts (he follows maybe 75-100). I planned to bring up porn/porn addiction as one of my questions. He claims to be a Christian but I don’t think he’s going to church regularly (to be honest, neither have I). I am hoping we can go to church together when he comes back and grow spiritually together. I definitely think I would need some kind of commitment to step away from the models/porn for me to move forward but I’m curious what others think about if this is a red flag/dealbreaker or not.",,36,No_Control7023,1696402011.0 +I did just come up against a wall however… we’re friends on Instagram and I decided to look at who he follows and there are a lot of half naked Instagram models, tacky ones with fake lip and cheek injections, etc. This is a major red flag for me after dealing with my ex who followed hundreds of the same accounts (he follows maybe 75-100). I planned to bring up porn/porn addiction as one of my questions. He claims to be a Christian but I don’t think he’s going to church regularly (to be honest, neither have I). I am hoping we can go to church together when he comes back and grow spiritually together. I definitely think I would need some kind of commitment to step away from the models/porn for me to move forward but I’m curious what others think about if this is a red flag/dealbreaker or not.",,36,No_Control7023,2023-10-04 06:46:51 RedPillWomen,16yfmxb,told friends I never say no to sex,"I told my friends I never say no to sex (except for serious illness or injury which my husband wouldn't ask for sex if it were actually very painful or dangerous). First I love sex with my husband. Are there times I'm tired or not technically in the mood? Sure. But I would never say no. My friends felt it was so horrible and degrading. But the way I see it, before marrying me my husband could have sex with so many women. He made the choice to marry me and just be with me. As a good wife, I want him to feel I'm available to him whenever he wants and needs. Even if im tired I put in effort, give him head etc. If he's in the sauna and the other men are complaining about their sexless marriages, I want him to be able to say oh my wife never says no. -What's so horrible and degrading about being desired by your husband?",,270,EcstaticPlastic3783,1696298852.0 +What's so horrible and degrading about being desired by your husband?",,270,EcstaticPlastic3783,2023-10-03 02:07:32 RedPillWomen,16ymymb,My[24F] boyfriend [27M] implied that his work is affected due to me. I don't know how to process that,"I am changing details because he lurks around these subreddits. Me and my bf are LDR now & he is working on a project of his own after resigning from his job. We have time difference of ~10 hours so when its morning for me, its night for him and so on. We spend time when he wakes up in the morning ( my night time ) by talking, playing games, watching Netflix together. I want to spend so much time with him that I fall asleep later than I intended. @@ -3651,8 +3651,8 @@ Today he seemed desperate and said that his project isn't going as expected so h I am hurt by this. I feel as if I am holding him back from his work and also bit angry that he could have said this much before instead of going with it till now for months. I feel so bad knowing I am holding him back and possibly making him poorer. This thought is making me spiral -I don't know what should I do? I respected his request. But I still keep thinking about this",,7,rpw_throwaway1,1696324497.0 -RedPillWomen,16yk5im,Where can I find this type of husband?,"Hi! I'm a divorced 30f (yes I did have biblical grounds, no I was not at fault). My dream is to become a SAHW or SAHM. It's hard to find conservative men who have basic Christian beliefs and who actually want to be faithful to their current partner. Most men prefer shacking up and/or sleeping around to marriage, ugh. Is there a dating site where people who think like us can get matched up? I've found most men on the internet to be liars or just total creeps/perverts. Thank God I vet people before I meet them IRL because I've dodged a lot of bullets that way (think: married men and felons, including one convicted serial killer). Ladies, where did you meet your husband if you have a good husband like this?",,8,the_catmom,1696313286.0 +I don't know what should I do? I respected his request. But I still keep thinking about this",,7,rpw_throwaway1,2023-10-03 09:14:57 +RedPillWomen,16yk5im,Where can I find this type of husband?,"Hi! I'm a divorced 30f (yes I did have biblical grounds, no I was not at fault). My dream is to become a SAHW or SAHM. It's hard to find conservative men who have basic Christian beliefs and who actually want to be faithful to their current partner. Most men prefer shacking up and/or sleeping around to marriage, ugh. Is there a dating site where people who think like us can get matched up? I've found most men on the internet to be liars or just total creeps/perverts. Thank God I vet people before I meet them IRL because I've dodged a lot of bullets that way (think: married men and felons, including one convicted serial killer). Ladies, where did you meet your husband if you have a good husband like this?",,8,the_catmom,2023-10-03 06:08:06 RedPillWomen,16y5jfr,"I (18f) haven't had any education since I was 12, I am now 18 & feel lost and scared, is there anything I can do to help myself and get on the right track.","I just stopped going years ago I wasn't thinking properly :/ and I'm from a family / culture that doesn't really take these things seriously, I was just expected to stay home and one day be a wife. It's not really that simple though, my mom was mentally ill and my father was dying when I stopped going. Looking back I think I needed support and was overwhelmed because it was very scary and hurtful knowing someone you knew your whole life is going to die, then on top of that I carried so much guilt because I felt bad for my mom... There was and is a whole lot of stability in my home life... I need help but I am very scared and embarrassed to open up to anyone about all of this. I am so "" dumb "" I'm so far behind and I was never smart, I always struggled with maths but I was good at English and writing... I would like to be able to have a normal life and maybe become a hairdresser but it all seems so impossible :( I get it looks like my parents failed me but the adults around me didn't take these things seriously and my mom is still mentally unstanle my older siblings and father ( before he died ) always had to take care of her. Even if there is something I could do online I would love that. I am socially anxious sometimes, especially with this situation :( I know there would be adults who wouldn't judge and would genuinely care but I feel like most would just not want to help me or give up on me. Throughout these years I had depression ( I think it was depression anyway .. ) And I eventually found myself in a dark hole I felt like I wouldn't be able to do anything I want in my life and that I won't even be able to get a job to earn some money... I eventually got a bit better mentally because I opened up to a trusted loved one who is a bit older than me and she helped me... I realised we all have times in our life where we feel this way. For me I sometimes feel I'm the worst case because of how far behind I am in Literally everything... @@ -3669,8 +3669,8 @@ I have posted this in a few different places, not because I'm a troll or anythin I hope I don't seem like a spammer I just need help ... And I feel the women in here are helpful and nice sometimes. -Edit: I'm not TOO fussed about catching up on EVERYTHING ( learning wise ) I just want to be atleast average... I want a job for now to earn money but I don't know where or how I can get a job, I also don't think most would accept me due to my lack of educations :( then I want to get into hairdressing or something eventually 😊",,15,flowerytears,1696274258.0 -RedPillWomen,16y7pc8,Good cooking shows / online things specifically for women? Or anything online that could help me,I'm looking to learn more about cooking and different meals to make. I would like some good cooking shows...,,8,rosettepearl,1696279165.0 +Edit: I'm not TOO fussed about catching up on EVERYTHING ( learning wise ) I just want to be atleast average... I want a job for now to earn money but I don't know where or how I can get a job, I also don't think most would accept me due to my lack of educations :( then I want to get into hairdressing or something eventually 😊",,15,flowerytears,2023-10-02 19:17:38 +RedPillWomen,16y7pc8,Good cooking shows / online things specifically for women? Or anything online that could help me,I'm looking to learn more about cooking and different meals to make. I would like some good cooking shows...,,8,rosettepearl,2023-10-02 20:39:25 RedPillWomen,16y7fpo,Is Red Pill Compatible with Being a Switch?,"\[Serious\] Hi Ladies, long time lurked, first time poster. @@ -3713,7 +3713,7 @@ And if it is fine, how would I go about finding someone who wants to marry a swi I really am a novice in this area so please be kind to me. Thank you for any help or advice offered. -God bless you all.",,4,TheRedPilledLurker,1696278559.0 +God bless you all.",,4,TheRedPilledLurker,2023-10-02 20:29:19 RedPillWomen,16xxzpv,My (17f) bf (18m) makes me insecure,"Hi I (17f) and my bf (18m) has been together for 9 months. I admire him deeply and I want to be with him. When we first started dating i was very confident, I have a good amount of friends and I’m very social. The thing is that my bf will sometimes make a big deal out of nothing (when I get sad about a mistake I made he literally says it’s nothing) he gets frustrated about small things like me not saying if I’m staying home from school or hanging out with a girlfriend even though he never tells me where he is (I don’t mind that). I feel like he doesn’t know that when you love someone you choose to live with their flaws. Because he has a comment on everything. @@ -3723,30 +3723,30 @@ He said he liked my bellybutton piercing when we started dating, and now he call He recently started telling me not to take everything so heavily because I get so disappointed in myself when he criticises me that I start crying. How can I tell him that he is the one making me this insecure and how can I save this relationship? -TL;DR my bf keeps criticising what I do and how I behave and it’s taking a toll on my mental health.",,6,Majestic_Chemical_86,1696256600.0 +TL;DR my bf keeps criticising what I do and how I behave and it’s taking a toll on my mental health.",,6,Majestic_Chemical_86,2023-10-02 14:23:20 RedPillWomen,16x2ilp,"whenever I tell someone about a guy I'm seeing everything goes wrong all of sudden, help","basically the title, whenever I tell my friends or my family about a guy I've been talking to it ends up with me being ghosted the next day or him doing a full 180° and me losing interest very soon. it's making me think twice before telling anyone about my love life, and I hate it because I want to show my excitement to my people. I've been talking to an amazing guy for the past month and I still haven't told anyone about him, and I'm afraid the moment I do, whatever it is we have will be gone, I'm afraid even by posting about it now I'll jinx it. -any insight or advice will be very appreciated please.",,32,poetically-living,1696170137.0 +any insight or advice will be very appreciated please.",,32,poetically-living,2023-10-01 14:22:17 RedPillWomen,16wvlv8,Overnight he said he doesn't love me,"Girls, help!! For over a year I thought our relationship was truly heavenly. I follow RPW principles and he really likes my behavior . Sex is amazing too between us. I also keep my boundaries, my independence, I keep up my appearance, and I tried to be a good and loving girlfriend. He said, I'm an amazing girlfriend. But today he decided he doesn't love me. He said, he's not sure what is love, but he often doesn't want to be around me. And that recently we haven't been so connected. But when I make bids for connection, he sometimes doesn't take them. When I stop, he stops as well. I don't get it? I'm quite the GOFL. I have no mental issues and I am pretty and I exercise and I have a degree. I want to commit to someone who is committed to me. This includes emotionally. In my personal experience, if you're not sure that you love someone, then that means you don't. I either wish he'd be sure and we'd be together forever, or that he'd be unsure and I'd be able to leave healthily without taking him back. I have this habit of going back to exes. Should I meet him in person? Should we even talk? Am I asking for too much, in asking for certainty? He says my thinking is black and white. But, it's based on my experience. His change was overnight. I want a solid plan how to leave and not take him back even though it's gonna hurt. -Edit: It was a very silly misunderstanding! Of course female brain went to expand and catastrophize before getting answers. I was surprised to find he is innocent beyond my expectation. Here's what changed overnight: he read online that some girls feel offended if their partner looks at them in a sexual way in non-sexual situations. Due to his upbringing, he feels strong sexual desire is immoral. He doesn't think about sex when he's alone, but he thinks about it strongly when he is around me. Because of what he read, he feared that he doesn't love me ""purely"", therefore he can't claim that he loves me. But dear to God, he is a good partner. He said, he tried for one week to not touch me, because he wanted those sexual thoughts to 'go away' to not ""hurt"" me. But, it didn't work, so he avoided meeting me entirely. That worked for him. Then he came to the conclusion that his love is ""impure"" and therefore it's not love. I assured him that I don't feel hurt by those thoughts, I feel flattered, in fact I often share those thoughts too. I told him that I am blessed by how thoughtful and loyal he is and I'd rather he meet me than avoid. We reconciled.",,31,flower_power_g1rl,1696148750.0 +Edit: It was a very silly misunderstanding! Of course female brain went to expand and catastrophize before getting answers. I was surprised to find he is innocent beyond my expectation. Here's what changed overnight: he read online that some girls feel offended if their partner looks at them in a sexual way in non-sexual situations. Due to his upbringing, he feels strong sexual desire is immoral. He doesn't think about sex when he's alone, but he thinks about it strongly when he is around me. Because of what he read, he feared that he doesn't love me ""purely"", therefore he can't claim that he loves me. But dear to God, he is a good partner. He said, he tried for one week to not touch me, because he wanted those sexual thoughts to 'go away' to not ""hurt"" me. But, it didn't work, so he avoided meeting me entirely. That worked for him. Then he came to the conclusion that his love is ""impure"" and therefore it's not love. I assured him that I don't feel hurt by those thoughts, I feel flattered, in fact I often share those thoughts too. I told him that I am blessed by how thoughtful and loyal he is and I'd rather he meet me than avoid. We reconciled.",,31,flower_power_g1rl,2023-10-01 08:25:50 RedPillWomen,16wffod,Do I still have potential?,"Hi everyone. I am a 27 year old female woman. I have to say that I lived my early twenties pretty much as a promiscuous girl. A lot of dates, one night stands and short relationships. I figured out with my therapist where my behavior came from. I really feel like I am a different girl now. How do I improve to be a high value woman? And do I still have potential to find a good partner for me? Do I have to be open about my background? Hope u can help -X",,21,Mission_Eggplant_416,1696101896.0 +X",,21,Mission_Eggplant_416,2023-09-30 19:24:56 RedPillWomen,16vbf0v,How do you bring up you’d like to be a stay at home mom/provided for after a few dates?,"Hi all, I keep reading that this is something to bring up ASAP, but I’m quite nervous to do it and not sure exactly what to say. He has been bringing up having a family, and nice places to live a lot. I vaguely said I’d like to not focus on my career so much, and focus on family instead. He said something like it’s your choice… both is possible. -But really I don’t want a traditional career at all. I’d like to start a business or maybe help him with his. How to say this more directly next time?",,28,Independent-Hall4929,1695993412.0 +But really I don’t want a traditional career at all. I’d like to start a business or maybe help him with his. How to say this more directly next time?",,28,Independent-Hall4929,2023-09-29 13:16:52 RedPillWomen,16vh5ck,should i use him or drop him ?,"I (20F) met a lawyer (40M) by chance during an political event. We talked about our studies, politics and he asked me my number to stay in touch. The man comes from a very rich family , works in Dubai, works with a lot of political men and ... is a free mason. ( i knew that during our second meeting). Basically he sent me a message to ask me if he could see me to get a coffee because he was in my city. I'm not going to lie i was a bit surprised but i told myself : ""just go , see and get an intership in a good law cabinet"". @@ -3769,7 +3769,7 @@ Conclusion : **always trust your gut.** &#x200B; -Thank you in advance.",,6,Rough_Coconut_5982,1696007066.0 +Thank you in advance.",,6,Rough_Coconut_5982,2023-09-29 17:04:26 RedPillWomen,16uszp7,How to screen out men who aren’t able/willing to be a provider,"I’m a Christian and in the Bible it lays out the roles very clear that it is the man’s responsibility to provide for his household where as the women’s responsibility is to take care of the home. I also have some health issues and my life circumstances have lead me to only working part time for most of my life. My parents have helped me out here and there and I did work full time for 6 months and was making a very high salary so I actually had a stay at home boyfriend at the time who was helping me manage household affairs. I’m not sure I would of been able to do it otherwise. So I know the advice here is usually to not put your desires to be a SAHM out in the open right off the bat and that men need some time to be able to not be scared off by that thought, but to me that seems to be a huge gamble because down the line if they don’t see that as a possibility then it seems like a huge waste of time or a recipe for resentment. I am passionate about homemaking and follow some feminine homemaker content creators and they suggest bringing up early in dating that you see yourself staying home when the kids are young. @@ -3780,26 +3780,26 @@ I really am just squeezing by, unfortunately right now i’m not able to save an I know they say not to make a man my financial plan but I feel like that is my only way out, to find a guy who already has his own place and won’t expect me to contribute in a huge way to the bills so I can get myself in a better place financially before starting a family. I have no issues about using my extra free time to do 100% of the household maintenance, errands and a large share of the cooking. I’m not sure if I should ask outright how he feels about traditional gender roles or how I could be more discrete. -Ideally I hope to find someone who will invest in me and the relationship so that I don’t have pressure to do the heavy physical labor I am doing now and can study a bit for medical coding or bookkeeping and make some crafts to sell so I can work from home. Matters are complicated a bit because I live in such a high cost of living area but that’s why I feel like someone who is well established with their own place would be my best bet since rent is a huge expense for me. My last ex was totally happy with the idea of me staying home full time but he made 6 figures.",,26,No_Control7023,1695938182.0 -RedPillWomen,16u4p6x,Best way to get over a guy that doesn’t involve dating other men. Book recommendations? TIA.,"Had a dead end relationship. He misled me, strung me along, decided he wanted to be an open relationship. Basically screwed so many women while being with me that I’m disgusted. Regaining my power slowly. Reading books like why men love bitches. Any recommendations for things other than the insidious hookup culture is welcomed. Thanks!",,18,PerfectlyCoiffed,1695870241.0 +Ideally I hope to find someone who will invest in me and the relationship so that I don’t have pressure to do the heavy physical labor I am doing now and can study a bit for medical coding or bookkeeping and make some crafts to sell so I can work from home. Matters are complicated a bit because I live in such a high cost of living area but that’s why I feel like someone who is well established with their own place would be my best bet since rent is a huge expense for me. My last ex was totally happy with the idea of me staying home full time but he made 6 figures.",,26,No_Control7023,2023-09-28 21:56:22 +RedPillWomen,16u4p6x,Best way to get over a guy that doesn’t involve dating other men. Book recommendations? TIA.,"Had a dead end relationship. He misled me, strung me along, decided he wanted to be an open relationship. Basically screwed so many women while being with me that I’m disgusted. Regaining my power slowly. Reading books like why men love bitches. Any recommendations for things other than the insidious hookup culture is welcomed. Thanks!",,18,PerfectlyCoiffed,2023-09-28 03:04:01 RedPillWomen,16tu86h,Fearing reaction from my mom after telling her that my boyfriend is Arab,"Hi RPW. I recently met a guy who I really like. We have been on one date and we got on very well. I felt really comfortable with him. He's a few years older than me and we are both looking for a long term thing. He's told me that he is looking forward to meeting again, and so am I. I genuinely am excited to see him again. He lives 1 hour away from me , and next weekend he’s going to pick me up and we’re gonna go do something together. He is an Arab, and I find Middle Eastern men attractive and love the Arabic language. I also live with my mother. -I lied about where I was going to my mom for our first date because I knew what her reaction would be- ‘eww why would you want to date an Arab?’. She will really make me feel bad for seeing this guy because she really dislikes the culture. This weekend I will be seeing him again and have decided that I am just going to be honest about where I’m going. I just don’t know how to go about this, or any advice on dealing with the backlash from her would be appreciated. Thank you!",,18,Diamond-pearls21,1695844505.0 +I lied about where I was going to my mom for our first date because I knew what her reaction would be- ‘eww why would you want to date an Arab?’. She will really make me feel bad for seeing this guy because she really dislikes the culture. This weekend I will be seeing him again and have decided that I am just going to be honest about where I’m going. I just don’t know how to go about this, or any advice on dealing with the backlash from her would be appreciated. Thank you!",,18,Diamond-pearls21,2023-09-27 19:55:05 RedPillWomen,16t4z95,Becoming my mother?,"I just had a new thought! My parents, who have been together for 50 years and who have one of the happiest and most delightful marriages I've ever witnessed, are completely redpilled, although I can guarantee they've never heard the term. My father is the most loving, generous, benevolent, confident Captain. He absolutely adores my mother- who trusts and respects him utterly and completely. There was never any doubt he was the head of the household. But everything he does, he does to support and take care of the family and her. And he is her hero – she still looks at him with starry eyes. What an incredible example they set! -But I think I was more influenced by my friends, school, and I dismissed the example they set as being hopelessly old-fashioned and impossible to replicate in this day and age. And so I wrestled and competed for domination in my relationships, and it was miserable and full of nonstop conflict. Until -- I saw the light! And it suddenly all made sense. I've written about that epiphany in the past. It's a happy new thought that I'm actually finally becoming more similar to my gentle mother. Just thought I'd share.",,23,lifelonglistener,1695773664.0 +But I think I was more influenced by my friends, school, and I dismissed the example they set as being hopelessly old-fashioned and impossible to replicate in this day and age. And so I wrestled and competed for domination in my relationships, and it was miserable and full of nonstop conflict. Until -- I saw the light! And it suddenly all made sense. I've written about that epiphany in the past. It's a happy new thought that I'm actually finally becoming more similar to my gentle mother. Just thought I'd share.",,23,lifelonglistener,2023-09-27 00:14:24 RedPillWomen,16stxe2,Boyfriend says I talk at him- how do I become a better listener?,"Hi ladies! I’m in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend now for around a year. He works long hours and can’t text during the day, so we do most of our interaction for the day over FaceTime after he comes home from work. Last night I was telling him about my day and he became visibly annoyed, then later he confessed that he felt I was just talking AT him. I am so embarrassed, made me want to crawl into a hole and never speak again! Honestly, I really *thought* I was asking him questions about his day, but now I’m not so sure. I guess I just filled the empty space of conversation with an info dump. Need some advice- how do I not take this personally, and how can I be a better listener? How can I make our conversations more enjoyable or engaging for him? He is a great man; I’m not looking for any “leave him, girl!” advice since I feel this is a good skill in general for me to hone. -Thanks ladies, have a nice day!!",,22,f3bru4ry14th,1695748717.0 +Thanks ladies, have a nice day!!",,22,f3bru4ry14th,2023-09-26 17:18:37 RedPillWomen,16slo0j,"He is smart, sensitive, intelligent, I am attracted to him, everything I have looked for. But he isn't generous so I dont know what to do","I started dating this man around two months ago. He is smart, sensitive, makes me happy and I trust him. The problem I have with him which is a huge turn-off for me is that he isn't generos. He is calculating everything even with regards to the food we eat. I come from a family where my dad is a provider and it's how I see things. -Any advices? I know you can't change a person thats why I havent spoken to him so I really dont know what to do.. I'd be ashamed to have such a conversation anyway. Apart from this I like him a lot but this is something that is kinda ruining it for me.",,18,90210534,1695729065.0 +Any advices? I know you can't change a person thats why I havent spoken to him so I really dont know what to do.. I'd be ashamed to have such a conversation anyway. Apart from this I like him a lot but this is something that is kinda ruining it for me.",,18,90210534,2023-09-26 11:51:05 RedPillWomen,16rxdp1,Back to Basics September: 'Jealousy and the secret weapon against the forbidden fruit: honey',"For the entire month of September, we're revisiting some foundational posts in a series designed to serve as a RPW refresher. This week, we're finishing off with a classic post from RedPillWomen and covering some external resources. Today's post is selected by /u/pieorstrudel5, she mentions: @@ -3830,20 +3830,20 @@ So what should you do? **Get in the right mindset and fight the forbidden fruit **He's less likely to hide his behaviors or be secretive if you are fighting the forbidden fruit with honey.** Making him feel comfortable to interact with the forbidden fruit will give you the opportunity to rate your vetting decision. A high quality man would decline her advances in a way the doesn't degrade the forbidden fruit, nor does it degrade you. Allowing the interaction to play out shows that **you trust him to make good decisions about your relationship and you respect him enough to not cause a scene.** On the flip side, if he's flirting back and acting in poor form, that's your sign that he may not be a high quality mate after all, and it's time to move on. -Jealousy is something that may pop up in any relationship from time to time, and handling it smartly can make or break a relationship. Instead of letting the forbidden fruit become a temptation, remember that honey is sweeter and you have it at your disposal, not to mention honey is a display of trust and respect, and bitterness is a display of the exact opposite.",,20,FastLifePineapple,1695660769.0 +Jealousy is something that may pop up in any relationship from time to time, and handling it smartly can make or break a relationship. Instead of letting the forbidden fruit become a temptation, remember that honey is sweeter and you have it at your disposal, not to mention honey is a display of trust and respect, and bitterness is a display of the exact opposite.",,20,FastLifePineapple,2023-09-25 16:52:49 RedPillWomen,16sms16,Opinion about multiple women in marriage,"I m curious what RedPillWomen actually thinking about their husband having more than one wife. Is that ok for you or thats a dealbreaker? -Also the objective of the husband is to have as many kids as possible, therefore he wants more wifes to fullfi that wish. He is able to provide for them all financially.",,0,[deleted],1695731926.0 +Also the objective of the husband is to have as many kids as possible, therefore he wants more wifes to fullfi that wish. He is able to provide for them all financially.",,0,[deleted],2023-09-26 12:38:46 RedPillWomen,16rha3t,Looking for breakup advice :/,"Hi ladies. About a month ago I met this guy via a dating app who I really, REALLY clicked with (I’m 23, he’s 28). We share a lot of interests, values, opinions, and hobbies, and engage with each in such a way that I rarely engage with anyone, even most of my friends. I really admire him, I’m extremely attracted to him, and he’s moving at a pace I find really pleasant and respectful. This would be basically a PERFECT connection… if it wasn’t for the fact that he’s moving back to (unspecified state across the country) where he has an apartment, his car, all his belongings, and a pet VERY soon. Like within a few weeks. When we began talking we both established that we were looking for a relationship but he also made me aware of the upcoming move and I took a “we’ll get there when we get there” approach, but now that I’m attached, of course, I’m beginning to feel itchy, especially because we haven’t really discussed what’s actually going to happen then. He has asked to see me in the next couple days so it’s obvious we “like” each other but there’s also no boyfriend/girlfriend label or establishment of exclusivity or explicit talk about where things are going, and with time running out and not much initiative with regards to these topics on his part I’m just assuming the worst at this point. I’ve considered the idea of long distance; I have reservations but I’m also not flat-out opposed to it. That said, again, I anticipate most of the responses being “if he wanted to he would” — trust me, I’m aware. I’m mainly looking for advice on a respectable way to voice my feelings and break things off since at this point I don’t expect things to work but I’d like some closure and clarity. -(Although if anyone wants to get my hopes up again you’re certainly welcome 😉)",,9,[deleted],1695612588.0 +(Although if anyone wants to get my hopes up again you’re certainly welcome 😉)",,9,[deleted],2023-09-25 03:29:48 RedPillWomen,16rk00i,"I couldn't tell him what I want, I was waiting for him to tell me, so we are still undefined. What should I do?","So Ive been seeing him for a month, and we are literally every day together since 2 weeks. We are inseparable except when we work. I trust him and he trusts me. My problem is we haven't defined us. Yesterday I told him that we spend so much time together without knowing what we are. He was surprised that I told him that. He said he is more about actions than words, and asked what do I expect him to tell me, also he asked me what I wanted from us. He gave me options 1. Serious 2. Casual 3. Idk. I couldnt tell him because I wanted him to tell me what he wants. -We act as a couple, he has introduced me to his family & friends and we are great in general. But should I raise the topic again in order to make it official? Even in a joking way given that I am sure in him and I dont actually need any serious talk, just a confirmation.",,6,90210534,1695621658.0 +We act as a couple, he has introduced me to his family & friends and we are great in general. But should I raise the topic again in order to make it official? Even in a joking way given that I am sure in him and I dont actually need any serious talk, just a confirmation.",,6,90210534,2023-09-25 06:00:58 RedPillWomen,16r0l5y,Advice on prenup,"Me and my fiancee are going to get married in December. Due to some circumstances regarding to his past marriages, he arranged me a prenup. After meeting with his lawyer for discussing the prenup and declaration of assets and debts, i get a copy of the agreement and will inform the lawyer if i agree. These are some important clauses: A.) My husband owns 3 houses and 2 lands. He shall legally hand over one certificate of the house into my possession @@ -3856,7 +3856,7 @@ B.) The asset for which i am handed over is pledged as collateral in case: C.) In the event of a divorce for any reason, regardless of the party filing for divorce, custody of the biological child, if underaged belongs entirely to the husband -For context, i'm not in US and the law of marriage in my country, assets that are obtained pre-marriage isn't split after divorce, hence the prenup he offered as protection and assurance. Any advice or opinion?",,11,gina_chua,1695569568.0 +For context, i'm not in US and the law of marriage in my country, assets that are obtained pre-marriage isn't split after divorce, hence the prenup he offered as protection and assurance. Any advice or opinion?",,11,gina_chua,2023-09-24 15:32:48 RedPillWomen,16qr3nq,Am I being love bombed ?,"Tldr: guy asked me to be his gf on first date I went with a hinge match on a first date. He is a foreigner in my country (Japanese, corporate job) He was super sweet and gentleman like. Sent me an Uber, got me gifts from his place, asked if I had any allergies prior to deciding the place, kept talking to me throughout the time of deciding the date till the date, was not sexual, did not invade my personal space, took me for shopping after the meal, waited for me outside so I could spot him etc etc small gestures that I liked. @@ -3874,7 +3874,7 @@ a) waiting for his message and if he doesn’t text me then take that for respon b) talk to him and communicate about what I’m feeling and ask him the same. That where does he want to take this. ( I usually don’t do this but I’m so sick of feeling sad over boys that I just want to get over with it) -Edit: I texted him! My friends are saying that texting him is me chasing him 🥲",,17,Greedy_Inflation_955,1695539424.0 +Edit: I texted him! My friends are saying that texting him is me chasing him 🥲",,17,Greedy_Inflation_955,2023-09-24 07:10:24 RedPillWomen,16qov9t,Ways to test RMV,"I’m wondering if theres way to test my RMV? like *anything*. Ive never had a boyfriend And I don’t know why guys don’t take me seriously in dating, yet all advice on here points to the issue being my RMV. I’ve read the posts about it and basically what I take from it is to be feminine, kind, supportive, and respect him. But I’ve made posts here before and I’ve said that I just don’t think theres much I’m not doing other than maybe cooking for them because talking to them doesn’t last longer than a few months and they rarely if ever take me on dates. And even when I say that, people advise me not to because these guys don’t seem to be serious or haven’t made enough of an investment (which I know). @@ -3883,7 +3883,7 @@ I’ve taken quizzes on femininity, like every one i can find. I most get back f I try to be as honest with myself as I can cause I’ve been trying to figure out what’s wrong with me for so long and i know that telling myself that dating is just hard right now or that guys aren’t looking for anything serious or they’re intimidated or something is just an excuse and doesnt solve my problem. Not being being honest with myself about this in general wont solve my problem. So please dont assume that I am not trying my hardest to be honest with myself since that was the assumptions made about me on my last one. -&#x200B;",,9,[deleted],1695531503.0 +&#x200B;",,9,[deleted],2023-09-24 04:58:23 RedPillWomen,16po153,do men care about women coming from lower social backgrounds?,"I met this guy 3 weeks ago, we get along well but he comes from a family that's more wealthy and educated than mine, his parents are both doctors and mine didn't go to college and have less charming jobs (mom works in a grocery store, and dad in factory) but we're doing well financially I'm doing well myself, I'm in med school, money is not a problem, I take good care of myself but I find myself worrying about him seeing me as inferior because of my background. @@ -3892,7 +3892,7 @@ I know it's my shame speaking but I also wonder if it might be true. do guys think about these things especially when considering a long term relationship with you? -and how to overcome this shame ?",,25,poetically-living,1695423098.0 +and how to overcome this shame ?",,25,poetically-living,2023-09-22 22:51:38 RedPillWomen,16piw75,Back to Basics September: I tried dressing feminine for a day and this is what happened,"For the entire month of September, we're revisiting some foundational posts in a series designed to serve as a RPW refresher. This week and the following weeks, we're focusing on RedPillWomen and the communities inner resources. Today's post is selected by /u/morbidityofanother and she mentions, ""It really gave me the push to start adapting my style to be more feminine."". @@ -3920,7 +3920,7 @@ In the past before I started reading redpillwomen I actually thought the only wa My final thoughts: -I think if you are having a hard time with being approached by men this would instantly up your game, in addition to online dating. If you already have a partner then absolutely dress for them. It sounds weird but I felt like my partner respected me more for dressing up, mostly because I honored myself first by taking care of my appearance. It also made his role as the provider/ protector more fulfilling for him and apparent. I think all in all: dress like a prize and men will always feel like they won.",,44,FastLifePineapple,1695410472.0 +I think if you are having a hard time with being approached by men this would instantly up your game, in addition to online dating. If you already have a partner then absolutely dress for them. It sounds weird but I felt like my partner respected me more for dressing up, mostly because I honored myself first by taking care of my appearance. It also made his role as the provider/ protector more fulfilling for him and apparent. I think all in all: dress like a prize and men will always feel like they won.",,44,FastLifePineapple,2023-09-22 19:21:12 RedPillWomen,16p6ltn,"How can I make my man to feel like he's ""conquering"" me?","Not sure the word conquering is appropriate. I'm dating a guy and he has similar views to the people here, which I do too ofc. @@ -3935,16 +3935,16 @@ Imagine a prince - princess dynamic where the prince has to court the princess t As I said we are very balanced and honest with each other, so I'm not trying to manipulate or acting completely different to be chased, there's no chasing in this relationship. -Thanks!!",,45,imdreamingg,1695378145.0 +Thanks!!",,45,imdreamingg,2023-09-22 10:22:25 RedPillWomen,16p8nou,Reciprocating in early dating,"I (23F) have been dating a guy (24M) for almost two months now. He has planned and paid for all of our dates (which are weekly). He bought me flowers, offered to pay for my nail appointment and currently has a surprise gift on the way to me. I am always very grateful and express this to him verbally. -I love the effort he is putting in but can't help feel like I should be doing something in return. He is quite traditional in the sense that he believes a woman should be courted. How can I reciprocate during this stage without causing an imbalance in the relationship?",,18,Expensive-Pin-4926,1695384693.0 +I love the effort he is putting in but can't help feel like I should be doing something in return. He is quite traditional in the sense that he believes a woman should be courted. How can I reciprocate during this stage without causing an imbalance in the relationship?",,18,Expensive-Pin-4926,2023-09-22 12:11:33 RedPillWomen,16oop0g,Will men find it a turn off that I am a quiet home body who doesn’t have many friends?,"My previous 2 boyfriends didn’t mind that I was this way inclinded, but I’m conscious of this moving forward to other guys, as I’ve been on dates with men previously who were put off by this. I don’t have many friends, just a few who I occasionally see. I like to be at home a lot, reading books, doing house work cleaning a lot, cooking. I’m quiet and would consider myself submissive. I am also at university and have a side hussle. -But would this home body part of me put guys off? Do guys prefer girls who do more stuff?",,67,Diamond-pearls21,1695324113.0 -RedPillWomen,16p0fvu,The one sided relationship and cleaning up your side of the street.,"After cleaning up your side of the street persistently, how long do you think it should take to see lasting changes from your partner?",,6,thingswedidaskids,1695355272.0 +But would this home body part of me put guys off? Do guys prefer girls who do more stuff?",,67,Diamond-pearls21,2023-09-21 19:21:53 +RedPillWomen,16p0fvu,The one sided relationship and cleaning up your side of the street.,"After cleaning up your side of the street persistently, how long do you think it should take to see lasting changes from your partner?",,6,thingswedidaskids,2023-09-22 04:01:12 RedPillWomen,16nmflh,Back to Basics September: 'Empowering your captain: my field report',"For the entire month of September, we're revisiting some foundational posts in a series designed to serve as a RPW refresher. This week and the following weeks, we're focusing on RedPillWomen and the communities inner resources. /u/jenneapolis chose this field report by Doom-Vixen as a field report example that gives a model for successfully applying RPW theory in a practical manner. @@ -3978,7 +3978,7 @@ I think even if I never found RPW and implemented those tools we'd have still go I've never made a post before despite participating on other accounts throughout the years, and I'm honestly not sure if anyone will be able to get any insight from this but to be quite honest I wrote this out of happiness. I still have a lot to work on but I'm proud of the results so far. -(P.S I really hope the formatting, especially the links, work okay. I'm having a lot of problems with my keyboard so I had to really work around the problem lol).",,24,FastLifePineapple,1695219424.0 +(P.S I really hope the formatting, especially the links, work okay. I'm having a lot of problems with my keyboard so I had to really work around the problem lol).",,24,FastLifePineapple,2023-09-20 14:17:04 RedPillWomen,16msxq6,How to set new expectations,"I recently read Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov and what I took away from it is that sometimes men “test” what you find acceptable. Ex: disrespectful teasing in front of his friends, being late, making you pay on a date etc. and will continue with this treatment as long as you allow it. I am in a long term relationship (3years) and realized I am guilty of letting unacceptable things slide and was wondering how I can go about setting new expectations for how I want to be pursued and treated. Right now we are “medium” distance (2 hour drive) and I am the only one who calls, says I miss you or I love you randomly, and has to plan every meeting like when I am going to visit or badger him until he makes time to come visit me. I am in my last year of college, and when I do come back home from school and go to his house, he barely greets me, turns on a movie and goes to bed. @@ -3989,7 +3989,7 @@ I feel like at this point my boundaries are automatic and it feel’s foreign to TLDR: I didnt set high expectations for the way I want to be treated for 3 years of my relationship. I want to set new boundaries and expectations for my boyfriend for the way I want to be treated but I don’t know how to start. -Edit: I know a lot of things in that book are nonsense, but there were a few things in regards to setting boundaries that I realized I needed to work on.",,10,dandelion134,1695134642.0 +Edit: I know a lot of things in that book are nonsense, but there were a few things in regards to setting boundaries that I realized I needed to work on.",,10,dandelion134,2023-09-19 14:44:02 RedPillWomen,16mc5ss,Disrespecting his Pride (I’m Anxious),"TLDR added. I (25 f) have been lurking RPW for a while now but I’m really worried that I might be doing something wrong with my self improvement and affirming my partner (26 m). Context: We’re not an ideally-healthy couple, and the issues of our relationship are on my end. Part of me fixing my lack of femininity, my terrible masculine masking, and control-problems (bad childhood, no dad, raised my siblings) was listening to Laura Doyle on how to not disrespect your man. I’m not the type to pick on character traits, I often give him slack and I don’t judge him when he’s done something wrong, but my partner often says I’m disrespectful to him and that I insult his character still. On top of that, I’m the only income and he’s very upset about this and since we have money issues, these topics are very stressful. (Not the main issue here but mentioning because it could be good context to the post.) @@ -4007,8 +4007,8 @@ I’ve heard that men should be praised a lot more at home and in private becaus TLDR: my man is incredible but I’m not sure what to do about to calm his insecurities without triggering his pride. -Edit: thank you all so much for the advice! Ill reply to everyone I just need to think a lot through. I don’t want to be unfair to him or me. Thank you all again! I really need the support and you all are amazing!",,5,Physical-Guess-1988,1695082953.0 -RedPillWomen,16lwagv,Would you marry for love or money?,When I say marry for money I do not mean marrying a rich man but wanting a provider who pays most of or all the bills. Of course people will say both. But what is more important to you.,,19,[deleted],1695045451.0 +Edit: thank you all so much for the advice! Ill reply to everyone I just need to think a lot through. I don’t want to be unfair to him or me. Thank you all again! I really need the support and you all are amazing!",,5,Physical-Guess-1988,2023-09-19 00:22:33 +RedPillWomen,16lwagv,Would you marry for love or money?,When I say marry for money I do not mean marrying a rich man but wanting a provider who pays most of or all the bills. Of course people will say both. But what is more important to you.,,19,[deleted],2023-09-18 13:57:31 RedPillWomen,16lvf09,"Back to Basics September: 'Discussion: ""Wife Privileges""'","For the entire month of September, we're revisiting some foundational posts in a series designed to serve as a RPW refresher. This week and the following weeks, we're focusing on RedPillWomen and the communities inner resources. We're changing gears today with a revisit to a Wife Privileges discussion post from Deliaallmylife. Some argue that they're not a cow because they haven't mooed in a while, others discuss the possible pain and hurt that can come from building deep attachment and a life with someone before marriage commitment. **Follow along as /u/jenneapolis guides us in this back to basics post on whether or not a pre-commitment or post-commitment risk strategy is the best option for us.** @@ -4029,7 +4029,7 @@ So question for the **married** ladies : The general theme is ""What did you do to get the man to commit? -(I'll remember to answer this time)",,15,FastLifePineapple,1695043281.0 +(I'll remember to answer this time)",,15,FastLifePineapple,2023-09-18 13:21:21 RedPillWomen,16lltrq,Completely nonexistent dating life. How can I change this?,"Hello RPW! I am 20 years old and want to get married extremely badly. However, I have never been asked out on a date in my entire life. I only started putting more effort into my appearance about a year ago (grew my hair out, light makeup, wear mostly dresses/skirts now), thinking it would yield some results, but it hasn’t really make a difference. Recently I have shown interest in guys I've liked, but it's never gone well. I'm just feeling discouraged and was wondering if anyone had any advice for me. I do have one ex boyfriend (we met online on discord), but it's been well over a year since that relationship ended. He ended things solely because he wasn't physically attracted enough to me. I am already a very insecure person, but that breakup permanently damaged how I view myself. I was called ugly in high school by multiple guys, so there's that too. It's been difficult, but I am slowly coming to terms with the reality that dating will be harder for me compared to other women, simply because I lack physical beauty. My worst feature/main point of insecurity is my large nose with a bump on it, so it's not something that's changeable like weight (my weight is fine). @@ -4042,12 +4042,12 @@ I am starting to think that online dating sites (Christian ones) are my only hop Does anyone have suggestions on how to broaden my opportunities for meeting guys in real life? Or should I just try online dating sites? Everyone in my social circle seems super against online dating, they all tell me that I'd be ""crazy"" or ""desperate"" if I began to look for a guy online. So should I just ignore them and look for a guy where I'd have the easiest time finding one? -Thank you so much to anyone who read this far! I've just been really sad and frustrated over my dating situation, and it's so easy to feel like something is wrong with me. Any advice helps :)",,15,rpc_e,1695011688.0 -RedPillWomen,16lor2p,Halloween Plans?,"What are my fellow RPWs dressing up as for Halloween? Husband and I will be going to Derry for the weekend of October 27, coming back home the 1st of November. Hopefully it won't be too wet.",,10,LiteratureOk7716,1695021828.0 +Thank you so much to anyone who read this far! I've just been really sad and frustrated over my dating situation, and it's so easy to feel like something is wrong with me. Any advice helps :)",,15,rpc_e,2023-09-18 04:34:48 +RedPillWomen,16lor2p,Halloween Plans?,"What are my fellow RPWs dressing up as for Halloween? Husband and I will be going to Derry for the weekend of October 27, coming back home the 1st of November. Hopefully it won't be too wet.",,10,LiteratureOk7716,2023-09-18 07:23:48 RedPillWomen,16kidk2,Do most long-term marriages eventually lead to a roommate situation?,"Hugh Jackman is separating from his wife of 27 years and speculation is that they’ve become more like roommates and decided to end things. I don’t really care about the people themselves or whether that’s true or not, but it did make me wonder a lot about long-term marriages and what they look like. -Of course my dream has always been to be in a loving, long-term marriage but this has gotten me a bit anxious, especially with it becoming closer to a reality! I know that the sparkle of a new relationship and all those emotions eventually wear off but how do you combat that roommate-feeling? Is it inevitable?",,34,vinesandflowers,1694899160.0 -RedPillWomen,16kqfyl,How much does weight loss help your SMV?,"I am in the process of losing weight and am wondering how much it will change how guys view me in a positive way. Women who have lost weight, what’s your experience with this? Does it really make that much of a difference or is it mostly for your own health and wellbeing?",,7,Majestic-Tie464,1694921642.0 +Of course my dream has always been to be in a loving, long-term marriage but this has gotten me a bit anxious, especially with it becoming closer to a reality! I know that the sparkle of a new relationship and all those emotions eventually wear off but how do you combat that roommate-feeling? Is it inevitable?",,34,vinesandflowers,2023-09-16 21:19:20 +RedPillWomen,16kqfyl,How much does weight loss help your SMV?,"I am in the process of losing weight and am wondering how much it will change how guys view me in a positive way. Women who have lost weight, what’s your experience with this? Does it really make that much of a difference or is it mostly for your own health and wellbeing?",,7,Majestic-Tie464,2023-09-17 03:34:02 RedPillWomen,16kesuf,My boyfriend had just broken up with me and I feel like my world is ending,"Hi RPW. I posted about this issue a while back. Basically, my boyfriend met a girl on a dating app before he met me. They became friends. I didn’t know about her, and he called me a few days ago saying he’s going to get a coffee with her. I felt disrespected and we argued. At one point I told him to shut up which I know I shouldn’t have. He still went out with her and was convinced that he did nothing wrong. @@ -4058,7 +4058,7 @@ I was so upset, I asked him if he’d like to see a couples counsellor but he to He has blocked me on social media and he listens so much to his parents and says that they are best to go to advice for about everything, so I doubt he’ll every speak to me again. I feel absolutely terrible and I’m in floods of tears. I did not mean to hurt him, I was just angry at the time. Surely he’d want to talk it through instead of breaking up with me straight away?? There’s no way I would not be mindful of his feelings after this event. -I miss him so much it hurts sooo bad. If you had advice I’d appreciate it so much, I just want to be in his arms",,20,Diamond-pearls21,1694889858.0 +I miss him so much it hurts sooo bad. If you had advice I’d appreciate it so much, I just want to be in his arms",,20,Diamond-pearls21,2023-09-16 18:44:18 RedPillWomen,16kkquy,Do you make an effort to allow your spouse to help even when you don’t need it?,"Specific example to explain what I mean: Tonight my husband is grilling steaks for dinner and I’m in charge of the side. To make the baked potatoes the first step is stabbing them with a fork. Anyhow, my husband offered to stab them for me (because he knows I don’t love to do it) when he got back from the restroom, but I got impatient and stabbed them myself. @@ -4069,8 +4069,8 @@ I know this is a very minor example, just the one that is currently relevant. So, if your husband offers to help in a specific way (specifically when you don’t actually need the help) do you just let him do the thing? -I hope this makes sense!",,10,[deleted],1694905020.0 -RedPillWomen,16kdefd,Recommended book,"Becoming the one. By shailana Aiyana. It explores your human nature from the really core of your existence. It helps you understand why you act the way you act and what are your patterns, how you develop those and how to manage these patterns (talking about negative behaviors and things that we want to change to be better persons)",,6,Direct-Ad-5394,1694886170.0 +I hope this makes sense!",,10,[deleted],2023-09-16 22:57:00 +RedPillWomen,16kdefd,Recommended book,"Becoming the one. By shailana Aiyana. It explores your human nature from the really core of your existence. It helps you understand why you act the way you act and what are your patterns, how you develop those and how to manage these patterns (talking about negative behaviors and things that we want to change to be better persons)",,6,Direct-Ad-5394,2023-09-16 17:42:50 RedPillWomen,16kgn6q,Basic questions. I need guidance from others please,"How did you know you have a connection with someone? How do you know that you feel love? That you love him? What it takes to a man to show you that he has feelings for you? That he wants you sexually (and said it all the time) and also being good, kind, caring, show affection with words everyday, understanding, passionate means that we could ever have a relationship? Are we in a relationship? We live in different countries. But chat every single day and so phone calls when it's posible @@ -4085,12 +4085,12 @@ Is this something casual? Any thoughts or suggestions or texts will be highly appreciated. Thank you for reading me. I really need to share this with a community of understanding people. Thank you all 🙏 -I am in a place in my life where it happens to you get to lost",,2,Direct-Ad-5394,1694894694.0 +I am in a place in my life where it happens to you get to lost",,2,Direct-Ad-5394,2023-09-16 20:04:54 RedPillWomen,16jo8nf,How to separate yourself from being viewed as motherly?,"Hii! I have a great relationship with my boyfriend (both 24), we’ve been together for almost a year and everything’s been wonderful. However, I am scared of being seen less attractive from being viewed in a motherly way? Does that make sense?? It’s so confusing to me because i know men like being taken care of and appreciate that but does it make a woman more attractive to them? I know personally when I’m being treated nice, my attraction to my partner increases, but I don’t know if it’s the same for men. I love baking, reading and watch Hallmark movies so my boyfriend sometimes jokes I’m like a grandma which I find funny but i also don’t want to be viewed as one LOL. I want to cook for him and tend to him but not overstep and feel like I’ll be seen too motherly…please help hahah. I don’t know if I’m overthinking things. -Edit w/ background info: We don’t live together but i do spend the night frequently and on those days I like to cook for us, help organize around etc. We have plans on getting engaged and moving in together once we are in grad school. :)",,10,vinesandflowers,1694810470.0 +Edit w/ background info: We don’t live together but i do spend the night frequently and on those days I like to cook for us, help organize around etc. We have plans on getting engaged and moving in together once we are in grad school. :)",,10,vinesandflowers,2023-09-15 20:41:10 RedPillWomen,16jhqhu,Back to Basics September: The Fear of the Wall and Why I'm Sick of Hearing About It,"For the entire month of September, we're revisiting some foundational posts in a series designed to serve as a RPW refresher. This week and the following weeks, we're focusing on RedPillWomen and the communities inner resources. Please note, we are not the original authors of these posts. We'll be offering our insights as both moderators and active community members. Our objective is to provide you with a curated guide that can serve as a cornerstone to understanding RPW principles, while revitalizing some enduring ideas. @@ -4160,7 +4160,7 @@ All the best, ~Sadie -Edit: 999 edits to get formatting correct",,18,FastLifePineapple,1694794746.0 +Edit: 999 edits to get formatting correct",,18,FastLifePineapple,2023-09-15 16:19:06 RedPillWomen,16jfvb3,I broke his trust,"Me (30F) and him (39M) have been going out for two months. Things were going good and it felt very much like we were going towards a relationship. He even gifted me a little trip together for my 30th birthday. However, he never addressed what it was between us. So last week I asked him ""What is this between us?"" He said: ""It's going in one direction"" but didn't clarify which direction he meant. He asked if that bothered me and I said no. When he brought me home I told him that I was celebrating my birthday (which was 3 weeks before) the next day and that he would be welcome and told him he could tag along if we wants later on (since I knew he was having his son that Sunday). The day of my celebrations I send him where we were going but he said he was not bringing his son back home to his mom before 7pm and would need a break afterwards. I was very disappointed and didn't feel like I mattered to him. So I swiped on Bumble the next day and even texted with maybe two guys. I pretty much ignored him and was cold to him. But he was sweet and eventually I decided to give us a chance and stopped on Bumble and everything was going good, he asked me for a date and I thought we could talk then. But then on Wednesday morning he suddenly confronted me about being ""very active on Bumble"". I felt guilty and said we could talk in person. He replied that he doesn't want a relationship anymore and it's best not to see eachother anymore. @@ -4171,7 +4171,7 @@ Tomorrow would be two months since our first date and I'm thinking of sending hi Any advice on how to win his trust back? -EDIT: I know there was some bad communication at play from both sides. That's not the point. People make mistakes. As to whether it was ok of me to be on Bumble I think both sides can be argued. Things are not that black and white. He texted me today and we met up but we still didn't talk. I wanted to give him space for now since it was good that he didn't seem hurt anymore. However it turns out with us, I care about him deeply and know he also wouldn't want to hurt me. But it might be true that he is not that excited about a relationship with me, in which case I will obviously need to move on.",,10,Flowerpow21,1694790359.0 +EDIT: I know there was some bad communication at play from both sides. That's not the point. People make mistakes. As to whether it was ok of me to be on Bumble I think both sides can be argued. Things are not that black and white. He texted me today and we met up but we still didn't talk. I wanted to give him space for now since it was good that he didn't seem hurt anymore. However it turns out with us, I care about him deeply and know he also wouldn't want to hurt me. But it might be true that he is not that excited about a relationship with me, in which case I will obviously need to move on.",,10,Flowerpow21,2023-09-15 15:05:59 RedPillWomen,16iqc12,An RPW Guide to Shit Testing,"# What Are Shit Tests? Shit tests are performed, usually subconsciously, to understand someone's character and look for faults or weakness. It's not inherently unpleasant, nor are women the only perpetrators. Think of a time you've been put ""on the spot."" A job interview, a parent asking why you broke curfew, a boyfriend asking if that's what you're wearing out - all of these can be considered shit tests. @@ -4253,14 +4253,14 @@ The more you witness him face, the less you'll feel the need to shit test. Here' # What Should I do if I Think He's Shit Testing Me? -He's probably not - and interpreting in that way might hurt your chances of succeeding. The male equivalent to the shit test is a compliance test: a test to see if someone can take direction, empathize, and listen. I am drafting a companion post about this that goes more in depth.",,29,ArkNemesis00,1694716994.0 +He's probably not - and interpreting in that way might hurt your chances of succeeding. The male equivalent to the shit test is a compliance test: a test to see if someone can take direction, empathize, and listen. I am drafting a companion post about this that goes more in depth.",,29,ArkNemesis00,2023-09-14 18:43:14 RedPillWomen,16irwfw,[Update] Shall I (43/female) go with my husband (43/male) to FiL's Neighbour's Daughter's (41/female) Birthday Party?,"(Don't see an updates flair, but the original is [here](https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/16gllxj/shall_i_43female_go_with_my_husband_43male_to/)) I took the advice of the top-level comments and went to the ""party"". I use ditto-marks because we entered and the hostess told us that no one else was coming in tears and she was so appreciative that he had. Said she'd been drinking all day and had a headache. So, husband went out and brought bananas, cut them, put them in a bowl and had her have them, saying a friend's primary concern is that their mate is healthy and a headache isn't a sign of good health. After this, I decided that we should share a cake, so went to a nearby Lidl and picked up lava cake, which was **very**, **very** rich and went down well with the other two -- after she'd had 3-4 cut up bananas. More sobre, she then related what had gone wrong that day. Apparently, the only one who'd texted her was my husband. Not her sister, not her landlord, not even her boyfriend. I had not because I'd never met this lady before. She concluded she would be culling all of the entries in her Rolodex as ""fake friends"" and reset her life, starting with two entries -- Mr and Mrs u/LiteratureOk7716 -- which I thought was sweet. -As we left, I gave her a hug and told her that she'd always have a family with us. She gave us a shopping bag of leftovers and knick-knacks to share. This morning, I got up to message to both of us thanking us for ""saving my life"". I'm honestly not sure if she was being serious or polite.",,14,LiteratureOk7716,1694720808.0 +As we left, I gave her a hug and told her that she'd always have a family with us. She gave us a shopping bag of leftovers and knick-knacks to share. This morning, I got up to message to both of us thanking us for ""saving my life"". I'm honestly not sure if she was being serious or polite.",,14,LiteratureOk7716,2023-09-14 19:46:48 RedPillWomen,16jhqtc,lost my hymen to a piece of clothing,"Hello, I am 22 and a virgin. The only thing I've stuck up there is my own index finger, and I stopped doing that a couple years ago after I realized that it might break my hymen. Well, a week ago I was wearing a bodysuit that closes with buttons over the crotch, and also has sleeves, as part of an outfit. As I was hanging out with my friends that day, I felt it riding up uncomfortably and applying pressure to my crotch, but it would be awkward to adjust it, so I just was somewhat uncomfortable throughout the gathering. When I got home I noticed some clear discharge on my panties and suddenly became anxious that I'd torn my hymen with the tight clothing. I got a mirror out and looked around and couldn't see it anymore! I can't be sure that the bodysuit took it because I hadn't looked for over 6 months. It could have been gone already from cycling or doing stretches, and I didn't notice. @@ -4271,7 +4271,7 @@ I am posting this for a sanity check, so please be brutally honest with me. Are Thank you! -EDIT: I realize this post is very personal and weird, but I don't have anyone in real life to ask about this awkward topic. I am obviously immature with romantic relationships and am just trying to get some honest advice. I'm sure I could have explained it better, but I did my best.",,0,acct_4_embarasing_qs,1694794768.0 +EDIT: I realize this post is very personal and weird, but I don't have anyone in real life to ask about this awkward topic. I am obviously immature with romantic relationships and am just trying to get some honest advice. I'm sure I could have explained it better, but I did my best.",,0,acct_4_embarasing_qs,2023-09-15 16:19:28 RedPillWomen,16i934o,"Back to Basics September: The Slut, and how not to be one.","For the entire month of September, we're revisiting some foundational posts in a series designed to serve as an RPW refresher. This week and pretty much rest of the month, will be focused on RPW and our wiki. Please note, we are not the original authors of these posts. We'll be offering our insights as both moderators and active community members. Our objective is to provide you with a curated guide that can serve as a cornerstone to understanding RPW principles, while revitalizing some enduring ideas. @@ -4346,7 +4346,7 @@ Because withholding tactics don't work. A slut cannot ""reform"" herself by with That partner count is only a symptom, not the disease. -**To avoid being a slut, be a keeper.**",,36,LivelyLychee,1694667039.0 +**To avoid being a slut, be a keeper.**",,36,LivelyLychee,2023-09-14 04:50:39 RedPillWomen,16idwtc,How do you quell an adversarial view on men?,"After a breakup in 2019 I’ve been on a LONG rpw/redpill learning journey which has helped me understand men more and I feel more enlightened every day, but sometimes it feels hopeless. Every now and again I leave the blogs, books, forum posts feeling like men are my total opposition. I’m on a weight loss journey, so weight won’t be an issue soon enough but I’ve recently discovered hogging as a concept and realizing that I evaded it by being who I am (non-promiscuous, goal oriented, reserved) is incredibly bittersweet because… @@ -4361,14 +4361,14 @@ The more I read, the more I understand that I was groomed into thinking men are I could go on all day with a sob story and anecdotes but they don’t matter. I just want to put the resentment to bed for good. Could someone help me? -EDIT: I am not reading anything parodic, I am not reading anything that vilifies men. For close to 4 years i have been doing the exact opposite. I’ve been going to blogs, informational videos, and forums written by men and taking the advice and lessons from the horses mouth. I watch videos online, and listen to real wives and role models closely IRL. My problem is actually resentment and frustration at men, and the process. I don’t hate them. I was influenced into the gender war and reprogramming myself has proven tiresome. Thank you!",,10,SweetSecond5900,1694684058.0 +EDIT: I am not reading anything parodic, I am not reading anything that vilifies men. For close to 4 years i have been doing the exact opposite. I’ve been going to blogs, informational videos, and forums written by men and taking the advice and lessons from the horses mouth. I watch videos online, and listen to real wives and role models closely IRL. My problem is actually resentment and frustration at men, and the process. I don’t hate them. I was influenced into the gender war and reprogramming myself has proven tiresome. Thank you!",,10,SweetSecond5900,2023-09-14 09:34:18 RedPillWomen,16htk0k,"I don’t know where to start, but I know I want to understand","I (28F) recently started seeing a man (40-something) that is very committed to the redpill mindset. He watches Fresh N Fit religiously which I initially thought was a joke until he clarified that it was over the top but rooted in his belief system. He recommended justpearlythings as a jumping off point for me but after listening to her show I felt like she said things for the sake of shock value and found it very off putting. I haven’t been able to find any podcasts or reading materials regarding what i should be doing, just lots of men hollering about how women deserve less. This is pretty jarring since I’ve never subscribed to this ideology before. I’ve always considered myself to be liberal, fiercely independent, and a feminist. Always taken care of myself, never asked for help or relied on anyone else. My mom was a single mom and I’m an only child, so I’ve never been around a man that thinks this way. I’m very open to new ideas and especially to the idea of being soft in a hard world. Mostly, I just want to be educated and be given the opportunity to understand without getting screamed at. Do you have any recommendations on materials where women are the intended audience? -EDIT: the phrasing of this post was a bit bitchy and defensive for no good reason. i’m not going to change it because i think acknowledging fault is a symptom of growth, but it’s crazy the progress that can be made in a day",,26,soonersquirrel,1694627023.0 +EDIT: the phrasing of this post was a bit bitchy and defensive for no good reason. i’m not going to change it because i think acknowledging fault is a symptom of growth, but it’s crazy the progress that can be made in a day",,26,soonersquirrel,2023-09-13 17:43:43 RedPillWomen,16htced,"My boyfriend wants to go out with a girl he met on a dating app, I don't know what to think","Hi RPW, seeking some advice about this situation. My boyfriend is lovely. He’s 26, I’m 22. We met on a dating app a few months back. He’s from a different country, and although he is sociable and friendly he doesn’t have many friends here, just a few. I was speaking to him on the phone tonight. He told me he will be meeting an ‘acquaintance’ tomorrow evening. I asked for more information about who it was as he seemed hesitant to tell me any more, and he told me it was a girl he met on the dating app in February. He’d never mentioned her before this. He said she is about his age and an athlete. Apparently, when they went out (before he met me) they weren’t each other’s type, they only see eachother as friend, and now he wants to go out with her tomorrow one on one, to get a drink and have a chat. -In all honestly I was quite surprised. I’m not sure how I should feel. Is this ok in a relationship?",,11,Diamond-pearls21,1694626512.0 +In all honestly I was quite surprised. I’m not sure how I should feel. Is this ok in a relationship?",,11,Diamond-pearls21,2023-09-13 17:35:12 RedPillWomen,16hoyom,Perfectionist husband,"Last night my husband came home from having dinner with a friend and went in to say goodnight to our seven year old son. He noticed that his school clothes weren't laid out for the next day. (I work an early shift, so I'm not there for my son's morning school prep, but I understand that he usually handles it by himself without help. Laying out his school clothes has never been something I do.) My husband demanded that I tell him where the clothes were. I said I had no idea, (which upset him,) and I turned to ask our son. Before I could say anything, my husband said to him, ""tell me where your school clothes are now, or I'm going to get very angry."" Our son said he had put them in our bedroom instead of his. (He's fascinated by the idea of practical jokes, but doesn't quite understand them yet.) @@ -4385,19 +4385,19 @@ I've explained to him that this behavior is discouraging and exhausting for me a If I ask him what he specifically wants, he'll say that he wants me to be more responsible. I've tried sitting down with him and outlining who is responsible for what, pointing out that we do in fact have pretty much even division of duties, which do in fact get taken care of, but that doesn't prevent me getting haranged over random (and generally minor) stuff. -Anyone have any suggestions?",,11,V3r1disqu0,1694616423.0 +Anyone have any suggestions?",,11,V3r1disqu0,2023-09-13 14:47:03 RedPillWomen,16hbxlh,My best friend suddenly hates men and it's getting annoying,"Note: Idk if this really belongs here. If not, I will take it down. My best friend (23F) and I (also 23F) have known each other since we were 5. We are much more like sisters than friends. We have also had our disagreements and differing beliefs, but it hasn't been a problem since we don't shove them down each other's throats.She graduated college last spring and, ever since, I have noticed this strange turn in her behavior towards men. I thought it was nothing, until several months ago when she straight up said ""I hate men. All men are trash."" For context, she has never had a serious or casual relationship with a man and has many great men in her life, including her brother and dad. I brushed it off and figured this was just her new outlook and opinion, no harm no foul. Since she first told me this, however, she has been finding ways to tear any and all men down when we're together. She jokes about it and, when I tell her that I'm uncomfortable with it, she just tells me that she's ""making sure I'm aware."" I also have a lot of good men in my life, including my brother and dad as well. I have asked her to keep her man-bashing comments to a minimum, but she thinks I'm just being dramatic. She has even actively deterred guys from talking to me when we go out and says it's ""to keep me safe."" Well, today we were chatting in a group chat with another friend when she randomly sent a link to a post about, well obviously, man hating. Idk why, but this was just the final straw for me. I never responded to the text, but she then texted me individually asking if I saw the post and said ""it's my new life motto and should be yours too lol."" Idk what to say to her at this point and I really would hate for things to get complicated over this of all reasons. -Am I being overdramatic or am I somewhat justified for feeling annoyed? Is there something I should do to avoid a confrontation? I'm just really tired of this.",,66,lady_marm,1694575203.0 +Am I being overdramatic or am I somewhat justified for feeling annoyed? Is there something I should do to avoid a confrontation? I'm just really tired of this.",,66,lady_marm,2023-09-13 03:20:03 RedPillWomen,16houc6,Emotional intelligence when dealing with others,"One feminine trait I’ve been trying to cultivate is the ability to deal with other peoples’ feelings in a more emotionally intelligent way. I think I have really great *intellectual* insight into why people feel the way they feel, but I still struggle to respond in the way that they need sometimes. For example, when someone is upset about something my impulse is to give them advice rather than comfort them, because how *would* I comfort them? A hug and an “I’m sorry, it’s okay” *sounds* right but feels useless. Or when someone is excited about something, how do I mirror and amplify their excitement without putting my 2 cents in and basically just explaining how they already feel? -I’m hoping some of you other ladies have experienced this and figured out why and what your emotional responses to things were lacking. If it helps, I have a professional ADHD diagnosis which I believe impacts emotional response and regulation, though I also believe everyone experiences “neurodivergence” to a degree.",,5,[deleted],1694616152.0 -RedPillWomen,16hq4mj,Cycle Syncing,"Does anyone know of a book/guide to ""cycle syncing"" that *isn't* filled with complaining/propaganda/pseudoscience/random witchcraft mentions for some reason? Or is the whole thing just pseudoscience?",,2,sincerelyyrs,1694619146.0 -RedPillWomen,16hat2b,How do I stay feminine in a job that wears scrubs,"I (25F) love wearing dresses and heels, but I work in the medical field and cannot dress how I would like. How can I make my uniform feminine?",,11,disneyprincesstay,1694572036.0 +I’m hoping some of you other ladies have experienced this and figured out why and what your emotional responses to things were lacking. If it helps, I have a professional ADHD diagnosis which I believe impacts emotional response and regulation, though I also believe everyone experiences “neurodivergence” to a degree.",,5,[deleted],2023-09-13 14:42:32 +RedPillWomen,16hq4mj,Cycle Syncing,"Does anyone know of a book/guide to ""cycle syncing"" that *isn't* filled with complaining/propaganda/pseudoscience/random witchcraft mentions for some reason? Or is the whole thing just pseudoscience?",,2,sincerelyyrs,2023-09-13 15:32:26 +RedPillWomen,16hat2b,How do I stay feminine in a job that wears scrubs,"I (25F) love wearing dresses and heels, but I work in the medical field and cannot dress how I would like. How can I make my uniform feminine?",,11,disneyprincesstay,2023-09-13 02:27:16 RedPillWomen,16h04kx,Experienced RPW but need help with saving my LTR.,"Edit: This problem has been resolved with a mix of suggestions that was described here, so thanks for the input. I don’t expect everyone to understand how it feels like to move on after infidelity, only to find out that you’re not fully recovered years later. What I’ve learnt is theory is easy, applying it is harder with life stressors. I hope that in a few years time I can report back healthy and happy, but I’m grateful for this sub for providing an anchor point in my journey through the years. Original post: @@ -4416,9 +4416,9 @@ Obviously, I do not want to break up and I feel like my situation has reached qu What’s worse now is in the heat of the moment of a fight, I told him I’m not attracted to him because he’s let himself go, when it’s just one part but he keeps pressuring me to the point I have trouble feeling attracted because now I feel obliged. And this isn’t some couple of months thing, we have been together for years so I understand his side too. -I’m open to hearing perspectives and solutions. Things I cannot control or change are my work situation, but I’m trying to control my stress. And actually I just wish he would leave it alone for a while so I could stop feeling pressured which is a solution in itself, but it seems to be affecting him too much and he wants concrete promises. I fear if I have sex with him now, it will be out of fear and affect our long term sex life, when really I want a healthy sex life together. Everything feels like chaos now.",,5,TranslatedSky,1694545922.0 -RedPillWomen,16fx2qw,Should I take my husband’s word and just drop it?,"My husband and I recently reconciled, after being separated for several months. I threw myself into Laura Doyle’s the Empowered Wife and podcasts, which I credit for all this happening for us. We were separated with the stated, purpose of working on our relationship, and getting back together. We had committed to each other to not talk to other people, and not date other people. My husband has now confessed to me that he was talking to two other women and that one of them he was somewhat serious about and she was someone he had seriously considered having a relationship with. There was no sex, and she lives 8hrs away. He says it is all over, and I do believe him but I can’t help but wanting to dig up all the details of the situation. Should I just let it go?",,35,patchouliflowers,1694443345.0 -RedPillWomen,16fs0tm,I stopped my husband from committing suicide and he thinks I never knew his plans,,/r/offmychest/comments/yxy79c/i_stopped_my_husband_from_committing_suicide_and/,21,Mission_Honeydew_597,1694428993.0 +I’m open to hearing perspectives and solutions. Things I cannot control or change are my work situation, but I’m trying to control my stress. And actually I just wish he would leave it alone for a while so I could stop feeling pressured which is a solution in itself, but it seems to be affecting him too much and he wants concrete promises. I fear if I have sex with him now, it will be out of fear and affect our long term sex life, when really I want a healthy sex life together. Everything feels like chaos now.",,5,TranslatedSky,2023-09-12 19:12:02 +RedPillWomen,16fx2qw,Should I take my husband’s word and just drop it?,"My husband and I recently reconciled, after being separated for several months. I threw myself into Laura Doyle’s the Empowered Wife and podcasts, which I credit for all this happening for us. We were separated with the stated, purpose of working on our relationship, and getting back together. We had committed to each other to not talk to other people, and not date other people. My husband has now confessed to me that he was talking to two other women and that one of them he was somewhat serious about and she was someone he had seriously considered having a relationship with. There was no sex, and she lives 8hrs away. He says it is all over, and I do believe him but I can’t help but wanting to dig up all the details of the situation. Should I just let it go?",,35,patchouliflowers,2023-09-11 14:42:25 +RedPillWomen,16fs0tm,I stopped my husband from committing suicide and he thinks I never knew his plans,,/r/offmychest/comments/yxy79c/i_stopped_my_husband_from_committing_suicide_and/,21,Mission_Honeydew_597,2023-09-11 10:43:13 RedPillWomen,16fyx5w,Back to Basics September: A Quick Look at RPW Wiki,"For the entire month of September, we're revisiting some foundational posts in a series designed to serve as an RPW refresher. This week and the following weeks, we're focusing on RedPillWomen and the communities inner resources. Please note, we are not the original authors of these posts (I am the author of this post). We'll be offering our insights as both moderators and active community members. Our objective is to provide you with a curated guide that can serve as a cornerstone to understanding RPW principles, while revitalizing some enduring ideas. @@ -4474,7 +4474,7 @@ Moderation Contact We want to extend a heartfelt thank you to all members of our RPW community. Your active participation, contributions, and ongoing discussions are what make this a vibrant and supportive space. We hope the wiki serves as a valuable resource for everyone. -The wiki is a community-driven project, and we're always looking for ways to improve. If you have feedback, suggestions, or would like to contribute or nominate posts, we'd love to hear from you! Feel free to leave a comment or send us a message via mod mail.",,8,FastLifePineapple,1694447660.0 +The wiki is a community-driven project, and we're always looking for ways to improve. If you have feedback, suggestions, or would like to contribute or nominate posts, we'd love to hear from you! Feel free to leave a comment or send us a message via mod mail.",,8,FastLifePineapple,2023-09-11 15:54:20 RedPillWomen,16gllxj,Shall I (43/female) go with my husband (43/male) to FiL's Neighbour's Daughter's (41/female) Birthday Party?,"My husband met this lady through the condo board, where he serves as its treasurer and she handles his day-to-day as we don't live near FiL; husband just paid for the place. She sent him an invitation saying it will be people in their ""30s and 40s"", a ""mix of solicitors and finance people"". While husband is in finance, I'm not, nor am I an attorney -- I work as a cancer researcher. I don't get along with his family as well as I'd like, especially his sister, but MiL and I buried the hatchet on her deathbed, when she instructed her sister-in-law to send me the diamond ring the grandmother had designated for him when he was born -- a family heirloom, so we've put it in bank safe to pass on to our daughter at some point -- either at the conclusion of her education or similar achievement. To the sister-in-law's credit, the ring has been sent over in accordance with MiL's wishes. @@ -4483,7 +4483,7 @@ The birthday girl is a model and very much a flirt. Husband's said as much. He's I would love to go with him. However, I get the impression that my in-laws don't like me very much. Except for his niece, who wants to be ""just like auntie /u/LiteratureOk7716"" when she grows up. She repeats this pretty regularly, including our last video call a few hours ago. -So... do I go with husband to this one's birthday party or not? Thanks in advance...",,0,LiteratureOk7716,1694506939.0 +So... do I go with husband to this one's birthday party or not? Thanks in advance...",,0,LiteratureOk7716,2023-09-12 08:22:19 RedPillWomen,16flmtt,Authenticity in a RPW's Relationship,"I have been reading Fascinating Womanhood and have looked into Laura Doyle (listened to podcasts but haven't read her books yet), and the one thing that I'm struggling to reconcile is if it's possible to be truely authentic to your partner if you're following the advice laid out. @@ -4493,7 +4493,7 @@ My husband and I greatly value honesty and the truth and are authentic with one To be clear, I'm not suggesting for a moment that looking to improve yourself or change your behaviour is being inauthentic to yourself, and every other element of the philosophy I've come across so far has seemed spot on. -I'm wondering if anyone else has come up against this, and how you may have managed it. I'm also looking for general guidance in this respect. Can the ""white"" lies, feigning incompetence and other general inauthenticity not be incorporated in a RPW relationship successfully? Or is this a vital element in achieving success?",,17,FancyPants882,1694405895.0 +I'm wondering if anyone else has come up against this, and how you may have managed it. I'm also looking for general guidance in this respect. Can the ""white"" lies, feigning incompetence and other general inauthenticity not be incorporated in a RPW relationship successfully? Or is this a vital element in achieving success?",,17,FancyPants882,2023-09-11 04:18:15 RedPillWomen,16fik7o,"Back to Basics September: Sex, RPW, Your Man, and You","For the entire month of September, we're revisiting some foundational posts in a series designed to serve as an RPW refresher. This week, we're focusing on our sister subreddit, RedPillWives (RPWi), and exploring their wiki. Please note, we are not the original authors of these posts. We'll be offering our insights as both moderators and active community members. Our objective is to provide you with a curated guide that can serve as a cornerstone to understanding RPW principles, while revitalizing some enduring ideas. @@ -4564,8 +4564,8 @@ So yes, prioritize sex. Give it freely and enthusiastically and revel in what it * [On sexual availability](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4dghce/sexual_availability/) -* [On seduction](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4vvgi0/the_lost_art_of_seduction/?)",,18,ChamomileMist,1694396864.0 -RedPillWomen,16flu8s,"Stuck in a situationship, now 26, is all lost for me if I want children (multiple)?","It's a situationship where I'm the one with more control, but still. It's not a relationship I want to be in. However, we are living together and have credit scores in 300s. We need out of this house because it's only a temporary solution. We're with my relative and it's not a good environment, neither of us have people we can turn to. We looked at places together because we figure it's a step up from where we are now in this gutter house and it'd be easier to secure a place with both of us first before us each moving to a place of our own. It feels like it's going to take FOREVER and I'm wondering if I sabotaged myself out of a traditional family indefinitely. We went to a few showings and offered 3 months rent but with our credit scores we were told we'll need 6 months. Not to mention, that's just to be stuck living together AGAIN just due to cost efficiency and due to basically impending doom that this relative passes and I know I'm not getting the house due to her warped sense of financial literacy. Let alone me finally making enough to branch off alone, which is what I'm waiting around on moping and just hoping all of this passes quickly, but I know it won't. What should I do?",,4,patisseriepresents,1694406556.0 +* [On seduction](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4vvgi0/the_lost_art_of_seduction/?)",,18,ChamomileMist,2023-09-11 01:47:44 +RedPillWomen,16flu8s,"Stuck in a situationship, now 26, is all lost for me if I want children (multiple)?","It's a situationship where I'm the one with more control, but still. It's not a relationship I want to be in. However, we are living together and have credit scores in 300s. We need out of this house because it's only a temporary solution. We're with my relative and it's not a good environment, neither of us have people we can turn to. We looked at places together because we figure it's a step up from where we are now in this gutter house and it'd be easier to secure a place with both of us first before us each moving to a place of our own. It feels like it's going to take FOREVER and I'm wondering if I sabotaged myself out of a traditional family indefinitely. We went to a few showings and offered 3 months rent but with our credit scores we were told we'll need 6 months. Not to mention, that's just to be stuck living together AGAIN just due to cost efficiency and due to basically impending doom that this relative passes and I know I'm not getting the house due to her warped sense of financial literacy. Let alone me finally making enough to branch off alone, which is what I'm waiting around on moping and just hoping all of this passes quickly, but I know it won't. What should I do?",,4,patisseriepresents,2023-09-11 04:29:16 RedPillWomen,16ehaq2,My husband and I are on different baby timelines.(Details below),"I hope this is an ok question to ask here. I’m newer to this page and appreciate any advice! @@ -4579,14 +4579,14 @@ I’ll admit, I got in over my head and got too excited. I’ve looked at nurser So tonight I brought up lightly that I will be ovulating on our honeymoon and that we’ll either need to take precautions or….leave it up to fate. And he basically said that we have to sort out our career concerns first. (Long story short, I own a company that could have an impact on our future finances and life flexibility.) -I know that timeline wise this career concern will be solved in February of ‘25. But, ladies, I cannot imagine waiting until 2025 to start trying. I’ve kept my mouth shut and I understand his concerns (and I agree they’re valid), but I truly don’t know how to patiently wait another year longer then originally planned or help him understand that biologically a year makes a big difference when you’re 30.",,19,[deleted],1694294762.0 +I know that timeline wise this career concern will be solved in February of ‘25. But, ladies, I cannot imagine waiting until 2025 to start trying. I’ve kept my mouth shut and I understand his concerns (and I agree they’re valid), but I truly don’t know how to patiently wait another year longer then originally planned or help him understand that biologically a year makes a big difference when you’re 30.",,19,[deleted],2023-09-09 21:26:02 RedPillWomen,16e246c,I like older men but feel repulsed when they show interest in me,"I'm 22 ans I like men on the slightly older side (who are 28 and up) but when tbey show interest in me I can't help but feel repulsed. I keep getting reminded of how men go for younger girls because women their age see their BS and I feel like I'm being preyed on. but I find them extremely attractive, they are mature and know what they want which I can't find in people my age. -please help because I'm so confused, there must be a flaw in my reasoning but I can't put my finger on it.",,37,poetically-living,1694254393.0 +please help because I'm so confused, there must be a flaw in my reasoning but I can't put my finger on it.",,37,poetically-living,2023-09-09 10:13:13 RedPillWomen,16e8q6c,Back To Basics September: Online Dating,"For the entire month of September, we're revisiting some foundational posts in a series designed to serve as an RPW refresher. This week, we're focusing on our sister subreddit, RedPillWives (RPWi), and exploring their wiki. **Please note, we are not the original authors of these posts.** We'll be offering our insights as both moderators and active community members. Our objective is to provide you with a curated guide that can serve as a cornerstone to understanding RPW principles, while revitalizing some enduring ideas. @@ -4737,7 +4737,7 @@ Don’t schedule more than one date per day. Other people may disagree, but I th - Online dating is a wonderful way to meet good men. You just have to be willing to invest time, effort, and exercise patience. If you’ve never considered online dating to be a viable option before, I hope you at least give it a try. I tend to think that it’s the safest, and most effective way to meet men. Alcohol doesn’t play a role (which may not be the case if you meet someone in a bar or club). You don’t have to shout over background chatter or loud music. You don’t face the same “do or die” time limits (exchange numbers before you leave or risk never running into him again), and you can maintain your anonymity until you decide to disclose more information. If you are normally shy, then utilizing online dating is the *perfect way* to practice initiating and sustaining conversations with attractive men that you don’t know. You can refine the stories and anecdotes you share, taking note of what works and what doesn’t. Instant Messaging is a great way to practice your flirting skills and real-time conversational abilities. If you already use online dating (or if you have in the past), I hope this gives you some new ideas to improve your profile. -Questions, comments, concerns and observations are (as always) welcomed and encouraged.",,9,FastLifePineapple,1694273755.0 +Questions, comments, concerns and observations are (as always) welcomed and encouraged.",,9,FastLifePineapple,2023-09-09 15:35:55 RedPillWomen,16dzhq4,Were you attracted to your husband/partner from the first date?,"Hi ladies, so I’ve been on 2 dates with a man (with a third upcoming) and I haven’t yet felt attraction for him. He’s a very sweet man and is very considerate, everything I wanted on my ‘checklist’ except I just don’t feel the physical attraction :( I’ve only been in one other relationship before and I was attracted to him (my ex) from the first date, but we were friends for about a year first and I definitely wasn’t attracted to my ex at the start of our friendship - I think it took about 6 months for me to see him as someone I’d like to date. @@ -4748,7 +4748,7 @@ I’m wondering if anyone here has entered long term relationships were there ha Since there’s a a chance this won’t work out, I don’t want him to waste money on me (he insists on paying for everything and won’t allow me to contribute at all financially) -I’ve only ever been in 50:50 relationships/dates where the freedom to walk away at any time feels liberating since the guy can’t get mad at me for wasting his money. It’s the first time I’ve dated someone who insists on paying and I’m a little confused how to conduct myself…",,23,-ladykitsune-,1694244664.0 +I’ve only ever been in 50:50 relationships/dates where the freedom to walk away at any time feels liberating since the guy can’t get mad at me for wasting his money. It’s the first time I’ve dated someone who insists on paying and I’m a little confused how to conduct myself…",,23,-ladykitsune-,2023-09-09 07:31:04 RedPillWomen,16dq7kb,Losing attraction - help!,"Writing this on a throwaway as he knows my main account. I’m in the UK, if that helps. My boyfriend and I have been together just shy of 2 years now, he recently graduated in June however he’s living with his parents and looking for part time work at the moment until he gets a full time entry level role. He wants to get into data analysis but he’s never had a paying job before, just volunteer work with charities, and didn’t do a computer science degree. @@ -4761,23 +4761,23 @@ I’m trying to put on a brave face and let him know that I really do support hi Any advice? Any suggestions? How do I reframe my mindset and be a good helper in this situation? I don’t want to leave him, I’m in love with him and he’s the one person I’ve seen myself realistically marrying and having kids with. But I’m so scared this will tarnish my image of him as a provider and leave me resenting him. -Thanks for reading 🩷",,7,cutietoes1332,1694216589.0 +Thanks for reading 🩷",,7,cutietoes1332,2023-09-08 23:43:09 RedPillWomen,16dfi3r,How would a RP man feel about an anorgasmic wife?," I’ve been anorgasmic my whole marriage/life (never messed around or really masturbated before I got married at 21 yo). I have a happy and functional marriage, three very healthy pregnancies/babies, and no other health problems. My husband and I are both fit and porn-free. We have sex frequently enough (prob 2 times a week), and the quality, besides sometimes just being exhausted parents, is good. ….but for the first few years of our marriage, sex was very very painful for me, and then after the 3rd year, the pain dissolved and just led to… nothing. I have a good libido- high, I think. I am attracted to him. I get mentally very aroused (sex is all in my head- but I’ve heard that’s how women are?). I just don’t feel a single good feeling during sex. I can be as aroused af and just feel the pressure/presence and nothing more. It used to bother me endlessly, but now I’ve just kind of accepted it. In the early days I saw a pelvic floor PT who said everything looked fine. I also have had countless OB appointments. Everything fine. I’ve kind of given up and accepted that it won’t happen for me. Knowing my husband loves me is enough. - But I have read about men, again and again in so many places, that they feel so proud and masculine when they bring their wife to orgasm. Peek alpha performance. How does my husband really feel about this? It is one topic he’s kind of quiet about (communicates about everything else excellently). Does this bother him greatly? What could I do to make things better for him?",,17,Joyfulwoman,1694191388.0 + But I have read about men, again and again in so many places, that they feel so proud and masculine when they bring their wife to orgasm. Peek alpha performance. How does my husband really feel about this? It is one topic he’s kind of quiet about (communicates about everything else excellently). Does this bother him greatly? What could I do to make things better for him?",,17,Joyfulwoman,2023-09-08 16:43:08 RedPillWomen,16d8iv5,How to handle feeling like I come second to husband’s job.,"I feel like I already know the responses that will come (it’s the masculine thing) but still going to post anyways. I put my husband, kids, and home first in my life. I am a SAHM and am constantly thinking about their needs and providing for said needs. I have 2 boys under 2 so hobbies are pretty much out the window but I still make time for self care and take a yoga class on the weekends. My husband works full time and for the past couple years I feel like work is the center of his universe, then the kids, then me. -Yesterday he had a work conference in the city (we live 10mins away). He came home to help with bath/bedtime because he’s sweet like that, but then went back to the conference. I texted him at 9:30pm kind of irritated like, so how’s it going? When you home? No response. He got home an hour later and apologized saying they went to the bar (conference was in a hotel) to watch the football game. He was too caught up in conversations all night to text me and let me know he’d be later. We’ve had many conversations about this. His is in an industry where happy hours and dinners run late, it’s very social, I accept this. But it hurts that he doesn’t think about me enough to just say.. going to watch the game with coworkers be home around 10:30. I would 10000% do that if I was in his shoes. His excuse of being in constant conversations and go go go with work is bs. I don’t want to nag and I appreciate how hard he works and he is immensely involved with our kids… but feeling like I put him first and he puts me third.. maybe second at best, is making me feel just incredibly sad.",,24,Own-Grapefruit7309,1694174044.0 +Yesterday he had a work conference in the city (we live 10mins away). He came home to help with bath/bedtime because he’s sweet like that, but then went back to the conference. I texted him at 9:30pm kind of irritated like, so how’s it going? When you home? No response. He got home an hour later and apologized saying they went to the bar (conference was in a hotel) to watch the football game. He was too caught up in conversations all night to text me and let me know he’d be later. We’ve had many conversations about this. His is in an industry where happy hours and dinners run late, it’s very social, I accept this. But it hurts that he doesn’t think about me enough to just say.. going to watch the game with coworkers be home around 10:30. I would 10000% do that if I was in his shoes. His excuse of being in constant conversations and go go go with work is bs. I don’t want to nag and I appreciate how hard he works and he is immensely involved with our kids… but feeling like I put him first and he puts me third.. maybe second at best, is making me feel just incredibly sad.",,24,Own-Grapefruit7309,2023-09-08 11:54:04 RedPillWomen,16d15bb,Dating someone who never wants to get married,"So I started dating someone new, and he seems great. Really good reputation in the community, good job, owns a home, is sweet and attentive, great cook! Only downside is he says he doesn’t ever want to get married. He does want kids and a life partner, but says he goes back and forth on thinking about the actually legal formality with things. For me, marriage is important, though there are some benefits to not being married for me (keeping my Medicaid and not having to pay on student loans- I am very low income with health issues). So, at 34, wall here and only growing higher, I wonder if I should settle on this matter as this guy is a catch in a lot of other ways. -For reference, I live in Hawaii in which condos such as his are now widely unaffordable for people in our age range and rents are only continuing to skyrocket. I don’t want to leave. And I’m really enjoying the vibe between us. I’m wondering if there’s a way to approach this conversation again with curiosity to see why he doesn’t feel inclined to ever get married. I’m very religious so I would have to at least have a spiritual outward/non legal marriage but would like the option of a legal one. Because of my religious beliefs “divorce rape” would not be a thing for me and I’d be willing to sign a prenup if it was fair. It feels like too much to think about at this early stage in dating but I don’t want to continue to invest in something that is unwise or not going anywhere.",,20,No_Control7023,1694148952.0 +For reference, I live in Hawaii in which condos such as his are now widely unaffordable for people in our age range and rents are only continuing to skyrocket. I don’t want to leave. And I’m really enjoying the vibe between us. I’m wondering if there’s a way to approach this conversation again with curiosity to see why he doesn’t feel inclined to ever get married. I’m very religious so I would have to at least have a spiritual outward/non legal marriage but would like the option of a legal one. Because of my religious beliefs “divorce rape” would not be a thing for me and I’d be willing to sign a prenup if it was fair. It feels like too much to think about at this early stage in dating but I don’t want to continue to invest in something that is unwise or not going anywhere.",,20,No_Control7023,2023-09-08 04:55:52 RedPillWomen,16dpr26,Is it unfair to date to pass time if I want to get back with my ex again eventually?,"Lately i’ve been struggling with really complicated feelings. I’m still in love with my (21F) ex (24M) we tried to rekindle things but we still weren’t totally on the same page so parted amicably. He loves me and I love him but I don’t think I can be with him until he’s able to sort himself out and I made this clear to him. I trust that he will figure out how to get to that place soon enough. I’m not ready to give my body to another man and I’m not interested in sleeping with another man that isn’t him, like ever again and I told him this. I feel like my body is just for him and to be intimate with another man who is not him, it feels wrong? I don’t know why. I never felt this way about my relationships in the past when they ended but sex with him was very special to me and I can’t imagine experiencing that with another man. I know it all sounds silly but this is how I feel and he told me the same thing, that his body is just for me. I believe and trust that he won’t sleep with another woman. @@ -4786,13 +4786,13 @@ I want to try to date again, to pass time, to get my mind off him and also just So yeah, Is it wrong to do this? To go out with guys who ask me out with no intention of pursuing anything, serious or casual, with them even if I’m honest from the beginning? -And I hope this doesn’t come off rude because it’s not my intention but I’m not really looking for specific relationship advice concerning my ex but instead just want to know if going on dates just for fun is wrong/unfair.",,0,burner4567890,1694215472.0 +And I hope this doesn’t come off rude because it’s not my intention but I’m not really looking for specific relationship advice concerning my ex but instead just want to know if going on dates just for fun is wrong/unfair.",,0,burner4567890,2023-09-08 23:24:32 RedPillWomen,16cfpff,RPW interpretation of the movie Barbie?,"Anyone watched this movie and thought it was a bit deeper than the glitz and pink and fashion they had expected? I thought it was interesting commentary on how men have lost their role in society, and also that by pushing and glorifying women to be “everything” we’ve forgotten that it’s okay to just be as we are. I was a little confused at the ending but I think it mostly meant that nobody should live in someone else’s shadow and we need to find our individual selves. Would love to hear others opinions! -xo",,29,aussiedollface2,1694092851.0 +xo",,29,aussiedollface2,2023-09-07 13:20:51 RedPillWomen,16bvb47,Back To Basics September: Practicing Vulnerability,"For the entire month of September, we're revisiting some foundational posts in a series designed to serve as an RPW refresher. This week, we're focusing on our sister subreddit, RedPillWives (RPWi), and exploring their wiki. Please note, we are not the original authors of these posts. We'll be offering our insights as both moderators and active community members. Our objective is to provide you with a curated guide that can serve as a cornerstone to understanding RPW principles, while revitalizing some enduring ideas. @@ -4827,7 +4827,7 @@ And that list I made above of everything you're likely afraid of? It's also well **Your relationship should be your rock.** This is something HB taught me, and goes into the last sentence of the previous point. Your relationship should be a force field of positivity from the rest of the world, and to accomplish that it takes years of practicing bearing your soul to your partner. It's a goal you must always work toward. It's so rewarding to know *no matter what happens in life* that you can turn to your relationship for protection from it all. Things going bad at work? It doesn't matter, you have your SO. Financial hardships? It doesn't matter, you have your SO. Trouble in the family? It doesn't matter, you have your SO. This is not to say having a loving relationship is a silver bullet to fixing all life's hardships, not at all; what it is saying is that none of that can outweigh the joy and security you have found in each other, and as long as it's nurtured then you have cause and motivation to keep moving forward. -I hope this can be found helpful. It truly is worthwhile endeavor, and what you lose in defensiveness and walls, you will gain ten-fold in the richness of your relationship and the profound connection you can share with another person.",,27,ChamomileMist,1694032686.0 +I hope this can be found helpful. It truly is worthwhile endeavor, and what you lose in defensiveness and walls, you will gain ten-fold in the richness of your relationship and the profound connection you can share with another person.",,27,ChamomileMist,2023-09-06 20:38:06 RedPillWomen,16a0rus,Please help - I don’t love when my husband is silly leading up to sex,"We’re both in our early 30s, have been married for over 3 years. A year or so ago I noticed he had this habit of acting kind of silly when we’d be starting foreplay. For example, if he comes home and I have some lingerie already on he’ll act kind of like, silly about being aroused - I don’t know exactly how to explain it. @@ -4841,14 +4841,14 @@ How do I talk to him about this? Should I just say “hey I prefer when you act Outside of me dressing up in skimpy outfits and lingerie, we’re pretty vanilla so I don’t need him to act like dominate or aggressive. I just don’t like the silly high schooler vibe. -Adding that he never acts goofy during sex itself, once we’re having sex he’s more serious and assertive which I love. Just leading up to foreplay he acts goofy sometimes and it just doesn’t make me feel sexy.",,106,fineapple__,1693854251.0 +Adding that he never acts goofy during sex itself, once we’re having sex he’s more serious and assertive which I love. Just leading up to foreplay he acts goofy sometimes and it just doesn’t make me feel sexy.",,106,fineapple__,2023-09-04 19:04:11 RedPillWomen,16aqyfo,Biological clock ticking ⏳️,"Little background: 26f, no biological children, stepparent to a 8 y/o & a 13 y/o (two separate BMs) for the last 4 years. I've never really wanted kids, but started convincing myself of wanting a family around my early 20's. My parents marriage ended early due to my father's infidelity and it had always put a fear of getting married and getting divorced in my mind. Met an amazing guy who I fell in love with and has two amazing, beautiful kids. Here we are now, 4 years later. I can't tell if it's all my friends around me having their first babies, or if it's dealing with the drama of the BMs, or if it's my own natural biological clock but something has changed in me. I want a drive for a family - my own family. I'm overly jealous and frustrated that I'm piecing together a family that's not even me, but I'm also frustrated I feel this way since I DON'T WANT TO HAVE A KID. I feel like I'm going crazy. I'm fighting my body as it's screaming at me to ""get pregnant, start a family! It's how you'll be complete"" and my logical side yelling, ""this is perfect! You have a family with no birthing or pregnancy and you have half a family to help raise these kids while you focus on school"". Its an endless fight that just makes me feel trapped and frustrated. Not sure if anyone else feels this way... -TL;DR: I feel like my biological clock is ticking and screaming at me to procreate, but I don't want to! I want to focus on building my life and I hate that my subconscious can only consider it a family if I conceive a child.",,2,CharminglilCunt,1693926953.0 +TL;DR: I feel like my biological clock is ticking and screaming at me to procreate, but I don't want to! I want to focus on building my life and I hate that my subconscious can only consider it a family if I conceive a child.",,2,CharminglilCunt,2023-09-05 15:15:53 RedPillWomen,16a4o5c,Back To Basics September: A Comprehensive Guide to Vetting Men,"For the entire month of September, we're revisiting some foundational posts in a series designed to serve as an RPW refresher. This week, we're focusing on our sister subreddit, RedPillWives (RPWi), and exploring their wiki. Please note, we are not the original authors of these posts. We'll be offering our insights as both moderators and active community members. Our objective is to provide you with a curated guide that can serve as a cornerstone to understanding RPW principles, while revitalizing some enduring ideas. @@ -4975,15 +4975,15 @@ If you have only been on a few dates, you can easily put an end to things by not There are a lot of moving pieces to the vetting process. You have to know what you want and need (as well as the difference between the two!), what you bring to the table, and major deal-breakers. If you are dating without a plan, then you are delaying your chances to meet a quality man you are compatible with, and increasing your likelihood for [stress, panic and loneliness in the future](https://therationalmale.com/2012/12/19/the-epiphany-phase/). Keep the ideas outlined above in mind and you will have an easier time entering into the right relationship! -P.S. For information on dating strategies tailored to your age/life stage, [read this](https://theredarchive.com/r/RedPillWives/girl-game-for-different-life-stages.210100)! If you are interested in online dating, take a look at [this guide](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4ebgbv/online_dating/)!",,22,ArdentBandicoot,1693862964.0 -RedPillWomen,169i3a2,Face looks too slutty?,"This guy I went on a date with said my face looks slutty and that I’ve got extremely sharp features with a sharp jawline and cheekbones and sharp thin nose. He said these features make me stand out and look unapproachable and it might not be to every guy’s liking. He said I’ve got a slutty pornstar face. He also said it looks like I’ve had plastic surgery because of how striking my face looks but when he looks closely, he can’t find evidence of it. All I’ve had are lip fillers and after I did them people said I’ve changed a lot. What can I do? I’m really really upset by what he said to me. I don’t want to look slutty or too striking. I want to be plain, sweet and conservative looking.",,26,IndustryMountain,1693801959.0 +P.S. For information on dating strategies tailored to your age/life stage, [read this](https://theredarchive.com/r/RedPillWives/girl-game-for-different-life-stages.210100)! If you are interested in online dating, take a look at [this guide](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4ebgbv/online_dating/)!",,22,ArdentBandicoot,2023-09-04 21:29:24 +RedPillWomen,169i3a2,Face looks too slutty?,"This guy I went on a date with said my face looks slutty and that I’ve got extremely sharp features with a sharp jawline and cheekbones and sharp thin nose. He said these features make me stand out and look unapproachable and it might not be to every guy’s liking. He said I’ve got a slutty pornstar face. He also said it looks like I’ve had plastic surgery because of how striking my face looks but when he looks closely, he can’t find evidence of it. All I’ve had are lip fillers and after I did them people said I’ve changed a lot. What can I do? I’m really really upset by what he said to me. I don’t want to look slutty or too striking. I want to be plain, sweet and conservative looking.",,26,IndustryMountain,2023-09-04 04:32:39 RedPillWomen,168ykmo,Clothes: my husband doesn’t buy them for himself; what do I do?,"My husband, doesn’t spend any money on himself, he gives everything to me to organise. This is the norm in his culture (Eastern European) - the woman runs the finances, the man provides the money. I’m at a loss on if I should buy him clothes, he simply wouldn’t even think to buy clothes for himself, when he knows my son and I might need (or even want) something. I worry that buying his clothes makes me like his mother, takes away his masculinity - his right to assert his own taste/style etc. equally if I don’t buy something he walks around looking like a mess/holes/too small-too big clothes/mismatched. -What’s the best approach?",,42,mishkaforest235,1693751606.0 +What’s the best approach?",,42,mishkaforest235,2023-09-03 14:33:26 RedPillWomen,168t9hf,Youth Struggling with Sexual Sin,"Hello everyone, I am really discouraged right now and have been for a while because of my struggle with sexual sin. Please don't read this if you are sensitive to the topic of depression, Christian faith, discouragement, or sexual sin struggles. @@ -4999,7 +4999,7 @@ Just yesterday, I contemplated running away from my college apartment and losing Lord, have mercy on me. I don't know how to bear with this anymore. Any words of advice or encouragement? -",,27,Upper_Put_6790,1693736012.0 +",,27,Upper_Put_6790,2023-09-03 10:13:32 RedPillWomen,168oef9,Do you think it’s really a terrible thing for women to leave unhappy relationships/marriages?,"Maybe it is the hopeless romantic in me speaking or my age and I hope this post is allowed as I know one of the rules of this sub is to not encourage women to leave relationships but I’m curious and I would be interested to hear other women’s thoughts. I’m not married but I would like to be one day. I think my journey to moulding myself into the women I want to be has been a very personal journey. And I know there’s plenty of other women who have done the same. I am in therapy, emotionally available and fully capable of loving a man wholeheartedly and past relationships have always said one thing they miss about being with me is how much they could feel I cared about them/the relationship. I invest a lot, sometimes too much. My biggest fear is investing too many years in a man who will disappoint me. I want to love a man who loves me too, maybe even a little bit more because I think relationships work when the man loves the woman more but that’s not the point I was trying to get at! @@ -5012,7 +5012,7 @@ All of this made me think about how much more beneficial it might be in the long Isn’t it better to leave and create the room and the space to meet the right man, who IS able to give you what you want, instead of trying to force some sort of change out of a man? She mentioned something that rang so true to me, about how the signs are always there, it’s just people choose to ignore them and I believe this. I have done that too. -So yeah, my thoughts are that sometimes it’s better (even more beneficial) to leave than to stay… but I would love to hear other women’s thoughts on this from your personal perspective, since of course no one’s experience is all the same! ☺️",,32,burner4567890,1693718561.0 +So yeah, my thoughts are that sometimes it’s better (even more beneficial) to leave than to stay… but I would love to hear other women’s thoughts on this from your personal perspective, since of course no one’s experience is all the same! ☺️",,32,burner4567890,2023-09-03 05:22:41 RedPillWomen,1699ybx,Pining for a guy who sees me as a friend & is in a fresh relationship. How to deal with the situation as a RPW?,"Hello everyone, I have been a member of this community for many years but I want my account to be free of personal posts. Mods, I hope that’s okay. Okay, here is my dilemma. @@ -5050,7 +5050,7 @@ E) me crushing on him is less about him but about me finally experiencing affect \*\*QUESTION\*\* How do I stop this crush? Is isolating myself and limiting contact the best thing to do? Should I openly tell him what I feel, or would this be seen as weakness from a RPW standpoint? - Why did I believe an RPW woman could get any man if she worked hard enough, yet I don’t know where to start when I could strategize? I feel bad for pining for a guy who is in a relationship. I shouldn’t be feeling like this and I am embarrassed I showed my emotional, vulnerable side and displayed some affection publicly. Has anyone ever wanted to do the wrong thing, just because it felt right?",,0,Candidcanada,1693778999.0 + Why did I believe an RPW woman could get any man if she worked hard enough, yet I don’t know where to start when I could strategize? I feel bad for pining for a guy who is in a relationship. I shouldn’t be feeling like this and I am embarrassed I showed my emotional, vulnerable side and displayed some affection publicly. Has anyone ever wanted to do the wrong thing, just because it felt right?",,0,Candidcanada,2023-09-03 22:09:59 RedPillWomen,168xmoq,Good podcasts with Laura Doyle?,"Hi! First post here, found this community a while back and it’s really been saving my marriage and myself! So first I really want to say thank you to the whole community and the admins! @@ -5068,7 +5068,7 @@ https://youtu.be/atIHFM2n4Vo?si=SjFivbdcrXqTCZx8 So any other podcast like this? -Thanks!",,3,LankyPerception9390,1693749207.0 +Thanks!",,3,LankyPerception9390,2023-09-03 13:53:27 RedPillWomen,167hk5w,Happily Married but Have Imposter Syndrome?,"Throwaway account. I am happily married to my husband for 6 years and we have a new baby boy. Since we started dating, and until now, I have felt insecure about the way other people perceive our relationship dynamic. Both my husband and I come from religious backgrounds and have a very complementary relationship in terms of roles. I am very femine in my appearance and dress (makeup, dresses, long hair styles, smiling often, etc) and, objectively, I have a stronger personality while my husband is more laid back and introverted. We never tussle for power; I respect him and he takes the lead, and we have a very healthy relationship that I'm grateful for. @@ -5079,7 +5079,7 @@ I know I should ignore what people say, but I almost feel like none of the older 2. He steps on my foot - ""don't be afraid to lead her - she will have no choice but to follow if you take charge."" -We both try to be light-hearted when hearing these things but it's gotten so constant I'm wondering if there's some truth to it. My husband says he loves our relationship and doesn't understand why other people think I ""rule"" him. Sigh. Sometimes, I get downright jealous of people who have the Alpha Male/Demure Wife dynamic because that is what gets praised and affirmed. I often feel criticized and need some perspective from the wise ladies on this sub.",,24,Greedy-Pension-607,1693598771.0 +We both try to be light-hearted when hearing these things but it's gotten so constant I'm wondering if there's some truth to it. My husband says he loves our relationship and doesn't understand why other people think I ""rule"" him. Sigh. Sometimes, I get downright jealous of people who have the Alpha Male/Demure Wife dynamic because that is what gets praised and affirmed. I often feel criticized and need some perspective from the wise ladies on this sub.",,24,Greedy-Pension-607,2023-09-01 20:06:11 RedPillWomen,1672w0f,Back To Basics September: Psychological Femininity,"For the entire month of September, we're revisiting some foundational posts in a series designed to serve as an RPW refresher. This week, we're focusing on our sister subreddit, RedPillWives (RPWi), and exploring their wiki. Please note, we are not the original authors of these posts. We'll be offering our insights as both moderators and active community members. Our objective is to provide you with a curated guide that can serve as a cornerstone to understanding RPW principles, while revitalizing some enduring ideas. @@ -5122,14 +5122,14 @@ Now, how does a psychologically feminine woman *actually* behave inside her rela Authentic transformation can only occur if you legitimately want to improve, and put in the requisite effort. Take the time to develop your character and acquire new traits. Don’t get frustrated if it is more difficult than you anticipated, and don’t get conceited if you see the results that you want quickly. -The best way to attract someone of high value is to become someone of high value. This all starts with cultivating a feminine frame of mind, but self-improvement is a lifelong journey.",,66,ArdentBandicoot,1693562429.0 +The best way to attract someone of high value is to become someone of high value. This all starts with cultivating a feminine frame of mind, but self-improvement is a lifelong journey.",,66,ArdentBandicoot,2023-09-01 10:00:29 RedPillWomen,167024v,Alpha widowed after 4 dates,"Help! I only went out with this guy 4 times. Granted he came over twice and we cuddled and kissed on my bed. Everything seemed to be going really well and we had a 5th date planned but then last minute he backed out saying he didn’t know what he wanted and didn’t want to waste my time. This is after we had many conversations about what we wanted, LTR, marriage, kids, etc. I think I fell into a state of limerence. It’s been over a week now since he called it off and I still think about him all the time, look him up online, and feel anxious and a little nauseous about my current dating prospects. He was everything I wanted, great family, good career, connections to buy a house here in Hawaii which is rare since it’s crazy expensive here… we seemed to have a lot in common to connect over as well and good chemistry. I made the mistake of playing a Cardi B song in my car after he told me he liked Nicki Minage. I also made the mistake about taking about how chubby I was so many times and revealing health information I probably didn’t need to disclose. I just feel so disheartened, maybe it’s better to stay single then get into a relationship with someone I really don’t feel great about? But then I think of “marry him, the case for marrying mr. Good enough” and I wonder if I should settle. -For reference, I am 34 but often told I look like I’m in my 20s. He was 32. Is that too young for me? I do want kids but not desperately enough to do IVF or egg freezing/sperm bank or anything like that.",,37,No_Control7023,1693552277.0 +For reference, I am 34 but often told I look like I’m in my 20s. He was 32. Is that too young for me? I do want kids but not desperately enough to do IVF or egg freezing/sperm bank or anything like that.",,37,No_Control7023,2023-09-01 07:11:17 RedPillWomen,166usqg,Back to Basics September: 2023 Introduction Post,"**Ah, September: that magical time when the air begins to crisp, autumn leaves start to whisper, and textbooks open as everyone buckles down ready for a new school year...** Or, in some cases, a hastily realized need to catch up! Who else recalls the back-to-school season as a crash course in remembering all the things forgotten over a sun-soaked summer? Anyone else frantically recalling that summer assignment the moment you walked into class? You’re not alone! @@ -5166,7 +5166,7 @@ We hope you're as excited as we are. Mark your calendars and let's get back to Small note: This post was primarily written by ChatGPT with guidance based on previous years back to basics introduction from LivelyLychee and some minor editing by FastLifePineapple. -Note 2: Back to Basics will see about ~3 posts/week as an adjustment to previous years feedback. We're covering slightly new territory and will have a focus on quality posts that may not cover EVERYTHING in-depth as we would have in previous B2B. You can visit [RPW Back to Basics Mega Compilation](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/13eeakb/rpw_back_to_basics_mega_compilation/) for deeper reading if you want to read through a year where basics were covered thoroughly.",,13,FastLifePineapple,1693535328.0 +Note 2: Back to Basics will see about ~3 posts/week as an adjustment to previous years feedback. We're covering slightly new territory and will have a focus on quality posts that may not cover EVERYTHING in-depth as we would have in previous B2B. You can visit [RPW Back to Basics Mega Compilation](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/13eeakb/rpw_back_to_basics_mega_compilation/) for deeper reading if you want to read through a year where basics were covered thoroughly.",,13,FastLifePineapple,2023-09-01 02:28:48 RedPillWomen,1663h1y,Have you changed anything in your appearance to better your relationship?,"Not talking about weight- I want to keep that one out since I feel like it can be a controversial topic. I mean more on other areas i.e hair, nails, dress style, etc. @@ -5175,7 +5175,7 @@ Lately I’ve been getting lashes(natural classic) and my nails done (short oval We talked about getting hair extensions as he loves the look of thick hair. It was a passing comment not a ‘you must do this’ btw but I do want thicker hair, it’s always been an insecurity of mine and I’ve had extensions in the past. -But now.. I feel almost bad? I have lashes, nails, hair…. Should I feel bad? Lol have you changed anything to give your partner a little treat?",,30,LocalCap5093,1693464375.0 +But now.. I feel almost bad? I have lashes, nails, hair…. Should I feel bad? Lol have you changed anything to give your partner a little treat?",,30,LocalCap5093,2023-08-31 06:46:15 RedPillWomen,165ac2j,Dealing with a man who is ex-criminal who won’t leave that life completely?,"good morning, throwaway account because he looks at my main account. I have started going out with a guy (he is 24, me 25) and he is so sweet with me. We have been seeing each other for about 3 months now and he makes me laugh, makes me feel protected, I see him as a man with such a pure and kind soul. @@ -5209,7 +5209,7 @@ TLDR- Boyfriend says he left criminal lifestyle behind but I am not sure. How to deal with a man in this situation, how to approach the topic with him without accusing him? If he really has distanced himself, how can I express to him I don’t like him hanging out with mafia and ex-convicts without being controlling? -Edit to add context- I know a lot of people will read that he knows criminals and to get away fast, but unfortunately where we live these organisations are very prevalent and basically everyone knows someone who knows someone. I just don’t want him hanging out with people like that.",,10,essereunfiore,1693389303.0 +Edit to add context- I know a lot of people will read that he knows criminals and to get away fast, but unfortunately where we live these organisations are very prevalent and basically everyone knows someone who knows someone. I just don’t want him hanging out with people like that.",,10,essereunfiore,2023-08-30 09:55:03 RedPillWomen,164kun0,"My husband told me that my making him breakfast every day ""changed his life""","I just want to share this positive interaction that surprised me so much I'm still thinking about it days later. I've been making the same breakfast for my husband every day for like a year and a half. Our life together has had many phases and due to work and other responsibilities, I have not played a very traditional role for most of it. @@ -5225,10 +5225,10 @@ I never realized until recently how significant all this is. He told me the other day that my breakfasts changed his life. I was stunned, ""What, changed your life? What do you mean?"" He said that it's delicious and that it's steady and predictable, something to look forward to, makes him more capable of handling the day. This still doesn't sound life changing to me, it's just food! But I accepted his words without challenge and told him I was happy that I could help and we went on to have a great day. -I just want to say to everyone here who finds it so easy to minimize their contributions... they matter more than you can possibly understand. The way you move through your day with gratitude in your heart, the way you let go of resentment and simply do things out of joy and not obligation, that is what makes you incredible and it's value can't be overstated.",,301,FriendCountZero,1693321327.0 +I just want to say to everyone here who finds it so easy to minimize their contributions... they matter more than you can possibly understand. The way you move through your day with gratitude in your heart, the way you let go of resentment and simply do things out of joy and not obligation, that is what makes you incredible and it's value can't be overstated.",,301,FriendCountZero,2023-08-29 15:02:07 RedPillWomen,164yhm3,I cooked for us for the first time yesterday,"Just really proud of myself! Were expecting to be hit by the hurricane soon so fiancee stayed out late on a store run. I knew he would probably be hungry and I am not working quite yet again since I got a new job. We use a meal kit service where it allows us to cook the entire thing ourselves and I did it by myself yesterday—usually we do it together. -I could tell that he was really happy about food being ready when he was home. Just wanted to share that it made me super happy to see him happy. It was actually the first time I ever cooked anything! Yay me!",,22,LoveWitchXo,1693352564.0 +I could tell that he was really happy about food being ready when he was home. Just wanted to share that it made me super happy to see him happy. It was actually the first time I ever cooked anything! Yay me!",,22,LoveWitchXo,2023-08-29 23:42:44 RedPillWomen,164xbte,How to express sympathy without pity?,"I’m in a fairly new relationship, thing are going great and I and am pleased to be getting to know this man better. We were having a conversation about how we had both done therapy in the past, and we were talking about how it would be nice to keep going but it’s expensive lol. @@ -5247,7 +5247,7 @@ Any advice for being a supportive girlfriend towards a masculine man that doesn I don’t pity him but just feel a lot of compassion and want to show up appropriately. Would love to get some insight on how men prefer their emotional side be interacted with. -Thank you!",,9,ailak6798,1693349810.0 +Thank you!",,9,ailak6798,2023-08-29 22:56:50 RedPillWomen,164pmu6,"Ongoing issue with my boyfriend being sharing private info with his parents, he wants to tell them private information I confided in him about my parents","Hi all. I’m 22 and my boyfriend is 26. We’ve been together for around 4 months now. He tells me often how much he adores his parents, which isn’t a bad thing. His parents live abroad and he contacts them everyday. However, I’ve been having an ongoing issue with him for quite some time. He shares alot with his parents, asks them advice. He thinks that they are the best people to ask for advice. @@ -5269,9 +5269,9 @@ Yesterday, I confided in him some private family matters relating to my parents, I really like my boyfriend and we get on great. I’m starting to think about the long term with him. I’m just worried that this issue will be ongoing, or even worsen. I respect his parents, and don’t want to isolate him but I want our own bubble too. My boyfriend has mentioned discussing pregnancy with his mother and down the line if I get pregnant etc I don’t want them to know every detail and be asked for every bit of advice. -What do you think of this ladies? Am I reacting too strong? Is this something he’ll grow out of?",,9,Diamond-pearls21,1693332342.0 -RedPillWomen,164c1tl,I tried using Laura Doyle’s “I apologize for being disrespectful” but my fiancé just replies with “I’ve heard your apology before. Words aren’t meaningful. I’m looking for acknowledgement and action.”,Not quite sure if I should just keep this structure for apologizing. I don’t justify myself with “and” or “but” I say I apologize for being disrespectful when I… and leave it there. What am I doing wrong?,,19,Painting_Passion,1693295798.0 -RedPillWomen,163wrzn,I don’t know what is wrong with me.,In my head I am convinced my partner is a bad person. I create a conflict by being mean or saying something triggering and then when he acts so understanding I want to connect. So then I apologize and he says it’s just words and he needs to see actions. And then I feel scared to lose him. And this cycle continues. It’s especially common when we are long distance. We will be away from each other for a month.,,7,Painting_Passion,1693253883.0 +What do you think of this ladies? Am I reacting too strong? Is this something he’ll grow out of?",,9,Diamond-pearls21,2023-08-29 18:05:42 +RedPillWomen,164c1tl,I tried using Laura Doyle’s “I apologize for being disrespectful” but my fiancé just replies with “I’ve heard your apology before. Words aren’t meaningful. I’m looking for acknowledgement and action.”,Not quite sure if I should just keep this structure for apologizing. I don’t justify myself with “and” or “but” I say I apologize for being disrespectful when I… and leave it there. What am I doing wrong?,,19,Painting_Passion,2023-08-29 07:56:38 +RedPillWomen,163wrzn,I don’t know what is wrong with me.,In my head I am convinced my partner is a bad person. I create a conflict by being mean or saying something triggering and then when he acts so understanding I want to connect. So then I apologize and he says it’s just words and he needs to see actions. And then I feel scared to lose him. And this cycle continues. It’s especially common when we are long distance. We will be away from each other for a month.,,7,Painting_Passion,2023-08-28 20:18:03 RedPillWomen,163dhuf,Hubby's Niece Brought me to Tears Tonight,"Today would have been my mother-in-law's birthday. While she was a very sectarian, Muslim, Arab woman and I am barely Catholic and Filipina/Irish, we became close towards the end of her life because of a shared cancer diagnosis we both received when she was approximately the same age. On her death bed, she instructed my husband to give me her wedding ring, which is how I know we did get close. When he did put it on my ring finger, I knew he was happy that I'd finally ""won her over"", albeit too late. @@ -5282,14 +5282,14 @@ When niece saw me, her eyes lit up and she was *so* happy, even though she had t She relayed this story to me and I told her that she could be an oncologist, but the coursework would take longer than seven years. She said her mother didn't approve of this goal of hers and that hubby told her to pursue her dreams, regardless of what her parents think, to the best of her ability, and she will make it. So, she announced that she wanted to be ""mini-auntie LiteratureOk7716"" loudly. -Hubby got me through cancer and supported me in writing my dissertation. I'm keenly aware that men like him are rare. How do you suggest I encourage our niece, while being a good RPW?",,23,LiteratureOk7716,1693201343.0 +Hubby got me through cancer and supported me in writing my dissertation. I'm keenly aware that men like him are rare. How do you suggest I encourage our niece, while being a good RPW?",,23,LiteratureOk7716,2023-08-28 05:42:23 RedPillWomen,162oo5x,"How do I, 18F, get HVM to take me seriously?","For as long as I can remember, I've wanted to be a homemaker and have a family of my own. This doesn't mean that I want to just laze around and be a trophy wife or something. I also intend to work on my own creative projects and ideally have my own source of income. I'm starting college next semester, and I'd really love to get married, or at least engaged, right after college. However, where I live does present a problem. I live in a big coastal city where people don't really settle down until their 30s and there's not much of a commitment culture. I do find myself drawn to men who are 25+, so I wouldn't mind being in a relationship with a significantly older man. But I am realistic, and I try to evaluate things as much as I can. At my age, I'm not sure whether a man who's, say, 30, would take me seriously. I think a lot of men would just want some fun/a hookup/whatever, simply due to my age. And I have heard of the stereotype of certain kinds of men dating the 'beautiful but poor' young girl and then ultimately marrying women closer to their age who are from their income bracket. I don't consider myself to be particularly beautiful (I do stay healthy and I have feminine features, but I'm also non-white, so that's another complication), and my family is middle-class, but I am concerned the stereotype will hold true. I'm also very inexperienced. I've never had an irl relationship before, and as it stands, I'm not even sure where I should be meeting the kind of men I want to marry. My mother goes to church, but it's a very liberal church where a lot of people are professionals and would definitely be frowned upon for dating younger. My biggest hobbies are reading (mostly sci fi and fantasy), writing, gaming, and fitness, and I'm also considering joining a local DnD club, so I guess it's possible I could meet men through these things we have in common? I'd just really love some advice from women who have more life experience, because I do feel kind of clueless right now. -Thanks in advance!",,29,[deleted],1693137979.0 +Thanks in advance!",,29,[deleted],2023-08-27 12:06:19 RedPillWomen,162cbzs,My boyfriend saved a nude photo from a subreddit dedicated to nudes,"My boyfriend (M26) and I (F25) have been friends and casually dating for 5 months, and we've been in a relationship for just almost a month. He playfully took a picture of me while we were eating dinner, and I thought I looked unprepared in the picture, so I told him to delete it from his gallery and also from the trash. While he was deleting it from the trash, he immediately hid his phone. I didn't think much of it as I didn't really see anything. But then he confessed that he had saved some nudes he ""accidentally"" downloaded from a subreddit for curvy women. He said he deleted them two months ago, which is why they were in the trash. @@ -5300,14 +5300,14 @@ However, when I went home, I realized that on Android phones, deleted photos in Now, I feel sad. He's a really great boyfriend and truly loves me. We're each other's first relationship. We have been intimate but haven't tried penetration. -I don't know what to do. Should I confront him?",,17,Ayalabang,1693098121.0 +I don't know what to do. Should I confront him?",,17,Ayalabang,2023-08-27 01:02:01 RedPillWomen,162arm0,Tips to reignite lust?,"Things are well in my marriage. My husband says he’s never been happier. And things are good for me too. But we haven’t had carnal lustiness since our second was born. We were so tired that it was off the radar and I’m feeling like I’m getting back into a normal rhythm and really missing it. I have really leveled up my exercise and beauty routine. My skin and hair are lustrous, I have a great sleep scheduled, exercise in a way that’s really flattering to my shape, and hornier than ever for my husband who seems more in the quickie mentality (that’s all we could really do for so long with little kids). So ladies, what have you done that brought back the spark? Sex is satisfying but I miss his pursuit and the tension we used to have build between us. -I feel like I have been directly trying pretty hard and need to step back and let him pursue. But I am at a loss at what additional feminine tricks I can use to catch his gaze. Any advice is welcome.",,18,SecretFeminine,1693093931.0 +I feel like I have been directly trying pretty hard and need to step back and let him pursue. But I am at a loss at what additional feminine tricks I can use to catch his gaze. Any advice is welcome.",,18,SecretFeminine,2023-08-26 23:52:11 RedPillWomen,162691i,Is fiancé hinting that he wants an orgy or am I reading too much into it??,"A few months ago my fiancé and I were talking about renting a cabin for his birthday. And he said he would love to have fun, eat food and have orgies and then laughed. I felt a chill. Is he joking or was he serious? Today (a few months later) he sent me this meme with a photo of a dog looking at three alapacas with a sad face having sex with the tag “Some days you just feel like a dog at an alapaca orgy.” It triggered my fear again. @@ -5316,8 +5316,8 @@ I don’t know if he was just joking those two times (months between them) or he I’m also insecure because that’s the type of porn I like to sometimes watch and I’m afraid I won’t say no if he asked. And I also don’t know if I’m just projecting. -I don’t want to ask him for fear I’ll come across controlling so trying to work through my own anxieties first.",,14,Painting_Passion,1693082964.0 -RedPillWomen,1627f9r,I'm really akward around men,"I'm not sure if this is the right sub for this, if it is not i apologize and please let me know where I can post this. I am a 19 year old girl (will be 20 by November). And i don't know how to relate with men, I've never had a boyfriend, never had sex. I am relatively attractive, I have a very nice body too, although sometimes i see this as a disadvantage because men are always overly sexual with me and i don't like it at all, I feel they don't actually like me just my body. What made me m make this post is last night a friend asked to take me for a walk (I'm a freshman in college) and show me around, and it got to a point we sat down somewhere and he started talking about how big my bum is and all those other sexual stuff and it made me so uncomfortable but i could not say anything and i really hate it cause i feel he took that as me being okay with it. Also generally I don't know why having sexual conversations with men irks me so bad, it makes me uncomfortable but i want it, I know it doesn't make sense but I want to have sex I want to talk dirty i want to do all sort of things but i can't get myself to do them. Another question i have(for people in relationships) did you have to ignore some things in your partners or they were everything you've been looking for, cause every time i think I've found ""the one"" something just always comes up and makes me not want them anymore, I feel I'm being too picky",,11,Remarkable_Can_1829,1693085685.0 +I don’t want to ask him for fear I’ll come across controlling so trying to work through my own anxieties first.",,14,Painting_Passion,2023-08-26 20:49:24 +RedPillWomen,1627f9r,I'm really akward around men,"I'm not sure if this is the right sub for this, if it is not i apologize and please let me know where I can post this. I am a 19 year old girl (will be 20 by November). And i don't know how to relate with men, I've never had a boyfriend, never had sex. I am relatively attractive, I have a very nice body too, although sometimes i see this as a disadvantage because men are always overly sexual with me and i don't like it at all, I feel they don't actually like me just my body. What made me m make this post is last night a friend asked to take me for a walk (I'm a freshman in college) and show me around, and it got to a point we sat down somewhere and he started talking about how big my bum is and all those other sexual stuff and it made me so uncomfortable but i could not say anything and i really hate it cause i feel he took that as me being okay with it. Also generally I don't know why having sexual conversations with men irks me so bad, it makes me uncomfortable but i want it, I know it doesn't make sense but I want to have sex I want to talk dirty i want to do all sort of things but i can't get myself to do them. Another question i have(for people in relationships) did you have to ignore some things in your partners or they were everything you've been looking for, cause every time i think I've found ""the one"" something just always comes up and makes me not want them anymore, I feel I'm being too picky",,11,Remarkable_Can_1829,2023-08-26 21:34:45 RedPillWomen,161wgyl,My realization about male and female friendships.,"Tdlr: my male best friend mistreated and broke up with his longtime gf when I moved back in town. I overlooked some weird comments he’s made at me but thought everything through last night. This made me realize that having a straight male best friend is not always healthy. I 23f, have a male best friend who’s been my friend since 16. Never tried to kiss me once nor hugged me for more than 2 seconds, always a side hug. He knows so much about me and vice versa. I started to view him like a family member and never developed any feelings. I moved overseas with parents at 17 and returned to our city (leaving parents behind) when I was 21. Which makes the majority of our interactions online. @@ -5349,13 +5349,13 @@ I’ve started to make more female friendships the past year and I feel so much I want to be in a serious relationship, and I know that a serious man would be uncomfortable with me having a male best friend who isn’t related to me. Looked up a couple videos on YouTube, and a man said in these types of friendships, the man is too scared to be upfront and would rather wait for the woman to slip up one day. Some may wait for a decade, with the agenda remaining in their head the whole time.. -Thank you for reading my rant. This was a lot to unpack, I wish I realized sooner.",,28,anonavocado0,1693059556.0 -RedPillWomen,162bgrt,Red Flag,"Would it be a red flag if a guy you have been dating and like mentioned he was previously in an open relationship (that he suggested, and seemed to like)? Why, or why not?",,4,[deleted],1693095738.0 +Thank you for reading my rant. This was a lot to unpack, I wish I realized sooner.",,28,anonavocado0,2023-08-26 14:19:16 +RedPillWomen,162bgrt,Red Flag,"Would it be a red flag if a guy you have been dating and like mentioned he was previously in an open relationship (that he suggested, and seemed to like)? Why, or why not?",,4,[deleted],2023-08-27 00:22:18 RedPillWomen,161hhse,Is complete vulnerability a relationship killer?,"Hey ladies, I’ve had this theory for awhile now and I’m curious what you guys think about it. So I notice that in a lot of long-term relationships, eventually people start farting around each other, they start leaving the door open when they go to the bathroom, they may “let themselves go” for the lack of a better term. Most people I see say that this is a GOOD thing because it shows you love someone unconditionally and that you are being vulnerable. But I had a long-term relationship that became like that and I feel like it really killed the passion.. because a lot of what makes passion is the mystery, the excitement. For example I notice when me and my boyfriend go and do NEW things it’s almost like both of our sex drives is suddenly on high. When I see him in a new environment and bond together through that it’s like I see him how I saw him when I first met him. -Now it’s of course unrealistic to always new things with your partner because daily life is boring. Go to work, come home, rinse & repeat. But this makes me so sad because I remember the excitement of the beginning, doing things together all the time, feeling excited on knowing more about them.. feeling that PASSION. Being afraid to fart around each other, lol. So anyway I’ve tried to NOT be too vulnerable with my boyfriend in this way. And I wonder sometimes if this is unhealthy. What do you guys think?",,26,Simple_Basket_8224,1693013299.0 +Now it’s of course unrealistic to always new things with your partner because daily life is boring. Go to work, come home, rinse & repeat. But this makes me so sad because I remember the excitement of the beginning, doing things together all the time, feeling excited on knowing more about them.. feeling that PASSION. Being afraid to fart around each other, lol. So anyway I’ve tried to NOT be too vulnerable with my boyfriend in this way. And I wonder sometimes if this is unhealthy. What do you guys think?",,26,Simple_Basket_8224,2023-08-26 01:28:19 RedPillWomen,161dqcx,Fiance Doesn’t Support Career,"Update/Edit: Thank you to all who have offered kindness and advice. After a lot of talks, I have learned that he would not expect me to work full time AND be a mom full time. If anything, we would have a nanny. I am still struggling to get him to understand burnout and how it affects me in regards to school and choosing to work in a field simply for the high-pay and benefits. But I have increased my self-care and the days are becoming a little more manageable, so I would like to offer many thanks to those who have responded thus far. @@ -5370,17 +5370,17 @@ We are both in our 30s, he is in IT and I work in the entertainment and hospital I am at a loss. He is distant, I am depressed. All I do is work, I am burnt out, I have no passion for any of my hobbies, and now I’m trying to get into a good school so that I can study full time on top of my full time job. I’m basically being told what I can do vs what I can’t do to shoulder my portion of our future income together, and I just don’t know what to do anymore or how to approach it with him in a way that showcases the love and respect I have for him. This has come up three times with me in tears, and I don’t know if it’s something to swallow and simply push through like millions of others do daily. -Thank you for reading.",,10,sailorcrystal,1693003508.0 -RedPillWomen,16134et,Photo accuracy?,How accurate are photos compared to real life? Online I kind of get treated like I look a lot worse and very differently to real life where people do treat me well: men and women both generally treat me well or are nice to me but how do I know how I really look? Is there a way to know? I have a distorted perception of myself. If my pictures are all bad then surely I can’t be THAT much better in real life? Like if I was really that good then my pictures shouldn’t really be bad? They should be average at best; not below average if I was that good.,,4,IndustryMountain,1692978924.0 +Thank you for reading.",,10,sailorcrystal,2023-08-25 22:45:08 +RedPillWomen,16134et,Photo accuracy?,How accurate are photos compared to real life? Online I kind of get treated like I look a lot worse and very differently to real life where people do treat me well: men and women both generally treat me well or are nice to me but how do I know how I really look? Is there a way to know? I have a distorted perception of myself. If my pictures are all bad then surely I can’t be THAT much better in real life? Like if I was really that good then my pictures shouldn’t really be bad? They should be average at best; not below average if I was that good.,,4,IndustryMountain,2023-08-25 15:55:24 RedPillWomen,160gf16,My boyfriend doesn't give me compliments but he does to other people,"Long story short, my bf is not the type of man that gives lots of compliments. He doesn't realize if I wear beautiful clothing and of course he never says that I'm pretty or that he likes me. Point is that I've realized that he gives compliments easily to the other women of his life, his friends and even strangers. This really impresses me because when I told him that I needed these words of affirmation from him, he told me that he's just not good with words. -What can I do? I need his compliments to feel loved but asking for it is embarrassing? I don't feel attractive anymore, as if I wasn't enough for him.",,24,starswhenushine,1692916084.0 +What can I do? I need his compliments to feel loved but asking for it is embarrassing? I don't feel attractive anymore, as if I wasn't enough for him.",,24,starswhenushine,2023-08-24 22:28:04 RedPillWomen,160bq5e,Emotional/sexual connection,"Hi ladies, Been reflecting a bit upon my (F26) and my husband's (M33) relationship and the fluctuation between emotional connection vs sexual connection. Has anyone had the situation that where you feel more emotionally connected to your partner, you tend to feel less sexually connected and vice versa? -I'm not yet certain this is how it is, but the thought crossed my mind and it raised the question if it could be the case.",,5,svenifer,1692905533.0 +I'm not yet certain this is how it is, but the thought crossed my mind and it raised the question if it could be the case.",,5,svenifer,2023-08-24 19:32:13 RedPillWomen,1604hu9,Spearmint tea for hormonal acne?,"I’m a 26 yr old woman looking into taking spearmint tea along side 100mg of spironolactone to help treat my hormonal acne. If any of you have trial and errored with treating hormonal acne I’d appreciate your response. What dosage or how many spearmint capsules per day worked well for you? @@ -5409,8 +5409,8 @@ I’ve been on 100g of spiro for three months and its taking care of most my acn I’m also thinking I should maybe chat with an endocrinologist about checking hormones but that won’t be happening anytime soon. -I’ve also heard vitamin d and Indole 3-Carbinol/DIM supplements were a good way to help with hormonal acne, has anybody experimented with that?",,2,windpearl2,1692889561.0 -RedPillWomen,15zqcru,How to bring up issues without making him feel as if he isn’t doing enough,"This is a huge thing I’ve struggled with in all of my romantic relationships. I have a hard time deciding on when it’s a good time to bring up something that’s been bothering me, & often when I do it ends in my partners feeling as if they are not good enough, or aren’t doing enough. I don’t want them to feel this way & I am not sure how I can handle these issues differently that would result in them still feeling appreciated & respected. Do you ladies have any insight on how to gracefully handle this? Thank you so much!",,13,Simple_Basket_8224,1692848327.0 +I’ve also heard vitamin d and Indole 3-Carbinol/DIM supplements were a good way to help with hormonal acne, has anybody experimented with that?",,2,windpearl2,2023-08-24 15:06:01 +RedPillWomen,15zqcru,How to bring up issues without making him feel as if he isn’t doing enough,"This is a huge thing I’ve struggled with in all of my romantic relationships. I have a hard time deciding on when it’s a good time to bring up something that’s been bothering me, & often when I do it ends in my partners feeling as if they are not good enough, or aren’t doing enough. I don’t want them to feel this way & I am not sure how I can handle these issues differently that would result in them still feeling appreciated & respected. Do you ladies have any insight on how to gracefully handle this? Thank you so much!",,13,Simple_Basket_8224,2023-08-24 03:38:47 RedPillWomen,15z80km,What’s the Matter with Men? New Yorker article,"https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2023/01/30/whats-the-matter-with-men? Interesting article I came across this morning. Curious about your ladies’ takes on this. @@ -5419,11 +5419,11 @@ While I recognize RPW values/lifestyle aren’t for everyone (I pick and choose It’s crazy to me that the ideas of respecting our male partners, putting in effort to meet their needs, and working as a team are dismissed by so many women as un-feminist. I mean - isn’t that what we expect from our partners? Why wouldn’t we expect to reciprocate? -Writing off any group and ignoring their struggles just further alienates us ALL from each other, the predicament in this article is exhibit a. Men and women alike are missing out on happiness and peace by buying into the deeply individualist values we are messaged by the dominant culture, and it’s eroding society’s ability to function. 🙁",,37,beautyandbravo,1692806505.0 +Writing off any group and ignoring their struggles just further alienates us ALL from each other, the predicament in this article is exhibit a. Men and women alike are missing out on happiness and peace by buying into the deeply individualist values we are messaged by the dominant culture, and it’s eroding society’s ability to function. 🙁",,37,beautyandbravo,2023-08-23 16:01:45 RedPillWomen,15z4yb3,Great Book on Anxious Attachment I just Read,"I just finished reading this Book, ""Anxious and Full of Love"" on Amazon I really enjoyed it! I think it's a great book for anxious attachers like myself and most of us in this group. Disclosure I did not write the book of course but I know the author I met once and sharing her new book. -https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CFZHRR8Z",,15,ireallyloveoats,1692799638.0 -RedPillWomen,15z9vaz,Can definetly recommend listening to some tunes to make cleaning less boring :) Nature Ambience does it for me (to counter the stress),This is what I usually use but there are plenty of playlists out there: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7jtAizfBmzHFAOQvmOKldK,,6,TheTownJeweler,1692810357.0 +https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CFZHRR8Z",,15,ireallyloveoats,2023-08-23 14:07:18 +RedPillWomen,15z9vaz,Can definetly recommend listening to some tunes to make cleaning less boring :) Nature Ambience does it for me (to counter the stress),This is what I usually use but there are plenty of playlists out there: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7jtAizfBmzHFAOQvmOKldK,,6,TheTownJeweler,2023-08-23 17:05:57 RedPillWomen,15yuq3a,Lies promoted hy egalitarian culture that ultimately hurt women,"There are a lot of lies promoted hy egalitarian culture that are well-intentioned but ultimately harmful for women. 1) ""Having periods doesn't make women weak"". @@ -5444,7 +5444,7 @@ Reality: A lot of women in their 40s struggle to conceive and have to resort to 5) ""Women who are trained can overpower men"" -Reality: Most women even with training cannot overpower grown men. This myth encourages women to pick fights they cannot win.",,39,Novel-Tip-7570,1692769757.0 +Reality: Most women even with training cannot overpower grown men. This myth encourages women to pick fights they cannot win.",,39,Novel-Tip-7570,2023-08-23 05:49:17 RedPillWomen,15z09n2,"""I told you so""?","In Surrendered Wife, Laura says never tell your man 'I told you so!' when you were right about something. But what's the appropriate alternative, in the cases that you were right? Recently my bf and I had several casual disagreements wherein he insists that A is true, but if I am well studied in that area I happen to know that B is true. I study something that comes up a lot in daily conversations, but people who don't study it have plenty of misconceptions about. @@ -5461,22 +5461,22 @@ My ex told me that he felt insecure to talk with me about this topic because I k I know that if my boyfriend thinks of me as 'always right' over him he might feel emasculated. What should I do? -TLDR; I don't say ""I told you so!"" but he says ""Oh honey you are always right!"" and that is kind of feeding into the same energy!",,6,flower_power_g1rl,1692787668.0 -RedPillWomen,15yo3y1,Husband keeps showing me and my children videos of women doing face contouring.,"My husband keeps showing me and the kids videos of women doing face contouring and joking in a mean spirited way that women are shape-shifters. He tells the boys (in front of me), “do not forget this boys: all women are shape-shifters” and laughs and shows them the video. I am very feminine and only wear skirts and dresses. I don’t know how I can possibly become more feminine. I know there is something I can do differently to help or to make myself not feel bad when he does this. I am open to “mind tricks” and any all helpful tips and advice. Not saying I’m feminine to ward off emotional attacks- just because I need you to know what a loss I am at with this. Maybe there is something I can change, do, do differently, etc. please help.",,21,LenoraAshmoreB,1692751175.0 +TLDR; I don't say ""I told you so!"" but he says ""Oh honey you are always right!"" and that is kind of feeding into the same energy!",,6,flower_power_g1rl,2023-08-23 10:47:48 +RedPillWomen,15yo3y1,Husband keeps showing me and my children videos of women doing face contouring.,"My husband keeps showing me and the kids videos of women doing face contouring and joking in a mean spirited way that women are shape-shifters. He tells the boys (in front of me), “do not forget this boys: all women are shape-shifters” and laughs and shows them the video. I am very feminine and only wear skirts and dresses. I don’t know how I can possibly become more feminine. I know there is something I can do differently to help or to make myself not feel bad when he does this. I am open to “mind tricks” and any all helpful tips and advice. Not saying I’m feminine to ward off emotional attacks- just because I need you to know what a loss I am at with this. Maybe there is something I can change, do, do differently, etc. please help.",,21,LenoraAshmoreB,2023-08-23 00:39:35 RedPillWomen,15yz4bm,Heart Messages Help,"I am reading Laura Doyle’s book, Surrendered Wife, and have come across the chapter on heart messages. I’m having trouble finding what my husband is trying to tell me, and I want to be able to respond appropriately. Last night, he was putting our toddler down for bed, and I was getting our newborn through the witching hour (which has been really hard these last couple of weeks). The dog came down to the basemenT, where me and the newborn were and started running around, squeaking his chew toy, and made the newborn cry louder. Unfortunately, the dog doesn’t listen to me at all, so my husband came down after putting the toddler down and got the dog to stop. He was annoyed and was like “everything you do becomes my problem, useless.” I do, do things around the house and when we are in a good space he will say that I am a good mom or I do keep the house organized, etc. We had been arguing that day already, because I’m on maternity leave and he says I have two jobs: take care of the kids and take care of the house. I do take care of the kids and the house is very well organized so I didn’t understand why he kept saying it, I asked him to provide more information on what I wasn’t doing, and he said I need to calm down and be less anxious. Ultimately, I responded to “Ouch” last night and he went off and did his own thing. I left him alone, didn’t argue. He slept on the couch, and I want to this morning be able to build intimacy back, and try to say what he is getting at. Is he wanting to be more appreciated? This morning at breakfast do I say - I really appreciate all of the work you put in and do for our family. We wouldn’t function without you around to help out. Or am I missing what the heart message actually is? -Thanks!",,4,Fair_Farmer_236,1692784173.0 +Thanks!",,4,Fair_Farmer_236,2023-08-23 09:49:33 RedPillWomen,15ycs4x,Boyfriend won’t let me do things for him,"We love each other very much and recently he planned a surprise birthday trip for me- he makes me feel like such a princess/queen. It was a 6 hour drive and on our trip there, we swapped half way. On our way back, I was tired & took a short nap but was awake for the majority of the ride. I asked him a couple times if I should drive and he mentioned later or the next pit stop. The next pit stop comes around and I ask him again and he tells me that he can do it. This is just a small example, it’s happened repeatedly where I’d want to do something for him because I love him but he would refuse to receive it for whatever the reason. Just today we didn’t meal prep and I offered to order him lunch since he has a really important meeting today- but he told me he’d do it himself. I’m not working much so finances are a bit tight for me but it was something I wanted to do for him. -Do I continue to let him do this or should I just do the things I want to do to show him my love rather than asking for permission first. Or any alternative thoughts?",,21,Any_Citron9272,1692725839.0 +Do I continue to let him do this or should I just do the things I want to do to show him my love rather than asking for permission first. Or any alternative thoughts?",,21,Any_Citron9272,2023-08-22 17:37:19 RedPillWomen,15yc5ok,Boyfriend upset with how I have handled an interaction with a man - advice needed!,"Hi ladies, I’m hoping for a little advice! I’m fairly new to RPW and still feeling my way through it, please bear with me if it’s a little long! My boyfriend and I are both 31. I’ve recently moved to a new area and I’m looking to start church here and to do an Alpha course - I’m very curious about Christianity and am wanting to delve deeper. I live in a small village and there’s only one person who runs the Alpha course. Unfortunately for me, this man fancies me and has made passing advances in the past. As he runs the course and is active in the church - he was my port of call to ask questions about upcoming courses and church here…. He made a pass at me again and said that he will take me to church as ‘no-one should go to church on their own for the first time’. It seemed innocent enough but I know his history with me. @@ -5485,12 +5485,12 @@ I felt uncomfortable with the interaction and immediately brought it to my boyfr How do I handle this? AITA?! Please help!! -Thank you for reading this far, I know it seems trivial but I’m really rubbish with confrontation.",,7,emmyverve,1692724523.0 +Thank you for reading this far, I know it seems trivial but I’m really rubbish with confrontation.",,7,emmyverve,2023-08-22 17:15:23 RedPillWomen,15y4msq,Surrendered Wife or Fascinating Womanhood?,"Now, I'm FW through and through - been following the principles for over 10 years - but Laura Doyle seems to be mentioned here a lot. Are they similar? Would both work together? -Tempted to add to my Wife Library! ",,8,homekeepingheart,1692707893.0 +Tempted to add to my Wife Library! ",,8,homekeepingheart,2023-08-22 12:38:13 RedPillWomen,15xyb5u,How to plan on managing our finances with our future spouse?,"After the whole period of courting and dating,…when a couple finally decide to get married, the obvious topic of money cannot be ignored. So,… @@ -5499,17 +5499,17 @@ When should a couple in love, ideally start having the discussion about money? L Also,…how to broach the topic of prenup agreement while dating, without offending the person we love? -Please guide!!!",,6,GlamarousInGivenchy,1692689331.0 +Please guide!!!",,6,GlamarousInGivenchy,2023-08-22 07:28:51 RedPillWomen,15xb1he,I’m considering quitting studying for a prestigious job but worried that my boyfriend will split up with me for it,"I’m 22 and my boyfriend is 26. I’ve heard that men like to boast about their girlfriend/wives jobs. I’m training to be a healthcare professional. I am very gentle natured, and I feel it is a hard job to manage. I get extremely exhausted and I have to have responsibility too, which doesn’t bode well as I feel I could make mistakes, especially towards the end of a working day when I get very tired. Although I love being at home doing chores, I don’t want to shy away from work, I feel like I want a job with less responsibility. I may push myself to finish to get the degree at at least( I have another year left). I’m a dancer on the side which brings in some extra money. I am always cleaning, cooking for my boyfriend and I feel I give a lot in the relationship. -I’m scared that he will think less of me and respect me less. How do you feel about this? Would guys look on their girlfriend in a bad way? I know that I would also disappoint my mother, I just really don’t feel good",,14,Diamond-pearls21,1692632054.0 +I’m scared that he will think less of me and respect me less. How do you feel about this? Would guys look on their girlfriend in a bad way? I know that I would also disappoint my mother, I just really don’t feel good",,14,Diamond-pearls21,2023-08-21 15:34:14 RedPillWomen,15xd1no,Home sick today and reading “The Surrendered Single”. What are your thoughts on Laura Doyle’s work?,"I’m not single, I’m in a relationship with someone who I hope one day becomes my husband. I’m reading this book to improve my overall sense of self when it comes to relationships. -What are your thoughts on Laura Doyle?",,5,fossacecak,1692636537.0 +What are your thoughts on Laura Doyle?",,5,fossacecak,2023-08-21 16:48:57 RedPillWomen,15xjzd5,Help me understand if I'm compatible with my man?,"Note: Long post not sure if shorting it will help here. Please note both of us are autistic and don't have much dating experiences. I'm 26 and he's 25. We have similar interests and likes. We've got political stuff in common,but have thing's we disagree with; but he's not into politics that much (except for guns)(Not sure if this is important info, and I'm not really judging, I just want to cover all my bases. He has a best friend who was in an abusive relationship for years and is an a super super serious relationship in under three months. I wonder if this is clouding his judgement? If not important or does not matter, let me know. I see it as a reason as to why he acts like this.) @@ -5518,8 +5518,8 @@ On our third date which was 6 weeks after the first one he opened up to me about I've been with a guy for 5 months but have only about 24-30 hours of dating time. He is really infatuated with me and was moving things super fast and with not many dates wanted to be very serious relationship level. I told him I'm still in the very beginning and he's at stages ahead of me. I told him it's going to be awhile for me. He's fine with it but, doesn't do the engagement stage leading up to marriage and sees it as fluff. So if I do go serious with him I feel like I practically will have to marry him tomorrow. How I'm I suppose to understand what time frame I'm supposed to be at to know if we'll work out? I don't want to drag my feet, but at the same time I feel pressured. Everyone says it will work out, that I'll somehow know? All my young friends and family are purple to blue pilled, while the older ones are think it's to complicated, unneeded or don't about it. So I want a red pill woman (or man lurker) perspective. I've been sitting with this for two weeks and I'm still unsure. -Do I keep dating him long term and if no feelings become stronger commit and hope I do get stronger feelings? Do I hope that getting married and kid's will shoot up to his level? I feel like this may be the only chance I get before the wall happens.",,2,Alethra,1692651687.0 -RedPillWomen,15wyh10,Date night instapot/air frier ideas??,I live in a studio apartment with no oven and (currently) no microwave! I do have an instapot duo crisp with an air frier feature. Need something simple and fairly quick that will still impress my dates when I invite them for a home cooked meal. I’m a good cook but feel a little lost without a stove. Any ideas appreciated!!,,5,No_Control7023,1692596418.0 +Do I keep dating him long term and if no feelings become stronger commit and hope I do get stronger feelings? Do I hope that getting married and kid's will shoot up to his level? I feel like this may be the only chance I get before the wall happens.",,2,Alethra,2023-08-21 21:01:27 +RedPillWomen,15wyh10,Date night instapot/air frier ideas??,I live in a studio apartment with no oven and (currently) no microwave! I do have an instapot duo crisp with an air frier feature. Need something simple and fairly quick that will still impress my dates when I invite them for a home cooked meal. I’m a good cook but feel a little lost without a stove. Any ideas appreciated!!,,5,No_Control7023,2023-08-21 05:40:18 RedPillWomen,15wmb4v,I dont motivate him,"My boyfriend told me I dont motivate him. I'm not entirely sure what he meant but he did mention some people that motivate him. What the two people (His brother and a female friend) have in common is they are absolute go getters. They are very relentless in going after what they want and don't excuse themselves for anything. They breath, live and eat consistency and they have a lot to show for it. He greatly respects abd admires them and he is them to an extent. I, on the other hand, tend to get easily overwhelmed and am not very good at following through and sticking to my goals. Having ADHD doesn't help. He is constantly preaching consistency to me and I have improved but not at the pace he expects. Whenever he says he is tired, instead of me asking him to do more, as he does for me, I remind him of how much he has aready done and accomplished and encourage him to take a break and rest a while. @@ -5533,7 +5533,7 @@ I personally feel like I can improve by being a bit more consistent. But I also Edit: Thank you so much for your responses. I have been a tad too occupied to respond but I am grateful for taking your time to weigh in and give some solid advice. -I am waiting till our nect face to face date so that I can ask him what he meant.",,18,melon_madness,1692564054.0 +I am waiting till our nect face to face date so that I can ask him what he meant.",,18,melon_madness,2023-08-20 20:40:54 RedPillWomen,15wka81,Work Travel Blues…,"Hey, all! Quasi-vent/request for some advice… @@ -5548,10 +5548,10 @@ The kids are getting into real upper-elementary school, and it’s a big step up What is the next move when you feel like your about to drown/go under? What have been the most impactful ways you have gotten things off your plate? Was it meal kits? A housekeeper? A driver to get the kids to and from school? A dog walker? We can afford these things… I’ve always just taken such great pride in doing it “myself”/being super woman/“doing it all”, and I’m not sure how to start in terms of outsourcing any of it. What high impact services could you suggest to help give me back some margin with a good value-per-dollar? -Appreciate any help/support, or just a kind word!!",,5,Scared-Tea-8911,1692559303.0 -RedPillWomen,15w39ru,Respect,"Ok, I know all men we make our Partner are to be considered an authority that is to be respected. But is it not true that respectability is something that men need to show? Are we just heaping respect on them to placate them? Rewarding mediocre character with our very life and love? I am massively struggling with the deep and all-encompassing respect. I was raised to respect the respectable and RECEIVE respect by those around me for being respectable. And the flip side: Do the men we respect truly love us? Show us they live in a way we recognize? Most so it just their own way, not caring if we see it because „ma masculinity“ ? Should we not be wayyy more selective with our respect? Our praise and support? Because reading MRP no man there sees women as human beings, just holes for fucking and emotional gratification on their terms. Massive Manipulation is used against us women! To mold us into perfect robots that cook, fuck and adore. ",,7,Such_Beginning_1629,1692511729.0 -RedPillWomen,15w8l28,My (29F) husband (31M) got mad and left me on a Café for a trivial reason,"Yesterday me and my husband went to have lunch as this is the only day we eat outside, he suggested a junk food while I suggested dine in restaurants (I explained to him MULTIPLE times that since I cook everyday and don’t go to restaurants with my friends because I’m on a diet and it’s the only day we eat out, we should eat at least a decent meal) so I insisted (gently) and so we went to a restaurant and he was okay and he liked the menu but suddenly he got mad out of nowhere and said he wouldn’t eat and when we left to a cafe so we could finish our work he dropped me off the car and said he would finish some work (he was mad), at this point I couldn’t resist so I left the cafe that he left me in and walked to another place, later on he called me and asked me where am I and I was really frustrated and crying that why he is punishing me? He did a similar thing last time and I asked him if he wants to get rid of me or if he felt bored, he tried to be kind but never apologized and when we talked I told him that I hate when he would punish me for trivial reasons, he said that I’m always nagging and only look on the negative side and he said that he hates that I’m a cold person and I’m very slow when I’m getting ready and when I cook (excuse me?? Then why you don’t help me?) today we have two tickets to go see a movie but I don’t feel comfortable going out with him again after feeling criticized and judged. Anyway we agreed to see a therapist but I don’t know while we wait.",,1,Constant-Ride-6660,1692529612.0 -RedPillWomen,15va9qe,I think I'm failing pretty hard,"I need some help. My husband and I both agree with the captain/first mate relationship philosophy, but I seem to have a problem with fully letting go and letting him lead properly. Sometimes I'll ask for an explanation to his decision until I have enougn info to agree with him before accepting what he says. Sometimes it'll just be a reaction to question him. I desperately want to be a good wife and follow his lead, but I seem to fail him more than I'd like to. He says he thinks I don't fully trust him and respect him as a leader. Intellectually and logically I absolutely do. He is an amazing husband and father who has proven himself time and time again. So why do I do this? It isn't all the time, but it's definitely more frequently than we're both happy with. I do experience anxiety, so letting go of all of the little ""what ifs"" can be a challenge for me. But why can't his voice be a reassurance that I don't need to worry about all of those what ifs? I feel ashamed for failing him and myself. A recent instance popped up and we've both been speaking about it, and I thought I'd reach out to you ladies for your thoughts. Have any of you struggled with this and how have you overcome it? Needless to say, the situation is deeply upsetting for the both of us. Am I just not cut out to be a good wife?",,22,FancyPants882,1692433067.0 +Appreciate any help/support, or just a kind word!!",,5,Scared-Tea-8911,2023-08-20 19:21:43 +RedPillWomen,15w39ru,Respect,"Ok, I know all men we make our Partner are to be considered an authority that is to be respected. But is it not true that respectability is something that men need to show? Are we just heaping respect on them to placate them? Rewarding mediocre character with our very life and love? I am massively struggling with the deep and all-encompassing respect. I was raised to respect the respectable and RECEIVE respect by those around me for being respectable. And the flip side: Do the men we respect truly love us? Show us they live in a way we recognize? Most so it just their own way, not caring if we see it because „ma masculinity“ ? Should we not be wayyy more selective with our respect? Our praise and support? Because reading MRP no man there sees women as human beings, just holes for fucking and emotional gratification on their terms. Massive Manipulation is used against us women! To mold us into perfect robots that cook, fuck and adore. ",,7,Such_Beginning_1629,2023-08-20 06:08:49 +RedPillWomen,15w8l28,My (29F) husband (31M) got mad and left me on a Café for a trivial reason,"Yesterday me and my husband went to have lunch as this is the only day we eat outside, he suggested a junk food while I suggested dine in restaurants (I explained to him MULTIPLE times that since I cook everyday and don’t go to restaurants with my friends because I’m on a diet and it’s the only day we eat out, we should eat at least a decent meal) so I insisted (gently) and so we went to a restaurant and he was okay and he liked the menu but suddenly he got mad out of nowhere and said he wouldn’t eat and when we left to a cafe so we could finish our work he dropped me off the car and said he would finish some work (he was mad), at this point I couldn’t resist so I left the cafe that he left me in and walked to another place, later on he called me and asked me where am I and I was really frustrated and crying that why he is punishing me? He did a similar thing last time and I asked him if he wants to get rid of me or if he felt bored, he tried to be kind but never apologized and when we talked I told him that I hate when he would punish me for trivial reasons, he said that I’m always nagging and only look on the negative side and he said that he hates that I’m a cold person and I’m very slow when I’m getting ready and when I cook (excuse me?? Then why you don’t help me?) today we have two tickets to go see a movie but I don’t feel comfortable going out with him again after feeling criticized and judged. Anyway we agreed to see a therapist but I don’t know while we wait.",,1,Constant-Ride-6660,2023-08-20 11:06:52 +RedPillWomen,15va9qe,I think I'm failing pretty hard,"I need some help. My husband and I both agree with the captain/first mate relationship philosophy, but I seem to have a problem with fully letting go and letting him lead properly. Sometimes I'll ask for an explanation to his decision until I have enougn info to agree with him before accepting what he says. Sometimes it'll just be a reaction to question him. I desperately want to be a good wife and follow his lead, but I seem to fail him more than I'd like to. He says he thinks I don't fully trust him and respect him as a leader. Intellectually and logically I absolutely do. He is an amazing husband and father who has proven himself time and time again. So why do I do this? It isn't all the time, but it's definitely more frequently than we're both happy with. I do experience anxiety, so letting go of all of the little ""what ifs"" can be a challenge for me. But why can't his voice be a reassurance that I don't need to worry about all of those what ifs? I feel ashamed for failing him and myself. A recent instance popped up and we've both been speaking about it, and I thought I'd reach out to you ladies for your thoughts. Have any of you struggled with this and how have you overcome it? Needless to say, the situation is deeply upsetting for the both of us. Am I just not cut out to be a good wife?",,22,FancyPants882,2023-08-19 08:17:47 RedPillWomen,15v47zw,Learn to cook and exploit it!,"Forgive me if incorrect flair. Tonight I made my family some basic Mexican-style tacos. I marinated the chicken overnight, chopped up the toppings early and got to cooking. It took 30 minutes for a restaurant/taqueria quality meal and everyone loved it. @@ -5560,19 +5560,19 @@ Tonight I made my family some basic Mexican-style tacos. I marinated the chicken The best time to start learning to cook is as a kid with grandma in the kitchen. The next best time is NOW! I’m not ready to jump Into dating yet (nun mode) but when I do, the kitchen is going to be my “big guns”. -Does anyone else adore cooking/ Did bringing your cooking skills up benefit you in dating? Let me know. <3",,25,SweetSecond5900,1692413277.0 +Does anyone else adore cooking/ Did bringing your cooking skills up benefit you in dating? Let me know. <3",,25,SweetSecond5900,2023-08-19 02:47:57 RedPillWomen,15vj225,Is anyone up for a chat?,"Its been a hard few days here, I think the reality has finally set in that i've moved away from home, im feeling a little homesick, nervous/excited about the future just wish it would go by faster. i also wanted to speak to someone or a few of you who are married, i have questions I'd like to aks privatley if thats alright. :) Thank you in advance. -&#x200B;",,2,Charming-Paper-1564,1692458550.0 +&#x200B;",,2,Charming-Paper-1564,2023-08-19 15:22:30 RedPillWomen,15v573t,How big a turn off is it if a woman lives with her mom?,"How big a turn off is it if a woman lives with her mom? I (27F) work for a nonprofit. I have a degree from a great college, but earn very little because of the nature of my work. I am currently living with my mom so I can save money for grad school. She has a nice place and lives only 10 minutes from my work so it makes complete logistical sense. I want to start dating again though and I am wondering whether I should move to my own place before doing so. I want to attract a high quality man, and I am afraid he will lose interest when he learns I live with my mom. -How big a turn off would this be for a high quality man?",,10,[deleted],1692416224.0 +How big a turn off would this be for a high quality man?",,10,[deleted],2023-08-19 03:37:04 RedPillWomen,15ujubq,Cheating Dilemma: do you let your partner know that you know?,"Hello ladies! While this question does relate to my personal situation, I'd prefer to hear more general responses/ advice. @@ -5587,18 +5587,18 @@ Have a wonderful day ladies! &#x200B; -**Edit**: Thank you for the comments so far. I do appreciate them and I understand that for a lot of women they would leave. However, I'm looking for advice specifically on if you want to stay and continue the relationship. I hope I've made myself a bit clearer! ",,29,West_Army_160,1692363343.0 +**Edit**: Thank you for the comments so far. I do appreciate them and I understand that for a lot of women they would leave. However, I'm looking for advice specifically on if you want to stay and continue the relationship. I hope I've made myself a bit clearer! ",,29,West_Army_160,2023-08-18 12:55:43 RedPillWomen,15umj7l,Red pill content on tik tok,"Hi ladies, There is so much content on tiktok regarding red pill. I've come across a male that speaks about manipulating woman to get them to act a certain way and withholding when doing something wrong? Has anyone else seen such content like this and how do we woman view this? -My thoughts are that this is unhealthy. It scares me that some red pill men view women as such and have the wrong idea. My heart dies inside when I see this, although it is not happening to me.. but what about other women?",,12,[deleted],1692369941.0 +My thoughts are that this is unhealthy. It scares me that some red pill men view women as such and have the wrong idea. My heart dies inside when I see this, although it is not happening to me.. but what about other women?",,12,[deleted],2023-08-18 14:45:41 RedPillWomen,15tzpwd,Worn down by my bad experiences with other women,"I’m exhausted by the negative experiences I’ve had with women throughout my life. I’m now 33 and ever since high school women have been competitive, ostracised me from groups, gossiped behind my back, sabotaged me and just generally bullied me. Since then some have even reached out to apologise. I wouldn’t say I’m exceptionally beautiful or talented but I do get attention from men and take pride in my appearance. I am very active (running and Pilates) and creative. -I really try and be a good friend to other women. I like to support and be kind, going out of my way to make other women feel at ease around me. Most recently a friend who I saw like a sister turned on me (went after a man I was interested in and confided in her for months about) and it has really affected my confidence. At work my line manager micromanaged the hell out of me and I recently quit because I couldn’t take it anymore. I used to catch her staring at me especially when we had work events and we were dressed up. I found out my entire team signed my leaving card for me (around 20 people) and she didn’t pass the card on to me. I genuinely crave better women in my life and women that don’t turn on me or compete.",,26,TeachSuspicious5580,1692306248.0 -RedPillWomen,15udfp3,Favourite Meals,"I'm wondering what your men's favourite meals are (or top 3)? Those meals they always ask for on their birthdays or make their eyes light up excitedly. I'm just curious as I think it could be a fun way to exchange ideas of ways to mix it up in the kitchen. My man's top pick would have to ribs and wings, although he likes practically everything if it's done well! I'm so lucky he isn't a picky eater as it means I get to try out anything I like!",,3,FancyPants882,1692343433.0 +I really try and be a good friend to other women. I like to support and be kind, going out of my way to make other women feel at ease around me. Most recently a friend who I saw like a sister turned on me (went after a man I was interested in and confided in her for months about) and it has really affected my confidence. At work my line manager micromanaged the hell out of me and I recently quit because I couldn’t take it anymore. I used to catch her staring at me especially when we had work events and we were dressed up. I found out my entire team signed my leaving card for me (around 20 people) and she didn’t pass the card on to me. I genuinely crave better women in my life and women that don’t turn on me or compete.",,26,TeachSuspicious5580,2023-08-17 21:04:08 +RedPillWomen,15udfp3,Favourite Meals,"I'm wondering what your men's favourite meals are (or top 3)? Those meals they always ask for on their birthdays or make their eyes light up excitedly. I'm just curious as I think it could be a fun way to exchange ideas of ways to mix it up in the kitchen. My man's top pick would have to ribs and wings, although he likes practically everything if it's done well! I'm so lucky he isn't a picky eater as it means I get to try out anything I like!",,3,FancyPants882,2023-08-18 07:23:53 RedPillWomen,15tn15i,The Easiest RPW Tip!,"As everyone knows, there are many RPW tips, some are complex to implement yet others are surprisingly simple. A few months ago lurking on this sub, I found an easy tip repeating from girls and mods in field report: ""Ask him what he wants to eat for dinner, then make it."" Personally, this tip saves me SO much time because I now don't need to browse recipes that might risk my palate, or spend excess money on foods that I might end up not using, or worry myself about whether my boyfriend is going to like what I'm making. @@ -5611,15 +5611,15 @@ The surprising thing that happened was that after a while, he became more comfor Once I overheard him telling his friend that I am willing to cook for him anything he wants to eat, and that makes me 'so wifey material',! So thanks, RPW!! -Today he is coming over for dinner, and I asked him what he wants to eat/drink. He then sent me a drink recipe LOL! I am so happy he has become more comfortable to be decisive around me, calls me wifey material, and being sent a recipe just makes this evening so much simpler for me.",,38,flower_power_g1rl,1692277463.0 +Today he is coming over for dinner, and I asked him what he wants to eat/drink. He then sent me a drink recipe LOL! I am so happy he has become more comfortable to be decisive around me, calls me wifey material, and being sent a recipe just makes this evening so much simpler for me.",,38,flower_power_g1rl,2023-08-17 13:04:23 RedPillWomen,15tzcxw,Should I still watch Jasmyne Theodora?,"In the last few months I (19f) have been watching tradwife and feminine energy content creators. After growing up around feminism and seeing how damaging it is to society, I realized in order to be happy and fulfilled, I need to become a submissive, feminine woman to attract a man with strong Christian values. -I’ve been following Jasmyne Theodora for a while now and she inspired me to pursue this journey of being a feminine, submissive woman. However, the other day, I watched a video from her titled “we need to talk about modesty”. When I was reading the comments, someone posted a link to her modeling portfolio with semi nude modeling pictures (bra and panties). She ended up making the video private. I’m really disappointed because like I said, I looked up to her. But this whole situation makes me feel like she’s a hypocrite and only seeking views while still trying to have a modeling career that goes against everything she says she stands for. Should I continue to watch her? Is she a good example?",,3,ResearcherLivid443,1692305470.0 +I’ve been following Jasmyne Theodora for a while now and she inspired me to pursue this journey of being a feminine, submissive woman. However, the other day, I watched a video from her titled “we need to talk about modesty”. When I was reading the comments, someone posted a link to her modeling portfolio with semi nude modeling pictures (bra and panties). She ended up making the video private. I’m really disappointed because like I said, I looked up to her. But this whole situation makes me feel like she’s a hypocrite and only seeking views while still trying to have a modeling career that goes against everything she says she stands for. Should I continue to watch her? Is she a good example?",,3,ResearcherLivid443,2023-08-17 20:51:10 RedPillWomen,15tygd5,How do you interact with a potential boyfriend’s pet?,"This is a bit of a light-hearted question, but people love their pets and the way you treat them makes a difference in how their owners see you. I’m a dog person and animal lover in general; I love baking treats for dogs I know and if I were to date a dog owner, I would automatically want to do that because it’s fun for me. Today I realized that making treats, helping to take care of the pet, and being affectionate with it in general could also effectively demonstrate a nurturing personality or domestic skills. For RPWs who want kids, I imagine that the way you treat a man’s pet influences his perception of you as a potential mother. -For those who have dated pet parents, is this true at all? And what did guys like or dislike you doing with their pets?",,4,Ok-Coat7665,1692303508.0 +For those who have dated pet parents, is this true at all? And what did guys like or dislike you doing with their pets?",,4,Ok-Coat7665,2023-08-17 20:18:28 RedPillWomen,15thtjd,I so so happy!!,"So as some of you might know, I'm working through cleaning up my side of the street after transgressions in my marriage. Well, today I noticed that my trusty hair straightener had some damage to the tip of it so I messaged my husband to tell him I was sad about my hair straightener. @@ -5628,7 +5628,7 @@ Straight after I messaged he said ""awww I'll buy you another one tomorrow"" This is so totally not what he used to do. He'd ordinarily tell me to just buy another one, and that it isn't a big deal etc. -I'm just feeling over the moon",,19,[deleted],1692262797.0 +I'm just feeling over the moon",,19,[deleted],2023-08-17 08:59:57 RedPillWomen,15t7t0w,Declining birth rates around the world,"I was watching a few videos on the topic of declining birth rates in China and Japan. The governments are becoming desperate because they need to replace the aging workforce and get that cheese, but people don't want to get married and have children. They don't even want to have sex, and the governments acts like they don't know how this happened and what to do about it. The solutions are simple. Stop fucking people over. Make people more fuckable, make marriage more attractive, and make it possible to raise a family on one income while also allowing the father to have time in the home. @@ -5644,14 +5644,14 @@ The solutions are simple. Stop fucking people over. Make people more fuckable, m * stop letting social media/entertainment companies psyop the public/encourage them to be terminally online * and stop robbing people of so much of their income. -Of course they're not going to do all of this because they'll lose so much money, and the ruling classes and corporations want their money now so they don't care about who takes power in the future. It would be nice to see this because it is possible, but not under the current regimes in power. I didn't write every possible solution but that's the gist of it.",,39,Gerryrigfig,1692233412.0 +Of course they're not going to do all of this because they'll lose so much money, and the ruling classes and corporations want their money now so they don't care about who takes power in the future. It would be nice to see this because it is possible, but not under the current regimes in power. I didn't write every possible solution but that's the gist of it.",,39,Gerryrigfig,2023-08-17 00:50:12 RedPillWomen,15t0c8q,Get in the mood if you aren’t.,"To get straight into it—I quite literally had the best sex ever yesterday with my fiancé! Right as soon as we got home he started to kiss me in that amazing “craving” way. Now—the old me would’ve freaked out about not having had a shower (it’s very hot in the south don’t judge). Would’ve worried if I smelled funny or whatever nonsense like that. If I had pushed him away yesterday that would be rejecting him. Because he wanted me in that moment and was vulnerable enough to show me so. A lot of women including me find it hard to initiate. How would you feel if you built up the confidence to initiate and you were told “later” or “not now” and brushed it off. It’s hurtful. My fiancee shows his love through having sex with me and making me feel good. Enjoy it, if you aren’t in the mood get in the mood! Stop viewing sex as a chore and something for both of you to enjoy. It’s a way of connection. We went at it like crazy yesterday it was the best we were able to do what we want and enjoy the moment as a couple. I couldn’t be happier about it. We were so tired afterwards but we were damn happy. I felt desired and very sexy and I want that more. -Get in the mood, an orgasm will lift your spirits and make you feel more connected with your man. I sure do!",,86,LoveWitchXo,1692216101.0 +Get in the mood, an orgasm will lift your spirits and make you feel more connected with your man. I sure do!",,86,LoveWitchXo,2023-08-16 20:01:41 RedPillWomen,15txo4s,"A waitress was rude to me and I feel like my boyfriend is more concerned about her than me. Ladies, what do you think of this situation?","I have been with my boyfriend for around 4 months. He’s 26 I’m 22. He is from a different country and has a different native language. For a few weeks, I’m living in a different city and we meet just on the weekend. On Friday after work we went to a restaurant. We wanted to go on a nice cozy date. We were seated at a small table. The waitress came over. She had recognised my boyfriends name on the booking. Turns out, she was from the same country my boyfriend is. She started talking in their language. After a while, she asked me if I understood and I said I couldn’t. She still continued. According to my boyfriend she was talking about a university degree she did, and how she wants to leave waitressing and have a job related to that degree etc. Eventually she left the table. We had several waitresses that night, however each time she turned up at the table she would speak in their language and I just didn’t understand. Finally, the time came to pay. In their shared language infront of me, she explained to my boyfriend about the card reader being faulty. Throughout the whole evening, she only spoke English briefly a few times. For the majority, she was speaking to my boyfriend in their language. I had gone on a date with my boyfriend, and to be honest by the end I felt quite deflated. @@ -5664,8 +5664,8 @@ All I wanted was for my boyfriend to empathise with me, be on my side. I was the Was I wrong for wanting some backing from him in this case? It just feels like he doesn’t care about how this situation made me feel. I don’t want to be with and marry a man who doesn’t want to take my side when it’s reasonable as I just want to feel like a team at the end of the day. -What do you think?",,0,Diamond-pearls21,1692301769.0 -RedPillWomen,15sqroi,Change in treatment,"I have a question. So my treatment has changed ALOT by male and female friends I know. This happened after I got 2ml of lip filler. What I’ve noticed after this is: strangers are generally nicer to me, both men and women. Female acquaintances are nicer to me. Male acquaintances don’t really talk to me much anymore or if I start a conversation, they ignore me or talk to anyone else except me which I don’t understand??? Male strangers stare at me more but don’t approach like before. Before I got way more approaches but less stares. This amount of lip filler kind of changed how my face is perceived or looks. It changed my whole face. Is my treatment from people I know due to them not being able to grasp a change in looks this fast?",,7,IndustryMountain,1692194484.0 +What do you think?",,0,Diamond-pearls21,2023-08-17 19:49:29 +RedPillWomen,15sqroi,Change in treatment,"I have a question. So my treatment has changed ALOT by male and female friends I know. This happened after I got 2ml of lip filler. What I’ve noticed after this is: strangers are generally nicer to me, both men and women. Female acquaintances are nicer to me. Male acquaintances don’t really talk to me much anymore or if I start a conversation, they ignore me or talk to anyone else except me which I don’t understand??? Male strangers stare at me more but don’t approach like before. Before I got way more approaches but less stares. This amount of lip filler kind of changed how my face is perceived or looks. It changed my whole face. Is my treatment from people I know due to them not being able to grasp a change in looks this fast?",,7,IndustryMountain,2023-08-16 14:01:24 RedPillWomen,15rsv6t,Husband hurt my feelings and I can't let it go,"Obligatory ""we usually have a great relationship, blah, blah"". Married 11 years, 4 kids. I was telling him last night how I'm trying to be nicer to my body and I want to get some new clothes now instead of continuing to wait until I'm back to my pre-baby weight. And that I might never get back there, that this might be as good as it gets. And he said, ""that would be disappointing"". And he says he was joking but I don't think he was. @@ -5680,7 +5680,7 @@ I cried. He apologized. And he did encourage me to order a bunch of stuff from o Laura Doyle says vulnerability creates intimacy but I don't feel intimate. I feel hurt and like I want to withdraw and put up walls to protect myself. -What can I say to myself to get over this?",,47,somedayimight,1692106359.0 +What can I say to myself to get over this?",,47,somedayimight,2023-08-15 13:32:39 RedPillWomen,15ru9e0,Field Report: Sexy Gift Giving,"My anniversary is this week. We’ve been married 10 years which is a milestone. We’ve been together for 16 which makes the timeline even longer. I have always believed that gifting men lingerie is a bit of a cop-out. It seemed to me that it was more buying a gift for yourself and claiming that it was for him. So completely unrelated to my anniversary coming up (no really, I pinky swear!) I asked him how he felt about it. @@ -5721,14 +5721,14 @@ Use my idea if you like but more than that, take away this: *Desire, thoughtfulness, effort* -Oh and go at it like bunnies, it just makes life better.",,38,Deliaallmylife,1692109623.0 +Oh and go at it like bunnies, it just makes life better.",,38,Deliaallmylife,2023-08-15 14:27:03 RedPillWomen,15rlutt,"RedPill women who used to be on the “liberal” sides, what made you open your eyes?","Hi! For those who used to consider themselves feminists etc., is there a specific event that suddenly changed your mind? If it was more of a process, what important discoveries did you make ? -Edit: Could someone please give you definition of “beta”?",,57,Drowned-star,1692085508.0 +Edit: Could someone please give you definition of “beta”?",,57,Drowned-star,2023-08-15 07:45:08 RedPillWomen,15ret7q,Have a healthy relationship And spoil you like princesses through sex,"When I was younger my older sister said men love women who are good in bed And they cling to her very much and do not look at Any other woman. As I said earlier, I was a teenager, so I did not understand well, but now I see most of the long relationships in which the man spoils his wife and treats her like a princess These are the ones in which the woman is sexually active. I noticed that many women reject their husbands all the time, expecting it to be just sex, but the reality is that men see it as a rejection of love and passion. Of course it's their bodies and they have the right to refuse sex, but fully expect that men will love you less if you reject him sexually a lot.Of course, I never justify cheating, but we cannot deny that most of those who cheat their partners are in dead bedrooms or Lack of sex . -Honestly, I did not write all this in any women's community because I am sure that I will get an attack and the post will be deleted, so I think I am safe here",,56,Careless_Mortgage_54,1692065501.0 +Honestly, I did not write all this in any women's community because I am sure that I will get an attack and the post will be deleted, so I think I am safe here",,56,Careless_Mortgage_54,2023-08-15 02:11:41 RedPillWomen,15rbf1p,We’re back on our feet!,"So I made a post maybe two weeks ago or so. I deleted it and got the warning (sorry mods I hadn’t read the post about deleted posts.) Me and my Fiancé have struggled with an addiction on his end and I handled it very improperly. I let my feelings show a lot. While yes he wants to get help on his own time and he is doing it for himself here are some things I have done to move forward. @@ -5743,21 +5743,21 @@ Me and my Fiancé have struggled with an addiction on his end and I handled it v • Being forgiving(important) -Basically self care and most importantly I listened to Laura Doyle who had a podcast episode related to my situation. I went back to what I know which is the RPW way. I expressed all of my emotions in a gentle way without putting it on him & I apologized for any incorrect behaviour on my end. This weekend he bought me some flowers two bouquets actually! And we got a Wii in mint condition at a yard sale so weve been having some fun together. If we need space we let each other know. Anyways just wanted to give an update. I saw a post from another woman here in a slightly similar situation—hopefully this reaches them to. It can get better with hard work.",,7,LoveWitchXo,1692056977.0 +Basically self care and most importantly I listened to Laura Doyle who had a podcast episode related to my situation. I went back to what I know which is the RPW way. I expressed all of my emotions in a gentle way without putting it on him & I apologized for any incorrect behaviour on my end. This weekend he bought me some flowers two bouquets actually! And we got a Wii in mint condition at a yard sale so weve been having some fun together. If we need space we let each other know. Anyways just wanted to give an update. I saw a post from another woman here in a slightly similar situation—hopefully this reaches them to. It can get better with hard work.",,7,LoveWitchXo,2023-08-14 23:49:37 RedPillWomen,15qwtni,What is the best age to get married?,"Just wondering what everyone’s thoughts and reasons are, as everyone has different opinions. Do you think it’s better to get married younger or older? When you have just enough money or should you save more and have more than enough money? -Thoughts?",,13,christinaaamariaaa,1692024585.0 -RedPillWomen,15qo8ms,Liberal women have an easier time dating,"I’m a conservative 22f. I just graduated college recently & I’ve never been in a relationship. I am in shape, have a lot of hobbies, majored in stem, etc. I dress well, but very modestly. I think I’m decently attractive, but I’ve never been asked out by a guy before. Since I was in college, I knew a lot of liberal females, & because they dressed skimpy, they received a lot of male attention, even by men who I thought were high value because of their height, income, intelligence, etc. These girls would get a new guy every 3 months or so too. Another thing, I’m waiting for marriage, & this has been a turn off to every guy I’ve talked to. Any advice on how to meet my future husband?",,34,mayonnarse,1692000008.0 +Thoughts?",,13,christinaaamariaaa,2023-08-14 14:49:45 +RedPillWomen,15qo8ms,Liberal women have an easier time dating,"I’m a conservative 22f. I just graduated college recently & I’ve never been in a relationship. I am in shape, have a lot of hobbies, majored in stem, etc. I dress well, but very modestly. I think I’m decently attractive, but I’ve never been asked out by a guy before. Since I was in college, I knew a lot of liberal females, & because they dressed skimpy, they received a lot of male attention, even by men who I thought were high value because of their height, income, intelligence, etc. These girls would get a new guy every 3 months or so too. Another thing, I’m waiting for marriage, & this has been a turn off to every guy I’ve talked to. Any advice on how to meet my future husband?",,34,mayonnarse,2023-08-14 08:00:08 RedPillWomen,15qiifi,Dating profile to attract providers only,"Anyone found a way to set up their dating profile to only attract men who enjoy being providers without being offensive to the ones who aren’t. I want the ones who aren’t not to bother but don’t want to be too forward. I also do not want to be harassed by men who are not and feel insulted or want to play games. -At the same time if he’s got it, he’s interested and serious minded (no sugar daddies) he shouldn’t have a problem I would think (those of my target market..). I have other interests too but I will save that for my profile.",,6,Knowyourdeductible,1691982297.0 +At the same time if he’s got it, he’s interested and serious minded (no sugar daddies) he shouldn’t have a problem I would think (those of my target market..). I have other interests too but I will save that for my profile.",,6,Knowyourdeductible,2023-08-14 03:04:57 RedPillWomen,15qb2kl,"Ladies, in your opinion is it better to work or be a stay at home wife?","As my boyfriend and I are getting more serious I’ve been thinking about this more. I really feel in my element caring for the home. -Do you think it’s better for a woman to stay at home? Or to work? Or maybe part time work? Would love to hear opinions, thanks!",,15,Diamond-pearls21,1691962736.0 +Do you think it’s better for a woman to stay at home? Or to work? Or maybe part time work? Would love to hear opinions, thanks!",,15,Diamond-pearls21,2023-08-13 21:38:56 RedPillWomen,15pwltr,Things men have complimented me on,"Not everybody is looking for male approval, but for those who are, here are some things men have complimented me on in my adulthood. They are very different from things women have complimented me on. I can make a separate post about this later, if anybody asks! @@ -5805,15 +5805,15 @@ They are very different from things women have complimented me on. I can make a * Freckles * Wide-leg pants for work -\*Not relevant to me anymore",,9,flower_power_g1rl,1691926553.0 -RedPillWomen,15pv9hw,Moving too fast on the 3rd date?,"I let him finger me and touched his man parts on the 3rd date. Was this too fast? Is he going to think I’m a slut now? I declined going all the way. We have talked about a lot of serious things like marriage and having a family prior to all this. He’s been consistent in checking in and planning time together although he hasn’t really taken me on a formal date, just coffee. I was just so horny when we started kissing and I have no couch so we were watching a movie on my bed.",,8,No_Control7023,1691921896.0 +\*Not relevant to me anymore",,9,flower_power_g1rl,2023-08-13 11:35:53 +RedPillWomen,15pv9hw,Moving too fast on the 3rd date?,"I let him finger me and touched his man parts on the 3rd date. Was this too fast? Is he going to think I’m a slut now? I declined going all the way. We have talked about a lot of serious things like marriage and having a family prior to all this. He’s been consistent in checking in and planning time together although he hasn’t really taken me on a formal date, just coffee. I was just so horny when we started kissing and I have no couch so we were watching a movie on my bed.",,8,No_Control7023,2023-08-13 10:18:16 RedPillWomen,15q17vc,confused.,"hey ladies, so I have a situation here. my boyfriend has been working on starting a new project, trying to get a new house..and it's been taking all of our time. we went from having lengthy sweet conversations, hanging out..etc to barely anything now. and it's frustrating me because my main love language is quality time, and he knows it. but I can't tell him to drop everything of course. Though I did tell him that I miss him, and he told me he has been working for ""our future"" together, but i feel like he said that just to shut me up. also he put me on a weekly allowance, since we started dating, which was nice, but ever since he started his new project thing, I never got anything, which also bothers me, because it makes me feel like he's less serious about me and i dont want to be the type of woman that helps the guy build his future at her own expense (time and effort, and im also expected to be loyal while hes building his future) it's like I'm wasting my time, and I don't know what to do. [*edit*] I was looking forward to our weekend today, just talking..etc, we can't meet because we hadn't made any plans but just this morning, he tells me he is working overtime. I feel disrespected because he knows I love spending the weekend with him and we would call, play, read together..etc. so the least he can do is tell me he has to work overtime, I'd like to know if I'm overreacting though. -I'd appreciate you ladies to give me some insight, or what the best approach would be.",,0,idkyou23,1691939116.0 +I'd appreciate you ladies to give me some insight, or what the best approach would be.",,0,idkyou23,2023-08-13 15:05:16 RedPillWomen,15p9o0v,Would you forgive cheating in my situation?,"I'm 24F, he is 25M. No kids yet. Married for 4 years, together for 6 years. Our relationship was perfect, at least so I thought. He is the breadwinner, I work but not that much and he makes way more than me. We were trying for kids. I'm abroad with my mother, she is getting surgery done. He flirted with another woman and drove her home. He didn't fuck her. I spoke to her, she said it. They don't have each other's social medias or anything, he only knew her first name. I found her information online to contact her, and I found out because we have a GPS tracker on our car and he looked very guilty. He let me check the car. He didn't have a chance to tell me himself, I saw it on his face as soon as he walked in the door. This has never happened before. He met her while working. @@ -5821,7 +5821,7 @@ I'm abroad with my mother, she is getting surgery done. He flirted with another He says he really regrets it, he's crying, you know, ""you're the best thing that ever happened to me."" He is not excusing it, but he says it's the first time he's ever done it and that it was his ego, he was getting his ego stroked and not thinking because she pursued him so hard despite him turning her down. He says he has no problems in our relationship or with me. -Like I wrote at the start, I genuinely feel like our relationship was perfect. What would you do in my place?",,40,BetrayedRPwife,1691859628.0 +Like I wrote at the start, I genuinely feel like our relationship was perfect. What would you do in my place?",,40,BetrayedRPwife,2023-08-12 17:00:28 RedPillWomen,15osna5,How fast did you say “I love you” to your partner and how did you know it was love?,"I (24F) and my partner (30M)have been dating for about 2 months. We met online and met in person soon after. We talked for about a month before making it official (in total we’ve known each other for about 3 months). Soon after a month of dating he said the three words. I didn’t know how to react, I foresee it coming once he started the sentence and even had the urge to stop him from saying it. It’s been almost a month since that happened and I still don’t know how to feel. I have only dated twice before him and we both have only said “I love you” to one person in our past. I do believe you can stop loving someone since I don’t have any feelings for this person anymore, or maybe it wasn’t really love. Love has a heavy, deep meaning to me, I take in the Bible’s definition, biological approach and emotional nature of it. So it’s not something that I give or say carelessly. @@ -5838,23 +5838,23 @@ He treats me well, he presents himself as someone I feel safe following, he does Anyways, my question is how soon you said “I love you” to your partner and how do you know it’s love and How could you tell you were ready to say those words? -TLDR: I don’t know how to identify that I love my bf and when I should express it with explicit words.",,11,New_Height8936,1691808277.0 +TLDR: I don’t know how to identify that I love my bf and when I should express it with explicit words.",,11,New_Height8936,2023-08-12 02:44:37 RedPillWomen,15ol424,How does a husband balance between his parents and his wife?,"I feel comfortable assuming that the women of this subreddit are all looking for a traditionally masculine man. We all want to be with a man who is a leader, protector and provider to us. We want to look up to our husband and feel safe with him. Are you comfortable submitting to a man who has submitted to his family? Someone who simply wants to follow their ways without creating his own path. Lets say their way of life is not something you want for yourself. -How does a traditional man, in your opinion, balance between the wants of his family(parents and siblings) and his wife?",,10,AppropriateEbb5556,1691788869.0 -RedPillWomen,15on7u3,"After 5,10,20 years of marriage is the way you converse with your partner very different to what it was in the beginning?","Just generally wondering if the way you speak to your long term partner has changed? Maybe there is less thought in how you word needs? Do you speak more ""freely""?",,2,[deleted],1691793736.0 +How does a traditional man, in your opinion, balance between the wants of his family(parents and siblings) and his wife?",,10,AppropriateEbb5556,2023-08-11 21:21:09 +RedPillWomen,15on7u3,"After 5,10,20 years of marriage is the way you converse with your partner very different to what it was in the beginning?","Just generally wondering if the way you speak to your long term partner has changed? Maybe there is less thought in how you word needs? Do you speak more ""freely""?",,2,[deleted],2023-08-11 22:42:16 RedPillWomen,15nkdzu,Why woman don’t like to do things a previous partner already did before for their S.O?,"I (24yo F) have found that whenever my partner (30yo M) talks about how a previous partner did something for him, I lose all interest in doing that same thing for him. These could be things like painting a canvas for him, writing him a letter, painting a rock for him, etc. I am not the jealous type; when he mentions these things I feel like whatever I do for him will not stand out from what others did bc it’s basically the same thing. -I wonder if other woman feel this way and why?",,38,New_Height8936,1691692328.0 +I wonder if other woman feel this way and why?",,38,New_Height8936,2023-08-10 18:32:08 RedPillWomen,15nlngn,What are your opinions on Ben Shaperio's review of the Barbie movie?,"I have watch two videos (He's made four as far as I know, he might have added more) so far on him going and on about Barbie and how its an awful movie and he didnt enjoy it and many women in this space wouldnt either. But then he goes on and on about how Barbie is a bimbo and to make her smart was a mistake and I am here thinking why would they make Barbie stupid? The woman is a toy that has multiple jobs, why would you think it be a smart idea to portray her as stupid? He also got mad at the joke at the end (Spoilers!!) about how Barbie got a vagina, to which I have to add, she's human so it would make sense that she want to get it check out since she's never had one? -Basically, do you agree with everything he said?",,14,Square-Step,1691695243.0 -RedPillWomen,15n9ntn,Do you ever feel out of place these days being red pilled?,"A lot of what is talked about here goes against mainstream thoughts, i almost feel guilty about wanting to get married and wanting a big family in the future. Anyone up for a chat? I just got a lot of thoughts on my mind.",,35,Charming-Paper-1564,1691666433.0 -RedPillWomen,15n5m8f,Update on husband,"I just wanted to thank everybody for all of their feedback and advice. I can say I’ve put a lot of effort into keeping up with myself, my house and being kinder to my husband. He’s initiated sex twice this month which hasn’t happened for years! The last time he initiated was last may in 2022! Looking forward to keeping up with RPW as it truly has helped me. I feel like myself again, but better.",,50,Ineedbabies123,1691653336.0 +Basically, do you agree with everything he said?",,14,Square-Step,2023-08-10 19:20:43 +RedPillWomen,15n9ntn,Do you ever feel out of place these days being red pilled?,"A lot of what is talked about here goes against mainstream thoughts, i almost feel guilty about wanting to get married and wanting a big family in the future. Anyone up for a chat? I just got a lot of thoughts on my mind.",,35,Charming-Paper-1564,2023-08-10 11:20:33 +RedPillWomen,15n5m8f,Update on husband,"I just wanted to thank everybody for all of their feedback and advice. I can say I’ve put a lot of effort into keeping up with myself, my house and being kinder to my husband. He’s initiated sex twice this month which hasn’t happened for years! The last time he initiated was last may in 2022! Looking forward to keeping up with RPW as it truly has helped me. I feel like myself again, but better.",,50,Ineedbabies123,2023-08-10 07:42:16 RedPillWomen,15mnb5a,Frozen in life,"Hi. I’ve followed RPW since I was 25. Around that time I got serious about finding a RP relationship, within a month of following the advice here I found one. We got engaged 2 years later, and were set to be married the following year. A month before the wedding I found out he had been cheating nearly the entire time. There was also increasingly ugly verbal abuse and angry explosions on his end. @@ -5862,19 +5862,19 @@ Originally I considered returning to him, mostly because I was about to turn 29 I thought God was bringing me into the relationship I was meant to be in, but it collapsed and he disappeared . This set me back worse than the almost marriage did. I’ve had to rebuild my self esteem from below dirt and my trust is shaken. I can’t seem to get a footing in life in general and wonder how to take my next steps again. I teach yoga and Pilates which I love but struggle to support myself financially. My poor parents have had to put up with my constant ups and downs of deferred dreams and crushed hopes and false starts setting me back. My adhd and anxiety is getting bad. I struggle to complete basic tasks, much less figure things out like what I can possibly do for work or how to meet someone. It feels like I’m going against a current that will eventually drown me. I’ve only ever wanted to have a family and live a slow simple life. I feel like I’m failing God, in failing to trust he has a plan. I’m embarrassed to type this, to say this out loud feels like a curse, that I should be looking at things more positively. -I recently had my 30th birthday. I feel paralyzed in time and don’t see a way forward. Any advice and positivity and hope is appreciated :)",,32,Naturerespektor,1691605657.0 +I recently had my 30th birthday. I feel paralyzed in time and don’t see a way forward. Any advice and positivity and hope is appreciated :)",,32,Naturerespektor,2023-08-09 18:27:37 RedPillWomen,15maxvp,"""Top 10% of men want 20 yr olds they can mold""","edit: The title is a statement I heard from another man talking about dating and relationships in 2023. I used to believe this until I noticed a pattern with the type of women that successful men in the public eye go for (I'm talking about serious men that have their shit together and want a life long partner, not rich degenerates who are just interested in sex). Usually, it's a woman that's younger than them, but they're rarely ever under 30. When you think about it, a man who's moving up in the world doesn't have time to invest in a younger woman he essentially has to father. He wants someone that can benefit him beyond sex by improving his quality of life. For example, Henry Cavill is dating a 32-year-old who has her own money, has experience working in television as a producer, and has powerful connections (her father is a Hollyweird exec). I mention him because he's the first gigachad that comes to mind that isn't dating the hottest and youngest woman he can find, even though he absolutely can. He seems to value intellect and experience more, but obviously looks and her being younger is still important. These men can get sex at any time and it's risky trying to mold a 20 year who could end up rejecting their teachings and waste their time. -It makes sense that a successful man would think strategically about dating. I'm not saying women should date the top 10% of men or squander our youth, but that high quality men demand more than just youth, a pretty face/body, and good attitude. This gives hope to the women who may not be as attractive or young as other women but bring a lot to the table. Maybe this is obvious to you, but I never realized this until now.",,68,Gerryrigfig,1691575407.0 +It makes sense that a successful man would think strategically about dating. I'm not saying women should date the top 10% of men or squander our youth, but that high quality men demand more than just youth, a pretty face/body, and good attitude. This gives hope to the women who may not be as attractive or young as other women but bring a lot to the table. Maybe this is obvious to you, but I never realized this until now.",,68,Gerryrigfig,2023-08-09 10:03:27 RedPillWomen,15lwubm,Advice with dealing with a jaded man…?,"Hi everyone, I’ve been dating a man for the past month going on two now. We talk often about what we are looking for and we’re on the same page about wanting marriage and kids. He is going through a divorce (I know, I know) and has filed but this marriage did a number on him. He was hoping to get a supportive wife and a big family with her but he says she was more focused on undermining him. They live separately now and their divorce should be finalized in six months. In the meantime whenever I talk about wanting to be a mom he lets me know it’s a serious job, and how my body and mind could possibly change for the worse after the pregnancy because it happened to his ex wife (she doesn’t seem to have any attachment to her child), etc. I understand he is trying to prepare me but it also feels like he isn’t sure about me, has doubts, or isn’t sure if he wants more kids…I don’t know. Am I thinking about this wrong? I can’t really prove him right or wrong without getting pregnant so I’m not sure how to deal with this situation if it happens again although this is our second having this conversation. Please help and thank you! -Edit: if it helps, we are holding off physical intimacy until we are sure about each other and he told me he loves me. I haven’t said it back yet and when I asked him about his declaration of love he agreed it was early but he had a wonderful time with me so it slipped however we should circle back in a month.",,9,chrissycash,1691534259.0 +Edit: if it helps, we are holding off physical intimacy until we are sure about each other and he told me he loves me. I haven’t said it back yet and when I asked him about his declaration of love he agreed it was early but he had a wonderful time with me so it slipped however we should circle back in a month.",,9,chrissycash,2023-08-08 22:37:39 RedPillWomen,15lka6z,"Entitlement, Tradition & What you Bring to the Table","There is a lot of traditional underpinnings in Red Pill Women, but it has been stated again and again that RPW isn't Trad. There is an aspect that has been lost quite a bit lately which is *understanding the terrain*. Any question that is asked about modern dating, comes back with a resoundingly traditional bent. Unfortunately, we do not live in a traditional society. The expectations in the dating market, even with the most traditional of couples, will be a blend of ""trad values"" and their modern upbringing. @@ -5887,14 +5887,14 @@ As I say to my kiddo ""Everything isn't about you"". We rephrase that on RPW to And to caveat for the doormats and feminist among you (opposite ends of the spectrum but the same caveat is necessary): *Of course* what you want matters. Men want us to be happy and giving up ourselves to please a man is not the road to happiness (unless you are into that, but also, yeah even if you ARE into that). Respect your values, your desires, your thoughts, time and goals. -But also respect his.",,29,Deliaallmylife,1691506028.0 +But also respect his.",,29,Deliaallmylife,2023-08-08 14:47:08 RedPillWomen,15lzk44,Finding female mentors,"What's some ways to find suitable female mentors? I unfortunately don't have any in my immediate family. -What should I look for in a mentor? How do I approach being mentored?",,2,Redlimetree,1691540915.0 +What should I look for in a mentor? How do I approach being mentored?",,2,Redlimetree,2023-08-09 00:28:35 RedPillWomen,15lr5eu,Red Pill for couples who decide not to procreate,"I can understand how a man’s financial contribution and provider mentality becomes imperative when starting a family with kids. Naturally since women can play a better domestic role in taking care of the household and the kids. -I want to know the sub’s suggestion on how couples who decide never to have kids can still follow traditional values and live up to their gender roles. Should men still be the bigger provider? What roles can women take up to delve into their femininity while still holding their own and bringing something to the table?",,2,Global_Moose_1991,1691521498.0 -RedPillWomen,15liq9d,Who takes Precedence when it comes to Time?,Whose Appointments/Plans (not Work related) take precedence in your Household? I always stepped back for my Husband. But ever since he cheated I see my time as valuable and do not take him making me loose time kindly. He is slowly rebuilding my trust in him and our relationship is improving. I implemented a wall Calendar-Whitheboard. If he puts his plans on there I respect it. If he does not - tough luck. And the most important rule is: A Failure in planning does not constitute an emergency in mine. ,,0,MassiveGround,1691502435.0 +I want to know the sub’s suggestion on how couples who decide never to have kids can still follow traditional values and live up to their gender roles. Should men still be the bigger provider? What roles can women take up to delve into their femininity while still holding their own and bringing something to the table?",,2,Global_Moose_1991,2023-08-08 19:04:58 +RedPillWomen,15liq9d,Who takes Precedence when it comes to Time?,Whose Appointments/Plans (not Work related) take precedence in your Household? I always stepped back for my Husband. But ever since he cheated I see my time as valuable and do not take him making me loose time kindly. He is slowly rebuilding my trust in him and our relationship is improving. I implemented a wall Calendar-Whitheboard. If he puts his plans on there I respect it. If he does not - tough luck. And the most important rule is: A Failure in planning does not constitute an emergency in mine. ,,0,MassiveGround,2023-08-08 13:47:15 RedPillWomen,15lsl0x,My Husband (43) of 7 Years Won't Remind me of Things I (43) Said I'd do,"My husband has a view that if, say, our daughter spills something by mistake and I forget to clean it, he'll do it and not tell me it was awry. He says it's because nobody is perfect and unnecessary criticism doesn't belong in a harmonious family. I grew up in a family where my mother would assign chores to the children and hold us responsible for getting them done. If I didn't do the dishes, for example, they would sit in the sink, dirty, until I did them. @@ -5903,11 +5903,11 @@ I came through the door, took off my sandals, didn't put them on the shoe rack ( > I put them on the shoe rack. Guess I forgot to tell you, I'm sorry -It would be nice if he communicated more, but I'm appreciative of his view on unnecessary criticisms. Any thoughts?",,0,LiteratureOk7716,1691524704.0 +It would be nice if he communicated more, but I'm appreciative of his view on unnecessary criticisms. Any thoughts?",,0,LiteratureOk7716,2023-08-08 19:58:24 RedPillWomen,15jrbiy,Is it bad that my boyfriend is a bit younger than me ?,"I (21f) am a year and a half older than my boyfriend (19m). We met in school. It was possible because I had to redo a year since I was sick and couldn’t attend school for months, and because he skipped a year of school because he is very smart. We love each other and we don’t feel any difference in maturity, I would honestly say he is more mature than I am. However, his family is very traditional and as much as they like me, they don’t like this age gap and think it is unnatural for a man to date someone older. The fact that my birthday had passed when I first met them definitely didn’t help since it made it seem like we were 2 years appart. They also still see him as a baby even though he is starting his 3rd year of uni. I’m also scared of how this age gap and his family’s comments could prevent him from leading our relationship. I don’t want him to feel inadequate or like a teenager. I see him doubting himself or making choices based on how “childish” he supposedly is. -Is it really that bad ? And what could I do to show him that I need him to lead us confidently ?",,19,MrsDarcy94000,1691332983.0 +Is it really that bad ? And what could I do to show him that I need him to lead us confidently ?",,19,MrsDarcy94000,2023-08-06 14:43:03 RedPillWomen,15jj6p5,Wanting my ex back- I was the toxic one,"So there’s a lot that’s come up for me and I would so appreciate any and all advice. I’m single and 28 yo woman. I see now that in the past with my ex bf (we were together from 16-24) that I was negative bitchy and controlling yet also not very feminine and fun. Sure, I was submissive in the bedroom but beyond that I added little value to his life. @@ -5932,9 +5932,9 @@ What skills should I focus on? What books are good go tos? -Thank you and glad this community exists !",,24,christy0717,1691306364.0 -RedPillWomen,15k1u9k,"Any christian ""redpill"" books destined to women?","Any christian ""redpill"" books destined to women?",,1,loyal0fficer,1691358883.0 -RedPillWomen,15ig6i6,I cooked dinner,"I’ve been seeing a guy a minimum of twice a week, sometimes more when his schedule allows for it and I finally cooked for him after a month of dating. He owns a cocktail lounge and he apparently told everyone he was getting a home cooked meal tonight. All the men asked what I cooked. I made salmon with a soy and honey sauce along with diced avocados. I’m not sure if I should be flattered or embarrassed but my guy loved it so I’m happy 😊",,67,chrissycash,1691193448.0 +Thank you and glad this community exists !",,24,christy0717,2023-08-06 07:19:24 +RedPillWomen,15k1u9k,"Any christian ""redpill"" books destined to women?","Any christian ""redpill"" books destined to women?",,1,loyal0fficer,2023-08-06 21:54:43 +RedPillWomen,15ig6i6,I cooked dinner,"I’ve been seeing a guy a minimum of twice a week, sometimes more when his schedule allows for it and I finally cooked for him after a month of dating. He owns a cocktail lounge and he apparently told everyone he was getting a home cooked meal tonight. All the men asked what I cooked. I made salmon with a soy and honey sauce along with diced avocados. I’m not sure if I should be flattered or embarrassed but my guy loved it so I’m happy 😊",,67,chrissycash,2023-08-04 23:57:28 RedPillWomen,15i3lyp,What would the “Surrendered Wife” approach be to husband’s excessive porn use?,"I read Doyle early on in our marriage (we’re 28F and 47M) and was so excited to be in that kind of marriage. I’m a SAHM and we have 2 babies under 2. I do 100% of the cooking and cleaning. He spoils me financially and in our lives, always picking up projects to make me happy and make my dreams come true. He’s extremely affectionate and compliments me often, loves to cuddle and spend time together. From the time I got pregnant with my first, sex has been an issue. I just never felt desired and would be frequently turned down. He’s loving and treats me like his queen in most ways, except in the bedroom. I could walk into the room naked and he wouldn’t even glance up. He doesn’t try to remove my clothes during sex and has almost never touched my breasts/genitals/butt etc in a way indicating that he’s attracted to me. I’ve surprised him with his favorite fantasy roleplay costumes, I’ve offered him head EVERY morning, I’ve done romantic bubble bath massage things and he just goes to sleep, I’ve tried texting nudes.. If you name it I’ve tried it. Basically the only times he’s been excited about sex has been trying to conceive. @@ -5959,10 +5959,10 @@ For instance, when he told me he was into the anime cosplay look I surprised him Following his lead here scares me so badly but taking charge doesn’t seem to be working either. -I vetted him well and read Fascinating Womanhood and Surrendered Wife and Empowered Wife all early and I just don’t know where to go from here.",,80,[deleted],1691164058.0 +I vetted him well and read Fascinating Womanhood and Surrendered Wife and Empowered Wife all early and I just don’t know where to go from here.",,80,[deleted],2023-08-04 15:47:38 RedPillWomen,15i67fp,Agree or disagree? Women peak earlier than men.,"For some anecdotal context, I met my husband right before my 22nd birthday, when he was 35. We got married within the year, and both felt like we were in our “prime”. -I’m just curious to hear y’all’s thoughts on when you think men and women peak, and if it’s different.",,17,GrouchyResolution974,1691169983.0 +I’m just curious to hear y’all’s thoughts on when you think men and women peak, and if it’s different.",,17,GrouchyResolution974,2023-08-04 17:26:23 RedPillWomen,15i4jhq,Feeling Lost and Seeking Help,"My husband and I have been married almost 5 years. We have two beautiful boys ages 4 years and 18 months. We strive for a very traditional marriage but I'm noticing that our conflict resolution skills are not very strong when adversity arrives. We had an argument the last few days about possible childcare and we're both feeling a lack of trust from the other and there's quite a lot of hurt feelings. @@ -5978,17 +5978,17 @@ We've reached a solution for what to do to give me breaks but now he's very clea &#x200B; -Thank you!",,8,Fayve27,1691166147.0 +Thank you!",,8,Fayve27,2023-08-04 16:22:27 RedPillWomen,15hdfci,Feminist Family Members,"Hello - I’m looking for advice. I have several close family members who would be considered feminists. I am new to the Red Pill community, but have been trying to implement some philosophies in my relationship. I am also much more conservative politically. I’m struggling with how to handle family members who have no problem voicing their opinion about certain matters, when it wasn’t brought up originally. My mother will say things like - we are living in the Handmade’s Tale, speaking out about the patriarchy and male privilege (aimed directly at my husband), we have friends in UAE, and has now spoken about how she doesn’t like how that culture treats women (which i have never felt unfairly treated). -It’s tough because these are people close to me - my mom, grandma, sister, etc. My husband is rightfully frustrated and fed up. He is asking my opinion on what we should do, and I am very passive so I have a hard time wanting to do anything but complain! I just was wondering if you all had any advice on this, I know it’s not technically relationship related, but wondering how you handled close family relationships not aligning with your marital relationship. I do not want this to cause marital issues, so looking for some outside help. Thank you!!",,8,Fair_Farmer_236,1691090876.0 +It’s tough because these are people close to me - my mom, grandma, sister, etc. My husband is rightfully frustrated and fed up. He is asking my opinion on what we should do, and I am very passive so I have a hard time wanting to do anything but complain! I just was wondering if you all had any advice on this, I know it’s not technically relationship related, but wondering how you handled close family relationships not aligning with your marital relationship. I do not want this to cause marital issues, so looking for some outside help. Thank you!!",,8,Fair_Farmer_236,2023-08-03 19:27:56 RedPillWomen,15glx2h,Lurker who just started reading The Surrendered Wife here,"And I just wanted to say, thank you. It's kinda funny, I got to the paragraph on not correcting him on mistakes, and the freeway exit example made me realize that as a child I saw a Law and Order episode that was obviously making fun of this book! I believe it's called Surrender Dorothy, and even at the time I remember the female lawyers reactions to a seemingly happy, loving couple was so baffling to me. I just thought that was an interesting buried memory; and I wonder what poor Laura Doyle thought of that episode, because her counterpart in it is a man suspected of terrible stuff. It's almost like they changed the gender because they just couldn't wrap their heads around a woman writing anything other than ""you don't need no man"" girl-power? -Anyway, this book has already grabbed me and beat ideas into my head that I've known but... didn't internalize. If anyone here is struggling with submission, trust, or being secure in their marriage/selves, you NEED to read this book.",,27,Former_Grapefruit326,1691014921.0 +Anyway, this book has already grabbed me and beat ideas into my head that I've known but... didn't internalize. If anyone here is struggling with submission, trust, or being secure in their marriage/selves, you NEED to read this book.",,27,Former_Grapefruit326,2023-08-02 22:22:01 RedPillWomen,15fxq1e,Evolution Happens Quickly,"I was watching [this video by Prof Edward Dutton (The Jolly Heretic)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=id5VStbqa10) and he highlighted an article by Peter Frost, a Canadian anthropologist, that argued evolution continued and *accelerated* outside of the hunter-gatherer environment. At the various RP subs we spend a lot of time reading, talking about, and theorising over various conclusions from evolutionary psychology. It's even in the sidebar: @@ -6001,7 +6001,7 @@ Surely the move from caveman-appeal (strength, aggression) to city-dweller-appea * ""I prefer a greater beta to an alpha"" * ""I think men that sleep around are disgusting"" -All of which show a preference for Beta traits... Could this be explained by the move from nomadic tribes to cities? Would like to hear your thoughts. Are there any other theories that could be challenged?",,11,CountTheBees,1690947432.0 +All of which show a preference for Beta traits... Could this be explained by the move from nomadic tribes to cities? Would like to hear your thoughts. Are there any other theories that could be challenged?",,11,CountTheBees,2023-08-02 03:37:12 RedPillWomen,15foxiz,Cold Recipes Needed Please!,"Hello ladies! I (26f) live with my boyfriend of 2+ years (25m). He is a hard-working provider working towards securing a good future for us. Unfortunately, this means he works long hours most days (I'm talking 60 -75 hours a week). I accept this and want to help him as much as possible to make his life as easy as possible while he is in the hard phase. @@ -6010,7 +6010,7 @@ This brings me to my question. I've noticed he is often too busy to make food fo I've made him pasta salad, tuna salad, and egg salad. (Usually with homemade bread that I make that he loves). What are some other good cold or as-is recipes that I can make for him? I'm drawing a blank. And while he loves the things I've made so far, I don't want to only rotate between those and him get sick of it. -Please leave recipes/links/suggestions in the comments if you have any. Thank you so much!",,9,AmilliBee,1690924229.0 +Please leave recipes/links/suggestions in the comments if you have any. Thank you so much!",,9,AmilliBee,2023-08-01 21:10:29 RedPillWomen,15fejfo,How to bounce back from insecure moments?,"I’m in a super healthy, loving partnership where I feel taken care of/happy in every category. My partner and I have never had any issues not relating to miscommunication (aka, we are value aligned and don’t have nasty fights). Our relationship has progressed at the pace I wanted. He has never made me second guess that I am his life partner. However, I find myself getting insecure. It’s dumb, because I have no reason too. I am an impressive woman, with a great career, hobbies and am well liked by (I think?) most everyone we meet/interact with. I take great care of myself. He has validated how great of a person I am. @@ -6025,17 +6025,17 @@ I communicated my feelings when we got home in a non accusatory way, as I felt m I thought I’d wake up and feel better, but I’m still feeling insecure. I have such a hard time moving on from these things. It doesn’t happen often, but when it does I feel stuck in these emotions for longer than appropriate. -Any tips on this? I feel crazy.",,13,shesadumbdumb,1690900916.0 +Any tips on this? I feel crazy.",,13,shesadumbdumb,2023-08-01 14:41:56 RedPillWomen,15ew28y,Anyone have any fool-proof/ go to recipes they swear by?,"I love baking but i don’t do it often because I have enough issues maintaining my weight as is 😂. My go-to impress recipe is Bon Appetit’s best chocolate chip cookie recipe. It’s made with browned butter and topped with sea salt and they are so good. I made them for a man I’m seeing to take to work and I’m told I’m known as the ‘woman who made the amazing cookies’. 🥰 he’s brought it up 5 times since I’ve made them so I think he was genuinely happy with them. I’d love more crowed-pleasing recipes any has as a go-to to impress. -Here is the bon appétit recipe : https://www.bonappetit.com/recipe/bas-best-chocolate-chip-cookies",,22,gottathrowitaway555,1690847208.0 +Here is the bon appétit recipe : https://www.bonappetit.com/recipe/bas-best-chocolate-chip-cookies",,22,gottathrowitaway555,2023-07-31 23:46:48 RedPillWomen,15eqosh,How do women help men grow?,"In what way and with what tools is a woman able to help a man grow? Is she supposed to inspire growth at all? (I am not talking about mothering him) -How have you inspired your man to grow into husband material?",,41,AppropriateEbb5556,1690834360.0 +How have you inspired your man to grow into husband material?",,41,AppropriateEbb5556,2023-07-31 20:12:40 RedPillWomen,15epxkg,Field Report: Small Successes,"Hello everyone! I have been reading this sub for a while but am fairly new to practicing many of its techniques. I wanted to share a bit of an update from my last post asking for advice, and also some encouragement to other women starting out! About me: 30F, employed and in education, religious, minimal dating experience, decent cooking/cleaning/housekeeping skills, average looks (more cute than hot), overweight and working on it. @@ -6066,21 +6066,21 @@ How has this helped me? - I’ve noticed men in general are more receptive to me since I’ve made an effort to be more friendly and feminine. Not just romantically, but like strangers smiling back when I smile at them, offering to help me with luggage in overhead bins, or holding the door. - I’m a lot less intimidated by men. I can talk to make colleagues about their hobbies, ask them about their day, and so on almost as comfortably as with other women. I still get a little nervous/excited when talking to a man I like, but I don’t get so flustered I can’t hold a conversation. -Most importantly, I have gone on a couple dates where we both had fun, and I am talking to a guy who seems to align with my values and is interested in me! 2 years ago, I was obese, unemployed, lonely, and miserable. Today I am working towards a healthy weight, employed, surrounded by friends and community, and excited about my future. My point in writing all this is that if you are just seeing RPW for the first time and feeling overwhelmed with all the changes you’ll have to make, or you feel it won’t work for you, give it a try! Take it one day and one step at a time. The first step is to step out of a victim mindset and focus on what you can change. I am an average woman- not super young, rich, or strikingly beautiful. But I can improve myself and develop skills that hopefully will make me an ideal wife for a great man some day. And in the meantime, I can go through life with a friendly, positive attitude, treating others with kindness and respect, and be pleasantly surprised with how they often will have the same energy for me.",,31,Mighty_Wombat42,1690832645.0 +Most importantly, I have gone on a couple dates where we both had fun, and I am talking to a guy who seems to align with my values and is interested in me! 2 years ago, I was obese, unemployed, lonely, and miserable. Today I am working towards a healthy weight, employed, surrounded by friends and community, and excited about my future. My point in writing all this is that if you are just seeing RPW for the first time and feeling overwhelmed with all the changes you’ll have to make, or you feel it won’t work for you, give it a try! Take it one day and one step at a time. The first step is to step out of a victim mindset and focus on what you can change. I am an average woman- not super young, rich, or strikingly beautiful. But I can improve myself and develop skills that hopefully will make me an ideal wife for a great man some day. And in the meantime, I can go through life with a friendly, positive attitude, treating others with kindness and respect, and be pleasantly surprised with how they often will have the same energy for me.",,31,Mighty_Wombat42,2023-07-31 19:44:05 RedPillWomen,15dm6vu,Surrender,"I wrote the below in my journal this morning, but thought I would share in case anyone has comments or reflections (or critiques). ""Living in this way, not questioning or criticizing or trying to control my loved ones, not pushing my own agenda through the household all the time, is an exercise in living better. Living with less fear and anxiety. Living in a state of graceful acceptance and trust. Accepting what I cannot change and accepting that I cannot know the future. Trusting that all will be well, no matter what. It means relinquishing the idea that I know best and that I must forcefully impose my will upon the world around me to keep the chaos at bay. It is an exercise in humility: in humbly accepting that I am not actually in charge of anything except my own behavior. Living this way makes me a better person, helps me live a better life, and helps me bring a more loving and supportive energy into the world, hopefully to all I encounter. Perhaps with my husband it's a two-step process: first ceasing and desisting all attempts to control. Second, getting out of the way of his masculine energy and inbuilt drive to protect and provide. Allowing and encouraging him to step into those ways of being. Embracing the masculine and feminine energies we bring and the ways in which they swirl together to make a whole. -I do want to be taken care of and looked out for and supported and cherished and loved. I want his protection when I am in danger or vulnerable or afraid. And- I want to ensure that he sees my confidence in him, my admiration for him, and my respect for him, and that he takes those things out into the world, so that he can be his best self as well.""",,46,lifelonglistener,1690725227.0 +I do want to be taken care of and looked out for and supported and cherished and loved. I want his protection when I am in danger or vulnerable or afraid. And- I want to ensure that he sees my confidence in him, my admiration for him, and my respect for him, and that he takes those things out into the world, so that he can be his best self as well.""",,46,lifelonglistener,2023-07-30 13:53:47 RedPillWomen,15dpn96,inspiring guys to step up more,"I just watched this video and while I don’t really agree with some things she says I think there is some good advice esp at minute 14:07, lmk what you guys think though :) -https://youtu.be/wtqK662eYpA",,11,goldaline777,1690734233.0 +https://youtu.be/wtqK662eYpA",,11,goldaline777,2023-07-30 16:23:53 RedPillWomen,15devxd,Has this sub become more feminist over time?,"I've been going over a lot of older archived RPW's stuff and it seems like this sub has become more feminist over time. Like I've found 5+ year old posts where women wholeheartedly agreed that women have ""rights without responsibilities"" and that women *don't* deserve certain legal rights because we didn't earn them. -But if you said on RPW today ""women shouldn't be allowed to vote because they don't have to sign up for the draft"" or ""women shouldn't be allowed in big business, policing, or politics"" I doubt most here would agree with that even though just 5-10 years ago that would have generated a lot of support.",,26,Alert-Alfalfa99,1690700506.0 +But if you said on RPW today ""women shouldn't be allowed to vote because they don't have to sign up for the draft"" or ""women shouldn't be allowed in big business, policing, or politics"" I doubt most here would agree with that even though just 5-10 years ago that would have generated a lot of support.",,26,Alert-Alfalfa99,2023-07-30 07:01:46 RedPillWomen,15dlikk,Tips on rebuilding trust and respect?,"Hello ladies, I hope you are all doing well! I'll try not to ramble and any advice would be appreciated. Background: my boyfriend (28M) and I (20F) have been together for 2 years now. We've had quite a few struggles but he's always been adamant that we should work through them. He is very much redpill oriented/ conservative while I really wasn't when we first met. However, instead of wanting to go our separate ways, he encouraged me to change as he explained I was simply a bit young and hadn't grown up in the right way to have/ appreciate a more conservative lifestyle. Although reluctant at first, I think I've made good progress in adapting my views. I'm by no means perfect and it is a bit of a sore point in our relationship but something I'm still working on. And this sub has especially helped! @@ -6091,48 +6091,48 @@ I've accepted that we might never trust or respect one another 100% again. And I I know I need to forgive him for past hurts and move on from this anger and resentment I feel in order to strengthen our relationship and make it work. But I am really struggling to do so. I don't know how to just 'let go' and trust or forgive. And there don't seem to be any specific relationship exercises that facilitate this. We've tried counselling almost a year ago now but it wasn't really helpful. -Do you ladies have any advice on accepting, forgiving, trusting and moving on from past hurts? ",,4,West_Army_160,1690723349.0 +Do you ladies have any advice on accepting, forgiving, trusting and moving on from past hurts? ",,4,West_Army_160,2023-07-30 13:22:29 RedPillWomen,15d4sw5,How can I accept the fact that I'm a whore?,"I've been avoiding men's RP content, but even still I'll come across content that talks about women being damaged and less valuable after casual sex, and I cannot help but be hit by massive waves of shame. I wish I had a time machine so I could go back and slap the shit out of my 16 year old whore self who gave it all up to a hookup. I hate myself and I wish I had my power back. -But no I know I'm less desirable and will be rejected by men. I'm less capable of love and bonding. I am broken and I hate myself. I am a fat whore. I am a bad person.",,57,Weak_Remove7884,1690669578.0 -RedPillWomen,15de1uv,Are insults normal in a relationship? Has it happened in your relationship? How did you navigate it? What is the cause?,,,6,[deleted],1690697539.0 +But no I know I'm less desirable and will be rejected by men. I'm less capable of love and bonding. I am broken and I hate myself. I am a fat whore. I am a bad person.",,57,Weak_Remove7884,2023-07-29 22:26:18 +RedPillWomen,15de1uv,Are insults normal in a relationship? Has it happened in your relationship? How did you navigate it? What is the cause?,,,6,[deleted],2023-07-30 06:12:19 RedPillWomen,15c2wdm,Am I supposed to always have sex with my boyfriend whenever he wants to?,"My sex drive is not as high as his. It’s pretty low in comparison. We’ve been struggling with mismatched libido our whole relationship. We’re both in therapy. I’m starting to feel guilty like I should be in the mood more often. He has made it clear that his priority isn’t sex, that he loves me and wants to be with me regardless of how much sex we have. -But I feel guilty like we should be doing it more, I should be wanting it more.",,56,AquariusBear,1690563465.0 +But I feel guilty like we should be doing it more, I should be wanting it more.",,56,AquariusBear,2023-07-28 16:57:45 RedPillWomen,15c5gyy,What Is Your Opinion On 50/50 Relationships?,"I'm really curious on everyone's perspective in this sub. I've noticed a lot on Reddit whenever I see a question on the dating subs, when it comes to finances and relationships, most people here advocate for 50/50. And A LOT of hate towards anything traditional.I don't know why, I just feel like 50/50 doesn't work? And personally, is a huge turn off for me. I mean do women really like that? - I'd like to hear more on your thoughts thank you in advance.",,41,Karlor_Gaylord_Cries,1690569530.0 + I'd like to hear more on your thoughts thank you in advance.",,41,Karlor_Gaylord_Cries,2023-07-28 18:38:50 RedPillWomen,15dah06,How to Win Back a HVW,"Hi Ladies. I've been a long time lurker looking for advice on my situation. I am 29 years old and have a son with my ex fiancee. We were together for around 3 years. I have been back on the dating market for awhile and have not been having much luck. I recently tried reconnecting with an ex and am looking for advice on how to possibly win him over. My ex and I dated on and off for a year and a half. We ended things when I met my ex fiancee. At the time my ex was establishing himself, but definitely a HVM. When I reached out to him recently he's doing very well for himself (has a great job earning in the top 5%, owns a home, etc). The only problem is he has a girlfriend. I inquired more about her and she apparently works and their household income is in the top 1%. I am not a high earner (I work a service job). I am very feminine, in good shape, and a great homemaker. -Realistically, how can I leverage my feminine qualities to win my ex back?",,0,Slow-Relationship168,1690686008.0 +Realistically, how can I leverage my feminine qualities to win my ex back?",,0,Slow-Relationship168,2023-07-30 03:00:08 RedPillWomen,15btfns,Is it justified to not trust a man because of lies and name calling/insults?,"Is it reasonable to not trust someone because of lies and insinuation that has been targeted at my self worth, and name calling and downgraded comments? Is it justified to not trust someone that is quite diliberate in causing harm than good? -Is ending a relationship OK with someone you don't trust? (In these circumstances)",,6,[deleted],1690539492.0 +Is ending a relationship OK with someone you don't trust? (In these circumstances)",,6,[deleted],2023-07-28 10:18:12 RedPillWomen,15bk2bf,Subtle red flags for men?,"For me as a woman dating right now, there are little behaviors or quirks I see that make me discontinue the conversation or not even start it. For example, if somebody has ""no drama"" in their bio or too many emojis (just seems immature). I will sometimes stop talking if they text me too many times too quickly, or their topics of conversation have a consistent theme of judgementalism. Things like that. What's men's version of this list? There are some men I'm interested in that haven't lost interest, but I'm afraid might if I accidentally say something that would register as a red flag, and I want to be aware of what impact my actions and words have. -What are some things high value men avoid in a woman, either first impressions or mid-talking? What's their subtle red flag list?",,9,Adorable-Bee-850,1690508870.0 +What are some things high value men avoid in a woman, either first impressions or mid-talking? What's their subtle red flag list?",,9,Adorable-Bee-850,2023-07-28 01:47:50 RedPillWomen,15blnax,Skincare scenario,"Ok, I realize this is kind of a ridiculous question but I’ve never heard anyone talk about it and I’ve thought about it a few times. So I’ve been developing my skincare routine and I’m thinking of adding some more intense things like dermarolling and acids. What do you do if you’re doing this like before bed, and then your SO wants to have sex? Like you want to be enthusiastic and available (at least I do), and obviously if you just have some serums and moisturizer on like it probably won’t matter, you can just clean up and like maybe wash your face again. But what about if your skin is more fragile because of more intense treatments? I guess you could just say something like “be careful of my face tonight!” lol idk it also seems like it could be construed as a brush off like “oh I would totally love to get down but I have hundreds of micropunctures all over my face so I need to avoid any bacteria getting introduced.” Like even lots of kissing afterwards seems like it could be an irritant. Even like with using a retinoid like, do you just reapply if you happen to get sweaty or something? -So has anyone actually dealt with this before? Do you have a system in place? Am I being paranoid lol",,3,InevitableKiwi5776,1690513508.0 +So has anyone actually dealt with this before? Do you have a system in place? Am I being paranoid lol",,3,InevitableKiwi5776,2023-07-28 03:05:08 RedPillWomen,15bht86,Looking to keep fit as a mom,"I’m not sure if this is the right group to ask this in, but I haven’t been on Reddit for long and I’m not familiar with many subreddits, so I’m asking here I’m 30, I have four children ages 7, 5, 3, and 1 and I’m very close to entering the overweight BMI range for the first time in my life. I care a lot about my body and my weight, but I just can’t figure out how to find the time or energy to get myself fit! I’m definitely snacking too much because I’m just always in the kitchen making food for the kids. I’m having a little success with cutting back there, so I’m hoping to establish good habits around eating soon, but I don’t know how to get more physical activity into my days! -Does anyone have specific advice around this? How do you keep thin and fit when you are taking care of a large family?",,4,LindenBlossoms,1690502590.0 -RedPillWomen,15ba9db,Money.,"Seeking advice. Second marriage, fairly new to the red pill way- but it's working really really well for my marriage! Where I'm struggling is in financial issues. Situation: I make a bit more than my husband and have saved about triple the amount he has for retirement. In general I am much more frugal than he is. He lives within his means but has expensive hobbies and didn't start saving for retirement until nearly middle age. Since we married a couple years ago this pattern has continued. I continue to be much more frugal than he is. We have our own separate accounts with most of our money, and one small joint account for common bills, so I don't have much visibility into exactly what's going on with his finances, but I know he's spent quite a bit in the last few months on his hobbies. If I asked for details or to know exactly how much he spent, he will feel like I don't trust him and that I'm trying to control him. After all, he's a grown man, a combat vet, and he has been taking care of himself for a long time. He's not going to go into debt or anything. But the more he spends, the more frugal I get- almost like I'm trying to make up for it. Then I start getting resentful because I'm denying myself the things I'd like, and he is not. When we retire we will be living off mostly off my savings. I love him and and I respect him and I want to be with him forever. He is upstanding and honorable and masculine, and he treats me so well. I hate that this is even cropping up for me, but I don't know how to address it and maintain this very loving and happy marriage that we've built.",,9,lifelonglistener,1690484454.0 +Does anyone have specific advice around this? How do you keep thin and fit when you are taking care of a large family?",,4,LindenBlossoms,2023-07-28 00:03:10 +RedPillWomen,15ba9db,Money.,"Seeking advice. Second marriage, fairly new to the red pill way- but it's working really really well for my marriage! Where I'm struggling is in financial issues. Situation: I make a bit more than my husband and have saved about triple the amount he has for retirement. In general I am much more frugal than he is. He lives within his means but has expensive hobbies and didn't start saving for retirement until nearly middle age. Since we married a couple years ago this pattern has continued. I continue to be much more frugal than he is. We have our own separate accounts with most of our money, and one small joint account for common bills, so I don't have much visibility into exactly what's going on with his finances, but I know he's spent quite a bit in the last few months on his hobbies. If I asked for details or to know exactly how much he spent, he will feel like I don't trust him and that I'm trying to control him. After all, he's a grown man, a combat vet, and he has been taking care of himself for a long time. He's not going to go into debt or anything. But the more he spends, the more frugal I get- almost like I'm trying to make up for it. Then I start getting resentful because I'm denying myself the things I'd like, and he is not. When we retire we will be living off mostly off my savings. I love him and and I respect him and I want to be with him forever. He is upstanding and honorable and masculine, and he treats me so well. I hate that this is even cropping up for me, but I don't know how to address it and maintain this very loving and happy marriage that we've built.",,9,lifelonglistener,2023-07-27 19:00:54 RedPillWomen,15atco9,I feel so worthless because I’ve never been in a relationship,"I’m a 23 year old woman and have never even kissed a guy and have only been on 2 dates and feel so worthless because of it. All my friends have been in relationships but me. I feel like I’m just not the type of person people are romantically attracted to or I should just have zero standards and take whatever comes my way. @@ -6145,10 +6145,10 @@ I spent months building up my self esteem but now feel like it was all for nothi I feel so embarrassed to be at this age and have no romantic experience and to just no even have kissed anyone. -I feel like everything about me is useless and don’t know what to do anymore. I just want to cry and never think positively about myself again bc I just end in disappointment.",,34,luna_sunflowers,1690437143.0 +I feel like everything about me is useless and don’t know what to do anymore. I just want to cry and never think positively about myself again bc I just end in disappointment.",,34,luna_sunflowers,2023-07-27 05:52:23 RedPillWomen,15as2h9,Professional heels for work?,"Are any of you fortunate enough to work somewhere where wearing heels in the workplace is commonplace, and where do you shop for your professional wardrobe, especially interested in your professional footwear wardrobe. -I would ESPECIALLY love if somebody here or a few somebodies here knew of COMFORT BRANDS for this. I wear largely luxury comfort brands, and I'm aware it's a little harder to find heels that fit this mold, though they do exist (some unsuspecting ones, too!)",,6,seeminglyrandomqs,1690432961.0 +I would ESPECIALLY love if somebody here or a few somebodies here knew of COMFORT BRANDS for this. I wear largely luxury comfort brands, and I'm aware it's a little harder to find heels that fit this mold, though they do exist (some unsuspecting ones, too!)",,6,seeminglyrandomqs,2023-07-27 04:42:41 RedPillWomen,15a4qzq,"Discussion: ""Wife Privileges""","I regularly see women here suggesting that you cannot give ""wife privileges"" before you are a wife or you will never get the ring. I am a firm believer that you need to [show him what you can do](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/qh9xsa/why_buy_the_cow_when_he_can_get_the_milk_for_free/) in order to get to the ring but I'm curious how other women went about dating their husbands. So question for the **married** ladies : @@ -6157,22 +6157,22 @@ What did your relationship look like before you got the ring? What did you do fo *The general theme is ""What did you do to get the man to commit?* -(I'll remember to answer this time)",,56,Deliaallmylife,1690375162.0 -RedPillWomen,159swjw,Your 20s are so hard and weird.,22f and I’ve noticed how there are so many good things about this stage of life but there’s also a lot of weirdness and it sucks. One minute I’m happy and living my best life and then the next I feel like crying because I haven’t found “the one” and I don’t even have a prospect of one right now. I meet someone and we have a connection and then it ends up not working out and it takes me a long time to get over them. I have three close friends and 2 out of the 3 are in the same boat as I am which *does* help but I still compare myself to others and feel like I’m not enough for someone to make me his. I’m trying to be productive and use this time to get closer to God and work on myself but it seems so hard sometimes. My dad was 22 and my mom was 20 when they got married and it just freaks me out like I’m doing something wrong.,,38,[deleted],1690338342.0 +(I'll remember to answer this time)",,56,Deliaallmylife,2023-07-26 12:39:22 +RedPillWomen,159swjw,Your 20s are so hard and weird.,22f and I’ve noticed how there are so many good things about this stage of life but there’s also a lot of weirdness and it sucks. One minute I’m happy and living my best life and then the next I feel like crying because I haven’t found “the one” and I don’t even have a prospect of one right now. I meet someone and we have a connection and then it ends up not working out and it takes me a long time to get over them. I have three close friends and 2 out of the 3 are in the same boat as I am which *does* help but I still compare myself to others and feel like I’m not enough for someone to make me his. I’m trying to be productive and use this time to get closer to God and work on myself but it seems so hard sometimes. My dad was 22 and my mom was 20 when they got married and it just freaks me out like I’m doing something wrong.,,38,[deleted],2023-07-26 02:25:42 RedPillWomen,159byc0,Good books for housewives?,"I'm looking for books on this subject or any kind of cozy/family type subjects. It could also be a fiction series or something like that, but something with good values. Or maybe some old fashioned housewife guide. -I just got married recently and I really want to learn and do a good job.",,16,Morphiadz,1690299463.0 +I just got married recently and I really want to learn and do a good job.",,16,Morphiadz,2023-07-25 15:37:43 RedPillWomen,159kbe0,Memorabilia as decorations (premarriage),"Recently, my mom just gave me all my childhood memorabilia(a couple boxes). I have a basic Ikea furnished apartment. I only recently just started dating someone and it has me nervous about making my place look like a home. He has not been over yet. -Do you ladies display your childhood achievements? Like trophies or milestone photos? Or is that weird and only something you do once you are established? ",,2,Consistent-Moose-302,1690317592.0 -RedPillWomen,157otqc,Books like the surrendered wife but for men?,My partner and are choosing a book to read together and I want us to read one of Laura Doyles books together and another book that is more geared towards men. I think we could both learn a lot from it. Thank you!,,14,[deleted],1690142914.0 +Do you ladies display your childhood achievements? Like trophies or milestone photos? Or is that weird and only something you do once you are established? ",,2,Consistent-Moose-302,2023-07-25 20:39:52 +RedPillWomen,157otqc,Books like the surrendered wife but for men?,My partner and are choosing a book to read together and I want us to read one of Laura Doyles books together and another book that is more geared towards men. I think we could both learn a lot from it. Thank you!,,14,[deleted],2023-07-23 20:08:34 RedPillWomen,157efj4,How do you not get intimidated by super tall men,"Hi ladies. I am not exactly redpill, if anything I lean feminist but have the odd redpill view. But I'm still interested in your views. Going out with men who are 6'3 sounds good in theory, but in practice I found myself to be a little intimidated by them because of their height, to the point where I found it difficult to speak freely even and they noticed. I think it's an extra challenge when you're used to being tall yourself, feeling small is not something you are used to (I'm 5'7). And I'm talking about men who are attractive AND tall too, btw, men who you are interested in, men who are confident. I guess a part of me feels physically unsafe, as well as feeling insignificant because I'm smaller now. Have any of you ladies dealt with this before, and if so do you have any tips on how to keep your confidence/ speak freely? -EDIT: I'm attracted to tall men which is why I date them.",,5,CyberTutu,1690117631.0 +EDIT: I'm attracted to tall men which is why I date them.",,5,CyberTutu,2023-07-23 13:07:11 RedPillWomen,156ptqb,What did y'all think of the Barbie movie?,"SPOILERS . . @@ -6189,14 +6189,14 @@ I thought that, with the Ken takeover, it was predicting the Redpill male backla I thought it was sad that Barbies had to rule in the end. I wish they could have come to an equal mode of government. Or, at the very least, stopped seeing Kens as inferior. I know it was supposed to be a commentary about ""positive masculinity"" but it didn't satisfy me personally. -It was feminist but I still enjoyed it mostly.",,45,Weak_Remove7884,1690046388.0 +It was feminist but I still enjoyed it mostly.",,45,Weak_Remove7884,2023-07-22 17:19:48 RedPillWomen,1572z8m,A Book Recommendation RPW Should Pick Up,"When Men Behave Badly: The Hidden Roots of Sexual Deception, Harassment, and Assult By David M. Buss Has anyone read it? -He cuts through the bullshit often spewed BY man and woman and offers reliable studies and explanations for why behavior is and the differences between our sexes; wants, desires, and our innate drivers rooted in our evolutionary genetics.",,7,DraftTrick9559,1690080532.0 +He cuts through the bullshit often spewed BY man and woman and offers reliable studies and explanations for why behavior is and the differences between our sexes; wants, desires, and our innate drivers rooted in our evolutionary genetics.",,7,DraftTrick9559,2023-07-23 02:48:52 RedPillWomen,156we5x,How to deal with when they have a fight/flight response to something that's not an argument?,"Hello So this is something that has been bothering me for a few days and I'm not sure quite how to deal with it. @@ -6209,19 +6209,19 @@ I'm not sure how to handle and feel a bit vulnerable really . How can I navigate How would you handle this ? -Thanks",,5,GlamGemini,1690062646.0 +Thanks",,5,GlamGemini,2023-07-22 21:50:46 RedPillWomen,156xr8x,Whuch book is it with upstairs brain/ downstairs brain?,"Hello I know I've read this in a book before about men's upstairs brain and downstairs brain but cannot remember which book ? I'm thinking it's laura doyle or fascinating womanhood or something along those lines -If anyone knows and can help, thank you ❤️",,2,GlamGemini,1690066066.0 +If anyone knows and can help, thank you ❤️",,2,GlamGemini,2023-07-22 22:47:46 RedPillWomen,155yr6o,Made to feel guilty for wanting to be a trad wife,"I (33F) am so burnt out from being a professional for the past 10 years. Finally got married a year ago and am ready to give up career to be a stay at home wife and mom (asap). My husband is supportive but I feel pressure from his mom (my MIL), my parents (who I support financially) and friends (who all happen to be professionals) to keep working full-time outside of the home. I am even considering a career switch as a middle ground - so I can work less or even remotely. -Really feel sad living in this generation that basically expects women to be men (literal tears). Any advice or thoughts welcomed. ",,76,Ok_Perspective_8441,1689970300.0 +Really feel sad living in this generation that basically expects women to be men (literal tears). Any advice or thoughts welcomed. ",,76,Ok_Perspective_8441,2023-07-21 20:11:40 RedPillWomen,155wrh5,FR: My Time in Nun Mode as a Teen,"For those unfamiliar with the term, ""nun mode"" is a period of celibacy, self-reflection, and self-improvement. Here's a [comment with more details and tips.](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7lc7sl/specific_nun_mode_tips_or_experiences/drl7eo3?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=2) and a [post about why it can be helpful.](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7j5g00/for_single_ladies_late_to_the_red_pill_part_ii/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=2) **Nun Mode Age: 17** @@ -6285,7 +6285,7 @@ If I could do it all over again...I would tell myself to learn how to vet. I wis **Note:** -I didn't make any SMV changes during this time. I did, however, drop 20 pounds about a year later. This did have a positive effect on my dating life as well as the RMV changes I made at 17.",,17,ArkNemesis00,1689965826.0 +I didn't make any SMV changes during this time. I did, however, drop 20 pounds about a year later. This did have a positive effect on my dating life as well as the RMV changes I made at 17.",,17,ArkNemesis00,2023-07-21 18:57:06 RedPillWomen,154t83p,Looking for positive and realistic portrayals of marriage!,"Hello! Does anybody know of any books/movies/memoirs/webpages/ANYTHING that talk about marriage in a realistic and healthy way, especially from older people? Personal accounts, not just broad overviews of marriage. Sometimes I get so exhausted thinking about what dating is like these days, seeing all the negative talk from men who just want to sleep around, excusing cheating, etc. I also just spent the week with my grandparents who I love dearly, but who do not have a healthy relationship, and the thought of that future makes me feel so jaded. @@ -6296,7 +6296,7 @@ It feels way too hard to find things that portray marriage in a positive light t Note, nothing with cheaters! For some reason a bizarre amount of memoirs I’ve read lately from women involve them cheating (and/or using drugs) and then dismissing it as “a learning experience.” -So yes, I’d love any positive, realistic portrayals of romance. If any of you ladies are willing to share about your marriages/husbands, I’d hugely appreciate that too! Thank you all for your time.",,19,Valuable_Place1265,1689865033.0 +So yes, I’d love any positive, realistic portrayals of romance. If any of you ladies are willing to share about your marriages/husbands, I’d hugely appreciate that too! Thank you all for your time.",,19,Valuable_Place1265,2023-07-20 14:57:13 RedPillWomen,154qfnf,How can I be supportive to my husband without falling into the mothering territory?,"I've recently got married and I'm trying to figure out the dynamics with my husband. He is a wonderful man and I couldn't be happier with the way he treats me. However, I'm scared I'm spoiling him too much by being too supportive and it makes him less independent. We are both 24, together for 2 years and I moved last month from another country for him (I speak his language since 3 years and it's my 4th language I'm fluent in, he doesn't speak mine). I have been living on my own in my country and working for years while I finished my Master. He is also nearly done with his (still writing his thesis), but always lived with his parents and only had part-time jobs (like tutoring, cleaning, washing dishes etc., but he was always praised as a hard worker). In his country it's normal to live with your parents while studying, in mine it's not. Now we live with his parents, but we both are actively looking for jobs and an opportunity to move out. @@ -6309,7 +6309,7 @@ This wears me out, because yes, I have experience in job search, taxes, universi I want to support him as his wife, but I don't know how to turn this dynamics around. Where does the wife territory end and mothering starts? I also don't want my husband to feel like I'm abandoning him and his ""most important task he will do in his life"" (as he calls the job search). My husband is very mindful and I know we can turn this around, but right now I don't really know how. -(I've read all the Fascinating Womanhood books and The Surrendered Wife, but this books handle only the topics of a man who already has a job and is established. I would really appreciate book recommendations where topics of ""building everything together from the ground up"" are handled!)",,12,throwaway_260467,1689858385.0 +(I've read all the Fascinating Womanhood books and The Surrendered Wife, but this books handle only the topics of a man who already has a job and is established. I would really appreciate book recommendations where topics of ""building everything together from the ground up"" are handled!)",,12,throwaway_260467,2023-07-20 13:06:25 RedPillWomen,154f0em,Dinner ideas for a first home cooked meal?,"Background: Me: 29F, him 26M, casually hanging out as “friends” in group settings and a few times alone. No romance yet but he’s indicated interest. He is coming over tomorrow for the second time. @@ -6320,7 +6320,7 @@ I live in a food desert in rural Canada (one small grocery store) so nothing wit What can I cook him to wow him without knowing his food tastes? -He will also be staying in my guest room overnight so I’d like to pack him a lunch for work, he usually gets take out.",,4,Affectionate-Yam6935,1689821786.0 +He will also be staying in my guest room overnight so I’d like to pack him a lunch for work, he usually gets take out.",,4,Affectionate-Yam6935,2023-07-20 02:56:26 RedPillWomen,153vctz,"As an Indian woman, it irks me to see most of my male indian role models are married to foreign women","Yesterday I saw that post about immigrant indian men in US and thought as a lurker(also one who lives in India) here I should tell something to y'all I am insecured about. I know I shouldn't, it's their personal choice but it still feels weird to see high SMV men of your country whom everyone look up to marry out idk why. I know a lot of them don't but once you notice it, it seems everywhere. @@ -6330,24 +6330,24 @@ Like our Indian cricket captain, hardik Pandya, famous cricketers like yuvraj si This is in no way means all high smv indian men marry out but if captains of top 3 sports of your country(cricket, football and field hockey here) was married out wouldn't it appear a little weird. The triggering part is my young brother looks upto them(that's how I came to know) and I know so many men in our country do for their leadership and achievements. -I am passionate about my country and idolize those who contribute to it. It's just this thing triggers me so much.",,26,[deleted],1689773987.0 +I am passionate about my country and idolize those who contribute to it. It's just this thing triggers me so much.",,26,[deleted],2023-07-19 13:39:47 RedPillWomen,153x6g6,Food for though: What will you teach your children,"There was a post the other day about the ways in which you aren't traditional and there is quite a mix of women on the sub. It got me to thinking, what will you teach your children about relationships? Do you want them to take the same path? What aspects of RPW will you pass on. What is your hope for their future (and don't tell me ""their happiness"" because that goes without saying and evades the thought game). What is the best advice you will pass on. -*Feel free to answer things that I didn't ask here. The questions are to get a discussion started on your future kids and your RPW beliefs*",,10,Deliaallmylife,1689778253.0 +*Feel free to answer things that I didn't ask here. The questions are to get a discussion started on your future kids and your RPW beliefs*",,10,Deliaallmylife,2023-07-19 14:50:53 RedPillWomen,1541mod,Should I leave him?,"I (25f) have been sleeping with this guy for 5 months. He says he might make me his girlfriend if I get a social life, get a general life direction, and get more independence from my family. On the one hand, I know I need to get married by 30 so I need to either make it work with this guy or move on. The question is is it worth sticking around to try and get him to like me, or should I go into nun mode and move on? -We also have different religions so idk how compatible we are. But he's still a really great guy and I don't want to lose him.",,0,Weak_Remove7884,1689788401.0 +We also have different religions so idk how compatible we are. But he's still a really great guy and I don't want to lose him.",,0,Weak_Remove7884,2023-07-19 17:40:01 RedPillWomen,152zj19,Should I pick out his clothes?,"Next weekend my bf is meeting my parents. We will meet at a laid back public event. My bf asked me to pick out his clothes that day for a good impression. Should I listen to his request and risk making him feel controlled, or should I follow Laura Doyle who says don't give him advice even if he asks for it? Thanks. Update: Thanks for the responses! I was intrigued to see the range of opinions in the comments. Last night he randomly laid out his detailed timeline of proposal, marriage, and cohabitation. I was impressed by his leadership and touched by his sweetness! In addition, in recent weeks he has been paying for my groceries and nail appointments. -Therefore I decided that on the day of meeting, I will take him to the shopping mall, he will pick his own clothes and I will buy. This is a gift back, and shopping can help him blow steam before the nervous meeting.",,22,flower_power_g1rl,1689689381.0 +Therefore I decided that on the day of meeting, I will take him to the shopping mall, he will pick his own clothes and I will buy. This is a gift back, and shopping can help him blow steam before the nervous meeting.",,22,flower_power_g1rl,2023-07-18 14:09:41 RedPillWomen,1530qm3,New to traditional relationships- having issues reading the signs.," I’m 29 just got out of a 7.5 year relationship with someone who refused to step up, was totally feminine, lacked ambition and had me doing everything. @@ -6363,13 +6363,13 @@ Does anyone have any insight on how to deal with anxiety through a dating proces He’s also a bad texter which logically I think is good because he is a busy man and has hobbies he indulges in as well, and when we are together he is very present and not on his phone- however he’s away for work and I’ve hardly heard from him and it immediately triggers my insecurities. -Appreciate any advice and insight!",,12,gottathrowitaway555,1689692246.0 +Appreciate any advice and insight!",,12,gottathrowitaway555,2023-07-18 14:57:26 RedPillWomen,152u25a,Freedom from Vanity,"So I like to look good but I have never been in to putting in an hour to fix my hair and makeup every morning. I don't wear makeup but I try to dress well and I get my eyebrows done. When I look at women who do that kind of thing I admire their appearance and effort but I also think that they're kind of enslaved to vanity. I don't want to be judemental, I understand that it's every person's choice to decide how they present themselves to the world but I wonder if others share my perspective, women spend hours on their appearance does it ever feel like a burden? -I feel grateful that I am free from feeling like I have to put effort into my appearance to be acceptable. I'm not Christian but it does make me think maybe there is some wisdom in vanity being a bad idea. Would love to hear thoughts from this community.",,8,ScienceCookie,1689674151.0 -RedPillWomen,152ryy6,Femine perfume recommendations?,The ones you've received compliments by men,,8,GreenProfessional515,1689666996.0 +I feel grateful that I am free from feeling like I have to put effort into my appearance to be acceptable. I'm not Christian but it does make me think maybe there is some wisdom in vanity being a bad idea. Would love to hear thoughts from this community.",,8,ScienceCookie,2023-07-18 09:55:51 +RedPillWomen,152ryy6,Femine perfume recommendations?,The ones you've received compliments by men,,8,GreenProfessional515,2023-07-18 07:56:36 RedPillWomen,152bvpb,7 Tips to Retain a Loving Relationship with Small Children," 1. Build Good Will @@ -6419,7 +6419,7 @@ Anecdote: I didn't find negotiating personal time to be effective initially. When I first tried this approach, it seemed like my husband dreaded ""mommy time"" more than he enjoyed ""daddy time."" I became frustrated. We argued. When I dropped that idea and gave ""daddy time"" freely and happily, that worked better for us. Then, after a couple months or so, we had a discussion about ""mommy time"" and it went very well. We realized we could sandwich some in over his lunch hour, which worked better for both of us. -I believe building up that good will mentioned in tip #1 culminated in us having more energy to work towards a better solution. And once he became comfortable handling ""mommy time"" on his own terms, it opened the door for us to trade free time. I still like to give him his own time unprompted, but it's nice to know I can now effectively get a break when I need one.",,57,ArkNemesis00,1689623143.0 +I believe building up that good will mentioned in tip #1 culminated in us having more energy to work towards a better solution. And once he became comfortable handling ""mommy time"" on his own terms, it opened the door for us to trade free time. I still like to give him his own time unprompted, but it's nice to know I can now effectively get a break when I need one.",,57,ArkNemesis00,2023-07-17 19:45:43 RedPillWomen,1528tv2,How soon to cook?,"Hi everyone, Dating (five dates over two weeks) a new guy who is separated (he lives in one state and she in another) from his wife as he goes through a divorce. I’m divorced myself. He shares a four year old with his soon to be ex wife. We had some serious conversations about what we’re looking for in a relationship and we’re on the same page -marriage and children- so we agreed not to see anyone else, be exclusive. We haven’t been intimate yet because I want him to be divorced first. Given all this I’m feeling an overwhelming urge to cook for him especially since @@ -6427,7 +6427,7 @@ Dating (five dates over two weeks) a new guy who is separated (he lives in one s 2. He mentioned he wants a SAHW/M and his ex wife really dropped by the ball by not wanting to cook or do anything maternal…seems like a great way to score points with him 3. I really like him and he’s paid for everything including my car ride home along with being patient on physical intimacy so I’d like to do something nice for him -We have plans to see each other tomorrow but I was contemplating making him a quick dinner tonight assuming he’s really tired from his drive this morning followed by work, hence this post. Let me know what you think!",,5,chrissycash,1689616193.0 +We have plans to see each other tomorrow but I was contemplating making him a quick dinner tonight assuming he’s really tired from his drive this morning followed by work, hence this post. Let me know what you think!",,5,chrissycash,2023-07-17 17:49:53 RedPillWomen,151ms2s,How to Achieve a Feminine Aura,"I made a comment about this yesterday and one of the mods suggested that I elongate it into a full post, so here we are! I will start by saying that this is different than *looking* feminine. It's about making people feel a certain way when they're around you: exuding a soft, approachable, loving energy that will make people feel comfortable and happy when they're with you. @@ -6445,10 +6445,10 @@ I will start by saying that this is different than *looking* feminine. It's abou &#x200B; -All of that to say: be the light in the dark. That is the culmination of all of these traits. The world is full of pain, suffering, and darkness. Don't contribute to it. You are the hospital in the battlefield, the place people go to heal and to feel cared for. That is the core of femininity in my eyes. Pretty dresses and clear skin help, but the feminine soul is one of deep caring, respect, and healing. That is what will keep people around long after your skin is wrinkled and your hair is gray.",,52,[deleted],1689554353.0 +All of that to say: be the light in the dark. That is the culmination of all of these traits. The world is full of pain, suffering, and darkness. Don't contribute to it. You are the hospital in the battlefield, the place people go to heal and to feel cared for. That is the core of femininity in my eyes. Pretty dresses and clear skin help, but the feminine soul is one of deep caring, respect, and healing. That is what will keep people around long after your skin is wrinkled and your hair is gray.",,52,[deleted],2023-07-17 00:39:13 RedPillWomen,151ssda,Women who love to wear dresses - what do you wear in the winter?,"I live somewhere cold where its winter for a great portion of the year and regular tights dont cut it when its far below 30F. We can get to -40F up here. Fleece tights wont cut it when its that cold. -Ofc I can wear dresses with tights when its 20F and up but then what type of dresses? I feel like aregular sundress with tights would look odd. Thanks for your input!",,12,[deleted],1689572048.0 +Ofc I can wear dresses with tights when its 20F and up but then what type of dresses? I feel like aregular sundress with tights would look odd. Thanks for your input!",,12,[deleted],2023-07-17 05:34:08 RedPillWomen,1517mcb,About tolerating abuse,"I just read a post from someone who's said that her family is very ""traditional"" and the man in her life ignores her needs wants and wishes.. and she asked if it will get better someday As the comments are blocked on the post I want to make my own post just to share my thoughts with you all @@ -6458,10 +6458,10 @@ We try to improve here to have a partner who RESPECTS US and values us. Someone Please beautiful gals, do not stay in a bad place.. tolerating belittling and lack of respect, hoping that someday things magically will changed -From the wisdom we learned here in our community we know, that easier to pick another man rather than try to ""change"" a man. And by change I mean the bad qualities not the good ones. Thanks for reading",,37,Direct-Ad-5394,1689517560.0 +From the wisdom we learned here in our community we know, that easier to pick another man rather than try to ""change"" a man. And by change I mean the bad qualities not the good ones. Thanks for reading",,37,Direct-Ad-5394,2023-07-16 14:26:00 RedPillWomen,15176on,"Non-traditional women of RPW, what brings you here?","We get reminded from time to time that [tradcon is RPW, but RPW is not tradcon](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/mdr62i/tradcon_is_rpw_but_rpw_is_not_tradcon/). -So, women who are not tradcon - what brings you here? What's different about your values/lifestyle and how is RPW still relevant to your life?",,23,_Pumpkin_Muffin,1689516454.0 +So, women who are not tradcon - what brings you here? What's different about your values/lifestyle and how is RPW still relevant to your life?",,23,_Pumpkin_Muffin,2023-07-16 14:07:34 RedPillWomen,15183pn,"""I want to work hard, so you can be my trophy wife!""","After telling me his work plans for the next year, my boyfriend said this to me! Huge win. I said, ""Yes! And what does that entail for you?"" He looked me up and down and said ""You are tall and healthy, and that is enough."" I asked him if I should wear heels to look taller, but he said ""No need, natural is best."" (I am a few cm taller than him). We are both from Asia but he is from East Asia which has a narrower beauty standard. But I am not really aware of the latest trends - could somebody help me with this? I want to add that we are deeply and healthily in love. I know he will never replace me with someone younger so long as I look nice enough and treat him right 'the RPW way'. He currently schedules and pays for my nail appointments, buys me gifts often, buys my groceries sometimes and he's been trying to cook all of my meals so long as I clean up after he cooks. @@ -6472,7 +6472,7 @@ I am not from his home country, what can I do to gain respect and maturely deal I am currently not open to getting fillers or plastic surgery. I know that in East Asia, looking overtly sexual is not a must to give off that 'trophy wife' vibe - rather it should be a successful and kind man with a woman who is cute to beautiful, carries herself elegantly and silently, with great ambition and a successful current or past career of her own. -Who are the trophy wives of East Asia? What do they embody? Most importantly, what can I do during one year to prepare?",,10,flower_power_g1rl,1689518788.0 +Who are the trophy wives of East Asia? What do they embody? Most importantly, what can I do during one year to prepare?",,10,flower_power_g1rl,2023-07-16 14:46:28 RedPillWomen,151c0p0,How to fix negative views of femininity?,"Hello! I was hoping for tips on changing my mindset around femininity. One of my biggest issues is getting angry when I feel dismissed or like I’m being patronized. Unfortunately, I think I’ve associated being girly with people not taking me seriously. Part of that stems from my hobbies (I do Muay Thai, not a feminine-friendly environment), and part of that is from school and family, where I got positive reinforcement from acting like ‘one of the guys’. @@ -6481,9 +6481,9 @@ I love being treated like a girl in relationships and I feel like I’ve gotten I don’t know how to fix this. I want to be cherished and cared for the way I see women being cared for, but I also want to be taken seriously. Does anybody have any advice for changing my mindset or view of femininity as a weakness? Logically I know it isn’t, but it doesn’t feel that way to me. -Edit: I want to be clear, I’m not at all trying to say femininity is a bad thing. I’m just really struggling to overcome my internal block, which I really want to do, so I can have the kind of positive relationship that I dream of. Thank you for your help!",,2,Latter-Cranberry4508,1689528419.0 -RedPillWomen,151dlet,How to be More Mature,"I’m turning 31 in September, and am pregnant with our first baby. What are ways I can be more mature: physically, emotionally, personality wise, etc? Thank you!!",,1,Frosty-Editor1370,1689532157.0 -RedPillWomen,150ywo0,Hyaluronidase,I am going to get my lips dissolved today. Is it safe?? I want my old face back but I’m scared of any long term side effects of dissolver,,4,IndustryMountain,1689489595.0 +Edit: I want to be clear, I’m not at all trying to say femininity is a bad thing. I’m just really struggling to overcome my internal block, which I really want to do, so I can have the kind of positive relationship that I dream of. Thank you for your help!",,2,Latter-Cranberry4508,2023-07-16 17:26:59 +RedPillWomen,151dlet,How to be More Mature,"I’m turning 31 in September, and am pregnant with our first baby. What are ways I can be more mature: physically, emotionally, personality wise, etc? Thank you!!",,1,Frosty-Editor1370,2023-07-16 18:29:17 +RedPillWomen,150ywo0,Hyaluronidase,I am going to get my lips dissolved today. Is it safe?? I want my old face back but I’m scared of any long term side effects of dissolver,,4,IndustryMountain,2023-07-16 06:39:55 RedPillWomen,150jru5,How to become more feminine?,"Hey girls! I’m looking into doing things in the next couple of months to become more feminine. @@ -6505,19 +6505,19 @@ And I’m planning on: Just wondering if there’s anything else I could do? Open to any suggestions, bonus points if they’re cheap ☺️ -(Edit: for context, I already have a boyfriend, so that’s not an issue - I just want to look more feminine. Grew up in a house where being feminine wasn’t allowed because it would attract men, so I want to tap into my feminine side more now.)",,9,squideye62,1689446989.0 +(Edit: for context, I already have a boyfriend, so that’s not an issue - I just want to look more feminine. Grew up in a house where being feminine wasn’t allowed because it would attract men, so I want to tap into my feminine side more now.)",,9,squideye62,2023-07-15 18:49:49 RedPillWomen,150d6yf,Girly vs Feminine: A discussion,"I don't really have an answer to this. It's just something I have been thinking about and thought it would be fun to discuss. I think there is a difference in being girly and being feminine. I see lots of women who are girly, but don't know how to use their feminity. I think you can be girly AND feminine. (I'm an elder millennial who is losing her mind with joy about the current Barbie obsession so I am not special). However, to me feminity isn't the girly trappings we so enjoy. I think it's a mindset. I think true feminity is is pretty powerful if a woman knows how to use it. -Thoughts? Opinions? Examples of why you agree or disagree?",,15,pieorstrudel5,1689430614.0 -RedPillWomen,150aua0,Did anyone hear about Arab women affected by western lifestyle overseas. Families are collapsing?,A youtuber called the phillip scott show did a video on ladies divorcing men due to feminist ideaology. Several question: What are your thoughts on our culture and women? Do you agree with men going overseas to find wives? Just any thoughts at all would do,,5,Serious-Summer9378,1689424244.0 -RedPillWomen,150h7g3,Appearance change,Did lip filler change anyone else’s face? I got my lips done a few months ago and my pre lip filler photos look almost alien to me. It changed the perception of all my features. Is this common ?!,,0,IndustryMountain,1689440673.0 -RedPillWomen,14zxxna,What is nun mode?,I've recently discovered the subreddit and I saw a lot of people mentioning nun mode. Sounds like something interesting so I'd love a non vague answer.,,6,weedandpie,1689383513.0 -RedPillWomen,14zp43s,How to become a better cook?,"So some back story I grew up in a vegan family, so all I know how to make is vegan food. However I’m currently with a man that loves to eat meat. And enjoys home cooked meals, on numerous occasions he’s said he would like for me to make him a nice meal. But I’m scared because idk know how to cook anything with meat. He’s tried my vegan meals but I know it leave him wanting more because of the lack of protein. I no longer am a vegan and but I still only exclusively cook vegan/ vegetarian meals. I would love to learn how to make a nice chicken or a steak (which is his favorite). So any recommendations on how I can improve my cooking skills and make meals that my fiancé would enjoy.",,10,No-Umpire-7411,1689361603.0 +Thoughts? Opinions? Examples of why you agree or disagree?",,15,pieorstrudel5,2023-07-15 14:16:54 +RedPillWomen,150aua0,Did anyone hear about Arab women affected by western lifestyle overseas. Families are collapsing?,A youtuber called the phillip scott show did a video on ladies divorcing men due to feminist ideaology. Several question: What are your thoughts on our culture and women? Do you agree with men going overseas to find wives? Just any thoughts at all would do,,5,Serious-Summer9378,2023-07-15 12:30:44 +RedPillWomen,150h7g3,Appearance change,Did lip filler change anyone else’s face? I got my lips done a few months ago and my pre lip filler photos look almost alien to me. It changed the perception of all my features. Is this common ?!,,0,IndustryMountain,2023-07-15 17:04:33 +RedPillWomen,14zxxna,What is nun mode?,I've recently discovered the subreddit and I saw a lot of people mentioning nun mode. Sounds like something interesting so I'd love a non vague answer.,,6,weedandpie,2023-07-15 01:11:53 +RedPillWomen,14zp43s,How to become a better cook?,"So some back story I grew up in a vegan family, so all I know how to make is vegan food. However I’m currently with a man that loves to eat meat. And enjoys home cooked meals, on numerous occasions he’s said he would like for me to make him a nice meal. But I’m scared because idk know how to cook anything with meat. He’s tried my vegan meals but I know it leave him wanting more because of the lack of protein. I no longer am a vegan and but I still only exclusively cook vegan/ vegetarian meals. I would love to learn how to make a nice chicken or a steak (which is his favorite). So any recommendations on how I can improve my cooking skills and make meals that my fiancé would enjoy.",,10,No-Umpire-7411,2023-07-14 19:06:43 RedPillWomen,14zx9jr,How to become better at makeup?,"Hi! I am working on improving myself to attract a guy and I want to get better at wearing makeup. I don't wear any now. I have watched some tutorials and bought some (like over $100 worth that I mostly end up throwing away because it didn't work) -What do I buy/who do I watch to get better at? And what kind sof makeup styles are men attracted to? Thanks!",,2,Weak_Remove7884,1689381657.0 +What do I buy/who do I watch to get better at? And what kind sof makeup styles are men attracted to? Thanks!",,2,Weak_Remove7884,2023-07-15 00:40:57 RedPillWomen,14zbdxp,How to make more female friends as someone who gets along better with guy friends?,"Hey all, I would love some RPW opinions on this. I struggle to make female friends, and I’m just now understanding that my masculine conversation style is probably turning people away. I had a breakup a month ago that has left me feeling lonely and really self-reflecting on why it is so difficult for me to make and keep female friends. Then I recently saw this comment on a post from this sub and it hit deep: > Healthy Female friendships are generally built more on supporting one another than the ribbing that happens in many guy groups. It just does not strengthen a female bond in the same way. In a group of women, you are not looking to be the most clever or getting the most attention or posing shock value, focus instead on being positive and supportive. @@ -6526,11 +6526,11 @@ This explains so much. I really struggle with female friendships and group hango Now I know this sounds bad, and often I cringe in real time at my behavior, but it’s been tough to change. I grew up somewhat socially awkward and didn’t have many friends, and my family was full of arguing and talking over each other. All my life I’ve attempted to make friends by making myself look cool so that others will like me, rather than learning to connect with them. -Can someone please explain to me like I’m 5 how as a woman in my 20s I can learn to have great lifetime female friendships? I know I can’t erase my whole childhood and do a complete 180° with my behavior, but if anyone has little tips that I can think about when in conversation to make adjustments, I’m all ears.",,13,Artistic-Physics7598,1689325945.0 +Can someone please explain to me like I’m 5 how as a woman in my 20s I can learn to have great lifetime female friendships? I know I can’t erase my whole childhood and do a complete 180° with my behavior, but if anyone has little tips that I can think about when in conversation to make adjustments, I’m all ears.",,13,Artistic-Physics7598,2023-07-14 09:12:25 RedPillWomen,14z52y6,advice for dating in college,"hi! I’m about to go into college (18f) and I’m really excited I just don’t really know what to expect with dating. I’ve gone on dates in high school but never got into anything I would call an actual relationship (or if it was, it was pretty short and unserious), only kissed one person so I’m inexperienced, so honestly I would just appreciate some general advice if you have any, like things you wish you would’ve known before dating in college, but I also have a few specific worries. right now I really don’t plan on partying or drinking etc, it just doesn’t interest me and I’m pursuing a double major so I have to work hard to graduate on time and not go into debt. however, I don’t want to come across as uptight/boring or miss out on meeting people that way. I’m talking to people in my real life about all this too but I’d like to hear the rp perspective on this! I’m not going to change myself or my goals to fit in but I am kinda worried cause it seems to me that partying/hookup culture is so popular rn and I want to know what to expect. +does anyone date to marry in college?? I would love to find someone that I will later get married to while in college but I understand that might not be a reasonable goal? -btw my school’s guy to girl ratio is super high, almost 3:1 (with guys as the majority) so I would think that should be beneficial to dating as a girl but again would be nice to hear some advice. sry for the rambling and thank you!! 💗",,10,goldaline777,1689305325.0 +btw my school’s guy to girl ratio is super high, almost 3:1 (with guys as the majority) so I would think that should be beneficial to dating as a girl but again would be nice to hear some advice. sry for the rambling and thank you!! 💗",,10,goldaline777,2023-07-14 03:28:45 RedPillWomen,14y5v70,Do you still fit in your wedding dress?,"> Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not. So, each is inevitably disappointed. ~ Albert Einstein, maybe, [but probably not]( https://quoteinvestigator.com/2017/01/17/marry/) @@ -6560,7 +6560,7 @@ Would he marry you again today or have you moved too far from the sweet young br &nbsp; -Do you still fit into your wedding dress?",,61,Deliaallmylife,1689208865.0 +Do you still fit into your wedding dress?",,61,Deliaallmylife,2023-07-13 00:41:05 RedPillWomen,14y6699,3% of women are virgins/wait to have sex before marriage,"As this is a redpill community, I’m aware there are more women who are virgins or waiting to have sex before marriage OR waited to have sex with their husband. I just need your advice. I’m struggling a lot with feeling comfortable and confident :( I can’t speak about this with anyone irl because they judge me for being a virgin or having no experience with men at my age. Some even give me weird looks. @@ -6569,7 +6569,7 @@ I’m waiting until marriage to have sex with my partner, but I’m worried beca How did you navigate this if you were also a virgin? Did you ease into your married life comfortably? Was your husband very accommodating? -And the most important question I have: **if you were a virgin and waited until marriage, do you think this significantly helped make your married life happier? Do you feel very attached to your man? Personally, I have the feeling I can’t even look at another man sexually or romantically and I haven’t even been intimate w him yet 😭**",,18,[deleted],1689209809.0 +And the most important question I have: **if you were a virgin and waited until marriage, do you think this significantly helped make your married life happier? Do you feel very attached to your man? Personally, I have the feeling I can’t even look at another man sexually or romantically and I haven’t even been intimate w him yet 😭**",,18,[deleted],2023-07-13 00:56:49 RedPillWomen,14y9sdu,Confused on who to “aim” for in LTRs,"I’m on nun mode in hopes of snagging a better guy for an LTR and general life improvement. I’ve heard the advice to look at who the the type of HVM you want is dating and aim for that type of look but they all date women who are skinny, dainty, and plain. I’m the complete opposite. No matter how thin i get, I’ll always be curvy and I have a bohemian style. @@ -6578,7 +6578,7 @@ I obviously can’t change my bone structure, but I don’t know wether to ditch Has anyone had to “pivot” their look to attract the guy they want? Please give insight. -EDIT: added a few words for clarification.",,6,SweetSecond5900,1689219997.0 +EDIT: added a few words for clarification.",,6,SweetSecond5900,2023-07-13 03:46:37 RedPillWomen,14xpa5h,FR: I left a bad relationship at 23 and my life didn't end.,"I've seen so many posts by women that debate staying in an obviously BAD relationship because ""I'm 24/23/22/**20 (!!!)** and I worry I'll hit the Wall soon."" So... I thought I'd throw this out there. First, [an old post](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/5qi7l6/the_fear_of_the_wall_and_why_im_sick_of_hearing/) that might be interesting to read (comments included), and then my 2 cents. @@ -6591,7 +6591,7 @@ If you want a long term partner or husband, great! Know what you're looking for. Please stop thinking that you're running out of time and need to ""settle"" for a bad relationship, especially in your EARLY TWENTIES. It's better to be alone than to be with the wrong man. -Thanks for coming to my TedTalk.",,56,_Pumpkin_Muffin,1689170145.0 +Thanks for coming to my TedTalk.",,56,_Pumpkin_Muffin,2023-07-12 13:55:45 RedPillWomen,14xm1vf,Help me stop eating!,"I have lost 50 pounds. I need to lose 50 more. I was serious at the start of the year and dropped 15 pounds easily. Around March/April I lost all motivation. I’ve been dealing with burnout and exhaustion (anemia on top of managing a home, working, and taking care of my mom w/cancer). I was maintaining, but now I have to be honest with myself that I gained 5 pounds back. But I am 1) feeling constantly hungry and 2) have *zero* motivation/drive/ability to restrain myself from eating. The moment I even think “okay this is my meal plan today”, my anxiety goes up and I seriously nearly panic about the idea of restricting my eating. @@ -6602,8 +6602,8 @@ I was on fire in January to March. Walking daily, tracking calories… Nothing It has taken me nearly 4 years to lose the 50. I would love to not take another 4 years. At the rate I was going, I could easily lose it over the next year (or less). I felt great. I felt great about my body. Now… not so much. -Ladies, I know many of you are health minded and prioritize taking care of your bodies. I need your wisdom please ❤️",,15,anothergoodbook,1689161760.0 -RedPillWomen,14xzu1n,Movie recommendations,I'd love some movie recommendations that apply towards RPW whether that be good examples or examples of what not to be.,,2,Organic_Grape_3488,1689194035.0 +Ladies, I know many of you are health minded and prioritize taking care of your bodies. I need your wisdom please ❤️",,15,anothergoodbook,2023-07-12 11:36:00 +RedPillWomen,14xzu1n,Movie recommendations,I'd love some movie recommendations that apply towards RPW whether that be good examples or examples of what not to be.,,2,Organic_Grape_3488,2023-07-12 20:33:55 RedPillWomen,14xznc9,Should I respond to him?,"Background on me: 29, 2 young kids, almost divorced (country laws), own a home and financially independent, single. I realize the whole single mom situation is a huge barrier for me. I’ve spent the last year in nun mode till recently. I was casually dating a man when we decided we were better off as friends for various reasons. Great guy and he tells me I am a great woman but we were not compatible. The biggest reason being he plans on moving in 2 years and knows I won’t be able to due to custody. He works in law enforcement and I had met his coworkers while we were going on dates. One in particular took an interest in me, and asked him if we were serious or not. @@ -6612,34 +6612,34 @@ When we decided not to be together, he suggested I message his coworker on SM. W Today, this man messaged me a very low effort “hey”. No explanation for ghosting for a month. My friend told me it was just coincidence and he hasn’t told him to message me. -Should I respond or just leave it? If I do respond, should I bring up the lapse in communication or keep it lighthearted?",,0,Affectionate-Yam6935,1689193597.0 +Should I respond or just leave it? If I do respond, should I bring up the lapse in communication or keep it lighthearted?",,0,Affectionate-Yam6935,2023-07-12 20:26:37 RedPillWomen,14xkkg9,How do I get to know an extremely shy and reserved guy?,"I was introduced to this guy about 2 years ago by a mutual friend. It was just the 3 of us but he only started talking to me after a few drinks. The rest of the time, he would laugh at my jokes but only respond once I spoke to him. I also noticed he was constantly shaking his legs the whole time, not sure why but he seemed quite awkward. I got his number through the same friend as I’m relocating to the same country he’s in. Every time I’ve texted him for some information, he would promptly respond but never deviate from the topic. He has also never texted me first. Not only am I unaware of how to get to know someone like this, I’m also not sure if he’s interested in me at all. He has very few female friends, most of whom are happily married. I have never seen him interact or approach any women so he’s definitely very shy. -P.S - I’m also an introvert myself so I haven’t been able to initiate a casual conversation with him so far. The only time I text him is when I have some genuine queries regarding my relocation.",,7,Global_Moose_1991,1689157520.0 +P.S - I’m also an introvert myself so I haven’t been able to initiate a casual conversation with him so far. The only time I text him is when I have some genuine queries regarding my relocation.",,7,Global_Moose_1991,2023-07-12 10:25:20 RedPillWomen,14wvnsh,Please welcome our new mod!,"Hello RPW, Please help me welcome the newest addition to the mod team, the lovely u/ChamomileMist! She has graciously stepped on to help with general modding efforts as well as to organize and arrange our sidebar/wiki with u/FastLifePineapple, which has always been a work in progress. Like all mods, she is a vetted and endorsed member of the community who the mod team recognized has gone above and beyond, and is using a new mod account for privacy and safety purposes. -We are so happy to have you on the team, u/ChamomileMist! Your efforts will help us maintain and nurture this community as a unique space for women wanting male-led relationships and the tools and strategies that accompany that.",,31,LivelyLychee,1689092025.0 +We are so happy to have you on the team, u/ChamomileMist! Your efforts will help us maintain and nurture this community as a unique space for women wanting male-led relationships and the tools and strategies that accompany that.",,31,LivelyLychee,2023-07-11 16:13:45 RedPillWomen,14x3k9a,How to be more soft,"As a minor, I still live with my family. I try to be more soft and coolheaded but there are just times where my boundaries are crossed so many times that I can’t take it anymore, and I lose my temper. This only happens with my family members who live with me. I probably snapped only once at one of my acquaintances when he was giving me so much attitude I couldn’t stand it (I regret firing back with the same energy though). I try to remove myself from the situation and allow myself to cool off a bit alone in my room, but I’m ashamed of how I can act when I lose it. Even my own mother has said this behavior reminds her of my father’s outbursts. I even recently noticed my baby brother is having the same problems as me as well, and I guess that was my wake-up call that I needed to change. -I don’t want this temper of mine to affect any future relationships because I want to be able to have a healthy and communicative dynamic with other people. I wouldn’t want a husband with a short temper, and I doubt a good husband would want a wife with that either. Regardless of gender, I believe it is a serious personality flaw and I am aware that I need to work on my self control, any tips?",,3,i_really_want_a_dog,1689109664.0 +I don’t want this temper of mine to affect any future relationships because I want to be able to have a healthy and communicative dynamic with other people. I wouldn’t want a husband with a short temper, and I doubt a good husband would want a wife with that either. Regardless of gender, I believe it is a serious personality flaw and I am aware that I need to work on my self control, any tips?",,3,i_really_want_a_dog,2023-07-11 21:07:44 RedPillWomen,14wobwi,What career do you have/ are pursuing?,"Recently found this sub and started reading out of curiosity, expecting that it would be a super toxic environment (esp because I’m used to seeing some of the more unhinged behavior from the male side of RP) but I was actually really surprised to see that this sub shares a lot of the values I hold! I’m going to be a senior in highschool this August and I’m trying to work on a lot of my poorer qualities and falling more in tune with my feminine side while I still have the time. That being said, I’ve seen a lot of people on here recommend nursing or teaching careers to RPW’s younger audience because a good husband will be looking for a woman with a good education, but I was wondering if anyone on this sub has a more,,, different career? Because I’m hoping to work in the animation industry someday and I don’t know if that aligns with RPW’s expectations for some reason. It’s sort of like how you wouldn’t really expect a feminine woman with RP beliefs to be working in that type of industry if that makes sense? I also feel like it might be harder for me to find “the one” while I’m pursuing that career, as I feel like the job isn’t really taken as seriously and it’s hard to balance the workload with having a life (same goes for other careers as well). I guess dermatology is another field I’m interested in, but I hope I can break into the animation industry nonetheless. Anyway, I’m really just curious to hear about everyone’s careers! Did you feel like your job gravitated or pushed away good men from pursuing you? If you work/worked in a male-dominated field, do you feel like it contributed to any specific dynamics with your partner? To the housewives/SAHMs who read all the way up to this point, what made you decide that staying home was the better choice for you and your family? I’m super curious to hear different viewpoints on this, thank you for reading :) -Edit: These responses were really insightful, thank you!",,9,i_really_want_a_dog,1689073930.0 -RedPillWomen,14x3c3k,Nun mode success stories?,Who here has gone into nun mode and benefitted from it? What did that look like? Looking for inspiration and tips,,1,Then_Hair_7361,1689109180.0 -RedPillWomen,14w79rq,Do you offer to pay the bill?,"This is my question , do you offer to pay the bill or you just let him pay the bill and then open the door to return it with sex ?, Not sure about how to set boundaries or if I should or not .....",,0,[deleted],1689025154.0 -RedPillWomen,14vx26v,Is still a real relationship?,What do you think about long distance relationships? Is still real for you?,,2,Direct-Ad-5394,1689002574.0 +Edit: These responses were really insightful, thank you!",,9,i_really_want_a_dog,2023-07-11 11:12:10 +RedPillWomen,14x3c3k,Nun mode success stories?,Who here has gone into nun mode and benefitted from it? What did that look like? Looking for inspiration and tips,,1,Then_Hair_7361,2023-07-11 20:59:40 +RedPillWomen,14w79rq,Do you offer to pay the bill?,"This is my question , do you offer to pay the bill or you just let him pay the bill and then open the door to return it with sex ?, Not sure about how to set boundaries or if I should or not .....",,0,[deleted],2023-07-10 21:39:14 +RedPillWomen,14vx26v,Is still a real relationship?,What do you think about long distance relationships? Is still real for you?,,2,Direct-Ad-5394,2023-07-10 15:22:54 RedPillWomen,14vl5mn,I snapped,"For the past year, I've been trying to be more soft in how I express my boundaries. My boyfriend says I am incredibly sweet except when I am setting boundaries, then I am cold and sharp as a knife, and that I set too many boundaries. I've tried to listen to him, and he was right. I really care about societal order (ESTJ) and often I was trying to control situations around me. Now every time I believe in fate and let go of control, I feel much more safe, confident, calm and trusting. So when I have an urge to set a boundary, I take a deep breath and ask my gut ""Is it really important?"" If not, I will cringe watching an unexpected outcome. But if my gut says it's important, I must express this bottom line to my boyfriend, right? Then he gets upset that I am suddenly sharp and cold again. @@ -6659,11 +6659,11 @@ How should I proceed from here? Update: It was all a test! Of course he has the same definition of stalking as me. He just wanted to see how much compassion I would have for that ex, because I have once broken up with him before. After that breakup I avoided contact with him and he felt very hurt because he was still in love. After all, this test was a way for him to 'squeeze' out of me whether I still cared about him when I went no contact or not. Of course, I did. I have him that reassurance that I always loved him even when I cut contact with him and we're good now. Thanks for the commenters 🙏 -I want to add that I was stalked before and SA'd by the ex directly before him. This is why I feel very strongly about boundaries particularly boundaries of physical distance.",,2,flower_power_g1rl,1688968143.0 -RedPillWomen,14vdqer,A question about dating,"Hey gals. Glad to be in this community where we share values and goals in common. I had a question about dating. Girls, how do you usually go on a date? Do you use dating apps and meet someone interesting or your friends set you up with somebody? How the date go? I had been off of dating apps for a while because the guys I had met are the type of guys whom go out one date and never see them again (it was bad for me because I left with the feeling that I was not good enough or not interesting) these guys are people who I never know before so maybe that could be a reason but anyways. How's your approach girls? Any tips and advise on how can improve dating to meet someone that could end up in dating to be bf/gf. Any input would be appreciated 🫂😊",,3,Direct-Ad-5394,1688946345.0 +I want to add that I was stalked before and SA'd by the ex directly before him. This is why I feel very strongly about boundaries particularly boundaries of physical distance.",,2,flower_power_g1rl,2023-07-10 05:49:03 +RedPillWomen,14vdqer,A question about dating,"Hey gals. Glad to be in this community where we share values and goals in common. I had a question about dating. Girls, how do you usually go on a date? Do you use dating apps and meet someone interesting or your friends set you up with somebody? How the date go? I had been off of dating apps for a while because the guys I had met are the type of guys whom go out one date and never see them again (it was bad for me because I left with the feeling that I was not good enough or not interesting) these guys are people who I never know before so maybe that could be a reason but anyways. How's your approach girls? Any tips and advise on how can improve dating to meet someone that could end up in dating to be bf/gf. Any input would be appreciated 🫂😊",,3,Direct-Ad-5394,2023-07-09 23:45:45 RedPillWomen,14vje5x,About modesty and famous trad women.,"First of all I'd like to apologize about any eventual english mistake I might commite here. It's not my first tongue. I don't have the intention to make any woman feel bad, but I think we should talk about the way we've been presenting ourselves. I've seen many famous woman that claim to be trad, but they dressed in a very unmodesty way. Short dresses, short skirts... Ugh! For exemple, I was just scrolling up Eva Vlaar's Instagram page and the way she exposes her body in tight and short clothes made me horrified (again, no hate, I like her a lot, just pointing). I don't think that's a good exemple to young girls :(. -I don't think that the way you dress defines your character, however think we should dress in a way to show what is in your heart!",,1,LizzaLung,1688962499.0 +I don't think that the way you dress defines your character, however think we should dress in a way to show what is in your heart!",,1,LizzaLung,2023-07-10 04:14:59 RedPillWomen,14uu2zc,Empowering Myself with Natural Contraception: The Untapped Potential of Temperature and Hormone Tracking,"Hey all, I wanted to open a dialogue about natural contraception techniques, specifically focusing on basal body temperature (BBT) tracking and hormone monitoring. It's a topic that doesn't get as much attention as it deserves, and I'm intrigued to hear your perspectives on it. @@ -6680,7 +6680,7 @@ Despite my positive experience, I've observed that these methods aren't as wides I'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences on this. Have you ever tried these natural contraception methods? If yes, how was your experience? If not, what factors have held you back? Is there something that could persuade you to give them a try? -Remember, there isn't a one-size-fits-all in contraception - everyone's body and circumstances are different. But having all the information can allow us to make well-informed decisions about our reproductive health. Can't wait to hear your insights!",,16,ShaggyStock,1688894679.0 +Remember, there isn't a one-size-fits-all in contraception - everyone's body and circumstances are different. But having all the information can allow us to make well-informed decisions about our reproductive health. Can't wait to hear your insights!",,16,ShaggyStock,2023-07-09 09:24:39 RedPillWomen,14uk7ep,Advice on how to motivate my man.,"Hi there. I (26F) have been with my man (34M) for six years now. The entire time we've been together, he's kept a job. Not the same one, he has bounced from job to job, never being able to find the right fit. This has never bothered me as our bills have always been paid between the two of us. @@ -6689,27 +6689,27 @@ Last year, however, he had a slew of health issues (still unresolved, but we're If I made enough from my full-time job to support us both, I wouldn't mind, but I'm running on fumes after having done this the last year and a half. I don't know if it is lack of confidence after everything that happened, lack of motivation, laziness, guilt, etc. or some combination. I have tried talking to him about it before, and he always is apologetic and says he will look for work, but that hasn't happened a whole lot. I don't want to be naggy or whiny -I need advice on what I can say or do to help him get back to it. How would a RPW handle this?",,9,bluenoseninja,1688862742.0 +I need advice on what I can say or do to help him get back to it. How would a RPW handle this?",,9,bluenoseninja,2023-07-09 00:32:22 RedPillWomen,14uytzo,How to stop being a plate,"Hi, I (25f) have been sleeping with this guy for around 5 months. I've hooked up with him a couple of times before this over the years. I know he's sleeping with other women as he's told me. He's mentioned maybe going on dates with me but hasn't followed through. I know I've fucked up by asking the ""what are we question"" a couple of times (which whisper says means he has to automatically relegate me to plate status forever) and even by breaking it off with him a few times. I keep coming back though because he's an alpha and so irresistible. -I know I'm 25 which means I need to get married to a beta now seeing I'm already past the wall (is it at 25 or 30?) But I lack motivation. I really want to see if I can get this guy to commit. Maybe I should offer polyamory to incentivize him? Idk",,0,[deleted],1688909960.0 +I know I'm 25 which means I need to get married to a beta now seeing I'm already past the wall (is it at 25 or 30?) But I lack motivation. I really want to see if I can get this guy to commit. Maybe I should offer polyamory to incentivize him? Idk",,0,[deleted],2023-07-09 13:39:20 RedPillWomen,14tw7jg,Female friend coming over with malls friends to his house: what would you do?,"Ladies I need a sanity check from sane women 😭 My last relationship was incredibly toxic and unhealthy and I don’t know where the lines are for certain things because I’m used to toxic and immature behaviors. My(24f) boyfriend(24m) of 8 months randomly told me that “everyone was over” At his place. When I asked who, he sent me a pic and it was his only female friend and two other guy friends. One of them has a thing with said female friend, but it’s nothing official and has never been, they’re like an item but they’re not? It’s confusing. Anyways my heart immediately sank because of my insecurities and jealousy, I don’t like the thought of another woman being in his home. She’s pretty and has a great body, i have felt insecure over her before despite my boyfriend never giving me a reason to. He doesn’t text her frequently anymore either - I was under the impression they kinda did when we first started talking but that’s since ceased. Anyway!! How would you handle this situation, is it not a big deal? -I don’t know whether my feelings are correct or not in feeling disrespected right now. I don’t know how to react. :( I don’t want to blow it out of proportions and have him think he can’t confide in me. In the photo I saw the book he let her borrow for a class this last semester so I’m thinking she might’ve texted him she has his book and returned it and everyone came? Idk.",,5,vinesandflowers,1688798316.0 +I don’t know whether my feelings are correct or not in feeling disrespected right now. I don’t know how to react. :( I don’t want to blow it out of proportions and have him think he can’t confide in me. In the photo I saw the book he let her borrow for a class this last semester so I’m thinking she might’ve texted him she has his book and returned it and everyone came? Idk.",,5,vinesandflowers,2023-07-08 06:38:36 RedPillWomen,14t7vqy,How do I stop feeling like I’m left behind?,"Hi everyone, I’m a 28F and I often have this feeling that I’m behind in life. I know in reality, I’m doing well financially/career wise - nothing exceptional though, I have a bachelors degree and make a good living. However, my life just hasn’t turned out the way I thought it would. The older I get, the more I feel depressed about not being married yet, not having children yet. I’ve always had these things in mind but I muted my desires and was swayed by parental guidance to pursue an education and a career more than anything else, they have always heavily discouraged dating while in school/early career. Now I feel incredibly empty and as though all that focus wasn’t worth it at the end as I have a greater longing to be a wife and take care of my husband and children more than trying to make more money in a career. Now I did have 2 major relationships that failed, first one because my parents advised against it as he was a graduating senior and I was a freshman in college (to be honest he was the best person I could have married out of all the men I dated/talked to afterwards); the second was a big waste of time, dated for 4 years and he was never going to marry me, just empty words - I was definitely a placeholder girlfriend. So here I am today, I do have a boyfriend but I’m not the most hopeful as he lives overseas in my home country but we’re trying to make it work at the moment, it wouldn’t be easy for him to move here (US). I am going back home to visit family soon though so maybe I feel more confident once we meet in person. -Meanwhile, my peers from secondary school and university are married and more of them have children. And I have absolutely nothing to show for my obedience to my parents and “hard work”.",,9,mindyourown_biz,1688737829.0 -RedPillWomen,14to626,Looking for inspirational women and men to follow on social media!,I’m absolutely loving Kelly Brogan right now and I was wondering if there is anyone else in that same vein I should be following!,,1,LindenBlossoms,1688775266.0 +Meanwhile, my peers from secondary school and university are married and more of them have children. And I have absolutely nothing to show for my obedience to my parents and “hard work”.",,9,mindyourown_biz,2023-07-07 13:50:29 +RedPillWomen,14to626,Looking for inspirational women and men to follow on social media!,I’m absolutely loving Kelly Brogan right now and I was wondering if there is anyone else in that same vein I should be following!,,1,LindenBlossoms,2023-07-08 00:14:26 RedPillWomen,14t6dzr,Am I overreacting that I don't want my husband to go abroad?,"Context: We're married for about 1.5 years, and it's absolutely a happy marriage. We both are doctors, he works in a village basic health unit along with family business of milk chillers (which is currently in dissolution because he's ending it to come back home) and I'm doing residency in cardiac surgery (a bit of a more context, my residency is hectic, but I don't plan to go any further after it, I'd just do 8-2 government job, and not private to give more time or earn more money etc). @@ -6728,18 +6728,18 @@ It's not that he's stubborn, a few weeks ago I posted about his gaming addiction But this matter of going abroad; I just can't digest it at all. Primarily I just don't want to leave my country. Because we're having a good life here. And I know it's so difficult to start a life from 0 in a first world country. -I don't know what to do really! It's not an urgent issue but it's bothering me too much. Because he brings it everyday like a joke in every call or conversation.",,5,False_Process_2473,1688734092.0 +I don't know what to do really! It's not an urgent issue but it's bothering me too much. Because he brings it everyday like a joke in every call or conversation.",,5,False_Process_2473,2023-07-07 12:48:12 RedPillWomen,14sv1fi,I freaking love Laura Doyle!,"I had no idea she even existed until joining this community. I cannot tell you how my mind has shifted having only read just over half of The Empowered Wife. If you haven't read it yet this is your sign to do it! -Thank you RPW!!",,33,[deleted],1688700050.0 -RedPillWomen,14shzfa,"Happily married women, did you JUST KNOW he was the one early on? Or did you marry out of convenience and it turned out great?",Is it bad that I feel emotionally attached to my boyfriend but not in love?,,25,SweetPoem7625,1688669022.0 +Thank you RPW!!",,33,[deleted],2023-07-07 03:20:50 +RedPillWomen,14shzfa,"Happily married women, did you JUST KNOW he was the one early on? Or did you marry out of convenience and it turned out great?",Is it bad that I feel emotionally attached to my boyfriend but not in love?,,25,SweetPoem7625,2023-07-06 18:43:42 RedPillWomen,14rbgr0,"Pro-tip: If it has been 2 years and he still hasn't proposed , it's probably a sign that he's not that into you","(This advice is for people over 23. If you're very young then I guess it makes sense to wait a few years to become more established....) Example 1: Friend always wanted to be a young mom, that was her dream. Also, she has some kind of fertility issue and is afraid that if she starts trying too late, she might not be able to conceive. She has been with this guys for almost 8 years now. She's 28, he's 30. They're both financially stable and it's unlikely that their situation will get any better in the future. He said he wanted to wait until 30 to marry/have kids. He's 30 now and still finds excuses to delay it... Also, he publicly humiliates/insults my friend and uses ""it's just a joke"" as an excuse. For example, she posts a picture on fb and he leaves a comment ""jokingly"" making fun of her appearance. I personally think it's awful behavior but my friend tolerates it. She slowly starts becoming resentful of him for making her wait so long though. Even if they do get married, I can't see them lasting long. Example 2: She was 25, he was 29 when they met. It was obvious from the start that she was into him more than he was into her. He made her wait over 8 years, using every excuse imaginable to delay it. She had to practically beg him to commit. Finally they had a kid when she was 34. Guess what , they're divorcing now and I'm not surprised. -My point is that if a man is really into you he will try to lock you down pretty quickly. Waiting is usually a waste of your time.",,109,Novel-Tip-7570,1688565549.0 +My point is that if a man is really into you he will try to lock you down pretty quickly. Waiting is usually a waste of your time.",,109,Novel-Tip-7570,2023-07-05 13:59:09 RedPillWomen,14qyv7s,What to do when a man is saying sexual things in initial talking stages (Online dating)?,"Hello everyone, So I'm testing the waters on online dating this time in the hopes maybe I will meet someone who actually is worth the investment of time, etc. @@ -6748,7 +6748,7 @@ Since I barely have any experience, I don't know exactly what to do. I'm 22. My intuition says when a guy gets sexual to dip out. A part of me says to give the benefit of the doubt. Like I can bargain perhaps? -The help would be absolutely helpful. Thank you everyone 🙏",,13,jbb_sanc01,1688527314.0 +The help would be absolutely helpful. Thank you everyone 🙏",,13,jbb_sanc01,2023-07-05 03:21:54 RedPillWomen,14qx76d,What is your personal definition of a HVM?,"Everyone has different definitions of what constitutes a high value man. Personally, my requirements are quite strict. @@ -6776,14 +6776,14 @@ Personally, my requirements are quite strict. Do you think these requirements are a bit too strict? I’ve gotten told I’m crazy for expecting this. My ideal life is just to stay at home and be a homemaker, clean the home, cook for my husband, take care of our big family. I’m not ambitious at all and I keep getting called low IQ and silly for not pursuing a career. :( -The wild thing is I have met a man who fulfills all of the above so I think it’s entirely possible but I don’t know why I’m mocked when I tell other people what I expect?",,5,[deleted],1688522142.0 +The wild thing is I have met a man who fulfills all of the above so I think it’s entirely possible but I don’t know why I’m mocked when I tell other people what I expect?",,5,[deleted],2023-07-05 01:55:42 RedPillWomen,14qw1a5,Should I buy him the hoodie?,"So, my husband has been neglecting me and as much as I would like to say I haven't tried to get him to give me attention, I have. Over and over. And it's getting annoying and tedious and I'm getting resentful. Anyway, so ordinarily if my husband hinted that he needed something like more sex or he felt like a certain meal etc, I'd do it for him. He wouldn't be overly appreciative or grateful of it in his speech or mannerisms, but I know he feels it. So he recently hinted that he needed a new hoodie. He's picky with clothes but I generally know what he likes. I'd have ordered or picked up a new hoodie for him without thinking but now that I'm feeling like my needs are no longer his priority I don't want to get him the hoodie. -What can I do to ""win"" him back? I've tried blowjobs and compliments, being happy to see him every morning, getting him coffees and overall just trying to make his life better; but he doesn't reciprocate.",,3,[deleted],1688518500.0 +What can I do to ""win"" him back? I've tried blowjobs and compliments, being happy to see him every morning, getting him coffees and overall just trying to make his life better; but he doesn't reciprocate.",,3,[deleted],2023-07-05 00:55:00 RedPillWomen,14qk70p,Am I wrong to heal my trauma before settling down (and face hitting the wall) ?,"I believe in red pill values, understand the concept of SMV, and the inevitability of women hitting the wall. I lost 105+ pounds, have changed my unhealthy lifestyles, and drastically increased my SMV in the last 2 years. I’m a strawberry blonde, 5’6, have brown eyes and am currently about 150 lbs. I don’t engage in hookup culture. I’m a soon to be 25 year old woman, recently (happily) single and out of a long term situationship turned crash-and-burn relationship with a narcissist. @@ -6800,13 +6800,13 @@ I’ve been told my solution is to just “have kids anyway” or else I’ll ju Needless to say, it’s frustrating. Wouldn’t a strong and masculine man want a woman who’s self aware enough to “get her shit together” before bringing baggage into future relationships? -Open to all feedback. Thank you!",,11,np_masfem98,1688488907.0 +Open to all feedback. Thank you!",,11,np_masfem98,2023-07-04 16:41:47 RedPillWomen,14qfaoa,Adding value through hard skills,"Hello everyone, sure being supportive, cheerful, giving peace and calm, laughing together and being kind are important in a relationship. But recently I figured out how important it can be to be able to fix broken things in your home or to shorten your own pants. I was on vacation with a friend and we talked about these kind of ""skills"". She was raised differently than me and has a broad variety of such hard skills, while I was raised solely to perform well in school. Years down the road, I can definitely see how those skills make her a better life partner. As hard as it might sound, I went to med school and take care of patients well but that does not help at home. -I am thinking about being able to drive a car (I live in a big European city with good public transport so I can't drive), fixing minor things, being financially adept, being able to cook well. Are there other things that come to your mind? Thanks for sharing!",,7,uhulalala,1688477454.0 -RedPillWomen,14qci5m,Talking about sex,"Me and my partner used to have sex everyday with usually him initiating it. The last few weeks he hasn’t really been initiating, but has still been touchy and cuddly. I don’t want to put pressure on the situation, but would love to ask if everything is okay. Any ideas or advice?",,2,FewBox5662,1688469552.0 +I am thinking about being able to drive a car (I live in a big European city with good public transport so I can't drive), fixing minor things, being financially adept, being able to cook well. Are there other things that come to your mind? Thanks for sharing!",,7,uhulalala,2023-07-04 13:30:54 +RedPillWomen,14qci5m,Talking about sex,"Me and my partner used to have sex everyday with usually him initiating it. The last few weeks he hasn’t really been initiating, but has still been touchy and cuddly. I don’t want to put pressure on the situation, but would love to ask if everything is okay. Any ideas or advice?",,2,FewBox5662,2023-07-04 11:19:12 RedPillWomen,14puwva,What is realistic to expect?,"I’m 23 and recently broke up with a very wonderful man who I dated for six months. He adored me, treated me kindly, insisted on paying for everything, and on paper was pretty much perfect for me. The thing is, I wasn’t attracted to him (good looking, but not my type). We were plenty active in bed, but that’s mostly because I have a very high libido. We broke up a month ago and I just keep thinking about it. Fantastic guy, no dead bedroom, why did I break up with him? Am I asking for too much? @@ -6815,10 +6815,10 @@ I want a guy who adores me, who I’m also attracted to. So far I’ve found one More than anything, I want to be a mother, ideally stay at home. I’m fit, outgoing, feminine, I’m a damn good girlfriend, and pretty (I’ve never lacked for male attention). I’m obviously not perfect, but I think my RMV/SMV are pretty high, and the guys I’ve attracted/dated reflect that. My parents started dating at 18 and are deeply in love four decades later, so I have that kind of a role model. -I guess I’d love some feedback from older women in successful relationships. I don’t want advice from other female forums where I’ll be blindly told that I can have it all. I want realistic feedback on if I made a mistake breaking up with a great guy because I’m looking for something unrealistic. Or, am I being pessimistic, and should I keep the faith that I’ll find the right man for me? Thanks in advance!",,5,Electronic_Common_41,1688418501.0 +I guess I’d love some feedback from older women in successful relationships. I don’t want advice from other female forums where I’ll be blindly told that I can have it all. I want realistic feedback on if I made a mistake breaking up with a great guy because I’m looking for something unrealistic. Or, am I being pessimistic, and should I keep the faith that I’ll find the right man for me? Thanks in advance!",,5,Electronic_Common_41,2023-07-03 21:08:21 RedPillWomen,14p7m6o,Do you consider yourself attractive?,"I often wonder how attractive RPW are? Does the attractiveness come from confidence or what you wear and how you care for yourself or are you objectively just born attractive? -And by this question I mean you personally. Are YOU in the upper percentage of attractiveness?",,17,[deleted],1688354832.0 +And by this question I mean you personally. Are YOU in the upper percentage of attractiveness?",,17,[deleted],2023-07-03 03:27:12 RedPillWomen,14p6vx7,"I'm crass, masculine, one of the guys...and I hate it, bit don't know how to stop","I'm sure there are other women who resonate with this, but I haven't seen this post specifically. I feel like it should be a common one so I'm sorry if it's redundant. I grew up a tomboy, bullied by girls and not pretty enough for boys. To have friends, I became ""one of the guys."" It was pretty well-aligned with my tomboyish personality so it worked when I was younger. Then I grew into my looks and started getting attention. When this happened, I tried to be more feminine because I wanted that attention so badly, but hated the rat race it felt like in competition with women. @@ -6832,12 +6832,12 @@ I'm honestly a mess in this department. I know how to dress and look good, despi Several questions for this group: 1. How do I stop acting like a dude with tits? I notice alcohol exasperates the bad behavior, even just a couple drinks so I plan to quit, but it rears it's ugly head when I'm sober too. 2. My current girlfriends are also a little loud and crass, but not that bad. How do I incorporate a new me into my old friend group without being tempted into old bad habits? They're still good people and good friends so I don't see myself walking away from them. -3. How do I tap into feminine energy in a way that's authentic? I feel like who I am is incongruous with femininity and that makes me feel sad and hopeless.",,14,ConservativeAltAcct,1688352653.0 +3. How do I tap into feminine energy in a way that's authentic? I feel like who I am is incongruous with femininity and that makes me feel sad and hopeless.",,14,ConservativeAltAcct,2023-07-03 02:50:53 RedPillWomen,14p0j87,RPW and pregnancy,"For the mothers of RPW: how do RPW principles apply to pregnancy and early motherhood? How do femininity and submission look like in this phase of life? Tips, reflections... stuff you wish you'd known / you'd do differently / you'd do the same... anything really. Thanks! For context: I'm expecting my first. I'm at that stage of pregnancy where I can still bend down - I just don't know if I'll be able to get up. Tying my shoelaces was much easier when I could see my feet. I'm very happy but I'm big, tired, still nauseated, emotional, grumpy, a bit anxious/controlling, and my sex life went from great to non existent. My wonderful husband is doing so much for us, while I can't do half the things I used to... I feel such a burden. Of course he says that growing our baby is all I need to do right now - and I can't even thank him with a BJ. -Suggestions, commiseration and reality checks are all VERY welcome (but gentle please, I could cry. Sigh.).",,21,_Pumpkin_Muffin,1688335157.0 +Suggestions, commiseration and reality checks are all VERY welcome (but gentle please, I could cry. Sigh.).",,21,_Pumpkin_Muffin,2023-07-02 21:59:17 RedPillWomen,14ofrln,What kind of male attention do you get IRL?,"And what does it tell you about your appeal or the impression you give off? The male attention I (21F) get while out and about consists of getting catcalled and stared at by mentally disturbed, elderly homeless men, or complimented on my clothes by regular older men. On the rare occasion that someone makes a more direct overture (happens 1-2 times a year) he’s still a bit too old— think late twenties or early thirties. It’s never a normal guy my own age trying to chat me up, and I don’t know if that’s because I’m unattractive, unapproachable, or a combination of the two to them. And I go to college in the middle of a major city where there are men of every age in my vicinity every time I go outside, so it’s not like I’m isolated from my peers. @@ -6845,7 +6845,7 @@ The male attention I (21F) get while out and about consists of getting catcalled I can’t quite put my finger on what, but it’s like I’m missing a “spark” or something that makes me register as a potential partner to young men. Although I could be overestimating how often young women normally get approached IRL because I hear so many anecdotes about girls my age getting unwanted advances in public; maybe the volume/type of attention I get is typical. Any analysis of my experience or tips on how to appear more approachable are appreciated! -Edit: Thank you all for your opinions! I had considered that this is a generational thing and older men are more comfortable cold approaching in public. I don’t know any couples my age who met that way and didn’t expect to meet a boyfriend that way; I was mainly concerned that the lack of cold approaches from my peers signals that I’m unattractive or doing something to discourage guys from making a move.",,26,Ok-Coat7665,1688274962.0 +Edit: Thank you all for your opinions! I had considered that this is a generational thing and older men are more comfortable cold approaching in public. I don’t know any couples my age who met that way and didn’t expect to meet a boyfriend that way; I was mainly concerned that the lack of cold approaches from my peers signals that I’m unattractive or doing something to discourage guys from making a move.",,26,Ok-Coat7665,2023-07-02 05:16:02 RedPillWomen,14obnx2,Suggestions for content consumption that supports certain RPW goals?,"I turn 25 this year and I have been very shocked to realize how much I’m struggling to accept that. In large part that struggle comes from the fact that, up until the last 6 months or so, I fully drank the kool-aid and lived by the belief that “everyone is a mess in their 20s!” I have been pretty much living moment-to-moment and am slowly (and with horror) realizing I won’t just wake up one morning and have it all figured out for me. Who knew, right? I spent the last year in nun-mode, lost 63lbs of depression weight and changed my whole aesthetic from “man-eater blue-haired face-piercing feminist e-girl” (which I’m not villainizing in any way, it’s just *soooo* not me and was a mentally exhausting coping mechanism) to my authentic girly, skirt-loving self and my entire mindset on life cleared up as I did. @@ -6866,7 +6866,7 @@ Some of my goals I’m hoping to find content that relates to include: - homemaking/parenting (not a wife or mother yet, but I aim to learn as much as I can to be a good one before I have to learn “on the job” so to speak) -I hope this formats correctly- I’m on mobile.",,10,amityjeanklein,1688261783.0 +I hope this formats correctly- I’m on mobile.",,10,amityjeanklein,2023-07-02 01:36:23 RedPillWomen,14nls1a,Seeking Advice On Multiple Wives,"Hi ladies. Are there any Muslim women here who are married to a man with multiple wives? Why did you agree to it? What is this arrangement like for you? Is there a difference between being the “first” or “second” wife? I spent 1.5 years in a relationship with “Daniel” with the intention of marriage. We were exclusive and monogamous the entire time. To note, we are both born and raised in Australia, so this is not the norm here. @@ -6893,7 +6893,7 @@ So would this be the worst thing ever? If the _only way_ I could marry him was i I just know that I won’t feel this way about any other man, and after experiencing him, I won’t be as satisfied with anyone else. He has raised the bar so high. I love our dominant-submissive dynamic and it has been so difficult to recreate that with anyone else. I trust him to lead our relationship so much. I am very attracted to him in all aspects: emotionally, physically, and sexually! -Can anyone offer advice?",,17,pinkmwah,1688186520.0 +Can anyone offer advice?",,17,pinkmwah,2023-07-01 04:42:00 RedPillWomen,14ndkun,Needing feedback on my nun mode plans!,"Hi everyone, I’m a long term lurker and this subreddit has been vital for my knowledge on dating and has given me “new eyes” in a way. That being said, I’m in desperate need of a nun mode. My goal is to have a stronger faith walk, drastically change SMV and land the right man for me (somewhat tradcon, religious, smart provider) in the next few years. I’m well read on the sidebar and some of the reading list and I’m essentially just trying to get “in the door” in terms of SMV. @@ -6918,7 +6918,7 @@ If you’re married, where did you meet your husband and how long from first mee Thank you for reading! -TLDR: I’m entering nun mode for my SMV and need any help I can get!",,10,SweetSecond5900,1688162658.0 +TLDR: I’m entering nun mode for my SMV and need any help I can get!",,10,SweetSecond5900,2023-06-30 22:04:18 RedPillWomen,14n959s,I have a hard time feeling womanly in my own body,"Maybe I shouldn't let such superficial things consume my thoughts, but physical attractiveness is important when it comes to dating and social status in general. It sucks when no one finds you attractive enough to date, the ones that you hit on get offended by you liking them and your friends happen to be much more attractive so all the guys give them attention except for you. @@ -6938,7 +6938,7 @@ People told me that short hair looks great on me, but it just made me feel less It's feels awful looking back at picture that we're taken of me. The moment I feel a bit confident and take pictures with friends or my family, I'm reminded of how unattractive I am. -I feel so insecure and my friends sometimes can tell because I give off weird negative energy. Any beauty/ mental health advice would be appreciated.",,7,SilverKnightLife,1688152000.0 +I feel so insecure and my friends sometimes can tell because I give off weird negative energy. Any beauty/ mental health advice would be appreciated.",,7,SilverKnightLife,2023-06-30 19:06:40 RedPillWomen,14mwbaj,Shift in husband’s behavior,"Husband and I have been married for five years. No major issues besides infertility (3 yrs). Even that is not a huge deal because we don’t discuss it more than necessary. Over the last year, my husband has faced major stress from work/school and is currently enjoying some break time. In the last few months, I have noticed he is slightly less attentive, slightly less indulgent of my playfulnesses, slightly less tolerant of the things I do that annoy him. It’s so slight, if I could give a number to it I would say 5% less infatuated with me. @@ -6947,7 +6947,7 @@ I never felt like we left the honeymoon phase. I kept waiting for things to chan Of course like any couple we have issues. His work schedule is at odds with my schedule but we’ve made do since changing his job is out of the question at the moment. Our finances are not great but we live within our means. I am infertile but plan to start treatment this year. I’ve gained weight but I’m successfully working on losing it. -If you ever felt your husband pulling away from you/falling out of love, were you ever able to recover that feeling you lost? I don’t think I can stay in a marriage for the rest of my life where I am chasing the husband I had for only five years. I don’t know if my shortsightedness is keeping me from seeing that I’m the problem.",,15,abetterwifesomeday,1688119849.0 +If you ever felt your husband pulling away from you/falling out of love, were you ever able to recover that feeling you lost? I don’t think I can stay in a marriage for the rest of my life where I am chasing the husband I had for only five years. I don’t know if my shortsightedness is keeping me from seeing that I’m the problem.",,15,abetterwifesomeday,2023-06-30 10:10:49 RedPillWomen,14mo8c3,"The ""What do YOU want to eat?"" cycle and how to break it",">""What do you want to eat?"" >""I dunno - what do *you* want to eat?"" @@ -7001,7 +7001,7 @@ Unless he is exhausted, or crushed by endless criticism, or really not inclined Then you accept his decision to delegate dinner to you. Do you maybe need to work on a criticism habit of yours? It will take some time before he's confident making decisions again - keep working on it! -But let's get back to the even-moderately-confident and vaguely-inclined-to-leadership man. He took care of dinner. Great! Thank him for taking care of you and STFU about what's ""wrong"". Take out is too expensive, the sauce is too spicy, he burned the chicken? STFU. You asked him to make a decision and he did. (But do remind him of your deadly nuts allergy if he wants to make almond chicken. Use your common sense.)",,43,_Pumpkin_Muffin,1688093205.0 +But let's get back to the even-moderately-confident and vaguely-inclined-to-leadership man. He took care of dinner. Great! Thank him for taking care of you and STFU about what's ""wrong"". Take out is too expensive, the sauce is too spicy, he burned the chicken? STFU. You asked him to make a decision and he did. (But do remind him of your deadly nuts allergy if he wants to make almond chicken. Use your common sense.)",,43,_Pumpkin_Muffin,2023-06-30 02:46:45 RedPillWomen,14ncp86,"FOMO, The Wall & Break-Ups: How to handle the anxiety and the pressure (23F)?","I've recently left my second committed relationship and between my fear of the wall and my fear of making the wrong decisions, I feel tempted to go back. In fact, not only do I feel tempted, but I have texted him several times and initiated seemingly friendly, harmless conversations; checked whether he's back on dating apps already, etc. I'm worried I made the wrong decision but it did not feel wrong at the time. I'm 23F and there's an 11 year age gap between my ex and I. That would've been enough of a sign for some people, but I didn't notice anything strange. He was a little emotionally unstable but I thought I could take care of him, make him all better and then - out of gratitude, out of habit - he'd stay with me forever. @@ -7016,12 +7016,12 @@ So I decided to leave. I thought that it would obviously not translate into marr I also don't think that he felt the breakup as strongly as I thought he would. I felt he would protest it more. Care more. He has messaged me since then, he says he misses me... but he's keeping his distance. And I don't understand why it's easier for *him* to do that than it is for me. -Please feel free to pick apart all my thoughts and be completely honest.",,1,thethrowaway4help,1688160508.0 +Please feel free to pick apart all my thoughts and be completely honest.",,1,thethrowaway4help,2023-06-30 21:28:28 RedPillWomen,14nhb0z,"To be fair, I agreed to this.","Hey guys, looking for advice. I’m fairly new to the RP movement and lifestyle and I truly believe in many ways it has made me a better girlfriend. My current boyfriend showed me a few pods, Pearly things and fresh and fit, and I align with many of the values they preach. We’ve have many many deep discussions about the expectations for the relationship going forward and what we want as far as family life. However, there’s a few things I’ve had to learn to accept as he says it’s something that’s just a part of life. And things I’ve never had to deal with in the past with non RP partners. This is the hard part, how do I handle him wanting to and seeking to sleep with other women? I can see from his perspective why he feels he is deserving of this and he explains to me that it is his innate biological drive to have variety and to “get after it” as he says. I’ve agreed to this and I know it’s happening, however I can’t handle knowing any details and I prefer he leaves me out of it completely because it brings me to a darker place mentally. -How can I not let this control my mind? I feel like it’s all I think about now that I know it’s happening more frequently. He reassures me a million times over that he is only using these women for sex and that I’m always going to be his main girl, his wife. I just need guidance on how to get over the fact that he seeks outside attention… even when he gets more than enough from his “main”.",,0,Famous_Speaker_3248,1688172585.0 +How can I not let this control my mind? I feel like it’s all I think about now that I know it’s happening more frequently. He reassures me a million times over that he is only using these women for sex and that I’m always going to be his main girl, his wife. I just need guidance on how to get over the fact that he seeks outside attention… even when he gets more than enough from his “main”.",,0,Famous_Speaker_3248,2023-07-01 00:49:45 RedPillWomen,14n6u5s,Hurt and confused about boyfriends calls,"Hi guys . I may need some advice. So my boyfriend of a year the past 2 months or so he will call me and when I answer he sounds so rushed , I hardly get a chance to talk and then he will say he has to go to do XYZ. he just sounds rushed stressed and I find it a bit rude how he is rushing me off the phone. I’m going to say his mood seems low lately aswell . I know hes stressed with his personal life at the minute but I find if he’s going to call me , can he not at least try and be upbeat and habe a few minutes of nice conversation if the call is only 2 mins or so. @@ -7029,8 +7029,8 @@ I’m going to say his mood seems low lately aswell . I know hes stressed with h I don’t mind the calls being short but I am getting upset everytime he called he seems to be rushed stressed , and doesn’t seem like he’s happy to talk to me. It’s confusing because he mis called me 20 times yesterday when I was asleep so I thought he was excited to speak to me, when I eventually answered it was the same , short rushed low mood and stressed. -What do I do? Its starting to upset me . I don’t feel important anymore or like he’s happy to talk to me. I have already tried telling him I wish we could talk more. Should I maybe put a boundary up and send a message saying dont call me unless you will be less harsh with me? I don’t know how to approach this in a non anxoious way. Thanks",,1,elsafrozen123,1688146613.0 -RedPillWomen,14mud7s,"Where to get nice long-sleeved silk pajama tops, smocks, or nightgowns that are breathable and not overheating?","I have severely sensitive and dry skin. I need some things to sleep in that are long sleeved, but won't make me sweat in the summer. I need this so that my nighttime lotions and serums (both medicated prescription ones and non) can soak into my skin while I sleep, since I use some heavy duty occlusive and emollient stuff, and oils, tons of oils.",,3,thisisntaccessible,1688112960.0 +What do I do? Its starting to upset me . I don’t feel important anymore or like he’s happy to talk to me. I have already tried telling him I wish we could talk more. Should I maybe put a boundary up and send a message saying dont call me unless you will be less harsh with me? I don’t know how to approach this in a non anxoious way. Thanks",,1,elsafrozen123,2023-06-30 17:36:53 +RedPillWomen,14mud7s,"Where to get nice long-sleeved silk pajama tops, smocks, or nightgowns that are breathable and not overheating?","I have severely sensitive and dry skin. I need some things to sleep in that are long sleeved, but won't make me sweat in the summer. I need this so that my nighttime lotions and serums (both medicated prescription ones and non) can soak into my skin while I sleep, since I use some heavy duty occlusive and emollient stuff, and oils, tons of oils.",,3,thisisntaccessible,2023-06-30 08:16:00 RedPillWomen,14lya28,"Peter pan syndrome for a 47 y/o man who started a ""relationship"" with a 16y/o?","Hi everyone, I'm not sure if this is the right community to ask this, but I just feel safer around women and I know I won't be judged or sexualized here. When I was 16 years old, one of my teachers started making me fall in love with him. I had no idea what I was doing, I was 16, but he knew perfectly. He would leave me my favourite chocolate on my desk, he would send me invitations to play trivia, talking to my friends, just the things you do when you are in high-school and you like someone. But he was not in high-school, he was a teacher. Through the years, this ""relationship"" continued to the point that 10 years later I still have PTSD and depression. @@ -7042,7 +7042,7 @@ It was not the first time he started a ""relationship"" with a student, the last I'm still trying to understand everything that happens, my adolescent brain ended up blended because of all this, I did not deserve this, I was just a kid. So please, if someone could give me their honest opinion, I would appreciate it forever. Thank you for reading and I wish you a great day ❤️ -",,15,allyouneedbyva,1688023537.0 +",,15,allyouneedbyva,2023-06-29 07:25:37 RedPillWomen,14lhx76,I realized I'm addicted/drawn to drama. Tips on how to overcome that?,"Hi all! After posting here a few times about potential partners and decisions I've made, I was forced to do some self-reflection and realized that I'm addicted or drawn to drama. Unconsciously I feel drawn to partners that either seem unavailable or emotionally unstable, and stay in situations that are clearly not good, complicated, and ridden with arguments and fights. I then explain it (to myself & others) as me enjoying the moments that *are* good. @@ -7051,7 +7051,7 @@ I realized, however, that though I am attracting the type of men that I desire r I feel like I'm drawn to the drama and the obstacles that come with those men. I grew up in a very complicated, very difficult family dynamic: I'm used to things that are objectively negative or toxic. I also know I have a tendency to take on a motherly role and try to fix people because I didn't have such a presence in my life. I am currently in therapy but that's a slow process. -I was just wondering if any of you have felt or dealt with a similar situation and how you managed to deal with the urge of becoming involved with difficult/immature/emotionally unavailable men.",,12,templilwitch,1687978790.0 +I was just wondering if any of you have felt or dealt with a similar situation and how you managed to deal with the urge of becoming involved with difficult/immature/emotionally unavailable men.",,12,templilwitch,2023-06-28 18:59:50 RedPillWomen,14kx17l,Boyfriend traveling with a female friend without telling me. Is this wrong or I'm just being over?,"I don’t usually take things onto the internet but I felt very cornered and stressed. Could you tell me your opinions? &#x200B; @@ -7070,7 +7070,7 @@ He’s currently still traveling with this girl that I didn’t know of, I don I don’t know what to feel right now because while I’m going through a tough time at work (which I have told him before I found out they're traveling together), I’m also not able to focus with this situation taking a lot of headspace. I am feeling very insecure (to me it’s not normal to travel with a friend of the opposite sex AND not telling my partner whom I’m in a relationship with unless I dgaf about their feelings) and he is not doing anything to mend the situation, it just felt like his needs are more important than mine. I also understand he is on vacation so the last thing he wants is to have an argument on the phone. -But at the same time, I’m also feeling very angry with myself for putting up with this. And I just feel like this issue might happen over and over in the future since now it's already the second time. I saw another similar thread up here, and would like to ask the same question—am I disrespecting myself if I stay in this relationship? Or am I overreacting about this whole situation?",,13,otonat,1687919042.0 +But at the same time, I’m also feeling very angry with myself for putting up with this. And I just feel like this issue might happen over and over in the future since now it's already the second time. I saw another similar thread up here, and would like to ask the same question—am I disrespecting myself if I stay in this relationship? Or am I overreacting about this whole situation?",,13,otonat,2023-06-28 02:24:02 RedPillWomen,14k72qc,How can I gently help my boyfriend see that he doesn’t actually want what he says his dreams are?,"This is going to sound quite arrogant so please tell it to me straight if I need to change my perspective. I’ve (23F) become convinced that my boyfriend (21M) isn’t actually interested in what he says he’s interested in career-wise. For context, we met in college, have been dating 3 years, we’ve both been out of college a couple years, and we both have good steady jobs. He basically has roughly two main interests. For privacy, I’m going to change the exact interests - let’s say that one of his interests is cryptocurrency and the other is plant biology. @@ -7081,20 +7081,20 @@ On the other hand, he’s always had this side interest in plant biology. He rea I’m a big fan of Laura Doyle and her philosophy has worked really well for us so far. My boyfriend had pretty overbearing parents growing up and takes a lot of pride in making his own decisions. But I can’t help but worry that he’s only interested in pursuing crypto because its an exciting hot field right now and he’s trying to quell his insecurity that pursuing plant biology or staying in his current career isnt “enough” or isnt “impactful” enough. I wish he could see that plant biology and his current career are both really impactful already. -Now he’s making plans to quit his job and move to the Bahamas to be closer to the crypto scene. (I would move with him if he went) while simultaneously gearing up to study for hours to prepare for crypto job interviews (competition is fierce and most people study for months for these job interviewers). He went through this hellish interview process once before (and failed) but the process was really hard on our relationship and I missed him a lot. Selfishly, I like seeing him happy and excited and don’t like when he’s stressed. How should I handle this situation? So far, I’ve basically just tried to respond supportively to both topics when they come up and do things to reduce his stress level.",,7,Margareydragonslayer,1687852184.0 +Now he’s making plans to quit his job and move to the Bahamas to be closer to the crypto scene. (I would move with him if he went) while simultaneously gearing up to study for hours to prepare for crypto job interviews (competition is fierce and most people study for months for these job interviewers). He went through this hellish interview process once before (and failed) but the process was really hard on our relationship and I missed him a lot. Selfishly, I like seeing him happy and excited and don’t like when he’s stressed. How should I handle this situation? So far, I’ve basically just tried to respond supportively to both topics when they come up and do things to reduce his stress level.",,7,Margareydragonslayer,2023-06-27 07:49:44 RedPillWomen,14izlzu,How to find a Christian partner?,"Hi all! I’m F18, and I really want to date/marry a man who is kind, gentle and understanding. I dress modest, am clean, and try to look presentable. Personality wise I would say I am not obnoxious, bossy etc. I can kind of be a people pleaser but I’m working on it. My hobbies include watercolours, cooking, and spending time with my family. I am in school as well as working. One of my jobs is Sunday mornings (until the end of August), so it’s really hard for me to attend church. I wouldn’t have chosen this job but it was to help out a family member who is struggling so I felt I had to. Where else besides church do you find Christian young men? And how do you vet the genuine men from men who aren’t true with their intentions? I have Asperger’s/ high functioning autism so it’s hard for me to tell. -Thank you in advance, ladies.",,8,girlanachronist,1687732653.0 -RedPillWomen,14ixnzd,Should I put on my dating profile that I have a high body count?,"I (25F) have slept with either 13,15, or 16 people. I know this is ridiculously high. The idea of being rejected for it terrifies me. I am thinking of putting it in my online bios just so I can bypass the rejection on dates inevitably when guys find out, and only go on dates with guys who are ok with it. Is this a good strategy y/n?",,0,[deleted],1687727985.0 +Thank you in advance, ladies.",,8,girlanachronist,2023-06-25 22:37:33 +RedPillWomen,14ixnzd,Should I put on my dating profile that I have a high body count?,"I (25F) have slept with either 13,15, or 16 people. I know this is ridiculously high. The idea of being rejected for it terrifies me. I am thinking of putting it in my online bios just so I can bypass the rejection on dates inevitably when guys find out, and only go on dates with guys who are ok with it. Is this a good strategy y/n?",,0,[deleted],2023-06-25 21:19:45 RedPillWomen,14hyghj,"Bohemian, artistic, spiritually alternative BUT STILL TRADITIONAL cities?","Hi I am a woman looking to relocate somewhere with a spirit of creativity artistry and alternative spirituality but still has traditional values when it comes to family and dating. I lived in Los Angeles for years. Worked in tv and film. But in general I feel the majority of Los Angeles is in the pits. I was always stressed burned out and became jaded. I moved to a different area of California and it’s much more relaxed but still there is no creative high vibe Essence here. And it’s so expensive I mainly find two income households or single moms both where the women are extremely stressed unless retired. I’m not interested in giving my best energy to a job that still doesn’t pay enough for the cost of living to struggle and still be stressed. Any artistic, bohemian, or alternative spirituality priestess redpill women find a city or community within a city that is the oasis for us to come and gather? I’m definitely not completely conservative but LA people said I’m very conservative, lol. I would say I am a moderate who believes in the culture of dating to marry not stay in decade long situationships to pay the rent like I am seeing in Southern California. I am only interested in dating men who love these aspects about me, not viewing them as a distraction. I am only interested in dating providers whether I work or not. The Conciousness is so locked down where I am. It seems like everyone is just living to pay the rent and not really living. -What cities have you moved to that are affordable during your single and dating days, the work culture is respectful and pay matched cost of living, and or have a vibrant artistic, creative, or spiritual scene? The laid back days of Southern California are over. Women here are fit, beautiful, and even highly paid… while still living in survival mode. I just want to be free and find the right one and live near the right communities for me. Anyone one out here feel like this?",,6,Knowyourdeductible,1687627430.0 -RedPillWomen,14h5x0p,Forced to become masculine,"Hello i’m 19 (F), and though i’d like to be feminine, which I am fairly in appearance. I cannot help but feel my life situations have caused me to masculinize as well as continue on to do so. I’ve had to take care of myself a lot of my early teen years, so I never was able to develop that much softness, because it felt like I was in survival mode, I reject forms of emotional expression/intimacy, as well am pretty fixed and content with being on my own and my independence. I feel I constantly have to hustle for myself, and be tough, otherwise this world would’ve ended up breaking me. I am a naturally ambitious person as well which pushes me further into it I believe. But I guess idk how to be more feminine internally because the world never has let me, and I cannot let myself.",,26,Appropriate-Carry-78,1687544935.0 +What cities have you moved to that are affordable during your single and dating days, the work culture is respectful and pay matched cost of living, and or have a vibrant artistic, creative, or spiritual scene? The laid back days of Southern California are over. Women here are fit, beautiful, and even highly paid… while still living in survival mode. I just want to be free and find the right one and live near the right communities for me. Anyone one out here feel like this?",,6,Knowyourdeductible,2023-06-24 17:23:50 +RedPillWomen,14h5x0p,Forced to become masculine,"Hello i’m 19 (F), and though i’d like to be feminine, which I am fairly in appearance. I cannot help but feel my life situations have caused me to masculinize as well as continue on to do so. I’ve had to take care of myself a lot of my early teen years, so I never was able to develop that much softness, because it felt like I was in survival mode, I reject forms of emotional expression/intimacy, as well am pretty fixed and content with being on my own and my independence. I feel I constantly have to hustle for myself, and be tough, otherwise this world would’ve ended up breaking me. I am a naturally ambitious person as well which pushes me further into it I believe. But I guess idk how to be more feminine internally because the world never has let me, and I cannot let myself.",,26,Appropriate-Carry-78,2023-06-23 18:28:55 RedPillWomen,14h9lpi,What to do when partner stops pursuing you,"Hi guys, I’m somewhat new to the RPW community and trying to better myself. I would like some advice on how a RPW would act during tough times in the relationship. @@ -7107,15 +7107,15 @@ We already have a sexless relationship so that’s not happening either. It’s She’s leaving soon now that her baby has the passport. I don’t want to come to him saying “you give me no attention and give it all to her.” I don’t want to chase him. In the past I’d immediately start a fight and complain about the lack of attention. That approach just pushes him further away. -What do you guys suggest I do?",,16,Ineedbabies123,1687553945.0 -RedPillWomen,14fiet0,What does 'vet' mean?,Just exactly like the title says. I read a lot of this term on this sub and i want to know more about it. And other familiar words used in this sub. Help must be highly appreciated 🫂,,2,Direct-Ad-5394,1687379242.0 +What do you guys suggest I do?",,16,Ineedbabies123,2023-06-23 20:59:05 +RedPillWomen,14fiet0,What does 'vet' mean?,Just exactly like the title says. I read a lot of this term on this sub and i want to know more about it. And other familiar words used in this sub. Help must be highly appreciated 🫂,,2,Direct-Ad-5394,2023-06-21 20:27:22 RedPillWomen,14f2ztw,How to backtrack now that everyone thinks I'm a gold digger?,"I used to date broke men and recently came to the realisation that I want to date high value, provider men. But I have been so stupid and too transparent with my intentions that everyone in my social circle and my friends know what I am looking for, and would classify me as a broke girl who wants to marry rich, ie a gold digger I feel like this has deteriorate my social value, for example I had been stop getting invites to parties and my friends blew me off for meet ups etc. -What can I do now to increase my social value again? Or how do I be more discreet?",,8,lianne_tran,1687340172.0 +What can I do now to increase my social value again? Or how do I be more discreet?",,8,lianne_tran,2023-06-21 09:36:12 RedPillWomen,14euikq,Tips for nun mode?,"Hello all! I’m seeking advice on making nun-mode as useful as possible. I ended things with the guy I was dating (he turned out to be a great guy, just not the right fit), and now am planning on going nun-mode for approximately the next two years, and I’ll explain my reasons for doing so. @@ -7132,7 +7132,7 @@ Invest time in journaling and evaluating my taste in men, to hopefully improve s Learn about relationship anxiety and identify my areas of insecurity (any book recs?) Get better at doing makeup and hair (nun mode, why not?) -Any resources, or suggestions on goals to add would be wonderful, thank you! I’m 21 and will be 23 when I plan on exiting nun mode, which I feel is young enough that I’m not worried. Thank you all for your time!",,15,Latter-Cranberry4508,1687313635.0 +Any resources, or suggestions on goals to add would be wonderful, thank you! I’m 21 and will be 23 when I plan on exiting nun mode, which I feel is young enough that I’m not worried. Thank you all for your time!",,15,Latter-Cranberry4508,2023-06-21 02:13:55 RedPillWomen,14ev05t,How to act more feminine as someone with a more masculine haircut/wardrobe,"26 year old gal here. I've been lurking here for a while and have learned a lot from everyone. I definitely don't fit the""feminine"" stereotype. I love my short hair and I know not all guys are attracted to that. But I have 0% interest in growing it out. I also have no interest in wearing makeup. That being said, I like a lot of the RPW ideas and want to incorporate them into my own life. Wondering if anyone has any tips for me to consider moving myself a little bit more towards feminine appearance and behavior? I'm newly single and going to be getting back into the dating world soon, so I want to put my best self out there. @@ -7143,8 +7143,8 @@ That being said, I like a lot of the RPW ideas and want to incorporate them into Thanks for any advice you can provide!! -**TL;DR I'm looking for ways to increase my femininity in other areas (wardrobe, jewelry, behavior, etc) to make up for my less feminine hairstyle.**",,11,Artistic-Physics7598,1687314959.0 -RedPillWomen,14es08a,How do you stop shit-testing men?,I think I unconsciously shit-test men. How do I stop?,,14,[deleted],1687306440.0 +**TL;DR I'm looking for ways to increase my femininity in other areas (wardrobe, jewelry, behavior, etc) to make up for my less feminine hairstyle.**",,11,Artistic-Physics7598,2023-06-21 02:35:59 +RedPillWomen,14es08a,How do you stop shit-testing men?,I think I unconsciously shit-test men. How do I stop?,,14,[deleted],2023-06-21 00:14:00 RedPillWomen,14f0zzi,Family/Partner Conflict and Different Expectations,"Hi all, Advice needed please! @@ -7163,7 +7163,7 @@ Has anyone dealt with something similar in the past and can offer advice on how 2. Any comments family make 3. Firm but polite statements I can use when I don’t want to attend -I’m 26 and focussed on a future with my partner so I want to make sure he feels listened to and that he is my main priority, while balancing a relationship with my mum and extended family. Currently I feel like I’m stuck in the middle and bound to lose a relationship one way or another. Thanks for any advice you can offer.",,4,alwayscold666,1687333383.0 +I’m 26 and focussed on a future with my partner so I want to make sure he feels listened to and that he is my main priority, while balancing a relationship with my mum and extended family. Currently I feel like I’m stuck in the middle and bound to lose a relationship one way or another. Thanks for any advice you can offer.",,4,alwayscold666,2023-06-21 07:43:03 RedPillWomen,14ebmha,Empowering your captain: my field report,"One piece of RPW advice I find very common but difficult to follow in practice is this: [Bring your problems to your man, but not the solution.](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/4i8ukh/bring_your_captain_your_problem_not_your_solution/?st=jnl0inp7&amp%3Bamp%3Bsh=56220851)This is something I personally struggle with on and off but it still one of my favorites. Backstory: My mother is the complete antithesis to this advice. She *nags* and *demands* things of my father constantly, to the point that it makes it less pleasant to be around her. She runs the ship. There is no space to question the decisions, she wants you to just obey. My father's spirit in this regard has been crushed for a long time (and surprising no one here, he's never in a hurry to meet her demands so my mother isn't exactly living a joyful life either). @@ -7188,8 +7188,8 @@ I think even if I never found RPW and implemented those tools we'd have still go I've never made a post before despite participating on other accounts throughout the years, and I'm honestly not sure if anyone will be able to get any insight from this but to be quite honest I wrote this out of happiness. I still have a lot to work on but I'm proud of the results so far. -(P.S I really hope the formatting, especially the links, work okay. I'm having a lot of problems with my keyboard so I had to really work around the problem lol).",,57,Doom-Vixen,1687268856.0 -RedPillWomen,14erzqg,How to become pretty?,What should I do to become pretty?,,9,[deleted],1687306403.0 +(P.S I really hope the formatting, especially the links, work okay. I'm having a lot of problems with my keyboard so I had to really work around the problem lol).",,57,Doom-Vixen,2023-06-20 13:47:36 +RedPillWomen,14erzqg,How to become pretty?,What should I do to become pretty?,,9,[deleted],2023-06-21 00:13:23 RedPillWomen,14e3xzo,Getting out of his way is the best thing I've ever done.,"For as long as I can remember, the idea of allowing another person, no matter how competent and trustworthy, to dictate choices in my life has been a ludicrous idea, even since I started to embrace traditional marital roles. I had a lot of experience with being led into hard times earlier in my life, and so a desire to control everything has been ingrained in me. But, I decided.... *fuck it*. I married my husband because I knew he had all the great qualities of a leader, so why would I not let him do that? And once I did do that, *things changed*. Since deciding to step back a few things have happened. @@ -7203,7 +7203,7 @@ But, I decided.... *fuck it*. I married my husband because I knew he had all the 7. We eat a lot healthier. 8. In general, we have started saving more money and spending less frivolously, focusing more on big goals and investing in ourselves. -It's amazing what just getting out of the way will do when you're with a genuinely great man. I thought I knew everything, that I needed to be in control of everything, that he needed me to help him. But, I was just getting in the way with worry and doubt. That's hard to admit, but the results speak for themselves.",,73,[deleted],1687245246.0 +It's amazing what just getting out of the way will do when you're with a genuinely great man. I thought I knew everything, that I needed to be in control of everything, that he needed me to help him. But, I was just getting in the way with worry and doubt. That's hard to admit, but the results speak for themselves.",,73,[deleted],2023-06-20 07:14:06 RedPillWomen,14d4yt0,"Strong desire to start dating again, but can't seem to attract the type of man I am looking for","Hello RPW, sorry for the long/detailed post ahead! I'm 20 and I'm really hoping to start dating again, as I have been single for exactly a year now, and have a strong desire to marry young. I have never had much luck with guys throughout my life. I met my first boyfriend online (by chance, not on a dating app). We dated for over a year, and he ultimately left me because he wasn't attracted to me (ouch). His lack of physical attraction towards me was the only reason he broke things off. He's the only guy I've ever been with. I am a Christian dating strictly for marriage, and I'm saving my virginity for my future husband. Other than my ex, I have never been on a date in my entire life. I've never even been asked out on a date either, not even once. I was completely invisible to men up until I met my ex, but have noticed that I am starting to get male attention here and there after I started putting more effort into my appearance. However, I can't seem to attract anyone who I'd even consider dating. I have only been able to attract men who are unattractive (objectively, I promise it's not just me being picky), overweight, or 2-3x my age. I have very recently started to get cold approached (it's happened 2-3 times this month), but these men don't want anything but a hookup. @@ -7228,7 +7228,7 @@ I have been told that online dating would be helpful for me. Online dating is a I feel sad and discouraged, but I'm working on accepting my place in the ""greater chain of being"". The amount of male attention I'm getting is increasing, but I'm still not ""casting a wide enough net"" to attract guys that I could see as a future husband prospect. Are there any other changes I can make to improve my SMV/physical appearance? Any advice regarding my situation is welcome. Please be kind though (I am sensitive, lol😅). Thank you so much for taking the time to read all of this! -Edit: I just wanted to say thank you for all of the thoughtful comments! They really mean a lot, I really appreciate each and every one of them. I will reply to them as soon as I get the chance!",,23,rpc_e,1687150808.0 +Edit: I just wanted to say thank you for all of the thoughtful comments! They really mean a lot, I really appreciate each and every one of them. I will reply to them as soon as I get the chance!",,23,rpc_e,2023-06-19 05:00:08 RedPillWomen,14czqua,Communication and ‘feminine energy’," Okay so I’m confused about something @@ -7237,10 +7237,10 @@ As this apparently keeps your energy not masculine , but then how will they ever Does bringing up and issue, telling someone how you feel in a healthy ways such as ‘I feel’ statements and ‘can we ____ , this would make me happy ‘ , does this kind of communication make you have masculine energy or not ? -I have had these issues in the past. All is ok now . I’m just trying to Learn",,9,onlyclarajane,1687134649.0 +I have had these issues in the past. All is ok now . I’m just trying to Learn",,9,onlyclarajane,2023-06-19 00:30:49 RedPillWomen,14cf7vk,Disabled ex husband,"My ex and I separated in 2019. Long story short, he had a brain tumor and now disabled. My family and I are taking care of him currently. I'm the breadwinner in my household. So I take care of my mom, my grandma, my ex husband and have to pay for the assistant / caregiver to help with things. I'm in my early 30's by the way. I'm making good money and we're living in an upscale community in my area. Yet I constantly feel burnt out, I don't even know how to describe it anymore but I feel like this is not how I want to live my life. I'm longing for a man that I can look up to, that leads, provides and protects. Yet it feels wrong to even think about that. I'm miserable and I don't know what to do. -Would love to hear anything from you all. Thanks",,19,Resident_Annual6752,1687077226.0 +Would love to hear anything from you all. Thanks",,19,Resident_Annual6752,2023-06-18 08:33:46 RedPillWomen,14bvgje,Your Home is a Reflection of You,"The home is a reflection of the woman that lives in it, is something my mom always used to say to us girls. When we were younger, me and my sisters would hate it when my mom would host because it meant a whole day of cleaning and being in the kitchen. Anytime someone visits, we would maintain to the upkeep of the house a bit more than usual. Now that we have left the nest, I sometimes wonder how many of those lessons my mom gave us truly stuck. A few days ago, our place was due for a routine inspection for the fire alarm batteries. So maintenance would be in and out of the apartment in less than 10 minutes. My sister woke up hours before they were set to arrive and deep cleaned the entire house. Her action made me reflect on how we were raised, and my parents marriage. My parents marriage is something that sets the foundation for what I will look for in a spouse and marriage. It’s hard to find a couple treat each other as good as they do. @@ -7269,8 +7269,8 @@ A few things they did, I am going to share with you guys. - This last one I find very cute. They had the same bed time routine. They almost always slept at the same time, and waited for each other to sleep together. -I would love to hear what you learned from your parents marriage.",,149,CreatingLov3,1687019758.0 -RedPillWomen,14c7bac,What is pair bonding?,"People say that women lose the ability to ""pair bond"" after 5/6 partners. What does that mean, exactly? And can you get the ability back if you lose it? Thanks!",,14,[deleted],1687050928.0 +I would love to hear what you learned from your parents marriage.",,149,CreatingLov3,2023-06-17 16:35:58 +RedPillWomen,14c7bac,What is pair bonding?,"People say that women lose the ability to ""pair bond"" after 5/6 partners. What does that mean, exactly? And can you get the ability back if you lose it? Thanks!",,14,[deleted],2023-06-18 01:15:28 RedPillWomen,14c3a13,Never taught how to be a wife,"Hi, I (f/30) am newly engaged to the love of my life (m/28). He is wonderful. He takes care of me, protects me, supports me, and is more than I ever dreamed of. I want to be the best wife possible for him, not only because I want to give back to the person who gives so much to me, but because he deserves it. @@ -7281,7 +7281,7 @@ Does anyone have any basic advice they think all women should know? Anything you I know I will never stick to anything if I try to make a drastic lifestyle change, so I want to slowly start incorporating things into my days/mindset so they stick and I can commit to them. -He just proposed last week and we haven't even thought about wedding planning yet, so hopefully I can start our marriage as the best woman possible.",,23,newlyfemininelady,1687039748.0 +He just proposed last week and we haven't even thought about wedding planning yet, so hopefully I can start our marriage as the best woman possible.",,23,newlyfemininelady,2023-06-17 22:09:08 RedPillWomen,14bv2ph,Left holding the baby...,"Hi RedPillers, Looking for your words of wisdom! I love my husband but ever since we've had my little daughter we've disagreed on how much time he spends with her. @@ -7290,8 +7290,8 @@ Looking for your words of wisdom! I love my husband but ever since we've had my I'm currently on maternity leave, and we've agreed that we could each have one night out each to go out. For me, this rarely happens, as by the time he's home from work it's too late for me to then go out and do anything, and often his work travel plans disrupt any arrangements I have made (this week, for example, i was due to see a friend for dinner - he's now away all week so I can't leave the baby, and the friend doesn't want to travel to where we leave). -I don't mind midweek so much but in the weekends it seems he can't get out the door quick enough - birthday parties, trips for his godson, other events. None, it seems, that myself and his daughter are invited to, and I'm becoming increasingly resentful about it. This weekend he's off to a school reunion, largely with people he already knows, and once more it's just me and my daughter home alone. He knows how I feel about it but says he has a stressful job (which is true) and needs time to relax and let off steam. We had agreed to only do joint things at the weekend previously, but it seems there's always an exception (my friend's in town for one weekend only, it's not a couples event, it's too far to bring the baby) etc. Our entire calendar is booked up for the future, largely for him to see his friends, and I'm starting to get fed up. As a side note, I love spending time with our daughter and really cherish the moments with her during the week as I'm soon to go back to work. But, I'm getting increasingly resentful over his behaviour - not least as his trips often involve overnight stays and SLEEP. Something I haven't had myself since she was born in January! A hen do away was the exception to the rule, but now when I try and plan trips with other girlfriends, they are all busy... HELP!",,20,wherethew1ldth1ngsr,1687018753.0 -RedPillWomen,14azwbc,"RPW, does anyone know a good online relationship coach who I can contact that will be able to give advice on my personal situation?","I’d really like to talk through an issue I’m having with a good coach. Does anyone know of any good ones? One with a more red pill stance. I contacted one years ago who was brilliant, but I have a similar issue to what I had years ago and I feel embarrassed to contact him again😅",,6,Red_rose49,1686929525.0 +I don't mind midweek so much but in the weekends it seems he can't get out the door quick enough - birthday parties, trips for his godson, other events. None, it seems, that myself and his daughter are invited to, and I'm becoming increasingly resentful about it. This weekend he's off to a school reunion, largely with people he already knows, and once more it's just me and my daughter home alone. He knows how I feel about it but says he has a stressful job (which is true) and needs time to relax and let off steam. We had agreed to only do joint things at the weekend previously, but it seems there's always an exception (my friend's in town for one weekend only, it's not a couples event, it's too far to bring the baby) etc. Our entire calendar is booked up for the future, largely for him to see his friends, and I'm starting to get fed up. As a side note, I love spending time with our daughter and really cherish the moments with her during the week as I'm soon to go back to work. But, I'm getting increasingly resentful over his behaviour - not least as his trips often involve overnight stays and SLEEP. Something I haven't had myself since she was born in January! A hen do away was the exception to the rule, but now when I try and plan trips with other girlfriends, they are all busy... HELP!",,20,wherethew1ldth1ngsr,2023-06-17 16:19:13 +RedPillWomen,14azwbc,"RPW, does anyone know a good online relationship coach who I can contact that will be able to give advice on my personal situation?","I’d really like to talk through an issue I’m having with a good coach. Does anyone know of any good ones? One with a more red pill stance. I contacted one years ago who was brilliant, but I have a similar issue to what I had years ago and I feel embarrassed to contact him again😅",,6,Red_rose49,2023-06-16 15:32:05 RedPillWomen,14b4y5l,Is this a red flag?,"Hi ladies, I need your perspective for understanding if some things observed in the man I am about to date are potential red flags. @@ -7318,7 +7318,7 @@ It is of course way too early to say anything, but then again is is probably bes I will definitely meet him because otherwise we get along very well and it seems to be promising with respect to many things. So while for the moment I am only observing I guess that on the other hand I have somewhat difficulties in understanding the importance of these three points and how in the end I can understand how critical they actually are. -It could be that he is too full of himself and actually not having enough ""space"" in his mind to think about someone else, which might also be because it is quite early and we have not met yet...?",,4,DelicateDevelopment,1686941898.0 +It could be that he is too full of himself and actually not having enough ""space"" in his mind to think about someone else, which might also be because it is quite early and we have not met yet...?",,4,DelicateDevelopment,2023-06-16 18:58:18 RedPillWomen,14a90jy,Traditional and “Progressive” Men are not mutually exclusive,"There was recently a tiktok video that went viral of a “liberal” woman basically saying that all of the masculine men are conservative (she meant republican) and that “progressive” men are not masculine. She was saying that she can’t find a man that is both progressive and masculine/traditional, and questioning whether they exist. The comments completely tore her up saying that obviously progressive men are not going to be traditional. And that a progressive and traditional man obviously does not exist. Based on my experience living in a very blue state, this is completely untrue. Politics, especially regarding social issues, does not determine how a man or woman acts in their personal romantic relationships. Politics can be kept completely separate from the dynamics one chooses to practice in their romantic relationships. @@ -7333,7 +7333,7 @@ And you sure as heck don’t need to change your beliefs and have your independe I live in an extremely liberal big city, and I identify as “democrat”, AND I’m in a traditional relationship. I submit to my partner and follow RPW. I don’t openly discuss this with my friends for fear of backlash, but I do make little comments here and there to test the waters. I see so many of my liberal girl friends and family struggling with their relationships and dating and I really wish I could introduce them to RPW but I know that would just blow up in my face so I never will. I wish people could understand that being in or desiring a traditional relationship is not equal to your rights being taken away or being a republican. -I love RPW and this community. It’s truly made me a better person and helped me get the relationship of my dreams. I wish I could share what I’ve learned with everybody 🥲",,60,Exstntial-strawberry,1686852599.0 +I love RPW and this community. It’s truly made me a better person and helped me get the relationship of my dreams. I wish I could share what I’ve learned with everybody 🥲",,60,Exstntial-strawberry,2023-06-15 18:09:59 RedPillWomen,14asy93,"I've just seen an image of the man I have been longing for for years with his girlfriend, feeling distraught, need advice","Hi RPW. I am absolutely distraught right now. I met a man abroad a few years ago when I was 19. He had amazing qualities. I could list them but it will just remind me of them:(. He was perfect for me. We went out several times, but I stopped sex from happening in case I was to never see him again. @@ -7344,16 +7344,16 @@ I've recently been to the country I met him in. My dad has a house there, but it Then today I saw he put some posts up with his girlfriend. They were hiking together. I love hiking. It could have been me. -I feel so terrible. Will I find a man that makes me feel this way again? I really would appreciate advice.",,0,Red_rose49,1686910263.0 +I feel so terrible. Will I find a man that makes me feel this way again? I really would appreciate advice.",,0,Red_rose49,2023-06-16 10:11:03 RedPillWomen,14a3ouo,Skyla IUD Hormonal Experiences.. is my IUD causing my depression?,"Hi all! Back in January, I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks. After, I went and got on Skyla IUD. I've never had great experiences with Birth Control but after the miscarriage, I decided to get back on to be safe. I've been on & off BC since I was 16. I got the IUD in March and since then, I have had the worst Mental Health Symptoms. I was recently diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder & Generalized Anxiety Disorder (I was diagnosed AFTER starting my IUD) I have always had a little bit of anxiety and depression but nothing that ever concerned me or after my daily life. My boyfriend and I have always been absolutely amazing. We never fought, We always laughed and joked. I've never questioned anything about our relationship. UNTIL, March. We started fighting constantly, I became extremely insecure and jealous over my boyfriend doing things, that I've never had an issue with him doing. We're fighting over very small things and it's having a huge impact on our relationship. I've always been a confident person but since I've started Skyla. my mental health, my image on myself has been in the shitter. Since starting the IUD, I have felt hopeless and numb. Numb is the best way to put it. I'm constantly feeling as though I'm a burden and I just have no motivation to do anything. The anxiety and depression has affected every part of my life. I've never had panic attacks either until starting the IUD, I've never had Suicidal ideation until I started the IUD. I've done my fair share of research, and it seems like this does happen to some women with IUD. I already have thyroid issues as well. I'm currently looking into getting my iud taken out because it really seems to be the root of it all. -I just wanted to know if others had similar experiences with hormonal IUDS? What did you do to combat the extreme anxiety & depression.",,3,bball033098,1686838863.0 -RedPillWomen,149kass,No women to share wedding planning joy with,"I got engaged this month and while I know I have quite a bit of time before a wedding, I can't help but feel kind of a pit in my stomach because I don't particularly have a lot of friends. I have three friends (all women and none whom I'd consider super close, but good friends nonetheless), two are in my hometown that's in another state. The one here is also recently engaged, but I tried talking about wedding planning and such with her and she has no interest in a wedding for herself, just elopement. I just feel like I don't really have the traditional excitement of planning a wedding because I don't have many friends and honestly none of my three friends share my values so it is more on a superficial keeping company level. I want to be able to have a nice wedding with a bridal party and all of that, but nobody really seems interested except me. I feel kind of sad and pathetic, it has been really hard making new friends here. I am thinking about asking fiancé's sisters to be my bridal party, but we aren't that close either. I'm just bummed that I don't really have a sort of close sisterhood to share this excitement with, talk about planning the wedding and so on. Are there any other women here who don't have many close bonds? Does anyone have any ideas on where to make friends? I've been thinking about joining a church maybe to find friends my age, but I am very intimidated and admittedly very shy. I suppose I am just getting this off my chest, I usually lurk this sub, but figured I'd make an account and at least reach out to women with similar values on the internet.",,22,[deleted],1686779539.0 -RedPillWomen,14971s2,"What exactly is an ""alpha"" and why would a woman want to be in a relationship with him?",,,12,New-Noise802,1686746992.0 +I just wanted to know if others had similar experiences with hormonal IUDS? What did you do to combat the extreme anxiety & depression.",,3,bball033098,2023-06-15 14:21:03 +RedPillWomen,149kass,No women to share wedding planning joy with,"I got engaged this month and while I know I have quite a bit of time before a wedding, I can't help but feel kind of a pit in my stomach because I don't particularly have a lot of friends. I have three friends (all women and none whom I'd consider super close, but good friends nonetheless), two are in my hometown that's in another state. The one here is also recently engaged, but I tried talking about wedding planning and such with her and she has no interest in a wedding for herself, just elopement. I just feel like I don't really have the traditional excitement of planning a wedding because I don't have many friends and honestly none of my three friends share my values so it is more on a superficial keeping company level. I want to be able to have a nice wedding with a bridal party and all of that, but nobody really seems interested except me. I feel kind of sad and pathetic, it has been really hard making new friends here. I am thinking about asking fiancé's sisters to be my bridal party, but we aren't that close either. I'm just bummed that I don't really have a sort of close sisterhood to share this excitement with, talk about planning the wedding and so on. Are there any other women here who don't have many close bonds? Does anyone have any ideas on where to make friends? I've been thinking about joining a church maybe to find friends my age, but I am very intimidated and admittedly very shy. I suppose I am just getting this off my chest, I usually lurk this sub, but figured I'd make an account and at least reach out to women with similar values on the internet.",,22,[deleted],2023-06-14 21:52:19 +RedPillWomen,14971s2,"What exactly is an ""alpha"" and why would a woman want to be in a relationship with him?",,,12,New-Noise802,2023-06-14 12:49:52 RedPillWomen,148p9ga,success? post - i’m not ugly. i just had low self esteem… and terrible style.,"thought i would make a positive update since my last two posts because of all the helpful advice i received 😊. i’ve been dressing more outwardly feminine lately and this has been my experience… @@ -7374,11 +7374,11 @@ well, it almost feels like i’m living in a whole different universe now with t 5. lastly, i’ve been asked by like 3 people if i’m a model/if i would like to model for them. i’m not a model at all but i was flattered 🙈. -so yeah i guess this is my success post of what has happened since i decided to change my appearance and really prioritize myself. i know it all sounds so made up, but it’s not i swear! i don’t feel sorry for myself anymore and i’m tired of feeling sorry for myself and not doing anything about it. i’ve concluded that i was never ugly, i just had low self-esteem and that was reflecting in my life/men i attracted. i feel so much more confident now from the little positive experiences i’ve been having. i’m going to make this a permanent change but i wanted to just say thanks to this sub for helping me understand/point out things i needed to fix. like i said it really feels like i’m living in a different universe",,30,burner4567890,1686689364.0 +so yeah i guess this is my success post of what has happened since i decided to change my appearance and really prioritize myself. i know it all sounds so made up, but it’s not i swear! i don’t feel sorry for myself anymore and i’m tired of feeling sorry for myself and not doing anything about it. i’ve concluded that i was never ugly, i just had low self-esteem and that was reflecting in my life/men i attracted. i feel so much more confident now from the little positive experiences i’ve been having. i’m going to make this a permanent change but i wanted to just say thanks to this sub for helping me understand/point out things i needed to fix. like i said it really feels like i’m living in a different universe",,30,burner4567890,2023-06-13 20:49:24 RedPillWomen,148bpdr,Why does it feel everything bad happens all at once?,"A little context: I’m 28 [F]. I was in a relationship with a man I loved (still do) for around 2 years. It was a long distance relationship and it caused me a lot of anxiety because he was rarely available to talk over calls or make plans. Last year I was laid off, I was fortunate enough to find a job within 2 days. New job gave me multiple friends I’m grateful for, but second lay off within 6 months! It was a startup and funding crunch was the reason for it. I have been searching but the market is bad. I’m trying to read, learn, workout, do all sorts of stuff. Tried to give Bumble a chance again (found my ex there too). Spoke with a guy for 15 days, met him 3 days ago. We spoke after the date, but no texts for last 48 hours. -How long can you keep calm? I’m trying to wake up every day thinking I won’t hit saturation, but not sure how many lessons I have left in me. When it rains, it pours, but it has been like this for quite some time.",,10,AccomplishedSyrup814,1686650439.0 +How long can you keep calm? I’m trying to wake up every day thinking I won’t hit saturation, but not sure how many lessons I have left in me. When it rains, it pours, but it has been like this for quite some time.",,10,AccomplishedSyrup814,2023-06-13 10:00:39 RedPillWomen,147qew8,"How to stop being perceived as hook up material, instead committal & wifey material of HVM?","I'm 23 and start dating again after ending my first relationship of 5 years I feel so discouraged because all of the men I met just want to have sex with me upon the first or second time of meeting me, I feel so disrespected like I'm only hook up material but not wifey @@ -7389,18 +7389,18 @@ I do wear outfits with cleavage, but never trashy (think like Revolve dress with Am I not attractive enough? -What are the traits that HVM perceive as wifey material?",,24,lianne_tran,1686585346.0 +What are the traits that HVM perceive as wifey material?",,24,lianne_tran,2023-06-12 15:55:46 RedPillWomen,1483akq,Advice on finding a therapist?,"Hi, I just created this account as I wanted to post here without getting banned from other subs 🙄. I have been quietly reading here for a while and it really makes me feel calmer hearing everyone’s responses and I guess just knowing there are other people who feel this way, and I’m not a total weirdo lol. Anyway I do have a question: I want to start seeing a therapist and I was wondering if anyone has any advice on how to find one that would be supportive of me wanting a male-led relationship. There are other things I want to discuss of course, but since that is an important goal of mine, and I feel that it is necessary for my happiness, it could be a waste of time to start working with someone who is against this fundamental goal of mine. On the other hand, since it’s rather a niche issue, it may be a waste of time to hold out for someone who aligns on this one issue, when they could be helpful in other areas, such as self-esteem, creating goals, and improving relationships. Any advice would be appreciated as I’m finding it hard to take the first steps and make an appointment. I’m in the US and I have good insurance and the ability to pay out of pocket, so that part isn’t a concern, which I am truly grateful for. -Edit: Thank you all for your advice. I just tried responding to your comments but my account is too new and everything was auto-deleted, oops!!",,1,InevitableKiwi5776,1686620328.0 +Edit: Thank you all for your advice. I just tried responding to your comments but my account is too new and everything was auto-deleted, oops!!",,1,InevitableKiwi5776,2023-06-13 01:38:48 RedPillWomen,147u42j,Is this cheating?,"A few years ago I was in a relationship with this guy when I got really sick and had a psychotic break. I started believing all sorts of delusions, including that he had run off with another woman and died. During this time I approached another patient I was attracted to, but couldn't do anything with him, because of the staff. I would not have gone after this guy had I known my boyfriend was alive. Then the delusions subsided and I called my boyfriend out of guilt. He said it was cheating and so I tried to make it up to him by inviting him to the hospital to have sex. We did and then soon after I got out he asked to go on a break. A few weeks later I saw him on Facebook tagged ""in a relationship"" with another girl. When I confronted him he said that he didn't want to trigger my mental illness. -Did I cheat? My therapist said I didn't but I'm not sure I really trust her. I want to know in case I need to apologize again. Also, what do I say when this topic comes up on dates?",,0,[deleted],1686594809.0 -RedPillWomen,146xjsh,How do you know when you are in love with someone?,,,18,Maree70,1686499178.0 +Did I cheat? My therapist said I didn't but I'm not sure I really trust her. I want to know in case I need to apologize again. Also, what do I say when this topic comes up on dates?",,0,[deleted],2023-06-12 18:33:29 +RedPillWomen,146xjsh,How do you know when you are in love with someone?,,,18,Maree70,2023-06-11 15:59:38 RedPillWomen,146o8u0,18 years old and no romantic experience,"I (18F) have never been taken on a date before, have never been kissed, have never held-hands with the opposite sex, nothing. I understand that I'm young, and it had never really bothered me per se, but as prom season approaches its been weighing on me more and more that, out of my many wonderful female friends, I am finally the last one to have never been seen romantically. Its painful. A bit of background. @@ -7413,8 +7413,8 @@ Finally, I wouldn't say I'm overweight, but I could look and feel better. I also Anyway, I'm not quite sure if this has become a rant or what, so back to the point. -I am a rpw and I have never felt more aligned with a way of living in my entire life. Its given me hope for my future, an escape from the dreary and soul-destroying grind that seemed to be my only option. Now I'm asking you lovely and inspiring women, what do I do. I feel so hopeless and worthless.",,8,[deleted],1686471264.0 -RedPillWomen,146zm1t,What exactly is red pill women,I am a bit new to discovering this thread but I joined because I liked the posts here and feel alot of the women here are similar to myself. But I am just curious what exactly is it like what is this whole sub for. I am going to read the thing now but yeah haha,,0,prettyrosexo,1686504152.0 +I am a rpw and I have never felt more aligned with a way of living in my entire life. Its given me hope for my future, an escape from the dreary and soul-destroying grind that seemed to be my only option. Now I'm asking you lovely and inspiring women, what do I do. I feel so hopeless and worthless.",,8,[deleted],2023-06-11 08:14:24 +RedPillWomen,146zm1t,What exactly is red pill women,I am a bit new to discovering this thread but I joined because I liked the posts here and feel alot of the women here are similar to myself. But I am just curious what exactly is it like what is this whole sub for. I am going to read the thing now but yeah haha,,0,prettyrosexo,2023-06-11 17:22:32 RedPillWomen,146qx2c,I don't know if my partner is good for me anymore,"I'm posting here because i feel the women in here might be better at giving me advice etc or just opinions,. So my boyfriend is not very understanding whenever I'd communicate my feelings he acts like I'm arguing most of the time, and he'll block me for hours, when he unblocks me he'll message me and expect me to be fine. Ofc I'm upset. At times I'd be crying and he'll just sleep but he had to be up early for work so I understand but it doesn't sit right with me sometimes. I woudlnt be able to leave him cry or be upset. Maybe he's just numb to me crying now as I did alot? @@ -7425,7 +7425,7 @@ But just to add he told me if he could he would and that he just can't afford to So there I already know now how it would be with him but I just don't like how for so long he had me told that he'll take care of me and give me ' the best life ' and now I'm too attached to just be like oh well this is not what I want but I wish you the best. Like no I want him. I also feel like maybeee I'm being bad? I just thought it would be different. Most of all I'm confused and a bit hurt as to why he in the beginning told me he'd take care of me. Maybe he just realises now that he can't afford to, he told me if he had loads of money then he wouldn't care and would. So he just CAN'T. -I'm also going to add that he couldn't get me anything because he told me his bank didn't let him order things to me. But then around the time of my birthday he told me he found a way to be able to buy me things. But he didn't, on my birthday I got no card or anything however that day we were not on good terms. But after we made up and were okay but he still didn't get me a late birthday present it just upset me because he told me before this that he found a way. But he told me he can't afford it basically as he is saving. I would of been grateful for anything cute but I understand..! I need to be more understanding maybe. It just upsets me still that I got nothing. But like I said about being understanding...",,2,prettyrosexo,1686480775.0 +I'm also going to add that he couldn't get me anything because he told me his bank didn't let him order things to me. But then around the time of my birthday he told me he found a way to be able to buy me things. But he didn't, on my birthday I got no card or anything however that day we were not on good terms. But after we made up and were okay but he still didn't get me a late birthday present it just upset me because he told me before this that he found a way. But he told me he can't afford it basically as he is saving. I would of been grateful for anything cute but I understand..! I need to be more understanding maybe. It just upsets me still that I got nothing. But like I said about being understanding...",,2,prettyrosexo,2023-06-11 10:52:55 RedPillWomen,1468873,Masculinity in Illness,"I’m facing a problem I never considered. My husband is an excellent partner. He’s very masculine and take charge while also being loving and affectionate. I feel safe and loved with him. This has not been my previous experiences. He is also older than me-we have a significant age gap. He is also a very dominant man who believes that he is in charge of the house and that it is his role to provide, protect, and generally make my life as easy and nice as possible. After being left to fend for myself most of my life, you can imagine how nice it is. I have gone from a super militant feminist to a much softer, submissive, happier woman. I have followed a lot of the advice on this sub and it has made my life very happy. @@ -7436,7 +7436,7 @@ Now on to my actual problem. My husband cannot stand the new order of things whe How can I help him to feel masculine and in charge in this situation? I’m not angry with him over his attitude towards it at all; I just want him to be happy. -Edit: When I say it is not a real issue, I mean that I am not bothered by taking care of him. I realize that for him it is a very real issue.",,18,MsSmiley1230,1686423784.0 +Edit: When I say it is not a real issue, I mean that I am not bothered by taking care of him. I realize that for him it is a very real issue.",,18,MsSmiley1230,2023-06-10 19:03:04 RedPillWomen,1469mzq,Mona Lisa Smile Discussion,"Mona Lisa Smile Has anyone seen this movie? @@ -7455,10 +7455,10 @@ PS to the mods: it’s possible that this movie has feminist themes. It’s been I don’t want to bring this up for its feminist themes, but as an interesting representation of intelligent women, with unintentional RPW themes. -Please discuss.",,12,JanuaryArya,1686427394.0 +Please discuss.",,12,JanuaryArya,2023-06-10 20:03:14 RedPillWomen,145zyb8,What made you come to redpill lifestyle?,"Were there any factors like were you a feminist or did you grow up in a traditional household? -Edit: When i got interested i was hearing about the manosphere and redpill spaces on youtube. Anthony dream johnsons of 21 studios had a ""Make women great again"" 3 day event from men teaching women how to be feminine and duties. So from there ingot interested",,16,Serious-Summer9378,1686402712.0 +Edit: When i got interested i was hearing about the manosphere and redpill spaces on youtube. Anthony dream johnsons of 21 studios had a ""Make women great again"" 3 day event from men teaching women how to be feminine and duties. So from there ingot interested",,16,Serious-Summer9378,2023-06-10 13:11:52 RedPillWomen,145hxg5,"Balancing being feminine and gym/weight loss, dating during self improvement?","Edit: thank you everyone who took the time to read and reply to me! I’m working on responding to everyone but so far from reading what you have said, I have identified some errors in my thinking: - I’ve been having an all or nothing mindset with thinking I need a perfect body to be attractive @@ -7485,7 +7485,7 @@ So I (30F) am in the process of working on losing weight and improving my health 1. How important is it to look cute and feminine at the gym? I know ideally we would want to present our best selves and be approachable at all times, and generally I try to be well groomed and put together when I leave the house. But when it comes to workouts, I just dress comfortably and focus on pushing myself to meet my goals, so I probably look red faced and messy. Losing weight is the #1 thing that will make me look better, but I also don’t want to be gross in the meantime. Am I overthinking it? -2. I get that thinner is better in terms of attracting men, but younger is also better. Everyone’s body is different but is there a general guideline on what is considered thin enough to be dateable for a LTR ? Like would I be better positioned waiting until I’m 35+ but have a BMI under 18, versus being 31-32 with a BMI of 23? I am traditional, religious, no body count, looking for marriage, and plan on staying in nun mode until I’m at least in the healthy weight range for my height.",,2,Mighty_Wombat42,1686347415.0 +2. I get that thinner is better in terms of attracting men, but younger is also better. Everyone’s body is different but is there a general guideline on what is considered thin enough to be dateable for a LTR ? Like would I be better positioned waiting until I’m 35+ but have a BMI under 18, versus being 31-32 with a BMI of 23? I am traditional, religious, no body count, looking for marriage, and plan on staying in nun mode until I’m at least in the healthy weight range for my height.",,2,Mighty_Wombat42,2023-06-09 21:50:15 RedPillWomen,144ikh2,"Helping BF become more of a captain- he has never had to ""lead""","Recently been lurking on this sub, and overall agree with many of the values. Background, me and my BF have been together nearly a year. We are about to move in together next month. Although this is not exactly ideal pre- marriage, with the economy and my teacher salary I need to either a. move in with him or b. move back across the country where I am from. I love FL and want to stay, so currently going with a. @@ -7498,8 +7498,8 @@ How do I help him learn how to do all these things, without him relying on me? H &#x200B; -Thanks!",,16,maroonmallard,1686252546.0 -RedPillWomen,144pmpt,How to lose weight and keep it off?,How have you all lost weight and kept it off? Especially when staying at home around the house and/or getting ready to date.,,6,[deleted],1686269092.0 +Thanks!",,16,maroonmallard,2023-06-08 19:29:06 +RedPillWomen,144pmpt,How to lose weight and keep it off?,How have you all lost weight and kept it off? Especially when staying at home around the house and/or getting ready to date.,,6,[deleted],2023-06-09 00:04:52 RedPillWomen,144grlu,Shifting tastes in guys?,"Hello everybody! I was looking for advice on shifting your dominance threshold, or the type of guy you’re attracted to. I was reading the back to basics Relationship Dynamic posts, and definitely identified myself as a high dominance/high threshold woman. I’ve been working on myself to be more feminine which I think I’ve made very good progress on, based on feedback from friends/family, but I very much want a guy who’s more ‘dominant’ than I am (not to sound like one of the trashy romances I love, lol), more capable/confident/disciplined/etc. @@ -7510,10 +7510,10 @@ I feel like I need some kind of way to adjust my tastes to what I actually want, My relationship with my ex was fast, passionate, and not particularly healthy. My current relationship I would say is much lighter and calmer, and I think I’m slowly starting to develop feelings for him. -Does anybody have any advice for this? How to maybe adjust my threshold/tastes to better align with my current partner? I don’t want to make this super long, I talk more about him in my prior posts if anybody wants more context. I like him a lot and want to this to work, I just worry about my feelings not being as strong. Thank you all for your time!",,9,Valuable_Place1265,1686248374.0 +Does anybody have any advice for this? How to maybe adjust my threshold/tastes to better align with my current partner? I don’t want to make this super long, I talk more about him in my prior posts if anybody wants more context. I like him a lot and want to this to work, I just worry about my feelings not being as strong. Thank you all for your time!",,9,Valuable_Place1265,2023-06-08 18:19:34 RedPillWomen,143ura2,has the pain of male infidelity always been this way?,"ive seen many younger women and teenage girls heartbroken due to infidelity on tiktok and twitter. with being in this age group (19F) many of my close friends and acquaintances, or even strangers have reposted or spoken on the pain felt due to male infidelity. -if men are “biologically wired” to be able to be with multiple partners (as so told by many members of the RP community) then why does getting cheated on hurt so badly? am i insecure for being so upset when i got cheated on?",,28,hadyayasmin,1686186032.0 +if men are “biologically wired” to be able to be with multiple partners (as so told by many members of the RP community) then why does getting cheated on hurt so badly? am i insecure for being so upset when i got cheated on?",,28,hadyayasmin,2023-06-08 01:00:32 RedPillWomen,1442pnt,Ideas on introducing Red Pill content to men who are not aware,"What do you think about introducing men to the Red Pill world? @@ -7527,12 +7527,12 @@ What are your thoughts and experiences with that? \*fairly new here - open for some guidance from experienced women\* -",,6,minaku74,1686210317.0 +",,6,minaku74,2023-06-08 07:45:17 RedPillWomen,1440ueh,How do you select which men to entertain?,"At some point after you improve yourself, and put yourself out there, you get a lot of men interested in you and willing to take you on a date. Any attractive woman can get lots of matches on dating apps or can get men in real life asking her out. Some of these men seem like they have the qualities to be HVM. However, most probably only want to have sex with you, and not commit. There’s an important decision that’s not discussed here enough which is out of the men that seem interested, which one do you give a chance and go on a date with. How do you determine which men are more likely to want to commit from the beginning so you don’t waste your time? For example, I’ve noticed that if you have a very close mutual (I.e. your best friend is his sister) he’s most likely seeking commitment. He may not want to commit to you after dating you if he doesn’t approve of you, but he usually will have the intentions. I think it’s because people don’t like to “shit” where they sleep and shitting is usually playing with girls. -Do you have any patterns or strategies? For example, are there hints by the way they text you?",,5,Select_Machine_1754,1686203777.0 +Do you have any patterns or strategies? For example, are there hints by the way they text you?",,5,Select_Machine_1754,2023-06-08 05:56:17 RedPillWomen,143d4b1,Help-ny anxiety ruining relationship," Background:I see a therapist, a psychiatrist, I do daily breathing exercises, journal weekly, do yoga or other exercise weekly, also have a prescription for medical, I'm also on a meds for my treatment resistant depression and panic disorder. I also have a hormonal disorder which affects my moods, which I am on a hormone reducer for. @@ -7558,7 +7558,7 @@ This is usually happening when he is drunk, but the anger is there when sober to Edited:words, language around driving -TLDR: Please help. I know I have emotional issues and really am trying to be more feminine but I guess I'm doing it all.wrong. Anxiety is making my bf upset and causing friction in our relationship",,4,allthereisleftislove,1686143979.0 +TLDR: Please help. I know I have emotional issues and really am trying to be more feminine but I guess I'm doing it all.wrong. Anxiety is making my bf upset and causing friction in our relationship",,4,allthereisleftislove,2023-06-07 13:19:39 RedPillWomen,140snox,"RPW Adapted: The Trinity of Security, Status, Escape"," The [trinity of Security, Status, and Escape ](https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2y175a/the_trinity_of_security_status_escape/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) was a post that first made the rounds of TRP years ago. Most of the critique was that this trifecta could be applied to men as well as women, and thought I'd try my hand. @@ -7660,7 +7660,7 @@ Security and Status can go hand-in-hand, but they often oppose Escape. The role I believe sex can appeal to all three of these needs, making it one of the most effective tools we have. It makes a couple feel as though their bond has been strengthened, which appeals to Security. A man who has plentiful, passionate sex with an attractive woman that he can make orgasm is a marker for high Status. Sex reduces stress and fulfills fantasy which makes it an effective Escape. -On a final note, if you find yourself in need of Status, Security, or Escape, it may be helpful to your partner [to bring him your problems, not your solutions.](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/4i8ukh/bring_your_captain_your_problem_not_your_solution/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button). Instead of telling him he needs to watch the kids Saturday afternoon, say you're feeling tired and stressed. See what you two can come up with together to solve it.",,27,ArkNemesis00,1685917496.0 +On a final note, if you find yourself in need of Status, Security, or Escape, it may be helpful to your partner [to bring him your problems, not your solutions.](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/4i8ukh/bring_your_captain_your_problem_not_your_solution/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button). Instead of telling him he needs to watch the kids Saturday afternoon, say you're feeling tired and stressed. See what you two can come up with together to solve it.",,27,ArkNemesis00,2023-06-04 22:24:56 RedPillWomen,140sczw,Mantra,"Okay so I’ve been struggling. Husband over booked himself with work things and hasn’t had much if any time for me this past week. And when he has been around he’s been distracted and not very present. At first it was okay and I was coasting along being my normal self but then I started to get resentful and snippy and finally last night I let him have it. I told him I’m lonely and disappointed and let down and on and on. @@ -7677,7 +7677,7 @@ So when we went to the museum today and he didn’t take the time to figure out I’m trying so hard to touch that place of compassion within myself that transforms my anger into understanding and empathy. -I was proud turning my disrespect around and creating a strategy to be more respectful and that’s why I wanted to share it.",,27,1987dd1987,1685916870.0 +I was proud turning my disrespect around and creating a strategy to be more respectful and that’s why I wanted to share it.",,27,1987dd1987,2023-06-04 22:14:30 RedPillWomen,13zz8jz,"7 Things I've Learned From My Highly Desirable, Thrice Divorced Mother","Before I start, I should note that each husband was a high value guy. They each made a lot of money, and were generally pretty nice people (aside from the last one). She also dated a lot of very nice, high value men. This is how she landed these guys, and then lost them. &#x200B; @@ -7692,8 +7692,8 @@ RedPillWomen,13zz8jz,"7 Things I've Learned From My Highly Desirable, Thrice Div &#x200B; -I'd love to hear about what things you ladies have noticed in your mothers' marriages, what went wrong and what went right.",,112,[deleted],1685848574.0 -RedPillWomen,1407cal,How do you know if he’s worth it?,Hello! I’m new to RedPill women but I find everyone’s opinion in this subreddit very agreeable and enjoyable to read. I just got out of a relationship where my previous was younger and super dependent on me which made me realized the bar I set for my partner was in hell and I felt like a mother to him rather than a girlfriend. I had little to no standard when it came to dating my only criteria was for my partner to have lots of love for me and remain loyal in our relationship. Could you please enlighten on what other crucial trait men need to have? I want to know what makes a partner worth fighting for.,,14,New_Initiative_2134,1685870346.0 +I'd love to hear about what things you ladies have noticed in your mothers' marriages, what went wrong and what went right.",,112,[deleted],2023-06-04 03:16:14 +RedPillWomen,1407cal,How do you know if he’s worth it?,Hello! I’m new to RedPill women but I find everyone’s opinion in this subreddit very agreeable and enjoyable to read. I just got out of a relationship where my previous was younger and super dependent on me which made me realized the bar I set for my partner was in hell and I felt like a mother to him rather than a girlfriend. I had little to no standard when it came to dating my only criteria was for my partner to have lots of love for me and remain loyal in our relationship. Could you please enlighten on what other crucial trait men need to have? I want to know what makes a partner worth fighting for.,,14,New_Initiative_2134,2023-06-04 09:19:06 RedPillWomen,14114ou,"Update to ""stuck in a short term relationship"", now dynamics have changed for the even worse, need advice","So I made a post on here about how my bf and I have been in a relationship that we basically decided to have just to have somebody, even though he wanted more with me, and since I knew he wanted a ltr with me but that I didn't see the compatibility, he was willing to do at least short term with me and take me on dates and all that, and about how now he's living with me and it's a tough situation to get out of as we are not financially equipped to have one or both of us move out so we are stuck with each other. Well, now it's gotten even MORE weird-- 2 days after I posted my last post, I found a tinder verification code text on his phone. When I asked him why, he said, ""because you're abusive"" @@ -7725,7 +7725,7 @@ I know I shouldn't keep it from them long, but should I keep it from them for a it's completely normal to be dating multiple men so the guy I'm posting about just happens to be one man I'd be ""dating"", differences are just that I don't have long term compatibility with this man, and we're also stuck to our ""relationship"" just because we live together and it'd be kinda hard to not consider ourselves together. -I'm really stuck and need advice",,0,patisseriepresents,1685936780.0 +I'm really stuck and need advice",,0,patisseriepresents,2023-06-05 03:46:20 RedPillWomen,140o6yy,Plan for nun mode,"Hi! I recently got out of a situationship and am ready to buckle down and become wife material. Here is what I'm going to do: @@ -7755,7 +7755,7 @@ Here is what I'm going to do: - learn etiquette and especially table manners -What do you think? Is there anything I am missing?",,1,[deleted],1685908285.0 +What do you think? Is there anything I am missing?",,1,[deleted],2023-06-04 19:51:25 RedPillWomen,13zh4ps,Why is dating so complicated?,"Starting off, if you’re taking oral contraceptives, such as the pill for birth control, this is for you. If you’ve ever thought to yourself “Wow, the last few men I have been with have sucked.” or, “Why do I not feel desirable to men?”. It could be because of the birth control you take. While forms of certain contraceptives are better than others, such as IUDs, contraceptive rings or condoms, the pill is probably one of the worst ones that somebody can take. Depending on the brand you use and your dosage level, the estrogen and progesterone levels can be too high or too low (speaking from personal experience, multiple years/brands of BC, and information I’ve received from my health care professional). The different levels of hormones fuck with your body in different ways. The effects vary from person to person. Multiple women in my life have stopped taking birth control as well and the first thing they noticed was their weight decreased. Their “taste in men” improved signifincantly as well. Starting with dating men who had no direction in their lives to being with a man who knows exactly what he wants and provides healthy excitment. In my case with the pill, it made me gain weight, have low energy, and become attracted to “feminine men”. Since I've switched to a copper IUD, those symptoms are all gone. Including losing weight/putting on muscle easier and being attracted to feminine men. Now, my current boyfriend pushes me in the right direction and is driven to get where he wants to be. Being subconsciously attracted to “feminine men'' means talking to the wrong type of men. Now what do I mean by feminine men? Since we live in a Society where everything is unsure, we can use the Smash Brothers Femboy Twitch streamer as an example. Think about it, would you really want to have a sexual relationship with this man and have children with him? If you do, you are truly living the American dream of sleeping with Femboy cosplayers and Wannabe Tater tots. @@ -7772,7 +7772,7 @@ Having a boyfriend who works out consistently, makes a good amount of money, rea You might ask yourself, “But plenty of men do this. How can I pick just one?”. You do. Feeling like you have too many options creates these obsessional tendencies and patterns. These patterns result in a decision not being made at all. Ultimately, you’re choosing between one good man (with the qualities I listed previously, of course) that you can grow with or wasting your time with multiple men who treat you as consumer goods. -However, I also know that some of you are in your late 20s and, after going through your fun period, have suddenly decided that boring is good and that living by your father's values is the ""right thing to do.” To you I say to go live your boring lives, watching Netflix all day and treating your husbands like little children but don't ruin it for young women, who still have youth and vitality in them that can be calibrated towards a more fulfilling relationship and life.",,19,Goodtreesbadknees,1685808120.0 +However, I also know that some of you are in your late 20s and, after going through your fun period, have suddenly decided that boring is good and that living by your father's values is the ""right thing to do.” To you I say to go live your boring lives, watching Netflix all day and treating your husbands like little children but don't ruin it for young women, who still have youth and vitality in them that can be calibrated towards a more fulfilling relationship and life.",,19,Goodtreesbadknees,2023-06-03 16:02:00 RedPillWomen,13zebh5,Abusive Relationship Break up,"Hi everyone! I’m pretty new to this sub :) @@ -7791,7 +7791,7 @@ I feel like my posture is better, I don’t feel the need to make myself feel sm My voice is deeper since I’m not always trying to raise it so I don’t get screamed at. -Please let me know if this isn’t appropriate, I will delete it.",,10,Realistic_Pass,1685802011.0 +Please let me know if this isn’t appropriate, I will delete it.",,10,Realistic_Pass,2023-06-03 14:20:11 RedPillWomen,13z4sal,"Are superficial careers like modeling, pageantry, influencer, etc a turn off to a HVM?","Hello! I'm from an Asian country and I joined RPW around late 2022 which I'm steadily enjoying the community here! Learning has been fun! I turned 22 back in April and well, I am NBSB (No boyfriend since birth) and currently in my second year of university. @@ -7808,7 +7808,7 @@ I was thinking of modeling or joining pageants as I think it could make good mon I've been hanging out in red pill places, watching videos (Especially Tate), etc and I read that a lot of men want someone who is like literally unknown, doesnt have social media, traditionally feminine, etc so I was thinking by putting my appearance out there, I would put off the men I desire. -The help would be greatly appreciated! Thank you so much!",,10,jbb_sanc01,1685777559.0 +The help would be greatly appreciated! Thank you so much!",,10,jbb_sanc01,2023-06-03 07:32:39 RedPillWomen,13yqpj8,Do I attract older men because I’m ugly?,"I know it sounds like a silly question but maybe if I can explain it’ll make more sense. I feel like I lately I attract older men a lot and it makes me sad. I would even say the majority of men that are attracted to me are older than me, by 5-25 years. Really I have 50 year old me hit on me… I did try an age gap relationship about 2 years ago, he was 23 years older than me. I didn’t date him for money, I never asked him for money actually and I did care about him as a person but he was not who I thought he was and he ended up being married and it really left me feeling very disgusting about myself and traumatised. But in the end I guess I’m glad it didn’t work out because even while I was dating him I always wished I could be with someone younger than him but In a way, I think that experience tainted older men for me and my brain associates older men with very bright red danger signs. @@ -7819,13 +7819,13 @@ But I want that with a guy around my age. I seem to only attract them on dating I don’t think I’m terribly unattractive. I’m not the most beautiful woman in the world but I honestly don’t think I’m ugly. I’m not overweight, I’m hygienic and I try to always look put together. I take care of myself. One think I admit I can change is my style and presentation and I’m working on it. I want to dress up a bit more and wear a bit of makeup… starting tomorrow! -What could be the problem? Is it possible that I am ugly? How do I become more attractive to men in my age group so they approach me in person?",,12,burner4567890,1685742904.0 +What could be the problem? Is it possible that I am ugly? How do I become more attractive to men in my age group so they approach me in person?",,12,burner4567890,2023-06-02 21:55:04 RedPillWomen,13yddyr,So I’m not alone,"I have been blessed all my life. Loving supportive family, did well at school and university and then got a very good job in “the City”. I thought I had the perfect life. But there was an underlying itch that something was not quite right - for me at least. I was definitively confused. To most looking at me I had everything - except a long term relationship. Was potentially the poster girl for an independent successful woman. But ohh in my heart it wasn’t great. I was laid off, on very generous terms, during covid and it gave me an opportunity to re-evaluate my life and I suddenly realised I didn’t want to go back to the rat race. I was fortunate enough to live in a rural village with a lot of young families and I made friends with a lot of women my age who were living a life I had actively shunned, but now realised was actually the one I wanted to live. So I now work at a small nursery school but am looking for “the one”. Yesterday I stumbled on this forum following a link from a newspaper article. Suddenly, I find that I am not the odd one out there are others like me, and that it is not weird and strange to want to be the LYNCH pin of a family. -I’m older, now 28, but hopefully not hit my wall. Thank you for helping to open my eyes. I look forward to learning much more as I go along.",,38,[deleted],1685713842.0 +I’m older, now 28, but hopefully not hit my wall. Thank you for helping to open my eyes. I look forward to learning much more as I go along.",,38,[deleted],2023-06-02 13:50:42 RedPillWomen,13ya9ji,Another relationship that didn’t work out …,"Hi all, I’d love to get some advice. I’m worried I’m going wrong somewhere when it comes to dating. I’ve taken so much red pill advice on board but I’m feeling lost. @@ -7838,16 +7838,16 @@ I’m not even sure what happened. It could be the pressure of having a make a b I feel so down as I really tried hard this time (RMV stuff). It seems to happen always happen to me… promising relationships that I get so happy about. And the suddenly they just fizzle. -The other surprising thing … not to sound conceited but I have much higher SMV than him and he made that clear. He seemed so enamoured.",,15,Independent-Hall4929,1685706046.0 +The other surprising thing … not to sound conceited but I have much higher SMV than him and he made that clear. He seemed so enamoured.",,15,Independent-Hall4929,2023-06-02 11:40:46 RedPillWomen,13xpot6,"How do y'all feel about podcasts like ""Whatever"" and ""Fresh and Fit""?","I started getting into them a couple months back purely because I found it entertaining. But as some of the podcasts grow and have these ""alpha"" red-pilled guests on the show setting some really poor examples for men and women. I've found myself questioning if I should ever be watching this sort of content. I'm highly impressionable and sometimes I'm worried I take sides of people who appear to know what they're talking about and be extremely confident in their views. -I'm curious, how do y'all genuinely feel about these podcasts?",,33,PepsiColaPussy7860,1685644991.0 +I'm curious, how do y'all genuinely feel about these podcasts?",,33,PepsiColaPussy7860,2023-06-01 18:43:11 RedPillWomen,13xf9ta,Starting to explore,"Hi, I’ve recently stumbled onto this sub and wanted to say hello and perhaps get some introductory advice. I’ve (33F) recently ended my marriage which was, on paper, very ‘progressive’. I was the breadwinner, in charge of most of our decisions, planned and decided almost everything. This is what I thought I wanted when we first got together but I’ve changed significantly over the years, or perhaps just woken up to what I really wanted. -Ultimately I have realised that I am looking for a male led / controlled relationship with much more traditional gender roles embedded. I am starting to seek this out in dating, but also wanted to hear from women who have been through this journey themselves. So any advice on how to embrace this, be a better girlfriend and ultimately traditional wife or partner would be gratefully appreciated. Thank you and looking forward to reading through more of the posts on here too!",,18,h9002,1685619576.0 -RedPillWomen,13xon0h,How to raise SMV?,I hate being fat and ugly. I am like at 3/4 out of ten. How do I get to a level where I can start attracting men I want?,,4,[deleted],1685642536.0 +Ultimately I have realised that I am looking for a male led / controlled relationship with much more traditional gender roles embedded. I am starting to seek this out in dating, but also wanted to hear from women who have been through this journey themselves. So any advice on how to embrace this, be a better girlfriend and ultimately traditional wife or partner would be gratefully appreciated. Thank you and looking forward to reading through more of the posts on here too!",,18,h9002,2023-06-01 11:39:36 +RedPillWomen,13xon0h,How to raise SMV?,I hate being fat and ugly. I am like at 3/4 out of ten. How do I get to a level where I can start attracting men I want?,,4,[deleted],2023-06-01 18:02:16 RedPillWomen,13x1uhd,Guardian Article about RPW,"Regarding this group, Sian Norris has published an unfavorable and, in my view, misleading, essay in the Guardian, here: [https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/may/31/white-supremacy-trad-wives-far-right-feminist-politics](https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/may/31/white-supremacy-trad-wives-far-right-feminist-politics) @@ -7858,8 +7858,8 @@ Other members accounted for this group by way of its distinction from the contem Prior to reading the Guardian article, I was unaware of this group. When I followed the article's link to this forum, I found something different from the strawman (or woman) that was being abused. Though I know that they will never see the light of day, I sent these words to the Guardian editor: -Sian Norris' is misleading in her essay on ""Frilly dresses and white supremacy"". A reader who follows her reference to the Reddit group Red-Pill Women finds that its members account for their traditional marital views in terms of informed and reasonable arguments regarding the benefits of collectivist social values in contrast with self-serving individualism. Their classical position is drawn, not from racist ideology, but from the original conservative argument advanced by Edmund Burke, British MP and nineteenth century political theorist. Agree or disagree, no knowledgeable political observer would overlook the strengths of this argument.",,28,pythag333,1685575988.0 -RedPillWomen,13xhkbv,Meeting my partners mother,"I would like to buy her something but I’m not sure what is that I could gift her, flowers are kind of not an option as she had traveled to see me and she lives far far way so the followers will most likely die before she gets home",,1,rarestkind9,1685625949.0 +Sian Norris' is misleading in her essay on ""Frilly dresses and white supremacy"". A reader who follows her reference to the Reddit group Red-Pill Women finds that its members account for their traditional marital views in terms of informed and reasonable arguments regarding the benefits of collectivist social values in contrast with self-serving individualism. Their classical position is drawn, not from racist ideology, but from the original conservative argument advanced by Edmund Burke, British MP and nineteenth century political theorist. Agree or disagree, no knowledgeable political observer would overlook the strengths of this argument.",,28,pythag333,2023-05-31 23:33:08 +RedPillWomen,13xhkbv,Meeting my partners mother,"I would like to buy her something but I’m not sure what is that I could gift her, flowers are kind of not an option as she had traveled to see me and she lives far far way so the followers will most likely die before she gets home",,1,rarestkind9,2023-06-01 13:25:49 RedPillWomen,13wz06o,Feeling anxious about commitment and marriage...,"I don't understand what is wrong with me but I am super anxious about committing to my boyfriend. He's told me point blank he wants to marry me and it just makes me panic. I don't know why the hell I am like this really just deep down inside I wonder if we are right for each other? Before him I was in a relationship for 8 years and we got engaged. I was very young when the relationship started and was engaged at 22. That relationship didn't work out. During that time due I went through some seriously bad trauma in which I nearly lost my life, I still live with the physical and mental effects to this day. My ex partner turned into an alcoholic to cope with what happened me/us and started to be borderline violent so I left. But I really loved him for many years, just not at the end. But I think it has ruined me and now I am scared to commit to my now boyfriend. I am scared of failure due to past failures. @@ -7872,7 +7872,7 @@ We have been together for 2 years, 1 year long distance, 1 year in the same plac If anyone has advice I'd really appreciate it. When you got married were you worried? I heard that if you aren't certain you shouldn't do it. But I'm not sure I will ever be certain.... with anyone. -*Edited to ad: therapy is not helping because my therapists attitude is not to stress so much about it. Apparently the only thing that is forever is kids. Which is complete bullshit and bad advice.",,7,itburnsss45,1685569275.0 +*Edited to ad: therapy is not helping because my therapists attitude is not to stress so much about it. Apparently the only thing that is forever is kids. Which is complete bullshit and bad advice.",,7,itburnsss45,2023-05-31 21:41:15 RedPillWomen,13x1s2r,"My(22f) boyfriend(26m) has told me he tells his parents when we 'have fun', I feel like my privacy is being taken away from me","Hi trpw. Here is the situation. My boyfriend is great in many ways. We've been together for 2/3 months. He's 26 and still a virgin, which I don't mind. We both do things together sexually, and have recently tried to have intercourse, but it didn't happen. We've both had a few issues- him with getting soft and me with pain down there when trying to get it up. My boyfriend's parents live abroad. He is very close to them however, and speaks with them most days. He has told me that they know absolutely everything about him, and he is very open with them. His father is coming from abroad to visit him tomorrow. He has told me that he is going to make sure that he talks about his sexual issue with him. I felt a little uncomfortable when he said this, and we had a longer discussion. He told me there would be nobody better to talk to about this than his dad, more than his best friend. @@ -7883,7 +7883,7 @@ Whenever we are together, he is often sends pictures of me to his family, and al He told me he would talk about issues around my health down there with his mother, as she used to be a nurse and again, his parents know everything. -All I'm asking is for my privacy, it's a dealbreaker for me. I know he definitely doesn't mean bad, he knew I didn't feel good about it, but I can't help it. What do you guys think, am I being reasonable?",,1,Red_rose49,1685575828.0 +All I'm asking is for my privacy, it's a dealbreaker for me. I know he definitely doesn't mean bad, he knew I didn't feel good about it, but I can't help it. What do you guys think, am I being reasonable?",,1,Red_rose49,2023-05-31 23:30:28 RedPillWomen,13vy00x,Let your captain lead,"I have been in the market for a new vehicle for a few months now, but have been busy saving up for a down payment. And since I'm close to my target downpayment, my husband and I went to look at vehicles this past weekend. We settled on one car, which will be the most expensive and luxurious car I have ever owned. I am frugal, so I wanted the base model, but my husband and I really liked the extras in the top tier one. My husband asked me if it had everything I wanted and I told him it did, but the price gave me pause since it would increase my monthly payment past what I wanted to pay per month. @@ -7892,14 +7892,14 @@ So we got out of the car, and went back into the dealership. When we sat down, I So what did my husband do? He chose the top tier option and I STFU and nodded in agreement without snark or complaints. We paid a holding fee, since the car we want has to be built still, and left. Then on the drive back home, my husband surprised me and told me he was going to give me 50% of my downpayment and pay for it to get special detailing so it's extra nice when I receive it.and since my downpayment is already 50% of the car, that's no chump change. I was elated. -The old me would've argued with him in the dealership and probably told him how much of a waste the extra couple of thousand dollars was for the top tier, etc. But by respecting my husband's judgement and place as my captain, especially out in public, it paid off for me in the long run. My husband is a capable man and knew that the costlier option was affordable to us and that it would make us both happier in the long run. And he found a solution to make me feel better about it as well.",,121,saddensgirl,1685471313.0 +The old me would've argued with him in the dealership and probably told him how much of a waste the extra couple of thousand dollars was for the top tier, etc. But by respecting my husband's judgement and place as my captain, especially out in public, it paid off for me in the long run. My husband is a capable man and knew that the costlier option was affordable to us and that it would make us both happier in the long run. And he found a solution to make me feel better about it as well.",,121,saddensgirl,2023-05-30 18:28:33 RedPillWomen,13urnby,how do i level up in terms of getting my career and school life together? i really need someone older than me to guide me,"Hi, I am twenty year old girl and I am in college at the moment. I have been learning about high value woman content for about a year now and I know that one of the important ways to level up is to becoming responsible financially so you're secure in yourself. -How did you ladies take control of your life financially and how did that work out for you? In other words, how did you save yourself instead of waiting for someone else to save you?",,15,[deleted],1685358071.0 -RedPillWomen,13uew78,Is it cheap to stop having premarital sex as a high body count woman?,I was thinking of becoming religious but ai don't want to scam anybody,,13,[deleted],1685317632.0 -RedPillWomen,13u66st,"Genuine question: what's so bad about ""modern women""?","I tend to see a lot of negativity towards ""modern women"" in red pill space's from both men and women. And as someone who is not involved in those spaces I'm genuinely curious as to what a ""modern women"" even is and why are they so bad? If I had to guess going off of everything I heard it's because they choose not live male centered lives but I might be wrong.",,34,AK-7-,1685295235.0 -RedPillWomen,13txt6h,Im in a leftist family,"First of all, sorry for my bad english, its not my first language. Im a 23 years old girl and Ive been raised in a leftist family. Since I was born I was brainwashed into this belief that the world was divided into ""good people"" (woke people) and ""bad people"" (republicans). But I recently realised that reality is more complicated than just that and that woke people arent as good as I was told. Fortunately, I got a boyfriend that thinks the same way I do, but his family is more supportive when he exposes his thoughts on politics. So he doesnt understands when I tell him my family will stop talking to me if they knew how I think. Sadly, the economy in my country is really bad so finding a job or moving out is not easy (even if I graduated in college). My boyfriend says I must tell them the truth even if it means I wont see them again but I dont wanna do things that way. I feel like no one understands me and I feel really lonely. What should I do?",,14,Negative_Ad1344,1685272122.0 -RedPillWomen,13tsssc,How to express disappointment properly (without nagging etc)?,"My boyfriend and I (24m, 24f, 10 months) rarely have issues but I’ve realized that when something does come up I have trouble not going to the automatic nagging or whiny route. I want to learn how to express my disappointment or address an issue without being shrill, naggy etc. I want to address it femininely and appropriately. Anyone have any tips or dialogue they divert to??",,11,vinesandflowers,1685253515.0 +How did you ladies take control of your life financially and how did that work out for you? In other words, how did you save yourself instead of waiting for someone else to save you?",,15,[deleted],2023-05-29 11:01:11 +RedPillWomen,13uew78,Is it cheap to stop having premarital sex as a high body count woman?,I was thinking of becoming religious but ai don't want to scam anybody,,13,[deleted],2023-05-28 23:47:12 +RedPillWomen,13u66st,"Genuine question: what's so bad about ""modern women""?","I tend to see a lot of negativity towards ""modern women"" in red pill space's from both men and women. And as someone who is not involved in those spaces I'm genuinely curious as to what a ""modern women"" even is and why are they so bad? If I had to guess going off of everything I heard it's because they choose not live male centered lives but I might be wrong.",,34,AK-7-,2023-05-28 17:33:55 +RedPillWomen,13txt6h,Im in a leftist family,"First of all, sorry for my bad english, its not my first language. Im a 23 years old girl and Ive been raised in a leftist family. Since I was born I was brainwashed into this belief that the world was divided into ""good people"" (woke people) and ""bad people"" (republicans). But I recently realised that reality is more complicated than just that and that woke people arent as good as I was told. Fortunately, I got a boyfriend that thinks the same way I do, but his family is more supportive when he exposes his thoughts on politics. So he doesnt understands when I tell him my family will stop talking to me if they knew how I think. Sadly, the economy in my country is really bad so finding a job or moving out is not easy (even if I graduated in college). My boyfriend says I must tell them the truth even if it means I wont see them again but I dont wanna do things that way. I feel like no one understands me and I feel really lonely. What should I do?",,14,Negative_Ad1344,2023-05-28 11:08:42 +RedPillWomen,13tsssc,How to express disappointment properly (without nagging etc)?,"My boyfriend and I (24m, 24f, 10 months) rarely have issues but I’ve realized that when something does come up I have trouble not going to the automatic nagging or whiny route. I want to learn how to express my disappointment or address an issue without being shrill, naggy etc. I want to address it femininely and appropriately. Anyone have any tips or dialogue they divert to??",,11,vinesandflowers,2023-05-28 05:58:35 RedPillWomen,13tz1qv,How to deal with husband's addiction with wasting time and playing games.," @@ -7922,27 +7922,27 @@ It's not that he's always doing it, but when he does he just won't stop and exam I've been grumpy too. I don't know if I'm wrong or just making a mountain out of rye. But we're expecting a baby and I want him to be mature. -tl;dr: couldn't put every detail, that would be long but I really need help. It has strained our relationship. And that's bothering me the most. But how can I just overlook the reality.",,3,False_Process_2473,1685276152.0 +tl;dr: couldn't put every detail, that would be long but I really need help. It has strained our relationship. And that's bothering me the most. But how can I just overlook the reality.",,3,False_Process_2473,2023-05-28 12:15:52 RedPillWomen,13sy6pj,My relationship with my FNF obsessed boyfriend,"My 3.5 year relationship has gone downhill since my significant other has started watching & following the FNF podcast. I personally think there’s a lot of beneficial content of self improvement for men, I mean I like that my partner is becoming more masculine. (I can say I believe we have similar beliefs since we were both raised by traditional Mexican families) I think the problem here is he is trying to apply what he hears but is not doing so effectively in the relationship aspect. The thing I have an issue with is that I often hear him saying very spiteful things about women. In any relationship scenario he hears, he puts the blame on women before even having enough context. It bothers me so much because he has become a disrespectful a-hole and he has been invalidating my feelings, he has began to play mind games and his words & actions make me feel unloved. He agrees with the concept of polygamy for men and men only. But at the same time he is in a monogamous relationship with me (makes me feel like he might cheat on me) hurts my self esteem -Every time I try to tell him what bothers me, or when I ask him to stop doing certain things he says im masculine for trying to tell him what to do, he needs his freedom, and I am not marriage material (this particular comment bothers me a lot) I don’t know what to do. Any advice?",,34,tiredoftbs,1685162687.0 +Every time I try to tell him what bothers me, or when I ask him to stop doing certain things he says im masculine for trying to tell him what to do, he needs his freedom, and I am not marriage material (this particular comment bothers me a lot) I don’t know what to do. Any advice?",,34,tiredoftbs,2023-05-27 04:44:47 RedPillWomen,13r49eu,How do I move more gracefully?,"I feel like I barely know how to inhabit my body. I used to be extremely shy and insecure as a preteen/teen and would use my body language to minimize my chances of being noticed by anyone as much as possible, and a lot of these habits seem permanently ingrained in my mannerisms, like walking quickly and stiffly so no one would watch me, keeping my head down to avoid eye contact, keeping my shoulders rolled in, etc. I also didn't really do many physical activities for a long time other than musical theater, so I think I missed out on a lot of the brain/body connection that other people develop in their youth. I often receive comments or jokes and outright laughs from my friends and family and even coworkers about looking uncomfortable or awkward or ridiculous in how I move, and it actually really... *really* freaking hurts my feelings. I know I lack grace to a certain extent but for it to constantly be pointed out or used as a punchline makes me feel extremely unattractive and inferior. Because I'm tired of hearing this, I've tried to become a little more present in my body by getting in some physical activity (jogging, the gym, and recently a pole dancing class) and remaining aware of how I move and hold myself in day-to-day life, but someone close to me once again made a joke about how I was doing a popular dance move today and I'm just so sick of it. I feel like grace and fluid movement is a very feminine characteristic and I also feel like less of a woman for lacking it (without rigorous rehearsal and self-correction, something nobody else I know seems to need.) -I'm sure many of you will say with the best intentions ""awkward women can still be feminine!"" but I just don't want that to be me anymore! How do I become more graceful and poised and move more elegantly and fluidly? Does anyone have any resources or recommendations?",,17,[deleted],1684978471.0 +I'm sure many of you will say with the best intentions ""awkward women can still be feminine!"" but I just don't want that to be me anymore! How do I become more graceful and poised and move more elegantly and fluidly? Does anyone have any resources or recommendations?",,17,[deleted],2023-05-25 01:34:31 RedPillWomen,13qzz18,Less affection from boyfriend,"20F with 25M, about 2 months into the relationship, all of our values align and he is really great, only issue is he lives in another city (2 hours from mine) but he makes great effort to come see me, he doesnt work a 9-5 but has online business so he doesnt really have to take a vacation to see me. The problem is, about 1.5 weeks ago he has started replying to my messages slower, and sometimes I could write him for example 3 sentences with him replying with like two words. This is also when he has started having some issues with his business. Before this he has started to work during the night, so he wakes up at like 5pm...and we barely talk. So I do think the reason for his half-assed messaging is his business but I can't help but also feel like he is losing attraction but I feel like it's my insecurity speaking when I think that way and I'm honestly unsure. What prompted me to write this post is that I was planning to visit him over the weekend, and could go (by bus) late at night (almost midnight) on friday which I have no problem, except that I remember I am at a risk since I'm a woman. I honestly doubt anything would happen to me but I think you understand why I have that thought. So I jokingly said to him, ""do you think there will be creeps on that bus?"" and he just said ""idk if its a bother go on saturday"", I got the feeling that it's whatever to him whether I'm safe or not... It's always him making an effort to come see me and he spends a lot of money on me when he comes, so I really wanted it to be me coming to his place. Feeling hurt by his words I just said ""wow feeling rly talkative"" and he just replied with a thanks. I know it was wrong to say this but combined with almost no talking threw me off, I acted impulsively and instantly regret it. -Honestly I don't really know what advice I'm asking for here, any advice is welcome. I keep myself busy since I'm studying so I try not to think about this but I still get so sad. I find myself reading our old messages on the verge of tears. I don't find him to be enthusiastic at all about me coming now.",,18,ygfam,1684967375.0 +Honestly I don't really know what advice I'm asking for here, any advice is welcome. I keep myself busy since I'm studying so I try not to think about this but I still get so sad. I find myself reading our old messages on the verge of tears. I don't find him to be enthusiastic at all about me coming now.",,18,ygfam,2023-05-24 22:29:35 RedPillWomen,13qk1q9,"Feeling guilt, what would you do?","I feel very embarrassed writing this out. My ex and I have been back and forth for the last year and a half. We broke up because I found him emotionally cheating on me when we were in a dark time in our relationship. To make a long story short, we have a business together & I was stressed out by it. Stressed to the point where he hated being around me. He didn’t even want to do anything for the business at the time & he says his emotional needs were not being met - so he had an emotional affair. When I found this out I was devastated. I felt like I was trying to have our business stay afloat while he was off talking with some girl. Well, we broke up. I started seeing someone else. This led to me & this new guy getting close, one thing led to another and we’re seeing each other regularly. We never had s*x but I had performed oral. @@ -7959,7 +7959,7 @@ Yes I know my ex had s*x with the other girls, he says it’s different when you Now I just feel guilty. I feel like because of what I did, and I don’t see a point in telling him, that I shouldn’t even try to ever get with my ex again. Of course I don’t really want to again because he calls me names & my body sometimes rejects him. -I guess what Im saying here is what would you do?",,0,Original-Pineapple58,1684930889.0 +I guess what Im saying here is what would you do?",,0,Original-Pineapple58,2023-05-24 12:21:29 RedPillWomen,13q48vi,Is it possible to effectively bridge major political/religious difference?,"Hi all! @@ -7977,7 +7977,7 @@ He's shown interest in committing even though we haven't been talking for very l Should we just avoid sensitive topics that we disagree on? How can I discuss one of these topics while remaining feminine and submissive to him? -I'd appreciate any advice or insight yall have to offer!",,6,templilwitch,1684883940.0 +I'd appreciate any advice or insight yall have to offer!",,6,templilwitch,2023-05-23 23:19:00 RedPillWomen,13q16ra,trustworthy weightlifting youtuber (no e-girls),"Hello, I like lifting weights and try my best to have strictly good form. I am struggling to find a fitness youtuber that actually knows what they are talking about (and also don't dress super promiscuously\*). I have background as a runner and so often use J[ames Dunne](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCEBjuHm_Z6hz8Q6C_dm8bSg). I find him knowledgeable and trustworthy. I would like someone who is more focused on weightlifting and hypertrophy, though. Any recommendations? @@ -7988,7 +7988,7 @@ I am hoping that other girls (or men!) here who do weightlifting will be able to Thank you! -\*I am a bit of a prude in that I don't like seeing strangers of either sex super naked or in skintight clothing. It just makes me uncomfortable.",,6,leibesleid,1684876841.0 +\*I am a bit of a prude in that I don't like seeing strangers of either sex super naked or in skintight clothing. It just makes me uncomfortable.",,6,leibesleid,2023-05-23 21:20:41 RedPillWomen,13pj4bo,"True Change is Only Possible When You Are Calm - First, Find What Makes You Calm.","Hi all! This post is more like a reminder for myself... I hope this can help anyone, especially people who are looking to uplift themselves while in a relationship. I find it really important to know when how to elevate myself, which in turn elevates my relationship, which is a part of myself. My psychologist has said: ""Elevating yourself improves your relationship, which is a part of yourself."" Yes, there are times when I put my partner first, but finding the balance is important - whether the relationship is RP or not. This is tricky to do, because in times of difficulty I find myself low in self-belief and turn to my partner with an expectation that he can ""fix"" it for me again. Rarely he does, but mostly he gets upset - ""You are usually so confident! Where has your self-belief gone? I love it when you love yourself. I want 'you' back."" Has anyone heard these words before? @@ -8008,7 +8008,7 @@ My plan for this next 'boyfriend busy period' goes as follows: \- I scheduled meeting friends throughout the month. We will do fun and stress-relieving activities. I deserve this! \- I myself will be busy with academic work. -However, in order to stick to the plan, I must *first* be calm. If I am having too much anxieties it's easy for me to effortlessly reach out to my bf, which is what I am trying to avoid in times he is sensitive. What calms me down is journaling, exercising, planning, writing music, cleaning my apartment, making lists, talking with the therapist. I will utilize these options if I feel myself uncalm.",,40,flower_power_g1rl,1684833037.0 +However, in order to stick to the plan, I must *first* be calm. If I am having too much anxieties it's easy for me to effortlessly reach out to my bf, which is what I am trying to avoid in times he is sensitive. What calms me down is journaling, exercising, planning, writing music, cleaning my apartment, making lists, talking with the therapist. I will utilize these options if I feel myself uncalm.",,40,flower_power_g1rl,2023-05-23 09:10:37 RedPillWomen,13pprd4,What does self improvement look like for you?,"I see a lot of posts on the men's RP side of reddit about self-improvement. It seems a lot of their goals are uniform: stronger body, better at leading, more self-confidence etc. On the other hand, I believe that being a woman, especially in the modern day, means we have are allowed much more variety in how we choose to express or improve ourselves. And so when I think of the women around me, I cannot find one model of self-improvement that may fit all. Some women must learn to be more accepting of their flaws, others less so. Some should work harder, some should take more breaks. Some should learn to be more assertive, others should learn to be more accepting. What about you? &#x200B; @@ -8039,9 +8039,9 @@ The fruits so far have been: Would any other lady like to share what self-improvement has been looking like for her recently? -&#x200B;",,14,flower_power_g1rl,1684851192.0 +&#x200B;",,14,flower_power_g1rl,2023-05-23 14:13:12 RedPillWomen,13olo97,NSFW: sex is unbearable for me (F18) to the point where i feel so weak and i can’t satisfy my partner (M20)," -I (F18) have been dating my (M20) boyfriend for almost a year. He’s my first sexual partner and we see each other once or twice a month on weekends where we have sex throughout the weekend. the “first” sex when we meet moderately hurts and it last for almost an hour. after a few hours or the next day, when he tries to insert, it’s unbearable, it burns, and painful where he has to pull out and can’t continue . i feel like i can’t satisfy him as he has a high sex drive. we both have no illnesses and he’s a below-average size. we tried everything like foreplay and lube. what do i do?? do i go to the gyno",,27,Longjumping-Law-4457,1684746964.0 +I (F18) have been dating my (M20) boyfriend for almost a year. He’s my first sexual partner and we see each other once or twice a month on weekends where we have sex throughout the weekend. the “first” sex when we meet moderately hurts and it last for almost an hour. after a few hours or the next day, when he tries to insert, it’s unbearable, it burns, and painful where he has to pull out and can’t continue . i feel like i can’t satisfy him as he has a high sex drive. we both have no illnesses and he’s a below-average size. we tried everything like foreplay and lube. what do i do?? do i go to the gyno",,27,Longjumping-Law-4457,2023-05-22 09:16:04 RedPillWomen,13ofz6c,18 years old. I’m terrified and hold so much resentment against men and I don’t know what to do. Need urgent help.,"Hi. First of all I’d like to say that I don’t hate all men. I know a lot of men are nice. Most of my friends are men, we play games together and hangout and I wish them the absolute best. I love my father and have an amazing relationship with him. @@ -8057,7 +8057,7 @@ I was also really private with the boys I found remotely cute, because I knew I The first time I fell in love was in 2021, with a boy from my group of friends. I just was drowning in that feeling. I told him how I felt after some months, said that I just wanted to get that information out of my chest. He rejected me, which I understand completely because nobody owes me anything, nobody owes me love. But he told the other boys. And I became the joke of the century. They found it so funny of me to think that I had a chance with the guy. It was insane to them that I wanted to be desired for once. And I was so stupid that on his birthday, I organized a surprise party and when he showed up, he rejected my gift, threw the cake in the garbage can and said that he hated surprises and I was embarrassing myself. Everyone was there, all of my friends, and he refused to even sit with us and have a chat. I don’t even remember how I managed to not cry. I bought him some expensive t-shirts and I use them as pijamas to this day lol. Even when he screamed, no one defended me. -Now I have this huge amount of anger I can’t get rid of. I find myself unlovable. I told my parents I’ll probably never gonna get married and that i’m considering celibate. When I say I am a virgin, or that I never had my first kiss, or that I don’t know that a romantic interaction feels like, people act shocked. I feel so out of place and abnormal. So disgusting. I can’t trust men. I have never felt SEXUAL DESIRE. If I think about couples, I bawl, or get super mad and frustrated. When i’m out in the park or the mall, I get angry looking at couples and when boys my age are around My body reacts as if they are all a threat. I’m terrified of boys. I can’t believe in true love and commitment. I dream at least once a week that I’m always the bridesmaid in a wedding, but never the bride. I despise romance movies. I can’t read romance books anymore. I resent boys in a way that, even if one of them told me they wanted me, I wouldn’t believe. I would check if they were joking and mocking me. I can’t help but feel this way. I need urgent advice and help.",,32,86MADMAX,1684728569.0 +Now I have this huge amount of anger I can’t get rid of. I find myself unlovable. I told my parents I’ll probably never gonna get married and that i’m considering celibate. When I say I am a virgin, or that I never had my first kiss, or that I don’t know that a romantic interaction feels like, people act shocked. I feel so out of place and abnormal. So disgusting. I can’t trust men. I have never felt SEXUAL DESIRE. If I think about couples, I bawl, or get super mad and frustrated. When i’m out in the park or the mall, I get angry looking at couples and when boys my age are around My body reacts as if they are all a threat. I’m terrified of boys. I can’t believe in true love and commitment. I dream at least once a week that I’m always the bridesmaid in a wedding, but never the bride. I despise romance movies. I can’t read romance books anymore. I resent boys in a way that, even if one of them told me they wanted me, I wouldn’t believe. I would check if they were joking and mocking me. I can’t help but feel this way. I need urgent advice and help.",,32,86MADMAX,2023-05-22 04:09:29 RedPillWomen,13muf4u,Men: An Appreciation Post,"Hello RPW! I’ve been seeing a lot of posts lately from ladies struggling with their view of men, RP theory, and individual men in their lives. It got me thinking of all the ways I’m grateful for my man, and men in general. Note: This is my first time posting from this account (made a new one for pregnancy-related stuff) @@ -8082,7 +8082,7 @@ There’s honestly so much more - I could go on for hours about how lucky I am t For those ladies that are struggling - don’t give up! Keep focusing and working on yourself. There are plenty of good, strong, loyal men out there. -And to the traditional men - thank you for staying steady in a misguided modern culture.",,103,dropdeadgorgon,1684592195.0 +And to the traditional men - thank you for staying steady in a misguided modern culture.",,103,dropdeadgorgon,2023-05-20 14:16:35 RedPillWomen,13oeys3,How can I (25F) emotionally seduce him (30M) to get what I want,"We’ve known each other for 5 years went to college together and have a 2 year old together. He went through some mental health issues that went untreated at which time we separated but he and his family kept me updated with his medication and therapy etc. and when he started getting help he resumed supporting us financially with the major bills and even kept our baby at his place a couple days a week long story short he is back in his career and thriving and he brought up in conversation one day while we were at an art festival that he is considering moving forward with marriage. He also told me he is moving in August and wants us to live together @@ -8104,21 +8104,21 @@ His emotions are involved, he’s written me love poems, and everything. But what can I do to make him MORE confident, more emotional, without convincing him or making him feel like it’s not his idea? -Thank you lovelies",,0,itsdolcekay,1684725648.0 +Thank you lovelies",,0,itsdolcekay,2023-05-22 03:20:48 RedPillWomen,13m80da,Seeing a guy for 3 months without commitment. Should I break up with him?,"I've been seeing a guy for 3 months with no commitment, and probably none in sight. I won't get into why that is but let's say I imagine a lot of it is my fault. I am not a woman worth committing to. That said, he is an alpha male and probably the best I can land so I kind of want to keep seeing him. I am 25 and I know I need to stop sleeping with him and start genuinely dating to find a husband but I genuinely have no value to bring and what's the point if it's just gonna be some beta who I'm gonna get even fatter around and divorce anyway? -I know I need to break up with him I just don't want to. And it's hard to accept that most other guys are going to be lower quality. It's hard to accept that I'm ugly and fat and masculine and that it's going to take time and effort years of time and effort to correct these things and I have less than two years to find the right guy.",,2,[deleted],1684530967.0 +I know I need to break up with him I just don't want to. And it's hard to accept that most other guys are going to be lower quality. It's hard to accept that I'm ugly and fat and masculine and that it's going to take time and effort years of time and effort to correct these things and I have less than two years to find the right guy.",,2,[deleted],2023-05-19 21:16:07 RedPillWomen,13l1ibf,Placeholder VS Dream Girl,"Know the difference and where you stand, ladies. Really take some time to consider if you are his dream girl or just a placeholder for him to find his dream girl. Men are just as romantic as women if not more. They are willing to do anything for the woman they love. If his dream woman comes into his life he is willing to do anything for her. There won’t be any hesitation or fear of commitment, he won’t keep you waiting. If you are his dream girl he will do anything to get you to be his. You should never have to feel like you have to earn him, he should come to you, and you to him. And if you and him enter into a relationship, always keep an eye out for signs whether he truly loves you or he sees you as temporary. It is OK to test your man, in fact it should be encouraged. By this I mean to use every conflict in your relationship as an opportunity to see his mannerisms. See how far he would go for you. Observe his temper and how he handles stressful situations with you. Does he take you into consideration when making hard choices? Does he make you feel heard and validated? Does he make you feel provided for and protected? Only provide him with respect and comfort if he provides you with his loyalty. -I am tired of seeing posts in dating subs complaining about how women feel pressured by their man to change. How their man prefers blondes or athletic girls and how they feel they can’t match it. If you follow the RPW mindset then you’re already undergoing all the right steps to make your man the happiest they can be in a relationship, and if he is making you feel like you’re unsatisfactory then you’re probably not the one he’s looking for. A man should never make you feel that way, know the difference if you’re his dream girl or just a stepping stone for him to reach one closer to it.",,104,buttermiIk,1684422220.0 +I am tired of seeing posts in dating subs complaining about how women feel pressured by their man to change. How their man prefers blondes or athletic girls and how they feel they can’t match it. If you follow the RPW mindset then you’re already undergoing all the right steps to make your man the happiest they can be in a relationship, and if he is making you feel like you’re unsatisfactory then you’re probably not the one he’s looking for. A man should never make you feel that way, know the difference if you’re his dream girl or just a stepping stone for him to reach one closer to it.",,104,buttermiIk,2023-05-18 15:03:40 RedPillWomen,13l195v,Is this true?,"My friend (she is a girl) said - ""A guy who will love you, will love you for from day one. And the guy who won't love you from day 1 won't ever love you.""",,21,GreenProfessional515,1684421601.0 -RedPillWomen,13kma2b,Liberal men vs conservative women,"I’ve had this theory that many men who say they are liberal would easily change viewpoints if dating a conservative woman (pro-gun, pro-life, anti-left wing). I think deep down men agree with right wing beliefs and pretend to support liberal left wing ideas because they hope to get laid, and don’t have to be responsible for any consequences.",,24,Clear_Round5553,1684377998.0 + ""A guy who will love you, will love you for from day one. And the guy who won't love you from day 1 won't ever love you.""",,21,GreenProfessional515,2023-05-18 14:53:21 +RedPillWomen,13kma2b,Liberal men vs conservative women,"I’ve had this theory that many men who say they are liberal would easily change viewpoints if dating a conservative woman (pro-gun, pro-life, anti-left wing). I think deep down men agree with right wing beliefs and pretend to support liberal left wing ideas because they hope to get laid, and don’t have to be responsible for any consequences.",,24,Clear_Round5553,2023-05-18 02:46:38 RedPillWomen,13kenku,I need some advice on how to deal with uncomfortable situations,"I grew up in an abusive family, which is why I’m not close to them now and maintain low contact. When my SO and I started dating about 3.5 years ago (my first relationship), I met his family around the 1 year mark but he only met mine around the 3 year mark (my family lives in a different country). I was upfront with him about my family from the beginning and it was something both of us decided together. I didn’t see any reason to tell his family any details, but they seem to have made some assumptions, a major one being that my family disapproves of my SO because he’s a different ethnicity than I am. When we mentioned that my family would be visiting me for the first time in years and hence meeting my SO for the first time in-person (there have been virtual meetings very infrequently before) my FIL immediately started joking about how my family is coming out here to “beat up” and “kill” my guy. He brought up some stereotypes about the race my parents and I are. Then, every time we talked to him after, he’d ask about my parents’ upcoming visit and then wish my SO “good luck” and reiterate that they were gonna beat him up. @@ -8127,17 +8127,17 @@ Throughout my parents’ visit here and even after they left, he has continued m I told my SO that I was uncomfortable with these jokes being repeated over and over again, and that they’re going off pure assumptions based on race/culture. I admit that I’ve been private about my family and only mentioned surface-level info, but that’s how it is. I also admit that we didn’t have anything gushingly positive to say about my family, but neither of us has publicly criticized them either. -I’ve kept quiet thinking that FIL just cares about his son, but he’s never voiced any concern openly without being snarky. This is really getting to me, making me feel awkward, uncomfortable and “other-ed” as I’m the only non-Caucasian at these events and nobody else gets these jokes. I don’t even like my family but I feel guilty that I’m not “defending” them. Dignified silence, directly refuting the jokes (politely), deflection or changing the subject hasn’t worked; FIL doesn’t get the hint. I also find it difficult to be confrontational and “impolite”. There’ve been other situations with FIL where I’ve felt similarly. I’m questioning if I’m making a big deal out of this for no reason (I was called “over-sensitive” growing up). Please let me know your thoughts and if you have advice for me. Thank you.",,4,Unoriginalname003,1684358855.0 +I’ve kept quiet thinking that FIL just cares about his son, but he’s never voiced any concern openly without being snarky. This is really getting to me, making me feel awkward, uncomfortable and “other-ed” as I’m the only non-Caucasian at these events and nobody else gets these jokes. I don’t even like my family but I feel guilty that I’m not “defending” them. Dignified silence, directly refuting the jokes (politely), deflection or changing the subject hasn’t worked; FIL doesn’t get the hint. I also find it difficult to be confrontational and “impolite”. There’ve been other situations with FIL where I’ve felt similarly. I’m questioning if I’m making a big deal out of this for no reason (I was called “over-sensitive” growing up). Please let me know your thoughts and if you have advice for me. Thank you.",,4,Unoriginalname003,2023-05-17 21:27:35 RedPillWomen,13kc2fv,Classy casual style advice?,"Hi ladies! I've been working on my wardrobe for the warmer seasons and struggling a little bit because a lot of my clothing is stuff that I either don't feel comfortable wearing in everyday situations because it's more revealing (tube tops and yoga pants) or that I just don't feel very presentable in (sweatpants/shirts). A lot of the style inspiration I collect from social media is also kind of within one extreme or the other in terms of modesty and versatility. I'm not an incredibly modest person myself and follow the general American social norms of dress, such as exposed upper arms being no big deal, but I prefer to keep the revealing to a minimum and focus on one area at a time -- ie, a scoop neck top with a long skirt. I also just personally \*cannot\* feel at ease in crop tops. &#x200B; -I was hoping some of you could suggest some of your go-to outfit combinations for the spring and summer times that are feminine and flattering but would also be appropriate to wear to the library or while visiting your aunt and uncle. Much appreciated!",,2,[deleted],1684352935.0 +I was hoping some of you could suggest some of your go-to outfit combinations for the spring and summer times that are feminine and flattering but would also be appropriate to wear to the library or while visiting your aunt and uncle. Much appreciated!",,2,[deleted],2023-05-17 19:48:55 RedPillWomen,13jewle,Nice things to do,"What are things I can do for my bf besides sex and cooking? We are waiting till marriage -We both still live at home (22m23f)",,15,Double-Take6709,1684265780.0 -RedPillWomen,13iug7d,I'm stuck in a short term relationship and I'm so depressed,"Every day I am so sad. I have been with my boyfriend for about 10 months now. We started as an agreed upon short term relationship. Not fwb, but actual like boyfriend girlfriend stuff. This started because we both live in a remote area and both haven't had a lot of relationship experience- we're each other's second boyfriend and girlfriend. I have a very specific type of man I like, which is rare, and he fulfills that. This trait isn't commonly seen as attractive in men. We decided screw it, we are both 25 and just want the experience of being with somebody, having somebody to be with and sleep next to again. We are not long term compatible. He's always wanted more with me. He wants me to be his girlfriend for life. I am the one holding back because I see our fundamental incompatibility. However, I was too weak to be alone. I live with an elder family member. My boyfriend's mom is pretty unstable and he refers to her as his abuser, and she's been physically abusive to him by hitting his ears before, but none outside of that that I know of. I see what he's talking about, but I haven't seen so bad of a side of her yet, and honesly, she never started having issues with me until I started doing disrespectful and irresponsible things around the house that I'm embarrassed of. She kicks me out one day and boyfriend asks if he can move in with me, since he has been tired of his mom his whole life anyways and the whole point of this relationship was to not be lonely. He's been wanting to move out bad and she's been a helicopter mom preventing him from doing that. He tried moving out the January before we met (we met in July of last year) and she intervened with that and prevented it. I ask my family member, also unstable, but has matured significantly in the past couple of years, and she says yes he can live here. He's here now, and I'm glad that if he moves out now at least he can do it peacefully and thoroughly and not have to do it while living with his mother, who would have stalked him just like before. When he first moved here, she stalked us for weeks coming up in her car and parking on random spots on the street and watching us from afar, for God knows what. She's come over uninvited, and we never gave her the address. We live in a small town, so she drove over to our town and drove past every single house (our population is like 5,000) to find where he car was parked, that's how she found out our address. She showed up to his work, where she used to work with him as well until she used up all her unpaid time and the system automatically fired her, and tried to chase him down one day in the semi private parking lot where only employees are to be (note, it's a warehouse, so there IS no public part of it, so she was kind of trespassing, and abusing the fact that she knew how to get in there and stuff since it was her previous place of work. He goes into work one day few weeks after we move in together and she yells to him, ""where do you think you're going"" and physically chases him and tries to grab him. His managers are concerned and send him to HR. Thanks to her, they now have new security measures set in place in the parking lot. When he met with HR that day, they advise him to cut contact which he wanted to do anyways. He's with a police officer there and the police officer helps him phrase a text to her to make sure that she can't contact him without him being able to get her into legal trouble. We're in a bunch of debt from eating out because my family member is very strange about who can use the kitchen and stuff. She now seems remorseful, but that doesn't help now, after we've already landed debt. We also keep accumulating debt because we both have bad coping skills, you know how I said we're incompatible? It's because we're both too sensitive. So being around him only depresses me. And then when I'm depressed I act in ways that stress him. And then when he's stressed I wanna die because I can't take being around his sad ass energy. I found out he was submissive the 3rd day together and at that point I knew I fucked up but was too weak and wanted to be with somebody to walk away. I didn't feel any chemistry on the first day, but that solidified it. So, when he's stressing about our stuff we have going on, he's always grumbling or something, UNDERSTANDABLY, I'm not heartless, I know he has good reason to be stressed, but he is even more sulky and mopey than ME, and I am the QUEEN of sulking and moping, so thats really bad. It depresses me when he cant just chill out. I'm not saying it in a heartless I just want him to not be effected way. I mean when I try to bring a positive light to a situation and tell him that hey we can be stressed and still try to be in the moment, he can NOT do that, and that's one of my few positive mental traits, and I'm so heartbroken that's being ripped from me and shat on. I'm at a loss for what to do. My whole family keeps telling me not to let him go, just because they seem him buying shit for me (moreso in the beginning since we're broke now, but they seem him working hard and just sleeping all day when he's not at work and being shy and quiet), which I disagree with, but I feel gaslit. This is incoherent and all over the place but I just needed to start getting things out. I was gonna get back to one of my points about still accumulating debt. So since we both have bad coping skills, when we stress each other out I go into flight mode and beg him for starbucks, bad, I know. I'm not just trying to use him but it is my ojpy way of coping when I try to ease tension between us and he just gets more mad at me",,0,patisseriepresents,1684209842.0 -RedPillWomen,13hv5w3,thoughts on TheWizardLiz?,i have been trying to find videos to heal and learn from. does anyone recommend TheWizardLiz from Youtube? what are other female creators that i should watch/follow?,,15,hadyayasmin,1684118359.0 +We both still live at home (22m23f)",,15,Double-Take6709,2023-05-16 19:36:20 +RedPillWomen,13iug7d,I'm stuck in a short term relationship and I'm so depressed,"Every day I am so sad. I have been with my boyfriend for about 10 months now. We started as an agreed upon short term relationship. Not fwb, but actual like boyfriend girlfriend stuff. This started because we both live in a remote area and both haven't had a lot of relationship experience- we're each other's second boyfriend and girlfriend. I have a very specific type of man I like, which is rare, and he fulfills that. This trait isn't commonly seen as attractive in men. We decided screw it, we are both 25 and just want the experience of being with somebody, having somebody to be with and sleep next to again. We are not long term compatible. He's always wanted more with me. He wants me to be his girlfriend for life. I am the one holding back because I see our fundamental incompatibility. However, I was too weak to be alone. I live with an elder family member. My boyfriend's mom is pretty unstable and he refers to her as his abuser, and she's been physically abusive to him by hitting his ears before, but none outside of that that I know of. I see what he's talking about, but I haven't seen so bad of a side of her yet, and honesly, she never started having issues with me until I started doing disrespectful and irresponsible things around the house that I'm embarrassed of. She kicks me out one day and boyfriend asks if he can move in with me, since he has been tired of his mom his whole life anyways and the whole point of this relationship was to not be lonely. He's been wanting to move out bad and she's been a helicopter mom preventing him from doing that. He tried moving out the January before we met (we met in July of last year) and she intervened with that and prevented it. I ask my family member, also unstable, but has matured significantly in the past couple of years, and she says yes he can live here. He's here now, and I'm glad that if he moves out now at least he can do it peacefully and thoroughly and not have to do it while living with his mother, who would have stalked him just like before. When he first moved here, she stalked us for weeks coming up in her car and parking on random spots on the street and watching us from afar, for God knows what. She's come over uninvited, and we never gave her the address. We live in a small town, so she drove over to our town and drove past every single house (our population is like 5,000) to find where he car was parked, that's how she found out our address. She showed up to his work, where she used to work with him as well until she used up all her unpaid time and the system automatically fired her, and tried to chase him down one day in the semi private parking lot where only employees are to be (note, it's a warehouse, so there IS no public part of it, so she was kind of trespassing, and abusing the fact that she knew how to get in there and stuff since it was her previous place of work. He goes into work one day few weeks after we move in together and she yells to him, ""where do you think you're going"" and physically chases him and tries to grab him. His managers are concerned and send him to HR. Thanks to her, they now have new security measures set in place in the parking lot. When he met with HR that day, they advise him to cut contact which he wanted to do anyways. He's with a police officer there and the police officer helps him phrase a text to her to make sure that she can't contact him without him being able to get her into legal trouble. We're in a bunch of debt from eating out because my family member is very strange about who can use the kitchen and stuff. She now seems remorseful, but that doesn't help now, after we've already landed debt. We also keep accumulating debt because we both have bad coping skills, you know how I said we're incompatible? It's because we're both too sensitive. So being around him only depresses me. And then when I'm depressed I act in ways that stress him. And then when he's stressed I wanna die because I can't take being around his sad ass energy. I found out he was submissive the 3rd day together and at that point I knew I fucked up but was too weak and wanted to be with somebody to walk away. I didn't feel any chemistry on the first day, but that solidified it. So, when he's stressing about our stuff we have going on, he's always grumbling or something, UNDERSTANDABLY, I'm not heartless, I know he has good reason to be stressed, but he is even more sulky and mopey than ME, and I am the QUEEN of sulking and moping, so thats really bad. It depresses me when he cant just chill out. I'm not saying it in a heartless I just want him to not be effected way. I mean when I try to bring a positive light to a situation and tell him that hey we can be stressed and still try to be in the moment, he can NOT do that, and that's one of my few positive mental traits, and I'm so heartbroken that's being ripped from me and shat on. I'm at a loss for what to do. My whole family keeps telling me not to let him go, just because they seem him buying shit for me (moreso in the beginning since we're broke now, but they seem him working hard and just sleeping all day when he's not at work and being shy and quiet), which I disagree with, but I feel gaslit. This is incoherent and all over the place but I just needed to start getting things out. I was gonna get back to one of my points about still accumulating debt. So since we both have bad coping skills, when we stress each other out I go into flight mode and beg him for starbucks, bad, I know. I'm not just trying to use him but it is my ojpy way of coping when I try to ease tension between us and he just gets more mad at me",,0,patisseriepresents,2023-05-16 04:04:02 +RedPillWomen,13hv5w3,thoughts on TheWizardLiz?,i have been trying to find videos to heal and learn from. does anyone recommend TheWizardLiz from Youtube? what are other female creators that i should watch/follow?,,15,hadyayasmin,2023-05-15 02:39:19 RedPillWomen,13hn0ag,Questions about Looking for HVM in Person,"Sorry if this has been asked to death. I, 31F, just met the closest thing to a HVM in my online dating experience. On paper he is everything I’m looking for. He’s older, 57. Established, owns his own business, and is successful. He has an excellent personality from what I’ve seen so far we’ve talked for hours most nights in the few weeks since we’ve connected. He expressed that he is looking to remarry, divorced in 2016 after 20 years of marriage. No kids. @@ -8148,10 +8148,10 @@ I’ve so thoroughly enjoyed chatting with him that I feel reinvigorated in my s My plan is to attend events and go to bars where I think my type of men visit often. Is this typically what others do in my situation? -When Ive done this in the past, what always happens is I get approached by men that are not my type who monopolize my time and make me appear unapproachable. Even when I politely turn them down they stay in my vicinity and make things awkward. What advice or strategies do you ladies have for this?",,0,nyvara,1684097465.0 +When Ive done this in the past, what always happens is I get approached by men that are not my type who monopolize my time and make me appear unapproachable. Even when I politely turn them down they stay in my vicinity and make things awkward. What advice or strategies do you ladies have for this?",,0,nyvara,2023-05-14 20:51:05 RedPillWomen,13ggdhh,"Those of you who have no personal income and stay home with your kids, what does your financial situation look like?","Please be as detailed as possible - how are the bills paid? Do you have a budget for things like gas and groceries? How do you (as the stay at home wife) pay for personal things like a new dress, Starbucks coffee, getting your hair done? Do you ask permission and discuss? Are you given a personal budget? -What is common?",,20,UniformFox_trotOscar,1683981195.0 +What is common?",,20,UniformFox_trotOscar,2023-05-13 12:33:15 RedPillWomen,13gsn3g,Seeking book recommendations - something similar to The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle but with a more spiritual perspective.,"I read The Empowered Wife earlier this year (twice!) and found her perspective SO refreshing and practical and transformative. Right now I'm reading The Way of The Empowered Man by David Deida to get a better understanding of the masculine experience, and I'm really enjoying the way he fuses an understanding of sexual polarity/gender dynamics with a broader lens of spiritual fulfillment. @@ -8160,7 +8160,7 @@ I'm wondering if there are any books out there with a similar perspective, but f So far that the books I've come across are either very RP but not spiritual, or promote feminine spirituality while being somewhat anti-men. I'd love to find something that's a combination of a solid RP understanding while also viewing relationships as a vehicle for spiritual growth and fulfilment in a more transcendental/non-dual way. -Thank you!",,4,be_tsu_ni,1684011717.0 +Thank you!",,4,be_tsu_ni,2023-05-13 21:01:57 RedPillWomen,13gxij0,How important is education(university degree level)?? I want to earn money right now!!!,"Currently, a first-year university student, studying psychology which I am interested but there are also modules that I don’t like, at the moment I am doing okay but procrastinate a lot. - I like my course, but I don’t like how I am just learning the theory and not able to use it in real life to help people, I want to become a therapist or equivalent. - I don’t come from a wealthy background, so my degree is funded through a loan. @@ -8169,7 +8169,7 @@ RedPillWomen,13gxij0,How important is education(university degree level)?? I wan - I am desperate for money because my family doesn't support me financially and I want to achieve financial freedom. - If I start the program I would have to balance my degree and the program, I am not sure if I can manage(I probably can, but I have a feeling that I might spend way more effort on the program than my degree, but I want good grades as well). -So I am really conflicted right, please give me some advice thank you!!!",,2,ComprehensiveGain892,1684024206.0 +So I am really conflicted right, please give me some advice thank you!!!",,2,ComprehensiveGain892,2023-05-14 00:30:06 RedPillWomen,13fq5cv,Anyone is beyond the Wall and no results?(+30),"Any RedPill Women who hit the wall and is way beyond like me? I am +30 years old and I can say that after the pandemic, my chances are slimming down very much. I wrote down what I think it's my situation: @@ -8196,10 +8196,10 @@ Any advice for the following? \-Marriage/Love is not guarantee in life. -***PS - Should have added that I am now ill, so pursue romantic goals is wrong. I need to revaluate and direct whatever I have left to single life. Please don't ask me more info, I really hate talking about it.***",,31,Lea_Ugly_Lea,1683909502.0 +***PS - Should have added that I am now ill, so pursue romantic goals is wrong. I need to revaluate and direct whatever I have left to single life. Please don't ask me more info, I really hate talking about it.***",,31,Lea_Ugly_Lea,2023-05-12 16:38:22 RedPillWomen,13fvopj,Is it reasonable to ask partner to stop lecturing me.,"I’m 23 and my fiancé is in his 40s. We’ve been together for a year and know each other for almost 3. He’s very smart and supportive. However, he goes into rants that emotionally destabilize me. He tells me that it’s tough love, and that he’s looking out for me. -Those rants make me want to quit my job, and often sends me into panic attacks. The conversations never end up getting heated, as I’m good at controlling my emotions. However, I want to ask him to stop initiating those conversations. I’d rather seek out his advice if I ask for it, but not have him invade my thought process with his ideas - whenever he pleases. He often contradicts himself, which doesn’t make it easier.",,15,stayathomedaughter8,1683922307.0 +Those rants make me want to quit my job, and often sends me into panic attacks. The conversations never end up getting heated, as I’m good at controlling my emotions. However, I want to ask him to stop initiating those conversations. I’d rather seek out his advice if I ask for it, but not have him invade my thought process with his ideas - whenever he pleases. He often contradicts himself, which doesn’t make it easier.",,15,stayathomedaughter8,2023-05-12 20:11:47 RedPillWomen,13fcip9,Do you guys feel a little blue when your husband is away?,"My husband is away for a weekend with his family. It’s only a couple of nights and I declined to go with for valid reasons irrelevant to this post. We both wfh, but he has his own office so we don’t see each other much during the day, and he’s often just chilling quietly trying to decompress on weeknights, but knowing he’s there is comforting. Just him sleeping next to me is one of my favourite things. I didn’t realise how much his presence can impact the feel of the house until now as I’ve done a few trips myself this year (work/family) but I haven’t been alone in this space before. @@ -8214,9 +8214,9 @@ We’ve been together three years and I know that I am fully in love with him. I I’m going to text him and let him know, but just thought that this may be the one place where my activity-craving brain could also post about it :) -Here’s to all us ladies who have wonderful partners. May the sparkle never leave our love stories ♡",,24,jenna_grows,1683871507.0 +Here’s to all us ladies who have wonderful partners. May the sparkle never leave our love stories ♡",,24,jenna_grows,2023-05-12 06:05:07 RedPillWomen,13f5wjj,I’m single at 30 and feel…lost…," -I’m a single 30 year old woman. I always thought I would get married reasonably young and have kids around age 30. Somehow life didn’t go as planned and here I am. I’ve been using dating apps for a while now but I almost never find men I am interested in. I’ve joined social groups and clubs but almost everyone I meet is already in a relationship or decades older than me. My social group is already paired up. Every time I open Instagram I’m bombarded by pictures of love and weddings and babies. I desperately want those things too. I feel so lost and left behind. I’m turning 31 soon and it feels like I’ve somehow been left behind by life.",,29,Comfortable_Lime_772,1683853137.0 +I’m a single 30 year old woman. I always thought I would get married reasonably young and have kids around age 30. Somehow life didn’t go as planned and here I am. I’ve been using dating apps for a while now but I almost never find men I am interested in. I’ve joined social groups and clubs but almost everyone I meet is already in a relationship or decades older than me. My social group is already paired up. Every time I open Instagram I’m bombarded by pictures of love and weddings and babies. I desperately want those things too. I feel so lost and left behind. I’m turning 31 soon and it feels like I’ve somehow been left behind by life.",,29,Comfortable_Lime_772,2023-05-12 00:58:57 RedPillWomen,13fv1jp,Why are some men like this?,"I met a guy through a friend at a music festival, he stayed close to me the whole time, dancing with me, and holding me. Showing me clear signs that he was into me. We exchanged numbers. The next day he texts me saying that while he finds me attractive, he thinks it’s better to remain friends. And proceeds to try to set up a day to get coffee or lunch. @@ -8225,7 +8225,7 @@ I decided to not see him again bc I wasn’t even interested in seeing him again Why would he think I wanted to be more than friends after meeting him for the first time? -Was this a way of “negging” me? I’m genuinely confused as to why he would say that it’s better to stay friends when I never expressed interest in dating/being in a relationship with him especially since I literally only saw him once. Kind of funny he would think that.",,0,btcgainz,1683920778.0 +Was this a way of “negging” me? I’m genuinely confused as to why he would say that it’s better to stay friends when I never expressed interest in dating/being in a relationship with him especially since I literally only saw him once. Kind of funny he would think that.",,0,btcgainz,2023-05-12 19:46:18 RedPillWomen,13e5th4,how to reverse the damage of high body count?,"What do you do about... ... Less happiness/sexual chemistry/marital satisfaction? ...Less ability to pair bond/fall in love? @@ -8234,8 +8234,8 @@ RedPillWomen,13e5th4,how to reverse the damage of high body count?,"What do you ...being less desirable/having men reject you because of it? ...causing jealousy in your future relationships? ...STDs? -...sex no longer being romantic/intimate?",,11,[deleted],1683758627.0 -RedPillWomen,13e5wsm,How do you all feel about situationships?,Good? Bad? Can you stay in then and try and see if you can get a relationship?,,6,[deleted],1683758856.0 +...sex no longer being romantic/intimate?",,11,[deleted],2023-05-10 22:43:47 +RedPillWomen,13e5wsm,How do you all feel about situationships?,Good? Bad? Can you stay in then and try and see if you can get a relationship?,,6,[deleted],2023-05-10 22:47:36 RedPillWomen,13d7gyz,Why Your “Fat Reduction” Workouts Aren’t Working.,"Why Your “Fat Reduction” Workouts Aren’t Working. @@ -8249,12 +8249,12 @@ To achieve your goals, you have to have discipline. You can’t have the results While going into a caloric deficit and doing more exercise sounds like the promotion of starving yourself to be skinny, it’s far from that. Being in a caloric deficit means eating roughly 200-500 calories less than usual. You can achieve this by having less processed foods. If your goal is to “build a dumpy” or build any muscle mass, you need to increase your protein intake. Increasing your protein intake does not mean eating whatever you want or feel like. It needs to be 1 gram or 2 grams of protein per body weight. For reference, I weigh 160 lbs, and I am 5ft 10 inches. I work out 5-6x a week, and my protein intake is 200 grams of protein, 80 grams of carbs, and 145 grams of fat. You need to be strict with the food you consume to achieve your desired goals. Speaking from experience, “cheating” the system with your diet does nothing for you. Eating healthy also helps provide the body energy needed when working out, as well as reducing the risks of other health-related problems. -If you want to improve yourself and step toward a healthier lifestyle, take action now. Stop comparing yourself to people taking steroids and growth hormones to lean themselves out.",,67,Goodtreesbadknees,1683669537.0 -RedPillWomen,13cnmfg,Good male psychology books,Any recommendations on male psychology books? Or dating books in general,,24,AdventurousBag4302,1683633592.0 -RedPillWomen,13bwxi4,Media's Portrayal of Tradwives,"I feel like the tag tradwife has been highly twisted by the media and by some people from the inside of the community who are giving the wrong impression. I keep seeing news articles talking about so-called tradwife influencers who are saying some racist non-sense and then everyone assumes that everyone that identifies as trad is like that ([https://www.opendemocracy.net/en/countering-radical-right/tradwives-sexism-gateway-white-supremacy/](https://www.opendemocracy.net/en/countering-radical-right/tradwives-sexism-gateway-white-supremacy/)!!!). I am not saying it is only the journalists fault but also the tradwives that get more exposure on social media and talk as representatives of the whole community as if we all think the same. It's unfortunate that having the desire to become a good wife, a good homemaker and a good mother (not an incubator of white babies!) is getting so demonized. Am I the only one seeing this or do you think that as well?",,27,traddypeach_463,1683563069.0 +If you want to improve yourself and step toward a healthier lifestyle, take action now. Stop comparing yourself to people taking steroids and growth hormones to lean themselves out.",,67,Goodtreesbadknees,2023-05-09 21:58:57 +RedPillWomen,13cnmfg,Good male psychology books,Any recommendations on male psychology books? Or dating books in general,,24,AdventurousBag4302,2023-05-09 11:59:52 +RedPillWomen,13bwxi4,Media's Portrayal of Tradwives,"I feel like the tag tradwife has been highly twisted by the media and by some people from the inside of the community who are giving the wrong impression. I keep seeing news articles talking about so-called tradwife influencers who are saying some racist non-sense and then everyone assumes that everyone that identifies as trad is like that ([https://www.opendemocracy.net/en/countering-radical-right/tradwives-sexism-gateway-white-supremacy/](https://www.opendemocracy.net/en/countering-radical-right/tradwives-sexism-gateway-white-supremacy/)!!!). I am not saying it is only the journalists fault but also the tradwives that get more exposure on social media and talk as representatives of the whole community as if we all think the same. It's unfortunate that having the desire to become a good wife, a good homemaker and a good mother (not an incubator of white babies!) is getting so demonized. Am I the only one seeing this or do you think that as well?",,27,traddypeach_463,2023-05-08 16:24:29 RedPillWomen,13bqjke,Ungrateful - An Update,"With a heavy heart I asked my SO to talk about yesterday. He did not consider my „wifely Support“ worthy of being mentioned. I told him that even though it would have been the cent thing to do - even more since we are not yet even engaged!!! And for him to omit my birthday is also highly unusual. He retorted that I had stolen his spotlight by demanding to celebrate my birthday. and would I please mind his cats while he is off with his buddies… -No, I will not do anymore wifely things. He can either let his parents care for his cats or hire someone. I will not do anymore for his Ungratefullness.",,28,Such_Beginning_1629,1683554635.0 +No, I will not do anymore wifely things. He can either let his parents care for his cats or hire someone. I will not do anymore for his Ungratefullness.",,28,Such_Beginning_1629,2023-05-08 14:03:55 RedPillWomen,13b0td0,Are “redpill” men the type to make you feel empowered?,"Why or why not? My friend and I were discussing what true freedom and empowerment is. @@ -8265,7 +8265,7 @@ The other is that men like that are the natural order— men protect and women n What are your thoughts? -Empowerment meaning: confident, free, uninhibited, authentic, etc",,11,Hellotrueme,1683489177.0 +Empowerment meaning: confident, free, uninhibited, authentic, etc",,11,Hellotrueme,2023-05-07 19:52:57 RedPillWomen,13adnot,Was it me?,"Hi RPW, I (30F) am looking for some advice after coming out of a rough experience. I started dating a man(32M) about 5 months ago who has very strong stance that feminism has ruined the possibility of a ‘traditional’ relationship and completely stripped men of what they actually want from a woman (purity/commitment due to evolutionary needs to ensure paternity of any offspring created). He expressed there needing to be a reckoning for men in the dating world, due to all that feminism has taken from men against their will or benefit. @@ -8284,24 +8284,24 @@ This was by far the most demeaning way anyone has addressed me, and though this I’m coming out of this with mixed feelings. I’m wondering if what I did was wrong and what I can learn from this experience. I don’t think things would have worked out for us anyways in the long run (we have some fundamentally different viewpoints on some really big topics), but I’m still feeling pretty upset that things ended this way. So part of my ask now is AITA, and what red pill concepts can I actually carry on without feeling like I was manipulated into thinking that I was wrong for pushing for a really important value of mine? Do I need to change my mindset of getting any commitment from men because I “bought into the feminist movement”? -TL;DR: Feeling emotionally exhausted by guy I was dating while trying to digest red pill information. Am I expecting too much by wanting commitment and how do I move forward with red pill concepts without associating it with a bitter experience?",,9,poisonbearry,1683436342.0 +TL;DR: Feeling emotionally exhausted by guy I was dating while trying to digest red pill information. Am I expecting too much by wanting commitment and how do I move forward with red pill concepts without associating it with a bitter experience?",,9,poisonbearry,2023-05-07 05:12:22 RedPillWomen,139k4oo,How can modern dating change?,"We all know modern dating has downfalls at the moment. I wonder how it can be changed. Lonely men grow up watching naked girls all over their computers. Raise themselves having certain profane thoughts towards women. Some way and unconsciously, these boys’ upbringing affects their ego: self-esteem. Specially for not confident men. But it is impossible to change this. If only people develop the right attitude towards the opposite sex. I wonder what more. Knowing all along what they should have done. Knowing what they should do, since the start; but feeling like better late than sorry. -Dating apps are, in fact, a shift in dating and society moral values; for example. Female hormonal birth control methods also have a big part to play in this scenario",,12,precisoresposta,1683372079.0 +Dating apps are, in fact, a shift in dating and society moral values; for example. Female hormonal birth control methods also have a big part to play in this scenario",,12,precisoresposta,2023-05-06 11:21:19 RedPillWomen,139jtch,Many RPM and some RPW content creators are against no-fault divorce. Do you agree with this?,"RPM and even some RPW have come out against no-fault divorce. However, I am curious, how would a situation like the one described in this article be addressed without no-fault divorce? [https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/luke-ryan-hart-father-murder-mother-sister-spalding-a8928471.html](https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/luke-ryan-hart-father-murder-mother-sister-spalding-a8928471.html) -It talks about a man who murdered his wife and daughter. His surviving sons say that their father was not physically abusive, but he was controlling and verbally abusive. I'm thinking that it would be near impossible to prove verbal abuse as a legitimate reason to get a divorce in case no-fault divorce is not allowed.",,11,Novel-Tip-7570,1683371158.0 +It talks about a man who murdered his wife and daughter. His surviving sons say that their father was not physically abusive, but he was controlling and verbally abusive. I'm thinking that it would be near impossible to prove verbal abuse as a legitimate reason to get a divorce in case no-fault divorce is not allowed.",,11,Novel-Tip-7570,2023-05-06 11:05:58 RedPillWomen,13938ci,How to come to terms with male sexuality?,"Okay so my husband is neck deep in the rp space and has fully accepted the whole men who are high value will “exercise options” garbage. He only fully revealed his intentions to me after we were already married I really don’t want to be bitter or resentful towards him but I keep swinging between acceptance and resentment and disgust. I just hate the idea that he’s going to have sex with other women. Like I get angry at the thought of it. It feels so wrong. Why should another women be able to have sex with MY husband?? Btw I am not frigid at all- I would have sex with my husband whenever. But it’s not enough for him. Can someone help me not be angry at male sexuality and their desire for variety?? Also he told me the whole “men are only as faithful as their options” thing which basically means ultimately this is my BEST option 😅 -Also…I’m pregnant which makes it more essential that I come to terms with it so as not to destroy my family 😅",,21,[deleted],1683324898.0 +Also…I’m pregnant which makes it more essential that I come to terms with it so as not to destroy my family 😅",,21,[deleted],2023-05-05 22:14:58 RedPillWomen,138w38n,Would it be appropriate to expect an engagement in this situation?,"My boyfriend and I were long distance for 6 months then moved in together. It was a whirlwind of change (and a little scary at first) but it’s worked out beautifully. We have now been living together for a year. I truly feel loved by him and am in love with him. We have talked about the future here and there and have recently decided that at the beginning of summer 2024 we would like to move to another part of the state to save money for a house and have more career opportunities. @@ -8310,7 +8310,7 @@ Here is the thing… he says things like “our kids” when talking about the f Like I’ve said before I feel like we have a great relationship and it’s very evident from how he treats me that he loves me. The thing is, I have already moved to be with him and I feel like if we are planning to move again to save money for a house, we should be engaged. I will not be owning a home with someone who I am not married to or at least committed to marrying me. -While all of his actions show me what he wants and are in line with what I want, I am confused as to why he hasn’t declared that plan and am wondering if what I want is appropriate for this situation.",,13,anon17126,1683309001.0 +While all of his actions show me what he wants and are in line with what I want, I am confused as to why he hasn’t declared that plan and am wondering if what I want is appropriate for this situation.",,13,anon17126,2023-05-05 17:50:01 RedPillWomen,138ly4g,Understanding RPW,"I'm trying to understand the RPW. From reading through the posts and responses here, it is my understanding that a RPW seeks to be the submissive partner of an opposite sex relationship, and that she limits herself based on the assumption that the man fits the RPM doctrine. @@ -8324,14 +8324,14 @@ Some beliefs/limitations/guidelines I've come across are: * A RPW should dress and act for the role of RPW to ensure the attention of a RPM - * Maintain a femmine attractiveness through dress and speech (to the limit to make oneself look quiet, or shy, or even lacking intelligence)",,2,Emerald_Pancakes,1683293760.0 + * Maintain a femmine attractiveness through dress and speech (to the limit to make oneself look quiet, or shy, or even lacking intelligence)",,2,Emerald_Pancakes,2023-05-05 13:36:00 RedPillWomen,1384l69,Healing,"How do you get a a place where you fully feel worthy, not crazy, not impossible, and lovable? It’s been a long time of being told all these negatives by my ex. I’m not sure why his opinion still has a little weight over all the people in my life who tell me the opposite. I don’t want to rely on anyone else to tell me or make me feel worthy and special. I want to fully feel that on my own. What are some things I can do to continue on my healing journey? -My first step is limiting contact with the toxicity.",,8,thesurrenderedwife,1683245003.0 +My first step is limiting contact with the toxicity.",,8,thesurrenderedwife,2023-05-05 00:03:23 RedPillWomen,1370lbx,How would you introduce RP to your daughter? Do you wish you had known about RP at a younger age?,"I (37F) have a daughter (15) who wants to start 'dating'. I won't go into the rules I've established in my home around dating, because this isn't a question or forum on parenting. Rather, it's about when to begin talking to our daughters about RP and how to share the information in a way that helps them understand the way the world works, without scaring them or making them too vulnerable to people who may take advantage of young girls/women navigating themselves in relation to boys/men. I lead by example at home, but society and media is showing my daughter a different way. I'm in a LTR with man who embodies all of the masculine qualities. I regularly practice self-care and embrace my femininity and do 'girly' things with my daughter to encourage her to do the same and embrace her femininity. We have traditional roles at home and I've started asking my daughter to help with the nurturing tasks as a way to teach her homemaking skills. I've begun having informal chats about boys, asking open ended questions about what she is looking for, male behaviour in dating, societal pressures and expectations, listening to her thoughts while also gently guiding towards a more RP way of thinking about things and supporting her to develop boundaries. -I'm seeking the wisdom of the RPW community, please! The question for everyone is when do you wish you had discovered RP, and, how would you introduce RP theory to a young person? Is there something in particular you wish you'd known before you started dating?",,29,StrengthMaleficent28,1683150360.0 +I'm seeking the wisdom of the RPW community, please! The question for everyone is when do you wish you had discovered RP, and, how would you introduce RP theory to a young person? Is there something in particular you wish you'd known before you started dating?",,29,StrengthMaleficent28,2023-05-03 21:46:00 RedPillWomen,137kksj,Would you marry a man who divorced 10 years ago because of infidelity?,"I (30F) have dated him (51M) for almost a year. He's divorced twice. A father of 3 children all from his first marriage that ended in 2012. His second marriage in 2014 lasted less than a year. 🚩 I work in an advertising agency and he's a client of mine. That's how we met. He's a politician from an islamic party and also a preacher. We are sexually active since very early on. Although he has distraught over this, it's probably an example of his lack of integrity as religious figure. 🚩 @@ -8342,18 +8342,18 @@ Due to his past problematic marriage, he offered me a prenup and he did declare Tldr; Cons: Ex cheater, divorced twice, lack of integrity as a religious figure -Pros: Took care of the children, admitted his fault, offered a prenup as a safety net.",,2,gina_chua,1683206632.0 +Pros: Took care of the children, admitted his fault, offered a prenup as a safety net.",,2,gina_chua,2023-05-04 13:23:52 RedPillWomen,1367vbw,Do RPW initiate intimacy? Or leave it to their partner,"I’m married to a man with low libido. I am 31F and he is 38M. We have always argued about this topic and I’ve completely stopped giving it attention. I was reading in the sidebar (can’t remember which chapter it was), but it was saying how when women nag for sex it becomes another chore on their list they have to do. But does that include initiating too? For instance even though my husband is low libido, I still want to show him that I want him and desire him sexually. Though he won’t reciprocate, I’m just not sure if I should or leave it up to him. I don’t want to be so forward or take on the masculine role in the relationship. -Thoughts?",,25,Ineedbabies123,1683080835.0 +Thoughts?",,25,Ineedbabies123,2023-05-03 02:27:15 RedPillWomen,136axj9,How to handle/communicate small issues that upset you to your partner in a feminine way?,"Hi ladies, I’m wondering if anyone might be able to give me some advice on how you go about communicate issues to your partner in a feminine way. In the past, I had a tendency to react in an overly emotional or sometimes callous way when dealing with minor issues and I’m wondering how I can improve my approach. The main thing that confuses me is how much should I “let go” of small issues that aren’t really a big deal but still hurt my feelings. I’ll give an example for context: today I was on my period and feeling pretty under the weather and my partner knew I wasn’t feeling well but when he called me that evening didn’t ask how I was feeling at all which hurt my feelings a bit but I know it’s a super minor issue given that he’s overall a great partner. In these situations, would you bring it up at all and if so how would you go about it? -Thankyouuu xoxo",,11,tam1499,1683090153.0 -RedPillWomen,134uaip,how to embrace aging and age with grace?,I initially wanted to ask for any tips on anti-aging for women & how to look your best as you age but I think it would also be helpful to know how can you age peacefully and with grace. I’ve noticed a lot of women have trouble with feeling as they age their value goes down. How have you reframed the way you think about getting older? Any tips on looking your best and feeling your best are welcome too.,,44,Miserable-Read7597,1682961899.0 +Thankyouuu xoxo",,11,tam1499,2023-05-03 05:02:33 +RedPillWomen,134uaip,how to embrace aging and age with grace?,I initially wanted to ask for any tips on anti-aging for women & how to look your best as you age but I think it would also be helpful to know how can you age peacefully and with grace. I’ve noticed a lot of women have trouble with feeling as they age their value goes down. How have you reframed the way you think about getting older? Any tips on looking your best and feeling your best are welcome too.,,44,Miserable-Read7597,2023-05-01 17:24:59 RedPillWomen,134ruw0,How to feel and look less like a child and more like a women ?," I'm 21 almost 22 years old and I still feel like a child, I still feel that older men and sometimes even men my age look at me like a child. @@ -8363,14 +8363,14 @@ I always hear how having a youthful look is attractive but I feel like I'm just Even my friends joke about how they can't even curse around me and when I curse they tell me it sounds funny, just like a child cursing . -I want to feel and look a little more mature and use my features to my advantage because now I feel like they're not serving me in any way",,12,No_Sense4645,1682959551.0 +I want to feel and look a little more mature and use my features to my advantage because now I feel like they're not serving me in any way",,12,No_Sense4645,2023-05-01 16:45:51 RedPillWomen,135b126,How to tell if you like somebody enough?,"Hi all! Back for advice! I’ve been dating this guy (from last post) for about five weeks now. He’s kind, charming, thoughtful, handsome, has a good career path, always plans and pays for dates, has compatible beliefs, and is generally everything I could hope for. The thing is, I keep overthinking my feelings for him. I like him and I enjoy spending time with him, and he’s very clear that he likes me. But I worry a lot about not liking him enough. For example, earlier we were cuddling and I was content because I enjoy cuddling, but I also didn’t particularly feel anything other than that. We aren’t officially dating because I’m waiting for him to guarantee he’ll have a job in our city, because I don’t want to do long distance. I don’t have any strong feelings about being his girlfriend, I’m fine just dating exclusively. We’re about to go long distance for the summer (three months), which is unavoidable but obviously not ideal. He’s a wonderful guy and he really deserves somebody who adores him, and I worry that that’s not me. However, my last relationship (several months ago) was very complicated and distant, I perpetually had one foot out the door because of some significant relationship issues. Maybe I’m still struggling with committing because of that? I’m not sure. -Should I continue dating? Is it just too early to tell yet? How long did it take for you guys know you were really interested in a guy?",,0,Valuable_Place1265,1683001256.0 +Should I continue dating? Is it just too early to tell yet? How long did it take for you guys know you were really interested in a guy?",,0,Valuable_Place1265,2023-05-02 04:20:56 RedPillWomen,133za9h,The ABCs of Female Friendship,"We've all heard something, I'm sure, about being judged by the company we keep. What does that mean to a red pill woman? We know that taking the red pill means getting and staying realistic about the way men and women interact, but there's something to be said about the interactions between women. So what traits have I found in women worth knowing and befriending? **Ability to vet**: Look for women who can effectively work out what it is they want or need in a man without jumping onto the cock carousel in an effort to find out. @@ -8395,7 +8395,7 @@ And a word about age: don't dismiss anyone just because they're too old or too y If you don't have a mother, or you and your mother don't see eye-to-eye, look for older, married women who have raised daughters. If you're a little out of touch with Gen Z, I see plenty of them hanging around here. Or, heck, those older married women's daughters might be looking for like-minded pals. Never underestimate what you could offer as an ""auntie"" or a Cool Big Sis. Someone needs to be a good influence on the next generation of red pill women! Why not you? -Good luck out there! Have fun! There is feminine sisterhood outside of feminism, and you can and will find it if you look with the right eyes.",,32,diaryofalostgirl,1682879411.0 +Good luck out there! Have fun! There is feminine sisterhood outside of feminism, and you can and will find it if you look with the right eyes.",,32,diaryofalostgirl,2023-04-30 18:30:11 RedPillWomen,133q1ac,What do you consider the most important things you've learned since RPW? What were the first steps you took to grow as a woman?,"Hi everyone! I really, really appreciate all the advice and discussions I've seen and participated in here. It has already helped me see things in a different light - looking at self-work as something I *get* to do in order to become a good future wife, rather than something I had to do. It also made me look at habits and behaviors that weren't feminine and/or healthy. @@ -8404,23 +8404,23 @@ I'd love to know what were the first things you worked on when you learned about For the RP men, I'd love to hear what you feel women are lacking in nowadays or aren't working on. Some outside perspective could be helpful. -I personally noticed I wasn't vetting correctly - which I'm working to fix and have taken the advice I got here into consideration -, and that as a person, in my past relationship and while dating, I dumped a lot of things on the person I was talking to - my stress, issues, little day to say issues that I could definitely handle by myself. I'm actively working on becoming a soft spot for my future husband to land on, and becoming feminine, cheerful and easy to be around.",,32,templilwitch,1682860674.0 +I personally noticed I wasn't vetting correctly - which I'm working to fix and have taken the advice I got here into consideration -, and that as a person, in my past relationship and while dating, I dumped a lot of things on the person I was talking to - my stress, issues, little day to say issues that I could definitely handle by myself. I'm actively working on becoming a soft spot for my future husband to land on, and becoming feminine, cheerful and easy to be around.",,32,templilwitch,2023-04-30 13:17:54 RedPillWomen,133fa7c,Boyfriend treatment vs husband treatment? Do you draw a line somewhere?,"I hate the thought of putting a restriction/limit on love but is there a line that should be placed? I don’t like thinking “oh I won’t be THIS caring cause we aren’t married yet” because it feels restrictive, not kind etc. I am naturally a very nurturing and caring person overall so it’s hard for me to balance this out. I am also afraid being taken for granted or being the one who puts in 80% of the effort because I’m naturally very caring but receiving 20%. Sometimes I feel like no one will be able to match the care I put into them and it makes me kinda sad. -Maybe im overthinking this but I would appreciate any insight anyone could offer.",,21,pinkparadigm,1682827330.0 -RedPillWomen,133pdud,when do u consider yourself left on seen,and is seen a big deal to you,,0,cekaosam,1682860040.0 -RedPillWomen,1336wed,How long did you and your husband wait before you were engaged?,Questions pretty straight forward,,11,Original-Pineapple58,1682802827.0 +Maybe im overthinking this but I would appreciate any insight anyone could offer.",,21,pinkparadigm,2023-04-30 04:02:10 +RedPillWomen,133pdud,when do u consider yourself left on seen,and is seen a big deal to you,,0,cekaosam,2023-04-30 13:07:20 +RedPillWomen,1336wed,How long did you and your husband wait before you were engaged?,Questions pretty straight forward,,11,Original-Pineapple58,2023-04-29 21:13:47 RedPillWomen,132qoc9,I want to be a stay at home mum and have kids,"I'm not sure this is the right subreddit to post this and it's probably going to catch some people off guard due to my age but I need some genuine advice because I've been unhappy for quite some time. I'm a 22F and I'm currently studying at university. I don't exactly know how and when this started but I've been unhappy for quite some time about what I'm doing with my life, as if it's not my vocation and what I should be doing. What I want to do instead is be a wife and a mum but that's not an option because where I live people my age don't get married until they turn 35 or they don't get married at all + my parents wouldn't support my decision. I don't know if I'm being unreasonable and irrational about this, maybe I'm not mature enough to grasp the concept of being married and having kids but somehow it's something that I've wanted for a long time and the fact that I can't achieve it for the time being makes me kind of depressed. -I need some genuine advice on how to deal with life knowing that for now that's just not something I can do and that I at least need to tolerate studying and pursuing something.",,37,[deleted],1682768348.0 -RedPillWomen,1339evg,How can I prepare for marriage?,"Hi, I’m leaving a LTR and my desire is to get married. I’m planning on healing & taking care of myself but for the people who broke up & then wanted to get married how did you prepare yourself for it? How did you heal? Please I want to hear everything :)",,4,Original-Pineapple58,1682809451.0 +I need some genuine advice on how to deal with life knowing that for now that's just not something I can do and that I at least need to tolerate studying and pursuing something.",,37,[deleted],2023-04-29 11:39:08 +RedPillWomen,1339evg,How can I prepare for marriage?,"Hi, I’m leaving a LTR and my desire is to get married. I’m planning on healing & taking care of myself but for the people who broke up & then wanted to get married how did you prepare yourself for it? How did you heal? Please I want to hear everything :)",,4,Original-Pineapple58,2023-04-29 23:04:11 RedPillWomen,132hyno,Dating tips for female medical students and doctors,"Seems there’s a few of us here! I’m certainly no expert but I’m a physician and married to my husband for 6 years (together for 8) and I wish I had some of this advice when younger. I am mid thirties and have been a doctor for 8 years. (Some of this advice likely applies to other professional women who want to balance a professional life with family life). @@ -8504,8 +8504,8 @@ Miscellaneous tips: -Consider freezing your eggs -Happy to be PM by any female medical students or doctors, seems there’s a few of us here xo",,70,aussiedollface2,1682738582.0 -RedPillWomen,1333vhe,Hair Care Advice?,Hey! I have some questions about hair. I am in recovery from a fatal illness and it caused my hair to thin out so much. It looks so unhealthy and it’s just very thin. It’s long but really doesn’t look good. My husband wants me to keep it long but it makes it look even worse. What can I do to get it healthy and thicker?,,2,50stradwife,1682795006.0 +Happy to be PM by any female medical students or doctors, seems there’s a few of us here xo",,70,aussiedollface2,2023-04-29 03:23:02 +RedPillWomen,1333vhe,Hair Care Advice?,Hey! I have some questions about hair. I am in recovery from a fatal illness and it caused my hair to thin out so much. It looks so unhealthy and it’s just very thin. It’s long but really doesn’t look good. My husband wants me to keep it long but it makes it look even worse. What can I do to get it healthy and thicker?,,2,50stradwife,2023-04-29 19:03:26 RedPillWomen,131nr4z,How do I tell him so that he really hears?,"My husband of 7 years is a wonderful man. A good provider. Trustworthy. Reliable. However, over the last few years the way he speaks to me is really starting to hurt. When we first started dating he was so kind and patient. Lately, as in since havung kids, it's like he's lost his filter. He is short snappy, and often appears annoyed. I've tried many many times to explain that I would prefer a nicer tone. Or maybe a good morning instead of ""what's for breakfast"". @@ -8513,9 +8513,9 @@ I want to underscore that he isn't outwardly mean but he also just isn't nice. I He isn't very receptive when I express that my feelings are hurt. He will either ask if I'm on my period or tell me I'm annoying him by my complaining. I know I can be sensitive and I am doing the self work to change the narratives i have in my mind but I also feel like instead of seeing my sensitivity has something I need to eradicate, he should me attempting to meet me in the middle. He knows my love language is words of affirmation but I feel like he isn't putting the effort into choosing words/tone that make me feel cherished. -Am I just being too much?",,24,Lopsided_Studio_7922,1682677582.0 +Am I just being too much?",,24,Lopsided_Studio_7922,2023-04-28 10:26:22 RedPillWomen,131evk1,What does “being treated well” mean for you?,"I (19F) have never really gotten into dating. -I’ve been so busy with college and having two jobs and what not. To be honest, I feel lonely. I thought friends could fix that but I don’t have a level of intimacy with them that could make me not feel lonely. I want to start dating. I’ve heard so many mixed comments about how a man should treat a woman, from mysoginistic thoughts to ideas such as women should never work because they deserve everything. Honestly im very confused of what I should want from a man. I want to date, but I dont want to put myself in reckless relationships. Any ideas and thoughts would be appreciated, thank you!",,10,Key-Personality6799,1682648353.0 +I’ve been so busy with college and having two jobs and what not. To be honest, I feel lonely. I thought friends could fix that but I don’t have a level of intimacy with them that could make me not feel lonely. I want to start dating. I’ve heard so many mixed comments about how a man should treat a woman, from mysoginistic thoughts to ideas such as women should never work because they deserve everything. Honestly im very confused of what I should want from a man. I want to date, but I dont want to put myself in reckless relationships. Any ideas and thoughts would be appreciated, thank you!",,10,Key-Personality6799,2023-04-28 02:19:13 RedPillWomen,13148hi,What are red flags in a man?,"I recently made a post in here on how I’m leaving my longterm relationship. As many of you know this is a hard decision to come by. My ex, overall, was good. I just struggled when we’d argue he would say mean things like “you’d make a mid mother and you won’t be a good wife.” He knows how I dream about being a mom & wife one day. He also says things like “maybe we’re breaking up because you have such a low iq.” I think I must be stupid because I consider staying when things seem “okay”. But deep down Im scared to have children with a man like that. I don’t want them to be dysfunctional or see a dysfunctional dynamic between him & I. @@ -8524,7 +8524,7 @@ I wish someone can tell me it will be okay. Im scared I won’t find love again. Im so afraid. Afraid of being alone & afraid Im the problem & can’t find a good man. -Please, what are red flags? What should I be aware of?",,26,Original-Pineapple58,1682625154.0 +Please, what are red flags? What should I be aware of?",,26,Original-Pineapple58,2023-04-27 19:52:34 RedPillWomen,1315uxs,"I've(22f) been dating my new boyfriend(26m) for nearly 2 months, I'm not sure whether to continue or not, am I being superficial, feeling confused","Hi TRPW. I met a guy on a dating app. We've been dating for nearly 2 months now. He's a great guy, he has a lovely smile. We have a lot of laughs together and get on well. We see eachother several times a week. He's met my mom and she likes him too. The thing is, I'm not sure if I want this for 100%. I know he's into me alot. He buys me flowers , told his family about me(they live abroad), he even has a family group chat where he sends them pictures of us. @@ -8535,7 +8535,7 @@ Ughh it has really made me cringe saying all that, hope it doesn't seem silly bu As well as that, sometimes I find myself looking into the past and wishing I would have dated this guy or that guy that I met at university clubs etc. I remember them and feel like I wish I could have gone out with that guy. Then I feel bad that I thought about that because it's just not nice when I'm with someone else. -I do definitely like this guy I'm dating, but I don't 100% have both feet in at the moment. I'm not sure whether I am being superficial and just allowing myself to focus on things which I shouldn't and instead should be grateful. I just had to get what I'm feeling off my chest as I didn't tell anyone this and I feel pretty stressed about it. Any words of wisdom or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you",,4,Red_rose49,1682627816.0 +I do definitely like this guy I'm dating, but I don't 100% have both feet in at the moment. I'm not sure whether I am being superficial and just allowing myself to focus on things which I shouldn't and instead should be grateful. I just had to get what I'm feeling off my chest as I didn't tell anyone this and I feel pretty stressed about it. Any words of wisdom or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you",,4,Red_rose49,2023-04-27 20:36:56 RedPillWomen,1317j35,Is 23 too old? Was I supposed to start earlier?,"Hello ladies. This is obviously a silly and kinda dumb question, but I just can't get it out of my mind. Warning, this may be a bit of a rant. I am 23, almost 24, never dated and never kissed. I feel like I'm too late to the game at this point. I've been working on myself and trying to improve, but then I think about how old I'll be when I'm finally ready to enter the dating scene and I wonder, is it worth it? @@ -8543,7 +8543,7 @@ Ever since I was a teenager, my family & friends would poke fun at me and sa This probably sounds like me just shouting my worries into the ether, but I guess I'm posting this to see if anyone else has felt this way and what you did/are doing about it. -Have a good one y'all",,4,lady_marm,1682630458.0 +Have a good one y'all",,4,lady_marm,2023-04-27 21:20:58 RedPillWomen,12zypak,Vetting: Holding and Moving Boundaries to Find the Right Man for You,"It seems many women struggle to understand the value of vetting and boundaries. To me they go hand in hand. The vetting process is really just a way to see how a man handles your boundaries. Your list of boundaries might include (and these are popular ones, not my personal boundaries).... @@ -8579,7 +8579,7 @@ What you want to avoid is.... Not communicating your boundaries, values, and sta I probably should have used the marriage as the example because so many women seem to be trying to convince men to marry them. But feel free to ask anything else below. -The big take away.....quit trying to change men. Accept what they tell you and decide if you would be happy changing for him.",,38,pieorstrudel5,1682540868.0 +The big take away.....quit trying to change men. Accept what they tell you and decide if you would be happy changing for him.",,38,pieorstrudel5,2023-04-26 20:27:48 RedPillWomen,13045z2,Struggling and I see it's weighing on my boyfriend,"Hello! I (F26) have been with my boyfriend (M25) for 2 years now. Things have been really good. Like marriage and children in our future good. @@ -8590,7 +8590,7 @@ I see his face every time I do it, and I cringe. I've read the books. I know I s Please, ladies, help me out. How do you keep from discrediting your captain? I fear ever doing this in a public setting. Or worse that I've already done it and haven't noticed. -Thank you in advance.",,15,AmilliBee,1682554248.0 +Thank you in advance.",,15,AmilliBee,2023-04-27 00:10:48 RedPillWomen,12zeqow,Red Flag: a man who doesn’t take of his poor mental health and uses it as an excuse for poor behaviour,"If you’re in the market for a partner, please look out for someone who is taking care of himself, including his health. This is something basic that responsible adults do. It’s made me really uneasy when I see an uptick in posters seeking advice about men they’re interested in who use their mental health struggles as an excuse for poor behaviour - where they have the means to access healthcare. I am talking from a place of having experienced mental health issues myself. I will add my experiences at the end of the post because I don’t think it’s strictly relevant but it does provide context for anyone interested. @@ -8611,14 +8611,14 @@ My experiences fyi: It is entirely possible to take care of your mental health. You don’t have to settle for someone who doesn’t. -Edit: so many typos. Can’t believe I’ve got a typo in the title!",,71,jenna_grows,1682508931.0 +Edit: so many typos. Can’t believe I’ve got a typo in the title!",,71,jenna_grows,2023-04-26 11:35:31 RedPillWomen,12yxn4b,Food for thought – reframe on accepting being provided for,"Hello! I had a realization that I thought might be helpful for other girls who are struggling with letting a guy pay for them or do things for them. I was thinking a lot about my current guy, who thus far has been trying very hard to care for me (paying for our dates, carrying my groceries, helping when I feel uncomfortable). Coming from a feminist background, that’s been challenging for me at times, because I feel as though I should be proving that I hold my own. However, I find reframing it helps me. If I baked him a treat, how would I feel if he responded with, “Oh. I mean, I can bake things myself. But thanks, I guess.” I would be hurt by that! I don’t bake him things because I think he’s incapable, I do it because I want to make him happy. If he showed distaste for my efforts towards him, I would feel upset and rejected. And if he insisted on baking something deliberately to one-up me or ‘balance the field’, I would probably be a little weirded out by that. When I reject or try to match his attempts to care for me, I’m doing that to him. I don’t need to show care the way a man does, in order to show that I like him. -Hopefully this is helpful to somebody, if not I’m just grateful for the chance to share! Thank you all for your time!",,58,Valuable_Place1265,1682460229.0 +Hopefully this is helpful to somebody, if not I’m just grateful for the chance to share! Thank you all for your time!",,58,Valuable_Place1265,2023-04-25 22:03:49 RedPillWomen,12zmkgy,I am in love? I am confused.,"I pray for clarity. My long time boyfriend/fiancé/ future husband just left for the Air Force . And I thought I would be a mess… but I am okay? I cried and cried when he was leaving holding on to him and leading up to that I would get teary eyed but I am.. fine. I expected to be a reck and sobbing everyday but I sort of feel indifferent. Not about him I love him but it’s more just him being gone. @@ -8631,10 +8631,10 @@ I think I am emotionally repressed because growing up I was labeled as over dram I know I love him so much more than anything really. With him I see stars and feel every emotion to the full extent ( I assume) Maybe it’s because he is my safe person and I don’t feel like anyone else can handle my emotions? I don’t want to be a burden. I don’t have many friends and I don’t open up to them on a super deep level. -I’m scared if I asked in a more liberal form I would be swarmed with diagnosis and other things.",,1,EquivalentHuman7658,1682524384.0 +I’m scared if I asked in a more liberal form I would be swarmed with diagnosis and other things.",,1,EquivalentHuman7658,2023-04-26 15:53:04 RedPillWomen,12zdu2x,What does it mean if a guy asks you to meet right now ? Specially after they texted after no contact,"Stopped talking to this guy as I felt like I might be a plate. He texts me hey and stuff like that. And then he asks me to meet me right now. like didn't even ask how are you and stuff. What does that mean? Is he insane. -Been on 2 dates",,2,GreenProfessional515,1682506499.0 +Been on 2 dates",,2,GreenProfessional515,2023-04-26 10:54:59 RedPillWomen,12y5hoa,Thought experiment about arranged marriages,"Sometimes I wonder if the paradigm of choosing your own mate is really the best choice for long term happiness. I've dated a lot of men in my life. I've been married and divorced. Now I'm in my 40s and I've basically been disillusioned of all the romantic pretensions I had about true love when I was younger. @@ -8649,12 +8649,12 @@ I wonder, would it be better if a third party, someone with my best interest in The biggest argument against this is the sexual attraction component. Someone can be perfect for you on paper and there is just no chemistry. -Anyway, curious for thoughts.",,48,[deleted],1682390146.0 +Anyway, curious for thoughts.",,48,[deleted],2023-04-25 02:35:46 RedPillWomen,12xifsi,"What does ""tending"" look like for you?","Recently I was listening to a talk from Alison Armstrong, and she said that men protect and provide, while women tend. I'm curious about how ""tending"" looks in your lives. -Edit: it would be particularly helpful to hear from women who work full time, as I'm the principal earner of the family.",,22,V3r1disqu0,1682347678.0 +Edit: it would be particularly helpful to hear from women who work full time, as I'm the principal earner of the family.",,22,V3r1disqu0,2023-04-24 14:47:58 RedPillWomen,12xl92q,Paying on dates,"Hello everybody! I'm back with a briefer question this time. How should I handle paying on dates? The guy I'm dating pays for absolutely everything; he gets the bill when we go out to eat, he bought the ingredients when we baked cookies and then gave me all the leftover groceries, he gets me snacks, etc. @@ -8663,13 +8663,13 @@ I absolutely love it, but I was raised with a more ""equal paying"" mindset, and For context, we are both college students without jobs, although he had a well-paying internship the summer prior, and we've been dating for a bit over a month now. -Should I insist on paying? Should I not? He told me that he wants to spoil me, but I worry about making him feel used!",,11,Valuable_Place1265,1682350103.0 +Should I insist on paying? Should I not? He told me that he wants to spoil me, but I worry about making him feel used!",,11,Valuable_Place1265,2023-04-24 15:28:23 RedPillWomen,12xg8xt,When the going gets rough…what do we do?,"Hi ladies, I need some real feedback. I’m at a point in my life where I’m not sure if I should continue my relationship. When I look back on it I feel like there is a lot of trauma and anxiety. I also fear the kinda of husband my boyfriend will be. We’ve been together for 4 years and tbh we always say we’ll get married but I really don’t see it happening. We’re 23 & 26(m). I love my boyfriend because of his characteristics. He’s strong, confident, I can’t confide in him. He holds me responsible. But unfortunately I also feel very let down by him. Before dating him I was figuring out my values as a person and once we started dating it felt like he found them to be “cringe” and devalued me as a person. Things like self-improvement, boundaries, etc. I’m afraid of I won’t find a man like him again, but when I think about it I never felt fully accepted by him. -Anyone been in this situation?",,3,Original-Pineapple58,1682343753.0 +Anyone been in this situation?",,3,Original-Pineapple58,2023-04-24 13:42:33 RedPillWomen,12ww37t,Am I ignoring red flags?,"Just started dating a RPM. He's very sweet, caring, great job, provider mindset, fun to be around, etc. In addition, he's incredibly ambitious, health conscious, etc. The only thing is, throughout our courting phase, he's said some things that I believe to be red flags. For example, he's said: @@ -8686,7 +8686,7 @@ The only thing is, throughout our courting phase, he's said some things that I b &#x200B; -Again, he's a nice guy, super sweet and fun, and I'm attracted to his masculine qualities, but are these normal things for a man to say to a woman?",,16,bestbab99,1682295656.0 +Again, he's a nice guy, super sweet and fun, and I'm attracted to his masculine qualities, but are these normal things for a man to say to a woman?",,16,bestbab99,2023-04-24 00:20:56 RedPillWomen,12w5ywb,What to do when you feel irritated with partner?,"Hello I keep finding myself feeling irritated with bf. We don't live together. @@ -8703,7 +8703,7 @@ I'm not sure if he needs sympathy or what he needs me to say . This kind of thin Any help much appreciated -Thanks",,6,GlamGemini,1682250784.0 +Thanks",,6,GlamGemini,2023-04-23 11:53:04 RedPillWomen,12w4y5v,How’s your relationship with your mum?,"For anyone who doesn’t want to read my entire post, the summary is that I’ve shared the detail about my relationship with my mum and I’m curious to hear about yours. I want to add that, obviously, this is a very high-level summary. It won’t capture everything. I only ask that you trust me when I say I think she’s a good albeit imperfect mum. @@ -8734,26 +8734,26 @@ All in all, she’s not perfect but I love her. And she loves me very much and w I know that she’s going to flip her lid when I have a baby and she realises I’m not going to pass religion on to it. That gives me so much anxiety and I’m considering therapy to figure out how to deal with it. -I’m not looking for advice per se but I am curious to hear your stories along the same line I’ve shared mine :)",,6,jenna_grows,1682248011.0 +I’m not looking for advice per se but I am curious to hear your stories along the same line I’ve shared mine :)",,6,jenna_grows,2023-04-23 11:06:51 RedPillWomen,12vzhve,Is it ever worth it to try and convert a blue pill friend?,"I have a friend (28F) who has been trying to get the bf (30M) to marry her for YEARS now. He always finds some excuse to delay it and honestly I don't think he's into it as much as she is. The worst thing is that their relationship is not even that healthy, my friend has the typical blue pill mindset that constantly arguing with your partner is somehow okay or even ""hot"". I can't imagine constantly bickering with my SO like that, it looks toxic to me. - She desperately wants marriage and kids so I think it would help her to leave him and change her mindset ASAP. Of course, I haven't said anything because it's none of my business to change someone and because I don't think she would take any criticism well. I was just curious, have you ever been successful in converting a blue pill friend?",,8,Novel-Tip-7570,1682233971.0 + She desperately wants marriage and kids so I think it would help her to leave him and change her mindset ASAP. Of course, I haven't said anything because it's none of my business to change someone and because I don't think she would take any criticism well. I was just curious, have you ever been successful in converting a blue pill friend?",,8,Novel-Tip-7570,2023-04-23 07:12:51 RedPillWomen,12td6dv,Can you share your favorite (relatively easy) dinner recipe?,"I didn’t get great sleep last night (my cat had the worst Zoomies and husband snoring kept me up lol) so I’m sleep deprived and so slow today. I told him I’d make a more intricate dinner tonight than our usual. We tend to have grilled salmon with veggies and white rice or some chicken and veggies etc. -Going to Whole Foods later to grab ingredients. Something relatively healthy but my head is pounding w a migraine 😭 thought I’d turn for advice",,12,LocalCap5093,1682020547.0 +Going to Whole Foods later to grab ingredients. Something relatively healthy but my head is pounding w a migraine 😭 thought I’d turn for advice",,12,LocalCap5093,2023-04-20 19:55:47 RedPillWomen,12sul9g,Permanent ban off another subreddit for “participation” in this one weird flex but OK Matrix,"Ive never even posted on that sub but here “You have been permanently banned from participating in r/offmychest. You can still view and subscribe to r/offmychest, but you won't be able to post or comment. Note from the moderators: You have been automatically banned for participation in RedPillWomen, the self-described ""women's space in the RP network"". -Its promotion of incel/redpill/mgtow ideology inherently violates our Rule 2. Its moderators allow disruptive and harassing brigades aimed directly at this community. Its users are uncontrollable and belligerent.”",,47,Zdena_Rose,1681988202.0 +Its promotion of incel/redpill/mgtow ideology inherently violates our Rule 2. Its moderators allow disruptive and harassing brigades aimed directly at this community. Its users are uncontrollable and belligerent.”",,47,Zdena_Rose,2023-04-20 10:56:42 RedPillWomen,12sreed,He goes out with friends while I'm home with baby,"Hi everyone, We have a 4 month old baby and my boyfriend is a loving dad and partner, although I feel I've been doing most of the work especially in the evenings. Since our baby was 3 weeks old, there have been times where he goes out 3-5 times with friends (dinner parties, pub events, birthday parties, football matches). I had a breakdown and he suggested he could go out twice a week instead. Yesterday he told me he has four events within the next 7 days. I don't know what to say or do.... I'm tempted to go and sleep somewhere else with our baby because I'm feeling resentful, and he comes home and makes a racket waking her up. -Right now I'm just stfu, is this the best method? I'd rather he went out twice and spent time as a family, but i want him to be happy and it seems that he'd rather socialise. What would you do? Advice please... Thank you.",,40,Lillaoet91,1681979734.0 +Right now I'm just stfu, is this the best method? I'd rather he went out twice and spent time as a family, but i want him to be happy and it seems that he'd rather socialise. What would you do? Advice please... Thank you.",,40,Lillaoet91,2023-04-20 08:35:34 RedPillWomen,12sr99n,Though on the intention of patriarchal tradition,"A thought or a realization of sorts... Perhaps the intent of the patriarchal tradition of ""giving away the bride"" does not in fact originated from a possessive nature but rather protection and nurturing care to provide home and comfort to all of the fairer sex because it is their utmost responsibility to aid and protect us from all harm. @@ -8762,7 +8762,7 @@ That because of the mistreatment of some, we (modern feminism) have villanized t Pretty much seems like everything nowadays is a crazy perversion of whatever original intent was intended. It's not like we don't have reason to be wary of men these days because of all the cultural trauma that is inflicted upon everyone but I think its wrong to disregard the traditional family structure just because we are all traumatized. We need to work through all this cultural indoctrination together and I personally think that if we let men take their natural roles as our providers and protectors that some of the natural balance of feminine and masculine, chaos and order, yin and yang might be restored in this land of madness. -Thoughts?",,23,birdlovesyou,1681979334.0 +Thoughts?",,23,birdlovesyou,2023-04-20 08:28:54 RedPillWomen,12sjiik,"UPDATE: early dating stages, got concerning info from a mutual friend","So, I’m very bad at letting things lie and this was bothering me, so I talked to him about it (prev post for context). Sorry for long post! People were wondering the motivation of the mutual friend who told me about this; I talked to said friend, and long story short, he’s into my older sister who also attends our college, and he didn’t want to risk her being pissed at him for not warning her if the guy I was dating turned out to be awful. My friend already has a girlfriend (and still expressed interest in my sister!), but that's a separate problem. @@ -8775,7 +8775,7 @@ I’ll admit, the incidents with the girls unsettled me. My sister and her frien I appreciated that he was honest with me about the incidents, and he told me that he regrets his past, and he wishes that he could hit a reset button. He wishes that I could know about just the him of now, and not who he used to be before we met. He said he used to be a lot more insecure as well, but he’s far more confident and happier now. -I’m inclined to dismiss it. These were minor incidents, and by all accounts he’s put strong effort into changing himself. However, there’s still a part of me that’s unsettled by his past behavior. Any thoughts are appreciated, thank you!",,4,Latter-Cranberry4508,1681959160.0 +I’m inclined to dismiss it. These were minor incidents, and by all accounts he’s put strong effort into changing himself. However, there’s still a part of me that’s unsettled by his past behavior. Any thoughts are appreciated, thank you!",,4,Latter-Cranberry4508,2023-04-20 02:52:40 RedPillWomen,12rlgpl,"early dating stages, got concerning info from a mutual friend","Hi all! I’m in a confusing situation right now. I’ve been dating a guy for a few weeks, and he’s been nothing but wonderful to me. However, I got a message from a mutual friend tonight, telling me about some concerning rumors he’s heard about this guy. The friend said he’s an angry drunk (he gave the example of pushing over scooters randomly when drunk?) and that he’s made girls uncomfortable by hitting on them after they said no, and being “overzealous.” @@ -8786,8 +8786,8 @@ For context we’re all in college, he and I are exclusive, and he seems like a What do I do from here? I’m going to talk to him about it of course, but I want to get my thoughts in order first. I’ve never seen him act like that, but of course he’s going to be on his best behavior around me, especially since it’s only been a few weeks. Do I trust that it’s just a rumor, or if it’s true, that he’s truly changed for the better? Or do I cut my losses here and now. -Literally any advice would help, thank you.",,4,Latter-Cranberry4508,1681891351.0 -RedPillWomen,12qyned,Harvard scholars: Marriage makes women happier and healthier,[https://www.thecollegefix.com/harvard-scholars-marriage-makes-women-happier-and-healthier/](https://www.thecollegefix.com/harvard-scholars-marriage-makes-women-happier-and-healthier/),,56,Created-being,1681841263.0 +Literally any advice would help, thank you.",,4,Latter-Cranberry4508,2023-04-19 08:02:31 +RedPillWomen,12qyned,Harvard scholars: Marriage makes women happier and healthier,[https://www.thecollegefix.com/harvard-scholars-marriage-makes-women-happier-and-healthier/](https://www.thecollegefix.com/harvard-scholars-marriage-makes-women-happier-and-healthier/),,56,Created-being,2023-04-18 18:07:43 RedPillWomen,12qw7fx,Dating advice: when can you trust a man has left his “hoe phase?”,"Hi everybody! I’d like advice on a current situation. Apologies for the long post, haha. A guy in my class asked me out and I said yes, and we’ve been dating for a month, I’ve really been enjoying myself. He checks all my boxes tbh: athletic, taller than me, older than me (2 years), good career future, has a good friend group of guys I like, etc. @@ -8809,12 +8809,12 @@ Does anybody have any advice? Insight on the situation? Anything to look out for Thank you all for your time! -(Edited for format)",,16,Valuable_Place1265,1681837107.0 +(Edited for format)",,16,Valuable_Place1265,2023-04-18 16:58:27 RedPillWomen,12msgle,Appreciation post! What’s something sweet your guy does? ❤️,"I love scrolling through this subreddit due to the plethora of knowledge you can find from so many women. Hopefully through this knowledge many of you have found suitable men. Well..let’s gush about them!! Let’s take a second or two to show some love/appreciation to something your guy does. Big or small, it doesn’t matter! I would love to hear all about it. -(This also serves as a great way for everyone reading to get a general idea of qualities to look for in men/green flags - win/win!❤️)",,31,vinesandflowers,1681539533.0 +(This also serves as a great way for everyone reading to get a general idea of qualities to look for in men/green flags - win/win!❤️)",,31,vinesandflowers,2023-04-15 06:18:53 RedPillWomen,12m40bi,Help me find meaning," I need help and guidance from anyone that can ease my mind please @@ -8829,12 +8829,12 @@ always & forever the side character in a man's world. If you are lucky, it All you can do is wait for a man to have mercy on you and marry you cause otherwise you are doomed. -What is the purpose then? all scenarios lead to the same outcome. Why would i want to live another day if my entire future and "" success"" depends on if the man is gonna pop the question or not? 0 control over anything. The redpill community ( men side this subreddit is great) makes me hate the fact that i am a woman and seriously makes me consider bleeping myself. cause again, For what purpose?..",,4,Routine-Excitement70,1681491914.0 +What is the purpose then? all scenarios lead to the same outcome. Why would i want to live another day if my entire future and "" success"" depends on if the man is gonna pop the question or not? 0 control over anything. The redpill community ( men side this subreddit is great) makes me hate the fact that i am a woman and seriously makes me consider bleeping myself. cause again, For what purpose?..",,4,Routine-Excitement70,2023-04-14 17:05:14 RedPillWomen,12ldn44,Accountability and wins,"Was accepted into Laura Doyle’s coaching/therapy. I’ve been on every call since. Diving into self care which my coach made my number one priority. Took a bath, set a timer to only work on my project for two hours (previously I would envelop myself into it for entire days and I don’t want to be that person missing out on life- family time) Took my son to the playground. Took him for ice cream. Got myself to the gym. Staying on my page. Expressing my gratitude to God and others around me. Focusing on the positive and what I want to grow. Promising myself to carry these skills with me for the rest of my life. -Putting this in here and in LD circle to hold myself accountable. Thanks for listening ladies.",,28,thesurrenderedwife,1681433383.0 +Putting this in here and in LD circle to hold myself accountable. Thanks for listening ladies.",,28,thesurrenderedwife,2023-04-14 00:49:43 RedPillWomen,12l8hui,I feel like I have nothing significant to offer,"Hello, I’ve been lurking here for a little bit and I was wondering if I’m overthinking this or not. Just for some info I’m 21, currently in college, haven’t been in a relationship before (wasn’t allowed to date in high school plus guys weren’t interested ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ ), and am religious. I was listening to this modern dating podcast the other day (the whatever podcast) and the host asked one of the girls “What do you have to offer?” @@ -8843,7 +8843,7 @@ I started thinking about how I would respond to that question, and realized I do I feel very average/boring and I don’t think I have anything that would make me stand out. I will admit I need to work on my wardrobe a little bit more. I don’t wear makeup because I wasn’t allowed to and never picked up the habit/skill so I just focus on skincare (my skin is sensitive anyway). I have a boyish figure in the sense I don’t have curves and have very small breast (it doesn’t bother me but I’m just being realistic). Also, I don’t have an in-depth list of what I want in a relationship, but I feel like it would be weird to expect a lot if I don’t have any experience being in one. -Am I overthinking this?",,32,Mika_Acorn8,1681424327.0 +Am I overthinking this?",,32,Mika_Acorn8,2023-04-13 22:18:47 RedPillWomen,12l265r,Mental illness and having children,"Tracing back to my maternal great grandfather, my family has a long history of bipolar disorder. Alongside my mother’s grandfather, one of her aunts or uncles had it, one of her cousins has it, her brother has it, and my brother has it. My boyfriend knows this and has expressed concern about having a bipolar child if we were to have kids in the future. After hearing about how having a bipolar sibling has affected me and my mother, he doesn’t want our other kids to experience the trauma of growing up with a bipolar sibling. I completely understand his point of view, however I desperately want to have my own children (call me selfish idc, I want to continue my bloodline and refuse to consider any other option unless I turn out to be infertile). @@ -8852,7 +8852,7 @@ I believe that a large part of how the bipolar people in my family turned out wa Because of this, I believe with the right home life my children will either not develop it (especially since the chance is 10-25% if a parent is bipolar, which I am not so the chance is likely even lower) or, if they do, I believe I can support them and my other children better than my family has in the past. -Is this naïve of me? What are your opinions on this topic?",,7,Nymph_river,1681416801.0 +Is this naïve of me? What are your opinions on this topic?",,7,Nymph_river,2023-04-13 20:13:21 RedPillWomen,12kld4w,why ghost then,"is 'im amazed' a code hahaha @@ -8865,7 +8865,7 @@ so, why bother communicating how wowed you are when you ghost the next moment with guys who just talked and flirted i continued to text but for the third time?? that i've heard this i was ghosted -UPDATE: Guys he answered lol false alarm",,7,cekaosam,1681384517.0 +UPDATE: Guys he answered lol false alarm",,7,cekaosam,2023-04-13 11:15:17 RedPillWomen,12js4ya,Waiting,"Me f29 him m28 together for 7 years. Sex life ok but room for improvement. Exactly one year ago my SO registered to finish his Master thesis. He will finish this summer. We always planned to marry once he has his Masters as he is eligible for a very nice sum during his studies if not married/in a Life-Companionship. @@ -8886,7 +8886,7 @@ His brother was against me from the get go. He foolishly thought I had a thing f I tried to talk with my SO but he told me to stop asking. Without explanation and just that. He tells me he loves me, wants to start a life together… -I know I am not perfect. But no one is and I am very much doing my best.",,16,Such_Beginning_1629,1681318106.0 +I know I am not perfect. But no one is and I am very much doing my best.",,16,Such_Beginning_1629,2023-04-12 16:48:26 RedPillWomen,12jt5ua,Seeking advice: Is using a location tracking app on my boyfriend crossing a line?," Hi r/RedPillWomen! Discovered this subreddit a while back, but this is my first-time post here. I (21F) am seeking some advice and perspective about a situation with my boyfriend (21M). I absolutely adore him, and we've been together for a few months now. However, I struggle with low self-esteem and insecurities, partly due to being cheated on in a past relationship. I worry that he doesn't realize how attractive he is. He went to an all-boys school and didn't have much female attention before we got together, so I feel like I got there first. He often goes out with friends for game nights or just to hang out, and while his friend group is mostly men with a few women (who are *not* single), I can't help but worry he might cheat on me, even though I don't have any specific reason to think he would. @@ -8911,12 +8911,12 @@ To answer the questions in the sidebar: > >We've been going out since December 2022. We're single and exclusive. Sex life is good, we see each other a lot. -*^((I'm posting here rather than in)* r/relationship_advice *^(because I resonate more strongly with the relationship structures encouraged by this sub, and I've seen a lot of posts about members of this sub getting mass-banned with their posts deleted if they post outside of this subreddit).)*",,12,Yes_Slay_Queen,1681320532.0 +*^((I'm posting here rather than in)* r/relationship_advice *^(because I resonate more strongly with the relationship structures encouraged by this sub, and I've seen a lot of posts about members of this sub getting mass-banned with their posts deleted if they post outside of this subreddit).)*",,12,Yes_Slay_Queen,2023-04-12 17:28:52 RedPillWomen,12jap9x,is it just me or are a lot of women finding Christ?,"i just find this fascinating- like in this group alone it seems like a lot of women here have recently started following Jesus- i began last year, and now i’m in love! i couldn’t imagine my life without Him <3 is it possibly just because of the age range of this group? and the fact that it attracts people who are looking for more traditional lifestyles/relationships anyway? -or do you all see it happening in the general population? i can’t really tell now because i’m surrounded by christians and God is all i really care about.. but are more people becoming christians? men too?",,15,[deleted],1681275747.0 +or do you all see it happening in the general population? i can’t really tell now because i’m surrounded by christians and God is all i really care about.. but are more people becoming christians? men too?",,15,[deleted],2023-04-12 05:02:27 RedPillWomen,12j7ntd,I Effed Around and Found Out (Need Advice),"Hi all, I am fairly new to RedPillWomen but found out about it after a huge fight with my boyfriend a few months ago. Ive found a lot of it really resonates with me, for example I’m reading The Empowered Wife right now and it’s been great. A little background, I am and always have been a very insecure and jealous girlfriend. I was in my past relationship(also my first) but always blamed my fights in my ex, however now I can see that I was just as much of the problem as he was. @@ -8933,7 +8933,7 @@ Anyway, I got just was coming to me in the form of a picture of him and who im a I spent the past few days ruminating on what I should do. Should I confront him and lie, saying something like “Oh I wanted some of your lotion,” or should I be totally upfront and tell him I was snooping. To be honest I don’t think he would take either of these very lightly. -I am here looking for advice on the situation. I don’t want to go to the regular relationship subs as I’d prefer advice from other RPW. This was really terrible of me to do, I know, but should I be concerned that he has this picture? I know this picture was from at least 4+ years ago because he told me has hasn’t been in a relationship since then, but I know he and this ex were together quite some time. Does keeping an old photo of his ex mean he is of low value? Really would appreciate any advice from a RPW standpoint, and can give more info if needed.",,16,idontlikecockroaches,1681268452.0 +I am here looking for advice on the situation. I don’t want to go to the regular relationship subs as I’d prefer advice from other RPW. This was really terrible of me to do, I know, but should I be concerned that he has this picture? I know this picture was from at least 4+ years ago because he told me has hasn’t been in a relationship since then, but I know he and this ex were together quite some time. Does keeping an old photo of his ex mean he is of low value? Really would appreciate any advice from a RPW standpoint, and can give more info if needed.",,16,idontlikecockroaches,2023-04-12 03:00:52 RedPillWomen,12j1fea,New to this community and want support,"Hi guys, I’m glad I’ve joined this community and it’s given me a lot of insight about men/women. I grew up in an unstable household and didn’t realize I was creating the same instability in mine which has caused a DB situation. My husband doesn’t seek that anymore from me even though we’re a fairly young couple (31F, 37 M). @@ -8948,15 +8948,15 @@ Id like other tips and advice to be more feminine and create a comfortable home I still have some resentment towards him about this and the “feminism” I’ve been exposed to is partially to blame. -Please share your experiences!",,12,Ineedbabies123,1681254813.0 +Please share your experiences!",,12,Ineedbabies123,2023-04-11 23:13:33 RedPillWomen,12inrym,Any senior red pillers in here?,"Life looks very different at 60 rather than at 25. What men want does change somewhat. Not COMPLETLEY…. But if the equipment needs a pill to work, the drive is no longer a motivating force. Things do shift. -Anybody?",,13,hergardenofdreams,1681227598.0 +Anybody?",,13,hergardenofdreams,2023-04-11 15:39:58 RedPillWomen,12j1ewx,When is it appropriate to talk about the future (marriage and kids) when dating?,"I’m 30F, my bf is 38M. We’ve been together for 4 months. We spend a lot of time together and have a lot of deep talks, so it feels substantial even though it’s only been months. We love each other a lot and enjoy spending time together. We’ve met each other’s friends and family. He has a 3.5yr old son and co-parents with biological mother (BM) (39yo). They share 50/50 custody and I can envision that they will always be attached til death does them apart because they share a son together. They have been together since they were 21yrs old and just separated 1.5yrs ago. They have two decades of growth and history together and they share many mutual friends and family (his ex-partner and her current bf went over to my bf’s best friend’s parents’ house for Easter celebrations). I already feel like an outsider. Perhaps this is what is bothering me too. -I can’t help but to think about the future as I prefer to know earlier on whether I am wasting my time dating someone who I won’t have a future with. I do want to have my own biological kids with the right person. He did say that he is open to marriage and kids again the future. It’s just that every time I bring up how thinking about a future with BM is bothering me (I’ve haven’t met kid or BM), he says that it isn’t something we need to be thinking about at this point of our relationship. He says that it’s possible that my relationship with BM will be pleasant. Despite this from him, I am still feeling stressed out all the time.",,2,foreverbrightness,1681254787.0 -RedPillWomen,12isd9h,Can anyone recommend content creators?,"As per the title, can anyone recommend me some red pill women to watch on YouTube? Or podcasts? Thank you :)",,5,[deleted],1681236869.0 +I can’t help but to think about the future as I prefer to know earlier on whether I am wasting my time dating someone who I won’t have a future with. I do want to have my own biological kids with the right person. He did say that he is open to marriage and kids again the future. It’s just that every time I bring up how thinking about a future with BM is bothering me (I’ve haven’t met kid or BM), he says that it isn’t something we need to be thinking about at this point of our relationship. He says that it’s possible that my relationship with BM will be pleasant. Despite this from him, I am still feeling stressed out all the time.",,2,foreverbrightness,2023-04-11 23:13:07 +RedPillWomen,12isd9h,Can anyone recommend content creators?,"As per the title, can anyone recommend me some red pill women to watch on YouTube? Or podcasts? Thank you :)",,5,[deleted],2023-04-11 18:14:29 RedPillWomen,12itixq,"I think my boyfriend is too ambitious and I'm stuggling with it, help!","Hi all, me again. I think I've come to the realisation, that in my opinion my (28f) boyfriend (28m) of 2 years is too ambitious. He has a degree already, but he often talks about getting ahead in his career even more. He already has a great job and has fairly good earning potential and will be able to support a family well enough with that. I am very happy with his prospects even if things stayed the same and he really feels like my dependable, loveable, hero. The thing is, he has dreams of opening a company one day and earning even more money. He wants to be his own boss and be able to innovate and forge his own path. And I think if he wants that he will get there because this man is super smart and the sun shines on him blessing him with good fortune wherever he goes lol. He also wants to pursue a masters degree next year. @@ -8969,15 +8969,15 @@ I just know that if he pursues this path it will have a negative impact on our l His parents don't help either, they are constantly encouraging him to pursue this masters degree and get a phd and all kinds of things. He thinks that you can have kids and either a FT job + study OR own a company and everything will be fine. Because apparently his parents they did it all. I just don't agree with this perspective, he got raised by a nanny because his parents didn't have the time for his younger self, poor thing. That makes me sad for him, really. And they never looked after their physical health. So I don't know. -My mother is RP, she says this is a bit of a red flag but I don't know. I want to make it work, it's already been a 2 year relationship, I don't want to start again because this is a good guy, the best I will get imo and I love him. And, I'm already 28 so want kids soon. Can anyone give me advice? It's been really stressing me out lately.",,4,itburnsss45,1681239061.0 +My mother is RP, she says this is a bit of a red flag but I don't know. I want to make it work, it's already been a 2 year relationship, I don't want to start again because this is a good guy, the best I will get imo and I love him. And, I'm already 28 so want kids soon. Can anyone give me advice? It's been really stressing me out lately.",,4,itburnsss45,2023-04-11 18:51:01 RedPillWomen,12i6ww6,Love & Respect Book,"Have been working my way through Dr. Emerson Eggerich’s Love & Respect? Never realized how much I didn’t understand how men view the world but also understand myself naturally and what I’m called to do by the divine. The aspect of “unconditional respect” can be pretty eye opening. I immediately wrote a list of what I respect about my man in my journal to keep it on the fore front on the mind bc I have a tendency to focus on the negatives when conflict arises and then told my man that. Hoping good things come and this is a process I can implement moving forward but very happy to be realizing it. -Has anyone else read this book and how has it worked (or not worked) in your life? Any tips?",,9,Forsaken-Savings4370,1681183753.0 -RedPillWomen,12hk2ni,"What the heck! Got permanently banned from ""r/Off My Chest"" community for participating in r/RedPillWomen","I know it's off topic. But I'm literally baffled. I've only posted in off my chest and that too 2 years ago. And I've just posted a comment in redpillwomen, and I got this notification of banning. I mean can anyone explain? How does this work? Are they just stalking us or anything?",,78,False_Process_2473,1681136064.0 +Has anyone else read this book and how has it worked (or not worked) in your life? Any tips?",,9,Forsaken-Savings4370,2023-04-11 03:29:13 +RedPillWomen,12hk2ni,"What the heck! Got permanently banned from ""r/Off My Chest"" community for participating in r/RedPillWomen","I know it's off topic. But I'm literally baffled. I've only posted in off my chest and that too 2 years ago. And I've just posted a comment in redpillwomen, and I got this notification of banning. I mean can anyone explain? How does this work? Are they just stalking us or anything?",,78,False_Process_2473,2023-04-10 14:14:24 RedPillWomen,12i1obp,has anyone bought from amantine?,"Online their clothes look super feminine, youthful, romantic.... but I am wary of them being a scam. Their price points are kind of low and they don't seem to have any real-life stores or reviews online. Hoping someone here has experience .... -I would also love some reccs for where to buy modest but feminine clothing!",,4,leibesleid,1681171760.0 -RedPillWomen,12hwo1p,How long should I be in nun mode?,Hi I'm 25F and I have a looooot of work to do on myself before I become marriageable. However I realize that this year is the last year that I look vaguely good in the eyes of men (except I'm fat) and I don't want to waste it. What should I do?,,2,[deleted],1681161611.0 +I would also love some reccs for where to buy modest but feminine clothing!",,4,leibesleid,2023-04-11 00:09:20 +RedPillWomen,12hwo1p,How long should I be in nun mode?,Hi I'm 25F and I have a looooot of work to do on myself before I become marriageable. However I realize that this year is the last year that I look vaguely good in the eyes of men (except I'm fat) and I don't want to waste it. What should I do?,,2,[deleted],2023-04-10 21:20:11 RedPillWomen,12h3qaf,I genuinely feel like I’ll be alone in this lifetime.,"No matter how hard or little I try, I just can’t find anyone to be with. I want a relationship and I eventually want kids and a family. I really am ready for it - emotionally, mentally, physically etc. @@ -9000,7 +9000,7 @@ People say don’t worry when the timing is right it’ll work out. Others say t Seriously, I think I’m just doomed. I’m cursed maybe? No clue but I feel so alone and I really do want to experience dating and being taken care of with a masculine man and experiencing all the feelings that come with it. -Thanks for listening. When I tell my friends they always say I’ll find someone and I’m overreacting. But I genuinely feel something is off and maybe I’m not as self aware as I thought?",,14,[deleted],1681092530.0 +Thanks for listening. When I tell my friends they always say I’ll find someone and I’m overreacting. But I genuinely feel something is off and maybe I’m not as self aware as I thought?",,14,[deleted],2023-04-10 02:08:50 RedPillWomen,12gvyef,Need help on Modest Clothing,"Hey Everyone, I am 24 F, trying to upgrade my closet with tasteful modest clothing. Most modest clothing brands online that pertain to this are super super expensive. @@ -9009,7 +9009,7 @@ I am just wondering where you get your clothing either online or in-store. I liv I have found some of my favorite pieces at thrift stores and H&M but i would love a reliable source. -TIA :)",,5,Carebearem,1681074780.0 +TIA :)",,5,Carebearem,2023-04-09 21:13:00 RedPillWomen,12glotu,Should I pursue a relationship with my colleague,"Hi everyone, I am facing a dilemma in which a colleague of mine (co -worker) has expressed interest in dating me, and I'm not sure whether I should pursue this relationship or not. I'm a 30 year old female, working a 67k job, no kids/baggage, never married although I've had boyfriends. He on the other hand, is 38 divorced with two kids (12 and 10, both females), making approximately the same amount of money as me (with a few k difference). @@ -9023,7 +9023,7 @@ Also, I know there are a lot of repercussions to dating a colleague... I have to Would like to get the red pill women perspective on this one. -Thanks.",,6,kakashi1992,1681052180.0 +Thanks.",,6,kakashi1992,2023-04-09 14:56:20 RedPillWomen,12fzptf,What I want and how to get it from OLD?,"I'm pretty darn determined to get back out there after -- oof -- eight years of nun mode. That's right: my last date was in 2015. Life just kept happening and no men fell into my path, but that's good, because I didn't know how to define what I wanted, either in a man or in a dynamic. Now I know. The problem: I live in something of a backwater, a corner of my county that's full of married couples with young children and retired couples whose children are all either too young or, well, married with young children of their own. I'm not interested in the local dive bar because I'd prefer a man with more brains than tattoos (I have none, and the only one I'd consider is a peacock-blue lotus limned in gold on my belly). I'm not in a position to move out at this time due to COL, sadly, or I'd have a flat in the nearby city. @@ -9032,12 +9032,12 @@ I realize I'm 37, but I don't want children, and my target age range has always So how should I come across in a profile, bearing in mind that I'm progressive/woke but my mind isn't so open that my brain fell out and want similar? How do I emphasize that he's getting a loyal femme with a low body count and the desire and ability to be his first mate? And yes, I'm spending 2023 in a total glow-up. My hair is down to my shoulder blades and the color God intended, and I have put away more than enough money to get my eyes lasered (but I look adorable in round gold-rimmed glasses!). -I would value your honesty and compassion. I spent eight years in nun mode so I could learn to give the same to other people. Thank you!",,15,diaryofalostgirl,1680991004.0 +I would value your honesty and compassion. I spent eight years in nun mode so I could learn to give the same to other people. Thank you!",,15,diaryofalostgirl,2023-04-08 21:56:44 RedPillWomen,12esq2c,Advice for women with high body counts?,"I (26f) have a…relatively high body count. Think more than 10, less than 20. There are many reasons for this. For the sake of brevity I won’t get into them right here, but if you think it’s relevant I’ll answer any questions in the comments. The most important point is that I used to have very different values than I have now. And at this point, casual sex is deeply unappealing to me. I don’t want it outside of a committed relationship and feel no desire to seek it out. Ideally, I would like a relationship with a good Christian man. But I don’t know what my chances are with a body count this high. Obviously I do have other desirable qualities, and I’m odd for a woman in ways that make me desirable to a certain type of man. (Pretty sure I also don’t come off like someone who has a high body count- I’m quiet and nerdy, dress modestly, don’t seek out attention, etc.) But lately I’ve been worrying that Christian men just won’t want to be with me if I’m honest about my past, and I don’t want to be dishonest. -Please be brutally honest with me- what are my odds? Are there any crucial tips for improving my RMV? How should I handle conversations about body count if they come up?",,19,SunRose42,1680888571.0 +Please be brutally honest with me- what are my odds? Are there any crucial tips for improving my RMV? How should I handle conversations about body count if they come up?",,19,SunRose42,2023-04-07 17:29:31 RedPillWomen,12f90ui,Should I move out or stay in grad school?,"I (f22) am finishing up my first year of law school however have had recurring doubts about whether i made the right choice being here. It is mainly a financial concern but also a question of whether this is the right investment for my life goals - of having a stable happy life with a good man who i can look up to and respect. i thought about pursuing the arts, but did not want to take the chance to ever be reliant on my parents for a long period of time. in my undergrad i aimed to be a clinical psychologist, but my dreams were constantly stepped on by my parents who wanted me to become a doctor. when it came time, i realized i had no energy for the mcat so i found a middleground and decided to pursue law school. It is interesting and i kind of enjoyed studying for the lsat. i have always been interested in social justice and human rights, but throughout this year i just almost completely forgot about that and just pursued ""big law"" and stuff i dont really care about because my mom keeps redirecting me, but is also simultaneously still obsessed with the idea with me going to medical school. @@ -9048,8 +9048,8 @@ Because I know if i choose to break away from law school, they will not support Please be kind, and your thoughts are greatly appreciated <3 -TLDR: sketchy parents, want me to stay in law school which is cool but i'm scared of debt and subsequently relying on them more. Should i continue or break away from them asap?",,1,onogomo,1680922232.0 -RedPillWomen,12dgl6p,"Please, don't underestimate the power of communication","People often scoff at communication around here, but I think they're confusing it with negotiation, which is a different thing. Communicating your needs is absolutely healthy. I actually tried to suck it up and not say a thing for a while because I didn't want to be nagging , but it immediately made my mood worse and it showed. Ever since I learned to communicate my needs to my husband, I feel like it made things better and allowed me to be my vulnerable, feminine self. And yes, there is a way to communicate without nagging or being unpleasant.",,44,Novel-Tip-7570,1680778981.0 +TLDR: sketchy parents, want me to stay in law school which is cool but i'm scared of debt and subsequently relying on them more. Should i continue or break away from them asap?",,1,onogomo,2023-04-08 02:50:32 +RedPillWomen,12dgl6p,"Please, don't underestimate the power of communication","People often scoff at communication around here, but I think they're confusing it with negotiation, which is a different thing. Communicating your needs is absolutely healthy. I actually tried to suck it up and not say a thing for a while because I didn't want to be nagging , but it immediately made my mood worse and it showed. Ever since I learned to communicate my needs to my husband, I feel like it made things better and allowed me to be my vulnerable, feminine self. And yes, there is a way to communicate without nagging or being unpleasant.",,44,Novel-Tip-7570,2023-04-06 11:03:01 RedPillWomen,12cua9h,Success!!!,"Previously, I made a post about transitioning to a more modest and feminine wardrobe. Well, my boyfriend is going on a trip with his dad today. He was getting his shoes on getting ready to leave, and I was standing talking to him and wishing him well on his trip. I didn't even notice, but I was twirling my dress back and forth (I'm wearing a longer midi sundress, off the shoulder with a floral print). He couldn't stop staring at me. @@ -9060,12 +9060,12 @@ Eventually, he just completely stopped what he was doing, said ""Alright that's I love this feeling. I love giving the man I love this feeling. I love that as he leaves for his trip, I'll be on his mind the whole time, and he'll be thinking about his ""cute"" girlfriend. -What a success (in such a short time frame)!",,156,AmilliBee,1680721133.0 -RedPillWomen,12cjr9m,"I’m probably being silly, but…","I need some advice regarding mindset and physical intimacy. I’m seeing a wonderful guy who treats me very well, is pretty consistent with communication, etc. We were friends first and he expressed interest and started courting me about 3 months before we started dating. Thing is, I was very interested as well and made what I feel was the mistake of becoming intimate with him on our first real date. I was raised in a very liberal household and I’m still learning how to have and defend better standards. Anyway, that was a little over 2 months ago and he’s still acting interested, saying he loves me, etc., but I’m grieving over my lack of self control and struggling to relax. Scared that I’ve “doomed” us. Part of me wants to ask him to put our physical relationship on hold until I feel more comfortable, but that seems insane after all this time. I’d love any thoughts on this that are a little more useful than “nothing you can do now, just get over it.” TIA",,15,infinitymouse,1680699959.0 -RedPillWomen,12ccu1r,body count issue UPDATE,"UPDATE - he asked me again about how many guys i’ve given bj’s to & i just said under 10, i don’t think this is a healthy convo, i’ve only ever done that with guys i’ve gone on dates with and had a real connection - i don’t want to go into specifics. he said “so 9 guys” i said no & i reminded how long i made him wait and he said “just bc u waited with me doesn’t mean that’s how u acted in the past” i said well, that’s how i acted. he then asked if i had done that with any guys between my last relationship and him - i said no. which is true. then he asked me how many guys i’ve kissed - i said 3. he asked who, i avoided telling who exactly for an hour & he said i was being dramatic and if i would just tell him we could move on. finally i told him, he was fine with two of them and then i said a guy he knew. he said “this is why i don’t trust you, you’re a liar. you said you’ve never hooked up with any of my friends. you’re gross. get the fuck out of my house” i just said ok and left. i did not expect that reaction. it was only a kiss with a guy that i’ve known for years (who yes kisses a lot of girls) and it happened before i even met him. he really cares about his reputation and talks about how his gf makes him look and that’s why he doesn’t want me to dress to slutty (which he may have a point about) so i think he was seeing it through that lease. anyways. he kicked me out. i just left. i’ve been crying for hours. i don’t understand why he’s treating me like i’m a hoe. i’m really not. i feel so insecure and like this is so unfair. i’m not sure what to do. to me “hook up” means more than kiss. i honestly am so upset please give me advice on how to handle this. i’m stuck between going back and forth that he’s being abusive & looking for fights & doesn’t actually think i’m gross and feeling like maybe i am gross and a liar and have ruined this relationship. i didn’t meant to be dramatic but like damn how am i supposed to feel comfortable ever telling him anything?",,25,Sarahhartttt,1680681840.0 +What a success (in such a short time frame)!",,156,AmilliBee,2023-04-05 18:58:53 +RedPillWomen,12cjr9m,"I’m probably being silly, but…","I need some advice regarding mindset and physical intimacy. I’m seeing a wonderful guy who treats me very well, is pretty consistent with communication, etc. We were friends first and he expressed interest and started courting me about 3 months before we started dating. Thing is, I was very interested as well and made what I feel was the mistake of becoming intimate with him on our first real date. I was raised in a very liberal household and I’m still learning how to have and defend better standards. Anyway, that was a little over 2 months ago and he’s still acting interested, saying he loves me, etc., but I’m grieving over my lack of self control and struggling to relax. Scared that I’ve “doomed” us. Part of me wants to ask him to put our physical relationship on hold until I feel more comfortable, but that seems insane after all this time. I’d love any thoughts on this that are a little more useful than “nothing you can do now, just get over it.” TIA",,15,infinitymouse,2023-04-05 13:05:59 +RedPillWomen,12ccu1r,body count issue UPDATE,"UPDATE - he asked me again about how many guys i’ve given bj’s to & i just said under 10, i don’t think this is a healthy convo, i’ve only ever done that with guys i’ve gone on dates with and had a real connection - i don’t want to go into specifics. he said “so 9 guys” i said no & i reminded how long i made him wait and he said “just bc u waited with me doesn’t mean that’s how u acted in the past” i said well, that’s how i acted. he then asked if i had done that with any guys between my last relationship and him - i said no. which is true. then he asked me how many guys i’ve kissed - i said 3. he asked who, i avoided telling who exactly for an hour & he said i was being dramatic and if i would just tell him we could move on. finally i told him, he was fine with two of them and then i said a guy he knew. he said “this is why i don’t trust you, you’re a liar. you said you’ve never hooked up with any of my friends. you’re gross. get the fuck out of my house” i just said ok and left. i did not expect that reaction. it was only a kiss with a guy that i’ve known for years (who yes kisses a lot of girls) and it happened before i even met him. he really cares about his reputation and talks about how his gf makes him look and that’s why he doesn’t want me to dress to slutty (which he may have a point about) so i think he was seeing it through that lease. anyways. he kicked me out. i just left. i’ve been crying for hours. i don’t understand why he’s treating me like i’m a hoe. i’m really not. i feel so insecure and like this is so unfair. i’m not sure what to do. to me “hook up” means more than kiss. i honestly am so upset please give me advice on how to handle this. i’m stuck between going back and forth that he’s being abusive & looking for fights & doesn’t actually think i’m gross and feeling like maybe i am gross and a liar and have ruined this relationship. i didn’t meant to be dramatic but like damn how am i supposed to feel comfortable ever telling him anything?",,25,Sarahhartttt,2023-04-05 08:04:00 RedPillWomen,12c4vpm,When they ask what you do for work?,"When guys ask me what I for a living what’s the most effective thing to say? I’m looking for a provider. I have a business that doesn’t have any income yet. I have a lot of hobbies. I live on a small investment income. -I’m not sure if they are trying to see if I can provide, or see if I am a career woman, or if I don’t work that’s a red flag. I’m not sure.",,23,yxxer,1680660420.0 +I’m not sure if they are trying to see if I can provide, or see if I am a career woman, or if I don’t work that’s a red flag. I’m not sure.",,23,yxxer,2023-04-05 02:07:00 RedPillWomen,12cbkfn,Big sister/ motherly advice,"Im a 19 year old woman and would love y’all’s opinion on a few questions… 1. What do you all think is the best age to get married? @@ -9077,12 +9077,12 @@ RedPillWomen,12cbkfn,Big sister/ motherly advice,"Im a 19 year old woman and wou 4. What are some things you would tell your younger self when you were 18-25 -Basically anything you would tell your daughter on how to navigate the world I would love to hear it!",,4,righthand_,1680678139.0 +Basically anything you would tell your daughter on how to navigate the world I would love to hear it!",,4,righthand_,2023-04-05 07:02:19 RedPillWomen,12bl8r3,The advice here really works!,"So as the title says the advice here is shockingly accurate. But I never knew this subreddit existed until a month ago. I’ve been lurking on here for a little bit now and up until a week ago I would say I was *gasp* a feminist. I didn’t actually ever have success getting men to take me seriously until I slowly incorporated things I learned as I went. I started dressing very feminine and cute. Made myself more fun to be around. Laughed and giggled more. Worked on my manners and how I speak. That worked and soon men were showing interest like never before. Even the sort of men that never paid me the time of day, suddenly wanted to take me out on dates. -So here comes my shock when realizing red pill women philosophy applied to me. I was doing all these things to establish a relationship with a man I considered high value , and it worked! We just made 3 years and it’s like he jumped out of my favorite romance novel. And I would’ve never found him if it wasn’t for embracing my femininity.",,57,Elegantly_feminine,1680619417.0 +So here comes my shock when realizing red pill women philosophy applied to me. I was doing all these things to establish a relationship with a man I considered high value , and it worked! We just made 3 years and it’s like he jumped out of my favorite romance novel. And I would’ve never found him if it wasn’t for embracing my femininity.",,57,Elegantly_feminine,2023-04-04 14:43:37 RedPillWomen,12botzz,Shows of masculinity to his friends: Appropriate? Necessary? Specifically: strip clubs.,"I (30f) am engaged to an extremely successful alpha man (40m). We have been together 6 years. I am very feminine and stay at home to nurture our home life. We are so excited to be trying for kids immediately after marriage. I am so blessed to have found a man who is loyal, loving, completely devoted to me, very masculine, and happens to make 8 figures and even still on the up. I love him dearly and see a beautiful future for us. He fulfills all his duties and I trust him completely. I owe him everything and do the very best I can to strive to be as high value in every way as he is. @@ -9091,7 +9091,7 @@ Now to the point: on the rare occasion, he ends up at strip clubs with his boys. I am new to the red pill community but I’ve been lurking and I love the ideals. I was just curious how this community feels about this type of alpha masculine behavior. Am I doing the right thing to let him have this outlet and control my emotions in light of the wonderful life and love he provides for me? -Ps- the bachelor party is looming and I’m just dreading having to swallow my emotions. There is a double standard because I’ll be expected to have a low key, transparent and very innocent bachelorette. But that never bothered me because I recognize the value of being innocent and “pure” as his bride. Maybe I’m just trying to feel better about this.",,4,Just-Sun3990,1680626701.0 +Ps- the bachelor party is looming and I’m just dreading having to swallow my emotions. There is a double standard because I’ll be expected to have a low key, transparent and very innocent bachelorette. But that never bothered me because I recognize the value of being innocent and “pure” as his bride. Maybe I’m just trying to feel better about this.",,4,Just-Sun3990,2023-04-04 16:45:01 RedPillWomen,12b7l4s,"Is my(32F)future mother-in-law(67F) living with us (4 year long term relationship) a dysfunctional dynamic? She helps him (41M) with his business, cooks, and does his laundry. And she’s one of his employees. He’s made it clear that she’s there to stay.","My boyfriend of 4 years (many of them unstable, on and off, we both have some issues… but it's been much better the last year) has a successful landscaping and cleaning company. His mom, his sister and him (dad was abusive, leftwhen he was 9) were very poor as he was growing up. His mom didnt graduate highschool i dont think (or barely graduated) but was a cna for 20 years. Doesnt drive, not super educated. Sort of simple intellectually and i dont mean that in a bad way, we get along fine and her outwardly uncomplicated nature is refreshing for the most part. She's just not really educated, but a lot of common sense and great work ethic. Her ex husband/his dad also abused her, cheated, and beat her, so shes had a tough life. Now my partner, at age 42, is very successful (I also watched his business grow quite a bit over 4 years). Pretty much a rags to riches, self-made man kind of story. @@ -9132,7 +9132,7 @@ TLDR; I’m afraid my mother in law living with us and being so crucial to his b What are your thoughts? -Thanks so much for reading.",,7,Hellotrueme,1680578211.0 +Thanks so much for reading.",,7,Hellotrueme,2023-04-04 03:16:51 RedPillWomen,12as3rq,Want vs Settle,"Despite my insecurities in sharing my thoughts and opinions, I am completely open to criticism and insight about this. I didn’t want to share this in any other group bc of generalizing perceptions of rp and won’t help solve any cultural problems in the rp group. I don’t identify as rp but there are some perspectives I’m open to just to be clear. One topic I hear in the rp community especially in the men’s circles is that women don’t know what they want. Not referring to all rp men because I know all of them don’t see eye to eye with everything just like any movement/group. You can be pro black as a black woman but not support the organization BLM. @@ -9147,17 +9147,17 @@ If all I want are burgers from McDonald’s everyday when I should be needing he People deep inside know they want a loving and supportive partner/husband. If you asked anyone what they want in someone, they’ll give you a list that’s genuine. -So yeah being told I don’t know what I want doesn’t make sense to me. I just settled for someone I thought had what I was looking for and also made me realize the lack of confidence and boundaries I had for myself.",,26,Waxflower8,1680544435.0 -RedPillWomen,12aq9mn,Need advice and maybe some friends,Thank you all for your advice,,5,[deleted],1680540749.0 +So yeah being told I don’t know what I want doesn’t make sense to me. I just settled for someone I thought had what I was looking for and also made me realize the lack of confidence and boundaries I had for myself.",,26,Waxflower8,2023-04-03 17:53:55 +RedPillWomen,12aq9mn,Need advice and maybe some friends,Thank you all for your advice,,5,[deleted],2023-04-03 16:52:29 RedPillWomen,12abn3f,What kind of shoes do you wear?,"I’m flat footed so heels are painful, but what about other daily options? -With the weather getting warmer I think sandals?",,8,mcnuggg8,1680503030.0 -RedPillWomen,1296l3c,What exactly is a Red Pill Woman?,"I have been enjoying this subreddit for some time now but I am still a bit unclear of what a Red Pill Woman encompasses. I like the relationship advice, the respect for our men (I love my husband), and the overall feminine qualities that many members here seem dedicated too. I would just love a little more insight.",,21,Living_the_dream87,1680401051.0 +With the weather getting warmer I think sandals?",,8,mcnuggg8,2023-04-03 06:23:50 +RedPillWomen,1296l3c,What exactly is a Red Pill Woman?,"I have been enjoying this subreddit for some time now but I am still a bit unclear of what a Red Pill Woman encompasses. I like the relationship advice, the respect for our men (I love my husband), and the overall feminine qualities that many members here seem dedicated too. I would just love a little more insight.",,21,Living_the_dream87,2023-04-02 02:04:11 RedPillWomen,129jpo1,"Dating, Only F*ns and the Whatever podcast","[https://karijanz.substack.com/p/dating-only-fns-and-the-whatever](https://karijanz.substack.com/p/dating-only-fns-and-the-whatever) -This is an article with embedded video examining today’s dating landscape, the proliferation of Only F\*ns and distrust/disrespect between the sexes. I pick apart the factors that have contributed to this trend, such as feminism, outcast men, online culture, dopamine manipulation and dating apps’ impact on women’s self-perceptions of desirability. Young Only Fans women cite feminism as the source and justification for their work/promiscuity. I discuss whether “fighting the patriarchy” has made things worse for all. Thoughts?",,1,TheDirtyRealist,1680438193.0 -RedPillWomen,128a40s,Success so far with husband,"I’ve been working through the sidebar and I’m on chapter 5 of Fascinating Womanhood. I did the exercise with my husband for writing down ten masculine things I love about him. He absolutely loved it. When I showed him, he lit up so much and he kept saying we should do it more often. He said it really helped him. The rest of the day he kept bringing it up and telling me it made him so happy and he said he felt like he sucked at those things but he was so happy I thought otherwise. He thanked me for being so supportive and he has been so sweet all day. I’ve already noticed a change in him and his confidence, happiness, and his demeanor in general. I’m really trying to put in the work and I’m glad it is actually going somewhere. I’ve also been reading The Surrendered Wife and trying to implement that as well. I’m so happy I found this forum and I’m excited to keep learning and growing!",,88,50stradwife,1680320585.0 -RedPillWomen,128ebbp,"What is day-to-day, concrete ways to show respect to your husband ?",,,20,LillithSanguinum,1680332896.0 -RedPillWomen,128dkzs,body count issue,"how do you answer how many people you slept with? I messed up with my current bf and i told him the # & he included himself in that #. ended up coming out there was one guy that we hadn’t talked about. he said he didn’t care but was just mad i lied and i was upset bc i didn’t feel like i even had to tell and he was pressuring me so much to talk about it. but he put in his head that i lied to him and it became a big fight. now he is asking how many guys i’ve given bjs too. and saying stuff like “what else have you lied to me about” & “you just want to look innocent” etc. i’m really not a hoe, and have only slept with either bfs or a guy i had talked to for over a year, and each one was 2 years a part. i’m wondering if i actually have to answer the bj thing or how to answer it that doesn’t make it seem like i’m trying to hide or don’t want to talk about it bc it’s a high #. most of that happened before i knew about red pill and i live in a very liberal area so looking back on some of those experiences i realize i was trying to get validation or those guys didn’t really deserve that and feel gross about it now, even tho i didn’t do anything wrong. i have a low body count but i really don’t want to go over every guy i’ve done anything with. esp since he has hooked up with 5x as many people as me. how do i answer this?",,11,Sarahhartttt,1680330611.0 +This is an article with embedded video examining today’s dating landscape, the proliferation of Only F\*ns and distrust/disrespect between the sexes. I pick apart the factors that have contributed to this trend, such as feminism, outcast men, online culture, dopamine manipulation and dating apps’ impact on women’s self-perceptions of desirability. Young Only Fans women cite feminism as the source and justification for their work/promiscuity. I discuss whether “fighting the patriarchy” has made things worse for all. Thoughts?",,1,TheDirtyRealist,2023-04-02 12:23:13 +RedPillWomen,128a40s,Success so far with husband,"I’ve been working through the sidebar and I’m on chapter 5 of Fascinating Womanhood. I did the exercise with my husband for writing down ten masculine things I love about him. He absolutely loved it. When I showed him, he lit up so much and he kept saying we should do it more often. He said it really helped him. The rest of the day he kept bringing it up and telling me it made him so happy and he said he felt like he sucked at those things but he was so happy I thought otherwise. He thanked me for being so supportive and he has been so sweet all day. I’ve already noticed a change in him and his confidence, happiness, and his demeanor in general. I’m really trying to put in the work and I’m glad it is actually going somewhere. I’ve also been reading The Surrendered Wife and trying to implement that as well. I’m so happy I found this forum and I’m excited to keep learning and growing!",,88,50stradwife,2023-04-01 03:43:05 +RedPillWomen,128ebbp,"What is day-to-day, concrete ways to show respect to your husband ?",,,20,LillithSanguinum,2023-04-01 07:08:16 +RedPillWomen,128dkzs,body count issue,"how do you answer how many people you slept with? I messed up with my current bf and i told him the # & he included himself in that #. ended up coming out there was one guy that we hadn’t talked about. he said he didn’t care but was just mad i lied and i was upset bc i didn’t feel like i even had to tell and he was pressuring me so much to talk about it. but he put in his head that i lied to him and it became a big fight. now he is asking how many guys i’ve given bjs too. and saying stuff like “what else have you lied to me about” & “you just want to look innocent” etc. i’m really not a hoe, and have only slept with either bfs or a guy i had talked to for over a year, and each one was 2 years a part. i’m wondering if i actually have to answer the bj thing or how to answer it that doesn’t make it seem like i’m trying to hide or don’t want to talk about it bc it’s a high #. most of that happened before i knew about red pill and i live in a very liberal area so looking back on some of those experiences i realize i was trying to get validation or those guys didn’t really deserve that and feel gross about it now, even tho i didn’t do anything wrong. i have a low body count but i really don’t want to go over every guy i’ve done anything with. esp since he has hooked up with 5x as many people as me. how do i answer this?",,11,Sarahhartttt,2023-04-01 06:30:11 RedPillWomen,128dj8o,Can we socially enforce monogamy once more?,"So if you’ve been in the rp space long enough you’ll know that female promiscuity post the sexual revolution is the chief cause for the downfall of monogamy. But does anyone have hope we can bring it back?? Like reach the young women and wake them up? Women need to see into their futures and know that the men like those who the rp guys look up to (the Tates, F&F, etc.) will never be a wise choice and as women we can’t be operating like cavewomen simply going after the biggest and “best”. @@ -9168,8 +9168,8 @@ We as women enable these men. We shape them. They do what they do to get us- as And honestly if women were smarter when it came to mating society would be more stable- more two parent households, less bitter hurt men if women were faithful and reasonable in their expectations of them, etc. This isn’t about getting what women want at mens expense. Monogamy is an intelligent compromise that causes society to flourish. -Ugh I guess I’m just ranting and hoping for some reassurance things aren’t just gonna keep going to hell.",,2,[deleted],1680330456.0 -RedPillWomen,128784c,Thinking about starting a blog; suggestions?,"I’m thinking of starting a blog about mental health, relationships, and politics as it pertains to the RP lifestyle. Maybe even doing a small weekly advice column with specific scenarios. Reviewing books, etc /all for personal development; fun; etc. I understand blogs are a saturated market but I figure it’s a clean and enriching project that can’t hurt. Looking to get ideas of some niche or important ideas and topics from everybody!",,6,worldlysentiments,1680312988.0 +Ugh I guess I’m just ranting and hoping for some reassurance things aren’t just gonna keep going to hell.",,2,[deleted],2023-04-01 06:27:36 +RedPillWomen,128784c,Thinking about starting a blog; suggestions?,"I’m thinking of starting a blog about mental health, relationships, and politics as it pertains to the RP lifestyle. Maybe even doing a small weekly advice column with specific scenarios. Reviewing books, etc /all for personal development; fun; etc. I understand blogs are a saturated market but I figure it’s a clean and enriching project that can’t hurt. Looking to get ideas of some niche or important ideas and topics from everybody!",,6,worldlysentiments,2023-04-01 01:36:28 RedPillWomen,127m9gs,Generosity. I don't understand where I'm going wrong ?,"Hi Been in relationship a few years we don't live together. In every relationship I have this problem where I'm very generous but the man isn't really. I'm generous with my time, affection, listening , I pay for my own taxi. He will sometimes pay my cab but I feel I can't just straight out ask for it. @@ -9180,7 +9180,7 @@ I sometimes feel a bit resentful about this. I think I'm generous, I even take s I feel stuck how to go about this? Is it me being too generous? Any help or discussion would be lovely ! -Thanks",,8,GlamGemini,1680270937.0 +Thanks",,8,GlamGemini,2023-03-31 13:55:37 RedPillWomen,1276bh7,What draws the line between having Good Morals and Being Feminine?,"Hey, how are you girls (and guys) doing? I'm not sure if this is the right sub but since I'm talking about feminity I just thought why not? @@ -9195,14 +9195,14 @@ Can you be feminine without being nice? Do you think traits such as being gentle and nurturing are masculine? -I honestly just want to hear your opinion about it, I hope I don't sound like I'm venting or something like that.",,5,Vague_Poker,1680227346.0 -RedPillWomen,1254l69,Single at 30 - how do I not freak out?,"I am a single 30 year old woman. I would like kids but realize my time is very limited. How do I not freak out about my age and relationship status? Even if I meet the right guy now, we would be years away from being able to have kids. If I waste any time with a man who turns out not to work out, I will likely be too late. This is all compounded by the fact that many men might view me as too old for a serious relationship now. How do I stop freaking out about this?",,49,[deleted],1680042479.0 +I honestly just want to hear your opinion about it, I hope I don't sound like I'm venting or something like that.",,5,Vague_Poker,2023-03-31 01:49:06 +RedPillWomen,1254l69,Single at 30 - how do I not freak out?,"I am a single 30 year old woman. I would like kids but realize my time is very limited. How do I not freak out about my age and relationship status? Even if I meet the right guy now, we would be years away from being able to have kids. If I waste any time with a man who turns out not to work out, I will likely be too late. This is all compounded by the fact that many men might view me as too old for a serious relationship now. How do I stop freaking out about this?",,49,[deleted],2023-03-28 22:27:59 RedPillWomen,124r8hx,Women Have Lost All Power And How They Can Get It Back,"[https://youtu.be/J2\_q5vFk6SA](https://youtu.be/J2_q5vFk6SA) -This video describes the sad reality of the sexual liberation movement. It actually does more harm for women and disempowers them. Sexual revolution is better for the biology of men than it is for the biology of women in that women are harmed more than men are by it. The key for women was exclusivity and solidarity in encouraging marriage and fidelity, that in term gave them power over what was expected in the behaviour of men. Now men control terms more so than women in relationships and dating and of course marriage is optional.",,37,petitereddit,1680015213.0 -RedPillWomen,12476l5,What do you do to keep your brain stimulated?,,,11,Vegetable_Poetry_531,1679964643.0 -RedPillWomen,123jkwb,What are your hobbies?,I personally enjoy to read every day but I am looking to gain more hobbies,,9,Vegetable_Poetry_531,1679915160.0 -RedPillWomen,1230j1n,Boyfriend won't give up porn unless i give up instagram,"I asked my boyfriend to stop watching porn as it makes me jealous and uncomfortable, he agreed but later told me he had watched again when i asked if he had, when confronted again with my wish for him to stop, he compared it to instagram and said he will only stop when i will stop using instagram, i somewhat see his point, the whole dm sliding makes him uncomfortable, on the other hand i get most of my dj bookings from that platform. He sais that if someone only books you because it is easy to do it via instagram, they dont really appreciate me after all. I kind of agree but feel irritated at how this conversation is going, maybe bec i cannot have my way.. How do you look at this?",,30,floravanderrohe,1679866538.0 +This video describes the sad reality of the sexual liberation movement. It actually does more harm for women and disempowers them. Sexual revolution is better for the biology of men than it is for the biology of women in that women are harmed more than men are by it. The key for women was exclusivity and solidarity in encouraging marriage and fidelity, that in term gave them power over what was expected in the behaviour of men. Now men control terms more so than women in relationships and dating and of course marriage is optional.",,37,petitereddit,2023-03-28 14:53:33 +RedPillWomen,12476l5,What do you do to keep your brain stimulated?,,,11,Vegetable_Poetry_531,2023-03-28 00:50:43 +RedPillWomen,123jkwb,What are your hobbies?,I personally enjoy to read every day but I am looking to gain more hobbies,,9,Vegetable_Poetry_531,2023-03-27 11:06:00 +RedPillWomen,1230j1n,Boyfriend won't give up porn unless i give up instagram,"I asked my boyfriend to stop watching porn as it makes me jealous and uncomfortable, he agreed but later told me he had watched again when i asked if he had, when confronted again with my wish for him to stop, he compared it to instagram and said he will only stop when i will stop using instagram, i somewhat see his point, the whole dm sliding makes him uncomfortable, on the other hand i get most of my dj bookings from that platform. He sais that if someone only books you because it is easy to do it via instagram, they dont really appreciate me after all. I kind of agree but feel irritated at how this conversation is going, maybe bec i cannot have my way.. How do you look at this?",,30,floravanderrohe,2023-03-26 21:35:38 RedPillWomen,122n3tk,A Conversation with My Mother,"So today is my mom's birthday and last night I went out with her and a few of her friends to celebrate. We ended the night with just the two of us sitting and chatting at a cozy little bar. We were talking about how fast time flies and she told me that she misses when my brother and I were little and how it feels like yesterday we were still in elementary school. This sparked a long discussion about motherhood and raising children and I will relay some of the things that she said that I think was important. @@ -9223,7 +9223,7 @@ Kids can pick up a lot more than your realize. They'll know how you feel about t My mom went to every sports game and play performance we were in. She said that it was part of her job. It didn't matter how much she didn't want to go, she went to support us as our mom. -This is all the advice and knowledge she had to share. My mom is not perfect by any means, but she is definitely a great mother and I look up to her and how she raised us. I know this may not technically be overly red pill related, but I thought you all might find it interesting. So much of red pill is focused on men and women and relationships that I think that we forget to talk about how kids and family fits in. I thought that this conversation would be good to share here.",,64,lady_marm,1679839609.0 +This is all the advice and knowledge she had to share. My mom is not perfect by any means, but she is definitely a great mother and I look up to her and how she raised us. I know this may not technically be overly red pill related, but I thought you all might find it interesting. So much of red pill is focused on men and women and relationships that I think that we forget to talk about how kids and family fits in. I thought that this conversation would be good to share here.",,64,lady_marm,2023-03-26 14:06:49 RedPillWomen,12364ff,"Pattern of dating/talking to military guys, hasn’t worked out, would appreciate advice!","Hello everybody! I feel like today’s question is kind of weird, but I’m going to ask it regardless. Thank you all for your time! My friends and I joke that my type is older, former military, conservative men, as that’s almost always who I wind up talking to or dating (although only have had one ex boyfriend). Part of that is my own taste, part of that is they’re the kind of guys who pursue me. I’m a bit flirty with everybody by nature, and they tend to be the ones to actively come after me. @@ -9233,7 +9233,7 @@ I’ve realized that my preference is because former military guys (at least the The problem is, this type hasn’t been working out for me. I always seem to have significant value differences from them; I would describe myself as socially liberal but personally traditional, and I’d prefer somebody relatively similar to me (moderate or slight conservative would be fine). So far I’ve come across guys who are very conservative, very religious, or both. How do I find a better match between my preferences and my values? I feel like so many of the guys my age at college are more immature, and I’m not as interested in them. Should I just work at seeing the positive traits in my peers? Should I try to be more willing to compromise if I have value differences? I feel like I’m struggling to find guys/peers I’m attracted to and want to follow, and that comes so much easier when they’re older and more confident (again, aware this is not exactly unusual), which in my area heavily overlaps with former military. Also, I swear I don’t have some kind of military fetish lol, I usually find out guys are military AFTER I start talking with them. For any context, I am 21F and go to college in California. -(Edited bc typo, said my age is 20)",,6,Valuable_Place1265,1679878993.0 +(Edited bc typo, said my age is 20)",,6,Valuable_Place1265,2023-03-27 01:03:13 RedPillWomen,1233zc0,How do I (28F) reconnect with my now responsible ex (34M)?,"My ex and I dated when I was a teenager, but then things went wrong and we decided to be just friends. Well, in theory. Life went on and on and we always ended up together as friends with benefits, something I didn't want but I tried to convince him to be my boyfriend. He didn't have a job and was very irresponsible with his money. He was a NEET and a total mess. @@ -9247,23 +9247,23 @@ I consider myself a very attractive woman, looking younger than my actual age, 5 My ex is now a man who is monogamous, with a stable job and single. Lately he's been hitting on me, but I can feel that he only wants casual sex. I'm interested in dating him as I see him as a potential husband with values that can be compatible with mine. -The only problem is: how do I reconnect with him as a possible girlfriend and wife? How can I make myself look desirable for him but not only in a sexual way? Any recommendations?",,0,Inevitable-Target913,1679873982.0 +The only problem is: how do I reconnect with him as a possible girlfriend and wife? How can I make myself look desirable for him but not only in a sexual way? Any recommendations?",,0,Inevitable-Target913,2023-03-26 23:39:42 RedPillWomen,121q0ev,"Word for belief that women and men have equal value, but not the same skill set?","I was talking with a friend about how I don't consider myself a feminist. She wanted to know what I do consider myself, and I couldn't come up with a word for it. -What do you think?",,26,V3r1disqu0,1679759484.0 -RedPillWomen,1223w50,Gender Dysphoria,Does anyone else here struggle with wanting to transition? How do you become more feminine and create a feminine identity in spite of it?,,4,[deleted],1679788304.0 +What do you think?",,26,V3r1disqu0,2023-03-25 15:51:24 +RedPillWomen,1223w50,Gender Dysphoria,Does anyone else here struggle with wanting to transition? How do you become more feminine and create a feminine identity in spite of it?,,4,[deleted],2023-03-25 23:51:44 RedPillWomen,121ikf4,Getting a plastic surgery,"Hey, it's me again. I guess I'm stuck with my looks on this journey to find my own womanhood. I feel that my appearance has too many masculine features. Like my nose, chin, eyes. When I try to act in a feminine way, I feel like it's very strange to me because I don't look cute or sweet. Also, since I have a genetic heritage, my eyes are hooded and I have eye bags, it gives me a very tired look, even if I put on make-up, I can't cover it up. I was recently considering getting surgery for my eyes and nose, but my family said they couldn't afford both so I have to choose one. I don't want to regret doing this, I want to know what you think about plastic surgery. If any of you have had it done, can you share your experiences? - I also sometimes wonder if people don’t like me rn cause how I look in a romantic relationship, will their feelings be genuine after surgeries? Do I deserve to be loved only if I am beautiful? Sounds quite depressing to me. I'm afraid to project these feelings onto the people I will meet in future.",,13,Subject_Community995,1679742524.0 -RedPillWomen,121jy9g,Red pill music???,"Hi everyone. I’m fairly new to the red pill community. I was introduced to it by someone I’m currently dating and ever since I’ve been trying to change everything I can that’s littering my brain with modern women ideologies etc. I’m big on music, I play an instrument as well as listen to music 80% of my day (soul r&b, alternative, soft pop/rock) my SO has expressed that some of the things I listen to do not at all promote red pill behavior, if anything, majority of it is either demeaning to men or putting women on certain pedestals because of their beauty, how much money they make, how independent they are and so on. I’m curious to know if anyone here listens to certain artists because of what they promote in their lyrics + music. If so, please share!",,1,crucifuxxxx,1679746155.0 + I also sometimes wonder if people don’t like me rn cause how I look in a romantic relationship, will their feelings be genuine after surgeries? Do I deserve to be loved only if I am beautiful? Sounds quite depressing to me. I'm afraid to project these feelings onto the people I will meet in future.",,13,Subject_Community995,2023-03-25 11:08:44 +RedPillWomen,121jy9g,Red pill music???,"Hi everyone. I’m fairly new to the red pill community. I was introduced to it by someone I’m currently dating and ever since I’ve been trying to change everything I can that’s littering my brain with modern women ideologies etc. I’m big on music, I play an instrument as well as listen to music 80% of my day (soul r&b, alternative, soft pop/rock) my SO has expressed that some of the things I listen to do not at all promote red pill behavior, if anything, majority of it is either demeaning to men or putting women on certain pedestals because of their beauty, how much money they make, how independent they are and so on. I’m curious to know if anyone here listens to certain artists because of what they promote in their lyrics + music. If so, please share!",,1,crucifuxxxx,2023-03-25 12:09:15 RedPillWomen,120xh6t,Am I being sensitive?,"My (19F) boyfriend (22M) is awesome to be around, but his jokes now push boundaries and I dont know if i’m being sensitive. His humor is very crude and I cant take it anymore. For example, his eye was swollen shut only a few days ago due to allergies and told me “the doctor told me that looking at 20 naked women from this eye would solve it” or would replay polygamous or cheating lyrics over and over again. It’s annoying and a turn off. He actually just called and made another joke and said it’s to “get you riled up” and make me jealous. Am I being too sensitive? -Edit: With school ive been a bit busy with replying to comments on here, but I have read them all. Thank you to everyone for your kind words and affirmations, I appreciate the feedback and love i’ve been getting🥺❤️",,15,hadyayasmin,1679689889.0 +Edit: With school ive been a bit busy with replying to comments on here, but I have read them all. Thank you to everyone for your kind words and affirmations, I appreciate the feedback and love i’ve been getting🥺❤️",,15,hadyayasmin,2023-03-24 20:31:29 RedPillWomen,12199jt,How did you develop your personal style?,"Did you intentionally dress to send a message or just wear whatever was comfortable and flattering on you? I (21F) don’t have a particular aesthetic I’m trying to follow, but I want to fill my closet with simple investment pieces in solid, neutral colors for a sort of understated luxury vibe. Clearly nice but not flashy. -Lately I’ve been living in loafers, turtlenecks, blazers, and straight-leg pants. I’d like to be more discerning about what I buy so I can collect high-quality, classic pieces that go with anything and last a long time. Although sometimes I worry this style ages me or makes me look stuffy compared to most of my female classmates who have a more casual, trendy, Y2K type aesthetic (lots of crop tops, sneakers, and baggy pants).",,2,Ok-Coat7665,1679715244.0 +Lately I’ve been living in loafers, turtlenecks, blazers, and straight-leg pants. I’d like to be more discerning about what I buy so I can collect high-quality, classic pieces that go with anything and last a long time. Although sometimes I worry this style ages me or makes me look stuffy compared to most of my female classmates who have a more casual, trendy, Y2K type aesthetic (lots of crop tops, sneakers, and baggy pants).",,2,Ok-Coat7665,2023-03-25 03:34:04 RedPillWomen,120vvbd,My take on RP and BP," They love to talk about the animal kingdom but fail to actually talk about the bonobo or how other predators work. It cherry picks, that’s what RP is. Let alone other cultures dynamics, especially ancient cultures. People who get sucked into this fake “trad” know nothing of our history just short of 100 years ago, they don’t even know what trad is. They use the Bible yet, never in context but in furthering shame worse than catholicism and with no contrition to boot. @@ -9279,7 +9279,7 @@ I just read a couple of the rational male books and I’m on RP & exRP forum Being a sahw and mother is a beautiful thing to the right man. Taking kindness for weakness is always evil. If you loved someone you wouldn’t exploit them you would teach them how to protect themselves AND protect them; as that is your job. Men give and women receive & multiply. Give a good wise woman money and she will make you more of it, a house and she will make you a home, love and she will help you achieve your purpose with confidence and wisdom, help her and you will be her respected hero, give her a wound and she will heal it, food and you will have a delicious meal, semen and you will have progeny…a woman will help you create a legacy. She offers her wise insight and compassionate warmth. We are not doormats, we are each others helpmeets. Men also have so much to offer women, but RP teaches them not to. They keep them boys. Maybe it helps physically as to body care and structure, but it keeps them in fear/shame loops. -TL;DR: It’s the male equivalent of feminism. Misandry and misogyny. This is not the way and if anything it’s anti trad. Men and women are nothing without each other. We have what the other lacks. Without each other we can be the low vibrational sheep that they desire.",,3,Environmental_Lie561,1679687206.0 +TL;DR: It’s the male equivalent of feminism. Misandry and misogyny. This is not the way and if anything it’s anti trad. Men and women are nothing without each other. We have what the other lacks. Without each other we can be the low vibrational sheep that they desire.",,3,Environmental_Lie561,2023-03-24 19:46:46 RedPillWomen,11zug8n,Giving This Up,"I (26f) went to a venue to support my (25m) boyfriend last night. It has gotten warmer recently where I live, so I thought to bring out my spring/summer closet. I chose to wear a short skirt and top. BIG MISTAKE! @@ -9290,7 +9290,7 @@ It's amazing how much difference a year can make. Last year when I bought that s What's more, I saw a woman last night wearing a long dress and felt emotions about that. Not jealousy, just enlightened. She looked gorgeous and feminine yet still sexy! Even though she was covered from shoulder to ankle. I want to embody more of that style in my wardrobe. I've already bought 3 maxi skirts that I feel beautiful in. I think I'm moving in the right direction. -Moral of the story: sexy ≠ exposed",,124,AmilliBee,1679599410.0 +Moral of the story: sexy ≠ exposed",,124,AmilliBee,2023-03-23 19:23:30 RedPillWomen,11za3xu,Am I a low value women? Would any man want to marry me?,"I desire a traditional relationship and would love to have a big family in the future. However, I am 19 and a single mother. @@ -9312,7 +9312,7 @@ I am Christian. I go to church. I try my best to be feminine. Is it possible for A part of me also feels angry because my ex had told me no one is going to want me now that I have a child. In a way I feel “trapped” by him even though I am not. -I get so angry at myself for even allowing this to happen. And I did consider abortion but that was obviously out of the question. Am I really low value? Am I really worthless as a woman? I also watch a lot of Andrew Tate and that doesn’t really seem to help me either as it makes me so ashamed for having a child out of wedlock.",,59,ronchyroberta,1679549426.0 +I get so angry at myself for even allowing this to happen. And I did consider abortion but that was obviously out of the question. Am I really low value? Am I really worthless as a woman? I also watch a lot of Andrew Tate and that doesn’t really seem to help me either as it makes me so ashamed for having a child out of wedlock.",,59,ronchyroberta,2023-03-23 05:30:26 RedPillWomen,11zrd05,My Intake On Trad Wife Criticism,"First off I want to say some people’s concerns about women staying home while the man is the main breadwinner are very valid concerns because it is a very vulnerable position to be in and can whole heartedly be taken advantage of so I agree on the risk of financial codependency. But what I would argue is being a working woman will not protect you from abuse. I mean if anything, you’ll still have an income if you have to urgently leave the situation/divorce and there are things you can do to protect yourself. @@ -9331,12 +9331,12 @@ I’m not saying this is something simple to learn or understand so you avoid to And honestly some of us have a lot of weaknesses from past trauma that we haven’t healed from getting us into toxic situations. Sometimes we mistaken setting boundaries for being mean and super judgmental when we’re just doing ourselves a favor and protecting ourselves. Or maybe you always feel the need to fix people and their situations when that’s entirely up to the individual. Or maybe we struggle trying to please people so they’ll like and validate us. That’s why I’m getting into therapy so I can make better decisions when it comes to the people I associate or be vulnerable with. -Just my thoughts, I’m still learning and observing on my mental health journey. Some of y’all might have better insight on this topic than I do. Have a lovely day ladies ✨💐",,5,Waxflower8,1679592759.0 +Just my thoughts, I’m still learning and observing on my mental health journey. Some of y’all might have better insight on this topic than I do. Have a lovely day ladies ✨💐",,5,Waxflower8,2023-03-23 17:32:39 RedPillWomen,11zk3y8,Should I wait to date or put myself out there now?,"Hello ladies. I'm 23 F and have never actually dated, been in any kind of relationship, or even been kissed. I want to find a good guy who also is interested in a trad lifestyle and wants a family. The problem is that I don't consider myself desirable and I don't think men do either. I'm fat, messy and unorganized, deal with quite a bit of depression & anxiety, and not self-reliant. I have a pretty face and a decent job, but that's all I really have going for myself. Whenever I think about dating, I tell myself to wait. Wait until I lose weight or wait until I go to therapy or wait until I've moved out (I still live with my parents). I've worked at each of those goals with very little/no success. I'm afraid that if I keep putting it off and waiting, it'll be too late. Last year, a close friend of mine got married. His wife reminds me of myself in that she also has conventionally unattractive traits, but was able to marry the right man for her. It kind of changed my perspective. What if I don't have to wait until I'm ""good enough"" to put myself out there? But then I wonder what men would find me attractive. Part of the reason I've never dated is because no guys have ever been interested enough in me. What if I put myself out there and find out I really am as undesirable as I thought? -I guess I'm just asking if anyone else has experienced being unattractive and if you've found success in dating. Should I wait until I'm better or get a head start?",,6,lady_marm,1679577398.0 +I guess I'm just asking if anyone else has experienced being unattractive and if you've found success in dating. Should I wait until I'm better or get a head start?",,6,lady_marm,2023-03-23 13:16:38 RedPillWomen,11zcuhy,Unsure to date or not,"Hello ladies, Im a 26 year old woman, 27 in Aug, single since December and I’ve moved to a new city. @@ -9347,7 +9347,7 @@ I would like to be a youngish mum and get married around 30. Do you think I’m At the moment, I don’t feel ready for a man but equally I don’t want to waste my best years looks wise to attract a hubby! -What’s your thoughts?",,2,[deleted],1679557419.0 +What’s your thoughts?",,2,[deleted],2023-03-23 07:43:39 RedPillWomen,11xxaia,Modesty & Vanity: How to balance those two in day to day life?,"Hi all! This question seems a little silly compared to all the other questions on here, but I've posted before and got great advice, so... hopefully you can help me with this! @@ -9364,20 +9364,20 @@ How do you practice modesty while at the same time not hurting your looks? Is some vanity really that bad? -I'd love to hear from all you ladies, especially those who hold Christian/Catholic views! ❤️",,19,templilwitch,1679438022.0 +I'd love to hear from all you ladies, especially those who hold Christian/Catholic views! ❤️",,19,templilwitch,2023-03-21 22:33:42 RedPillWomen,11ytxli,Wall-friendly careers,"I (25F) still don't have a bachelor's degree even though I'm 25. I feel if I attempted to get one that too much time would pass (&I'd hit the wall), I wouldn't have enough money in the short term to improve my physical appearance (I need plastic surgery), and/or it would be in a field that wouldn't make enough money. I know that if I want a good quality husband I needed to have found him yesterday. But I'm dedicating this year to self-improvement and hopefully by the end of it I will be able to get him & start having kids. What stable middle class jobs are good to get into easily? -Thanks!",,0,[deleted],1679513654.0 -RedPillWomen,11xh3me,How to let it go when I think he's wrong.,"I'm not talking about big stuff. Obviously, if he's spending $1,000 on marbles, I'll say something. However, I have a conundrum when it comes to smaller stuff. I'm an opinionated person, as is my husband, and when we disagree, we ***disagree.*** We have worked to contain this over the years with relative success, however, I still disagree on small things whenever I think he's wrong. I don't know how to let this go. It's almost never worth arguing about in hindsight; things like why people do or don't get fired at my job. A lot of opinion based stuff. I just get caught up in the feeling that I *know* he's wrong, and it burns inside of me like I'll explode if I don't say something. How do I get over this hurdle?",,33,[deleted],1679405772.0 +Thanks!",,0,[deleted],2023-03-22 19:34:14 +RedPillWomen,11xh3me,How to let it go when I think he's wrong.,"I'm not talking about big stuff. Obviously, if he's spending $1,000 on marbles, I'll say something. However, I have a conundrum when it comes to smaller stuff. I'm an opinionated person, as is my husband, and when we disagree, we ***disagree.*** We have worked to contain this over the years with relative success, however, I still disagree on small things whenever I think he's wrong. I don't know how to let this go. It's almost never worth arguing about in hindsight; things like why people do or don't get fired at my job. A lot of opinion based stuff. I just get caught up in the feeling that I *know* he's wrong, and it burns inside of me like I'll explode if I don't say something. How do I get over this hurdle?",,33,[deleted],2023-03-21 13:36:12 RedPillWomen,11x5ooi,Is it possible to be a RPW as a single mother?,"New here, but a big fan of the lifestyle and mindset. Reading a lot of the sidebar stuff and the posts by other redditors here has really got me thinking about my previous relationships and “almost” relationships and how I attract a certain caliber of man based off of who I am as a female and where I am at in life. I would like to attract better, HVM, and I know that that starts with me working on myself and becoming someone of high value as well. -As a single mother, is it possible to attract a HVM that is okay/open with my situation?",,4,modernn-girll,1679369786.0 +As a single mother, is it possible to attract a HVM that is okay/open with my situation?",,4,modernn-girll,2023-03-21 03:36:26 RedPillWomen,11wquxo,Would living in a van be seen as a red flag by good men?,"Hi, so, I'm 28 and I've been contemplating for a long time buying a van and living in it with my cat. I'm very RP aware and in in both my previous relationships have followed the concepts discussed in this sub. At this point in my life I'm basically looking to get married and start a family with a good guy who has the same strong family values (good husband, father, respects gender roles, respects me). I basically want to do everything possible to attract a good man and this even includes deciding whether or not to live in a van. I don't want to adopt a lifestyle that could put good men off and/or attract the wrong sorts of men. @@ -9396,7 +9396,7 @@ If I met someone I would be willing to stay longer in one place to give it a goo I'm just wondering, after all I've said, would living in a van be a red flag for a HVM? There are so many reasons I'm contemplating this lifestyle, but I don't want it to put off a potential good match for me. I wonder if I could just not mention it to people until I know they won't judge me with preconceived ideas about who I am? Although I don't want a guy to think I've been misleading and he can't trust me either. -What to do?",,18,wasuphomieG,1679336718.0 +What to do?",,18,wasuphomieG,2023-03-20 18:25:18 RedPillWomen,11wcsm6,"how to date to marry, and be a wife material?","I was scrolling through my instagram feed and saw that a guy I've been talking to a year ago and that was ""not ready for anything serious"" just got engaged to a girl that's a year younger than me and I'm 22 so it hit me that maybe I'm doing something wrong. I'm still a college student but so is the other girl, she is very pretty and so am I, we are vert close in age, we live in the same city, so it's not the way I look or my age or anything but maybe it's my personality and the way I act. @@ -9409,19 +9409,19 @@ I also find myself attracted and attracting guys that are more on the younger si I know I have a lot to work on but please tell me from where do I start. -I want to know how to attract and be attracted to the right guys and date with purpose, how to make them take you seriously, how to be a wife material?",,51,tr1shylol,1679300332.0 +I want to know how to attract and be attracted to the right guys and date with purpose, how to make them take you seriously, how to be a wife material?",,51,tr1shylol,2023-03-20 08:18:52 RedPillWomen,11wnu7b,Goal Is to travel somewhere every month: how to look like a high value woman while travelling and ensuring my own safety?,"I’m tired of waiting for my friends to travel so I’m going to go ahead and do it on my own. That being said, I want to make sure I stay acting and looking feminine. I’m also hyper-aware of my surroundings and don’t want to stand out and be a target. -Any tips? On how to travel and look put together. How to stay in the down-low. And how to stay feminine throughout solo traveling",,11,[deleted],1679330420.0 +Any tips? On how to travel and look put together. How to stay in the down-low. And how to stay feminine throughout solo traveling",,11,[deleted],2023-03-20 16:40:20 RedPillWomen,11wc7zt,advice please?,"hi ladies, i need some relationship advice, basically my boyfriend doesn’t feel deserving… of anything, because he’s “not successful”, i worry i feed into this giving him the idea that if he wants to be my boyfriend, he most be successful and become wealthy, he says i deserve the best and i truly appreciate this but it’s not necessary for me. i do come from a well off family and i do have some frivolous things and i know this feeds into his thoughts ( but i buy all of my designer second hand or through very exhausting thrifting i enjoy, and imho it’s more fun to me) i love him and i support him and it makes me beyond proud that he wants to work so hard for himself and i truly believe he’ll reach the stars someday if that’s what he wants!, but i don’t want to pressure him or add any type of anxieties to him on this matter. he said it makes him feel worst when im affectionate and sweet to him and do things for him because he just feels like he doesn’t deserve any of it, like he doesn’t deserve me. it makes me super sad and it breaks my heart because he is the greatest and i love him and i honestly would give him the universe if it was a possibility, it’s not, so i give him my (me) universe instead. i notice he worries “my patience” will run out and i will leave him, which is genuinely not true, i believe in him dearly. i don’t want to approach this in a “it doesn’t matter if you can’t” way because 1) he can and he will and 2) he’ll take it as in “you can’t do it” way because i know him and he’ll think i don’t believe in him. -but like i said, i do i just wish he didn’t worry so much about it and felt so pressured, i think it’s more of a self esteem issue but still, i just want him well and happy :(",,9,cluelessgirl111,1679298324.0 +but like i said, i do i just wish he didn’t worry so much about it and felt so pressured, i think it’s more of a self esteem issue but still, i just want him well and happy :(",,9,cluelessgirl111,2023-03-20 07:45:24 RedPillWomen,11w9a7h,My (25F) boyfriend (25M) isn't very verbally affectionate and it bitters me toward him,"I'm really hoping you ladies could provide some advice for this situation. I've done what the first step/right thing to do is and I had an honest conversation with him a couple months ago where I told him how important it is to me. @@ -9468,14 +9468,14 @@ He knows that while physical touch is number 3 for me, it feels like my need for Even though words is my #5, I still feel like I'm in *such* a deficit of them that it's just heartbreaking and isn't normal and wouldn't be well-received by ANYONE to have this much. Have I done everything I can, is there hope here outside of me having to just giddy up to accept it? -(I also am INCREDIBLY verbally affectionate toward him, like shower-him-in-compliments-every-two-seconds, and while this isn't his love language, I feel it should be endearing to him that I am this adamant about how much I like him and praise him, that the favor should naturally be returned if he has any level of interest in me at all :/ so I feel it's a 'such is life for the less genetically blessed' thing inevitably again)",,6,amandas_stickysitchy,1679288903.0 +(I also am INCREDIBLY verbally affectionate toward him, like shower-him-in-compliments-every-two-seconds, and while this isn't his love language, I feel it should be endearing to him that I am this adamant about how much I like him and praise him, that the favor should naturally be returned if he has any level of interest in me at all :/ so I feel it's a 'such is life for the less genetically blessed' thing inevitably again)",,6,amandas_stickysitchy,2023-03-20 05:08:23 RedPillWomen,11vpp3x,Need some advice,"Can someone give me some resources to read/watch (YouTube preferred) which would give me some tips on how to be more feminine. I work full time in a high demand job and we have 2 young kids. I'm finding it hard to embrace my femininity when I feel so burnt out some days. I'm a great cook. I've been putting more energy into keeping our house clean. My husband has commented he likes how I'm decorating our house (as we continue to settle in, just moved here in october). I'm trying to respect his budget as he designs it. -But like when it comes to me as a person, I'm losing weight and trying to dress more feminine and act more feminine but that'd where I feel I'm falling short. Any advice appreciated!",,15,mascarasmixers,1679243217.0 -RedPillWomen,11w21fu,Am I just a root and boot?,"I'm 20F, He's 38M. So I ended up seeing a guy I've known for years a few nights ago and it all went well but I only went to his house. After it he asked me to stay/spend the night. I had to go as I had an appointment the next morning. He then messaged me ""it was good seeing you don't forget the pill"", kinda felt iffyas he didn't in that moment ask for a round 2. He told me he is going on a trip in 2 weeks so I messaged him last night asking if we could see eachother before he leaves and his exact words were ""I'll see it's going to be hard as I just got a new job and I'm going to be working a lot before I leave"". Apart from all this, he has been heart reacting things I've been posting but we just haven't spoken about seeing eachother again. Thoughts? Tia",,0,rockkkxox,1679270018.0 -RedPillWomen,11vhza4,Actions that convey I like you when dating your boyfriend,My boyfriend of seven months recently conveyed to me I am a friendly but private person and it’s hard for him to know how I feel about him. It’s obvious I enjoy spending time with him since I keep accepting his date invitations but he wants a little more from me because I’m a little bit of a mystery to him. Ladies what are concrete actions you took when in the relationship to let your boyfriend know you like him and maybe also helped you get the ring 😁?,,10,chrissycash,1679222404.0 +But like when it comes to me as a person, I'm losing weight and trying to dress more feminine and act more feminine but that'd where I feel I'm falling short. Any advice appreciated!",,15,mascarasmixers,2023-03-19 16:26:57 +RedPillWomen,11w21fu,Am I just a root and boot?,"I'm 20F, He's 38M. So I ended up seeing a guy I've known for years a few nights ago and it all went well but I only went to his house. After it he asked me to stay/spend the night. I had to go as I had an appointment the next morning. He then messaged me ""it was good seeing you don't forget the pill"", kinda felt iffyas he didn't in that moment ask for a round 2. He told me he is going on a trip in 2 weeks so I messaged him last night asking if we could see eachother before he leaves and his exact words were ""I'll see it's going to be hard as I just got a new job and I'm going to be working a lot before I leave"". Apart from all this, he has been heart reacting things I've been posting but we just haven't spoken about seeing eachother again. Thoughts? Tia",,0,rockkkxox,2023-03-19 23:53:38 +RedPillWomen,11vhza4,Actions that convey I like you when dating your boyfriend,My boyfriend of seven months recently conveyed to me I am a friendly but private person and it’s hard for him to know how I feel about him. It’s obvious I enjoy spending time with him since I keep accepting his date invitations but he wants a little more from me because I’m a little bit of a mystery to him. Ladies what are concrete actions you took when in the relationship to let your boyfriend know you like him and maybe also helped you get the ring 😁?,,10,chrissycash,2023-03-19 10:40:04 RedPillWomen,11v81mj,I feel like I don’t deserve a life like this,"I’ve always wanted to be a stay at home wife. The thought of taking care of a home and family has always been appealing to me. But currently and most of my life, I struggle with maintaining a neat space, always feel burned out or depressed bc of not being happy with where my life is and neurological problems I’ve struggled with all my life and I’m kind of lazy because of that. @@ -9494,7 +9494,7 @@ I use to really be into creating art. Even though then I didn’t put much in be I also have some neurological complications. I forget things easily and make clumsy decisions. I never mean to and it comes off as irresponsible or careless to others. I’ve had a learning disability especially in language and it makes it difficult to process certain things. I feel like all of this makes me come off as stupid. I don’t show much confidence because I just assume I don’t really know what I’m doing or will mess up and look or sound stupid. I’m also struggling practice driving. Idk how long it will take me till I’m ready. I always feel like I disassociate a lot, I’m always in my head and easily get distracted. -Perhaps I may look attractive but I don’t feel attractive internally. I just want to be normal and prioritize my life. I just want to feel beautiful. I feel like a lazy and highly emotional child who deserves little respect.",,18,Waxflower8,1679191201.0 +Perhaps I may look attractive but I don’t feel attractive internally. I just want to be normal and prioritize my life. I just want to feel beautiful. I feel like a lazy and highly emotional child who deserves little respect.",,18,Waxflower8,2023-03-19 02:00:01 RedPillWomen,11tbkrl,"My husband hit on a 19 year old when he was 39, makes me feel uneasy. F25 with M42."," I am 25 and my partner is 42. We are turning 26 and 43 this spring/summer. We have been together since I was 20 and he was 37, so it is gonna be 6 years this summer. I had a child when I met him, he didn’t, and now we have one more together. @@ -9510,7 +9510,7 @@ It has been some years ago and I am starting to overthink it again. I don’t kn Mostly he is a very chill guy. Doesn’t go out or do much. -Should I get over it, continue to obsess and re evaluate or anything I can do to get over it?",,11,Sasssssssss1,1679012755.0 +Should I get over it, continue to obsess and re evaluate or anything I can do to get over it?",,11,Sasssssssss1,2023-03-17 00:25:55 RedPillWomen,11sc1jr,"I'm now with a gamer, and I want to find feminine video games I can play solo, or cooperative ones we can play together (non-competitive!)","I would like to get acquainted with gaming so that I know some stuff, and I eventually wanted to do it for myself anyways and just had in mind that it's a far-future priority, because hello, bigger fish to fry! Now that I'm with a gamer it makes a little more sense to prioritize more, and some of the video games I've seen him play look really cute to me, like Pokemon, Subnautica, & dragon quest builders. @@ -9524,7 +9524,7 @@ Edit: I have an attention span issue and I knew I was forgetting the most import I would LOVE to find some collaborate games we can co-op that don't force me into a lot of masculine energy and vice versa. We both could use tuning up with our collaborative skills as kinda neither one of us wear the pants right now :/ I would like a game where we can bond and really develop ourselves and our relationship -It can obviously be competitive as in us against the game, us against NPCs, us against other random players, but not us against each other! It's us vs them",,25,ichillonforums,1678920482.0 +It can obviously be competitive as in us against the game, us against NPCs, us against other random players, but not us against each other! It's us vs them",,25,ichillonforums,2023-03-15 22:48:02 RedPillWomen,11sl9au,"Potentially marry a man with a baby mama/ex-wife, co-parents together","I'm (30F) in a relationship with someone (38M) who co-parents a 3.5 year old child. I am thinking about a long-term relationship with him (I would like to get married with the option to have my own children, he is open to that). Through the text and phone interactions I have seen him have with his ex-wife (F 39) about their co-parenting, it is evident that she is not very kind to him. They were together for almost 20 years. I feel like she still controls him like he is still her partner and he doesn't do anything to change that. I have spoken to him about my concerns before, and he's replied with (1) she isn't going to change; and (2) you'll never have to deal with baby mama drama. They've been separated for 1.5 years and he has dated other people since their separation, before he met me. He has been to couples therapy with her to try to save their marriage. He has also done a lot of reading and reflecting about what he can give and what he wants in a relationship. @@ -9533,7 +9533,7 @@ I also feel uncomfortable that they've chosen to have a child together despite t This asides, I really enjoy my time with him and he loves and accepts me for who I am. -Anyone have opinions/advice/tips on how to navigate this? Is it possible to work together to find a solution for a good life together, or are we doomed?",,1,Evening_Coffee_2607,1678944729.0 +Anyone have opinions/advice/tips on how to navigate this? Is it possible to work together to find a solution for a good life together, or are we doomed?",,1,Evening_Coffee_2607,2023-03-16 05:32:09 RedPillWomen,11rbhau,Book Recommendation: How To Walk In High Heels by Camilla Morton,"This post is for anyone who wants a guide to the basics of life. I recommended it earlier and realised it would be perfect book for so many people who post similar questions. @@ -9550,20 +9550,20 @@ The book covers a host of topics. I’ll set out the sections and some of the th PS I know it’s old (00s), but my mum bought it for me in high school and I still think a lot of it applies. Bits that are dated can still be applied to today (like all the things I mentioned above). -And sorry for typos!",,27,jenna_grows,1678812673.0 +And sorry for typos!",,27,jenna_grows,2023-03-14 16:51:13 RedPillWomen,11r3wav,He's terrible at driving?,"Reading Laura Doyle's ""The Surrendered Wife"". She talks about relinquishing control of shared duties. I don't live with my bf so we have virtually no shared duties, but he's expressed interest in driving my car. However I have had a license and a car for 6 years. I know how to do most maintenance for my car. He hasn't driven since he got his license, and he has no car. The two times he drove my car he got into minor accidents. It's not that he drives too quickly or has no consideration of others, rather, he drives far below the speed limit and is quite a dreamer so he doesn't notice some surroundings. What should I do? -My current idea is to slowly 'create' shared responsibilities to hand to him, such as caring for my dog when I can't be home, or step by step planning a shared future. When I was a new driver I got into a few minor accidents myself. I would prefer he gets his own car at first, but he seemed offended when I expressed this.",,18,flower_power_g1rl,1678794193.0 +My current idea is to slowly 'create' shared responsibilities to hand to him, such as caring for my dog when I can't be home, or step by step planning a shared future. When I was a new driver I got into a few minor accidents myself. I would prefer he gets his own car at first, but he seemed offended when I expressed this.",,18,flower_power_g1rl,2023-03-14 11:43:13 RedPillWomen,11q6v9x,Reading the Queens Code. What if it doesn't work?,"Hi I'm reading the queen's code, really enjoying it. It is fascinating . On the 5 words to use, what if it doesn't work? How can I go about it ? I think I'm a bit scared if I try and get discouraged if my partner doesn't notice or register the words like in the book. Any examples how to use the words? -Thank you :)",,8,GlamGemini,1678706160.0 -RedPillWomen,11pybva,Where/ how did you find your partner?,,,27,[deleted],1678676677.0 +Thank you :)",,8,GlamGemini,2023-03-13 11:16:00 +RedPillWomen,11pybva,Where/ how did you find your partner?,,,27,[deleted],2023-03-13 03:04:37 RedPillWomen,11pqmwg,Feeling inadequate around rich and educated (future) in-laws.,"Hi all, Lately, I (late 20s-f) have been having trouble feeling adequate around my future in laws and sometimes at times my own boyfriend. My boyfriend (together 2 years) is from a very well-to-do family. They have lots of money and always have. They are also very, very well educated and have multiple degrees and shiny careers. All of their extended family, friends and other associates are also of the upper class and they are well connected. They have dinner parties with doctors, professors, CEO's of banks, these types of people. @@ -9571,7 +9571,7 @@ Lately, I (late 20s-f) have been having trouble feeling adequate around my futur I don't have much money myself and would consider myself lower class. Actually, I've struggled a lot with money and it is something that constantly stresses me out. I'm in a low paying job. I also grew up quite poor and my parents struggled alot financially and we had to do without sometimes. My parents weren't well connected either. I do have a degree so have tried to get educated myself although it hasn't worked out too well as my job pays poorly but still working on that... I'm the first one in my whole family to pursue higher education, neither of my parents even finished school. I just feel really out of place with my boyfriend's family and sometimes I feel like trash :( -They've never said anything and they are really lovely people. Sometimes I see them giving money to homeless people and my mother in law does volunteering to help people who aren't very well off. I think these things show that they really are very generous and don't look down on others. My boyfriend reassures me that he does not care that I don't have money and I grew up without much... but I just know that I'm not the same as them because tbh many of the struggles that I've had they can't even comprehend. In the not so distant past I'd be the type of person they might hire to do their cleaning for example. Has anyone been in this situation?",,41,itburnsss45,1678657021.0 +They've never said anything and they are really lovely people. Sometimes I see them giving money to homeless people and my mother in law does volunteering to help people who aren't very well off. I think these things show that they really are very generous and don't look down on others. My boyfriend reassures me that he does not care that I don't have money and I grew up without much... but I just know that I'm not the same as them because tbh many of the struggles that I've had they can't even comprehend. In the not so distant past I'd be the type of person they might hire to do their cleaning for example. Has anyone been in this situation?",,41,itburnsss45,2023-03-12 21:37:01 RedPillWomen,11p8mqm,An anecdote about femininity while having a masculine job - it’s genuinely possible.,"A question I often see posted on this sub is about whether you can be feminine while having a job that isn’t feminine, what’s a feminine job, etc. I often comment and say it’s possible but i am sharing this story because I have something concrete now. @@ -9580,15 +9580,15 @@ I was at my friend’s birthday yesterday. My husband and I didn’t really know I’m a lawyer, as is my friend - but I litigate (hardcore) and she does commercial work (softer). When her boyfriend realised I was a litigator, he was genuinely shocked. He said he’s never read people this wrong before. He specifically said that it was because I was “so feminine”. He was genuinely having a moment trying to reconcile how someone with my persona can do the job I do. -So yea. It’s entirely possible to be feminine while doing a masculine job. It also possible to do that job well - I’m head of department. And I hope that this helps anyone feeling conflicted today x",,65,jenna_grows,1678606709.0 -RedPillWomen,11piqfb,Relationship advice?,I have gotten into a relationship a few months ago. We are only teens as i turn 17 this summer and he turns 18 in september. He is very into this red pill thing and i’ve recently tried to adjust to this lifestyle. I am not changing as a person completely since i’ve aways liked the traditional way of being in a relationship. My question is just if he is taking it too far? I go to the gym a couple times a week to maintain a healthy body since i’ve been very overweigt (i’ve lost over 40 pounds since last year) and is now at a healthy weigt that i would like to maintain. But he says i shouldn’t go to the gym since it’s masculine. He doesn’t want me to talk to guys which is fair but I’m barely allowed to answer a text from a classmate or someone from work without him getting kinda mad or make sassy comments. Is this normal? And if so how should I respond when people ask why i suddenly have them blocked or don’t answer them?,,9,[deleted],1678638574.0 +So yea. It’s entirely possible to be feminine while doing a masculine job. It also possible to do that job well - I’m head of department. And I hope that this helps anyone feeling conflicted today x",,65,jenna_grows,2023-03-12 07:38:29 +RedPillWomen,11piqfb,Relationship advice?,I have gotten into a relationship a few months ago. We are only teens as i turn 17 this summer and he turns 18 in september. He is very into this red pill thing and i’ve recently tried to adjust to this lifestyle. I am not changing as a person completely since i’ve aways liked the traditional way of being in a relationship. My question is just if he is taking it too far? I go to the gym a couple times a week to maintain a healthy body since i’ve been very overweigt (i’ve lost over 40 pounds since last year) and is now at a healthy weigt that i would like to maintain. But he says i shouldn’t go to the gym since it’s masculine. He doesn’t want me to talk to guys which is fair but I’m barely allowed to answer a text from a classmate or someone from work without him getting kinda mad or make sassy comments. Is this normal? And if so how should I respond when people ask why i suddenly have them blocked or don’t answer them?,,9,[deleted],2023-03-12 16:29:34 RedPillWomen,11ol47l,Support = Success!,"Hello ladies! I want to share a really sweet moment I had with my boyfriend recently. He’s been talking about getting into a new hobby for a while, and decided to go to a specialty store for it yesterday. He invited me along, and of course I said yes. This is *not* a female-friendly hobby at all, to the point where the other customers in the store seemed a little surprised at my presence, haha. But I wandered around with him, asked questions of the store clerk and made conversation with the other customers. I wasn’t pretending or anything - I was just legitimately interested in learning more about this hobby that my boyfriend wants to get into, because I love and care about him. We spent over an hour in the store, and when we got in the car my boyfriend started emphatically telling me how much he loves me, and how much it meant that I was there to support him. And not only was I not expressing boredom, I was actively interested! He repeated how much he loved me a bunch of times, and it was really sweet and genuine. -For me, showing up to support him wasn’t a burden at all, but I could tell how much it meant to him. Moral of the story is, let’s support our men and show interest in the things they love!",,58,river_tam2x2,1678543779.0 +For me, showing up to support him wasn’t a burden at all, but I could tell how much it meant to him. Moral of the story is, let’s support our men and show interest in the things they love!",,58,river_tam2x2,2023-03-11 14:09:39 RedPillWomen,11og7i0,"What can the girl, for whom RedPillWomen's advice is not working, do?","I will be 30 this year. I found the RedPill and RedPillWomen a few years ago, but I have always been a fan of traditonal gender roles and believer in femininity. So a lot of things came to me naturally. But there were never any results whatsover. I am slim, wear makeup, dress femininely. I do all the things from the ""Female Beauty is Highly Controllable List"" and I personally think I look kinda cute. @@ -9609,7 +9609,7 @@ I'm petriefied to notice that I start to get extremelly jealous and hateful of b But I'm at my wits' end. I don't know what else I can do. Do you have any advise for someone for whom RedPill techniques are not working? -Please, what can I do?",,37,_red_poppy_,1678528297.0 +Please, what can I do?",,37,_red_poppy_,2023-03-11 09:51:37 RedPillWomen,11ojcig,Need advice on how to maintain a friendship," So I have this friend who's really sweet and absolutely gorgeous. We met summer of last year while both being trainees at a pharmacy store. We used to chat about everything, shared personal things about eachother, just spending a wonderful time everday over a couple of months. We're also in the same major, so we still hang out sometimes in uni. At first she used to always invite me to spend some time with her, then she of course would go up to her friends and I'd have to talk to them as well. The problem is that I already know most of her close friends and I haven't been treated in the best way possible by a couple of them. @@ -9628,14 +9628,14 @@ It also doesn't help that she's an absolute 10/10 in terms of looks and her frie &#x200B; - I wish I could directly communicate all of this to her, but Idk how well she's going to take it. All of the people I mentioned are her close friends and she's obviously going to be defensive and not understand. She's been nothing but nice to me, and I don't want to seem ungrateful. Besides I like hanging out with her when it's just her and I.",,7,SilverKnightLife,1678538779.0 -RedPillWomen,11nw4j6,Being a woman vs being a girl,"Ladies of RPW, when did you make the switch from being a “girl” to being a “woman”? I feel like that shift in self-definition is a complex topic these days. I’m 21, and frankly I feel like I’d call myself as a girl if pressed, not a woman. Is there some sort of event or mindset that defines that switch? I suppose it’s similar to the distinction between a boy and a man, you can have adult males who are still “boys.”",,26,Valuable_Place1265,1678471382.0 -RedPillWomen,11nqqzf,What is a good career option for someone wanting to be a SAHM in the future?,,,19,Miserable-Kale-8909,1678458712.0 -RedPillWomen,11n9dp4,How important is it for you to have a partner who has high vetting criteria?,"Would you be okay if your SO admits that he wouldn’t have minded dating someone with lower SMV/RMV than you (ie. high n count, no cooking skills, less feminine etc), but he checks most of your boxes of what you want in a partner?",,13,EnvironmentalAct8009,1678408748.0 + I wish I could directly communicate all of this to her, but Idk how well she's going to take it. All of the people I mentioned are her close friends and she's obviously going to be defensive and not understand. She's been nothing but nice to me, and I don't want to seem ungrateful. Besides I like hanging out with her when it's just her and I.",,7,SilverKnightLife,2023-03-11 12:46:19 +RedPillWomen,11nw4j6,Being a woman vs being a girl,"Ladies of RPW, when did you make the switch from being a “girl” to being a “woman”? I feel like that shift in self-definition is a complex topic these days. I’m 21, and frankly I feel like I’d call myself as a girl if pressed, not a woman. Is there some sort of event or mindset that defines that switch? I suppose it’s similar to the distinction between a boy and a man, you can have adult males who are still “boys.”",,26,Valuable_Place1265,2023-03-10 18:03:02 +RedPillWomen,11nqqzf,What is a good career option for someone wanting to be a SAHM in the future?,,,19,Miserable-Kale-8909,2023-03-10 14:31:52 +RedPillWomen,11n9dp4,How important is it for you to have a partner who has high vetting criteria?,"Would you be okay if your SO admits that he wouldn’t have minded dating someone with lower SMV/RMV than you (ie. high n count, no cooking skills, less feminine etc), but he checks most of your boxes of what you want in a partner?",,13,EnvironmentalAct8009,2023-03-10 00:39:08 RedPillWomen,11mv5kh,Should red pill women be on dating apps?,"I do a lot of fun activities with my friends every week - including those where I can find high-value men such as going to hotel bars, showrooms, skiing etc. -I’m just having such a tough time finding men or being approached by one. I’m the only single one in my social circles so it’s getting lonely now that I can’t spend as much time with them anymore. I also have been focusing on myself for YEARS that I know I’m ready for a relationship now. I just don’t know where to go to find one.",,22,[deleted],1678375906.0 -RedPillWomen,11n1m7g,Relationship and dominance,"How much of a dominant should a man be in a relationship (LDR, serious commitment so far)?",,2,curiouslearner34,1678390932.0 +I’m just having such a tough time finding men or being approached by one. I’m the only single one in my social circles so it’s getting lonely now that I can’t spend as much time with them anymore. I also have been focusing on myself for YEARS that I know I’m ready for a relationship now. I just don’t know where to go to find one.",,22,[deleted],2023-03-09 15:31:46 +RedPillWomen,11n1m7g,Relationship and dominance,"How much of a dominant should a man be in a relationship (LDR, serious commitment so far)?",,2,curiouslearner34,2023-03-09 19:42:12 RedPillWomen,11mjy6b,Is it time to throw in the towel?,"Hi!! I posted a while back!! Things haven’t really improved. 3 couples therapists later, I’m convinced he’s higher on the narcissistic scale than I’m comfortable with. Over the past 6 months I’ve found out that he has cheated with at the very least 3 women (those were in the beg - I don’t believe that it was limited to that however he says it was). He lies constantly. Plays games in order to illicit a response or negative emotion in me. He is verbally abusive, has always been. He lacks any type of compassion for anyone - even his own children. He is financially irresponsible - I’ve borrowed him money more months than I haven’t. There is so so much. The problem, we have a nearly 3 year old together. He is a big reason why I’ve stayed. But he is now mimicking his father when his father yells at me - he will stand right next to him and do the same. This was enough for me. I’m use to him doing it to me, but he will NOT teach my son it’s okay to. It didn’t even phase him that he was doing it. @@ -9648,8 +9648,8 @@ Whats prompting me to write this post… well I’ve found my voice over the pas Since, the only thing he is concerned about is me not wearing the ring and my status (which I made private anyways). He has went so far as to tell me he is going to go sell the ring to a pawn shop “because he can’t have it just sitting there not being used. Not something that has so much meaning behind it for him” he knows how I feel about it. 1. That would be finically idiotic. He would get Pennie’s on the dollar for it. Another extreme decision rooted in manipulation is how I see it. He didnt sell it. But he sure tried and tried to get me to put it back on by trying to convince he he was going to. He even came home told me he did. Told me his mom and sister said he should. I asked him if he told them the whole story. He confirmed. I said - let’s just see and before I couldn’t even grab my phone. He said I didn’t sell it or talk to them. I said who then. Eventually he said no one. I said so “ you lied? About all of that? Made it all up” he reaction was to mock me. -…. I’m miserable. I feel like crawling out of my own skin. I don’t even know that that makes sense. Everything feels chaotic. I don’t even know why I’m writing… honestly, I’m frozen in fear to move any which way.",,15,C_Marie1983,1678340105.0 -RedPillWomen,11mcdji,"What is the best way to know whether you will be okay to be part of a blended family? (Me F 30, BF M 38)","Me (F 30) has a boyfriend (M 38) with an ex-wife (F 39; they were together for almost 20yrs) who he co-parents a 4-yr old son with. BF and I have been together for several months and get along very well. I do really like him and I know he loves me too. I knew about his marriage/family situation from the very beginning and he is open to marriage again and more kids. Because I am looking for a forever-relationship, I do tend to think ahead and I am worried that a blended family isn't something that I want. I am not sure if I am okay with having a husband who will always be tied to his ex-wife because they have a child together. I haven't met the child yet and don't intend to unless we get more serious (but we are quite serious about each other already). I have talked to him about these concerns and he has re-assured me that his interactions with his child's mother is limited to parenting. I trust him on that one and there is great trust between us. I have read a lot about these situations and many people warn about not getting into such situations. I have never been married and don't have my own children. Is it more wise to not get myself in this relationship for life",,2,Evening_Coffee_2607,1678319298.0 +…. I’m miserable. I feel like crawling out of my own skin. I don’t even know that that makes sense. Everything feels chaotic. I don’t even know why I’m writing… honestly, I’m frozen in fear to move any which way.",,15,C_Marie1983,2023-03-09 05:35:05 +RedPillWomen,11mcdji,"What is the best way to know whether you will be okay to be part of a blended family? (Me F 30, BF M 38)","Me (F 30) has a boyfriend (M 38) with an ex-wife (F 39; they were together for almost 20yrs) who he co-parents a 4-yr old son with. BF and I have been together for several months and get along very well. I do really like him and I know he loves me too. I knew about his marriage/family situation from the very beginning and he is open to marriage again and more kids. Because I am looking for a forever-relationship, I do tend to think ahead and I am worried that a blended family isn't something that I want. I am not sure if I am okay with having a husband who will always be tied to his ex-wife because they have a child together. I haven't met the child yet and don't intend to unless we get more serious (but we are quite serious about each other already). I have talked to him about these concerns and he has re-assured me that his interactions with his child's mother is limited to parenting. I trust him on that one and there is great trust between us. I have read a lot about these situations and many people warn about not getting into such situations. I have never been married and don't have my own children. Is it more wise to not get myself in this relationship for life",,2,Evening_Coffee_2607,2023-03-08 23:48:18 RedPillWomen,11lesr8,"I'm all about compromising in a relationship, but I couldn't handle this one. Should have I done more?","So I would be happy to receive advice and opinions from mainly men but I'm also glad to see women's opinion about this. I left my long distance relationship around 8 months ago but I still feel a little bit guilty and I would like to see if the feelings I have are rational or instilled in me through conditioning. From the get-go, I tried to be a good girlfriend and be understanding of him and his requirements. I realized he felt a little bit insecure about himself and I tried to help him relax and trust me. As I said before, I wanted to make changes for him to help him trust me. @@ -9670,11 +9670,11 @@ I want to understand if I did something wrong. In the two year long distance I n Was I reasonable for leaving this? He blamed me, said I hadn't been patient enough, that the new girl was reaping the benefits of his changes since he wasn't controlling anymore, he called me unloving and uncooperative so many times when I tried to put my foot down (let's say, if I didn't want to erase one ex classmate from my social media who I hadn't even talked to for ages). -I'm really at a loss about what a proper relationship seems to be at this point. I tried to change for the sake of the relationship and I was still trashed at the end of it.",,8,Brilliant_Ad_5604,1678230733.0 -RedPillWomen,11l582h,How to move forward in this situation,"Hi ladies! I’ve (33 American female) been dating my boyfriend (47 Japanese male) for seven months now. We met on Tinder and Hinge. He asked me out and we’ve been dating every since. At the end of every date he asks for the next one the following weekend. He asked to be exclusive at one month but I agreed to it at the second month and a month later we were intimate. He pays for all date, gives gifts just because, and is very generous during special occasions. During month four we had a serious conversation about deal breakers. He said his (being disrespectful and sloppiness) mine were not wanting marriage, kids, and belief in God. We’re both divorced and I wanted to make sure I’m not wasting my time at thirty-three years old. He said if the relationship is moving well he is open to marriage, three kids, and converting. Fast forward two months going on three and the relationship is still going strong but I haven’t met his friends/family. I don’t know his timeline and whether marriage is still in the cards for us. I’m coming up on a apartment lease renewal soon (April / May) so I feel like it might be more appropriate to discuss the future then but I’m not sure how to phrase it. I don’t want to give an ultimatum. Please advise and thank you so much in advance!",,16,chrissycash,1678209535.0 +I'm really at a loss about what a proper relationship seems to be at this point. I tried to change for the sake of the relationship and I was still trashed at the end of it.",,8,Brilliant_Ad_5604,2023-03-07 23:12:13 +RedPillWomen,11l582h,How to move forward in this situation,"Hi ladies! I’ve (33 American female) been dating my boyfriend (47 Japanese male) for seven months now. We met on Tinder and Hinge. He asked me out and we’ve been dating every since. At the end of every date he asks for the next one the following weekend. He asked to be exclusive at one month but I agreed to it at the second month and a month later we were intimate. He pays for all date, gives gifts just because, and is very generous during special occasions. During month four we had a serious conversation about deal breakers. He said his (being disrespectful and sloppiness) mine were not wanting marriage, kids, and belief in God. We’re both divorced and I wanted to make sure I’m not wasting my time at thirty-three years old. He said if the relationship is moving well he is open to marriage, three kids, and converting. Fast forward two months going on three and the relationship is still going strong but I haven’t met his friends/family. I don’t know his timeline and whether marriage is still in the cards for us. I’m coming up on a apartment lease renewal soon (April / May) so I feel like it might be more appropriate to discuss the future then but I’m not sure how to phrase it. I don’t want to give an ultimatum. Please advise and thank you so much in advance!",,16,chrissycash,2023-03-07 17:18:55 RedPillWomen,11lbqzr,Questioning my femininity,"Today my (19F) boyfriend (22M) came over, and my period was extremely heavy and painful. He came over yesterday too, I had a hoodie and sweats on due to the same issue. Today, I had a hoodie and a pair of loose boxers on because the pain is unbearable. When things escalated today, he wasn’t turned on and admitted that my outfit today was unattractive. I feel horrible, I wish I wore something else but the pain was so unbearable that I needed something loose and comfy. I also had my hair care treatment in too, so it was a relaxation day. -He told me that he understood and that it’s okay because I always dress nice and he understands, but I feel so bad. My room was messy too, just disorganized, since I've been busy with exams and battling depression so i havent been able to get on it. I just feel so horrible, like my femininity was ripped out of me. He was understanding and kind about it, but hearing that I turned him off today makes me feel horrible. How do I redeem myself? I just feel like I disappointed him and ruined my image of always being well kept and feminine. What should I do?",,9,hadyayasmin,1678224033.0 -RedPillWomen,11l1yyw,Giving back in feminine ways while dating?,"Hi! It's my first post here and it's not about me really, but my sister. She doesn't read this forum, but I have told her a lot about redpill and she fully supports and likes these ideas. She recently started dating a man who seems traditional and it's going really well. I have been advising my sister to receive and appreciate nice things he does, but I'm not sure how can a woman ""give back"" in a feminine way? She has been baking things, but we are a bit out of ideas... So, please give us some advice :)",,26,SnooHedgehogs7759,1678202157.0 +He told me that he understood and that it’s okay because I always dress nice and he understands, but I feel so bad. My room was messy too, just disorganized, since I've been busy with exams and battling depression so i havent been able to get on it. I just feel so horrible, like my femininity was ripped out of me. He was understanding and kind about it, but hearing that I turned him off today makes me feel horrible. How do I redeem myself? I just feel like I disappointed him and ruined my image of always being well kept and feminine. What should I do?",,9,hadyayasmin,2023-03-07 21:20:33 +RedPillWomen,11l1yyw,Giving back in feminine ways while dating?,"Hi! It's my first post here and it's not about me really, but my sister. She doesn't read this forum, but I have told her a lot about redpill and she fully supports and likes these ideas. She recently started dating a man who seems traditional and it's going really well. I have been advising my sister to receive and appreciate nice things he does, but I'm not sure how can a woman ""give back"" in a feminine way? She has been baking things, but we are a bit out of ideas... So, please give us some advice :)",,26,SnooHedgehogs7759,2023-03-07 15:15:57 RedPillWomen,11l8ufw,Husband was upfront with me but I didn’t realize it… now I have questions,"Hi all, married 10 years with lots of ups & downs. After a big argument and me struggling with depression/anxiety/caregiver strain we have not had the best sex life. He told me well then there’s jerkmate at least there someone might want to look at me. I was clueless to what he was talking about he said it’s an app. He’s someone who makes straight face jokes all the time I had no idea this was a real app and thought he was takin the piss. @@ -9688,7 +9688,7 @@ Honestly idk how to feel I know it’s not physical “cheating “ in fact I even saw a thread about this from a couple years ago but in this case it all came down to a misunderstanding and I’m unsure how I even feel about it except a little sick to my stomach. -How to move forward with this information?",,8,Remarkable_Click_636,1678217647.0 +How to move forward with this information?",,8,Remarkable_Click_636,2023-03-07 19:34:07 RedPillWomen,11kvqr6,Looking for dating app bio feedback,"Hey ladies (and lurking men too please lol) I’m getting back on the dating scene and need feedback/advice for my dating profile bio. Only in the last 6 months I’ve discovered and embraced my RP self so I’m not sure if I’m being too forward with anything. I haven’t posted this in other subs as I’m scared I’ll get eaten alive 😂 @@ -9699,7 +9699,7 @@ My favourite qualities of myself are that I’m caring, loving and extremely loy Beyond those qualities, I’d say I’m pretty traditional. I’d thrive in a male-lead relationship, so someone confident with an inclination to lead is essential. In saying this controversial(ish) statement, Andrew Tate is definitely not what I’m after haha. It’s definitely some yucky-in-love wholesome marriage between two great teammates 😎 -Important qualities I look for in a potential partner is family devotion, high work/life drive, and being down to earth. A love for the outdoors and adventure is a great bonus!",,10,Unusual_Marzipan887,1678185313.0 +Important qualities I look for in a potential partner is family devotion, high work/life drive, and being down to earth. A love for the outdoors and adventure is a great bonus!",,10,Unusual_Marzipan887,2023-03-07 10:35:13 RedPillWomen,11klrlg,Dealing with jealousy - boyfriend looking at women he knows on IG,"My boyfriend and I have been dating for only 2 months, official for 1 and initiated by him. We are the same age, in our late twenties. So far he has not shown any signs of disloyalty, he treats me well. He’s very masculine and I’m very attracted to him (as are other women, I can tell). He isn’t secretive with his phone, he’s told me his passcode. The other day we were looking up a venue on Instagram on his phone, and I noticed his search history had been cleared except for one search, a woman. He had to respell the name but I could tell he hesitated to delete it probably because I’d see the woman’s pic and handle again when the search field was blank. I didn’t say anything or react in any way. I made a mental note of her handle (I know…) and looked her up later - I realized she’s engaged to his friend and possibly friends with him too. She’s gorgeous and looks nothing like me. @@ -9710,7 +9710,7 @@ It does not feel good to know that he’s seeking out beautiful women he knows o I don’t know what to do…it really hurts. I know he’s attracted to me physically and mentally/emotionally but it’s hard to feel like I’m physically enough for him after this. And if my assumptions are correct, that would cross a boundary for me, but at the same time I know I don’t get to tell him who he can and can’t…you know…to. Is this just something I have to accept men do? I’m afraid of bringing it up and having him think I’m insecure, controlling, etc. or causing him to hide things further. I don’t feel he would straight up lie to me but then again, I’ve know I’ve known him for two months and I’m still discovering if his actions match up with what his character appears to be. I’ve read the posts about how men are visual and about jealousy and forbidden fruit. Is the best course of action to appear unfazed by things like this and just move on? -Edit: I’m hoping to hear from other women rather than men.",,26,throwawayyy6426,1678154576.0 +Edit: I’m hoping to hear from other women rather than men.",,26,throwawayyy6426,2023-03-07 02:02:56 RedPillWomen,11kjoo8,How do you show your standards in a feminine way?,"Hello, so I go out in bars at night, I know it's not the place to find a potential husband but I do enjoy getting the attention and getting hit on from the men I like, deep down there is a part of me that hopes that I can maybe find someone whom I can make him want to do more for me and pursue me. Usually I find a guy and there is strong mutual attraction. So the guy, still polite and respectful, obviously sometimes tries to go further by asking me to go to his place for example but I don't want to do anything physical, no kissing, no hooking up either (it's my rule to self preserve and not just jump on any guy I meet) @@ -9718,15 +9718,15 @@ Usually I find a guy and there is strong mutual attraction. So the guy, still po My question is how do I show him that I don't just hook up with strangers while at the same time telling him that it's doesn't mean that I am not attracted to him. Whithout also sounding too stiff with rules if I say, I don't kiss or sleep with strangers. -Thank you.",,12,lostbabygorl007,1678149448.0 -RedPillWomen,11k08fh,did they replace the subreddit “askTRP” after it got banned?,,,10,[deleted],1678112569.0 +Thank you.",,12,lostbabygorl007,2023-03-07 00:37:28 +RedPillWomen,11k08fh,did they replace the subreddit “askTRP” after it got banned?,,,10,[deleted],2023-03-06 14:22:49 RedPillWomen,11jipwy,Husband getting insecure in relationship ?,"We have been together for three years, I’ve been embracing my feminine side and trying to be a better woman for my man. Showing more appreciation, compliments, showing how thankful I am for him,letting him know I’m still very attracted to him. But he told me he thinks I cheated on him, His ex girlfriend cheated on him many times and would be super sweet after she did it, so I understand the worry. -What should I do from here?",,18,mcnuggg8,1678061885.0 -RedPillWomen,11j8zqm,How does your man support you emotionally?,"I’m just curious if I’m missing something. If I’m having a bad day or if I’m tired, mine reads that as he shouldn’t talk to me and completely ignore me. No phones calls, no check-ins, nothing until I’m in a better place and reach out to him. Is this what masculine men just do?",,28,Forsaken-Savings4370,1678044332.0 -RedPillWomen,11jdq7v,youtuber suggestion,"I just wanna say, I highly suggest watching Jasmyne Theodora , she's really wonderful and truly femenine",,13,MundaneIndication779,1678050192.0 +What should I do from here?",,18,mcnuggg8,2023-03-06 00:18:05 +RedPillWomen,11j8zqm,How does your man support you emotionally?,"I’m just curious if I’m missing something. If I’m having a bad day or if I’m tired, mine reads that as he shouldn’t talk to me and completely ignore me. No phones calls, no check-ins, nothing until I’m in a better place and reach out to him. Is this what masculine men just do?",,28,Forsaken-Savings4370,2023-03-05 19:25:32 +RedPillWomen,11jdq7v,youtuber suggestion,"I just wanna say, I highly suggest watching Jasmyne Theodora , she's really wonderful and truly femenine",,13,MundaneIndication779,2023-03-05 21:03:12 RedPillWomen,11ivza9,Field report: femininity classes,"Hi, all. Yesterday, my husband basically asked if I was doing something different because I am on fire (in his eyes). @@ -9735,32 +9735,32 @@ For months, I have been focusing on feminine sport (dance, mostly) and meeting w As I have written in previous posts, I have trouble switching between executive, mother, and wife. I have felt our relationship deepen for me with these efforts and this was the biggest reinforcement I’ve received from him. -Details: when I first started, I posted about how much I liked these classes. The instructor doesn’t have many clients so sharing her contact could dox me. I will tell you her qualifications because I am certain this is a thing everyone can find. She is a licensed therapist, tantric practitioner, and feminist. Adding the feminist part in because I think we come full circle more often than not.",,41,SecretFeminine,1678019293.0 -RedPillWomen,11jey4f,Just need reassurance about a small thing,"So as research to get better at honing my femininity, I've LONG wanted to start writing down what I see other people, especially women, and especially the best dressed women, at every place I go. Grocery store, library, you nake it. So I'm sitting here at the laundromat and I'm like, okay I wanna open up my Google keep and just finally start. I feel a little sociopathic and creepy, and I'm always scared that if I do it, esp at a very public place like grocery store, that they're going to catch me on camera writing down other people's possessions and I'll be interrogated like I'm a thief 😂😂 I know that's so melodramatic but.. I just need encouragement that this isn't sociopathic/stalkerish/weird. Growing up I was never really taught how to put outfits together, dress for the weather, wear suiting garments to an occasion. I know little errand-running trips are ""small"", but I think trying to play up my femininity in little arenas of life really add up and can help boost confidence and have more confidence and morale with how j hold myself and walk through life. I thought it would be cool to recognize patterns in what people wear, gain outfit inspo, and see common trends in femininity throughout the years. I feel EXTRA creepy because I don't really have an end date in mind for this, even if it gets redundant over the years it could still be valuable research",,5,ichillonforums,1678052872.0 -RedPillWomen,11h1ufi,Banned from subreddit,I’ve seen a few post in RPW about being banned from simple daily life subs (i.e r/hair) just from being in this one. It’s baffling but also hysterical that it happened to me. I was banned from r/entrepreneurship from being in this one lol.,,54,Mission_Honeydew_597,1677852956.0 +Details: when I first started, I posted about how much I liked these classes. The instructor doesn’t have many clients so sharing her contact could dox me. I will tell you her qualifications because I am certain this is a thing everyone can find. She is a licensed therapist, tantric practitioner, and feminist. Adding the feminist part in because I think we come full circle more often than not.",,41,SecretFeminine,2023-03-05 12:28:13 +RedPillWomen,11jey4f,Just need reassurance about a small thing,"So as research to get better at honing my femininity, I've LONG wanted to start writing down what I see other people, especially women, and especially the best dressed women, at every place I go. Grocery store, library, you nake it. So I'm sitting here at the laundromat and I'm like, okay I wanna open up my Google keep and just finally start. I feel a little sociopathic and creepy, and I'm always scared that if I do it, esp at a very public place like grocery store, that they're going to catch me on camera writing down other people's possessions and I'll be interrogated like I'm a thief 😂😂 I know that's so melodramatic but.. I just need encouragement that this isn't sociopathic/stalkerish/weird. Growing up I was never really taught how to put outfits together, dress for the weather, wear suiting garments to an occasion. I know little errand-running trips are ""small"", but I think trying to play up my femininity in little arenas of life really add up and can help boost confidence and have more confidence and morale with how j hold myself and walk through life. I thought it would be cool to recognize patterns in what people wear, gain outfit inspo, and see common trends in femininity throughout the years. I feel EXTRA creepy because I don't really have an end date in mind for this, even if it gets redundant over the years it could still be valuable research",,5,ichillonforums,2023-03-05 21:47:52 +RedPillWomen,11h1ufi,Banned from subreddit,I’ve seen a few post in RPW about being banned from simple daily life subs (i.e r/hair) just from being in this one. It’s baffling but also hysterical that it happened to me. I was banned from r/entrepreneurship from being in this one lol.,,54,Mission_Honeydew_597,2023-03-03 14:15:56 RedPillWomen,11gyb0z,How to support grieving men?,"Hello ladies! (Posting from my alt for privacy.) How do we support our men when they are grieving? My boyfriend just lost a grandparent who he was close with. He’s been handling it well outwardly, and it’s important to him to maintain strength. I’ve given him space, cooked him his favorite meals, and have been trying to anticipate his needs. I’m here for him if he wants to talk, but I won’t pressure him into talking about his feelings. I feel like there’s more I can be doing, and I also want to avoid making him feel weak by “over-caring.” What are your thoughts? -Also, I’m feeling lonely during this time. I haven’t expressed it because it feels very selfish, but I miss spending time together and having intimate moments (not just sex, but I miss that too). It’s not been that long, so I’m not worried yet. But it is sometimes hard to maintain a positive mindset - any advice or words of encouragement there are also appreciated. Thank you all!",,36,grapejuiceexpert,1677842759.0 +Also, I’m feeling lonely during this time. I haven’t expressed it because it feels very selfish, but I miss spending time together and having intimate moments (not just sex, but I miss that too). It’s not been that long, so I’m not worried yet. But it is sometimes hard to maintain a positive mindset - any advice or words of encouragement there are also appreciated. Thank you all!",,36,grapejuiceexpert,2023-03-03 11:25:59 RedPillWomen,11h5uao,How can I look/ feel more feminine with shorter hair?,"So I had my hair cut about a month ago. I did it because my hair started to look really thin even though it barely reached below my bust-line. It just looked unhealthy overall especially after I had it chemically straightened. My hair now is shoulder-length, and I feel like I don't look as feminine anymore especially when I wear it straight. It doesn't help that my kibbe type leans more towards soft-natural rather than gamine type. I'm thinking of bringing my natural hair texture back and stop using a straightener, but I really can't afford using 10 products just so that it doesn't look frizzy. -I really want to start liking my new haircut and not feel crappy whenever I step outside. Any advice?",,11,SilverKnightLife,1677862884.0 -RedPillWomen,11h1k6b,Looking for resources on the “Divine Feminine” or similar ideas,"I am well versed in the red pill ideas through the lens of Christianity, but I would love to explore a different lens. I have seen reference to a “divine feminine” ideology but I don’t really know how to seek that out. I’d love recommendations for podcasts, books, social media accounts to follow, etc. so I can explore these ideas!",,8,LindenBlossoms,1677852187.0 +I really want to start liking my new haircut and not feel crappy whenever I step outside. Any advice?",,11,SilverKnightLife,2023-03-03 17:01:24 +RedPillWomen,11h1k6b,Looking for resources on the “Divine Feminine” or similar ideas,"I am well versed in the red pill ideas through the lens of Christianity, but I would love to explore a different lens. I have seen reference to a “divine feminine” ideology but I don’t really know how to seek that out. I’d love recommendations for podcasts, books, social media accounts to follow, etc. so I can explore these ideas!",,8,LindenBlossoms,2023-03-03 14:03:07 RedPillWomen,11gaoyj,my little feminine fashion element,"I don't really have a constant feminine style when I go out, but whenever I go a bit more tomboy, I try to add a little smth to help maintain my feminine energy. Having a pair of baggy jeans on and a simple short-sleeved tee. my little feminine contribution was a bow to my bun lol! Might sound real bad and kinda dumb but believe me when I say I could see people liked it 😇 -However, I decided to go without it to my class, even tho my crush worked in the same place. I just felt it might be a bit too exhibitionistic 😫 now I'm regretting it since it was the last session I got to go there 😔",,10,mmahomm,1677783433.0 +However, I decided to go without it to my class, even tho my crush worked in the same place. I just felt it might be a bit too exhibitionistic 😫 now I'm regretting it since it was the last session I got to go there 😔",,10,mmahomm,2023-03-02 18:57:13 RedPillWomen,11fx1as,I literally cannot stand not living in my feminine energy,"It’s becoming more clear the harder I work the more successful I am this makes me more competitive and argumentative and fighting everything. It’s not for me. I don’t want it. There is no such thing as equality, men are different to women. I’m sick of being told otherwise. I’m sick of the expectations to continue earning high 6 figures, independently support myself, essentially do a man’s job; then also flip a switch and become a devoted wife with all the traits required. It’s not possible unless I have that support. -Edit: I have communicated that to my partner and I am lucky enough to have his full support. I know stepping away from high stress fight or flight will help. We’ve lived in different cities and I’m moving to him to live together in 2 weeks :)",,72,Zdena_Rose,1677744198.0 +Edit: I have communicated that to my partner and I am lucky enough to have his full support. I know stepping away from high stress fight or flight will help. We’ve lived in different cities and I’m moving to him to live together in 2 weeks :)",,72,Zdena_Rose,2023-03-02 08:03:18 RedPillWomen,11fx5bc,My husband is a catch. I want to learn how to overcome my flaws and nurture our relationship / him better.,"Hey there RPW community! Long time lurker. So let me give you guys a background: I’ve had a troubled past with multiple failed relationships, some men who straight up took advantage of me, my fair use of drugs and alcohol in my teens and some antidepressants in my early 20s. Cut to today. I am married to this wonderful man. We have a 15 month old daughter together who is absolutely gorgeous. We have tripled our income since we had her. I’ve started my own content marketing agency, I exercise regularly and I am now fitter than my pre pregnancy self. I no longer drink or smoke. Not even occasionally. @@ -9771,8 +9771,8 @@ He brings a lot to the table. He’s hard working, very conscientious, very resp What’s holding me back is my own negative thoughts. That I am not as loving as other women perhaps. Sometimes I hate that I’ve lost that child in me that feels head over heels in love. I am moody and often feel sad. My husband hates seeing this and thinks I don’t love him. Which is not the case at all. -I just want to know how I can work on my negative thought patterns, make him feel loved, reconcile with the fact that maybe I am not the 18 year old I used to be and can love in other ways…. I want to master my mood, be kinder to myself and learn to (show) love again! DMs open",,23,Pale-Kale4105,1677744583.0 -RedPillWomen,11f9j8a,embarrassed to say that I left the man I was trying to build a future with,"So I realized I didn't vet him right as I could have but this hurts a lot. Found out that he was sexting transgender women and seems to have a preference for them which broke my heart. He told me he wanted to monogamy and marriage with me but turned around and told me he wasn't sure what he wanted, after 2 years. We were happy together and we're genuine best friends. I'm low-key embarrassed because I use to write on here to be a better woman for us, to be healthy for us, communicate better, etc and all it did was hurt me. I never saw this coming honestly but I have to move on I guess. I will still apply everything I've learned from here for a better relationship but mostly for a better me. I realize he never deserved my kindness",,83,kokoremu,1677691323.0 +I just want to know how I can work on my negative thought patterns, make him feel loved, reconcile with the fact that maybe I am not the 18 year old I used to be and can love in other ways…. I want to master my mood, be kinder to myself and learn to (show) love again! DMs open",,23,Pale-Kale4105,2023-03-02 08:09:43 +RedPillWomen,11f9j8a,embarrassed to say that I left the man I was trying to build a future with,"So I realized I didn't vet him right as I could have but this hurts a lot. Found out that he was sexting transgender women and seems to have a preference for them which broke my heart. He told me he wanted to monogamy and marriage with me but turned around and told me he wasn't sure what he wanted, after 2 years. We were happy together and we're genuine best friends. I'm low-key embarrassed because I use to write on here to be a better woman for us, to be healthy for us, communicate better, etc and all it did was hurt me. I never saw this coming honestly but I have to move on I guess. I will still apply everything I've learned from here for a better relationship but mostly for a better me. I realize he never deserved my kindness",,83,kokoremu,2023-03-01 17:22:03 RedPillWomen,11fzoiw,I need long distance dating advice 😓,"Hey lovely ladies, I’m going to keep this concise :) @@ -9782,7 +9782,7 @@ When we started dating, we both thought that he will move to my city this month Essentially I’m worried that I’ll spend the $150 for plane tickets and a week later we’ll end things. Are these thoughts worth sharing with him? I’m leaning towards still going, but I would love to know your opinions. Would you go given all the future uncertainties and potential waste of money that I could’ve put towards my upcoming botox appointment? Hahaha -BTW it is ‘my turn’ to fly to him.",,3,Unusual_Marzipan887,1677753688.0 +BTW it is ‘my turn’ to fly to him.",,3,Unusual_Marzipan887,2023-03-02 10:41:28 RedPillWomen,11fjv0s,Finding the right man has been a very frustrating journey …,"Hi all, I’m here to vent and seek some advice 🥺 I posted here last year discussing now I felt so invisible and how no decent men were approaching me despite being extremely proactive. @@ -9793,8 +9793,8 @@ I’m 32 now, and I do have big aspirations. I’m seeking a traditionally minde Currently I’m crushing on a guy who lives in another country. We’ve met a few times but he isn’t making any major moves to start a serious relationship (I’m happy to relocate but he hasn’t bought it up). I know I need to have some more options lined up if that doesn’t work out. -So I don’t know if I’m coming across as desperate or boring or what. Any tips would be appreciated, and also your personal experiences of dating/marrying powerful men. And thank you for reading my rant! 🙏🏾😘",,5,Independent-Hall4929,1677708804.0 -RedPillWomen,11fscut,How many of each category of clothing items should/do you have?,"I grew up without a lot and I don't even know what's normal now. How many formal tops/bottoms, professional tops/bottoms, leisure/lounge tops/bottoms or plain ol' errand running tops/bottoms, tank tops, dresses, shorts, skirts, blazers, sweatshirts, hoodies, jackets, coats, windbreakers, different types of heels, shoes for running errands, shoes for lounging, shoes for casual events or get togethers, shoes for semi-formal occasions, shoes for formal occasions, shoes for work, gym shoes for the gym, shoes for any extracirriculars you do (wanna get back into soccer as an adult for ex. how many cleats), how many sandals, outfits and shoes for work events or going out with friends, nice shoes for dates, dresses, skirts, shorts, bras, sports bras, specific # of different types of bras, panties, lingerie, swimwear, hats scarves gloves, jewellery, etc etc etc Anything you can think of. And when I say sweatshirts and hoodies, I literally mean how much of each and not using them interchangeably, same with jackets & coats, and pants and trousers and jeans, all separate. How many pairs of workout pants or leggings, workout tank tops for the gym, sundresses or things to wear around the house, how many pajamas, how much more luxurious sleepwear (so like how many traditional pajamas, think comfy and cozy, vs how many 'sleepwear' items that are probably more silky or border on lingerie.. and then lingerie being a whole separate entity), how many bath robes, slippers, etc. I have no clue what is normal or what is suggested for a woman.",,2,ichillonforums,1677729856.0 +So I don’t know if I’m coming across as desperate or boring or what. Any tips would be appreciated, and also your personal experiences of dating/marrying powerful men. And thank you for reading my rant! 🙏🏾😘",,5,Independent-Hall4929,2023-03-01 22:13:24 +RedPillWomen,11fscut,How many of each category of clothing items should/do you have?,"I grew up without a lot and I don't even know what's normal now. How many formal tops/bottoms, professional tops/bottoms, leisure/lounge tops/bottoms or plain ol' errand running tops/bottoms, tank tops, dresses, shorts, skirts, blazers, sweatshirts, hoodies, jackets, coats, windbreakers, different types of heels, shoes for running errands, shoes for lounging, shoes for casual events or get togethers, shoes for semi-formal occasions, shoes for formal occasions, shoes for work, gym shoes for the gym, shoes for any extracirriculars you do (wanna get back into soccer as an adult for ex. how many cleats), how many sandals, outfits and shoes for work events or going out with friends, nice shoes for dates, dresses, skirts, shorts, bras, sports bras, specific # of different types of bras, panties, lingerie, swimwear, hats scarves gloves, jewellery, etc etc etc Anything you can think of. And when I say sweatshirts and hoodies, I literally mean how much of each and not using them interchangeably, same with jackets & coats, and pants and trousers and jeans, all separate. How many pairs of workout pants or leggings, workout tank tops for the gym, sundresses or things to wear around the house, how many pajamas, how much more luxurious sleepwear (so like how many traditional pajamas, think comfy and cozy, vs how many 'sleepwear' items that are probably more silky or border on lingerie.. and then lingerie being a whole separate entity), how many bath robes, slippers, etc. I have no clue what is normal or what is suggested for a woman.",,2,ichillonforums,2023-03-02 04:04:16 RedPillWomen,11f2mqr,Embracing and Embodying Your Beliefs,"Groups hate it when someone breaks out of routine and starts pursuing their own path. It drives them mad, it forces them to rethink their choices which most people hate to do. It usually causes people to confront their options and when they are not too good, denial kicks in and the result is to get back in line with the rest of the group to avoid disruption. Women who choose to lead a red-pilled life are often met with unfriendly reactions as it is against the accepted standard norm. When a woman chooses to be a homemaker and SATM, she is met with frowned faces as if she is making a grave mistake. This can lead one to honestly doubt her choices: ""Maybe I am in the wrong for not pursuing the path everyone is pursuing."" kind of thoughts. @@ -9807,23 +9807,23 @@ We now live in an echo chamber and accepted beliefs are amplified while those th It is one thing saying you will be a homemaker and it's another to actually get to live that lifestyle. Not only will new challenges that nobody ever mentioned arise but also at that time that you get to learn whether you can walk the talk. -This is why it is important to remind yourself of the motivations that led you to this path. Be sure that your sentiments will be challenged and there will be moments of weakness and self-doubt but if your motivations are grounded, at some point you will learn to tune out the noise.",,16,cknyakina,1677674006.0 -RedPillWomen,11f4afw,How can I improve my self-confidence?,"Hey guys, it is me again. My self-esteem is incredibly low because I was bullied in high school for a long time. Although I have turned 24, I have no idea how to develop a relationship, including friendships. I'm too shy to use equipment at the gym, even though I know no one cares. I always try to hide my face or put on makeup. I feel so quite anxious when I speaking in a group of friends. I am in a situation like this, trying to improve myself. I kinda feel exhausted and trapped and I wanna change it. Do you have any suggestions for improving my self-confidence except therapy?",,8,Subject_Community995,1677678694.0 +This is why it is important to remind yourself of the motivations that led you to this path. Be sure that your sentiments will be challenged and there will be moments of weakness and self-doubt but if your motivations are grounded, at some point you will learn to tune out the noise.",,16,cknyakina,2023-03-01 12:33:26 +RedPillWomen,11f4afw,How can I improve my self-confidence?,"Hey guys, it is me again. My self-esteem is incredibly low because I was bullied in high school for a long time. Although I have turned 24, I have no idea how to develop a relationship, including friendships. I'm too shy to use equipment at the gym, even though I know no one cares. I always try to hide my face or put on makeup. I feel so quite anxious when I speaking in a group of friends. I am in a situation like this, trying to improve myself. I kinda feel exhausted and trapped and I wanna change it. Do you have any suggestions for improving my self-confidence except therapy?",,8,Subject_Community995,2023-03-01 13:51:34 RedPillWomen,11eu0z7,How to stop being angry at ex,"Hello everybody, I'm using a throwaway account because I don't want any of my friends (or my ex) to find this on my regular account, sorry mods. How do I stop being so angry at my ex? I'm 20 and he was the first boyfriend I'd ever had. We dated for three months, we had sex, and two days later he dumped. It's been a month and a half, and for the first month I told myself it was fine, I wasn't mad, and I even tried to be friends with him. That's such a lie, I'm angry and hurt and I feel used. I told him repeatedly that I didn't want to have sex, and he kept bringing it up every time we'd get physical, and one day I said yes. I consented, it was my choice, but I wouldn't have fucking done it if I'd known he was going to dump me two days later. -I just want to stop being so angry. It was my first time and now I'm so bitter about it. I feel stupid. Please help.",,8,Latter-Cranberry4508,1677644459.0 +I just want to stop being so angry. It was my first time and now I'm so bitter about it. I feel stupid. Please help.",,8,Latter-Cranberry4508,2023-03-01 04:20:59 RedPillWomen,11ds6ft,More interest from older men than from those my age?,"Hello all! Once again, thank you very much for the advice on my previous post. It led me to a lot of helpful realizations about the way I act. Now I’m back with more questions! I’ve noticed that I regularly get attention from men slightly older than me (25-30 years), and less from those around my age (21). For further context, they tend to be former military now attending college. Does anybody have any idea why that is? I tend to be clear about my interest in a long term relationship (aka not a hookup), but I thought men are more interested in that when they’re even older, like 30+ years. I was raised to be respectful of those older than me, so I may be slightly more deferential to “older” men. I’m also not the best at picking up on flirting, so it could just be that the older guys are clearer about it. -Is this just men’s preference for younger women? Is it because of my behavior? I’d prefer to date a man around my age or a few years older, so I’m interested in trying to discern why this is.",,8,Valuable_Place1265,1677545254.0 -RedPillWomen,11bixuj,Cooking,One thing that’s really a big deal for my bf 24m is that I 25F know how to cook and I don’t do well in that department. I always had my mom cook and prepare everything for me or I just ate out. Where can I go to get help. Any YouTube channels ?,,18,Darksnickerss,1677324828.0 +Is this just men’s preference for younger women? Is it because of my behavior? I’d prefer to date a man around my age or a few years older, so I’m interested in trying to discern why this is.",,8,Valuable_Place1265,2023-02-28 00:47:34 +RedPillWomen,11bixuj,Cooking,One thing that’s really a big deal for my bf 24m is that I 25F know how to cook and I don’t do well in that department. I always had my mom cook and prepare everything for me or I just ate out. Where can I go to get help. Any YouTube channels ?,,18,Darksnickerss,2023-02-25 11:33:48 Feminism,phrcrn,This is a comprehensive list of resources for those in need of an abortion,"**Update** I guess I've been mass reported for posting these links over Reddit becuase they've suspended my account for ""violating content policy"". I've tried to appeal multiple times but they don't even reply. Please keep posting these links, now that Roe has been overturn we need them more than ever. This is a list of resources I’m compiling for people who need an abortion. If you know of any other resource not listed here please let me know and I’ll add it to the list. @@ -9900,9 +9900,9 @@ Please beware of websites that sell [**fake abortion pills**](https://www.womeno * [**The Fake Abortion Clinics Of America: Misconception**](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=g-ex4Q-z-is) * [**Crisis Pregnancy Centers: Last Week Tonight with John Oliver**](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4NNpkv3Us1I) -**Note**- Some of these websites may be blocked in your country by your internet service provider. You can bypass this block using a VPN like [this one](https://protonvpn.com/), it's free, safe and easy to install. To get rid of banners and pop-ups you can install [uBlock Origin](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/ublock-origin/cjpalhdlnbpafiamejdnhcphjbkeiagm?hl=en) and [Popup Blocker](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/popup-blocker-strict/aefkmifgmaafnojlojpnekbpbmjiiogg?hl=en). They work on most browsers, on phone as well on PC and it takes a few seconds to install them.",,3144,elkatiuskas,1630761302.0 -Feminism,1ahx0su,Best of Posts (3),,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1ahx0su,512,lewisjessicag,1706969647.0 -Feminism,1ahwybi,Best of Posts (1),,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1ahwybi,420,lewisjessicag,1706969441.0 +**Note**- Some of these websites may be blocked in your country by your internet service provider. You can bypass this block using a VPN like [this one](https://protonvpn.com/), it's free, safe and easy to install. To get rid of banners and pop-ups you can install [uBlock Origin](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/ublock-origin/cjpalhdlnbpafiamejdnhcphjbkeiagm?hl=en) and [Popup Blocker](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/popup-blocker-strict/aefkmifgmaafnojlojpnekbpbmjiiogg?hl=en). They work on most browsers, on phone as well on PC and it takes a few seconds to install them.",,3144,elkatiuskas,2021-09-04 13:15:02 +Feminism,1ahx0su,Best of Posts (3),,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1ahx0su,512,lewisjessicag,2024-02-03 14:14:07 +Feminism,1ahwybi,Best of Posts (1),,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1ahwybi,420,lewisjessicag,2024-02-03 14:10:41 Feminism,1ai19mv,Female genital mutilation,"Hello, I've never posted on this page before, but a friend told me that it would be good for raising awareness... I don't even know how to start talking about this; I live in a normal kinda Arab/Muslim country (I thought so, at least)! There's not much FGM going on around us, and I'm verrry vocal about my feminist beliefs and support of women in my family. @@ -9919,8 +9919,8 @@ My mom told me that the reason that it keeps women pure is because they will not A few days later, my cousin, that is four years younger than me, was FGM'd, and when she talked to her mother about it and asked her why they hadn't told her, she was told, ""Why do you even care about this? It is not important, and you should be thankful"" this sucks as she is like a best friend/sister to me and I'm so sad for her. -I wish I didn't find out about it...",,165,idkmilo,1706981231.0 -Feminism,1ai2jej,House chores,"I hate that I have to do all the chores while all my male family members sit all day and do nothing, and that's because my family and my country are so backward. They believe it's a woman's duty to do chores. And every time I do chores, I feel so humiliated every time I do chores for them. Sorry if this is not the right place to post this",,62,WideAd443,1706984569.0 +I wish I didn't find out about it...",,165,idkmilo,2024-02-03 17:27:11 +Feminism,1ai2jej,House chores,"I hate that I have to do all the chores while all my male family members sit all day and do nothing, and that's because my family and my country are so backward. They believe it's a woman's duty to do chores. And every time I do chores, I feel so humiliated every time I do chores for them. Sorry if this is not the right place to post this",,62,WideAd443,2024-02-03 18:22:49 Feminism,1ahntm9,The “friend zone” and the implication that a woman’s friendship is worthless,"I’m sure this is a topic that has been talked about by many more intelligent and eloquent people, but I grew up with the concept of the “friend zone” shoved down my throat growing up from movies and tv as well as social media. I didn’t realize until adulthood how much the concept actually disgusts me, and all of the horrible implications behind it. When a man complains about a woman friend zoning him, he is more or less saying that her friendship is not worth anything to him if it doesn’t also come along with sex. It doesn’t matter the kinds of conversations they have, her intelligence, the way they support each other, if it’s platonic it has no value. @@ -9929,23 +9929,23 @@ Women are people. People who men may or may not be compatible with romantically, To say that a woman has friend zoned you places her in a subhuman position in which she is just there to provide sex and labor, and if she doesn’t do that any other part of the relationship is rendered meaningless. -It’s bullshit.",,633,liliminus,1706935260.0 -Feminism,1ahwyxv,Best of Posts (2),,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1ahwyxv,89,lewisjessicag,1706969489.0 -Feminism,1ai874k,What do women wear?,"So..I’ve always hated stereotypes of women. It’s obviously another way to control women and make us feel like we are just here to be objects for men to desire. I don’t like when anyone thinks women should/shouldn’t look a certain way. I see your appearance choices as a way of self-expression, which is going to look different for everyone. That said, I know that stereotypes do exist but I don’t really like adhering to them. One of my female friends recently came out as gay and I was really happy for her. She seems really progressive to me as far as feminism goes. She sent a picture to our group chat of her wearing a gray shirt and jeans, saying “I can’t believe I didn’t know I was gay before!!” It really made me cringe. I hated the implication that because she was wearing neutral clothing, she couldn’t be a straight woman. It just furthers the expectation that all women must look “feminine”. I told her that I don’t think women have to dress a certain way. She said that she wasn’t saying that and wasn’t sure why I even brought it up. Our other friends also thought my comment was weird and now I’m wondering if I should’ve just been more supportive?",,15,NotASuggestedUsrname,1706999619.0 -Feminism,1ahpw5b,the comments (tw: CSA),,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1ahpw5b,294,uwumiilk,1706942585.0 -Feminism,1ai0ctk,"The movie ""Poor things""","I assume most people know about the movie ""Poor Things"" that came out at the end of last year and people are acting like its a feminist masterpiece but it is actually not and it pisses me off seeing people say it is. I actually haven't seen the movie and after reading some low rated reviews, i am not planning to. In the movie there's a characther Bella who basically gets brought back to life by a mad scientist giving her a new brain. The brain in question is a babys brain so Bella is a grown woman with the brain of a little baby. The movie is supposed to be like her discovering the world or something like that and one thing she nearly instantly starts doing is having sex (apparently a lot of it too) but like she has the brain of a baby and she acts like a toddler too so theres no way she would understand whats happening to her... idk it sounds like a very icky movie. Now its nominated for an oscar too.. if anyone here has seen the movie then please tell me what you think",,36,eppoop,1706978837.0 -Feminism,1ai5r0e,"Mormon Stories on Instagram: ""Being told to “stand down” by the church’s law firm. #lds #mormon #byu #byui #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #bookofmormon #exmormon #ldstemple #exlds""",(TW CSA),https://www.instagram.com/reel/C24908ksKy9/?igsh=ZXBmNjgzYTdpMW1z,11,Background-Party6748,1706993161.0 -Feminism,1ahpq7d,Y’all im tired of hearing “let’s go boys”,"That and bro and man. I get called these things all the time on the internet.. some of my interests are male dominated and they just assume I’m a man. It irritates me, but I don’t correct them because sadly they talk to me and treat me like a person when they assume I’m a man. It’s just frustrating and disheartening when I watch a video on YouTube of something I’m interested in a lot of the time the creator will talk only to men and use language targeted to them.. just makes me feel left out and like the thought of a woman being interested in the content is impossible. Anyways that’s just my rant. If any of y’all relate would love to hear from you.",,162,Virtual_Use_9506,1706941970.0 +It’s bullshit.",,633,liliminus,2024-02-03 04:41:00 +Feminism,1ahwyxv,Best of Posts (2),,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1ahwyxv,89,lewisjessicag,2024-02-03 14:11:29 +Feminism,1ai874k,What do women wear?,"So..I’ve always hated stereotypes of women. It’s obviously another way to control women and make us feel like we are just here to be objects for men to desire. I don’t like when anyone thinks women should/shouldn’t look a certain way. I see your appearance choices as a way of self-expression, which is going to look different for everyone. That said, I know that stereotypes do exist but I don’t really like adhering to them. One of my female friends recently came out as gay and I was really happy for her. She seems really progressive to me as far as feminism goes. She sent a picture to our group chat of her wearing a gray shirt and jeans, saying “I can’t believe I didn’t know I was gay before!!” It really made me cringe. I hated the implication that because she was wearing neutral clothing, she couldn’t be a straight woman. It just furthers the expectation that all women must look “feminine”. I told her that I don’t think women have to dress a certain way. She said that she wasn’t saying that and wasn’t sure why I even brought it up. Our other friends also thought my comment was weird and now I’m wondering if I should’ve just been more supportive?",,15,NotASuggestedUsrname,2024-02-03 22:33:39 +Feminism,1ahpw5b,the comments (tw: CSA),,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1ahpw5b,294,uwumiilk,2024-02-03 06:43:05 +Feminism,1ai0ctk,"The movie ""Poor things""","I assume most people know about the movie ""Poor Things"" that came out at the end of last year and people are acting like its a feminist masterpiece but it is actually not and it pisses me off seeing people say it is. I actually haven't seen the movie and after reading some low rated reviews, i am not planning to. In the movie there's a characther Bella who basically gets brought back to life by a mad scientist giving her a new brain. The brain in question is a babys brain so Bella is a grown woman with the brain of a little baby. The movie is supposed to be like her discovering the world or something like that and one thing she nearly instantly starts doing is having sex (apparently a lot of it too) but like she has the brain of a baby and she acts like a toddler too so theres no way she would understand whats happening to her... idk it sounds like a very icky movie. Now its nominated for an oscar too.. if anyone here has seen the movie then please tell me what you think",,36,eppoop,2024-02-03 16:47:17 +Feminism,1ai5r0e,"Mormon Stories on Instagram: ""Being told to “stand down” by the church’s law firm. #lds #mormon #byu #byui #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #bookofmormon #exmormon #ldstemple #exlds""",(TW CSA),https://www.instagram.com/reel/C24908ksKy9/?igsh=ZXBmNjgzYTdpMW1z,11,Background-Party6748,2024-02-03 20:46:01 +Feminism,1ahpq7d,Y’all im tired of hearing “let’s go boys”,"That and bro and man. I get called these things all the time on the internet.. some of my interests are male dominated and they just assume I’m a man. It irritates me, but I don’t correct them because sadly they talk to me and treat me like a person when they assume I’m a man. It’s just frustrating and disheartening when I watch a video on YouTube of something I’m interested in a lot of the time the creator will talk only to men and use language targeted to them.. just makes me feel left out and like the thought of a woman being interested in the content is impossible. Anyways that’s just my rant. If any of y’all relate would love to hear from you.",,162,Virtual_Use_9506,2024-02-03 06:32:50 Feminism,1ahdzit,“Women are responsible for the male loneliness epidemic”,"Proof that women can live without men but men cannot fathom a world without women ☠️☠️ There’s men out here comparing FEMICIDE to the male loneliness epidemic, literally I’ve seen brain dead takes like “oh well men are killing women because women keep rejecting them and the men are desperate” -And….? As if it’s not their own issue that they’re lonely, or that women finally have enough autonomy to work for themselves and don’t need a husband to survive",,798,uwumiilk,1706907295.0 -Feminism,1ahvq4c,Cheshire PCC faces calls to quit over short skirts comment - BBC News,,https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c72gn8llx2zo.amp,37,Background-Party6748,1706965673.0 -Feminism,1ahwbh0,Book recs about women living lives without men?,I'd love to read about the experiences of women that don't have close (or in general) relationships with men in their lives. Not only romantic but generally speaking. I prefer non-fiction books but I'll welcome fiction as well!,,20,marcospartout,1706967557.0 -Feminism,1ahx5zp,Fire service deletes X post about new recruit after ‘upsetting’ replies,,https://www.wiltshire999s.co.uk/fire-service-deletes-recruit-upsetting/,16,NoUsb,1706970075.0 -Feminism,1ai1k7x,Undercover at CPC,"Has anyone ever had an ultrasound while undercover at a CPC? Maybe for NARAL, or another pro choice organisation? This is just out of curiosity. ",,6,Savings_Peace923,1706982012.0 -Feminism,1ah91ar,My therapist said she doesn’t live in a patriarchal society.,This. This is it. Im a raging feminist and my therapist dropped this bomb. Don’t know how to feel. Help.,,231,Commercial_Ad_1722,1706894695.0 +And….? As if it’s not their own issue that they’re lonely, or that women finally have enough autonomy to work for themselves and don’t need a husband to survive",,798,uwumiilk,2024-02-02 20:54:55 +Feminism,1ahvq4c,Cheshire PCC faces calls to quit over short skirts comment - BBC News,,https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c72gn8llx2zo.amp,37,Background-Party6748,2024-02-03 13:07:53 +Feminism,1ahwbh0,Book recs about women living lives without men?,I'd love to read about the experiences of women that don't have close (or in general) relationships with men in their lives. Not only romantic but generally speaking. I prefer non-fiction books but I'll welcome fiction as well!,,20,marcospartout,2024-02-03 13:39:17 +Feminism,1ahx5zp,Fire service deletes X post about new recruit after ‘upsetting’ replies,,https://www.wiltshire999s.co.uk/fire-service-deletes-recruit-upsetting/,16,NoUsb,2024-02-03 14:21:15 +Feminism,1ai1k7x,Undercover at CPC,"Has anyone ever had an ultrasound while undercover at a CPC? Maybe for NARAL, or another pro choice organisation? This is just out of curiosity. ",,6,Savings_Peace923,2024-02-03 17:40:12 +Feminism,1ah91ar,My therapist said she doesn’t live in a patriarchal society.,This. This is it. Im a raging feminist and my therapist dropped this bomb. Don’t know how to feel. Help.,,231,Commercial_Ad_1722,2024-02-02 17:24:55 Feminism,1ahcvda,Being friends with men is hard,"I'm going to start with saying, I love my guy friends and obviously this is a generalisation- not all guys or friend groups are like this. But I want to know. Am I the problem? I find it hard to speak to my guy friends about women's issues at all. If I bring up rates of assault towards women, the issues with some problematic fetishes, etc, they get so incredibly defensive and I get labelled as overreacting or that my ideas are delusional. @@ -9958,12 +9958,12 @@ I truly wonder if I'm the problem. Or if anybody else finds it difficult to be f When I tell them my personal experience they get angry, defensive, offended, and don't believe me or make excuses. -Anybody else?",,131,Resident-Hawk-5383,1706904426.0 -Feminism,1ahlwuq,"Heartbreaking, luckily she is still alive",,https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-02-02/stabbing-victim-inundated-with-texts-and-calls-before-attack/103421166,29,Separate-Stable-9996,1706929133.0 -Feminism,1agz0qk,"‘A sense of betrayal’: liberal dismay as Muslim-led US city bans Pride flags. Many liberals celebrated when Hamtramck, Michigan, elected a Muslim-majority council in 2015 but a vote to exclude LGBTQ+ flags from city property has soured relations",,https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2023/jun/17/hamtramck-michigan-muslim-council-lgbtq-pride-flags-banned,602,Arivanya,1706862638.0 +Anybody else?",,131,Resident-Hawk-5383,2024-02-02 20:07:06 +Feminism,1ahlwuq,"Heartbreaking, luckily she is still alive",,https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-02-02/stabbing-victim-inundated-with-texts-and-calls-before-attack/103421166,29,Separate-Stable-9996,2024-02-03 02:58:53 +Feminism,1agz0qk,"‘A sense of betrayal’: liberal dismay as Muslim-led US city bans Pride flags. Many liberals celebrated when Hamtramck, Michigan, elected a Muslim-majority council in 2015 but a vote to exclude LGBTQ+ flags from city property has soured relations",,https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2023/jun/17/hamtramck-michigan-muslim-council-lgbtq-pride-flags-banned,602,Arivanya,2024-02-02 08:30:38 Feminism,1agwhyt,"According to my grandma, women are guilty for their deaths","Yesterday I was fighting with my grandma about something completely unrelated and of course she started screaming about how ""Women are sl*ts"" ""Divorces are due to women not knowing their place anymore"" and... ""If women closed their legs instead of marrying the wrong men, they wouldn't get ki**ed"". Can't begin to describe how disgusted I am in that woman, I have never gotten an interest in active feminism but now I got my call. -I want to read about feminism, spread feminism, breath feminism until no girl on this planet actually has to hear something so deeply disgusting.",,539,Professional_Sea1982,1706852539.0 +I want to read about feminism, spread feminism, breath feminism until no girl on this planet actually has to hear something so deeply disgusting.",,539,Professional_Sea1982,2024-02-02 05:42:19 Feminism,1ahjjsa,re: ex gifted me The Robber Bride by Margaret Atwood?,"My ex and I had a fraught relationship and he gifted me The Robber Bride with an inscription from him about how I need to take accountability for my actions in order to grow. He had a bug problem with me talking about my experienced with him to my friends during our relationship, even criticizing me for “using his real name” when he listened in on my therapy session once. I will paste what he wrote to me here. I haven’t read the book yet but from what I read online it seems like the themes of this book are more complex than what he is implying? He can also be quite mean? I just would like some alternative perspectives from people who are familiar with the book. I am a feminist and a fan of Margaret Atwood, but I am wary of his intentions. What he wrote me: @@ -9971,26 +9971,26 @@ What he wrote me: Life it would seem is in many ways about growth. In order to grow we must recognize who we are and who we aim to be. You have so much potential and so many opportunities. There are also already so very many good things in your life as it stands. Don’t overlook the contemporary good, ever, you’ll be doing yourself quite the disservice. In order to grow we must recognize our faults and endeavor to improve, otherwise we become stagnant. Life is most worth living, especially the examined life. You are very loved, -[him]",,13,eurydiceruesalome,1706921928.0 -Feminism,1agzhkq,Three girls die after FGM rituals in Sierra Leone,,https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2024/feb/02/girls-die-after-fgm-ceremonies-in-sierra-leone,247,BurtonDesque,1706864690.0 -Feminism,1ah18fo,Sweden: Where it's taboo for dads to skip parental leave,,https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20240130-sweden-where-its-taboo-for-dads-to-skip-parental-leave,119,Jojuj,1706872065.0 -Feminism,1ah5rvl,Why there is a stereotype that men are much funnier than woman?,"I was hanging out with my friend and she told me that im very random and funny like a guy, and thats why she prefer to spend time with me. I started to think is it really true that men are really funnier than woman? After research i finf some news that its true, but i think it something wrog with it. I think its because being funny a positive trait, and women need be by society very serious, cold (example: in work as boss), neat and with no expression, or being cheerful but in silly way, not inteligent wise way. I think its sad, because when i think about any my childhood cartoons there always a boy was this funny kid, and girl always was annoying and irritated. From my experience i can say that its not true, and i think society told us so, so we starting think this way? Please tell your opinion im so courious!",,51,eluwinabdhusw,1706886257.0 -Feminism,1ah8u5b,3 Huge Tech Companies Endorse Bill That Could Wipe Abortion Info From the Internet,,https://jezebel.com/3-huge-tech-companies-endorse-bill-that-could-wipe-abor-1851217281,28,evanFFTF,1706894179.0 -Feminism,1ah1bh1,These dudes are unhinged,,https://i.redd.it/51zfr3izr0gc1.jpeg,43,Zoe_Hamm,1706872405.0 -Feminism,1agqpbh,There...this tumblr post describes how Doctors have been treating women throughout the ages,,https://i.redd.it/maghe2bnj2gc1.jpeg,274,ClaireDacloush,1706834622.0 +[him]",,13,eurydiceruesalome,2024-02-03 00:58:48 +Feminism,1agzhkq,Three girls die after FGM rituals in Sierra Leone,,https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2024/feb/02/girls-die-after-fgm-ceremonies-in-sierra-leone,247,BurtonDesque,2024-02-02 09:04:50 +Feminism,1ah18fo,Sweden: Where it's taboo for dads to skip parental leave,,https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20240130-sweden-where-its-taboo-for-dads-to-skip-parental-leave,119,Jojuj,2024-02-02 11:07:45 +Feminism,1ah5rvl,Why there is a stereotype that men are much funnier than woman?,"I was hanging out with my friend and she told me that im very random and funny like a guy, and thats why she prefer to spend time with me. I started to think is it really true that men are really funnier than woman? After research i finf some news that its true, but i think it something wrog with it. I think its because being funny a positive trait, and women need be by society very serious, cold (example: in work as boss), neat and with no expression, or being cheerful but in silly way, not inteligent wise way. I think its sad, because when i think about any my childhood cartoons there always a boy was this funny kid, and girl always was annoying and irritated. From my experience i can say that its not true, and i think society told us so, so we starting think this way? Please tell your opinion im so courious!",,51,eluwinabdhusw,2024-02-02 15:04:17 +Feminism,1ah8u5b,3 Huge Tech Companies Endorse Bill That Could Wipe Abortion Info From the Internet,,https://jezebel.com/3-huge-tech-companies-endorse-bill-that-could-wipe-abor-1851217281,28,evanFFTF,2024-02-02 17:16:19 +Feminism,1ah1bh1,These dudes are unhinged,,https://i.redd.it/51zfr3izr0gc1.jpeg,43,Zoe_Hamm,2024-02-02 11:13:25 +Feminism,1agqpbh,There...this tumblr post describes how Doctors have been treating women throughout the ages,,https://i.redd.it/maghe2bnj2gc1.jpeg,274,ClaireDacloush,2024-02-02 00:43:42 Feminism,1ah0bo5,Did I overreact?,"Hey y'all I(19f) am a single girl child, but recently when we visited my aunt, the male favouritism made me cry. It was lunch time and my brother asked me to sit with them (I was the only female sitting at the table). Plates were prepared for my brother, his friend(who was over), my uncle while I was kept waiting. When my brother asked them where my plate was, my aunt asked them to start without me and it was implied that the men needed to be served first. I felt really belittled seeing the lack of importance I had simply because I am a woman. The lack of importance and consideration humiliated me and made me want to never visit them. Later, when I tried to convey my feelings to my mother I started crying(without realising) I did not realise that I felt so strongly. Seeing me cry she got teary as well. Am I wrong for crying and was it an overreaction? -",,45,Bellindaslock,1706868336.0 -Feminism,1agmxxr,Sexism isn’t real because… women be shopping?,This started as a conversation about abortion and pregnancy. (I’m in blue.) I don’t understand how people can think this way. Do they seriously believe that women have more power in society?,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1agmxxr,302,Canvas718,1706824862.0 -Feminism,1ahha0t,What are some great ideas for a feminist sci-fi story?,I am looking for great ideas on stories about feminist sci-fi. What are some? ,,1,Gloomy_Living_7532,1706915700.0 -Feminism,1agzi2q,Women’s champion Swati Maliwal takes Delhi anti-rape fight nationwide,,https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2024/feb/02/womens-champion-swati-maliwal-takes-delhi-anti-rape-fight-nationwide,27,BurtonDesque,1706864754.0 -Feminism,1ah4ok6,"“To Repulse the State from Our Uteri: Anarcha-feminism, Reproductive Freedom, and Dual Power” | Radical History Review special issue ""Feminists Confront State Violence"" (Jan 2024)",,https://read.dukeupress.edu/radical-history-review/article/2024/148/90/384729/To-Repulse-the-State-from-Our-Uteri-Anarcha?guestAccessKey=7806bc55-d93d-4b68-ac99-8c9b089b52ef,8,RageoftheMonkey,1706883390.0 -Feminism,1aghjoo,"Other parents telling their sons ""Ladies first"" when it was my daughter's turn anyway?","Wondering what to say to my daughter privately in a situation like this: This happened twice at a quiet playground yesterday. It was my daughter's turn to go down a slide and their older boy tried to push her aside. Two separate mothers loudly said ""Llllladiesssss first"" It really surprised me to be honest. ",,162,username62523,1706811326.0 -Feminism,1ag4ktf,"Gen Z boys and men more likely than baby boomers to believe feminism harmful, says poll",,https://www.theguardian.com/news/2024/feb/01/gen-z-boys-and-men-more-likely-than-baby-boomers-to-believe-feminism-harmful-says-poll,920,BurtonDesque,1706769035.0 -Feminism,1ah7w33,"Good Morning, Revolution! Why does MAGA hate Taylor Swift?",,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PtM5WOH4wWc,1,VirginianLaborer,1706891811.0 -Feminism,1agme7e,"The voices of the voiceless: Kim Bok-Dong, ‘comfort women’ and their continued struggle for recognition.",,https://shado-mag.com/opinion/the-voices-of-the-voiceless-kim-bok-dong-comfort-women-and-their-continued-struggle-for-recognition/,29,hamsterdamc,1706823485.0 -Feminism,1ag731u,‘I can’t face how much she suffered’: Argentina femicides at record high as Milei dilutes protections | Global development,,https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2024/jan/30/i-cant-face-how-much-she-suffered-argentina-femicides-at-record-high-as-milei-dilutes-protections,272,xGentian_violet,1706779497.0 -Feminism,1ag7i6c,Protecting the real victims /s,,https://i.redd.it/wc3bg5iyawfc1.jpeg,168,ilovegoodcheese,1706781375.0 +",,45,Bellindaslock,2024-02-02 10:05:36 +Feminism,1agmxxr,Sexism isn’t real because… women be shopping?,This started as a conversation about abortion and pregnancy. (I’m in blue.) I don’t understand how people can think this way. Do they seriously believe that women have more power in society?,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1agmxxr,302,Canvas718,2024-02-01 22:01:02 +Feminism,1ahha0t,What are some great ideas for a feminist sci-fi story?,I am looking for great ideas on stories about feminist sci-fi. What are some? ,,1,Gloomy_Living_7532,2024-02-02 23:15:00 +Feminism,1agzi2q,Women’s champion Swati Maliwal takes Delhi anti-rape fight nationwide,,https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2024/feb/02/womens-champion-swati-maliwal-takes-delhi-anti-rape-fight-nationwide,27,BurtonDesque,2024-02-02 09:05:54 +Feminism,1ah4ok6,"“To Repulse the State from Our Uteri: Anarcha-feminism, Reproductive Freedom, and Dual Power” | Radical History Review special issue ""Feminists Confront State Violence"" (Jan 2024)",,https://read.dukeupress.edu/radical-history-review/article/2024/148/90/384729/To-Repulse-the-State-from-Our-Uteri-Anarcha?guestAccessKey=7806bc55-d93d-4b68-ac99-8c9b089b52ef,8,RageoftheMonkey,2024-02-02 14:16:30 +Feminism,1aghjoo,"Other parents telling their sons ""Ladies first"" when it was my daughter's turn anyway?","Wondering what to say to my daughter privately in a situation like this: This happened twice at a quiet playground yesterday. It was my daughter's turn to go down a slide and their older boy tried to push her aside. Two separate mothers loudly said ""Llllladiesssss first"" It really surprised me to be honest. ",,162,username62523,2024-02-01 18:15:26 +Feminism,1ag4ktf,"Gen Z boys and men more likely than baby boomers to believe feminism harmful, says poll",,https://www.theguardian.com/news/2024/feb/01/gen-z-boys-and-men-more-likely-than-baby-boomers-to-believe-feminism-harmful-says-poll,920,BurtonDesque,2024-02-01 06:30:35 +Feminism,1ah7w33,"Good Morning, Revolution! Why does MAGA hate Taylor Swift?",,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PtM5WOH4wWc,1,VirginianLaborer,2024-02-02 16:36:51 +Feminism,1agme7e,"The voices of the voiceless: Kim Bok-Dong, ‘comfort women’ and their continued struggle for recognition.",,https://shado-mag.com/opinion/the-voices-of-the-voiceless-kim-bok-dong-comfort-women-and-their-continued-struggle-for-recognition/,29,hamsterdamc,2024-02-01 21:38:05 +Feminism,1ag731u,‘I can’t face how much she suffered’: Argentina femicides at record high as Milei dilutes protections | Global development,,https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2024/jan/30/i-cant-face-how-much-she-suffered-argentina-femicides-at-record-high-as-milei-dilutes-protections,272,xGentian_violet,2024-02-01 09:24:57 +Feminism,1ag7i6c,Protecting the real victims /s,,https://i.redd.it/wc3bg5iyawfc1.jpeg,168,ilovegoodcheese,2024-02-01 09:56:15 Feminism,1agbjdv,"There is a growing concern about the rising conservatism/anti-feminism among men, but I am uncertain whether this is a genuine shift or merely a perception due to the world becoming more progressive.","Please note that in this post, my focus is primarily on the Western world, as I lack the knowledge to speak about events occurring elsewhere. Nowadays, many people are worried about the escalating conservative and anti-feminist ideologies among men, often attributing them to figures like Andrew Tate and other conservative content creators. They are particularly worried about the perceived increase of misogyny and homophobia among the younger male demographic. @@ -10001,12 +10001,12 @@ People are bringing up studies indicating that younger men are more inclined tow Research generally indicates a growing acceptance of the LGBTQ+ community, and misogynistic attitudes, albeit gradually, are becoming less normalised. Could the increasing concern about problematic opinions stem from the fact that they are no longer considered the norm but are finally recognised as issues that need addressing? -I believe the shift lies more in societal norms shaping our perception of men's beliefs rather than inherent changes in the beliefs themselves, which are likely gradually improving. Am I off-base? What are your thoughts on this matter?",,70,lanaaa12345,1706795757.0 +I believe the shift lies more in societal norms shaping our perception of men's beliefs rather than inherent changes in the beliefs themselves, which are likely gradually improving. Am I off-base? What are your thoughts on this matter?",,70,lanaaa12345,2024-02-01 13:55:57 Feminism,1ag7a5v,A good comeback to misogynist older coworker?,"I work as a software engineer in a team of 15 people in a huge electronics company. I was transferred to this team along with two other women, so it has been an all-men environment until recently. My husband works from home and I didn't have my own car so I drive his car to work everyday since he doesn't really need it anyway. But I don't have much idea regarding car maintenance so I sometimes ask about where I can take my car to etc. during lunch as small talk. The other day we were having the same conversation and this senior guy asked ""Don't you have a husband? Why doesn't he take care of it?"" I explained I'm the one using it anyway and asked what does it have to do with anything? He kept on saying bs like we switched roles ""jokingly"" so I just turned the other way and didn't respond to him anymore. Then yesterday, I was working at my desk and he said ""Hey have you read the news? They're working on research that lets men to get pregnant, your husband may be interested"" and laughed. I literally felt blood jumping to my brain and snapped out (not as much as I'd like since it's still an office) and basically scolded him. Don't exactly remember what I sait but I asked things like what does car maintenance has to do with being able to be pregnant and where are these roles that he's mentioning written etc. -Now I just want to come up with something that will make him feel just as uncomfortable as I did. His wife is also working at the same company as us actually and they send their kids to daycare so maybe I can hit him there but can't put together the right words. ""Why isn't your wife at home taking care of your kids?"" sounds really dumb to me, please help...",,103,nekotu13,1706780366.0 -Feminism,1agji67,"""Nobody could prepare you for the war"": interview with Croatian feminist Biljana Kašić",,https://commons.com.ua/en/intervyu-z-horvatskoyu-feministkoyu-bilyanoyu-kashich/,8,uanar,1706816210.0 +Now I just want to come up with something that will make him feel just as uncomfortable as I did. His wife is also working at the same company as us actually and they send their kids to daycare so maybe I can hit him there but can't put together the right words. ""Why isn't your wife at home taking care of your kids?"" sounds really dumb to me, please help...",,103,nekotu13,2024-02-01 09:39:26 +Feminism,1agji67,"""Nobody could prepare you for the war"": interview with Croatian feminist Biljana Kašić",,https://commons.com.ua/en/intervyu-z-horvatskoyu-feministkoyu-bilyanoyu-kashich/,8,uanar,2024-02-01 19:36:50 Feminism,1ag2nga,Update: Told off the dirty jokes mechanic!," Following up on this post ,(the backstory in more detail):  [https://www.reddit.com/r/Feminism/comments/1abwt9l/what\_would\_you\_do\_about\_an\_otherwisegood\_mechanic/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Feminism/comments/1abwt9l/what_would_you_do_about_an_otherwisegood_mechanic/) @@ -10051,36 +10051,36 @@ Well this was enlightening! Van info below. Have a good day! \------- -\*As it turns out, they hadn't pulled the code the first time and simply went in for the repair that was visible (coolant leaking everywhere). Last time he did not give me a document of the diagnostic or estimate and I should have asked, but didn't because I'd already taken it to 2 other mechanics who did give me a write up, and his diagnosis sounded on point with theirs. Before I went in this morning, I got the code pulled at AutoZone to have a comparison. Since they didn't pull the code, they didn't catch the spark plugs and cylinders misfiring, so I still have that to deal with. At least my coolant isn't leaking but that was a$2K repair and I thought that would be the end of it. If I posted on Google about that, it would really fall on me (should have asked). But it would be an afterthought/cherry on top compared to the sexist remarks!!!!",,96,No_Celery9390,1706762418.0 -Feminism,1ag5oq5,"Iran: Security forces used rape and other sexual violence to crush ""Woman Life Freedom"" uprising with impunity",,https://www.amnesty.org/en/latest/news/2023/12/iran-security-forces-used-rape-and-other-sexual-violence-to-crush-woman-life-freedom-uprising-with-impunity/,30,chronic-venting,1706773530.0 -Feminism,1afcjli,Even seat belts,I remember my aunt telling me this when I rode with my male cousins.,https://i.redd.it/2lt4r1fycqfc1.jpeg,2496,Loud-Restaurant-9513,1706687088.0 -Feminism,1afqev9,Women say mixed gyms are off-limits due to harassment from men,,https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-humber-68145372,272,Kagedeah,1706729643.0 +\*As it turns out, they hadn't pulled the code the first time and simply went in for the repair that was visible (coolant leaking everywhere). Last time he did not give me a document of the diagnostic or estimate and I should have asked, but didn't because I'd already taken it to 2 other mechanics who did give me a write up, and his diagnosis sounded on point with theirs. Before I went in this morning, I got the code pulled at AutoZone to have a comparison. Since they didn't pull the code, they didn't catch the spark plugs and cylinders misfiring, so I still have that to deal with. At least my coolant isn't leaking but that was a$2K repair and I thought that would be the end of it. If I posted on Google about that, it would really fall on me (should have asked). But it would be an afterthought/cherry on top compared to the sexist remarks!!!!",,96,No_Celery9390,2024-02-01 04:40:18 +Feminism,1ag5oq5,"Iran: Security forces used rape and other sexual violence to crush ""Woman Life Freedom"" uprising with impunity",,https://www.amnesty.org/en/latest/news/2023/12/iran-security-forces-used-rape-and-other-sexual-violence-to-crush-woman-life-freedom-uprising-with-impunity/,30,chronic-venting,2024-02-01 07:45:30 +Feminism,1afcjli,Even seat belts,I remember my aunt telling me this when I rode with my male cousins.,https://i.redd.it/2lt4r1fycqfc1.jpeg,2496,Loud-Restaurant-9513,2024-01-31 07:44:48 +Feminism,1afqev9,Women say mixed gyms are off-limits due to harassment from men,,https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-humber-68145372,272,Kagedeah,2024-01-31 19:34:03 Feminism,1afn29s,How should feminists handle another Trump term?,"Donald Trump is currently leading in the polls and there is a very good chance he will be elected the next president. He has 20 sexual assault allegations against him, and has been found liable in civil court for assault against E. Jean Carroll. He says he is proud of overturning Roe v. Wade, which took away womens' rights to abortion. Conservative activists are also talking about taking away the right to no fault divorce. In his second term, he would appoint many more judges who would turn the U.S. legal system to be even more hostile to womens' rights. He also engaged in racism regularly and would be hostile to LGBTQ rights. -My question is, how should feminists handle another presidency by Trump? How can feminists fight back and defend womens' rights? Is there a chance feminists can stop him from becoming president again?",,253,beet_0,1706721580.0 -Feminism,1agob7q,Not surprised,Look at this video... 👀 https://pin.it/6T8To8NIz,,0,Loud-Restaurant-9513,1706828286.0 +My question is, how should feminists handle another presidency by Trump? How can feminists fight back and defend womens' rights? Is there a chance feminists can stop him from becoming president again?",,253,beet_0,2024-01-31 17:19:40 +Feminism,1agob7q,Not surprised,Look at this video... 👀 https://pin.it/6T8To8NIz,,0,Loud-Restaurant-9513,2024-02-01 22:58:06 Feminism,1aff9ik,Why the Right Hates Taylor Swift,"For the most part, Taylor Swift looks like she should be on the right. She hits the extremely narrow target that all the hegemonies of the right have created. She’s white, cis, straight (or straight-passing), thin, conventionally attractive, wealthy and she has blue eyes and blonde hair. If she had simply been complacent enough, she could’ve been their poster girl. She has an enormous, passionate fan base. And she could’ve won over those fans as voters for the right. She could’ve played into her earlier good girl country persona and convinced her fans to become submissive, sundress-wearing housewives, popping out babies and baking bread for their husbands… But that’s not the route that Taylor took in her life. Instead, she didn’t choose to NOT dim her light to become a broodmare or to be eclipsed by a man. She chose to make her life a celebration of her talent. She chose to be open and comfortable with her body and her sexuality. She chose to sometimes use her platform to support the causes of the marginalized. That is the ultimate mockery of the right. Someone who is supposed to look like their perfect little Nazi milkmaid is instead spitting on their values by doing whatever the fuck she wants. -Of course, she isn’t exactly the most subversive feminist icon, either. But as the right scrambles to regain control by heavily brainwashing and recruiting voters to their side, they cannot afford to allow even the slightest amount of fence-sitting to go by without scrutiny.",https://i.redd.it/hrhl9ig5brfc1.jpeg,671,ravenclawmystic,1706698589.0 -Feminism,1afsdb7,Since Taylor Swift is being discussed I made this,,https://i.redd.it/jvo5mh4j9ufc1.jpeg,78,ClaireDacloush,1706734368.0 -Feminism,1ag5ju3,How to celebrate international women's day?,I want to do something for international women's day but I don't know what. I think at least i should wear purple. Also I'm a teenager (not telling my exact age for privacy reasons) so i can't do anything crazy... Any suggestions?,,7,dork_marmot,1706773000.0 -Feminism,1afrm70,"""Don't let the other soldiers watch"": Rape as a weapon of war in Sudan",,https://www.aljazeera.com/features/longform/2023/8/14/dont-let-the-other-soldiers-watch-rape-as-a-weapon-of-war-in-sudan,35,chronic-venting,1706732557.0 +Of course, she isn’t exactly the most subversive feminist icon, either. But as the right scrambles to regain control by heavily brainwashing and recruiting voters to their side, they cannot afford to allow even the slightest amount of fence-sitting to go by without scrutiny.",https://i.redd.it/hrhl9ig5brfc1.jpeg,671,ravenclawmystic,2024-01-31 10:56:29 +Feminism,1afsdb7,Since Taylor Swift is being discussed I made this,,https://i.redd.it/jvo5mh4j9ufc1.jpeg,78,ClaireDacloush,2024-01-31 20:52:48 +Feminism,1ag5ju3,How to celebrate international women's day?,I want to do something for international women's day but I don't know what. I think at least i should wear purple. Also I'm a teenager (not telling my exact age for privacy reasons) so i can't do anything crazy... Any suggestions?,,7,dork_marmot,2024-02-01 07:36:40 +Feminism,1afrm70,"""Don't let the other soldiers watch"": Rape as a weapon of war in Sudan",,https://www.aljazeera.com/features/longform/2023/8/14/dont-let-the-other-soldiers-watch-rape-as-a-weapon-of-war-in-sudan,35,chronic-venting,2024-01-31 20:22:37 Feminism,1afslld,Feminist literature that everyone should read,"Hi! I'm a feminist translator searching for a new proyect... Since I haven't read (and sadly, never will) every work out there, I'd be glad to hear your suggestions. If there are feminist poetry or narrative or even theoretical books that you've read in either English or French, and feel like they've been overlooked, please do tell. -I am placing special attention on those works that history forgot because of social and historical issues.",,22,sad_girl_trying,1706734927.0 +I am placing special attention on those works that history forgot because of social and historical issues.",,22,sad_girl_trying,2024-01-31 21:02:07 Feminism,1afgxim,"Is it okay to be offended by the terms ""masculine"" and ""feminine""?","I'm a woman, and I really love traditionally ""feminine"" things like (but not limited to): eye shadow, glitter, blush, fairies, flowers, butterflies, kindness, friendship, cuddles, animals, looking after and healing things, organisation, singing etc. But, I feel really uncomfortable with being called feminine because I don't like gender constructs and being placed in a box, and see that term as a tool to take women less seriously or to reinforce economic and social inequality, (e.g guys who tried to pick me up/hook up previously used to emphasise my femininity and focus on that at the expense of not really listening to me, they'd just interrupt what I said with compliments on my femininity). Is it acceptable to have those feelings, and to get the ""ick"" from gendered social norms, and does anyone else feel that way? -I really think society likes to take women displaying traits like gentleness and joy for pretty things less seriously and use it as a justification for backing up men being leaders and women being followers. I feel like I'm ""taking crazy pills (Zoolander)"", like is this lack of respect for women all in my head or am I right? I personally feel like I've experienced a bit of discrimination on a social level tbh..",,85,AccomplishedNose9541,1706704803.0 +I really think society likes to take women displaying traits like gentleness and joy for pretty things less seriously and use it as a justification for backing up men being leaders and women being followers. I feel like I'm ""taking crazy pills (Zoolander)"", like is this lack of respect for women all in my head or am I right? I personally feel like I've experienced a bit of discrimination on a social level tbh..",,85,AccomplishedNose9541,2024-01-31 12:40:03 Feminism,1afyihg,Not sure where else to ask so I hope here is okay... microagressions?,"Hey all! So here's some background. So I'm a trans masc individual but I'm still pretty fem presenting, I definitely look like a woman. But right before I started my first year of college, back in August, I finally got the chance to chop off all my hair! It went from butt-length to close to buzzed, though it's grown out significantly right now. @@ -10091,31 +10091,31 @@ It's not so much as asking why I cut my hair, tho I mostly just say 'maintenance But anyways. Does this count as a microagression? If not, what would this fall under? (so I can better look up resources to go forward) What do I even say besides just deflection?(I don't normally go into my gender identity with people I don't know well lol). Like. I dunno. Any help is appreciated! -Thanks!",,8,my_name_is_tree,1706750074.0 +Thanks!",,8,my_name_is_tree,2024-02-01 01:14:34 Feminism,1afdi3k,Forgiving sexist deeds in your man's past?,"Hey hey folks, I found this marvellous man, who reads feminist books, who cares about all minorities, animals, who changed his philosophy at lot following some hardship in his life (and weed haha). He's a pleasure to be with. However before this 'enlightment', he had a very bad moment of his life (neglect at home) and he willingly filmed himself and a girl have sex, and shared the video among his male friends. He didn't even know the name of the girl.... He confessed it to me crying, still feeling shame (it happened 10 years ago). All of his exes reacted with a shrug like 'yeah well you were young and dumb'. It took me a while. I'm very sensitive on these things. I know he changed, but I also feel hopeless. Will ALL men be jerks at some point to women?... -So I guess I'm asking for perspectives and experience. Have you forgiven your man of past deeds? how long did it take? The truth is I never met such a caring, feminist man. I mean it's just how it is. So even if he is corrupted...I might as well give up men altogether.",,65,Bardamuse,1706691071.0 +So I guess I'm asking for perspectives and experience. Have you forgiven your man of past deeds? how long did it take? The truth is I never met such a caring, feminist man. I mean it's just how it is. So even if he is corrupted...I might as well give up men altogether.",,65,Bardamuse,2024-01-31 08:51:11 Feminism,1aetnl4,"Why being too nice kills: Women should not be ""nice girls.""","Women are expected to always be kind, sweet, gentle, and docile with others in the modern day. I'm here to tell you why that's not a good idea. Being a ""nice girl"" in this world opens up vulnerability for men to take advantage of women, especially with humanity's long history of misogyny. Women are expected to be polite, cordial, and forgiving way more than men are and way more than they are ever expected to be. Even simply choosing not to engage with someone or setting boundaries is seen as a threat or an act of rudeness. Let's compare this to the things men are allowed to do and say. Men are allowed to be ""tough."" If they make offensive jokes or remarks, it is often celebrated and those who are hurt by it are called sensitive or weak and told to toughen up. When a man ignores or doesn't engage with someone if they don't like them or simply don't want to, it is seen as his right. When a man sets boundaries with someone or is assertive, it is celebrated. The question is why it's always okay for men but never for women. Why are men held to a different standard for behavior? The moment a woman acts catty back and makes rude or insulting remarks, she is seen as toxic, catty, and rude. So why is it okay for a man to insult a woman and her appearance or character but a woman is demonized and told to go to hell if she returns the energy? -It all boils down to classic sexism, a tale as old as time. Women need to be tough. We need to actually cuss men out. Yes, tell men to ""fuck off."" That is absolutely necessary in this day and age. Be assertive and aggressive when protecting your boundaries. If a man tries violate your space despite obvious disinterest, it is okay to go off and shut down. You deserve the right to your own space and have the right not to engage with someone you don't want to. Be a bitch. Sometimes it is necessary, because the same ""toxic,"" ""mean,"" or ""bitchy"" behavior would be seen as absolutely acceptable by men. It isn't that you are being toxic or mean. It's that your programming has convinced you that being strong and assertive is bad.",,559,br0ken_things,1706634978.0 -Feminism,1affj1h,"Japan’s former PM, 83-year-old Aso, piles insults on female foreign minister",,https://www.theguardian.com/world/2024/jan/31/japans-former-pm-83-year-old-aso-piles-insults-on-female-foreign-minister,19,BurtonDesque,1706699623.0 +It all boils down to classic sexism, a tale as old as time. Women need to be tough. We need to actually cuss men out. Yes, tell men to ""fuck off."" That is absolutely necessary in this day and age. Be assertive and aggressive when protecting your boundaries. If a man tries violate your space despite obvious disinterest, it is okay to go off and shut down. You deserve the right to your own space and have the right not to engage with someone you don't want to. Be a bitch. Sometimes it is necessary, because the same ""toxic,"" ""mean,"" or ""bitchy"" behavior would be seen as absolutely acceptable by men. It isn't that you are being toxic or mean. It's that your programming has convinced you that being strong and assertive is bad.",,559,br0ken_things,2024-01-30 17:16:18 +Feminism,1affj1h,"Japan’s former PM, 83-year-old Aso, piles insults on female foreign minister",,https://www.theguardian.com/world/2024/jan/31/japans-former-pm-83-year-old-aso-piles-insults-on-female-foreign-minister,19,BurtonDesque,2024-01-31 11:13:43 Feminism,1afgr5z,"Is it okay that I find the terms ""feminine"" and ""masculine"" offensive?","I'm a woman, and I really love traditionally ""feminine"" things like (but not limited to): eye shadow, glitter, blush, fairies, flowers, butterflies, kindness, friendship, cuddles, animals, looking after and healing things, organisation, singing etc. But, I feel really uncomfortable with being called feminine because I don't like gender constructs and being placed in a box, and see that term as a tool to take women less seriously or to reinforce economic and social inequality, (e.g guys who tried to pick me up/hook up previously used to emphasise my femininity and focus on that at the expense of not really listening to me, they'd just interrupt what I said with compliments on my femininity). Is it acceptable to have those feelings, and to get the ""ick"" from gendered social norms, and does anyone else feel that way? -I really think society likes to take women displaying traits like gentleness and joy for pretty things less seriously and use it as a justification for backing up men being leaders and women being followers. I feel like I'm ""taking crazy pills (Zoolander)"", like is this lack of respect for women all in my head or am I right? I personally feel like I've experienced a bit of discrimination on a social level tbh..",,9,AccomplishedNose9541,1706704200.0 -Feminism,1aeybmm,France on-track to constitutionalize abortion rights | CNN,,https://www.cnn.com/2024/01/30/europe/france-abortion-rights-vote-intl/index.html,112,ImportantReaction260,1706646238.0 -Feminism,1aevm6a,"E. Jean Carroll, who recently won an $83.3 million defamation lawsuit against former President Donald Trump, has expressed her intention to use the awarded damages in a manner that directly opposes Trump's values.",,https://theintellectualist.com/e-jean-carroll-damages-allocation/,104,Intellectualist_,1706639705.0 +I really think society likes to take women displaying traits like gentleness and joy for pretty things less seriously and use it as a justification for backing up men being leaders and women being followers. I feel like I'm ""taking crazy pills (Zoolander)"", like is this lack of respect for women all in my head or am I right? I personally feel like I've experienced a bit of discrimination on a social level tbh..",,9,AccomplishedNose9541,2024-01-31 12:30:00 +Feminism,1aeybmm,France on-track to constitutionalize abortion rights | CNN,,https://www.cnn.com/2024/01/30/europe/france-abortion-rights-vote-intl/index.html,112,ImportantReaction260,2024-01-30 20:23:58 +Feminism,1aevm6a,"E. Jean Carroll, who recently won an $83.3 million defamation lawsuit against former President Donald Trump, has expressed her intention to use the awarded damages in a manner that directly opposes Trump's values.",,https://theintellectualist.com/e-jean-carroll-damages-allocation/,104,Intellectualist_,2024-01-30 18:35:05 Feminism,1af1x5j,My boyfriend asked his friend to look after me while he went to the toilet.,"My (22F) boyfriend (22M) needed to go to the toilet during a uni ball. For some reason, he whispered in his male friend's ear to look after me. I didn't hear the exact words so it may have even been ""watch her"". I know he said something like this because I know my boyfriend. He's overprotective and treats me like a child sometimes - all in the name of chivalry. He was very drunk at this point. His friend smiled awkwardly and looked pretty uncomfortable. I thought...well, eff that, I'm going to go dancing with my girl friends. So off I went. My bf's friend certainly didn't try to stop me. I was out of there, let me tell you. A while later, my bf is ringing and texting me, asking me where I am. This happened multiple times throughout the night. Every time he went to the toilet or the bar, I would dance with my friends, and he would be ringing me. So annoying! @@ -10124,7 +10124,7 @@ When I left to get into my mom's car, he called me two times but I missed both c The next day, my female friend told me that during the event, my bf stormed up to her and our group of mutual friends and asked where I was. I was dancing with my girl friends at that point! She thought it was really strange that my bf would think she and our friends are responsible for my whereabouts. She looked me in the eyes and asked me ""are you okay?"" She asked it twice. I said yes, I'm okay, confused. I think she's concerned about my relationship. -I guess I am now too. My bf is sweet and caring, but sometimes it's too much. Should I run for the hills? Or talk to him?",,43,sunny_74,1706654968.0 +I guess I am now too. My bf is sweet and caring, but sometimes it's too much. Should I run for the hills? Or talk to him?",,43,sunny_74,2024-01-30 22:49:28 Feminism,1aew4wp,What are your feminist anthem playlist songs?,"So I have several like, badass, feminist anthem, fem power/rage songs and playlists in my Spotify. I wanted to share some of my favorites and hear what some of yours are too if you have any! (You can thank me later bc these are BOPS) @@ -10194,14 +10194,14 @@ About damn time, good as hell, truth hurts- Lizzo -This is just an excerpt of some of my favorites!",,82,2012amica2,1706640933.0 +This is just an excerpt of some of my favorites!",,82,2012amica2,2024-01-30 18:55:33 Feminism,1aet2h2,Comments from men are getting to me... what should I do?,"Through all my life, I've been known as ugly, even by other ugly people, and even my own family. Ive been called ""Lizzo"" ""Mama Cass"" ""Amy Schumer"" it just goes on and on and on... And throughout all of my time at school I've been harassed by men for the way I look. One thing they love to do is pretend they love me, making kissing sounds, flirting with me, touching my behind and breasts, no matter how many times I've told them to stop. I'm currently at home alone after three men on my campus surrounded me and started trying to touch me while making gross kissing noises and comments at me. All of these comments need to stop. I'm tired of being ignored by people, and when I'm not, im being insulted and sexually harassed by them. I recently scheduled (hope I spelled right) a liposuction and some surgery to get rid of my baby face, im also planning on finally trying makeup. Should I go ahead and change my body to make myself attractive (and hopefully get more positive attention), or should I try and stop this bullshit in some other ways. -Overall, I think this perfectly explains why we need feminism in society, because the way men treat women they deem unattractive...",,112,Darkgirlmew,1706633597.0 -Feminism,1aez5tp,Nine News Melbourne's doctored MP image causes sexism fury,,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-australia-68137013,50,BurtonDesque,1706648295.0 -Feminism,1af7w5q,how liberal feminism turns into fasc*sm,,https://youtu.be/9a7LrWo47I0?si=Q07ADzvc-94pWWft,11,i_can_live_with_it,1706671421.0 +Overall, I think this perfectly explains why we need feminism in society, because the way men treat women they deem unattractive...",,112,Darkgirlmew,2024-01-30 16:53:17 +Feminism,1aez5tp,Nine News Melbourne's doctored MP image causes sexism fury,,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-australia-68137013,50,BurtonDesque,2024-01-30 20:58:15 +Feminism,1af7w5q,how liberal feminism turns into fasc*sm,,https://youtu.be/9a7LrWo47I0?si=Q07ADzvc-94pWWft,11,i_can_live_with_it,2024-01-31 03:23:41 Feminism,1af2qxn,Help build “my career story”,"I am a 29F mechanical engineer with a graduate degree and 4 years of experience. I am happy in my current role and projects that I work on. I started with this company in Sept 2022. I want to grow onto the next position which is from advanced mech dev engineer (current) to lead mech dev engineer in 2024. I constantly brought this up during my performance reviews through the year so my manager is not caught off guard with my ask. My manager rated 3 of my projects at 95%, 112%, and 115% for the year end review, so I know my work isn’t going unrecognized. I went into this performance evaluation feeling prepared. (Had all my accomplishments, goals, learning experiences highlighted, i threw in ss from coworkers appreciating my work). But I didn’t come out feeling as confident about it. In this review my manager asked me what “my story” was. And I don’t know how to answer that or build that up. Which is why I need some help! @@ -10212,12 +10212,12 @@ I also recently oversaw a male colleague’s pay while he was sharing his screen How can I prepare going into career conversations with my boss? Any help, tips, resources to build “my story” would be appreciated! Really want to get that title change in 2024. - TLDR - need a promotion in a year. Saw less competent male coworkers pay. Upset thay he makes more than me. Need advice to create “my career story”",,7,Platinum_Notgold,1706657066.0 -Feminism,1aeksol,Is little research on menstruation and female medications our fault?,"I didn’t know a better place to ask this question. I was in a discussion the other day and brought up the fact that it was only very recently that period products started being tested with actual blood and how there is very little research that goes into menstruation. I also talked about how women’s bodies have been overlooked in the past and most research has been done on the male bodies which are (surprise surprise) quite different from us. Which is why a lot of medication and products we use might not be fit for us. Someone then pointed out that if it’s such a problem then why aren’t the women in STEM doing anything about it right now? And why aren’t any women doing said research to work on this issue. He also said that it’s easy to complain, and rather we should be doing something about our gender specific problems before calling the r&d field sexist. This was really hurtful and I didn’t know how to reply. Can someone please help?",,94,Strong-Medium-8642,1706608161.0 -Feminism,1aexsrr,Polish Prime Minister Tusk withdraws former government’s challenge to European convention on domestic violence,,https://notesfrompoland.com/2024/01/30/tusk-withdraws-former-governments-challenge-to-european-convention-on-domestic-violence/,12,BubsyFanboy,1706644954.0 -Feminism,1aeiznc,My Husband and I Tried the 'Fair Play' Cards—And Here’s What Happened,"In the year of our Lord 2024, women are still doing most of the housework and chores compared to men. While men continue to expect women to take on their mothers’ roles as matriarchal maids, nurses, nannies, and caretakers, and be a pretty toy to fuck/look at.",https://theeverymom.com/fair-play-cards/,88,2012amica2,1706600430.0 -Feminism,1ae4riu,Who are r/movies most disliked actors? You guessed it,,https://i.redd.it/iobtszogrffc1.png,650,edaiic,1706558793.0 -Feminism,1adyg93,Just average antifeminist man failing in the system they defend things,,https://i.redd.it/z6tebhgohefc1.jpeg,1377,onlyforsex,1706543444.0 + TLDR - need a promotion in a year. Saw less competent male coworkers pay. Upset thay he makes more than me. Need advice to create “my career story”",,7,Platinum_Notgold,2024-01-30 23:24:26 +Feminism,1aeksol,Is little research on menstruation and female medications our fault?,"I didn’t know a better place to ask this question. I was in a discussion the other day and brought up the fact that it was only very recently that period products started being tested with actual blood and how there is very little research that goes into menstruation. I also talked about how women’s bodies have been overlooked in the past and most research has been done on the male bodies which are (surprise surprise) quite different from us. Which is why a lot of medication and products we use might not be fit for us. Someone then pointed out that if it’s such a problem then why aren’t the women in STEM doing anything about it right now? And why aren’t any women doing said research to work on this issue. He also said that it’s easy to complain, and rather we should be doing something about our gender specific problems before calling the r&d field sexist. This was really hurtful and I didn’t know how to reply. Can someone please help?",,94,Strong-Medium-8642,2024-01-30 09:49:21 +Feminism,1aexsrr,Polish Prime Minister Tusk withdraws former government’s challenge to European convention on domestic violence,,https://notesfrompoland.com/2024/01/30/tusk-withdraws-former-governments-challenge-to-european-convention-on-domestic-violence/,12,BubsyFanboy,2024-01-30 20:02:34 +Feminism,1aeiznc,My Husband and I Tried the 'Fair Play' Cards—And Here’s What Happened,"In the year of our Lord 2024, women are still doing most of the housework and chores compared to men. While men continue to expect women to take on their mothers’ roles as matriarchal maids, nurses, nannies, and caretakers, and be a pretty toy to fuck/look at.",https://theeverymom.com/fair-play-cards/,88,2012amica2,2024-01-30 07:40:30 +Feminism,1ae4riu,Who are r/movies most disliked actors? You guessed it,,https://i.redd.it/iobtszogrffc1.png,650,edaiic,2024-01-29 20:06:33 +Feminism,1adyg93,Just average antifeminist man failing in the system they defend things,,https://i.redd.it/z6tebhgohefc1.jpeg,1377,onlyforsex,2024-01-29 15:50:44 Feminism,1af1342,How sexist is reddit?,"Before you answer Does it pertain to genders in relationships? @@ -10229,9 +10229,9 @@ This is in the feminism subreddit because 2. Maybe one or two people would be nice to hear an answer and I might as well pertain this to the entire subreddit of r/feminism -Also, do show proof if you agree or disagree.",,0,tinybrainbigmind,1706652944.0 -Feminism,1aeakx8,I feel like a fake feminist,"I love being independent. I'm married and close with my family, but I have always identified as being strong and independent. My parents made sure I learned how to do ""manly things"", plumbing, cars, building, etc. In the past week I have needed to be bailed out by a man due to car trouble. I was driving my husband's car and popped a tire after running over some unavoidable metal in the road. I can change a tire no problem but my husband's car has a special lug nut on that requires a tool that he had accidentally taken out of his car. I had to call him to come ""rescue"" me so I could get to work. Then again today I needed to jump start my car and in the process locked my keys in the car, so my dad had to bring me my spare key. I know these are all out of my control and it doesn't mean I'm incapable, but it makes me feel like some kind of damsel in distress. Anyone else feel this way? Like somehow I'm falling to the patriarchy by needed a man's help at all, even though I know that's not the case.",,43,CaptainFinancial6201,1706573505.0 -Feminism,1adyjfg,Men's cruelty: watch this artistic experiment,,https://youtube.com/shorts/iEKc9gUWdlU?si=3QOt7AwDbQ0IVQUm,129,TheWholeBakery01,1706543677.0 +Also, do show proof if you agree or disagree.",,0,tinybrainbigmind,2024-01-30 22:15:44 +Feminism,1aeakx8,I feel like a fake feminist,"I love being independent. I'm married and close with my family, but I have always identified as being strong and independent. My parents made sure I learned how to do ""manly things"", plumbing, cars, building, etc. In the past week I have needed to be bailed out by a man due to car trouble. I was driving my husband's car and popped a tire after running over some unavoidable metal in the road. I can change a tire no problem but my husband's car has a special lug nut on that requires a tool that he had accidentally taken out of his car. I had to call him to come ""rescue"" me so I could get to work. Then again today I needed to jump start my car and in the process locked my keys in the car, so my dad had to bring me my spare key. I know these are all out of my control and it doesn't mean I'm incapable, but it makes me feel like some kind of damsel in distress. Anyone else feel this way? Like somehow I'm falling to the patriarchy by needed a man's help at all, even though I know that's not the case.",,43,CaptainFinancial6201,2024-01-30 00:11:45 +Feminism,1adyjfg,Men's cruelty: watch this artistic experiment,,https://youtube.com/shorts/iEKc9gUWdlU?si=3QOt7AwDbQ0IVQUm,129,TheWholeBakery01,2024-01-29 15:54:37 Feminism,1aeb6u3,This is how I feel separated after 25 years.,"In the tapestry of tales, you once believed, A checklist unfolds, sleeves rolled, perceived. Empathy, the essence, the thread interweaved. Time, a dancer, swirling in rhythmic climb, Each expectation, a weight, builds with effort, the time. Love, a labor, harder work, a paradigm. @@ -10249,21 +10249,21 @@ Time strides forth, fatigue takes its toll, The body shifts, a story to unfold. Cries for help, like whispers in the breeze, The stone listens, but to others, it appeases. Yet when broken, the stone retreats with ease. Why linger when the human appliance wanes? The stone departs, unheeding the pains. -In the silence, echoes of what remains.",,18,ILikeCoffeeAnd,1706575221.0 -Feminism,1adme78,"Divya Deshmukh, an Indian women's grandmaster shared her thoughts about how women are treated in the chess world.",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1adme78,392,Liberal-fascist,1706501889.0 -Feminism,1aeh7ii,"I remember watching the TV Show ""Charmed"" as a child. Looking upon TOH, I was given pleasant nostalgia",,https://i.redd.it/pny0sjhzjifc1.png,3,ClaireDacloush,1706593540.0 +In the silence, echoes of what remains.",,18,ILikeCoffeeAnd,2024-01-30 00:40:21 +Feminism,1adme78,"Divya Deshmukh, an Indian women's grandmaster shared her thoughts about how women are treated in the chess world.",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1adme78,392,Liberal-fascist,2024-01-29 04:18:09 +Feminism,1aeh7ii,"I remember watching the TV Show ""Charmed"" as a child. Looking upon TOH, I was given pleasant nostalgia",,https://i.redd.it/pny0sjhzjifc1.png,3,ClaireDacloush,2024-01-30 05:45:40 Feminism,1aea57t,Female solo entrepreneur,"Hi -Im a woman entrepreneur who recently launched a fashion production business. Im finding it very odd that many friends/family when they first find out I started my business their first question is “Oh ! Who are you business partners?” At first I thought it was probably just random question. But it’s repeatedly the first and only question these people are asking me! Now its starting to feel sexist like they can’t believe a woman would start her own business like that?! What do you think? ",,5,Initial_Spinach3927,1706572323.0 -Feminism,1adsqm1,‘A trauma upon a trauma’: Denial of Oct. 7 sexual violence haunts local survivors,,https://jweekly.com/2024/01/25/a-trauma-upon-a-trauma-denial-of-oct-7-sexual-violence-haunts-local-survivors/,41,tristessellate,1706526124.0 -Feminism,1ad87yk,I’m so pissed that so many people are still glamorising the r*pist Kobe Bryant.,"It's incredibly frustrating to see people abandoning any moral compass when a celebrity they like does something horrible. I genuinely hope that those who are still making posts saying how much they miss him and wishing him to ""rest in peace"" are simply unaware of his actions. However, throughout the last four years I have seen hundreds of comments, unfortunately even from women, either denying what happened or, worse, justifying it because he “apologised” or “he’s dead now”. I hate how the glamorisation of a r*pist is so widely normalized.",,866,ellieaniston021,1706463807.0 -Feminism,1adiz91,Why do like to dumb myself when im talking to men?,"Im a feminist and Its not something im proud of, I correct it inmediately because I dont need to degrade myself that way, but I It seems incredible to me that the first instinct is that I like the idea of ​​being the stupid one, I think it is an example of how much we women have our heads screwed up because of this sexist society",,61,GMar_02,1706491571.0 -Feminism,1adrf8f,A useful Infographic going over women in parliament by country I found on instagram,https://www.instagram.com/p/C2pr8WIBRut/?igsh=dXQxNXZoYmdlajZi,,10,Forsaken-Chemist-351,1706520798.0 +Im a woman entrepreneur who recently launched a fashion production business. Im finding it very odd that many friends/family when they first find out I started my business their first question is “Oh ! Who are you business partners?” At first I thought it was probably just random question. But it’s repeatedly the first and only question these people are asking me! Now its starting to feel sexist like they can’t believe a woman would start her own business like that?! What do you think? ",,5,Initial_Spinach3927,2024-01-29 23:52:03 +Feminism,1adsqm1,‘A trauma upon a trauma’: Denial of Oct. 7 sexual violence haunts local survivors,,https://jweekly.com/2024/01/25/a-trauma-upon-a-trauma-denial-of-oct-7-sexual-violence-haunts-local-survivors/,41,tristessellate,2024-01-29 11:02:04 +Feminism,1ad87yk,I’m so pissed that so many people are still glamorising the r*pist Kobe Bryant.,"It's incredibly frustrating to see people abandoning any moral compass when a celebrity they like does something horrible. I genuinely hope that those who are still making posts saying how much they miss him and wishing him to ""rest in peace"" are simply unaware of his actions. However, throughout the last four years I have seen hundreds of comments, unfortunately even from women, either denying what happened or, worse, justifying it because he “apologised” or “he’s dead now”. I hate how the glamorisation of a r*pist is so widely normalized.",,866,ellieaniston021,2024-01-28 17:43:27 +Feminism,1adiz91,Why do like to dumb myself when im talking to men?,"Im a feminist and Its not something im proud of, I correct it inmediately because I dont need to degrade myself that way, but I It seems incredible to me that the first instinct is that I like the idea of ​​being the stupid one, I think it is an example of how much we women have our heads screwed up because of this sexist society",,61,GMar_02,2024-01-29 01:26:11 +Feminism,1adrf8f,A useful Infographic going over women in parliament by country I found on instagram,https://www.instagram.com/p/C2pr8WIBRut/?igsh=dXQxNXZoYmdlajZi,,10,Forsaken-Chemist-351,2024-01-29 09:33:18 Feminism,1ad1r6v,I don't understand why men think they're entitled to a relationship,"My friend was recently asked out by a guy from our college and she politely turned him down, explaining that she's not really looking for a relationship right now. He got annoyed and started saying that women don't appreciate nice guys like him. Honestly, I could rant forever about these self-proclaimed ""nice guys"". They're not genuinely nice, they're strategic. They act all nice to manipulate their way into a relationship. That's why they're always whining about their supposed niceness because for them being nice is just a means to an end. Real nice and kind people are selfless. They do things without expecting anything in return. Unlike these guys who seem to think they deserve a reward just for basic decency. -These guys feel entitled to a relationship simply because they've been nice. When faced with rejection, instead of reflecting on their own behavior, they often blame the woman and refuse to accept that she simply may not be interested and it's not a personal attack on them. They fail to introspect and consider that their own actions or personality might be the issue.",,454,ilovefrenchfriestoo,1706445433.0 -Feminism,1acrela,I wish!,,https://i.redd.it/6be1goo293fc1.jpeg,1041,AdNo9472,1706407325.0 +These guys feel entitled to a relationship simply because they've been nice. When faced with rejection, instead of reflecting on their own behavior, they often blame the woman and refuse to accept that she simply may not be interested and it's not a personal attack on them. They fail to introspect and consider that their own actions or personality might be the issue.",,454,ilovefrenchfriestoo,2024-01-28 12:37:13 +Feminism,1acrela,I wish!,,https://i.redd.it/6be1goo293fc1.jpeg,1041,AdNo9472,2024-01-28 02:02:05 Feminism,1aelamu,Is this compliment sexist,"I a university age male had a disagreement with a female student who I will call Alice. In short, a third student said they were interested in a Girl and I suggested in a joking way to say “You are the most beautiful thing I have ever seen”. Alice said that this is a sexist thing to say, and I disagreed. When I tried to reconcile this difference in opinion Alice very quickly started to get loud, I, not wanting to be shouted at in the cafeteria went silent. I still believe what this isn’t sexist and was wanting a third opinion. From what I got from Alice it seemed that she didn’t like that the word “thing” was used. Here are two objections I have to this. @@ -10287,21 +10287,21 @@ EDIT 2: I have responded to a majority of the commenta, for some reason they are only visible to me. Not sure why this is happening this is my first reddit post. -&#x200B;",,0,[deleted],1706610249.0 -Feminism,1acws0i,“Guilty Pleasures”,"Has anyone ever noticed that the concept of a “guilty pleasure” is really just misogyny rewrapped? 9 out of 10 times when someone mentions a “guilty pleasure” it’s some stereotypical feminine thing like rom-coms, Frappuccinos, or professional manicures. It’s just a sneaky way to say that feminine stuff is embarrassing and shameful. It seems like we as women aren’t allowed to *enjoy* anything. If we express liking something, we’re either lying or that thing is stupid anyway. But of course we can’t say we don’t like anything, because then we’re joyless and prudish. So we have to enjoy things in a way that is acceptable to men (by shaming ourselves for it or deferring to them whenever it comes up). Then marketers have to play this fun game of advertising these feminine activities and products to us while of course acknowledging how shameful it is to like it for the sake of liking it, like how all beauty products are about “empowerment” now. It’s not about being *feminine*, it’s about *being yourself*. Which is not traditionally feminine, because that would be embarrassing. Instead purchasing fancy perfume is a “guilty pleasure”, something you have to properly beat yourself up about before you can truly enjoy it. ",,121,InsaneJul,1706425357.0 -Feminism,1ach9xh,The comments make me roll my eyes back into my head,,https://i.redd.it/6sekbauh9uec1.jpeg,1232,tardisismine,1706379800.0 -Feminism,1acho38,Pretty much exactly what I hear when someone says this,,https://i.redd.it/qxc90qm921fc1.jpeg,941,Hairy-Special-6077,1706380822.0 +&#x200B;",,0,[deleted],2024-01-30 10:24:09 +Feminism,1acws0i,“Guilty Pleasures”,"Has anyone ever noticed that the concept of a “guilty pleasure” is really just misogyny rewrapped? 9 out of 10 times when someone mentions a “guilty pleasure” it’s some stereotypical feminine thing like rom-coms, Frappuccinos, or professional manicures. It’s just a sneaky way to say that feminine stuff is embarrassing and shameful. It seems like we as women aren’t allowed to *enjoy* anything. If we express liking something, we’re either lying or that thing is stupid anyway. But of course we can’t say we don’t like anything, because then we’re joyless and prudish. So we have to enjoy things in a way that is acceptable to men (by shaming ourselves for it or deferring to them whenever it comes up). Then marketers have to play this fun game of advertising these feminine activities and products to us while of course acknowledging how shameful it is to like it for the sake of liking it, like how all beauty products are about “empowerment” now. It’s not about being *feminine*, it’s about *being yourself*. Which is not traditionally feminine, because that would be embarrassing. Instead purchasing fancy perfume is a “guilty pleasure”, something you have to properly beat yourself up about before you can truly enjoy it. ",,121,InsaneJul,2024-01-28 07:02:37 +Feminism,1ach9xh,The comments make me roll my eyes back into my head,,https://i.redd.it/6sekbauh9uec1.jpeg,1232,tardisismine,2024-01-27 18:23:20 +Feminism,1acho38,Pretty much exactly what I hear when someone says this,,https://i.redd.it/qxc90qm921fc1.jpeg,941,Hairy-Special-6077,2024-01-27 18:40:22 Feminism,1acihkj,Thing that should come as a surprise to absolutely no one - Bill Maher is a smug sexist.,"I was nonconsensually\* watching his show and he started talking about the Barbie movie and how feminists are apparently outraged by the lack of Oscar nominations. I was very shocked by the news that I was, in fact, upset about how the Barbie movie was doing at the Oscars. He then went on to ask, in a comically faux-bad boy kind of way, if the patriarchy was still REALLY a thing. He and his guests, Seth MacFarlane and Adam Schiff, then proceeded to discuss the wage gap. Adam Schiff basically tried to say, in a tastefully jocular way, that the wage gap is real because women face complex issues. Seth MacFarlane said some stuff I don't remember. Bill Maher said there were REASONS for the gap, and that it wasn't like in this day and age you can just PAY SOMEONE LESS for being ""having to squat to pee."" My impression of Bill Maher has always been that he's a limousine liberal whose contrarian and mean-spirited style didn't suit my taste. I thought he was obviously smart and occasionally funny, but mostly, I didn't understand why he needed to act like such a smug jerk about everything. In my personal life, I don't like people who act as though painful issues are just some big joke that they're too evolved to take seriously. So I don't like it in public figures either and now I literally never want to hear his douchy voice again. It seriously pissed me off that NOT ONE of these three white male panelists said anything to the effect of ""Maybe 3 straight cis guys aren't in the best position to decide whether or not there's still a patriarchy."" -\*I live with someone who watches every week",,400,Cesmina12,1706382958.0 -Feminism,1aceqbj,I was harshly downvoted for pointing out the racist hypocrisy of men in my Country,"My home country is very patriarchal, and issues like victim blaming, femicides, and sexual harassment happen all the time, much more frequently than in Western societies. The thing is, our country is having a lot of illegal immigrants from cultures that might even increase the rate of these incidents. The same men who are prone to victim blaming in cases of femicide or harassment are completely united against it when the perpetrator is an immigrant, as if it's not the same shit. I pointed this out and was harshly downvoted. I don't frequently use Reddit; is it a bad thing to say my opinion in these kinds of subs?",,421,gullubom,1706373184.0 +\*I live with someone who watches every week",,400,Cesmina12,2024-01-27 19:15:58 +Feminism,1aceqbj,I was harshly downvoted for pointing out the racist hypocrisy of men in my Country,"My home country is very patriarchal, and issues like victim blaming, femicides, and sexual harassment happen all the time, much more frequently than in Western societies. The thing is, our country is having a lot of illegal immigrants from cultures that might even increase the rate of these incidents. The same men who are prone to victim blaming in cases of femicide or harassment are completely united against it when the perpetrator is an immigrant, as if it's not the same shit. I pointed this out and was harshly downvoted. I don't frequently use Reddit; is it a bad thing to say my opinion in these kinds of subs?",,421,gullubom,2024-01-27 16:33:04 Feminism,1acmp9g,Why do older men harass younger women so often?,"How come every time a young woman asks this question, they are gaslight by Men/Pick Me's and just told it's ""biological""? I don't need to explain how stupid it sounds to say men approach women in their 20s because of ""biology""? Like ALL women in their 20s are attractive? And like finding someone physically attractive MAKES you approach them? Good. -So what's the real answer?",,118,Lovehandsomemen313,1706394143.0 +So what's the real answer?",,118,Lovehandsomemen313,2024-01-27 22:22:23 Feminism,1actzc9,Is Labyrinth (1986) too problematic to show to my kid?,"First off, I’m so sorry, I’m new to this sub and hope it’s the right place to ask this. But I would really like some feminist insights on this one… I’m an old millenial and grew up watching Labyrinth (1986) pretty much on repeat. @@ -10318,10 +10318,10 @@ I loved it and would love to share this with my 8yo girld… but… but…. Do I really want this movie to potentially be (part of) her sexual awakening?? -How problematic do you think this movie actually is? Would you show it to your kids?",,34,No-Management-2729,1706415415.0 -Feminism,1acic07,Kenya femicide: Hundreds protest at violence against women,,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-68116854,120,BurtonDesque,1706382553.0 -Feminism,1acnr4b,WOMEN IN POLITICS 2023,"This data from the UN tells us that women are still the minority of Heads of State and Government. They are still deeply under-represented in government leadership, at less than one in four Cabinet Ministers, with men continuing to dominate critical portfolios such as the economy, defence, and energy.",https://hermitology.me/f/women-in-politics-2023,31,TheHermitologist,1706396922.0 -Feminism,1acmwxa,Can we talk about the Taylor Swift Ai photos?,Like WTF?? I hope this isn't just brushed off. No doubt in my mind Taylor has seen them herself...just disgusting. I see this happening to more female celebrities.,,30,Lovehandsomemen313,1706394715.0 +How problematic do you think this movie actually is? Would you show it to your kids?",,34,No-Management-2729,2024-01-28 04:16:55 +Feminism,1acic07,Kenya femicide: Hundreds protest at violence against women,,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-68116854,120,BurtonDesque,2024-01-27 19:09:13 +Feminism,1acnr4b,WOMEN IN POLITICS 2023,"This data from the UN tells us that women are still the minority of Heads of State and Government. They are still deeply under-represented in government leadership, at less than one in four Cabinet Ministers, with men continuing to dominate critical portfolios such as the economy, defence, and energy.",https://hermitology.me/f/women-in-politics-2023,31,TheHermitologist,2024-01-27 23:08:42 +Feminism,1acmwxa,Can we talk about the Taylor Swift Ai photos?,Like WTF?? I hope this isn't just brushed off. No doubt in my mind Taylor has seen them herself...just disgusting. I see this happening to more female celebrities.,,30,Lovehandsomemen313,2024-01-27 22:31:55 Feminism,1ac2fgv,Women need to be PAID for going through pregnancy and childbirth,"The government should be paying women handsomely for their sacrifice. And you can't even put a price on health. Pregnancy, childbirth and post-partum is extremely taxing physically and mentally. @@ -10330,12 +10330,12 @@ There is pain, literal torture. Horrific side-effects and health issues some of Women need clauses in their prenups stating that if there are children, they will be compensated for what they go through to bring life into the world. There should be a clause that any and every health issue and concern that comes up down the line will be covered. -Thoughts? Much more legislation is needed to protect women. And lawyers will get a good deal out of it too, drawing up these protective contracts.",,497,Master-End3828,1706329911.0 +Thoughts? Much more legislation is needed to protect women. And lawyers will get a good deal out of it too, drawing up these protective contracts.",,497,Master-End3828,2024-01-27 04:31:51 Feminism,1ad6cyg,I feel bad that men are nice to me," My roommate keeps on talking about how sad she is that all men have an agenda and that they have an ulterior motive when befriending her. One of her best friends from high school recently confessed that he was attracted to her and she vented to me about it. Of course I sympathized but deep down I felt bad about not having the same outlook she has. She’s a lot more cautious with men and that’s because she has more bad experiences but in my experience men have been nice to me. I have genuine friends who are male and I remember when the Barbie movie came out I felt bad I couldn’t relate to it like others can. The most I can relate to is the beauty standard stuff but men have never really liked me even just for my body and I feel sad I haven’t experienced being objectified. Am I a real woman if I have never been treated as an object which is apparently a universal experience? There was also this tiktok trend where women were talking about the universal experience of having to listen to a man play his guitar for you and I never experienced it. The thought of having a man do that for me makes me excited and I think it’s sweet but I pretend to be disgusted like all my other friends just so I can call myself a feminist. -I wish I could also complain about how much I’m being treated like a pretty face because at least I’d be desirable. It’s so fucked up and I wonder if this is discussed in feminist circles.",,0,shylilanon,1706459044.0 -Feminism,1acgwzw,Anime Has a Villainess Problem,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y9R68iV4E9Q,18,ClaireDacloush,1706378868.0 +I wish I could also complain about how much I’m being treated like a pretty face because at least I’d be desirable. It’s so fucked up and I wonder if this is discussed in feminist circles.",,0,shylilanon,2024-01-28 16:24:04 +Feminism,1acgwzw,Anime Has a Villainess Problem,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y9R68iV4E9Q,18,ClaireDacloush,2024-01-27 18:07:48 Feminism,1ad50rn,"Feminists of Reddit, do you adhere to the movement as whole or cherry pick key notions in the different waves?","Working on a school paper and there is little to no research on my specific question. I was hoping to get some feedback on your end. Personal experience @@ -10343,18 +10343,18 @@ Links/sources/sauce All the aforementioned would be greatly appreciated -Thanks a bunch!",,0,CanadianPhook,1706455509.0 -Feminism,1abpfhy,"Texas had estimated 26,000 pregnancies from rape since total abortion ban",,https://www.dallasnews.com/news/public-health/2024/01/25/texas-had-estimated-26000-pregnancies-from-rape-since-total-abortion-ban/,556,audiomuse1,1706294216.0 -Feminism,1abive7,Flabbergasted by story my cousin’s school is using to teach children to read.,How does this not teach kids from a young age that women must take sole responsibility of taking care of the family? Very appalling.,https://i.redd.it/g5uqe7dcisec1.jpeg,1173,Aromatic_Net9068,1706277265.0 -Feminism,1acgm5v,The Case For The Legend Of Korra,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x3VCDB5iX2o,0,ClaireDacloush,1706378095.0 -Feminism,1abwbde,Highs and Lows of Women's portrayal in Anime,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bCGlnDaQ5kc,20,ClaireDacloush,1706311803.0 +Thanks a bunch!",,0,CanadianPhook,2024-01-28 15:25:09 +Feminism,1abpfhy,"Texas had estimated 26,000 pregnancies from rape since total abortion ban",,https://www.dallasnews.com/news/public-health/2024/01/25/texas-had-estimated-26000-pregnancies-from-rape-since-total-abortion-ban/,556,audiomuse1,2024-01-26 18:36:56 +Feminism,1abive7,Flabbergasted by story my cousin’s school is using to teach children to read.,How does this not teach kids from a young age that women must take sole responsibility of taking care of the family? Very appalling.,https://i.redd.it/g5uqe7dcisec1.jpeg,1173,Aromatic_Net9068,2024-01-26 13:54:25 +Feminism,1acgm5v,The Case For The Legend Of Korra,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x3VCDB5iX2o,0,ClaireDacloush,2024-01-27 17:54:55 +Feminism,1abwbde,Highs and Lows of Women's portrayal in Anime,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bCGlnDaQ5kc,20,ClaireDacloush,2024-01-26 23:30:03 Feminism,1abwt9l,What would you do about an otherwise-good mechanic who told tons of dirty jokes?,"I got my van worked on by a local mechanic. This was the only mechanic I could find in town that would do this repair. Time will tell if the repairs work ( radiator) but my beef is that the mechanic kept telling dirty jokes. Lots of references to how various animals have sex, how chickens only have one ""orfice"", how cats get pregnant by multiple males except the firts male - he just ""opens her up"" for next males, how he watched his kids be born & wife had to be ""stitched up,"" talked about a doctor friend who delivered a 9 year old child's baby and a 60 year old's, & he knew someone who had twins by 2 different men. He was a friendly person and a talker, so at first I chuckled, until it got old. My van was there for 3 days and on day 2 I vowed not to allow any more dirty jokes, and to demand a write up of his estimate. The first thing you said was, do you wanna hear a joke? And I said not if it's a dirty joke. The joke he proceeded to tell wasn't dirty. But then the conversation drifted and he started talking about the chicken, cats, and woman pregnant by two men. I told him I'd need confirmation from a scientist and he shouldn't be telling me that about a family member, ie digging my feet in. He said he didn't know the pregnant woman and didn't seem to understand that that was inappropriate to be talking aabout since I'd already brought up no more dirty jokes, and he kept talking. So I told him, "" that's enough"". In the course of the rest of the conversation he asked me some fairly personal questions like whether or not I had kids and how old I was. I didn't give an answer to the age question, starting to get the sense he was asking for reasons that might be inappropriate, Although in all fairness, I had asked him if his shop mechanics were his sons and he had told me about his family. So it could have been an innocent/conversational question, but combined with the sexual jokes, It just struck me as odd in that moment. ( I'm young enough to be his daughter.) This was when I was on my way out the door when my van was done. This place was worthy of a four or five star review otherwise -- showed me what was wrong, gave options instead of demanding a complete overhaul, didn't overcharge (I looked it up), His wife was nice and made me coffee. Nothing about it was bad except for the jokes. Meanwhile, he has lots of good reviews on Google with no mention of bad jokes. And I don't want to taint his shop reputation or create an enemy of the only shop that would fix my van. -What would you do? I thought about calling and telling him or telling his wife it was offensive, or leaving a Google review. I just feel angry about it thinking about it more and want him and his wife to know that that was inappropriate, and that I can't help but wonder if he talked like that because i'm a younger woman. I don't want to let it slide because i've made a new year's resolution to stand up for myself in the nuances intead of just things that are really really bad.",,19,No_Celery9390,1706313139.0 +What would you do? I thought about calling and telling him or telling his wife it was offensive, or leaving a Google review. I just feel angry about it thinking about it more and want him and his wife to know that that was inappropriate, and that I can't help but wonder if he talked like that because i'm a younger woman. I don't want to let it slide because i've made a new year's resolution to stand up for myself in the nuances intead of just things that are really really bad.",,19,No_Celery9390,2024-01-26 23:52:19 Feminism,1abryjh,Participate in Women's Research! University Study Researching Ethnicity and Female Genital Self-Image,"**Sex Education, Parental Attitudes, and Gender Role Beliefs: Explaining Ethnic Differences in Female Genital Self-Image** **Principal Investigator:** @@ -10379,17 +10379,17 @@ You will have the opportunity to win one of four $50 (CAD) gift cards. After you To participate, you must be, you must be a cisgender woman of colour at least 18 years old; you must reside in North America; and must be able to read English at a grade 10 level. -Survey link: [https://ubc.ca1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV\_9HPjqCV7jnzwwlM](https://ubc.ca1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_9HPjqCV7jnzwwlM)",,27,Itchy-Quote8048,1706300693.0 -Feminism,1ac0tp0,"So an idea came to me...what if, and hear me out. The tv show, movie franchise, video game, or anime that you were watching had all the characters gender-swapped. Would it be an improvement?",,https://i.redd.it/h9sz3bwpfwec1.png,8,ClaireDacloush,1706324813.0 -Feminism,1ac7s6y,I just got Twitter (not happy to be supporting Elon Musk but my sociology teacher recommended we get it) any recommendations of who to follow?,"Not just feminists but anyone left leaning. I'm also interested in accounts regarding class, racism and LGBTQA+ rights",,0,HiMaintainceMachine,1706350478.0 -Feminism,19fnuum,Sixty-one women in Iran prison begin hunger strike after Amini protester executed,,https://www.thenationalnews.com/mena/iran/2024/01/25/sixty-one-women-in-iran-prison-begin-hunger-strike-after-amini-protester-executed/,284,SabziPoloBaMahee,1706227451.0 +Survey link: [https://ubc.ca1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV\_9HPjqCV7jnzwwlM](https://ubc.ca1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_9HPjqCV7jnzwwlM)",,27,Itchy-Quote8048,2024-01-26 20:24:53 +Feminism,1ac0tp0,"So an idea came to me...what if, and hear me out. The tv show, movie franchise, video game, or anime that you were watching had all the characters gender-swapped. Would it be an improvement?",,https://i.redd.it/h9sz3bwpfwec1.png,8,ClaireDacloush,2024-01-27 03:06:53 +Feminism,1ac7s6y,I just got Twitter (not happy to be supporting Elon Musk but my sociology teacher recommended we get it) any recommendations of who to follow?,"Not just feminists but anyone left leaning. I'm also interested in accounts regarding class, racism and LGBTQA+ rights",,0,HiMaintainceMachine,2024-01-27 10:14:38 +Feminism,19fnuum,Sixty-one women in Iran prison begin hunger strike after Amini protester executed,,https://www.thenationalnews.com/mena/iran/2024/01/25/sixty-one-women-in-iran-prison-begin-hunger-strike-after-amini-protester-executed/,284,SabziPoloBaMahee,2024-01-26 00:04:11 Feminism,19f9fiu,AI porn of taylor swift has 22M views on twitter,"Men are horrific sometimes I'll say. Especially with how vocal they are about their indifference or outright hatred for Taylor swift to begin with, they all seem to band together to get in some cheap shots. I don't listen to her music, it's not for me, but the weird amount of hate she gets is saddening. This whole thing also brings to mind how men are able to hate and despise women with their whole being and STILL want to objectify and have sex with them. They hate how we talk, how we act, how we behave with our friends, they hate when we take selfies (seriously, the amount of hatred women get for taking selfies is so pathetic). They hate [vocal fry](https://youtu.be/WDfJn1kcQuU?si=XjrEzNVxWpCBVdTZ) look at this video's comments. They baffle me every time. -But men's hatred of women isn't enough for them to want to have sex with us. They hate everything about us until they can have sex with us. That's something that's always disturbed me.",,1002,RadcliffeMalice,1706189599.0 +But men's hatred of women isn't enough for them to want to have sex with us. They hate everything about us until they can have sex with us. That's something that's always disturbed me.",,1002,RadcliffeMalice,2024-01-25 13:33:19 Feminism,19fnn6e,I hate being underestimated,"I work in a very male oriented workplace. I am working towards my masters in Mechanical Engineering, at a prestigious university. I take place in out of school clubs, I work on cars, I’m working towards a high 2:1 or maybe a 1st. I know what I’m on about. Today, I was told to take some measurements on an online platform for a certain project. The files where a mess and I could not find the part that needed to be measured. My supervisor came over to ask if everything was ok and this other guy (naming him L) who I’ve had problems with before, jumped at the opportunity to snatch my laptop away and say “I’m helping her!” (He had not offered to help me in any way before the supervisor came around, nor did he ask if I wanted help). Normally I’m fine with this, but from him it annoyed me straight away. I let him show me where the file was and tried to carry on with my work. He then starts to mansplain horrifically about how to do my job. @@ -10397,8 +10397,8 @@ Today, I was told to take some measurements on an online platform for a certain I have been a part of this project for 2 years more than him, I am 2 years older than him and I am 2 years ahead of him in his degree (and I’m doing better than him). I had to say to him “I know how to do this job, I’ve been a part of this for 2 years”, which caused him to say “well done! You did it all by yourself!” When I had completed the task. -Similar things have happened during my degree and I’m fed up with it. This man is two years younger than me!! How is this acceptable! I have many other rants about other things that he does but this hasn’t really got on my nerves.",,144,Ok_Occasion_7865,1706226884.0 -Feminism,19fmrgy,What Miscarriage Is Like in Texas...,,https://www.newsweek.com/i-miscarried-texas-doctors-abortion-law-1861677,118,AlysonBurgers,1706224500.0 +Similar things have happened during my degree and I’m fed up with it. This man is two years younger than me!! How is this acceptable! I have many other rants about other things that he does but this hasn’t really got on my nerves.",,144,Ok_Occasion_7865,2024-01-25 23:54:44 +Feminism,19fmrgy,What Miscarriage Is Like in Texas...,,https://www.newsweek.com/i-miscarried-texas-doctors-abortion-law-1861677,118,AlysonBurgers,2024-01-25 23:15:00 Feminism,19fi9hr,"Hello! This is a feminist history story I, and the unwilling participant in my inbox, wrote.","Ornery History: 19th Century Women and Their (censored) Minds 𝘐𝘵’𝘴 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭 𝘩𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘢𝘴 𝘵𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘣𝘺 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘳𝘺 𝘥𝘶𝘥𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘴𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘮𝘦. @@ -10406,16 +10406,16 @@ I’m using the term insane asylum to stay historically accurate. Now we would c Steven, for all his claims of knowing what type of men are on my page, didn’t seem to understand that my bit is not to find a date, but to teach the most unwilling of students. -(Hey Reddit! Although it isn’t quite as clear on this platform, my intention with these stories is to teach important history in an entertaining way. I do love if the man learns, but my focus is truly on everyone else who then reads these on my social medias.)",https://www.reddit.com/gallery/19fi9hr,84,Lets_Not_Date,1706212741.0 +(Hey Reddit! Although it isn’t quite as clear on this platform, my intention with these stories is to teach important history in an entertaining way. I do love if the man learns, but my focus is truly on everyone else who then reads these on my social medias.)",https://www.reddit.com/gallery/19fi9hr,84,Lets_Not_Date,2024-01-25 19:59:01 Feminism,19fnot6,What is the solution to explorative sex work in a capitalist/post colonial world? Is non-exploitative sex work even possible?,"I wanted to start a discussion about sex work and legality because it's a topic I've been thinking a lot about lately. I support sex work being legal because if it's illegal it just punishes disadvantaged women, but lately I've been wavering on that stance as I've had two experiences that have affected me. The first was visiting Amsterdam in the summer and stopping by the redlight district, which was one of the most disgusting experiences of my life. I've attended burlesque shows, I've gone to sex parties, I'm no prude, and I thought the redlight district would have the same fun sexually liberated feeling as those events. It did not, me and my partner felt like we were human meat market, and by the time we made it out of there we felt ill. Not only did the girls (because it was mostly women) look uninterested, some of them looked straight up sad. We also noticed that many (most?) of the girls were not European, or else were from Ukraine, it added a strange racial element to this human meat market that made it even more sickening as most of the would-be customers were Western European or North American. We heard one girl's accent and were pretty sure she was from my partner's country (Colombia), which made us feel especially sad and uncomfortable as it was clear her potential customers were exotifying her. The other experience I have is related to how people have been reacting to a news article that's been going around. I live in Colombia and there is a lot of very exploitative sex tourism here (prostitution is legal here), and recently there have been a string of robberies, where women will go on dates with foreign men, drug them and rob them. People have been talking about what a shame this is, those poor men etc. However, I have a hard time feeling sympathy for these men because frankly I view these robbery victims as ""would be exploiters"" who themselves ended up being exploited. I don't know if that's fair or not, but it's how I feel because many of these foreign men come here specifically to ""find a Colombian woman"" even if they are not participating in prostitution, and treat Colombian women like they are a commodity. Of course part of the reason they treat Colombian women like a commodity is because prostitution is legal, which creates this strange neo-colonial relationship. -**TLDR: I've been thinking a lot about the intersection of sex work, the commodification of people, and colonialism, and I'm having a harder time feeling like sex work should be legal, however making it illegal just pushes it underground, so what is the solution here?**",,33,Pure-Egg3160,1706227002.0 -Feminism,19figp7,"Report: Over 26,000 Rape Related Pregnancies in Texas Since the Abortion Ban Started",,https://medium.com/@chrisjeffrieshomelessromantic/report-over-26-000-rape-related-pregnancies-in-texas-since-the-abortion-ban-started-5dab8fa6f571,38,thehomelessr0mantic,1706213230.0 -Feminism,19fmegc,Korra’s Beautiful Story of Maturity,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c4z5f88qKLY,11,ClaireDacloush,1706223554.0 +**TLDR: I've been thinking a lot about the intersection of sex work, the commodification of people, and colonialism, and I'm having a harder time feeling like sex work should be legal, however making it illegal just pushes it underground, so what is the solution here?**",,33,Pure-Egg3160,2024-01-25 23:56:42 +Feminism,19figp7,"Report: Over 26,000 Rape Related Pregnancies in Texas Since the Abortion Ban Started",,https://medium.com/@chrisjeffrieshomelessromantic/report-over-26-000-rape-related-pregnancies-in-texas-since-the-abortion-ban-started-5dab8fa6f571,38,thehomelessr0mantic,2024-01-25 20:07:10 +Feminism,19fmegc,Korra’s Beautiful Story of Maturity,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c4z5f88qKLY,11,ClaireDacloush,2024-01-25 22:59:14 Feminism,19f22v1,American nightmare,"I haven't seen anyone talk about the American Nightmare documentary here and I'm kind of shocked about that. This documentary is prime shining example of misogyny. Matt was BEGGING to be caught and could have been A MILLION times but the male cops talked women out of reporting, told the women they were lying, or simply didn't do anything about it in every instance. And there were so many instances. @@ -10424,8 +10424,8 @@ The ONLY REASON these two weren't charged for crimes after being assaulted is be I would like to think if I were a cop and I didn't believe a single word coming from this couple, that I would still do the minimum needed to investigate what they said. Tracing the cell was a minimum effort move and it could have prevented her second rape. But they found it easier to go on TV and say she owed the community an apology. -Id love to hear your thoughts on this from a feminism standpoint.",,87,lurkernomore99,1706160907.0 -Feminism,19er4jl,"Since Roe fell, rape has led to an estimated 58,979 pregnancies in states that ban abortion without exception for rape, a new study has found.",,https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamainternalmedicine/fullarticle/2814274,395,chronic-venting,1706129953.0 +Id love to hear your thoughts on this from a feminism standpoint.",,87,lurkernomore99,2024-01-25 05:35:07 +Feminism,19er4jl,"Since Roe fell, rape has led to an estimated 58,979 pregnancies in states that ban abortion without exception for rape, a new study has found.",,https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamainternalmedicine/fullarticle/2814274,395,chronic-venting,2024-01-24 20:59:13 Feminism,19etgjg,At what point does it become sexual harassment?,"I (32f) work at a bar, today a 70-something year old “good ‘ole boy” farmer came in. When he was leaving, he asked me if I had a husband or boyfriend. When I asked why, his reply was “because a girl with green hair has always been on my bucket list”. I do have green hair. I do work at a punky dive bar in a rural area. I often have to deflect weird comments, usually with a feisty quick witted response. @@ -10434,10 +10434,10 @@ Why do men think it’s okay to harass bartenders when they can’t escape them? Thankfully I have an amazing boss and I’m welcome to tell anyone to get the fuck out with full support, but I shouldn’t have to. -I deal with those types of men often but this encounter really got to me.",,240,trixieroyale,1706135685.0 -Feminism,19erm8f,"A recent study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association has estimated a staggering 26,313 rape-related pregnancies in Texas within 16 months following the state’s enactment of a total abortion ban.",,https://theintellectualist.com/texas-rape-related-pregnancies-abortion-ban-study/,269,Intellectualist_,1706131146.0 -Feminism,19ep7t4,"Stanley cups, backlash to women-centered trends, and glorified hyperconsumerism",,https://open.substack.com/pub/reclaimingthenewsletter/p/two-girls-one-stanley-cup?r=s2bqk&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcome=true,185,Careless_One6439,1706125287.0 -Feminism,19etnx9,How many women artists can the average person name?,"Hey all! I’m working on a project about women artists throughout history, and I was wondering how many the average person (meaning a person who didn’t go to art school/works as a professional artist) can name. If you’re interested please send me a list of all the women artists (painters, sculptors, printmakers, performance artists, etc) you can name off the top of your head!",,55,StitchyBitch93,1706136207.0 +I deal with those types of men often but this encounter really got to me.",,240,trixieroyale,2024-01-24 22:34:45 +Feminism,19erm8f,"A recent study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association has estimated a staggering 26,313 rape-related pregnancies in Texas within 16 months following the state’s enactment of a total abortion ban.",,https://theintellectualist.com/texas-rape-related-pregnancies-abortion-ban-study/,269,Intellectualist_,2024-01-24 21:19:06 +Feminism,19ep7t4,"Stanley cups, backlash to women-centered trends, and glorified hyperconsumerism",,https://open.substack.com/pub/reclaimingthenewsletter/p/two-girls-one-stanley-cup?r=s2bqk&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcome=true,185,Careless_One6439,2024-01-24 19:41:27 +Feminism,19etnx9,How many women artists can the average person name?,"Hey all! I’m working on a project about women artists throughout history, and I was wondering how many the average person (meaning a person who didn’t go to art school/works as a professional artist) can name. If you’re interested please send me a list of all the women artists (painters, sculptors, printmakers, performance artists, etc) you can name off the top of your head!",,55,StitchyBitch93,2024-01-24 22:43:27 Feminism,19f6hr4,Memoir recommendations,"Hello. I want to read memoirs from a lot of women. However, I find out that my library only has memoirs of white women: Lady Diana, Britney Spears, etc... @@ -10446,55 +10446,55 @@ I want to read memoirs and biographies of notable women of color from all around I want to know more about non white women in history (even contemporary history!). Women from the Middle East / Asia / Oceania or BIPOC women or Caucasian women (and by caucasian i mean coming from the Caucasus geographic region, NOT white/western/european). Especially those who were scientists or artists or activists. -&#x200B;",,4,EmergencyPause1,1706179187.0 -Feminism,19exn0m,The UK Parliament has set up an inquiry into birth trauma,"Anybody living in the UK can potentially submit a word doc about their experience(s) with birth trauma. I hope that plenty of people make submissions because this country is still a horrific mess to give birth in, even if there are worse out there (a low bar!) If you’re a Brit who is affected by this issue consider giving this a look.",https://www.theo-clarke.org.uk/birth-trauma,17,Impressive-Kale-9084,1706146895.0 -Feminism,1abh2hc,Why Feminists Should Embrace Veganism,,https://palanajana.substack.com/p/why-feminists-should-embrace-veganism-6e57416cf799,0,Somewhere74,1706271605.0 -Feminism,19evlzn,"Here’s a fun story for you, courtesy of my small hometown (TW: drugs, coercion)",,https://www.justice.gov/usao-wdva/pr/charlottesville-man-arrested-operating-east-coast-prostitution-ring,15,2012amica2,1706141189.0 +&#x200B;",,4,EmergencyPause1,2024-01-25 10:39:47 +Feminism,19exn0m,The UK Parliament has set up an inquiry into birth trauma,"Anybody living in the UK can potentially submit a word doc about their experience(s) with birth trauma. I hope that plenty of people make submissions because this country is still a horrific mess to give birth in, even if there are worse out there (a low bar!) If you’re a Brit who is affected by this issue consider giving this a look.",https://www.theo-clarke.org.uk/birth-trauma,17,Impressive-Kale-9084,2024-01-25 01:41:35 +Feminism,1abh2hc,Why Feminists Should Embrace Veganism,,https://palanajana.substack.com/p/why-feminists-should-embrace-veganism-6e57416cf799,0,Somewhere74,2024-01-26 12:20:05 +Feminism,19evlzn,"Here’s a fun story for you, courtesy of my small hometown (TW: drugs, coercion)",,https://www.justice.gov/usao-wdva/pr/charlottesville-man-arrested-operating-east-coast-prostitution-ring,15,2012amica2,2024-01-25 00:06:29 Feminism,19eo39p,Margot deserved a nomination.,"First of all, I don’t say this to discredit the women who WERE nominated, I am sure they’re all very deserving of their recognition and I applaud them. But I’m so sick of people saying Margot Robbie didn’t perform well enough to be nominated, as if she wasn’t snubbed on purpose by the Academy to make a point. Men in the entertainment industry are doing everything they can to make sure Barbie is not recognized as a “serious” film or character. You can’t give the Oscar to “a doll with big boobies,” after all! /s Margot’s performance is being brushed off as silly, unserious, sub-par, despite being the main reason the film was so successful in any capacity. That IS Barbie’s story. That’s the story of the film. Everyone was thrilled to go on and on about Margot when it first came out, but lo and behold, now that it’s no longer the shiny glittery cash cow it was at first, who cares if she gets her recognition? “Barbie wasn’t even that good, anyway… “ well, you all certainly weren’t saying that when you walked out of the theatre with tears streaming down your faces. I think a lot of people are simply mad their favorite didn’t get picked, and that’s valid. But to claim that anyone upset about it is just a bitter white feminist is bullshit. It was a well-liked, successful, thought provoking movie. This isn’t just Marvel fans mad that a mid movie didn’t get every nom possible. It’s the fact that this movie was nearly universally praised at release but now it’s becoming uncool, even anti-feminist, to think it was a good or effective film. The only criticisms I’ve seen from most of these people are saying “I knew this level feminism in middle school,” which is just depressing to me. Imagine being so privileged that you think what is obvious to you is obvious to everyone else. I too learned about a lot of the movie’s message as a young teen, and I still learned something. It still moved me. And it opened the eyes of a lot of men, and older women like my grandmother. The message needed to be simple in order for people to think more deeply about the fundamentals of their understanding, without feeling like they were sitting through a university gender studies lecture. -The problem is, while Oppenheimer was a “shoe-in” before it was even released, while Barbie has been a topic for debate even though it financially surpassed the success of Oppy. I’m irritated that Opp was basically guaranteed a nom before it was even seen, but Barbie is being written off as some silly girl power cash grab. Yes, Mattel was involved. Yes the movie was Ken-centric. How tf do you think they got a bunch of male executives to help fund the film? I just don’t get how women are somehow being blamed for being upset that men yet again are rewarded for the bare minimum while women do all the work and are later brushed off as inadequate.",,32,Technical-Hyena420,1706122580.0 -Feminism,19e7eqg,Even Ryan Gosling has his grievances with how Barbie has been treated by Hollywood,,https://i.redd.it/6edqaagt2bec1.png,522,ClaireDacloush,1706066719.0 +The problem is, while Oppenheimer was a “shoe-in” before it was even released, while Barbie has been a topic for debate even though it financially surpassed the success of Oppy. I’m irritated that Opp was basically guaranteed a nom before it was even seen, but Barbie is being written off as some silly girl power cash grab. Yes, Mattel was involved. Yes the movie was Ken-centric. How tf do you think they got a bunch of male executives to help fund the film? I just don’t get how women are somehow being blamed for being upset that men yet again are rewarded for the bare minimum while women do all the work and are later brushed off as inadequate.",,32,Technical-Hyena420,2024-01-24 18:56:20 +Feminism,19e7eqg,Even Ryan Gosling has his grievances with how Barbie has been treated by Hollywood,,https://i.redd.it/6edqaagt2bec1.png,522,ClaireDacloush,2024-01-24 03:25:19 Feminism,19e099c,I watched The Notebook again in 2024 and I’m in shock,"I’m in utter disbelief of what I’ve watched. In the first 10 minutes this random guy jumps on top of Allie to ask her out, and as he won’t take 10 no’s for an answer basically threathens to commit suicide in front of her in order to persuade this girl into going on a date with him. After this literally traumatising experience, he randomly finds her on the street like a god damn stalker and asks her another 5 times to please, oh please go out with him. How the hell was this such a succesful romantic movie in 2004? By these standards, “You” is a series about true love. The parallels between these two are gripping, and how differently they’ve been viewed with release dates just 14 years apart is beyond provoking. -No wonder all the “good boys” won’t take no for an answer when this BS was considered romantic.",,849,plssolvemyproblems,1706047075.0 +No wonder all the “good boys” won’t take no for an answer when this BS was considered romantic.",,849,plssolvemyproblems,2024-01-23 21:57:55 Feminism,19ecp59,"Calling male gametes ""seed"" and female gametes ""eggs"" is a patriarchal leftover from the times where men were considered to be the source of life and women just passive incubators.","From at least Aristoteles and likely far earlier, men were considered the full humans and the source of human life and soul, bearing the active ""seed"" which they would implant into a passive vessel called a woman for her to incubate it. The ""seed"" would then grow into a child which would be considered the descendant and creation of the man as the primary parent. Even in the modern time, male gametes are semijokingly called ""kids/children"" and there is still this underlying assumption that men are the ones who ""put babies inside women"". Women are never pregnant with their children, but with some man's. -After looking into this a bit more, I have concluded this was bollocks (pun intended). Male gametes would more appropiately be compared to muck, or any fertiliser used to merely kickstart the whole process without any further input. Female gametes, on the othe hand, should be called seeds, since they are already within our mothers at their formation in the womb and do not come and go like the easily-replaced male gametes, grow and develop into a full organism through the nourishment the womb and the mother give it, just like the seed in the earth and sprout into full organism just like a flower might. Plus, a mother is always certain and plays an incomparably larger role in the childrearing than fathers. Why then should the father take all the credit? Why should fathers be considered our source when they only do an act of minimal investment and our mothers do so much more? Humanity should be matrilineal, not patrilineal. We are the seed of our mothers, not our fathers.",,81,[deleted],1706086099.0 -Feminism,19epd33,contemporary feminist thinkers,"Hello, could u recommend some of ur fav feminist thinkers? thx in advance :)",,8,naughtyegirl666,1706125649.0 +After looking into this a bit more, I have concluded this was bollocks (pun intended). Male gametes would more appropiately be compared to muck, or any fertiliser used to merely kickstart the whole process without any further input. Female gametes, on the othe hand, should be called seeds, since they are already within our mothers at their formation in the womb and do not come and go like the easily-replaced male gametes, grow and develop into a full organism through the nourishment the womb and the mother give it, just like the seed in the earth and sprout into full organism just like a flower might. Plus, a mother is always certain and plays an incomparably larger role in the childrearing than fathers. Why then should the father take all the credit? Why should fathers be considered our source when they only do an act of minimal investment and our mothers do so much more? Humanity should be matrilineal, not patrilineal. We are the seed of our mothers, not our fathers.",,81,[deleted],2024-01-24 08:48:19 +Feminism,19epd33,contemporary feminist thinkers,"Hello, could u recommend some of ur fav feminist thinkers? thx in advance :)",,8,naughtyegirl666,2024-01-24 19:47:29 Feminism,19epkgs,The Disappearance of Shere Hite (documentary),"This looks so interesting I just wanted to share. trailer: [https://youtu.be/Y6ZbAzd77aA?si=EOM7YrrZ8b1Mfnbf](https://youtu.be/Y6ZbAzd77aA?si=EOM7YrrZ8b1Mfnbf) [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The\_Disappearance\_of\_Shere\_Hite](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Disappearance_of_Shere_Hite) -&#x200B;",,6,nina-m0,1706126140.0 -Feminism,19e72yj,"Ban 'parental alienation' arguments in family law cases, feminist coalition urges federal government",,https://www.ctvnews.ca/canada/ban-parental-alienation-arguments-in-family-law-cases-feminist-coalition-urges-federal-government-1.6738592?__vfz=medium%3Dsharebar,85,Brookeofthenorth,1706065738.0 +&#x200B;",,6,nina-m0,2024-01-24 19:55:40 +Feminism,19e72yj,"Ban 'parental alienation' arguments in family law cases, feminist coalition urges federal government",,https://www.ctvnews.ca/canada/ban-parental-alienation-arguments-in-family-law-cases-feminist-coalition-urges-federal-government-1.6738592?__vfz=medium%3Dsharebar,85,Brookeofthenorth,2024-01-24 03:08:58 Feminism,19e4gze,The cycle of political fertility abuse,"In regions where abortion and birth control are difficult to access or socially disparaged, women are more likely to become pregnant. Pregnancy begins at earlier ages and individuals have more children during their lives, meaning that the labor of parenting pre-school-aged children takes up a greater number of years. This interferes with the educational, career and social opportunities of people who can become pregnant. Parenthood costs a lot of money, takes a lot of time, and reduces a person's geographic mobility as couch-surfing, homelessness and shelters are much less practical options for people who have babies and toddlers. All of this adds up to a situation where women are predominantly dependent on men for economic survival for long periods of their lives with few alternatives. We talk about the hypocrisy of conservatives who oppose abortion yet also refuse to fund material assistance for children, but the reality is these policies are consistent with the strategy of politically disenfranchising women. Making women dependent on men creates a situation where women locate their interests in the power and approval of boyfriends, husbands and fathers, which in turn creates more voters for policies that reduce bodily and political autonomy for women. -Reproductive justice is a political battleground intersecting with many other social justice causes and a major bulwark against fascism, and that's why fascists want to do away with it.",,78,Sad_Abbreviations318,1706058208.0 +Reproductive justice is a political battleground intersecting with many other social justice causes and a major bulwark against fascism, and that's why fascists want to do away with it.",,78,Sad_Abbreviations318,2024-01-24 01:03:28 Feminism,19dt8zh,OBGYNs in abortion-ban states say they cannot provide the necessary medical care to pregnant women in abortion-ban states and are forced to watch them suffer.,"""One participant said, “You have somebody hemorrhaging with an intrauterine pregnancy with a heartbeat…I \[didn’t yet\] have legal coverage for that, but there’s only so many times you can transfuse somebody and they’re begging for their life before you say, ‘This is unconscionable.’” OBGYNs say they are suffering from depression, moral distress, anxiety, and fear of losing everything if they even talk to a patient about ending the pregnancy that is causing her to suffer and may kill her. Here's the JAMA study: -[https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2814017#:\~:text=Findings%20In%20this%20qualitative%20study,and%20planned%20or%20actual%20attrition](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2814017#:~:text=Findings%20In%20this%20qualitative%20study,and%20planned%20or%20actual%20attrition).",,277,Entire-Ad2551,1706029604.0 -Feminism,19dsq1v,'Barbie' Fans Fume As Margot Robbie And Greta Gerwig Miss Out On Oscars Nominations For Hit Movie,,https://vt.co/entertainment/film-tv/barbiemargot-robbie-greta-gerwig-oscars-nominations-snub,209,VT-Guide,1706028284.0 -Feminism,19dubgx,"Intimate partner violence is a precursor to homelessness, study finds — A statewide survey found that 1 in 5 unhoused women had lost their housing due to violence by an intimate partner. Many were victimized again while homeless.",,https://www.latimes.com/california/story/2024-01-23/one-in-five-homeless-women-have-experienced-violence-by-an-intimate-partner,148,Randomlynumbered,1706032462.0 +[https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2814017#:\~:text=Findings%20In%20this%20qualitative%20study,and%20planned%20or%20actual%20attrition](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2814017#:~:text=Findings%20In%20this%20qualitative%20study,and%20planned%20or%20actual%20attrition).",,277,Entire-Ad2551,2024-01-23 17:06:44 +Feminism,19dsq1v,'Barbie' Fans Fume As Margot Robbie And Greta Gerwig Miss Out On Oscars Nominations For Hit Movie,,https://vt.co/entertainment/film-tv/barbiemargot-robbie-greta-gerwig-oscars-nominations-snub,209,VT-Guide,2024-01-23 16:44:44 +Feminism,19dubgx,"Intimate partner violence is a precursor to homelessness, study finds — A statewide survey found that 1 in 5 unhoused women had lost their housing due to violence by an intimate partner. Many were victimized again while homeless.",,https://www.latimes.com/california/story/2024-01-23/one-in-five-homeless-women-have-experienced-violence-by-an-intimate-partner,148,Randomlynumbered,2024-01-23 17:54:22 Feminism,19drsgw,Sexism in everyday products design," -Hello. I am an industrial design student in my second year. I am currently thinking about my research thesis topic for my next and final year. I am interested in sexism in the design of products. I was thinking about writing the essay and focusing on women's perspective since I thought we all have been disappointed in the past by products both women and men. However I am starting to change my mind again since my professors and fellow students have been very explicit on why sexism is a no no and I have to include all sexes and genders because the essay is going to be mostly judged by men (professors or potential employers). I know for a fact that depending on the field the research on women can be disappointing to non existing and I am not afraid to piss men neither as professors or employees for that matter (before I picked industrial design I was even discouraged by a professor because the industry asks for men and mistreats women. And I was very clear about not caring about the industry and only caring about what I want to study just for the sake of studying). Do you have any interesting ideas when it comes to products, research done or books relative to this specific matter if pick it as a thesis topic?",,163,DistractedCraftress,1706025931.0 +Hello. I am an industrial design student in my second year. I am currently thinking about my research thesis topic for my next and final year. I am interested in sexism in the design of products. I was thinking about writing the essay and focusing on women's perspective since I thought we all have been disappointed in the past by products both women and men. However I am starting to change my mind again since my professors and fellow students have been very explicit on why sexism is a no no and I have to include all sexes and genders because the essay is going to be mostly judged by men (professors or potential employers). I know for a fact that depending on the field the research on women can be disappointing to non existing and I am not afraid to piss men neither as professors or employees for that matter (before I picked industrial design I was even discouraged by a professor because the industry asks for men and mistreats women. And I was very clear about not caring about the industry and only caring about what I want to study just for the sake of studying). Do you have any interesting ideas when it comes to products, research done or books relative to this specific matter if pick it as a thesis topic?",,163,DistractedCraftress,2024-01-23 16:05:31 Feminism,19dtdgm,Mary of Magdala was the first and truest radical “feminist” of the world and should be talked about more often. (This is not a political perspective but a logical one),"She defied the status quo of the time era of Jesus. Women were often sold off, owned as property, and unethically controlled by men. Being one of Jesus’s disciples, and most likely his right hand (wo)man- completely paved new roads for women. The fact that she and other women were noted to be there during his crucifixion, burial, and also his resurrection is *such* an important & significant part of the Bible. She was really the one that fully understood the gospels that Jesus taught and stayed by his side when no other did. It was unheard of for women to testify in that age let alone have any credibility to their words, and the fact that she was a witness to the resurrection and instructed by God to go before the other disciples and proclaim her sightings brought about a new chapter for women and their divine & righteous place in the world. This alone challenged the patriarchal norms of those days, breaking the barriers of gender inequality. -It was only until the 6th century that pope Gregory the Great authoritatively proclaimed that she was a prostitute, although this is no where to be found in scripture. It matters that we clarify that Mary of Magdala was an exceptionally holy figure in the Bible stories, and should actually be spoken about more often- especially for young women as someone to look up to. It’s important to accurately depict Mary of Magdala as a trusted disciple, feminist trail blazer, and to not downplay her influence.",,83,theheartthinks,1706030047.0 -Feminism,19dbcjn,Ew,,https://i.redd.it/t0xemxd353ec1.jpeg,1170,Sad-Personality-15,1705970137.0 +It was only until the 6th century that pope Gregory the Great authoritatively proclaimed that she was a prostitute, although this is no where to be found in scripture. It matters that we clarify that Mary of Magdala was an exceptionally holy figure in the Bible stories, and should actually be spoken about more often- especially for young women as someone to look up to. It’s important to accurately depict Mary of Magdala as a trusted disciple, feminist trail blazer, and to not downplay her influence.",,83,theheartthinks,2024-01-23 17:14:07 +Feminism,19dbcjn,Ew,,https://i.redd.it/t0xemxd353ec1.jpeg,1170,Sad-Personality-15,2024-01-23 00:35:37 Feminism,19dr2hi,What are your favorite female-centric films of the past few years?,"Hollywood has been putting out a lot more female-centric films beyond for the past few years. Which have been some of your favorites? Some of mine have been, in no particular order: @@ -10521,17 +10521,17 @@ My favorite movie of 2022. Maybe the best satire of the flimsy foundations of vi PRICILLA -Maybe my favorite Sofia Coppola film. Subtle yet devastating film about being taken in by a toxic partner and then gaining the strength to leave them.",,57,TheOtherHolmesBro,1706024070.0 -Feminism,19ddcwa,I'm sick of other men,"My sweetheart and I kitty isn't doing so hot, we asked our snaps for money since we're so short on it (not proud of begging). We've been scared for our baby and this little pos responded to her, in the couple of minutes of hope we received just diminished instantly. I made this account just to shit on him, I'm beyond angry and on the brink of tears.",https://i.redd.it/3wbnrzhbm3ec1.png,390,Scared_Scarcity1416,1705975930.0 -Feminism,19d3127,Women in Gaza having c-sections without painkillers as girls use tent scraps for period products,,https://news.sky.com/story/women-and-girls-in-gaza-using-scraps-of-tent-material-in-place-of-period-products-13053083,370,sheeshing123,1705949324.0 -Feminism,19d62sn,"Taliban restricting unmarried women’s access to work and travel, UN report says",,https://www.rawstory.com/taliban-restricting-unmarried-womens-access-to-work-and-travel-un-report-says/,238,BurtonDesque,1705956909.0 +Maybe my favorite Sofia Coppola film. Subtle yet devastating film about being taken in by a toxic partner and then gaining the strength to leave them.",,57,TheOtherHolmesBro,2024-01-23 15:34:30 +Feminism,19ddcwa,I'm sick of other men,"My sweetheart and I kitty isn't doing so hot, we asked our snaps for money since we're so short on it (not proud of begging). We've been scared for our baby and this little pos responded to her, in the couple of minutes of hope we received just diminished instantly. I made this account just to shit on him, I'm beyond angry and on the brink of tears.",https://i.redd.it/3wbnrzhbm3ec1.png,390,Scared_Scarcity1416,2024-01-23 02:12:10 +Feminism,19d3127,Women in Gaza having c-sections without painkillers as girls use tent scraps for period products,,https://news.sky.com/story/women-and-girls-in-gaza-using-scraps-of-tent-material-in-place-of-period-products-13053083,370,sheeshing123,2024-01-22 18:48:44 +Feminism,19d62sn,"Taliban restricting unmarried women’s access to work and travel, UN report says",,https://www.rawstory.com/taliban-restricting-unmarried-womens-access-to-work-and-travel-un-report-says/,238,BurtonDesque,2024-01-22 20:55:09 Feminism,19d7uut,History is the struggle against male aggression,"There are almost no spices on this planet in which males exert levels of control over females that are even remotely comparable to homo sapiens. Throughout all of agricultural history the amount of power men have held over women is beyond inconceivable and in many ways unprecedented amongst primates. While violence by males is common among primates like chimpanzee and mountain gorillas with the intent of securing mating opportunities, levels of aggression from human males surpasses this by orders of magnitude. After reading a paper about patriarchy in other primates I am left speechless by the realisation that nothing comes close to males control over females sexuality than in humans. Not even remotely. The situation gets exacerbated by the use of language to spread an ideology of male dominance amongst all members of the species. Whether it be men hijacking language to co-ordinate misogyny, cultural dress codes designed to limit the movement of women, morality used to justify male aggression or religious and spiritual practices that uphold a patriarchy, all the way to literal mutilation of woman's body parts, every aspect of agricultural society revolves around male aggression. Even prior to the first farming practices when we still lived as hunter gatherers there is a strong body of evidence that suggests that the majority of aggression was enacted by men in the pursuit over who gets to control which woman. It is hard to comprehend the magnitude of the male institution that has controlled all of our lives since before the dawn of humanity. -I'd like to end by noting that ""homo sapiens"" and thereby the name of our entire species is latin for ""wise man"" or ""wise human"" though humans are neither wise nor remotely humane. Therefore I propose to rename ""homo sapiens"" to ""homo misogynis"" since I believe it more accurately reflects the truely oppressive nature of half the members of our species towards the other.",,137,AresThePacifist_,1705961161.0 +I'd like to end by noting that ""homo sapiens"" and thereby the name of our entire species is latin for ""wise man"" or ""wise human"" though humans are neither wise nor remotely humane. Therefore I propose to rename ""homo sapiens"" to ""homo misogynis"" since I believe it more accurately reflects the truely oppressive nature of half the members of our species towards the other.",,137,AresThePacifist_,2024-01-22 22:06:01 Feminism,19dcdnt,What are some radical feminist books that are explicitly trans-inclusive?,"I'm trans and I've been getting into radical feminist literature, but it's weird to read some like Germaine Greer who disagrees with my existence ([and also wrote paedophile apologia? I think? please correct me if I'm misunderstanding this](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Beautiful_Boy)). Her work from the 70s was amazing, and definitely valuable to feminism, but knowing what she believes now kind of took away some value, like it wasn't ""for me"" as a transgender person. -Do you have any recommendations of radical feminist writers that support transgender women? I don't feel welcome in a lot of radfem spaces for my identity, but I also don't feel welcome in a lot of mainstream/libfem spaces for my more radical views on gender.",,36,ThingOfPast,1705973063.0 -Feminism,19dibcm,"""Milfs-Often the villain?"" a discussion by TallSwordLady complaining about the portrayal of female villains in cartoons",,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5liYyY6QqFo,9,ClaireDacloush,1705992413.0 +Do you have any recommendations of radical feminist writers that support transgender women? I don't feel welcome in a lot of radfem spaces for my identity, but I also don't feel welcome in a lot of mainstream/libfem spaces for my more radical views on gender.",,36,ThingOfPast,2024-01-23 01:24:23 +Feminism,19dibcm,"""Milfs-Often the villain?"" a discussion by TallSwordLady complaining about the portrayal of female villains in cartoons",,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5liYyY6QqFo,9,ClaireDacloush,2024-01-23 06:46:53 Feminism,19d1lyp,Punished for complaining about sexual advances at work place,"I am so pissed off and despondent right now. 20 days ago, a girl(calling her S) nd I went to complaints committee to complain about her direct boss, who's the boss of my boss, about unwanted sexual advances made by him towards us. He has been transferred to this branch only 6 months ago. And he already harassed many women. Initially I was hesitant to complain because I only had to face him occasionally while S was newly recruited and works directly under him. She has been facing a lot more harassment. In the end, with the encouragement from some colleagues, we informed the complaints committee. While they were pretty responsive and sympathetic, they encouraged us to get proofs like recordings. Creeps like that guy are very intelligent and make sure they don't get caught so with great difficulty, S recorded some of his comments to her. They took some 15 days after we gave them the recording to transfer us to other sections. They wanted to transfer him initially but asked us to officially give written complaint and go through investigation(where we have to face him) which both of us are not ok with. This last Friday, they transferred us. I got assigned to a section which has a lot of work pressure and a little bit farther than the main office building while she was assigned to a similar(in terms of work pressure) section in the main building. All the while earning the same pay. @@ -10540,37 +10540,37 @@ Now all of my friends think I'm punished and my boss, who was on leave for the l To be clear, I come from a South Asian country so there's no hope of going to police Or court. Also I can't change jobs. Not to mention, the guy won't lose his job even if we launch an official complaint. Atmost he would be transferred to a far away location. -I can't help feeling so hopeless and desolate. I wish I was born a man instead.",,99,Freedomfirefly,1705945874.0 -Feminism,19cxbzm,Dealing with sense of disappointment and anger due to living in an unequal society?,How do you deal with constant pent-up anger and sense of disappointment when you realize that society is unequal and unjust? ,,134,Quirky_Person441,1705935079.0 -Feminism,19cfd90,So sick of reading stories like this.,,https://i.redd.it/b0skulduotdc1.png,932,traumatisedpotato,1705875062.0 +I can't help feeling so hopeless and desolate. I wish I was born a man instead.",,99,Freedomfirefly,2024-01-22 17:51:14 +Feminism,19cxbzm,Dealing with sense of disappointment and anger due to living in an unequal society?,How do you deal with constant pent-up anger and sense of disappointment when you realize that society is unequal and unjust? ,,134,Quirky_Person441,2024-01-22 14:51:19 +Feminism,19cfd90,So sick of reading stories like this.,,https://i.redd.it/b0skulduotdc1.png,932,traumatisedpotato,2024-01-21 22:11:02 Feminism,19d2u4n,Study on Abortion (In)Experiences Post-Roe v. Wade Overruling,"&#x200B; -https://preview.redd.it/7u22k6xmd1ec1.png?width=468&format=png&auto=webp&s=76c4df2a352cbfbdec012bb3f99cbc5f0a4857dd",,15,lbwatson81,1705948832.0 -Feminism,19d23ar,Autism in Women Article,[https://www.sciencealert.com/new-evidence-highlights-a-serious-flaw-in-our-perception-of-autism?utm\_source=ScienceAlert+-+Daily+Email+Updates&utm\_campaign=b4c83ef397-RSS\_EMAIL\_CAMPAIGN&utm\_medium=email&utm\_term=0\_fe5632fb09-b4c83ef397-365914917](https://www.sciencealert.com/new-evidence-highlights-a-serious-flaw-in-our-perception-of-autism?utm_source=ScienceAlert+-+Daily+Email+Updates&utm_campaign=b4c83ef397-RSS_EMAIL_CAMPAIGN&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_fe5632fb09-b4c83ef397-365914917),,14,RudeBlueJeans,1705947050.0 -Feminism,19ctnjm,Medics told not to report illegal abortions to police,,https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-68036171,44,Jojuj,1705923349.0 +https://preview.redd.it/7u22k6xmd1ec1.png?width=468&format=png&auto=webp&s=76c4df2a352cbfbdec012bb3f99cbc5f0a4857dd",,15,lbwatson81,2024-01-22 18:40:32 +Feminism,19d23ar,Autism in Women Article,[https://www.sciencealert.com/new-evidence-highlights-a-serious-flaw-in-our-perception-of-autism?utm\_source=ScienceAlert+-+Daily+Email+Updates&utm\_campaign=b4c83ef397-RSS\_EMAIL\_CAMPAIGN&utm\_medium=email&utm\_term=0\_fe5632fb09-b4c83ef397-365914917](https://www.sciencealert.com/new-evidence-highlights-a-serious-flaw-in-our-perception-of-autism?utm_source=ScienceAlert+-+Daily+Email+Updates&utm_campaign=b4c83ef397-RSS_EMAIL_CAMPAIGN&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_fe5632fb09-b4c83ef397-365914917),,14,RudeBlueJeans,2024-01-22 18:10:50 +Feminism,19ctnjm,Medics told not to report illegal abortions to police,,https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-68036171,44,Jojuj,2024-01-22 11:35:49 Feminism,19cecbx,What's one thing you said on the internet that made misogynists mad?,"It seems like all I've ever had to say was how I think misogyny is bad, or talk about a negative experience I've had with a dude, which usually prompts them to rush to defend said dude as if they're defense attorneys that personally know him, while blaming me in the process. I also made a satire post to a satire subreddit about how I felt like all the boys in the world ignore/avoid me because I'm too beautiful and they think I'm out of their league, and how the more I try to make myself less beautiful it seems to make me even more beautiful so they run even more. It was meant to be a self deprecating joke, because obviously that's not the reason men don't approach me but I got like 5 different dudes in the comments saying ""Maybe it's your ugly personality!1!!1"" not realizing that they are literally in a subreddit meant for satire. It's weird how these kinds of people foam at the mouth whenever women have any sort of confidence. -Also this is slightly unrelated, but I've noticed a difference in how certain women are treated when they say something a raging misogynist doesn't like on the internet. If you're conventionally attractive, you get written off as a dumb whore, people make really gross assumptions about your sex life/body count, those dudes will try to ""humble them"", or they get rape threats. If you're an average looking woman, they will basically tell you you're ""mid/not special"" or they will find one little flaw about your appearance and magnify it to the extreme. And if you're not conventionally attractive and/or overweight? God help you. Oh yeah, and don't forget the good ol' ""Women ☕""",,304,[deleted],1705872545.0 +Also this is slightly unrelated, but I've noticed a difference in how certain women are treated when they say something a raging misogynist doesn't like on the internet. If you're conventionally attractive, you get written off as a dumb whore, people make really gross assumptions about your sex life/body count, those dudes will try to ""humble them"", or they get rape threats. If you're an average looking woman, they will basically tell you you're ""mid/not special"" or they will find one little flaw about your appearance and magnify it to the extreme. And if you're not conventionally attractive and/or overweight? God help you. Oh yeah, and don't forget the good ol' ""Women ☕""",,304,[deleted],2024-01-21 21:29:05 Feminism,19cimx7,Are things getting worse?,"I grew up in the 1990s, and while a lot of media and culture from that era is transparently repugnant looking back, it felt like things were moving forward in a way that was virtually guaranteed to continue. Cut to 2024 and things that even the most mainstream feminism of the 90s took for granted seem to be in reverse. Pornography is endemic now and yet seems to become ever more violent and misogynistic, prostitution is increasingly whitewashed and criticism of it is shut down (not to mention things like OnlyFans becoming so popular and widespread that men now feel it acceptable to ask random women if they have accounts), the rise of transparently bigoted, authoritarian and violent ""manosphere"" type figures seems to be inexorable. Even sexual violence among children (committed by boys against girls) is now on the rise, according to UK statistics, and just about everyone I know has suffered more incidents in the past few years than they have when times were theoretically even worse in the 2000s. The one and only plus side seems to be that media is improving, and you can find more varied and complex female characters and women-focused stories than ever before, in works increasingly written/directed/developed by women. -I'll be honest, I've been having an absolutely horrible time with my mental health for about a week now, and it's largely due to being triggered by about four different sexual violence related things I was unlucky enough to see on the same day. I've been crying a lot and still haven't recovered yet, and my doom-laden thoughts over this period have gotten me interested in having this discussion. I'd absolutely love people to tell me I'm wrong about things going backwards, obviously, but what do you think is the truth?",,117,Limp_Construction351,1705883788.0 +I'll be honest, I've been having an absolutely horrible time with my mental health for about a week now, and it's largely due to being triggered by about four different sexual violence related things I was unlucky enough to see on the same day. I've been crying a lot and still haven't recovered yet, and my doom-laden thoughts over this period have gotten me interested in having this discussion. I'd absolutely love people to tell me I'm wrong about things going backwards, obviously, but what do you think is the truth?",,117,Limp_Construction351,2024-01-22 00:36:28 Feminism,19cbs0h,Dr. Geoff Lindsey Argues Aversion to Vocal Fry is Often Actually Misogyny,"In this fascinating [linguistics video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q0yL2GezneU), Dr. Geoff Lindsey proposes that people who claim they hate vocal fry actually only hate vocal fry in women not because of the sound but because they interpret it as women acting like they know more or are blasé. I think he's right, and he uses studies and video/audio clips to support his argument while disputing studies he believes have flawed methods or sample groups. (Again, I think he's right.) -I am happy to see a linguist calling out sexism using science!",,269,DerpyMcDerpelI,1705866164.0 -Feminism,19crmnr,Feminist movie recs?,Preferably stuff from the 70s. Also interested in old school queer cinema. I just watched a Roman Polanski flick and I need to cleanse my soul.,,18,reallytastyeggs,1705914772.0 -Feminism,19czlyp,To what extent do you think this regulation impacts equality of rights for women (if at all)?,,https://v.redd.it/2t7nwqgn3udc1,5,girl_world,1705941023.0 -Feminism,19c2s0w,I've been biting my tongue from the second I was born and maybe that has made me this bitter.,,https://i.redd.it/c3ly6pfnisdc1.png,625,lilmissnobodysays,1705841523.0 -Feminism,19c7fk7,I miscarried in Texas. My doctors put abortion law first,,https://www.newsweek.com/i-miscarried-texas-doctors-abortion-law-1861677,213,audiomuse1,1705855267.0 +I am happy to see a linguist calling out sexism using science!",,269,DerpyMcDerpelI,2024-01-21 19:42:44 +Feminism,19crmnr,Feminist movie recs?,Preferably stuff from the 70s. Also interested in old school queer cinema. I just watched a Roman Polanski flick and I need to cleanse my soul.,,18,reallytastyeggs,2024-01-22 09:12:52 +Feminism,19czlyp,To what extent do you think this regulation impacts equality of rights for women (if at all)?,,https://v.redd.it/2t7nwqgn3udc1,5,girl_world,2024-01-22 16:30:23 +Feminism,19c2s0w,I've been biting my tongue from the second I was born and maybe that has made me this bitter.,,https://i.redd.it/c3ly6pfnisdc1.png,625,lilmissnobodysays,2024-01-21 12:52:03 +Feminism,19c7fk7,I miscarried in Texas. My doctors put abortion law first,,https://www.newsweek.com/i-miscarried-texas-doctors-abortion-law-1861677,213,audiomuse1,2024-01-21 16:41:07 Feminism,19c3985,Kyte Baby controversy: Outrage after worker denied remote request while her baby was in the NICU,"This folks is what internalized misogyny looks like -This CEO is not a woman that values other women.",https://www.today.com/parents/moms/kyte-baby-controversy-rcna134735?utm_campaign=trueAnthem_manual&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook&fbclid=IwAR1kMshPZS5u32Qgi9ky8hoMFbFMOPyJelfF98qVp7aJtJ2yxxfClxalcFg_aem_AVNz3GZRjB38SupNlhQkqsUlXLUD-CSvsdCGtDQVKEKYzdM7TJsfOfmEr8xLh-CDQoA,357,cannotberushed-,1705843181.0 -Feminism,19cjyw7,My mother and grandmother’s story,"Ok, my grandmother and mother told me stories about their life. My grandmother’s father died when she was very young, and for some reason her mother could not make more money without the father. Now My grandmother was beaten and treated badly by her mother and older sister. Well my grandmother was considered very beautiful, she still is to me, but This older guy, who was years older then her (and probably shouldn’t have been hitting on her in the first place) told her he would not pay for her education unless she married him. My grandmother was forced to, and she wasn’t able to continue her education, she had to stay with this man and bear his children because her mother my great grandmother forced her to stay with him. My grandmother who was In the Catholic Philippines had to deal with my possessive Grandfather. Because older man, pretty girl. It’s not a good combination. My grandmother tried to kill her self many times. She finally got away from him because she cheated on him. The man she cheated with wasn’t a good man. My grandmother left him soon. My mother was born, and told she would be a prostitute by men older than her. She wasn’t protected by my grandmother because honestly Grandma’s life was horrible and she beat my mother constantly. She wouldn’t let her go to school. Mother had to sneak out for school and get beaten by her mother. Mother was able to graduate. Stories like this is why we need feminism. If to avoid this I would never be born, honestly I don’t care if I was never born if this didn’t happen. Stories like this is why we need feminism. Also you should know my mom and grandma love me and are loving, but they had hard lives due to the patriarchy. We need to stop the patriarchy to stop these stories from happening ever again.",,22,Charrise,1705887636.0 +This CEO is not a woman that values other women.",https://www.today.com/parents/moms/kyte-baby-controversy-rcna134735?utm_campaign=trueAnthem_manual&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=facebook&fbclid=IwAR1kMshPZS5u32Qgi9ky8hoMFbFMOPyJelfF98qVp7aJtJ2yxxfClxalcFg_aem_AVNz3GZRjB38SupNlhQkqsUlXLUD-CSvsdCGtDQVKEKYzdM7TJsfOfmEr8xLh-CDQoA,357,cannotberushed-,2024-01-21 13:19:41 +Feminism,19cjyw7,My mother and grandmother’s story,"Ok, my grandmother and mother told me stories about their life. My grandmother’s father died when she was very young, and for some reason her mother could not make more money without the father. Now My grandmother was beaten and treated badly by her mother and older sister. Well my grandmother was considered very beautiful, she still is to me, but This older guy, who was years older then her (and probably shouldn’t have been hitting on her in the first place) told her he would not pay for her education unless she married him. My grandmother was forced to, and she wasn’t able to continue her education, she had to stay with this man and bear his children because her mother my great grandmother forced her to stay with him. My grandmother who was In the Catholic Philippines had to deal with my possessive Grandfather. Because older man, pretty girl. It’s not a good combination. My grandmother tried to kill her self many times. She finally got away from him because she cheated on him. The man she cheated with wasn’t a good man. My grandmother left him soon. My mother was born, and told she would be a prostitute by men older than her. She wasn’t protected by my grandmother because honestly Grandma’s life was horrible and she beat my mother constantly. She wouldn’t let her go to school. Mother had to sneak out for school and get beaten by her mother. Mother was able to graduate. Stories like this is why we need feminism. If to avoid this I would never be born, honestly I don’t care if I was never born if this didn’t happen. Stories like this is why we need feminism. Also you should know my mom and grandma love me and are loving, but they had hard lives due to the patriarchy. We need to stop the patriarchy to stop these stories from happening ever again.",,22,Charrise,2024-01-22 01:40:36 Feminism,19c3ht9,Predatory sexual comments being allowed on fcking national TV,"Ik this is random af but i can’t get it off my mind cuz of how terrifying&disgusting the world we’re living in is. I’m from an Eastern European country and there was a really popular talent show that the entire country would watch.In the jury there were 4 famous singers, 3 men and one woman.A few days ago, i’ve found an old screen recording that i almost forgot i had in my phone of a really strange moment from this show. Basically, the contestant - a 14 yo girl, walks out the stage after singing, and one of the juries - a 37 yo man, says the following, unhinged&out loud : *“She is so charming.I obviously couldn’t tell her because she was 14, but she is sexy as fuck”*. I remember being 15 and hearing this on TV and being like what the actual fuck????? @@ -10581,7 +10581,7 @@ If this is the shit that they dare to say out loud, imagine all the shit that is Mind you, i used to actually listen to this artist&watch his interviews and stuff and he actually seemed like he really had some depth to him. What i mean to say is, he seemed *normal* and mature, and like maybe even more intelligent than the average person/famous singer, and naive as i might’ve been, i honestly wouldn’t have expected it, which is exactly what makes it so *terrifying*. Oh, and he also has a daughter. -I’ll say it and idgaf, misogyny, hypersexualization, etc. are all connected to pedophilia, and even the ones who seem like they don’t have it in them, somewhere, deep down, they do…",,102,Fit-Cry6925,1705843971.0 +I’ll say it and idgaf, misogyny, hypersexualization, etc. are all connected to pedophilia, and even the ones who seem like they don’t have it in them, somewhere, deep down, they do…",,102,Fit-Cry6925,2024-01-21 13:32:51 Feminism,19bph3x,"Why getting married, if men are so bad?","I am a 37-year-old single woman. I had opportunity to date a few men that looked like potential life-time partners, but for one reason or another, it didn't work. Sometimes I feel sad realizing my age and how hard it is to form a family. But I can't help to notice how many men are abusive towards women. I am Brazilian working in the US as a waitress. The number of married men who approaches me makes me really scared. When I first move to the US, I was 28, but looked more like 20. Many men, old enough to my grandfather, approached me. I was sexually harassed multiple times at work, and even suffered 2 attempts of rape. @@ -10592,7 +10592,7 @@ On the other hand, I happened to find out many men are also sexually attracted t I also noticed that many men feel threatened by their partners success. -We were raised to believe marriage is a safe institution. But, getting older I realized... it's not! What men are even good for? How to find a safe partner? Should we abstain from the idea of a lifetime partner?",,374,Spirited_Top_5443,1705794289.0 +We were raised to believe marriage is a safe institution. But, getting older I realized... it's not! What men are even good for? How to find a safe partner? Should we abstain from the idea of a lifetime partner?",,374,Spirited_Top_5443,2024-01-20 23:44:49 Feminism,19c0go8,Instagram Reels and Misogony?,"I'm probably not the first to notice this, but it has lead me to just delete instagram from my phone. Under literally every video where there is a bad driver, an accident, or just a woman in the comments making a suggestion, they get absolutely shat on. @@ -10601,8 +10601,8 @@ Under literally every video where there is a bad driver, an accident, or just a It's not just the thing with car reels though, also in every reel containing a family or showing a dangerous job, the women get constantly put down. -I am asking you, is this the result of one year with Andrew Tate and the Red pill community? I've never before witnessed so much hatred at once under every second reel.",,29,IronwoodIsBusted,1705832478.0 -Feminism,19c1lsl,Pregnant woman’s jail sentence quashed in ‘landmark’ UK ruling,https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/jan/19/pregnant-woman-jail-sentence-quashed-in-landmark-uk-ruling,,17,Background-Party6748,1705837128.0 +I am asking you, is this the result of one year with Andrew Tate and the Red pill community? I've never before witnessed so much hatred at once under every second reel.",,29,IronwoodIsBusted,2024-01-21 10:21:18 +Feminism,19c1lsl,Pregnant woman’s jail sentence quashed in ‘landmark’ UK ruling,https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/jan/19/pregnant-woman-jail-sentence-quashed-in-landmark-uk-ruling,,17,Background-Party6748,2024-01-21 11:38:48 Feminism,19bi8z4,Ken is the main character of Barbie,"So I watched the Barbie movie reluctantly bc my 12 yr old daughter wanted to watch it. I didn't like it but I didn't even want to care enough to get mad about it. I recently listened to [this episode](https://open.spotify.com/episode/1cnjl5B0Aic6IP1rBAECgy?si=6d361fcd74674353) of Ordinary Unhappiness where the hosts discuss some major issues with Barbie. I thought it was super interesting and correct idea that Ken is the only one in the Barbie movie who is held up and allowed to have ""enough"" and here I am digging into the Barbie discourse six months later. @@ -10613,7 +10613,7 @@ I think a lot about the back-and-forth nature of feminism over the generations. (I mean, I am being flippant and also clearly I am Gen X and while I was very well versed in fem theory in the 90s I am not up to date on current feminist takes in the academy.) -But, yet, in the movies the 80s gave us many amazing feminist icons. Like DAMN! look at those 80s movies grappling with the real shit. 9 to 5, Working Girl, The Accused. [Many more here.](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:1980s_feminist_films) There is a lot of problematic content, *to be sure*! And the stories privilege certain kinds of white women. But the stories and character arcs were not dumbed down at all. It's embarrassing this meme-y jokey wink wink Girl Bossery (still with the super pretty blonde white lady, ""too pretty to be cast as Barbie"" yet of course cast at Barbie) is being branded ""feminism"" 30 years later. I wish we could have movies with our current feelings about intersectionality and the ways we *have* managed to evolve with the high mindedness we saw in the past.",,220,FreyaInVolkvang,1705775254.0 +But, yet, in the movies the 80s gave us many amazing feminist icons. Like DAMN! look at those 80s movies grappling with the real shit. 9 to 5, Working Girl, The Accused. [Many more here.](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:1980s_feminist_films) There is a lot of problematic content, *to be sure*! And the stories privilege certain kinds of white women. But the stories and character arcs were not dumbed down at all. It's embarrassing this meme-y jokey wink wink Girl Bossery (still with the super pretty blonde white lady, ""too pretty to be cast as Barbie"" yet of course cast at Barbie) is being branded ""feminism"" 30 years later. I wish we could have movies with our current feelings about intersectionality and the ways we *have* managed to evolve with the high mindedness we saw in the past.",,220,FreyaInVolkvang,2024-01-20 18:27:34 Feminism,19bp39b,Need help with talking to my bf about patriarchy and how it affects women.,"I have never posted on reddit so like, please be humble if I miss any reddit etiquette. Last night, my bf and I had this huge argument about patriarchy. I hate when I know I'm right, but my stupid brain freezes and I can come up with any talking points. All I did was ended up sounding like a fucking illiterate emotional dumb fuck. I hate myself for that. @@ -10625,7 +10625,7 @@ As a women, we have to cover ourselves or can't be freely roaming around on cert I am... I don't know, I feel stupid. My short-term memory is just trash (major accident and childhood trauma). I felt so overwhelmed that I froze. He is a sensible guy, and I know if I show him evidence, he will accept it. But I am really bad at arguing or expressing myself; specially when I'm being told that I'm being emotional and sounding like a illiterate person (he didn't use those exact words; but that's the summary). What can I say or do to have him see my point? Please do not tell me to leave him. He is a good person, and he struggles to see other side cause he was never exposed. We come from S. Asian family. S. Asian families has a tendency to baby their sons. He got out of that- but he doesn't grasp the concept fully. Please use kind words when addressing him. -Ty.",,48,100percnt_dat_bitch,1705793245.0 +Ty.",,48,100percnt_dat_bitch,2024-01-20 23:27:25 Feminism,19bdfp1,Feminism isn't new - only the language frameworks are: Medieval Feminisms,"Hi all - first time poster here but I wanted to share my recent SubStack piece here as I have a feeling many of you will absolutely ""pick up what I'm throwing down."" This piece explores the idea of women’s ‘prime’ years and the influence of the patriarchy upon our perception of women’s progression through life while also introducing you to a medieval matriarch, Eleanor of Aquitaine. @@ -10640,10 +10640,10 @@ Quote grabbed from the essay -- > Only in a patriarchal society would women’s aging, or aging in general (an inevitable human condition), be viewed as a weakness, a vulnerability to be dealt with and exploited as opposed to a wealth of context to be tapped into and cared for. Our seniors lived experiences and progression through the final stages of life could better inform our understanding of the human condition, yet more often than not we place them into the margins or remove them from view all together.[2](https://substack.com/home/post/p-140776364#footnote-2-140776364) -&#x200B;",,108,FreshCicada3890,1705762393.0 -Feminism,19b4q0x,this is why we need feminism part #538479,,https://i.redd.it/vfwhwmbcajdc1.jpeg,536,tera1551,1705729766.0 -Feminism,19ba7d9,"I'm a collage artist working with ""found materials"" that I get secondhand on Craigslist. From a set of educational flashcards that covered the suffragettes and a random wily octopus comes this, which I think I'm calling ""Squishing the Patriarchy"".",,https://i.redd.it/27ubykiy3ldc1.jpeg,130,itsmeitsme,1705751832.0 -Feminism,19bgqei,The Conservative Plan to Ban Abortion Without Congress. Anti-abortion advocates hope a Republican president will enforce a series of laws from the 1800s that will “result in the end of abortion in every single state in America.”,,https://www.notus.org/policy/the-conservative-plan-to-ban-abortion-without-congress,45,Professional_Suit270,1705771292.0 +&#x200B;",,108,FreshCicada3890,2024-01-20 14:53:13 +Feminism,19b4q0x,this is why we need feminism part #538479,,https://i.redd.it/vfwhwmbcajdc1.jpeg,536,tera1551,2024-01-20 05:49:26 +Feminism,19ba7d9,"I'm a collage artist working with ""found materials"" that I get secondhand on Craigslist. From a set of educational flashcards that covered the suffragettes and a random wily octopus comes this, which I think I'm calling ""Squishing the Patriarchy"".",,https://i.redd.it/27ubykiy3ldc1.jpeg,130,itsmeitsme,2024-01-20 11:57:12 +Feminism,19bgqei,The Conservative Plan to Ban Abortion Without Congress. Anti-abortion advocates hope a Republican president will enforce a series of laws from the 1800s that will “result in the end of abortion in every single state in America.”,,https://www.notus.org/policy/the-conservative-plan-to-ban-abortion-without-congress,45,Professional_Suit270,2024-01-20 17:21:32 Feminism,19bbd16,Stop calling girls (17-) as women (18+) online and in media.,"I hate seeing this language used in the media and news; Especially in rape and abuse cases; They try to downplay the severity of a girls abuse/sexual abuse by referring to her as an (adult) 'woman' - as if that means she's 'old enough/mature enough' to handle the abuse because she's 'grown'. Little girls are called 'women' to benefit and protect the male abuser - and by extension all (abusive) men; This to make the female child seem older and mature, and on-level, with their male adult attacker; Making the man look less harmful and perverse (and not like a pedophile), because the female child is as 'grown/mature' as the male abuser is. @@ -10668,21 +10668,21 @@ Punishment for doing such: Call-out their wording and dismissive language, pull &#x200B; -Girls and women have to protect themselves when men won't.",,94,Purple_Unicorn_2349,1705755957.0 -Feminism,19b68nu,"Anyone else more agitated, more depressed, upset, and have less faith in humanity the more they use Reddit?","At first I came on for public freakout and to laugh. Then it just got all violent, just posts of people in fistfights, esp men jeering on and liking men that punch a women or beat her up videos...........so I went to other categories. Post a lot, but so much ignorance and hatred. People down voting and reporting you because their opinion differs from theirs. and the hate towards women and the support for it by others and mods. I don't even know why I log on here anymore. smh, It just leaves me angry and sad. Such a shame, we really need a platform all to ourselves",,172,True-Godesss,1705735456.0 -Feminism,19ajjnv,"""you will die alone with cats""",,https://i.redd.it/g30urqtcjedc1.jpeg,1781,Effective_Prior2564,1705672263.0 -Feminism,19b4gp4,This is what happens when you reject violent men,,https://apnews.com/article/fort-bend-texas-family-shooting-five-dead-72dd428e66b3ed7c44f7007b97858b39,95,-viasteph,1705728844.0 -Feminism,19bc4xr,South African case against genocide in the Gaza strip,Direct link to the 84 page South African application present in the article - it's detailed and well explained with references.,https://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/dec/29/south-africa-accuses-israel-of-committing-genocide-in-gaza,16,Little-Platypus-8679,1705758460.0 -Feminism,19bb02j,Suggest a theme for our feminist art show,We're putting together an art show with local artists on women's day in Eastern Europe which is March 8 and would love some recommendations for a theme. Last year's theme was A room of one's own.,,10,Swimming-Item8891,1705754739.0 -Feminism,19arj8i,Evidence points to systematic use of rape and sexual violence by Hamas in 7 October attacks,,https://www.theguardian.com/world/2024/jan/18/evidence-points-to-systematic-use-of-rape-by-hamas-in-7-october-attacks,185,Motor-Ad-2024,1705692792.0 -Feminism,19az33f,Matt Gaetz Confesses Republicans Don’t Really Need Women Voters Anyway,,https://newrepublic.com/post/178246/matt-gaetz-confesses-maga-republicans-dont-need-women-voters,37,rswoodr,1705712023.0 -Feminism,19b26wx,Social media red flags in a guy,"Is it a red flags, if a guy liking dan blazarien and following OF pages and inappropriate models? What's your thoughts about these types of guys",,21,your_earth_75,1705721243.0 -Feminism,19ajjpl,It’s 2022 and People Are Still Confused That My Kids Have Their Mother’s Last Name,,https://time.com/6143476/baby-with-mothers-last-name/,136,SophiaofPrussia,1705672265.0 +Girls and women have to protect themselves when men won't.",,94,Purple_Unicorn_2349,2024-01-20 13:05:57 +Feminism,19b68nu,"Anyone else more agitated, more depressed, upset, and have less faith in humanity the more they use Reddit?","At first I came on for public freakout and to laugh. Then it just got all violent, just posts of people in fistfights, esp men jeering on and liking men that punch a women or beat her up videos...........so I went to other categories. Post a lot, but so much ignorance and hatred. People down voting and reporting you because their opinion differs from theirs. and the hate towards women and the support for it by others and mods. I don't even know why I log on here anymore. smh, It just leaves me angry and sad. Such a shame, we really need a platform all to ourselves",,172,True-Godesss,2024-01-20 07:24:16 +Feminism,19ajjnv,"""you will die alone with cats""",,https://i.redd.it/g30urqtcjedc1.jpeg,1781,Effective_Prior2564,2024-01-19 13:51:03 +Feminism,19b4gp4,This is what happens when you reject violent men,,https://apnews.com/article/fort-bend-texas-family-shooting-five-dead-72dd428e66b3ed7c44f7007b97858b39,95,-viasteph,2024-01-20 05:34:04 +Feminism,19bc4xr,South African case against genocide in the Gaza strip,Direct link to the 84 page South African application present in the article - it's detailed and well explained with references.,https://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/dec/29/south-africa-accuses-israel-of-committing-genocide-in-gaza,16,Little-Platypus-8679,2024-01-20 13:47:40 +Feminism,19bb02j,Suggest a theme for our feminist art show,We're putting together an art show with local artists on women's day in Eastern Europe which is March 8 and would love some recommendations for a theme. Last year's theme was A room of one's own.,,10,Swimming-Item8891,2024-01-20 12:45:39 +Feminism,19arj8i,Evidence points to systematic use of rape and sexual violence by Hamas in 7 October attacks,,https://www.theguardian.com/world/2024/jan/18/evidence-points-to-systematic-use-of-rape-by-hamas-in-7-october-attacks,185,Motor-Ad-2024,2024-01-19 19:33:12 +Feminism,19az33f,Matt Gaetz Confesses Republicans Don’t Really Need Women Voters Anyway,,https://newrepublic.com/post/178246/matt-gaetz-confesses-maga-republicans-dont-need-women-voters,37,rswoodr,2024-01-20 00:53:43 +Feminism,19b26wx,Social media red flags in a guy,"Is it a red flags, if a guy liking dan blazarien and following OF pages and inappropriate models? What's your thoughts about these types of guys",,21,your_earth_75,2024-01-20 03:27:23 +Feminism,19ajjpl,It’s 2022 and People Are Still Confused That My Kids Have Their Mother’s Last Name,,https://time.com/6143476/baby-with-mothers-last-name/,136,SophiaofPrussia,2024-01-19 13:51:05 Feminism,19a8s8x,Imagine carrying a baby for 9 months just to give your child your husband's last name,"I'm American and one thing that upsets me the most is how normal it is in this country for women to change their last names and for their children to have their husband's last names. I also hate it when people say ""it's just tradition"" like women are not men's property we are human beings. Even in the most patriarchal societies like in China,Korea,Japan and many middle eastern countries women don't change their last names. It's even worse here because I'm from the deep south and misogyny here is so normalized that I know if I say I don't want to get married or change my last name my family will be upset with me and force me too. It's very disturbing how this isn't seen as outdated and no one really cares enough to be against it. -Edit:Ok, so it turns out that in Japan, women still have to change their surnames and in Korea,well SK that children get their father's surnames.Sorry for the misinformation.",,637,ChipmunkAmazing2105,1705633148.0 -Feminism,19avj3f,Is the objectification of women as a sexual resource inherent to men or is it a product of capitalism?,My perception of sexism and the sexual objectification and dehumanization of women is that it is a product of feudalism and later capitalism. Capitalism sees workers as a resource for profit just like how misogynists see women as a resource for sex. My theory is that capitalism and misogyny are one and the same just with different resources. One is work output and profitability while the other is sex. What are your thoughts?,,17,unstoppablehippy711,1705702827.0 -Feminism,19arix6,What's a good contemporary book/study on feminst theory that's hot right now?,"I've studied the basics back in uni, and I always like to read the occasional article. What I'd like is a recommendation for something that's been kind of popular nowadays for it has contributed to the contemporary development of feminist though.",,13,bbeni11,1705692768.0 +Edit:Ok, so it turns out that in Japan, women still have to change their surnames and in Korea,well SK that children get their father's surnames.Sorry for the misinformation.",,637,ChipmunkAmazing2105,2024-01-19 02:59:08 +Feminism,19avj3f,Is the objectification of women as a sexual resource inherent to men or is it a product of capitalism?,My perception of sexism and the sexual objectification and dehumanization of women is that it is a product of feudalism and later capitalism. Capitalism sees workers as a resource for profit just like how misogynists see women as a resource for sex. My theory is that capitalism and misogyny are one and the same just with different resources. One is work output and profitability while the other is sex. What are your thoughts?,,17,unstoppablehippy711,2024-01-19 22:20:27 +Feminism,19arix6,What's a good contemporary book/study on feminst theory that's hot right now?,"I've studied the basics back in uni, and I always like to read the occasional article. What I'd like is a recommendation for something that's been kind of popular nowadays for it has contributed to the contemporary development of feminist though.",,13,bbeni11,2024-01-19 19:32:48 Feminism,19ae971,i can't be a woman because of internalised misogyny,"(i'm not sure if this could be considered an off topic post, so sorry in advance) i identify as nonbinary, but since gaining an interest in feminism i've started to heavily doubt myself and my gender identity. i'm not going to transition anytime in the future, so i feel that being nonbinary is just a political statement more than anything else because even though i really would prefer to not be seen as a woman, i will still be seen as a woman by society at large. @@ -10691,8 +10691,8 @@ i started to question what the reason behind my nonbinary identity is and i've c i'm struggling heavily to reconcile my beliefs with my gender identity. i think the best option for me would be accepting that i am a cis woman because i don't really want to take testosterone. how can i overcome internalised misogyny? is there anybody else who feels this way? -&#x200B;",,94,throwawaynbfem,1705652229.0 -Feminism,199we01,Imagine if we tell men their first ejaculation has virgin semen,By @farida.d.author on Instagram,https://i.redd.it/yp395m0pn8dc1.jpeg,997,Shea_Scarlet,1705601080.0 +&#x200B;",,94,throwawaynbfem,2024-01-19 08:17:09 +Feminism,199we01,Imagine if we tell men their first ejaculation has virgin semen,By @farida.d.author on Instagram,https://i.redd.it/yp395m0pn8dc1.jpeg,997,Shea_Scarlet,2024-01-18 18:04:40 Feminism,19arihf,Navigating Feminism and Personal Sexuality," Hey everyone! I've been grappling with something and wanted to throw it out here for discussion. I find myself caught in a bit of a dilemma. I've been exploring practices like pompoir, tantric sex, kegels, and various methods to enhance my sexual experiences. @@ -10701,19 +10701,19 @@ On a personal level, it's been quite the journey, but I can't help but wonder ho I'm not looking for a one-size-fits-all answer, but rather hoping to open up a dialogue. How do you, as feminists, make sense of personal sexual growth within the context of our broader feminist beliefs? Can we reconcile the pursuit of sexual fulfillment with our goals for equality? -Please add whatever you do!",,10,Creative-Muscle-491,1705692736.0 +Please add whatever you do!",,10,Creative-Muscle-491,2024-01-19 19:32:16 Feminism,19adr69,Ideas for a “feminist rage” event?,"Hello, I’m the president of the Feminist Club at my college. At the end of this semester, we’re having an event that celebrates feminist rage. I think feminist rage is really important to recognize and normalize, as many of the greatest feminist movements were motivated by rage. Women also still fight to be able to feel anger without being called “hysterical.” With all that being said, my original idea for this event was to do a sort of wreck room where we could allow people to break things and let out their rage. After some discussion, though, we were unable to think of a way to do this safely (and without getting in trouble with the school!) -We decided to go a different direction and will instead be going with things such as sidewalk chalk, water balloons, and a pellet gun that shoots biodegradable bullets. Aside from that, we’re coming up blank. I really want people to be able to express their rage in a healthy way, and I really don’t want to get in trouble with my school! Every time I try to look up crafts like this, the only things that come up are for little kids. Please help me come up with ideas for adults!!",,64,s00phers,1705650164.0 +We decided to go a different direction and will instead be going with things such as sidewalk chalk, water balloons, and a pellet gun that shoots biodegradable bullets. Aside from that, we’re coming up blank. I really want people to be able to express their rage in a healthy way, and I really don’t want to get in trouble with my school! Every time I try to look up crafts like this, the only things that come up are for little kids. Please help me come up with ideas for adults!!",,64,s00phers,2024-01-19 07:42:44 Feminism,199ylg5,Me and my boyfriend disagree politically,"Me (24F) and my partner (28M) have been dating for two years now. He's a wonderful, hard-working man who cares for me and generally respects the people around him no matter what. I've always known that we don't agree on everything as I'm firmly left and he's more liberal/central left, but our general philosophies seemed to align. Recently though, we seem to be unable to find common ground. As a white man from a working class background, he's expressed feelings that he doesn't think he's privileged at all, and I find it difficult to explain that men's privilege tends to manifest in unmeasureable ways like being believed, listened to, always assumed to be capable, and able to express anger without consequence. I don't think he takes me seriously when I talk about the plight of women, and I'm not sure I take him seriously when he talks about men's issues as he hasn't made an effort to educate himself and put his experiences into perspective. Earlier, I mentioned people skewing statistics in custody cases to make the argument for 'female privilege', and he just said, ""I don't want to debate this"". What does that suggest? -Is it a deal breaker that we don't share these opinions? And if not, how do we begin to understand each other on a deeper level?",,284,poppyfaeries,1705606498.0 -Feminism,19a9et0,"The madness of the witch hunt(feminist hunt) taking place in Korea,, And “Studio Puri,” which is under attack from incels, explained the current controversy. However, the Korean male community does not acknowledge this at all.",,/r/GirlGamers/comments/19a98og/the_madness_of_the_witch_huntfeminist_hunt_taking/,45,Inner_Response_1714,1705634984.0 +Is it a deal breaker that we don't share these opinions? And if not, how do we begin to understand each other on a deeper level?",,284,poppyfaeries,2024-01-18 19:34:58 +Feminism,19a9et0,"The madness of the witch hunt(feminist hunt) taking place in Korea,, And “Studio Puri,” which is under attack from incels, explained the current controversy. However, the Korean male community does not acknowledge this at all.",,/r/GirlGamers/comments/19a98og/the_madness_of_the_witch_huntfeminist_hunt_taking/,45,Inner_Response_1714,2024-01-19 03:29:44 Feminism,19ajsag,Platforms to Share Memoir on Sexual Trauma,"Hi all. I recently published a somewhat niche, mixed media art book / memoir that explores sexual trauma and it's my personal hope is for it to find its way to female focused platforms, wellness centers, universities, etc. in order to contribute to important conversations and ideally help others who are struggling with their own experiences. -I am from a background in the arts, but would love some suggestions in the realm of feminism. The book also has a link to a website with supportive resources for readers, and I would love to add to that list. Thanks for all your help in advance, and have a great weekend!",,3,MistySunbeam,1705672932.0 -Feminism,19a0dqi,Florida Man Says His Party Doesn't Need Women Voters,,https://crooksandliars.com/2024/01/florida-man-suggests-his-party-doesnt-need,53,BurtonDesque,1705610856.0 +I am from a background in the arts, but would love some suggestions in the realm of feminism. The book also has a link to a website with supportive resources for readers, and I would love to add to that list. Thanks for all your help in advance, and have a great weekend!",,3,MistySunbeam,2024-01-19 14:02:12 +Feminism,19a0dqi,Florida Man Says His Party Doesn't Need Women Voters,,https://crooksandliars.com/2024/01/florida-man-suggests-his-party-doesnt-need,53,BurtonDesque,2024-01-18 20:47:36 Feminism,199t0k1,"Conservatives’ contradictory statements regarding abortion, LGBTQ etc","**Which conservatives’ statements in your opinion are super contradictory?** (Not just American) @@ -10737,17 +10737,17 @@ Bible doesn’t forbid abortion according to Exodus 21:22-23: Incest: *Kentucky Republican Nick Wilson introduced a bill to legalize sex with first cousins* (later withdrawn). Very often I hear conservatives saying that if they allow same-sex marriage then what next? Legalizing pedophilia, zoophilia and incest? -If they really cared about unborn babies lives (and human rights) then allowing incest makes no sense. Especially if there are restrictions on abortion in place. Besides physical health related consequences, it’s mentally very hard for a kid to accept and explain that their parents are cousins or siblings.",,90,lndlml,1705592564.0 -Feminism,199knry,Miscarriages in Gaza Have Increased 300% Under Israeli Bombing,,https://jezebel.com/miscarriages-in-gaza-have-increased-300-under-israeli-1851168680,239,zm367,1705563282.0 -Feminism,199rbzo,TX faces backlash from businesses over abortion,https://youtu.be/UTNgjWcWyWc?si=aoN6hKH1_urtovgl,,51,Inevitable_Sector_14,1705587994.0 -Feminism,199wfit,Gacha Drama and the Korean Gender War,Is this true?,https://youtu.be/-Im4YAMWK74?si=NYlBlVXrd0U_3Byn,10,Gloomy_Living_7532,1705601182.0 +If they really cared about unborn babies lives (and human rights) then allowing incest makes no sense. Especially if there are restrictions on abortion in place. Besides physical health related consequences, it’s mentally very hard for a kid to accept and explain that their parents are cousins or siblings.",,90,lndlml,2024-01-18 15:42:44 +Feminism,199knry,Miscarriages in Gaza Have Increased 300% Under Israeli Bombing,,https://jezebel.com/miscarriages-in-gaza-have-increased-300-under-israeli-1851168680,239,zm367,2024-01-18 07:34:42 +Feminism,199rbzo,TX faces backlash from businesses over abortion,https://youtu.be/UTNgjWcWyWc?si=aoN6hKH1_urtovgl,,51,Inevitable_Sector_14,2024-01-18 14:26:34 +Feminism,199wfit,Gacha Drama and the Korean Gender War,Is this true?,https://youtu.be/-Im4YAMWK74?si=NYlBlVXrd0U_3Byn,10,Gloomy_Living_7532,2024-01-18 18:06:22 Feminism,199p661,Is Bell Hooks essentialist?,"My partner told me that Bell Hooks was essentialist (meaning that there is no distinction between sex and gender). I can't find anything about that on the internet. -What do you think?",,24,Available-Pause3959,1705581299.0 -Feminism,19a251x,Afrochingonas: the seeds of resistance on a flowering field,,https://shado-mag.com/do/afrochingonas-the-seeds-of-resistance-on-a-flowering-field/,3,hamsterdamc,1705615132.0 +What do you think?",,24,Available-Pause3959,2024-01-18 12:34:59 +Feminism,19a251x,Afrochingonas: the seeds of resistance on a flowering field,,https://shado-mag.com/do/afrochingonas-the-seeds-of-resistance-on-a-flowering-field/,3,hamsterdamc,2024-01-18 21:58:52 Feminism,1996thf,"Why, despite the success of the feminist movement in the last couple years, is it still super normalized to change your last name when you get married to a man?","I'm from a Spanish-speaking country, this means women don't change our name when we get married, and our children inherit both last names (one from the father and one from the mother), even some people choose their mother's name first. However, I've seen many ""feminists"" looking forward to get their future husbands' surnames. -For me, this is disgusting for various reasons: first, it feels like you're giving up your personality and selling it to a man, as if you were a property (that's how it worked in the past; you belonged first to your dad and then to yourhusband); but also, nowadays, with all the bureaucracy and papers, plus the fact that basically everything is digitalized, makes me think it can be a really complicated and difficult legal process. I have even seen people who like gay fictional ships (gay men mostly), speculating about which one is the one changing their surname in an hypothetical marriage. Like, why is that still even considered a possibility? I hate it.",,414,Lycaonna,1705523351.0 -Feminism,199j24x,My parents are forcing me for same caste marriage,my parents force me to get married to a same caste syed guy but I like someone out of my caste. How should i convince them? Your honest suggestions are requested plz,,48,SyedaMuntaha,1705557239.0 +For me, this is disgusting for various reasons: first, it feels like you're giving up your personality and selling it to a man, as if you were a property (that's how it worked in the past; you belonged first to your dad and then to yourhusband); but also, nowadays, with all the bureaucracy and papers, plus the fact that basically everything is digitalized, makes me think it can be a really complicated and difficult legal process. I have even seen people who like gay fictional ships (gay men mostly), speculating about which one is the one changing their surname in an hypothetical marriage. Like, why is that still even considered a possibility? I hate it.",,414,Lycaonna,2024-01-17 20:29:11 +Feminism,199j24x,My parents are forcing me for same caste marriage,my parents force me to get married to a same caste syed guy but I like someone out of my caste. How should i convince them? Your honest suggestions are requested plz,,48,SyedaMuntaha,2024-01-18 05:53:59 Feminism,1994z0z,"Received a DM the other day: ""it's offensive to compare the issues women face to the issues black people face""","I made a post on a ""different sub"" a few days ago (I won't name which one but you can look back in my post history to find it) that had to do with my white partner not understanding how male privilege works, while fully grasping the concept of white privilege. I received a DM from some dude saying something along the lines of, ""you think misogyny is on the same scale as the issues black people face? Hilarious."" @@ -10756,36 +10756,36 @@ In a nutshell: women don't actually have any ""real"" problems and it's offensiv So I guess I'm interested to get your take on this, especially from any Women of Color reading. Being a white woman, I don't feel qualified or comfortable speaking about whether these two types of privilege are comparable or on the same scale and I understand that WOC generally face more/unique challenges than white women. I would love some more insight so I can further gain some perspective. -Thoughts?",,167,purpleuneecorns,1705518980.0 -Feminism,19983hn,"Inside California’s secret sterilisation programme – and its antivax legacy — Hundreds, if not thousands, of inmates were sterilised against their will. The impact on lives and trust in medicine has been devastating",,https://www.telegraph.co.uk/global-health/women-and-girls/california-sterilisation-scandal-compensation-hysterectomy/,41,Randomlynumbered,1705526399.0 +Thoughts?",,167,purpleuneecorns,2024-01-17 19:16:20 +Feminism,19983hn,"Inside California’s secret sterilisation programme – and its antivax legacy — Hundreds, if not thousands, of inmates were sterilised against their will. The impact on lives and trust in medicine has been devastating",,https://www.telegraph.co.uk/global-health/women-and-girls/california-sterilisation-scandal-compensation-hysterectomy/,41,Randomlynumbered,2024-01-17 21:19:59 Feminism,198w7wa,Poop Anxiety in Women dissertation study-- participants needed (age 18+),"Hey y’all! My name is Diana, and I am super close to finishing my doctoral degree (finally) and need some help. I am collecting data for my dissertation on the sociocultural/patriarchal influences and experiences of poop anxiety (i.e., shy bowel syndrome/parcopresis) in women. Flyer with details and the survey link are below. Must be age 18+ and identify as a woman (cis & trans inclusive) to participate. Please consider taking and sharing if you have the time and space! And if you have any questions and/or want the published results when it’s all said and done, let me know. Hoping to support in co-creating a world where we can all poop in peace <3 -Diana **Flyer:** [https://www.canva.com/design/DAFz4VoTYjc/M2fGAN1UzQy3r3wsMr3zsQ/view?utm\_content=DAFz4VoTYjc&utm\_campaign=designshare&utm\_medium=link&utm\_source=editor](https://www.canva.com/design/DAFz4VoTYjc/M2fGAN1UzQy3r3wsMr3zsQ/view?utm_content=DAFz4VoTYjc&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link&utm_source=editor) -**Survey link:** [https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/WFGTP72](https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/WFGTP72)",,135,dianamoss13,1705497093.0 -Feminism,1990rok,French Parliament committee agrees draft language to protect abortion in Constitution,,https://www.lemonde.fr/en/politics/article/2024/01/17/french-parliament-committee-agrees-draft-language-to-protect-abortion-in-constitution_6440891_5.html,71,LeMonde_en,1705509193.0 +**Survey link:** [https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/WFGTP72](https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/WFGTP72)",,135,dianamoss13,2024-01-17 13:11:33 +Feminism,1990rok,French Parliament committee agrees draft language to protect abortion in Constitution,,https://www.lemonde.fr/en/politics/article/2024/01/17/french-parliament-committee-agrees-draft-language-to-protect-abortion-in-constitution_6440891_5.html,71,LeMonde_en,2024-01-17 16:33:13 Feminism,199bef1,"Art History: History of the ""ideal feminine physique""","I had this required video in my Art History class, and figured people here would find it interesting. -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y4ipUdS8Td4&t=594s](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y4ipUdS8Td4&t=594s)",,15,KitDaKittyKat,1705534644.0 -Feminism,198jzsr,"I've seen this post on so many subreddits. Everytime, the comments are absolutely vile. Completely degrading this woman for how she looks and how she's changed. With no regard for how that type of commentary might be the exact reason she had work done. We are only worth as much as we are beautiful.",,https://i.redd.it/9dv40yg0uvcc1.png,384,liltooter,1705454453.0 -Feminism,199cc9s,Free The Nipple: Why should it still be headline news?,,https://www.euronews.com/culture/2024/01/16/free-the-nipple-why-should-it-still-be-headline-news,5,Immediate-Smile-2020,1705537092.0 -Feminism,198izoo,Good time to remember that Freedom and Justice are women,,https://i.redd.it/zgekds9obwcc1.jpeg,265,ClaireDacloush,1705451756.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y4ipUdS8Td4&t=594s](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y4ipUdS8Td4&t=594s)",,15,KitDaKittyKat,2024-01-17 23:37:24 +Feminism,198jzsr,"I've seen this post on so many subreddits. Everytime, the comments are absolutely vile. Completely degrading this woman for how she looks and how she's changed. With no regard for how that type of commentary might be the exact reason she had work done. We are only worth as much as we are beautiful.",,https://i.redd.it/9dv40yg0uvcc1.png,384,liltooter,2024-01-17 01:20:53 +Feminism,199cc9s,Free The Nipple: Why should it still be headline news?,,https://www.euronews.com/culture/2024/01/16/free-the-nipple-why-should-it-still-be-headline-news,5,Immediate-Smile-2020,2024-01-18 00:18:12 +Feminism,198izoo,Good time to remember that Freedom and Justice are women,,https://i.redd.it/zgekds9obwcc1.jpeg,265,ClaireDacloush,2024-01-17 00:35:56 Feminism,1989i9j,Chicago man sues over disparaging post on Facebook group about dating,"I’m in one of these groups. At least once a day a guy is posted and another woman in the comments finds things such as: a restraining order, DV charges, SA charges, *a secret wife*, etc. These groups were made for protecting women. And this man has decided to sue not only the woman who posted him, but the creators and moderators of the group. Because he got posted and now women won’t go near him. I posted my ex back in my local group back in may, I found out that not only was he cheating on me, but he was using hard drugs. I broke up with him and he ended up taking my car and totaling it, so I updated the post with photos of the totaled car. A girl told him about it and he tried to sue me for defamation, like this guy. It didn’t work out for him though, because everything posted was true. -I would consider this particular SLAPP lawsuit another form of abuse. Women have the right to warn and protect each other. If it harms a man’s social life, then maybe he should treat women better.",https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/chicago/news/chicago-man-sues-disparaging-facebook-group-dating/?fbclid=IwAR1uVecOGRUh1Ov9SlKfbISVErMWxd4Xcpc1ZvmjemQiYeV_jNattAngBlo_aem_AS8-2Wp1-vel8UDJC3cOikftjTPwI6I4t7r4p9pnYsVcaTe-MvTvMQlAKDDeIA5bsN8,463,allthekeals,1705428590.0 +I would consider this particular SLAPP lawsuit another form of abuse. Women have the right to warn and protect each other. If it harms a man’s social life, then maybe he should treat women better.",https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/chicago/news/chicago-man-sues-disparaging-facebook-group-dating/?fbclid=IwAR1uVecOGRUh1Ov9SlKfbISVErMWxd4Xcpc1ZvmjemQiYeV_jNattAngBlo_aem_AS8-2Wp1-vel8UDJC3cOikftjTPwI6I4t7r4p9pnYsVcaTe-MvTvMQlAKDDeIA5bsN8,463,allthekeals,2024-01-16 18:09:50 Feminism,19920eh,A very Curious Question about Women moving out of the parent's house in past eras.,"One of the things I've explicitly remember my own Mom telling me that her Father wouldn't let her move out of her parent's house unless she was married despite her Brothers moving out and buying their own houses independently that he ended up paying for and this was early since the *1980s* and I wonder how common this actually was especially during past eras that is. -Just to give you a little context my Mom's side came from a very strict Catholic Sicilian background to clear things up.",,6,Jannol,1705512016.0 +Just to give you a little context my Mom's side came from a very strict Catholic Sicilian background to clear things up.",,6,Jannol,2024-01-17 17:20:16 Feminism,198ah4g,"I truly can’t grasp how non-misogynistic, progressive men can maintain friendships with misogynists.","And I’m not referring to men who pretend to be progressive, but to those who genuinely support women’s and LGBTQ+ rights and nevertheless appear comfortable maintaining friendships with men who don’t. It’s like they seem to perceive it as a minor difference of opinion rather than the profound divergence in fundamental values that it truly is. I don’t get it. Do these men share the same views as their problematic friends but lie about it? If not, I struggle to comprehend the mindset that allows them to be content with such friendships. As a young woman attracted to men, the question of whether to continue seeing individuals who appear fine but have problematic friends troubles me. It feels like a red flag, yet deeming it a dealbreaker would make my dating pool tiny. If I could grasp the reasoning behind their choices, why they maintain such friendships without seeing it as an affront to the women in their lives, it might help me decide whether this is a dealbreaker, but as someone who cares greatly about views on social issues when evaluating people, I genuinely can’t understand that mindset. -What's your take on ""good"" men maintaining friendships with individuals who hold problematic views?",,275,No-Adagio-3157,1705430867.0 +What's your take on ""good"" men maintaining friendships with individuals who hold problematic views?",,275,No-Adagio-3157,2024-01-16 18:47:47 Feminism,198ih37,Hopeless about young men,"I know this may come across as your very common ""girls mature faster than boys, i’m too mature for boys my age"" talk which is false and pushed onto girls to normalize older men and adult men hitting on teens, but i’ve been developing some concerns that are genuinely stressing me out. (note: my vocab is not that good, english isn’t my first language, sorry! also might be too long?) Lack of empathy is an ongoing trend among younger people but It’s terrifying how violently boys and young men express it. Specifically regarding women’s issue and misogyny, they deny to your face all of your personal experiences, those of others, and literal facts and written history as well ? @@ -10800,16 +10800,16 @@ This leaves me worried that boys my age will never get it and never ever empathi I truly want to give a man a chance and start dating eventually, but for this very reason I only find myself attracted to older men. But I don’t really want to get with an 30 year old man as soon as I turn 18, you know? That would feel weird and uncomfortable, and I don’t really like the idea of such an age gap. But they seem to be the only relatively normal men to be around! I seriously have never met a boy close to my age that wasn’t an asshole in one way or another, even the ones that are generally nice. -Sorry for the long post...Any thoughts on this? Do you think it’s just an age thing that will pass as they grow up or is it a generational thing? I’m feeling hopeless here!",,75,TheGodFromTheMachine,1705450398.0 +Sorry for the long post...Any thoughts on this? Do you think it’s just an age thing that will pass as they grow up or is it a generational thing? I’m feeling hopeless here!",,75,TheGodFromTheMachine,2024-01-17 00:13:18 Feminism,198jfw5,Biggest women’s protest of the history,"With my endometriosis warrior sisters we want to create the biggest women’s protest of the history of North America for our rights, because nobody gives a sh*t of us and no research are done for our disease (women disease you know) and we are in so much pain and so dismiss every single day by every doctors. Enough is enough. It’s more than just endometriosis, this is about women’s healthcare, about gynecological trauma, about how women are treated in the society. We are 1/10 (at least!) to have this disease in the world, this is the first reason of infertility of the world and nobody cares!!! -What are your ideas for creating a project like that?",,49,Logical-Option-182,1705452962.0 +What are your ideas for creating a project like that?",,49,Logical-Option-182,2024-01-17 00:56:02 Feminism,1987365,Why so many daddy issues?," As I started to resemble my mother and break that mould of whatever daughter my father wanted me to be, is when I saw him for himself. A man so consumed in his own trauma, he’s unable to show love to his daughter. All he knows is rage and anger. A daughter constantly critiqued by his own monsters for whatever reason. One hour I'm the best, the next hour he’s towering over me threatening to strike me, over something so trivial like an avocado. And there’s nothing I want more than to be his little girl again. But that stage has passed. I’m just a reflection of his failures to him. Except when I do well. Then of course he’s over the moon, I’m showered with praise, so others can see how well he did without my mother. To prove his worth to others, that he’s not such a shit parent after all. From as long as I could remember my father was my idol, he was my superhero, the man who my mother didn’t understand. The man she spoke ill of, and the man I defended with my whole heart as a little girl. Nobody could tarnish the image I had of him, except him. -But even after all he has neglected, I still find in my heart a complex love for him. Which I think he does the same. ",,22,N03l_2,1705422831.0 +But even after all he has neglected, I still find in my heart a complex love for him. Which I think he does the same. ",,22,N03l_2,2024-01-16 16:33:51 Feminism,197pwxa,MLK Day just makes me angry- most Americans would hate him today,"MLK Jr. got arrested for boycotting the Montgomery Bus Company because boycotts were illegal at the time. So he got arrested and convicted, while just encouraging people to spend their time and money elsewhere. Bonkers. Yet, in the year of our Lord 2024, there are dumbass people, including everyone who leads the NFL, who HATE Colin Kapernick for kneeling to the flag to protest police brutality. In 2024 there are folks who whimper ""All Lives Matter!"" and put Thin Blue Line stickers on their stupid cars in direct opposition to the Black Lives Matter movement. If MLK was around today, do you think he'd be standing for the flag? nOPE. Do you think he'd be shouting that All Lives Matter Not Just Black Lives? Absofuckinglutely not. Do you think he'd point out that Breona Taylor's death was justified cuz her boyfriend sucked? Hell no. It is so angering that MLK is so idolized by so many who ignore and, in fact, contribute to the very real racism that exists today. I want to just shout and scream at all those fake ass people who honor MLKs day while turning around and enacting racist policies and voting for racist people. -And before anyone says ""this is a feminism forum not an anti racism forum,"" look up misogynoir and tell me that we can achieve equality without addressing racism, because we cannot. Equality for all is not possible until we eliminate racism as well.",,213,2kyle2furious,1705367655.0 +And before anyone says ""this is a feminism forum not an anti racism forum,"" look up misogynoir and tell me that we can achieve equality without addressing racism, because we cannot. Equality for all is not possible until we eliminate racism as well.",,213,2kyle2furious,2024-01-16 01:14:15 Feminism,199a7ts,Why do so many women think they wear makeup for themselves?,"I think that people who wear makeup do not wear it for themselves. I've been getting a lot of videos on my TikTok where misogynistic men will invite OnlyFans workers and do a podcast with them-- and because none of the people there are actually qualified to debate about the topic or even wanting to properly discuss the topic of feminism, the women go on a rampage about how they wear makeup and produce OnlyFans content for themselves while the men have a fit about how women only wear makeup for male viewing and pleasure. @@ -10833,30 +10833,30 @@ If you believe that you wear makeup for yourself, I would love to hear a reasoni EDIT: Again, I'm not shaming women for wearing makeup? !! Nor am I saying men are the reason why we wear makeup? I'm saying that wearing makeup often leads to more favourable treatment from both men and society in general, and it is worth considering whether this societal expectation plays a part in the motivation behind choosing to wear makeup. -EDIT 2: If you wear makeup for the objective of being beautiful, then you are acknowledging that there is a standard of beauty that you must use makeup in order to achieve it. Where does that beauty standard come from? Does it come from within oneself or does it come from society? That is the part I want to put emphasis on. Because no matter what, a person’s bias will always be affected by the world. You can say you are wearing makeup for yourself, and the contemporary world has certainly gravitated towards that compared to the olden days, but you cannot deviate from capitalism and sexism when it comes to makeup. And again, this is not about the male gaze. ",,0,Iamliterally18iswear,1705531620.0 -Feminism,197rct8,Kenya femicide: A woman's murder exposes the country's toxic online misogyny,,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-67987347,83,BurtonDesque,1705371649.0 +EDIT 2: If you wear makeup for the objective of being beautiful, then you are acknowledging that there is a standard of beauty that you must use makeup in order to achieve it. Where does that beauty standard come from? Does it come from within oneself or does it come from society? That is the part I want to put emphasis on. Because no matter what, a person’s bias will always be affected by the world. You can say you are wearing makeup for yourself, and the contemporary world has certainly gravitated towards that compared to the olden days, but you cannot deviate from capitalism and sexism when it comes to makeup. And again, this is not about the male gaze. ",,0,Iamliterally18iswear,2024-01-17 22:47:00 +Feminism,197rct8,Kenya femicide: A woman's murder exposes the country's toxic online misogyny,,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-67987347,83,BurtonDesque,2024-01-16 02:20:49 Feminism,197c3c0,Women who victim blame,"Without going into much detail, I was choked without my consent and labeled that as assault on Reddit. I was also body shamed (you can look at my previous post for more details). Most of the comments were supportive, but here goes one that goes straight into victim blaming. What I find the most interesting about women who choose to victim blame is they almost get to the point, but completely miss it. Saying something like “verbal consent isn’t the only type of consent“ is weird to me, especially with something like choking. I’m confused on how one would consent non-verbally to choking. Like imagine the hills you had to go over and the amount of reaching required to say this after someone made it clear that it wasn’t consensual. -It’s almost as if these women hate it that other women have sexual boundaries. The myth that all assault victims are perfect needs to die. Assault victims can participate in victim blaming as a way to make sense of the trauma they’ve experienced. And they can be VILE while doing it.",https://i.redd.it/ixpanamlmmcc1.jpeg,319,DigWinter7737,1705334361.0 -Feminism,197dwpn,Tools for blocking youtube channels that are either rightwing or anti feminism. Now you can block out all those mens rights activist channels and clear up your youtube search!,,https://i.redd.it/swv6o563zmcc1.png,184,ClaireDacloush,1705338690.0 -Feminism,197dey8,The hair on my legs is just extra insulation for all this snow ❄️ 😅 (prints by me),,https://i.redd.it/x038qbhyvmcc1.jpeg,185,SeaSlugChloe,1705337507.0 -Feminism,197qt9v,"""Three Women""","Late to the party: I am currently reading ""Three Women"" by Lisa Taddeo. I'm half way through and I don't understand what the fuzz is all about. That book got praised so much.. To me, it's not a feminist book, I think it's quite sexist. What are your thoughts?",,16,AromaticHeart8943,1705370136.0 -Feminism,197h8xi,I have a feminism blog and am looking for contributors,"I started a blog about my research in feminism a while ago and wanted to grow it by getting more like-minded people to write for the site, not sure if I’m allowed to post this here but here goes nothing",https://thescififeminist.blog/2024/01/15/looking-for-contributors/,57,JanewayPiAlpha,1705346489.0 -Feminism,1971tiv,"For Female Fashion Models, Job Security and Sexual Harassment Are Often Intertwined. Research found while sexual harassment occurs in every industry, it is particularly prevalent in fashion, a sector populated by young girls taking directions from powerful men,",,https://www.rutgers.edu/news/female-fashion-models-job-security-and-sexual-harassment-are-often-intertwined,86,Fodla,1705299261.0 -Feminism,196thth,I'm tired of performing femininity,"As a woman,I'm so tired of having to wear tight dresses,high heels,shaving while men don't get slack for not doing anything to change their appearance.I'm tired of libfems coming at radfems for pointing out how women are forced to be feminine and if they don't they be chastised by society and viewed as unhuman or ""manly"".I'm tired of women's clothing being oversexualized like how our shorts are too short for guys to see up our buttons, uncomfortable sequins/glitter and no pockets on pants.I'm not saying that it's not ok for women to like makeup or do girly things but goodness it's not wrong to admit that these things are apart of social conditioning.Why is it ok to call out ""toxic"" masculinity but not criticize femininity.If we want to get rid of gender roles then let's accept that both masculinity and femininity is bad and performing ""femininity"" doesn't really empower women but it hurts us.",,249,ChipmunkAmazing2105,1705274455.0 -Feminism,19729hv,The Plastic Feminism of Barbie,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RToUZJ0l7Pk,54,SamusArani,1705300887.0 -Feminism,197lnkg,"More than half of those applying for domestic violence payment are rejected, data shows",,https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2024/jan/16/domestic-violence-support-payment-rate-data-under-half-accepted,3,FuckHopeSignedMe,1705356763.0 +It’s almost as if these women hate it that other women have sexual boundaries. The myth that all assault victims are perfect needs to die. Assault victims can participate in victim blaming as a way to make sense of the trauma they’ve experienced. And they can be VILE while doing it.",https://i.redd.it/ixpanamlmmcc1.jpeg,319,DigWinter7737,2024-01-15 15:59:21 +Feminism,197dwpn,Tools for blocking youtube channels that are either rightwing or anti feminism. Now you can block out all those mens rights activist channels and clear up your youtube search!,,https://i.redd.it/swv6o563zmcc1.png,184,ClaireDacloush,2024-01-15 17:11:30 +Feminism,197dey8,The hair on my legs is just extra insulation for all this snow ❄️ 😅 (prints by me),,https://i.redd.it/x038qbhyvmcc1.jpeg,185,SeaSlugChloe,2024-01-15 16:51:47 +Feminism,197qt9v,"""Three Women""","Late to the party: I am currently reading ""Three Women"" by Lisa Taddeo. I'm half way through and I don't understand what the fuzz is all about. That book got praised so much.. To me, it's not a feminist book, I think it's quite sexist. What are your thoughts?",,16,AromaticHeart8943,2024-01-16 01:55:36 +Feminism,197h8xi,I have a feminism blog and am looking for contributors,"I started a blog about my research in feminism a while ago and wanted to grow it by getting more like-minded people to write for the site, not sure if I’m allowed to post this here but here goes nothing",https://thescififeminist.blog/2024/01/15/looking-for-contributors/,57,JanewayPiAlpha,2024-01-15 19:21:29 +Feminism,1971tiv,"For Female Fashion Models, Job Security and Sexual Harassment Are Often Intertwined. Research found while sexual harassment occurs in every industry, it is particularly prevalent in fashion, a sector populated by young girls taking directions from powerful men,",,https://www.rutgers.edu/news/female-fashion-models-job-security-and-sexual-harassment-are-often-intertwined,86,Fodla,2024-01-15 06:14:21 +Feminism,196thth,I'm tired of performing femininity,"As a woman,I'm so tired of having to wear tight dresses,high heels,shaving while men don't get slack for not doing anything to change their appearance.I'm tired of libfems coming at radfems for pointing out how women are forced to be feminine and if they don't they be chastised by society and viewed as unhuman or ""manly"".I'm tired of women's clothing being oversexualized like how our shorts are too short for guys to see up our buttons, uncomfortable sequins/glitter and no pockets on pants.I'm not saying that it's not ok for women to like makeup or do girly things but goodness it's not wrong to admit that these things are apart of social conditioning.Why is it ok to call out ""toxic"" masculinity but not criticize femininity.If we want to get rid of gender roles then let's accept that both masculinity and femininity is bad and performing ""femininity"" doesn't really empower women but it hurts us.",,249,ChipmunkAmazing2105,2024-01-14 23:20:55 +Feminism,19729hv,The Plastic Feminism of Barbie,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RToUZJ0l7Pk,54,SamusArani,2024-01-15 06:41:27 +Feminism,197lnkg,"More than half of those applying for domestic violence payment are rejected, data shows",,https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2024/jan/16/domestic-violence-support-payment-rate-data-under-half-accepted,3,FuckHopeSignedMe,2024-01-15 22:12:43 Feminism,1967s2c,Should we socialize all children the way we socialize girls?,"Hello -I have been giving a lot of thought lately to the impact of socialization and gender on individuals, and it has left me feeling concerned about the prevalence of patriarchy. I am curious to know your opinion on a couple of potential solutions that have been on my mind. Firstly, I wonder if it might be helpful to avoid assigning gender to children altogether, allowing them the freedom to explore their own identity without the limitations of societal norms. Alternatively, I have been considering the idea of socializing all children in a way that prioritizes typically feminine traits such as empathy, emotional intelligence, and caregiving skills. What do you think?",,192,Stella_Farrah,1705208035.0 +I have been giving a lot of thought lately to the impact of socialization and gender on individuals, and it has left me feeling concerned about the prevalence of patriarchy. I am curious to know your opinion on a couple of potential solutions that have been on my mind. Firstly, I wonder if it might be helpful to avoid assigning gender to children altogether, allowing them the freedom to explore their own identity without the limitations of societal norms. Alternatively, I have been considering the idea of socializing all children in a way that prioritizes typically feminine traits such as empathy, emotional intelligence, and caregiving skills. What do you think?",,192,Stella_Farrah,2024-01-14 04:53:55 Feminism,196i9uw,Is increased introversion a possible benefit towards Feminism?,"This is my first post on here, I have rarely interacted with Feminism as I myself am quite introverted. Though it can be hard to fully ascertain someone's motives on the internet, I hope that I can ascertain the right words to convery that this post is purely made out of curiosity (if there is any issue with this post I would enjoy learning how and why). -I'm not talking about the terrible people on the internet, that abuse anonymity to hurt those around them out of schadenfreude or simple sociopathic natures. I'm curious about those that simply engage less in society, that still will go to their 9 to 5 and are far less likely to engage in relationships simply because they either focus on work or simply perfer to live alone. If these people weren't doing so out of sexism (MGTOW is a good example of the inverse), and thus never spread terrible ideologies, would this continual trend be beneficial in creating a far more egalitarian society?",,14,DrSleeperAgent,1705245901.0 -Feminism,19619z3,Internalised Misogyny of Mothers,"I went home for Christmas to see my family and it got me thinking about my childhood. I remember in my teen years confronting my mother (truthfully but also stroppily) by saying how she never loved me as much as my older brother. She didn't reply how I expected and simply said ""Boys are easier to love than girls. Girls are bitches"". And I've never ever forgotten this. I've even brought it up to her again at times and she's always agreed with that statement, never seeming to think how it must make me feel. It broke my heart. To confirm what I had always felt. And even as an adult it makes me sob like a child to think that if id been born a boy...maybe she would have loved me and our relationship wouldn't have been as painful as it always been. And it made me think of all the ways young girls behaviour is twisted. My mother's stories of mine and my brother's childhood seemed to villainise me. My brother struggled with speaking and was late, whereas I developed speech quickly. This was of course me being ""gobby"" and ""always needing to get involved"". Even the fact I was born early and he was late was a a girlish sign that I could never mind my own business. These seem like jokey things but the more I've grown the more I've come to believe my mother really does believe these things. Small comments mean so much to a girl who grew up feeling unloved and like she was born evil. That there's something intrinsically wrong with girls. It's sad because when I heard stories of her youth I always thought ""my god you hated yourself"". She's never been able to see past her internalised Misogyny and I don't think she ever will, which upsets me because it must hurt her? It used to make me laugh that my mum thought she had such a difficult relationship with me because girls are just born bitchy, and not because of the fact I'd dealt with an emotionally unavailable mothe. My brother wasn't ""bitchy"" because she had lavished him with love. But to her, it's because he's naturally angelic. He can do no wrong. I've spent my whole life trying to prove I'm worth loving. I'm the first in the family to go to university and I was the only child who ever took school seriously. But these things don't matter to her. He's always going to be more important. It's such a medieval concept, this idea of boys better and it breaks my heart that my own mother thinks that. I have spent my life trying to form these amazing female bonds and the friendships I have are so wonderful. I attached myself to feminist teachers in my life. I just wish my mother could see past all the lies and nonsense and see that she just had a baby girl. I wasn't evil. I wasn't bitchy. I just wanted to be loved.",,178,madonna4ever,1705188260.0 +I'm not talking about the terrible people on the internet, that abuse anonymity to hurt those around them out of schadenfreude or simple sociopathic natures. I'm curious about those that simply engage less in society, that still will go to their 9 to 5 and are far less likely to engage in relationships simply because they either focus on work or simply perfer to live alone. If these people weren't doing so out of sexism (MGTOW is a good example of the inverse), and thus never spread terrible ideologies, would this continual trend be beneficial in creating a far more egalitarian society?",,14,DrSleeperAgent,2024-01-14 15:25:01 +Feminism,19619z3,Internalised Misogyny of Mothers,"I went home for Christmas to see my family and it got me thinking about my childhood. I remember in my teen years confronting my mother (truthfully but also stroppily) by saying how she never loved me as much as my older brother. She didn't reply how I expected and simply said ""Boys are easier to love than girls. Girls are bitches"". And I've never ever forgotten this. I've even brought it up to her again at times and she's always agreed with that statement, never seeming to think how it must make me feel. It broke my heart. To confirm what I had always felt. And even as an adult it makes me sob like a child to think that if id been born a boy...maybe she would have loved me and our relationship wouldn't have been as painful as it always been. And it made me think of all the ways young girls behaviour is twisted. My mother's stories of mine and my brother's childhood seemed to villainise me. My brother struggled with speaking and was late, whereas I developed speech quickly. This was of course me being ""gobby"" and ""always needing to get involved"". Even the fact I was born early and he was late was a a girlish sign that I could never mind my own business. These seem like jokey things but the more I've grown the more I've come to believe my mother really does believe these things. Small comments mean so much to a girl who grew up feeling unloved and like she was born evil. That there's something intrinsically wrong with girls. It's sad because when I heard stories of her youth I always thought ""my god you hated yourself"". She's never been able to see past her internalised Misogyny and I don't think she ever will, which upsets me because it must hurt her? It used to make me laugh that my mum thought she had such a difficult relationship with me because girls are just born bitchy, and not because of the fact I'd dealt with an emotionally unavailable mothe. My brother wasn't ""bitchy"" because she had lavished him with love. But to her, it's because he's naturally angelic. He can do no wrong. I've spent my whole life trying to prove I'm worth loving. I'm the first in the family to go to university and I was the only child who ever took school seriously. But these things don't matter to her. He's always going to be more important. It's such a medieval concept, this idea of boys better and it breaks my heart that my own mother thinks that. I have spent my life trying to form these amazing female bonds and the friendships I have are so wonderful. I attached myself to feminist teachers in my life. I just wish my mother could see past all the lies and nonsense and see that she just had a baby girl. I wasn't evil. I wasn't bitchy. I just wanted to be loved.",,178,madonna4ever,2024-01-13 23:24:20 Feminism,195qbh5,Deselected for being a woman,"I'm so over this shit. I'm 52. Been in a big, bad ass fire department for 26 years. I have never dropped the ball in any aspect on that job. Me n other females on the job have worked 110% so they leave us alone. And some still don't. I was chosen last year to help instruct a fire department way up north from us. A beautiful island. They r proactive because they have $ from tourism to train and need to be ontop of their game because of people load in summer. Not to mention their Chief is pretty solid on all sides. Here's the but. @@ -10870,23 +10870,23 @@ He would have said he just choose others instead of saying the female part if I Am I mistaken? getting it twisted? I feel it's some bullshit. -Edit. That is not my Chief. But a Chief from a small up north department that hired me last year. This year no hire back because as there r no female firefighters I am of no use with my experience that is more than a male that other department Chief hired. ",,323,shannypants2000,1705159389.0 +Edit. That is not my Chief. But a Chief from a small up north department that hired me last year. This year no hire back because as there r no female firefighters I am of no use with my experience that is more than a male that other department Chief hired. ",,323,shannypants2000,2024-01-13 15:23:09 Feminism,195sn5c,Male Gaze," Margret Atwood’s comment on the male gaze “*unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through* *the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur.”* -This observation rung a bell for me and un-doubtly all women, however it scares me to think this is a disease I can never escape from. I still catch myself undressing as if one is watching me, or doing the most miniscule unimportant task ever, yet subconsciously I can feel the presence of a man. And when I catch these thoughts, I stumble in my own actions and feel weak and isolated. I am a slave to men, whether I acknowledge or not, everything I do and don’t do is a fantasy to a man. It takes time and years to understand what it means to be a woman, but as a young woman who is hyperaware of that phantom man who torments her very existence, It”s a journey which I look forward to. I want to be a wo(man) and fe(male) free of male existence, I want to be myself free from echoes of that unwarranted “watcher” constantly lurking within me.",,214,N03l_2,1705165540.0 +This observation rung a bell for me and un-doubtly all women, however it scares me to think this is a disease I can never escape from. I still catch myself undressing as if one is watching me, or doing the most miniscule unimportant task ever, yet subconsciously I can feel the presence of a man. And when I catch these thoughts, I stumble in my own actions and feel weak and isolated. I am a slave to men, whether I acknowledge or not, everything I do and don’t do is a fantasy to a man. It takes time and years to understand what it means to be a woman, but as a young woman who is hyperaware of that phantom man who torments her very existence, It”s a journey which I look forward to. I want to be a wo(man) and fe(male) free of male existence, I want to be myself free from echoes of that unwarranted “watcher” constantly lurking within me.",,214,N03l_2,2024-01-13 17:05:40 Feminism,195n6xn,Women Being Addressed By First Names,"I'm currently doing a media class in school, and we're looking at Propp's theory (the guy that did the hero archetypes stuff) and Mulvey's male gaze theory. Mulvey is exclusively referred to as 'Laura' or 'Laura Mulvey' whilst Propp is known as 'Propp' and never 'Vladimir' or 'Vladmir Propp' which I said to my media teacher, who seemed to think there was no problem with this. Despite their theories being discussed equally and held to equal status, Mulvey is addressed by first name. I'm aware this has been discussed before, but even when we're discussing in class how sexist the 1950's media was, we're still participating in it ourselves. -How can we stop this being so normalised in society? I seem to be the only one in my class to have mentioned this and it just gives me a bad feeling about the general population. I thought we were better than this.",,201,Reddemonichero,1705149747.0 -Feminism,195f4pl,I Want A Wife,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/195f4pl,718,lewisjessicag,1705118963.0 -Feminism,195f8eu,This Facebook comment deserves applause and I thought I’d share it with you all,It’s just so… *chefs kiss*,https://i.redd.it/yduacr32v4cc1.jpeg,418,-viasteph,1705119280.0 -Feminism,195qndd,Is it feminist to engage in casual relationships?,would you all do it? why and why not? I am a budding adult (18) and need some big sister advice on this!,,45,boot_pulge34,1705160309.0 -Feminism,19602ar,I'm looking for movies about the male gaze,,/r/MovieSuggestions/comments/195y5aq/im_looking_for_movies_about_the_male_gaze/,8,Swimming-Item8891,1705184958.0 +How can we stop this being so normalised in society? I seem to be the only one in my class to have mentioned this and it just gives me a bad feeling about the general population. I thought we were better than this.",,201,Reddemonichero,2024-01-13 12:42:27 +Feminism,195f4pl,I Want A Wife,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/195f4pl,718,lewisjessicag,2024-01-13 04:09:23 +Feminism,195f8eu,This Facebook comment deserves applause and I thought I’d share it with you all,It’s just so… *chefs kiss*,https://i.redd.it/yduacr32v4cc1.jpeg,418,-viasteph,2024-01-13 04:14:40 +Feminism,195qndd,Is it feminist to engage in casual relationships?,would you all do it? why and why not? I am a budding adult (18) and need some big sister advice on this!,,45,boot_pulge34,2024-01-13 15:38:29 +Feminism,19602ar,I'm looking for movies about the male gaze,,/r/MovieSuggestions/comments/195y5aq/im_looking_for_movies_about_the_male_gaze/,8,Swimming-Item8891,2024-01-13 22:29:18 Feminism,195gaoq,This is hard for me to do because I have extreme discomfort of my body but I am posting to be in support of Brittany Watts in the US who miscarried,"Clearly these old men in power don't understand women's bodies. It's been clearly illustrated that they barely know what an abortion is let alone a miscarriage or how awful it is. That someone could get in legal trouble for this is mind boggling. @@ -10929,12 +10929,12 @@ So like, yeah. I get that most people hear of a miscarriage that happens at the I can't imagine going through this and then having to deal with legal repercussions for it. That's fucking nuts. I want to support Brittany Watts in every way I can -&#x200B;",,158,TesseractToo,1705122745.0 -Feminism,1959bce,Kate Cox on her struggle to obtain an abortion in Texas,,https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/news/kate-cox-interview-on-her-struggle-to-obtain-an-abortion-in-texas/,319,audiomuse1,1705102415.0 +&#x200B;",,158,TesseractToo,2024-01-13 05:12:25 +Feminism,1959bce,Kate Cox on her struggle to obtain an abortion in Texas,,https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/news/kate-cox-interview-on-her-struggle-to-obtain-an-abortion-in-texas/,319,audiomuse1,2024-01-12 23:33:35 Feminism,195kqle,"This Marilyn Fyre quote is specific to misogynists, right?","&#x200B; -[Someome subliminally sent this to me as a general rule and I want to get answers to the context.](https://preview.redd.it/fisiq2rvk6cc1.jpg?width=602&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2b73b9e92f7bb74cf049eae1709f936640143565)",,25,rinnygade,1705140091.0 -Feminism,195s8t4,which book is this quote from?,"hi everyone! i remember seeing a passage from a feminist book on social media a while back, and i can’t really remember any specific parts of it but i would love to get the book, if anyone can help me identify it. the passage is basically about how some women feel protected by the patriarchy and feel unwilling to let go of patriarchal ideas, and makes an analogy (if i remember correctly) to feeling safe living under a rock attacked by ocean waves? maybe some sort of metaphor about a cage? honestly i can’t remember the analogy well but i remember there was one. all i remember is that the passage was about some women being unwilling to let go of the patriarchy because it protects them from something. sorry, i know this isn’t very helpful!! but if anyone has any idea what i’m talking about that would be amazing. thanks!",,7,premed_exe,1705164515.0 +[Someome subliminally sent this to me as a general rule and I want to get answers to the context.](https://preview.redd.it/fisiq2rvk6cc1.jpg?width=602&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2b73b9e92f7bb74cf049eae1709f936640143565)",,25,rinnygade,2024-01-13 10:01:31 +Feminism,195s8t4,which book is this quote from?,"hi everyone! i remember seeing a passage from a feminist book on social media a while back, and i can’t really remember any specific parts of it but i would love to get the book, if anyone can help me identify it. the passage is basically about how some women feel protected by the patriarchy and feel unwilling to let go of patriarchal ideas, and makes an analogy (if i remember correctly) to feeling safe living under a rock attacked by ocean waves? maybe some sort of metaphor about a cage? honestly i can’t remember the analogy well but i remember there was one. all i remember is that the passage was about some women being unwilling to let go of the patriarchy because it protects them from something. sorry, i know this isn’t very helpful!! but if anyone has any idea what i’m talking about that would be amazing. thanks!",,7,premed_exe,2024-01-13 16:48:35 Feminism,1953xun,"""The Stanley craze: How a reusable cup became the latest symbol of overconsumption""","""It’s a tactic and marketing strategy that primarily draws in women. “I think there is a hyperfocus on women and their purchasing power, which ties into conversations on influencers … and the pushing of very feminine products happening in the wake of this very hyper feminine 2023 of Barbie and [Taylor Swift’s] Eras Tour and these much larger cultural touchstones and moments,” Coduto said."" @@ -10944,15 +10944,15 @@ This is fascinating to be honest! Does anyone know of any similar articles or ev I'd love to hear your thoughts, opinions, comments, etc! Would love to read more about this kinda stuff. Also hope it's okay to post this here! -Apologies for any formatting issues. On my phone",https://19thnews.org/2024/01/stanley-cup-colors-craze-reusable-sustainability-overconsumption/,307,my_name_is_tree,1705088885.0 -Feminism,194zxh8,"Why Texas is dead last in 'personal freedom,' according to new study",,https://www.wfaa.com/article/news/politics/yall-itics/texas-rankings-last-dallas-personal-freedom-cato-institute/287-91807d11-1b84-4886-9482-e53096276558,386,audiomuse1,1705078922.0 -Feminism,195b0xz,"How Many of Your State’s Lawmakers Are Women? If You Live in the Southeast, It Could Be Just 1 in 5.",,https://www.propublica.org/article/state-lawmakers-women-southeast,45,nana488,1705106927.0 +Apologies for any formatting issues. On my phone",https://19thnews.org/2024/01/stanley-cup-colors-craze-reusable-sustainability-overconsumption/,307,my_name_is_tree,2024-01-12 19:48:05 +Feminism,194zxh8,"Why Texas is dead last in 'personal freedom,' according to new study",,https://www.wfaa.com/article/news/politics/yall-itics/texas-rankings-last-dallas-personal-freedom-cato-institute/287-91807d11-1b84-4886-9482-e53096276558,386,audiomuse1,2024-01-12 17:02:02 +Feminism,195b0xz,"How Many of Your State’s Lawmakers Are Women? If You Live in the Southeast, It Could Be Just 1 in 5.",,https://www.propublica.org/article/state-lawmakers-women-southeast,45,nana488,2024-01-13 00:48:47 Feminism,194u4q4,"""Men are raised to not show emotion"", and women are?","Hi! So this will depend on the culture you grew up in, but a common talking point in MRA circles is that men have harder lives in general, but especially growing up. Taught to not show emotion except neutrality or anger. Personally, I don't see how that's especially different from being raised to always be pleasant and being shamed for ""overreacting"" if a woman shows emotion other than pleasantness. It seems like a case of ""she looks so happy, her life must be SO easy!"" Ignoring that the ""happy"" person is likely putting on a mask because not doing so typically garners a negative reaction from people, especially men. Similarly, MRAs complain about man flu and act like women don't conceal and treat their own pain and illnesses all the time and aren't taken seriously by medical doctors and aren't taken into consideration when most drugs are developed. Men are the standard, illness is taken seriously in men in a medical setting (with the exception of fainting), but may not be taken seriously at work or home a. Because employeers care more about men's and women's productivity more than their health and b. Compared to how many women I've noticed don't tend to draw attention to having a cold or flu and just tough it out, most men I've seen with either tend to act like they're dying and the world must stand still to tend to their needs -Basically I find MRA and some feminist forums see things as exclusively gendered issues when it affects everyone and just might present slightly differently.",,379,ThisIsMySpaceJam,1705063287.0 -Feminism,1951fpc,Want to see what Republicans want for abortion rights nationally? Look at Texas.,,https://www.usatoday.com/story/opinion/columnist/2023/12/10/texas-abortion-case-judge-permission-healthcare-decisions/71851981007/,89,audiomuse1,1705082615.0 +Basically I find MRA and some feminist forums see things as exclusively gendered issues when it affects everyone and just might present slightly differently.",,379,ThisIsMySpaceJam,2024-01-12 12:41:27 +Feminism,1951fpc,Want to see what Republicans want for abortion rights nationally? Look at Texas.,,https://www.usatoday.com/story/opinion/columnist/2023/12/10/texas-abortion-case-judge-permission-healthcare-decisions/71851981007/,89,audiomuse1,2024-01-12 18:03:35 Feminism,1958f7s,Just making my way down town...,"The amount of places I've tried posting this only to be rejected or deleted is truly astonishing. Mainly UK based subs, which are generally much more left leaning, oddly enough. @@ -10965,12 +10965,12 @@ Ended up legging it down the road and feeling terrible for the rest of the day b I've spoken to enough friends to know that this isn't an unusual occurrence. It's not an anomaly. It's not unusual. -And yes, I am hoping someone completed the lyrics, just to alleviate the depressing tone! Go!",,27,Willswoo,1705100160.0 +And yes, I am hoping someone completed the lyrics, just to alleviate the depressing tone! Go!",,27,Willswoo,2024-01-12 22:56:00 Feminism,194ksyr,"Rape is just another category on websites that host porn and something needs to actually be done to stop it. To say that rape is a ""niche"" topic in porn is greatly underestimating how popular it actually is. I am not kidding with this: we need to fight to have this content restricted.","&#x200B; [Recent searches pulled from a random website that focuses solely on this category of pornography. I will not disclose the website. ](https://preview.redd.it/sikcltcgexbc1.png?width=1086&format=png&auto=webp&s=1ee3f6c7efea3dd8420f899c5281ff40ac499457) -I truly feel this effort needs to extend past internet activism, but I do believe that the internet can be a great tool to fight off this problem. If anyone is actually interested in helping fight this problem please give suggestions and or message me.",,615,Slow-Panda-2209,1705029215.0 +I truly feel this effort needs to extend past internet activism, but I do believe that the internet can be a great tool to fight off this problem. If anyone is actually interested in helping fight this problem please give suggestions and or message me.",,615,Slow-Panda-2209,2024-01-12 03:13:35 Feminism,194nz2u,The way media is talking about a woman who was killed by her husband is just not okay,"[This Instagram post](https://www.instagram.com/p/C1m4hfsISV5/?igsh=NzBnempjYmc3bHd6) shows it really well. Here’s a bit of background and a rant: Melissa Hoskins was an Australian cyclist. She was a three-time Women’s Down Under champion and came 4th in the 2012 Olympics. On December 30, she was run over by a car in her driveway and died. That’s where most headlines end, but they leave out the fact it was *her husband* (also a champion cyclist) who hit her. He’s been charged with causing death by dangerous driving, driving without due care and endangering life. He was granted bail and will face court in March. There’s not many details about what happened yet, but I can’t imagine him being charged with those offences if it was an innocent, freak accident (of course innocent until proven guilty). Her name is often left out of headlines, only being referred to as “his wife”. At least his Wikipedia page details what happened and what he’s been charged with right under his bio. But on her page, it only says he was “allegedly” driving the car, even though it’s a fact. @@ -10999,26 +10999,26 @@ EDIT for updated details: I found an example of, IMO, how headlines should be written. Of all places, it was Bicycling.com. “Former Olympian Melissa Hoskins Was Killed in a Crash. Her Husband, Rohan Dennis, Has Been Charged” She’s mentioned first with her accomplishments, and he’s just the spouse this time. -Melissa became the *63rd* woman killed in an alleged violent incident in Australia last year, which is 1 every 5.7 days. In October, 6 women were killed in 10 days, with 5 allegedly by violence from men. We need to get our shit together as a country and start to realise that, *shock horror*, women are human beings who deserve to be safe. ",,308,SubstantialTone4477,1705039521.0 +Melissa became the *63rd* woman killed in an alleged violent incident in Australia last year, which is 1 every 5.7 days. In October, 6 women were killed in 10 days, with 5 allegedly by violence from men. We need to get our shit together as a country and start to realise that, *shock horror*, women are human beings who deserve to be safe. ",,308,SubstantialTone4477,2024-01-12 06:05:21 Feminism,194ciuy,"""you will die alone with cats""","It's so funny to me, how most men get mad about the fact that some women don't want to be mothers or have a husband. ""you're a woman you have to"" no i dont. Women are not just here to give birth and I think it's so embarrassing to think, that's the only purpose we have in life. It just shows how miserable they really are and probably regret a lot of things. I'm so happy everyone can decide to their own what they want in life wether that is to have a family or cats. -And let's be honest here what's so bad about living alone with cats? sounds fun to me.",https://i.redd.it/fi0dehsxlvbc1.png,1485,hello_kitty4e,1705007251.0 +And let's be honest here what's so bad about living alone with cats? sounds fun to me.",https://i.redd.it/fi0dehsxlvbc1.png,1485,hello_kitty4e,2024-01-11 21:07:31 Feminism,194l5p3,I hate having to leave my room as a woman,"*Warning: I wanted to rant abt this but I wasn’t sure what sub to put this in, so I may be in the wrong place* I recently moved to a new area by myself for school, and over the past couple of months, I’ve had way too many unwanted experiences with men. I started an new job not even two months ago and there are two guys who constantly stare at me and follow me around the store. I also have to take public transportation to get there, and I’ve had multiple instances men staring at me, trying to talk to me, and even trying to touch me (there’s also been one man on the bus who’s been stalking me). I know I’m definitely not the first person to experience this, but I’m so tired of living in fear everyday bc of things like this. I feel humiliated all the time and I’m not sure what to do about it. -Edit: I originally posted this just to vent as most people I had confided in beforehand didn’t take me seriously. Needless to say, I was a little shocked at the amount of upvotes and kind comments I saw once I returned to this post. Thank you to everyone who commented advice and were able to empathize with me. It makes me feel a lot less alone in my frustration about this. :))",,75,Accomplished-Ad503,1705030323.0 -Feminism,194ko3q,"St. Paul makes history with all-female city council, a rarity among large US cities",,https://apnews.com/article/all-female-city-council-st-paul-minnesota-63e1ae6fbe281d0965e3fcd15723b6cd,54,BlankVerse,1705028795.0 -Feminism,1947og1,Trump Says He’s ‘Proud’ to Have ‘Terminated’ Abortion Rights,,https://www.rollingstone.com/politics/politics-news/trump-says-proud-killed-abortion-rights-fox-town-hall-1234944546/,263,Professional_Suit270,1704995303.0 +Edit: I originally posted this just to vent as most people I had confided in beforehand didn’t take me seriously. Needless to say, I was a little shocked at the amount of upvotes and kind comments I saw once I returned to this post. Thank you to everyone who commented advice and were able to empathize with me. It makes me feel a lot less alone in my frustration about this. :))",,75,Accomplished-Ad503,2024-01-12 03:32:03 +Feminism,194ko3q,"St. Paul makes history with all-female city council, a rarity among large US cities",,https://apnews.com/article/all-female-city-council-st-paul-minnesota-63e1ae6fbe281d0965e3fcd15723b6cd,54,BlankVerse,2024-01-12 03:06:35 +Feminism,1947og1,Trump Says He’s ‘Proud’ to Have ‘Terminated’ Abortion Rights,,https://www.rollingstone.com/politics/politics-news/trump-says-proud-killed-abortion-rights-fox-town-hall-1234944546/,263,Professional_Suit270,2024-01-11 17:48:23 Feminism,19463gw,I'm so sick of how common mysogyny is,"I don't have that much experience, I'm just 18, but I've been in this world long enough to see things that are subtle and no one cares. Well, barely anyone, there are some people. But it's not discussed, it's just the reality. Because why would society want to change the fact that girls have to be careful their whole life's huh? Why would they care that you always have to go home with your friends to avoid creeps. Why would they care that old weird men talk to us on the streets, while we're minding our own business, no matter our age. Why would they care about our feelings? Why would they care that we're more than our sexual organs? Why would they care about us at all? -I'm just so sick of the fact that men shit on our heads all the time for everything. I'm not talking about the good people, I know there are actually kind guys and men and I'm very glad for that. Though it seems a bit like something everyone should do, you know? Treat people with respect. I am also very aware that women can be as bad as men and it's awful. But we as a world still have a big issue. I'm just so tired and sick of the remarks, of husbands leaving everything to their wife's, of little girls getting harassed, of women getting harassed like it's nothing. I'm not even talking about the real crimes yet. I'm talking about everyday situations.",,296,I_Want_A_Cat_,1704991493.0 +I'm just so sick of the fact that men shit on our heads all the time for everything. I'm not talking about the good people, I know there are actually kind guys and men and I'm very glad for that. Though it seems a bit like something everyone should do, you know? Treat people with respect. I am also very aware that women can be as bad as men and it's awful. But we as a world still have a big issue. I'm just so tired and sick of the remarks, of husbands leaving everything to their wife's, of little girls getting harassed, of women getting harassed like it's nothing. I'm not even talking about the real crimes yet. I'm talking about everyday situations.",,296,I_Want_A_Cat_,2024-01-11 16:44:53 Feminism,194exoc,Brittany Watts was not charged by Grand Jury - but the damage has already been done,"It's good news that a grand jury in Ohio chose to NOT charge Brittany Watts over the ridiculous claim that by having a miscarriage over a toilet she had ""abused a corpse."" But we can't say all is well with that end to the witch hunt in Ohio. The reality is that this young woman may suffer from anxiety and mental health issues for a long time because her personal trauma was publicized in a horrible way to her community and to the world. Even on social media sites that are usually friendly to women experiencing miscarriages, there were some who posted criticism for how she left the hospital (after waiting 8 hours while the religious hospital's staff and attorneys debated whether they should save her life even when the miscarriage ensured no live birth was possible). @@ -11027,8 +11027,8 @@ I know someone who was wrongfully arrested and later the charges were dropped. B So, let's each do our best to help the lawyers who represent women like Brittany and to elect ONLY public officials and prosecutors who support human rights and women's rights. -[https://www.nytimes.com/2024/01/11/us/brittany-watts-ohio-miscarriage.html](https://www.nytimes.com/2024/01/11/us/brittany-watts-ohio-miscarriage.html)",,52,Entire-Ad2551,1705013211.0 -Feminism,193zrfo,Why is commitment a priorty for women but not men?,"With the news about “male loneliness” and single-childless women being happier, why does commitment seem to be something women crave much more than men? Married men are in better health and make more money than single men; it is the opposite for women, of course. If men benefit from the institution of marriage and family, why do they run from it? Most importantly, if those same institutions are less beneficial for women, why run toward it? Is it an age-old “reverse psychology” trick?",,227,Large_Raspberry5252,1704973318.0 +[https://www.nytimes.com/2024/01/11/us/brittany-watts-ohio-miscarriage.html](https://www.nytimes.com/2024/01/11/us/brittany-watts-ohio-miscarriage.html)",,52,Entire-Ad2551,2024-01-11 22:46:51 +Feminism,193zrfo,Why is commitment a priorty for women but not men?,"With the news about “male loneliness” and single-childless women being happier, why does commitment seem to be something women crave much more than men? Married men are in better health and make more money than single men; it is the opposite for women, of course. If men benefit from the institution of marriage and family, why do they run from it? Most importantly, if those same institutions are less beneficial for women, why run toward it? Is it an age-old “reverse psychology” trick?",,227,Large_Raspberry5252,2024-01-11 11:41:58 Feminism,1940sl3,"I don't get misogynist men, is this really what they want?","So I'm trying to understand their perspective (even though their perspective is bullshit and doesn't matter but ""know your enemy"" and whatnot) So they want power. They want to make sure they always have as much power as they can get and keep us as weak as possible. And then what? Why would anyone prefer a meek, diffident helpless womanchild over someone they can admire and befriend? Like a warrior queen who can drink her weight of ales after a good battle, a creative artist who wins awards, a CEO who orders you around but also makes you better at your job, a gruff and tough sailor who is surprisingly gentle with the city boy who fell for her, a life of the party surfer who makes you wet your pants with laughter with her weird jokes, a full-time worker who is also an amazing mother, a lawyer who you always go to for advice cause she's a problem-solver and you smile and roll your eyes when she's being a cocky know it all but damn she's cool, a confident businesswoman that turns your legs into jelly with one smile, a computer nerd who you need when your laptop starts glitching, a bookworm who reads and knows a lot more than you do, a woman who can burp the entire alphabet when he can only do a few letters, or any woman who is happy, confident, powerful and not ""less than"". So what, do they really just want us to be silent, apathetic, weak ragdolls with a fake smile and 3 holes to fuck? Always put upon, always sad, powerless, faking happiness, faking pleasure, hiding pain, insecure, incompetent, clumsy, childish, stupid, needy, confused, beaten up, raped doormats with severe Stockholm syndrome?! How can anyone want that, how can anyone be excited or turned on by someone like that? I mean, of course woman want equality, but why the hell don't men want it as much? Why would they want to spend time with people they consider less than themselves? Ughhh its just so frustrating and disgusting everything I've been reading online lately, I needed to rant. I can't believe I used to think I loved men when I was a kid, and after that I always described myself as a feminist but still didn't know how bad it was and thought men were alright cause the notion of gender didn't mean much to me, just a made-up thing to try to categorize some differences when everyone was actually pretty similar mentally, emotionally, morally, etc. regardless of gender. But after reading all these awful things lately, and realising the patriarchal bullshit that resided in my own subconscious, I'm starting to hate the lot of them and I have rumination OCD so I can't think about anything else lately. Can anyone suggest a movie or a book that have feminist male characters cause I am short of those in real life and I really need to restore my faith in humanity again... @@ -11037,15 +11037,15 @@ Sorry if this is not appropriate, first time posting, second language and all th &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,188,elunewell,1704976824.0 -Feminism,1944jnx,Race Team Would Rather Create A Fake AI Woman Rather Than Hire A Real One,,https://autos.yahoo.com/race-team-creates-fake-ai-145000658.html,42,ClaireDacloush,1704987513.0 -Feminism,193d6r4,"Girls mature faster, so…",Credit to @Lainey.Molnar on Instagram,https://i.redd.it/zmqtz54v9nbc1.jpeg,1623,Shea_Scarlet,1704906336.0 -Feminism,193vomx,Comedian Roasts Fox News After Her 'Feminism' Joke Goes Way Over Their Heads,,https://www.huffpost.com/entry/los-angeles-comedian-roasts-fox-news-tiktok-feminism-joke_n_659edc53e4b0712b12c35e97,52,BurtonDesque,1704956841.0 +&#x200B;",,188,elunewell,2024-01-11 12:40:24 +Feminism,1944jnx,Race Team Would Rather Create A Fake AI Woman Rather Than Hire A Real One,,https://autos.yahoo.com/race-team-creates-fake-ai-145000658.html,42,ClaireDacloush,2024-01-11 15:38:33 +Feminism,193d6r4,"Girls mature faster, so…",Credit to @Lainey.Molnar on Instagram,https://i.redd.it/zmqtz54v9nbc1.jpeg,1623,Shea_Scarlet,2024-01-10 17:05:36 +Feminism,193vomx,Comedian Roasts Fox News After Her 'Feminism' Joke Goes Way Over Their Heads,,https://www.huffpost.com/entry/los-angeles-comedian-roasts-fox-news-tiktok-feminism-joke_n_659edc53e4b0712b12c35e97,52,BurtonDesque,2024-01-11 07:07:21 Feminism,1944ypp,Do you think that grammatical gender affects the way people think?,"At least if they are referred to as masculine and feminine, not common and neutral like het vs de in Dutch. -English people often call ships she for some reason. ",,6,Awesomeuser90,1704988625.0 -Feminism,193ffdr,i cannot handle republicans,"posting this to reddit because i need to let out some of my thoughts. I geniunely have no idea how to navigate through a world where there are so many conservatives who are so unaware of the reality of the world right now. I have so many strong views of the world that it is ruining my life and causing me to be depressed and overwhelmed. For example, today my english teacher made our class sit and watch this debate class that was happening in the library. The topic was “do you think women face more social pressure and oppression than men? ironically the table that was standing up for women was 3 men, and the table taking the men’s side were 3 women. After one of the men gave a speech about how women are socially pressured to look a certain way, one of the women came up and started going off about how men suffer more than women in this society. her reasoning was that men have worse mental health, and then she began talking about how it was “unfair on men that they should have to protect us”. she said that society expects men to be strong and protect us and that it isn’t fair to them. i was so overwhelmed with emotion i had to get up and leave. i’m not even going to explain why this is wrong but i don’t even how to process how so many women could take this position and i feel so helpless. The only reason society expects this of men is because men are the ones to CAUSE DANGER?",,213,Dry_Benefit_1163,1704911725.0 -Feminism,1939j1f,"Do pregnant women have a right to urgent medical care? No, according to a US court | Moira Donegan",,https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2024/jan/10/pregnant-women-urgent-medical-care-us-court-texas,399,AlysonBurgers,1704896958.0 +English people often call ships she for some reason. ",,6,Awesomeuser90,2024-01-11 15:57:05 +Feminism,193ffdr,i cannot handle republicans,"posting this to reddit because i need to let out some of my thoughts. I geniunely have no idea how to navigate through a world where there are so many conservatives who are so unaware of the reality of the world right now. I have so many strong views of the world that it is ruining my life and causing me to be depressed and overwhelmed. For example, today my english teacher made our class sit and watch this debate class that was happening in the library. The topic was “do you think women face more social pressure and oppression than men? ironically the table that was standing up for women was 3 men, and the table taking the men’s side were 3 women. After one of the men gave a speech about how women are socially pressured to look a certain way, one of the women came up and started going off about how men suffer more than women in this society. her reasoning was that men have worse mental health, and then she began talking about how it was “unfair on men that they should have to protect us”. she said that society expects men to be strong and protect us and that it isn’t fair to them. i was so overwhelmed with emotion i had to get up and leave. i’m not even going to explain why this is wrong but i don’t even how to process how so many women could take this position and i feel so helpless. The only reason society expects this of men is because men are the ones to CAUSE DANGER?",,213,Dry_Benefit_1163,2024-01-10 18:35:25 +Feminism,1939j1f,"Do pregnant women have a right to urgent medical care? No, according to a US court | Moira Donegan",,https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2024/jan/10/pregnant-women-urgent-medical-care-us-court-texas,399,AlysonBurgers,2024-01-10 14:29:18 Feminism,1946f5z,Looking for material for group discussions on equality,"Hi /r/Feminism ! I'm currently a student at a type of boarding school that teaches in a number of different disciplines. My year is unfortunately very unevenly divided between genders with a distribution of approximately 4:1 in favor of men. Quite a few students agree that both the institution and us students could do more work to educate ourselves and eachother on the problems of gender inequality. All the men in our department meets regularly in small groups to have ""men's dinner"", which is an online format of discussion points about men's mental health, how we deal with relationships and interact with other people. The format could be described like this: the participants are divided into random groups of about 4-7 people. They sit down, pick one of the topics from the website which contain questions for group discussion. A few examples of topics are love, friendship, fragility and ego. The participants in the group take turns answering the current question (if they feel comfortable) and the discussion goes on for something like 1,5 hours. @@ -11062,7 +11062,7 @@ Many who participate in the meetings already like the concept, and I personally &nbsp; -Thanks in advance! And English is not my first language blah blah, yeah. Thanks!",,3,Froggietwofrog,1704992296.0 +Thanks in advance! And English is not my first language blah blah, yeah. Thanks!",,3,Froggietwofrog,2024-01-11 16:58:16 Feminism,193cclk,"Is there such a thing as, like, kink bombardment or something?","Hey all— I (25F) had an experience on Sunday that made me think about the dynamics around some of this kinky stuff guys are increasingly getting exposed to. I was on a first date and I didn’t originally plan on sleeping with him but it happened. I definitely consented, but it wasn’t fun. @@ -11071,7 +11071,7 @@ I’ve had this experience many times now, where I am in bed with someone I don It seems like these guys will just throw the whole book of aggressive rough sex at you at once. I’ve never had someone ask to slap me, they always just do it. And then I’m stuck having to fight against the voice in my head that goes “you’re asking for too much, you’re ruining his fun, you’re being too prudish” because I still have that deep ingrained thing in me that makes me protect men’s egos at all costs. If I wanted sex that was good for me, I would have had to stop him every five seconds and correct like three things at a time. It just didn’t feel worth it, knowing I would just come off critical and particular. -I also have a lot of sexual trauma, like many women, that leads me to consistently feel like my wants and feelings are inherently suspicious while others’ should be accepted as the default. It feels like asking for too much to ask for anything, to the extent that this Sunday was still a major progression from previous sex in terms of my ability to set boundaries. But even at my best, most confident version of me so far, I still couldn’t keep up with the barrage of kinks. Has anyone else experienced this? Is there a word for it?",,163,BetterThan40,1704904284.0 +I also have a lot of sexual trauma, like many women, that leads me to consistently feel like my wants and feelings are inherently suspicious while others’ should be accepted as the default. It feels like asking for too much to ask for anything, to the extent that this Sunday was still a major progression from previous sex in terms of my ability to set boundaries. But even at my best, most confident version of me so far, I still couldn’t keep up with the barrage of kinks. Has anyone else experienced this? Is there a word for it?",,163,BetterThan40,2024-01-10 16:31:24 Feminism,1935f6z,“Girls can’t have conversations like me and the boys do.”,"My brother said this too me while we were driving to our family vacation literal months ago and it’s still stuck in my head. While I can’t remember the exact words he used, he was saying that he believed that “females” could only talk about ‘girly things’ such as boys and shopping, and couldn’t have the deep conversation that he has with his male friends, and that was one of his primary reasons for not having any girl friends. @@ -11082,14 +11082,14 @@ My brother turned 20 a few months ago, and over the course of a few years I’ve I just can’t find where my brother who has two friends, barely showers or brushes his teeth, is a failed sneaker head and had a bag of moldy bread in his room for almost an entire week finds the audacity to believe women can’t be their own beings, and have deep conversations and exist outside of a man’s perspective. Like what??? -Men continue to amaze me.",,319,Notyou3333,1704883179.0 -Feminism,194l91g,F 18 and M 24: My boyfriend just admitted to me that he wants to use me as a sexual object.,"My boyfriend just admitted to me that he wants to use me as a sexual object. But I love the idea of it happening. He is really respectful, and has treated me well from square one. Does this make me a bad feminist?",,0,gutenhundin,1705030624.0 -Feminism,193j777,"The price of war for women: new roles, emerging challenges",,https://commons.com.ua/en/cina-vijni-dlya-zhinok/,15,uanar,1704920835.0 -Feminism,193bri4,Race Team Creates A Fake AI Woman Rather Than Hire A Real One,,https://jalopnik.com/motorsport-team-would-rather-just-hire-an-ai-woman-than-1851155004,31,steen311,1704902784.0 -Feminism,192zzd0,Men sometimes istg 😭,,https://i.redd.it/c18yvu0tmjbc1.png,251,ImTheReallyCoolOne,1704862291.0 +Men continue to amaze me.",,319,Notyou3333,2024-01-10 10:39:39 +Feminism,194l91g,F 18 and M 24: My boyfriend just admitted to me that he wants to use me as a sexual object.,"My boyfriend just admitted to me that he wants to use me as a sexual object. But I love the idea of it happening. He is really respectful, and has treated me well from square one. Does this make me a bad feminist?",,0,gutenhundin,2024-01-12 03:37:04 +Feminism,193j777,"The price of war for women: new roles, emerging challenges",,https://commons.com.ua/en/cina-vijni-dlya-zhinok/,15,uanar,2024-01-10 21:07:15 +Feminism,193bri4,Race Team Creates A Fake AI Woman Rather Than Hire A Real One,,https://jalopnik.com/motorsport-team-would-rather-just-hire-an-ai-woman-than-1851155004,31,steen311,2024-01-10 16:06:24 +Feminism,192zzd0,Men sometimes istg 😭,,https://i.redd.it/c18yvu0tmjbc1.png,251,ImTheReallyCoolOne,2024-01-10 04:51:31 Feminism,1931dug,"Welp - this is our ""progress."" Kids raping kids...","https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/jan/10/children-now-biggest-perpetrators-of-sexual-abuse-against-children -This really scares me....",,160,mylifewillchange,1704866842.0 +This really scares me....",,160,mylifewillchange,2024-01-10 06:07:22 Feminism,192wmd0,“I hang out with guys because they’re less drama”,"One time my roommate told our guy friend’s gf about the degrading things he was saying about her to our friends. He found out and kept my roommate out of all group plans for two weeks. We started planning girls nights within the friendgroup and he would bombard our groupchat with accusatory/ demeaning spam to pick fights. Another time we had a guy friend boast in our groupchat about a girl leaving her number on his car. Everyone including his girlfriend was in there. When she got upset and reacted he called her crazy, dramatic, and every other name you can imagine. @@ -11102,9 +11102,9 @@ One time I agreed to drive my boyfriend, now ex, to the doctor and asked him to I once had a guy friend tell me and my roommate to get raped. We told his girlfriend and he retaliated by saying if she was going to “believe these trashy whores then we shouldn’t be together.” This was in a groupchat (that I added him to) of my close friends (that I introduced him to). -Never in my life have I had worse drama with my girl friends than when men were involved in the group/ our lives. I’m so tired of hearing that girls are dramatic/ sensitive for expressing their emotions when men more commonly act on them IN THE WORST WAY POSSIBLE!!!",,205,makko007,1704852107.0 -Feminism,19304y4,What's radfems take on Onlyfans?,Ik radfems oppose porn and sex-work because they are inherently exploitative. They think sex work is fueled by patriarchy therefore women are victims of it & porn shouldn't be promoted (unlike libfems who view those empowering & believe modifying your body in ways you like is based and freedom pilled). I haven't seen radfems talking about OF though. Do they see it as a form of pornification? Or since pimping is absent & women independently share content that diminishes the exploitation aspect?,,72,quizzicalist,1704862797.0 -Feminism,192hboq,The Chinese government is trying to rebrand forced sterilization as feminism | Arwa Mahdawi,,https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/jan/09/china-forced-sterilizations-feminist-rebrand,28,strong-Koala-1010,1704814309.0 +Never in my life have I had worse drama with my girl friends than when men were involved in the group/ our lives. I’m so tired of hearing that girls are dramatic/ sensitive for expressing their emotions when men more commonly act on them IN THE WORST WAY POSSIBLE!!!",,205,makko007,2024-01-10 02:01:47 +Feminism,19304y4,What's radfems take on Onlyfans?,Ik radfems oppose porn and sex-work because they are inherently exploitative. They think sex work is fueled by patriarchy therefore women are victims of it & porn shouldn't be promoted (unlike libfems who view those empowering & believe modifying your body in ways you like is based and freedom pilled). I haven't seen radfems talking about OF though. Do they see it as a form of pornification? Or since pimping is absent & women independently share content that diminishes the exploitation aspect?,,72,quizzicalist,2024-01-10 04:59:57 +Feminism,192hboq,The Chinese government is trying to rebrand forced sterilization as feminism | Arwa Mahdawi,,https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/jan/09/china-forced-sterilizations-feminist-rebrand,28,strong-Koala-1010,2024-01-09 15:31:49 Feminism,191zhub,My husband (32M) took down my (33F) pride flag.,"So my husband (32M) and I (33F) have been together almost 16 years, and have been married for almost 5 years. When we started dating and throughout most of our relationship we have both been on the same page with our core beliefs and political views. That all changed in 2020 when Trump was running for president. It was like a switch flipped and all of the sudden my husband started making anti-trans comments, antiabortion comments, and other comments that completely go against what we had agreed we believed in for all these years. @@ -11116,17 +11116,17 @@ I am extremely uncomfortable with his hateful views toward other humans. Especia I have tried talking to him about it and he just says that his views have changed. Ugh I don't know what to do and needed to vent. I feel like the toxic comments he makes are pushing me further and further away from him. -#feminist #vent #tolerance",,331,BaitAndSwitched11,1704756360.0 +#feminist #vent #tolerance",,331,BaitAndSwitched11,2024-01-08 23:26:00 Feminism,191llqw,Feminism and Dual Unpaid Labor in traditional Culture.,"Liberal feminism's call for rights within the system is crucial, but in traditional cultures, achieving these rights without addressing barriers leads to dual unpaid labor for women. Empowerment for women shouldn't solely focus on workplace participation. It must encompass a holistic approach that considers societal expectations beyond employment. Often, discussions about women's rights overlook the underlying exploitation and oppression they face in carrying the burden of household responsibilities alongside their careers. In traditional societies,, women are expected to manage households, raise children, and even when they work, these responsibilities remain. Their earned income is often controlled by male family members, making them dual unpaid labors. The vulnerability of women in third world countries, for example, Baloch and Pashtun women, is multifaceted. They face oppression from state, religious extremism, tribalism, and patriarchy, layered and complex. Recognizing the intersectionality of oppression and problems faced by women is vital. Their struggles encompass various layers - societal, cultural, religious, and systemic. -Improvement in women's conditions demands addressing these complex factors. Without addressing the layered vulnerabilities and intersecting oppressions, progress will remain challenging.",https://i.redd.it/dvcm3i9s08bc1.jpeg,1565,mirwaiskk12,1704721680.0 -Feminism,191tzvq,Men are hitting on my scheduling bot because it has a woman's name,,https://www.askamanager.org/2024/01/men-are-hitting-on-my-scheduling-bot-because-it-has-a-womans-name.html,404,katespadesaturday,1704743145.0 -Feminism,192z1q1,"Lost tiktok, help me find It, plz","Was a husband saying his wife forgot tu Buy a can of some food, and he, decided not to buying, so she will remember. Something like.that. please :(",,0,sofiamm23,1704859350.0 -Feminism,191waye,"In his bid for U.S. Senate to unseat Ted Cruz in Texas, Democrat Colin Allred says he expects abortion rights issue to motivate voters",,https://www.khou.com/article/news/politics/inside-politics/texas-politics/in-bid-for-us-senate-democrat-colin-allred-says-he-expects-abortion-rights-issue-to-motivate-voters/287-47836750-e5d4-4008-9826-243cc89dcca9,280,audiomuse1,1704748619.0 +Improvement in women's conditions demands addressing these complex factors. Without addressing the layered vulnerabilities and intersecting oppressions, progress will remain challenging.",https://i.redd.it/dvcm3i9s08bc1.jpeg,1565,mirwaiskk12,2024-01-08 13:48:00 +Feminism,191tzvq,Men are hitting on my scheduling bot because it has a woman's name,,https://www.askamanager.org/2024/01/men-are-hitting-on-my-scheduling-bot-because-it-has-a-womans-name.html,404,katespadesaturday,2024-01-08 19:45:45 +Feminism,192z1q1,"Lost tiktok, help me find It, plz","Was a husband saying his wife forgot tu Buy a can of some food, and he, decided not to buying, so she will remember. Something like.that. please :(",,0,sofiamm23,2024-01-10 04:02:30 +Feminism,191waye,"In his bid for U.S. Senate to unseat Ted Cruz in Texas, Democrat Colin Allred says he expects abortion rights issue to motivate voters",,https://www.khou.com/article/news/politics/inside-politics/texas-politics/in-bid-for-us-senate-democrat-colin-allred-says-he-expects-abortion-rights-issue-to-motivate-voters/287-47836750-e5d4-4008-9826-243cc89dcca9,280,audiomuse1,2024-01-08 21:16:59 Feminism,191v96h,Rightfully pointing out we live in a patriarchy society and that baby girls are and have been systematically subject to extreme misogyny (including abandonment and death) makes ME the sexist one ??,"I posted in another subreddit mainly frequented by women about babies/pregnancy how men being disappointed in not having sons cannot remotely be compared to women disappointed in not having daughters because of historical and widespread misogyny in our patriarchal society and I’M the one being called sexist ?? My full post: @@ -11139,24 +11139,24 @@ Only one gender has systemically throughout history been subject to widespread k I also hate how the ‘solution’ to men being disappointed in their baby girls is to already force the unborn baby girl to cater to the father, such as ‘she can still go fishing/play sports/do ‘manly’ things with you’. SHE is the BABY/CHILD, why does she have to change to cater to the father and he won’t even consider catering to his baby? What makes his interests so special? And yet a ‘boy mom’ will proudly uproot her whole life around her son’s hobbies (soccer mom etc), and never expect her son to care about or share in her interests. -I’ve had so many sexist, disappointing comments from people once they found out my baby is a girl, men and women included, across all generations. This includes a pervasive belief that baby boys are more special because they are ‘harder’ to get (it’s 50/50, that made me realise it’s the misogynistic belief in practice that when women make up just 14% or something of a crowd they’re seen as the majority because men are the default gender), teenage girls being demonised when it’s teen boys that commit crimes, are vandals and much worse in packs, baby boys “love their mother more”, that my husband is some how unlucky to be having a daughter, that it’s my fault we are having a girl (when men provide the other chromosome), and in their actions, including pressuring me to have another when I’ve not even birthed the first one and I am one and done, not acting excited by the gender, etc. Women still have so much internalised misogyny too that they don’t even realise it. The sexist passive aggressive comments have really impacted my mental health this pregnancy.",,262,BiscuitWoof,1704746097.0 +I’ve had so many sexist, disappointing comments from people once they found out my baby is a girl, men and women included, across all generations. This includes a pervasive belief that baby boys are more special because they are ‘harder’ to get (it’s 50/50, that made me realise it’s the misogynistic belief in practice that when women make up just 14% or something of a crowd they’re seen as the majority because men are the default gender), teenage girls being demonised when it’s teen boys that commit crimes, are vandals and much worse in packs, baby boys “love their mother more”, that my husband is some how unlucky to be having a daughter, that it’s my fault we are having a girl (when men provide the other chromosome), and in their actions, including pressuring me to have another when I’ve not even birthed the first one and I am one and done, not acting excited by the gender, etc. Women still have so much internalised misogyny too that they don’t even realise it. The sexist passive aggressive comments have really impacted my mental health this pregnancy.",,262,BiscuitWoof,2024-01-08 20:34:57 Feminism,1927nlp,When was the moment you realized you needed to be a feminist?,"Hey everyone! I'm a man so this isn't my space. But I'm a writer and I'm doing research for my screenplay. It's a romantic comedy. The female lead is a feminist and there's a touch of social commentary within the film. I'm aiming for authenticity. I've already taken boatloads of notes (""binders full of women"" as Mitt Romney put it) but I'd like to understand why feminism resonated with you personally. When was the moment when you realized you *had* to be a feminist? Did you witness or experience an injustice? Or was your awakening triggered by something else? - ",,42,Illmatic1990,1704779900.0 -Feminism,191c54f,Every woman in America must vote with this in mind,,https://i.redd.it/1s792119l3bc1.png,1088,thegreatreality00,1704687087.0 -Feminism,191pl1u,Viewers Furious After Golden Globes Host Jo Koy Jokes 'Barbie' Was A Movie About A 'Plastic Doll With Big Boobs',,https://vt.co/entertainment/golden-globes-host-jo-koy-barbie-joke,54,VT-Guide,1704732501.0 -Feminism,191k8kc,Kids,"I'm 32. Most my friends have kids. Now all the older adults (parents of friends or friends of parents) ask me if I want kids, or why I don't have kids. Sometimes, I feel like the only thing I amount to is what I can reproduce. I don't have a desire to have kids. I imagine these kinds of pressures and questions will only get worse as I age.",,64,Throwupacct7777777,1704717287.0 + ",,42,Illmatic1990,2024-01-09 05:58:20 +Feminism,191c54f,Every woman in America must vote with this in mind,,https://i.redd.it/1s792119l3bc1.png,1088,thegreatreality00,2024-01-08 04:11:27 +Feminism,191pl1u,Viewers Furious After Golden Globes Host Jo Koy Jokes 'Barbie' Was A Movie About A 'Plastic Doll With Big Boobs',,https://vt.co/entertainment/golden-globes-host-jo-koy-barbie-joke,54,VT-Guide,2024-01-08 16:48:21 +Feminism,191k8kc,Kids,"I'm 32. Most my friends have kids. Now all the older adults (parents of friends or friends of parents) ask me if I want kids, or why I don't have kids. Sometimes, I feel like the only thing I amount to is what I can reproduce. I don't have a desire to have kids. I imagine these kinds of pressures and questions will only get worse as I age.",,64,Throwupacct7777777,2024-01-08 12:34:47 Feminism,191b9mz,Is there an effective way to educate my boyfriend on Feminism?,"I have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 and a half months, and I’ve just noticed for a while that he seemingly hates women. I cannot think of a time where he said something nice about a woman. I’ll show him women sometimes (I think the ones I can remember are Cher, Alex Consani, and one of my college friends) and the first thing out of his mouth every time was “She’s ugly”. When we were in an argument recently he expressed that he doesn’t like that I talk with my friends about our problems because “A group chat full of women isn’t going to produce anything but negativity”. I brought it up to him in a discussion post-argument because I didn’t like his opinions on women, especially my friends, and he was kind of like “Well I had this ex that did that and she had some group of women always telling her to break up with me”. He doesn’t even seem to like his mom, but seems to sympathize with his dad who actively cheated on her. It kind of came to a head tonight, we were having a conversation and he said “I have never seen a good movie with a female lead” and I rattled off a number of movies he apparently hasn’t seen and then when I said one he did know he like explained it away like “Midsommar isn’t about just Dani” and “Horror movies don’t count because people don’t want to see horror movies with male protagonists because women are better at being scared”, and I cannot stop thinking about the conversation and the way he acted. With all this being said, he really hates incels, like to the core. He’s very adamant about how he thinks that Andrew Tate is a scourge on men and that toxic masculinity is extremely harmful and that he wouldn’t subscribe to that kind of behavior so I’m just finding it difficult to discern if he understands the impact of his behavior and how it actually reflects on him. I really want to give him the benefit of the doubt because he’s been really sweet and thoughtful, but I’m also not interested in pursuing a relationship with a man who hates women. I’m obviously willing to help him understand why what he’s saying is harmful, but is there even an effective way to do that? EDIT: ok I like logged out and came back to this. For the purpose of those asking for context of any kind, we’re both 19. I am in college, He is in paramedic school. I met him on a dating app and we went on a date in mid-late October. At the time I was very busy, I have a demanding career and I think we went on maybe 1-2 more dates in the span of the next month or so. Then things started to get kind of messy for me, I had a lot of problems come up. My car broke down and then I got really sick for a few days and then I ran into some financial problems and I fell into a deep depression due to burnout and some other factors. This guy was there for basically all of it. He drove me an hour to work and back for 2 days while my car was in the shop, he came and took care of me when I was sick, I had a big meltdown in his car and he encouraged me to seek help. He took me to be admitted to an inpatient facility for a few days, and he would call me 3 times a day and he took off work to collect my things to send me in the hospital. We haven’t done anything past kissing yet, I’ve got some past trauma with it, and I told him it probably wouldn’t be in the cards for a while, which he’s been very respectful of. The hang-up I’m having is that he’s clearly capable of empathy and thoughtfulness, and I don’t think of him to be a stupid person, but if he is those things then he should be able to see how harmful his words are, right? The only logical conclusion I can draw is that he doesn’t see me as a woman or something? Our argument was arguably my fault. I’ve got serious commitment issues, and it kind of started out as a “What are we?” Conversation. I admittedly said some harsh things about my expectations of him and he was hurt. The entire thing boiled down to “I don’t understand why you’re doing this if you’re not actually optimistic about it”, because at the time I wasn’t. -For those of you telling me to break it off. Honestly that’s probably my best course of action. Especially with the way that he talks about other women. Even if it’s not directed towards me, I don’t want to put him in the vicinity of other women that I’m close to, because he clearly doesn’t know how to treat them.",,145,Unusual_Point1785,1704684373.0 -Feminism,1916f2a,20 Most Feminist Countries in the World,"I take statistics with a big grain of salt but this article looks interesting. The 20-6 are listed in this article above, but the top five are listed in an [annoying article](https://www.insidermonkey.com/blog/5-most-feminist-countries-in-the-world-1194635/?singlepage=1), so here’s the top five: 5) Netherlands 4) Denmark 3) Norway 2) New Zealand 1) Sweden",https://finance.yahoo.com/news/20-most-feminist-countries-world-185531188.html,167,rswoodr,1704670974.0 +For those of you telling me to break it off. Honestly that’s probably my best course of action. Especially with the way that he talks about other women. Even if it’s not directed towards me, I don’t want to put him in the vicinity of other women that I’m close to, because he clearly doesn’t know how to treat them.",,145,Unusual_Point1785,2024-01-08 03:26:13 +Feminism,1916f2a,20 Most Feminist Countries in the World,"I take statistics with a big grain of salt but this article looks interesting. The 20-6 are listed in this article above, but the top five are listed in an [annoying article](https://www.insidermonkey.com/blog/5-most-feminist-countries-in-the-world-1194635/?singlepage=1), so here’s the top five: 5) Netherlands 4) Denmark 3) Norway 2) New Zealand 1) Sweden",https://finance.yahoo.com/news/20-most-feminist-countries-world-185531188.html,167,rswoodr,2024-01-07 23:42:54 Feminism,1922aq4,What do I do,"As a woman I often do not get along with women too well. It’s probably my social skills, but a lot of the times I get the sense that it is because of jealousy over boys or other things. Even if I rarely even interacted with a boy. If I try to talk to one and show my personality a bit they almost look at me with a scrunched up face or a disgusted one. I constantly make an effort to be a feminist and to never ruin the efforts and look down on the accomplishments of another woman. I also try to subdue any jealousies I have. But it does not work and people continue to be this way. Why is it that women can not get along. Can’t they see that the men turn us against each other. Isn’t there something wrong if a woman has to sacrifice being herself or doing normal things such as getting up from a chair in order to not be a threat or be looked at in a sexual way? -Ps: I’m in high school so that might also be part of it, but I have had this experience with most of the female adults in my life as well.",,1,Jocalderonie,1704763818.0 +Ps: I’m in high school so that might also be part of it, but I have had this experience with most of the female adults in my life as well.",,1,Jocalderonie,2024-01-09 01:30:18 Feminism,19171oh,How do you cope with sexism in anime/media?,"As I get older, I find myself becoming more angry about the choices people make and the content they consume. I’ve always considered myself alternative and hang around a lot in gaming / cosplay spaces, but I could never really get into watching anime. I never liked it because of its rampant sexism and fanservice and it’s enough for me not to read/comsume it. I know a lot of women enjoy the genre, even the more problematic ones. I haven’t had to really encounter it until my new friends and partner openly enjoy the genre and don’t enjoy much else. I’ve given it plenty of chances but it takes me out when something is so blatant and egregious. I’ve brought up my concerns to my partner and while they recognize and call out the problematic elements, the rest of the conversation just boils down to “I like the genre and there’s not much you can do about it”. I just feel like with the prevalence of it now, we’ve taken so many steps back. Like 90% of the stuff that happens in anime wouldn’t be able to pass now in your average TV show, and it feels like everyone is ignoring it. Even other feminists enjoy the genre and I simply can’t. I feel like I’m going crazy and either I need to cut everyone off and start new or find a way to cope. I don’t know if I’m overreacting or not. @@ -11164,25 +11164,25 @@ Feminism,19171oh,How do you cope with sexism in anime/media?,"As I get older, I I know all media has its problematic elements, in which I ask how do you all cope? I watch things for escapism, and then I’m reminded of my place and how I’m perceived in the world and I can’t actually escape. - I imagine a happier life where I don’t have to interact with this at all.",,85,Ok-Celebration-2698,1704672588.0 -Feminism,190rf01,"I’ve been a feminis for a year now, but everyone around me say that I shouldn’t be too vocal or else I wouldn’t get married",I’m from a developing country and as you know not everyone is aware about the condition. they say (even women) that my ideology is just too far. on the other hand I want to get married but I realize that many guy do not want to be with someone who are too loud about women right. how do I cope with these dual feeling? I just cannot give up with all women right be wronged and even majority of women from my country are fine with this condition,,180,Inevitable-Tea9649,1704631658.0 -Feminism,190hj8w,"An Iranian woman, Roya heshmati was sentenced to 74 lashes for wearing skirt, she wrote this testimony after the sentence was carried it out two days ago (read the comments)",,https://i.redd.it/zmklitxv5tac1.jpeg,1147,wtfiswrongwiithme,1704595277.0 -Feminism,190jyjx,"""Take your Quran and whip me, I am not going to cover my hair"" Roya Heshamti was whipped 74 times for sharing the following photo, she refused to cover her hair even when they were whipping her.",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/190jvki,340,Shekari_Club,1704602841.0 + I imagine a happier life where I don’t have to interact with this at all.",,85,Ok-Celebration-2698,2024-01-08 00:09:48 +Feminism,190rf01,"I’ve been a feminis for a year now, but everyone around me say that I shouldn’t be too vocal or else I wouldn’t get married",I’m from a developing country and as you know not everyone is aware about the condition. they say (even women) that my ideology is just too far. on the other hand I want to get married but I realize that many guy do not want to be with someone who are too loud about women right. how do I cope with these dual feeling? I just cannot give up with all women right be wronged and even majority of women from my country are fine with this condition,,180,Inevitable-Tea9649,2024-01-07 12:47:38 +Feminism,190hj8w,"An Iranian woman, Roya heshmati was sentenced to 74 lashes for wearing skirt, she wrote this testimony after the sentence was carried it out two days ago (read the comments)",,https://i.redd.it/zmklitxv5tac1.jpeg,1147,wtfiswrongwiithme,2024-01-07 02:41:17 +Feminism,190jyjx,"""Take your Quran and whip me, I am not going to cover my hair"" Roya Heshamti was whipped 74 times for sharing the following photo, she refused to cover her hair even when they were whipping her.",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/190jvki,340,Shekari_Club,2024-01-07 04:47:21 Feminism,190sdcs,"Women in video games done right… well, not for my cousin!","My cousin’s 15 and he still gets bored by a video game when he *has to play a female character.* He visibly dislikes having to do it. I watched him play The Last of Us and he actually sighed when control switched to *Ellie* from *Joel.* Why??? You’re still shooting zombies, still stabbing bad guys, nothing changed with the mechanics of the game! It’s just that now you’re playing a girl! I’’ll ask him to explain why he doesn’t like playing women characters and he literally can’t. He just shrugs and says, “I don’t know. I just don’t like it as much, I guess.” So frustrating to me. -Not to mention when he let me play Uncharted 4 on his PS5 and he proceeded to mansplain the controls to me even though I told him I already played 1, 2, and 3. He also tried to correct my interpretation of the story after he *told me he was confused* and I started filling in gaps for him from those three earlier installments he never played or watched. Sigh. I’ve never been able to hang out with him for longer than 10 minutes.",,55,culpadasfeiticeiras,1704634807.0 +Not to mention when he let me play Uncharted 4 on his PS5 and he proceeded to mansplain the controls to me even though I told him I already played 1, 2, and 3. He also tried to correct my interpretation of the story after he *told me he was confused* and I started filling in gaps for him from those three earlier installments he never played or watched. Sigh. I’ve never been able to hang out with him for longer than 10 minutes.",,55,culpadasfeiticeiras,2024-01-07 13:40:07 Feminism,190l5op,What's the prime mover of female oppression?,"Recently I've read an old paper called [Hands, Tools and Weapons](https://redsails.org/hands-tools-weapons/), which I highly recommend. Friedrich Engels assigns the origin of patriarchy to the emergence of private property and class society and it seems like it's been an orthodox position even since. We've all heard about comparative gender equality in 'primitive' societies, right? Well, in this paper a material feminist Paola Tabet meticulously catalogues labour practices of a whole bunch of hunter-gatherer and other pre-civilization societies and concludes that more often than women in those societies are prohibited from using the most advanced tools and weapons available, making the women dependent on men and relegated to the most tedious and tiring work. -What's curious is that the author leaves and open questions on how this first happening and why it kept happening. If this is a consistent pattern among all those people isolated from each other for millennia it seems prudent to assume it has deeper roots than mere happenstance. Maybe even a connection with childbirth, child rearing or just physical prowess? What do you guys think? Is there's a good paper on the topic I should read?",,189,PTI_brabanson,1704606664.0 +What's curious is that the author leaves and open questions on how this first happening and why it kept happening. If this is a consistent pattern among all those people isolated from each other for millennia it seems prudent to assume it has deeper roots than mere happenstance. Maybe even a connection with childbirth, child rearing or just physical prowess? What do you guys think? Is there's a good paper on the topic I should read?",,189,PTI_brabanson,2024-01-07 05:51:04 Feminism,190mclv,Choosing to go grey naturally,"I'm on my early 40s, and have been going grey for 20 years. Sparsely at first, but more rapidly in the last 5 or so years. I've committed to not coloring my hair because I think it BS that women feel obligated to cover signs of aging, including grey hair. Usually I'm fine with this, but I find that as I progress in my career and my hair continues to become more and more grey, I worry about how I am perceived by others and how ""old"" I look because of my hair (combined with my refusal to partake in many beauty regimens like botox, heavy makeup, etc.). -How do you stay on the course and not allow yourself to give in to traditional beauty norms? I don't usually worry about this kind of thing, but every once in a while I second guess my choices. I haven't received any comments regarding my hair or appearance, but I see literally everyone around me in their 40s and earlier dyeing their hair, getting surgery or injections, etc., and I struggle with comparing myself to them. Any advice?",,99,saltandvinegar935,1704610951.0 +How do you stay on the course and not allow yourself to give in to traditional beauty norms? I don't usually worry about this kind of thing, but every once in a while I second guess my choices. I haven't received any comments regarding my hair or appearance, but I see literally everyone around me in their 40s and earlier dyeing their hair, getting surgery or injections, etc., and I struggle with comparing myself to them. Any advice?",,99,saltandvinegar935,2024-01-07 07:02:31 Feminism,190haon,Cried while debating about feminism,"(First post in this topic, I hope it will suit here) Tonight, I debated over feminism... Well actually I tried to explain to some guys friends notions related to feminism, like rape culture and objectification of women in our society. I tried my best to explain as best as I can, in the simplest words and especially, having enough empathy and understanding of men's point of view on this kind of subject, so that they could understand why it is ""normal"" for them not to comprehend right away the causes and issues involved @@ -11191,52 +11191,52 @@ I cried because I felt so hopeless, so dumb and discredited Have you lived similar situations? How to prevent them? -Especially crying of anger",,218,Haloauran,1704594565.0 -Feminism,190k3jf,The GOP Hopes Contraception Can Solve Its Abortion Problem,,https://www.thedailybeast.com/the-gop-hopes-contraception-can-solve-its-abortion-problem,55,Jojuj,1704603280.0 -Feminism,1908sjt,"A woman whose stomach isn’t perfectly flat = pregnant, obviously",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18zyyhs,252,SophiaofPrussia,1704571638.0 -Feminism,1905q1f,Women always had hot flashes at work. Now they’re done hiding menopause,,https://www.latimes.com/business/story/2024-01-05/women-always-had-hot-flashes-at-work-now-theyre-done-hiding-menopause,114,BlankVerse,1704563838.0 +Especially crying of anger",,218,Haloauran,2024-01-07 02:29:25 +Feminism,190k3jf,The GOP Hopes Contraception Can Solve Its Abortion Problem,,https://www.thedailybeast.com/the-gop-hopes-contraception-can-solve-its-abortion-problem,55,Jojuj,2024-01-07 04:54:40 +Feminism,1908sjt,"A woman whose stomach isn’t perfectly flat = pregnant, obviously",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18zyyhs,252,SophiaofPrussia,2024-01-06 20:07:18 +Feminism,1905q1f,Women always had hot flashes at work. Now they’re done hiding menopause,,https://www.latimes.com/business/story/2024-01-05/women-always-had-hot-flashes-at-work-now-theyre-done-hiding-menopause,114,BlankVerse,2024-01-06 17:57:18 Feminism,18zsn2i,My underarms are fully grown out. I let them loose at the gym today.,"And it felt really, really good. When I got there, I told myself that I would find myself a quiet corner or modify so as to not to flash my pits. Then I had a thought. Men have never had to give a second thought to rocking up to the gym with hairy anything. Why should I not allow myself the same grace. -Felt so freeing to deadhang with my wonderfully fluffy pits on display.",,735,gg_capn_crunch,1704519374.0 -Feminism,1906he4,Oscar Pistorius release: A reminder of South Africa's femicide problem,,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-67873941,54,BurtonDesque,1704565755.0 +Felt so freeing to deadhang with my wonderfully fluffy pits on display.",,735,gg_capn_crunch,2024-01-06 05:36:14 +Feminism,1906he4,Oscar Pistorius release: A reminder of South Africa's femicide problem,,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-67873941,54,BurtonDesque,2024-01-06 18:29:15 Feminism,190bqzl,Support women owned businesses,"I would like to know if there is a platform which only has female own businesses or female freelancers. A platform in which anyone can support talented women, especially those in male dominated industries. -Let me know if this is something that exists.",,25,anamaharaj,1704579210.0 -Feminism,1909t7g,"In order to support female musicians I made an all out female fronted music playlist. If u dig ALternative, Indie, Dream Pop u might dig this. Lets support the artists!!",,https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5rvYF6fSJsBpIpXQOC3sd0?si=dcc8ca40f54644ba,20,Brilliant-Sell-9127,1704574248.0 -Feminism,1900uag,19 Remarkable Female Artists Who Reshaped the Art World,,https://adrianreynolds.ie/female-artists/,36,RenCreativeWorks,1704550414.0 -Feminism,190c89u,Suggestions for a Career Advocating for Neurodiverse/Intellectually Disabled Women,Hello. I hope this is an appropriate sub for this question. I have an undergraduate degree in women’s and gender studies. My career focus right now is on nonprofit work with IDD populations. I would love to go back to school and combine these interests. But I am not sure what sort of career would be best suited for this. I have a few ideas but I would love to hear your suggestions and thoughts. Thank you!,,8,matts-ears,1704580443.0 -Feminism,18zpx93,"Hossein Ronaghi, Iranian activist, has posted a story of a woman who recieved lashes and her resistance for not wearing hijab. I have translated this to the best of my abilities.",,https://i.redd.it/lxxqj7hbriac1.jpeg,191,SabziPoloBaMahee,1704510695.0 -Feminism,18zxwm9,Do you have any book recommendations that dismantle misogyny in our sex culture?,I am new to the topic and haven't found a book that specifically talks about how misogyny in sex culture (and sexual objectification of women in general),,36,Upper_Forever_9530,1704539899.0 -Feminism,18zpthc,Abortion Rally in Minnesota Tomorrow,,https://i.redd.it/15xkhqqikqac1.jpeg,125,LinneyBee,1704510392.0 -Feminism,18zptki,"Iranian Hijab Rebels Whipped, Given Jail Term - if you are a feminist, please tell other people about these brave women",,https://www.iranintl.com/en/202401050537,52,SabziPoloBaMahee,1704510399.0 -Feminism,18zg93l,“It Wasn’t That Bad” is Rape Culture,,https://youtu.be/lhgM7_q7YxE?si=nqlNgue-PrxgQ2dS,133,comrade_kathrin,1704485458.0 +Let me know if this is something that exists.",,25,anamaharaj,2024-01-06 22:13:30 +Feminism,1909t7g,"In order to support female musicians I made an all out female fronted music playlist. If u dig ALternative, Indie, Dream Pop u might dig this. Lets support the artists!!",,https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5rvYF6fSJsBpIpXQOC3sd0?si=dcc8ca40f54644ba,20,Brilliant-Sell-9127,2024-01-06 20:50:48 +Feminism,1900uag,19 Remarkable Female Artists Who Reshaped the Art World,,https://adrianreynolds.ie/female-artists/,36,RenCreativeWorks,2024-01-06 14:13:34 +Feminism,190c89u,Suggestions for a Career Advocating for Neurodiverse/Intellectually Disabled Women,Hello. I hope this is an appropriate sub for this question. I have an undergraduate degree in women’s and gender studies. My career focus right now is on nonprofit work with IDD populations. I would love to go back to school and combine these interests. But I am not sure what sort of career would be best suited for this. I have a few ideas but I would love to hear your suggestions and thoughts. Thank you!,,8,matts-ears,2024-01-06 22:34:03 +Feminism,18zpx93,"Hossein Ronaghi, Iranian activist, has posted a story of a woman who recieved lashes and her resistance for not wearing hijab. I have translated this to the best of my abilities.",,https://i.redd.it/lxxqj7hbriac1.jpeg,191,SabziPoloBaMahee,2024-01-06 03:11:35 +Feminism,18zxwm9,Do you have any book recommendations that dismantle misogyny in our sex culture?,I am new to the topic and haven't found a book that specifically talks about how misogyny in sex culture (and sexual objectification of women in general),,36,Upper_Forever_9530,2024-01-06 11:18:19 +Feminism,18zpthc,Abortion Rally in Minnesota Tomorrow,,https://i.redd.it/15xkhqqikqac1.jpeg,125,LinneyBee,2024-01-06 03:06:32 +Feminism,18zptki,"Iranian Hijab Rebels Whipped, Given Jail Term - if you are a feminist, please tell other people about these brave women",,https://www.iranintl.com/en/202401050537,52,SabziPoloBaMahee,2024-01-06 03:06:39 +Feminism,18zg93l,“It Wasn’t That Bad” is Rape Culture,,https://youtu.be/lhgM7_q7YxE?si=nqlNgue-PrxgQ2dS,133,comrade_kathrin,2024-01-05 20:10:58 Feminism,18zm6hj,what some people may consider a 'pick me' might as well be the result of societal gender stereotypes,"first i'd like to clear up that i am a girl, and i have suffered my own ""pick me"" phase. i've often seen the woman stereotype called a ""pick me girl"", and i know women like that actually exist, but if you look at it from another way, maybe the ""i'm not like other girls!"" community was derived from the way society has represented women as feminine conglomerations of makeup, fashion and short skirts. maybe these 'pick me women' would like to be seen as more than makeup and feminine stereotypes- to be able to express themselves and indulge in masculine content. maybe, instead of being associated with pink- a color that has been stereotyped to represent femininity, they would like to be characterized by their own personalities instead of the gender stereotypes they are forced to endure throughout history. i am in no way saying that any cisgender woman would like less to be a woman than to be a man, nor am i saying that these women don't enjoy 'womanhood' as we call it, i am just trying to say that these specific pick me women as society may call them, would just like to be seen as unique instead of enduring that one male catchphrase ""all girls are the same!"" or the strange and unreasonable ""pink is for girls, blue is for boys!"" stereotype. i apologize if this may not make any sense, i did not read through it before attempting to post. -edit: i feel like a lot of people are misunderstanding me. did nobody read the part that said “i know actual pick me women who genuinely like to put other women down to make themselves feel better exist”? i am not talking about those girls. i am talking about the other women, like myself and a few others i have known, who were called ”pick mes” for simply expressing themselves.",,61,Minute-Ad-3733,1704500293.0 -Feminism,18zm8h8,What happened to Naomi Wolf,"What is up with Naomi Wolf, her old interviews quite sensible when did she change her stance. Can someone explain the nuances of her changing stances, support of conspiracy theories etc.",,15,thesumitkataria,1704500427.0 -Feminism,18za06s,Feminist reading recommendations,"Hi, are there any feminist texts or books that you would recommend or that really impacted you. History, theories anything is fine. I want to read more, especially involving POC perspectives.Thanks♡",,48,Big-Department3429,1704469898.0 +edit: i feel like a lot of people are misunderstanding me. did nobody read the part that said “i know actual pick me women who genuinely like to put other women down to make themselves feel better exist”? i am not talking about those girls. i am talking about the other women, like myself and a few others i have known, who were called ”pick mes” for simply expressing themselves.",,61,Minute-Ad-3733,2024-01-06 00:18:13 +Feminism,18zm8h8,What happened to Naomi Wolf,"What is up with Naomi Wolf, her old interviews quite sensible when did she change her stance. Can someone explain the nuances of her changing stances, support of conspiracy theories etc.",,15,thesumitkataria,2024-01-06 00:20:27 +Feminism,18za06s,Feminist reading recommendations,"Hi, are there any feminist texts or books that you would recommend or that really impacted you. History, theories anything is fine. I want to read more, especially involving POC perspectives.Thanks♡",,48,Big-Department3429,2024-01-05 15:51:38 Feminism,18zq8hy,Book recommendations?,"Does anyone have any book or academic article recommendations about sexism in the lesbian community? I'm a latebloomer (came out when I was older), and I am struggling. I spent my adult life dealing with misogyny from men... and surprisingly to me, I'm experiencing it worse from some women now. Need some insights/advice on how to deal with it. -If your curious what I'm talking about- this one article I found gives a great overview of what it is like to be on the receiving end of misogyny in a lesbian relationship: [https://www.autostraddle.com/butch-please-butch-with-a-side-of-misogyny-174442/](https://www.autostraddle.com/butch-please-butch-with-a-side-of-misogyny-174442/)",,3,LDSthrowaway2014,1704511654.0 -Feminism,18zi917,A great video about why Rey's arc is great and the heroine's journey as a whole,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9DedBXeGTfg,5,ClaireDacloush,1704490412.0 -Feminism,18yu4l8,"Is it implicit sexism for men to view periods as ""gross""?","While some guys view menstruation as taboo, which is the reason they think this normal process is repulsive, I've noticed that many men unknowingly have this belief. I believe there is underlying prejudice behind the notion that menstruation should make males uncomfortable. Many males refuse to understand this natural process they do not want to talk about is due to root in sexism. I don’t think it’s right that men are even allowed to have a negative opinion on periods, but that might just be me. Thoughts?",,170,peenapon,1704417814.0 +If your curious what I'm talking about- this one article I found gives a great overview of what it is like to be on the receiving end of misogyny in a lesbian relationship: [https://www.autostraddle.com/butch-please-butch-with-a-side-of-misogyny-174442/](https://www.autostraddle.com/butch-please-butch-with-a-side-of-misogyny-174442/)",,3,LDSthrowaway2014,2024-01-06 03:27:34 +Feminism,18zi917,A great video about why Rey's arc is great and the heroine's journey as a whole,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9DedBXeGTfg,5,ClaireDacloush,2024-01-05 21:33:32 +Feminism,18yu4l8,"Is it implicit sexism for men to view periods as ""gross""?","While some guys view menstruation as taboo, which is the reason they think this normal process is repulsive, I've noticed that many men unknowingly have this belief. I believe there is underlying prejudice behind the notion that menstruation should make males uncomfortable. Many males refuse to understand this natural process they do not want to talk about is due to root in sexism. I don’t think it’s right that men are even allowed to have a negative opinion on periods, but that might just be me. Thoughts?",,170,peenapon,2024-01-05 01:23:34 Feminism,18yk6nt,Preteens using anti-aging products makes me feel so depressed for the next generation,"I get that brands like Drunk Elephant are all over tiktok but these poor girls have been conditioned to believe that aging is a bad thing. Plus, the whole thing about not using straws because they give you lines. -Really just feeds into the idea that women have an expiration date and aren’t pretty past this. I feel so sad when I think about it",,458,komaedacat,1704393172.0 +Really just feeds into the idea that women have an expiration date and aren’t pretty past this. I feel so sad when I think about it",,458,komaedacat,2024-01-04 18:32:52 Feminism,18yubtm,"If you are questioning, just cut your hair","I hate the way society treats women and their hair. So many women have long hair just because of the pressures of others. The way hair pills, prescriptions, and even extentions are pushed on women is just sad. You are not your hair! -I am a big alternative women that recently started cutting my hair short (spiked on top, buzzed sides) and its been eye opening. I realized that people who don't like or judge you are going to regardless of your hair, face, weight, so on. It has been freeing not giving a flip what people think of me because I genuinely don't care. I look like a queer feminist (I am so its not an insult) and I embrace it. Luckly my 17 year old has never felt the pressure to keep their hair long because I never put that on them. You are worth so much more than what you look like. If you are debating on cutting your hair do it! Live for yourself and not the label society put on you.",,107,AnxiousReputation247,1704418364.0 -Feminism,18yj87h,Political for existing.,I hate being political just because I am a woman. Every female character every instance of female empowerment is somehow political. I hate it. Anyone else who does rant here.,,376,[deleted],1704390856.0 -Feminism,18yzhgq,Women Are Lied To About Their Implants - Candice Barley,,https://youtube.com/shorts/j0gSN1ufW-Y?si=wCJ3JhmkiehYF7AT,24,stretchedglassed,1704433844.0 -Feminism,18z1oa2,Making feminist friends from Sweden,"In short, I'll be relocating to Sweden after this gig in NYC, so I'd really love to get a true glimpse of what feminism looks like there, especially from natives. I've been there to visit several times but it's hard to gauge much from week-long trips. If anyone on here is from Sweden or living there would like to be Internet buds, give me a shout-out. I'm LGBTQIA+, and have a wide range of Dark Academia-esque hobbies and interests. Down for talking about most things outside of the wretched state of politics, dating men, and when I plan on procreating.",,15,AcanthaceaeFancy3887,1704441852.0 -Feminism,18ykhf3,"Shelley Duvall's Traumatic Experience, and Psychological Abuse Staring in ""The Shining"".",,https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=tdf13FM1ueU&pp=ygUqc2hlbGxleSBkdXZhbGwgc3RhbmxleSBrdWJyaWNrJ3MgdHJlYXRtZW50,24,Dry_Possible_6888,1704393896.0 +I am a big alternative women that recently started cutting my hair short (spiked on top, buzzed sides) and its been eye opening. I realized that people who don't like or judge you are going to regardless of your hair, face, weight, so on. It has been freeing not giving a flip what people think of me because I genuinely don't care. I look like a queer feminist (I am so its not an insult) and I embrace it. Luckly my 17 year old has never felt the pressure to keep their hair long because I never put that on them. You are worth so much more than what you look like. If you are debating on cutting your hair do it! Live for yourself and not the label society put on you.",,107,AnxiousReputation247,2024-01-05 01:32:44 +Feminism,18yj87h,Political for existing.,I hate being political just because I am a woman. Every female character every instance of female empowerment is somehow political. I hate it. Anyone else who does rant here.,,376,[deleted],2024-01-04 17:54:16 +Feminism,18yzhgq,Women Are Lied To About Their Implants - Candice Barley,,https://youtube.com/shorts/j0gSN1ufW-Y?si=wCJ3JhmkiehYF7AT,24,stretchedglassed,2024-01-05 05:50:44 +Feminism,18z1oa2,Making feminist friends from Sweden,"In short, I'll be relocating to Sweden after this gig in NYC, so I'd really love to get a true glimpse of what feminism looks like there, especially from natives. I've been there to visit several times but it's hard to gauge much from week-long trips. If anyone on here is from Sweden or living there would like to be Internet buds, give me a shout-out. I'm LGBTQIA+, and have a wide range of Dark Academia-esque hobbies and interests. Down for talking about most things outside of the wretched state of politics, dating men, and when I plan on procreating.",,15,AcanthaceaeFancy3887,2024-01-05 08:04:12 +Feminism,18ykhf3,"Shelley Duvall's Traumatic Experience, and Psychological Abuse Staring in ""The Shining"".",,https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=tdf13FM1ueU&pp=ygUqc2hlbGxleSBkdXZhbGwgc3RhbmxleSBrdWJyaWNrJ3MgdHJlYXRtZW50,24,Dry_Possible_6888,2024-01-04 18:44:56 Feminism,18y9nq2,Facebook Reels are objectifying women and we should have the option to turn them off,"I'm not sure if this is the case for everyone, maybe it's what I see because I'm a man, but Reels on Facebook are sexually suggestive and objectifying women. It ranges from the mild, like a woman bouncing while wearing something that shows a lot of cleavage, to women having pretending or even having sex on camera, but hiding most of the nudity. I don't generally interact with them, other than clicking on one once in a blue moon. I've never clicked like on one of them, in fact I tried for while to click ""Show less"", but it doesn't work. I only use Facebook to keep in touch with friends and family. I don't subscribe to any adult content or anything like that. And there seems to be no way to get rid of Reels from my feed, just hide them temporarily. @@ -11245,9 +11245,9 @@ I've written Facebook to complain about it and sent a bunch of screenshots. I do I've written here to raise awareness about this and see if it's common or maybe I'm an outlier. Also, I want to encourage people to complain about this to Facebook. I'm not posting the screenshots I took but I can provide them if needed. -Edit: Issue is fixed. It looks like the reels algorithm is very sensitive to the reels you click on. I spent some time clicking on anything else that showed up and that fixed it. I think what happened was that some time ago I decided I didn't want to see any sexually suggestive content. So I would click on the reel and click on ""see less of this"" thinking that it would help. Seems it did the opposite. ",,103,Space-cowboy-06,1704362664.0 -Feminism,18y48z7,How can I stop this same pattern?,"I'm repeating this same pattern: I start relationships with people. They have parts I like and dislike. What I hate the most is that they are not serious about sexual abuse, etc. I am desperately careful about choosing who I date with, and they are the ""best"". It makes me feel disgusted, hurt, pain, and anger. I tell them about this, and they apologize and become careful. But it's not enough, and I still feel pain and anger. I tell them again, and they get hurt, exhausted, angry with me, give up on me, and say ""I did my best but it wasn't enough for you"" ""I don't have energy to be with you"" ""I want to focus on myself"" ""I was irresponsible to be with you"" ""The best solution is not seeing each other"". I feel devastated and leave them. How can I stop this same pattern?",,46,jntnkm,1704342604.0 -Feminism,18xi7k1,"China Is Pressing Women to Have More Babies. Many Are Saying No. - The population, now around 1.4 billion, is likely to drop to around half a billion by 2100—and women are being blamed",,https://www.wsj.com/articles/china-population-births-decline-womens-rights-5af9937b,791,pocahontas_daughter,1704284683.0 +Edit: Issue is fixed. It looks like the reels algorithm is very sensitive to the reels you click on. I spent some time clicking on anything else that showed up and that fixed it. I think what happened was that some time ago I decided I didn't want to see any sexually suggestive content. So I would click on the reel and click on ""see less of this"" thinking that it would help. Seems it did the opposite. ",,103,Space-cowboy-06,2024-01-04 10:04:24 +Feminism,18y48z7,How can I stop this same pattern?,"I'm repeating this same pattern: I start relationships with people. They have parts I like and dislike. What I hate the most is that they are not serious about sexual abuse, etc. I am desperately careful about choosing who I date with, and they are the ""best"". It makes me feel disgusted, hurt, pain, and anger. I tell them about this, and they apologize and become careful. But it's not enough, and I still feel pain and anger. I tell them again, and they get hurt, exhausted, angry with me, give up on me, and say ""I did my best but it wasn't enough for you"" ""I don't have energy to be with you"" ""I want to focus on myself"" ""I was irresponsible to be with you"" ""The best solution is not seeing each other"". I feel devastated and leave them. How can I stop this same pattern?",,46,jntnkm,2024-01-04 04:30:04 +Feminism,18xi7k1,"China Is Pressing Women to Have More Babies. Many Are Saying No. - The population, now around 1.4 billion, is likely to drop to around half a billion by 2100—and women are being blamed",,https://www.wsj.com/articles/china-population-births-decline-womens-rights-5af9937b,791,pocahontas_daughter,2024-01-03 12:24:43 Feminism,18xc1yx,"SUCCESS STORY! About defending my space, and another guy had my back! Best feeling ever!"," After years of kicking myself for holding back when I should have let it rip, I have basically resolved to start just saying my knee-jerk response whenever a man gets on my nerves. (Usually it's a personal space issue or a mansplaining issue. Hate that!) @@ -11260,9 +11260,9 @@ Me: (DONE with this guy): STEP BACK AND GET YOUR HANDS OUT OF MY SPACE! THIS IS So I reported him and asked the guy working to document it. As I was leaving, I heard the old guy's sob story, that the encounter was ""bizarre "" I gave him the stink eye but assumed the guy working believed him. So I called later to make sure he'd actually documented it . Here's what he said: ""Yes, I documented it. I put a note in his account that this happened and told him we have a policy that if someone says you're in their personal space, to just step back."" -I couldn't believe it. I was fully expecting to have to file a report on the guy working, too, for dismissing it. Instead I kind of gushed to the guy: ""This is AWESOME! It means a lot to have a man agree it's a problem and actually say something. I have a lot of respect for you!"" He said no problem and it ended on a good note.",,248,No_Celery9390,1704261375.0 -Feminism,18xq217,Marvel's 'Echo' star Alaqua Cox on motherhood and deaf representation in the MCU. (The trailer actually looked good and I liked the grittiness. I hope they really explore her Indigenous history in the show).,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hmtt_uf4VFQ,23,ScaredSilly12,1704306299.0 -Feminism,18x36jj,"Open letter to UN Women and its partners: ""Your silence is unforgivable.""",,https://www.metoo-unlessurajew.com/copy-of-privacy-policy?fbclid=PAAabkwdHakIxCGkjy7HfJLh9A1N4FRuLCkwDu3bftXx6V-ace6IlmlxWMzqI,134,tristessellate,1704236386.0 +I couldn't believe it. I was fully expecting to have to file a report on the guy working, too, for dismissing it. Instead I kind of gushed to the guy: ""This is AWESOME! It means a lot to have a man agree it's a problem and actually say something. I have a lot of respect for you!"" He said no problem and it ended on a good note.",,248,No_Celery9390,2024-01-03 05:56:15 +Feminism,18xq217,Marvel's 'Echo' star Alaqua Cox on motherhood and deaf representation in the MCU. (The trailer actually looked good and I liked the grittiness. I hope they really explore her Indigenous history in the show).,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hmtt_uf4VFQ,23,ScaredSilly12,2024-01-03 18:24:59 +Feminism,18x36jj,"Open letter to UN Women and its partners: ""Your silence is unforgivable.""",,https://www.metoo-unlessurajew.com/copy-of-privacy-policy?fbclid=PAAabkwdHakIxCGkjy7HfJLh9A1N4FRuLCkwDu3bftXx6V-ace6IlmlxWMzqI,134,tristessellate,2024-01-02 22:59:46 Feminism,18wnt0m,"Not all men, but all women","(I don't know how well I'm going to get my point across but I'll try) Every feminist discussion regarding male violence against women and girls is flooded with variations of this sentiment. The main fear of the ""not all men"" demographic is that every man would be punished for the deeds of a few, right? Some of them even assert that they are already being punished. That they are afraid to talk to women or work with them. But women have always been punished for the violence that men enact against us. Collectively. Here are two events that have happened in the past month: @@ -11285,12 +11285,12 @@ I know I'm not saying anything new. Imagine curfews aimed only at men (or strict **Women are collectively punished for the deeds of men.** No law specifically targets men, like in the two articles I've shared above. No institutes are openly threatening to not hire men in response to a social movement. -So do the notallmen men think this is fair? Are they speaking out against this? Notallwomen too, right?",,737,identitty_theft,1704196798.0 +So do the notallmen men think this is fair? Are they speaking out against this? Notallwomen too, right?",,737,identitty_theft,2024-01-02 11:59:58 Feminism,18wwxxc,How to defend women against sexist “jokes”?,"Unfortunately I am going to college in a very conservative and sexist environment that I have no control over. My friends and classmates are constantly making sexist comments such as “it’s a woman’s duty to make babies” or “girls are too much drama”. As a feminist I try to call out these remarks, telling them it's sexist and not true. However, my friends always get super defensive and say I'm overreacting. They tell me ""it's just a joke, get over it"" and I end up looking overly sensitive and stupid. I also feel guilty whenever they tell me it was just a joke and that I shouldn’t take it too seriously. How should I go about this? -Edit: forgot to mention, I am a girl and most of my friends that are saying this are girls as well",,197,sirikim8,1704221459.0 -Feminism,18wvf1w,Orlando 1928 by Virginia Woolf is now in the public domain,,https://i.redd.it/r3gtkxqad2ac1.jpeg,39,NoxEgoqueSoli,1704217825.0 -Feminism,18whump,"""Please guys… Don’t be like him."" - it is horrifying that the mods of the GTA6_NEW sub have to beg the community to avoid this kind of behavior just WTF",,https://i.redd.it/zv7bpw08uw9c1.jpeg,302,Arivanya,1704174000.0 +Edit: forgot to mention, I am a girl and most of my friends that are saying this are girls as well",,197,sirikim8,2024-01-02 18:50:59 +Feminism,18wvf1w,Orlando 1928 by Virginia Woolf is now in the public domain,,https://i.redd.it/r3gtkxqad2ac1.jpeg,39,NoxEgoqueSoli,2024-01-02 17:50:25 +Feminism,18whump,"""Please guys… Don’t be like him."" - it is horrifying that the mods of the GTA6_NEW sub have to beg the community to avoid this kind of behavior just WTF",,https://i.redd.it/zv7bpw08uw9c1.jpeg,302,Arivanya,2024-01-02 05:40:00 Feminism,18wr49a,"I'm tired of people assuming abused women stay for psychological reasons. In my experience and observation, it's almost always a matter of resources.","Every time I was in an abusive relationship, I would have left immediately if I had had somewhere safe and adequate to go, and I suspect it was the same for virtually every abused woman I've known. Sure, when someone asks why they stay or came back, they'll give reasons like ""Well he (said he) changed"" or ""It wasn't really that bad"", and people will interpret that to mean that she thinks she deserves it/ feels ""unworthy"", etc., but I really suspect they say that because the real (or more important) reasons would make other people uncomfortable and start arguments. Reasons like ""sleeping in my car was messing up my back"", ""I missed being able to sit down and read sometimes"" ""I'm just so uncomfortable couch-surfing at friends/relatives' places"", or ""The only housing I can afford is a room in a boarding house"". @@ -11307,14 +11307,14 @@ It's also unrealistic to expect women to ""just walk"" at the first sign of abus If we, as a society, want to stop domestic abuse, what we need to do is provide alternatives. Women's shelters and organizations that provide them are ridiculously, criminally underfunded. Last I heard, there might be one spot open for several dozens of women who need it, and waiting lists that women stay on for years. On top of it, mileage may vary here, but I've talked to women who told me that the shelter didn't allow children in. I think it might be a legal/safety thing, but still, who here thinks that asking a woman to leave a violent man *while leaving her children with him* is a reasonable proposition? -TL;DR: I don't think that women stay in abusive relationships out of a ""lack of self-worth"" nearly as often as they stay out of a lack of adequate housing and necessary resources. If we want to stop abuse, we should fund DV shelters specifically and ensure availability of the necessities of life in general. ",,6,askmeabouttheforest,1704206935.0 -Feminism,18wbc33,"I follow Lexi Alexander (Director Punisher War Zone) on X and found this old interview of hers. She talks about the Hollywood struggle as a female director. Great interview. It feels like Hollywood has blacklisted her from making movies, I wish she gets the opportunity to make more movies.",,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ifYhVFyrbGQ,21,ScaredSilly12,1704154936.0 +TL;DR: I don't think that women stay in abusive relationships out of a ""lack of self-worth"" nearly as often as they stay out of a lack of adequate housing and necessary resources. If we want to stop abuse, we should fund DV shelters specifically and ensure availability of the necessities of life in general. ",,6,askmeabouttheforest,2024-01-02 14:48:55 +Feminism,18wbc33,"I follow Lexi Alexander (Director Punisher War Zone) on X and found this old interview of hers. She talks about the Hollywood struggle as a female director. Great interview. It feels like Hollywood has blacklisted her from making movies, I wish she gets the opportunity to make more movies.",,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ifYhVFyrbGQ,21,ScaredSilly12,2024-01-02 00:22:16 Feminism,18w0kuv,Anxiety going through a friends comment section,"Hi everyone, this is a bit of a niche post but I'm not sure where else to put it because it will deal with topics like sexualisation and objectification. Recently my friend blew up on social media and became super viral. Our friend group has been solid for over a year and the moment we met her we just knew she would be famous. She just had that kind of influencer/model look to her. We are all extremely proud of her and we are all glad that she is so well liked by the public. I don't want to make her fame seem like a bad thing so I never brought this up with her extensively, whenever I open her comment sections there are just wildly vulgar and sexual comments made about her as well as men forming parasocial relationships with her and getting aggressive and accusing her of ""leading them on"" when all she did was post her videos. Her videos have reached Reddit as well and of course, the comments are just as disgusting. There are edits made of her on TikTok collected from her videos which are clearly made to fetishize her. -Of course, as a woman this has made me extremely uncomfortable and whenever I open her comment sections I just feel my heart drop and fill with dread. I have brought this up with my boyfriend, and cried about it as well. He has also expressed how uncomfortable he felt seeing those comments about her. My questions are, is it normal to feel this deeply and sensitively about seeing these comments made about her? Also, does anybody have any similar experiences and how they have managed to cope with these feelings?",,61,Tlsdml,1704127424.0 -Feminism,18vq9nv,Does anyone else get nauseated and disgusted by sexism?,My entire life I have been nauseated and repulsed by sexism. I honestly think I have a form of PTSD from it. I think it's because I don't believe any of it to be true whatsoever. Tbh I feel like life is so nuanced and complex. I just don't think a lot of sexist opinions are objectively true and I feel like they are people just giving their bullshit opinions and that gender stereotypes hold women back and prevent them from accomplishing greatness. ,,325,[deleted],1704088525.0 +Of course, as a woman this has made me extremely uncomfortable and whenever I open her comment sections I just feel my heart drop and fill with dread. I have brought this up with my boyfriend, and cried about it as well. He has also expressed how uncomfortable he felt seeing those comments about her. My questions are, is it normal to feel this deeply and sensitively about seeing these comments made about her? Also, does anybody have any similar experiences and how they have managed to cope with these feelings?",,61,Tlsdml,2024-01-01 16:43:44 +Feminism,18vq9nv,Does anyone else get nauseated and disgusted by sexism?,My entire life I have been nauseated and repulsed by sexism. I honestly think I have a form of PTSD from it. I think it's because I don't believe any of it to be true whatsoever. Tbh I feel like life is so nuanced and complex. I just don't think a lot of sexist opinions are objectively true and I feel like they are people just giving their bullshit opinions and that gender stereotypes hold women back and prevent them from accomplishing greatness. ,,325,[deleted],2024-01-01 05:55:25 Feminism,18vu9vx,Would real feminist date a guy despite knowing he punched woman before?,"Hello everyone, First, I apologize for stupid question, but I just got in an argument with my friend who consider herself a feminist. @@ -11335,17 +11335,17 @@ After he told her that she said she simply melted by his words and she fell for After I said I can't believe she felt for a guy that recently punched woman and that I don't think she'll be happy in another relationship that will most likely end up getting her abused in at least some way and after I said ""how can she call herself feminist while going in relationship with a guy who physically assaulted another woman?"" she got very offended. Could you please tell me do you think she's a real feminist if she's going into relationship with guy knowing he assaulted another woman or am I really that dumb by saying to her she'll end up abused and hurted yet again? -Should I just let her do whatever she wants despite knowing it's very bad for her and simply mind my own business knowing she'll get hurt again?",,82,PetarRPD,1704105630.0 -Feminism,18vpv4e,I'm Confused! How Is Poor Things A Feminist Movie?,"At least that's what I think I read somewhere, & I just walked out of it, and at is mainly about a woman who is not that smart being taken advantage of sexually by men. It's basically Porn, and as a Pornsick person in recovery I had to leave because I fear a relapse.",,142,JobsLoveMoney-NotYou,1704086907.0 -Feminism,18vuxxv,"Toxic Masculinity, Femicide, and the Cowardly Abuser",,https://thethreepennyguignol.com/2021/05/01/toxic-masculinity-femicide-and-the-cowardly-abuser/,46,cutpriceguignol,1704108538.0 -Feminism,18wa7iq,Radfem book club on twitter (come read dworkin with us),"hello and happy new year! if you have twitter and would like to join, we're currently reading 'Right-Wing Women' by Andrea Dworkin. You can request to join the group ""Radical Feminist Book Club"" in the Communities section. PDF files and audio are available on the pinned post so no need to buy anything, just come read and discuss with us if you'd like. <3 ",,5,Thin_Pineapple_7753,1704151983.0 +Should I just let her do whatever she wants despite knowing it's very bad for her and simply mind my own business knowing she'll get hurt again?",,82,PetarRPD,2024-01-01 10:40:30 +Feminism,18vpv4e,I'm Confused! How Is Poor Things A Feminist Movie?,"At least that's what I think I read somewhere, & I just walked out of it, and at is mainly about a woman who is not that smart being taken advantage of sexually by men. It's basically Porn, and as a Pornsick person in recovery I had to leave because I fear a relapse.",,142,JobsLoveMoney-NotYou,2024-01-01 05:28:27 +Feminism,18vuxxv,"Toxic Masculinity, Femicide, and the Cowardly Abuser",,https://thethreepennyguignol.com/2021/05/01/toxic-masculinity-femicide-and-the-cowardly-abuser/,46,cutpriceguignol,2024-01-01 11:28:58 +Feminism,18wa7iq,Radfem book club on twitter (come read dworkin with us),"hello and happy new year! if you have twitter and would like to join, we're currently reading 'Right-Wing Women' by Andrea Dworkin. You can request to join the group ""Radical Feminist Book Club"" in the Communities section. PDF files and audio are available on the pinned post so no need to buy anything, just come read and discuss with us if you'd like. <3 ",,5,Thin_Pineapple_7753,2024-01-01 23:33:03 Feminism,18vbmkx,Scary how men justify their disgusting behavior and don’t care about hurting their daughters.,"I had a short conversation with a man who confessed to cheating. He “took the blame” but was not actually sorry. He has a daughter. I told him how much a cheating father hurts his daughter. Damages her trust in men. He said “All men are lustful and unfaithful. Get used to it. If you don’t want a man to cheat make him happy at home”. Not those exact words, but this exact meaning. I hope he is not going to tell his daughter crap like, “Dear, all men cheat so don’t break up with your bf/husband when he cheats on you. Be more pleasing at home so he cheats less.” Seriously I wonder if fathers really say this crap to their daughters. Always blaming the woman. Always making excuses. Never trying to control themselves. And sadly, not giving a damn about hurting their daughters. I’m very discouraged so many men think like this. Yes! it is possible to be faithful. Just because you are too weak to control yourself does not mean all women have to tolerate cheating. Anyway, just wanting to vent somewhere… -Edit: Yes you are free to respond, but If you are going to attempt to justify cheating and/or tell kids it is “None of your business”, you are TRASH. ",,745,Autumn_Forest_Mist,1704041096.0 +Edit: Yes you are free to respond, but If you are going to attempt to justify cheating and/or tell kids it is “None of your business”, you are TRASH. ",,745,Autumn_Forest_Mist,2023-12-31 16:44:56 Feminism,18viivl,Men are so strange to me,"//tw potential violent unsettling content involving person attacked by animal @@ -11357,23 +11357,23 @@ There's men in the comments with loads of likes who somehow believe the woman is Like seriously the amount of projection and assumption going on is insane. They assume the woman who got attacked was some brat who stays on her phone too much and got what she deserved by just standing there. (Let's not mention that the person recording the video is also just standing there) -Idk, it's just the way misogyny manifests in some men is so strange and incoherent to me. A bunch a men trap and use a wild animal for sport, the animal attacks a woman because its angry and confused...and the woman is the one at fault. Astounding. Rant over.",,202,RadcliffeMalice,1704060987.0 +Idk, it's just the way misogyny manifests in some men is so strange and incoherent to me. A bunch a men trap and use a wild animal for sport, the animal attacks a woman because its angry and confused...and the woman is the one at fault. Astounding. Rant over.",,202,RadcliffeMalice,2023-12-31 22:16:27 Feminism,18wbvbu,What's the line between chivalry and being too invasive? How do i even know what's too much lol.,"I sometimes go clubbing and I am often in groups of mostly women. My parents taught me well (I hope) so whenever I am out with female friends I tend to make sure naturally that they all come home safe, but I don't know whether im too invasive. Last time i went clubbing it was like 7-8 women and 4 of me and my bois. As it was very crowded that night, when i noticed that there was a danger of some tall guy being pushed and hitting his back or shoulder on some of my women friends i tried to put my hand between their head and the guy's shoulder. Or when someone was pushing people to go through i tried to open for them a ""hallway"" putting my arm between them and my friends. These are just some examples, but is that too invasive? I tend to be the father figure even if we just go out drinking and i personally feel like it's a quality of mine, but i dont know whether it could be not appreciated by women or just leave a feeling of unwanted attention like. (If you just want to reply ""women are independent they dont need you to make sure they are safe!!!"" just don't focus on this post lmao) - ",,0,Ciao_-_belli,1704156337.0 -Feminism,18vi7dd,One In Five Underage Girls Forced Into Marriage In India: Lancet,,https://www.forbes.com/sites/anuradhavaranasi/2023/12/31/one-in-five-underage-girls-forced-into-marriage-in-india-lancet/?sh=96395725c25b,94,katespadesaturday,1704060008.0 -Feminism,18vj1fq,Travel alone. It’s fun,"I started going to different cities as a lone woman earlier this year. I feel like there’s a lot of stigma against it in society and I know it isn’t always “safe” depending on the area, but it has been such a good experience for me. I just wanted to let others know that if you don’t have someone else who wants to go do [thing] with you, you can still go alone and have a great time. I ran into a man yesterday while I was traveling who also happened to be alone. We started talking but he also made me uncomfortable and commented about my appearance which really bothered me. Then he suggested that we hang out, which I politely declined. I would much rather be alone than be with someone who is going to make things worse for me. I guess what I’m trying to say is you’re allowed to do whatever you want to do.",,75,NotASuggestedUsrname,1704062563.0 + ",,0,Ciao_-_belli,2024-01-02 00:45:37 +Feminism,18vi7dd,One In Five Underage Girls Forced Into Marriage In India: Lancet,,https://www.forbes.com/sites/anuradhavaranasi/2023/12/31/one-in-five-underage-girls-forced-into-marriage-in-india-lancet/?sh=96395725c25b,94,katespadesaturday,2023-12-31 22:00:08 +Feminism,18vj1fq,Travel alone. It’s fun,"I started going to different cities as a lone woman earlier this year. I feel like there’s a lot of stigma against it in society and I know it isn’t always “safe” depending on the area, but it has been such a good experience for me. I just wanted to let others know that if you don’t have someone else who wants to go do [thing] with you, you can still go alone and have a great time. I ran into a man yesterday while I was traveling who also happened to be alone. We started talking but he also made me uncomfortable and commented about my appearance which really bothered me. Then he suggested that we hang out, which I politely declined. I would much rather be alone than be with someone who is going to make things worse for me. I guess what I’m trying to say is you’re allowed to do whatever you want to do.",,75,NotASuggestedUsrname,2023-12-31 22:42:43 Feminism,18vlu5v,new feminist book club (meets online),"Hey! I just started a new feminist book club (meets online) and thought it would be a good idea to post it here! [https://bookclubs.com/join-a-book-club/club/feminist-reads](https://bookclubs.com/join-a-book-club/club/feminist-reads) Here's a little description -Feminist Reads, exclusively delving into non-fiction, gathers every 15th of the month to explore impactful works that shape our understanding of feminism. Our focus ranges from historical analyses and biographies to essays and contemporary studies. We foster an environment of respect and openness, welcoming diverse viewpoints. Each session begins with a structured discussion, followed by open conversation. Our book selections are announced in advance, giving members ample time to read and prepare. Join us in a journey through the compelling world of feminist non-fiction!",,40,Major-Incident-39,1704071758.0 -Feminism,18v6s2g,Full interview with Mia Schem,"Not many go through what she went through, and live to tell the story.",https://youtu.be/y02xPRX6vCE?si=5wozt71_N4MZRrUG,128,kaicyr21,1704025651.0 -Feminism,18v346m,How many daughters does a man need to see date rape jokes as a sackable offence?,,https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/dec/31/rishi-sunak-how-many-daughters-before-take-date-rape-jokes-seriously,104,BurtonDesque,1704010435.0 +Feminist Reads, exclusively delving into non-fiction, gathers every 15th of the month to explore impactful works that shape our understanding of feminism. Our focus ranges from historical analyses and biographies to essays and contemporary studies. We foster an environment of respect and openness, welcoming diverse viewpoints. Each session begins with a structured discussion, followed by open conversation. Our book selections are announced in advance, giving members ample time to read and prepare. Join us in a journey through the compelling world of feminist non-fiction!",,40,Major-Incident-39,2024-01-01 01:15:58 +Feminism,18v6s2g,Full interview with Mia Schem,"Not many go through what she went through, and live to tell the story.",https://youtu.be/y02xPRX6vCE?si=5wozt71_N4MZRrUG,128,kaicyr21,2023-12-31 12:27:31 +Feminism,18v346m,How many daughters does a man need to see date rape jokes as a sackable offence?,,https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/dec/31/rishi-sunak-how-many-daughters-before-take-date-rape-jokes-seriously,104,BurtonDesque,2023-12-31 08:13:55 Feminism,18uxfzq,How patriarchy presented itself in the 90’s,"I recently came across writings I made during the 90’s in a time in my life when the man I thought I was going to marry chose someone else….I was 17. I was so heartbroken. I really honestly believed a guy was going to fall in love with me and me with him, and we were going to have children and grandchildren and grow old together, and it would be magical and majestic. @@ -11382,7 +11382,7 @@ In a way, this thinking was patriarchy’s way of making women want to be marrie I feel like later, when women realized they had been duped, and their knight in shining armor wasn’t coming because they were 51% of the population, and most guys weren’t “knight” material, they started filling in their own blank spaces when they realized it was a lie. -Now the men are angry….but deep down what they have with women is really what they always wanted, right? Someone they could love without all the burdens of patriarchy? What is it about female independence that they hate? Are they really that mad about not being adored for something they’re not?",,146,Natural-Word-6456,1703991119.0 +Now the men are angry….but deep down what they have with women is really what they always wanted, right? Someone they could love without all the burdens of patriarchy? What is it about female independence that they hate? Are they really that mad about not being adored for something they’re not?",,146,Natural-Word-6456,2023-12-31 02:51:59 Feminism,18unt7j,Misogynist have nothing to lose by arguing with you,"I got into an argument yesterday with a misogynist and in the middle of it, I realized how pointless it was. They have nothing to lose. @@ -11395,7 +11395,7 @@ The misogynist has everything to gain, while we have everything to lose. The sta They are not the ones being forced to defend their humanity. There is no threat to them and they will ultimately enjoy their rights in every scenario. -This is why I hate having these “debates.” They feel so degrading.",,476,nile32,1703965310.0 +This is why I hate having these “debates.” They feel so degrading.",,476,nile32,2023-12-30 19:41:50 Feminism,18uu0lx,Genuinely tired of TERFS,"There been discourse on Twitter, with something along the lines of transwomen talking about misogyny they face and how at times can be considered validating when it comes to their gender-identity. The transwomen I've seen tweet this are tweeting it because it is how they *feel*, NOT because they are trying to start a war in their replies. I am seeing SO many TERFS use this as fuel for their rampant transphobia, and it makes me feel sick. I'm not very good with words so I hope this makes sense: have TERFS not considered the fact that the misogyny transwomen face might be considered validating to them because they are.. wait for it, women? I feel like this is an issue that not only trans womens may face, but cis women as well. @@ -11403,8 +11403,8 @@ I am seeing SO many TERFS use this as fuel for their rampant transphobia, and it As a cis woman, I've had so much trouble in the past with wanting validation from men even if it meant them looking at me like a sex toy, even if it meant them cat-calling me on the street. So, I guess what I'm saying is why do they have to point out and pick on transwomen for this when cis women are just as capable of thinking this way too? Like I said, I know I have. It's just really frustrating as well, because I've started to read Andrew Dworkin and I am interested in RadFem - I'm just not interested with the transphobia that comes with it. I hope I'm making sense, but I guess I'm just trying to say that is that: trans women issues are women issues period - just because they are trans does not make it any less of a female issue if they were cis. Like, idk we are all in this together in my eyes. We are all women. I just don't understand how any feminist can read what transwomen go through and either not relate to it to some capacity or understand it. I hope this makes sense, if any of this doesn't - let me know. -",,160,nessaiguess,1703981453.0 -Feminism,18v35s9,Vinesh Phogat: Top Indian wrestler returns medals over alleged sexual abuse,,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-india-67851193,33,BurtonDesque,1704010619.0 +",,160,nessaiguess,2023-12-31 00:10:53 +Feminism,18v35s9,Vinesh Phogat: Top Indian wrestler returns medals over alleged sexual abuse,,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-india-67851193,33,BurtonDesque,2023-12-31 08:16:59 Feminism,18uo9n1,What can I do when the government stands with INCELs,"I’m a Chinese college student, and I used chatGPT to correct my post, so it might look a bit stiff. In my country, there are numerous instances of speeches and actions that express hostility towards women, too many to list. @@ -11415,15 +11415,15 @@ Coming out as a feminist is risky for us. Men harass and humiliate women they di In the real world, Many Chinese universities lower admission scores for male students.And both the government and enterprises either limit recruitment to men only or prioritize men. We once thought that these discriminatory behaviors would gradually disappear with economic development, but the result is that they have intensified. At the same time, due to slowing economic growth, violence against women has also increased. I was so disappointed that I circumvented the Great Firewall to find some anti-government online communities, only to discover communities where were similarly misogynistic. -I’m feeling exhausted, and I wonder if there are any sisters in other countries facing the same situation. Maybe we can hug each other and find some ways out? I now understand “As a woman, I have no country.” ( Btw the last time I posted it, a man replied me proudly: I just know all your feminists are traitor! Evidence!",,315,To_thelighthouse,1703966494.0 -Feminism,18urqnj,Books on feminine rage? But like what it is and where it comes from? Not fiction about releasing that rage,"So I'm trying to better understand female (feminine? I don't know which is correct) rage but most books seem to be fiction and about women releasing their rage, not what it is or why so many women have this feeling",,52,CockHero45,1703975511.0 -Feminism,18uqy43,"Colombian singer Catalina García gives an impassioned plea for women's rights and sings the feminist anthem ""Mi Libertad""",,https://youtube.com/watch?v=3r4YNET7VVw&si=rpaGrbY87sMmMzID,41,Tim_Bracken,1703973522.0 -Feminism,18ubtk8,"How, if at all, has studying feminism impacted your relationship with men?","Hey there! I've been thinking about getting a major or a minor in gender, sexuality and women’s studies and I'm really curious about how it could impact my daily life. I'm wondering if it could help me with decentering men, or maybe even change what I look for in relationships with men. Do you think it could help me pick up on red flags? I'm interested to hear about other people's experiences.",,62,Estellar123,1703928150.0 -Feminism,18tv5yj,"I’ve spent a decade studying gender and I can tell you: as a woman, ageing sets you free",,https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/dec/29/gender-woman-ageing-free-female-power?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Other,301,mhicreachtain,1703878046.0 +I’m feeling exhausted, and I wonder if there are any sisters in other countries facing the same situation. Maybe we can hug each other and find some ways out? I now understand “As a woman, I have no country.” ( Btw the last time I posted it, a man replied me proudly: I just know all your feminists are traitor! Evidence!",,315,To_thelighthouse,2023-12-30 20:01:34 +Feminism,18urqnj,Books on feminine rage? But like what it is and where it comes from? Not fiction about releasing that rage,"So I'm trying to better understand female (feminine? I don't know which is correct) rage but most books seem to be fiction and about women releasing their rage, not what it is or why so many women have this feeling",,52,CockHero45,2023-12-30 22:31:51 +Feminism,18uqy43,"Colombian singer Catalina García gives an impassioned plea for women's rights and sings the feminist anthem ""Mi Libertad""",,https://youtube.com/watch?v=3r4YNET7VVw&si=rpaGrbY87sMmMzID,41,Tim_Bracken,2023-12-30 21:58:42 +Feminism,18ubtk8,"How, if at all, has studying feminism impacted your relationship with men?","Hey there! I've been thinking about getting a major or a minor in gender, sexuality and women’s studies and I'm really curious about how it could impact my daily life. I'm wondering if it could help me with decentering men, or maybe even change what I look for in relationships with men. Do you think it could help me pick up on red flags? I'm interested to hear about other people's experiences.",,62,Estellar123,2023-12-30 09:22:30 +Feminism,18tv5yj,"I’ve spent a decade studying gender and I can tell you: as a woman, ageing sets you free",,https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/dec/29/gender-woman-ageing-free-female-power?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Other,301,mhicreachtain,2023-12-29 19:27:26 Feminism,18u5zt8,Pros and cons of dating/marriage?,"Hello everyone, I'm in my late 20s and have finally finished my education/started my career. At this point in my life, many of my friends are seriously dating, and discussions of marriage and engagement have started. I'm currently single and wondering if a relationship with a man is worth pursuing as a cisgender, demisexual woman. -So, I'm making a list of pros and cons... but can't seem to find any pros! Can someone please help me come up with some? For the record, I am not a sex-repulsed ace, but see no point in intercourse because no man has ever gotten me to finish. I make enough money to be happy and don't want children. What is the point of being with a man besides not being lonely?",,55,ScienceIsMagic25,1703907730.0 -Feminism,18tqhpx,"Stuff I see all over social media, threads, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, etc",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18tqhpx,377,[deleted],1703865918.0 +So, I'm making a list of pros and cons... but can't seem to find any pros! Can someone please help me come up with some? For the record, I am not a sex-repulsed ace, but see no point in intercourse because no man has ever gotten me to finish. I make enough money to be happy and don't want children. What is the point of being with a man besides not being lonely?",,55,ScienceIsMagic25,2023-12-30 03:42:10 +Feminism,18tqhpx,"Stuff I see all over social media, threads, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, etc",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18tqhpx,377,[deleted],2023-12-29 16:05:18 Feminism,18tm0k9,Why do so many people online make the assumption that men are the sole breadwinners in most families?,"This is probably just the algorithm on Instagram trying to rile me up, but I've seen a lot of comments from men recently on women's posts saying something along the lines of ""but men pay for everything so..."" &#x200B; @@ -11436,7 +11436,7 @@ While I definitely understand that women are more often stay-at-home parents and &#x200B; -I have nothing against this sort of family structure, it's just really been bothering me lately that so many anti-feminists have this completely archaic view of familial roles which they ascribe baselessly to any random woman they come across on social media.",,314,SeaCrayfish,1703852747.0 +I have nothing against this sort of family structure, it's just really been bothering me lately that so many anti-feminists have this completely archaic view of familial roles which they ascribe baselessly to any random woman they come across on social media.",,314,SeaCrayfish,2023-12-29 12:25:47 Feminism,18tpbi4,Differences between the upbringing of men and women,"I wanted to raise this topic because, undoubtedly, the way of upbringing largely influences the behavior of a given social group, and the values ​​instilled in them in childhood can significantly change their later perception of the world or influence various behaviors. Personally, I don't have many men in my immediate family. There is me, my sisters, my grandmother and my father. Theoretically, there are more women in the family, but my father still has the deciding vote in the vast majority of matters. @@ -11451,8 +11451,8 @@ Currently, while preparing for Christmas Eve, I experienced a similar phenomenon Although I used anecdotal examples here, I read women's statements on this topic on various websites and it seemed that many of them had similar experiences. Coming to the conclusion, it turns out that families usually have lower expectations of boys and treat them more favorably, accustoming them from childhood to being dependent and relying on women's work. I think this may be the reason why many adult men are looking for a wife who would replace their mother - who would cook for them, prepare breakfast for work, wash and iron their clothes. They were not accustomed to even minimal responsibility for their own lives, they were pampered and convinced that women would do everything for them. Women, however, are brought up in a completely different way - they are expected to be hard-working, many, often too many, responsibilities are placed on them, and young girls are forced to mature faster and take responsibility for their actions. -Of course, the topic is more complicated and many factors influence what the majority of male society looks like. I only touched on one issue, just the tip of the iceberg. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. What is also important - I apologize for any language errors. English is not my native language.",,115,TheDeathCrow,1703862834.0 -Feminism,18t8o1z,Men and the “as long as she’s 18” Bullshit.,"So we all know these same guys would “date” a 16 year old, 15 year old, and 14 year old if it was legal right? Okay cool. Why do these type of men think they are so slick when they say the “as long as she’s legal” crap? Like that doesn’t clearly show they are a predatory P.O.S? And WHY is it legal for 30, 40, 50, and 60 year old men to go after 18 year olds?? Hello eightTEEN year olds?",,569,[deleted],1703808080.0 +Of course, the topic is more complicated and many factors influence what the majority of male society looks like. I only touched on one issue, just the tip of the iceberg. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. What is also important - I apologize for any language errors. English is not my native language.",,115,TheDeathCrow,2023-12-29 15:13:54 +Feminism,18t8o1z,Men and the “as long as she’s 18” Bullshit.,"So we all know these same guys would “date” a 16 year old, 15 year old, and 14 year old if it was legal right? Okay cool. Why do these type of men think they are so slick when they say the “as long as she’s legal” crap? Like that doesn’t clearly show they are a predatory P.O.S? And WHY is it legal for 30, 40, 50, and 60 year old men to go after 18 year olds?? Hello eightTEEN year olds?",,569,[deleted],2023-12-29 00:01:20 Feminism,18t9lfd,"Why is care for women considered “simp” and loser behaviour and blatant misogyny is rewarded with comments like “based”, “Gigachad”, etc.?","In the last year or two, I’ve seen the uptick of blatantly misogynistic behaviour and memes on the net. When you even slightly care for the wellbeing of a woman, you are considered a “simp loser beta cuck” and get told to F off. @@ -11461,12 +11461,12 @@ But when people post negative behaviour towards women, like calling her slurs or As a guy, why is blatant hatred of women so common nowadays??? -We were supposed to be gentlemen, people who respect women, not stepping on them and considering them beneath us!",,493,[deleted],1703810613.0 -Feminism,18t6j5u,Does anyone want to discuss this book? Currently reading.,It keeps me up at night. Not that I was unaware of the topics discussed. I was just digesting short articles intermittently. But digesting all of this insight at once is not easy.,https://i.redd.it/gw2raejp349c1.jpeg,710,RemarkableProblem737,1703802539.0 -Feminism,18tuezb,Female Imagery,"does anyone know where i can read *Judy Chicago* and Miriam Schapiro, “*Female Imagery*,” Womanspace Journal (1973) ??",,5,sk8ingirl,1703876131.0 -Feminism,18t8f7y,The Sexual Assault Of Women And Little Girls Happens Often. Why Is This Barely Talked About??,Why is stuff like this just brushed off?? Literally everytime I make a poll asking if a woman has been sexually assaulted most of them say yes. And don’t get me started on how often underage girls are harassed by grown ass men. Apparently that’s something little girls need to deal with because “men are attracted to youth and fertility”? That’s a direct quote from a man by the way. Screw that.,,162,[deleted],1703807442.0 -Feminism,18t96d8,NYT report on sexual violence on Oct 7th,Two month report on sexual violence on the October 7th attacks.,https://www.nytimes.com/2023/12/28/world/middleeast/oct-7-attacks-hamas-israel-sexual-violence.html,104,Wombats_poo_cubes,1703809468.0 -Feminism,18sqlzv,Wtf are these ads for Threads on Instagram?,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18sqlzv,604,Adam_needs_a_haircut,1703758327.0 +We were supposed to be gentlemen, people who respect women, not stepping on them and considering them beneath us!",,493,[deleted],2023-12-29 00:43:33 +Feminism,18t6j5u,Does anyone want to discuss this book? Currently reading.,It keeps me up at night. Not that I was unaware of the topics discussed. I was just digesting short articles intermittently. But digesting all of this insight at once is not easy.,https://i.redd.it/gw2raejp349c1.jpeg,710,RemarkableProblem737,2023-12-28 22:28:59 +Feminism,18tuezb,Female Imagery,"does anyone know where i can read *Judy Chicago* and Miriam Schapiro, “*Female Imagery*,” Womanspace Journal (1973) ??",,5,sk8ingirl,2023-12-29 18:55:31 +Feminism,18t8f7y,The Sexual Assault Of Women And Little Girls Happens Often. Why Is This Barely Talked About??,Why is stuff like this just brushed off?? Literally everytime I make a poll asking if a woman has been sexually assaulted most of them say yes. And don’t get me started on how often underage girls are harassed by grown ass men. Apparently that’s something little girls need to deal with because “men are attracted to youth and fertility”? That’s a direct quote from a man by the way. Screw that.,,162,[deleted],2023-12-28 23:50:42 +Feminism,18t96d8,NYT report on sexual violence on Oct 7th,Two month report on sexual violence on the October 7th attacks.,https://www.nytimes.com/2023/12/28/world/middleeast/oct-7-attacks-hamas-israel-sexual-violence.html,104,Wombats_poo_cubes,2023-12-29 00:24:28 +Feminism,18sqlzv,Wtf are these ads for Threads on Instagram?,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18sqlzv,604,Adam_needs_a_haircut,2023-12-28 10:12:07 Feminism,18t0xdj,Agoraphobia-like behavior in regards to being a woman in public,"I guess I'll start by saying that yes, I'm in therapy, and this is going to be explored more in depth there. I'm also not self-diagnosing myself with agoraphobia, but it's the closest thing I have to compare to. I've honestly grown to resent being a woman ever since I hit puberty. I hated when my period came (like most people, I assume) and when it came for the first time I was so ashamed and freaked out I didn't tell anyone. I just used toilet paper and tissues and hoped it was enough. I layered bras and tank tops to reduce the size of my chest. @@ -11477,47 +11477,47 @@ The same people that told me those things began to wonder why in the world their It all boiled my blood. Truthfully, I wanted to sock the guys that were being genuinely creepy. If I had the strength of a man I would've. I think this is where my hatred of my own body hit its peak. I'm gay, asexual, and want nothing to do with men, I present masculine anyway, I work out to have a masculine body, I'm saving up thousands of dollars to get rid of my breasts and uterus, so why the fuck couldn't I have just been born a man? It wouldn't be so political that way, either. My family would encourage it instead of my having to hide it. -This is also where my already growing concern for safety and hyperawareness of my capabilities (or lack thereof) hit their peak. I stopped going out, vowing to put my life on hold until I became what I saw as less of a target. It's almost ironic because I had been taking martial arts classes (Muay Thai and BJJ) for a couple of years at that point, but it didn't matter. I was still a woman, and I was still a target. I could only find freedom in making myself stronger. I went from being pretty social and attending those classes religiously to not leaving my house but every once in a while for things I had to do, and every time I do I feel like some sort of prey animal, weak and helpless against the world. I'm stuck in this mindset of putting my life on hold until I feel strong enough to rip anyone who may attack me apart. I'm not allowed to live life until then. I've made a prison of my own home, all because I can't deal with being a woman. ",,103,Suspicious_Plant4231,1703788329.0 +This is also where my already growing concern for safety and hyperawareness of my capabilities (or lack thereof) hit their peak. I stopped going out, vowing to put my life on hold until I became what I saw as less of a target. It's almost ironic because I had been taking martial arts classes (Muay Thai and BJJ) for a couple of years at that point, but it didn't matter. I was still a woman, and I was still a target. I could only find freedom in making myself stronger. I went from being pretty social and attending those classes religiously to not leaving my house but every once in a while for things I had to do, and every time I do I feel like some sort of prey animal, weak and helpless against the world. I'm stuck in this mindset of putting my life on hold until I feel strong enough to rip anyone who may attack me apart. I'm not allowed to live life until then. I've made a prison of my own home, all because I can't deal with being a woman. ",,103,Suspicious_Plant4231,2023-12-28 18:32:09 Feminism,18sxiow,Can we make 2024 the year that all feminists agree that sexual objectification is harmful?,"It plays a fundamental role in so many of the problems that not only women, but society as a whole, are facing. on edit, I'm taking the quote out and sharing my own interpretation. the world has never seen a truly whole and healthy society, beuse in the degradation of girls and women, half of society is hindered from reaching our full potential -[https://youtu.be/714d18CS9k4?feature=shared](https://youtu.be/714d18cs9k4?feature=shared)",,133,victoriaisme2,1703779916.0 +[https://youtu.be/714d18CS9k4?feature=shared](https://youtu.be/714d18cs9k4?feature=shared)",,133,victoriaisme2,2023-12-28 16:11:56 Feminism,18sp115,why are there almost no documentaries about misogyny??,"So as I search for meanigful documentaries to watch, I notice there are almost NONE on modern day misogyny that is running rampant in our society in every way in gov't, in film, in policy, in media, and online esp. I'm so sick of men telling us to ""get back in the kitchen , stay home and shut up"" just like the racists tell Black people to get back to Africa!! Like Africans immigrated here voluntarily and now that hard back breaking work is done to go home. I'm just as pissed, really wish I got into film making!! -ALL i found was this which looks great and I can't wait to see only can't find where to stream it: [Backlash: Misogyny in the Digital Age | TRAILER (youtube.com)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=voEsn8BysG4&t=1s) ",,482,True-Godesss,1703751961.0 -Feminism,18sinfc,Australia's epidemic of male violence against women,,https://i.redd.it/oadyq1ey2y8c1.jpeg,1202,Brookeofthenorth,1703730598.0 +ALL i found was this which looks great and I can't wait to see only can't find where to stream it: [Backlash: Misogyny in the Digital Age | TRAILER (youtube.com)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=voEsn8BysG4&t=1s) ",,482,True-Godesss,2023-12-28 08:26:01 +Feminism,18sinfc,Australia's epidemic of male violence against women,,https://i.redd.it/oadyq1ey2y8c1.jpeg,1202,Brookeofthenorth,2023-12-28 02:29:58 Feminism,18sz6ik,A number of new bookshops in Europe are giving voice to female authors.,"**‘Historical reparation’ :** Bookshops such as Greta Livraria in Lisbon, Mujeres & Compañia in Madrid, She Said in Berlin, and Rare Birds in Scotland are showcasing women’s writing past and present. https://www.theguardian.com/books/2023/dec/28/historical-reparation-new-bookshops-europe-give-voice-female-authors There used to be one in San Francisco that I loved. So happy to see a resurgence. -&#x200B;",,26,nina-m0,1703784039.0 +&#x200B;",,26,nina-m0,2023-12-28 17:20:39 Feminism,18tbbxp,Equal distribution of labor video resources?,"Hi all, -I’m a mental health clinician looking to provide some resources to a male client whom is struggling with understanding equal distribution of labor within a cis het relationship. They understand the terms emotional/physical/mental labor and can differentiate, but I’m having a hard time getting them involved in reading resources to better their framework due to their struggles with neurodivergent symptoms. Does anyone have any links or documentaries they can submit here that I can provide this client as resources? I’ve already had them watch Eve Rodsky’s Fair Play and advised they get the game to play with their partner, but was wondering if anyone can provide more informative videos or other docuseries, or even podcasts. Thank you in advance!",,5,Cessacolypse,1703815508.0 +I’m a mental health clinician looking to provide some resources to a male client whom is struggling with understanding equal distribution of labor within a cis het relationship. They understand the terms emotional/physical/mental labor and can differentiate, but I’m having a hard time getting them involved in reading resources to better their framework due to their struggles with neurodivergent symptoms. Does anyone have any links or documentaries they can submit here that I can provide this client as resources? I’ve already had them watch Eve Rodsky’s Fair Play and advised they get the game to play with their partner, but was wondering if anyone can provide more informative videos or other docuseries, or even podcasts. Thank you in advance!",,5,Cessacolypse,2023-12-29 02:05:08 Feminism,18sssm3,Should teenage girls be told how to dress?,"I chose a provocative title on purpose. I am not a parent nor do I aspire to become one, but I have been thinking about what would be the best way to advise a teenage girl when it comes to dressing. On the one hand I think a young adult should be dressing however she likes, and shouldn’t be made to feel selfconscious if she likes dressing more revealing or sexy. On the other hand I see the unfortunate reality that girls and women are more likely to be sexualised, stared at, harassed, insulted, looked down on and generally treated worse when they dress more revealing. Also there seems to be a disgustingly high amount of old men (openly!) sexualising teenagers. I am basing this on my on experiences and what I have witnessed. Thus I am conflicted between wanting to instill in girls that they can and should do whatever they want, and wanting to protect them from inevitable consequences for choices the current world doesn’t deem to be appropriate, that young people might not be aware of. -For the feminist parents of girls: how do you approach this? Have you spoken to your girls, and what was your message?",,49,tictize,1703766481.0 +For the feminist parents of girls: how do you approach this? Have you spoken to your girls, and what was your message?",,49,tictize,2023-12-28 12:28:01 Feminism,18snpyl,(Mod approved) seeking research participants,"I’m a researcher based in Australia that is looking to speak with women who have regretted having children. At this stage I can only take participants that are based in Australia (or Australians living overseas). But happy to talk to anyone that is interested This is a masters project that is examining gender inequality in relation to motherhood regret. -I have explanatory statements that outline further. If you are curious, send me a message.",,32,bertiebee,1703746892.0 +I have explanatory statements that outline further. If you are curious, send me a message.",,32,bertiebee,2023-12-28 07:01:32 Feminism,18s784g,How can I be a better ally to women as a man?,"Long story short I grew up in the conservative south, and while im no longer in those circles im still about as ignorant about feminism and womens issues as most men are. I want to be a better ally to women and to my partner so I wanted to ask this sub about its recommendations for introductory resources or just plain advice. Thanks! -Edit: the support from this community has been absolutely amazing. I'll keep trying to thoughtfully respond to all the comments but but there's alot. Thanks for all the support yall!",,212,fatman243,1703701149.0 -Feminism,18s9sb0,Thoughts on men using the word Feminist as an insult?,"Wow, I am so insulted you called me someone who wants equal rights and equal treatment for women. So many men think the word “feminist” is an insult to women now 🤦‍♀️",,126,[deleted],1703707594.0 -Feminism,18rshv9,Why are women the ones pressured to get into a relationship when most MEN are single?,This is what the stats say. Most men are single and less happier than women when single. So why are we the ones being pushed so much to get into one?? Don’t most of us get cheated on anyways???,,451,[deleted],1703653636.0 +Edit: the support from this community has been absolutely amazing. I'll keep trying to thoughtfully respond to all the comments but but there's alot. Thanks for all the support yall!",,212,fatman243,2023-12-27 18:19:09 +Feminism,18s9sb0,Thoughts on men using the word Feminist as an insult?,"Wow, I am so insulted you called me someone who wants equal rights and equal treatment for women. So many men think the word “feminist” is an insult to women now 🤦‍♀️",,126,[deleted],2023-12-27 20:06:34 +Feminism,18rshv9,Why are women the ones pressured to get into a relationship when most MEN are single?,This is what the stats say. Most men are single and less happier than women when single. So why are we the ones being pushed so much to get into one?? Don’t most of us get cheated on anyways???,,451,[deleted],2023-12-27 05:07:16 Feminism,18rh9kq,Why does reddit seem to hate women so much?,"All I did was make a post saying ""I hate that a woman can't share any negative experience she's had with a man without men commenting ""not all men"" or ""women do it too"""" and of course I got a swarm of angry men saying my post is stupid/trying to justify that behavior/generally being assholes to me so I just deleted the post because I just didn't feel like dealing with that anymore. When it comes to sharing anything on here talking about misogyny I kind of realized it's absolutely pointless and all it's going to do is attract awful men. I know that misogyny exists in real life and in other places on the internet too but it seems to be so normalized on here it's not even funny. I've run into a few asshole women haters on other platforms every now and then but on reddit it feels like that makes up 70% of the men on here. What really throws me for a loop is if someone is being racist/anti-semitic/discriminatory in some other way, they get banned/called out immediately (which is absolutely a good thing btw, and that's how it should be) but I feel like hatred towards women slips through the cracks so much more often here. I know r/incels was banned, thank god, but I see so many men on here who very clearly fucking hate women more than anything/are incel redpillers, they just don't point blank call themselves that. It's very evident how much they hate women by the talking points and language they use/the opinions that have. And reddit doesn't do a damn thing about it. In the past I've posted onto relationship advice forums looking for support/advice for situations I've been in where a man was treating me badly and all the comments were siding with the man, blaming me for the way the man I was with treated me. I know very well though that if I posted that exact situation with the genders reversed the comments would be filled with support. @@ -11526,7 +11526,7 @@ Like I said in the first paragraph, it feels like women can never share their ne It feels like women straight up can't do anything on the internet without men being abysmal human beings. God help you if you're a women who is overweight. Or a single mom. Or have a high body count. I'm an ugly girl and used to resent the hell out of attractive women because from my perspective men always treated them so much better always doing things for them, meanwhile they treated me as good as the dirt on their heel. But now I feel really bad for attractive women because I now see they get treated like absolute shit by men too, just in a different form. -I'm starting to just really fucking resent men, not because they aren't attracted to me but because it feels like there are no men out there that genuinely see women as people/aren't secretly red pill misogynists from hell. I don't care what a man looks like to be honest if you are a man and actually respect us as people/aren't a raging woman hater you already go up 5 points in my eyes. Also I can't ever say anything negative about the way men have treated me without men screaming at me that I'm a misandrist. It's like they don't understand that women usually say ""I hate men"" because of all the shit we've had to deal with from them our whole lives while men usually say ""I hate women"" because women don't want to fuck them. I also really hate being a woman sometimes because all I see is men on here who seem to hate me and see me as the enemy for the sole reason I am a woman. Even my own dad and brother watch those Joe Rogan/Andrew Tate videos and it feels like I can't escape it.",,618,[deleted],1703622093.0 +I'm starting to just really fucking resent men, not because they aren't attracted to me but because it feels like there are no men out there that genuinely see women as people/aren't secretly red pill misogynists from hell. I don't care what a man looks like to be honest if you are a man and actually respect us as people/aren't a raging woman hater you already go up 5 points in my eyes. Also I can't ever say anything negative about the way men have treated me without men screaming at me that I'm a misandrist. It's like they don't understand that women usually say ""I hate men"" because of all the shit we've had to deal with from them our whole lives while men usually say ""I hate women"" because women don't want to fuck them. I also really hate being a woman sometimes because all I see is men on here who seem to hate me and see me as the enemy for the sole reason I am a woman. Even my own dad and brother watch those Joe Rogan/Andrew Tate videos and it feels like I can't escape it.",,618,[deleted],2023-12-26 20:21:33 Feminism,18rospz,So done with sexism in online spaces,"There have always been assholes on the internet. @@ -11537,7 +11537,7 @@ For example, I last posted a skirt that I upcycled from recycled fabric in a fas I find it so unhealthy, and makes me think that the problem is more prevalent than it is. The truth is that there are women in power, that they are as capable as men, and that they have the same rights in most parts of the world. Yet, sexism in the online space has made me think that we are still underestimated, and realize that there are still men who think that they are entitled to us, that we are bound to act in certain ways, that we should conform to ideals that subjugate us, that criticize us solely for our gender. -&#x200B;",,92,Icacakes,1703642414.0 +&#x200B;",,92,Icacakes,2023-12-27 02:00:14 Feminism,18rhsbc,"no, disliking feminity isn't ""internalized misogyny""","okay, gotta write this down, don't know what it will become. all critiques are welcome. I think what truly is ""internalized misogyny"" is subconsciously or consciously making a necessary link between feminity and women. Because it is to assume from the beggining that the female sex has an essence, and that to blame any of the properties of this essence is equal to hating, denying, discriminating entirely against the woman, the human female. @@ -11550,10 +11550,10 @@ Feminism,18rhsbc,"no, disliking feminity isn't ""internalized misogyny""","okay, No, im not saying this to elevate masculinity. To tell the truth, neither feminity or masculinity make sense to me outside of their patriarchal framework. - To end this, thank you for reading this incomplete mess",,60,j33nn11,1703623487.0 -Feminism,18qxtu0,Are Women’s Rights In The USA Going Backwards?,"First it was the Roe VS Wade Overturn, now women who live in Texas can’t drive out of state to get an abortion or they will be arrested. I would not be surprised if our right to vote was taken away next. This is why feminism not being supported enough is a problem.",,800,[deleted],1703558960.0 -Feminism,18rbmba,"Hello, sorry if this type of post is not allowed but 2 years ago Poland planned to introduce a register for recording miscarriages. All the articles I found are before the law came into effect, does anyone know if it ended up passing?","Asking here because I cannot post on r/Poland. Im writing about human rights violations in eastern/central Europe in regards to abortion access and need to know what ended up happening and am out of sources, Thanks.",,27,Hashkovo,1703607482.0 -Feminism,18rel2r,The trailblazing woman who isn’t talked about enough,,https://www.thestreet.com/personalities/lisa-su-net-worth,17,SuperMike100,1703615187.0 + To end this, thank you for reading this incomplete mess",,60,j33nn11,2023-12-26 20:44:47 +Feminism,18qxtu0,Are Women’s Rights In The USA Going Backwards?,"First it was the Roe VS Wade Overturn, now women who live in Texas can’t drive out of state to get an abortion or they will be arrested. I would not be surprised if our right to vote was taken away next. This is why feminism not being supported enough is a problem.",,800,[deleted],2023-12-26 02:49:20 +Feminism,18rbmba,"Hello, sorry if this type of post is not allowed but 2 years ago Poland planned to introduce a register for recording miscarriages. All the articles I found are before the law came into effect, does anyone know if it ended up passing?","Asking here because I cannot post on r/Poland. Im writing about human rights violations in eastern/central Europe in regards to abortion access and need to know what ended up happening and am out of sources, Thanks.",,27,Hashkovo,2023-12-26 16:18:02 +Feminism,18rel2r,The trailblazing woman who isn’t talked about enough,,https://www.thestreet.com/personalities/lisa-su-net-worth,17,SuperMike100,2023-12-26 18:26:27 Feminism,18qwqee,Women in Sudan are getting raped!!spread awareness.,"A terrible Civil War broke out on 15 April in Sudan of course women and children are the easiest targets during these tough times. the RSF have broken into peoples houses,ransacked homes and raped women. Women are getting gang raped in front of their families. There has been tweets of women asking for Islamic fatwa on if suicide is allowed out of fear of getting raped.Speak up for the Sudanese women. @@ -11566,54 +11566,54 @@ To read more about what’s happening: [https://www.nytimes.com/2023/09/29/world/africa/sudan-war-united-arab-emirates-chad.html](https://www.nytimes.com/2023/09/29/world/africa/sudan-war-united-arab-emirates-chad.html) - [https://www.economist.com/middle-east-and-africa/2023/11/16/a-genocidal-militia-is-winning-the-war-in-sudan](https://www.economist.com/middle-east-and-africa/2023/11/16/a-genocidal-militia-is-winning-the-war-in-sudan)",,303,olivegreens-8429,1703555466.0 + [https://www.economist.com/middle-east-and-africa/2023/11/16/a-genocidal-militia-is-winning-the-war-in-sudan](https://www.economist.com/middle-east-and-africa/2023/11/16/a-genocidal-militia-is-winning-the-war-in-sudan)",,303,olivegreens-8429,2023-12-26 01:51:06 Feminism,18qqgo1,Cat Lady as an insult,"Maybe I'm really slow, but I just realized what I think is the reason men think ""Cat Lady"" is an insult. And that is that they think it's a BAD thing that we prefer cats to men, lol! -(I was called a Cat Lady when I wouldn't duck a men's rights gun nutter.)",,254,Physical-Trust-4473,1703536339.0 +(I was called a Cat Lady when I wouldn't duck a men's rights gun nutter.)",,254,Physical-Trust-4473,2023-12-25 20:32:19 Feminism,18qkvw2,"What is your opinion about the band Rammstein, (specifically Till Lindemann, the singer)?","I just watched the videoclip ""Platz Eins"" and it was so weird. It shows women being abused by Till Lindemann. People told me that it is art, but I felt bad watching this. https://youtu.be/0nS9W7MdbrA?si=unrdxahsKxtqmxra -I watched the uncensored version which is worse.",,96,Admirable_Strike4114,1703518704.0 -Feminism,18q7vc6,Got this book for Christmas. It’s a pretty good read so far.,,https://i.redd.it/m90tqomf8c8c1.jpeg,920,Maxibon1710,1703465137.0 +I watched the uncensored version which is worse.",,96,Admirable_Strike4114,2023-12-25 15:38:24 +Feminism,18q7vc6,Got this book for Christmas. It’s a pretty good read so far.,,https://i.redd.it/m90tqomf8c8c1.jpeg,920,Maxibon1710,2023-12-25 00:45:37 Feminism,18qrr0f,Books (or Podcasts?) for Preteens & Teens,"I have a son and daughter (12 & 10, respectively). They both watch YouTube often, and although we try to keep an ear and eye on it they have occasionally heard things that nod toward anti-feminism or right wing propaganda. I desperately want to help my kids be educated properly about sexism, racism, poverty, social issues, etc. and talk regularly about all the important issues we can think of - but I want to find good books or other good media to put in their hands. I'm hoping some of you can help! -Many thanks, and I hope your holiday season is going well.",,11,NthaThickofIt,1703540348.0 +Many thanks, and I hope your holiday season is going well.",,11,NthaThickofIt,2023-12-25 21:39:08 Feminism,18q7e37,Positive report on a man apologizing for getting in my space!,"Thought I'd share. Last week, I was at the gym and a man asked to use a piece of equipment in my immediate personal space. I should have said wait but said ok in haste, in that moment. Within a few moments I said, ""this is really awkward, I'm just going to move."" For the rest of the day, I lambasted myself for not saying no in the moment. -Today, the guy politely said, ""Excuse me. I owe you an apology. That was too close and I shouldn't have even asked."" Now that is an actual APOLOGY! I said, ""thank you, I appreciate that"", and that was it. No justifications, minimization etc, and he reached that on his own. Gives me hope, when most of my interactions with men go the other direction. I really respect this guy.",,439,No_Celery9390,1703463489.0 -Feminism,18pyvxl,am i being dramatic?,"So basically i have been talking to a guy recently and I brought up a band i didn't like because they are being charged for child rape and he jokingly said 'that's my kind of band'. I had told him prior i had been raped multiple times and have trauma from it, the jokes itself is awful, I don't know whether he was trying to be edgy or what. but the joke struck a nerve with me as i don't find what part of rape or even child rape is a joke to him? afterwards i called him out obviously and he said sorry it was a bad joke and then basically said 'what do you want me to say?' the thing is i don't really want him to say anything, the damage was done and i don't feel like i can trust him anymore but ive talked to my sister and she said everyone makes those jokes nowadays and im being dramatic and that joke alone doesn't make him bad but i still can't trust him. am i dramatic?",,132,frankierosbf,1703436671.0 +Today, the guy politely said, ""Excuse me. I owe you an apology. That was too close and I shouldn't have even asked."" Now that is an actual APOLOGY! I said, ""thank you, I appreciate that"", and that was it. No justifications, minimization etc, and he reached that on his own. Gives me hope, when most of my interactions with men go the other direction. I really respect this guy.",,439,No_Celery9390,2023-12-25 00:18:09 +Feminism,18pyvxl,am i being dramatic?,"So basically i have been talking to a guy recently and I brought up a band i didn't like because they are being charged for child rape and he jokingly said 'that's my kind of band'. I had told him prior i had been raped multiple times and have trauma from it, the jokes itself is awful, I don't know whether he was trying to be edgy or what. but the joke struck a nerve with me as i don't find what part of rape or even child rape is a joke to him? afterwards i called him out obviously and he said sorry it was a bad joke and then basically said 'what do you want me to say?' the thing is i don't really want him to say anything, the damage was done and i don't feel like i can trust him anymore but ive talked to my sister and she said everyone makes those jokes nowadays and im being dramatic and that joke alone doesn't make him bad but i still can't trust him. am i dramatic?",,132,frankierosbf,2023-12-24 16:51:11 Feminism,18q2oc6,We need y'all here in New Mexico. The link here is only on example but I'll elaborate a bit here.,"Sex Ed isn't talked about enough down here in New Mexico. Like we girls are so shamed that there have been two cases of girls literally putting their babies that they refused to even acknowledge -- and lied about not being pregnant -- in the literal garbage. They don't even look to abortion centers either. Like that is how shamed we are down here. It isn't talked about medically and what makes this worse is that New Mexico itself is so heavily religious that in my little dinky ass town has more churches than homeless shelters. -I could go on all day but this needs to be talked about. I hope that those of you here in New Mexico can help find a way to shove the bs abstinence teachings out of the schools.",https://sexeducationcollaborative.org/states/new-mexico,44,Ouija-Board-Demon,1703448207.0 -Feminism,18pq5xn,😼,,https://i.redd.it/1cif9pt5278c1.jpeg,307,wetpears09,1703402490.0 +I could go on all day but this needs to be talked about. I hope that those of you here in New Mexico can help find a way to shove the bs abstinence teachings out of the schools.",https://sexeducationcollaborative.org/states/new-mexico,44,Ouija-Board-Demon,2023-12-24 20:03:27 +Feminism,18pq5xn,😼,,https://i.redd.it/1cif9pt5278c1.jpeg,307,wetpears09,2023-12-24 07:21:30 Feminism,18ppv9z,I've honestly given up on finding a feminist partner...,"Honestly, at times I wish I was a bi-demisexual instead of being the worst combination possible: a straight demisexual with a high sex drive...and yes, feminist. 2 failed engagements and nothing looking better from here relationship-wise, I've reset my goals to just getting a cottage in Scandinavia somewhere, a dog, and maybe a cat and calling life complete at that point. Hopes of raising children and finding a loving partner who actually respects me have gone out the window more or less. The few men I've been able to find who claim to be feminist or trying to carefully phrase it as ""into equal rights"" (I recognize the latter is a complete red flag now) have simply been stating something to get an ""Ok, let's date"" out of me or putting on a false front until it all evaporates in exhaustion/frustration of not having their patriarchal whims fullfilled. I'm just tired of it all. I'm in a place that doesn't allow pets (it's NYC, so apartment hunting is a shit show and you get what you get or nothing at all for 2,000 a month hole in the wall or enjoying the 45-60 minute commute to the city), so I'm touch deprived, I work full-time with horrendous hours due to a lot of required overtime, I'm new to the city and don't have a lot of friends yet (the work hours haven't helped with this), family is on the other side of the country and our dynamic is complicated and exasperating for the most part...in short, I'm touch/emotional intimacy starved and sex deprived. As a demisexual, I cannot even wrap my head around one night stands so that's a no (it's not even about me being stuck up, even though I wouldn't risk the STDs nowadays) but also the thought of shagging with someone who doesn't give a rip about me, just doesn't wet my whistle, so things will not fire up and be ready to go. At this point I've been struggling with worsening depression to boot and just don't know where to turn from here at this point. I just feel like giving up. Is there light at the end of the tunnel? Does it get better? Spent most of my life alone, maybe the yearning for intimacy will go away. It feels like a curse at this point. Why is it so hard to find men who are not threatened by our dreams, skills, and ambitions? Why is it so hard to find men who respect us as people? I guess what hurts the most is in all my relationships, none of them wanted me to leave and yet respecting me was just too much for them? What does it take for men to see us as people worth respecting? -Edit: Wow, didn't expect this to blow up like it did. I'd like to thank everyone for the heartfelt responses, that means a lot. Also, it gives me some hope seeing how many responses included men that are feminist. I suppose that gives me some hope.",,266,AcanthaceaeFancy3887,1703401272.0 +Edit: Wow, didn't expect this to blow up like it did. I'd like to thank everyone for the heartfelt responses, that means a lot. Also, it gives me some hope seeing how many responses included men that are feminist. I suppose that gives me some hope.",,266,AcanthaceaeFancy3887,2023-12-24 07:01:12 Feminism,18pmjuo,Need advice overcoming resentfulness and anger when noticing how differently my parents treat my brother than they treat me,"Everytime I visit home I see the differences in how my parents treat my brother (19M) and me (24F). The whole time I lived in my parent's house, my curfew was when school ended. I was never allowed to go out to see friends outside of school save for a couple friends that my parents knew. As a result, I ended up with little to no friends in middle school and high school. I went to college 30 minutes away from home, and the only reason I was allowed to live in the dorms was because it was required. Regardless, I was expected to come home every weekend, and my mom face timed me at 9pm every night to make sure I was in the dorm and would track my location. I know all these things seem small, but all of this has cumulated to where I feel like I've missed out on a huge part of adulthood that I'll never get back. I moved across the country a couple years back for grad school so I have way more freedom now. However, I have an incredible amount of anxiety about any and all social events I go to, where I feel like I'll get in ""trouble"" if I stay out too long or am out at night, and don't have many friends from high school/college because of the surveillance. I'm in my mid-twenties, and feel like all my friends have moved on to adulthood but I'm still stuck mentally. My brother, on the other hand, has had no issues with his freedom. He's hit all of his young adult milestones right when everyone does - he partied and drank throughout high school, dated, and went out until the wee hours of the morning with a lot of friends, things that I never got close to doing because I barely went out at all. He's in college now and is the same age I was when I was tracked constantly but he goes in and out of the house and his dorm without question. He speaks about his activities with my parents, and they don't care at all; when I was that age, my mom threatened to pull me out of college for going to get ice cream with my friends past dark. -I'm working hard in therapy to get over this resentment, but every time I come back home, I get triggered almost every day and can't stop myself from commenting about it to my parents. My parents take my comments VERY personally and get extremely upset, yelling and screaming, whenever I do. It seems like they mean my comments to be about their overall parenting, meanwhile I feel upset and gaslit about losing important parts of my youth. I don't know what to do. They claim it's because of other factors but I can tell it's a gender thing. How do I notice this every day and not go crazy? And how do I just not bring it up to my family? Sometimes I really hate being a woman. What did I do wrong to lose these precious moments? I keep trying to tell myself that it's okay, and I can do all that now, but it's so hard to move on, especially when at home. ",,133,hillsharita,1703389040.0 -Feminism,18prgvc,How The British Press Failed Brianna Ghey,,https://youtu.be/8LG2eo7BXIg?si=vr-rAk2ctRvaGQIE,33,milgrip,1703408141.0 -Feminism,18pbq7z,How millennials learned to dread motherhood,,https://www.vox.com/features/23979357/millennials-motherhood-dread-parenting-birthrate-women-policy,476,eddytony96,1703356015.0 +I'm working hard in therapy to get over this resentment, but every time I come back home, I get triggered almost every day and can't stop myself from commenting about it to my parents. My parents take my comments VERY personally and get extremely upset, yelling and screaming, whenever I do. It seems like they mean my comments to be about their overall parenting, meanwhile I feel upset and gaslit about losing important parts of my youth. I don't know what to do. They claim it's because of other factors but I can tell it's a gender thing. How do I notice this every day and not go crazy? And how do I just not bring it up to my family? Sometimes I really hate being a woman. What did I do wrong to lose these precious moments? I keep trying to tell myself that it's okay, and I can do all that now, but it's so hard to move on, especially when at home. ",,133,hillsharita,2023-12-24 03:37:20 +Feminism,18prgvc,How The British Press Failed Brianna Ghey,,https://youtu.be/8LG2eo7BXIg?si=vr-rAk2ctRvaGQIE,33,milgrip,2023-12-24 08:55:41 +Feminism,18pbq7z,How millennials learned to dread motherhood,,https://www.vox.com/features/23979357/millennials-motherhood-dread-parenting-birthrate-women-policy,476,eddytony96,2023-12-23 18:26:55 Feminism,18pah7i,Vent about men who pretend to be feminists,"I recently saw my old high school bully in an instagram post who frequently sexualized me (at 14), negatively commented on my appearance and made fun of me for being a women in a leadership role in school clubs. He now is an intern on a very liberal/left-leaning talk show and was surrounded by other women interns supposedly having the time of their life. Honestly, I don’t doubt that he’s changed in some regard and is no longer doing the things he did (at least publicly), BUT it made me so angry to think of these men that are friends with women who have a whole history and past of being the “bad guy”, the misogynist, or the bully. Another example is my ex who assaulted me - while I had to block him on every platform, I know he is now friends with a group of queer woman. His words, he’s the “honorary lesbian” of the group 🤢. To his friend group, I’m sure they see him as a normal guy - maybe even a feminist guy or a guy with more progressive beliefs - the “good guy”. YET, they are totally unaware of his abusive SA past. Knowing this I’m both angry and terrified that we live in a world of men - with at least some history of slighting, bullying or even abusing women - where they go about there daily business with zero accountability and are actually accepted in more liberal, feminist or queer spaces. How do I move on knowing I could be friends with or even dating someone who has hurt another in the past? And then how likely are they just to repeat the past? -I think it’s really easy to avoid the men who clearly hate women and subscribe to the patriarchy - but what about these men with hidden pasts? I’m really hoping there is a more hopeful outlook on this but I’m not sure.",,280,lazyegg45,1703352437.0 +I think it’s really easy to avoid the men who clearly hate women and subscribe to the patriarchy - but what about these men with hidden pasts? I’m really hoping there is a more hopeful outlook on this but I’m not sure.",,280,lazyegg45,2023-12-23 17:27:17 Feminism,18p0mc6,This was posted in my city’s sub and men don’t see a problem with it,"This was in a newspaper for seniors. We have an insane housing crisis at the moment, with an estimated 525 women experiencing chronic homelessness. Of those, 269 are sleeping rough and 256 are in temporary shelters. Old bloke here is pretending to be altruistic to lure vulnerable women (only 35-55 and slim to medium build, but any race!) into his house, presumably to cook, clean and care for him. He read the news and thought “wow that sucks! I want to help out, but only if they’re bangable” @@ -11624,8 +11624,8 @@ A woman pointed out that he’s probably seeking “any race” to include women I guess the silver lining is that I can’t imagine many women in his preferred demographic are gonna be reading a seniors’ newspaper, let alone the dating section. -(Btw NS, ND means no smoking, no drugs)",https://i.redd.it/y8ffha8c008c1.jpeg,818,SubstantialTone4477,1703317132.0 -Feminism,18pjuhk,I love this comic. I wish I could send it to my stepdad but he's so set in his ways that it's just sad.,,https://twitter.com/roberttheotter/status/1592524002639376385?t=MtNngpO39rjCWryMmPKyeA&s=19,23,Ouija-Board-Demon,1703379910.0 +(Btw NS, ND means no smoking, no drugs)",https://i.redd.it/y8ffha8c008c1.jpeg,818,SubstantialTone4477,2023-12-23 07:38:52 +Feminism,18pjuhk,I love this comic. I wish I could send it to my stepdad but he's so set in his ways that it's just sad.,,https://twitter.com/roberttheotter/status/1592524002639376385?t=MtNngpO39rjCWryMmPKyeA&s=19,23,Ouija-Board-Demon,2023-12-24 01:05:10 Feminism,18pa5mq,Were you assertive as a child?,"Question mostly directed towards women and female presenting people. As a child and teenager, did you assert your own wishes? Did you feel safe doing so? And did things change in that regard, as you became an adult? @@ -11636,16 +11636,16 @@ Other things I found easier to say as a child. Like when I didn't like someone, As an adult woman I do feel a lot more social pressure to be nice to people. And give people a smile, even though they are complete strangers, and I'm not feeling like smiling. Anyone else have that? Did you feel this way as a child, too? Or did you only start feeling this pressure to ""act nice"" as you got older? -And how does one grow past it, overcome it? I don't want to be mean to people who don't deserve it. But I don't want to people please, either. I feel like this was a lot easier when I was a kid.",,38,KaivaUwU,1703351503.0 -Feminism,18oxz63,"California town proposes ban on Pride, Black and women’s history celebrations",,https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2023/dec/22/california-huntington-beach-ban-diverse-celebrations,98,BurtonDesque,1703307037.0 -Feminism,18ovuai,"Women's groups dismayed that officer who threatened to kill ex was demoted, not fired",,https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/ottawa/yourik-brisebois-discreditable-conduct-sentence-1.7063713,84,katespadesaturday,1703299701.0 -Feminism,18ou5ri,"Genitals (again, I know)","Okay so I see people mainly talk about female genitals as if they’re just a hole, and don’t involve any other pieces. I feel like as women we are kinda just taught that we have a hole and that it bleeds once at month and that’s it and not anything else, causing confusion and worry about our genitals and what they should look like, do, etc. I guess this is just a bit of a rant but I’m kind of getting sick of it.",,98,hEh79,1703294289.0 -Feminism,18optp4,Why do people accuse women of always having “jealous” traits more than men?,"This is just through my personal observation, but at any time a woman is critical or she makes an opinion, people are just so ready to point out that “she’s must be jealous”. I have seen this happens FAR less between men. Why is this?",,175,Alternative_Cup6954,1703281679.0 -Feminism,18p3fv6,Looking for Aussie feminism,Hello! Does anyone know of feminist Australian podcasts or books ? ,,10,lyndongraffiti,1703329536.0 -Feminism,18omco6,Israeli doctors: Many of 30 released female hostages were assaulted in Gaza,,https://www.i24news.tv/en/news/israel-at-war/1703254945-israeli-doctors-confirm-that-30-released-female-hostages-were-raped,87,HaTzoref,1703271863.0 -Feminism,18o421u,Pharmacist refused emergency contraception prescription. Court to decide if that was discrimination,,https://nationalpost.com/pmn/health-pmn/pharmacist-refused-emergency-contraception-prescription-court-to-decide-if-that-was-discrimination,472,katespadesaturday,1703211525.0 +And how does one grow past it, overcome it? I don't want to be mean to people who don't deserve it. But I don't want to people please, either. I feel like this was a lot easier when I was a kid.",,38,KaivaUwU,2023-12-23 17:11:43 +Feminism,18oxz63,"California town proposes ban on Pride, Black and women’s history celebrations",,https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2023/dec/22/california-huntington-beach-ban-diverse-celebrations,98,BurtonDesque,2023-12-23 04:50:37 +Feminism,18ovuai,"Women's groups dismayed that officer who threatened to kill ex was demoted, not fired",,https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/ottawa/yourik-brisebois-discreditable-conduct-sentence-1.7063713,84,katespadesaturday,2023-12-23 02:48:21 +Feminism,18ou5ri,"Genitals (again, I know)","Okay so I see people mainly talk about female genitals as if they’re just a hole, and don’t involve any other pieces. I feel like as women we are kinda just taught that we have a hole and that it bleeds once at month and that’s it and not anything else, causing confusion and worry about our genitals and what they should look like, do, etc. I guess this is just a bit of a rant but I’m kind of getting sick of it.",,98,hEh79,2023-12-23 01:18:09 +Feminism,18optp4,Why do people accuse women of always having “jealous” traits more than men?,"This is just through my personal observation, but at any time a woman is critical or she makes an opinion, people are just so ready to point out that “she’s must be jealous”. I have seen this happens FAR less between men. Why is this?",,175,Alternative_Cup6954,2023-12-22 21:47:59 +Feminism,18p3fv6,Looking for Aussie feminism,Hello! Does anyone know of feminist Australian podcasts or books ? ,,10,lyndongraffiti,2023-12-23 11:05:36 +Feminism,18omco6,Israeli doctors: Many of 30 released female hostages were assaulted in Gaza,,https://www.i24news.tv/en/news/israel-at-war/1703254945-israeli-doctors-confirm-that-30-released-female-hostages-were-raped,87,HaTzoref,2023-12-22 19:04:23 +Feminism,18o421u,Pharmacist refused emergency contraception prescription. Court to decide if that was discrimination,,https://nationalpost.com/pmn/health-pmn/pharmacist-refused-emergency-contraception-prescription-court-to-decide-if-that-was-discrimination,472,katespadesaturday,2023-12-22 02:18:45 Feminism,18ocdr6,Random little rant,"So I used to have a guy friend, and he seemed chill, till I saw a tiktok he reposted saying that he wouldn't like his girlfriend talking to other boys. I called him, clearly upset, and tried explaining why that wasn't ok. I'll save you guys the details, but he said that it's a preference and he would leave if she didn't comply... I obviously got mad, cuz wtf, and he then had the fucking audacity to call me a ""female"" -Excuse me... that's literally objectifying me to my genitalia, and I tried explaining that. Obviously, he didn't listen. I quickly hung up, and blocked him in everything. And that's why I don't have guy friends, because they're either misogynist, or instantly try getting with me. I'm so tired of it🙄",,85,MiniPagan101,1703242733.0 +Excuse me... that's literally objectifying me to my genitalia, and I tried explaining that. Obviously, he didn't listen. I quickly hung up, and blocked him in everything. And that's why I don't have guy friends, because they're either misogynist, or instantly try getting with me. I'm so tired of it🙄",,85,MiniPagan101,2023-12-22 10:58:53 Feminism,18oapy8,Fat shaming & misogynie,"Do you also notice a significant connection? Today, I reflected on my experiences with fat-shaming, particularly involving heterosexual men. These were instances where I encountered intense hostility, leaving me feeling dehumanized. I believe this issue is closely intertwined with broader themes of misogyny and patronization, possibly drawing parallels to the ongoing debate on abortion rights, as it revolves around the right to bodily autonomy. Furthermore, I posit that this harsh judgment is rooted in society's rigid expectations for women. Misogynistic individuals often impose fixed roles, such as the expectation to have children, conform to certain beauty standards, and meet societal norms. This realization struck me as I contemplated ""skinny privilege"" today. @@ -11655,11 +11655,11 @@ In addition, I encourage you to share your fat-shaming experiences, regardless o What are your thoughts on this matter? -Edit: THANKS TO EVERYONE FOR SHARING YOUR EXPERIENCES, ALL YOUR SUPPORT & EVERY KIND WORD ❤️ It means a lot to me.",,116,RaiseConsistent8683,1703235956.0 -Feminism,18o6p2z,How can I stop my guy friends from making misogynistic comments?,"I (M15) am friends with most of the guys in my grade as I go to a small school. However sometimes when I am talking to them they say some messed up things about women, and tend to objectify women a fair amount. What do you think I should say in order to confront them about this when it comes up? I’m afraid if I’m too confrontational they might make fun of me, so I don’t know how to address them in a calmer manner.",,243,TimeExplorer5463,1703220147.0 -Feminism,18o9c5m,Some quotes that resonated with me today,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18o9c5m,133,Interesting-Oil-2989,1703230073.0 -Feminism,18oi6np,Confidence,"How can I grow my confidence as a woman? Ive become better. For example following my dreams, working toward finishing my degree, travelling, going to the gym, focusing on nurturing my hobbies/creative ideas. And general getting out of my comfort sone and try new things that scares me. But ofte I Get discouraged and I give up on my projects after a while. Finishing my degree has been the only thing Ive really pulled through. But its very performance based. How do you build inner confidence that isnt based on exterior things/performance. What makes you feel confident that you only do for you? 🙏",,17,Frequent-Presence302,1703260832.0 -Feminism,18nwo92,"More Than a Year After Mississippi Forced Her To Give Birth, It Still Hasn’t Offered Any Extra Help",,https://inthesetimes.com/article/dobbs-mississippi-abortion-republicans-family-policies,133,inthesetimesmag,1703191087.0 +Edit: THANKS TO EVERYONE FOR SHARING YOUR EXPERIENCES, ALL YOUR SUPPORT & EVERY KIND WORD ❤️ It means a lot to me.",,116,RaiseConsistent8683,2023-12-22 09:05:56 +Feminism,18o6p2z,How can I stop my guy friends from making misogynistic comments?,"I (M15) am friends with most of the guys in my grade as I go to a small school. However sometimes when I am talking to them they say some messed up things about women, and tend to objectify women a fair amount. What do you think I should say in order to confront them about this when it comes up? I’m afraid if I’m too confrontational they might make fun of me, so I don’t know how to address them in a calmer manner.",,243,TimeExplorer5463,2023-12-22 04:42:27 +Feminism,18o9c5m,Some quotes that resonated with me today,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18o9c5m,133,Interesting-Oil-2989,2023-12-22 07:27:53 +Feminism,18oi6np,Confidence,"How can I grow my confidence as a woman? Ive become better. For example following my dreams, working toward finishing my degree, travelling, going to the gym, focusing on nurturing my hobbies/creative ideas. And general getting out of my comfort sone and try new things that scares me. But ofte I Get discouraged and I give up on my projects after a while. Finishing my degree has been the only thing Ive really pulled through. But its very performance based. How do you build inner confidence that isnt based on exterior things/performance. What makes you feel confident that you only do for you? 🙏",,17,Frequent-Presence302,2023-12-22 16:00:32 +Feminism,18nwo92,"More Than a Year After Mississippi Forced Her To Give Birth, It Still Hasn’t Offered Any Extra Help",,https://inthesetimes.com/article/dobbs-mississippi-abortion-republicans-family-policies,133,inthesetimesmag,2023-12-21 20:38:07 Feminism,18nsg1q,What was a time you as a woman experienced chauvinism or misogyny in the workplace?,"I was having a discussion with a male friend who was doubting that women have these experiences as often as I said they do. He argued that these are rare and isolated incidents. I am looking for any woman who has experienced any incidents of sexism in their workplace to help make my point that it is more common than men often think it is. I'll start: I was once put in charge of managing a project that required I receive reports from male managers to complete. Despite completing most of the work for the project, I was not able to get any of them to turn in their reports despite numerous reminders and prompts that I needed them. As a result of the delay, the project ( and therefore, the opportunity for leadership) was taken from me and given to another male coworker. His requests for the reports were met immediately and he received company-wide kudos for doing the project despite me having already done 80% of the work . @@ -11690,16 +11690,16 @@ Rampant sexual harassment while working in restaurant BOH positions. including b &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,158,Grand-Management-720,1703180111.0 -Feminism,18nvv39,This chart ranks 180 countries by the percentage of their workforce who are women.,,https://www.qualtrics.com/blog/countries-ranked-by-female-workforce/,84,MaxGoodwinning,1703188927.0 -Feminism,18nzowy,Vin Diesel Accused of Sexual Battery in Lawsuit by Former Assistant.,,https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/vin-diesel-accused-of-sexual-battery-in-lawsuit-by-former-assistant,40,BeautifulLife1,1703199062.0 +&#x200B;",,158,Grand-Management-720,2023-12-21 17:35:11 +Feminism,18nvv39,This chart ranks 180 countries by the percentage of their workforce who are women.,,https://www.qualtrics.com/blog/countries-ranked-by-female-workforce/,84,MaxGoodwinning,2023-12-21 20:02:07 +Feminism,18nzowy,Vin Diesel Accused of Sexual Battery in Lawsuit by Former Assistant.,,https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/vin-diesel-accused-of-sexual-battery-in-lawsuit-by-former-assistant,40,BeautifulLife1,2023-12-21 22:51:02 Feminism,18o7z78,Gift Ideas?,"Hi All, My wife has recently started her feminist journey, and is becoming really passionate about the movement, and how she can help/ get involved. -Her Birthday is coming up soon, and I was going to get her a hair dryer (I promise she wants one), but I am wondering if there were any gift ideas I could get her that would help her in understanding feminism more, or educate her more, I am not really sure what I am trying to say, but hopefully maybe some of you might have some ideas on things that helped you along the way.",,7,K13mm,1703224751.0 -Feminism,18nj8nt,Concerned about how young boys are being taught to treat women,"I'm still young enough to play Roblox, a game that a lot of literal children play, and since I have a female avatar I've had lots of incidents where kids around 10-13 years old have, let's just say, imitated sexual acts against my avatar without warning. I try to tell them off but they never show any understanding whatsoever that this is extremely inappropriate. Are kids getting taught somewhere that this is okay? Is this coming from some sort of guru figure, telling them that women are just objects? I don't want to think that this is what kids are naturally like at such young ages.",,262,musicloverx98x,1703151447.0 +Her Birthday is coming up soon, and I was going to get her a hair dryer (I promise she wants one), but I am wondering if there were any gift ideas I could get her that would help her in understanding feminism more, or educate her more, I am not really sure what I am trying to say, but hopefully maybe some of you might have some ideas on things that helped you along the way.",,7,K13mm,2023-12-22 05:59:11 +Feminism,18nj8nt,Concerned about how young boys are being taught to treat women,"I'm still young enough to play Roblox, a game that a lot of literal children play, and since I have a female avatar I've had lots of incidents where kids around 10-13 years old have, let's just say, imitated sexual acts against my avatar without warning. I try to tell them off but they never show any understanding whatsoever that this is extremely inappropriate. Are kids getting taught somewhere that this is okay? Is this coming from some sort of guru figure, telling them that women are just objects? I don't want to think that this is what kids are naturally like at such young ages.",,262,musicloverx98x,2023-12-21 09:37:27 Feminism,18nlz7o,Czech Republic: Forcing students to take off their bras before exams,"https://www.irozhlas.cz/zpravy-domov/czu-podprsenky-ceska-zemedelska-univerzita-praha-testovaci-centrum-pef-studentky_2312180500_har Few weeks ago, there was a story on the news about the Czech Agricultural University requiring students to pass a metal detector test before they are allowed to take their exams. The issue is that the metal detector is detecting bra underwires and the students are being forced to take them off. @@ -11708,16 +11708,16 @@ There was quite the press about it and an Ethics Comittee meeting has been sched Just 3 days ago, the article I linked above came out. Apparently, not only has it not stopped, but the school is now using the excuse of protecting the school against Russian-speaking Organized Groups using spy technology. Also, the spokesperson defending the school is a woman, how embarrasing. -For context, metal detectors are not used like this at universities here. The original issue may have been cheating, but to me this looks like they're taking advantage of girls that cannot say no (or they are denied the exam). And even if you comply, you spend the whole exam trying to pass while processing the traumatic experience.",,131,Every_River5693,1703161906.0 -Feminism,18novri,Outrage as Emmanuel Macron says Gérard Depardieu is target of ‘manhunt’,,https://www.theguardian.com/film/2023/dec/21/emmanuel-macron-says-gerard-depardieu-is-target-of-manhunt,30,BurtonDesque,1703170603.0 -Feminism,18no7r5,Empowering Fitness Initiative Reconnects Women with the Joy of Double Dutch,"If you’re in Long Island, I recommend giving them a call.",https://www.newsday.com/long-island/li-life/double-dutch-jump-rope-long-island-n3hpehj3,16,Black_Reactor,1703168742.0 -Feminism,18n40pl,How TikTok Trends May Be Setting Gender Back By Decades,,https://www.thedailybeast.com/tiktok-trends-like-girl-dinner-may-be-setting-gender-back-by-decades,457,BurtonDesque,1703103227.0 -Feminism,18mwgot,Iran hangs 'child bride' for murdering husband despite international appeals for clemency,,https://www.france24.com/en/live-news/20231220-iran-hangs-child-bride-for-murder-of-husband-rights-groups,413,Shekari_Club,1703084176.0 +For context, metal detectors are not used like this at universities here. The original issue may have been cheating, but to me this looks like they're taking advantage of girls that cannot say no (or they are denied the exam). And even if you comply, you spend the whole exam trying to pass while processing the traumatic experience.",,131,Every_River5693,2023-12-21 12:31:46 +Feminism,18novri,Outrage as Emmanuel Macron says Gérard Depardieu is target of ‘manhunt’,,https://www.theguardian.com/film/2023/dec/21/emmanuel-macron-says-gerard-depardieu-is-target-of-manhunt,30,BurtonDesque,2023-12-21 14:56:43 +Feminism,18no7r5,Empowering Fitness Initiative Reconnects Women with the Joy of Double Dutch,"If you’re in Long Island, I recommend giving them a call.",https://www.newsday.com/long-island/li-life/double-dutch-jump-rope-long-island-n3hpehj3,16,Black_Reactor,2023-12-21 14:25:42 +Feminism,18n40pl,How TikTok Trends May Be Setting Gender Back By Decades,,https://www.thedailybeast.com/tiktok-trends-like-girl-dinner-may-be-setting-gender-back-by-decades,457,BurtonDesque,2023-12-20 20:13:47 +Feminism,18mwgot,Iran hangs 'child bride' for murdering husband despite international appeals for clemency,,https://www.france24.com/en/live-news/20231220-iran-hangs-child-bride-for-murder-of-husband-rights-groups,413,Shekari_Club,2023-12-20 14:56:16 Feminism,18mpa1j,See a dad realize that his wife has had an empty stocking … for 10 years. So depressing that she defended him,"This is the story of women everywhere. I would say MOST women have experience this at least a few times. -I’m sad she defended him. He went a DECADE without noticing.",https://www.today.com/parents/moms/moms-empty-christmas-stocking-rcna130333?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=news_tab,1104,cannotberushed-,1703058788.0 -Feminism,18mu7yv,‘I’m not a toy’: how an antiquated tradition of forced marriage wrecked one girl’s life,,https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2023/dec/19/womens-ordeal-under-pakistan-ghag-illegal-forced-marriage-custom,275,BurtonDesque,1703077771.0 -Feminism,18n8323,Speaker Mike Johnson and daughter were profiled attending 'purity ball' in 2015 German TV news segment,,https://abcnews.go.com/US/speaker-mike-johnson-daughter-profiled-attending-purity-ball/story?id=105785626,45,BurtonDesque,1703113905.0 +I’m sad she defended him. He went a DECADE without noticing.",https://www.today.com/parents/moms/moms-empty-christmas-stocking-rcna130333?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=news_tab,1104,cannotberushed-,2023-12-20 07:53:08 +Feminism,18mu7yv,‘I’m not a toy’: how an antiquated tradition of forced marriage wrecked one girl’s life,,https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2023/dec/19/womens-ordeal-under-pakistan-ghag-illegal-forced-marriage-custom,275,BurtonDesque,2023-12-20 13:09:31 +Feminism,18n8323,Speaker Mike Johnson and daughter were profiled attending 'purity ball' in 2015 German TV news segment,,https://abcnews.go.com/US/speaker-mike-johnson-daughter-profiled-attending-purity-ball/story?id=105785626,45,BurtonDesque,2023-12-20 23:11:45 Feminism,18mww8z,The Korean gaming industry is censoring feminism(Thought censorship) against female applicants.,"[https://www.reddit.com/r/Feminism/comments/18dilra/collective\_madness\_happening\_in\_korea/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Feminism/comments/18dilra/collective_madness_happening_in_korea/) If you are curious about Maple Story's ""index finger"" controversy, please click the link above. @@ -11799,16 +11799,16 @@ Moreover, these days, in reality, the number of male groups that assault women i > >***P.S(2) And in the incel community, “feminist hunting” is as popular as a sport. Korean incels, if there is a female employee in a certain gaming industry and the fact is known, they investigate her social media because she is a female. Additionally, Korean incels claim that feminists have infiltrated certain games if female characters are not pretty or wear pants instead of skirts. The Limbus Company and Genshin Impact incidents are just a few of the numerous incel incidents. And incels do not hesitate to write sexually harassing comments and even send death threats when female employees in the gaming industry are revealed to be feminists. Korean incels go further and seriously criticize Western games, saying that their female characters are not pretty because they are dominated by SJW feminists. Korean incels even got excessively angry when a leaked copy of GTA6 was featured in an article, saying that the female characters were not pretty, and such comments even made it into the top 5. In addition to GTA 6, Korean incels often get more angry than necessary, saying that female characters in some Western games are not pretty. The terrible truth is that this opinion is not just one or two incels, it is the mainstream opinion and many incels think this way.*** -&#x200B;",,111,Inner_Response_1714,1703085275.0 -Feminism,18mu6eq,Italian court sentences Pakistani parents for murder of teenage daughter,,https://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/dec/19/italian-court-sentences-pakistani-parents-for-of-teenage-daughter,74,BurtonDesque,1703077629.0 -Feminism,18mgqi0,"Colorado Supreme Court, in landmark ruling, bans Trump from state’s ballot under insurrection clause",Woohooo,https://apnews.com/article/trump-insurrection-14th-amendment-2024-colorado-d16dd8f354eeaf450558378c65fd79a2?,201,cannotberushed-,1703031127.0 -Feminism,18m8duc,Ohio Republicans plot to thwart voters who backed 'immoral and evil' abortion rights,,https://www.rawstory.com/ohio-abortion-law-2666659920/,215,audiomuse1,1703009575.0 +&#x200B;",,111,Inner_Response_1714,2023-12-20 15:14:35 +Feminism,18mu6eq,Italian court sentences Pakistani parents for murder of teenage daughter,,https://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/dec/19/italian-court-sentences-pakistani-parents-for-of-teenage-daughter,74,BurtonDesque,2023-12-20 13:07:09 +Feminism,18mgqi0,"Colorado Supreme Court, in landmark ruling, bans Trump from state’s ballot under insurrection clause",Woohooo,https://apnews.com/article/trump-insurrection-14th-amendment-2024-colorado-d16dd8f354eeaf450558378c65fd79a2?,201,cannotberushed-,2023-12-20 00:12:07 +Feminism,18m8duc,Ohio Republicans plot to thwart voters who backed 'immoral and evil' abortion rights,,https://www.rawstory.com/ohio-abortion-law-2666659920/,215,audiomuse1,2023-12-19 18:12:55 Feminism,18mm12g,"Are there any books, television programmes, comics, movies, and similar, which are so near exclusively read by sexists that you would be very concerned if you knew someone is a fan of it?","Other than the Kloran of the KKK. That one is too easy. I don't know that many movies or comics, I have a pretty limited range of those I am into. -Edit: Also youtubers and songs. Edit two: Also radio shows and podcasts.",,21,Awesomeuser90,1703047013.0 -Feminism,18lrifi,Young voters explain why they’re bailing on Biden — and whether they’d come back,This is honestly a scary prospect and will have detrimental effects on women beyond what we have already seen if a Republican gains more power,https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/2024-election/young-voters-explain-re-bailing-biden-whether-d-come-back-rcna130186?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=news_tab,338,cannotberushed-,1702955011.0 +Edit: Also youtubers and songs. Edit two: Also radio shows and podcasts.",,21,Awesomeuser90,2023-12-20 04:36:53 +Feminism,18lrifi,Young voters explain why they’re bailing on Biden — and whether they’d come back,This is honestly a scary prospect and will have detrimental effects on women beyond what we have already seen if a Republican gains more power,https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/2024-election/young-voters-explain-re-bailing-biden-whether-d-come-back-rcna130186?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=news_tab,338,cannotberushed-,2023-12-19 03:03:31 Feminism,18lu99f,Self Defense,"I am so tired of seeing this. Whenever there’s a post somewhere about women being scared of being attacked, the comments will be filled with men saying “Just get a gun. Then you’ll be safe”. And like. Wow. So many problems with that. @@ -11817,7 +11817,7 @@ Whenever there’s a post somewhere about women being scared of being attacked, 3. They already don’t believe women. Can you imagine how viciously they’d tear apart any woman who shot a man in self defense? They would never believe them. They’d accuse them of lying or being paranoid or just hating men. Men wouldn’t rest until they were locked up. So many more. It’s just so upsetting and I wish it wasn’t even a conversation. Why do women always have to be responsible for not being attacked? Why can’t men just not be horrible?? -*I’m brand new to this sub so just in case, I’ll clarify that I obviously don’t mean all men. I’m a man (ftm). I just needed to rant about this. Hope that’s okay!",,182,lightthroughthepines,1702963631.0 +*I’m brand new to this sub so just in case, I’ll clarify that I obviously don’t mean all men. I’m a man (ftm). I just needed to rant about this. Hope that’s okay!",,182,lightthroughthepines,2023-12-19 05:27:11 Feminism,18m5dvq,"Subtle definitions of terms, like ""chivalry"" and ""gentleman's club""","Question A question in another sub reminded me of a few terms that felt contradictory to me, as I was growing up. I was born in 1965, and my experiences with these terms were informed by books, religious indoctrination, TV shows and movies, as well as the way I watched society use these terms. Many of these terms have fallen out of common usage, but one term, chivalry, does show up occasionally, in a few conversations I have seen recently. @@ -11830,9 +11830,9 @@ I do remember being confused by one particular scene, while I was still a teen. I am in no way asking all of this to get into the subject of sex-work. I am just looking back at how I instinctively viewed certain terms as definitions that to me, seemed to be saying that men sexualized and objectified women, but decent men did it with better coercion techniques, and more discretion. -TLDR: Did terms like ""chivalry"" and ""gentleman's club"" give others mixed messages? What other terms felt like mixed messages?",,23,Excellent_Crow_6830,1703001907.0 -Feminism,18m1wag,Iran: Female fans allowed into stadium for men's soccer game,,https://www.newarab.com/news/iran-female-fans-allowed-stadium-mens-soccer-game,29,monparan,1702992552.0 -Feminism,18llyr7,Sexism in Genital jokes,"Ok so I don’t understand how so many guys can make dick jokes, even saying “suck my dick” and it’s funny and chill and all but then when a female or honestly anybody makes a joke per say about vaginas suddenly everyone is disgusted or uncomfortable. Like one time me and my male friend were joke-arguing and I said “suck my clit!” And he suddenly gets all quiet and scrunches up his face like he’s grossed out. He had made many dick jokes prior and I just do not understand all of this hiding and being disgusted of female anatomy.",,378,hEh79,1702939592.0 +TLDR: Did terms like ""chivalry"" and ""gentleman's club"" give others mixed messages? What other terms felt like mixed messages?",,23,Excellent_Crow_6830,2023-12-19 16:05:07 +Feminism,18m1wag,Iran: Female fans allowed into stadium for men's soccer game,,https://www.newarab.com/news/iran-female-fans-allowed-stadium-mens-soccer-game,29,monparan,2023-12-19 13:29:12 +Feminism,18llyr7,Sexism in Genital jokes,"Ok so I don’t understand how so many guys can make dick jokes, even saying “suck my dick” and it’s funny and chill and all but then when a female or honestly anybody makes a joke per say about vaginas suddenly everyone is disgusted or uncomfortable. Like one time me and my male friend were joke-arguing and I said “suck my clit!” And he suddenly gets all quiet and scrunches up his face like he’s grossed out. He had made many dick jokes prior and I just do not understand all of this hiding and being disgusted of female anatomy.",,378,hEh79,2023-12-18 22:46:32 Feminism,18lgd2u,You Just Can't Take Me Anywhere!,"My last post on here was about the flight attendant who boomer-joked about my husband intentionally wanting to be sat away from me. In line to scan my ticket to said flight the flight attendant, a woman in her 50s or 60s took the ticket of the man in front of me and said, ""Thank you, sir."" Said nothing to me when scanning my ticket, then took my husband's and also thanked him and called him sir. The men are called sir, the women are called nothing. Interesting, right? Now that I have really educated myself on feminist thought I feel like I can't go anywhere without seeing it. In all these small and big ways, so many ways women are shown that they are just a collection of stereotypes and small slights. @@ -11855,7 +11855,7 @@ Honestly, it is so weird and sad. Like I said, I can't go anywhere anymore. -&#x200B;",,268,whenth3bowbreaks,1702925718.0 +&#x200B;",,268,whenth3bowbreaks,2023-12-18 18:55:18 Feminism,18lu0fa,Buck/Bachelor Parties and Strip Clubs (Am I a wet blanket / bad friend not to go?),"I am a cis het male and I have been invited to a few bachelor parties. The very first time I went to this kind of party when I was young (over 18 though) we visited a strip club and I hated it (some reasons discussed below). @@ -11876,8 +11876,8 @@ So basically I didn't attend my friend's bucks except for the first two hour act a) Assuming worker rights are same for adult industry as others (probably not totally true anywhere but just for purpose of the argument), do you think strip clubs still do harm? -b) If you agree with not going to a strip club, how can one explain this? I can say I think it's gross, I don't like it, but I find it hard to express more than that and would love to know some other ways to explain the reason not to go.",,40,PeupleDeLaMer,1702962820.0 -Feminism,18lnzsy,Knesset confronts high suicide rates in wake of Hamas sexual violence,,https://www.ynetnews.com/health_science/article/hykkfr6i6,85,nahalkishon,1702944889.0 +b) If you agree with not going to a strip club, how can one explain this? I can say I think it's gross, I don't like it, but I find it hard to express more than that and would love to know some other ways to explain the reason not to go.",,40,PeupleDeLaMer,2023-12-19 05:13:40 +Feminism,18lnzsy,Knesset confronts high suicide rates in wake of Hamas sexual violence,,https://www.ynetnews.com/health_science/article/hykkfr6i6,85,nahalkishon,2023-12-19 00:14:49 Feminism,18ld386,"""I am Kenough"" enrages me.","Another post on this subreddit made me want to post this. I have a differing opinion on the Barbie movie from them (which is totally fine as we are all valid in our differing opinions and the OP makes a lot of great points). For me, it was nice just to see so much of what femme presenting people and women talk about what we experience in the Barbie movie. &#x200B; @@ -11900,25 +11900,25 @@ Also, to clarify what I meant by ""can we just have anything that can stay just I am enjoying how other people perceive ""I am Kenough"" since it is opposite from how I see it. I think we may be in an ""intent vs impact"" situation here where the intent may have been how many people in this group see it but for me the impact ended up being the opposite. While I may still feel the same as I did before, I still love to see other people's perspectives. It's also a reminder that no group is a monolith and how a lot of people may perceive a statement in one way can come off the exact opposite to another based on our individual lived experiences. -Lastly, this is a critique of how society grabbed on to the phrase and the merch of the phrase. It's not a critique of the movie itself. I feel the movie itself did a good job for mainstream media to show how patriarchy hurts men and women. My comments are about how the one thing society took and ran with is the phrase from Ken.",,174,fuzziekittens,1702917629.0 -Feminism,18kp7qr,BIG NEWS: Wisconsin’s total abortion ban has been overturned. The procedure is now officially legal through 20 weeks again,,https://apnews.com/article/abortion-ban-wisconsin-dane-county-judge-ruling-b9992fc2a162bc4b5201936a69d00eec,1934,fitxfor,1702841778.0 -Feminism,18l15k6,I did not like the Barbie movie,"Okay for some context I’m a 17 year old girl,who’s also a raging feminist, and I watched the Barbie movie for the second time on max today and I have some problems with it. The whole message of the movie feels like corporate feminism, and I get it it was made by Mattel and all but still. Not only are there multiple jokes about cellulite and how it’s bad and that’s why Barbie goes into the real world. But then it’s okay because she called an old lady beautiful . They want me to be okay with aging but all the jokes about cellulite tells me otherwise.The whole speech about how hard it is to be a woman; how you’re supposed to be thin but not to thin is overlooked because the only plus size character is always wearing more clothes than any other Barbie. The last act of the movie feels like it’s from another movie. We walk away thinking about Ken. And yes the patriarchy affects everyone, however that shouldn’t overshadow how it affects women. When Ken brings the Patriarchy into Barbie land all the Barbies love it. The only reason they think it’s bad is because someone told them. As if I haven’t know women are treated differently since I was a child. They want to talk about a complicated issue but still spell it out for me as if I was an idiot. Barbie forgives Ken after everything because we can’t have a movie about women without them forgiving the terrible men in their lives. They could’ve done a movie about how nobody plays with Ken or a movie about the patriarchy, but no they halfass both. And at the end of the day nothing changes for anybody the patriarchy still exists in the real world and Len still don’t have power in Barbie Land.",,192,aretzloff7,1702877093.0 +Lastly, this is a critique of how society grabbed on to the phrase and the merch of the phrase. It's not a critique of the movie itself. I feel the movie itself did a good job for mainstream media to show how patriarchy hurts men and women. My comments are about how the one thing society took and ran with is the phrase from Ken.",,174,fuzziekittens,2023-12-18 16:40:29 +Feminism,18kp7qr,BIG NEWS: Wisconsin’s total abortion ban has been overturned. The procedure is now officially legal through 20 weeks again,,https://apnews.com/article/abortion-ban-wisconsin-dane-county-judge-ruling-b9992fc2a162bc4b5201936a69d00eec,1934,fitxfor,2023-12-17 19:36:18 +Feminism,18l15k6,I did not like the Barbie movie,"Okay for some context I’m a 17 year old girl,who’s also a raging feminist, and I watched the Barbie movie for the second time on max today and I have some problems with it. The whole message of the movie feels like corporate feminism, and I get it it was made by Mattel and all but still. Not only are there multiple jokes about cellulite and how it’s bad and that’s why Barbie goes into the real world. But then it’s okay because she called an old lady beautiful . They want me to be okay with aging but all the jokes about cellulite tells me otherwise.The whole speech about how hard it is to be a woman; how you’re supposed to be thin but not to thin is overlooked because the only plus size character is always wearing more clothes than any other Barbie. The last act of the movie feels like it’s from another movie. We walk away thinking about Ken. And yes the patriarchy affects everyone, however that shouldn’t overshadow how it affects women. When Ken brings the Patriarchy into Barbie land all the Barbies love it. The only reason they think it’s bad is because someone told them. As if I haven’t know women are treated differently since I was a child. They want to talk about a complicated issue but still spell it out for me as if I was an idiot. Barbie forgives Ken after everything because we can’t have a movie about women without them forgiving the terrible men in their lives. They could’ve done a movie about how nobody plays with Ken or a movie about the patriarchy, but no they halfass both. And at the end of the day nothing changes for anybody the patriarchy still exists in the real world and Len still don’t have power in Barbie Land.",,192,aretzloff7,2023-12-18 05:24:53 Feminism,18lecij,SURVEY: Gender Beliefs and Stress (Mod-Approved) - 18+ cisgender participants,"Thanks to mods for approving this collaboration. Why is there such disagreement on gender issues and could it have something to do with stress and perceptions of inequality? This anonymous online questionnaire hopes to help answer this question. Any consenting cisgender (gender identifies with their sex assigned at birth) adult can join the study, if they understand and accept that some of the questions could have the potential to upset them. The study has ethical approval from Northumbria University. Participants are asked for demographic information and their opinions but nothing that can identify them. The questionnaire takes an estimated 10 minutes to complete. The questionnaire can be freely distributed, and the study would benefit from access to as many participants as possible. Thank you. Please find the link to the questionnaire: [https://nupsych.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV\_3RgdQo7fxgLwGcm](https://nupsych.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3RgdQo7fxgLwGcm) -Further information revealed in debriefing section at end of study!",,12,BrainSurveyer,1702920753.0 -Feminism,18lfn44,Survey for AP Research: 1930s rhetoric in the fashion industry,"Hi everyone!! I am a student in an AP research class in which we conduct a year long research project and conduct our own study. I am studying the rhetoric choices in 1930s fashion advertisements, and the covert sexism used. In order to understand how these trends have continued, I have developed a survey with the help of an advisor. This survey is intended only for those identifying as a woman and will go more in depth with what it asks. I also ask for 18+ in order to reduce the amount of parental consent forms. Thank you!! have a good day everyone :))",https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfmUEjCQaJNU_RDWiA2gPI2TK8hhbHntt9eW88yl539vrX_rA/viewform?vc=0&c=0&w=1&flr=0&usp=mail_form_link,6,No_Elephant_9589,1702923921.0 +Further information revealed in debriefing section at end of study!",,12,BrainSurveyer,2023-12-18 17:32:33 +Feminism,18lfn44,Survey for AP Research: 1930s rhetoric in the fashion industry,"Hi everyone!! I am a student in an AP research class in which we conduct a year long research project and conduct our own study. I am studying the rhetoric choices in 1930s fashion advertisements, and the covert sexism used. In order to understand how these trends have continued, I have developed a survey with the help of an advisor. This survey is intended only for those identifying as a woman and will go more in depth with what it asks. I also ask for 18+ in order to reduce the amount of parental consent forms. Thank you!! have a good day everyone :))",https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfmUEjCQaJNU_RDWiA2gPI2TK8hhbHntt9eW88yl539vrX_rA/viewform?vc=0&c=0&w=1&flr=0&usp=mail_form_link,6,No_Elephant_9589,2023-12-18 18:25:21 Feminism,18kwixk,I am tired of the whataboutism that many men do when we feminists complain about hypersexualization towards women,"hypersexualization has a gender/sex-specific problem, therefore we can say that hypersexualization is deeply linked to sexism and misogyny. When we feminists complain about the sexual objectification of women, many men come out and try to tell us that men and especially cis hetero men can also be hypersexualized or fetishized on the same levels as a girl/woman. This is basically whataboutism and with its ""What about boys/men"". These men think sexualization and sexual harassment is ""privilege and praise"" towards women, so they don't know the difference between what is sexual harassment and what is praise. Even one man had the audacity to say he was sexually harassed by a woman when she literally just told him he was handsome (a compliment), while we women/afab since we were little girls have been harassed and sexualized by adult men and have also been socialized to be mothers since we were 3 years old, literally many of us have been bought baby dolls to take care of, while boys are broadcast that they should be brave/strong/professional, plus they are never told that they should already start a family and get married early when they go through puberty and girls are constantly told that we are already women at a young age when we are already menstr . They are simply incapable of understanding our suffering and often complain that women are ""harassing"" at the same level and pace as men when we talk about masculine pedophilia and the hypersexualization of girls/women. - This may sound controversial, but in my opinion when men complain that they are being ""sexualized"" by women when we talk about these issues it is probably because they want to troll us, I do not doubt that there are real cases of sexual harassment from women to men, without However, it is telling that they only talk about it when we try to tell them to stop sexualizing us and basing their standards on pornography. I've reviewed all of those guys' profiles and I sincerely doubt that they have been harassed by all the misogynistic, classist, racist and transphobic rhetoric they spew on their social media. Don't you find it curious that they worry sickly about false complaints when they themselves spread trolling and fake news (about women committing harassment or violence) as if it were real? I think they project themselves because they know they are lying. I have also seen that they think they have been ""sexualized"" and groomed like many of us when they have had consensual sex with older women (usually prostitutes). Man, you are not the victim here, being a consumer of prostitution is being a rapist and it doesn't matter if you are younger than the prostituted woman. I literally feel disgusted when they try to equate these situations with violent hypersexualization of girls/women. With their reasoning we realize that they do not understand what misogyny is. Worse still, they know who the victims of child marriage are (they are all girls and not boys). How do you have the audacity to point out that you are being hypersexualized? The only hypersexualization that I have seen that degrades men is when that sexualization has misogynistic roots. For example, I have seen many men treat femboys in sexist and homophobic ways. Many men often treat them as sexual objects or ""replacements"" for women, now not even feminine men are saved from the violence and harassment of other men. ",,123,Significant-Brief232,1702861913.0 + This may sound controversial, but in my opinion when men complain that they are being ""sexualized"" by women when we talk about these issues it is probably because they want to troll us, I do not doubt that there are real cases of sexual harassment from women to men, without However, it is telling that they only talk about it when we try to tell them to stop sexualizing us and basing their standards on pornography. I've reviewed all of those guys' profiles and I sincerely doubt that they have been harassed by all the misogynistic, classist, racist and transphobic rhetoric they spew on their social media. Don't you find it curious that they worry sickly about false complaints when they themselves spread trolling and fake news (about women committing harassment or violence) as if it were real? I think they project themselves because they know they are lying. I have also seen that they think they have been ""sexualized"" and groomed like many of us when they have had consensual sex with older women (usually prostitutes). Man, you are not the victim here, being a consumer of prostitution is being a rapist and it doesn't matter if you are younger than the prostituted woman. I literally feel disgusted when they try to equate these situations with violent hypersexualization of girls/women. With their reasoning we realize that they do not understand what misogyny is. Worse still, they know who the victims of child marriage are (they are all girls and not boys). How do you have the audacity to point out that you are being hypersexualized? The only hypersexualization that I have seen that degrades men is when that sexualization has misogynistic roots. For example, I have seen many men treat femboys in sexist and homophobic ways. Many men often treat them as sexual objects or ""replacements"" for women, now not even feminine men are saved from the violence and harassment of other men. ",,123,Significant-Brief232,2023-12-18 01:11:53 Feminism,18l08vi,i only feel worthy if im desired by men,"it's so fucking fucked up for me to even admit this out loud. im 18 and consider myself a feminist, im very, very into feminism, but my internalized misogyny is fucking awful. i just realized this, and it's making me nauseous just thinking about it. i feel like ive just been craving male validation, and i only feel good about myself if it means that men find me attractive. it makes me nauseous to think about. im a lesbian, so i don't even fucking like men. -i don't know what's wrong with me. i feel like im constantly putting up a show for some imaginary audience of men. i literally don't know who i am anymore. is something wrong with me? i fucking hate this",,51,[deleted],1702873951.0 +i don't know what's wrong with me. i feel like im constantly putting up a show for some imaginary audience of men. i literally don't know who i am anymore. is something wrong with me? i fucking hate this",,51,[deleted],2023-12-18 04:32:31 Feminism,18kzuuo,ISO your thoughts on nuanced situations of unsolicited male advice,"I frequent the Home Depot parking lot to work on my camper van. Almost every time I am bothered by at least one man the listing conversation to offer unsolicited advice and or ask if I'm accompanied by my husband and whatnot. After many experiences like this I've developed a system where, the moment I see or hear a man approaching I start recording on my phone and tell him to go away and leave me alone before I call the cops. Last week this happened and the security guard who works at the home Depot came out to check on my welfare afterwards. The creep in question had told them I was crazy and he came out to make sure I was okay. I told him the whole story and then I thank you for checking on me and understanding. @@ -11933,20 +11933,20 @@ I am tired of unsolicited advice from men assuming I need the help especially ev I don't want to have to choose between compassion for these guys and laying myself down to the condescension inherent in the unsolicited advice. I guess it would have been ideal to say, ""I know you're trying to be helpful but like I said I already know what I'm doing and I don't need help so I'd appreciate it if you just left it at that."" But it's hard to gather together that decorum in the moment.., -I guess I'm just looking for your thoughts etc.",,49,No_Celery9390,1702872634.0 -Feminism,18l1jlb,stop denying women their autonomy - a video essay on the pressure of patriarchy on women,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=asjmdBOUjQI\,34,hyun_a,1702878511.0 -Feminism,18l1hwu,Silent Suffering: Rohingya Girls Trapped in Abusive Marriages : City Telegraph,,https://citytelegraph.com/news/129776/rohingya-girls-trapped-in-abusive-marriages/,28,Motor-Helicopter-362,1702878335.0 -Feminism,18kqdbc,Problematic normalized thinking: ”I don’t want my girlfriend to have any male friends”,"If you cannot grasp the idea of your girlfriend having male friends that is neither a romantic or a sexual partner, that means you cannot grasp the idea that anyone would look at her as something that isnt sexual or romantic. You dont view her as a full person. Period.",,156,formercum,1702844797.0 -Feminism,18kp69n,What’s it like to travel out of state for an abortion? Women share their stories.,,https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/whats-it-like-to-travel-out-of-state-for-an-abortion-women-share-their-stories-211710565.html,63,karatecha,1702841671.0 -Feminism,18kp75z,FCC moves to help domestic violence victims with new rules around cellphones,,https://www.nbcnews.com/tech/tech-news/fcc-moves-help-domestic-violence-victims-new-rules-cellphones-rcna124902,36,Arivanya,1702841733.0 -Feminism,18kiva9,"Women’s contributions are often undervalued and overlooked in male-dominated environments, which could drive women’s underrepresentation in certain academic and professional fields. A better understanding of the “sense of mattering” may shine new light on the reasons for this persistent gender gap.",,https://compass.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/spc3.12907,48,lgramlich13,1702824490.0 -Feminism,18kjogw,‘Dangerous for women’: warning as Chileans vote on new draft constitution,,https://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/dec/17/chile-draft-constitution-vote-negative-impacts,31,BurtonDesque,1702826819.0 -Feminism,18jwd2c,A Black woman was criminally charged after a miscarriage. It shows the perils of pregnancy post-Roe,,https://nationalpost.com/pmn/health-pmn/black-ohio-woman-criminally-charged-after-miscarriage-underscores-the-perils-of-pregnancy-post-roe-2,704,katespadesaturday,1702748570.0 -Feminism,18juxzl,Pregnant Texans Continue to Be Pulled Over in Carpool Lane After Abortion Ruling: 'I Have Two Heartbeats in the Car',,https://themessenger.com/news/pregnant-texans-pulled-over-carpool-lane-abortion-ruling,635,audiomuse1,1702744604.0 -Feminism,18jwcil,Why aren't we in the streets?,,/r/prochoice/comments/18jr0ls/why_arent_we_in_the_streets/,150,Lonely_Version_8135,1702748522.0 -Feminism,18jcdxo,petition: A Massive Survey Shows Black Americans Are Being Mistreated in Doctors' Offices,It happened to Serena Williams.,https://www.thepetitionsite.com/887/780/873/a-massive-survey-shows-black-americans-are-being-mistreated-in-doctors-offices/,347,shrapnel2176,1702680032.0 -Feminism,18jo8d2,"Clara Schumann, Great 19th Century Composer, and Her Internalized Misogyny",,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MSn0WU3L2nw,20,DerpyMcDerpelI,1702721388.0 -Feminism,18j3xf7,We Have Mounting Proof That Cruel Men Control Women’s Bodies in Red States,,https://www.thenation.com/article/society/kate-cox-brittany-watts/,396,audiomuse1,1702657562.0 +I guess I'm just looking for your thoughts etc.",,49,No_Celery9390,2023-12-18 04:10:34 +Feminism,18l1jlb,stop denying women their autonomy - a video essay on the pressure of patriarchy on women,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=asjmdBOUjQI\,34,hyun_a,2023-12-18 05:48:31 +Feminism,18l1hwu,Silent Suffering: Rohingya Girls Trapped in Abusive Marriages : City Telegraph,,https://citytelegraph.com/news/129776/rohingya-girls-trapped-in-abusive-marriages/,28,Motor-Helicopter-362,2023-12-18 05:45:35 +Feminism,18kqdbc,Problematic normalized thinking: ”I don’t want my girlfriend to have any male friends”,"If you cannot grasp the idea of your girlfriend having male friends that is neither a romantic or a sexual partner, that means you cannot grasp the idea that anyone would look at her as something that isnt sexual or romantic. You dont view her as a full person. Period.",,156,formercum,2023-12-17 20:26:37 +Feminism,18kp69n,What’s it like to travel out of state for an abortion? Women share their stories.,,https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/whats-it-like-to-travel-out-of-state-for-an-abortion-women-share-their-stories-211710565.html,63,karatecha,2023-12-17 19:34:31 +Feminism,18kp75z,FCC moves to help domestic violence victims with new rules around cellphones,,https://www.nbcnews.com/tech/tech-news/fcc-moves-help-domestic-violence-victims-new-rules-cellphones-rcna124902,36,Arivanya,2023-12-17 19:35:33 +Feminism,18kiva9,"Women’s contributions are often undervalued and overlooked in male-dominated environments, which could drive women’s underrepresentation in certain academic and professional fields. A better understanding of the “sense of mattering” may shine new light on the reasons for this persistent gender gap.",,https://compass.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/spc3.12907,48,lgramlich13,2023-12-17 14:48:10 +Feminism,18kjogw,‘Dangerous for women’: warning as Chileans vote on new draft constitution,,https://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/dec/17/chile-draft-constitution-vote-negative-impacts,31,BurtonDesque,2023-12-17 15:26:59 +Feminism,18jwd2c,A Black woman was criminally charged after a miscarriage. It shows the perils of pregnancy post-Roe,,https://nationalpost.com/pmn/health-pmn/black-ohio-woman-criminally-charged-after-miscarriage-underscores-the-perils-of-pregnancy-post-roe-2,704,katespadesaturday,2023-12-16 17:42:50 +Feminism,18juxzl,Pregnant Texans Continue to Be Pulled Over in Carpool Lane After Abortion Ruling: 'I Have Two Heartbeats in the Car',,https://themessenger.com/news/pregnant-texans-pulled-over-carpool-lane-abortion-ruling,635,audiomuse1,2023-12-16 16:36:44 +Feminism,18jwcil,Why aren't we in the streets?,,/r/prochoice/comments/18jr0ls/why_arent_we_in_the_streets/,150,Lonely_Version_8135,2023-12-16 17:42:02 +Feminism,18jcdxo,petition: A Massive Survey Shows Black Americans Are Being Mistreated in Doctors' Offices,It happened to Serena Williams.,https://www.thepetitionsite.com/887/780/873/a-massive-survey-shows-black-americans-are-being-mistreated-in-doctors-offices/,347,shrapnel2176,2023-12-15 22:40:32 +Feminism,18jo8d2,"Clara Schumann, Great 19th Century Composer, and Her Internalized Misogyny",,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MSn0WU3L2nw,20,DerpyMcDerpelI,2023-12-16 10:09:48 +Feminism,18j3xf7,We Have Mounting Proof That Cruel Men Control Women’s Bodies in Red States,,https://www.thenation.com/article/society/kate-cox-brittany-watts/,396,audiomuse1,2023-12-15 16:26:02 Feminism,18j18zo,"The toxicity of language such as ""im having his baby""","The post about ""we're pregnant"" reminded me of this stuff that's bothered me for years. And it's all connected. When women tell a man she wants to have his baby, or a man says you're having my baby. @@ -11963,12 +11963,12 @@ And all of this furthers male entitlement over pregnancies - thats HIS sperm, HI I tend to try to point this out when possible, but I really think we need to do more to curtail this type of language. -I'm curious about others' thoughts and if there are any other expressions that also go along with this!",,321,TSllama,1702650291.0 -Feminism,18jfa2s,Where to read Andrea Dworkin's works?,"I was wondering where could find them, especially Pornography and Women hating - these books are not anywhere except like eBay (but it's like 50$+ and this other obscure site which is like 80$+). Really want to read them! ",,16,pappermanfan,1702688299.0 -Feminism,18j4uif,The women Putin doesn’t want to talk about,,https://www.politico.eu/article/the-women-russia-vladimir-putin-doesnt-want-to-talk-about-ukraine-war/,32,politico_eu,1702659958.0 -Feminism,18inomb,Outrage as Twitter runs ads for app creating fake nudes of women,,https://boingboing.net/2023/12/14/outrage-as-twitter-runs-ads-for-app-creating-fake-nudes-of-women.html,450,katespadesaturday,1702601601.0 -Feminism,18j7bp0,Poor Things - a Feminist masterpiece,what do you think of Poor Things? I think it’s a better movie about feminism than Barbie,https://youtu.be/FAVnbJ7yJcc?si=jpvEpzUvY5ElgPaI,15,babydriverrr,1702666431.0 -Feminism,18ij5sk,"Is something woke if it fails? Or is something woke if it succeeds? When it comes to media and elevating women's rights and equality, is a movie woke if it involves equality? Is it woke if it fails or succeeds in the writing?",,https://i.redd.it/rmovr2kkub6c1.jpg,350,ClaireDacloush,1702589235.0 +I'm curious about others' thoughts and if there are any other expressions that also go along with this!",,321,TSllama,2023-12-15 14:24:51 +Feminism,18jfa2s,Where to read Andrea Dworkin's works?,"I was wondering where could find them, especially Pornography and Women hating - these books are not anywhere except like eBay (but it's like 50$+ and this other obscure site which is like 80$+). Really want to read them! ",,16,pappermanfan,2023-12-16 00:58:19 +Feminism,18j4uif,The women Putin doesn’t want to talk about,,https://www.politico.eu/article/the-women-russia-vladimir-putin-doesnt-want-to-talk-about-ukraine-war/,32,politico_eu,2023-12-15 17:05:58 +Feminism,18inomb,Outrage as Twitter runs ads for app creating fake nudes of women,,https://boingboing.net/2023/12/14/outrage-as-twitter-runs-ads-for-app-creating-fake-nudes-of-women.html,450,katespadesaturday,2023-12-15 00:53:21 +Feminism,18j7bp0,Poor Things - a Feminist masterpiece,what do you think of Poor Things? I think it’s a better movie about feminism than Barbie,https://youtu.be/FAVnbJ7yJcc?si=jpvEpzUvY5ElgPaI,15,babydriverrr,2023-12-15 18:53:51 +Feminism,18ij5sk,"Is something woke if it fails? Or is something woke if it succeeds? When it comes to media and elevating women's rights and equality, is a movie woke if it involves equality? Is it woke if it fails or succeeds in the writing?",,https://i.redd.it/rmovr2kkub6c1.jpg,350,ClaireDacloush,2023-12-14 21:27:15 Feminism,18idqp5,"The ""We're pregnant"" expression is symptomatic of something more sinister","N.B : Please note that what you're about to read applies specifically to cis heterosexual couples. Not to say same sex couples can't show this sort of problematic behavior, but I wanted to particularly discuss the issue from a cis hetero couple angle, as one party is always affected by pregnancy, while the other isn't. I was listening to a podcast where they narrate reddit stories, particularly from the AITA subreddit, when they read a story titled ""AITA for asking my wife to think about the long term effects of her birth plan"" . The post has since been deleted but you can find the body of the text in the comments if you sort them from oldest to newest. Long story short, husband wonders if he's the asshole because he doesn't want his wife to go with a medicated childbirth, worries that it might have side effects on the baby and says he felt ignored during his wife's consultation with her OB-GYN. I was happy to see the comments tearing him a new one, but of course he wasn't happy with them. He even stated in one of the comments that women have been giving birth unmedicated and it's just the natural way of doing things, and that medication may affect that, which is such a stupid point that I will be circling back to in a moment. @@ -11985,18 +11985,18 @@ Of course he wouldn't, and it goes to show just how apathetic men and society ar Unless you have scientific data and empirical evidence to prove epidurals are harmful to babies, your unsubstantiated concern is of no value in a birthing room. No, your wife's OB-GYN should not ask YOU what your wife should do with her body, and it's quite telling of those men's fragile egos how they can't handle not being the center of attention all the time. No, YOU didn't make that baby, your wife did. Your contribution is a microscopic sperm during the possible highest point of that day. Your wife's body will forever be changed due to the pregnancy and childbirth, and with all the technological advancements we have today, still risks dying having that child, so you are not putting in the same amount of effort, and are not running the same risk. -This obviously speaks to a larger problem at hand, which is the lack of bodily autonomy given to women in general, but this particular angle infuriates me, and I genuinely hope more and more people change their attitudes and treat pregnant women and people with respect, rather than like incubators.",,509,afafe_e,1702574828.0 -Feminism,18io0nz,"Our gender and sexuality is not about being a hashtag on pornhub. And the sooner people understand this and stop fetishizing us, the sooner we can move forward.",,https://i.redd.it/cnr3dw1fuc6c1.jpeg,115,ClaireDacloush,1702602620.0 -Feminism,18iqh6e,is my school covering a scandal?,"recently my school has had a scandal take place. members of an athletic team were overheard talking about their teams group chat and what lived inside of it. not only did they talk about girls nude photos and videos, but they also listed names and said there were over 30 girls in this chat, all of whom are under 18. Not only did a student overhear this conversation, another student has given the school evidence of one of the athletes admitting to send a video to his teammates. the school has done absolutely nothing. not only were they not suspended, they are also still playing their sport. part of me wishes to reach out to the news with this information? this would not be the first incident covered up by my school. what should i do? #feminism #highschool #maine",,56,Own-Market2324,1702610295.0 -Feminism,18igci4,Should I let my 14 year old daughter wear what she wants?,"We went to a concert and she wore a corset top. We have conversations about having to deal with unwanted attention, appropriate clothes for certain situations, and so on. I’ve always thought school dress codes were sexist and in general women should wear what they want and are comfortable with. I’m feeling maybe my daughter is lacking maturity to understand the full implications of societal judgments that will be placed on her? Can you all share some objective perspective?",,140,Difficult_Humor_989,1702581706.0 -Feminism,18ib6nk,"In my opinion, Wonder Woman has the most morally-rational mindset when it comes to the issue of whether a superhero should kill.",,https://i.redd.it/8qkzzqdtj56c1.png,276,ClaireDacloush,1702567903.0 -Feminism,18iidk5,"Want to see true female courage & strength? This woman in Iran holds up a homemade flag, Iran’s only true flag, Lion & Sun flag & photo of the late Majidreza Rahnavard. An illegal flag. This non-violent civil disobedience by Iranians, why isn’t the world supporting these brave Iranians?",,https://i.redd.it/cv8wsnymlb6c1.jpeg,90,IranicUnity,1702587102.0 +This obviously speaks to a larger problem at hand, which is the lack of bodily autonomy given to women in general, but this particular angle infuriates me, and I genuinely hope more and more people change their attitudes and treat pregnant women and people with respect, rather than like incubators.",,509,afafe_e,2023-12-14 17:27:08 +Feminism,18io0nz,"Our gender and sexuality is not about being a hashtag on pornhub. And the sooner people understand this and stop fetishizing us, the sooner we can move forward.",,https://i.redd.it/cnr3dw1fuc6c1.jpeg,115,ClaireDacloush,2023-12-15 01:10:20 +Feminism,18iqh6e,is my school covering a scandal?,"recently my school has had a scandal take place. members of an athletic team were overheard talking about their teams group chat and what lived inside of it. not only did they talk about girls nude photos and videos, but they also listed names and said there were over 30 girls in this chat, all of whom are under 18. Not only did a student overhear this conversation, another student has given the school evidence of one of the athletes admitting to send a video to his teammates. the school has done absolutely nothing. not only were they not suspended, they are also still playing their sport. part of me wishes to reach out to the news with this information? this would not be the first incident covered up by my school. what should i do? #feminism #highschool #maine",,56,Own-Market2324,2023-12-15 03:18:15 +Feminism,18igci4,Should I let my 14 year old daughter wear what she wants?,"We went to a concert and she wore a corset top. We have conversations about having to deal with unwanted attention, appropriate clothes for certain situations, and so on. I’ve always thought school dress codes were sexist and in general women should wear what they want and are comfortable with. I’m feeling maybe my daughter is lacking maturity to understand the full implications of societal judgments that will be placed on her? Can you all share some objective perspective?",,140,Difficult_Humor_989,2023-12-14 19:21:46 +Feminism,18ib6nk,"In my opinion, Wonder Woman has the most morally-rational mindset when it comes to the issue of whether a superhero should kill.",,https://i.redd.it/8qkzzqdtj56c1.png,276,ClaireDacloush,2023-12-14 15:31:43 +Feminism,18iidk5,"Want to see true female courage & strength? This woman in Iran holds up a homemade flag, Iran’s only true flag, Lion & Sun flag & photo of the late Majidreza Rahnavard. An illegal flag. This non-violent civil disobedience by Iranians, why isn’t the world supporting these brave Iranians?",,https://i.redd.it/cv8wsnymlb6c1.jpeg,90,IranicUnity,2023-12-14 20:51:42 Feminism,18iaqnz,the radicalisation of young men on instagram,"**RANT** jesus christ, i’ve had a hellish past 3 days.. so i really like those trending shlawg memes on instagram, and a couple days ago i saw a post calling one of the dogs a ‘raper’ (purposely misspelt) (yes i know it might not seem that deep but if you’re on this subreddit you’ll understand that jokes that may seem harmless like this actually allow spaces for these brain washed young boys to make jokes about rape, as they literally were doing in the comments, saying shit like ‘W rapist’ and ‘blud is doing some rape’ (ruining the wholesome ass silly videos), just like how the N word is being used way more frequently by non-blk people now too because of all these racist meme spaces) and i wrote a very innocent and calm comment talking about how i don’t like the fact they’re joking about rape, keeping in mind i have not posted my opinion under an instagram post in a year and a half because most of the time i am just met with people like this but never at this volume and velocity.. over the past 3 days i’ve had 400+ comments in reply calling me the N word, telling me they’re going to r*pe, body shaming me and telling me i should be silent, private messages of threats and even 3 emails too..?!? all because i said that rape isn’t a joking matter, i really didn’t think that this sort of audience was interacting with the shlawg memes because me and my friends are on the complete opposite moral compass and love these silly bill collector videos, and i didn’t listen with the audio on to also bring up that it was just repeating the N word.. incels don’t understand that dog whistles in ‘jokes’ about important topics such as racism and SA because it doesn’t affect them personally so they can’t comprehend it (there was not one single woman btw and the only time there was is when she was sticking up for me), even the men that it apparently did affect were saying that they didn’t care or that it’s funny which i find really hard to believe (not saying they haven’t been raped i just mean that they’ve commonly used it as a form of weaponisation to say it’s fine to make rape jokes), one got so angry and livid at my comments that he was delusional enough to say that these people aren’t laughing at rape they are laughing at how evil it is and that they are anti-rape, when they were all literally telling me they’re going to rape me and harassing me, i was constantly being told to shut up and gaslit by literal 11-18 year old boys and told not to reply even though i would only reply to like 2 people every couple hours who actually said something that wasn’t just rape, death or racist/ableist slurs, it’s so sociopathic how they keep telling you not to reply so they feel like they have some power over you even though you are just not going to reply to their stupid and unrelated comment regardless, they would call me disrespectful just because they expected me to talk to them so gently to convince them to take rape seriously like you’re not a fucking baby it’s a simple concept to understand!!! how are they going to expect me to respect their immediate opinion when it is at the expense and disrespect of people already?! -i hate to think what all these young men will grow up being like.. children under 16 should not be on the internet and this sort of radicalism on corners of the internet that are above surface level are becoming increasingly comfortable with saying outlandish and disturbing shit about rape and racism, these poor little children have such foul mouths regarding these ‘jokes’",https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18iaqnz,170,SillySealEnjoyer,1702566665.0 -Feminism,18iqlre,Tampon testing: the troubled history of period products,,https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/23893044/period-tampon-menstrual-cycle-menstruation-cup-pad,15,katespadesaturday,1702610690.0 +i hate to think what all these young men will grow up being like.. children under 16 should not be on the internet and this sort of radicalism on corners of the internet that are above surface level are becoming increasingly comfortable with saying outlandish and disturbing shit about rape and racism, these poor little children have such foul mouths regarding these ‘jokes’",https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18iaqnz,170,SillySealEnjoyer,2023-12-14 15:11:05 +Feminism,18iqlre,Tampon testing: the troubled history of period products,,https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/23893044/period-tampon-menstrual-cycle-menstruation-cup-pad,15,katespadesaturday,2023-12-15 03:24:50 Feminism,18i04mi,Has anybody else noticed an increase in men obsessing over single women in their 30s?,"My dad is SUPER conservative, and he's been watching yt nonstop. He likes to watch far-right videos about varying topics. The most common ones he watches is about Disney Star Wars, Joe Biden and women. I'm going to try to keep things as short as possible, so I will only try to talk about what I put in title. @@ -12011,16 +12011,16 @@ Whenever I try to point out anything about those videos that are wrong he simply My dad has also made comments like, ""if I were a women and men didn't hit on me, I would be worried that I was ugly."" -I was thinking when a man doesn't hit on me I think that lowers my chances of getting raped and murdered.",,719,Peanutbutternjelly_,1702527211.0 +I was thinking when a man doesn't hit on me I think that lowers my chances of getting raped and murdered.",,719,Peanutbutternjelly_,2023-12-14 04:13:31 Feminism,18ihuqq,What are your thoughts about the porn industry?,"I believe that the porn industry was monopolized by a criminal enterprise (i.e. MindGeek), who profits off of the sexual exploitation of women, but as a criminal organization they have very deep pockets, that they use to control what anyone is allowed to say about them, and made everyone believe it was a feminist position to support the porn industry Has anyone else read the articles about MindGeek in the Globe and Mail or the New York Times? I’d love to hear everyone’s thoughts about these issues -Edit: I’m a very sex positive person, and I’m not coming after them from any sort of moral perspective, I’m simply saying that I think they fit the legal definition of a criminal organization",,28,Equivalent_Local_215,1702585729.0 -Feminism,18irdm1,Book recommendations to learn more about Feminism?,"I'm still a bit new to this topic and want to learn as much as possible. More specifically, anything on the evolution of feminism throughout human history, the current trends and the impact of feminism in the modern world would be appreciated. Thanks!",,7,Toilet_Cleaner666,1702613215.0 -Feminism,18ick83,Dozens of Texas businesses back challenge to abortion ban: ‘This is why our economy is taking a hit’,,https://thehill.com/homenews/state-watch/4360255-texas-abortion-challenge-businesses-economy-bumble-amicus-brief/,53,Ecstatic_Choice_5482,1702571702.0 -Feminism,18irmeq,I made a thinkpiece. I want to write more about feminist things that interest me.,"[I want to talk about the portrayals of women in the media, as well as other feminist topics.](https://danielletrujillo.substack.com/p/jennifers-body-and-the-male-gaze?r=1wvpek&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web) Any criticism? ",,2,Gloomy_Living_7532,1702614053.0 -Feminism,18ia2tz,Florida abortion rights supporters inch closer to ballot measure threshold,,https://www.axios.com/2023/12/13/florida-abortion-rights-vote-ballot-supreme-court,11,Pikamander2,1702564820.0 +Edit: I’m a very sex positive person, and I’m not coming after them from any sort of moral perspective, I’m simply saying that I think they fit the legal definition of a criminal organization",,28,Equivalent_Local_215,2023-12-14 20:28:49 +Feminism,18irdm1,Book recommendations to learn more about Feminism?,"I'm still a bit new to this topic and want to learn as much as possible. More specifically, anything on the evolution of feminism throughout human history, the current trends and the impact of feminism in the modern world would be appreciated. Thanks!",,7,Toilet_Cleaner666,2023-12-15 04:06:55 +Feminism,18ick83,Dozens of Texas businesses back challenge to abortion ban: ‘This is why our economy is taking a hit’,,https://thehill.com/homenews/state-watch/4360255-texas-abortion-challenge-businesses-economy-bumble-amicus-brief/,53,Ecstatic_Choice_5482,2023-12-14 16:35:02 +Feminism,18irmeq,I made a thinkpiece. I want to write more about feminist things that interest me.,"[I want to talk about the portrayals of women in the media, as well as other feminist topics.](https://danielletrujillo.substack.com/p/jennifers-body-and-the-male-gaze?r=1wvpek&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web) Any criticism? ",,2,Gloomy_Living_7532,2023-12-15 04:20:53 +Feminism,18ia2tz,Florida abortion rights supporters inch closer to ballot measure threshold,,https://www.axios.com/2023/12/13/florida-abortion-rights-vote-ballot-supreme-court,11,Pikamander2,2023-12-14 14:40:20 Feminism,18i1j4p,Science is Feminine,"&#x200B; [ Evelyn Fox Keller](https://preview.redd.it/nqhua0nu576c1.png?width=685&format=png&auto=webp&s=4a66c10d86d8d5d1ce300f10590f0f8bf0249747) @@ -12053,19 +12053,19 @@ Scientific theories, along with their models and presentations in symbol strings &#x200B; -With heartfelt gratitude for the enlightenment that Professor Evelyn Fox Keller shared with us all, I find myself eager to learn more about the feminine that is science.",,38,posinavrayudu,1702532124.0 +With heartfelt gratitude for the enlightenment that Professor Evelyn Fox Keller shared with us all, I find myself eager to learn more about the feminine that is science.",,38,posinavrayudu,2023-12-14 05:35:24 Feminism,18i0129,Best feminist musical?,"My favorite musical was RENT but now I’m realizing that internalized sexism (genderism) was so strong that I never realized it’s sexist. Does anyone know musicals where the main lead is a woman and the music is really good? Looking for a new feminist favorite to replace my sexist old favorite. Please help! :) -🎶",,20,CatLoveSun,1702526866.0 -Feminism,18huvvn,Nobody is going to say that RWBY is on the same level as FMAB. The people who claim RWBY fans say that are making stuff up. But we do love shows where LGBT female characters take roles typically held by cis white male characters. Same where LGBT relationships are the norm over heteronormativity.,,https://i.redd.it/z2cbf8vzf56c1.png,36,ClaireDacloush,1702511240.0 -Feminism,18i186l,Does anyone know who said this?,"The quote may be a little off, but it goes like this ""To myself I was someone who made a difference, but to the world I was just a woman"". I'm curious to know who said this, it's been on my mind ever since I read it, and I must know the woman behind this quote so we can bring her the recognition she deserves, so if anyone knows please, tell her story.",,9,Pretty_princesspie69,1702531015.0 -Feminism,18ha88t,Men would rather stop dating women than stop treating women like pieces of meat,"I’m so glad that sexist men would rather stop dating women then stop being sexist and using women for an ego boost and sex object. Women are people just like you I know. That’s so hard to comprehend. It feels like a revolution, I’m so glad women are waking up and these pieces of shit aren’t going to reproduce. If you respected women enough to learn this would not be the case.",,516,Tomcatmax,1702447654.0 -Feminism,18hlv6x,"Trae Crowder on Instagram: ""On the awful way Texas responded to one woman’s emergency pregnancy situation. #traecrowder #politicalhumor #seemelive #youknowwherethelinkis""",,https://www.instagram.com/reel/C0xKcHny3zu/?igshid=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==,59,stevelinchin,1702487970.0 +🎶",,20,CatLoveSun,2023-12-14 04:07:46 +Feminism,18huvvn,Nobody is going to say that RWBY is on the same level as FMAB. The people who claim RWBY fans say that are making stuff up. But we do love shows where LGBT female characters take roles typically held by cis white male characters. Same where LGBT relationships are the norm over heteronormativity.,,https://i.redd.it/z2cbf8vzf56c1.png,36,ClaireDacloush,2023-12-13 23:47:20 +Feminism,18i186l,Does anyone know who said this?,"The quote may be a little off, but it goes like this ""To myself I was someone who made a difference, but to the world I was just a woman"". I'm curious to know who said this, it's been on my mind ever since I read it, and I must know the woman behind this quote so we can bring her the recognition she deserves, so if anyone knows please, tell her story.",,9,Pretty_princesspie69,2023-12-14 05:16:55 +Feminism,18ha88t,Men would rather stop dating women than stop treating women like pieces of meat,"I’m so glad that sexist men would rather stop dating women then stop being sexist and using women for an ego boost and sex object. Women are people just like you I know. That’s so hard to comprehend. It feels like a revolution, I’m so glad women are waking up and these pieces of shit aren’t going to reproduce. If you respected women enough to learn this would not be the case.",,516,Tomcatmax,2023-12-13 06:07:34 +Feminism,18hlv6x,"Trae Crowder on Instagram: ""On the awful way Texas responded to one woman’s emergency pregnancy situation. #traecrowder #politicalhumor #seemelive #youknowwherethelinkis""",,https://www.instagram.com/reel/C0xKcHny3zu/?igshid=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==,59,stevelinchin,2023-12-13 17:19:30 Feminism,18he7te,Is Joe Rogan a controversial person?,"I noticed on my bfs Spotify he listens to the Joe Rogan podcast. I Googled him and some not great things came up. Spoke to bf about it and he said 0.01% of things Joe says is bad and the rest is unrelated so he doesn’t listen to the bad stuff. -Is he a controversial person like Tate or is it just the odd bad thing?",,112,laurat787,1702464702.0 +Is he a controversial person like Tate or is it just the odd bad thing?",,112,laurat787,2023-12-13 10:51:42 Feminism,18h6gcl,Rant about pregnant women accepting that men “just don’t get excited until the baby comes”,"So I’m recently pregnant and spending some time on pregnancy related subreddits and I have seen a few posts now about women saying that their husbands aren’t excited about the their ‘wanted’ pregnancies. In todays post the woman says she’s 10 weeks and she showed him the ultrasound and bought a pregnancy pillow she thought she might need later and he dismissed her saying she should calm down, you can’t see anything meaningful on the ultrasound, and it’s too early to buy or do anything pregnancy related He won’t read any books because it’s “too early” and he “doesn’t like to read” Clearly this guy is not a supportive partner- you can be cautious about the prospect of miscarriage without belittling your partners excitement. So sure - this guy sucks but actually I was more pissed at the comments from other women than OPs shitty husband Women said things like “oh this is normal- men just don’t get excited until the baby actually comes” “my husband didn’t get into it or start preparing until i was 35 weeks” “it’s just a man thing since it’s not happening to their body” and other women are just like yeah my husband too. They’ll be more excited once the baby comes @@ -12074,35 +12074,35 @@ Why is this acceptable? Why are men allowed to just not consider what being a pa How is it that some men are socialized to have no empathy - I can be excited for my best friend to get a new job or have a baby and it’s not even my job or my baby and I know how to feel excited on other people’s behalf even if I don’t feel it for myself. -But mostly I just hate that women are collectively saying “yeah that’s normal”. I can’t imagine going through this without my husband also reading all the books and researching car seats and enthusiastically sharing news with family- and being ok with that because indifference is apparently normal",,435,_Aztreonam_,1702435188.0 +But mostly I just hate that women are collectively saying “yeah that’s normal”. I can’t imagine going through this without my husband also reading all the books and researching car seats and enthusiastically sharing news with family- and being ok with that because indifference is apparently normal",,435,_Aztreonam_,2023-12-13 02:39:48 Feminism,18ha5an,The threat of male violence is used as a tool to oppress women,"If women didn’t have to worry about the threat of male violence we would walk through the world completely differently. Women limit our self expression, and personal freedom because of the fear of men. If we didn’t have to fear them we could go to the bathroom without our drinks, dress how we want, leave our house at night without a chaperon, assert our boundaries go on online dates,and other privileges only men have enjoyed. Even if men don’t participate in street harassment or domestic violence. They don’t seem to want to stop it. The general notion is women should endure these inequalities and limit our personal freedom in order to keep ourselves safe. If not, we deserve what we got. I believe the majority of men don’t want things to change. They see women gaining this privilege as a threat. If women didn’t need to fear male violence men wouldn’t get to say. Women need men for protection, they wouldn’t be able to tell women when they should or shouldn’t go out. They wouldn’t be able to tell women what’s safe or unsafe to wear. they wouldn’t be able to intimidate us when they don’t get their way. And they wouldn’t be able to mansplain how women should or shouldn’t protect themselves. The idea of the threat of male violence disappearing seems to be seen as a threat to man’s status in society. -TLDR The treat of male violence is a tool to limit women’s freedom and maintain power over us.",,189,Emergency-Internal88,1702447344.0 +TLDR The treat of male violence is a tool to limit women’s freedom and maintain power over us.",,189,Emergency-Internal88,2023-12-13 06:02:24 Feminism,18h98uj,Men's misogynistic categorizations of women,"I'm sure we've seen men on the internet talk about women on scales from 1-10 and determine whether or not they're ""wifey material."" Lately, it's been bothering me a lot. Men rarely make platonic or non-sexual connections with women because, to them, ""feminine interests bad"" (and it's easier to connect with people with similar lived experiences, but still there's a reason misogyny is rampant in male circles). Women, to them, are another species that they don't know how to talk with. We're not equals to them, but objects of desire that fulfill a need the patriarchy expects them to fulfill. This makes it easy for men to put women in boxes and rank them on traits they perceive as important, like the 1-10 scale that men ALWAYS bring up when talking about women. I don't know about you, but I think that being called a number is dehumanizing. The same applies to the ""wifey"" vs. ""not wifey"" categories and ""VSCO girls,"" ""e-girls"" and ""Instagram hoes."" -From my observations, men are FAR more likely to throw these broad labels on women than women are to men. Notice that women are also more likely to pursue non-romantic relationships with men than the opposite. Yes, these online categories may seem minor, but are another way that men dehumanize women. ",,116,Internal-Cut-4027,1702444081.0 -Feminism,18hb4tv,Periods,"Sorry, I just had to get on here and say I HATE HAVING PERIODS. I’m lying in bed rn and I can’t fall asleep because it feels like a spiked ball is rolling around in my fucking uterus. Granted my cramps aren’t unbearable every single month but THIS MONTH has me rethinking if I even want to keep my uterus. Had a butt cramp earlier too… I grabbed the sink and wall for dear life when I felt it coming on. I also had work today (wfh) and my micromanaging male boss kept asking me “are you okay, you don’t seem like yourself, did I make you angry”… I literally wanted to scream and say “I AM BLEEDING FROM MY VAGINA, MY STOMACH IS BURNING, I FEEL LIGHTHEADED AND I HAVE A CONSTANT URGE TO SHIT.” Instead I had to act like I wasn’t in constant pain, and reassure him that I wasn’t being passive aggressive or something… I hate it, I hate it, I hate it. God I feel disgusting.",,40,Tienshinhan_,1702451236.0 -Feminism,18gj28n,The cruelty is the point.,,https://i.redd.it/cuh8tx3dsr5c1.jpg,909,griftertm,1702377500.0 -Feminism,18gt3kr,Missouri Republicans propose bills to allow murder charges for women who get abortions,,https://www.stltoday.com/news/local/government-politics/missouri-republicans-propose-bills-to-allow-murder-charges-for-women-who-get-abortions/article_53b406c0-95c4-11ee-a67d-9339832ec1a0.html,150,audiomuse1,1702406735.0 -Feminism,18gt2zl,"One of Iran’s top surgeons, Fatemeh Rajaeirad who refused to wear Hijab at her honoring ceremony in Amol is expelled from Babol University of Medical Sciences where she was a professor. Regime jailed and tortured her for it. She did face reconstruction surgeries for victims, for free.",She is a hero for all women.,,111,IranicUnity,1702406698.0 -Feminism,18hcl8v,Instagram problems,"Anyone else have an issue with instagram’s way of handling mysoginist comment? Like When I made a comment that wasn’t even spam like on a femanist insta, it was like we’re sorry it counts as spam but when I report hate speech (even ones that mention violence) if a male posted it, they’re like it meets all our guidelines. Anyone else notice that instagram refuses to do anything with hate speech, just says it meets our guidelines especially mysoginistic hate speech?",,8,Charrise,1702457595.0 -Feminism,18gte1l,How do you handle female friends who are pickmes and tradwives?,Their constant putting down of women and consistently making bad choices and then cribbing about the unfairness of it all. Its getting on my nerves. How do I help them see their misogyny? Or at least make them accept their flawed choices and stop the trauma dumping on me? Or should I ditch the friendship entirely because some people can't/won't change? Its a constant struggle to hear the trauma dumping and trying to point out examples of their own internalized misogyny.,,102,According_Bad_8473,1702407478.0 -Feminism,18gwb47,Rally for Kate,,https://i.redd.it/5gs5lvbohx5c1.png,58,Secure-Pizza-3025,1702414949.0 -Feminism,18guq5y,Health impacts of abuse more extensive than previously thought,,https://www.birmingham.ac.uk/news/2023/health-impacts-of-abuse-more-extensive-than-previously-thought-research-says,66,lgramlich13,1702410865.0 +From my observations, men are FAR more likely to throw these broad labels on women than women are to men. Notice that women are also more likely to pursue non-romantic relationships with men than the opposite. Yes, these online categories may seem minor, but are another way that men dehumanize women. ",,116,Internal-Cut-4027,2023-12-13 05:08:01 +Feminism,18hb4tv,Periods,"Sorry, I just had to get on here and say I HATE HAVING PERIODS. I’m lying in bed rn and I can’t fall asleep because it feels like a spiked ball is rolling around in my fucking uterus. Granted my cramps aren’t unbearable every single month but THIS MONTH has me rethinking if I even want to keep my uterus. Had a butt cramp earlier too… I grabbed the sink and wall for dear life when I felt it coming on. I also had work today (wfh) and my micromanaging male boss kept asking me “are you okay, you don’t seem like yourself, did I make you angry”… I literally wanted to scream and say “I AM BLEEDING FROM MY VAGINA, MY STOMACH IS BURNING, I FEEL LIGHTHEADED AND I HAVE A CONSTANT URGE TO SHIT.” Instead I had to act like I wasn’t in constant pain, and reassure him that I wasn’t being passive aggressive or something… I hate it, I hate it, I hate it. God I feel disgusting.",,40,Tienshinhan_,2023-12-13 07:07:16 +Feminism,18gj28n,The cruelty is the point.,,https://i.redd.it/cuh8tx3dsr5c1.jpg,909,griftertm,2023-12-12 10:38:20 +Feminism,18gt3kr,Missouri Republicans propose bills to allow murder charges for women who get abortions,,https://www.stltoday.com/news/local/government-politics/missouri-republicans-propose-bills-to-allow-murder-charges-for-women-who-get-abortions/article_53b406c0-95c4-11ee-a67d-9339832ec1a0.html,150,audiomuse1,2023-12-12 18:45:35 +Feminism,18gt2zl,"One of Iran’s top surgeons, Fatemeh Rajaeirad who refused to wear Hijab at her honoring ceremony in Amol is expelled from Babol University of Medical Sciences where she was a professor. Regime jailed and tortured her for it. She did face reconstruction surgeries for victims, for free.",She is a hero for all women.,,111,IranicUnity,2023-12-12 18:44:58 +Feminism,18hcl8v,Instagram problems,"Anyone else have an issue with instagram’s way of handling mysoginist comment? Like When I made a comment that wasn’t even spam like on a femanist insta, it was like we’re sorry it counts as spam but when I report hate speech (even ones that mention violence) if a male posted it, they’re like it meets all our guidelines. Anyone else notice that instagram refuses to do anything with hate speech, just says it meets our guidelines especially mysoginistic hate speech?",,8,Charrise,2023-12-13 08:53:15 +Feminism,18gte1l,How do you handle female friends who are pickmes and tradwives?,Their constant putting down of women and consistently making bad choices and then cribbing about the unfairness of it all. Its getting on my nerves. How do I help them see their misogyny? Or at least make them accept their flawed choices and stop the trauma dumping on me? Or should I ditch the friendship entirely because some people can't/won't change? Its a constant struggle to hear the trauma dumping and trying to point out examples of their own internalized misogyny.,,102,According_Bad_8473,2023-12-12 18:57:58 +Feminism,18gwb47,Rally for Kate,,https://i.redd.it/5gs5lvbohx5c1.png,58,Secure-Pizza-3025,2023-12-12 21:02:29 +Feminism,18guq5y,Health impacts of abuse more extensive than previously thought,,https://www.birmingham.ac.uk/news/2023/health-impacts-of-abuse-more-extensive-than-previously-thought-research-says,66,lgramlich13,2023-12-12 19:54:25 Feminism,18gentc,Kate Cox’s quote of how she “never thought she’d be in this situation” made me think of women who become pro-choice only when they themselves need an an abortion.,"A disclaimer to say that I don’t know her politics and wouldn’t allow myself to judge based on that one quote in a Washington Post video alone. But let’s not fool ourselves into thinking that there are not many, MANY women who think abortions are bad only to turn around when they personally need one and their own future is on the line. And there are also plenty of women who had an abortion when they were young and now say they want to “help younger women not make their mistakes.” -It’s never too late to join the pro-life club but this story was a reminder of how shitty it is that some are pro-life until they need an abortion themselves. We shouldn’t differentiate (and judge) between abortions when the baby’s or the mother’s life is at stake as somehow more virtuous compared to one’s where the mother just isn’t ready. Being able to decide whether to carry a fetus is a matter of human dignity and it’s wrong to put conditions on that.",,581,[deleted],1702359094.0 -Feminism,18gqm2b,"Kate Cox exposes the ‘pro-life’ politics of death, fear and control",,https://www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnbc-opinion/kate-cox-abortion-case-exposes-texas-supreme-court-rcna129160,59,AlysonBurgers,1702400459.0 -Feminism,18h459u,Here's a good reason to vote BLUE: The next step among anti-abortion extremists is to prosecute every woman who ordered abortion pills by mail if a Republican becomes president.,,/r/prochoice/comments/18gyjhg/heres_a_good_reason_to_vote_blue_the_next_step/,10,Lonely_Version_8135,1702430321.0 -Feminism,18gjzku,Am I being overly sensitive?,"A group of work colleagues were discussing police over a beer. It was pretty casual and we were sharing stories about police being not great. One colleague said something about how his police friends say the general public don't understand how hard their job is because they have to live with knowing that there are guilty murderers etc walking free. I said ask ANY woman and we fucking know that there are guilty people walking free (, referencing sexual violence). He then said ""well I believe in innocent until proven guilty"". Another colleague told a story about how his friend went to the cops after an assault and they didn't believe her etc. I am really upset about his comment because when I was young I experienced sexual violence but I know the men will never be found guilty, but that doesn't make them ""innocent"" either. Is it worth following up with him?? Or should I let it go?",,103,Inevitable_Bobcat_56,1702381184.0 -Feminism,18gqy99,Kari Lake wanted Arizona to pass 'carbon copy' of Texas abortion law at center of legal fight,,https://www.azcentral.com/story/news/politics/arizona/2023/12/12/kari-lake-wanted-arizona-to-pass-a-carbon-copy-of-texas-abortion-law/71885541007/,31,audiomuse1,1702401292.0 -Feminism,18gjrxi,"""Texas Supreme Court rules against woman who sought abortion hours after she says she’ll travel out of state""",,/r/LateStageCapitalism/comments/18garlc/texas_is_evil_death_to_texas_texas_supreme_court/,70,Iccotak,1702380348.0 -Feminism,18g171f,I stand with Kate,,https://i.redd.it/r5afdmagrp5c1.png,566,Secure-Pizza-3025,1702321408.0 -Feminism,18giydr,Rina Gonoi: Three Japanese ex-soldiers found guilty of sexual assault,,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-67688678,22,BurtonDesque,1702377034.0 +It’s never too late to join the pro-life club but this story was a reminder of how shitty it is that some are pro-life until they need an abortion themselves. We shouldn’t differentiate (and judge) between abortions when the baby’s or the mother’s life is at stake as somehow more virtuous compared to one’s where the mother just isn’t ready. Being able to decide whether to carry a fetus is a matter of human dignity and it’s wrong to put conditions on that.",,581,[deleted],2023-12-12 05:31:34 +Feminism,18gqm2b,"Kate Cox exposes the ‘pro-life’ politics of death, fear and control",,https://www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnbc-opinion/kate-cox-abortion-case-exposes-texas-supreme-court-rcna129160,59,AlysonBurgers,2023-12-12 17:00:59 +Feminism,18h459u,Here's a good reason to vote BLUE: The next step among anti-abortion extremists is to prosecute every woman who ordered abortion pills by mail if a Republican becomes president.,,/r/prochoice/comments/18gyjhg/heres_a_good_reason_to_vote_blue_the_next_step/,10,Lonely_Version_8135,2023-12-13 01:18:41 +Feminism,18gjzku,Am I being overly sensitive?,"A group of work colleagues were discussing police over a beer. It was pretty casual and we were sharing stories about police being not great. One colleague said something about how his police friends say the general public don't understand how hard their job is because they have to live with knowing that there are guilty murderers etc walking free. I said ask ANY woman and we fucking know that there are guilty people walking free (, referencing sexual violence). He then said ""well I believe in innocent until proven guilty"". Another colleague told a story about how his friend went to the cops after an assault and they didn't believe her etc. I am really upset about his comment because when I was young I experienced sexual violence but I know the men will never be found guilty, but that doesn't make them ""innocent"" either. Is it worth following up with him?? Or should I let it go?",,103,Inevitable_Bobcat_56,2023-12-12 11:39:44 +Feminism,18gqy99,Kari Lake wanted Arizona to pass 'carbon copy' of Texas abortion law at center of legal fight,,https://www.azcentral.com/story/news/politics/arizona/2023/12/12/kari-lake-wanted-arizona-to-pass-a-carbon-copy-of-texas-abortion-law/71885541007/,31,audiomuse1,2023-12-12 17:14:52 +Feminism,18gjrxi,"""Texas Supreme Court rules against woman who sought abortion hours after she says she’ll travel out of state""",,/r/LateStageCapitalism/comments/18garlc/texas_is_evil_death_to_texas_texas_supreme_court/,70,Iccotak,2023-12-12 11:25:48 +Feminism,18g171f,I stand with Kate,,https://i.redd.it/r5afdmagrp5c1.png,566,Secure-Pizza-3025,2023-12-11 19:03:28 +Feminism,18giydr,Rina Gonoi: Three Japanese ex-soldiers found guilty of sexual assault,,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-67688678,22,BurtonDesque,2023-12-12 10:30:34 Feminism,18gkjsg,Seeking feminist rants,"Hi feminist fellows, I am passionate about starting feminist conversations in my circles and in areas where feminist perspectives may not get aired. Unfortunately I struggle to articulate myself well and have ADHD so get overwhelmed often in these situations. I need help. Once I read something that is well articulated I am able to remember it and remember the points. @@ -12120,19 +12120,19 @@ Anything on men interrupting women and the impact of this/ mansplaining Period poverty -Any other feminist topics you feel like?",,14,Equivalent-Window-68,1702383263.0 +Any other feminist topics you feel like?",,14,Equivalent-Window-68,2023-12-12 12:14:23 Feminism,18g8ri6,Should I file a complaint?," My husband and I flew a major airline across the country (US). We had a connection and they changed planes and automatically changed everyone's seats for the much larger plane. I had used extra points to ensure that we were seated together and in a good spot but didnt notice that the tickets now had us not seated together. We were not notified. We only realized when I moved to sit in my row and he was assigned a seat 10 rows away from me. There was a man flight attendant, older, like in his late 50's. I flag him down and explain that my husband and I were reassigned further apart and I want to sit with him. The flight attendant says, ""Maybe your husband sitting far away isn't an accident! yuk yuk"" The man seated in the row behind me starts laughing and I got pretty angry saying that I don't find misogyny funny. The flight attendant takes me to the row my husband is seated and we sit together. He doesn't apologize or say anything more to me and I am still rather angry about it. Like, you don't know why we are flying, you don't know anything about us and you think it is funny to intimate that my husband is trying to get away from me and also humiliate me for the benefit and entertainment of other men? FFFFF you. -I've been thinking about filing a complaint. Would you do this? Should I just drop it? WWYD?",,47,whenth3bowbreaks,1702340548.0 +I've been thinking about filing a complaint. Would you do this? Should I just drop it? WWYD?",,47,whenth3bowbreaks,2023-12-12 00:22:28 Feminism,18fs5kb,Is my mom babying my dad or am I just being stupid and radical,"For all I can remember, I’ve been watching my mom cook and clean for me, my brother, and my father. She‘s around 46 years old, so she’s definitely spent a good while doing this. when I visited back home and checked up in them, I saw my mom cleaning the dishes, again. I told her that I really disliked seeing her as that, and that she should try being more independent, try letting my dad wash the dishes, try letting my brother clean his clothes, try to fold her own clothes and towels. She gave me a really bad glare for a moment before saying, “Why should I do that? I’ve been cooking and cleaning ever since I could walk! Im not stopping now! I wouldn’t even know what to do!” I not really surprised, my mom loves my dad (maybe) despite all the havoc he causes around the house, of course she doesn’t want to anger him (which frankly, I really get considering my childhood memories of him), but I just feel as if she could so much more. Every so often she’ll tell me a story from her childhood and when she was single, and I just feel as if she should’ve stayed the party girl she always wanted to be instead of meeting up with my dad. -So. Am I being dumb? Or is my mom right?",,151,Darkgirlmew,1702292922.0 -Feminism,18fzv2g,"‘They violated our rights’: Chile’s draft constitution fails women, say activists",,https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2023/dec/11/human-rights-protests-chile-draft-constitution-fails-women-abortion-rights-equality,34,BurtonDesque,1702316111.0 +So. Am I being dumb? Or is my mom right?",,151,Darkgirlmew,2023-12-11 11:08:42 +Feminism,18fzv2g,"‘They violated our rights’: Chile’s draft constitution fails women, say activists",,https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2023/dec/11/human-rights-protests-chile-draft-constitution-fails-women-abortion-rights-equality,34,BurtonDesque,2023-12-11 17:35:11 Feminism,18fy8v9,Machismo vs Toxic Masculinity??,"I am a US native. I moved to Central Mexico a week and a half ago and will be here for about 6 months. Before leaving I tried to look up the difference between machismo versus toxic masculinity but didn't find any good explanations (it looks like the links to articles previously shared in this sub are broken). After 10 days here, my sense is that toxic masculinity in the US is more in your face--men are less likely to hide their views and are entitled right off the bat. It seems like in Mexico men are very flattering, accommodating, and gracious. But when you spend more time with them they make jokes or treat you in such a way that you can tell they think women are weak. @@ -12143,8 +12143,8 @@ Are my impressions of the difference between machismo and toxic masculinity accu Can anyone else chime in and help me understand the culture here? -Apologies in advance for spelling errors. My phone doesn't appreciate being bilingual these days.",,44,Maple-Chester,1702311542.0 -Feminism,18g7het,“Pop culture detective” YouTube recommendation,"Maybe I’ve been living under a rock, but if you guys haven’t seen this channel I really can’t stress enough that it’s a must-see for not only people interested in feminism, but everyone. The channel creator emphasizes a slew of tropes involving women in media and he’s able to perfectly articulate the problems women face both yesterday and today. His video “Born sexy yesterday”, struck me to my core.",,9,Soffkitten,1702336962.0 +Apologies in advance for spelling errors. My phone doesn't appreciate being bilingual these days.",,44,Maple-Chester,2023-12-11 16:19:02 +Feminism,18g7het,“Pop culture detective” YouTube recommendation,"Maybe I’ve been living under a rock, but if you guys haven’t seen this channel I really can’t stress enough that it’s a must-see for not only people interested in feminism, but everyone. The channel creator emphasizes a slew of tropes involving women in media and he’s able to perfectly articulate the problems women face both yesterday and today. His video “Born sexy yesterday”, struck me to my core.",,9,Soffkitten,2023-12-11 23:22:42 Feminism,18g4tfx,Thoughts on representation on TV show ‘League of Their Own’?,"Hi all I’ve never used Reddit because and only made an account to ask this question, so please tell me if this is better suited in a different community. Also worth noting that this question might make more sense to a UK audience. @@ -12164,7 +12164,7 @@ So to bullet point some thoughts/questions: - His viewpoint overlooks the diversity of women's experiences and reinforces a narrow view of femininity and womanhood. - Why does Jill have this assumed responsibility of breaking down stereotypes anyway? Why does she have to do all this extra work? Can’t she just be funny like the men? -I came on here to ask for opinions so that I could readdress this with my friend more confidently, but I think writing it all down has helped nyway. Would still love to get more thoughts.😊",,12,walnutfiasco,1702330242.0 +I came on here to ask for opinions so that I could readdress this with my friend more confidently, but I think writing it all down has helped nyway. Would still love to get more thoughts.😊",,12,walnutfiasco,2023-12-11 21:30:42 Feminism,18flwom,"Extremely frustrating conversation with male friends about feminism, need advice.","I had an extremely frustrating conversation with three male friends of mine about feminism. It all started with us talking about this stupid Bollywood movie called Animal and the topic of feminism came up. And they started talking about how women use the feminism card for things to get away with anything and that there is no need for it, everyone gets equal pay for it. I tried to explain how maybe for privileged kids like us (we study in the UK and are from India) it might feel like that, but there is an absolute need and you need to understand the basic definition of feminism before you talk. And then they went on to talk about how women use feminism to go out late that night because if men can do it, why can't we. And then they can't defend themselves when things turn dark. @@ -12175,10 +12175,10 @@ He lost his mind, he was like call your parents up right now and tell him you're The conversation was going no where and I told him let's just agree to disagree. And he ended it with saying I'm definitely going to get cheated on and he will not take my side when that happens. -I left feeling extremely frustrated and shameful that these are the friends I've made. I felt ganged up and I left like I let down my gender because I couldn't argue as well because I was extremely frustrated and overwhelmed by the utter nonsense being said to me. I feel awful. Today was the last day of my masters and I feel so bad that these are the people in my life. I don't know what do it next, do I cut these people off? Do I demand an apology cause I'm pretty sure I won't get one.",,221,Garden_Girl17,1702267772.0 -Feminism,18gix79,Can abortion pills destroy fertility?,,https://youtube.com/shorts/2kDsks-PerY?feature=share,0,Defiant_Pirate2700,1702376909.0 -Feminism,18fyfw6,10 min action: Set up automated texts to Biden,,/r/EqualRightsAmendment/comments/18fyd44/10_min_action_set_up_automated_texts_to_biden/,8,imaginenohell,1702312039.0 -Feminism,18g0fo2,What are radfem views on modeling?,i’m talking about stuff like miss universe etc,,4,lovelytinyguns,1702319567.0 +I left feeling extremely frustrated and shameful that these are the friends I've made. I felt ganged up and I left like I let down my gender because I couldn't argue as well because I was extremely frustrated and overwhelmed by the utter nonsense being said to me. I feel awful. Today was the last day of my masters and I feel so bad that these are the people in my life. I don't know what do it next, do I cut these people off? Do I demand an apology cause I'm pretty sure I won't get one.",,221,Garden_Girl17,2023-12-11 04:09:32 +Feminism,18gix79,Can abortion pills destroy fertility?,,https://youtube.com/shorts/2kDsks-PerY?feature=share,0,Defiant_Pirate2700,2023-12-12 10:28:29 +Feminism,18fyfw6,10 min action: Set up automated texts to Biden,,/r/EqualRightsAmendment/comments/18fyd44/10_min_action_set_up_automated_texts_to_biden/,8,imaginenohell,2023-12-11 16:27:19 +Feminism,18g0fo2,What are radfem views on modeling?,i’m talking about stuff like miss universe etc,,4,lovelytinyguns,2023-12-11 18:32:47 Feminism,18f85l5,"As a straight woman, do you find it difficult to find feminist partners?","I'm going to have to start asking more questions upfront with the people I date to avoid something like this. My bf goes on about double standards about how guys are expected to pay & drive but fails to acknowledge the challenges woman face. He also likes bringing up ""if roles were reversed"" arguments. I've acknowledged how the patriarchy harms both men and women. He says nothing in response when I bring up how household chores and child care still fall on women a majority of the time even when they also work. He also says women want equality unless ""inconvenient"". He doesn't believe in pay gaps and chalks it up to women choosing lower paying jobs but also doesn't see that historically women dominated careers have been undervalued. @@ -12189,9 +12189,9 @@ He really has a thing against the sprinkle sprinkle girls, he also doesn't condo All of this isn't outright sexist I suppose, but his mindset is warped and I feel he is ignorant of the world we live in. I've sent studies, told him my experiences and nothing is enough to convince him. -Many guys my age have this mentality. I've moved around so often and I can't escape it. Anyone else have this trouble?",,272,sospaghettn,1702228217.0 -Feminism,18f1mrp,"Kate Cox can't get abortion for now, Texas Supreme Court court says, halting judge's OK",I hope someone can help her go on a ski trip for a vacation. I hear Colorado is great this time of year.,https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2023/12/09/texas-abortion-lawsuit-kate-cox-abortion-ruling/71862324007/,705,griftertm,1702207762.0 -Feminism,18f43sl,Am I radical for probably dumping by boyfriend for not seeing any problem with patriarchy?,He claims he is „konservative“ and men have it so difficult in today’s society. Also wants me to be a housewife. It makes me angry,,387,VirusNo9513,1702216464.0 +Many guys my age have this mentality. I've moved around so often and I can't escape it. Anyone else have this trouble?",,272,sospaghettn,2023-12-10 17:10:17 +Feminism,18f1mrp,"Kate Cox can't get abortion for now, Texas Supreme Court court says, halting judge's OK",I hope someone can help her go on a ski trip for a vacation. I hear Colorado is great this time of year.,https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2023/12/09/texas-abortion-lawsuit-kate-cox-abortion-ruling/71862324007/,705,griftertm,2023-12-10 11:29:22 +Feminism,18f43sl,Am I radical for probably dumping by boyfriend for not seeing any problem with patriarchy?,He claims he is „konservative“ and men have it so difficult in today’s society. Also wants me to be a housewife. It makes me angry,,387,VirusNo9513,2023-12-10 13:54:24 Feminism,18fciln,"Patriarchy, sexual abuse and the unfairness of our own psychology (TX sexual assault and rape).","TW again. I’m really frustrated about how our own psychology seems to betray us. @@ -12214,18 +12214,18 @@ Honestly, our brains need an upgrade because this is bs. Obviously this post isn’t intended to kink shame. I would just like to know other people’s thoughts. -[Source](https://sexualhealthalliance.com/nymphomedia-blog/how-kink-can-be-used-to-heal-from-sexual-trauma) + [source](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1158136021000888).",,108,IHaveABigDuvet,1702240011.0 -Feminism,18fe4bx,"Texas Justice Arrested 37 Times Protesting at Clinics, Currently on Court (Texas Tribune)",,/r/TheIntellectualist/comments/18fduf1/texas_justice_arrested_37_times_protesting_at/,39,Intellectualist_,1702244316.0 -Feminism,18fgb6o,"Man Throws Album At Girls' Generation's Taeyeon, Demands She Gives Him Her Phone Number",,https://www.koreaboo.com/news/girls-generation-taeyeon-scary-fan-sign-man-security/,24,Gloomy_Living_7532,1702250278.0 -Feminism,18fb5g9,Younge Iranian women lined up to greet US President Nixon’s 1972 Trip to Iran,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18fb53i,49,IranicUnity,1702236400.0 +[Source](https://sexualhealthalliance.com/nymphomedia-blog/how-kink-can-be-used-to-heal-from-sexual-trauma) + [source](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1158136021000888).",,108,IHaveABigDuvet,2023-12-10 20:26:51 +Feminism,18fe4bx,"Texas Justice Arrested 37 Times Protesting at Clinics, Currently on Court (Texas Tribune)",,/r/TheIntellectualist/comments/18fduf1/texas_justice_arrested_37_times_protesting_at/,39,Intellectualist_,2023-12-10 21:38:36 +Feminism,18fgb6o,"Man Throws Album At Girls' Generation's Taeyeon, Demands She Gives Him Her Phone Number",,https://www.koreaboo.com/news/girls-generation-taeyeon-scary-fan-sign-man-security/,24,Gloomy_Living_7532,2023-12-10 23:17:58 +Feminism,18fb5g9,Younge Iranian women lined up to greet US President Nixon’s 1972 Trip to Iran,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18fb53i,49,IranicUnity,2023-12-10 19:26:40 Feminism,18fcjxk,I have a feeling there is something very morally wrong with Girlfriend ASMR,"I (16M) used to and still listen to Girlfriend ASMR, only the non-live action ones too! I think something is wrong with this kind of content and \*really\* want to hear some thoughts on this, so I can have more specific insight into why. I'd also like to apologize, for how I keep watching/listening to this stuff. I don't like how I keep trying to immerse myself in this fantastical world of lies all the time. I'm sorry -What I assume right know is it contributes to my internal feeling of romantic and sexual entitlement. I also feel like it perpetrates how I subconsciously think that long-term romance will somehow give me a ""happy ending"" of sorts. I wanna see some more discussion on this issue",,15,SoarNsquid,1702240111.0 +What I assume right know is it contributes to my internal feeling of romantic and sexual entitlement. I also feel like it perpetrates how I subconsciously think that long-term romance will somehow give me a ""happy ending"" of sorts. I wanna see some more discussion on this issue",,15,SoarNsquid,2023-12-10 20:28:31 Feminism,18en1vu,Firefighters caught taking pics of dead women’s underwear and rating it weekly,"This is a new thing exposed recently. Basically title. When they got caught and the group-chat was exposed many of them said it was not a big deal they did not hurt anyone it was just some fun. Even in death women are not safe from being sexualized. And feminism is not needed?. Why are men so depraved i dont get it. -https://nypost.com/2023/02/01/uk-firefighters-accused-of-taking-photos-of-women-who-died-in-car-crashes/amp/",,1040,Other-Stop7953,1702155860.0 -Feminism,18f759j,Discrimination During Pregnancy May Alter Circuits in Infants’ Brains,,https://www.cuimc.columbia.edu/news/discrimination-during-pregnancy-may-alter-circuits-infants-brains,26,lgramlich13,1702225454.0 -Feminism,18fa963,The Guardian view on sexual violence in conflict: an unending crime that can be tackled,The Guardian view on sexual violence in conflict: an unending crime that can be tackled,https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/dec/10/the-guardian-view-on-sexual-violence-in-conflict-an-unending-that-can-be-tackled?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Other,11,mhicreachtain,1702233963.0 +https://nypost.com/2023/02/01/uk-firefighters-accused-of-taking-photos-of-women-who-died-in-car-crashes/amp/",,1040,Other-Stop7953,2023-12-09 21:04:20 +Feminism,18f759j,Discrimination During Pregnancy May Alter Circuits in Infants’ Brains,,https://www.cuimc.columbia.edu/news/discrimination-during-pregnancy-may-alter-circuits-infants-brains,26,lgramlich13,2023-12-10 16:24:14 +Feminism,18fa963,The Guardian view on sexual violence in conflict: an unending crime that can be tackled,The Guardian view on sexual violence in conflict: an unending crime that can be tackled,https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/dec/10/the-guardian-view-on-sexual-violence-in-conflict-an-unending-that-can-be-tackled?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Other,11,mhicreachtain,2023-12-10 18:46:03 Feminism,18ee1a2,Why is taliban's women oppression not given atmost importantce in the media?,"Women and children are DENIED EDUCATION and are avoided from the public. They are sometimes PUNISHED FOR BEING RAPED. Sold off as a commodity. @@ -12233,43 +12233,43 @@ Denied education but also can visit only female doctors... the hypocrisy. Someti Denied public access. Married of young. Cant go out alone without a man. Arent allowed to drive. Denied lots of rights. This is what i have found from several articles. Why is it not discussed in the mainstream media? -Why is the conditions not changing?",,424,[deleted],1702129884.0 +Why is the conditions not changing?",,424,[deleted],2023-12-09 13:51:24 Feminism,18ep6lt,Is it okay for me to feel hurt by the way my mom raised me as still defends it?,"I feel so torn about some of the ideas my mother drilled into my head growing up. I feel as if I am overreacting as they were all, I guess, ""minor"" things. But the affect they had on me was not minor. I remember one time when I was 13 we were going to a family gathering, and I wore a pair of skinny jeans I loved because they were comfortable and a t-shirt over that. My mom said that I had to change my clothes, as my t-shirt wasn't covering my butt and that was inappropriate. I was confused and asked why it mattered as everyone was family. To which her answer was to scream at me until I cried and forced to change my clothes. That was one of those first moments where I felt that my body was something provocative that needed to be hidden, no matter who may be around. My mom would also never let me wear shorts, even when I was practically a child. I remember wanting to wear shorts like my friends because the summer heat was so uncomfortable and I didn't understand why all my friends could wear them and not me. My mom often told me that I was taller and looked older/more developed than my peers, which would attract perverted men. She told me I wouldn't be able to protect myself against them and their gaze, therefore it was better to not dress in ways that could attract them. This gave me really bad paranoia and for years I was convinced that every man was out to get me and I was overly aware of my body at all times. When I talk to my mom about these things, she says that she would repeat them if I were a child again. She doesn't have a problem with me wearing the clothes I want anymore, she even picks out shorts, skirts and crop tops etc. for me. Her reasoning is back then I wouldn't be able to protect myself, and now I am grown enough to make my own decisions. (I am 20). I know that my mom did these things because she was terrified of something horrible happening to me, but it also really, really effected me psychologically growing up. I would be ready to forgive my mom if only she could acknowledge how much she hurt me but she is adamant that it was the right thing to do. I want to ask you all, was there a better way? Was my mom right? Have I been overreacting? Thank you so much if you read this and I'm very interested in your answers. -&#x200B;",,61,LSD-Chemist,1702162031.0 +&#x200B;",,61,LSD-Chemist,2023-12-09 22:47:11 Feminism,18eue55,Advice and Venting - Abortion,"Advice and Venting - Hello, I am just writing this post to get some advice. I am 3 weeks pregnant now, and I have an appointment for Dec 22nd, and I will be going through a medical abortion. The thing is i have to do mandatory airline travelling on 24th(9:20pm) to go back home, and I can't let my parents know. I can't skip this, so I am considering a surgical route as well. I will be 4.8 weeks pregnant on the day of the appointment, so I really hope i can get surgical route. -Any advice, reassurance is appreciated. Please.",,16,Signal-Airport-5106,1702178647.0 -Feminism,18eqf64,40 mn women face prolong health issues after childbirth every year: Lancet,,https://www.business-standard.com/health/40-mn-women-face-prolong-health-issues-after-childbirth-every-year-lancet-123120900336_1.html,28,lgramlich13,1702165666.0 -Feminism,18emjdm,AI can predict intimate partner femicide from variables extracted from legal documents,,https://www.psypost.org/2023/12/ai-can-predict-intimate-partner-femicide-from-variables-extracted-from-legal-documents-214914,40,katespadesaturday,1702154379.0 -Feminism,18egtc8,"Study identifies four predictors of prejudice towards childfree individuals: right-wing authoritarianism, political beliefs, collective narcissism, and religiosity.",,https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38037481/,72,lgramlich13,1702138304.0 -Feminism,18et0ea,Algorithmic Ad Blocking Limits Information About Abortion In Colombia,,https://www.forbes.com/sites/christinero/2023/12/09/algorithmic-ad-blocking-limits-abortion-information-in-colombia/?sh=6d21a5a93137,7,Jojuj,1702173881.0 -Feminism,18edrhx,Texas Supreme Court pauses lower court's order allowing pregnant woman to have an abortion - despite fatal fetal anomaly.,,https://apnews.com/article/texas-abortion-ban-supreme-court-decision-10767891a475e7ce2c82b1404450908a,46,UR_NEIGHBOR_STACY,1702129006.0 +Any advice, reassurance is appreciated. Please.",,16,Signal-Airport-5106,2023-12-10 03:24:07 +Feminism,18eqf64,40 mn women face prolong health issues after childbirth every year: Lancet,,https://www.business-standard.com/health/40-mn-women-face-prolong-health-issues-after-childbirth-every-year-lancet-123120900336_1.html,28,lgramlich13,2023-12-09 23:47:46 +Feminism,18emjdm,AI can predict intimate partner femicide from variables extracted from legal documents,,https://www.psypost.org/2023/12/ai-can-predict-intimate-partner-femicide-from-variables-extracted-from-legal-documents-214914,40,katespadesaturday,2023-12-09 20:39:39 +Feminism,18egtc8,"Study identifies four predictors of prejudice towards childfree individuals: right-wing authoritarianism, political beliefs, collective narcissism, and religiosity.",,https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38037481/,72,lgramlich13,2023-12-09 16:11:44 +Feminism,18et0ea,Algorithmic Ad Blocking Limits Information About Abortion In Colombia,,https://www.forbes.com/sites/christinero/2023/12/09/algorithmic-ad-blocking-limits-abortion-information-in-colombia/?sh=6d21a5a93137,7,Jojuj,2023-12-10 02:04:41 +Feminism,18edrhx,Texas Supreme Court pauses lower court's order allowing pregnant woman to have an abortion - despite fatal fetal anomaly.,,https://apnews.com/article/texas-abortion-ban-supreme-court-decision-10767891a475e7ce2c82b1404450908a,46,UR_NEIGHBOR_STACY,2023-12-09 13:36:46 Feminism,18e0hcf,There is evidence that vaginal and pelvic muscles become stronger the more frequently a woman has sex.,"Despite what misogynist might say in terms of saying that having a lot of sex can cause a women to loosen you up, studies have actually shown that having more frequent sex as a woman can actually tone those muscles lol. https://www.secretwhispers.co.uk/blogs/the-dribble/does-sex-help-strengthen-pelvic-floor-muscles#:~:text=Yes%2C%20sex%20does%20help%20strengthen,tone%20of%20their%20pelvic%20floors. -Just would like to share this here as we are all taking turns breaking down internalized misogyny.",,500,kornfreakonaleash,1702080146.0 -Feminism,18dowgt,"Blobby and Friends made a comic on ""Its a man's job"". I never understood who came up with that phrase, or why people embrace it. Source link in comments",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18dowgt,469,ClaireDacloush,1702048311.0 +Just would like to share this here as we are all taking turns breaking down internalized misogyny.",,500,kornfreakonaleash,2023-12-09 00:02:26 +Feminism,18dowgt,"Blobby and Friends made a comic on ""Its a man's job"". I never understood who came up with that phrase, or why people embrace it. Source link in comments",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18dowgt,469,ClaireDacloush,2023-12-08 15:11:51 Feminism,18dzqmo,is it a coincidence that wealthy and powerful men are calling for 3 women university presidents to be ousted?,"I don't want this post to be viewed as support for any wrongdoing, it's not. I am a humanitarian and pacifist, and I loathe all violence, as well as hateful acts and speech. So, this is not commentary about either side of the Israel-Hamas war - only about the impact on college campuses in the US. I've followed what the University of Pennsylvania's president- new this year - has done and said over the past few months, and it is not what her critics claim. Likewise, the Harvard and MIT presidents were put in lose- lose situations. Nothing they said in response to college demonstrations would have pleased all sides. -My suspicion is that these 3 are being singled out as scapegoats, and it could be because they're women.",,85,Entire-Ad2551,1702078000.0 +My suspicion is that these 3 are being singled out as scapegoats, and it could be because they're women.",,85,Entire-Ad2551,2023-12-08 23:26:40 Feminism,18dto4z,how come women deliberately want to get married and have children? or overall the traditional housewife life?,"traditionally speaking femininity is supposed to be having kids settling being a housewife etc etc. to this day of course many people still want that. many of my friends do and they always get excited talking about kids, etc. for reference im 17 and a girl and the thought of marriage not only scares me, but the thought of having children disgusts me. I fully understand why people think like I do but I cannot for the life of me understand why people don’t think the way I do. I don’t get how people have those maternal instincts and want it over a career etc. I don’t want to shame anyone even though I sometimes do end up looking down on such opinions; but I really want to understand as well how that “femininity” is powerful. absolutely no hate at all this is just something I’ve been curious about and struggling to understand for a while. EDIT - thank you so much for the responses everyone. I’ll try to read through them and try understanding you guys’ points of views. I’m also really happy you guys aren’t being mean to me about this. Thank you! -EDIT 2 - HAHA for reference I watched the Mona Lisa Smile last night and it had me thinking greatly ",,94,Master-Wolf-2027,1702061392.0 -Feminism,18e14pk,found out the guy i was dating assaulted my friend,"i don't even know what to feel right now. it all makes sense but also nothing does lol. my (18f) now ex (17m) exposed himself to our friend (25mtf). i feel like a fucking failure calling myself a feminist and unknowingly dating a assaulter. my now ex is also a cybercriminal who the FBI has investigated! and I let him use my phone bc the State Bureau of Investigation confiscated his and I don't know if he is spying on me through it. oh, to top it all off, he has evaded prison because of several high-status family members! So if she does report, I highly doubt any consequences are coming his way and he will retaliate against us. ugh.",,27,manifestamour,1702082121.0 -Feminism,18dqi7u,"Feminist mural seen in Bogota, Colombia",,https://i.redd.it/3enxix7jk35c1.jpg,88,Everything4Everyone,1702052755.0 -Feminism,18dn0n8,"Israel Gaza: Hamas raped and mutilated women on 7 October, BBC hears",Corroborated by the BBC. Waiting for more mainstream condemnation.,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-middle-east-67629181,82,Motor-Ad-2024,1702042729.0 +EDIT 2 - HAHA for reference I watched the Mona Lisa Smile last night and it had me thinking greatly ",,94,Master-Wolf-2027,2023-12-08 18:49:52 +Feminism,18e14pk,found out the guy i was dating assaulted my friend,"i don't even know what to feel right now. it all makes sense but also nothing does lol. my (18f) now ex (17m) exposed himself to our friend (25mtf). i feel like a fucking failure calling myself a feminist and unknowingly dating a assaulter. my now ex is also a cybercriminal who the FBI has investigated! and I let him use my phone bc the State Bureau of Investigation confiscated his and I don't know if he is spying on me through it. oh, to top it all off, he has evaded prison because of several high-status family members! So if she does report, I highly doubt any consequences are coming his way and he will retaliate against us. ugh.",,27,manifestamour,2023-12-09 00:35:21 +Feminism,18dqi7u,"Feminist mural seen in Bogota, Colombia",,https://i.redd.it/3enxix7jk35c1.jpg,88,Everything4Everyone,2023-12-08 16:25:55 +Feminism,18dn0n8,"Israel Gaza: Hamas raped and mutilated women on 7 October, BBC hears",Corroborated by the BBC. Waiting for more mainstream condemnation.,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-middle-east-67629181,82,Motor-Ad-2024,2023-12-08 13:38:49 Feminism,18dilra,Collective madness happening in Korea,"There is nothing more disgusting than when “racists” pretend to be peace. The facts of this drama are as follows. Korean incels claimed that the finger shape of the character “Angelic Buster” from Maple Story was “male-hating.” Naturally, most women and some normal men refuted this as ridiculous and far-fetched. So what is the evidence that incels are talking about? Here's the evidence they say: We need to check her Twitter, where incels have pointed her out as a feminist. @@ -12318,11 +12318,11 @@ Are they really pacifists? If you look closely at the groups they hate, you will Currently, incels in Korea are mainstream. Romance has long since disappeared in Korea. Incels intervene on all platforms and write malicious comments. In addition to misogyny, they write malicious comments to environmentalists, to women who love cats, black human rights, and to people who support workers' struggle for human rights. -And under the guise of pacifism, incels continue their cruel hatred against women and the socially disadvantaged.",,162,Inner_Response_1714,1702025066.0 -Feminism,18d8w5p,A Texas judge grants a pregnant woman permission to get an abortion despite the state’s ban,,https://apnews.com/article/texas-abortion-roe-568c09dc8794c341095189362ece9004,451,katespadesaturday,1701991944.0 +And under the guise of pacifism, incels continue their cruel hatred against women and the socially disadvantaged.",,162,Inner_Response_1714,2023-12-08 08:44:26 +Feminism,18d8w5p,A Texas judge grants a pregnant woman permission to get an abortion despite the state’s ban,,https://apnews.com/article/texas-abortion-roe-568c09dc8794c341095189362ece9004,451,katespadesaturday,2023-12-07 23:32:24 Feminism,18dnh1t,Female friends,"Hi! I’m new here. -My whole life I've only had male friends. I'm starting to think that maybe the problem is me, but I can't figure out what it is exactly. I've never been a misogynist and I work in a pro-feminist space, but for some reason the girls I meet aren't interested in being friends with me (not that I'm openly asked tbh, it’s just the vibe). I've never actively sought out friendship, all my friends have come into my life by chance or due to some external circumstances, but now I really want to make a female friend because I can't reach a high level of understanding in some issues with male friends. Where and how can I make friends with a girl?",,18,blndvsk,1702044129.0 +My whole life I've only had male friends. I'm starting to think that maybe the problem is me, but I can't figure out what it is exactly. I've never been a misogynist and I work in a pro-feminist space, but for some reason the girls I meet aren't interested in being friends with me (not that I'm openly asked tbh, it’s just the vibe). I've never actively sought out friendship, all my friends have come into my life by chance or due to some external circumstances, but now I really want to make a female friend because I can't reach a high level of understanding in some issues with male friends. Where and how can I make friends with a girl?",,18,blndvsk,2023-12-08 14:02:09 Feminism,18dfwh7,Why is the b word receiving a cultural rehabilitation?,"Not that it ever really left sadly. Relatively progressive people even get defensive when one addresses it. @@ -12335,15 +12335,15 @@ Losers clinging onto to misogyny for dear life. This culture is absolutely obsessive about power. -Amazing that even the version of the word with w instead of b is a misogynist pejorative from a horrible era no less.",,76,Radu47,1702014041.0 -Feminism,18erfog,What do you think of Anti feminist women?,"I'm an anti feminist woman, but I dont have anything against feminists. I simply just don't agree with a lot of what they say. That being said: what do you think of anti feminist women? Do you think they're justified in anyway?",,0,[deleted],1702168782.0 -Feminism,18dif63,The Importance of Abortion Rights,"Hello everyone, I am currently taking an American Politics class and for extra credit, I need to write a post on a social media platform discussing a political issue I care about. I wanted to discuss abortion rights and how important this right is for the health of women and those who have uteruses. Without this right of bodily autonomy, people who want or need an abortion are more likely to search for an alternative and can be harmed. In some cases, death. Here is a source regarding the risks women and those with uteruses face when abortion rights are taken away. [https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9253669/](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9253669/)",,24,_MorningStar666_,1702024231.0 +Amazing that even the version of the word with w instead of b is a misogynist pejorative from a horrible era no less.",,76,Radu47,2023-12-08 05:40:41 +Feminism,18erfog,What do you think of Anti feminist women?,"I'm an anti feminist woman, but I dont have anything against feminists. I simply just don't agree with a lot of what they say. That being said: what do you think of anti feminist women? Do you think they're justified in anyway?",,0,[deleted],2023-12-10 00:39:42 +Feminism,18dif63,The Importance of Abortion Rights,"Hello everyone, I am currently taking an American Politics class and for extra credit, I need to write a post on a social media platform discussing a political issue I care about. I wanted to discuss abortion rights and how important this right is for the health of women and those who have uteruses. Without this right of bodily autonomy, people who want or need an abortion are more likely to search for an alternative and can be harmed. In some cases, death. Here is a source regarding the risks women and those with uteruses face when abortion rights are taken away. [https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9253669/](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9253669/)",,24,_MorningStar666_,2023-12-08 08:30:31 Feminism,18d3i5i,Anyone else feel like a lot of feminists critique other women as feminists to the point of being anti-feminist?,"As I've been reading through comments regarding Taylor Swift being Time's Person of the Year, I've noticed feminists critiquing her to the point of dragging and demeaning her for the way she talks about feminism. I feel like TS and the way people talk about her from a feminist perspective is the perfect example of something I've noticed a lot of lately - people in the feminist sphere speaking as though a woman must be a saint to be a valid feminist. TS is usually critiqued for being a white feminist who doesn't understand intersectional feminism, but I find this critique to be reductive almost to the point of being anti-feminist. She has said some surface level feminist things, which is what people always point out, but has also made a lot very in-depth and insightful points about feminism that she's followed through with action-wise from the time she was a teen. When I googled 'Taylor Swift feminism' trying to find a speech she gave regarding sexiness and feminism, all the search results were articles ripping her to shreds for one singular point she made and ignoring others. -I've noticed that labeling and disregarding people as white feminists and/ or liberal feminist has become more and more of a trend, and is often warranted, but IMO the majority of the time it feels to me like it has come full circle and is against modern feminist ideals. ",,124,Current-Ad6521,1701977683.0 -Feminism,18d509x,A male coworker is harassing me and other female coworkers. My higher ups told us that if anyone complains about that coworker we'll all be fired. I'm scared.,,/r/antiwork/comments/18d4y7v/women_of_anti_work_i_need_your_help/,81,tiredashellalready,1701981627.0 +I've noticed that labeling and disregarding people as white feminists and/ or liberal feminist has become more and more of a trend, and is often warranted, but IMO the majority of the time it feels to me like it has come full circle and is against modern feminist ideals. ",,124,Current-Ad6521,2023-12-07 19:34:43 +Feminism,18d509x,A male coworker is harassing me and other female coworkers. My higher ups told us that if anyone complains about that coworker we'll all be fired. I'm scared.,,/r/antiwork/comments/18d4y7v/women_of_anti_work_i_need_your_help/,81,tiredashellalready,2023-12-07 20:40:27 Feminism,18d6zvk,Why do i suddenly feel the need to be beautiful again? How do i deal with it?," I, a 23 year old woman, have lived the last few years been at peace with the idea that being conventionally ugly as a woman is completely fine. The world really wants women to be pretty and i felt like i was finally above it. I was okay with being kind of ugly because i knew that that is just super irrellevant for my being as a whole, i am so much more (, every woman is). And i was fed up with the idea. The best rebellious act for me was just not participating in this culture of believing that women should be pretty in any way. I felt enlightened and so free! I didn't wear makeup (and felt that even though a lot of women feel empowered by it it still comes from an external pressure to be pretty (otherwise most straight men would wear it too), absolutely nothing bad against people who do, you should absolutely do whatever you want!!!), i dressed for comfort, i don't shave my legs or armpits and i was eating whatever i felt like. I felt smart and confident, and i certainly was not looking for any man's approvel. @@ -12358,24 +12358,24 @@ I was never afraid of being ugly, there's nothing negative about it, but now i a Thank you for reading all this, i know it was a bit lengthy but i felt i needed to share. Is there someone out there with a similar experience? someone who also shares this sentiment or who has advice? should i indulge or dabble in being pretty again? Or does anyone have tips of getting back into my previous mindset? I'm super excited to hear your thoughts. -ps: english is not my first language so please excuse my grammatical and spelling errors!",,43,chihirosy,1701986771.0 -Feminism,18d4g91,"""They Violently Raped Me""",,/r/NewIran/comments/18cuki5/they_violently_raped_me/,21,Kishehosh,1701980172.0 -Feminism,18d4jsl,Stan Tzouvelekes of Greenville city council is trying to shut down the abortion clinic,,https://www.greenvillecounty.org/Council/_Agenda/Meetings%20of%202023/County%20Council%20Meetings/2023.12.05/Revoking%20Business%20Registration%2011-29-2023%20(2).pdf?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email,18,Rychek_Four,1701980440.0 +ps: english is not my first language so please excuse my grammatical and spelling errors!",,43,chihirosy,2023-12-07 22:06:11 +Feminism,18d4g91,"""They Violently Raped Me""",,/r/NewIran/comments/18cuki5/they_violently_raped_me/,21,Kishehosh,2023-12-07 20:16:12 +Feminism,18d4jsl,Stan Tzouvelekes of Greenville city council is trying to shut down the abortion clinic,,https://www.greenvillecounty.org/Council/_Agenda/Meetings%20of%202023/County%20Council%20Meetings/2023.12.05/Revoking%20Business%20Registration%2011-29-2023%20(2).pdf?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email,18,Rychek_Four,2023-12-07 20:20:40 Feminism,18crnaa,How do you react to sexist jokes?,"My uncle is super sexist and makes a lot of anti women jokes (obviously they're not even slightly funny) and my family seems to just roll with it. I'd like to call him out on it without being the 'bitch who can't take a joke'. -What is your go-to reaction to stuff like that?",,133,tinyyseal,1701939971.0 +What is your go-to reaction to stuff like that?",,133,tinyyseal,2023-12-07 09:06:11 Feminism,18cwjsn,A Different Metric System,"I have written a poem about how the world has a different metric system for men. There are too many expectations from women in terms of their looks and appearance and there is barely anything for an average guy. -This is a short poem about the same issue.",https://i.redd.it/qyfdz9nxsv4c1.jpg,40,obliviousshiro,1701958669.0 +This is a short poem about the same issue.",https://i.redd.it/qyfdz9nxsv4c1.jpg,40,obliviousshiro,2023-12-07 14:17:49 Feminism,18dc6dp,Feminism Goals for next year,"Feminists have done great this year with being radically honest about women’s experiences of marriage and parenthood, and challenging the perception of being Child Free and Single by choice as a woman. -What are some of the things that would be great to work on in 2024?",,0,IHaveABigDuvet,1702001847.0 +What are some of the things that would be great to work on in 2024?",,0,IHaveABigDuvet,2023-12-08 02:17:27 Feminism,18cnvqm,Why people in third world countries are so afraid of feminism?,"People often allege that feminists promote vulgarity, sexuality/nudity in the name of women's empowerment/freedom. -How we may counter this people mentality in third world countries.",,95,SyedaMuntaha,1701924884.0 -Feminism,18d0eot,A Brief Personal and Political History of Ms.,,https://thethreepennyguignol.com/2023/12/07/a-brief-personal-and-political-history-of-ms/,7,cutpriceguignol,1701969352.0 -Feminism,18cxw5l,Grant Thornton Invitational Shines A Light On Pay Parity In Pro Golf,,https://www.forbes.com/sites/mikedojc/2023/12/07/grant-thornton-invitational-shines-a-light-on-pay-parity-in-pro-golf/?sh=18ad84ca193b,6,colagolfer,1701962502.0 -Feminism,18cnmwq,“THEY VIOLENTLY RAPED ME”: SEXUAL VIOLENCE WEAPONIZED TO CRUSH IRAN’S “WOMAN LIFE FREEDOM” UPRISING | Amnesty |2023,,https://www.amnesty.org/en/documents/mde13/7480/2023/en/,35,Shekari_Club,1701924048.0 -Feminism,18ct3cy,"I wrote a poem about female rage inspired by Tori Amos' song Cruel, let me know what you think",,https://youtu.be/8y1RuvAwYWc?si=o-wP-clp3DVpsDJx,7,J-Poetry,1701946413.0 -Feminism,18cku43,Right because boobs are only for the boys 😒,,/r/AITAH/comments/18cgl1z/am_i_the_ahole_for_grabbing_my_boobs_in_class/,14,Gloomy_Living_7532,1701915154.0 -Feminism,18c0oie,What gave feminism such a bad reputation?,Of course loads of stupid little boys hate feminism but why? What's to blame?,,283,WeirdoPanda1405,1701856600.0 +How we may counter this people mentality in third world countries.",,95,SyedaMuntaha,2023-12-07 04:54:44 +Feminism,18d0eot,A Brief Personal and Political History of Ms.,,https://thethreepennyguignol.com/2023/12/07/a-brief-personal-and-political-history-of-ms/,7,cutpriceguignol,2023-12-07 17:15:52 +Feminism,18cxw5l,Grant Thornton Invitational Shines A Light On Pay Parity In Pro Golf,,https://www.forbes.com/sites/mikedojc/2023/12/07/grant-thornton-invitational-shines-a-light-on-pay-parity-in-pro-golf/?sh=18ad84ca193b,6,colagolfer,2023-12-07 15:21:42 +Feminism,18cnmwq,“THEY VIOLENTLY RAPED ME”: SEXUAL VIOLENCE WEAPONIZED TO CRUSH IRAN’S “WOMAN LIFE FREEDOM” UPRISING | Amnesty |2023,,https://www.amnesty.org/en/documents/mde13/7480/2023/en/,35,Shekari_Club,2023-12-07 04:40:48 +Feminism,18ct3cy,"I wrote a poem about female rage inspired by Tori Amos' song Cruel, let me know what you think",,https://youtu.be/8y1RuvAwYWc?si=o-wP-clp3DVpsDJx,7,J-Poetry,2023-12-07 10:53:33 +Feminism,18cku43,Right because boobs are only for the boys 😒,,/r/AITAH/comments/18cgl1z/am_i_the_ahole_for_grabbing_my_boobs_in_class/,14,Gloomy_Living_7532,2023-12-07 02:12:34 +Feminism,18c0oie,What gave feminism such a bad reputation?,Of course loads of stupid little boys hate feminism but why? What's to blame?,,283,WeirdoPanda1405,2023-12-06 09:56:40 Feminism,18bux3g,Men who are “all for women” but say “not all men”,"Sometimes my bf makes me feel like he’s another one of those guys who likes to pretend they care about women’s issues. He made it known in the beginning that he’s “all for women”. Whatever that means, right? Yet almost every time I speak about women’s issues, he brings up how women are hurting men. For example, I brought up today the statistics regarding men leaving their wives when they get diagnoses with a chronic illness (the statistics are so sad btw). And instead of being like omg that’s insane, he brings up how women harm men. I don’t even remember the example he used because I was aghast. Why do SOME (see what I did there?) men do this?! I am all for men’s issues is the thing. If men’s issues are only being brought up instances like this, it seems it has more to do with shutting women up rather than actually giving a shit about men’s issues. @@ -12384,10 +12384,10 @@ Are these guys that seem like they are “for women” actually allies with us? PLEASE PEOPLE! Help me understand. Also tell me if I’m wrong lol -UPDATE- I ended up speaking to him about this. He apologized and said that he never wants me to feel as though he is trying to one up me. He owned up to the fact that he did get offended because he felt personally attacked, but he realizes that it was not meant as a personal attack to him. After he realized what I was actually trying to say, he said he was glad I shed light on the behavior he was admitting. He said “I need to learn that it has nothing to do with me but men as a whole”. So i think he’s kind of getting it. It honestly seems like it’s a knee jerk reaction whenever these issues get brought up. Which is not a good thing lol. In turn I did let him know that I do care about what men go through, and although I might not fully understand because I’m not a man. Probably the same way he feels. So hopefully this was a turning point! ",,341,ResearchOpposite7518,1701833998.0 -Feminism,18cc12x,Why Women Hate the Pill | What birth control teaches us about the failure—and future—of women’s health care,,https://thewalrus.ca/why-women-hate-the-pill/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=referral,18,CWang,1701891103.0 -Feminism,18bzcgm,Kim Jong-un cries as he tells women to have more babies, https://out.reddit.com/t3_18br2ug?app_name=reddit_ios&token=AQAAmHJwZcE3VZ3xm9lUi0S5u0J7FhsnhhWtSVwnAOTOpTKlQZwp&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.telegraph.co.uk%2Fworld-news%2F2023%2F12%2F05%2Fkim-jong-un-cries-tells-women-more-babies-north-korea%2F,,104,Pure-Organization-26,1701850479.0 -Feminism,18blu3c,How mysoginist are targeting young boys,"I read a book that was called men who hate women by Laura bates and saw this disturbing fact I’ll show it on a quote. But I would say that this is grooming, targeting children as young as ten through video games. I want to raise this awareness",https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18blu3c,728,Charrise,1701809053.0 +UPDATE- I ended up speaking to him about this. He apologized and said that he never wants me to feel as though he is trying to one up me. He owned up to the fact that he did get offended because he felt personally attacked, but he realizes that it was not meant as a personal attack to him. After he realized what I was actually trying to say, he said he was glad I shed light on the behavior he was admitting. He said “I need to learn that it has nothing to do with me but men as a whole”. So i think he’s kind of getting it. It honestly seems like it’s a knee jerk reaction whenever these issues get brought up. Which is not a good thing lol. In turn I did let him know that I do care about what men go through, and although I might not fully understand because I’m not a man. Probably the same way he feels. So hopefully this was a turning point! ",,341,ResearchOpposite7518,2023-12-06 03:39:58 +Feminism,18cc12x,Why Women Hate the Pill | What birth control teaches us about the failure—and future—of women’s health care,,https://thewalrus.ca/why-women-hate-the-pill/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=referral,18,CWang,2023-12-06 19:31:43 +Feminism,18bzcgm,Kim Jong-un cries as he tells women to have more babies, https://out.reddit.com/t3_18br2ug?app_name=reddit_ios&token=AQAAmHJwZcE3VZ3xm9lUi0S5u0J7FhsnhhWtSVwnAOTOpTKlQZwp&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.telegraph.co.uk%2Fworld-news%2F2023%2F12%2F05%2Fkim-jong-un-cries-tells-women-more-babies-north-korea%2F,,104,Pure-Organization-26,2023-12-06 08:14:39 +Feminism,18blu3c,How mysoginist are targeting young boys,"I read a book that was called men who hate women by Laura bates and saw this disturbing fact I’ll show it on a quote. But I would say that this is grooming, targeting children as young as ten through video games. I want to raise this awareness",https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18blu3c,728,Charrise,2023-12-05 20:44:13 Feminism,18bx3iy,Rant: Mansplaining in the form of unsolicited advice when the plans have already been laid! SMDH,"Several examples in ONE DAMN WEEK: I have a camper van that's been leaking for 3 weeks now. I've worked on it in public spaces, ie home depot parking lot and a parking garage. Men say: @@ -12400,8 +12400,8 @@ Then there are the ""drive by's""; ""I have a van like that blah blah blah"", "" SICK. OF. THIS. -Men on FB have pulled the same: ""Why did you use Y product? You should have used X and here's why."" (That was in response to a question I asked in a Facebook group about a cheaper alternative to a certain brand. Their advice that I shouldn't have use that product to begin with did not answer the question at all!)",,96,No_Celery9390,1701841269.0 -Feminism,18bll8y,CNN's Christmas gifts ideas for women is terrible,,https://us.cnn.com/cnn-underscored/gifts/gift-ideas-for-women,113,bloulboi,1701808429.0 +Men on FB have pulled the same: ""Why did you use Y product? You should have used X and here's why."" (That was in response to a question I asked in a Facebook group about a cheaper alternative to a certain brand. Their advice that I shouldn't have use that product to begin with did not answer the question at all!)",,96,No_Celery9390,2023-12-06 05:41:09 +Feminism,18bll8y,CNN's Christmas gifts ideas for women is terrible,,https://us.cnn.com/cnn-underscored/gifts/gift-ideas-for-women,113,bloulboi,2023-12-05 20:33:49 Feminism,18bbbcg,I witnessed a horrific domestic violence situation in public and feel demoralized by the way police (don't) respond to such situations,"I feel the need to make this post at 4:30am because what I saw deeply disturbed me, I can't sleep and I just need to get it off my chest. I was getting into my car in a parking lot after picking up food when I heard a woman screaming for help. She actually sounded like a child at first, I was really concerned. I couldn't see anyone so I drove to the other side of the parking lot where the sound was coming from. All I saw was what looked like a couple and the woman putting a small child in the backseat of the car. I didn't realize at first that something was going on and that was where the sound was coming from. @@ -12436,7 +12436,7 @@ My heart breaks for that woman... I hope she's okay. But I know I will never forget what I witnessed and how infuriating it is how there is so rarely justice in these situations. -My message to all: IF YOU SEE SOMETHING, OR HEAR SOMETHING, DO SOMETHING!! Because chances are no one else is going to step in. There was plenty of other people around when this was occuring who could have done something.",,438,worldprincess13,1701780733.0 +My message to all: IF YOU SEE SOMETHING, OR HEAR SOMETHING, DO SOMETHING!! Because chances are no one else is going to step in. There was plenty of other people around when this was occuring who could have done something.",,438,worldprincess13,2023-12-05 12:52:13 Feminism,18bpvcp,Women's and Gender Studies as a degree option?,"Firstly- is there a better subreddit I could direct this question that anyone could suggest? I'm 27. So I work blue collar w all men. Before I got into this world I wanted to work with non profits and women/ children. Primarily focused on sexual slavery. This has been a pipe dream since I was literally age 13. I went to a year of college at 18, and just wasn't mature enough to take the steps to follow through with this goal, I guess. My chosen degree path was social work, but I took a women's and genders studies class while there. The professor wasn't my favorite, but I loved the coursework. @@ -12455,11 +12455,11 @@ Thank you kindly for reading my minds rantings. Sincerely, -someone who wants to make a difference in the world, no matter how small",,22,406f150,1701819145.0 -Feminism,18bqbkk,Podcast for survivors of Military Sexual Trauma,"Hello, I just started a podcast on Veterans Day this year that shares the stories of people that have experienced Military Sexual Trauma. The goal of the podcast is to spread awareness, help other survivors feel less isolated and help identify and pool more resources, and to eventually raise money to help survivors get specialized care outside of the VA system. I (the host) was extremely lucky to have a full recovery from more than decade-long severe cPTSD, depression, and anxiety and want to do everything in my power to help others get their lives back, too. This episode in particular is from an Army Chaplain’s perspective and her story is incredible. Thank you.",https://youtu.be/9GtODRMrJCU?si=Ig6JcSBi5PkoEFS0,9,silencedvoicesMST,1701820322.0 -Feminism,18b8r23,"A 43-year-old South Korean woman adopted her best friend, seeking to create an alternative family outside traditional marriage, as part of a broader trend of feminist social experiments in the country",,https://www.aljazeera.com/features/2023/12/2/the-south-korean-woman-who-adopted-her-best-friend,91,hongdae-exit-9,1701770562.0 -Feminism,18aork5,I feel really grossed out,I went on my first real date a few months ago with a guy I met on a dating app. I didn’t tell my parents because I knew they would probably freak out because of the age difference. I was 18 and he was 28 but I didn’t think much of it. While we were talking he asked if he could kiss me and I don’t him I wasn’t really comfortable with that as I don’t have any experience and just generally don’t want to. He kept pushing until I didn’t have any more excuses and leaned in to kiss me while I wasn’t really watching what he was doing. I though I made my discomfort visible but he kept doing it. I don’t talk to him anymore but I just feel really gross still and I don’t have anyone to tell. It makes me not want to go on dates anymore since that was my first one. I just feel like I let it happen and I feel grossed out with myself but I keep telling myself it wasn’t my fault.,,432,Goooaaatttt,1701709668.0 -Feminism,18as84e,The majority of President Joe Biden's appointed judges to date have been women or minorities - a first in the history of the United States,,https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/12/04/most-of-bidens-appointed-judges-to-date-are-women-racial-or-ethnic-minorities-a-first-for-any-president/,214,Professional_Suit270,1701718606.0 +someone who wants to make a difference in the world, no matter how small",,22,406f150,2023-12-05 23:32:25 +Feminism,18bqbkk,Podcast for survivors of Military Sexual Trauma,"Hello, I just started a podcast on Veterans Day this year that shares the stories of people that have experienced Military Sexual Trauma. The goal of the podcast is to spread awareness, help other survivors feel less isolated and help identify and pool more resources, and to eventually raise money to help survivors get specialized care outside of the VA system. I (the host) was extremely lucky to have a full recovery from more than decade-long severe cPTSD, depression, and anxiety and want to do everything in my power to help others get their lives back, too. This episode in particular is from an Army Chaplain’s perspective and her story is incredible. Thank you.",https://youtu.be/9GtODRMrJCU?si=Ig6JcSBi5PkoEFS0,9,silencedvoicesMST,2023-12-05 23:52:02 +Feminism,18b8r23,"A 43-year-old South Korean woman adopted her best friend, seeking to create an alternative family outside traditional marriage, as part of a broader trend of feminist social experiments in the country",,https://www.aljazeera.com/features/2023/12/2/the-south-korean-woman-who-adopted-her-best-friend,91,hongdae-exit-9,2023-12-05 10:02:42 +Feminism,18aork5,I feel really grossed out,I went on my first real date a few months ago with a guy I met on a dating app. I didn’t tell my parents because I knew they would probably freak out because of the age difference. I was 18 and he was 28 but I didn’t think much of it. While we were talking he asked if he could kiss me and I don’t him I wasn’t really comfortable with that as I don’t have any experience and just generally don’t want to. He kept pushing until I didn’t have any more excuses and leaned in to kiss me while I wasn’t really watching what he was doing. I though I made my discomfort visible but he kept doing it. I don’t talk to him anymore but I just feel really gross still and I don’t have anyone to tell. It makes me not want to go on dates anymore since that was my first one. I just feel like I let it happen and I feel grossed out with myself but I keep telling myself it wasn’t my fault.,,432,Goooaaatttt,2023-12-04 17:07:48 +Feminism,18as84e,The majority of President Joe Biden's appointed judges to date have been women or minorities - a first in the history of the United States,,https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/12/04/most-of-bidens-appointed-judges-to-date-are-women-racial-or-ethnic-minorities-a-first-for-any-president/,214,Professional_Suit270,2023-12-04 19:36:46 Feminism,18as5rp,Mut’ah / temporary pleasure marriage,"I just stumbled upon this [video](https://youtu.be/_5ZqEWSeKj4?si=9ip8G2EXtLV57ip5) and although I am fully aware of all the forced marriages, child brides, and other derogatory practices toward women in many Islamic states/ under Sharia... it's so shocking how deceitful and selfish men can be. No regard for human life. Those *pleasure marriages* can last anywhere from a day to years just so that men could *legally* use a woman instead of illegally buying the services from a prostitute. You can even take a 10yo girl, ""marry"" her without her parent's consent, and then after using her, just toss her aside. As she is not a virgin anymore, she might be killed by her family (*honor killing*). Or a man temporarily marries a woman making her believe that it's a real marriage, then ghosts her and if she gets caught then she might be convicted of prostitution. Apparently, pleasure / temporary marriages are meant for the couple to get to know each other before the real marriage but it doesn't seem to benefit women because their only worth is measured by their virginity. Another shocking part was that if the civil judge finds out about the illegal marriage to an underage girl then her husband and family are only fined a mere 50 bucks. @@ -12468,13 +12468,13 @@ For some reason, nothing has ever made me feel more angry than learning about wo [Muslimgirl blog post on the topic](https://muslimgirl.com/lets-talk-mutah-temporary-marriage-islam/) -&#x200B;",,120,lndlml,1701718445.0 -Feminism,18b1ur8,European VC ecosystem heavily biased against female founders,,https://thenextweb.com/news/european-vc-ecosystem-biased-female-founders,25,katespadesaturday,1701744602.0 -Feminism,18bk1xp,Book rec/request: feminism & Sapir-Whorf/linguistics,"Hi all — looking for book recommendations or ideas. Recently I’ve been thinking a lot about the Sapir-Whorf hypothesis & linguistic determinism/relativity in relation to the gender binary and feminism. A lot of what I’ve read on linguistic determinism touches on gender, but it doesn’t go very in depth (or at least as in depth as I would like) or emphasize a thoroughly feminist lens. I was wondering if any of you have read/found books by feminist scholars/authors/theorists on the subject, or books by linguists that focus on gender specifically. Right now Women, Fire, & Dangerous things by George Lakoff is on my list, but again I think that’ll be a little more broad than what I’m looking for. I’ve also found some academic research/essays published on the subject if anyone is interested!",,1,oneslowdancer,1701804550.0 -Feminism,18aiw5s,"""Patriarchy Kills! Fight Back"" spotted in Winterthur, Switzerland",,https://i.redd.it/brca8yrdr94c1.jpg,269,Everything4Everyone,1701691848.0 -Feminism,18azwhz,Protesters near the U.N. push for broader condemnation of sexual violence on Oct. 7.,,https://www.nytimes.com/live/2023/12/04/world/israel-hamas-war-gaza-news/protesters-and-israel-push-the-un-to-condemn-sexual-violence-during-the-oct-7-attack?smid=url-share,16,Motor-Ad-2024,1701738812.0 -Feminism,18acavn,“Who are the masculine women for?” [idolomantises],,https://i.redd.it/6ql1vl79h74c1.jpg,453,ClaireDacloush,1701664189.0 -Feminism,18akq0h,Jesus the Medieval Feminist,,https://www.historytoday.com/history-matters/jesus-medieval-feminist,4,[deleted],1701698190.0 +&#x200B;",,120,lndlml,2023-12-04 19:34:05 +Feminism,18b1ur8,European VC ecosystem heavily biased against female founders,,https://thenextweb.com/news/european-vc-ecosystem-biased-female-founders,25,katespadesaturday,2023-12-05 02:50:02 +Feminism,18bk1xp,Book rec/request: feminism & Sapir-Whorf/linguistics,"Hi all — looking for book recommendations or ideas. Recently I’ve been thinking a lot about the Sapir-Whorf hypothesis & linguistic determinism/relativity in relation to the gender binary and feminism. A lot of what I’ve read on linguistic determinism touches on gender, but it doesn’t go very in depth (or at least as in depth as I would like) or emphasize a thoroughly feminist lens. I was wondering if any of you have read/found books by feminist scholars/authors/theorists on the subject, or books by linguists that focus on gender specifically. Right now Women, Fire, & Dangerous things by George Lakoff is on my list, but again I think that’ll be a little more broad than what I’m looking for. I’ve also found some academic research/essays published on the subject if anyone is interested!",,1,oneslowdancer,2023-12-05 19:29:10 +Feminism,18aiw5s,"""Patriarchy Kills! Fight Back"" spotted in Winterthur, Switzerland",,https://i.redd.it/brca8yrdr94c1.jpg,269,Everything4Everyone,2023-12-04 12:10:48 +Feminism,18azwhz,Protesters near the U.N. push for broader condemnation of sexual violence on Oct. 7.,,https://www.nytimes.com/live/2023/12/04/world/israel-hamas-war-gaza-news/protesters-and-israel-push-the-un-to-condemn-sexual-violence-during-the-oct-7-attack?smid=url-share,16,Motor-Ad-2024,2023-12-05 01:13:32 +Feminism,18acavn,“Who are the masculine women for?” [idolomantises],,https://i.redd.it/6ql1vl79h74c1.jpg,453,ClaireDacloush,2023-12-04 04:29:49 +Feminism,18akq0h,Jesus the Medieval Feminist,,https://www.historytoday.com/history-matters/jesus-medieval-feminist,4,[deleted],2023-12-04 13:56:30 Feminism,189zp80,A male recruiter told that I was « authoritarian ». Would he have said the same to a man?!,"Hello, I was doing interviews for a job position where I have 7 years of experience! During the third round, I had to present a case study and convince people. I am an assertive woman, confident in my job and really enthusiastic. I know sometimes my tone can be directive but this is just who I am I guess. I still have a lot of other flaws I’m working on. @@ -12482,29 +12482,29 @@ I was doing interviews for a job position where I have 7 years of experience! Du However when I was getting feedback, the recruiter told my my tone was « too authoritarian » and not enough « complacent », because you know, stakeholders must me taken care of. I was wondering, if he had a confident man in from of him with the same tone, would -He have said the same thing?",,103,Dovahkweeen,1701628126.0 +He have said the same thing?",,103,Dovahkweeen,2023-12-03 18:28:46 Feminism,189v16y,“The economics of industrialized countries would collapse if women didn't do the work they do for free”,"Page 23. -The beauty myth by Naomi Wolf is blowing my mind.",,170,RelativeLeather5759,1701614980.0 -Feminism,18agq3b,Do you think promiscuity is bad?,"Would you consider promiscuity (for both men or women) to be a bad thing in society and if so, do you have any fixes for it? Also, why do you think your arguments are morally better than the other side?",,6,toogodo,1701682595.0 -Feminism,18afw53,Hey there I'm looking for an essay or non fiction book about pregnancy,"Hey, I'm working on a video essay right now about Stephen Kings ""The breathing method"" which talks a lot about the general societal shittiness of being a single mother in the 1920s and I'm looking for essays or non fiction books about this topic or the general societal expectations of pregnancy but I don't know where to start, any recommendations would be greatly appreciated.",,4,Gene_freeman,1701678570.0 +The beauty myth by Naomi Wolf is blowing my mind.",,170,RelativeLeather5759,2023-12-03 14:49:40 +Feminism,18agq3b,Do you think promiscuity is bad?,"Would you consider promiscuity (for both men or women) to be a bad thing in society and if so, do you have any fixes for it? Also, why do you think your arguments are morally better than the other side?",,6,toogodo,2023-12-04 09:36:35 +Feminism,18afw53,Hey there I'm looking for an essay or non fiction book about pregnancy,"Hey, I'm working on a video essay right now about Stephen Kings ""The breathing method"" which talks a lot about the general societal shittiness of being a single mother in the 1920s and I'm looking for essays or non fiction books about this topic or the general societal expectations of pregnancy but I don't know where to start, any recommendations would be greatly appreciated.",,4,Gene_freeman,2023-12-04 08:29:30 Feminism,189tpwa,I've literally just been proposed to and I feel manipulated af,"So, me (25f) and a former fling from the past (31m) went on a date after 3 years without speaking to each other. We tried to build something in 2020, but it didn't work due to his overwhelming workload and my lack of maturity. We, naturally, didn't keep in touch until we bumped into each other in a party in June, in which I had been with my former boyfriend, who broke up with me in August. In the beginning of November, this guy from my past texted me on LinkedIn (since I don't have any social media), just to ask me how I was, how my family was, so on and so forth. We started texting again, which soon evolved to flirting. Mind you that we live in different cities, even though we come from the same town. Then, he came to town this weekend and we decided to go on a date together. He said that he still loves me, and believes I'm the one for him, and LITERALLY proposed. Like down on one knee thing. But since he had no ring, he proposed with a piece of grass. I don't know what the fuck is happening and I'm absolutely terrified, because it really felt intense. Now I feel love-bombed, manipulated and feel like he's using me to fill some sort of void. I can't believe I'm in this situation and I'm asking please for some support and advice. Oh, and just to be clear, I will not marry him. I'm not the cure for one's problems. It's just very stressful to be in this situation and my anxiety is through the roof and again, a guy is trying to manipulate me by confusing my emotions. I'm so sick of this. -UPDATE: I was honest with him, but also very careful, we never know what someone can do. So definitely not even dating this dude or going out with him ever again in my life, the more I think about it, the worse it gets. Thank you everyone who took some time to help me out, it means a lot 🥰",,128,sh4doowm00n,1701610856.0 -Feminism,189mz3o,endless online misogyny,"I know this already has been discussed here many times, but I don’t think I recall Instagram comments ever being so… awful. Every single reel with a woman, a gay person etc is always filled with crap and hatred. Especially athletic videos, or videos with male dominated hobbies the men commenting always feel the need to “one up” or “humble” the woman who’s showing off her skill in the video, and for what reason??? They treat it like a competition when they see women succeeding in male dominated spaces and it’s genuinely upsetting. Heck, they even do it to kids for some reason as well. Unfortunately, there seems to be a large group that still sees women as objects, or inferior and it boils my blood just seeing it. They also seem to blame women for everything to calling a man “gay” for playing games with his daughters and simply just being a good dad. Also, hating on women who don’t want kids as they only see women as useful for having children. These same people are sometimes older men hitting on younger women as they think ages 18-24 is a woman’s “prime” for birth. It’s gross. The algorithm is weird and for some reason different videos end up on an incel’s reels feed. Just earlier I was scrolling and saw a video regarding polygamy, you can smell the comments a mile away. One thing I saw that took everything in me not to reply was one comment, stating that it’s a woman’s fault if a man cheats. He even said that it was “a wife’s duty” to satisfy a man and that women don’t want men to be happy because they don’t let them have multiple wives, to him saying that women not wanting to have sex all the time is stupid. That women being not in the mood to have sex over “being moody” or having headaches is a huge excuse to not do it. Another time as I was scrolling I saw a video of a buff female athlete showing off her strength, top comments were men saying “that’s a dude” or “not a woman” because of her lower stomach area. Yet again pure misogyny and transphobia, like men can’t fathom a women can kick their butt or be stronger than them. Men truly don’t know a woman’s anatomy either, and god forbid a woman has one single masculine trait. I also see comments where men are like “well at least we can walk out at night alone” almost as if they’re fully well aware of these issues but just don’t simply.. care? I know it’s not all men because there are some men who don’t comment stuff like that, but IT is a large portion of men. I also know that it was most likely just incels and for some reason the algorithm, comfortability with hate speech, and the ability to hide behind a screen allows them to come out of hiding. It’s not just Instagram either, as Twitter is the same with the “single mom’s posting Ls” or “Women posting Ls” page. I have seen some ridiculous stuff said there too, they reach so hard to blame women and victim blame, but don’t take responsibility for deadbeat fathers or crappy men. These are the same type of guys that say “well men this well men that” whenever a non-men victim brings up their experience and they truly don’t care about men’s issues at all. They only bring it up whenever a non-men brings up their experience to shut them down, otherwise they’d make their own awareness posts. I try not to let it get to me but it has me wondering who and who out there is like this but is good at hiding it. It feels like thousands. Sometimes I feel hopeless at times that we will never progress as a society and have a safer and better future for women and girls all over the world. I hope that one day we will have a much better world, but i’ve just accepted that I might not be alive to see it as it could be years from now. It just sucks, and I hope people don’t mind this rant.",,182,02891,1701582844.0 -Feminism,189kz3q,In 40 states child marriage is legal,You read that correctly. Minors cannot file for divorce so why should they be legally married? If you are infuriated by this- as you should be (I am)- you should support the advocacy work of https://www.unchainedatlast.org/,,202,Classifiedgarlic,1701575692.0 -Feminism,189wo7m,What are some things that make you happy/hopeful/proud about the impact of feminism on everyday life?,"It makes me sad that so many of the posts on r/Feminism are angry rants. There are of course many serious problems to rant angrily about, but it’s nice to celebrate when we can, too.",,18,clarifythepulse,1701619761.0 -Feminism,18985l8,Teen girls are being victimized by deepfake nudes. One family is pushing for more protections,,https://apnews.com/article/deepfake-ai-nudes-teen-girls-legislation-b6f44be048b31fe0b430aeee1956ad38,359,katespadesaturday,1701536979.0 +UPDATE: I was honest with him, but also very careful, we never know what someone can do. So definitely not even dating this dude or going out with him ever again in my life, the more I think about it, the worse it gets. Thank you everyone who took some time to help me out, it means a lot 🥰",,128,sh4doowm00n,2023-12-03 13:40:56 +Feminism,189mz3o,endless online misogyny,"I know this already has been discussed here many times, but I don’t think I recall Instagram comments ever being so… awful. Every single reel with a woman, a gay person etc is always filled with crap and hatred. Especially athletic videos, or videos with male dominated hobbies the men commenting always feel the need to “one up” or “humble” the woman who’s showing off her skill in the video, and for what reason??? They treat it like a competition when they see women succeeding in male dominated spaces and it’s genuinely upsetting. Heck, they even do it to kids for some reason as well. Unfortunately, there seems to be a large group that still sees women as objects, or inferior and it boils my blood just seeing it. They also seem to blame women for everything to calling a man “gay” for playing games with his daughters and simply just being a good dad. Also, hating on women who don’t want kids as they only see women as useful for having children. These same people are sometimes older men hitting on younger women as they think ages 18-24 is a woman’s “prime” for birth. It’s gross. The algorithm is weird and for some reason different videos end up on an incel’s reels feed. Just earlier I was scrolling and saw a video regarding polygamy, you can smell the comments a mile away. One thing I saw that took everything in me not to reply was one comment, stating that it’s a woman’s fault if a man cheats. He even said that it was “a wife’s duty” to satisfy a man and that women don’t want men to be happy because they don’t let them have multiple wives, to him saying that women not wanting to have sex all the time is stupid. That women being not in the mood to have sex over “being moody” or having headaches is a huge excuse to not do it. Another time as I was scrolling I saw a video of a buff female athlete showing off her strength, top comments were men saying “that’s a dude” or “not a woman” because of her lower stomach area. Yet again pure misogyny and transphobia, like men can’t fathom a women can kick their butt or be stronger than them. Men truly don’t know a woman’s anatomy either, and god forbid a woman has one single masculine trait. I also see comments where men are like “well at least we can walk out at night alone” almost as if they’re fully well aware of these issues but just don’t simply.. care? I know it’s not all men because there are some men who don’t comment stuff like that, but IT is a large portion of men. I also know that it was most likely just incels and for some reason the algorithm, comfortability with hate speech, and the ability to hide behind a screen allows them to come out of hiding. It’s not just Instagram either, as Twitter is the same with the “single mom’s posting Ls” or “Women posting Ls” page. I have seen some ridiculous stuff said there too, they reach so hard to blame women and victim blame, but don’t take responsibility for deadbeat fathers or crappy men. These are the same type of guys that say “well men this well men that” whenever a non-men victim brings up their experience and they truly don’t care about men’s issues at all. They only bring it up whenever a non-men brings up their experience to shut them down, otherwise they’d make their own awareness posts. I try not to let it get to me but it has me wondering who and who out there is like this but is good at hiding it. It feels like thousands. Sometimes I feel hopeless at times that we will never progress as a society and have a safer and better future for women and girls all over the world. I hope that one day we will have a much better world, but i’ve just accepted that I might not be alive to see it as it could be years from now. It just sucks, and I hope people don’t mind this rant.",,182,02891,2023-12-03 05:54:04 +Feminism,189kz3q,In 40 states child marriage is legal,You read that correctly. Minors cannot file for divorce so why should they be legally married? If you are infuriated by this- as you should be (I am)- you should support the advocacy work of https://www.unchainedatlast.org/,,202,Classifiedgarlic,2023-12-03 03:54:52 +Feminism,189wo7m,What are some things that make you happy/hopeful/proud about the impact of feminism on everyday life?,"It makes me sad that so many of the posts on r/Feminism are angry rants. There are of course many serious problems to rant angrily about, but it’s nice to celebrate when we can, too.",,18,clarifythepulse,2023-12-03 16:09:21 +Feminism,18985l8,Teen girls are being victimized by deepfake nudes. One family is pushing for more protections,,https://apnews.com/article/deepfake-ai-nudes-teen-girls-legislation-b6f44be048b31fe0b430aeee1956ad38,359,katespadesaturday,2023-12-02 17:09:39 Feminism,1899hfv,The Language of Women,"I saw a video recently of Meryl Streep and a group of male filmmakers having a discussion in a panel. Streep mentions how women have learned the language of men, given how most of society (certainly in film/writings and storytelling) is structured and written in this language of men. This is similar to ideas on the male gaze. Learning this language is therefore inherent for women in society to survive or get anywhere. As a man, I obviously grew up without any conscious awareness of the language of women, and would like to gain an understanding of it. -Perhaps this is the wrong group to ask this in (if so any directions would be greatly appreciated) but I was wondering if anyone had any books or media that would help in learning this language? I’m always trying to learn from the women in my own life, but I feel the onus should solely be on women to teach me. I’d like to learn on my own!",,209,SlipperyFsh,1701540708.0 -Feminism,1890bsb,I feel devastated(south korea),"I am a 22yo Korean girl who moved to singapore at 14. For years korean women suffered from all kinds of discrimination and sexism toward us but i truly believed that we were changing. Like how is it possible to go backwards in terms of human rights?? But blimey that has happened. Korean men are literally claiming that all kinds of illustrations with 🤌🤏these kinds of signs are putted in on purpose to make them feel bad about their genital size hahahahahahahah like are you serious?? Now that it has been revealed that the one who drew it was a 40yo male, the one got fired is a female illustrator who claimed to be a feminist years ago. I feel devastated. There is no hope in my country.",,308,Maximum_Conflict501,1701510310.0 +Perhaps this is the wrong group to ask this in (if so any directions would be greatly appreciated) but I was wondering if anyone had any books or media that would help in learning this language? I’m always trying to learn from the women in my own life, but I feel the onus should solely be on women to teach me. I’d like to learn on my own!",,209,SlipperyFsh,2023-12-02 18:11:48 +Feminism,1890bsb,I feel devastated(south korea),"I am a 22yo Korean girl who moved to singapore at 14. For years korean women suffered from all kinds of discrimination and sexism toward us but i truly believed that we were changing. Like how is it possible to go backwards in terms of human rights?? But blimey that has happened. Korean men are literally claiming that all kinds of illustrations with 🤌🤏these kinds of signs are putted in on purpose to make them feel bad about their genital size hahahahahahahah like are you serious?? Now that it has been revealed that the one who drew it was a 40yo male, the one got fired is a female illustrator who claimed to be a feminist years ago. I feel devastated. There is no hope in my country.",,308,Maximum_Conflict501,2023-12-02 09:45:10 Feminism,1890d0d,Am I overreacting or is this sexist…,"This is my first time posting on Reddit but I feel like this is the right platform for this. I came across this company on instagram that helps you pick presents for your parents through a quiz. I actually really loved the concept of this and so took the quiz, I picked that my mum loved travelling, the stock market etc... and it came up with cleaning and cooking products. Now I put this to a faulty algorithm initially and it didn’t bother me too much. My issue came when I used the exact same answers but clicked dad instead and it gave me a heated cinema chair. How can the exact same answers lead to chores for mum and relaxing for dad. @@ -12520,26 +12520,26 @@ They have kept asking me to post a reel/tik tok to see what people say so I’m I would also be happy to share my answers to the quiz if needed. -Edit: thank you for all the responses. I don’t know whether it’s worth sending the responses to them because I’d feel like they won’t listen anyway…",,215,Ok-One-9131,1701510464.0 -Feminism,1894drt,Gloria Steinem: Feminist icon on 'lethal' desire to control wombs,,https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-67445694,53,Kagedeah,1701525732.0 -Feminism,1893sra,36 Ways Women Still Aren't Equal to Men,,/r/EqualRightsAmendment/comments/18939w4/36_ways_women_still_arent_equal_to_men/,57,imaginenohell,1701523909.0 +Edit: thank you for all the responses. I don’t know whether it’s worth sending the responses to them because I’d feel like they won’t listen anyway…",,215,Ok-One-9131,2023-12-02 09:47:44 +Feminism,1894drt,Gloria Steinem: Feminist icon on 'lethal' desire to control wombs,,https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-67445694,53,Kagedeah,2023-12-02 14:02:12 +Feminism,1893sra,36 Ways Women Still Aren't Equal to Men,,/r/EqualRightsAmendment/comments/18939w4/36_ways_women_still_arent_equal_to_men/,57,imaginenohell,2023-12-02 13:31:49 Feminism,188zupt,Rage against men & books 📚,"Hi! I would like to find books and/or essais that can teach me more about (the emergence of) patriarchy and further more over the effect it has on modern society. I want to understand better on macro scale, to be able to translate it to me and my point of view, as I struggle today with a lot of rage against behavior of men (and the machine 🥁). I would like to understand the whole thing and to be able to manage this anger. I want to be able to translate it in a more constructive way in my actions and words, use it to stand my ground with more confidence. Because it's eating me up in my corporate life right now, being seen as a 'overemotional woman' that 'should stop panicking' over 'everything' (whilst just stating facts, you know..., but ok). -Have some tips? Thanks!",,48,Ebo1986,1701508188.0 +Have some tips? Thanks!",,48,Ebo1986,2023-12-02 09:09:48 Feminism,188epq1,"The concept of being in love and in a relationship (with a man) as something we should all aspire to is the oldest, most successful PR scheme of all time.","I believe it’s the opposite. They created a need because we’re better off without them, but they can’t say the same about us. How many of us have actually improved the quality of our lives by going this route vs. deciding to not? I’m (35F) in a relationship for the first time in almost a decade and I realize I’m happier when I’m single. Could be my BPD, but where is the evidence to show any validity to this fairy tale that’s been shoved down our throats? I feel like this is the equivalent to Philip Morris saying “cigarettes are good for you!” Before they eventually got sued because come to find out, they kill you. -Edit: grammar",,447,cinquefoil9,1701444764.0 +Edit: grammar",,447,cinquefoil9,2023-12-01 15:32:44 Feminism,188f2dz,Sandra Day O' Conner died today,"Sandra Day O’Connor, pathbreaking woman on Supreme Court, dies at 93 https://www.washingtonpost.com/obituaries/2023/12/01/sandra-day-oconnor-supreme-court-justice-dead/ -I apologize in advance to those who hit a paywall. But if you can read this - it's sooo worth it!",,105,mylifewillchange,1701445681.0 +I apologize in advance to those who hit a paywall. But if you can read this - it's sooo worth it!",,105,mylifewillchange,2023-12-01 15:48:01 Feminism,188g8jp,"I am Korean woman. I wanted to be a game maker, but now we may not be able to participate in game making.","First of all, I can't English. However, I want to convey this issue to a foreign country, so I write a post using a translator. I'm sorry if there's anything that sounds hard to understand or rude. &#x200B; @@ -12580,9 +12580,9 @@ It's terrible that we can get all kinds of contempt and be exposed to crime just &#x200B; -Thank you for reading my gibberish long post.",,52,cottoncandy_910,1701448699.0 -Feminism,188j4fm,Dress codes control,"Sorry if this rant doesn’t make sense I’m just a bit upset over entrenched gender roles rn. At work I dress fairly vibrantly. I wear a lot of patterns and dresses and unusual pieces. I’ve never had a problem before today. In fact, most people love what I wear and love to see what I’m wearing that day. But today my boss pulled me over. Today I’m wearing a white shirt with a lowish back and a patterned blue skirt. Because the back is just the tiniest bit low I decided to forgo a bra and today at noon my boss pulled me over and said I was making people feel u comfortable. I’m not mad she said anything and I put on a sweater immediately. I’m not mad I can’t go braless at work what I’m mad at is the fact that I can’t even live my best life without someone commenting on how the female body make them uncomfortable. Someone looked at me and felt like they had to tell others that my body was inappropriate. Someone was so fixated on my breasts that they just couldn’t feel comfortable simply because I’m not wearing a bra? Like it felt like a moment of someone trying to control my body and my gender expression. Like let me live!",,23,Lanky-Pool-5331,1701456046.0 -Feminism,1881yvv,Testosterone aggression is worse in the world than women’s emotionality but praised instead of demonized,"“Women are emotional. Women are crazy.” Testosterone literally breeds aggressive behavior. Rapes, wars from aggression,",,287,Other-Stop7953,1701401879.0 +Thank you for reading my gibberish long post.",,52,cottoncandy_910,2023-12-01 16:38:19 +Feminism,188j4fm,Dress codes control,"Sorry if this rant doesn’t make sense I’m just a bit upset over entrenched gender roles rn. At work I dress fairly vibrantly. I wear a lot of patterns and dresses and unusual pieces. I’ve never had a problem before today. In fact, most people love what I wear and love to see what I’m wearing that day. But today my boss pulled me over. Today I’m wearing a white shirt with a lowish back and a patterned blue skirt. Because the back is just the tiniest bit low I decided to forgo a bra and today at noon my boss pulled me over and said I was making people feel u comfortable. I’m not mad she said anything and I put on a sweater immediately. I’m not mad I can’t go braless at work what I’m mad at is the fact that I can’t even live my best life without someone commenting on how the female body make them uncomfortable. Someone looked at me and felt like they had to tell others that my body was inappropriate. Someone was so fixated on my breasts that they just couldn’t feel comfortable simply because I’m not wearing a bra? Like it felt like a moment of someone trying to control my body and my gender expression. Like let me live!",,23,Lanky-Pool-5331,2023-12-01 18:40:46 +Feminism,1881yvv,Testosterone aggression is worse in the world than women’s emotionality but praised instead of demonized,"“Women are emotional. Women are crazy.” Testosterone literally breeds aggressive behavior. Rapes, wars from aggression,",,287,Other-Stop7953,2023-12-01 03:37:59 Feminism,188mefw,Resources to deal with constant backlash towards feminism in STEM communities?,"Hey folks! I love your enthusiasm; love your posts. It's a refuge from the constant misogyny... @@ -12595,34 +12595,34 @@ So I've got my own people, great women for sure, but they don't work with me and Would love to hear from women who work in STEM-dominated fied and try to include diversity despite the backlash and hostility! -Hugs on you, sisters!!",,11,PhilipTheFair,1701464659.0 -Feminism,187xws6,(rant) im sick of bimbo liberal feminism,"as a young teenage girl it's genuinely so fucking draining and discouraging to see other teenage girls and ADULT WOMEN encouraging women to sit at home or an office and be materialistic and constantly lewd themselves and call it feminism. i'm not a prude and i don't think modesty is the only way but im sick of saying i don't want young women to be exposed to sex work and told that's a feminist empowering job and being told i'm a bad person for it. i have a lot of respect for women who can work in that industry because i know how hard it is and that's one thing but advertising that as something cute and quirky annoys me so bad. it's okay if you want to sit at home and be a very materialistic stereotypically feminine woman because women deserve to live the life they choose and do what makes them happy, i just don't like that that's the new feminist thing on social media when it's really just regressing back into negative perceptions of women. i don't know if this made sense because im kinda just being mad but i hope people understand my point. i respect every feminist but women aren't dumb objects of male desire who's purpose in life is to be pretty and kind all of the time.",,482,playtoyswithme,1701390410.0 -Feminism,1881bgk,"Most online hate targets women, says EU report",,https://www.swissinfo.ch/eng/reuters/most-online-hate-targets-women--says-eu-report/49016566,282,katespadesaturday,1701399938.0 +Hugs on you, sisters!!",,11,PhilipTheFair,2023-12-01 21:04:19 +Feminism,187xws6,(rant) im sick of bimbo liberal feminism,"as a young teenage girl it's genuinely so fucking draining and discouraging to see other teenage girls and ADULT WOMEN encouraging women to sit at home or an office and be materialistic and constantly lewd themselves and call it feminism. i'm not a prude and i don't think modesty is the only way but im sick of saying i don't want young women to be exposed to sex work and told that's a feminist empowering job and being told i'm a bad person for it. i have a lot of respect for women who can work in that industry because i know how hard it is and that's one thing but advertising that as something cute and quirky annoys me so bad. it's okay if you want to sit at home and be a very materialistic stereotypically feminine woman because women deserve to live the life they choose and do what makes them happy, i just don't like that that's the new feminist thing on social media when it's really just regressing back into negative perceptions of women. i don't know if this made sense because im kinda just being mad but i hope people understand my point. i respect every feminist but women aren't dumb objects of male desire who's purpose in life is to be pretty and kind all of the time.",,482,playtoyswithme,2023-12-01 00:26:50 +Feminism,1881bgk,"Most online hate targets women, says EU report",,https://www.swissinfo.ch/eng/reuters/most-online-hate-targets-women--says-eu-report/49016566,282,katespadesaturday,2023-12-01 03:05:38 Feminism,188iwlp,"A ""Family Values"" top Florida Republican is accused of rape by a woman involved in a consensual 3-way with his Moms for Liberty book-banning wife","How dare these people try to tell us what our kids can read and what we can do with our own bodies! -[https://www.thedailybeast.com/florida-gop-chair-christian-ziegler-accused-of-rape](https://www.thedailybeast.com/florida-gop-chair-christian-ziegler-accused-of-rape)",,16,Entire-Ad2551,1701455489.0 -Feminism,188jk79,"Mary Cleave, 'trailblazing' astronaut and scientist, dies at 76",,https://www.astronomy.com/space-exploration/mary-cleave-trailblazing-astronaut-dies-at-76/,13,lgramlich13,1701457194.0 +[https://www.thedailybeast.com/florida-gop-chair-christian-ziegler-accused-of-rape](https://www.thedailybeast.com/florida-gop-chair-christian-ziegler-accused-of-rape)",,16,Entire-Ad2551,2023-12-01 18:31:29 +Feminism,188jk79,"Mary Cleave, 'trailblazing' astronaut and scientist, dies at 76",,https://www.astronomy.com/space-exploration/mary-cleave-trailblazing-astronaut-dies-at-76/,13,lgramlich13,2023-12-01 18:59:54 Feminism,187qmfe,"""Women are less visual than men are"" A pervasive patriarchal myth?","Women have been taught and by patriarchy to be less visual. Think about all the fairy tales. Princess and the frog. Beauty and the beast. I have a nagging feeling we've just been indoctrinated to not care about male looks so that we'll settle for less. I'm so sick of it and hurt. -Any more examples of this? I think Billie Eilish is completely right.",,886,poppy738163,1701372026.0 -Feminism,188fp74,"The life lessons that I discovered from being a whore. On sexual pleasure, boundaries and empathy.",,https://shado-mag.com/opinion/the-life-lessons-that-i-discovered-from-being-a-whore/,16,shado_mag,1701447294.0 -Feminism,1881fx2,Discrimination at Apple,,/r/womenintech/comments/187s5r8/discrimination_at_apple/,11,rhyme_pj,1701400312.0 -Feminism,187hzmi,"Why do men comment on facebook pics with ""hot"" or ""sexy"" even though the last 68 men to do so received no attention whatsoever?","It can't even be considered a control thing, because there is no ability to control - I don't think?",,79,cheetocat2021,1701349253.0 -Feminism,1879rsj,Am I crazy for not wanting to be a man’s personal stress ball?,"Like literally though. Why do heterosexual men think that unconditional access to their partner’s body is just the default in a relationship? Like does no one think it shouldn’t be the norm for men to just reach and grab at you when you’re just going about your day? It’s like pathological for them they don’t even think about it they just need that immediate sexual gratification. And they never ask first, they never asked you if it’s ok with you they just start doing it one day and act shocked when you’re like “hey can you not grab my ass when I’m in the middle of dishes?” Really makes you think about how much our bodies are sexual objects to them compared to theirs to us. I can’t fathom compulsively grabbing at him the way he does me, when there is absolutely no indication of a sexual or romantic vibe. It’s just out of the blue. My partner has gotten better about it, he doesn’t do it anymore but he still asks to when I’m just tryin to exist and when I say no he pouts. It’s just now occurring to me how insane it is that this is so accepted in cis het relationships like I see jokes about it online all the time. Idk I just want to take my shirt and bra off in my apartment and not be oogled the way that men can.",,350,Evie376,1701318568.0 +Any more examples of this? I think Billie Eilish is completely right.",,886,poppy738163,2023-11-30 19:20:26 +Feminism,188fp74,"The life lessons that I discovered from being a whore. On sexual pleasure, boundaries and empathy.",,https://shado-mag.com/opinion/the-life-lessons-that-i-discovered-from-being-a-whore/,16,shado_mag,2023-12-01 16:14:54 +Feminism,1881fx2,Discrimination at Apple,,/r/womenintech/comments/187s5r8/discrimination_at_apple/,11,rhyme_pj,2023-12-01 03:11:52 +Feminism,187hzmi,"Why do men comment on facebook pics with ""hot"" or ""sexy"" even though the last 68 men to do so received no attention whatsoever?","It can't even be considered a control thing, because there is no ability to control - I don't think?",,79,cheetocat2021,2023-11-30 13:00:53 +Feminism,1879rsj,Am I crazy for not wanting to be a man’s personal stress ball?,"Like literally though. Why do heterosexual men think that unconditional access to their partner’s body is just the default in a relationship? Like does no one think it shouldn’t be the norm for men to just reach and grab at you when you’re just going about your day? It’s like pathological for them they don’t even think about it they just need that immediate sexual gratification. And they never ask first, they never asked you if it’s ok with you they just start doing it one day and act shocked when you’re like “hey can you not grab my ass when I’m in the middle of dishes?” Really makes you think about how much our bodies are sexual objects to them compared to theirs to us. I can’t fathom compulsively grabbing at him the way he does me, when there is absolutely no indication of a sexual or romantic vibe. It’s just out of the blue. My partner has gotten better about it, he doesn’t do it anymore but he still asks to when I’m just tryin to exist and when I say no he pouts. It’s just now occurring to me how insane it is that this is so accepted in cis het relationships like I see jokes about it online all the time. Idk I just want to take my shirt and bra off in my apartment and not be oogled the way that men can.",,350,Evie376,2023-11-30 04:29:28 Feminism,187far5,"If there where no men on earth, how would your beauty-Routine change?","Thinking about the inner-voyeur concept! If you would dress etc just for yourself and not the attention/treatment by our society, how would that turn out? For example, I don't think I would wear make up anymore, but I would dress way more feminine (dresses, blouses etc). And I wouldn't even think about getting a boob job. Don't really know what to do about this now, but I'm sure I should think about this more. -Curious about your thoughts!",,71,HelgaPataki1990,1701339305.0 -Feminism,187bv33,"British hospitals where worker had sex with 100 corpses failed to protect those it cared for, report finds",,https://www.nbcnews.com/news/world/british-hospitals-worker-sex-100-corpses-failed-protect-cared-report-f-rcna127061,120,RiseEnvironments,1701325471.0 +Curious about your thoughts!",,71,HelgaPataki1990,2023-11-30 10:15:05 +Feminism,187bv33,"British hospitals where worker had sex with 100 corpses failed to protect those it cared for, report finds",,https://www.nbcnews.com/news/world/british-hospitals-worker-sex-100-corpses-failed-protect-cared-report-f-rcna127061,120,RiseEnvironments,2023-11-30 06:24:31 Feminism,187a8n7,How can I live happily and safely in this reality where sex offenders are everywhere?,"*I would appreciate comments from who have understanding of sexual abuse. -I have been sexually abused many times since I was a child. Every time I go out, I am harassed and intimidated. I see and hear about sexual abuse every day. There is a lot of sexually abusive content everywhere. There is a lot of sexually abusive language and behavior in everyday people's communication. Every time I discuss about them, I get denied, blamed, and sexually abusive messages. No matter how hard I try to avoid them all, I can’t escape and protect myself from them. I am filled with disgust, fear, and despair every day. How can I live happily and safely in this reality?",,96,[deleted],1701320051.0 -Feminism,187n5zr,Jezebel to Be Resurrected by Paste Magazine,,https://www.nytimes.com/2023/11/29/business/media/jezebel-resurrected-paste-magazine.html,9,asanefeed,1701363172.0 -Feminism,187ln28,"A chat with Constance Thompson, senior vice president of DEI at ACORE",,/r/women/comments/187lmmo/a_chat_with_constance_thompson_senior_vice/,10,Natural_Dark_2387,1701359320.0 -Feminism,187p8rb,"❤️‍🔥 on Instagram: ""(11/30/2023) - thoughts on girlhood""","Hey im starting this project on my social media and i could use some badass women (& people of any/all genders) to help spread my writing, only if you like it or it resonates, but i figure if i could ask anyone for help with this i could ask yall ❤️‍🔥🦋🧠",https://www.instagram.com/p/C0R3TnqP4Pq/?igshid=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ==,4,makenana,1701368474.0 +I have been sexually abused many times since I was a child. Every time I go out, I am harassed and intimidated. I see and hear about sexual abuse every day. There is a lot of sexually abusive content everywhere. There is a lot of sexually abusive language and behavior in everyday people's communication. Every time I discuss about them, I get denied, blamed, and sexually abusive messages. No matter how hard I try to avoid them all, I can’t escape and protect myself from them. I am filled with disgust, fear, and despair every day. How can I live happily and safely in this reality?",,96,[deleted],2023-11-30 04:54:11 +Feminism,187n5zr,Jezebel to Be Resurrected by Paste Magazine,,https://www.nytimes.com/2023/11/29/business/media/jezebel-resurrected-paste-magazine.html,9,asanefeed,2023-11-30 16:52:52 +Feminism,187ln28,"A chat with Constance Thompson, senior vice president of DEI at ACORE",,/r/women/comments/187lmmo/a_chat_with_constance_thompson_senior_vice/,10,Natural_Dark_2387,2023-11-30 15:48:40 +Feminism,187p8rb,"❤️‍🔥 on Instagram: ""(11/30/2023) - thoughts on girlhood""","Hey im starting this project on my social media and i could use some badass women (& people of any/all genders) to help spread my writing, only if you like it or it resonates, but i figure if i could ask anyone for help with this i could ask yall ❤️‍🔥🦋🧠",https://www.instagram.com/p/C0R3TnqP4Pq/?igshid=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ==,4,makenana,2023-11-30 18:21:14 Feminism,187jc27,Quit making us feel bad for getting angry due to our bodies natural functions and societal lessons.,"Us girls need to stick together and stand up for what's right! @@ -12663,21 +12663,21 @@ I worked at multiple daycares and there are so many teachers screaming at the ki If we could all just be the black sheep generation who stops yelling! Hah. In a perfect world I guess. -This is NOT me defending mental abuse, or abuse. This is me saying to not let anyone make you feel bad for getting angry or yelling when you feel hurt.",,9,Sad-Fish6669,1701353218.0 +This is NOT me defending mental abuse, or abuse. This is me saying to not let anyone make you feel bad for getting angry or yelling when you feel hurt.",,9,Sad-Fish6669,2023-11-30 14:06:58 Feminism,186tz6o,Health complications arising out of pregnancy and child birth needs to be more talked about,"Till a few years ago, I was in the dark about more than half of pregnancy related health issues that women face. And I was in my mid 20's then and a graduate with high paying job. Throughout my life, the society, religion and media fed this fairy tale about pregnancy, that all of the *Happily ever after* scenarios for myself or otherwise involved having a bunch of kids. After learning just how many ways a pregnancy can go wrong or just general health issues that comes with it, I believe talking more about the dark realities of pregnancy and spreading information about unpleasant facts associated with pregnancy and labour can encourage many women make a well informed educated decision about conceiving. Many people don't fit to be parents. Many women don't know why they've kids. They end up passing generational trauma to kids or resent the kids for their choices. And if we go further,Child care and difficulties of new mothers also need to be discussed more imo. -What do you think? Does anyone have unpleasant experiences of pregnancy and delivery?",,292,Luffytheeternalking,1701276559.0 -Feminism,187h630,Have you ever been mansplained to at work?,Have you ever been mansplained to at work?,,9,nickywttj,1701346530.0 -Feminism,1876vyv,"""The Broken Rung"" Is Why Women Are Denied Promotions",,https://www.buzzfeed.com/monicatorres2/why-women-dont-get-promoted,33,katespadesaturday,1701310057.0 -Feminism,186zd3k,Child marriage: 'I was sold into marriage for £7 at the age of 12',,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-67549633,68,BurtonDesque,1701290153.0 -Feminism,186zc1h,Feminist site Jezebel to be revived after sale,,https://www.bbc.com/news/business-67568792,44,BurtonDesque,1701290076.0 +What do you think? Does anyone have unpleasant experiences of pregnancy and delivery?",,292,Luffytheeternalking,2023-11-29 16:49:19 +Feminism,187h630,Have you ever been mansplained to at work?,Have you ever been mansplained to at work?,,9,nickywttj,2023-11-30 12:15:30 +Feminism,1876vyv,"""The Broken Rung"" Is Why Women Are Denied Promotions",,https://www.buzzfeed.com/monicatorres2/why-women-dont-get-promoted,33,katespadesaturday,2023-11-30 02:07:37 +Feminism,186zd3k,Child marriage: 'I was sold into marriage for £7 at the age of 12',,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-67549633,68,BurtonDesque,2023-11-29 20:35:53 +Feminism,186zc1h,Feminist site Jezebel to be revived after sale,,https://www.bbc.com/news/business-67568792,44,BurtonDesque,2023-11-29 20:34:36 Feminism,186w1xn,What kind of means do you think you would use to guess whether someone is more likely than not to have done some sort of sexual misconduct?,"Eric Adams got sued for it last week. I basically know nothing about him, just that he is a Democratic mayor NYC, his primary had ranked ballots, he is black, and was a police captain in the 1990s, and he was a state legislator a decade ago. -Given I certainly do not have the evidence, and am not a forensic analyst anyway, what kinds of things can be like philosophical razors? Especially given that false balance and neutrality can be a bad thing at some point when there really is evidence to support some side or another. ",,15,Awesomeuser90,1701281649.0 -Feminism,1866nit,"Allie Phillips was denied a life-saving abortion. She’s now running for office in Tennessee | Allie Phillips is running for office in her district in Clarksville, She spoke about how she’s one of the first women to run for office who has been directly impacted by the overturning of Roe v. Wade",,https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/abortion-ban-allie-phillips-tennessee-b2449014.html,620,Majnum,1701205425.0 -Feminism,186ftas,Girls less likely to be diagnosed with special educational needs – new research,,https://theconversation.com/girls-less-likely-to-be-diagnosed-with-special-educational-needs-new-research-217156,122,lgramlich13,1701228896.0 +Given I certainly do not have the evidence, and am not a forensic analyst anyway, what kinds of things can be like philosophical razors? Especially given that false balance and neutrality can be a bad thing at some point when there really is evidence to support some side or another. ",,15,Awesomeuser90,2023-11-29 18:14:09 +Feminism,1866nit,"Allie Phillips was denied a life-saving abortion. She’s now running for office in Tennessee | Allie Phillips is running for office in her district in Clarksville, She spoke about how she’s one of the first women to run for office who has been directly impacted by the overturning of Roe v. Wade",,https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/abortion-ban-allie-phillips-tennessee-b2449014.html,620,Majnum,2023-11-28 21:03:45 +Feminism,186ftas,Girls less likely to be diagnosed with special educational needs – new research,,https://theconversation.com/girls-less-likely-to-be-diagnosed-with-special-educational-needs-new-research-217156,122,lgramlich13,2023-11-29 03:34:56 Feminism,18609jy,Looking at the “popular” page is unbearable for me,"I usually stick to my feed and occasionally flip to the new and the popular section. Over time, I’ve noticed the popular page becoming more and more sexualized and anti women - * Jokes and comics about women being dumb, hard to get, etc. @@ -12686,7 +12686,7 @@ Feminism,18609jy,Looking at the “popular” page is unbearable for me,"I usual * Women making terrifying posts and asking if they’re “crazy” because their partner forced anal and they didn’t like it -Did anyone else notice this about the popular page? I usually flip back immediately but I don’t remember it being THIS bad.",,515,pushk_a,1701189372.0 +Did anyone else notice this about the popular page? I usually flip back immediately but I don’t remember it being THIS bad.",,515,pushk_a,2023-11-28 16:36:12 Feminism,186crbm,"Purity Culture is R*pe Culture, and the Toxic Incel Problem Comes Directly From It","So I think I am seeing what is going on with the whole toxic manosphere Incel thing. 1.) You have the most unaffordable housing market since the Great Depression with over half of millennials and gen z financially dependent on parents, facing a significant amount of social alienation @@ -12703,22 +12703,22 @@ In my opinion, the Incel phenomenon has to do with this gaslighting where they a This issue happened with my own dad. He enforced celibacy as a condition of living with him when I could not afford anywhere else to go especially while a full time student, and then he is bragging that his 50+ year old buddies are hooking up with women half his age outside of marriage. So you had guys like me (""involuntarily celibate"") not really sure what to do as the requirements to both have living needs met and having any intimacy and affection were to get married up front, when none of the women were willing to do that and it isn't clear how to explore any potential partner when key aspects of identity in sexuality are not allowed to be expressed -https://preview.redd.it/11dgrrp9t63c1.png?width=678&format=png&auto=webp&s=88cc0b72702aedd74f581519af9967cb95b08dd4",,78,Accomplished_Map6524,1701220542.0 +https://preview.redd.it/11dgrrp9t63c1.png?width=678&format=png&auto=webp&s=88cc0b72702aedd74f581519af9967cb95b08dd4",,78,Accomplished_Map6524,2023-11-29 01:15:42 Feminism,186bl2y,Houston area woman fight to hold school accountable for special needs daughter's sexual assault may go to US Supreme Court," -I attended the middle school where this happened!!! It happened before I was there which means that I probably used the stall where this happened. I'm praying that this family gets justice. I'm in high school in this district and now I have even less faith in them protecting my safety if they don't even protect kids with special needs.",https://www.click2houston.com/news/investigates/2023/11/28/houston-area-mothers-fight-to-hold-school-accountable-for-daughters-assault-may-go-to-us-supreme-court/,77,depressedpebbles73,1701217380.0 -Feminism,1864o53,Texas AG’s office argues women should sue doctors — not state — over lack of abortion access,,https://thehill.com/homenews/state-watch/4331412-texas-ags-office-argues-women-should-sue-doctors-not-state-over-lack-of-abortion-access/,127,Ecstatic_Choice_5482,1701200409.0 -Feminism,185xbv4,"This Detroit school for pregnant teens had a 90% graduation rate, and a 100% college acceptance rate; it got shut down because funding cuts",,https://outliermedia.org/catherine-ferguson-academy-detroit-history-pregnant-teens/,285,Black_Reactor,1701181728.0 -Feminism,1863ekw,Lawsuit challenging Texas abortion bans appears before state Supreme Court,,https://abcnews.go.com/US/lawsuit-challenging-texas-abortion-bans-appears-state-supreme/story?id=105154571,38,audiomuse1,1701197289.0 -Feminism,1866q4x,I have a question for people on the sub what made you become a feminist and why and what do you think can be done to help others understand more what it’s about,I’m genuinely curious and want to understand more,,25,[deleted],1701205604.0 -Feminism,185utmg,On the topic of religion,"From what I can understand, the majority of religions are patriarchal/antifeminist. This includes but is not limited to Christianity, Islam, and my own religion, Hinduism. My question is, is there a religion that in its original/base form feminist, or at least anti patriarchy?",,81,Amazing_Jump_2127,1701174255.0 -Feminism,185tr8t,Anthropologists debunk the myth that men did all the hunting in prehistory. So why did we think otherwise? And should feminists care?,,https://onhumans.substack.com/p/did-women-evolve-to-hunt-a-conversation,72,Ma3Ke4Li3,1701170328.0 -Feminism,18604ws,This dev conference organizer seems addicted to making up women,,https://www.theverge.com/2023/11/28/23978254/devternity-jdkon-developer-conference-fake-women-speakers,28,katespadesaturday,1701189054.0 +I attended the middle school where this happened!!! It happened before I was there which means that I probably used the stall where this happened. I'm praying that this family gets justice. I'm in high school in this district and now I have even less faith in them protecting my safety if they don't even protect kids with special needs.",https://www.click2houston.com/news/investigates/2023/11/28/houston-area-mothers-fight-to-hold-school-accountable-for-daughters-assault-may-go-to-us-supreme-court/,77,depressedpebbles73,2023-11-29 00:23:00 +Feminism,1864o53,Texas AG’s office argues women should sue doctors — not state — over lack of abortion access,,https://thehill.com/homenews/state-watch/4331412-texas-ags-office-argues-women-should-sue-doctors-not-state-over-lack-of-abortion-access/,127,Ecstatic_Choice_5482,2023-11-28 19:40:09 +Feminism,185xbv4,"This Detroit school for pregnant teens had a 90% graduation rate, and a 100% college acceptance rate; it got shut down because funding cuts",,https://outliermedia.org/catherine-ferguson-academy-detroit-history-pregnant-teens/,285,Black_Reactor,2023-11-28 14:28:48 +Feminism,1863ekw,Lawsuit challenging Texas abortion bans appears before state Supreme Court,,https://abcnews.go.com/US/lawsuit-challenging-texas-abortion-bans-appears-state-supreme/story?id=105154571,38,audiomuse1,2023-11-28 18:48:09 +Feminism,1866q4x,I have a question for people on the sub what made you become a feminist and why and what do you think can be done to help others understand more what it’s about,I’m genuinely curious and want to understand more,,25,[deleted],2023-11-28 21:06:44 +Feminism,185utmg,On the topic of religion,"From what I can understand, the majority of religions are patriarchal/antifeminist. This includes but is not limited to Christianity, Islam, and my own religion, Hinduism. My question is, is there a religion that in its original/base form feminist, or at least anti patriarchy?",,81,Amazing_Jump_2127,2023-11-28 12:24:15 +Feminism,185tr8t,Anthropologists debunk the myth that men did all the hunting in prehistory. So why did we think otherwise? And should feminists care?,,https://onhumans.substack.com/p/did-women-evolve-to-hunt-a-conversation,72,Ma3Ke4Li3,2023-11-28 11:18:48 +Feminism,18604ws,This dev conference organizer seems addicted to making up women,,https://www.theverge.com/2023/11/28/23978254/devternity-jdkon-developer-conference-fake-women-speakers,28,katespadesaturday,2023-11-28 16:30:54 Feminism,186e5q5,Its time to take a stance on a particular religion which keeps supressing women,"[https://www.reddit.com/r/exmuslim/comments/1869zrm/the\_dawah\_gang\_back\_at\_it\_with\_the\_misogyny\_101/](https://www.reddit.com/r/exmuslim/comments/1869zrm/the_dawah_gang_back_at_it_with_the_misogyny_101/) &#x200B; -Please look at this video, There is a huge issue with islamic teachings. Women are treated as lesser and have to comply to subhuman conditions. Please see the video. We need change.",,4,SeaEmu5903,1701224394.0 +Please look at this video, There is a huge issue with islamic teachings. Women are treated as lesser and have to comply to subhuman conditions. Please see the video. We need change.",,4,SeaEmu5903,2023-11-29 02:19:54 Feminism,185cupd,The story of Adam and Eve is to take the divinity of human creation away from women,"I was on an edible the other day… Thinking about how the story of Adam and Eve is another antidote in the Bible that forces the perspective of Men being superior. Gawd took the rib from Adam to “create” Eve…thus giving men the one thing they cannot accomplish….the birth and creation of life. “Adam was here first, he wanted a companion so one was made from him” this gives Eve subservient vibe while also giving men the complex of being “creator” Spoiler alert, she also ate the fruit of knowledge and “ruined everything” (aka the devil gave them the option to leave the slavery and naivety of this “gawd” and see freedom/life for what it is) and punished forever in order to “make life” by going through the menstrual cycle. This also allows men to push off period issues as being “our own fault” that we somehow “deserved” @@ -12728,10 +12728,10 @@ I think that was one of the last straws to push me to deconstruct It’s just fun to find new realizations on the Bible that people think is 100% true and literal that have obvious hidden agendas and biases -This might be silly, but it sure rocked my socks for some reason lmao",,603,Dismal-Car-3153,1701117131.0 +This might be silly, but it sure rocked my socks for some reason lmao",,603,Dismal-Car-3153,2023-11-27 20:32:11 Feminism,185sauj,"If you were to peg specific times as to when women's rights became normalized in the world, when would that be?","I tend to think of the First World War as the kickoff for when it was able to get enough support to start winning around the world. Women's suffrage was pretty rare before, the western half of America, New Zealand and Australia, Finland, and a few other places mostly in local elections for certain kinds of women, especially those who were widowers or owned enough property. -It took an event that catastrophic, which killed the same proportion of people as if today over 600 million people were killed in less since 2013, to make them really win. The struggle was there long since before and carries on today but it's the seminal moment in my view. ",,29,Awesomeuser90,1701164454.0 +It took an event that catastrophic, which killed the same proportion of people as if today over 600 million people were killed in less since 2013, to make them really win. The struggle was there long since before and carries on today but it's the seminal moment in my view. ",,29,Awesomeuser90,2023-11-28 09:40:54 Feminism,1864vgx,Confusion and Co-Fusing Topics,"From No More Nice Girls p184. ""It's far from a secret that Fortune 500 companies with at least three or more corporate directors who are women --- the point at which workplace culture actually starts to s @@ -12741,13 +12741,13 @@ Paraphrasing earlier ""One woman at the top struggles with change while an actor Without a diverse perspective is it possible to fully meet such complaints? In this case, top down management alone, vs multi-tiered service leadership. If an office utilizes a monthly changing mural for both team building and marketing does this factor effect a democratic relationship in terms of achievement/networking and goodwill? IE balancing an effort towards ancient forest alliance with multi-month campaign limited by its own potential for success, in cycles of advertising focus. Is such an act of intelligence gathering within ones organization (seeing personal values and focus, capacities and initiative of staff, as well as achievement orientation and conflict management) any important facet in creating first initiatives at lower levels? -A more radically integrative question may ask the following. In the next page the author talks of tried and true ideas (such as breastfeeding rooms and child care) as being a good place to take first steps. However, if one may need to impact the basic assumptions of men, with a simple resilient integrity that is its own protest, then what of shared duties? Is it manly to teach a child how to throw a paint ball at the bottom half of a mural, or how to paint by numbers or lines? Where a woman's group may support part of day care and potentially support both wider employee care, as well as team structure and meaning, may it simply be present and available for men? Here, the capacity for inclusion may give better prospects for the man who makes first attempts to teach ball throwing. What radical attempts to integrate and evolve are most worthy of regular experimentation whether in the office, in a rehabilitative prison, or in an inclusive club house setting?",,3,Next_Spell2019,1701200914.0 -Feminism,185l2v5,Non-Smoking Women Are Getting Lung Cancer - But Are Going Unscreened,,https://www.forbes.com/sites/evaepker/2023/11/27/non-smoking-women-are-getting-lung-cancerbut-are-going-unscreened/?sh=c68934858dc9,68,katespadesaturday,1701138169.0 -Feminism,1850o9z,Living as a Korean woman is a disaster,"If you mention feminism in Korea, everyone blames you. This is almost like a witch hunt. Korean men firmly believe that they are socially underprivileged and are discriminated against more than women.",,857,Fine_Razzmatazz_693,1701083849.0 -Feminism,185g10n,Michigan Gov. Whitmer Signs Bills Aiming to Codify Abortion Into State Law,,https://themessenger.com/politics/michigan-gov-whitmer-signs-bills-aiming-to-codify-abortion-into-state-law,77,audiomuse1,1701124696.0 -Feminism,1859n29,Why do some women vote against their interests?,,https://www.reclaimingthenewsletter.com/p/why-do-some-women-vote-against-their,128,Careless_One6439,1701109202.0 -Feminism,1857sa3,Blurred Lines,"I’m always really surprised when I’m in a supermarket, or at the dentist or doctor’s office and the song Blurred Lines comes on. Its disturbing SA/ r*pe culture message seems inappropriate to play in public or at a medical office, no? Just came on while I am at the dentist. Wondering if anyone else feels like this, or if I’m overreacting?",,128,Otherwise-Ad-6625,1701104679.0 -Feminism,185e801,i was catcalled today.,i’d never been cat called before but i’ve always felt sympathy with those who have. I wish this upon no one. It’s absolutely humiliating.,,45,sharkbitesss,1701120390.0 +A more radically integrative question may ask the following. In the next page the author talks of tried and true ideas (such as breastfeeding rooms and child care) as being a good place to take first steps. However, if one may need to impact the basic assumptions of men, with a simple resilient integrity that is its own protest, then what of shared duties? Is it manly to teach a child how to throw a paint ball at the bottom half of a mural, or how to paint by numbers or lines? Where a woman's group may support part of day care and potentially support both wider employee care, as well as team structure and meaning, may it simply be present and available for men? Here, the capacity for inclusion may give better prospects for the man who makes first attempts to teach ball throwing. What radical attempts to integrate and evolve are most worthy of regular experimentation whether in the office, in a rehabilitative prison, or in an inclusive club house setting?",,3,Next_Spell2019,2023-11-28 19:48:34 +Feminism,185l2v5,Non-Smoking Women Are Getting Lung Cancer - But Are Going Unscreened,,https://www.forbes.com/sites/evaepker/2023/11/27/non-smoking-women-are-getting-lung-cancerbut-are-going-unscreened/?sh=c68934858dc9,68,katespadesaturday,2023-11-28 02:22:49 +Feminism,1850o9z,Living as a Korean woman is a disaster,"If you mention feminism in Korea, everyone blames you. This is almost like a witch hunt. Korean men firmly believe that they are socially underprivileged and are discriminated against more than women.",,857,Fine_Razzmatazz_693,2023-11-27 11:17:29 +Feminism,185g10n,Michigan Gov. Whitmer Signs Bills Aiming to Codify Abortion Into State Law,,https://themessenger.com/politics/michigan-gov-whitmer-signs-bills-aiming-to-codify-abortion-into-state-law,77,audiomuse1,2023-11-27 22:38:16 +Feminism,1859n29,Why do some women vote against their interests?,,https://www.reclaimingthenewsletter.com/p/why-do-some-women-vote-against-their,128,Careless_One6439,2023-11-27 18:20:02 +Feminism,1857sa3,Blurred Lines,"I’m always really surprised when I’m in a supermarket, or at the dentist or doctor’s office and the song Blurred Lines comes on. Its disturbing SA/ r*pe culture message seems inappropriate to play in public or at a medical office, no? Just came on while I am at the dentist. Wondering if anyone else feels like this, or if I’m overreacting?",,128,Otherwise-Ad-6625,2023-11-27 17:04:39 +Feminism,185e801,i was catcalled today.,i’d never been cat called before but i’ve always felt sympathy with those who have. I wish this upon no one. It’s absolutely humiliating.,,45,sharkbitesss,2023-11-27 21:26:30 Feminism,185nfxv,what resources have helped you heal wounds surrounding your femininity?,"Hi all - I would love to start a conversation where we can share some of our favorite resources/advice for healing feminine wounds. I’ve recently woken up to just how misogynistic of an environment i’ve grown up in (and as a result was unconsciously internalizing). @@ -12755,7 +12755,7 @@ I’ve recently woken up to just how misogynistic of an environment i’ve grown I began reading the book “F*ck like a goddess” by Alexandra Roxo, as I’d been wanting to heal some wounds around sexuality (to be honest actually, I picked it because of how uncomfortable it made me feel). I knew that the discomfort I felt was going to make me grow. *That being said, I feel the need to note that i’ve come to understand the difference between internal resistance that fuels complacency vs intuitive protection. Anyway, after really getting into it, i’m truly blown away with how this book has cracked me open. I had not realized the amount of wounds that were rooted solely in my femininity. I am hoping to dive deeper into this subject and explore the world of feminism with the help of members from -this group. I imagine this could be a very helpful thread for future members.",,9,directedintention,1701145370.0 +this group. I imagine this could be a very helpful thread for future members.",,9,directedintention,2023-11-28 04:22:50 Feminism,1859bbz,Small comments that sum up beliefs," I am a teen girl who is applying to universities and was talking to someone who has been applying to similar ones to me. @@ -12763,15 +12763,15 @@ We have been communicating through snapchat for a month or so, which includes au Am I crazy or was this blanketed misogyny? I understand he meant me looking like a doll as a compliment, but regardless of their looks, women should be respected and not taken at surface value. I just feel like women are boiled-down to their looks, and I think this example proves that. -I also understand this guy had no mal intent and I am not going to say anything, but just thought I would share.",,61,annasamuels,1701108408.0 -Feminism,185mwvk,"What are some of Mary Wollstonecraft's ""A Vindication of the Rights of Woman"" that can be criticized based on radical feminist ideas?","I recently read this book. I was very impressed with the book, but it was obviously written a long time ago, so I disagree with some of it. Also, I'm curious to hear what others think. What criticisms can be made of the book, especially from a radical feminist perspective?",,9,Eyasluna939,1701143640.0 -Feminism,185871k,Why Organized Religion is the Most Misogynist Institution Man has Ever Created,,https://youtu.be/ImjzOv8Ghg8?si=4_-W8SQaCXrKkFN-,41,lgramlich13,1701105693.0 +I also understand this guy had no mal intent and I am not going to say anything, but just thought I would share.",,61,annasamuels,2023-11-27 18:06:48 +Feminism,185mwvk,"What are some of Mary Wollstonecraft's ""A Vindication of the Rights of Woman"" that can be criticized based on radical feminist ideas?","I recently read this book. I was very impressed with the book, but it was obviously written a long time ago, so I disagree with some of it. Also, I'm curious to hear what others think. What criticisms can be made of the book, especially from a radical feminist perspective?",,9,Eyasluna939,2023-11-28 03:54:00 +Feminism,185871k,Why Organized Religion is the Most Misogynist Institution Man has Ever Created,,https://youtu.be/ImjzOv8Ghg8?si=4_-W8SQaCXrKkFN-,41,lgramlich13,2023-11-27 17:21:33 Feminism,184yy32,Unexpected lack of misogyny in college,"Hello, I’m 19F and currently a college student. I was surprised when I realised how less misogynistic and more progressive guys at college are compared to guys in my high school. The majority of guys here are left-leaning, pro-choice, supportive of LGBTQ+ etc., as opposed to high school boys. This is a good thing, but I also find it very odd. I don’t know what happens to guys within these years and they suddenly become so much more progressive than they were. Is it maturity? Education? Experience? (I didn’t move to a different country or something, so this is not like a cultural thing). The difference is so big that I wonder if guys are just hiding their beliefs better or something and they’re not actually as progressive as they seem. The fact that I also read many posts and comments online that say how the majority of college guys are misogynistic and homophobic doesn’t help and confuses me even more, because that doesn’t sound like the guys around me. -Have any of you had a similar experience? Do you have any explanation for it? Answers from men would be very helpful here, as they are exposed to the unfiltered conversations between men and are aware of their real beliefs and not just the ones they show in the presence of women.",,158,No-Adagio-3157,1701076792.0 -Feminism,184t13d,Selma Blair Says Her MS Was Misdiagnosed for Years as Menstrual Issues,,https://www.vulture.com/2023/11/selma-blair-multiple-sclerosis-medical-gaslighting.html,438,katespadesaturday,1701054657.0 +Have any of you had a similar experience? Do you have any explanation for it? Answers from men would be very helpful here, as they are exposed to the unfiltered conversations between men and are aware of their real beliefs and not just the ones they show in the presence of women.",,158,No-Adagio-3157,2023-11-27 09:19:52 +Feminism,184t13d,Selma Blair Says Her MS Was Misdiagnosed for Years as Menstrual Issues,,https://www.vulture.com/2023/11/selma-blair-multiple-sclerosis-medical-gaslighting.html,438,katespadesaturday,2023-11-27 03:10:57 Feminism,185900u,Examples of Misogyny,"Hi there! I'm Eli, I'm a 24 years old filmstudent from Belgium :) @@ -12786,11 +12786,11 @@ Do any of you have some 'good' videos for this? I'd be eternally greatful and gi Thanks so much! -Eli",,28,Virtual-Block7511,1701107650.0 -Feminism,184x319,Thoughts on this?,,https://i.redd.it/dwy6ui90bu2c1.png,186,BecuzMDsaid,1701068853.0 +Eli",,28,Virtual-Block7511,2023-11-27 17:54:10 +Feminism,184x319,Thoughts on this?,,https://i.redd.it/dwy6ui90bu2c1.png,186,BecuzMDsaid,2023-11-27 07:07:33 Feminism,185l48x,Possible Game Changer for all People who Menstruate (tampon vending machines!),"I've been a longtime advocate of ""Free the Tampons,"" and hate to support a solution that creates a barrier for women seeking feminine products, but feel that something like this would be a great alternative to the empty, rusty machines in public bathrooms these days. I saw this on Pinterest and haven't been able to stop thinking about it...Thoughts? -https://preview.redd.it/bhyayb4ezz2c1.jpg?width=870&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=29d645673fb4a9a4fdf2efbf76def5aef15c6feb",,5,Apprehensive-Point50,1701138276.0 +https://preview.redd.it/bhyayb4ezz2c1.jpg?width=870&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=29d645673fb4a9a4fdf2efbf76def5aef15c6feb",,5,Apprehensive-Point50,2023-11-28 02:24:36 Feminism,184h21j,The way men talk about women makes me completely disinterested in dating.," “That phase where you start hating your girlfriend” @@ -12810,19 +12810,19 @@ I want someone who shows affection and does nice things, not because he expects Is that too much to ask??? I say this to my friends who date and they’re all like, “fat fuckin chance,” “good luck with that.” -It’s just sad and frustrating",,1065,NoMommy-,1701022968.0 +It’s just sad and frustrating",,1065,NoMommy-,2023-11-26 18:22:48 Feminism,184wglb,Freeing myself from the male gaze and validation,"As a woman its pretty much beaten into us that our value stems from whether or not men find us attractive. Even as a lesbian, i find myself wondering if men i pass on the street or see at the gym think im pretty, and being so ashamed if i leave the house looking a little messy. -I want to just exist as a person without seeing myself as a rateable object for every loser i walk past. Any tips on how to escape that headspace, and how to stop sacrificing my own happiness and comfort to save the egos of men around me?",,105,bambibruh,1701066410.0 +I want to just exist as a person without seeing myself as a rateable object for every loser i walk past. Any tips on how to escape that headspace, and how to stop sacrificing my own happiness and comfort to save the egos of men around me?",,105,bambibruh,2023-11-27 06:26:50 Feminism,185dk2x,My dad,"I love my dad. I really do. He's an honestly amazing man who just wants to make the world a better place. However, I don't know how to talk to him about feminism. It feels like he's pretty defensive about not all men... which I get, but I feel kind of sad knowing he'll never fully understand what it's like.... my mom's not great either, she calls herself a feminist but is very passive and doesn't really have any strong feelings on the matter, and when she does it's usually some white liberal feminist thing. -Is there any way I can help my parents understand why this issue really matters to me?",,7,Sugarcookiebella,1701118868.0 +Is there any way I can help my parents understand why this issue really matters to me?",,7,Sugarcookiebella,2023-11-27 21:01:08 Feminism,184t0b4,Men's reaction to safety concerns,"It annoys me so many men (obviously not all) are oblivious or downright hostile about women taking safety precautions. We're painted as alarmist and discriminatory for being cautious, yet we know we have to be, because the second something goes wrong the woman is always asked why she was in the situation and how she could have managed risk better. This came to the surface recently for me because an online friend of a few months (never met in person) wanted me to go for a ride in their car. I explained standard policy is to never get into a car with someone unless I know them very well, you don't know if they are a safe driver or person. They are pissed and haven't talked to me in days. I think they're taking it far too personally. -Probably time for me to block and delete.",,112,snaphappyadventurer,1701054599.0 +Probably time for me to block and delete.",,112,snaphappyadventurer,2023-11-27 03:09:59 Feminism,184xwfk,Am I being overly sensitive?,"I am a 27 y/o female working in a very male dominated field( 93% men 7% women) Situation: @@ -12830,15 +12830,15 @@ Situation: Being the only woman, it feels weird for me to go... and even though i technically got an invite it feels like it's a guys night out sort of thing. -Idk I feel excluded based off of the activity itself and can't seem to formulate an explanation into why it feels...icky",,36,rocketwoman23,1701072247.0 -Feminism,184wl2v,How do I gather the courage to call out relatives when they say something racist/sexist/etc,"Basically the title. Tonight my dad’s side of the family gathered to celebrate my grandma’s birthday. My dad is a republican, watches FOX News constantly, is a bit of a man-baby (weaponized incompetence, has to be asked to do the things he does know how to do, both parents work but mom still does the majority of housework). Anyways, he said all black men look the same, and them brought up a Dave Chapelle (yuck) joke about it and thought it was funny. Obviously, I know what he said was racist, and I wanted to say something, but I didn’t. I just felt so uncomfortable, and I missed my opportunity. He’s one of those people who say that he forgets everything, so you have to talk about it in the moment. He does this all the time and I hate it, but it’s so hard to speak up. It’s probably because when I do speak up, he completely dismisses it. He says the r slur sometimes, and every time I say something, he sort of waves it off, so I haven’t been speaking up as much. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.",,39,Lollysakitty,1701066911.0 +Idk I feel excluded based off of the activity itself and can't seem to formulate an explanation into why it feels...icky",,36,rocketwoman23,2023-11-27 08:04:07 +Feminism,184wl2v,How do I gather the courage to call out relatives when they say something racist/sexist/etc,"Basically the title. Tonight my dad’s side of the family gathered to celebrate my grandma’s birthday. My dad is a republican, watches FOX News constantly, is a bit of a man-baby (weaponized incompetence, has to be asked to do the things he does know how to do, both parents work but mom still does the majority of housework). Anyways, he said all black men look the same, and them brought up a Dave Chapelle (yuck) joke about it and thought it was funny. Obviously, I know what he said was racist, and I wanted to say something, but I didn’t. I just felt so uncomfortable, and I missed my opportunity. He’s one of those people who say that he forgets everything, so you have to talk about it in the moment. He does this all the time and I hate it, but it’s so hard to speak up. It’s probably because when I do speak up, he completely dismisses it. He says the r slur sometimes, and every time I say something, he sort of waves it off, so I haven’t been speaking up as much. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.",,39,Lollysakitty,2023-11-27 06:35:11 Feminism,184vvvq,Why does the movie Uptown Girls have such bad reviews?,"Brittany Murphy’s performance is phenomenal, and the chemistry she has with Fanning is amazing. The movie touches on topics that I have never seen other movies touch on. Like the parentification of children that are neglected. I get that it is considered a chick flick, but I just don’t understand why this film has a 13% score on rotten tomatoes. And 60% audience score. -Anyone feel the same way as me? And anyone know why this movie gets so much hate?",,25,[deleted],1701064283.0 -Feminism,184hlh0,"Her Ex-Husband Wrote a Hit Book About Abstinence. Now, She’s Telling Her Side of the Story.",,https://slate.com/human-interest/2023/09/joshua-shannon-harris-kissed-dating-goodbye.html,125,eddytony96,1701024391.0 -Feminism,184tf9o,Best biographies of women/feminists?,"I want to read about women who were either really good at something, or just survived life in a different time, or wouldn’t give up on equality. But I just want to read more about different walks of life in the past. Any recs for informative or semi-novelistically written nonfiction? (That’s my favorite style).",,10,Powerful-Platform-41,1701055820.0 +Anyone feel the same way as me? And anyone know why this movie gets so much hate?",,25,[deleted],2023-11-27 05:51:23 +Feminism,184hlh0,"Her Ex-Husband Wrote a Hit Book About Abstinence. Now, She’s Telling Her Side of the Story.",,https://slate.com/human-interest/2023/09/joshua-shannon-harris-kissed-dating-goodbye.html,125,eddytony96,2023-11-26 18:46:31 +Feminism,184tf9o,Best biographies of women/feminists?,"I want to read about women who were either really good at something, or just survived life in a different time, or wouldn’t give up on equality. But I just want to read more about different walks of life in the past. Any recs for informative or semi-novelistically written nonfiction? (That’s my favorite style).",,10,Powerful-Platform-41,2023-11-27 03:30:20 Feminism,1844t04,The centring of men never takes a break.,"I was at conference for my work. 98% of our profession is preformed by women. The speaker was also a woman talking about motherhood and the barriers that creates for women in the workforce. @@ -12848,16 +12848,16 @@ At one point the room gave applause to the men purely for attending the conferen I wanted to scream. I could not believe the insanity of it all. -Imagine if the carpenters union called up the female carpenters every meeting and applauded them for doing their job. Not for doing it well or making advancements in the carpentry industry. Nope applause just for existing.",,532,not-the-nicest-,1700981280.0 -Feminism,18498cc,Italy rallies to condemn violence against women draw huge crowds,,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-67530529,86,BurtonDesque,1701000115.0 -Feminism,184batx,Post childbirth tummy,Coming to terms with stretchmarks and a soft and jiggly tummy post childbirth! Society has told me that that's not what a beautiful/sexy belly looks like. Society can sod off!,,41,PirateMilkyway,1701007166.0 +Imagine if the carpenters union called up the female carpenters every meeting and applauded them for doing their job. Not for doing it well or making advancements in the carpentry industry. Nope applause just for existing.",,532,not-the-nicest-,2023-11-26 06:48:00 +Feminism,18498cc,Italy rallies to condemn violence against women draw huge crowds,,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-67530529,86,BurtonDesque,2023-11-26 12:01:55 +Feminism,184batx,Post childbirth tummy,Coming to terms with stretchmarks and a soft and jiggly tummy post childbirth! Society has told me that that's not what a beautiful/sexy belly looks like. Society can sod off!,,41,PirateMilkyway,2023-11-26 13:59:26 Feminism,184b27x,Shapewear,"Because I'm a middle-aged woman I get inundated with advertisements for shapewear (thanks again to Kim Kardashian for making something else dangerous and hurtful to women a trend while she profits and women spend hard earned money on her bullshit). In today's ad, they went through the history of shapewear and how it's gone back thousands of years and how painful it used to be for women to wear corsets only to advertise to me how I should buy their product because it will shape me but not be as painful as the previous products. I should be as uncomfortable as possible and possibly damage my internal organs to appeal to the male gaze and apparently it is disgusting and shameful to have any kind of ""unsmoothness"" -Fuck that.",,35,Educational-Start375,1701006400.0 +Fuck that.",,35,Educational-Start375,2023-11-26 13:46:40 Feminism,183wfsw,Nice conversation on the day aganist violence on women,"Before writing a paragraph, I'm not promoting misandry, I'm just explaining what is it and why it's not the same as misoginy. I'm not even sure if I can post it here but I wanted to post this somewhere since I'm still so angry and I think this is be a sub where I may have people supporting me. -TW for basically SA and gen0cides.",https://www.reddit.com/gallery/183wfsw,260,saan718,1700954218.0 +TW for basically SA and gen0cides.",https://www.reddit.com/gallery/183wfsw,260,saan718,2023-11-25 23:16:58 Feminism,184a0l4,i wrote a book on sexual violence,"you can give me feedback by texting on any social media , i may not be quick to reply but i will try to reply or listen you for sure, i did not get any publisher to publish my book but its in public domain and will always be free @@ -12879,26 +12879,26 @@ my twitter;- [https://x.com/Veganabhinav](https://x.com/Veganabhinav) i am very sorry if any of my words hurt you , please give me feedback if any such thing you find , i will listen and try to understand for sure -thank you",,15,idonotknowhoami,1701002956.0 -Feminism,183swca,How much misogynistic bullshit did you have to stomach at Thanksgiving with your conservative family?,I narrowly escaped comments about promiscuous women getting their 3 trimester abortions in Ohio.,,223,SleepPrincess,1700944607.0 +thank you",,15,idonotknowhoami,2023-11-26 12:49:16 +Feminism,183swca,How much misogynistic bullshit did you have to stomach at Thanksgiving with your conservative family?,I narrowly escaped comments about promiscuous women getting their 3 trimester abortions in Ohio.,,223,SleepPrincess,2023-11-25 20:36:47 Feminism,183twjv,To be a woman,"Being objectified has made me convinced that I am never gonna be seen as anything other than a sex object. Had my firts breakdown after a comment a boy (acquaintance) made about my body. Being 'bigger at the back' led to him telling me to show his friend my ""furniture"", he pointed the camera at me while he was on a video call. I was about to get up (not to show anyone anything but to do something else) then I realised what he meant and I sat down. He laughed at the thought of me getting up thinking I was about to do as he says. Ofcourse it was a joke to him. This on top of all the other numerous times I've been treated like an object just made it all too much for me. I had a breakdown moments after when I went to my room and then realised that I hate being a woman. In my early twenties and all I've ever felt like in relation to men is like an object. Girls (friends of mine) also comment on my body, the curves and how they would like to be 'built' like that. It doesn't feel nice, you don't know how much I suffer because of it. I hate this, I hate that men/boys my age, younger and older has made me feel like I'll never catch anyones attention because they like my personality. Only because I have something that they ""can"" ""look at"". Looked at like I'm a piece of meat as if I'll never have anything else to offer. Cat called every other day. -I have male friends and they are just like the boy mentioned here. Not towards me, because we are friends. But, they laugh at other people making comments of women's bodies. They themselves objectify women. I hate men. I hate how they've objectified me. I hate that I feel worthless because of this. I am struggling to love my body. I hate the society we live in. I'm just tired, completely, utterly and emotionally tired.",,51,justforreads_,1700947365.0 +I have male friends and they are just like the boy mentioned here. Not towards me, because we are friends. But, they laugh at other people making comments of women's bodies. They themselves objectify women. I hate men. I hate how they've objectified me. I hate that I feel worthless because of this. I am struggling to love my body. I hate the society we live in. I'm just tired, completely, utterly and emotionally tired.",,51,justforreads_,2023-11-25 21:22:45 Feminism,183zj0y,What is the opposite of sensitivity? What does it mean to be sensitised?,"Women are often criticised for being 'too sensitive.' I have been thinking about this term and what it means. When I have called out men for saying misogynistic things in passing they tell me that I am 'overreacting.' I am sure this is not a unique experience. We consequently correspond the word 'sensitive' with the antonym 'strong' or 'dominant.' I think that this is a patriarchal practice. If being able to recognise subtle misogyny is a sign of sensitivity, then I am happy to be sensitive. But we have been lied to. Because the opposite of one who is sensitised is *not* one who is dominant; rather, the opposite of one who is sensitised is one who is desensitised. The sensitised woman can recognise misogyny while the desensitised man - who conforms to the patriarchal thought - cannot recognise the offence of his actions. He cannot recognise the offence of his actions because he is too busy replicating the actions of his misogynistic predecessors; the same ancestors who, like him, receive no punishment. Which is not to absolve the man of his actions but to say that the patriarchy exposes him to misogyny so that he perpetuates the same behaviour, constantly subtly subjugating women, while never recognising his wrongdoing. -I think this is where a lot of my anger with men streams from. It is not that they say offensive things in passing; rather, it is that when you announce their offence, they are so desensitised to the misogyny that they refuse to accept your critique. He refuses to admit to his wrongdoings and never attempts to engage in self-reformation. He will only defend himself and even go so far as to project the blame onto the woman. Thus, women not only have to lose in facing oppression, but they lose in having to be blamed by the oppressors - men - who caused the oppression in the first place. How is she ever supposed to be set free if men cannot even recognise their wrongdoings? ",,20,vicariaperpetuum,1700963335.0 +I think this is where a lot of my anger with men streams from. It is not that they say offensive things in passing; rather, it is that when you announce their offence, they are so desensitised to the misogyny that they refuse to accept your critique. He refuses to admit to his wrongdoings and never attempts to engage in self-reformation. He will only defend himself and even go so far as to project the blame onto the woman. Thus, women not only have to lose in facing oppression, but they lose in having to be blamed by the oppressors - men - who caused the oppression in the first place. How is she ever supposed to be set free if men cannot even recognise their wrongdoings? ",,20,vicariaperpetuum,2023-11-26 01:48:55 Feminism,183w61b,Am I crazy?,"Sooo, i was at a football game with my husband and my brother. We won and went for after drinks in a local bar. I had to use the restroom and passed a bunch of Guys (that know my husband), my brother was walking behind me and my husband was outside. While minding my own business and walking past, one of these Guys ‘bumped into me’ with his ass and when I turned to see what was going on, hé and his friends were laughing. First, I tought I imagined it but because my brother confronted these Guys, and told me it was not OK, I starter to question my judgement. After I got back from the restroom hè came and apologized. I kind of shrugged and Said ‘ yeah ok’ to which hé replied: ‘ what, I said I was sorry, why are you being like this?’. I said ‘look, it’s fine ok, you want me to kneel for you?’ (Which is a common thing in Dutch). Hè gave me a foul look like I’m crazy and I went outside and ended my evening and went home. What does everyone think? Did I overreact? -(Excuse any errors, not a native speaker)",,31,InjuryAppropriate398,1700953471.0 -Feminism,183t6rn,How Chilean performance collective Las Tesis is growing a global feminist movement.,,https://shado-mag.com/act/how-chilean-performance-collective-las-tesis-is-growing-a-global-feminist-movement/,17,shado_mag,1700945427.0 -Feminism,183flix,The toilets at my school are not female-friendly," So I'm currently at a boarding school for my A-levels. I moved to this school in September and amidst the many issues in the school, the most infuriating has to be the shape of the toilet bowls. The toilet 'hole' is basically out of reach if you don't have a penis, and there's more bowl shape and no slant to the toilet if you get what I mean. I have to position and reposition myself when I'm peeing to try and get the least amount of splashback, and the little splashback I get leaves me feeling gross and angry. I'm so sick of manufacturers for general commodities not giving two shits about the other 50% of the population that are going to use their products. It's a miracle I haven't gotten a UTI yet, unlike my English teacher who fell seriously sick the other day and was in a lot of pain from a UTI. I drink a lot of water bc it gets rather hot here, and also to flush out any potential infections, so I pee frequently, and each time it's a miserable and undignified experience. Has anyone else had such an experience? ",,145,Natural-Newspaper-10,1700902427.0 -Feminism,1834tr3,Men ruined boobs,"Slightly incoherent rant moment: anyone else just get frustrated sometimes that we cannot view boobs objectively in this society? I don’t feel pissed about it 100% of the time but it bothers me that even me, A BOOB HAVER, can hardly look at other women’s boobs whether it be in pictures, films, art or in real life and not sexualize them. I feel like the male ABSOLUTELY RELENTLESS fixation and obsession with boobs has infected all of at least western society to not be able to view boobs in a neutral way, like the way we view men’s ‘boobs’. This spans from most women feeling like it’s ‘indecent’ to not wear a bra because of societal pressures, to it basically being universally unacceptable if not outlawed for women to walk around with bare chests the way men do in the summer (yes I know about European beaches, I am European, but you won’t see women bare chested in any other environment) I wish there was a way and I’m sure there is to just reimagine boobs. Yes they are sexy sometimes but they are also important parts of our bodies that should be allowed to JUST BE. I wish I could draino the internalized misogyny out of my brain 😭",,669,DependentInterview24,1700867114.0 +(Excuse any errors, not a native speaker)",,31,InjuryAppropriate398,2023-11-25 23:04:31 +Feminism,183t6rn,How Chilean performance collective Las Tesis is growing a global feminist movement.,,https://shado-mag.com/act/how-chilean-performance-collective-las-tesis-is-growing-a-global-feminist-movement/,17,shado_mag,2023-11-25 20:50:27 +Feminism,183flix,The toilets at my school are not female-friendly," So I'm currently at a boarding school for my A-levels. I moved to this school in September and amidst the many issues in the school, the most infuriating has to be the shape of the toilet bowls. The toilet 'hole' is basically out of reach if you don't have a penis, and there's more bowl shape and no slant to the toilet if you get what I mean. I have to position and reposition myself when I'm peeing to try and get the least amount of splashback, and the little splashback I get leaves me feeling gross and angry. I'm so sick of manufacturers for general commodities not giving two shits about the other 50% of the population that are going to use their products. It's a miracle I haven't gotten a UTI yet, unlike my English teacher who fell seriously sick the other day and was in a lot of pain from a UTI. I drink a lot of water bc it gets rather hot here, and also to flush out any potential infections, so I pee frequently, and each time it's a miserable and undignified experience. Has anyone else had such an experience? ",,145,Natural-Newspaper-10,2023-11-25 08:53:47 +Feminism,1834tr3,Men ruined boobs,"Slightly incoherent rant moment: anyone else just get frustrated sometimes that we cannot view boobs objectively in this society? I don’t feel pissed about it 100% of the time but it bothers me that even me, A BOOB HAVER, can hardly look at other women’s boobs whether it be in pictures, films, art or in real life and not sexualize them. I feel like the male ABSOLUTELY RELENTLESS fixation and obsession with boobs has infected all of at least western society to not be able to view boobs in a neutral way, like the way we view men’s ‘boobs’. This spans from most women feeling like it’s ‘indecent’ to not wear a bra because of societal pressures, to it basically being universally unacceptable if not outlawed for women to walk around with bare chests the way men do in the summer (yes I know about European beaches, I am European, but you won’t see women bare chested in any other environment) I wish there was a way and I’m sure there is to just reimagine boobs. Yes they are sexy sometimes but they are also important parts of our bodies that should be allowed to JUST BE. I wish I could draino the internalized misogyny out of my brain 😭",,669,DependentInterview24,2023-11-24 23:05:14 Feminism,183697z,The depiction of strong women in media can still be sexist,"I see it in so many tv shows and movies, where there is a token woman character and they are portrayed as smarter, more mature, and/or wittier than the men. It signals that women only deserve a space if they are impressive to the men or through the lens of the male gaze. I think it's important to depict women as smart and witty, but that should not be the requirement to deserve respect or a voice. Futuruama for example. Fry is so so fucking average. Doesnt give a shit about anything, is incompetent, and really has no impressive qualities. Whereas Leia and Amy are demonstrably more intelligent than the men; with Amy working on her PhD (even though shes also portrayed as dumb at times and is sexualized frequently), and Leia being the captain of the ship. It just sucks to see that women can't just BE in the media without having to pander or perform for men. -&#x200B;",,106,smokeythegirlbear,1700870823.0 +&#x200B;",,106,smokeythegirlbear,2023-11-25 00:07:03 Feminism,1830qnt,“We don’t need feminism anymore in the west”,"Hello everyone. The reason I’m writing here is because I’m frustrated, sad and angry. I (20F) live with grandma, mom, aunt, uncle and my male cousin (he’s one year bigger than me). My mom and I moved to my grandma’s house in 2014 because of my abusive father, we were basically forced to escape because we where risking our life there, my mom was broke at the time we moved here (now things are getting better!) and my uncle, who is a mommy’s boy, super possessive of his own spaces and of his mother, was never happy about the fact we moved there. (In the first month we moved there he accused my mom of stealing, and when they realized the thief was our old housekeeper he NEVER said something to mom) @@ -12924,20 +12924,20 @@ I wish my family could realize how terrible this mentality is, but even when I s I know some of you are going to say that as a 20 years old I can move somewhere else, and I’m working on it! I’m studying danish and planning on moving there but I can’t phantom the idea of leaving my mom in this terrible place, we are collecting money together so we can leave, but the point is not about me wanting to move out. The point is that people love to think that the west is even too feminist and every time I complain, they say that third world women are having it worse. Which I COMPLETELY agree on, but changing the topic won’t change the fact that our society is far away from being equal. I hope my future kids won’t have to endure this and be a victim of this mentality, but I’m scared nothing will change. -Sorry for the rant, I really needed to vent.",,92,Cheetahh03,1700856286.0 -Feminism,182t6oj,Global women’s rights groups silent as Israeli women testify about rapes by Hamas,,https://www.timesofisrael.com/global-womens-rights-groups-silent-as-israeli-women-testify-about-rapes-by-hamas/,154,SockdolagerIdea,1700835763.0 -Feminism,182yyu3,Giulia Cecchettin's killing sparks Italian reckoning over femicide,,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-67514334,61,BurtonDesque,1700851578.0 +Sorry for the rant, I really needed to vent.",,92,Cheetahh03,2023-11-24 20:04:46 +Feminism,182t6oj,Global women’s rights groups silent as Israeli women testify about rapes by Hamas,,https://www.timesofisrael.com/global-womens-rights-groups-silent-as-israeli-women-testify-about-rapes-by-hamas/,154,SockdolagerIdea,2023-11-24 14:22:43 +Feminism,182yyu3,Giulia Cecchettin's killing sparks Italian reckoning over femicide,,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-67514334,61,BurtonDesque,2023-11-24 18:46:18 Feminism,182ob13,Women think that women are difficult to work with.,"This is just a rant. But I am so tired of hearing women complaining about other women. I have heard gazillion times of my female coworkers, friends and etc saying how difficult to work with other women because “ they have principles”, “ they gossip behind ur back”, “ they don’t want to compromise”, “ they stab u in the back”, “ they are manipulative” and etc. I personally never had a problem working with women and it gave a relief time to time. However, today I listened to a brief rant of another coworker why she would prefer to work with the room of men. And she was a young woman which makes it even worse. -Well u might say it is all effect of the patriarchal society but sometimes I ask myself, is it entirely tho? What else affects women’s mindset on women?",,271,Virtual_Leader9639,1700817753.0 -Feminism,183077w,How should a person deal with internalised misogyny?,Is it something that can be dealt with? Or is it something that's indelible and will forever be ingrained in our minds?,,11,evrytng_els_was_takn,1700854842.0 -Feminism,182px8j,BBC Series The Ascent of Woman,"Just started watching this [https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b0693dsh](https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b0693dsh) which is a documentary which looks at how gender inequality began in history. I'm not all the way through yet as it is a hard watch and TW it talks a lot about violence and oppression done to women, but I felt a lot of you here might appreciate it. ",,32,nettie_r,1700824629.0 +Well u might say it is all effect of the patriarchal society but sometimes I ask myself, is it entirely tho? What else affects women’s mindset on women?",,271,Virtual_Leader9639,2023-11-24 09:22:33 +Feminism,183077w,How should a person deal with internalised misogyny?,Is it something that can be dealt with? Or is it something that's indelible and will forever be ingrained in our minds?,,11,evrytng_els_was_takn,2023-11-24 19:40:42 +Feminism,182px8j,BBC Series The Ascent of Woman,"Just started watching this [https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b0693dsh](https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b0693dsh) which is a documentary which looks at how gender inequality began in history. I'm not all the way through yet as it is a hard watch and TW it talks a lot about violence and oppression done to women, but I felt a lot of you here might appreciate it. ",,32,nettie_r,2023-11-24 11:17:09 Feminism,182per1,Capitalism and Feminism,"We always hear that Capitalism is bad for Feminism. I was having internal debates over it and suddenly I had an epiphany that one of the positive side effects of Capitalism is that women like me realizing they don't really like marriage/relationships and kids and would rather earn well to cultivate and realize my dreams. First of all, thanks to it I went on postponing the time by which I thought of getting married. That made me realize that I don't want to marry a momma's boy and sacrifice my career and life for him( I come from a conservative Asian country).It made me realize the bitter truth that I do not have enough money to raise a kid by myself if I happen to be a single mom(which is not far from what's happening with many of my friends) and also that I don't really like having kids. It made me realize that I don't have to be the *woman behind the man*. I resigned myself to be a *good* wife when I was younger. As in one who not only earns but also does domestic labor. But now? Now I believe I prefer laboring in an office and employing my time and brain for a better use(imo) than the fate I resigned myself to. It made me assertive and sure of my goals. I now have clarity and better vision of what I want my future to be like if I ever get married. I chose being financially successful and if it leads me to being single, so be it. Of course if I could have a partner who enriches and adds value to my life, I'm more than willing to get married. But such men are very rare around here. -Do any of you think Capitalism indirectly helped you realize things about yourself?",,19,Luffytheeternalking,1700822518.0 -Feminism,182amtf,"New research combined both physiological and archaeological evidence to argue that not only did prehistoric women engage in the practice of hunting, but their female anatomy and biology would have made them intrinsically better suited for it.",,https://anthrosource.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/aman.13915,154,lgramlich13,1700772748.0 +Do any of you think Capitalism indirectly helped you realize things about yourself?",,19,Luffytheeternalking,2023-11-24 10:41:58 +Feminism,182amtf,"New research combined both physiological and archaeological evidence to argue that not only did prehistoric women engage in the practice of hunting, but their female anatomy and biology would have made them intrinsically better suited for it.",,https://anthrosource.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/aman.13915,154,lgramlich13,2023-11-23 20:52:28 Feminism,1828m85,Invisible Women by Caroline Criado-Perez,"Hey folks, so im a man and just started reading this book. For me, so far it has been very eye opening. So my question to those of you have read this book is, what parts of the book particularly resonated (and why, if youre willing to share)? @@ -12945,25 +12945,25 @@ Im just starting to learn more about the lived reality women are facing and want (Side note: if you have other/similar books youd recommend, that would also be greatly appreciated). -Thanks :)",,86,throwaway_22_33_44,1700766819.0 -Feminism,182394w,My period is the bane of my existence,"I’m fourteen years old - I got my period a few days after my tenth birthday and I’ve absolutely hated it ever since. I already struggle with mental illness and on top of that my period brings EXTREME mood swings and it makes my life and others around me miserable. The pain and cramps are enough to make me start violently sobbing and heaving in the middle of class (speaking from experience because it has happened before). And while my period is USUALLY only about 6 days long, I bleed so so much, and I can only wear pads. I’ve tried cups, discs, tampons, you name it thousands of times but it hurts so bad to put them in and I can’t get them all the way in, it just won’t work. The length of my cycle varies; my period is very irregular. I went to summer camp in June and I started spotting for no reason, then had my period for two weeks after, and didn’t have another period for a couple of months. It just comes and goes when it wants and I’m so tired of it having control over my life and draining me. Any tips or suggestions? I’ll do anything to make it better, I’m desperate.",,178,Ellebelle9002,1700752288.0 +Thanks :)",,86,throwaway_22_33_44,2023-11-23 19:13:39 +Feminism,182394w,My period is the bane of my existence,"I’m fourteen years old - I got my period a few days after my tenth birthday and I’ve absolutely hated it ever since. I already struggle with mental illness and on top of that my period brings EXTREME mood swings and it makes my life and others around me miserable. The pain and cramps are enough to make me start violently sobbing and heaving in the middle of class (speaking from experience because it has happened before). And while my period is USUALLY only about 6 days long, I bleed so so much, and I can only wear pads. I’ve tried cups, discs, tampons, you name it thousands of times but it hurts so bad to put them in and I can’t get them all the way in, it just won’t work. The length of my cycle varies; my period is very irregular. I went to summer camp in June and I started spotting for no reason, then had my period for two weeks after, and didn’t have another period for a couple of months. It just comes and goes when it wants and I’m so tired of it having control over my life and draining me. Any tips or suggestions? I’ll do anything to make it better, I’m desperate.",,178,Ellebelle9002,2023-11-23 15:11:28 Feminism,181y5z8,Hate patriarchal values in Holiday celebrations.,"I hate going to family gatherings during the holidays. The women do all the cooking and then all the cleaning while the men just sit around doing nothing and feeling entitled to the labor. -They literally just sit there and watch us do all the work. I’ve decided it’s a tradition I’m just not interested in carrying on.",,398,Natural-Word-6456,1700734587.0 +They literally just sit there and watch us do all the work. I’ve decided it’s a tradition I’m just not interested in carrying on.",,398,Natural-Word-6456,2023-11-23 10:16:27 Feminism,181zx9g,Gender assumptions in Reddit norms (small rant),"One thing that really bugs me about this website is that, in most subs, it's very much the norm to assume that the OP and anyone they're talking about are male, unless explicitly otherwise stated. Sometimes even if explicitly otherwise stated. Commenters will just say 'he' all the time, as a default. I've even seen someone say 'he' for *a cow*, in the context of her nursing a calf! Well, I finally found an exception. It was [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/facepalm/comments/181rdqy/a_dozen_is_20_im_speechless/) making fun of someone for not knowing that a 'dozen' means 12, and insisting that a 'dozen' is 20 and a 'half dozen' is 12. Wrong, obviously, but with no information at all about the person making this error, most of the commenters are using 'she'. -I know it's petty but I just find it so upsetting!",,199,mhuzzell,1700741710.0 +I know it's petty but I just find it so upsetting!",,199,mhuzzell,2023-11-23 12:15:10 Feminism,181xesf,Why do people associate femininity with passivity?,"I was talking to this one guy and we were talking about masculinity versus femininity as well as the role of gender. Anyway, he said that he thinks femininity is being “passive”. I’m pretty freaking positive it’s not. One of the feminine qualities that is kind of similar but is actually different is receptivity. It’s being able to be influenced and adjust to something else; or in a relationship, being able to adjust one’s energy based on the energy of the person you’re with. In fact, passivity is a male problem. I’ve dated soo many guys who are passive beyond any measure. It’s insane, men take their worst qualities and project it onto women. -I’m not saying there aren’t any passive women. But there is such a huge difference between passivity and receptivity and those morons (aka men) cannot distinguish between the two.",,251,Spirited-Reality-651,1700731458.0 -Feminism,182978s,Vile Islamweb.net Fatwa Website in Qatar,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1825ifa,16,Shell_hurdle7330,1700768520.0 -Feminism,181in9l,Texas anti-abortion group official arrested for allegedly soliciting a child,,https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/texas-anti-abortion-group-official-arrested-allegedly-soliciting-child-rcna45035,343,audiomuse1,1700684428.0 -Feminism,181stnd,Abortion rights activists raise money for three Florida clinics fined by the state,,https://www.orlandoweekly.com/news/abortion-rights-activists-raise-money-for-three-florida-clinics-fined-by-the-state-35297874,64,latentdream,1700713556.0 -Feminism,1821er3,Thankful,,/r/EqualRightsAmendment/comments/18214kc/thankful/,9,imaginenohell,1700746782.0 +I’m not saying there aren’t any passive women. But there is such a huge difference between passivity and receptivity and those morons (aka men) cannot distinguish between the two.",,251,Spirited-Reality-651,2023-11-23 09:24:18 +Feminism,182978s,Vile Islamweb.net Fatwa Website in Qatar,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1825ifa,16,Shell_hurdle7330,2023-11-23 19:42:00 +Feminism,181in9l,Texas anti-abortion group official arrested for allegedly soliciting a child,,https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/texas-anti-abortion-group-official-arrested-allegedly-soliciting-child-rcna45035,343,audiomuse1,2023-11-22 20:20:28 +Feminism,181stnd,Abortion rights activists raise money for three Florida clinics fined by the state,,https://www.orlandoweekly.com/news/abortion-rights-activists-raise-money-for-three-florida-clinics-fined-by-the-state-35297874,64,latentdream,2023-11-23 04:25:56 +Feminism,1821er3,Thankful,,/r/EqualRightsAmendment/comments/18214kc/thankful/,9,imaginenohell,2023-11-23 13:39:42 Feminism,181geax,"""Smile!!"" -- help me explain why that comment bothered me","I am a female drummer and I posted an ig reel of myself playing a difficult transcription. Everyone who commented focused on time signature, rhythm, and sound quality except this guy (he's hired me to play before) who only said ""smile!!"". The comment made me feel gross and invaded on, but I just said ""If I were a guy would you tell me to smile?"". 20 people liked my response but he was still obtuse and said ""Sure! What does smiling have to do with gender"". I said ""What does smiling have to do with drumming?"". ANYWAY in response to that, he texted me (still acting completely umprompted) A PICTURE FROM MY FACEBOOK OF MYSELF SMILING AT THE CAMERA DURING A GIG. This felt even more encroached upon. @@ -12973,7 +12973,7 @@ I want to take this opportunity because he's an older guy who probably just does How can I explain this issue effectively to this gross guy? I know you guys get it -\*\*P.s. girl musicians lets be friends on IG \*\*\*",,160,Odd-Debate2076,1700678586.0 +\*\*P.s. girl musicians lets be friends on IG \*\*\*",,160,Odd-Debate2076,2023-11-22 18:43:06 Feminism,18168z8,Instagram: Frightening Misogyny,"I'm writing this on mobile, so forgive me if the formatting is wrong. Anyway, I saw a video on IG Reels yesterday that deeply disturbed me. Basically it was a guy arguing ""Without men, women wouldn't have rights. If we all collectively agree tomorrow you don't have rights anymore, you won't"". @@ -12984,7 +12984,7 @@ Essentially the disturbing realization I got from this was: raw physical strengt It's hard and terrifying living with that reality, especially with how popular this narrative of hating women is becoming. These videos don't get a small amount of likes - it's in the tens of thousands. Men fully advocating for the mass r*ping of women to ""put them in their place"", and force them to endlessly give birth. -How does one even cope with this reality? Every day I hate and resent that nature has made us so much physically weaker. It feels like we were doomed from the start to perpetually default to men to determine our fate.",,463,DramaticGap1456,1700649508.0 +How does one even cope with this reality? Every day I hate and resent that nature has made us so much physically weaker. It feels like we were doomed from the start to perpetually default to men to determine our fate.",,463,DramaticGap1456,2023-11-22 10:38:28 Feminism,181a6j5,I stopped consuming so much and I became a better feminist,"Somebody has probably already talked about this but I just had this epiphany. I think consumerism and following trends (especially for women) is setting us back because it perpetuates the notion that we are things to be *consumed*. I used to buy things and attach myself to trends to define myself but I never asked myself: who am I ""selling"" this archetype that I'm trying to be to? Why do I have this *need* to be a ""clean girl"" or look like ""Sthlm style"" or ""old money"". Why do I shave my armpit hair, wax my pussy and trying to make myself seem flawless, delicious or like this effortless fairy that doesn't have any body-odor etc... (that doesn't exist). Why? @@ -12993,7 +12993,7 @@ And then I realized that I had made myself into a *product* to be *consumed* by I still love selfcare, but my routine is different. Instead of good smelling products I buy un-scented functional products that actually take care of my body, I have one perfume that I LIKE and the clothes I wear are stuff I feel confident in but is MY personal style independent of trends. -The big investments are now usually things that enrich my hobbys or my creativity which reinforces that I am an actual person with so much more going on than what's on the outside. I am still a very feminin girl but I don't ""preform"" femininity in the same way because ultimately it's setting me back. If I had saved all that money I used on makeup, unnecessary hygiene products, clothes..etc I would have a downpayment for an apartment by now. ",,162,Prudent_Ad9524,1700662755.0 +The big investments are now usually things that enrich my hobbys or my creativity which reinforces that I am an actual person with so much more going on than what's on the outside. I am still a very feminin girl but I don't ""preform"" femininity in the same way because ultimately it's setting me back. If I had saved all that money I used on makeup, unnecessary hygiene products, clothes..etc I would have a downpayment for an apartment by now. ",,162,Prudent_Ad9524,2023-11-22 14:19:15 Feminism,1818jqs,Pet Hate: Men Who Call Us 'Sexist' - Especially When We're Calling Them Out On Misogyny,"Just like the nausea-inducing NotAllMen, this needs to be a 'thing' feminists talk about: Besides the fact that women can't be sexist or misandrist - the power structure is so that men are the oppress*ors* and we are the oppre*ssed,* there are plenty of men who malevolently use the term 'sexist'. The worst you can ever be towards a man is prejudiced... But, in most cases, I don't buy that: e.g. if a woman said ""men can't cook,"" it's not correct or right, but that comes from men enforcing traditional roles and being deliberately useless at domestic chores in order to avoid them. We're the ones who lose out more from women being 'prejudiced' to men! That just doesn't happen without a power structure of men over women. @@ -13008,10 +13008,10 @@ To truly reinforce my point, I'd like to remind men that the following are commo ""Men aren't good at cooking"" - then all the men/boys defend themselves and call that women sexist, even though they expect 3 meals a day cooked by their spouses/girlfriends. -Men love to generalise anyone except themselves. Never forget that. ",,107,Key_Conference_1082,1700657930.0 -Feminism,180wlbu,Opinion | Why Aren’t More People Marrying? Ask Women What Dating Is Like. (Gift Article),,https://www.nytimes.com/2023/11/11/opinion/marriage-women-men-dating.html?unlocked_article_code=1.-Uw.Tbza.fZXEVANOKWsd,511,katespadesaturday,1700614214.0 -Feminism,180sk9i,How can i explain how beautystandards created by the patriarchy can cause hostility among women?,Im arguing with someone and they cant understand that men created besuty standards that are now upheld by both men and women and if a woman doesnt uphold it it can cause hostility by other women. How can i explain this to this person? Or am i wrong in my assessment?,,136,holiestMaria,1700603448.0 -Feminism,180m00j,"UNSW sex offenders report unveils shocking number of men attracted to children, teens",,https://www.smh.com.au/national/the-shocking-number-of-australian-men-sexually-attracted-to-children-and-teens-20231117-p5ekum.html,119,Feminism388,1700586782.0 +Men love to generalise anyone except themselves. Never forget that. ",,107,Key_Conference_1082,2023-11-22 12:58:50 +Feminism,180wlbu,Opinion | Why Aren’t More People Marrying? Ask Women What Dating Is Like. (Gift Article),,https://www.nytimes.com/2023/11/11/opinion/marriage-women-men-dating.html?unlocked_article_code=1.-Uw.Tbza.fZXEVANOKWsd,511,katespadesaturday,2023-11-22 00:50:14 +Feminism,180sk9i,How can i explain how beautystandards created by the patriarchy can cause hostility among women?,Im arguing with someone and they cant understand that men created besuty standards that are now upheld by both men and women and if a woman doesnt uphold it it can cause hostility by other women. How can i explain this to this person? Or am i wrong in my assessment?,,136,holiestMaria,2023-11-21 21:50:48 +Feminism,180m00j,"UNSW sex offenders report unveils shocking number of men attracted to children, teens",,https://www.smh.com.au/national/the-shocking-number-of-australian-men-sexually-attracted-to-children-and-teens-20231117-p5ekum.html,119,Feminism388,2023-11-21 17:13:02 Feminism,180ok53,Young Men and Hostile Sexism,"I am a psychology researcher, and enjoy studying criminal justice and social issue. I’m trying to collect statistical, peer reviewed data for what I'm seeing. It appears as if young men as young as 11/12 are turning to hostile sexism more so than previously. They do it to teachers (apparently that's a huge problem) sisters, mothers, young kids, adults - really anyone Growing up evangelical Baptist, the Red Pill Manosphere is almost exactly what I heard growing [up. It was](https://up.it/) shaming, evil, hateful, violent, would rather women pass away than terminate a pregnancy. They thrive on a culture of women deserving abuse. However a lot of that in the past was benevolent sexism and infantilizing. Now I see growing numbers of men who are leaning towards hostile sexism and causing their own issue of loneliness. @@ -13026,21 +13026,21 @@ I think we are in the midst of a pendulum swing. Remember all the SJW stuff that Only found one study about sexism of Gen Z was specifically in NC. Young voters are becoming increasingly less supportive of women in leadership. What are your thoughts: -Tl:Dr - I'm noticing more hostile sexism among American men, especially Gen Z and young Millennials. Have you noticed this too? Do you think there will ever be studies about this in time?",,66,straightforshady,1700593393.0 +Tl:Dr - I'm noticing more hostile sexism among American men, especially Gen Z and young Millennials. Have you noticed this too? Do you think there will ever be studies about this in time?",,66,straightforshady,2023-11-21 19:03:13 Feminism,180lpn3,cmv: Why do certain men treat women this way?,"Have you ever encountered men that come up to you and then just completely disregard everything you value for? I can't believe it is almost 1 year since this historic moment: when Greta Thunberg did the feminist community a justice by hauling Andrew Tate to jail, and every single ""alpha"" who supported Bottom G shed tears for the first time. I'm not sure if you remember the former boxer who just suddenly decided to antagonize a 19-year old girl. I mean it is absurd to go after a 19 year old, who is a human rights activist and environmentalist who many people highly respect for the work that she has done. And yet, I still praise her because her response is quite hilarious It made me rethink back to this past 2 years. Why did we even think of influencing people like him in the first place? Or even romanticize Patrick Bateman from American Psycho? I'm thinking of that one scene where he's at a bar, and the bartender charges him for a drink, and as she turns away from him, you can hear him calling her a ""bitch"" and wanting to kill her, and much more morbid details. But then when she turns back towards him, they both exchange a somewhat friendly smile. Although in this scenario, his dialogue is coming from his intrusive thoughts, it sort of occurred to me how many men feel this way about women? I imagine that if I were to walk down on a street, how many men look at me thinking this same way? With these men, it often makes the think about why it's so hard just to respect each despite out differences? -{**did not clarify this earlier, but this is not a cmv! Apologies!**}",,38,Opposite-Day4823,1700586063.0 +{**did not clarify this earlier, but this is not a cmv! Apologies!**}",,38,Opposite-Day4823,2023-11-21 17:01:03 Feminism,180pxzr,Marina and the Diamonds,"I wanted to share my love for Marina Diamandis with other feminist women! I've been listening to her so much since I started college, and she has helped me so much with accepting myself and knowing my worth. She is a must for me surviving in this patriarchy as a woman. Her music keeps me strong and confident when men get me down! -Are there any female artists that help you?",,15,SitcomSuperfan,1700596900.0 -Feminism,180nluq,Jezebel Is Dead. Let Me Tell You How Bizarre Working There Was in the Beginning.,,https://slate.com/business/2023/11/jezebel-moe-tkacik-gawker-cancel-culture.html,17,eddytony96,1700590954.0 -Feminism,1800y62,Texas businesses say abortion ban costs state nearly $15 billion a year,,https://www.kxan.com/news/texas-politics/texas-businesses-say-abortion-ban-costs-state-nearly-15-billion-a-year/,537,audiomuse1,1700519086.0 -Feminism,1808apl,heartbreaking,"so messed up that medical supplies have been deliberately withheld, healthcare for women in war zones is so critical",https://i.redd.it/mo9sisjtmm1c1.jpeg,160,preyzlak,1700540106.0 -Feminism,180affc,How evolutionary biology is used as a cover for misogyny,Pseudo intellectuals like Peterson use evolutionary biology as a cover for misogyny and people still buy their advice without critically analysing their claims.,https://youtu.be/MR_k3JbspW8?feature=shared,68,[deleted],1700547640.0 +Are there any female artists that help you?",,15,SitcomSuperfan,2023-11-21 20:01:40 +Feminism,180nluq,Jezebel Is Dead. Let Me Tell You How Bizarre Working There Was in the Beginning.,,https://slate.com/business/2023/11/jezebel-moe-tkacik-gawker-cancel-culture.html,17,eddytony96,2023-11-21 18:22:34 +Feminism,1800y62,Texas businesses say abortion ban costs state nearly $15 billion a year,,https://www.kxan.com/news/texas-politics/texas-businesses-say-abortion-ban-costs-state-nearly-15-billion-a-year/,537,audiomuse1,2023-11-20 22:24:46 +Feminism,1808apl,heartbreaking,"so messed up that medical supplies have been deliberately withheld, healthcare for women in war zones is so critical",https://i.redd.it/mo9sisjtmm1c1.jpeg,160,preyzlak,2023-11-21 04:15:06 +Feminism,180affc,How evolutionary biology is used as a cover for misogyny,Pseudo intellectuals like Peterson use evolutionary biology as a cover for misogyny and people still buy their advice without critically analysing their claims.,https://youtu.be/MR_k3JbspW8?feature=shared,68,[deleted],2023-11-21 06:20:40 Feminism,17zvx8x,I feel so defeated.,"Italy has had another case of femicide- 83 women have been killed simply for being women in 2023. Giulia was 22, she was supposed to graduate on 16/11 and she never got the chance because her ex boyfriend, Filippo, couldn’t stand the fact that she would move away. So he killed her. @@ -13057,23 +13057,23 @@ The way that femicide is being talked about by certain men is disgusting. They h I feel so defeated. I’ve never gotten in so many arguments in my life. Having to defend a victim of femicide from the “not all men” crowd is making me lose faith in humanity. -Per te Giulia, bruceremo tutto.",,287,Initial_Cheesecake_6,1700506686.0 -Feminism,180aacs,"Indians of this sub, any thoughts ?","The data comes from a reputable source - Pew Resarch. I know my country is deeply misogynistic, just wanna have an open discussion in the comments about your experiences and views on this situation.",https://i.redd.it/q6oftz8m7n1c1.jpg,29,[deleted],1700547105.0 -Feminism,17zwl7k,"Philadelphia Moms for Liberty Leader Phillip Fisher Jr. Is Registered Sex Offender: Report | The Philadelphia Inquirer reported that Phillip Fisher Jr. pleaded guilty to the crime in 2012, when he was 25 and living in Chicago",,https://www.thedailybeast.com/philadelphia-moms-for-liberty-leader-phillip-fisher-jr-is-registered-sex-offender-report,176,Majnum,1700508339.0 -Feminism,18060zt,Climate change hits women's health harder. Activists want leaders to address it at COP28,,https://nationalpost.com/pmn/news-pmn/climate-change-hits-womens-health-harder-activists-want-leaders-to-address-it-at-cop28,38,katespadesaturday,1700533039.0 -Feminism,180hr4p,"In what appears to be an RSF member giving a Friday sermon, the speaker states that women captured by RSF in Khartoum will be given the choice to get married, but will not be allowed to return to their families.",https://twitter.com/aminhashim/status/1726572309765558452?t=gWpq8bcb6DAOpezoeer6zg&s=19,,4,Defiant678,1700575544.0 -Feminism,17zk8o2,We always hear ‘1 in 4 girls will be abused’ or ‘1 in 3 women will be raped’ - but we never hear ‘1 in X men are rapists’.,,https://i.redd.it/z8zuaaunvg1c1.png,399,FamiliarTreacle,1700470460.0 -Feminism,17zivjr,"I think Mass Effect gave us a step in the right direction not only by giving an RPG protagonist voiced by jennifer hale, but also allowed lgbt relationships as said character as well. Artist is Aleksandra Skiba",,https://i.redd.it/4hedbnhtdg1c1.jpg,127,ClaireDacloush,1700464452.0 +Per te Giulia, bruceremo tutto.",,287,Initial_Cheesecake_6,2023-11-20 18:58:06 +Feminism,180aacs,"Indians of this sub, any thoughts ?","The data comes from a reputable source - Pew Resarch. I know my country is deeply misogynistic, just wanna have an open discussion in the comments about your experiences and views on this situation.",https://i.redd.it/q6oftz8m7n1c1.jpg,29,[deleted],2023-11-21 06:11:45 +Feminism,17zwl7k,"Philadelphia Moms for Liberty Leader Phillip Fisher Jr. Is Registered Sex Offender: Report | The Philadelphia Inquirer reported that Phillip Fisher Jr. pleaded guilty to the crime in 2012, when he was 25 and living in Chicago",,https://www.thedailybeast.com/philadelphia-moms-for-liberty-leader-phillip-fisher-jr-is-registered-sex-offender-report,176,Majnum,2023-11-20 19:25:39 +Feminism,18060zt,Climate change hits women's health harder. Activists want leaders to address it at COP28,,https://nationalpost.com/pmn/news-pmn/climate-change-hits-womens-health-harder-activists-want-leaders-to-address-it-at-cop28,38,katespadesaturday,2023-11-21 02:17:19 +Feminism,180hr4p,"In what appears to be an RSF member giving a Friday sermon, the speaker states that women captured by RSF in Khartoum will be given the choice to get married, but will not be allowed to return to their families.",https://twitter.com/aminhashim/status/1726572309765558452?t=gWpq8bcb6DAOpezoeer6zg&s=19,,4,Defiant678,2023-11-21 14:05:44 +Feminism,17zk8o2,We always hear ‘1 in 4 girls will be abused’ or ‘1 in 3 women will be raped’ - but we never hear ‘1 in X men are rapists’.,,https://i.redd.it/z8zuaaunvg1c1.png,399,FamiliarTreacle,2023-11-20 08:54:20 +Feminism,17zivjr,"I think Mass Effect gave us a step in the right direction not only by giving an RPG protagonist voiced by jennifer hale, but also allowed lgbt relationships as said character as well. Artist is Aleksandra Skiba",,https://i.redd.it/4hedbnhtdg1c1.jpg,127,ClaireDacloush,2023-11-20 07:14:12 Feminism,17zxtba,Research on Causes?,"I would think that success, prominence, and education would be protective against doctors engaging in sexual assault. I know there is research into what causes people to become mass shooters, but is there research i to why people become serial sexual assaulters? -https://www.nytimes.com/2023/11/20/opinion/abuse-doctors-patients-metoo.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare",,10,aLauraElaine,1700511405.0 +https://www.nytimes.com/2023/11/20/opinion/abuse-doctors-patients-metoo.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare",,10,aLauraElaine,2023-11-20 20:16:45 Feminism,17zxty2,Are there notable people that were known for spreading how Rey (from Star Wars) is a Mary Sue?,"So far my research has stumbled across Max Landis, who is was screenwriter of 2012's *Chronicle*, posted a series of tweets tearing down Rey as ""the worst fucking *Star Wars* main character ever."" This is for research I'm doing regarding the terms history, and it's impact in pop culture, a large part relates heavily with Rey, and if anyone could provide any further info on Landis' history with the term, Rey, female Star Wars characters, and also if there were any other notable people that used the term before him in relation to Rey. -Thank You",,5,Classy-Cheesecake429,1700511448.0 +Thank You",,5,Classy-Cheesecake429,2023-11-20 20:17:28 Feminism,17zhtk0,I have a hard time with this…,"I feel like this needs to be tagged NSFW since it’s about topics of sexual assault. Everyday I go on tiktok and I’ll see slideshows of these horrid comments left by people Comments like “Game is game” or “whose going to stop me” or even worse ones that I don’t want to say, even when they’re reported and obviously go against tiktok guidelines, they receive no violation or action taken (or at least very rarely they do) @@ -13082,17 +13082,17 @@ And from what I’ve seen people who talk about these issues are more likely to Honestly I should probably just delete the app, or stop caring about the stupid comments. I doubt I could even go to the tiktok subreddit to address these issues without being called too sensitive. (I probably am tbh) -Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this. I’d just like a more educated point of view on this instead of being called sensitive for hating rape jokes.",,69,Marvu_Talin,1700460131.0 -Feminism,17zn0hr,Vent,"The already prevalent misogyny becoming even more widespread with social media, all of the grifting, lying, falsifying evidence about womens issues, redpills, spoiled men who cannot use empathy, i just want to hate all of them yet i can't. It is just so widespread and i feel so powerless about it. I want to be as hateful as them but i can't find it in myself. I haven't done anything to make them hate me yet they still do, they want to hate me for no reason. I want to make them feel what i feel but i don't know how. Do they just want to hate me, with no real reason? Does hating me feel good to them? Does it make them feel powerful? When a young woman (or school-age girl) gets denied education, gets married off to an old man, (which is very prevalent in my country) does that make them feel accomplished? When they go on and on about feeeeeemales does it feel good to them? Why would someone hate someone else they don't even know? What did women as a whole do to deserve this? Oppressing and then acting like women are the oppressors... how do they have 0 backbone? Am i thinking too much?",,21,shiza_a_a,1700481778.0 -Feminism,17z73s0,"Rosalynn Carter, former first lady and tireless humanitarian who advocated for mental health issues, dies at 96 | Carter devoted herself to several social causes in the course of her public life, including programs that supported health care resources, human rights, social justice | Rest In Power",,https://www.nbcnews.com/news/obituaries/rosalynn-carter-former-first-lady-dies-rcna62862,190,Majnum,1700428356.0 -Feminism,17zkpqk,The Rachel Zegler hate is pure misogyny,"I have been saying this since this uncalled for hate started, but since she’s now in the new hunger games movie and I’m seeing people refuse to watch it because she is the star is enraging. What did Rachel do that makes her so unlikeable?? Y’all find absolutely anything to hate on a woman. “Idk she’s just so stuck up” “she’s so annoying” “idk what it is about her but I just cant stand her” just admit you want a woman to fit your unrealistic standards. People expect all women to fit this annoying role of the grateful soft spoken angel who is classy and doesn’t talk that much but speaks just enough and says all the right things. Is this poor woman not allowed to have a personality?? SHE WAS SCARED OF SNOW WHITE SO WHATTT. YOU WANTED HER TO LIE FOR WHATTTTT. So you would like her more? She’s supposed to hide her non harmful opinions to make you guys like her more?? Then what else? She accepted a role because she needed a job? SHES BEING HONEST. WHEN DID SHE SAY SHE WASNT GRATEFUL. ROBERT PATTINSON HATED TWILIGHT AND YALL EAT IT UP. JACOB ELORDI HATES THE KISSING BOOTH AND YALL EAT IT UP. LEAVE RACHEL ZEGLER ALONE. LEAVE WOMEN ALONE. Not to mention I have looked into her, she’s insanely talented, like genuinely she can SING sing and she can fucking act. Y’all better not fuck shit up for her because you hate women. Y’all did this to Millie Bobby brown when she was like 12 because she “talked too much”.",,17,annonbrows,1700472497.0 -Feminism,17z0iua,A Disturbing Reality Has Been Lurking Behind #MeToo Stories. It’s Time to Tell the Whole Truth.,,https://slate.com/human-interest/2023/11/me-too-movement-revicitimization-sexual-assualt-stories-women.html,355,eddytony96,1700410388.0 +Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this. I’d just like a more educated point of view on this instead of being called sensitive for hating rape jokes.",,69,Marvu_Talin,2023-11-20 06:02:11 +Feminism,17zn0hr,Vent,"The already prevalent misogyny becoming even more widespread with social media, all of the grifting, lying, falsifying evidence about womens issues, redpills, spoiled men who cannot use empathy, i just want to hate all of them yet i can't. It is just so widespread and i feel so powerless about it. I want to be as hateful as them but i can't find it in myself. I haven't done anything to make them hate me yet they still do, they want to hate me for no reason. I want to make them feel what i feel but i don't know how. Do they just want to hate me, with no real reason? Does hating me feel good to them? Does it make them feel powerful? When a young woman (or school-age girl) gets denied education, gets married off to an old man, (which is very prevalent in my country) does that make them feel accomplished? When they go on and on about feeeeeemales does it feel good to them? Why would someone hate someone else they don't even know? What did women as a whole do to deserve this? Oppressing and then acting like women are the oppressors... how do they have 0 backbone? Am i thinking too much?",,21,shiza_a_a,2023-11-20 12:02:58 +Feminism,17z73s0,"Rosalynn Carter, former first lady and tireless humanitarian who advocated for mental health issues, dies at 96 | Carter devoted herself to several social causes in the course of her public life, including programs that supported health care resources, human rights, social justice | Rest In Power",,https://www.nbcnews.com/news/obituaries/rosalynn-carter-former-first-lady-dies-rcna62862,190,Majnum,2023-11-19 21:12:36 +Feminism,17zkpqk,The Rachel Zegler hate is pure misogyny,"I have been saying this since this uncalled for hate started, but since she’s now in the new hunger games movie and I’m seeing people refuse to watch it because she is the star is enraging. What did Rachel do that makes her so unlikeable?? Y’all find absolutely anything to hate on a woman. “Idk she’s just so stuck up” “she’s so annoying” “idk what it is about her but I just cant stand her” just admit you want a woman to fit your unrealistic standards. People expect all women to fit this annoying role of the grateful soft spoken angel who is classy and doesn’t talk that much but speaks just enough and says all the right things. Is this poor woman not allowed to have a personality?? SHE WAS SCARED OF SNOW WHITE SO WHATTT. YOU WANTED HER TO LIE FOR WHATTTTT. So you would like her more? She’s supposed to hide her non harmful opinions to make you guys like her more?? Then what else? She accepted a role because she needed a job? SHES BEING HONEST. WHEN DID SHE SAY SHE WASNT GRATEFUL. ROBERT PATTINSON HATED TWILIGHT AND YALL EAT IT UP. JACOB ELORDI HATES THE KISSING BOOTH AND YALL EAT IT UP. LEAVE RACHEL ZEGLER ALONE. LEAVE WOMEN ALONE. Not to mention I have looked into her, she’s insanely talented, like genuinely she can SING sing and she can fucking act. Y’all better not fuck shit up for her because you hate women. Y’all did this to Millie Bobby brown when she was like 12 because she “talked too much”.",,17,annonbrows,2023-11-20 09:28:17 +Feminism,17z0iua,A Disturbing Reality Has Been Lurking Behind #MeToo Stories. It’s Time to Tell the Whole Truth.,,https://slate.com/human-interest/2023/11/me-too-movement-revicitimization-sexual-assualt-stories-women.html,355,eddytony96,2023-11-19 16:13:08 Feminism,17z5glc,It’s a bit ridiculous that snap chat (and other media tbh) sensor the word vagina and other terms related to women’s health,"Surely I’m not the only one who’s bothered by this. Snap chat has a new feature where you can load a transcript for voice notes. It sensors “curse words”. However ~ V a g i n a ~ is not a curse word. In fact, there’s not a single thing about that word that is remotely inappropriate. No medical term is inappropriate. I wish I could figure out how to email them. Personally I think we should have the option of getting rid of censoring words all together or choosing which words are censored. You literally have to say the word out loud to record it in a voice note. It makes zero sense that it would censor you only in transcript when you can still type the word regularly in normal snap chat messages and have to say the word out loud to even send the message to begin with. -A scientific, medical, anatomically correct term is not offensive. If you are offended by that then it’s your personal problem. A woman’s body and women’s health is not something that should be considered shameful. ",,125,_Hyzenthlay_,1700423964.0 +A scientific, medical, anatomically correct term is not offensive. If you are offended by that then it’s your personal problem. A woman’s body and women’s health is not something that should be considered shameful. ",,125,_Hyzenthlay_,2023-11-19 19:59:24 Feminism,17ywhlt,"Leaving reddit subs about things we love (or generally activities/ industries/communities linked to things we love) because of the hostile environment men create in them towards women. (I explain in the text of my post, but also sharing pictures of an incident in a specific sub to illustrate. AITA?)","I hope this is an appropriate post and an appropriate place to post it. Sorry if not but i’m sad and needed a place to share/discuss, hopefully this is it! After a very frustrating rating conversation about American Pie, of all things, in the r/reddit sub, and after having felt this way about this sub for months, I have just decided to leave it and not return, in spite of the fact movies are my passion and I love discussing them so much, because the misogyny shown there constantly is just too much and is affecting my mental health. @@ -13101,7 +13101,7 @@ I actually worked in the film industry after getting my degree in film studies, In the pictures i’m sharing is part of the exchanges i had on r/movies about that stupid movie, including me just giving up. This is also a bit me asking you all if I am in the wrong here? I feel like my points and approach were reasonable, in spite of actually feeling quite upset about it. -This feels like shit. Has anybody here struggled in r/movies too? Or other sort of very general subs to the point where they decided to leave? I sometimes feel this a bit in /atheism too, but way less.",https://www.reddit.com/gallery/17ywhlt,391,Electronic_Ad4560,1700398074.0 +This feels like shit. Has anybody here struggled in r/movies too? Or other sort of very general subs to the point where they decided to leave? I sometimes feel this a bit in /atheism too, but way less.",https://www.reddit.com/gallery/17ywhlt,391,Electronic_Ad4560,2023-11-19 12:47:54 Feminism,17zo7mc,Unveiling Gender and Race Dialogue Disparities in The Lord of the Rings,"I've been diving into some data analysis recently and decided to take a closer look at 'The Lord of the Rings' movies. My focus? The distribution of dialogues across different genders and races. The results were quite intriguing, to say the least. @@ -13130,14 +13130,14 @@ I'm keen to hear your thoughts on this. How do you think these disparities refle Let's discuss! -For those interested in diving deeper into the data and exploring the visualizations, you can find all the detailed charts and graphs [here](https://shimoku.io/d65eb08e-e8d1-4cd5-b511-57716c8d1354/character-race-and-gender?shared=true&token=f0543d38-6e9e-4e10-8ab5-8360ffe4cdda).",,5,Euphoric-Alt-Man,1700485928.0 +For those interested in diving deeper into the data and exploring the visualizations, you can find all the detailed charts and graphs [here](https://shimoku.io/d65eb08e-e8d1-4cd5-b511-57716c8d1354/character-race-and-gender?shared=true&token=f0543d38-6e9e-4e10-8ab5-8360ffe4cdda).",,5,Euphoric-Alt-Man,2023-11-20 13:12:08 Feminism,17zkt5e,What can I read to know more about how the patriarchy affects historical education?," Like the title suggests, I’m trying to find who or what I can read in order to know more about how patriarchal systems have influenced the history we learn in school. Tried searching, but I am struggling to find comprehensive books/journal articles about it. -TYIA!",,3,InvestmentQueasy7857,1700472863.0 +TYIA!",,3,InvestmentQueasy7857,2023-11-20 09:34:23 Feminism,17yv7pu,My heart feels heavy right now. Even social workers center men and cannot see the bias in our system.,"My heart feels heavy after reading a thread of social workers who are centering men and any voice that speaks to the problems is downvoted, sneered at and overall just attacked. -I just feel so heavy from this over the last couple of days because as a woman, we just get punished for trying to make boundaries and yet men are always respected. In a field focused on equity, inclusion and social Justice yet to watch what happened just feels so freaking harmful.",,203,cannotberushed-,1700393372.0 +I just feel so heavy from this over the last couple of days because as a woman, we just get punished for trying to make boundaries and yet men are always respected. In a field focused on equity, inclusion and social Justice yet to watch what happened just feels so freaking harmful.",,203,cannotberushed-,2023-11-19 11:29:32 Feminism,17z2ll7,Feminism and Women's Complications: a guide for men unaware," Well, first, I will explain what feminism is. Feminism is NOT a group of women who think they are better than men. It is a group of primarily women that fight for equality, but mainly fighting for women more because of how there has been sexist culture in the past - and currently. Women are facing more issues currently in society than men, and if a big group doesn't address it, nothing changes. Society needs feminism. I understand men aren't women, so obviously, they can't know all of their feelings and problems, which is why I want to explain to you. @@ -13208,10 +13208,10 @@ W: Me too. - -Hope this helps.",,65,RepresentativeSet541,1700416174.0 +Hope this helps.",,65,RepresentativeSet541,2023-11-19 17:49:34 Feminism,17z3zf6,How to Respond to Catcalling,"I am a teenage girl who was catcalled a few weeks back and still don't know what I should have done in that situation. I was walking to the corner store near my house when these 2 older teenage boys on bikes rode past me saying something about my appearance in an objectifying way. I still feel lost about this and was wondering if anyone had any help on this? Should I just walk away or stand up for myself. -edit: a day later and these responses are actually really helpful, i feel like next time a situation like this happens I know things I can do",,43,Comfortable-Dot-05,1700419967.0 +edit: a day later and these responses are actually really helpful, i feel like next time a situation like this happens I know things I can do",,43,Comfortable-Dot-05,2023-11-19 18:52:47 Feminism,17z1ndz,Feminine Rage Playlist,"I made this playlist because I’m a blue collar girlie who works with all men, so I needed some empowering shit in my ear drums at work, but I wanted to share it with yall! I hope you love it as much as I do. https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7x1sbE9a7z7GioZOpRjNkD?si=2WN42cqDSdqmTOVw2CLgrw&pi=u-n7bjc_wpS6Ge @@ -13220,17 +13220,17 @@ TW some of the songs do mention or imply SA, please listen with caution 🖤 If anyone wants to know the history behind the cover art, it is a painting of Timocleia of Thebes, a woman who tricked her rapist by telling him there was money hidden in a well. She then threw him over the garden wall into the well and threw large stones down after him, killing him. -(If you have any suggestions please let me know! I won’t be adding every song because I’m trying to keep a certain genre/vibe, but I’d love to listen to them all!)",,46,Adhd-adult,1700413529.0 +(If you have any suggestions please let me know! I won’t be adding every song because I’m trying to keep a certain genre/vibe, but I’d love to listen to them all!)",,46,Adhd-adult,2023-11-19 17:05:29 Feminism,17za60b,What’s a fair way to compensate for the time and energy of food planning and shopping in a partnership?,"My wife and I have an agreement where she cooks all our meals, and I clean. We split groceries down the middle. All feels fair there. But she also plans all the meals and does the shopping. We’re trying to come up with ideas to make that equal, too, but I cannot do the planning or shopping in a timely way based on our schedules. What are some ideas that might help to make this a more fair situation? -Sorry if this doesn’t seem right for this sub, but I honestly think it’s probably one of the best places to ask and get some equitable answers. Thanks for any help.",,5,redhandrail,1700436216.0 +Sorry if this doesn’t seem right for this sub, but I honestly think it’s probably one of the best places to ask and get some equitable answers. Thanks for any help.",,5,redhandrail,2023-11-19 23:23:36 Feminism,17yr3u1,Educating someone on not shaving?,"If I tell someone I don’t shave my legs anymore and he responds that he looks down at my legs and sees a man, or a masculine person, what can I say? I said that women in their natural state have hairy legs, that you are viewing me in my natural state as masculine. -Then that led to us talking about social standards a little bit and he acknowledged it’s a social standard applied only to women but still wants to follow it? I said ‘I’m less insecure and I don’t want to shave my legs every week for the rest of my life’, but then he still doesn’t want to try to come over that mentality put on him from society, he wants to continue following it. (Not really versed in feminist stuff sorry if I used weird/incorrect terms) (And yes this is my partner)",,111,GenesisGenesect,1700376388.0 +Then that led to us talking about social standards a little bit and he acknowledged it’s a social standard applied only to women but still wants to follow it? I said ‘I’m less insecure and I don’t want to shave my legs every week for the rest of my life’, but then he still doesn’t want to try to come over that mentality put on him from society, he wants to continue following it. (Not really versed in feminist stuff sorry if I used weird/incorrect terms) (And yes this is my partner)",,111,GenesisGenesect,2023-11-19 06:46:28 Feminism,17yekry,Why is it that you can't say the slightest thing about male misbehavior without a shit ton of pushback?,"UPDATE: Someone had my back on my FB post! The one that got so much pushback. Made my day! @@ -13241,14 +13241,14 @@ is it that you can't say the slightest thing about male misbehavior without a sh Also- The men in the group are saying I misused the forum by posting off topic. (This is a group related to traveling.) Also, I IMed 3 women in the group, asking wtf and are those men really in our geographic area, and 2 haven't responded. They've responded to all my other IMs that were about actual traveling. The 3rd said she understands my issue, has had it happen many times, and just to ignore them. I don't see how the post was off topic, because I was directly engaged in a travel activity (vehicle repair) and the dude used that as an entry point. I blocked those guys and won't be rereading the thread. What a bunch of drama because a handful of boys are completely entitled! -TLDR: looking for commiseration about men freaking out when you call out shitty male misbehavior.",,509,No_Celery9390,1700337538.0 +TLDR: looking for commiseration about men freaking out when you call out shitty male misbehavior.",,509,No_Celery9390,2023-11-18 19:58:58 Feminism,17yxnp1,"Thalidomide - The Story You Don't Know (Part 1) Podcast - The drug thalidomide was one of the greatest medical catastrophes in history causing around 100K disabiities & miscarriages. Journalist Jennifer Vanderbes discusses her 6 year research, which has uncovered scores of new potential victims.","Vanderbes's new painstaking research has uncovered warnings that went unheeded, test results that were misrepresented; and potential victims damaged by the drug, who have never been recognised before by the medical community. The tragedy is that had early safety signals been acted on or investigated, thousands of families and babies could have been spared unbelievable heartbreak. You can listen to the [What Your GP Doesn't Tell You](https://www.whatyourgpdoesnttellyou.com/) podcast at: [Apple](https://podcasts.apple.com/ie/podcast/thalidomide-the-story-you-dont-know-part-1/id1640338805?i=1000634754723), [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/episode/2n7YkE7IwVytZ7p4XBt5Rb) and on other major podcast platforms. -(Permission for post given by moderators)",,9,lct200,1700401965.0 +(Permission for post given by moderators)",,9,lct200,2023-11-19 13:52:45 Feminism,17yybc1,An assignment for GS,"This is a poem I wrote for my gender studies class to bring awareness to violence against women that happens every day. The assignment requires posting this poem on a public forum, so here it is. ""Girls Night"" @@ -13305,10 +13305,10 @@ Thought about the things we “should” have done instead I beg for things to be different, for the nightmares not to be true -Oh what I would give, for him to have not picked you",,7,lsanmiguel123,1700403984.0 -Feminism,17yoqbl,Israel investigates sexual violence committed by Hamas as part of October 7 horror | CNN,,https://edition.cnn.com/2023/11/17/world/israel-investigates-sexual-violence-hamas/index.html,14,bigcateatsfish,1700367300.0 -Feminism,17y0h9f,Harassed on instagram (TW r***),"I was sent these messages for calling out objectifying language and unrealistic beauty standards. i received a lot of hate but this was by far the worst. not my brightest moments responding to him, but it was just so out of pocket and upsetting, i didn’t know how to react lol. It’s legitimately scary how quickly he jumped to weaponizing and threatening sexual assault.",https://www.reddit.com/gallery/17y0h9f,355,katie_ingram,1700289543.0 -Feminism,17y3uy9,"(OC) Because I was little too friendly to this guy and responded to his messages without delay, he thought something like this would be acceptable. Btw, I had responded to his freelancing gig call on LinkedIn 2 days before.","What does the second slide even mean? Iwan, what was this guy thinking?",https://www.reddit.com/gallery/17y3uy9,73,DoofusDogsUnited,1700304048.0 +Oh what I would give, for him to have not picked you",,7,lsanmiguel123,2023-11-19 14:26:24 +Feminism,17yoqbl,Israel investigates sexual violence committed by Hamas as part of October 7 horror | CNN,,https://edition.cnn.com/2023/11/17/world/israel-investigates-sexual-violence-hamas/index.html,14,bigcateatsfish,2023-11-19 04:15:00 +Feminism,17y0h9f,Harassed on instagram (TW r***),"I was sent these messages for calling out objectifying language and unrealistic beauty standards. i received a lot of hate but this was by far the worst. not my brightest moments responding to him, but it was just so out of pocket and upsetting, i didn’t know how to react lol. It’s legitimately scary how quickly he jumped to weaponizing and threatening sexual assault.",https://www.reddit.com/gallery/17y0h9f,355,katie_ingram,2023-11-18 06:39:03 +Feminism,17y3uy9,"(OC) Because I was little too friendly to this guy and responded to his messages without delay, he thought something like this would be acceptable. Btw, I had responded to his freelancing gig call on LinkedIn 2 days before.","What does the second slide even mean? Iwan, what was this guy thinking?",https://www.reddit.com/gallery/17y3uy9,73,DoofusDogsUnited,2023-11-18 10:40:48 Feminism,17y8wmf,So I finally talked to my partner….,"This is a continuation of a post I made from before, here’s a link to the last post, read it, or you’ll be completely lost. [https://www.reddit.com/r/Feminism/comments/17wzzrf/no\_third\_date\_or\_just\_overreacting/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Feminism/comments/17wzzrf/no_third_date_or_just_overreacting/) @@ -13317,10 +13317,10 @@ Feminism,17y8wmf,So I finally talked to my partner….,"This is a continuation o So, taking advice from this sub, I finally talked to my partner/semi-boyfriend about the concerning images in this bedroom and on his phone. And he got PISSED. ”Why are you being such a bitch? I thought you loved me? Why are you snooping in on my life? I can look at whatever the hell I want and put whatever the fuck I want into my bedroom, you bitch! Fuck you! I thought you didn’t want to be left alone for the rest of your life? I thought you wanted to have your first ever boyfriend? (I have admitted these feelings to him) Did you fucking lie to me? Are you just a misandrist? Get out of my house, I’m not bringing you here ever again!”. -It just kept going on and on and on, when I tried to talk, he just kept yelling at me. He ended up kicking me out of the house and calling an Uber for me. Now I’m in uber car with a big, wide, broken heart. I want to help him so much, but he keeps pushing me away for these disgusting little images in his bedroom and on his phone. Why won’t he let me help him? I‘ve done so much for him, I even started eating a bit less and exercising for him! Should I just break up and try and start all over again? Is this how love really is? Is this my only chance? Will I really end up alone forever? I’m so confused and sad.",,21,Darkgirlmew,1700321480.0 -Feminism,17y6lgz,"Police start building Oct. 7 rape cases, focusing on footage and testimonies",,https://www.timesofisrael.com/police-start-building-oct-7-rape-cases-focusing-on-footage-and-testimonies/amp/,24,OuroborosInMySoup,1700314477.0 -Feminism,17y0le1,Eleanor Neale covers the abuse of women in Hollywood that continues to this day. Warning! The stuff in the video is horrifying to think about. I couldn't go through half of the video.,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VHgE-i6J0Tg,57,ClaireDacloush,1700290008.0 -Feminism,17y96zm,Listen: Anna Holmes on the End of Jezebel | On the Media,,https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/otm/segments/anna-holmes-end-jezebel-on-the-media,9,mgl298,1700322310.0 +It just kept going on and on and on, when I tried to talk, he just kept yelling at me. He ended up kicking me out of the house and calling an Uber for me. Now I’m in uber car with a big, wide, broken heart. I want to help him so much, but he keeps pushing me away for these disgusting little images in his bedroom and on his phone. Why won’t he let me help him? I‘ve done so much for him, I even started eating a bit less and exercising for him! Should I just break up and try and start all over again? Is this how love really is? Is this my only chance? Will I really end up alone forever? I’m so confused and sad.",,21,Darkgirlmew,2023-11-18 15:31:20 +Feminism,17y6lgz,"Police start building Oct. 7 rape cases, focusing on footage and testimonies",,https://www.timesofisrael.com/police-start-building-oct-7-rape-cases-focusing-on-footage-and-testimonies/amp/,24,OuroborosInMySoup,2023-11-18 13:34:37 +Feminism,17y0le1,Eleanor Neale covers the abuse of women in Hollywood that continues to this day. Warning! The stuff in the video is horrifying to think about. I couldn't go through half of the video.,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VHgE-i6J0Tg,57,ClaireDacloush,2023-11-18 06:46:48 +Feminism,17y96zm,Listen: Anna Holmes on the End of Jezebel | On the Media,,https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/otm/segments/anna-holmes-end-jezebel-on-the-media,9,mgl298,2023-11-18 15:45:10 Feminism,17xpeep,Random rude men,"Situation 1: I’m holding a bunch of stuff trying to unlock the door to the entrance to my apartment and random guy on other side of the door just stares at me struggling. He finally opened the door and when he did I dropped my stuff. He scoffs and says in a rude tone good luck. It was pretty obvious he was being a jerk. @@ -13330,10 +13330,10 @@ I’m on my way to work and trucker blocks off half the road of a 2 lane. After Situation 3: Less random but my co worker was warming up some bread in the staff kitchen. I didn’t know who’s it was and saw it was looking done. I ask around to tell people get your food is looking done. When he comes to the staff kitchen his food was burnt and he rudely accuses me of letting his food burn. Dude it’s YOUR food I am not responsible for watching your food. He shakes his head and hasn’t spoken a word to me since. -I’m noticing more often men are just messed up towards women in subtle and not so subtle ways. Just needed to vent.",,224,[deleted],1700256019.0 -Feminism,17xzqu6,"The Albanese Labor Government is leading the way for Australia to become the first country in the world to eliminate cervical cancer, with the release of the National Strategy for the Elimination of Cervical Cancer and a $48.2 million investment to support implementation",,https://www.health.gov.au/ministers/the-hon-ged-kearney-mp/media/making-history-by-eliminating-cervical-cancer-in-australia-and-our-region?language=en,21,Only_Introduction162,1700286656.0 -Feminism,17y2pdj,Why did Germany allow the Taliban,,https://www.instagram.com/p/CzvrtLMs1YQ/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==,11,Thick-Addition-5471,1700299155.0 -Feminism,17xfhmc,"New postpartum depression drug gets almost $16,000 price tag, raising questions about access",,https://www.cnn.com/2023/11/07/health/postpartum-depression-drug-price-tag/index.html?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email,357,literanista,1700229031.0 +I’m noticing more often men are just messed up towards women in subtle and not so subtle ways. Just needed to vent.",,224,[deleted],2023-11-17 21:20:19 +Feminism,17xzqu6,"The Albanese Labor Government is leading the way for Australia to become the first country in the world to eliminate cervical cancer, with the release of the National Strategy for the Elimination of Cervical Cancer and a $48.2 million investment to support implementation",,https://www.health.gov.au/ministers/the-hon-ged-kearney-mp/media/making-history-by-eliminating-cervical-cancer-in-australia-and-our-region?language=en,21,Only_Introduction162,2023-11-18 05:50:56 +Feminism,17y2pdj,Why did Germany allow the Taliban,,https://www.instagram.com/p/CzvrtLMs1YQ/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==,11,Thick-Addition-5471,2023-11-18 09:19:15 +Feminism,17xfhmc,"New postpartum depression drug gets almost $16,000 price tag, raising questions about access",,https://www.cnn.com/2023/11/07/health/postpartum-depression-drug-price-tag/index.html?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email,357,literanista,2023-11-17 13:50:31 Feminism,17xiti0,Co workers & male centering,"For about 4/5 years, I've unconsciously shifted my focus away from men. Now, it's a conscious decision labeled de centering, I actively avoiding certain conversations, friendships, and activities. @@ -13355,7 +13355,7 @@ I guess I trigged him . He called me aggressive and said I’ve never seen you l I excused myself and left it at that. It's the second time he's tried to involve me in discussions degrading to women. - How do you navigate these situations, and do you engage in such conversations?",,71,Telalovell,1700238347.0 + How do you navigate these situations, and do you engage in such conversations?",,71,Telalovell,2023-11-17 16:25:47 Feminism,17xxbgh,Black and White Feminism in the 80s/90s,"https://youtu.be/eT1EC51xgVw?si=RlMoKOL5B8BYEidA Check out what she says during 5:05 and 5:10. @@ -13364,10 +13364,10 @@ I know that white women won the right to vote before black women, but how were b I really want to understand what she says there and would like to know what she is referring to. -Many thanks in advance.",,10,Mite3,1700278027.0 -Feminism,17xjuu2,Sign a Petition to Establish a Comprehensive Support Program for Incarcerated Mothers,Hi everyone! I'm going for my bachelor in social work and myself and a few classmates have created this petition to advocate for better supports for incarcerated mothers and their children to maintain healthy connections. If you could sign it that would be wonderful,https://chng.it/RvDK8Q2fbQ,24,Feeling-Cicada2462,1700241128.0 -Feminism,17xbfgv,Opinion on the Kardashians?,"Just wondering what everyone’s views on the kardashians are in terms of feminism? Like I would have always been under the opinion that they contribute greatly (and profit from) promoting unrealistic beauty standards for women. Is this true or am I just finding an excuse to hate them due to internalised misogyny? I dislike them for other reasons too like the fact that they have so much money and power to do so much good and they just don’t. Like they have such a influence over people if one of they came out and talked about climate change, lots of people would listen. But they don’t.",,93,theanimalsareleaving,1700213720.0 -Feminism,17xrxss,The Hamas sexual pogrom and the deafening silence of the world’s feminist movements,,https://www.ynetnews.com/article/bjqmutqv6#autoplay,7,Only_Introduction162,1700262565.0 +Many thanks in advance.",,10,Mite3,2023-11-18 03:27:07 +Feminism,17xjuu2,Sign a Petition to Establish a Comprehensive Support Program for Incarcerated Mothers,Hi everyone! I'm going for my bachelor in social work and myself and a few classmates have created this petition to advocate for better supports for incarcerated mothers and their children to maintain healthy connections. If you could sign it that would be wonderful,https://chng.it/RvDK8Q2fbQ,24,Feeling-Cicada2462,2023-11-17 17:12:08 +Feminism,17xbfgv,Opinion on the Kardashians?,"Just wondering what everyone’s views on the kardashians are in terms of feminism? Like I would have always been under the opinion that they contribute greatly (and profit from) promoting unrealistic beauty standards for women. Is this true or am I just finding an excuse to hate them due to internalised misogyny? I dislike them for other reasons too like the fact that they have so much money and power to do so much good and they just don’t. Like they have such a influence over people if one of they came out and talked about climate change, lots of people would listen. But they don’t.",,93,theanimalsareleaving,2023-11-17 09:35:20 +Feminism,17xrxss,The Hamas sexual pogrom and the deafening silence of the world’s feminist movements,,https://www.ynetnews.com/article/bjqmutqv6#autoplay,7,Only_Introduction162,2023-11-17 23:09:25 Feminism,17x1t5d,When women are behind its 'natural' but when men start falling behind now the system needs changing.,"Perhaps this is really obvious but I've never seen anyone point this out or make this argument. When you point the systemic issues that women face like wage gap, underrepresentaion in stem and high powered positions, ect. a lot of reasons you get for these are appeals to 'nature'; how this just to do with 'biological differences.' For example, the argument that women choose jobs like nursing and teaching because women are more 'naturally' nurturing and care about jobs with people and not things (although the whole things/people paradigm kinda goes out the window for positions of power like politicans). Another reason given is that men are paid more is cause they are 'naturally' more assertive and ask for raises (ignoring the fact women are often penalised for being assertive). @@ -13376,28 +13376,28 @@ These reasons are given to dismiss the issue and to argue that these aren't syst Now that boys/men are falling behind girls/women in education and higher education which I agree is indicative of some systematic issues. But all the people who were once making appeals to 'nature' to explain women's shortcomings are now blaming the system for men's shortcomings. Their lack of consistency reveals that they think either/both 1. The system should work in men's favour, 2. Men are superior to women. They usually never admit to these positions. -I wanna hear what other people think of this? If I've missed anything in my line of logic? I love deconstructing language/rehortic so I've been thinking sporadically about this one for a while now.",,374,iampoisonivy,1700179979.0 -Feminism,17wvvim,Instagram comment sections have gotten comically violent towards women.,Came across this reel of a dude staying outside all night to study when a mass of incels came to bash some woman for pointing out that this would be dangerous for women to do. I'm going to stop reading ig comment sections at this point for my mental health. This movement of alt right meninists pissy because women are pushing for equality are actually frightening.,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/17wvvim,790,Perfect-Wolf-3841,1700164664.0 -Feminism,17xcebs,Gender discrimination and misogyny continue in Afghanistan...,,/r/afghanistan/comments/17wpwqm/a_new_generation_of_women_and_girls_defying/,43,Deep_Math9124,1700218082.0 +I wanna hear what other people think of this? If I've missed anything in my line of logic? I love deconstructing language/rehortic so I've been thinking sporadically about this one for a while now.",,374,iampoisonivy,2023-11-17 00:12:59 +Feminism,17wvvim,Instagram comment sections have gotten comically violent towards women.,Came across this reel of a dude staying outside all night to study when a mass of incels came to bash some woman for pointing out that this would be dangerous for women to do. I'm going to stop reading ig comment sections at this point for my mental health. This movement of alt right meninists pissy because women are pushing for equality are actually frightening.,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/17wvvim,790,Perfect-Wolf-3841,2023-11-16 19:57:44 +Feminism,17xcebs,Gender discrimination and misogyny continue in Afghanistan...,,/r/afghanistan/comments/17wpwqm/a_new_generation_of_women_and_girls_defying/,43,Deep_Math9124,2023-11-17 10:48:02 Feminism,17xkklr,How to overcome the shame?,"I hate how despite learning more and more about feminism and trying to fight my internalised misogyny, I still feel sometimes ""ashamed"" of being a woman. For example when I hear men saying misogynistic stuffs, a part of me still doubt sometimes and think something like ""maybe they're right, maybe women really are inferior/weaker/naturally submissive"" and especially when I get called a slut or I'm being sexualized by a man, I still feel ashamed even if I know I shouldn't care about what they say... -so I wonder if some of you would have advice, what can I do to go against this feeling? Did you use to feel this way yourself and overcome it? Thank you very much to everyone who could help",,11,RedAtlanticChaos,1700243038.0 +so I wonder if some of you would have advice, what can I do to go against this feeling? Did you use to feel this way yourself and overcome it? Thank you very much to everyone who could help",,11,RedAtlanticChaos,2023-11-17 17:43:58 Feminism,17wz82e,"""Should I leave my misogy-"" Yes.","Girl he doesn't think you're a person, you're not going to convince him of anything -I want to be empathetic but I genuinely don't understand the point of these posts? Of course everyone on a feminist sub is going to tell you to leave a misogynist.",,335,Xiabeq,1700173239.0 +I want to be empathetic but I genuinely don't understand the point of these posts? Of course everyone on a feminist sub is going to tell you to leave a misogynist.",,335,Xiabeq,2023-11-16 22:20:39 Feminism,17x7kkd,How to respond to teen jibes?,"I have a step son, 14 years old who is nice and I’ve known him for 5 years now. But nowadays he’s sprouting more and more sexist things. Most of which his dad counters and explains to him how offensive it is. But sometimes he says it directly to me and his dad doesn’t want to take anyone’s side which is fair - now I don’t want to be a victim and want to respond to the son directly. -He says that I dress “like a lesbian” or “like a boy” and means it to be a jibe. I’m so tempted to get back at him and say “aw is your chin bothering you today” - something he’s insecure about but I really don’t want to stoop to bullying a kid. At the same time I’m really frustrated with these comments. What can I say in response?",,48,Flat-Ad1599,1700197546.0 -Feminism,17wnne6,"Misogyny Against Women You Don’t Like is Still Misogyny, By The Way",,https://thethreepennyguignol.com/2023/11/16/misogyny-against-women-you-dont-like-is-still-misogyny-by-the-way/,708,cutpriceguignol,1700143440.0 +He says that I dress “like a lesbian” or “like a boy” and means it to be a jibe. I’m so tempted to get back at him and say “aw is your chin bothering you today” - something he’s insecure about but I really don’t want to stoop to bullying a kid. At the same time I’m really frustrated with these comments. What can I say in response?",,48,Flat-Ad1599,2023-11-17 05:05:46 +Feminism,17wnne6,"Misogyny Against Women You Don’t Like is Still Misogyny, By The Way",,https://thethreepennyguignol.com/2023/11/16/misogyny-against-women-you-dont-like-is-still-misogyny-by-the-way/,708,cutpriceguignol,2023-11-16 14:04:00 Feminism,17x3w5n,How do you respond when sexist guys get bitchy?,"You know when they run out of arguments, or get insecure or just want to be cruel for their own amusement and they start making sexual comments? How do you even respond to that? -Some are just so outrageous that I'm too shocked to respond immediately. Just getting up and leave is also not an option, I'm not going to leave my space just because some guy decided to be extra bitchy today. If the guy has other friends with him they usually laugh at whatever you respond. Is there a good way to efficiently and quickly shut them down?",,41,im_sold_out,1700185831.0 +Some are just so outrageous that I'm too shocked to respond immediately. Just getting up and leave is also not an option, I'm not going to leave my space just because some guy decided to be extra bitchy today. If the guy has other friends with him they usually laugh at whatever you respond. Is there a good way to efficiently and quickly shut them down?",,41,im_sold_out,2023-11-17 01:50:31 Feminism,17wzzrf,"No third date, or just overreacting?","So for a while I’ve been just around this guy (I’m not saying dating because I feel like we just aren’t that close), and on our second date, I’ve been at his house and it’s kinda weird. His bedroom was covered in posters of girls in suggestive positions, but the worst one (atleast I think it is💀) was one of this girl chained up and being held by an older looking man. He’s so normal and kind, but his bedroom….I just don’t know. His phone was kinda weird too, I didn’t look through it, but his wallpaper was a pic of a girl (who wasn’t me) in a bikini in bed. He’s never told me any truly misogynistic before (again, atleast I think so💀 I guess watching porn could be considered as “misogynistic” by some), he’s sometimes called people (usually politicians) ”Dumb b\*tches”, but never outright “c\*nts” or “sl\*ts”, and hes never called me that directly. -Overall, I think he’s sorta odd, but I’m also too afraid that I might end up overreacting and losing my first ever opportunity for a boyfriend (or more), so I’m just wanting to hear other women’s opinions about that situation.",,52,Darkgirlmew,1700175180.0 -Feminism,17wonzm,Tired of women who support the patriarchy and then crib when it affects them personally,"From the point of view of a conservative Indian society -- I see women supporting the patriarchy, fueling it, but everytime it affects them personally, someone treats them badly, suddenly they'll crib and get mad. It's so selfish and self-centred, and it's mind boggling that they don't see that they need to extend that courtesy of being supportive to other women when they crave it so much themselves.",,167,ChildhoodWild4848,1700146146.0 -Feminism,17wovqm,Less than 50 years ago women couldn't have their own credit card (United States).,,https://i.redd.it/rj474a2ibo0c1.jpeg,146,Educational_Cow_7103,1700146713.0 +Overall, I think he’s sorta odd, but I’m also too afraid that I might end up overreacting and losing my first ever opportunity for a boyfriend (or more), so I’m just wanting to hear other women’s opinions about that situation.",,52,Darkgirlmew,2023-11-16 22:53:00 +Feminism,17wonzm,Tired of women who support the patriarchy and then crib when it affects them personally,"From the point of view of a conservative Indian society -- I see women supporting the patriarchy, fueling it, but everytime it affects them personally, someone treats them badly, suddenly they'll crib and get mad. It's so selfish and self-centred, and it's mind boggling that they don't see that they need to extend that courtesy of being supportive to other women when they crave it so much themselves.",,167,ChildhoodWild4848,2023-11-16 14:49:06 +Feminism,17wovqm,Less than 50 years ago women couldn't have their own credit card (United States).,,https://i.redd.it/rj474a2ibo0c1.jpeg,146,Educational_Cow_7103,2023-11-16 14:58:33 Feminism,17wxli5,Any books on how stupid beauty standards are and how much they hurt people?,"So I’ve been in this theme and opinion all my life. Basically all my thoughts are summed up in this one video by Karolina Żebrowska. @@ -13407,10 +13407,10 @@ Basically I understand that there is a small part of facial structure that can b Beauty standards are mainly attached to indicators of wealth and that has changed all throughout history and all over the world. Karolina gives amazing examples in the video. -I just wanted to open up this dialog because the amount of opinions and videos out there saying that beauty standards will always win scares me. Because there is somewhere or some time period of human existence where pretty much any body shape was held in high esteem. Yet we see things like rhinoplasty. Which I thought I wanted for a long time until I understood the biological purpose behind my big nose and actually visited France where most of my relatives were from. I am the beauty standard there. There’s also people that have gotten plastic surgery to get curvy and now there trying to reverse that now. Beauty standards don’t win at the end of the day. It’s just indicators of wealth and while pretty privilege does absolutely exist, it lives on how much power we give it.",https://youtu.be/GJBo2eqzVe8?si=EAZMDIXCfcrsYpHH,44,Foreign_Ad_1586,1700169165.0 -Feminism,17wovpl,Less than 50 years ago women couldn't have their own credit card (United States).,,https://i.redd.it/rj474a2ibo0c1.jpeg,109,Educational_Cow_7103,1700146711.0 -Feminism,17wda5p,"For decades, mothers have borne the brunt of scrutiny for alcohol use during pregnancy − new research points to dad's drinking as a significant factor in fetal alcohol syndrome",,https://theconversation.com/for-decades-mothers-have-borne-the-brunt-of-scrutiny-for-alcohol-use-during-pregnancy-new-research-points-to-dads-drinking-as-a-significant-factor-in-fetal-alcohol-syndrome-216601,788,katespadesaturday,1700106650.0 -Feminism,17wgg03,"Why aren’t violent sexual acts like degradation, humiliation, and CNC considered internalised misogyny?","Personally I don’t get this, because to me this feels like a prime example of what internalised misogyny looks like.",,210,Mobile-Aioli-454,1700117214.0 +I just wanted to open up this dialog because the amount of opinions and videos out there saying that beauty standards will always win scares me. Because there is somewhere or some time period of human existence where pretty much any body shape was held in high esteem. Yet we see things like rhinoplasty. Which I thought I wanted for a long time until I understood the biological purpose behind my big nose and actually visited France where most of my relatives were from. I am the beauty standard there. There’s also people that have gotten plastic surgery to get curvy and now there trying to reverse that now. Beauty standards don’t win at the end of the day. It’s just indicators of wealth and while pretty privilege does absolutely exist, it lives on how much power we give it.",https://youtu.be/GJBo2eqzVe8?si=EAZMDIXCfcrsYpHH,44,Foreign_Ad_1586,2023-11-16 21:12:45 +Feminism,17wovpl,Less than 50 years ago women couldn't have their own credit card (United States).,,https://i.redd.it/rj474a2ibo0c1.jpeg,109,Educational_Cow_7103,2023-11-16 14:58:31 +Feminism,17wda5p,"For decades, mothers have borne the brunt of scrutiny for alcohol use during pregnancy − new research points to dad's drinking as a significant factor in fetal alcohol syndrome",,https://theconversation.com/for-decades-mothers-have-borne-the-brunt-of-scrutiny-for-alcohol-use-during-pregnancy-new-research-points-to-dads-drinking-as-a-significant-factor-in-fetal-alcohol-syndrome-216601,788,katespadesaturday,2023-11-16 03:50:50 +Feminism,17wgg03,"Why aren’t violent sexual acts like degradation, humiliation, and CNC considered internalised misogyny?","Personally I don’t get this, because to me this feels like a prime example of what internalised misogyny looks like.",,210,Mobile-Aioli-454,2023-11-16 06:46:54 Feminism,17wtx9k,The Power of The Pull - Thanks Birth Control," In the realm of sexual and reproductive health, birth control and contraception stand as powerful tools that have fundamentally reshaped women’s lives. The advent of oral contraceptives and other family planning methods has granted women unprecedented control over their reproductive choices, offering the freedom to decide when, how, and if to start a family. These innovations not only empower women to pursue education and careers but contribute to narrowing gender disparities by offering a practical means to manage family size.  @@ -13429,12 +13429,12 @@ Goldin’s study, “The Power of the Pill: Oral Contraceptives and Women’s Ca &#x200B; -How has birth control made your life better?",,11,PopulationMedia,1700159516.0 -Feminism,17vxnml,Listened to a band at a local show last night singing a song about murdering women- am I overreacting?,"I went to a local hardcore show last night, featuring bands I have seen a handful of times. However there was a ‘new’ band playing (with a cis male frontman) that included members that belonged to other bands in the scene. Their 3rd song was a song where the ONLY lyrics were ‘I love to murder women’ over and over again. I had to sit and watch my male counterparts turn to each other and laugh. I immediately was pissed off but was met with the excuses of ‘It’s a bit’ ‘It’s just a joke’ etc. It still didn’t / doesn’t sit right with me at all and made me feel gross. I can’t tell if I’m overreacting or if I’m within my right to be upset about this.",,682,alleearyeldah,1700066472.0 +How has birth control made your life better?",,11,PopulationMedia,2023-11-16 18:31:56 +Feminism,17vxnml,Listened to a band at a local show last night singing a song about murdering women- am I overreacting?,"I went to a local hardcore show last night, featuring bands I have seen a handful of times. However there was a ‘new’ band playing (with a cis male frontman) that included members that belonged to other bands in the scene. Their 3rd song was a song where the ONLY lyrics were ‘I love to murder women’ over and over again. I had to sit and watch my male counterparts turn to each other and laugh. I immediately was pissed off but was met with the excuses of ‘It’s a bit’ ‘It’s just a joke’ etc. It still didn’t / doesn’t sit right with me at all and made me feel gross. I can’t tell if I’m overreacting or if I’m within my right to be upset about this.",,682,alleearyeldah,2023-11-15 16:41:12 Feminism,17w4q40,Password manager,"I am a systems administrator and I do IT for a voluntary group as well. a team member, who is always asking me for his passwords, like almost every time he needs to log in to a service I manage. I took this now for more than 2 years. Every now and then mentioning that there is things like password managers, but always helping him, resetting his passwords, sending them to him via encrypted vault and so forth. -This week I was angry because I put a lot of effort again in something and he asked again. And then I said publicly in the chat ""I am fed up doing this for you [name] "" (in german ""Ich hab wirklich keine Lust mehr das für dich zu machen"" ) now he texted me a few days later and was very angry about that and about my tone. Do you think I overreacted? I am feeling not taken serious and like in this female secretary role and I am not sure if I should take this now from him and feel sorry or if I should stick to what I said. My first reaction was the latter.",,36,mira_miracoli,1700084728.0 +This week I was angry because I put a lot of effort again in something and he asked again. And then I said publicly in the chat ""I am fed up doing this for you [name] "" (in german ""Ich hab wirklich keine Lust mehr das für dich zu machen"" ) now he texted me a few days later and was very angry about that and about my tone. Do you think I overreacted? I am feeling not taken serious and like in this female secretary role and I am not sure if I should take this now from him and feel sorry or if I should stick to what I said. My first reaction was the latter.",,36,mira_miracoli,2023-11-15 21:45:28 Feminism,17vopb5,"Please tell me I’m not going mad (about men's ridiculous porn-addled brains, and how they think we like what they like, just because they like it).","With it being the internet, I sometimes entertain the perverted idiots who enter my DMs. I foolishly think that I can change how they are. Don’t worry, this isn’t often. But please tell me this is the case for everyone: Some man will say: “hey babe, do you like tittyfucking?” (one example of many) @@ -13451,34 +13451,34 @@ I've talked to men about how hypersexual and porn-addled our culture is, but the In a nutshell, never trust anything a man says, especially if they have something to gain from it. -On an unrelated note: how... HOW can a subreddit called FeminismIsCancer exist?! I'm shocked. I was typing in the 'feminism' subreddit and this other one came up. I'm shocked and sickened. How can we get rid of it? Can we mass-report it?",,290,Key_Conference_1082,1700034724.0 +On an unrelated note: how... HOW can a subreddit called FeminismIsCancer exist?! I'm shocked. I was typing in the 'feminism' subreddit and this other one came up. I'm shocked and sickened. How can we get rid of it? Can we mass-report it?",,290,Key_Conference_1082,2023-11-15 07:52:04 Feminism,17w5qxh,How to kindly get my bf to start picking up after himself,"The title sounds bad but let me preface with how madly in love I am with this man. He cooks me the best food every day when I forget to feed myself, is so kind and considerate to everyone around him, and quite litteraly keeps me sane. I never even had to divy up chores with him, we just picked the chores we liked when we moved in together, and it turned out pretty perfectly. This is not a ""dump him and let him figure it out, he's an adult"" situation. We're both learning how to not live in a depression nest together. -My ONLY thing with him right now is I'm picking up after him every single day. Whether it's dishes in our room, socks on the floor, garbage on our desk, there's usually something small I have to tidy up that he should have done himself. It didn't bother me for a long time, but I've just started working too, and while the Big tm chores are wonderfully equal the passive effort it takes to keep a space clean is definitely on my shoulders. I need to talk to him about putting in this effort but I'm not sure where to start. Any ideas?",,14,Lurker_Lurker123,1700087109.0 -Feminism,17wctw3,Project Reflecting On Different Feminist Philosophies,"Hi guys! I am currently working on a project where I hope to share various women's experiences in the World and then reflect on them and how they have shaped modern ideas of Feminism! It can be about any part of the female experience including internal and external struggles, I really hope to discuss intersectionality, dualism of the mind and body, bodies through different stages of life (childhood, teenage years, young adults, motherhood, etc.), preformativity, phenomenology, etc. I would love for anyone to share their stories if you have them time! Please just reach out to me :)",,4,dentinyocar,1700105333.0 -Feminism,17vobqi,What do you make of ancient civilizations known for women?,"Sparta comes to mind, like the heiresses and even ordinary Spartan women. ",,24,Awesomeuser90,1700033026.0 -Feminism,17v9upk,Which of these books should I start with?,"M25 here, want to educate myself, so I picked up these books that I saw recommended. Which one should I read first? And what should be my next reads after these? Thanks a lot!",https://i.redd.it/o3704s5e5d0c1.jpg,177,ArsenalArsenal22,1699989436.0 +My ONLY thing with him right now is I'm picking up after him every single day. Whether it's dishes in our room, socks on the floor, garbage on our desk, there's usually something small I have to tidy up that he should have done himself. It didn't bother me for a long time, but I've just started working too, and while the Big tm chores are wonderfully equal the passive effort it takes to keep a space clean is definitely on my shoulders. I need to talk to him about putting in this effort but I'm not sure where to start. Any ideas?",,14,Lurker_Lurker123,2023-11-15 22:25:09 +Feminism,17wctw3,Project Reflecting On Different Feminist Philosophies,"Hi guys! I am currently working on a project where I hope to share various women's experiences in the World and then reflect on them and how they have shaped modern ideas of Feminism! It can be about any part of the female experience including internal and external struggles, I really hope to discuss intersectionality, dualism of the mind and body, bodies through different stages of life (childhood, teenage years, young adults, motherhood, etc.), preformativity, phenomenology, etc. I would love for anyone to share their stories if you have them time! Please just reach out to me :)",,4,dentinyocar,2023-11-16 03:28:53 +Feminism,17vobqi,What do you make of ancient civilizations known for women?,"Sparta comes to mind, like the heiresses and even ordinary Spartan women. ",,24,Awesomeuser90,2023-11-15 07:23:46 +Feminism,17v9upk,Which of these books should I start with?,"M25 here, want to educate myself, so I picked up these books that I saw recommended. Which one should I read first? And what should be my next reads after these? Thanks a lot!",https://i.redd.it/o3704s5e5d0c1.jpg,177,ArsenalArsenal22,2023-11-14 19:17:16 Feminism,17v5vdn,how to deal with sexist bf,"hello, i love my bf dearly, but he is like a closeted misogynist; meaning he really believes he respects women but then in the same breath has told me that if women lead without men the world would crumble. i try to talk to him and explain his error in thinking but he always says ""its just facts"" or its ""just statistics"" and you ""cant argue with math"" when he say something that puts women down. i just wanted to know if anyone had advice on how to deal with a man who truly believes he's not being sexist when he actually is idk if this is the right place to ask, but i figured someone might know how to help. <3 I've read some of the comments and felt that maybe you guys may benefit from further info. He doesn't say things like this often at all. When he does, I always stand up for myself and women as a whole. I also want to mention He is better than when I met him so that's why I'm still with him, because he has shown that he is open to learning and understanding but I just wanted to get advice on the more stubborn parts of his misconception. Alsoooo idk if this helps, but his mom... let's just say didn't teach him correctly about women. Ok, and for the ""you can't change/fix him"" comments: dw I promise it's not like that. If it was, i would have been long gone. He also does a lot of the housework and cares for me very well and has no problem taking care of me. He doesn't think I'm the one who has to do everything household related bc I'm the woman. He definitely has some opinions that are just wrong, but he's not like a raging sexist (at least I don't think so💀) -Ok, and just one last thing pls no one read my edit in a defensive way. I genuinely thought some extra info would help ❤️ thank you for everyone's advice ",,229,FlatwormLost2782,1699979034.0 -Feminism,17voekk,Israel Opens Complex Sexual Abuse Probe Into October 7 Attacks,,https://www.barrons.com/news/israel-opens-complex-sexual-abuse-probe-into-october-7-attacks-d938113c,16,OuroborosInMySoup,1700033387.0 +Ok, and just one last thing pls no one read my edit in a defensive way. I genuinely thought some extra info would help ❤️ thank you for everyone's advice ",,229,FlatwormLost2782,2023-11-14 16:23:54 +Feminism,17voekk,Israel Opens Complex Sexual Abuse Probe Into October 7 Attacks,,https://www.barrons.com/news/israel-opens-complex-sexual-abuse-probe-into-october-7-attacks-d938113c,16,OuroborosInMySoup,2023-11-15 07:29:47 Feminism,17vl777,Feminist bed time stories,"Does anyone know of bed time stories that decenter men? I feel like so much of our common lore is serving men and I want to do better for my 2 year old. -I’m looking specifically for stories with female protagonists that don’t have a romantic element.",,24,Please_AndNoThankYou,1700021075.0 +I’m looking specifically for stories with female protagonists that don’t have a romantic element.",,24,Please_AndNoThankYou,2023-11-15 04:04:35 Feminism,17uuy1n,How society treats fat women,"TW: Body image / weight -I was having a talk the other day and we came to the discussion about why women are more affected by body image than men, specifically about weight. I explained that women get treated different than men if they don't achieve certain standards. Someone said that men too feel pressure about looks, but don't just complain, they do something about it, like going to the gym. But for me, it's really different to women. Women that are fat get treated different than men that are fat. I myself am not an overweight person, but from my point of view, society treats fat women far worse, from childhood to adulthood, we get exposed to these extreme diets and little girls are told to starve. I would like another point of view of this topic, maybe from someone that has lived through this.",,386,Hungry_Lobster_1253,1699938516.0 +I was having a talk the other day and we came to the discussion about why women are more affected by body image than men, specifically about weight. I explained that women get treated different than men if they don't achieve certain standards. Someone said that men too feel pressure about looks, but don't just complain, they do something about it, like going to the gym. But for me, it's really different to women. Women that are fat get treated different than men that are fat. I myself am not an overweight person, but from my point of view, society treats fat women far worse, from childhood to adulthood, we get exposed to these extreme diets and little girls are told to starve. I would like another point of view of this topic, maybe from someone that has lived through this.",,386,Hungry_Lobster_1253,2023-11-14 05:08:36 Feminism,17vjyq0,Chicana Feminism Book recommendations,"Hello everyone! I was wondering if anyone had any Chicana feminism book recommendations? I minored in Chicanx Studies in college, and I would love to still expand my knowledge on this matter. -Thank you! :)",,3,[deleted],1700017214.0 -Feminism,17v4w7x,"Scared of losing elections, the right is changing the language of abortion - not their policies",,https://www.reclaimingthenewsletter.com/p/the-abortion-spin-zone-and-the-language,33,Careless_One6439,1699976352.0 +Thank you! :)",,3,[deleted],2023-11-15 03:00:14 +Feminism,17v4w7x,"Scared of losing elections, the right is changing the language of abortion - not their policies",,https://www.reclaimingthenewsletter.com/p/the-abortion-spin-zone-and-the-language,33,Careless_One6439,2023-11-14 15:39:12 Feminism,17ve8ji,Literature regarding the philosophy of woman-only societies and the need for children,"I'm currently reading a fascinating book (The Veiled Female Core by Elina M Reenkola), which discusses a woman's inner life remaining a closely guarded secret and her explanations as to why through myths/literature, clinical situations, and Freudian psychoanalysis. The second chapter details the possibilities of women who may wish for a baby being something that may stem from a ""desire to share her generative inner space with the man she loves"", ""recapturing the primary fusion and feeling of perfection experienced with the mother, now with ones own child...a powerful motivator to extend the self through procreation"" as well as such a thing existing in younger teen moms as a way to console the possible seperation-horrors by demanding a mother-child bond as means of fulfilling a longing of being with her own mother. @@ -13487,7 +13487,7 @@ Needless to say, there a myriad of reasons why a woman might choose to have a ch Maybe I'm not as well read as I'd like to be, but it seems that a lot of feminist literature places almost all of its thinking as being a reaction to a patriarchal system (which is valid) and I'd like to read more about a possible philosophy and psychoanalytical framework without men at all, rather, women as their own entities that do not exist and react based primarily through the wills of men, with an emphasis on children/pregnancy etc. -Also, this goes without saying that the thought experiment would be assuming women could become pregnant through artificial sperm (or some other method). But this may lead itself down a path of, well, why would women *choose* to be pregnant if the technology allowed for them to have children outside the womb? I guess it's a phenomenological question as well. ",,8,choistacolyte,1700001039.0 +Also, this goes without saying that the thought experiment would be assuming women could become pregnant through artificial sperm (or some other method). But this may lead itself down a path of, well, why would women *choose* to be pregnant if the technology allowed for them to have children outside the womb? I guess it's a phenomenological question as well. ",,8,choistacolyte,2023-11-14 22:30:39 Feminism,17v4u68,Losing connection with other women,"Hi, I hope this belongs here. Idk about some of you, but I feel like the men in my life throughout the years have all put a sense of mystery over what or who other women are. It's alienating and I'm scared of loosing touch with us forever. @@ -13498,25 +13498,25 @@ As much as I like hanging out with some men one on one because they make me feel All of this to say that I have a hard time building friendships with women or feeling a sense of belonging. I also feel like such an imposter around them sometimes. I want to add that I don't want to put this on women's fault. It's most likely because of the way my brain is wired, but hopefully, some of you have little ways to kind of get out of this alienating feeling and kinda break the ice. I would forever appreciate it. -P.s. Please note that I also have ADHD (+the tism) so forming this train of thought got all over the place. Also, english isn't my first language.",,28,Outrageous_Bat_6201,1699976190.0 -Feminism,17ujjrq,Large psychology study debunks stereotype of feminists as man-haters,,https://www.psypost.org/2023/11/large-psychology-study-debunks-stereotype-of-feminists-as-man-haters-214480,768,zoinksbadoinks,1699906172.0 -Feminism,17ukwdy,The Theory That Men Evolved to Hunt and Women Evolved to Gather Is Wrong,,https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-theory-that-men-evolved-to-hunt-and-women-evolved-to-gather-is-wrong1/,516,ealwhale,1699909567.0 +P.s. Please note that I also have ADHD (+the tism) so forming this train of thought got all over the place. Also, english isn't my first language.",,28,Outrageous_Bat_6201,2023-11-14 15:36:30 +Feminism,17ujjrq,Large psychology study debunks stereotype of feminists as man-haters,,https://www.psypost.org/2023/11/large-psychology-study-debunks-stereotype-of-feminists-as-man-haters-214480,768,zoinksbadoinks,2023-11-13 20:09:32 +Feminism,17ukwdy,The Theory That Men Evolved to Hunt and Women Evolved to Gather Is Wrong,,https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-theory-that-men-evolved-to-hunt-and-women-evolved-to-gather-is-wrong1/,516,ealwhale,2023-11-13 21:06:07 Feminism,17wcjnw,Finding Male-Positive Feminist Sub-Reddits,"Bit of a tricky issue here so bare with me while I attempt to explain myself. So, I’m really interested in learning more about feminism and the way women perceive younger men in today’s society. So, I reached out to the group r/AskFeminists to ask something along the lines of “What are some of the things you like about the men of today, and what should men do more of?”. I didn’t feel as though my question was stupid, but it must have been, because the moderator responded to the post with “Um, no”. I found this a bit rude and unfair as I thought r/AskFeminists was a space designed for users to ask feminists questions. So I asked the moderator why they felt the need to “stir the pot” rather than telling me what I did wrong. -If anyone has any idea what I did wrong, or can point me in the direction of some other feminist subs, please let me know. I am not trying to be rude or antagonistic - I cannot stress that enough, I’m just very, very, very confused. I love feminism but I feel as though I’m being forced out of these spaces for participating. What can I do better?",,0,[deleted],1700104513.0 -Feminism,17vcvmz,Debunking Fraudulent Organizations/Actors and My Solutions,,/r/PoliticsandMediaBets/comments/17vboan/debunking_fraudulent_organizationsactors_and_my/,3,Mysoon2022,1699997619.0 +If anyone has any idea what I did wrong, or can point me in the direction of some other feminist subs, please let me know. I am not trying to be rude or antagonistic - I cannot stress that enough, I’m just very, very, very confused. I love feminism but I feel as though I’m being forced out of these spaces for participating. What can I do better?",,0,[deleted],2023-11-16 03:15:13 +Feminism,17vcvmz,Debunking Fraudulent Organizations/Actors and My Solutions,,/r/PoliticsandMediaBets/comments/17vboan/debunking_fraudulent_organizationsactors_and_my/,3,Mysoon2022,2023-11-14 21:33:39 Feminism,17v3br8,Ueno Chizuko’s Dialogue with Dai Jinhua: “Fear of Weakness” Mirrors the Desire for Strength,"[Ueno Chizuko’s Dialogue with Dai Jinhua: “Fear of Weakness” Mirrors the Desire for Strength](https://medium.com/@pan2312930722/reproduction-the-beijing-news-book-review-weekly-ueno-chizukos-dialogue-with-dai-jinhua-a1e71b0aac28?source=your_stories_page-------------------------------------) Professors from China and Japan talking about feminism. \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ -Let me know what do you think about their opinions!",,8,External_Eggplant_91,1699971926.0 -Feminism,17ug1b4,One Woman Died on an Alaska Mayor’s Property. Then Another. No One Has Ever Been Charged.,,https://www.propublica.org/article/two-women-died-on-alaska-mayors-property-no-one-ever-charged,90,homo_redditorensis,1699897164.0 +Let me know what do you think about their opinions!",,8,External_Eggplant_91,2023-11-14 14:25:26 +Feminism,17ug1b4,One Woman Died on an Alaska Mayor’s Property. Then Another. No One Has Ever Been Charged.,,https://www.propublica.org/article/two-women-died-on-alaska-mayors-property-no-one-ever-charged,90,homo_redditorensis,2023-11-13 17:39:24 Feminism,17u7b1z,I’m really tired of ‘pretty privilege’,"More specifically, I was wondering if anyone else had this same issue. I fit the current ‘beauty standards’ and get complimented a lot, but that doesn’t mean I believe it, I have quite a low self esteem from being an ugly duckling growing up. Since growing into myself and gaining more attention from people for my looks, I’ve noticed a lot of my achievements are underplayed due to how people perceive me as pretty. For example, when telling people of success in interviews, they automatically assume and will state to me ‘I bet that’s just because you’re pretty and he wanted to see you again!’ Or similarly, people assuming I’m not intelligent due to my appearance. @@ -13524,7 +13524,7 @@ For example, when telling people of success in interviews, they automatically as I don’t pride myself on my looks particularly, like I said, I grew up ugly and it’s only the past 5 or so years I started gaining more and more attention- but the difference in how people treat me is huge. People talk to more, especially strangers, but value my academic or work place achievements way less and assume that it’s only because I gave a wink and a smile- which hurts when I’m extremely hard working and it took a long time to get where I am now. I’m starting to feel like I’ll never succeed as much as my male counterparts, especially in my profession which is extremely male-orientated. -I’m sure it’s from a good place, but anyone else tired of this?",,127,Appropriate-Oil-2611,1699869087.0 +I’m sure it’s from a good place, but anyone else tired of this?",,127,Appropriate-Oil-2611,2023-11-13 09:51:27 Feminism,17u5f3d,"What’s up with men’s obsession to make a hate comment about single, online woman they’ve never met?","Why do men care so much about strangers only (primarily women), who they will never meet and have any say in their lives? @@ -13539,40 +13539,40 @@ Aside from the incels, I’ve noticed that MANY married men love to comment on t “You’re going to die alone with cats!” -Oh no. What are you going to do about it 🙄",,151,pushk_a,1699860310.0 +Oh no. What are you going to do about it 🙄",,151,pushk_a,2023-11-13 07:25:10 Feminism,17u45fn,I am part of the problem,"M 25 here. I recently heard from a female coworker/classmate that she feels like the environment around her is misogynistic and overall negative towards her as a woman. This was a waking up blow for me. I had never noticed that the work environment around us was misogynistic. And I feel so dumb now to realise that I started with the assumption that my male perspective would have been able to notice this kind of things. Not only, I feel guilty because I might have overlooked so many things because of my blind spots. I feel like I have been brainwashed from birth to not see this kind of things and that I have to un-brainwash myself in some way. I know another male colleague asked her to elaborate more on the specifics of her claim, and she answered that it’s not her job to educate men about these topics and it’s our job to do more and better. -So my questions are: where should I start from in order to better myself? I am a fairly philosophical person myself and was trained as such, is there a good theoretical starting point for me to know more? Is there some community I could join to keep myself accountable for learning more? I have troubles committing to things if no one is pushing me, so internet friends and groups are a great help in this perspective.",,186,frig0bar,1699854740.0 -Feminism,17uoji4,Running in 5 inch heels: Women's Fight for Empowerment in International Relations,[https://open.substack.com/pub/amfg/p/running-in-5-inch-heels-womens-fight?r=2wk2c4&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web](https://open.substack.com/pub/amfg/p/running-in-5-inch-heels-womens-fight?r=2wk2c4&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web),,7,cairodude12,1699918860.0 -Feminism,17ud160,Sex(ist) tech: yet another feminist minefield.,,https://shado-mag.com/opinion/sexist-tech-yet-another-feminist-minefield/,14,shado_mag,1699889177.0 -Feminism,17uibiv,"Death,Murder and Mortality: Why it doesnt matter if Abortion is murder",,https://youtu.be/Mb-BepPiEOY?si=xrGX8CcOgeqg-Igd,7,LucianoLetsLose,1699903029.0 +So my questions are: where should I start from in order to better myself? I am a fairly philosophical person myself and was trained as such, is there a good theoretical starting point for me to know more? Is there some community I could join to keep myself accountable for learning more? I have troubles committing to things if no one is pushing me, so internet friends and groups are a great help in this perspective.",,186,frig0bar,2023-11-13 05:52:20 +Feminism,17uoji4,Running in 5 inch heels: Women's Fight for Empowerment in International Relations,[https://open.substack.com/pub/amfg/p/running-in-5-inch-heels-womens-fight?r=2wk2c4&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web](https://open.substack.com/pub/amfg/p/running-in-5-inch-heels-womens-fight?r=2wk2c4&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web),,7,cairodude12,2023-11-13 23:41:00 +Feminism,17ud160,Sex(ist) tech: yet another feminist minefield.,,https://shado-mag.com/opinion/sexist-tech-yet-another-feminist-minefield/,14,shado_mag,2023-11-13 15:26:17 +Feminism,17uibiv,"Death,Murder and Mortality: Why it doesnt matter if Abortion is murder",,https://youtu.be/Mb-BepPiEOY?si=xrGX8CcOgeqg-Igd,7,LucianoLetsLose,2023-11-13 19:17:09 Feminism,17to4g0,I hate being a woman,"Honestly I hate being a woman. I hate being constantly undermined and devalued and told I’m lesser than and stupid and subordinate and that my only purpose in life is to be a wife and a mother out of a million other things I could be. I literally hate the continuous verbal and sexual harassment, the lack of control over my own body, the being made to shrink myself and be smaller and the verbal abuse being told to just shut the fuck up and obey him like I’m his servant. All of these “alpha” male podcasts on social media are just recycling the same hateful rhetoric I’ve heard over and over again, that no matter how hard I try I’m just not worth as much as men are in this world and my only worth is tied to my genitalia and reproductive abilities and that’s not considered creepy. I’m so sick of the continuous harassment over my appearance, weight and behavior, the continuously being told I’m useless at only 25 while men get to stay perfect until their 50s and men get to take as much sex from me as they want but the second I give in I’m a bad person and I get blamed and bullied. When I was in high school I didn’t even want to have sex and then I was told that wasn’t cool and then the second I gave in to those messages I was shamed too. Am I supposed to just sit back and let men dictate my every move? I’m honestly getting so fucking depressed with everything that is going on. All of these podcasts are so fucking depressing and it just makes me hate being a woman more than I already do - wish I was a man so I can literally get away with doing whatever I want and no one would attack me physically. Being a woman is becoming increasingly just more depressing, it’s always been depressing but now it’s more depressing.",,534,[deleted],1699807538.0 -Feminism,17tp7qb,Julia Fox Rejects 'Sexual Object' Label While Posing Topless in New Photoshoot,,https://toofab.com/2023/11/10/julia-fox-rejects-sexual-object-label-while-posing-topless/,135,[deleted],1699810661.0 -Feminism,17t4b83,"""The Fragile Male Ego"" by Mattczao on the eatthattoast website",,https://i.redd.it/azjlyca0bszb1.jpg,708,ClaireDacloush,1699737912.0 -Feminism,17t7max,Sometimes I hate being a woman so much!,"I just wanted to take a night walk, (it's almost 1 am now). I didn't go far thought. One group of half drunk guys that I had to walk through was enough. Why can't guys at least just shut their damn mouth? I love walks at night so much, but being scared of guys just ruins it. How freeing must it be to be able to just go out whenever you want?? I'm so tired of this...",,247,Koyucat,1699747050.0 + wish I was a man so I can literally get away with doing whatever I want and no one would attack me physically. Being a woman is becoming increasingly just more depressing, it’s always been depressing but now it’s more depressing.",,534,[deleted],2023-11-12 16:45:38 +Feminism,17tp7qb,Julia Fox Rejects 'Sexual Object' Label While Posing Topless in New Photoshoot,,https://toofab.com/2023/11/10/julia-fox-rejects-sexual-object-label-while-posing-topless/,135,[deleted],2023-11-12 17:37:41 +Feminism,17t4b83,"""The Fragile Male Ego"" by Mattczao on the eatthattoast website",,https://i.redd.it/azjlyca0bszb1.jpg,708,ClaireDacloush,2023-11-11 21:25:12 +Feminism,17t7max,Sometimes I hate being a woman so much!,"I just wanted to take a night walk, (it's almost 1 am now). I didn't go far thought. One group of half drunk guys that I had to walk through was enough. Why can't guys at least just shut their damn mouth? I love walks at night so much, but being scared of guys just ruins it. How freeing must it be to be able to just go out whenever you want?? I'm so tired of this...",,247,Koyucat,2023-11-11 23:57:30 Feminism,17t3mp1,I can't imaging caring so much what someone else wears. Especially undergarment.,"Cross-post. Don't even know own why this popped up as recommended for me but I'm disgusted by a lot of the comments, from all genders. A bra isn't a requirement and if someone looks, bra or not, it's not the individual's 'fault'. Socialization also isn't an excuse to not change over something so petty. So how do we all feel personally, and in woder scope about 'requiring' a bra for work and promotions and somehow co-workers talking about your boobs behind you back as something the woman is at fault for? Cause I can't see their logic. -https://www.reddit.com/r/work/s/dU4QO86siH",,183,Yunan94,1699736083.0 +https://www.reddit.com/r/work/s/dU4QO86siH",,183,Yunan94,2023-11-11 20:54:43 Feminism,17szc0i,Plastic surgery & feminism,"This concept is not new, this conversation has been had for a decade - but I’m writing an article on it. Please let me know your thoughts and opinions on how plastic surgery/social media filters/facetune/makeup/botox/fillers/etc relate to feminism. Is it harmful? Is it done for the woman herself? Where are these concepts coming from? Who created these beauty standards? Who’s paying for them? What about the girls of the future? Etc. -Thanks ☮️",,50,Jazzlike-Mammoth-167,1699724040.0 -Feminism,17sems3,"Today we will talking about the mischaracterization of women in anime, and how that perpetuates misogyny in the anime/manga community",,https://i.redd.it/t51huz4rblzb1.jpg,945,ClaireDacloush,1699652583.0 -Feminism,17sts3p,Can you suggest me some feminist series?,Hello i'm sorry if this is not the right place for this post but can you suggest me some feminist series to watch? I prefer comedy if possible. Tysm!,,55,SagaAlvane,1699707230.0 +Thanks ☮️",,50,Jazzlike-Mammoth-167,2023-11-11 17:34:00 +Feminism,17sems3,"Today we will talking about the mischaracterization of women in anime, and how that perpetuates misogyny in the anime/manga community",,https://i.redd.it/t51huz4rblzb1.jpg,945,ClaireDacloush,2023-11-10 21:43:03 +Feminism,17sts3p,Can you suggest me some feminist series?,Hello i'm sorry if this is not the right place for this post but can you suggest me some feminist series to watch? I prefer comedy if possible. Tysm!,,55,SagaAlvane,2023-11-11 12:53:50 Feminism,17t3jym,Kids' Groups Ideas?,"Hi All! &#x200B; -If this doesn't belong here, all apologies! My 9-year-old niece is looking for ways to ""destroy the patriarchy."" She has a lot of raw emotion about it since she's been trying to work through and understand it more, and we think it would be good for her to turn that into positive action. She wants to go to protests (which is the easy part since we live in LA), but she also wants to find a group of girls her age who are involved. Does anyone know of organizations that run programs for pre-teens? Thanks!",,12,Critical_Course9672,1699735864.0 +If this doesn't belong here, all apologies! My 9-year-old niece is looking for ways to ""destroy the patriarchy."" She has a lot of raw emotion about it since she's been trying to work through and understand it more, and we think it would be good for her to turn that into positive action. She wants to go to protests (which is the easy part since we live in LA), but she also wants to find a group of girls her age who are involved. Does anyone know of organizations that run programs for pre-teens? Thanks!",,12,Critical_Course9672,2023-11-11 20:51:04 Feminism,17smht6,Husband and Slut Shaming,"So I'll start off saying there's been a few situations that have sort of given me some sexual trauma in our relationship and put a strain on us. One of the main ones that I called my husband out on tonight is his shaming of my ""number"". I'm more experienced than him and since the start of our relationship struggles with sex he's used this as something to shame me with in a variety of ways. Getting angry for example when someone else had done something with me that he didn't ever get to and I personally do not enjoy. Or, telling me he would be embarrassed if others knew ""the number"".. focusing on how it was a lot and ""how crazy"" I was before I got with him. @@ -13584,8 +13584,8 @@ This mindset genuinely scares me as the past me would be shocked to know I'd mar After tonight he promised to change his mindset but only after I had essentially a speach about the above/slut shaming your wife... I'm worried that this will continue to occur. Should I be thinking about whether to stay? I'm scared to be stuck in something unhealthy. -I wish he could realize on his own accord sometimes how fucked up certain things are...it feels like I have to educate on everything and sometimes that feels like a heavy burden as a woman already living it.",,235,Confident_Bath_9072,1699675811.0 -Feminism,17t7l6j,Looking for book recommendations,"I’m looking for book recommendations with feminism themes. I saw another post looking for tv show recommendations so thought I would post here. I prefer fiction and don’t mind if it’s a little dark. I’ve already read the Handmaid’s tale, The Women Could Fly, and When Women Were Dragons.",,4,Warm_Concentrate440,1699746954.0 +I wish he could realize on his own accord sometimes how fucked up certain things are...it feels like I have to educate on everything and sometimes that feels like a heavy burden as a woman already living it.",,235,Confident_Bath_9072,2023-11-11 04:10:11 +Feminism,17t7l6j,Looking for book recommendations,"I’m looking for book recommendations with feminism themes. I saw another post looking for tv show recommendations so thought I would post here. I prefer fiction and don’t mind if it’s a little dark. I’ve already read the Handmaid’s tale, The Women Could Fly, and When Women Were Dragons.",,4,Warm_Concentrate440,2023-11-11 23:55:54 Feminism,17soh0b,Hot Take: How Fandoms treat Female vs Male Characters," Female character: Tries actively and super hard to always do the right thing and respect people's choices. Fandom: OMG She’s so boring, come back when you have a personality. @@ -13618,26 +13618,26 @@ Fandom: OMG, he is so sad, my poor baby, he deserves so much better, my heart is \#tlok korra \#korra \#rwby fandom -\#rwby character analysis ",,66,ClaireDacloush,1699683331.0 -Feminism,17sme24,"This woman survived an Honor Killing attempt and is still getting death threats. If you watch this video please be warned it has just about every single Trigger Warning one can get. Honor Killings are common in patriarchal societies where woman are accused of ""dishonoring"" their families.",,https://i.redd.it/cug0fyxi7nzb1.png,86,ClaireDacloush,1699675444.0 -Feminism,17sw02f,Judy Chicago — museum retrospective,I recently visited the new exhibit at The New Museum in NYC : https://brightvoid.substack.com/p/reframing-art-history,,8,DojoPat,1699714361.0 -Feminism,17smuzg,Britney Spears And The Centuries-Long Tradition of Pathologizing Women's Emotions,,https://www.teenvogue.com/story/britney-spears-sexist-ideas-womens-institutionalization,53,katespadesaturday,1699677118.0 -Feminism,17sloxq,Matriarchal religion pre-dates Abrahamic religion,The Cult of the Mother-Goddess in Ancient Palestine - The University of Chicago Press: Journals https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/pdf/10.1086/474349,,21,ChildrenotheWatchers,1699673060.0 -Feminism,17sd2y4,Manipur women in naked assault video 'will not give up',,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-india-67291370,67,BurtonDesque,1699648349.0 -Feminism,17rvcyz,"We need to get people to stop thinking with this type of attitude towards women. This is too widespread, and there's too many women who get harmed as a result",,https://i.redd.it/fkz88h19zfzb1.jpg,1258,ClaireDacloush,1699587844.0 +\#rwby character analysis ",,66,ClaireDacloush,2023-11-11 06:15:31 +Feminism,17sme24,"This woman survived an Honor Killing attempt and is still getting death threats. If you watch this video please be warned it has just about every single Trigger Warning one can get. Honor Killings are common in patriarchal societies where woman are accused of ""dishonoring"" their families.",,https://i.redd.it/cug0fyxi7nzb1.png,86,ClaireDacloush,2023-11-11 04:04:04 +Feminism,17sw02f,Judy Chicago — museum retrospective,I recently visited the new exhibit at The New Museum in NYC : https://brightvoid.substack.com/p/reframing-art-history,,8,DojoPat,2023-11-11 14:52:41 +Feminism,17smuzg,Britney Spears And The Centuries-Long Tradition of Pathologizing Women's Emotions,,https://www.teenvogue.com/story/britney-spears-sexist-ideas-womens-institutionalization,53,katespadesaturday,2023-11-11 04:31:58 +Feminism,17sloxq,Matriarchal religion pre-dates Abrahamic religion,The Cult of the Mother-Goddess in Ancient Palestine - The University of Chicago Press: Journals https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/pdf/10.1086/474349,,21,ChildrenotheWatchers,2023-11-11 03:24:20 +Feminism,17sd2y4,Manipur women in naked assault video 'will not give up',,https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-india-67291370,67,BurtonDesque,2023-11-10 20:32:29 +Feminism,17rvcyz,"We need to get people to stop thinking with this type of attitude towards women. This is too widespread, and there's too many women who get harmed as a result",,https://i.redd.it/fkz88h19zfzb1.jpg,1258,ClaireDacloush,2023-11-10 03:44:04 Feminism,17s54gg,"salon: ""I am not a misogynist"": Ivanka's testimony shows how the Trumps exploit sexism to defraud people","""The whole performance relies heavily on gender stereotypes. It's the common trope of the loud-mouthed man kept in check by a stable and honest woman. Typically, the combo is a literal married couple, especially in the world of sitcoms: Archie and Edith, Fred and Wilma, Homer and Marge, etc. The loutish man becomes more sympathetic when paired with a responsible woman. Audiences are meant to think, ""How bad can he be, with her around to keep him in line?"" In reality, Ivanka was in on the con, as the Forbes journalists figured out by checking her claims next to the real world numbers. The sitcom couple routine seems to have worked, however, on investors who were snookered by the Trumps. It also works to dupe Trump supporters, who frequently point to Ivanka's alleged level-headed sincerity as proof that her father ain't so bad. It doesn't matter that she's a bad actress. These stereotypes are so ingrained in people that they don't need good fakery to believe."" -[https://www.salon.com/2023/11/10/i-am-not-a-misogynist-ivankas-testimony-shows-how-the-exploit-sexism-to-defraud-people/](https://www.salon.com/2023/11/10/i-am-not-a-misogynist-ivankas-testimony-shows-how-the-exploit-sexism-to-defraud-people/)",,147,jcgoldie,1699626385.0 +[https://www.salon.com/2023/11/10/i-am-not-a-misogynist-ivankas-testimony-shows-how-the-exploit-sexism-to-defraud-people/](https://www.salon.com/2023/11/10/i-am-not-a-misogynist-ivankas-testimony-shows-how-the-exploit-sexism-to-defraud-people/)",,147,jcgoldie,2023-11-10 14:26:25 Feminism,17ryw6l,I need help dealing with misogyny and ageism,"I cant take it anymore, even my brother is taking part in the misogynystic wave and it makes me so hopeless. he said i was too old to wear a pink corset at 22, because its anime style and that my time is up because women spoil fast, all because i showed him this corset top that i really liked [https://misscandyholic.com/products/quilted-corset-top](https://misscandyholic.com/products/quilted-corset-top) -It has me feeling so sad because since i was little ive been afraid of the pass of time and FOMO due to anxiety and not being very social. Im also taking a break from social media. Everything is getting to me, the policeman that was saying that a woman was not worth anything because she is 26... it just makes me feel so hopeless, and the worst is that ive shared it with other people and they dont give it any importance.",,295,Ilikechocolateicecre,1699601562.0 +It has me feeling so sad because since i was little ive been afraid of the pass of time and FOMO due to anxiety and not being very social. Im also taking a break from social media. Everything is getting to me, the policeman that was saying that a woman was not worth anything because she is 26... it just makes me feel so hopeless, and the worst is that ive shared it with other people and they dont give it any importance.",,295,Ilikechocolateicecre,2023-11-10 07:32:42 Feminism,17sahqg,A quick thank you to this community,"I recently posted a song clip that I was hoping to get views on for a university competition concerning women in STEM. I don’t do social media well - after a scary experience, I’ve struggled to try to feel brave enough (in fact, I ended up removing my video post here, because I felt anxious - absolutely silly, but I recognize it takes time to teach my brain I’m safe and the fix won’t happen overnight). All of that said, I wanted to sincerely thank you. My post on this community was my first attempt at confronting my fear, and not only did you leave very nice comments, but so many of you viewed my clip. It absolutely warmed my heart and made me realize that I’m on the right path in life. Thank you sincerely, from the bottom of my heart. I hope I can help empower other women and feminists just as you all have for me. -Words aren’t enough. Wishing amazing things for all of you.",,21,A_STEMinist,1699641166.0 -Feminism,17qwx44,Believe All Women — Unless They Are Jewish,,https://medium.com/the-virago/believe-all-women-unless-they-are-jewish-b30a366464f3?sk=906619bd15ceac4793a6b8d2ab224879,11,malpal12345,1699480782.0 +Words aren’t enough. Wishing amazing things for all of you.",,21,A_STEMinist,2023-11-10 18:32:46 +Feminism,17qwx44,Believe All Women — Unless They Are Jewish,,https://medium.com/the-virago/believe-all-women-unless-they-are-jewish-b30a366464f3?sk=906619bd15ceac4793a6b8d2ab224879,11,malpal12345,2023-11-08 21:59:42 Feminism,13u5hpg,I hate religion and religious people,"I'm from Bangladesh, it's majority is Muslim. Recently a ""controversy"" has been trendy about a girl being groped by her close male friend when she was asleep and sick beside him in the bus during their return from vacation with friend group. All the men and women are blaming the girl why she went alone as a girl without family and with guy friends. They're also slutshaming her about her dress up, saying she deserved it as she wears western clothes (Normal t-shirt and jeans can be controversial in my country in some conservative areas) People are making memes about her trauma. @@ -13648,7 +13648,7 @@ This is a religion of scum which teaches men to be violent and women to be slave Please don't say I'm islamophobe, I am an exmuslim. I have suffered for 25 years and still suffering from this virus. -Sorry for venting.",,2186,peparonipizza,1685293514.0 +Sorry for venting.",,2186,peparonipizza,2023-05-28 17:05:14 marriedredpill,acvzgx,Steel's Guide to Married Red Pill,"*“This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back. You take the blue pill - the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill - you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes.” – Morpheus* @@ -14004,7 +14004,7 @@ Gilded MRP Posts - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/gilded/ You might ask yourself – why do these guys keep saying read the sidebar? - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/7ewrwd/why_do_we_keep_hearing_the_redundant_read_the/ [(A)](http://archive.is/jqBIB) -###[Next Part](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/acvzgx/steels_guide_to_married_red_pill/edb8ik7/)",,522,SteelSharpensSteel,1546708491.0 +###[Next Part](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/acvzgx/steels_guide_to_married_red_pill/edb8ik7/)",,522,SteelSharpensSteel,2019-01-05 17:14:51 marriedredpill,1aejou2,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 30, 2024","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -14013,7 +14013,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,6,AutoModerator,1706603408.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,6,AutoModerator,2024-01-30 08:30:08 marriedredpill,19djslk,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 23, 2024","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -14022,7 +14022,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,1705998609.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,2024-01-23 08:30:09 marriedredpill,197y2wq,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 16, 2024","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -14031,7 +14031,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,1705393807.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,2024-01-16 08:30:07 marriedredpill,194huh1,How to fix sex in your marriage,"You don't. That's it. That's the thread. @@ -14097,7 +14097,7 @@ Nobody cares. Do the work first. &nbsp; -That's it. That's the thread. I'm keeping it short because yes, I am aware of the subtleties and the various other topics that surround this (frame, game, shit tests blah blah). It's simple, but it's not easy. But that's how it works. If you find yourself writing in your OYS that 'I'm trying to fix sex' or 'I tried to fix sex', or 'How do I fix sex', then this thread is to remind you that you've missed the fucking point.",,126,threekindsoflucky,1705020742.0 +That's it. That's the thread. I'm keeping it short because yes, I am aware of the subtleties and the various other topics that surround this (frame, game, shit tests blah blah). It's simple, but it's not easy. But that's how it works. If you find yourself writing in your OYS that 'I'm trying to fix sex' or 'I tried to fix sex', or 'How do I fix sex', then this thread is to remind you that you've missed the fucking point.",,126,threekindsoflucky,2024-01-12 00:52:22 marriedredpill,192v9ql,How To Get Jacked - A Beginner To Advanced Guide,"I'm a Reddit noob so you'll have to deal with my shitty formatting. **Everyone at one point has asked the question ""How do I get jacked"" or ""What's the best program"".** @@ -14168,7 +14168,7 @@ Such an individual is unquestionably jacked, in or out of clothes (if you have t **3b)** Fortitude Training. Can be run for the rest of your life. -**4)** Get a coach or maintain what you have and find some different hobbies, fuck. Intrasexual competition should not be taken to extremes unless you are a fucking weirdo like me - even then, it is not advisable.",,55,BecomingABetterMan1,1704848344.0 +**4)** Get a coach or maintain what you have and find some different hobbies, fuck. Intrasexual competition should not be taken to extremes unless you are a fucking weirdo like me - even then, it is not advisable.",,55,BecomingABetterMan1,2024-01-10 00:59:04 marriedredpill,192a0ji,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 09, 2024","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -14177,7 +14177,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,1704789008.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,2024-01-09 08:30:08 marriedredpill,18wkm3u,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 02, 2024","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -14186,7 +14186,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,1704184208.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,2024-01-02 08:30:08 marriedredpill,18twaj0,Field Report: The Interview,"I discovered MRP about three months ago. I have been working on internalizing the sidebar and owning my shit ever since. It's not very long, and I still make plenty mistakes, but the early results have been good. One of my goals was to learn to be more sexually dominant. This FR contains some notes from my progress. ##Background @@ -14235,7 +14235,7 @@ You're reading MRP because, like me, you've experienced sexual frustration and c * Make up your own rules in advance. I purposefully left most of mine out of the story because they're particular to our relationship and personal kinks. * Remember DEVI and avoid crass nonsense. ""I shall always distend my butthole on command"" might add to D but subtracts from E and I. * Don't skimp on the dress code. Women are usually more attuned to clothing than men. Wearing a hot pencil skirt vs. her normal blue jeans might take the scene to a whole new level. -* For the scene to flow naturally it's more important to know ""who you are"" than to know exactly what you will do. Try these writing prompts: ""When I am dominant, I am..."" and ""When I am dominant, I want...""",,42,vitrael2,1703880953.0 +* For the scene to flow naturally it's more important to know ""who you are"" than to know exactly what you will do. Try these writing prompts: ""When I am dominant, I am..."" and ""When I am dominant, I want...""",,42,vitrael2,2023-12-29 20:15:53 marriedredpill,18r3lts,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 26, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -14244,12 +14244,12 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,8,AutoModerator,1703579407.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,8,AutoModerator,2023-12-26 08:30:07 marriedredpill,18qzwjs,Is it bad your (ex) wife started dating so soon?,"After reading the monkey branching post and digesting some of the red pill material in this sub, I get the idea that women will hardly date down - they wont break up with you to date someone lower level. So if women move from one relationship to another quickly does that mean: they found someone better than you; you werent as high value as you shouldve been; sometimes women seek new thrills and emotions, specially if young/detached; doesnt necessarily mean shit. -Curious about this topic. Has anyone ever got dumped for somebody else?",,14,RedditSucks369,1703565683.0 +Curious about this topic. Has anyone ever got dumped for somebody else?",,14,RedditSucks369,2023-12-26 04:41:23 marriedredpill,18mq6ey,60 DoD: Social Remediation,"Gentlemen, the year is drawing to a close, and so is 60 Days of Dread. It’s been an eventful two months for some of you, and today you’re going to learn to **create an amazing social life so that your wife will finally want to have sex with you**. @@ -14369,7 +14369,7 @@ You made it to the bottom of this wall of text. Now share your plans below in t I’ve listed several scenarios here and given my high-level advice, for what it’s worth. If you don’t like my advice or you have a different scenario I didn’t cover, ask below. -Remember that you’re not special, and that is a good thing here. Most people out there want more social interaction, more and deeper friendships, exactly like you. They are aching for someone to come talk to them, invite them to stuff. **Be that someone.** If you’re that someone often enough, you’ll quickly find yourself so busy with social engagements that you have to start turning down invitations. Good luck, and Happy Festivus.",,37,mrpwtf,1703062536.0 +Remember that you’re not special, and that is a good thing here. Most people out there want more social interaction, more and deeper friendships, exactly like you. They are aching for someone to come talk to them, invite them to stuff. **Be that someone.** If you’re that someone often enough, you’ll quickly find yourself so busy with social engagements that you have to start turning down invitations. Good luck, and Happy Festivus.",,37,mrpwtf,2023-12-20 08:55:36 marriedredpill,18lx3yb,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 19, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -14378,7 +14378,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,7,AutoModerator,1702974608.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,7,AutoModerator,2023-12-19 08:30:08 marriedredpill,18lb6ym,[FR] I met the hamster,"I arranged a night out with my oldest friends this weekend, we’ve not seen each other for a while so the start time ended up being 2pm, so quite early, I had a few casual questions tossed my way, softballs that I was easily able to bat back. I'm sure this pales in comparison to some stories on here, but it's one of the first times I've been able to realise when the hamster starts spinning that wheel, and purposely decide to fuck with it a little to see what happens, a quite clear and obvious response to making a change as small as wearing a fucking shirt to meet your mates. The hamster starts to wonder why, who's he meeting? who's he off out with again? @@ -14429,7 +14429,7 @@ I carried on getting ready, ironed my shit, shortly after: I looked good, I know it, she knows it, the hamster knows it. The gorgeous blond mother/daughter I spent a while chatting to, (while my mates propped up a phone at the fucking bar and watched a football match) knew it too. -Fully shit tested the next day for not responding to her the entire time I was out, ok so maybe I should have answered the repeat phone calls at 11pm after being out of touch for 11 hours, but hey, my phone was in my jacket on silent as I was making sure to be present with my friends.",,35,takeoutcoffee,1702912831.0 +Fully shit tested the next day for not responding to her the entire time I was out, ok so maybe I should have answered the repeat phone calls at 11pm after being out of touch for 11 hours, but hey, my phone was in my jacket on silent as I was making sure to be present with my friends.",,35,takeoutcoffee,2023-12-18 15:20:31 marriedredpill,18gijpi,"60 DOD: Week 7 Career - Understand the game, choose your purpose, gratitude for enough","# The Illusion You spend most of your waking time working. If you want to live a life of purpose and self-control, then there is no choice but to take charge of this time and find a way to make it fruitful. The very first step is control over your mindset, or frame. @@ -14482,7 +14482,7 @@ When you have enough, what will you do? Buzz Aldrin became an alcoholic after th Realize that you may have enough right now. If so, where do you go then? If you could create anything today, what would it be? -",,38,Persimmon_Dazzling,1702375357.0 +",,38,Persimmon_Dazzling,2023-12-12 10:02:37 marriedredpill,18ghbem,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 12, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -14491,7 +14491,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,12,AutoModerator,1702369809.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,12,AutoModerator,2023-12-12 08:30:09 marriedredpill,18cfa8p,60 Days of Dread: Finances,"“You make this much money, and I make this much money. How the fuck are we broke?!” This was the result of me telling my wife to handle all the finances after we got married. It wasn’t even delegation. It was pure laziness. 3 years post-wedding, I realized I was always broke and had to ask my wife for money because I gave up control of finances to her. We’ll circle back to this later. For now, I want to turn your focus toward some areas that might need your attention in order to strengthen your finances. @@ -14538,7 +14538,7 @@ There are plenty of 6-figure earners here who express some sort of financial har Thank you! -I want to know what spending cuts you’re making after you saw the overview of your entire financial picture. Let us know if there are any changes you intend to make to improve your financial position.",,44,2wo2wo3hree,1701899469.0 +I want to know what spending cuts you’re making after you saw the overview of your entire financial picture. Let us know if there are any changes you intend to make to improve your financial position.",,44,2wo2wo3hree,2023-12-06 21:51:09 marriedredpill,18b7j5n,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 05, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -14547,7 +14547,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,10,AutoModerator,1701765009.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,10,AutoModerator,2023-12-05 08:30:09 marriedredpill,186tbix,Divorced dad LTR types,"As I'm starting to date as a separated dad and looking at the pool of available women, I think about all the many different dynamics that come with single moms that play a factor in any relationship when you consider: * Age of the mom @@ -14560,7 +14560,7 @@ My ex has sunk to great depths to try to secure primary custody, while having me Lets get this out of the way, I do not see in my situation, a Rich Cooper scenario whereby I bag a single high SMV and healthy woman who will not want to cohabitate, not get married, and has written off having children of her own. This is the definition of a unicorn. (Keep in mind that Rich's ex has primary custody of his girl and they are amicable - this is not my situation.) -The only acceptable arrangement with a single mom is one where the sexes and relative ages of your children are the same, *now* throw in all the other red flags to avoid. I'd like to hear from other divorced dads who do have a successful LTR about their experiences calibrating to these different single mom sub-types.",,27,cryptus-maximus,1701274918.0 +The only acceptable arrangement with a single mom is one where the sexes and relative ages of your children are the same, *now* throw in all the other red flags to avoid. I'd like to hear from other divorced dads who do have a successful LTR about their experiences calibrating to these different single mom sub-types.",,27,cryptus-maximus,2023-11-29 16:21:58 marriedredpill,185rb7u,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 28, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -14569,7 +14569,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,1701160208.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,2023-11-28 08:30:08 marriedredpill,182wbqc,Back after 8 years,"Backstory: My wife and I are early 40s, 3 school-age kids, suburban professionals. I hit a low point on all fronts in my life \~8 years ago. Typical story - lack of leadership, dead bedroom, aimless going through the motions in life. I found this and other resources (Rational Male blog was my favorite) and turned things around. Current Situation: Things are firing on all cylinders, but always room for improvement. The trend has been up over the last 8 years, but there has been regressions from time to time. Rome wasn’t built in a day. In the spirit of giving back, here’s some of my practical guidance/advice on what’s worked for me. Your mileage may vary. I see a lot of friends struggling in their marriages and this is the advice I give them. @@ -14599,7 +14599,7 @@ Advice bullet-points: * Break your routines from time to time - “Why is he up at 6am on a Sunday?” * Always have a personal goal you’re working toward - fitness, learning a skill, learning a language, coding, building something * Lastly, this is a journey not a destination. This is simple but not easy. -",,251,Ok_Independence_7077,1700844384.0 +",,251,Ok_Independence_7077,2023-11-24 16:46:24 marriedredpill,180ccz4,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 21, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -14608,7 +14608,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,1700555408.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,2023-11-21 08:30:08 marriedredpill,17wzkm6,60 Days of Dread: Style,"In looking at past years' 60 DoD about style, the focus was usually on clothing, shoes, and accessories, which I'll call ""fashion."" They covered the issue well, especially [this one](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/g7drug/60_dod_2020_week_4_style_got_chucks_on_with_saint/), so I'm going to be brief regarding fashion. *Fashion you can buy, but style you possess. The key to style is learning who you are, which takes years. There's no how-to road map to style. It's about self expression and, above all, attitude.* —Iris Apfel @@ -14727,7 +14727,7 @@ This should be obvious. * How you Carry Yourself * Address posture (antlers) * Practice sustaining eye contact - * Move like a fucking jungle cat, not the nervous prey. ",,41,FutileFighter,1700174107.0 + * Move like a fucking jungle cat, not the nervous prey. ",,41,FutileFighter,2023-11-16 22:35:07 marriedredpill,17uxvp6,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 14, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -14736,7 +14736,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,1699950610.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,2023-11-14 08:30:10 marriedredpill,17rf20p,60 DoD: Hygiene,"I'm not going to reinvent the wheel here. You smell. Your balls reek. Your clothes suck. If a girl can smell the shit caked in your ass crack it doesn't matter how smooth your game is or how shredded you are, your approach is going to suffer - and unless your wife is a total freak the perfume of smegma eminating from your crotch will stop you from getting a BJ 10/10 times. Without further ado 60 DoD: Hygiene. @@ -14817,7 +14817,7 @@ It is an important balancing act to manage in the pursuit of building frame, one You are allowed to value what other people think, as a matter of fact it is incredibly important to value it. You simply learn to use those opinions as information, rather than as iron-clad rules of right and wrong. -Here is the real cheat code: The easiest way to start off on a good foot with someone is to be clean, fit, relatively manicured and well dressed, to smell good, and to smile with clean teeth. Everything else comes after. So go wash your balls.",,80,Praexology,1699542605.0 +Here is the real cheat code: The easiest way to start off on a good foot with someone is to be clean, fit, relatively manicured and well dressed, to smell good, and to smile with clean teeth. Everything else comes after. So go wash your balls.",,80,Praexology,2023-11-09 15:10:05 marriedredpill,17ppruw,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 07, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -14826,7 +14826,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,1699345808.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,2023-11-07 08:30:08 marriedredpill,17m24lt,60 Days of Dread Week 2: Eating for Health and Fitness,"*“Let those who think they are big, remind themselves that they are too small yet for body dysmorphia to have set in.”* @@ -14980,7 +14980,7 @@ Don’t forget you are not just slapping on fat: you are increasing your total m Using this method you can get 90% of where you’ll ever get to in 12-18 months. From there I let my weight gradually drift up and about twice a year dial things in to lean out, in a similar but less structured way to above. I also branched out in training rather than eek out another S/B/D PR semi annually, which imo results in a better physique, strength and lower risk of injury. -[Tell me. Have you tried trying?](https://www.reddit.com/r/gainit/s/ZqhEXjimVi)",,26,[deleted],1698927296.0 +[Tell me. Have you tried trying?](https://www.reddit.com/r/gainit/s/ZqhEXjimVi)",,26,[deleted],2023-11-02 12:14:56 marriedredpill,17lcwvo,Wife wants to go out with no explanation,"Currently in process of reading through side bar, watched all BPP stuff and reading No More Mr. Nice Guy now. And I’m currently lifting as well. Been doing this for about 3 weeks to a month now. Last night I took the kids trick or treating after taking photos while wife stayed home to give you candy. We ate dinner and put the kids to sleep and then went to the bedroom. @@ -14991,12 +14991,12 @@ Today I went to work and now she asks me to be home on time today, says she want I asked where she was going and she said “out” and I just said did my best to NGAF and say okay. Any advice on what I need to do to handle this, or is just not worrying about it the best option? -Edit: You guys are mostly saying why I didn’t just post the pic. I thought it was a shit test, but I see now that I misread the situation and acted like an idiot. Thanks for the advice.",,44,woo199112,1698847561.0 +Edit: You guys are mostly saying why I didn’t just post the pic. I thought it was a shit test, but I see now that I misread the situation and acted like an idiot. Thanks for the advice.",,44,woo199112,2023-11-01 14:06:01 marriedredpill,17lg4v2,There’s no alpha/beta dichotomy,"People are very careful to explain how it’s necessary to balance alpha and beta characteristics while maintaining a LTR. This totally makes sense, especially if you’re serious about passing shit tests and comfort tests. However, there’s another way to look at being an “alpha” male. From what I know from my studies in other walks of life, the concept of the alpha male comes from Franz Van der Waal when he studied chimpanzee troops. He distinguishes the alpha male chimp as the “empathizer in chief”. If you think of it this way, there’s nothing “beta” about providing comfort to your woman when she’s looking for comfort. Providing comfort comes from your ability to be empathic, which is an inherently strong trait. A true alpha male isn’t necessarily the biggest, baddest, scariest dude ever. He’s simply the one who is in tune with what the family needs, and strong enough to provide what is necessary in any given circumstance. This can definitely manifest as gentleness, playfulness, and concern. -It’s basically a semantic distinction, but I think it’s hard for us to behave in certain ways out of fear of being a beta. I find it helpful to remember what I learned about the alpha male concept from the chimp guy.",,24,itsyourbirthdayz,1698856403.0 +It’s basically a semantic distinction, but I think it’s hard for us to behave in certain ways out of fear of being a beta. I find it helpful to remember what I learned about the alpha male concept from the chimp guy.",,24,itsyourbirthdayz,2023-11-01 16:33:23 marriedredpill,17kg994,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 31, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15005,7 +15005,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,10,AutoModerator,1698741009.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,10,AutoModerator,2023-10-31 08:30:09 marriedredpill,17hqdb3,60 Days of Dread Week 1: Lifting for life,"Why hello there @@ -15116,13 +15116,13 @@ That’s it. That's all I got for you. [When life gives you lemons, use them to -Drop your own personal excuses ITT and myself and fellow bona bro scientists u/alpha_wolflord9 u/Cam_winston21 and u/Becomingabetterman1 will give you tailored and conflicting advice for the next 60 days.",,58,[deleted],1698421222.0 +Drop your own personal excuses ITT and myself and fellow bona bro scientists u/alpha_wolflord9 u/Cam_winston21 and u/Becomingabetterman1 will give you tailored and conflicting advice for the next 60 days.",,58,[deleted],2023-10-27 15:40:22 marriedredpill,17gyko3,One year field report,"One year field report of the MRP. Been here for a year and time to move on but on the way out going to give a field report of how things went. The wheels flew off two years ago when I got the I love you but I can’t do this anymore and I need some time. She moved out and divorce papers came a week later. After a three month separation she moved back in and reconciled. Before she moved back in she admitted to going on a few dates during our separation but after figuring out shit didn’t add up I went through her phone and found the worst case scenario. Not only did I find out how many other guys she slept with and what they did in detail but also how she felt about me. The point being I started from worse then fucked. I wanted to keep the family together blamed myself and wanted to live the Disney fantasy so I stayed. For the year following I tried to be the best beta. I worked less, help around the house more, took her on more vacations, went to counseling and basically gave into everything she told me she wanted, but something was still off. Sex went from once a month to once a week but I didn’t feel any desire. It was like she was staying out of guilt and because I was doing everything, she told me she wanted. She was depressed and anxious and would tell me it was a mistake to come back. A year ago I found the MRP here is how it went. Started with reading the sidebar and shortly after started lifting. Here is what I learned. The things that were game changers were frame, outcome independence, being attractive and having the skill to create attraction. You can read all you want and the info contained in the side bar is gold but you still have to implement it. There is a lot of faking it till you make it but if you don’t fake it you won’t make it. It takes a lot of trial and error to master passing shit test and as you change and the dread kicks in they will come with greater frequency. There was a lot of anger and hamstring on my part. Lifting was probably more valuable mentally then it was physically. Nothing changes until you are in your frame and are outcome independent. It took hitting the nuke button and a main event for me to finally get there. Today I have a pleasant non anxious non depressed wife that likes having sex with me. This is what worked for me. Before the MRP the stay plan was to give her whatever she wanted to try to make her happy. After the MRP the stay plan was the go plan. I was faking this at first but after enough faking it became natural. The bad thing was I was basically so fucked when I started it was laughable, the good thing was I had nothing to lose. With this nothing to lose attitude I eventually had no fear and living in my frame became easier over time. Over my 20 year marriage she threatened divorce regularly and I always gave into demands. The last time she threatened to leave I hit the nuke button and meant it. She had to beg me to stay instead of the other way around. This changed I the game and now I am the prize. Now she couldn’t imagine living without me and I would be comfortable leaving. I found this place after a google search on if your marriage can survive after infidelity. The prevailing advice on the MRP was no. This is how I eventually handled the situation. My hamster ran for a long time and when I was faking it I could put on a appearance that it didn’t affect me but it did. Lifting helped a lot with this. If my hamster was running I just lifted until I was so tired my hamster gave up. I eventually became outcome independent and stopped giving a fuck. What if she left me, good I can go out and upgrade. What if she cheated again, good I now have free range to go spin plates. Can I trust her to not do that again no but who cares one door shuts another one opens. When I thought about the texts I read between her and other men the hamster would go into overdrive. I had a Madonna whore complex for quite a while. At some point I stopped putting her on a pedestal and made the decision to not worry about it and to make her my whore. I used to hamster about why did she do things with them that she never did with me. The honest answer is because I didn’t ask out of fear and shame and she simply wasn’t attracted to me. Without these barriers today I do whatever I want. I make her fulfill my fantasies and to my surprise she rarely says no. My advice for guys that are as fucked as I once was. Decide what you want. Read the sidebar to give you the skill to go get that. Do the work until you achieve outcome independence and live in your frame. Adopt the nothing to lose mentality. On paper I do have a lot to lose. I have a mid 7 figure net worth and 4 kids. I could lose half of both. Although I would rather not lose half of both I would do it in a heartbeat if it meant going back to the way things were before. None of that shit is worth anything if you aren’t living the way you want. The funny thing is I probably have less risk of that happening now vs before. -",,80,dmk078,1698332701.0 +",,80,dmk078,2023-10-26 15:05:01 marriedredpill,17f7ykv,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 24, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15131,7 +15131,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,8,AutoModerator,1698136210.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,8,AutoModerator,2023-10-24 08:30:10 marriedredpill,17bygnk,FR: Weddings Are Fun,"(HUGE EDIT: No! This is not my own wedding.) This wedding was highly anticipated, with about 125 guests in a nice suburban outdoor venue. My wife, who is part of the bridal party bought two green dresses and expressed her desire match colors with me by asking if I had anything green and “wedding casual” to wear, since it’s outdoors. I STFU about it for weeks. @@ -15160,7 +15160,7 @@ After the BJ, we went back outside to socialize. I found it quite amusing to see I hope you saw that this is not a wedding story or a blowjob story. This story is about frame. It’s about dread. It’s about passing shit tests. It’s about social status. It’s about preselection. It’s about game. It’s about being attractive. -I’ll close with this… I had a somber moment after I saw how happy the groom was. It was somber because I knew that on the very next day, there will be no DJ, no cake, no party, balloons, friends, etc. He’s going to be alone, asking himself what the fuck happened and how his life turned to shit.",,66,2wo2wo3hree,1697762617.0 +I’ll close with this… I had a somber moment after I saw how happy the groom was. It was somber because I knew that on the very next day, there will be no DJ, no cake, no party, balloons, friends, etc. He’s going to be alone, asking himself what the fuck happened and how his life turned to shit.",,66,2wo2wo3hree,2023-10-20 00:43:37 marriedredpill,17b8rob,FR: The Narcissist,"Last night I went to a social event, lecture and dinner. In front of me I notice a fat (excess 220 pounds) late 50s man, with what surprisingly looks like his wife or partner next to him. I can’t see their faces but I’m surprised how slender (nice ass) the wife looks from behind (I later confirm that it is his wife). When the talk is over, I get a good look. The dude is a 3. 4 if I am charitable. Massively overweight, bulging eyes, clearly a heavy drinker. He wears a jacket and a pair of jeans that help him look presentable though the awful body. He wears cologne. He looks like presentable shit. The wife is a pleasant 7, mid 30s. @@ -15181,14 +15181,14 @@ I promise you, you would not want to have dinner with this guy, he was obnoxious I have a lot to learn. -\*For clarity this was my first life encounter with someone that clearly operated by default outside of social conventions with superficial dis-regard of anyone around him. This was not someone with a big ego, this was something else. It was like being at dinner with a lesser Donald Trump.",,30,TitanUranus_88,1697683746.0 +\*For clarity this was my first life encounter with someone that clearly operated by default outside of social conventions with superficial dis-regard of anyone around him. This was not someone with a big ego, this was something else. It was like being at dinner with a lesser Donald Trump.",,30,TitanUranus_88,2023-10-19 02:49:06 marriedredpill,17au626,60 Days of Dread 2023,"Hold on to your fedoras, you simpy, squishy, swashbucklers. I have arranged for 8 weeks of specific behavioral spoon-feeding to start around the end of this month (Thursday October 26) and wrap up before we celebrate ~~capitalism~~ Christmas. You will have the opportunity to submit yourselves to the instructions of those accomplishing the things you dream about while you fall asleep each night. This has the potential to rapidly advance how attractive you are and mitigate how unattractive you are. I will be looking for you to address these posts each week in OYS. Those of you who fail to do anything productive with it will find a ban in your stocking on Dec 25th. -&#x200B;",,53,ragnar_Daneskjold,1697644721.0 +&#x200B;",,53,ragnar_Daneskjold,2023-10-18 15:58:41 marriedredpill,17a5k6u,[FR] Coconut Oil Spa,"The Coconut Oil Spa. This FR is for noobs like me. This was my first experiment with DEVI, with great success. Might not work for pussies and absolute beta bitches. But nut up, noobs. @@ -15207,7 +15207,7 @@ Context: My wife is coming off a hard miscarriage, with hospitalization. Dr. s Next Couple Weeks: Multilple references to MeLuvYouLongTime in conversation. Experience repeated with less fanfare (no request sheet or candles). Same good result. -TL; DR: Noobs, don't underestimate your wife's desire to play. I did.",,17,RobertTheBruce1329,1697568570.0 +TL; DR: Noobs, don't underestimate your wife's desire to play. I did.",,17,RobertTheBruce1329,2023-10-17 18:49:30 marriedredpill,179tksg,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15216,7 +15216,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,7,AutoModerator,1697531409.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,7,AutoModerator,2023-10-17 08:30:09 marriedredpill,174g3fk,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 10, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15225,7 +15225,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,1696926609.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,2023-10-10 08:30:09 marriedredpill,16yukid,[FR] MRP explains my entire marriage,"Putting things in an alpha/beta context explains my entire marriage. Writing it out in case it helps anyone else, as it feels so textbook that it’s almost a meme. I thought my wife had BPD at one point and was sure that she was the problem. In reality, she’s a typical woman. I, on the other hand, have changed a lot and seen exactly what happens at every step. My wife spent the first ~3 years of our relationship being intensely devoted and attracted to me. At the time, I thought she was clingy. In hindsight, I can see that it’s because I had high alpha and low beta without meaning to. I passively dreaded the crap out of this woman. Some examples: @@ -15280,7 +15280,7 @@ I’m still working on my MAP as I am new. I’ve been getting my fitness under For example, as I’m still working on my frame, sometimes I catch myself doing something (like playing guitar) and hoping she’ll think I’m cool or notice me. Nothing happens when I do that. When I genuinely am in my element and living for myself, it’s like she can immediately tell. I am doing the exact same thing on paper but my energy is different. She then starts seeking out my attention and flaunting herself. It’s almost laughable seeing the matrix for what it is. As I work on things, her attraction is slowly returning. -In short, my situation wasn’t as unique as I told myself it was. I needed to unfuck my life. She was always a symptom of what I was doing or not doing. I can either guide our ship to hell (and make her want to jump off) or to the best days she’s ever had. I looked back on texts from earlier in our relationship, and in the midst of my flakiness and immaturity, she was outright saying she’d never been so happy. Back then, we both lived in my frame. I did need to change some things, but I always needed to stay on my game and never needed to let her become the center of my life. Happy life makes for happy wife, not vice versa.",,98,mdjfodiepcklrn2,1696346082.0 +In short, my situation wasn’t as unique as I told myself it was. I needed to unfuck my life. She was always a symptom of what I was doing or not doing. I can either guide our ship to hell (and make her want to jump off) or to the best days she’s ever had. I looked back on texts from earlier in our relationship, and in the midst of my flakiness and immaturity, she was outright saying she’d never been so happy. Back then, we both lived in my frame. I did need to change some things, but I always needed to stay on my game and never needed to let her become the center of my life. Happy life makes for happy wife, not vice versa.",,98,mdjfodiepcklrn2,2023-10-03 15:14:42 marriedredpill,16ymaal,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 03, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15289,7 +15289,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,10,AutoModerator,1696321809.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,10,AutoModerator,2023-10-03 08:30:09 marriedredpill,16shzdk,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 26, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15298,7 +15298,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,1695717009.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,2023-09-26 08:30:09 marriedredpill,16qytci,Why do men supplicate and use desperation tactics 25% more than women?,"I'm reading a book called *The Evolution of Desire* and the author is discussing mate retention tactics. According to their studies, men tend to cry, beg, and do anything for the other person in order to keep them 25% more than women, despite the stereotype that women tend to be submissive. He then states that researchers don't yet know why this is the case. Of course, having swallowed the red pill, we know about dread as the true mate retention tactics that focus on being strong, decisive, and on your purpose. Anyone who has lingered here for any length of time knows that being anything your partner wants you to be is probably one of the most unattractive things you can do, not to mention incredibly unhealthy. @@ -15307,7 +15307,7 @@ If men are traditionally seen as strong, resilient, unemotional, direct, and sta From my experience and observation, women don't want a weak supplicator, they want a leader with strength, resources, provision, and stability (and this doesn't have to mean that he makes more $$ than her, these things come in many forms). -If the stereotypes about men center on strength, why do more men than women resort to weakness in relationships? Is it that many have lower SMV than their wives and they know it (at least subconsciously)? Is it that they tend towards laziness and complacency as the relationships mature? I'm not sure, but I thought I'd throw the question out there to get some feedback from the brilliant minds that occupy in this subreddit :) ",,58,Dances_With_Waves,1695564998.0 +If the stereotypes about men center on strength, why do more men than women resort to weakness in relationships? Is it that many have lower SMV than their wives and they know it (at least subconsciously)? Is it that they tend towards laziness and complacency as the relationships mature? I'm not sure, but I thought I'd throw the question out there to get some feedback from the brilliant minds that occupy in this subreddit :) ",,58,Dances_With_Waves,2023-09-24 14:16:38 marriedredpill,16ox03l,[FR] getting better and seeing results (1 month report),"I’m seeing changes lately, in myself and in my wife. My changes in the last month: - I used to try to fix her problems when she vented. Now that I am less of an idiot, I listen, throw in a lot of “that’s rough”, “what a bitch, i’d be mad too”, and similar responses. She gets that for a little while (maybe 5-10 min) and then I change her mood by turning things into a joke. For example, she was complaining about this bitchy coworker she has recently, so I let her vent and then said “babe, I’m on to you… where are we hiding the body?” when she was like “what??” I doubled down and went “mhm, sure, we’re totally not suspicious in this house” etc until she joined in. She ended up in a great mood. @@ -15322,7 +15322,7 @@ marriedredpill,16ox03l,[FR] getting better and seeing results (1 month report)," My wife initiated shower sex last night. She initiated sex the night before that, too. I initiated earlier today and she turned me down (“my stomach doesn’t feel good”) after a while of making out, and I handled it well (no butthurt). She came back to me after a few minutes, kissed me, and said she wanted to fuck later. She followed through and took it hard. She has also been way more physically and emotionally affectionate, as well as all around happier. She even got up early to do a Starbucks run for me yesterday. She’s doing more around the house, being more thoughtful, and seeking out my attention more in general. She isn’t ovulating (I’m tracking it). -More than anything, I’m way happier. I feel like a fog is clearing and I can see myself and the world beyond our marriage for the first time in a while. I realized how fucked I let my life get and how much of this has nothing to do with her. I also realized how many great things could happen in my life with or without her. She feels that light tug of the 1000 ft rope as it starts to move.",,100,mdjfodiepcklrn2,1695344851.0 +More than anything, I’m way happier. I feel like a fog is clearing and I can see myself and the world beyond our marriage for the first time in a while. I realized how fucked I let my life get and how much of this has nothing to do with her. I also realized how many great things could happen in my life with or without her. She feels that light tug of the 1000 ft rope as it starts to move.",,100,mdjfodiepcklrn2,2023-09-22 01:07:31 marriedredpill,16mleeu,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 19, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15331,7 +15331,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,1695112209.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,2023-09-19 08:30:09 marriedredpill,16glqd5,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 12, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15340,7 +15340,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,12,AutoModerator,1694507410.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,12,AutoModerator,2023-09-12 08:30:10 marriedredpill,16a19nu,Avoid arguments. Focus on your MAP.,"If you’re in a dead or lacking bedroom, you don’t have the power to survive an argument. Your spouse is essentially telling you that they don’t find you attractive as you do them. They don’t think of you as often, they don’t desire you as much. They likely have less respect for you than you do them as well. In other words, your spouse holds the power in your relationship. They are more willing to walk away. This will impact everything in your relationship. They’ll be less willing to listen or compromise. They’ll be less appreciative. They’ll have a shorter fuse, higher standards, less interest in intimacy, and less to bring to the table. You’ll seem to constantly be messing up. You may face anger, the silent treatment, neglect, and other poor treatment. They have the power. They are the prize right now, not you. They are higher value. Your treatment reflects your standing in the house. @@ -15361,7 +15361,7 @@ What you WILL NOT GET is the caring and effort of an equally interested partner. You can’t talk your way into respect and attraction. As long as that’s lacking, your needs and wants will not be treated the way you wish they would be. Your mission should be to work on yourself and then evaluate where the relationship stands after some time. See how she is treating you when you are objectively leveled up and more confident, when you have options, and when your behavior communicates that you have standards without you having to say a word. When you have equal attraction and, thus, equal footing and power in this relationship. -When you’re on this new equal footing, you may not even be dealing with the issues that hurt you so much now, or may have a different perspective on them. If you still have issues with her, you can then bring up some concerns and expect them to be taken seriously because you know your worth and so does she. However, you will do nothing but sink further by starting a serious conversation or argument from a losing position, no matter how you feel or why. Focus on you and STFU.",,205,mdjfodiepcklrn2,1693855336.0 +When you’re on this new equal footing, you may not even be dealing with the issues that hurt you so much now, or may have a different perspective on them. If you still have issues with her, you can then bring up some concerns and expect them to be taken seriously because you know your worth and so does she. However, you will do nothing but sink further by starting a serious conversation or argument from a losing position, no matter how you feel or why. Focus on you and STFU.",,205,mdjfodiepcklrn2,2023-09-04 19:22:16 marriedredpill,16aih23,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 05, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15370,7 +15370,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,1693902611.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,2023-09-05 08:30:11 marriedredpill,164cmhk,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 29, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15379,7 +15379,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1693297811.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2023-08-29 08:30:11 marriedredpill,15xzh7l,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 22, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15388,7 +15388,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1692693009.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2023-08-22 08:30:09 marriedredpill,15wj99n,Outcome independence,"Outcome independence means knowing who you are. It's not important to me to do that because I know who I am. I'm writing mainly for anyone who wants outcome independence. @@ -15411,7 +15411,7 @@ Until you know who you are in this way the elephant always has you. But if you c I want every man here to find that sense somewhere in himself or in the world. Something past an achievement and goal. It doesn't have to be correct, but it's probably unique to you. Something you touch that helps you remember that this is all not so serious. If you can remember. -The only things is it can't be the elephant. ",,0,SecretVillage5726,1692556908.0 +The only things is it can't be the elephant. ",,0,SecretVillage5726,2023-08-20 18:41:48 marriedredpill,15sdoip,FR: Getting Caught,"In 2019, I was deep in a long term affair with another (married) woman as a source of instant gratification and external validation I wasn’t getting at home. This affair was regular and consistent for 2.5 years but I’ve always made it clear to the other woman that I would not leave my family and neither should she. I found MRP before it all came crashing down. I read through the sidebar, lurked around, and collected knowledge but never applied anything until my affair was discovered. @@ -15449,7 +15449,7 @@ As for me, my accumulated personal growth had the collateral result of my wife d My affair used to be a huge hawk hovering around my marriage. These days, it’s merely a little fly that buzzes every blue moon. A non-issue. I revived my marriage through MRP, OYS, and not surrendering my balls. -If you get anything out of this other than trying not to have an affair. I hope you don’t surrender you balls over something as stupid as getting caught doing something waaaayyy more forgivable than what I’ve done.",,83,2wo2wo3hree,1692155024.0 +If you get anything out of this other than trying not to have an affair. I hope you don’t surrender you balls over something as stupid as getting caught doing something waaaayyy more forgivable than what I’ve done.",,83,2wo2wo3hree,2023-08-16 03:03:44 marriedredpill,15rmnbh,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 15, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15458,7 +15458,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,15,AutoModerator,1692088208.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,15,AutoModerator,2023-08-15 08:30:08 marriedredpill,15nbze3,FR: 18 Months Post-Nuke,"There's nothing new here, I just wanted to put some notes out there to solidify some lessons I've learned while being here... **Background** @@ -15541,7 +15541,7 @@ I still have plenty of gaping weaknesses and blind spots. I still can't walk pas &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,80,CreatineCapsule,1691672654.0 +&#x200B;",,80,CreatineCapsule,2023-08-10 13:04:14 marriedredpill,15lbzuc,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 08, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15550,7 +15550,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,1691483408.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,2023-08-08 08:30:08 marriedredpill,15f6ew8,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 01, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15559,7 +15559,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1690878610.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2023-08-01 08:30:10 marriedredpill,15928ht,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 25, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15568,7 +15568,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,12,AutoModerator,1690273809.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,12,AutoModerator,2023-07-25 08:30:09 marriedredpill,152sk97,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 18, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15577,7 +15577,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,1689669009.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,2023-07-18 08:30:09 marriedredpill,15236bw,Cuddles ain't free,"There was an OYS comment that sparked some discussion with some vets in a secret smart dudes server, which was: *""Cuddles ain't free.""* @@ -15610,7 +15610,7 @@ Cuddles are required. Just be open and loving. **I would never deny my woman so This should be your mentality. You must kill your current model or it will drive you absolutely insane trying to do the same shit and expecting different results. [Here are a plethora of notes from me on cuddles](https://www.reddit.com/search/?q=author%3Ahornsofapathy%20cuddles&type=comment), (link must be read on new Reddit) often pointing out to OYS posters where they are falling down if you want more material. -Cuddles are needy, required, and still in your frame. Strength, motherfuckers.",,68,HornsOfApathy,1689603298.0 +Cuddles are needy, required, and still in your frame. Strength, motherfuckers.",,68,HornsOfApathy,2023-07-17 14:14:58 marriedredpill,1529lhw,Three Levels of Identity,"Our Brain works by forming neurological pathways, the more we use those pathways, the more they solidify and more ""shorter"" they become. And since our brains are lazy and want to conserve energy, they take the shortest neurological path to figure out the solution to a problem. Another point to remember is our brain works through association. If you are asked to remember something, your mind will go blank, but if you are given the task to remember something about an apple, your mind will get flooded with images of apple, with its taste, with its smell, maybe you will remember biting into insect that had made that apple its home and that will make you feel sick, and then you may remember the time you were sick etc. This is your brain working in action from one neural path to another always taking the shortest path. But what happens when it is faced with scenarios that it a has not faced before, brain works the same way, it takes shortest neurological pathway to solve the problem, the difference is what those pathways are. **And those neural pathways form your identity.** @@ -15659,12 +15659,12 @@ Should I go and talk to that beautiful woman, I mean I have very bad approach an That's when your mind is in your control. **When you can frame your reality around you according to your own vision, that's when you truly become your own mental point of origin.** -That's when you are truly free.",,24,[deleted],1689617950.0 +That's when you are truly free.",,24,[deleted],2023-07-17 18:19:10 marriedredpill,151polu,What are the origins of the red pill?,"Can someone please point me in the direction of information or a breakdown of the origins evolution of the red pill? Lately on YouTube, I have heard some people clumsily explain what they think the origins of the red pill is... it doesn't seem to add up. I searched the topic in this sub and couldn't find anything. Years ago I had found a really good breakdown of the origins of the red pill by Rian Stone, however I can't seem to find that video anymore. -Thanks for your help.",,15,Dimitri_Ostende,1689562493.0 +Thanks for your help.",,15,Dimitri_Ostende,2023-07-17 02:54:53 marriedredpill,14wl9jg,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 11, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15673,7 +15673,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,1689064209.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,2023-07-11 08:30:09 marriedredpill,14rma7w,Stop letting people treat you like shit,"It's great to learn how to lead your family, and get in shape... but a lot of the guys on here miss the most important aspect of frame, something even more basic and more important than everything else: Stop letting people treat you like shit. @@ -15690,7 +15690,7 @@ You: (look her steady in the eye) I can see that you are upset, but it's not ok Calmly focus only on her being disrespectful until she can raise a concern in a respectful way. Always bring the conversation back to that and refuse to address any other points she raises, until she can manage to be respectful first. This is not to win the argument, but to have some respect for yourself, regardless of the effect on her. Your goal isn't to keep trying things to get her to respond a certain way- hopefully she is able to stop treating you like shit, but if not you will eventually find someone else that can, and be better off anyways. -A few years back I sidebar'd and lifted to the point where I was winning strength competitions and could fog/broken record like a pro, yet my marriage still went to absolute shit. I told myself, in the back of my head, that leaving was never an option because of the potential impact on my son, and because of that, my other efforts were for naught. Ultimately, I decided a doormat dad was worse than a divorced dad, left, and I've never been happier, and my son is thriving with a dad that is present in a way I never was before. The two of us love doing strength competitions together, and I met an awesome woman that does them with us.",,106,[deleted],1688588754.0 +A few years back I sidebar'd and lifted to the point where I was winning strength competitions and could fog/broken record like a pro, yet my marriage still went to absolute shit. I told myself, in the back of my head, that leaving was never an option because of the potential impact on my son, and because of that, my other efforts were for naught. Ultimately, I decided a doormat dad was worse than a divorced dad, left, and I've never been happier, and my son is thriving with a dad that is present in a way I never was before. The two of us love doing strength competitions together, and I met an awesome woman that does them with us.",,106,[deleted],2023-07-05 20:25:54 marriedredpill,14q99k0,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 04, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15699,7 +15699,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,10,AutoModerator,1688459411.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,10,AutoModerator,2023-07-04 08:30:11 marriedredpill,14ocxwb,Hitting the gym tonight.,"I have been getting soft, fully admit it. My wife and I have been at it for weeks fighting over stupid shit, I have lost frame. @@ -15728,7 +15728,7 @@ This trigged me because she knew I was trying to put my best foot forward for th She has been mostly silent since, and it’s been driving me up the wall. -Never stop lifting, stay strong and don’t let yourself slip.",,31,BrutallyHonestUser,1688265648.0 +Never stop lifting, stay strong and don’t let yourself slip.",,31,BrutallyHonestUser,2023-07-02 02:40:48 marriedredpill,14k7rz7,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 27, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15737,7 +15737,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,12,AutoModerator,1687854609.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,12,AutoModerator,2023-06-27 08:30:09 marriedredpill,14e59w1,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 20, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -15746,7 +15746,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,7,AutoModerator,1687249810.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,7,AutoModerator,2023-06-20 08:30:10 marriedredpill,14b3of2,Become Mindful of Your Desire,"I was reading through the OYS from last week while I was on my holiday when I saw u/hornsofapathy and u/tines0 share notes about the importance of initiating only from a place of true desire. Since I have noticed the impact of this often overlooked mental model myself, I thought I’d ellaborate further. If you have read through the sidebar you know [the fallacy of seeking validation in your (sex) life](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/ab7vt5/validation_needs_that_can_poison_your_sex_life/). It might be one of the main reasons why the beta crabs of the hypergamy bucket stay far down with the masses. @@ -15757,7 +15757,7 @@ Most of us have been guilty of seeking validation in our relationship. We get th Next time the thought of fucking your woman crosses your mind, examine the thought. Give it a few moments, learn what the thought feelz like in your gut. Does the thought fill you with feelings of mild anxiety, stress and neurosis? It is highly likely that you are looking for validation. On the other hand, does the thought give you positive energy, make you excited and give you a raging boner? It is probably coming from a place of true desire. -Over time, approaching your sex life like this also changes the dynamic. You are actually approaching sex from your frame instead of poking to see if mommy still loves you. You are the prize, right? This would mean that your woman is working hard to kindle that desire and if she's not, well, you have plenty of important shit to do.",,21,forever-nomor3,1686938784.0 +Over time, approaching your sex life like this also changes the dynamic. You are actually approaching sex from your frame instead of poking to see if mommy still loves you. You are the prize, right? This would mean that your woman is working hard to kindle that desire and if she's not, well, you have plenty of important shit to do.",,21,forever-nomor3,2023-06-16 18:06:24 marriedredpill,148tweg,Attachment Theory and Applicability to MRP,"One of the key tenets here at MRP has been to just focus on yourself. STFU, lift, and sidebar, amirite. Save the man, not the marriage. Hoo rah. If you look back historically at the seduction community, such as SoSuave and alt.seduction.fast, there was more of a focus on understanding women and what makes them tick. Here at MRP, guys typically come here through some Google search about having more sex or respect from their wife (or deadbedrooms or doing a search for ILYBINILWY), they get blindsided at the info here, stop their Nice Guy behaviors using No More Mr. Nice Guy, learn how to say No to their wife after reading When I Say No I Feel Guilty, attempt to build a frame from the resources, go hit the gym in some form or fashion, autistically shut up, and generally fumble their way to a better sex life after failing over and over while the rest of us laugh at them (or crash and burn, but hey, we need a success story around here every now and then). @@ -15993,7 +15993,7 @@ News flash, this is not a cure all. Taking a moment to understand how attachment Finally, don’t go blabbing to your wife about how you are SURE that she has an avoidant attachment style and that she needs to fix that so you can have the sexy times. Wait, scratch that. Go try it. For science. And report back on how her panties dropped. All field reports welcome. -For those who are therapists or psychiatrists, and I know we have a few on the boards, I would be interested in hearing your take on things.",,87,SteelSharpensSteel,1686702459.0 +For those who are therapists or psychiatrists, and I know we have a few on the boards, I would be interested in hearing your take on things.",,87,SteelSharpensSteel,2023-06-14 00:27:39 marriedredpill,148ab2h,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 13, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16002,7 +16002,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,15,AutoModerator,1686645008.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,15,AutoModerator,2023-06-13 08:30:08 marriedredpill,1428vvk,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 06, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16011,7 +16011,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,1686040210.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,2023-06-06 08:30:10 marriedredpill,13w3knk,The SILENCE Here is DEAFENING,"We have 48,000 members. And yet week after week goes by without any new content being posted on this main sub. As I alluded to in the previous thread (by AfterDeath101), I think the reason is pretty clear. It's because there is a culture here that has grown up over the years that makes people ""gun-shy"" about sticking their neck out to post new things - for fear of the usual ""pile-on"". Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe all is well and healthy about the culture here after all. But I think we need to discuss it. As the main TRP sub itself sinks slowly into the sea, it would be nice to know that MRP is still thriving - and a great place for men to come to discuss these kinds of issues. A healthy, thriving MRP is needed today more than ever. So let's discuss why this sub has become virtually a ""post-free"" zone. Your thoughts, men? @@ -16020,7 +16020,7 @@ EDIT: Since many of my replies on this thread are now scattered by the flood of Many commenters act like I am just complaining about being ""mean"". That's not it. It's the SILENCE here that is so very telling. In other words, the culture on this board is so negative and attacking that even the VETERANS who have years of MRP experience are reluctant to post here. That's a sure sign that something is very wrong. There has to be a better way of ""coaching"" men than to yell at them and rip their heads off every time they open their mouth. -&#x200B;",,139,Aggravating_Tie4586,1685484159.0 +&#x200B;",,139,Aggravating_Tie4586,2023-05-30 22:02:39 marriedredpill,13w9gru,How to Define Your Mission: A Guide to Writing an Effective Mission Statement,"Saw a post by u/Aggravating_Tie4586 on the lack of content going around in this sub: [Here](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/13w3knk/the_silence_here_is_deafening/) So here is my attempt at what I view as a contribution. I am 8 weeks in and as new as it gets. Let the spears fly. @@ -16082,7 +16082,7 @@ Long-term example with multiple Objectives in a different format: ""*I will end Parting shots: * Revise your statement regularly. It is a living breathing sentence that should change when you make progress or have missteps. -* Sit down and think what you want. I had trouble doing this, and my first OYS missions were rife with shitty mission statements and I got a graduate degree in writing them.",,49,YDDMS,1685499425.0 +* Sit down and think what you want. I had trouble doing this, and my first OYS missions were rife with shitty mission statements and I got a graduate degree in writing them.",,49,YDDMS,2023-05-31 02:17:05 marriedredpill,13vkj8g,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 30, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16091,10 +16091,10 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,1685435410.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,2023-05-30 08:30:10 marriedredpill,13scumm,STFU on a Group Level,"Local faggot, so I have no wisdom to add here, just an observation: The continuing weekly OYS paired with the sharp decline of topic/field report posts signals a focused stfu attitude about improving. That's an interesting part of RP and especially MRP that I've surmised. To talk about it, which is feminine in nature, is not the point or the goal. Get to a place where you embody the principles and bank the intellectual resources, such that speaking is irrelevant. -Its refreshing and one of the biggest hurdles in my view, that consistency requires commitment beyond constantly commenting about the struggle. So for all the assholes still complaining and not getting on top of your shit, I say to myself, just stfu and work.",,3,AfterDeath101,1685106603.0 +Its refreshing and one of the biggest hurdles in my view, that consistency requires commitment beyond constantly commenting about the struggle. So for all the assholes still complaining and not getting on top of your shit, I say to myself, just stfu and work.",,3,AfterDeath101,2023-05-26 13:10:03 marriedredpill,13pif5v,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 23, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16103,7 +16103,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,1684830608.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,2023-05-23 08:30:08 marriedredpill,13iz6dq,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 16, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16112,7 +16112,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,1684225810.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,2023-05-16 08:30:10 marriedredpill,13cjnuz,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 09, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16121,7 +16121,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,1683621009.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,2023-05-09 08:30:09 marriedredpill,135f5a7,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16130,7 +16130,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,1683016210.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,2023-05-02 08:30:10 marriedredpill,12ycywf,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 25, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16139,7 +16139,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,33,AutoModerator,1682411409.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,33,AutoModerator,2023-04-25 08:30:09 marriedredpill,12qg2bk,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 18, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16148,7 +16148,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,1681806609.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,2023-04-18 08:30:09 marriedredpill,12id8zh,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16157,7 +16157,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1681201811.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2023-04-11 08:30:11 marriedredpill,12bctgk,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 04, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16166,7 +16166,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1680597011.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2023-04-04 08:30:11 marriedredpill,124i00h,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 28, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16175,7 +16175,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1679992210.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2023-03-28 08:30:10 marriedredpill,11xb0no,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 21, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16184,7 +16184,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1679387411.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2023-03-21 08:30:11 marriedredpill,11r0p0u,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 14, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16193,7 +16193,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,1678782611.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,2023-03-14 08:30:11 marriedredpill,11m8qll,5 year Field Report - If you can't be vulnerable your frame is shit,"It's been a minute since I added some post value to the MRP sub here, and I've always found that Field Reports provide the most. It's been about 5 years + since I found this corner of the internet. [My entire first year is chronicled](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/j3zg2a/what_a_year_of_owning_your_shit_looks_like/) here for anyone to read. I've always been a wild ride - high performance, high output, high energy and high rewards. I did the work back then, even beginning a 24/7 D/s relationship with my wife which a lot of dudes here think is some aspirational holy grail of relationships where sex is on demand and my wife is a nymphomaniac. I mean, those things are absolutely true, yes. But recently I was asked [how things were going for me now](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/117yhws/own_your_shit_weekly_february_21_2023/j9hs86g/?context=3)? @@ -16299,7 +16299,7 @@ I will be and am more centered and happy like this. It's always been the one th All of these discoveries have changed me a bit, but it's for the better. If there's one thing that remains true though: She still needs a Daddy. -Strength, motherfuckers.",,126,HornsOfApathy,1678310884.0 +Strength, motherfuckers.",,126,HornsOfApathy,2023-03-08 21:28:04 marriedredpill,11ktm8s,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 07, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16308,7 +16308,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1678177810.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2023-03-07 08:30:10 marriedredpill,11e0xli,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 28, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16317,7 +16317,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,1677573010.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,2023-02-28 08:30:10 marriedredpill,117yhws,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16326,7 +16326,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,1676968211.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,2023-02-21 08:30:11 marriedredpill,111xpv8,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16335,7 +16335,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,1676363410.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,2023-02-14 08:30:10 marriedredpill,10yx2eh,Hero Worship (or why you still don't have Frame),"We all fall victim to it in the beginning. It’s easy, we see guys in the manosphere like [insert your favorite red pill guy]. @@ -16380,7 +16380,7 @@ I will continue to make slow progress in all areas of my life. I'm proud of what You can't use MRP's Frame forever, because it's not authentic and it shows. Borrow it to get yourself on your feet, use it to take your first few steps, then put the crutch down and start walking on your own chosen path. -*Credit to u/Praexology for post collaboration*",,65,AlohaMaui808,1676048606.0 +*Credit to u/Praexology for post collaboration*",,65,AlohaMaui808,2023-02-10 17:03:26 marriedredpill,10vwtrh,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 07, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16389,7 +16389,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,15,AutoModerator,1675758610.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,15,AutoModerator,2023-02-07 08:30:10 marriedredpill,10psxtg,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16398,7 +16398,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1675153809.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2023-01-31 08:30:09 marriedredpill,10ook2e,When you Almost Die and Have Significant Medical Setbacks - Lessons,"**Background** Back in July, I had a simple surgery for a gallbladder removal. Little did I know that this would turn into a 6+ month ordeal. The surgeon made a mistake – he clipped the wrong bile duct. This led to the inability of the body to drain any bile from the liver causing severe issues. I was in severe pain, turned yellow (jaundice), had very bad liver labs spending a week in the hospital. Then I required an external biliary drain for 3 months, couldn’t lift more than 15 lbs, got an infection, spent another 5 days in the hospital, and then had countless procedures to adjust the drain over those 3 months. I finally received the ‘fix it’ surgery in early November which led to another week in the hospital. This has given me a nice 8.5” scar. Then to top it all off, *that* incision was infected and required to be re-cut open in a 2” and 1” spot in December. The final level of this… adventure… was weaning off opiods after requiring them since July to be able to semi-function normally. But I did it, I won. @@ -16439,7 +16439,7 @@ MRP gave the tools not only to 1) get the sex I want 2) be comfortable with myse Some of you know me – I’ve been through some shit in life. That’s ok – I wouldn’t have had it differently, because all those challenges, all that shit – that’s what makes me who I am. And I wouldn’t have it any other way. -Thank you to /u/hornsofapathy /u/red-sfpplus /u/inchargeman /u/bobbyperu for putting the 'dark times' in perspective.",,56,Tyred_Biggums,1675041146.0 +Thank you to /u/hornsofapathy /u/red-sfpplus /u/inchargeman /u/bobbyperu for putting the 'dark times' in perspective.",,56,Tyred_Biggums,2023-01-30 01:12:26 marriedredpill,10k0w5z,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16448,7 +16448,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,27,AutoModerator,1674549010.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,27,AutoModerator,2023-01-24 08:30:10 marriedredpill,10e73mj,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16457,7 +16457,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,1673944211.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,2023-01-17 08:30:11 marriedredpill,10d82kt,Just want to say thanks.,"You fucks can’t do what I’ve done. You can’t do what I do. I hated myself when I peaked into this sub. I needed everything contained here. Don’t need to check in for measurement. @@ -16472,7 +16472,7 @@ Stronger, better, from your own perspective is living within your own frame. I’m not in this world with you. You’re in this world with me. Good luck, fuckers. -Also, oyster caves and mushroom caps to all of you gentlemen and aspiring not quite men who need a push. You’re a weak, uninspired, spineless douche, until you realize that you aren’t. And then… no one can tell you shit. Keep growing. My pact with you, is that I won’t stop. Neither should you.",,41,Jack_Wraith,1673853311.0 +Also, oyster caves and mushroom caps to all of you gentlemen and aspiring not quite men who need a push. You’re a weak, uninspired, spineless douche, until you realize that you aren’t. And then… no one can tell you shit. Keep growing. My pact with you, is that I won’t stop. Neither should you.",,41,Jack_Wraith,2023-01-16 07:15:11 marriedredpill,10cop4e,"Me, myself and I","Women are out to fuck me. Society is out to fuck me. @@ -16513,7 +16513,7 @@ I will test myself. I will conquer myself. -I will build a legacy, for myself.",,40,red-sfpplus,1673801971.0 +I will build a legacy, for myself.",,40,red-sfpplus,2023-01-15 16:59:31 marriedredpill,1084qb6,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 10, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16522,7 +16522,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,1673339409.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,2023-01-10 08:30:09 marriedredpill,1022kgf,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 03, 2023","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16531,7 +16531,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1672734609.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2023-01-03 08:30:09 marriedredpill,zwatli,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 27, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16540,7 +16540,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,1672129811.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,2022-12-27 08:30:11 marriedredpill,zqj0ya,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 20, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16549,7 +16549,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,10,AutoModerator,1671525011.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,10,AutoModerator,2022-12-20 08:30:11 marriedredpill,zkqpqt,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 13, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16558,7 +16558,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,1670920209.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,2022-12-13 08:30:09 marriedredpill,zdlia2,A Man Walks Up To An Empty Fridge,"A man comes home from work one day. He's hungry. Not just ""I could eat something"" hungry, but ""I'd eat the fucking hind legs of a donkey"" hungry. He goes straight to the fridge. Fucking thing is empty. Shit. @@ -16581,7 +16581,7 @@ He opens up his laptop. Looks up pictures of food. Burgers, steaks, pizzas. Droo Same thing happens next day because he still hasn't done any shopping. And the next and the next. He grows resentful of the fridge. Stops looking at it because it just reminds him of what he doesn't have. And all he can think about is food. -Eventually, he dies from starvation.",,184,[deleted],1670277943.0 +Eventually, he dies from starvation.",,184,[deleted],2022-12-05 22:05:43 marriedredpill,ze0ix4,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 06, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16590,10 +16590,10 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,1670315409.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,2022-12-06 08:30:09 marriedredpill,zdj9pa,Nah This Stays,"An [example](https://www.unddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/zdgskt/engagement_immediate_shit_testsboundary_testing/) of a noteworthy slip in leadership and perspective with [a few valuable comments](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/zdgskt/engagement_immediate_shit_testsboundary_testing/). -Gentlemen the core of this place is notes and FR. The gold is almost always in the comments where a different perspective or flaw is presented. Men aren't built with attaboys. Theyre forged in challenge and adversity. Most of the world is trying to get you to believe they're holding your hand. When in reality they're just guiding you to the barrel they're going to fuck you over. While this place is an honest slap in the face. But at least there's a value trade happening. You get paid when we're done fucking you.",,41,[deleted],1670273536.0 +Gentlemen the core of this place is notes and FR. The gold is almost always in the comments where a different perspective or flaw is presented. Men aren't built with attaboys. Theyre forged in challenge and adversity. Most of the world is trying to get you to believe they're holding your hand. When in reality they're just guiding you to the barrel they're going to fuck you over. While this place is an honest slap in the face. But at least there's a value trade happening. You get paid when we're done fucking you.",,41,[deleted],2022-12-05 20:52:16 marriedredpill,zax5ro,The Second Anger Phase,"**Precursor to The Current Dude:** There's a common pattern for some men who've made their way here in their various levels of sucking, but actually stayed at it: They find MRP after living on porn, jacking off in the corner and scrolling around looking for some answers as to why his woman, who at one point in time, was all over him like there was no tomorrow, now barely looks at or touches him and only participates in an obligatory session once every week or two. Somehow he finds this little corner on the web and reads Steel's intro. He reads a couple weeks worth of OYS's and he's reading things that are only in his fantasy world of masturbation. Women actually putting in sexual effort for their men. Women actually thanking their men after sex. 'These men must be lucky to not get a broken one like I did' he thinks. Then he reads MITW's Validation Needs, then he finds Horns Depressive and Anxious Wives. He wonders, is this really a me issue? He starts using his eyes for the first time and gets angry. Very angry. But, he sees a path, puts down his lube and decides to do this because his sex life sucks and maybe there's something to this. You know the story, he gets a gym membership, shuts his mouth, shores up his mental models, rids his life of covert contracts (mostly) and is generally becoming a little more awesome...and confident...and usually social...and then goes out playing catch and release... @@ -16615,7 +16615,7 @@ He is an option. Remember the Previous Dude? He's nothing like the Current Dude. I remember that space, it was real. It was hard to think straight sometimes. I easily could've blown the whole thing up because ""I deserved better after all this work!"" I could've and I would've been fine. This is a great time to drive, with action, the sex life you want. In the spirit of trading notes, for those of you that find yourself deep in the second anger phase **and you are really unsure of what you want**, that future dude is an option. You can put that call on him until you, your new mental models and vision are at least more clear and congruent. Shed your fear and create the sex life you want and have fun. Internalize 'Good sex is your responsibility.' Be a man who fucks. See if time allows your awesomeness and her response to you catch up with each other. Maybe it won't, who knows? How long do you give it? Your call - time does have it's limits. But you may be surprised at what you find after this phase. I was - still am. -That current dude is either here now, will be here soon, or you remember him. This second anger phase will probably be the last large covert contract that dude will kill.",,71,[deleted],1670014123.0 +That current dude is either here now, will be here soon, or you remember him. This second anger phase will probably be the last large covert contract that dude will kill.",,71,[deleted],2022-12-02 20:48:43 marriedredpill,zb5yz1,No one is hypergamy proof,"No way, no no not me, I know this bitch. You do not know her that well. She is not there for good. Your life may turn around anytime even if you think you are sure you are bad ass. I’m 43 years old 6HB, I have an 8 years old daughter from previous marriage, 2 meters tall, 100kg looking good, lawyer, I don’t lift - used to a lot, I am strong, 1000 testosterone levels. She has the same age as me, no kids, never been married, 8HB at least on a bad day. High sex drive on both of us, submissive girl, we both earn a lot of money on a monthly basis. @@ -16651,7 +16651,7 @@ She messages that she wants one final night with me, we fuck and she starts agai From life is good to separation it took 2 months. My daughter idolized this girl, she was always there and now she is gone. No looking back from my girl. My daughter cried for 2 hours straight and is suffering a lot. My girl went full ghost on me and I did the same. End. -TLDR: don’t take anything as granted with a LTR. Your life may change overnight.",,13,BrazilRedPill,1670036617.0 +TLDR: don’t take anything as granted with a LTR. Your life may change overnight.",,13,BrazilRedPill,2022-12-03 03:03:37 marriedredpill,z8x7ux,Hypertrophy is King,"A question I had initially when starting lifting was about the relationship between hypertrophy and strength. They are interconnected, but how do concepts of muscle mass relate to strength. Well the more mass you have the more ability to generate greater force, but strength as measured by 1 Rep max is a skill. Sure the size of your muscle influences it, but there are many other drivers as well including neuromuscular adaptions. All that is to say, is strength work is specific to strength work. Why does that matter, because for purposes of this forum putting on muscle mass and exposing it by getting lean are really all that matter for attraction. Chicks have initiated contact and complemented me on my physique, but none have ever asked me what my one rep max is on any lift, only dudes have. @@ -16678,7 +16678,7 @@ Also, people have different body types, peoples hips joints literally can be fo If you goal is just get jacked you don’t need to do very specific strength work that can be taxing on your joints and increase your risk for injury. Reps in the 5-30 range taken close to failure are all you need. -Don’t worry about perfection, pick a hypertrophy program and see what works for you and what doesn’t. Play around with different lifts. See what intensity techniques are helpful for you (AMRAPs, drop sets, myoreps, supersets, giant sets, ect…) If you spend forever trying to maximize efficiency, find the ideal program, or perfect form on a lift your opportunity cost will always be any growth missed on searching for an idealized version of program that doesn’t exist.",,57,[deleted],1669828905.0 +Don’t worry about perfection, pick a hypertrophy program and see what works for you and what doesn’t. Play around with different lifts. See what intensity techniques are helpful for you (AMRAPs, drop sets, myoreps, supersets, giant sets, ect…) If you spend forever trying to maximize efficiency, find the ideal program, or perfect form on a lift your opportunity cost will always be any growth missed on searching for an idealized version of program that doesn’t exist.",,57,[deleted],2022-11-30 17:21:45 marriedredpill,z7nzg3,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 29, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16687,7 +16687,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,1669710610.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,2022-11-29 08:30:10 marriedredpill,z3df30,AWALT,"AWALT What does this mean? Most of us know that it means All Women Are Like That, but all too often we all assume we are in the same page with what that actually means or implies. @@ -16780,7 +16780,7 @@ Lift Sidebar -STFU",,145,BobbyPeru,1669274477.0 +STFU",,145,BobbyPeru,2022-11-24 07:21:17 marriedredpill,z1oetg,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 22, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16789,7 +16789,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,1669105808.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,2022-11-22 08:30:08 marriedredpill,z1ei0h,No-one here owes you shit,"MRP is not a center of masculinity, nor brotherhood of courage. We are not your friends. No, we do not want to hang out with you in real life. No, we don't owe you advice. This is not a place of learning where you get a tailor made experience just for you. This isn't a forum for self improvement. We aren't your fellow 'brothers' who are there for you in your time of need. We aren't your fucking mentors. @@ -16802,7 +16802,7 @@ The reminder here is that we don't owe you anything. This place is what you get. If you want to be involved, post on OYS. Use the tools. See what happens. Write a field report where you implement one of the tools and reflect on its success or lack thereof. -Everything else is pretty much a waste of time.",,43,threekindsoflucky,1669074858.0 +Everything else is pretty much a waste of time.",,43,threekindsoflucky,2022-11-21 23:54:18 marriedredpill,yvr11k,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 15, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16811,7 +16811,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,15,AutoModerator,1668501010.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,15,AutoModerator,2022-11-15 08:30:10 marriedredpill,ypfn0r,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 08, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16820,7 +16820,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,1667896210.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,2022-11-08 08:30:10 marriedredpill,ylkt2h,I take your she statements and turn them into I statements,"I re-instated Rule 9 for the week simply to illustrate that the way some of you write reflects your faulty mindsets. And unsurprisingly, the question back from most people banned was ‘how did I violate Rule 9, I thought I wrote from my own perspective!’. You didn’t. You don’t know how. @@ -16886,7 +16886,7 @@ I’ve been more flirty/teasing than my baseline, and this seems to be going wel I was going to go into detail to explain the issue with each one, the proposed change, and what the difference is. I decided not to. Do some of the work yourself. It's not that hard to write from your own perspective. -I won't be banning next week, so you guys are free to she it up again.",,46,threekindsoflucky,1667524450.0 +I won't be banning next week, so you guys are free to she it up again.",,46,threekindsoflucky,2022-11-04 01:14:10 marriedredpill,yj2z2k,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 01, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16895,7 +16895,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,15,AutoModerator,1667291411.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,15,AutoModerator,2022-11-01 08:30:11 marriedredpill,ycsn0l,Most of you won't make it,"And that’s how it’s supposed to be. Most guys suck. That’s just how it is. What’s amusing about this observation is how incredibly easy it is to not suck. I sucked. I let myself get pushed around. I worried about other people’s feelings. I would take on other people’s burdens. I focused on sex, as if good sex would fill the emptiness in my life. I let other people influence how I feel. I walked on eggshells around my wife, terrified of upsetting her. @@ -16914,7 +16914,7 @@ I am not special. But I ‘got it’. But most of you will not. Why? Because act If you’re wondering if you’re ever going to get it, or if you’re making progress, the answer is maybe, maybe not. If I had to wager a guess, I’d say no more than 5% of guys that show up here end up getting it. That’s your top 5%. Everyone else sits at the center of the bell-curve. Enjoy being average. Because that’s all most of you will be. -And it doesn’t get more inspirational than that.",,135,threekindsoflucky,1666662090.0 +And it doesn’t get more inspirational than that.",,135,threekindsoflucky,2022-10-25 01:41:30 marriedredpill,yczkxj,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 25, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16923,7 +16923,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,1666686611.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,2022-10-25 08:30:11 marriedredpill,y711h3,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 18, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16932,7 +16932,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,1666081809.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,2022-10-18 08:30:09 marriedredpill,y13knj,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 11, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16941,7 +16941,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,1665477010.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,2022-10-11 08:30:10 marriedredpill,xv9if5,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 04, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16950,7 +16950,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,1664872211.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,11,AutoModerator,2022-10-04 08:30:11 marriedredpill,xpatcg,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 27, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16959,7 +16959,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,12,AutoModerator,1664267410.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,12,AutoModerator,2022-09-27 08:30:10 marriedredpill,xowwa7,"About that wife who ""lost her mind""","UEMcGill (go armed forces and global destruction) - lol, a great man - he closed things down, and I don't remember which mod button to press to open this up... but what's happened here is simply another dude who's oblivious to the realities around him. ""Suicide watch"" - my specialty. @@ -16990,7 +16990,7 @@ You stumble upon this hellhole because you define yourself through the lense by Appreciate why your behavior is not in your best behavior. -Learn from it. You're not the only one - even though you're so special - consider what others have done.",,77,johneyapocalypse,1664228619.0 +Learn from it. You're not the only one - even though you're so special - consider what others have done.",,77,johneyapocalypse,2022-09-26 21:43:39 marriedredpill,xj35cp,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 20, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -16999,7 +16999,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1663662611.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2022-09-20 08:30:11 marriedredpill,xdgnrj,The Book I wish was on the sidebar.,"#####Marriedredpill won't last forever Honestly, I love this place, and have almost finished my second book. If you don't know, Fuccfiles was a book I wrote a year back, describing my old days of pick up and how I went from average frustrated sailor all the way to sleeping with women, eventually settling down with the woman I'm still with today after 13 years. @@ -17031,7 +17031,7 @@ I know there's some rumblings about whether the new crop of men are better than Should all go as planned, it will be a new book on the sidebar that will have EVERYTHING that men have learned in this forum over a decade, and endure after Reddit Decides to actually ban Red Pill, instead of just quarantining and banning all the members from random subreddits. -so I guess I'll end this with ... thanks. I've always said this place is a take a penny, leave a penny type space. I think I'll consider myself square after this.",,125,RStonePT,1663098383.0 +so I guess I'll end this with ... thanks. I've always said this place is a take a penny, leave a penny type space. I think I'll consider myself square after this.",,125,RStonePT,2022-09-13 19:46:23 marriedredpill,xd1zq9,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 13, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17040,7 +17040,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,15,AutoModerator,1663057808.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,15,AutoModerator,2022-09-13 08:30:08 marriedredpill,x753wi,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 06, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17049,7 +17049,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,1662453009.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,2022-09-06 08:30:09 marriedredpill,x5ury2,"FR: The Importance of a Masculine Frame and, as a backup, STFU","Quick field report on a fundamental but often overlooked point. &#x200B; @@ -17107,7 +17107,7 @@ Maybe you are emotionally weak little bitch who is triggered constantly. You ne STFU. Detach. Learn to be emotionally non-reactive. -Good luck.",,179,100percentnatty,1662318055.0 +Good luck.",,179,100percentnatty,2022-09-04 19:00:55 marriedredpill,x1dltg,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 30, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17116,7 +17116,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1661848209.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2022-08-30 08:30:09 marriedredpill,x0ztxs,don't push your wife/partner into being a stay at home mom,"Not married, two kids, 16 years in with gf. I make really good money. Idealistic view of parenting, I wanted to be the provider, so mom can be home to do the best with kids. (9 and 13). @@ -17135,7 +17135,7 @@ I say all this cause, dead bedroom can happen to even a mega chad if she's miser ps . I read the rational male like 10 years ago and all I took from it was ""hey, i did that shit when I was single and landed tons of chicks!"" not realizing when you're really hot, you don't need game, or very little of it. Yes, you eventually develop some but I didn't do it long enough. I had one-itis all through my 20s until 32 where I transformed but met my gf only 7 months into my fuckfest year and I stupidly gave it all up (she was smoking hot uber feminine, super agreeable) -And yup, been watching Rian's videos and there some great stuff in there.",,18,psycho_sid,1661807004.0 +And yup, been watching Rian's videos and there some great stuff in there.",,18,psycho_sid,2022-08-29 21:03:24 marriedredpill,wxf178,Read a Fucking Book,"""*Read the sidebar.""* Probably the most common response you'll see on here, and for good reason: *if you're not willing to read, you're not willing to work, which means you're not willing to change.* @@ -17260,7 +17260,7 @@ Bevelin is well-known to Mungerheads - he's the editor of *Poor Charlie's Almana That's it folks, I'm out of time. -Looking forward to see your recommendations as well.",,101,resolutions316,1661436019.0 +Looking forward to see your recommendations as well.",,101,resolutions316,2022-08-25 14:00:19 marriedredpill,wvj84q,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 23, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17269,7 +17269,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,25,AutoModerator,1661243409.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,25,AutoModerator,2022-08-23 08:30:09 marriedredpill,ws4r3p,Field report a few years after I filed for divorce,"So here I am about to give a field report. Tbh I haven't participated in this sub for a while so I'm going to make this short. @@ -17285,12 +17285,12 @@ A woman who does not want you will demand you take her out buy dinner and entert How does that relate to what ever special problems you're having with her is up to you. -Draw your own conclusions.",,131,Taipanshimshon,1660884081.0 +Draw your own conclusions.",,131,Taipanshimshon,2022-08-19 04:41:21 marriedredpill,wq9q65,Rules,"I'm going to drop the Rules in OYS for a while. Mods can still ban at their discretion. But I'm taking the railroads off so you guys can figure out what's what in your own way. You'll still get banned, but it won't be because 'Rule 9' specifically. -I'll give this a go for a while and if it doesn't work out, they can always come back.",,24,threekindsoflucky,1660694297.0 +I'll give this a go for a while and if it doesn't work out, they can always come back.",,24,threekindsoflucky,2022-08-16 23:58:17 marriedredpill,wptqkf,Here I am talking to strangers on the internet.,"EDIT: I’m not actually on the spectrum for autism. I may have overplayed that somewhat because most of you think I’m autistic. I’ll cut that shit out now. Apologies for the incredibly politically incorrect user name. I had no idea everyone was so fucking literal. About 14 months ago I had that moment when I finally thought to myself, ""WTF, is this my life now? Isn't there another way?"". I was 43, married with 2 kids and unhappy...an AFC in a sexless marriage with an average career who complained to his friends about his wife. I'd had enough of my own whining voice and my balls were about to rip a hole in reality so I started doing a little digging. @@ -17331,7 +17331,7 @@ Nope. We returned home from our holiday about 6 weeks ago and we haven't had sex **Now.** -So now I have a happy, calm, seemingly content wife who is respectful, affectionate, and nice to be around. Testing of any form is almost non-existent and when she does they are so small and easily passed. I'm probably the best I have been in years and continue to enjoy doing the work every day. RP, even though I came to it the long way round, has saved my sanity and given me an entirely new and unbelievably positive outlook. I now have no problem attracting much younger, hotter women than my wife which is fun and always brightens my day. But, the sex has gone from my marriage and that's the way it is. It's been gone for such a long time, and I know that my wife's desire for me is all but non-existent which leaves me with some shitty choices that will never go away.",,33,aRtistic_kindling,1660654820.0 +So now I have a happy, calm, seemingly content wife who is respectful, affectionate, and nice to be around. Testing of any form is almost non-existent and when she does they are so small and easily passed. I'm probably the best I have been in years and continue to enjoy doing the work every day. RP, even though I came to it the long way round, has saved my sanity and given me an entirely new and unbelievably positive outlook. I now have no problem attracting much younger, hotter women than my wife which is fun and always brightens my day. But, the sex has gone from my marriage and that's the way it is. It's been gone for such a long time, and I know that my wife's desire for me is all but non-existent which leaves me with some shitty choices that will never go away.",,33,aRtistic_kindling,2022-08-16 13:00:20 marriedredpill,wpou8k,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 16, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17340,7 +17340,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1660638608.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2022-08-16 08:30:08 marriedredpill,wpdy87,Flair,"I've removed all flairs. Purpose of flair was to make it easier for newer guys to sift through arguments. Guys with MRP approved were assumed to be at least less retarded than the others. @@ -17349,7 +17349,7 @@ Problem is, flair gives people something to aim for. I don't want that. Flair is If it turns into a problem, I'll deal with it. Otherwise we're back to how things should be - each argument from a given person is taken on its merits, not on the fact some dickhead with neon orange or red flair is saying it. -People who give retarded advice will still get banned.",,64,threekindsoflucky,1660604999.0 +People who give retarded advice will still get banned.",,64,threekindsoflucky,2022-08-15 23:09:59 marriedredpill,woyw9r,One year review: concrete actions that had the biggest impact,"It’s been a year since I finally woke up. A year since this massive fight with my now ex-GF where something in me snapped. A year since my first OYS. A lot of emotions are boiling, deep down. I’ve grown immensely this year, but there’s still so much more work to do on myself before I can call myself a proper man. Here are the six concrete actions I took this year that had the biggest impact. The order is more or less chronological. @@ -17412,7 +17412,7 @@ Lifting is actually the year’s ~~(relative)~~ failure. I went from using lifti &#x200B; -And on we go, carrying the stone back up the mountain. See you there.",,36,Sisyphus_XIV,1660567883.0 +And on we go, carrying the stone back up the mountain. See you there.",,36,Sisyphus_XIV,2022-08-15 12:51:23 marriedredpill,wmrhsf,"My Idiot Boss Went Crazy - A ""Story"" About Rambo","If some of y'all are as retarded as me, you tend to have a hard time understanding things directly and instead do better with analogies and parables. Here's a story I wrote for a comment in /askMRP. Consider it my field report, put in story form, for understanding years ago what going Rambo is and why it is dumb. @@ -17449,7 +17449,7 @@ Maybe the worst thing about all of this is that each time he does something, he You are trying to just ride this out because you suspect that this is just a phase and he'll go back to being the somewhat-manageable-loser he has been before. Yesterday though, after he got pissy that you didn't fall down on the ground in awe of him doing some basic task correctly, you found him on his computer googling ""*should I fire my best employee if they aren't respectful enough?*"" -WTF is wrong with your boss?",,103,100percentnatty,1660326679.0 +WTF is wrong with your boss?",,103,100percentnatty,2022-08-12 17:51:19 marriedredpill,wjxwiw,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 09, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17458,7 +17458,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,1660033810.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,2022-08-09 08:30:10 marriedredpill,wegy95,Dear Diary,"Dear Diary: Here is a list of my life and relationships in bullet point form. I'm not sure why, but it feels good to take an itinerary and everyone else is doing it. It reminds me of Sunday School when we would sing the same hymms before talking about something. I can't remember because I was trying to make out with Cindy @@ -17496,7 +17496,7 @@ I have a feeling I'm going to be saving lives today #####Moral of the story -Guys will put insane amounts of work to avoid any work when an ego is involved.",,38,RStonePT,1659459551.0 +Guys will put insane amounts of work to avoid any work when an ego is involved.",,38,RStonePT,2022-08-02 16:59:11 marriedredpill,we67nw,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 02, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17505,7 +17505,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,1659429009.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,2022-08-02 08:30:09 marriedredpill,w9kitu,Using Your Anger to Find Your Balls,"This is for intermediate guys who can't seem to shake the anger phase, on the tail end of the dancing monkey improvement program. It's what I did to finally develop my mental point of origin. This is dynamite unless you have all your auxiliary SMV levels straight. It is a method to turn the incorrect dancing monkey mindset into living in your own frame. @@ -17541,7 +17541,7 @@ The beginning is written from the perspective of a dancing monkey, meant for him The middle is an approach used for a guy with the dancing monkey mindframe to break past this incorrect mental model. -The end is the new correct mindset.",,48,DiamondUnlucky9120,1658942435.0 +The end is the new correct mindset.",,48,DiamondUnlucky9120,2022-07-27 17:20:35 marriedredpill,w8ealu,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 26, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17550,7 +17550,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,1658824211.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,2022-07-26 08:30:11 marriedredpill,w2nlo1,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 19, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17559,7 +17559,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,1658219409.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,2022-07-19 08:30:09 marriedredpill,vx67pd,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 12, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17568,7 +17568,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1657614609.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2022-07-12 08:30:09 marriedredpill,vuxv8n,3 concepts for getting your wife's BJ,"In the recent 6 months I improved my marriage. From declining amounts of sex to fucking wild and getting my dick sucked after lunch. Being married to me became a spiritual battle. I used 3 concepts based on Red pill theories that I implied on my daily marriage life and it improved my married and sex life a lot. @@ -17627,7 +17627,7 @@ Recently we met after work. We went for a massage after lunch. The night before That being said, there have been main events. She even went psycho one day, told me I don't care about her so much, I'm selfish, only thinking about myself (which obviously is not true because is spent the majority of time for my family and my kids development), some more emotional random accusations. I took the divorce papers, told her to get a grip and keep the family together or shut the fuck up and sign right here. I signed everything, just needed her signature. That was the last Main event, the next day she never mentioned it and for now I have a few months of harmony, but I'm married long enough to know it won't last. TL;DR - Act like you're a single raisins dad. -Act like you live by yourself and pick up a martial art.",,195,dawgsen,1657358364.0 +Act like you live by yourself and pick up a martial art.",,195,dawgsen,2022-07-09 09:19:24 marriedredpill,vrt3k6,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 05, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17636,7 +17636,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,1657009809.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,2022-07-05 08:30:09 marriedredpill,vmi7sh,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 28, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17645,7 +17645,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,1656405010.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,2022-06-28 08:30:10 marriedredpill,vh8gpm,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 21, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17654,7 +17654,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,27,AutoModerator,1655800208.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,27,AutoModerator,2022-06-21 08:30:08 marriedredpill,vbysex,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 14, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17663,7 +17663,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1655195410.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2022-06-14 08:30:10 marriedredpill,v6q8oc,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 07, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17672,7 +17672,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,1654590608.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,2022-06-07 08:30:08 marriedredpill,v4usf3,FR: Game Development,"**36yo, (poor first attempt at bulking in these months) 162-180#, 12-18%bf, big 3 lifts between 6-700#** This is a description of my early stage efforts to develop better game, my own interpretations of what I've learned and a solicitation for feedback and poking from you all. @@ -17729,7 +17729,7 @@ Me ""I'm not marriage material."" Eventually it was just ""Yes, of course I'm married, don't feel like talking about it."" + strained uncomfortable smile. This shit really killed my mood. And in the grand scheme of things, I determined I wouldn't want to start going in this direction unless I become tremendously more comfortable with it. Having said all the, the girls were not that upset about it, if anything they were excited about their indignation over this. The smallest of them I actually threw over my shoulder and carried her from bar to bar along with the occasional spanking while we hung out. There were a couple of other very clear openings for getting laid. -By day four I was fucking exhausted. I had lunch with some construction workers who let me practice my shitty spanish and I had dinner with a couple of very fun but not hot black girls who happened to come into the bar I was in. My next trip is to DC later this Summer. Not sure what my plan is for that yet but I'll say I'm grateful and satisfied with what it's been like to deliberately put myself out there so far.",,57,ragnar_Daneskjold,1654367177.0 +By day four I was fucking exhausted. I had lunch with some construction workers who let me practice my shitty spanish and I had dinner with a couple of very fun but not hot black girls who happened to come into the bar I was in. My next trip is to DC later this Summer. Not sure what my plan is for that yet but I'll say I'm grateful and satisfied with what it's been like to deliberately put myself out there so far.",,57,ragnar_Daneskjold,2022-06-04 18:26:17 marriedredpill,v1ljwh,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 31, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17738,7 +17738,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1653985809.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2022-05-31 08:30:09 marriedredpill,uz8oyj,60 DoD '22 Week 8: Social life (and closeout),"I hope that you all have been smart enough to be contemplating this week's topic even though the post is coming in at the end instead of the beginning? If so, you have been examining your social life, and reading up on what our membership has had to say about it in the years past. The only thing I will add this year is that social skills are essential for a balanced and fulfilling life. Get to know your neighbors. Show some interest in the world and take up some new activities. LIVE some, yes? @@ -17749,7 +17749,7 @@ If you fell off the wagon, don't despair. The most important thing is to get bac Summer is here, and I hope you all will stride into the unknown that this year holds for us with a sense of purpose, a sense of confidence, and a sense of joy for being alive. -See ya next time.",,24,SorcererKing,1653688069.0 +See ya next time.",,24,SorcererKing,2022-05-27 21:47:49 marriedredpill,uwm1y6,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 24, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17758,7 +17758,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,1653381009.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,2022-05-24 08:30:09 marriedredpill,urhu27,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 17, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17767,7 +17767,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,1652776210.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,2022-05-17 08:30:10 marriedredpill,ur3l0d,60 DoD '22 Week 7: Career,"This week you are contemplating your vocation and what it does for you, then scheming about how to change it (if need be). Many of you have been holding back -- choosing the safety of the familiar instead of the risk of increased responsibility or trying something new. This stunts you intellectually and emotionally, and will bleed into other facets of your life. Others among you are motivated, but unsure how to maneuver yourself into the path of greater opportunity. Still others have never even thought of your career in the context of RP, and are probably wondering why it is a week in the 60 DoD. @@ -17776,7 +17776,7 @@ You can of course read the information laid down in prior years, and you really What I'd like to do this year is to have anyone who needs help in this area ask questions below. There are a number of guys here who are on-point with their career, some quite experienced and powerful in their industries. If you ask intelligent questions from a place of authenticity and congruence, I'm betting you'll get good answers. This is an experiment; don't askMRP me here on this thread. Retarded Kindergarten questions like ""How do I get a better job?"" will result in bans of indeterminate length. -Bring it.",,17,SorcererKing,1652728438.0 +Bring it.",,17,SorcererKing,2022-05-16 19:13:58 marriedredpill,unrgaf,Call-out posts,"We've seen an increase in 'call-out' styled posts on the subreddit. I have also [contributed to this](https://old.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/sid2ic/be_less_shit/), so I'm not just waggling my finger at everyone else. Generally, the intent of these posts is to call attention to a specific issue or topic, and to highlight how 'not' to do something. Here's a bunch of things that other people have done. Don't do those things. This can be useful for people who are either unaware of the mistakes they are making, or who respond well to being whipped. @@ -17797,7 +17797,7 @@ I'd like to encourage those who are actively trying to make changes to write fie With that said, I'll be actively moderating any more 'call-out' posts as I think we've got enough already. -Yes, I am aware of the irony of writing a call-out post on call-out posts.",,51,threekindsoflucky,1652325485.0 +Yes, I am aware of the irony of writing a call-out post on call-out posts.",,51,threekindsoflucky,2022-05-12 03:18:05 marriedredpill,unkrgn,Are you new guys even trying to fuck?,"I wish I could count up the number of people claiming they aren't keeping a scorecard in the bedroom, but it wouldn't matter because they're all full of shit. In fact, the very second I read ""I stopped keeping score with sex,"" I already know they're lying because I guarantee in the same OYS post they're going to talk about how many times they initiated. Speaking of, there are a lot of guys, some of whom are months into this game, that are initiating a *pathetic* amount of times during the week. @@ -17848,7 +17848,7 @@ But the truth is, you will only grow through action. Start initiating. Start run And for god's sake: Stop with the ""authentic initiations"" contrived bullshit. *Oh, this week I* **plan** *to initiate with confidence!* Come on, man. Grow some balls. Start flirting. And initiate. -Your OYS posts (and those of us reading) will benefit from it.",,62,AcademicDumbass,1652305238.0 +Your OYS posts (and those of us reading) will benefit from it.",,62,AcademicDumbass,2022-05-11 21:40:38 marriedredpill,umdx5o,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 10, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -17857,7 +17857,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,1652171409.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,2022-05-10 08:30:09 marriedredpill,ultxjy,60 DoD '22 Week 6: Finances,"**Intro/Summary:** Let’s get those beta bucks in order. All of this is geared towards guys in the US but will be relevant abroad too. The biggest and most telling piece of information I want from anyone who comments on here is: @@ -17936,7 +17936,7 @@ Links to former posts: [2017](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/6a6712/60_dod_week_6_finances/) -[2016](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/488pa0/60_dod_week_6_finances/?ref=search_posts)",,24,ragnar_Daneskjold,1652110497.0 +[2016](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/488pa0/60_dod_week_6_finances/?ref=search_posts)",,24,ragnar_Daneskjold,2022-05-09 15:34:57 marriedredpill,uj8kf3,It’s not that complicated - one man’s guide to OYS,"Listen up fellow dickheads I’ll try and be brief. There’s been a string of really shitty OYS lately or maybe always. I haven’t been around here long enough to know other than what I’ve seen the past few weeks and it seems like the standards - as low as they already were for OYS - are getting worse. I’m not immune from this either, I still cringe when I reread many of mine, but hear me out on these ten simple rules bound together from just a cursory reading of this week’s latest installment of OYS. First. You need to post in here regularly. More so the newer you are at this. Under OYS #10? You should be in here like your life depends on it. Or don’t, it’s up to you. There’s a direct relationship between how new you are and how much you should be posting. Been here two years and haven’t made any progress or been here two years and have really improved? Same thing, probably don’t need to post much. But for the rest of you... @@ -17975,7 +17975,7 @@ References: this topic has been covered before: [https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/5wla15/participation/](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/5wla15/participation/) -[https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4z84w5/posting\_quality\_guide\_for\_rmarriedredpill/](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4z84w5/posting_quality_guide_for_rmarriedredpill/)",,7,ryaninthesky123,1651788321.0 +[https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4z84w5/posting\_quality\_guide\_for\_rmarriedredpill/](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4z84w5/posting_quality_guide_for_rmarriedredpill/)",,7,ryaninthesky123,2022-05-05 22:05:21 marriedredpill,ui83ri,Shark Week,"Week in, week out I get to read about your wife's periods. I know more about your wive's periods than I know about my own wife's. Why? Because you guys write about it in your OYS all the time. Here's a few examples: @@ -17998,7 +17998,7 @@ I bet that some of you track the number and size of your wive's bowel movements OK, I get it - Athol Kay told you that you should do this. So that's why you do it. When she's bleeding you ""up the Beta comfort"" because the book says so. And Athol is a Sex God - after all he has fucked his [wife over 5,000 times](https://www.insideedition.com/2441-husband-and-wife-say-they-have-sex-every-day). Lucky Athol, she's a fucking beaut.. forget about Shark Week.. he's got Land Whale Year, every day of his life. Oh, the joy! -I'm not telling you *not* to write about Shark Week. I'm not telling you *not* to behave differently when your wife is on the rag. I'm not telling you what to do or what not to do. I'll leave it up to you guys. I'm sure you won't fuck it up.",,54,[deleted],1651675197.0 +I'm not telling you *not* to write about Shark Week. I'm not telling you *not* to behave differently when your wife is on the rag. I'm not telling you what to do or what not to do. I'll leave it up to you guys. I'm sure you won't fuck it up.",,54,[deleted],2022-05-04 14:39:57 marriedredpill,uhbhic,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 03, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -18007,12 +18007,12 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,1651566609.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,2022-05-03 08:30:09 marriedredpill,uh018m,60 DoD '22 Week 5: Game,"Game is typically the week where we have the least to say here, since so much has been said everywhere else. I hope you've been utilizing those resources this week and practicing coming out of your shell? This year, I'll give an extra component to think about. Hard times are coming, maybe some of the worst we've seen in living memory. The value of community will increase significantly when that sets in. Your skills in making friends and seducing women can be useful in that situation, as you may find yourself in need of organizing your neighborhood, negotiating the peace, and otherwise getting along in a Mad Max world. So as you move around the world, remember to ""game everybody"" and get to know those in your immediate sphere of influence. You just never know... -If you have some interesting perspectives or goals, log here, report what you've been up to in OYS tomorrow.",,9,SorcererKing,1651526427.0 +If you have some interesting perspectives or goals, log here, report what you've been up to in OYS tomorrow.",,9,SorcererKing,2022-05-02 21:20:27 marriedredpill,uc7s8m,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 26, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -18021,7 +18021,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,1650961808.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,2022-04-26 08:30:08 marriedredpill,ubj4m6,Year 1 at MRP - Sex shame and anger,"This is the story of my first active year at MRP, and also my first post . Maybe some of the new guys find it helpful. Advanced MRP's will find a usual story. I was basically a Nice Guy ^(TM). I hid my faults, was ashamed of my sex needs, and expected to have a problem free life with my wife. I was not getting the expected response from her and she even mentioned to leave. This shocked me to the point I had to rebuild myself: I became more selfish, felt that I could not trust my wife to be on my team, assigned money allowance for house expenses, and got time for me. @@ -18050,7 +18050,7 @@ Finally, I fucked up many, many times, before I had any success. I failed misera This has been my journey for this year. I wanted to share, as others did before. I wish it will be useful for new guys here. I usually do not follow the indicated path, but the basics are there for something: Lift, Read and STFU is a good way to go. -And honesty. Be honest with your yourself.",,67,omured,1650886828.0 +And honesty. Be honest with your yourself.",,67,omured,2022-04-25 11:40:28 marriedredpill,uaaaci,60 DoD '22 Week 4: Style,"Welcome to the Style week. This is typically a favorite here as it affords the opportunity for self-expression. Put another way, it is a way to fake it until you make it. Like hygiene, good style can work for you without you opening your mouth. As such, it helps to form the first-first impression people have of you. We have different styles of clothes because it makes a statement about who you are, what you are doing right now, and maybe what you do most of the time. Psychologists have done a ton of research on this area, with the sort of results you might expect: people react differently to the same behavior depending on how the actor is dressed. Clothes make the man. @@ -18059,7 +18059,7 @@ So your challenge is not only to upgrade your wardrobe to nice-looking and well- You get the picture, right? Don't copy Bond style-wise, take a clue from him about *controlling people's perception of you and what you're about by how you dress*. You don't always have to wear jeans and a tight t-shirt with a badass leather jacket. There is a time and place for nearly any outfit; discover those pairings. -Declare any goals here and continue to track (with progress toward prior week goals too) in the upcoming OYS. Should you be captured we will disavow all knowledge of your wardrobe. Good luck.",,26,SorcererKing,1650734560.0 +Declare any goals here and continue to track (with progress toward prior week goals too) in the upcoming OYS. Should you be captured we will disavow all knowledge of your wardrobe. Good luck.",,26,SorcererKing,2022-04-23 17:22:40 marriedredpill,u708fp,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 19, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -18068,7 +18068,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,1650357009.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,2022-04-19 08:30:09 marriedredpill,u5cr5x,60 DoD '22 Week 3: Hygiene,"Ok, for Week 3, you should be focused on your hygiene. As per the usual, there are great resources on the sidebar for setting goals and making improvements in this area. However, let's take this opportunity to talk about why this area can be difficult to improve. Perhaps more so than any of the other weeks, the hygiene week asks you to really step outside of your own ego and really *see* yourself. Do you look slovenly? Is your haircut shit? Do you need a shave? What do your teeth look like? How about your fingernails? Skin? Bloodshot eyes? @@ -18079,7 +18079,7 @@ Finally, what is the touch experience your wife might have to survive when being The lucky part for you: these things are usually fixable. You can get a better haircut. You can clip your nails more regularly. You can treat that fungus. Now that you're eating better, some things might fix themselves, but you can look into the role diet plays in hygiene and further amend your dietary habits to be more inclusive or exclusive of the right and wrong things. Shower more often, buy better cologne -- it all has a fix, and that fix is in your power. -So let's really reflect here guys, and start moving toward just being a better overall sensory experience for everyone in your orbit. Make some declarations below, and as usual, track your progress in OYS.",,28,SorcererKing,1650160612.0 +So let's really reflect here guys, and start moving toward just being a better overall sensory experience for everyone in your orbit. Make some declarations below, and as usual, track your progress in OYS.",,28,SorcererKing,2022-04-17 01:56:52 marriedredpill,u1u5ps,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 12, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -18088,7 +18088,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,1649752208.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,2022-04-12 08:30:08 marriedredpill,tyqazo,Meaning in Life,"**Preface** 3KL’s post titled “Sex and the obsession thereof” made me think that writing something on meaningful living may be useful. This post contains some thoughts and suggestions for finding meaning in life (MIL) based on a combination of existing research, philosophy, and techniques used in therapy. If you haven’t read 3KL’s post, then start there before you read this since what I’m writing is complementary. @@ -18140,7 +18140,7 @@ After you’re finished with all this, spend some time comparing what you wrote These are some suggestions that can help get the ball rolling as you mull over what may be worth pursuing. For some, you may already have a strong source of MIL but may notice that it only comes from one domain in your life. For example, you may really value the work that you do and think that it is one of, if not the most, significant components of your life. To you, I’d recommend diversifying your sources of MIL by considering what else makes you feel like your life matters. You may think that your life is abundantly meaningful, but you open yourself up to risk if that meaning comes from only one thing. A deep well is fine as your only source of water when times are good. When drought hits and all 57 of your extended family members come over to drink from your well and it quickly runs dry, you’ll wish you had access to more sources of water. In the same way, gaining all of your meaning from one thing is fine as long as you have that one thing, but losing it hits much harder than if you had multiple things. -If any of this resonates with you, then the final thing that I'll leave you with is the recommendation to read *Man's Search for Meaning* by Viktor Frankl. It's fairly short and is split into two sections, with the first being focused on his experiences in the concentration camps and the second being an exploration of his philosophical ideas related to MIL. His theoretical assertions serve as the foundation for virtually all psychological research done on MIL and he is a huge influence on existential psychotherapy. The book will likely provide you with more things to consider when it comes to living meaningfully. ",,38,Arkonian_Monk,1649375631.0 +If any of this resonates with you, then the final thing that I'll leave you with is the recommendation to read *Man's Search for Meaning* by Viktor Frankl. It's fairly short and is split into two sections, with the first being focused on his experiences in the concentration camps and the second being an exploration of his philosophical ideas related to MIL. His theoretical assertions serve as the foundation for virtually all psychological research done on MIL and he is a huge influence on existential psychotherapy. The book will likely provide you with more things to consider when it comes to living meaningfully. ",,38,Arkonian_Monk,2022-04-07 23:53:51 marriedredpill,tybnn7,60 DoD '22 - Eating for Health and Fitness,"This week's topic on dread is Eating for Health and Fitness. Let me start off by saying anyone over 15% bodyfat who isn't competing in some kind of heavy lifting meet, this post is geared toward your fat ass. There is absolutely no reason any of ya'll should be above 15% bodyfat. In fact anyone over 20% that's looking at this right now, I expressly forbid you to read it unless you are doing some type of light cardio: treadmill, stair stepper, bike, or head out into the neighborhood and go for a walk. I cannot tell you the number of OYSs I see posted on a regular basis where guys' numbers are over 15%, up at 18%, or even over 20% consistently. It is not hard to lose weight. Really. That's not a locker room mentality aimed at convincing you that something that's complicated isn't with the ""right mindset"". It's truly not hard. @@ -18517,7 +18517,7 @@ It's not too late to get started either. Summer is 3 months away. Anyone over 20 *Sound off.* -What are you doing for this week's DoD to carry into your life?",,67,[deleted],1649333372.0 +What are you doing for this week's DoD to carry into your life?",,67,[deleted],2022-04-07 12:09:32 marriedredpill,ty6649,Sex and the obsession thereof,"**Where I was** I initially came to MRP because I googled ‘why doesn’t my wife want to have sex with me’. @@ -18587,7 +18587,7 @@ I have purposely not given you any other examples of ‘what to do’ other than **Why it might not work for you** -If you do this with the hope that it'll have the same effect on your sex life as it did mine, you're done. Covert contracts are never successful. You either decide to do things that you want to do with your time, or you don't.",,169,threekindsoflucky,1649310375.0 +If you do this with the hope that it'll have the same effect on your sex life as it did mine, you're done. Covert contracts are never successful. You either decide to do things that you want to do with your time, or you don't.",,169,threekindsoflucky,2022-04-07 05:46:15 marriedredpill,twwgfw,HOA's MRP Cheat Codes to blow up your sex life - Part 2,"Retards! Gather 'round! **Here comes dynamite, part 2.** [Part 1 is here.](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/pymw1k/hornsofapathys_mrp_cheat_codes_to_blow_up_your/) I have an incredible sexual imagination that I give to my woman as a gift. From the years I've been here I am convinced that most retards here have dull and boring sexual imaginations. So I'm here to share my notes with you dudes. @@ -18659,7 +18659,7 @@ I would like to finally add that you'll read below a lot of words being exchange |Immersion|Grinding|49|""Come with me.  It's time.""  Everynight for a week at a consistent time, drag her ass upstairs by the hand and then undress her.  Buy a very nice plush robe, she will wear it and be naked underneath.   Make her wear this everynight.  Use your imagination for game.  You can attach certain personas to certain robes based on what YOU want.  Slut, whore, goodgirl, the possibilities are endless.| |Immersion|Hard|50|While she is in the shower, open the curtain and hand her an anal plug.  ""I'm going to train my girl/slut/babygirl properly.  You will use this everytime you are in the shower now.""  She will inevitably test you, so spot checks are necessary.  If it's missing:  ""Your training is going to happen one way or another, up to you if it feels good.""| -&#x200B;",,63,HornsOfApathy,1649169525.0 +&#x200B;",,63,HornsOfApathy,2022-04-05 14:38:45 marriedredpill,twq6p6,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 05, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -18668,7 +18668,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,1649147409.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,2022-04-05 08:30:09 marriedredpill,ttcplj,60 DoD '22: Declaration and lifting,"Welcome to 60 DoD, 2022. All of you maggots, young or old, veteran or new, can improve your processes through this 60-day event. This year my challenge to you is two-fold. As usual, you need to change your *habits*. Setting an end-state goal is necessary so that you understand which *habits* are needing to be instantiated or changed in order to reach that end-state goal. Make no mistake, the purpose of 60 DoD is to *change what you do with your time*. @@ -18681,7 +18681,7 @@ For this go-round, since it’s the annual, I WILL be tracking you. If you decla * * * * * * -This first week, starting today, is all about lifting. Perhaps you need a new program? Better commitment? Maybe you have fuckarounditis and need a [fresh perspective]( https://old.reddit.com/r/leangains/)? There are resources on the sidebar from 60 DoD in years past, and there are a ton of monkeys here that lift and can ~~ridicule your weakness~~ answer your questions, yeah. Focus on the questions I outline above when laying out the goal and the new habits. Let’s get to it.",,36,SorcererKing,1648769315.0 +This first week, starting today, is all about lifting. Perhaps you need a new program? Better commitment? Maybe you have fuckarounditis and need a [fresh perspective]( https://old.reddit.com/r/leangains/)? There are resources on the sidebar from 60 DoD in years past, and there are a ton of monkeys here that lift and can ~~ridicule your weakness~~ answer your questions, yeah. Focus on the questions I outline above when laying out the goal and the new habits. Let’s get to it.",,36,SorcererKing,2022-03-31 23:28:35 marriedredpill,tqrwse,60 DoD '22: The shit hits the fan 03/31/2022,"So I ended up lying. I didn't tally anything from the booster challenge. If you did a booster and want flair, reply to this thread. I'll expect others to call you out if you're full of shit. Now that we're past that housekeeping, the full, normal 60 DoD is starting in 3 days. This one takes you from the first rays of spring sunshine to the kickoff weekend of summer. This is your chance to rebuild discipline, readjust your attitude, and start participating in your life again after the long, cold winter. Be thinking about your goals; we'll have a declaration thread in 3 days. @@ -18690,7 +18690,7 @@ I look forward to this session because I've been so absent. I still see some fam If you're burning to write a post for one of the weeks, please DM me. I'm always up for fresh content from new voices, provided those voices are not retarded. We have such high standards here, after all. -Until Thursday...",,33,SorcererKing,1648528948.0 +Until Thursday...",,33,SorcererKing,2022-03-29 04:42:28 marriedredpill,tqv5aj,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 29, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -18699,7 +18699,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,8,AutoModerator,1648542609.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,8,AutoModerator,2022-03-29 08:30:09 marriedredpill,tpz0dt,Field Report: Give that bitch nothing to do but fuck you,"I been going back through my notes and journals. Found this one that makes sense for you dumbfucks in the beginning anger phase. It worked with the right mental model. Nothing more than another **Act as if your wife were dead** post. @@ -18734,7 +18734,7 @@ For the masculine handicapped - great time to caveman. You need more bedrock ma \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ -For you dudes spinning plates successfully, you guys get it.",,79,HornsOfApathy,1648433993.0 +For you dudes spinning plates successfully, you guys get it.",,79,HornsOfApathy,2022-03-28 02:19:53 marriedredpill,tn7r5y,Practical guide for getting back to your frame,"My last post was not useful. So I want to take this chance to share some notes related to something that worked **for me**. While I was developing my sense of self and running my MAP I realized (just like all the others, around the 2 year mark) that all of my “self-improvement” was a covert-contract with the girl and people in general. The rational was something of the “If I get better, than she will love me more and everyone will treat me like a king”. @@ -18767,7 +18767,7 @@ This is one of the stoic tools that I most treasure in my toolbox. Remembering m ## 6 – The Scorched Earth Mental Model -Whenever the steps above were not sufficient to get me back on track or if I just wanted to overkill, I made use of [The Scorched Earth Operation.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BqxxefMUwv0) And while this is not the situation it was designed to be employed, I found that convincing myself I was single and acting accordingly removed the emotional cloudiness that surrounded me, allowing me to truly focus on what matters: my actions. It put me in the state of total focus in my MAP and everything that was beyond it was either interesting, amusing or funny.",,31,thekingwithin2001,1648162164.0 +Whenever the steps above were not sufficient to get me back on track or if I just wanted to overkill, I made use of [The Scorched Earth Operation.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BqxxefMUwv0) And while this is not the situation it was designed to be employed, I found that convincing myself I was single and acting accordingly removed the emotional cloudiness that surrounded me, allowing me to truly focus on what matters: my actions. It put me in the state of total focus in my MAP and everything that was beyond it was either interesting, amusing or funny.",,31,thekingwithin2001,2022-03-24 22:49:24 marriedredpill,tksehe,Fake it till you make it - an example,"I was asked in an OYS a while back, “Do you think the change with your wife came naturally from a change of mindset mainly as a result of all the reading, or it came mainly from some specific ways you started to act differently or deal with things?” This question is like asking ""what came first: the chicken or the egg?"" @@ -18792,7 +18792,7 @@ Now you do that 10, 20, 30 times. And at some point it clicks and its just part So I went from DEERing (worst thing you can do) in response to a shit test: every. fucking. time. to a natural, congruent mix of agreeing and amplifying, STFU, looking at her like she is a 6 year old performing what she thinks is the world's most complex ballet act, etc. And it just happens now. But it didn't before. -So the TL;DR response to the question is: yes.",,87,AlphalfaSprout,1648037076.0 +So the TL;DR response to the question is: yes.",,87,AlphalfaSprout,2022-03-23 12:04:36 marriedredpill,tjya44,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 22, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -18801,7 +18801,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1647937809.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2022-03-22 08:30:09 marriedredpill,tje76d,The Three Stages of Dread,"Way back when I first arrived at MRP, there was a roadmap that a lot of us used contained within the deep links of the sidebar. This was the [12 levels of Dread](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2lpafb/the_12_step_plan_of_dread_book_excerpt_from_my/) post by BPP. It was written 7 years ago. A few years after many of us had used this leveled approach to dread within our own MAPs, we began sharing notes about this sexual strategy. It wasn't long before the results were in for the guys who did the work, and [we all pretty much realized that it was a giant covert contract](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/igf65m/the_dread_contract_and_scoreboard_how_to_frame/). Later, [I gave my unedited opinion](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/rhe74s/sabotaging_the_deal_at_the_end/hpdisz3/?context=999) on what I thought about the 12 levels of dread, yet I did not offer a concrete alternative. Now I am. There were still retarded dancing monkey's autist posts up until about 3-4 years ago with titles like: ""[FR: Crossed to Dread Level 9](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/38e4hw/fr_crossed_to_dread_level_9/)"", so most of us vets after making that realization stopped advocating for the covert contract model where you played your wife like leveling up a video game. This was a good example of men sharing notes, and the community here began advocating for a different approach of: You first. Until then nothing will work. @@ -18923,7 +18923,7 @@ It's within this stage of dread that the best sex of my life has occurred. Not Yet, *You are the prize.* And sometimes, you just need to let her win. -Strength, motherfuckers.",,153,HornsOfApathy,1647875973.0 +Strength, motherfuckers.",,153,HornsOfApathy,2022-03-21 15:19:33 marriedredpill,tfuva3,The Benevolent Dictator," Many talk about the Captain-First Officer mental model. And, while it is definitely useful for guys who are just starting out and that need to jump into the leading position in their relationship, once that is handled, it is not sufficient. The main reason for this is the fact that it implies one very wrong thing: you and the girl are in the same team. @@ -18950,7 +18950,7 @@ In other words: **you reward good behavior and don’t reward bad behavior.** See? There are no “punishments”. There is only your attention, affection and commitment and your ability to cut them from someone who stops deserving them. -Go out there and be the most altruist motherfucker for those who add value to your egoist life story.",,30,thekingwithin2001,1647469457.0 +Go out there and be the most altruist motherfucker for those who add value to your egoist life story.",,30,thekingwithin2001,2022-03-16 22:24:17 marriedredpill,tek9fk,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 15, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -18959,7 +18959,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1647333010.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2022-03-15 08:30:10 marriedredpill,t9cb6a,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 08, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -18968,7 +18968,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,1646728210.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,2022-03-08 08:30:10 marriedredpill,t91d31,Social Game Tips and Tricks: Male Dominated Spaces,"Spent the last 2.5 years trying to figure out how to be more successful in male dominated spaces. I define success by how many people I can get to advocate for me. Here are my findings. #3 Categories @@ -19020,7 +19020,7 @@ Stop Dick Measuring your peers. Compliment the other guys dick. Tell his wife sh Everyone loves to see the Dick Measurer fall and most people are happy to crouch down behind them to help them someone else push. -If your dick really is that big, then your friends will know because rather than making them feel bad, you'll do something fun with it, like maybe tie your dick in a bow or something. Maybe you'll take them out on the water with it and show them how much horsepower your dicks motor has  or use it to help get your friend that new job, or help get him laid.",,4,Praexology,1646692065.0 +If your dick really is that big, then your friends will know because rather than making them feel bad, you'll do something fun with it, like maybe tie your dick in a bow or something. Maybe you'll take them out on the water with it and show them how much horsepower your dicks motor has  or use it to help get your friend that new job, or help get him laid.",,4,Praexology,2022-03-07 22:27:45 marriedredpill,t8d3bj,"'Should,' 'Shouldn't' and What do you Want","This is such basic stuff, even for newbies, but when I wrote this I started counting ‘should’ in one week of recent OYS’s and stopped counting at 11. So regardless of how well many of you know this, it still shows up in journaling here. (I would argue that ‘need to’ toes the line on ‘should’. If I counted that, the amount would be ridiculous.) I was looking through a book a couple of months ago that has been in my house forever, a book on raising boys. I had never read it. Every so often I look through books around my house that I had read in my pre RP life just to see what may be in there counter to the way I operate now – just another way to keep me sharp. I picked it up for this reason and I came across a line deep in the book, *“You can’t tell your son what he should become (occupation), but you can tell him who he should become.”* There you go, knock a boy off his center, teach him to live life in others frame from the start. @@ -19053,7 +19053,7 @@ Statements like this are frameless, potentially incongruent and invariably have Recognize the *shoulds, shouldn’ts* and *need to’s*, then work on building YOUR OWN frame based on what you want, rather than what you ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t’ want or what others say you ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t’ do. For the really early birds – don’t go Rambo on this. Take the [silent space](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/7lolrm/thoughts_on_frame/) to figure it out. It will probably take some time to know what you want, rather than what you think you want. -Forget the Should's, Shouldn'ts, and need to's. Either do or Don't.",,69,[deleted],1646614385.0 +Forget the Should's, Shouldn'ts, and need to's. Either do or Don't.",,69,[deleted],2022-03-07 00:53:05 marriedredpill,t69bhg,Fake It Till You Make It,"FITYMI Revisiting this concept because I see so many people totally fail to understand what the purpose of FITYMI is. @@ -19078,7 +19078,7 @@ I did this by experimenting with my own life and watching as my peers experiment You are questioning the very core identity blocks that created the horrible statue of YOU. The whole point is to replace these block one at a time. You can't put too much pressure on your identity, or try to change everything all at once, otherwise it will cause you to break frame. (This is what is called going Rambo.) Your identity cannot handle the weight stress an instantaneous total transformation would cause. -We all understand the [Thousand Foot Rope](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/6i4vvn/captain_rambo/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share) this also applies to you and yourself. You are both the first mate, and the captain. You don't trust yourself to lead (and you shouldn't honestly) but the map you now have is different, and it won't start feeling like you're actually being your own captain until you've done it for a while.",,53,Praexology,1646364099.0 +We all understand the [Thousand Foot Rope](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/6i4vvn/captain_rambo/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share) this also applies to you and yourself. You are both the first mate, and the captain. You don't trust yourself to lead (and you shouldn't honestly) but the map you now have is different, and it won't start feeling like you're actually being your own captain until you've done it for a while.",,53,Praexology,2022-03-04 03:21:39 marriedredpill,t43974,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 01, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -19087,7 +19087,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,1646123415.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,2022-03-01 08:30:15 marriedredpill,t1ys33,OYS and DTS....Near 46 years married and resurrecting the DB.,"In the last 8 years of my marriage my wife has stated that I'm a wimp, nice guys finish last, you wasted your career, and implied I was a failure. My wife is not a feminist but a very strong willed women from a very large family of mostly male siblings. Her hypergamy has been overt as our daughters found husbands. In today's world of 6 feet and over I'm 5 feet eight to her 5 feet seven. Ironic. We're about an equal match per a 1 to 10 rating in our day. We're late 60s. @@ -19119,7 +19119,7 @@ Paraphrasing....my wife Your nothing, your opinions are worthless as you haven't achieved anything. Only performance counts and you don't measure up. You sound so authoritative and act like you are right. (I use facts to back my statements). ... -Next night I don't acknowledge the outbursts. She apologized. Sex tonight.",,18,henrycatalina,1645887043.0 +Next night I don't acknowledge the outbursts. She apologized. Sex tonight.",,18,henrycatalina,2022-02-26 14:50:43 marriedredpill,t1ebsn,"Very Basic ""2-2 Dinner Party"" Social Skills","This one's for all you social auti--s out there. Some of this may seem overly basic, but I can think of at least 7 people off the top of my head who would benefit from at least a few of these - and every one of them is relevant for at least one of those people. I'm sure others are in that same boat, even beyond my 7, so here goes. Social influence is one of the most valuable domains to keep a mastery on. Over the years I've gotten a number of questions about conversational strategy and social skills, as it's one of my strengths. There's a lot of different sub-groups within the broader category of ""social influence,"" though. @@ -19210,7 +19210,7 @@ Activities are a great way to go beyond the conversation too - especially if the - I know some of the guys around here like to use video games. I personally avoid this, as I'm not a huge video-gamer in the first place. But if there's something unique, like my son's VR, that can be a lot of fun. Party games on a TV/game system can also be useful. - - Sometimes I like to have my guests, when they're over, actually help with some aspect of the cooking. This is a bit riskier, but cooking new and interesting dishes is already a hobby of mine, so it's a small way to invite someone else into a world where I am competent enough to carry the activity while still making them feel engaged without an actual burden.",,80,Red-Curious,1645822642.0 + - Sometimes I like to have my guests, when they're over, actually help with some aspect of the cooking. This is a bit riskier, but cooking new and interesting dishes is already a hobby of mine, so it's a small way to invite someone else into a world where I am competent enough to carry the activity while still making them feel engaged without an actual burden.",,80,Red-Curious,2022-02-25 20:57:22 marriedredpill,szaxiq,"Abundance Fatigue and ""The Meaning of Life""","I've observed that abundance isn't always the blessing people expect, but is perhaps sometimes the one they need. Let's be clear up-front: - **Abundance Mentality** is when you live your life in a way as if you have abundance, whether you do or not. @@ -19301,7 +19301,7 @@ Back to Poon - **""You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority."" **Becoming nihilistic from life due to an over-abundance of many good things is cured simply by finding something more valuable to spend your time on than accumulating that which will ultimately disappoint.** -If you bother to read the rest of the book of Ecclesiastes, by chapter 12 you'll find that Solomon figured out what he believed to be the meaning of life. You need to figure that out for yourself and then pursue it.",,40,Red-Curious,1645599236.0 +If you bother to read the rest of the book of Ecclesiastes, by chapter 12 you'll find that Solomon figured out what he believed to be the meaning of life. You need to figure that out for yourself and then pursue it.",,40,Red-Curious,2022-02-23 06:53:56 marriedredpill,sz6a0p,The purpose of OYS - A reminder,"This is a reminder for posters in the OYS weekly thread. The process of writing your OYS is the reason for writing it. @@ -19317,7 +19317,7 @@ Don't write 'for MRP'. We're internet strangers, who cares what we think. Others If you're writing the same shit every week, or putting in the same list of books you read, or the same background - remember, this is for you. Does looking at that every week help you in any way? Are you only writing it so other posters can see you've 'done the work'? -If you find yourself holding ctrl_v and ctrl_c when you put together your OYS, then you've missed the point.",,59,threekindsoflucky,1645584854.0 +If you find yourself holding ctrl_v and ctrl_c when you put together your OYS, then you've missed the point.",,59,threekindsoflucky,2022-02-23 02:54:14 marriedredpill,syiinb,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 22, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -19326,7 +19326,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,15,AutoModerator,1645518611.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,15,AutoModerator,2022-02-22 08:30:11 marriedredpill,sv1chu,No More Mr. Man-Child,"**TL;DR** Lifetime Drunk Captain reads Rollo and gets mad. Reads NMMNG and applies tools intended for Nice Guys, not Drunk Captains. Realizes he’s actually a Drunk Captain, gets his shit together but does it for his wife. Gets mad when she doesn’t appreciate it. Stumbles into competence, self respect, and congruence through effort, while applying assertive tools and rights in WISNIFG. Relationship with wife and life in general improves. @@ -19409,7 +19409,7 @@ Forgive me as I wander into the faggotry container words, but it’s obvious now Many thank you’s to the guys sharing their notes, specifically HOA’s Depressed and anxious wives series. Rian Stone has come out with awesome breakdowns of J10’s Drunk Captain posts over the last 6 months that have really helped me internalize the mentalities and tools. -This is just a long field report from a retard that realized those posts were about me more or less. Maybe this resonates with some and is valuable and/or you can tell me how I’m full of shit. Either way, I win.",,241,AlphaWolfLion69420,1645137096.0 +This is just a long field report from a retard that realized those posts were about me more or less. Maybe this resonates with some and is valuable and/or you can tell me how I’m full of shit. Either way, I win.",,241,AlphaWolfLion69420,2022-02-17 22:31:36 marriedredpill,st3jet,First you have to care to then stop caring,"You think you have to do something, that’s your male instincts fucking you over. Our mind is wired to do and to try to “fix”. Wrong approach. It is not about “fixing” anything but yourself. You do not have to say “I love you” back because she said it first. You don’t need to gift her back in retribution to what she gave you. You don’t have to call her or “else she’ll forget me”. In fact, and this is the irony of life, doing these (and other) things will only work against you. The problem underlying is not solved only by this. If this still happens to you, it means that the validation-seeking mindset, the “if I do x, she’ll do y” mentality is not gone. And I understand that. Evolution has programmed us to think in this way. But in the contemporary context, this shit will backfire, and you know it either by personal experience or by observing others, or maybe by both. Do not EVER feel pushed to do something you do not want to. This is fucked to cultivate. It is fighting against our hard-wiring. But it is possible, with time, patience, and repeated action and reflection. That is something I still struggle with, being truly your own mental point of origin. Doing things for yourself (in the beginning to a narcissistic point). In other words, cultivating a sense of “healthy narcisism” or “rational egoism”. @@ -19422,7 +19422,7 @@ Man, fuck. This shit is fucking hard, I know. But its the most important battle So, do the work. Reach the point in which you stop caring about the effects of your actions on the girls you’re with. Amazingly, it is EXACTLY when you reach that point that you will be the most attractive, since you signal (in thousands of “micro” ways) that you are more than willing to walk away if your needs aren’t being met. In other words, you first have to care to come here in the first place, and then you can stop caring; and, when you do, the results will come; but it won’t be a covert contract, since it really won’t be about the results anymore. It will be about yourself. This is a fine distinction, and indeed one difficult to master. -But head down, persistence, focus and, most importantly, time will get you there. I write this to you but also to myself.",,61,thekingwithin2001,1644933493.0 +But head down, persistence, focus and, most importantly, time will get you there. I write this to you but also to myself.",,61,thekingwithin2001,2022-02-15 13:58:13 marriedredpill,ssy92c,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 15, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -19431,7 +19431,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1644913810.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2022-02-15 08:30:10 marriedredpill,srcee4,"Chris Voss's ""Tactical Empathy"" (A Non-Autistic Way to STFU... or Antithetical to MRP?)","Hostage negotiator Chris Voss began his training as a crisis counselor (taking calls from people who can't stop using drugs, cutting themselves, thinking about killing themselves, etc.)  Voss describes his early days on this job where he would try to *give callers advice* or *challenge their worldview*. (We know how well this approach works with our wives if we lack frame) Voss talks about changing his approach to try to make the callers *feel heard* and he describes some very simple tactics for achieving this. **Mirroring** \- literally saying the last few words a person said straight back to them, but in the form of a question (encouraging them to expand or clarify...or perhaps realize how stupid they sound)  **Paraphrasing** \- ""So, you're saying that \_\_\_\_\_\_\_ "" @@ -19439,7 +19439,7 @@ marriedredpill,srcee4,"Chris Voss's ""Tactical Empathy"" (A Non-Autistic Way to Voss talks about getting the other person in the conversation to say ""that's right"" rather than ""you're right"".  Since we know our wives don't want anything to do with *logic*, and thus it really doesn't matter who's *right*, it seems like Voss's ""Tactical Empathy"" might be a nice defensive technique (similar to STFU)  He's got a lot of examples of how well even quite obvious uses of this technique will work on otherwise intelligent people.  -That's my question: Can mirroring, paraphrasing, and labeling (or ***tactical empathy*** as a whole) make a good addition to the MRP argumentative toolkit of STFU, AA, AM, Fogging, Broken Record, etc or is there something about this style that would undermine the Frame these less touchy-feely tactics help us build?  ",,6,SwordHolder69,1644734756.0 +That's my question: Can mirroring, paraphrasing, and labeling (or ***tactical empathy*** as a whole) make a good addition to the MRP argumentative toolkit of STFU, AA, AM, Fogging, Broken Record, etc or is there something about this style that would undermine the Frame these less touchy-feely tactics help us build?  ",,6,SwordHolder69,2022-02-13 06:45:56 marriedredpill,snfbpo,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 08, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -19448,7 +19448,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,1644309015.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,2022-02-08 08:30:15 marriedredpill,sjqcht,FR: 50 OYS's,"36, 5’9” 162lbs, 12%bf, B: 185x5, SQ: 220x5, DL: 305x5 I want to point out to the fat, spineless, piece of shit lurkers. Do yourself a favor, stop procrastinating your participation in OYS. Do your best to follow the rules and be transparent about what you’re doing and what you’re struggling with. I stumbled into my first MRP post around the end of Nov 2020. It was about this guy Barracuda volunteering to give back to his community and then fucking a girl he met at the soup kitchen. Thought at that time, it wasn’t for me ([but I was wrong, that guy’s posts are good](https://www.reddit.com/user/BarracudaRP/posts/). I've yet to find an approved guy on here without a real gem in their posting history.) I was googling again in the end of December and read an OYS thread for the first time. I came across Goodlookinman’s before and after pics and realized, okay, I probably shouldn’t write this place off. I think I read [**Steel’s guide**](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/acvzgx/steels_guide_to_married_red_pill/) next, saw gargantuan B’s old before and afters, listened to a [weakandsensative youtube](https://www.youtube.com/c/WhineMorePlease/videos) and saw the light. @@ -19493,7 +19493,7 @@ If I could go back to the beginning and give myself advice it would be to lift h One of the things that’s funny is that when I first arrived here, pretty much everything on the list above seemed like it was some unbelievable mountain to climb. But as these things have started to become a fundamental part of how I live, their significance or status as accomplishment is fading fast. -I have so much left to do. I’m **overwhelmed** with options of what to tackle or prioritize next. It’s invigorating to think about what might be possible in the coming year, decade and whatever else I get. My want to read, want to try, need to do lists are all way fucking longer than they were when I first got here, and I can’t wait. Thank you all.",,121,ragnar_Daneskjold,1643912717.0 +I have so much left to do. I’m **overwhelmed** with options of what to tackle or prioritize next. It’s invigorating to think about what might be possible in the coming year, decade and whatever else I get. My want to read, want to try, need to do lists are all way fucking longer than they were when I first got here, and I can’t wait. Thank you all.",,121,ragnar_Daneskjold,2022-02-03 18:25:17 marriedredpill,sid2ic,Be less shit,"The way you guys are writing about your sex life with your wives is turning to shit again. There are a number users approaching their sex life as if they are victims. Here's a handful of examples from this week. @@ -19538,7 +19538,7 @@ I am not breaking any new ground here. [It's been said more eloquently before](h **Again, just so we're very clear, MRP is not a program that will get your wife to fuck you. And this is especially true when you continue to have a shitty mindset.** -Do better.",,95,threekindsoflucky,1643769264.0 +Do better.",,95,threekindsoflucky,2022-02-02 02:34:24 marriedredpill,shzrka,Praise and Compliments should be worthless to you,"A few years ago I wrote a post on [The Epic Test](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/f70l7g/your_womans_most_wonderful_gift_the_epic_test/), and in that post I pointed out: >*For those struggling with validation… Not a single time did I get encouragement from her. Not a single bit of praise. Not a mention of anything that would resemble a wife who is proud of or to be with her husband. Not a single comment on my physique, style, new haircut, sexual position, or attitude. Nothing.* @@ -19579,7 +19579,7 @@ Next time, watch what she does - not what she says - and I guarantee you that if So sack up and realize that even if you do hear praise from her, it's worthless. -A man is his only judge, and his own mental point of origin. Either you get it, or you don't.",,83,HornsOfApathy,1643734862.0 +A man is his only judge, and his own mental point of origin. Either you get it, or you don't.",,83,HornsOfApathy,2022-02-01 17:01:02 marriedredpill,shq3ow,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 01, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -19588,7 +19588,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,1643704218.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,2022-02-01 08:30:18 marriedredpill,shbq81,Triple Beta,"Its Valentines Day Mother-nonfuckers. It is that time of year for more socially mandated behavior on what it is to be a man. Daddy Red is here to remind you what the rules are. @@ -19617,7 +19617,7 @@ Your Valentines Day present for 2022 was decided last year. At this stage, you c Better watch out though, the GOAT is retiring and Mahomes is still learning. -There is always next year.",,0,red-sfpplus,1643662037.0 +There is always next year.",,0,red-sfpplus,2022-01-31 20:47:17 marriedredpill,sc8z5n,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 25, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -19626,7 +19626,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,32,AutoModerator,1643099418.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,32,AutoModerator,2022-01-25 08:30:18 marriedredpill,s8mpb1,Lessons Learned from walking through Hell,"Hello brothers, I’m not sure any of you may remember me or my story. It’s been almost two years since sharing or posting. I was the guy who’s shit show of a marriage came to an end when my special needs son died. He spiked a fever of 109 degrees and cooked his brain. We took him off life support, all while my wife was too busy being a whore and fucking around during this time. It was the worst time of my life, but thanks to a lot of what I’ve learned here I’ve emerged from the fires of hell more refined. I want to give back and share some of the foundational learnings and lessons I’ve had along the way. @@ -19655,7 +19655,7 @@ Easiest thing to do when you realize the basics and don’t over think shit. T This is the most important part of everything involving TRP/MRP. The iron temple, the place you get to praise yourself with the blood and tears. To grow physically, as well as mentally. Working out sucks, it’s hard. A lot of the stuff is heavy, and it takes a lot of effort to pick those stupid things up only to set it back down. However, the benefits are so stupid there’s no argument to be made. Mental health is associated with physical health, as above so below. It helps with hormones, confidence, mental health, and literally makes you sexier and stronger. Most men don’t work out, and if they do, they’re fucking around in there playing with their dicks or something. I’ve had more woman check me out, compliment me, beg to fuck me, and do dirty things all because I have the discipline to go to the gym. The lesson here, just go to the god damn gym and stop fucking around. This is the first building block to being a stronger version of yourself. -This isn’t anything amazing, but this is just some of the lessons I learned from trying to escape my personal hell. I hope some of you find this useful, probably not. I hope you men are out here protecting your peace and mental health. Strange times we’re in, enjoy the decline.",,235,[deleted],1642695766.0 +This isn’t anything amazing, but this is just some of the lessons I learned from trying to escape my personal hell. I hope some of you find this useful, probably not. I hope you men are out here protecting your peace and mental health. Strange times we’re in, enjoy the decline.",,235,[deleted],2022-01-20 16:22:46 marriedredpill,s8kbxt,"Keep it simple, stupid","Red Pill is a praxeology. Systems of practice. In other words auto mechanics, not ideology. I've yet to see a guy find this place who didn't find it for one of two reasons: @@ -19676,7 +19676,7 @@ TheultmateCad wants to fuck the neighborhood and come home to his wife? sweet. I The_Litz wants to spend years coming to terms with the success and failure of his life, slowly build himself into a man he can be proud of and accepting that it took years to be a piece of shit and it will take years to stop being one. I'll learn what the way ahead for me would be if I try to 'fix my marriage'. i'll learn how self reflection is important, but actions are more important, and change is uncomfortable. I'm focused on what's in his material that's for me. There's a ton of dudes who are 'doing it for the kids' who are showing where that road goes that added to his stuff -Don't make this harder than it needs to be.",,93,RStonePT,1642689198.0 +Don't make this harder than it needs to be.",,93,RStonePT,2022-01-20 14:33:18 marriedredpill,s6spwk,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 18, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -19685,7 +19685,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,1642494611.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,2022-01-18 08:30:11 marriedredpill,s1dli8,Put Your Ego in the Box,"I'd like to take a moment today and write a post about an idea that's been wandering about my head in many forms for years. I've inadvertently used the idea when talking with friends about things. And conceptually used it myself when trying to understand something new. I recently read about a form of it in a book on Zen. Consider it a look into how best to learn new models. &nbsp; @@ -19916,7 +19916,7 @@ So what am I actually telling you to do here? Because it's not a checklist like That's what this post was all about. How to ground experience in actions catalyzed by doubt, curiosity, and play. With an emphasis on finding a path of efficiency using both the tools of action and feeling out the world. And allowing those thoughts and feelings and experiences to solidify and land in a place in your mind that's free from the models that you've already put together, that your ego furiously defends, so that they have a chance to take hold. -Taoism often speaks of effortless action. See if you can crosscheck your life and assess whether when you do act, if your actions seem more like you trying to force something to happen using the strength biology has given men to push through adversity by default. Or if your actions seem to flow from a place of understanding and if those actions move easily to navigate the landscape of reality like a rudder through water.",,53,[deleted],1641909760.0 +Taoism often speaks of effortless action. See if you can crosscheck your life and assess whether when you do act, if your actions seem more like you trying to force something to happen using the strength biology has given men to push through adversity by default. Or if your actions seem to flow from a place of understanding and if those actions move easily to navigate the landscape of reality like a rudder through water.",,53,[deleted],2022-01-11 14:02:40 marriedredpill,s1889w,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 11, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -19925,10 +19925,10 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,1641889821.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,2022-01-11 08:30:21 marriedredpill,s16uyb,"60 DoD Booster '21: Week 8 - Social Life, and the End","Last week was your Social Life booster. Hopefully you all read some of the prior materials to understand where you should be on the basics. Your booster could of course been many different things, including building new networks, expanding existing networks, or even pruning existing networks. Remember that some connections can be a time sink and not worth your effort. -How did you do? Have you given all your areas a ""shot in the arm?"" I will be tallying results some time this week and awarding flair. I offer a golf clap for all who participated.",,14,SorcererKing,1641884506.0 +How did you do? Have you given all your areas a ""shot in the arm?"" I will be tallying results some time this week and awarding flair. I offer a golf clap for all who participated.",,14,SorcererKing,2022-01-11 07:01:46 marriedredpill,s08cat,"New to this, instant positive reactions.","I just want to say that after reading NMMNG, the beginning of The Married Man Sex Life Primer, lots of stuff here, and starting an audio book on this, it’s been insane the complete 180 my wife has made. I never thought it would ever be like this with her. How do I maintain this? @@ -19937,7 +19937,7 @@ Does it fade? Doesn’t matter. I’m more comfortable in my own damn skin after starting this journey and I’m not stopping. -Fuck this sub is awesome.",,19,Jack_Wraith,1641780950.0 +Fuck this sub is awesome.",,19,Jack_Wraith,2022-01-10 02:15:50 marriedredpill,rvpll4,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 04, 2022","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -19946,7 +19946,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1641285015.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2022-01-04 08:30:15 marriedredpill,rsl5x5,recurring comfort test,"I have a recurring comfort test that I keep failing. married 6 years, together 11, 2 kids, 7 and 4 @@ -19964,7 +19964,7 @@ Now the comfort tests: and the like. She is definitely my little slut, 75% of the time. It's in her. DEVI works, and I know I have definitely got work to do to keep her comfortable and receptive. She is also very capable of being the sweet, feminine lovely energy that we all love. But if I fail or falter the slightest, holy fuck it goes to full cunt mode. As in no matter how I try to fix her feelz, she flat out holds frame and treats me like I just murdered her dog. If I try to get frame back by STFU, it can last weeks, and she generally comes back but with the ammo of ""you didn't even care enough about me to...why are you with me?"" There is some old trauma surrounding sex where ""I used to think that the only way I could get you to like me was through sex"" coz of pretty fucked previous relationship. I did not know this when we were dating or getting married. Not in detail anyway. -Now I can see how that is emotionally painful for her, but how do I show her that that is in fact exactly how she gets me to like her, and that it is not a bad thing (BP/ASD) ? I think I'm DEERing too much in explaining how I chose her out of all the others blah blah. But there aren't any others...is this a matter of learning game",,33,Zealousideal-Cut6282,1640924220.0 +Now I can see how that is emotionally painful for her, but how do I show her that that is in fact exactly how she gets me to like her, and that it is not a bad thing (BP/ASD) ? I think I'm DEERing too much in explaining how I chose her out of all the others blah blah. But there aren't any others...is this a matter of learning game",,33,Zealousideal-Cut6282,2021-12-31 04:17:00 marriedredpill,rs3spn,60 DoD Booster '21: Week 5 Game & Week 6 Finance,"IMMEDIATE EDIT: I think maybe I'm off a week. This should be about Week 6 Finance and Week 7 Career. Welcome back. For those of you keeping score at home, Cerveza sickness is lame. Not the worst I've ever had, but certainly has its charms. Hopefully while I was recovering the rest of you carried on. Last week was Finance while this week is Career. @@ -19975,7 +19975,7 @@ Career takes on a special new importance now. If a Great Depression scenario is A final word on the role of these posts. They are an attempt to stimulate you to *think* about the topic area, but I or someone else doesn't post them, those of you participating should carry on anyway. You can always know the week by looking at the 60 DoD content on the sidebar. -That is all. Get it done.",,0,SorcererKing,1640876612.0 +That is all. Get it done.",,0,SorcererKing,2021-12-30 15:03:32 marriedredpill,rqb17w,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 28, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -19984,7 +19984,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1640680218.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2021-12-28 08:30:18 marriedredpill,rla5ak,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 21, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -19993,7 +19993,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,1640075422.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,2021-12-21 08:30:22 marriedredpill,rjysfe,RP philosophy: A take on selfishness,"**Edit: WARNING: Massive bullshit ahead. It will possibly read as somewhat insightful, or like there is some substance there, but there isn't. It's nothing but *verba non acta*. I'm leaving it here to remind myself and warn others what can happen if you spend too much time thinking and not enough time doing.** Fix the man, not the marriage. I am the problem, not my wife/dad/government/world. Discipline = freedom. Lift. STFU. Read. Work *hard*. Become your own judge, your own mental point of origin. Do what you want. DNGAF. (well, give maybe one fuck). @@ -20039,7 +20039,7 @@ I could even argue that the kind of “selective self-sacrifice” that promotes So, have I just worked myself around to what everyone here already knows, and my autistic ass just didn’t understand the nuance? Did I take “selfishness” and rational egoism too literally? -Or are there some hairs to split here?",,35,ancient_resistance,1639927179.0 +Or are there some hairs to split here?",,35,ancient_resistance,2021-12-19 15:19:39 marriedredpill,rhe74s,Sabotaging the deal at the end,"I'm sitting in an airport lobby right now, where I just got out of a meeting codenamed ""Project Landwhale"". I'm tasked to do due-diligence on a $100M+ company acquisition, that I will integrate into my business unit afterwards - and it's a company that previously tried to poach me back in 2015 post VC funding but they wasted my time and it died on the vine. The leadership was full of fat assholes. And here I sit wondering if I should just play along with these guys next week when I meet them in person and for the next 60 days, just to ultimately nuke the deal on day 59 without my recommendation and a scathing report not to proceed. Maybe I will, maybe I won't. @@ -20086,12 +20086,12 @@ But I promise you I wouldn't be sitting here today with my woman at home, ready But if it all goes tits up - OK. Cost of doing business. -Strength, motherfuckers.",,50,HornsOfApathy,1639615645.0 +Strength, motherfuckers.",,50,HornsOfApathy,2021-12-16 00:47:25 marriedredpill,rgq0qq,60 DoD '21 Week 5: Game,"Ah, Game. This is probably everyone's least favorite to do but favorite to talk about. You have options for a booster here, as always. Is your rando game on point? Do you engage in light flirting with women you encounter in the wild? Are you keeping the wife on her toes with banter? Remember that Game is about you generating positive feelings in others, particularly the tingles in women. It is perception management, expectation setting, and boundary enforcement all in one. -See if you can (a) identify your weak points; (b) set up a booster-style program to address the weak points; and (c) actually execute the plan. Hit up our sidebar resources and old PUA material if you must. Report it or it didn't happen.",,13,SorcererKing,1639541098.0 +See if you can (a) identify your weak points; (b) set up a booster-style program to address the weak points; and (c) actually execute the plan. Hit up our sidebar resources and old PUA material if you must. Report it or it didn't happen.",,13,SorcererKing,2021-12-15 04:04:58 marriedredpill,rg30pg,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 14, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -20100,12 +20100,12 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,1639470613.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,2021-12-14 08:30:13 marriedredpill,rb3xdf,60 DoD Booster '21: Week 4 Style,"This week we're giving our wardrobes a shot in the arm. In many places the weather seems to be swinging wildly back and forth between warm and cold, but for Northern Hemisphere guys we're entering winter soon. This means time to tune our colder weather wardrobe. Do your pants fit well? Enough room in the shoulders for those long-sleeve shirts? What about accessories, like hats, scarves, gloves. Can you make your look more sophisticated with some of these? Outerwear is important too. Your coat -- or lack thereof -- really sets your initial impression. The layers underneath need to be coherent with it and thus should reinforce it. -No need to necessarily spend money for this booster, either. Take a holistic look at your wardrobe and make sure the pieces are working together correctly. Find the pieces that work well together, and make sure you note which ones should *never* go together. Consult the previous 60 DoD posts and internet style guides if you need inspiration or assistance.",,11,SorcererKing,1638898233.0 +No need to necessarily spend money for this booster, either. Take a holistic look at your wardrobe and make sure the pieces are working together correctly. Find the pieces that work well together, and make sure you note which ones should *never* go together. Consult the previous 60 DoD posts and internet style guides if you need inspiration or assistance.",,11,SorcererKing,2021-12-07 17:30:33 marriedredpill,rauhc3,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 07, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -20114,7 +20114,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,1638865814.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,2021-12-07 08:30:14 marriedredpill,r8s86o,A Teaser to Frame,"*An excerpt from Rudyard Kipling's poem ""If""* >If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster @@ -20176,12 +20176,12 @@ And for that you will be rejected. Revelation 3:15‭-‬16 ESV -Make a fucking decision.",,52,Praexology,1638632489.0 +Make a fucking decision.",,52,Praexology,2021-12-04 15:41:29 marriedredpill,r6ofiv,60 DoD Booster '21 Week 3: Hygiene,"Yes, I'm late in getting this up. That should not change the fact that you should be tuning up your hygiene this week. There have been good suggestions from years-past about cologne, haircuts, etc. Try getting new soap or a new deodorant for this booster. Something that will subtly change your smell (for the better, obviously). -Report in OYS to continue to have accountability. I don't know you're participating if you're not OYS posting about it.",,13,SorcererKing,1638390832.0 +Report in OYS to continue to have accountability. I don't know you're participating if you're not OYS posting about it.",,13,SorcererKing,2021-12-01 20:33:52 marriedredpill,r5iq2j,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 30, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -20190,7 +20190,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,1638261010.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,2021-11-30 08:30:10 marriedredpill,r16ztm,FR - A Week of Irrational Self-Confidence,"*I know I'm being used, That's okay because I like the abuse,* *I know she's playing with me, Thats okay, cause I have no self-esteem.* @@ -20215,7 +20215,7 @@ I changed that inner voice to saying and thinking only good things about myself, I started this about 5 weeks ago with the intent of being irrationally self-confident for 1 week. I did it for a week. I loved it. I loved everything about it. I stayed out longer with friends, I laughed more than ever, I went through a months' worth of shit tests in a week. Then I realized I didn't have to pass shit tests if I didn't want to. After a week, I thought fuck it, I am going to keep going. I got laid a bunch, leaned into mountain biking with a group of guys, got a promotion at work, perfected that fat, funky bass line to Superstition. What the fuck, it is not irrational anymore, it is just confidence, maybe some people have it naturally, I had to learn it, either way it does not matter, as long as you have it. -In the 90s I loved The Offspring, I feel sorry for those suckers now.",,83,Along-The-Reeds,1637765692.0 +In the 90s I loved The Offspring, I feel sorry for those suckers now.",,83,Along-The-Reeds,2021-11-24 14:54:52 marriedredpill,qzyqkj,Stop Blaming Your Kids,"I’ve consumed a lot of the content on MRP and the thing that pisses me off most is when guys blame their kids. If you let a five-year-old stand in the way of what you want, then either you don't really want it or you don't deserve to get it. @@ -20293,7 +20293,7 @@ A lot of parents today think they have to have their eyes on their kids every wa For guys like me that didn't have dads around, you may want to oversteer and make sure you're there for your kids all of the time. Kids can be a part of your world, but not the center of your world. Make most of their events. Spend some of your time with them. I missed an event the other day because I had something else I needed and wanted to do that's been on the calendar for a while. I'll probably make the next event. Other times, I might change my plans to accommodate, or I even plan around the activities and events. There's no script, it just all depends on what is happening at a certain time, where my time is best utilized, and what I can do to honor my word. -Summary: Don't make your kids your wingmen. Spend quality time with them if you want to. Otherwise, I'm sure they can find help on this sub in 15-25 years.",,108,[deleted],1637622840.0 +Summary: Don't make your kids your wingmen. Spend quality time with them if you want to. Otherwise, I'm sure they can find help on this sub in 15-25 years.",,108,[deleted],2021-11-22 23:14:00 marriedredpill,r08pcl,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 23, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -20302,10 +20302,10 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,12,AutoModerator,1637656210.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,12,AutoModerator,2021-11-23 08:30:10 marriedredpill,r0875u,60 DoD '21 Booster Week 2: Diet Boost,"Time to reassess the diet. What are you eating that you shouldn't be? What might you add to your routine that could help? From superfoods to supplements, there are many choices. Check some prior year resources on the sidebar if you lack inspiration. -This is also a good time to make sure you have a solid plan. The Eating Olympics are on Thursday in the US, so how will you cope with that? Will you exercise some control and stick to your plan? Can you eat more turkey than stuffing? Maybe just steal a bite of pie from your wife rather than have your own piece? Lay off the beers? Tell us in OYS.",,11,SorcererKing,1637654178.0 +This is also a good time to make sure you have a solid plan. The Eating Olympics are on Thursday in the US, so how will you cope with that? Will you exercise some control and stick to your plan? Can you eat more turkey than stuffing? Maybe just steal a bite of pie from your wife rather than have your own piece? Lay off the beers? Tell us in OYS.",,11,SorcererKing,2021-11-23 07:56:18 marriedredpill,qz6qzm,The Law of Accommodation,"The law of accommodation is: the response of a biological organism to a given constant stimulus will decrease over time. @@ -20340,7 +20340,7 @@ This is why linear progressive programs will only work for so long. This is why As a man you are defined by your weaknesses. You can only bench 225? Doesn’t matter you can squat 700, your limitation is what holds you back. Your training needs to focus around removing your weaknesses, while improving your strengths. Your body will be under constant change. Every session something else is happening. Don’t keep relying on the same tools everyday. -The premise here is that if you can change your body you can change your life. Whatever you are least at that’s where you are stuck at.",,62,ReddJive,1637535496.0 +The premise here is that if you can change your body you can change your life. Whatever you are least at that’s where you are stuck at.",,62,ReddJive,2021-11-21 22:58:16 marriedredpill,qx555f,FR: Spank your wife.,"First, I'm NASTY. Not a sex therapist... yet. @@ -20383,7 +20383,7 @@ Rest of the night she's forgotten all about the missed dry cleaning, is cuddling ""That was so fucking hot, Horns."" -It was the egoless truth.",,179,HornsOfApathy,1637286123.0 +It was the egoless truth.",,179,HornsOfApathy,2021-11-19 01:42:03 marriedredpill,qv384e,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 16, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -20392,7 +20392,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1637051410.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2021-11-16 08:30:10 marriedredpill,quyl11,60 DoD: Booster Shot '21,"Hello again maggots. It has been nearly 6 months since we finished 60 DoD '21. We had good participation this year, including many new guys. Wads of cookie dough began to become carved out of wood, and flair was earned. @@ -20403,7 +20403,7 @@ So, we are going to do another cycle. Right before (and straight through) the ho Week 1 starts now. Reply to this post to declare your commitment to yourself. For this week, as in all weeks during this run, you're going to look at your lifting with a ""booster shot"" mentality: what is working, what is not. What is stale and can be replaced with something new? More reps, more sets, more weight? New exercises? Variants of the same old thing? Concretely: pick a lifting celebrity and find something they do that you do not, and integrate that into your routine. Possibilities include Schwarzenegger, The Rock, Steve Cook, Ronnie-Fucking-Coleman (Light Weight Baby!)... or whoever you like. Just try something new FFS. -The same rules as before will apply. Those who commit publicly and report progress weekly will earn flair. If you already got flair last spring from this, you'll get the coveted **FULLY DREADED '21** flair. I haven't done the math yet to know when this stops. It will end when it ends, so STFU and get lifting.",,22,SorcererKing,1637034252.0 +The same rules as before will apply. Those who commit publicly and report progress weekly will earn flair. If you already got flair last spring from this, you'll get the coveted **FULLY DREADED '21** flair. I haven't done the math yet to know when this stops. It will end when it ends, so STFU and get lifting.",,22,SorcererKing,2021-11-16 03:44:12 marriedredpill,qtaocf,Depressed and Anxious Wives: A Slower Approach: Field Report,"I got home from taking my girl out last night and hopped on the MRP subreddit for a bit. I read u/The_Red_Letters report on Depressed and Anxious wives and this immediately resonated with me. However, my approach was closer to a tow rope approach. Maybe not 1000 feet, but there was quite a bit of slack. This is not meant as a rebuttal, companion piece, or even related to u/The_Red_Letters. In fact, it sounds like my approach took much longer than his and that my issue was less severe. I won't get any fake internet points for originality, but I will say that writing all of the below out is helping me from slipping back to where I was. @@ -20508,7 +20508,7 @@ Last night: we're sitting at dinner, enjoying ourselves, making fun of other peo * I developed a mission that wasn't her and later included her in this mission. * Aimless men create aimless women. * Things are better. -* It took about a year with the way that I did it, with six months of focused work.",,75,[deleted],1636839207.0 +* It took about a year with the way that I did it, with six months of focused work.",,75,[deleted],2021-11-13 21:33:27 marriedredpill,qseq8g,Depressed and Anxious Wives: Field Report.,"I’ve never gotten into a lot of detail on the specifics of my experience in my OYS posts because it wasn’t necessary in order for me to make progress. That’s the beauty of this place. No matter how unique you think your situation is the recipe to fix it is basically the same. Lift, read the sidebar, post your goals and progress, swap notes and repeat. At this point though I think there’s some value to be had in consolidating my experience into a post. If not for you, then at least for me. There’s nothing terribly special here. It’s just the practical specifics of how I applied the theory to my life. @@ -20556,7 +20556,7 @@ The change I made was simple but not easy. All it took was becoming honest and c The way of the superior man taught me the good and bad news. The bad news your excellent track record means nothing to your woman. The good news; your terrible track record means just as little. Rapid change is possible. -Consistency is key motherfuckers.",,102,The_Red_Letters,1636733983.0 +Consistency is key motherfuckers.",,102,The_Red_Letters,2021-11-12 16:19:43 marriedredpill,qq60zw,Why field reports are important.,"The field report, the most important part of this place, aside from actions. I'm writing this because I learned it, and others are having trouble — or seem to be — and I've always thought of this place as take a penny, leave a penny. Here's my 0.02 #####Why write a field report? @@ -20600,7 +20600,7 @@ I think I have a way to articulate it. Most guys are meant to be fodder for the 7. The books on the sidebar are actually important. You only fuck yourself over by not just reading them, but understanding what they are there to accomplish 8. New posters put their lifts onto posts to show they are worth the time of day to help them as they get started. After a year, people know whether you are worth a damn or not. 9. Personal note: being OCD about reading stuff in here pays off. There are only maybe 6 different types of guys in here, and they all have the same types of problems. Read enough and it's like you're able to predict the future -10. Top 10 lists are gay.",,63,RStonePT,1636471508.0 +10. Top 10 lists are gay.",,63,RStonePT,2021-11-09 15:25:08 marriedredpill,qq93ht,Field Report – Debrief after a Conversation with Horns,"I posted the following on OYS today: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/qpzab0/own_your_shit_weekly_november_09_2021/hjxbevw/ @@ -20615,7 +20615,7 @@ So you realize the game isn’t fun, regardless of how much you are getting your And that. That is when you can look your wife in the eye after she comes home crying that she can’t handle it anymore [just a mere fucking hour after Horns gifts you the balls you weren’t quite sure you had yourself] and asks, “do you love me?” And you can answer her with absolute conviction, and maybe just a hint (or more) of anger, and give her the first genuine thing you’ve probably ever given anybody since you started on MRP. And for me, that was simply telling my wife: “I do love you. But what I need in my life is a woman that can be vulnerable. To be herself with me without fear of reprisal or judgment. And I will have that in my life. And if that isn’t with you, that is OK. Because I don’t need you. That doesn’t mean I don’t want you. I want to kick life’s ass with you by my side. I’ve chosen you. And I’ve done that because I know you are capable of being for me what I need. I know you think you don’t know how to do that because your whole life you’ve dealt with the bullshit from everyone that made those walls come up and that fear of giving in too much. But I know you have it in you. And if you don’t, that is OK because the vision I have for my life will be realized, with or without you. Do you want in?” -For the vets, I don’t think I need to write down what the reaction to this speech was. In some ways, it doesn’t even matter. But the OYS 1-10 guys would be pumped to hear it.",,28,AlphalfaSprout,1636480071.0 +For the vets, I don’t think I need to write down what the reaction to this speech was. In some ways, it doesn’t even matter. But the OYS 1-10 guys would be pumped to hear it.",,28,AlphalfaSprout,2021-11-09 17:47:51 marriedredpill,qpzab0,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 09, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -20624,7 +20624,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,1636446611.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,2021-11-09 08:30:11 marriedredpill,qo7jta,"Field Report: Horn's Cheat Codes: Dom 2 Beg, Var Beg 15","Stats: late thirties, 6’, 182 lbs, BF 17% (calipers). Married. Multiple children. Weights on track. &#x200B; @@ -20661,7 +20661,7 @@ Prior to this day, I've had awful experiences with not lasting long. I've used s &#x200B; -I could end this report by saying ""Don't care, got popcorn,"" but in reality, I had some fear that could only be encountered with action. It could have happened a lot sooner. And I realized any road blocks are bullshit. *Normally* sex wasn't happening until after 11pm...until it did. *Normally* she cared about the kids hearing us...until she didn't. Regardless of the outcome, I got better, and I'm standing in my own way a little bit less.",,48,[deleted],1636227432.0 +I could end this report by saying ""Don't care, got popcorn,"" but in reality, I had some fear that could only be encountered with action. It could have happened a lot sooner. And I realized any road blocks are bullshit. *Normally* sex wasn't happening until after 11pm...until it did. *Normally* she cared about the kids hearing us...until she didn't. Regardless of the outcome, I got better, and I'm standing in my own way a little bit less.",,48,[deleted],2021-11-06 19:37:12 marriedredpill,qkzq1y,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 02, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -20670,7 +20670,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,1635841818.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,2021-11-02 08:30:18 marriedredpill,qignby,Weak Things Break,"Whenever I get the urge to read through OYS or the AMRP sub, I inevitably find the post where a guy puts some version of ""I tweaked my back/arm/leg/ or any other extremity"" so I am going to take time off from this lift or that lift. I have only one thought. This guy’s ego is in the way. Weak things break afterall. @@ -20707,7 +20707,7 @@ Fuck you for letting all these things in your life happen, for giving up on your And fuck that bar. Are you going to let it prove to you that weak things break? -Or are you going to lift that mother fucker? Trust me. You can lift it.",,61,ReddJive,1635524891.0 +Or are you going to lift that mother fucker? Trust me. You can lift it.",,61,ReddJive,2021-10-29 16:28:11 marriedredpill,qg1wav,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 26, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -20716,7 +20716,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,1635237017.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,2021-10-26 08:30:17 marriedredpill,qfrxak,Who Am I? What Am I?,"This is another hack/field report mashup. I'm sharing as a gift because it has seriously helped me on several occasions, and I frequently find in reading OYSes and comments other men here who might profit from it. *""Who am I?"" ""What am I?""* @@ -20769,7 +20769,7 @@ Blarg rightly pointed out that I failed to make the connections to the sidebar m - ***Self-Validation & Abundance:*** Chad likes Chad for who Chad is, without apology. Chad doesn't have a bunch of other people's concepts interfering with Chad's evaluation of himself. If Chad doesn't like something about Chad, then Chad either changes that thing or starts liking it. Chad won't tolerate living with his shitty self. Chad has a deep well of love and validation for himself. He knows how to get to that well quickly and goes often. Chad doesn't need it from anyone else; he's flooded with it. Most MRP tards think it's DNGAF, but it's really abundance. If a tard is looking to results in the world as his sole measuring stick, he's just becoming outcome dependent and subject to all the frames gatekeeping those outcomes. But if Chad can play in the world of outcomes always knowing his real needs will always be met with the well of abundant self-love he has, Chad is invincible. The only way to use such a well, is to get familiar with where it is and how to draw from it. That's what this exercise does for me. -- ***Mission:*** Most MRP tards' missions are still just adopted roles imposed on them by the matrix - it's all they've ever known. Their missions aren't really for them in particular. They are roles to be played. Without a deeply-felt sense of self, they can't really identify their mission if it ever occurs to them. And they don't know enough about themselves to ignore calls to missions that aren't for them. This exercise helps me break through those periods that TWOTSM mentions where the mission seems to have been wrong, or become stale, or where I seem to be outgrowing it, but unsure of what's next.",,28,[deleted],1635200315.0 +- ***Mission:*** Most MRP tards' missions are still just adopted roles imposed on them by the matrix - it's all they've ever known. Their missions aren't really for them in particular. They are roles to be played. Without a deeply-felt sense of self, they can't really identify their mission if it ever occurs to them. And they don't know enough about themselves to ignore calls to missions that aren't for them. This exercise helps me break through those periods that TWOTSM mentions where the mission seems to have been wrong, or become stale, or where I seem to be outgrowing it, but unsure of what's next.",,28,[deleted],2021-10-25 22:18:35 marriedredpill,qercvv,Own your shit isn't her autobiography,"[Whinemoreplease posted something to Twitter and I had to see it for myself.](https://twitter.com/whinemoreplease/status/1450554373508059144?s=20) Oh sweet Jesus... What the fuck @@ -20811,7 +20811,7 @@ It's not about making this the He Man Woman Haters Club either: In those field r To those who this doesn't apply to, you don't have to post below about how this doesn't apply to you. Let it lie. For the rest of you guys, stop posting the cooking cutter MRP template hoping that you'll come out the other end like some kind of god among men... Married and Red Pilled isn't about a checklist to meet the ideal, it's about you solving problems surrounding sex, relationships, and eventually, a vision for your future. -Get it through your thick skull. Nothing in here is about her, no one cares what she does or what she thinks or how she feels. This isn't a place to stave off divorce rape. This is about fixing you, full stop.",,78,RStonePT,1635079117.0 +Get it through your thick skull. Nothing in here is about her, no one cares what she does or what she thinks or how she feels. This isn't a place to stave off divorce rape. This is about fixing you, full stop.",,78,RStonePT,2021-10-24 12:38:37 marriedredpill,qb0jvv,MRP is not an identity,"Too many people find this place and embrace it as their new identity. A ‘Red Pilled’ man. They feel special, as they are now part of a group. They think they ‘know things’ that most average guys don’t, and this knowledge makes them somehow better than the average guy. It’s all bullshit. @@ -20830,7 +20830,7 @@ Stop role playing as a red-pilled man and start figuring out who you want to be. The point of this place is for you to figure out what you want, not for us to tell you who to be. This isn’t a factory where we take normal guys and churn out ‘red pilled men’. It’s a place where a bunch of guys have tried some stuff, some of it worked for them, some of it didn’t. -It’s on you to figure out what works for you, and how that fits into what you want.",,127,threekindsoflucky,1634605781.0 +It’s on you to figure out what works for you, and how that fits into what you want.",,127,threekindsoflucky,2021-10-19 01:09:41 marriedredpill,qb75xp,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 19, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -20839,7 +20839,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,1634632211.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,2021-10-19 08:30:11 marriedredpill,q8rzv9,Replacing Apology with Appreciation,"This is a mashup of a field report and hack/cheatcode. I'm working on recapturing some pre-MRP vulnerability without all the fucked-up neediness of my pre-MRP self. This is me coaching myself (""you"" here is ""me""). I'm sharing because ... well, that's just how this place works. ***If you're nice-guying,*** your apologies suck because they're manipulative and insincere. Worse, your apologies undermine you because they train people to treat you like a doormat. You feel blame and contempt from someone. It stresses you out. So, to relieve the stress, you cower and supplicate. You overdo it, because you want to give yourself a forced feeling of shame rather than deal with either the confrontation of standing up for what you're blamed with or the accuracy of the flaw that the blame has identified. Because those are the things that matter, and your apology is avoiding those things, it's insincere. And because you supplicate to do it, you reinforce to yourself and others that you need a master - and there's no shortage of people lining up to fill that role. (I haven't done this in a very long while, but I used to. And you can see this commonly in OYS and in the wild.) @@ -20866,7 +20866,7 @@ Edit: \[1\] *See* u/rocknrollchuck's comment below for good advice on this. -\[2\] I need to publicly credit u/hornsofapathy for his recent gift of criticism and modeling congruent vulnerability.",,49,[deleted],1634315207.0 +\[2\] I need to publicly credit u/hornsofapathy for his recent gift of criticism and modeling congruent vulnerability.",,49,[deleted],2021-10-15 16:26:47 marriedredpill,q6hkfh,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 12, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -20875,7 +20875,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1634027416.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2021-10-12 08:30:16 marriedredpill,q6a7v3,MarriedRedPill Updated Flair Guidelines,"MRP over the years has had steady growth, but thankfully not exponential growth. In case it's not clear, we aren't here to save every man. With over 40K men coming here to read and share notes, the moderator team will be adding a strict set of flair to help identify where men are in their journey. Let's get to why at the end. @@ -20912,7 +20912,7 @@ Assignment of flair will begin now and will take some time to moderate, but be p &#x200B; -*Edit: Previous versions of this flair guideline had Grinding & Unplugging flipped in order. After discussion with the moderator team the decision was made to move the progression to Unflaired Retard > Grinding > Unplugging > MRP Approved*",,21,HornsOfApathy,1633999832.0 +*Edit: Previous versions of this flair guideline had Grinding & Unplugging flipped in order. After discussion with the moderator team the decision was made to move the progression to Unflaired Retard > Grinding > Unplugging > MRP Approved*",,21,HornsOfApathy,2021-10-12 00:50:32 marriedredpill,q298xy,Doing things is better than not doing things,"This is a simple post from a simple man. If you’re wondering why you’re struggling to progress, the answer is likely simple. You aren’t doing anything different. You can spend months thinking about things. Talking about things. You can even call it ‘focusing on mental models’ or ‘frame’ or whatever you like. @@ -20935,7 +20935,7 @@ And there you have it, that’s the whole MRP in a few words. It's simple, but it's not easy. That's why most men won't do it. Its why OYS is filled with people 'thinking, reflecting, working on mental models, building frame'. Some of those things have a place. But action comes first. -Now go forth and fucking try to do something differently. What have you got to lose?",,100,threekindsoflucky,1633479805.0 +Now go forth and fucking try to do something differently. What have you got to lose?",,100,threekindsoflucky,2021-10-06 00:23:25 marriedredpill,q1s5jj,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 05, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -20944,7 +20944,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,1633422613.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,2021-10-05 08:30:13 marriedredpill,pzbowu,FR - Horn's Cheat Codes,"&#x200B; *\*The following is not meant to be a recommendation or specific advice and is being distributed for informational purposes only. The author is every bit as tardy as the worst of you and is just throwing spaghetti and cum at the wall to see what sticks. Past performance does not guarantee future results.* @@ -20976,7 +20976,7 @@ I wouldn’t say I face fucked her. I never went all the way to the hilt. I pene I’ve done this before but usually in the shower or pooled it on her tummy or lower back. It probably wasn’t that crazy but to us it was. These were ROPES. Like haven’t nutted since Sunday ropes. One of them went from the bottom of her rib cage up over her collarbone and around her shoulder and beyond. I’m pretty sure it’s the 1,000 foot rope everyone’s always talking about. -She said, with a big girly smile on her face, “wow, its all over my hair, it’s so much, look at our pillows, it’s probably on the walls, I think you ruined our bedroom!” I tried to play it off like it was no biggie and just mopped her up with a dirty tshirt. Later that night, while watching Ted Lasso, she continued to giggle about it and squeal while peeling dried specs off her arms.",,41,ragnar_Daneskjold,1633106014.0 +She said, with a big girly smile on her face, “wow, its all over my hair, it’s so much, look at our pillows, it’s probably on the walls, I think you ruined our bedroom!” I tried to play it off like it was no biggie and just mopped her up with a dirty tshirt. Later that night, while watching Ted Lasso, she continued to giggle about it and squeal while peeling dried specs off her arms.",,41,ragnar_Daneskjold,2021-10-01 16:33:34 marriedredpill,pymw1k,HornsOfApathy's MRP Cheat Codes to blow up your sex life,"Retards! Gather 'round! **Here comes dynamite.** /u/Blarg_Risen recently [made a comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/owz55a/own_your_shit_weekly_august_03_2021/h7ooeye?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) to say the following: @@ -21066,7 +21066,7 @@ Immersion is a difficult thing to conceptualize - but this is basically it: you This is all men trading notes. In time I will add to this list of cheat codes if necessary, but posting your feedback in your OYS or on this post will help calibrate what works and doesn't work. **All** this shit works for me. Take whatever you want, leave the rest. -Strength, motherfuckers.",,229,HornsOfApathy,1633017902.0 +Strength, motherfuckers.",,229,HornsOfApathy,2021-09-30 16:05:02 marriedredpill,pyc6xt,Divorce Doesn’t Have to be a Nuke,"Many guys seem to be fingering the divorce button like it’s a first date lately. It’s not a button you should finger lightly and if you do decide to slide into it, you will get far better results if you know what the fuck you’re doing. **Disclaimer #1:** This is one of those, “don’t read it if you are new to MRP” posts. This is not meant to give you the easy button to make that horrible, meanie, sexless wife of yours disappear and then your life will be perfect. No, unless you are 1 year+ in, have clear interest from other women, have interests outside of sex and have become captain *of your own life*, bookmark this and come back to read it when you are there. You need to be sure of what your destination is before learning how to sail through these troubled waters will benefit you. @@ -21153,7 +21153,7 @@ Once you reach settlement - it is just administrative from there. You can get a My main point here is to show you divorce doesn’t have to be this big fucking catastorphe unless you and/or your wife are big fucking catastrophies. Most normal people can work through their differences, be fair and as positive as possible about it and move on with their lives. -PS - I suggest holding off on fucking the 20 somethings until you or your wife moves out. It’s already a complicated time, don’t add unnecessary risk to your masterful plan. [The thots will all be there waiting for you once you are in the clear](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9gWtrnb4KjU).",,59,PillUpAss,1632975376.0 +PS - I suggest holding off on fucking the 20 somethings until you or your wife moves out. It’s already a complicated time, don’t add unnecessary risk to your masterful plan. [The thots will all be there waiting for you once you are in the clear](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9gWtrnb4KjU).",,59,PillUpAss,2021-09-30 04:16:16 marriedredpill,px1vqr,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 28, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21162,7 +21162,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,10,AutoModerator,1632817817.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,10,AutoModerator,2021-09-28 08:30:17 marriedredpill,psemgy,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 21, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21171,7 +21171,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,1632213014.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,2021-09-21 08:30:14 marriedredpill,pr9p74,Stop ignoring your wife,"Yep, you heard me right. Right off the bat, I'm gonna get dozens of responses about ""get out of her frame, bro"" just from this title. And that's part of the problem. Too many people in here commenting and judging while only reading the surface of a post or comment. @@ -21188,7 +21188,7 @@ So you guys that want to to a drive-by-get-out-of-her-frame comment, stop and re &nbsp; -> Smooth sailing, fuckers",,24,afc-v2,1632064162.0 +> Smooth sailing, fuckers",,24,afc-v2,2021-09-19 15:09:22 marriedredpill,ppyzmb,She's pissed and it's all your fault,"So you've taken the RP. You've been applying it for months now and sticking to the plan. You've been lifting, dressing nicer, creating a plan, working on frame, and passing shit tests. Now picture this: It's a nice Saturday, late afternoon. You've just finished cutting the grass and fixing some odds and ends around the exterior of the house. You reward yourself with an ice cold IPA, turn the TV on to a college football game, and sit back to relax for a couple hours. @@ -21241,7 +21241,7 @@ We all need to derail the assumption train and get around using our own two feet &nbsp; -> *Smooth sailing, my friends...*",,30,afc-v2,1631880807.0 +> *Smooth sailing, my friends...*",,30,afc-v2,2021-09-17 12:13:27 marriedredpill,poc8pf,"If you're not fucking, shut up about leadership","Everyone wants a happy and fulfilling marriage, and no one wants to accept thats outside of your control. A guy can do all the chores worth doing, he can be the best damned dad in the world. He can crush it at the office, be the coach of his kids little league team, and score 100% on all 12 Rules for Life. and yet: If he's not fucking, it doesn't matter. @@ -21263,7 +21263,7 @@ So, take this for what it's worth: Any leadership is the lagging indicator of a #####Be attractive, don't be unattractive -Because when she wants to defer to you, you'll know it, and you don't need 20000 internet assholes to spell it out for you.",,190,RStonePT,1631655370.0 +Because when she wants to defer to you, you'll know it, and you don't need 20000 internet assholes to spell it out for you.",,190,RStonePT,2021-09-14 21:36:10 marriedredpill,pnyrty,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 14, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21272,7 +21272,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,12,AutoModerator,1631608217.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,12,AutoModerator,2021-09-14 08:30:17 marriedredpill,pkny44,"It's all your fault, wins included.","""It's all your fault."" That's basic dogma around here. Your life is shitty because you are shitty. You are shitty because of what you've done, what you've failed to do, what you're doing and/or what you're failing to do. @@ -21305,7 +21305,7 @@ it's ***all*** your fault, ***wins included.*** You are the fucking man who made you happen. -Do it some more.",,89,[deleted],1631151477.0 +Do it some more.",,89,[deleted],2021-09-09 01:37:57 marriedredpill,pjiz1t,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 07, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21314,7 +21314,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,1631003420.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,2021-09-07 08:30:20 marriedredpill,pj1icy,STFU & medium tone,"I went to see bill burr last night, the entire show was all red pill truths. My head still hurts from laughing. Bit of a spoiler if he makes it a special. He talked about how feminist want equality but don’t do shit to get it or support their own movement. How they bitch about men’s sports being more popular but you don’t see these women at the WNBA packing out the stadiums with there tits out and bellies panted like us men. Instead they rather watch house wives bash each other about not being able to have children. @@ -21325,7 +21325,7 @@ But he started talking about how he figured out what to do when his wife starts And starts talking about the female hamster without saying it. -I thought this was a good lesson for guys starting out who are trying to figure out What to do after you STFU. Just hit them with medium tone.",,87,TrenGod37,1630941876.0 +I thought this was a good lesson for guys starting out who are trying to figure out What to do after you STFU. Just hit them with medium tone.",,87,TrenGod37,2021-09-06 15:24:36 marriedredpill,ph69na,The Bright Triad - a starting point for your list for qualifying an LTR,"Everyone knows about the Dark Triad (machiavellianism, narcissim, psychopathy) but until I came across a book by Mark Smith (*The tactical Guide to Women, How men can manage risk in Dating and Marriage*) I hadn't heard of the Bright Triad. The latter is not a common bundling of traits unlike the former, and takes some explaining. I read this book through the lens as someone already in an LTR on how to figure *what I could mold/lead* vs. what I could not (*and what she had to fix herself\*\*\**). I've since sent a copy as a Kindle gift to a recently divorced male friend, both as a post-mortem and a guide for him in creating a better list than he did 20 yrs ago. @@ -21374,7 +21374,7 @@ Smith is also So he's no pusher of marriage, simply an observer of the traits of women who are not just bad matches, but bad candidates for LTR'ing at all. -Worth the read.",,73,i-am-the-prize,1630679356.0 +Worth the read.",,73,i-am-the-prize,2021-09-03 14:29:16 marriedredpill,pf1pt6,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 31, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21383,7 +21383,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1630398615.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2021-08-31 08:30:15 marriedredpill,paj7qe,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 24, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21392,7 +21392,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,1629793827.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,2021-08-24 08:30:27 marriedredpill,p6voz2,For whom do you fuck?,"By now, I trust you've read this: [https://archive.is/Xw6wy](https://archive.is/Xw6wy) by Man in the World and internalized it? I'd like to add what I've found useful, as an addendum some homework to the Diagnostic Scenario portion. The last part here: @@ -21423,7 +21423,7 @@ Instead, state what YOU feel, what YOU want and what YOU sense: Try it for a while, make it about you and see how this shifts your mindset. -Like many (M)RP concepts, (1) I did it for me, but (2) the corollary benefits don't suck. What has emerged is like the 3:1 texting ratio, it gives her room to fill the shape of container you create (emotionally) while you mold her vaginal container with your junk. Own it. And you'll *own it.*",,78,i-am-the-prize,1629307079.0 +Like many (M)RP concepts, (1) I did it for me, but (2) the corollary benefits don't suck. What has emerged is like the 3:1 texting ratio, it gives her room to fill the shape of container you create (emotionally) while you mold her vaginal container with your junk. Own it. And you'll *own it.*",,78,i-am-the-prize,2021-08-18 17:17:59 marriedredpill,p5zpbm,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 17, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21432,7 +21432,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,26,AutoModerator,1629189017.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,26,AutoModerator,2021-08-17 08:30:17 marriedredpill,p1l42y,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 10, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21441,7 +21441,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,33,AutoModerator,1628584220.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,33,AutoModerator,2021-08-10 08:30:20 marriedredpill,oyc5ek,Conversation Strategies You Won't Find in WISNIFG,"**WISNIFG RECAP** Hopefully by now you've all read WISNIFG, which has some great communication strategies. Let me recap the most significant ones: @@ -21568,7 +21568,7 @@ _____ - **Assert**: Share your viewpoint in contrast in a clear, concise, and definitive way applying buffering (if you haven't already above). ""[Buffering] While I can understand why you'd think that way, [Harsh Truth] I simply cannot agree. I believe h, i, and j is better because r, s, and t."" - - **Offer**: Give them an olive branch - a way to look like the good guy or else pigeon-hole themselves into being the bad one. ""[Buffering] I know you don't agree with me, [Harsh Truth] but a decision has to be made [Offer] and I'd like for us to work together on this. Are you willing to join me in doing things this way?""",,140,Red-Curious,1628146729.0 + - **Offer**: Give them an olive branch - a way to look like the good guy or else pigeon-hole themselves into being the bad one. ""[Buffering] I know you don't agree with me, [Harsh Truth] but a decision has to be made [Offer] and I'd like for us to work together on this. Are you willing to join me in doing things this way?""",,140,Red-Curious,2021-08-05 06:58:49 marriedredpill,owz55a,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 03, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21577,7 +21577,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1627979414.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2021-08-03 08:30:14 marriedredpill,ouy0f8,Emotional Control,"There have been many ways to describe why men should be in the gym training. I want to emphasize what you just read. There have been many ways to describe why men should be in the gym **training**. Not working out. Not exercising. There's a key difference between training and all that other stuff. When you train you deliberately push yourself to be better, to increase skill, athleticism, ability, all of it. You are pushing it every day, breaking down, rebuilding all the way. @@ -21604,7 +21604,7 @@ Great athletes don’t let their emotions be determined by what’s happening on This is why you train. You are not just exercising, not just getting in shape. -Every lift is forming your emotional control.",,101,ReddJive,1627694184.0 +Every lift is forming your emotional control.",,101,ReddJive,2021-07-31 01:16:24 marriedredpill,osiu7m,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 27, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21613,7 +21613,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1627374612.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2021-07-27 08:30:12 marriedredpill,orwhl4,"So you have ED, What are you going to do about it?","I got a lot of PM’s after posting my field report a while back asking me about the issues I had when I was struggling to get it up with plates. Turns out there are a lot of guys who struggle with this and it can really get inside your head and mess with you if you don't face the problem. There’s currently nothing on the side bars here or for the main RP reddit for this, so I decided to make the thread so you don't have to. The purpose of this post is to help you start addressing the problems if you are struggling to get it up and actually keep it that way to enjoy it. @@ -21695,7 +21695,7 @@ The first thing, unlike other areas of your life is to **NOT** beat yourself up If I can beat this thing, then you sure as fuck can if you put the effort in. Remember, if this is the last hurdle then you are way ahead of where you were when you were getting the Ilybinilwy rejection from your wife as you tried to win her back. -If you have a story, throw it in the comments, it will actually help the guys who are worried talk about it and actually start facing their issues, I think you would be surprised how many people choose to suffer in silence who could be helped if they just took ownership and see others facing their issues.",,45,Just_Some_Guy_RP,1627297547.0 +If you have a story, throw it in the comments, it will actually help the guys who are worried talk about it and actually start facing their issues, I think you would be surprised how many people choose to suffer in silence who could be helped if they just took ownership and see others facing their issues.",,45,Just_Some_Guy_RP,2021-07-26 11:05:47 marriedredpill,ookqdr,"The Polarizing, Yet Equable and Rational Male","**Steve and Susan** ""You're just like your father!"" Susan shouted at Steve. She knew how to push his buttons, and that particular one stung the most. Steve let out a flurry of cuss words, mumbling promises to himself under his breath between outbursts. He raised a hand to her and she dared him to do it. He knew better. It was 3 in the morning before he came home that night. She tried to apologize, but he was back to his cold, dead self. The excitement only lasted a little while. At least she knew how to get him back to a place where he makes her feel *something*. It's so much easier now that they have to share parental rights of their child. @@ -21744,7 +21744,7 @@ Patrick and Sally have not only learned to enjoy each other without regard for t Patrick is the head of a local student ministry where Christians are not welcome. He and Sally are constantly struggling between a family of believers who love them and a secular institution that has engaged in legal proceedings on at least two occasions to kick them out. It makes life interesting, if not worrisome. He is a polarizing person on his campus, and not shy to engage in conversation with those he knows oppose him. You have to be that way in ministry. His theme verse for his family is both equable and rational: ""I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want: ..."" He humorously leaves off the far more popular concluding verse in an effort to draw on others' curiosity while simultaneously emphasizing the context that is so often forgotten. -Patrick is a man I want to be like in many ways.",,34,Red-Curious,1626850492.0 +Patrick is a man I want to be like in many ways.",,34,Red-Curious,2021-07-21 06:54:52 marriedredpill,ony06g,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 20, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21753,7 +21753,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,29,AutoModerator,1626769813.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,29,AutoModerator,2021-07-20 08:30:13 marriedredpill,ojbcfj,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 13, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21762,7 +21762,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,32,AutoModerator,1626165014.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,32,AutoModerator,2021-07-13 08:30:14 marriedredpill,oeqtvf,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 06, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21771,7 +21771,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,1625560213.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,2021-07-06 08:30:13 marriedredpill,oa44fj,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 29, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21780,7 +21780,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,32,AutoModerator,1624955410.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,32,AutoModerator,2021-06-29 08:30:10 marriedredpill,o5i5ir,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 22, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21789,7 +21789,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,1624350620.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,2021-06-22 08:30:20 marriedredpill,o32gsr,Plate/ Wife/ LTR says Xyz prompt,"Ok folks been awhile. Thanks for patient mods. @@ -21814,7 +21814,7 @@ Here’s a few more: 22. Never explain anything to a woman. Never explain your behavior and why you do what you do. Share your plans when it makes sense, but watch not to qualify yourself in front of her. The do-nor-DEER we talk about here all the time. If you lay out a plan that needs details to be communicated, it should happen from / in your frame. You own it, she’s your first officer and partner. -23. Be attractive. Do not be unattractive. This involves mainly appearance, body language, and speech. It also involves attitude, tone of voice, and overall demeanor. Again, lots on this sub about it. Be her James Bond, Han Solo etc. no excuses on this. It’s game 101 and why you want a woman to be with you in the first place.",,90,Redpillbrigade17,1624056956.0 +23. Be attractive. Do not be unattractive. This involves mainly appearance, body language, and speech. It also involves attitude, tone of voice, and overall demeanor. Again, lots on this sub about it. Be her James Bond, Han Solo etc. no excuses on this. It’s game 101 and why you want a woman to be with you in the first place.",,90,Redpillbrigade17,2021-06-18 22:55:56 marriedredpill,o09gcm,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 15, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21823,7 +21823,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,1623745812.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,2021-06-15 08:30:12 marriedredpill,nzbaia,60 DoD 2021 Scoreboard,"Since I went to the trouble of all this tallying this year, I thought you might like it if I share. People who posted their 60 DoD progress in at least 6 or more OYS weeklies (in no particular order): @@ -21883,7 +21883,7 @@ Feel you're the victim of an accounting error? You might be; I didn't count that **EDIT 4:** u/hmpanon has been recovered from the garbage heap due to accounting error. -**EDIT 5:** u/ImPissedOffALot has earned flair, but wishes to remain banned. Don't ask, it's complicated.",,21,SorcererKing,1623634036.0 +**EDIT 5:** u/ImPissedOffALot has earned flair, but wishes to remain banned. Don't ask, it's complicated.",,21,SorcererKing,2021-06-14 01:27:16 marriedredpill,nxo4ab,The Simple but Power Effects of Small Red Pill Behavior Adjustments,"One Friday night several years ago, not long after I first encountered the various Red Pill forums and had been devouring their content, the wife and kids decided they wanted to go to P.F. Chang. The closest P.F. Chang is in an area I used to work in about 15 years before, but I wasn't very familiar with current dining options in the area. But, by chance, about a week before, an old colleague had invited me to lunch at a newly-opened, hip Asian fusion restaurant in the area. The family and I went to P.F. Chang but upon arrival we discovered that there was an unacceptably long wait. Everybody was starving. I thought of the Asian fusion restaurant nearby that my former colleague had taken me to. @@ -21912,7 +21912,7 @@ If I had ticked off all of the characteristics of the restaurant, I would not on Instead, tantalized by my confidence and decisiveness, but intrigued by the lack of details, her imagination can percolate. Just putting her in this positive and playful frame of mind increases the likelihood of a positive outcome. And you won't fail to deliver, because you haven't promised anything specific. -One of the reasons that this situation made such an impression on me was because of how utterly mundane it was, and what a minor adjustment I made. Yet, the impact was outsized. Now, any one experience like this, on its own, isn't going to turn everything around for you. But if you start layering experiences like this, one after another, it can have a big impact.",,147,Mr_KenSpeckle,1623439745.0 +One of the reasons that this situation made such an impression on me was because of how utterly mundane it was, and what a minor adjustment I made. Yet, the impact was outsized. Now, any one experience like this, on its own, isn't going to turn everything around for you. But if you start layering experiences like this, one after another, it can have a big impact.",,147,Mr_KenSpeckle,2021-06-11 19:29:05 marriedredpill,nuzxup,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 08, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21921,7 +21921,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,1623141011.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,2021-06-08 08:30:11 marriedredpill,nq7b9p,60 DoD: END,"Another year, another 60 days. Congratulations to all those of you who participated in this year's 60 DoD event. In basic bitch mode we examined motivations and inhibitions in all of our core areas. Hopefully if you participated you learned that the only thing holding you back is you. You learned that negative self-concept is completely useless and that you are defined by how you present to the world, not by how you are used to seeing you. @@ -21930,7 +21930,7 @@ In several areas you hopefully learned that fear is the everything-killer, and i Finally, I hope that you took away the idea that complacency and impatience are tools of the ego designed to resist change: ""I'll start tomorrow,"" and his good friend, ""This isn't working."" Habits are ingrained behaviors that take some time to set, good or bad. You didn't fuck yourself up over night, you won't unfuck yourself over night either. Starting tomorrow is just another day wasted. -As has become my tradition, I'll likely hand out some flair for those of you who actually were brave enough to track your 60 DoD in your OYS. I might hand out some bans for people who said they were in on Week 1 and then never participated. Ouch, that accountability thing can be a real bitch sometimes, huh?",,42,SorcererKing,1622588990.0 +As has become my tradition, I'll likely hand out some flair for those of you who actually were brave enough to track your 60 DoD in your OYS. I might hand out some bans for people who said they were in on Week 1 and then never participated. Ouch, that accountability thing can be a real bitch sometimes, huh?",,42,SorcererKing,2021-06-01 23:09:50 marriedredpill,npp633,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 01, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -21939,7 +21939,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1622536212.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2021-06-01 08:30:12 marriedredpill,nnq0ar,Text Game,"*Off the jump I am going to assume you are texting someone you are interested in - if you are not, it would be more worth you time just to schedule a time to hang out. That said, all of my advice will be for people texting others they are interested in and have chatted with for a decent amount of time. This is an introduction to texting game - so obviously most of you will still benefit from just avoiding texting except for coordination altogether. * When it comes to texting, there are a few points to always strongly consider. @@ -22028,7 +22028,7 @@ Forcing conversation is going to make you seem ""dry"". When conversation is eng • ""How do you feel?"" OR ""What's on your mind."" 🤢🤮 Not even going to dignify this. Just don't do it. -This has helped me in dating exponentially, and with tweaking works with friendships as well.",,46,Praexology,1622302779.0 +This has helped me in dating exponentially, and with tweaking works with friendships as well.",,46,Praexology,2021-05-29 15:39:39 marriedredpill,nlakob,60 DoD Week 8: Social,"60 DOD Social The previous posts on social cover a lot of the basics that if you haven’t read, you should do so. @@ -22125,7 +22125,7 @@ Do you have a group of friends where when someone asks, ‘how do you guys all k The take away message is that every group, every social situation, every relationship is both exactly the same and different. Understand the dynamic and move away from ‘safe’ shared interest topics as quickly as possible. Fulfil your role in the group. Like all relationships, they take time and effort and you need to put in to get something out of it. -And have fun, this is suppose to be fun, remember?",,32,threekindsoflucky,1622012354.0 +And have fun, this is suppose to be fun, remember?",,32,threekindsoflucky,2021-05-26 06:59:14 marriedredpill,nkrp6a,"Take a Penny, Leave a Penny - Field Report","This post is to put some value back into the pot I took value out of. I will cover my journey, things I did right and the mistakes I made along the way to get there. I’m not some super alpha giga chad, but I'm very different from the person I started as. Take from this post what you need and leave the rest. This is a long post of my journey so be warned. I found the MRP reddit almost the same way most of you did, that oh so common google search, “why wont my girlfriend/wife fuck me”. Of course I found the dead bedroom reddit and saw a post from a guy in a similar place to me. All of the comments were coddling and offering nothing other than it’s not your fault she's just low libido. One comment stood out from a user where he simply asked the writer, did you get fat, needy and unattractive? He got downvoted into oblivion and eventually banned from the sub reddit. I saw that comment, looked down at myself then at everyone else offering advice when they were in the same position with their sob stories and thought, I did get fat needy and unattractive. Was I actually the problem? (the answer yes, it was absolutely my fault). I have been lurking here for about 3 years now and want to share my experience so you can compare it to your own notes. @@ -22182,7 +22182,7 @@ That's a run through of my journey, I’m not perfect and I didn't do everything &#x200B; -Edits - Caught a few typos.",,171,Just_Some_Guy_RP,1621954633.0 +Edits - Caught a few typos.",,171,Just_Some_Guy_RP,2021-05-25 14:57:13 marriedredpill,nkg9vz,60 DoD Week 7: COFFEE'S STILL FOR CLOSERS,"If you work an 8-hour-a-day job, 5 days a week, you spend (5/7)*(8/24) = 0.238 or about 24% of your time working as an adult. (Count commute time and lunch in the total and you easily cruise right past the 25% mark off toward 30%.) The only other single thing you probably do more of is sleeping. So if you wonder why career is on the list for 60 DoD, that's our starting point. But of course, it goes deeper than that. Anything you spend so much time doing should be both a gift to yourself and a reflection of your spirit. The gift is that you care enough to do something productive, to provide for your needs now and in the future, to provide for those you’ve chosen to care for, and to build your self-esteem in the process. It should be a reflection of your spirit because you should seek mastery in all that you do, no matter how menial it may seem. After all, if your job is menial, the solution is not to be a bitch about it, but rather to do it better than anyone else ever has while you seek higher work. There may be times when you want to work something easy; maybe you’re in a tough spot and can’t get anything better. No matter; you should still be present in your job and doing the work to the best of your ability. After all, you are in an *overt* contract with your employer, your coworkers, and your clients to provide value through your knowledge and action. Honor your end of the bargain, and if your employer isn't honoring his, vote with your feet. @@ -22193,7 +22193,7 @@ Put simply, just as your hygiene and your style show who you are and project wha In case you’ve never seen it, you should [watch this clip](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=elrnAl6ygeM&ab_channel=BlueInfinityFilmBlueInfinityFilm). Baldwin lays it out better than I ever could: Coffee’s for closers. -As usual, review excellent posts from years past for concrete advice and good perspectives.",,40,SorcererKing,1621914120.0 +As usual, review excellent posts from years past for concrete advice and good perspectives.",,40,SorcererKing,2021-05-25 03:42:00 marriedredpill,nkkqxa,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 25, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -22202,7 +22202,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,1621931412.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,2021-05-25 08:30:12 marriedredpill,nfwns5,Control: What's your Locus?,"I haven’t written a general “shit you should know from psychology” post for a while, so I guess we’re due. You can consider this a supplement to (and a motivation for) the 60 DoD this year. Today my maggots, we will discuss an oldie but a goodie: Locus of Control. This idea is one that is fairly commonsense once you read it, but was only formalized in the 1950s by Julian Rotter. Put simply, Rotter asks us a simple question: do you believe that your life (and thus your actions) are under your control, or not? For Rotter and the psychologists this is a *personality trait*, meaning you either have an *internal* (yes, I’m in the driver’s seat) or an *external* (I’m just along for the ride) locus of control, and that’s how you roll in life. For our purposes, we can adapt it and use it in a more nuanced way, since most of us probably are not consistent enough to be all one or the other, and it can change anyway. @@ -22223,7 +22223,7 @@ Now, what about situational application, which my last paragraph hints at? There Your first piece of wisdom is to start thinking on things in this light. Ask yourself, “Was I in control of any part of that situation? How? What could I have done differently to influence the outcome, even if I wasn’t in total control?” In reference to changing your thoughts and default actions, you need only remember that you can indeed change your “inner self”. You can change your attitudes, you can change your behaviors, and you can become the guy you’ve always wanted to be. -So start right now. Start by *Owning Your Shit* and click your Locus of Control setting over to *Internal*. There is no other way forward.",,58,SorcererKing,1621400768.0 +So start right now. Start by *Owning Your Shit* and click your Locus of Control setting over to *Internal*. There is no other way forward.",,58,SorcererKing,2021-05-19 05:06:08 marriedredpill,nf58cf,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 18, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -22232,7 +22232,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1621326613.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2021-05-18 08:30:13 marriedredpill,nd21ep,"Update on Injury, Progression, thoughts on fighting your way through","[I posted earlier of an injury and my plan to work through it](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/n9ufzn/when_something_heavy_takes_you_down/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) and update with progression. Overall the plan is working well. No pain or issues past Tuesday. To review: Sustained what I thought was an injury to my lat or shoulder. An update to that, it wasn't an injury but my lat was inflamed causing spasms. Confirmed with the gym PT later this week. This was causing cramping and spasms elsewhere in the shoulder, even to the left arm. I will continue through Week 2 to be sure. I was asked to talk about my workout, weakness, and how they are addressed. Let me add some qualification here. I have a few advantages. I have been lifting heavy for over 20 years minus a time in the military, and a few years as a fat beta. I lift in a specialty gym that caters to strength athletes. Bodybuilders, powerlifters, strongmen (and women), all pro or amateur lift here. The trainers and coaches are all certified, have degrees, and practice what they preach in their fields. Even the owners (husband and wife) are competitors. I have a lifting coach (powerlifter and strongman), a mobility coach (a bodybuilder), and a PT (powerlifter and bodybuilder). My goal is to make Elite Status (2000 pounds) across all 3 lifts. @@ -22291,7 +22291,7 @@ Coach has been also attacking my hip flexor strength and flexibility. I have a What isn't recorded is the mobility work I do leading up to my workout. I won't go into detail here on it but you can catch the full story on RPC's podcast. -White lights. Big lifts.",,14,ReddJive,1621094320.0 +White lights. Big lifts.",,14,ReddJive,2021-05-15 15:58:40 marriedredpill,nbv6b8,OYS: A reminder,"There have been a lot of new posters to OYS in the last few weeks. And a lot of people banned for Rule 9. We get a stack of modmail each week from people banned who don't understand the rules. While often amusing, it would be better for you to actually do some work before you post. @@ -22313,7 +22313,7 @@ Having said that, people will comment and point out your blind spots when you ar Going forward, I'll be coming down harder on new OYS posters who are avoiding putting in the work. -In the end, its up to you to [make your choice](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9mmiul/make_your_fucking_choice/).",,32,threekindsoflucky,1620950145.0 +In the end, its up to you to [make your choice](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9mmiul/make_your_fucking_choice/).",,32,threekindsoflucky,2021-05-13 23:55:45 marriedredpill,n9ufzn,When Something Heavy Takes You Down,">The squat is a great metaphor for life. It’s about getting back up with something heavy takes you down. This isn’t a sob story. I wanted to share with other Red Pill men what I do when setbacks or injury happens. Because they will happen. @@ -22350,7 +22350,7 @@ Rest period between sets is 3-4 minutes. Seems to be good. My left arm was wea I will report back at the start and the end of the week on the progress. -White lights and big lifts.",,30,ReddJive,1620731074.0 +White lights and big lifts.",,30,ReddJive,2021-05-11 11:04:34 marriedredpill,n9s7vu,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 11, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -22359,7 +22359,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,1620721818.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,2021-05-11 08:30:18 marriedredpill,n8snqg,60 DoD Week 6: MIND ON MY MONEY AND MY MONEY ON MY MIND,"How about a breather for our n00bz? Something a little easier to ponder, to dial down the existential terror of our first 5 weeks. Maybe later, 'cause this ain't it! Your finances are as serious as a heart attack. They are your own personal bedrock for the rest of your life. Even if you are a shit-eating beta, your life is infinity easier if you're not destitute. Money is power; money is freedom. Take away a little of your money and you'll be uncomfortable. Take away enough money and you're living under the bridge. @@ -22372,7 +22372,7 @@ Beyond basic budgeting and being mindful about what you spend, controlling your So go read the prior years on this. We've had some guys who are really good at this stuff contribute posts and advice -- use it. All I'll say is that in our current world if you're holding cash right now learn how to diversify into something else. Each of those 4 trillion Bidenbux that roll off the virtual printing press chips away at the value of your cash; don't get cucked by the Fed. /r/wallstreetsilver /r/wallstreetbets -[Edit: grammar-er-ing]",,24,SorcererKing,1620610443.0 +[Edit: grammar-er-ing]",,24,SorcererKing,2021-05-10 01:34:03 marriedredpill,n5898p,60 DoD Week 5: FEAR IS THE MIND KILLER,"So far in 60 DoD we have covered the basics of your appearance and health: lifting, eating, hygiene, and how you dress. I’m betting some of that was uncomfortable for many of you. So congratulations if you faced up to some harsh truths about yourself and made it this far. However, buckle up; that was just the prelude. This week is all about Game. Perhaps no single topic in our Red Pill universe is more controversial than this. Feminists instantly go nuclear at the thought that men would “manipulate” women in this way. Career Beta thinks you’re a scumbag if you act differently around different people. Nice Guys secretly loath you as you act in a way in which they could never give themselves permission to act. As the old expression goes, if you’re taking flak, you’re over the target. @@ -22392,7 +22392,7 @@ Have you noticed the recurring theme here? You have to decide that this is how y For the autists: go to my Career Beta post and see the prescription for learning Game if you’re really stuck here. For everyone else, take a little time to ask yourself this important question: what’s more important to you, protecting your ego, or getting down with all those wonderful women out there who don’t even yet realize they’re going to fuck you? I hope the answer is clear. -*(Edited for formatting, as always.)*",,53,SorcererKing,1620192425.0 +*(Edited for formatting, as always.)*",,53,SorcererKing,2021-05-05 05:27:05 marriedredpill,n4jb81,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 04, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -22401,7 +22401,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,1620117019.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,2021-05-04 08:30:19 marriedredpill,n1eqxb,Time to fuck...you have been warned,"COVID is over. Its time to fuck and news flash - it wont be with you. You dont say? Why is that Mr. Tren King? @@ -22438,7 +22438,7 @@ You know who you are. You know if your girl is texting a guy like me. Be the woman every man is hunting right now, or you will pay. -You have been warned.",,89,red-sfpplus,1619731801.0 +You have been warned.",,89,red-sfpplus,2021-04-29 21:30:01 marriedredpill,n0ct8c,I used to be Alpha,"No. You really weren't. No one really was. What you were was in a time of your life when you had no responsibility. Then for some reason you decide to complicate your life with a wife, job, house, college debt, car....then kids. And just like that you assumed a life time of responsibility before you were really ready. Just because you were free of all that and felt like you had a good bead on your life doesn't mean you were alpha. What the statement ""I used to be alpha"" is really telling everyone is your ego is seriously in play. Your ego is an obstacle that must be overcome if you have any desire to grow and move on. It's a wall that prevents learning, and an excuse to ignore thoughts worth hearing. So, either get over yourself, or get comfortable with a stubborn and stupid version of yourself. @@ -22461,7 +22461,7 @@ A mature man makes the right judgment & applies wisdom; A strong man holds o Everything men do is a decision. -We just rationalize it as outside influence.",,128,ReddJive,1619609742.0 +We just rationalize it as outside influence.",,128,ReddJive,2021-04-28 11:35:42 marriedredpill,mzjsee,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 27, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -22470,7 +22470,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1619512214.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2021-04-27 08:30:14 marriedredpill,myf0di,Narratives,"There is not a lot of digging into our past or upbringing issues here as the path forward is pretty much the same whether your childhood was heaven, hell or somewhere in between. But there is a portion of this that was relevant to me in my journey out of beta hell that held a lot of value that may be worthwhile for those of you who are earlier in and taking this process seriously. I didn’t really touch on it during my stretch of OYS’ing because it didn’t really click until later in my journey. Kind of like Glover goes into, we are egocentric early in our childhood development. Everything that happens around us seems to be a function of ourselves, rather than outside forces. So when something happens that’s awesome, you think of how awesome you are, which was cool. But there is a fair to good chance that you also had some instances happen that were uncomfortable, unfair or even devastating. Well, that sucks, because in that instance, you probably interpreted it in an egocentric way - an interpretation that most likely was not true but seemed true at the time. And perception can become your reality. This sets into motion a narrative you tell yourself. Following that, there were probably more things that happened that *you perceived* to confirm that narrative, whether it was true or not. Without realizing it, it became a subconscious narrative that would run like a background operating system in a computer. Most men never get that introspective to even know it’s there, let alone confront it and deconstruct it. @@ -22485,7 +22485,7 @@ I have always liked Horns line, “If you aren’t vulnerable, your frame is shi If this resonates, although with your own jacked up narrative, it is largely under your control and at least for me was a great step forward in personal progress. I've gotten better at being my own judge, being outcome independent and being vulnerable now in my frame when I want to because I am not a slave to those useless narratives. This was a nice dragon to slay. -Again, this wasn't so much about me, but my best way to outline what may be there in you without you even realizing it.",,51,[deleted],1619377342.0 +Again, this wasn't so much about me, but my best way to outline what may be there in you without you even realizing it.",,51,[deleted],2021-04-25 19:02:22 marriedredpill,mx9qyl,60 DoD Week 4: CLOTHES MAKE THE MAN,"Ever heard that one? ""Clothes make the man?"" If you were a strict autist cut from the NMMNG cloth, you might find that dishonest. ""I should be myself,"" you might think. ""I should be genuine, and dress in a way that is congruent and authentic to the real me."" You wouldn't be wrong *per se*, but you'd be missing all the nuance and missing a big opportunity. You thinking that the way you're dressed is incongruent with who you are probably comes from one of a couple places. The first is that you are reflecting your own internalized self-image, buried so deep you don't even question it anymore. After all, what are you really saying is incongruent between this ""real you"" and the clothes? The clothes are fun and you're not? The clothes are cool, but you can't be? The clothes show confidence, but you're a bitch? Seriously, what are you afraid of? You can wear anything you're willing to mentally own and wear confidently. @@ -22498,7 +22498,7 @@ Here's the plan for this week: let go. Let go of who you think you are, what you Next, read the clothing posts on the sidebar from prior years. You will learn about how to build ensembles, the importance of fit, other resources, etc. You don't have to change everything all at once, and you don't have to spend a fortune. Your 60 DoD new habit in this area can be a new system for ensuring you buy the right sort of clothes and wear them well. -Get to work.",,52,SorcererKing,1619227212.0 +Get to work.",,52,SorcererKing,2021-04-24 01:20:12 marriedredpill,mulur3,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 20, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -22507,7 +22507,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1618907410.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2021-04-20 08:30:10 marriedredpill,mrvhhp,"60 DoD Week 3: YOU'RE NASTY, NOT IN THAT GOOD WAY","Welcome to 60 DoD Week 3: Hygiene. Traditionally in the 60 DoD hygiene week we have talked about simple things most men can do to improve their level of attraction through better hygiene. This has been inclusive of hair styles, facial hair, various soap products, colognes etc. I invite you to look at some the excellent resources on the 60 DoD sidebar list to learn about *what* to do. In keeping with our theme this year however, today we are going to explore why you don’t already have good hygiene, and why you should change that. @@ -22522,7 +22522,7 @@ So why are you such a slob? Wait, do you even realize how much of a slob you are So this week then is a time for reflection and planning, and then change (i.e., your initiation of your new habits). As always, be brutally honest with yourself about what is unappealing about you, and then find ways to fix it. There is an enormous industry dedicated to all things hygiene, so use the internet to research shit. I expect to see this in OYS this coming Tuesday: confess your nasty habits and tell us what you’re doing differently. Most importantly, tell us *why you think it matters*. You have to believe it or it won’t stick. -Good luck.",,32,SorcererKing,1618546048.0 +Good luck.",,32,SorcererKing,2021-04-16 04:07:28 marriedredpill,mpy3os,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 13, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -22531,7 +22531,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1618302613.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2021-04-13 08:30:13 marriedredpill,mp27yq,I would love some feedback... please chime in and share your thoughts... particularly you dilberryhoundog...,"** For those of you lacking context, I have come to the - what I believe is - inescapable conclusion that one of our members is borderline retarded. More importantly, that's simply my opinion. My discourse with him prompted some questions... are fact and data and substantiating one's point still important? Or in 2021 does it no longer matter. In the event you're interested, click this link below and read that - and I just noticed an additional reply added - and then come back here. @@ -22646,7 +22646,7 @@ Most importantly, do you not recognize that each new item you wrote made you loo Interestingly enough, I don't want or need to be right. That may seem surprising given the dissertation I've just provided. At the same time, however, I think it's gross when people claim they're right simply because they believe as such, and worse still when they pile one lie upon another. If people are like that, and you want to delude yourself, that's fine. Tell the world you're a seasoned astronaut who killed bin laden for all I care, after all, you're not the worlds only pathological liar. -But, don't expect others to kowtow to your silliness. You have not yet earned the right to outline precisely what is and isn't a fact. Until that day comes, you're just a posturing idiot who looks much worse to others than you're apparently able to appreciate.",,0,johneyapocalypse,1618184407.0 +But, don't expect others to kowtow to your silliness. You have not yet earned the right to outline precisely what is and isn't a fact. Until that day comes, you're just a posturing idiot who looks much worse to others than you're apparently able to appreciate.",,0,johneyapocalypse,2021-04-11 23:40:07 marriedredpill,mmicr3,60 DoD week 2: THIS POST IS NOT ABOUT NACHOS,"Welcome to week 2 of 60 DoD 2021. This week you will contemplate your eating and develop better habits. @@ -22676,7 +22676,7 @@ A warning: Taking control of your own eating will inspire some level of dread in your wife, just like lifting. (This should be obvious, it's 60 DoD for a reason.) This is because you’re showing some semblance of independence, responsibility, of leadership (if only of yourself) and of *being a guy who lives intentionally*. Of course, it will also lead her to shit test your resolve on this issue. Practice your amused mastery and own the change. Use A&A if you must. At the very least, simply say, “something had to change, so I changed it.” You don’t owe anyone an explanation for positive change. -Nothing must deter you; this is literally life and death we’re talking about here. Go forth and conquer. If there are things you need to own about your relationship to food, put it in OYS. Now go.",,56,SorcererKing,1617850161.0 +Nothing must deter you; this is literally life and death we’re talking about here. Go forth and conquer. If there are things you need to own about your relationship to food, put it in OYS. Now go.",,56,SorcererKing,2021-04-08 02:49:21 marriedredpill,ml6zyp,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 06, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -22685,7 +22685,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1617697815.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2021-04-06 08:30:15 marriedredpill,mh90h3,60 DoD Week 1: YOU MUST LIFT,"Welcome to 60 Days of Dread 2021 edition. I promised basic bitch mode to combat the weakness I see in here with new guys. Your trial by fire begins now. The basic idea of 60 DoD is that you suck. You know you suck, we know you suck, and your wife absolutely knows you suck. You're fucking lazy. You're fucking soft. You make excuses, you muse about what you'd *like* to do or what you *wish* you could do, but you never actually do it. That ends now. Take the ticket, ride the ride. @@ -22708,7 +22708,7 @@ I invite veteran members to offer encouraging words and/or throw tomatoes. Some For those of you participating, post your new habits, successes and problems in your weekly OYS. (You ARE doing OYS, right?) -That is all for this week. Now get to work.",,96,SorcererKing,1617205735.0 +That is all for this week. Now get to work.",,96,SorcererKing,2021-03-31 15:48:55 marriedredpill,mgfuoe,"Becoming ""High Value""","Hello. I wanted to share with you a document. I didn't write it - this comes from Dave Kekich, a businessman in the life-extension space. @@ -22946,7 +22946,7 @@ I hope you get some value out of it, as I have. 99. Experience is not what happens to you. It's what you do with what happens to you. It takes a wise man to learn from his own mistakes... and **a genius to learn and profit from the mistakes and experiences of others**. -100. The purpose of life is to delay, avoid and eventually reverse death.",,185,resolutions316,1617110349.0 +100. The purpose of life is to delay, avoid and eventually reverse death.",,185,resolutions316,2021-03-30 13:19:09 marriedredpill,mgb9d4,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 30, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -22955,7 +22955,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,1617093019.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,2021-03-30 08:30:19 marriedredpill,mfwd15,"Practical Female Psychology, amendment videos","It's down on the sidebar, Franco's Practical Female Psychology. I've noticed a lot of guys I've talked to over the years needed a few reads on Glover, Smith, or Franco's stuff, so I've gone and done some companion pieces to the books. They do not replace reading the material, I guarantee you'll miss important details if you replace actual reading with watching youtube. What it will do is help put some of the stuff into context, as well as some additional information, or in some cases, things information that hasn't stood the test of time. @@ -22969,7 +22969,7 @@ Enjoy fellas I'll eventually have about 18 of these, one per chapter. Releasing them every Sunday -Enjoy",,64,RStonePT,1617043329.0 +Enjoy",,64,RStonePT,2021-03-29 18:42:09 marriedredpill,mcznv1,A high value man's guide to dread with a First Officer,"With some years passing since it was first written, we all know the best [dancing monkey attraction improvement program](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/74yepr/the_dancing_monkey_attraction_improvement/) (by u/man_in_the_world ) is the [12 levels of Dread](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2lpafb/the_12_step_plan_of_dread_book_excerpt_from_my/). I'll presume that if you're at this point we're talking about today, you understand that while the 12 levels are a [huge covert contract](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/igf65m/the_dread_contract_and_scoreboard_how_to_frame/) (by u/tyred_biggums) for even the above average retard, it is the best framework that we have for the idiots that bumble into this corner of the internet we call MRP. &#x200B; @@ -23110,7 +23110,7 @@ I have now given you my mental model of how to convert any remaining dread into Plus, it allows you to skip all those hysterical crying messes that are secretly veiled as comfort tests for leadership anyways. -Embracing your gift fearlessly is all that you need to do.",,90,HornsOfApathy,1616682909.0 +Embracing your gift fearlessly is all that you need to do.",,90,HornsOfApathy,2021-03-25 14:35:09 marriedredpill,mba2l3,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 23, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23119,7 +23119,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,1616488220.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,2021-03-23 08:30:20 marriedredpill,maqiom,Blew up at wife on Saturday. Thinking nice guy behaviors sunk me here.,"Yesterday I came home and my wife and kid were trying to get the TV to work. Basically you just have to turn it on first, and then turn the soundsystem to the correct input. But wife gave the remote to 5yo and kid was turning the TV on and off to the point the TV sperged out and wasn't responsive. I took the remote away from the kid and wife started to direct me on what to do. I tuned her out and wife kept pressing. I lost my shit and blew up at her. I said some very shitty things because I have a mean streak and am pretty creative. I may have just accidentally ruined our marriage. I'm kind of prepared for that, but I really don't want to deal with courts and her light switch effect. @@ -23127,7 +23127,7 @@ I took the remote away from the kid and wife started to direct me on what to do. Here's where I think I went wrong. I've been running dread for almost a year now, and bedroom is mostly in a good place, sans a month ago when she suddenly decided that she didn't want to have sex that much anymore. That took a week to fix itself. But her disrespect is off the charts-recently she reached out to my ex. She feels the need to direct me, partially because I've let her for most of 13+ years. So I keep running dread with the unspoken expectation that she's suddenly going to respect my boundaries and follow my lead when I'm trying to fix a problem. -And that's the problem. The unspoken expectation. I know demanding respect is desperate. And I know that if I make myself a better guy, she isn't obligated to appreciate it. The stay plan is the same as the go plan. But I forgot about it in the moment. I still haven't internalized being unaffected by her bullshit. I slipped up, and it sucks. I'm getting impatient. At what point does not engaging in covert contracts become natural?",,40,[deleted],1616427596.0 +And that's the problem. The unspoken expectation. I know demanding respect is desperate. And I know that if I make myself a better guy, she isn't obligated to appreciate it. The stay plan is the same as the go plan. But I forgot about it in the moment. I still haven't internalized being unaffected by her bullshit. I slipped up, and it sucks. I'm getting impatient. At what point does not engaging in covert contracts become natural?",,40,[deleted],2021-03-22 15:39:56 marriedredpill,m64bwt,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 16, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23136,7 +23136,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,9,AutoModerator,1615883410.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,9,AutoModerator,2021-03-16 08:30:10 marriedredpill,m1295x,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 09, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23145,7 +23145,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,1615278618.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,2021-03-09 08:30:18 marriedredpill,lvxbua,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 02, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23154,7 +23154,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,1614673817.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,2021-03-02 08:30:17 marriedredpill,ltxzmn,"Yes, you too can easily fuck married women.","A few years back it was a somewhat recurring topic here at MRP in OYS posts... guys who wanted to fuck women figured out that fucking married women was the easiest way to lockdown an ironclad secret. Mutually good OPSEC, with assured mutual destruction - it is the closest you got to keeping your dirty little secret. And wow, there were some good stories. There are plenty of books out there on game, hell - just the sidebar alone would probably do you well enough if you read it with some intent and then took that knowledge out in the world to calibrate to situations. @@ -23173,7 +23173,7 @@ That woman is your wife. And if you aren't pulling up in a 2003 'stang, well, statistics show [someone](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/fnnfja/fr_teaching_a_16yo_kid_to_lift/) around here probably will. -Game on, retard.",,152,HornsOfApathy,1614462027.0 +Game on, retard.",,152,HornsOfApathy,2021-02-27 21:40:27 marriedredpill,lqdelr,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 23, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23182,7 +23182,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,1614069016.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,2021-02-23 08:30:16 marriedredpill,lkzjzx,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 16, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23191,7 +23191,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,27,AutoModerator,1613464217.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,27,AutoModerator,2021-02-16 08:30:17 marriedredpill,lhwxtq,Hysteric Bonding,"I've been going back into the basics, stuff from years back. Something I haven't seen in the subreddit in a while was the idea of hysteric bonding. A girl, for whatever reason, decides to make a decision in her self interest and against yours. Usually it's cheating in hopes of potential hubby #2. A few guys noticed, usually when the divorce proceedings were not going according to her plan, or when beau 2.0 didn't actually stick around, that the girl starts talking about 'mistakes were made, want to work it out?' and then some of the best sex of their relationship. @@ -23204,7 +23204,7 @@ That and he let her finish, signed the papers, moved on with his life. If anyone ^(I hope /u/alphabet49 is still around, he was the one who first put me onto this years back.) -[If you aren't a reader you can just listen](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K2Ps5M5thjw)",,95,RStonePT,1613083345.0 +[If you aren't a reader you can just listen](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K2Ps5M5thjw)",,95,RStonePT,2021-02-11 22:42:25 marriedredpill,lfy3q6,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 09, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23213,7 +23213,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,25,AutoModerator,1612859416.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,25,AutoModerator,2021-02-09 08:30:16 marriedredpill,ld80pw,The Most Important Word in a Relationship,"Is “No”. No, we can’t have that extra whatever you want to buy, that would derail us from our goals. @@ -23234,12 +23234,12 @@ The good news is that 9x out of ten her mood and demands will pass, you’ll pas Don’t be a jerk, help when and how you can, but do it on your terms. Don’t be selfish, be generous. She’ll try to challenge your resolve CONSTANTLY and relentlessly, often even without realizing. She’ll likely always want more more more of your life energy. -It’s all in the 16 commandments of poon. After years of “red pill awareness “ that’s the one set of principles I always come back to. Helps to re read that at least every month.",,93,Redpillbrigade17,1612534614.0 +It’s all in the 16 commandments of poon. After years of “red pill awareness “ that’s the one set of principles I always come back to. Helps to re read that at least every month.",,93,Redpillbrigade17,2021-02-05 14:16:54 marriedredpill,lc9g39,60 DoD '21 - no quarter will be offered,"This is your first warning that 60 DoD 2021 is coming, starting March 31 and ending May 30. As always, this will deposit you maggots into your Summer better than you were in your Spring. I've been away, and while you have been under the watchful eye of Gen 4 and 5 moderators, I smell weakness in here. You will be purged with fire, you will be purged with pain. We're going back to Basic Bitch Mode this year. -You have been warned.",,77,SorcererKing,1612419840.0 +You have been warned.",,77,SorcererKing,2021-02-04 06:24:00 marriedredpill,lar334,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 02, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23248,7 +23248,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,1612254612.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,2021-02-02 08:30:12 marriedredpill,l59rs8,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 26, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23261,7 +23261,7 @@ Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. \--- -MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on [/u/weakandsensitive](https://www.reddit.com/u/weakandsensitive/)'s [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,20,AutoModerator,1611649811.0 +MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on [/u/weakandsensitive](https://www.reddit.com/u/weakandsensitive/)'s [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,20,AutoModerator,2021-01-26 08:30:11 marriedredpill,l2sd9g,The Mindset...of a Man Who Fucks,"I wanted to add a few things to Horn's [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/l23n9p/timeline_escaping_sex_for_validation_and_quitting/) that I think warrants a separate discussion. &nbsp; @@ -23350,7 +23350,7 @@ As men we get our fix from finishing a task. But women get a lot of pleasure fro **The lesson here is this:** When you SLOW DOWN and attempt to enjoy every piece of the game from initiation to post-sex cuddling, you allow her to also savor and enjoy what's going on. But even more importantly...when you slow down you REMOVE the ego-protection that is the lack of time to be AFRAID of what's going on, because you're forcing you and her to experience it. -You know how when you're nervous in a situation, such as having to make a presentation at work, and you find yourself speaking quickly, flailing limbs frantically, and generally wishing it was all ""just over""? That's the feeling you're unconsciously trying to get rid of when you go fast. You're trying to move fast enough to not allow the universe to inject any negative feeling or reality into your situation. But in doing so, you also not allowing the universe to let you (or her) feel any *positive* feeling or reality into your situation. Bathe in that chaos. Allow the potential of both good and bad in the situation to wash over you. And accept who you are, who she is, and what's going on in it's fullest sense.",,130,[deleted],1611336222.0 +You know how when you're nervous in a situation, such as having to make a presentation at work, and you find yourself speaking quickly, flailing limbs frantically, and generally wishing it was all ""just over""? That's the feeling you're unconsciously trying to get rid of when you go fast. You're trying to move fast enough to not allow the universe to inject any negative feeling or reality into your situation. But in doing so, you also not allowing the universe to let you (or her) feel any *positive* feeling or reality into your situation. Bathe in that chaos. Allow the potential of both good and bad in the situation to wash over you. And accept who you are, who she is, and what's going on in it's fullest sense.",,130,[deleted],2021-01-22 17:23:42 marriedredpill,l23n9p,"Timeline: Escaping Sex for Validation, and Quitting Porn","# Timeline of Escaping Sex for Validation I am going to safely presume that you've been hitting the sidebar, been in the gym 3-4x a week minimum, and most of your MAP has been identified and actions in motion. You are a man on his way in the intermediate stages of MRP. @@ -23444,7 +23444,7 @@ Usually when guys here stop (myself included at one point), it takes roughly the But if you can recognize that all this porn usage helps fuel sex for validation - It's probably only 2-3 months to change your life forever and become a man who fucks holes. I laid it all out for you so you know what to expect. Having this knowledge may even help you accelerate the mental models required to get here. -Strength, motherfuckers.",,231,HornsOfApathy,1611251563.0 +Strength, motherfuckers.",,231,HornsOfApathy,2021-01-21 17:52:43 marriedredpill,l0fpkl,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 19, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23457,7 +23457,7 @@ Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. \--- -MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on [/u/weakandsensitive](https://www.reddit.com/u/weakandsensitive/)'s [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,27,AutoModerator,1611045010.0 +MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on [/u/weakandsensitive](https://www.reddit.com/u/weakandsensitive/)'s [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,27,AutoModerator,2021-01-19 08:30:10 marriedredpill,kxxe5j,Initiations: You're not that funny,"In my years here, I keep seeing dudes in the intermediate grinding stage screw up initiations over and over by stepping on their own dick in the final stages of initiation. They do not set themselves up to succeed with an initiation in the first place by using humor as an ego shield that allows them not to hurt their fee-fees. They are afraid of failure because that would hurt. It's not funny. @@ -23500,7 +23500,7 @@ Smile, slapass, walkaway. Now that's fun. And funny. -Who's the prize?",,155,HornsOfApathy,1610726444.0 +Who's the prize?",,155,HornsOfApathy,2021-01-15 16:00:44 marriedredpill,kvnrff,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 12, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23513,7 +23513,7 @@ Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. \--- -MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on [/u/weakandsensitive](https://www.reddit.com/u/weakandsensitive/)'s [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,19,AutoModerator,1610440222.0 +MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on [/u/weakandsensitive](https://www.reddit.com/u/weakandsensitive/)'s [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,19,AutoModerator,2021-01-12 08:30:22 marriedredpill,kqu54b,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 05, 2021","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23526,7 +23526,7 @@ Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. \--- -MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on [/u/weakandsensitive](https://www.reddit.com/u/weakandsensitive/)'s [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,25,AutoModerator,1609835422.0 +MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on [/u/weakandsensitive](https://www.reddit.com/u/weakandsensitive/)'s [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,25,AutoModerator,2021-01-05 08:30:22 marriedredpill,kmnrn6,Making a Change,"None of this is new. Its all here in the sub, sidebar, and books and in better words than I have if you dig a bit and know how to use Google. Some random asked me @@ -23673,7 +23673,7 @@ Let's have an amazing New Year with progress you'd never have believed possible. Only you can make it possible. -Let's get to work.",,79,AlohaMaui808,1609278413.0 +Let's get to work.",,79,AlohaMaui808,2020-12-29 21:46:53 marriedredpill,km5m65,"Found MRP? You do you - or why you don't have ""frame"".","All this shit that you're trying to do - sidebar, pass shit tests, learn about how you're one day going to be a former nice guy, or the fact that the babysitter is pregnant.... none of this shit matters. Unless you do you. Running some day game and getting a number. Or, if you're at the gym, just learning how to squat and wondering why a plate seems like it's far off in the distance... none of that shit matters. Unless you do you. @@ -23696,7 +23696,7 @@ Every single man that came through MRP and figured it out learned that none of t This is what the pickup world called ""Inner Game"". You have zero. But that's ok. That's what us guys at MRP like to trade notes about here a lot. Or at the very least make fun of other retards. -So stop worrying about how you're fucking her, when you're going to fuck her, or if you will ever fuck her again. It doesn't fucking matter. Not anymore. None of it matters. Unless you do you.",,87,HornsOfApathy,1609210974.0 +So stop worrying about how you're fucking her, when you're going to fuck her, or if you will ever fuck her again. It doesn't fucking matter. Not anymore. None of it matters. Unless you do you.",,87,HornsOfApathy,2020-12-29 03:02:54 marriedredpill,kmagr2,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 29, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23709,7 +23709,7 @@ Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. \--- -MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on [/u/weakandsensitive](https://www.reddit.com/u/weakandsensitive/)'s [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,20,AutoModerator,1609230610.0 +MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on [/u/weakandsensitive](https://www.reddit.com/u/weakandsensitive/)'s [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,20,AutoModerator,2020-12-29 08:30:10 marriedredpill,kjuyzv,"Merry Christmas - I've put together my ""Tricks of the Trade for a Fun Frame"" list as your present - good ideas for fun during the holidays","**PREFACE** First off: This isn't a playbook I draw from. It's a slideshow of organic occurrences. These are mostly things I just naturally do that bring some fun and life into our relationship - ESPECIALLY in moments when she's acting sad, bored, depressed, furious, etc. That is, I created this list by reminiscing on times when she was caught in her own head, but I managed to pull her into my mood/frame/way of thinking in the moment - and what I remember doing that triggered it. That is, they are expressions of my frame. Some are heartfelt moments (which are often repeated more often than others, thus may look like they're not a significant part of my frame - don't be fooled). Others are cheap gags to introduce fun at random times (which, while high in quantity on the list, are used with far less frequency). Still others are just random things that generate feels. Play around to figure out what works for you and not. @@ -23806,7 +23806,7 @@ _____ **WHY I WROTE THIS POST** -Because I love to have fun with my wife - and I'm sure you all have even better stories of things you've done that work and not. I'd love to hear those stories and be inspired by them. Maybe I'll add them to the list with credits.",,131,Red-Curious,1608880121.0 +Because I love to have fun with my wife - and I'm sure you all have even better stories of things you've done that work and not. I'd love to hear those stories and be inspired by them. Maybe I'll add them to the list with credits.",,131,Red-Curious,2020-12-25 07:08:41 marriedredpill,ki160j,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 22, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23819,7 +23819,7 @@ Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. --- -MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,17,AutoModerator,1608624600.0 +MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,17,AutoModerator,2020-12-22 08:10:00 marriedredpill,kfa1r2,What is Dominance?,"I've had way too many people ask this week what dominance is. Not just what it is, but what it feels like when you are exerting it, rather than LARPing it. &nbsp; @@ -23866,7 +23866,7 @@ When you get to a point where you can get your wife to spot your 1rm and have 0 > When we got back to the apartment is was so horny **I couldn't control myself**. I kissed her roughly and threw her down on the bed. To my surprise she didn't protest...Even though that night I provided horrible physical stimulation to the point it should have been painful, the psychological stimulation I provided was so good that it overrode the physical aspects. --SGM, Dominance",,66,[deleted],1608251221.0 +-SGM, Dominance",,66,[deleted],2020-12-18 00:27:01 marriedredpill,kdhq2j,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 15, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23879,7 +23879,7 @@ Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. --- -MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,17,AutoModerator,1608019809.0 +MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,17,AutoModerator,2020-12-15 08:10:09 marriedredpill,kasnpy,OYS Weekly Livestream 12/15/2020,"This week's OYS livestream is accessible from /u/weakandsensitive youtube [page](https://www.youtube.com/c/WhineMorePlease/videos). Sign-ups are available [here](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). @@ -23895,7 +23895,7 @@ Don't just take my word for it. Here's what people have said about the stream: * Threekindsoflucky has a really sexy voice and I would probably turn gay for him - /u/johneyapocalypse -The stream will go on with or without volunteers. But you'd be silly not to take advantage of it.",,12,threekindsoflucky,1607650252.0 +The stream will go on with or without volunteers. But you'd be silly not to take advantage of it.",,12,threekindsoflucky,2020-12-11 01:30:52 marriedredpill,k90ew3,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 08, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23908,12 +23908,12 @@ Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. --- -MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,12,AutoModerator,1607415039.0 +MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,12,AutoModerator,2020-12-08 08:10:39 marriedredpill,k7n9fh,A Start,"I never thought I would end up where I am in my relationship with my wife. Her actions clearly show that she is completely unattracted to me and that I am being used for what I can provide to her and my child - despite her assurances that she values and appreciates me for who I am, what I provide, what I sacrifice, etc. Sex is dwindling, maybe twice a month, and there is rarely an act of passion from her. It is an act she participates in but is not necessarily present in. I understand this is called pity sex or obligation sex, and it is used to keep me strung along so I will continue to provide without complaint. Passion, lust, and sex decrease in marriage. Or so I'm told. Anxiety, stress, and anger control more and more of my mental space nowadays and they are directed at her, but she isn't necessarily to blame. She is doing what women have done since the beginning of time. She is using her sexual strategy to provide for herself and her child. The blame falls squarely on me. I let her push boundaries and didn't hold fast when they were completely crossed. In these instances I actually provided **more** because I thought it would rein her back in and create more attraction. In reality, it incentivized her to push further and further, thereby killing more and more attraction when I refused to stand up and hold my ground. -The process was gradual and slow - almost imperceptible - one small, seemingly inconsequential concession at a time. However, over time, it created a landslide. The realization, when it truly hits you, is life shattering. You are not the man you thought you were, your wife is not the woman she says she is, your relationship is on the brink of disaster, and you are the only one to blame.",,93,-Lochlanach-,1607230284.0 +The process was gradual and slow - almost imperceptible - one small, seemingly inconsequential concession at a time. However, over time, it created a landslide. The realization, when it truly hits you, is life shattering. You are not the man you thought you were, your wife is not the woman she says she is, your relationship is on the brink of disaster, and you are the only one to blame.",,93,-Lochlanach-,2020-12-06 04:51:24 marriedredpill,k4gso8,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 01, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23926,7 +23926,7 @@ Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. --- -MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,21,AutoModerator,1606810304.0 +MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,21,AutoModerator,2020-12-01 08:11:44 marriedredpill,k0103m,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 24, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -23939,7 +23939,7 @@ Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. --- -MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,30,AutoModerator,1606205430.0 +MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,30,AutoModerator,2020-11-24 08:10:30 marriedredpill,jw7qxz,How to Own Your Shit :: A Guide for Retards,"**Edit ::** Don't throw money at reddit. Don't throw money at me either. But if you really feel the need to blow money on this, there's literally a way to throw money directly at me on the OYS sign up link. Common guys. (Update: I've been told these awards are commonly free from reddit.) This post was inspired by /u/bogeyd6 who wrote @@ -24002,7 +24002,7 @@ And the result? His post is interesting to read, because his writing is meaningf That's your lesson for today. Want to be good at OYS? Stop being mentally lazy. Engage your brain and figure what actually matters to you. -Note: This doesn't mean immediately. Starting out, it's good to replicate a formula. But at some point, you have to do the work to tailor the program to your goals when you've gained knowledge about the system. That's why SL5x5 is a beginner program that you graduate from, and not something you do for years or decades at a time.",,93,[deleted],1605668164.0 +Note: This doesn't mean immediately. Starting out, it's good to replicate a formula. But at some point, you have to do the work to tailor the program to your goals when you've gained knowledge about the system. That's why SL5x5 is a beginner program that you graduate from, and not something you do for years or decades at a time.",,93,[deleted],2020-11-18 02:56:04 marriedredpill,jvpyss,Three things I learned,"About a year ago I found this group when I searched the internet for tips to make my wife more submissive. I read the posts, found the sidebar. I read NNMNG, MMSLP and some more online stuff. I don't think I've become a hardcore MRP believer, but I'd like to come back today to thank you for the three things I've learned here. 1 LIFT @@ -24017,7 +24017,7 @@ Sometimes it's not easy to keep your mouth shut, but it works great, as do the r This is my main point of improvement for the coming year. Game makes the interaction with my wife (and others) much more fun. I sometimes say and do things I never dared to do for fear of the indignation I expected from her, but as long as you stay playful it only leads to laughter, played anger (ASD, I think you call that) and better sex. So I hope to have even more fun the coming year. It is a wonderful journey. -Thanks for everything and maybe see you in a year or so!",,54,Your_Man_In_Black,1605604418.0 +Thanks for everything and maybe see you in a year or so!",,54,Your_Man_In_Black,2020-11-17 09:13:38 marriedredpill,jvpb60,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 17, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -24030,7 +24030,7 @@ Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. --- -MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,8,AutoModerator,1605600630.0 +MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,8,AutoModerator,2020-11-17 08:10:30 marriedredpill,ju5i4e,FR - Mental Discipline program,"**Summary** I completed the 75 Hard program by Andy Frisella. The program is designed to develop good habits and mental discipline by routinely executing a series of events every day for 75 days straight. If you fail one aspect of one day, you restart the program. @@ -24127,7 +24127,7 @@ I’ll start the next Phase in a few days. It’s more of the same plus extra t &#x200B; -I could say a hell of a lot more about any of this, especially the mental model changes, if anyone wants.",,89,HeckleandChide,1605374548.0 +I could say a hell of a lot more about any of this, especially the mental model changes, if anyone wants.",,89,HeckleandChide,2020-11-14 17:22:28 marriedredpill,juzak6,My first buck...,"I got into hunting whitetails just last year. Last year was almost comical with all the mistakes I made. This year however, I was prepared. I spent the off season having fun target shooting with my crossbow, upgraded my arrows and broadheads (after 1 point blank lung shot last year that only penetrated a couple inches), and got my shooting lanes all cleared out. I went out to a promising spot this morning. A nice buck with some gnarly antlers has been showing up on the trail cam pretty consistently in the mornings. After sitting on the ground for 3 hours in rain and hellashish wind, I decided to take a walk and do some scouting. The area appeared empty and I was growing impatient. So I headed back home to hit the treestand. At the very least, I could call it a day knowing for sure there was nothing moving near by. @@ -24142,7 +24142,7 @@ I kept waiting for him to fold. He just kept standing. A good minute he stood My best guess is I didn't account for the angle I needed to take being up in the stand. On the ground, it would've went straight through his pumper. I should've aimed a little higher. My best guess is it passed through muscle, maybe only nicking the heart. I'm sick to my stomach right now. I spent the 4 hour wait to go track imaging the european mount on my new wood panel mudroom wall. A 6 month supply of jerky. And cast iron seared backstraps. But no deer in sight. -But the sun will rise tomorrow and more deer will be moving. And I'll be up first thing in the morning to try again.",,0,BostonBrakeJob,1605495790.0 +But the sun will rise tomorrow and more deer will be moving. And I'll be up first thing in the morning to try again.",,0,BostonBrakeJob,2020-11-16 03:03:10 marriedredpill,jrh6eo,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 10, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -24155,7 +24155,7 @@ Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. --- -MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,16,AutoModerator,1604995815.0 +MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,16,AutoModerator,2020-11-10 08:10:15 marriedredpill,jo8ijl,"You're supposed to be here because you were tired of jerking off, not because you want a new lube.","Any man who finds his way here isn't happy. No exceptions. Men who are happy, content or fufilled don't type ""Why is my wife a bitch?"" into Google as a last ditch effort before idling the car in the garage for a quick nap. They don't type ""Why won't she fuck me?"" and then find some old /r/archwinger article about [women being for fucking](https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4rirp6/guy_friends_are_for_social_and_emotional_support/) And they sure as shit don't reach out to a few hundred random assholes on the internet, dump their life story onto an internet forum like a brand new jigsaw puzzle then ask everyone how the fuck the pieces fit together. The point is those guys are hurting. Why? @@ -24186,7 +24186,7 @@ I will suggest that whatever you decide to put as your raison d'etre, ensure no #####Spartan shields not required. -If you're doing this shit right it should be as matter-of-fact as your workouts are. Nothing special, just a process of getting shit done for you. Normally this part is where I add some annecdote, a little pathos to get this to resonate with you. I don't want to, it misses the entire point. Your feelings are retarded and you're retarded for having them. Fix your life and fuck off and thats it.",,157,RStonePT,1604536073.0 +If you're doing this shit right it should be as matter-of-fact as your workouts are. Nothing special, just a process of getting shit done for you. Normally this part is where I add some annecdote, a little pathos to get this to resonate with you. I don't want to, it misses the entire point. Your feelings are retarded and you're retarded for having them. Fix your life and fuck off and thats it.",,157,RStonePT,2020-11-05 00:27:53 marriedredpill,jnmsmd,"Warriors and Victims, Self Respect and Transformation",">""Its your turn, Money Man. *[Chuckles]* I know you're shittin' bricks right about now. Tryin' to rationalize the morality - what will your family think of you, how will they judge you. All of that went through my head too, when I first broke my cherry. >And then I realized, none of that matters. The only thing that matters is you gettin' home to your family in one piece. @@ -24231,7 +24231,7 @@ In the end, your individual successes and failures don't matter. Even those ""do No part of that process has anything significant to do with your woman or your family. Its all about you. Forge an *unbreakable commitment* to this process, and you *will* see results. Those results will in turn begin to build your Self Respect, and from that bedrock you can build your Frame and become that man in the mirror. -##See you in the weekly thread, Warriors.",,33,AlohaMaui808,1604450710.0 +##See you in the weekly thread, Warriors.",,33,AlohaMaui808,2020-11-04 00:45:10 marriedredpill,jn6kmc,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 03, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -24244,7 +24244,7 @@ Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. --- -MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,19,AutoModerator,1604391013.0 +MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,19,AutoModerator,2020-11-03 08:10:13 marriedredpill,jkbj26,Craft a vision and lay your balls on the table,"This week I traveled for work and was set to present to the rest of the executive leadership a plan for all of 2021. In this plan I've proposed that they shift my responsibilities from 25% of the revenue and associated people to integrating 50% of the company into my business unit. This is a huge disruptor to the business but here's the thing: why do I care? Is the plan solid? Yes. Does it make sense? Yes. Will it work? *Maybe.* Is there risk? Of course. Do I have the confidence that we can mitigate the risk if my idea is wrong? Of course. I always bet on myself. @@ -24281,7 +24281,7 @@ Lead with strength, motherfuckers. \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ -Sidenote: I met up with /u/red-sfpplus while here and he recommends carrying around a [fanny pack purse](https://i.imgur.com/2pSeaRO.jpeg) for big balls and butt plugs.",,71,HornsOfApathy,1603983398.0 +Sidenote: I met up with /u/red-sfpplus while here and he recommends carrying around a [fanny pack purse](https://i.imgur.com/2pSeaRO.jpeg) for big balls and butt plugs.",,71,HornsOfApathy,2020-10-29 14:56:38 marriedredpill,jisayz,Parallels,"Over a year ago Horns had a great post, \[Your woman is one of your greatest creations\]([https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/c2l5dt/your\_woman\_is\_one\_of\_your\_greatest\_creations/](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/c2l5dt/your_woman_is_one_of_your_greatest_creations/)). Over time I have observed the similarities between the leadership needs of my wife and my kids. I often see where people post in their OYS’s about the challenges in the relationships with their kids, wanting to have better connections and more influence. In my journey I’ve noticed some parallels in what I was learning here, the execution of that learning and how it related to improving the relationship with my kids. The more I worked and watched, I realized that my kids are also a reflection of me. @@ -24310,7 +24310,7 @@ All in all, in my journey, I have observed that there are clear relational paral Btw, your wife is looking to you for this leadership too, captain. I have found the more **confidently and consistently** I lead my kids, the more she follows my leadership. This clears her mental plate to provide value in areas within her strength. This is a side benefit that has been fun and damn satisfying to watch. -Realize that working on you alone will maximize the opportunity for connection with your kids many of you want. Another reason to end the fuckarounditis and get busy.",,57,[deleted],1603763453.0 +Realize that working on you alone will maximize the opportunity for connection with your kids many of you want. Another reason to end the fuckarounditis and get busy.",,57,[deleted],2020-10-27 01:50:53 marriedredpill,jix5d0,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 27, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -24323,7 +24323,7 @@ Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. --- -MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,12,AutoModerator,1603786231.0 +MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,12,AutoModerator,2020-10-27 08:10:31 marriedredpill,ji4ntq,OYS Weekly Livestream #5 - 10/26/2020 @ 9pm EST,"This week's OYS livestream will be at [https://youtu.be/w3MLrJaHOaM](https://youtu.be/w3MLrJaHOaM) Slots are pretty much full. It's up and going in around 30 minutes. Get around it. Have a yarn in the stream chat for those so inclined. @@ -24337,7 +24337,7 @@ Volunteer an OYS Think some else has made an OYS that's worth taking a look at? Volunteer their post under this category. Volunteer your own post. -Want your post highlighted? Sign up here under this category.",,12,threekindsoflucky,1603672227.0 +Want your post highlighted? Sign up here under this category.",,12,threekindsoflucky,2020-10-26 00:30:27 marriedredpill,jgso8q,Failure is the only option,"My single biggest weakness is fear of failure. Not just fear of missing the mark, but fear of what missing the mark *means about who I am*. I think we all grew up with some fucked up sense that other people get to decide what failure means, and what that says about who we are. @@ -24376,7 +24376,7 @@ Reworking our mental models of success and failure will look diffrent for every * Refreame the situation positively. I didn't fail, I learned what doesn't work. * Decouple performance with personal value. My value of myself is not dependent on external successes or failures, although they will inform future decisions. Unconditional self-respect. --AR",,89,ancient_resistance,1603477287.0 +-AR",,89,ancient_resistance,2020-10-23 18:21:27 marriedredpill,jel83l,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 20, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -24389,7 +24389,7 @@ Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. --- -MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,28,AutoModerator,1603181415.0 +MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,28,AutoModerator,2020-10-20 08:10:15 marriedredpill,jdrhe4,OYS Weekly Livestream #4 - 10/18/2020 @ 9pm EST,"This week's OYS livestream will be at [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7bwxsIU7KzE](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7bwxsIU7KzE) Slots are somewhat filled but we can take a few more. [Sign up here.](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1) I don't recommend paying unless you've been hanging out at the science experiment that is r/askMRP. @@ -24408,7 +24408,7 @@ Think some else has made an OYS that's worth taking a look at? Volunteer their p # Volunteer your own post. -Want your post highlighted? Sign up here under this category.",,9,HornsOfApathy,1603066498.0 +Want your post highlighted? Sign up here under this category.",,9,HornsOfApathy,2020-10-19 00:14:58 marriedredpill,ja96h1,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 13, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -24421,8 +24421,8 @@ Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. --- -MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,17,AutoModerator,1602576628.0 -marriedredpill,j7qbjn,"Brad Parscale cried during arrest, told officers his wife won’t have sex with him - he needs MRP",,https://nypost.com/2020/10/07/brad-parscale-said-his-wife-wont-have-sex-with-him-during-arrest/,47,[deleted],1602208205.0 +MRP Mods host a regularly weekly review on /u/weakandsensitive's [youtube channel](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg/featured) on Sunday at 8PM CST. Think someone has made an OYS worth focusing on? Do you want your own OYS post discussed? Sign up [using this link](https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0d49acaa2faaf8ce9-oysweekly1). Make sure you're signing up on the right date. Use a fake name and email.",,17,AutoModerator,2020-10-13 08:10:28 +marriedredpill,j7qbjn,"Brad Parscale cried during arrest, told officers his wife won’t have sex with him - he needs MRP",,https://nypost.com/2020/10/07/brad-parscale-said-his-wife-wont-have-sex-with-him-during-arrest/,47,[deleted],2020-10-09 01:50:05 marriedredpill,j619ak,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 06, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -24431,7 +24431,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,1601971826.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,2020-10-06 08:10:26 marriedredpill,j3zg2a,What a year of Owning Your Shit looks like,"Week in, week out, never missing a week. I am sharing this because it's much less about my journey, evolution and struggles than it is about the comments, thoughts and discussions within those posts. Within these links to my OYS posts there is a plethora of information, deep discussions, and new mental models that people shared with me that helped shape my own. Perhaps you will find some value in them. Men sharing notes. @@ -24517,7 +24517,7 @@ I have **bolded** what I thought were the pivotal moments in my journey. |[\#55](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/e5e441/own_your_shit_weekly_december_03_2019/f9jya82?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)|When happiness is shared it becomes real. Called a BITCH! by Terry Crews. Wife bounces around the house. | |[\#56](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/ebt4yl/own_your_shit_weekly_december_17_2019/fb9i608?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)|**Revealed my daughter died. No need to OYS publicly and regularly anymore. I still OYS, but in private.**| -&#x200B;",,170,HornsOfApathy,1601661395.0 +&#x200B;",,170,HornsOfApathy,2020-10-02 17:56:35 marriedredpill,j1v2lv,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 29, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -24526,7 +24526,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,15,AutoModerator,1601367046.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,15,AutoModerator,2020-09-29 08:10:46 marriedredpill,izj8l8,Execution focus and self evaluation,"A lot of otherwise smart people who understand the importance of improvement place a huge emphasis on learning. They read and read, apparently expecting something to magically click inside of their heads and then they'll become awesome. I've seen it in guys struggling with the red pill, they read the sidebar and devour content but don't get anywhere with their romantic life. I've seen it in managers, always reading books about leadership and saying the right buzzwords but applying so little of it in their actual work. @@ -24563,7 +24563,7 @@ Bottom line is, it's not about what you *know*. It's about what you can *do*. Th Stop the content consumption, stop thinking that if only you knew more you'd get that insight that would make you get it. It's bullshit and doesn't do shit for becoming red, learning to play golf or anything else in life. -Focus on execution. Build skill. Self evaluate. Run the improvement loop, over and over.",,74,Sepean,1601039825.0 +Focus on execution. Build skill. Self evaluate. Run the improvement loop, over and over.",,74,Sepean,2020-09-25 13:17:05 marriedredpill,iza0kh,On horns of apathy... absolution... and considering another perspective...,"Sheesh, I've been here how long? Five, six years? * I've been approved for ages. Cool. @@ -24599,7 +24599,7 @@ The four words: ""She just loves you."" -I say this to both (1) tell you all that this dude is the real-deal, but also (2) remind you that this process works. Even for an old dog like me.",,26,johneyapocalypse,1600996282.0 +I say this to both (1) tell you all that this dude is the real-deal, but also (2) remind you that this process works. Even for an old dog like me.",,26,johneyapocalypse,2020-09-25 01:11:22 marriedredpill,ixjayq,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 22, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -24608,7 +24608,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,1600762219.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,2020-09-22 08:10:19 marriedredpill,ixd4fh,Tomorrow's OYS Post: Some Recommendations...,"OYS is where progress occurs. With that in mind, existing and new posters alike, consider the following: @@ -24637,7 +24637,7 @@ Lastly, know this: So focus on OYS - as w&s (may he rest in peace) - has always advised. -Faggot.",,29,johneyapocalypse,1600735204.0 +Faggot.",,29,johneyapocalypse,2020-09-22 00:40:04 marriedredpill,ix9o4t,Don't Be Autistic,"Some people just can't figure out common sense. There's literally a group of people who lack this cognitive capacity ... then there are guys new to the red pill who forget they have this ability for a time. I'm skeptical that anyone will want to admit to identifying with this post, but there's a good chance others are seeing it in you - and in hind-sight, I wish I'd been self-aware enough a few years ago to know when I needed something like this, so let's see where it goes. Google describes autism symptoms as ""difficulty with communication, difficulty with social interactions, obsessive interests, and repetitive behaviors."" Psychologists I have spoken with and examined as part of my career have noted that one expression of autism is when someone compartmentalizes a particular thought process away from all the others, or fails to recognize appropriate contexts or limits/boundaries for expressing that thought process through behavior. Another noted that what we perceive as common sense, they don't comprehend intuitively - they have to learn many such concepts the same way you would have to learn carpentry: study, observation, and practice. @@ -24720,12 +24720,12 @@ No. I've heard guys say this. You don't change overnight just because you read The levels of dread are a great reference point here. Notice how you don't even *start studying* PUA until level 6, and you don't actually practice it until level 7? So what are you doing hitting on your waitress in front of your wife when you haven't even passed your first fitness test yet? It's [right there in bold letter](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2lpafb/the_12_step_plan_of_dread_book_excerpt_from_my/): **""Move up these levels one at a time, slowly, and carefully, taking approximately 1 month for each level.""** Slow down. Master the basics before going on. -I still find that revisiting the basics has more value to me than trying to practice ""advanced"" concepts. Do I learn anything new when I do? Nope. But I certainly remember some things I forgot. And it reminds me that being a high value man, while requiring lots of effort, is ultimately nowhere near as complicated as some men try to make it. Common sense. Don't be autistic.",,51,Red-Curious,1600723288.0 +I still find that revisiting the basics has more value to me than trying to practice ""advanced"" concepts. Do I learn anything new when I do? Nope. But I certainly remember some things I forgot. And it reminds me that being a high value man, while requiring lots of effort, is ultimately nowhere near as complicated as some men try to make it. Common sense. Don't be autistic.",,51,Red-Curious,2020-09-21 21:21:28 marriedredpill,iv3jfb,MRP Discord Channel,"We have a discord channel that's mostly idle and low key. Feel free to join and chat if you so desire. Goes without saying that the standards we expect here transfer over to there. But in a more casual sense. -[Discord](https://discord.gg/k5YNssD)",,15,threekindsoflucky,1600424705.0 +[Discord](https://discord.gg/k5YNssD)",,15,threekindsoflucky,2020-09-18 10:25:05 marriedredpill,iuxdig,OYS - Learn from the Best... On Video...,"So over the years I've come to believe that W&S is spot-on when he suggests that the damn-near entirety of value comes from the new posters, old posters, and mods who are participating in OYS. The one thing in common: Everyone's goals are aligned, we're all looking for the same thing, bullshititis is not allowed - especially of late with some of the some new rules we've implemented - and people are looking to improve. @@ -24744,7 +24744,7 @@ W&S please provide a link. Link has been provided below. Here it is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=69aUrqQl9jw&app=desktop -p.s. He's not advertising this no-money-making venture on his own behalf; I'm bringing it to your attention because it's worth your time.",,22,johneyapocalypse,1600394805.0 +p.s. He's not advertising this no-money-making venture on his own behalf; I'm bringing it to your attention because it's worth your time.",,22,johneyapocalypse,2020-09-18 02:06:45 marriedredpill,itu4ep,The Work Is Mandatory,"Observation, and Implementation I have been here for 4 years, 2 as a lurker and 2 as a FNG. I read all these stories about how these men were going through pain and turmoil. and I identified with that, but I didn't Own My Shit. I was better than them you see. I had sex on the regular, My (now) ex wife was doing what I wanted in the bedroom, she didn't fight and yell and scream much anymore. and I thought well I just don't have it as bad as these sad sacks. @@ -24769,7 +24769,7 @@ The Work Is Mandatory There is no Magic Bullet -&#x200B;",,54,[deleted],1600257896.0 +&#x200B;",,54,[deleted],2020-09-16 12:04:56 marriedredpill,itvxzy,Simple Yet Strong: Rise from bed before your wife does. Go to bed after your wife does.,"Frame is everything. If you lose your frame, you lose your life. If she's not in your frame, she's not in your marriage. So, frame every one of her days with you. GETTING UP @@ -24806,7 +24806,7 @@ If sex is done or not happening, you spread your naked body out on the bed (you And that's how you frame your day, and hers. -(P.S. I've been doing the above for a month. This morning I am contributing this because yesterday she gave me a surprise afternoon BJ - insisted on ""sucking it dry"" - and we fucked for five hours last night, with her having giant orgasms at least ten times. And all of this when we both have work today and have to do virtual schooling for our 3 kids. It's also the 5th day of her period when she's usually too embarrassed about bleeding to be sexual. She repeatedly overcame all of those obstacles last night for great good-old-days fucking - we're both almost 40. Plus, she talked dirty and was overtly submissive, both pretty new for her. And this morning she's angling for more. MRP works.)",,4,mattNutter,1600264378.0 +(P.S. I've been doing the above for a month. This morning I am contributing this because yesterday she gave me a surprise afternoon BJ - insisted on ""sucking it dry"" - and we fucked for five hours last night, with her having giant orgasms at least ten times. And all of this when we both have work today and have to do virtual schooling for our 3 kids. It's also the 5th day of her period when she's usually too embarrassed about bleeding to be sexual. She repeatedly overcame all of those obstacles last night for great good-old-days fucking - we're both almost 40. Plus, she talked dirty and was overtly submissive, both pretty new for her. And this morning she's angling for more. MRP works.)",,4,mattNutter,2020-09-16 13:52:58 marriedredpill,it4kfb,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 15, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -24815,7 +24815,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,1600157434.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,2020-09-15 08:10:34 marriedredpill,iqhzy6,I used to buy flowers. Sometimes I still do.,"If we go back in time to a couple of years ago, I was *that guy* who bought flowers every Sunday for her without fail for years. It was a long time ago and it’s hard to remember the mental models now, but I’m sure there was a covert contract in there somewhere. I was “the guy who bought flowers every Sunday” and imagined that some day my wife would boast to her friends and family about how I was such a Nice Guy^(TM). Then one day along my journey here at MRP I just stopped buying them. Maybe at first it was some Rambo McFucktard move, or attempting to Alfa-Up, I don’t really remember now – but I know that at some point I just stopped. I would not expend the mental energy on doing so because she was not worth it. @@ -24852,7 +24852,7 @@ But at the same time - also ask yourself why you do the things that you do. It’s pretty simple. -Acta non verba.",,120,HornsOfApathy,1599791507.0 +Acta non verba.",,120,HornsOfApathy,2020-09-11 02:31:47 marriedredpill,iopqsq,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 08, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -24861,14 +24861,14 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,1599552636.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,2020-09-08 08:10:36 marriedredpill,im4txv,PSA A Shit Test Is Not Her Being Bitchy,"Said this a few times recently but a shit test is not the same as her being a bitch. Go back and review BPP's [early videos on RP](https://youtu.be/0y5kPB9noA4). A great noob resouce by the way. Hit me hard early on. Though he was a little shall we say, amature in them his base message is on point. A shit test is simply her testing your shit. It will *appear* like she's being a bitch. But if you set your fragile ego aside for half a second you'll see it's a sarcastic tease and she's lobbing you a pitch hoping you'll knock it out of the park. Corollary: A reduction in shit tests is not an accomplishment. It could mean she isn't teasing you. It could mean she is tired of you responding like a little bitch so she's reduced them. The only time it's good is when you mistakenly believe she no longer shit tests you because you enjoy playing ball with her and don't even recognize them as shitty anymore. -That is all.",,71,[deleted],1599175982.0 +That is all.",,71,[deleted],2020-09-03 23:33:02 marriedredpill,ilol0y,Can you be humorously stoic?,"I haven't posted anything a while. See, that’s what happens when you read the sidebar, lift, OYS, and have a mission... you get too busy to always be able to comment in the first hour or 2 of a post, which are *usually* where the top comments will come from (not always). Anyway, I’ve been thinking about **genuine frame** @@ -24959,7 +24959,7 @@ Learn how to become a real man. Get up when you fall. Get right back up on the fucking horse no matter how badly you slip backwards... just STFU and get back on the horse. It is better get badly wounded on the horse than to fall off and bitch about it. -**Become humorously stoic by doing the work And trusting the process**",,73,BobbyPeru,1599116127.0 +**Become humorously stoic by doing the work And trusting the process**",,73,BobbyPeru,2020-09-03 06:55:27 marriedredpill,ikgdvy,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 01, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -24968,7 +24968,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1598947920.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2020-09-01 08:12:00 marriedredpill,igf65m,The Dread Contract and Scoreboard - how to frame improvement for YOU.,"So many posters come in here and worry far too much about how much “dread” they are instilling or ask if they should just skip everything and have a FMOFY speech. Even guys who have been here awhile may chime in with a “What Dread Level are you on?”. There is a fundamental problem with this line of thinking. On one hand we talk about having frame, removing covert contracts, and destroying the scoreboard. On the other we have dread which is her frame, a giant covert contract, and a scoreboard. @@ -25120,7 +25120,7 @@ So, for the new, sex focused guys: ***This progression ups your SMV to crazy lev Oh, and through this process you may find you like your wife. Or you may find you don’t like your wife and want to move on. Doesn’t matter – doesn’t change your view of the world or how you act (*stay plan is the go plan).* -Good ~~luck~~ careful planning and owning your shit with discipline",,161,Tyred_Biggums,1598371876.0 +Good ~~luck~~ careful planning and owning your shit with discipline",,161,Tyred_Biggums,2020-08-25 16:11:16 marriedredpill,ig7yei,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 25, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -25129,7 +25129,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,1598343061.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,2020-08-25 08:11:01 marriedredpill,ibwxwi,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 18, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -25138,7 +25138,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1597738248.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2020-08-18 08:10:48 marriedredpill,i7nthg,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 11, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -25147,7 +25147,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,26,AutoModerator,1597133369.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,26,AutoModerator,2020-08-11 08:09:29 marriedredpill,i4s3p8,"Understanding the ""Anger Phase""","Recent events in the news remind us that anger often leads to violence, and nearly always precedes it. Among social animals, anger serves in part as a warning of impending hostility or violence, such as the anger of an Alpha male at a challenge or resistance to his dominance, or the [seemingly sudden explosive anger of a Beta male](https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/c7t3f7/wife_pushing_back_after_upping_my_smv_and_holding/eshxjf3/) pushed too far ... and the threat is often sufficient to alter others' behaviors to avoid violence. @@ -25199,7 +25199,7 @@ My hope is that through conscious understanding that its true cause is your inco * avoid further damage to your relationships in a hopeless attempt to get what you want without making difficult personal changes, -* or at least consciously force yourself to get started sooner on those difficult but necessary personal changes your subconscious so desperately wants to avoid.",,67,man_in_the_world,1596721628.0 +* or at least consciously force yourself to get started sooner on those difficult but necessary personal changes your subconscious so desperately wants to avoid.",,67,man_in_the_world,2020-08-06 13:47:08 marriedredpill,i48vpf,"OYS Announcement: Maximize your investment. If you ain't first, you're last.","Recently the mods had a discussion if we should change the weekly OYS thread to ""contest"" mode which randomizes the comments for better distribution since people are posting on Tuesday at different times. No. @@ -25214,7 +25214,7 @@ Rule 9 has also cut down on the number of ""she"" posts and reduced the average In reality, OYS is the only thread that matters here at MRP. There are plenty of examples of men here that have accelerated their progress by taking OYS seriously and posting early and often. -Get to work.",,43,HornsOfApathy,1596646074.0 +Get to work.",,43,HornsOfApathy,2020-08-05 16:47:54 marriedredpill,i3fisb,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 04, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -25223,7 +25223,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1596529468.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2020-08-04 08:24:28 marriedredpill,hzghfh,"Go Out, Test, and See Who You Are","I was having an argument with a friend the other day about raising kids. It was an interesting argument to have because of course I have two small girls 6 and 8, and he hasn't had any kids yet. Regardless, the argument was about the specific problem of what the best response would be from me as a parent if my kid asked me ""What is heaven?"". But that was just the specific case and we both knew we were arguing about the more general case of 'What do you tell a child that doesn't know the answer to something?' @@ -25290,7 +25290,7 @@ And I cant believe I have to say it but I know I have to, because some people ca It's not only seeing how life really plays out and how you're impacted when you put what you've learned here to the test in real life, but also to carry a healthy amount of **doubt** about whether those results you see are taking you in the direction you want to go. Because the sweet sweet taste of validation from this locker room is an enticing siren that can continually push you to act in a certain way day to day, and week to week. But only those who dont completely lack frame, introspection, and a vision could take a journey on the order of multiple months or a year without drinking from that fountain. -As a father, I will die one day. When that happens, I want my daughter to be able to forge her own path guided by a force within her, and a healthy amount of doubt, which I helped her to grow and realize. If MRP died tomorrow, would you be able to do the same?",,77,[deleted],1595949451.0 +As a father, I will die one day. When that happens, I want my daughter to be able to forge her own path guided by a force within her, and a healthy amount of doubt, which I helped her to grow and realize. If MRP died tomorrow, would you be able to do the same?",,77,[deleted],2020-07-28 15:17:31 marriedredpill,hzavqw,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 28, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -25299,7 +25299,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,1595924664.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,2020-07-28 08:24:24 marriedredpill,hz4ju1,A letter to my BIL,"I’m won’t beat about the bush: I heard she hit you. Broke your glasses. @@ -25412,7 +25412,7 @@ I know at least two fuckers that wouldn’t shed a tear. I personally do not care about you and I’m glad I got to tell you that before you kill yourself. -But maybe I’m wrong, maybe it’s a terrible tragedy...",,42,[deleted],1595896545.0 +But maybe I’m wrong, maybe it’s a terrible tragedy...",,42,[deleted],2020-07-28 00:35:45 marriedredpill,hv3omy,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 21, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -25421,7 +25421,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1595319866.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2020-07-21 08:24:26 marriedredpill,hsnp1c,How to Handle a Compliment,"From a recent OYS: >Got some IOIs from friend's LTRs, commenting on my looks, past achievements, flirting a bit, asking lots of questions, comparing their LTRs to me, etc. This made me uncomfortable... Not sure how to handle these situations best. I try to downplay, deflect, ignore, boundary, and prop up my bros. It's like I'm on the other end of a shit test/hypergamy and noticing this annoys (probably cause that is what my STBXW used to do). @@ -25451,7 +25451,7 @@ Who gives a fuck if it's your buddy's wife? It's just a compliment. Fuck, game Or if it's your woman? Same rules apply. Personally, I prefer to game. -When people compliment you with authenticity, they are usually playing the nice card or being vulnerable. Don't turn their vulnerability against them by being a retard. You're not measuring yourself against it. You're already the prize. Least you can say is thank you.",,72,HornsOfApathy,1594953342.0 +When people compliment you with authenticity, they are usually playing the nice card or being vulnerable. Don't turn their vulnerability against them by being a retard. You're not measuring yourself against it. You're already the prize. Least you can say is thank you.",,72,HornsOfApathy,2020-07-17 02:35:42 marriedredpill,hqxq69,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 14, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -25460,7 +25460,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1594715066.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2020-07-14 08:24:26 marriedredpill,hmgdcg,"How I Communicate Now, Without Words","# First, it’s worth mentioning that this is what I used to do: I used to talk. A lot. I would talk to my woman about things that she did that bothered me, upset me, or made me sad. I would get butthurt and sometimes *not* talk to her for the same reasons. I communicated to my woman like a woman. I let my emotions control me. Like a woman. @@ -25580,7 +25580,7 @@ Learn to praise your woman without words. Enjoy the discovery of unique ways to Rarely do I open my mouth to tell her I like the things she does. -Mostly I STFU. Instead I covertly provide those feelz to her in the form of my own sexual desire and imagination. I am the prize, and her greatest source of validation. We’re both playing the long game. Gotta let her win sometimes.",,175,HornsOfApathy,1594069087.0 +Mostly I STFU. Instead I covertly provide those feelz to her in the form of my own sexual desire and imagination. I am the prize, and her greatest source of validation. We’re both playing the long game. Gotta let her win sometimes.",,175,HornsOfApathy,2020-07-06 20:58:07 marriedredpill,hmqmhz,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 07, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -25589,7 +25589,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,1594110266.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,2020-07-07 08:24:26 marriedredpill,hk312s,FR - Breaking and fixing your shit.,"After my divorce, I stayed in the marital home. It didn't really bother me, but at the same time it was a lot of space I didn't need. Last summer I started to look at Bachelor Pads in the downtown areas of Dallas, cause hey - I am a single 40 year old HVM. Might as well get out of suburbia. @@ -25628,7 +25628,7 @@ Go with my plan and have a relationship with me, one that over time would likely Secret is - she knows who the prize is. -Stay tuned faggots.",,63,red-sfpplus,1593716325.0 +Stay tuned faggots.",,63,red-sfpplus,2020-07-02 18:58:45 marriedredpill,hk3ct4,[New Rule] Rule 11: Failure to Maintain Standards,"On the whole, this MRP subreddit values quality and our ability to be a value add to one another through both positive and negative means. This is why I say the weekly Own Your Thread is the only thread that matters. It's where all the actual work is being done. The culture here is defined by the individual contributors. In general, we want to see other men succeed - but we do not have any time or patience for free loaders or men who aren't putting in their own efforts. We don't really care if any particular man succeeds or fails. As I like to put it, I'm here to laugh at you while you fail over and over again. @@ -25645,7 +25645,7 @@ So this new rule is targeted at you guys. >At MRP, we expect our community to engage where there is mutual value add. You've tried add value to someone who's made a low quality, low value, low effort post. Why would you do that? This behavior only serves to encourage poor behavior - and at MRP, we don't want to encourage poor behavior. (Default ban: 3 days). -The point here is that we don't want to encourage people to make low value, low effort posts. Acceptable responses might be ridicule, toxicity, hostility, pointing to askMRP, etc. But being helpful and putting in a disproportionate amount of effort to someone who's barely even trying? Nope. It's important to have self respect and standards.",,21,[deleted],1593717352.0 +The point here is that we don't want to encourage people to make low value, low effort posts. Acceptable responses might be ridicule, toxicity, hostility, pointing to askMRP, etc. But being helpful and putting in a disproportionate amount of effort to someone who's barely even trying? Nope. It's important to have self respect and standards.",,21,[deleted],2020-07-02 19:15:52 marriedredpill,hij900,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 30, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -25654,7 +25654,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,25,AutoModerator,1593505464.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,25,AutoModerator,2020-06-30 08:24:24 marriedredpill,hh570p,A how to guide to owning your shit,"**A how to guide to owning your shit** So you've come across MRP and have decided that you want to be involved. @@ -25813,7 +25813,7 @@ So I know how to fuck it up. **Couple of closing tips** -Don't delete your posts, even if you get shredded or banned for it. Learn from it. Don't reply to people's comments straight away, have a think about it first and take it in. If someone takes the time to give you a detailed breakdown, think long and hard about what they said. Tl;dr summaries - just fucking don't. Write about shit that matters. Don't write shit that isn't true. Don't distort your own narrative to put you in a better light. And don't care too much about anything anyone says, its the internet. None of this actually matters.",,80,threekindsoflucky,1593305063.0 +Don't delete your posts, even if you get shredded or banned for it. Learn from it. Don't reply to people's comments straight away, have a think about it first and take it in. If someone takes the time to give you a detailed breakdown, think long and hard about what they said. Tl;dr summaries - just fucking don't. Write about shit that matters. Don't write shit that isn't true. Don't distort your own narrative to put you in a better light. And don't care too much about anything anyone says, its the internet. None of this actually matters.",,80,threekindsoflucky,2020-06-28 00:44:23 marriedredpill,heas7a,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 23, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -25822,7 +25822,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1592900665.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2020-06-23 08:24:25 marriedredpill,h9ztj7,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 16, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -25831,7 +25831,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1592295868.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2020-06-16 08:24:28 marriedredpill,h9ovtz,A walkthru of No More Mr. Nice Guy,"#####Something as a subtitle Great year for Rational Egosim fellas. If you've not been paying attention, a lot of people have been learning what the fuck the red pill is ... thats a good and bad thing. @@ -25861,7 +25861,7 @@ It won't spoon feed it to ya, but some people learn better by reading, others by [Chapter 9](https://youtu.be/UvNoDJZJIlk) -EDIT: Completed! (And added to the sidebar)",,110,RStonePT,1592255100.0 +EDIT: Completed! (And added to the sidebar)",,110,RStonePT,2020-06-15 21:05:00 marriedredpill,gzizl4,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 09, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -25870,7 +25870,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1591691064.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2020-06-09 08:24:24 marriedredpill,gys1g7,75 DoD - That's a wrap!,"Ok, so 60 DoD became about 75 DoD this year. The schedule got fucked up and I've not been around here much. Nevertheless, we had some solid contributions this year: Week 1: I got you to do some mental reps about lifting. @@ -25893,7 +25893,7 @@ Thank you to all our contributors this year. For all of you who participated: how did you do? Have you gotten results by *changing habits*? More work to do? Tell us below. I'll be asking some mods to help me decide some DoD flair. Now, go off and enjoy summer looting and virus season! -[Edited for *#*&@^ formatting]",,24,SorcererKing,1591591125.0 +[Edited for *#*&@^ formatting]",,24,SorcererKing,2020-06-08 04:38:45 marriedredpill,gwgczf,A Complete Idiot's Guide to Conversation,"To go along with /u/Red-Curious 's excellent Week 8 DoD, I'm going to dump a post that I wrote for a social anxiety forum a long time ago...but never posted. This is a post about how to go through a conversation including **everything** from before you even start, to number closing up. In my usual fashion, it's verbose. It's probably 10 minutes before I even get to saying the first word. Takes me about 40 minutes to read back to myself to completion...and I understand it. So get comfy: &nbsp; @@ -26351,7 +26351,7 @@ What I want to talk about next is the most important part on *their* end. &nbsp; -(Continued in comments)",,62,[deleted],1591273122.0 +(Continued in comments)",,62,[deleted],2020-06-04 12:18:42 marriedredpill,gwd90x,"Actual conversations with ""abuse"" victims.","It occurred to me recently that many guys may not know what their wives are telling the attorney in preparation for that looming divorce filing she didn't tell you she was already planning. So, let me give you some insight on what that conversation looks like behind the scenes. All of these are approximations of actual quotes I've heard throughout my career. They usually start with an allegation that the other side is abusive, followed by my asking: ""How is he abusive?"" @@ -26484,7 +26484,7 @@ My point ACTUALLY IS that if a woman isn't attracted to you or (even if she is) - There's no point worrying about whether or not she's going to cry ""Abuse!"" someday. Just assume she will. -From there, **the guys who fare best are the ones who make her second-guess why she's divorcing him in the first place**. And yes, that second-guessing is EXTREMELY common as well, despite how few women are willing to admit it. But they tell their attorney everything along those lines too. This is one of the reasons it's so vital to maintain a firm ""stay plan is the go plan"" mentality if your marriage is falling apart - not in the hope that you might win her back, but because the things that would give you that chance are the same things that are going to tweak whether she cries ""Abuse!"" or ""Aw, I'm going to miss how bold of a person he was.""",,122,Red-Curious,1591258615.0 +From there, **the guys who fare best are the ones who make her second-guess why she's divorcing him in the first place**. And yes, that second-guessing is EXTREMELY common as well, despite how few women are willing to admit it. But they tell their attorney everything along those lines too. This is one of the reasons it's so vital to maintain a firm ""stay plan is the go plan"" mentality if your marriage is falling apart - not in the hope that you might win her back, but because the things that would give you that chance are the same things that are going to tweak whether she cries ""Abuse!"" or ""Aw, I'm going to miss how bold of a person he was.""",,122,Red-Curious,2020-06-04 08:16:55 marriedredpill,gvathe,"[60DOD] Week 8, Social Life","If you're anything like pretty much everyone on the planet, your social life sucks. Why should you care? Because as much as you want to be your own man, you need other people to do pretty much anything you actually want to do in the world. In the drafting phase, I at one point split this out into a two-part post, but didn't feel like taking the time to separate it all out, and the content blends better when together, so here's the whole thing. _____ @@ -26655,7 +26655,7 @@ _____ 9. **Have Male Friends.** You can't learn how to be a man without being around other men. Even if the guys you know aren't the types of guys you want to emulate, you can influence them to become someone you're proud to be around - and then you can fuel each other on. I've done this many, many times. It's fun and rewarding. 10. **Have Female Friends.** Society will tell you that a married man should not be good friends with a woman other than his wife. - This is somewhat absurd. Can guys and girls actually be ""just friends""? Probably not. So what? Does that mean you're going to start unzipping your pants every time you're around one of your female ""friends""? Is your self-discipline really so low? The social convention on this makes sense if you're a weak man who can't control his own dick - and if that's you, and you don't want to blow up your marriage, then follow it. But if know how to keep your pants on, you'd be a fool not to take advantage of the power that women have usurped in society by building relationships with them. It's seriously idiotic to cut off half of the population from your life just because your wife might not like it. Besides, chances are she actually does like it more than she's willing to admit to herself. Dread. Preselection. Mystery. Got it now?",,53,Red-Curious,1591116335.0 + This is somewhat absurd. Can guys and girls actually be ""just friends""? Probably not. So what? Does that mean you're going to start unzipping your pants every time you're around one of your female ""friends""? Is your self-discipline really so low? The social convention on this makes sense if you're a weak man who can't control his own dick - and if that's you, and you don't want to blow up your marriage, then follow it. But if know how to keep your pants on, you'd be a fool not to take advantage of the power that women have usurped in society by building relationships with them. It's seriously idiotic to cut off half of the population from your life just because your wife might not like it. Besides, chances are she actually does like it more than she's willing to admit to herself. Dread. Preselection. Mystery. Got it now?",,53,Red-Curious,2020-06-02 16:45:35 marriedredpill,gv3erg,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 02, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -26664,7 +26664,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1591086262.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2020-06-02 08:24:22 marriedredpill,gr0j9s,MRP Year 3: Let's Take the Boat Out On the Bay,"Each year of ~~Married RedPill~~ discipline, vision and frame is better than the last. I still grow every day, building on the habits from years [one](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/8hfeik/mrp_year_one_how_i_got_here_and_what_i_did_about/) and [two](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/bkzcv4/mrp_year_two_i_guess_this_is_growing_up/). Every area of my life has improved on the path of Read, Lift, & STFU, and every year I add more miles to my motorcycle and pages to my journal. My dudes, this is the way. Life is far from perfect, however, and I had plenty of failures in Year 3. My own failures, financial goals and bills, and the occasional shit test. Failing to get up to 160 lean pounds, failure to be further along with my side business. There were times where I let my circumstances overwhelm me, times where I forgot that I was the hero in my own story. @@ -26697,7 +26697,7 @@ In Year 3, I started thinking more about my future than my past. I used to think In Year 3, I spent more time being content in spite of my circumstances, choosing to be happy and grateful instead of waiting for outside forces to *make me feel* a certain way. My gratitude enables my patience for my kids, wife, and the long-term willpower to have patience for my own plans. From this place, I’m much more confident in choosing the things that I want to include in my life for the right reasons. -I ain’t shit yet, and that’s okay. Year 3 of MRP was the best year of my life, and next year is going to be even better.",,94,BarracudaRP,1590511296.0 +I ain’t shit yet, and that’s okay. Year 3 of MRP was the best year of my life, and next year is going to be even better.",,94,BarracudaRP,2020-05-26 16:41:36 marriedredpill,gr3o0k,"[60 DOD-7] Career: Business - Starting, Building, Failing, Succeeding - Lessons Learned Over 25 Years - Part 1","**TLDR:** Lots of words here. *Death. While it is inevitable - its mystery vast, like the deepest reaches of the universe - its dark presence cast a long, darker shadow over me….* @@ -27016,7 +27016,7 @@ So that wraps up part 1. I'll be posting part 2 in the next couple of days. If you have questions or comments, ask away. -**Edit:** Brief for investors is at *thecompanybrief dot com* and can also be found at *nfx dot com.*",,40,johneyapocalypse,1590520947.0 +**Edit:** Brief for investors is at *thecompanybrief dot com* and can also be found at *nfx dot com.*",,40,johneyapocalypse,2020-05-26 19:22:27 marriedredpill,gqt3ed,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 26, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -27025,7 +27025,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,1590481463.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,2020-05-26 08:24:23 marriedredpill,gq2d5d,When was the last time you fucked your woman?,"When was the last time that you actually fucked your woman HARD and FAST with reckless abandon like a wild man looking to shoot his hot load inside of her? When was the last time you ravished your woman by absolutely demolishing her little body into a pulp, perhaps even turning her ass red, curled up in the corner of your bedroom, and maybe some exhausted tears running down her face? @@ -27106,7 +27106,7 @@ Break yourself free first. Then like a good woman normally does - she will follo And if she doesn’t? Doesn’t matter, got laid. -**Good sex is your responsibility.**",,226,HornsOfApathy,1590372521.0 +**Good sex is your responsibility.**",,226,HornsOfApathy,2020-05-25 02:08:41 marriedredpill,gntzvp,"[60 DOD] Week 6, Finances","Your average person sucks at finances. I expect you to suck at finances too. ## Salary @@ -27158,7 +27158,7 @@ The bottom line is this, if you're going to take on debt, don't ever be in a pos ## FIRE -FIRE is bullshit. Get to a point in your life and career where you can have a ""fuck you"" mindset regarding money because you know your market worth and can execute on that even in a massive pandemic and recession.",,32,[deleted],1590054992.0 +FIRE is bullshit. Get to a point in your life and career where you can have a ""fuck you"" mindset regarding money because you know your market worth and can execute on that even in a massive pandemic and recession.",,32,[deleted],2020-05-21 09:56:32 marriedredpill,gnti2e,How to handle accusations of affairs 201,"This is the 3.5 year follow up to [the 101 version of this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/5jw1f7/how_to_handle_accusations_of_affairs_101/). In the previous version, you learned how to pressure flip and change the paradigm. It's not ""I'm not going to have an affair"", but ""Don't give me a reason to have an affair."" You put it out there honestly that if and when you have an affair, it won't be a surprise to her. She can always trust you because you have enough faith in yourself that you see no reason to bullshit. @@ -27171,7 +27171,7 @@ Here's the 201 version. > A: Are you sure you want to know? -As a warning, do not skip the 101 version and go straight to the 201. Because if you do, the response you're going to get back is ""Of course I do you fucking prick. Watch me divorce rape your ass.""",,22,[deleted],1590052407.0 +As a warning, do not skip the 101 version and go straight to the 201. Because if you do, the response you're going to get back is ""Of course I do you fucking prick. Watch me divorce rape your ass.""",,22,[deleted],2020-05-21 09:13:27 marriedredpill,gmkkjh,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 19, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -27180,7 +27180,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,25,AutoModerator,1589876664.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,25,AutoModerator,2020-05-19 08:24:24 marriedredpill,gi75i0,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 12, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -27189,7 +27189,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,1589271865.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,2020-05-12 08:24:25 marriedredpill,ggl9s6,"60 DoD Week 5: Game Mindset (Lats, Levels & FITYMI)","Welcome back to 60 Days of Dread, the annual MRP event devoted to improving *you.* We’ve talked about [how to game](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/470ynp/60_dod_week_5_game/?ref=search_posts) in the past. This year, we’re talking about the *mindset* behind your #60DoD game and other improvements. Do you improve in order to game your wife? What if you've never gamed your wife, and now it's inauthentic to start? How do we borrow frame until we get there? **Lats and Levels** @@ -27256,7 +27256,7 @@ Also linked is the excellent post discussing game, [frame and intentional narcis >The fact that so many people think being good at Game means you want to be Don Draper is missing the point. -I won't put words in the author's mouth, but it's almost like Don Draper is a borrowed frame from a better version of Whitman... ",,37,BarracudaRP,1589050547.0 +I won't put words in the author's mouth, but it's almost like Don Draper is a borrowed frame from a better version of Whitman... ",,37,BarracudaRP,2020-05-09 18:55:47 marriedredpill,gf09ij,I think I might have just accidentally swallowed the wrong pill.,"This is a WALL. But getting this off my chest feels good so I'm gonna leave it that way. TLDR I'm respected more for not placating my common law wife. How can I do sweet romantic things that she lives for and not get re-wrapped up in a cycle of false compromise? @@ -27299,7 +27299,7 @@ She literally won't stop BEGGING to give me sexual attention. But I'm good just This is CRAZY. But it doesn't feel anymore crazy than what I was doing before placating her every-move. -Any tips to not ride this train off a cliff? I feel like I can still feel this way, and be sweet and loving and romantic, but right now I'm getting more positive attention being an asshole. I never wanted to believe that the whole ""assholes"" get girls thing was even real in any sense. Can I just like convey this to her somehow or am I best off maxing out on this new found mentality. Yeeehaw!",,11,weppus,1588827820.0 +Any tips to not ride this train off a cliff? I feel like I can still feel this way, and be sweet and loving and romantic, but right now I'm getting more positive attention being an asshole. I never wanted to believe that the whole ""assholes"" get girls thing was even real in any sense. Can I just like convey this to her somehow or am I best off maxing out on this new found mentality. Yeeehaw!",,11,weppus,2020-05-07 05:03:40 marriedredpill,ge79vq,Why You Must Be Willing to Nuke Your Nuclear Family,"Here's short version of this post: Your wife holds a trump card you don’t want to admit she has, but you both know it. Take her card and burn it. Otherwise, you will fail. @@ -27451,7 +27451,7 @@ Your finger is on the trigger, motherfucker. Dare yourself. Stop being afraid. -Dare yourself to live or die trying.",,140,HornsOfApathy,1588716382.0 +Dare yourself to live or die trying.",,140,HornsOfApathy,2020-05-05 22:06:22 marriedredpill,ge6m5h,"Starting, Developing, and Evolving Hobbies","There is a scant little discussion on developing hobbies on both this sub, and on the [r/RPChristians](https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians) sub so I'm going to go over what's been helpful for me, and why it should matter to you: # Why Hobbies Matter @@ -27513,7 +27513,7 @@ Then there's dread. If your wife is the only person you go to when you want to h Labeling your hobbies under a few of those 5 categories can help give you purpose and focus to a hobby. In regards to Redpill it will give you opportunities to test out the material you are suppose to be internalizing.(For my RPC brothers) it is essential to have focused hobbies, as this allows you to use them as a means for furthering your mission and growing your sphere of (Godly) influence. Passive hobbies like uninspired television watching doesn't add to those around you, nor does it paint you with the image of a purpose driven man. If you're going to engage in a passive, non-social hobby, like watching television, make sure you think long and hard about how you intend to redeem it - and then ACTUALLY do so. If you say you're going to watch a TV show to connect with other people who watch the same show, what effort are you actually going to take to find those people? Do you already know anyone? Are you going to use the show to build the relationship and ACTUALLY share the Gospel with them through that relationship, or are you just going to have another friend and move on? If you have to change a hobby to be more involved in it, to develop e it into something that challenges you more, there will be more opportunity to influence others and to lead them. -Now, share some of your hobbies here and why you do them. Let the guys without hobbies be inspired by the things that keep you amused so they can learn from you and be inspired to figure out who they are and what they enjoy as men.",,77,Praexology,1588714204.0 +Now, share some of your hobbies here and why you do them. Let the guys without hobbies be inspired by the things that keep you amused so they can learn from you and be inspired to figure out who they are and what they enjoy as men.",,77,Praexology,2020-05-05 21:30:04 marriedredpill,gdtuj2,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 05, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -27522,7 +27522,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,1588667065.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,2020-05-05 08:24:25 marriedredpill,g9jcyr,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 28, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -27531,7 +27531,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1588062265.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2020-04-28 08:24:25 marriedredpill,g8pd33,MCT Rules for Pandemics,"Hi Faggots, Social Distancing is killing most of you betas out there. Despite what she says about being stressed with homeschooling the kids or adjusting to telework at home, lack of attraction is why you aren’t getting laid. It’s also why she is acting like a sexless cunt and bitchy first mate right now. I already see it happening to friends and coworkers. Look, if you ain’t Gaming, you ain’t Fucking. MRP is red pill on hard mode because you have to find a way to game the same woman every day. Once you find it, you must internalize it as your own so it flows out naturally. @@ -27580,7 +27580,7 @@ If you ain’t gaming, you ain’t fucking. Be safe. -MTC",,137,MrChad_Thundercock,1587944947.0 +MTC",,137,MrChad_Thundercock,2020-04-26 23:49:07 marriedredpill,g7tcux,Teacher reflections on behaviour management,"With lockdowns being in place, it is more important than ever to be the level-headed leader at home and that will mean dealing with challenging behaviour for many of you. UK Primary teacher here. Though I have no kids of my own, this advice is based on nearly a decade of teaching children in 4-5 schools across my city from leafy suburbs to inner city estates. My behaviour management perspective has been hard won by working with Behaviour PRU (Pupil Referral Unit) staff and by trying (and often failing with) different strategies. @@ -27615,7 +27615,7 @@ UK Primary teacher here. Though I have no kids of my own, this advice is based o -> Finally, if a child is doing something that is annoying you and so you tell them to stop (such as tapping / bouncing a ball / flicking something on a table etc.), expect them to have the compulsion to do it 2-3 more times before they cease. I've no idea why this is - perhaps they were acting on some subconscious impulse that they need to get out of their system? Either way, once you understand / expect this then it may annoy you less. -Happy to clarify or elaborate on any points raised and I'd welcome critical discussion for others with experience.",,60,Brushyourteethm8,1587820599.0 +Happy to clarify or elaborate on any points raised and I'd welcome critical discussion for others with experience.",,60,Brushyourteethm8,2020-04-25 13:16:39 marriedredpill,g7ag3k,"Words of Weakness, Words of Strength","Our words make us weak or strong. The words we choose, and how we deliver them, send a powerful message about our value and status. We need to train, strengthen, and calibrate all aspects of our lives, including our use of language. This isn't as straightforward as hitting the gym or reading a book, but like anything, it is a skill we can train. @@ -27868,7 +27868,7 @@ Tone and word choice do not convey excessive emotion, especially negative emotio * *Examples:* * Amused mastery * Attitude unaffected by circumstances; outcome independence - * Alternate between stoic and playful attitudes, as situationally appropriate",,125,ancient_resistance,1587742353.0 + * Alternate between stoic and playful attitudes, as situationally appropriate",,125,ancient_resistance,2020-04-24 15:32:33 marriedredpill,g7drug,"60 DoD 2020: Week 4 Style; Got Chucks on with Saint Laurent, Gotta kiss myself I'm so pretty","# A Sheep in Sheep's Clothing &#x200B; @@ -28075,7 +28075,7 @@ Other places such as [Yoox](https://www.yoox.com/ie/men) offer designer clothes ***“Looking good isn’t self-importance; it’s self-respect.”*** -**– Charles Hix**",,53,[deleted],1587753073.0 +**– Charles Hix**",,53,[deleted],2020-04-24 18:31:13 marriedredpill,g64n9q,The Dual Mating Strategies of Men and Women,"Alpha Fucks and Beta Bucks is a well documented phenomenon in the Red Pill. It’s the so called dual mating strategy that describes a woman’s instinct to seek sexual opportunities from the alpha (Alpha Fucks) and provisioning opportunities from the beta (Beta Bucks.) It seems generally assumed in the ‘sphere that this strategy is exclusive to women, so this will be my brief attempt to show that a dual mating strategy is also present in men. Across the ‘sphere we see RP men constantly admitting their dual mating strategies. We want to fuck hoes, and marry virgins (low n-counts.) We want “a lady in the streets, and a freak in the sheets.” Men seek sexual opportunities from the whores, and provisioning opportunities from the virgins. Sigmund Freud expressed this dual mating strategy in his Madonna/Whore Complex: the tendency in men to view any particular woman as either a Madonna or a Whore. Madonnas (don’t think of the superstar by this same name, it will confuse you) are women we perceive as pure, submissive, obedient, and faithful. Whores are women we perceive as sluts, large n-count, tattoo-ridden, disobedient, and unfaithful. History is full of men who were in love with their Madonna wives, only to cheat on them with a Whore. In fact many RP players have made careers out of fucking hoes only to eventually marry a woman they perceive as a Madonna. We all carry this Madonna/Whore instinct inside of us, and it’s quite clearly a dual-mating strategy, if we care to admit it. @@ -28086,7 +28086,7 @@ Post-agricultural revolution introduced property, assets, and marriage, and this In the RP there’s this idea that you must maintain alpha-ness in your relationships at the expense of beta-ness, so that your wife doesn’t cuck or leave you. While there’s obvious truth to this, we should condition this view against our own dual mating strategy. In the life of a man, a virgin is perceived to be a prize. Sure, nothing turns us on more than a whore, and some married men will fuck them given the opportunity, but many won’t. Many married men will stay faithful to their Madonna, even though she doesn’t turn them on like a Whore. Understood in this way, we can see that while women may be attracted to Alphas, for them the prize might very well be a Beta. This is why we teach comfort tests. And while some women in relationships will still fuck the Alphas, many of them won’t, and will stay faithful to their Beta. AF/BB is not a black and white line, it’s just an evolved tendency in women, just like the Madonna/Whore complex is an evolved tendency in men. But neither of these tendencies dictate with any certainty how a particular man or woman will act. This is not an excuse for a man to be a little bitch, a real RP man knows how to be both Alpha and Beta. -I admit that the theory of AF/BB and Madonna/Whore instincts evolving out of a pre, and post, Agricultural Revolution society might simply be conjecture. But, the evidence that men have a dual mating strategy (like women) is overwhelmingly evident and universal.",,50,El0vution,1587574157.0 +I admit that the theory of AF/BB and Madonna/Whore instincts evolving out of a pre, and post, Agricultural Revolution society might simply be conjecture. But, the evidence that men have a dual mating strategy (like women) is overwhelmingly evident and universal.",,50,El0vution,2020-04-22 16:49:17 marriedredpill,g5beus,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 21, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -28095,7 +28095,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1587457463.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2020-04-21 08:24:23 marriedredpill,g4mw56,"“Why won’t he be the king I know he is, the king I see inside?”","The title of this post is a quote from the Lion King, where Nala is disappointed in Simba for being a pussy. Corny? Yes, Appropriate? Very. @@ -28136,7 +28136,7 @@ I recently revisited some of Rollo’s work, I was amazed at how well it aligned If you have already graduated to “Man” , you will know that it is through Frame and the willingness to do it your own way that sets you apart. It's not MGTOW, it's confidence and leadership. Yes, you still need to look the business, and you should be successful. Your tripod should be strong. You should also be brave - you should be in control of your fears, you won't defeat them. You need to be MORE aware of context, detail and whats going on around you, step up to the plate when the opportunity arises. If you have kids, its time to realise you are now the head of the family, not just yours, but the extended, the grandparents and anyone else loosely involved. One of my greatest ‘growing the fuck up’ victories was realising my own decisions meant more than my own fathers. Fuck that Pop, I am in charge now. -And for fucks sake you should be outdoors a lot. I have not been strict on my lockdown lifting, but I am sore every day from digging / building and fixing. Diversify your physical activity. Diversify your learnings, your skills and your strengths. Pecs, shoulders and biceps not a strong brave man make. You conquered your relationship, go next level and conquer the respect of men. Get better again.",,85,simbarlion,1587360386.0 +And for fucks sake you should be outdoors a lot. I have not been strict on my lockdown lifting, but I am sore every day from digging / building and fixing. Diversify your physical activity. Diversify your learnings, your skills and your strengths. Pecs, shoulders and biceps not a strong brave man make. You conquered your relationship, go next level and conquer the respect of men. Get better again.",,85,simbarlion,2020-04-20 05:26:26 marriedredpill,g3sfqk,The Role of Inspector Faggot: Open Casting is Today!,"Introducing our protagonist, Inspector Faggot. **Who is he?** @@ -28183,7 +28183,7 @@ This doesn't necessarily mean you are being Inspector Faggot, but lets face it, **Play a role worth playing** -Life is too short to constantly be opening investigations and working cases. Don't be Inspector Faggot. Call out yourself and others when they are being Inspector Faggot. No MRP member should be playing this role, ever. If anything, play the role of [this guy](https://imgur.com/76nyuTo) instead.",,75,PillUpAss,1587234770.0 +Life is too short to constantly be opening investigations and working cases. Don't be Inspector Faggot. Call out yourself and others when they are being Inspector Faggot. No MRP member should be playing this role, ever. If anything, play the role of [this guy](https://imgur.com/76nyuTo) instead.",,75,PillUpAss,2020-04-18 18:32:50 marriedredpill,g1vxqk,60 DoD 2020: Week 3 Hygiene; or why it's about more than washing your ass.,"#Introduction I wasn’t looking forward to writing on hygiene. Luckily for me the Chinese Bat gods saw fit to give me a good pretence to talk hygiene. I’m going to assume everyone has already read the previous articles on hygiene on the sidebar. If not, please do so then come back. The guys did really good work and it’s hard to write something worthwhile when the reader doesn’t know how to wash his ass yet. @@ -28243,7 +28243,7 @@ Guess whose broke right now for spending 80 dollars on toilet paper? Guess who i Be that guy if you want, but from what I see, guys who have their hygiene squared away and their heads on straight tend to have wives and girlfriends who are calming down their co workers who are filled with all kinds of panic. It turns out that by being the hygiene alpha male that the shit ripples to the social circles around you. I know my woman stopped watching the news, calmed down plenty of married beta-male co workers and no longer tries to bleach my food. -**It’s not about being clean, it’s about belling deliberate and knowing your standards.**",,74,RStonePT,1586970066.0 +**It’s not about being clean, it’s about belling deliberate and knowing your standards.**",,74,RStonePT,2020-04-15 17:01:06 marriedredpill,g11qmx,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 14, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -28252,7 +28252,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,1586852662.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,2020-04-14 08:24:22 marriedredpill,g0n08o,How MRP Helped Change my Mental Models and Led Me to Training My Woman to Cum on Command,"I could have done this without using this method and vehicle outlined here but when I did, it helped reshape my mental models. I'm a [Chevy guy](https://i.imgur.com/phXHunY.png) (God I love southern women - and she looks *strikingly* similar to my woman). Maybe you've been driving a shitty Ford and want to take my Chevy for a test ride. Cool, maybe you'll like it. If you like it enough - keep it. In a recent OYS, /u/Balls_Wellington_ wrote: @@ -28351,7 +28351,7 @@ I've spent a lot of time training her to do the following: ***The final reward for her is orgasm on command with no stimulation.*** I think it's hot as fuck that soon I'll just be able to look at her and whisper in her ear.... ""*magic words*""..... and she will cum. Anywhere, anytime. I've been working on that for about 8 months now. Still about a year away. -Strength, motherfuckers.",,134,HornsOfApathy,1586797510.0 +Strength, motherfuckers.",,134,HornsOfApathy,2020-04-13 17:05:10 marriedredpill,fzvz8f,The Power of Visualization,"**You are meant to succeed** Men are goal-seeking beings. We were meant to strive for the next mission, to conquer, to overcome adversity and claim victory. In other words, each man is designed to achieve [what is best in life](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oo9buo9Mtos) for him. Striving for a goal is the way to success and happiness, and the two are closely related. @@ -28399,7 +28399,7 @@ Success is a zig zag, not a straight line. You need to be taking action and will This is mostly a subconscious process you are setting into effect. The key is making a habit out of training it through your imagination on a regular basis. This is how the ""machine"" you have been given works. Putting it to regular use is essentially creating a habit of being happy. And, in the words of Robert Louis Stevenson, ""the habit of being happy enables one to be freed, or largely freed, from the domination of our outward conditions."" Try this technique out for a few weeks and report your findings below. -Edit: corrected typos",,48,PillUpAss,1586694944.0 +Edit: corrected typos",,48,PillUpAss,2020-04-12 12:35:44 marriedredpill,fzet3d,60 DoD 2020: Week 2 Eating for Health and Fitness,"Miss me? Some computer issues have kept me away, but we’re back on track. This is no excuse of course; you should be taking initiative and ownership of your own life, your own actualization, your own improvement. As with everything else we have put all the tools and resources right here for you. Did you do that, or did you sit on your beta ass and wait for me? How’s that for some mindset? If you haven’t already, you should be reviewing the posts on methods of eating from prior years. Pick your favorite and research it deeper. Report in OYS what changes you’re making, and WHY. @@ -28412,7 +28412,7 @@ Are you eating to gain muscle? Lose weight? Lower cholesterol? It doesn’t matt * * * * * * * * * * -I won’t be doing any more of these this year (unless someone flakes). Next week we’ll be hearing about hygiene. As always, authors pen their own work within the theme, so we’ll see what else we get. One thing I can promise though is that each post will offer you guidance and perspective on mindset. Keep it up, we’ve only just begun.",,15,SorcererKing,1586632055.0 +I won’t be doing any more of these this year (unless someone flakes). Next week we’ll be hearing about hygiene. As always, authors pen their own work within the theme, so we’ll see what else we get. One thing I can promise though is that each post will offer you guidance and perspective on mindset. Keep it up, we’ve only just begun.",,15,SorcererKing,2020-04-11 19:07:35 marriedredpill,fzfrpv,FR: Apocalyptic Abundance,"This post is for the low tier faggots and grinders who make excuses, and can't seem to turn the corner. This is where I am now, long way to go still: @@ -28451,7 +28451,7 @@ Lift. Read. STFU. Put in the work. That's all there is. -Do the work or go fuck yourself for the rest of your life, literally.",,9,AlohaMaui808,1586633387.0 +Do the work or go fuck yourself for the rest of your life, literally.",,9,AlohaMaui808,2020-04-11 19:29:47 marriedredpill,fysqfc,PSA: Lockdown and You… Details…,"**You are not allowed to stop working out:** You could be and should be working out much harder and in a more innovative manner than ever before. I have more than 20-years of lifting under my belt, but what I'm learning by partnering with my son and seeing all the crazy shit on youtube is insane. We have not missed a single workout (he's a beast), which is cool in and of itself; but we have not repeated a single workout either. Parkour + MMA exists? Fuck yah it does. I haven't looked forward to working out this much in a long-ass time. Blue sky, sun, no clouds, light breeze, coconut palms, and 85-degrees certainly helps. @@ -28484,7 +28484,7 @@ marriedredpill,fysqfc,PSA: Lockdown and You… Details…,"**You are not allowed **You are not allowed to stop fucking your wife because you're stressed:** Okay [steele](https://old.reddit.com/user/SteelSharpensSteel), explain how to do this. I'm sure our readers would like to know. I'd certainly like to know. I don't fuck my wife for validation. But these days, there are times when I'd rather fuck one of my beautiful coconut trees. Certainly the Japanese Maple that's blooming. How the fuck do you pull this off? Vet asking though vet doesn't particularly care, lol. -p.s. Thanks, steele… for your [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/fxh8yu/psa_lockdown_and_you/) and great insight. If I believed in that whole Morpheus-gay-crap that HOA is always talking about you'd be 1/2 of mine.",,49,johneyapocalypse,1586565070.0 +p.s. Thanks, steele… for your [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/fxh8yu/psa_lockdown_and_you/) and great insight. If I believed in that whole Morpheus-gay-crap that HOA is always talking about you'd be 1/2 of mine.",,49,johneyapocalypse,2020-04-11 00:31:10 marriedredpill,fxh8yu,PSA: Lockdown and You,"This is a public service announcement. @@ -28535,7 +28535,7 @@ Just remember, the next time you reach for that cookie or beer or what have you, Yes, yes you do. You reap what you sow, after all. In fact, that's what got you into this mess, isn't it. -Now get back to work. Summer is right around the corner.",,133,SteelSharpensSteel,1586388164.0 +Now get back to work. Summer is right around the corner.",,133,SteelSharpensSteel,2020-04-08 23:22:44 marriedredpill,fx8tmn,[FR] – What the Fuck Have I Gotten Myself Into? Learning how to live a good life.," Here was my first ever post titled [“What the Fuck Have I Gotten Myself Into”](https://www.removeddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/9lm4x0/what_the_fuck_have_i_gotten_myself_into/e77pbw2/) to askMRP which I was such a faggot I deleted. Don't delete shit people - you'll regret it and that was a pain in the ass to find on removeddit. Comments are [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/9lm4x0/what_the_fuck_have_i_gotten_myself_into/) So what did I get myself into? @@ -28578,7 +28578,7 @@ So to boil it down: 7. Listen to the vets and drop the ego and pretense. They see you bullshitting yourself or doing stupid shit – and there’s a good chance it’s because they did it themselves 8. Stop hiding your true self – go after what the fuck you want relentlessly 9. Never allow disrespect to continue in your relationship, set a boundary and enforce it even if it means the relationship is dead -10. Do not let anyone tell you who you are and how to act. Be your own judge.",,69,Tyred_Biggums,1586360822.0 +10. Do not let anyone tell you who you are and how to act. Be your own judge.",,69,Tyred_Biggums,2020-04-08 15:47:02 marriedredpill,fwgtfl,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 07, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -28587,7 +28587,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,1586247864.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,2020-04-07 08:24:24 marriedredpill,fu3k1v,Have you swallowed the Red Chewable Tablet?,"These are stressful times. And nobody experiences stress more than wives. I wrote 80% of this post before my computer crashed, so I'm going to skip my original introduction and hop right in. A lot of guys right now are struggling with wives who are going crazy having the kids home all the time now. There's no school, no daycare - the daily routine and ability to keep up with housework is changed for the foreseeable future. One of our users recently commented: ""The more I help the more I enable her, however the less I help the more distraught she becomes and the house becomes a place of strife instead of peace."" Heck, I felt that way at one point even before all of this - and my situation is exacerbated by the fact that my wife also balances a part-time job. @@ -28678,7 +28678,7 @@ More to the point: this is the core of a woman's stress when it comes to managin _____ -**NOTE:** In all of this, PLEASE do not walk away thinking that it's now your job to teach your wife the true nature of kids so she can have her ""red chewable tablet awakening"" and stop stressing so much. Don't worry so much about her. If she's interested, let her have it. But this post is more about YOU understanding what YOU're working with so YOU can make an informed decision about what YOU want to do with YOUR life in the midst of the present chaos and stresses it brings. To that end, I defer to my ""short answer"" at the very beginning of this post.",,77,Red-Curious,1585896894.0 +**NOTE:** In all of this, PLEASE do not walk away thinking that it's now your job to teach your wife the true nature of kids so she can have her ""red chewable tablet awakening"" and stop stressing so much. Don't worry so much about her. If she's interested, let her have it. But this post is more about YOU understanding what YOU're working with so YOU can make an informed decision about what YOU want to do with YOUR life in the midst of the present chaos and stresses it brings. To that end, I defer to my ""short answer"" at the very beginning of this post.",,77,Red-Curious,2020-04-03 06:54:54 marriedredpill,ftc02j,RPW Wednesdays - Episode 5: The Wall,"###https://youtu.be/Qu0F_jW7quE Tonight's discussion takes on The Wall and how it applies to women's pluralistic mating strategy. This episode was shaped towards women, but the research articles below are worth reading and the video is evergreen for the entire Red Pill community. @@ -28734,7 +28734,7 @@ Key questions that were raised... 48 Laws of Power - https://amzn.to/2H24Zw5 No More Mr. Nice Guy - https://amzn.to/2H3C9vl Bachelor Pad Economics - https://amzn.to/37oloGS - Married Man Sex Life Primer - https://amzn.to/31FKGht",,0,bsutansalt,1585786675.0 + Married Man Sex Life Primer - https://amzn.to/31FKGht",,0,bsutansalt,2020-04-02 00:17:55 marriedredpill,fs977u,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 31, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -28743,7 +28743,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,28,AutoModerator,1585643065.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,28,AutoModerator,2020-03-31 08:24:25 marriedredpill,fprdkg,60 Days of Dread 2020 - Introduction and Week 1,"Hello Dreadful lads. It's time again for 60 Days of Dread. This year, our posts will focus on *mindset* for our areas of improvement. To the extent that we have original content this year, it will be aimed toward this. @@ -28758,7 +28758,7 @@ So, by all means put yourself on a program. Get as big as you can, I dare you. B * * * * -For reporting goals and progress this year, put in OYS each week. Include a #60DoD tag so I and other interested readers can find it. Remember that this is your challenge to yourself to improve how you operate. Your mindset for *that* should be to own it fully and execute it as a *promise* to yourself. Those who make outstanding progress (as judged by mods) will again get 60 DoD flair. Recall that prior year posts are on the side bar. If you're new to 60 DoD you should read those. Now get to work.",,51,SorcererKing,1585286872.0 +For reporting goals and progress this year, put in OYS each week. Include a #60DoD tag so I and other interested readers can find it. Remember that this is your challenge to yourself to improve how you operate. Your mindset for *that* should be to own it fully and execute it as a *promise* to yourself. Those who make outstanding progress (as judged by mods) will again get 60 DoD flair. Recall that prior year posts are on the side bar. If you're new to 60 DoD you should read those. Now get to work.",,51,SorcererKing,2020-03-27 05:27:52 marriedredpill,fo1jko,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 24, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -28767,7 +28767,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1585038267.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2020-03-24 08:24:27 marriedredpill,fnnfja,FR: Teaching a 16yo kid to Lift.,"At the beginning of last summer I asked a 16yo kid named Aaron that lives down the street to mow my grass. Every time he finished, we exchanged a few words – I asked him how he was doing in school – he asked me about my motorcycle in the garage - and he told me a story about how he was saving up to buy one. I wished him luck and gave him a quick piece of advice: “Best decision I ever made was getting a bike at 16. Couldn’t keep the girls off of me.” *“Yeah, Mr. Horns…. I don’t even know how to get a girlfriend.* *That would be so cool.”* @@ -28816,7 +28816,7 @@ Of course I’m envious of him having figured out what took me 35 years to reali And no shit – before I could even finish this post – he just texted me: **“Are you lifting today?”** -Of course I am, Big Chad.",,260,HornsOfApathy,1584982886.0 +Of course I am, Big Chad.",,260,HornsOfApathy,2020-03-23 17:01:26 marriedredpill,flvb1n,Don’t use a virus as an excuse,"Hey guy. Yea, the one that makes an excuse for everything. Guy whose wife isn’t responding to your big alpha red pill changes because “she has clinical depression/anxiety”. Guy who can’t seem to shred any fat because of a “slow metabolism” Your gym just closed today because of Coronavirus and you don’t have weights at home. “Man, aw shucks, I guess I can’t lift, since it HAS to be 5x5 since some internet strangers told me to”. @@ -28825,7 +28825,7 @@ You’re stuck working at home because of coronavirus, so you can’t drown your Grow up and stop with the excuses. Maintain your weak gains with body weight exercises instead of sitting on your ass. Pushups, pull-ups at the park, lift your spare tire (not the one around your waist), drive your car to a parking lot and push that bitch. Work on your terrible mobility. Set up that home gym you’ve been putting off. Work on gaming your wife, leading the family during this incredible opportunity you’ve been given to lead them through. -Or just continue making excuses, continue being you, and continue getting the shitty results out of life you’ve been getting.",,89,RP_PO,1584712080.0 +Or just continue making excuses, continue being you, and continue getting the shitty results out of life you’ve been getting.",,89,RP_PO,2020-03-20 13:48:00 marriedredpill,flgogf,"I encourage my American friends to be fully stocked, supplied, and able to effectively work from home by Sunday, 3/22, though EOD tomorrow would be ideal.","I imagine the majority here have planned accordingly. Those of you who have not would do well to make the most of your efforts over the next business day. Focus on: @@ -28844,7 +28844,7 @@ Slightly less important: Maybe next week will simply be another week. -I have learned it likely will not.",,44,johneyapocalypse,1584648115.0 +I have learned it likely will not.",,44,johneyapocalypse,2020-03-19 20:01:55 marriedredpill,fkx034,Red Pill Women Wednesday - Episode 3: Respecting The Captain,"Tonight's show is one for the MRP and RPW crowd that I think everyone can benefit from. Tune in at 9pm eastern as Joe and Stephanie discuss respect, submission, and the captain / first mate dynamic. #### https://youtu.be/DP6aCc6C81I @@ -28856,7 +28856,7 @@ If you miss the live stream, you can find the episode using the above link after &nbsp; -🔔 Subscribe now to the official TRP YouTube channel ► http://bit.ly/37BPXYY",,18,bsutansalt,1584564943.0 +🔔 Subscribe now to the official TRP YouTube channel ► http://bit.ly/37BPXYY",,18,bsutansalt,2020-03-18 20:55:43 marriedredpill,fk7zy1,"[FR] My Affair, Her Husband, and Getting Caught","Field Report /fēld rəˈpôrt/ *Noun:* The subjective account of one man’s experience @@ -28920,7 +28920,7 @@ I've never put so little effort into a ""relationship"". There’s no dating wit That brings me to my biggest lesson: Abundance changes everything. I’m starting to think I won’t go back to having less than 2 sexual partners, ever again, for the rest of my life. I haven’t gotten “hard no”s from my wife in a long time, but do you know what it’s like to watch my (165lb) wife throw an epic shit test, or to imply that she’s holding out sex on *me*? That shit used to hurt so bad, and now it is *fucking hilarious*. The only thing that changes is the size of the nut that I blow onto the next girl’s face. Me and Lucca will be over some day, which is why I’m perpetually lining up more girls like her. **Abundance changes** [**everything**](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/d45plx/lessons_in_abundance_the_blonde_and_the_big_raise/) \- and we can pretend I’m just talking about pussy. -Edit: Redacted a couple of details.",,152,BarracudaRP,1584461893.0 +Edit: Redacted a couple of details.",,152,BarracudaRP,2020-03-17 16:18:13 marriedredpill,fk1o5h,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 17, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -28929,7 +28929,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,1584433462.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,14,AutoModerator,2020-03-17 08:24:22 marriedredpill,fhj4mq,"So... you got the ""I love you but I'm not in love with you"" (ILYBINILWY) speech?","Sucks. You got the “**I love you but I’m not in love with you**” speech? Around here we use the acronym ILYBINILWY – because it’s a very, very common thing for women who are unhappy with the men in their lives to tell those men... and it often arrives VERY unexpectedly in your lap and you're thinking ""what the fuck?"" /u/KoolAidMan7980 said it so perfectly: @@ -29060,8 +29060,8 @@ I know it sucks, brother. Really, I know what it’s like. But I know you probab But deep down - in the part of you that is most painful and scariest to confront - you know the truth. You do. Stop hiding from it. -Strength, motherfuckers",,273,HornsOfApathy,1584030864.0 -marriedredpill,fgzs07,"Coming March 25, 2020: 60DoD 2020",Prepare yourselves for process change and transformation.,,31,SorcererKing,1583943782.0 +Strength, motherfuckers",,273,HornsOfApathy,2020-03-12 16:34:24 +marriedredpill,fgzs07,"Coming March 25, 2020: 60DoD 2020",Prepare yourselves for process change and transformation.,,31,SorcererKing,2020-03-11 16:23:02 marriedredpill,fgszzv,Whose game are you winning?,"How many of you like it when you work your butt off and your wife responds by initiating sex that night? Now, let's be honest: how man of you had that experience early in your path of improvement, but sooner than you were expecting to see such results? ""This RP stuff really works!"" you're probably quick to conclude. After all, you've been married for over a decade and it's only been a month or two and you're already seeing her respond. ""She must be in my frame because I'm getting what I want."" In reality, there's a good chance you haven't made any actual progress *with her* at all. Sure, you've made progress on your lifts. You've improved your attitude. You're being more productive. But at this point, it's far more likely that you're just finally reaping the benefits of her frame. @@ -29136,7 +29136,7 @@ All girls are mildly histrionic. They thrive on feelings, which are generated b Cue your mission. Your game. You presumably don't have ""Next-Thing-itis"" like her. You have a singular target so far out of reach that it's going to take a lifetime to accomplish what you're building. It's risky. There will be ups and downs. At first, she just wants to watch from the sideline. The ways to accomplish your goals are totally different from the ways she would accomplish hers and she doesn't know what to do with that. But even as a spectator, she starts to get as invested in watching you as you are in watching your favorite sports team in a championship game. Then, eventually, she actually hops onto the court and starts playing your game with you. You get to play coach and quarterback, and you tell her which position to play and at what times you need her to play them, and she's just excited to be on the field at all - something she never would have done if you hadn't invited her out to play in the first place. -There are a lot of negative feelings associated with this - fear, anxiety, uncertainty, etc. And all of those feelings fuel her. But there are also lots of positive feelings: curiosity, excitement, passion, rejoicing at new milestones, etc. These exist in a way she doesn't know how to generate herself. When she starts feeling things she hasn't felt in a while, she doesn't know what to do with it. Sometimes she'll do a happy dance around the house. Other times, she'll just start smiling more. Still other times, she'll express it through additional productivity. But another way women express deep emotion is through their sexuality. You can take it from there.",,120,Red-Curious,1583909329.0 +There are a lot of negative feelings associated with this - fear, anxiety, uncertainty, etc. And all of those feelings fuel her. But there are also lots of positive feelings: curiosity, excitement, passion, rejoicing at new milestones, etc. These exist in a way she doesn't know how to generate herself. When she starts feeling things she hasn't felt in a while, she doesn't know what to do with it. Sometimes she'll do a happy dance around the house. Other times, she'll just start smiling more. Still other times, she'll express it through additional productivity. But another way women express deep emotion is through their sexuality. You can take it from there.",,120,Red-Curious,2020-03-11 06:48:49 marriedredpill,fgakvg,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 10, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -29145,7 +29145,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,1583828662.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,2020-03-10 08:24:22 marriedredpill,feeq65,Communication and signals,"**The MRP model of communication and signals** First, let us look at what we signal with our communication, divided into categories that are relevant to sexual strategy: @@ -29326,7 +29326,7 @@ I completely understand the desire for communication and connection, and the sat Another unfortunate concept I've seen thrown around is that this thing with communication and connection is the next level of MRP, some transcendent state. It is not. Maxing dominance and alpha is. If we want to give guys solid advice, that's what we need to tell them. If guys want that deep intimate connection and their wives aren't meeting them, 99% of the time they need more alpha and dominance (and that doesn't mean aggressive or oppressive - true dominance is calm, confident, assertive), not better communication. -And guys who don't want communication, they're not falling short of the final stage of MRP. Some guys are the independent type, or they're assholes. They're not lesser not, they're not worse at romantic relationships. The fact is, guys who lean blue have always looked at assholes and wondered why women put up with it. The simple truth is, all this communicating and listening, it's just not that important. Signalling alpha is.",,56,Sepean,1583507218.0 +And guys who don't want communication, they're not falling short of the final stage of MRP. Some guys are the independent type, or they're assholes. They're not lesser not, they're not worse at romantic relationships. The fact is, guys who lean blue have always looked at assholes and wondered why women put up with it. The simple truth is, all this communicating and listening, it's just not that important. Signalling alpha is.",,56,Sepean,2020-03-06 15:06:58 marriedredpill,fcrmjb,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 03, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -29335,7 +29335,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,1583223862.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,2020-03-03 08:24:22 marriedredpill,fawj6j,Communication Doesn't Work....or Maybe...,"What follows is an idea I've shared with few but I think MRP needs to hear. It goes full circle back to the very first lesson we learned when we got here. And I wouldn't be surprised if it ruffled some feathers. But I am confident and prepared to stand behind this message. For those that are new, this is a big summary of the entire journey, and will arm you with many sticks of dynamite. Use at your own risk. For those more experienced, I would advise start at Part 2. &nbsp; @@ -29543,7 +29543,7 @@ Is this a mode you want to operate in? As I said, it's your choice. And I'm comm Thinking of other people as potentially working from a place where they value different things than I do gives a whole new perspective to the intersocial and intergender dynamics I learned through my MRP experience. And that doesn't negate much of what I've learned so far either. It's just looking at it a different way. -At the end of the day, you wife still may choose to either not listen, or not follow. And at the end of the day you may have to take the path of divorce or an affair to find what it is you need in your life. But I think we're all trying to make sure that we've done everything we can do before we give up. And I think for me, that feeling of leaving something on the table, again, included the ability to just communicate what I'm feeling with no strings attached, and have those feelings heard and acknowledged.",,96,[deleted],1582904456.0 +At the end of the day, you wife still may choose to either not listen, or not follow. And at the end of the day you may have to take the path of divorce or an affair to find what it is you need in your life. But I think we're all trying to make sure that we've done everything we can do before we give up. And I think for me, that feeling of leaving something on the table, again, included the ability to just communicate what I'm feeling with no strings attached, and have those feelings heard and acknowledged.",,96,[deleted],2020-02-28 15:40:56 marriedredpill,fagoab,"Same game, different devils","Go fuck yourself, Mr. I do not go to the gym. Mr. I do not get sex. Mr. my wife is a bitch. Go fuck yourself, Mr. I have a 1400# total. Mr. I get so much sex my dick gets raw. Mr. we are running out of public bathrooms to fuck in, just for fun. @@ -29604,7 +29604,7 @@ My biggest fuck up to date in my LTR? Getting tricked into talking about my sexu I am a fucking idiot, just like you, playing the same game you are, just on a different fucking level. -*Same game different levels, same hell different devils.*",,65,red-sfpplus,1582828898.0 +*Same game different levels, same hell different devils.*",,65,red-sfpplus,2020-02-27 18:41:38 marriedredpill,f976kf,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 25, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -29613,7 +29613,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,1582619061.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,2020-02-25 08:24:21 marriedredpill,f70l7g,Your woman's most wonderful gift: The Epic Test.,"I wrote the something nearly a year ago in [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/c2l5dt/your_woman_is_one_of_your_greatest_creations/), and lately I’ve been thinking about it more as I see men struggle in the intermediate stages of MRP. As I read through OYS for the last few weeks I see lots of men that have been “stuck” in MRP for some time and not making progress. Years even. I think it is because you have not recognized the largest shit test that is MRP and changed your mental models to pass it. Passing this shit test is not a combination of STFU, AA, AM, DNGAF, or Fogging. It can’t be learned from WISNIFG. **It comes from reading and INTERNALIZING the sidebar** and as a result living and breathing the simple act of becoming your own [mental point of origin](https://therationalmale.com/2014/11/14/mental-point-of-origin/). Rollo did a pretty good job of describing what this is, but I also think there is another final step to getting the kind of relationship that *some* men here desire. @@ -29706,7 +29706,7 @@ Use it to varying degrees in your own relationship and determine if this is some &#x200B; -Why was this test important for me? This beautiful test was for her submission and my dominance both mentally and physically all along. **This was a test of polarity that serves her in the relationship, and you in the world.**",,188,HornsOfApathy,1582236030.0 +Why was this test important for me? This beautiful test was for her submission and my dominance both mentally and physically all along. **This was a test of polarity that serves her in the relationship, and you in the world.**",,188,HornsOfApathy,2020-02-20 22:00:30 marriedredpill,f5omuh,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 18, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -29715,7 +29715,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1582014263.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2020-02-18 08:24:23 marriedredpill,f3x2kf,It Felt Really Good to Write This,"I've been participating in the weekly OYS threads for over a year now. This is mostly advice for the newbs, but it applies to every one. &#x200B; @@ -29789,7 +29789,7 @@ When something really feels good, you don’t have to say it. /u/Red-Sfpplus did So when you write your OYS, take a risk and write the uncomfortable stuff, the shit you really need to own. Dig in, get real, and reap the rewards. -And if you find yourself using the phrase ""it felt good to..."", take a moment and ask yourself why you are writing it.",,60,Cloudy_Pirate,1581707529.0 +And if you find yourself using the phrase ""it felt good to..."", take a moment and ask yourself why you are writing it.",,60,Cloudy_Pirate,2020-02-14 19:12:09 marriedredpill,f25i55,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 11, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -29798,7 +29798,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,1581409464.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,2020-02-11 08:24:24 marriedredpill,f05hs9,How to fuck your wife's friends.,"We've had a couple of guys post on this topic -- asking how to make a move on your wife's friends. **It's really EASY!** @@ -29813,7 +29813,7 @@ If you're regularly fucking other women on the side, and you can actually read a If you're already fucking your wife's friends, obviously this advice doesn't apply to you either. -This advice is [for these types](https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/ezv4g0/hb7_from_the_gym_coming_to_my_house_tomorrow_for/) [of retards](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/eyn0ea/own_your_shit_weekly_february_04_2020/fgmlxoo/).",,143,[deleted],1581050988.0 +This advice is [for these types](https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/ezv4g0/hb7_from_the_gym_coming_to_my_house_tomorrow_for/) [of retards](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/eyn0ea/own_your_shit_weekly_february_04_2020/fgmlxoo/).",,143,[deleted],2020-02-07 04:49:48 marriedredpill,eyn0ea,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 04, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -29822,8 +29822,8 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1580804662.0 -marriedredpill,ewc8td,MRP and Watching Sports - Repost for relevance,,/r/marriedredpill/comments/7v90zq/mrp_and_watching_sports/,35,InChargeMan,1580418208.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2020-02-04 08:24:22 +marriedredpill,ewc8td,MRP and Watching Sports - Repost for relevance,,/r/marriedredpill/comments/7v90zq/mrp_and_watching_sports/,35,InChargeMan,2020-01-30 21:03:28 marriedredpill,ev2trz,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 28, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -29832,7 +29832,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1580199864.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2020-01-28 08:24:24 marriedredpill,ete70z,"How to make your B$%h sit, stay, lay down, and cum","*How to make your bitch sit, stay, lay down, and cum* [This youtube Video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaPsgVcjgtk) explains time tested Behavioral and Operant Conditioning methods and serves as an introduction to CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). @@ -29887,7 +29887,7 @@ Don’t’ punish with anger or in anger. Most punishment should be simply igno You will still have “accidents” and she will still piss on the floor if you don’t open the door quickly enough…but over time they will decrease and become less and less. Over time, you will learn to communicate with your fun-loving little sex puppy so that you learn to open the door for her before she even starts to bark. One day, she will realize that you are the dominant one in this relationship and after a period of fierce shit testing, she will finally relax, open up sexually, and suddenly decide that she is happy. -Now for the final secret. THIS is what I do with clients. I am like the trainer in “Dog Possible” except I work with the owner, not the dog. smh It is true. We are freaking animals and 90% of what we do and 95% of what we think is programmed. Some of it is good code but much of it is not- and all of it can be deprogrammed if you have enough time and patience.",,41,RedPillCoach,1579889657.0 +Now for the final secret. THIS is what I do with clients. I am like the trainer in “Dog Possible” except I work with the owner, not the dog. smh It is true. We are freaking animals and 90% of what we do and 95% of what we think is programmed. Some of it is good code but much of it is not- and all of it can be deprogrammed if you have enough time and patience.",,41,RedPillCoach,2020-01-24 18:14:17 marriedredpill,et0ndf,Qualify Your Date,"You may be married today, but with a sky high divorce rate, you know it’s only a matter of time before your status changes to “separated”, then “divorced”. Which puts you back in the dating game. Some qualifying tests for dating to ensure you are making effective use of your time. Effective use of her time? That’s her problem, not yours. @@ -29908,7 +29908,7 @@ Some qualifying tests for dating to ensure you are making effective use of your 8. Her pictures showed her at a more youthful stage of her life. Yes, we want to show our best face to the world. Yes, attraction is everything to men. Yes, everyone lies on their dating profiles. But this is false advertising and really a bait-and-switch tactic. Be nice for an hour, and delete her on the way out the door. Would you have done the date if you saw pictures of the real her? Glowing personalities do not make up for attractiveness, or lack of. Again, men choise on attractiveness first. Maybe that’s shallow, but that’s how men are. -9. She declines a scheduled meeting at the last minute, and gives no counter proposal to meet. Easy. Delete her. Shit happens, but must be accompanied by a counter proposal. She probably got a better proposal from another man.",,25,[deleted],1579818555.0 +9. She declines a scheduled meeting at the last minute, and gives no counter proposal to meet. Easy. Delete her. Shit happens, but must be accompanied by a counter proposal. She probably got a better proposal from another man.",,25,[deleted],2020-01-23 22:29:15 marriedredpill,es1hvw,A primer on Frame.,"Often murky, the idea of frame has mentions of being not afraid to express your ideas openly to your wife, not DEERing plus a plethora of other mental gymnastics you try put down and incorporate into your arsenal of becoming a better man, all extremely helpful as concepts to remember but there is a better way to approach it. **Where you go wrong** @@ -29935,7 +29935,7 @@ Now this does unravel itself in that you do have to explain/think out how to get Work being that other exception but this can be guided with advanced fogging and proper preparation. -Take control of yourself, cut the unnecessary explanations out of your life and become your own mental point of origin.",,7,kikmepm,1579642545.0 +Take control of yourself, cut the unnecessary explanations out of your life and become your own mental point of origin.",,7,kikmepm,2020-01-21 21:35:45 marriedredpill,errrnm,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 21, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -29944,7 +29944,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,1579595066.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,2020-01-21 08:24:26 marriedredpill,eqofwa,A fun kinky sex game and what’s in the background...,"Having read some of the recent posts from @red-sfpplus I started to write a response but I think it’s more of a stand alone post as I worked on the second half. So here it is a Ds game you can use as inspiration with some background on why it works. I came up with a game called “Choose Your Hole”. @@ -30002,7 +30002,7 @@ I have friends who were a couple that I’ve known for almost 25 years. They hav I think about them a lot when I think about kink. Did kinky sex kill their family? No, his total lack of perspective, boundaries, awareness of the risks etc... -If anyone wants to know more about BDSM or a Ds relationship dynamic feel free to ask.",,4,suprathepeg,1579390872.0 +If anyone wants to know more about BDSM or a Ds relationship dynamic feel free to ask.",,4,suprathepeg,2020-01-18 23:41:12 marriedredpill,eq5e7n,Building your slut: Part 2 - Using your slut,"Dear Diary, OK, so been a minute. But this post has taken me some time to put together as it tends to be more specific, actionable things to do in the bedroom. @@ -30085,7 +30085,7 @@ Until then, try and get your dick wet this weekend. Come back, and tell us which of these you did yourself. -And you will notice, DEERING, masturbating and arguing with your SO are not on this list.",,56,red-sfpplus,1579290576.0 +And you will notice, DEERING, masturbating and arguing with your SO are not on this list.",,56,red-sfpplus,2020-01-17 19:49:36 marriedredpill,eofu98,Don’t eat paint,"**Fred learns about cows and milk** There was a man named Fred who heard about a cows. His friend Henry told him they contain a delicious white liquid called milk. Henry told fred about how to milk a cow and get this delicious and natural drink. He also described what a cow looks like to the t. @@ -30132,7 +30132,7 @@ If you are newer, Don’t be a kid with dynamite. Don’t eat the paint. Do yo * Too much action with a little reading will blow shit up -**So, the key is to find the right amount of action to fit your readings and circumstances**",,83,BobbyPeru,1578973940.0 +**So, the key is to find the right amount of action to fit your readings and circumstances**",,83,BobbyPeru,2020-01-14 03:52:20 marriedredpill,eoik9y,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 14, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -30141,7 +30141,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1578990262.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2020-01-14 08:24:22 marriedredpill,emf8hv,I need to improve my sex life with my wife. We’re not a dead bedroom situation. And this isn’t something I can’t control.,"UPDATE - SOLVED: Thanks to the handful of commenters that gave useful advice and understood what I was asking. To be fair, maybe I could have been EVEN clearer. To clarify: @@ -30201,7 +30201,7 @@ My wife HATES guys that lift. We make fun of guys like that all the time. Her an Also, to address the anti depressants comment below: First of all, there’s nothing wrong with getting treatment for being depressed. Second of all, I took amyltryptaline for 7 days to help me sleep while I was getting off the pain pills I was taking for said injury. Yes I was miserable for a little bit while getting off them, but that wasn’t the problem. That’s a few weeks out of the last year. Not relevant to this discussion. And I’ve had mild depression years ago in college and it didn’t affect my sex drive. And it was circumstantial. I’m not the type to turn to meds for that. I prefer to fix whatever in my life is the problem, which I did a long time ago. I’m not a sit around and mope or wait kind of guy. If anything my ambition sometimes causes friction in our marriage. But my and my wife’s life is great right now. I’m not here for life advice. -This is literally about getting some basic physical approach methods for a wife that is still attracted to me that says yes to sex 95% of the time. If she wasn’t into it, I would have posted in dead bedroom.",,22,Alex_J_Anderson,1578600959.0 +This is literally about getting some basic physical approach methods for a wife that is still attracted to me that says yes to sex 95% of the time. If she wasn’t into it, I would have posted in dead bedroom.",,22,Alex_J_Anderson,2020-01-09 20:15:59 marriedredpill,eli3iv,Bring the Balance Back,"In the immortal words of Robert Plant: >Sing as you raise your bow, @@ -30324,7 +30324,7 @@ Attorney at Law; Domestic Relations Mediator Web: www.coaching4men.com -Email: dave@coaching4men.com",,58,RedPillCoach,1578432597.0 +Email: dave@coaching4men.com",,58,RedPillCoach,2020-01-07 21:29:57 marriedredpill,el8s8z,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 07, 2020","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -30333,7 +30333,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1578385470.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2020-01-07 08:24:30 marriedredpill,ekkilx,"MAP and Mission: Micro vs. Macro, and Common Mistakes Guys Make In The Beginning","The following is a description of the potential and often overlooked pitfalls that a man can lead himself down, particularly in the beginning stages of his red pill journey. For what it is worth, commonly said “Don’t Eat Paint”. Game: The art of displaying as high of value as possible, as quickly, seamlessly, and effectively as possible, either willfully/purposely or not/ naturally, by utilizing various tools and methods/ techniques, onto others, in order to accomplish a specific objective or goal. Particularly in regards to inter and intrasexual, workplace, dominance, and/or social dynamics and other hierarchies. @@ -30350,7 +30350,7 @@ Therefore, as you learn game, as you learn about female nature, and as you begin On a side note, it’s similar to designing a workout plan. It’s essentially separating the micro from the macro and recognizing/ setting priorities and separating them from the overall direction you’re heading in, which guys can often lose sight of in the early stages of unplugging/ their RP journey. Do not prioritize women, plates, your wife/LTR, anyone. They may or may not be an element of your MAP, but the MAP continues regardless (hence the use of multiple terms here; “the stay play is the same as the go plan”, mental point of origin, MAP, frame, etc.). The point is, to Study game for the tools it provides - but don’t become David and make women into the Goliath in your mind, as you put the rock in the sling (studying game and female nature) to knock Goliath down. This is pedastalization. It would take obsession to training and mindset to knock down such a treacherous beast. But there is no Goliath. There is only a female, who can tend to your sexual needs. A task not-so-biblical in proportions, after all. Game is important, but it is also important (especially in regards to game used in intersexual dynamics), to not prioritize it and take it from being the micro, into the macro of your focus and objectives. -Overall, the above is a description of the potential and often overlooked pitfalls that a man can lead himself down, particularly in the beginning stages of his red pill journey. For what it is worth, commonly said “Don’t Eat Paint”. Hope this helps, and would awesome to see some opinions/ further discussion on this topic, to help guys out there with this info.",,22,NeoTheJuanDJ,1578265058.0 +Overall, the above is a description of the potential and often overlooked pitfalls that a man can lead himself down, particularly in the beginning stages of his red pill journey. For what it is worth, commonly said “Don’t Eat Paint”. Hope this helps, and would awesome to see some opinions/ further discussion on this topic, to help guys out there with this info.",,22,NeoTheJuanDJ,2020-01-05 22:57:38 marriedredpill,eiaavq,"Happy New Year, Sons-o-Bitches","I think I can sneak this in 'cuz W&S is off eating chowmein and drinking saki and riding rickshaws and fondling cambodian girly-boys. ... Happy-fucking new year's, douches. @@ -30375,7 +30375,7 @@ Hallelujah. p.s. I failed you rpeed. -p.s.2. ""I'm a bad mother-fucker.""",,81,johneyapocalypse,1577833439.0 +p.s.2. ""I'm a bad mother-fucker.""",,81,johneyapocalypse,2019-12-31 23:03:59 marriedredpill,ei069l,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 31, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -30384,7 +30384,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,1577780662.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,2019-12-31 08:24:22 marriedredpill,eeyl35,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 24, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -30393,7 +30393,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1577175861.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2019-12-24 08:24:21 marriedredpill,eee13f,Field Report: Lessons in Leadership - The Meatballs," I look for ways to lead my wife into adding more value to my life. This example alone doesn’t mean shit. This is simply a single observation. @@ -30464,7 +30464,7 @@ So lead, motherfuckers. Quit expecting your wives to read your mind. That’s a **Do you want some practicality to this post, you autistic faggots?** Lead your wife by telling her exactly how you want her to suck your cock. Praise her every time she tries to do what you tell her to. Feed her ego. Praise, praise, praise. Before long you’ll have a woman that not only knows how to suck dick well, but she’ll also know how to suck your dick exactly the way you like it! Want to blow a load on her face? Tell her how hot it is. Tell her how you love to see it. Tell her to spit on it. ""Oh god, you are so hot. Spit on it MORE."" Praise the things you want even when they aren't praiseworthy. Praise, praise, praise. -Strength, motherfuckers.",,60,HornsOfApathy,1577067293.0 +Strength, motherfuckers.",,60,HornsOfApathy,2019-12-23 02:14:53 marriedredpill,ecc508,Can You Keep A Secret? A Primer On Power,"Can you keep a fucking secret? That's not a rhetorical question. When you tell no one about your plans, you eliminate your chance for external validation. That is a great first step for the newly unplugged man. We quickly learn that our domain is action, not words, and begin making large scale changes without a lot of talking. Actions without words create secrets by default. This is good, because we're likely to make a lot of mistakes, and our frame might not withstand much criticism even when we are succeeding. @@ -30599,7 +30599,7 @@ You’re becoming a man of quiet power, and you’re giving from a place of abun **Conclusion** -Become a high value man whose massive frame doesn't care about secrets. On your way there, leverage those secrets to your advantage. Don't reveal the source of your magic powers, and don't brag about your efforts. When you share with your inner circle, do it wisely. Stop saying things that make you appear weak, and consolidate power by controlling your own mouth first.",,490,BarracudaRP,1576673020.0 +Become a high value man whose massive frame doesn't care about secrets. On your way there, leverage those secrets to your advantage. Don't reveal the source of your magic powers, and don't brag about your efforts. When you share with your inner circle, do it wisely. Stop saying things that make you appear weak, and consolidate power by controlling your own mouth first.",,490,BarracudaRP,2019-12-18 12:43:40 marriedredpill,ebt4yl,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 17, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -30608,7 +30608,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,1576571064.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,2019-12-17 08:24:24 marriedredpill,e9qgqw,External and Internal Abundance,"Having an abundance mentality gets a lot of discussion on MRP. And it should; it is one of the cornerstones of a strong frame. You can't be outcome independent when trying for sex if this is your One Shot and you're desperate for success. Day one shit. But I've seen a lot of guys-especially newer guys like me-not realize that there are really two kinds of abundance. There is the abundance that comes from knowing you can go down to the local dive bar and end up with some ONS, or lock down a new LTR if that's your thing. This abundance is great for quenching that fear of the relationship falling apart. It lets you respond with actual indifference to threats and run higher levels of dread. It lets you kill the puppy, if you have to. @@ -30627,7 +30627,7 @@ And like external abundance snowballs on itself (abundance -> more confidence Internal abundance without external abundance is unstable. It leads to putting the pussy on a pedestal and all but guarantees that the internal abundance dries up. External abundance without internal abundance leads to bitterness and eventually kills the relationship. -*This is why, when starting out, you fuck your wife every chance you get*. If you are having regular sex, one off night doesn't send you back into a validation spiral or beta puke. You have to create the sense of abundance within the relationship that you are creating outside of it. Or else the babysitter ends up pregnant.",,64,Balls_Wellington_,1576171018.0 +*This is why, when starting out, you fuck your wife every chance you get*. If you are having regular sex, one off night doesn't send you back into a validation spiral or beta puke. You have to create the sense of abundance within the relationship that you are creating outside of it. Or else the babysitter ends up pregnant.",,64,Balls_Wellington_,2019-12-12 17:16:58 marriedredpill,e9e9bp,Stop Hamstering that your Wife is Nuts,"There are a lot of faggots on here that hamster about their BPD, NPD, depressed, anxious, bipolar, schizophrenic, etc wife. I know I’ve done it… a lot. But… @@ -30688,7 +30688,7 @@ Next time you think your wife is crazy – look inward at your actions. * [Are you showing your emotions like a man](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/5ntc44/expressing_emotions_like_a_man/) and then exiting the situation? * The only person you can control is yourself – so start doing it. -Start owning your shit here and stop blaming your ""crazy"" wife. I've gone from 1-3 ""crazy"" things a week to 0... because *I* changed *MY* behavior. It's not what she's doing, it's what YOU'RE doing.",,111,[deleted],1576102827.0 +Start owning your shit here and stop blaming your ""crazy"" wife. I've gone from 1-3 ""crazy"" things a week to 0... because *I* changed *MY* behavior. It's not what she's doing, it's what YOU'RE doing.",,111,[deleted],2019-12-11 22:20:27 marriedredpill,e8nywy,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 10, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -30697,7 +30697,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1575966269.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2019-12-10 08:24:29 marriedredpill,e849no,Your Wife Is Not Your Mission,"This is not new information, this is MRP 101. Most of the newcomers here still need to read this. **Your wife is not your Mission. Your Mission is your Mission.** @@ -30788,7 +30788,7 @@ If you want to get really focused, then fill your calendar for one week with zer Here are some closing thoughts. Life is tough. Life throws you curve balls. Cancer happens. Carwrecks happen. The universe can be cruel. We can’t control anything during our lives except how we choose to face each day. -With that in mind, if you are set on your mission, then you will be better positioned to endure/overcome when the inevitable shitstorms of life pop up. Godspeed.",,203,HeckleandChide,1575862102.0 +With that in mind, if you are set on your mission, then you will be better positioned to endure/overcome when the inevitable shitstorms of life pop up. Godspeed.",,203,HeckleandChide,2019-12-09 03:28:22 marriedredpill,e5e441,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 03, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -30797,7 +30797,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,1575361462.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,2019-12-03 08:24:22 marriedredpill,e1v2tb,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 26, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -30806,7 +30806,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,1574756662.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,2019-11-26 08:24:22 marriedredpill,dzw6yc,[FR] Training Day,"A FR inspired by u/HornsOfApathy's [Depressed and Anxious Wives](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/dsrito/depressive_and_anxious_wives_the_power_of_your/) series: For my whole life, I've given up my power in sex. The women I have been with were always giving me an orgasm, every time, every encounter. That was my sole focus and mentality during those times: taking from the woman. I might give them orgasms too, but it was only validation-seeking and covert contracts for reciprocation. Society supports this supplicating, powerless view for men and, even if a man has high SMV and may have practiced RP for years, it's easy to see how he can remain stuck in this mentality in regards to his sexuality. @@ -30825,7 +30825,7 @@ When it came time for reciprocation, I told her I'm letting it build up until to My wife remained sweet and submissive as she had been all day, happy in her feminine role. It's a natural state for women around a man who leads them. It's the way things were meant to be. The session ended the same way it started, with a normal conversation as if nothing abnormal happened. That's because, from an evolutionary perspective, there was nothing abnormal about it. What's abnormal, and fatal in an evolutionary sense, is a man bringing needy, validation-seeking energy to sex or any other experience he has. -The real training was tolerating my shit mentality for 16 years; transitioning to the way it should have always been required no training at all.",,56,PillUpAss,1574398656.0 +The real training was tolerating my shit mentality for 16 years; transitioning to the way it should have always been required no training at all.",,56,PillUpAss,2019-11-22 04:57:36 marriedredpill,dzq57u,On being a better man,"I came to fix my relationship and I learnt how to be a better man. I now see that where motherhood makes a girl a woman the same is not true for men, and we need a kick in the ass to grown the fuck up. Getting too fat, being cheated on or realising those IOI looks are actually IODI looks (i.e. dis-interest), are the kick you need; you should be grateful you finally got the message, motherfucker. The regulars here keep handing out that message fyi. MRP for me is now \~30 - 40% about relationship and sex and the rest is all benefits to the rest of my life. Physical health, career, wealth, confidence, bravery - it all goes together, and as you know it is this stuff that leads to the solution to the problems that brought you here. @@ -30834,7 +30834,7 @@ One of my favourite side effects of this process is the impact i have had on my This is not intended as a long post, so my message is its time to grow the fuck up. Stop blaming her, stop blaming the world. Be the man you want your sons to be (or daughters to marry). Watch the doors open in all avenues of your life once you get your shit together. -End Rant.",,95,simbarlion,1574371108.0 +End Rant.",,95,simbarlion,2019-11-21 21:18:28 marriedredpill,dzkxdm,Grandpa Easy's Guide to Giving Thanks,"**Background:** Thanksgiving and other Holiday celebrations are coming. I'm sure we're all doing the right thing. Taking the lead and making sure shit gets done in preparation. @@ -30898,7 +30898,7 @@ This approach doesn't have to just be limited to Thanksgiving. Any gathering wi Don't eat so much that you're tired. You want to be ready to go after everyone heads home and you get alone time with the wife. Done well, you will have delivered a big bag of AMOG FEELZ. Nuff said. -Good luck, fellas.",,47,EasyDaysHardNights,1574350369.0 +Good luck, fellas.",,47,EasyDaysHardNights,2019-11-21 15:32:49 marriedredpill,dyhnsa,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 19, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -30907,7 +30907,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,1574151861.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,2019-11-19 08:24:21 marriedredpill,dv756b,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 12, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -30916,7 +30916,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,1573547061.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,2019-11-12 08:24:21 marriedredpill,duyj0f,Building your slut: Part 1 - Anal,"I am sick of these faggot posts on here. Lets build some fucking men who fucking know how to fuck. You wanna build a slut or two? Lets do that. @@ -30995,7 +30995,7 @@ Never use glass and/or crystal type plugs. Always use flexible ones, only porn s Never stick anything in an asshole that isnt attached to your body, or with a handle. It will get sucked up and lost and you will be going to the ER to have it fished out otherwise. -Have fun, and that's all for now.",,103,red-sfpplus,1573504537.0 +Have fun, and that's all for now.",,103,red-sfpplus,2019-11-11 20:35:37 marriedredpill,dsrito,Depressive and Anxious Wives: The Power of Your Mission and Greatest Purpose (Part 5),"As a simple reminder, here’s the previous 4 posts – which you should read first. * Part 1: Depressive and Anxious Wives: [How it’s all your fault](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/asqi8r/depressive_and_anxious_wives_how_its_all_your/) @@ -31085,7 +31085,7 @@ Open *yourself* by shedding ego to allow your mission to come to you. It will, a *You know, kind of like hunting.* -When your woman sees this great authenticity of a purpose driven man that you’ve built from your core outwards, she will either accept this as who you are or she will not. But that, my fellow man is *un-testable*, and gives her the *opportunity* to begin to free her own ego as an example of your leadership.",,83,HornsOfApathy,1573096635.0 +When your woman sees this great authenticity of a purpose driven man that you’ve built from your core outwards, she will either accept this as who you are or she will not. But that, my fellow man is *un-testable*, and gives her the *opportunity* to begin to free her own ego as an example of your leadership.",,83,HornsOfApathy,2019-11-07 03:17:15 marriedredpill,dshw1o,[FR] Role Playing with Rape Fantasy,"I work the full sexual spectrum. This is known, and no need to discuss this. What we are here to talk about is something that is new to me, and that is role based sexual play. Yes it sounds cheesy, yes I was hesitant but it was actually tons of fun and very, very hot. There have been several women over my time as a single man who have dropped hints about ""rape play"" or ""forced sex."" We are not talking about basic shit, but full on fighting back. Fitchick mentioned this several weeks ago. So I decided to do some research and figure it out. She had the basic layout of the fantasy, even if it is very cliché - I just needed to make it happen. @@ -31142,7 +31142,7 @@ None of this is possible without a high level of trust and sexual openness with This was all 100% consensual. -Do not, ever, ever forget about aftercare and that [cuddles are required](https://old.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9jr5bx/cuddles_are_required/)",,60,red-sfpplus,1573054352.0 +Do not, ever, ever forget about aftercare and that [cuddles are required](https://old.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9jr5bx/cuddles_are_required/)",,60,red-sfpplus,2019-11-06 15:32:32 marriedredpill,drwc5r,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 05, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -31151,7 +31151,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,1572942262.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,21,AutoModerator,2019-11-05 08:24:22 marriedredpill,drqpf5,[Book report] *Everything is f*cked : a book about hope*,"Mark Manson is back with a new book. You may remember him from the gem *Models: Attract Women Through Honesty* about pickup, or more recently his best-selling *The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck*. **What's the book about?** @@ -31172,7 +31172,7 @@ The last chapter, where he speculates about the future, especially with regards **Should we recommend this book?** -I don't think it's quite at the level of sidebar canon, but it rhymes with what we teach here. It's more akin to something you would see recommended in a future edition of BluePillProfessor's book. If you're a person who actually read all the book recommendations there, this should go on your to-read list.",,30,Aechzen,1572912060.0 +I don't think it's quite at the level of sidebar canon, but it rhymes with what we teach here. It's more akin to something you would see recommended in a future edition of BluePillProfessor's book. If you're a person who actually read all the book recommendations there, this should go on your to-read list.",,30,Aechzen,2019-11-05 00:01:00 marriedredpill,domva5,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 29, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -31181,7 +31181,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,29,AutoModerator,1572337464.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,29,AutoModerator,2019-10-29 08:24:24 marriedredpill,doalmp,"Depressive and Anxious Wives: Authenticity, Feelz 2.0, Shitty Comfort & Penetration (Part 4)","If you’ve read my previous posts on Depressive and Anxious wives, good for you. Some have asked why I have picked the topic of “Depressive and Anxious Wives” rather than AWALT (even though this rule still applies). The reason that I’ve chose this extreme version of your woman is because yes, while AWALT applies, it seems to me after being here on MRP for a long time that some women naturally pursue chaos to get feelz, and thus those traits usually manifest themselves in your relationship and wife as anxiety or depression. As a simple reminder, here’s the previous 3 posts – which you should read to understand the context of the next stage that I think happens once you’ve accepted it’s all your fault, built a safe place, and converted dread into desire. @@ -31298,7 +31298,7 @@ Get up, smile, and get back to work. You’ve just delivered your woman the greatest feelz she has ever desired. Yor cock has become her safe place, along with who you are. Watch the desire build in her to be penetrated over and over by you. You are a man that penetrates his woman with all that he is. -*Edit:* [Part 5: The Power of Your Mission and Greatest Purpose](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/dsrito/depressive_and_anxious_wives_the_power_of_your/)",,71,HornsOfApathy,1572277481.0 +*Edit:* [Part 5: The Power of Your Mission and Greatest Purpose](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/dsrito/depressive_and_anxious_wives_the_power_of_your/)",,71,HornsOfApathy,2019-10-28 15:44:41 marriedredpill,do5ltp,Killing the Blue,"If the red pill is knowing the truth about intersexual dynamics, it's not enough merely to embrace the truth. We've got to cast off the lies as well. Otherwise we're going to rationalize some compromise between competing principles that were never meant to reconcile. I believe Rollo calls this ""killing the blue."" I was reminded to write this post earlier today when my wife became huffy that I didn't get out of the car to pump the gas when she gave me the silent look of expectation. She huffed, ""For as much as you try to teach other guys about how to be a man, you're not man enough to pump my gas? That's the man's job."" Uh huh. Keep telling yourself that. @@ -31483,7 +31483,7 @@ Wrong. This gets brought up on social media and dating apps all the time. This _____ -I'm sure there are countless more concepts we've told ourselves that could be added to this list, which we'd be better off unlearning - and I'd love to hear them! But, I'm getting tired for the night. So, I'll leave it to you all to share some of the blue pill ideologies you've had to overcome. Consider this a collaborative effort.",,99,Red-Curious,1572248211.0 +I'm sure there are countless more concepts we've told ourselves that could be added to this list, which we'd be better off unlearning - and I'd love to hear them! But, I'm getting tired for the night. So, I'll leave it to you all to share some of the blue pill ideologies you've had to overcome. Consider this a collaborative effort.",,99,Red-Curious,2019-10-28 07:36:51 marriedredpill,dnhq16,STFU Ground Zero for Dummies'n'Faggots,"So you're new to MRP. you're Lifting, Reading, and you think you're STFU - kind of, sometimes. *Maybe?* The concept of STFU isn't that hard to understand, but some (most) beginners have difficulty with the *execution* of STFU because their mind is racing as whatever is happening causes them to panic, and they quickly crack open their pie-holes to start DEERing away. I'd like to suggest an activity for you to be doing as you STFU, to help keep you calm and focused, and as a bonus it should also help you ID some internal shit you can work on after your panic moment is over. It's especially effective for those who have a weak frame or no frame. However for more advanced MRPers this may be a good way to more deeply reflect and self-diagnose during introspective periods, or after a slip in frame. @@ -31595,7 +31595,7 @@ It should also be noted that similar to what is described in Athol's MAP book, m                             Describe the Activating Event objectively, identify your Thoughts, and identify your Consequences (ER: Emotions, Reactions). -                              Use ATC anytime you’re curious about your Emotions or Reactions, when you don’t like your Emotions or Reactions, or when you’re stuck in a pattern and keep repeating one Thought Theme in response to the same scenarios.",,75,AlohaMaui808,1572114489.0 +                              Use ATC anytime you’re curious about your Emotions or Reactions, when you don’t like your Emotions or Reactions, or when you’re stuck in a pattern and keep repeating one Thought Theme in response to the same scenarios.",,75,AlohaMaui808,2019-10-26 18:28:09 marriedredpill,dmpqgv,I almost lost my marriage of 32 years and turned it around in 3 months.," First off I want to thank both u/SorcererKing and u/Over60\_FireTempered3 for telling me to post this. @@ -31630,7 +31630,7 @@ All that I have seen and read tell me that all relationships go through this. Yo ***WHERE ARE WE AT NOW*** -We do things now together now. I have to personally thank the bluepillprofessor for the “10 second kiss”. It’s my personal favorite. It sets the tone for the day. At first she said “what the hell do you think you are doing?” I just persisted, grabbed the back of her head along with a handful of hair and continued every day. Now she begs for it. We walk 2 miles every day with my son pushing his chair as we walk and talk. I took a chance not knowing exactly how to implement KINO and as she took her turn pushing our son, I lightly placed my hand on the small of her back and just held it there kind of showing love and support for her. One day I forgot to do that and she kept looking at me and finally asked “is there something wrong”? I looked at her with a stare and said no. She said that I wasn’t touching her and she thought that I was mad at her. Guys, THIS SHIT WORKS. It’s freaky how this works. My only regret is it took me 20 years to find out. I, for the first time in my life climbed a 14,000ft mountain (Mt. Evans). I zipped lined over the Royal Gorge (1500 ft drop). These are things I would never do last year. I am a new man, new life, new mission. That’s my story.",,538,vabab8,1571964153.0 +We do things now together now. I have to personally thank the bluepillprofessor for the “10 second kiss”. It’s my personal favorite. It sets the tone for the day. At first she said “what the hell do you think you are doing?” I just persisted, grabbed the back of her head along with a handful of hair and continued every day. Now she begs for it. We walk 2 miles every day with my son pushing his chair as we walk and talk. I took a chance not knowing exactly how to implement KINO and as she took her turn pushing our son, I lightly placed my hand on the small of her back and just held it there kind of showing love and support for her. One day I forgot to do that and she kept looking at me and finally asked “is there something wrong”? I looked at her with a stare and said no. She said that I wasn’t touching her and she thought that I was mad at her. Guys, THIS SHIT WORKS. It’s freaky how this works. My only regret is it took me 20 years to find out. I, for the first time in my life climbed a 14,000ft mountain (Mt. Evans). I zipped lined over the Royal Gorge (1500 ft drop). These are things I would never do last year. I am a new man, new life, new mission. That’s my story.",,538,vabab8,2019-10-25 00:42:33 marriedredpill,dlex0g,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 22, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -31639,14 +31639,14 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,27,AutoModerator,1571732664.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,27,AutoModerator,2019-10-22 08:24:24 marriedredpill,djp3la,"My “First MRP Moment”, I believe. It will never be the same.","Long time reader, first time posting. Been following MRP and RP guidance since Jan this year. Reading, working out, and letting go of shit and fear. Last insight I had what I would call "" My first MRP"" moment with the wife and it felt great. Been one day since we last fucked - gave her the prior night off - and I was feeling the urge last night. Night started off with her in some funk mood, but I decided to be strait forward and initiate sex, and she resisted. Then the fireworks started. She started bitching at me about some random bullshit about ""You don't do this or that"". Trying to deflect and start an argument - you know so she can get out of sex. I stopped her mid bitching and called her out that she was just trying to deflect and argue to ensure sex was off the table. She got pissed, I stayed cool. Then I asked for a strait answer, ""sex tonight, yes or no"". She gave the obvious ""I don't know"" trying to just drag me along like a puppy. While we are arguing she starts to get up to go take a shower. I expressed to her that I am talking and that it's bullshit to just walk away. She stopped and gave me a bitchy look. I told her since she can't give an answer, then I am making the call, no sex (At that moment you could see it in her face that she knew she lost control with sex as a tool). She then asked if I was done and if she could take a shower. Of course I said, ""thanks for asking for permission and yes take a shower. "" After the shower, I didn't sulk or complain about no sex. Just sat in the bedroom, ignored her, and watch some TV in silence. About 15 mins pass, and she says ""Ok I want to have sex"". Great! As I sat there, she came over gave me a blow job with out me asking, then I fucked her hard (so she knew who was in control). After ward, she thanked me and we went to bed. -It works. Let go of fear, be a fucking man, own your shit, and your wife will beg to make you happy.",,60,Zer0FuksGiv3n,1571412501.0 +It works. Let go of fear, be a fucking man, own your shit, and your wife will beg to make you happy.",,60,Zer0FuksGiv3n,2019-10-18 15:28:21 marriedredpill,djevyu,"Don't Fucking Let People Get Away with Shit, Ever...","Recently I found myself torn between one decision and another. One: easy, but, frankly, shameful. Especially now. @@ -31759,7 +31759,7 @@ Choose pride, choose integrity, choose self-respect. Always. -No failure, no financial problem, no fucking nothing has hurt me like losing sight of my pride, my integrity, and my self-respect.",,45,johneyapocalypse,1571356019.0 +No failure, no financial problem, no fucking nothing has hurt me like losing sight of my pride, my integrity, and my self-respect.",,45,johneyapocalypse,2019-10-17 23:46:59 marriedredpill,ditpyu,Fear Is A Choice,"I'm writing because I gained insight from a somewhat strange source that helped me to more fully process a concept as a newbie. I want to give back and hope it can help others who are just getting started like me. I'm really not covering anything new here but it's coming from a different angle so it may have value for some of you. @@ -31792,7 +31792,7 @@ When we allow our hamster to run wild and dictate to us what can and cannot be, There is no other logical reason but fear to not ask for that raise or promotion when you know you've put in the work, to not game and initiate with your wife even if it's been years since you last had sex, to not start that business you've had an idea and passion for, etc etc etc. -We are the masters of our lives, and Fear Is A Choice.",,43,AlohaMaui808,1571251496.0 +We are the masters of our lives, and Fear Is A Choice.",,43,AlohaMaui808,2019-10-16 18:44:56 marriedredpill,diqxo4,Half Repping," As I was reading through the OYS threads this morning, I couldn’t help but think of a dude at my gym. I don’t know his name, so I’ll call him Chester. Chester is strong. If he were reporting here, he would say that he benches 320 lbs and squats 405 lbs. Chester is also a weirdly proportioned. His upper body is way bigger than his lower body. Maybe it’s genetic. Maybe it’s how he dresses. But most likely, it’s because Chester is a half-repper. He half-reps his squats in the worst way. He is so far from a proper squat (like 6-8” above parallel) that it isn’t even close. But he also half-reps his bench, his chin-ups, his rows… I don’t know if you can half-rep a shrug, but if you can, he does it. @@ -31807,7 +31807,7 @@ Chester’s problem is that he will have to kill his ego and practically start o There are too many men here that are half-repping their OYS. Yeah, it’s hard, painful, and scary to go all the way down. You might fall over and do the walk of shame. But to get the results, you must do the hard work. You must grind it out. The weights don’t get easier – you get stronger. Owning your shit doesn’t get easier – you get stronger. And if you have been half-repping for awhile now, you are going to have kill your ego, go back to the beginning and practically start over. Either that or you end up with a weirdly proportioned marriage that you choose to be stuck with. -Make your choice.",,61,Cloudy_Pirate,1571239940.0 +Make your choice.",,61,Cloudy_Pirate,2019-10-16 15:32:20 marriedredpill,diffyv,[FR] It's Not What Is Said... It's Who Said It,"Story time then two lessons. &#x200B; @@ -31844,7 +31844,7 @@ Here's lesson #2. It doesn't ***truly*** matter that my wife responded well. I &#x200B; -That's also neither new nor original. However, it's even more important than #1. Do this shit for you. Not her. Don't hesitate to review her responses to gain a measure of how you are doing but don't let her be the only litmus test you use.",,75,CaptJohnLukeDiscard,1571177653.0 +That's also neither new nor original. However, it's even more important than #1. Do this shit for you. Not her. Don't hesitate to review her responses to gain a measure of how you are doing but don't let her be the only litmus test you use.",,75,CaptJohnLukeDiscard,2019-10-15 22:14:13 marriedredpill,di4thd,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 15, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -31853,7 +31853,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,1571127863.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,2019-10-15 08:24:23 marriedredpill,dhu98g,"[FR] Initiate Often, Confident Always","Most of my life I had no confidence. Whenever I would reach out to people, they'd reject me and I'd take that as validation of my self-perception that I was socially inept. My confidence was further broken - but I embraced this because I was a validation-seeker at that time, and even negative validation of my own self-perception was still validation all the same. This happened in my marriage over years as I would initiate with my wife. Rejection after rejection broke my confidence that I would ever succeed, until I eventually gave up and welcomed a long dead bedroom. Fast-forward a couple years. Shortly before finding the red pill, I started working out initiating sex again, expecting that because of some of my peripheral improvements I should see a changed response from my wife. I didn't. This was a covert contract: ""I improve myself, she responds sexually."" But I hadn't really improved myself. Sure, my physique got better from the tub of lard I'd been, but what I thought were improvements to my frame were actually hollow projections of what I had not yet become. What I thought were confident initiations due to my external behavior was really an internal way of dabbing my toes in the water. It was feigned confidence. Because I was merely playing games at confidence, when it didn't work I took that as further validation of my being a sexual failure. @@ -31878,7 +31878,7 @@ In reality: *so what if she rejects me due to her 17 hour work-day?* First, may _____ -**Axiom**: If you develop confidence through successes, your confidence only lasts while you are successful. If you develop it by immunizing yourself against failure, the confidence can never be broken.",,132,Red-Curious,1571075586.0 +**Axiom**: If you develop confidence through successes, your confidence only lasts while you are successful. If you develop it by immunizing yourself against failure, the confidence can never be broken.",,132,Red-Curious,2019-10-14 17:53:06 marriedredpill,dfxg9e,Red Pill observations at a coaching seminar,"Yesterday I was at breakfast business seminar. It was a small intimate affair about 16 people plus the speaker. 13 women 3 men. 1 gust speaker (Male). The speaker was early 30's very fit, dressed business casual but impeccable. Very well groomed. I could see all the women were completely focused on this guy and their panties were wet. He was pitching his coaching businesses. He was explaining how he had become so successful . As he was explaining this, I realized he was Red Pill. @@ -31892,7 +31892,7 @@ He was pitching his coaching businesses. He was explaining how he had become so He was explaining what had motivated him to get there. He was describing a Blue Pilled person but not using the words ""Blue Pill"" or ""Beta"" His marriage had broken up and he started reading a lot of books on relationships and business success. He figured out what he needed to do and explained how he got to his present self. I went up to him later and started asking questions. He has remarried and has been for a while but I got that he was not familiar with the term Red Pill as we use it. -I was thinking that here is a guy who is Red Pilled and he doesn't know it.",,69,surfsusa,1570711309.0 +I was thinking that here is a guy who is Red Pilled and he doesn't know it.",,69,surfsusa,2019-10-10 12:41:49 marriedredpill,dfhe8a,"You are the leader, but what kind of leader?","I want to lead and do it efficiently, so I read to understand where I stand and where I should be. I do this for me and for those around me, in home, school, work and social events. Because the man is the true center of his social group, and as the captain, he can lead the ship to property or wreck it while trying. No third option: NO way he delegates this responsibility. If he is to lead, he can't do it without following his convictions. Thus, to build frame and acquire the wisdom of strong leaders, we tend to try and copy habits of highly successful leaders ""fake it till you make it"". Failing to realize what suits him at a given situation, under calculated problems may get too big of an action. We need to understand where did our goals are coming from at different stages of development as we are swallowing the pill. *How can we realize what suits what then?* @@ -31935,7 +31935,7 @@ The leader: For him to play a transformational style of leadership, his locus of Personal Competence is the foundation of the **Emotional Intelligence** for a leader to directly impact morale, turnover and relationships. This competence comes from self awareness and self management. The Captain masters himself first and must reach out to help others. Leadership can be learned by reflection, goal-setting emphasizing soft skills, practice, and assessment, challenge, and support. Challenge yourself first, be the best version you could be, own your shit! -Great leaders are made by experience, by the work of insight, by personal growth, and by learning from mentors!",,39,mrpmonk,1570629390.0 +Great leaders are made by experience, by the work of insight, by personal growth, and by learning from mentors!",,39,mrpmonk,2019-10-09 13:56:30 marriedredpill,dfjsvm,Measuring BF% Progress - Stop Deluding Yourselves," Gents- @@ -31978,7 +31978,7 @@ In sum, it’s important for us to be honest with ourselves and where we are act So man up, find a good place to get measured, and track that quarterly / semi-annually / whatever in keeping with your goals. -Stop deluding yourselves.",,17,CaptJohnLukeDiscard,1570639830.0 +Stop deluding yourselves.",,17,CaptJohnLukeDiscard,2019-10-09 16:50:30 marriedredpill,dfakgt,The Coma Victim,"I see a lot of posts on here from guys who say something along the lines of ""I was in a dead bedroom for years and then I found out my wife cheated on me years ago. Now I've gotten my shit together and we're having great sex but I'm angry at my wife for cheating on me years ago when I was a faggot."" These posts bother me a little bit because the poster is upset at his wife, when in fact AWALT. Any other woman would have done the same damn thing in that situation. If you stop being a man for years, of course the wife is going to run off and get some action on the side. @@ -31987,7 +31987,7 @@ If you fell into a coma for a decade, and the doctors said ""We don't know when If it makes you feel better then go get some of your own cheating action on the side to ""get even"" but don't be upset at women for being women. It seems to me these posters are upset that ""their wife did something wrong"" and don't realize that all women in that situation behave that way. It's not a case of ""your wife is defective"" it's a case of ""you were defective."" -Channel your anger into improving your lifts.",,43,0io-,1570587727.0 +Channel your anger into improving your lifts.",,43,0io-,2019-10-09 02:22:07 marriedredpill,df0oxb,"OYS posts are for you to own YOUR shit, not to blab about shit that's out of your control.","The fuck is going on in OYS? It's like every single OYS post is failing at basic frame control. Frame control is the mindset and reference through which you engage the world -- shit outside of your reality and control doesn't matter. And the overwhelming number of you guys are failing at this TERRIBLY. @@ -32014,7 +32014,7 @@ If you think that because you're doing all this self improvement, your wife shou As a result of this - we now have **Rule 10**, which states ->OYS is about taking ownership of the things YOU control, not about other parties like your wife, dog, boss, etc. The vast majority of the focus should be on your mindset, your thoughts, and your actions. You are complaining about a situation you willingly put yourself into. That's a no go. (Standard ban duration :: 15 days.)",,116,[deleted],1570544799.0 +>OYS is about taking ownership of the things YOU control, not about other parties like your wife, dog, boss, etc. The vast majority of the focus should be on your mindset, your thoughts, and your actions. You are complaining about a situation you willingly put yourself into. That's a no go. (Standard ban duration :: 15 days.)",,116,[deleted],2019-10-08 14:26:39 marriedredpill,dex3ey,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 08, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -32023,7 +32023,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1570523062.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2019-10-08 08:24:22 marriedredpill,ddqvci,Glossary of Notes to Increase Lifts: The Olympic Lifts,"In case anybody gives a fuck, here’s a couple of tricks that I have learned over the years to increase your technique, efficiency, and numbers in the Olympic Lifts: Assistance Exercises to Improve Olympic Lifts: @@ -32087,7 +32087,7 @@ Collection of online sources include: Reasons you may be failing and how to improve: -Positioning, timing, and speed, are important factors in the Olympic Lifts, but you also want the strength to be able to do so under maximal load. As with all kinetic chains, there is always a weak point and the Oly Lifts are no exception. If you struggle with pulling from the floor, your hamstrings and glutes may be weak. You also may be over-trained. This is arguably the most taxing portion of the movement in terms CNS activation, and if you have an excess of accumulated fatigue, you are more prone to getting stuck here. If you struggle with getting past the knee-mid thigh, your glutes, hamstrings, and/or upper back (traps, rhomboids, lats) may be weak. If you struggle with keeping the bar close to you during any portion of the movement, you may have weak upper back, lats, and glutes. If you struggle with drop-speed (dropping into the receiving position), you may have poor mobility and technique. If you collapse and/or drop the bar from the receiving position, your core strength, technique, positioning, and mobility may be be weak, and will need to fix that in order to improve. If you struggle with driving out of the bottom to full lockout? your core strength and squat may be weak (think OHD squat - snatch, front squat for clean). If you struggle with driving the bar off your chest from the dip in the jerk, shoulders, core, quads, and glutes and positioning may be weak. Keep in mind that doing mobility work to improve thoracic extension, hip and ankle mobility, and core strength - will basically guarantee you lift more weight, because instead of wasting energy by fighting to stay in proper position, you’ll instead be in proper position and using all of that energy to focus on maximal power output through the kinetic chain. Again, these are common points where guys hit plateaus, and how they can overcome them with the Olympic Lifts. Will post again next week with",,29,NeoTheJuanDJ,1570298954.0 +Positioning, timing, and speed, are important factors in the Olympic Lifts, but you also want the strength to be able to do so under maximal load. As with all kinetic chains, there is always a weak point and the Oly Lifts are no exception. If you struggle with pulling from the floor, your hamstrings and glutes may be weak. You also may be over-trained. This is arguably the most taxing portion of the movement in terms CNS activation, and if you have an excess of accumulated fatigue, you are more prone to getting stuck here. If you struggle with getting past the knee-mid thigh, your glutes, hamstrings, and/or upper back (traps, rhomboids, lats) may be weak. If you struggle with keeping the bar close to you during any portion of the movement, you may have weak upper back, lats, and glutes. If you struggle with drop-speed (dropping into the receiving position), you may have poor mobility and technique. If you collapse and/or drop the bar from the receiving position, your core strength, technique, positioning, and mobility may be be weak, and will need to fix that in order to improve. If you struggle with driving out of the bottom to full lockout? your core strength and squat may be weak (think OHD squat - snatch, front squat for clean). If you struggle with driving the bar off your chest from the dip in the jerk, shoulders, core, quads, and glutes and positioning may be weak. Keep in mind that doing mobility work to improve thoracic extension, hip and ankle mobility, and core strength - will basically guarantee you lift more weight, because instead of wasting energy by fighting to stay in proper position, you’ll instead be in proper position and using all of that energy to focus on maximal power output through the kinetic chain. Again, these are common points where guys hit plateaus, and how they can overcome them with the Olympic Lifts. Will post again next week with",,29,NeoTheJuanDJ,2019-10-05 18:09:14 marriedredpill,dbqaao,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 01, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -32096,7 +32096,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,28,AutoModerator,1569918262.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,28,AutoModerator,2019-10-01 08:24:22 marriedredpill,d98kwv,OYS. Go post now. Maybe find your Morpheus.,"**Lurkers or noobs:** When I first came here, I did the same as you. I lurked in reading the top posts. Combed through thousands of words for information to learn what MRP was. Maybe I started the sidebar a bit. I kept seeing flaired people here telling people to ""STFU, Lift and sidebar"". I spent countless hours reading through past OYS and reading their stories hoping that they would be in a similar situation I was in and I would find a path to fix things through them. I pondered whether to join in the weekly thread where people read about all your shortcomings and sometimes achievements. I didn't have many achievements to speak of. I did not want to post because I was truthfully afraid of starting it *for real*. I could continue to dabble in the sidebar forever... but somewhere, deep down, I knew that if I was going to succeed I needed to be held accountable. @@ -32131,7 +32131,7 @@ One of the most valuable things that I've experienced here is actually watching So help a dude if it helps your mission. We want them to find the truth in the way that men should be today. We want a stronger masculine set of men to share this shit with. It's what helps my mission. Maybe it does yours. -Encourage them all to post in OYS so they can find their own Morpheus if they need one. It doesn't have to be you. Pointing a man in the right direction is allowing him to give the gift of freedom to himself. He still has to choose it.",,67,HornsOfApathy,1569441179.0 +Encourage them all to post in OYS so they can find their own Morpheus if they need one. It doesn't have to be you. Pointing a man in the right direction is allowing him to give the gift of freedom to himself. He still has to choose it.",,67,HornsOfApathy,2019-09-25 19:52:59 marriedredpill,d9956n,About Feedback,"In the book *Ultralearning* by Scott Young, he describes how Chris Rock would test new material at a New York comedy club. Gauging the audience's reaction would help Rock decide if a skit was worth keeping, modifying, or eliminating. Feedback is crucial when we are taking on tasks. Even subconsciously, we take feedback in numerous forms and use that information to modify our paths. Without it, we neither learn nor grow. How we take the feedback is just as crucial. According to Young, there are three types of feedback. @@ -32214,7 +32214,7 @@ Expose yourself as much as possible to that task you are trying to learn. We can Each attempt whether successful or not will be fresh in your mind with the next attempt. Maybe the one thing you thought was perfect the last attempt fails the next attempt. Regardless, each attempt will garner new information. -Faster...",,21,ImNotSlash,1569443507.0 +Faster...",,21,ImNotSlash,2019-09-25 20:31:47 marriedredpill,d8k816,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 24, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -32223,7 +32223,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,27,AutoModerator,1569313462.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,27,AutoModerator,2019-09-24 08:24:22 marriedredpill,d7klkt,Glossary of Notes to Increase Lifts: The Overhead Press,"In case anybody gives a fuck, here’s a couple of tricks that I have learned over the years to increase your overhead press: Assistance Exercises to Improve Overhead Press: @@ -32249,7 +32249,7 @@ As you engage the overhead press, the first thing you want to do is to maintain Reasons you may be failing and how to improve: -Positioning, timing, and speed, are important factors in the Overhead Press, but you also want the strength to be able to do so under maximal load. As with all kinetic chains, there is always a weak point and the overhead press is no exception. If you struggle with producing enough force to create the inertia to move the bar at all off the chest/ starting position, your shoulders, upper chest, triceps, and core may be weak. If you struggle with getting the bar past the “sticking point” (half-way point on the concentric portion of the lift), your shoulders, triceps, and core may be weak. If you are all over the place and not “solid” or steady throughout any portion of the overhead press, you probably have a weak core need to strengthen that to improve. Also, keep in mind that doing lat, chest and anterior Delt mobility, having a solid and well-practiced “set-up” position consisting of optimal grip width for you, neutral spine, constant scapular retraction, and driving through the bar by flexing your quads, glutes and core throughout the entire press - will basically guarantee you lift more weight, because instead of wasting energy by fighting to stay in proper position, you’ll instead be in proper position and using all of that energy to focus on maximal power output through the kinetic chain. Again, these are common points where guys hit plateaus, and how they can overcome them with the overhead press. Will post again next week with the Olympic Lifts.",,67,NeoTheJuanDJ,1569119871.0 +Positioning, timing, and speed, are important factors in the Overhead Press, but you also want the strength to be able to do so under maximal load. As with all kinetic chains, there is always a weak point and the overhead press is no exception. If you struggle with producing enough force to create the inertia to move the bar at all off the chest/ starting position, your shoulders, upper chest, triceps, and core may be weak. If you struggle with getting the bar past the “sticking point” (half-way point on the concentric portion of the lift), your shoulders, triceps, and core may be weak. If you are all over the place and not “solid” or steady throughout any portion of the overhead press, you probably have a weak core need to strengthen that to improve. Also, keep in mind that doing lat, chest and anterior Delt mobility, having a solid and well-practiced “set-up” position consisting of optimal grip width for you, neutral spine, constant scapular retraction, and driving through the bar by flexing your quads, glutes and core throughout the entire press - will basically guarantee you lift more weight, because instead of wasting energy by fighting to stay in proper position, you’ll instead be in proper position and using all of that energy to focus on maximal power output through the kinetic chain. Again, these are common points where guys hit plateaus, and how they can overcome them with the overhead press. Will post again next week with the Olympic Lifts.",,67,NeoTheJuanDJ,2019-09-22 02:37:51 marriedredpill,d6hd97,"""Manning 101"" and the MRP End Game","Any grown-up human who fails to ""adult"" is a worthless drag on society, and on anyone unfortunate enough to be attached to them. Similarly, any adult male who fails to ""man"" is just a sterile, androgynous, inferior sort of dude/woman-with-a-penis who adds little value to any woman. @@ -32446,7 +32446,7 @@ Carry on doing you! Don't get arrogant or lazy. Don't neglect the basics. -May your Frame always be with you.",,173,man_in_the_world,1568914272.0 +May your Frame always be with you.",,173,man_in_the_world,2019-09-19 17:31:12 marriedredpill,d5s42v,The 90/10 Rule of MRP,"**The MRP approved still mess up sometimes** Even years after swallowing the pill and practicing, in my head I occasionally say “fuck this. I messed up and relapsed into BP, and it’s just not worth the effort to try and fix.” **Yes, MRP guys fuck up too, sometimes badly** @@ -32491,7 +32491,7 @@ Ultimately, it’s up to you to do the work. Guys are coming on here in droves Then , one day you wake up and you realize you are 90 RP / 10 BP. -But, you have to put in the work, and it starts with the sidebar, lifting, and STFU",,79,BobbyPeru,1568778042.0 +But, you have to put in the work, and it starts with the sidebar, lifting, and STFU",,79,BobbyPeru,2019-09-18 03:40:42 marriedredpill,d5e01f,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 17, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -32500,7 +32500,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,25,AutoModerator,1568708663.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,25,AutoModerator,2019-09-17 08:24:23 marriedredpill,d56tit,When Your Motivation Changed,"Recently, I’ve been dealing with a lack of motivation. Others have pointed it out in OYS threads - I’ll notice a problem, resolve to fix it, and have the same problem re-emerge. @@ -32525,8 +32525,8 @@ And I swear to god if anyone talks about stoicism in here I will kick your ass. <3 -PS OH, I forgot to add. The corollary here - I worked on getting myself pissed off and crushed at the gym where I’d struggled previously. So anger clearly works as a motivator, but I feel like my odds of a sudden stroke increase at the same time. Doesn’t feel sustainable.",,40,resolutions316,1568668627.0 -marriedredpill,d4mnf7,[Things MRP already knows] Marital satisfaction is linked to women’s sexual desire,,https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/dating-and-mating/201909/marital-satisfaction-is-linked-women-s-sexual-desire,109,[deleted],1568564552.0 +PS OH, I forgot to add. The corollary here - I worked on getting myself pissed off and crushed at the gym where I’d struggled previously. So anger clearly works as a motivator, but I feel like my odds of a sudden stroke increase at the same time. Doesn’t feel sustainable.",,40,resolutions316,2019-09-16 21:17:07 +marriedredpill,d4mnf7,[Things MRP already knows] Marital satisfaction is linked to women’s sexual desire,,https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/dating-and-mating/201909/marital-satisfaction-is-linked-women-s-sexual-desire,109,[deleted],2019-09-15 16:22:32 marriedredpill,d45plx,Lessons in Abundance: The Blonde and the Big Raise,"Abundance is the same in every area, I'm learning. I recently had two jobs competing for me, and I leveraged the fuck out of that situation to get the largest single raise of my career. My current job is like my cute brunette wife at home, we have a long history of mostly good reviews. Employer #2 was the sexy blonde at the gym - sending me all the Indicators of Interest and asking me to meet her at the bar, just to talk. It would have been easy to say no to her invitation - I was happily employed, and I was busy, and I was tired, and I had things going on that night. @@ -32579,7 +32579,7 @@ I am damn glad you asked this question, because I had no idea how to answer it. I am intentional about how I convey myself to others at work - and I do not expose my true self to anyone. Why does this matter? Because ""Just Be Yourself"" is bad advice in the workplace as much as it is in the dating pool. Perception matters more than reality at the office (or maybe *everywhere*?). Be 100% authentic, yes - but be strategic in what you are revealing. I began to manage my perception like it was my brand name. Realize that if you show up on time, smile, and actually do your job, you're already doing better than 90% of your competition. At work, this means I look and act the part of a really good company man, and part of it is fabricated. Say YES, then do whatever the hell you were going to do anyways. I maintain the appearance of a guy who is 'passionate' about his 'career trajectory' even while I'm 'working on my side business' during this 'conference call about synergy'. I figured out what kind of Drunk Captain my boss is, and used this to my advantage. I sought out a guy who was doing what I wanted to do in my career (but wasn't an enormous company man douchebag), and asked for his direction - that helped a lot. I started noticing when I would slip into another person's frame at work, and quit doing that (practice, fail, calibrate, try again). Then I started paying attention to the signs that people were entering my frame at work and elsewhere (mirroring my body language and tone, using the same words I use, mimicking my vision or phrases when they talk to other people). I started speaking a lot less in general. Started using all the tools in NMMNG to make sure I wasn't getting trampled by assholes at work. I stopped caring about whether people at work thought I was nice, and instead focused on making sure the best parts of me are being highlighted to *my* advantage. I dress just a *little* better than everyone else, every day; but I make sure to occasionally rock the full suit and show up looking like the fucking CEO. I doubled down in my focus on eye contact, speaking with confidence and authority - even if it means interrupting someone or being confrontational to make my point. I had to learn to not treat coworkers like friends, after doing so harmed me more than once. I make sure that my boss perceives me as being loyal, available and teachable (*even if I'm not*) - but I make sure I'm always moving his career forward. In the past, I would divulge my actual struggles and true weak areas with my bosses, fuck that. Now I manage that relationship entirely: I intentionally prop up shallow goals with my boss that I know are readily acheivable to me (""time management""), but I treat them as I would treat a true goal, giving him updates when we meet - then I crush them. It's easy to create visible, acheivable goals that seem profound, while allowing my own selfish goals to remain private (especially if you're already a Red Pilled man, you're going to be doing better at your job than the average guy). I conceal my intentions, schedules and location from my peers, so I enjoy a lot of autonomy - but I'm also very discrete and never let myself get caught without plausible deniability. I don't complain. Let me repeat that - I don't complain about my job, to anyone. I don't participate in gossip, which means I end up doing a lot of listening and saying phrases like ""Seems like you're really upset about this"", without getting involved. One of the laws of power is something like, Think As You Will, But Act Like Others - which means I appear engaged and thoughtful at work, even when others are focusing on petty bullshit that I don't care about. Without being condescening, I started talking to my peers and team members as though they were my own teenage children (ironically, this will make people like you, ask you why you're such a ""people person"", which is almost comical). When a problem arises I tackle it first then come to my boss with my solution already in place. When my boss says I screwed up, I thank him for the feedback, don't DEER, and ask how to do better next time. I take extreme ownership for things that others don't want to be accountable for. I send emails propping out other people for the hard work that they did to make my project a success - subtle things like this that are done from a position of power, not from a position of gloating or asking for attention. -You know, having typed it all out like this, the 48 Laws Of Power could be tied back to almost every sentence. It sure isn't a list of traditional career advice, but if I'm being honest, these are the things that actually moved me forward.",,103,BarracudaRP,1568470540.0 +You know, having typed it all out like this, the 48 Laws Of Power could be tied back to almost every sentence. It sure isn't a list of traditional career advice, but if I'm being honest, these are the things that actually moved me forward.",,103,BarracudaRP,2019-09-14 14:15:40 marriedredpill,d3xukc,Glossary of Notes to Increase Lifts: The Bench Press,"In case anybody gives a fuck, here’s a couple of tricks that I have learned over the years to increase your bench: Assistance Exercises to Improve Bench Press: @@ -32606,7 +32606,7 @@ As you engage the ascent, you want to feel as if you are driving yourself into t Reasons why you may be failing and how to improve: -Positioning and speed are important factors in the bench press, but you also want the strength to be able to do so under maximal load. As with all kinetic chains, there is always a weak point and the bench press is no exception. If you struggle with maintaining complete control of the bar as it descends (especially towards the chest) your triceps may be weak. If you struggle getting the bar off your chest, your chest and shoulders may be weak. If you struggle with the “sticking point” (aka the half-way point of the concentric portion coming out of the bottom of the bench press), your chest, shoulders and triceps may be weak. If you are all over the place and not “solid” or steady throughout any portion of the bench, you probably have a weak core need to strengthen that to improve. Also, keep in mind that having a solid and well-practiced “set-up” - will basically guarantee you lift more weight, because instead of wasting energy by fighting to stay in proper position, you’ll instead be in proper position and using all of that energy to focus on maximal power output through the kinetic chain. Again, these are common points where guys hit plateaus, and how they can overcome them with the bench press. Will post again next week with the standing overhead/ military press.",,22,NeoTheJuanDJ,1568419328.0 +Positioning and speed are important factors in the bench press, but you also want the strength to be able to do so under maximal load. As with all kinetic chains, there is always a weak point and the bench press is no exception. If you struggle with maintaining complete control of the bar as it descends (especially towards the chest) your triceps may be weak. If you struggle getting the bar off your chest, your chest and shoulders may be weak. If you struggle with the “sticking point” (aka the half-way point of the concentric portion coming out of the bottom of the bench press), your chest, shoulders and triceps may be weak. If you are all over the place and not “solid” or steady throughout any portion of the bench, you probably have a weak core need to strengthen that to improve. Also, keep in mind that having a solid and well-practiced “set-up” - will basically guarantee you lift more weight, because instead of wasting energy by fighting to stay in proper position, you’ll instead be in proper position and using all of that energy to focus on maximal power output through the kinetic chain. Again, these are common points where guys hit plateaus, and how they can overcome them with the bench press. Will post again next week with the standing overhead/ military press.",,22,NeoTheJuanDJ,2019-09-14 00:02:08 marriedredpill,d3s1y1,[FR] Unstoppable Emotional Inertia,"You ever feel a weight fall off your shoulders? Between two closely scheduled trials, the last month has been insanely busy. My wife's also in her busy season at work. Even though she's at 70% instead of full-time, the stress was more from the nature of the work and the fact that even at 70% she's working over 60 hours a week. On Wednesday the judge realized she had a scheduling conflict and decided to continue next week's trial. Woohoo! I'm ecstatic. My wife ... less so. ""I'm quitting my job."" ""I hate my life."" ""I just can't do this anymore."" ""By not letting me quit - **that's abuse. I am being abused.**"" She was mad. I don't blame her. She hadn't seen me for the last 48 hours because I was working until after 2am each night, so she's dealing with her busy season, horrible clients, and our 4 kids all on her own for 2 days straight. @@ -32637,7 +32637,7 @@ _____ I'm a bit of a junkie for musicals - they're partly what pulled me out of the emotionally robotic crappy frame I grew up with. If you want to see what unstoppable emotional inertia looks like, watch [The Schmuel Song, from *The Last Five Years*](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=paMvQ4rziqc). Anna Kendrick slams the door after a bad day, huffing and puffing, repulsed at Jeremy Jordan's efforts to cheer her up. But he's a writer and is excited about his latest story, so he's going to tell his story instead of screwing around with trying to fix his harpy. Cue the video. -While pseudo-fiction (the play is closely based on the author's own marriage/divorce), it's the best visual example I've seen of maintaining frame and drawing a woman in, if guys don't know what this looks like. It's much closer to a realistic picture (minus the singing, unless you're me) than what you'll find in other works of fiction where it just seems forced.",,79,Red-Curious,1568393366.0 +While pseudo-fiction (the play is closely based on the author's own marriage/divorce), it's the best visual example I've seen of maintaining frame and drawing a woman in, if guys don't know what this looks like. It's much closer to a realistic picture (minus the singing, unless you're me) than what you'll find in other works of fiction where it just seems forced.",,79,Red-Curious,2019-09-13 16:49:26 marriedredpill,d2rvsm,Depressive and Anxious Wives: Converting Dread to Desire (Part 3),"If you’ve previously read my posts about Depressive and Anxious Wives (Part 1 & Part 2), this is a journey to continue that topic. I would suggest that you read both posts before continuing with this one. As usual, keep this in my mind: **It’s all your fault.** Part 1: Depressive and Anxious Wives: [How it’s all your fault](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/asqi8r/depressive_and_anxious_wives_how_its_all_your/) @@ -32688,7 +32688,7 @@ Because you know what? Through you direction, leadership, authenticity and great capacity to love…. There aren’t many men in this world like you anymore. You are the prize. You are the man who draws desire out of your woman. -Edit: [Part 4: Authenticity, Feelz 2.0, Shitty Comfort & Penetration](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/doalmp/depressive_and_anxious_wives_authenticity_feelz/)",,152,HornsOfApathy,1568215582.0 +Edit: [Part 4: Authenticity, Feelz 2.0, Shitty Comfort & Penetration](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/doalmp/depressive_and_anxious_wives_authenticity_feelz/)",,152,HornsOfApathy,2019-09-11 15:26:22 marriedredpill,d22ezl,Stoicism as a Tool in TRP,"The following is a general overview of stoic philosophy, with examples of Marcus Aurelius, influenced largely from a recorded speech performed by Professor Michael Sugrue. This speech can be viewed and is available on YouTube at this link : https://youtu.be/5897dMWJiSM , and tailored for practical use, as a tool in symbiosis with Red Pill awareness: “The tranquility that comes when you stop caring what they say. Or think, or do. Only what you do. Not to be distracted by their darkness. To run straight for the finish line, unswerving.” - Marcus Aurelius @@ -32717,7 +32717,7 @@ A man could easily sit back and kick his feet up, let his hair down, crack open This explains how stoicism can be used, as a tool, in combination with the Red Pill, to ultimately overcome fear, free of a mindset that doesn’t serve you, and to instead allocate your resources towards a mindset and strategy that does serve you. - To help you move forward in your life where you may be stagnating/ hitting plateaus. -“At some point you have to recognize what world it is that you belong to; what power rules it and from what source you spring; that there is a limit to the time assigned you, and if you don’t use it to free yourself it will be gone and will never return.”",,56,NeoTheJuanDJ,1568088299.0 +“At some point you have to recognize what world it is that you belong to; what power rules it and from what source you spring; that there is a limit to the time assigned you, and if you don’t use it to free yourself it will be gone and will never return.”",,56,NeoTheJuanDJ,2019-09-10 04:04:59 marriedredpill,d24nb9,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 10, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -32726,7 +32726,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,1568103871.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,18,AutoModerator,2019-09-10 08:24:31 marriedredpill,d1kwpe,Fear,"*""We suffer more often in imagination than we do in reality."" -Seneca* Overcoming my real and imagined fears, and actively seeking more fear, has become an important cornerstone of my frame for a range of reasons. Control of your real and imagined fears is a prerequisite of a Leader, dare I say, an Alpha. It’s a topic I'd like to expand on here. @@ -32743,7 +32743,7 @@ All of what I described since you got on the plane is overthinking in response t **Facing and controlling your real and imagined fears should be a priority area for your ongoing development. Proving such mastery of fear is a clear indication of a leader of men.** -*We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light. - Plato*",,62,simbarlion,1567996787.0 +*We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light. - Plato*",,62,simbarlion,2019-09-09 02:39:47 marriedredpill,d0j3dh,The Autist's Formula for Tingles," Some of you guys are so damned nerdy that it makes even a spreadsheet-loving faggot like myself cringe awkwardly. So, because it’s Friday and I’m better than you, I’m going to pander to your sperginess and make this easy for you to grasp. There is a very simple formula for generating true, lasting tingles. Get our your fountain pen, faggots, and start writing this shit down. Here is the formula with the variables on a 1-10 scale (obviously 1 being you guys and 10 being me). @@ -32780,7 +32780,7 @@ Think this shit isn't fair? It isn't. Life isn't fair. It never was. But you And just remember autists, the formula is simple. -Frame + Game + Attractiveness = Tingles... but you are your weakest link.",,85,CaptJohnLukeDiscard,1567787974.0 +Frame + Game + Attractiveness = Tingles... but you are your weakest link.",,85,CaptJohnLukeDiscard,2019-09-06 16:39:34 marriedredpill,d08fh5,What Is Your Real SMV?,"The core tenet of TRP is that us humans have evolved in such a way that there is a constant competition between men and women in the sexual marketplace. Equally axiomatic is the tenant that, for a man, increasing SMV leads naturally to improved sexual success. RP followers understand that SMV has real components (fitness, financial success, health) and perceived components (social status, frame, presentation). This is somewhat arbitrary, as real components can be faked in the short term, but overall it is simple to see the distinction as long as you don't overthink it. The first advice given out of the gate to a newbie like me is to start lifting and STFU. This allows one to start building their *real* SMV while preventing us from further destroying their *percieved* SMV by beta puking all over the place, getting pulled out of our fragile frames, etc. @@ -32835,7 +32835,7 @@ So (4+2+8)/3 = 4.7. I'm a goddamned 4.7/10. No wonder no one is sucking my dick. So remind yourselves, guys. It's cool to be in the 1K club, but that's only a 7/10. Sure, that's a 7/10 out of people who lift (probably much better in the general population) but it's what your wife sees. -I know exactly what my next steps are. Adding 50lbs to each lift and dropping to 15%bf would move me from a 4.7 to a 6.7, assuming I make enough strides with frame, fashion, and social life to back it up. I have some work to do.",,32,Balls_Wellington_,1567725472.0 +I know exactly what my next steps are. Adding 50lbs to each lift and dropping to 15%bf would move me from a 4.7 to a 6.7, assuming I make enough strides with frame, fashion, and social life to back it up. I have some work to do.",,32,Balls_Wellington_,2019-09-05 23:17:52 marriedredpill,cztkeq,Glossary of Notes to Increase Lifts: The Deadlift,"In case anybody gives a fuck, here’s a couple of tricks that I have learned over the years to increase your deadlift: “The Deadlift: 20% Physical and Programming, 10% Mental, 70% Technical” - Dave Tate, EliteFTS @@ -32860,7 +32860,7 @@ The key to a stronger deadlift is a combination of strength, positioning, and sp Reasons you may be failing and how to improve: -Positioning, timing, and speed, are important factors in the deadlift, but you also want the strength to be able to do so under maximal load. As with all kinetic chains, there is always a weak point and the deadlift is no exception. If you struggle with pulling from the floor, your hamstrings and glutes may be weak. You also may be over-trained. This is arguably the most taxing portion of the movement in terms CNS activation, and if you have an excess of accumulated fatigue, you are more prone to getting stuck here. If you struggle with getting past the knee-mid thigh, your glutes, hamstrings, and/or upper back (traps, rhomboids, lats) may be weak. If you struggle with keeping the bar close to you, you “cave over” at any point and drop your chest/ arch your upper back, and lose structural integrity of the spine, you may have weak upper back, lats, and glutes. Also, keep in mind that doing mobility work to improve thoracic extension, hip and ankle mobility, and core strength - will basically guarantee you lift more weight, because instead of wasting energy by fighting to stay in proper position, you’ll instead be in proper position and using all of that energy to focus on maximal power output through the kinetic chain. Again, these are common points where guys hit plateaus, and how they can overcome them with the deadlift. Will post again next week with the bench press.",,46,NeoTheJuanDJ,1567644318.0 +Positioning, timing, and speed, are important factors in the deadlift, but you also want the strength to be able to do so under maximal load. As with all kinetic chains, there is always a weak point and the deadlift is no exception. If you struggle with pulling from the floor, your hamstrings and glutes may be weak. You also may be over-trained. This is arguably the most taxing portion of the movement in terms CNS activation, and if you have an excess of accumulated fatigue, you are more prone to getting stuck here. If you struggle with getting past the knee-mid thigh, your glutes, hamstrings, and/or upper back (traps, rhomboids, lats) may be weak. If you struggle with keeping the bar close to you, you “cave over” at any point and drop your chest/ arch your upper back, and lose structural integrity of the spine, you may have weak upper back, lats, and glutes. Also, keep in mind that doing mobility work to improve thoracic extension, hip and ankle mobility, and core strength - will basically guarantee you lift more weight, because instead of wasting energy by fighting to stay in proper position, you’ll instead be in proper position and using all of that energy to focus on maximal power output through the kinetic chain. Again, these are common points where guys hit plateaus, and how they can overcome them with the deadlift. Will post again next week with the bench press.",,46,NeoTheJuanDJ,2019-09-05 00:45:18 marriedredpill,czlrrp,What’s stopping you?,"You wanna be a better role model for your kids What’s stopping you? @@ -32927,7 +32927,7 @@ What’s stopping you? You wanna have a clear vision and mission for your life -Then what the fuck is stopping you?",,66,[deleted],1567608046.0 +Then what the fuck is stopping you?",,66,[deleted],2019-09-04 14:40:46 marriedredpill,cz20iv,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 03, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -32936,7 +32936,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1567499074.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2019-09-03 08:24:34 marriedredpill,cwkxs9,Quit Being a Lazy Cunt.,"Seven months ago, [u/SteelSharpensSteel](https://www.reddit.com/user/SteelSharpensSteel/) wrote the [ultimate guide to MRP](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/acvzgx/steels_guide_to_married_red_pill/). It is by far the most comprehensive guide you could read on the forum. A truly awesome piece of work. Between that - with all the links to various books and articles - and all the posts you'll find on the forums, all your answers are there. Everything you need to know about frame, game, lifting, STFU, divorce, OYS etc, etfuckingcetera. It's there. You just have to read through it and find the answers that you are looking for. Despite that - some of you fuckers are apparently too lazy to read. Some of you fuckers are too lazy to do the work. Steel is practically spoon feeding MRP down your necks, yet you are too fucking lazy to open your fat fucking mouths for anything other than a donut. @@ -32963,7 +32963,7 @@ And if you can't do that, then don't fucking message me with your fucking lazy c I'm not going to name and shame anyone here, you know who [you](https://www.reddit.com/user/hydrastas) are. -Quit being a lazy cunt.",,141,[deleted],1566999482.0 +Quit being a lazy cunt.",,141,[deleted],2019-08-28 13:38:02 marriedredpill,cwbbtg,Glossary of Notes to Increase Lifts: The Squat,"In case anybody gives a fuck, here’s a couple of tricks that I have learned over the years to increase your squat: Assistance Exercises to Improve Squat: @@ -32982,7 +32982,7 @@ The key to a stronger squat is a combination of strength, positioning, and timin Reasons why you may be failing and how to improve: -Positioning and timing are important factors in the squat, but you also want the strength to be able to do so under maximal load. As with all kinetic chains, there is always a weak point and the squat is no exception. If you struggle with keeping your knees out while coming out of the bottom, your glutes may be weak. If you struggle with the “sticking point” (aka the half-way point of the concentric portion coming out of the bottom of the squat), your quads may be weak, if you are all over the place and not “solid” or steady throughout any portion of the squat, you probably have a weak core and/or hips and need to strengthen those to improve. Also, keep in mind that doing mobility work to improve thoracic extension, hip and ankle mobility, and core strength - will basically guarantee you lift more weight, because instead of wasting energy by fighting to stay in proper position, you’ll instead be in proper position and using all of that energy to focus on maximal power output through the kinetic chain. Again, these are common points where guys hit plateaus, and how they can overcome them with the squat. Will post again next week with the deadlift.",,37,NeoTheJuanDJ,1566943287.0 +Positioning and timing are important factors in the squat, but you also want the strength to be able to do so under maximal load. As with all kinetic chains, there is always a weak point and the squat is no exception. If you struggle with keeping your knees out while coming out of the bottom, your glutes may be weak. If you struggle with the “sticking point” (aka the half-way point of the concentric portion coming out of the bottom of the squat), your quads may be weak, if you are all over the place and not “solid” or steady throughout any portion of the squat, you probably have a weak core and/or hips and need to strengthen those to improve. Also, keep in mind that doing mobility work to improve thoracic extension, hip and ankle mobility, and core strength - will basically guarantee you lift more weight, because instead of wasting energy by fighting to stay in proper position, you’ll instead be in proper position and using all of that energy to focus on maximal power output through the kinetic chain. Again, these are common points where guys hit plateaus, and how they can overcome them with the squat. Will post again next week with the deadlift.",,37,NeoTheJuanDJ,2019-08-27 22:01:27 marriedredpill,cw1gx9,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 27, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -32991,7 +32991,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,1566894273.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,23,AutoModerator,2019-08-27 08:24:33 marriedredpill,cvo07b,Echo Chamber,"Echo Chamber: An enclosed space where sound reverberates. I, and you probably also - have an echo chamber. It is located in your head. @@ -33038,7 +33038,7 @@ You echo chamber can be a very beautiful, healthy place to visit from time to ti But get the fuck out of there ASAP. -The only place you can make real change is outside your Echo Chamber.",,62,red-sfpplus,1566825672.0 +The only place you can make real change is outside your Echo Chamber.",,62,red-sfpplus,2019-08-26 13:21:12 marriedredpill,cuqa4e,You don't get a break from being the Oak,"I haven’t put this out here on MRP, because I frankly didn’t want the pity or the small loss to anonymity, but I now want to put it out there because it may help somebody understand AWALT. And because it’s pussy shit to not put it out there. I’ve taken from this place for months, and I want to give back. I know a couple of you other guys on here have gone through some similar shit, and have the scars to prove it. So here it is: my son died at a little under a year old last year. He spent a little over a month in the ICU with meningitis, and I could see how poor his hospital course was going. I could see how the seizures were progressively getting worse even on the Phenobarbital. I saw how awful his most recent head MRI was. I saw how my wife was pretty much clueless that we would come to a point where we would have to make a decision to remove care or not. So I slowly prepared her for it. Eventually the time came. The outlook for him was awful. We chose to withdraw care and let him have his peace, and I know we made the right choice. @@ -33049,14 +33049,14 @@ In December of last year, my wife and I were on a trip together for my work, and Here’s how she handled it: She wanted to get a plane ticket, and leave me there for my work trip. She framed it as giving me the space I needed, but she literally had no idea how to handle a “man” who was acting like that. She couldn’t know how to handle it. She was so clueless and repulsed that she wanted to buy a fucking ticket to get away from me. And I can’t blame her. I had been strong and stoic through it all, but I slipped one fucking time and she wanted to bail. This is what eventually opened my eyes and led me to this haven of faggots and Wise men (and the fact that we had been heading to a dead bedroom for years). This is what eventually led me to the promise to myself that nobody will ever see me cry again. -This is what you are up against if you think your wife is some kind of unicorn. This shit is as real as it gets. You don't get a break for the worst thing that could ever happen to you. Ask u/johneyapocalypse. If you think your sweet wife will be there for you through thick and thin, you better damn sure be the Oak during those times of thick and thin. She will travel through miles of shit to be there with you, if you have the value she craves. She will also travel through miles of shit to get away from your sorry ass if you slip, even one time. But understand that it doesn’t matter if the direction is down the shit stream, or up the shit stream: You’re alone. Anything else is a compliment to your awesome or shitty life. Might as well make it an awesome life. Be the prize, be your own source of happiness, and live out your mission and vision.",,180,RP_PO,1566630525.0 +This is what you are up against if you think your wife is some kind of unicorn. This shit is as real as it gets. You don't get a break for the worst thing that could ever happen to you. Ask u/johneyapocalypse. If you think your sweet wife will be there for you through thick and thin, you better damn sure be the Oak during those times of thick and thin. She will travel through miles of shit to be there with you, if you have the value she craves. She will also travel through miles of shit to get away from your sorry ass if you slip, even one time. But understand that it doesn’t matter if the direction is down the shit stream, or up the shit stream: You’re alone. Anything else is a compliment to your awesome or shitty life. Might as well make it an awesome life. Be the prize, be your own source of happiness, and live out your mission and vision.",,180,RP_PO,2019-08-24 07:08:45 marriedredpill,cui28g,"Discipline, Consistency, and Vision"," This is not a post about creating an idealistic plan (that is blue pill), and “shooting for the stars”, this is about checking YOURSELF on how consistent you are, how disciplined you are, and whether you even know what the fuck you want now, in a year, in five/ten/fifteen years from now. In order to do so, you have to be willing to critically assess your performance in these three areas with 100% honesty and accountability. This is to wake up motherfuckers. Discipline, backed by consistency, applied towards a well-thought-out vision (or MAP) is the most important and effective recipe for success. What do you want? It’s clear here we all want to get common areas of our lives together to meet our vision. But how do you figure getting your dick wet more often is any different (in terms of work, time, and energy applied) than making that sale with that big client? What makes you think getting proficient in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu because you don’t feel confident you can protect you and your wife when you’re out at night, is any different than learning how to dress well, correct your poor posture, and to refine your social skills and game? -How you do any thing is how you do every thing. I see guys on here all the time saying they want things to match their vision but aren’t staying disciplined in their actionable steps, who willingly aren’t staying consistent day-to-day and falling off the path, all of which is required to follow your vision and to move towards what YOU want for yourself. Are you serious about this? Because I’ll remind you there are guys literally killing themselves because they never found the information you have saved in the “bookmarks” on your phone. Guys that may have actually implemented these tools and strategies to fix their situation, had they known, as if their lives depended on it. Do you act like that? Be honest with yourself. Are you doing everything you can to fix your situation, knowing how to do it, like your life depended on it? Or are you half-assing things again (sound familiar? - like your old “former” self??). You want the changes, they require discipline, consistency, and in the direction of and moving towards your vision. You are either serious or you’re not. You have a second chance. Don’t keep that on the shelf to collect dust. Do it, everything in your vision, like your life depends on it.",,34,Slim-Pickins-,1566585889.0 +How you do any thing is how you do every thing. I see guys on here all the time saying they want things to match their vision but aren’t staying disciplined in their actionable steps, who willingly aren’t staying consistent day-to-day and falling off the path, all of which is required to follow your vision and to move towards what YOU want for yourself. Are you serious about this? Because I’ll remind you there are guys literally killing themselves because they never found the information you have saved in the “bookmarks” on your phone. Guys that may have actually implemented these tools and strategies to fix their situation, had they known, as if their lives depended on it. Do you act like that? Be honest with yourself. Are you doing everything you can to fix your situation, knowing how to do it, like your life depended on it? Or are you half-assing things again (sound familiar? - like your old “former” self??). You want the changes, they require discipline, consistency, and in the direction of and moving towards your vision. You are either serious or you’re not. You have a second chance. Don’t keep that on the shelf to collect dust. Do it, everything in your vision, like your life depends on it.",,34,Slim-Pickins-,2019-08-23 18:44:49 marriedredpill,cu36w5,A Chapter on Frame,"If I fluently speak the language of game and seduction, but have no frame - I am only a [dancing monkey](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/74yepr/the_dancing_monkey_attraction_improvement/) or attention seeking [clown](https://www.rooshv.com/men-are-nothing-more-than-clowns-to-the-modern-woman). If I have the gift of [swole](https://www.reddit.com/r/swoleacceptance/) and understand all the mysteries of TRT and have a body blessed by Brodin himself, but do not have frame - I am nothing. @@ -33071,7 +33071,7 @@ I learn, I grow, and I seek congruence and completeness with what I have learned Right now, I see only a vision of the future, but soon, it will be fully realized. Now I know only in part, but then I shall know fully and be fully known. -And now these three remain: game, lifting, and frame. **But the greatest of these is frame.**",,85,Cloudy_Pirate,1566505906.0 +And now these three remain: game, lifting, and frame. **But the greatest of these is frame.**",,85,Cloudy_Pirate,2019-08-22 20:31:46 marriedredpill,cth4ws,A Man and His Struggle,"A man from a remote village walks 5 miles each day to get water from the nearest source for his family. The walk is not treacherous as he doesn't fear for his life, but it does place a burden on him physically, as the blisters on his feet hurt during an especially rocky part of the trail, mentally as he struggles with the load, and wishes for an easier way, and emotionally as it takes him away from his sons and daughters, his wife, and his village. &nbsp; @@ -33094,7 +33094,7 @@ Do you tell him about the aquifer? In absence of you telling him, should he sear &nbsp; -Now let's say there is no aquifer, but he is searching for it. Do you tell him there is no aquifer? In absence of you telling him, should he not search for it? Is the struggles he faces searching for something he will not find better than the acceptance he had not knowing about it?",,41,[deleted],1566395402.0 +Now let's say there is no aquifer, but he is searching for it. Do you tell him there is no aquifer? In absence of you telling him, should he not search for it? Is the struggles he faces searching for something he will not find better than the acceptance he had not knowing about it?",,41,[deleted],2019-08-21 13:50:02 marriedredpill,csux0d,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 20, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -33103,7 +33103,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,32,AutoModerator,1566289482.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,32,AutoModerator,2019-08-20 08:24:42 marriedredpill,cs1d0n,The Three Captains,"Three ships with three different captains were sailing alonside each other. Ahead of them was a huge storm forming. On the first ship, the 1st officer came running to the captain. @@ -33124,7 +33124,7 @@ And behold, the same scene played out also on the third ship. This ship had the &#x200B; -End of story.",,131,ice_walker,1566135919.0 +End of story.",,131,ice_walker,2019-08-18 13:45:19 marriedredpill,cpq6m3,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 13, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -33133,7 +33133,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,26,AutoModerator,1565684675.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,26,AutoModerator,2019-08-13 08:24:35 marriedredpill,cmnwtr,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 06, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -33142,7 +33142,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,26,AutoModerator,1565079877.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,26,AutoModerator,2019-08-06 08:24:37 marriedredpill,cldaxh,The Underhanded Nature of Covert Contracts,"**Covert Contract**: I will do this for you so you will do something for me. We will both act as if we have no awareness of this contract. Nice Guys try to appear needless and wantless. They focus on meeting everyone else's needs while neglecting their own. They're always available when a friend needs a favor or a boss asks them to work late while simultaneously neglecting their needs at home. This ensures that their own needs are never met. They make a covert contract such as ""I'm a nice guy and I work hard. My wife should give me sex."" @@ -33173,7 +33173,7 @@ Deliberately do good things for yourself. When you do nice things for yourself y Do these things without sabotaging your efforts. When you're a recovering nice guy you're dealing with cognitive dissonance by simultaneously trying to get your needs met while also believing you have no value. You must get to a point where you know you have value without any external attachments. You're not valuable because of your accomplishments, income, looks, status, a pretty wife. You're valuable because you value yourself. This is the foundation of your Frame: ""I have value."" -When you are able to start from a place of value you can work effectively to meet your own needs. You stop with the covert contracts because you actually want to meet your needs and **you do the work necessary to ensure that happens**. When you are solid in your own Frame with an internal ""knowing"" of your intrinsic value, then and only then can you begin to lead and help others.",,97,Iammrp2,1564798202.0 +When you are able to start from a place of value you can work effectively to meet your own needs. You stop with the covert contracts because you actually want to meet your needs and **you do the work necessary to ensure that happens**. When you are solid in your own Frame with an internal ""knowing"" of your intrinsic value, then and only then can you begin to lead and help others.",,97,Iammrp2,2019-08-03 02:10:02 marriedredpill,ckk9gn,Alpha Widows,"Essay [https://therationalmale.com/2019/07/31/alpha-widows/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/07/31/alpha-widows/) @@ -33199,7 +33199,7 @@ The flip side to this dynamic is that, evolutionarily speaking, a woman’s subc As such, a man who exceeds a woman’s SMV, and creates a benchmark of her ‘*personal best*’ ideal male to breed with and parentally invest with, makes a significant impact on her psyche; sometimes in the long term. When a woman *has* had this man – one for whom she has genuine, organic desire for – but she cannot consolidate on him (i.e. lock down in monogamy), this represents a critical loss of the ideal Hypergamous/Reproductive/Life strategy option. Mentally this is what a woman will strive in some way to recreate with subsequent men in her life – a return to that ideal state. This then is the basis of the **Alpha Widow**: -***A mental fixation on the man who made the most significant impact upon a woman as her Hypergamous ideal.***",,70,Rollo-Tomassi,1564638591.0 +***A mental fixation on the man who made the most significant impact upon a woman as her Hypergamous ideal.***",,70,Rollo-Tomassi,2019-08-01 05:49:51 marriedredpill,cjos8c,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 30, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -33208,7 +33208,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,1564475076.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,20,AutoModerator,2019-07-30 08:24:36 marriedredpill,cjc22a,Azimuth Check,"Land Navigation is probably one of the hardest skills for an Military Officer to learn and retain. The US spends 4 years training an officer, for just about all of the branches; a lot of leadership, small unit tactics, and a handful of other basic soldiering skills. Sure there are programs that can go shorter or longer but for the most part it is 4 years. The Cadet’s abilities will vary wildly based on what program and school they come from. ROTC vs West Point vs OCS; even what university if you are ROTC can matter. Even still it usually comes down to the individual. Still there is one skill that all cadets had trouble with. Land Navigation. I never saw an exception unless that cadet had been prior service and land nav as part of his MOS. Now I don’t mean with GPS, I mean with a magnetic compass, paper map, and your pace measured out so you knew how far one step carried you. The final test would see a cadet given 5 points. All over a distance of maybe 10 miles, some points would be closer to each other than others, but you had 6 hours to complete the course. @@ -33233,7 +33233,7 @@ It has always been about your self respect. Your boundaries and knowing what yo This has always been about you. -Along the way make sure to a Take knee and check your azimuth.",,73,ReddJive,1564410930.0 +Along the way make sure to a Take knee and check your azimuth.",,73,ReddJive,2019-07-29 14:35:30 marriedredpill,cj8pgz,You can't get better without doing. And you can't do better without thinking.,"##**Past** Back in the PUA community, there were a ton of Keyboard Jockeys. These were the guys who would read all the material and theorycraft the hell out of everything. They knew the ins and outs of the lingo and would write about how all the theory should work. Those guys were morons. @@ -33311,7 +33311,7 @@ For you, dear reader, what I want you to takeaway are the following 3 points: When I read OYS posts, so many of you guys are doing great work, doing the hard stuff -- the retrospection/introspection, the adaption, and the testing of various approaches, I love it. But there are some of you guys who just flounder and wait on other people's solutions -- and the reality for those people is they simply won't succeed. They'll be in a groundhogs day loop of Day 1. -I want you all to succeed, but if you have no interest in making yourself successful, I have no interest in making this fantastic place available to you. So be sure you're setting yourself up for success with or without MRP.",,67,[deleted],1564391134.0 +I want you all to succeed, but if you have no interest in making yourself successful, I have no interest in making this fantastic place available to you. So be sure you're setting yourself up for success with or without MRP.",,67,[deleted],2019-07-29 09:05:34 marriedredpill,ci4sc5,Heirs of the Blank Slate,"Essay: [https://therationalmale.com/2019/07/26/heirs-of-the-blank-slate/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/07/26/heirs-of-the-blank-slate/) @@ -33334,7 +33334,7 @@ However, it’s a mistake to think the Blank Slate is a religion only for leftis The cover story of a ‘push for equality’ all depends on the Blank Slate notion that men and women are functional equals and all this inequality is the result of social doctrines (and plenty of *evil* men). If it’s all about social constructionism then all that’s needed is to change everyones’ programming and thus an idealized gender neutral world ought to be possible. -Male feminists, Mens Rights Activists and Masculinity Apologist organizations all have this in common – they buy into the Blank Slate and the feminist lie that gender equality is an achievable goal based on it. Most of them don’t realize they’re carrying feminist water in their egalitarian beliefs. They just believe in the hope of an “equal partnership” in their marriages and ignore or demonize the influence our evolved firmware exerts in themselves and their wives. So even when they accept intersexual differences and the influence of our firmware, the next defense of the Blank Slate is moralism.",,40,Rollo-Tomassi,1564157238.0 +Male feminists, Mens Rights Activists and Masculinity Apologist organizations all have this in common – they buy into the Blank Slate and the feminist lie that gender equality is an achievable goal based on it. Most of them don’t realize they’re carrying feminist water in their egalitarian beliefs. They just believe in the hope of an “equal partnership” in their marriages and ignore or demonize the influence our evolved firmware exerts in themselves and their wives. So even when they accept intersexual differences and the influence of our firmware, the next defense of the Blank Slate is moralism.",,40,Rollo-Tomassi,2019-07-26 16:07:18 marriedredpill,chpb2v,Going to the Moon and MRP,"Last Saturday was the 50th anniversary of Apollo 11 landing on the moon. Good shit – as I watched/read/listened to documentaries and podcasts about it the parallels with MRP became apparent. Men went to the moon, men built the rockets, men were in mission control, men died on the launchpad, men willingly plunged into the unknown and achieved greatness. ***Choose Motherfucker*** @@ -33388,7 +33388,7 @@ If you look back at sci-fi movies from the ‘60s and 70’s, the thought was we We said “it’s good enough”. Why would we want to improve more? Hell, America doesn’t even have a viable spacecraft right now. This is not the place to argue the merits or money in the space program, but what happened was we grew complacent. -Don’t grow complacent. Always be striving to improve. Keep setting new goals and work to achieve them. The moment you stop improving is the moment you start deteriorating. Always choose to improve yourself.",,70,[deleted],1564068928.0 +Don’t grow complacent. Always be striving to improve. Keep setting new goals and work to achieve them. The moment you stop improving is the moment you start deteriorating. Always choose to improve yourself.",,70,[deleted],2019-07-25 15:35:28 marriedredpill,chltlr,You don’t know how weak you are because you don’t know what strength is.," You’re new to MRP. Your life sucks. Your wife doesn’t. We get it. Your biggest problem is frame. Frame comes in two parts… physical frame and mental frame. You lack both. &#x200B; @@ -33479,7 +33479,7 @@ You need both. You need to be strong both mentally and physically. &#x200B; -Until then, you don’t know how weak you are because you don’t know what strength is.",,100,[deleted],1564049816.0 +Until then, you don’t know how weak you are because you don’t know what strength is.",,100,[deleted],2019-07-25 10:16:56 marriedredpill,chp2w6,Vetting. Why bother when boundaries are way better,"Hope everyone was entertained. I was going to post this in TRP only, as anyone who found their way here is well past the point where they have to vett a girl. It's been rightfully pointed out that some of the risks take a bit of a leap and have quite a few assumptions, but they aren't the point. It's not the bloodsport everyone was talking about, but I'm sure someone will Jacktenofhearts this beast [All 7 parts here](https://www.rianstone.com/blog/vetting1) @@ -33508,7 +33508,7 @@ The risk is ones ego. Most men who tout vetting as a relationship strategy tend Our ego tells us that this one of a kind girl is the kind of girl that we carefully observed and concluded that she was one of a kind, one in a million of her kind. For most men, the one of a kind girl wasn’t one of a kind, she was the one girl who kind of showed us any affection at all. The girl we were the kind of man that she was able to attract, he was her niche. She had a specific type of man she could attract, and we let life happen to us. -And this is why vetting does not work. Vetting implies we are taking control over our lives, and in reality, most men are letting life happen to them, and vetting provides a narrative that allows a man to pretend he doesn’t sail to wherever the winds decide to take him. For the inexperienced man (most men) he doesn’t get to decide, others will decide for him and he has to come to terms with that, hence, vetting.",,28,RStonePT,1564067894.0 +And this is why vetting does not work. Vetting implies we are taking control over our lives, and in reality, most men are letting life happen to them, and vetting provides a narrative that allows a man to pretend he doesn’t sail to wherever the winds decide to take him. For the inexperienced man (most men) he doesn’t get to decide, others will decide for him and he has to come to terms with that, hence, vetting.",,28,RStonePT,2019-07-25 15:18:14 marriedredpill,chmuoa,No Real Man Fallacy,"Ever hear of The No True Scotsman fallacy? It is a way of reinterpreting evidence in order to prevent the refutation of one’s position. Proposed counter-examples to a theory are dismissed as irrelevant solely because they are counter-examples, but purportedly because they are not what the theory is about. The No True Scotsman fallacy involves discounting evidence that would refute a proposition, concluding that it hasn’t been falsified when in fact it has. @@ -33547,7 +33547,7 @@ I was 18. Fresh out of basic training. My squad leader handed it to me at my f Yeah. ->Listen. (He pulled the beer away) Don’t let any one force you to drink. If you want to. Do it. If not. Then don’t. Don’t be forced into decisions you don’t want to make but also don’t be afraid to make them.",,32,ReddJive,1564056675.0 +>Listen. (He pulled the beer away) Don’t let any one force you to drink. If you want to. Do it. If not. Then don’t. Don’t be forced into decisions you don’t want to make but also don’t be afraid to make them.",,32,ReddJive,2019-07-25 12:11:15 marriedredpill,ch7b6j,From purple pill married to fully red pill: My Journey,"In the last 4 years, I went from purple pill to red pill. It was quite a journey, because the red pill is fucking tough to swallow even though you know what to expect from married life you still have to go through the motions. &#x200B; @@ -33738,7 +33738,7 @@ Like Rodriguez said in my favorite documentary ""Searching for sugar man"" &#x200B; -**""Nothing hits as hard as reality""**",,68,Ceerum-Tr,1563969890.0 +**""Nothing hits as hard as reality""**",,68,Ceerum-Tr,2019-07-24 12:04:50 marriedredpill,cgpvp5,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 23, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -33747,7 +33747,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,1563870276.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,24,AutoModerator,2019-07-23 08:24:36 marriedredpill,cgk6a5,Vetting and the Golden Calf,"Twitter Bros out there including Rian and Hunter are having a little tiff over vetting. @@ -33807,10 +33807,10 @@ Hedge the bet as much as possible. But since you don't know what life has in st Your only power is to walk away if you bet badly. -If you're here you fucked up once. So how about you start by vetting yourself.",,59,Taipanshimshon,1563835061.0 +If you're here you fucked up once. So how about you start by vetting yourself.",,59,Taipanshimshon,2019-07-22 22:37:41 marriedredpill,cfiwgl,FYI - the MRP sidebar is now also on the wiki,"wiki link is https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/wiki/index. -this should make it easier for those of you who are charitable enough to point newbies to the sidebar.",,45,[deleted],1563605524.0 +this should make it easier for those of you who are charitable enough to point newbies to the sidebar.",,45,[deleted],2019-07-20 06:52:04 marriedredpill,cfdsbp,The Wrong Girl,"Essay: [https://therationalmale.com/2019/07/19/the-wrong-girl/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/07/19/the-wrong-girl/) @@ -33829,7 +33829,7 @@ In this subjectivism there are no outside variables. There is no intentional mal Again, value judgements replace objectivity. If your life sucks it’s real easy to presume the individual is the cause of the suck. And any analysis (even the desire to objectively analyze) of other people’s will, motives or outside circumstance is always an *excuse*; a redirection away from owning the suck yourself. -Maybe that person was the ‘*right*‘ one all along, you just were the *wrong* one for her? Self-doubt is a key element in subjectivism.",,47,Rollo-Tomassi,1563573322.0 +Maybe that person was the ‘*right*‘ one all along, you just were the *wrong* one for her? Self-doubt is a key element in subjectivism.",,47,Rollo-Tomassi,2019-07-19 21:55:22 marriedredpill,cdyno4,Lifting Primer: Your Shoulders,"This is going to be long and a primer only. It should get you started in looking at your lifts and start dialing things in. Lifting is at the core of what we do as men. I think it’s essential. Socrates said: @@ -33889,7 +33889,7 @@ Here are some good resources to check out. [Bench Press Technique](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zw6qCAFsV0w) -Like I said this is a primer. You need to do your own research and understand the details of what you are doing. I have always believed that how a man approaches lifting is how he approaches life. Have to take care of the little things before you can do the big things.",,57,ReddJive,1563291437.0 +Like I said this is a primer. You need to do your own research and understand the details of what you are doing. I have always believed that how a man approaches lifting is how he approaches life. Have to take care of the little things before you can do the big things.",,57,ReddJive,2019-07-16 15:37:17 marriedredpill,cdua0z,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 16, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -33898,7 +33898,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,1563265474.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,2019-07-16 08:24:34 marriedredpill,cdca0q,Power Phrases and Brevity,"I've heard it said a million times, and even here on MRP it's taken as gospel: actions are more powerful than words. It's true. That's why us newer guys are told to lift heavy, read the recommended stuff, and **SHUT THE FUCK UP**. As with all advice, however, one also has to know when is the time to move beyond the basics. That's where I find myself in my redpill journey: eight months in and I've finally got a second decent thought to contribute. Here's a link to my previous MRP post from five months ago for you lazy fuckers: [https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/aol8ro/reasonable\_requests\_versus\_testing\_false\_positives/](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/aol8ro/reasonable_requests_versus_testing_false_positives/) @@ -33931,7 +33931,7 @@ More than likely you're not ready to start talking. However, if you are going to * Saying ""***It's going to be okay***"" consistently during comfort tests is an easy way to turn your wife into Pavlov's dog, except it's going to be her pussy that's wet. * Saying ""***I understand why you feel that way***"" when she's upset maintains your control. Your wife is even more tired of your defending and explaining yourself than you are; she just wants to feel heard and understood. -In all of those situations you should ask yourself, ""what's the most powerful thing I can say right now."" If you don't have a solid answer then shut the fuck up. Once you're ready, having a few go-to power phrases can make a big difference.",,110,part_wolf,1563160962.0 +In all of those situations you should ask yourself, ""what's the most powerful thing I can say right now."" If you don't have a solid answer then shut the fuck up. Once you're ready, having a few go-to power phrases can make a big difference.",,110,part_wolf,2019-07-15 03:22:42 marriedredpill,cdaosu,How did you approach your wife?,"Hello MRP, Here I am, sitting at a rooftop bar next to 3 girls focused on their instagram accounts. I'm not getting any IOIs, I'm bitter and discouraged. I've done a lot to improve myself, and when I do approach it just doesn't happen. @@ -33942,7 +33942,7 @@ I'd like this topic to be a place for men to share the approaches that led to th What year was it, how did you approach? What made the difference with being seen as the right man in their eyes? -Thank you for your time.",,18,[deleted],1563151587.0 +Thank you for your time.",,18,[deleted],2019-07-15 00:46:27 marriedredpill,ccda72,[FR] Update- on main events and how far I have yet to go,"Warning as usual -long ass journal style post ahead. Read it or not. Your call. I think info is important or I would not have included it. &nbsp; @@ -34098,7 +34098,7 @@ Any pro tips on how to explain to her once she starts communicating overtly exac &nbsp; -I need to work on that.",,41,alphasixfour,1562949863.0 +I need to work on that.",,41,alphasixfour,2019-07-12 16:44:23 marriedredpill,cc3m0j,Getting Ass To Grass,"The last few weeks have been rough. Sleep has been difficult. My legs, hips throb. I feel like a newbie again. Last fall in a BJJ tournament I suffered a Stage 2 Separation of my shoulder. By luck I was on steroids for another illness so inflammation was knocked out immediately (affirming my belief that inflammation is probably the root cause of many illnesses and issues). So my coach/trainer set a plan to improve shoulder strength while I abstained from Bench pressing. Which was and is now the only lift that causes pain. @@ -34123,7 +34123,7 @@ What, matters is what you are doing about it. Get your distance. Get your dire I got the 4 inches. My ass is hitting the floor at 350. - Coach told me today... now we go nuts.",,51,ReddJive,1562890815.0 + Coach told me today... now we go nuts.",,51,ReddJive,2019-07-12 00:20:15 marriedredpill,cay1xx,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 09, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -34132,7 +34132,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,1562660675.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,22,AutoModerator,2019-07-09 08:24:35 marriedredpill,c9t006,Quit Being Angry at Bob Vila,"I'll keep this short, though people with more time may want to expand upon this point. Sexual strategy praxeology as it currently exists is a set of written materials and heuristics (rules of thumb) born from the experiences of many men and loosely supported by evolutionary psychology/biology. It's called ""The Red Pill"" but that term has been bastardized by ""muh truth"" and ""muh men's rights"" to render it confusing and almost meaningless to people new to the concept. @@ -34151,7 +34151,7 @@ The anger of the successful and learning builder is misplaced. He's just pissed Yes, you cut your teeth by reading all of the theory about building, learning about all of the materials, and experimenting with the tools to see how they are used to fabricate what you want and realize your vision of a finished project. Kudos to you for doing it the hard way. -What does your past work have to do with Bob Vila? Jack shit. So as long as Bob isn't teaching guys to build half-assed, dangerous projects, it affects men already building and renovating in no significant way. Hell, you might learn something novel from Bob to improve your project.",,33,RuleZeroDAD,1562415638.0 +What does your past work have to do with Bob Vila? Jack shit. So as long as Bob isn't teaching guys to build half-assed, dangerous projects, it affects men already building and renovating in no significant way. Hell, you might learn something novel from Bob to improve your project.",,33,RuleZeroDAD,2019-07-06 12:20:38 marriedredpill,c9gafo,Knowing When To Take A Knee,"This has nothing to do with Colon Kaepernick &#x200B; @@ -34184,8 +34184,8 @@ Intentional breaks and breakdowns are not the same. &#x200B; -**PS:** Things have changed both layout and content wise, I look forward to getting involved with this group again. A lot of solid work is happening inside these walls.",,45,[deleted],1562335354.0 -marriedredpill,c94age,[Re-post] Make your fucking choice. All the people who don't heed the message deserve to fail.,,https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9mmiul/make_your_fucking_choice/,30,[deleted],1562256357.0 +**PS:** Things have changed both layout and content wise, I look forward to getting involved with this group again. A lot of solid work is happening inside these walls.",,45,[deleted],2019-07-05 14:02:34 +marriedredpill,c94age,[Re-post] Make your fucking choice. All the people who don't heed the message deserve to fail.,,https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9mmiul/make_your_fucking_choice/,30,[deleted],2019-07-04 16:05:57 marriedredpill,c96swj,"""The Believers"" vs. The Empiricists","Essay [https://therationalmale.com/2019/07/04/the-believers-vs-the-empiricists/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/07/04/the-believers-vs-the-empiricists/) @@ -34202,7 +34202,7 @@ Example: The realities of Hypergamy aren’t *right* or *wrong*, they simply are The *factual relativists* responds to this in two ways: First, is the nihilistic approach (*Black Pill if you must*) – Hypergamy conflicts with their personal interests and ideological bent. Thus, Hypergamy, or women’s inability (or choice) to police it for their betterment, or humanity’s betterment are *evil*. Second, is the approbation approach – “You talk about Hypergamy too much (or at all), it must be because you’re fundamentally a bad, damaged, morally compromised person.” -A debate never really occurs between these headspaces because the goals of the debate are never the same. Now, add to all this that *factual relativists* are appropriating the ‘red pill’ as their own “Brand of Me” and building revenue streams around their ideological interpretation of its original intent. Any counter argument proffered by *factual absolutists*is not only a challenge to their ego-investments, it’s also interpreted as an attack on their livelihoods.",,13,Rollo-Tomassi,1562269423.0 +A debate never really occurs between these headspaces because the goals of the debate are never the same. Now, add to all this that *factual relativists* are appropriating the ‘red pill’ as their own “Brand of Me” and building revenue streams around their ideological interpretation of its original intent. Any counter argument proffered by *factual absolutists*is not only a challenge to their ego-investments, it’s also interpreted as an attack on their livelihoods.",,13,Rollo-Tomassi,2019-07-04 19:43:43 marriedredpill,c8fcw7,Reality Check Time,"Some of you faggots need a reality check. So here it is. First, I just got my DEXA scan completed, and cross compared that to a BIA scan I also completed the same day. I took the average of those two scans, since neither are 100% accurate. But there were pretty damn close. @@ -34271,7 +34271,7 @@ The simple question is… Are you willing to live below your possible means in your relationship in hopes of a sweet payout later? Or are you going to jump ship like me? -Keep in mind, the relationship never defines the man.",,70,red-sfpplus,1562103089.0 +Keep in mind, the relationship never defines the man.",,70,red-sfpplus,2019-07-02 21:31:29 marriedredpill,c87gt3,"""Do you like my dissected boobs?""","Imagine this. You're alone with this hot girl, her tight sweater suggesting a perfect rack underneath. You slide her sweater up to take a better look and find a pair of perky, bouncy tits. She looks at you seductively and says ""let me show you more"". @@ -34292,7 +34292,7 @@ Stop fucking doing that. It's all over the side bar - STFU, don't DEER, hold fra So don't do it. Don't take her shit test, her probing of your frame, as a request for you to explain your magnificient vision, great plans and deep understanding of relationship dynamics. Not only does she not give a shit, she's disgusted by it. -Keep that image in your mind. You DEERing is like her dissecting her boobs. It's revolting.",,223,Sepean,1562062236.0 +Keep that image in your mind. You DEERing is like her dissecting her boobs. It's revolting.",,223,Sepean,2019-07-02 10:10:36 marriedredpill,c86of2,"Own Your Shit Weekly - July 02, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -34301,7 +34301,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,1562055885.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,2019-07-02 08:24:45 marriedredpill,c67ykx,What A Successful Mind and Marriage Looks Like,"Hey all. Long time veteran deciding to come back to give you all some perspective. I see there's still a very large number of users here trying to ""get it"", and a small group of approved guys who actually do ""get it"" in the sense that they've got a model that works. But I wanted to give a perspective to old and new alike, who want to have more than an amorphous idea of what life at the end of the tunnel looks like coming from a marriage that actually works now, one that didn't end in a savage divorce, as well as offer a path to those more experienced who may be doing all the rights things and reaping all the right rewards, but who still has some internal conflict about themselves, life, and who they are. And just to be clear, this is a (long) post talking about living the experience. You're not going to learn anything new here related to MRP, but you'll be able to relate to the end game with a better understanding, which is important because no one really talks about it. The material you get here is all about getting from one place to the other. But nothing talks about living it. It's a silently accepted mental burden. And it's kind of why we all got here at MRP in the first place, because no one talked about actually living this stuff. @@ -34590,7 +34590,7 @@ There's no right or wrong answer here. And I did lie, I'm giving you another war &nbsp; -But you still need to ask, can you live with that? I'm flawed. You're flawed. She's flawed. Come to terms with that. It took me three years to get to where I wanted to be. And my wife has really only been solidifying her improvement for maybe 1. But on more than one occasion, unprompted, she's already said looking back she's glad we're out of that rough spot, and that she's happier than she ever has been. And I agree.",,192,[deleted],1561654564.0 +But you still need to ask, can you live with that? I'm flawed. You're flawed. She's flawed. Come to terms with that. It took me three years to get to where I wanted to be. And my wife has really only been solidifying her improvement for maybe 1. But on more than one occasion, unprompted, she's already said looking back she's glad we're out of that rough spot, and that she's happier than she ever has been. And I agree.",,192,[deleted],2019-06-27 16:56:04 marriedredpill,c6ebay,"Paternity, Promiscuity & ""Poly""","Essay [https://therationalmale.com/2019/06/27/paternity-promiscuity-poly/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/06/27/paternity-promiscuity-poly/) @@ -34612,7 +34612,7 @@ In my counseling I have had to deal with the constant of jealousy in every man I There is a physical aspect to jealousy for men and particularly so for deeply pair-bonded Beta men whose sexual strategy it is to invest more fully into one partner due to a scarcity mentality (see [***strategic pluralism theory***](https://therationalmale.com/2018/12/10/the-new-polyandry/)*)*. When I talked about men committing suicide in [***Zeroed Out***](https://therationalmale.com/2017/12/11/zeroed-out/) I should’ve stressed the importance that mate guarding and jealousy play in a man’s physical condition when he’s had his ‘soulmate’ leave him for another man. -There are two latent purposes in men evolving a capacity for this physical distress – fomenting parental investment and ensuring paternity via mate guarding. Why is it that men take so much longer to get over a woman than women for men? For women the *War Brides* theory explains this neatly, but for men the long physical disconnection comes from our innate drive to ensure paternity and the confirmation of mate loss to a rival male. This is the degree of preoccupation with paternity *Birkhead* describes above – it is so [***existentially***](https://therationalmale.com/2019/03/20/the-existential-fear-men/) important men evolved physical manifestation for it.",,26,Rollo-Tomassi,1561687757.0 +There are two latent purposes in men evolving a capacity for this physical distress – fomenting parental investment and ensuring paternity via mate guarding. Why is it that men take so much longer to get over a woman than women for men? For women the *War Brides* theory explains this neatly, but for men the long physical disconnection comes from our innate drive to ensure paternity and the confirmation of mate loss to a rival male. This is the degree of preoccupation with paternity *Birkhead* describes above – it is so [***existentially***](https://therationalmale.com/2019/03/20/the-existential-fear-men/) important men evolved physical manifestation for it.",,26,Rollo-Tomassi,2019-06-28 02:09:17 marriedredpill,c5iq6o,Fuck... the body...,"This post is trite by my standards, but legit by the standards of the universe. My mother lies dying, my father sleeps, defeated, perhaps worse than death... @@ -34688,7 +34688,7 @@ Nothing in weeks has given me more personal satisfaction than coming home from t ... I see the rock.... -... I am the rock.",,73,johneyapocalypse,1561511293.0 +... I am the rock.",,73,johneyapocalypse,2019-06-26 01:08:13 marriedredpill,c553t4,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 25, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -34697,7 +34697,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1561451085.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2019-06-25 08:24:45 marriedredpill,c3lm0f,InChargeMan's Story,"Per some comments and PM request I'm posting my ""story"". My goal was not to make this a TL;DR (I can see that didn't work out). Summary is: Was BP, did the monkey dance, wasn't happy, found MRP, fixed me, helped wife find her submissive nature, now live in a wonderful 24/7 D/s relationship and I've now gone a full 360 and do believe that the fairy tale relationship can exist, you just have to re-write the book. Feel free to ask questions. *Disclaimer 1:* I am no guru, these are my experiences, I am a sample size of 1, take value where you see it. I am not special, I make no assertion otherwise. @@ -34728,7 +34728,7 @@ I was about to leave for a business trip for a few days, I think she was worried She read until her eyes bled, learned all she could, basically took her own red pill, and when I got back we started our new relationship. It was awesome, we felt like teenagers again, and it hasn't stopped. We worked as a team to craft our relationship, take ownership of it. I am her dominant husband, she is my submissive wife. Her needs are BEFORE my needs. You read right. She has given herself over to me, she is mine, and I am responsible for her 100%. We have a signed contract, and she wears a symbolic collar 24/7. As such I am fully responsible for her needs, that is number one in my mission. The D/s hierarchy is sub's needs, dom's needs, dom's wants, sub's wants. Notice that her wants are at the end. Sometimes she doesn't get what she wants, I give her what she needs. She has rules for her behavior and rules for day to day tasks. If she breaks a rule she is punished with spankings. Every day we have time set aside to discuss her needs and wants as well as mine. She lives to serve me and make me happy. When she serves me well I make sure she feels very appreciated and valued for her efforts. This is how we meet all of her needs (Security, guidance and feeling of value), and she has unwavering guidance from me to make sure her needs are ultimately met, which really means making sure that my needs are met. She can now completely shut off these negative parts of her brain, they are unnecessary. She knows I am happy, and I make it abundantly clear if I am not. Our sex life is amazing. Not only do we do everything I could ever want, she is obsessed with my pleasure now. That is what gets her off. She can have an orgasm just from me cumming in her mouth. I of course praise her constantly for her good behaviors, but one of the worst things I can do is ""let something slide"", as that would tell her that I have lost interest in the relationship. She feels loved, cared for, safe, and highly valued. I feel incredibly satisfied, I enjoy my peaceful life at home, I love my family, and honestly do feel like a Disney marriage is attainable, it is just that we were looking in the wrong place. We have been in relationship 2.0 for a couple of years now, and it gets better every day. -I've already gone on way too long, if you have specific questions regarding how our day-to-day relationship runs feel free to ask. I hope this was of some value to some of you. As I said, I can't say that my path is the ""right answer"", maybe I just got really lucky, who knows, but I can say that I am forever indebted to all of those who have worked to make MRP what it is, and I'm all too happy to try to pass on the favor.",,125,InChargeMan,1561180128.0 +I've already gone on way too long, if you have specific questions regarding how our day-to-day relationship runs feel free to ask. I hope this was of some value to some of you. As I said, I can't say that my path is the ""right answer"", maybe I just got really lucky, who knows, but I can say that I am forever indebted to all of those who have worked to make MRP what it is, and I'm all too happy to try to pass on the favor.",,125,InChargeMan,2019-06-22 05:08:48 marriedredpill,c32kq4,What is the main event?,"#####Dread and the Main event. What you think you have is probably not the main event. [Also read it here](https://www.rianstone.com/blog/2019/6/20/mainevent) @@ -34801,7 +34801,7 @@ The last option, maybe her daddy issues run too deep, she just checks out, she n [Also, you can read it here, with photos so you don't get bored](https://www.rianstone.com/blog/2019/6/20/mainevent) -[And here, you can make a simple tuna melt while you listen](https://youtu.be/1TLkcSR8rc0)",,88,RStonePT,1561069866.0 +[And here, you can make a simple tuna melt while you listen](https://youtu.be/1TLkcSR8rc0)",,88,RStonePT,2019-06-20 22:31:06 marriedredpill,c341tx,You're an animal,"You do realise you are an animal right? You are an animal that operates according to inbuilt biology but also within societies man-made rules, Yeah? It’s a balance, and society can only tolerate so much animal, even though it’s your natural state. If you go too much animal, well you will get your animalistic ass put in a cage. I bet you were more animal as boy, and were taught over time to only use your animal eyes with the filter dictated to you by society. @@ -34838,7 +34838,7 @@ The following story was deleted as far as i know, so I have just pasted the whol &#x200B; -**Spend more time on your wild lion and less time trying to crack the code.**",,53,simbarlion,1561079066.0 +**Spend more time on your wild lion and less time trying to crack the code.**",,53,simbarlion,2019-06-21 01:04:26 marriedredpill,c2l5dt,Your woman is one of your greatest creations,"When you first begin this journey that is MRP, you were told to stick with the plan and work hard, the gains would be enormous. It’s true. After six months you likely look at yourself entirely differently than you did for many years before. You wife has likely responded in some positive way to your changes, and your family has as well. You begin to lead, and lead from a place of abundance. Things happen that don’t go according to plan, but your extensive MRP training (sidebar & lift) has you prepared for nearly anything that you can come your way and you’re well underway being the captain of your ship and crew. When it comes to improving yourself, I think that many of us reach a point to where the gains are very small incrementally versus when we first began. It’s in this stage that we begin to understand if the 1000 ft rope will tighten or not. Most see progress, some do not, but this post is for those of you who see progress in your wives and the willingness to follow her captain. @@ -34875,7 +34875,7 @@ For a willing wife, MRP can save them too. You can lead yourself, and a willing wife to a place where she will be most happy and simultaneously add the most value to your life. You are the creator of your life. YOU can create a marvelous relationship with or without your wife. That’s your choice. For fucks sake, make *something*. Always be creating. -You’re the fucking captain now. Get to work.",,157,HornsOfApathy,1560970971.0 +You’re the fucking captain now. Get to work.",,157,HornsOfApathy,2019-06-19 19:02:51 marriedredpill,c27czu,The Second Kiss of Death,"There is a saying in the manosphere that is so notorious that it has been labeled by some as the ""kiss of death"" to a marriage: ILY, BINILWY. ""I Love You, But I'm Not In Love With You."" This is usually directed from a woman to a man. It's an expression of her hypergamy and hamster brain at its finest: ""I'm not a bad wife. I still love my husband. But someone else is giving me the tingles. That's reasonable, right?"" 9 times out of 10, when you hear this phrase, it's over. Only the top men will figure out how to recover from this - and doing everything you can to make her happy isn't the answer because that's what got you into that mess in the first place. But this isn't the only ""kiss of death"" out there - it's just the only one that gets verbalized. As many of you know, I see a lot of broken marriages. It's my day job. I've noticed another kiss of death, and this one is usually directed from a man to his wife. It doesn't roll off the tongue as nicely, but here goes: IH, BINHFY. ""I'm Horny, But I'm Not Horny For You."" @@ -34988,7 +34988,7 @@ How do you do that? A few things I've tried to get the conversation rolling: Figure out what works for you. But don't just assume that self-improvement by itself is going to get her on the self-improvement track too. It might give her the energy to change, but you've still got to make clear that you *expect* her to change. -If you all have any more tips, feel free to share. I'm far from an expert on the *how* of this, but given how little conversation I see on the subject (other than ""improve yourself and see what happens""), I bet there are some good answers to go around.",,122,Red-Curious,1560889500.0 +If you all have any more tips, feel free to share. I'm far from an expert on the *how* of this, but given how little conversation I see on the subject (other than ""improve yourself and see what happens""), I bet there are some good answers to go around.",,122,Red-Curious,2019-06-18 20:25:00 marriedredpill,c1zn71,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 18, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -34997,7 +34997,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,1560846277.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,2019-06-18 08:24:37 marriedredpill,c1pw9x,Does she trust you to be a man?,"I’ve been listening to The Science Of Trust by John M Gottman lately and it occurred to me that the reason MRP works is that it’s about building trust. Of particular interest in the book is that they found in their studies that men and women both are happier in relationships where the woman trusts the man. @@ -35027,7 +35027,7 @@ Can’t identify shit tests = not trustworthy of her leadership. It goes on from there, we all get the idea. -Women want you to be a man she can follow. When she sees she can trust you to be that man she is free to give in and let you lead. All the things we do here are ultimately to build trust. This is why MRP addresses the man and not the marriage. Be the man her hind brain can trust.",,68,suprathepeg,1560790142.0 +Women want you to be a man she can follow. When she sees she can trust you to be that man she is free to give in and let you lead. All the things we do here are ultimately to build trust. This is why MRP addresses the man and not the marriage. Be the man her hind brain can trust.",,68,suprathepeg,2019-06-17 16:49:02 marriedredpill,c0ll7v,Finding Frame and Curing Anxiety,"One of the many areas I struggled with for a long time is figuring out what the fuck everyone meant by “frame”. Below is what I see as the stages I went through to finding frame. I hope it helps someone else accelerate their journey. I am nowhere even close to finish this journey on frame, I have certainly overcome a major hurdle and figured out what I want in life. It’s as simple of – figure out who you are and your worldview and don’t let anyone or anything shake that. Big thanks to /u/HornsofApathy for a lot of guidance on my journey thus far. ***Background*** @@ -35096,7 +35096,7 @@ In case you’re wondering on the result of this: She continued to lose her shit (texting me random things which I ignored). I got home, pretended like nothing happened (because nothing did happen). Just kept a good mood, played with the kids, laughed with my wife. Had some great sex that night. Brought everything full circle by calling her my little sex goddess. She let out a small laugh and said “oh jeez”. -Her name is now Sexy Pirate Ninja Goddess in my phone. Pirate Ninja is from a conversation we had regarding what's cooler - pirates or ninjas when the kids were debating Halloween costumes. Obviously a pirate ninja is the coolest way to go.",,89,[deleted],1560526987.0 +Her name is now Sexy Pirate Ninja Goddess in my phone. Pirate Ninja is from a conversation we had regarding what's cooler - pirates or ninjas when the kids were debating Halloween costumes. Obviously a pirate ninja is the coolest way to go.",,89,[deleted],2019-06-14 15:43:07 marriedredpill,c0pcpp,Overt Communication,"....is a RED ALERT, nuclear launch detected red flag in your relationship. @@ -35124,7 +35124,7 @@ You don't want her to talk to you like a man - it means she thinks she has to be ------- -(1) if it's war you need to gtfo. She is irredeemably crazy.",,20,itiswr1tten,1560546679.0 +(1) if it's war you need to gtfo. She is irredeemably crazy.",,20,itiswr1tten,2019-06-14 21:11:19 marriedredpill,c06qfe,Depressive and Anxious Wives: Transformation and Building Escape (Part 2),"If you’ve read my previous post about [Depressive and Anxious wives](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/asqi8r/depressive_and_anxious_wives_how_its_all_your/), this is a continuation of that topic. If you want to get anything out of Part 2, I suggest you go back and read my first post to put this into your mind: **It’s all your fault.** **This post’s audience is intended for the Intermediate or Advanced MRP guy.** If you haven’t been at this for 6 months or more, save it, and come back to it later. Until then, you’ll likely try to implement the concepts of frame escape on a shitty weak frame which will fail. Trust me. I did. @@ -35201,7 +35201,7 @@ With all this said, it’s a strategy. It’s ultimately a sexual strategy. But Masculine comfort for the depressive or anxious wife is exactly the recipe that SHE needs in order to enter your frame. Moreso than most women. Calibrate accordingly but allow yourself to give what you want. -*Edit*: [Part 3: Converting Dread to Desire](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/d2rvsm/depressive_and_anxious_wives_converting_dread_to/)",,114,HornsOfApathy,1560437323.0 +*Edit*: [Part 3: Converting Dread to Desire](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/d2rvsm/depressive_and_anxious_wives_converting_dread_to/)",,114,HornsOfApathy,2019-06-13 14:48:43 marriedredpill,bzi4gl,Gravitational Centers - A Case Study on the MRP Journey,"As I've observed numerous relationships in the last couple years, I've noticed an interesting phenomenon. I call them gravitational centers. These are relational norms that people tend to gravitate toward without even realizing it - and they can work either for or against you. These are pretty obvious when taking a bird's eye view of how most men see progress in their MRP journey - both relationally (respect) and sexually (seduction). Understanding how gravitational centers work would have helped me break covert contracts early on, as well as staying motivated in my MAP, because it gives a framework for accepting the reality that women will sometimes refuse to respond to your improvements the way you think they should. @@ -35339,7 +35339,7 @@ What zone on the graph is most likely to get a woman sexually excited? ... **UPPER PINK** - This is the exciting place for women and where sex happens most for them. For most women, this really is their peak sexual place on the graph. They can't resist a guy who's extremely attractive, even if he's pretty low on the fuzzies axis. One night stands, bar hook-ups, the CC - it's all because of this particular zone for women. But even within this zone, stroking her feelz even a little bit has more impact than that extra bit of attraction, so I marked off the right-most section of that pink area as the best spot even within that zone. -Enjoy, fellas!",,57,Red-Curious,1560286902.0 +Enjoy, fellas!",,57,Red-Curious,2019-06-11 21:01:42 marriedredpill,bz9klo,Well no shit,"I want to show some gratitude. I heard about TRP then followed MRP. I didnt take it seriously. The past 2-3 years my marriage/sex life sucked. @@ -35356,7 +35356,7 @@ So far I have been reading. I have been learning. I started lifting again. More Already sex has increased her slutty side has come back out. -This is just the beginning I have a shit ton to learn, I have much more to gain. My road looks promising a as long as I stay on path. I havent even swallowed the red pill I'm still understanding it, and all ready benefits have shown.",,67,redpillreach,1560239133.0 +This is just the beginning I have a shit ton to learn, I have much more to gain. My road looks promising a as long as I stay on path. I havent even swallowed the red pill I'm still understanding it, and all ready benefits have shown.",,67,redpillreach,2019-06-11 07:45:33 marriedredpill,bz9ucn,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 11, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -35365,10 +35365,10 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,10,AutoModerator,1560241480.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,10,AutoModerator,2019-06-11 08:24:40 marriedredpill,byrc5u,60 DoD 2019 Flair Awarded,"Look for the 60 DoD 2019 flair on some of your fellow users. Those who really hustled and reported in on it earned ""DREAD Pirate Roberts"" flair. Those who at least participated and reported in on it got ""Dreadful '19"" flair. I'd tell you who all it was, but I'm too lazy. -Congrats to all. Onward and upward.",,14,SorcererKing,1560127193.0 +Congrats to all. Onward and upward.",,14,SorcererKing,2019-06-10 00:39:53 marriedredpill,bxs791,[FR] An admission from my wife,"I posted a 1 yr update on here and I wasn't intending to post a 2 yr update. But after a few comments from the wife, I thought I would. If nothing else, its for you lurkers and guys grinding it out to realise that *this shit works*. A few weekends ago we managed to get a babysitter, so I told the wife that we were going out for dinner. It was only a quick dinner out, not a huge special occasion. @@ -35397,7 +35397,7 @@ Sure there were some times when I ground out and didn't lift for a while, or los I'm proud of the person that I am now. A man that two years ago my wife wanted to kick out, but who now thinks is well above her station. I'm not perfect, I've still got work to do. I'm confident and secure about myself. MRP has made the man. -So boys, are you going to stick with it?",,180,thunderbeyond,1559896988.0 +So boys, are you going to stick with it?",,180,thunderbeyond,2019-06-07 08:43:08 marriedredpill,bxih8t,FR: Losing My Religion,"I’m convinced that this is the most difficult post I’ll ever write. &nbsp; @@ -35824,7 +35824,7 @@ She has power over one-half fuck. She can take that away, but I won’t be zero -I am the prize.",,83,alphasixfour,1559837224.0 +I am the prize.",,83,alphasixfour,2019-06-06 16:07:04 marriedredpill,bwmb5e,"Own Your Shit Weekly - June 04, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -35833,7 +35833,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,31,AutoModerator,1559636679.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,31,AutoModerator,2019-06-04 08:24:39 marriedredpill,btxgoi,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 28, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -35842,7 +35842,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,27,AutoModerator,1559031873.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,27,AutoModerator,2019-05-28 08:24:33 marriedredpill,btous8,60 DoD 2019: Finish line,"This marks the end of 60 DoD for this year. I hope that you all learned something new from our contributors and found ways to improve yourself and your life across the board. Use this thread to tell us all what you set out to do in the various areas, and what you actually accomplished. Those of you who declared participation back at the start and who managed to change your habits for the better will be recognized with some special flair from the Mod team. @@ -35851,7 +35851,7 @@ Please show your appreciation for contributions by mentioning the posts and auth To all who participated: even if you didn't meet all your goals for change, you committed to your own betterment, which is something. It is now on you to follow up and finish what you started. Hold yourself accountable in OYS until you get there. -Thank you, and Happy Memorial Day. Summer unofficially starts today: get out there and crush it.",,23,SorcererKing,1558978685.0 +Thank you, and Happy Memorial Day. Summer unofficially starts today: get out there and crush it.",,23,SorcererKing,2019-05-27 17:38:05 marriedredpill,bsxtu5,10 ways to fail at MRP,"I've been here for years and it's the same shit that trip up new guys. Instead of repeating their mistakes, read this. &nbsp; @@ -35954,7 +35954,7 @@ Look, we’re not being hyperbolic when we talk about how we do things here. We Eventually, she’ll be attracted to you but attraction will only take you so far. There will come a time when you have to become more dominant and enforce your boundaries. Some of her final resistance is next level shit testing, some is learned behaviors or issues she has. You have to power through that. Once she likes sex and affection from you, you’re going to plateau until you step it up and demand submission from her. -Becoming a high quality man with a horny wife is just phase one.",,269,Sepean,1558809193.0 +Becoming a high quality man with a horny wife is just phase one.",,269,Sepean,2019-05-25 18:33:13 marriedredpill,bs6dzk,60 Days of Dread Week 8: Getting Social in your Exercise,"# Intro Dread level 3 is starting to build your life outside your wife. This is hard for a lot of guys here (including me). But it is ***critical*** to get out of the house at least twice a week MINIMUM and interact with other people. Without doing so, it’s damned near impossible to imagine a life without your wife. Once you start meeting others and realize that you’re an interesting person – you start to internalize “I’m the prize, look at all these people I can talk to and have fun with”. @@ -36021,7 +36021,7 @@ Your woman wants you to be high value and busy. Ignore anything negative she say # In Conclusion -It’s not mandatory that you do any of these activities. What IS mandatory is you go out and get away from your wife and talk to other people. For the love of God, be social somewhere for a few hours a week. If you’re introverted – too bad – do it anyways. But if you want to kill the proverbial two birds with one stone – you can get some great cardio in while being social. It’s a lot of fun and very rewarding.",,62,[deleted],1558635663.0 +It’s not mandatory that you do any of these activities. What IS mandatory is you go out and get away from your wife and talk to other people. For the love of God, be social somewhere for a few hours a week. If you’re introverted – too bad – do it anyways. But if you want to kill the proverbial two birds with one stone – you can get some great cardio in while being social. It’s a lot of fun and very rewarding.",,62,[deleted],2019-05-23 18:21:03 marriedredpill,briu1i,Choose Wisely,"Essay: [https://therationalmale.com/2019/05/21/choose-wisely/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/05/21/choose-wisely/) @@ -36040,7 +36040,7 @@ Not all women can fuck the winners so they have to make calculated bets on men. So, the tradeoff is this: when a woman is at her peak sexual market value (SMV) she has the leisure to fuck the winners at the finish line. The more her SMV decays the fewer her options become, and the more likely it is that her necessity requires her to make a ‘bet’ on a man’s future potential. This is the primary reason women opt for the *Beta in Waiting*around her *Epiphany Phase*. Necessity forces her to go with good potential. -One of the ways feminism and female-primacy sabotages women’s ability to vet for good potential is in the mythology surrounding their sexual viability as they get older. Social conventions constantly reinforce the false idea that a woman’s SMV is indefinite – and by extension her agency over men should also be indefinite. This is why Blank Slate idealism and Social Constructionism are a preferred mythology for women. Without the Blank Slate a woman would be forced to accept the evolved realities of her sex. The Blank Slate is a prime source of women’s solipsistic denial of her own nature.",,47,Rollo-Tomassi,1558489498.0 +One of the ways feminism and female-primacy sabotages women’s ability to vet for good potential is in the mythology surrounding their sexual viability as they get older. Social conventions constantly reinforce the false idea that a woman’s SMV is indefinite – and by extension her agency over men should also be indefinite. This is why Blank Slate idealism and Social Constructionism are a preferred mythology for women. Without the Blank Slate a woman would be forced to accept the evolved realities of her sex. The Blank Slate is a prime source of women’s solipsistic denial of her own nature.",,47,Rollo-Tomassi,2019-05-22 01:44:58 marriedredpill,br7sg8,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 21, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -36049,7 +36049,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,30,AutoModerator,1558427071.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,30,AutoModerator,2019-05-21 08:24:31 marriedredpill,bqwt04,"[FR] Sort Of - [CN2] - Cliff Notes 2, For Intermediates: What Happens Next","[FR] Sort Of - [CN2] - Cliff Notes 2, For Intermediates: What Happens Next @@ -36128,7 +36128,7 @@ But, balancing the scales, you look back and realize ""I've conquered so much, s **(Shit, she showed up again. Well, I have to remember my audience.)** -p.p.p.s. If you don't like my post, go fuck yourself and regret your behavior after - keeping in mind that I curse you to a life of mediocrity and servitude. Besides, if you really don't like my post then I bet even your kids don't respect you. And, your parents are not proud of you. Plus, your boss is gonna give that raise to the other dude, even worse the intern. As for your TPS reports, well, fuck you, they suck. No one would ever create an entire television series around your shitty reports. You probably like golf instead of football. And in the world of golf you are more like that asian girl than Tiger Woods, asshole.",,76,johneyapocalypse,1558365241.0 +p.p.p.s. If you don't like my post, go fuck yourself and regret your behavior after - keeping in mind that I curse you to a life of mediocrity and servitude. Besides, if you really don't like my post then I bet even your kids don't respect you. And, your parents are not proud of you. Plus, your boss is gonna give that raise to the other dude, even worse the intern. As for your TPS reports, well, fuck you, they suck. No one would ever create an entire television series around your shitty reports. You probably like golf instead of football. And in the world of golf you are more like that asian girl than Tiger Woods, asshole.",,76,johneyapocalypse,2019-05-20 15:14:01 marriedredpill,bq3rez,Handling a Fearful-Avoidant Wife,"I have a fearful-avoidant wife and over the years I’ve learnt a lot about handling it - what to do and what not to do. I’ve given advice to some other men here with FA wives and it works. If you’re not aware of what’s going on, FA can really throw you for a loop. She’s sweet, you stroke her hair - suddenly she’s disgusted with you. She’s an utter bitch and saying horrible things that makes you want to kick her out of the house - but soon after she’s all submissive and wants to suck your dick. @@ -36305,7 +36305,7 @@ It’s doable. You need to get your SMV up, like any other man, and you’ll get But put in the work and 95% of the time, things are great. She's sweet, we touch and kiss a lot during the day, at any time I can unzip and she’ll give a BJ like a camgirl, she’s lively and enthusiastic during sex. The other 5% range from annoying to a nightmare, and you just have to suck that up if you want to live with a fearful-avoidant wife. -**UPDATE 4 YEARS LATER:** It's been years since there was a real avoidant episode. Consistently applying the principles outlined above really help. I suspect that whatever you do, if you're upping your SMV you're increasing the emotional connection and that'll trigger avoidance, but once you've peaked, time and consistency can make things stable and easy.",,98,Sepean,1558184500.0 +**UPDATE 4 YEARS LATER:** It's been years since there was a real avoidant episode. Consistently applying the principles outlined above really help. I suspect that whatever you do, if you're upping your SMV you're increasing the emotional connection and that'll trigger avoidance, but once you've peaked, time and consistency can make things stable and easy.",,98,Sepean,2019-05-18 13:01:40 marriedredpill,bp491f,[FR] My Main Event,"**The Realization** @@ -36413,7 +36413,7 @@ In addition to that, I continue to be struck by how she dropped the ""maybe we'r So this is where I stand today. I thought the Main Event would be the resolution - either I get what I want, or I move on. And instead, I'm getting exactly what I asked for and it's not turning out to really be what I want. -I intended to end the post here chronologically. But the situation appears to be still developing....So I'll just stop off here. I'm in a new phase here, and so I'm sure I have some massive blind spots. Appreciate the feedback I got on my other post. I'll appreciate whatever comes out of this one.",,84,Reach180,1557957660.0 +I intended to end the post here chronologically. But the situation appears to be still developing....So I'll just stop off here. I'm in a new phase here, and so I'm sure I have some massive blind spots. Appreciate the feedback I got on my other post. I'll appreciate whatever comes out of this one.",,84,Reach180,2019-05-15 22:01:00 marriedredpill,bod4at,"Fuck You , that’s why","Welcome back to another episode of what kind of shit can old Scurve ( those who know me from back then ) stir up. @@ -36472,7 +36472,7 @@ So do the work that makes you able to say “fuck it “ and walk away. Thank me later. -Fuck you.",,127,Taipanshimshon,1557801965.0 +Fuck you.",,127,Taipanshimshon,2019-05-14 02:46:05 marriedredpill,bog4bn,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 14, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -36481,7 +36481,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,1557822270.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,19,AutoModerator,2019-05-14 08:24:30 marriedredpill,bn6p2b,Crosspost from TRP: Chateau Heartiste is GONE,"[Chateau Heartiste Has Been Shuttered in What Appears to be WordPress' Opening Salvo as They Join the Greater Tech Censorship War.](https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/bn48oi/chateau_heartiste_has_been_shuttered_in_what/) &#x200B; @@ -36490,7 +36490,7 @@ marriedredpill,bn6p2b,Crosspost from TRP: Chateau Heartiste is GONE,"[Chateau He &#x200B; -* [Link to the Wayback Machine Heartiste archives](https://web.archive.org/web/*/http://Heartiste.wordpress.com/)",,58,rocknrollchuck,1557539388.0 +* [Link to the Wayback Machine Heartiste archives](https://web.archive.org/web/*/http://Heartiste.wordpress.com/)",,58,rocknrollchuck,2019-05-11 01:49:48 marriedredpill,blo4qu,"Own Your Shit Weekly - May 07, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -36499,7 +36499,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,31,AutoModerator,1557217469.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,31,AutoModerator,2019-05-07 08:24:29 marriedredpill,bliz70,False Positives,"Essay: [https://therationalmale.com/2019/05/06/false-positives/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/05/06/false-positives/) @@ -36518,7 +36518,7 @@ I hear you. Let me finish here by reiterating that my obligation to objective truth will always be my motivation for doing ***anything*** I put my name on. It always has been. However, I have worked for amazing companies who sold things that people loved and enjoyed only to watch them crumble and die because the sales team assumed control of the ‘product’. The selling became more important than what was being sold. -My books, my blog, my appearances, every aspect of *The Rational Male* is my art. I craft each essay. It’s what I care about most. I will never allow the truth to be compromised by the Hustle. The Hustle is important, particularly when it’s about disseminating the truth, but it is secondary to the truth – even to the exception of the Hustle. Sometimes the truth doesn’t sell.",,23,Rollo-Tomassi,1557183480.0 +My books, my blog, my appearances, every aspect of *The Rational Male* is my art. I craft each essay. It’s what I care about most. I will never allow the truth to be compromised by the Hustle. The Hustle is important, particularly when it’s about disseminating the truth, but it is secondary to the truth – even to the exception of the Hustle. Sometimes the truth doesn’t sell.",,23,Rollo-Tomassi,2019-05-06 22:58:00 marriedredpill,bkzcv4,MRP Year Two - I Guess This Is Growing Up,"Two years ago today, I discovered MRP and swallowed the pill. I've made plenty of mistakes, but I've never taken my foot off the gas since I unplugged. I started with internal changes, avoided going Rambo, and implemented slow change in myself over the course of months and years. First and foremost: I am happier and healthier than I have ever been - even though the past year has been one of the hardest of my life. I have more responsibility, more discipline, and more freedom than I've ever enjoyed. I am deeply grateful. @@ -36547,7 +36547,7 @@ I still ain't shit yet, but Year Two of MRP has been the best of my life. This y My Year One Post: -[https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/8hfeik/mrp\_year\_one\_how\_i\_got\_here\_and\_what\_i\_did\_about/](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/8hfeik/mrp_year_one_how_i_got_here_and_what_i_did_about/)",,174,BarracudaRP,1557071928.0 +[https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/8hfeik/mrp\_year\_one\_how\_i\_got\_here\_and\_what\_i\_did\_about/](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/8hfeik/mrp_year_one_how_i_got_here_and_what_i_did_about/)",,174,BarracudaRP,2019-05-05 15:58:48 marriedredpill,bl4pfl,60 Days of Dread Week 7: Career - Part 1 (Underwriting),"----------------- *verb* @@ -36680,7 +36680,7 @@ Summary: Choose what fits, and choose iteratively (as new choices show up, weigh Your success or failure, broadly speaking, depends more on selecting and following through on an appropriate level of underwriting than anything else. Want to coast and answer phones? NBD, as long as the job exists and pays enough for you to live. -Want to hit higher than employee status? Congrats, you've underwritten the risk of *some element* of the business. That's how salary works in a functioning system.",,15,itiswr1tten,1557099570.0 +Want to hit higher than employee status? Congrats, you've underwritten the risk of *some element* of the business. That's how salary works in a functioning system.",,15,itiswr1tten,2019-05-05 23:39:30 marriedredpill,bkdy1s,Little Queasy boys?,"#####This turds for you Another one of our longer members had his 2 year moment. It's weird, almost like it's innate. 2 years is the amount of time someone can LARP at attractive choreplay before they get frustrated and get down to real work. @@ -36710,7 +36710,7 @@ You're the only one that wipes your ass every day, maybe you should start treati If you don't have the resolve to be a man and live life as you see fit, don't waste your time here, exredpill, purplepilldebate, marriage, deadbedrooms, relationships, askmen, 2xxHarpies, fortniteaddiction, nofap, MGTOW, Incels, and a host of other testicular-cancer groups are more than happy to take you in so you can complain that you did everything you were supposed to, and the world *should* be paying dividends. -That is all. Feel free to bitch about having to be your own mental pont of origin in the comments below, I'm sure a bunch of us can take turns laughing.",,37,RStonePT,1556920154.0 +That is all. Feel free to bitch about having to be your own mental pont of origin in the comments below, I'm sure a bunch of us can take turns laughing.",,37,RStonePT,2019-05-03 21:49:14 marriedredpill,bkcdd7,The case for paternity testing,"Before becoming red pill aware, the idea of questioning paternity of children never came to my mind. After reading certain articles on this subject by Rollo and CH, and learning the red pill theories of a woman's sexual strategy of Hypergamy and Alpha fux/Beta Bux, I became acutely aware of this issue. Almost all of us have come to learn of the existence of the manosphere, red pill, and this forum because we were once blue pill. The argument can be made that no matter how much you think, know, or trust your wife or girlfriend when she tells you that her child is yours, you won't ever definitively know unless you have a DNA test done. This would be the case whether you were red pill or blue pill at the time of the child's conception. @@ -36719,7 +36719,7 @@ Studies have shown that anywhere from 10% to 30% of alleged fathers of children The best thing to do is to get a DNA test done, by one of two options which can be done discretely without her knowing. The first option is through a paternity test, which costs around $100. The second option is through one of those ancestry/ethnicity DNA websites like 23andme or ancestry. The byproduct of these websites is that it confirms paternity relationships. -I have done this and can honestly say, there is a certain kind of peace and calmness that comes from 100% knowing that your child is indeed your biological offspring. Every red pill aware man deserves knowing the truth and having this feeling.",,11,adeptintact,1556911366.0 +I have done this and can honestly say, there is a certain kind of peace and calmness that comes from 100% knowing that your child is indeed your biological offspring. Every red pill aware man deserves knowing the truth and having this feeling.",,11,adeptintact,2019-05-03 19:22:46 marriedredpill,bjxj41,60 Days of Dread Week 6: Finances - Part 2,"**60 Days of Dread: Finances** \*\*I AM NOT A FINANCIAL PROFESSIONAL AND THE BELOW ADVICE IS NOT MEANT TO BE CONSIDERED PROFESSIONAL INVESTMENT OR TAX ADVICE. PLEASE CONSULT WITH A PROFESSIONAL BEFORE MAKING ANY CHANGES\*\* @@ -36756,7 +36756,7 @@ Like fitness, there is a lot of analysis paralysis in personal finance. Developi * Set For Life * Your Money or Your Life -PS - I am not on Reddit much, but will try to be on more often for a few days to answer any questions.",,55,liftingisredlife,1556817422.0 +PS - I am not on Reddit much, but will try to be on more often for a few days to answer any questions.",,55,liftingisredlife,2019-05-02 17:17:02 marriedredpill,bj2wg7,"Container words, and you","A blurb to you guys here. This ones a bit more existential, but I do find it important. The kind of guy who comes here out of pure desperation, then lashes out to the guys helping because they aren't respecting him enough when they do... take heed. Everythinig we discuss is a little vague, and unfortunately, it's fungable too. @@ -36802,7 +36802,7 @@ When you get back, keep in mind the following bullet points. 1. Masculine/rp models of the world versus Femenine/bp ones 1. How container words can be very manipulative if you're not aware of them (similar to open and closed communication) 1. Better understand and apply the concept of frame to build a more successful you. -1. Define your terms, otherwise you'll bullshit yourself about your sucesses and failures",,41,RStonePT,1556628541.0 +1. Define your terms, otherwise you'll bullshit yourself about your sucesses and failures",,41,RStonePT,2019-04-30 12:49:01 marriedredpill,bj0vtc,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 30, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -36811,7 +36811,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,1556612671.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,13,AutoModerator,2019-04-30 08:24:31 marriedredpill,biy29w,The 21 Convention – 2019,"Essay: [https://therationalmale.com/2019/04/29/the-21-conventions-2019/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/04/29/the-21-conventions-2019/) @@ -36842,7 +36842,7 @@ But also know that if the 25% discounts above aren’t enough for you, I will fi And if you think it’s “all just salesmen hawking snake oil”, I will also find a way to get you a discounted registration on my dime so you can attend and see for yourself what these events are really all about. -I joke with Anthony that my ‘workshops’ start the moment I enter the hotel lobby. I’m guaranteed to lose my voice before the the end of the 3rd day, but it’s worth it to me to give you the most of what you’re paying for. That’s my commitment to you. I know that most men only have finite resource, and only get so many weeks a year for vacation. That is the foremost thing on my mind when I’m speaking at these conventions. I want you to get the most of your investment in a weekend that’s guaranteed to change your outlook on life. And I’m confident all my fellow speakers feel the same.",,33,Rollo-Tomassi,1556591212.0 +I joke with Anthony that my ‘workshops’ start the moment I enter the hotel lobby. I’m guaranteed to lose my voice before the the end of the 3rd day, but it’s worth it to me to give you the most of what you’re paying for. That’s my commitment to you. I know that most men only have finite resource, and only get so many weeks a year for vacation. That is the foremost thing on my mind when I’m speaking at these conventions. I want you to get the most of your investment in a weekend that’s guaranteed to change your outlook on life. And I’m confident all my fellow speakers feel the same.",,33,Rollo-Tomassi,2019-04-30 02:26:52 marriedredpill,bifc3w,Where Sex Fits In: Thoughts on Mindset,"Guys Lots of crap tactical stuff lately. I suspect many of you read these, and many start writing, then do not post silly questions because you already know the answer. I’m talking to you: guys who are on the hard path already, and are seeing enough results to know what questions to ask and what not to. Rule of thumb: if your question is of a tactical /situational nature, chances are you already should know the answer or the answer is in the side bar reading materials. If you were to truly internalize those you wouldn’t be asking silly tactical questions. @@ -36859,7 +36859,7 @@ So a few observations re sex: - If it’s not enthusiastic sex, trick your mind to not want it. That’s what sex-satisfied means. And what we talk about around here. It’s very subtle, and you have to fake that state in case indeed you’ve suffered a dry patch. The moment you seam more eager, more horny, more needy, is the moment you’re a beta bitch. To your own damn self. She of course has a dog’s smell for that state. Just like she has for a true alpha, IDGAF, OI state. That’s what a high-value man is. That’s who you want to be. The longer you’ve been in a marriage where you’ve accepted sub par performance from yourself, in bed, from her - the harder it’s going to be to turn the ship around. The less slack you tolerate from the outset (in the lucky case you’ve found red pill early in your LTR/ marriage) the easier it will be to set the right frame for your relationship. To paraphrase Jocko/ Leif Babin “It’s not what you preach it’s what you tolerate. “ -So go live your mission. Become someone worthy. Then have fun with your woman, when you need a break from your hard work of making a difference in the world. It’s that simple.",,61,Redpillbrigade17,1556481666.0 +So go live your mission. Become someone worthy. Then have fun with your woman, when you need a break from your hard work of making a difference in the world. It’s that simple.",,61,Redpillbrigade17,2019-04-28 20:01:06 marriedredpill,bib3mk,60 DoD Week 6: Finance - Part 1 (Budgeting),"Do you know how much money you've needlessly spent over a given period of time? I recently did the math for myself. For a period of 30 months not so long ago I took home $172,404. My basic living expenses were $80,400. At the end of that 30-month period I had a grand total of $2,740 in checking. Fuck me. Where the fuck did 97% of my extra cash go? Managing our finances has to be one of our top priorities. Lest we desire to make ends meet till the day of our death we need to hold ourselves accountable for every penny spent. When we know our spending habits, via necessity or luxury, we can refine our objectives. By writing it down it gives us a plan. By following it, it gives us freedom. @@ -37034,7 +37034,7 @@ I have not used YNAB only because it is not a free service and I could not justi The important part here is that creating a budget is only the first step; ensuring you are following your budget is equally critical. By being able to access previous spending and categorize that spending you can easily identify if you are sticking to your plan. For example, you may have budgeted 10% of your check to savings. But, if you have to transfer from savings to checking, you're not sticking to your budget. Adjust accordingly, and either develop a better budget or better discipline. -Now, go set your budget, Captain.",,22,ImNotSlash,1556457194.0 +Now, go set your budget, Captain.",,22,ImNotSlash,2019-04-28 13:13:14 marriedredpill,bh8xko,Confronting the Need For Validation,"I think a lot about the need for validation, mostly because [it gets brought up in response to nearly everything I post here.](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/bgdw8p/own_your_shit_weekly_april_23_2019/elkgnlx/) &#x200B; @@ -37131,7 +37131,7 @@ How can you confront your own need for validation, and grow beyond it? How can y &#x200B; -**Let the best in you do the thinking and talking.** Difficult situations are an integral part of life. Confront the reality of your own life. Accept it as an opportunity for growth. It’s hard to admit our lives are filled with error and deception. Only accepting this, and facing the truth, gives you the opportunity to grow.",,89,resolutions316,1556200615.0 +**Let the best in you do the thinking and talking.** Difficult situations are an integral part of life. Confront the reality of your own life. Accept it as an opportunity for growth. It’s hard to admit our lives are filled with error and deception. Only accepting this, and facing the truth, gives you the opportunity to grow.",,89,resolutions316,2019-04-25 13:56:55 marriedredpill,bgdw8p,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 23, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -37140,7 +37140,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,1556007873.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,2019-04-23 08:24:33 marriedredpill,bg1a21,60 DoD Week 5: Internal Game - Part I: Instinctual Self Interest... and Zeppelin.,"Having Frame. @@ -37268,7 +37268,7 @@ Think about the girls you found attractive. What did the girls like about you? Bring some of these behaviors back into your life and you'll find yourself being more grounded in your frame, developing your internal game and being less reactive to the forces around you. -(Edited for formatting)",,42,JDRoedell,1555934587.0 +(Edited for formatting)",,42,JDRoedell,2019-04-22 12:03:07 marriedredpill,bfy5b5,App Review: BodBot - Two Thumbs Up,"We all know that [Lifting Is Not A Suggestion](https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/9l4fij/lifting_is_not_a_suggestion/). It's the easiest way for a man to start to see gains in his interpersonal relationships and sex life. It's a craft worth the continual effort to hone. So, for various reasons, I decided to try a personal training app called BodBot. I had seen ads for it on my phone and was intrigued. Here's what I've found after trying it out for a bit. **FEATURES** @@ -37409,7 +37409,7 @@ I'm also pleased that it includes cardio and off days (one day was just to walk While it's not perfect, and I've only been using it for a short while, I'm pleased enough to give it my recommendation - especially for anyone who happens to be cutting (my present context) or wants to develop a familiarity with lifts beyond the basic SL/GS routine and how different muscle groups can be triggered to supplement the core SL/GS lifts that I still don't intend to leave behind. -A lot of the things I see this app recommending are the same things I see personal trainers doing with their clients at the gym. I used to look down on some of this, as I hammered away on the bench press. After spending time diversifying my routine through this app, I can say I have a new appreciation. While I doubt this app is a substitute for an actual personal trainer (I've never used one, but have worked out alongside friends who are PTs), it's not a bad option if you don't want to shell out the cash.",,31,Red-Curious,1555908944.0 +A lot of the things I see this app recommending are the same things I see personal trainers doing with their clients at the gym. I used to look down on some of this, as I hammered away on the bench press. After spending time diversifying my routine through this app, I can say I have a new appreciation. While I doubt this app is a substitute for an actual personal trainer (I've never used one, but have worked out alongside friends who are PTs), it's not a bad option if you don't want to shell out the cash.",,31,Red-Curious,2019-04-22 04:55:44 marriedredpill,bfkhdr,Raiders of the Lost Covenant,"Essay: [https://therationalmale.com/2019/04/20/raiders-of-the-lost-covenant/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/04/20/raiders-of-the-lost-covenant/) @@ -37430,7 +37430,7 @@ The *Contractual* marriage is one based on mutual support and an insurance that Essentially, *Contractual* marriage is the **marriage-divorce-support** structure that men are wisely hesitant about today. Dalrock once noted that sometime after the *Sexual Revolution*“*we moved away from the marriage model of child rearing and into the child-support model of child rearing*“, and I think the *Contractual* model of marriage becoming the default was an integral part of this. -If you’ve ever watched the documentary [***Divorce Incorporated***](https://youtu.be/lZTOT6DKfZ8)[ ](https://youtu.be/lZTOT6DKfZ8)you can see the machinations of the *Contractual* form of marriage at work. This is just a taste of some of the real world consequences that accompany *Contractual* marriage’s liabilities. However, I think going in – and with the emphasis on leading with our feelings – most men have idealistic, *Covenant* marriage, expectations for their marriages.",,26,Rollo-Tomassi,1555815921.0 +If you’ve ever watched the documentary [***Divorce Incorporated***](https://youtu.be/lZTOT6DKfZ8)[ ](https://youtu.be/lZTOT6DKfZ8)you can see the machinations of the *Contractual* form of marriage at work. This is just a taste of some of the real world consequences that accompany *Contractual* marriage’s liabilities. However, I think going in – and with the emphasis on leading with our feelings – most men have idealistic, *Covenant* marriage, expectations for their marriages.",,26,Rollo-Tomassi,2019-04-21 03:05:21 marriedredpill,bfasfw,60 DoD Week 4: Style,"*""We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all Bros are created equal - though not necessarily with the same good looks or sense of style - and that they are endowed with certain inalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of tail."" - The Bro Code* @@ -37578,7 +37578,7 @@ https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9fkvne/how_to_smell_amazing_a_m Tanner Guzy's Book - https://www.amazon.com/Appearance-Power-Masculinity-Expressed-Aesthetics/dp/1979138400/ -MaleFashionAdvice - https://www.reddit.com/r/malefashionadvice/",,32,SteelSharpensSteel,1555755614.0 +MaleFashionAdvice - https://www.reddit.com/r/malefashionadvice/",,32,SteelSharpensSteel,2019-04-20 10:20:14 marriedredpill,bes9si,DEER is exclusive to females.,"I keep seeing guys advising men to not DEER in these subs. But that advice makes no sense and is a spergy over-application of the good advice to never DEER to your wife or gf. If you take DEER avoidance to this extreme, conversation between men becomes impossible. We are men and explaining or defending is a critical aspect of our communication. Men make claims and defend them, or state a thesis then explain it. This is how *logical* conversation happens. @@ -37593,7 +37593,7 @@ It shuts down the conversation where any additional contribution to the discussi I’ve seen such retarded conversations on this sub as P1: “you’re DEERing even on this sub.” P2: “no, I’m not I’m telling you why you’re wrong.” P1: “hurr durr. See, yer DEERing right now! Hahaha.” Those are possibly the most retarded, empty conversations here. It’s as bad as any of the spergs on TRP who just say “next” reflexively. -Tl;dr DEERing is bad when done to women because you attempt to use logic on someone who thinks emotionally. “DEERing” to men is just called a disagreement because we communicate rationally.",,30,[deleted],1555629845.0 +Tl;dr DEERing is bad when done to women because you attempt to use logic on someone who thinks emotionally. “DEERing” to men is just called a disagreement because we communicate rationally.",,30,[deleted],2019-04-18 23:24:05 marriedredpill,beizfc,Quit being a fucking pussy,"Ok, you “swallowed the pill 3 weeks ago,” whatever the fuck that means. You used to be like toooootally alpha, but you got in a relationship and you caught feelz. And now your not alpha anymore. You’re in “great shape,” but you don’t back it up with any stats like height, weight, and lifts. Your wife is “legit” 9, and she ls 42 yrs old. Of course , no numbers on her either. Next, you want to go into a long play by play accessment of what happened between you and your wife over the last week. It reads like a train of thoughts from a drunk person. You may have even had a “main even” or a mini-main event, whatever the fuck that is. Your story is filled with your DEERing, and you even DEER to us because getting internet strangers on your side is very important, maybe even **vital** to your self esteem. @@ -37627,7 +37627,7 @@ So, make up your mind today. Do you want to be a pussy, or do you want to be a The choice is yours. You are the architect of your life, and you are the reason for your current circumstances. -Make up your mind to **Quit being a fucking pussy**",,210,BobbyPeru,1555574962.0 +Make up your mind to **Quit being a fucking pussy**",,210,BobbyPeru,2019-04-18 08:09:22 marriedredpill,bdrgak,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 16, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -37636,7 +37636,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,1555403070.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,17,AutoModerator,2019-04-16 08:24:30 marriedredpill,bc0loy,(Un)Fucking Habits,"All that we do in our lives is built of habits. Sometimes these habits are conscious, e.g., how we travel to work or how we style our hair. Often, they are not; how we inject tone into a conversation or how we stand in public. Dr. Maxwell Maltz once described based on personal experience it takes ""a minimum of about 21 days for an old mental image to dissolve and a new one to jell."" This idea was published in 1960 in the book ""Psycho-Cybernetics"". The idea circulated and grew to the point it became common belief it had truth; an urban myth. A habit. @@ -37723,14 +37723,14 @@ Remember, it is not just positive habits we are building. We are extinguishing n > ""[When nothing seems to help, I go and look at a stonecutter hammering away at his rock, perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred and first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not that last blow that did it, but all that had gone before.](https://www.nytimes.com/2014/06/17/sports/basketball/spurs-title-is-a-victory-for-persistence.html)"" -Edit 2: [Do not let your guard down with established, positive habits.](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/bc0loy/unfucking_habits/ekn3k37/)",,77,ImNotSlash,1554993301.0 +Edit 2: [Do not let your guard down with established, positive habits.](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/bc0loy/unfucking_habits/ekn3k37/)",,77,ImNotSlash,2019-04-11 14:35:01 marriedredpill,bbg016,Be a man - Go outside and scare yourself,"Ok girlfriends, &#x200B; Its been a while since i posted about getting out there into the big wide world and doing some manly stuff. Maybe you do already, maybe you don't. But there is a lot of talk here about who should be making dinner and what it means when she is being a bitch (its day 3 of her cycle, so...). If I stumbled across this site i would assume y'all are pussies from the recent posts. I can't remember the last post that made me think one of you was bad-ass - probably u/red-sfpplus i guess, or maybe u/screechhater -So let go of that wheelbarrow you need to carry your balls around and tell us about your adventures / challenges / risky behaviours. Y'know like multi-day hikes, back country skiing, surfing big waves, fight with a homeless person, you get the idea.",,59,simbarlion,1554858648.0 +So let go of that wheelbarrow you need to carry your balls around and tell us about your adventures / challenges / risky behaviours. Y'know like multi-day hikes, back country skiing, surfing big waves, fight with a homeless person, you get the idea.",,59,simbarlion,2019-04-10 01:10:48 marriedredpill,bb5ed0,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 09, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -37739,7 +37739,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. -Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,1554798276.0 +Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.",,16,AutoModerator,2019-04-09 08:24:36 marriedredpill,b8ek61,Sexual Selection and Existential Fear,"Essay: [https://therationalmale.com/2019/04/01/sexual-selection-existential-fear/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/04/01/sexual-selection-existential-fear/) @@ -37756,7 +37756,7 @@ In 2019 men’s control over their sexual selectivity is something women don’t Men must be raised up and conditioned from the earliest age to accept women’s strategy and their role in it as the only acceptable one. Men’s selection of a mate must be made *for*him according to women’s standards. Many times I’m asked how to go about “vetting for a wife”. I’m asked what the criteria, what aspects, what traits should a woman possess to make her “marriage material”. From a Red Pill perspective a lot of what I lay out seems highly offensive to the sensibilities of men and women conditioned by the Feminine Imperative. But the qualities, and the reasons I define them being desirable, are nothing any man who is invested in his own sexual strategy wouldn’t find mundane. -It’s not difficult to figure out what attributes in women would make for a good pairing – what’s offensive is that a man would ever have the temerity to ***require*** a woman to possess them at all.",,70,Rollo-Tomassi,1554180356.0 +It’s not difficult to figure out what attributes in women would make for a good pairing – what’s offensive is that a man would ever have the temerity to ***require*** a woman to possess them at all.",,70,Rollo-Tomassi,2019-04-02 04:45:56 marriedredpill,b8gfef,"Own Your Shit Weekly - April 02, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -37766,7 +37766,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,14,AutoModerator,1554193468.0 +",,14,AutoModerator,2019-04-02 08:24:28 marriedredpill,b76gyt,"60 DOD week 1 part 3 severe injuries , true disability and strength.","This is for those who were told they can’t lift weights. Or for those who truly are physically challenged. If that’s not you. Keep reading. You may learn something. @@ -37858,7 +37858,7 @@ This wasn’t meant to be all encompassing. Just the idea that you can get stro Specific questions in comments. -Edit - I forgot to add Plyometrics. This is the one thing I haven’t added and really should. So should you. ",,26,Taipanshimshon,1553915762.0 +Edit - I forgot to add Plyometrics. This is the one thing I haven’t added and really should. So should you. ",,26,Taipanshimshon,2019-03-30 03:16:02 marriedredpill,b6x4ye,60 DoD Week 1 - Part 2 Lifting For Life,"I spent most of my work life driving process improvement in various organizations. For the past 30 years, that has centered around continuous improvement using lean tools and concepts. The idea of continuous improvement is ingrained in my business life and personal life. The journey may or may not get easier……but only you decide when it ends. @@ -37935,7 +37935,7 @@ OK, the iron is calling and those weights won’t lift themselves.…… PS. Deep appreciation to all the regular contributors on Married Red Pill and AskMRP. I learn from you guys every week. Continuous improvement; the journey never ends. Rock On! -",,49,NoAARPforMe,1553865344.0 +",,49,NoAARPforMe,2019-03-29 13:15:44 marriedredpill,b5n4eo,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 26, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -37945,7 +37945,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,17,AutoModerator,1553588668.0 +",,17,AutoModerator,2019-03-26 08:24:28 marriedredpill,b5cm13,Marriage after Dread Level 12 (see also “Spin Plates with Caution” or “How to be Happy with What You’ve Got”),"This post is part cautionary tale, part philosophical question, part request for advice. I tried to be reasonably concise, hopefully I didn’t gloss over important details or go on for too long. TL;DR version @@ -37966,7 +37966,7 @@ But there was hope; we both wanted to repair our marriage, and she decided to fo I read a post recently on TRP that basically said that the quest for self-improvement could become an all-consuming obsession, and I feel like that fits me to a T. On paper I have everything a man could want – a high status career, a wife that most men would be jealous of, a nice house, two wonderful children, and an active social life with lots of friends – but I still feel this emptiness inside me. My wife tells me that one can create their own happiness, and to some extent I believe that. But then another part of thinks I can do better; maybe I’ll find that 21-year old bisexual lingerie model who’s also polite and loves children and home cooking, or whatever chimera my mind has conjured up as a vision of what would actually satisfy my own hypergamous instincts. -Once you’ve experienced something “better”, how do you go back to “normal” and be satisfied?",,56,daddytwoshoes,1553530377.0 +Once you’ve experienced something “better”, how do you go back to “normal” and be satisfied?",,56,daddytwoshoes,2019-03-25 16:12:57 marriedredpill,b4y4aj,60 DOD Week 1 Part 1 - Lifting,"""Lifting, it's easier posted on reddit than actually done."" -bogeyd6 **Picking a Gym** @@ -37995,7 +37995,7 @@ If you think you can do MRP without Lifting and without Reading. Go ahead and le P.S. -Shout out to Stoney, Comment dit-on lifting en français? Think lifting is hard? Try finding a power lifting gym in Europe.",,57,bogeyd6,1553444314.0 +Shout out to Stoney, Comment dit-on lifting en français? Think lifting is hard? Try finding a power lifting gym in Europe.",,57,bogeyd6,2019-03-24 16:18:34 marriedredpill,b4imdm,DOD Week 0 Part 2 - How to be Happy - The 3 Step Guide,"The Happy Man – How to Guide Simbarlion started us off by framing the concept of happiness. This is the follow up, “ how to” guide for those struggling with the concept. @@ -38061,7 +38061,7 @@ In terms of my physical goals, I lost 50+ lbs of fat, after being literally phys Money - briefly – getting rid of the idea that I work for a company, rather than AT a company, for myself, created cognitive opportunities to make more money, have more control of my day, have more free time. In fact, I haven’t done any work in a few years. By that I mean that, most of the time, I enjoy what I do nearly every minute. It doesn’t feel like work. It feels like a hobby that pays me. -Getting the girl - Several plates, ONS and so on, into separation, I realized that its getting the girl interested and having her show that interest is what’s enjoyable for me. Sex is a byproduct. Oh, and now I can think much more logically about any given woman and the time I want to invest in her, if any. Works wonders for creating that correct mentality for game. ",,58,Taipanshimshon,1553344071.0 +Getting the girl - Several plates, ONS and so on, into separation, I realized that its getting the girl interested and having her show that interest is what’s enjoyable for me. Sex is a byproduct. Oh, and now I can think much more logically about any given woman and the time I want to invest in her, if any. Works wonders for creating that correct mentality for game. ",,58,Taipanshimshon,2019-03-23 12:27:51 marriedredpill,b4b9fp,60 DoD 2019 - Week 0 - Happiness is your long game,"&#x200B; &#x200B; @@ -38178,7 +38178,7 @@ But even if you’re hardcore red, life is not *all* about sex, so stop fooling ‘*Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.*’ \~Marcus Aurelius Antoninus -&#x200B;",,70,simbarlion,1553292901.0 +&#x200B;",,70,simbarlion,2019-03-22 22:15:01 marriedredpill,b4a00a,"There, for the grace of RP, go you","So , since I just killed a direct link with no analysis on askmrp I thought it a good time to grab a recent bluepilled man's example from another sub to show what we mean and how analysis demonstrates understanding. We don't care about the clueless out there on other subs. @@ -38272,7 +38272,7 @@ Imagine for a second this guy said no and his worst fears came true? She left him then over him saying no? How in the world would he not be in a 1000% better situation now. More likely if he was rp aware (or natural) she'd have just thanked him a year or two later as saving her from herself. Or even if not... that's her emotion to manage... it was still a shit idea. -",,64,[deleted],1553286387.0 +",,64,[deleted],2019-03-22 20:26:27 marriedredpill,b45byj,60 DoD 2019 - Official kickoff,"Rejoice, for 60 DoD 2019 is finally here! I know you're as excited as I am, for this is going to be a content-packed 60 days, with many of you committed to write posts for our focus areas. Before all that kicks off this weekend, let's go over the basics of this challenge again. @@ -38298,7 +38298,7 @@ So with that all said, let's get to it. There will be a couple of ""Week 0"" pos Gentlemen, this is 60 DoD. Begin. -Edit: Just a reminder, this will end on 05/24/2019.",,62,SorcererKing,1553262795.0 +Edit: Just a reminder, this will end on 05/24/2019.",,62,SorcererKing,2019-03-22 13:53:15 marriedredpill,b3y5my,Sheesh...,"Sheesh… I never expected this. @@ -38353,13 +38353,13 @@ Go life. **Edit 4.** Hopefully my last. **Future dudes in a similar predicament,** know this: (1) I won't ever delete my account or posts, regardless of past, present, or future cringinesss, and (2) there is **some really, really good advice below** - in the event you find yourself in similar circumstances. These are some genuinely smart and insightful mother-fuckers. -I'm glad I chose to ask for feedback. ",,23,johneyapocalypse,1553213727.0 -marriedredpill,b3v7pg,We don’t do that / You don't want us answering that.,,https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/b3ryql/we_dont_do_that_you_dont_want_us_answering_that/,21,[deleted],1553198346.0 +I'm glad I chose to ask for feedback. ",,23,johneyapocalypse,2019-03-22 00:15:27 +marriedredpill,b3v7pg,We don’t do that / You don't want us answering that.,,https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/b3ryql/we_dont_do_that_you_dont_want_us_answering_that/,21,[deleted],2019-03-21 19:59:06 marriedredpill,b3tur4,"The Thing That I Must, Must, MUST Tell You...","I, and 99.95% of all men here don't give a fuck about your wife or significant other. The other 0.05% are trying to figure out who she is so we can fuck her. -That is all.",,27,RuleZeroDAD,1553191754.0 +That is all.",,27,RuleZeroDAD,2019-03-21 18:09:14 marriedredpill,b3lfgt,Relationships are a woman's job,"Divorced or single, I noticed a similar thing, guys looking for a relationship. I have never been the guy who wanted one, the only reason I'm in one now is because the girl I was with never gave me a red flag in over two years. And I remember that one goof in here who got divorced, then a few months later is already looking at his first plate like a replacement for the wife he already didn't want. I happened into this mindset, almost by accident. I had been spinning plates for just about a decade at that point – I was a late bloomer – and had seen nothing but disaster in the vast majority of relationships around me. Parents, friends, co-workers. I was just old enough to see the first round of divorces among guys my age. Man it happens young. As I started telling the story, I was getting the stories of other guys in the red pill, the one that comes to mind was /u/UEMMcgill, another red pill moderator who had the same experience. A few others afterwards came out, and so I ran with the idea. @@ -38369,7 +38369,7 @@ You can only be open to having a relationship, but the onus is on her to convinc [Full post here](https://www.rianstone.com/blog/relationships) [Also I watch the dogs sleep while I tell the story](https://youtu.be/k1xEV2C_n5g) -",,56,RStonePT,1553137502.0 +",,56,RStonePT,2019-03-21 03:05:02 marriedredpill,b3iz27,The Existential Fear – Men,"Essay: [https://therationalmale.com/2019/03/20/the-existential-fear-men/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/03/20/the-existential-fear-men/) @@ -38394,7 +38394,7 @@ I call this men’s *Existential Fear* because denying men the certainty of pate This is root level stuff here. So important was the determination of paternity for men that an obsessive concern for it was written into our mental firmware. The risks of falling for paternity deception was *that* important, and the men who evolved this compulsion were selected-for. The reason we [***Mate Guard***](https://therationalmale.com/2012/11/01/mate-guarding/), the reason our hindbrains default to jealous suspicions, the reason we cannot bear the thought of another man mating with ***our woman***is rooted in the fear of investing ourselves in a child not our own. -In the previous essay I mentioned the natural revulsion response humans have towards things that are inherently harmful to us. A reservation or revulsion of snakes, spiders, feces, rot and necrosis are part of the evolved firmware we’re born with. I would also argue that the revulsion women feel towards “creepy” (low SMV, Beta) men and the revulsion men feel towards “slutty” women is part of this. Both these revulsions are adaptational protections against our respective *Existential Fears*. Each represents our [***Instinctual Interpretive Process***](https://therationalmale.com/2018/04/23/the-instinctual-process/) letting us know what our ancestors had to avoid.",,40,Rollo-Tomassi,1553123646.0 +In the previous essay I mentioned the natural revulsion response humans have towards things that are inherently harmful to us. A reservation or revulsion of snakes, spiders, feces, rot and necrosis are part of the evolved firmware we’re born with. I would also argue that the revulsion women feel towards “creepy” (low SMV, Beta) men and the revulsion men feel towards “slutty” women is part of this. Both these revulsions are adaptational protections against our respective *Existential Fears*. Each represents our [***Instinctual Interpretive Process***](https://therationalmale.com/2018/04/23/the-instinctual-process/) letting us know what our ancestors had to avoid.",,40,Rollo-Tomassi,2019-03-20 23:14:06 marriedredpill,b2ut2o,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 19, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -38404,7 +38404,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,18,AutoModerator,1552983869.0 +",,18,AutoModerator,2019-03-19 08:24:29 marriedredpill,b2jyvp,The Victim,"I don’t know how this will be received, but I believe every once in a while, it’s worth reminding that we have to carry ourselves into a World hostile to an unplugged man’s life. Outside of our much focused and sometimes myopic quest of getting what we want out of this short existence, we forget that the self-deluded are all around us. Every rough edge to any circumstance has a tendency to appear like the head of a nail peeking out from some weather-beaten timber needing to be smashed flat. The matter-of-fact, come along or get left behind mindset, is excellent for dealing with your spouse, kids, business associates, and friends. Men learn quickly that most people prefer to defer, and if they can follow your vision to a beneficial place, everyone is happy. Men understand that being the supplier of resources, be it time, fun, money or leadership, is a burden to be accepted. If a man is lucky, those around him provide value in return, and life is interesting. @@ -38432,7 +38432,7 @@ As surprising as her tone-deafness, are the responses to her posts in support of The silver lining in all of this is that I don’t have facebook, and that I’m anonymous on Twitter. I’ve come to value my wife more through this experience, because she is the one who reads the garbage and summarizes everything for me. She’s very cute and careful about it too, which makes it fun. It also lets me know that she values my worth over the drama that could be generated for her hamster. I let her get outraged for me, and for some reason, having a common enemy also gets her in the mood. We choose to be victims or not, and we choose our own tribe. Don’t let your past tear down what you are continually building. -",,114,RuleZeroDAD,1552922494.0 +",,114,RuleZeroDAD,2019-03-18 15:21:34 marriedredpill,b18639,Stop keeping score,"Stop fucking keeping score. The question is a yes or no answer: @@ -38487,8 +38487,8 @@ She doesn’t care what the score is. You are either the man, or not. The score You are the only dumb fuck in the relationship trying to build a trend chart in excel and justify it to yourself. -Stop. Go lift and STFU.",,108,red-sfpplus,1552609934.0 -marriedredpill,b0t0qs,Case in point: generating those tingles is an indirect effect of taking care of business,,https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/b0qd4e/last_night_i_heard_my_husband_tell_off_one_of_his/,63,Redpillbrigade17,1552519718.0 +Stop. Go lift and STFU.",,108,red-sfpplus,2019-03-15 00:32:14 +marriedredpill,b0t0qs,Case in point: generating those tingles is an indirect effect of taking care of business,,https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/b0qd4e/last_night_i_heard_my_husband_tell_off_one_of_his/,63,Redpillbrigade17,2019-03-13 23:28:38 marriedredpill,b05b3q,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 12, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -38498,7 +38498,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,18,AutoModerator,1552379068.0 +",,18,AutoModerator,2019-03-12 08:24:28 marriedredpill,azbw4u,Don't really give a shit about gaming new chicks,"Lately, I've had no motivation to game women. I would say I've felt like this for about six months. I am pretty happy with my wife these days. I'm owning my shit and I have room for improvement but for the most part she doesn't shit test, is feminine, has a low n-count, kills it at work, takes care of the house, and cooks for me every night. @@ -38507,7 +38507,7 @@ For a while I was going out a lot, gaming girls, flirting, etc. After going thro Has anyone else gone through this? Part of me feels like something is wrong with me. I understand AWALT but I also feel like I have something really good going with my wife. -",,47,bigtuna45,1552190373.0 +",,47,bigtuna45,2019-03-10 03:59:33 marriedredpill,axptsn,Married Man Game Part 3: Sexting,"My wife decided to snoop on my computer last week and managed to find this account. Hi, babe! No, I'm not creating some stupid throwaway account or changing my profile. The first post she read was [The Consciously Crazy Wife](https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/9sfixb/the_consciously_crazy_wife/). Yikes! Haha. ""I knew you were hiding something, and I just wanted to know *all of you*,"" she said. It was a clear invasion of privacy, and I called her on that, but women are gonna do what women are gonna do. So, I ask her with a smile if she'd read [my OYS comment about enjoying her dripping wet juices](https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/avehhr/oys_where_progress_is_made_022719/ehf37xm/). She had, and we laughed together, though she was a bit embarrassed. I think she likes being a bit embarrassed when it's just between the two of us. She'd never admit it openly, but her behaviors in those moments don't lie. Another thing that I haven't done often, but also gets her embarrassed, is sexting. So, I figured I'd write a post on it. Let's see how embarrassing this can get ;) @@ -38602,7 +38602,7 @@ Ex. I was once flirting with my wife while she was in an air port and I was at w _____ -You have any other tips that have worked for you? I'd love to hear them. While I've immensely enjoyed my experiences with sexting, especially as one of the few areas where I get to express my writing prowess with my wife, I recognize that I don't do it often and would love to hear more about what works and what doesn't. Given the fact that my wife travels quite a bit for work during busy seasons, this is an art I'd like to continue enhancing and practicing more frequently when the situation calls for it.",,83,Red-Curious,1551817890.0 +You have any other tips that have worked for you? I'd love to hear them. While I've immensely enjoyed my experiences with sexting, especially as one of the few areas where I get to express my writing prowess with my wife, I recognize that I don't do it often and would love to hear more about what works and what doesn't. Given the fact that my wife travels quite a bit for work during busy seasons, this is an art I'd like to continue enhancing and practicing more frequently when the situation calls for it.",,83,Red-Curious,2019-03-05 20:31:30 marriedredpill,axiu71,"Own Your Shit Weekly - March 05, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -38612,7 +38612,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,21,AutoModerator,1551774268.0 +",,21,AutoModerator,2019-03-05 08:24:28 marriedredpill,ax8hzh,Accomplish Difficult Goals With The 4-Layer Method,"God I fucking hate that title. I read too many business books. @@ -38714,7 +38714,7 @@ I can already hear some of you saying, ""**Hurr durr you just need to man up and Well, sure. If you can do that, awesome. But if you're having trouble sticking to some of your goals, accountability is a good way of outsourcing enough will power to get you some forward momentum. -&#x200B;",,33,resolutions316,1551714284.0 +&#x200B;",,33,resolutions316,2019-03-04 15:44:44 marriedredpill,aw9czv,Stop. Thinking.,"I recently took a break from MRP, and since I've been back I have noticed a LOT of overthinking. @@ -38921,7 +38921,7 @@ P.S. And yes, I wrote this post INSTEAD of writing some dumb-ass post about some &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,151,resolutions316,1551472299.0 +&#x200B;",,151,resolutions316,2019-03-01 20:31:39 marriedredpill,avx8x9,Enslaved by Emotions," Over the past year or so, I've spent most of my self-improvement efforts on mastering my emotions. While I don't expect to ever fully 'arrive,’ I am much farther along than I was at the start of the journey. This process has been rewarding but has developed in spurts. Here's my most recent realization. @@ -39026,8 +39026,8 @@ This post isn’t intended to be an instructional post as much as a report on wh &#x200B; -So let’s hear them… we are in this together. ",,46,CaptJohnLukeDiscard,1551394387.0 -marriedredpill,avwede,A man with no backbone; A treatise on faking it until you make it.,,https://www.reddit.com/r/NMMNG/comments/avt727/a_man_with_no_backbone_a_treatise_on_faking_it/,44,UEMcGill,1551389054.0 +So let’s hear them… we are in this together. ",,46,CaptJohnLukeDiscard,2019-02-28 22:53:07 +marriedredpill,avwede,A man with no backbone; A treatise on faking it until you make it.,,https://www.reddit.com/r/NMMNG/comments/avt727/a_man_with_no_backbone_a_treatise_on_faking_it/,44,UEMcGill,2019-02-28 21:24:14 marriedredpill,avng2l,The Global Sexual Marketplace,"Essay: [https://therationalmale.com/2019/02/27/the-global-sexual-marketplace/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/02/27/the-global-sexual-marketplace/) @@ -39046,7 +39046,7 @@ In the age of global mass communication our localized (tribal) SMPs are replaced Now, I expect the first rebuttal to this proposition will be that the present, *global* SMP is a reflection of Westernized beauty standards and horribly distorted expectations. Asian/Indian men seem to want nothing to do with the native women who are ruthless in expressing that they want nothing to do with them. What globalized demographic is really left for these men? The same might be said about socially inept white men seeking an easier sexual marketplace in Asian women. All of this is simple deductive *adaptations*men will naturally resort to when it comes to solving the problems of sex and reproduction. -I’m totally accepting that there is a societal influence in all of this. However, I think the incentives to look into the opportunities that a larger global SMP offers is still based on Darwinistic principles. Even Western romanticism is still founded upon natural female arousal cues that define the larger SMP. The global SMP is rooted in the naturalistic, evolved (not socialized) elements that trigger arousal, incentivize parental investment and play off women’s dualistic sexual strategies (Alpha Seed/Beta Need).",,20,Rollo-Tomassi,1551332311.0 +I’m totally accepting that there is a societal influence in all of this. However, I think the incentives to look into the opportunities that a larger global SMP offers is still based on Darwinistic principles. Even Western romanticism is still founded upon natural female arousal cues that define the larger SMP. The global SMP is rooted in the naturalistic, evolved (not socialized) elements that trigger arousal, incentivize parental investment and play off women’s dualistic sexual strategies (Alpha Seed/Beta Need).",,20,Rollo-Tomassi,2019-02-28 05:38:31 marriedredpill,av7tul,The Indispensable Role of Dread Level 3,"***Dread Level 3: Build a life apart from your wife.*** @@ -39092,7 +39092,7 @@ The gym started off as a good source of dread, and maybe still is sometimes, but To succeed in Level 3 you must answer the question:  What kinds of things would you be doing if you were single?  How would you be meeting new people?  Where would you go?  What would you do? -You can build an awesome train, but it only goes so far without burning high grade DL 3.",,66,SiegreicherMarsch,1551233655.0 +You can build an awesome train, but it only goes so far without burning high grade DL 3.",,66,SiegreicherMarsch,2019-02-27 02:14:15 marriedredpill,av09ok,[FR] Honest About Growth," Fellas, I hope all is well out there. It’s been roughly 2 years since my last post. In all honesty, when I read my old posts I cringe but haven’t deleted them so I can remind myself how miserable I was. A lot of anger and a path of destruction that were direct results from a lack of frame. I’ve grown but still feel that I’m lacking some sort of internalization. This post stems from my recent display anger and have been paying the price for what I consider far too long - hopefully my issues are glaring in my post and you guys can pick it apart. **Fitness** @@ -39144,7 +39144,7 @@ OR Anyone care to unpack? May not be enough meat in the post but I will respond. - ",,23,Scubastyles,1551192735.0 + ",,23,Scubastyles,2019-02-26 14:52:15 marriedredpill,aux2jc,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 26, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -39154,7 +39154,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,16,AutoModerator,1551169467.0 +",,16,AutoModerator,2019-02-26 08:24:27 marriedredpill,aumpbe,[FR] Be Social with Everyone,"I had a history of being anxious in social situations and would rather put my head down and just go about my business when I was out and about. As part of my MAP, I decided it was time to change that and have pushed myself to talk to anyone I encounter regardless of where, when and who they are. Sure sometimes people brush me off but most of the time people are happy to chat for a minute or two. &#x200B; @@ -39175,7 +39175,7 @@ Dinner goes well and we are all hanging out having drinks and she tells me that &#x200B; -Being social isn't just about day gaming or catch/release - it is about literally talking to everyone and anyone because you never know what might happen from those interactions. There is always something interesting to talk to people about and most of the time people just like to talk about themselves so its super easy once they get on topic. I do know that if I had not forced myself to talk to the barista then I probably would never have been introduced to her daughters and maybe this entire evening plays out differently.",,107,hack3ge,1551110145.0 +Being social isn't just about day gaming or catch/release - it is about literally talking to everyone and anyone because you never know what might happen from those interactions. There is always something interesting to talk to people about and most of the time people just like to talk about themselves so its super easy once they get on topic. I do know that if I had not forced myself to talk to the barista then I probably would never have been introduced to her daughters and maybe this entire evening plays out differently.",,107,hack3ge,2019-02-25 15:55:45 marriedredpill,augwvk,"Ego and Lies, Self Actualization, Belief Systems, and Free-Will","Here’s a story that relates to one’s “red-pill journey” and process of unplugging. I knew a guy who when growing up felt like a loser, completely convinced he had no prior achievements or anything to be proud of in regards to accomplishments in his life, or even himself and his personality being ""incompetent"". He had always been told and felt deep inside his heart, mind, and soul that he was not worthy, not capable, and that no matter what he did, he and his efforts would always come up short or be ""shot down"". When in actuality, this couldn't be further from the truth. You see, we all have in our minds, this deep fingerprint or structural back laying of who we are and what our personalities are. These are our true personalities, and can be easily manipulated and molded like a ball of wet clay. Things like positive events as you grow up like playing sports, exploring your body, playing, social experimentation and meeting other kids, as well as having positive role models to look up to. Then you can have the negative: abuse, neglect, lies, laziness, poor role models. All of these things and everything that has ever happened to you shape this wet clay that is your personality, self esteem and confidence. This ball of wet clay if you will, can be protected, it can be protected by your free will, your beliefs or by your ego. Your beliefs are your center, and your core because without any beliefs, you are simply a ship without an anchor. Your free will lets you go where you want to go, when and where, and you comprehend and are made aware of anything that doesn't abide to your beliefs along the way. Both free will and belief are critical in becoming successful and getting ""your back off the wall"" and moving in the right direction. @@ -39185,15 +39185,15 @@ What will not get you in the right direction, and is something that every human Anyways, back to the story of my friend. As he was growing up, he had these beliefs in his mind that were just that.. BELIEFS IN HIS MIND. Not in the minds of others, not in the very fabric of the universe as we know it, not in the minds or DNA or atoms of the animals and trees that blossom from the soil. This was only in his mind. Remember that your beliefs can be manipulated similar to your personality, because people change. I believe in change. Change is good is one hell of a saying man. But any ways, this belief system in his mind could be changed, so he told himself one morning that he can change, that that was who he was, and he no longer needs to be that way. He is not who he was 1 day ago, 1 minute ago, 1 second ago. He can choose what he says, does, and puts out in this world. And in turn, this changes his beliefs. And especially, his beliefs about himself. Today, that man, my friend, has the mind sharp as a razor's edge, belief and free will hard as a rock, and his Ego is sound asleep. This all comes from discipline, being real with yourself, having pride but using it to channel your emotions and to fuel your journey through life in order to create a positive self esteem and confidence in one's ability to over come anything. For if you can conquer your own mind, you can conquer anything. Nothing in this world will do this for you, it is all in your mind and only you can tame the lion. -",,27,Slim-Pickins-,1551068886.0 -marriedredpill,ati8up,Red Pill and Cooking: Techniques [Rian Stone's Youtube],,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EYgyjVORdTA,37,[deleted],1550845891.0 +",,27,Slim-Pickins-,2019-02-25 04:28:06 +marriedredpill,ati8up,Red Pill and Cooking: Techniques [Rian Stone's Youtube],,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EYgyjVORdTA,37,[deleted],2019-02-22 14:31:31 marriedredpill,atknxu,"2017 at the 21 Convention, Orlando Florida","[I came out of the closet for this shit](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NvBLPsymo_E) And what the hell do you talk about? Dread of course. In this case, I used a little story telling to get a guy to understand what we do here. I wish I could add more context to this, but the sidebar does it for me. Walking a man through the 12 levels of dread. Kudos to /u/dirty_pr I met a few of his friends that day, as well as /u/chump_no_more, Rollo, Hunter, and the rest of the guys from here. -the first Reddit meetup in history that wasn't full of fat dudes playing Dungeons and Dragons",,18,RStonePT,1550858297.0 +the first Reddit meetup in history that wasn't full of fat dudes playing Dungeons and Dragons",,18,RStonePT,2019-02-22 17:58:17 marriedredpill,at82sf,Call for contributors: 60 DoD 2019 Edition,"Those of you who have been around a while know about 60 DoD. The rest of you n00bs should know about it from reading the side bar, right? RIGHT? Traditionally I have hand-selected contributors for the weekly posting. This year I am changing it up and looking for people to volunteer. If you are interested, please see the previous years' posts and pick a topical area you would like to tackle. Register your interest here with a reply and a short description of what you want to submit (i.e. the week, and a one-sentence description of your specific content). @@ -39202,7 +39202,7 @@ Don't be discouraged if other people are volunteering for your preferred topic. I am aiming to launch 60 DoD on 3/25 so that, as usual, the 60 days dumps you out at Memorial Day weekend, the unofficial start of summer. -Get ready you fuck-ups; it's time to get real.",,34,SorcererKing,1550781283.0 +Get ready you fuck-ups; it's time to get real.",,34,SorcererKing,2019-02-21 20:34:43 marriedredpill,asqi8r,Depressive and Anxious Wives: How it's all your fault.,"Having been on this MRP journey for a while now, I often see new and old folks continually providing information in regards to depressive wives but I’m not sure if it’s been covered yet in extensive detail for the crowd here that actually want to take ownership of the problems. For the record, my wife is diagnosed with a severe anxiety disorder that leads to depression and bi-polar tendencies. She also has family history of anxiety disorders. That’s what the doctors tell us, anyways. Like a lot of people here, I came to MRP with some or all of the following ideas. Maybe you have found yourself saying the following: @@ -39299,7 +39299,7 @@ Looks like there needs to be some clarification for the noobs that come here sin Strength, motherfuckers. -*Edit*: [Part 2: Transformation and Building Escape](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/c06qfe/depressive_and_anxious_wives_transformation_and/)",,192,HornsOfApathy,1550681080.0 +*Edit*: [Part 2: Transformation and Building Escape](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/c06qfe/depressive_and_anxious_wives_transformation_and/)",,192,HornsOfApathy,2019-02-20 16:44:40 marriedredpill,astp7x,The 21 Convention – Patriarch's Edition,"**Essay:** [https://therationalmale.com/2019/02/20/the-21-convention-patriarchs-edition/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/02/20/the-21-convention-patriarchs-edition/) @@ -39314,7 +39314,7 @@ This is the *Patriarch’s* Edition of the 21 Convention. There’s a reason it That said, the reason I prefaced this announcement with the above discussion is because I’m getting some mixed response about whether or not “Red Pill” ought to extend beyond the context of Game (from the PUA side) or simply abstaining from marriage and potentially family altogether (the MGTOW side). Both of these perspectives need to understand that this convention is not intended to promote marriage as some idealistic goal for men. On the contrary, it’s about informing men of the very real dangers marriage poses to men. It’s also designed to promote conventional masculinity as a much needed solution to the endemic social ills created by an unquestioned female-supremacism that resulted from 50+ years of [***Fempowerment***](https://therationalmale.com/2016/04/24/fempowerment/). -If you’re one of the men I’ve described above this is your conference. When this convention was first announced I had a lot of confused men asking me what it’s all about. Is this a good convention for me and my son? Is this for fathers, divorced men, men awakened while married? This convention is for all of these men and more.",,11,Rollo-Tomassi,1550696523.0 +If you’re one of the men I’ve described above this is your conference. When this convention was first announced I had a lot of confused men asking me what it’s all about. Is this a good convention for me and my son? Is this for fathers, divorced men, men awakened while married? This convention is for all of these men and more.",,11,Rollo-Tomassi,2019-02-20 21:02:03 marriedredpill,as85ti,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 19, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -39324,7 +39324,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,17,AutoModerator,1550564667.0 +",,17,AutoModerator,2019-02-19 08:24:27 marriedredpill,as17po,Wage War on Inactivity,"*Edit:* **This post's intention is not to tell you how to lose weight. The purpose is to spread awareness of inactivity and provide some ideas on how you can be more active in your life.** **If you want to lose weight, get your macros and nutrition dialed in right.** @@ -39373,7 +39373,7 @@ Below I will provide habits and ideas I've already implemented or will implement • Just doing some **pushups and lunges** in between chilling at home. -These are just some changes and habits I've implemented or will immediately begin doing in order to burn more calories and prevent myself from being a lazy fat fuck. Feel free to share your own below!",,37,Don_Draper27,1550519420.0 +These are just some changes and habits I've implemented or will immediately begin doing in order to burn more calories and prevent myself from being a lazy fat fuck. Feel free to share your own below!",,37,Don_Draper27,2019-02-18 19:50:20 marriedredpill,ar9zu2,Fuck The Red Pill,"Fuck The Red Pill. Not long ago I used to be able to watch a movie and not pick up the subtle undertones and character relationship models I am now forced to see like an ugly stripper on stage. @@ -39424,7 +39424,7 @@ The premise is the same. Once she has mentally checked out, the game is lost and Get to work motherfucker, and not on building a new track. -No one is going to stick around for a beta man.",,95,red-sfpplus,1550332596.0 +No one is going to stick around for a beta man.",,95,red-sfpplus,2019-02-16 15:56:36 marriedredpill,ar18yf,"Interesting. A mashup of what we talk about here, and some food.","[Here, videos showing our stuff](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ALMvW4_A99U) [Imagine poaching some eggs and talking to a buddy about his cheating whore wife who feels really bad](https://www.chumplady.com/2013/07/real-remorse-or-genuine-imitation-naugahyde-remorse/) @@ -39437,7 +39437,7 @@ I understand the guy who made them used to be a regular here. My favourite part is the comments section. A lot of guys saying cheating is an automatic no, hard next. I don't disagree, but for the co dependant guy who doesn't have the fortitude to do that, it's a roundabout way to make him ask the questions he needs to ask of himself, so he realizes that she's not sorry, only manipulative. -I see a lot of guys in OYS weekly posts who are in a lesser form of this path. I guess many guys need the scenic route to get to the same place often times.",,21,RStonePT,1550264641.0 +I see a lot of guys in OYS weekly posts who are in a lesser form of this path. I guess many guys need the scenic route to get to the same place often times.",,21,RStonePT,2019-02-15 21:04:01 marriedredpill,aqxahx,Statistics on Office Affairs according to Forbes,"Saw this article from Forbes in my Linked in feed. [It gives some data about office affairs and relationships.](https://www.forbes.com/sites/kimelsesser/2019/02/14/these-6-surprising-office-romance-stats-should-be-a-wake-up-call-to-organizations/#314a77a623a2) Particular highlights include - @@ -39459,12 +39459,12 @@ The analysis behind the article is more of a HR-based assessment instead of huma And finally, work relationships are a fun, novel fantasy. It's not a day-to-day grind. Which begs the question - if your relationships can be described as a ""day-to-day grind"", what are you actually doing? -Edit: [I just wanted to share this incel's comment](https://imgur.com/a/FQ7GEPa) on this very interesting topic du jour.",,42,[deleted],1550242301.0 +Edit: [I just wanted to share this incel's comment](https://imgur.com/a/FQ7GEPa) on this very interesting topic du jour.",,42,[deleted],2019-02-15 14:51:41 marriedredpill,aq5wyi,what to do instead of DEERing ?,"just learnt about DEERing... thanks reddit : ) ... but what to do instead? just sit there with your mouth shut? its a serious question. appreciate all insights! -the only thing I can come up with is : agree and amplify",,31,fischbrot,1550059647.0 +the only thing I can come up with is : agree and amplify",,31,fischbrot,2019-02-13 12:07:27 marriedredpill,app130,The Real You,"Essay [https://therationalmale.com/2019/02/11/the-real-you/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/02/11/the-real-you/) @@ -39483,7 +39483,7 @@ So, who is the real you? Who decides what your real personality is and what is a Red Pill men don’t find themselves, they build themselves.  -They forge themselves  into a creation of their own choosing based on realistic assessments of themselves, their conditions and the world that challenges them not to build himself. I wrote this essay to encourage you, but also to warn you that this building takes time, and you will meet all manner of resistance to the masculine project that is you.",,49,Rollo-Tomassi,1549943493.0 +They forge themselves  into a creation of their own choosing based on realistic assessments of themselves, their conditions and the world that challenges them not to build himself. I wrote this essay to encourage you, but also to warn you that this building takes time, and you will meet all manner of resistance to the masculine project that is you.",,49,Rollo-Tomassi,2019-02-12 03:51:33 marriedredpill,apr730,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 12, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -39493,15 +39493,15 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,9,AutoModerator,1549959867.0 -marriedredpill,apn367,[FR] Careful how (and if ever) let your wife take lead in bed.. Major shit test can ensue- OP may never recover,,https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/apinoy/need_help_my_wife_is_convinced_i_am_a_gay_man/,41,Redpillbrigade17,1549931014.0 +",,9,AutoModerator,2019-02-12 08:24:27 +marriedredpill,apn367,[FR] Careful how (and if ever) let your wife take lead in bed.. Major shit test can ensue- OP may never recover,,https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/apinoy/need_help_my_wife_is_convinced_i_am_a_gay_man/,41,Redpillbrigade17,2019-02-12 00:23:34 marriedredpill,aoyztk,"Book Suggestion: ""Can't Hurt Me"" by David Goggins","I first heard of this guy on Joe Rogan's podcast, but the author of this book is a bona fide badass. From Amazon: ""David Goggins is a retired Navy SEAL and the only member of the U.S. Armed Forces ever to complete SEAL training, U.S. Army Ranger School, and Air Force Tactical Air Controller training. Goggins has competed in more than sixty ultra-marathons, triathlons, and ultra-triathlons, setting new course records and regularly placing in the top five. A former Guinness World Record holder for completing 4,030 pull-ups in seventeen hours, he's a much-sought-after public speaker who's shared his story with the staffs of Fortune 500 companies, professional sports teams, and hundreds of thousands of students across the country."" I thought it worth submitting to the MRP community because the mental concepts he uses in training are essential for anyone serious about working out and/or improving themselves. He also has some amazing experience in using his mind to get him through some shitty situations and major life setbacks. He was nearly 300lbs when he first attempted to join the military. There is great motivation in here for hardened MRP veterans and noob faggots alike! He's an alpha male among alpha males. -Can't Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds https://www.amazon.com/dp/1544512279/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_WC3xCbEGXSKW0",,38,ChokingDownRP,1549760496.0 +Can't Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds https://www.amazon.com/dp/1544512279/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_WC3xCbEGXSKW0",,38,ChokingDownRP,2019-02-10 01:01:36 marriedredpill,aot27d,Your wife didn't make you beta; YOU did,"It is a universal human (and higher animal) trait to test others to determine their *actual* boundaries and expectations, which usually differ from those *stated*. * A child refuses to pick up his toys or to go to bed. @@ -39552,7 +39552,7 @@ Quit blaming your wife for YOUR failure. The good news is that since it was always you betaifying yourself, it requires only you to reverse it. -",,136,man_in_the_world,1549724702.0 +",,136,man_in_the_world,2019-02-09 15:05:02 marriedredpill,aol8ro,Reasonable Requests versus Testing - False Positives,"I'm going to keep this post short and sweet because I'm very new to MRP, but getting started comes with its challenges. Since I've started applying the MRP principles and observing my wife's behavior, I've found that a few times I've been failing in a different way when my wife makes reasonable requests. @@ -39571,7 +39571,7 @@ Obviously a big caveat here: most guys are probably failing actual shit tests, a The big lesson for me was if I just focus in on the true shit tests, my reactions will become more powerful. For me, right now it's more effective to have a slow transition. If I do fail a shit test, I make a mental note to be ready for the next one. -**TL;DR** \- **Problem:** if you treat reasonable requests as a shit test, you can do more harm than good. **Caveat:** you're most likely fucking it up by failing shit tests. **Lesson:** get good at reading the pitches: hit the fastballs down the middle, but also don't swing at shit that's outside of the strike zone.",,42,part_wolf,1549660803.0 +**TL;DR** \- **Problem:** if you treat reasonable requests as a shit test, you can do more harm than good. **Caveat:** you're most likely fucking it up by failing shit tests. **Lesson:** get good at reading the pitches: hit the fastballs down the middle, but also don't swing at shit that's outside of the strike zone.",,42,part_wolf,2019-02-08 21:20:03 marriedredpill,an975l,Our Journey,"What is MRP success? Is the sole purpose of this place to get laid like a porn star? That is rule zero after all. If that is the end game of this sub, then I suppose I'm the biggest failure here for someone who has spent as much time as I have on this journey. Is that what this place is? A playbook for the journey of life as a real man? These questions have went through my mind too many times to count as I've traveled down this road. As I've made my trek, I've had some realizations that I'd like to share. **The Love for Lifting** @@ -39606,7 +39606,7 @@ We kiss all the time, hold hands in public, dance in the kitchen while we cook a As time goes on, I come here less and less. I think the MRP portion of my journey in life is coming to a close (there is a tear in the corner of my eye as I type that). The stuff I've learned in this community has had an immeasurable impact on my life and will continue to do so for the rest of it. So this is Drty checking out. I won't delete as my journey could bring me back here someday, but I'm signing out and moving on. -*As I stand in front of this mirror, I'm reminded of the person who used to stare back at me in despair. NEVER AGAIN*",,122,drty_pr,1549331938.0 +*As I stand in front of this mirror, I'm reminded of the person who used to stare back at me in despair. NEVER AGAIN*",,122,drty_pr,2019-02-05 01:58:58 marriedredpill,anc5b8,"Own Your Shit Weekly - February 05, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -39616,7 +39616,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,15,AutoModerator,1549355067.0 +",,15,AutoModerator,2019-02-05 08:24:27 marriedredpill,am42af,"Firstly, get the fuck out!","When she cheats on you, you burn that shit down. The only position of power after being cheated on is to scorch the earth and allow time to regrow new fruit. I’m seeing too many guys coming in here letting their women rug sweep infidelity and controlling the outcome of their disloyalties, fuck that. @@ -39629,12 +39629,12 @@ Beyond that most of your wives won’t put in the effort, beyond lip service, to And realize any resistance to this is derived from your weakness. So much of the problems I read here are rooted in weakness. Your need to seek comfort and unwillingness to accept immediate pain is the reason for your suffering. -Lean into the pain, learn to be grateful for it. It’s there you’ll find change, growth and progress. ",,286,fuckmrp,1549040041.0 +Lean into the pain, learn to be grateful for it. It’s there you’ll find change, growth and progress. ",,286,fuckmrp,2019-02-01 16:54:01 marriedredpill,algvai,The State of the Manosphere Address 2018 – Rollo Tomassi,"Let me know what you guys think. &#x200B; -[https://therationalmale.com/2019/01/29/state-of-the-manosphere-2018-2/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/01/29/state-of-the-manosphere-2018-2/)",,35,Rollo-Tomassi,1548879038.0 +[https://therationalmale.com/2019/01/29/state-of-the-manosphere-2018-2/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/01/29/state-of-the-manosphere-2018-2/)",,35,Rollo-Tomassi,2019-01-30 20:10:38 marriedredpill,aky0pa,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 29, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -39644,7 +39644,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,18,AutoModerator,1548750269.0 +",,18,AutoModerator,2019-01-29 08:24:29 marriedredpill,ajia7m,Books for Raising Masculine Sons,"Two of my cousins recently gave birth to sons. Their dads are unfortunately pretty blue-pilled. I've decided that I need to insert myself as a male role model within acceptable family limits. Although I'd love to be the cool uncle type that takes them paintballing &c, we live far apart so mostly I'll just send them books for Christmas and their birthdays. So I was wondering what books you've gotten for your sons/nephews to raise them red-pilled? Here's my ideas so far, the list definitely lacks sports and religious themed books since I was never into those as a kid. @@ -39710,7 +39710,7 @@ The Importance of Being Earnest. The Three Body Problem. Hemingway. Vince Flynn-type stuff. -10000 Leagues Under the Sea.",,80,duskyMonk,1548369968.0 +10000 Leagues Under the Sea.",,80,duskyMonk,2019-01-24 22:46:08 marriedredpill,aiktnw,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 22, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -39720,7 +39720,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,29,AutoModerator,1548145468.0 +",,29,AutoModerator,2019-01-22 08:24:28 marriedredpill,aibgqq,A Key to Frame,"I started my journey on purposely trying to become the ideal version of myself early in 2018. Thanks to all of you and the knowledge we are building together, I have made significant progress on my body, strength, and personal happiness. I am still so far from where I want to be, but I believe I am heading in the right direction. This week I discovered something that I wish I would have found much earlier. The sidebar covers this in great detail, but for a newbie like myself it passed over my head. The physical components of the red pill are much easier to apply for the rookie - just go to the gym and lift the weight. If you can’t do this then you actually don’t care as much as you think you care. Unfortunately, while lifting is critical, I believe that without frame even the ideal body isn’t going to move the ball forward in a meaningful and lasting way. @@ -39732,7 +39732,7 @@ There is a simple trick to become the thinker of your own thoughts and developin As you begin to recognize your thoughts you will realize you are in a sea of people who are all just reacting to their thoughts, just like you have been. Kids are completely at the mercy of whatever their brain thinks. Just like you have been most of your life. Things don’t have to be the way they have always been. They can be so much better. You can actually change how you think. Try taking 10 minutes every day and practice recognizing and dismissing the thoughts that enter your consciousness. I think this is probably more important than lifting. Then, the next time you are facing someone who is emotionally upset, you will begin to see in real-time how your brain is telling you to react which is actually not in your best interest. And then you can simply not react that way. -",,72,pursuing_the_ideal,1548086655.0 +",,72,pursuing_the_ideal,2019-01-21 16:04:15 marriedredpill,aie683,Keeping Frame While Moving from a Lunk Learning to Dance #2," I posted up why guys should learn how to partner dance a couple months or so ago which you can refer to if you like for some more general information. If guys find value in me expanding on more specific aspects of dancing with a partner and its relevance to TRP then I’ll add some more as ideas perk up in my mind. @@ -39761,7 +39761,7 @@ Here’s how we communicate where we’re going next while maintaining frame in 7. Keep striving for excellence. All these points work together concurrently to make you a good lead. At the same time, you must be better than you were last time if only a little bit. This is how you cancel out boredom and hypergamy. Every day, week, month, year etc we are better than we were before. Drive up your value by adding to your skills and abilities. -Let me know what you guys think. If you find it useful, I could probably make this a series as there are so many things in TRP that have come crystal clear to me by learning how to dance. I can’t tell you how useful a skill this is for a guy to learn. I’ve heard multiple female partners in class say, “I’m just here to learn how to follow”. Women are hungry for a competent lead.",,20,suprathepeg,1548101385.0 +Let me know what you guys think. If you find it useful, I could probably make this a series as there are so many things in TRP that have come crystal clear to me by learning how to dance. I can’t tell you how useful a skill this is for a guy to learn. I’ve heard multiple female partners in class say, “I’m just here to learn how to follow”. Women are hungry for a competent lead.",,20,suprathepeg,2019-01-21 20:09:45 marriedredpill,ahhbvi,She Picked Out My Clothes,"I like watching the couples on those house hunting TV shows. &#x200B; @@ -39817,7 +39817,7 @@ A few months into my RP journey I learned how to fix my appearance. I built a n &#x200B; -This will all take time, effort, and money, but it's worth it. Your clothing is a reflection of you, and you have high standards.",,128,SiegreicherMarsch,1547860686.0 +This will all take time, effort, and money, but it's worth it. Your clothing is a reflection of you, and you have high standards.",,128,SiegreicherMarsch,2019-01-19 01:18:06 marriedredpill,agsgb0,Gender War,"Essay: [https://therationalmale.com/2019/01/16/gender-war/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/01/16/gender-war/) @@ -39834,7 +39834,7 @@ Less than a week after the APA’s holy decree that ‘traditional’ masculinit This narrative is the same one I wrote about in *Good Humans*. There was a message that accompanied feminist mothers’ boys when they marched in the Women’s Marches of 2017-2018; it was no longer ‘Boys Will Be Boys’ but ‘Boys Will Be Good Humans’. This then begs the premise, if you are a boy, if you are male, then you are not a Good Human. This is a fundamental redefining of what it means to be a man, according to the *Village*. In the Red Pill we understand the importance placed on living out the conventional definition of masculinity – manhood is not something to be given or taken away by the ambiguities of gynocentric society. But this is what the *Village* is fostering as it’s direction for men. It’s not enough for them to withhold your ‘manhood’, now if you resist their correction, if you embrace your innate male self, you are a “no good human.” -I’m hesitant to call this Gillette video a “commercial”. In actuality it is a feminist agitprop piece directed by a well-known radical feminist, Kim Gerhig. [**Kim and her producer, Sally Campbell, are notorious for producing** ](https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6596225/Meet-woke-women-Gillettes-controversial-toxic-masculinity-ad.html)[**exactly**](https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6596225/Meet-woke-women-Gillettes-controversial-toxic-masculinity-ad.html)[ **this deliberate misandry**](https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6596225/Meet-woke-women-Gillettes-controversial-toxic-masculinity-ad.html) when they’re not creating videos of singing vaginas. This, of course, is the ugly detail the Fem-Stream media would rather the mainstream pay no mind to. Our attention is supposed to be either on the message of “Men need to do better, what’s so wrong with that?” or “Only man-babies are crying about this ad.”",,63,Rollo-Tomassi,1547688397.0 +I’m hesitant to call this Gillette video a “commercial”. In actuality it is a feminist agitprop piece directed by a well-known radical feminist, Kim Gerhig. [**Kim and her producer, Sally Campbell, are notorious for producing** ](https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6596225/Meet-woke-women-Gillettes-controversial-toxic-masculinity-ad.html)[**exactly**](https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6596225/Meet-woke-women-Gillettes-controversial-toxic-masculinity-ad.html)[ **this deliberate misandry**](https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6596225/Meet-woke-women-Gillettes-controversial-toxic-masculinity-ad.html) when they’re not creating videos of singing vaginas. This, of course, is the ugly detail the Fem-Stream media would rather the mainstream pay no mind to. Our attention is supposed to be either on the message of “Men need to do better, what’s so wrong with that?” or “Only man-babies are crying about this ad.”",,63,Rollo-Tomassi,2019-01-17 01:26:37 marriedredpill,ag6djy,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 15, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -39844,7 +39844,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,24,AutoModerator,1547540668.0 +",,24,AutoModerator,2019-01-15 08:24:28 marriedredpill,ag0dke,Counterproductive Desire and the Fallacy of Unconditional Love,"**The Problem** Women are generally more interested in sex when they feel sexy. Blue pill men seem to understand this, but make the irrational next step: ""Let's just make them feel sexy all the time and hope this makes them want sex all the time."" It doesn't work. At some point, a husband's expression of desire for his wife can work against him. @@ -39891,7 +39891,7 @@ Another option is simply not to provide any positive or negative reinforcement t _____ -For any Christians, there's additional biblical information on the r/RPChristians version of this post.",,74,Red-Curious,1547499892.0 +For any Christians, there's additional biblical information on the r/RPChristians version of this post.",,74,Red-Curious,2019-01-14 21:04:52 marriedredpill,ag5aj3,Logic is Subjective.," I haven't seen this idea out there much at all; most people assume that logic is objective and immutable. I recognize that i'm **in the minority position** on this one. Please debate with reason and logic if you disagree.  @@ -39958,7 +39958,7 @@ Hypergamy: the father of my children and the man I love sincerely is ok and base CONCLUSION 1: STOP EXPECTING WOMEN'S LOGIC TO MAKE SENSE TO YOU,  WE ARE ALL SELFISH PIECES OF SHIT FOLLOWING OUR REPRODUCTIVE AGENDAS IN DIFFERENT WAYS.  -2. A WOMAN NEEDS ENOUGH LOGIC TO MAKE BABIES, IN NO WAY IS SHE REQUIRED TO MAKE SENSE TO MEN.",,0,rAFCdadHUSBAND,1547530966.0 +2. A WOMAN NEEDS ENOUGH LOGIC TO MAKE BABIES, IN NO WAY IS SHE REQUIRED TO MAKE SENSE TO MEN.",,0,rAFCdadHUSBAND,2019-01-15 05:42:46 marriedredpill,aexeau,Validation and Interdependency,"""I feel worthless,"" Alex told me recently. *Why's that?* I asked. ""Because my wife doesn't love me."" *That's an awful thing to feel. Why don't you think she loves you?* ""She's just not excited when I walk in the room anymore."" I asked Alex several more questions about his relationship with his wife. They were having regular sex. She was respectful of his requests and things she asked him to do. She fulfilled her responsibilities around the home and they maintained a reasonable budget with an exceptional income. They didn't argue very often. For all practical purposes, from the outside looking in, a casual onlooker would have assumed they had the perfect, American-dream marriage. But Alex was broken. Why? Because his wife didn't *feel* excited about him. His sense of self-worth was completely dictated by his wife's feelings rather than his own accomplishments, life purposes, motives, etc. @@ -40045,7 +40045,7 @@ In all of this, remember that Thoreau is not the model man we should all be stri In his book *Understanding People*, Dr. Larry Crabb hypothesized that all men have two core longings: (1) relationships with others and (2) to make an impact on our world. If he is right, and I believe he is, we will always be finding some way to look for validation in these aspects of our lives. -What I propose is that we take control of the means by which we experience validation, not placing it in the hands of our wives, friends, or societal perception, but by recognizing that we are in control of who we allow to judge our lives and placing the degree of validation we seek from different sources with the appropriate sources and in the appropriate weight - validation in our work performance from our boss, validation in our sense of identity and self-worth from ourselves (or, for Christians, from God), etc.",,89,Red-Curious,1547226212.0 +What I propose is that we take control of the means by which we experience validation, not placing it in the hands of our wives, friends, or societal perception, but by recognizing that we are in control of who we allow to judge our lives and placing the degree of validation we seek from different sources with the appropriate sources and in the appropriate weight - validation in our work performance from our boss, validation in our sense of identity and self-worth from ourselves (or, for Christians, from God), etc.",,89,Red-Curious,2019-01-11 17:03:32 marriedredpill,ae1uco,Remove the Man 2019,"Essay: [https://therationalmale.com/2019/01/08/remove-the-man-2019/](https://therationalmale.com/2019/01/08/remove-the-man-2019/) @@ -40062,7 +40062,7 @@ Today the [***American Psychological Association***](https://www.apa.org/monitor It would be easy to refute this basic presumption with countless examples of how all of these traits, most of which are innate parts of men’s evolved mental firmware, have been key in developing a civil society as well as healthy masculine identity. But what we’re seeing in this is a corruption of language that is leading to the standardization of the corruption of thought. -Stoicism, competitiveness, dominance and aggression are evolved aspects of the male psyche that have served men for millennia. To the Red Pill aware man this is self-evident. What is less evident is the new context in which these ‘educated’ men apply meaning to these terms. Academia has been so thoroughly assimilated by the Feminine Imperative that the men making official decrees about psychological principle no longer have the insight to understand that their perspective is informed by ‘*female-correct*‘ thought.",,74,Rollo-Tomassi,1546999034.0 +Stoicism, competitiveness, dominance and aggression are evolved aspects of the male psyche that have served men for millennia. To the Red Pill aware man this is self-evident. What is less evident is the new context in which these ‘educated’ men apply meaning to these terms. Academia has been so thoroughly assimilated by the Feminine Imperative that the men making official decrees about psychological principle no longer have the insight to understand that their perspective is informed by ‘*female-correct*‘ thought.",,74,Rollo-Tomassi,2019-01-09 01:57:14 marriedredpill,advrnv,Carrier Pidgeons and production value,"> In 2018, a Redditor was sent to prison by a kangaroo court for a crime he didn't commit. He promptly escaped from a maximum security stockade to the Internet underground. Today, still wanted by the admins, he survives as a poster of fortune. > If you have a problem, if no one else can help, and if you can find him, maybe you can get a retarded post by... Stoney. @@ -40092,7 +40092,7 @@ Cheers *Note:* I am not the author of this post. The artist formerly known as Rian_Stone is. -Follow him on twitter [@_rian_stone](https://twitter.com/_rian_stone) and his website at https://www.rianstone.com/.",,33,[deleted],1546964095.0 +Follow him on twitter [@_rian_stone](https://twitter.com/_rian_stone) and his website at https://www.rianstone.com/.",,33,[deleted],2019-01-08 16:14:55 marriedredpill,ads8q1,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 08, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -40102,7 +40102,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,17,AutoModerator,1546935870.0 +",,17,AutoModerator,2019-01-08 08:24:30 marriedredpill,abgkc4,"Own Your Shit Weekly - January 01, 2019","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -40112,7 +40112,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,17,AutoModerator,1546331069.0 +",,17,AutoModerator,2019-01-01 08:24:29 marriedredpill,ab7vt5,Validation needs that can poison your sex life,"The Red Pill has made us all very aware of the basic Beta Bux covert contract of provisioning for sexual access to his wife. Swallowing the red pill means giving up this covert contract. There are other, less apparent validation needs and covert contracts common to many new men here that will also poison your sexual relationship with your wife, which you must also recognize and remove before you can have the great sex that you (and your wife) desire. @@ -40270,7 +40270,7 @@ You're not fully comfortable with your own sexuality or with hers, or you're hun *** This post grew out of a discussion with u/resolutions316 following [his most recent OYS,](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9kov91/own_your_shit_weekly_october_02_2018/e742apr/) at the suggestion of u/weakandsensitive. -",,251,man_in_the_world,1546268924.0 +",,251,man_in_the_world,2018-12-31 15:08:44 marriedredpill,a9pxnh,Good sex requires Emotion,"I found r/marriedredpill while looking for ideas to spice up my boring, same-thing-every-time sex life with my postmenopausal wife. I've naturally followed most MRP principles throughout my 30+ year marriage, with the notable exception of those directly related to sex (flirting/game; behaviors toward and during sex). @@ -40337,7 +40337,7 @@ As I've made sex a richer and more varied emotional experience, I've found that *** This post grew out of a discussion with u/resolutions316 following [his most recent OYS,](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9kov91/own_your_shit_weekly_october_02_2018/e742apr/) at the suggestion of u/weakandsensitive. -",,202,man_in_the_world,1545841845.0 +",,202,man_in_the_world,2018-12-26 16:30:45 marriedredpill,a9j9sl,You’re Marriage Doesn’t Define You —Merry Christmas!,"Just a quick thought for everyone today. @@ -40363,7 +40363,7 @@ Be better. Be enough. -Merry Christmas, men.",,132,JDRoedell,1545779647.0 +Merry Christmas, men.",,132,JDRoedell,2018-12-25 23:14:07 marriedredpill,a9ll4z,[FR] A Ghost of Christmas Past,"When I found MRP just over a year ago, I hadn't had any sexual contact with my wife for three months and even then nothing too great for years. You can read about it in my first OYS, but she initially got heavy dread from finding MMSLP lying around and we had a fuckfest for a while right afterwards. My journal notes from a year ago today: &#x200B; @@ -40378,7 +40378,7 @@ Eventually the dread wore off and she settled into duty sex (mostly BJs). Freque Women will find the minimum it takes to keep you and hold it right there. That minimum has been raised significantly for me compared to where I started. but it's still not where I'd like to be and it's nowhere near where it could be. -The best damn gift I ever received was finding this forum. It taught me that the best part of being a man is you have the potential to get better every day. Increase your SMV, your abilities and your enjoyment of life every damn day. It's amazing and almost devastating to those trying to keep up with you. Here's to another year of constant progress with OI.",,38,PillUpAss,1545799671.0 +The best damn gift I ever received was finding this forum. It taught me that the best part of being a man is you have the potential to get better every day. Increase your SMV, your abilities and your enjoyment of life every damn day. It's amazing and almost devastating to those trying to keep up with you. Here's to another year of constant progress with OI.",,38,PillUpAss,2018-12-26 04:47:51 marriedredpill,a9a7h7,An Interview of Rian Stone,"[THIS is the interview](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mTinlvts1iE) As I said on youtube: ""this is a long form unedited interview of Rian Stone, the first Moderator of both the Married Red Pill and The Red Pill (/r/marriedredpill & /r/theredpill). @@ -40481,7 +40481,7 @@ https://www.patreon.com/_rian_stone 58:00 Coaching female clients -1:00 Guys refuse to get help!",,64,RedPillCoach,1545696515.0 +1:00 Guys refuse to get help!",,64,RedPillCoach,2018-12-25 00:08:35 marriedredpill,a9dcie,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 25, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -40491,7 +40491,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,4,AutoModerator,1545726269.0 +",,4,AutoModerator,2018-12-25 08:24:29 marriedredpill,a8h8hr,Little Big Head,"Essay: [https://therationalmale.com/2018/12/21/little-big-head/](https://therationalmale.com/2018/12/21/little-big-head/) @@ -40519,7 +40519,7 @@ Second, there’s the self-fulfilling idea that a man who opts for the tradition >***Law 36 – Disdain the things you cannot have*** *If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.* -MRAs and Trads alike don’t like being reminded that sex has always been an integral part of a healthy life experience for the majority of men who’ve ever lived on this planet. However, to them, sex is almost always a *reward* for desired behavior that they believe women expect of them. For most of them sex is always transactional so they never live out any frame of reference of having sex with a woman in a validational sense. It’s likely that they will never experience sex in any other context than the transactional. This is simply one of the visceral realities of a Darwinian sexual marketplace. As such, this pretext colors all of their understanding about what is, or should be accepted as, a legitimate sexual strategy – which unsurprisingly is his enforced monogamy strategy.",,25,Rollo-Tomassi,1545447699.0 +MRAs and Trads alike don’t like being reminded that sex has always been an integral part of a healthy life experience for the majority of men who’ve ever lived on this planet. However, to them, sex is almost always a *reward* for desired behavior that they believe women expect of them. For most of them sex is always transactional so they never live out any frame of reference of having sex with a woman in a validational sense. It’s likely that they will never experience sex in any other context than the transactional. This is simply one of the visceral realities of a Darwinian sexual marketplace. As such, this pretext colors all of their understanding about what is, or should be accepted as, a legitimate sexual strategy – which unsurprisingly is his enforced monogamy strategy.",,25,Rollo-Tomassi,2018-12-22 03:01:39 marriedredpill,a85r4e,The night before Christmas,"Twas the night before Christmas, and a glass was left out Beside it a pill, red and bright, filled with doubt @@ -40624,7 +40624,7 @@ And his wife could finally be his fuck toy &nbsp; Merry Christmas gentlemen. I am no poet but hey. -",,128,threekindsoflucky,1545361864.0 +",,128,threekindsoflucky,2018-12-21 03:11:04 marriedredpill,a7lbrg,13 Tips For Developing A Solid Frame,"- People are far too worried about themselves to truly give a fuck about you. When you walk away, they're not thinking about you anymore. - People aren't out to get you, they're for themselves. Far more often than not this is the case and using this to see what they want is a way to still get what you want. @@ -40649,7 +40649,7 @@ marriedredpill,a7lbrg,13 Tips For Developing A Solid Frame,"- People are far too - It's fine to admit when your wrong, but never apologize for it. Nothing wrong with being wrong, but feeling the need to say you're sorry is for pussies. -- If you need to tell people how awesome you are, you aren't very awesome. Bragging is for the weak.",,164,drty_pr,1545216127.0 +- If you need to tell people how awesome you are, you aren't very awesome. Bragging is for the weak.",,164,drty_pr,2018-12-19 10:42:07 marriedredpill,a798ef,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 18, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -40659,7 +40659,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,21,AutoModerator,1545121468.0 +",,21,AutoModerator,2018-12-18 08:24:28 marriedredpill,a6mi0f,The Wrong Way: Don't Be This Guy,"Apparently this video [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wen9pI8iDZU](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wen9pI8iDZU) is making the rounds on the 'chans and some MGTOW forums. A very very bitter Billy Beta attempts to lay a guilt trip on his wife for her refusal to have sex with him in months. I find the video difficult to watch, but I'm impressed with the stoic nature of the wife, who clearly DNGAF what her nagging husband has to say about anything. It's almost like a gender role reversal where the husband comes in to henpeck his wife and annoy her while she's relaxing in bed reading her phone or playing vidya or something. And while he nags and berates her there is a small child in the room. Maybe this is an extreme example of what not to do, maybe this is not all that uncommon in a lot of marriages. But this guy pretty much does the opposite of everything we recommend around here, and it clearly isn't working for him (or her.) &#x200B; @@ -40682,7 +40682,7 @@ DON'T BE THIS GUY! &#x200B; -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wen9pI8iDZU](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wen9pI8iDZU)",,69,0io-,1544937176.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wen9pI8iDZU](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wen9pI8iDZU)",,69,0io-,2018-12-16 05:12:56 marriedredpill,a61zq2,[FR] The Plate Affair,"There was a post here recently, describing how Chad was fucking your wife because she was repulsed by you (and / or more attracted by someone else). Though it was posited that there are two types of affairs, “emotional and physical”, OP was bang on that if it’s your woman experiencing either, you’re fucked, and your relationship is finished. I disagree with the assessment that the emotional affair is “more nefarious”, however. If this is your girl, they’re equally devastating - you’re relationship is finished either way. Next. The post described her wanting to vomit at your attempts at coitus. She recoils at your touch. You don’t know her passwords. Good stuff, but polarizing enough to make you “noobs” insecure. See, Chad forever ruined her, and ruined you. But how the fuck do you know that? Should be obvious to anyone that’s not retarded. Some of you feel how cold your girl is and suspect it, gnawing away at you. Others don’t exactly know, but fear the possibilities. Quite the spectrum. @@ -40712,7 +40712,7 @@ I’ve never met her SO and don’t want to meet that beta boy. Then came my tur Her ass was beet red; when I pointed that out, she seemed confident it would fade. Really? You’re a 20 minute cab ride from your husband. But hey great I’m dealing with experience - reminder that this is a plate only, fuck knows how many of these cab rides she’s done. Back to the point of the post. Is this your classy hoe? She staying out late “for work” or “with clients”, and such? If so, take stock brothers. -",,17,vomit_romney,1544766196.0 +",,17,vomit_romney,2018-12-14 05:43:16 marriedredpill,a5to2j,"The Pill, Ego, Depression, and Brainwashing","It’s amazing the situations we find ourselves in seemingly not within our control. I don’t think my situation is all that unique of stumbling onto TRP with much bigger issues than just a lackluster sex life. After all, we know that WE are the problem there, not her. Depression, in all its forms is pretty much an epidemic in western societies. We are living lives so far removed from what our mind and bodies have evolved into. A Fight Club quote that convey the point: “Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don't need. We’re the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our Great War’s a spiritual war… our Great Depression is our lives. We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won’t. And we’re slowly learning that fact. And we’re very, very pissed off.” @@ -40725,7 +40725,7 @@ Those thoughts passing by or zipping by at 150mph in some cases are externally i If you can come to the realization that you are not your thoughts, you are not your feelings, and a thought or emotion can be absolute bullshit, you can gain mental clarity. Everything slows down inside your head, and your day to day can suddenly be on easy mode. Fucked up at work? Take note, plan action, forget it. You won���t feel compelled to mull it over for hours or days. Move on. -You can see how this applies to all aspects of life. Shutdown the ego, and all you really have to do is live and die. The rest, including your RP mission will be done by calmly making choices and accepting whatever outcome that nets. ",,39,Acerp321,1544709132.0 +You can see how this applies to all aspects of life. Shutdown the ego, and all you really have to do is live and die. The rest, including your RP mission will be done by calmly making choices and accepting whatever outcome that nets. ",,39,Acerp321,2018-12-13 13:52:12 marriedredpill,a5dmvm,When I get to the bottom...,"When I get to the bottom I go back to the top of the slide... Where I stop and I turn and I go for a ride... @@ -40824,7 +40824,7 @@ It's not about your boss. It's not about your kids. It's not about your wife. It **So make it count.** -",,70,johneyapocalypse,1544580257.0 +",,70,johneyapocalypse,2018-12-12 02:04:17 marriedredpill,a53za0,The New Polyandry,"Essay: [https://therationalmale.com/2018/12/10/the-new-polyandry/](https://therationalmale.com/2018/12/10/the-new-polyandry/) @@ -40847,7 +40847,7 @@ Excerpt: > >I’ll be continuing this post in the next essay, but before I leave this essay let me reiterate the *Cardinal Rule of Sexual Strategies: For one sex’s strategy to be fulfilled the other’s must be compromised or abandoned.* Think of this on a sociological meta-scale. -&#x200B;",,32,Rollo-Tomassi,1544506341.0 +&#x200B;",,32,Rollo-Tomassi,2018-12-11 05:32:21 marriedredpill,a550da,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 11, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -40857,7 +40857,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,5,AutoModerator,1544516670.0 +",,5,AutoModerator,2018-12-11 08:24:30 marriedredpill,a4wo54,NMMG in a nutshell (from the book Boundaries with Kids),"I picked up the book ""Boundaries with Kids"" by Cloud and Townsend. They have several books in their ""Boundaries"" series. The books are all an unpacking of what could be distilled down to ""You do you""; Boundaries with Kids, with Teens, in Marriage. Good books IMO. They come from a Christian perspective. Reading in ""Boundaries with Kids"" recently... @@ -40868,10 +40868,10 @@ Reading in ""Boundaries with Kids"" recently... This is ""No More Mr Nice Guy"" (NMMNG) with a flavor of ""When I Say No I Feel Guilty (WISNIFG) in a nutshell. WISNIFG deals with a much broader subject than the dependency talked about here. But sometimes that ""I Feel Guilty"" component is an unhealthy, dependent-type loss being felt ... not a feeling of guilt. That's what NMMNG is all about. Feeling the need to make others happy and to NOT make others UNhappy drives so much of the Nice Guy's life. That's not love. This is the programming us Nice Guy's must break. -It's not my goal to get called an asshole once a week by my wife. But if I'm doing it right (especially after how long I did it wrong), then it's a decent enough metric that if I don't hear it once a week or so I probably need to re-evaluate.",,42,redwall92,1544456221.0 +It's not my goal to get called an asshole once a week by my wife. But if I'm doing it right (especially after how long I did it wrong), then it's a decent enough metric that if I don't hear it once a week or so I probably need to re-evaluate.",,42,redwall92,2018-12-10 15:37:01 marriedredpill,a46dje,Reddit has banned the Red Man Group sub,"Apparently the Red Man Group sub was so threatening to the mods that they needed to ban it. Their excuse? RMG was trying to circumvent the baseless continuing quarantine of TRP. Essentially they feared our podcast sub would evolve into the next TRP style forum. -This is complete nonsense, but this is the age we live in. Men gathering together in any way is either gay or misogynist. Men discussing intergender dynamics is a seditious act. They fear ideas. They fear the crucible of open debate, because they know their own ideas fail in it. ",,182,Rollo-Tomassi,1544232802.0 +This is complete nonsense, but this is the age we live in. Men gathering together in any way is either gay or misogynist. Men discussing intergender dynamics is a seditious act. They fear ideas. They fear the crucible of open debate, because they know their own ideas fail in it. ",,182,Rollo-Tomassi,2018-12-08 01:33:22 marriedredpill,a3w3w8,State of the Manosphere 2018,"Essay: [https://therationalmale.com/2018/12/06/state-of-the-manosphere-2018/](https://therationalmale.com/2018/12/06/state-of-the-manosphere-2018/) @@ -40908,7 +40908,7 @@ Or maybe they find my blog and books. Regardless, each of them is looking for a means to improve their lives. We don’t advertise in the manosphere. Not much anyway. The Red Pill, by its nature, is something that a man has to be looking for. Anyone who’s ever tried to “red pill” his friend or brother to help them avoid a life-ruining decision knows what I mean. It’s an unfortunate truth that men are often Zeroed Out and at their lowest when they become most open to introspection. -Men are often looking to understand women, but this eventually becomes an education in understanding themselves. It’s never enough to simply learn some PUA techniques. Game is integral to a Red Pill awakening in a man, but it is an incomplete act without internalizing the truths that the practice of Game reveals to men. As men learn about the nature of women they also come to realize why they did what they did, and why men do what they do. I often have men tell me how they wished they had the knowledge of the Red Pill before they made some debilitating decisions in their lives. ",,27,Rollo-Tomassi,1544155087.0 +Men are often looking to understand women, but this eventually becomes an education in understanding themselves. It’s never enough to simply learn some PUA techniques. Game is integral to a Red Pill awakening in a man, but it is an incomplete act without internalizing the truths that the practice of Game reveals to men. As men learn about the nature of women they also come to realize why they did what they did, and why men do what they do. I often have men tell me how they wished they had the knowledge of the Red Pill before they made some debilitating decisions in their lives. ",,27,Rollo-Tomassi,2018-12-07 03:58:07 marriedredpill,a3692n,"A note for the Latter-Day Saints, Mormons, and frankly anyone from a traditional Christian background...","A big thank you to u/becoming_alpha for proofreading, improving, and fixing this giant wall of text. We've noticed a ton of Latter-Day Saint posters come through here and thought this might help you get started. You may wonder if this is for you. Read this long post before you decide. @@ -41087,7 +41087,7 @@ Guys here came from all walks of life. They do not share your morals. Some wil You have chosen a moral path that raises this stuff from hard mode to original Nintendo-hard. Good for you. Now get into the gym, lift weights, read the materials on the sidebar and start owning your shit. -",,142,alphasixfour,1543966137.0 +",,142,alphasixfour,2018-12-04 23:28:57 marriedredpill,a2xr53,Red Pill Truth- Nagging LTR/Wife? You are the one at Fault. Not Her,"First of a little about me. I am 34 in a LTR with a 26 year old woman. Fully took the red pill many years ago but am constantly still learning and evolving. My gf was initially was one of my plates but over time she proved worthy of a much more serious commitment so I dropped everyone else I was seeing at the time and became exclusive with her. For the first 8 months of the relationship, everything was great. I fully embraced my role as a masculine man and she was able to relax and flourish with grace and femininity. I am the captain and she is my lieutenant. Things were great, until slowly but surely I lost sense of who I was and reverted back to my old blue pill tendencies. @@ -41110,7 +41110,7 @@ Once I did that, the bond between us grew exponentially and things couldn’t be \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ -A women will never love you unless they respect you. In order to get that respect from her, you have to be the leader and never lose sight of that for one minute. Fellas, never play the role of victim. You are responsible for your significant others behavior. Be the captain and she has no other choice but to follow. She’s either in or she’s out. It’s as simple as that. ",,129,Victor-James,1543902047.0 +A women will never love you unless they respect you. In order to get that respect from her, you have to be the leader and never lose sight of that for one minute. Fellas, never play the role of victim. You are responsible for your significant others behavior. Be the captain and she has no other choice but to follow. She’s either in or she’s out. It’s as simple as that. ",,129,Victor-James,2018-12-04 05:40:47 marriedredpill,a2yte7,"Own Your Shit Weekly - December 04, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -41120,7 +41120,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,15,AutoModerator,1543911881.0 +",,15,AutoModerator,2018-12-04 08:24:41 marriedredpill,a2ndes,Don't argue.,"Here's the short version about me: i was married, i took TRP, we divorced as 'too little too late' and here I am at 40 still reading still learning still growing. I read a lot of posts from guys where he describes that his wife did or said something -and he describes how he responded -and what he said and what she said -and how he owned it/ or he dominated/ or he was too Alpha/ or he was too beta/ and so on. @@ -41151,7 +41151,7 @@ Instead of arguing with her; -",,101,rAFCdadHUSBAND,1543831860.0 +",,101,rAFCdadHUSBAND,2018-12-03 10:11:00 marriedredpill,a2gl6z,"Rollo Tomassi's Red Pill 101 – Ep.6: The ""Rules""","**Red Pill 101** **Join Pat Campbell and Rollo Tomassi live today at 4:30pm** @@ -41166,12 +41166,12 @@ Are the 'old set of books' social agenda really the same set of personal rules w Pat and I will discuss these issues and how to help men avoid the most common problems that lead to dead-end and damaging relationships for men. -Bonus: Why 'Promise Keepers' issues are really mommy-issues not daddy-issues.",,13,Rollo-Tomassi,1543780568.0 +Bonus: Why 'Promise Keepers' issues are really mommy-issues not daddy-issues.",,13,Rollo-Tomassi,2018-12-02 19:56:08 marriedredpill,a2e2k1,Rian Stone on The 21 Report,"New video of Rian Stone interviewed on The 21 Report. Rian Stone on The 21 Report with George Bruno | Full Interview | 4K UHD https://youtu.be/c3Tn0lSqGyc -Full 2017 speech will be publishing soon, followed by his 2018 speech later in 2019. Always first at 21 University, then Youtube/other platforms.",,12,Dream_21,1543764464.0 +Full 2017 speech will be publishing soon, followed by his 2018 speech later in 2019. Always first at 21 University, then Youtube/other platforms.",,12,Dream_21,2018-12-02 15:27:44 marriedredpill,a1zbip,Reminder : No One Cares,"There is a long story to my life. But the lesson from it is “ no one cares” @@ -41229,7 +41229,7 @@ I promise there is a story to this. What it is doesn’t matter. -What matters is what you did today to make your life what you want it to be. ",,224,Taipanshimshon,1543633373.0 +What matters is what you did today to make your life what you want it to be. ",,224,Taipanshimshon,2018-12-01 03:02:53 marriedredpill,a1om80,Male Authority – Provisioning vs. Duty,"Essay &#x200B; @@ -41250,7 +41250,7 @@ Excerpt: > >This is kind of a quandary. In marriage, a man’s authority today only extends to this monetary wealth – there is no inherent authority associated with being male despite what feminist bleat about ‘male privilege’. Wealth enforces will, but women still seek to find ways around accepting that authority by assuming control of that wealth. This is one reason why “*financial abuse*” has been fashioned into a form of spousal abuse, but there are many other means of emotional control that mitigates male authority-by-wealth. -&#x200B;",,27,Rollo-Tomassi,1543548075.0 +&#x200B;",,27,Rollo-Tomassi,2018-11-30 03:21:15 marriedredpill,a1heoe,[FR] Game and frame,"I haven't seen a lot of FR's from newer guys so I figured I write one up. First 5 weeks of RP sucked... then everything changed. I have a long long way to go - overall plan is going to take 12-18 months. I will preface this to saying my journey to be more physically attractive started months before finding RP. I'm still a fat fuck but considering I'm 55 lbs less than when I got married and never been this skinny or strong since I've known my wife has had to have helped this process. @@ -41263,7 +41263,7 @@ Get home after work. Kids are around as well as her father in law. Start gamin If anyone, anyone who is new doubts that this process works - don't. Maybe it will take longer and maybe she'll never come around, but you won't care. You'll be free to do what you want. I want to have this playful fun relationship with whoever I'm with. I'll get that - either my wife will come along or won't. So far I am absolutely amazed by the progress I've seen. I went from a few times a month of starfish, never making out, resisting quick pecks or hugs to this. When she kisses me now she wants to... she hugs *me* and holds on for dear life. -Make your plan, stick with your plan, don't rambo (like I did), accept failure, and get better. And post in OYS... that's mandatory to hold yourself accountable for the stupid shit you do.",,51,[deleted],1543498755.0 +Make your plan, stick with your plan, don't rambo (like I did), accept failure, and get better. And post in OYS... that's mandatory to hold yourself accountable for the stupid shit you do.",,51,[deleted],2018-11-29 13:39:15 marriedredpill,a191sz,[FR] - The Affair,"There are two types of affairs: Emotional and Physical. I have had an ongoing physical affair with Shelly (Mormon mom) for the better part of four years. Since my divorce process has started, that physical affair has turned emotional over the past 3 months or so. She is clearly testing me as a branch. Just to give you an idea, for the past 6 months I have sex with Shelly at least once a week, sometimes multiple times a week. @@ -41326,7 +41326,7 @@ I hope it feels like I hit you with a 2x4 in your face. And let me tell you why. -I would rather get hit by a 2x4 in my face by a semi-anon internet stranger who gives half a single fuck about me, vs. be taken advantage of by an adulterer.",,163,red-sfpplus,1543430709.0 +I would rather get hit by a 2x4 in my face by a semi-anon internet stranger who gives half a single fuck about me, vs. be taken advantage of by an adulterer.",,163,red-sfpplus,2018-11-28 18:45:09 marriedredpill,a0syq6,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 27, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -41336,7 +41336,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,15,AutoModerator,1543307067.0 +",,15,AutoModerator,2018-11-27 08:24:27 marriedredpill,a0noeq,This Holiday Season- A Public Service Announcement:,"Listen up Faggots. Uncle Chad already hung up his Christmas lights you lazy fat fucks. The minute I started untangling the strands of lights on my front lawn yesterday, my next door neighbor – a hot young milf- pulls up in her driveway. She smiles at me, Uncle Chad gives her a wink, and then she goes inside. 5 minutes later, her loser fat beta husband comes outside to hang up their lights as well. My hunch was correct, as soon as she went inside she must have nagged her beta husband about decorating the house for Christmas like I was doing. The entire time, she was supervising over his shoulder and nagging the fuck of out him. She was brutal. @@ -41367,7 +41367,7 @@ Take-home lessons: Build a lifestyle that keeps you attractive and in-charge. Never compromise. Keep a strong frame in any relationship. If she ever tries to betafy or ball-bust you, recognize it for what it is: She's insecure in the relationship. Handle it like any other shit-test. Don’t be proud of the fact that she considered you ""marriage material"". It just meant that you can be relied on to be there. You had limited options. You give no tingles. You might be a good provider one day. -Happy Holidays faggots. Don't get pimped.",,106,MrChad_Thundercock,1543267235.0 +Happy Holidays faggots. Don't get pimped.",,106,MrChad_Thundercock,2018-11-26 21:20:35 marriedredpill,a0iqxg,"[FR] When the masks fall, will you dare to see the truth?","Too long story short, I went from being the beta in the dead bedroom through MRP to going my own way. What finally opened my eyes was that it was not just that she didn't want to have sex with me (btw, I raised my SMV a lot through MRP - didn't work), *she actually didn't want to have any kind of intimacy with me*. @@ -41386,7 +41386,7 @@ I have no wish to MRP her. Honestly, MRP is putting the woman in the center of m I am staying for the kids of course. My suffering is nothing compared to what my son would go through if I separated. I need to stay by his side. I'm, relieved, empty, happy and scared at the same time. I need to figure out some stuff, like how to go my own way without damaging the kids (e.g., how to go away for vacations, why mummy is not coming along...). -AWALT my friends, AWALT",,10,[deleted],1543233709.0 +AWALT my friends, AWALT",,10,[deleted],2018-11-26 12:01:49 marriedredpill,9zyvpk,"The Contrast, The Polarity.","It’s painfully obvious that gender relations are in peril these days. It’s a cultural problem that is getting worse. The solution is a grassroots solution executed on the individual level. The more alike men and women are, the more we lose our gender identities and the more we don't play well together. It's a simple concept really.  Be the man.  Let her be the woman.  As Rian Stone says, ""don't get in your own way. Don't step on your own dick.""  The road to execution of this simple concept is not always  clear though.  It's muddled by external conditioning of today.  ""Plugged in"" men don't even know the road is there.   @@ -41415,7 +41415,7 @@ Show her. Pick your woman up occasionally; for fun, for connection, just becaus Create that contrast, be the man, and she will respond in kind with feminine energy.  It may take months or even years for some, but you'll be a better, more capable man either way.I remember a time when I encouraged my wife to not wear makeup, to not dress up like a real woman. This was partly because I do find her attractive ""as is"" but it was also because I was "" plugged in"" as a blue-pill beta. Even as I said stuff like that, my subconscious screamed at me that something wasn't right. I didn't listen... for years. That's how powerful the blue- pill conditioning is. Now I show and tell her when she looks sexy. I reward it. Because I appreciate it. -Ignore the radical feminists and their ""allies.""  Embrace masculinity... be the masculine so she can be the feminine.",,98,JDRoedell,1543069875.0 +Ignore the radical feminists and their ""allies.""  Embrace masculinity... be the masculine so she can be the feminine.",,98,JDRoedell,2018-11-24 14:31:15 marriedredpill,9zu0o7,The Myth of Sexual Peak,"Essay: https://therationalmale.com/2018/11/23/the-myth-of-sexual-peak/ @@ -41428,7 +41428,7 @@ One issue I think Bob didn’t touch upon is the evolutionary logistics of why t All women (yes, all) have an innate understanding of their sexual agency, and all understand its perishable nature. However, there’s a trade-off inherent in balancing this agency with optimizing Hypergamy. The longer a woman waits the more that agency declines, but the longer she has to consolidate on a man (or men) who represents her Hypergamous ideal. The reason the social convention of women’s “sexual peak” is set at the age of 30-35 is because it attempts to create an artificial sexual value for men. It pretends that their later age makes them better sexual experiences than women 22-24 years old. It’s a disqualification of those women for men’s long term provisioning considerations, but it also plays on male-shame while simultaneously (artificially) inflating women’s self-image. This is why the myth is so pervasive – it satisfies a lot of insecurities. It’s ’empowering’ for women to believe that men are too infantile to appreciate the better sexual experience they believe they represent. -Furthermore, it’s difficult to argue against because it seems plausible and it’s almost entirely based on how women feel about themselves sexually. What a tragic joke that evolution should make women’s sexual peak occur when she least able to make it work for her, right? Wrong. In fact it’s comical when you see how a study that finds women’s peak age of desirability is 18 and mens should be 50 – almost the inverse of what the myth wants us to believe; that 18 year old men and 30 year old women are at their sexual peaks.",,37,Rollo-Tomassi,1543021705.0 +Furthermore, it’s difficult to argue against because it seems plausible and it’s almost entirely based on how women feel about themselves sexually. What a tragic joke that evolution should make women’s sexual peak occur when she least able to make it work for her, right? Wrong. In fact it’s comical when you see how a study that finds women’s peak age of desirability is 18 and mens should be 50 – almost the inverse of what the myth wants us to believe; that 18 year old men and 30 year old women are at their sexual peaks.",,37,Rollo-Tomassi,2018-11-24 01:08:25 marriedredpill,9z5ohg,[FR] I got 99 problems but I made year-one.,"TLDR -I was pathetic and have made some solid progress to becoming less so. Many miles to go. Realized that Sunday was my one-year redpill anniversary. Here's where I was and how far I've come. This is mostly a journaling exercise for myself, but comments are welcome, even if it's just to call me a faggot. Not looking for your validation, just putting this out there for me and for the odd newb that wonders what the progression might look like. @@ -41495,7 +41495,7 @@ I appreciate u/Rian_Stone for taking my original pathetic IM a year ago and bein It may yet all go to shit, but I don’t care anymore about the risks. I am finally starting to live my own life. -",,75,alphasixfour,1542823831.0 +",,75,alphasixfour,2018-11-21 18:10:31 marriedredpill,9z1tku,"Everything is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power.","That great quote from Frank Underwood. He's getting shit done, leading, being Machiavellan, he knows what makes people tick, how to make them do what he wants. And that quote sounds so right. ""Everything is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power."" @@ -41512,7 +41512,7 @@ To an alpha, nothing is about sex, except sex. Fill the rest of your life up wit As much as beta game doesn't make girls wet, remember that girls do have a dual sexual strategy. Sure she's attracted to alpha, but she also wants beta, especially for anything long term and involving a family. Here at MRP we're about bringing both. There are good beta qualities, stuff that we strongly identify with as men and that women seek in partners. -But if you lack alpha, you can't compensate with beta. If your wife doesn't want to fuck you, the solution isn't to bring more money, more leadership, more Frank Underwood. The solution is more Corey Worthington.",,71,Sepean,1542793357.0 +But if you lack alpha, you can't compensate with beta. If your wife doesn't want to fuck you, the solution isn't to bring more money, more leadership, more Frank Underwood. The solution is more Corey Worthington.",,71,Sepean,2018-11-21 09:42:37 marriedredpill,9yy82g,3-2-1. Counting. Success or Failure?,"God damn, god damn, god damn. That's from a movie. I forget which one, but it's apropos. In three months, three mother-fucking-months, I get the news… the news I've been anticipating… the news I've been expecting… the news I am willing into existence… the news I have been waiting for with baited breath… the news that few other than [rulezerodad](https://www.reddit.com/user/RuleZeroDAD) can appreciate: the news that I am cured. @@ -41588,7 +41588,7 @@ Perhaps more importantly, I can now deal with crazy, crazy circumstances that ar I will win. -And so, too, will you. ",,49,johneyapocalypse,1542761026.0 +And so, too, will you. ",,49,johneyapocalypse,2018-11-21 00:43:46 marriedredpill,9yw1ob,My First Year.,"This should probably go on the OYS thread but I want this here for me to read months from now when I’m in a slump or things might not be going as well. Instead of it getting buried in the comments I will continue to post and update on the OYS as I go. @@ -41706,7 +41706,7 @@ I been on this sub reading and putting things to action but I haven’t posted m Thank you all. -Edit: added my mission ",,35,TrenGod37,1542746106.0 +Edit: added my mission ",,35,TrenGod37,2018-11-20 20:35:06 marriedredpill,9yqa1j,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 20, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -41716,7 +41716,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,17,AutoModerator,1542702267.0 +",,17,AutoModerator,2018-11-20 08:24:27 marriedredpill,9xte2h,Status Quo,"Status quo: noun: the existing state of affairs, especially regarding social or political issues. @@ -41755,7 +41755,7 @@ I have put a name to your primary enemy you faggot. His name is Status Quo. Tell him to fuck off and go build the man you want to be. -The will to act.",,80,red-sfpplus,1542427674.0 +The will to act.",,80,red-sfpplus,2018-11-17 04:07:54 marriedredpill,9xpq9g,The Mods don't care about you,"I think I speak for the whole mod team when I say: we care about you so much that *we don't care about you at all*. Huh? @@ -41764,7 +41764,7 @@ We obviously care about all of you, in some distant abstract way, or we wouldn't What we don't care about is your goddamn opinion. We don't care that you're butthurt. We don't care that you're angry. We don't care about your objections to RP, your morals, your *feelz*. Our caring is an *overt* contract: we care enough to give you this sub. We don't owe you an explanation if we ban you, we don't owe you an apology if we decide to unban you. -Does that make us dicks? Maybe. One thing it does do is keep this sub tight and useful. So if you don't like it, you have two options: hit the unsub button and piss off, or mouth off and get banned. As always, the choice is yours.",,50,SorcererKing,1542399182.0 +Does that make us dicks? Maybe. One thing it does do is keep this sub tight and useful. So if you don't like it, you have two options: hit the unsub button and piss off, or mouth off and get banned. As always, the choice is yours.",,50,SorcererKing,2018-11-16 20:13:02 marriedredpill,9xlt7s,Two years and counting,"I am a little over two years into my Red Pill journey and I feel like it's time to take stock. I think the Red Pill main sub quarantine has made my old account unusable for mobile, so I created a new one. But I guess creating a new identity for yourself every now and then is just a good thing. I'm 47, married, wife 43, three kids 14, 13 and 6. (BTW, even though my English is pretty good, it is not my first language. There may be some weird phrases here and there, so bear with me.) Over the past two years, I have made a lot of progress in many areas in my life. I have read the sidebar, some books several times. I have also read plenty of other books on PUA, Stoicism, personal finance etc. For me, finding Audible was a game-changer. I highly recommend it. In general, I understand most of the central RP concepts and I can apply them relatively well to my own life. @@ -41813,7 +41813,7 @@ And life is OK. It's not perfect nor awesome but I am content in many ways. I wa Perhaps you could say that I have now perfected the process of alpha-sprinkling. But have I really swallowed the pill? Probably not. If I want more, I need to do more. And ""more"" here certainly doesn't mean ""more of the same."" It means something that will help or even force me embrace my full power and capacity. What would it be? Getting a divorce? Getting a plate? Changing professions? Aiming for the powerlifting competition? Don't know yet. But I will find out at some point. -&#x200B;",,50,HerukaArisen,1542371962.0 +&#x200B;",,50,HerukaArisen,2018-11-16 12:39:22 marriedredpill,9wwkjr,"Male Authority – Be a ""Man""","Essay: https://therationalmale.com/2018/11/13/male-authority-be-a-man/ @@ -41825,12 +41825,12 @@ How women and a feminine-primary social order control men by reserving the title In the Manosphere we often discuss the dynamic of men holding the burden of 100% responsibility yet are conferred 0% authority when it comes to intersexual relationships. This didn’t used to be the case. There was a kind of default authority imbued in men that was part of simply being a male under the old social contract. A lot of western societies still presumes this is the case in fact. It’s one reason popular culture presumes such a thing as ‘male privilege‘ exists today. They may even have a case with respect to the Old Set of Books; being a “man” inferred that a male had some degree of power, authority and decision making capacity over the course his life would take, as well as the lives of any women or children or extended family members who were dependent upon him being a “man”. -Responsibility is what defines men to this day, but the utility in this being hammered home into the psyches of men has become something the Feminine Imperative has found very useful in consolidating power in the hands of women. We’re ceaselessly told that responsibility is something men need to assume, but under the old set of books the incentive for a man assuming that responsibility came with a commensurate portion of authority (power). That was what used to earn a man the title of “manhood”; men were expected to possess the competency to produce surplus resources, enough to ensure the security and survival of his immediate and extended family, and then his tribe, his clan, his nation, etc. We still call this “being a productive member of society”, but now the incentives of a default authority that made assuming that responsibility a reasonable exchange have been stripped away along with all the grounding that a family name or tribal identity used to mean to men. In their place is all the same expectation of responsibility, but not even the pretense of male authority that stems from it.",,55,Rollo-Tomassi,1542168235.0 +Responsibility is what defines men to this day, but the utility in this being hammered home into the psyches of men has become something the Feminine Imperative has found very useful in consolidating power in the hands of women. We’re ceaselessly told that responsibility is something men need to assume, but under the old set of books the incentive for a man assuming that responsibility came with a commensurate portion of authority (power). That was what used to earn a man the title of “manhood”; men were expected to possess the competency to produce surplus resources, enough to ensure the security and survival of his immediate and extended family, and then his tribe, his clan, his nation, etc. We still call this “being a productive member of society”, but now the incentives of a default authority that made assuming that responsibility a reasonable exchange have been stripped away along with all the grounding that a family name or tribal identity used to mean to men. In their place is all the same expectation of responsibility, but not even the pretense of male authority that stems from it.",,55,Rollo-Tomassi,2018-11-14 04:03:55 marriedredpill,9wt3f2,[FR] The Bride of Bigfoot,"So I have listened to Rollo and the RMG podcast and a couple times I have heard Rollo talk about Bigfoot erotica in reference to how women want a story, they want imagination and a dominant man even if its Bigfoot and thought how absolutely ridiculous it sounded. So one night I am in bed and ask my wife have you ever heard of this shit before. She laughed her ass off and said, ""no is it a thing??!!"" I said yeah apparently. So we laid in bed and proceeded to look up titles to these books and laughed our asses off for over an hour. Over the course of the week it became an inside joke to us. I would use the titles of the books to flirt with her and keep things sexual even though it was totally ridiculous. She loved it and still does a couple weeks later. She started calling me Bigfoot as a joke and I will pound my chest and grunt at her to bend over. She always complies. One of the titles of the books is ""Bigfoot and the Bride"" or some shit like that. I will come up with ridiculous stories about how she is my bride and is lost in the woods etc. and she laughs her ass off and says I am ridiculous. Heres the thing though. When I use them to initiate as a joke it makes sex fun and shows I can use my imagination to take her to another place even if it is an absolute ridiculous place. I mean fuck man look how popular Twilight was!! The thing is my wife isnt like this. She hates Twilight, romance novels, 50 Shades of Gray etc. ...until she doesnt. She just wants to be taken somewhere else to let her imagination go and have fun. -So the take away here is have fun, use your imagination and own it. Even if it is ridiculous. ",,48,RPWolf,1542142980.0 +So the take away here is have fun, use your imagination and own it. Even if it is ridiculous. ",,48,RPWolf,2018-11-13 21:03:00 marriedredpill,9wn9mr,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 13, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -41840,7 +41840,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,21,AutoModerator,1542097467.0 +",,21,AutoModerator,2018-11-13 08:24:27 marriedredpill,9vb5jw,[FR] - Wedding Ring,"Shelly has spent the last two days hanging out with my at my house. Her husband is out of town for 10 days, so she dumped her kid with her parents and my STBX wife had mine. We planned this out a few weeks ago. 48 hour fuck fest. She showed up Tuesday morning around 8:00am looking great, decked the 9's in all her fancy clothes that her cuck husband buys her. @@ -41913,7 +41913,7 @@ Don't be the faggot ass husband. And don't be a Rockstar that sticks around for the kids with a low value woman. -That was my mistake.",,74,red-sfpplus,1541692458.0 +That was my mistake.",,74,red-sfpplus,2018-11-08 15:54:18 marriedredpill,9ummv2,"Own Your Shit Weekly - November 06, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -41923,7 +41923,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,15,AutoModerator,1541492668.0 +",,15,AutoModerator,2018-11-06 08:24:28 marriedredpill,9uep23,Financial Freedom - First Steps,"# Financial Freedom - First Steps Owning your shit at home covers many things and one of the most important areas for long term success are finances. Having a financial vision, understanding the trade-offs, having the frame to bring it to existence, and becoming successful has many benefits to anyone, married or not. To a degree, it is simply Adulting 101 but I see many posts all the time that betray a complete lack of understanding of how to run household finances. What follows is a summary of the path I took over the last 2 years, generalized so it is applicable to anyone. @@ -42123,7 +42123,7 @@ After a few months, hopefully you've become a better leader overall, and you hav If your wife is trying and cooperating, you just need to be more attentive to her spending and vocal when she's approaching her limit. Do enforce it verbally and be calm about it. Offer suggestions and reward her with more responsibility if warranted. Start sharing your vision with her more so that she sees the benefits. -If she is not cooperating, you will need to take drastic steps. Consider taking one more benevolent appeal if you have been improving in other areas so that she's starting to follow your leadership in other areas. But it's possible you will have to force the issue - see MRP posts about taking over the treasury. Time this right and have all your tools ready before you do this because you don't need to argue if you can't enforce. ",,69,ObliviousAsshole,1541433422.0 +If she is not cooperating, you will need to take drastic steps. Consider taking one more benevolent appeal if you have been improving in other areas so that she's starting to follow your leadership in other areas. But it's possible you will have to force the issue - see MRP posts about taking over the treasury. Time this right and have all your tools ready before you do this because you don't need to argue if you can't enforce. ",,69,ObliviousAsshole,2018-11-05 15:57:02 marriedredpill,9t76li,Crying is weak. Don't. Part II: Derrick Rose,"/u/justpickanyusername had a [great post the other day](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9r190k/crying_is_weak_dont/) about the fact that crying is weak, don't. He used an example of Derek Carr crying in the face off weakness and losing. And so, as a follow up, [let me present Derrick Rose](https://streamable.com/qsrs0). [Highlights.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qV09ywqrSfY) @@ -42136,7 +42136,7 @@ It got so bad that [he was shooting balls alone at Cleveland State University.]( What is the difference between Derek Carr's tears and Derrick Rose's tears? Carr was showing emotion as a result of adversity, challenge, and failure. It made an already shitty situation worse because he couldn't bear the burden. Rose, on the other hand, resulted from a game winning block, a career high game, and the long, long journey to overcome tremendous challenge and adversity. -No one's going to fault Rose for shedding a tear or two, because at the end of the day, he won. Not only did he win, the way he punctuated and dominated was deeply meaningful. But you could see him trying to fight the tears, because crying is weak.",,26,[deleted],1541055014.0 +No one's going to fault Rose for shedding a tear or two, because at the end of the day, he won. Not only did he win, the way he punctuated and dominated was deeply meaningful. But you could see him trying to fight the tears, because crying is weak.",,26,[deleted],2018-11-01 06:50:14 marriedredpill,9sui1m,Widows & War Brides,"Essay: https://therationalmale.com/2018/10/30/widows-warbrides/ @@ -42149,7 +42149,7 @@ War Brides The premise of the War Brides dynamic is thus: Evolution selected for women who could more easily transition psychologically from one dominant male to another. In our chaotic ancestral past women and girls were a commodity to be preserved for a conquering tribe. While men or boys were either killed or enslaved, fertile age women would be preserved as spoils of conquest for superior, invading, men. Simply put, women have reproductive value – men (and often their sons) were mostly obstacles in the way of resource acquisition and those reproductive opportunities. -That may seem like a bleak proposition to a Blue Pill conditioned mind today. We want to believe in some egalitarian dream of humanism and cooperation, but our evolved, ancestral past is responsible for what we are today in terms of base biological and psychological imperatives.",,48,Rollo-Tomassi,1540950996.0 +That may seem like a bleak proposition to a Blue Pill conditioned mind today. We want to believe in some egalitarian dream of humanism and cooperation, but our evolved, ancestral past is responsible for what we are today in terms of base biological and psychological imperatives.",,48,Rollo-Tomassi,2018-10-31 01:56:36 marriedredpill,9sly2r,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 30, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -42159,7 +42159,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,13,AutoModerator,1540887867.0 +",,13,AutoModerator,2018-10-30 08:24:27 marriedredpill,9r3csw,“Is it worth it?”,"A couple of weeks ago I went out with a bunch of my co workers to support another one who was doing a gig singing downtown. My co workers are pretty much all early to mid 20’s. Female. @@ -42215,7 +42215,7 @@ Even to a beta who is older than you. Yes we both lift. -But he is he only one with The beer belly. ",,34,Taipanshimshon,1540412664.0 +But he is he only one with The beer belly. ",,34,Taipanshimshon,2018-10-24 20:24:24 marriedredpill,9r190k,Crying is weak. Don't.,"When people look for leadership. One of the things they look for is the ability to maintain composure in the face of adversity. The ability to control emotions plays a big role in this. You are looking for someone who is in control at all times. Whether that emotion be anger, fear, or pain you expect them to be able to process their surroundings and make the right call every time. You are looking for someone that is a master of themselves and their emotions. In football, the quarterback is referred to often as a field general. Someone that leads the the offense and many times the entire team. Even in a locker room that is swimming with alpha males, there is a hierarchy that exists where the quarterback is in a position that typically commands respect. Well, until it is lost. @@ -42254,7 +42254,7 @@ The Oakland Raiders players don't want a weak person to lead them. Your woman d Is it okay to show emotion? Yes, however, it must be kept under control. Women don't want robots, but they also don't want a mangina. Is it okay to shed a tear? There are moments where this is acceptable. I believe there is a time and place for everything. Just know that this should be rare. Crying due to pain, fear, stress, disappointment, are sure to lead to a lack of confidence in your leadership. If you lose a loved one, shed a few tears if you must (no snot bubbles or hysterics), wipe them away and move on. There are other times where this is acceptable and I am not going to list them all. It is okay to show that you care about the people you love. Tears should be rare. -Maintain control of your emotions despite the adversity you face. This is mountain we must climb. These are the challenges we as men face. This is what true leaders do. This is the burden of being king.",,64,justpickanyusername,1540398821.0 +Maintain control of your emotions despite the adversity you face. This is mountain we must climb. These are the challenges we as men face. This is what true leaders do. This is the burden of being king.",,64,justpickanyusername,2018-10-24 16:33:41 marriedredpill,9quwu6,Past Indiscretions,"Essay: https://therationalmale.com/2018/10/23/past-indiscretions/ @@ -42267,7 +42267,7 @@ Right now I’m sure there are guys thinking, “Rollo, we know that women can g Women will almost universally run cover for their sisters’ infidelity, and especially so if they are anonymous and there is little risk attached to their involvement. The rationalization is always the same too; it’s men’s responsibility to “Man Up” and marry a sister and thus subterfuge is justified, or, a woman deserves a shot at hot short term sexual opportunities if that woman is paired with a Beta partner. Either scenario is consolidation of Hypergamy. -Men are never afforded the same luxury of being able to vet women or to abandon one for his own reasons. I constantly get questions from guys asking how to vet a woman for marriage, but the fact that I would be audacious enough to offer advice on this is enough to set most women off. How dare I think that any woman might not be suitable for a long term commitment? To the Sisterhood, that vetting is only ever valid when it comes from another woman, why? Because to women only women should ever have control over Hypergamy and sexual selection. And in a feminine-primary social order a man telling another man that he should pass on a woman for commitment is conflated with misogyny.",,54,Rollo-Tomassi,1540341789.0 +Men are never afforded the same luxury of being able to vet women or to abandon one for his own reasons. I constantly get questions from guys asking how to vet a woman for marriage, but the fact that I would be audacious enough to offer advice on this is enough to set most women off. How dare I think that any woman might not be suitable for a long term commitment? To the Sisterhood, that vetting is only ever valid when it comes from another woman, why? Because to women only women should ever have control over Hypergamy and sexual selection. And in a feminine-primary social order a man telling another man that he should pass on a woman for commitment is conflated with misogyny.",,54,Rollo-Tomassi,2018-10-24 00:43:09 marriedredpill,9qscx3,One Year In - Just Getting Started,"**One Year Field Report** **Background** @@ -42316,7 +42316,7 @@ I’m nowhere near where I want to be in my own progression, or in my relationsh It's also been fascinating to watch my sister in law's hypergamy in full force as she branch swings. My wife is baffled, but it's like she's following a script Rollo wrote for her and I'm not at all surprised. -I’m keeping my foot on the gas and I’m betting my 2 year report will reflect much more progress.",,50,becoming_alpha,1540323635.0 +I’m keeping my foot on the gas and I’m betting my 2 year report will reflect much more progress.",,50,becoming_alpha,2018-10-23 19:40:35 marriedredpill,9qmybj,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 23, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -42326,7 +42326,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,18,AutoModerator,1540283069.0 +",,18,AutoModerator,2018-10-23 08:24:29 marriedredpill,9olndc,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 16, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -42336,7 +42336,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,15,AutoModerator,1539678268.0 +",,15,AutoModerator,2018-10-16 08:24:28 marriedredpill,9mmiul,Make your fucking choice.,"Common theme among unattractive men - they just can't make a fucking choice. This is for the most part just a rant. You see it all over r/askmrp. Every post is effectively the same thing - ""Help! Help! Help make this choice for me!"" @@ -42375,7 +42375,7 @@ The power of choice is that making a choice means having a consequence. For the Or simply make the choice to not choose, to not care, which is very different than being ambivalent. -Making a choice is really easy. Just go do something. Sure you might be wrong, but at least you'll stop being one of those jackasses who are at a fork in the road, sitting around twiddling theirs thumb in their butts, waiting for someone else to hold their hand and lead their way. Those guys aren't making progress. And no one wants to hold your hand if your thumb has shit on it. ",,121,[deleted],1539063444.0 +Making a choice is really easy. Just go do something. Sure you might be wrong, but at least you'll stop being one of those jackasses who are at a fork in the road, sitting around twiddling theirs thumb in their butts, waiting for someone else to hold their hand and lead their way. Those guys aren't making progress. And no one wants to hold your hand if your thumb has shit on it. ",,121,[deleted],2018-10-09 05:37:24 marriedredpill,9mndk2,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 09, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -42385,7 +42385,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,17,AutoModerator,1539073482.0 +",,17,AutoModerator,2018-10-09 08:24:42 marriedredpill,9mg81r,"""I think I was just raped""","... my neighbor (HB5-ish) told me on Saturday night, standing on my front porch. It was kind of awkward hearing the doorbell ring at 10pm in the first place, not to mention the fact that she was the one woman on my street I've barely had longer than a 2-minute conversation with. She was clearly drunk, though still speaking relatively clearly. To her credit, there are some situations where a sober guy having sex with a black-out drunk chick can legally be considered rape. She asked to use my phone because her ""rapist"" stole it and drove off. I let her in, direct her to my garage for some privacy, and went back to putting my kids to bed after a fun night at Chuck-E-Cheese. My wife's came out of our bedroom, confused about who was at the door, so I told her what was going on. Her heart sank as she rushed to the garage to console our neighbor. Putting her crazy work schedule aside, my wife decides this is more important, so she headed over to the neighbor's house to sit with her while she waited for the police. That way she wouldn't have to be alone after ... you know, being raped. @@ -42406,7 +42406,7 @@ Fast forward - my wife's sitting in her house hearing this sob story about how s ""Because it would be really awkward trying to tell them everything I just heard and yet listening to her call it rape. She was not raped! That was a total waste of time. She's just a girl who made some bad life choices, had sex with a guy she didn't really know - or even like - and doesn't like dealing with the consequences of those choices. But you know what really ticks me off? How do you think she's going to remember this night? In her mind, this is always going to be the night she was raped. That's just absurd, but God-forbid anyone try to tell her otherwise. And if she ever finds that guy again, who knows how she might try to ruin his life."" -I'd never been so proud of my wife.",,88,Red-Curious,1539015035.0 +I'd never been so proud of my wife.",,88,Red-Curious,2018-10-08 16:10:35 marriedredpill,9mf7ev,We have all the weapons,"I once had a mentor well skilled in various fighting arts. He once told me (ad-libbed) ""When a person has a weapon they put all of their energy, concentration and faith in that weapon. When you take that weapon away they are now lost. Don't put your faith into a weapon that can be taken away."" Your body, strength, intelligence, instincts, and willpower are your weapons. A woman's weapon is withholding sex and divorce-rape. Everything else is noise. Take away those weapons. @@ -42419,7 +42419,7 @@ Divorce rape? Yeah, if you've fucked up to the point where you are now a prime You are the only person who has power over you. Be the master of yourself, use your weapons to shape the world to fit your vision. If your wife doesn't fit your vision, give her the tools to adapt or send her packing. If you are doing this right there is no negotiating, no arguing, no conflict. If you are upset that it is raining do you yell at the clouds? No, clouds DNGAF about your feelings, you are operating within their frame. Your choice is to stay out in the rain or leave, the cloud is going to do what it does either way. Be the cloud. -You are going to live a life with as much quality sex as you want, spending time with people who are respectful and add value, and doing things with your time that make you happy. If she wants to be a part of that vision then great, if not, great. She has no weapons, you have all of the weapons, use them.",,120,InChargeMan,1539008042.0 +You are going to live a life with as much quality sex as you want, spending time with people who are respectful and add value, and doing things with your time that make you happy. If she wants to be a part of that vision then great, if not, great. She has no weapons, you have all of the weapons, use them.",,120,InChargeMan,2018-10-08 14:14:02 marriedredpill,9mkqhf,Reminders of Myself,"Essay: https://therationalmale.com/2018/10/08/reminders-of-myself/ @@ -42444,7 +42444,7 @@ And the gestalt of men turn on one another and blame the other for setting her o Then the gestalt female is pandered to so thoroughly that we come to the point that we follow their Emotional Interpretive process as the only measure of legitimate discussion. This is where we are today, only, to compound things, we’ve collectively approved for the gestalt feminine a universally effective means of destroying the parts of the gestalt masculine who would dare to challenge their feelings, their emotional priorities. We’ve given the feminine the power to wish us away to the cornfield if we upset the child. -And so here we are, at the figurative mercy of the gestalt feminine (and their Vichy male “allies”) keeping our collective heads down for fear that they’ll deny us our bread if we upset the insane, collective female Id.",,16,Rollo-Tomassi,1539047352.0 +And so here we are, at the figurative mercy of the gestalt feminine (and their Vichy male “allies”) keeping our collective heads down for fear that they’ll deny us our bread if we upset the insane, collective female Id.",,16,Rollo-Tomassi,2018-10-09 01:09:12 marriedredpill,9lx7i8,Married Man Game Part 2: Teasing,"""I hate you!"" my wife said, hiding a crooked smile behind her hands. I had just pulled another one of my signature pranks: the forgotten child. I picked up the kids from day care and sent them to play in the yard. She gets home a few minutes later and asks where they are. *What? I thought you were getting them today!* Hysteria ensues. It's easier to have fun with a wife who's extremely gullible. Mine has learned most of my tricks, which only forces me to amp up my acting skills and power of persuasion. It's actually good practice for life skills that help elsewhere anyway. After all, being able to maintain a normal face through an emotionally charged situation is foundational to your frame - only this time you're employing frame on the other end of the emotional spectrum. @@ -42501,7 +42501,7 @@ You have to be careful here because too harsh a word can leave the realm of teas _____ -Adapted from a post created for r/RPChristians.",,135,Red-Curious,1538843064.0 +Adapted from a post created for r/RPChristians.",,135,Red-Curious,2018-10-06 16:24:24 marriedredpill,9lwag3,Mission First Women Always," I look towards balance in my life and in most things. If a man doesn't have balance he can't progress. It's a core of development. I could just as easily post another story about how I fucked that or this girl, and reaffirm Red Pill ideas, but I also find the meta, and mental development of men to be equally important. It's where I excel: the Psychological domination of my environment and I am skilled at it when it comes to women. It's wrong thinking to believe that you need to dedicate your time to one thing or the other. I would argue this is the way women think. They like to criticize men for not being able to multi task, but it's men who can. Betas clearly fail at this, but an Alpha or even an insecure alpha can do this. Creating a list of priorities and working down that list is limiting yourself as a man and removing one of you most natural skills. The ability to handle many priorities, at once, and all together. @@ -42533,8 +42533,8 @@ The beta we talk about isn't the guy that's going to get invited to the clam bak So the next time you hear, ""women just aren't a priority right now"", come out of your mouth call someone to punch you in the jimmy. -You must have balance and it must be mission first, women always.",,12,ReddJive,1538835718.0 -marriedredpill,9lrq7r,Frame is impossible without abundance,Deleted,,52,parkerfiveone,1538785036.0 +You must have balance and it must be mission first, women always.",,12,ReddJive,2018-10-06 14:21:58 +marriedredpill,9lrq7r,Frame is impossible without abundance,Deleted,,52,parkerfiveone,2018-10-06 00:17:16 marriedredpill,9l394d,Developing Rhino Skin,"The idea behind it is that in nature we see that birds poke and prod on the rhino, it remains unphased. For me, the birds that poke and prod have been thoughts and feelings of insecurity and lack. In my work with the TRP this has been one of the toughest things for me to come to terms with, to get comfortable being uncomfortable and ""doing the opposite"". Up until recently I would say that I definitely made myself too available to my LTRs (2 years) emotive ups and downs. This typically happened when the lady would get into a mood and I would constantly try to see what was on her mind. Whatever it was, I thought the best route was ""communicating"" about it, easing her anxiety, for me to be her safe space. However even after we spoke about what was going on in a particular situation, I have had the realization that it wasn't about my genuine care about her or where she was, but about soothing my anxiety through her communicating to me what was on her mind. Much of the time, what's been on her mind has been innocuous emotions about the day, her own insecurity, etc. I recognize there are times when it is necessary to overtly address issues, and there are times when I have to let things pass and just STFU. However, I found myself having to know what was going on, not because I cared, but due to my own insecurity and need for immediate gratification and soothing. @@ -42543,7 +42543,7 @@ Sex has never been an issue in the relationship, the frequency and intensity has I hamstered all weekend, recognized what was going on and just got comfortable with being uncomfortable. This has allowed me to develop rhino skin against not so much my woman's tendencies, but my own insecurities. She got back, and was in a mood of some sort before a meeting we had. I did the opposite and did not play into it. I went to the gym afterwards because as opposed to sitting around and trying to ""loosen her up, etc."" I focused on investing in myself and fitness goals. Got back from the gym, she was ripe and ready. The quality of sex is a side product of one's focus. The more I focus on myself and follow Pook's 2/3 rule, the more she craves me, does things which overtly communicate her desire for me to fuck her. -To develop the Rhino skin is to maintain frame and be the oak. This experience has been an incredible lesson for me to learn and is why I pass it along.",,46,[deleted],1538587486.0 +To develop the Rhino skin is to maintain frame and be the oak. This experience has been an incredible lesson for me to learn and is why I pass it along.",,46,[deleted],2018-10-03 17:24:46 marriedredpill,9kov91,"Own Your Shit Weekly - October 02, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -42553,7 +42553,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,34,AutoModerator,1538468727.0 +",,34,AutoModerator,2018-10-02 08:25:27 marriedredpill,9k9qnt,AWALT confirmed. A MRP FR,"“A monkey will not swing from one branch without a firm grip on another” I started my RP beta de-program about a year ago. Since then I have gone from a fucking overweight, depressed, overtly needy co-worker, friend, lover, father to a fucking a man. @@ -42579,10 +42579,10 @@ IDGAF. -",,61,nothestrawberrypatch,1538339637.0 +",,61,nothestrawberrypatch,2018-09-30 20:33:57 marriedredpill,9k7jhq,Is this it?,"So with TRP being banned, are we going the way of the dodo too? If so, it's been a good run mother fuckers and thank you for helping me pull my life together. -Peace ✌",,64,drty_pr,1538323971.0 +Peace ✌",,64,drty_pr,2018-09-30 16:12:51 marriedredpill,9jr5bx,Cuddles are required,"In order to fuck your wife/girlfriend/SO, you must do one very important thing with her. You have to cuddle. @@ -42631,7 +42631,7 @@ Keep lifting, keep working on your goals and keep kicking ass. For you fuckers w Just remember. The only person on this planet that truly gives a fuck about you, is you. -Peace out.",,184,red-sfpplus,1538171147.0 +Peace out.",,184,red-sfpplus,2018-09-28 21:45:47 marriedredpill,9jmemw,Married Red Pill changed my life,"I'm not married any more. I found the red pill too late to save my marriage. If I had found it 2 years before my divorce, there would have been a chance. Instead I found it two years after my divorce. When I found the red pill, I read a hypothetical scenario on a random post: @@ -42649,12 +42649,12 @@ I found someone new. The relationship has a completely different dynamic. I le ""Oh, I didn't see that one coming!"" I could say to some tragedy that befalls me, but I don't. Instead I say, ""I should have seen that coming."" Now, I have to think about how to recover, shore up resources, and if I can't avoid the next bump in the road, I'll mitigate the damage. The long term problems (paying for my kid's education, for instance) are ones that I worry about. I know my ex won't, and can't. She will always have vision that extends only to the end of today, or, if she's very very foresightful, then to the end of the week. So, I'm sorry to see TRP go from Reddit. I think that the people who made the decision to quarantine it are dumb, ideologically motivated, and misguided. I think that, while there are some men who misunderstand and misapply TRP, it helps men like me, raised fatherless, to know how to be a man and to do what's actually expected of me, instead of just what my single mother told me was expected of me. It helps men like me to be what society needs: builders, creators, protectors. Leaders. -",,129,FlyingSexistPig,1538136637.0 +",,129,FlyingSexistPig,2018-09-28 12:10:37 marriedredpill,9jguof,TRP Quarantined,"Reddit is actively hostile to those not following the narrative of political correctness these days. They are the enemy of those with their eyes wide open, I.e. those that have swallowed the pill. Why the fuck haven’t the mods migrated proactively over to a forum? Not exactly difficult to do. -They aren’t going to stop with trp. ",,86,Acerp321,1538083316.0 +They aren’t going to stop with trp. ",,86,Acerp321,2018-09-27 21:21:56 marriedredpill,9j8ida,Body Language,"Essay: https://therationalmale.com/2018/09/26/body-language/ @@ -42673,7 +42673,7 @@ Most of us were taught from an early age never to “judge a book by its cover. So, fair warning, I’m going to make some reads on some pictures here and if what I interpret seems a little self-serving or judgmental just know that I’m doing my best to stay objective. -For the past 3 months I’ve gotten into the habit of reading the images of various couples that guys on Twitter have been sending me. If you want a brief primer for this I talked about it with Tim Wenger last August here. For the most part these guys wanted me to determine what they were seeing were Alpha Tells or Beta Tells in the body language between the couple. In the majority of these shots, the Beta male body language was fairly evident even to the untrained eye. What was less evident was what the woman’s sub-communications were conveying.",,23,Rollo-Tomassi,1538011323.0 +For the past 3 months I’ve gotten into the habit of reading the images of various couples that guys on Twitter have been sending me. If you want a brief primer for this I talked about it with Tim Wenger last August here. For the most part these guys wanted me to determine what they were seeing were Alpha Tells or Beta Tells in the body language between the couple. In the majority of these shots, the Beta male body language was fairly evident even to the untrained eye. What was less evident was what the woman’s sub-communications were conveying.",,23,Rollo-Tomassi,2018-09-27 01:22:03 marriedredpill,9j5cus,Better Beta Divorce Strategy,"This may not be popular among a group of guys who get off on circle-jerking about being more alpha all the time, but bear with me. Your goal in a divorce isn't to make your ex have the hots for you. It's to be on good terms with everyone involved so you're more likely to settle or win at trial. Although alpha strategies can work, this post is directed more toward the guys who are married to mentally unstable and highly hostile women. **Beta Divorce Strategy** @@ -42728,7 +42728,7 @@ _____ **CONCLUSION** -In short, there's value in being alpha if you're trying to attract a woman. But if you're trying to impress someone who lives in blue pill ideologies, like your judge or a guardian ad litem, or even your wife's attorney (and trust me, if her own attorney believes you're a stand-up nice guy, that's a huge advantage) ... sometimes you have to conform to what they want to see in you. You're not trying to convince these people to have sex with you. To that end, being more alpha might be more attractive to your STBE, but obviously you weren't doing it well enough to keep her from divorcing you, so don't expect more of the same to change her opinion about you. Try a different strategy in the divorce.",,74,Red-Curious,1537987935.0 +In short, there's value in being alpha if you're trying to attract a woman. But if you're trying to impress someone who lives in blue pill ideologies, like your judge or a guardian ad litem, or even your wife's attorney (and trust me, if her own attorney believes you're a stand-up nice guy, that's a huge advantage) ... sometimes you have to conform to what they want to see in you. You're not trying to convince these people to have sex with you. To that end, being more alpha might be more attractive to your STBE, but obviously you weren't doing it well enough to keep her from divorcing you, so don't expect more of the same to change her opinion about you. Try a different strategy in the divorce.",,74,Red-Curious,2018-09-26 18:52:15 marriedredpill,9iqd0a,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 25, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -42738,7 +42738,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,18,AutoModerator,1537863927.0 +",,18,AutoModerator,2018-09-25 08:25:27 marriedredpill,9inm8f,Why spin plates?,"Spinning plates is a stepping stone on your journey, but an overall non-sustainable waste of time IMHO. I believe you should spend no more than 2-4 months spinning plates. @@ -42809,7 +42809,7 @@ Dick dry (start to climb the ladder bitch) _____ -Where on the ladder are you? And where do you believe you extract the largest return of sexual value?",,24,red-sfpplus,1537836783.0 +Where on the ladder are you? And where do you believe you extract the largest return of sexual value?",,24,red-sfpplus,2018-09-25 00:53:03 marriedredpill,9ig9gu,Your wife really doesn’t want your love...,"Your wife really doesn’t want your love, well not in the way that I think most men define love. I had a realisation the other day at work, as I’m the boss, so part of the role have to show an interest in peoples personal lives and it is interesting discussing the dynamics of their relationships (both male and female), as they often come to me for insight. @@ -42846,8 +42846,8 @@ The love for our children, is also interesting IMO as it is largely reciprocatio A good discussion point (with the exception of the obvious; release of chemicals such as oxytocin and dopamine which serve an evolutionary purpose also) is it possible to have love for your wife without need and how would you define it? -We can talk about reciprocal needs being met but we know generally women aren’t the best at this Briffault's law etc..",,74,psychosis2020,1537778252.0 -marriedredpill,9if4f9,RMG Ep. #31 - Red Pill 101,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qvwj2_KwIVg,,14,remerbernoto,1537764321.0 +We can talk about reciprocal needs being met but we know generally women aren’t the best at this Briffault's law etc..",,74,psychosis2020,2018-09-24 08:37:32 +marriedredpill,9if4f9,RMG Ep. #31 - Red Pill 101,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qvwj2_KwIVg,,14,remerbernoto,2018-09-24 04:45:21 marriedredpill,9hfn3r,Proper interpretation of the Captain/First-Officer model,"Many guys here misinterpret the Captain/First-Officer model for marital leadership as a formal military/Star-Trek-style, appointed or agreed-upon official chain of command. This is a flawed interpretation which will serve you poorly; the informal ""Leader-of-the-Pack""/""Best-Mate"" leadership model, which is natural to small voluntary human social groups, should be your goal. @@ -42883,7 +42883,7 @@ Don't negotiate or discuss ""who's the captain"" with your wife; just **be** the *** For you hopeless Star Trek nerds, Khan, not Picard, is your model. -",,66,man_in_the_world,1537452800.0 +",,66,man_in_the_world,2018-09-20 14:13:20 marriedredpill,9h6uux,FR--Woman's Post on DeadBedrooms Confirms EVERYTHING We're Working Towards Here in MRP,"I still check in at the DeadBedrooms forum every once in a while, mostly because I find it interesting to compare what's going on there (mostly whining and commiserating with no real process) with the higher levels of knowledge and actual plans for improvement we have here in MRP. This week in DB a poster using a throwaway account (so take its authenticity for what you will) has been posting about how she and her husband, both in their early forties and married for 15 years (together for 20) had no sex for the past five years because the guy became a fat slob and didn't own his shit around the house--left piles of dishes, let his hygiene go, got out of shape--and she ""lost sexual attraction towards him"" and ""started to think he was gross,"" so she didn't want to have sex with him anymore. Then this guy pulled a full beta and gave up on initiating with her. Over the past year, she reports, this guy has changed (sounds like maybe he has found and been following the MRP protocol!): he's exercising, dressing better, grooming better, ""he seems generally overall happier with himself and it shows in his interactions with \[the wife\] and everyone else,"" (frame, bitches!), he doesn't sit around drinking beer but instead goes and does fun shit with his friends ""quite a lot nowadays"" (all leading to him now Being Attractive), and his bad behaviors ""have disappeared"" (leading to him Not Being Unattractive). @@ -42898,7 +42898,7 @@ And this morning she posted a follow-up where she says that she gave the husband DISCLAIMER: Again, this is posted on DB from a throwaway account, so it's always possible that the posts are from a troll or even a plant from some red-pill guy (or anti-redpill guy) looking to make it a commentary on RP methodologies, because it fits our praexology so well. On the other hand, it's also possible that the post is real (she never explicitly mentions RP), and even possible that the husband in this relationship is reading MRP right now. Until proven otherwise, I'm willing to accept it at face value for what it's worth--possible real-world confirmation that the stuff prescribed by MRP works. -EDIT: One more important point I wanted to make--in the original post, this wife frames herself as ""LL"" (low libido), the term used in DB for the partner with the lower desire for sex. However, her recent turnaround also shows that it's not that she had no desire for SEX, she just didn't have desire to have sex WITH HIM. Her libido itself didn't go away, it just didn't apply to him when he was a fat, irresponsible slob; now that he's in shape and owning his shit, her ""low libido"" has turned into her posting on DB as to how she can revive their sex life and giving him unsolicited BJs while watching TV.",,90,Reject444,1537375903.0 +EDIT: One more important point I wanted to make--in the original post, this wife frames herself as ""LL"" (low libido), the term used in DB for the partner with the lower desire for sex. However, her recent turnaround also shows that it's not that she had no desire for SEX, she just didn't have desire to have sex WITH HIM. Her libido itself didn't go away, it just didn't apply to him when he was a fat, irresponsible slob; now that he's in shape and owning his shit, her ""low libido"" has turned into her posting on DB as to how she can revive their sex life and giving him unsolicited BJs while watching TV.",,90,Reject444,2018-09-19 16:51:43 marriedredpill,9h8uy3,Gents : Your competition,"Found [this](https://imgur.com/a/lzeNcpi) gem on a social media post from female urologist. @@ -42926,7 +42926,7 @@ Use that information to check your own thought process in interacting with women Use this how you will. Your girl fears you. Will she fear and respect or fear and try to take you down ? -That’s up to you. She’s just a girl. [hard work ](https://imgur.com/a/lzeNcpi)",,24,Taipanshimshon,1537389665.0 +That’s up to you. She’s just a girl. [hard work ](https://imgur.com/a/lzeNcpi)",,24,Taipanshimshon,2018-09-19 20:41:05 marriedredpill,9h5920,"Redpill is Amoral: history lesson, Why I disowned my daughter.","The original http://archive.is/pwaXs @@ -42943,7 +42943,7 @@ I'll forever shit over TRADCONS, and betabux looking to make their impotence a v Also, shoutout to ex_addict_bro, who next to the_litz, has been the MAP I've learned the most from. -If I had unilateral ability to make the tone of a sub hit certain notes, this double header of posts would be it's antithesis. For the new guys, enjoy.",,19,Rian_Stone,1537364544.0 +If I had unilateral ability to make the tone of a sub hit certain notes, this double header of posts would be it's antithesis. For the new guys, enjoy.",,19,Rian_Stone,2018-09-19 13:42:24 marriedredpill,9gwkwu,The Stratosphere,"Living life from the stratosphere is amazing..... Male hypergamy is amazing...... @@ -43012,7 +43012,7 @@ You are not burning shit down. You are building a new you. -Get to fucking work.",,38,red-sfpplus,1537289667.0 +Get to fucking work.",,38,red-sfpplus,2018-09-18 16:54:27 marriedredpill,9gr34t,Latin Dance Lessons AKA “Alpha Dog School”," I stumbled into something that has been a great parallel to TRP for me as I develop and understand myself in an alpha role. It’s a natural fit with TRP and something I’d recommend to a guy trying to pull out of a LTR’s frame and build his own own or a bloke wanting to learn to stop being a beta faggot and learn TRP. Latin Dance. @@ -43035,7 +43035,7 @@ Here’s why this has been so good for my journey (and probably useful for yours 4. You’ll get comfortable with being close to multiple women, some are gonna be hotter than you think you can close. Yes there are a few HB2/3s that’ll want to do this but ur also gonna get a lot of HB7+ that are there too. You’re going to have to touch them, talk to them, make them laugh etc. They’re essentially a captive audience for as long as you’re dancing together. Unless you’re being a giant douche creep, it’s just you and her for a few minutes and you gotta do something. Also you don’t have to close a single one one. Building DNGAF in this circumstance is pretty fuckin easy. I have been nervous around women my whole life, this has changed a lot. 5. The women there are l trying to learn how to follow a man’s lead. I was clumsily dancing with one HB7.5 and she literally said “I’m trying to learn how to follow”. Every woman there is looking for a lead partner to follow. Think on this a bit. 6. Dread game 101. Basically it’s all there. You’re out doing something you choose, there is guaranteed to be women there, your gonna have fun etc. -",,76,suprathepeg,1537239794.0 +",,76,suprathepeg,2018-09-18 03:03:14 marriedredpill,9gpbj9,FR: Go All In,"Late 40s. Married over 20 years. 2 kids at home youngest is 17 TR;DL: If you're thinking of implementing MRP, go all in. @@ -43082,7 +43082,7 @@ After reading MRP posts for a year, I have to give a HUGE thanks to mods. As sta &#x200B; -Edit for formatting.",,90,DJiamuzak,1537225800.0 +Edit for formatting.",,90,DJiamuzak,2018-09-17 23:10:00 marriedredpill,9gsz6v,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 18, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -43092,7 +43092,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,15,AutoModerator,1537259127.0 +",,15,AutoModerator,2018-09-18 08:25:27 marriedredpill,9geh6k,The Golden Ticket,"Essay: https://therationalmale.com/2018/09/16/the-golden-ticket/ @@ -43109,7 +43109,7 @@ What if you only won $1 million or $500,000, but you were only making $36,000 a Imagine you had a Golden Ticket that had a potential to win you $70,000 per year or if you played things right it had the potential to earn you $10 million per year if you were wise enough to capitalize on it. How would that change your outlook on life? -What rationales would that prompt you to in order to reconcile that other people might not have the same potential for cashing in –without really earning it – that you do?",,31,Rollo-Tomassi,1537134254.0 +What rationales would that prompt you to in order to reconcile that other people might not have the same potential for cashing in –without really earning it – that you do?",,31,Rollo-Tomassi,2018-09-16 21:44:14 marriedredpill,9g68g0,How to Bang Your Wife - Rian Stone [Youtube video],"The Charlton Heston of MRP himself, Rian Stone at #21CON last year, first public preview of his full speech. &#x200B; @@ -43126,7 +43126,7 @@ The full speech is at 21 University which is free to join for a month, see Rian' &#x200B; -The full presentation will eventually drop for free on YouTube (this year).",,44,Dream_21,1537056230.0 +The full presentation will eventually drop for free on YouTube (this year).",,44,Dream_21,2018-09-16 00:03:50 marriedredpill,9g4edy,Other common MRP acronyms,"Not all acronyms are listed at the sidebar URL -- [[Link Here]](https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2zckqu/updated_glossary_of_terms_and_acronyms/) This document exists so that people who haven't looked up the basics get banned. @@ -43156,7 +43156,7 @@ Read through the comments for other terminology that may not be listed. ---- Feel free to post questions on other acronyms in this thread. -",,20,[deleted],1537041097.0 +",,20,[deleted],2018-09-15 19:51:37 marriedredpill,9fkvne,How to Smell Amazing: A Man's Guide to Buying and Wearing Cologne,"I have recently discovered that I really enjoy wearing cologne. Cologne is something that many people enjoy wearing, although obviously there are some who don’t care for it at all. But there are tons of choices out there today, and many of them are somewhat pricey. So I thought I would share what I’ve learned so far. &#x200B; @@ -43523,7 +43523,7 @@ So after getting a nice selection of decants since I posted this, here's an upda **[Creed Original Santal EDP](https://www.fragrantica.com/perfume/Creed/Original-Santal-473.html)** - this one was okay, but nothing special, kinda boring. -**[Mugler A*Men Pure Malt EDT](https://www.fragrantica.com/perfume/Mugler/A-Men-Pure-Malt-6103.html)** - meh, has a ""whiskey"" smell to it, and doesn't last very long.",,140,rocknrollchuck,1536865759.0 +**[Mugler A*Men Pure Malt EDT](https://www.fragrantica.com/perfume/Mugler/A-Men-Pure-Malt-6103.html)** - meh, has a ""whiskey"" smell to it, and doesn't last very long.",,140,rocknrollchuck,2018-09-13 19:09:19 marriedredpill,9f94rz,“It’s like everything is always on your terms”,"So I’m sure there’s some work that needs to be done here. Let me know. @@ -43569,7 +43569,7 @@ This might not seem like shit to most of you guys but this was huge for me. I wo I am by no means where I want to be but I am a hell of a lot better than I was a couple months ago. -I think my biggest realization in all of this is the true importance of having a mission/vision in place that has nothing to do with your wife. ",,60,InconspicuousWand,1536768665.0 +I think my biggest realization in all of this is the true importance of having a mission/vision in place that has nothing to do with your wife. ",,60,InconspicuousWand,2018-09-12 16:11:05 marriedredpill,9f5cye,The new set of rules and the importance of frame,"I am currently getting my Masters in counseling, and I’m in the middle of a class for Counseling couples.  &#x200B; @@ -43594,7 +43594,7 @@ That’s why FRAME is so important. I’ve been on hard-mode almost daily for ov &#x200B; -Now, I get “ I love you sooooo much” with that old loving look in her eyes.  I love seeing that, but I don't base my happiness on it, and I realize it can be completely different tomorrow, or even 10 minutes later... and that's OK. Frame has to be internalized to get there, and faking it will only expose you as a fraud, so I don't buy into the ""fake it till you make it"" on the subject of frame. Just try to build your frame, and be genuine. \*\*STFU until you can build your frame strong enough\*\* to implement A&A and AM. These should be genuine and come naturally with time and lots of effort.",,55,BobbyPeru,1536734418.0 +Now, I get “ I love you sooooo much” with that old loving look in her eyes.  I love seeing that, but I don't base my happiness on it, and I realize it can be completely different tomorrow, or even 10 minutes later... and that's OK. Frame has to be internalized to get there, and faking it will only expose you as a fraud, so I don't buy into the ""fake it till you make it"" on the subject of frame. Just try to build your frame, and be genuine. \*\*STFU until you can build your frame strong enough\*\* to implement A&A and AM. These should be genuine and come naturally with time and lots of effort.",,55,BobbyPeru,2018-09-12 06:40:18 marriedredpill,9f1sgi,Quick post on Testosterone,"When i started my MRP journey last year i was in the midst of a failed marriage and being at the lowest part of my life. I hated myself, like an unsafe amount. My dead bedroom, lack of self confidence coupled with my weight gain killed my marriage. &#x200B; @@ -43615,8 +43615,8 @@ In the 6 weeks i started TRT i gained 11lbs of muscle and dropped to 11.5-12%BF. &#x200B; -I advise everybody on here, NO MATTER HOW FUCKING OLD YOU ARE, GO GET FUCKING TESTED. Even if you feel fine, find your natural level, you could find other things that need tweaking, or you could find you were low T like i was. You guys are already putting in the work wit the sidebar and the gym, this is fucking easy, and could change your life more than anything on this subreddit. I really do think getting this checked should be in the sidebar.",,61,PBL89,1536703071.0 -marriedredpill,9f1aky,Field Report From a New Guy,Deleted,,25,parkerfiveone,1536699318.0 +I advise everybody on here, NO MATTER HOW FUCKING OLD YOU ARE, GO GET FUCKING TESTED. Even if you feel fine, find your natural level, you could find other things that need tweaking, or you could find you were low T like i was. You guys are already putting in the work wit the sidebar and the gym, this is fucking easy, and could change your life more than anything on this subreddit. I really do think getting this checked should be in the sidebar.",,61,PBL89,2018-09-11 21:57:51 +marriedredpill,9f1aky,Field Report From a New Guy,Deleted,,25,parkerfiveone,2018-09-11 20:55:18 marriedredpill,9ex1v7,"Lift, Faggot, Lift"," **Listen up, Lazy Cunts** @@ -43746,7 +43746,7 @@ How? Sheer dedication. Hit the gym 3-4 days a week at the gym, follow the progra &#x200B; So don’t be a lazy cunt, stop making excuses, get off your fat / skinny arse and start lifting like your life depended on it, because in reality, it probably does. -",,69,[deleted],1536668490.0 +",,69,[deleted],2018-09-11 12:21:30 marriedredpill,9evoz9,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 11, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -43756,7 +43756,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,10,AutoModerator,1536654335.0 +",,10,AutoModerator,2018-09-11 08:25:35 marriedredpill,9etqe4,"[FR] ""Lost"" Frame for the First Time in a Long Time.","This is geared toward the newer OP's. It's a pretty basic concept, boundries, and my thought process behind it as it was happening. Some may also say it's a good example of controlled anger, others may say I started acting like a faggot...they both could be right. And btw, if you want to put a label on it, broke frame might be a bit more accurate. Frame isn't lost or held...it just is. But I digress... @@ -43769,7 +43769,7 @@ She walked off once **I** realized the AA had turned into passive aggressive bul The smile and laugh when she did it, and her attitude after the fact like she had just apologized to end the conversation, literally no signs of ""yeah, that was a bad move"", made me mad as fuck. And within an hour I decided to stop focusing on all that bullshit and look at the reality of it. I said all I can say, her choices moving forward are out of my control. She'll either do it again or she won't, and there's no guarantee she's going to be any more or less pleasant to be around for the next few days. -So what do I do from here? Pretty simple. Type this up, do some reading before bed, wake up, go to work, watch my kid's game, and enjoy every minute of it. Maybe go to Home Depot for project supplies...if there's time.",,16,BostonBrakeJob,1536634591.0 +So what do I do from here? Pretty simple. Type this up, do some reading before bed, wake up, go to work, watch my kid's game, and enjoy every minute of it. Maybe go to Home Depot for project supplies...if there's time.",,16,BostonBrakeJob,2018-09-11 02:56:31 marriedredpill,9dzvva,Theory: The triangle theory of love... and you,"Some recent askMRP threads have inspired me to review a well-known theory from social psychology: the [Triangular Theory of Love](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love). This clever theory (best summed up by the picture) talks about the three elements of human relationships, and shows you how the combinations of those things lead to different versions of ""love"". On the corners of the triangle are Passion, Intimacy, and Commitment, the three basic elements. These elements and combinations of them define relationships. For example, if you have only Intimacy, you have a friend. If you have Passion and Intimacy, you have ""Romantic"" love (a FWB). Intimacy and commitment gives ""Companionate"" love, and Passion plus Commitment yields ""Fatuous Love"" (fucking a girl you're committed to, but don't actually like). What the theory assumes is that everyone wants to be inside the triangle, with all three elements, known as ""Consummate"" love. @@ -43783,7 +43783,7 @@ So what is MRP's goal then? Is it to get you inside the triangle, to Companionat Looking at that triangle, only you can decide where you want to be on it with your relationship(s). But I'm willing to bet that looking at that diagram and the implications each location on it has, most of you want to be in the middle with your wives (what most of us originally wanted from a marriage), on the left edge (FWBs and long-time plates), or on the lower left corner (Passion only = ONS). Anywhere else is either dealing with crazy or not getting laid. Given that, why are so many of you settling for anything less? -",,34,SorcererKing,1536364961.0 +",,34,SorcererKing,2018-09-08 00:02:41 marriedredpill,9cwinu,On My Way,"I always wondered if I would get to this moment from the minute I first found MRP. 10 years to the day that I asked my wife to go out with me I found this place, to today. Three long years of working, improving, and focusing my life. I've been through a lot, and seen my body and especially my mind transform. &nbsp; @@ -43866,7 +43866,7 @@ I had a huge essay of other notes and thoughts, but like I said you don't learn &nbsp; --JoATMoN09/Gargantuablarg29",,50,[deleted],1536074038.0 +-JoATMoN09/Gargantuablarg29",,50,[deleted],2018-09-04 15:13:58 marriedredpill,9csbx5,When the Blue Pill Lens Shattered,"It's less than 2 years till I turn 40 and I have been doing a lot of reflection recently: 1) on points in my life where I could have learned something but I didn't; and 2) how I want to improve my life between now and when I do turn 40. I hate to overuse the Matrix analogy to death. But, between the sexes, there are so many points in my life where I felt a glitch in the Matrix but did not stop to understand it and see past it. I've been thinking about one college experience a lot. @@ -43881,7 +43881,7 @@ This experience resonated with me because just as my first group of college frie I could have saved myself a lot of time and pain had I learned what had made my alpha dog friend attractive to Lauren and my wife to me 20 years ago. I spent the first 15 of the last 20 years slowly losing frame. The blue pill lens shattered for me when discussing divorce and custody schedules after acquiescing to her wants for nearly our whole relationship. -When did it shatter for you?",,30,J_Incognito,1536034693.0 +When did it shatter for you?",,30,J_Incognito,2018-09-04 04:18:13 marriedredpill,9ctq5i,"Own Your Shit Weekly - September 04, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -43891,7 +43891,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,13,AutoModerator,1536049527.0 +",,13,AutoModerator,2018-09-04 08:25:27 marriedredpill,9crwyf,Primordial Archetypes,"Essay: https://therationalmale.com/2018/09/03/primordial-archetypes/ @@ -43902,7 +43902,7 @@ Now, what if I told you that the reality of women’s Hypergamous nature is also My theory is this: human beings have an innate understanding of the Alpha Seed – Beta Need nature of intersexual dynamics. On some level of consciousness we know, we feel, that it’s true, how it functions and why does. As a result, social institutions (religion and familial) created moral strictures around this unconscious knowledge to buffer against the worst effects of it on society. Only after the Sexual Revolution and men ceding virtually unilateral control of Hypergamy to women did these strictures change. -The concepts of men who represent Alpha Fucks and Beta Bucks are similarly part of this instinctual understanding of Hypergamy. These too are archetypes, but more so, they form the basis of more complex male archetypes (love me Vampire, fuck me Werewolf). They are the men women want to fuck and the men women want to be provided for by. And we can trace the root of these archetypes through our evolution and even the evolution of other primates. These Hypergamous archetypes then manifest themselves in our era-specific, cultural specific, stories, narratves, mythology, etc.",,9,Rollo-Tomassi,1536030692.0 +The concepts of men who represent Alpha Fucks and Beta Bucks are similarly part of this instinctual understanding of Hypergamy. These too are archetypes, but more so, they form the basis of more complex male archetypes (love me Vampire, fuck me Werewolf). They are the men women want to fuck and the men women want to be provided for by. And we can trace the root of these archetypes through our evolution and even the evolution of other primates. These Hypergamous archetypes then manifest themselves in our era-specific, cultural specific, stories, narratves, mythology, etc.",,9,Rollo-Tomassi,2018-09-04 03:11:32 marriedredpill,9c03a9,Finances Discussion,"I recently got a Private Message asking questions about how to get control of the finances. I get a lot of these PM's based on my prior post about Gain Control of The Treasury https://redd.it/588e5o. Since getting your financial house in order is so important, I thought some of you might want to comment to OP too. Since OP is a throwaway account with no history, I copy/pasted his PM to me below, along with my first response to him. _____________________________________________ from lesterknight008 sent 12 hours ago @@ -43961,7 +43961,7 @@ Separate ownership CC is the standard for me. She has a card in her name, and yo The sub plot I read in your post is either you are not making enough money to raise the family, or you are saving too much, or both. One last thing. Having control of the money is necessary if your spouse is wasting our resources. I don't think yours is. If you don't have a wasting problem, then be careful not to lack a generous spirit with your family....don't be cheap. -__________________________________________________________________________________________",,16,[deleted],1535773445.0 +__________________________________________________________________________________________",,16,[deleted],2018-09-01 03:44:05 marriedredpill,9bivv4,You're Being Cucked. What Do You Do About It?,"This comes up often. I get tired of correcting it comment by comment. A lot of unplugging guys are really good at hiding the fact that they are trying to figure out if thier girl is fucking Chad. In my early early days I did this. Wondered if my STBX was fucking when she said she was at a study group. Maybe she was. Maybe I don’t care, but I wasn’t about to drive 40 minutes to the university to find out. In fact it's a visceral fear of most men except for you freaks that seem to think it's some sort of fetish. /u/friendandadvisor makes this point: @@ -43978,7 +43978,7 @@ So your girl decided that Chad had a better dick than you. So what? What you d I believe this paranoia, this drive to constantly find out if she is cheating on you, is from fear. The first fear is that you won’t be able to leave with the upper hand. that’s it right? you want to exit the relationship leaving her broken, alpha widowed, and at the top of your game. Sorry bub, doesn’t work like that. You will never know in your life time if you Alpha widowed a girl. Maybe you find out, but it won’t be noticeable immediately. Not only that but women have this amazing ability to rationalize anything. They will have moved on. Though remember, women connect memories to emotion. What memories are you connected to? The ones where she saw you as a suspicious loser or a strong alpha? Doesn’t matter if you were right or not. It was never about that. -The second place this fear comes from is failing to have achieved Outcome Independence. It’s difficult to flip that switch to caring but not caring. [In life there are only 3 problems to solve.](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2qjwg9/how_to_become_outcome_independent_using_a_stoic/?st=jjqz8p3x&sh=07c7c8a9) This is where your work is. Being cucked isn’t the problem. What you do when you find out is.",,58,ReddJive,1535629407.0 +The second place this fear comes from is failing to have achieved Outcome Independence. It’s difficult to flip that switch to caring but not caring. [In life there are only 3 problems to solve.](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2qjwg9/how_to_become_outcome_independent_using_a_stoic/?st=jjqz8p3x&sh=07c7c8a9) This is where your work is. Being cucked isn’t the problem. What you do when you find out is.",,58,ReddJive,2018-08-30 11:43:27 marriedredpill,9ax516,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 28, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -43988,7 +43988,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,15,AutoModerator,1535444726.0 +",,15,AutoModerator,2018-08-28 08:25:26 marriedredpill,9as8jb,I'm still single ... just married.,"I've written several posts and comments about divorce around here. It's literally my day job, so why not? But I think some people get the wrong idea about why I wrote many of those posts and comments in the first place. In most things I do, there's usually a bigger game that I'm working toward than the immediate context would let on. If you can take some general divorce wisdom out of those posts, great, but that's not why they're there. Someone once asked in one of those posts: ""Why are you posting this here? Doesn't this belong on r/divorce?"" Here's the reason: I want men to position themselves in such a way that they are not manipulated in their marriages by the fear of divorce. It's not about helping guys through divorce; it's about helping guys stop being afraid of divorce so they can live in their own frame. @@ -44091,7 +44091,7 @@ _____ The way I interact with my wife isn't oriented around ""improving the marriage"" or ""being a good husband."" From time to time, it may be convenient to use such shorthand, but looking back I see that this type of language does a serious disservice to any man who is already struggling to live in his own frame. The way I interact with my wife is oriented around meeting my goals. As I pursue my goals, I take a few steps forward. If my wife doesn't walk with me, she gets left behind. This shows her that my commitment is to my own purposes and not to her. That keeps the mountain growing. That keeps her chasing me - because she knows that somewhere along the way, as I keep walking forward she'll be left in the dust and my commitment to her will be little more than a silhouette in the horizon until she earns it back by catching up - and I reward her as she does so. This is fun for her and freeing for me. -Now, my goals aren't antagonistic toward my wife. I don't make it a point to make her miserable just to screw with her, as the blue pill objectors accuse. On the contrary, when I accept the fact that I am my own man, and I have sufficiently mitigated the risks of our ""marriage contract"" being broken, I am free to be the same guy she first fell in love with - the guy who had a mission that's more important than her, who had options, who didn't cave to social pressures and stigmas about what a ""husband"" or ""marriage"" should look like. That's the guy whose wife is constantly striving to help him, to please him, and to keep him committed and who is just as excited to do these things in the marriage as she was when they were dating. That's the guy whose wife is happy. More importantly: that's the guy who's happy.",,87,Red-Curious,1535399945.0 +Now, my goals aren't antagonistic toward my wife. I don't make it a point to make her miserable just to screw with her, as the blue pill objectors accuse. On the contrary, when I accept the fact that I am my own man, and I have sufficiently mitigated the risks of our ""marriage contract"" being broken, I am free to be the same guy she first fell in love with - the guy who had a mission that's more important than her, who had options, who didn't cave to social pressures and stigmas about what a ""husband"" or ""marriage"" should look like. That's the guy whose wife is constantly striving to help him, to please him, and to keep him committed and who is just as excited to do these things in the marriage as she was when they were dating. That's the guy whose wife is happy. More importantly: that's the guy who's happy.",,87,Red-Curious,2018-08-27 19:59:05 marriedredpill,99ohbj,[FR] Is a Wife Worth One Foot?,"From Illimitable Men: *Marriage is the only legal contract in existence that permits a person to violate contractual terms and then subsequently penalize the party who upheld said terms.* @@ -44165,7 +44165,7 @@ Lastly, it seems Jan’s BFF Greg had his fun and moved on. So now Jan is datin TLDR: Husband got hurt and lost his job. Wife branch swung as soon as her education was completed. -",,54,JudgeDoom69,1535039076.0 +",,54,JudgeDoom69,2018-08-23 15:44:36 marriedredpill,991emh,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 21, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -44175,7 +44175,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,11,AutoModerator,1534839925.0 +",,11,AutoModerator,2018-08-21 08:25:25 marriedredpill,98ztd4,A Sense of Ownership,"Essay: https://therationalmale.com/2018/08/20/a-sense-of-ownership/ @@ -44194,7 +44194,7 @@ The butter knife that Elvis used to spread peanut butter on his peanut butter an As I stated, women also exhibit this effect as well, and I’d argue for much of the same reasons. Though, in none of the research related in this video was this Endowment Effect controlled for by sex – at least none that I’m aware of. Again, this is conjecture, but I would think that with the intrinsic certainty a woman has in knowing a child is her own, and the collectivist communal nature of women in hunter-gatherer society from which we developed, it might be that women place a higher ‘endowed’ value on different things than men do. I think this effect may be more pronounced in an era where women are almost unilaterally in control of Hypergamy. -I recently saw a video of a fertility doctor who had either used his own sperm to fertilize women’s eggs, or completely random samples to father about 40 children. The women, the children (mostly female) were absolutely aghast that he was their father or some donor who they would never know had contributed to half their DNA. The idea that the selection and control of Hypergamy was taken from them was worthy of the death penalty. Yet this is exactly the control we expect men to relinquish in this age. We will pat men on the back for abandoning their evolved instinct to ascertain paternity. We’ll tell a man he’s a hero for wifing up a single mother and “stepping up to be a father” to a child he didn’t sire and at the same time pretend that father’s are superfluous. We’ll change ‘Father’s Day’ to ‘Special Person’s Day’ and tell men they’re insecure in their masculinity for preferring a son or daughter of his own – but try to remove that control from a woman, try to tell her that Hypergamous choice wasn’t hers to make and it’s tantamount to rape.",,18,Rollo-Tomassi,1534822890.0 +I recently saw a video of a fertility doctor who had either used his own sperm to fertilize women’s eggs, or completely random samples to father about 40 children. The women, the children (mostly female) were absolutely aghast that he was their father or some donor who they would never know had contributed to half their DNA. The idea that the selection and control of Hypergamy was taken from them was worthy of the death penalty. Yet this is exactly the control we expect men to relinquish in this age. We will pat men on the back for abandoning their evolved instinct to ascertain paternity. We’ll tell a man he’s a hero for wifing up a single mother and “stepping up to be a father” to a child he didn’t sire and at the same time pretend that father’s are superfluous. We’ll change ‘Father’s Day’ to ‘Special Person’s Day’ and tell men they’re insecure in their masculinity for preferring a son or daughter of his own – but try to remove that control from a woman, try to tell her that Hypergamous choice wasn’t hers to make and it’s tantamount to rape.",,18,Rollo-Tomassi,2018-08-21 03:41:30 marriedredpill,98vjg9,On Being Alpha,"I have been on a journey to draw a common thread in all this. To find the unifying theory of Red Pill. To date it seems to be a mass of theories and opinions with no cohesion in unifying It with human behavior. Much like string theory to physics, I have this feeling there is something more out there. Maybe I am wrong, much like string theory could be. Maybe I am right. I don't know. Still the journey and study have been rewarding. This is what I have found so far. I have often said that there is no Alpha of Alphas. It doesn't exist in nature and it most certainly doesn't exist in humans. Ask a simple question: why aren't all Alpha males in nature actively fighting each other for their packs/prydes? They don't. They exist yet if challenged within their communities then the Alpha take action. It is an interesting question. Let's start with the fact that Dr. David Mech, the man who gave us the idea of alpha/beta wolf behavior, spends his time trying to remove the concept now. In his own words: @@ -44242,7 +44242,7 @@ Understanding the idea of the State of Nature, as an Alpha you are providing coh The Alpha tends to the group, makes sure there are no weeds, culls the dead plants, ensures it's growing and developing. When it comes to people? Do they really deserve to benefit from your presence? You can and will come to point in all your relationships where you will wonder are you giving more than you are getting from this? Be ready to sacrifice (ie removing people or yourself, leaving your past, moving forward) for what you want. The ultimate risk is becoming who you want to be. -",,33,ReddJive,1534785726.0 +",,33,ReddJive,2018-08-20 17:22:06 marriedredpill,97xkjg,A Simple Trick For Damaging Self-Talk,"Although most of us come here focused on getting something from someone else... (i.e., sex from wife) @@ -44323,7 +44323,7 @@ Somehow, re-framing the voice as outside of yourself - and as objectively dumb-s At that point, you can think more clearly about the kind of shit you *want* running through your brain. After all, ""states become traits,"" and the more we re-focus our mind on the positive, the more we can enjoy ourselves on our journeys to better lives, better sex, and better marriages. -Hope this was helpful.",,83,resolutions316,1534464493.0 +Hope this was helpful.",,83,resolutions316,2018-08-17 00:08:13 marriedredpill,97j7cf,The Important of Stoicism to Achieving Your Preferred Outcomes,"**TL;DR** - Your woman experiences your anger as a threat. This is a result of biology. Any time she sees you frustrated, enraged, or anywhere in between, her amygdala goes crazy, and she goes into crisis mode. In order for her to calm down/accept your frame, you **have** to be cool and collected first. ## Intro @@ -44368,7 +44368,7 @@ Get a notebook, and come up with as many scenarios as you can. In every single c **Read WISNIFG.** [Here's a link to a free PDF version.](http://www.leithon.net/huahao/upload/file/20140502/20140502232035_1093.pdf) (You lazy slob) Figure out how to defend your boundaries in a way that does not try to use ""I'm angry"" as a tool. Every single time you turn to ""I'm angry,"" you lose. -You could be turning her down flat, and if you can make her feel good about it, she'll *happily* acquiesce, even thank you for it. I promise you this is true. I've had my wife bear hug me when I do this successfully, even though I haven't promised to change my stance one iota for her, and this is a high IQ woman who listens to egalitarian podcasts on an almost daily basis.",,46,Th3JourneyRed,1534347096.0 +You could be turning her down flat, and if you can make her feel good about it, she'll *happily* acquiesce, even thank you for it. I promise you this is true. I've had my wife bear hug me when I do this successfully, even though I haven't promised to change my stance one iota for her, and this is a high IQ woman who listens to egalitarian podcasts on an almost daily basis.",,46,Th3JourneyRed,2018-08-15 15:31:36 marriedredpill,976m6c,"Own Your Shit Weekly - August 14, 2018","A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. @@ -44378,7 +44378,7 @@ Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs wer Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit. -",,16,AutoModerator,1534235140.0 +",,16,AutoModerator,2018-08-14 08:25:40 marriedredpill,972l9j,Married... with Children,"This post is an adaptation of a comment response in a recent AskMRP thread. For the guys with kids in the 0-10 range, read and consider how much this applies to you. I’ve been married for a while and have more kids than I can keep track of so I think I’m semi-qualified to talk about this. **The Obvious but Misleading Problem** @@ -44427,7 +44427,7 @@ Sell her on better. EDIT: For the autistic crowd, this post is about DOING, not talking. Yeah, you gotta talk a little because people aren’t mind readers. But do it during a hike. Talk about vision riding up a ski lift. Do it on a break during mountain biking. Don’t do it while on the couch in between episodes. -You sell people on actions, not speech. I should have clarified that. ",,108,CaptJohnLukeDiscard,1534197372.0 +You sell people on actions, not speech. I should have clarified that. ",,108,CaptJohnLukeDiscard,2018-08-13 21:56:12 marriedredpill,970sgo,[FR] Duty Sex Doesn't Exist,"**FRAME** Lots of guys post about getting duty sex from their wives on both r/askMRP and r/RPChristians. This used to be a thorn in my side in my marriage. Here's the thing, though: I stopped caring. @@ -44460,7 +44460,7 @@ _____ I'm really writing this to look for more feedback from guys who want to test this out. Over the last month or two I can't tell if I'm just not getting duty sex anymore or if I'm actually right about all this and duty sex never existed in the first place. So, for you guys who like to complain about duty sex, get in your own frame, go screw around with your wife for a while, then come back and let me know how it went. -**Caveat**: u/rocknrollchuck appropriately suggested that this might not be a great idea for total newcomers who don't even know what their own frame is, much less how to get out of hers. Fair point. A guy's gotta be somewhat attractive first, I suppose, or that hard no will preclude actual reliable results. Don't go Rambo.",,19,Red-Curious,1534184719.0 +**Caveat**: u/rocknrollchuck appropriately suggested that this might not be a great idea for total newcomers who don't even know what their own frame is, much less how to get out of hers. Fair point. A guy's gotta be somewhat attractive first, I suppose, or that hard no will preclude actual reliable results. Don't go Rambo.",,19,Red-Curious,2018-08-13 18:25:19 marriedredpill,96twlt,Divorce brings it all full circle,"Divorce (or the divorce process) is, based off my personal experience - the last phase of a man fully becoming Red Pill. All of the reading, training and all we talk about here, it all comes into focus during the divorce process. AWALT is 100% real, and the hunt for new pussy allows you to see everything from the start through the Red Pill lens. @@ -44529,7 +44529,7 @@ You cannot and never will truly, not give a fuck when you lack abundance. Are you going to learn from my mistakes, or at least put an end to making your own? -Or are you going to continue to fucking suck?",,140,red-sfpplus,1534121137.0 +Or are you going to continue to fucking suck?",,140,red-sfpplus,2018-08-13 00:45:37 TheBluePill,2nj2ed,My compilation of posts on why TRP is sexist and bad for both men and women.,"Since this post has been stickied, I'll add on a few introductory posts for those wondering WTF is TRP? I also changed all the links to archives for posterity. [RAW text here for those who want to easily copy-paste it.](http://pastebin.com/eRHe8Vfk) @@ -44629,37 +44629,37 @@ TheBluePill,2nj2ed,My compilation of posts on why TRP is sexist and bad for both If you don't see this stuff, you are purposefully ignoring the toxic elements of TRP. *TRP is fundamentally an ideology about hating women.* Plus you'll likely end up ruining your relationship. By admitting to following TRP, you are basically telling the world you are an unabashed misogynist. This is undeniable given the countless examples and literally the ideology spelled out in their sidebar. -",,867,IAmAN00bie,1417046699.0 -TheBluePill,ovdrfg,Vaush has a very disturbing pre-occupation with bestiality and paedophilia masterpost [NSFW/Trigger warning],,/r/Enough_Vaush_Spam/comments/ou0d2u/vaush_has_a_very_disturbing_preoccupation_with/,149,RobotAnna,1627761054.0 +",,867,IAmAN00bie,2014-11-27 00:04:59 +TheBluePill,ovdrfg,Vaush has a very disturbing pre-occupation with bestiality and paedophilia masterpost [NSFW/Trigger warning],,/r/Enough_Vaush_Spam/comments/ou0d2u/vaush_has_a_very_disturbing_preoccupation_with/,149,RobotAnna,2021-07-31 19:50:54 TheBluePill,19eyete,Graduate Study,"My name is Elyse Shires, and I am a student at JFK School of Psychology and Social Sciences at National University, and I am looking for self-identified involuntary celibates or previously identified involuntary celibates, who are 18 and older to take a survey regarding their attitudes and beliefs. You will be completing an anonymous survey online that should take approximately 20 minutes. There will be a demographics section to better understand the population, but no personally identifiable information will be used. To participate in this study, please use this link: [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdHOBN86DIybZQ4TzXf53v8BlAu1i4t\_t6J5\_sUl3CZAKbwbw/viewform?usp=sf\_link](https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdHOBN86DIybZQ4TzXf53v8BlAu1i4t_t6J5_sUl3CZAKbwbw/viewform?usp=sf_link) -If you have any concerns or questions please contact the IRB at NU IRB at (858) 612- 8384 or via email at irb@nu.edu.",,17,Over-Pin3333,1706149173.0 -TheBluePill,18t08k3,Least sexist conservative,,https://i.redd.it/20l8f2tn819c1.jpeg,436,FoeHamma,1703786619.0 -TheBluePill,18szdyr,Top-ranked keyboard combatant,,https://i.redd.it/zk6jbbyly19c1.jpeg,50,FoeHamma,1703784557.0 -TheBluePill,18sjk2q,4Channer realizes that his Comrades might've lied to him about Society.,,https://i.redd.it/vmav9qs1kw8c1.jpeg,283,FoeHamma,1703733254.0 +If you have any concerns or questions please contact the IRB at NU IRB at (858) 612- 8384 or via email at irb@nu.edu.",,17,Over-Pin3333,2024-01-25 02:19:33 +TheBluePill,18t08k3,Least sexist conservative,,https://i.redd.it/20l8f2tn819c1.jpeg,436,FoeHamma,2023-12-28 18:03:39 +TheBluePill,18szdyr,Top-ranked keyboard combatant,,https://i.redd.it/zk6jbbyly19c1.jpeg,50,FoeHamma,2023-12-28 17:29:17 +TheBluePill,18sjk2q,4Channer realizes that his Comrades might've lied to him about Society.,,https://i.redd.it/vmav9qs1kw8c1.jpeg,283,FoeHamma,2023-12-28 03:14:14 TheBluePill,18j1acz,"""Protect and Provide"": Where is this coming from?","Over the last 2-3 months, I've noticed that the more right-leaning commenters on all sorts of relationship advice posts will say that a man's role is to ""protect and provide."" In those exact words. Then the other day I saw it used by a polyamorous gay man, and I was like, how did it filter there from the right wing? Lol. I've tried asking a few of the commenters where they heard the phrase, and they instead derail by saying ""well akshually that's been men's role since caveman days wharglbargl."" -But that's not what I'm asking! I mean the exact wording itself. What YouTuber (or whatever) said this phrase a couple of months ago and set off all of manosphere-Reddit to saying it verbatim like NPCs? This sub seems like a place where someone might (a) know and (b) understand what I'm asking and not derail it, lol.",,100,greeneyedwench,1702650396.0 -TheBluePill,18ijhzy,even the AI Girls don’t want him,,https://i.redd.it/047g5620ma6c1.jpg,35,FoeHamma,1702590140.0 -TheBluePill,18g2ojk,The problem with a lot of dudes who want a trad-wife is that they refuse to be a traditional husband.,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18d5qx3,336,FoeHamma,1702324995.0 -TheBluePill,18cy2k5,"""The girl who rejects me must be a w#ore"" Bible neckbeard edition.",,https://i.redd.it/jorm5zmdkv4c1.jpg,228,FoeHamma,1701962985.0 +But that's not what I'm asking! I mean the exact wording itself. What YouTuber (or whatever) said this phrase a couple of months ago and set off all of manosphere-Reddit to saying it verbatim like NPCs? This sub seems like a place where someone might (a) know and (b) understand what I'm asking and not derail it, lol.",,100,greeneyedwench,2023-12-15 14:26:36 +TheBluePill,18ijhzy,even the AI Girls don’t want him,,https://i.redd.it/047g5620ma6c1.jpg,35,FoeHamma,2023-12-14 21:42:20 +TheBluePill,18g2ojk,The problem with a lot of dudes who want a trad-wife is that they refuse to be a traditional husband.,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/18d5qx3,336,FoeHamma,2023-12-11 20:03:15 +TheBluePill,18cy2k5,"""The girl who rejects me must be a w#ore"" Bible neckbeard edition.",,https://i.redd.it/jorm5zmdkv4c1.jpg,228,FoeHamma,2023-12-07 15:29:45 TheBluePill,187wsd1,Is pick me a over used term?,"Is the term “pick me” over used? I’ve seen it used as an insult like simp. A pick me is a term used for “women that bring down other women for male attention” which I understand but if a woman seems to just say something that is helpful or benefits a man she is a pick me. Such as a woman cooking for her boyfriend she will be called a pick me? -Considering how much women shit talk covertly and snake each other all the time ex:sleeping with best friends boyfriend or exes. Is the term pick me a cope for mentally healthy women that have a positive outlook towards me?",,19,No_Historian_1601,1701387394.0 -TheBluePill,17sbo9h,Field report: My wife just fainted in front of me and I can't tell if she's fallen out of my orbit or if she was just overwhelmed by my strength and power? Can someone help me interpret this before she wakes up and wants to go to the hospital or something?,,https://i.redd.it/6ftla6ybnkzb1.png,48,me-and-my-brain,1699644422.0 -TheBluePill,16hxeb4,End Abuse of Women Online Intro: The cause!!,,https://youtu.be/FrN7-UtzuVo?si=03GOidkMfcL9n19q,12,No-Astronaut-4403,1694635813.0 -TheBluePill,16h5gvn,Pretty sure this is a strong blue pill view piont?,,https://youtu.be/FrN7-UtzuVo?si=vcf0GDtL6eIDXVSf,10,No-Astronaut-4403,1694558177.0 -TheBluePill,16f00g8,Nice Guy - a love song,,https://v.redd.it/zyyd90vzkpc71,62,FoeHamma,1694351650.0 +Considering how much women shit talk covertly and snake each other all the time ex:sleeping with best friends boyfriend or exes. Is the term pick me a cope for mentally healthy women that have a positive outlook towards me?",,19,No_Historian_1601,2023-11-30 23:36:34 +TheBluePill,17sbo9h,Field report: My wife just fainted in front of me and I can't tell if she's fallen out of my orbit or if she was just overwhelmed by my strength and power? Can someone help me interpret this before she wakes up and wants to go to the hospital or something?,,https://i.redd.it/6ftla6ybnkzb1.png,48,me-and-my-brain,2023-11-10 19:27:02 +TheBluePill,16hxeb4,End Abuse of Women Online Intro: The cause!!,,https://youtu.be/FrN7-UtzuVo?si=03GOidkMfcL9n19q,12,No-Astronaut-4403,2023-09-13 20:10:13 +TheBluePill,16h5gvn,Pretty sure this is a strong blue pill view piont?,,https://youtu.be/FrN7-UtzuVo?si=vcf0GDtL6eIDXVSf,10,No-Astronaut-4403,2023-09-12 22:36:17 +TheBluePill,16f00g8,Nice Guy - a love song,,https://v.redd.it/zyyd90vzkpc71,62,FoeHamma,2023-09-10 13:14:10 TheBluePill,16dceus,What do you make of the Proud Boys instruction manual?," https://imgur.com/a/GY8Jqxv @@ -44713,35 +44713,35 @@ We disavow Nazis… and racists.” “Fedoras are banned.” -But hey, at least they take gay folks.",,28,dirtyhippie62,1694184108.0 -TheBluePill,16bnub2,"The Right Would Like All Women to be 1950s Housewives, Please",,https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-commentary/shakshuka-girl-chelsea-handler-tiktok-matt-walsh-childfree-women-1234818131/,26,vodkacrocs,1694015580.0 -TheBluePill,16b1x3d,Gamers rise up,,https://i.redd.it/6k6xqf0uogmb1.jpg,38,FoeHamma,1693951736.0 -TheBluePill,16aw4ny,"Shall we all start requesting female surgeons for . . ""Modesty reasons"" 😂",,https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/aug/30/female-surgeons-patient-outcomes-better-studies,15,No-Astronaut-4403,1693938868.0 -TheBluePill,16a8ql5,This post always make me proud to be a women. I wish she was more well known.,,https://i.redd.it/5sogwklln9mb1.jpg,130,No-Astronaut-4403,1693872732.0 -TheBluePill,16a0nqo,Confidence is key in life apparently. Fs.,,https://i.redd.it/2fo9mn08n9mb1.png,47,No-Astronaut-4403,1693854015.0 -TheBluePill,169wnid,The Internet Is at Risk of Driving Women Away,,"https://www.wired.co.uk/article/women-internet-harassment#:~:text=A%20UNESCO%20study%20of%20journalists,in%20connection%20to%20online%20abuse.",8,No-Astronaut-4403,1693845059.0 -TheBluePill,169k8wv,"It's women who sexualize themselves, not men. 🤡",,https://i.redd.it/x7oy4z3en6mb1.png,10,Loud-Camera-660,1693808872.0 -TheBluePill,166gk75,Least unhinged incel,,https://i.redd.it/s9l4g5zj86lb1.jpg,106,FoeHamma,1693501128.0 -TheBluePill,166iakx,Taint Quotes,,https://i.redd.it/978kvfpzjhlb1.png,26,No-Astronaut-4403,1693505138.0 -TheBluePill,166h1r8,Real matrix,,https://i.redd.it/3ff4decobhlb1.png,11,No-Astronaut-4403,1693502282.0 -TheBluePill,166ez31,When The Harassment Of Women Moves Online - The stats in this are proof of a matrix designed to oppress women. Who'd of guessed.,,https://www.forbes.com/sites/ewelinaochab/2023/03/08/when-the-harassment-of-women-moves-online/,2,No-Astronaut-4403,1693497382.0 -TheBluePill,163sc9u,Join us Dylan,,https://i.redd.it/ldte91acfnkb1.jpg,90,FoeHamma,1693243867.0 -TheBluePill,162tfj5,The future of sex doll technology,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZZWmMh0sq5A&ab_channel=vvv%E2%80%94okay,18,FoeHamma,1693150218.0 -TheBluePill,161tvj3,What do you think of the groyper community on twitter?,,,0,jaddenlaser-,1693052749.0 -TheBluePill,15zi6db,"""Alpha male"" podcaster breaks down and nearly cries after announcing he's been demonetized on YouTube",,https://i.redd.it/9n5t246kwvjb1.png,110,FoeHamma,1692828027.0 -TheBluePill,15yy2ss,Women are shapeshifters,,https://i.redd.it/zckob3ngqtjb1.png,74,pagenotfound000,1692780816.0 -TheBluePill,15y1wxi,"Boyfriend who is old enough to be my father is having a tantrum because I didn't call him sir consistently, SOS?",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/15y1wxi,95,pagenotfound000,1692700541.0 +But hey, at least they take gay folks.",,28,dirtyhippie62,2023-09-08 14:41:48 +TheBluePill,16bnub2,"The Right Would Like All Women to be 1950s Housewives, Please",,https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-commentary/shakshuka-girl-chelsea-handler-tiktok-matt-walsh-childfree-women-1234818131/,26,vodkacrocs,2023-09-06 15:53:00 +TheBluePill,16b1x3d,Gamers rise up,,https://i.redd.it/6k6xqf0uogmb1.jpg,38,FoeHamma,2023-09-05 22:08:56 +TheBluePill,16aw4ny,"Shall we all start requesting female surgeons for . . ""Modesty reasons"" 😂",,https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/aug/30/female-surgeons-patient-outcomes-better-studies,15,No-Astronaut-4403,2023-09-05 18:34:28 +TheBluePill,16a8ql5,This post always make me proud to be a women. I wish she was more well known.,,https://i.redd.it/5sogwklln9mb1.jpg,130,No-Astronaut-4403,2023-09-05 00:12:12 +TheBluePill,16a0nqo,Confidence is key in life apparently. Fs.,,https://i.redd.it/2fo9mn08n9mb1.png,47,No-Astronaut-4403,2023-09-04 19:00:15 +TheBluePill,169wnid,The Internet Is at Risk of Driving Women Away,,"https://www.wired.co.uk/article/women-internet-harassment#:~:text=A%20UNESCO%20study%20of%20journalists,in%20connection%20to%20online%20abuse.",8,No-Astronaut-4403,2023-09-04 16:30:59 +TheBluePill,169k8wv,"It's women who sexualize themselves, not men. 🤡",,https://i.redd.it/x7oy4z3en6mb1.png,10,Loud-Camera-660,2023-09-04 06:27:52 +TheBluePill,166gk75,Least unhinged incel,,https://i.redd.it/s9l4g5zj86lb1.jpg,106,FoeHamma,2023-08-31 16:58:48 +TheBluePill,166iakx,Taint Quotes,,https://i.redd.it/978kvfpzjhlb1.png,26,No-Astronaut-4403,2023-08-31 18:05:38 +TheBluePill,166h1r8,Real matrix,,https://i.redd.it/3ff4decobhlb1.png,11,No-Astronaut-4403,2023-08-31 17:18:02 +TheBluePill,166ez31,When The Harassment Of Women Moves Online - The stats in this are proof of a matrix designed to oppress women. Who'd of guessed.,,https://www.forbes.com/sites/ewelinaochab/2023/03/08/when-the-harassment-of-women-moves-online/,2,No-Astronaut-4403,2023-08-31 15:56:22 +TheBluePill,163sc9u,Join us Dylan,,https://i.redd.it/ldte91acfnkb1.jpg,90,FoeHamma,2023-08-28 17:31:07 +TheBluePill,162tfj5,The future of sex doll technology,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZZWmMh0sq5A&ab_channel=vvv%E2%80%94okay,18,FoeHamma,2023-08-27 15:30:18 +TheBluePill,161tvj3,What do you think of the groyper community on twitter?,,,0,jaddenlaser-,2023-08-26 12:25:49 +TheBluePill,15zi6db,"""Alpha male"" podcaster breaks down and nearly cries after announcing he's been demonetized on YouTube",,https://i.redd.it/9n5t246kwvjb1.png,110,FoeHamma,2023-08-23 22:00:27 +TheBluePill,15yy2ss,Women are shapeshifters,,https://i.redd.it/zckob3ngqtjb1.png,74,pagenotfound000,2023-08-23 08:53:36 +TheBluePill,15y1wxi,"Boyfriend who is old enough to be my father is having a tantrum because I didn't call him sir consistently, SOS?",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/15y1wxi,95,pagenotfound000,2023-08-22 10:35:41 TheBluePill,15we7pi,The redpill mindset cannot exist without misogyny and resentment (3 pictures- read description),"Red is the original poster, wanting help with dealing with a difficult 8yo daughter. Is surprised she acts like this as his wife is so 'obedient'. Redpiller mixed with Christianity. -Orange calls the 8yo a 'woman who wants attention' and a 'bitch'. We then see that orange has divorced and wants stories about ex wives suffering.",https://www.reddit.com/gallery/15we7pi,65,[deleted],1692544958.0 -TheBluePill,15vfjjf,"""Alpha male"" gets exposed.",,https://i.redd.it/8vvnr3z321jb1.jpg,179,FoeHamma,1692449642.0 -TheBluePill,15ufsul,"Fellas, is it betacuck to be good in bed?",,https://i.redd.it/jx024fk1auib1.jpg,98,throwlegalaway12358,1692351552.0 -TheBluePill,15omdve,The Incel Vikings,,https://v.redd.it/xi67rpqo09hb1,20,FoeHamma,1691791801.0 -TheBluePill,15m30m4,What would have happened if Neo took the blue pill?,,,11,t-n-g-1999,1691550191.0 -TheBluePill,15k5ebo,Most normal Reddit incel,,https://i.redd.it/wr8fhfxtwjgb1.jpg,113,FoeHamma,1691368179.0 -TheBluePill,15jor4w,Women aren't allowed to have organs now,,https://i.redd.it/ghm7bb5rccgb1.png,126,FoeHamma,1691325867.0 -TheBluePill,15eh6j3,My masculinity is such a fragile thing that if I even think about the color pink… It will be gone!,,https://i.redd.it/j688kt6ra7fb1.jpg,151,FoeHamma,1690812376.0 -TheBluePill,15alem0,Empower your toilet today!,,https://i.redd.it/lqo5b4hnideb1.png,67,FoeHamma,1690414184.0 +Orange calls the 8yo a 'woman who wants attention' and a 'bitch'. We then see that orange has divorced and wants stories about ex wives suffering.",https://www.reddit.com/gallery/15we7pi,65,[deleted],2023-08-20 15:22:38 +TheBluePill,15vfjjf,"""Alpha male"" gets exposed.",,https://i.redd.it/8vvnr3z321jb1.jpg,179,FoeHamma,2023-08-19 12:54:02 +TheBluePill,15ufsul,"Fellas, is it betacuck to be good in bed?",,https://i.redd.it/jx024fk1auib1.jpg,98,throwlegalaway12358,2023-08-18 09:39:12 +TheBluePill,15omdve,The Incel Vikings,,https://v.redd.it/xi67rpqo09hb1,20,FoeHamma,2023-08-11 22:10:01 +TheBluePill,15m30m4,What would have happened if Neo took the blue pill?,,,11,t-n-g-1999,2023-08-09 03:03:11 +TheBluePill,15k5ebo,Most normal Reddit incel,,https://i.redd.it/wr8fhfxtwjgb1.jpg,113,FoeHamma,2023-08-07 00:29:39 +TheBluePill,15jor4w,Women aren't allowed to have organs now,,https://i.redd.it/ghm7bb5rccgb1.png,126,FoeHamma,2023-08-06 12:44:27 +TheBluePill,15eh6j3,My masculinity is such a fragile thing that if I even think about the color pink… It will be gone!,,https://i.redd.it/j688kt6ra7fb1.jpg,151,FoeHamma,2023-07-31 14:06:16 +TheBluePill,15alem0,Empower your toilet today!,,https://i.redd.it/lqo5b4hnideb1.png,67,FoeHamma,2023-07-26 23:29:44 TheBluePill,15afdkz,Documentary,"Hi, I am currently making a documentary on the red pill/ manosphere space and I'm looking for participants who want to share their stories about their experience with the red pill/ manosphere space. The documentary is covering the reasons for the surge in the popularity of the red pill and why people are attracted to the Red Pill. I want to make this as balanced as possible and try to get both sides of the argument why people subscribe to that ideology and why people are against it. @@ -44750,18 +44750,18 @@ So if you fall on either side and want to participate just DM me and we can try &#x200B; -Thanks",,5,ssat21,1690400047.0 -TheBluePill,1535ddc,The perfect gentleman,,https://i.redd.it/0ce1ectycmcb1.jpg,167,FoeHamma,1689702885.0 +Thanks",,5,ssat21,2023-07-26 19:34:07 +TheBluePill,1535ddc,The perfect gentleman,,https://i.redd.it/0ce1ectycmcb1.jpg,167,FoeHamma,2023-07-18 17:54:45 TheBluePill,14uwrnr,Do you think being very handsome and super intelligent and wealthy will make it easy to steal someone's girl?,"Like just swoop in and befriend her or ask her out and then convince her that her current partner isn't putting enough effort into pleasing her. Then she leaves him and goes to you. -/s cause I'm not a cruel person.",,1,throwawayexist2002,1688903852.0 -TheBluePill,14nc7nd,The “why am I still single/a virgin?” starterpack,,https://i.redd.it/ntswqci1e69b1.jpg,110,FoeHamma,1688159346.0 -TheBluePill,14moz4l,"""Should I pick the ugly asshole or the attractive asshole? Hmmmm...""",,https://i.redd.it/od8jhyvrtz8b1.jpg,53,FoeHamma,1688095419.0 -TheBluePill,14jpoau,Top g finally got educated,Top g says inspirational words ,https://v.redd.it/ahr6c7zure8b1,54,One-Milk2311,1687805397.0 -TheBluePill,14jdxbm,"No, men have made women fear men",https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/14j0at0/the_media_has_made_women_truly_fear_men/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button,,13,SabineLavine,1687776403.0 -TheBluePill,14gyqe0,What incels REALLY want,,https://i.redd.it/c9iq407yhq7b1.jpg,84,FoeHamma,1687527239.0 +/s cause I'm not a cruel person.",,1,throwawayexist2002,2023-07-09 11:57:32 +TheBluePill,14nc7nd,The “why am I still single/a virgin?” starterpack,,https://i.redd.it/ntswqci1e69b1.jpg,110,FoeHamma,2023-06-30 21:09:06 +TheBluePill,14moz4l,"""Should I pick the ugly asshole or the attractive asshole? Hmmmm...""",,https://i.redd.it/od8jhyvrtz8b1.jpg,53,FoeHamma,2023-06-30 03:23:39 +TheBluePill,14jpoau,Top g finally got educated,Top g says inspirational words ,https://v.redd.it/ahr6c7zure8b1,54,One-Milk2311,2023-06-26 18:49:57 +TheBluePill,14jdxbm,"No, men have made women fear men",https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/14j0at0/the_media_has_made_women_truly_fear_men/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button,,13,SabineLavine,2023-06-26 10:46:43 +TheBluePill,14gyqe0,What incels REALLY want,,https://i.redd.it/c9iq407yhq7b1.jpg,84,FoeHamma,2023-06-23 13:33:59 TheBluePill,14h4qy5,Women never getting the recognition for supressing emotions and why feminism is concerned about mens mental health. Enough for me to end my life. Any other women feel like this.,"Hello, I hope you're all well. I have the condition known as Depersonalisation-derealisation disorder which I have experienced for 3 years. It is a result of severe trauma especially from my childhood years and isn't a condition I would wish for anyone to experience. @@ -44808,22 +44808,22 @@ I will experience this suffering forever and it's only going to get worse as I a LIVING IN A SOCIETY WHERE MEN GET RECOGNITION FOR EMOTION SUPRESSION MAKES ME SUICIDAL. -Thanks for reading.",,15,NewPlay9883,1687542013.0 -TheBluePill,14gdleh,Incels: “foids have unrealistic standards!” Also incels:,,https://i.redd.it/7jid8iz6pj7b1.jpg,129,FoeHamma,1687464678.0 -TheBluePill,14en7w1,"""First they came for the Sex Trafficking Groups and I said nothing""",,https://i.redd.it/hqfglmnsv57b1.png,189,FoeHamma,1687295168.0 -TheBluePill,14dyrqo,One of life’s greatest mysteries 🧐,,https://i.redd.it/4f8vg9lj907b1.jpg,75,FoeHamma,1687229138.0 -TheBluePill,147wtlj,A reply to an underage girl posting about harassment from older men at work,,https://i.redd.it/k9lyfg43dn5b1.jpg,423,spartan1216,1686601802.0 -TheBluePill,1484q57,The ultimate proof that incel ideology is bullshit,,https://i.redd.it/exo6k6meam5b1.png,21,FoeHamma,1686624961.0 -TheBluePill,143ecee,The incel endgame,,https://v.redd.it/n7u508cwnh4b1,120,FoeHamma,1686147077.0 -TheBluePill,143h0ck,Ok coomer,,https://i.redd.it/s7tf2ey8zg4b1.jpg,34,FoeHamma,1686153386.0 -TheBluePill,142mfb6,🍑,,https://i.redd.it/lgyayw0aff4b1.jpg,35,FoeHamma,1686071110.0 -TheBluePill,141eevx,😬,,https://i.redd.it/h14lai7y354b1.jpg,93,FoeHamma,1685971304.0 +Thanks for reading.",,15,NewPlay9883,2023-06-23 17:40:13 +TheBluePill,14gdleh,Incels: “foids have unrealistic standards!” Also incels:,,https://i.redd.it/7jid8iz6pj7b1.jpg,129,FoeHamma,2023-06-22 20:11:18 +TheBluePill,14en7w1,"""First they came for the Sex Trafficking Groups and I said nothing""",,https://i.redd.it/hqfglmnsv57b1.png,189,FoeHamma,2023-06-20 21:06:08 +TheBluePill,14dyrqo,One of life’s greatest mysteries 🧐,,https://i.redd.it/4f8vg9lj907b1.jpg,75,FoeHamma,2023-06-20 02:45:38 +TheBluePill,147wtlj,A reply to an underage girl posting about harassment from older men at work,,https://i.redd.it/k9lyfg43dn5b1.jpg,423,spartan1216,2023-06-12 20:30:02 +TheBluePill,1484q57,The ultimate proof that incel ideology is bullshit,,https://i.redd.it/exo6k6meam5b1.png,21,FoeHamma,2023-06-13 02:56:01 +TheBluePill,143ecee,The incel endgame,,https://v.redd.it/n7u508cwnh4b1,120,FoeHamma,2023-06-07 14:11:17 +TheBluePill,143h0ck,Ok coomer,,https://i.redd.it/s7tf2ey8zg4b1.jpg,34,FoeHamma,2023-06-07 15:56:26 +TheBluePill,142mfb6,🍑,,https://i.redd.it/lgyayw0aff4b1.jpg,35,FoeHamma,2023-06-06 17:05:10 +TheBluePill,141eevx,😬,,https://i.redd.it/h14lai7y354b1.jpg,93,FoeHamma,2023-06-05 13:21:44 TheBluePill,1408hpq,Can someone help me refute this article?,"Hello, I came across this article from that incels forum and even though I know of some information that is incorrect, I don't know how to respond to this, I would prefer detailed answers. -https://incels.is/threads/females-are-psychopaths-a-socio-historic-review.483658/",,20,jaddenlaser-,1685873555.0 -TheBluePill,13sgm8f,Prime foids,,https://i.imgur.com/OfwMkbn.jpg,94,FoeHamma,1685115770.0 -TheBluePill,13o5uxg,Why Are The MGTOWs So Obsessed With Women? Just Go Your Own Way Already,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/13o5uxg,256,Banana1134-,1684702022.0 -TheBluePill,13kyrti,German women are Chads apparently,,https://i.redd.it/s45if3633k0b1.png,119,FoeHamma,1684415339.0 +https://incels.is/threads/females-are-psychopaths-a-socio-historic-review.483658/",,20,jaddenlaser-,2023-06-04 10:12:35 +TheBluePill,13sgm8f,Prime foids,,https://i.imgur.com/OfwMkbn.jpg,94,FoeHamma,2023-05-26 15:42:50 +TheBluePill,13o5uxg,Why Are The MGTOWs So Obsessed With Women? Just Go Your Own Way Already,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/13o5uxg,256,Banana1134-,2023-05-21 20:47:02 +TheBluePill,13kyrti,German women are Chads apparently,,https://i.redd.it/s45if3633k0b1.png,119,FoeHamma,2023-05-18 13:08:59 TheBluePill,13dv7ls,The Red pill is a cult," Red Pill is a Cult that is brainwashing young men to be misogynist. @@ -44862,14 +44862,14 @@ Example 4. Red pillers invoke concepts to actively shame men and women in order to coerce such as masculinity and femininity. When invoked these labels are to establish a normative perception of what one ought to do in virtue of their sex independent of being a good partner. - For example , I've seen men be content as a masculine man because they make more money however their significant other needing help with child rearing , cooking or cleaning doesn't draw out this feeling of not being a masculine man . These labels are worthless making men weak . It's an effort to control a mass of people similar to a religion . Whatever entails a good partner is what we should strive for even if everything a good partner is considered feminine by some group . If being a feminine man entails a good partner by some group label then all men should be feminine or rather just ignore such labels that attempt to trigger some shame or guilt in virtue of sex. This is another reason why this is a cult . Men being brainwashed and bogged down mentally by concepts that are irrelevant",,265,No_Cricket_2824,1683734915.0 -TheBluePill,13b3n6t,UNO Reverse,,https://v.redd.it/hcp2kmsrriya1,238,LeadProfessional6429,1683495274.0 -TheBluePill,13ammyk,"Needing to PAY women to hang around you doesn't sound very alpha, just saying...",,https://i.redd.it/6as2dae97cya1.jpg,323,FoeHamma,1683463344.0 -TheBluePill,1388aby,Anime pfp moment,,https://i.redd.it/ap82rvifyuxa1.jpg,157,FoeHamma,1683254641.0 -TheBluePill,136q6b7,"When someone tells you who they are, believe them",,https://i.redd.it/q4scn48y5nxa1.jpg,207,FoeHamma,1683127026.0 -TheBluePill,136ut6k,(M)en (G)etting (T)riggered (O)ver (W)omen,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/136j8eo,36,FoeHamma,1683137257.0 -TheBluePill,1320z6z,"“If a 6’2” millionaire Chad can’t abuse his wife what hope is there for cheeto stained, beer gutted basement dwellers like me?”",,https://i.redd.it/rwq7d4jvsjwa1.jpg,353,FoeHamma,1682700191.0 -TheBluePill,13233uy,Rules for thee…,,https://i.redd.it/rlhiaz2zymwa1.jpg,18,FoeHamma,1682702207.0 + For example , I've seen men be content as a masculine man because they make more money however their significant other needing help with child rearing , cooking or cleaning doesn't draw out this feeling of not being a masculine man . These labels are worthless making men weak . It's an effort to control a mass of people similar to a religion . Whatever entails a good partner is what we should strive for even if everything a good partner is considered feminine by some group . If being a feminine man entails a good partner by some group label then all men should be feminine or rather just ignore such labels that attempt to trigger some shame or guilt in virtue of sex. This is another reason why this is a cult . Men being brainwashed and bogged down mentally by concepts that are irrelevant",,265,No_Cricket_2824,2023-05-10 16:08:35 +TheBluePill,13b3n6t,UNO Reverse,,https://v.redd.it/hcp2kmsrriya1,238,LeadProfessional6429,2023-05-07 21:34:34 +TheBluePill,13ammyk,"Needing to PAY women to hang around you doesn't sound very alpha, just saying...",,https://i.redd.it/6as2dae97cya1.jpg,323,FoeHamma,2023-05-07 12:42:24 +TheBluePill,1388aby,Anime pfp moment,,https://i.redd.it/ap82rvifyuxa1.jpg,157,FoeHamma,2023-05-05 02:44:01 +TheBluePill,136q6b7,"When someone tells you who they are, believe them",,https://i.redd.it/q4scn48y5nxa1.jpg,207,FoeHamma,2023-05-03 15:17:06 +TheBluePill,136ut6k,(M)en (G)etting (T)riggered (O)ver (W)omen,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/136j8eo,36,FoeHamma,2023-05-03 18:07:37 +TheBluePill,1320z6z,"“If a 6’2” millionaire Chad can’t abuse his wife what hope is there for cheeto stained, beer gutted basement dwellers like me?”",,https://i.redd.it/rwq7d4jvsjwa1.jpg,353,FoeHamma,2023-04-28 16:43:11 +TheBluePill,13233uy,Rules for thee…,,https://i.redd.it/rlhiaz2zymwa1.jpg,18,FoeHamma,2023-04-28 17:16:47 TheBluePill,12vd96r,I noticed something about manosphere types,"Maybe this is obvious to other people but I'm just noticing it. There's little to no mention about mental/intellectual connection. Just ""are they hot"" and ""do they have gender-normative skills"". Even when talking about LTRs. Hell many don't want college educated women. @@ -44880,26 +44880,26 @@ It strikes me because my parents basically had a trad/redpill type relationship, Indeed I was always told that ""smart men like smart women"", and that those scenarios where a wealthy, educated man runs off with his hot secretary often don't work out because of the educational divide - sure she keeps house and is great in bed but when those are done...there isn't really anything. -I mean at least some guys go mask off and think women aren't worth talking to unless you want to sleep with them. Others suggest that ""things in common"" come after you establish how feminine she is and once she's put out. Maybe all of this would be dismissed as bluepill delusion on my part, but I was reflecting and the lack of even mentioning it in the context or marriage/ LTRs got to me.",,161,AllTooHuman65,1682185003.0 -TheBluePill,12rtpua,What do incels have against girls who listen to Pink Floyd?,,https://i.redd.it/wnf8h0tjzuua1.jpg,328,FoeHamma,1681911741.0 -TheBluePill,12ohd0o,"The ""I go to Asian countries to meet women because I can't get laid at home"" starter pack",,https://i.redd.it/pag88xqkdxta1.jpg,254,FoeHamma,1681664682.0 -TheBluePill,12nagj2,Incels exist across all species,,https://i.redd.it/trbjkrrx02ua1.jpg,175,FoeHamma,1681576821.0 -TheBluePill,12jnvwd,Game over,,https://i.redd.it/exj0zbs7xgta1.jpg,198,FoeHamma,1681309554.0 -TheBluePill,12jpwsf,Incel for life 🤙,,https://i.redd.it/efc2v5h3c7p91.jpg,75,FoeHamma,1681313692.0 -TheBluePill,12hpm1d,Eau d’incel,,https://i.redd.it/n0mlgmsrbxsa1.jpg,204,FoeHamma,1681147589.0 -TheBluePill,12fxl37,Who wants to tell him that Hans Landa was the bad guy?,,https://i.redd.it/vyassrc6vosa1.jpg,159,FoeHamma,1680986012.0 -TheBluePill,120kedf,Incelephant,,https://i.redd.it/oq0qmqezllpa1.jpg,321,FoeHamma,1679664706.0 -TheBluePill,120jcqc,"Weirdos complaining about the ""ugliness"" of women in the Resident Evil 4 remake. Guy in the first tweet is defending the new designs, he then gets flooded with insults saying how they look hideous and how he loves ugly women.",,https://i.redd.it/r72c0hxekmpa1.png,265,FoeHamma,1679662391.0 -TheBluePill,11xmby5,Some things never change,,https://i.redd.it/ztez44vw9moa1.png,199,FoeHamma,1679416678.0 -TheBluePill,11utw7e,I've noticed a double standard.,"Why do ""red pill"" types criticize women dating multiple guys, only for them to date multiple women and encourage their subscribers to do so? It's like they create the very single mothers they go on to complain about.",,213,[deleted],1679159323.0 -TheBluePill,11rz6n8,Female soldiers are based,,https://i.redd.it/0xknamvn1vna1.png,275,FoeHamma,1678892942.0 -TheBluePill,11r7zqn,Make Women Great Again,,https://i.imgur.com/jneptof.jpg,181,FoeHamma,1678805000.0 -TheBluePill,11mweqq,"I did not expect the second paper to go live just days after the first one, but here is the SECOND paper published regarding our TRP research project (this one is a qualitative methodology guideline paper)",,https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/16094069231162674,60,BluePillResearchProj,1678378883.0 -TheBluePill,11kogyw,"As promised, here is the (first, another one in press) article published from our project which recruited here!",,https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/10926771.2023.2186302,44,BluePillResearchProj,1678161664.0 -TheBluePill,11a3fh3,Guy calls real women “fat” and “disgusting”. Seeks out AI girlfriend instead not noticing AI rated him a 1.5,,https://i.redd.it/1uk2g71z10ka1.jpg,240,FoeHamma,1677173489.0 -TheBluePill,116k76t,"“It's women's fault that my dick is small!""",,https://i.redd.it/4h2wr7w4o6ja1.jpg,269,FoeHamma,1676831502.0 -TheBluePill,10sqof1,Removing himself from the gene pool,,https://i.redd.it/ns8vqkp9zmfa1.jpg,201,FoeHamma,1675447140.0 -TheBluePill,10qh9re,What too much redpill does to a mf,,https://i.redd.it/iqik5vmcyifa1.jpg,361,[deleted],1675216369.0 +I mean at least some guys go mask off and think women aren't worth talking to unless you want to sleep with them. Others suggest that ""things in common"" come after you establish how feminine she is and once she's put out. Maybe all of this would be dismissed as bluepill delusion on my part, but I was reflecting and the lack of even mentioning it in the context or marriage/ LTRs got to me.",,161,AllTooHuman65,2023-04-22 17:36:43 +TheBluePill,12rtpua,What do incels have against girls who listen to Pink Floyd?,,https://i.redd.it/wnf8h0tjzuua1.jpg,328,FoeHamma,2023-04-19 13:42:21 +TheBluePill,12ohd0o,"The ""I go to Asian countries to meet women because I can't get laid at home"" starter pack",,https://i.redd.it/pag88xqkdxta1.jpg,254,FoeHamma,2023-04-16 17:04:42 +TheBluePill,12nagj2,Incels exist across all species,,https://i.redd.it/trbjkrrx02ua1.jpg,175,FoeHamma,2023-04-15 16:40:21 +TheBluePill,12jnvwd,Game over,,https://i.redd.it/exj0zbs7xgta1.jpg,198,FoeHamma,2023-04-12 14:25:54 +TheBluePill,12jpwsf,Incel for life 🤙,,https://i.redd.it/efc2v5h3c7p91.jpg,75,FoeHamma,2023-04-12 15:34:52 +TheBluePill,12hpm1d,Eau d’incel,,https://i.redd.it/n0mlgmsrbxsa1.jpg,204,FoeHamma,2023-04-10 17:26:29 +TheBluePill,12fxl37,Who wants to tell him that Hans Landa was the bad guy?,,https://i.redd.it/vyassrc6vosa1.jpg,159,FoeHamma,2023-04-08 20:33:32 +TheBluePill,120kedf,Incelephant,,https://i.redd.it/oq0qmqezllpa1.jpg,321,FoeHamma,2023-03-24 13:31:46 +TheBluePill,120jcqc,"Weirdos complaining about the ""ugliness"" of women in the Resident Evil 4 remake. Guy in the first tweet is defending the new designs, he then gets flooded with insults saying how they look hideous and how he loves ugly women.",,https://i.redd.it/r72c0hxekmpa1.png,265,FoeHamma,2023-03-24 12:53:11 +TheBluePill,11xmby5,Some things never change,,https://i.redd.it/ztez44vw9moa1.png,199,FoeHamma,2023-03-21 16:37:58 +TheBluePill,11utw7e,I've noticed a double standard.,"Why do ""red pill"" types criticize women dating multiple guys, only for them to date multiple women and encourage their subscribers to do so? It's like they create the very single mothers they go on to complain about.",,213,[deleted],2023-03-18 17:08:43 +TheBluePill,11rz6n8,Female soldiers are based,,https://i.redd.it/0xknamvn1vna1.png,275,FoeHamma,2023-03-15 15:09:02 +TheBluePill,11r7zqn,Make Women Great Again,,https://i.imgur.com/jneptof.jpg,181,FoeHamma,2023-03-14 14:43:20 +TheBluePill,11mweqq,"I did not expect the second paper to go live just days after the first one, but here is the SECOND paper published regarding our TRP research project (this one is a qualitative methodology guideline paper)",,https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/16094069231162674,60,BluePillResearchProj,2023-03-09 16:21:23 +TheBluePill,11kogyw,"As promised, here is the (first, another one in press) article published from our project which recruited here!",,https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/10926771.2023.2186302,44,BluePillResearchProj,2023-03-07 04:01:04 +TheBluePill,11a3fh3,Guy calls real women “fat” and “disgusting”. Seeks out AI girlfriend instead not noticing AI rated him a 1.5,,https://i.redd.it/1uk2g71z10ka1.jpg,240,FoeHamma,2023-02-23 17:31:29 +TheBluePill,116k76t,"“It's women's fault that my dick is small!""",,https://i.redd.it/4h2wr7w4o6ja1.jpg,269,FoeHamma,2023-02-19 18:31:42 +TheBluePill,10sqof1,Removing himself from the gene pool,,https://i.redd.it/ns8vqkp9zmfa1.jpg,201,FoeHamma,2023-02-03 17:59:00 +TheBluePill,10qh9re,What too much redpill does to a mf,,https://i.redd.it/iqik5vmcyifa1.jpg,361,[deleted],2023-02-01 01:52:49 TheBluePill,10ikexp,The Redpill 1 Year Later,"Long Post Incoming This is a throwaway. I'll be deleting this soon. @@ -44941,13 +44941,13 @@ EDIT: Hi all. It's been about 2 months since I made this post. This is for anyone new or returning to this post. I probably won't respond much since I'm trying to use social media sparingly. Like many commentors suggested I'm trying to get offline for awhile. -A quick update on how things are going on my end. I've stopped watching RP videos. It's hard because I still think about it but I know that if I start doing it again it won't stop with just one video. I'm talking to a therapist on Betterhelp. I did look up some reviews about the site and I know there's some controversy surrounding it. I've been mindful about this but my therapist seems good so far and has been helping me work through some of my issues. It's slow but I do feel like things are getting better.",,201,[deleted],1674396362.0 -TheBluePill,10ha7ju,“Western women have been ruined by feminism!” 1920’s edition,,https://i.redd.it/21laefv9h5da1.png,328,FoeHamma,1674252812.0 -TheBluePill,10dfg9s,Cum is stored in the titties,,https://i.redd.it/wnz1iii2jaca1.jpg,204,FoeHamma,1673878122.0 -TheBluePill,10dn3eq,I Interviewed Rollo Tomassi,,https://www.gameglobal.net/rollo-tomassi-the-red-pill/,2,Ice666White,1673893325.0 -TheBluePill,10clws8,Commenting on a one-way mirror in a women's restroom in China,,https://i.redd.it/g3hka0gl18ca1.png,162,humanzookeeping,1673794919.0 -TheBluePill,10b9gyl,Ex-nice guys reacting to Megamind (aka the movie every incel needs to watch and internalize),,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OjpxlBRbhXs,54,FoeHamma,1673653676.0 -TheBluePill,10ayzni,future school shooter,,https://v.redd.it/gc7w26pe1tba1,113,FoeHamma,1673628002.0 +A quick update on how things are going on my end. I've stopped watching RP videos. It's hard because I still think about it but I know that if I start doing it again it won't stop with just one video. I'm talking to a therapist on Betterhelp. I did look up some reviews about the site and I know there's some controversy surrounding it. I've been mindful about this but my therapist seems good so far and has been helping me work through some of my issues. It's slow but I do feel like things are getting better.",,201,[deleted],2023-01-22 14:06:02 +TheBluePill,10ha7ju,“Western women have been ruined by feminism!” 1920’s edition,,https://i.redd.it/21laefv9h5da1.png,328,FoeHamma,2023-01-20 22:13:32 +TheBluePill,10dfg9s,Cum is stored in the titties,,https://i.redd.it/wnz1iii2jaca1.jpg,204,FoeHamma,2023-01-16 14:08:42 +TheBluePill,10dn3eq,I Interviewed Rollo Tomassi,,https://www.gameglobal.net/rollo-tomassi-the-red-pill/,2,Ice666White,2023-01-16 18:22:05 +TheBluePill,10clws8,Commenting on a one-way mirror in a women's restroom in China,,https://i.redd.it/g3hka0gl18ca1.png,162,humanzookeeping,2023-01-15 15:01:59 +TheBluePill,10b9gyl,Ex-nice guys reacting to Megamind (aka the movie every incel needs to watch and internalize),,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OjpxlBRbhXs,54,FoeHamma,2023-01-13 23:47:56 +TheBluePill,10ayzni,future school shooter,,https://v.redd.it/gc7w26pe1tba1,113,FoeHamma,2023-01-13 16:40:02 TheBluePill,10b3tcx,I made a story about Nice guys vs bad boys with Chat GPT,"The town was divided into two groups: the ""nice guys"" and the ""bad boys."" The nice guys were known for their kind hearts and good deeds, always willing to help others in need. The bad boys, on the other hand, were notorious for their wild ways and reckless behavior. One day, a group of women from the town decided to hold a contest to determine which group was truly worthy of their affection. The nice guys and bad boys both accepted the challenge, each determined to prove their worth. @@ -44960,21 +44960,21 @@ Suddenly, an unexpected arrival shook the town. A man known as ""Gigachad"" appe The competition was fierce as the nice guys and bad boys both tried to impress the women and win their affection. But in the end, it was Gigachad who emerged victorious. He had shown that true strength and kindness could coexist, and the women couldn't resist his charm. The nice guys and bad boys both accepted defeat gracefully and the town was united once again. But this time, with a new hero who had shown them that true strength and kindness can coexist, and that is what truly wins the heart of a woman. -The end.",,26,Steve77307,1673639783.0 -TheBluePill,109zu7i,“little sister girlfriend”,,https://i.redd.it/7ekc7e4rkiba1.jpg,154,FoeHamma,1673530628.0 -TheBluePill,1081ln1,Why so many young men won't listen to the left,,https://i.redd.it/19wvmtyui5ba1.png,347,snarkerposey11,1673328403.0 -TheBluePill,107l599,f e m a l e s,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1072plu,158,FoeHamma,1673287376.0 -TheBluePill,zypm9v,I was not expecting this fantastic outcome.,,https://i.imgur.com/Enmhsqh.jpg,483,FoeHamma,1672370742.0 -TheBluePill,ztm823,Edgelord prime,,https://i.redd.it/0xjx5uh9ul7a1.jpg,310,FoeHamma,1671814411.0 -TheBluePill,ztlx93,Least horny Facebook user,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/zt41fi,57,FoeHamma,1671813728.0 -TheBluePill,zss3a2,The worst part of America is females not being submissive,,https://i.redd.it/252of3hufc7a1.jpg,454,FoeHamma,1671731131.0 -TheBluePill,z28nr7,"I’m out here looking for a dessert woman, but all the 6’4 white boys keep stealing them ☹️",,https://i.redd.it/ek8bl1r4rd1a1.png,123,FoeHamma,1669159458.0 -TheBluePill,yvg7do,Incels as harmful self-radicalizing cult: Disturbed young men hammering their faces to improve their looks,,https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-11421039/Disturbed-young-men-incel-cult-hammering-faces-bid-improve-looks.html,150,FoeHamma,1668468453.0 -TheBluePill,y8fjf6,The self hatred is real,,https://i.redd.it/3l1paok8npu91.png,75,FoeHamma,1666216337.0 -TheBluePill,y46exs,The only destruction of the redpill you'll ever need,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IE3dtG4XEeI,32,DebonairDeistagain,1665784493.0 -TheBluePill,y3iuqo,He said what ?,,https://i.redd.it/l2inchycket91.jpg,274,[deleted],1665718416.0 -TheBluePill,y3g69f,"You probably already know, but it’s so ironic how they use the red/blue pill as a way to ridicule feminists and lgbtq+ people without realizing that the matrix was a analogy for being trans",,https://youtube.com/shorts/cZoDV6_2mtU?feature=share,46,NotSpanishInqusition,1665710744.0 -TheBluePill,y1b76y,Alpha Mentality,All of the information on Alpha mentality is based on completely debunked information about wolves and the physiology and sociology of their species is completely untrue and any one who claims to be an alpha is completely speaking on a basis of falsehood.,,122,No-Choice9924,1665500238.0 +The end.",,26,Steve77307,2023-01-13 19:56:23 +TheBluePill,109zu7i,“little sister girlfriend”,,https://i.redd.it/7ekc7e4rkiba1.jpg,154,FoeHamma,2023-01-12 13:37:08 +TheBluePill,1081ln1,Why so many young men won't listen to the left,,https://i.redd.it/19wvmtyui5ba1.png,347,snarkerposey11,2023-01-10 05:26:43 +TheBluePill,107l599,f e m a l e s,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1072plu,158,FoeHamma,2023-01-09 18:02:56 +TheBluePill,zypm9v,I was not expecting this fantastic outcome.,,https://i.imgur.com/Enmhsqh.jpg,483,FoeHamma,2022-12-30 03:25:42 +TheBluePill,ztm823,Edgelord prime,,https://i.redd.it/0xjx5uh9ul7a1.jpg,310,FoeHamma,2022-12-23 16:53:31 +TheBluePill,ztlx93,Least horny Facebook user,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/zt41fi,57,FoeHamma,2022-12-23 16:42:08 +TheBluePill,zss3a2,The worst part of America is females not being submissive,,https://i.redd.it/252of3hufc7a1.jpg,454,FoeHamma,2022-12-22 17:45:31 +TheBluePill,z28nr7,"I’m out here looking for a dessert woman, but all the 6’4 white boys keep stealing them ☹️",,https://i.redd.it/ek8bl1r4rd1a1.png,123,FoeHamma,2022-11-22 23:24:18 +TheBluePill,yvg7do,Incels as harmful self-radicalizing cult: Disturbed young men hammering their faces to improve their looks,,https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-11421039/Disturbed-young-men-incel-cult-hammering-faces-bid-improve-looks.html,150,FoeHamma,2022-11-14 23:27:33 +TheBluePill,y8fjf6,The self hatred is real,,https://i.redd.it/3l1paok8npu91.png,75,FoeHamma,2022-10-19 21:52:17 +TheBluePill,y46exs,The only destruction of the redpill you'll ever need,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IE3dtG4XEeI,32,DebonairDeistagain,2022-10-14 21:54:53 +TheBluePill,y3iuqo,He said what ?,,https://i.redd.it/l2inchycket91.jpg,274,[deleted],2022-10-14 03:33:36 +TheBluePill,y3g69f,"You probably already know, but it’s so ironic how they use the red/blue pill as a way to ridicule feminists and lgbtq+ people without realizing that the matrix was a analogy for being trans",,https://youtube.com/shorts/cZoDV6_2mtU?feature=share,46,NotSpanishInqusition,2022-10-14 01:25:44 +TheBluePill,y1b76y,Alpha Mentality,All of the information on Alpha mentality is based on completely debunked information about wolves and the physiology and sociology of their species is completely untrue and any one who claims to be an alpha is completely speaking on a basis of falsehood.,,122,No-Choice9924,2022-10-11 14:57:18 TheBluePill,xy1bjr,The Fantasy Where She Comes Crawling Back,"This is just a thinky post because I didn't get a lot of sleep last night and my brain is doing weird shit. A while back I noticed that every time there's a Reddit post about a woman leaving a man, the incels/redpillers in the thread really go ham on the ""Just wait till Chad pumps and dumps her and she comes crawling back! Spit in her face!"" fantasy. It occurred to me recently that it might be the most important belief these twits have. @@ -44985,21 +44985,21 @@ But at the same time, they also believe women are continually depreciating. We'r So how are we supposedly doing all this hypergamy? Enter the pump and dump fantasy. We *thought* we were getting a better man, but he was just slumming to get some ass, and we're going to learn a hard lesson and come crawling back. -Never mind that the way a lot of these OPs describe themselves and their behavior, a lot of these women are probably going to run for the hills and never even *look* back. Hell, even if the next relationship doesn't work out, it doesn't mean she's going back to the ex. But they have to imagine it to resolve the cognitive dissonance.",,105,greeneyedwench,1665154697.0 -TheBluePill,xs3un9,"Women always win, no matter what 😭",,https://i.redd.it/ghb12unmdyq91.jpg,74,FoeHamma,1664550699.0 -TheBluePill,xkbq8f,what are the color pills mean,I have no idea what any of this red blue purple black pill stuff is but what do any of them mean cause I’ve only heard red,,49,powerfulchris07,1663782369.0 -TheBluePill,xi92pa,Wherein guys mansplain about paps and whether or not women experience pain at the gyno.......you can't make this shit up,,https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/xhj6qq/feminist_implies_that_a_medical_device_for/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,111,SabineLavine,1663586141.0 -TheBluePill,xcn2ca,When incels attack,,https://v.redd.it/7sihtr3d7fn91,280,FoeHamma,1663014125.0 -TheBluePill,xc11c4,This was posted after India's Supreme Court made marital rape illegal,,https://i.redd.it/sfun7p0od8n91.jpg,333,FoeHamma,1662950110.0 -TheBluePill,x8jdng,Peak Reddit moment,,https://i.redd.it/iz5t8228ugm91.jpg,175,FoeHamma,1662591737.0 -TheBluePill,x8gscu,The Apex Incel,,https://i.redd.it/wp5zulz3h9m91.jpg,202,FoeHamma,1662585397.0 -TheBluePill,x8hw1x,They good girls,,https://i.redd.it/u6gu92gzwfm91.jpg,80,FoeHamma,1662588051.0 -TheBluePill,x36yna,Men would you feel insecure if a girl wanted to incorporate dildos/penis sleeves in the bedroom?,,/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/x2v5u9/men_would_you_feel_insecure_if_a_girl_wanted_to/,63,yoganurse21,1662036916.0 -TheBluePill,x14smo,"Am I so out of touch? No, it's the femoids who are wrong!",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/x0x7nk,136,FoeHamma,1661819831.0 -TheBluePill,wzd63m,Comment on a 17 y/o young woman’s unexpected pregnancy,,https://i.redd.it/wa98h4asjbk91.jpg,220,yeyeku,1661633435.0 -TheBluePill,wyb619,Smooth as sandpaper,,https://i.redd.it/acqa4fz9ayj91.jpg,220,FoeHamma,1661525385.0 -TheBluePill,wwl47i,Sometimes a meme draws them out,,https://i.redd.it/1g2shgeyfhj91.png,172,FoeHamma,1661351577.0 -TheBluePill,wuu5w3,“Only I’M allowed to have standards! ME!!”,,https://i.redd.it/v6c6k2ohx4j91.jpg,201,FoeHamma,1661176147.0 +Never mind that the way a lot of these OPs describe themselves and their behavior, a lot of these women are probably going to run for the hills and never even *look* back. Hell, even if the next relationship doesn't work out, it doesn't mean she's going back to the ex. But they have to imagine it to resolve the cognitive dissonance.",,105,greeneyedwench,2022-10-07 14:58:17 +TheBluePill,xs3un9,"Women always win, no matter what 😭",,https://i.redd.it/ghb12unmdyq91.jpg,74,FoeHamma,2022-09-30 15:11:39 +TheBluePill,xkbq8f,what are the color pills mean,I have no idea what any of this red blue purple black pill stuff is but what do any of them mean cause I’ve only heard red,,49,powerfulchris07,2022-09-21 17:46:09 +TheBluePill,xi92pa,Wherein guys mansplain about paps and whether or not women experience pain at the gyno.......you can't make this shit up,,https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/xhj6qq/feminist_implies_that_a_medical_device_for/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,111,SabineLavine,2022-09-19 11:15:41 +TheBluePill,xcn2ca,When incels attack,,https://v.redd.it/7sihtr3d7fn91,280,FoeHamma,2022-09-12 20:22:05 +TheBluePill,xc11c4,This was posted after India's Supreme Court made marital rape illegal,,https://i.redd.it/sfun7p0od8n91.jpg,333,FoeHamma,2022-09-12 02:35:10 +TheBluePill,x8jdng,Peak Reddit moment,,https://i.redd.it/iz5t8228ugm91.jpg,175,FoeHamma,2022-09-07 23:02:17 +TheBluePill,x8gscu,The Apex Incel,,https://i.redd.it/wp5zulz3h9m91.jpg,202,FoeHamma,2022-09-07 21:16:37 +TheBluePill,x8hw1x,They good girls,,https://i.redd.it/u6gu92gzwfm91.jpg,80,FoeHamma,2022-09-07 22:00:51 +TheBluePill,x36yna,Men would you feel insecure if a girl wanted to incorporate dildos/penis sleeves in the bedroom?,,/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/x2v5u9/men_would_you_feel_insecure_if_a_girl_wanted_to/,63,yoganurse21,2022-09-01 12:55:16 +TheBluePill,x14smo,"Am I so out of touch? No, it's the femoids who are wrong!",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/x0x7nk,136,FoeHamma,2022-08-30 00:37:11 +TheBluePill,wzd63m,Comment on a 17 y/o young woman’s unexpected pregnancy,,https://i.redd.it/wa98h4asjbk91.jpg,220,yeyeku,2022-08-27 20:50:35 +TheBluePill,wyb619,Smooth as sandpaper,,https://i.redd.it/acqa4fz9ayj91.jpg,220,FoeHamma,2022-08-26 14:49:45 +TheBluePill,wwl47i,Sometimes a meme draws them out,,https://i.redd.it/1g2shgeyfhj91.png,172,FoeHamma,2022-08-24 14:32:57 +TheBluePill,wuu5w3,“Only I’M allowed to have standards! ME!!”,,https://i.redd.it/v6c6k2ohx4j91.jpg,201,FoeHamma,2022-08-22 13:49:07 TheBluePill,wtamva,Is 'redpill' getting mainstream in new gen?,"I was talking to my teenage cousin and he casually refers and categorizes his friends as 'beta' and 'alpha'. He also talks about how muscle building and boxing etc are 'alpha' hobbies and painting, cooking etc are for betas. @@ -45008,73 +45008,73 @@ He is just damn 15. He doesnt know about this redpill thing. Also im seeing increasingly common casual references to redpill theories in youtube videos presented as facts. -Is this fringe getting maintream among newer generation?",,225,Immediate_Bee_4650,1661011430.0 -TheBluePill,wrihsf,A neckbeard is mad that there are women the play games and have kids,,https://i.redd.it/7sjr723p5fi91.jpg,359,FoeHamma,1660826243.0 -TheBluePill,wqpge7,This went downhill fast,,https://i.redd.it/y2qr3bxr28i91.jpg,268,FoeHamma,1660744106.0 -TheBluePill,wpa9qz,Asian girls are resistant to Chad’s alpha charm,,https://i.redd.it/6m4sreut0rh91.jpg,232,FoeHamma,1660595985.0 -TheBluePill,wmkydu,Imagine telling on yourself like this,,https://i.redd.it/zr8sws80w9h91.jpg,320,FoeHamma,1660309927.0 -TheBluePill,wmlyut,I’m a horrible person and it’s the entire female gender’s fault!,,https://i.redd.it/26nx3iryx7h91.jpg,42,FoeHamma,1660312752.0 +Is this fringe getting maintream among newer generation?",,225,Immediate_Bee_4650,2022-08-20 16:03:50 +TheBluePill,wrihsf,A neckbeard is mad that there are women the play games and have kids,,https://i.redd.it/7sjr723p5fi91.jpg,359,FoeHamma,2022-08-18 12:37:23 +TheBluePill,wqpge7,This went downhill fast,,https://i.redd.it/y2qr3bxr28i91.jpg,268,FoeHamma,2022-08-17 13:48:26 +TheBluePill,wpa9qz,Asian girls are resistant to Chad’s alpha charm,,https://i.redd.it/6m4sreut0rh91.jpg,232,FoeHamma,2022-08-15 20:39:45 +TheBluePill,wmkydu,Imagine telling on yourself like this,,https://i.redd.it/zr8sws80w9h91.jpg,320,FoeHamma,2022-08-12 13:12:07 +TheBluePill,wmlyut,I’m a horrible person and it’s the entire female gender’s fault!,,https://i.redd.it/26nx3iryx7h91.jpg,42,FoeHamma,2022-08-12 13:59:12 TheBluePill,wjywot,"Wife tells husband she hates having sex with him, reluctantly does it when he asks and cries in the bathroom for 90 minutes when they finish.","https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/wg1ypj/wife_puts_out_anytime_i_ask_but_its_always/ -I have OP the benefit of the doubt, and he's even worse that this OP let's on. See my comments history for the chat thread (if you can stomach it).",,180,[deleted],1660037620.0 +I have OP the benefit of the doubt, and he's even worse that this OP let's on. See my comments history for the chat thread (if you can stomach it).",,180,[deleted],2022-08-09 09:33:40 TheBluePill,wjxkh9,"Twerp raises feminist, makes PowerPoint presentation about how she should navigate her sex and dating life - sub laughs him out the door.","https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/wbbe9y/so_i_made_a_thing_some_people_might_find_useful/ -Best one I've seen in a while.",,34,[deleted],1660032491.0 -TheBluePill,whrzyf,Hopefully this fits this sub,Andrew Tate getting to a lot of guys heads lol,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/whrzyf,187,LeafySeaDragonLSD,1659802568.0 -TheBluePill,wg40e9,Seems legit,,https://i.redd.it/vcf82gm7enf91.jpg,392,FoeHamma,1659626658.0 -TheBluePill,wena9x,Posted by a totally real Japan woman,,https://i.redd.it/wdnnkokd18f91.png,162,FoeHamma,1659474744.0 -TheBluePill,we9yi8,A hit dog always hollers,,https://v.redd.it/ri7ahj789bf91,127,FoeHamma,1659441989.0 -TheBluePill,wds6rp,How to extract the maximum amount of sex out of women 🤮,,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/wdhtck/how_to_extract_the_maximum_amount_of_sex_out_of/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3,73,equalityworldwide,1659387164.0 -TheBluePill,w9ghys,Oh no my date didn't like my book recommendation that is a massive mysognistic dogwhistle where did I go wrong :(,,/r/JordanPeterson/comments/w8wrbf/a_date_left_and_stopped_talking_to_me_because_i/,320,iHokage,1658932789.0 -TheBluePill,w9pwe3,TIL Majin Buu from DBZ was an incel,,https://v.redd.it/tuhondn7nzd91,18,FoeHamma,1658955720.0 -TheBluePill,w87te5,“SJWs are ruining comics!” circa 1968,,https://i.redd.it/l0g5y25cpid91.jpg,266,FoeHamma,1658803010.0 -TheBluePill,w7nvla,"Well, at least he’s pro-choice…",,https://i.redd.it/is6157l7kjd91.jpg,238,FoeHamma,1658752613.0 -TheBluePill,w6d9y8,"A comic made by an incel, deep in his mother's basement.",,https://i.redd.it/hc5rm5eph9d91.jpg,418,FoeHamma,1658607924.0 -TheBluePill,w6dh6o,"It’s gay to be straight, according to Mr. Anime pfp",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/w697rh,34,FoeHamma,1658608495.0 -TheBluePill,w5asdp,Since when does rape cause physical pain?,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/w4qwbc,301,FoeHamma,1658496874.0 -TheBluePill,w4h27l,Tuna wallets,,https://i.redd.it/8bhm7sd0vqc91.jpg,92,FoeHamma,1658411014.0 -TheBluePill,w44tec,"Oh, how the turn tables!",,https://i.redd.it/voizijnq5mc91.png,432,FoeHamma,1658370488.0 -TheBluePill,w1zhgj,"🎶Lower your standards, make it your job, don’t demand perfection from her, if you look like a slob 🎶",,https://i.redd.it/c2alu636b7c91.jpg,197,FoeHamma,1658151186.0 -TheBluePill,vzs6cv,I love it when the trash takes itself out,,https://i.redd.it/mgilnkd21qb91.jpg,34,FoeHamma,1657900796.0 -TheBluePill,vxfg52,No more Mr Nice Guy,,https://i.redd.it/vvde77a5kxa91.jpg,354,FoeHamma,1657643676.0 -TheBluePill,vwilc4,Berries and cream!,,https://i.redd.it/75m52npy2xa91.png,141,FoeHamma,1657546492.0 -TheBluePill,vvuqbc,"Standards for me, but not for thee!",,https://i.redd.it/66vc4xrogoa91.jpg,308,FoeHamma,1657469333.0 -TheBluePill,vsrbp7,*PARTICIPANTS WANTED* I'm looking for members of the manosphere to take part in my survey on experience in the manosphere & perceptions on the incel community as part of my MSc dissertation. Survey should take 10-20 minutes to complete & all responses are anonymous,,https://uclan.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_6h5S17Tx4lMJt0W,33,TrickMedia6392,1657117726.0 -TheBluePill,vryul8,Western woman bad,,https://i.redd.it/zwzvvrhguq991.png,536,FoeHamma,1657030452.0 -TheBluePill,vrzs9g,Gumdrop,,https://i.redd.it/93v4p2dtyk991.jpg,47,FoeHamma,1657033045.0 -TheBluePill,vrzxbh,Too much cream,,https://i.redd.it/mi79dz09vq991.png,22,FoeHamma,1657033397.0 -TheBluePill,vr7rml,Mf needs to get a better hobby,,https://i.redd.it/yi6u7dg3pj991.jpg,387,FoeHamma,1656942280.0 -TheBluePill,vr7u7l,Bitches love radioactive green soda,,https://i.redd.it/6nqcp03ypj991.jpg,74,FoeHamma,1656942504.0 -TheBluePill,vooig7,Münecat debunking the manosphere,,https://youtu.be/BgO25FTwfRI,75,noratat,1656639043.0 -TheBluePill,vnspqj,Mask off,,https://i.redd.it/ya3xwfxm6o891.jpg,174,FoeHamma,1656543155.0 -TheBluePill,vjojfc,The gay agenda strikes again!,,https://i.redd.it/m8ssrfbooj791.jpg,283,FoeHamma,1656077470.0 -TheBluePill,vj234u,Chinese Hitler,,https://v.redd.it/gymh0wsnp7791,147,FoeHamma,1656004856.0 -TheBluePill,vipph8,"In light of the Roe V. Wade ruling most likely being passed down tomorrow morning, I've created a directory of women and LGBT safe healthcare practitioners in the US called The Pink Book. I need the community's help with gathering information so this directory can grow.",,http://pinkbook.us,33,MisogynyisaDisease,1655963445.0 -TheBluePill,vgp7ep,"If you’re a virgin, be a CHAD virgin",,https://i.redd.it/1vbvm2wy8q691.jpg,386,FoeHamma,1655741800.0 -TheBluePill,vgoyp0,What too much porn does to a mf,,https://i.redd.it/qru8le3d7q691.jpg,72,FoeHamma,1655741173.0 -TheBluePill,vgp8ta,“Why don’t girls like me?” 😢,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/vgan1q,20,FoeHamma,1655741904.0 -TheBluePill,vgv2g9,The Neckbeard Messiah,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/vgtdum,7,FoeHamma,1655757187.0 -TheBluePill,veklok,Why don’t the grils like me?,,https://i.redd.it/0zpp15rxd3691.jpg,462,FoeHamma,1655485031.0 -TheBluePill,vap81c,Nice Guy - a love song,,https://v.redd.it/ar9zrliak1591,142,FoeHamma,1655050258.0 -TheBluePill,v9yp2t,A Tale of two Tweets,,https://i.redd.it/968kvbje1w491.jpg,336,FoeHamma,1654957665.0 -TheBluePill,v9b2ek,4channer has an epiphany,,https://i.redd.it/bkvihy6uqk491.jpg,217,FoeHamma,1654877027.0 -TheBluePill,v7s06x,"Ukrainian women don’t twerk, eat hot chip, and lie",,https://i.redd.it/12jn7xfx2b491.jpg,215,FoeHamma,1654701399.0 -TheBluePill,v72uz7,Tell me you’ve never felt a woman’s touch without telling me,,https://i.redd.it/9ud5l45jm8491.jpg,394,Banana1134-,1654624469.0 -TheBluePill,v68a1h,He’s “tried” to be a great person,,https://i.redd.it/q4tkey7gl7az.jpg,160,FoeHamma,1654535096.0 -TheBluePill,v58ctu,Is this person making a case for female disposability? And how the fuck is TRP misandrist?,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/v58ctu,61,[deleted],1654414237.0 -TheBluePill,v4qewx,“Why do girls only like jerks?”- Senator Ted Cruz,,https://i.redd.it/hgf31esqam391.jpg,418,FoeHamma,1654354151.0 -TheBluePill,v1qrfz,Dont waste your fertile years running around,,https://i.redd.it/2mapxnb9ns291.png,297,FoeHamma,1654005100.0 -TheBluePill,v1uwp3,No visible tiddies = “mannish”,,https://i.redd.it/iv79dth5iq291.jpg,15,FoeHamma,1654016484.0 -TheBluePill,v0foxw,"Boobs, what are they good for?",,https://i.redd.it/ma6jnrh2l7291.jpg,293,FoeHamma,1653844313.0 -TheBluePill,v09h4a,"It's exclusively men who do these shootings, but of course it's women's fault! So sick of being blamed for male violence.",,https://nypost.com/2022/05/27/we-overlook-a-significant-factor-in-mass-shootings-fatherlessness/,272,SabineLavine,1653824737.0 -TheBluePill,uz1nf4,Twitter moment,,https://i.redd.it/7ys0miu8nv191.jpg,114,FoeHamma,1653667928.0 -TheBluePill,uxkmra,"He’s willing to do anything to get laid, except be a better person",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/uxirc0,128,FoeHamma,1653494638.0 -TheBluePill,utjg26,Naww man wtf is this,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/utjg26,160,No_Nobody_8948,1653014247.0 -TheBluePill,utd7fy,Saying the quiet part out loud,,https://i.redd.it/z0eanlbntf091.jpg,210,FoeHamma,1652994760.0 -TheBluePill,utdewa,🐎🙋‍♀️🫦😩💦,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/utcat2,73,FoeHamma,1652995352.0 -TheBluePill,urmssc,"""Hmmmm I'd better write 'as a Japanese girl' ten million times so they know for sure that I'm a Japanese girl.""",,https://i.redd.it/2mbmhghesvz81.jpg,253,FoeHamma,1652795092.0 -TheBluePill,urns3c,"Just your average religious neckbeard, Wonder If there's even an chance It's satire.",,https://i.redd.it/cmyq3536usz81.png,89,FoeHamma,1652797936.0 -TheBluePill,urnk2y,What all Japanese girls fantasize about,,https://i.redd.it/90rstanhq0091.png,40,FoeHamma,1652797287.0 +Best one I've seen in a while.",,34,[deleted],2022-08-09 08:08:11 +TheBluePill,whrzyf,Hopefully this fits this sub,Andrew Tate getting to a lot of guys heads lol,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/whrzyf,187,LeafySeaDragonLSD,2022-08-06 16:16:08 +TheBluePill,wg40e9,Seems legit,,https://i.redd.it/vcf82gm7enf91.jpg,392,FoeHamma,2022-08-04 15:24:18 +TheBluePill,wena9x,Posted by a totally real Japan woman,,https://i.redd.it/wdnnkokd18f91.png,162,FoeHamma,2022-08-02 21:12:24 +TheBluePill,we9yi8,A hit dog always hollers,,https://v.redd.it/ri7ahj789bf91,127,FoeHamma,2022-08-02 12:06:29 +TheBluePill,wds6rp,How to extract the maximum amount of sex out of women 🤮,,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/wdhtck/how_to_extract_the_maximum_amount_of_sex_out_of/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3,73,equalityworldwide,2022-08-01 20:52:44 +TheBluePill,w9ghys,Oh no my date didn't like my book recommendation that is a massive mysognistic dogwhistle where did I go wrong :(,,/r/JordanPeterson/comments/w8wrbf/a_date_left_and_stopped_talking_to_me_because_i/,320,iHokage,2022-07-27 14:39:49 +TheBluePill,w9pwe3,TIL Majin Buu from DBZ was an incel,,https://v.redd.it/tuhondn7nzd91,18,FoeHamma,2022-07-27 21:02:00 +TheBluePill,w87te5,“SJWs are ruining comics!” circa 1968,,https://i.redd.it/l0g5y25cpid91.jpg,266,FoeHamma,2022-07-26 02:36:50 +TheBluePill,w7nvla,"Well, at least he’s pro-choice…",,https://i.redd.it/is6157l7kjd91.jpg,238,FoeHamma,2022-07-25 12:36:53 +TheBluePill,w6d9y8,"A comic made by an incel, deep in his mother's basement.",,https://i.redd.it/hc5rm5eph9d91.jpg,418,FoeHamma,2022-07-23 20:25:24 +TheBluePill,w6dh6o,"It’s gay to be straight, according to Mr. Anime pfp",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/w697rh,34,FoeHamma,2022-07-23 20:34:55 +TheBluePill,w5asdp,Since when does rape cause physical pain?,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/w4qwbc,301,FoeHamma,2022-07-22 13:34:34 +TheBluePill,w4h27l,Tuna wallets,,https://i.redd.it/8bhm7sd0vqc91.jpg,92,FoeHamma,2022-07-21 13:43:34 +TheBluePill,w44tec,"Oh, how the turn tables!",,https://i.redd.it/voizijnq5mc91.png,432,FoeHamma,2022-07-21 02:28:08 +TheBluePill,w1zhgj,"🎶Lower your standards, make it your job, don’t demand perfection from her, if you look like a slob 🎶",,https://i.redd.it/c2alu636b7c91.jpg,197,FoeHamma,2022-07-18 13:33:06 +TheBluePill,vzs6cv,I love it when the trash takes itself out,,https://i.redd.it/mgilnkd21qb91.jpg,34,FoeHamma,2022-07-15 15:59:56 +TheBluePill,vxfg52,No more Mr Nice Guy,,https://i.redd.it/vvde77a5kxa91.jpg,354,FoeHamma,2022-07-12 16:34:36 +TheBluePill,vwilc4,Berries and cream!,,https://i.redd.it/75m52npy2xa91.png,141,FoeHamma,2022-07-11 13:34:52 +TheBluePill,vvuqbc,"Standards for me, but not for thee!",,https://i.redd.it/66vc4xrogoa91.jpg,308,FoeHamma,2022-07-10 16:08:53 +TheBluePill,vsrbp7,*PARTICIPANTS WANTED* I'm looking for members of the manosphere to take part in my survey on experience in the manosphere & perceptions on the incel community as part of my MSc dissertation. Survey should take 10-20 minutes to complete & all responses are anonymous,,https://uclan.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_6h5S17Tx4lMJt0W,33,TrickMedia6392,2022-07-06 14:28:46 +TheBluePill,vryul8,Western woman bad,,https://i.redd.it/zwzvvrhguq991.png,536,FoeHamma,2022-07-05 14:14:12 +TheBluePill,vrzs9g,Gumdrop,,https://i.redd.it/93v4p2dtyk991.jpg,47,FoeHamma,2022-07-05 14:57:25 +TheBluePill,vrzxbh,Too much cream,,https://i.redd.it/mi79dz09vq991.png,22,FoeHamma,2022-07-05 15:03:17 +TheBluePill,vr7rml,Mf needs to get a better hobby,,https://i.redd.it/yi6u7dg3pj991.jpg,387,FoeHamma,2022-07-04 13:44:40 +TheBluePill,vr7u7l,Bitches love radioactive green soda,,https://i.redd.it/6nqcp03ypj991.jpg,74,FoeHamma,2022-07-04 13:48:24 +TheBluePill,vooig7,Münecat debunking the manosphere,,https://youtu.be/BgO25FTwfRI,75,noratat,2022-07-01 01:30:43 +TheBluePill,vnspqj,Mask off,,https://i.redd.it/ya3xwfxm6o891.jpg,174,FoeHamma,2022-06-29 22:52:35 +TheBluePill,vjojfc,The gay agenda strikes again!,,https://i.redd.it/m8ssrfbooj791.jpg,283,FoeHamma,2022-06-24 13:31:10 +TheBluePill,vj234u,Chinese Hitler,,https://v.redd.it/gymh0wsnp7791,147,FoeHamma,2022-06-23 17:20:56 +TheBluePill,vipph8,"In light of the Roe V. Wade ruling most likely being passed down tomorrow morning, I've created a directory of women and LGBT safe healthcare practitioners in the US called The Pink Book. I need the community's help with gathering information so this directory can grow.",,http://pinkbook.us,33,MisogynyisaDisease,2022-06-23 05:50:45 +TheBluePill,vgp7ep,"If you’re a virgin, be a CHAD virgin",,https://i.redd.it/1vbvm2wy8q691.jpg,386,FoeHamma,2022-06-20 16:16:40 +TheBluePill,vgoyp0,What too much porn does to a mf,,https://i.redd.it/qru8le3d7q691.jpg,72,FoeHamma,2022-06-20 16:06:13 +TheBluePill,vgp8ta,“Why don’t girls like me?” 😢,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/vgan1q,20,FoeHamma,2022-06-20 16:18:24 +TheBluePill,vgv2g9,The Neckbeard Messiah,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/vgtdum,7,FoeHamma,2022-06-20 20:33:07 +TheBluePill,veklok,Why don’t the grils like me?,,https://i.redd.it/0zpp15rxd3691.jpg,462,FoeHamma,2022-06-17 16:57:11 +TheBluePill,vap81c,Nice Guy - a love song,,https://v.redd.it/ar9zrliak1591,142,FoeHamma,2022-06-12 16:10:58 +TheBluePill,v9yp2t,A Tale of two Tweets,,https://i.redd.it/968kvbje1w491.jpg,336,FoeHamma,2022-06-11 14:27:45 +TheBluePill,v9b2ek,4channer has an epiphany,,https://i.redd.it/bkvihy6uqk491.jpg,217,FoeHamma,2022-06-10 16:03:47 +TheBluePill,v7s06x,"Ukrainian women don’t twerk, eat hot chip, and lie",,https://i.redd.it/12jn7xfx2b491.jpg,215,FoeHamma,2022-06-08 15:16:39 +TheBluePill,v72uz7,Tell me you’ve never felt a woman’s touch without telling me,,https://i.redd.it/9ud5l45jm8491.jpg,394,Banana1134-,2022-06-07 17:54:29 +TheBluePill,v68a1h,He’s “tried” to be a great person,,https://i.redd.it/q4tkey7gl7az.jpg,160,FoeHamma,2022-06-06 17:04:56 +TheBluePill,v58ctu,Is this person making a case for female disposability? And how the fuck is TRP misandrist?,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/v58ctu,61,[deleted],2022-06-05 07:30:37 +TheBluePill,v4qewx,“Why do girls only like jerks?”- Senator Ted Cruz,,https://i.redd.it/hgf31esqam391.jpg,418,FoeHamma,2022-06-04 14:49:11 +TheBluePill,v1qrfz,Dont waste your fertile years running around,,https://i.redd.it/2mapxnb9ns291.png,297,FoeHamma,2022-05-31 13:51:40 +TheBluePill,v1uwp3,No visible tiddies = “mannish”,,https://i.redd.it/iv79dth5iq291.jpg,15,FoeHamma,2022-05-31 17:01:24 +TheBluePill,v0foxw,"Boobs, what are they good for?",,https://i.redd.it/ma6jnrh2l7291.jpg,293,FoeHamma,2022-05-29 17:11:53 +TheBluePill,v09h4a,"It's exclusively men who do these shootings, but of course it's women's fault! So sick of being blamed for male violence.",,https://nypost.com/2022/05/27/we-overlook-a-significant-factor-in-mass-shootings-fatherlessness/,272,SabineLavine,2022-05-29 11:45:37 +TheBluePill,uz1nf4,Twitter moment,,https://i.redd.it/7ys0miu8nv191.jpg,114,FoeHamma,2022-05-27 16:12:08 +TheBluePill,uxkmra,"He’s willing to do anything to get laid, except be a better person",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/uxirc0,128,FoeHamma,2022-05-25 16:03:58 +TheBluePill,utjg26,Naww man wtf is this,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/utjg26,160,No_Nobody_8948,2022-05-20 02:37:27 +TheBluePill,utd7fy,Saying the quiet part out loud,,https://i.redd.it/z0eanlbntf091.jpg,210,FoeHamma,2022-05-19 21:12:40 +TheBluePill,utdewa,🐎🙋‍♀️🫦😩💦,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/utcat2,73,FoeHamma,2022-05-19 21:22:32 +TheBluePill,urmssc,"""Hmmmm I'd better write 'as a Japanese girl' ten million times so they know for sure that I'm a Japanese girl.""",,https://i.redd.it/2mbmhghesvz81.jpg,253,FoeHamma,2022-05-17 13:44:52 +TheBluePill,urns3c,"Just your average religious neckbeard, Wonder If there's even an chance It's satire.",,https://i.redd.it/cmyq3536usz81.png,89,FoeHamma,2022-05-17 14:32:16 +TheBluePill,urnk2y,What all Japanese girls fantasize about,,https://i.redd.it/90rstanhq0091.png,40,FoeHamma,2022-05-17 14:21:27 TheBluePill,urofyw,The Truth about Red Pill Truths,"I am in the final stages of getting my anti-red pill book ready for publication on June 8th. To appease the analytics Gods, I must have honest reviews ready to go on game day. This is an anti-red pill book, but it is not a ""red pill is evil"" book. It's a scientific and logical analysis of red pill claims. If you are interested, read e-books, and can leave a star review and a single sentence, then I am asking you to be a Advanced Reader for my book. Advanced e-book copies are going out today. Here is the blurb: >From the accomplishments of feminism to the dynamics of the modern dating market, Red Pill and the larger Manosphere claim that everything we have been taught about women, society, and seduction is a lie. Within Red Pill, the concepts of Alpha-Seed, Beta-Need and the Feminine Imperative are accepted as gospel. Red Pill men are shown how masculinity is under attack and are instructed to always maintain their Frame to avoid becoming the dreaded blue-pilled beta cuck. But how many of Red Pill's ""truths"" are based in the actual science and data that Red Pill so staunchly claims it to be? How much of Red Pill is real... and how much is pure fiction, wrapping its followers in even more of the lies it claims to be freeing them of? @@ -45085,25 +45085,25 @@ I have posted an excerpt on my website so you can see if you like my writing sty &#x200B; -https://preview.redd.it/nfuzpb2qw1091.jpg?width=2813&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=301080caf614440ca3138501fd9f8dc1de0a4f3e",,26,Newbie1955,1652799829.0 -TheBluePill,uqdxju,Incel harasses people at the gym and then gets kicked out,,https://v.redd.it/v18qca1fsfz81,183,FoeHamma,1652644150.0 -TheBluePill,uo3uoz,Kevin samuels once said that 90% of people in mid-level positions and higher in corporations are married.,Is there an actual statistic out there or is all this just horse shit?,,51,alexanderwanxiety,1652369746.0 -TheBluePill,ung3uh,How to destroy a sexually frustrated misogynist in 1 simple step,,https://i.redd.it/2942zhziovy81.jpg,329,FoeHamma,1652292629.0 -TheBluePill,unhoqb,He wish he redpilled himself sooner to take massive sexual advantage,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/unhoqb,9,One_Prudent_Student,1652296960.0 -TheBluePill,umpgcv,Waman are so hipocritical!!,,https://i.redd.it/0r9m52tstiy81.jpg,382,FoeHamma,1652207708.0 -TheBluePill,ujttow,"If they hate modernism so much, why are they posting on twitter?",,https://i.redd.it/zs4iksgv3ox81.jpg,322,FoeHamma,1651861408.0 -TheBluePill,ujtq8z,I don’t think Jesus would approve of this…,,https://i.redd.it/pphp5urokqx81.jpg,86,FoeHamma,1651861143.0 -TheBluePill,uj8k4f,"Ladies, pm me if you’ve haven’t met your 10 dick minimum yet",,https://i.redd.it/x9yfuoi0mmx81.jpg,140,FoeHamma,1651788297.0 -TheBluePill,ujijzn,Controversial YouTuber Kevin Samuels passes away,,https://www.revolt.tv/article/2022-05-05/167282/controversial-youtuber-kevin-samuels-passes-away/?amp,3,alexanderwanxiety,1651824590.0 -TheBluePill,uduy4n,"Meet Lesco, 31",,https://i.redd.it/1nmlwgiuy5w81.jpg,257,FoeHamma,1651152325.0 -TheBluePill,udv6ds,"Careful, we got a “real” gamer here.",,https://i.redd.it/5qqukp4jx3w81.jpg,94,FoeHamma,1651153007.0 -TheBluePill,ubqyal,Incel Prime,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/ubhagf,132,FoeHamma,1650908862.0 -TheBluePill,ubsctj,whats a good way to handle your date ordering something expensive,"this may be the wrong sub but im curious how to handle your date racking up a bill, whether ordering something expensive from the menu or getting lots of drinks at the bar etc. whats a good defense without appearing cheap",,13,somethinlikeshieva,1650912634.0 -TheBluePill,u3lu40,"Fellas, is it gay to have sex with a girl?",,https://i.redd.it/7siall6urit81.jpg,259,FoeHamma,1649954883.0 -TheBluePill,u3woi5,Women gain sexual pleasure from the pain that is inflicted upon them.,[https://incels.is/threads/women-gain-sexual-pleasure-from-the-pain-that-is-inflicted-upon-them.254271/?fbclid=IwAR3SyrOFpSmtllbJKpMxb4zA1U6f-pa0uG4tjvqaAulRn2JMwRKg3tMU7BY](https://incels.is/threads/women-gain-sexual-pleasure-from-the-pain-that-is-inflicted-upon-them.254271/?fbclid=IwAR3SyrOFpSmtllbJKpMxb4zA1U6f-pa0uG4tjvqaAulRn2JMwRKg3tMU7BY),,11,Vast_Honey6450,1649986117.0 -TheBluePill,u1aspm,A wild communist incel appears!,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/u0psto,59,FoeHamma,1649692243.0 -TheBluePill,tz7elt,“This would solve the incel problem”,,https://i.redd.it/mkssxi6fe7s81.jpg,423,FoeHamma,1649435284.0 -TheBluePill,twwahg,The three act plot structure,,https://i.redd.it/57ji3vduiir81.jpg,354,FoeHamma,1649169073.0 +https://preview.redd.it/nfuzpb2qw1091.jpg?width=2813&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=301080caf614440ca3138501fd9f8dc1de0a4f3e",,26,Newbie1955,2022-05-17 15:03:49 +TheBluePill,uqdxju,Incel harasses people at the gym and then gets kicked out,,https://v.redd.it/v18qca1fsfz81,183,FoeHamma,2022-05-15 19:49:10 +TheBluePill,uo3uoz,Kevin samuels once said that 90% of people in mid-level positions and higher in corporations are married.,Is there an actual statistic out there or is all this just horse shit?,,51,alexanderwanxiety,2022-05-12 15:35:46 +TheBluePill,ung3uh,How to destroy a sexually frustrated misogynist in 1 simple step,,https://i.redd.it/2942zhziovy81.jpg,329,FoeHamma,2022-05-11 18:10:29 +TheBluePill,unhoqb,He wish he redpilled himself sooner to take massive sexual advantage,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/unhoqb,9,One_Prudent_Student,2022-05-11 19:22:40 +TheBluePill,umpgcv,Waman are so hipocritical!!,,https://i.redd.it/0r9m52tstiy81.jpg,382,FoeHamma,2022-05-10 18:35:08 +TheBluePill,ujttow,"If they hate modernism so much, why are they posting on twitter?",,https://i.redd.it/zs4iksgv3ox81.jpg,322,FoeHamma,2022-05-06 18:23:28 +TheBluePill,ujtq8z,I don’t think Jesus would approve of this…,,https://i.redd.it/pphp5urokqx81.jpg,86,FoeHamma,2022-05-06 18:19:03 +TheBluePill,uj8k4f,"Ladies, pm me if you’ve haven’t met your 10 dick minimum yet",,https://i.redd.it/x9yfuoi0mmx81.jpg,140,FoeHamma,2022-05-05 22:04:57 +TheBluePill,ujijzn,Controversial YouTuber Kevin Samuels passes away,,https://www.revolt.tv/article/2022-05-05/167282/controversial-youtuber-kevin-samuels-passes-away/?amp,3,alexanderwanxiety,2022-05-06 08:09:50 +TheBluePill,uduy4n,"Meet Lesco, 31",,https://i.redd.it/1nmlwgiuy5w81.jpg,257,FoeHamma,2022-04-28 13:25:25 +TheBluePill,udv6ds,"Careful, we got a “real” gamer here.",,https://i.redd.it/5qqukp4jx3w81.jpg,94,FoeHamma,2022-04-28 13:36:47 +TheBluePill,ubqyal,Incel Prime,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/ubhagf,132,FoeHamma,2022-04-25 17:47:42 +TheBluePill,ubsctj,whats a good way to handle your date ordering something expensive,"this may be the wrong sub but im curious how to handle your date racking up a bill, whether ordering something expensive from the menu or getting lots of drinks at the bar etc. whats a good defense without appearing cheap",,13,somethinlikeshieva,2022-04-25 18:50:34 +TheBluePill,u3lu40,"Fellas, is it gay to have sex with a girl?",,https://i.redd.it/7siall6urit81.jpg,259,FoeHamma,2022-04-14 16:48:03 +TheBluePill,u3woi5,Women gain sexual pleasure from the pain that is inflicted upon them.,[https://incels.is/threads/women-gain-sexual-pleasure-from-the-pain-that-is-inflicted-upon-them.254271/?fbclid=IwAR3SyrOFpSmtllbJKpMxb4zA1U6f-pa0uG4tjvqaAulRn2JMwRKg3tMU7BY](https://incels.is/threads/women-gain-sexual-pleasure-from-the-pain-that-is-inflicted-upon-them.254271/?fbclid=IwAR3SyrOFpSmtllbJKpMxb4zA1U6f-pa0uG4tjvqaAulRn2JMwRKg3tMU7BY),,11,Vast_Honey6450,2022-04-15 01:28:37 +TheBluePill,u1aspm,A wild communist incel appears!,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/u0psto,59,FoeHamma,2022-04-11 15:50:43 +TheBluePill,tz7elt,“This would solve the incel problem”,,https://i.redd.it/mkssxi6fe7s81.jpg,423,FoeHamma,2022-04-08 16:28:04 +TheBluePill,twwahg,The three act plot structure,,https://i.redd.it/57ji3vduiir81.jpg,354,FoeHamma,2022-04-05 14:31:13 TheBluePill,tonimx,"Women, aren't hypergamous they have more options while having o lower libido.","I think most redpillers don't realise how female sexuality works. Women are flooded with *""a firing squad of dicks""* . This, ofcourse happens to be because of 1) men being hornier, i.e more hunger for sex, hence more guys using dating apps. And 2) the prevalence of online date rape. @@ -45146,48 +45146,48 @@ This might help you understand it. https://www.reddit.com/r/changemyview/comments/ilex24/comment/g3tgxz8/ -Read the comment by [u/puffalupagus]",,96,[deleted],1648297861.0 -TheBluePill,tngskc,The first link disproves them. They interpreted 40% rise (= 12 % overall) as 40 % of women cheating.,,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/tjcmyo/excerpts_relating_body_count_to_infidelity_why/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,24,[deleted],1648194214.0 -TheBluePill,tggosa,"If I ever start a class teaching teenage boys about how to approach women, I’m using this as exhibit A on what NOT to do",,https://i.redd.it/9d7u67rn3zn81.jpg,244,FoeHamma,1647541449.0 -TheBluePill,tc174e,Nice guy has it worse than holocaust victims and slaves,,https://i.imgur.com/BqmIsuv.jpg,222,FoeHamma,1647035809.0 -TheBluePill,tb1wcs,“Why don’t girls like me?”,,https://i.redd.it/2aa1nc4twfm81.jpg,394,FoeHamma,1646928090.0 -TheBluePill,takqni,Only women are loved,,https://archive.ph/e9ube,29,[deleted],1646868690.0 +Read the comment by [u/puffalupagus]",,96,[deleted],2022-03-26 12:31:01 +TheBluePill,tngskc,The first link disproves them. They interpreted 40% rise (= 12 % overall) as 40 % of women cheating.,,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/tjcmyo/excerpts_relating_body_count_to_infidelity_why/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,24,[deleted],2022-03-25 07:43:34 +TheBluePill,tggosa,"If I ever start a class teaching teenage boys about how to approach women, I’m using this as exhibit A on what NOT to do",,https://i.redd.it/9d7u67rn3zn81.jpg,244,FoeHamma,2022-03-17 18:24:09 +TheBluePill,tc174e,Nice guy has it worse than holocaust victims and slaves,,https://i.imgur.com/BqmIsuv.jpg,222,FoeHamma,2022-03-11 21:56:49 +TheBluePill,tb1wcs,“Why don’t girls like me?”,,https://i.redd.it/2aa1nc4twfm81.jpg,394,FoeHamma,2022-03-10 16:01:30 +TheBluePill,takqni,Only women are loved,,https://archive.ph/e9ube,29,[deleted],2022-03-09 23:31:30 TheBluePill,t7chvt,"I copied a post from female dating strategy, switched out a few words, and now it's the top post on TRP.","Original: [https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/t77kfl/why\_we\_need\_to\_decenter\_men\_from\_our\_life\_yes/](https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/t77kfl/why_we_need_to_decenter_men_from_our_life_yes/) Copy (+27 upvotes): [https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/t7aueh/why\_we\_need\_to\_decenter\_women\_from\_our\_life\_yes/](https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/t7aueh/why_we_need_to_decenter_women_from_our_life_yes/) -Edit: I put a note on the post pointing this out and it got removed at (+95) upvotes.",,180,Then_Treacle_7952,1646496114.0 -TheBluePill,t3kqp5,Chinese incels fetishize European women in the same way white incels fetishize Asian women,,https://i.redd.it/o9j2nwug7fk81.jpg,433,FoeHamma,1646069022.0 -TheBluePill,t3lixb,Making fun of refugees and showing you’re an incel at the same time.,,https://v.redd.it/9v2v658lkhk81,62,FoeHamma,1646071066.0 +Edit: I put a note on the post pointing this out and it got removed at (+95) upvotes.",,180,Then_Treacle_7952,2022-03-05 16:01:54 +TheBluePill,t3kqp5,Chinese incels fetishize European women in the same way white incels fetishize Asian women,,https://i.redd.it/o9j2nwug7fk81.jpg,433,FoeHamma,2022-02-28 17:23:42 +TheBluePill,t3lixb,Making fun of refugees and showing you’re an incel at the same time.,,https://v.redd.it/9v2v658lkhk81,62,FoeHamma,2022-02-28 17:57:46 TheBluePill,szirs9,"So, uh, how was ALPHA Con?","I'm assuming that all of you ALPHAS paid out the $2997 to get the VIP ticket and are now ""EXPLODING your business in 2022"". Would you care to share your ALPHA insights with lowly lambdas like me? -On a serious note, yes the event did take place, but I can find next to nothing to what actually happened there. The only article I found is from a woman who got kicked out the beginning of the second day (her name is Meg Walter, I will gladly link the article if that is permitted). That just got me more curious, because her getting kicked out for no stated reason is not suspicious at all. Since that event has popped up in this sub on a few occasions, I was hoping some other bloopers might know more about what went down.",,92,trajantitusmanul,1645626494.0 +On a serious note, yes the event did take place, but I can find next to nothing to what actually happened there. The only article I found is from a woman who got kicked out the beginning of the second day (her name is Meg Walter, I will gladly link the article if that is permitted). That just got me more curious, because her getting kicked out for no stated reason is not suspicious at all. Since that event has popped up in this sub on a few occasions, I was hoping some other bloopers might know more about what went down.",,92,trajantitusmanul,2022-02-23 14:28:14 TheBluePill,sxja1x,"How much of a dysfunctional, creepy individual do you have to be to masquerade as a woman to ""prove"" red pill troofs? And why are they so obsessed with women having pets?","They're not that bright, they eventually give themselves away that they're posing as women on YouTube, in dating subs, and in those really weird red pill subs for ""women"" that's just a bunch of guys pretending to be women. That's some high level, concerning dedication to their delusions. And the red pill douches tend to be really preoccupied with women having pets instead of babies for some reason, there's a of rants where they whine about it. But a lot of them maintain that alfalfas weren't meant to settle down to raise children, so why are they so obsessed with something that's none of their business? -They're just all over the place. Not a lot about it really leads me to think they're anything but insane, mentally abberant, social outcasts.",,87,MwahMwahKitteh,1645413652.0 -TheBluePill,sx5l3m,Word vomit backed up by pseudoscience,,https://archive.ph/2022.02.20-165101/https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/swudyy/pretentious_pillars_of_modern_feminism/,36,[deleted],1645376042.0 -TheBluePill,sweq2j,Damn those Vikings and their *checks notes* clean & handsome ways....,,https://i.redd.it/mto4ghgswqi81.png,328,FoeHamma,1645290494.0 -TheBluePill,swmu6c,Found both of these in the span of like 5 mins lol,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/swmu6c,62,antifashkenazi,1645312999.0 -TheBluePill,svp45l,Does The Taliban Count?,,https://i.redd.it/knby0ew9rmi81.png,117,FoeHamma,1645209579.0 -TheBluePill,svnsok,“Why can’t these stupid bitches see what a nice guy I am?”,,https://i.redd.it/8e1hmbzpoji81.jpg,137,FoeHamma,1645206164.0 -TheBluePill,svh4kk,THE PEAK OF ABSOLUTE INCELDOM,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/sv0iej,71,[deleted],1645188386.0 -TheBluePill,st8lwi,"He fucked around, and he found out",,https://v.redd.it/650vmgdx7vh81,534,FoeHamma,1644947010.0 -TheBluePill,stfzkv,CW: abuse. Any of the tweets in this comment section. Take your pick,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/stfzkv,18,antifashkenazi,1644965984.0 -TheBluePill,spaylm,Got this essay from a match,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/spaylm,201,sensitive-reputation,1644511625.0 -TheBluePill,sojfko,"This was a reply to a petfinder names tweet about a cat named ""Ratio"" for some reason",,https://i.redd.it/mvfhjc4xhug81.jpg,171,[deleted],1644428915.0 -TheBluePill,sn35ym,These ALPHAS are coming for your girl... (Alpha Con 2022),,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HaQ6Oxgn4BE&,77,HoodedAltair,1644273305.0 -TheBluePill,slxdov,Incel goes full mask off,,https://i.redd.it/09t8018yl4g81.jpg,328,FoeHamma,1644156215.0 -TheBluePill,sl5uql,Wanna bet those women have a different take on this?,,/r/MensRights/comments/sky7m8/amazing_how_much_women_have_changed_since_i_was_a/,153,SabineLavine,1644064124.0 -TheBluePill,skouu8,"Guys, guys, I finally cracked the formula for w*men: 225 lbs bench press + 365 lbs deadlift + 315 lbs squat (>6 reps) + being multimillionaire = you're non desperate = ENDLESS PUSSY 🤩🤩🤩",,https://i.redd.it/20jc7onovvf81.jpg,68,[deleted],1644010075.0 -TheBluePill,skdpv1,You can't reform this. ACAB.,,https://i.imgur.com/UqMNK4K.png,219,ThatcherIsDeed,1643982539.0 -TheBluePill,sj5by0,"“Men age like wine, women age like milk”",,https://archive.ph/2022.02.03-003911/https://www.reddit.com/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen/comments/siy6kb/men_age_like_wine_women_age_like_milk_analysis_of/,91,[deleted],1643849610.0 -TheBluePill,sfpwqm,"On a post about an attempted murder, this guy thinks the murderer won't get any jail time by simply being a woman",,https://i.redd.it/hbbqa053koe81.png,190,One_Prudent_Student,1643485338.0 -TheBluePill,se3bl1,👴,,https://i.redd.it/vknyyfr998e81.jpg,253,ThatcherIsDeed,1643303607.0 -TheBluePill,sbr64d,yOu’Re LuCkY yOu’Re GeTtInG lAiD,,https://i.redd.it/2rpnjjcgyjd81.jpg,362,FoeHamma,1643044623.0 -TheBluePill,sbf2nb,Tell me you don't understand consent in one picture,,https://i.redd.it/vnah5zfnxgd81.jpg,73,[deleted],1643004434.0 +They're just all over the place. Not a lot about it really leads me to think they're anything but insane, mentally abberant, social outcasts.",,87,MwahMwahKitteh,2022-02-21 03:20:52 +TheBluePill,sx5l3m,Word vomit backed up by pseudoscience,,https://archive.ph/2022.02.20-165101/https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/swudyy/pretentious_pillars_of_modern_feminism/,36,[deleted],2022-02-20 16:54:02 +TheBluePill,sweq2j,Damn those Vikings and their *checks notes* clean & handsome ways....,,https://i.redd.it/mto4ghgswqi81.png,328,FoeHamma,2022-02-19 17:08:14 +TheBluePill,swmu6c,Found both of these in the span of like 5 mins lol,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/swmu6c,62,antifashkenazi,2022-02-19 23:23:19 +TheBluePill,svp45l,Does The Taliban Count?,,https://i.redd.it/knby0ew9rmi81.png,117,FoeHamma,2022-02-18 18:39:39 +TheBluePill,svnsok,“Why can’t these stupid bitches see what a nice guy I am?”,,https://i.redd.it/8e1hmbzpoji81.jpg,137,FoeHamma,2022-02-18 17:42:44 +TheBluePill,svh4kk,THE PEAK OF ABSOLUTE INCELDOM,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/sv0iej,71,[deleted],2022-02-18 12:46:26 +TheBluePill,st8lwi,"He fucked around, and he found out",,https://v.redd.it/650vmgdx7vh81,534,FoeHamma,2022-02-15 17:43:30 +TheBluePill,stfzkv,CW: abuse. Any of the tweets in this comment section. Take your pick,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/stfzkv,18,antifashkenazi,2022-02-15 22:59:44 +TheBluePill,spaylm,Got this essay from a match,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/spaylm,201,sensitive-reputation,2022-02-10 16:47:05 +TheBluePill,sojfko,"This was a reply to a petfinder names tweet about a cat named ""Ratio"" for some reason",,https://i.redd.it/mvfhjc4xhug81.jpg,171,[deleted],2022-02-09 17:48:35 +TheBluePill,sn35ym,These ALPHAS are coming for your girl... (Alpha Con 2022),,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HaQ6Oxgn4BE&,77,HoodedAltair,2022-02-07 22:35:05 +TheBluePill,slxdov,Incel goes full mask off,,https://i.redd.it/09t8018yl4g81.jpg,328,FoeHamma,2022-02-06 14:03:35 +TheBluePill,sl5uql,Wanna bet those women have a different take on this?,,/r/MensRights/comments/sky7m8/amazing_how_much_women_have_changed_since_i_was_a/,153,SabineLavine,2022-02-05 12:28:44 +TheBluePill,skouu8,"Guys, guys, I finally cracked the formula for w*men: 225 lbs bench press + 365 lbs deadlift + 315 lbs squat (>6 reps) + being multimillionaire = you're non desperate = ENDLESS PUSSY 🤩🤩🤩",,https://i.redd.it/20jc7onovvf81.jpg,68,[deleted],2022-02-04 21:27:55 +TheBluePill,skdpv1,You can't reform this. ACAB.,,https://i.imgur.com/UqMNK4K.png,219,ThatcherIsDeed,2022-02-04 13:48:59 +TheBluePill,sj5by0,"“Men age like wine, women age like milk”",,https://archive.ph/2022.02.03-003911/https://www.reddit.com/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen/comments/siy6kb/men_age_like_wine_women_age_like_milk_analysis_of/,91,[deleted],2022-02-03 00:53:30 +TheBluePill,sfpwqm,"On a post about an attempted murder, this guy thinks the murderer won't get any jail time by simply being a woman",,https://i.redd.it/hbbqa053koe81.png,190,One_Prudent_Student,2022-01-29 19:42:18 +TheBluePill,se3bl1,👴,,https://i.redd.it/vknyyfr998e81.jpg,253,ThatcherIsDeed,2022-01-27 17:13:27 +TheBluePill,sbr64d,yOu’Re LuCkY yOu’Re GeTtInG lAiD,,https://i.redd.it/2rpnjjcgyjd81.jpg,362,FoeHamma,2022-01-24 17:17:03 +TheBluePill,sbf2nb,Tell me you don't understand consent in one picture,,https://i.redd.it/vnah5zfnxgd81.jpg,73,[deleted],2022-01-24 06:07:14 TheBluePill,saw9ow,"I finally decided to cut my redpill friend off after months of self doubt, anger and tears.","I(23f) met my friend(21m) almost 3 years ago.We took 2 classes together in college, and he asked me to hang out after second weeks’ class. He was a sweet person back then, I mean he was showing signs like “Nobody would date me because I’m Asian” or that “People like polarized people and I’m just normal so nobody likes me.”But generally he’s kind, helpful, when another friend of mine was physically abused by her bf he went to the police station with me as well as when I reported it to the school. We barely had any fights. However things got weird at the beginning of the pandemic, I was having a rough time and he was too, after a big fight between us I blocked him completely and although I unblocked him later we still stopped talking until last year, and he was a completely different person by then. He talks about how “99% of women procreate while 40% of the man does” or that “guys’ job is to ask for sex and women’s is to ask for commitment”. He also became very right-wing focused(I’m not from the US so I might be wrong with my wording here), he is pro-life, thinks that the election was stolen from trump, that homosexuality is just hormones imbalance and that trans people don’t exist (as they can never become “real” man/woman”), also the classic “women belong in the kitchen” speech. For context, we are living in California and he was slightly leftist, not so progressive but just like most other friends I had. He’s also a virgin(by choice he said) with 2 (he doesn’t think it’s real) relationships he had in high school. @@ -45208,44 +45208,44 @@ I guess I just never gave him up because we were both victims of school bullying A month ago my friend went back from traveling and asked me to hang out again and the old things are just… being repeated. He made fun of that “5 hours in club” again and told me that I should make better choices because “5 hours in a club was no fun” and “nobody deserves that”. I told him that’s just how I do things, I’d rather be passionate and catch my chances, feel the rush of dopamine than never get into something just bc I’m not sure if it’s gonna go perfect. He then told me again and again how it’s better to suppress it and how that’s how people becomes successful. I tried to explain it to him through different angles like connections doesn’t work that way and that it’s ok if he doesn’t want to go to the club, I can always just cry it out and then move on to the next person (even though I haven’t been dating in over a year before my crush and haven’t dated anyone after him). However all he did was repeating that “it’s better to suppress dopamine” and I finally got mad and told him that I don’t need him to tell me how to do things. And then all he repeated was like “I was not trying to tell you how to do things, you are just hearing what you want to hear.” Ummm… im pretty sure “it’s better to do sth” was listed as “a way to give advices” on my elementary school English textbook, but im not a native speaker so I don’t know. -But I guess that finally did it. I don’t need a fucking repeater telling me negative things and trying so hard to convince me about them anymore. It makes me feel sad. It makes me feel worthless and angry. It makes me question myself and make me doubt myself in the least aspect I would ever care about. To this day im still not sure if he’s just a person like that or everything he did was to deliberately drive me crazy or break down my confidence. But I’m done with it.",,154,Caliluxun,1642952311.0 -TheBluePill,s697yd,The Incel Anthem,,https://v.redd.it/hpbl7r3w44c81,282,FoeHamma,1642439938.0 -TheBluePill,s6bdnu,Saw this video making fun of AlphaCon,,https://youtu.be/6m9HoBFq3m8,20,TXFirebrah,1642445057.0 -TheBluePill,s3ybhi,Pastor: “spotty periods happen because you’re not going to church enough”,,https://v.redd.it/1noslbw03mb81,141,FoeHamma,1642182746.0 -TheBluePill,s34t8j,Incels be all like,,https://i.redd.it/1z9t6yitlfb81.gif,257,FoeHamma,1642095236.0 -TheBluePill,s357h0,Having less-than-perfect jawline is DEFINITELY why below-average women aren't dating you.,,https://i.redd.it/jw40xuohwfb81.jpg,30,FoeHamma,1642096285.0 -TheBluePill,s37fwi,"Researchers studying incel activity on social media found that such tweets arise disproportionately within places where mating competition among men is likely to be high because of male-biased sex ratios, few single women, high income inequality, and small gender gaps in income.",,https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/09567976211036065,17,FoeHamma,1642102053.0 -TheBluePill,s2b7wh,“Stop doing the things I specifically don’t like”,,https://i.redd.it/4eyvdnb2o9b81.jpg,218,FoeHamma,1642007160.0 -TheBluePill,s2ergl,He ain’t recovering from that burn 💀,,https://i.redd.it/nh5xr554j9b81.jpg,109,FoeHamma,1642016022.0 -TheBluePill,s2anpz,"Ok bud, time to take your own advice ;)",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/s1sg6q,31,FoeHamma,1642005757.0 +But I guess that finally did it. I don’t need a fucking repeater telling me negative things and trying so hard to convince me about them anymore. It makes me feel sad. It makes me feel worthless and angry. It makes me question myself and make me doubt myself in the least aspect I would ever care about. To this day im still not sure if he’s just a person like that or everything he did was to deliberately drive me crazy or break down my confidence. But I’m done with it.",,154,Caliluxun,2022-01-23 15:38:31 +TheBluePill,s697yd,The Incel Anthem,,https://v.redd.it/hpbl7r3w44c81,282,FoeHamma,2022-01-17 17:18:58 +TheBluePill,s6bdnu,Saw this video making fun of AlphaCon,,https://youtu.be/6m9HoBFq3m8,20,TXFirebrah,2022-01-17 18:44:17 +TheBluePill,s3ybhi,Pastor: “spotty periods happen because you’re not going to church enough”,,https://v.redd.it/1noslbw03mb81,141,FoeHamma,2022-01-14 17:52:26 +TheBluePill,s34t8j,Incels be all like,,https://i.redd.it/1z9t6yitlfb81.gif,257,FoeHamma,2022-01-13 17:33:56 +TheBluePill,s357h0,Having less-than-perfect jawline is DEFINITELY why below-average women aren't dating you.,,https://i.redd.it/jw40xuohwfb81.jpg,30,FoeHamma,2022-01-13 17:51:25 +TheBluePill,s37fwi,"Researchers studying incel activity on social media found that such tweets arise disproportionately within places where mating competition among men is likely to be high because of male-biased sex ratios, few single women, high income inequality, and small gender gaps in income.",,https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/09567976211036065,17,FoeHamma,2022-01-13 19:27:33 +TheBluePill,s2b7wh,“Stop doing the things I specifically don’t like”,,https://i.redd.it/4eyvdnb2o9b81.jpg,218,FoeHamma,2022-01-12 17:06:00 +TheBluePill,s2ergl,He ain’t recovering from that burn 💀,,https://i.redd.it/nh5xr554j9b81.jpg,109,FoeHamma,2022-01-12 19:33:42 +TheBluePill,s2anpz,"Ok bud, time to take your own advice ;)",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/s1sg6q,31,FoeHamma,2022-01-12 16:42:37 TheBluePill,s1xv61,Most Red Pillers and really Brown Pillers.,"People calling themselves Red pill are either manosphere people or conspiracy theorists. The original Matrix makers are transgenders so I don't think they'd agree with either one of them and the Matrix movies were a Gnostic metaphor with Kung Fu and VR added into it. It had nothing to do with any Right Wing stuff. The Brown pill means the BS pill and there's no shortage of it in the manosphere or with the conspiracy theorists. The manosphere delude themselves into thinking they aren't obsessed with women even though they talk about them every single day of the year for 8 years straight like Sandman does. The conspiracy theorists promote anything that is dumb like Flat Earth, Rome never existed and anything else that is really stupid just to be different to everyone else. -But yeah, if you want to irritate these people call them Brown Pillers.",,60,Firm_Abrocoma_4788,1641963633.0 -TheBluePill,s12lci,r/TheRedPill: Women can’t differentiate between anxiety and attraction,,https://archive.fo/2022.01.11-030258/https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/s0t2n9/goal_go_out_and_learn_the_psychology_and/,87,[deleted],1641870524.0 -TheBluePill,ryz76u,The post that this was replying to wasn’t even remotely about dating.,,https://i.redd.it/83e5b18cnga81.jpg,74,MY_BIG_FAT_CAT,1641646364.0 -TheBluePill,rwu2ly,"The ideal woman: a total slut, but also modest and maternal",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/rwm7l5,167,FoeHamma,1641408747.0 -TheBluePill,rwkqz9,Pickup artists blame Newsweek for the death of one of their own,,https://wehuntedthemammoth.com/2022/01/04/pickup-artists-blame-newsweek-for-the-death-of-one-of-their-own/,61,[deleted],1641381953.0 -TheBluePill,rvvc6k,Alpha male discovers consequences,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/rv5ctw,218,ThatcherIsDeed,1641305684.0 -TheBluePill,rvdm0l,Here we see the Asian incel in his natural habitat,,https://i.redd.it/kix6yhfjgj981.png,101,FoeHamma,1641248100.0 -TheBluePill,rv7rro,Bible thumpers be all like,,https://i.redd.it/d1o2frwphh981.jpg,99,FoeHamma,1641232938.0 -TheBluePill,rvd5nr,Looks like PUA might be starting a harassment campaign against a woman journalist,,/r/againstmensrights/comments/ruh276/looks_like_pua_might_be_starting_a_harassment/,17,[deleted],1641246938.0 -TheBluePill,rus5cj,"""I wont deny my human instincts and desires for meaningless morality""",,https://i.redd.it/k6asbaku6a981.jpg,37,FoeHamma,1641181737.0 -TheBluePill,rudmxp,how're you going to use the exact same face for different Asian women?,,https://i.redd.it/zzk7tphi25981.png,251,FoeHamma,1641142206.0 -TheBluePill,rue2wo,It's my looks guys I swear!,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/rtu4c5,30,FoeHamma,1641143409.0 +But yeah, if you want to irritate these people call them Brown Pillers.",,60,Firm_Abrocoma_4788,2022-01-12 05:00:33 +TheBluePill,s12lci,r/TheRedPill: Women can’t differentiate between anxiety and attraction,,https://archive.fo/2022.01.11-030258/https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/s0t2n9/goal_go_out_and_learn_the_psychology_and/,87,[deleted],2022-01-11 03:08:44 +TheBluePill,ryz76u,The post that this was replying to wasn’t even remotely about dating.,,https://i.redd.it/83e5b18cnga81.jpg,74,MY_BIG_FAT_CAT,2022-01-08 12:52:44 +TheBluePill,rwu2ly,"The ideal woman: a total slut, but also modest and maternal",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/rwm7l5,167,FoeHamma,2022-01-05 18:52:27 +TheBluePill,rwkqz9,Pickup artists blame Newsweek for the death of one of their own,,https://wehuntedthemammoth.com/2022/01/04/pickup-artists-blame-newsweek-for-the-death-of-one-of-their-own/,61,[deleted],2022-01-05 11:25:53 +TheBluePill,rvvc6k,Alpha male discovers consequences,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/rv5ctw,218,ThatcherIsDeed,2022-01-04 14:14:44 +TheBluePill,rvdm0l,Here we see the Asian incel in his natural habitat,,https://i.redd.it/kix6yhfjgj981.png,101,FoeHamma,2022-01-03 22:15:00 +TheBluePill,rv7rro,Bible thumpers be all like,,https://i.redd.it/d1o2frwphh981.jpg,99,FoeHamma,2022-01-03 18:02:18 +TheBluePill,rvd5nr,Looks like PUA might be starting a harassment campaign against a woman journalist,,/r/againstmensrights/comments/ruh276/looks_like_pua_might_be_starting_a_harassment/,17,[deleted],2022-01-03 21:55:38 +TheBluePill,rus5cj,"""I wont deny my human instincts and desires for meaningless morality""",,https://i.redd.it/k6asbaku6a981.jpg,37,FoeHamma,2022-01-03 03:48:57 +TheBluePill,rudmxp,how're you going to use the exact same face for different Asian women?,,https://i.redd.it/zzk7tphi25981.png,251,FoeHamma,2022-01-02 16:50:06 +TheBluePill,rue2wo,It's my looks guys I swear!,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/rtu4c5,30,FoeHamma,2022-01-02 17:10:09 TheBluePill,rr6etq,TRP & Inceldom Feels like a Psy-Op,"How else could so many men get taken out of the dating market by having their minds ruined beyond all comprehension by completely demented theories. I'm old so I started dating pre internet and way before dating apps, but I did meet my husband online more recently. It feels like it is only in the last few years men have gone completely insane like this. I remember men used to be normal in the before-times. Now there are all these weird men all over the place repeating the same weird and sometimes rhyming catchphrases at each other and talking about women as if they were a strange exotic (but definitely non-human) lifeform whose speech is not understandable. Look, in high school boys said stupid stuff but it was just rude and immature like ""any hole's a goal"" or ""smells like fish tastes like chicken"". That's lame but at least they weren't saying something like ""if I can't have you in your prime I don't want you in your decline"" or acting like women go magically rotten at 25 (not understandable to me, I only like women old enough to be someone's mum). Seriously if I was Russia (or whatever) and I wanted to make Western young people stop breeding I would infect the population with this crap, make the men insane and the women terrified and repulsed by men. And you know, there were all those fake accounts promoting Trump in the past... - There are boys who repeat this shit and call themselves redpilled or incels who barely have public hair, giving up on themselves before they even were old enough to try. WTF bros? Have this many men sucked the whole time and they have just achieved hive mind and the ability to transmit their thoughts in chorus, or is it something else?",,98,mammajess,1640778480.0 -TheBluePill,rqtm0e,Incels are idiots…,,,29,Double-Group-9551,1640736067.0 -TheBluePill,romzxz,"Guy justifies manipulating women for money because ""women have financially abused men for centuries""",,https://i.redd.it/b8nbgzhsqs781.jpg,202,One_Prudent_Student,1640485066.0 -TheBluePill,rob0qw,Have a lovely day folks.,,https://i.redd.it/y7mw3638on781.png,488,ThatcherIsDeed,1640443585.0 -TheBluePill,rodgoh,Women are the emotional ones,,https://imgur.com/5MdpDis,18,Photon_butterfly,1640452422.0 -TheBluePill,rkxmnd,"Having a popular belief system must mean you lack original, critical and autonomous thinking",,https://i.redd.it/837aoga8mr681.png,164,One_Prudent_Student,1640035636.0 -TheBluePill,rj0yov,Gross,,https://archive.ph/2021.12.18-060233/https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/rimapr/women_are_biologically_programed_to_orbit_an/,17,[deleted],1639807487.0 -TheBluePill,ri8l6i,Guy talks about how someone can't go back after learning about the red pill,,https://i.redd.it/h7cu1knw11681.png,164,One_Prudent_Student,1639713975.0 -TheBluePill,riaekt,"The ""pioneers"" if you will say, of the ""trophy wife"" culture (where old but characterless men with a ridiculous sum of money marry young and pretty girls with just age 21 to 27 only to treat them as sex objects instead of women) are those who lust for teenage or even more underaged girls.",,https://i.redd.it/ygoxhfj9k1681.jpg,34,[deleted],1639720125.0 -TheBluePill,rfr2d0,"Quora guy talks about Tinder while discussing ""Beta Billys"" and ""Alpha men""",,https://i.redd.it/1hgc0nulnd581.png,120,One_Prudent_Student,1639431986.0 + There are boys who repeat this shit and call themselves redpilled or incels who barely have public hair, giving up on themselves before they even were old enough to try. WTF bros? Have this many men sucked the whole time and they have just achieved hive mind and the ability to transmit their thoughts in chorus, or is it something else?",,98,mammajess,2021-12-29 11:48:00 +TheBluePill,rqtm0e,Incels are idiots…,,,29,Double-Group-9551,2021-12-29 00:01:07 +TheBluePill,romzxz,"Guy justifies manipulating women for money because ""women have financially abused men for centuries""",,https://i.redd.it/b8nbgzhsqs781.jpg,202,One_Prudent_Student,2021-12-26 02:17:46 +TheBluePill,rob0qw,Have a lovely day folks.,,https://i.redd.it/y7mw3638on781.png,488,ThatcherIsDeed,2021-12-25 14:46:25 +TheBluePill,rodgoh,Women are the emotional ones,,https://imgur.com/5MdpDis,18,Photon_butterfly,2021-12-25 17:13:42 +TheBluePill,rkxmnd,"Having a popular belief system must mean you lack original, critical and autonomous thinking",,https://i.redd.it/837aoga8mr681.png,164,One_Prudent_Student,2021-12-20 21:27:16 +TheBluePill,rj0yov,Gross,,https://archive.ph/2021.12.18-060233/https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/rimapr/women_are_biologically_programed_to_orbit_an/,17,[deleted],2021-12-18 06:04:47 +TheBluePill,ri8l6i,Guy talks about how someone can't go back after learning about the red pill,,https://i.redd.it/h7cu1knw11681.png,164,One_Prudent_Student,2021-12-17 04:06:15 +TheBluePill,riaekt,"The ""pioneers"" if you will say, of the ""trophy wife"" culture (where old but characterless men with a ridiculous sum of money marry young and pretty girls with just age 21 to 27 only to treat them as sex objects instead of women) are those who lust for teenage or even more underaged girls.",,https://i.redd.it/ygoxhfj9k1681.jpg,34,[deleted],2021-12-17 05:48:45 +TheBluePill,rfr2d0,"Quora guy talks about Tinder while discussing ""Beta Billys"" and ""Alpha men""",,https://i.redd.it/1hgc0nulnd581.png,120,One_Prudent_Student,2021-12-13 21:46:26 TheBluePill,rcrjpu,Has this guy met female athletes?,">[Science Denial Denialism](https://archive.md/bx6mM) >""I so assiduously pointed out the alternative doping theory that eventually writers planning a piece on how women athletes would be equaling men real soon now were dissuaded after they did a little Googling and discovered that this Sailer guy would eat their lunch. So elites somewhat quieted down on this longtime feminist talking point. @@ -45278,15 +45278,15 @@ You only mention Trans athletes when they’re winning Or how about when ciswomen beat cismen: https://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/02/06/AR2006020601432.html https://willmenarndt.medium.com/the-future-of-soccer-is-co-ed-317378d6abda -https://www.cbssports.com/general/news/heaven-fitch-becomes-first-female-wrestler-to-win-individual-state-title-in-north-carolina/",,42,ryu289,1639084765.0 -TheBluePill,rc0owt,It’s the profile picture for me,,https://i.redd.it/vdy90yf9td481.jpg,36,[deleted],1638996735.0 -TheBluePill,rbmi1t,It is because of degenerates like this and political extremists like Richard Spencer that women in East Europe and the Balkans suffer domestic violence back home and no one cares to talk about this issue at all.,,https://i.redd.it/42umbzow2a481.jpg,279,[deleted],1638951552.0 -TheBluePill,r982dn,Maybe he was asked why he likes Asian women so much. And truth does not take much time to expose itself. [r/justneckbeardthings],,https://i.redd.it/v8aq949ton381.jpg,148,[deleted],1638680462.0 -TheBluePill,r7rqm9,"I find it hard to believe and impossible to accept that such BS still exists. They all have one common thing to say: ""Women are toys for my enjoyment. I never had a soft and loving relationship hence I do not want you to have one either because women are advantage seekers"".",,https://i.redd.it/vx9gg8bwl9381.jpg,133,[deleted],1638509983.0 -TheBluePill,r3e6em,"Tory Halfwit blames women playing originally male characters in media, for a rise in crime amongst young men 🙄",,https://youtu.be/5RLMH1kJtQ4,102,ThatcherIsDeed,1638021782.0 -TheBluePill,r36grz,Good luck finding someone like that... [r/justneckbeardthings],,https://i.redd.it/mn5mj3cur2281.png,236,[deleted],1637991387.0 -TheBluePill,qzlouj,Has you can see…,,https://i.redd.it/a8bn95fjz3181.jpg,286,FoeHamma,1637588582.0 -TheBluePill,qx7gj5,“I only date asian girls” starter pack,,https://i.redd.it/fobfih6vjff41.jpg,273,FoeHamma,1637293572.0 +https://www.cbssports.com/general/news/heaven-fitch-becomes-first-female-wrestler-to-win-individual-state-title-in-north-carolina/",,42,ryu289,2021-12-09 21:19:25 +TheBluePill,rc0owt,It’s the profile picture for me,,https://i.redd.it/vdy90yf9td481.jpg,36,[deleted],2021-12-08 20:52:15 +TheBluePill,rbmi1t,It is because of degenerates like this and political extremists like Richard Spencer that women in East Europe and the Balkans suffer domestic violence back home and no one cares to talk about this issue at all.,,https://i.redd.it/42umbzow2a481.jpg,279,[deleted],2021-12-08 08:19:12 +TheBluePill,r982dn,Maybe he was asked why he likes Asian women so much. And truth does not take much time to expose itself. [r/justneckbeardthings],,https://i.redd.it/v8aq949ton381.jpg,148,[deleted],2021-12-05 05:01:02 +TheBluePill,r7rqm9,"I find it hard to believe and impossible to accept that such BS still exists. They all have one common thing to say: ""Women are toys for my enjoyment. I never had a soft and loving relationship hence I do not want you to have one either because women are advantage seekers"".",,https://i.redd.it/vx9gg8bwl9381.jpg,133,[deleted],2021-12-03 05:39:43 +TheBluePill,r3e6em,"Tory Halfwit blames women playing originally male characters in media, for a rise in crime amongst young men 🙄",,https://youtu.be/5RLMH1kJtQ4,102,ThatcherIsDeed,2021-11-27 14:03:02 +TheBluePill,r36grz,Good luck finding someone like that... [r/justneckbeardthings],,https://i.redd.it/mn5mj3cur2281.png,236,[deleted],2021-11-27 05:36:27 +TheBluePill,qzlouj,Has you can see…,,https://i.redd.it/a8bn95fjz3181.jpg,286,FoeHamma,2021-11-22 13:43:02 +TheBluePill,qx7gj5,“I only date asian girls” starter pack,,https://i.redd.it/fobfih6vjff41.jpg,273,FoeHamma,2021-11-19 03:46:12 TheBluePill,qsv6cm,Alot of these red-pilled folks love their Social Darwinism huh?,"https://archive.md/KuFIb >Is the “gender-fluid” offspring of the Dravens likely to become a football star or otherwise attain the sort of masculine success that normal women find attractive and desirable in a romantic partner? Even before the Darwinian competition of mate selection begins in adolescence, however, ordinary social processes tend to marginalize children who in some way are misfits. The losers and weirdos don’t share the normal hobbies and interests of their peers and, of course, these hobbies and interests tend to be gender-specific. A boy must learn to be “one of the guys,” to fit in and get along with the other boys in school, or else he will be ostracized and ridiculed. No amount of school “anti-bullying” programs will protect the misfit against this natural tendency among children. Egalitarian ideologues will never be able to compel children to accept their “everybody-is-special” worldview, and it can therefore be predicted that “gender-neutral parenting” will produce children who are confused and relegated to the unpopular fringe by their peer groups. @@ -45299,27 +45299,27 @@ And ignores the idea of how [bullying can lead to suicide](https://www.psychiatr >Tobias “Tobi” Hill-Meyer, the boy who was raised by a lesbian feminist couple and grew up to become a transgender pornographer, is an example of the kind of outcomes we can expect from “gender-neutral parenting.” -This is called ""[nut-picking](https://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Nutpicking)"" btw.",,73,ryu289,1636784790.0 -TheBluePill,qp3ktx,Sexism 101 from r/TheRedPill,,https://archive.ph/2021.11.08-020241/https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/qot2nm/beware_of_female_bosses/,60,[deleted],1636337206.0 -TheBluePill,qoghe3,"""If feminism was about equality, then we would call it equality""....what a big brain.",,https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=5KrfuMi4JcE,87,ryu289,1636256903.0 -TheBluePill,qn0pba,Beware of Women in Education,,https://www.reddit.com/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre/comments/qmn3eb/beware_of_women_in_education/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf,58,[deleted],1636077745.0 -TheBluePill,qkxyzz,"A woman having a high N-count is bad. But also, a woman not having sex with *them* is bad. Please discuss.",,,177,MwahMwahKitteh,1635833801.0 -TheBluePill,ql1jx8,This guy knows a thing or two,,https://i.redd.it/0vo7s3eqp2x71.jpg,32,FoeHamma,1635850228.0 -TheBluePill,qkluih,"RPWomen on why men like innocent women, aka women who act like adults are unattractive",,https://www.np.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/qk0k5k/why_are_men_attracted_to_innocence/,19,princevulgar,1635795437.0 -TheBluePill,qjkpc9,Red pill woman bitter that other women who aren't 'feminine' or 'submissive' enough still get 'rewarded' by their partners.,,https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/qhvrge/how_do_you_avoid_getting_nasty_feelings_when_you/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,232,silent_porcupine123,1635666381.0 -TheBluePill,qhks34,They went from claiming they are against radical feminism to just being against the literal dictionary definition of feminism.,,https://i.redd.it/p62age83e6w71.jpg,229,alexanderwanxiety,1635420101.0 -TheBluePill,qg8eib,"That video was part of the reason I got out of the red pill, it’s worthy to watch",,https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=rc24YtUslCU,156,NotinRedpillBubble,1635260720.0 -TheBluePill,qbrtwy,"By ""freak"" do you think the creator of this ""art"" means like actual female bodybuilders look?",,"https://images-wixmp-ed30a86b8c4ca887773594c2.wixmp.com/f/325e204b-b168-49f1-8625-6454efac138f/desb281-3cd7e636-1a9c-407f-88c9-80f51a337a34.png/v1/fill/w_1024,h_742,q_80,strp/teela_s_payback_by_curtsibling_desb281-fullview.jpg?token=eyJ0eXAiOiJKV1QiLCJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiJ9.eyJzdWIiOiJ1cm46YXBwOjdlMGQxODg5ODIyNjQzNzNhNWYwZDQxNWVhMGQyNmUwIiwiaXNzIjoidXJuOmFwcDo3ZTBkMTg4OTgyMjY0MzczYTVmMGQ0MTVlYTBkMjZlMCIsIm9iaiI6W1t7ImhlaWdodCI6Ijw9NzQyIiwicGF0aCI6IlwvZlwvMzI1ZTIwNGItYjE2OC00OWYxLTg2MjUtNjQ1NGVmYWMxMzhmXC9kZXNiMjgxLTNjZDdlNjM2LTFhOWMtNDA3Zi04OGM5LTgwZjUxYTMzN2EzNC5wbmciLCJ3aWR0aCI6Ijw9MTAyNCJ9XV0sImF1ZCI6WyJ1cm46c2VydmljZTppbWFnZS5vcGVyYXRpb25zIl19.N2T_ak3zv5ees5lNVo8gWnJkAX8AfSxz3o7OPE6emD8",110,ryu289,1634700101.0 -TheBluePill,qavx5z,Hello? This Is Colombia’s Antimachismo Hotline.,,https://www.nytimes.com/2021/10/18/world/americas/colombia-machismo-hotline-masculinity.html,42,InfernalWedgie,1634590957.0 -TheBluePill,q7x98u,We live in a society 🤡,,https://i.redd.it/7iq3i5t1s7t71.jpg,201,FoeHamma,1634208899.0 +This is called ""[nut-picking](https://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Nutpicking)"" btw.",,73,ryu289,2021-11-13 06:26:30 +TheBluePill,qp3ktx,Sexism 101 from r/TheRedPill,,https://archive.ph/2021.11.08-020241/https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/qot2nm/beware_of_female_bosses/,60,[deleted],2021-11-08 02:06:46 +TheBluePill,qoghe3,"""If feminism was about equality, then we would call it equality""....what a big brain.",,https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=5KrfuMi4JcE,87,ryu289,2021-11-07 03:48:23 +TheBluePill,qn0pba,Beware of Women in Education,,https://www.reddit.com/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre/comments/qmn3eb/beware_of_women_in_education/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf,58,[deleted],2021-11-05 02:02:25 +TheBluePill,qkxyzz,"A woman having a high N-count is bad. But also, a woman not having sex with *them* is bad. Please discuss.",,,177,MwahMwahKitteh,2021-11-02 06:16:41 +TheBluePill,ql1jx8,This guy knows a thing or two,,https://i.redd.it/0vo7s3eqp2x71.jpg,32,FoeHamma,2021-11-02 10:50:28 +TheBluePill,qkluih,"RPWomen on why men like innocent women, aka women who act like adults are unattractive",,https://www.np.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/qk0k5k/why_are_men_attracted_to_innocence/,19,princevulgar,2021-11-01 19:37:17 +TheBluePill,qjkpc9,Red pill woman bitter that other women who aren't 'feminine' or 'submissive' enough still get 'rewarded' by their partners.,,https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/qhvrge/how_do_you_avoid_getting_nasty_feelings_when_you/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,232,silent_porcupine123,2021-10-31 07:46:21 +TheBluePill,qhks34,They went from claiming they are against radical feminism to just being against the literal dictionary definition of feminism.,,https://i.redd.it/p62age83e6w71.jpg,229,alexanderwanxiety,2021-10-28 11:21:41 +TheBluePill,qg8eib,"That video was part of the reason I got out of the red pill, it’s worthy to watch",,https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=rc24YtUslCU,156,NotinRedpillBubble,2021-10-26 15:05:20 +TheBluePill,qbrtwy,"By ""freak"" do you think the creator of this ""art"" means like actual female bodybuilders look?",,"https://images-wixmp-ed30a86b8c4ca887773594c2.wixmp.com/f/325e204b-b168-49f1-8625-6454efac138f/desb281-3cd7e636-1a9c-407f-88c9-80f51a337a34.png/v1/fill/w_1024,h_742,q_80,strp/teela_s_payback_by_curtsibling_desb281-fullview.jpg?token=eyJ0eXAiOiJKV1QiLCJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiJ9.eyJzdWIiOiJ1cm46YXBwOjdlMGQxODg5ODIyNjQzNzNhNWYwZDQxNWVhMGQyNmUwIiwiaXNzIjoidXJuOmFwcDo3ZTBkMTg4OTgyMjY0MzczYTVmMGQ0MTVlYTBkMjZlMCIsIm9iaiI6W1t7ImhlaWdodCI6Ijw9NzQyIiwicGF0aCI6IlwvZlwvMzI1ZTIwNGItYjE2OC00OWYxLTg2MjUtNjQ1NGVmYWMxMzhmXC9kZXNiMjgxLTNjZDdlNjM2LTFhOWMtNDA3Zi04OGM5LTgwZjUxYTMzN2EzNC5wbmciLCJ3aWR0aCI6Ijw9MTAyNCJ9XV0sImF1ZCI6WyJ1cm46c2VydmljZTppbWFnZS5vcGVyYXRpb25zIl19.N2T_ak3zv5ees5lNVo8gWnJkAX8AfSxz3o7OPE6emD8",110,ryu289,2021-10-20 03:21:41 +TheBluePill,qavx5z,Hello? This Is Colombia’s Antimachismo Hotline.,,https://www.nytimes.com/2021/10/18/world/americas/colombia-machismo-hotline-masculinity.html,42,InfernalWedgie,2021-10-18 21:02:37 +TheBluePill,q7x98u,We live in a society 🤡,,https://i.redd.it/7iq3i5t1s7t71.jpg,201,FoeHamma,2021-10-14 10:54:59 TheBluePill,q5l52y,What the FUCK is that TRP sub. Just lol.,"What the actual fuck is even going on? Who is authoring these posts? It seems like a form of schizophrenia when I read through about ""strong men"" and powerlifting and nonsense. This is literal cloud cuckoo land insanity. This does not reflect any bar or in fact any real life setting whatsoever. It just doesn't. LOL. There's zero correlation. The actual correlation is men standing awkwardly at the wall hoping to be hit on, and gregarious guys who start chatting and dancing etc (as well as, duh, physical appearance). Standing in a bar trying to look like a deadlifting Clint Eastwood is ridiculous and shows disconnect with reality to a laughable degree. -Probably the posters are young like 18 to 23-ish with zero life experience AT ALL, and extreme shyness with women. And developed this insane alpha male notion based on PUA books or something I don't know. Very misleading information indeed.",,98,MrQualtrough,1633915206.0 -TheBluePill,q42f5q,The red pill is funny… and likes 15 year old girls a lot,,https://i.redd.it/mlpobq4qg9s71.jpg,368,NotinRedpillBubble,1633713915.0 +Probably the posters are young like 18 to 23-ish with zero life experience AT ALL, and extreme shyness with women. And developed this insane alpha male notion based on PUA books or something I don't know. Very misleading information indeed.",,98,MrQualtrough,2021-10-11 01:20:06 +TheBluePill,q42f5q,The red pill is funny… and likes 15 year old girls a lot,,https://i.redd.it/mlpobq4qg9s71.jpg,368,NotinRedpillBubble,2021-10-08 17:25:15 TheBluePill,q43icp,"Men are more narcissistic than women, study","https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/03/150304104040.htm I found a study that shows that men on average are more likely to be narcissistic than women. I think that’s important fact Bc the red pill focused a lot on how narcissistic women are and especially how entitled they are. @@ -45328,12 +45328,12 @@ Here it gets interesting: „They found the widest gap in entitlement, suggesting that men are more likely than women to exploit others and feel entitled to certain privileges.“ -Now I’m aware most men are decent people and unlike the red pill I wouldn’t use that source to bash men or put men in general into a bad light. What do you think?",,63,NotinRedpillBubble,1633717056.0 -TheBluePill,pzd3va,Incel propaganda,,https://i.redd.it/dabu106vitq71.png,296,FoeHamma,1633110150.0 -TheBluePill,pyd3l8,"Saw this, thought the interaction between the reactionaries on both sides of this were too hilarious not to share lmao",,/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/ofpcqd/when_it_comes_to_who_pays_for_dates_many_women/,11,[deleted],1632979103.0 -TheBluePill,pw9qce,Apparently having no cleavage showing means that the boobs have vanished and no longer feminine,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/pvvsij,212,FoeHamma,1632717019.0 -TheBluePill,ppugec,The people that watch this are so fucked up that they think that being the guy a woman cheats with is positive,,https://i.redd.it/t10srn3r60o71.jpg,226,alexanderwanxiety,1631858207.0 -TheBluePill,pnawt1,I Tried to Be a Misogynist,,https://gunlord500.wordpress.com/2021/07/30/i-tried-to-be-a-misogynist-full-essay/,42,Gunlord500,1631519159.0 +Now I’m aware most men are decent people and unlike the red pill I wouldn’t use that source to bash men or put men in general into a bad light. What do you think?",,63,NotinRedpillBubble,2021-10-08 18:17:36 +TheBluePill,pzd3va,Incel propaganda,,https://i.redd.it/dabu106vitq71.png,296,FoeHamma,2021-10-01 17:42:30 +TheBluePill,pyd3l8,"Saw this, thought the interaction between the reactionaries on both sides of this were too hilarious not to share lmao",,/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/ofpcqd/when_it_comes_to_who_pays_for_dates_many_women/,11,[deleted],2021-09-30 05:18:23 +TheBluePill,pw9qce,Apparently having no cleavage showing means that the boobs have vanished and no longer feminine,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/pvvsij,212,FoeHamma,2021-09-27 04:30:19 +TheBluePill,ppugec,The people that watch this are so fucked up that they think that being the guy a woman cheats with is positive,,https://i.redd.it/t10srn3r60o71.jpg,226,alexanderwanxiety,2021-09-17 05:56:47 +TheBluePill,pnawt1,I Tried to Be a Misogynist,,https://gunlord500.wordpress.com/2021/07/30/i-tried-to-be-a-misogynist-full-essay/,42,Gunlord500,2021-09-13 07:45:59 TheBluePill,pjddhz,Yeah but social sciences don’t really count…,"This is an argument I’ve heard a few too many times when I’ve talked to men I assumed to be red pilled. They make the traditional arguments about how men have been the builders and providers throughout history and women relying on them is the natural order of things. They’re so sure of themselves and are quick to take credit for the achievements of an entire gender even if they themselves haven’t contributed anything to modern society. They often talk of how men dominate fields like STEM and that if all the men suddenly went on strike women would be totally helpless without them because they wouldn’t want to leave the house. But when I correct them and tell them that there are in fact engineers, doctors, and scientists of the highest order who are “female” and many more achieving degrees every day it usually goes something like this: RP Dude: “Women get paid to do what comes second nature to them like nursing and teaching. They have no interest in doing the things that keep society running like politics and construction.” @@ -45344,9 +45344,9 @@ RP dude: “Yeah but they get degrees in things like social science which are co Me: “Yeah whatever dude” -I understand they’re just trying to keep women in a subservient position and many of them are afraid of being useless (even if they are not actively providing and protecting), but this constant caveman comparison is just a new low. It’s just the latest excuse to invalidate the work we’ve made as a society by reducing human needs to their most elementary state. We don’t need your “superior grip strength” anymore. But them holding those views is a perfect example of why we need the social sciences to understand this misguided perspective.",,155,[deleted],1630979313.0 -TheBluePill,pjhfyg,what are your opinions on this?,,/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/pjflmh/cmv_womens_choices_do_not_make_sense_to_men/,28,23archingforknwldge,1630995932.0 -TheBluePill,pi3bcb,"There is someone out there for everyone, try to look your best and get a better mindset and you'll find your partner in no time",,https://i.redd.it/lkonrq6tojl71.jpg,430,FoeHamma,1630803146.0 +I understand they’re just trying to keep women in a subservient position and many of them are afraid of being useless (even if they are not actively providing and protecting), but this constant caveman comparison is just a new low. It’s just the latest excuse to invalidate the work we’ve made as a society by reducing human needs to their most elementary state. We don’t need your “superior grip strength” anymore. But them holding those views is a perfect example of why we need the social sciences to understand this misguided perspective.",,155,[deleted],2021-09-07 01:48:33 +TheBluePill,pjhfyg,what are your opinions on this?,,/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/pjflmh/cmv_womens_choices_do_not_make_sense_to_men/,28,23archingforknwldge,2021-09-07 06:25:32 +TheBluePill,pi3bcb,"There is someone out there for everyone, try to look your best and get a better mindset and you'll find your partner in no time",,https://i.redd.it/lkonrq6tojl71.jpg,430,FoeHamma,2021-09-05 00:52:26 TheBluePill,pgqhin,Can’t let go experience of sexual harassment," So this is a story about one incident where me and a friend were sexually harassed by three boys. It went like that…we both walked at the bus station, they came up to us and just yelled „wow sexy!“ (it’s Never a good idea to yell that while being with a group of men IMO, don’t do this men) or something like that to my friend. She responses with „fuck off“…. And one dude yelled „Ohhh I just wanted to only fuck You anyway (who says that? Knowing that the person isn’t even interested in you just for sex?….) … They followed us a bit and the one dude asked my friend „would you sleep with me if you were drunk? (Again, WHO says that?!) She said „no, go away“….he basically told her he would do it anyway and rape her. That’s where I kinda got mad and said „go away, let her alone“…. He responded „Oh no one is talking to you, you are ugly (too ugly to be sexually harassed by a guy none of us was even interested in, what a logic)….. eventually they got kicked out at McDonald’s Bc they were disgusting and the staff noticed. This all makes me so mad, the harassment and the narcissism of that one guy in particular (to be fair the other two dudes were quiet)…. I mean why do some men even think they are so nice and „hot“ they can judge others to be „too ugly for them“ (I honestly looked funny Bc of my big ass glasses to be fair but still…)? Don’t they have enough self awareness that no one would even fuck them and that their sexual interested only does not devalue us women but just makes THEM look cheap? The most horrible thing is the „I would rape you“…. @@ -45359,50 +45359,50 @@ Why don’t I habe the need to go up to men and harass them just Bc they look cu Maybe I’m to sensitive and need to forget… -Sorry for my bad English.",,80,NotinRedpillBubble,1630615861.0 -TheBluePill,pbxus5,What do TRP think of LGBTQ+?,Does anyone have information on this or not?,,43,[deleted],1629978430.0 -TheBluePill,paev34,"""How dare you be good looking?!""",,https://i.redd.it/kw9ypaznc7j71.png,300,FoeHamma,1629773779.0 -TheBluePill,pafsjo,"Apparently anti-sjws need there women to have ""feminity"" whatever that means.",,https://www.deviantart.com/nekohybrid/art/Fuck-That-Trend-889612285?comment=1%3A889612285%3A4938462299,21,ryu289,1629777448.0 +Sorry for my bad English.",,80,NotinRedpillBubble,2021-09-02 20:51:01 +TheBluePill,pbxus5,What do TRP think of LGBTQ+?,Does anyone have information on this or not?,,43,[deleted],2021-08-26 11:47:10 +TheBluePill,paev34,"""How dare you be good looking?!""",,https://i.redd.it/kw9ypaznc7j71.png,300,FoeHamma,2021-08-24 02:56:19 +TheBluePill,pafsjo,"Apparently anti-sjws need there women to have ""feminity"" whatever that means.",,https://www.deviantart.com/nekohybrid/art/Fuck-That-Trend-889612285?comment=1%3A889612285%3A4938462299,21,ryu289,2021-08-24 03:57:28 TheBluePill,p9vnns,The Red Pill conspiracy that a woman’s baby will look like a combination of all the men she’s slept with is very harmful to women.,"Obviously, anyone with a high school understanding of biology knows this is simply just not true. The sperm in her reproductive system that don’t end up impregnating her die off in a matter of DAYS (I shouldn’t even have to be saying this), so who the hell came up with the conspiracy that for years a woman can still have some kind of “sperm residue” in her uterus? It’s absolutely mind boggling. All of the TRP YouTube guys that I’ve seen that have mentioned this have never provided a source for this and it’s disturbing that they spew this BS and their subscribers just eat it right up. Besides, condoms are a thing and not every man a woman has been with has just ruthlessly creampied inside of her. They twist the real meaning and studies behind [microchimerism](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6714269/#idm139957805884448title) into something inherently against women. -I can’t believe they can be this delusional. Yes, I do believe having a high number of partners can be damaging, but this is just ridiculous. Unless a woman cheated on you and go pregnant through another man, there’s no fucking way that baby is *not* going to look like the both of you plus some traits from your ancestors. Did they not learn how alleles in genetics work? Who came up with this crazy idea in the first place? How are people not calling them out for that? It doesn’t even make any kind of sense and it’s clearly meant to try to control and shame women that have had multiple sex partners.",,186,FlakyImpact5838,1629708031.0 -TheBluePill,pa7dr6,You actually couldn't make this shit up.,,https://www.forums.red/p/asktrp/274943/my_ex_who_left_me_for_another_guy_her_life_is_in_danger_shou,5,Anto64w,1629748208.0 -TheBluePill,p938mo,Guy catfishes tinder date in order to complain to her about how he never gets any matches and always gets rejected,,https://v.redd.it/49bmn5ckc8a71,200,FoeHamma,1629594720.0 -TheBluePill,p8ugxu,"Women are a hive mind, yo",,https://i.redd.it/9s5vjbfynoi71.jpg,211,FoeHamma,1629563262.0 -TheBluePill,p6sf6b,"You may be insecure, but are you INCEL levels of insecure?",,https://i.redd.it/xmxztllh53i71.jpg,210,FoeHamma,1629297381.0 -TheBluePill,p6mpww,AskTRPer admits to raping a woman. Major TW.,,https://np.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/o5fqxk/i_have_been_denied_sex_from_my_fwb_did_i_handle/,117,[deleted],1629273533.0 -TheBluePill,p5zwpd,Asking the real questions in times of tragedy 🤦,,/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/p5ic4r/are_the_warlords_who_control_afghanistan_alphas/,89,[deleted],1629190143.0 -TheBluePill,p5k0ye,Question: Wouldn’t state sponsored girlfriends be considered communist by these chuds?,,https://i.redd.it/mt77ri6gxoh71.jpg,263,FoeHamma,1629132682.0 -TheBluePill,p5mfgj,LMAO this could be a joke but still it's too funny to not share,,https://v.redd.it/avwn1qs7hrh71,29,Hi_El_Pu_Ba,1629139832.0 -TheBluePill,p4tkms,"Incels: ""Women have unrealistic standards for men!"" also Incels:",,https://i.redd.it/wgv0wv6q4eh71.jpg,385,FoeHamma,1629034761.0 -TheBluePill,p3rinc,"Plymouth shooter’s comment 5 days ago on his Reddit post. Red pillers and incels aren’t just lonely guys, they’re truly dangerous.",,https://i.redd.it/993xouzy86h71.jpg,151,sherlocked776,1628880659.0 -TheBluePill,p3p5ou,Another Incel goes on a murder spree,,https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2021/08/13/plymouth-shooting-gunman-said-terminator-final-youtube-video/,202,FoeHamma,1628873664.0 -TheBluePill,p1wmjr,Redpill Fan Fiction,,https://i.redd.it/z86sq6yw2lg71.png,161,NomadFire,1628624418.0 -TheBluePill,p1t9f7,Femoids have it easy /s,,https://i.redd.it/fm6hh4c4yjg71.jpg,116,FoeHamma,1628614465.0 -TheBluePill,p1itrw,"r/TheRedPill keeps asking for official Blue-Pilled dating advice, so I guess here it is",,https://youtu.be/zJ8EeWK8yEw,31,SignalAVirtueToday,1628573063.0 -TheBluePill,p170jl,Is PurplePillDebate basically a TRP sub?,"A lot of the content in there screams incel energy to me. I guess the type of people who'd spend a lot of time there have, let's say, *largely theoretical* knowledge of dating and relationships.",,202,[deleted],1628532690.0 -TheBluePill,p0gqpk,"Fellas, is it gay to speak Swedish?",,https://i.redd.it/n4ukq32aa5g71.png,212,FoeHamma,1628436651.0 -TheBluePill,p0m5s7,PUAs share how they trick otherwise unwilling women into going back to their places for sex,,http://np.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/p05ez7/best_way_to_get_a_girl_back_to_your_place/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3,30,[deleted],1628454120.0 -TheBluePill,oz9ggz,r/TheRedPill has the most vomit-inducing take on Chris Chan,,https://archive.is/wip/XRqi2,64,equalityworldwide,1628265281.0 -TheBluePill,oz85qr,r/TheRedPill having a completely normal one.,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ox6461/esoteric_testosterone_and_general_endocrine_hacks/,20,SignalAVirtueToday,1628261418.0 -TheBluePill,oy7ol8,🤮You need to “train your girls” to be Super Sluts,,https://archive.is/2021.08.05-015440/https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ow9102/word_to_the_wise_the_biggest_little_mistake_youll/,119,[deleted],1628128636.0 -TheBluePill,ox8pj0,Welp it finally happened 🦀,,/r/AgainstHateSubreddits/comments/ox7wl8/mgtow_and_mgtow2_are_banned/,352,[deleted],1628012704.0 -TheBluePill,ovvd1o,Are you tired of being invisible?,,/r/datingadviceformen/comments/ovujui/are_you_tired_of_being_invisible/,8,osavpoiss,1627835650.0 -TheBluePill,ovdfvz,One day this will happen.,,https://i.redd.it/rjytudbhole71.png,213,salvulcanoloser,1627759959.0 -TheBluePill,ouyc6v,Comments you can smell,,https://i.redd.it/4uohrboghde71.jpg,283,FoeHamma,1627695552.0 -TheBluePill,ouf0qn,PPD really just debating whether or not woman deserve basic humanity,,https://i.redd.it/umnfckrsjae71.png,153,[deleted],1627625198.0 -TheBluePill,ouej9x,r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre is full of misogynistic crap like this,,https://archive.is/2021.07.30-051036/https://www.reddit.com/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre/comments/otcjcf/beware_of_women_in_the_hospitality_industry/,87,[deleted],1627622920.0 -TheBluePill,ot0rum,“High value men”,,https://i.redd.it/4aknj5ojuqd71.jpg,179,FoeHamma,1627438885.0 +I can’t believe they can be this delusional. Yes, I do believe having a high number of partners can be damaging, but this is just ridiculous. Unless a woman cheated on you and go pregnant through another man, there’s no fucking way that baby is *not* going to look like the both of you plus some traits from your ancestors. Did they not learn how alleles in genetics work? Who came up with this crazy idea in the first place? How are people not calling them out for that? It doesn’t even make any kind of sense and it’s clearly meant to try to control and shame women that have had multiple sex partners.",,186,FlakyImpact5838,2021-08-23 08:40:31 +TheBluePill,pa7dr6,You actually couldn't make this shit up.,,https://www.forums.red/p/asktrp/274943/my_ex_who_left_me_for_another_guy_her_life_is_in_danger_shou,5,Anto64w,2021-08-23 19:50:08 +TheBluePill,p938mo,Guy catfishes tinder date in order to complain to her about how he never gets any matches and always gets rejected,,https://v.redd.it/49bmn5ckc8a71,200,FoeHamma,2021-08-22 01:12:00 +TheBluePill,p8ugxu,"Women are a hive mind, yo",,https://i.redd.it/9s5vjbfynoi71.jpg,211,FoeHamma,2021-08-21 16:27:42 +TheBluePill,p6sf6b,"You may be insecure, but are you INCEL levels of insecure?",,https://i.redd.it/xmxztllh53i71.jpg,210,FoeHamma,2021-08-18 14:36:21 +TheBluePill,p6mpww,AskTRPer admits to raping a woman. Major TW.,,https://np.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/o5fqxk/i_have_been_denied_sex_from_my_fwb_did_i_handle/,117,[deleted],2021-08-18 07:58:53 +TheBluePill,p5zwpd,Asking the real questions in times of tragedy 🤦,,/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/p5ic4r/are_the_warlords_who_control_afghanistan_alphas/,89,[deleted],2021-08-17 08:49:03 +TheBluePill,p5k0ye,Question: Wouldn’t state sponsored girlfriends be considered communist by these chuds?,,https://i.redd.it/mt77ri6gxoh71.jpg,263,FoeHamma,2021-08-16 16:51:22 +TheBluePill,p5mfgj,LMAO this could be a joke but still it's too funny to not share,,https://v.redd.it/avwn1qs7hrh71,29,Hi_El_Pu_Ba,2021-08-16 18:50:32 +TheBluePill,p4tkms,"Incels: ""Women have unrealistic standards for men!"" also Incels:",,https://i.redd.it/wgv0wv6q4eh71.jpg,385,FoeHamma,2021-08-15 13:39:21 +TheBluePill,p3rinc,"Plymouth shooter’s comment 5 days ago on his Reddit post. Red pillers and incels aren’t just lonely guys, they’re truly dangerous.",,https://i.redd.it/993xouzy86h71.jpg,151,sherlocked776,2021-08-13 18:50:59 +TheBluePill,p3p5ou,Another Incel goes on a murder spree,,https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2021/08/13/plymouth-shooting-gunman-said-terminator-final-youtube-video/,202,FoeHamma,2021-08-13 16:54:24 +TheBluePill,p1wmjr,Redpill Fan Fiction,,https://i.redd.it/z86sq6yw2lg71.png,161,NomadFire,2021-08-10 19:40:18 +TheBluePill,p1t9f7,Femoids have it easy /s,,https://i.redd.it/fm6hh4c4yjg71.jpg,116,FoeHamma,2021-08-10 16:54:25 +TheBluePill,p1itrw,"r/TheRedPill keeps asking for official Blue-Pilled dating advice, so I guess here it is",,https://youtu.be/zJ8EeWK8yEw,31,SignalAVirtueToday,2021-08-10 05:24:23 +TheBluePill,p170jl,Is PurplePillDebate basically a TRP sub?,"A lot of the content in there screams incel energy to me. I guess the type of people who'd spend a lot of time there have, let's say, *largely theoretical* knowledge of dating and relationships.",,202,[deleted],2021-08-09 18:11:30 +TheBluePill,p0gqpk,"Fellas, is it gay to speak Swedish?",,https://i.redd.it/n4ukq32aa5g71.png,212,FoeHamma,2021-08-08 15:30:51 +TheBluePill,p0m5s7,PUAs share how they trick otherwise unwilling women into going back to their places for sex,,http://np.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/p05ez7/best_way_to_get_a_girl_back_to_your_place/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3,30,[deleted],2021-08-08 20:22:00 +TheBluePill,oz9ggz,r/TheRedPill has the most vomit-inducing take on Chris Chan,,https://archive.is/wip/XRqi2,64,equalityworldwide,2021-08-06 15:54:41 +TheBluePill,oz85qr,r/TheRedPill having a completely normal one.,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ox6461/esoteric_testosterone_and_general_endocrine_hacks/,20,SignalAVirtueToday,2021-08-06 14:50:18 +TheBluePill,oy7ol8,🤮You need to “train your girls” to be Super Sluts,,https://archive.is/2021.08.05-015440/https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ow9102/word_to_the_wise_the_biggest_little_mistake_youll/,119,[deleted],2021-08-05 01:57:16 +TheBluePill,ox8pj0,Welp it finally happened 🦀,,/r/AgainstHateSubreddits/comments/ox7wl8/mgtow_and_mgtow2_are_banned/,352,[deleted],2021-08-03 17:45:04 +TheBluePill,ovvd1o,Are you tired of being invisible?,,/r/datingadviceformen/comments/ovujui/are_you_tired_of_being_invisible/,8,osavpoiss,2021-08-01 16:34:10 +TheBluePill,ovdfvz,One day this will happen.,,https://i.redd.it/rjytudbhole71.png,213,salvulcanoloser,2021-07-31 19:32:39 +TheBluePill,ouyc6v,Comments you can smell,,https://i.redd.it/4uohrboghde71.jpg,283,FoeHamma,2021-07-31 01:39:12 +TheBluePill,ouf0qn,PPD really just debating whether or not woman deserve basic humanity,,https://i.redd.it/umnfckrsjae71.png,153,[deleted],2021-07-30 06:06:38 +TheBluePill,ouej9x,r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre is full of misogynistic crap like this,,https://archive.is/2021.07.30-051036/https://www.reddit.com/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre/comments/otcjcf/beware_of_women_in_the_hospitality_industry/,87,[deleted],2021-07-30 05:28:40 +TheBluePill,ot0rum,“High value men”,,https://i.redd.it/4aknj5ojuqd71.jpg,179,FoeHamma,2021-07-28 02:21:25 TheBluePill,ot3jhs,Unplugged Alpha - boyfriend is reading it. Good personal development book or not really?,"Hi gents, and some fellow ladies. So my boyfriend is a lot into self development books, on our bookcase his books are either about our line of work or books like ‘Man Up!’, ‘A Man’s Guide to Women’ ect. He bought some new books for us yesterday and one of them is ‘The Unplugged Alpha’ I do know the author of ‘The Unplugged Alpha’ from Youtube but a bit worried if this book is actually helpful or a bit of a RP book with more opinions rather than scientific facts/generalizes women and men. -Would like to hear your guys opinion about this book.",,14,Porg14,1627449892.0 -TheBluePill,osw4ll,"THEY hate and fear you, the straight white male, because you think for yourself (unlike those girls and the blacks). Assert your freedom and show THEM what’s up by continuing to consume our material (and if you like our material, we accept donations via Patreon).",,http://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/oquhtz/why_they_hate_you/,7,[deleted],1627422781.0 -TheBluePill,osg7se,"TRP goes full Self Awarewolves: ""Women who have slept with lots of men dehumanise and objectify men through sex."" Also, to prevent her from lying about how many sexual partners she's had, lie about how many sexual partners you've had.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/npxqa9/women_are_not_mysterious_they_appear_mysterious/,146,[deleted],1627361429.0 -TheBluePill,oqhq57,"Proud Trump supporter can't find any liberal women who will date him, can't imagine why. Blames cognitive dissonance.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/oqedv5/q4all_why_do_you_think_it_so_that_liberal_wow_no/h6berhu/?context=3,225,[deleted],1627095943.0 -TheBluePill,opekne,"As rates of suicide among men is an important topic, I thought some of you might find this research based video interesting- summarising research (references in description) investigating the effectiveness of suicide/suicidal behaviour reduction strategies on an individual and systemic level.",,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qfbfqd1PiHY,90,ava_flava123,1626962991.0 -TheBluePill,oo75on,"""Sexual harassment is a pretty minor thing that most dudes I know have done""",,https://i.redd.it/p35uxklncec71.png,230,cum_in_your_mum,1626803337.0 +Would like to hear your guys opinion about this book.",,14,Porg14,2021-07-28 05:24:52 +TheBluePill,osw4ll,"THEY hate and fear you, the straight white male, because you think for yourself (unlike those girls and the blacks). Assert your freedom and show THEM what’s up by continuing to consume our material (and if you like our material, we accept donations via Patreon).",,http://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/oquhtz/why_they_hate_you/,7,[deleted],2021-07-27 21:53:01 +TheBluePill,osg7se,"TRP goes full Self Awarewolves: ""Women who have slept with lots of men dehumanise and objectify men through sex."" Also, to prevent her from lying about how many sexual partners she's had, lie about how many sexual partners you've had.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/npxqa9/women_are_not_mysterious_they_appear_mysterious/,146,[deleted],2021-07-27 04:50:29 +TheBluePill,oqhq57,"Proud Trump supporter can't find any liberal women who will date him, can't imagine why. Blames cognitive dissonance.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/oqedv5/q4all_why_do_you_think_it_so_that_liberal_wow_no/h6berhu/?context=3,225,[deleted],2021-07-24 03:05:43 +TheBluePill,opekne,"As rates of suicide among men is an important topic, I thought some of you might find this research based video interesting- summarising research (references in description) investigating the effectiveness of suicide/suicidal behaviour reduction strategies on an individual and systemic level.",,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qfbfqd1PiHY,90,ava_flava123,2021-07-22 14:09:51 +TheBluePill,oo75on,"""Sexual harassment is a pretty minor thing that most dudes I know have done""",,https://i.redd.it/p35uxklncec71.png,230,cum_in_your_mum,2021-07-20 17:48:57 TheBluePill,onv7dy,'Red Pill' killed my best friend,"This is a half sad post, half warning. So growing up I lived a pretty normal life in a small town, I sometimes had trouble making friends due to being the more introverted, nerdy type of kid. I then met this other kid who was very similar to me. We had all the same interests, hung out together constantly and we quickly became best friends, let's call him 'Jake'. @@ -45441,47 +45441,47 @@ I couldn't believe this was the same guy I've known most of my life, he was alwa He was 22, TWENTY FUCKING TWO. -I wish I'd never came across this incredibly toxic ideology, but mostly, I just want my friend back.",,95,[deleted],1626756711.0 -TheBluePill,onw3in,Joker is a SIGMA MALE,,https://youtu.be/69bZmd1Vvss,8,copareeeee,1626760614.0 -TheBluePill,omlo2f,"I have officially asked to speak to a manager w/r/t to that last post we got from a TRP, maybe this will be funny at some point down the road?",,https://imgur.com/pJmEaKL,59,SignalAVirtueToday,1626592126.0 -TheBluePill,om2a8p,Just fucking lol at this joke of a subreddit,What a complete and utter fucking joke this website has become. They shut down asktrp but this subreddit full of pussy whipped feminist supporting blue pilled beta cucks is considered acceptable? This website is for kissless little virgin reject hermit dwelling fucking losers. Men like you are the reason why we live in a feminist society full of pussy whipped white knights. Have fun rotting on here you blue pilled beta bitch boys.,,0,[deleted],1626520499.0 -TheBluePill,ok6al9,I can’t figure out why this guy is single...,,https://i.redd.it/cip1y8v227b71.jpg,447,TouchAppropriate4502,1626275358.0 -TheBluePill,ojv1s9,This man sounds incredibly abusive,,https://archive.is/qNWxY,62,equalityworldwide,1626230386.0 -TheBluePill,oi03m2,FB user accidentally recreates the entire concept of TRP,,https://i.redd.it/xw1rbxpwdja71.jpg,75,green_meditation,1625988771.0 -TheBluePill,ohorv8,"This RedPill theory list I’ve found is just contradicting itself. Number 7 Chase your goals, not girls. Number 10 Find a real women.",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/ohorv8,146,salvulcanoloser,1625944043.0 -TheBluePill,ohzavn,What are your views on this topic..,,/r/dating/comments/ohlwu8/to_all_the_new_people_who_r_into_dating_and_cant/,2,[deleted],1625984722.0 -TheBluePill,oh346w,Incels complain how beautiful women don't date ugly looking guy and when they do date a guy considered unattractive then it's the Incels who are most jealous of that guy.,"They are like ""how this ugly looking bastard managed to get a hotty"".",,249,[deleted],1625859919.0 -TheBluePill,ogh2pn,"r/asktrp voluntarily locks down over fears of ""censorship"" lmao. pour one out",,https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/o5t1er/we_have_moved_to_forumsred_posting_here_is_locked/,160,FucqBoi_BookClub,1625780167.0 +I wish I'd never came across this incredibly toxic ideology, but mostly, I just want my friend back.",,95,[deleted],2021-07-20 04:51:51 +TheBluePill,onw3in,Joker is a SIGMA MALE,,https://youtu.be/69bZmd1Vvss,8,copareeeee,2021-07-20 05:56:54 +TheBluePill,omlo2f,"I have officially asked to speak to a manager w/r/t to that last post we got from a TRP, maybe this will be funny at some point down the road?",,https://imgur.com/pJmEaKL,59,SignalAVirtueToday,2021-07-18 07:08:46 +TheBluePill,om2a8p,Just fucking lol at this joke of a subreddit,What a complete and utter fucking joke this website has become. They shut down asktrp but this subreddit full of pussy whipped feminist supporting blue pilled beta cucks is considered acceptable? This website is for kissless little virgin reject hermit dwelling fucking losers. Men like you are the reason why we live in a feminist society full of pussy whipped white knights. Have fun rotting on here you blue pilled beta bitch boys.,,0,[deleted],2021-07-17 11:14:59 +TheBluePill,ok6al9,I can’t figure out why this guy is single...,,https://i.redd.it/cip1y8v227b71.jpg,447,TouchAppropriate4502,2021-07-14 15:09:18 +TheBluePill,ojv1s9,This man sounds incredibly abusive,,https://archive.is/qNWxY,62,equalityworldwide,2021-07-14 02:39:46 +TheBluePill,oi03m2,FB user accidentally recreates the entire concept of TRP,,https://i.redd.it/xw1rbxpwdja71.jpg,75,green_meditation,2021-07-11 07:32:51 +TheBluePill,ohorv8,"This RedPill theory list I’ve found is just contradicting itself. Number 7 Chase your goals, not girls. Number 10 Find a real women.",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/ohorv8,146,salvulcanoloser,2021-07-10 19:07:23 +TheBluePill,ohzavn,What are your views on this topic..,,/r/dating/comments/ohlwu8/to_all_the_new_people_who_r_into_dating_and_cant/,2,[deleted],2021-07-11 06:25:22 +TheBluePill,oh346w,Incels complain how beautiful women don't date ugly looking guy and when they do date a guy considered unattractive then it's the Incels who are most jealous of that guy.,"They are like ""how this ugly looking bastard managed to get a hotty"".",,249,[deleted],2021-07-09 19:45:19 +TheBluePill,ogh2pn,"r/asktrp voluntarily locks down over fears of ""censorship"" lmao. pour one out",,https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/o5t1er/we_have_moved_to_forumsred_posting_here_is_locked/,160,FucqBoi_BookClub,2021-07-08 21:36:07 TheBluePill,ofvt43,How do incels deal with the global success of K-Pop?,"Incel logic says women only want strong-jawed, tall, masculine, white Chads. Asian and effeminate are considered to be the least desirable by them, right? I am genuinely curious how they justify their logic when K-Pop has taken over the minds and hearts of women across the globe. These are makeup-wearing, love song crooning Asian guys who talk about their feelings and cry on camera. They always have an answer for everything but I haven't come across one yet. I even searched ""kpop"" on TRP and only came up with posts about feminists destroying Asian men by making them have hair that's ""better than Taylor Swift"" (what?). But I only read as much as I could stomach. -People with stronger stomachs: How do incels justify women's love of K-Pop idols?",,315,yourwildlight,1625703740.0 -TheBluePill,ofrdjw,At what age could someone be considered an incel?,I read a comment on a post here a while back that said anyone under the age of 22-23 shouldn’t be considered an incel because they’re too young. I understand that a lot of young guys could have their insecurities preyed upon by incel ideologies so that it would be inappropriate to label them incels at such an age. So my question is there an age at which a guy would be justified in having concerns about his “incel” status?,,61,Comprehensive-City75,1625689715.0 +People with stronger stomachs: How do incels justify women's love of K-Pop idols?",,315,yourwildlight,2021-07-08 00:22:20 +TheBluePill,ofrdjw,At what age could someone be considered an incel?,I read a comment on a post here a while back that said anyone under the age of 22-23 shouldn’t be considered an incel because they’re too young. I understand that a lot of young guys could have their insecurities preyed upon by incel ideologies so that it would be inappropriate to label them incels at such an age. So my question is there an age at which a guy would be justified in having concerns about his “incel” status?,,61,Comprehensive-City75,2021-07-07 20:28:35 TheBluePill,off262,Is the manosphere pretty much dead?,"Forgive me if this is a sort of indulgent post, but it's something I've kinda been stewing over since last January and wanted to get my feelings out. The reason the January date above is significant is that it was when Dalrock's blog finally kicked the bucket and stopped updating. That made me think--as far as I know, Dalrock was one of the last few ""big-name"" manospherians by that time. Literally all the other ones I could think of--Matt Forney, Heartiste, Roosh, along with a host of lesser-known but still prominent PUA/anti-misandry/etc. bloggers had either gone full right-wing grifter or just disappeared, or both. Again, as far as I know, the only one who writes semi-consistently is Rollo. Not just that, but the notoriety of the manosphere seems to have died down too. I remember back in the late 00s and throughout the 2010s--to my shame, as I've mentioned before, I was drifting around the manosphere at that time, though as I've also mentioned at /r/exredpill, I thankfully escaped before I could ever get involved in any of the drama and BS--the manosphere was often in the news. People would get angry over some dumb article posted at ""Pro-Male/Anti-Feminist Tech,"" or Return of Kings, or Matt Forney's blog, or A Voice for Men, whatever. People would complain on a regular basis about the Redpill and MGTOW subreddits. Sometimes manosphere scumbags would go out and kill people, like Eliot Rodgers. Nowadays, though? Like I said, all the big manosphere blogs and sites are either down, defunct, or inactive. As far as I can tell, nobody really cares about the mgtow and redpill subs after they got quarantined, which cut down on their activity a decent bit. MGTOW youtubers? Barbarossaaa, Niko Choski, and a lot of similar guys left the scene due to drama and backbiting (among other things), Turd Flinging Monkey's just posting sex toy reviews, and so on. -We unfortunately get incel mass shooters/criminals occasionally, but that seems to be the only real legacy the manosphere has left. I've been hanging around /r/thebluepill for a long time now, this was the first sub I joined on Reddit. But even the flow of content here has slowed. I don't think that's a bad thing, because it seems to be due to how the manosphere itself has decayed. It just does kind of feel bittersweet to me though because I've had so many laughs and good discussions from here over the years. I was just wondering if anyone feels the same. Any other long-time Bluepillers get the feeling that the manosphere has pretty much withered away to irrelevance these days?",,28,Gunlord500,1625647968.0 -TheBluePill,of9sgx,RED👏PILLERS👏DEFENDING👏RAPIST❗This is were we're at!,,https://youtu.be/Xx_4YMx-AHk,76,MicahMX700,1625624827.0 -TheBluePill,oeso10,MGTOWs and Red Pillers are so homophobic :(,,https://imgur.com/uS9pmJy,111,Loud-Ad4422,1625569307.0 -TheBluePill,oaey75,What HYPERGAMY REALLY IS❗,,/r/exredpill/comments/oa9h3z/i_dont_believe_in_hypergamy_but_if_it_was_real/,45,MicahMX700,1624993490.0 -TheBluePill,o9pxlm,TheRedPill: Men who sleep with many women are powerful. Women who sleep with many men are worthless whores,,https://archive.is/R9iw0,214,equalityworldwide,1624903864.0 -TheBluePill,o8pnx8,One guy and his pet peeve about women.,,https://i.redd.it/n9uxfzzafq771.jpg,231,Maleficent_Agent1121,1624766445.0 -TheBluePill,o6pez2,This is what RP should be about. Freaking brilliant.,,https://i.redd.it/5uzm7gpuv3771.jpg,3,sunsurfer831602,1624493552.0 -TheBluePill,o6agw7,I am not a Puzzle Box,,https://faerye.net/post/the-puzzle-box,18,Terpomo11,1624445881.0 -TheBluePill,o5wke0,"Just so you know, a woman can only like tall men if she’s tall herself. At least 5’7.",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/o5wke0,165,Maleficent_Agent1121,1624393937.0 +We unfortunately get incel mass shooters/criminals occasionally, but that seems to be the only real legacy the manosphere has left. I've been hanging around /r/thebluepill for a long time now, this was the first sub I joined on Reddit. But even the flow of content here has slowed. I don't think that's a bad thing, because it seems to be due to how the manosphere itself has decayed. It just does kind of feel bittersweet to me though because I've had so many laughs and good discussions from here over the years. I was just wondering if anyone feels the same. Any other long-time Bluepillers get the feeling that the manosphere has pretty much withered away to irrelevance these days?",,28,Gunlord500,2021-07-07 08:52:48 +TheBluePill,of9sgx,RED👏PILLERS👏DEFENDING👏RAPIST❗This is were we're at!,,https://youtu.be/Xx_4YMx-AHk,76,MicahMX700,2021-07-07 02:27:07 +TheBluePill,oeso10,MGTOWs and Red Pillers are so homophobic :(,,https://imgur.com/uS9pmJy,111,Loud-Ad4422,2021-07-06 11:01:47 +TheBluePill,oaey75,What HYPERGAMY REALLY IS❗,,/r/exredpill/comments/oa9h3z/i_dont_believe_in_hypergamy_but_if_it_was_real/,45,MicahMX700,2021-06-29 19:04:50 +TheBluePill,o9pxlm,TheRedPill: Men who sleep with many women are powerful. Women who sleep with many men are worthless whores,,https://archive.is/R9iw0,214,equalityworldwide,2021-06-28 18:11:04 +TheBluePill,o8pnx8,One guy and his pet peeve about women.,,https://i.redd.it/n9uxfzzafq771.jpg,231,Maleficent_Agent1121,2021-06-27 04:00:45 +TheBluePill,o6pez2,This is what RP should be about. Freaking brilliant.,,https://i.redd.it/5uzm7gpuv3771.jpg,3,sunsurfer831602,2021-06-24 00:12:32 +TheBluePill,o6agw7,I am not a Puzzle Box,,https://faerye.net/post/the-puzzle-box,18,Terpomo11,2021-06-23 10:58:01 +TheBluePill,o5wke0,"Just so you know, a woman can only like tall men if she’s tall herself. At least 5’7.",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/o5wke0,165,Maleficent_Agent1121,2021-06-22 20:32:17 TheBluePill,o6kndl,The 'Karens Are Just Racists' Trope Is Pure BS- Karens Do Not Discriminate & Make Life Hell For All Men Of Every Race & Always Have,"While it is nice to see Karens finally get what they deserve and knocked down 10 pegs, it is all for the wrong reasons. Before Karens were caught on video directing their Karen behavior towards black men several times in a row and called out, it was forbidden to criticize women at all, *ever* for any reason because they have become untouchable in American society, above the law and above all reproach. But because white women rank below blacks on the victim total pole and it was blacks who they were caught victimizing, it was only now permissible to criticize a woman in the U.S.A. I'm white and like all white men and men of every race I have suffered the never ending horrors of Karens and their entitlement and false accusations and ever present threat of a false accusation if you do not allow them to rule over you. By making Karens' behavior all about race and racism we are sending the wrong implied message that all Karens have to do is take intensive critical race theory courses and they will be 'cured,' when the real problem is their insane entitlement, feeling of supreme superiority ethically and in every other way hence while they feel the need to spend all day policing the world with obviously nothing else better to do because ironically they contribute nothing but excrement to the world. -100% all the results of the cancerous, toxic effects of half a century of Feminism on the US female we are forbidden to discuss or else told.. wait for it.. 'you hate women,' simply in order to shut you up",,1,Ill_Pound5579,1624478251.0 -TheBluePill,o20uzm,What is up with these toxic masculinity weirdos being creepily obsessed with impregnation and breeding?,,"https://static.wixstatic.com/media/879f1e_46527ecb6bbc48169ccf7a9405f21e3d~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_600,h_550,al_c,q_80,usm_0.66_1.00_0.01/E3w7yOUVkAQkOzb.webp",177,Hi_El_Pu_Ba,1623946150.0 -TheBluePill,o23xnc,Fucqboi Book Club: 'The Myth of Male POwer' by Warren Farrell,,https://soundcloud.com/fucqboi-bookclub/the-myth-of-male-power-1,15,FucqBoi_BookClub,1623954096.0 +100% all the results of the cancerous, toxic effects of half a century of Feminism on the US female we are forbidden to discuss or else told.. wait for it.. 'you hate women,' simply in order to shut you up",,1,Ill_Pound5579,2021-06-23 19:57:31 +TheBluePill,o20uzm,What is up with these toxic masculinity weirdos being creepily obsessed with impregnation and breeding?,,"https://static.wixstatic.com/media/879f1e_46527ecb6bbc48169ccf7a9405f21e3d~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_600,h_550,al_c,q_80,usm_0.66_1.00_0.01/E3w7yOUVkAQkOzb.webp",177,Hi_El_Pu_Ba,2021-06-17 16:09:10 +TheBluePill,o23xnc,Fucqboi Book Club: 'The Myth of Male POwer' by Warren Farrell,,https://soundcloud.com/fucqboi-bookclub/the-myth-of-male-power-1,15,FucqBoi_BookClub,2021-06-17 18:21:36 TheBluePill,o1oy25,TRP has rapists.," I can feel it... I just see subtle indicators. Misogyny... @@ -45491,31 +45491,31 @@ They see a fictional man “chad” with “mental issues” going towards women The thing is the women “taken advantage of by chad” are insecure and don’t know themselves enough to put boundaries. They feel attraction to anyone who portrays themself as more powerful idk. There’s a bit of manipulation and telling the woman to trust the guy more than her intuition. It’s a game played. -There’s a “mind game” that men want to learn to play on women which never works on a woman who knows herself but will work on a young naive woman.",,177,Odd_Elegance,1623905888.0 -TheBluePill,nzychv,Apparently no woman ever chops vegetables anymore and society is in danger.,,https://archive.is/3sorO,130,[deleted],1623708323.0 -TheBluePill,nzc9ip,"Could be a troll, but is it bad to receive love from your girlfriend???",,https://i.imgur.com/QfVKiMj.jpg,329,Hi_El_Pu_Ba,1623637155.0 -TheBluePill,nz0urp,"Why are people THIS afraid of marriage? Is it trauma? Does shitting on married people make them happy? Imagine living like this, my god.",,https://i.imgur.com/ZmxSqfX.jpg,401,Hi_El_Pu_Ba,1623603863.0 -TheBluePill,nyb2o0,"Ah yes, porn, not being muscular, and beans are harmful, but violence, killing, and possibly rape are totally okay!!",,https://i.imgur.com/IpaD0Qy.png,186,[deleted],1623516851.0 -TheBluePill,nxq65c,"""Men should be dangerous and evil. That is good for society""",,https://i.imgur.com/V0eTepl.png,251,[deleted],1623445373.0 -TheBluePill,nxzcjt,Some People Try Way Too Hard to Prove Their Masculinity (As If They Even Get Dates),,https://i.imgur.com/bVZGh24.png,34,[deleted],1623475308.0 -TheBluePill,nwaufw,Turns out The Red Pill is literally estrogen,,https://www.newsweek.com/matrix-creator-red-pill-trans-allegory-mens-rights-activists-1523669,149,HesterMacaulay,1623285849.0 -TheBluePill,nvp15a,/r/TheBluePill perpetual remedial re-education propaganda,,https://youtu.be/EwZhKGgmoUI,34,SignalAVirtueToday,1623220002.0 -TheBluePill,nvaqcv,"If women don’t give sex even if they’re unhappy with the relationship, they will end up with multiple children by different men.",,https://i.redd.it/ygyct2jr33471.jpg,267,NoCardiologist8249,1623176561.0 -TheBluePill,nt4jmf,"I have evidence that a pickup company, a very ‘notorious’ pickup company, is still selling a program that teaches men literal rape.",,/r/cults/comments/nt428z/i_have_evidence_that_a_pickup_company_a_very/,158,[deleted],1622924723.0 -TheBluePill,nrvjwy,Women are ungrateful for the male attention we get and should go through what men do or shut up 😂,,https://i.redd.it/xivt4a7z46371.jpg,205,Maleficent_Agent1121,1622777442.0 -TheBluePill,nrssqn,TheRedpill: The Obesity Crisis and the Inflated valuation of the American Woman,,https://archive.is/Hc6DC#selection-2237.0-2287.136,90,equalityworldwide,1622768281.0 +There’s a “mind game” that men want to learn to play on women which never works on a woman who knows herself but will work on a young naive woman.",,177,Odd_Elegance,2021-06-17 04:58:08 +TheBluePill,nzychv,Apparently no woman ever chops vegetables anymore and society is in danger.,,https://archive.is/3sorO,130,[deleted],2021-06-14 22:05:23 +TheBluePill,nzc9ip,"Could be a troll, but is it bad to receive love from your girlfriend???",,https://i.imgur.com/QfVKiMj.jpg,329,Hi_El_Pu_Ba,2021-06-14 02:19:15 +TheBluePill,nz0urp,"Why are people THIS afraid of marriage? Is it trauma? Does shitting on married people make them happy? Imagine living like this, my god.",,https://i.imgur.com/ZmxSqfX.jpg,401,Hi_El_Pu_Ba,2021-06-13 17:04:23 +TheBluePill,nyb2o0,"Ah yes, porn, not being muscular, and beans are harmful, but violence, killing, and possibly rape are totally okay!!",,https://i.imgur.com/IpaD0Qy.png,186,[deleted],2021-06-12 16:54:11 +TheBluePill,nxq65c,"""Men should be dangerous and evil. That is good for society""",,https://i.imgur.com/V0eTepl.png,251,[deleted],2021-06-11 21:02:53 +TheBluePill,nxzcjt,Some People Try Way Too Hard to Prove Their Masculinity (As If They Even Get Dates),,https://i.imgur.com/bVZGh24.png,34,[deleted],2021-06-12 05:21:48 +TheBluePill,nwaufw,Turns out The Red Pill is literally estrogen,,https://www.newsweek.com/matrix-creator-red-pill-trans-allegory-mens-rights-activists-1523669,149,HesterMacaulay,2021-06-10 00:44:09 +TheBluePill,nvp15a,/r/TheBluePill perpetual remedial re-education propaganda,,https://youtu.be/EwZhKGgmoUI,34,SignalAVirtueToday,2021-06-09 06:26:42 +TheBluePill,nvaqcv,"If women don’t give sex even if they’re unhappy with the relationship, they will end up with multiple children by different men.",,https://i.redd.it/ygyct2jr33471.jpg,267,NoCardiologist8249,2021-06-08 18:22:41 +TheBluePill,nt4jmf,"I have evidence that a pickup company, a very ‘notorious’ pickup company, is still selling a program that teaches men literal rape.",,/r/cults/comments/nt428z/i_have_evidence_that_a_pickup_company_a_very/,158,[deleted],2021-06-05 20:25:23 +TheBluePill,nrvjwy,Women are ungrateful for the male attention we get and should go through what men do or shut up 😂,,https://i.redd.it/xivt4a7z46371.jpg,205,Maleficent_Agent1121,2021-06-04 03:30:42 +TheBluePill,nrssqn,TheRedpill: The Obesity Crisis and the Inflated valuation of the American Woman,,https://archive.is/Hc6DC#selection-2237.0-2287.136,90,equalityworldwide,2021-06-04 00:58:01 TheBluePill,nq9ll9,It's so easy to get sucked into MGTOW after a breakup,"Just recently got broken up with by a long term girlfriend and my phone must've known. Because I started getting so many MGTOW comps on my youtube feed. Some of the videos are outright sexist and disgusting...but other people on them make me feel like they have sound advice and are there for me. Others seem to have really good emotional self help tips for us guys. Gives me the feeling as if I have support. I don't want to become the ***wamen in the kitchen*** type, but it's difficult not to get sucked into these MGTOW comps when some of the guys make you feel heard with their experiences and advice. The WORST and most disgustingly toxic advice I've heard from a few videos: ""*If you think you love her, cheat on her. If you feel bad, then she's the one. Keep doing this periodically to be sure.*"" Ya, absolutely not thank you very much. YOU are the problem. -Thank you for reading my vent. Any tips to not get sucked into this rabbithole to the point of toxicity would be appreciated, or just ""blue pill"" me as they would say in the redpill community.",,289,[deleted],1622595971.0 -TheBluePill,nop3jx,Neckbeard mad his video game character (set in a post apocalyptic world) isn’t a smokeshow he can crank to,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/noh4u2,227,FoeHamma,1622423631.0 -TheBluePill,nohbgp,r/TheRedPill teaching members how to build a cult,,https://archive.is/n1sAb,60,equalityworldwide,1622399503.0 +Thank you for reading my vent. Any tips to not get sucked into this rabbithole to the point of toxicity would be appreciated, or just ""blue pill"" me as they would say in the redpill community.",,289,[deleted],2021-06-02 01:06:11 +TheBluePill,nop3jx,Neckbeard mad his video game character (set in a post apocalyptic world) isn’t a smokeshow he can crank to,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/noh4u2,227,FoeHamma,2021-05-31 01:13:51 +TheBluePill,nohbgp,r/TheRedPill teaching members how to build a cult,,https://archive.is/n1sAb,60,equalityworldwide,2021-05-30 18:31:43 TheBluePill,nm36em,What how do you feel about FDS representing 34.16% of The Purple Pill Debate?,"54.96% of this sub are also in The Purple Pill Debate. Do you agree with FDS beliefs? Do you think they can be accurate representatives of what you believe in a debate with The Red Pill? -I am asking this because they have very strong and controversial opinions about gender just like MGTOW and The Red Pill. And there is no significant number of FDS members in this sub.",,57,HitTheSlopes95,1622105696.0 +I am asking this because they have very strong and controversial opinions about gender just like MGTOW and The Red Pill. And there is no significant number of FDS members in this sub.",,57,HitTheSlopes95,2021-05-27 08:54:56 TheBluePill,niwef4,"Coach Red Pill has (probable) falling out with East European wife - now advises his like-minded friends to pivot to Asia - as a progressive Asian, I'm WORRIED 😨","https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=c4rwgqFTN0k @@ -45533,8 +45533,8 @@ This is the type of backward-minded man who is fleeing to Asia in droves - men w When a man calls any type of woman garbage, you know what kind of a man he is. If a guy like CRP gets into an argument with her, is he going to discard her like a piece of garbage? Most of my Asian female friends (who are university educated) actually treat these alt right Red Pillers with opprobrium. What makes me really angry is that these fellas like CRP, who think that Asian women are more docile, come to Asia and behave in a disorderly manner, getting drunk, groping the local women and taking liberties they would not dare if they visited a European country. Remember the live steamer Eliegato Li who was groped in Japan by that drunk Caucasian man? (Please don't think I'm lumping all Caucasian men as the same as these are just a tiny minority of Western men) I would NOT be surprised if that guy was some hardcore Red Pill/MGTOW follower. In fact, a South African acquaintance of mine actually tried that at a Malaysian nightclub and he had to get stitches at Sunway Medical Centre after a dude smashed a beer bottle in his face because he was going around harassing the local girls. A GORGEOUS Chindian (half Chinese half Indian) friend of mine also lamented that when she goes to bars, she meets expats like this who automatically presume that she'd be interested in going out on a date with them just because they happen to be white. -I just wanted to correct this misconception people like CRP have about Asian culture, lumping Asian women in one category. As an Asian, I am deeply offended and disgusted, and I want you to know that we Asians who are educated and informed typically view these men like Coach Red Pill as garbage bags, and we are NOT subservient to them just because they happen to be white. Peace.",,232,the_C_Atheist,1621731059.0 -TheBluePill,nf7dqi,"MGTOW wants to remove women's right to vote by using ""the 2nd amendment"" the way it ""was intended for"" and ""reset society"", in other words ""lets murder people to oppress women""",,https://i.redd.it/fm82cg52yuz61.jpg,307,onlyforsex,1621334524.0 +I just wanted to correct this misconception people like CRP have about Asian culture, lumping Asian women in one category. As an Asian, I am deeply offended and disgusted, and I want you to know that we Asians who are educated and informed typically view these men like Coach Red Pill as garbage bags, and we are NOT subservient to them just because they happen to be white. Peace.",,232,the_C_Atheist,2021-05-23 00:50:59 +TheBluePill,nf7dqi,"MGTOW wants to remove women's right to vote by using ""the 2nd amendment"" the way it ""was intended for"" and ""reset society"", in other words ""lets murder people to oppress women""",,https://i.redd.it/fm82cg52yuz61.jpg,307,onlyforsex,2021-05-18 10:42:04 TheBluePill,neo8cl,Talk on the pseudoscience of The Manosphere happening this Thursday,"I'm not 100% sure if this is allowable content, but it's just so relevant to this subreddit. This account is run by Cambridge Students Against Pseudoscience which is a university society that seeks to understand and counteract pseudoscience in its many forms. We're hosting a speaker for an online event at 11 am BST who will talk about pseudoscience present in the Red Pill ideology and I thought some of you might be interested. The event description is as follows: @@ -45547,10 +45547,10 @@ The event description is as follows: It seemed highly relevant to the conversations I see going on here and seeing as we're running events online at the moment it's a good opportunity if you want to come and hear the talk and ask questions. Again apologies if this is promotion is too shameful. -Here is the link to sign up if you're intrested: [https://linktr.ee/students.against.pseudoscience](https://linktr.ee/students.against.pseudoscience)",,57,againstpseudoscience,1621276948.0 +Here is the link to sign up if you're intrested: [https://linktr.ee/students.against.pseudoscience](https://linktr.ee/students.against.pseudoscience)",,57,againstpseudoscience,2021-05-17 18:42:28 TheBluePill,neb0hg,Why is there so much incel shit on Instagram?,"The last few months it seems to have exploded. Previously good meme feeds that have become infested with incel and red pill bullshit, incel comments getting liked to the moon... -Why is there so much of them, and why do they choose to have such fucked up views on women? I just hope the women in their lives see their comments and steer clear of that shit. Smh",,179,Peterselieblaadje,1621241564.0 +Why is there so much of them, and why do they choose to have such fucked up views on women? I just hope the women in their lives see their comments and steer clear of that shit. Smh",,179,Peterselieblaadje,2021-05-17 08:52:44 TheBluePill,nbia0b,I see through Kevin Samuels’s bullshit,"I detected a fundamental resentment for women when he appeared on Budden’s podcast he recited the chorus of TLC’s “No Scrubs” all seriously, saying women prop themselves up by hating on men and “can even get rich off it.” First off, this is one of a VERY small handful of pop songs by women that actually spoke negatively of men. Would anyone even deny there are a million times more pop lyrics comprised of men belittling women? Shameless cherrypick fallacy. When I make this point to any of his fans, they say “you just can’t accept the truth!” I consider that a generalization fallacy as I agree with many biological essentialist perspectives, but he goes a clickbait-y step too far every time. Consider how his “telling it like it is” aligns with simple old-world misogyny: @@ -45568,18 +45568,18 @@ He told one woman she should give up all custody of her children to the father ( And to boot, we’re taking advice on the importance of marriage and how to stay married from a twice-divorced, single 52yo male. Ask yourself if you can even picture this man maintaining equal respect and satisfaction with a woman in a relationship. -I’m so saddened that any woman would believe that this is the frightening, austere personality of most “high value” men.",,214,jx5jx5,1620917098.0 -TheBluePill,na5jbc,"Let me introduce you to ""master"" pickup-artist, Q-anon propagandist, and full-on red-pill cult leader Arash Dibazar and his ""IMC Nation"".",,https://i.redd.it/o2ablo596jy61.png,280,[deleted],1620761681.0 -TheBluePill,n8eyyh,sick apparently im a whore and a slut,,https://i.redd.it/wovf8jpcr3y61.png,45,StaleChips1,1620569422.0 -TheBluePill,n6aa5d,todays movies will make men weak,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NgIDgGqzPgc&t=132s,14,eliterule12,1620315921.0 -TheBluePill,n5sxii,I love this description of Chad,,https://archive.is/klNqG,62,equalityworldwide,1620255085.0 -TheBluePill,n0v5sr,"Ian Miles Cheong, aka the dude who called you a beta male online",,https://i.redd.it/7tr6u0ud6zv61.jpg,171,FoeHamma,1619664442.0 -TheBluePill,n0yl11,Dating advice from the Q collectivve,,https://i.redd.it/a74q4h3zxyv61.png,29,ForgedIronMadeIt,1619678540.0 -TheBluePill,mxhknk,The Manosphere in One Image,,https://i.redd.it/0tc8pxiup3v61.jpg,737,snarkerposey11,1619261388.0 +I’m so saddened that any woman would believe that this is the frightening, austere personality of most “high value” men.",,214,jx5jx5,2021-05-13 14:44:58 +TheBluePill,na5jbc,"Let me introduce you to ""master"" pickup-artist, Q-anon propagandist, and full-on red-pill cult leader Arash Dibazar and his ""IMC Nation"".",,https://i.redd.it/o2ablo596jy61.png,280,[deleted],2021-05-11 19:34:41 +TheBluePill,n8eyyh,sick apparently im a whore and a slut,,https://i.redd.it/wovf8jpcr3y61.png,45,StaleChips1,2021-05-09 14:10:22 +TheBluePill,n6aa5d,todays movies will make men weak,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NgIDgGqzPgc&t=132s,14,eliterule12,2021-05-06 15:45:21 +TheBluePill,n5sxii,I love this description of Chad,,https://archive.is/klNqG,62,equalityworldwide,2021-05-05 22:51:25 +TheBluePill,n0v5sr,"Ian Miles Cheong, aka the dude who called you a beta male online",,https://i.redd.it/7tr6u0ud6zv61.jpg,171,FoeHamma,2021-04-29 02:47:22 +TheBluePill,n0yl11,Dating advice from the Q collectivve,,https://i.redd.it/a74q4h3zxyv61.png,29,ForgedIronMadeIt,2021-04-29 06:42:20 +TheBluePill,mxhknk,The Manosphere in One Image,,https://i.redd.it/0tc8pxiup3v61.jpg,737,snarkerposey11,2021-04-24 10:49:48 TheBluePill,muvzmj,You seem like the people to ask,"Took me a second to realize what this sub even was. So anyway, you all seem to keep track of the MGTOWs and incel fuckery out there. Are these the people responsible for this April 24th panic I'm hearing about? -I can't seem to find any of these actual posts all the news stories are talking about. Just news stories about them, and people talking about said news stories. I'm trying to determine if this is some kind of prank, or if the incels finally went cuckoo.",,86,[deleted],1618940762.0 -TheBluePill,mv08f1,How do I stop being a volcas (voluntary casanova)?,"Background: I'm an absolute alpha winner with everything to offer the world. I can't count the times and ways that I have been told ""please stop"" by involuntarily sex workers. I'm tired of being so successful around women. I wish these involuntarily submissive women didn't expect so much from me. I want to stop wasting time scratching the skin below my watch and be a boring genuine wholesome dude for once.",,8,Unexpected-Pringle77,1618952284.0 +I can't seem to find any of these actual posts all the news stories are talking about. Just news stories about them, and people talking about said news stories. I'm trying to determine if this is some kind of prank, or if the incels finally went cuckoo.",,86,[deleted],2021-04-20 17:46:02 +TheBluePill,mv08f1,How do I stop being a volcas (voluntary casanova)?,"Background: I'm an absolute alpha winner with everything to offer the world. I can't count the times and ways that I have been told ""please stop"" by involuntarily sex workers. I'm tired of being so successful around women. I wish these involuntarily submissive women didn't expect so much from me. I want to stop wasting time scratching the skin below my watch and be a boring genuine wholesome dude for once.",,8,Unexpected-Pringle77,2021-04-20 20:58:04 TheBluePill,mu0bm4,Why Kevin Samuels is not worth following,"A couple of months ago I checked out several red pill videos and found the most toxic channel out there, which is unfortunately growing like wild fire and is hosted by Kevin Samuels. Here are a list of reasons why he is not worth following: @@ -45603,8 +45603,8 @@ Here are a list of reasons why he is not worth following: • His vision of men is truly dangerous: he correlates the value of men only with money and men become a walking paycheck, without identity, and who do not have to develop character, values or morals and who only have their absence appreciated instead of their presence • His vision of women as money sucking humans, without pride, not entitled to have feelings, feel hurt or leave because the husband pays the bills and whose only purpose and value is to breed, look good and clean and be brain washed into submission by an abusive and cheating husband who is playing his hero arc outside and is entitled to be a villain to her -If you have anything to add or disagree with leave it in the comments. I would love to know people’s opinions.",,89,WonderingFairy,1618838017.0 -TheBluePill,mtmm9i,Just found this hilarious Redpill exchange on Twitter. Featuring Rollo Tomassi: the “Rational Male”.,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/mtmm9i,830,Xintani2,1618783457.0 +If you have anything to add or disagree with leave it in the comments. I would love to know people’s opinions.",,89,WonderingFairy,2021-04-19 13:13:37 +TheBluePill,mtmm9i,Just found this hilarious Redpill exchange on Twitter. Featuring Rollo Tomassi: the “Rational Male”.,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/mtmm9i,830,Xintani2,2021-04-18 22:04:17 TheBluePill,mtrbnw,An Upton Sinclair quote for the Manosphere,"It's been quite a long time since I've written anything for TBP or exredpill (I've x-posted this essay to the other community and to my blog). I haven't felt the need to in quite a while, partially because the manosphere itself seems pretty dead these days--a subject likely worth a post of its own. But on a whim I looked at one of the few ""old-school"" manospambot sites that are still around, and a comment I caught really struck me. I figured it was worth dusting off my ol' manospambot analysis goggles and taking a good look at it, because it really was quite educational. A couple days ago at the time of this writing, Rollo Tomassi wrote a post that started off as this: @@ -45635,10 +45635,10 @@ Again, think about it. Let's say you've truly internalized MGTOW ideology and wo (I'm not even gonna go into the blackpill/incel stuff--those guys might not be venal, but they sure are nuts. Any sensible man would just avoid that scene absolutely and entirely) -I can understand why a lot of guys get sucked into the manosphere stuff at first--I did too a while back. Thankfully I was just a reader and observer, so I wasn't involved in any real drama, nor did I spend money on any of their books or products. But if any younger guys are reading this now, and have started to get attracted to either the ""rational male"" stuff you see from guys like Rollo, or the MGTOW stuff you see from guys like his commenter, well, just keep this in mind. These guys aren't necessarily angels and they're not necessarily interested in your well-being first and foremost. I won't tell you what to believe, and I'm certainly not gonna tell you to go off and get married, but I am going to tell you that a bit of skepticism in regards to what you read, both from me and the guys I'm talking about, will serve you well indeed. Though the fact that I'm not asking you to buy a book or donate to a patreon might be proof I'm a little less likely to disappoint a skeptic ;)",,27,Gunlord500,1618799915.0 -TheBluePill,mt7hpl,I just got mansplained what I get turned on by to me.,,https://i.redd.it/u5t4g28ckvt61.jpg,170,MwahMwahKitteh,1618726799.0 -TheBluePill,msucj3,MGTOW: Giving women the right to vote was the beginning of the downfall of Western civilization,,https://i.redd.it/esdltr0g3rt61.png,153,equalityworldwide,1618678389.0 -TheBluePill,mrv48l,"""I Don't Want Her Validation, I Want Her Submission""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/mrqwf1/i_dont_want_her_validation_i_want_her_submission/,109,PablomentFanquedelic,1618544580.0 +I can understand why a lot of guys get sucked into the manosphere stuff at first--I did too a while back. Thankfully I was just a reader and observer, so I wasn't involved in any real drama, nor did I spend money on any of their books or products. But if any younger guys are reading this now, and have started to get attracted to either the ""rational male"" stuff you see from guys like Rollo, or the MGTOW stuff you see from guys like his commenter, well, just keep this in mind. These guys aren't necessarily angels and they're not necessarily interested in your well-being first and foremost. I won't tell you what to believe, and I'm certainly not gonna tell you to go off and get married, but I am going to tell you that a bit of skepticism in regards to what you read, both from me and the guys I'm talking about, will serve you well indeed. Though the fact that I'm not asking you to buy a book or donate to a patreon might be proof I'm a little less likely to disappoint a skeptic ;)",,27,Gunlord500,2021-04-19 02:38:35 +TheBluePill,mt7hpl,I just got mansplained what I get turned on by to me.,,https://i.redd.it/u5t4g28ckvt61.jpg,170,MwahMwahKitteh,2021-04-18 06:19:59 +TheBluePill,msucj3,MGTOW: Giving women the right to vote was the beginning of the downfall of Western civilization,,https://i.redd.it/esdltr0g3rt61.png,153,equalityworldwide,2021-04-17 16:53:09 +TheBluePill,mrv48l,"""I Don't Want Her Validation, I Want Her Submission""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/mrqwf1/i_dont_want_her_validation_i_want_her_submission/,109,PablomentFanquedelic,2021-04-16 03:43:00 TheBluePill,mqbe0p,Need some information and advice,"I’m conflicted. I recently got sucked in to watching @truenationredpill’s tiktoks for like an hour+. (i put the @ in case anyone wants to check it out) He explains red pill tactics and provides anecdotes and examples. I’m not gonna lie. Some of the tactics and shit he says seems like it would be logical. Also, I saw this tiktok where this mans wife told him that “you would be hotter if you cheated on me.” Thought it was weird. I checked the comments, and there were some people saying that “she wants to be reminded that women desire you,” and “familiarity breeds contempt.” @@ -45651,21 +45651,21 @@ What should I do to keep her interested if she’s already secure within herself Also I want to comment on something that my girlfriend told me for some reason. She said that she called her friend and was “hey do you think (my name) is cute, like is that still the general consensus?” Her friend said yes, but it was weird that she would even ask that, as if she had doubts herself.. which is even weirder because she’s admitted several times that I’m out of her league. -Any advice? My thoughts are very scrambled and long,I apologize .",,9,bdove382,1618347352.0 -TheBluePill,mq3gz9,MGTOW2: Women 30+ are “deformed monsters”,,https://archive.is/2021.04.13-143015/https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW2/comments/mq1mr8/i_25m_switched_my_tinder_preferences_to_3045_and/,17,[deleted],1618324380.0 -TheBluePill,mq1li9,"Advice from The Red Pill: ""We live in a world where simps allow their girlfriends to spread their cheeks on Onlyfans while they cry silently. People pleasing robs men of their personal power. It kills them from the inside out like a vicious cancer.""",,https://web.archive.org/web/20210412161034/https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/mph3bh/we_live_in_a_world_where_simps_allow_their/,10,And_be_one_traveler,1618318283.0 -TheBluePill,molmib,"Excellent news, ladies! We finally have a ~*man*~ here to explain to us what we find attractive!",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheBluePill/comments/mmdcx2/i_can_strongly_recommend_the_channel_charisma_on/gu3ohk5/?context=3,109,HesterMacaulay,1618121465.0 -TheBluePill,mnrpay,A review for the Blue Lagoon I found on Amazon reviews,,https://i.redd.it/0b7yb4qoz7s61.jpg,206,Susan0908,1618005548.0 -TheBluePill,mmdcx2,I can strongly recommend the channel Charisma on Command for anyone looking for self-improvement resources without the misogynyof TRP,,https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCU_W0oE_ock8bWKjALiGs8Q,43,-Aegle-,1617833590.0 -TheBluePill,mleqzt,Disgusting comments by MGTOWers in r/MGTOWBan,,/r/MGTOWBan/comments/mjimfe/a_list_of_disgusting_comments_in_this_sub_from/,13,[deleted],1617724297.0 -TheBluePill,mjs06g,A turned table. Using their tactics against them,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/mjs06g,408,hazeybop,1617523622.0 -TheBluePill,mjc584,"""I raw dogged a prostitute behind my wife's back, rate my dread game fellas""",,https://www.np.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/e8ey96/caught_std_what_to_tell_wife/,125,sneedsformerlychucks,1617468216.0 -TheBluePill,mjj22c,A list of disgusting comments from MGTOW,,/r/MGTOWBan/comments/mjimfe/a_list_of_disgusting_comments_in_this_sub_from/,22,[deleted],1617489540.0 -TheBluePill,mivty8,MGTOW is a danger to society,,https://i.redd.it/ffre2gfrs7q61.jpg,217,[deleted],1617404138.0 -TheBluePill,miugam,MGTOW on why men age better than women,,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/mi3cgd/women_my_age_look_much_older_than_they_actually/gt3i3ou?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3,19,[deleted],1617399891.0 -TheBluePill,mi1ykz,This is the most heartbreaking thing I’ve read in a long time.,(https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/g2ayww/my_boyfriend_didnt_want_to_buy_me_a_car_and_now_i/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf),,104,Xintani2,1617302470.0 -TheBluePill,mfw61y,Women sports are so ignored,,https://i.redd.it/j8t4i7qmmyp61.jpg,422,underthecovers49,1617042804.0 -TheBluePill,mfiofs,"LOL, WAATGM is just incel memes now.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen/comments/mfc6z4/tale_as_old_as_time/,76,[deleted],1616996510.0 +Any advice? My thoughts are very scrambled and long,I apologize .",,9,bdove382,2021-04-13 20:55:52 +TheBluePill,mq3gz9,MGTOW2: Women 30+ are “deformed monsters”,,https://archive.is/2021.04.13-143015/https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW2/comments/mq1mr8/i_25m_switched_my_tinder_preferences_to_3045_and/,17,[deleted],2021-04-13 14:33:00 +TheBluePill,mq1li9,"Advice from The Red Pill: ""We live in a world where simps allow their girlfriends to spread their cheeks on Onlyfans while they cry silently. People pleasing robs men of their personal power. It kills them from the inside out like a vicious cancer.""",,https://web.archive.org/web/20210412161034/https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/mph3bh/we_live_in_a_world_where_simps_allow_their/,10,And_be_one_traveler,2021-04-13 12:51:23 +TheBluePill,molmib,"Excellent news, ladies! We finally have a ~*man*~ here to explain to us what we find attractive!",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheBluePill/comments/mmdcx2/i_can_strongly_recommend_the_channel_charisma_on/gu3ohk5/?context=3,109,HesterMacaulay,2021-04-11 06:11:05 +TheBluePill,mnrpay,A review for the Blue Lagoon I found on Amazon reviews,,https://i.redd.it/0b7yb4qoz7s61.jpg,206,Susan0908,2021-04-09 21:59:08 +TheBluePill,mmdcx2,I can strongly recommend the channel Charisma on Command for anyone looking for self-improvement resources without the misogynyof TRP,,https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCU_W0oE_ock8bWKjALiGs8Q,43,-Aegle-,2021-04-07 22:13:10 +TheBluePill,mleqzt,Disgusting comments by MGTOWers in r/MGTOWBan,,/r/MGTOWBan/comments/mjimfe/a_list_of_disgusting_comments_in_this_sub_from/,13,[deleted],2021-04-06 15:51:37 +TheBluePill,mjs06g,A turned table. Using their tactics against them,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/mjs06g,408,hazeybop,2021-04-04 08:07:02 +TheBluePill,mjc584,"""I raw dogged a prostitute behind my wife's back, rate my dread game fellas""",,https://www.np.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/e8ey96/caught_std_what_to_tell_wife/,125,sneedsformerlychucks,2021-04-03 16:43:36 +TheBluePill,mjj22c,A list of disgusting comments from MGTOW,,/r/MGTOWBan/comments/mjimfe/a_list_of_disgusting_comments_in_this_sub_from/,22,[deleted],2021-04-03 22:39:00 +TheBluePill,mivty8,MGTOW is a danger to society,,https://i.redd.it/ffre2gfrs7q61.jpg,217,[deleted],2021-04-02 22:55:38 +TheBluePill,miugam,MGTOW on why men age better than women,,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/mi3cgd/women_my_age_look_much_older_than_they_actually/gt3i3ou?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3,19,[deleted],2021-04-02 21:44:51 +TheBluePill,mi1ykz,This is the most heartbreaking thing I’ve read in a long time.,(https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/g2ayww/my_boyfriend_didnt_want_to_buy_me_a_car_and_now_i/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf),,104,Xintani2,2021-04-01 18:41:10 +TheBluePill,mfw61y,Women sports are so ignored,,https://i.redd.it/j8t4i7qmmyp61.jpg,422,underthecovers49,2021-03-29 18:33:24 +TheBluePill,mfiofs,"LOL, WAATGM is just incel memes now.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen/comments/mfc6z4/tale_as_old_as_time/,76,[deleted],2021-03-29 05:41:50 TheBluePill,meyeci,I just discovered the red pill because a guy from there sent his followers to slut shame me,"After looking into red pill I was horrified and didn’t even want to know what blue pill was. Then someone directed me over here and while I was bracing myself for more terrifying viewpoints, you guys are just making fun of how ridiculous they are. @@ -45675,8 +45675,8 @@ I can’t stop laughing at this dynamic that I have been so unaware of. Red pill: THIS IS WHAT WOMEN WANT. -Blue Pill: tHiS iS wHaT wOmEn WaNt",,325,Xintani2,1616924757.0 -TheBluePill,melsd0,Casual misogynist goes full sociopath,,https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/me3e56/q4all_have_you_ever_called_someone_out_for/gse7wja?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3,82,[deleted],1616876432.0 +Blue Pill: tHiS iS wHaT wOmEn WaNt",,325,Xintani2,2021-03-28 09:45:57 +TheBluePill,melsd0,Casual misogynist goes full sociopath,,https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/me3e56/q4all_have_you_ever_called_someone_out_for/gse7wja?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3,82,[deleted],2021-03-27 20:20:32 TheBluePill,meh7e5,"Did the Joker inspire a mass shooter, or did a mass shooter inspire Joker?","It was rumored that the man who shot up the movie theatre in aurora called himself the joker, which is purely fabricated. no relation there at all it has been confirmed. But I think the shooter himself may have inspired the Joker movie. @@ -45701,9 +45701,9 @@ I don't think I forgot any commonalities but I will add if I do. All due respect to the aurora survivors and RIP to all the poor souls who were taken. -This is just my take, someone may find it interesting.",,50,baritenor456,1616862611.0 -TheBluePill,mebb5s,Academic who actually studies subject sets the record straight on alpha males,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ZlWaePc030,13,JVaisTButerJames,1616841514.0 -TheBluePill,mdzm2r,"Professor of psychology and neuroscience debunks Red Pill myths, hints at ""corrupt sell-out academics"" who prey on frustrated mentally unwell men's insecurities (hint, hint)",,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RhRS3Ziv8xg,112,JVaisTButerJames,1616796174.0 +This is just my take, someone may find it interesting.",,50,baritenor456,2021-03-27 16:30:11 +TheBluePill,mebb5s,Academic who actually studies subject sets the record straight on alpha males,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ZlWaePc030,13,JVaisTButerJames,2021-03-27 10:38:34 +TheBluePill,mdzm2r,"Professor of psychology and neuroscience debunks Red Pill myths, hints at ""corrupt sell-out academics"" who prey on frustrated mentally unwell men's insecurities (hint, hint)",,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RhRS3Ziv8xg,112,JVaisTButerJames,2021-03-26 22:02:54 TheBluePill,me2x59,recommendation for a documentary,"I’m not sure if this post belongs here, but I have a recommendation for a short 30 minute documentary that I just watched. It’s called “Angry White Men: American Masculinity in the Age of Trump” by a feminist sociologist. It really helped me gain an understanding of how men with toxic masculinity view the world. I added the link for the trailer. @@ -45714,11 +45714,11 @@ Drawing on hundreds of hours spent in the company of a range of self-identified At once sympathetic to the tough-luck experience of many of these men, and crystal clear that the remedies they seek often miss the mark or prove self-destructive, Kimmel offers profound and practical insights into why so many white men feel they have no choice but to tenaciously cling to an anachronistic ideology of masculinity—one that’s found expression in the regressive, rage-fueled politics of resentment embodied in figures like Donald Trump. Even more importantly, he warns against ignoring this ""forgotten"" group and calls on us to create solutions that address the legitimate concerns of all Americans.” -[trailer for the documentary ](https://vimeo.com/319576647)",,47,irishonexD,1616806338.0 -TheBluePill,mcqr46,Alpha Male asks TRP how he can best fuck up his relationship due to his insecurity and control issues,,http://np.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/mchnuo/ltr_keeps_male_friends_doing_favors_for_her/,119,[deleted],1616649650.0 -TheBluePill,mc6k46,"Pot, meet kettle...",,/r/MensRights/comments/mbxo5w/mentally_healthy_well_adjusted_women_dont_go/,156,SabineLavine,1616594794.0 -TheBluePill,mcl0nj,"WAATGM commenter lauded for increasingly cringy 1,000+ word revenge fantasy",,https://np.reddit.com/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen/comments/m9t9c6/classic_woman_wants_a_man_she_uses_a_stupid/groqsua?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3,17,[deleted],1616631549.0 -TheBluePill,mb5kn6,Citation needed,,https://i.redd.it/84acaprj5lo61.jpg,196,FoeHamma,1616470331.0 +[trailer for the documentary ](https://vimeo.com/319576647)",,47,irishonexD,2021-03-27 00:52:18 +TheBluePill,mcqr46,Alpha Male asks TRP how he can best fuck up his relationship due to his insecurity and control issues,,http://np.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/mchnuo/ltr_keeps_male_friends_doing_favors_for_her/,119,[deleted],2021-03-25 05:20:50 +TheBluePill,mc6k46,"Pot, meet kettle...",,/r/MensRights/comments/mbxo5w/mentally_healthy_well_adjusted_women_dont_go/,156,SabineLavine,2021-03-24 14:06:34 +TheBluePill,mcl0nj,"WAATGM commenter lauded for increasingly cringy 1,000+ word revenge fantasy",,https://np.reddit.com/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen/comments/m9t9c6/classic_woman_wants_a_man_she_uses_a_stupid/groqsua?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3,17,[deleted],2021-03-25 00:19:09 +TheBluePill,mb5kn6,Citation needed,,https://i.redd.it/84acaprj5lo61.jpg,196,FoeHamma,2021-03-23 03:32:11 TheBluePill,mbmuox,“Man has as many masters as he has vices” ~ a response,"There seems to be this favorite quote among the Red Pill community, and it goes something like this: “Man has as many masters as he has vices.” The quote, attributed to St. Augustine, has been making its rounds all over the internet, appearing in several comment sections as a “rebuttal” to the original post. It will usually be used in the following context: A Red Piller targets a Blue Piller’s video/post by typing a whirlwind of insults in the comments below, prompting the Blue Piller to ask the Red Piller why they cannot simply let people live freely and do what they want in peace, to which the Red Piller will respond by copy and pasting the quote as an “own” or “mic drop.” Although the quote may seem profound, it is actually a bit of a “deepism” that merely plays on semantics. Let’s analyze it: Alright, so the quote is made to imply that anyone who freely chooses to act on their (sexual) desires is not actually free, because technically, they are only acting on their desires because their mind tells them to do so. Firstly, why do the desires controlling one‘s behavior have to be “vices“ for it to count as slavery? It just seems awfully convenient that all the behaviors and desires considered “vices” are just the things people promoting NoFap dogma and Puritanism are coincidently opposed to. I suspect this is because if the word “Desire” were used instead, the quote could easily be turned around on them, as their own self-restraining behaviors and actions stem from underlying desires which equally influence their behaviors (desire to go to heaven, desire to assuage guilt/shame, desire to delay gratification, desire to spend time doing something else, urge to give into peer pressure within the NoFap community, etc.) So, they smartly exempt their own predispositions and desires by specifying the qualifier “Vice” so then, when their own logic is thrown back at them, they can go “But I can’t be a slave to my desires, because my desires are supported by scripture and not vices! See!” @@ -45739,9 +45739,9 @@ A: See! See! You’re a slave! You’re a slave! Also, a lot of other St. Augustine fans seem to have this strange aversion towards instant-gratification, like there’s something virtuous about artificially imposing longer waiting times on yourself, just so you can say “at least I’m patient.“ And once again, this hatred suspiciously only seems to be directed towards “vices“ and sexual activity. They never seem to shame people who get up and go to the restroom as soon as they feel like they have to go rather than forcefully hold it in for as long as possible despite the fact a toilet is easily accessible around the corner. It also doesn’t help that when you try to ask them what specific amount of time needs to pass after the onset of a desire before it becomes acceptable to act on it and receive gratification, they can’t give an answer. Not even an approximate estimate. Also, how would anyone receive ANY gratification if they are constantly preoccupied with delaying it? If I am a “slave” to my hunger, and eat every time I feel hungry, but then decide I want to free myself from my biological urge to consume food by increasingly delaying gratification, at what point am I no longer a hedonist? The most hedonistic I could possibly be is going to the fridge as soon as my stomach starts growling. But then let’s say I wait an hour. If I give in to my cravings right at the end of those 60 minutes, then I would still be more hedonistic than the guy who made himself wait 2 hours. And then that guy, in turn, would be more hedonistic than the person who waits 3 hours, and so and so forth, until the person who eats nothing comes out on top as the least hedonistic. Same thing with sleep. If I feel I am guilty of sloth and laziness, then my end goal should be to become an insomniac who is always awake and never dreaming, as every hour I lie in bed asleep is an hour I spend enslaved by my urge to close my eyes and get some rest. -The last, and probably the most important point, is that even if we accept the quote as true, it would only be trivially true. The Red Pill movement goes through all this effort to show proof of some elaborate conspiracy or dark hidden truth, only to come to the underwhelming conclusion that, yes, brain chemicals make us do stuff we wouldn’t otherwise do if we didn’t have those brain chemicals making us do those things. \*sigh\* I swear, it’s like these people stumbled across an article about Dopamine and Serotonin and thought they discovered some sort of scam. Even if we were to grant that being controlled by your brain really is equivalent to slavery, this would just make every single human action (or inaction) slavery as well. To say that choosing to satisfy ”vices” or “desires” or whatever is enough to constitute the label of “slavery” is just lowering the bar of criteria to a point where the term ”slavery” wouldn‘t even retain its standard meaning anymore. This is especially pointless since there’s no alternative to this “problem.” You’re always performing actions based on your underlying motivations, which are produced by your brain, which you don’t get to control having to begin with. So essentially, you’re never not a slave, as even the desire to not act on your desires is itself a desire, which is equally motivated by the expectance of pleasure from another perceived reward (After all, if you didn’t expect to feel satisfaction from ending your addiction, but expected to feel miserable instead, you wouldn’t even be motivated to get rid of the addiction in the first place). For instance, a person will refrain from masturbation because they feel they will gain confidence from semen retention, but the only reason confidence is a goal for them is because they think it will help them seduce a partner, who they can marry and then have sex with. And, as established by the Red Pillers’ own cited literature, the brain can’t tell the difference between “artificial“ stimulation and real sex, so the effects on the brain‘s reward center system would be the same, therefore, making the NoFappers equally as enslaved to Dopamine as the ProFappers they target. The usual defense for this type of “slavery“ is that because the gratification isn’t instant, that makes it better. But then if that’s the case, the dopamine thing has nothing to do with it. It would be a time issue. But then when you ask them about this, they retreat back to the “brain chemicals = slavery” argument. Also, for some reason, they only seem to call it “slavery” when Dopamine is the “master.” Are they not concerned about every other part of the nervous system controlling our actions? Just wait till they find out about Ghrelin, Melatonin, Endorphins, Oxytocin, and Adrenaline, and you can expect to see forums for NoEat, NoSleep, NoLaugh, NoLove, NoFight, and NoFlight to show up as well. Let’s just call “Delayed Gratification” what it is: Hedonism w/ Extra Steps.",,9,alanfarwell,1616528256.0 -TheBluePill,m9xy8t,"The meme is ironic, but it accurately represents how incels unironically view women",,https://i.redd.it/2hli47xxmao61.png,298,FoeHamma,1616337338.0 -TheBluePill,m7ychq,Youtuber (Bald and Bankrupt) with 2.75m subs exposed as former Pick up Artist / Sex-pat,,https://i.redd.it/a2scp2dd5un61.jpg,186,ticklemybanjo,1616094619.0 +The last, and probably the most important point, is that even if we accept the quote as true, it would only be trivially true. The Red Pill movement goes through all this effort to show proof of some elaborate conspiracy or dark hidden truth, only to come to the underwhelming conclusion that, yes, brain chemicals make us do stuff we wouldn’t otherwise do if we didn’t have those brain chemicals making us do those things. \*sigh\* I swear, it’s like these people stumbled across an article about Dopamine and Serotonin and thought they discovered some sort of scam. Even if we were to grant that being controlled by your brain really is equivalent to slavery, this would just make every single human action (or inaction) slavery as well. To say that choosing to satisfy ”vices” or “desires” or whatever is enough to constitute the label of “slavery” is just lowering the bar of criteria to a point where the term ”slavery” wouldn‘t even retain its standard meaning anymore. This is especially pointless since there’s no alternative to this “problem.” You’re always performing actions based on your underlying motivations, which are produced by your brain, which you don’t get to control having to begin with. So essentially, you’re never not a slave, as even the desire to not act on your desires is itself a desire, which is equally motivated by the expectance of pleasure from another perceived reward (After all, if you didn’t expect to feel satisfaction from ending your addiction, but expected to feel miserable instead, you wouldn’t even be motivated to get rid of the addiction in the first place). For instance, a person will refrain from masturbation because they feel they will gain confidence from semen retention, but the only reason confidence is a goal for them is because they think it will help them seduce a partner, who they can marry and then have sex with. And, as established by the Red Pillers’ own cited literature, the brain can’t tell the difference between “artificial“ stimulation and real sex, so the effects on the brain‘s reward center system would be the same, therefore, making the NoFappers equally as enslaved to Dopamine as the ProFappers they target. The usual defense for this type of “slavery“ is that because the gratification isn’t instant, that makes it better. But then if that’s the case, the dopamine thing has nothing to do with it. It would be a time issue. But then when you ask them about this, they retreat back to the “brain chemicals = slavery” argument. Also, for some reason, they only seem to call it “slavery” when Dopamine is the “master.” Are they not concerned about every other part of the nervous system controlling our actions? Just wait till they find out about Ghrelin, Melatonin, Endorphins, Oxytocin, and Adrenaline, and you can expect to see forums for NoEat, NoSleep, NoLaugh, NoLove, NoFight, and NoFlight to show up as well. Let’s just call “Delayed Gratification” what it is: Hedonism w/ Extra Steps.",,9,alanfarwell,2021-03-23 19:37:36 +TheBluePill,m9xy8t,"The meme is ironic, but it accurately represents how incels unironically view women",,https://i.redd.it/2hli47xxmao61.png,298,FoeHamma,2021-03-21 14:35:38 +TheBluePill,m7ychq,Youtuber (Bald and Bankrupt) with 2.75m subs exposed as former Pick up Artist / Sex-pat,,https://i.redd.it/a2scp2dd5un61.jpg,186,ticklemybanjo,2021-03-18 19:10:19 TheBluePill,m81vx8,Best Response to NoFap Dogma,"\*The following is a post from r/NoFap that has been modified in order to illustrate the absurdity of the original post when applied to laughter instead of masturbation\* When I was young, I, just like many other young men my age, would laugh constantly. I would voraciously consume anything that would help aid me laugh, whether it was reading jokes online, watching stand-up routines on TV, or even going to live comedy shows. I just wish someone would have told me what I was doing to myself unconsciously. Laughter is more harmful than we are willing to admit. In fact, it is downright deleterious. Laughing is an addiction that turns its victims into dopamine slaves, constantly wanting to get high on their endorphins. @@ -45762,17 +45762,17 @@ Lastly, the idea of “ethically-made” comedy is a lie. Comedy is an inherentl Also, would you really want your son or daughter to become a comedian? Like, let’s be honest, once you’ve established yourself as a tool to make people laugh, that’s all audiences will ever expect out of you, and no one will ever take you seriously ever again despite anything you do to change. Adam Sandler may try to land serious roles and become a real “actor” but no one will ever see him as anything other than “Happy Gilmore.” -This addiction is no laughing matter! Period.",,31,alanfarwell,1616104837.0 -TheBluePill,m7fd3v,NSW Police Commissioner seems pretty RedPilled.,,https://www.9news.com.au/national/nsw-mick-fuller-calls-for-consent-app-to-tackle-sexual-assault/417dc8ba-c2d4-4672-842a-080f3ff38f40,74,[deleted],1616029047.0 -TheBluePill,m4wpcc,"Incels really love setting themselves up for failure, don't they?",,https://i.redd.it/8t8vi139rym61.jpg,360,FoeHamma,1615734328.0 -TheBluePill,m4yhme,Anon Sapio red pilling indian style,,https://i.redd.it/74dmkm4kzxm61.jpg,16,blorg,1615739790.0 -TheBluePill,m08taj,"New study finds that not knowing how to flirt is the main reason behind ""involuntary singlehood""; this factor was followed by not knowing how to perceive signals of interest, a lack of effort, and an overly high level of choosiness.",,https://www.psychnewsdaily.com/new-study-finds-not-knowing-how-to-flirt-is-the-main-reason-behind-involuntary-singlehood/,36,-Aegle-,1615181535.0 -TheBluePill,lzueau,"This totally happens bro, don’t question the veracity of it, bro.",,https://i.redd.it/3h1k1pauxml61.jpg,267,[deleted],1615135594.0 -TheBluePill,m080c5,Introducing Incel Trading Cards!,,https://i.redd.it/8m27406dlol61.png,24,AdvocateDoogy,1615178621.0 -TheBluePill,lyru6e,A nice shot of the pastor who told wives to lose weight and look more feminine.,,https://i.imgur.com/dL1wDIJ.jpg,390,FoeHamma,1614997059.0 +This addiction is no laughing matter! Period.",,31,alanfarwell,2021-03-18 22:00:37 +TheBluePill,m7fd3v,NSW Police Commissioner seems pretty RedPilled.,,https://www.9news.com.au/national/nsw-mick-fuller-calls-for-consent-app-to-tackle-sexual-assault/417dc8ba-c2d4-4672-842a-080f3ff38f40,74,[deleted],2021-03-18 00:57:27 +TheBluePill,m4wpcc,"Incels really love setting themselves up for failure, don't they?",,https://i.redd.it/8t8vi139rym61.jpg,360,FoeHamma,2021-03-14 15:05:28 +TheBluePill,m4yhme,Anon Sapio red pilling indian style,,https://i.redd.it/74dmkm4kzxm61.jpg,16,blorg,2021-03-14 16:36:30 +TheBluePill,m08taj,"New study finds that not knowing how to flirt is the main reason behind ""involuntary singlehood""; this factor was followed by not knowing how to perceive signals of interest, a lack of effort, and an overly high level of choosiness.",,https://www.psychnewsdaily.com/new-study-finds-not-knowing-how-to-flirt-is-the-main-reason-behind-involuntary-singlehood/,36,-Aegle-,2021-03-08 05:32:15 +TheBluePill,lzueau,"This totally happens bro, don’t question the veracity of it, bro.",,https://i.redd.it/3h1k1pauxml61.jpg,267,[deleted],2021-03-07 16:46:34 +TheBluePill,m080c5,Introducing Incel Trading Cards!,,https://i.redd.it/8m27406dlol61.png,24,AdvocateDoogy,2021-03-08 04:43:41 +TheBluePill,lyru6e,A nice shot of the pastor who told wives to lose weight and look more feminine.,,https://i.imgur.com/dL1wDIJ.jpg,390,FoeHamma,2021-03-06 02:17:39 TheBluePill,lxg6x5,Funny thought😂,"I realized that I’ve literally had my biggest dry spell whilst spending time on trp and watching videos😂 made me angry and toxic, scaring off normal women who actually wanted something with me (even casual sex), but I kept pushing them away -When I quit and started talking to girls all the anger has left. I’m starting to feel like they are incels, cuz when I was on the forum I literally had the least sex in that time period I’ve had in my life",,140,kickbackgang,1614847386.0 +When I quit and started talking to girls all the anger has left. I’m starting to feel like they are incels, cuz when I was on the forum I literally had the least sex in that time period I’ve had in my life",,140,kickbackgang,2021-03-04 08:43:06 TheBluePill,ltbylw,The cognitive dissonance of RP men,"Red Pill men keep bragging about their high body count while shaming women who sleep around in their 20s instead of getting married. You go on a Youtube channel like 33 Secrets or Coach Red Pill and they keep warning women not to sleep around and to get married in their 20s, or 'ride the c**k carousel' be 'damaged goods' in their 30s. Yet at the same time, ironically, they keep boasting about how many young beautiful women they've slept with. But see - it doesn't make logical sense - if, hypothetically, all women were to all follow the trad con ways of the 1950s and find a boyfriend in school and get married by 25 (as these men keep preaching), it wouldn't be possible for these cretins to have the apparent high body count that they do. @@ -45785,27 +45785,27 @@ either 1. These men suffer from cognitive dissonance. -2. They're lying about all the women they've slept with and are just closet incels. After all, why would you be angry about the c**k carousel unless you weren't invited to join in?",,181,the_C_Atheist,1614385823.0 -TheBluePill,ljqo7z,Incel gets schooled by an elementary school teacher,,https://i.redd.it/nubmab9jqeh61.png,349,FoeHamma,1613317409.0 -TheBluePill,ljxxfz,"If you live in a glass house, don't throw stones",,https://i.redd.it/p3chjl8m9gh61.jpg,89,FoeHamma,1613338401.0 +2. They're lying about all the women they've slept with and are just closet incels. After all, why would you be angry about the c**k carousel unless you weren't invited to join in?",,181,the_C_Atheist,2021-02-27 00:30:23 +TheBluePill,ljqo7z,Incel gets schooled by an elementary school teacher,,https://i.redd.it/nubmab9jqeh61.png,349,FoeHamma,2021-02-14 15:43:29 +TheBluePill,ljxxfz,"If you live in a glass house, don't throw stones",,https://i.redd.it/p3chjl8m9gh61.jpg,89,FoeHamma,2021-02-14 21:33:21 TheBluePill,ljsvfy,"Anyone else feel kind of bad for incels, neck beards, nice guys, est?","Disclaimer, I am not saying that their behavior is acceptable in any way. The way they talk about and treat women is completely unacceptable. There is no excuse for their level of sexism and the expectations they have for women. That all being said, a lot of times these guys are lonely, depressed and desperate. On top of all of this, they have poor social skills. Sometimes they aren't the best looking either. They don't have the skills or support they need to make the necessary changes because they are so unappealing to be around. Again, none of this is any excuse for the way they talk to or about women. It's just that when I think about their situation it makes me kind of sad. These guys are stuck in a rut of their own self destructive behaviors caused by their self fulfilling prophecies. It's just very sad to watch, because if they just changed their behavior they could live much happier lives. -I'm not saying we should treat these people any differently, their situation is often one of their own making. It's just a bit of food for thought.",,65,CandyBoBandDandy,1613323836.0 -TheBluePill,ljk6wj,MGTOW DAY LOL,,https://i.redd.it/vl79zos6eeh61.jpg,128,GOING_GHOST_MGTOW,1613288744.0 +I'm not saying we should treat these people any differently, their situation is often one of their own making. It's just a bit of food for thought.",,65,CandyBoBandDandy,2021-02-14 17:30:36 +TheBluePill,ljk6wj,MGTOW DAY LOL,,https://i.redd.it/vl79zos6eeh61.jpg,128,GOING_GHOST_MGTOW,2021-02-14 07:45:44 TheBluePill,ljt4t1,"Why the Red Pill Supported Donald Trump, And Then Lost Interest in Politics","&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/zl1vkph2chh61.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=91e6c5ee89efc2cc78f8d16ec592ca8724dec843 -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O2c6xZculIM](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O2c6xZculIM) I noticed instantly that despite celebrating Trump's victory in 2016, many Red Pillers weren't true conservatives or Republicans. They represented the sector of the Trump base of disengaged voters who came out in droves for the President. So it was no surprise that after Trump lost, many of them became disinterested in politics. At least two individuals (dating coach and pickup artist) are facing criminal charges for storming the U.S. Capitol building.",,18,redpillnonsense,1613324581.0 -TheBluePill,ljfm3u,Reddit algorithm. Wtf?,,https://i.redd.it/9ccia9a3xch61.jpg,131,Belgian_jewish_studn,1613270881.0 -TheBluePill,ljr42y,The blind leading the blind,,https://i.redd.it/utkyhhutnfh61.jpg,7,FoeHamma,1613318806.0 -TheBluePill,ljlzch,"Guys following the standard boring script have no idea why it is met with one word boring answers... A clue: get off-script, be inventive, try something new FFS. These openers don't inspire conversation when you've been asked the same thing 50 times a day 7 days a week! Geez",,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/ljgnra/good_talk/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,7,Fuzzy-Scene,1613297999.0 -TheBluePill,lj99vz,the paranoia is almost frightening; first time I visited TRP and found this- never again,[https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/6woyzi/three\_ways\_to\_consciously\_manipulate\_women\_before/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/6woyzi/three_ways_to_consciously_manipulate_women_before/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3),,49,TonytheCrony,1613250377.0 -TheBluePill,lj6zze,It is with a heavy heart we must inform you: a new type of guy just dropped. Sigma Males on Fucqboi Book Club,,https://soundcloud.com/fucqboi-bookclub/smegma-males,23,FucqBoi_BookClub,1613243650.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O2c6xZculIM](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O2c6xZculIM) I noticed instantly that despite celebrating Trump's victory in 2016, many Red Pillers weren't true conservatives or Republicans. They represented the sector of the Trump base of disengaged voters who came out in droves for the President. So it was no surprise that after Trump lost, many of them became disinterested in politics. At least two individuals (dating coach and pickup artist) are facing criminal charges for storming the U.S. Capitol building.",,18,redpillnonsense,2021-02-14 17:43:01 +TheBluePill,ljfm3u,Reddit algorithm. Wtf?,,https://i.redd.it/9ccia9a3xch61.jpg,131,Belgian_jewish_studn,2021-02-14 02:48:01 +TheBluePill,ljr42y,The blind leading the blind,,https://i.redd.it/utkyhhutnfh61.jpg,7,FoeHamma,2021-02-14 16:06:46 +TheBluePill,ljlzch,"Guys following the standard boring script have no idea why it is met with one word boring answers... A clue: get off-script, be inventive, try something new FFS. These openers don't inspire conversation when you've been asked the same thing 50 times a day 7 days a week! Geez",,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/ljgnra/good_talk/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,7,Fuzzy-Scene,2021-02-14 10:19:59 +TheBluePill,lj99vz,the paranoia is almost frightening; first time I visited TRP and found this- never again,[https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/6woyzi/three\_ways\_to\_consciously\_manipulate\_women\_before/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/6woyzi/three_ways_to_consciously_manipulate_women_before/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3),,49,TonytheCrony,2021-02-13 21:06:17 +TheBluePill,lj6zze,It is with a heavy heart we must inform you: a new type of guy just dropped. Sigma Males on Fucqboi Book Club,,https://soundcloud.com/fucqboi-bookclub/smegma-males,23,FucqBoi_BookClub,2021-02-13 19:14:10 TheBluePill,li8rvj,Should 33 Secrets be quarantined on YouTube?,"As much as I just scoff at Red Pill channels like Coach Greg Adams and Sandman for their comically hyperbolic misogyny (but those channels are basically meant to cater to frustrated and angry albeit harmless men), I think that there are certain Red Pill channels on YouTube that cross beyond the realm of misogynistic into downright creepy. https://m.youtube.com/user/The33Secrets @@ -45822,7 +45822,7 @@ Anyway, I think that this guy should be put on a predator's watchlist even thoug I think he should be considered a NSFW channel. Amos Yee was removed entirely from YouTube, and rightfully so, for defending pedophilia. While Matt Cross isn't a pedophile, and he doesn't endorse pedophilia, in the strict sense, he does have the attributes of a predatory and lascivious older man who objectifies women, and he is encouraging and endorsing predatory behaviour, which I fear could lead to sleazy older men going to college campuses in droves, like a pack of wolves, and making female students very uncomfortable. I have a Malaysian Chinese acquaintance who actually got groped by one older PUA type at a Melbourne nightclub (perhaps thinking that Asian women were not as 'aggressive' as Western women), and she turned around and gave the fella a tight slap on the face when he put his hand on her. (The technique Matt calls 'the claw', which is to put your arm around the girl's shoulder to build rapport apparently backfired horribly against this guy) I also think he should be put on a predator watchlist so university security keeps an eye on him when he enters college campuses so that he doesn't try anything funny. Good idea? I'd be happy to draft the petition if you all are agreeable. -I've already reported this fella's channel on YouTube for its fringe content. I am not so petty that I'll report just any channel (I don't care to report Alexander Grace, Greg Adams or Sandman as they are pretty harmless), but I think 33 Secrets really crosses the line of normal societal behaviour, and people with teenage daughters ought to know who he is and stay vigilant.",,93,the_C_Atheist,1613127297.0 +I've already reported this fella's channel on YouTube for its fringe content. I am not so petty that I'll report just any channel (I don't care to report Alexander Grace, Greg Adams or Sandman as they are pretty harmless), but I think 33 Secrets really crosses the line of normal societal behaviour, and people with teenage daughters ought to know who he is and stay vigilant.",,93,the_C_Atheist,2021-02-12 10:54:57 TheBluePill,lhqgfq,"My GF works, interacts with TRP, Alphas, etc.","Sorry if this doesn't belong here. I (49M) am the typical boring, ""nice guy"" accountant. My GF (47) of 4 years is a fitness instructor who works at a handful of gyms, clubs, fitness studios. She is a taller blonde, very fit with assets most men admire. We are not engaged so she doesn't have a ring on her finger. With her looks she gets young guys going for the hot ""MILF"" and the 40+in age players. She has her fair share of gym bros who think they are god's gift who ask her out. She handle's her own but any advice is appreciated. A few recent ones irked her and me a bit. @@ -45833,20 +45833,20 @@ After one of her classes she asked if anyone had any questions. Guy came up and She lives alone 2 hours away from me. She loves to do yardwork. The neighborhood has a landscaping company that does common areas. One of the young landscaper guys came up to her while she was watering her plants and asked to go grab a drink with him. I guess TRP taught him to be confident to approach a woman on her property. That made her nervous and she had to retreat to inside her home and lock her doors. -I am not sure how women deal with this kind of BS.",,149,ipaid4it2,1613066481.0 -TheBluePill,lh75k7,Yikes. Finally found one in the wild. Women are weak because they try too hard??,,https://i.redd.it/suxp7aiajqg61.jpg,98,crazyboatgirl,1612999888.0 -TheBluePill,lgxr2i,Facebook comments on an advert for a book on toxic masculinity,,https://i.redd.it/2m9pwor0jog61.png,215,AintMisMehefin,1612975598.0 +I am not sure how women deal with this kind of BS.",,149,ipaid4it2,2021-02-11 18:01:21 +TheBluePill,lh75k7,Yikes. Finally found one in the wild. Women are weak because they try too hard??,,https://i.redd.it/suxp7aiajqg61.jpg,98,crazyboatgirl,2021-02-10 23:31:28 +TheBluePill,lgxr2i,Facebook comments on an advert for a book on toxic masculinity,,https://i.redd.it/2m9pwor0jog61.png,215,AintMisMehefin,2021-02-10 16:46:38 TheBluePill,lgvrda,Older Men Believe they can Date Younger Women with Ease | MGTOW | Red Pill,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/qviaf8w82og61.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=388df5bd074a445957db80a011cfbfeb51fafc15 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7eVfZulB8PU](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7eVfZulB8PU) When I published an article on the Manosphere, I had someone call me a liar for claiming that some men insist women hit the wall at 25. And I still get guys coming onto my channel and arguing that I'm delusional for thinking younger women don't want older men (older men means 35+). -As some of my subs told me, this is just one massive cope. It's a message to make young consumers currently struggling with dating feel better about their future prospects.",,48,redpillnonsense,1612970179.0 -TheBluePill,lgvagd,Not sure if this belongs here but I had to share it with someone.,,https://i.redd.it/a85m3ie6zng61.jpg,47,ElderDark,1612968914.0 -TheBluePill,lgwq9f,Learn to accept yourself and be better,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NdX1mZRSIwM,6,SundayDiscovery,1612972863.0 -TheBluePill,ldq69s,“Pants were invented for men not women”,,https://i.redd.it/ko0fdhzbwpf61.jpg,225,demosthenes98,1612586987.0 -TheBluePill,ldmx12,It’s like a bad cliche but there are really men that think this way,,https://i.redd.it/zehc0dfmhrf61.jpg,32,[deleted],1612575587.0 +As some of my subs told me, this is just one massive cope. It's a message to make young consumers currently struggling with dating feel better about their future prospects.",,48,redpillnonsense,2021-02-10 15:16:19 +TheBluePill,lgvagd,Not sure if this belongs here but I had to share it with someone.,,https://i.redd.it/a85m3ie6zng61.jpg,47,ElderDark,2021-02-10 14:55:14 +TheBluePill,lgwq9f,Learn to accept yourself and be better,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NdX1mZRSIwM,6,SundayDiscovery,2021-02-10 16:01:03 +TheBluePill,ldq69s,“Pants were invented for men not women”,,https://i.redd.it/ko0fdhzbwpf61.jpg,225,demosthenes98,2021-02-06 04:49:47 +TheBluePill,ldmx12,It’s like a bad cliche but there are really men that think this way,,https://i.redd.it/zehc0dfmhrf61.jpg,32,[deleted],2021-02-06 01:39:47 TheBluePill,ld048b,Red Pill man goes berserk when she wants to take it slow,"https://www.google.com/amp/s/mustsharenews.com/singaporean-man-rejected/amp/ In this article, a horny Singaporean Red Pill man got salty when a Malaysian Chinese woman wanted to 'take it slow' and wouldn't give him instant P-sleeve. (to quote Coach Greg Adams) @@ -45859,48 +45859,48 @@ Then they try to showcase how 'high value' they are to get the woman to feel rep (I'm a Malaysian Chinese guy, and he's also insulting us, since he's implying that unlike Singaporean men, we are willing to settle for 'damaged goods' like that woman) -Thoughts? Did she miss out on some high value alpha male, or dodge a cannon ball",,185,the_C_Atheist,1612502015.0 -TheBluePill,ld21dp,The Misogynistic ‘Dating Coach’ Who Was Charged in the Capitol Riot,,https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/04/nyregion/samuel-fisher-capitol-riot.html?action=click&module=Top%20Stories&pgtype=Homepage,23,baltimoremaryland,1612509932.0 -TheBluePill,lctbmu,"So being manly means being angry all the time, and not being cool and confident and suave like Luke Cage?",,https://youtu.be/i2usDiaYsKg,28,ryu289,1612481040.0 -TheBluePill,lc70r7,"Let's all give him a hand, folks!",,https://i.redd.it/bqkhy3e44af61.png,408,FoeHamma,1612411400.0 -TheBluePill,lc6pvj,"""Feminism is satanic!""",,https://i.redd.it/b4lohkm0qie61.png,11,AdvocateDoogy,1612410394.0 -TheBluePill,lbh2wn,"Incel STEMlord uses Reddit answers as scientific proof for ""feeemale hypergamy""",,/r/IncelsWithoutHate/comments/khweta/compilation_of_threads_from_askwomen_that_confirm/,156,Dr-Hannah,1612332181.0 -TheBluePill,la2l4o,Why don’t the grils like me?,,https://i.redd.it/903dzogjrue61.jpg,550,FoeHamma,1612184626.0 -TheBluePill,la2et2,The Incel thought process,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/l9yjtn,16,FoeHamma,1612184078.0 +Thoughts? Did she miss out on some high value alpha male, or dodge a cannon ball",,185,the_C_Atheist,2021-02-05 05:13:35 +TheBluePill,ld21dp,The Misogynistic ‘Dating Coach’ Who Was Charged in the Capitol Riot,,https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/04/nyregion/samuel-fisher-capitol-riot.html?action=click&module=Top%20Stories&pgtype=Homepage,23,baltimoremaryland,2021-02-05 07:25:32 +TheBluePill,lctbmu,"So being manly means being angry all the time, and not being cool and confident and suave like Luke Cage?",,https://youtu.be/i2usDiaYsKg,28,ryu289,2021-02-04 23:24:00 +TheBluePill,lc70r7,"Let's all give him a hand, folks!",,https://i.redd.it/bqkhy3e44af61.png,408,FoeHamma,2021-02-04 04:03:20 +TheBluePill,lc6pvj,"""Feminism is satanic!""",,https://i.redd.it/b4lohkm0qie61.png,11,AdvocateDoogy,2021-02-04 03:46:34 +TheBluePill,lbh2wn,"Incel STEMlord uses Reddit answers as scientific proof for ""feeemale hypergamy""",,/r/IncelsWithoutHate/comments/khweta/compilation_of_threads_from_askwomen_that_confirm/,156,Dr-Hannah,2021-02-03 06:03:01 +TheBluePill,la2l4o,Why don’t the grils like me?,,https://i.redd.it/903dzogjrue61.jpg,550,FoeHamma,2021-02-01 13:03:46 +TheBluePill,la2et2,The Incel thought process,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/l9yjtn,16,FoeHamma,2021-02-01 12:54:38 TheBluePill,l7ulb2,The Problems With Red Pill Dating Courses / Advice,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/v42liynxcae61.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=751f05b8f379c075f7592f150599bda456c61734 -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BbhGhfqLY3E](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BbhGhfqLY3E) The modern-day Red Pill community is just a rebranded version of the Pick-Up Artist industry. These courses, which are just repackaged information from YouTube and PUA books, cost anywhere from $250 to $900. I'm certain that some spilt the revenue because they endorse one another's course while competing for the same audience.",,91,redpillnonsense,1611932426.0 -TheBluePill,l5suc8,"behold the latest bizzaro manosphere invention... The ""Sigma Male""",,https://i.redd.it/4fgx4vvh0sd61.jpg,502,snarkerposey11,1611710267.0 -TheBluePill,l44kuu,"This is real. This is a real Tweet from one of the UK's most esteemed journalists, and he has faced zero repercussions",,https://i.imgur.com/yZUIgWG.jpg,533,gammonwrangler,1611511968.0 -TheBluePill,l48dfg,"""Why won't hot girls choose me? Only I get to have preferences for attractive people!""",,https://i.redd.it/tyo2y2oz09d61.jpg,101,FoeHamma,1611524538.0 -TheBluePill,l4i72i,MRAs just believe what they want to believe.,,https://i.redd.it/0nehi54vefd61.jpg,13,[deleted],1611557680.0 -TheBluePill,l44mbx,Red pill YouTuber gets critiqued by famous you tubers aba and preach. Not only does he get críticas but the youtuber sent a legal action against them just for disagreeing with him lol.,,https://youtu.be/O60Du8AFaIA,29,[deleted],1611512080.0 -TheBluePill,l3s1zh,Sad weeb noises 😭,,https://i.redd.it/no5yt42xq3d61.jpg,225,FoeHamma,1611461046.0 -TheBluePill,l3qq16,A nice debate about charging false accusations and then this.,,https://i.redd.it/y1m27kft07d61.jpg,28,Lokmann,1611456153.0 -TheBluePill,l3c8yj,*Sad Fat Neckbeard Noises*,,https://i.imgur.com/Wny6lH1.png,247,FoeHamma,1611409177.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BbhGhfqLY3E](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BbhGhfqLY3E) The modern-day Red Pill community is just a rebranded version of the Pick-Up Artist industry. These courses, which are just repackaged information from YouTube and PUA books, cost anywhere from $250 to $900. I'm certain that some spilt the revenue because they endorse one another's course while competing for the same audience.",,91,redpillnonsense,2021-01-29 15:00:26 +TheBluePill,l5suc8,"behold the latest bizzaro manosphere invention... The ""Sigma Male""",,https://i.redd.it/4fgx4vvh0sd61.jpg,502,snarkerposey11,2021-01-27 01:17:47 +TheBluePill,l44kuu,"This is real. This is a real Tweet from one of the UK's most esteemed journalists, and he has faced zero repercussions",,https://i.imgur.com/yZUIgWG.jpg,533,gammonwrangler,2021-01-24 18:12:48 +TheBluePill,l48dfg,"""Why won't hot girls choose me? Only I get to have preferences for attractive people!""",,https://i.redd.it/tyo2y2oz09d61.jpg,101,FoeHamma,2021-01-24 21:42:18 +TheBluePill,l4i72i,MRAs just believe what they want to believe.,,https://i.redd.it/0nehi54vefd61.jpg,13,[deleted],2021-01-25 06:54:40 +TheBluePill,l44mbx,Red pill YouTuber gets critiqued by famous you tubers aba and preach. Not only does he get críticas but the youtuber sent a legal action against them just for disagreeing with him lol.,,https://youtu.be/O60Du8AFaIA,29,[deleted],2021-01-24 18:14:40 +TheBluePill,l3s1zh,Sad weeb noises 😭,,https://i.redd.it/no5yt42xq3d61.jpg,225,FoeHamma,2021-01-24 04:04:06 +TheBluePill,l3qq16,A nice debate about charging false accusations and then this.,,https://i.redd.it/y1m27kft07d61.jpg,28,Lokmann,2021-01-24 02:42:33 +TheBluePill,l3c8yj,*Sad Fat Neckbeard Noises*,,https://i.imgur.com/Wny6lH1.png,247,FoeHamma,2021-01-23 13:39:37 TheBluePill,l2dr7i,Should I be worried?,"Apparently, my teacher gave us a link to a Red Pilled Guy's (StephIsCold) advice to life after highschool to do cornell notes on. But I have a feeling that she just came upon it while searching for advice after highschool vids and she might have not known about this guy. He also happens to have knowledge on ""female nature"" and be a pick up artist. I'm just worried about my classmates falling into the red pill rabbit hole like many unfortunate people. I have researched the Red Pill community and it's full of misogyny and just idiotic stuff. Mostly about how to treat women badly enough for them to have enough low self esteem to be with you. It's messed up. -Am I right to be worried or am I just overreacting? Please let me know.",,28,Sebagrind,1611281846.0 -TheBluePill,l0qaxv,How to neg like a bo$$ 😂😂,,https://i.redd.it/uznsjcuo4cc61.jpg,21,101yearsfromnow,1611082092.0 -TheBluePill,kzzzqz,"This community has a peculiar and interesting view of male-female relationships, and I've seen this topic discussed here as a lurker before, so I'd be interested in r/TBP's insights on this post of mine",,/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/kzhhp1/as_a_guy_i_find_it_very_discouraging_how_most/,19,throwawaylapro,1610993152.0 -TheBluePill,kzihfu,"Female weebs don't exist, apparently",,https://i.redd.it/emqaxobrwwb61.png,355,FoeHamma,1610928462.0 +Am I right to be worried or am I just overreacting? Please let me know.",,28,Sebagrind,2021-01-22 02:17:26 +TheBluePill,l0qaxv,How to neg like a bo$$ 😂😂,,https://i.redd.it/uznsjcuo4cc61.jpg,21,101yearsfromnow,2021-01-19 18:48:12 +TheBluePill,kzzzqz,"This community has a peculiar and interesting view of male-female relationships, and I've seen this topic discussed here as a lurker before, so I'd be interested in r/TBP's insights on this post of mine",,/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/kzhhp1/as_a_guy_i_find_it_very_discouraging_how_most/,19,throwawaylapro,2021-01-18 18:05:52 +TheBluePill,kzihfu,"Female weebs don't exist, apparently",,https://i.redd.it/emqaxobrwwb61.png,355,FoeHamma,2021-01-18 00:07:42 TheBluePill,kvta53,The Manosphere's Fickle Support for Female YouTubers,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/84sunyfw1xa61.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=ca28e1eed233c994c1865356c8263d761548e4e7 -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rxzr1Y5c-uM](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rxzr1Y5c-uM) Given the group's track record, I never understood why any woman would want affirmation from this group. And yes, some women are arbitrarily declares allies by the group unbeknownst to them.",,66,redpillnonsense,1610463754.0 -TheBluePill,kvn346,"MGTOW. ""Rape is the most common lie"" please tell me again why MGTOW has not been banned yet.",,https://i.redd.it/az6iufaauua61.jpg,65,Bruciesballs666,1610436926.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rxzr1Y5c-uM](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rxzr1Y5c-uM) Given the group's track record, I never understood why any woman would want affirmation from this group. And yes, some women are arbitrarily declares allies by the group unbeknownst to them.",,66,redpillnonsense,2021-01-12 15:02:34 +TheBluePill,kvn346,"MGTOW. ""Rape is the most common lie"" please tell me again why MGTOW has not been banned yet.",,https://i.redd.it/az6iufaauua61.jpg,65,Bruciesballs666,2021-01-12 07:35:26 TheBluePill,ktm87j,FROM REDPILL TO BLUEPILL,"Hi all Bluepill enthusiasts hope all is well and good. This new years resolution for me is to make a transition from Redpill to Bluepill. -What kind of Bluepill materials you suggest browsing -- for example, who is the Bluepill equivalent to, say, Rollo Tomassi or Roosh?",,95,FaP_caligula,1610176227.0 +What kind of Bluepill materials you suggest browsing -- for example, who is the Bluepill equivalent to, say, Rollo Tomassi or Roosh?",,95,FaP_caligula,2021-01-09 07:10:27 TheBluePill,krqqlh,My problem with incels,"I just want to preface this and say that I am not an incel, but I have a lot of things to say about them. The main problem I have with incels view of the world is that they see women as mindless drones who have no personality and no agency in their decisions, that they think that women only love men with super machistic characterstics, and who can only love them. @@ -45925,9 +45925,9 @@ If those women are the only ones that they acquaintant themselves with then I ca -It really is sad how can one people dehumanize other group of people so much. In what myths can we believe about each other and how willfully blind we can be to the evidence to the contrary.",,179,RamazanBlack,1609949102.0 -TheBluePill,kqrau8,Quality relationship advice from someone who has clearly interacted with women before...,,https://i.redd.it/qxv8a003ef961.jpg,391,FoeHamma,1609823696.0 -TheBluePill,kqqmaw,"Twitter is full of this sort of behavior, at least the second guy gets it",,https://i.redd.it/o9uj9sc0jc961.jpg,47,FoeHamma,1609821252.0 +It really is sad how can one people dehumanize other group of people so much. In what myths can we believe about each other and how willfully blind we can be to the evidence to the contrary.",,179,RamazanBlack,2021-01-06 16:05:02 +TheBluePill,kqrau8,Quality relationship advice from someone who has clearly interacted with women before...,,https://i.redd.it/qxv8a003ef961.jpg,391,FoeHamma,2021-01-05 05:14:56 +TheBluePill,kqqmaw,"Twitter is full of this sort of behavior, at least the second guy gets it",,https://i.redd.it/o9uj9sc0jc961.jpg,47,FoeHamma,2021-01-05 04:34:12 TheBluePill,kqfcyo,One thing about redpillers that really puzzles me,"I've been reading these subreddits for a while now. Both incel/blackpill stuff and redpill stuff. It really does not surprise me that incels are a toxic self destructive cesspool when they are organized in these communities, all they do is pretty much: @@ -45960,13 +45960,13 @@ You don't need to live in fucking candyland to realize this, either, most people Everybody knows that relationships have plenty of weird dynamics and terrible things that happen every day and are done by every gender identity possible, everyone knows that no gender identity is safe from both giving and receiving some serious relationship abuse either. -So why? why is it that these people are sometimes married, other times in a long relationships or in more than a few short ones at the same time, they own businesses, they hold jobs, they have friends but they can't realize ***THIS SIMPLE FUCKING THING?*** ***WHY?***",,148,[deleted],1609787129.0 -TheBluePill,kqizvu,%110+ confirmed bio-troof! Twerps are so smart and lodgikal.,,https://np.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/kqh4qv/why_women_after_cc_of_10_or_more_sausages_are/gi3sou9/?context=3,5,[deleted],1609797324.0 -TheBluePill,kpkwg1,"Ladies, form a single file line please!",,https://i.redd.it/04r67mqfn0961.jpg,415,FoeHamma,1609681748.0 -TheBluePill,kplma6,"The fact that they are telling women they can only act a certain way proves they don't really give a shit about the ""western values"" they are supposedly defending...",,https://i.redd.it/c3cmqyh2yx861.jpg,42,FoeHamma,1609684633.0 -TheBluePill,kox949,Classically Abby vs Taylor Swift | The Man,,https://youtu.be/0k6SFkiGNxE,8,onlydogontheleft,1609593081.0 -TheBluePill,kosio7,"Pay attention to a ""hoes"" energy",,https://youtu.be/PQBSyoYsaeI,4,BlikityBlinx,1609568996.0 -TheBluePill,knyu64,Proud Boys throw a fit over ‘Proud Girl’ movement on Parler,,https://www.dailydot.com/debug/proud-boys-proud-girls-parler/?fb=dd&fbclid=IwAR30tnN-9p-La0KaD0o___zmPnj2qOlW3pLwMcwBekDeeIFM76o27h2XW_M,163,InfernalWedgie,1609451409.0 +So why? why is it that these people are sometimes married, other times in a long relationships or in more than a few short ones at the same time, they own businesses, they hold jobs, they have friends but they can't realize ***THIS SIMPLE FUCKING THING?*** ***WHY?***",,148,[deleted],2021-01-04 19:05:29 +TheBluePill,kqizvu,%110+ confirmed bio-troof! Twerps are so smart and lodgikal.,,https://np.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/kqh4qv/why_women_after_cc_of_10_or_more_sausages_are/gi3sou9/?context=3,5,[deleted],2021-01-04 21:55:24 +TheBluePill,kpkwg1,"Ladies, form a single file line please!",,https://i.redd.it/04r67mqfn0961.jpg,415,FoeHamma,2021-01-03 13:49:08 +TheBluePill,kplma6,"The fact that they are telling women they can only act a certain way proves they don't really give a shit about the ""western values"" they are supposedly defending...",,https://i.redd.it/c3cmqyh2yx861.jpg,42,FoeHamma,2021-01-03 14:37:13 +TheBluePill,kox949,Classically Abby vs Taylor Swift | The Man,,https://youtu.be/0k6SFkiGNxE,8,onlydogontheleft,2021-01-02 13:11:21 +TheBluePill,kosio7,"Pay attention to a ""hoes"" energy",,https://youtu.be/PQBSyoYsaeI,4,BlikityBlinx,2021-01-02 06:29:56 +TheBluePill,knyu64,Proud Boys throw a fit over ‘Proud Girl’ movement on Parler,,https://www.dailydot.com/debug/proud-boys-proud-girls-parler/?fb=dd&fbclid=IwAR30tnN-9p-La0KaD0o___zmPnj2qOlW3pLwMcwBekDeeIFM76o27h2XW_M,163,InfernalWedgie,2020-12-31 21:50:09 TheBluePill,knqajy,Red pill and Chirs Watts,"So I've recently started reading more about Chris Watts's case. I know that it's been widely discussed in America, but I'm from Poland and for me, it's still a new case. What shocked me (of course, expect disgusting and brutal murder of Shannan and her children by this monster) is how red pill ""gurus"" like Rollo Tomassi try to justify him [(example)](https://twitter.com/RationalMale/status/1030240873202642944). At this point, I don't know how anyone can think that red pill wants to even the playfield, or just support men. @@ -45977,12 +45977,12 @@ Men in comments congratulated Rollo for his aMaZiNg idea. They blame his actions on her. And, of course, they tried to push the idea that her child wasn't his, that she cheated on him (we know, that it's Chirs who was unfaithful). -Just wanted to share my thought on this. And it's not like I expected more of them.",,93,[deleted],1609422503.0 +Just wanted to share my thought on this. And it's not like I expected more of them.",,93,[deleted],2020-12-31 13:48:23 TheBluePill,knr63t,Manosphere Claims Black Men Need to Mate with White Women | Said Drake & J. Cole are Proof,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/eojqgjdvbj861.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=5eff686f7f837ecbe0901b808e46624ad0f1809c -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OKVb\_6If2z8](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OKVb_6If2z8) When I first heard a YouTuber cite that a Black women has never raised a U.S. president as evidence for why Black men need to reproduce with White women, I laughed and placed it on my secondary channel. Then someone cited the same example on another channel along with other inaccurate contemporary and historical examples. The lunacy made me make this video.",,28,redpillnonsense,1609425935.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OKVb\_6If2z8](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OKVb_6If2z8) When I first heard a YouTuber cite that a Black women has never raised a U.S. president as evidence for why Black men need to reproduce with White women, I laughed and placed it on my secondary channel. Then someone cited the same example on another channel along with other inaccurate contemporary and historical examples. The lunacy made me make this video.",,28,redpillnonsense,2020-12-31 14:45:35 TheBluePill,knk0m5,"A look back on Roosh V's book ""A Dead Bat in Paraguay""","If you take ""A Dead Bat in Paraguay"" without worrying about Roosh’s subsequent career it’s an enjoyable read. This is a sort of anti-travel book written by an observant and honest young man. The writing is uneven but there is some real potential there. It’s a shame that Roosh couldn’t have written more along these lines - but books like this don’t sell, and he was determined not to go back to his career as a microbiologist. To make money he wrote the “Bang” series about how to pick up girls in different countries - and so forged his reputation as a controversial figure who would be banned from some countries for his misogynist views. His reputation was the victim, and his publicity machine benefactor, of the easily triggered outrage of our PC times. There is a lot about how to bed girls in Dead Bat. In hostels and nightclubs from Ecuador to Brazil, Roosh and other young Western males scheme to score local women, with the less exotic but more accessible gringas as a back up. Having experienced this hostel scene myself, it’s hardly controversial or uncommon for guys and girls to have casual hookups as they travel the world, sometimes their free and easy Western values may clash with the more conservative local cultures. In South America the people are often more sexually conservative than their highly social manner would indicate. What is unusual about Roosh is how much he analyses and obsesses about how to pick up girls. He wants the algorithm that will get him as many girls as fast as possible. In fact, his first few months in South America are a total failure in this respect. @@ -46043,56 +46043,56 @@ I have no doubt that the spiritual path is a good option for Roosh right now, si In Dead Bat Roosh briefly visits Buenos Aires, one of Latin America’s great cities but dismisses it as a dump. I think Buenos Aires (pretending Covid never happened) is still a good destination for a young westerner. For a woman looking for love, the hostels provide easy hookups, but as for dating the locals, a lot of young Western women don’t appreciate the aggressiveness of Argentinian men despite the fact that many are good looking. What about a young man turning up in Buenos Aires? It is true that Argentinian women like to play games and can be very frustrating like Roosh experienced. I wasn’t single on my last visit to Buenos Aires so my ideas might be wide of the mark, but I would advise the young man to live somewhere near the Abasto mall in the Almagro neighbourhood. This is an area with not too many gringos and a lot of non-Argentinian South Americans. It’s a good place for Peruvian and Brazilian food. There are bars that are much cheaper than those in the tourist areas like Palermo and San Telmo. Admittedly those who hang out at them tend to be hippies and cocaine aficionados - but hey that might be your scene. I would suggest this young man might do well to pursue a Venezuelan. There is an influx of them due to the economic crisis in their home country. They are much better at doing service jobs than Argentinians, many local restaurants now employ Venezuelan waitresses because they aren’t lazy and arrogant like the locals. They are engaging people and so easy to start a conversation with. Also many of them are very well educated. Accountants and architects back home, in Argentina they are happy with any work they can get. Just an idea. -I have gone way off topic. Dead Bat is an interesting book about the gringo trail in South America by a man looking to self-actualise while fighting his own demons...don't read it as a how to guide, but also don't let it get your moral hackles up without due reason.",,17,femalaparte,1609393314.0 -TheBluePill,kmhhmz,"""My GF is tense during sex how do I help her relax?"". I know what advice you’ll be thinking but this is redpill man and an endorsed contributor so he advises "" tie her up...""",,https://i.redd.it/8gjvl4c8k5861.jpg,209,Fuzzy-Scene,1609259175.0 +I have gone way off topic. Dead Bat is an interesting book about the gringo trail in South America by a man looking to self-actualise while fighting his own demons...don't read it as a how to guide, but also don't let it get your moral hackles up without due reason.",,17,femalaparte,2020-12-31 05:41:54 +TheBluePill,kmhhmz,"""My GF is tense during sex how do I help her relax?"". I know what advice you’ll be thinking but this is redpill man and an endorsed contributor so he advises "" tie her up...""",,https://i.redd.it/8gjvl4c8k5861.jpg,209,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-12-29 16:26:15 TheBluePill,kmf9pp,Why Do the Manosphere Disdain Single Mothers? | Red Pill | MGTOW," https://preview.redd.it/h15x5jxgx4861.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=5b0ff1611f9d93489cc4ef3d0433b18be09ff4ff -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X8AnowB1pyE](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X8AnowB1pyE) Personally, I would never tell someone whether they should or shouldn't date a single mother, but there's a strong difference between having a preference and demonization. What's ironic is that while the Manosphere often tarnish single mothers, the group promotes behaviors that produce single motherhood and is largely anti-marriage. One content creator recalled being on a panel with several guys who were railing about single mothers, yet most of them had children out of wedlock and weren't with the mother of their child.",,25,redpillnonsense,1609251572.0 -TheBluePill,km46v6,The Joker avatar is the icing on this Incel cake,,https://i.redd.it/tj6rdxv5qx761.jpg,234,FoeHamma,1609206141.0 -TheBluePill,kmajn2,Imagine doing this to yourself and your family,,https://i.imgur.com/gW0KwKg.png,40,MayonaiseRemover,1609231003.0 -TheBluePill,kmbwux,"Ummm, not sure what to say about this... redpill is diversifying their brand into conspiracy theorists, prophecies and doomsayers?",,https://i.redd.it/uj8lz6u9s3861.jpg,20,Fuzzy-Scene,1609237668.0 -TheBluePill,km7xu1,(TW: domestic violence) does anyone else lurk on married red pill and get nauseous??,,https://ibb.co/VVHgs3C,21,mountainofjoy,1609219496.0 -TheBluePill,km7irb,Bleak love,,https://i.redd.it/yfos62xd52861.jpg,18,Admirable_Activity22,1609217866.0 -TheBluePill,klp535,Every Asian woman’s dream,,https://i.redd.it/szdfpgcqdt761.jpg,366,FoeHamma,1609156143.0 -TheBluePill,kk0lty,"Incels: ""Girl's standards are too high!"" also Incels:",,https://i.redd.it/uz0pa15ng9761.jpg,524,FoeHamma,1608909652.0 -TheBluePill,kjpo2e,when inc*ls try to get political,,https://i.redd.it/xi139tpj68761.jpg,301,snarkerposey11,1608855139.0 -TheBluePill,kjcsf2,The often-missed toxic masculinity of Breaking Bad,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/kjcsf2,350,[deleted],1608803599.0 -TheBluePill,kiod8c,Red Piller Explains Why Men and Women Can't be Friends,,https://youtu.be/LvSdt3rZHb8,79,chickenstuff18,1608707190.0 -TheBluePill,kiouev,A MANLY video for MANLY men about TOXIC MASCULINITY,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PjQ2B5cQ_gs,6,MayonaiseRemover,1608709444.0 -TheBluePill,khmch0,Here is a sneak peak at the kind of comments Incels leave before I ban them and remove all of their comments.,,https://i.redd.it/eimtyx9nwk661.jpg,176,Jenn_There_Done_That,1608573362.0 -TheBluePill,khsu28,saw a post on mgtow about being banned for posting here and noticed barely anyone actually asked what he said. pointed this out and definitely got an... interesting response 🤠,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/khsu28,43,[deleted],1608592779.0 -TheBluePill,kgymtx,The enlightened gentlemen at MGTOW happily upvote a “joke” that says all women are trash,,https://i.redd.it/1wxk8wsjqd661.jpg,231,Jenn_There_Done_That,1608487033.0 -TheBluePill,kh388z,A short but succinct article that explores how racism and sexual insecurity fuels Alt Right/Incels/MGTOW/MRAs towards blatant misogyny towards all women,,https://www.nbcnews.com/think/opinion/alt-right-fueled-toxic-masculinity-vice-versa-ncna989031,22,Jenn_There_Done_That,1608501219.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X8AnowB1pyE](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X8AnowB1pyE) Personally, I would never tell someone whether they should or shouldn't date a single mother, but there's a strong difference between having a preference and demonization. What's ironic is that while the Manosphere often tarnish single mothers, the group promotes behaviors that produce single motherhood and is largely anti-marriage. One content creator recalled being on a panel with several guys who were railing about single mothers, yet most of them had children out of wedlock and weren't with the mother of their child.",,25,redpillnonsense,2020-12-29 14:19:32 +TheBluePill,km46v6,The Joker avatar is the icing on this Incel cake,,https://i.redd.it/tj6rdxv5qx761.jpg,234,FoeHamma,2020-12-29 01:42:21 +TheBluePill,kmajn2,Imagine doing this to yourself and your family,,https://i.imgur.com/gW0KwKg.png,40,MayonaiseRemover,2020-12-29 08:36:43 +TheBluePill,kmbwux,"Ummm, not sure what to say about this... redpill is diversifying their brand into conspiracy theorists, prophecies and doomsayers?",,https://i.redd.it/uj8lz6u9s3861.jpg,20,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-12-29 10:27:48 +TheBluePill,km7xu1,(TW: domestic violence) does anyone else lurk on married red pill and get nauseous??,,https://ibb.co/VVHgs3C,21,mountainofjoy,2020-12-29 05:24:56 +TheBluePill,km7irb,Bleak love,,https://i.redd.it/yfos62xd52861.jpg,18,Admirable_Activity22,2020-12-29 04:57:46 +TheBluePill,klp535,Every Asian woman’s dream,,https://i.redd.it/szdfpgcqdt761.jpg,366,FoeHamma,2020-12-28 11:49:03 +TheBluePill,kk0lty,"Incels: ""Girl's standards are too high!"" also Incels:",,https://i.redd.it/uz0pa15ng9761.jpg,524,FoeHamma,2020-12-25 15:20:52 +TheBluePill,kjpo2e,when inc*ls try to get political,,https://i.redd.it/xi139tpj68761.jpg,301,snarkerposey11,2020-12-25 00:12:19 +TheBluePill,kjcsf2,The often-missed toxic masculinity of Breaking Bad,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/kjcsf2,350,[deleted],2020-12-24 09:53:19 +TheBluePill,kiod8c,Red Piller Explains Why Men and Women Can't be Friends,,https://youtu.be/LvSdt3rZHb8,79,chickenstuff18,2020-12-23 07:06:30 +TheBluePill,kiouev,A MANLY video for MANLY men about TOXIC MASCULINITY,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PjQ2B5cQ_gs,6,MayonaiseRemover,2020-12-23 07:44:04 +TheBluePill,khmch0,Here is a sneak peak at the kind of comments Incels leave before I ban them and remove all of their comments.,,https://i.redd.it/eimtyx9nwk661.jpg,176,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-12-21 17:56:02 +TheBluePill,khsu28,saw a post on mgtow about being banned for posting here and noticed barely anyone actually asked what he said. pointed this out and definitely got an... interesting response 🤠,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/khsu28,43,[deleted],2020-12-21 23:19:39 +TheBluePill,kgymtx,The enlightened gentlemen at MGTOW happily upvote a “joke” that says all women are trash,,https://i.redd.it/1wxk8wsjqd661.jpg,231,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-12-20 17:57:13 +TheBluePill,kh388z,A short but succinct article that explores how racism and sexual insecurity fuels Alt Right/Incels/MGTOW/MRAs towards blatant misogyny towards all women,,https://www.nbcnews.com/think/opinion/alt-right-fueled-toxic-masculinity-vice-versa-ncna989031,22,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-12-20 21:53:39 TheBluePill,kgy1bb,"Red Pill, Manosphere, & MGTOW Love to Complain About American/Western Women","&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/p6zqdewamd661.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=e84ab0135a439bf47a6e4bba608d0345d918f9aa -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DUeOUOGISXs](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DUeOUOGISXs) The debate about whether foreign women are better dating partners than American/Western women has existed in Red Pill spaces for around a decade. You can find men debating the topic from well over ten years ago on other online spaces. I took the time to explain the racial divide within this debate.",,12,redpillnonsense,1608485128.0 -TheBluePill,kfzf49,A girl can dream 🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤,,https://i.redd.it/6uezu058jz561.jpg,425,FoeHamma,1608345071.0 -TheBluePill,kg4p2l,"""Listen females... I'm gonna mansplain about your choices because you're just wasting your fertile years on education and not finding a man to marry and have babies. You need to stop fighting your natural urges for marriage/babies, stop education, stop the choices feeemales."" Says man with no SOH",,https://i.redd.it/f2fasgkd24661.jpg,109,Fuzzy-Scene,1608369369.0 -TheBluePill,kfaj58,I can feel the resentment.,,https://i.redd.it/z8dsbr2lvo561.jpg,182,FoeHamma,1608252842.0 -TheBluePill,kfbcdg,women need to stop being so emotional,"i cant. y r women always so emotional. they literally cry three times when they watch beauty and the beast real people movie. why would anyone do that? its not even a sad movie or anything. stop crying, whotes",,3,PlanetPluto123,1608255720.0 -TheBluePill,kckoky,"Sorry incels, no tradwife for you!",,https://i.redd.it/7bq5t0suiz461.png,728,FoeHamma,1607899673.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DUeOUOGISXs](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DUeOUOGISXs) The debate about whether foreign women are better dating partners than American/Western women has existed in Red Pill spaces for around a decade. You can find men debating the topic from well over ten years ago on other online spaces. I took the time to explain the racial divide within this debate.",,12,redpillnonsense,2020-12-20 17:25:28 +TheBluePill,kfzf49,A girl can dream 🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤,,https://i.redd.it/6uezu058jz561.jpg,425,FoeHamma,2020-12-19 02:31:11 +TheBluePill,kg4p2l,"""Listen females... I'm gonna mansplain about your choices because you're just wasting your fertile years on education and not finding a man to marry and have babies. You need to stop fighting your natural urges for marriage/babies, stop education, stop the choices feeemales."" Says man with no SOH",,https://i.redd.it/f2fasgkd24661.jpg,109,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-12-19 09:16:09 +TheBluePill,kfaj58,I can feel the resentment.,,https://i.redd.it/z8dsbr2lvo561.jpg,182,FoeHamma,2020-12-18 00:54:02 +TheBluePill,kfbcdg,women need to stop being so emotional,"i cant. y r women always so emotional. they literally cry three times when they watch beauty and the beast real people movie. why would anyone do that? its not even a sad movie or anything. stop crying, whotes",,3,PlanetPluto123,2020-12-18 01:42:00 +TheBluePill,kckoky,"Sorry incels, no tradwife for you!",,https://i.redd.it/7bq5t0suiz461.png,728,FoeHamma,2020-12-13 22:47:53 TheBluePill,kcegc2,The Manosphere is Full of Self-Centered & Immature Men | SoloTV84 | MGTOW | Red Pill,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/fg5rkzzbnz461.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=4462af1f2fcf9417db38f3e88f0fab86a264b355 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=\_wWuhzV60MA](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_wWuhzV60MA) When I first came across the Manosphere, I was taken aback that grown men were still measuring their self-worth and validation by how many sexual partners they had. It’s a behavior prevalent among male high school and college students, but eventually people stop bragging about such activities. But these men are an exception. Even when responding to criticism, they accuse critics of lacking a sex life. -The self-centeredness is irritating. If you don’t 100 percent agree with these men or share their experience, you’re classified as an enemy of the state. In the Black Manosphere, you’re viewed as being anti-Black male.",,18,redpillnonsense,1607880060.0 -TheBluePill,katkiz,"""Should i leave my GF? She is bellow average and fat""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/kalbow/should_i_leave_my_gf_she_is_bellow_average_and_fat/,130,[deleted],1607653340.0 -TheBluePill,ka2mbu,"This incel was crawling around a months old thread here, giving “dating advice”.",,https://i.redd.it/j5uxq9f6q8461.jpg,252,Jenn_There_Done_That,1607554104.0 +The self-centeredness is irritating. If you don’t 100 percent agree with these men or share their experience, you’re classified as an enemy of the state. In the Black Manosphere, you’re viewed as being anti-Black male.",,18,redpillnonsense,2020-12-13 17:21:00 +TheBluePill,katkiz,"""Should i leave my GF? She is bellow average and fat""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/kalbow/should_i_leave_my_gf_she_is_bellow_average_and_fat/,130,[deleted],2020-12-11 02:22:20 +TheBluePill,ka2mbu,"This incel was crawling around a months old thread here, giving “dating advice”.",,https://i.redd.it/j5uxq9f6q8461.jpg,252,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-12-09 22:48:24 TheBluePill,k9uect,I made a DCEU Action Compilation of Red Pillers Threatening to Brawl with one another,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/3dv3258ko6461.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=a90dab39b0680b19801686f2cc0015565328a2d9 -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EGy0NzgaYyA](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EGy0NzgaYyA) These Internet gangsters constantly claim they'll hop on a plane to brawl with another person they never met over a disagreement on a panel. I find it as comedy because these same men insist women are emotional and men are logical.",,10,redpillnonsense,1607529509.0 -TheBluePill,k9jewd,"""Were women always this predatory?"" ""They always were. History books say so.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/jwn0o2/female_nature/gcsao8k,102,PablomentFanquedelic,1607482580.0 -TheBluePill,k9jfmc,"""Good guys finish last always.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/jqa76y/good_guys_finish_last_always/,16,PablomentFanquedelic,1607482655.0 -TheBluePill,k8eeb2,"Hi, I'm literally being traumatised by your advice. Can you give me even more advice, bros?",,https://i.redd.it/ik5mxa27vq361.jpg,30,Metrodomes,1607337867.0 -TheBluePill,k8597k,"The classic ""Women from my country don't like me, but I'm sure foreign women will!""",,https://i.redd.it/8t2p11yrul361.jpg,204,FoeHamma,1607299329.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EGy0NzgaYyA](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EGy0NzgaYyA) These Internet gangsters constantly claim they'll hop on a plane to brawl with another person they never met over a disagreement on a panel. I find it as comedy because these same men insist women are emotional and men are logical.",,10,redpillnonsense,2020-12-09 15:58:29 +TheBluePill,k9jewd,"""Were women always this predatory?"" ""They always were. History books say so.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/jwn0o2/female_nature/gcsao8k,102,PablomentFanquedelic,2020-12-09 02:56:20 +TheBluePill,k9jfmc,"""Good guys finish last always.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/jqa76y/good_guys_finish_last_always/,16,PablomentFanquedelic,2020-12-09 02:57:35 +TheBluePill,k8eeb2,"Hi, I'm literally being traumatised by your advice. Can you give me even more advice, bros?",,https://i.redd.it/ik5mxa27vq361.jpg,30,Metrodomes,2020-12-07 10:44:27 +TheBluePill,k8597k,"The classic ""Women from my country don't like me, but I'm sure foreign women will!""",,https://i.redd.it/8t2p11yrul361.jpg,204,FoeHamma,2020-12-07 00:02:09 TheBluePill,k7xnml,The Monetization of the Red Pill: Rebranded Pickup Artists | Manosphere | Dating Coaches,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/8pmh5avwnl361.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=58d28b501d61c43e408f2cc061b22feacdedbd5e @@ -46105,11 +46105,11 @@ Narratives such as ""the wall"", ""beta male"" and so on are made to undervalue Red Pillers have used the same tactics. For example, rather than holding bootcamps and sessions where men paid thousands of dollars to learn what is essentially common sense, they offer courses to understand “female nature” and help clients in their dating lives. These courses cost several hundred dollars. Like sales marketing, they give discounts for a limited amount of time to encourage people to purchase it. They also overpromise their clients like PUAs, guaranteeing them they will get gorgeous women. -As someone in education, I cringe at the idea of a course that lacks a syllabus and a teaching philosophy. The testimonials lack the characteristic of what medical professionals and consultants place on their businesses. Usually, a testimony states what the client’s problem, was, how the professional fixed it, and the result. Testimonials on Red Pillers’ websites are literally just one or two sentences of the results and the person is anonymous. Others post messages they received on social media with no way to verify their legitimacy. If you enjoyed the video, like, comment, share, and subscribe.",,49,redpillnonsense,1607274966.0 -TheBluePill,k5cq37,Why The Red Pill Will Kill You Inside (x-post from r/everymanshouldknow,,/r/everymanshouldknow/comments/29hbtj/emsk_why_the_red_pill_will_kill_you_inside/,24,Immarrrtal,1606927179.0 -TheBluePill,k43xbo,"Probably the most misogynistic, rape apologistic, and downright disgusting PPD exchange I've ever had the misfortune of reading. [Major TW]",,https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/k3r5p1/what_are_your_views_on_how_title_ix/ge5desu?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3,116,[deleted],1606766683.0 -TheBluePill,k3s6fy,"TRP ""worked wonders"" for my relationship! On an unrelated note my friends now think I'm an asshole and my relationship is in the shitter.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/k3nqdz/one_of_best_friends_girlfriends_hates_my_red_pill/,164,[deleted],1606725984.0 -TheBluePill,k3bq16,There's a lot to unpack here,,https://i.redd.it/sydnfxwee1261.jpg,263,FoeHamma,1606665631.0 +As someone in education, I cringe at the idea of a course that lacks a syllabus and a teaching philosophy. The testimonials lack the characteristic of what medical professionals and consultants place on their businesses. Usually, a testimony states what the client’s problem, was, how the professional fixed it, and the result. Testimonials on Red Pillers’ websites are literally just one or two sentences of the results and the person is anonymous. Others post messages they received on social media with no way to verify their legitimacy. If you enjoyed the video, like, comment, share, and subscribe.",,49,redpillnonsense,2020-12-06 17:16:06 +TheBluePill,k5cq37,Why The Red Pill Will Kill You Inside (x-post from r/everymanshouldknow,,/r/everymanshouldknow/comments/29hbtj/emsk_why_the_red_pill_will_kill_you_inside/,24,Immarrrtal,2020-12-02 16:39:39 +TheBluePill,k43xbo,"Probably the most misogynistic, rape apologistic, and downright disgusting PPD exchange I've ever had the misfortune of reading. [Major TW]",,https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/k3r5p1/what_are_your_views_on_how_title_ix/ge5desu?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3,116,[deleted],2020-11-30 20:04:43 +TheBluePill,k3s6fy,"TRP ""worked wonders"" for my relationship! On an unrelated note my friends now think I'm an asshole and my relationship is in the shitter.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/k3nqdz/one_of_best_friends_girlfriends_hates_my_red_pill/,164,[deleted],2020-11-30 08:46:24 +TheBluePill,k3bq16,There's a lot to unpack here,,https://i.redd.it/sydnfxwee1261.jpg,263,FoeHamma,2020-11-29 16:00:31 TheBluePill,k3del4,SYSBM Makes No Sense | Video Essay | Interracial Dating | Red Pill | MGTOW | Manosphere,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/6krueh9cs7261.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=c1e7975083d4bd67484d7e69ddd3bb373a31c320 @@ -46118,15 +46118,15 @@ https://preview.redd.it/6krueh9cs7261.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=web For those that don't know what SYSBM (Save Yourself Black Man) is, it's an online subculture that promotes interracial dating/marriage as saving oneself while demonizing Black women. It has it's own esoteric terminology and belief system. It claims all Black men, past and present, as SYSBM if they were married to a non-Black women. -But it is incoherent. For example, it claim not all Black women are bad but insist finding a good Black women is equivalent to getting struck by lightening. It also insist it talks about Black women because men have to deal with them in areas such as customer service, but the majority of its critiques deal with dating and mating. These are men in their 40s who are married with children but demonize Black women for dating out.",,9,redpillnonsense,1606671209.0 -TheBluePill,k24xu7,"""My daughter keeps coming home with liberal views from her school and friends, please help me understand what I should do next to save her soul.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/k22qd5/i_feel_like_i_am_fighting_a_losing_battle_my/,200,[deleted],1606496562.0 +But it is incoherent. For example, it claim not all Black women are bad but insist finding a good Black women is equivalent to getting struck by lightening. It also insist it talks about Black women because men have to deal with them in areas such as customer service, but the majority of its critiques deal with dating and mating. These are men in their 40s who are married with children but demonize Black women for dating out.",,9,redpillnonsense,2020-11-29 17:33:29 +TheBluePill,k24xu7,"""My daughter keeps coming home with liberal views from her school and friends, please help me understand what I should do next to save her soul.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/k22qd5/i_feel_like_i_am_fighting_a_losing_battle_my/,200,[deleted],2020-11-27 17:02:42 TheBluePill,k1esvk,Why do terpers want to make everything simple and primitive?,"I just realized that terpers have a lot of hatred and disdain for things that make us more evolved as humans such as : love and emotions, art, creativity, spirituality, human connection, lack of prejudice and ability to have flexible thinking .. I just watched a video by Rollo Tomassi talking about the ""feminine mystique"" and he was getting triggered the whole show about the fact that women are portrayed as ""mystical"" in a lot of pop culture and as if they have ""secret knowledge and information""or ""soft power"" lol. What is wrong with soft power? Don't they realize that we live in a world where soft power is becoming increasingly more important as we are surrounded by tons of information and complex world events? It's like they are only focused on the primitive aspects of a human: hunting, mating, survival, being an ""logical alpha"". -Why are they so scared of the more mysterious, emotional and complex aspects of humans?",,118,yurii20,1606395498.0 +Why are they so scared of the more mysterious, emotional and complex aspects of humans?",,118,yurii20,2020-11-26 12:58:18 TheBluePill,jzid72,The Manosphere Loves Trolling Small Female YouTubers | Red Pill | MGTOW,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/7js59s5rzz061.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=ec37d4b62dcc88614c8ded52710f1afd67d10002 -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bwIRcAQ5Qns](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bwIRcAQ5Qns) One pattern I noticed in the Red Pill is that YouTubers with large followings love trolling small female content creators, but will willingly ignore male critics (like myself) and dismiss them as a ""clout chaser,"" a ""nobody', as we well as hurl juvenile insult. But these men, who sometimes have nearly or over 100,000 subscribers, troll women with less than 1,000 subs (lowest I've seen was 16) and send their subscribers to harass them in the comment section. Donovan Sharpe has infamously gone after small YouTubers, and out of everybody, he does it the most.",,115,redpillnonsense,1606141020.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bwIRcAQ5Qns](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bwIRcAQ5Qns) One pattern I noticed in the Red Pill is that YouTubers with large followings love trolling small female content creators, but will willingly ignore male critics (like myself) and dismiss them as a ""clout chaser,"" a ""nobody', as we well as hurl juvenile insult. But these men, who sometimes have nearly or over 100,000 subscribers, troll women with less than 1,000 subs (lowest I've seen was 16) and send their subscribers to harass them in the comment section. Donovan Sharpe has infamously gone after small YouTubers, and out of everybody, he does it the most.",,115,redpillnonsense,2020-11-23 14:17:00 TheBluePill,jwgg1s,"Manosphere/Red Pill: Black Men Are Highly Desired in Canada | Vancouver, British Columbia","&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/eomwr5bsa0061.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=c22287f72e3d7993aecbb5a9f9ec0f24d2730cbc @@ -46135,33 +46135,33 @@ https://preview.redd.it/eomwr5bsa0061.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=web But the Black sector of the Red Pill does not hold the same contempt. These men cite Canada’s small Black population as proof of Black men’s exoticness to non-Black Canadian women. In their minds, American and British Black men are highly sought after by women they deem to be 8s, 9s, and 10s. Because Ontario has the largest Black population in the country, these men favor western provinces, particular British Columbia (in fact, I have yet to hear anyone discuss a trip to Alberta or Saskatchewan). -Both groups significantly exaggerate.",,70,redpillnonsense,1605708733.0 +Both groups significantly exaggerate.",,70,redpillnonsense,2020-11-18 14:12:13 TheBluePill,juwwre,Red Pill Guy Claims Latinas' Private Parts Taste Like Milk Because They Don't Get Abortions (Unlike Black Women),"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/4f1tejywxhz51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=cc4c344de83062173f0a25669a6922a0243d3edc -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnpPzzMFVaQ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnpPzzMFVaQ) I made this short video about a guy claiming Latinas' private parts taste like milk because they don't get abortion. And he claimed a Polish woman said she worship her man over God.",,141,redpillnonsense,1605486470.0 -TheBluePill,jtsdti,Manga girl tells it like it is,,https://i.redd.it/9cuo67ylq0z51.jpg,491,FoeHamma,1605314677.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnpPzzMFVaQ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnpPzzMFVaQ) I made this short video about a guy claiming Latinas' private parts taste like milk because they don't get abortion. And he claimed a Polish woman said she worship her man over God.",,141,redpillnonsense,2020-11-16 00:27:50 +TheBluePill,jtsdti,Manga girl tells it like it is,,https://i.redd.it/9cuo67ylq0z51.jpg,491,FoeHamma,2020-11-14 00:44:37 TheBluePill,jt4b8z,The Lame & Predictable Comebacks from the Manosphere | Red Pill | MGTOW | SYSBM,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/0uw8qhggtvy51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=11ce0a3131894d08c14d1f131ab6451965e25b9a -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1EibqOyy\_xM](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1EibqOyy_xM) When folks in the Manosphere and SYSBM responded to two articles I wrote in 2019, I was a disillusioned by the fact that men in their 30s, 40s, and 50s resorted to juvenile insults. I cannot write some of them down because YouTube would remove my comment, but they mostly consisted of calling me suspect, a clout chaser, wimpy, a stalker, as well as claiming I wasn’t enrolled in graduate school (never mind the fact that YouTuber Green Gorilla is a PhD candidate that many men in the space support). All of them revealed that they knew little to nothing about graduate school. The Prophet of Thought Series, for example, thought I was enrolled in classes (candidacy means I’m finished with course work and writing the dissertation).",,7,redpillnonsense,1605218609.0 -TheBluePill,js1him,"Alek Minassian, the guy who did the Toronto van attack, fits the demographic perfectly",,https://i.redd.it/8qo51vir9hy51.jpg,301,FoeHamma,1605069419.0 -TheBluePill,jrr5se,[Palpatine voice] Goooooooooood,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/jb2ss6/anger_is_not_a_phase/,24,PablomentFanquedelic,1605035029.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1EibqOyy\_xM](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1EibqOyy_xM) When folks in the Manosphere and SYSBM responded to two articles I wrote in 2019, I was a disillusioned by the fact that men in their 30s, 40s, and 50s resorted to juvenile insults. I cannot write some of them down because YouTube would remove my comment, but they mostly consisted of calling me suspect, a clout chaser, wimpy, a stalker, as well as claiming I wasn’t enrolled in graduate school (never mind the fact that YouTuber Green Gorilla is a PhD candidate that many men in the space support). All of them revealed that they knew little to nothing about graduate school. The Prophet of Thought Series, for example, thought I was enrolled in classes (candidacy means I’m finished with course work and writing the dissertation).",,7,redpillnonsense,2020-11-12 22:03:29 +TheBluePill,js1him,"Alek Minassian, the guy who did the Toronto van attack, fits the demographic perfectly",,https://i.redd.it/8qo51vir9hy51.jpg,301,FoeHamma,2020-11-11 04:36:59 +TheBluePill,jrr5se,[Palpatine voice] Goooooooooood,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/jb2ss6/anger_is_not_a_phase/,24,PablomentFanquedelic,2020-11-10 19:03:49 TheBluePill,jqyd3r,The Manosphere/Red Pill Reaction (Meltdown) to Donald Trump's Defeat in 2020 Election,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/y5socnik38y51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=c61fd20a8bb8975d0c1f59866bc3bf7d74511482 -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8jDPqt8-bLY](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8jDPqt8-bLY) I made this compilation video of their reactions. It's funny, but I later found it to be pathetic.",,133,redpillnonsense,1604931447.0 -TheBluePill,jpihq4,"“Men build, women destroy""",,https://i.redd.it/v9qe9g05sox51.jpg,555,FoeHamma,1604714927.0 -TheBluePill,jpe4ea,Does anyone else feel like this is a cult I should be running from?,,https://i.redd.it/kdplu1bcwox51.jpg,114,CandyBoBandDandy,1604698952.0 -TheBluePill,joh4io,Women are expendable commodities,,https://i.redd.it/yobrbmmloex51.jpg,272,[deleted],1604575278.0 -TheBluePill,jo3pwl,"Prehistoric hunters weren't all male. Women killed big game, too - CNN. Cannot wait to see the explanations from the manosphere!",,https://www.cnn.com/2020/11/04/americas/prehistoric-female-hunter-burial-scn/index.html,270,invaderpixel,1604519900.0 -TheBluePill,jnyonu,Got to love their revenge fantasies.,,https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/jnu442/what_happens_to_these_young_whores_when_they/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,52,misiepatysie,1604503815.0 -TheBluePill,jmrr46,"So, is the wage gap reversed, calculate wrong, lessening, or not real? Can he not pick an ignorant lane to stay in?",,https://i.redd.it/ga65wm9k0vw51.png,129,3KidsInTheTrenchCoat,1604337675.0 -TheBluePill,jmzas7,A FEMALE MGTOW/TRP YouTube channel.....!?!,,https://www.youtube.com/c/FeminismLOL,11,NdN124,1604360914.0 -TheBluePill,jjclv9,"Incels: ""Why do people hate us?😭"" also Incels:",,https://i.redd.it/0qb1v5t3kmv51.jpg,669,FoeHamma,1603841324.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8jDPqt8-bLY](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8jDPqt8-bLY) I made this compilation video of their reactions. It's funny, but I later found it to be pathetic.",,133,redpillnonsense,2020-11-09 14:17:27 +TheBluePill,jpihq4,"“Men build, women destroy""",,https://i.redd.it/v9qe9g05sox51.jpg,555,FoeHamma,2020-11-07 02:08:47 +TheBluePill,jpe4ea,Does anyone else feel like this is a cult I should be running from?,,https://i.redd.it/kdplu1bcwox51.jpg,114,CandyBoBandDandy,2020-11-06 21:42:32 +TheBluePill,joh4io,Women are expendable commodities,,https://i.redd.it/yobrbmmloex51.jpg,272,[deleted],2020-11-05 11:21:18 +TheBluePill,jo3pwl,"Prehistoric hunters weren't all male. Women killed big game, too - CNN. Cannot wait to see the explanations from the manosphere!",,https://www.cnn.com/2020/11/04/americas/prehistoric-female-hunter-burial-scn/index.html,270,invaderpixel,2020-11-04 19:58:20 +TheBluePill,jnyonu,Got to love their revenge fantasies.,,https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/jnu442/what_happens_to_these_young_whores_when_they/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,52,misiepatysie,2020-11-04 15:30:15 +TheBluePill,jmrr46,"So, is the wage gap reversed, calculate wrong, lessening, or not real? Can he not pick an ignorant lane to stay in?",,https://i.redd.it/ga65wm9k0vw51.png,129,3KidsInTheTrenchCoat,2020-11-02 17:21:15 +TheBluePill,jmzas7,A FEMALE MGTOW/TRP YouTube channel.....!?!,,https://www.youtube.com/c/FeminismLOL,11,NdN124,2020-11-02 23:48:34 +TheBluePill,jjclv9,"Incels: ""Why do people hate us?😭"" also Incels:",,https://i.redd.it/0qb1v5t3kmv51.jpg,669,FoeHamma,2020-10-27 23:28:44 TheBluePill,jimzht,'Monogamy is socialism' and other hot takes;,"https://quillette.com/2019/03/12/attraction-inequality-and-the-dating-economy/ Came across this article and had to post it. It has a few gems amidst the word salads. @@ -46184,7 +46184,7 @@ So monogamy, which in the paragraphs prior, the author explains is not natural ( And arranged marriages are a form of communism too, because most men are unattractive (?) -I stopped reading here, because I was in splits. I think this is the first time I have seen incel literature engage in leftist thought, by their standards. Will the incel revolutionaries be like Che Guevara, defying our stereotype of unhygienic neckbeards eating doritos and drinking mountain dew? Only time will tell.",,100,blazerz,1603745487.0 +I stopped reading here, because I was in splits. I think this is the first time I have seen incel literature engage in leftist thought, by their standards. Will the incel revolutionaries be like Che Guevara, defying our stereotype of unhygienic neckbeards eating doritos and drinking mountain dew? Only time will tell.",,100,blazerz,2020-10-26 20:51:27 TheBluePill,ji9s9e,"Misogynistic, creepy, incel date","I don’t know if this is the right place to post this, but I need some feed back on a recent experience I had that was out right disturbing and disgusting male behavior. Part of me wonders if I’m reacting so strongly because the man was so physically unattractive, which sounds shallow but I’m only trying to understand myself better and men better. either way I know this behavior disturbed me. A friend from high school (graduated 10 years ago) connected with me on Facebook. @@ -46211,9 +46211,9 @@ At this point his number is blocked & he has flown back to Washington but I Should I be this uncomfortable with this interaction or should I just easily let it go ? -Edit: he recently contacted me from an unknown number asking me if I would cut him, offering me money to physically harm him. Of course I immediately blocked and didn’t say anything. next message I get I’m considering calling the cops...",,254,SubstantialSubject2,1603694557.0 -TheBluePill,jg03t8,Is this user right that men made rape illegal not because they think raping women is bad but because they don't want competition between each other? I freaked out reading this,,https://i.redd.it/0qp5n48ojnu51.png,219,Adventurous-Culture9,1603375051.0 -TheBluePill,jg54sb,Smooth brain MGTOW got a permanent reddit ban and he thought would make a brag post about getting around it... Resulted in another perm ban! Lol,,https://i.redd.it/t63oul9utou51.jpg,71,Fuzzy-Scene,1603390567.0 +Edit: he recently contacted me from an unknown number asking me if I would cut him, offering me money to physically harm him. Of course I immediately blocked and didn’t say anything. next message I get I’m considering calling the cops...",,254,SubstantialSubject2,2020-10-26 06:42:37 +TheBluePill,jg03t8,Is this user right that men made rape illegal not because they think raping women is bad but because they don't want competition between each other? I freaked out reading this,,https://i.redd.it/0qp5n48ojnu51.png,219,Adventurous-Culture9,2020-10-22 13:57:31 +TheBluePill,jg54sb,Smooth brain MGTOW got a permanent reddit ban and he thought would make a brag post about getting around it... Resulted in another perm ban! Lol,,https://i.redd.it/t63oul9utou51.jpg,71,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-10-22 18:16:07 TheBluePill,jfs193,"Doing what I used to want to do, the right way.","Howdy folks, I just had a realization. After getting into the red pill as an inexperienced idiot kid (like 16-18 years old), figuring out that’s not how people work and reducing/tempering it to just be working on yourself and doing your best, I took a look at my life and noticed some similarities to the dreams I once had (I’m 21 now). @@ -46232,39 +46232,39 @@ This realization/reflection came after the most redpill-esque thing that has eve This feels a little rambley but it’s late and I’m tired. If it gets some interest I’ll do some editing for clarity and some more thinking. Thank you so much for reading! -P.S. Another interesting point is, this sub had almost nothing to do with me leaving the red pill. It was like I grew out of it and just found other more rewarding things to do, and as I broadened my perspective in college I realized how dumb it was.",,42,AllThotsAllowed,1603337178.0 -TheBluePill,jfkgdj,"He is Going His Own Way right after this last 'whimin' correction guys... Promise, he is going, any minute now... Oh wait... There are 7, 7 last whines then definitely going",,https://i.redd.it/oamqdoju7iu51.jpg,24,Fuzzy-Scene,1603310540.0 +P.S. Another interesting point is, this sub had almost nothing to do with me leaving the red pill. It was like I grew out of it and just found other more rewarding things to do, and as I broadened my perspective in college I realized how dumb it was.",,42,AllThotsAllowed,2020-10-22 03:26:18 +TheBluePill,jfkgdj,"He is Going His Own Way right after this last 'whimin' correction guys... Promise, he is going, any minute now... Oh wait... There are 7, 7 last whines then definitely going",,https://i.redd.it/oamqdoju7iu51.jpg,24,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-10-21 20:02:20 TheBluePill,jfg3in,Why Do Red Pill Men Support a Violent Ex-Con? Black Manosphere | SYSBM,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/5r41s6sh4hu51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=b53c21c07389f5c4a2a4c1cc7695b142c221b7b8 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cFLFpWYEgeM](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cFLFpWYEgeM) Some men in the Black Manosphere and SYSBM disdain Black women (and their mothers) so much they set aside their principles and supported a violent ex-con because he “went in” on Black women (I’m unsure whether he’s on parole or got an extended jail sentence until 2022). To make matters worse, despite Hardcore Tito’s past and active criminal activities, many still supported him while incarcerated and hoped he return to YouTube once released. Even though none of them have ever met him, some sent him money and wrote letters to him while he was incarcerated. -It's also quite sad how many of these red pill guys have criminal records.",,10,redpillnonsense,1603297403.0 +It's also quite sad how many of these red pill guys have criminal records.",,10,redpillnonsense,2020-10-21 16:23:23 TheBluePill,jf4vcd,Please Explain This Logic to me,"&#x200B; -https://preview.redd.it/4onpgcda5du51.png?width=473&format=png&auto=webp&s=13a65b7ae0045ab4dbcadc5078357f996d8f8be7",,70,redpillnonsense,1603249141.0 +https://preview.redd.it/4onpgcda5du51.png?width=473&format=png&auto=webp&s=13a65b7ae0045ab4dbcadc5078357f996d8f8be7",,70,redpillnonsense,2020-10-21 02:59:01 TheBluePill,je18jq,Men Believe Sex Dolls/Robots Will Replace Women: MGTOW | Red Pill | Manosphere,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/bppoul5av1u51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=0e3a1ea95c6bfb389dc2369ca04e45273a22deb7 -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D4sCo83QvuI](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D4sCo83QvuI) I am not shaming men for having sex dolls or pleasing themselves with sex toys. Instead, I am ridiculing the asinine, red pill talking point that sex dolls/robots will replace women and is a better cost-benefit analysis than dating/marriage.",,26,redpillnonsense,1603112617.0 -TheBluePill,jd07vn,🤮🤮🤮There are three pictures of you scroll through.,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/jd0608,121,Jenn_There_Done_That,1602958740.0 -TheBluePill,jblhkv,"Standards for thee, but not for meee",,https://i.redd.it/wkrh9b13f2t51.jpg,449,FoeHamma,1602759992.0 -TheBluePill,jaskox,An almost 30 year old man body shaming an 18 year old,,https://i.redd.it/93uiienvqxs51.jpg,454,FoeHamma,1602644514.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D4sCo83QvuI](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D4sCo83QvuI) I am not shaming men for having sex dolls or pleasing themselves with sex toys. Instead, I am ridiculing the asinine, red pill talking point that sex dolls/robots will replace women and is a better cost-benefit analysis than dating/marriage.",,26,redpillnonsense,2020-10-19 13:03:37 +TheBluePill,jd07vn,🤮🤮🤮There are three pictures of you scroll through.,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/jd0608,121,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-10-17 18:19:00 +TheBluePill,jblhkv,"Standards for thee, but not for meee",,https://i.redd.it/wkrh9b13f2t51.jpg,449,FoeHamma,2020-10-15 11:06:32 +TheBluePill,jaskox,An almost 30 year old man body shaming an 18 year old,,https://i.redd.it/93uiienvqxs51.jpg,454,FoeHamma,2020-10-14 03:01:54 TheBluePill,jb3kiz,Red Pill Guy Endorses Extreme Plan to Fix his Community | Black Manosphere,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/c71pcv9a33t51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=7404c8812521ab45ebb43286d887a58e8e4be1dd [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cfkhc79a-xo](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cfkhc79a-xo) -The Black Manosphere is notorious for attempting to disregard any comparison with the White sector of the Red Pill. But as this video demonstrates, the arguments are nearly isomorphic.",,11,redpillnonsense,1602691585.0 -TheBluePill,j9jdky,Imagine telling on yourself like this.,,https://i.redd.it/himep6m7ijs51.jpg,316,FoeHamma,1602473016.0 -TheBluePill,j9f4qa,You can't quit a game if you were never playing to begin with...,,https://i.redd.it/z4147jw0eis51.jpg,137,FoeHamma,1602456008.0 -TheBluePill,j8hjza,"""Break down her self esteem"" so he can rape women.",,https://i.redd.it/7ebdmoqxj8s51.jpg,233,Fuzzy-Scene,1602321868.0 -TheBluePill,j836rr,"So, uh, when are they gonna go their own way?",,https://i.redd.it/nogo3eujl1s51.jpg,333,PablomentFanquedelic,1602264094.0 -TheBluePill,j7g6yn,"On the whole, Purple pillers doesn’t exist, they are just low level closeted RP.",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/j7g6yn,177,Ra0ulDukeDarko,1602174366.0 -TheBluePill,j7ljmr,"Female attractiveness distribution in the real world vs. female attractiveness distribution in PPD,TRP and MGTOW communities",,https://i.redd.it/o8aqqqwnrxr51.jpg,41,tiposk,1602191259.0 +The Black Manosphere is notorious for attempting to disregard any comparison with the White sector of the Red Pill. But as this video demonstrates, the arguments are nearly isomorphic.",,11,redpillnonsense,2020-10-14 16:06:25 +TheBluePill,j9jdky,Imagine telling on yourself like this.,,https://i.redd.it/himep6m7ijs51.jpg,316,FoeHamma,2020-10-12 03:23:36 +TheBluePill,j9f4qa,You can't quit a game if you were never playing to begin with...,,https://i.redd.it/z4147jw0eis51.jpg,137,FoeHamma,2020-10-11 22:40:08 +TheBluePill,j8hjza,"""Break down her self esteem"" so he can rape women.",,https://i.redd.it/7ebdmoqxj8s51.jpg,233,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-10-10 09:24:28 +TheBluePill,j836rr,"So, uh, when are they gonna go their own way?",,https://i.redd.it/nogo3eujl1s51.jpg,333,PablomentFanquedelic,2020-10-09 17:21:34 +TheBluePill,j7g6yn,"On the whole, Purple pillers doesn’t exist, they are just low level closeted RP.",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/j7g6yn,177,Ra0ulDukeDarko,2020-10-08 16:26:06 +TheBluePill,j7ljmr,"Female attractiveness distribution in the real world vs. female attractiveness distribution in PPD,TRP and MGTOW communities",,https://i.redd.it/o8aqqqwnrxr51.jpg,41,tiposk,2020-10-08 21:07:39 TheBluePill,j7coxt,The Home of Alleged Six-Figure Earners: Manosphere | Red Pill | MGTOW,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/xhibcpv6dvr51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=e9cd7bdf298eb1c9e978a1865f3e1ddadfd77ac4 @@ -46281,13 +46281,13 @@ A truck driver who claims he runs multiple six-figure businesses A construction worker who claims he makes $250,000 every year from his job -A former Best Buy employee who claim he received free stuff from his job frequently (at first, he refused to admit that he uses to work there)",,16,redpillnonsense,1602162405.0 -TheBluePill,j71gjf,"Cross-post from FDS about Mariah Carey getting a cool 70 mil payout from a guy she never slept with. They talked about the reasons why that was so and the controversy with Eminem. Meanwhile, MGTOW post it and guess what they talk about?",,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/j6u6sl/be_woman_get_paid/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,12,Fuzzy-Scene,1602111649.0 -TheBluePill,j5ya48,What the fuck Stefan,,https://i.redd.it/6msky6kcrar51.jpg,455,FoeHamma,1601956333.0 -TheBluePill,j69jjm,More pontificating about how the misandry bubble's gonna pop any day now,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/j67amp/enjoy_the_decline/,30,PablomentFanquedelic,1602005829.0 -TheBluePill,j630ee,Dominate men with FEMININE WILES.,,https://i.redd.it/jl5jyohchgr51.jpg,53,[deleted],1601981965.0 -TheBluePill,j5yd3s,"""No matter how much she wants you to 'open up', she WILL use your sensitivities against you.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/j4kii5/no_matter_how_much_she_wants_you_to_open_up_she/,10,PablomentFanquedelic,1601956715.0 -TheBluePill,j5rp9n,"Reading a short post and thinking ""ok this is good they are getting it"" then you read ""if I have women in my life who I don't fuck, but are very important to me, what would that instill in women I do want to fuck? That's right: the dread game to end all dread game."" Almost had me going for a moment",,https://i.redd.it/tzbhcp1sacr51.jpg,17,Fuzzy-Scene,1601931339.0 +A former Best Buy employee who claim he received free stuff from his job frequently (at first, he refused to admit that he uses to work there)",,16,redpillnonsense,2020-10-08 13:06:45 +TheBluePill,j71gjf,"Cross-post from FDS about Mariah Carey getting a cool 70 mil payout from a guy she never slept with. They talked about the reasons why that was so and the controversy with Eminem. Meanwhile, MGTOW post it and guess what they talk about?",,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/j6u6sl/be_woman_get_paid/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,12,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-10-07 23:00:49 +TheBluePill,j5ya48,What the fuck Stefan,,https://i.redd.it/6msky6kcrar51.jpg,455,FoeHamma,2020-10-06 03:52:13 +TheBluePill,j69jjm,More pontificating about how the misandry bubble's gonna pop any day now,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/j67amp/enjoy_the_decline/,30,PablomentFanquedelic,2020-10-06 17:37:09 +TheBluePill,j630ee,Dominate men with FEMININE WILES.,,https://i.redd.it/jl5jyohchgr51.jpg,53,[deleted],2020-10-06 10:59:25 +TheBluePill,j5yd3s,"""No matter how much she wants you to 'open up', she WILL use your sensitivities against you.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/j4kii5/no_matter_how_much_she_wants_you_to_open_up_she/,10,PablomentFanquedelic,2020-10-06 03:58:35 +TheBluePill,j5rp9n,"Reading a short post and thinking ""ok this is good they are getting it"" then you read ""if I have women in my life who I don't fuck, but are very important to me, what would that instill in women I do want to fuck? That's right: the dread game to end all dread game."" Almost had me going for a moment",,https://i.redd.it/tzbhcp1sacr51.jpg,17,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-10-05 20:55:39 TheBluePill,j55d31,"The Ultimate Goal of MRAs, MGTOW and TRP (reposted)","The strong career woman sounds like she would be the ideal mate for a MGTOW or RedPiller. She's independent, not needing the money or security provided by a man, she may even offer to pay for some dates. She's conservative minded, pays her own bills, manages her own finances, invests in her own future. She's strong willed and independent minded and wants a man that has similar attributes. But.... MGTOW/RedPill guys can't stand her.... why??? What the manosphere doesn't admit to is that they want women to be completely dependent on men. The independent career woman can't be controlled by a man. She has her own way. She will take a husband or boyfriend as a sidekick, confidant, sex partner and companion but she doesn't want to be completely dependent on him for everything. @@ -46300,20 +46300,20 @@ Today's society now incentivises and encourages women to be independent and work &#x200B; -I also posted this on /r/exRedpill if that's OK?",,232,NdN124,1601841311.0 +I also posted this on /r/exRedpill if that's OK?",,232,NdN124,2020-10-04 19:55:11 TheBluePill,j523jl,SYSBM Claims Harriet Tubman & Female Scientists Are Myths,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/kh2lt3ovw3r51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=1d6ed533ad26ada53829465c86a55cb0bf32adc2 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jU8Wd9nlehU](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jU8Wd9nlehU) Interestingly, many men who identified as SYSBM (Save Yourself Black Men) were formerly MGTOW. But instead of walking away from women in general, they walk away from Black women and seek out non-Black women (hence ""saving themselves""). -Ironically, SYSBM claims to be the ""best and the brightest"" but spew not only hate speech, but idiotic talking points like claiming Harriet Tubman was a myth to appease Black women.",,9,redpillnonsense,1601830137.0 -TheBluePill,j4hacd,Based and bluepilled,,https://i.redd.it/p5ws09qzbtq51.jpg,395,FoeHamma,1601740176.0 -TheBluePill,j4yxz4,"Can't have kids because of your woman issues, let alone have you met one? Think women is destroying the world that you feel you're entitled to? Think the world revolve around women because nothing's fair? Vent your frustrations behind your keyboard with an overpriced computer.",[https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/j4nz9z/get\_myself\_a\_new\_graphic\_card/](https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/j4nz9z/get_myself_a_new_graphic_card/),,7,StrongSecurity,1601818169.0 -TheBluePill,j3jp3k,"Ugh women, am i right?",,https://i.redd.it/18a5cwm7zcq51.jpg,349,FoeHamma,1601594661.0 -TheBluePill,j2xq5c,What is up with this Matrix blue red pill stuff,"What is the bluepill, what is the redpill, from what I can tell on all the redpill subs people are just racists and think everyone is a Marxists, and hire people are a little more chill but everyone talks like an alphabet supe, and to be honest I got here looking for porn",,54,ItNothingSpecial,1601510326.0 -TheBluePill,j283li,The Use of “Female”,"Hey y’all! I’m a guy and I am disgusted at the misogyny of TRP and MGTOW. What I’ve learned throughout this subreddit is that many of these misogynists always say “females” instead of girls or women. I totally understand and agree why this word choice is toxic, but it has me starting to judge and think less of guys who say “females”. Does it always mean that they have a slight leaning to misogyny? Is this a good instinct to have?",,155,AsianAmazon74,1601413203.0 -TheBluePill,j1vy4c,"Settle in for the long read of the week! Its got everything from memoirs, scripts, creative writing, bad advice, quotes from his heros and reminiscing and this telling quote ""I was 16 years old and she was my first and last love."" tells on himself that he hasn't grown up yet. Bingo! Bingo! Bingo!",,https://i.redd.it/seo1pngw12q51.jpg,12,Fuzzy-Scene,1601371438.0 +Ironically, SYSBM claims to be the ""best and the brightest"" but spew not only hate speech, but idiotic talking points like claiming Harriet Tubman was a myth to appease Black women.",,9,redpillnonsense,2020-10-04 16:48:57 +TheBluePill,j4hacd,Based and bluepilled,,https://i.redd.it/p5ws09qzbtq51.jpg,395,FoeHamma,2020-10-03 15:49:36 +TheBluePill,j4yxz4,"Can't have kids because of your woman issues, let alone have you met one? Think women is destroying the world that you feel you're entitled to? Think the world revolve around women because nothing's fair? Vent your frustrations behind your keyboard with an overpriced computer.",[https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/j4nz9z/get\_myself\_a\_new\_graphic\_card/](https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/j4nz9z/get_myself_a_new_graphic_card/),,7,StrongSecurity,2020-10-04 13:29:29 +TheBluePill,j3jp3k,"Ugh women, am i right?",,https://i.redd.it/18a5cwm7zcq51.jpg,349,FoeHamma,2020-10-01 23:24:21 +TheBluePill,j2xq5c,What is up with this Matrix blue red pill stuff,"What is the bluepill, what is the redpill, from what I can tell on all the redpill subs people are just racists and think everyone is a Marxists, and hire people are a little more chill but everyone talks like an alphabet supe, and to be honest I got here looking for porn",,54,ItNothingSpecial,2020-09-30 23:58:46 +TheBluePill,j283li,The Use of “Female”,"Hey y’all! I’m a guy and I am disgusted at the misogyny of TRP and MGTOW. What I’ve learned throughout this subreddit is that many of these misogynists always say “females” instead of girls or women. I totally understand and agree why this word choice is toxic, but it has me starting to judge and think less of guys who say “females”. Does it always mean that they have a slight leaning to misogyny? Is this a good instinct to have?",,155,AsianAmazon74,2020-09-29 21:00:03 +TheBluePill,j1vy4c,"Settle in for the long read of the week! Its got everything from memoirs, scripts, creative writing, bad advice, quotes from his heros and reminiscing and this telling quote ""I was 16 years old and she was my first and last love."" tells on himself that he hasn't grown up yet. Bingo! Bingo! Bingo!",,https://i.redd.it/seo1pngw12q51.jpg,12,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-09-29 09:23:58 TheBluePill,j1fnb8,Red Pill Black Men Put White Women on a Pedestal | Manosphere | SYSBM,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/yaniqnnl2xp51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=3c9f5cd3f4c243b58760c2723fd58f04909daa1e @@ -46322,53 +46322,53 @@ https://preview.redd.it/yaniqnnl2xp51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=web I believe this forum is mostly White so I'll explain the Black sector of the Red Pill (I'm Black after all and have written about the Black sector). In the Black sector of the Red Pill, there is a tendency among content creators and followers to hold non-Black women, especially White women, in a higher regard than Black women. To the point that men often view them as better dating partners while claiming to know ""female nature."" Of course, some men actually have no experience dating outside of their race but fall victim to the Grass is Greener Syndrome. Often this stems from an inferiority complex as they associate whiteness as being superior to blackness. There are dudes who literally brag about having slept with the most White women in the sector. -But there are divisions. Some men who were married to or have children by White women believe in AWALT (all women are like that). Others have had horrible experience with White women but believe they are still superior to Black women (hence SYSBM, which stands for Save Yourself Black Man/Men).",,62,redpillnonsense,1601311674.0 +But there are divisions. Some men who were married to or have children by White women believe in AWALT (all women are like that). Others have had horrible experience with White women but believe they are still superior to Black women (hence SYSBM, which stands for Save Yourself Black Man/Men).",,62,redpillnonsense,2020-09-28 16:47:54 TheBluePill,j11lwy,"Red Pill, Manosphere, & MGTOW Are Obsessed with ""The Wall""","&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/kros13el3sp51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=fb5f9364a127342a17d5e85fcdfd8a9a6de3fb4e -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a3\_KnzwQM18&t](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a3_KnzwQM18&t) People are still coming onto my channel insisting that ""The Wall"" is real and doesn't affect men and women in the same way. And they have a bunch of pseudo-evolutionary biology to back it up.",,149,redpillnonsense,1601251007.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a3\_KnzwQM18&t](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a3_KnzwQM18&t) People are still coming onto my channel insisting that ""The Wall"" is real and doesn't affect men and women in the same way. And they have a bunch of pseudo-evolutionary biology to back it up.",,149,redpillnonsense,2020-09-27 23:56:47 TheBluePill,j19z55,Finding my stand,"Hello, I shall begin by saying I am new to all this Blue Pill and Red pill stuff. My question is are you here, Blue pill saying all the stuff being said at TRP is all crap and society is perfect the way it is? -Stuff about the female nature, hypergamy?",,7,butasi,1601291093.0 -TheBluePill,j0m2db,Why do I feel like the person making this tweet is basing on their own personal experience?,,https://i.redd.it/plui5ihgsmp51.jpg,335,[deleted],1601186978.0 +Stuff about the female nature, hypergamy?",,7,butasi,2020-09-28 11:04:53 +TheBluePill,j0m2db,Why do I feel like the person making this tweet is basing on their own personal experience?,,https://i.redd.it/plui5ihgsmp51.jpg,335,[deleted],2020-09-27 06:09:38 TheBluePill,j0u8pf,"YouTubers Are Promoting Sex Tourism in Sosúa, Dominican Republic","&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/y0di9sc8ypp51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=c61527b5b474e5c25dd9c79e3475f967eb929cdf -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HsIF8k7cAEo&t](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HsIF8k7cAEo&t) So I made this video and these butthurt dudes came to my channel to troll and claim they're helping the economy by sleeping with women abroad.",,14,redpillnonsense,1601224950.0 -TheBluePill,izyr7w,"Self justifying molester. aka as long as i want to grope you, your willingness meant nothing.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/izn0zj/a_girls_boundary_is_based_on_you_not_her/,81,EGJW,1601092439.0 -TheBluePill,izup4q,"History of deception... catching feelings for a plate (1 month ago) then just after ""I do not care about any of my plates"", help my plate is late for her period (8 days ago), I took her virginity now I'm ignoring her (6 hours ago). I can't keep track of the BS",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/izup4q,39,Fuzzy-Scene,1601076895.0 -TheBluePill,izh85q,"The article is not worth reading but the comments are ""men can love women unconditionally, women only love men when they want something, comfort kills attraction"" blah blah erroneous black and white thinking crap.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/iz6j8i/accepting_that_love_is_different_for_women/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,113,Fuzzy-Scene,1601030521.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HsIF8k7cAEo&t](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HsIF8k7cAEo&t) So I made this video and these butthurt dudes came to my channel to troll and claim they're helping the economy by sleeping with women abroad.",,14,redpillnonsense,2020-09-27 16:42:30 +TheBluePill,izyr7w,"Self justifying molester. aka as long as i want to grope you, your willingness meant nothing.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/izn0zj/a_girls_boundary_is_based_on_you_not_her/,81,EGJW,2020-09-26 03:53:59 +TheBluePill,izup4q,"History of deception... catching feelings for a plate (1 month ago) then just after ""I do not care about any of my plates"", help my plate is late for her period (8 days ago), I took her virginity now I'm ignoring her (6 hours ago). I can't keep track of the BS",,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/izup4q,39,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-09-25 23:34:55 +TheBluePill,izh85q,"The article is not worth reading but the comments are ""men can love women unconditionally, women only love men when they want something, comfort kills attraction"" blah blah erroneous black and white thinking crap.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/iz6j8i/accepting_that_love_is_different_for_women/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,113,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-09-25 10:42:01 TheBluePill,iyfl6q,Research Study on Ex-TRP partners recruiting!,"Hi TBP, I am a doctoral research student at a large Midwestern American University. My research interests include online men’s spaces and subcultures. I am currently collecting data for a qualitative research study with individuals who had partners who, during the time of the relationship, employed strategies from The Red Pill. I am hoping to gain perspective on what the experience was like directly from the people who had a partner display these attitudes and behaviors. I am looking to conduct one-time phone interviews 30-45 minutes in length and audio recorded (only if that’s okay with you). If you believe you fit this description and would like to participate in this research, please PM me on this account and we can discuss how to arrange that. For the purposes of confidentiality and privacy, no personally identifiable information needs to be shared, and you may decline any portion of the interview which you are not comfortable with. -Thank you for this opportunity, and I look forward to hearing from you.",,116,BluePillResearchProj,1600884791.0 +Thank you for this opportunity, and I look forward to hearing from you.",,116,BluePillResearchProj,2020-09-23 18:13:11 TheBluePill,iycs3z,Red Pill Crybabies Claim Women are Emotional & Men Are Logical,"&#x200B; https://preview.redd.it/zyxkqlay5xo51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=52b094874d84c45df801ff1f921cd092d2a27c82 -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j9BdvnjT1wI](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j9BdvnjT1wI) I just have to laugh at these dudes.",,33,redpillnonsense,1600876455.0 -TheBluePill,ixm60n,"Cosy up for the long read... An insight into this guys relationship and mind but the shocking thing is that he did some 'therapy'. I have questions, so many questions!",,https://i.redd.it/rfcd4r8lxoo51.jpg,100,Fuzzy-Scene,1600776758.0 -TheBluePill,iww5ub,"Terper writes a script for when your woman tells you she loves you... You never tell her you love her because thats giving into her ""power grab"".",,https://i.redd.it/7e2j747tjgo51.jpg,111,Fuzzy-Scene,1600675257.0 -TheBluePill,iwm6ps,These guys at MGTOW are hilarious with their memes. They actually think women just exist and thats it!,,https://i.redd.it/swpw36aaado51.jpg,491,Fuzzy-Scene,1600635731.0 -TheBluePill,iwuz2a,Former red piller leaving the darkness,"My theory is that most red pillers deep down have daddy issues. I did and that's what lead to me perceiving men in a bad light. He acted in ways that lost my respect so i implictly didnt trust men. I thought society hated men but really i was reflecting onto society my own psychology. I sought out media and women who also had implicit lack of trust in men and so i was surrounded by misandry of my own creation. Thus, when i found a place where they were all saying society hated men, i thought i was home. I thought i found a place where the truth was really being said. I never wanted to learn ""game"" or ""spin plates"" but i thought i had no choice but to treat women like i didnt need them. They told me that was the only way to find love. Or whatever version of love a red piller believes in. So i did and then of course i perpetuated the dysfucnction along. Now i created women who really did hate men because they got used by me. The red pill is basically dysfunction festering in dysfunction. Save yourself gentleman. Find a way to positively contribute to your society. Be a good man. Find a good girl. Love your fellow humans.",,62,NormalHumanAccount,1600669231.0 -TheBluePill,iwav2c,Someone on r/whatsbotheringyou who seems to be headed down the slippery slope...,,https://i.redd.it/ji4ti59av9o51.jpg,118,AintMisMehefin,1600594393.0 -TheBluePill,iw2gcz,"He is so ""intoxicating..."" Guy dreads and thinks he has women dickmatised rather than confused by his abuse.",,https://i.redd.it/jkpz3i1to6o51.jpg,27,Fuzzy-Scene,1600555863.0 -TheBluePill,iurv12,"""The Problem With Anime Sexism NOBODY Wants To Admit"" this coming from same weeb from the last time",,https://archive.md/jeDss,125,[deleted],1600375035.0 -TheBluePill,itt54n,RIP weeb Michael ⚰️,,https://i.redd.it/hrwnwx6u0fn51.jpg,413,FoeHamma,1600253449.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j9BdvnjT1wI](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j9BdvnjT1wI) I just have to laugh at these dudes.",,33,redpillnonsense,2020-09-23 15:54:15 +TheBluePill,ixm60n,"Cosy up for the long read... An insight into this guys relationship and mind but the shocking thing is that he did some 'therapy'. I have questions, so many questions!",,https://i.redd.it/rfcd4r8lxoo51.jpg,100,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-09-22 12:12:38 +TheBluePill,iww5ub,"Terper writes a script for when your woman tells you she loves you... You never tell her you love her because thats giving into her ""power grab"".",,https://i.redd.it/7e2j747tjgo51.jpg,111,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-09-21 08:00:57 +TheBluePill,iwm6ps,These guys at MGTOW are hilarious with their memes. They actually think women just exist and thats it!,,https://i.redd.it/swpw36aaado51.jpg,491,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-09-20 21:02:11 +TheBluePill,iwuz2a,Former red piller leaving the darkness,"My theory is that most red pillers deep down have daddy issues. I did and that's what lead to me perceiving men in a bad light. He acted in ways that lost my respect so i implictly didnt trust men. I thought society hated men but really i was reflecting onto society my own psychology. I sought out media and women who also had implicit lack of trust in men and so i was surrounded by misandry of my own creation. Thus, when i found a place where they were all saying society hated men, i thought i was home. I thought i found a place where the truth was really being said. I never wanted to learn ""game"" or ""spin plates"" but i thought i had no choice but to treat women like i didnt need them. They told me that was the only way to find love. Or whatever version of love a red piller believes in. So i did and then of course i perpetuated the dysfucnction along. Now i created women who really did hate men because they got used by me. The red pill is basically dysfunction festering in dysfunction. Save yourself gentleman. Find a way to positively contribute to your society. Be a good man. Find a good girl. Love your fellow humans.",,62,NormalHumanAccount,2020-09-21 06:20:31 +TheBluePill,iwav2c,Someone on r/whatsbotheringyou who seems to be headed down the slippery slope...,,https://i.redd.it/ji4ti59av9o51.jpg,118,AintMisMehefin,2020-09-20 09:33:13 +TheBluePill,iw2gcz,"He is so ""intoxicating..."" Guy dreads and thinks he has women dickmatised rather than confused by his abuse.",,https://i.redd.it/jkpz3i1to6o51.jpg,27,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-09-19 22:51:03 +TheBluePill,iurv12,"""The Problem With Anime Sexism NOBODY Wants To Admit"" this coming from same weeb from the last time",,https://archive.md/jeDss,125,[deleted],2020-09-17 20:37:15 +TheBluePill,itt54n,RIP weeb Michael ⚰️,,https://i.redd.it/hrwnwx6u0fn51.jpg,413,FoeHamma,2020-09-16 10:50:49 TheBluePill,itvpj1,SYSBM/Red Pill: Interracial P0rn Proves Black Men's Global Desirability,"&#x200B; [https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=DRY\_92PbY7I](https://preview.redd.it/n517ne4cjin51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=89c95e1a9fecd85ce6d25c833d17c23a09989d32) -SYSBM (Save Yourself Black Men/Man) endorse the idea that Black men should ""save themselves"" and date interracially. But these same men don't want Black women doing the same thing.",,11,redpillnonsense,1600263606.0 +SYSBM (Save Yourself Black Men/Man) endorse the idea that Black men should ""save themselves"" and date interracially. But these same men don't want Black women doing the same thing.",,11,redpillnonsense,2020-09-16 13:40:06 TheBluePill,itb3t8,Red Pill Guy Claims Women Absorb the DNA & Personalities of their Sexual Partners,"&#x200B; [People are trying to defend this in the comment section. SMH ](https://preview.redd.it/1auiu4wwybn51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=96bc487ed57159c46dd98b8027a28f03f0a29353) -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85sIHTWRVZo](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85sIHTWRVZo)",,20,redpillnonsense,1600183988.0 -TheBluePill,it3r2t,"""When a woman say she was/is in an abusive relationship or marriage, Abusive is a Code word for women."" Says terper who goes on to write a listical and disclaimer. What a shit post!",,https://i.redd.it/2233vb7of9n51.jpg,70,Fuzzy-Scene,1600153272.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85sIHTWRVZo](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85sIHTWRVZo)",,20,redpillnonsense,2020-09-15 15:33:08 +TheBluePill,it3r2t,"""When a woman say she was/is in an abusive relationship or marriage, Abusive is a Code word for women."" Says terper who goes on to write a listical and disclaimer. What a shit post!",,https://i.redd.it/2233vb7of9n51.jpg,70,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-09-15 07:01:12 TheBluePill,isa8g6,"""The Problem With Anime Feminists In The West (And The Hidden Agenda)""..... well they used a video from Comicsgator Yellow Flash.... so that should be telling....","https://archive.md/4mR1c >Anime Feminism seems to get stronger as the years go by. With MORE feminists getting louder when they see something they don’t like in anime. @@ -46530,45 +46530,45 @@ The Problem With Anime Feminists In The West (And The Hidden Agenda) >Instead of focusing on dumb sh*t like this, let’s focus on ACTUAL problems in the anime industry. Or the world in general. Because this clearly isn’t one of em. >Real equality isn’t even about gender in the first place. -But I guess me saying that isn’t gonna change the self-righteous, hypocritical attitudes of people who know they can get away with it. And push a false narrative for personal gain.",,98,[deleted],1600043179.0 -TheBluePill,iq4a52,"'Walter White wannabe' terper admits preying on women who are ""crazy"" because they ""have no self worth due to childhood trauma and have daddy issues"" and enjoys fucking her ""pussy, ass and mouth in that order"".",,https://i.redd.it/ozme87maybm51.jpg,201,Fuzzy-Scene,1599747915.0 +But I guess me saying that isn’t gonna change the self-righteous, hypocritical attitudes of people who know they can get away with it. And push a false narrative for personal gain.",,98,[deleted],2020-09-14 00:26:19 +TheBluePill,iq4a52,"'Walter White wannabe' terper admits preying on women who are ""crazy"" because they ""have no self worth due to childhood trauma and have daddy issues"" and enjoys fucking her ""pussy, ass and mouth in that order"".",,https://i.redd.it/ozme87maybm51.jpg,201,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-09-10 14:25:15 TheBluePill,iq3nlp,"Red Pill, Manosphere, & MGTOW Are Obsessed with ""The Carousel""","[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bGm8LNrP76M](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bGm8LNrP76M) &#x200B; -[What do you think is behind the narrative of the \\""cock carousel?\\""](https://preview.redd.it/0kyskn33sbm51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=6e048e1bc726460bb7b7a7eb036a459b50f634e9)",,22,redpillnonsense,1599745826.0 -TheBluePill,ipqdwl,"Incels and us ""normies"":",,https://v.redd.it/b4n76zin37m51,99,[deleted],1599689388.0 +[What do you think is behind the narrative of the \\""cock carousel?\\""](https://preview.redd.it/0kyskn33sbm51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=6e048e1bc726460bb7b7a7eb036a459b50f634e9)",,22,redpillnonsense,2020-09-10 13:50:26 +TheBluePill,ipqdwl,"Incels and us ""normies"":",,https://v.redd.it/b4n76zin37m51,99,[deleted],2020-09-09 22:09:48 TheBluePill,ipkoxi,Middle-Aged Men Who Want Young Women: Manosphere | Red Pill | MGTOW,"&#x200B; [I'm shocked by people in the comment section trying to defend middle-aged men being with women in their late teens and early 20s](https://preview.redd.it/4tesszyws5m51.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=28fa5d7827f520418b47fe32f277947f931636dd) -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C6NhmQWd4qk](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C6NhmQWd4qk)",,16,redpillnonsense,1599673363.0 -TheBluePill,iore2p,We all know losers like this,,https://i.redd.it/ihxwmgmnwtl51.jpg,125,FoeHamma,1599562096.0 -TheBluePill,ioh3qa,More nice guy propaganda,,https://i.redd.it/p2rmwjw29ql51.jpg,261,FoeHamma,1599515868.0 -TheBluePill,imx2l6,"I laughed so hard at this gem. A ""handsome"" woman takes charge of a ""cute"" terper and he is so disturbed he is not in control he is convinced she is a psychopath!",,https://i.redd.it/2fayy2918al51.jpg,205,Fuzzy-Scene,1599291117.0 -TheBluePill,im80m3,look whos talking,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/ilse06,137,FoeHamma,1599188168.0 -TheBluePill,ilglb0,"He thinks this is a ""funny story of the day"" to prove AWALT... ""On Sunday, he was sent a gif/video over text that was undeniably me with a group of men. I'm clearly not in my senses, and I have no recollection of this happening ... I also wasn't even 18 at the time."" Because all women are sluts",,https://i.redd.it/ni49mct04tk51.jpg,162,Fuzzy-Scene,1599083951.0 -TheBluePill,ikgtl8,"The men over at askredpill are doing some fantastic Olympian style mental gymnastics in the comments section to the question posed ""why do women say they don't like muscles but are brutally honest about height?... I thought ALL women like men with muscles...""",,/r/asktrp/comments/ikb3p0/why_do_women_lie_about_not_liking_muscles_but/,169,Fuzzy-Scene,1598950520.0 -TheBluePill,ihtjcl,"""This is why I practice stoicism. Just let her cry no big deal"" says terper who is just waiting for sex from his plate who is grieving. There was a lesson for him to learn and he missed it big time because he was looking for AWALT.",,https://i.redd.it/w3ejpk6k0mj51.jpg,86,Fuzzy-Scene,1598562221.0 -TheBluePill,iey4cp,First rule of r/MGTOW2. 'Keep the misogyny to a minimum'.,,https://i.redd.it/qugnbssjzoi51.png,473,[deleted],1598162310.0 -TheBluePill,iegzfb,What a nice guy,,https://i.redd.it/fyg9v9zdjji51.png,258,[deleted],1598096371.0 -TheBluePill,ie6ibh,"Red pill man entertains himself by taking delight in a woman's misery and thinks she got ""really horny"" when her boyfriend treated her unkindly. He thinks this is a ""feel good story of the day"".",,https://i.redd.it/phwdjqw6jfi51.jpg,196,Fuzzy-Scene,1598047892.0 -TheBluePill,ie5yhr,Terper confused and salty that fictional stories don't portray hypergamy as how he thinks in his head and goes on to say that women will behave better under the threat of murder. *Sigh*,,https://i.redd.it/p1fy6eqtdfi51.jpg,68,Fuzzy-Scene,1598046049.0 -TheBluePill,icmftl,Redpilled girl swallows the blackpill about what the tradlife entails,,https://www.removeddit.com/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre/comments/i6n60k/19_year_old_female_once_wanting_to_be_a_wife_and,151,[deleted],1597839082.0 -TheBluePill,icy6nh,Debate: The Blue Pill ignores the reality of evolutionary psychology,,,12,madfrombrad,1597876776.0 -TheBluePill,ic4g2g,"""ALL women are sluts... And like sex"" said mansplainer, who presumably just discovered that women can have multiple orgasms, which is also highly enjoyable. I can guess from this post he didn't have any direct involvement in producing any but was more a passive voyeur cuck who had to learn how.",,https://i.redd.it/vw9had8rgsh51.jpg,240,Fuzzy-Scene,1597768589.0 -TheBluePill,ic4jxj,"When your LTR is so close to realising who you are so you panic post on reddit signaling to the bros to ""stop sharing this stuff"" so the women don't find out you're a total douche bag that actually uses this stuff on her.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ic4dpj/dont_talk_about_fight_club/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,24,Fuzzy-Scene,1597768917.0 -TheBluePill,ibpl1t,"TRP men trying their hand at illiterate 'comedy' again and have just ended up embrassing themselves. I seriously hope they have day jobs cleaning toilets because I've had funnier period shits, they might pick up some useful material.",,https://i.redd.it/39trjn0sdnh51.jpg,160,Fuzzy-Scene,1597707046.0 -TheBluePill,i8wxxb,"When they don't like women, they don't like any women - including the ""TradThot"" Tomi Lahren",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/i6xv80/tomi_lahren_tradthot_at_the_gates_of_epiphany/,169,stonoceno,1597311663.0 -TheBluePill,i8y7ft,"Pinned post ""No mean no means... what?"" To red pill men it means yes. Link to article in the comments.",,https://i.redd.it/ny406teb9rg51.jpg,45,Fuzzy-Scene,1597318130.0 -TheBluePill,i8wz2f,"Whisper tells us what ""no"" really means (it doesn't mean ""no""!)",,https://www.trp.red/p/whisper/1274,14,stonoceno,1597311829.0 -TheBluePill,i88g59,"You’re average MGTOW user 😂😂😂😂 this charming man made a video screaming at his wife for not “sucking and fucking” him, in front of his young daughter.",,https://i.redd.it/54rb7smoiig51.jpg,242,Bruciesballs666,1597212300.0 -TheBluePill,i7sgxv,Gotta love “chadocracy” 😒,,https://i.redd.it/rqtxkk61sdg51.jpg,396,[deleted],1597154908.0 -TheBluePill,i874no,Blatant misogyny and victim blaming on r/MGTOW,,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/i811sa/when_a_thot_regrets_her_choices_8/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf,24,human-no560,1597206055.0 -TheBluePill,i7r9dp,"Words of a TRPer who spent his weekened being bitter and emotional about women rejecting him, ""you got cucked following all the bullshit advice we’ve been fed by a world eating the yeast-infected pussy of a fat short-haired feminist moaning cries of equality and the glass ceiling.""",,https://i.redd.it/1rwkga4jedg51.jpg,26,Fuzzy-Scene,1597150385.0 -TheBluePill,i7qywl,This dude needs Savlon and the naughty step for a long time out and to think about what he is doing.,,https://i.redd.it/sgk7jhr0bdg51.jpg,20,Fuzzy-Scene,1597149193.0 -TheBluePill,i7ao09,"The level of manipulation, deception, vindictiveness and lies told in this story is astounding. He lied about his wealth to get out of paying child support, so as to get one over on his ex wife for having the audacity to divorce him.",,https://i.redd.it/l8e36406z7g51.jpg,16,Fuzzy-Scene,1597084681.0 -TheBluePill,i7drk7,"Fucqboi Book Club is back with another book! This time it's ""Average American Male"" by Chad Kultgen.",,https://soundcloud.com/fucqboi-bookclub/average-american-male,9,FucqBoi_BookClub,1597093954.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C6NhmQWd4qk](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C6NhmQWd4qk)",,16,redpillnonsense,2020-09-09 17:42:43 +TheBluePill,iore2p,We all know losers like this,,https://i.redd.it/ihxwmgmnwtl51.jpg,125,FoeHamma,2020-09-08 10:48:16 +TheBluePill,ioh3qa,More nice guy propaganda,,https://i.redd.it/p2rmwjw29ql51.jpg,261,FoeHamma,2020-09-07 21:57:48 +TheBluePill,imx2l6,"I laughed so hard at this gem. A ""handsome"" woman takes charge of a ""cute"" terper and he is so disturbed he is not in control he is convinced she is a psychopath!",,https://i.redd.it/2fayy2918al51.jpg,205,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-09-05 07:31:57 +TheBluePill,im80m3,look whos talking,,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/ilse06,137,FoeHamma,2020-09-04 02:56:08 +TheBluePill,ilglb0,"He thinks this is a ""funny story of the day"" to prove AWALT... ""On Sunday, he was sent a gif/video over text that was undeniably me with a group of men. I'm clearly not in my senses, and I have no recollection of this happening ... I also wasn't even 18 at the time."" Because all women are sluts",,https://i.redd.it/ni49mct04tk51.jpg,162,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-09-02 21:59:11 +TheBluePill,ikgtl8,"The men over at askredpill are doing some fantastic Olympian style mental gymnastics in the comments section to the question posed ""why do women say they don't like muscles but are brutally honest about height?... I thought ALL women like men with muscles...""",,/r/asktrp/comments/ikb3p0/why_do_women_lie_about_not_liking_muscles_but/,169,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-09-01 08:55:20 +TheBluePill,ihtjcl,"""This is why I practice stoicism. Just let her cry no big deal"" says terper who is just waiting for sex from his plate who is grieving. There was a lesson for him to learn and he missed it big time because he was looking for AWALT.",,https://i.redd.it/w3ejpk6k0mj51.jpg,86,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-08-27 21:03:41 +TheBluePill,iey4cp,First rule of r/MGTOW2. 'Keep the misogyny to a minimum'.,,https://i.redd.it/qugnbssjzoi51.png,473,[deleted],2020-08-23 05:58:30 +TheBluePill,iegzfb,What a nice guy,,https://i.redd.it/fyg9v9zdjji51.png,258,[deleted],2020-08-22 11:39:31 +TheBluePill,ie6ibh,"Red pill man entertains himself by taking delight in a woman's misery and thinks she got ""really horny"" when her boyfriend treated her unkindly. He thinks this is a ""feel good story of the day"".",,https://i.redd.it/phwdjqw6jfi51.jpg,196,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-08-21 22:11:32 +TheBluePill,ie5yhr,Terper confused and salty that fictional stories don't portray hypergamy as how he thinks in his head and goes on to say that women will behave better under the threat of murder. *Sigh*,,https://i.redd.it/p1fy6eqtdfi51.jpg,68,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-08-21 21:40:49 +TheBluePill,icmftl,Redpilled girl swallows the blackpill about what the tradlife entails,,https://www.removeddit.com/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre/comments/i6n60k/19_year_old_female_once_wanting_to_be_a_wife_and,151,[deleted],2020-08-19 12:11:22 +TheBluePill,icy6nh,Debate: The Blue Pill ignores the reality of evolutionary psychology,,,12,madfrombrad,2020-08-19 22:39:36 +TheBluePill,ic4g2g,"""ALL women are sluts... And like sex"" said mansplainer, who presumably just discovered that women can have multiple orgasms, which is also highly enjoyable. I can guess from this post he didn't have any direct involvement in producing any but was more a passive voyeur cuck who had to learn how.",,https://i.redd.it/vw9had8rgsh51.jpg,240,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-08-18 16:36:29 +TheBluePill,ic4jxj,"When your LTR is so close to realising who you are so you panic post on reddit signaling to the bros to ""stop sharing this stuff"" so the women don't find out you're a total douche bag that actually uses this stuff on her.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ic4dpj/dont_talk_about_fight_club/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,24,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-08-18 16:41:57 +TheBluePill,ibpl1t,"TRP men trying their hand at illiterate 'comedy' again and have just ended up embrassing themselves. I seriously hope they have day jobs cleaning toilets because I've had funnier period shits, they might pick up some useful material.",,https://i.redd.it/39trjn0sdnh51.jpg,160,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-08-17 23:30:46 +TheBluePill,i8wxxb,"When they don't like women, they don't like any women - including the ""TradThot"" Tomi Lahren",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/i6xv80/tomi_lahren_tradthot_at_the_gates_of_epiphany/,169,stonoceno,2020-08-13 09:41:03 +TheBluePill,i8y7ft,"Pinned post ""No mean no means... what?"" To red pill men it means yes. Link to article in the comments.",,https://i.redd.it/ny406teb9rg51.jpg,45,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-08-13 11:28:50 +TheBluePill,i8wz2f,"Whisper tells us what ""no"" really means (it doesn't mean ""no""!)",,https://www.trp.red/p/whisper/1274,14,stonoceno,2020-08-13 09:43:49 +TheBluePill,i88g59,"You’re average MGTOW user 😂😂😂😂 this charming man made a video screaming at his wife for not “sucking and fucking” him, in front of his young daughter.",,https://i.redd.it/54rb7smoiig51.jpg,242,Bruciesballs666,2020-08-12 06:05:00 +TheBluePill,i7sgxv,Gotta love “chadocracy” 😒,,https://i.redd.it/rqtxkk61sdg51.jpg,396,[deleted],2020-08-11 14:08:28 +TheBluePill,i874no,Blatant misogyny and victim blaming on r/MGTOW,,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/i811sa/when_a_thot_regrets_her_choices_8/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf,24,human-no560,2020-08-12 04:20:55 +TheBluePill,i7r9dp,"Words of a TRPer who spent his weekened being bitter and emotional about women rejecting him, ""you got cucked following all the bullshit advice we’ve been fed by a world eating the yeast-infected pussy of a fat short-haired feminist moaning cries of equality and the glass ceiling.""",,https://i.redd.it/1rwkga4jedg51.jpg,26,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-08-11 12:53:05 +TheBluePill,i7qywl,This dude needs Savlon and the naughty step for a long time out and to think about what he is doing.,,https://i.redd.it/sgk7jhr0bdg51.jpg,20,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-08-11 12:33:13 +TheBluePill,i7ao09,"The level of manipulation, deception, vindictiveness and lies told in this story is astounding. He lied about his wealth to get out of paying child support, so as to get one over on his ex wife for having the audacity to divorce him.",,https://i.redd.it/l8e36406z7g51.jpg,16,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-08-10 18:38:01 +TheBluePill,i7drk7,"Fucqboi Book Club is back with another book! This time it's ""Average American Male"" by Chad Kultgen.",,https://soundcloud.com/fucqboi-bookclub/average-american-male,9,FucqBoi_BookClub,2020-08-10 21:12:34 TheBluePill,i6yo8l,An anti-feminist with a minor in women's studies! Let's see what she's has!,"http://archive.md/5mCcd >*princess-of-misandry* @@ -46655,18 +46655,18 @@ But this.... >*gangster-computer-kebab* ->No misogyny like Feminist Misogyny!",,7,[deleted],1597035807.0 -TheBluePill,i67oop,MAGA men are weak,,https://johnpavlovitz.com/2020/08/08/maga-men-are-weak/,179,swans33,1596923838.0 -TheBluePill,i5n0c8,"""If she throws you a shit test call her a cunt"" Said senior angry conrributor that thinks too much sex results in ""a loose vagina"" and men should ""check for tightness"". He is teaching abuse to other men by insisting the house is covered by nanny cams. He ""studies women"" so knows all women...",,https://i.redd.it/yszatkhljnf51.jpg,140,Fuzzy-Scene,1596837331.0 -TheBluePill,i5cso2,This one's going into my cringe compilation,,https://imgur.com/kGrwpaX.jpg,313,MayonaiseRemover,1596802882.0 -TheBluePill,i529l8,"Yeah, it's ok if i invade other people's privacy. Wait you checked my (public) profile? Creep.",,https://i.redd.it/3jtfqd89ldf51.jpg,318,FoeHamma,1596754646.0 -TheBluePill,i432vb,They always have an excuse,,https://i.redd.it/fq5mmo3uz0f51.jpg,510,FoeHamma,1596624405.0 -TheBluePill,i4d1gc,I love how they state their ignorant theories as facts,,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/i44sor/they_have_neither_interest_nor_input/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,7,SabineLavine,1596658927.0 -TheBluePill,i3po4q,Fucqboi Book Club is back and we brought The Gays™,,https://soundcloud.com/fucqboi-bookclub/reddit-abyss-6,24,FucqBoi_BookClub,1596568451.0 -TheBluePill,i381qf,The title...,,https://i.redd.it/ibpjo2szeve51.jpg,200,[deleted],1596496881.0 -TheBluePill,i2f0hx,This was linked in r/standardcel. I ain't joking.,,https://i.redd.it/wn5fvtk8xle51.jpg,292,[deleted],1596386214.0 -TheBluePill,i2lb3l,"Where to begin... From the top, no, 13 year olds are not hypergamous.",,https://i.redd.it/5mjj9kll2oe51.jpg,40,Fuzzy-Scene,1596407838.0 -TheBluePill,i1cq27,"""Bitches love drama... By channeling emotion, you can manipulate and control the situation... bring the excitement and feelz, fuck with her head a little, and you'll be amazed how many girls will be obsessed with you."" Says illiterate red pill endorsed contributor.",,https://i.redd.it/qbvns5exj8e51.jpg,190,Fuzzy-Scene,1596219983.0 +>No misogyny like Feminist Misogyny!",,7,[deleted],2020-08-10 05:03:27 +TheBluePill,i67oop,MAGA men are weak,,https://johnpavlovitz.com/2020/08/08/maga-men-are-weak/,179,swans33,2020-08-08 21:57:18 +TheBluePill,i5n0c8,"""If she throws you a shit test call her a cunt"" Said senior angry conrributor that thinks too much sex results in ""a loose vagina"" and men should ""check for tightness"". He is teaching abuse to other men by insisting the house is covered by nanny cams. He ""studies women"" so knows all women...",,https://i.redd.it/yszatkhljnf51.jpg,140,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-08-07 21:55:31 +TheBluePill,i5cso2,This one's going into my cringe compilation,,https://imgur.com/kGrwpaX.jpg,313,MayonaiseRemover,2020-08-07 12:21:22 +TheBluePill,i529l8,"Yeah, it's ok if i invade other people's privacy. Wait you checked my (public) profile? Creep.",,https://i.redd.it/3jtfqd89ldf51.jpg,318,FoeHamma,2020-08-06 22:57:26 +TheBluePill,i432vb,They always have an excuse,,https://i.redd.it/fq5mmo3uz0f51.jpg,510,FoeHamma,2020-08-05 10:46:45 +TheBluePill,i4d1gc,I love how they state their ignorant theories as facts,,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/i44sor/they_have_neither_interest_nor_input/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,7,SabineLavine,2020-08-05 20:22:07 +TheBluePill,i3po4q,Fucqboi Book Club is back and we brought The Gays™,,https://soundcloud.com/fucqboi-bookclub/reddit-abyss-6,24,FucqBoi_BookClub,2020-08-04 19:14:11 +TheBluePill,i381qf,The title...,,https://i.redd.it/ibpjo2szeve51.jpg,200,[deleted],2020-08-03 23:21:21 +TheBluePill,i2f0hx,This was linked in r/standardcel. I ain't joking.,,https://i.redd.it/wn5fvtk8xle51.jpg,292,[deleted],2020-08-02 16:36:54 +TheBluePill,i2lb3l,"Where to begin... From the top, no, 13 year olds are not hypergamous.",,https://i.redd.it/5mjj9kll2oe51.jpg,40,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-08-02 22:37:18 +TheBluePill,i1cq27,"""Bitches love drama... By channeling emotion, you can manipulate and control the situation... bring the excitement and feelz, fuck with her head a little, and you'll be amazed how many girls will be obsessed with you."" Says illiterate red pill endorsed contributor.",,https://i.redd.it/qbvns5exj8e51.jpg,190,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-31 18:26:23 TheBluePill,i1cobn,"So about the ""19 white people, 9 black people "" statistic","This is a follow up to [another post](https://www.reddit.com/r/TheBluePill/comments/hio71h/police_statistics_question/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share) I made. If you all have ever interacted with the bl*e lives matter crowd, chances are that at some point they'll say something like ""in 2019, 9 black people and 19 white people were killed by police."" @@ -46682,8 +46682,8 @@ There are two things very wrong with this statistic: Also if you go to the washington post database website it LITERALLY SAYS on the FIRST PAGE that black people are killed much more often. So, hm, their research is good enough to vaguely cite but not good enough to validate the researcher's conclusions. -Heather Mac Donald, for those of you that don't know, is a conservative criminologist, and also a liar. Lmao.",,46,blackberryabundant,1596219829.0 -TheBluePill,i0lh9q,I had to screen shot this gem before it was removed... Red pill man thinks feminism and democracy are the same thing... Lol,,https://i.redd.it/uckgxla3rzd51.jpg,335,Fuzzy-Scene,1596113433.0 +Heather Mac Donald, for those of you that don't know, is a conservative criminologist, and also a liar. Lmao.",,46,blackberryabundant,2020-07-31 18:23:49 +TheBluePill,i0lh9q,I had to screen shot this gem before it was removed... Red pill man thinks feminism and democracy are the same thing... Lol,,https://i.redd.it/uckgxla3rzd51.jpg,335,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-30 12:50:33 TheBluePill,i0vdvc,Just found this sub. As a guy who tries to simply just understand things as they are without taking sides and turning things into a right vs wrong. I can relate to a lot of red pill philosophy. I am curious to understand more blue pill perspective too.,"I didn’t know there were people identifying as blue pilled. I first heard of it in the red pill sub. ‘Blue pilled guys’ etc. And is said as more of a criticism. @@ -46692,42 +46692,42 @@ So it’s interesting to see now there is an actual sub of maybe people identify Curious for some perspective on your views, what views you disagree with about ‘Red Pill’ philosophy and which views you agree on in the Red Pill philosophy, if any. -And what the main views of Blue Pill are",,18,[deleted],1596147058.0 -TheBluePill,i0lte6,"TRPM shit tests women and gets dumped more than fucked. ""Your vagina is a bit too wide for me....""",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/i0laty/i_shittested_girls_for_the_past_month_learnt_that/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,34,Fuzzy-Scene,1596114803.0 -TheBluePill,hzgycx,A white supremacist and his thoughts on women.,,https://imgur.com/r4qcnAB,209,thepanichand,1595951042.0 -TheBluePill,hz8qlb,“That’s all there is to it.” He was so confident about this one,,https://i.redd.it/06tzu7199jd51.jpg,335,[deleted],1595913689.0 -TheBluePill,hyqd0g,Careful with your tampons ladies!!!!!,,https://i.redd.it/5m1ddd4apdd51.jpg,366,Jenn_There_Done_That,1595848434.0 -TheBluePill,hyrwg3,"""never treat them as equals. For example, you see a great dog or a cute cat, you would even talk to them, but would you allow those animals to vote and decide a future of your country ? Or ask them for an advice ? That is just fucking stupid!"" Pretty sure bigots have lower IQ fellas",,https://i.redd.it/zwrua236fed51.jpg,35,Fuzzy-Scene,1595855159.0 -TheBluePill,hynaan,"Red pills from a ""working girl"": everything TRP says is true! More very real stories in the comments.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hwjv9y/red_pills_from_a_working_girl/,91,stonoceno,1595832754.0 -TheBluePill,hyncwk,"Women and COVID: They don't care, and apparently some young, married woman told a ""funny"" story where her husband accidentally killed her rabbit...?",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hybma7/women_and_covid/,39,stonoceno,1595833121.0 -TheBluePill,hxl47h,"I had no idea that PUA had a leaders board or ranking system but here we have number 25 iN ThE wOrLd!! He is an expert guys, 1,000 women per month approached, dated 350+ beautiful women and has 3 decades of being in the field. So, let's do the math as to how many women have rejected him...",,https://i.redd.it/e94btp47mzc51.jpg,176,Fuzzy-Scene,1595675915.0 -TheBluePill,hwym08,"A list of moves men use to manipulate women into a fuck and chuck, using OLD apps - compiled by red-piller for his fellow cult members to use. Not the best list, but a good user guide nonetheless to avoid traps.",,https://i.redd.it/qv1ld9f8vrc51.jpg,163,Fuzzy-Scene,1595582119.0 -TheBluePill,hx14fu,"What do you think of MEN who say that ""women cannot get along and understand each other""?",,,21,Reroreroreroo,1595594689.0 -TheBluePill,hwcvrq,"Men Getting Triggered Over Words... in the urban dictionary! Lol whaaah whaah waah those feminist got our entry changed and ""I feel attacked"". It's just another way to ""push the men down"", cry MGTOW2. You earned it guys, all by yourselves, the whole world can see you.",,/r/MGTOW2/comments/hw3f17/mgtow_definitions_have_been_purged_from_urban/,214,Fuzzy-Scene,1595497646.0 -TheBluePill,hvrt6q,Oh fuck off,,https://i.redd.it/6gndgfky4ec51.jpg,541,PocoGoneLoco,1595415865.0 -TheBluePill,hvsap2,"For a certain subset of black men nowadays, bashing black women has become a trend.",,https://i.redd.it/udw3ur13cec51.jpg,17,[deleted],1595418260.0 -TheBluePill,hvhqob,"""I have seen guys lose weight or start getting jacked while they are with fatty. They unintentionally dread their gf/wifey real bad, they are surprised by their reactions. Hilarious how that works every time."" In the comments section about jacked men being with ugly fat women.",,/r/asktrp/comments/hvemtc/whats_with_super_jacked_guys_and_their_below/,162,Fuzzy-Scene,1595371583.0 -TheBluePill,huz9lm,“YoU’rE a WhOrE fOr TeLlInG mE wHaT tO lOoK lIkE”,,https://i.redd.it/lwh1lzakcxb51.jpg,323,FoeHamma,1595298950.0 -TheBluePill,huybx0,Man goes his own way by murdering the son of a Latina federal judge,,https://www.nbcnews.com/tech/tech-news/suspect-federal-judge-s-home-ambush-railed-against-her-misogynistic-n1234408,28,[deleted],1595295195.0 -TheBluePill,hugpbz,"OP: ""Have good friends. It can save your life"". TRP: ""Wow, needy much? Friends aren't real.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ht5uu9/if_you_dont_have_good_friends_that_needs_to_be_a/,142,stonoceno,1595228062.0 -TheBluePill,huiwmk,"Red pill man cherry-picks 'evidence' of promiscuity to labour the point that they'll be ""accused of being ""insecure"" for not wanting to invest time, commitment, and resources into a promiscuous woman"" whilst cleverly ignoring his own promiscuous behaviour and why women won't invest in red pill men.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/huak9n/in_case_you_need_to_be_reminded_on_why_you/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,49,Fuzzy-Scene,1595240628.0 -TheBluePill,hugoj1,"OP tells the harrowing tale of the time he ""could have gotten me too'd""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/htwy73/the_time_that_i_could_have_gotten_me_tood/,18,stonoceno,1595227948.0 -TheBluePill,htjm01,"Guys like him are always ""brutally honest"" and ""tell it like it is"", except when they are looking in a mirror...",,https://i.redd.it/l3soqul9tjb51.jpg,643,FoeHamma,1595090395.0 -TheBluePill,htqylu,"""I'll lie, cheat, mislead, misdirect, whatever the case may be. Then when the bitch is used up I'll go on about my merry way and find me another one... Every bitch has her role. That's the way I see it. Winning is the getting the most out of them while putting in the least."" Says red piller.",,https://i.redd.it/q823c8iqfpb51.jpg,45,Fuzzy-Scene,1595116826.0 -TheBluePill,htnjz5,"He should look up ""toxic masculinity mental health"" on google.",,https://theothermccain.com/2019/09/27/what-is-a-man/,7,ryu289,1595104101.0 -TheBluePill,hs6ncg,"Girl destroys her ability to pair bond, which is definitely a thing that can happen",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hr8pty/my_boyfriend_is_upset_ive_destroyed_my_ability_to/,163,stonoceno,1594892211.0 -TheBluePill,hrqsl2,"Mod posts about his insecurity and how low N count women are more desirable so they don't compare to other guys. His formula ""First guy is strong, second guy has abs. Second guy wins. First guy has a good sense of humor, second guy is locally famous and everybody knows him. Second guy wins""... No",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hrorfk/the_insatiable_alpha_window/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,119,Fuzzy-Scene,1594830637.0 -TheBluePill,hrzarg,"I still don't know what ""Hamstering"" means",I thought it meant sticking a hamster up your butt lol,,11,alexandrawallace69,1594858052.0 +And what the main views of Blue Pill are",,18,[deleted],2020-07-30 22:10:58 +TheBluePill,i0lte6,"TRPM shit tests women and gets dumped more than fucked. ""Your vagina is a bit too wide for me....""",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/i0laty/i_shittested_girls_for_the_past_month_learnt_that/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,34,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-30 13:13:23 +TheBluePill,hzgycx,A white supremacist and his thoughts on women.,,https://imgur.com/r4qcnAB,209,thepanichand,2020-07-28 15:44:02 +TheBluePill,hz8qlb,“That’s all there is to it.” He was so confident about this one,,https://i.redd.it/06tzu7199jd51.jpg,335,[deleted],2020-07-28 05:21:29 +TheBluePill,hyqd0g,Careful with your tampons ladies!!!!!,,https://i.redd.it/5m1ddd4apdd51.jpg,366,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-07-27 11:13:54 +TheBluePill,hyrwg3,"""never treat them as equals. For example, you see a great dog or a cute cat, you would even talk to them, but would you allow those animals to vote and decide a future of your country ? Or ask them for an advice ? That is just fucking stupid!"" Pretty sure bigots have lower IQ fellas",,https://i.redd.it/zwrua236fed51.jpg,35,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-27 13:05:59 +TheBluePill,hynaan,"Red pills from a ""working girl"": everything TRP says is true! More very real stories in the comments.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hwjv9y/red_pills_from_a_working_girl/,91,stonoceno,2020-07-27 06:52:34 +TheBluePill,hyncwk,"Women and COVID: They don't care, and apparently some young, married woman told a ""funny"" story where her husband accidentally killed her rabbit...?",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hybma7/women_and_covid/,39,stonoceno,2020-07-27 06:58:41 +TheBluePill,hxl47h,"I had no idea that PUA had a leaders board or ranking system but here we have number 25 iN ThE wOrLd!! He is an expert guys, 1,000 women per month approached, dated 350+ beautiful women and has 3 decades of being in the field. So, let's do the math as to how many women have rejected him...",,https://i.redd.it/e94btp47mzc51.jpg,176,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-25 11:18:35 +TheBluePill,hwym08,"A list of moves men use to manipulate women into a fuck and chuck, using OLD apps - compiled by red-piller for his fellow cult members to use. Not the best list, but a good user guide nonetheless to avoid traps.",,https://i.redd.it/qv1ld9f8vrc51.jpg,163,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-24 09:15:19 +TheBluePill,hx14fu,"What do you think of MEN who say that ""women cannot get along and understand each other""?",,,21,Reroreroreroo,2020-07-24 12:44:49 +TheBluePill,hwcvrq,"Men Getting Triggered Over Words... in the urban dictionary! Lol whaaah whaah waah those feminist got our entry changed and ""I feel attacked"". It's just another way to ""push the men down"", cry MGTOW2. You earned it guys, all by yourselves, the whole world can see you.",,/r/MGTOW2/comments/hw3f17/mgtow_definitions_have_been_purged_from_urban/,214,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-23 09:47:26 +TheBluePill,hvrt6q,Oh fuck off,,https://i.redd.it/6gndgfky4ec51.jpg,541,PocoGoneLoco,2020-07-22 11:04:25 +TheBluePill,hvsap2,"For a certain subset of black men nowadays, bashing black women has become a trend.",,https://i.redd.it/udw3ur13cec51.jpg,17,[deleted],2020-07-22 11:44:20 +TheBluePill,hvhqob,"""I have seen guys lose weight or start getting jacked while they are with fatty. They unintentionally dread their gf/wifey real bad, they are surprised by their reactions. Hilarious how that works every time."" In the comments section about jacked men being with ugly fat women.",,/r/asktrp/comments/hvemtc/whats_with_super_jacked_guys_and_their_below/,162,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-21 22:46:23 +TheBluePill,huz9lm,“YoU’rE a WhOrE fOr TeLlInG mE wHaT tO lOoK lIkE”,,https://i.redd.it/lwh1lzakcxb51.jpg,323,FoeHamma,2020-07-21 02:35:50 +TheBluePill,huybx0,Man goes his own way by murdering the son of a Latina federal judge,,https://www.nbcnews.com/tech/tech-news/suspect-federal-judge-s-home-ambush-railed-against-her-misogynistic-n1234408,28,[deleted],2020-07-21 01:33:15 +TheBluePill,hugpbz,"OP: ""Have good friends. It can save your life"". TRP: ""Wow, needy much? Friends aren't real.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ht5uu9/if_you_dont_have_good_friends_that_needs_to_be_a/,142,stonoceno,2020-07-20 06:54:22 +TheBluePill,huiwmk,"Red pill man cherry-picks 'evidence' of promiscuity to labour the point that they'll be ""accused of being ""insecure"" for not wanting to invest time, commitment, and resources into a promiscuous woman"" whilst cleverly ignoring his own promiscuous behaviour and why women won't invest in red pill men.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/huak9n/in_case_you_need_to_be_reminded_on_why_you/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,49,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-20 10:23:48 +TheBluePill,hugoj1,"OP tells the harrowing tale of the time he ""could have gotten me too'd""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/htwy73/the_time_that_i_could_have_gotten_me_tood/,18,stonoceno,2020-07-20 06:52:28 +TheBluePill,htjm01,"Guys like him are always ""brutally honest"" and ""tell it like it is"", except when they are looking in a mirror...",,https://i.redd.it/l3soqul9tjb51.jpg,643,FoeHamma,2020-07-18 16:39:55 +TheBluePill,htqylu,"""I'll lie, cheat, mislead, misdirect, whatever the case may be. Then when the bitch is used up I'll go on about my merry way and find me another one... Every bitch has her role. That's the way I see it. Winning is the getting the most out of them while putting in the least."" Says red piller.",,https://i.redd.it/q823c8iqfpb51.jpg,45,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-19 00:00:26 +TheBluePill,htnjz5,"He should look up ""toxic masculinity mental health"" on google.",,https://theothermccain.com/2019/09/27/what-is-a-man/,7,ryu289,2020-07-18 20:28:21 +TheBluePill,hs6ncg,"Girl destroys her ability to pair bond, which is definitely a thing that can happen",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hr8pty/my_boyfriend_is_upset_ive_destroyed_my_ability_to/,163,stonoceno,2020-07-16 09:36:51 +TheBluePill,hrqsl2,"Mod posts about his insecurity and how low N count women are more desirable so they don't compare to other guys. His formula ""First guy is strong, second guy has abs. Second guy wins. First guy has a good sense of humor, second guy is locally famous and everybody knows him. Second guy wins""... No",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hrorfk/the_insatiable_alpha_window/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,119,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-15 16:30:37 +TheBluePill,hrzarg,"I still don't know what ""Hamstering"" means",I thought it meant sticking a hamster up your butt lol,,11,alexandrawallace69,2020-07-16 00:07:32 TheBluePill,hrxc3e,"r/MGTOW brocels calls out their r/TheRedPill brocel for being ""toxic"" cos complaining about women","[https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/hrrht6/the\_red\_pill\_sub\_is\_toxic/](https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/hrrht6/the_red_pill_sub_is_toxic/) -([archived](http://archive.is/Hfs8s) in case they try to run)",,11,StrongSecurity,1594851147.0 -TheBluePill,hrq72w,Red pillers talking about blue pillers and relationships (something TRP don't have) and not understanding the value of communication... The comment section is Lol,,/r/asktrp/comments/hrl6ee/blue_pilled_guys_being_proud_of_being_told_what/,3,Fuzzy-Scene,1594828741.0 -TheBluePill,hr3xrh,"How to create a sexual vibe on Tinder by overthinking everything: by the same dudes who complain about ""gender studies""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hqj2fn/creating_a_sexual_vibe_in_your_tinder_profile/,142,stonoceno,1594741725.0 -TheBluePill,hr66r8,The lesbians need to be “cured”. Ok buddy.,,https://i.redd.it/t469d0r8pqa51.jpg,30,[deleted],1594748909.0 -TheBluePill,hqd9nx,TRP advices how to rape women,,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hq9cbm/close_close_close_the_importance_of_killer/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,134,[deleted],1594638089.0 -TheBluePill,hpwisz,All 3 posts were made by the same guy,,https://i.redd.it/elfdaf7liea51.jpg,288,FoeHamma,1594568983.0 -TheBluePill,hq24wa,I engage in convo with a Redditor on the topic of men's rights discussion online and this is what I get,,https://imgur.com/a/jssJZvi,30,ChibiSailorMercury,1594588212.0 -TheBluePill,hq1rr2,Jordan Peterson says that women using make up is sexually provocative and invites to sexual harrasment in the workplace,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9dZSlUjVls,16,Hopebringer1113,1594586964.0 +([archived](http://archive.is/Hfs8s) in case they try to run)",,11,StrongSecurity,2020-07-15 22:12:27 +TheBluePill,hrq72w,Red pillers talking about blue pillers and relationships (something TRP don't have) and not understanding the value of communication... The comment section is Lol,,/r/asktrp/comments/hrl6ee/blue_pilled_guys_being_proud_of_being_told_what/,3,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-15 15:59:01 +TheBluePill,hr3xrh,"How to create a sexual vibe on Tinder by overthinking everything: by the same dudes who complain about ""gender studies""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hqj2fn/creating_a_sexual_vibe_in_your_tinder_profile/,142,stonoceno,2020-07-14 15:48:45 +TheBluePill,hr66r8,The lesbians need to be “cured”. Ok buddy.,,https://i.redd.it/t469d0r8pqa51.jpg,30,[deleted],2020-07-14 17:48:29 +TheBluePill,hqd9nx,TRP advices how to rape women,,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hq9cbm/close_close_close_the_importance_of_killer/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,134,[deleted],2020-07-13 11:01:29 +TheBluePill,hpwisz,All 3 posts were made by the same guy,,https://i.redd.it/elfdaf7liea51.jpg,288,FoeHamma,2020-07-12 15:49:43 +TheBluePill,hq24wa,I engage in convo with a Redditor on the topic of men's rights discussion online and this is what I get,,https://imgur.com/a/jssJZvi,30,ChibiSailorMercury,2020-07-12 21:10:12 +TheBluePill,hq1rr2,Jordan Peterson says that women using make up is sexually provocative and invites to sexual harrasment in the workplace,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9dZSlUjVls,16,Hopebringer1113,2020-07-12 20:49:24 TheBluePill,hpebyh,"Just came across this post on a sub, and my blood is boiling!!","The post: *The short story is, my husband’s brother is really scaring me and I need to get into my own house now. I am not a professional artist but I’m willing to do illustrations in return for help* @@ -46762,40 +46762,40 @@ TheBluePill,hpebyh,"Just came across this post on a sub, and my blood is boiling *I am coming here as a last resort to please ask for help in getting me out of here. It would solve so many problems. I haven’t slept in days and everything is blurring together now.* -**EDIT: [Link to original post.](https://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hpbbqm/feeling_unsafe_in_my_own_house_and_unable_to_get/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)**",,156,NihilisticBuddhism,1594489804.0 -TheBluePill,hprnxl,"I love it when they argue. The comments on the second post are class, some are even sensible I've no doubt it will be removed over there because they hate these ""STFU"" style posts, hence the screen shot.",,https://i.redd.it/juhwg88haea51.jpg,4,Fuzzy-Scene,1594546031.0 -TheBluePill,hoshnf,😡,,https://i.redd.it/a6q2hatg62a51.jpg,267,Jenn_There_Done_That,1594399984.0 -TheBluePill,hoz1f1,TERF subs banned along with many abuse porn subs! (Sorry for linking to r/Drama 🤷🏽‍♀️),,/r/Drama/comments/houoby/all_of_the_terf_subs_have_been_yalled_by_the/,42,Jenn_There_Done_That,1594421516.0 -TheBluePill,ho8erq,🤮,,https://i.redd.it/2hem4wcziv951.jpg,377,Jenn_There_Done_That,1594319316.0 -TheBluePill,hodewz,"Redpill mod laments about his oppression, how men have always been hated and how his right to hate speech should be protected in this woe is me essay... If you listen you can hear him cry tears of misogyny.",,https://i.redd.it/fsyz8eeuww951.jpg,17,Fuzzy-Scene,1594335654.0 -TheBluePill,ho14nh,Emotionless sex leaves redpill man emotionless and he decides other things like money give him more excitement...,,https://i.redd.it/kffoletfct951.jpg,29,Fuzzy-Scene,1594292449.0 -TheBluePill,hnx1zu,r/Drama: Mayo foids are bitches,,https://i.redd.it/zo7sybtljr951.jpg,10,QuirkyBrit,1594270635.0 -TheBluePill,hmstka,"TRP Fiction: OP tries his hand at a ""red-pilled"" folk parable",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hmohyo/the_spirit_of_seeing_a_story_about_the_internet/,79,stonoceno,1594121409.0 -TheBluePill,hm3w9o,R/unpopularopinion share the wildly popular opinion that women are the worst.,,https://old.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/hm1sce/as_a_woman_it_irritates_me_how_other_women_wont/,201,Madam_Cholet,1594024530.0 -TheBluePill,hloom8,Incels truly are the most oppressed group in history,,https://i.redd.it/ng9kne5jgw851.jpg,206,FoeHamma,1593963822.0 -TheBluePill,hlk4k6,"the comments are a shit show... In summary, single mothers: the biggest drain on our society, aka greedy, communist, advantage-taking prostitutes",,https://files.catbox.moe/vn3zw8.jpg,339,eelhugs,1593942912.0 -TheBluePill,hlj6vy,Let go of your morals. They’re holding you back from your full potential.,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hkn2yc/the_more_i_let_go_of_societys_moral_values_the/,11,stonoceno,1593937417.0 -TheBluePill,hl4fj2,The Devil's Doorbell,,https://i.redd.it/gmr6r9os8r851.jpg,251,FoeHamma,1593873927.0 -TheBluePill,hlcpty,Mgtow needs to be banned,,https://imgur.com/a/eRQGDhm,49,Tomato179,1593904645.0 -TheBluePill,hldo2w,"""Let go of your morals... One thing I learned from studying sociopaths and psychopaths is fake empathy"" said one dark triad red piller encouraging people to be more like ~~satan~~ himself. JFC",,https://i.redd.it/mtf4mivfnx851.jpg,9,Fuzzy-Scene,1593908728.0 -TheBluePill,hldhu0,Eh? WTF is this now?,,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hl3jc8/reject_the_modern_world/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,7,Fuzzy-Scene,1593907956.0 -TheBluePill,hkbrkq,Two days ago r/BlatantMisogyny got swept up in the ban wave. Today the admins reinstated it! We are back to laugh at all of the misogynists! 😂😆,r/BlatantMisogyny,,295,Jenn_There_Done_That,1593746724.0 -TheBluePill,hjzxnc,"This guy is a ""Getting laid"" advice redpiller and his website is absolutely insane, I have no words. (Link in post)",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hj6m2l/get_laid_a_tonne_on_tinder_part_1_improving_your/,76,4ofclubs,1593706511.0 -TheBluePill,hjwqrg,"Just some normal, healthy relationships",,https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/hjpt4x/ever_have_girls_tell_you_they_though_you_were_a?sort=confidence,24,treebog,1593695499.0 -TheBluePill,hjfbl6,🤮,,https://i.redd.it/4jvz2hm6ba851.jpg,496,Jenn_There_Done_That,1593626169.0 -TheBluePill,hju0ka,"""Women always... Blah blah blah"" says red piller who think all women are a carbon copy of one another. Coming up on 'things that never happened' He smashed the mother for sport and boned the daughter the next night because she was skinny. Ok then.",,https://i.redd.it/8afr8qu3ze851.jpg,15,Fuzzy-Scene,1593682632.0 +**EDIT: [Link to original post.](https://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hpbbqm/feeling_unsafe_in_my_own_house_and_unable_to_get/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)**",,156,NihilisticBuddhism,2020-07-11 17:50:04 +TheBluePill,hprnxl,"I love it when they argue. The comments on the second post are class, some are even sensible I've no doubt it will be removed over there because they hate these ""STFU"" style posts, hence the screen shot.",,https://i.redd.it/juhwg88haea51.jpg,4,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-12 09:27:11 +TheBluePill,hoshnf,😡,,https://i.redd.it/a6q2hatg62a51.jpg,267,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-07-10 16:53:04 +TheBluePill,hoz1f1,TERF subs banned along with many abuse porn subs! (Sorry for linking to r/Drama 🤷🏽‍♀️),,/r/Drama/comments/houoby/all_of_the_terf_subs_have_been_yalled_by_the/,42,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-07-10 22:51:56 +TheBluePill,ho8erq,🤮,,https://i.redd.it/2hem4wcziv951.jpg,377,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-07-09 18:28:36 +TheBluePill,hodewz,"Redpill mod laments about his oppression, how men have always been hated and how his right to hate speech should be protected in this woe is me essay... If you listen you can hear him cry tears of misogyny.",,https://i.redd.it/fsyz8eeuww951.jpg,17,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-09 23:00:54 +TheBluePill,ho14nh,Emotionless sex leaves redpill man emotionless and he decides other things like money give him more excitement...,,https://i.redd.it/kffoletfct951.jpg,29,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-09 11:00:49 +TheBluePill,hnx1zu,r/Drama: Mayo foids are bitches,,https://i.redd.it/zo7sybtljr951.jpg,10,QuirkyBrit,2020-07-09 04:57:15 +TheBluePill,hmstka,"TRP Fiction: OP tries his hand at a ""red-pilled"" folk parable",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hmohyo/the_spirit_of_seeing_a_story_about_the_internet/,79,stonoceno,2020-07-07 11:30:09 +TheBluePill,hm3w9o,R/unpopularopinion share the wildly popular opinion that women are the worst.,,https://old.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/hm1sce/as_a_woman_it_irritates_me_how_other_women_wont/,201,Madam_Cholet,2020-07-06 08:35:30 +TheBluePill,hloom8,Incels truly are the most oppressed group in history,,https://i.redd.it/ng9kne5jgw851.jpg,206,FoeHamma,2020-07-05 15:43:42 +TheBluePill,hlk4k6,"the comments are a shit show... In summary, single mothers: the biggest drain on our society, aka greedy, communist, advantage-taking prostitutes",,https://files.catbox.moe/vn3zw8.jpg,339,eelhugs,2020-07-05 09:55:12 +TheBluePill,hlj6vy,Let go of your morals. They’re holding you back from your full potential.,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hkn2yc/the_more_i_let_go_of_societys_moral_values_the/,11,stonoceno,2020-07-05 08:23:37 +TheBluePill,hl4fj2,The Devil's Doorbell,,https://i.redd.it/gmr6r9os8r851.jpg,251,FoeHamma,2020-07-04 14:45:27 +TheBluePill,hlcpty,Mgtow needs to be banned,,https://imgur.com/a/eRQGDhm,49,Tomato179,2020-07-04 23:17:25 +TheBluePill,hldo2w,"""Let go of your morals... One thing I learned from studying sociopaths and psychopaths is fake empathy"" said one dark triad red piller encouraging people to be more like ~~satan~~ himself. JFC",,https://i.redd.it/mtf4mivfnx851.jpg,9,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-05 00:25:28 +TheBluePill,hldhu0,Eh? WTF is this now?,,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hl3jc8/reject_the_modern_world/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,7,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-05 00:12:36 +TheBluePill,hkbrkq,Two days ago r/BlatantMisogyny got swept up in the ban wave. Today the admins reinstated it! We are back to laugh at all of the misogynists! 😂😆,r/BlatantMisogyny,,295,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-07-03 03:25:24 +TheBluePill,hjzxnc,"This guy is a ""Getting laid"" advice redpiller and his website is absolutely insane, I have no words. (Link in post)",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hj6m2l/get_laid_a_tonne_on_tinder_part_1_improving_your/,76,4ofclubs,2020-07-02 16:15:11 +TheBluePill,hjwqrg,"Just some normal, healthy relationships",,https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/hjpt4x/ever_have_girls_tell_you_they_though_you_were_a?sort=confidence,24,treebog,2020-07-02 13:11:39 +TheBluePill,hjfbl6,🤮,,https://i.redd.it/4jvz2hm6ba851.jpg,496,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-07-01 17:56:09 +TheBluePill,hju0ka,"""Women always... Blah blah blah"" says red piller who think all women are a carbon copy of one another. Coming up on 'things that never happened' He smashed the mother for sport and boned the daughter the next night because she was skinny. Ok then.",,https://i.redd.it/8afr8qu3ze851.jpg,15,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-07-02 09:37:12 TheBluePill,hjj6eb,So here's my question," [https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hi3706/mia\_khalifa\_wants\_her\_videos\_removed/](https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hi3706/mia_khalifa_wants_her_videos_removed/) &#x200B; -Take a look at the comments section. Now, here's my question. What makes those idiots think they are such prizes? They are acting as if they would be doing a woman a favor by being in a relationship with her, or marrying her. Do they have any idea how they are coming across? As neurotic little shits? While they are busy beating themselves in the chest over how ""alpha"" they are, true alphas are enjoying all sorts of ""degenerate"" sex with their partners, because they are not so insecure and easily threatened.",,14,Della_A,1593637836.0 +Take a look at the comments section. Now, here's my question. What makes those idiots think they are such prizes? They are acting as if they would be doing a woman a favor by being in a relationship with her, or marrying her. Do they have any idea how they are coming across? As neurotic little shits? While they are busy beating themselves in the chest over how ""alpha"" they are, true alphas are enjoying all sorts of ""degenerate"" sex with their partners, because they are not so insecure and easily threatened.",,14,Della_A,2020-07-01 21:10:36 TheBluePill,hji1lm,"Feminism has entered the fourth wave, denoted by online activism. I invite everyone to join r/FourthWaveFeminism!","Feminism has entered the fourth wave. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fourth-wave_feminism Everyone is invited to join our new subreddit, where we will discuss feminism, online activism and dunk on misogyny. -r/FourthWaveFeminism",,7,Jenn_There_Done_That,1593634348.0 -TheBluePill,hitj9v,"""Blue pill mob"" giving terrible advice says redpill alpha who knows best.",,https://i.redd.it/6itq2hfvf3851.jpg,99,Fuzzy-Scene,1593543009.0 -TheBluePill,hi8ywc,MGTOW and TheRedPill are still up. Sexism as A-OK with reddit!,,/r/SubredditDrama/comments/hi3yq7/new_admin_policy_announced_including_the_banning/,407,Jenn_There_Done_That,1593465254.0 +r/FourthWaveFeminism",,7,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-07-01 20:12:28 +TheBluePill,hitj9v,"""Blue pill mob"" giving terrible advice says redpill alpha who knows best.",,https://i.redd.it/6itq2hfvf3851.jpg,99,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-06-30 18:50:09 +TheBluePill,hi8ywc,MGTOW and TheRedPill are still up. Sexism as A-OK with reddit!,,/r/SubredditDrama/comments/hi3yq7/new_admin_policy_announced_including_the_banning/,407,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-06-29 21:14:14 TheBluePill,hio71h,Police Statistics Question,"Hi guys! I have a quick question. Every time I argue with someone about police brutality, they always say the same lie: ""in 2019, police killed 9 black men and 20 white men. That's an FBI statistic."" @@ -46804,59 +46804,59 @@ The police killed over 1,000 people in 2019, and hundreds in June alone. This is So where is this statistic from? Does anyone know? -Thank you !",,8,blackberryabundant,1593526673.0 -TheBluePill,hikrbc,Could feminism have... benefits for TRP??? Say it ain't so!,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hi9scz/feminism_isnt_completely_bad_for_trp_men/,4,stonoceno,1593512813.0 -TheBluePill,hikqi1,FORCE HER HAND and polarize the situation - fuck nuance!,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hi29p3/the_details_dont_matter/,2,stonoceno,1593512714.0 -TheBluePill,hikqzh,REAL SCIENCE: why feminine men are more likely to be homos,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hiddcc/why_men_are_feminists_and_why_feminine_men_are/,1,stonoceno,1593512774.0 -TheBluePill,hidq2r,I think Reddit’s suggestion algorithm is a bit off. r/seduction was also suggested as “similar to r/TheBluePill”,,https://i.redd.it/huuoz7j1dy751.jpg,5,thecrazy_itbreeds,1593481481.0 -TheBluePill,hhvcee,Women and girls only differ from TRP theory because of BIRTH CONTROL THAT CONTROLS THEIR HORMONES WHICH ARE THEIR MIND,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hhmfa8/why_do_some_women_still_go_for_feminized_men_even/,49,stonoceno,1593415065.0 -TheBluePill,hhipqj,🤮,,https://i.redd.it/lzol27s3po751.jpg,429,Jenn_There_Done_That,1593366184.0 -TheBluePill,hhckdu,">""There is such a low probability that she is smart, interesting and with a personality.... she will ghost and disappear at once for reasons not dependent on you."" PUA has no idea why he is ghosted regularly. Self awareness is zero, but yeah sure, it's the women's fault hu?",,https://i.redd.it/1ac7m8boum751.jpg,71,Fuzzy-Scene,1593342153.0 -TheBluePill,hhk5lt,Nothing makes my fanny flutter more than reading how theredpill is soon to be banned off reddit. Get your snorkels out and your rubber plimsolls because its going to get slippery in here.,,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hhgvb1/mod_notice_reddit_may_ban_the_red_pill_in_the/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,15,Fuzzy-Scene,1593370846.0 -TheBluePill,hhjwft,MANDATORY REMEDIAL r/TheBluePill RE-EDUCATION PROPAGANDA: Live from Olympia!,,https://youtu.be/O5ryIztqI5g,7,SignalAVirtueToday,1593370029.0 -TheBluePill,hgx4tw,Dr. Disrespect accused of being disrespectful (TRP: *shocked pikachu face*),,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hgpcml/another_scalp_for_metoo/,117,stonoceno,1593277304.0 -TheBluePill,hfqwpd,"Girls get lots of matches on Tinder, guys, beware",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hfp5p9/a_slightly_unethical_way_of_seeing_for_yourself/,125,stonoceno,1593108288.0 -TheBluePill,hfl1ru,"Step 1. Isolation. Step 2. Take your shirt off. Step 3. Make sangria. Step 4. ""When you got her in her underwear while you are still fully dressed, you are ready to dominate her. You are in the control of the situation.""",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hfel29/how_to_cut_your_learning_curve_in_half_focus_on/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,7,Fuzzy-Scene,1593087329.0 -TheBluePill,hexcmw,"OP uses dread on her husband, and now dread is bad because it will kill her attraction to him",,https://np.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/gvjcos/small_update_to_dealing_with_a_drunk_captain/,149,stonoceno,1592987386.0 -TheBluePill,hex6x0,STI rates are red-pill truth (diagnosis rates have nothing to do with women being more likely to visit the gynecologist for things like birth control scripts - it's CHAD),,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hebeh1/std_statistics_are_another_redpill_truth_just/,38,stonoceno,1592986601.0 -TheBluePill,hexwvh,"What do you do when you really want something, but Captain says no? (OP has dog troubles)",,https://np.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/gjq1ui/what_do_you_do_when_you_really_want_something_but/,18,stonoceno,1592990379.0 -TheBluePill,hey2gd,WoMeN ArE ALl PRoStiTuTeS AnD I’M RiCh aND SuCcESSful. One MGTOW furiously types.,,https://i.redd.it/9kcqnpgavt651.jpg,11,Bruciesballs666,1592991235.0 -TheBluePill,hec74v,We DoN’T HaTe WoMaN We JuSt WaNt To Go OuR OwN WaY. “Yeah sure you do”.,,https://i.redd.it/x3vmoxxs0n651.jpg,622,Bruciesballs666,1592908341.0 -TheBluePill,heik51,Women shouldn’t vote hurr durr!!,,https://i.redd.it/05dpef6zyo651.jpg,28,Jenn_There_Done_That,1592932194.0 -TheBluePill,hed82w,"""We're the prize"" yes indeed you are... the booby prize, prize plumb, the prize plonka, the rejected prize, the recycled tombola prize, the prize people would rather not have because it's not really a prize at all, more a consolation prize of a time when you were dazzled by something that was a lie.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/he4790/an_interesting_title/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,8,Fuzzy-Scene,1592913192.0 -TheBluePill,hdjz5f,My favorite video on what “masculinity” is,,https://youtu.be/PflmaMpuGEc,66,parabolateralus,1592794711.0 -TheBluePill,hd31ah,Women and learned helplessness,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/havv2i/womens_learned_helplessness_and_desire_for_the/,100,stonoceno,1592726167.0 -TheBluePill,hciwql,"How to have a MFFF foursome, with pics and vids as PROOF",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hbdl9v/how_to_have_a_4some_mfff_with_pics_vids/,94,stonoceno,1592643619.0 -TheBluePill,hbimue,Roomba chose the blue pill,,https://i.redd.it/ajf1j6a6ap551.jpg,340,Xcowns,1592499859.0 -TheBluePill,hayi8v,Oh no! Whatever shall I do?,,https://i.redd.it/jsje4g1zwi551.jpg,497,Nearby-Airport,1592422777.0 -TheBluePill,hanotl,THE TRP BUG-MAN COMETH,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/h89vah/bronze_age_mindset_the_bugman_defined/,33,stonoceno,1592384883.0 -TheBluePill,hanq5z,"Roosh: ""I may not have been a homosexual by definition, but I was a homosexual in spirit.""",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/06/15/is-heterosexuality-gay-a-confused-roosh-v-ponders-the-question/,26,stonoceno,1592385067.0 -TheBluePill,hahx0e,Guncel refuses to date because of the massive conspiracy against gun owners,,https://np.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/haan2b/comment/fv2hyor,13,ForgedIronMadeIt,1592359689.0 -TheBluePill,h9yq4s,"TRP worries they will be ""canceled"" for dating younger women (and... not other things)",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/h9n3yg/you_soon_will_be_cancelled_for_dating_a_younger/,173,stonoceno,1592290999.0 -TheBluePill,h9bvi4,"MRP gives us ""real conversations with abuse victims""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/gwd90x/actual_conversations_with_abuse_victims/,119,stonoceno,1592208591.0 -TheBluePill,h8rr4j,"Guys, can you even handle the truths he spits? I don't think I can",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/h7h2qz/girls_women_boys_men/,87,stonoceno,1592132237.0 -TheBluePill,h85aln,"Q. How can I avoid hiring women? A. Always hire the best person for the job... I'd venture ""someone who isn't a legal and financial liability"" would be among the ""best"". They attempted to hide blatant misogyny but we all know ""isn't a legal and financial liability"" is code for men.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/h80tvq/is_there_a_way_i_can_avoid_hiring_women/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,246,Fuzzy-Scene,1592045209.0 -TheBluePill,h8cpbv,Don't these MRAs remember that time when they essentially shitted on Terry Crews for talking about toxic masculinity?,,http://archive.fo/hPoic,18,[deleted],1592072496.0 -TheBluePill,h7sukj,What hell is this? I think someone is getting mad that MRAs are mad at a feminist acknowledging that sleathling is horrible for both men and women?,,http://archive.fo/P7pdl,79,[deleted],1591994977.0 -TheBluePill,h76w4j,🦀🦀🦀🦀🦀🦀Misogynistic cesspool The_Wall yeeted by the admins. 🦀🦀🦀🦀🦀🦀,,http://www.reddit.com/r/The_Wall,254,nodnarb232001,1591910778.0 -TheBluePill,h0w68t,"MGTOW discussing the reasons why their sub is on the chopping block ""Some content is critical of bad behavior coming from women. I was literally called a neo nazi yesterday for having posted to this sub. Interesting world we live in.""... Absolutely clueless. Not dehumanizing women then?",,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/h0jhmp/it_has_been_an_honor_gentlemen/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,33,Fuzzy-Scene,1591868736.0 -TheBluePill,h0uxks,"SMV: ""She wants to give you as little sex as possible while getting as much commitment possible. While you want as much sex as possible with as little commitment as possible.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gzjfa7/a_clear_explanation_of_sexual_market_value/,15,stonoceno,1591862726.0 -TheBluePill,h0ddk3,😡,,https://i.redd.it/yxq9ugwl42451.jpg,294,Jenn_There_Done_That,1591803478.0 -TheBluePill,h0uve3,TRP on Gen Z: Get off my lawn with your maymays and tok tiks,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gzm5pu/genz_the_good_the_bad_the_ugly/,6,stonoceno,1591862441.0 -TheBluePill,h0l1p3,"He was at fault for the end of his relationship, she brought him many gifts for Christmas/birthday, ""ate his ass"", looked after him etc and yet these colossal numpties are saying he can do better and get a ""better looking"" replacement? These guys deserve to be unloved.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/h04a4g/you_cant_force_your_friends_to_digest_the_pill/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,12,Fuzzy-Scene,1591825544.0 -TheBluePill,h0q51s,Some of the dumbest shit I've ever read,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/h0pvym/exponentially_better_how_this_scientific/,5,[deleted],1591842212.0 -TheBluePill,h0gujt,"Women tend to flirt with me, so I don't think they care about harassment. Also I want wife material",,https://i.redd.it/u1ejv68ml4451.jpg,4,CandyBoBandDandy,1591813616.0 -TheBluePill,gzsggk,"Protests are a good place to ""cum in women's vagina holes""",,https://i.redd.it/zeprirxycx351.jpg,273,CandyBoBandDandy,1591725960.0 -TheBluePill,h09fy3,When I see a post like this I can't help but wonder how self aware men like this really are. He seems to be really over-egging the fact he was in no way 'abusive'. In my observations no one is 100% free from being abusive in some way. Whats everyone's thoughts on this?,,/r/MGTOW2/comments/gzv7vt/to_the_women_lurking/,12,Fuzzy-Scene,1591790278.0 -TheBluePill,gzj5pu,"TRPer very invested in ""friend"" losing his virginity",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gzakwd/a_friend_im_mentoring_just_lost_his_virginity/,76,stonoceno,1591691940.0 -TheBluePill,gzjodi,"I feel sick now. The Loli (10-15 years old child) started off the sickness by its admiration and visual depiction of 'wonder woman', the older women got the more it ended up in pure hate and disgust by depicting them as a pile of kebab meat. The paedophile undertones is strong. MGTOW... Please go.",,https://i.redd.it/0ged5mzjru351.jpg,28,Fuzzy-Scene,1591694553.0 -TheBluePill,gzjbls,Life advice for teenagers from TRP,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gz18bg/what_i_wish_i_knew_an_open_letter_to_our_teenage/,5,stonoceno,1591692793.0 -TheBluePill,gyvrsz,"Possible ""incel"" has an explosive mishap, seriously injuring his hand, notes about ""hot cheerleaders"" and admiration for Elliot Rodgers found at the scene",,https://www.charlotteobserver.com/news/nation-world/national/article243352486.html,372,stonoceno,1591606482.0 -TheBluePill,gya6mm,"""Based on the news, 100% of rape claims are straight up lies, or extortion for money. There doesn't seem to be a whole lot of actual rape going on."" IDK what planet these idiots live on but their hate for women is so blinding I can't wait for Mars to become a colony and MGTOW can have their own.",,https://i.redd.it/29mr3rpwxg351.jpg,316,Fuzzy-Scene,1591527199.0 -TheBluePill,gyi0l0,"The myth of the ""strong independent woman""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gxdwx5/the_myth_of_the_strong_independent_woman/,9,stonoceno,1591556038.0 -TheBluePill,gy6wov,"MANDATORY REMEDIAL /r/TheBluePill RE-EDUCATION PROPAGANDA, episode VIII: The Last Cuck",,https://youtu.be/6e9iR-hNKWY,40,SignalAVirtueToday,1591509250.0 -TheBluePill,gxv7uh,"Yay, emotional abuse gets the girlies... ""Good plate? Sweet girl, satisfies you sexually and emotionally? Get along with her well, treats you like royalty, never gives you any drama? Ignore her for a while. Maybe half a year. You don’t need an excuse, just disappear... Ignore her frantic calls""",,https://www.trp.red/p/heathcliff/915,95,Fuzzy-Scene,1591464627.0 -TheBluePill,gxjgex,Lest I have to discipline her;),,https://i.redd.it/vyuegau9g3351.jpg,357,FoeHamma,1591414000.0 +Thank you !",,8,blackberryabundant,2020-06-30 14:17:53 +TheBluePill,hikrbc,Could feminism have... benefits for TRP??? Say it ain't so!,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hi9scz/feminism_isnt_completely_bad_for_trp_men/,4,stonoceno,2020-06-30 10:26:53 +TheBluePill,hikqi1,FORCE HER HAND and polarize the situation - fuck nuance!,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hi29p3/the_details_dont_matter/,2,stonoceno,2020-06-30 10:25:14 +TheBluePill,hikqzh,REAL SCIENCE: why feminine men are more likely to be homos,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hiddcc/why_men_are_feminists_and_why_feminine_men_are/,1,stonoceno,2020-06-30 10:26:14 +TheBluePill,hidq2r,I think Reddit’s suggestion algorithm is a bit off. r/seduction was also suggested as “similar to r/TheBluePill”,,https://i.redd.it/huuoz7j1dy751.jpg,5,thecrazy_itbreeds,2020-06-30 01:44:41 +TheBluePill,hhvcee,Women and girls only differ from TRP theory because of BIRTH CONTROL THAT CONTROLS THEIR HORMONES WHICH ARE THEIR MIND,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hhmfa8/why_do_some_women_still_go_for_feminized_men_even/,49,stonoceno,2020-06-29 07:17:45 +TheBluePill,hhipqj,🤮,,https://i.redd.it/lzol27s3po751.jpg,429,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-06-28 17:43:04 +TheBluePill,hhckdu,">""There is such a low probability that she is smart, interesting and with a personality.... she will ghost and disappear at once for reasons not dependent on you."" PUA has no idea why he is ghosted regularly. Self awareness is zero, but yeah sure, it's the women's fault hu?",,https://i.redd.it/1ac7m8boum751.jpg,71,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-06-28 11:02:33 +TheBluePill,hhk5lt,Nothing makes my fanny flutter more than reading how theredpill is soon to be banned off reddit. Get your snorkels out and your rubber plimsolls because its going to get slippery in here.,,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hhgvb1/mod_notice_reddit_may_ban_the_red_pill_in_the/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,15,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-06-28 19:00:46 +TheBluePill,hhjwft,MANDATORY REMEDIAL r/TheBluePill RE-EDUCATION PROPAGANDA: Live from Olympia!,,https://youtu.be/O5ryIztqI5g,7,SignalAVirtueToday,2020-06-28 18:47:09 +TheBluePill,hgx4tw,Dr. Disrespect accused of being disrespectful (TRP: *shocked pikachu face*),,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hgpcml/another_scalp_for_metoo/,117,stonoceno,2020-06-27 17:01:44 +TheBluePill,hfqwpd,"Girls get lots of matches on Tinder, guys, beware",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hfp5p9/a_slightly_unethical_way_of_seeing_for_yourself/,125,stonoceno,2020-06-25 18:04:48 +TheBluePill,hfl1ru,"Step 1. Isolation. Step 2. Take your shirt off. Step 3. Make sangria. Step 4. ""When you got her in her underwear while you are still fully dressed, you are ready to dominate her. You are in the control of the situation.""",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hfel29/how_to_cut_your_learning_curve_in_half_focus_on/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,7,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-06-25 12:15:29 +TheBluePill,hexcmw,"OP uses dread on her husband, and now dread is bad because it will kill her attraction to him",,https://np.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/gvjcos/small_update_to_dealing_with_a_drunk_captain/,149,stonoceno,2020-06-24 08:29:46 +TheBluePill,hex6x0,STI rates are red-pill truth (diagnosis rates have nothing to do with women being more likely to visit the gynecologist for things like birth control scripts - it's CHAD),,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hebeh1/std_statistics_are_another_redpill_truth_just/,38,stonoceno,2020-06-24 08:16:41 +TheBluePill,hexwvh,"What do you do when you really want something, but Captain says no? (OP has dog troubles)",,https://np.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/gjq1ui/what_do_you_do_when_you_really_want_something_but/,18,stonoceno,2020-06-24 09:19:39 +TheBluePill,hey2gd,WoMeN ArE ALl PRoStiTuTeS AnD I’M RiCh aND SuCcESSful. One MGTOW furiously types.,,https://i.redd.it/9kcqnpgavt651.jpg,11,Bruciesballs666,2020-06-24 09:33:55 +TheBluePill,hec74v,We DoN’T HaTe WoMaN We JuSt WaNt To Go OuR OwN WaY. “Yeah sure you do”.,,https://i.redd.it/x3vmoxxs0n651.jpg,622,Bruciesballs666,2020-06-23 10:32:21 +TheBluePill,heik51,Women shouldn’t vote hurr durr!!,,https://i.redd.it/05dpef6zyo651.jpg,28,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-06-23 17:09:54 +TheBluePill,hed82w,"""We're the prize"" yes indeed you are... the booby prize, prize plumb, the prize plonka, the rejected prize, the recycled tombola prize, the prize people would rather not have because it's not really a prize at all, more a consolation prize of a time when you were dazzled by something that was a lie.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/he4790/an_interesting_title/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,8,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-06-23 11:53:12 +TheBluePill,hdjz5f,My favorite video on what “masculinity” is,,https://youtu.be/PflmaMpuGEc,66,parabolateralus,2020-06-22 02:58:31 +TheBluePill,hd31ah,Women and learned helplessness,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/havv2i/womens_learned_helplessness_and_desire_for_the/,100,stonoceno,2020-06-21 07:56:07 +TheBluePill,hciwql,"How to have a MFFF foursome, with pics and vids as PROOF",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/hbdl9v/how_to_have_a_4some_mfff_with_pics_vids/,94,stonoceno,2020-06-20 09:00:19 +TheBluePill,hbimue,Roomba chose the blue pill,,https://i.redd.it/ajf1j6a6ap551.jpg,340,Xcowns,2020-06-18 17:04:19 +TheBluePill,hayi8v,Oh no! Whatever shall I do?,,https://i.redd.it/jsje4g1zwi551.jpg,497,Nearby-Airport,2020-06-17 19:39:37 +TheBluePill,hanotl,THE TRP BUG-MAN COMETH,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/h89vah/bronze_age_mindset_the_bugman_defined/,33,stonoceno,2020-06-17 09:08:03 +TheBluePill,hanq5z,"Roosh: ""I may not have been a homosexual by definition, but I was a homosexual in spirit.""",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/06/15/is-heterosexuality-gay-a-confused-roosh-v-ponders-the-question/,26,stonoceno,2020-06-17 09:11:07 +TheBluePill,hahx0e,Guncel refuses to date because of the massive conspiracy against gun owners,,https://np.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/haan2b/comment/fv2hyor,13,ForgedIronMadeIt,2020-06-17 02:08:09 +TheBluePill,h9yq4s,"TRP worries they will be ""canceled"" for dating younger women (and... not other things)",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/h9n3yg/you_soon_will_be_cancelled_for_dating_a_younger/,173,stonoceno,2020-06-16 07:03:19 +TheBluePill,h9bvi4,"MRP gives us ""real conversations with abuse victims""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/gwd90x/actual_conversations_with_abuse_victims/,119,stonoceno,2020-06-15 08:09:51 +TheBluePill,h8rr4j,"Guys, can you even handle the truths he spits? I don't think I can",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/h7h2qz/girls_women_boys_men/,87,stonoceno,2020-06-14 10:57:17 +TheBluePill,h85aln,"Q. How can I avoid hiring women? A. Always hire the best person for the job... I'd venture ""someone who isn't a legal and financial liability"" would be among the ""best"". They attempted to hide blatant misogyny but we all know ""isn't a legal and financial liability"" is code for men.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/h80tvq/is_there_a_way_i_can_avoid_hiring_women/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,246,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-06-13 10:46:49 +TheBluePill,h8cpbv,Don't these MRAs remember that time when they essentially shitted on Terry Crews for talking about toxic masculinity?,,http://archive.fo/hPoic,18,[deleted],2020-06-13 18:21:36 +TheBluePill,h7sukj,What hell is this? I think someone is getting mad that MRAs are mad at a feminist acknowledging that sleathling is horrible for both men and women?,,http://archive.fo/P7pdl,79,[deleted],2020-06-12 20:49:37 +TheBluePill,h76w4j,🦀🦀🦀🦀🦀🦀Misogynistic cesspool The_Wall yeeted by the admins. 🦀🦀🦀🦀🦀🦀,,http://www.reddit.com/r/The_Wall,254,nodnarb232001,2020-06-11 21:26:18 +TheBluePill,h0w68t,"MGTOW discussing the reasons why their sub is on the chopping block ""Some content is critical of bad behavior coming from women. I was literally called a neo nazi yesterday for having posted to this sub. Interesting world we live in.""... Absolutely clueless. Not dehumanizing women then?",,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/h0jhmp/it_has_been_an_honor_gentlemen/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,33,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-06-11 09:45:36 +TheBluePill,h0uxks,"SMV: ""She wants to give you as little sex as possible while getting as much commitment possible. While you want as much sex as possible with as little commitment as possible.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gzjfa7/a_clear_explanation_of_sexual_market_value/,15,stonoceno,2020-06-11 08:05:26 +TheBluePill,h0ddk3,😡,,https://i.redd.it/yxq9ugwl42451.jpg,294,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-06-10 15:37:58 +TheBluePill,h0uve3,TRP on Gen Z: Get off my lawn with your maymays and tok tiks,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gzm5pu/genz_the_good_the_bad_the_ugly/,6,stonoceno,2020-06-11 08:00:41 +TheBluePill,h0l1p3,"He was at fault for the end of his relationship, she brought him many gifts for Christmas/birthday, ""ate his ass"", looked after him etc and yet these colossal numpties are saying he can do better and get a ""better looking"" replacement? These guys deserve to be unloved.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/h04a4g/you_cant_force_your_friends_to_digest_the_pill/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,12,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-06-10 21:45:44 +TheBluePill,h0q51s,Some of the dumbest shit I've ever read,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/h0pvym/exponentially_better_how_this_scientific/,5,[deleted],2020-06-11 02:23:32 +TheBluePill,h0gujt,"Women tend to flirt with me, so I don't think they care about harassment. Also I want wife material",,https://i.redd.it/u1ejv68ml4451.jpg,4,CandyBoBandDandy,2020-06-10 18:26:56 +TheBluePill,gzsggk,"Protests are a good place to ""cum in women's vagina holes""",,https://i.redd.it/zeprirxycx351.jpg,273,CandyBoBandDandy,2020-06-09 18:06:00 +TheBluePill,h09fy3,When I see a post like this I can't help but wonder how self aware men like this really are. He seems to be really over-egging the fact he was in no way 'abusive'. In my observations no one is 100% free from being abusive in some way. Whats everyone's thoughts on this?,,/r/MGTOW2/comments/gzv7vt/to_the_women_lurking/,12,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-06-10 11:57:58 +TheBluePill,gzj5pu,"TRPer very invested in ""friend"" losing his virginity",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gzakwd/a_friend_im_mentoring_just_lost_his_virginity/,76,stonoceno,2020-06-09 08:39:00 +TheBluePill,gzjodi,"I feel sick now. The Loli (10-15 years old child) started off the sickness by its admiration and visual depiction of 'wonder woman', the older women got the more it ended up in pure hate and disgust by depicting them as a pile of kebab meat. The paedophile undertones is strong. MGTOW... Please go.",,https://i.redd.it/0ged5mzjru351.jpg,28,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-06-09 09:22:33 +TheBluePill,gzjbls,Life advice for teenagers from TRP,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gz18bg/what_i_wish_i_knew_an_open_letter_to_our_teenage/,5,stonoceno,2020-06-09 08:53:13 +TheBluePill,gyvrsz,"Possible ""incel"" has an explosive mishap, seriously injuring his hand, notes about ""hot cheerleaders"" and admiration for Elliot Rodgers found at the scene",,https://www.charlotteobserver.com/news/nation-world/national/article243352486.html,372,stonoceno,2020-06-08 08:54:42 +TheBluePill,gya6mm,"""Based on the news, 100% of rape claims are straight up lies, or extortion for money. There doesn't seem to be a whole lot of actual rape going on."" IDK what planet these idiots live on but their hate for women is so blinding I can't wait for Mars to become a colony and MGTOW can have their own.",,https://i.redd.it/29mr3rpwxg351.jpg,316,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-06-07 10:53:19 +TheBluePill,gyi0l0,"The myth of the ""strong independent woman""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gxdwx5/the_myth_of_the_strong_independent_woman/,9,stonoceno,2020-06-07 18:53:58 +TheBluePill,gy6wov,"MANDATORY REMEDIAL /r/TheBluePill RE-EDUCATION PROPAGANDA, episode VIII: The Last Cuck",,https://youtu.be/6e9iR-hNKWY,40,SignalAVirtueToday,2020-06-07 05:54:10 +TheBluePill,gxv7uh,"Yay, emotional abuse gets the girlies... ""Good plate? Sweet girl, satisfies you sexually and emotionally? Get along with her well, treats you like royalty, never gives you any drama? Ignore her for a while. Maybe half a year. You don’t need an excuse, just disappear... Ignore her frantic calls""",,https://www.trp.red/p/heathcliff/915,95,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-06-06 17:30:27 +TheBluePill,gxjgex,Lest I have to discipline her;),,https://i.redd.it/vyuegau9g3351.jpg,357,FoeHamma,2020-06-06 03:26:40 TheBluePill,gy23yl,"In your experience with men, how true do you think this is: Men into ""chicks with dicks"" are far more into penis/fetishize it way more than any man is into vagina/fetishizes vagina on it's own.","Most straight men are either boobs or butts men, vagina is rarely considered the most attractive body part for men. Many men make jokes about how vaginas look/smell/feel. @@ -46874,31 +46874,31 @@ I have never seen a man as into vagina/enthusiastic about vagina as men into tra And I've never seen a straight man as into vaginas as gay men are into penises. Even an obsession/focus on feet/foot fetishes are more common. -What do you reckon? Do you find this to be true?",,4,spykidsgameover,1591488732.0 -TheBluePill,gx7m2a,"Total slut personality detox: Make sure you do not, by osmosis, absorb any slut personality. Do not drink soy. Do not use the word like unless you are describing similarities. Do not look at reddit unless you are calling a user on askTRP a f----t.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gwm2ru/total_slut_personality_detox/,148,stonoceno,1591373908.0 -TheBluePill,gxatuc,"When your own self loathing spills over: ""There’s something disgusting and very offputting about watching a fat girl eat. In fact, truth be told, watching any hungry women eat is a massive turn off for me. Something about a woman caving in to her base desires and desperately gorging herself. Gross.""",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gx6f0d/bunch_of_tryhard_coomers/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,16,Fuzzy-Scene,1591384036.0 -TheBluePill,gwd3uu,How to handle accusations of affairs: Tell her not to give you a reason to have an affair or ask her if she really wants to know the answer (for maximum galaxy brain),,https://np.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/gnti2e/how_to_handle_accusations_of_affairs_201/,135,stonoceno,1591257903.0 +What do you reckon? Do you find this to be true?",,4,spykidsgameover,2020-06-07 00:12:12 +TheBluePill,gx7m2a,"Total slut personality detox: Make sure you do not, by osmosis, absorb any slut personality. Do not drink soy. Do not use the word like unless you are describing similarities. Do not look at reddit unless you are calling a user on askTRP a f----t.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gwm2ru/total_slut_personality_detox/,148,stonoceno,2020-06-05 16:18:28 +TheBluePill,gxatuc,"When your own self loathing spills over: ""There’s something disgusting and very offputting about watching a fat girl eat. In fact, truth be told, watching any hungry women eat is a massive turn off for me. Something about a woman caving in to her base desires and desperately gorging herself. Gross.""",,https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gx6f0d/bunch_of_tryhard_coomers/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,16,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-06-05 19:07:16 +TheBluePill,gwd3uu,How to handle accusations of affairs: Tell her not to give you a reason to have an affair or ask her if she really wants to know the answer (for maximum galaxy brain),,https://np.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/gnti2e/how_to_handle_accusations_of_affairs_201/,135,stonoceno,2020-06-04 08:05:03 TheBluePill,gwo23k,WTF are these stuff?,"Red pill, purple pill, blue pill? Accidentally went to purple pill subreddit and read bunch of stuff. I felt depressed as hell. -Then I searched red pill-a incel and pua hybrid. Can someone explain to me what are these all about ?",,6,LeoM21,1591298161.0 -TheBluePill,gw1ptz,"Gem from PPD: ""Ugh, just makes me so fucking angry. I really hate these type of women, nothing but cum dumpsters.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/gggvfq/why_do_some_many_women_start_giving_nerdy_guys/,117,[deleted],1591215444.0 -TheBluePill,gvqcu3,"What Most Men are Missing: Coachability (listening to TRP, that is)",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gv7w89/coachability_the_secret_ingredient_most_men_are/,70,stonoceno,1591174564.0 -TheBluePill,gvbg3r,MGTOW and being racist as well as hateful. There is no low bar,,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/gv4j1r/the_attention_seeking_must_not_be_infringed/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,175,Fuzzy-Scene,1591118324.0 -TheBluePill,gvqcgg,The Summer of Masculinity: Masculinity is Power,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gv8z87/the_summer_of_masculinity_masculinity_is_power/,6,stonoceno,1591174505.0 -TheBluePill,gugwze,"Iron Maidens: Women like being dominated. However for the iron maiden it's not enough. She wants to be disciplined. She wants to be Hated, maybe even almost-killed.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gtv3uq/iron_maidens/,158,stonoceno,1591000762.0 -TheBluePill,guplwj,Fucqboi Book Club: Man's Ruin: The Final Chapters,,https://soundcloud.com/fucqboi-bookclub/man-s-ruin-the-final-chapters,13,FucqBoi_BookClub,1591034968.0 -TheBluePill,gubs6t,"Welp. We knew this was coming...Derek Chauvin’s wife files for divorce, proves she’s just another disloyal hypergamous bitch like all wahmen, according to MGTOW.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/gthwrj/wife_of_exminneapolis_police_officer_charged_with/,52,poppy_blu,1590976661.0 -TheBluePill,gsfv2z,"Rapist rapes. Red Pillers think the ""little whore"" should ""learn accountability"" before she ""rape baits"" again and ""ruins a man's life""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gs7ciy/protect_yourself_at_all_times_a_womans_morning/,316,[deleted],1590703321.0 -TheBluePill,grz67b,Womp womp,,https://i.redd.it/b6xpuf9emd151.png,441,FoeHamma,1590638986.0 -TheBluePill,gsg0er,"Plate spinner put in his place - ""You sound like a bitch riding the CC while your hamster says that its ok cuz you’re a red pill alpha.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gsaxvh/regarding_plates_and_branch_swinging/,15,[deleted],1590703807.0 -TheBluePill,gs3i94,"OP: A girl might have flirted with me at work, so I assumed she was my girlfriend and when she was not, I blamed her",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/grnu8e/the_sidebar_could_have_saved_me_from_my_blue/,34,stonoceno,1590660468.0 -TheBluePill,grqukv,🤮,,https://i.redd.it/8jc0hxvr2d151.jpg,240,Jenn_There_Done_That,1590608814.0 -TheBluePill,gs3h1j,Gritty cities and noble savages: TRP traveler tells us what boys need to be men,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gryv6y/magnificent_masculinity_what_boys_need/,6,stonoceno,1590660304.0 -TheBluePill,gr9x0j,"""There's no such thing [as consent]. I've never asked permission in my life and never will."" Next comment: “I got accused of rape”",,https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/gqufox/man_kisses_woman_without_consent_on_live_tv_shes/frwv4p1?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x,120,[deleted],1590542099.0 -TheBluePill,gr15w0,🤮,,https://i.redd.it/zv569r5l55151.jpg,374,Jenn_There_Done_That,1590513234.0 -TheBluePill,grf7pm,Does r/MGTOW understand reproduction?,,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/grc1yp/life_of_a_simp/,9,itcud,1590565184.0 -TheBluePill,gr8xiw,"""TBF there have been much more accusations of ""rape"" in recent years that turns out to just be a one night stand that was consentual but later regretted"" 🤬",,https://old.reddit.com/r/news/comments/gr69mo/judge_who_advised_woman_to_close_your_legs_to/frxdg96/,10,[deleted],1590538348.0 -TheBluePill,gr2mhd,Homeless Man states college girls not having sex with him is because of Agephobia and greed,,https://i.redd.it/019wlxtfk5151.jpg,19,keeffer6325,1590517779.0 +Then I searched red pill-a incel and pua hybrid. Can someone explain to me what are these all about ?",,6,LeoM21,2020-06-04 19:16:01 +TheBluePill,gw1ptz,"Gem from PPD: ""Ugh, just makes me so fucking angry. I really hate these type of women, nothing but cum dumpsters.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/gggvfq/why_do_some_many_women_start_giving_nerdy_guys/,117,[deleted],2020-06-03 20:17:24 +TheBluePill,gvqcu3,"What Most Men are Missing: Coachability (listening to TRP, that is)",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gv7w89/coachability_the_secret_ingredient_most_men_are/,70,stonoceno,2020-06-03 08:56:04 +TheBluePill,gvbg3r,MGTOW and being racist as well as hateful. There is no low bar,,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/gv4j1r/the_attention_seeking_must_not_be_infringed/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,175,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-06-02 17:18:44 +TheBluePill,gvqcgg,The Summer of Masculinity: Masculinity is Power,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gv8z87/the_summer_of_masculinity_masculinity_is_power/,6,stonoceno,2020-06-03 08:55:05 +TheBluePill,gugwze,"Iron Maidens: Women like being dominated. However for the iron maiden it's not enough. She wants to be disciplined. She wants to be Hated, maybe even almost-killed.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gtv3uq/iron_maidens/,158,stonoceno,2020-06-01 08:39:22 +TheBluePill,guplwj,Fucqboi Book Club: Man's Ruin: The Final Chapters,,https://soundcloud.com/fucqboi-bookclub/man-s-ruin-the-final-chapters,13,FucqBoi_BookClub,2020-06-01 18:09:28 +TheBluePill,gubs6t,"Welp. We knew this was coming...Derek Chauvin’s wife files for divorce, proves she’s just another disloyal hypergamous bitch like all wahmen, according to MGTOW.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/gthwrj/wife_of_exminneapolis_police_officer_charged_with/,52,poppy_blu,2020-06-01 01:57:41 +TheBluePill,gsfv2z,"Rapist rapes. Red Pillers think the ""little whore"" should ""learn accountability"" before she ""rape baits"" again and ""ruins a man's life""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gs7ciy/protect_yourself_at_all_times_a_womans_morning/,316,[deleted],2020-05-28 22:02:01 +TheBluePill,grz67b,Womp womp,,https://i.redd.it/b6xpuf9emd151.png,441,FoeHamma,2020-05-28 04:09:46 +TheBluePill,gsg0er,"Plate spinner put in his place - ""You sound like a bitch riding the CC while your hamster says that its ok cuz you’re a red pill alpha.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gsaxvh/regarding_plates_and_branch_swinging/,15,[deleted],2020-05-28 22:10:07 +TheBluePill,gs3i94,"OP: A girl might have flirted with me at work, so I assumed she was my girlfriend and when she was not, I blamed her",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/grnu8e/the_sidebar_could_have_saved_me_from_my_blue/,34,stonoceno,2020-05-28 10:07:48 +TheBluePill,grqukv,🤮,,https://i.redd.it/8jc0hxvr2d151.jpg,240,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-05-27 19:46:54 +TheBluePill,gs3h1j,Gritty cities and noble savages: TRP traveler tells us what boys need to be men,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gryv6y/magnificent_masculinity_what_boys_need/,6,stonoceno,2020-05-28 10:05:04 +TheBluePill,gr9x0j,"""There's no such thing [as consent]. I've never asked permission in my life and never will."" Next comment: “I got accused of rape”",,https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/gqufox/man_kisses_woman_without_consent_on_live_tv_shes/frwv4p1?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x,120,[deleted],2020-05-27 01:14:59 +TheBluePill,gr15w0,🤮,,https://i.redd.it/zv569r5l55151.jpg,374,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-05-26 17:13:54 +TheBluePill,grf7pm,Does r/MGTOW understand reproduction?,,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/grc1yp/life_of_a_simp/,9,itcud,2020-05-27 07:39:44 +TheBluePill,gr8xiw,"""TBF there have been much more accusations of ""rape"" in recent years that turns out to just be a one night stand that was consentual but later regretted"" 🤬",,https://old.reddit.com/r/news/comments/gr69mo/judge_who_advised_woman_to_close_your_legs_to/frxdg96/,10,[deleted],2020-05-27 00:12:28 +TheBluePill,gr2mhd,Homeless Man states college girls not having sex with him is because of Agephobia and greed,,https://i.redd.it/019wlxtfk5151.jpg,19,keeffer6325,2020-05-26 18:29:39 TheBluePill,gq9u80,I’ve made a comprehensive and exhaustive list of the most common misconceptions about sexual consent. Use this as a resource to destroy incel’s arguments!,"It's important to understand sexual consent because [sexual activity without consent is sexual assault](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_assault). Before you flip out about how ""everyone knows what consent is,"" that is absolutely not correct! [Some](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/files/1414/6117/4323/Consent_Survey.pdf) (in fact, [many](https://globalnews.ca/news/4213009/canada-consent-understanding-metoo/)) people are legit confused about what constitutes consent, such as [this teenager](https://www.nytimes.com/2018/02/07/magazine/teenagers-learning-online-porn-literacy-sex-education.html?hp&action=click&pgtype=Homepage&clickSource=story-heading&module=second-column-region&region=top-news&WT.nav=top-news) who admitted he would ass-rape a girl because he learned from porn that girls like anal sex (overwhelmingly [not true](http://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0181198), in addition to being irrelevant), or [this ostensibly well-meaning college kid](https://www.vox.com/first-person/2018/1/24/16925444/aziz-ansari-me-too-feminism-consent) who put his friend at STI risk after assuming she was just vying for a relationship when she said no, or [this guy](https://jezebel.com/5929544/rapists-explain-themselves-on-reddit-and-we-should-listen) from the ""ask a rapist thread"" who couldn't understand why a sex-positive girl would not have sex with him, or [this guy](https://www.buzzfeed.com/peteraldhous/david-silverman-atheist-fired-sexual-misconduct?utm_term=.bw0Z2VwVA6#.ton7q0E0dr) who seemed to think that because a woman was a submissive that meant he could dominate her, or [this 'comedian'](https://jezebel.com/5834712/is-this-comedy-monologue-a-rape-confession) who haplessly made a public rape confession in the form of a comedy monologue, or [this 'well-liked kid' who thought good girls always had to fight a little the first time](https://www.vox.com/first-person/2018/10/10/17953016/what-is-restorative-justice-definition-questions-circle). In fact, researchers have found that in acquaintance rape--[one of the most common types of rape](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acquaintance_rape)--[perpetrators tend to see their behavior as seduction, not rape, or they somehow believe the rape justified](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acquaintance_rape#Motivations). @@ -46954,18 +46954,18 @@ If all of this seems obvious, ask yourself how many of these key points were mis &#x200B; -^(EDIT: typo)",,1166,ILikeNeurons,1590408335.0 -TheBluePill,gqmtb4,"Counters for the ""society favours women now"" argument?","I've encountered a particular argument a few times, namely the contention that today's society is one that heavily favours women as opposed to men. Does anyone have any good factual counters for that argument?",,23,eggmanstudio,1590453304.0 -TheBluePill,gpzqlv,This is about the damaging effects of catcalling on teenage girls! Why did you bring in alligator into this!?,,https://i.redd.it/ad9uqnjoqs051.jpg,331,[deleted],1590362537.0 -TheBluePill,gpr1pr,😡,,https://i.redd.it/wup3u3im8q051.jpg,185,Jenn_There_Done_That,1590332391.0 -TheBluePill,gpzf00,are we even surprised they’re like this at this point?,,https://i.redd.it/0zlxaca94s051.jpg,41,arthoebutlesscool,1590361386.0 +^(EDIT: typo)",,1166,ILikeNeurons,2020-05-25 12:05:35 +TheBluePill,gqmtb4,"Counters for the ""society favours women now"" argument?","I've encountered a particular argument a few times, namely the contention that today's society is one that heavily favours women as opposed to men. Does anyone have any good factual counters for that argument?",,23,eggmanstudio,2020-05-26 00:35:04 +TheBluePill,gpzqlv,This is about the damaging effects of catcalling on teenage girls! Why did you bring in alligator into this!?,,https://i.redd.it/ad9uqnjoqs051.jpg,331,[deleted],2020-05-24 23:22:17 +TheBluePill,gpr1pr,😡,,https://i.redd.it/wup3u3im8q051.jpg,185,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-05-24 14:59:51 +TheBluePill,gpzf00,are we even surprised they’re like this at this point?,,https://i.redd.it/0zlxaca94s051.jpg,41,arthoebutlesscool,2020-05-24 23:03:06 TheBluePill,gq1is5,Online Group Claims Fit Black Women are Unattractive,"This is my first post. In my spare time, I blog about the Black Manosphere (there is a Black counterpart in Red Pill communities). Lately, I've created a YouTube channel to help the blog and reach people through a different medium. I condense blog posts into short videos where I only show YouTube clips from the Black Manosphere and other related groups. In this video, a group called ""Save Yourself Black Men,"" which demonizes Black women and advocates interracial dating/marriage as saving oneself, claimed that even if 90-95% of Black women were fit they would still be ""horrifically unattractive."" - [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZxCzl3n2AVg](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZxCzl3n2AVg)",,10,redpillnonsense,1590369221.0 + [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZxCzl3n2AVg](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZxCzl3n2AVg)",,10,redpillnonsense,2020-05-25 01:13:41 TheBluePill,gpzhcb,"""Hating men seems to be a very common trend lately. So I was just turning the tables and using a common phrase I've been seeing lately and changing it from men to women. I find interesting that most people get very angry at such a comment when usually no one bats an eye when it's about men.""","Well this bullshit happened. https://angiethewitch.tumblr.com/post/619011059689439232/aight @@ -47022,9 +47022,9 @@ https://angiethewitch.tumblr.com/post/619011059689439232/aight And the op edited it. ->Thank you all of your participation of this experiment. Your responses will be logged as data in my research MAY. 23 2020 #MRA #FEMINISM #INTERSECTIONAL FEMINISM #FEMINIST #IDENTITY POLITICS #AMERICAN POLITICS #POLITICS #WOMENS RIGHTS 75  notes",,5,[deleted],1590361613.0 -TheBluePill,gor6j2,😡,,/r/againstwomensrights/comments/g50cw1/giving_women_the_right_to_vote_and_the_same/,303,Jenn_There_Done_That,1590179413.0 -TheBluePill,gp03fr,Fucqboi Book Club: Reddit Abyss 5: tfw no f,,https://soundcloud.com/fucqboi-bookclub/reddit-abyss-5-tfw-no-f,6,FucqBoi_BookClub,1590214878.0 +>Thank you all of your participation of this experiment. Your responses will be logged as data in my research MAY. 23 2020 #MRA #FEMINISM #INTERSECTIONAL FEMINISM #FEMINIST #IDENTITY POLITICS #AMERICAN POLITICS #POLITICS #WOMENS RIGHTS 75  notes",,5,[deleted],2020-05-24 23:06:53 +TheBluePill,gor6j2,😡,,/r/againstwomensrights/comments/g50cw1/giving_women_the_right_to_vote_and_the_same/,303,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-05-22 20:30:13 +TheBluePill,gp03fr,Fucqboi Book Club: Reddit Abyss 5: tfw no f,,https://soundcloud.com/fucqboi-bookclub/reddit-abyss-5-tfw-no-f,6,FucqBoi_BookClub,2020-05-23 06:21:18 TheBluePill,gopwf2,MGTOW and FDS attack the lowest hanging fruit there is.,"Both are just bitter, jaded, people with clear mommy/daddy issues that attack the lowest hanging fruit. Some of the things they say are true, but the majority is what I stated in my initial statement. Take MGTOW - all they do it bitch and complain about women. They repost dumb shit women say (a terrible sample size) and then go on about it. Like no shit bro, that's a stupid thing to say. No need to repost it and go on and on about it Jesus fucking christ. @@ -47035,10 +47035,10 @@ It seems as if their lives revolve around obsessing about women, relationships, And same goes for FDS. Just add the part about men paying for all their shit and no sex blah blah blah like naw dude you've just been burned too many times cuz you're probably dumb, care too much, and have daddy issues. They also attack low hanging fruit and hate on men. Most of the stuff I said about MGTOW applies to FDS. -It saddens me people waste their time on this kinda BS.",,15,[deleted],1590175279.0 +It saddens me people waste their time on this kinda BS.",,15,[deleted],2020-05-22 19:21:19 TheBluePill,gopykx,MGTOW,"[https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/gog92b/miss\_independent\_wants\_a\_slave/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x](https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/gog92b/miss_independent_wants_a_slave/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x) -SEE all they do is attack the lowest hanging fruit on god...",,6,[deleted],1590175467.0 +SEE all they do is attack the lowest hanging fruit on god...",,6,[deleted],2020-05-22 19:24:27 TheBluePill,go2ysu,"A ""National-Patriarchal"" extremist group is being formed in Russia right now","And it has to be stopped. The entire russian Twitter community is shocked at the Telegram channel called Поздняков. The channel is aggressively proposing ideas of ""national-patriarchal"" propaganda, as well as doxes, threatens and cyberbullies people. Russian women, women in interracial/international couples, minors, Webcam models, LGBTQ+ people. All these vulnerable groups attacked by hundreds of Pozdnyakov's followers, receiving threats, getting fired from jobs, having their lives ruined. The channel has more than 50k active followers. @@ -47047,12 +47047,12 @@ Not only that, the members of the group have a secret chat where they discuss th This might be nothing, might be just a bunch of angry incels, but as we learned - angry incels can be very dangerous. Countless people reported the channel, wrote 1 star reviews on the app, but no action followed. Telegram did ban his closed channel, the one he posted revenge porn to, but the main source remains active. I understand the app can't ban all the people and they will find another way to communicate, but the public channel has to be closed since it only propagates these cruel ideas of racism, sexism & homophobia. -Pozdnyakov (the author) afaik was almost jailed in Russia, so he fled to Poland and resides there now, continuing to torment people. I'm only here to spread awareness on the issue. No one has any idea how to handle this while the authorities remain silent.",,274,[deleted],1590087818.0 -TheBluePill,gnjnw3,"Woman who kept her child that was a result of her rape was viciously trolled by a man on twitter. She found his Facebook and messaged his family, employers and church screenshots of his hate mail.",,https://twitter.com/itsalwayswednes/status/1262543481307721728?s=21,792,Jenn_There_Done_That,1590007985.0 -TheBluePill,gns2ow,"The truly ugly girl has others at a disadvantage, because rather than hurt her feelings, they will do things for her out of guilt - Any living creature that is weak uses manipulation to survive. Manipulating the strong to protect and provide for them.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gnkfby/love_sympathy_and_manipulation_or_how_women/,11,stonoceno,1590044751.0 -TheBluePill,gnktfu,Husband calls up his wife’s boss because she has been too stressed about work to be useful around the house. Gets her demoted.,,/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/gnfwi4/aita_for_going_over_my_wife_and_speaking_candidly/,49,PinkFreud08,1590014351.0 -TheBluePill,gmz75l,Tesla Owners Try to Make Sense of Elon Musk’s ‘Red Pill’ Moment,,https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/19/technology/elon-musk-tesla-red-pill.html,212,InfernalWedgie,1589928508.0 -TheBluePill,gml22s,16 year old RedPill sends incredibly sexist and belligerent DMs to a feminist on twitter. She posts them. The comments DRAG him. Hilarity ensues.,,https://twitter.com/feminemiiy/status/1262493009439895552?s=21,329,Jenn_There_Done_That,1589879233.0 +Pozdnyakov (the author) afaik was almost jailed in Russia, so he fled to Poland and resides there now, continuing to torment people. I'm only here to spread awareness on the issue. No one has any idea how to handle this while the authorities remain silent.",,274,[deleted],2020-05-21 19:03:38 +TheBluePill,gnjnw3,"Woman who kept her child that was a result of her rape was viciously trolled by a man on twitter. She found his Facebook and messaged his family, employers and church screenshots of his hate mail.",,https://twitter.com/itsalwayswednes/status/1262543481307721728?s=21,792,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-05-20 20:53:05 +TheBluePill,gns2ow,"The truly ugly girl has others at a disadvantage, because rather than hurt her feelings, they will do things for her out of guilt - Any living creature that is weak uses manipulation to survive. Manipulating the strong to protect and provide for them.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gnkfby/love_sympathy_and_manipulation_or_how_women/,11,stonoceno,2020-05-21 07:05:51 +TheBluePill,gnktfu,Husband calls up his wife’s boss because she has been too stressed about work to be useful around the house. Gets her demoted.,,/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/gnfwi4/aita_for_going_over_my_wife_and_speaking_candidly/,49,PinkFreud08,2020-05-20 22:39:11 +TheBluePill,gmz75l,Tesla Owners Try to Make Sense of Elon Musk’s ‘Red Pill’ Moment,,https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/19/technology/elon-musk-tesla-red-pill.html,212,InfernalWedgie,2020-05-19 22:48:28 +TheBluePill,gml22s,16 year old RedPill sends incredibly sexist and belligerent DMs to a feminist on twitter. She posts them. The comments DRAG him. Hilarity ensues.,,https://twitter.com/feminemiiy/status/1262493009439895552?s=21,329,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-05-19 09:07:13 TheBluePill,gmri4t,"Hey folks! I made a completely unnecessary new subreddit, r/BlatantMisogyny, for posting all of the blatant misogyny you find anywhere in the wild.","r/BlatantMisogyny How is this new sub better or different than the subs we have already? @@ -47073,47 +47073,47 @@ Won’t incels, MRAs, RedPills, MGTOW flock there? Do you have too much time on your hands during the pandemic? --Clearly. Yes.",,51,Jenn_There_Done_That,1589904524.0 -TheBluePill,gml3s6,Tik Tok parody of the average incel/RedPill guy,,https://v.redd.it/to8hjz7cuoz41,120,Jenn_There_Done_That,1589879484.0 -TheBluePill,gmc3pc,"Remember, he wants you to get an STD by saying whatever falls out your angry pie hole. I'm thinking hes on his way to a rape charge.",,https://i.redd.it/dln9v1bjqlz41.jpg,43,Fuzzy-Scene,1589841868.0 -TheBluePill,gmjkaq,Born in the wrong generation in TRP,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gm2q8j/chemotherapy_handjob/,4,stonoceno,1589871564.0 -TheBluePill,gmgzox,"We read real reddit posts on our podcast. This week: ""GF is too happy"" ""GF is getting too cool"" & ""Can I fire my GF""",,https://soundcloud.com/fucqboi-bookclub/reddit-abyss-4,5,FucqBoi_BookClub,1589859684.0 -TheBluePill,gmfsgm,I care,,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/gm27tg/man_up_dude/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf,4,human-no560,1589855033.0 -TheBluePill,glotsm,"Anyone's alarm bells ringing from that list for an ""alpha man""?",,https://i.redd.it/y48t4gn3iez41.png,66,aguadiablo,1589754305.0 -TheBluePill,glehhz,"AITA: ""That girl didn't date you? Ignore that slut and sleep with all the other females! Why are people calling me TA?""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/gkak98/aita_for_telling_my_cousin_he_cant_be_so_reliant/,190,stonoceno,1589718066.0 -TheBluePill,glssjf,"Comparing ""Heterosexual Female Rape"" To ""Homosexual Male Rape"" Is Fallacious",,http://archive.vn/2PqDU,6,BrazilianSigma,1589768844.0 -TheBluePill,glkzoz,The longest mansplaination of feminism in all the land...,,https://old.reddit.com/r/FeMRADebates/comments/glhhh5/this_is_a_sub_for_menswomens_issues_to_bring_up/fqxirts/?context=3,6,notafeeemale,1589741632.0 -TheBluePill,gkpxst,I'm amazed at how effective incels are at digging their own graves...,,https://i.redd.it/rlymd4qye0z41.jpg,494,FoeHamma,1589610214.0 -TheBluePill,gkybw8,Misogynists and narcissism,,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2011/08/09/science-corner-why-some-self-obsessed-douchebags-hate-the-ladies-so-much/comment-page-1/,16,[deleted],1589649370.0 -TheBluePill,gl9ur0,"article about Canada's worst-ever mass shooter was woman-hater and misogyny fuelled his killing spree that left 22 dead -- First comment completely changes the subject, rest of 2000 comment thread ignores the misogyny, another one had to point out it wasn't ONLY women the dude killed 🙄 so fragile.",,https://old.reddit.com/r/worldnews/comments/gl4q7q/evidence_mounts_canadas_worstever_mass_shooter/fqvxn44/,2,notafeeemale,1589692846.0 -TheBluePill,gkrizk,A response to a post about man hating feminists,,https://i.redd.it/um77ga7qc3z41.jpg,35,[deleted],1589619278.0 -TheBluePill,gkr9jo,"Guys, stop fetishizing ""Eastern European"" or ""Asian"" women! Not because that's weird and racist, but because ALL women are trash!",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gkfui6/so_you_want_an_asian_eastern_european_girl/,22,stonoceno,1589617702.0 -TheBluePill,gk9y2u,Now women are too worried about COVID-19! What irrational creatures!,,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/05/14/women-worry-too-much-about-coronavirus-because-theyre-irrational-creatures-who-need-to-be-put-in-their-place-reddit-conspiracist-argues/,142,stonoceno,1589552333.0 -TheBluePill,gk9we8,"I'm so glad that I have TRP to help me understand personality disorders, especially NPD",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gjmc6n/high_danger_covert_npd_women_and_how_to_spot_them/,27,stonoceno,1589552168.0 -TheBluePill,gjthdx,"Guy mansplains women’s suffrage to me. When I call it mansplaining, HE PROCEEDS TO MANSPLAIN MANSPLAINING!! The jokes write themselves, folks!",,https://i.redd.it/mj71a6wpasy41.jpg,413,Jenn_There_Done_That,1589485428.0 -TheBluePill,gjoeaa,Her panties must be absolutely drenched being so close to this alpha male,,https://i.redd.it/932sb1vy3ny41.jpg,251,FoeHamma,1589469713.0 -TheBluePill,gjnbje,"Throwing a fot because his gf turned down sex for the first time in 1,5 years. But the comment section is even better.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/gjg43e/when_ltr_turns_down_sex_how_to_respond/,158,misiepatysie,1589466272.0 -TheBluePill,gjt562,"A guy actually mansplains to me that women’s suffrage wasn’t a “result of feminist activism”, but rather a gift given to women by men “as a natural result of a developing society”. I guess he forgot about the suffragettes who bombed buildings and went on hunger strikes in prison.",,https://i.redd.it/ekb07bem7sy41.jpg,42,Jenn_There_Done_That,1589484384.0 -TheBluePill,gitz29,"A BBC 5-minute video on the contraceptive pill in Japan (that took over 15 years to be approved by a mostly-male government, while Viagra was approved in 6 months)",,https://www.bbc.com/news/av/stories-52559959/fighting-for-the-pill-in-japan,294,stonoceno,1589353572.0 -TheBluePill,giuhql,"OP goes on Bumble date at his house, and is mostly thinking about his field report, has not-very-good advice for photos for dating apps",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gilxki/field_report_first_date_lay_w_bumble_girl/,12,stonoceno,1589356063.0 -TheBluePill,gik45b,[Biotroofs!] This Philosopher Is Challenging All of Evolutionary Psychology,,https://gizmodo.com/this-philosopher-is-challenging-all-of-evolutionary-psy-1842248835,68,InfernalWedgie,1589316668.0 -TheBluePill,giu7pf,"AI-generated memes vs MRA memes (""When you find out you have a hot dog"")",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/05/07/when-you-find-out-you-have-a-hot-dog-why-ai-generated-memes-make-more-sense-than-those-produced-by-mras/,4,stonoceno,1589354721.0 -TheBluePill,giqukh,"They had me in the first half, not gonna lie (like “focus on yourself” stuff or him reflecting on past mistakes, BUT NOPE)",,https://i.redd.it/tzwbdib1agy41.jpg,10,AsianAmazon74,1589339913.0 +-Clearly. Yes.",,51,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-05-19 16:08:44 +TheBluePill,gml3s6,Tik Tok parody of the average incel/RedPill guy,,https://v.redd.it/to8hjz7cuoz41,120,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-05-19 09:11:24 +TheBluePill,gmc3pc,"Remember, he wants you to get an STD by saying whatever falls out your angry pie hole. I'm thinking hes on his way to a rape charge.",,https://i.redd.it/dln9v1bjqlz41.jpg,43,Fuzzy-Scene,2020-05-18 22:44:28 +TheBluePill,gmjkaq,Born in the wrong generation in TRP,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gm2q8j/chemotherapy_handjob/,4,stonoceno,2020-05-19 06:59:24 +TheBluePill,gmgzox,"We read real reddit posts on our podcast. This week: ""GF is too happy"" ""GF is getting too cool"" & ""Can I fire my GF""",,https://soundcloud.com/fucqboi-bookclub/reddit-abyss-4,5,FucqBoi_BookClub,2020-05-19 03:41:24 +TheBluePill,gmfsgm,I care,,https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/gm27tg/man_up_dude/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf,4,human-no560,2020-05-19 02:23:53 +TheBluePill,glotsm,"Anyone's alarm bells ringing from that list for an ""alpha man""?",,https://i.redd.it/y48t4gn3iez41.png,66,aguadiablo,2020-05-17 22:25:05 +TheBluePill,glehhz,"AITA: ""That girl didn't date you? Ignore that slut and sleep with all the other females! Why are people calling me TA?""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/gkak98/aita_for_telling_my_cousin_he_cant_be_so_reliant/,190,stonoceno,2020-05-17 12:21:06 +TheBluePill,glssjf,"Comparing ""Heterosexual Female Rape"" To ""Homosexual Male Rape"" Is Fallacious",,http://archive.vn/2PqDU,6,BrazilianSigma,2020-05-18 02:27:24 +TheBluePill,glkzoz,The longest mansplaination of feminism in all the land...,,https://old.reddit.com/r/FeMRADebates/comments/glhhh5/this_is_a_sub_for_menswomens_issues_to_bring_up/fqxirts/?context=3,6,notafeeemale,2020-05-17 18:53:52 +TheBluePill,gkpxst,I'm amazed at how effective incels are at digging their own graves...,,https://i.redd.it/rlymd4qye0z41.jpg,494,FoeHamma,2020-05-16 06:23:34 +TheBluePill,gkybw8,Misogynists and narcissism,,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2011/08/09/science-corner-why-some-self-obsessed-douchebags-hate-the-ladies-so-much/comment-page-1/,16,[deleted],2020-05-16 17:16:10 +TheBluePill,gl9ur0,"article about Canada's worst-ever mass shooter was woman-hater and misogyny fuelled his killing spree that left 22 dead -- First comment completely changes the subject, rest of 2000 comment thread ignores the misogyny, another one had to point out it wasn't ONLY women the dude killed 🙄 so fragile.",,https://old.reddit.com/r/worldnews/comments/gl4q7q/evidence_mounts_canadas_worstever_mass_shooter/fqvxn44/,2,notafeeemale,2020-05-17 05:20:46 +TheBluePill,gkrizk,A response to a post about man hating feminists,,https://i.redd.it/um77ga7qc3z41.jpg,35,[deleted],2020-05-16 08:54:38 +TheBluePill,gkr9jo,"Guys, stop fetishizing ""Eastern European"" or ""Asian"" women! Not because that's weird and racist, but because ALL women are trash!",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gkfui6/so_you_want_an_asian_eastern_european_girl/,22,stonoceno,2020-05-16 08:28:22 +TheBluePill,gk9y2u,Now women are too worried about COVID-19! What irrational creatures!,,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/05/14/women-worry-too-much-about-coronavirus-because-theyre-irrational-creatures-who-need-to-be-put-in-their-place-reddit-conspiracist-argues/,142,stonoceno,2020-05-15 14:18:53 +TheBluePill,gk9we8,"I'm so glad that I have TRP to help me understand personality disorders, especially NPD",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gjmc6n/high_danger_covert_npd_women_and_how_to_spot_them/,27,stonoceno,2020-05-15 14:16:08 +TheBluePill,gjthdx,"Guy mansplains women’s suffrage to me. When I call it mansplaining, HE PROCEEDS TO MANSPLAIN MANSPLAINING!! The jokes write themselves, folks!",,https://i.redd.it/mj71a6wpasy41.jpg,413,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-05-14 19:43:48 +TheBluePill,gjoeaa,Her panties must be absolutely drenched being so close to this alpha male,,https://i.redd.it/932sb1vy3ny41.jpg,251,FoeHamma,2020-05-14 15:21:53 +TheBluePill,gjnbje,"Throwing a fot because his gf turned down sex for the first time in 1,5 years. But the comment section is even better.",,https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/gjg43e/when_ltr_turns_down_sex_how_to_respond/,158,misiepatysie,2020-05-14 14:24:32 +TheBluePill,gjt562,"A guy actually mansplains to me that women’s suffrage wasn’t a “result of feminist activism”, but rather a gift given to women by men “as a natural result of a developing society”. I guess he forgot about the suffragettes who bombed buildings and went on hunger strikes in prison.",,https://i.redd.it/ekb07bem7sy41.jpg,42,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-05-14 19:26:24 +TheBluePill,gitz29,"A BBC 5-minute video on the contraceptive pill in Japan (that took over 15 years to be approved by a mostly-male government, while Viagra was approved in 6 months)",,https://www.bbc.com/news/av/stories-52559959/fighting-for-the-pill-in-japan,294,stonoceno,2020-05-13 07:06:12 +TheBluePill,giuhql,"OP goes on Bumble date at his house, and is mostly thinking about his field report, has not-very-good advice for photos for dating apps",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gilxki/field_report_first_date_lay_w_bumble_girl/,12,stonoceno,2020-05-13 07:47:43 +TheBluePill,gik45b,[Biotroofs!] This Philosopher Is Challenging All of Evolutionary Psychology,,https://gizmodo.com/this-philosopher-is-challenging-all-of-evolutionary-psy-1842248835,68,InfernalWedgie,2020-05-12 20:51:08 +TheBluePill,giu7pf,"AI-generated memes vs MRA memes (""When you find out you have a hot dog"")",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/05/07/when-you-find-out-you-have-a-hot-dog-why-ai-generated-memes-make-more-sense-than-those-produced-by-mras/,4,stonoceno,2020-05-13 07:25:21 +TheBluePill,giqukh,"They had me in the first half, not gonna lie (like “focus on yourself” stuff or him reflecting on past mistakes, BUT NOPE)",,https://i.redd.it/tzwbdib1agy41.jpg,10,AsianAmazon74,2020-05-13 03:18:33 TheBluePill,gijeil,Red Pill Black Men Upset by Sonic the Hedgehog Movie," [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OBrSdidgLWQ&feature=emb\_title](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OBrSdidgLWQ&feature=emb_title) -There's actually is a blog similar to We Hunted the Mammoth but focuses on the Black Manosphere: [https://pookiesdagglesandmaggles.com/2020/05/04/sysbm-proponent-says-sonic-the-hedgehog-film-is-bed-wench-propaganda-and-anti-black-male/](https://pookiesdagglesandmaggles.com/2020/05/04/sysbm-proponent-says-sonic-the-hedgehog-film-is-bed-wench-propaganda-and-anti-black-male/)",,19,[deleted],1589314542.0 -TheBluePill,gi6xph,Do you honestly believe a vast majority of girls even give a single FUCK about covid 19 or how many people will die.,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ghqol6/how_i_see_dating_girls_covid19_and_the/,134,stonoceno,1589270830.0 -TheBluePill,gi6z07,"Don't give a fuck about her, never reconsider your own actions, live up your own ass!",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ghria1/stop_giving_a_fuck_about_her/,10,stonoceno,1589271000.0 +There's actually is a blog similar to We Hunted the Mammoth but focuses on the Black Manosphere: [https://pookiesdagglesandmaggles.com/2020/05/04/sysbm-proponent-says-sonic-the-hedgehog-film-is-bed-wench-propaganda-and-anti-black-male/](https://pookiesdagglesandmaggles.com/2020/05/04/sysbm-proponent-says-sonic-the-hedgehog-film-is-bed-wench-propaganda-and-anti-black-male/)",,19,[deleted],2020-05-12 20:15:42 +TheBluePill,gi6xph,Do you honestly believe a vast majority of girls even give a single FUCK about covid 19 or how many people will die.,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ghqol6/how_i_see_dating_girls_covid19_and_the/,134,stonoceno,2020-05-12 08:07:10 +TheBluePill,gi6z07,"Don't give a fuck about her, never reconsider your own actions, live up your own ass!",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ghria1/stop_giving_a_fuck_about_her/,10,stonoceno,2020-05-12 08:10:00 TheBluePill,ghtaxb,i posted on twox about how i hate delusional middle aged men hitting on me and it got deleted for hurting boys feelings,"im in a very bad place mentally lately from the combination of isolation socially while meanwhile still dealing with non stop harassment at work by older men (it's worse recently because i am alone at work now). i was having a really bad night once and came to reddit to find a thread about it. but saying ""young women do NOT like to be hit on by middle aged men"" is a topic that seems to just not be allowed on reddit. for one thing it brings out the crowd of guys who are aggressive about it and they stomp all over the thread until it gets deleted. meanwhile there are 9 million threads about how middle aged women are undesirable. about how age gaps are just lovely (but only if it's man older) about how ""natural"" it is to find teens and only teens attractive (women only though). It does not feel flattering to be hit on by old guys. It is embarassing and uncomfortable. Thats me being polite because honestly it's fucking horrific. In my life right now im working in customer service and also dating. Two things that have brought hoards of older men harassing me. I am not flattered or excited in the slightest by the ""attention"". The exact reverse is true. It's insulting and depressing. The thing is i feel like no matter how many of us scream from the rooftops about how much we loathe being objectified and hit on by old dudes, men just kick into overdrive to drown us out and force this idea that we love it. That it's natural. That everyone looooooves aging men. That young woman plus old man equals joy. It's gross. Sorry but it is. -also just wanted to add: reddit's big lie about men being desirable as they age is harmful to men too. they are in for a rude awakening if they take advice from reddit and it is really messed up to sabotage each other in that way when you should be encouraging each in healthier ways smh.",,27,[deleted],1589221666.0 -TheBluePill,ghjcq3,"Almost fell for a unicorn... but she used a strong vibrator back in the day, so she's actually a whore",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ghedfp/the_irony_of_almost_falling_for_a_unicorn/,155,stonoceno,1589183916.0 -TheBluePill,gh49zr,Another sub has been taken over by insecure manchildren (WhiteKnighting),,https://i.redd.it/dtwv5h81pyx41.png,278,AdvocateDoogy,1589127217.0 -TheBluePill,ghjgst,Casey Anthony as the Fully-Realized Post-Modern Woman (with bonus not understanding anything about Andrea Yates),,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gh6hc8/casey_anthony_as_the_fullyrealized_postmodern/,9,stonoceno,1589184502.0 +also just wanted to add: reddit's big lie about men being desirable as they age is harmful to men too. they are in for a rude awakening if they take advice from reddit and it is really messed up to sabotage each other in that way when you should be encouraging each in healthier ways smh.",,27,[deleted],2020-05-11 18:27:46 +TheBluePill,ghjcq3,"Almost fell for a unicorn... but she used a strong vibrator back in the day, so she's actually a whore",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ghedfp/the_irony_of_almost_falling_for_a_unicorn/,155,stonoceno,2020-05-11 07:58:36 +TheBluePill,gh49zr,Another sub has been taken over by insecure manchildren (WhiteKnighting),,https://i.redd.it/dtwv5h81pyx41.png,278,AdvocateDoogy,2020-05-10 16:13:37 +TheBluePill,ghjgst,Casey Anthony as the Fully-Realized Post-Modern Woman (with bonus not understanding anything about Andrea Yates),,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gh6hc8/casey_anthony_as_the_fullyrealized_postmodern/,9,stonoceno,2020-05-11 08:08:22 TheBluePill,gh4r1x,Blue/Purple/Pink/Red/Black Pill dosages,"I've been trying to make sense of all of these ideas and perspectives in Western culture. What seems to be a common denominator in many of these trends (from both sides of the gender coin) is a lack of empathy and an inability or unwillingness to see things from the opposite point of view. @@ -47121,35 +47121,35 @@ What seems to be a common denominator in many of these trends (from both sides o Am I wrong? -It's really interesting to watch these communities play off of one another, but it's a little depressing sometimes. What do you folks think?",,29,RabidusRex,1589128856.0 -TheBluePill,ggwt3y,Red Pill Truths CONFIRMED by plate!!!!!!!!,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ggq2c0/high_n_count_and_long_term_relationships_red_pill/,47,stonoceno,1589094518.0 -TheBluePill,ggvqqt,MANDATORY r/TheBluePill RE-EDUCATION PROPAGANDA VII REMAKE,,https://youtu.be/97rviFyLFlw,48,SignalAVirtueToday,1589089170.0 -TheBluePill,gg7z86,Incellius Maximus,,https://i.redd.it/unevizr6djx41.jpg,412,FoeHamma,1588995192.0 -TheBluePill,gf9l4o,Immediate Red Flag once he said “female”,,https://i.redd.it/s6xo9w3lbdx41.jpg,328,AsianAmazon74,1588868266.0 -TheBluePill,gf2jfl,"""Fun"" with submissive girls: in which OP tells us how impressive he is",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/geotk6/submissive_girls_part_ii_more_fun_with_submissive/,99,stonoceno,1588839339.0 -TheBluePill,gfcdxl,What is this?,,https://np.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/gf09ij/i_think_i_might_have_just_accidentally_swallowed/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf,9,human-no560,1588876744.0 -TheBluePill,gf2nq3,"When you're alpha, you can break rules and it's cool and definitely no weird racism happening here",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/geqah5/your_ability_to_break_the_rules_is_a_powerful_red/,8,stonoceno,1588839958.0 -TheBluePill,gexxpl,the way these people talk about their WIVES makes me sick,,https://www.np.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/g8pd33/mct_rules_for_pandemics/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf,10,huffleberrypie,1588817808.0 -TheBluePill,geiasa,"You must be willing to nuke your nuclear family, because cavepeople lived in nuclear families and nothing changed until post-1950",,https://np.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/ge79vq/why_you_must_be_willing_to_nuke_your_nuclear/,102,stonoceno,1588764749.0 -TheBluePill,ge54io,"AskMen mod is tired of incels turning his sub into another one of their women-bashing hovels, so the incels on WhiteKnighting turn on him",,https://i.redd.it/fqcd59uv4zw41.jpg,494,AdvocateDoogy,1588709590.0 -TheBluePill,get995,DeVos finalizes regulations that give more rights to those accused of sexual assault on college campuses,,https://amp.cnn.com/cnn/2020/05/06/politics/education-secretary-betsy-devos-title-ix-regulations/index.html?__twitter_impression=true,2,[deleted],1588801310.0 -TheBluePill,gdu2le,"MGTOW really hates OnlyFans, and also, it only exists because the government subsidizes THOTS",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/gdikqh/onlyfans_onlyexists_because_government_subsidizes/,157,stonoceno,1588668238.0 -TheBluePill,gdyq4l,"""Every woman is sitting on a scholarship""",,https://i.redd.it/dcbyhm133uw41.jpg,45,FoeHamma,1588688896.0 -TheBluePill,gdu5xy,Quarantine rules for MRP: just straight-up lie to your wife and pretend to work from home,,https://np.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/g8pd33/mct_rules_for_pandemics/,23,stonoceno,1588668745.0 -TheBluePill,gdfmv7,"Women won't tell you what they mean: a story in which OP is told things pretty directly, but somehow, she's still in the wrong",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gcu57d/shell_never_tell_you_what_she_really_means/,163,stonoceno,1588612412.0 -TheBluePill,gcmy4b,Females are using the quarantine to test you and make you wait.,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gceego/make_him_wait_quarantine_edition/,80,stonoceno,1588493272.0 -TheBluePill,gcl2y0,Woman makes post on MensRights comparing feminism to MRAs. Outrage and WTF-ness ensues!,,https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/gbjvm4/the_similarities_in_mra_and_feminism/,31,[deleted],1588482729.0 -TheBluePill,gcr561,DS-157 Form by Carl Augustsson,,https://newsofx.com/2020/05/03/ds-157-form-by-carl-augustsson/,0,newsofxeditor,1588514707.0 -TheBluePill,gblozd,This is the kind of misogyny being posted on the new IncelTears,,https://i.redd.it/wa1q0fqnq5w41.jpg,427,Jenn_There_Done_That,1588351812.0 -TheBluePill,gbwqgg,They hated Jesus because he told them the truth,,https://i.redd.it/932nsptnb6w41.jpg,26,FoeHamma,1588382772.0 -TheBluePill,gbblz1,Mandatory remedial r/TheBluePill propaganda: episode 6,,https://gfycat.com/marvelouspastharborporpoise#,155,SignalAVirtueToday,1588307570.0 -TheBluePill,gbc3pe,"Lots of screeching neckbeards angry that the new Assassin’s Creed has the option of a female protagonist like the previous game, but this dramatic reaction is my personal favourite.",,https://i.redd.it/rc5cjtwbpzv41.jpg,84,FoeHamma,1588309852.0 -TheBluePill,gbg0b3,"It's a hate training, nothing less",,https://i.redd.it/utgyfgaqw4w41.png,28,EverybodyIsMyBro,1588330669.0 -TheBluePill,gbl7d5,The Black Pill Philosophy and the Ideology of Pills,,https://youtu.be/PNGTAOpKAjM,5,ihateuall,1588350193.0 -TheBluePill,gbpq4o,How the Globalists Stole America,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h95YkGEcDY0,1,NixNonFix,1588364965.0 -TheBluePill,gbajk7,Are eugenics the logical end result of the 'freedom of choice' liberalism provides to its subjects?,,http://archive.vn/wuMTr,3,BrazilianSigma,1588303137.0 -TheBluePill,gafewa,"4chan ""Blackpiller"" Incel Espouses That Women Should Be Banned From Using The Internet, Degrades Sex Workers.",,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IR8_5J7PBzc,145,CheesePleaseExtreme,1588187140.0 -TheBluePill,ga6aos,"TRP tells us about ""Narcissistic Personality Disorder tells"", and it sounds familiar somehow",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g9uit2/narcissistic_personality_disorder_tells/,141,stonoceno,1588152418.0 +It's really interesting to watch these communities play off of one another, but it's a little depressing sometimes. What do you folks think?",,29,RabidusRex,2020-05-10 16:40:56 +TheBluePill,ggwt3y,Red Pill Truths CONFIRMED by plate!!!!!!!!,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ggq2c0/high_n_count_and_long_term_relationships_red_pill/,47,stonoceno,2020-05-10 07:08:38 +TheBluePill,ggvqqt,MANDATORY r/TheBluePill RE-EDUCATION PROPAGANDA VII REMAKE,,https://youtu.be/97rviFyLFlw,48,SignalAVirtueToday,2020-05-10 05:39:30 +TheBluePill,gg7z86,Incellius Maximus,,https://i.redd.it/unevizr6djx41.jpg,412,FoeHamma,2020-05-09 03:33:12 +TheBluePill,gf9l4o,Immediate Red Flag once he said “female”,,https://i.redd.it/s6xo9w3lbdx41.jpg,328,AsianAmazon74,2020-05-07 16:17:46 +TheBluePill,gf2jfl,"""Fun"" with submissive girls: in which OP tells us how impressive he is",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/geotk6/submissive_girls_part_ii_more_fun_with_submissive/,99,stonoceno,2020-05-07 08:15:39 +TheBluePill,gfcdxl,What is this?,,https://np.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/gf09ij/i_think_i_might_have_just_accidentally_swallowed/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf,9,human-no560,2020-05-07 18:39:04 +TheBluePill,gf2nq3,"When you're alpha, you can break rules and it's cool and definitely no weird racism happening here",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/geqah5/your_ability_to_break_the_rules_is_a_powerful_red/,8,stonoceno,2020-05-07 08:25:58 +TheBluePill,gexxpl,the way these people talk about their WIVES makes me sick,,https://www.np.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/g8pd33/mct_rules_for_pandemics/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf,10,huffleberrypie,2020-05-07 02:16:48 +TheBluePill,geiasa,"You must be willing to nuke your nuclear family, because cavepeople lived in nuclear families and nothing changed until post-1950",,https://np.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/ge79vq/why_you_must_be_willing_to_nuke_your_nuclear/,102,stonoceno,2020-05-06 11:32:29 +TheBluePill,ge54io,"AskMen mod is tired of incels turning his sub into another one of their women-bashing hovels, so the incels on WhiteKnighting turn on him",,https://i.redd.it/fqcd59uv4zw41.jpg,494,AdvocateDoogy,2020-05-05 20:13:10 +TheBluePill,get995,DeVos finalizes regulations that give more rights to those accused of sexual assault on college campuses,,https://amp.cnn.com/cnn/2020/05/06/politics/education-secretary-betsy-devos-title-ix-regulations/index.html?__twitter_impression=true,2,[deleted],2020-05-06 21:41:50 +TheBluePill,gdu2le,"MGTOW really hates OnlyFans, and also, it only exists because the government subsidizes THOTS",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/gdikqh/onlyfans_onlyexists_because_government_subsidizes/,157,stonoceno,2020-05-05 08:43:58 +TheBluePill,gdyq4l,"""Every woman is sitting on a scholarship""",,https://i.redd.it/dcbyhm133uw41.jpg,45,FoeHamma,2020-05-05 14:28:16 +TheBluePill,gdu5xy,Quarantine rules for MRP: just straight-up lie to your wife and pretend to work from home,,https://np.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/g8pd33/mct_rules_for_pandemics/,23,stonoceno,2020-05-05 08:52:25 +TheBluePill,gdfmv7,"Women won't tell you what they mean: a story in which OP is told things pretty directly, but somehow, she's still in the wrong",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gcu57d/shell_never_tell_you_what_she_really_means/,163,stonoceno,2020-05-04 17:13:32 +TheBluePill,gcmy4b,Females are using the quarantine to test you and make you wait.,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/gceego/make_him_wait_quarantine_edition/,80,stonoceno,2020-05-03 08:07:52 +TheBluePill,gcl2y0,Woman makes post on MensRights comparing feminism to MRAs. Outrage and WTF-ness ensues!,,https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/gbjvm4/the_similarities_in_mra_and_feminism/,31,[deleted],2020-05-03 05:12:09 +TheBluePill,gcr561,DS-157 Form by Carl Augustsson,,https://newsofx.com/2020/05/03/ds-157-form-by-carl-augustsson/,0,newsofxeditor,2020-05-03 14:05:07 +TheBluePill,gblozd,This is the kind of misogyny being posted on the new IncelTears,,https://i.redd.it/wa1q0fqnq5w41.jpg,427,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-05-01 16:50:12 +TheBluePill,gbwqgg,They hated Jesus because he told them the truth,,https://i.redd.it/932nsptnb6w41.jpg,26,FoeHamma,2020-05-02 01:26:12 +TheBluePill,gbblz1,Mandatory remedial r/TheBluePill propaganda: episode 6,,https://gfycat.com/marvelouspastharborporpoise#,155,SignalAVirtueToday,2020-05-01 04:32:50 +TheBluePill,gbc3pe,"Lots of screeching neckbeards angry that the new Assassin’s Creed has the option of a female protagonist like the previous game, but this dramatic reaction is my personal favourite.",,https://i.redd.it/rc5cjtwbpzv41.jpg,84,FoeHamma,2020-05-01 05:10:52 +TheBluePill,gbg0b3,"It's a hate training, nothing less",,https://i.redd.it/utgyfgaqw4w41.png,28,EverybodyIsMyBro,2020-05-01 10:57:49 +TheBluePill,gbl7d5,The Black Pill Philosophy and the Ideology of Pills,,https://youtu.be/PNGTAOpKAjM,5,ihateuall,2020-05-01 16:23:13 +TheBluePill,gbpq4o,How the Globalists Stole America,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h95YkGEcDY0,1,NixNonFix,2020-05-01 20:29:25 +TheBluePill,gbajk7,Are eugenics the logical end result of the 'freedom of choice' liberalism provides to its subjects?,,http://archive.vn/wuMTr,3,BrazilianSigma,2020-05-01 03:18:57 +TheBluePill,gafewa,"4chan ""Blackpiller"" Incel Espouses That Women Should Be Banned From Using The Internet, Degrades Sex Workers.",,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IR8_5J7PBzc,145,CheesePleaseExtreme,2020-04-29 19:05:40 +TheBluePill,ga6aos,"TRP tells us about ""Narcissistic Personality Disorder tells"", and it sounds familiar somehow",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g9uit2/narcissistic_personality_disorder_tells/,141,stonoceno,2020-04-29 09:26:58 TheBluePill,gae7fm,Deadbeat dads and expectations for sex.,"I was on r/purplepill subreddit and I was debating a guy and I'm disturbed. My list of disturbia is numerous but let's see if I can sum it up. @@ -47190,115 +47190,115 @@ My list of disturbia is numerous but let's see if I can sum it up. ---I get the impression that in hookup culture men are making less of an effort to go on dates. That they put in minimal effort. This also bothers me because it seems like men doesn't really want to spend time with women. That they don't like women. -----My final disturbia is reading articles written by marriage counselors that make it seem like a common reason for divorce is emotional neglect. The man ignores and won't talk to or spend time with his wife. This also makes me think men don't like women. I'm disturbed by that.",,15,[deleted],1588183395.0 -TheBluePill,g9n8bq,"""Don't block me. I love you"".",,https://i.redd.it/sadd8x1uzdv41.jpg,302,FoeHamma,1588080699.0 -TheBluePill,g9jhkn,"In which OP meets a human woman and she does human things, like have interests and conversation, and in which TRP dismisses it because women aren't interesting",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g92pze/an_atypical_date/,106,stonoceno,1588062913.0 -TheBluePill,g9xgs4,Scientists test whether giving men estrogen could help them survive coronavirus — and conspiracy theorists run wild,,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/28/scientists-test-whether-giving-men-estrogen-could-help-them-survive-coronavirus-and-conspiracy-theorists-run-wild/,8,BrazilianSigma,1588113919.0 -TheBluePill,g9n6oq,A celebrity famous for her good looks has a good looking boyfriend? This just isn't fair 😡,,https://i.redd.it/c2zms5st3jv41.jpg,30,FoeHamma,1588080524.0 -TheBluePill,g9jg20,"Why it's not ""morally"" wrong or hypocritical to sleep with many women yet expect the mother of your kids to not have slept with many men (does it have to do with object metaphors and not understanding biology? Yes.)",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g8owmw/why_its_not_morally_wrong_or_hypocritical_to/,69,stonoceno,1588062715.0 -TheBluePill,g8y41k,"UK: Calls to domestic abuse helpline jump by half in first three weeks of lockdown (what WOULD women do without men to protect them, and also, information for the Men's Advice Line, partially funded by Scottish Women’s Aid)",,https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-52433520,231,stonoceno,1587982538.0 -TheBluePill,g8zrm5,NuRsEs ArEn’t HeRoS,,https://i.redd.it/xvscmhkw58v41.jpg,55,FoeHamma,1587990498.0 -TheBluePill,g8g8ve,MGTOW: A Character Study,,https://i.redd.it/2fq1m47de4v41.png,211,FoeHamma,1587914952.0 -TheBluePill,g8eq90,"Incels on Spongebob: Is he ""one of us"" or a gay Jewry icon designed for homo buttsex propaganda?",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/24/incels-hail-spongebob-squarepants-as-one-of-their-own-eagerly-await-his-shooting-rampage-at-the-krusty-krab/#more-104145,172,stonoceno,1587909389.0 -TheBluePill,g8aufj,"NO ONE FUCKING BREAKS UP WITH ME (and if they do, I go hook up with strangers who sing Tori Amos to me while crying, and this is good)",,https://donotlink.it/Pn7Aq,45,stonoceno,1587889544.0 -TheBluePill,g8f9dq,"""When one of Bennington's victims demanded that he stop harassing her, he reportedly replied that he was going to kill her and her family""",,https://meaww.com/who-are-incels-online-community-toxicity-spilling-out-into-real-world-shooting-chad-stacy-becky-sex,2,BrazilianSigma,1587911448.0 -TheBluePill,g7ybn4,"""No one can be relied on to speak truthfully and candidly if under his true name connected to job that can be destroyed and face that can be beaten in. Statistics always lie. Anonymous anecdote is the most reliable source, and it is not all that reliable""",,http://archive.is/rddAF,75,BrazilianSigma,1587838514.0 -TheBluePill,g7ypp4,"""with social welfare, your contribution is barely anything because women can and WILL get money from the government""",,http://archive.is/HAChZ,13,BrazilianSigma,1587839797.0 -TheBluePill,g77uv7,Apparently women can’t feel guilt,,https://i.redd.it/a0fb977ajru41.jpg,243,PocoGoneLoco,1587732808.0 -TheBluePill,g7jofa,Former gay porn star now a 'men's rights activist' who claims he's 'being silenced' – despite starring in his own documentary,,https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2020/04/23/philipp-tanzer-logan-mccree-gay-porn-mens-rights-activist-scotland-chicago-bbc-stories/,16,[deleted],1587773142.0 -TheBluePill,g7c253,"""they don't need us to make babies because robots will produce the goods for them""",,http://archive.is/vukpi,37,BrazilianSigma,1587747683.0 -TheBluePill,g6wstb,“PATRIARCHY MEANS POWER! Fight the feminist disease.” ...They have gone full masks off,,https://i.redd.it/e1adesuvcnu41.jpg,360,Jenn_There_Done_That,1587682227.0 -TheBluePill,g77mc2,Japanese mayor says men should grocery shop during pandemic as women 'take a longer time',,https://edition.cnn.com/2020/04/24/asia/japan-coronavirus-osaka-mayor-hnk-scli-intl/index.html,25,lemonkid12345,1587731806.0 -TheBluePill,g78q3r,"Daily Stormer on a ""bright new future"": ARYAN RAPE GANGS (WHTM)",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/20/the-daily-stormer-imagines-a-bright-new-postapocalyptic-future-ruled-over-by-aryan-rape-gangs/,12,stonoceno,1587736290.0 -TheBluePill,g78ept,Crafting the perfect marriage,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g77ixc/crafting_the_perfect_marriage/,12,stonoceno,1587735049.0 -TheBluePill,g6zhje,A new incel sub has appeared: “Female Girls; roast beef”,,https://i.redd.it/5e7znenn4ou41.jpg,27,Jenn_There_Done_That,1587692212.0 -TheBluePill,g6y3zb,How Evangelical “Christians” thinks about women.,,https://i.redd.it/75iot6gqqnu41.jpg,18,[deleted],1587686884.0 -TheBluePill,g6l20w,Internet women will tell the truth about secret female behaviors,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g5xsnt/i_ironically_first_heard_about_monkey_branching/,60,stonoceno,1587641672.0 -TheBluePill,g6rhtv,This KILLS me.,,https://i.redd.it/plv6if9dxlu41.jpg,15,luluisabell,1587664901.0 -TheBluePill,g6w0pa,"R/Incels ""without hate"" making me seriously doubt the validity of their sub...",,https://np.reddit.com/r/IncelsWithoutHate/comments/g6oaap/the_internet_dating_revolution_and_its/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,7,AidenMetallist,1587679541.0 -TheBluePill,g65sw0,Incels are being prosecuted for their online misogyny now. This does not bode well for their “movement”.,,https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/california-man-promoting-incel-ideology-charged-allegedly-threatening-teens-n1189206,349,Jenn_There_Done_That,1587577878.0 -TheBluePill,g6q7i0,"""When I was looking up pictures of men with enopthalmos on google, I noticed that enopthalmos literally makes you look like a creepy toddler rapist""",,http://archive.is/8uNCr,5,BrazilianSigma,1587660732.0 -TheBluePill,g698oq,How dare you bring up the fact that women face sexual assault!,,https://i.redd.it/f8351g7bnfu41.jpg,13,[deleted],1587588964.0 -TheBluePill,g63oa5,"""if we didn't have the few dudes go ER and all the edgelords, we'd just be nothing but a small community that will fade away into nothing""",,http://archive.is/RT4fe,17,BrazilianSigma,1587570959.0 -TheBluePill,g64gpl,""" The normie brain seeks at all moments to conform to the herd and be accepted. They fear social rejection more than any Incel""",,http://archive.is/kQ2SD,6,BrazilianSigma,1587573558.0 -TheBluePill,g69l17,What About The Men??!!!,,https://i.redd.it/rieaxv5tqfu41.jpg,2,[deleted],1587590064.0 -TheBluePill,g60ifr,"Quote from current pinned post: ""Here in this sanctuary for the mind and soul, everyone is advancing to the greatness they desire, those with ill will are helped to find the nearest exit and always something interesting, something heartwarming, something inspiring is said/happening""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/g5qap8/we_all_know_where_this_is_going/,8,[deleted],1587559758.0 -TheBluePill,g5ws6o,Modern Parenting Is Counter-Productive To Having Successful & Happy Offspring (I'm really mad at my mom :C),,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g5eohb/modern_parenting_is_counterproductive_to_having/,5,stonoceno,1587540710.0 -TheBluePill,g56pyt,"Check your privilege, femoids!",,https://i.redd.it/vzorhtuglzt41.jpg,370,FoeHamma,1587435780.0 -TheBluePill,g5iap3,"""Men seem to be scared off from searching ""incel"" because of the cucked media""",,http://archive.is/KkkR0,13,BrazilianSigma,1587486124.0 -TheBluePill,g5u1nu,female = bad,"females are bad their evil creatures the average female would have fucked up to 50 guys by the age of 25 . The weakness of a female is turthness and hard working loving men that do fine without them . The female cant comprehend how their pussy smell dosent put all men in a pussy trance . Meanwhile these same females hate these men and go for the men that are not nice. Females are a cancer to humanity , females are awful",,0,proudnofaper3459,1587527087.0 -TheBluePill,g5dohn,What to do when she talks too damn much: wear wireless earbuds and ignore her to her face,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g526cf/what_to_do_when_she_talks_too_damn_much/,9,stonoceno,1587469286.0 -TheBluePill,g4th97,Women only love their children because they have their most intense orgasm during childbirth (WHTM),,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/15/women-only-love-their-children-because-they-cum-so-hard-during-childbirth-internet-weirdo-proclaims/,194,stonoceno,1587391874.0 -TheBluePill,g538cx,"""As such, if a Chad breaks her jaw while he has forced sex with her, then it's ""just some rough foreplay, teehee"". But an ugly man looking at her from across the street is ""OMG, that creep is looking at me! I am literally being raped right now."" """,,http://archive.is/wtffc,26,BrazilianSigma,1587423012.0 -TheBluePill,g51995,"Dogpill squared: Incel wants to lose his virginity to man’s best friend, asks “are there even any breeds that are attractive?”",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/19/dogpill-squared-incel-wants-to-lose-his-virginity-to-mans-best-friend-asks-are-there-even-any-breeds-that-are-attractive/#more-104092,13,BrazilianSigma,1587416670.0 -TheBluePill,g4uwjz,"A grisly story about a black WWII vet being deliberately blinded by a white chief of police after his return, but let's focus on his wife, who left because she didn't want to be a caretaker and we know little about her",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g4rwwj/war_hero_returns_home_in_1946_gets_his_eyes/,15,stonoceno,1587396696.0 -TheBluePill,g4e8ri,"Sex work isn't real work because it can't repair a generator, the only true measure of work (WHTM)",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/18/mgtow-sex-work-doesnt-count-as-real-work-because-it-isnt-gonna-repair-a-generator/,206,stonoceno,1587326198.0 -TheBluePill,g43981,My favorite AITA takedown ever...Loser old dude moves into his 28yo gfs place and...,,https://np.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/g3mt16/aita_for_throwing_out_my_gfs_jars/,174,[deleted],1587279469.0 -TheBluePill,g45q2g,"Your own wife will accuse you of rape if it benefits her, and there are no better experts on understanding consent than TRP",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g3o075/your_own_wife_will_accuse_you_of_rape_if_it/,32,stonoceno,1587293259.0 -TheBluePill,g4eux2,MGTOW: Sex work doesn’t count as real work because it “isn’t gonna repair a generator”,,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/18/mgtow-sex-work-doesnt-count-as-real-work-because-it-isnt-gonna-repair-a-generator,4,BrazilianSigma,1587328339.0 -TheBluePill,g3t1c5,"""Women hate your face. Women hate and despise your bad jawline, bad eye area, small insufficient dick, short height, or even tall height if you are ugly. Women hate every part of your body""",,http://archive.is/1YSsU,149,BrazilianSigma,1587236847.0 -TheBluePill,g45qnj,"Women lie about loving intelligent men, MGTOW say",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/fui96y/women_lie_about_loving_intelligent_men/,8,stonoceno,1587293353.0 -TheBluePill,g3z0t8,""" Men missing out on their youth and teen love is never mentioned. All the focus is on stacies who once got molested in their childhood""",,http://archive.is/wip/JB5Rh,11,BrazilianSigma,1587259231.0 -TheBluePill,g34hcm,"""A woman hits puberty when she's 11 or 12, not 18. If she's old enough to bleed, she's old enough to breed""",,http://archive.vn/1WWyS,290,BrazilianSigma,1587138342.0 -TheBluePill,g3ai1h,"""The first thing that pops into man's head when he see's a young ageable female who is even remotely attractive, (subconsciously and/or consciously), is her naked and/or performing sex acts""",,http://archive.is/3HseM,38,BrazilianSigma,1587157518.0 -TheBluePill,g374vy,Thought this would be of use here,,https://i.redd.it/8f9tfxob4ft41.jpg,31,satorsatyr,1587146649.0 -TheBluePill,g3a3my,"""Unlike males who have mastered the art of warfare by developing weapons and combat strategies to achieve goals, females have mastered the art of warfare through language manipulation to achieve their goals""",,http://archive.vn/nShsv,20,BrazilianSigma,1587156212.0 -TheBluePill,g2s2g5,Women would rather fuck dogs and horses than incels,,https://i.redd.it/8u7nvqz3u3t41.png,189,Jenn_There_Done_That,1587085934.0 -TheBluePill,g2zpda,"TRP: Everything is sexual strategy, and that in no way is a narrow view nor is it actually depressing or weird",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g2opjc/everything_is_sexual_strategy/,21,stonoceno,1587120641.0 -TheBluePill,g2zl2b,"""Build status"" by planning to have friends, who apparently have nothing better to do, constantly interrupt your dates!",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g26tr6/build_status_by_running_the_gauntlet/,5,stonoceno,1587120058.0 -TheBluePill,g2a5sc,Why legalize prostitution? It would force mass behavior-modification in the Thot mass-whoring market!,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g24895/why_legalize_prostitution/,148,stonoceno,1587021242.0 -TheBluePill,g2a7zu,"Men love idealistically, and here are parables that prove that women only dream of men, and men dream of EVERYTHING",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g1uzbq/love_makes_a_fool_of_a_man_but_rarely_a_woman/,5,stonoceno,1587021534.0 -TheBluePill,g2a6oc,"The Unbearable Femininity of Nazism... not, you know, the whole pro-genocide thing",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g1vn1f/the_unbearable_femininity_of_nazism/,3,stonoceno,1587021357.0 -TheBluePill,g23uyo,MGTOW in a nutshell (anyone else remember this?!),,https://youtu.be/xfeys7Jfnx8,2,existencedeclined,1586994890.0 +----My final disturbia is reading articles written by marriage counselors that make it seem like a common reason for divorce is emotional neglect. The man ignores and won't talk to or spend time with his wife. This also makes me think men don't like women. I'm disturbed by that.",,15,[deleted],2020-04-29 18:03:15 +TheBluePill,g9n8bq,"""Don't block me. I love you"".",,https://i.redd.it/sadd8x1uzdv41.jpg,302,FoeHamma,2020-04-28 13:31:39 +TheBluePill,g9jhkn,"In which OP meets a human woman and she does human things, like have interests and conversation, and in which TRP dismisses it because women aren't interesting",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g92pze/an_atypical_date/,106,stonoceno,2020-04-28 08:35:13 +TheBluePill,g9xgs4,Scientists test whether giving men estrogen could help them survive coronavirus — and conspiracy theorists run wild,,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/28/scientists-test-whether-giving-men-estrogen-could-help-them-survive-coronavirus-and-conspiracy-theorists-run-wild/,8,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-28 22:45:19 +TheBluePill,g9n6oq,A celebrity famous for her good looks has a good looking boyfriend? This just isn't fair 😡,,https://i.redd.it/c2zms5st3jv41.jpg,30,FoeHamma,2020-04-28 13:28:44 +TheBluePill,g9jg20,"Why it's not ""morally"" wrong or hypocritical to sleep with many women yet expect the mother of your kids to not have slept with many men (does it have to do with object metaphors and not understanding biology? Yes.)",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g8owmw/why_its_not_morally_wrong_or_hypocritical_to/,69,stonoceno,2020-04-28 08:31:55 +TheBluePill,g8y41k,"UK: Calls to domestic abuse helpline jump by half in first three weeks of lockdown (what WOULD women do without men to protect them, and also, information for the Men's Advice Line, partially funded by Scottish Women’s Aid)",,https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-52433520,231,stonoceno,2020-04-27 10:15:38 +TheBluePill,g8zrm5,NuRsEs ArEn’t HeRoS,,https://i.redd.it/xvscmhkw58v41.jpg,55,FoeHamma,2020-04-27 12:28:18 +TheBluePill,g8g8ve,MGTOW: A Character Study,,https://i.redd.it/2fq1m47de4v41.png,211,FoeHamma,2020-04-26 15:29:12 +TheBluePill,g8eq90,"Incels on Spongebob: Is he ""one of us"" or a gay Jewry icon designed for homo buttsex propaganda?",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/24/incels-hail-spongebob-squarepants-as-one-of-their-own-eagerly-await-his-shooting-rampage-at-the-krusty-krab/#more-104145,172,stonoceno,2020-04-26 13:56:29 +TheBluePill,g8aufj,"NO ONE FUCKING BREAKS UP WITH ME (and if they do, I go hook up with strangers who sing Tori Amos to me while crying, and this is good)",,https://donotlink.it/Pn7Aq,45,stonoceno,2020-04-26 08:25:44 +TheBluePill,g8f9dq,"""When one of Bennington's victims demanded that he stop harassing her, he reportedly replied that he was going to kill her and her family""",,https://meaww.com/who-are-incels-online-community-toxicity-spilling-out-into-real-world-shooting-chad-stacy-becky-sex,2,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-26 14:30:48 +TheBluePill,g7ybn4,"""No one can be relied on to speak truthfully and candidly if under his true name connected to job that can be destroyed and face that can be beaten in. Statistics always lie. Anonymous anecdote is the most reliable source, and it is not all that reliable""",,http://archive.is/rddAF,75,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-25 18:15:14 +TheBluePill,g7ypp4,"""with social welfare, your contribution is barely anything because women can and WILL get money from the government""",,http://archive.is/HAChZ,13,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-25 18:36:37 +TheBluePill,g77uv7,Apparently women can’t feel guilt,,https://i.redd.it/a0fb977ajru41.jpg,243,PocoGoneLoco,2020-04-24 12:53:28 +TheBluePill,g7jofa,Former gay porn star now a 'men's rights activist' who claims he's 'being silenced' – despite starring in his own documentary,,https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2020/04/23/philipp-tanzer-logan-mccree-gay-porn-mens-rights-activist-scotland-chicago-bbc-stories/,16,[deleted],2020-04-25 00:05:42 +TheBluePill,g7c253,"""they don't need us to make babies because robots will produce the goods for them""",,http://archive.is/vukpi,37,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-24 17:01:23 +TheBluePill,g6wstb,“PATRIARCHY MEANS POWER! Fight the feminist disease.” ...They have gone full masks off,,https://i.redd.it/e1adesuvcnu41.jpg,360,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-04-23 22:50:27 +TheBluePill,g77mc2,Japanese mayor says men should grocery shop during pandemic as women 'take a longer time',,https://edition.cnn.com/2020/04/24/asia/japan-coronavirus-osaka-mayor-hnk-scli-intl/index.html,25,lemonkid12345,2020-04-24 12:36:46 +TheBluePill,g78q3r,"Daily Stormer on a ""bright new future"": ARYAN RAPE GANGS (WHTM)",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/20/the-daily-stormer-imagines-a-bright-new-postapocalyptic-future-ruled-over-by-aryan-rape-gangs/,12,stonoceno,2020-04-24 13:51:30 +TheBluePill,g78ept,Crafting the perfect marriage,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g77ixc/crafting_the_perfect_marriage/,12,stonoceno,2020-04-24 13:30:49 +TheBluePill,g6zhje,A new incel sub has appeared: “Female Girls; roast beef”,,https://i.redd.it/5e7znenn4ou41.jpg,27,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-04-24 01:36:52 +TheBluePill,g6y3zb,How Evangelical “Christians” thinks about women.,,https://i.redd.it/75iot6gqqnu41.jpg,18,[deleted],2020-04-24 00:08:04 +TheBluePill,g6l20w,Internet women will tell the truth about secret female behaviors,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g5xsnt/i_ironically_first_heard_about_monkey_branching/,60,stonoceno,2020-04-23 11:34:32 +TheBluePill,g6rhtv,This KILLS me.,,https://i.redd.it/plv6if9dxlu41.jpg,15,luluisabell,2020-04-23 18:01:41 +TheBluePill,g6w0pa,"R/Incels ""without hate"" making me seriously doubt the validity of their sub...",,https://np.reddit.com/r/IncelsWithoutHate/comments/g6oaap/the_internet_dating_revolution_and_its/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share,7,AidenMetallist,2020-04-23 22:05:41 +TheBluePill,g65sw0,Incels are being prosecuted for their online misogyny now. This does not bode well for their “movement”.,,https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/california-man-promoting-incel-ideology-charged-allegedly-threatening-teens-n1189206,349,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-04-22 17:51:18 +TheBluePill,g6q7i0,"""When I was looking up pictures of men with enopthalmos on google, I noticed that enopthalmos literally makes you look like a creepy toddler rapist""",,http://archive.is/8uNCr,5,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-23 16:52:12 +TheBluePill,g698oq,How dare you bring up the fact that women face sexual assault!,,https://i.redd.it/f8351g7bnfu41.jpg,13,[deleted],2020-04-22 20:56:04 +TheBluePill,g63oa5,"""if we didn't have the few dudes go ER and all the edgelords, we'd just be nothing but a small community that will fade away into nothing""",,http://archive.is/RT4fe,17,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-22 15:55:59 +TheBluePill,g64gpl,""" The normie brain seeks at all moments to conform to the herd and be accepted. They fear social rejection more than any Incel""",,http://archive.is/kQ2SD,6,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-22 16:39:18 +TheBluePill,g69l17,What About The Men??!!!,,https://i.redd.it/rieaxv5tqfu41.jpg,2,[deleted],2020-04-22 21:14:24 +TheBluePill,g60ifr,"Quote from current pinned post: ""Here in this sanctuary for the mind and soul, everyone is advancing to the greatness they desire, those with ill will are helped to find the nearest exit and always something interesting, something heartwarming, something inspiring is said/happening""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/g5qap8/we_all_know_where_this_is_going/,8,[deleted],2020-04-22 12:49:18 +TheBluePill,g5ws6o,Modern Parenting Is Counter-Productive To Having Successful & Happy Offspring (I'm really mad at my mom :C),,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g5eohb/modern_parenting_is_counterproductive_to_having/,5,stonoceno,2020-04-22 07:31:50 +TheBluePill,g56pyt,"Check your privilege, femoids!",,https://i.redd.it/vzorhtuglzt41.jpg,370,FoeHamma,2020-04-21 02:23:00 +TheBluePill,g5iap3,"""Men seem to be scared off from searching ""incel"" because of the cucked media""",,http://archive.is/KkkR0,13,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-21 16:22:04 +TheBluePill,g5u1nu,female = bad,"females are bad their evil creatures the average female would have fucked up to 50 guys by the age of 25 . The weakness of a female is turthness and hard working loving men that do fine without them . The female cant comprehend how their pussy smell dosent put all men in a pussy trance . Meanwhile these same females hate these men and go for the men that are not nice. Females are a cancer to humanity , females are awful",,0,proudnofaper3459,2020-04-22 03:44:47 +TheBluePill,g5dohn,What to do when she talks too damn much: wear wireless earbuds and ignore her to her face,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g526cf/what_to_do_when_she_talks_too_damn_much/,9,stonoceno,2020-04-21 11:41:26 +TheBluePill,g4th97,Women only love their children because they have their most intense orgasm during childbirth (WHTM),,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/15/women-only-love-their-children-because-they-cum-so-hard-during-childbirth-internet-weirdo-proclaims/,194,stonoceno,2020-04-20 14:11:14 +TheBluePill,g538cx,"""As such, if a Chad breaks her jaw while he has forced sex with her, then it's ""just some rough foreplay, teehee"". But an ugly man looking at her from across the street is ""OMG, that creep is looking at me! I am literally being raped right now."" """,,http://archive.is/wtffc,26,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-20 22:50:12 +TheBluePill,g51995,"Dogpill squared: Incel wants to lose his virginity to man’s best friend, asks “are there even any breeds that are attractive?”",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/19/dogpill-squared-incel-wants-to-lose-his-virginity-to-mans-best-friend-asks-are-there-even-any-breeds-that-are-attractive/#more-104092,13,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-20 21:04:30 +TheBluePill,g4uwjz,"A grisly story about a black WWII vet being deliberately blinded by a white chief of police after his return, but let's focus on his wife, who left because she didn't want to be a caretaker and we know little about her",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g4rwwj/war_hero_returns_home_in_1946_gets_his_eyes/,15,stonoceno,2020-04-20 15:31:36 +TheBluePill,g4e8ri,"Sex work isn't real work because it can't repair a generator, the only true measure of work (WHTM)",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/18/mgtow-sex-work-doesnt-count-as-real-work-because-it-isnt-gonna-repair-a-generator/,206,stonoceno,2020-04-19 19:56:38 +TheBluePill,g43981,My favorite AITA takedown ever...Loser old dude moves into his 28yo gfs place and...,,https://np.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/g3mt16/aita_for_throwing_out_my_gfs_jars/,174,[deleted],2020-04-19 06:57:49 +TheBluePill,g45q2g,"Your own wife will accuse you of rape if it benefits her, and there are no better experts on understanding consent than TRP",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g3o075/your_own_wife_will_accuse_you_of_rape_if_it/,32,stonoceno,2020-04-19 10:47:39 +TheBluePill,g4eux2,MGTOW: Sex work doesn’t count as real work because it “isn’t gonna repair a generator”,,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/18/mgtow-sex-work-doesnt-count-as-real-work-because-it-isnt-gonna-repair-a-generator,4,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-19 20:32:19 +TheBluePill,g3t1c5,"""Women hate your face. Women hate and despise your bad jawline, bad eye area, small insufficient dick, short height, or even tall height if you are ugly. Women hate every part of your body""",,http://archive.is/1YSsU,149,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-18 19:07:27 +TheBluePill,g45qnj,"Women lie about loving intelligent men, MGTOW say",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/fui96y/women_lie_about_loving_intelligent_men/,8,stonoceno,2020-04-19 10:49:13 +TheBluePill,g3z0t8,""" Men missing out on their youth and teen love is never mentioned. All the focus is on stacies who once got molested in their childhood""",,http://archive.is/wip/JB5Rh,11,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-19 01:20:31 +TheBluePill,g34hcm,"""A woman hits puberty when she's 11 or 12, not 18. If she's old enough to bleed, she's old enough to breed""",,http://archive.vn/1WWyS,290,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-17 15:45:42 +TheBluePill,g3ai1h,"""The first thing that pops into man's head when he see's a young ageable female who is even remotely attractive, (subconsciously and/or consciously), is her naked and/or performing sex acts""",,http://archive.is/3HseM,38,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-17 21:05:18 +TheBluePill,g374vy,Thought this would be of use here,,https://i.redd.it/8f9tfxob4ft41.jpg,31,satorsatyr,2020-04-17 18:04:09 +TheBluePill,g3a3my,"""Unlike males who have mastered the art of warfare by developing weapons and combat strategies to achieve goals, females have mastered the art of warfare through language manipulation to achieve their goals""",,http://archive.vn/nShsv,20,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-17 20:43:32 +TheBluePill,g2s2g5,Women would rather fuck dogs and horses than incels,,https://i.redd.it/8u7nvqz3u3t41.png,189,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-04-17 01:12:14 +TheBluePill,g2zpda,"TRP: Everything is sexual strategy, and that in no way is a narrow view nor is it actually depressing or weird",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g2opjc/everything_is_sexual_strategy/,21,stonoceno,2020-04-17 10:50:41 +TheBluePill,g2zl2b,"""Build status"" by planning to have friends, who apparently have nothing better to do, constantly interrupt your dates!",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g26tr6/build_status_by_running_the_gauntlet/,5,stonoceno,2020-04-17 10:40:58 +TheBluePill,g2a5sc,Why legalize prostitution? It would force mass behavior-modification in the Thot mass-whoring market!,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g24895/why_legalize_prostitution/,148,stonoceno,2020-04-16 07:14:02 +TheBluePill,g2a7zu,"Men love idealistically, and here are parables that prove that women only dream of men, and men dream of EVERYTHING",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g1uzbq/love_makes_a_fool_of_a_man_but_rarely_a_woman/,5,stonoceno,2020-04-16 07:18:54 +TheBluePill,g2a6oc,"The Unbearable Femininity of Nazism... not, you know, the whole pro-genocide thing",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/g1vn1f/the_unbearable_femininity_of_nazism/,3,stonoceno,2020-04-16 07:15:57 +TheBluePill,g23uyo,MGTOW in a nutshell (anyone else remember this?!),,https://youtu.be/xfeys7Jfnx8,2,existencedeclined,2020-04-15 23:54:50 TheBluePill,g1k43y,"MGTOW ideals seem to have reached Latin America, and they seem to be growing.","&#x200B; -[A Facebook page called Monje MGTOW is spreading your usual MGTOW content, which claims to help men when in fact it is only doing more harm to them.](https://preview.redd.it/gkj94o4ohws41.png?width=645&format=png&auto=webp&s=d4a080a86a05c2a7099695e6a9d200ac0766babc)",,127,ABlokeCalledGeorge8,1586921207.0 -TheBluePill,g1bpw6,"Classic: ""when women are allowed to choose, harems form""",,http://archive.vn/mkwHV,143,BrazilianSigma,1586891327.0 -TheBluePill,g0uq42,"Fellas, is it gay? The definitive list of things that may or may not make you homosexual",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/13/fellas-is-it-gay-the-definitive-list-of-things-that-may-or-may-not-make-you-homosexual/,120,BrazilianSigma,1586822338.0 -TheBluePill,g0kljb,Modern women don't respect you because you respect them and they know they don't deserve respect,,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/g0daxf/modern_women_cant_respect_you_for_dating_them/,166,stonoceno,1586790116.0 -TheBluePill,g0kmez,"28 is my cutoff age because this woman posted about saying ""no"" to sexual things she doesn't like",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/g0btop/why_28_is_the_cut_off_for_the_women_i_date/,41,stonoceno,1586790196.0 -TheBluePill,g0p6mv,"""Women also cause ugly men to feel lonely and a lot of them commit suicide and in the worst case, go ER""",,http://archive.vn/jFv0V,5,BrazilianSigma,1586804082.0 -TheBluePill,g04n4o,"MGTOW notices women are nice to him in public during the global pandemic. States that this is only because females need a man to provide resources. Top comment says men should only “fuck prostitutes”, second to top comment blames women being nice on “the social cancer that is feminism”.",,/r/MGTOW2/comments/fwt0yx/the_pandemic_and_female_behavior/,197,Jenn_There_Done_That,1586725020.0 -TheBluePill,g03f6i,The Joy of MGTOW Cooking (WHTM),,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/10/the-joy-of-mgtow-cooking-pancakes-and-hot-dogs-edition/#more-104027,109,stonoceno,1586720980.0 -TheBluePill,g014z7,"When in doubt, check the r/niceguys comment section",,https://imgur.com/gallery/pSBE9ca,9,zacharyhoovery,1586713356.0 -TheBluePill,fz61ya,It's not possible for women to be friends. No woman has friends. Only competition.,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fy067b/why_are_women_so_arrogant_towards_other_women/,59,stonoceno,1586614321.0 -TheBluePill,fyv2iv,"""Standards for me, but not for thee""",,https://i.redd.it/bu0bitbptvr41.jpg,284,FoeHamma,1586573635.0 -TheBluePill,fz5zk2,"The very real story of Lizzy, and the bad choices she makes that represent all women everywhere",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fxuf8t/the_problem_with_female_promiscuity_the_sad_story/,8,stonoceno,1586614106.0 -TheBluePill,fydgoz,"Research : ""Women with tattoos reported greater willingness to engage in uncommitted sexual relations."" lol needles = penis",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fyaawm/research_women_with_tattoos_reported_greater/,183,stonoceno,1586514601.0 +[A Facebook page called Monje MGTOW is spreading your usual MGTOW content, which claims to help men when in fact it is only doing more harm to them.](https://preview.redd.it/gkj94o4ohws41.png?width=645&format=png&auto=webp&s=d4a080a86a05c2a7099695e6a9d200ac0766babc)",,127,ABlokeCalledGeorge8,2020-04-15 03:26:47 +TheBluePill,g1bpw6,"Classic: ""when women are allowed to choose, harems form""",,http://archive.vn/mkwHV,143,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-14 19:08:47 +TheBluePill,g0uq42,"Fellas, is it gay? The definitive list of things that may or may not make you homosexual",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/13/fellas-is-it-gay-the-definitive-list-of-things-that-may-or-may-not-make-you-homosexual/,120,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-13 23:58:58 +TheBluePill,g0kljb,Modern women don't respect you because you respect them and they know they don't deserve respect,,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/g0daxf/modern_women_cant_respect_you_for_dating_them/,166,stonoceno,2020-04-13 15:01:56 +TheBluePill,g0kmez,"28 is my cutoff age because this woman posted about saying ""no"" to sexual things she doesn't like",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/g0btop/why_28_is_the_cut_off_for_the_women_i_date/,41,stonoceno,2020-04-13 15:03:16 +TheBluePill,g0p6mv,"""Women also cause ugly men to feel lonely and a lot of them commit suicide and in the worst case, go ER""",,http://archive.vn/jFv0V,5,BrazilianSigma,2020-04-13 18:54:42 +TheBluePill,g04n4o,"MGTOW notices women are nice to him in public during the global pandemic. States that this is only because females need a man to provide resources. Top comment says men should only “fuck prostitutes”, second to top comment blames women being nice on “the social cancer that is feminism”.",,/r/MGTOW2/comments/fwt0yx/the_pandemic_and_female_behavior/,197,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-04-12 20:57:00 +TheBluePill,g03f6i,The Joy of MGTOW Cooking (WHTM),,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/04/10/the-joy-of-mgtow-cooking-pancakes-and-hot-dogs-edition/#more-104027,109,stonoceno,2020-04-12 19:49:40 +TheBluePill,g014z7,"When in doubt, check the r/niceguys comment section",,https://imgur.com/gallery/pSBE9ca,9,zacharyhoovery,2020-04-12 17:42:36 +TheBluePill,fz61ya,It's not possible for women to be friends. No woman has friends. Only competition.,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fy067b/why_are_women_so_arrogant_towards_other_women/,59,stonoceno,2020-04-11 14:12:01 +TheBluePill,fyv2iv,"""Standards for me, but not for thee""",,https://i.redd.it/bu0bitbptvr41.jpg,284,FoeHamma,2020-04-11 02:53:55 +TheBluePill,fz5zk2,"The very real story of Lizzy, and the bad choices she makes that represent all women everywhere",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fxuf8t/the_problem_with_female_promiscuity_the_sad_story/,8,stonoceno,2020-04-11 14:08:26 +TheBluePill,fydgoz,"Research : ""Women with tattoos reported greater willingness to engage in uncommitted sexual relations."" lol needles = penis",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fyaawm/research_women_with_tattoos_reported_greater/,183,stonoceno,2020-04-10 10:30:01 TheBluePill,fyj7ta,IncelTears seems to have been set to private. Does anyone know why?,"r/IncelTears seems to have been set to private. In their description it just says: That’s it. We’re done. -Does anyone know what’s going on?",,8,Jenn_There_Done_That,1586536482.0 -TheBluePill,fxosft,"TRP: Stop blaming women - ""This is a mans world. Whatever praise or blame you have for it, place it on men.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fxmjot/stop_blaming_women/,157,stonoceno,1586421303.0 -TheBluePill,fxot3e,How to stay in contact with people you don't care about: Remember that they can do you favors!,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fxmv1o/how_to_keep_in_touch_with_people_you_dont_care/,16,stonoceno,1586421395.0 -TheBluePill,fx9opd,Why do men go to prison? According to MRAs it’s feminists fault.,,https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/eh7mne/twotiered_justice_system_in_the_uk_men_are_sent/,154,[deleted],1586363578.0 -TheBluePill,fx2e19,"""As a man, you should not need others"" - the kind of emotional isolation that is criticized of TRP",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fx0qk6/as_a_man_you_should_not_need_others/,140,stonoceno,1586332868.0 -TheBluePill,fwj7hb,Muh political agendas!,,https://i.redd.it/19cgnwouaar41.png,322,FoeHamma,1586260414.0 -TheBluePill,fwxc4l,Is anyone familiar with this particular subreddit?,,https://www.reddit.com/r/FeminismStopsWhen/comments/fwt5pv/fsw_when_the_woman_who_started_metoo_changes_her/,13,[deleted],1586310170.0 +Does anyone know what’s going on?",,8,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-04-10 16:34:42 +TheBluePill,fxosft,"TRP: Stop blaming women - ""This is a mans world. Whatever praise or blame you have for it, place it on men.""",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fxmjot/stop_blaming_women/,157,stonoceno,2020-04-09 08:35:03 +TheBluePill,fxot3e,How to stay in contact with people you don't care about: Remember that they can do you favors!,,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fxmv1o/how_to_keep_in_touch_with_people_you_dont_care/,16,stonoceno,2020-04-09 08:36:35 +TheBluePill,fx9opd,Why do men go to prison? According to MRAs it’s feminists fault.,,https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/eh7mne/twotiered_justice_system_in_the_uk_men_are_sent/,154,[deleted],2020-04-08 16:32:58 +TheBluePill,fx2e19,"""As a man, you should not need others"" - the kind of emotional isolation that is criticized of TRP",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fx0qk6/as_a_man_you_should_not_need_others/,140,stonoceno,2020-04-08 08:01:08 +TheBluePill,fwj7hb,Muh political agendas!,,https://i.redd.it/19cgnwouaar41.png,322,FoeHamma,2020-04-07 11:53:34 +TheBluePill,fwxc4l,Is anyone familiar with this particular subreddit?,,https://www.reddit.com/r/FeminismStopsWhen/comments/fwt5pv/fsw_when_the_woman_who_started_metoo_changes_her/,13,[deleted],2020-04-08 01:42:50 TheBluePill,fwpbvu,MGTOW Scum defending Chris Watts (the Colorado guy who murdered his pregnant wife and two kids),"Post was from last year but still induces visceral disgust. Users in r/MGTOW defending Chris Watts. I remember back when the story broke it was a huge shock for the family and the community they family lived in. It's sickening that they have the audacity to sympathize with a man who murdered his kids. Regardless of the marital issues that were taking place, this is inexcusable. -r/MGTOW post: http://imgur.com/gallery/OJQhrJ4",,40,BajaBlast90,1586282711.0 -TheBluePill,fwmopz,Oh lord this MRA channel.,,https://youtube.com/channel/UCpWtKTWRba8nSd8nX6h2z7Q/featured,10,[deleted],1586274140.0 -TheBluePill,fwkk37,"Red Pill Lord Debate (""you have breedable features"")",,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-W2JUXSw_iM,6,BreadTubeForever,1586266324.0 -TheBluePill,fvydev,"Amish girls don't twerk, eat hot chip & lie...",,https://imgur.com/ZjAuzFk,521,FoeHamma,1586178262.0 -TheBluePill,fwabha,"""Misogyny does not exist. : LeftWingMaleAdvocates"" .... oh joy",,http://archive.fo/0rhny,13,[deleted],1586218815.0 -TheBluePill,fvy7j6,"Ironic, since there's a lot of overlap between incels and anti-semites...",,https://i.redd.it/ni6xogmvi6r41.jpg,58,FoeHamma,1586177593.0 -TheBluePill,fvucbq,"Men love emotionally, women love sexually",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fvoz97/men_love_emotionally_women_love_sexually/,50,stonoceno,1586158213.0 -TheBluePill,fvzavs,The Rise of the Dogpill,,https://medium.com/@vaushvidya/the-rise-of-the-dogpill-465e3b11cd61,10,nedolya,1586181844.0 -TheBluePill,fvfwr2,"RPW describe the value their husbands bring to their lives, and it's sweet. I have never seen the same type of post on MRP.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/fusven/what_value_does_your_man_bring_to_your_life/,121,stonoceno,1586101996.0 -TheBluePill,fv555y,Stefan Molyneux Speaks At A Literal Incel Convention,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ovoWp-ih3yU,158,FoeHamma,1586048936.0 -TheBluePill,fv5dwy,I think I actually invented crying incel dude in 6th grade...,,https://imgur.com/P267YSv,53,[deleted],1586049936.0 -TheBluePill,fv9tx5,"A wall of words to say that women are bad at everything, except liking babies, because they are babies, and there's nothing creepy about what that implies, no sir",,https://np.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/fu3k1v/have_you_swallowed_the_red_chewable_tablet/,14,stonoceno,1586071181.0 -TheBluePill,fvbkgr,Male-Female Dynamics in Church - RPChristians,,https://np.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/fnuozy/malefemale_dynamics_in_church/,6,stonoceno,1586081458.0 -TheBluePill,fuv2m3,"Girl does cocaine, so AWALT, also, maybe our posts in TRP are confirmation bias that women act like this because we specifically choose really young women who are trying everything for the first time? No, probably AWALT",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fu5aly/female_solipsism_at_its_finest_example/,72,stonoceno,1586012328.0 -TheBluePill,fukhax,SJWs ruined Resident Evil 3!,,https://i.redd.it/wqhuyxvg5mq41.jpg,457,FoeHamma,1585962247.0 -TheBluePill,fuv1bx,"There's a pandemic, but really, how will this affect your standing as a man with your texts????",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ftmh9i/how_covid19_will_break_all_your_plates_and_more/,19,stonoceno,1586012187.0 -TheBluePill,fukifv,"SJWs ruined Resident Evil 3, PART 2!",,https://i.redd.it/pyfux1bcjjq41.png,22,FoeHamma,1585962378.0 -TheBluePill,fu4mfg,"TRP suddenly approves of something in Malaysia, a country where about 60 percent of people are Muslim",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ftpth8/malaysias_got_your_back_fam/,112,stonoceno,1585902574.0 -TheBluePill,fu7osr,"""Incels, Feminists, and the Mentality of Abusers"" oh God LWMA are implying that Feminism help enable abusers.... on now their getting into a debate about gamergate in comments....",,http://archive.fo/ciJ1U,9,[deleted],1585917530.0 -TheBluePill,fu4n1p,WOMEN WILL TRY TO MAKE YOU FAT AND THEN HATE YOU,,http://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ftmmfy/ltrs_and_the_food_trap/,10,stonoceno,1585902670.0 -TheBluePill,ftklr6,"Best of RP: Beware of Beta Bait (if she doesn't immediately fawn over your manliness, it was a test)",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ftg1jn/beware_of_beta_bait/,88,stonoceno,1585826304.0 -TheBluePill,ft2f8c,"The fine gentlemen of WhereAreAllTheGoodMen discuss women turning to online sex work during quarantine, “I hope they all get the rope.” The comments are just as bad.",,https://i.redd.it/d1if0lxdc5q41.jpg,263,Jenn_There_Done_That,1585756666.0 -TheBluePill,ftag9p,"""Personally I prefer how easy it is to manipulate and control younger partners."" Oops, RPer lost his filter!",,https://np.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/ft81bl/how_to_explain_to_parents_why_i_prefer_to_date/,75,[deleted],1585781121.0 +r/MGTOW post: http://imgur.com/gallery/OJQhrJ4",,40,BajaBlast90,2020-04-07 18:05:11 +TheBluePill,fwmopz,Oh lord this MRA channel.,,https://youtube.com/channel/UCpWtKTWRba8nSd8nX6h2z7Q/featured,10,[deleted],2020-04-07 15:42:20 +TheBluePill,fwkk37,"Red Pill Lord Debate (""you have breedable features"")",,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-W2JUXSw_iM,6,BreadTubeForever,2020-04-07 13:32:04 +TheBluePill,fvydev,"Amish girls don't twerk, eat hot chip & lie...",,https://imgur.com/ZjAuzFk,521,FoeHamma,2020-04-06 13:04:22 +TheBluePill,fwabha,"""Misogyny does not exist. : LeftWingMaleAdvocates"" .... oh joy",,http://archive.fo/0rhny,13,[deleted],2020-04-07 00:20:15 +TheBluePill,fvy7j6,"Ironic, since there's a lot of overlap between incels and anti-semites...",,https://i.redd.it/ni6xogmvi6r41.jpg,58,FoeHamma,2020-04-06 12:53:13 +TheBluePill,fvucbq,"Men love emotionally, women love sexually",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fvoz97/men_love_emotionally_women_love_sexually/,50,stonoceno,2020-04-06 07:30:13 +TheBluePill,fvzavs,The Rise of the Dogpill,,https://medium.com/@vaushvidya/the-rise-of-the-dogpill-465e3b11cd61,10,nedolya,2020-04-06 14:04:04 +TheBluePill,fvfwr2,"RPW describe the value their husbands bring to their lives, and it's sweet. I have never seen the same type of post on MRP.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/fusven/what_value_does_your_man_bring_to_your_life/,121,stonoceno,2020-04-05 15:53:16 +TheBluePill,fv555y,Stefan Molyneux Speaks At A Literal Incel Convention,,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ovoWp-ih3yU,158,FoeHamma,2020-04-05 01:08:56 +TheBluePill,fv5dwy,I think I actually invented crying incel dude in 6th grade...,,https://imgur.com/P267YSv,53,[deleted],2020-04-05 01:25:36 +TheBluePill,fv9tx5,"A wall of words to say that women are bad at everything, except liking babies, because they are babies, and there's nothing creepy about what that implies, no sir",,https://np.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/fu3k1v/have_you_swallowed_the_red_chewable_tablet/,14,stonoceno,2020-04-05 07:19:41 +TheBluePill,fvbkgr,Male-Female Dynamics in Church - RPChristians,,https://np.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/fnuozy/malefemale_dynamics_in_church/,6,stonoceno,2020-04-05 10:10:58 +TheBluePill,fuv2m3,"Girl does cocaine, so AWALT, also, maybe our posts in TRP are confirmation bias that women act like this because we specifically choose really young women who are trying everything for the first time? No, probably AWALT",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fu5aly/female_solipsism_at_its_finest_example/,72,stonoceno,2020-04-04 14:58:48 +TheBluePill,fukhax,SJWs ruined Resident Evil 3!,,https://i.redd.it/wqhuyxvg5mq41.jpg,457,FoeHamma,2020-04-04 01:04:07 +TheBluePill,fuv1bx,"There's a pandemic, but really, how will this affect your standing as a man with your texts????",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ftmh9i/how_covid19_will_break_all_your_plates_and_more/,19,stonoceno,2020-04-04 14:56:27 +TheBluePill,fukifv,"SJWs ruined Resident Evil 3, PART 2!",,https://i.redd.it/pyfux1bcjjq41.png,22,FoeHamma,2020-04-04 01:06:18 +TheBluePill,fu4mfg,"TRP suddenly approves of something in Malaysia, a country where about 60 percent of people are Muslim",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ftpth8/malaysias_got_your_back_fam/,112,stonoceno,2020-04-03 08:29:34 +TheBluePill,fu7osr,"""Incels, Feminists, and the Mentality of Abusers"" oh God LWMA are implying that Feminism help enable abusers.... on now their getting into a debate about gamergate in comments....",,http://archive.fo/ciJ1U,9,[deleted],2020-04-03 12:38:50 +TheBluePill,fu4n1p,WOMEN WILL TRY TO MAKE YOU FAT AND THEN HATE YOU,,http://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ftmmfy/ltrs_and_the_food_trap/,10,stonoceno,2020-04-03 08:31:10 +TheBluePill,ftklr6,"Best of RP: Beware of Beta Bait (if she doesn't immediately fawn over your manliness, it was a test)",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ftg1jn/beware_of_beta_bait/,88,stonoceno,2020-04-02 11:18:24 +TheBluePill,ft2f8c,"The fine gentlemen of WhereAreAllTheGoodMen discuss women turning to online sex work during quarantine, “I hope they all get the rope.” The comments are just as bad.",,https://i.redd.it/d1if0lxdc5q41.jpg,263,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-04-01 15:57:46 +TheBluePill,ftag9p,"""Personally I prefer how easy it is to manipulate and control younger partners."" Oops, RPer lost his filter!",,https://np.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/ft81bl/how_to_explain_to_parents_why_i_prefer_to_date/,75,[deleted],2020-04-01 22:45:21 TheBluePill,fticms,TRP poorly supported theories promote dangerous political narratives CMV," TRP directly and indirectly promotes dangerous and reactionary political narratives. The final conclusion of TRP is usually not that ""people should do whatever they want in life"", it is that women (and to a lesser degree men) should be controlled for the good of ""western civilization"". Here are some examples of some popular Red Pill theories and how they lead to neoreactionaryism or even fascism: @@ -47324,10 +47324,10 @@ This is the final conclusion of TRP. Keep in mind that these theories are poorly People need to be more aware of TRP to alt-right pipeline! -Note: This post was deleted from PPD because apparently the mods there don't allow ""political rants"" even if they're there to challenge RP theory.",,12,[deleted],1585814325.0 -TheBluePill,ftkptf,"Terpr: The App, and peak manly humor",,http://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ft6572/terpr_the_official_app_of_trp_docile_subservient/,4,stonoceno,1585826886.0 +Note: This post was deleted from PPD because apparently the mods there don't allow ""political rants"" even if they're there to challenge RP theory.",,12,[deleted],2020-04-02 07:58:45 +TheBluePill,ftkptf,"Terpr: The App, and peak manly humor",,http://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/ft6572/terpr_the_official_app_of_trp_docile_subservient/,4,stonoceno,2020-04-02 11:28:06 TheBluePill,ft6llz,Red pill teen here,"Why do men of the blue pill hate the red pill? -( and like the blue pill so much?",,1,cameronthenofapper,1585768612.0 +( and like the blue pill so much?",,1,cameronthenofapper,2020-04-01 19:16:52 TheBluePill,fscfrx,How do women get brainwashed by TRP?,"Really curious to hear your thoughts on this one since I'm really confused/horrified. Or maybe you can refer me to another thread talking about this... Essentially, I (F) found out that a girl I was friends with in high school has done a complete 180 and is now a right wing homemaker. Before, when I knew her, she was a feminist, opinionated, liberal, career oriented, very sweet, wanted to be lawyer and was openly bisexual. She bravely dated both men and women in high school despite all the bullying. Our friend group really admired her. But then she went to a college out of state and we never heard from her again. I'll admit that I was kind of into her and upset that she didn't stay in touch, she was definitely on of the prettiest girls at our high school. @@ -47336,14 +47336,14 @@ Another friend we had in high school ran into her at pre-Corona mall and now we Apparently she works part-time at a wedding dress boutique and does freelancing for religious magazines. She's also most likely now in the closet. -TLDR: How do woke, intelligent women get brainwashed by TRP and then completely change so drastically? Help me get it.",,271,ellieglitter55,1585659432.0 -TheBluePill,fsglhi,MGTOW on why women don't mature mentally past 18,,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/fs9yz3/women_dont_mature/,11,stonoceno,1585673967.0 -TheBluePill,fshej7,Feminism has all but crumbled in a matter of weeks,,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/fs7smk/a_movement_for_spoiled_entitled_girls/,9,stonoceno,1585676509.0 -TheBluePill,frrvt4,"What incels need to hear, but what they don't want to hear",,https://i.imgur.com/iiYY6UD.jpg,650,FoeHamma,1585578882.0 -TheBluePill,fs3sss,A new incel ban evasion sub,,https://i.redd.it/5bov4cb1qvp41.jpg,28,Jenn_There_Done_That,1585618376.0 -TheBluePill,frnis2,"TRP Classics: Why you shouldn't explain female nature to women (and it's not because you're a dingus and ""female nature"" is not a thing)",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fozubg/why_you_shouldnt_explain_female_nature_to_women/,90,stonoceno,1585559870.0 -TheBluePill,frnk87,"A letter to women from Men about how men are the masters of time and women are the masters of space and men are just cooler, you guys",,http://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fpdfur/femininity_is_trust_humility_and_submission_aka/fln7kgf/,25,stonoceno,1585560107.0 -TheBluePill,fr678t,"The classic ""All girls are bitches/Why don't girls like me?"" dichotomy",,/r/justneckbeardthings/comments/fqp2k3/is_it_okay_for_a_guy_to_become_an_incel/,181,FoeHamma,1585490027.0 +TLDR: How do woke, intelligent women get brainwashed by TRP and then completely change so drastically? Help me get it.",,271,ellieglitter55,2020-03-31 12:57:12 +TheBluePill,fsglhi,MGTOW on why women don't mature mentally past 18,,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/fs9yz3/women_dont_mature/,11,stonoceno,2020-03-31 16:59:27 +TheBluePill,fshej7,Feminism has all but crumbled in a matter of weeks,,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/fs7smk/a_movement_for_spoiled_entitled_girls/,9,stonoceno,2020-03-31 17:41:49 +TheBluePill,frrvt4,"What incels need to hear, but what they don't want to hear",,https://i.imgur.com/iiYY6UD.jpg,650,FoeHamma,2020-03-30 14:34:42 +TheBluePill,fs3sss,A new incel ban evasion sub,,https://i.redd.it/5bov4cb1qvp41.jpg,28,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-03-31 01:32:56 +TheBluePill,frnis2,"TRP Classics: Why you shouldn't explain female nature to women (and it's not because you're a dingus and ""female nature"" is not a thing)",,https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fozubg/why_you_shouldnt_explain_female_nature_to_women/,90,stonoceno,2020-03-30 09:17:50 +TheBluePill,frnk87,"A letter to women from Men about how men are the masters of time and women are the masters of space and men are just cooler, you guys",,http://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/fpdfur/femininity_is_trust_humility_and_submission_aka/fln7kgf/,25,stonoceno,2020-03-30 09:21:47 +TheBluePill,fr678t,"The classic ""All girls are bitches/Why don't girls like me?"" dichotomy",,/r/justneckbeardthings/comments/fqp2k3/is_it_okay_for_a_guy_to_become_an_incel/,181,FoeHamma,2020-03-29 13:53:47 TheBluePill,fr8cv8,TRP would never tell their mothers,"So I'll start off by saying that I'm not exactly new to this concept of a *glorious* self-seeking lifestyle. It's been about a good year or two since I found a YouTube comment that peaked my curiosity enough for me to fall down the rabbit hole, resulting in my discovery of the Incel/MGTOW/RedPill/whatever you want to call it, community. Ever since then, I've spent many hours observing and reading countless MGTOW threads and posts out of boredom. How much must a man endure and put up with before he *comes to his senses* and sees women for what they truly are? Do the majority of TRP actually believe and commit to this *enlightened* lifestyle? Is it mostly locker room talk and satire? Who knows. Fortunately for me however, I grew up with enough common sense to realize that you shouldn't antagonize half of the population based on past experiences for a false sense of worth and superiority. @@ -47359,34 +47359,34 @@ But prove me wrong if you dare. I know that TRP members scrutinize this board al Show me that you're confident enough in the Red Pill ideology to be able to read it out straight to her face, *with video footage for proof, also bonus points for your grandmother*. Prove to me that you won't cease to be a **real** Red Pill'er once you leave the safety of your computer screen to help your mommy outside with the groceries. You talk about it all the time with your internet buddies right? Let's see how she feels. -Well that was a fun write up. I can't wait to see that never happen because they're too pussy to do it, but anything is worth waiting for a good laugh. Thanks Pumpkins",,33,Paiphu,1585498588.0 -TheBluePill,fr7ptj,"Why should I have any respect for people in porn? Also, I'm gonna consume a lot of it, and for free.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/fqzoji/nobody_deserves_respect_without_earning_it/,38,stonoceno,1585496210.0 -TheBluePill,fr7lxh,"MGTOW not understanding emotional labor, which is shocking and out of character",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/fqtkou/woman_complains_about_how_mentally_tiring_it_is/,35,stonoceno,1585495790.0 -TheBluePill,fr7o0v,"""Keep dishing it back to women on dating apps, they need to know how obnoxious they are and get called out for it."" - she literally just listed her job.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/fqutlf/jennifer_34_quality_inspector_at_boeing/,28,stonoceno,1585496009.0 -TheBluePill,fqkksj,"Incels: ""Coronavirus deployed by evil sluts, hellbent on incel murder, and I guess we now think murder is bad JUST KIDDING it's good for sluts but not us""",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/03/26/incel-evil-sluts-are-murdering-us-by-spreading-the-virus-and-they-think-its-a-joke/,243,stonoceno,1585403625.0 -TheBluePill,fqn86b,"Nazis only have sex in one position, because it's natural, and also, how dare you gain any pleasure from it",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/03/27/why-you-shouldnt-have-sex-with-a-nazi-according-to-a-nazi/,15,stonoceno,1585412501.0 -TheBluePill,fq17qq,"MGTOW: Women need to be controlled, we are boring and terrible, ad nauseum",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/fp01qi/women_need_to_be_controlled/,172,stonoceno,1585329917.0 -TheBluePill,fqam3p,How will Redpillers react to most Health professionals being women?,,,34,[deleted],1585359079.0 -TheBluePill,fpiuo5,"As world struggles to stop deaths, far right celebrates COVID-19",,https://www.aljazeera.com/indepth/features/world-struggles-stop-deaths-celebrates-covid-19-200326165545387.html,158,stonoceno,1585254040.0 -TheBluePill,fpbxt3,MGTOW: Why MGTOW still talks about women instead of going their own way.,,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/fp4myx/why_mgtow_still_talks_about_women_instead_of_just/,241,stonoceno,1585231128.0 +Well that was a fun write up. I can't wait to see that never happen because they're too pussy to do it, but anything is worth waiting for a good laugh. Thanks Pumpkins",,33,Paiphu,2020-03-29 16:16:28 +TheBluePill,fr7ptj,"Why should I have any respect for people in porn? Also, I'm gonna consume a lot of it, and for free.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/fqzoji/nobody_deserves_respect_without_earning_it/,38,stonoceno,2020-03-29 15:36:50 +TheBluePill,fr7lxh,"MGTOW not understanding emotional labor, which is shocking and out of character",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/fqtkou/woman_complains_about_how_mentally_tiring_it_is/,35,stonoceno,2020-03-29 15:29:50 +TheBluePill,fr7o0v,"""Keep dishing it back to women on dating apps, they need to know how obnoxious they are and get called out for it."" - she literally just listed her job.",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/fqutlf/jennifer_34_quality_inspector_at_boeing/,28,stonoceno,2020-03-29 15:33:29 +TheBluePill,fqkksj,"Incels: ""Coronavirus deployed by evil sluts, hellbent on incel murder, and I guess we now think murder is bad JUST KIDDING it's good for sluts but not us""",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/03/26/incel-evil-sluts-are-murdering-us-by-spreading-the-virus-and-they-think-its-a-joke/,243,stonoceno,2020-03-28 13:53:45 +TheBluePill,fqn86b,"Nazis only have sex in one position, because it's natural, and also, how dare you gain any pleasure from it",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/03/27/why-you-shouldnt-have-sex-with-a-nazi-according-to-a-nazi/,15,stonoceno,2020-03-28 16:21:41 +TheBluePill,fq17qq,"MGTOW: Women need to be controlled, we are boring and terrible, ad nauseum",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/fp01qi/women_need_to_be_controlled/,172,stonoceno,2020-03-27 17:25:17 +TheBluePill,fqam3p,How will Redpillers react to most Health professionals being women?,,,34,[deleted],2020-03-28 01:31:19 +TheBluePill,fpiuo5,"As world struggles to stop deaths, far right celebrates COVID-19",,https://www.aljazeera.com/indepth/features/world-struggles-stop-deaths-celebrates-covid-19-200326165545387.html,158,stonoceno,2020-03-26 20:20:40 +TheBluePill,fpbxt3,MGTOW: Why MGTOW still talks about women instead of going their own way.,,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/fp4myx/why_mgtow_still_talks_about_women_instead_of_just/,241,stonoceno,2020-03-26 13:58:48 TheBluePill,fpdgfl,Fun policing,"Have you noticed the tendency of RedPill/Alt-Right members of policing other's fun? Videogames are bad and famous franchises are evil, everyone should live a near monastic life with strict religion (usually some denominaton of Christianity) observance, crazy lifting routines, ""high"", complex (and boring for the most) forms on entertainment such as classic literature. In part I can relate with them, I think that it's great to strive to improve yourself and everyone can get benefits from some form of workout but I think that their competitive view of self improvement is ridiculous: I'd rather improve myself learning to play the guitar or investing some of my free time into improving in my trade rather that burn my limited brainpower reading ""classic literature"" which for me has a low entertainment/effort ratio and unlike practical skill such as coding or investing has a near 0 future return of investment, I'd rather enjoy an hike or a cycling trip with a firend rather than getting into ""real man sports"" such as lifting or hunting and when it comes time to relax and enjoy entertainment I don't care if it's ""high art"" if listening comedy rock or watching YTPs entertains me more, not everything needs to have an educational value. -I write here to ask if someone else noticed this trend.",,17,EmSa1998,1585236589.0 -TheBluePill,fpgtof,"*Incels, Feminists, and the Mentality of Abusers* ""Am I saying that all feminists are abusers? Of course not. Am I saying that they have the same attitude towards men that abusers do,... and that feminists’ casual misandry helps create and empower abusers? Abso-fucking-lutely.""",,http://archive.fo/QmfPy,6,[deleted],1585247395.0 -TheBluePill,fpc8q4,"Low-hanging fruit and AWALT: ""Just because I'm from America im a foreigner to you?"" (in the Czech Republic)",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/foeckm/should_i_move_to_a_red_state_in_the_us_or_czech/fler2zz/,14,stonoceno,1585232267.0 -TheBluePill,foxyxo,"In the midst of a global pandemic, MGTOWs are yelling about women with nose rings :: We Hunted The Mammoth",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/03/24/in-the-midst-of-a-global-pandemic-mgtows-are-yelling-about-women-with-nose-rings/#more-86108,235,BrazilianSigma,1585169414.0 -TheBluePill,fomjsj,"“Women are such rubbish. I can’t wait until scientists create artificial fetus incubation booths so these whores can be stripped of their worth and cast aside like the inconveniences they are” “Based, if women didn’t have holes between their legs and make our dicks hard we’d hunt them for sport.”",,https://i.redd.it/3nnlpejn0so41.jpg,306,Jenn_There_Done_That,1585123559.0 +I write here to ask if someone else noticed this trend.",,17,EmSa1998,2020-03-26 15:29:49 +TheBluePill,fpgtof,"*Incels, Feminists, and the Mentality of Abusers* ""Am I saying that all feminists are abusers? Of course not. Am I saying that they have the same attitude towards men that abusers do,... and that feminists’ casual misandry helps create and empower abusers? Abso-fucking-lutely.""",,http://archive.fo/QmfPy,6,[deleted],2020-03-26 18:29:55 +TheBluePill,fpc8q4,"Low-hanging fruit and AWALT: ""Just because I'm from America im a foreigner to you?"" (in the Czech Republic)",,https://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/foeckm/should_i_move_to_a_red_state_in_the_us_or_czech/fler2zz/,14,stonoceno,2020-03-26 14:17:47 +TheBluePill,foxyxo,"In the midst of a global pandemic, MGTOWs are yelling about women with nose rings :: We Hunted The Mammoth",,http://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2020/03/24/in-the-midst-of-a-global-pandemic-mgtows-are-yelling-about-women-with-nose-rings/#more-86108,235,BrazilianSigma,2020-03-25 20:50:14 +TheBluePill,fomjsj,"“Women are such rubbish. I can’t wait until scientists create artificial fetus incubation booths so these whores can be stripped of their worth and cast aside like the inconveniences they are” “Based, if women didn’t have holes between their legs and make our dicks hard we’d hunt them for sport.”",,https://i.redd.it/3nnlpejn0so41.jpg,306,Jenn_There_Done_That,2020-03-25 08:05:59 PurplePillDebate,1ai0n6b,N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD,"&#x200B; [Please Join Us on Discord!](https://discord.gg/3aHh4trC7B) Include your reddit username, pill color, age and gender when you arrive in the welcome mat to introduce yourself and help people get to know you. &#x200B; -You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,4,AutoModerator,1706979612.0 +You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,4,AutoModerator,2024-02-03 17:00:12 PurplePillDebate,1aiev5i,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics **(must use np links for reddit)**, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -47405,7 +47405,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,4,AutoModerator,1707019256.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,4,AutoModerator,2024-02-04 04:00:56 PurplePillDebate,1aiech8,How do you avoid desperation and despair as you get older?,"Few things are less attractive than desperation and bitterness, yet those are the natural consequences of ongoing frustration and disappointment in the dating world - not only difficulties meeting people but getting mislead, ghosted, bread crumbed, stood up, let down and fucked around, it takes its toll I’ve always felt deep down that I’ll end up with a lady who I find beautiful inside out. Honestly I won’t settle for anything less, and while this might sound arrogant, as a good looking, intelligent, kind hearted guy I don’t think I’m being unreasonable by setting a high bar (although nobody should knowingly settle and it’s better to be alone than with someone who you had to compromise to be with) @@ -47434,14 +47434,14 @@ How of you stave off the bitterness and desperation ? I bow out of the dating game for a while every so often but as soon as I step back into the ring it’s the same old shit, actually it’s usually gotten worse -(I workout, see a therapist, try to improve myself blah blah blah) ",,23,StaticNocturne,1707017552.0 +(I workout, see a therapist, try to improve myself blah blah blah) ",,23,StaticNocturne,2024-02-04 03:32:32 PurplePillDebate,1aigdg6,"Is it wrong to ""settle"" because you can't get what you really want?","I wanted to discuss this from the **male's perspective**. There's often a lot of discussion on here about settling in regards to a women's perspective i.e. dating in their 20's then settling for a ""beta provider"" as her options deteriorate. After reading a post on here where an 'average' man was complaining about dating and he said that he would settle for any girl as long as she wasn't overweight - many women on here were offended and said how bad they'd feel if they knew a guy was ""settling"" for them or the guy was only with them because they were his last option, or because he couldn't do any better or because he just doesn't want to be lonely. Although I understand why this would be offensive, is it really that wrong to have that perspective? As a man we often need to just take what we can get. Is it wrong to do this though? -Assuming you treat your partner with well and with respect, then is it that bad just taking what you can get? rather than just being alone forever? or holding out for a women that you'll probably never be able to get?",,8,ShelterNo2786,1707024402.0 +Assuming you treat your partner with well and with respect, then is it that bad just taking what you can get? rather than just being alone forever? or holding out for a women that you'll probably never be able to get?",,8,ShelterNo2786,2024-02-04 05:26:42 PurplePillDebate,1ai3oiz,Who are the type of young women who date older men? Most women I knew when I was early 20s were chasing hot college boys.,"Genuinely curious. I'm currently 29, but I went to college from 2012-2016 and then on to grad school. Granted, I wasn't super popular, but I knew a good number of women just by being a open-minded, friendly woman. The hot, outgoing women with healthy self-esteem from 18-25 were almost always in a stable relationship with a guy around their same age. The above average outgoing women with self-esteem issues typically got roped into the ""pseudoharems"" we see on a lot of college campuses. Casual sex was a thing, but it was always with age-appropriate men. The fat or nerdy young women really didn't have much sex unless they had a bf. They seemed to be forgotten when it came to casual sex just because there were so many willing average to above average women who were readily available. @@ -47452,7 +47452,7 @@ Now that I'm 29 I've branched out in terms of my friend groups and meet a lot of There seems to be this idea that men over 35 can almost exclusively date women under 25. Where is this idea coming from? Is it reserved for famous people? I know someone like BJ novak doesn't commit to mindy kaling because he apparently can pull very young women, but he's literally been on the office and maybe these girls are thinking it can help their own careers or give them a status boost. -Can an ordinary man over 35 actually pull young women though, for either casual sex or a relationship? And if so, who are these women? What are their prospects?",,50,ZealousEx,1706987632.0 +Can an ordinary man over 35 actually pull young women though, for either casual sex or a relationship? And if so, who are these women? What are their prospects?",,50,ZealousEx,2024-02-03 19:13:52 PurplePillDebate,1aif21k,CMV. The social stigma of getting a paternity test should not exist.,"I am talking about post birth paternity tests. Yes I know you can just do it in secret (so long as you don't live in France). That is not the point of the post. Please do not respond with ""hurr durr just do it in secret you autist"". I am arguing that you shouldn't have to do it in secret, as the negative judgement for getting a paternity test is not justified. I tell my partners that I will get a paternity test if they get pregnant, and if they negatively respond and tell me they won't want me to do that, then I don't engage in sex with them, so this is not an issue that affects me, so please don't condescendingly respond as if I don't know how to navigate this issue IRL. **Please don't downvote my post just because you disagree with it. I tried to make it well thought out. I am responding thoughtfully and in good faith to all comments. If you disagree, please reply to this post and we can have a civil discussion.** @@ -47491,7 +47491,7 @@ And yet some countries like France consider the position of a father raising a k Now, all this being said, I think mandatory paternity testing in places where abortion is encouraged would NOT be politically passable, as the mothers would just abort the kids after getting pregnant from cheating and when no PDs are reported, it would be scrapped. -My conclusion is that the social stigma of getting a paternity test should not exist. CMV please.",,10,AdSpecialist3990,1707019903.0 +My conclusion is that the social stigma of getting a paternity test should not exist. CMV please.",,10,AdSpecialist3990,2024-02-04 04:11:43 PurplePillDebate,1ai93ni,"I don’t understand, it seems like women don’t have to do much work or “real” work to become attractive/ have sex with atrractive men she’s attracted to and sexually attracted to","Hear me out, why does personality and “game” even matter for women if she’s just trying to get laid??? Why do we have to play this game of saying certain words or making her get in a certain mood with words for or the guy having to be in a certain mood and saying certain words to make her sexually attracted to you??? And why is it way different for guys? From a sex standpoint for us to even want to have sex with you or get sexually attracted to you it’s strictly looks and mainly body (depending who you are) or even get aroused or attracted to women yes personality matters also but barely…. Especially when it comes to just sex personality barely matters why though?? @@ -47501,7 +47501,7 @@ And why is it way different for guys? From a sex standpoint for us to even want Like why can’t a woman just see a tall nice physique toned body but average in the face guy big dick but doesn’t know how to talk to women gets scared when talking to women makes conversations and interactions in general awkward and boring and other “bad flaws” but fucks good like why can’t she just fuck that guy? Instead of him having to play this mind game of acting talking and being a certain way for her to get aroused then he gets to have sex basically a challenge for men. Why does it seem like to make a woman want to have sex with you or even be attracted to you it’s like you have to play this mind game first like get her mind right then she’s gonna want you -",,19,Alternative_Eye_2799,1707002060.0 +",,19,Alternative_Eye_2799,2024-02-03 23:14:20 PurplePillDebate,1ai8t31,"Ladies, who aren't in college or school, and got a boyfriend in the last 12 months, where and how did you meet him?","Me and the fellas are talking about where and how to meet women. Some are suggesting we go to bars, some say online, some say work etc. @@ -47512,12 +47512,12 @@ Figured I'd gather some relevant data from women themselves! Only those who didn't meet your s/o in school and recently got into a relationship please 🙌 your age doesn't matter you can be 20 or 40 idc just want to hear your opinions. -The reason we're excluding school is because it's the most obvious and common and this is to give guys who didn't find that special someone before graduation an idea on where/how to meet women that is appropriate.",,13,LastBlackSamurai99,1707001269.0 +The reason we're excluding school is because it's the most obvious and common and this is to give guys who didn't find that special someone before graduation an idea on where/how to meet women that is appropriate.",,13,LastBlackSamurai99,2024-02-03 23:01:09 PurplePillDebate,1ahys3a,We do not live in a “hookup” culture and the amount of casual sex going on is grossly exaggerated,"Do people hook up? Of course, but it’s nothing like people depict it online. The running narrative would have you believe there is some wild orgy going on which, if you aren’t part taking in there must be something wrong with you. Most hooking up is done between people who meet organically, through work/school/mutuals. A fair number meet online, but this idea that the younger generation of girls is racking up b0dy c0vnts in the 30s by the age of 25 is just nonsense. Study after study has shown both men and women have fewer than 10 sex partners on average in their lifetime. -This is for one obvious reason - men and women have completely different sex drives. Men are insatiable, they are much hornier than women and if they could they’d have unlimited partners. Women are mostly monogamous and disinterested in casual sex.",,31,The-Loop,1706974630.0 +This is for one obvious reason - men and women have completely different sex drives. Men are insatiable, they are much hornier than women and if they could they’d have unlimited partners. Women are mostly monogamous and disinterested in casual sex.",,31,The-Loop,2024-02-03 15:37:10 PurplePillDebate,1aiidmx,What do you think about the SMV flip?,"I been curious lately about what you all think about the basic Red Pill beliefs. So I want to ask you lovely ladies of PPD what do you think about the SMV flip. The idea that men become more valuable with age, women become less valuable, and now/then men become the ones with the higher SMV. Do you all agree or disagree with it? Is it something that you think will affect your dating life when you get older? Because at this point it's become Red Pill gospel. @@ -47528,12 +47528,12 @@ I can't help but notice that even among non Red Pill aware men now believe they It's definitely a big change from when I only used to hear the girls making demands. Before these guys were trying to figure out how to get the girls and what they had to do. Now they talk about what women have to do to have a chance with them. -So even if you don't agree with the SMV flip do you think these beliefs men hold will have an effect on you and your relationships? Do you think you will have to adapt in some way because of it?",,0,GhettoJamesBond,1707031974.0 +So even if you don't agree with the SMV flip do you think these beliefs men hold will have an effect on you and your relationships? Do you think you will have to adapt in some way because of it?",,0,GhettoJamesBond,2024-02-04 07:32:54 PurplePillDebate,1ahul2m,"Which is easier, being a man or being a woman?","Basically title. Everytime somebody talks about how hard being [insert gender here] is, there's always someone from the opposite gender saying it's harder to be in their position. Men usually talk about loneliness, depression, sexlesness, being falsely accused and their inability to be vulnerable around others. Women talk about creeps, rape, periods, pregnancy, oppression, gender inequality etc. There's this belief among some men that women are playing life on easy mode. Their reasonings are female privilege, easiness finding a partner, white knights willing to help and so on. In summary it seems that women will always have society protecting them. -There are ups and downs for both genders which people of opposite genders may not relate to. But why is the amount of men commiting suicide 4 times higher than that of women? Do men decide to quit life once they realize it is too difficult for them?",,10,-snickerss-,1706961636.0 +There are ups and downs for both genders which people of opposite genders may not relate to. But why is the amount of men commiting suicide 4 times higher than that of women? Do men decide to quit life once they realize it is too difficult for them?",,10,-snickerss-,2024-02-03 12:00:36 PurplePillDebate,1ahv810,Games and Goals?,"In my personal experience, the whole 'pill' things, amd this dating debate, has its basis, atleast on the part of men, in the fact that people are confused as to what they want from a relationship or a partner They talk about loyalty and also they follow pickup-artists and how to attract more and more women, which is just contradictory. If you need a woman who will love you for who you are, show who you really are and dont try to 'attract', or be happy with the uncertain playboy lifestyle that pick-up gane gives you. @@ -47544,7 +47544,7 @@ The same thing goes to I will get in better shape to attract girls and getting a They complain that it is easier for women to get sex but want sex, loyalty, emotional connection all together, which the women dont get most of the time, but they dont realize that. They dont just want sex easily, they want more rhan that snd dont realize that. -What are your thoughts on it?",,6,saptarshi656,1706963952.0 +What are your thoughts on it?",,6,saptarshi656,2024-02-03 12:39:12 PurplePillDebate,1ahzgck,"Most 50 / 50 LTR's will fail if you are the guy, if you want it to work, you have to exploit a power dynamic","Woman can get pretty much anything at their fingertips nowadays. If they want attention, they can open up their Instagram or Twitter and post a thirst pic to get positive reviews and affirmations from strangers and all their friends and followers. @@ -47555,7 +47555,7 @@ If they need money, they can ask their friend, Billy Betabuxx for some, sit in a If they get bored on social media or need some alone time, they can get their peace and quiet, hassle free. While other people in committed relationships might start an argument over this. -To get an actual ""relationship"" nowadays (not what Billy Betabuxx is getting) you have to keep her ""trapped"" as predatory as those words sound. Passport bro's do this by taking her home and giving her a better life. Religion does this by making people fear the repercussions from their God for engaging in infidelity or polyamorous sex. And abusers do this by making her feel the highs and lows of an extremely volatile relationship which somehow convinces her that it's worth fighting for (I don't get it either).",,4,NefariousnessMost660,1706976456.0 +To get an actual ""relationship"" nowadays (not what Billy Betabuxx is getting) you have to keep her ""trapped"" as predatory as those words sound. Passport bro's do this by taking her home and giving her a better life. Religion does this by making people fear the repercussions from their God for engaging in infidelity or polyamorous sex. And abusers do this by making her feel the highs and lows of an extremely volatile relationship which somehow convinces her that it's worth fighting for (I don't get it either).",,4,NefariousnessMost660,2024-02-03 16:07:36 PurplePillDebate,1ahu0vk,"Why don't we talk more about ""female sexuality""? Where has it gone?","I have come to the conclusion that many men don’t understand much on the topic of women sexuality. I am aware that people arrive at various “pill-spaces” to find answers to their questions. However, if we are being truly truthful, these spaces, largely speaking, rarely provide those in-dept answers people are searching for. While these spaces are popular, they are popular because they sell people a small set of beliefs regarding dating, sex, and gender (etc) that give people some form of comfort. I mean they are referred as various pill-”ideologies” for a reason. They give people shallow yet highly polarising explanations that can easily destroy or invalidate some other point of view but rarely are deep and rich enough to help those struggling. That is not to say, NO person has been helped, I am sure some have, however, many people are left unsatisfied and their problems left unresolved. They destroy curiosity completely. And I am saying this as someone who went to those spaces. Now, some may argue that their particular form of pill is rooted in science, particularly evolutionary science. They may say the reason why we repeatedly bring up height, physical attractiveness, and status and whatever other factors that are commonly heard is because they are studies that show them to be significantly related to females’s rating of perceived attractiveness. And I would agree, however, what I am trying to point out is they are not being interpreted as science. They are treated as gospel truths rather than tentative facts. For instance, height is clearly a major predictor of high ratings on perceived female attractiveness. Replicated across many cultures, replicated over and over again, robust sample size and study design and blah blah blah. I get it!!! You have identified WHAT factors play a role in perceived female attractiveness but have not explained HOW and WHY and WHEN they do. How does height cause women to go moist downstairs? The effect of height, is it “in effect” all of the time? So, whenever a tall guy enters a room he always cause feelings of sexual arousal? If not, when is height “in effect”? It is in effect when he is making tea? Is it in effect when he is playing the guitar? What about when he is sleeping? What about when he is picking his nose? Is it still “in effect”? Also, is every women in every situation going be effected by height? Probably not. What I am saying is getting someone to be sexually attracted in deeper than a “in X then Y” explanation. A more broader perspective is needed. @@ -47564,7 +47564,7 @@ Lastly, I wanted to point out that “female perceived attractiveness” is not My brief scanning of literature suggest women sexuality (sexuality in general in fact) is a lot more complex and varied. Simple “if X then Y” type of explanations, in my opinion, fails to give a comprehensive account. For instance, men tend to experience spontaneous, out of the blue desire for sex (which is a curse when it gets in the way of a productive day), while this is the experience of some women, there are also some that never experience spontaneous sexual desires. Instead they may experience “responsive” desire, in which the desire emerges only in highly erotic context. Also, that sexual desire is influenced by learning. For example, studies have shown that male rats who have been trained to associated a stimuli (as bizarre as smell of lemon, wearing a jacket) with sexual activity, will influence their preference. When they are presented with a receptive female rat, the female rat that smells of lemon is preferred significantly more often than those that don’t. Also, about the rat wearing a jacket, the study found that if the rat was wearing a jacket the first time he copulated, the next he is with a receptive female but not wearing that jacket, he is more likely to self-inhibit. Which sounds eerily close to “I learned that having “this face structure, or this height or this whatever” means possible interest in sex, but I don’t have those, so no possible interest in sex”-self-inhibit. It is not out of the realm of possibility that this maybe training you to become blind to other cue of sexual interest. Obviously the raw desire of sexual reproduction remains. The rats in the wild figure it out themselves. But the point the studies showed was the perception of sexual desire and preference can be tampered by what we learn and how we learn about it. -I don’t know, I haven’t properly studied it to make my final judgment, but it’s interesting to say the least. What do you guys think? Should we include discussion of “sexuality” alongside “sex”. Also, if any gals here read this, share your story and experiences. Is this true? False? Complicated?",,6,Stupid4Knowledge,1706959400.0 +I don’t know, I haven’t properly studied it to make my final judgment, but it’s interesting to say the least. What do you guys think? Should we include discussion of “sexuality” alongside “sex”. Also, if any gals here read this, share your story and experiences. Is this true? False? Complicated?",,6,Stupid4Knowledge,2024-02-03 11:23:20 PurplePillDebate,1ahh5ie,"Switching around ""Commitment"" for ""Sex"" may allow more empathy between the sexes?","The ol' red pill saying ""women are the gate keepers of sex, men are the gate keepers of relationships"" @@ -47609,14 +47609,14 @@ What do you think? Have you ever tried such a switch before and has it helped yo Edit: -I apologize if I haven't made this clear. The concept switching is suppose to give you an analogy. I don't claim this is a perfect mirror, but just a way to generate the similar feelings to the opposite gender in a scenario. It fails in many regards, I'm sure, but I think it works in enough to justify it as a tool.",,53,Chaskar,1706915367.0 +I apologize if I haven't made this clear. The concept switching is suppose to give you an analogy. I don't claim this is a perfect mirror, but just a way to generate the similar feelings to the opposite gender in a scenario. It fails in many regards, I'm sure, but I think it works in enough to justify it as a tool.",,53,Chaskar,2024-02-02 23:09:27 PurplePillDebate,1aig3oo,A compelling argument to why feminine men will never thrive in their relationships.,"Most of the feminine men that I have encountered have essentially lost their essence of masculinity and have gone down the road of self-loathing and victimhood. Some of them are lucky enough to have relationships but they most often never last, from what I noticed they are more prone to being abusive, they are more likely to attract women with self-esteem issues and troubled pasts, and their emotions will always get the best of them. A lot of feminine men that I know are controlling and protective in nature, they are always in fear mode, they never let their partners hang around with the opposite sex and would often resort to abusive ways in sustaining their relationships, from begging to pleading, these are the common tactics of feminine men to get their partners to stay. When it comes to feminine men, they are extremely less likely to attract a feminine woman, and in-return will attract a masculine woman. Though at first their relationship will thrive, you will start to notice that the reason why some women are in their masculine is because of a self-esteem issue or a lack of positive male role model in their life, most of these relationships, crash and burn, unless both parties stay committed, nonetheless, this relationship still does not yield a positive outcome for them since abuse and violence are more prone in these relationships. -Finally, feminine men will always be sabotaged by their emotions, they will often use their partners as emotional tampons or therapists. They will always most often complain about life and feel shitty about it, they will hang around subreddits like this or be part of the Red Pill community, and their woman will always often lose attraction for them. They will always listen to the devil on their shoulder by acting out on their emotions, whether it would be by getting angry or losing their emotional stability.",,0,A-Problem-Eliminator,1707023438.0 +Finally, feminine men will always be sabotaged by their emotions, they will often use their partners as emotional tampons or therapists. They will always most often complain about life and feel shitty about it, they will hang around subreddits like this or be part of the Red Pill community, and their woman will always often lose attraction for them. They will always listen to the devil on their shoulder by acting out on their emotions, whether it would be by getting angry or losing their emotional stability.",,0,A-Problem-Eliminator,2024-02-04 05:10:38 PurplePillDebate,1ahx4n5,Committed relationship with a man is a net loss for most women?,"I'm a 31 year old middle European man and I have been in and out of several relationships for the past 10 years. I talk a lot to strangers and acquantances about relationships and their experiences. Based on these stories that happened directly to me or were told to me from first hand, I have gathered the following idea that I would kindly ask your opinion on: *""Committing to a relationship with a man is a net loss for a woman - unless she wants a child, or the man is extremely wealthy"".* @@ -47641,10 +47641,10 @@ And in turn from an average man they receive: Based on the above, If I were a woman in 2024 in my city, I would not want a committed relationship - because I do not want a child and I do not care about money. I would just mess around, hook-up, travel, not worry, get wasted, party, etc. until my late 30's or even early 40's and then settle for a somewhat well-off man so that I have company. -What do you think?",,1,Savings_End8992,1706969959.0 +What do you think?",,1,Savings_End8992,2024-02-03 14:19:19 PurplePillDebate,1ahh6db,Women who are very experienced in romantic relationships (whether sexually or emotionally) would you date someone who had never been in a relationship?,"I've been in a relationship for 15 years but I'm only 30. I know a lot of men my age who have never been in a relationship, or have never gone on more than a few dates. -I think if my husband died I'd probably not date again for a long time, if ever.. but if I did I couldn't even imagine doing it with someone who had zero experience in a relationship. It's not even sex it's just that I don't want to have to go through the who training wheel/growing up phase on communication and boundaries and learning to live together with someone of the opposite sex for the first time. I'm wondering if I'm alone in this?",,26,Laniekea,1706915432.0 +I think if my husband died I'd probably not date again for a long time, if ever.. but if I did I couldn't even imagine doing it with someone who had zero experience in a relationship. It's not even sex it's just that I don't want to have to go through the who training wheel/growing up phase on communication and boundaries and learning to live together with someone of the opposite sex for the first time. I'm wondering if I'm alone in this?",,26,Laniekea,2024-02-02 23:10:32 PurplePillDebate,1ahz7zz,How would YOU personally like to be approached about partnership?,"30M I was curious to see in what ways people would personally like to be approached in public (Men/Women/Whoever) in reference to partnership. We often hear about the wrong way and how some obviously don't know how to respectfully do so, so I was curious for thoughts. @@ -47668,12 +47668,12 @@ What are your anonymous experiences/expectations? Thanks everyone -Edit: Grammar ",,1,Terroo122,1706975847.0 +Edit: Grammar ",,1,Terroo122,2024-02-03 15:57:27 PurplePillDebate,1ah6ith,Men do not have high beauty standards,"Most men just want somebody willing to touch them because for most men no one is willing to do that. It's so twisted and dark to say that men have such high standards when they really have no options. It's like, simultaneously they're in a much more shit dating position than women and are put to blame for supposedly being the ones with unrealistic standards. Hypergamy is not some redpill pseudoscience, It's been studied and it's been shown that women date up and sideways in the hierarchy and men date down and sideways in the hierarchy. If men date down, and women date up, and men are supposed to be mostly interested in looks, then how is it not true that they're dating down in terms of looks in order to potentially get a date? -Women only think that men have higher beauty standards because they want the man everybody else wants and he's obviously able to pick the very best one, making him have high beauty standards. You would see how low a man's beauty standards are if you actually tried dating someone in your own leauge, and if you don't, then you're not allowed to complain when the guy you want doesn't want you back.",,69,MissionDelivery4012,1706888273.0 +Women only think that men have higher beauty standards because they want the man everybody else wants and he's obviously able to pick the very best one, making him have high beauty standards. You would see how low a man's beauty standards are if you actually tried dating someone in your own leauge, and if you don't, then you're not allowed to complain when the guy you want doesn't want you back.",,69,MissionDelivery4012,2024-02-02 15:37:53 PurplePillDebate,1ahlygf,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics **(must use np links for reddit)**, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -47692,7 +47692,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,1706929257.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,2024-02-03 03:00:57 PurplePillDebate,1ah0lt1,Men on this sub are probably below average which is why they are struggling,"To me this is the average man who is above the age of 30 * Average height or tall @@ -47710,14 +47710,14 @@ It isn't normal to not have a stable career at 30+ and not have your own place ( People here are more than likely rating themselves too high or average when they are in fact below average. -I mean take myself for example. I thought I was average. I have a career in IT which pays me comfortably. I have a car and rent my own place. But my social circle dried up years ago when my friends moved away, started their own family/bought a house and focused on that etc. Since then my social life has basically been non existent and my 30s has been pretty bad. I would say I am below average for this reason because an average man would have access to a social circle, which would give them access to single women.",,65,Ok_Cycle225,1706869525.0 +I mean take myself for example. I thought I was average. I have a career in IT which pays me comfortably. I have a car and rent my own place. But my social circle dried up years ago when my friends moved away, started their own family/bought a house and focused on that etc. Since then my social life has basically been non existent and my 30s has been pretty bad. I would say I am below average for this reason because an average man would have access to a social circle, which would give them access to single women.",,65,Ok_Cycle225,2024-02-02 10:25:25 PurplePillDebate,1agzh3v,"""Enjoy the decline"" is a perfectly viable strategy","I hate when tradcons say that enjoy the decline is not a viable strategy. Just get yourself at a place where you're confident you won't be affected no matter what happens. I am in a unicorn relationship with a wealthy man who intends to marry me and I also have a stable job and a prestigious Master degree. Nothing can touch me. It's not depressing to embrace the decline. It's only depressing if you are single and sexless and friendless. Trust me the only reason you're depressed is that you don't get enough meaningful intimacy. I know because I was also depressed once upon a time. -Honestly, I couldn't give less of a fuck about what happens to society. Like if betas revolted tomorrow and brought white sharia or something , I couldn't give less of a fuck. If birth rates get to 0, I don't give a shit. If we all die of climate change, whatever, it's inevitable anyway. Just learn to not give a fck. Whatever doomer scenario I see online I find it more amusing than anything. It's not depressing, it's liberating.",,23,Novel-Tip-7570,1706864630.0 +Honestly, I couldn't give less of a fuck about what happens to society. Like if betas revolted tomorrow and brought white sharia or something , I couldn't give less of a fuck. If birth rates get to 0, I don't give a shit. If we all die of climate change, whatever, it's inevitable anyway. Just learn to not give a fck. Whatever doomer scenario I see online I find it more amusing than anything. It's not depressing, it's liberating.",,23,Novel-Tip-7570,2024-02-02 09:03:50 PurplePillDebate,1agp8gn,"Your personality is mostly determined by factors outside your control and changing it fundamentally is EXTREMELY difficult, contrary to what other people might be espousing","People on this forum mostly say: ‘oh, I know a guy who is ugly but he has a girlfriend because he has a good personality’, as if that person is solely responsible for his personality and anyone can change their personality in a couple months’ time ‘if only they put in the effort’. This is akin to rich people saying that the poor are just not trying hard enough. It is a toxic attitude, and I am going to detail why below. In my opinion, the base of your personality in adult life is mostly explained by the formula below: @@ -47805,7 +47805,7 @@ Yes, there are people out there who got really unlucky in terms of genetics, how What about the people who had the misfortune to draw the short straw both in terms of genetics AND in terms of family? Starting from a situation like that: years of bullying and abuse, addiction to fast food, lack of social skills, low self esteem, among others, requires MONUMENTAL AMOUNTS OF EFFORT. -However, people (and especially women it seems – the ‘empathetic’ gender) do not care about your starting point and how much you have improved. They only care about your current results. How can you be a fun and charismatic guy when you were born ugly, and on top of that you developed low self esteem due to not only your peers in school bullying you, but also because your father beat the shit out of you when you were young, and verbally abused you and your mother, only for you to then face years of rejection from women, while also not having any siblings that you are close with? ‘just improve your personality bro’",,94,sienok,1706830668.0 +However, people (and especially women it seems – the ‘empathetic’ gender) do not care about your starting point and how much you have improved. They only care about your current results. How can you be a fun and charismatic guy when you were born ugly, and on top of that you developed low self esteem due to not only your peers in school bullying you, but also because your father beat the shit out of you when you were young, and verbally abused you and your mother, only for you to then face years of rejection from women, while also not having any siblings that you are close with? ‘just improve your personality bro’",,94,sienok,2024-02-01 23:37:48 PurplePillDebate,1agyegu,Looking for your opinions or comments on a poll I conducted at a university. Could you share your honest thoughts?," The poll was conducted with about 100/120 participants @@ -48146,13 +48146,13 @@ F $0.82 to $1 100% -$0.99 to $1 0%",,20,FormerElection9734,1706859974.0 +$0.99 to $1 0%",,20,FormerElection9734,2024-02-02 07:46:14 PurplePillDebate,1ageaif,How are average looking men in this day and age supposed to meet women?,"1. Dating apps don't work for the average guy, lets not kid ourselves here. 2. Mutual friends are a an option but most people have small friend groups. 3. Meetups are generally filled with senior folks or it's married women every time. 4. Gyms , work, places of business are generally said to be off limits for approaching women. -before 2010, being on a dating app was seen as extreme, to put it into perspective; it was far more normal to chat up a woman in the grocery store or library than putting your face on a online dating site. This was something people with weird fetishes did. Today its normalized, but in turn society is doing everything to threat-profile men who would approach a woman in real life. ",,160,HardTimes4Vampires,1706803180.0 +before 2010, being on a dating app was seen as extreme, to put it into perspective; it was far more normal to chat up a woman in the grocery store or library than putting your face on a online dating site. This was something people with weird fetishes did. Today its normalized, but in turn society is doing everything to threat-profile men who would approach a woman in real life. ",,160,HardTimes4Vampires,2024-02-01 15:59:40 PurplePillDebate,1ah32mz,Are male dating coaches ruining modern dating?,"I have been following a few male dating coaches recently. However, literally every single one of them seems to be focusing only on how to get the girl to fall for you very quick very fast by using tactics that trigger an extreme dopamine response (see. “feeling the sparks”). @@ -48190,14 +48190,14 @@ At the same time, exposure to these guys now also trains girls to expect this in Then later they get disappointed that in reality the guy was not what she was expecting and doesn’t understand how she could not have seen it coming. ""He changed"" she will say. -What do you think?",,3,apc4455,1706878707.0 +What do you think?",,3,apc4455,2024-02-02 12:58:27 PurplePillDebate,1agay0p,Women are just as redpilled as men.,"I was scrolling on tiktok and came across yet another genz/millennial woman saying insanely misandrist things about men to hundreds of thousands of likes except this time I noticed something different. At the end of her nonsensical rant she told women to follow the link in her bio so they could learn how to attract high value men so they don’t have to do anything in life anymore. I followed the link just to see if it was going to try and charge money for this shit and lo and behold she wanted 160 dollars for this ‘course’. She and the other women like her I ended up finding are just the same kinds of grifters as Andrew Tate or any other male redpiller. The difference is they don’t get shamed and ridiculed because at the end of the day they can freely blame men for all of their failures and be openly misandrist without any mainstream pushback while redpill men are constantly mocked and shamed for having their opinions. -This seems insane to me and it’s incredible that all the same grifters exist for women and allow women to be as redpilled as they want yet male redpillers are the only ones who ever receive any pushback on their beliefs.",,217,envious1998,1706793960.0 +This seems insane to me and it’s incredible that all the same grifters exist for women and allow women to be as redpilled as they want yet male redpillers are the only ones who ever receive any pushback on their beliefs.",,217,envious1998,2024-02-01 13:26:00 PurplePillDebate,1agqzx9,Is the online dating phenomenon reflective of real life?,"A lot of people saying ""Dating apps don't represent real life"" . However, I wanted to discuss this - @@ -48212,7 +48212,7 @@ Yet people say that dating apps aren't real life and not how women select partn The average man is invisible to women -The average women, most men would sleep with.",,25,ShelterNo2786,1706835445.0 +The average women, most men would sleep with.",,25,ShelterNo2786,2024-02-02 00:57:25 PurplePillDebate,1agtahw,"What the ""Pills"" Get Wrong . . .","Hello Purple Pillers! I hope I'm not too much of an interloper here, I recently discovered this sub, and to be honest, I'm not as personally connected to a lot of the issues discussed here, having been married happily (for the most part!) for 20+ years. That said, I've been following a lot of the red pill and anti-red pill content on the Internet for the last couple of years with a degree of interest, as I did make some significant and painful mistakes in my younger days that I think could've been avoided, and now I have a 12-year-old son, who will soon be entering this whole world that seems to be in such turmoil at present. I'm also concerned at the societal level that people in the modern world are not forming families as much as they used to do, and all of the downstream negative effects that is likely to have for our society. This conversation really matters, in my opinion! That said, I do think there are some bad ideas floating around, maybe I can do some small part in steering things in a better direction. @@ -48234,7 +48234,7 @@ Now, to the list of what the red pill as I understand it gets wrong: So adding all of the above together, the red pill correctly identifies the difficulties that many young people are facing in trying to navigate male-female relationships, but their prescription is flawed as it relates to most men, who would do better to eschew the world of casual sex and focus on finding one good woman to marry and start a family with. Some red pill advice is transferable, certainly becoming successful in some sort of endeavor, being physically active, and basic hygiene, grooming and fashion will all help, no matter what the goal is. But the idea that the only men who can be successful in love are millionaire playboys is just utterly wrong; your average dad standing behind the bbq on a Saturday afternoon, with a few dozen friends and family members around is likely just as, if not more, happy. -Flame away, what did I get wrong?!!! ",,8,GlobeUnited,1706842094.0 +Flame away, what did I get wrong?!!! ",,8,GlobeUnited,2024-02-02 02:48:14 PurplePillDebate,1agsbzy,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics **(must use np links for reddit)**, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -48253,43 +48253,43 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,1706839275.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,2024-02-02 02:01:15 PurplePillDebate,1agzyc3,Why does no one link stats or supporting evidence for their positions?,"A majority of posts and comments on this subreddit are people stating their opinions, with no references to stats or data of any kind. These are not things that people can truly debate on. You can argue back and forth, but if you don't know why you believe what you believe then your belief is not justified and conversation is futile. I wish there were rules prohibiting these low-quality posts and comments. Maybe we'd be better served with a shitpost flair, which maybe is why discussion is distinct from debate, though they don't seem to be used differently. It's honestly very disappointing. I was thrilled to discover this community, and I'm taken aback at how most of y'all just smugly say your piece while providing no evidence whatsoever. I tried doing the same to see if the conversation would lead anywhere useful, and it never does. -Is there anything we can do to foster real debate with real facts?",,0,njayinthehouse,1706866709.0 +Is there anything we can do to foster real debate with real facts?",,0,njayinthehouse,2024-02-02 09:38:29 PurplePillDebate,1ag6vra,The gender war is not just an online thing,"I have been repeatedly told on this sub that the gender war is just an online thing and basically nonexistent irl. I don't agree. Okay, calling it ""gender war"" is a little dramatic. But the gender divide is real. Just today we got this gem. https://www.theguardian.com/news/2024/feb/01/gen-z-boys-and-men-more-likely-than-baby-boomers-to-believe-feminism-harmful-says-poll -Apparently, zoomer males are more likely than baby boomers to say feminism has done more bad than good.",,76,Novel-Tip-7570,1706778618.0 +Apparently, zoomer males are more likely than baby boomers to say feminism has done more bad than good.",,76,Novel-Tip-7570,2024-02-01 09:10:18 PurplePillDebate,1aga4jm,Is it reasonable to have one bad relationship and not try again? Why men stop dating?,"I feel the common trend is you go through a break up a rejection or get fed up with being invisible to the women around you. No one in your immediate life comforts you, knows how to or even blames you for the fall of the relationship, you hop online to vent or dig into how to heal, you see the exact same story from other men, you realize people aren't as unique as everyone claims they are and having personality doesn't get you anywhere. -You realise the likely hood of this same thing happening again is very high no matter how you approach the inevitable downfall of the relationship. Even as you may hit a popular phase you treat women as invisible or just friends despite them showing interest in you. That seems to be where I'm at right now or the women around me just like to try and make me cave.",,24,Agile-Explanation263,1706791377.0 +You realise the likely hood of this same thing happening again is very high no matter how you approach the inevitable downfall of the relationship. Even as you may hit a popular phase you treat women as invisible or just friends despite them showing interest in you. That seems to be where I'm at right now or the women around me just like to try and make me cave.",,24,Agile-Explanation263,2024-02-01 12:42:57 PurplePillDebate,1afxw0e,Do unattractive women get hit up for sex more than attractive ones?,"I'm going to do my best to word this. I have an obese female friend who gets hit up for sex a lot on dating apps. Most guys try to sleep with her on the first date. I also have a female friend who isn't obese, but she certainly isn't pretty. I'm not trying to be mean, but it is what it is. She too gets hit up for sex a lot. She recently had a date at a restaurant. While waiting, the guy said ""hey, I'm not really hungry. Want to get drinks at mine instead?"" When she said no, he just left by himself. I have a pretty friend. Oddly enough she doesn't get hit up for sex. Most guys take her on proper dates and want a relationship with her. Usually they don't try and sleep with her until after the 3rd date. -So that is my question: do men ""use"" ugly women for a quick smash and properly date the pretty women going much slower with them? I heavily get the impression they shoot a ""low offer shot"" at unattractive women not really caring if it lands or not. Kind of like how I make a low offer on a car I'm not interested in.",,62,FloralSpice,1706748316.0 +So that is my question: do men ""use"" ugly women for a quick smash and properly date the pretty women going much slower with them? I heavily get the impression they shoot a ""low offer shot"" at unattractive women not really caring if it lands or not. Kind of like how I make a low offer on a car I'm not interested in.",,62,FloralSpice,2024-02-01 00:45:16 PurplePillDebate,1ag5hia,Population collapse and dating,"https://youtu.be/tk5KoWUwz6Q?si=g0D0ury1F-abUiNW - So.. I just finished watching this and I do distinctly remember being told in here that population collapse wasn't something to worry about... Well according to this it is... Leading cause is people not dating... Not having kids.... And we have roughly 30 years to do something about it... And before anyone goes yay less people.... It's not a good thing... So I guess the question is what are we going to do about it? Women don't want most men and most of us men are walking away from dating because the juice isn't worth the squeeze... But this is a problem that's global, on a macro scale...",,13,Gold_Supermarket1956,1706772727.0 + So.. I just finished watching this and I do distinctly remember being told in here that population collapse wasn't something to worry about... Well according to this it is... Leading cause is people not dating... Not having kids.... And we have roughly 30 years to do something about it... And before anyone goes yay less people.... It's not a good thing... So I guess the question is what are we going to do about it? Women don't want most men and most of us men are walking away from dating because the juice isn't worth the squeeze... But this is a problem that's global, on a macro scale...",,13,Gold_Supermarket1956,2024-02-01 07:32:07 PurplePillDebate,1afz9z8,I think many women realize a huge portion of their 'attraction' comes from 'limited access'.,"I was thinking about the way women use social media, dating apps and such and I've noticed a trend which I think transfers over to dating. One this apps it's very easy for a woman to completely control the way they're perceived. Everything from what their daily routine is, to how they look at any given time to what kind of personality they want to present. It's a world they're in complete control of and have the ability to make themselves anything they want to be. But for the average woman, even celebrities, it's not an image they are able to maintain in reality. Now there's obviously a disconnect from what they actually look like and what they believe they look like so no doubt this is going to have an impact on self esteem. Obviously, there's no way they can match the image they put out so what can they do? Limit access. Instead of going on dates in a reasonable time they can stay behind the façade they created getting the ego boost of lalaland because they know the reception won't be the same. The second you add reality to how a lot of women view themselves, it's a hit to the ego. -I think most men would agree with this that most times, as you get to know a woman more that façade drops starting with that first date. Now at that point the real you is being judged, not the fake persona you've created. I think this phenomena is true in many aspects of womens lives outside of dating as well",,19,FutureBannedAccount2,1706752270.0 +I think most men would agree with this that most times, as you get to know a woman more that façade drops starting with that first date. Now at that point the real you is being judged, not the fake persona you've created. I think this phenomena is true in many aspects of womens lives outside of dating as well",,19,FutureBannedAccount2,2024-02-01 01:51:10 PurplePillDebate,1afle91,"Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himself","The infamous “ick” can be triggered by the most innocuous or insignificant things such as texting back too fast/slow, saying ONE minor thing they thought was “weird” or that they didn’t understand, and oftentimes nothing at all. This is a product of two things - women’s abundance of options, no matter how mediocre they are, and their general lack of interest in or indifference to men relative to the inverse. -This is responsible for the bulk of men’s frustrations, nothing whatsoever to do with blaming women for their “shortcomings” or refusal to wash their ass or whatever other gaslighting bullshit they spew here.",,102,The-Loop,1706717456.0 +This is responsible for the bulk of men’s frustrations, nothing whatsoever to do with blaming women for their “shortcomings” or refusal to wash their ass or whatever other gaslighting bullshit they spew here.",,102,The-Loop,2024-01-31 16:10:56 PurplePillDebate,1affm6f,Men have already lost the gender war and it's bound to get worse,"Here are some reasons why women are winning the culture war. \-Contrary to what some manosphereans say, artificial wombs will not help men in any way whatsoever. If anything it will help women become even more independent of men. How do I know this? Because surrogacy is already available and it's mostly used by gays and rich women/couples. Artificial wombs will not be any different, most men don't have the drive to become single dads. @@ -48306,7 +48306,7 @@ Artificial wombs will only extent the time window in which women can have kids, \-Women don't feel threatened by AI girlfriends and sex bots and secretly feel relieved that low status men will focus on these things instead of bothering them. -\-Taylor Swift being the top artist right now and a billionaire says all you need to know about the hold that women have on culture.",,123,Novel-Tip-7570,1706699974.0 +\-Taylor Swift being the top artist right now and a billionaire says all you need to know about the hold that women have on culture.",,123,Novel-Tip-7570,2024-01-31 11:19:34 PurplePillDebate,1afy89r,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics **(must use np links for reddit)**, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -48325,7 +48325,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,10,AutoModerator,1706749272.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,10,AutoModerator,2024-02-01 01:01:12 PurplePillDebate,1aflv8t,What is the point of casual sex/short term?,"*ESPECIALLY* if you've decided that marriage is too risky, feminism/dating/apps/\[insert boogeyman here\] has irrevocably ruined society and made it impossible to trust women. The obvious answer might be the obvious and honest one: *Make pp feel good.* Maybe that's the long and short of it (no pun intended): but how does this look in the long run? Without the ultimate, biological purpose behind it (as well as, for the more romantically inclined, the idea of having an actual connection or relationship), the long-term seems somewhat depressing to me, especially as a man gets older. @@ -48334,10 +48334,10 @@ Is the idea just that eventually your sex drive will get weaker, so you won't ha In this way, the MeToo and other social problems are making short-term things and casual stuff extremely risky in precisely the same way TRP always said bloop stuff like marriage and having a girlfriend are. As unwise as marriage might be said to be in the modern age, isn't it even crazier to risk ruining your life over what is at the end of the day just a more primal form of cheap entertainment, basically? -TRP is looking more and more like another kind of bluepill to me.",,14,Secret_Sorbet_9674,1706718657.0 +TRP is looking more and more like another kind of bluepill to me.",,14,Secret_Sorbet_9674,2024-01-31 16:30:57 PurplePillDebate,1afhyx1,Do you guys think AI humanoid girlfriends will be popular in the future?,"Consider the rise of sexlessness, loneliness, sadness and bullying. We all obviously know social media is the catalyst. In fact, social media opened the road for that shit. -Nowadays, women have a lot more higher expectations of a man than before because of social media giving women the ability to see others. Every men are lacking motivation, not going to uni or college and sitting around playing video games all day whilst women are doing the opposite.",,11,Tuco_Salamanca_facts,1706708097.0 +Nowadays, women have a lot more higher expectations of a man than before because of social media giving women the ability to see others. Every men are lacking motivation, not going to uni or college and sitting around playing video games all day whilst women are doing the opposite.",,11,Tuco_Salamanca_facts,2024-01-31 13:34:57 PurplePillDebate,1afek8a,Q4M: have you ever made it work with a woman who’s has a past?,"I’m genuinely curious to see the responses. What I mean by a past is a woman who’s has more life experience than you. More sexual experiences, travelling, social, work, etc. @@ -48346,14 +48346,14 @@ I’ve been on Reddit for about 7ish years officially but been on here longer wi When I see these posts on relationships and dating subs, or any other subs related to that. The men often get called insecure and are ridiculed for wanting someone on the same level as them. -Just curious to see what the responses are going to be.",,19,man0steel93,1706695666.0 +Just curious to see what the responses are going to be.",,19,man0steel93,2024-01-31 10:07:46 PurplePillDebate,1afvq7w,"If paternity tests were to become mandatory, we would also need a database with every man's DNA to compare them to.","If paternity tests were to become mandatory, we would also need a way to make sure there's a way to find the actual father. Since a man who is not the child's actual father isn't required to provide for them, there needs to be a way to find the actual father in these cases. There are scenarios where a woman could get pregnant and not know who the father is. If there's a way to track down the baby daddy, that lessens the burden on the state and ensures that the child know who their real father is. To make this happen, there would need to be a database containing every man's DNA. Providing DNA to this database would also have to be mandatory for every man. If men had the option to not provide their DNA, that would mean they could potentially sire a child and not have to pay child support. Men are not entitled to a ""get out of jail free"" card where they can knock someone up and shirk the resulting responsibilities. -And since a child's parentage would then be known for sure, that would make a lot of things in the legal system way faster. Deadbeat dads would be able to be tracked down and forced to pay owed child support. Kids wouldn't think they have the genetics of someone who isn't their real dad. All thanks to a database with every man's DNA.",,3,GGMcThroway,1706742607.0 +And since a child's parentage would then be known for sure, that would make a lot of things in the legal system way faster. Deadbeat dads would be able to be tracked down and forced to pay owed child support. Kids wouldn't think they have the genetics of someone who isn't their real dad. All thanks to a database with every man's DNA.",,3,GGMcThroway,2024-01-31 23:10:07 PurplePillDebate,1ag68by,Do men require more support than women?,"Women are perceived to be weaker than men. To add, even though they had some advantages in the past, they were still not allowed to own property (in some places typically the Muslim states while the West has seen more female monarchs and also in ancient Egypt), not allowed education (with some exceptions of being homeschooled), etc. Crime rates are directly proportional to women's safety in civilizations yet countries are ranked as best to worst in terms of women's safety rather than crime rates. There is no denying women are more likely to be victims of sexual assault and domestic violence. Also, laws are made so that women are encouraged to report harassment crimes and they feel a safe space while reporting such. This brings us to our question. Do men require more support than women? Women are given support in the sense that they cannot look after themselves, are also perceived to be weak, and are less likely to report or complain. Although this tells the opposite, that women complain more than men. @@ -48368,7 +48368,7 @@ Also, men tend to exhibit more stoicism than women, As pointed out by the women, men only complain about their struggles when women do (most of the women here have experienced this) otherwise they don't give a shit. Would that be due to stoicism? Also if a class is unlikely to complain about being uncomfortable, shouldn't they be getting more support? Isn't the premise that women should get more support as they are unable to report harassment applicable in this case too? -&#x200B;",,0,thedarkracer,1706775817.0 +&#x200B;",,0,thedarkracer,2024-02-01 08:23:37 PurplePillDebate,1aewgss,[STUDY] There exists a positive correlation between being a bully and success in dating and sexual relationships,"https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1474704915613909 @@ -48384,15 +48384,15 @@ PurplePillDebate,1aewgss,[STUDY] There exists a positive correlation between bei ""The effects of bullying on sexual behavior appear to be generally independent of individual perceptions of attractiveness, likeability, age, and sex. We found several univariate and multivariate links between bullying and dating as well (especially among an older, more experienced sample)"" -""If bullying does indeed lead to an increase in sexual opportunities, it will no doubt be difficult to shift the behavioral patterns of adolescents who enjoy such an outcome.""",,101,Brazil_doesnt_exist,1706641717.0 +""If bullying does indeed lead to an increase in sexual opportunities, it will no doubt be difficult to shift the behavioral patterns of adolescents who enjoy such an outcome.""",,101,Brazil_doesnt_exist,2024-01-30 19:08:37 PurplePillDebate,1aezwlg,How come it is almost never considered that a guy can develop feelings for a woman he is friends with and that he just became friends to get into her pants?,"As a guy who's heavily struggled with dating and knows some others who heavily struggle with dating, we are often told to try and become friends with women first, get to know them as people, etc. before trying to take things on a romantic level. However, I've noticed that when I sometimes report back that the friendship was somewhat turned awkward or even ruined after asking them out, I get told ""well maybe you shouldn't have become friends with her just in the hopes of sex."" I find it interesting that it is never taken into account that you can naturally develop feelings for friends, rather than having an exterior motive. And at times, the advice seems somewhat contradicting. People are told to get to know women first, but then if that fails people say ""make your interest known fast or else you'll be seen as a friend."" But when people do make their interest known fast, I'm told that it is using a friend for the hopes of sex. -I've always found this somewhat contradicting advice interesting and would like to hear others thoughts about the topic.",,65,Last-Application-860,1706650112.0 +I've always found this somewhat contradicting advice interesting and would like to hear others thoughts about the topic.",,65,Last-Application-860,2024-01-30 21:28:32 PurplePillDebate,1af689m,Was the Gender War a Psyops?,"I remember back in the 2010s feeling that something just... wasn't quite right about the gender wars thing. Something about it felt manufactured deliberately. -Like they needed a generation of obedient slaves that could not afford to get married, have kids, or meet many of the traditional markers of adulthood and so they generated a segregation of the sexes in a really vitriolic way to cause a rift. ",,17,Anonymowzz12,1706666512.0 +Like they needed a generation of obedient slaves that could not afford to get married, have kids, or meet many of the traditional markers of adulthood and so they generated a segregation of the sexes in a really vitriolic way to cause a rift. ",,17,Anonymowzz12,2024-01-31 02:01:52 PurplePillDebate,1af7d3x,What benefits do you value most in a long term monogamous relationship / marriage?,"To keep this question tractable here are a list of possible benefits someone can derive from being in a long term monogamous relationship / marriage. I’m sure there are more, but for discussion sake let’s work off the following list: 1. Emotional support - Provides comfort and support during trying times @@ -48405,10 +48405,10 @@ PurplePillDebate,1af7d3x,What benefits do you value most in a long term monogamo 8. Partner for chasing shared goals 9. Children -Please rank the above list and state whether you’re a man or woman.",,12,BuiltForTruth,1706669842.0 +Please rank the above list and state whether you’re a man or woman.",,12,BuiltForTruth,2024-01-31 02:57:22 PurplePillDebate,1aewt6q,"Society is finished, terminal stage","I think the reason men and women are so alienated is because we are in terminal stage of our society. Once even the most basic low level bonds between men and women are gone, that’s it it goes down to the most basic biological level, your society is finished -I believe we are right now in the 11th hour for America and much of the world, once things can’t go on they stop going on. The entire society is about to have a massive heart attack in fact I would argue we are having the heart attack right now",,48,a-child-of-mary,1706642530.0 +I believe we are right now in the 11th hour for America and much of the world, once things can’t go on they stop going on. The entire society is about to have a massive heart attack in fact I would argue we are having the heart attack right now",,48,a-child-of-mary,2024-01-30 19:22:10 PurplePillDebate,1aewai3,Red Pill analysis of relationship power dynamics between men and women inevitably leads to supporting ‘traditionalism’ or ‘patriarchy’ as it only thing that can theoretically limit or destroy ‘womens power.’,"I've made a previous thread about how it seemed tradcons have taken over the red pill movement and most commenters seem to agree that this was the case. I wanted to explore why that is and have some theories. One thing I found interesting when looking at the career trajectory of many prominent red pill figures is how many end going down the path of religious fundamentalism or alt right politics. I can think of several red pill figures who fit this profile - Rooshv, Sneako, Andrew Tate, Hearsite etc, so I think it's interesting phenomenon to examine. @@ -48423,7 +48423,7 @@ This is why I believe most red pill ideology inevitably leads to supporting trad Some redpillers who aren't as caught up on race, prefer Islam have the same impression. Some rather stay in the West and re-establish a patriarchy through political advocacy would prefer to go abroad where they can leverage their money and status to get a submissive woman, I saw many passport bros for example praising this [video](https://x.com/leamaric/status/1725497042603045361?s=46) of a western man buying a wife in Philippines village. -All in all, my big point is red pill ideology logically leads back to the support of traditionalism and patriarchy.",,38,SapphireRising225,1706641298.0 +All in all, my big point is red pill ideology logically leads back to the support of traditionalism and patriarchy.",,38,SapphireRising225,2024-01-30 19:01:38 PurplePillDebate,1afw1yf,Could atheism by the reason behind the alienation of men and women?,"Hear me out. The most famous romantic literature in the west has been written by Christians/Jews. From the Arthurian legends and Romeo and Juliet to the bible itself (e.g. Song of Songs). These are the works that inform our age old perceptions of romantic love. Even if you are an atheist, your cultural ideas about love and commitment come from Christians. CS Lewis has done a great job explaining the Christian view of [sex](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-RkZXZx6HCI) and [marriage](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7AXi4-_HPRk) in Mere Christianity. TL;DW Christianity endorses the long term quiet love that can be found in marriage over the quick thrill love that dominates our culture which consists of starting relationships, having sex and breaking up as soon as you no longer turn each other on. @@ -48433,7 +48433,7 @@ So, the question is: Could it be that our atheist society is trying to live out The fact is that atheist romance is selfish and hedonistic. An atheist marriage is as good as the orgasms it produces. When the intense romance of the first year fades away then they both conclude that interest between them has died and then shining object syndrome takes over. This, I think, is why a lot of people today don't bother with relationships at all. Relationships today are, in effect, a very tedious form of masturbation. They are built on purely selfish gratification and quick thrills. In religious societies, marriage and long-term commitment are considered the highest forms of love and this motivates even the shy and unattractive people in that society to improve themselves and seek out this higher love. This mode is also ideal for raising children which is why their birth rate is so high. From that perspective, Atheism is a defective gene (or meme more accurately). Religious societies always outbreed secular ones. -(Disclaimer: I am not saying that atheists cannot have happy relationships. What I am saying is that as a social trend, atheism seems to be correlated with an overall nihilism about life and long-term relationships)",,0,TimeConsideration336,1706743428.0 +(Disclaimer: I am not saying that atheists cannot have happy relationships. What I am saying is that as a social trend, atheism seems to be correlated with an overall nihilism about life and long-term relationships)",,0,TimeConsideration336,2024-01-31 23:23:48 PurplePillDebate,1af1rb1,The Best Way To Meet Women Based On Your Personal Attributes. (Statistics),"Yesterday, I sent out a link to a quiz which tells users the best way to meet women based on their personal attributes. Below is an analysis of the data based on 203 results, for those of you who are interested. I will not be posting the link here but you can find it by going to my page. **These are the responses from 203 people who have taken the survey. Here are the results:** @@ -48497,7 +48497,7 @@ Around half of people like going to bars while the other half does not. **What kind of relationship are you looking for?** -41.9% are looking for an exclusive relationship while 20.2% are ready to get married. 21.7% want to hookup while 16.2% are down for a one night stand.",,13,KingOnixTheThird,1706654582.0 +41.9% are looking for an exclusive relationship while 20.2% are ready to get married. 21.7% want to hookup while 16.2% are down for a one night stand.",,13,KingOnixTheThird,2024-01-30 22:43:02 PurplePillDebate,1aemitu,Are women not getting approached anymore?,"I have never been approached by a guy. Cause lack of approaching experiences I've been without a single kiss my entire life, my lips have never touched anothers. I have never turned down a guy, simply because nobody has ever asked me out on a date cause they wanted me. I'm quite shy, cause of it, case of introversion. Although when people get to know me, I am polite, and bubbly. I talk a lot, I love having in depth conversations, I love helping other people, I'm very loyal and so genuine. I don't go out often much though as an adult, since I don't drink or do drugs. It's harder to meet people in that early roaring 20s time. @@ -48506,14 +48506,14 @@ Sometimes I wonder if it's my nose, or if my face is just really unattractive, b At this point I think something might be wrong with me like I must be borderline ugly. Yet online friends (men, and women) will be shocked when they see photos of me, and get attracted to me, but I don't think I'm anything special. -How do you guys meet people? Any women experience something similar?",,83,ShouldBeSad,1706615046.0 +How do you guys meet people? Any women experience something similar?",,83,ShouldBeSad,2024-01-30 11:44:06 PurplePillDebate,1aetwqw,Do people really want marriage or just the photo ops of marriage?,"I came across this podcast and this clip stood out to me. I thought it was an interesting topic of discussion. The question is, Do people want marriage or just the image of marriage? In the clip he says that women are getting married because they want the wedding and a honeymoon to take pictures for. Men are getting married because they want to keep having sex with the woman or because it's what society says they should do. He mentions not disappointing your parents. But people don't want the everyday responsibilities of marriage. -https://streamable.com/3oyciy",,17,shadowrangerfs,1706635588.0 +https://streamable.com/3oyciy",,17,shadowrangerfs,2024-01-30 17:26:28 PurplePillDebate,1afjtvi,"Accepting the ""red pill"" framing is a trap","Hey there PPD. Been a while. I wrote one of the depthhub links quite some time ago (believe me, or don't, idc). I see little has changed. Like a black hole distorting and ultimately trapping light, TRP exists to subtly, inexorably bend the thoughts of those who interact with it into a tail-eating ouroboros of seductively simple, self-reinforcing bullshit. And it all starts with the choice of the name. @@ -48532,12 +48532,12 @@ There is no RP. There is no BP. There is the massive ocean of human thought, in Don't accept the framing, friends. I say from now on, TRP stands for ""tiny rancid puddle"". -Edit: Wow, so many comment downvoters. I'll take each as a concession.",,0,FatherFigureWB,1706713353.0 +Edit: Wow, so many comment downvoters. I'll take each as a concession.",,0,FatherFigureWB,2024-01-31 15:02:33 PurplePillDebate,1ael4di,Why do so many female offenders get a boyfriend/husband easily?,"Karla Homolka, Gypsy Rose Blanchard, Jordan Worth all found men with ease after they got released from prison. Okay, Gypsy Rose is an exception as her case was special. But the other two are monsters and there is no excuse. Elizabeth Holmes also found a man pretty easily after the Theranos scandal. We often hear about female hybristophilia. But why do some men date these women? -&#x200B;",,29,Novel-Tip-7570,1706609523.0 +&#x200B;",,29,Novel-Tip-7570,2024-01-30 10:12:03 PurplePillDebate,1aetoer,Some people are “relationship material” and others are just “casual sex/hookup material” and that’s okay,"I see this thought process all the time, given, the men on this sub are more vocal about it but both genders tend to get very butthurt about the idea of some people being seen as ‘relationship material’ while others are just seen as ‘casual sex and/or hookup material’ - and sure, while the terming may be a bit crude, it is true. Though there is this funny irony where more women tend to be pissed about not being relationship material, while more men tend to be more pissed about not being hookup material. @@ -48549,7 +48549,7 @@ With that being said, just cause some people view you as suitable for one side, For a lot of the guys pissed about not being hookup material and take that as a shot to your self worth, at the end of the day, people who are looking for hookup are looking for superficial fun, ie. you kinda have to be more outwardly attractive and get things going in the moment - the “slow build” literally makes no sense in this context as the objective is to just have sex and nothing else. Not being ‘hookup material’ isn’t an insult, it just isn’t in your strengths. (that being said if you find yourself being neither, then it’s probably worth some self reflecting) -For the women pissed about not being relationship material, I think it is worth asking yourself if the kind of guys you’re trying to get are a match for your values or lifestyle - cause if that fundamentally compatible, then a relationship straight up can’t happen. Don’t go looking for fish in a swimming pool. (of course, if all you seem to be doing is getting guys who just want to hookup - maybe ask yourself why that is the case and what you could do to surround yourself with better people or why you default to such men - and yes, there is the aspect of men faking interest for sex, and while that is an issue, once it becomes a pattern it does call for reevaluation of one’s self)",,6,KayRay1994,1706635033.0 +For the women pissed about not being relationship material, I think it is worth asking yourself if the kind of guys you’re trying to get are a match for your values or lifestyle - cause if that fundamentally compatible, then a relationship straight up can’t happen. Don’t go looking for fish in a swimming pool. (of course, if all you seem to be doing is getting guys who just want to hookup - maybe ask yourself why that is the case and what you could do to surround yourself with better people or why you default to such men - and yes, there is the aspect of men faking interest for sex, and while that is an issue, once it becomes a pattern it does call for reevaluation of one’s self)",,6,KayRay1994,2024-01-30 17:17:13 PurplePillDebate,1aebwju,The idea women are loved unconditionally,"Is both false and patronizing. It's been said frequently (on this sub) that only children, pets, and women are loved unconditionally. @@ -48560,40 +48560,40 @@ Second- are you seeing a possible pattern? Pets and children are loved unconditi In summation this is neither true nor something to strive for. -CMV.",,57,wouldbepandananny,1706577220.0 +CMV.",,57,wouldbepandananny,2024-01-30 01:13:40 PurplePillDebate,1aecf56,What is the actual reason why men get shamed for having preferences?,"I wanted to discuss this But why are men called names and shamed when they state what they prefer in a women? It seems when women state what they seek in a man they are encouraged and supported. But if a man wants a traditional women or wants a particular type of women he is often shamed and called names? -Is this due to modern society and feminism which has lead women to believe that they should be accepted for who they are regardless of any deficiencies? e.g. the fat acceptance movement/plus size model movement? Therefore feel personally offended when a man does not want a particular trait in a women?",,44,ShelterNo2786,1706578686.0 +Is this due to modern society and feminism which has lead women to believe that they should be accepted for who they are regardless of any deficiencies? e.g. the fat acceptance movement/plus size model movement? Therefore feel personally offended when a man does not want a particular trait in a women?",,44,ShelterNo2786,2024-01-30 01:38:06 PurplePillDebate,1aeehj4,How big of a concern would it be for you if your children/potential children reached adult age without any romantic success?,"So as someone who struggles pretty heavily with dating, I do get comments from my parents that indicate that they are somewhat disappointed that I haven’t been able to reach any milestones/have success in that area. While I have seen on Reddit parents say that they wouldn’t care if their child wasn’t that successful dating/they don’t think about that stuff, it seems a lot do agree that having successful romantic relationships/experiences are important. -So, if your kid had gone through high school/college etc with no dates, prom, romantic experiences, etc. would you be concerned or would you not think about it much?",,27,Last-Application-860,1706584620.0 +So, if your kid had gone through high school/college etc with no dates, prom, romantic experiences, etc. would you be concerned or would you not think about it much?",,27,Last-Application-860,2024-01-30 03:17:00 PurplePillDebate,1aen06t,Do people really want marriage or just the photo ops of marriage?,"I came across this podcast and this clip stood out to me. I thought it was an interesting topic of discussion. The question is, Do people want marriage or just the image of marriage? -https://streamable.com/3oyciy",,4,shadowrangerfs,1706616768.0 +https://streamable.com/3oyciy",,4,shadowrangerfs,2024-01-30 12:12:48 PurplePillDebate,1af2ef8,Is It real that Russian/ukranian women are goldiggers or they care about Money like every women?," I know women in general search for providers in relationships, I had some Russian women that made fun my job since It Is seen as non professional and also I dont earn that much. Some of them see that as something bad for your status too, they def would prefer saying ' I'm dating a doctor ' instead of dating a garbage man. -Lets be real and not politically correct,how important Is for estern european women to have someone who earn good Money?",,0,Dependent_Loquat2508,1706656162.0 +Lets be real and not politically correct,how important Is for estern european women to have someone who earn good Money?",,0,Dependent_Loquat2508,2024-01-30 23:09:22 PurplePillDebate,1afdbbl,“Males shouldn’t be jealous that is a female trait.” Jay-Z hit the nail on the head with that statement.,"As a guy, you’re supposed to embody that you’re the shit, getting jealous and being controlling is a woman’s job. You can’t stop a woman from cheating, but you can choose someone that has the same qualities that you have like character and integrity. Jealousy is so feminine, there shouldn’t be room in a man’s heart for that type of XX shit. I never worry about that shit because I know that I can always find someone else if it doesn’t work out. -I’m not going to beg and plead for a person to stay because she should be lucky enough to know that I chose her out of all the others, I’m the prize and I don’t have to worry about no 2nd best when I know I am the best, she’ll find out there.",,0,A-Problem-Eliminator,1706690228.0 +I’m not going to beg and plead for a person to stay because she should be lucky enough to know that I chose her out of all the others, I’m the prize and I don’t have to worry about no 2nd best when I know I am the best, she’ll find out there.",,0,A-Problem-Eliminator,2024-01-31 08:37:08 PurplePillDebate,1ae0rew,"Women base most of their “preferences” on trends and what is popular, and are far more influenced by what other women think than even their own instincts - the whole 6 foot thing is a perfect example","Women have always preferred taller men, but the explosion of social media and online dating have taken it to levels of absurdity, to the point that a large percentage of women now have it as a non-negotiable requirement regardless of what they themselves have to offer or how stubby they are (hence the memes of 4’11” women stating their requirement that men be 6’5.”) Take Jacob Elordi for example. The guy has a very weird looking face, like a 13th century European peasant, or a creepy doll or one of those mirror images of half of someone’s face. But boom 6’5” international heartthrob. Pete Davidson, Post Malone and MGK additional examples, guys look homeless. Then you have women desiring men who are taken or even married. It’s all about conformity and competitiveness rather than nature and instinct. Everything else is secondary. -Automod",,52,The-Loop,1706549115.0 +Automod",,52,The-Loop,2024-01-29 17:25:15 PurplePillDebate,1aea7ng,Are relationship worth it?,"In every single relationship the more responsibilities you get, the more privilege you get. Having more responsibilities without privilege is useless. @@ -48610,12 +48610,12 @@ Dear men, what do you think ? &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,17,Otherwise_Possible2,1706572510.0 +&#x200B;",,17,Otherwise_Possible2,2024-01-29 23:55:10 PurplePillDebate,1aewk3b,The number of women having casual sex is highly exaggerated,"Women are far less horny than men, and require a multitude of circumstances to get in the mood and actually agree to have sex. This idea that we live in some “hook up” culture and that women are sleeping with 30+ men by 25 is nonsense. Most people, both men and women have fewer than 10 partners their entire lives. This is for one reason and one reason only - women are not anywhere near as horny as men. If men could, they would sleep with as many women as possible. -Lastly, the idea that there is some behind the scenes orgy or ONE stud rotating dozens of chicks is also nonsense.",,0,The-Loop,1706641937.0 +Lastly, the idea that there is some behind the scenes orgy or ONE stud rotating dozens of chicks is also nonsense.",,0,The-Loop,2024-01-30 19:12:17 PurplePillDebate,1aexfcp,Being girlfriend zoned is worse than being sex zoned,"Being “girlfriend zoned” is worse than being classified as “sex only” for women. Men act like the worst thing that could happen to a woman is to be used for sex and then discarded or in a situationship with a man who doesn’t respect her. While those things do suck, usually the woman knows where she stands and knows not to do anything serious with the guy like have kids. And these dynamics usually do not last long. @@ -48625,7 +48625,7 @@ In fact, what’s worse is when a woman is classified as “girlfriend material Even worse is when the girlfriend does get married, but the husband doesn’t fully consider her his dream girl and will leave or cheat once the opportunity presents itself. Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher are an example of this. Another example is how Brad Pitt left Jennifer Aniston for Angelina Jolie -And if/ when the relationship falls apart, the woman gets treated poorly by men. She’s old, undesirable, and in even worse shape than the woman who was used for sex then discarded. She lost years of time over a few months of time. She may even end up a single mom. And men tell her she should have known better, picked better, etc.",,0,Economy-Shake-1448,1706644036.0 +And if/ when the relationship falls apart, the woman gets treated poorly by men. She’s old, undesirable, and in even worse shape than the woman who was used for sex then discarded. She lost years of time over a few months of time. She may even end up a single mom. And men tell her she should have known better, picked better, etc.",,0,Economy-Shake-1448,2024-01-30 19:47:16 PurplePillDebate,1ae0mak,Predictions for how the dating market will look 100yrs from now?,"Most developed nations have a birth rate that is 'below replacement level'. Japan is dealing with dying population problems that the USA will probably experience in the next century. It's clear that most women find most men unattractive and men are doing progressively worse with each new study that is published. We all know that a recession is coming. @@ -48638,7 +48638,7 @@ I just want to know what are the realistic consequences that we'll have to face. -",,28,jhunter2015,1706548775.0 +",,28,jhunter2015,2024-01-29 17:19:35 PurplePillDebate,1adyntt,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics **(must use np links for reddit)**, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -48657,26 +48657,26 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,12,AutoModerator,1706544009.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,12,AutoModerator,2024-01-29 16:00:09 PurplePillDebate,1aesifr,Why is it normalized for women to be irritable and thus yell at their partners when before they menstruate or are pregnant?,"Often it seems like hormones whether aware of them or not are either used as an excuse or they don’t know that they are losing their composure because they can’t introspectively analyze their actions. I’ve seen some TikTok’s that relate to this and the comments also have people who can empathize. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZPR3L3mH1/ In my experience with my partner it’s difficult to make her aware that she is irrationally angry with me when she doesn’t think that she is angry herself. She has trouble realizing her voice is incredibly loud even in public. She doesn’t understand that if she’s angry she needs to communicate how she feels. -I feel like it’s not uncommon either. I have 4 sisters who each experience similar symptoms and will act in irritable and destructive ways until my mom calls them out for their hormones before it’s just a silly thing to laugh about.",,0,oddkidmatt,1706632265.0 +I feel like it’s not uncommon either. I have 4 sisters who each experience similar symptoms and will act in irritable and destructive ways until my mom calls them out for their hormones before it’s just a silly thing to laugh about.",,0,oddkidmatt,2024-01-30 16:31:05 PurplePillDebate,1aeqnzr,Whose fault is it in a deadbedroom?,"Is the man to blame for not being attractive enough for the wife to be sexually aroused? The idea being that the wife imagined someone better and if the couple is not having sex, the husband is undesirable. Especially in today’s society of casual sex, the woman might have had sex with a former boyfriend or even casually hooked up with a conventionally attractive man (tall, muscular, athletic etc.). So if the marriage is sexless, it must mean that the woman sees the husband as someone sexually undesirable right? -Edit: I'm thinking maybe I need to refresh my stance. I was thinking on the lines I've read in Redpill content which says during young age women sleep with conventionally attractive men and later they marry a good provider guy despite low attraction. This guy gets less sex. That may be true in some cases but it may not be 100% accurate. ",,0,FixBlueBalls,1706627601.0 +Edit: I'm thinking maybe I need to refresh my stance. I was thinking on the lines I've read in Redpill content which says during young age women sleep with conventionally attractive men and later they marry a good provider guy despite low attraction. This guy gets less sex. That may be true in some cases but it may not be 100% accurate. ",,0,FixBlueBalls,2024-01-30 15:13:21 PurplePillDebate,1aei0kp,It’s become socially acceptable in America for women to lie about sexual abuse,"Reason I say this is because of very recent events show it. Vince McMahon is now being sued by his former escort and he is given no benefit of the doubt. He was forced off WWE board of directors. But with AEW the other major wrestling company they had a female lawyer rumored to be sleeping with the wrestlers. She also works as the lawyer for an NFL team. Yet she was defended when these rumors came to light. That is a double standard. Danny Masterson goes to prison for something he allegedly did 20 years ago without evidence just because women said so. Trevor Bauer gets cleared and it’s proven his accuser lied yet he can’t get a job in MLB. What about Brian Banks the star Iowa player who went to prison for years and his NFL career ruined and when his friends got the accuser to admit she lied nothing happened to her? -How can any one not see this?",,0,lostacoshermanos,1706596530.0 +How can any one not see this?",,0,lostacoshermanos,2024-01-30 06:35:30 PurplePillDebate,1adl61c,Q4W: Who is the most romantically/sexually unsuccessful woman you know? What’s their personality like? Describe her.,"We have a bunch of threads about examples of [chronically](https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/106gieo/who_is_your_most_unsuccessful_romantically_and/) [single men](https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/v7qj5i/women_do_you_know_any_sexually_less_than/) so I’m curious to hear from the other side. Ladies, who’s the most romantically unsuccessful woman you know in real life? Just has complete shit luck with men. A “femcel” if you will. @@ -48691,19 +48691,19 @@ Ladies, who’s the most romantically unsuccessful woman you know in real life? 5. Do you think it’s because of their looks or something else? Are they overweight? Ugly? -6. Are they bitter and angry about their success or have they mostly accepted it?",,25,TourAcrobatic3005,1706498088.0 +6. Are they bitter and angry about their success or have they mostly accepted it?",,25,TourAcrobatic3005,2024-01-29 03:14:48 PurplePillDebate,1ad3d56,"Why do women seem to get ""the ick"" over the most innocuous things these days?","* **man losing attraction because her labia is too big** *""pornsick coomer who doesn't know what a real woman's body looks like!""* * **woman getting the ick over a man doing slightly feminine thing** *""her* natural *defense mechanism which* is there for a reason"" -I'm not even gonna argue the validity of these ""turn-offs"" , to each their own. But if we can agree that men who consume a lot of high-production porn get their ideals molded to an extent by this type of media which sets a unrealistic expectation around female bodies and sex, then what type of media are young women these consuming for the ick trend to be such a thing even serious outlets are now writing about?",,176,HardTimes4Vampires,1706450694.0 +I'm not even gonna argue the validity of these ""turn-offs"" , to each their own. But if we can agree that men who consume a lot of high-production porn get their ideals molded to an extent by this type of media which sets a unrealistic expectation around female bodies and sex, then what type of media are young women these consuming for the ick trend to be such a thing even serious outlets are now writing about?",,176,HardTimes4Vampires,2024-01-28 14:04:54 PurplePillDebate,1ado1ji,What do you suppose influences hypergamy from in a systemic social context?,"I don't think it is a mystery at all to know what guys think is attractive and what they place a lot of value on. Mainstream media and society have pushed this longer than most of us have been born. However, I believe that society largely influences what we are attracted to, and how we go about our interactions with the opposite sex. However I am sure that I and a lot of other red pill guys thought that being nice to a woman or winning them over was what was necessary in order to attract or keep a woman. You have to be a gentlemen, you have to be nice, you have to make them feel special, and you have to win them over. I thought that courting women in that sense is what they ultimately wanted, and women were also alongside this social conditioning. Disney parroted this, Hollywood movies parroted this, parents did, and a large part of online did (WikiHow and YouTube) a couple years back until I was exposed to the Red Pill. The Red Pill showed me that this is what not the case, and it's the complete opposite in some cases. It exposed a side of female nature that I never knew existed, and it disgusted me a bit upon first impression. I felt like I was lied to for a long time, and I know a lot of dudes who have a similar experience may have felt that way before. Terms such as hypergamy, icks, sexual market place, high/low value \[insert gender\], are relatively new concepts to those who were recently ""blue-piiled"". However, I wonder if society was largely successful in influencing men's sexuality. Why did it completely backfire with women, and what is largely influencing them in the opposite way so quickly instead? You could say ""biologically"", but that is very simplistic and kills any further discussion. What does our society do to fuel it early on? -(Sorry for the TedTalk-like rant, I was trying to drive the point home with context.)",,9,KentuckyCriedFlickin,1706507356.0 -PurplePillDebate,1adj40g,Why do some people prefer casual sex while others prefer monogamy?,"I know that everyone has their own preference but why do people tend to gravitate toward one or the other? Even high profile men like Patrick Mahomes who didn’t need to “settle” to get laid decided to get married so young while others such as James Harden are in the club every weekend. What makes these people different? Is it how they were raised, biological, or just a matter of finding the right person?",,11,SnooPies6812,1706491960.0 +(Sorry for the TedTalk-like rant, I was trying to drive the point home with context.)",,9,KentuckyCriedFlickin,2024-01-29 05:49:16 +PurplePillDebate,1adj40g,Why do some people prefer casual sex while others prefer monogamy?,"I know that everyone has their own preference but why do people tend to gravitate toward one or the other? Even high profile men like Patrick Mahomes who didn’t need to “settle” to get laid decided to get married so young while others such as James Harden are in the club every weekend. What makes these people different? Is it how they were raised, biological, or just a matter of finding the right person?",,11,SnooPies6812,2024-01-29 01:32:40 PurplePillDebate,1ad20wk,"The gender divide has become undeniable , can anything be done to solve this?","The gender divide has become so obvious that the mainstream media is writing about it using stats and studies. [https://news.yahoo.com/americas-gender-war-105101201.html](https://news.yahoo.com/americas-gender-war-105101201.html) @@ -48714,7 +48714,7 @@ It also apparently doesn't affect only the US but other countries too. [https://twitter.com/FT/status/1750785919592927642?t=Z94d9Pm7qsTWjx1vfgRKEA&s=19](https://twitter.com/FT/status/1750785919592927642?t=Z94d9Pm7qsTWjx1vfgRKEA&s=19) -I personally think that dating dynamics are partially to blame for this. Many young men have probably come to the conclusion that the juice is not worth the squeeze. Can anything at all be done or will be reach the point of no return? Will men in the future have AI girlfriends and sex dolls and refuse to do any work above the bare minimum? Will single motherhood by choice become more common? Will it be like Japan and South Korea where young people barely have sex?",,101,Novel-Tip-7570,1706446371.0 +I personally think that dating dynamics are partially to blame for this. Many young men have probably come to the conclusion that the juice is not worth the squeeze. Can anything at all be done or will be reach the point of no return? Will men in the future have AI girlfriends and sex dolls and refuse to do any work above the bare minimum? Will single motherhood by choice become more common? Will it be like Japan and South Korea where young people barely have sex?",,101,Novel-Tip-7570,2024-01-28 12:52:51 PurplePillDebate,1ad9csy,"Those against the Red Pill, where should a man go for dating advice?","I think it's fair to say there are undesirable qualities about the red pill. But if your a guy who wants to improve his life and wants to be successful with women, where would you tell him to go? I see alot of ""just be yourself"" and ""it depends on the women as there is a no one size fits all approach"" @@ -48723,7 +48723,7 @@ But if you say RP advice is bad what should a man read INSTEAD? I think the trut Do you have any communities? Subreddits? Books? Websites? That have valuable information for men trying to become better men rather than the advice given in the red pill? -It's cool if you don't like the red pill but if you don't have a alternative solution to the problem I feel something is missing.",,35,xsxBEACHGODxsx,1706466626.0 +It's cool if you don't like the red pill but if you don't have a alternative solution to the problem I feel something is missing.",,35,xsxBEACHGODxsx,2024-01-28 18:30:26 PurplePillDebate,1adiibg,Q4M: Describe the type of male a traditional woman deserves?,"Inb4 *""hurr durr, a traditional man XD""* I'm asking you to DESCRIBE the guy. What should he bring to the table? @@ -48755,21 +48755,21 @@ Happy to follow his lead Manages the home and social calendar, etc -Surely you'd view this as a high value woman? What should she get for all that value?",,6,Windmill_flowers,1706490171.0 +Surely you'd view this as a high value woman? What should she get for all that value?",,6,Windmill_flowers,2024-01-29 01:02:51 PurplePillDebate,1ad666o,What Things do You Do to Support the Opposite Sex?,"Come on, I want to see some positivity this time around. How do you support the opposite sex? For me, I run a sex-ed webcomic that occasionally talks about male health besides talking about female health. I have previously given advice on things like prostate and testicular cancer, prostate exams, breast cancer (and I expressed how males can get it too), the importance of the foreskin, and regularly normalize the idea that man can get sexually assaulted too. Do you donate to charities for the opposite sex? Spread awareness of troubles they face? How do you help? -(And nothing self-disparaging ""They hate me, so I just avoid them to spare their eyes my ugliness"" or a passive-aggressive backhand ""they are useless, so I do everything for them"", please. Real positivity only).",,28,Makuta_Servaela,1706458550.0 +(And nothing self-disparaging ""They hate me, so I just avoid them to spare their eyes my ugliness"" or a passive-aggressive backhand ""they are useless, so I do everything for them"", please. Real positivity only).",,28,Makuta_Servaela,2024-01-28 16:15:50 PurplePillDebate,1ad65bh,Most Tradcons are just failed red pillers.,"Edit: I am only speaking about Tradcons who are in the manosphere or are red pilled. The honest truth is that most of the guys who are now claiming to be tradcons in the manosphere are just men who tried to use the red pill or other methods to tap into hookup culture but failed. Since they couldn't find a way to tap into hookup culture, they are now seeking ways to stop others from participating in it. That's why we are seeing so many of them invading the manosphere and pushing far right talking points like a complete ban on abortion, birth control restrictions, canceling no fault divorce and repealing the 19th ammendment. These men are trying to influence the government to change laws that will restrict women into having no other choice but to choose them as partners. They are the furthest thing from actually being traditional or conservative especially in regards to Christianity. Because as Christians we are supposed to show non-Christians through our words, lives and actions the benefits of living a Christian life that they will willingly want to become a follower of Jesus as well, not giving them no other option but to live by our faith. Also truly traditional men do not shame or persecute women for being promiscuous or living lifestyles that don't align with their own personal beliefs. They simply realize that those women are compatible with their beliefs and search for women that are. -What's happening in the manosphere also happened in the Passport Bro movement as well. The first men who called themselves ""Passport Bros"" were men who were actually looking for long term relationships with traditional women but couldn't find the women they desired in their lication, so they traveled outside of their native countries and sought out women from cultures and societies who's views and beliefs matched their own. There was no bashing of women who didn't fit their ideal whatsoever. Sexpats, MGTOWS and red pill guys latched onto the movement and made it about going to poorer countries for hookups. Thankfully, those men are being purged from the movement and it is getting back to what it was originally intended for, finding long term relationships with like minded women. The same thing needs to happen with fake tradcons and the manosphere.",,26,Wide-Illustrator2906,1706458492.0 +What's happening in the manosphere also happened in the Passport Bro movement as well. The first men who called themselves ""Passport Bros"" were men who were actually looking for long term relationships with traditional women but couldn't find the women they desired in their lication, so they traveled outside of their native countries and sought out women from cultures and societies who's views and beliefs matched their own. There was no bashing of women who didn't fit their ideal whatsoever. Sexpats, MGTOWS and red pill guys latched onto the movement and made it about going to poorer countries for hookups. Thankfully, those men are being purged from the movement and it is getting back to what it was originally intended for, finding long term relationships with like minded women. The same thing needs to happen with fake tradcons and the manosphere.",,26,Wide-Illustrator2906,2024-01-28 16:14:52 PurplePillDebate,1aderxx,"Reposted: Why I think the ""trad"" lifestyle is not a one-size-fits-all and forcing it is destroying society","**CMV** **Taken down but reposted with correct flair. Thank you mods for responding to me.** @@ -48794,7 +48794,7 @@ Regarding the religious fundamentalism aspect, a lot of people actually feel tra Anyways, I'm not saying all trad home maker women are depressed or all religious people are depressed. I'm just saying that using it as a mold to shove people into is destructive instead of constructive, especially when it involves bullying and coercion. It seems to be dividing our society more instead of creating a strong moral foundation, loving families, etc. -&#x200B;",,7,[deleted],1706480124.0 +&#x200B;",,7,[deleted],2024-01-28 22:15:24 PurplePillDebate,1ad4vn9,Men who feel their wives see them as Beta Male,"You probably get very less or no sex. You might feel that they settled for a safe option, but not anything romantic. Who do you feel about it? How do you deal thinking she isn't physically attracted to you but might have been eager for sex with someone else? @@ -48803,7 +48803,7 @@ Also, how soon into your marriage did you get this feeling? P.S. I'm from India and got arranged married just a few months ago. -Edit: She hasn't been ready for sex yet.",,25,FixBlueBalls,1706455117.0 +Edit: She hasn't been ready for sex yet.",,25,FixBlueBalls,2024-01-28 15:18:37 PurplePillDebate,1ad7mqz,"Ladies, what made you choose your boyfriend?","Me and some friends have been talking about this topic lately, and figured I'd get some more insight from more women. But first here is what we came up with @@ -48832,15 +48832,15 @@ Ladies who are taken, was it for any of these reasons? Was it a combination of multiple ones, if so which? -What reason do you think is most common?",,13,LastBlackSamurai99,1706462324.0 +What reason do you think is most common?",,13,LastBlackSamurai99,2024-01-28 17:18:44 PurplePillDebate,1actw49,Most women want socially liberal men who are capable of engaging in “benevolent misogyny “.,"Most women don’t like overt sexism, but they definitely do prefer men who are masculine, dominant, confident, and capable of acts of casual sexism. They don’t want a man who is a controlling social conservative, or a socially conservative guy without an edge. -They want a socially liberal man who is capable of sexually dominating them, and a man who can financially provide without telling them to stay home.",,94,DuetLearner,1706415120.0 +They want a socially liberal man who is capable of sexually dominating them, and a man who can financially provide without telling them to stay home.",,94,DuetLearner,2024-01-28 04:12:00 PurplePillDebate,1aczm7b,Men of PPD: Do you really find casual sex appealing?,"Not sure if I'm just the weird one but the effort-to-reward ratio is absolutely abysmal. And even in scenarios where it's easy, for every minute of pleasure, you're going to spend several minutes laying next to someone you don't even know and certainly don't care deeply about. -I just don't get it - is fucking a stranger really that much more satisfying that jerking off?",,30,Im_Unsure_For_Sure,1706436992.0 +I just don't get it - is fucking a stranger really that much more satisfying that jerking off?",,30,Im_Unsure_For_Sure,2024-01-28 10:16:32 PurplePillDebate,1ad43es,"Everybody talks about women going for confident assholes, but what about the ones going for pathetic losers? Let's talk about the ""nurse complex""","""Nurse complex"" is something I heard from a friend, not sure if he heard it from somewhere else. It's basically a hypothesis to try an answer a question. There are many women who are attracted to men who are not necessarily assholes, but by all accounts, would be told to ""work on themselves"" by bluepillers because they are a mess. @@ -48861,12 +48861,12 @@ So what are these men doing differently than other pathetic losers that don't ge Apparently you don't need to be healthy, you don't need to be too handsome, you don't need to be mature. What you have to do, is being an asshole in your whole right, not be afraid of showing how much of a shitty person you can be, so when you do show some bare minimum of kindness, it makes the Stockholm syndrome do the rest. -So what does the nurse complex teaches us? That this is the essence of it, being an asshole. Some will say they don't like this type of asshole and that's okay, but they will like another type of asshole apparently. Because if there is a type of man who is surrounded by women, it's always some type of asshole. If you see what kind of man women want in the erotica they read, it's assholes, with money, without money, with status, without status, but assholes everywhere.",,12,Brazil_doesnt_exist,1706452890.0 +So what does the nurse complex teaches us? That this is the essence of it, being an asshole. Some will say they don't like this type of asshole and that's okay, but they will like another type of asshole apparently. Because if there is a type of man who is surrounded by women, it's always some type of asshole. If you see what kind of man women want in the erotica they read, it's assholes, with money, without money, with status, without status, but assholes everywhere.",,12,Brazil_doesnt_exist,2024-01-28 14:41:30 PurplePillDebate,1ae08hx,Sexist people make the best partners.,"I have never dealt with a woman that would say that she likes men. My current fiance is typical in understanding that men are mostly just looking for sex. She thinks men can be violent assholes. She thinks I'm unique that I love her and care about her. That makes me feel special. It cures my doubt about dedicating to her. Women hate on men for being sexist. Wouldn't a misogynistic partner be the most loyal and dedicated? He thinks women are unbearable but he thinks you're worth his time which is why he is in a relationship with you. He sees you as a diamond in the rough. -Isn't that what's best for a monogamous relationship?",,0,babazuki,1706547886.0 +Isn't that what's best for a monogamous relationship?",,0,babazuki,2024-01-29 17:04:46 PurplePillDebate,1ad4h44,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics **(must use np links for reddit)**, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -48885,12 +48885,12 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,1706454015.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,2024-01-28 15:00:15 PurplePillDebate,1acsvtx,Someone complaining about their S.O. on social media or in a group chat is a huge red flag.,"Complaining in a group chat about a partner shows that a person has very poor relationship and communication skills. Worse, it demonstrates a fundamental disregard for the SO's privacy and a total lack of respect for the relationship. This in turn reflects a huge deficiency in understanding and respecting basic boundaries, which are obviously essential for maintaining respectful and trusting partnerships. Aside from showing a lack of empathy, maturity, and capacity for self-reflection, the act of seeking external validation for relationship issues also hints at underlying emotional dependency and insecurity. This over-reliance on external sources for support doesn't allow for the development of a mutually supportive and interdependent relationship. Furthermore, airing grievances publicly creates a barrier for the individual to change their stance or admit fault later on. This is because it involves managing not just personal feelings, but also the social perceptions and personal pride that are now mixed in. -If someone complains about their SO on group chats or on social media, it is a strong sign that the person isn't capable of a healthy relationship, regardless of the problems they may legitimately have in that relationship.",,30,8m3gm60,1706411903.0 +If someone complains about their SO on group chats or on social media, it is a strong sign that the person isn't capable of a healthy relationship, regardless of the problems they may legitimately have in that relationship.",,30,8m3gm60,2024-01-28 03:18:23 PurplePillDebate,1acppfv,“I’ll take Anyone at this Point”,"Was just hanging out with a buddy of mine who’s single but trying to get dates for a while. He said this to me after venting about not getting matches or failed attempts at in person approaches. @@ -48905,22 +48905,22 @@ Are some people really that desperate and at that point, or are they over exagge Is anyone on here also at the point where they would take anyone? Does that mean you’d take a someone extremely unattractive/overweight/no job just to have someone? -Moreover, what brought you to being so desperate?",,38,Disruptiionz,1706402297.0 +Moreover, what brought you to being so desperate?",,38,Disruptiionz,2024-01-28 00:38:17 PurplePillDebate,1acdwup,Have tradcons taken over the redpill?,"I've noticed a shift in the manosphere these past years. It use to be puas, sleeping with women and spinning plates were the dominant part but now it seems like tradcons who promote “traditional values” and finding traditional women is main thing. You can see that through movements like passport bros, rise in religious subcultures online like tradcaths, or support for far right politics. Roosh v is a good example of this, went from writing bang guides on how to have sex with women in different countries to denouncing that lifestyle and converting orthodox Christianity. Andrew Tate and Sneako are another example of this phenomenon as well. As this sector of the manosphere is growing I’ve noticed an increasing amount of reactionarty opinions particularly about women’s rights growing as well. Things like women shouldn’t vote, giving women the right to vote brought down western civilization, hating on women in college, calling any women who works a job a girl boss. Calling unmarried women pass the age 25 cat ladies, old hags, etc. Discussing women’s body count and virginity more openly. These aren’t just fringe figures spewing these opinions but prominent often rw influencers with millions of followers online. You even have politicians repeating this stuff. -So do you think tradcon have replaced the the old redpillers in popularity? If so, why do you think tradcons have been more successful in getting their message out?",,46,SapphireRising225,1706371049.0 +So do you think tradcon have replaced the the old redpillers in popularity? If so, why do you think tradcons have been more successful in getting their message out?",,46,SapphireRising225,2024-01-27 15:57:29 PurplePillDebate,1ac5jp5,I genuinely think people underestimate female toxicity,"We all know men can be toxic and subs like TwoX analyse toxic male behavior, like punching walls, being a deadbeat and a slob etc. However, I think people continuously underestimate female toxicity. Lots of women are lazy and make the one-sided decision to not work after they have a kid. But because being a SAHM is so common, nobody questions this or asks whether it was really a mutual decision or not. I have seen women throw massive tantrum to their boyfriends over a minor issue but nobody questions this and men don't complain because they're used to women behaving this way. If a man did this it would be seen as manchild behavior. -After divorce, people tend to take the woman's side no matter what happened and usually the man is blamed entirely for the divorce. I have seen people say ""a woman with kids wouldn't cheat if she didn't have a good reason"" or ""a woman with kids wouldn't initiate divorce if she didn't have a good reason"". Because of course women are perfect and always have a good reason for the things they do.",,190,Novel-Tip-7570,1706341236.0 +After divorce, people tend to take the woman's side no matter what happened and usually the man is blamed entirely for the divorce. I have seen people say ""a woman with kids wouldn't cheat if she didn't have a good reason"" or ""a woman with kids wouldn't initiate divorce if she didn't have a good reason"". Because of course women are perfect and always have a good reason for the things they do.",,190,Novel-Tip-7570,2024-01-27 07:40:36 PurplePillDebate,1acpez0,What year did women achieve equality?,"This is for any anti-feminist men in general, not just red pill. A common complaint is that while women, and feminists in particular, may have started out trying to achieve equality, they have since tipped the scales in women's favor and continue to push to do so, alienating men and, some claim, outright oppressing them. -What year do you believe women achieved equality and what is your reason or metric for believing so? It doesn't have to be an exact year, just a ballpark.",,8,Soloandthewookiee,1706401465.0 +What year do you believe women achieved equality and what is your reason or metric for believing so? It doesn't have to be an exact year, just a ballpark.",,8,Soloandthewookiee,2024-01-28 00:24:25 PurplePillDebate,1acykn1,"If your job skills were hopeless, would you rather be a sex worker or a housewife?","Let's say through some cruel trick of fate, you just can't make it in the job market. Your dreams of being an independent women are dashed. If you don't somehow exchange your body for money, you're not eating. Would you persue sex work if it was the only work available to you? Or would you try and make it as a homemaker, with the risks and limited autonomy that that entails? @@ -48929,7 +48929,7 @@ Considering there's 3 million verified creators on onlyfans now, it seems sex wo EDIT: ""unskilled"" labor isn't an option in this contrived hypothetical. Somehow no one will hire you as a waitress or a housekeeper or anything similar. -EDIT: ""going back to school"" isn't an option either. You need to eat.",,0,scwizard,1706432608.0 +EDIT: ""going back to school"" isn't an option either. You need to eat.",,0,scwizard,2024-01-28 09:03:28 PurplePillDebate,1ad2l2i,Would you LTR/marry a woman who has had an abortion?,"To add some constraints: - the pregnancy was not the result of a crime. @@ -48939,7 +48939,7 @@ I considered making this a question for men, but I’d rather open it up to anyo My personal take is I would not. I’m ambivalent about others nuking their kids, but I would not be with someone who did that to mine. Moreover, I’d prefer to experience pregnancy/the possibility of having a child for the first time with someone together. -Thoughts?",,0,No-Rough-7390,1706448255.0 +Thoughts?",,0,No-Rough-7390,2024-01-28 13:24:15 PurplePillDebate,1ac4km6,Is there a Lizzo Paradox™ for males?,"For those unfamiliar, it goes something like this: There are a group of women. @@ -48952,7 +48952,7 @@ Then the male says, *""Y'all kinda look like Lizzo""* The women do not take that well. -What exactly is happening here? Is there a similar Lizzo Paradox for males?",,90,Windmill_flowers,1706337346.0 +What exactly is happening here? Is there a similar Lizzo Paradox for males?",,90,Windmill_flowers,2024-01-27 06:35:46 PurplePillDebate,1acskl3,What do you think about MGTOW and WGTOW?,"Relationships seem very hard. There is constant conflict. There are men who believe women are terrible and vice versa. The ideologies of MGTOW and WGTOW promote men and women respectively being single and living by themselves. They don't need to worry about the troubles of relationships. @@ -48961,7 +48961,7 @@ For men, even if they are single, it may be hard for them to let go of their sex Women supposedly do not have sexual desires as strong as men, but if she does have sexual desires, she can masturbate as well. Women also supposedly have a strong desire to procreate, but just as a MGTOW can understand that sexual desire imprisons him, so too a WGTOW can understand that the desire to have kids imprisons her as well, so she can take steps to try to suppress her natalist instincts. Given that having a baby harms a woman's body and also prevents her from working and earning money, which makes her financially dependent on a man, motherhood is clearly extremely harmful for women, making them very vulnerable to abuse. Babies make women unproductive at work and makes her financially less valuable. Money is power. When women have babies or look after them, they make less money, so they have less power, so they get abused since variation in power tends towards exploitation. -It seems then that both men and women would benefit from going their own way.",,2,hodlbtcxrp,1706410914.0 +It seems then that both men and women would benefit from going their own way.",,2,hodlbtcxrp,2024-01-28 03:01:54 PurplePillDebate,1ac7iqc,(Re-upload) What do y'all think of this excerpt about radicalisation in the manosphere?,"Chen Sheng was an officer serving the Qin Dynasty, famous for their draconian punishments. He was supposed to lead his army to a rendezvous point, but he got delayed by heavy rains and it became clear he was going to arrive late. The way I always hear the story told is this: Chen turns to his friend Wu Guang and asks “What’s the penalty for being late?” @@ -48986,7 +48986,7 @@ Actually, that word – “radicalized” – conceals what is basically my exac Yet somehow, when the manosphere is being terrible people and commiting terrible atrocities, the only explanation offered is that “you must hate all women” must appear in some sura of the Male Quran. -https://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanceless/",,36,lolcope2,1706349404.0 +https://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanceless/",,36,lolcope2,2024-01-27 09:56:44 PurplePillDebate,1ad3uco,"Casual Sex: Popularity of straight-up paying ""civilian"" single women for sex?","Broadly speaking, casual sex can be divided into two groups: non-transactional sex and transactional sex. The two stereotypes here are hookup culture and sex workers. OnlyFans has broken this stereotypical view, despite administrative account controls. @@ -48995,7 +48995,7 @@ A number of single men here earn enough money to be able to straight-up approach The more women flood to online means of facilitating casual sex (to pay off student debts), the more this avenue of casual sex becomes more popular. -So, how popular is this really now? Also, how many men here might be interested in f****** an OnlyFans chick instead of going through the motions of drunk hookup culture?",,0,FromAuntToNiece,1706452165.0 +So, how popular is this really now? Also, how many men here might be interested in f****** an OnlyFans chick instead of going through the motions of drunk hookup culture?",,0,FromAuntToNiece,2024-01-28 14:29:25 PurplePillDebate,1acbfnh,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics **(must use np links for reddit)**, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -49014,7 +49014,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,1706364017.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,2024-01-27 14:00:17 PurplePillDebate,1ac0lqb,Why do women on this sub often say that they are not attracted to promiscuous men?,"This needs to be discussed. Women on this sub often say they are not attracted to promiscuous men. They are not attracted to ""players"" and ""fuck boys"". @@ -49025,22 +49025,22 @@ If a man is promiscuous there must be something of value that grants him access Is it correct to say that the majority of women are actually attracted to ""players"" and ""fuck boys"" hence why they are ""fuck boys"" because they are highly promiscuous? How can a women say that they are not attracted to such men, yet these same men are sleeping with the majority of women? It does not make sense to me. -A man who is promiscuous is desirable. A man who isn't is likely not. A women to say that herself and her girlfriends would prefer a non promiscuous man would be the equivalent of saying that they desire a man who is not desirable. ",,45,ShelterNo2786,1706324126.0 +A man who is promiscuous is desirable. A man who isn't is likely not. A women to say that herself and her girlfriends would prefer a non promiscuous man would be the equivalent of saying that they desire a man who is not desirable. ",,45,ShelterNo2786,2024-01-27 02:55:26 PurplePillDebate,1acfdhj,LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD,"&#x200B; [Please Join Us on Discord!](https://discord.gg/3aHh4trC7B) Include your reddit username, pill color, age and gender when you arrive in the welcome mat to introduce yourself and help people get to know you. &#x200B; -You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,2,AutoModerator,1706374864.0 +You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,2,AutoModerator,2024-01-27 17:01:04 PurplePillDebate,1ac45yf,How would you know if your partner was cheating?,"Goes for any gender, many a times you are separated for short week long times perhaps to visit family in another country or vacation. How would you know about if your partner was taking the time away for other thrilling short term relationships? I feel as if it isn’t necessary known the extent to which infidelity exists because I feel like it could be something easy to hide if you have a strong trusting relationship with your partner. -Perhaps I’m just skeptical or anxious about what my partner could do while away.",,12,oddkidmatt,1706335816.0 +Perhaps I’m just skeptical or anxious about what my partner could do while away.",,12,oddkidmatt,2024-01-27 06:10:16 PurplePillDebate,1abral3,What are some of your 'favorite' societal contradictions?,"Note: Favorite doesn't mean that you like it or that you want it to stay this way forever. If anything, you probably hate it and would like to see it leveled/reformed. Doesn't have to be gendered (but given this sub, it probably will be). -And by societal, it doesn't have to be comprehensive. For example, dating in rich communities are different than poor communities, dating <25 is different than >40, etc. So it could be a niche contradiction within your subset of society.",,24,Purple_Cruncher_123,1706299025.0 +And by societal, it doesn't have to be comprehensive. For example, dating in rich communities are different than poor communities, dating <25 is different than >40, etc. So it could be a niche contradiction within your subset of society.",,24,Purple_Cruncher_123,2024-01-26 19:57:05 PurplePillDebate,1abjsiz,Society seems to assign womanhood virtue.,"&#x200B; **First : The perception of victimhood** @@ -49091,10 +49091,10 @@ Some of the women here have such terrible personalities that they would be incel They just happen to be tolerated in their relationships and assume that that means that they are better people than they actually are. They assume that the men struggling are worse people than they are. And they assume that the men struggling deserve their lot in life -Its all very ironic. At least it is to me",,54,AdEffective7894s,1706279894.0 +Its all very ironic. At least it is to me",,54,AdEffective7894s,2024-01-26 14:38:14 PurplePillDebate,1ab6iwm,"Most girls are genuinely repelled by truly kind men, you have to have some degree of asshole in you or they will get bored","Women are ultimately turned off by overly wholesome or kind men. This phenomenon has been obfuscated by women angry at the growing awareness of this among the male population, especially since the growth of the internet and TRP becoming mainstream. -The entire conversation has been hijacked by feminists who now have a hair trigger response to any man even daring to use the word “nice,” rushing to assure them they are not in fact “as nice as they think.” This is obviously a nonsense deflection, as these are two entirely different things - men feigning kindness in exchange for sex are a completely separate unrelated issue.",,159,The-Loop,1706233432.0 +The entire conversation has been hijacked by feminists who now have a hair trigger response to any man even daring to use the word “nice,” rushing to assure them they are not in fact “as nice as they think.” This is obviously a nonsense deflection, as these are two entirely different things - men feigning kindness in exchange for sex are a completely separate unrelated issue.",,159,The-Loop,2024-01-26 01:43:52 PurplePillDebate,1abgmtf,"Why do men not tell other men to be vulnerable, AND, why do women tell men to be more vulnerable, en masse?","Do men tell other men **not to be** vulnerable because of: 1. Men believe that when they are vulnerable, women will be turned off by them and instead of opening up Pandora's box and seeing what happens, they'd rather not anyways \[when they are vulnerable\]. @@ -49105,7 +49105,7 @@ Do women tell other men **to be** vulnerable because of: 1. It's necessary to express emotions when going through chaos and turmoil. You have to express them or you'll bottle it in. 2. It's a shit test and women want to see if the guys actually 'crack' -3. Other?",,22,sniper1905,1706270068.0 +3. Other?",,22,sniper1905,2024-01-26 11:54:28 PurplePillDebate,1abo2m1,“genuinely kind guy” is a rebrand of the “nice guy”,"I’ve seen a few posts as of late and a number of comments suggesting that someone isn’t a nice guy, he’s a genuinely kind guy and therefore women only like assholes. I find this hilarious because the rhetoric being spread IS nice guy rhetoric - its like nice guys saw that people caught up to their games and changed their wording after a bunch of people said “be a genuinely kind person, don’t be nice” @@ -49122,7 +49122,7 @@ To be very clear - I am not saying men can’t be genuinely kind, in fact, peopl -(and i think i’ll throw this in too, im waiting for the “you said be nice, and now you’re questioning me so you told me to be kind instead, i am kind and now you’re moving the goal posts again!” - if you feel that way, re-read the post.)",,8,KayRay1994,1706290812.0 +(and i think i’ll throw this in too, im waiting for the “you said be nice, and now you’re questioning me so you told me to be kind instead, i am kind and now you’re moving the goal posts again!” - if you feel that way, re-read the post.)",,8,KayRay1994,2024-01-26 17:40:12 PurplePillDebate,1abcfjb,Men erroneously confuse being confident with being an asshole with the whole nice guy/asshole dichotomy and women,"All you have to do is understand is that confidence is the most important personality trait when it comes to not only attracting a mate, but friends and people in general. That's it. Confidence. You don't have to be a cocky asshole to be confident. I believe the confusion comes from the fact that so called assholes are perceived as more confident, whereas the guys they think are ""nice guys"" tend to be more self-depreciating. @@ -49177,7 +49177,7 @@ One comment I read also had some good insight >""So I feel like you\&#039;re conflating several dimensions of personality to put men into two simple categories, when in reality a majority don\&#039;t fit into either. The \&quot;big five\&quot; personality traits are openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. Your nice guy stereotype is probably low on openness (doesn;t want to try a lot of new things, may be seen as boring), high on conscientiousness (thoughtful, good impulse control), low on extroversion (not very social), high on agreeableness (prioritizes the needs of others, not argumentative), and may go either way on neuroticism (emotional instability). Your asshole stereotype would be the exact opposite.However, how many people that you know personally (Im talking family, close friends) really fit perfectly into either of these? From a distance, I\&#039;d say a lot do. Close up, I think I know none, maybe one at most.Extraversion probably helps the most with dating, followed by openness. So if our nice guy is lacking in those, yes he will struggle, whereas if the asshole is low on conscientiousness and agreeableness but high on the aforementioned traits, he will still do better. That much I agree on. But there are also many other combos, and I don\&#039;t believe all outgoing, open guys are \&quot;actually bad people.\&quot; Seems like black and white, \&quot;all or nothing\&quot; thinking to me."" -&#x200B;",,37,EsotericRonin,1706252513.0 +&#x200B;",,37,EsotericRonin,2024-01-26 07:01:53 PurplePillDebate,1abhs8e,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics **(must use np links for reddit)**, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -49196,20 +49196,20 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,11,AutoModerator,1706274019.0 -PurplePillDebate,1abvdf6,"Do virgin women still have ""value"" or is it something ""from the past""?","In almost all the ambients, there are virtually no virgin women. Being virgin makes you, more often than not, unable to relate to most of your peers. Also, it even gets in the way of some accomplishments, because most women talk about their ""exes"" and you don't have anything to contribute to the talking, making you some kind of a ""pariah"". So, my question is: do virgin women still have something to be proud of?",,0,sadbitch55,1706309343.0 -PurplePillDebate,19fjscd,Would you care if your gf hung out with guys she’s slept with in the past?,"If you started dating a new woman and she let you know she had some guy friends she’s slept with in the past, would that be a deal breaker for you?",,20,d4rkw3b5,1706216558.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,11,AutoModerator,2024-01-26 13:00:19 +PurplePillDebate,1abvdf6,"Do virgin women still have ""value"" or is it something ""from the past""?","In almost all the ambients, there are virtually no virgin women. Being virgin makes you, more often than not, unable to relate to most of your peers. Also, it even gets in the way of some accomplishments, because most women talk about their ""exes"" and you don't have anything to contribute to the talking, making you some kind of a ""pariah"". So, my question is: do virgin women still have something to be proud of?",,0,sadbitch55,2024-01-26 22:49:03 +PurplePillDebate,19fjscd,Would you care if your gf hung out with guys she’s slept with in the past?,"If you started dating a new woman and she let you know she had some guy friends she’s slept with in the past, would that be a deal breaker for you?",,20,d4rkw3b5,2024-01-25 21:02:38 PurplePillDebate,1ac05ya,"Men having lower standards of cleanliness is not a ""flaw""","I see women often criticize men for not cleaning up as much as they would like, and use this as a reason to blame him for a relationship/marital breakdown. This is nothing short of pure solipsism, different people have different standards of cleanliness and there's nothing wrong with that. So long as he's not nagging you about cleaning(how often do you see that happen?), it's just a difference in an aesthetic preferences. -If you don't want to live with a man because you think they're too messy , that's fine and it's your right, but it doesn't mean he's done anything wrong. If you can't compromise then you're just not compatible. **Men aren't bad people for not meeting your expectations.**",,0,AI_CODE_MONKEY,1706322762.0 +If you don't want to live with a man because you think they're too messy , that's fine and it's your right, but it doesn't mean he's done anything wrong. If you can't compromise then you're just not compatible. **Men aren't bad people for not meeting your expectations.**",,0,AI_CODE_MONKEY,2024-01-27 02:32:42 PurplePillDebate,19flsbz,What are your opinions on the exredpill community?,"Do you guys agree with the exredpill reddit or are you vehemently opposed to it? I personally am more leaning towards the exredpill community because they have scientifically thoroughly debunked common redpill beliefs? I also think that the redpill is toxic to both men and women? -What are your opinions on this?",,12,bigflame123,1706221922.0 -PurplePillDebate,1abvlp0,Telling small d men to be good at oral amd fingering is emasculating,"Telling small penis men to be good at oral and with their hands is more emasculating than telling them to accept what they have and their situation. Not being good as the big dick guy, because oral and fingering is additional to PIV, not the main part of sex. Otherwise, it will almost be lesbian sex. No woman will say ""we had sex"" after a guy just eats her out and fingers her, even though she orgasmed. It's more sad for the guy, almost telling him not to use his penis because it can't please women.",,0,KeyFollowing1529,1706309942.0 +What are your opinions on this?",,12,bigflame123,2024-01-25 22:32:02 +PurplePillDebate,1abvlp0,Telling small d men to be good at oral amd fingering is emasculating,"Telling small penis men to be good at oral and with their hands is more emasculating than telling them to accept what they have and their situation. Not being good as the big dick guy, because oral and fingering is additional to PIV, not the main part of sex. Otherwise, it will almost be lesbian sex. No woman will say ""we had sex"" after a guy just eats her out and fingers her, even though she orgasmed. It's more sad for the guy, almost telling him not to use his penis because it can't please women.",,0,KeyFollowing1529,2024-01-26 22:59:02 PurplePillDebate,19fcloz,"Dating advice, therapy bait-and-switch","Edit: It seems that I am shadow banned site wide, but I'm not sure why. No one gave me any warnings. **I would love to respond to your comments but I've been shadow banned across the whole website. None of my comments replying to you are showing up. The PPD mods have muted me from DM-ing them. There is nothing I can do about it.** Often people will do a bait-and-switch when the current topic is dating, but the advice-giver suggests therapy. Here's how it usually goes: @@ -49238,12 +49238,12 @@ Often people will do a bait-and-switch when the current topic is dating, but the - them: I don't think you want help. You just want to wallow in your misery. You just want to complain. Your problem is your victim mindset. You know that you aren't entitled to women, right? Besides, getting laid isn't a big deal anyway. Plenty of people are happy being single and you can be too. I'm done talking to you, go away, stop complaining. -... Anyway, that's about how it goes. Do you have anything new for me?",,44,Ok-Principle-3785,1706198404.0 +... Anyway, that's about how it goes. Do you have anything new for me?",,44,Ok-Principle-3785,2024-01-25 16:00:04 PurplePillDebate,1abfamx,Why do you use makeup?,"What is the reason behind it? Isn't your natural beauty enough? -Some women on this sub either say they're doing it because of the ""patriarchy"" and because society forces them to do so. Some say they are doing it for themselves and because it is fun. But what about you?",,2,-snickerss-,1706264811.0 -PurplePillDebate,19fkxsy,"Ladies be honest, how many of you are truly interested in dating an older man?","I ask this question because it seems to me that men love younger women to the point where it seems like they have an obsession with dating us. So, I wonder do young women feel the same way about older men?",,7,VickiLynnRose,1706219766.0 +Some women on this sub either say they're doing it because of the ""patriarchy"" and because society forces them to do so. Some say they are doing it for themselves and because it is fun. But what about you?",,2,-snickerss-,2024-01-26 10:26:51 +PurplePillDebate,19fkxsy,"Ladies be honest, how many of you are truly interested in dating an older man?","I ask this question because it seems to me that men love younger women to the point where it seems like they have an obsession with dating us. So, I wonder do young women feel the same way about older men?",,7,VickiLynnRose,2024-01-25 21:56:06 PurplePillDebate,1abwoae,Should women be more proactive in promoting pro-male ethical non-monogamy?,"Should women be more proactive in promoting pro-male ethical non-monogamy? I have argued that late bloomer men are entitled to have sex outside of committed relationships while within committed relationships, up to and including extramarital sex. Unironically. @@ -49258,14 +49258,14 @@ Examples: 2) Women with higher libidos offer FMF threesomes to their high-libido male partners, even before marriage. This would include non-overweight single mothers offering to do so for their late bloomer male partners. -3) Women with higher libidos offer the swinging lifestyle to their high-libido male partners, even before marriage. With this, late bloomer men should have less of an excuse to have retroactive jealousy.",,0,FromAuntToNiece,1706312774.0 +3) Women with higher libidos offer the swinging lifestyle to their high-libido male partners, even before marriage. With this, late bloomer men should have less of an excuse to have retroactive jealousy.",,0,FromAuntToNiece,2024-01-26 23:46:14 PurplePillDebate,19f036e,CMV: The sex positives on this subreddit are interested in normalizing cheating behavior.,"After looking at the cheating type posts on this subreddit I am beginning to think the sex positivites in this subreddit reddit want to push the boundary between male and female friendship. As a disclaimer I am not against male and female friendships and I think they are good to have. So like one lady was like I trust my man to sleep in same hotel room with a women and other people should as well. Another lady said my man should be ok with going to strip club. Then she goes on to explain sex positivity and how we should teach kids sex is natural. I found that odd and unrelated. They all sound like they think they are morally superior than people who are uncomfortable with those things. On the relationship subreddit I saw a post about his wife going clubbing and didn't return around six am without telling him. Or another one where she always talks about her male coworker and how much she cares about what he thinks of her. This also true when gender are reversed. I saw a post about op complaining her boyfriend follows insta girls and the comments just gaslight her. -These are not cheating behaviors but at the very least people should be suspicious of these things without judgment and be able to communicate in a healthy way. If things don't work out then it's ok to move on. We don't owe people who don't share our values a relationship .",,83,[deleted],1706154282.0 +These are not cheating behaviors but at the very least people should be suspicious of these things without judgment and be able to communicate in a healthy way. If things don't work out then it's ok to move on. We don't owe people who don't share our values a relationship .",,83,[deleted],2024-01-25 03:44:42 PurplePillDebate,1abfnem,"Should late bloomer men insist hard on ""starter girlfriend"" status or not?","Should late bloomer men insist hard on ""starter girlfriend"" status or not? What phases of a committed relationship should these relationship virgins, aged 35-45, spell out for ""starter girlfriends""? Exclusivity? Living together? @@ -49276,7 +49276,7 @@ What phases of a committed relationship should these relationship virgins, aged I am posting this because there's another DO40 thread by another woman inquiring about a male relationship virgin. -As someone with a fearful avoidant attachment style, I would probably insist on ""living together"" arrangements at my place and not my hypothetical SO's place, even if she were a homeowner. She can then rent out her place. Simply put, I don't want to pay much higher rents if a relationship fails.",,0,FromAuntToNiece,1706266287.0 +As someone with a fearful avoidant attachment style, I would probably insist on ""living together"" arrangements at my place and not my hypothetical SO's place, even if she were a homeowner. She can then rent out her place. Simply put, I don't want to pay much higher rents if a relationship fails.",,0,FromAuntToNiece,2024-01-26 10:51:27 PurplePillDebate,19f7qd1,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -49295,12 +49295,12 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,1706184012.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,2024-01-25 12:00:12 PurplePillDebate,19f7zqz,"CMV: Most Red Pillers (TRP) are actually the most defeatist of all the ""Pills""","This is in context to the recent battle between trad cons and TRPs online. Trade cons point out that TRPs generally are very hedonistic and create the very world they despise. They ""spin plates"" but in that sense create lots of pain and traumatized women in the process. TRPs general response is ""no point in fighting the system"" etc, which is in stark contrast to the ethos of their philosophy (masculinity, never giving up, solving problems, leadership etc). And this is why I think they are more black pilled than even the most staunch black pillers. I've noticed this for years now that many of them don't ever try to do anything on mass. Many are very individualistic and don't try to collectively enact political change to address their perceived grievances. They basically end up in utilitarian thought loops. I think this is because the content creators actually secretly don't want the problems to disappear thanks to the economic incentives of their career. And their audiences slop it right up without challenging it much. That's why I think the RP is unsustainable and is why I left it years ago. -What say you all?",,7,MOProG2,1706184934.0 +What say you all?",,7,MOProG2,2024-01-25 12:15:34 PurplePillDebate,19ep2b9,Who is your favourite example of positive masculinity?,"For me it is “The Brockton Blockbuster” Rocky Marciano. Marciano is probably the toughest boxer of all time. He is the only boxing heavyweight champion in history to retire undefeated and triumphed over more skilful opponents through determination and sheer courage. @@ -49313,7 +49313,7 @@ Yet he never lost his humanity he 3) Was deeply upset when he seriously injured an opponent. After he put Carmine Vingo into a coma, Marciano paused his career until Vingo recovered, then later invited Vingo to his wedding. -4) He was a devoted family man, retired early to spend more time with them and frequently declined lucrative offers to step back in the ring.",,55,PowerBaseSlam,1706124918.0 +4) He was a devoted family man, retired early to spend more time with them and frequently declined lucrative offers to step back in the ring.",,55,PowerBaseSlam,2024-01-24 19:35:18 PurplePillDebate,19ekvnb,Why can't women take an L?,"[All women are 10s?](https://youtu.be/PQtdOuD4cLc?si=VgY_kWjIwnj5Nvjo) So in the video there's a lot of things hoe\_math covers, but I think the ""all women are 10s"" extends beyond just them ""thinking"" they are all 10s. @@ -49322,31 +49322,31 @@ So in the video there's a lot of things hoe\_math covers, but I think the ""all * **Disguising their status lowering behavior**: Women will manipulate the truth so that it doesn't detract from their status. Examples are ""*all bodies are beautiful* (for women, not men)"", or ""no man has ever asked my bodycount, or ""I have a high bodycount and still landed a HVM"", or ""pumping and dumping doesn't exist if I don't believe in being slut shamed"". To blatantly deny reality or act as if their value has not been lowered in any way when they very clearly know it has; to save status. * **Delusion**: I don't actually believe that this many women are truly delusional, however there are a good chunk of women who are. I think this is a deliberate tactic to try to increase a low value woman's value, while maintaining that all men are not equal. -This is why I believe that women refuse to take an L in dating. If women would like to prove me wrong, take an L right now. Tell us the things that lower your value.",,79,SlowEffective8146,1706113223.0 +This is why I believe that women refuse to take an L in dating. If women would like to prove me wrong, take an L right now. Tell us the things that lower your value.",,79,SlowEffective8146,2024-01-24 16:20:23 PurplePillDebate,19f2xxi,"Men, describe your “Sex Zone”.","Pretty much the title. Describe the Sex Only Zone and what parameters you feel puts a woman in the Sex-Only Zone. I’ve already got my parameters Lol, I just wanna know yours and I’ll watch the nuclear war in the comments🍿. -And ladies , how do you feel about the sex zone , the concept of it, and these guys parameters?",,3,DevThaGodfatha,1706164000.0 +And ladies , how do you feel about the sex zone , the concept of it, and these guys parameters?",,3,DevThaGodfatha,2024-01-25 06:26:40 PurplePillDebate,19ef1s3,Most of what gets called “manipulation” and “grooming” seems to be just seduction people don’t like,"lets be honest here; in the west women not only have almost a complete autonomy when it comes to picking their partners, they have also reached economic independence, are outpacing men in higher education and pretty much have all the necessary socio-political tools to decide on what terms they are going to enter or end a formal or informal relationship. I am not claiming this, women themselves are quite proud of not needing no men to marry anymore. simultaneously with this greater autonomy they are increasingly percieved by others and sometimes even themselves as victims of circumstance. The word “grooming” people thorw around like a power-phrase by a scaremongering republican on a campaign trail in the 1980s was always understood as the act of an adult establishing a relationship with a minor for sexual purposes. Today its just applied on consensual relationships between adults with whatever age gap the accuser personally finds “inappropriate”. -people especially seem confused about the cognitive capabilities of young adult women: a 21 year old woman choosing an abortion is seen as empowered in her ability to do so (by left leaning progressive at least), a 21 year old woman falling for a much older guy is a “victim” of manipulation. This makes no sense, but our broader culture states this between the lines.",,124,HardTimes4Vampires,1706095995.0 +people especially seem confused about the cognitive capabilities of young adult women: a 21 year old woman choosing an abortion is seen as empowered in her ability to do so (by left leaning progressive at least), a 21 year old woman falling for a much older guy is a “victim” of manipulation. This makes no sense, but our broader culture states this between the lines.",,124,HardTimes4Vampires,2024-01-24 11:33:15 PurplePillDebate,1ab7hnj,Q4W: Would you have an issue with men showing off their penises?,"So a question I have for women is how they would feel about men showing their penises off. I'll give a couple examples: 1. A male high school teacher who wears pants that are designed to accentuate his penis? 2. A coworker who wears pants that are low cut in the front showing off a little bit of the base. 3. A man at the gym who wears extremely short shorts that let his balls every so slightly hang out. -What would your honest opinion be about these situations? What if anything should be done about this?",,0,FutureBannedAccount2,1706236208.0 +What would your honest opinion be about these situations? What if anything should be done about this?",,0,FutureBannedAccount2,2024-01-26 02:30:08 PurplePillDebate,19efo7r,Male surplus is a problem,"Since 2015, the male surplus in Sweden has only increased. It is most pronounced among the younger age groups. In 2021, the number of men between 20 and 24 years old was 13 percent higher compared to women of the same age. Put simply, there were 53 percent men and 47 percent women. These are unprecedented differences. When young men outnumber women in the same age group, exclusion increases on the marriage market. The young men who do not finish school today and never get a job are the first ones who will be chosen out. This group grows in line with the male surplus. For men lacking other forms of capital—social and economic—only violence capital remains in the end. CBS News https://www.cbsnews.com › news -Sweden struggles with first gender balance shift in 267 years",,61,Electronic-Pool-7458,1706098245.0 +Sweden struggles with first gender balance shift in 267 years",,61,Electronic-Pool-7458,2024-01-24 12:10:45 PurplePillDebate,19er3si,Question for RedPill about households where each spouse works full-time,"Many of us agree that it should be possible to support a family and own a home on a single income. Though not impossible, it can be difficult to make that work in today's economy. My understanding of the right-wing perspective on this is that men and women have different traits and are more suited towards different roles, men being the earners and women being the home-keepers/child-rearers (complementarianism). Different work for the husband and wife, but in theory it's balanced. Many families, regardless of beliefs, choose to have both parents work full-time, often due to economic constraints. There is still a lot of work that needs to be done at home. @@ -49357,7 +49357,7 @@ If you and your spouse are conservative and both work full-time, how are househo \---------------------------- -Edit: To clarify, this question is directed towards conservative people, red pill or not.",,11,nailsatan,1706129904.0 +Edit: To clarify, this question is directed towards conservative people, red pill or not.",,11,nailsatan,2024-01-24 20:58:24 PurplePillDebate,19ervhl,Odds are you won’t be your partner’s “sexist” or “best in bed” - and that’s okay,"To get this out of the way, i’m not talking about beta buxing - while I do think such a thing is real, that’s not what i’m talking about, and i’m gonna get why later. @@ -49374,20 +49374,20 @@ Now, say you meet someone - you’re compatible in nearly every way, and sexuall Here’s a thing though, there is a reason why the best lay isn’t in this person’s life anymore, because while sexually your partner and this person were, let’s say 100% compatible, that compatibility was lacking in every other aspect. But let’s say you and your partner are at 60%ish sexual compatibility, and very compatible in other dimensions - guess which of the two makes for a better, stronger, relationship? -“but that’s just beta buxxing” - not really, while it can cross to that territory fairly easily if you’re not careful, just ask yourself if you’re actually compatible with your partner in multiple aspects, or if you’re settling cause you don’t want to be alone. Does your partner genuinely love and respect you? Does your partner support you? if the answer is yes, you’re not being beta buxxed.",,4,KayRay1994,1706131788.0 -PurplePillDebate,19efs45,"What is less intimidating to a woman, going on a coffee date or going jogging together if you live near one another?","Just to build rapport, see what happens. Basically this would be if you know each other in passing, but not yet very well. My opinion would be the jogging but I don't know. That is why I am posting here.",,4,dannyboyd34,1706098635.0 +“but that’s just beta buxxing” - not really, while it can cross to that territory fairly easily if you’re not careful, just ask yourself if you’re actually compatible with your partner in multiple aspects, or if you’re settling cause you don’t want to be alone. Does your partner genuinely love and respect you? Does your partner support you? if the answer is yes, you’re not being beta buxxed.",,4,KayRay1994,2024-01-24 21:29:48 +PurplePillDebate,19efs45,"What is less intimidating to a woman, going on a coffee date or going jogging together if you live near one another?","Just to build rapport, see what happens. Basically this would be if you know each other in passing, but not yet very well. My opinion would be the jogging but I don't know. That is why I am posting here.",,4,dannyboyd34,2024-01-24 12:17:15 PurplePillDebate,19dtci2,"Women on Reddit do not represent normal, every day girls and so the dialogue and “blue pill” opinions here are irrelevant to most men","It’s really very simple: most men struggle to some degree now after 10 years of havoc wreaked by social media & online dating. Naturally, with the censorship of big tech and the me-too witch hunts, the only option many men are left with for venting is anonymous message boards which Reddit has a monopoly on. Women, on the hand, do not have these problems. Although they may have different dating problems, they pale in comparison to men’s struggles and having much lower sex drives they do not *need* men the way men need women. Furthermore, only a very small subset of extremely unfortunate women truly struggle to find a mate. This removes the psychological impact and therefore very few if any reasonably attractive or well adjusted, “mainstream” women would have any reason to be lurking in an anonymous “pill forum.” -As such, any and all opinions given by women here should be taken with a grain of salt and mostly do not apply to the women most of the men here are interested in.",,110,The-Loop,1706029942.0 +As such, any and all opinions given by women here should be taken with a grain of salt and mostly do not apply to the women most of the men here are interested in.",,110,The-Loop,2024-01-23 17:12:22 PurplePillDebate,19ed6uz,Do things become easier when you are a high-value man?,"Hello It’s been a while since this space has been constantly talking about high-value men. Have things become easier now that you are actually a high-value man? High-value being, very high up in the male-dominance hierarchy, at least your bank account is quite hefty and does beat your peers. -I’m just curious if things actually get easier dealing with women once you reach the high-value man status.",,6,UVIV,1706088309.0 +I’m just curious if things actually get easier dealing with women once you reach the high-value man status.",,6,UVIV,2024-01-24 09:25:09 PurplePillDebate,19eej4g,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -49406,7 +49406,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,4,AutoModerator,1706094029.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,4,AutoModerator,2024-01-24 11:00:29 PurplePillDebate,19dtnwm,"Women, how often do you make a guy (you like) wait for sex while having an active FWB on the side?","So… I’m usually the FWB on the side, so to me it seems like all women do this. I know my view is probably skewed, but I’m curious to know how common it is. My dating profile explicitly says I’m looking for casual hookups. So clearly that’s who I match with. @@ -49429,13 +49429,13 @@ Do most of you women always have an active FWB to meet your needs while you’re I’d appreciate your perspective -Thanks",,63,d4rkw3b5,1706030851.0 +Thanks",,63,d4rkw3b5,2024-01-23 17:27:31 PurplePillDebate,19dpur8,"""They're only being nice because they want sex"" - yeah, and there is nothing wrong with that","Isn't that what most guys are doing? Do women think these so called ""Chads"" out there just want a platonic relationship and just happen to get sex as a coincidence?! Hell no, they're being nice to women to get sex, too. When people see someone they're attracted to they will be on their best behavior. It's completely normal to be like this. Most single heterosexual males with a healthy libido aren't going to seek out women for strictly platonic friendships. Sex just feels too good to leave it at that. -The difference between ""Chads"" and the ""nice guys"" is their success rate, nothing else, its not their tactic, but failure which separates the ladies man from the ""nice guy"" whose same actions get judged retroactively. The ""nice guy"" failing to get the girl is upona rectroactive judgment always in the wrong: if he approaches a women with the upfront intent to ask her out, he is a ""nice guy"" for treating women as potential romantic targets not getting to know them as ""regular people"" first, if he goes the get-to-know-as-friends first route, he is trying to weasel in her pants through by concealing his true motive.",,93,HardTimes4Vampires,1706020727.0 +The difference between ""Chads"" and the ""nice guys"" is their success rate, nothing else, its not their tactic, but failure which separates the ladies man from the ""nice guy"" whose same actions get judged retroactively. The ""nice guy"" failing to get the girl is upona rectroactive judgment always in the wrong: if he approaches a women with the upfront intent to ask her out, he is a ""nice guy"" for treating women as potential romantic targets not getting to know them as ""regular people"" first, if he goes the get-to-know-as-friends first route, he is trying to weasel in her pants through by concealing his true motive.",,93,HardTimes4Vampires,2024-01-23 14:38:47 PurplePillDebate,19dodvn,CMV: Bluepillers don't actually care about self improvement.,"I'm as blackpilled as they come and I'll admit that self improvement can work. However, bluepilled guys here seem to think that its GUARANTEED to work and if it doesn't, you are just a lazy slob. The don't actually care about self improvement, only if you are successful or not. Bluepillers would praise a successful manipulative redpill guy over an honest guy who gave his best but failed. -What happened to the CMV flair btw?",,74,flakybottom,1706016408.0 +What happened to the CMV flair btw?",,74,flakybottom,2024-01-23 13:26:48 PurplePillDebate,19dsism,"What are some partner behaviors that are commonly considered cheating, but you don't (or otherwise don't mind)?","Is there any type of behavior from your partner that's commonly considered cheating, but you either (a) don't consider it cheating & would therefore allow it or (b) do consider it cheating, but would allow it nevertheless? I'll give some examples. Relating to a fetish: @@ -49456,9 +49456,9 @@ Relating to desperation: * If you are desperate to a point where you don't want to lose your partner because you fear you wouldn't find someone else, so you tolerate cheating -Do any of these apply to you? Or any more of this sort?",,11,brilliant22,1706027774.0 -PurplePillDebate,19dkx45,What are things you hate about other women?,"Men have things they hate about women, women have things they hate about men, I as a man have things I hate about other men. I've had enough seeing men ranting about women on this sub every day, so that's why I want to ask women: What do you hate about other women? For example, what makes a girl ""pick-me"" ? What traits, behaviours etc. have you seen in other women that you hated? ",,30,-snickerss-,1706003502.0 -PurplePillDebate,19dvow9,Is it seen as ungrateful or a bad choice to decline sex?,I feel bad for people who don’t get it but want it. But what about the other way around?,,5,pizzafish-,1706035778.0 +Do any of these apply to you? Or any more of this sort?",,11,brilliant22,2024-01-23 16:36:14 +PurplePillDebate,19dkx45,What are things you hate about other women?,"Men have things they hate about women, women have things they hate about men, I as a man have things I hate about other men. I've had enough seeing men ranting about women on this sub every day, so that's why I want to ask women: What do you hate about other women? For example, what makes a girl ""pick-me"" ? What traits, behaviours etc. have you seen in other women that you hated? ",,30,-snickerss-,2024-01-23 09:51:42 +PurplePillDebate,19dvow9,Is it seen as ungrateful or a bad choice to decline sex?,I feel bad for people who don’t get it but want it. But what about the other way around?,,5,pizzafish-,2024-01-23 18:49:38 PurplePillDebate,19dl19s,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -49477,7 +49477,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,9,AutoModerator,1706004017.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,9,AutoModerator,2024-01-23 10:00:17 PurplePillDebate,19ds3e9,I think this is a good definition of a “high value man”. What do you think ladies?,"People often don’t like to use the terms “high value” when talking about dating because it can dehumanize people that don’t fit into that particular criteria, and by doing so it goes against our egalitarian sensibilities in the 21st century. However, with that being said, the reality of sexual selection in humans is often a brutal pill for some people to swallow, especially if you don’t fit into that criteria yourself. When I think of what makes a man “high value” to the opposite sex, I think it’s pretty simple actually from an evolutionary perspective, and I think it’s kind of hard to argue against this definition. Let me see how you ladies respond to this definition. To me, a high value man (as it relates to the dating/mating scene) is a man that other men want to be (emulate, strive to be like, look up to), and that lots of women want to fuck (whether or not the man exercises those options or not). @@ -49486,14 +49486,14 @@ Doesn’t that make fuck boys high value? Well yes to a degree it would make the Ladies who are in a relationship right now, I have another question for you. Do other women find your man attractive? Before you got into a relationship with this man, were other women giving him choosing signals and pining after him? Does it make you feel good that your man has lots of options when it comes to women, but he chooses not to exercise those options and instead chooses to commit to you? Doesn’t that fact that other women find him attractive and a catch make you feel good? Would you feel the same about your current man if no other woman thought he was desirable as a mate? Wouldn’t it turn you off if the man you are currently with had no other options with women and was only with you? It would make you feel like he’s desperate and you’re the only person who would put up with him right? So you see my point… pre-selection is a powerful force and I stand by my original definition of what a high value man is. -A high value man is simply a man other men want to be, and that lots of women want to fuck. Period. Whether or not he’s a good long term mate is beside the point, I’m talking from a sexual selection/evolutionary perspective. Curious on your thoughts and do you agree or disagree? Thanks! ☺️",,0,know_your_self_worth,1706026710.0 +A high value man is simply a man other men want to be, and that lots of women want to fuck. Period. Whether or not he’s a good long term mate is beside the point, I’m talking from a sexual selection/evolutionary perspective. Curious on your thoughts and do you agree or disagree? Thanks! ☺️",,0,know_your_self_worth,2024-01-23 16:18:30 PurplePillDebate,19crnxv,What is a red pill and a blue pill opinion you have?,"My red pill opinion: LOTS of women are sexually attracted to bad boys. -My blue pill opinion: Wanting to date a younger woman because she's more ""malleable and can be trained"" will lead to heartbreak for everyone. I am not against age gap relationships on principle but this is a toxic mindset that will likely not work out well for you.",,64,Novel-Tip-7570,1705914935.0 +My blue pill opinion: Wanting to date a younger woman because she's more ""malleable and can be trained"" will lead to heartbreak for everyone. I am not against age gap relationships on principle but this is a toxic mindset that will likely not work out well for you.",,64,Novel-Tip-7570,2024-01-22 09:15:35 PurplePillDebate,19da27x,What do you consider cheating?,"So I think we all can agree that any intimate or sexual contact of any kind with someone you're not dating is cheating.... But I think cheating starts way before the physical aspect... For me cheating is this... Anytime you knowingly seek attention or approval from a member of the opposite sex that is not a family member ( by this I mean seeking your dad's approval over a guy or a dude seeking his mom's approval over a girl) so for example if you are a couple and you go out to a club or bar with our your SO that's cheating women dress up for bars and clubs with the intent of getting attention and free drinks... Men go to these to try and get laid... So I present to you this example ( I'll present a male and female scenario) for the men if your lady goes out dressed to kill knowing what goes on in bars, so if shegoes and she lets a man buy her a drink is that cheating? Now for the ladies if your man goes out with the guys dressed up and he comes back and tells ya the next day that he only bought a drink for a girl is that cheating? -My thoughts process is this cheating never starts off as immediately physical for men it's playful flirting and women is flirting and fantasies...",,4,Gold_Supermarket1956,1705966726.0 -PurplePillDebate,19cioux,"Why do many women say age gap relationships have a ""power imbalance"" yet say nothing about wealth gap relationships?","I have seen many women(especially single women) complain that a man dating a younger women(18-24) is ""preying"" on these women and there is a power imbalance. Yet I've never seen these women criticize wealth gap relationships. Many often seek them. How is a wealthy, attractive man dating a broke, average/below average woman, not a massive power imbalance? He financially holds her up. One can argue ""it's biological"", but so is men seeking younger women. Is it really just jealousy because they see the younger woman as competition, or is there more to it?",,165,Enzo-Unversed,1705883949.0 +My thoughts process is this cheating never starts off as immediately physical for men it's playful flirting and women is flirting and fantasies...",,4,Gold_Supermarket1956,2024-01-22 23:38:46 +PurplePillDebate,19cioux,"Why do many women say age gap relationships have a ""power imbalance"" yet say nothing about wealth gap relationships?","I have seen many women(especially single women) complain that a man dating a younger women(18-24) is ""preying"" on these women and there is a power imbalance. Yet I've never seen these women criticize wealth gap relationships. Many often seek them. How is a wealthy, attractive man dating a broke, average/below average woman, not a massive power imbalance? He financially holds her up. One can argue ""it's biological"", but so is men seeking younger women. Is it really just jealousy because they see the younger woman as competition, or is there more to it?",,165,Enzo-Unversed,2024-01-22 00:39:09 PurplePillDebate,19crgeu,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -49512,7 +49512,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,9,AutoModerator,1705914026.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,9,AutoModerator,2024-01-22 09:00:26 PurplePillDebate,19cktkn,"What advice would you give your daughters when it comes to dating, marriage and family formation?","Would you raise them like you expect them to be members of the upper class or would you raise them like you expect them to like the average woman in your community? What advice would you give her when it comes to picking guys, sustaining stable marriages and healthy families? Would you tell them that WFH/flexible jobs would be better if they want to have a family? @@ -49523,7 +49523,7 @@ Would you put more effort to prevent them from engaging in lower class behaviour Would you homeschool them? -Or would raise them like you expect them to be a member of the top 20% (ex: by sending them to private school, surrounding them by high status members of society)?",,22,AethertheEternal,1705890247.0 +Or would raise them like you expect them to be a member of the top 20% (ex: by sending them to private school, surrounding them by high status members of society)?",,22,AethertheEternal,2024-01-22 02:24:07 PurplePillDebate,19c64r5,“Don’t bother a woman at [location]. She’s just there to [do activity].”,"1. ""Don't bother a woman at the bar. She's just there to have a drink with her friends."" 2. ""Don't bother a woman at the store. She's just there to shop."" 3. ""Don't bother a woman at the library. She's just there to read."" @@ -49531,7 +49531,7 @@ PurplePillDebate,19c64r5,“Don’t bother a woman at [location]. She’s just t the problem with this is that unless you're on a dating app, you can't really obtain consent without bothering the person first (reading the room can be difficult as one woman just friendly could be another woman's obvious flirting) , the very act of approach is asking whether there she will agree to something more -- is asking for consent -- -Every approach can be construed as problematic when it is from the eyes of a woman who isn't welcoming to a mans advances -- no matter how polite it is, how fast he reads her cues of disinterest and backs off is never enough . This is why women keep piling up rules that lead men not to approach them at all: they star s with don't approach at work, but outside professional settings is ok, then we get but don't bother me in the park walking my dog or while running errands cause its ""weird"" , so they suggest bars and night-clubs, but then they're just there to enjoy a night out with their friends and really don't appreciate men hitting on them either...",,136,HardTimes4Vampires,1705851815.0 +Every approach can be construed as problematic when it is from the eyes of a woman who isn't welcoming to a mans advances -- no matter how polite it is, how fast he reads her cues of disinterest and backs off is never enough . This is why women keep piling up rules that lead men not to approach them at all: they star s with don't approach at work, but outside professional settings is ok, then we get but don't bother me in the park walking my dog or while running errands cause its ""weird"" , so they suggest bars and night-clubs, but then they're just there to enjoy a night out with their friends and really don't appreciate men hitting on them either...",,136,HardTimes4Vampires,2024-01-21 15:43:35 PurplePillDebate,19cjtvv,What do you think is the cause for this to happen?,"I've seen this in real life and also online stories of this happening. This might be too difficult to answer A man who is married, who loves his wife and children, the man works 70 hours a week, works super hard, provides for his wife/children, claims he also helps tremendously with the house work, does whatever the wife says/wants, takes out the children and looks after them as well, panders to his wife/kids and then....... @@ -49548,12 +49548,12 @@ Is it because women get bored with guys like that? Honestly, this is one of my greatest fears of getting married, i just can't imagine how heart broken i'd be if i was in that situation, where i gave so much to someone only for them to just decide their feelings have changed and they want to leave. -So what actually is the cause of this? sorry it's a very broad question, not sure if there is an answer to this",,20,ShelterNo2786,1705887229.0 -PurplePillDebate,19cq44l,Serial killer infatuation,Why do you think certain girls are attracted to serial killers such as Jeffrey Dahmer etc. It's my understanding that they get an Fan mail and things like that.,,8,Writing_Good,1705908177.0 +So what actually is the cause of this? sorry it's a very broad question, not sure if there is an answer to this",,20,ShelterNo2786,2024-01-22 01:33:49 +PurplePillDebate,19cq44l,Serial killer infatuation,Why do you think certain girls are attracted to serial killers such as Jeffrey Dahmer etc. It's my understanding that they get an Fan mail and things like that.,,8,Writing_Good,2024-01-22 07:22:57 PurplePillDebate,19cj2xa,Prenup a red flag?,"Normally when men tell women to sign a prenup, its consider red flag, but when women tell men to sign a prenup, its consider a green flag, why is there major double standard? Thoughts came from this video -https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H7wcg-1MRY0",,14,nsfwlucifer,1705885090.0 +https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H7wcg-1MRY0",,14,nsfwlucifer,2024-01-22 00:58:10 PurplePillDebate,19cbn48,Why do women love testing men,"Here are some challenges I've seen in the reasoning behind it. Would your partner peel an orange for you: if not he will not work hard for you. Does your partner know how to clean up ketchup If not he's incompetent. @@ -49566,7 +49566,7 @@ I know how to clean up ketchup. But if I didn't that's probably just a skill iss And these stupid questions are just stupid. Would I love you as a snail no because you're a snail. If you cry because I wouldn't love you as a style then you're just mentally unsound. Then reality testing your partner over menial things that sometimes don't have a direct causation to real things is a terrible thing and it feels like it's normally done by women. -Edit: if you have ever said "" you should know why I am angry with you"" when they ask why are you upset then you have tested/ player games too",,36,sayitallsecret,1705865818.0 +Edit: if you have ever said "" you should know why I am angry with you"" when they ask why are you upset then you have tested/ player games too",,36,sayitallsecret,2024-01-21 19:36:58 PurplePillDebate,19c5ha1,"outside of some obvious exceptions, having no friends is a red flag","Outside of some obvious exceptions - ie. no flag when you just moved to a new city or a yellow flag when you’ve just started to socially get yourself together or when you’ve just had a falling out for external reasons (ie. if your friends betray you or drop you due to political differences) - not having friends should be considered a red flag. @@ -49577,11 +49577,11 @@ For one thing from a personal pov, having friends is at least some kind of indic From a relationship based pov, people with no friends are usually worse communicators, more likely to develop an unhealthy attachment with you, will potentially circle their whole life around you and will very likely have a ton of insecurities and internal issues that you will be thrown right in the middle of. -So honestly, if you don’t have any friends - maybe it isn’t time for a relationship? maybe you should focus on why you don’t have friends and rectify that before dating?",,56,KayRay1994,1705850038.0 +So honestly, if you don’t have any friends - maybe it isn’t time for a relationship? maybe you should focus on why you don’t have friends and rectify that before dating?",,56,KayRay1994,2024-01-21 15:13:58 PurplePillDebate,19c1kk2,Are women the primary motivator in most men's lives?,"Seen a lot of non-blue pillers say that if men learnt the true nature of women, they would give up on society and only care about ""surviving"". Seems like it's [already happening](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hikikomori) in Japan. -How true is this though? Would men just really become NEETs once you take women off the table? Is the sex drive and the desire to have a family what motivates most men? Would society start to... collapse?",,63,-snickerss-,1705836988.0 +How true is this though? Would men just really become NEETs once you take women off the table? Is the sex drive and the desire to have a family what motivates most men? Would society start to... collapse?",,63,-snickerss-,2024-01-21 11:36:28 PurplePillDebate,19c4ylc,What are your thoughts on settling? How many people do you think settle? Do you have an experience settling or being settled for?,"I would define settling as ""better than nothing"". It something that is acceptable but it's not what you truly want. It might be out of many reason like running out of time to have children, for money, out of despair, for the sake of not being alone... Any reason other than genuine love and desire is settling. If it's based on logic and/or convenience and not genuine love and desire, it's settling. If you are not over your ex and choose someone as a second best, as consolation prize, it's settling It has nothing to do with ""alpha / beta"", nothing to do with ""value"". Those things are not measurable and not universal. So it's based on your personal subjective feelings and preferences. If you truly love your person you're not settling even if there exist taller, richer, whatever ""better"" people. If you don't dream about someone else (imaginery or real) you are not settling. If it's genuine love and desire it's not settling. It's based on your subjective feelings, not some measurable objective standards. @@ -49596,10 +49596,10 @@ Would you settle, have you settled, were you settled for? I just think that settling is not a nice thing to do because you have to essentialy lie to the other person, pretend that you love them. And I could never do it. And being settled for would also break my heart if I loved that person. Maybe mutual settling might be fine if both really want to have a family for example. -I'm interested to hear what are everyone's thoughts on settling.",,21,Objective_Ad_6265,1705848547.0 +I'm interested to hear what are everyone's thoughts on settling.",,21,Objective_Ad_6265,2024-01-21 14:49:07 PurplePillDebate,19c3fjt,Which one is correct?,"1. You need to have your own life, own hobbies, be happy and fulfilled. Dating someone won’t fulfill your needs. It won’t make you more happy. -2. Being lonely and single is bad for your mental health. You need to be in a relationship.",,17,DownwardSpiral_2000,1705843774.0 +2. Being lonely and single is bad for your mental health. You need to be in a relationship.",,17,DownwardSpiral_2000,2024-01-21 13:29:34 PurplePillDebate,19bvhbs,Why I believe Men are unsympathetic towards Women's grievances in dating.,"I believe there are 2 MAIN reasons for this. @@ -49619,22 +49619,22 @@ That is also VERY PREVALENT in PPD as well. I hope I shed some light on the topi Also feel free to challenge this rhetoric and provide thorough reasoning for a counterclaim. -Can't wait to see u guys' responses.",,76,ej_theraider,1705813005.0 +Can't wait to see u guys' responses.",,76,ej_theraider,2024-01-21 04:56:45 PurplePillDebate,19czysr,Pretty girls don't have it as easy as you think (although they definitely have it easier than most men),"Another banger from Hoe_math, it's no wonder he's blowing up on tiktok, his metacognitive skills are top notch. Anyway, i want to add a couple caveats to his analysis: 1) This is predicated on the assumption that these top women want to lock down a man they feel is on their level - probably a safe assumption in the majority of cases. For those top level women who don't care about LTR's, this analysis doesn't matter. 2) Pretty women still have more LTR options than he lets on. A female 10 who can lock down a male 7 who is financially stable/educated/conscientious/family oriented is, IMO, is a winner, long term. This is predicated on the assumption that women care about not JUST looks, but other things as well. -https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HYd1-enPujU",,0,AdmirableSelection81,1705941916.0 +https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HYd1-enPujU",,0,AdmirableSelection81,2024-01-22 16:45:16 PurplePillDebate,19bwr6n,Would you be a beta bucks?,"I already asked the ladies this question so now I really want to hear from the men. With everything you now know about alpha fuxs/ beta bucks, would you be a beta bucks? Let's say certain types of girls wouldn't give you the time of day in the past, or were just too difficult to deal with and wasted your time. Now a couple of years later you been hitting the gym, landed that good job/business, got a hot car, etc. Now those ladies from the past are a little older, Don't look as good as they used to, been around the block, and maybe a single mom too. Things didn't work out with her and Chad or the types of guys she used to date are all gone and now you're the best option (she believes) she can get. -Will you get with her? Also do you think many guys will still get with her now that so many guys are Red Pill aware?",,5,GhettoJamesBond,1705817450.0 -PurplePillDebate,19biqe8,Is approaching women something men are stopping to do? Is it also frowned upon? Also is male sexuality demonized?,"Please don’t say women only like it when it’s a high value man or an alpha. Jesuchrist I’ve read that a million times. I just want to have a fun, spicy discussion. Anything that’s not a research study cannot be taken seriously I guess. I would appreciate it if you used papers and discussed methodology.",,46,_RichardHendricks_,1705776510.0 +Will you get with her? Also do you think many guys will still get with her now that so many guys are Red Pill aware?",,5,GhettoJamesBond,2024-01-21 06:10:50 +PurplePillDebate,19biqe8,Is approaching women something men are stopping to do? Is it also frowned upon? Also is male sexuality demonized?,"Please don’t say women only like it when it’s a high value man or an alpha. Jesuchrist I’ve read that a million times. I just want to have a fun, spicy discussion. Anything that’s not a research study cannot be taken seriously I guess. I would appreciate it if you used papers and discussed methodology.",,46,_RichardHendricks_,2024-01-20 18:48:30 PurplePillDebate,19byeuy,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -49653,7 +49653,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,3,AutoModerator,1705824021.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,3,AutoModerator,2024-01-21 08:00:21 PurplePillDebate,19bjrpf,"Do you believe in the idea of ""just be her first?""","I started this as a post in the daily chat, and the replies there seem to warrant a bigger discussion. Q4W: Do you agree with alpha-widow hypothesis? Do you think, based either on your experience or your friends, that the first good sexual relationship leaves a big imprint that is hard to move on from? @@ -49662,7 +49662,7 @@ In my years I've met various women who are kind of floundering in the dating wor I also tend to notice that most happily married women are with someone they met when they were young. There seems to be something that can be said about meeting your potentially lifelong partner when you're young. -So, is the idea of ""just be her first"" actually a lot more important than some people like to let on?",,27,OtPayOkerSmay,1705779170.0 +So, is the idea of ""just be her first"" actually a lot more important than some people like to let on?",,27,OtPayOkerSmay,2024-01-20 19:32:50 PurplePillDebate,19bo389,The Red pill and Manosphere is based on possibility and not probability,"The Red pill says that they are based on probability and not possibility, but i think it's the opposite, and im going to explain why. The Red pill tells men that they should wait until they are 35-40 old when they are financially stable to get married, and find a girl in her prime (18-25 old) to marry and start a family. The problem is the chances of this happening are very low. @@ -49690,7 +49690,7 @@ Of course the Red Pill doesn't care about these statistics because they don't be So knowing these statistics and data, what is the probability that a man over 35 years old can get a girl between 18 and 25 years old who does not care about the age difference, wants to get married and have children already at that age and that marriage doesn't end in divorce? I'm not saying that it can't happen, just that the probability is very low, and advice should be based on probabilities, not possibilities. -What is your opinion?",,12,No_Leopard_6074,1705790583.0 +What is your opinion?",,12,No_Leopard_6074,2024-01-20 22:43:03 PurplePillDebate,19bhstj,Which do you feel a woman values more?,"Here is a question mainly targeted towards men, however women can answer as well, it's open. Most guys seem to pull validation from a girl who sees them as attractive enough to hook up with, without having to commit their life to them. I think some guys feel insecure and want to believe they are attractive (it's okay to be insecure but it's not okay to let it affect your personal life and decisions) @@ -49711,14 +49711,14 @@ One, I know there are sometimes in-between situations, and everyone is different Two, I'm not saying women don't have any value in a relationship outside of sex, and or the potential of children, this is just a very simplified question, and any assumptions you place on it really says more about you and your world views than mine. -Three, clarifying again, this is a very simple situation, and ofc doesn't cover everyone wants and needs. Some people might prefer to never settle down. Some people might prefer to never have hook ups. Some do both, or neither yadayadayada",,17,LastBlackSamurai99,1705774098.0 +Three, clarifying again, this is a very simple situation, and ofc doesn't cover everyone wants and needs. Some people might prefer to never settle down. Some people might prefer to never have hook ups. Some do both, or neither yadayadayada",,17,LastBlackSamurai99,2024-01-20 18:08:18 PurplePillDebate,19boobt,"Women, what do you think is your responsibility in a relationship?","The situation is **you're with a man you really want to keep**. We are talking about things **you're** responsible for. This means you can't say stuff like - ""It's my responsibility to hold *him* accountable to *his* responsibilities."" That doesn't qualify. What are things that you think are absolute foundations for keeping it together with your man, or any man you want to keep? These are things that you know you have to do based on what you think he wants. They could be small things, emotional things, ways of doing things, big things. What do men like and what do you think men like when you're with them? What is on you to give to your man in a relationship? -What is it that you think men want from **you** in order to continue enjoying life with **you** to the point where they want to keep **you** around?",,7,Da_Famous_Anus,1705792130.0 +What is it that you think men want from **you** in order to continue enjoying life with **you** to the point where they want to keep **you** around?",,7,Da_Famous_Anus,2024-01-20 23:08:50 PurplePillDebate,19bb9n2,"What are your ""sexual standards"" for a man?","Most women have a general set of standards for what they want in a man. Like the way he looks, Income, height, charisma, race, humor etc. Let's dive more into the details, though. Assuming you're not asexual, you're going to have sex at some point with this man. But you find out he's not exactly the type of guy you want when it comes to that part. So what I'm asking is, what are your standards for that? @@ -49730,14 +49730,14 @@ Penis size? How long should he last? Dominant, switch or submissive? Dirty talk? -and so on... whatever comes to your mind.",,24,-snickerss-,1705755662.0 +and so on... whatever comes to your mind.",,24,-snickerss-,2024-01-20 13:01:02 PurplePillDebate,19bg9ym,AD HOC WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD,"**If there is no stickied comment below, assume it is a free-for-all of relegated topics.** [Please Join Us on Discord!](https://discord.gg/3aHh4trC7B) Include your reddit username, pill color, age and gender when you arrive in the welcome mat to introduce yourself and help people get to know you. &#x200B; -You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,9,AutoModerator,1705770089.0 +You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,9,AutoModerator,2024-01-20 17:01:29 PurplePillDebate,19bumcj,Is Argentina's President Javier Milei Red-pilled without coming out and directly saying it?,"He has never used the term to my knowledge and many of the viral clips of him are attacking leftist's and their institutions. However, I have seen him call out government programs, spending, etc, that are supported by feminists. He recently gave a speech at the WEF - [https://youtu.be/IaP33mtac2k](https://youtu.be/IaP33mtac2k) @@ -49752,14 +49752,14 @@ Second, I think the current wave of feminism is the direct cause of the red pill Do you think his speech was pro red pill? Why or why not? Is there anything you agree with or disagree with that he said? -&#x200B;",,0,pinner52,1705809967.0 +&#x200B;",,0,pinner52,2024-01-21 04:06:07 PurplePillDebate,19bfdjv,Artificial womb in the next decades,"Hellio. How do you believe the introduction of artificial insemination for men with the AW by 2040 will impact society and how raising a kid is regarded. Fathers will likely raise kids by themselves with women in the family appearing in the proces. While it will not be necessary to dating and wasting money on apps. -How do you see this development which will also override feminism and nuclear families.",,3,nlignmn1847,1705767700.0 +How do you see this development which will also override feminism and nuclear families.",,3,nlignmn1847,2024-01-20 16:21:40 PurplePillDebate,19auhn9,The DHS paid almost 700k to a counter-terrorism NGO to intercept and divert Twitter traffic away from people in the “manosphere” and those who take issue with promiscuity. Do you agree with these actions and the funding of this report?,"There are several Americans and others listed in the report. However, specifically on page 46 it says the authors of the report are investigating videos from the “whatever podcast mocking the ‘body count’- that is, the number of sexual partners someone has had”? The report can no longer be accessed on the main website, as it now been changed to require a request for access. @@ -49772,8 +49772,8 @@ Clips of the Whatever podcast/others taking issue with this report and the gover Do you think this is something the government should be concerned about? How does this report make you feel? Is the something that is dangerous or benign? Why or why not? -Edit",,83,pinner52,1705700196.0 -PurplePillDebate,19b104h,Do women want their partner to say yes to their wants?,I feel like every girl I’ve gone out with wants to experience new things multiple times a week and it’s like telling them we can’t go skydiving today because we went zip lining yesterday and I don’t have the money to do this multiple times a week.,,22,oddkidmatt,1705717608.0 +Edit",,83,pinner52,2024-01-19 21:36:36 +PurplePillDebate,19b104h,Do women want their partner to say yes to their wants?,I feel like every girl I’ve gone out with wants to experience new things multiple times a week and it’s like telling them we can’t go skydiving today because we went zip lining yesterday and I don’t have the money to do this multiple times a week.,,22,oddkidmatt,2024-01-20 02:26:48 PurplePillDebate,19b5v6s,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -49792,7 +49792,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,12,AutoModerator,1705734016.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,12,AutoModerator,2024-01-20 07:00:16 PurplePillDebate,19b0cpw,Male charisma can be non-alpha and non-masculine,"Was reading a book on Charisma and relating it to my personal observations and experiences Basically, charisma can be broken down into three components - presence, power and warmth. @@ -49813,7 +49813,7 @@ He wasn't resorting to hostile aggressive approach of threatening to beat other Other examples. There are male singers such as Cigarettes After Sex and Rhye who legit sound like a sultry woman. But people celebrate their music because they provide positive sentimental qualities. -I guess what I'm trying to get at is a middle ground between red pill alpha theory and exredpill be yourself theory. a male has to put in an effort to work on his charm. But the charming qualities do not have to be about conforming to hypermasculine gender expectation of being excessively muscular, having really deep voice, etc..",,17,CaseOfInsanity,1705715670.0 +I guess what I'm trying to get at is a middle ground between red pill alpha theory and exredpill be yourself theory. a male has to put in an effort to work on his charm. But the charming qualities do not have to be about conforming to hypermasculine gender expectation of being excessively muscular, having really deep voice, etc..",,17,CaseOfInsanity,2024-01-20 01:54:30 PurplePillDebate,19bolq4,"Men don't take responsibility either, and often bludgeon ourselves with our own wall.","[Repost due to mis-flair] I'm not trying to lay blame for everything here, and I thank my lucky scro that I went to highschool in a previous era. I look back at pictures of that time and see huge groups of young ladies and men who were thrilled to see each other and have a good time. It was us against the older generations, not us against each other. @@ -49826,27 +49826,27 @@ I know that a lot of this is dealing with mental health issues, but there really Young men have gotten the shaft, but they also have a tendency to shaft themselves on the very basics of diet, physical activity, and basic self-advancement. If a man spends 4 hours a day playing video games and can't be assed to so much as listen to an audiobook while he's doing it, it ain't the legitimately absurd standards of the day keeping him out of the game. -And as a guy who is a little older, let me tell you, every sin of your twenties comes back to bite you three fold over the following decades. It's way harder to push that wall back once a man has already laid it on himself.",,0,8m3gm60,1705791935.0 +And as a guy who is a little older, let me tell you, every sin of your twenties comes back to bite you three fold over the following decades. It's way harder to push that wall back once a man has already laid it on himself.",,0,8m3gm60,2024-01-20 23:05:35 PurplePillDebate,19bbyp4,"Many women enjoy some BDSM kink in the bedroom, what caused your interest?","No, I’m not fapping. At some point, for those that partake, you found yourself j treated in bed room activities of the BdSM variety. It could be as simple as light choking to full contact anime jello struggling. -Why do you like what you like? It’s beyond just an orgasm, what is it you like about choking or jello of being tied up with tentacles, whatever. What is it about the kink that does it for you?",,0,Geselshaft,1705757910.0 +Why do you like what you like? It’s beyond just an orgasm, what is it you like about choking or jello of being tied up with tentacles, whatever. What is it about the kink that does it for you?",,0,Geselshaft,2024-01-20 13:38:30 PurplePillDebate,19bjdib,How does hypergamy explain things like gangbang fantasy?,"Let's say woman is in the room with bunch of guys with opportunity to choose to fuck someone, hypergamy would say that women will look for the best male (which I agree with). -But when females are honest about their fantasies, and if you look at statistics, bunch of women are turned on by idea of gangbangs, threesomes and double penetrations. How does hypergamy explain women wanting lots of men instead of the best one?",,0,Unhappy-Fly4791,1705778142.0 -PurplePillDebate,19ahh8a,How important Is losing virginity for women now?,"Imho a lot of people think that women Will Always Remember that moments while actually a lot of them Just move on After losing virginity, they arent attached at all to that man. Most of the times they lose their virginity in Ltr with non Chads they can control/would not be emotionally invested.",,9,Sitchnatio,1705665498.0 -PurplePillDebate,19bd5fi,How can LTRs last when modern men discard women who reach thirty or forty?,I'm trying to understand the fetish behind young women and how men expect to manage a LTR if you consider thirty or forty too old. Are you just gonna ditch the relationship as she ages?,,0,aleexownz,1705761570.0 +But when females are honest about their fantasies, and if you look at statistics, bunch of women are turned on by idea of gangbangs, threesomes and double penetrations. How does hypergamy explain women wanting lots of men instead of the best one?",,0,Unhappy-Fly4791,2024-01-20 19:15:42 +PurplePillDebate,19ahh8a,How important Is losing virginity for women now?,"Imho a lot of people think that women Will Always Remember that moments while actually a lot of them Just move on After losing virginity, they arent attached at all to that man. Most of the times they lose their virginity in Ltr with non Chads they can control/would not be emotionally invested.",,9,Sitchnatio,2024-01-19 11:58:18 +PurplePillDebate,19bd5fi,How can LTRs last when modern men discard women who reach thirty or forty?,I'm trying to understand the fetish behind young women and how men expect to manage a LTR if you consider thirty or forty too old. Are you just gonna ditch the relationship as she ages?,,0,aleexownz,2024-01-20 14:39:30 PurplePillDebate,19absxd,What made you willing to hook up?,"For ladies who've had casual sex, what exactly was the thing that sealed the deal that made you go through with it? What about the guy made you choose him? Where were you in life currently? -Did you regret it, or do you look back on it fondly?",,23,LastBlackSamurai99,1705642754.0 +Did you regret it, or do you look back on it fondly?",,23,LastBlackSamurai99,2024-01-19 05:39:14 PurplePillDebate,199xbax,Women are afforded a lot more leeway in what they can get away with,"This applies to things as small as being rude, to things as serious as sexual assault. If you want an example you need to look no further than the platform we are all on right now. If you look at their content policy you will see that in the very first rule they state that only ""vulnerable"" groups are protected. A Reddit Admin has even clarified that [you have to make your own sub](https://imgur.com/nZ1G9fJ) if you want the same basic protection afforded to everyone else. -When it comes to more serious examples you just need to look at how the news reports female predators. I'm sure we have all seen the typical headlines of female teachers that ""had sex"" with one of her students (we all know the headline would use a certain other word if the genders were flipped). There was also a recent example of a woman who was [arrested for diddling herself on the beach](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bJzeEGAi3_4) (she was reported by a family with kids) and was later found to have taken her own life. If you look at the comment section you can see all sorts of ""poor her"" reactions, but something tells me it would not be the same if it was a man who got caught whacking one out in front of children.",,141,Many_Dragonfly4154,1705603354.0 +When it comes to more serious examples you just need to look at how the news reports female predators. I'm sure we have all seen the typical headlines of female teachers that ""had sex"" with one of her students (we all know the headline would use a certain other word if the genders were flipped). There was also a recent example of a woman who was [arrested for diddling herself on the beach](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bJzeEGAi3_4) (she was reported by a family with kids) and was later found to have taken her own life. If you look at the comment section you can see all sorts of ""poor her"" reactions, but something tells me it would not be the same if it was a man who got caught whacking one out in front of children.",,141,Many_Dragonfly4154,2024-01-18 18:42:34 PurplePillDebate,19a9n5j,How do you explain the phenomenon of ‘high quality’ falling for absolute dregs?," Inspiration for this post: a very attractive, intelligent and ambitious mutual friend is now dating an older, pudgy, fairly unattractive single dad who seems like a scumbag going by the frequent obnoxious often racist shit he posts on social media which I know doesn’t even align with her views. @@ -49872,7 +49872,7 @@ What do you think is going on? Edit -I guess low self esteem would explain it, I know some people who seem to have it all but still suffer from it. Although I still find it wild how such women will still refuse to even entertain the interest from most guys who are if anything better than the ones they end up falling for. Maybe they feel on some level that they don’t deserve someone better or want to be with someone who they believe will never cheat on them. ",,21,StaticNocturne,1705635708.0 +I guess low self esteem would explain it, I know some people who seem to have it all but still suffer from it. Although I still find it wild how such women will still refuse to even entertain the interest from most guys who are if anything better than the ones they end up falling for. Maybe they feel on some level that they don’t deserve someone better or want to be with someone who they believe will never cheat on them. ",,21,StaticNocturne,2024-01-19 03:41:48 PurplePillDebate,19ac60o,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -49891,7 +49891,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,1705644024.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,2024-01-19 06:00:24 PurplePillDebate,199zxk8,"Blue pill: ""We are equal"", Red pill: ""We are different"", Purple pill: ""We are different, but we have to treat each other equally at least some of the time""","(restating the title for better formatting) - Blue pill: ""We are equal"" @@ -49902,26 +49902,26 @@ All ""pills"" are about human nature and human psychology. The _first_ aspect of I think the second aspect is where people get stuck. It's one thing to recognize a truth, but truth alone can't stick in the mind unless you can reduce the friction around believing something that your neighbors don't believe. Some do this with hatred. Some try to forget and revert to the blue pill. Some look for a way forward. This is what I want to talk about. -What do you think is the way forward? What steps does the red pill community need to take to grow up and process to the second step (without depending on hatred or forgetting part of your own humanity, as many do)?",,30,coolnavigator,1705609758.0 +What do you think is the way forward? What steps does the red pill community need to take to grow up and process to the second step (without depending on hatred or forgetting part of your own humanity, as many do)?",,30,coolnavigator,2024-01-18 20:29:18 PurplePillDebate,199ljny,"""You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse.""","Does this statement hold true? I've seen this being thrown around whenever somebody wants to summarize the current dating scene. I mean, if you look at it, dating apps overwhelm women with an abundance of options. Beauty standards for men have never been this high. Whereas for women, pointing out that she's obese is ""fat shaming"". Do you think in 1900s your grandma cared if her husband was 6ft+ and had a six pack with a sharp jawline? I'm not saying you can't get into a relationship if you don't meet these standards, but it's no doubt that beauty standards for men these days have inflated. -Back in the day marriage was more of a safety blanket to help women get by. So in a way, they had to be more loyal to their man.That's not to say your grandma hates your grandpa, but they learned to love each other. You see men these days saying they're glad that they found their wives prior to this mess of a dating scene.",,180,-snickerss-,1705567002.0 -PurplePillDebate,199q5fr,How true is the Madonna Whore complex for guys?,"Do most guys catergorize girls into wifey or hook up material?For instance if you see an extremely attractive girl do guys automatically assume she is a whore, while plaine Jane’s are catergorized into wifey material.How common is this perception and how you seen this complex occurring in real life?",,61,Spiritual-Fox-1330,1705584532.0 +Back in the day marriage was more of a safety blanket to help women get by. So in a way, they had to be more loyal to their man.That's not to say your grandma hates your grandpa, but they learned to love each other. You see men these days saying they're glad that they found their wives prior to this mess of a dating scene.",,180,-snickerss-,2024-01-18 08:36:42 +PurplePillDebate,199q5fr,How true is the Madonna Whore complex for guys?,"Do most guys catergorize girls into wifey or hook up material?For instance if you see an extremely attractive girl do guys automatically assume she is a whore, while plaine Jane’s are catergorized into wifey material.How common is this perception and how you seen this complex occurring in real life?",,61,Spiritual-Fox-1330,2024-01-18 13:28:52 PurplePillDebate,199zas5,"How bad Is not being able tò do masculine jobs when It comes to long term relationship? ( Like fixing, assemble things, Easy plumbing/maintenance, orientation without Google maps )","Imho It goes about women that dont see you as capable/confident and they dont perceive you as an alpha If you dont know how tò handle problems. Calling a plumber isnt the same as doing the job by yourself with your hands, same applies for not being able tò orientate by yourself, She Will not believe in your capacity and thats bad. -What do you think?",,15,Emotional-Tadpole-53,1705608206.0 +What do you think?",,15,Emotional-Tadpole-53,2024-01-18 20:03:26 PurplePillDebate,199pyso,Men who constantly surround themselves with terrible women are typically simps.,"A guy actually did change my view on the things. I used to think guys kept chasing awful women. Then a guy here made me realize simps are attracting shallow nassicistic women with their groveling and thirstiness. Most women wouldn't want a man who is clingy, desperate, and over affectionate when they first meet, so the only ones left would be the ones who think they deserve to be worshipped. This also ties in with “Nice Guys Finist Last” where guys believing niceness is the same as passivity, desperation, clinginess, and codependency. Most women not only find this to be a turn off but also creepy. People who want equality don't want to be worshipped. Somewhat real life example, I was dating this guy. Thing were going really well, but by date three, he got clingy. We literally just met on date one and he was gushing about how wonderful I am, how I'm the one, always saying he’s thinking of me and if I’m thinking of him, etc. So I told him to tone it down and that's the last I heard of him. I did remember he talked about how his girlfriend was a succubus from hell, so I was thinking she was one of those narcissists that took advantage of his clinginess. -Now I imagine someone will claim “society taught men to be simps because they pushed that Women Are Wonderful”. They coincidentally never noticed the Karen meme, the landwhale meme, Onlyfans Whore memes, or when women like Kathleen Kenndy, Amber Heard, Mindy Kahling, Coleen, and that bitchy Snow White actress get massively hated by the masses. Also, Snow White, Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, even in children’s media is there evil women in it. Even in the Bible there were evil women, especially Delilah. It could be that these men only hang around narcissistic women, because those are the only women who are willing to put up with servile men and the only ones crazy enough to side with women that are publicly villified.",,47,LillthOfBabylon,1705583944.0 +Now I imagine someone will claim “society taught men to be simps because they pushed that Women Are Wonderful”. They coincidentally never noticed the Karen meme, the landwhale meme, Onlyfans Whore memes, or when women like Kathleen Kenndy, Amber Heard, Mindy Kahling, Coleen, and that bitchy Snow White actress get massively hated by the masses. Also, Snow White, Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, even in children’s media is there evil women in it. Even in the Bible there were evil women, especially Delilah. It could be that these men only hang around narcissistic women, because those are the only women who are willing to put up with servile men and the only ones crazy enough to side with women that are publicly villified.",,47,LillthOfBabylon,2024-01-18 13:19:04 PurplePillDebate,19b1dq7,Men and women are not equal and will never be equal,"Men and women being equal is the most problematic concept that has been allowed to permeate in society. Men and women are not physically equal, we dont think the same and we have different motivations. @@ -49932,10 +49932,10 @@ On a sexual level women also want men that are better than them or superior than None of this can also fit with the nonsensical idea that men and women are ""equal"". It doesnt add up. -The correct idea should be that men are above women.",,0,Tight-Breeder,1705718753.0 +The correct idea should be that men are above women.",,0,Tight-Breeder,2024-01-20 02:45:53 PurplePillDebate,199ml1z,"How can men prevent sexless, transactional or “bait & switch” marriages or long term relationships?","I hear so many horror stories about men getting married or having children and his partner then never, rarely or occasionally having sex with him. -How can men prevent something like this from happening?",,55,MasterofBoats,1705571529.0 +How can men prevent something like this from happening?",,55,MasterofBoats,2024-01-18 09:52:09 PurplePillDebate,199phcq,Did a (F) Coworker Confirm Major Parts of TRP Theory?,"Hey all, I had an interesting interaction last night that, even at the time, I found very fascinating based on how organic and natural it was, and how it seemed to confirm parts of TRP theory. @@ -49959,7 +49959,7 @@ I immediately noticed that this has a few interesting results/problems. So numbe **To push back against my interpretation, she never did mention gender once** when it comes to this dating schema, and yeah, some women will say that they sometimes are proactive with dating, and a few women actually do flirt/pursue men. Even so, I think I have a big problem with the pursuer-pursued dynamic... it's unbalanced and thus unfair. As well, even if the pipeline suggested is gender-neutral on its face, if in practice its implementation is that 90-95% of the time, men are the ones doing all the active and proactive work (which is damned sure going to be the case because that's how it is in almost all cases, especially in male majority environments), that's still unacceptable. -Anyway, I found the conversation fascinating even as I was having it, and was careful to think things through. I recall the conversation taking a different turn shortly after this... I didn't want to cling to the issue let alone make it a gender issue, let alone bring up TRP or other strange philosophies. Even so, after turning it over in my head a few times, it really does seem to be a confirmation of the idea of women wanting several ""friends"" hanging around them as a pool of applicants that they can choose from.",,18,InterestingVariety35,1705582346.0 +Anyway, I found the conversation fascinating even as I was having it, and was careful to think things through. I recall the conversation taking a different turn shortly after this... I didn't want to cling to the issue let alone make it a gender issue, let alone bring up TRP or other strange philosophies. Even so, after turning it over in my head a few times, it really does seem to be a confirmation of the idea of women wanting several ""friends"" hanging around them as a pool of applicants that they can choose from.",,18,InterestingVariety35,2024-01-18 12:52:26 PurplePillDebate,199dm23,Do most women really dislike being approached in general?,"Even by attractive guys with sharp social skills in causal environments? With the way some women carry on it certainly seems like it is sacrilege in any context. @@ -49996,14 +49996,14 @@ I’ve approached a bit and had a few dates that way, as well as a few polite re And yeah the ideal way to meet people is organically through friends or school or sport or even work but this isn’t viable for everyone and it’s also a really inefficient way to go about it since there has been nobody I’ve been very attracted to in my last few jobs or sports teams nor mutual friend plus this can have unwanted repercussions if things go sour especially in the workplace. -That’s my defense of approaching",,39,StaticNocturne,1705540551.0 +That’s my defense of approaching",,39,StaticNocturne,2024-01-18 01:15:51 PurplePillDebate,199wdq4,"[nsfw][?] Women of PPD, what's your threshold for infidelity?","I looked up, and seems we haven't had a thread on this topic in a while. So, I looked into the rest of Reddit, and there's proper insanity going on, [see for yourselves if you want.](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/350njg/serious_dear_reddit_what_counts_as_cheating_in_a/) People write stupid things, people upvote stupid things, then people mock these things and get upvoted themselves. After reading things like this, and having some exposure to women in real life, when I see things like ""[a man I know] cheated on [his SO]"", I understand that I have no way to assess the situation without asking to clarify (*""what parts of themselves have been in deliberate contact""*, etc.) Let me hear your thoughts, and let me start: -I believe everything that you can do on camera as part of professional acting career in proper (non-pornographic) cinematography, is not an act of infidelity. And to this day I hope that the story of a guy's wife accusing him of cheating *because he bought a bicycle for his female ex-classmate's 6yo son* was made up for karma.",,1,abaxeron,1705601062.0 +I believe everything that you can do on camera as part of professional acting career in proper (non-pornographic) cinematography, is not an act of infidelity. And to this day I hope that the story of a guy's wife accusing him of cheating *because he bought a bicycle for his female ex-classmate's 6yo son* was made up for karma.",,1,abaxeron,2024-01-18 18:04:22 PurplePillDebate,199htde,"If woman have the choice over abortion, should men have the choice over child support?","Before you go commenting please make sure you read all of what I have to say. Me and a few friends have been discussing this topic at length and we think it is time to bring this discussion to a broader audience to have some fresh perspectives thrown in. As things stand now (especially in the USA) the situation around marriage, children, men, woman and the family unit is decisive at best. Some of us talking have seen men getting screwed over by woman baby trapping them, only to turn around and demand child support without allowing the man to even see his own children. I would like to stress that not all woman are bad, or all men are bad. You can honestly take any group based on gender, location, religious believes or other topics and you will have good and bad apples amongst them. @@ -50016,13 +50016,13 @@ When you look at abortion through this kind of view point it brings up an intere As far as child support goes it seems since men have been for most of human history the providers they should pay child support. But, in our modern times woman are working just as many hours as men and make their own money just like men. So if the woman makes the choice of having a child without a united agreement from the father, it could be argued that she should bare the finical cost herself? -There are any more factors that could effect this argument, but I think the main point has been made. Without starting a flame war or just getting angry, what constructive points do you think for or against this argument? And can you offer anymore insight? My friends and I can't wait to see what Reddit says on this issue. ",,9,Loopy_Legend,1705553085.0 +There are any more factors that could effect this argument, but I think the main point has been made. Without starting a flame war or just getting angry, what constructive points do you think for or against this argument? And can you offer anymore insight? My friends and I can't wait to see what Reddit says on this issue. ",,9,Loopy_Legend,2024-01-18 04:44:45 PurplePillDebate,199bnlz,"In the current year, do you think men should pay for dates? Why or why not?","A man being expected to pay for a dates seems like women having their cake and eating it too. As a society, we're trying to move away from traditional gender norms, we're told that women are just capable of men, but for some reason, men still have to take on the traditional masculine role when it comes to paying dates? If this was the 1950s when women didn't really work or have money, obviously the men should pay for the date. But in 2024, women work, have degrees, have their own money, a lot of them even outearn men, so why should a man pay for a woman's dinner if both of them are in the same situation financially? On the other hand, there are valid arguments for a man paying that don't have to do with traditional gender roles. Since a woman spent hours getting ready to look nice and did makeup, the least a man could do is pay for the meal. That's fair, but that's also implying that woman wear makeup for men, which goes against the narrative we've been told that ""women don't wear makeup or dress well for men, we do it for ourselves and other women."" I never asked you to spend an hour putting on makeup or doing your hair before you came, that's your own decision. -There also other problems with the man paying that makes it bad for both the man and the woman. First of all, the man has no idea if the women is going to ghost him immediately after and was just using him for a free meal. A man who goes on many dates and none of them lead anywhere, you're basically wasting hundreds of dollars a month, and that simply isn't sustainable for most guys. ",,24,Glass_Bucket,1705535331.0 +There also other problems with the man paying that makes it bad for both the man and the woman. First of all, the man has no idea if the women is going to ghost him immediately after and was just using him for a free meal. A man who goes on many dates and none of them lead anywhere, you're basically wasting hundreds of dollars a month, and that simply isn't sustainable for most guys. ",,24,Glass_Bucket,2024-01-17 23:48:51 PurplePillDebate,199isv5,Is it easier to maintain friendships with guys ?,"Title , @@ -50039,7 +50039,7 @@ I’ve had around 20-30 girl friends ( friends not dating ) that I’d consider Can anyone explain this ? Is it easier to maintain friendships with guys ? -Edit : the friendships with girl friends would also extend to going clubbing / concerts etc. ",,6,Grouchy_Cookie_7813,1705556335.0 +Edit : the friendships with girl friends would also extend to going clubbing / concerts etc. ",,6,Grouchy_Cookie_7813,2024-01-18 05:38:55 PurplePillDebate,198zfjz,"There is a correlation between women's gravitation towards Dark Triad personality traits, and their propensity for being victims","Honestly I'm kinda tired of the whole ""all men are r\*pists"" rhetoric that women spew nowadays. [Around half of women have a r\*pe fantasy](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18321031/) @@ -50048,7 +50048,7 @@ PurplePillDebate,198zfjz,"There is a correlation between women's gravitation tow >In conclusion, the results of our study demonstrate that the Dark Triad male personality is attractive to women and this effect is not mediated by these men’s greater perceived Extraversion or Neuroticism. Further work in the sexual marketplace could usefully pursue interactions (statistical and social) between sellers (Dark Triad men) and buyers (women). -It's 2024. You gotta be delusional to believe that women on average aren't leaning towards men who are more likely to SA them.",,73,SlowEffective8146,1705505985.0 +It's 2024. You gotta be delusional to believe that women on average aren't leaning towards men who are more likely to SA them.",,73,SlowEffective8146,2024-01-17 15:39:45 PurplePillDebate,199i3fi,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -50067,12 +50067,12 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,5,AutoModerator,1705554012.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,5,AutoModerator,2024-01-18 05:00:12 PurplePillDebate,198vu7m,"how is hookup culture accepted if you’re supposed to get to know women ""as people"" first?","on one hand approaching women for sex is seen as lewd and objectifying, people on reddit have a very uncharitable view of men who just want ""one thing"". They say men like this see women as potential hookup prospects instead of ""people"" to build deeper emotional connections with... on the other hand these same people fight against ""slutshaming"" women if they had a more promiscuous past. That there is nothing wrong with a woman having string free sex, because sex for the sake of it just feels good to our bodies... -How do these people coincide these beliefs?",,45,HardTimes4Vampires,1705495887.0 +How do these people coincide these beliefs?",,45,HardTimes4Vampires,2024-01-17 12:51:27 PurplePillDebate,199lla9,Clearing the Ground: Towards Definitions in Light of Evolution,"Broadly defined to include evolutionary biology, population genetics, genetic similarity and assortative mating, life history theory, demography, evolutionary psychology, and allied disciplines. **__Introduction__** @@ -50119,16 +50119,16 @@ This is an *initial contribution to further discussion* on a much needed topic: __**Probably Provocative Preliminary Conclusions**__ -It was the Renaissance through Georgian or early Second Elizabethan ideal of marriage and egalitarianism, reaching its apotheosis in the Married Women's Property Act of 1874, that is the historical aberration. Look at the rates of survival for patrician families in the Roman principate.",,0,ThickyJames,1705567195.0 +It was the Renaissance through Georgian or early Second Elizabethan ideal of marriage and egalitarianism, reaching its apotheosis in the Married Women's Property Act of 1874, that is the historical aberration. Look at the rates of survival for patrician families in the Roman principate.",,0,ThickyJames,2024-01-18 08:39:55 PurplePillDebate,199r25k,Does the female sex drive increase while in a relationship?,"I have a couple close female friends in my friend group, and we are all pretty open about our sex lives. When talking to them about sex, it's funny, because they almost reject every guy that approaches them. Then, when they are going through ovulation, they are more open to have random encounters with strangers. However, when they get into relationships, it seems like they want to have sex every day with their partner. For example, I was talking to my friend Katie and her boyfriend Dan. They've been dating for 3 months now. Dan told me that Katie is always on him about sex. Like, she always wants to have sex, and sometimes it gets annoying because he doesn't want to. He said he thought he had a big sex drive, but Katie's sex drive beats his. The funny thin is, as I mentioned above, Katie would reject so many guys and would only have sex with someone during ovulation and she would always complain all men wanted from her was to have sex with her. So it was interesting to hear that she wanted to have so much sex with him. -So... the question... Does the female sex drive increase while in a relationship?",,0,Fluffy_Holiday6063,1705587214.0 -PurplePillDebate,1993bz4,Would you leave a man you love if he refused to marry you?,Marriage can be risky for men. So suppose you are in relationship with a man you love and he loves you. Would you leave him if he refuse to marry you citing that marriage is not in his best interest. Would you stay as his forever girlfriend?,,10,[deleted],1705515081.0 -PurplePillDebate,198trn6,Is personality more important to men or women?,"I’m a man and from what I’ve seen over the years it is far easier for a uglier man to pull an attractive woman than it is for a ugly woman to attract a attractive man. I’ve met many women I’m not attracted to with great personalities and it doesn’t matter how attractive their personality is, they will never be more than a friend to me. This also could come from the fear of the opinions of other men which women seem to not care about very much when it come to their female friends. On the other hand I knew men that had women so out of their league and the men were the ones to end the relationship. I feel like generally if you have a attractive personality to a woman and can make her laugh you can or at least have a good chance at pulling her despite your looks. So my take is personality is more important to women and physical attractiveness is more important to men. Though of course both is important for men and women.",,15,SkyAggressive5490,1705488322.0 +So... the question... Does the female sex drive increase while in a relationship?",,0,Fluffy_Holiday6063,2024-01-18 14:13:34 +PurplePillDebate,1993bz4,Would you leave a man you love if he refused to marry you?,Marriage can be risky for men. So suppose you are in relationship with a man you love and he loves you. Would you leave him if he refuse to marry you citing that marriage is not in his best interest. Would you stay as his forever girlfriend?,,10,[deleted],2024-01-17 18:11:21 +PurplePillDebate,198trn6,Is personality more important to men or women?,"I’m a man and from what I’ve seen over the years it is far easier for a uglier man to pull an attractive woman than it is for a ugly woman to attract a attractive man. I’ve met many women I’m not attracted to with great personalities and it doesn’t matter how attractive their personality is, they will never be more than a friend to me. This also could come from the fear of the opinions of other men which women seem to not care about very much when it come to their female friends. On the other hand I knew men that had women so out of their league and the men were the ones to end the relationship. I feel like generally if you have a attractive personality to a woman and can make her laugh you can or at least have a good chance at pulling her despite your looks. So my take is personality is more important to women and physical attractiveness is more important to men. Though of course both is important for men and women.",,15,SkyAggressive5490,2024-01-17 10:45:22 PurplePillDebate,199c1f9,"Do you think women, on average, would be more attracted to Patrick Swayze's character in ""Dirty Dancing"" or Patrick Swayze's character in ""Roadhouse?""","I think this is a useful comparison since we can eliminate quibbling over which one is hotter. We have Johnny: * Low-income @@ -50149,7 +50149,7 @@ Versus Dalton: * Stoic and emotionless -Given this information and red pill beliefs about what women want, which Swayze character do you believe women would be more attracted to?",,1,Soloandthewookiee,1705536298.0 +Given this information and red pill beliefs about what women want, which Swayze character do you believe women would be more attracted to?",,1,Soloandthewookiee,2024-01-18 00:04:58 PurplePillDebate,198r0z7,Modern dating strategy: Dating multiple people before being exclusive - Are males against this?,"I wanted to discuss this with my fellow purple pill redditors. I'll keep this short; It seems that modern the modern dating strategy of dating multiple people before being exclusive is becoming more and more common. @@ -50162,7 +50162,7 @@ If you knew about this - would you be perfectly ok with it because you guys aren It seems women are a lot less sensitive about this but men are? -Discuss",,22,ShelterNo2786,1705476705.0 +Discuss",,22,ShelterNo2786,2024-01-17 07:31:45 PurplePillDebate,198o4ym,Does vulnerability and open communication tend to kill some sexual tension early in the dating process?,"I would assume every lady would ultimately want to date a guy she can confide in with her darkest secrets just as guys want the same with women ( and it blows my mind how many long term relationships involve such poor communication and inauthenticity ) However I can’t help but notice that when women confide in my and raise deep and vulnerable topics, something else is lost - the sexual undertones - as it begins to feel more like we’re close friends than potential lovers. This isn’t always the case - I once went from talking about childhood abuse to having sex with them a few minutes later ( sounds a bit wrong when I put it that way ) but just overall. @@ -50175,7 +50175,7 @@ Am I overthinking this shit or have you noticed the same thing ? And assuming that it does what should a guy do besides trying to constantly steer the conversation away from anything with depth toward light banter and flirting until you’re actually dating? -Also why the fuck does it kill the sexual tension.. shouldn’t connecting emotionally increase sexual desire for someone ?",,25,StaticNocturne,1705466514.0 +Also why the fuck does it kill the sexual tension.. shouldn’t connecting emotionally increase sexual desire for someone ?",,25,StaticNocturne,2024-01-17 04:41:54 PurplePillDebate,199ly3z,If men don’t pay for dates are they willing to change their preferences for the sake of equality?,"I have been seeing a lot of posts regarding men not wanting to pay for dates, after consideration I think there are certain conditions that would need to change. If women are expected to pay to compete for your attention but you not theirs, that is not equality. 1) Men have an undeniable preference for women who wear make up. Curling my hair is cheap, make up is not ($100 a month), and the prices are raising. Even men who say they don’t like make up they unknowingly praise us for wearing it contributing to our usage of it. Men need to have a *genuine* preference for women who don’t wear make up. If I chose not to wear it my value on the sexual marketplace is lessened and thus it’s a cost I have to pay to compete. Like men might have to pay a cost to compete such as paying for dates. @@ -50188,10 +50188,10 @@ PurplePillDebate,199ly3z,If men don’t pay for dates are they willing to change If men don’t want to pay for dates then that is their decision but there is cost to women competing for your attention should you not accept cost to compete for theirs? That seems like equality to me, unless men are willing to compromise on women’s make up usage, maintaining a youthful appearance, being proactive about wearing condoms (coming prepared and not having to be told) and not preferring women who are doormats. -Edit: thread where I get called a fat, skank & whore for having an opinion by misogynists. And even straight up told I’m incapable of having an objective opinion because “women are too emotional too. How do you not see how you look? Really hope yall can find a way to have some control over your lives without hurling unprompted insults at randoms online. Thanks to everyone (most of you who actually responded in good faith). ",,0,Planthoe30,1705568734.0 +Edit: thread where I get called a fat, skank & whore for having an opinion by misogynists. And even straight up told I’m incapable of having an objective opinion because “women are too emotional too. How do you not see how you look? Really hope yall can find a way to have some control over your lives without hurling unprompted insults at randoms online. Thanks to everyone (most of you who actually responded in good faith). ",,0,Planthoe30,2024-01-18 09:05:34 PurplePillDebate,1984eky,Why do women here consistently portray men's dating preferences as malicious and their own as benign?,"For instance, in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/197jop4/current_dating_attitudes/?sort=top) women are overwhelmingly defending other women that expect men to pay for dating expenses, describing it as a mere ""preference"", despite the fact that it is the textbook example of an unequal burden in a relationship. -But at the same time women here regularly criticize men for expecting comparable unequal burdens, like expecting women to do the majority of housework for instance.",,155,AI_CODE_MONKEY,1705416054.0 +But at the same time women here regularly criticize men for expecting comparable unequal burdens, like expecting women to do the majority of housework for instance.",,155,AI_CODE_MONKEY,2024-01-16 14:40:54 PurplePillDebate,198oymx,"""conditional femininity"" vs ""conditional masculinity"""," Conditional femininity: @@ -50203,8 +50203,8 @@ Conditional masculinity: Do you feel these two justifications are equally valid? -Are these good strategies in general when approaching relationships?",,11,Windmill_flowers,1705469255.0 -PurplePillDebate,199j2fp,"Falling fertility rates seem to be a problem of falling marriage rates, which in turn seem to be due to lessening of the gap between male and female privilege. Hence it might be impossible to raise fertility rates unless egalitarianism is challenged.","Recently came across an article that compiled some data in this regard. (Not sure I'm allowed to link them here, I'll do so in the comments). This essentially might happen by itself via societal collapse, or via voluntary effort. One more solution that could be proposed is for women to try and control their 'hypergamy', and teach them to be okay marrying those inferior in status to them, and the same time, teach men not to be insecure about it and not let the resentment cause issues in the relationship, however, this is much easier said than done. The article also discussed more 'left leaning' proposed solutions to this problem of falling births, but none seem to be very effective. What do you guys think? Any alternate perspectives?",,0,Apex__Predator__,1705557271.0 +Are these good strategies in general when approaching relationships?",,11,Windmill_flowers,2024-01-17 05:27:35 +PurplePillDebate,199j2fp,"Falling fertility rates seem to be a problem of falling marriage rates, which in turn seem to be due to lessening of the gap between male and female privilege. Hence it might be impossible to raise fertility rates unless egalitarianism is challenged.","Recently came across an article that compiled some data in this regard. (Not sure I'm allowed to link them here, I'll do so in the comments). This essentially might happen by itself via societal collapse, or via voluntary effort. One more solution that could be proposed is for women to try and control their 'hypergamy', and teach them to be okay marrying those inferior in status to them, and the same time, teach men not to be insecure about it and not let the resentment cause issues in the relationship, however, this is much easier said than done. The article also discussed more 'left leaning' proposed solutions to this problem of falling births, but none seem to be very effective. What do you guys think? Any alternate perspectives?",,0,Apex__Predator__,2024-01-18 05:54:31 PurplePillDebate,198n5dz,The Fallacious Connection Between Male Insecurity and Female Breadwinners,"Whenever the topic of women being the breadwinners in relationships come up, there are always a handful of women (#NotAllWomen) who make the claim, ""guys are uncomfortable dating women that make more than them!"" Some said they had real, lived experiences validating that opinion. I've read stories from women with ex-partners who wanted them (or their friends) to quit their jobs, forgo promotions, or got suddenly toxic/mean when they witnessed her get an award/praise for achieving something in their career. I'm assuming, for the purposes of this post and charitability, all these stories are 100% true and the woman bore *zero responsibility* for why the relationship ended. If you're a woman (or have a friend that went through this), ask yourself: @@ -50219,19 +50219,19 @@ If you really want to bite the bullet and say ""yes, these relationships would'v It's not *that* women prefer men that make more than them, it's *how* some women are choosing to justify it. I don't have any problems with women who choose to date men richer than them. If you want kids someday, want to be a SAHM, and need a man who can provide during pregnancy and child rearing? OK, makes sense. You want to maintain a certain material standard of living because that's what you're used to? Great, do you. Dating men poorer than you gives you the ick and makes your vagina drier than the Sahara desert? Understandable, have a nice day. -If you truly believe there exists some connection between male insecurity and female income, then what you are implying (be it intentionally or unintentionally) is a guy pulling $80,000 a year will be toxic and insecure to his partner making $120,000, but that exact same guy will be perfectly happy and stable with a partner making <$40,000. I'm sorry, but I don't buy it. Relationships are more complicated than that. You're not ""noticing a trend"" if you say you've experienced it, you're just admitting you have bad taste in men. ",,12,No_Mammoth8801,1705463421.0 +If you truly believe there exists some connection between male insecurity and female income, then what you are implying (be it intentionally or unintentionally) is a guy pulling $80,000 a year will be toxic and insecure to his partner making $120,000, but that exact same guy will be perfectly happy and stable with a partner making <$40,000. I'm sorry, but I don't buy it. Relationships are more complicated than that. You're not ""noticing a trend"" if you say you've experienced it, you're just admitting you have bad taste in men. ",,12,No_Mammoth8801,2024-01-17 03:50:21 PurplePillDebate,198uxxt,"Work on yourself in your 20s, reap the rewards in your 30s","I'm living by this mantra for the last couple years and am on track to having a good career, am already pretty fit (although still some work to be done in that regard) so my SMV will probably be quite high once I'm 30. However, recently I started worrying that all my efforts might be wasted because of all the good women being gone at that age. &#x200B; -Honestly, I'm not sure if I want to date 30 year olds because of their looks, and the ones that are not partnered up at that point are probably not that desirable anyways. My hope is that I will be able to land a 20-25 year old, however I think most women want a partner around their own age (at least on Tinder I'm mostly matching with women my age). Are here any success stories of men in their 30s landing women in their early-mid 20s? If yes, how did you do it?",,2,Frdxhds,1705492808.0 +Honestly, I'm not sure if I want to date 30 year olds because of their looks, and the ones that are not partnered up at that point are probably not that desirable anyways. My hope is that I will be able to land a 20-25 year old, however I think most women want a partner around their own age (at least on Tinder I'm mostly matching with women my age). Are here any success stories of men in their 30s landing women in their early-mid 20s? If yes, how did you do it?",,2,Frdxhds,2024-01-17 12:00:08 PurplePillDebate,198ctzt,The fact that the rest of Reddit thinks PPD is “toxic” shows how messed up things are rn,"Ok this is a meta post and not sure if this is allowed. But I’ll address the obvious first: miserable people congregate on PPD. But miserable≠bad. And imo open communication about these subjects provides catharsis and I do genuinely believe some people’s perspectives have changed due to this sub. I think it’s easy to judge to sub based off of the sensational OPs but the comment section is what makes this sub great. What I like is that it’s very clear that when people pose as “normies” and yell platitudes denying problems discussed here are not taken seriously despite I see it happening IRL all the time. Even though “blue pilled” folks here are kinda like normies, even they here on this sub understand that they have to substantiate what they say and that anecdotes only go so far. -I do see people being dismissive of good points here sometimes, but it is so less common than “mainstream Reddit” where there is usually no discussion but just brigading and downvote spamming.",,32,thisreallyisnotok,1705436556.0 +I do see people being dismissive of good points here sometimes, but it is so less common than “mainstream Reddit” where there is usually no discussion but just brigading and downvote spamming.",,32,thisreallyisnotok,2024-01-16 20:22:36 PurplePillDebate,198nc5b,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -50250,14 +50250,14 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,5,AutoModerator,1705464008.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,5,AutoModerator,2024-01-17 04:00:08 PurplePillDebate,1980ll8,Why do Red Pillers find it so hard to admit that men can be horrible people?,"I have made another post about how people bend over backwards to make excuses for women's questionable behaviors. However, I have noticed that TRPillers do the same thing. In TRP land all men are good and even when a man does something bad, they still find a way to blame women , gynocentrism etc. For example if a man cries about divorce r*pe or false accusations, they will immediately believe his sob story while they simultaneously doubt/question women's stories. Another example , is how Rollo Tomassi and other manospherians implied that Chris Watts killed his wife and kids because she cheated on him and was pregnant with another man's child. (later it was revealed that the opposite happened and he was the one who had an affair and killed his family to be with his mistress). You can dig up information on it if you Google Rollo Tomassi Chris Watts. Apparently, women cannot even get killed without being slandered by the manosphere. -Yea women can be horrible harpies. But pretending that there are no millions of toxic , psychopathic, lying , abusive men is outright disingenuous.",,82,Novel-Tip-7570,1705403896.0 +Yea women can be horrible harpies. But pretending that there are no millions of toxic , psychopathic, lying , abusive men is outright disingenuous.",,82,Novel-Tip-7570,2024-01-16 11:18:16 PurplePillDebate,1981x8i,Why do men crave a stay at home wife so much?,"I mean, let's be realistic. The average man doesn't have the resources available to support this. Also, women have started to catch on to the fact that being a stay at home wife/mother can seriously hinder personal development if her significant other isn't wealthy enough to support further education/training to enter back into the workforce if she wishes. @@ -50268,7 +50268,7 @@ One of my partner's work colleagues cheated on his girlfriend. We're fairly good My partner is fairly wealthy and I haven't worked a 9-5 since we've been together. However I do freelance work every now and again to ensure I have income and adequate savings even though he covers almost every expense. -I think craving a wife/girlfriend who doesn't work is an indication of controlling behaviour and I would advise against any woman entering in to this dynamic.",,34,Legal_Strawberry2,1705408566.0 +I think craving a wife/girlfriend who doesn't work is an indication of controlling behaviour and I would advise against any woman entering in to this dynamic.",,34,Legal_Strawberry2,2024-01-16 12:36:06 PurplePillDebate,198ki26,What does Red Pill mean?,"I made a comment recently about some science regarding mating behaviors and someone said it was a red pill comment. However, I find that I typically disagree strongly with RP proponents so i was surprised that someone saw my comment as RP. After this I went looking for a clear definition of RP and I haven't been able to find one. Most of them are vary vague, and say something along the lines of ""RP is understanding the world as it is"", or ""RP is about the biological differences between men and women's mating strategies"", etc. They rarely if ever make it clear what they think the science says, or what conclusions should be drawn from it. @@ -50279,8 +50279,8 @@ Even the Wiki for this sub defines it in vague terms: A core belief is that male and female nature in regards to sexuality differs substantially by sex, but that within each sex there is much broad commonality of behaviours and instincts. RP tends to believe core behaviours and instincts are innate (often genetic) in each sex but these core instincts and behaviours are moderated by cultural circumstances."" -I've spent years studying the science of evolution, mating, etc and what I've learned often goes against what I hear RP proponents say, so I'm curious, what are some concrete things that RP asserts about male and female mating strategies, and what conclusions does RP draw from there?",,2,mrbesito,1705455862.0 -PurplePillDebate,1986xhv,In what way would you like men to open up to you about their problems so you don't feel like their mom/therapist?,?,,11,nonplussedminus,1705422447.0 +I've spent years studying the science of evolution, mating, etc and what I've learned often goes against what I hear RP proponents say, so I'm curious, what are some concrete things that RP asserts about male and female mating strategies, and what conclusions does RP draw from there?",,2,mrbesito,2024-01-17 01:44:22 +PurplePillDebate,1986xhv,In what way would you like men to open up to you about their problems so you don't feel like their mom/therapist?,?,,11,nonplussedminus,2024-01-16 16:27:27 PurplePillDebate,197z15v,Why confidence is a meme.,"Confidence is a projection of competence in a certain field. Not all skills are equally useful and attractive. @@ -50317,14 +50317,14 @@ Obligatory; The only reasonable way to actually attract women in your social circle and beyond is to actually focus on acquiring status, money and good looks. That's literally how I got my girlfriend despite being the same person I was 3 years ago. -The good ole TRP way.",,26,lolcope2,1705397801.0 +The good ole TRP way.",,26,lolcope2,2024-01-16 09:36:41 PurplePillDebate,1980pb0,Are Men and Women equally malicious?,"Would be curious to know what folks here think. I've been trying to understand the root difference between what I see on this website of how men and women are judged differently and so far this appears to be the thing. It seems we are very motivated to assign malice to the actions of men but really hesitant to assign it to the actions of women. -I understand that women were assumed to be evil/malicious in a lot of stupid circumstances in the past but I would think that correcting that wouldn't result in people being more eager to do the same thing to men.",,14,Im_Unsure_For_Sure,1705404274.0 +I understand that women were assumed to be evil/malicious in a lot of stupid circumstances in the past but I would think that correcting that wouldn't result in people being more eager to do the same thing to men.",,14,Im_Unsure_For_Sure,2024-01-16 11:24:34 PurplePillDebate,1983dso,How do you split the finances?,"For those in relationships, how do you guys split the finances? I read many of those his money is hers and hers is hers type replies regarding money but how does it relate to real life? @@ -50336,7 +50336,7 @@ We have a shared bank account for all costs including groceries and gas. Both ha Works better than 1shared account imo since there is less questions about who spend what. -I wonder whats common in other situations?",,7,RAZBUNARE761,1705413209.0 +I wonder whats common in other situations?",,7,RAZBUNARE761,2024-01-16 13:53:29 PurplePillDebate,197o7xq,It is okay to quit dating but not okay to quit striving in life.," If you lose at the game all the time then at some point you have to call it quits. There are always going to be winners and losers. I know, what a cliche. Everyone knows that but it never hits harder home when you are part of the group that is losing: a loser. It heartbreaking to see yourself applying the advice you hear being echoed only to fall face flat on the concrete floor that is human biology. The same few characteristics keep predicting success, confirming their existence while the naysayers spin different arguments to desperately hold the a “pretty” view of the world. Have you tried being more charismatic? Have you tried going to the gym? What about hobbies? How about getting more money? You try, get better, look better, advance your career….but nothing. Yet, the same characteristics keep predicting success and ever changing, every new rendition of the counter-arguments keep being disproven. Maybe, I am doing it wrong. But, my face and body says otherwise. They looks better, but clearly not better enough. My education and resume read better, but….maybe it could read even better. At what point do you throw in the towel? Is it this point? @@ -50349,24 +50349,24 @@ There is an implicit (or maybe explicit) premise in the rhetoric around dating. This doesn’t only extend to men, obviously, but I think it’s more relevant to men. I also don’t know enough about what dating is like for a average to a less than average women so I can’t speak on that. -I am sure some might say “what a cope”, and you would be right, but I feel coping is exactly what we need right now.",,43,Stupid4Knowledge,1705363105.0 +I am sure some might say “what a cope”, and you would be right, but I feel coping is exactly what we need right now.",,43,Stupid4Knowledge,2024-01-15 23:58:25 PurplePillDebate,197yqdv,How would you prefer a man express their interest in you?,"I'm asking about you and your own experiences and preferences. Obviously, there are some contexts where you would much prefer to be left alone, but, in general, are there any instances that stood out to you as how to and how *not* to show interest in a woman? Do you think there should be a difference in approach depending on the environment (club/bar vs. gym)? Many, if not most, would argue some places are a no-go, like work, for example. -What are your thoughts, women of PPD?",,6,Qu3stion_R3ality1750,1705396563.0 +What are your thoughts, women of PPD?",,6,Qu3stion_R3ality1750,2024-01-16 09:16:03 PurplePillDebate,197igxk,Why are we glorifying doing normal adult things,"I saw [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/a4dAeORE2W) question for women that made wonder something. What exactly in the video is so impressive? The guy cooks, cleans, works out, hangs with friends, etc. When did this become the gold standard of what a partner should do? -Forgive me if I’m wrong, but isn’t this just called being an adult? I do all of that plus a hell of a lot more, and work a 40-hour a week job making a fantastic income. I never thought to myself “I deserve a gold star”. Isn’t that just being an adult?",,53,belachewhm,1705349361.0 +Forgive me if I’m wrong, but isn’t this just called being an adult? I do all of that plus a hell of a lot more, and work a 40-hour a week job making a fantastic income. I never thought to myself “I deserve a gold star”. Isn’t that just being an adult?",,53,belachewhm,2024-01-15 20:09:21 PurplePillDebate,197jop4,Current dating attitudes.,"I’m starting to get real confused by the modern dating scene. Just seen a video online from a bloke who calls himself “daddy academy” and he’s talking about how men should always pay for dates, and the entire comment thread is women agreeing saying stuff like “if he asks to split I respond with oh so you wanna be friends okay” or “no problem shame there won’t be a second date”. So I’m genuinely asking for the women, you want equality & to be treated like normal human beings then why is the attitude currently in the dating sphere that men have to pay for you time. -Am I just being dumb considering I’ve not dated for better part of a year as I’ve been in therapy & doing some personal growth/healing. But I feel like we are taking a step backwards and there’s some huge double standards in that women want traditional men with those values, but on the flip side don’t want to be those traditional women.",,27,Mindless-Spare-2454,1705352182.0 +Am I just being dumb considering I’ve not dated for better part of a year as I’ve been in therapy & doing some personal growth/healing. But I feel like we are taking a step backwards and there’s some huge double standards in that women want traditional men with those values, but on the flip side don’t want to be those traditional women.",,27,Mindless-Spare-2454,2024-01-15 20:56:22 PurplePillDebate,197s69s,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -50385,7 +50385,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,1705374010.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,2024-01-16 03:00:10 PurplePillDebate,197fmvq,California Online Dating Safety Act: Thoughts,"I see this promoted on “Are We Dating the Same Guy” Facebook groups. I want to know what PPD thinks. The California Online Dating Safety Act is linked [here](https://valadao.house.gov/news/documentsingle.aspx?DocumentID=439) @@ -50396,16 +50396,16 @@ It also sounds like married people who pretend to not be married on dating apps What do you guys think? -Also, I am not a lawyer, so I don’t really know how to comb through a bill to determine the exact details.",,18,Economy-Shake-1448,1705342771.0 +Also, I am not a lawyer, so I don’t really know how to comb through a bill to determine the exact details.",,18,Economy-Shake-1448,2024-01-15 18:19:31 PurplePillDebate,197iurx,"Are you more attracted to calm, easy going or energetic, vivid personalities?","Confidence is one of the most common things that women have persistently stated as most attractive in a man. While this could be true, like other qualities women find attractive in men, it is incredibly vague. Confidence could mean different things to different people, and could be interpreted in different ways. One person may be more attracted to guys who are mellow, soft-spoke, and easy going and perceive that as clear social confidence that they would be attracted to. Another person may find someone who is more excited and lively in showing a range of expressions while they are socializing. For the lack of the question, I want you to imagine certain factors are other equal such as appearance, things that are being said (at principle, not how its being carried out), lifestyle/income, morals, and context. -While this is heavily based on how your personal experiences compare with what type of guys that you do see, I suspect that there is usually a preference for one or the other. While meeting a guy for the first few times, would you feel gravitate more to a guy who appears at ease and calm, or someone who provides a more high energy atmosphere? Does it vary depending on what you are looking for, or is it usually consistent?",,9,KentuckyCriedFlickin,1705350265.0 +While this is heavily based on how your personal experiences compare with what type of guys that you do see, I suspect that there is usually a preference for one or the other. While meeting a guy for the first few times, would you feel gravitate more to a guy who appears at ease and calm, or someone who provides a more high energy atmosphere? Does it vary depending on what you are looking for, or is it usually consistent?",,9,KentuckyCriedFlickin,2024-01-15 20:24:25 PurplePillDebate,1978rsz,Serious question for the ladys: Do you find this kind of man attractiv?,"Video: https://youtube.com/shorts/1ytLDHjKLVg?si=KpyIEUpYr7j7CxTk I found this channel on YouTube and saw some clips because someone from the manosphere did a reaction about. The most male viewers wrote this man would lack masculinity, would be a cuck, she is cheating on him, etc.. Don't wanna insult him or other men like him, but would be curious what the women on this sub thinks about him and other men who are like him. -Do you think this kind of man have masculinity, are attractiv, etc.?",,25,Parking-Coast-1385,1705325435.0 +Do you think this kind of man have masculinity, are attractiv, etc.?",,25,Parking-Coast-1385,2024-01-15 13:30:35 PurplePillDebate,196yvt2,"Seriously, how is the average joe supposed to be happy if he is never desired?","If this is CMV, mods please change, not showing up on mobile. Now for real, this is a short post, but how is an average guy supposed to actually play the dating game considering he will never be ""truly"" loved. @@ -50424,31 +50424,31 @@ Are guys just this ugly by standard? If so, how the hell is a guy supposed to have a happy fullfilled life of his sexual life is in shambles. -Not every man has a hobby he loves so much that he forgets he has hormones, how does this work?",,98,TurboBanned,1705289799.0 +Not every man has a hobby he loves so much that he forgets he has hormones, how does this work?",,98,TurboBanned,2024-01-15 03:36:39 PurplePillDebate,197rd9a,"CMV: Although it should remain legal, it is immoral for a woman to remain pregnant if the man doesn’t want the child.","The Biological Data Argument. A man may consent to sex with a woman but not consent to fathering a child. Let’s imagine a hypothetical where technology allows you to take two people’s saliva and create a child in an incubator. If a woman consents to kissing a man, is she implicitly consenting to that man swabbing his mouth afterwards for her saliva and using it to have a child? My moral initiation tells me no. So while a man may consent to sex, it does not mean he consents to his biological data (sperm) to be used in a way he does not consent to. Financial abortions are a moot point. It’s not about avoiding parental responsibility, it’s about his body’s data, which he owns. Although perhaps consensually given to her as a byproduct of sex, the woman has no moral right to use a man’s biological data to then have a child that he doesn’t consent to having. -I’m stuck on this thought and am interested in seeing the other side of it.",,0,[deleted],1705371681.0 +I’m stuck on this thought and am interested in seeing the other side of it.",,0,[deleted],2024-01-16 02:21:21 PurplePillDebate,197qjrw,Is there any justification to the notion that men should be allowed to cheat?,"I read a lot of red pill content and watch red pill podcasts such as fresh n fit. Although I personally agree and open to some of the ideas, some of the other ideas I don't necessarily agree with. On the fresh n fit podcast for example- the host explains that men in a relationship or marriage should be able to exercise their options and cheat on their women but the women should not. This is due to biology as it's much easier for a man to separate sex from emotions. A man can have sex with a random women and still come home and love his wife. Also men are hard wired to ""spread their seed"" I completely understand the logic behind it and theory, but in practice it seems very toxic and not something that really works in practice. Maybe it does for top tier men, for example celebrities, sportstars, very wealthy men - where the partner(wife) will accept it's part of the deal, but not for the average guy or even a bit above average man. -Would like to know your thoughts",,0,ShelterNo2786,1705369404.0 +Would like to know your thoughts",,0,ShelterNo2786,2024-01-16 01:43:24 PurplePillDebate,196y2u0,Why do women tend to get aggressive at divorce?,"Happily married for over 30 years but one of our friends separated. I asked my wife “what would you do if we divorced?” Her reply was “make you pay” she was serious. “I would take you to the cleaners” So, my question to women is this. Why do women feel so entitled that they think they deserve to have more than 50% of assets in a divorce when the marriage has been a partnership? Additionally why do women seek to put as much harm as they can on their former partner? (For the discussion, there’s no DV, no arguments, happy marriage, supportive husband who has supported his wife through 3 primary breast cancers and let her retire from working supporting her full time for over 10 years) -My supplementary question is this: can women see a link between this attitude and harm to women post divorce?",,48,TomKikkert,1705287367.0 +My supplementary question is this: can women see a link between this attitude and harm to women post divorce?",,48,TomKikkert,2024-01-15 02:56:07 PurplePillDebate,197d037,Have you ever dated a Jada?,"Pretty self explanatory. I feel like Will Smith slapped Chris Rock out of a moment of pure weakness that was brought on by Jadas scorn. If you rewatch the footage you’ll see Will took it as a joke, but then looked at Jada and saw how angry she was. She manipulated him with her gaze and he was weak enough to fall for it, and act on it in a stupid and rash way. Have you guys ever dated a Jada or been in a situation like it? I’ve had exes that act inflammatory/ manipulative on purpose just to get a rise out of me. For example, have you ever been with a girl and then yall are out in public at an eatery or something and she says “That guy over there keeps looking at me..” and you look over and guy looks like he’s minding his business. Nothing happens. You ignore it. Later on, she brings it up again and says something along the lines of “you’re weak. you didn’t even go tell that guy anything. do you even love me?” It’s the same type of woman that wants men to fight over her. So what’s been yalls experience? How do you handle these types of interactions? Have you ever folded and acted upon it and regretted it in hindsight? -Also, to be clear, i’m not talking about defending your girl in actual uncomfortable or dangerous situations",,4,codeinecrim,1705336520.0 +Also, to be clear, i’m not talking about defending your girl in actual uncomfortable or dangerous situations",,4,codeinecrim,2024-01-15 16:35:20 PurplePillDebate,196wik3,What are some unique burdens that the opposite gender has?,"Men and women are fundamentally different. So what are some things that each gender bears the full brunt of? I’ll list a few. @@ -50469,12 +50469,12 @@ Men: 3. No one really cares about your mental health or issues. Women are pretty horrid at emotional support for men. This isn’t on purpose. It’s mostly because of societal expectations that men have it together and act as leaders of the family. -Enough from me. Let me know what you think.",,38,penndelnj,1705282737.0 +Enough from me. Let me know what you think.",,38,penndelnj,2024-01-15 01:38:57 PurplePillDebate,197wqez,Do you lovely ladies think you'll be able to pull off a alpha fuxs/beta bucks strategy in a post red pill world?,"I think we can all agree that the Red Pill is mainstream now. At this point plenty of guys follow some kind of red pull influencers. Even if they don't watch red pill content themselves it still trickles down to them. One of the major reactions from men is a refusal to be a beta bucks. Surprisingly most women is see today seem to be trying to double down and push hypergamy to the limits. -So my question to you lovely ladies (with everything you know from following this) is do you still think that you can pull off an alpha fuxs/ beta bucks strategy in a post red pill world? Even if you aren't directly planing an AF/BB do you think you'll be able to change your mind later on and get with a good man if things don't work out with the guys you really want?",,0,GhettoJamesBond,1705388487.0 +So my question to you lovely ladies (with everything you know from following this) is do you still think that you can pull off an alpha fuxs/ beta bucks strategy in a post red pill world? Even if you aren't directly planing an AF/BB do you think you'll be able to change your mind later on and get with a good man if things don't work out with the guys you really want?",,0,GhettoJamesBond,2024-01-16 07:01:27 PurplePillDebate,196z3cz,What societal scenario would make redpilled men happy?,"I personally don't endorse RedPill but I have consumed it's content out of curiosity. I am asking this with the utmost respect possible to everyone who might think otherwise. From what I've consumed, these influencers tell other men to get in shape and get rich to get women. Appearance and wealth. Using their logic, women exclusively pay attention to a man if he's hot and rich. Simultaneously, they denigrate women who date men exclusively for their appearance and money. If you have ""cracked the code"" to what women supposedly want, and then women agree and materialize their narrative by having the standards you have set, isn't that a win for you? Isn't that the whole point of their movement? @@ -50483,10 +50483,10 @@ I don't see the logic in saying ""women want this"" and then certain women say " Isn't this what you wanted? Is it logical to be this angry that some women cater to your narrative? -(If you’re going to comment “who’s angry?”, don’t. It’s common knowledge that red pilled men online are extremely angry at women.)",,19,NonameNamelez,1705290462.0 +(If you’re going to comment “who’s angry?”, don’t. It’s common knowledge that red pilled men online are extremely angry at women.)",,19,NonameNamelez,2024-01-15 03:47:42 PurplePillDebate,197sun3,Who even are these “top percentile men” that are allegedly getting 80% of the dating results?,"As talk online and official studies have pointed out such as with dating apps, it is apparent that the majority of men are not seen as attractive and it is only the top 10-20% that are. If this is true, it feels really hard to objectively determine and quantify. What does top percentile even mean? Does this mean men who are at least 6 ft, good physique, perfect looking face and make a lot of money? If that is so then I don’t know what to say because I mean these types of guys with everything perfect hardly even exist. I even did a Tinder experiment in my area to view the men just because I was curious and I did not see any guys who seemed like supermodels or those guys people use for catfishing. Are the standards for being in the top percentile not as high as it seems? If it’s not, it still doesn’t make sense because I know good looking guys who don’t have a lot of luck with online dating. -At this point nothing makes sense. Traditional rhetoric from the chronically online is that all the women are after Chad and he is coming for your girlfriend but how can this even be possible if there’s so few of them in the first place. However, taking the statistics, only 10-20% of men have success on dating apps and even good looking guys can struggle with dating which contradicts my observations. I also know average looking guys who have no problems getting into relationships or hookups and some even get results online. In conclusion, I’m confused who these top percentile men even are and what statistics are actually real or just mental masturbation.",,0,False_Moose_1427,1705376006.0 +At this point nothing makes sense. Traditional rhetoric from the chronically online is that all the women are after Chad and he is coming for your girlfriend but how can this even be possible if there’s so few of them in the first place. However, taking the statistics, only 10-20% of men have success on dating apps and even good looking guys can struggle with dating which contradicts my observations. I also know average looking guys who have no problems getting into relationships or hookups and some even get results online. In conclusion, I’m confused who these top percentile men even are and what statistics are actually real or just mental masturbation.",,0,False_Moose_1427,2024-01-16 03:33:26 PurplePillDebate,197l3ol,Would you still date women if you had an authentic bioengineered vagina and womb in your basement?,"So you'd be able to have sex and procreate at will without going out to ""hunt"" or worrying about rejection. We had artificial womb discussion come up recently, and I was wondering about this. @@ -50495,7 +50495,7 @@ We had artificial womb discussion come up recently, and I was wondering about th &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,0,whitegrayblack5,1705355485.0 +&#x200B;",,0,whitegrayblack5,2024-01-15 21:51:25 PurplePillDebate,196gigp,Why does it seem like progressiveness towards the gender roles only apply toward women?,"It seems there’s a lot of progressive attitudes towards the women gender roles but not for men. In terms of dating/marriage. For example a woman is no longer expected to stay in the kitchen, clean the house and raise the kids. Depending on the couple and their situation, the man and woman are both expected to help. However, when it comes to the man’s role, it’s different. For example, look at this vid. https://www.tiktok.com/@officialchristianwalk1r/video/7319931597040536875 @@ -50506,7 +50506,7 @@ It seems there’s a discrepancy or a lag between what is expected of a man vs a Now I don’t mind doing any of these things for a girl I like. But it seems that the prevailing attitude towards dating for men is “what can he do for me financially”. Of course finances are a big part of a relationship, but it seems like it’s number 1 on their list instead of liking the person for who they are. Not for what they have or can do for you. -Thoughts?",,170,Nobodyherem8,1705240831.0 +Thoughts?",,170,Nobodyherem8,2024-01-14 14:00:31 PurplePillDebate,196tkgt,Men feel that women will not allow them to have preferences but where do they get this idea?,"It's been said on here before that women will not allow men to have preferences, whereas women are allowed to by society. @@ -50514,12 +50514,12 @@ But I don't see men getting any judgment for having preferences, at least not ju Nor is any guy getting canceled by cancel culture for not having an obese gf/wife. -So I wonder why some guys are under the impression that they're being harshly judged for having preferences, unless I am not seeing what is really going on?",,13,harmonica2,1705274647.0 +So I wonder why some guys are under the impression that they're being harshly judged for having preferences, unless I am not seeing what is really going on?",,13,harmonica2,2024-01-14 23:24:07 PurplePillDebate,197mioq,Why do single and childless men who complain they cannot get dates or relationships also complain about the big numbers of single moms and that they would never date a single mother?,"There are many single mothers nowadays and many of them want to have relationships but they complain thst most guys don't want to date single moms. Due to the law of supply and demand single moms are far less picky than childless and single women of the same age and attractiveness levels because of the stigma against dating single parents. -The same guys who say that women are very picky and they cannot get sex nor dates are often the ones who say they would never have a relationship with a single mom. But a single mom is a woman like a childless/childfree one. I understand that her kids add struggles to the relationship but I just don't understand such stigma and prejudice.",,0,sabrynekrystal1992,1705358807.0 +The same guys who say that women are very picky and they cannot get sex nor dates are often the ones who say they would never have a relationship with a single mom. But a single mom is a woman like a childless/childfree one. I understand that her kids add struggles to the relationship but I just don't understand such stigma and prejudice.",,0,sabrynekrystal1992,2024-01-15 22:46:47 PurplePillDebate,196pq6h,What do you being to the table,"I’ve seen this question asked to women online and when asked it’s usually asked in the most disingenuous way. I’m actually curious to find out the opposite from men but without trying to knock anyone down. @@ -50536,14 +50536,14 @@ Please answer these questions: 4. What do you require your partner or future partner to bring to the table to keep you . -When answering please use examples of what you currently have or who you currently are . Not who you could be , would be or is working towards being or achieving in the future . ",,16,GeneralFig6053,1705265120.0 +When answering please use examples of what you currently have or who you currently are . Not who you could be , would be or is working towards being or achieving in the future . ",,16,GeneralFig6053,2024-01-14 20:45:20 PurplePillDebate,196iq07,Post-Nut Clarity and what it suggests about males,"PNC = once you bust, your mind is no longer ""clouded"" by sexual urges and you can think clearly about what you're doing all of a sudden. Does this mean... the rest of the time your mind IS clouded and you aren't thinking clearly? Seems like it'd be terrible to CONSTANTLY have cloudy thinking because of sexual urges. But it would account for a lot of unexplainable behavior. I've even heard the advice given between males to ""rub one out before a major decision"", so it's obviously impairing y'all's judgement. -Why hasn't Big Pharma figured out a way to bottle PNC and sell it over the counter?",,39,Windmill_flowers,1705247119.0 +Why hasn't Big Pharma figured out a way to bottle PNC and sell it over the counter?",,39,Windmill_flowers,2024-01-14 15:45:19 PurplePillDebate,196t8rm,"What's the difference, in principle and in morals, between pump-and-dump and serial monogamy?","Pump-and-dump is engaging in intimate relationship with a person (usually a woman, but exceptions happen) with intent to abandon them within several hours. Serial monogamy is engaging in intimate relationship with a person (usually a man, but exceptions happen) with intent to abandon them within several months/years. @@ -50552,7 +50552,7 @@ In undesirable variety of both scenarios, the other person wants the relationshi Is there a crucial difference why these two cases are uncomparable? Is there any objective reason why one or the other is more ""unfair""? Do the answers to these two questions change or stay the same if serial monogamist gets or doesn't get married? -Let me hear your thoughts.",,8,abaxeron,1705273806.0 +Let me hear your thoughts.",,8,abaxeron,2024-01-14 23:10:06 PurplePillDebate,196wy2m,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -50571,22 +50571,22 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,5,AutoModerator,1705284008.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,5,AutoModerator,2024-01-15 02:00:08 PurplePillDebate,195ym4h,Does the Destiny situation prove that redpill is right?,"Destiny is a popular twitch streamer that aligns with bluepill thinking and [made it his life goals to prove the redpill community wrong on all fronts](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YIFUFQW-fKY&ab_channel=DestinyClips). He has been on many relationship oriented podcast like: freshandfit, whatever, Justpearlything and Adam Sosnick podcast and debates with redpillers on gender issues in society. In terms of how he operates in his romantic life, he is all about equality and seeing women as equal, he's also a feminist and was in an open marriage with his soon to be ex-wife. [Many redpillers told him that being in an open relationship was bad and that it would end in divorce in 1-2 years](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tqzB5tNO3to&ab_channel=DestinyClips). Destiny laughed at the idea of getting a divorce and was confident that his wife will always come back to him, no matter who she slept with; he also choose not to get a prenup fyi. Fast forward to December 2023 and text messages, that Destiny had with his mods, begin circulating the internet. Within said text, Destiny confirms that him and his wife were heading towards a divorce. It was revealed further that the reason for said divorce was due to Destiny putting his foot down at her sleeping with other men. Funny enough, 1 week prior to this, Rollo Tomasi (redpill content creator) made a video about how women hate [beta males that try to exhibit alpha male qualities (aka have a backbone and set boundaries) later in the relationship.](https://youtu.be/9gfXp7rqKfM?si=BmHUdiSYz40QAfus) Around Christmas time, Destiny's wife hits him up for 100k, stating that he owes her money for her apartment and that if he wants to do what's ""morally right"" he'll give her the money for ""forcing her to leave the US"". In addition to this, Destiny has revealed that his wife is going around town and basically telling people, within their social circles, that part of the reason for her leaving him is due to him being ""abusive and neglectful"".[Now come 2024 and Destiny is in shambles, he has stated live on stream that he's not sure if he'll ever date again.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X2oXpvMY_v0) -Do you think what happened to Destiny is a perfect example of what happens to men ignoring the redpill and thinking that bad dating outcome with never happen to them?",,125,shonenhikada,1705181112.0 -PurplePillDebate,195yey9,Women tell men how to be attractive not sexually attractive and men struggle because of it,"In this context sexual attractiveness definition means ""wanting to have sex with"". Attractiveness means to be ""drawn to that person."" Typically when looking for advice, Men get advice for attractiveness instead of sexual attractiveness. These two are the same for women but different for males. Attractiveness would be categotized as being friendly, approachable personality, disarming looks, less pushy and etc. However sexual attractiveness for a man has consistently shown to be traits that show dominance and power. The opposite of attractiveness or approachable. For example, women are obsessed with taller men. Why? It's a form of dominance to repel other men. Muscles consistently show more partners because it repels other men. Aggression and everything opposite of being friendly is what's actually sexually attractive for men. So much so, all Hollywood's conventially attractive men have been using steroids for some time to keep up with societies exaggerated preference for masculinity. Women tell you how they get more dates. Which is not how Men get more dates. They can be attractive and therefore sexually attractive. Which is not the same for men",,63,YtBlue,1705180573.0 +Do you think what happened to Destiny is a perfect example of what happens to men ignoring the redpill and thinking that bad dating outcome with never happen to them?",,125,shonenhikada,2024-01-13 21:25:12 +PurplePillDebate,195yey9,Women tell men how to be attractive not sexually attractive and men struggle because of it,"In this context sexual attractiveness definition means ""wanting to have sex with"". Attractiveness means to be ""drawn to that person."" Typically when looking for advice, Men get advice for attractiveness instead of sexual attractiveness. These two are the same for women but different for males. Attractiveness would be categotized as being friendly, approachable personality, disarming looks, less pushy and etc. However sexual attractiveness for a man has consistently shown to be traits that show dominance and power. The opposite of attractiveness or approachable. For example, women are obsessed with taller men. Why? It's a form of dominance to repel other men. Muscles consistently show more partners because it repels other men. Aggression and everything opposite of being friendly is what's actually sexually attractive for men. So much so, all Hollywood's conventially attractive men have been using steroids for some time to keep up with societies exaggerated preference for masculinity. Women tell you how they get more dates. Which is not how Men get more dates. They can be attractive and therefore sexually attractive. Which is not the same for men",,63,YtBlue,2024-01-13 21:16:13 PurplePillDebate,196ekl0,Films/books that portray the male ideal fantasy?,"There are several romantic books or films that, in my eyes (as a woman), portray perfect love/relationships/partners. To better understand what the male ideal looks like in this regard - can you recommend some films or books? It would also be great if you could explain in a few words, what makes the pictured so appealing. -Thanks!",,6,desert_fly,1705234393.0 +Thanks!",,6,desert_fly,2024-01-14 12:13:13 PurplePillDebate,1967enn,"How can a ""nice guy"" truly become a cocky, playful asshole (""bad boy"")?","The good people of PPD are all familiar with the pointless back-and-forth arguing about whether women like assholes and whether ""nice guys finish last."" Blue pillers retort that these guys aren't actually assholes, they're just confident guys who flirt and tease properly. Let's be clear, ""asshole"" is an inherently goofy term, you should be imagining the type of guy that makes girls go ""You're such an asshole!"" while slapping his shoulder. Genuinely bad people will be referred to as ""bad people."" Throughout my life I've seen naturals, of average or even below average attractiveness pull attractive/average young women (the average college girl is attractive) through their playful asshole personality. And let's be real, these guys are always bad people. There's a weird dynamic where bluepillers are correct in noting that their flirting/teasing/playful asshole personality is appropriate and doesn't make them bad people, but these guys actually are bad people in real life. The redpilled nice guys of PPD see this and think ""It was obvious all along"" which... it was. From our male perspective, it doesn't make sense for women to be attracted to these cocky, playful assholes then act surprised when they're bad people. It doesn't make sense to expect there to be some ""Just kidding, I don't actually think I'm superior"" moment at some point. @@ -50601,7 +50601,7 @@ Studies show that men who call themselves ""incels"" are actually a slightly lef So the question becomes, how can a ""nice guy"" truly embody the personality of a cocky, playful asshole in order to attract women? This question is for both the redpillers and bluepillers reading this. This is what we should all be focusing on, since PPD nice guys have no retort to the question of ""Why don't you become an asshole then?"" -How can we take guys who are inclined towards equality, altruism, and cooperation and turn them into bad boys/playful assholes? Ironically this would be exactly what women would want, correct? We could trojan horse women into dating nice guys by having them behave like assholes? Is it really possible to make this transformation though? To truly adopt the seemingly seamless rizz of these successful men if you're not inclined towards it? If we can articulate a way, then that basically solves all of PPD's problems with dating, right? Arguably this is just describing the function of /r/TheRedPill. What are everyone's thoughts though? What would a ""bluepilled"" prescription for transformation look like? ",,13,FeignRetreat,1705206744.0 +How can we take guys who are inclined towards equality, altruism, and cooperation and turn them into bad boys/playful assholes? Ironically this would be exactly what women would want, correct? We could trojan horse women into dating nice guys by having them behave like assholes? Is it really possible to make this transformation though? To truly adopt the seemingly seamless rizz of these successful men if you're not inclined towards it? If we can articulate a way, then that basically solves all of PPD's problems with dating, right? Arguably this is just describing the function of /r/TheRedPill. What are everyone's thoughts though? What would a ""bluepilled"" prescription for transformation look like? ",,13,FeignRetreat,2024-01-14 04:32:24 PurplePillDebate,195zsfl,Why is confidence such an aphrodisiac?," It’s perhaps the single biggest attractor at least in the early phase of dating. Sometimes confidence alone is all it takes to seal the deal when someone would only be mildly attractive otherwise. @@ -50629,15 +50629,15 @@ Edit I’m referring to outward confidence, the type that’s boldly announced not subtly discovered - the type which doesn’t actually require any inner confidence to feign -We now know that this form of confidence is a heuristic for competence which offered a survival advantage in bygone times by indicating that a man was able to protect and provide for a woman and a child ( meanwhile physical attractiveness indicated fertility in women and was more important than confidence) but surely we can therefore see it for what it is in modern dating world - an obsolete attribute that doesn’t mean really anything anymore ",,24,StaticNocturne,1705184220.0 +We now know that this form of confidence is a heuristic for competence which offered a survival advantage in bygone times by indicating that a man was able to protect and provide for a woman and a child ( meanwhile physical attractiveness indicated fertility in women and was more important than confidence) but surely we can therefore see it for what it is in modern dating world - an obsolete attribute that doesn’t mean really anything anymore ",,24,StaticNocturne,2024-01-13 22:17:00 PurplePillDebate,196f14t,Female women are you also scared of approaching men and end up imagining disatrous scenarios in your head?,"I am not going to specify the place but you just saw a guy you think is cute and you want to talk to him but while you are working up the courage to go do something, you already thinking about the many ways he will reject you. He will: Ignore you, make fun of you to his friends (or anyone close to him at the moment), look at you in disgust, etc. -I know you are going to say: ""Of course. Women have emotions too!"" but, because we men are expected to make the first move, it's really hard to believe that women would go through the same anxious thoughts. For example, I myself feel rejected as soon as I get out of bed in the morning. ",,0,Felizem_velair_,1705236039.0 +I know you are going to say: ""Of course. Women have emotions too!"" but, because we men are expected to make the first move, it's really hard to believe that women would go through the same anxious thoughts. For example, I myself feel rejected as soon as I get out of bed in the morning. ",,0,Felizem_velair_,2024-01-14 12:40:39 PurplePillDebate,196etxu,"Apparently, a lot of women now want to meet someone while ""running errands""","apparently women are tired of dating apps and [prefer to be approached while running errands](https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGe25Bohd/) . Which makes sense. Imagine telling your family you met while swiping left and right on Tinder? Its just sounds objectifying, artificial , even dystopian. The fear of getting approached, or rather getting viscerally annoyed by it, is more a sign of a low-trust atomized society than the method of chatting up a woman being problematic. Mostly online spaces like this one are against it because they're populated by the terminally online who fear their own shadows. -In the real world, the consequences of such messaging are already firing back. More women fear of ending up alone and childless and alone, while if you're on reddit where the anti-natal crowds are the loudest it would make it seem ""childfree"" it's the hippest thing out there. ",,0,HardTimes4Vampires,1705235320.0 +In the real world, the consequences of such messaging are already firing back. More women fear of ending up alone and childless and alone, while if you're on reddit where the anti-natal crowds are the loudest it would make it seem ""childfree"" it's the hippest thing out there. ",,0,HardTimes4Vampires,2024-01-14 12:28:40 PurplePillDebate,195n664,The way TRP describes female submission makes 0 sense,"""You can be submissive and not be a doormat"". ""Submissive doesn't mean inferior"". Umm, this makes 0 sense. If you're looking for someone you doesn't argue much and usually goes with the flow, the correct word is ""agreeable"". @@ -50646,7 +50646,7 @@ Submissive means that you are a follower and submit to someone's authority. I ca And no this is not the same to BDSM at all , in healthy BDSM there are clear boundaries and it's pretty much roleplay most of the time. Nothing happens unless the sub consents. However, with the way TRP describes it , it seems like the dominant man will always have the final say and you should STFU and follow him. So yea it means being inferior and a doormat to a degree. -""But my grandma wasn't a doormat or inferior"". Yes because chances are she wasn't submissive lol. Almost none of the elderly women I know would think of themselves as submissive, at best they were agreeable and even that wasn't always true. The average man in the 50s wasn't some tyrant who would always have the final say. Of course this dynamic exists but it doesn't define most boomer relationships.",,43,Novel-Tip-7570,1705149671.0 +""But my grandma wasn't a doormat or inferior"". Yes because chances are she wasn't submissive lol. Almost none of the elderly women I know would think of themselves as submissive, at best they were agreeable and even that wasn't always true. The average man in the 50s wasn't some tyrant who would always have the final say. Of course this dynamic exists but it doesn't define most boomer relationships.",,43,Novel-Tip-7570,2024-01-13 12:41:11 PurplePillDebate,196a5xc,"Which side criticizes the other side more - ""Red Pill"" criticizing ""Blue Pill"" or ""Blue Pill"" criticizing ""Red Pill""?","For starters, let's make it clear what the **Red Pill** and the **Blue Pill** actually are. *""The red pill and blue pill represent a choice between the willingness to learn a potentially unsettling or life-changing truth by taking the red pill or remaining in the contented experience of ordinary reality with the blue pill (i.e. the reality principle or the pleasure principle\[1\]). The terms originate from the 1999 film The Matrix.""* [*https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Red\_pill\_and\_blue\_pill*](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Red_pill_and_blue_pill) @@ -50677,7 +50677,7 @@ Maybe there's examples I don't know about like - ""Red Pill"" guys being all - * Anyway, it's not about what I've seen as I haven't really seen all there is out there. That's why I'm asking the question. -**The question is - which party do you see criticizing, shaming, and maligning the other party more - Red Pill criticizing Blue Pill or Blue Pill criticizing Red Pill?**",,0,Da_Famous_Anus,1705216567.0 +**The question is - which party do you see criticizing, shaming, and maligning the other party more - Red Pill criticizing Blue Pill or Blue Pill criticizing Red Pill?**",,0,Da_Famous_Anus,2024-01-14 07:16:07 PurplePillDebate,195sslb,"Dating, investments, homeownership, and financial priorities","This non-sex topic needs to be separated into its own discussion, because it's receiving attention in the DO40 subreddit. [Single Women Are More Likely To Own Homes Than Single Men In Nearly All States](https://www.forbes.com/sites/brendarichardson/2023/01/25/single-women-are-more-likely-to-own-homes-than-single-men-in-nearly-all-states/) @@ -50700,7 +50700,7 @@ The counterpoints, however, are as follows: 5) Many college-educated men, including late bloomers, are willing to chase the MBA credential. -The financial priorities of college-educated men, including late bloomers, do clash with the financial priorities of first-time home buyers among women, and especially clash if the latter are never-married single mothers.",,13,FromAuntToNiece,1705165954.0 +The financial priorities of college-educated men, including late bloomers, do clash with the financial priorities of first-time home buyers among women, and especially clash if the latter are never-married single mothers.",,13,FromAuntToNiece,2024-01-13 17:12:34 PurplePillDebate,1963aqn,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -50719,21 +50719,21 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,2,AutoModerator,1705194012.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,2,AutoModerator,2024-01-14 01:00:12 PurplePillDebate,195slma,Do you believe most men respect women you meet?," I know I'm bias as a guys, I believe most guys respect women, I've only seen guys be respectful to women, their partner and I've seen plenty guys go the extra mile for a woman we both dont know. Other then the few assholes and teen boys. I think men generally respect women. -Do you agree? Is your lived experience different? Or I'm I just clueless about the world?",,12,topredhat,1705165428.0 +Do you agree? Is your lived experience different? Or I'm I just clueless about the world?",,12,topredhat,2024-01-13 17:03:48 PurplePillDebate,1962lr8,What does the 80/20 rule?,"I often see it cited in the sub but never in a consistent manner. Sometimes it's 80% of women are attracted to 20% of men. Other times, it's 20% of men get 80% of the sex. -What does it mean and in your opinion, why is it cited inconsistently? ",,3,PPothy,1705191999.0 +What does it mean and in your opinion, why is it cited inconsistently? ",,3,PPothy,2024-01-14 00:26:39 PurplePillDebate,195svlc,"If one group is more desperate than the other in a deal, that increases the chance of injustice happening to the desperate member of the deal.","It is simple common sense. Most people do not operate on a level of altruism to where they will intentionally disadvantage themselves to get a fair deal for the other party. Most people do not have the temperance to not riskily overindulge on hedonism when it is readily available. Why should we assume that men, the sex which has had an entire philosophical campaign to paint them as historical villains, who have had modern technology to increase their disadvantage, who nature itself made them less charismatic and appealing than women aren't facing any sort of injustice. -Truthfully I'm not sure what's the point of typing this out, considering most women will completely acknowledge this because it would make themselves feel like villains, but if you care about the truth you will acknowledge that within the dating sphere men are facing deep injustices.",,12,EveningEveryman,1705166174.0 -PurplePillDebate,19688q5,Should people with little to no dating experience be allowed to discuss or debate dating issues?,"Really....should people who have never had sex be taken seriously in conversations about ""sex and gender issues?"" ",,0,Specific_Praline_362,1705209621.0 +Truthfully I'm not sure what's the point of typing this out, considering most women will completely acknowledge this because it would make themselves feel like villains, but if you care about the truth you will acknowledge that within the dating sphere men are facing deep injustices.",,12,EveningEveryman,2024-01-13 17:16:14 +PurplePillDebate,19688q5,Should people with little to no dating experience be allowed to discuss or debate dating issues?,"Really....should people who have never had sex be taken seriously in conversations about ""sex and gender issues?"" ",,0,Specific_Praline_362,2024-01-14 05:20:21 PurplePillDebate,196cf5f,How do you think you guys will handle it once it's over and you're settled down?,"I have been following the red pill for about 10 years now. 10 whole years of approaching, building up my value, and strategizing. My biggest problem before was being a beat with no bucks, now thats changed and im a high value man. Now it's over and I wifed up the girl that was there with me through the hard times and we have a kid together now. I know I made the right decision because she got with me when she was 25 and was with me when I didn't have anything. So I know I won the game. @@ -50742,7 +50742,7 @@ However I find it very hard to let it all go. I finally have my money up and I'm I think using the Tom Leykis strategy of letting them think I would be a beta bucks. Then just pumping and dumping before they realize I'm not I could've been smashing all these single moms left and right and having the time of my life right now. But instead I keep trying to remind myself that I made the right choice. -I heard that the more you think about alternatives, the more you become invested in them and in the red pill that's all we do. I can't help but wonder how much harder it makes it to let it go when it's over. Especially when you fixed all the issue's that were previously holding you back and figured it all out. So are we just making it harder for ourselves when the time comes to let it all go? Do you guys think you'll be able to let it all go when it's over? Because the truth is that you are going to have to settle if you don't want to be a beta bucks.",,0,GhettoJamesBond,1705225829.0 +I heard that the more you think about alternatives, the more you become invested in them and in the red pill that's all we do. I can't help but wonder how much harder it makes it to let it go when it's over. Especially when you fixed all the issue's that were previously holding you back and figured it all out. So are we just making it harder for ourselves when the time comes to let it all go? Do you guys think you'll be able to let it all go when it's over? Because the truth is that you are going to have to settle if you don't want to be a beta bucks.",,0,GhettoJamesBond,2024-01-14 09:50:29 PurplePillDebate,195yc74,Questions about womens' complaints directed towards men,"Been lurking for a while now. I just wanted to clarify some stuff that confuses me (a black man). \-There was a post a while back on r/TwoXChromosomes about a lady who was tired of people asking her out/flirting with her. She purposefully wore baggy clothes to prevent this, but people still tried to talk to her. @@ -50766,7 +50766,7 @@ Please respond. As a man, and thus, an outsider to the plight of the female gend This is coming from a guy who had women start speedwalking as soon as they saw me, a 6'2 black dude, walking down the street. I swear on God I didn't do anything beforehand. It's fucking horrendous how our society has gotten to the point where women can take one look at a guy they've never seen before and immediately think ""gr#p15t"". I see that logic a lot in women's discourse too. A lot of the posts on women-only subs are like, ""OMFG I ALMOST GOT GR$P3ð SHOULD I CALL THE COPS OH MY GOD"" and they describe their horrifying encounter with a random dude going about his day. Why do people think like this? Is it due to the media? This feels like the Cold War all over again, where everyone's neighbor is a communist spy because they looked at them funny. - ",,0,SinopeLycanthrope,1705180369.0 + ",,0,SinopeLycanthrope,2024-01-13 21:12:49 PurplePillDebate,1950gwd,Men are infinitely more forgiving towards women flaws yet women keep pretending men and women are on an even field with dating.,"Height. Men are way more forgiving towards women regarding height. I have never seen a male midget with a girlfriend. Autistic/socially awkward traits. Men are infinitely more forgiving towards women with these traits. Because of this women on the spectrum grow up being more rude and abrasive because they never felt any consequences for this. @@ -50775,14 +50775,14 @@ Being ugly. Ugly women always have a chance to get in a relationship, because me Upkeep demands. Dates, vacations, gifts whatever. Women are more demanding with these things than men. -Making money. Men are fine when a woman makes less money than them but not the other way around. So much for feminism. ",,166,EveningEveryman,1705080238.0 +Making money. Men are fine when a woman makes less money than them but not the other way around. So much for feminism. ",,166,EveningEveryman,2024-01-12 17:23:58 PurplePillDebate,195sjpp,FEMINISM WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD,"&#x200B; [Please Join Us on Discord!](https://discord.gg/3aHh4trC7B) Include your reddit username, pill color, age and gender when you arrive in the welcome mat to introduce yourself and help people get to know you. &#x200B; -You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,2,AutoModerator,1705165293.0 +You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,2,AutoModerator,2024-01-13 17:01:33 PurplePillDebate,195s29s,The logical origin of the argument “he should have worn a condom” or “he should have kept it in his pants” is actually “she should have just been abstinent”. Why do makers of the former claims not understand the argument they are actually making?,"When going through the threads covering abortion, pregnancy, paternity, and parental rights, you will see comments like the first two circle like clockwork. However, I don’t think people making this argument actually understand the true argument they are making and that they are actually choosing a particular moment in a sequence that results in pregnancy as opposed to the origin. Here are some presuppositions: - women are the main selectors and deciders of if and when sex happens between two romantically interested people. How can I verify this (because I’ve seen the arguments against this before)? Let’s look at the topic of consent, it’s bolstering into mainstream talking points, and it’s origins. Women have been the initial and primary drivers of this. Why? Because their consent directly determines whether any kind of sexual act occurs. This also involves what kind of contraception is used, in order to receive their consent. It’s only recently that consent of a man has really come into play and I assume that’s because there’s a realization that women being the primary consent givers means they are the ones who determine bell curve sexual encounters. @@ -50793,14 +50793,14 @@ PurplePillDebate,195s29s,The logical origin of the argument “he should have wo - the “he should have worn a condom” argument actually is designed to obscure the fact that the sexual encounter was not verified by him, but by the woman. She also determines what kind of BC is used. I cannot tell you how many times women told me (and there are an abundance of men with the same experience) not to use a condom but I did anyways. This shows that women are aware of their say in this regard and that if they can urge you not to use it, they certainly can command you do. -- finally, if the real argument is “every sexual encounter should assume a risk of a pregnancy” then that’s pretty much tantamount to being an abstinence hustler.",,0,No-Rough-7390,1705164029.0 +- finally, if the real argument is “every sexual encounter should assume a risk of a pregnancy” then that’s pretty much tantamount to being an abstinence hustler.",,0,No-Rough-7390,2024-01-13 16:40:29 PurplePillDebate,19637xm,Why do some women willingly oppress themselves?,"https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8brGDYF/ In this video, a woman is talking about how she and her husband have an unequal relationship. She talks about all of the things that she does for him, but fails to mention anything that he does for her. My question is why do some women not realize they are in an oppressive relationship? I would not be surprised if she is being abused. -It is sad to see. What are your thoughts?",,0,Windmill_flowers,1705193784.0 +It is sad to see. What are your thoughts?",,0,Windmill_flowers,2024-01-14 00:56:24 PurplePillDebate,194qi7f,Why do some people bend over backwards to find excuses for everything women do?,"""women initiate most divorces"" ""Well, it's because the men are horrible husbands and deserve it"". @@ -50819,7 +50819,7 @@ PurplePillDebate,194qi7f,Why do some people bend over backwards to find excuses You get it, there's always an excuse to everything women do. The people who say these things never extent the same grace to men. -I fully believe that men can be horrible, I could write a whole essay about bad traits that are associated with men. However, I also have no problem admitting that some women simply make piss poor decisions and then they don't accept responsibility. It's okay to admit that. It doesn't mean that women should be oppressed or anything crazy like that. It also doesn't mean that men are better or that male violence is justified. But some women are total morons and have horrible taste.",,270,Novel-Tip-7570,1705049339.0 +I fully believe that men can be horrible, I could write a whole essay about bad traits that are associated with men. However, I also have no problem admitting that some women simply make piss poor decisions and then they don't accept responsibility. It's okay to admit that. It doesn't mean that women should be oppressed or anything crazy like that. It also doesn't mean that men are better or that male violence is justified. But some women are total morons and have horrible taste.",,270,Novel-Tip-7570,2024-01-12 08:48:59 PurplePillDebate,1952va7,You're not forced to be with women who don't want you.,"Genuine question: Why do you think your options are only limited to women who settle for you? @@ -50853,15 +50853,15 @@ Despite all attempts at rationale (for example, the GSS study which states that Even if there are women out there who sleep around a bunch with hot dudes (I agree there are), most women are shacked up with guys they're genuinely hot for. People they likely met in their early-mid 20's, and then go one to get married/have kids. -So I would like to ask: What is honestly driving this fear of being settled for? Are you honestly afraid you may have to settle for a woman who isn't hot for you? You know you don't have to settle for women who don't want you, right?",,28,Nate__Reborn,1705086197.0 +So I would like to ask: What is honestly driving this fear of being settled for? Are you honestly afraid you may have to settle for a woman who isn't hot for you? You know you don't have to settle for women who don't want you, right?",,28,Nate__Reborn,2024-01-12 19:03:17 PurplePillDebate,194xptd,Where is the incentive for a woman to be submissive?,"The only thing being submissive or agreeble does to a woman's dating life is increase the likelyhood of her attracting an abusive controlling man. It also doesn't help that it's that only people who absolutely loathe women like the host of the Fresh and Fit podcast and tradcons who want to roll back on women's rights promoting this advice. -Since a woman doesn't even have to be remotely submissive or agreeble to get a man I'm just simply not seeing the benefits whatsoever.",,55,Ok-Map-7596,1705073290.0 +Since a woman doesn't even have to be remotely submissive or agreeble to get a man I'm just simply not seeing the benefits whatsoever.",,55,Ok-Map-7596,2024-01-12 15:28:10 PurplePillDebate,1950yr3,Women’s Attraction to Dangerous and Violent Men,"This thought just occurred to me this morning, so it is kind of fresh and not completely fleshed out, but I think it at least partially explains a question that many people are confused by. The question being, “Why are many women attracted to dangerous men that are capable of violence?” I think that a lot of women find this attractive because they (whether consciously or subconsciously) believe they will be able to tame the man and wield the man’s strength and capability of violence to their own ends. -It honestly is not a great strategy, because the women in question are going to be the most likely victim of that dangerous man, but as we all know attraction isn’t often guided by logic. What do you think? Is this idea resonating with anyone or am I off the mark? Would appreciate some genuine discussion on this topic because I would like to refine this idea a bit.",,35,silkyj0hnson,1705081468.0 +It honestly is not a great strategy, because the women in question are going to be the most likely victim of that dangerous man, but as we all know attraction isn’t often guided by logic. What do you think? Is this idea resonating with anyone or am I off the mark? Would appreciate some genuine discussion on this topic because I would like to refine this idea a bit.",,35,silkyj0hnson,2024-01-12 17:44:28 PurplePillDebate,19622jd,Passport bros and mail order husbands doing it wrong: The case for marrying up not down,"TRP and the manosphere have lots of discussions on passport bros and mail order husbands. In both cases, the late bloomer man marries down in socioeconomic status. That's the wrong approach. @@ -50870,7 +50870,7 @@ The case can actually be made for marrying up instead. Look, if the wife is going to be using this man for citizenship status, then it is the *man* who should exercise the right to sex outside a committed relationship, up to and including extramarital sex. It is the *man* who should be able to state outright an intent to pursue this, in the tone of a bully. It is the *man* who should be able to exercise the right to cheat if necessary. -Marry rich, insist on *joint* finances, then f*** outside the marriage to the foreigner wife's tears. He will have her by the proverbial p****.",,0,FromAuntToNiece,1705190498.0 +Marry rich, insist on *joint* finances, then f*** outside the marriage to the foreigner wife's tears. He will have her by the proverbial p****.",,0,FromAuntToNiece,2024-01-14 00:01:38 PurplePillDebate,1959xd9,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -50889,17 +50889,17 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,9,AutoModerator,1705104011.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,9,AutoModerator,2024-01-13 00:00:11 PurplePillDebate,1954yti,Can advocates of casual sex propose it’s merits?,"In my eyes, it is in every way, shape or form inferior to LTRs. It leads to the objectification of women, to the normalisation of a lack of commitment, hindering the development of deep, meaningful connections. It’s just simply animalistic, hedonistic and reduces sex, an action between two loving people, to rudimentary pleasure. I simply can’t believe that this is a good thing for society. There needs to be a degree of modesty and chastity, for goodness sake. -I also want to mention that I am not coming at this from a religious perspective",,12,awesomedude771,1705091440.0 +I also want to mention that I am not coming at this from a religious perspective",,12,awesomedude771,2024-01-12 20:30:40 PurplePillDebate,1964th5,Do men even like women anymore?,"It seems like a large population of men online don't like anything about women except for the fact that they can have sex with them. Everything I've seen basically culminates in them wanting a woman to be their mommy at home and just a hole to use. It's pathetic IMO. So do men even really like women anymore? -**TO CLARIFY:** I am specifically calling the ideology being published online (as well as pushed through social media algorithms, and other various types of media) that men only wanting a woman to serve him similarly to the way a mother serves her child, and use them for their sexual gratification is a pathetic outlook to have on women and their position in society.",,0,gooseboy69420,1705198470.0 +**TO CLARIFY:** I am specifically calling the ideology being published online (as well as pushed through social media algorithms, and other various types of media) that men only wanting a woman to serve him similarly to the way a mother serves her child, and use them for their sexual gratification is a pathetic outlook to have on women and their position in society.",,0,gooseboy69420,2024-01-14 02:14:30 PurplePillDebate,195rp34,"What are your guys views on ""entitlement"" of sex in marriage?","More specifically, it is well accepted in redpill communities that men are not entitled to sex in marriage. Not because of bodily autonomy or coercion or something. Its because no one is entitled to anything and sex just comes in wider umbrella of anything. So wife is not entitled to your commitment or fidelity either. She will be entitled to what ever in divorce but thats a discussion for some other day. @@ -50918,7 +50918,7 @@ Do wife have some kind of obligation to make sex easier for her husband? &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,0,[deleted],1705163061.0 +&#x200B;",,0,[deleted],2024-01-13 16:24:21 PurplePillDebate,194xput,Why do Western Women believe in casual relationships the most?,"Why is it that most people in the world, EXCEPT Western Women believe in finding long term relationships before 25 and not gaining body counts over 2 Sure some people will say ""I KnOw PeOPle outSiDe ThE WeSt WitH A HiGh BoDy CouNt"" @@ -50927,7 +50927,7 @@ But overall, most of the world including Western men don't support hoe phases Why is it that just women born in the West do? -I think it must be a part of our human nature to not be promiscuous. The promiscuity of Western Women is nurture over nature",,20,Consistent-Gur6932,1705073293.0 +I think it must be a part of our human nature to not be promiscuous. The promiscuity of Western Women is nurture over nature",,20,Consistent-Gur6932,2024-01-12 15:28:13 PurplePillDebate,194v9zf,There's a viral phenomenon on social media (mainly tiktok) of porn bot sites stealing videos of women to pretend to be single lonely older women. What do you think of this trend?,"So recently there's an uptick of people mainly accounts within the manosohere or adjacent that post videos of seemingly normal women crying about being single in their 40s or how they cannot find a husband after hitting the wall. These videos without fail when posted tend to go viral as a lot people like to give their two cent. However, an interesting twist to this huge trend of older women crying about their lackluster dating lifes on tiktok is that most of videos are fake and instead are part of an advertising campaign for porn bot accounts. Here is one example that was posted on social media that went viral that's a recent example. There was community note pointing out it was fake after someone did some investigation work. @@ -50940,17 +50940,17 @@ It turns out this is really common, someone else also did some investigate work [https://x.com/bx\_on\_x/status/1745680386158449019?s=12](https://x.com/bx_on_x/status/1745680386158449019?s=12) -Anyways I found the whole thing interesting. Why do you think this a trend being employed by porn bots? And why do you think these videos tend go viral and are constantly being reposted?",,26,SapphireRising225,1705066747.0 +Anyways I found the whole thing interesting. Why do you think this a trend being employed by porn bots? And why do you think these videos tend go viral and are constantly being reposted?",,26,SapphireRising225,2024-01-12 13:39:07 PurplePillDebate,194zz0i,"If you woke up tomorrow as the opposite sex, and knew you would never go back, how would your views change?","Further, how would you feel about being expected to perform and live the role that you currently wish the opposite sex would play, whatever that may be? -Edit: Assume that whatever your sexual orientation is now, changes to the opposite sex as well. ",,4,StatusSnow,1705079015.0 +Edit: Assume that whatever your sexual orientation is now, changes to the opposite sex as well. ",,4,StatusSnow,2024-01-12 17:03:35 PurplePillDebate,194v6fo,"Since an amount of guys feel legalizing prostitution is the only way, can they protest the issue?","It has been said here before that guys want prostitution legalized who cannot get sex by other means and I was wondering if guys were to protest the issue in the streets pretty much could they eventually get it legalized? I would have thought no before but the defund the police movement actually worked and some states did it and getting cannabis legalized, worked... Now it has been said before here that a fair amount of guys have trouble getting sex because they are autistic, but this makes me wonder could guys use this to get the government to legalize prostitution since the government grants certain other services for autistic people? -Would men be able to make a case for this successfully perhaps, especially if lots of protesting is involved?",,6,harmonica2,1705066461.0 +Would men be able to make a case for this successfully perhaps, especially if lots of protesting is involved?",,6,harmonica2,2024-01-12 13:34:21 PurplePillDebate,195jr05,What are your experiences or anecdotes of abusive women and did you or others find help after?,"I am asking this question as I see so much focus on abusive men and keeping men out of safe spaces. I think this is ridiculous as I've met plenty of male victims as well as female victims. I also don't believe men are the only group being abusive and in fact think we assume this because men don't admit being abused more than me are the main aggressors. Because from experience guys are not willing to show vulnerability like this because of societal pressure on them, and they re not even told they can be abused so many don't know till they tell someone about their ex that ""made them feel crappy"" @@ -50961,7 +50961,7 @@ I'm gonna leave some examples of some ways people can be abusive just incase but - Controlling behaviour (you cant have family or friends around, you must act this way, change things about yourself ect) - physical abuse (hitting, slapping, pinching, restraining, ect) - sexual abuse (unwanted physical contact and sexual activity) -- financially (controlling money, using it as a way of entrapment)",,0,lilcrashmat,1705135834.0 +- financially (controlling money, using it as a way of entrapment)",,0,lilcrashmat,2024-01-13 08:50:34 PurplePillDebate,194ev1t,I am thoroughly confused by the current sexual landscape.,"This may sound dumb, but I am extremely confused by our current sexual landscape. Based on what I’ve read, observed, and experienced, we live in a world where: @@ -51006,10 +51006,10 @@ But also a world where… Despite all of this, with some nuance in between, we ended up at 8.1+ billion. Im asking myself: if these things are true to varying degrees, how did we even get here? Is that because of men’s desire for women? Is it because men’s success is attractive enough to warrant procreation? How is sex simultaneously something most of the human race was able to have but something that is placed on such a high pedestal, especially by males? -I know there are very complex answers to all of these questions, but any sort of explanation would help.",,39,BridgmansBiggestFan,1705013034.0 +I know there are very complex answers to all of these questions, but any sort of explanation would help.",,39,BridgmansBiggestFan,2024-01-11 22:43:54 PurplePillDebate,195457w,Having a skillset or not?,"I've been pondering something and wanted to get your thoughts on it. With this idea that suggests that women should be untouched and virgins, what's your take on them practicing a skill like The Goh!ddess Method or pompoir? Is a woman who embraces and hones her sexuality from a personal perpective and not sharing it with other man considered high value for being confident in her desires and exploring her own pleasure, or is there still a stigma attached? Does working on your sexuality, even if it's not with other partners, affect how you perceive someone's value in a relationship? - What do you think?",,0,SpreadsheetsnHeels,1705089393.0 + What do you think?",,0,SpreadsheetsnHeels,2024-01-12 19:56:33 PurplePillDebate,194f9cq,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -51028,7 +51028,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,14,AutoModerator,1705014009.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,14,AutoModerator,2024-01-11 23:00:09 PurplePillDebate,194issz,"Ladies (non-exclusively), what are your thoughts on population collapse?","This is in context to my post a few weeks back. I've been convinced men and women don't want to settle (and probably shouldn't). So my question is directed primarily at women but men are also welcome to chime in (hence the ""Discussion"" flair). My primary question is as follows: ""If men and women are not capable of settling for each other happily, are we content with watching birth rates collapse?"" @@ -51038,14 +51038,14 @@ I'm a transhumanist leaning towards posthumanism so I think AI, artificial gamet So what say you all? Edit: -The nihilism in the responses is quite enlightening. I'm really surprised but this is very enlightening. I tend to see all this societal decay as a result of political failures. I can see why Thiel - types have big out bunkers outside the US. ",,7,MOProG2,1705023370.0 +The nihilism in the responses is quite enlightening. I'm really surprised but this is very enlightening. I tend to see all this societal decay as a result of political failures. I can see why Thiel - types have big out bunkers outside the US. ",,7,MOProG2,2024-01-12 01:36:10 PurplePillDebate,1943dwa,Why is categorical thinking so prominent in these spaces?,"It always seems like there are rules for life, with very few exceptions outside of those rules, little nuance or complexity. People are alphas or betas, women are not attractive beyond 30's, men are providers, men want youth, women value status, status is money, etc, even stats are presented with a high degree of ""this proves this right"" in a way which lacks nuance and in a this proves this right or wrong, which would make my life easier if the academic world did also but doesn't.... like why? -Edit: well this is an interesting discussion so far!",,47,No-Calligrapher-3630,1704984415.0 +Edit: well this is an interesting discussion so far!",,47,No-Calligrapher-3630,2024-01-11 14:46:55 PurplePillDebate,193ws60,"CMV: Dating for most men gets easier at 30 because they lack the sexual experience to realise , women's standards and desires for a relationship, marriage shift out of necessity.","If you go anywhere on the 4 corners of the internet in the past decade,you have endless discussions ,articles, movements, philosophies surrounding the current difficulties in getting sex and relationships for men. I'm 31 and and I've noticed something particularly odd. Most of my male contemporaries absolutely struggled to get any female attention in their 20s. Some got the occasional relationship, sexual experience every blue moon, but this was a means to an end. Then I had the one or two friends who were absolute slayers and this allowed me to observe the sexual battlefield in a different lens, but that's irrelevant for this posts. @@ -51054,7 +51054,7 @@ I've seen it, the guys finally meet a girl who puts out regularly, treats him l They say dating got easier, no bruh, she can't lockdown the guys she use to fuck or got tired of it. Its crude to say, but is what it is. Women will absolutely marry someone they wouldn't have dated years ago, because he wasn't the hot guy and then disguise it as she's matured and found out there's more then looks....right -She wants to get married and have kids to follow social norms, and you are stability because she knows you aren't going anywhere, because she instinctively knows from your behavior, she is the best you've ever had, and if you were to leave her, you'd be back to square one in the sexual landscape, searching for a drop of water in a dessert. That's why the sex dried up after you put the ring on, and her head hurts.",,155,neverendingplush,1704961320.0 +She wants to get married and have kids to follow social norms, and you are stability because she knows you aren't going anywhere, because she instinctively knows from your behavior, she is the best you've ever had, and if you were to leave her, you'd be back to square one in the sexual landscape, searching for a drop of water in a dessert. That's why the sex dried up after you put the ring on, and her head hurts.",,155,neverendingplush,2024-01-11 08:22:00 PurplePillDebate,194fcdh,What’s the plan?,"I see lots of commentary on how unfair dating is and how thing would be so much more fair if X person would give Y person a chance or if there was simply a way to pair with the optimal person then things would be so much better for X or Y person. My question is this, what’s the plan once you finally get your optimal person. I didn’t say ideal because it seems that a lot of people are willing to concede some points. So what is the plan for the after? When you get in a relationship and it checks most of your boxes. Do you maintain the same cynicism or do you try your hardest to be optimistic that this thing has longevity? @@ -51063,7 +51063,7 @@ Do you work hard to be caring, committed and engaging or do you work from a spac I readily admit, at this point in my life, everyone is treated like the sting ray that killed Steve Irwin. -So what’s your plan?",,5,bluepvtstorm,1705014201.0 +So what’s your plan?",,5,bluepvtstorm,2024-01-11 23:03:21 PurplePillDebate,19562v2,Just because men are argued to have it “worst” in getting a girl doesn’t mean women can’t have it bad," People will generally agree that it’s men who usually have it worst when it comes to dating or getting a girl such as men saying they barely get matches on Tinder, and women get tons of matches and attention while men get none since women are mostly picky about who they’re with. @@ -51072,13 +51072,13 @@ While it could be true that women get more matches from men on dating apps, for But there are women that get instantly rejected too. From my experience, I thought every dude would fall in love with me but that wasn’t the case. There were dudes who were obviously rude to me due to various reasons, and I didn’t even do anything rude to them. -Also from my experience, i don’t have dudes falling for me like society tends to think. “Oh she gets 500 messages from dudes!!” No thats not the case at all with me",,0,Longjumping_Pop3208,1705094227.0 +Also from my experience, i don’t have dudes falling for me like society tends to think. “Oh she gets 500 messages from dudes!!” No thats not the case at all with me",,0,Longjumping_Pop3208,2024-01-12 21:17:07 PurplePillDebate,193on1l,CMV: Dating apps are becoming the only socially acceptable way to get a relationship,"Want to ask out that cute girl you see at the library? Don't do that you weirdo, she's there to study and doesn't want to be bothered! Want to ask out one of your coworkers? Don't do that, it's unprofessional harassment! Want to ask out one of your female friends in your social circle? Don't do that, she's just your friend! Men are discouraged from all the normal ways of starting a relationship. -Even though dating apps don't work for most men, it's still the only acceptable way to get a relationship these days. As a Gen Z guy, almost all my friends and family members who are in relationships met their S.O on an app",,96,Glass_Bucket,1704934679.0 +Even though dating apps don't work for most men, it's still the only acceptable way to get a relationship these days. As a Gen Z guy, almost all my friends and family members who are in relationships met their S.O on an app",,96,Glass_Bucket,2024-01-11 00:57:59 PurplePillDebate,1942d22,Which historical women =did not survive because= they refused to marry anyone?,"I see references to this widespread phenomenon pop up regularly, you can for example look at several by googling *'site:reddit.com/r/purplepilldebate ""historically"" ""to survive""*: *""As we all know, women do not need to marry a provider* **to survive,** *because they are* **now** *free to work and earn money for themselves.""* - [24 days ago (post)](https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/18l7bph/women_would_you_rather_be_rather_be_forced_to/) @@ -51109,7 +51109,7 @@ Things I learned ""despite this thread"" but also somewhat thanks to it: The US women had [equal right to inheritance shortly after the end of war for independence](https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1942d22/which_historical_women_did_not_survive_because/khec0gp/), and quite probably are the only female demographic of a nation (or at least of a Common Law-adjacent one) that had this right more than 2 centuries ago and kept ever since. (srsly, I didn't know) -[IFStudies](https://ifstudies.org/blog/1-in-4-projecting-childlessness-among-todays-young-women) has a page on historical prevalence of women never married by age 50, and this estimate starts at 1827 and never falls below 5% until 1925. Although I am aware that IFS is not a reliable source.",,6,abaxeron,1704981615.0 +[IFStudies](https://ifstudies.org/blog/1-in-4-projecting-childlessness-among-todays-young-women) has a page on historical prevalence of women never married by age 50, and this estimate starts at 1827 and never falls below 5% until 1925. Although I am aware that IFS is not a reliable source.",,6,abaxeron,2024-01-11 14:00:15 PurplePillDebate,194ha1l,Abusing Pornography for Men == Abusing Online Dating for Sexually for Women,"Roughly speaking; both practices are toxic, promoted by society as ""not harmful"", appeal to lower base urges, dehumanize the other gender, warps the sense of intimacy The rush a man who uses porn gets from having the accessibility of thousands upon thousands of women's bodies, picking what they look like down to the body part is not natural. @@ -51120,7 +51120,7 @@ Don't fight me, and by natural I also mean these aspects corrupt our culture and EDIT : -I'd like to say, common trends include accessibility, corporate processing and the reliance on a larger corporation to deliver the intended experience to you, and the general lack of regular social circumstance while jumping to a desired, ideally long term aspect of life. Turning that into a repeatable and soulless process on a screen rubs me the wrong way and I think we should ban or regulate both",,0,AccountYesno,1705019211.0 +I'd like to say, common trends include accessibility, corporate processing and the reliance on a larger corporation to deliver the intended experience to you, and the general lack of regular social circumstance while jumping to a desired, ideally long term aspect of life. Turning that into a repeatable and soulless process on a screen rubs me the wrong way and I think we should ban or regulate both",,0,AccountYesno,2024-01-12 00:26:51 PurplePillDebate,193mqvp,"The most important thing a man can bring to a woman, is attention (and sex)","Men are going around, thinking if they work hard enough and spend enough time away from their partners, they will somehow have a stable and healthy relationship Then they get surprised when rightly, the woman checks out of the relationship @@ -51133,7 +51133,7 @@ Yeah, thats definitely conducive to a healthy and stable relationship /s This scenario can be extrapolated to any situation where youre not giving your partner ample attention (or sex) -**Now, i said most important, not the only important thing.**",,18,AdVictoriam-,1704929594.0 +**Now, i said most important, not the only important thing.**",,18,AdVictoriam-,2024-01-10 23:33:14 PurplePillDebate,193986c,Sex Robots will fix the dating market,"Let us be clear what's plaguing the market as of now. The number one problem is simps, then there are high standards of women, women looking for men with sex experience and the people looking for casual sex. When sex robots become a reality (not an if as we all know it is inevitable), the need for sex which the simps usually run after will cease to exist. The access to sex will decrease which will make them less thirsty and also less touch deprived. This will cause them not to throw away their standards and look for any woman to settle with. @@ -51144,7 +51144,7 @@ As having sex robots will seemingly take out a significant number from the datin It is also possible that the robots as they would be modeled on female anatomy will also give the men the sexual experience that most women ask for. It is the same situation of training of pilots on sims and then in the real world although the latter differs in a significant way. Let us be clear though, flying is definitely more complex than female anatomy and dangerous too so I doubt the difference of having sex with a robot and a woman willl be much of a difference. -The only drawback that I can find is for people to adjust to sex robots as it will feel a lot of backlash int the start as people fear change same way as people are hating on automatics and EVs in the automotive market. The other point could be the standard for men, like the man who will have slept with more women will be respected more than the one who has had more sex robots.",,23,thedarkracer,1704896108.0 +The only drawback that I can find is for people to adjust to sex robots as it will feel a lot of backlash int the start as people fear change same way as people are hating on automatics and EVs in the automotive market. The other point could be the standard for men, like the man who will have slept with more women will be respected more than the one who has had more sex robots.",,23,thedarkracer,2024-01-10 14:15:08 PurplePillDebate,193ki1d,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -51163,7 +51163,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,4,AutoModerator,1704924010.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,4,AutoModerator,2024-01-10 22:00:10 PurplePillDebate,1947cdp,"i’ve seen this idea tossed around that women are more susceptible than men to social trends - both genders are very susceptible to trends, let’s stop pretending its one sided","Claims that women primarily conform to social trends, that women ‘herd like sheep’, “all women are the same”, and even claims going as far as saying conformity is inherently feminine. @@ -51175,20 +51175,20 @@ Fact is, most people, regardless of gender, conform to social trends - and men a This even goes as far as men going to trendy places (mostly following the women who go there), and doing trendy activities (again, usually following women) -Now, there isn’t anything inherently wrong with this (there may be things wrong with specific trends, but the act itself is something most humans engage in) - most people are conformists in so many ways and most people follow trends, what i am criticizing is this idea that women are somehow more susceptible or the idea that male thinking is at a higher frame of consciousness despite blindly following trends as well. It lacks self awareness.",,0,KayRay1994,1704994504.0 +Now, there isn’t anything inherently wrong with this (there may be things wrong with specific trends, but the act itself is something most humans engage in) - most people are conformists in so many ways and most people follow trends, what i am criticizing is this idea that women are somehow more susceptible or the idea that male thinking is at a higher frame of consciousness despite blindly following trends as well. It lacks self awareness.",,0,KayRay1994,2024-01-11 17:35:04 PurplePillDebate,1942nnb,Is it true that a good amount of women want alpha males to have some beta qualities?,"I am what you would call a beta male probably, over alpha. I have a gf and she tells me that her two friends will come to her and say that they wish that their boyfriends did things like I did for them that they considered more romantic compared to what their boyfriends do. -Their boyfriends are more alpha for sure. But if more women are attracted to alpha males and not beta, why would they wish those alpha guys had some beta qualities therefore, out of curiosity? This makes me wonder if their criticisms of their boyfriends not being as romantic is legit therefore, if they do not like beta qualities? ",,0,harmonica2,1704982417.0 +Their boyfriends are more alpha for sure. But if more women are attracted to alpha males and not beta, why would they wish those alpha guys had some beta qualities therefore, out of curiosity? This makes me wonder if their criticisms of their boyfriends not being as romantic is legit therefore, if they do not like beta qualities? ",,0,harmonica2,2024-01-11 14:13:37 PurplePillDebate,193466h,Is it becoming a growing trend for women (and especially young women) to casually disrespect and sexually demean men they believe are less attractive than them with no provocation?,"This post is heavily inspired by [this video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Q3rPzzZJLs) which summarizes what is easily one of the most painful twitch streams I have ever encountered in my life (which probably doesn't mean much considering I despise twitch for a number of reasons that I won't get into right now). The stream comes from some nasty twitch e-girl with an obscenely bloated ego who sees fit to invite one of her mods on for what is basically an hours long bullying session where she relentlessly hammers into his head what a disgusting incel she thinks he is, claims that she would prefer to get back together with her ex indefinitely (who she claims to have been emotionally abusive) rather than date him for a mere six months, acts like kissing him is akin to spilling toxic waste into her mouth once she is forced to do it after the stream reaches its donation goal, and to add insult to injury after making it clear how much she personally finds him disgusting, also implies that he is also such a loser that no other woman would dare hook up with him in some strange attempt to demolish his self esteem before they head out to a club for whatever the fuck this event is. Now, while usually I would chalk this up to women on twitch being just a little more degenerate and sociopathic than they usually tend to be, the nature of Caitlin's unrelenting bullying here was such that it drew me to think that this is a behavior that seems to be growing frighteningly popular amongst many women, even seemingly normal ones both online and offline. Even outside of dating contexts, many women seem to feel the need to casually demean men that are not even particularly creepy or unlikable, but simply unattractive to them specifically, particularly in the manner of systemically destroying the sexual confidence of men however they possibly can. This is a behavior that, unfortunately, I have even seen on this subreddit and across many other corners of the internet that skew towards a female userbase, it's quite disturbing how many women who pride themselves on being progressive and forward thinking will immediately default to accusations of inceldom, repressed homosexuality and claiming that men they personally do not like have small penises or are short (which is body shaming by the way, but when confronted on this, they will say its not really about small penises or about being short, it's about the way these men *behave*...because it completely makes sense to talk about something entirely unrelated in someone's physical looks in order to call out their behavior), and even seems to transcend to real life with grown adult women who are somehow so socially stunted that [they throw toddler level tantrums](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hJ4Ct0zo7vE) simply from being approached by a man...in a public place...in broad daylight. -So, my question is, has anyone else noticed this pattern of behavior growing more and more common these days? And if so, what could be the cause? Why do women seem to randomly want to ""humble"" men or intentionally make men feel bad in contexts were no creepiness or ill will was reasonably shown by the man? Are women at large simply rejecting treating men with politeness? Is there something that men as a whole have done to earn this treatment? What can potentially be done to change or fix that in that case?",,22,Hatefuleight-36,1704877944.0 +So, my question is, has anyone else noticed this pattern of behavior growing more and more common these days? And if so, what could be the cause? Why do women seem to randomly want to ""humble"" men or intentionally make men feel bad in contexts were no creepiness or ill will was reasonably shown by the man? Are women at large simply rejecting treating men with politeness? Is there something that men as a whole have done to earn this treatment? What can potentially be done to change or fix that in that case?",,22,Hatefuleight-36,2024-01-10 09:12:24 PurplePillDebate,193yjew,"Contrary to popular belief, I think meek, beta guy and dominant woman can create successful marriages","Women should give meek, nice guys a chance because once kids are born the woman's priorities will shift anyway and this is the type of guy she would want. Instead what I have noticed is that many women chase selfish men because aloofness seems hot initially and because they're more of a challenge. Then when kids are born she finds out (surprise, surprise!) that these men are selfish, lazy fathers who don't help enough. -Go for guys who are a bit meek, obedient, believe in the Christian slave morality. I have seen this dynamic work well for my mother and stepfather.",,0,Novel-Tip-7570,1704968664.0 +Go for guys who are a bit meek, obedient, believe in the Christian slave morality. I have seen this dynamic work well for my mother and stepfather.",,0,Novel-Tip-7570,2024-01-11 10:24:24 PurplePillDebate,192yk3q,How do you rank the importance of these traits / factors in a potential partner?,"1. Compassion, kindness and empathy 2. Sense of humour and wit @@ -51242,7 +51242,7 @@ PurplePillDebate,192yk3q,How do you rank the importance of these traits / factor 26. Compatible Attachment styles (do they need time alone or constant reassurance? Are they a bit avoidant or anxious etc?) -I know they’re a bit arbitrary and you don’t need to rank them all but just rank the top few or which ones would be dealbreakers for you",,11,StaticNocturne,1704857779.0 +I know they’re a bit arbitrary and you don’t need to rank them all but just rank the top few or which ones would be dealbreakers for you",,11,StaticNocturne,2024-01-10 03:36:19 PurplePillDebate,192rjpb,I Think There's Room for a Men's Liberation Front - Let's Talk About It,"I think the discourse around equality in society has gotten - *admirably* \- deep in the weeds at this point. We're (moooostly) beyond talking about basic shit like ""the majority shouldn't oppress the minority"" and ""making assumptions about people because of their demographic is prejudice"". Or in the least, most of us have heard these arguments, even if different people have different opinions on where to draw the line. With that said, I think ""Men"" as a demographic have fallen behind - partially because, in prior centuries, ""men"" occupied most positions of power, so by COMPARISON, minorities and women had to work and fight to catch up. (And, to be clear, they will probably have to continue to fight, to *keep* the advancements they've made.) @@ -51267,19 +51267,19 @@ I think the LEAST compelling argument that men should probably distance ourselve * Requiring women change their behavior to make men's lives easier - *Requiring other demographics to cater to you just because they're not YOUR demographic is seeking a system of oppression... where you're on top.* * Eliminating No-Fault Divorce: *Women are not the only people who want to get divorced. There are also men in toxic, unhealthy relationships that aren't overtly abusive, and if those men want to divorce, they should ALSO be free to do so.* -I'm sure I missed a bunch of stuff, but let's go over it.",,29,Gravel_Roads,1704838966.0 +I'm sure I missed a bunch of stuff, but let's go over it.",,29,Gravel_Roads,2024-01-09 22:22:46 PurplePillDebate,192z1vb,Why do a lot of women say that men like b*tc3s?,"Excuse the language, but I just don't see it for myself as a guy. I don't want to deal with someone difficult when I don't have to, and all my guy friends seem to agree. To me this comes off as projection, since I can see how a type A personality guy would be attractive to women, but when you change the genders I can't really see a guy being seduced by a type A personality woman. (Using personality type A in lieu of ""bitch"" since I think that they are more or less along the same spectrum on personality types, even tho I think you can be type a w/o being a jerk/bitch). As a guy, all things being equal, if I had a choice between two women I would not go for the ""bitch"", but rather someone easy going. -Can anyone explain thus? Why do women have that false idea that guys prefer difficult women? It has to be projection, but I'm open to hearing from this subreddit. Thanks in advance!",,4,scrawnyserf92,1704859362.0 +Can anyone explain thus? Why do women have that false idea that guys prefer difficult women? It has to be projection, but I'm open to hearing from this subreddit. Thanks in advance!",,4,scrawnyserf92,2024-01-10 04:02:42 PurplePillDebate,193hj5t,"Contrary to what the Internet and Hollywood makes you belief, why does it seem Cougars are a minority and most women don’t want to date men their age nor younger than themselves?","Hey guys, This is based on a lot of “Cold approaching” of myself and other friends. I notice that many women in their mid 20’s did not want to date guys their same age but wanted men who were significantly older. Likewise as you go up the women’s age of the same pattern repeats. -We see the world from the “Female Gaze” so this topic is not as talked about. However, it’s real. In my opinion many women in mid to late 20’s are sort of over parting want a “larger than life” lifestyle. ",,0,Marcel_7000,1704916833.0 +We see the world from the “Female Gaze” so this topic is not as talked about. However, it’s real. In my opinion many women in mid to late 20’s are sort of over parting want a “larger than life” lifestyle. ",,0,Marcel_7000,2024-01-10 20:00:33 PurplePillDebate,193nn5a,"Q4M: When it comes to “education around consent,” do you feel like boys and men “don’t understand consent” or that “they don’t care if they have consent”?","From adult men and women alike, I hear “we have to have more education around consent” whenever something comes up regarding boys and men committing sexual assault. But at this point, I don’t think boys and men don’t understand the concept — they don’t care. They made a choice that what they craved in the moment was more important than the other person’s protestation or lack of consent. Because plenty of girls and women seem to understand the concept just fine. Unless we’re claiming boys and men are uniquely dumber, I think they understand just fine. They are choosing to do what they want to do. **What do you think?** @@ -51294,12 +51294,12 @@ The article is putting the blame on pornography, but that suggests that boys 20 Finally, why is this an affliction of boys and men? Why aren’t girls and women compelled to assault boys and men at equal rates? Is it testosterone? **What do you think it is?** -**inb4**: This is obviously not “all” men or “all” women. This is an assessment of observed gendered patterns. ",,0,GridReXX,1704931914.0 +**inb4**: This is obviously not “all” men or “all” women. This is an assessment of observed gendered patterns. ",,0,GridReXX,2024-01-11 00:11:54 PurplePillDebate,192f6zz,What is the appeal of casual sex for women?,"I can understand the appeal for men as for them having casual sex is very difficult, they're 100% going to orgasm, no pregnancy and no shame for being a ""slut"". But why do women? You are probably not going to orgasm or enjoy it much, you could even be assaulted... then there's the risk of pregnancy and higher risk of STDs. Wouldn't having sex in a commited relationship, or even just simply masturbating be a better option? -And also please engage in a discussion instead of just leaving a comment like ""I don't do it, so idk"". Seen a lot of women do that.",,58,-snickerss-,1704808365.0 +And also please engage in a discussion instead of just leaving a comment like ""I don't do it, so idk"". Seen a lot of women do that.",,58,-snickerss-,2024-01-09 13:52:45 PurplePillDebate,192lf56,Texting a girl: Keep it short and simple or she will run!,"I saw a TikTok about a girl texting a nice guy vs the guy she chases **Nice Guy** @@ -51340,10 +51340,10 @@ PurplePillDebate,192lf56,Texting a girl: Keep it short and simple or she will ru **Women always say that they want a man they can talk to for hours, but women already believe that they can get any guy to give them that much attention. It's very rare for a woman to experience next to no attention from a guy** -What are you opinions?",,24,Consistent-Gur6932,1704824330.0 +What are you opinions?",,24,Consistent-Gur6932,2024-01-09 18:18:50 PurplePillDebate,192bvw4,People here exaggerate the hate that age gap relationships get. If you're so sensitive that a few comments get you then don't be in an age gap relationship,"I am a 30 yo woman dating someone 13 years older. Literally nobody cares. Unless you're dating a literal teenager or there's a weird dynamic going on, it's highly unlikely that people will give you shit for it. -""but someone on twitter said something"". Twitter is filled with children, trolls and shut-ins with very little life experience. Same with Tiktok, many commenters are literal kids. It's probably for the best if kids think age gap relationship are creepy if it prevents grooming. If you're so insecure about your relationship then maybe don't be in an AGR.",,76,Novel-Tip-7570,1704796871.0 +""but someone on twitter said something"". Twitter is filled with children, trolls and shut-ins with very little life experience. Same with Tiktok, many commenters are literal kids. It's probably for the best if kids think age gap relationship are creepy if it prevents grooming. If you're so insecure about your relationship then maybe don't be in an AGR.",,76,Novel-Tip-7570,2024-01-09 10:41:11 PurplePillDebate,192pgj4,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -51362,7 +51362,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,1704834010.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,2024-01-09 21:00:10 PurplePillDebate,193nx1z,Is cheating in women ultimately a matter of time and place?,"One time I went to a small town in Ontario. The gas station convenience store was LITERALLY the size of a small kitchen. No joke. The cashiers were a man and a woman. They were pretty much squished up there together. They were not married to each other That got me thinking. Imagine that woman is married. Now imagine it's a long day at work, barely any customers coming by and she is suddenly horny. Since it's a very tightly packed convenience store, the man and the woman will be close to each other alot. @@ -51381,12 +51381,12 @@ Now please, instead of replying emotionally, let's talk about it. Why do so many It can also boil down to how men and women orgasm. If a man is horny and tempted to cheat, he can just go jerk off in his car -If a woman is horny and tempted to cheat, she can't easily masterbate so she will need to actually have sex",,0,Consistent-Gur6932,1704932652.0 +If a woman is horny and tempted to cheat, she can't easily masterbate so she will need to actually have sex",,0,Consistent-Gur6932,2024-01-11 00:24:12 PurplePillDebate,1929mg1,"Many people talk about toxic masculinity, but we rarely hear about toxic femininity.","""Toxic femininity"" is more common than people think, it's just that it takes a different form to ""toxic masculinity"". While toxic masculinity takes the form of aggression, toxic femininity takes the form of passivity. Which is why most women rarely take the initiative, especially when it comes to dating and relationships. So women's passivity in dating feeds men's aggressiveness. This passivity also makes it really easy for the powers that be to oppress women (which they have historically) and also easy for manipulative men to control them. While ""toxic masculinity"" takes the form of men suppressing their emotions and trying not to express them especially in relationships, ""toxic femininity"" tends to make women not have much control over their emotions (I'm sure many women will be triggered by this even though its true), which also encourages them to manipulate men with their lack of control over their emotions because once a woman starts crying, most men do whatever they can to make them stop, especially if they're in a relationship with them. -""Toxic femininity"" and ""toxic masculinity"" are both results of social conditioning designed to keep men and women divided and always fighting each other, which makes it really easy for the people in charge to control humanity, believe it or not.",,56,Agreeable-Moment-760,1704787302.0 +""Toxic femininity"" and ""toxic masculinity"" are both results of social conditioning designed to keep men and women divided and always fighting each other, which makes it really easy for the people in charge to control humanity, believe it or not.",,56,Agreeable-Moment-760,2024-01-09 08:01:42 PurplePillDebate,1922quk,Debating women's preferences won't lead to women changing them,"Debating women on their preferences won't lead to women changing them. I get that this is a debate forum but i cringe seeing so many men on here daily wasting hours debating women on their hard wired and often biological preferences. @@ -51398,12 +51398,12 @@ If you have the wrong height, race, build, religon, status or income level you w This is the biggest problem with men today. We are spending too much time complaining instead of taking action and finding out what works for each individual guy. I though that was what the red pill was supposed to be about, an avenue for men to get the results we desire. Instead it's just rage porn and complaining about women all day long. -In 2024, let's do better and leave the pointless arguments behind",,150,Wide-Illustrator2906,1704765076.0 +In 2024, let's do better and leave the pointless arguments behind",,150,Wide-Illustrator2906,2024-01-09 01:51:16 PurplePillDebate,1923ni5,Why attempt to change your partner’s lifestyle rather than just finding someone who matches yours?,"I see this sentiment thrown around a lot in this sub specifically. “When she’s dating me she has to stop clubbing, dressing provocatively, etc” - one thing that always confused me about this is, why try to change someone’s lifestyle? why not straight up just date someone who either dresses modestly, doesn’t like clubbing, doesn’t believe in friends of the opposite sex, etc? -All of these preferences mentioned are fine in themselves, but it becomes odd when you expect others to change their lifestyle to fit your preferences.",,55,KayRay1994,1704767593.0 +All of these preferences mentioned are fine in themselves, but it becomes odd when you expect others to change their lifestyle to fit your preferences.",,55,KayRay1994,2024-01-09 02:33:13 PurplePillDebate,192sb6n,Hypothetical: Consent and Conception,"**The Illogical Conundrum of Consent, and Conception** *Preface: I'm a proponent for Freedom of Choice, and Bodily Autonomy.* @@ -51419,7 +51419,7 @@ The pivotal difference **in this commonly occurring hypothetical** is sex. Inter I stand by my previous post, and the other recent post on this. The primary reason is **post conception, consent is only a factor for one party.** Especially in context to something so potentially life altering. **That’s not Equality.** If you think it is, please share why. *Godspeed and good luck!* -",,0,TheRedPillRipper,1704840820.0 +",,0,TheRedPillRipper,2024-01-09 22:53:40 PurplePillDebate,191ya34,"Women who complain about dating, is it incorrect to say they are at fault?","I was in the dating advice sub and I came across many many posts from females which are extremely similar. Usually it's along the lines of ""I Give up on dating!"" and the post is about how they are tired of men ghosting them. Here is a recent post, to 140 upvotes; [https://www.reddit.com/r/dating\_advice/comments/191j8ik/single\_black\_woman/](https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/191j8ik/single_black_woman/) @@ -51430,7 +51430,7 @@ TLDR; Many comments support her and blame 'modern dating' -I just personally cannot comprehend how someone can do this and keep getting the same results. How do they not self reflect, take some accountability, adjust their standards or behaviour to find a partner? How can they continually go on date after date and find themselves in ""situationships"" and then continue to blame men/'modern dating'. Is it wrong to say this is the women's fault? ",,66,ShelterNo2786,1704753356.0 +I just personally cannot comprehend how someone can do this and keep getting the same results. How do they not self reflect, take some accountability, adjust their standards or behaviour to find a partner? How can they continually go on date after date and find themselves in ""situationships"" and then continue to blame men/'modern dating'. Is it wrong to say this is the women's fault? ",,66,ShelterNo2786,2024-01-08 22:35:56 PurplePillDebate,1925car,"No, romance was not a modern invention","A lot of influencers today are using the raise in romantic literature to say that romance is a made up invention, usually by low-value men, to convince higher value women to mate. I don't know how true that is, but I don't think romance is modern at all. In ancient Greek story of the War of Troy, the war is basically about a woman with such beauty that kings and princes are fighting a war for her, Helen. You may say this is not really romance, but you can see there is already a passional element in relationships here. It was not just transactional, even when most royal arrangements were as such. @@ -51439,10 +51439,10 @@ I think the main differences between modern romance and ancient romance are thes 1. Ancient romance came *after* the basics. A woman needed to marry to survive and be taken cared of, and have children... and romance was a good to have, but not necessary. What was important is to keep the family and your stability there, and for men it was status and sex. Today this dynamic is inverted... romance is required *first*, the feelings, and then responsibilities of couple are well defined and established. It is an inversion, but it is the same thing. Still, you could argue the way of the past is still around in ""hooking up"" time. 2. Ancient romance was unapologetically passional. It was about physical beauty of the woman, heroism or wealth of the man, status, etc. Romance today often sees passion and lust as too carnal to be included in ""love"". Love now is like a layer on top of that rather than part of that. -3. Ancient romance was less individualistic. Today there is almost no way someone would say ""I choose to marry because my family"" as a good thing, but in the past it was seen as a service to your tribe / family, and probably it was important enough to influence how you see the relationship. ",,16,EuphoricBrightTipper,1704772468.0 +3. Ancient romance was less individualistic. Today there is almost no way someone would say ""I choose to marry because my family"" as a good thing, but in the past it was seen as a service to your tribe / family, and probably it was important enough to influence how you see the relationship. ",,16,EuphoricBrightTipper,2024-01-09 03:54:28 PurplePillDebate,192njrg,Many men seem to not be interested in promiscuous women. What are the positives?,"Promiscuity is judged as a negative. Are there any arguments or facts that show promiscuity in a positive way, or a positive for a man? -Edit: not sure what about this question is being ratioed.",,0,Geselshaft,1704829412.0 +Edit: not sure what about this question is being ratioed.",,0,Geselshaft,2024-01-09 19:43:32 PurplePillDebate,191xqtt,"Women of PPD: would you consider it strange if a male friend/relative asked you to set him up with one of your friends? (Not a specific one, just a friend in general).","Firstly, I have no intention of doing this. I'm just curious how people view it. Namely, a man asking his female friend or relative if they have any single female friends they could set him up on a date with. Said female friend could also be the girlfriend of one of his brothers or friends. @@ -51451,7 +51451,7 @@ I saw this mentioned on PPD some time ago, and it seemed that American members o So, I decided to ask the ladies of PPD. I have my own hypothesis, namely that in more conservative cultures it's more normal than in the West, and that women would probably feel better setting up their siblings than their friends (since they know for sure their siblings are good people and maybe have some biological drive to see their siblings having kids). -Curious to see what the responses are- feel free to elucidate why/discuss in the comments :)",,6,TheImmortalBantha,1704752033.0 +Curious to see what the responses are- feel free to elucidate why/discuss in the comments :)",,6,TheImmortalBantha,2024-01-08 22:13:53 PurplePillDebate,191uct2,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -51470,14 +51470,14 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,1704744010.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,2024-01-08 20:00:10 PurplePillDebate,191bqye,"Why push for a relationship, marriage and even kids when you are fundamentally unable to trust your partner?","This primarily goes out to the guys demanding mandatory paternity testing, or guys who actively insist that a hypothetical future gf/wife shouldn’t dress provocatively, go clubbing, have male friends and in extreme cases, not put photos on social media (and note, i’m not mentioning these things as standards or lifestyle differences, but rather, the entire philosophy of ‘it opens the door to opportunities to cheat’ that i’ve seen thrown around here). If your concern of her cheating on you, or if your faith in a potential relationship is so fickle, why aim for one? Even if you were to end up with a woman with matching values, if your fundamental concern is opportunities to cheat or a lack of trust, odds are you’d find something else to attempt to limit or be suspicious about. -So what i’m asking is at a fundamental level - if you are unable to trust your partner’s word or have faith in a relationship, why still push for one or demand that women fit your behavioral limits? is it not easier, or even healthier for yourself and others to willingly not engage in such an intimate thing?",,36,KayRay1994,1704685834.0 +So what i’m asking is at a fundamental level - if you are unable to trust your partner’s word or have faith in a relationship, why still push for one or demand that women fit your behavioral limits? is it not easier, or even healthier for yourself and others to willingly not engage in such an intimate thing?",,36,KayRay1994,2024-01-08 03:50:34 PurplePillDebate,191l0c3,I think offering money to women is so effective that they make it illegal.,"One of the trope that feminists say is that women do not want to be paid. @@ -51517,7 +51517,7 @@ Oh this is no longer dating advice. I believe the reason why paying for sex is i In other words, offering money to women is so effective they make it illegal. -&#x200B;",,6,Calm-Cry4094,1704719824.0 +&#x200B;",,6,Calm-Cry4094,2024-01-08 13:17:04 PurplePillDebate,192isfq,"Do you think young girls need to bring back the 90 day rule, or even more extreme like wait until marriage?","If you would please when you answer give your age/sex/martial status. I'm 38/Male/Married. @@ -51531,7 +51531,7 @@ Then the cherry on top is the fact Women giving young Women terrible advice. It' Young Women need to bring back the 90 day rule, or imo make it 6 months. -90 day rule is no sex in the first 90 days of dating.",,0,PowerGlove-it-so-bad,1704817976.0 +90 day rule is no sex in the first 90 days of dating.",,0,PowerGlove-it-so-bad,2024-01-09 16:32:56 PurplePillDebate,191k2y5,"Why is when it comes to age gap relationships, people assume there must be an agenda with the couple?","I feel like the RP has made it worse, as they say to go for age gap relationships because of an agenda. But when it comes to the talk of age gap relationships here, it seems that the assumption is that there must be an agenda for why the couple would go for it. However, I know a couple of people in age gap relationships, as well as my own, and all three couples weren't boycotting people their own age specifically, and just happened to know each other through other circumstances and started dating that way. @@ -51540,7 +51540,7 @@ I met my gf at work, and the other two couples met through work related situatio So I feel a lot of couples just happen, with who you know. But a lot of times here when age gap relationships are discussed, people assume there must be an agenda, especially since the RP has made it worse by wanting to date certain ages only, because of an agenda. -But is it really so hard for a lot of people to believe that sometimes people just meet accidentally, know each other for a few months or years and then start dating as a result?",,4,harmonica2,1704716727.0 +But is it really so hard for a lot of people to believe that sometimes people just meet accidentally, know each other for a few months or years and then start dating as a result?",,4,harmonica2,2024-01-08 12:25:27 PurplePillDebate,190uo34,Female Behavior Rewards Manipulative Men Who Play The Field Or Date Downwards,"There is no faster way to get rejected and ghosted as a man than to go for women who are equally or more attractive than yourself and then focus on her and be straightforward and honest. I wrote this post because I consider myself to be very honest, but realize after certain situations I could have spoken less. I will always continue to be honest but in a much more tactical way. The vast majority of times women reward the exact type of honest man they say they want: with absolutely nothing. The man won’t get a relationship, won’t get sex, won’t get reciprocated interest, and he might not even get a first date and will likely be ghosted on the very first text that wasn’t perfect and sounded even slightly awkward and creepy. @@ -51555,10 +51555,10 @@ Their behavior innately becomes attractive to women because they have many femal This is why there is saying: if you want to know how to catch a fish, never ask a fish, ask a fisherman. Most things women say they want in men are coming from a position of idealistic fantasy. They are imagining a man whom they are already attracted to, and then describing a fantasy version of him where he is focused on her and honest. But in reality men like that are ghosted the vast majority of time because they do not generate attraction in the first place. -Become the man that women actually reward. Either be brutally honest at all times but date down (women objectively less attractive than yourself) or up your game with attractive women by maxing your looks/money/status and then learning how to cast a wide net across many attractive women and then be manipulative (say and do the right things (ideally honestly and without lying but using mutually beneficial manipulative tactics ie: game) because that’s what women reward in the real world. ",,113,Sabrepill,1704641566.0 +Become the man that women actually reward. Either be brutally honest at all times but date down (women objectively less attractive than yourself) or up your game with attractive women by maxing your looks/money/status and then learning how to cast a wide net across many attractive women and then be manipulative (say and do the right things (ideally honestly and without lying but using mutually beneficial manipulative tactics ie: game) because that’s what women reward in the real world. ",,113,Sabrepill,2024-01-07 15:32:46 PurplePillDebate,1912x2y,Women of PPD. Do you encourage your male friends to shoot their shot with women/ approach? Why or why not?,"I mean I assume you guys have a pretty decent circle of males in your life that are single. But if you aren't in a circle of men that doesn't have alot of single males than maybe this post doesn't tailor to you.. -This could be for your guy friends, your brothers, cousins, uncles, etc. Like do you encourage guys to be proactively with making the first moves on women? If you do then explain why. If you don't then why don't you?",,25,Vegetable-Rub3418,1704662444.0 +This could be for your guy friends, your brothers, cousins, uncles, etc. Like do you encourage guys to be proactively with making the first moves on women? If you do then explain why. If you don't then why don't you?",,25,Vegetable-Rub3418,2024-01-07 21:20:44 PurplePillDebate,190v1db,Do you think women should be able to be sued or convicted of a crime for paternity fraud?,"I soft launched this question [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1905slf/daily_community_chat_megathread/kgqm5eb/), but I wanted to expand on it in a post. Any woman *could* plead ignorance, but there is a due diligence expectation that if a child COULD have more than one father, the mother should be legally required to establish paternity otherwise she'll be fined once the truth comes out. @@ -51571,27 +51571,27 @@ There are so many other illegal forms of fraud, it does seem surprising that pat It does seem like the legal needs of the mother and child supersede the fraud that was committed in the eyes of the government. Maybe there's a utilitarian argument that those priorities result in a more ***productive society.*** -And this is coming from someone whose perspective is remains that asking your wife or partner for a paternity test is akin to accusing them of cheating and lying, and ultimately is bad for the overall health of a relationship. So really this is just me brainstorming how the government can *actually* be useful as a deterrent, while not subjecting innocent women to it.",,61,Slipthe,1704642587.0 +And this is coming from someone whose perspective is remains that asking your wife or partner for a paternity test is akin to accusing them of cheating and lying, and ultimately is bad for the overall health of a relationship. So really this is just me brainstorming how the government can *actually* be useful as a deterrent, while not subjecting innocent women to it.",,61,Slipthe,2024-01-07 15:49:47 PurplePillDebate,190wree,Are you sure you're aware of the consequences of men stoicly accepting being single,"https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1903sxj/fun_hypothetical_here_are_some_options_you_can/ I asked this question and a huge number of women picked that option. You do realize that this increases the amount of effort you need to attain the man that you want and it increases the chance of the man you currently have to leave justifiably or **unjustifiably**. So my question for the ladies here are you sure you're aware of the consequences of this? -Personally, this option is fine for me, since I'm a man, but I'm just thinking from another perspective.",,38,EveningEveryman,1704647162.0 +Personally, this option is fine for me, since I'm a man, but I'm just thinking from another perspective.",,38,EveningEveryman,2024-01-07 17:06:02 PurplePillDebate,190pg3z,Should paternity tests be mandatory?,"Logically it makes sense, people should know if they have children. I would argue that with the immense financial (as well as emotional and time consuming) burden that is associated with raising children, people should know from the get go if the kid is biologically theirs or not. It logically and morally makes sense to me. -On the other side, arguments can be made that society and children at large would suffer if this was to take place. Wondering what your views are on this. I’m really interested in the youngin’s views on this.",,52,Ylduts,1704623832.0 +On the other side, arguments can be made that society and children at large would suffer if this was to take place. Wondering what your views are on this. I’m really interested in the youngin’s views on this.",,52,Ylduts,2024-01-07 10:37:12 PurplePillDebate,1910mz3,Is it biologically easier for guys to lower their standards compared to women?,"It seems that's the case as most guys have no problem dating an average woman, and that is more than enough for them. However, women seem to have a much harder time lowering their standards, at least according to analyses on here. -If this is true, is it more biologically difficult for women to lower their standards therefore, or is it because of societal pressure, and women are socially more shamed for lowering their standards compared to men, and that is why they find it more difficult to do so, if that's the case?",,9,harmonica2,1704656956.0 +If this is true, is it more biologically difficult for women to lower their standards therefore, or is it because of societal pressure, and women are socially more shamed for lowering their standards compared to men, and that is why they find it more difficult to do so, if that's the case?",,9,harmonica2,2024-01-07 19:49:16 PurplePillDebate,190vb7h,Is there a stigma to dating foreigners where you’re from?,"Is there a stigma for dating a foreigner where you’re from? I assume nobody cares in real life but I see some folks who get uneasy and assume that the person can’t get anyone in the native country or even just using the foreigner or foreigner using the native. I was a product of this type of relationship where my mom and dad are different nationalities and cultures and they’re still together after 30 years. -Just curious everyone’s thoughts.",,17,Chebbieurshaka,1704643336.0 +Just curious everyone’s thoughts.",,17,Chebbieurshaka,2024-01-07 16:02:16 PurplePillDebate,190zh10,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -51610,11 +51610,11 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,1704654010.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,2024-01-07 19:00:10 PurplePillDebate,1902xbz,I Think It’s Okay To Reject A Girl Based On Her Weight.," If a guy rejects a girl based on her weight, it’s put in the same category as height, these are two completely unrelated factors, as height discrimination is worse. Look if you reject a guy based on his height, be my guest I’m not gonna knock people’s preferences, but weight discrimination, has a little more legitimacy, fatness shows a lot of negative traits, like a lack of composure, self control and it’s also glutinous, and I’m sure they’re men who accept fat women, and I do believe love conquers all, but still a man or woman, would need to take in those factors and see if it’s beneficial in the long run. -Height doesn’t really affect certain social aspects of a person other than physicality, plus you can’t change, your height so that’s similar to dismissing someone based on race or hair colour or eye colour etc. it’s fine if you feel that way, but weight should not get lumped in with static physical attributes, like height, I’m mostly targeting this towards women, because I’ve been told many times, that it’s “discrimination” to dismiss women because of their weight. Look is it unfair, yeah but is it the same as race and height absolutely not, go to the gym, eat less, diet, exercise, balance out your calorie intake and drink sparkling water, your weight loss journey begins, give it 4 - 7 months and your good to go, depending on your weight of course, but comparing this to height is a farce at best, this is something a lot of men have to deal with, and it truly sucks, but don’t rub salt on the wound by comparing Lisa’s rejection of Tom because of his height to Tom’s rejection of Lisa, because of her weight, one has a lot more credence, than the other, and this is coming from someone who’s a 187 centimetres in height, it isn’t a problem for me but, I’m a man who tends to sympathise.",,259,Ceazer4L,1704556497.0 +Height doesn’t really affect certain social aspects of a person other than physicality, plus you can’t change, your height so that’s similar to dismissing someone based on race or hair colour or eye colour etc. it’s fine if you feel that way, but weight should not get lumped in with static physical attributes, like height, I’m mostly targeting this towards women, because I’ve been told many times, that it’s “discrimination” to dismiss women because of their weight. Look is it unfair, yeah but is it the same as race and height absolutely not, go to the gym, eat less, diet, exercise, balance out your calorie intake and drink sparkling water, your weight loss journey begins, give it 4 - 7 months and your good to go, depending on your weight of course, but comparing this to height is a farce at best, this is something a lot of men have to deal with, and it truly sucks, but don’t rub salt on the wound by comparing Lisa’s rejection of Tom because of his height to Tom’s rejection of Lisa, because of her weight, one has a lot more credence, than the other, and this is coming from someone who’s a 187 centimetres in height, it isn’t a problem for me but, I’m a man who tends to sympathise.",,259,Ceazer4L,2024-01-06 15:54:57 PurplePillDebate,190pi0k,Have you ever used sexual tease for your advantage consciously?,"Focus on the word tease and conciously . @@ -51635,13 +51635,13 @@ The question is have you done it conciously?, ever a thought cross your mind th Update- for those answering yes , what was worst and good thing about it? -Was it worth it?",,5,Similar-Spirit-6474,1704624061.0 +Was it worth it?",,5,Similar-Spirit-6474,2024-01-07 10:41:01 PurplePillDebate,190ebwg,How common is it for you to see people cheating?,"I always get very angry when I hear or read stories of men who have been cheated on by their girlfriends/wives. It makes me angry because, as you already know, its harder for men to date. So, when he gets cheated on, he has nobody else. But also, I have read about and met men (including close family members) who cheated on their girlfrieds/wives. I even had a co-worker say that he had never been with just a single woman before. He always had 2 at the same time. So I wonder: How common is it for you to see people cheating like that? Men and women. -Edit: Typos.",,28,Felizem_velair_,1704586019.0 -PurplePillDebate,190tva8,q4men: would you sign an acknowledgment of paternity for the child of some woman you arent married to?,"...and if so, why? the conclusion most people come to is that men are so terrified of pissing off their unmarried ""gf"" that they sign it like sheep, do you think this is the case? would you do it, or demand a paternity test when it actually counts?",,1,-Shes-A-Carnival,1704639384.0 +Edit: Typos.",,28,Felizem_velair_,2024-01-07 00:06:59 +PurplePillDebate,190tva8,q4men: would you sign an acknowledgment of paternity for the child of some woman you arent married to?,"...and if so, why? the conclusion most people come to is that men are so terrified of pissing off their unmarried ""gf"" that they sign it like sheep, do you think this is the case? would you do it, or demand a paternity test when it actually counts?",,1,-Shes-A-Carnival,2024-01-07 14:56:24 PurplePillDebate,1906iu3,Men mistake women ignoring most men as her being loyal. Let's debate,"If a guy looks at a woman's instagram, he will see 100s if not 1000s of DMs ignored. He'll think ""Wow bro my girl is so loyal, she doesn't even open DMs"" He will also notice his girlfriend not making eye contact with guys in public. The girl is doing this because she has had alot of experiences of guys saying weird stuff to her in public, so she just ignores them. Again, ""wow bro my girl is so loyal, she doesn't even look at other men"" @@ -51650,8 +51650,8 @@ What the guy fails to realize is the fact that women don't care about 80% of men Then she will cheat if she can get away with it -Her being loyal is an illusion, only because her dream man hasn't come along yet. This is why marriage is pointless, because the feelings a woman has for man will fizzle out and eventually a ""better"" guy will come along and the woman will fantasize and/or cheat. Yes, fantasizing is cheating 🤷‍♂️",,33,Consistent-Gur6932,1704565850.0 -PurplePillDebate,18zx1gg,Do women understand that not all misogynists are incels and not all incels are misogynists?,"Whenever I see an argument on social media about a man complaining about women or OF models the women always call him an incel? They do understand that having sex with a woman won't cure your misogyny? And that plenty of men who hate women, have sex with women via dating apps?",,106,Apprehensive-Kick290,1704536354.0 +Her being loyal is an illusion, only because her dream man hasn't come along yet. This is why marriage is pointless, because the feelings a woman has for man will fizzle out and eventually a ""better"" guy will come along and the woman will fantasize and/or cheat. Yes, fantasizing is cheating 🤷‍♂️",,33,Consistent-Gur6932,2024-01-06 18:30:50 +PurplePillDebate,18zx1gg,Do women understand that not all misogynists are incels and not all incels are misogynists?,"Whenever I see an argument on social media about a man complaining about women or OF models the women always call him an incel? They do understand that having sex with a woman won't cure your misogyny? And that plenty of men who hate women, have sex with women via dating apps?",,106,Apprehensive-Kick290,2024-01-06 10:19:14 PurplePillDebate,190wslj,Why is it so hard for taken women to ignore other men who show interest in her?,"Women are constantly talking to guys on Instagram who slide in their DMs. They know the guy wants them, and despite having a boyfriend, they engage in the conversation. I understand sometimes you have to respond because some guys might start acting aggressive and it can be scary to the girl, but then a threshold is crossed where the guy proves he's not a danger, but still thirsty and the girl keeps talking to him @@ -51660,7 +51660,7 @@ Now women can easily say: ""Oh we can't ignore the guys because we are afraid th Just please simply answer me, why? -One time a girl reacted heart eyes to my story (she was the type to message EVERY guy). She had a boyfriend and I told her please never send me stuff like that again, you have a boyfriend, have some shame. And she told her boyfriend and he said ""Bro it's not a big deal"" -\_-",,0,Consistent-Gur6932,1704647251.0 +One time a girl reacted heart eyes to my story (she was the type to message EVERY guy). She had a boyfriend and I told her please never send me stuff like that again, you have a boyfriend, have some shame. And she told her boyfriend and he said ""Bro it's not a big deal"" -\_-",,0,Consistent-Gur6932,2024-01-07 17:07:31 PurplePillDebate,1903sxj,"Fun hypothetical, here are some options you can choose from to fix dating","Pick two. 1) Women now outnumber men 3 to 1. @@ -51673,10 +51673,10 @@ PurplePillDebate,1903sxj,"Fun hypothetical, here are some options you can choose 5) Dating apps are mandated by law to be effective in forming relationships. -6) Porn, onlyfans, pictures intended for arousal are now completely illegal.",,30,EveningEveryman,1704558841.0 +6) Porn, onlyfans, pictures intended for arousal are now completely illegal.",,30,EveningEveryman,2024-01-06 16:34:01 PurplePillDebate,18zwrqm,Men need to stop being so thirsty.,"A lot of men are so thirsty that a woman could be a completely terrible person, but if she's even moderately physically attractive, they'll still chase and stroke her ego just to get laid. Most men are so thirsty that when I suggest that men should get some self respect and stop chasing women, especially those who don't respect them or even care about them, there'll always be some guy saying ""If I don't simp and chase, some other guy will"". Which is ofcourse true, but it's just more evidence that men are too thirsty and need to stop. -Women who use men and only see them as walking banks have no incentive to change when their shitty behaviour gets rewarded by men who chase them and pay for everything to impress them. Unfortunately, some men are so thirsty that they think it's better to be with a woman who uses and abuses them than to be single.",,95,Agreeable-Moment-760,1704535238.0 +Women who use men and only see them as walking banks have no incentive to change when their shitty behaviour gets rewarded by men who chase them and pay for everything to impress them. Unfortunately, some men are so thirsty that they think it's better to be with a woman who uses and abuses them than to be single.",,95,Agreeable-Moment-760,2024-01-06 10:00:38 PurplePillDebate,190ayfn,How often do you and your friends discuss/gossip about the sex lives of your social circle?,"I'm wondering how much people talking about their sex lives and sex lives of their peers and also how old you are? I've often heard claims from men about finding out if their girlfriends is lying about their ""body count"" they'll find out from her friends or social group, and they claim its common for men to do this. @@ -51685,14 +51685,14 @@ Thing is, I haven't witnessed this ever in my life since like high school. I've I just don't feel like grown mature adults gossip about their sex lives much, I feel like it would be considered tacky and low class in my social circles, so it surprises me when people here act like it's so common. It makes me think the demographics here must be really young, like teens larping as 40 year old men. -Is my peer group/professional circles unique in this or do your adult peer groups discuss sex/body counts often??",,10,Sad_and_grossed_out,1704577173.0 +Is my peer group/professional circles unique in this or do your adult peer groups discuss sex/body counts often??",,10,Sad_and_grossed_out,2024-01-06 21:39:33 PurplePillDebate,19001ki,To what extent are age gaps in relationships due to the preferences of women vs men?,"The meme is eveyy man is going for women aged 18 - 25. It definitely seems to be the case that men are far more likely to be older then women in heterosexual relationships, but is it really because of the above statement? Irl, its almost always women who seem to be hesitant to date a younger man in my experience, very few men I know would be opposed to date older women. -Would love to get your thoughts.",,21,Quiet_Firefighter_65,1704547875.0 +Would love to get your thoughts.",,21,Quiet_Firefighter_65,2024-01-06 13:31:15 PurplePillDebate,1905slf,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, personal advice and memes in this thread. Here you can post everything that doesn't warrant its own thread or just do some socializing. Personal advice posting, research posts, non-TOS breaking rants, links to other locations with limited context as conversation topics, and things would be considered low effort posts are allowed in the daily thread. @@ -51711,14 +51711,14 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,1704564015.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,2024-01-06 18:00:15 PurplePillDebate,1904dpf,N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD,"&#x200B; [Please Join Us on Discord!](https://discord.gg/3aHh4trC7B) Include your reddit username, pill color, age and gender when you arrive in the welcome mat to introduce yourself and help people get to know you. &#x200B; -You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,4,AutoModerator,1704560413.0 +You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,4,AutoModerator,2024-01-06 17:00:13 PurplePillDebate,18zoxwm,What Makes You a Top 1% Woman for a Top 1% Man?,"Ladies, what do you believe makes you a top 1% woman, deserving of a top 1% man? but first ill break down what a top 1% man is, using some stats.At 25 years old, only about 14.5% of men are 6 feet or taller. and Just 2% of men at this age make $100k or more. if you want a man who is 25 and is 6 foot making 100k that is only A tiny 0.29%. @@ -51731,17 +51731,17 @@ It’s not about downplaying anyone’s worth but rather understanding that in t &#x200B; -EDIT: out of the 1 thousand comments only 3 women actually answered the question, the rest just shamed me or attacked me, so its clear women don't even know what men value or makes them deserve the men they feel entitled to ",,54,Moneydamjan,1704507860.0 +EDIT: out of the 1 thousand comments only 3 women actually answered the question, the rest just shamed me or attacked me, so its clear women don't even know what men value or makes them deserve the men they feel entitled to ",,54,Moneydamjan,2024-01-06 02:24:20 PurplePillDebate,18zvbt1,Who do so many actual “alpha males” & “players” who clearly get women and demonstrate being “Red Pill aware” get classified as “purple pilled” or “not Red Pilled” by people in Red Pill spaces?,"Any time I see a man who is or used to be a pimp, mack, player, male escort, male stripper, male pornstar, fitness influencer, dating coach, musician, actor or comedian who is clearly an “alpha male” discussed in a Red Pill space, the Red Pillers go out of their way to point out the individual, who likely understands “the nature of women” better than they ever could, isn’t “Red Pill”. -Why is this? Given RP thoughts, beliefs & theories on women, isn’t that who they should strive to be? I never quite understood.",,10,MasterofBoats,1704529310.0 +Why is this? Given RP thoughts, beliefs & theories on women, isn’t that who they should strive to be? I never quite understood.",,10,MasterofBoats,2024-01-06 08:21:50 PurplePillDebate,18zpmcg,Question for men: is the madonna-whore complex real?,"So a year ago I learned about the madonna-whore complex in my psychology class and I was really disturbed by it. It's basically a psychological complex where men categorize women as either a ""madonna"" (a woman who is nurturing and pure and basically wifey material) or a ""whore"" (a woman who is not). And the man gives his romantic and sentimental love to the ""madonna"" but can't feel sexual feelings for her, and doesn't love or really care about the ""whore"" but is sexually attracted to her. And there was a discussion in my class about how this could explain why some men cheat on their wives but still technically ""love"" them. But the idea of it just really disturbed me because how could you romantically love your significant partner but cheat on them with somebody who you don't love? And why would you not feel sexual attraction to the woman you love if you think she's so pure and perfect? -Probably most of you haven't personally experienced this but based on your opinion and your interactions with other men do you think the madonna-whore complex is real? And if so could you maybe answer my above questions?",,16,Living_Cookie9375,1704509830.0 +Probably most of you haven't personally experienced this but based on your opinion and your interactions with other men do you think the madonna-whore complex is real? And if so could you maybe answer my above questions?",,16,Living_Cookie9375,2024-01-06 02:57:10 PurplePillDebate,18zcj1r,“the divine feminine” is a manifestation of toxic femininity,"Now, I want to start off by touching on a concept - I do think there is such a thing as natural femininity and masculinity, and that many people feel a natural, almost spiritual inkling to play their role in accordance to their gender. That being said, I don’t like using the term “divine masculine” or “divine feminine”, partly because it deifies human qualities, but also it adds such a grandiose sense of self importance to where it borders on narcissism. This is where I think it becomes messy and I would argue that influencers peddling the idea of “divine femininity” are attempting to normalize toxic femininity - just as the manosphere fully exhibits toxic masculinity. @@ -51752,7 +51752,7 @@ The divine feminine often proclaims the idea that the feminine is inherently div A lot of this reads as unchecked narcissism, and framing it as “divine” is the greatest symptom of this. Of course, now for the big question - why is it “toxic femininity” and not just narcissism? -Because like toxic masculinity is to men, all of these are based off how generally speaking, women either see themselves or want to be treated based off their role in relation to men, but these traits are warped to their absolute worst. Of course, there are tons of “toxic feminine” traits that don’t stem from this idea, just like toxic masculinity isn’t only tied to the manosphere - though this is just one manifestation of it that i’ve seen popping up.",,60,KayRay1994,1704476181.0 +Because like toxic masculinity is to men, all of these are based off how generally speaking, women either see themselves or want to be treated based off their role in relation to men, but these traits are warped to their absolute worst. Of course, there are tons of “toxic feminine” traits that don’t stem from this idea, just like toxic masculinity isn’t only tied to the manosphere - though this is just one manifestation of it that i’ve seen popping up.",,60,KayRay1994,2024-01-05 17:36:21 PurplePillDebate,18zafnh,"If modern dating just a cycle of: infatuation, get bored, cheat/leave?","First someone finds someone, they get to know each other a bit, get infatuated with each other and believe they are soulmates @@ -51764,7 +51764,7 @@ This person with the wandering thoughts either ends up cheating due to the ease And I think women do this more, but that's just my opinion -What's the solution to this cycle?",,70,Consistent-Gur6932,1704470966.0 +What's the solution to this cycle?",,70,Consistent-Gur6932,2024-01-05 16:09:26 PurplePillDebate,18zbnks,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -51783,19 +51783,19 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,1704474025.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,2024-01-05 17:00:25 PurplePillDebate,18z3y6u,Why are people so reluctant to accept serial monogamy?,"I am sick of seeing people view divorce as a huge personal failure or act like every relationship that ends is ""wasted time"". The ship of lifelong monogamy has sailed. Fewer and fewer people get married. Out of those who get married around 40-50% get divorced. Out of those who don't get divorced, I estimate that around 10-20% is miserable in their marriage but stays married for other reasons. Only 30% at best are genuinely satisfied in their marriage. -Sure if you want lifelong monogamy , go for it. But I don't get why most people are still obsessed with this fairy tale of marriage and kids to the point where they can't even properly appreciate their past relationships because it was a ""waste of time"" on the road to find their supposed one true love. Or they kill themselves after divorce because they feel like a failure. Just embrace it that some relationships are not meant to last forever, it's okay.",,20,Novel-Tip-7570,1704451059.0 +Sure if you want lifelong monogamy , go for it. But I don't get why most people are still obsessed with this fairy tale of marriage and kids to the point where they can't even properly appreciate their past relationships because it was a ""waste of time"" on the road to find their supposed one true love. Or they kill themselves after divorce because they feel like a failure. Just embrace it that some relationships are not meant to last forever, it's okay.",,20,Novel-Tip-7570,2024-01-05 10:37:39 PurplePillDebate,18zh78n,Why are men so anti marriage nowadays compared to 100 years ago?,"Obviously the world now is vastly different from 100 years ago in 1924( but we still have cabled energy lines eheheh) but I read an article and on Quora that in the past most men used to want to get married and make families but now many men don't want to marry anymore nor have children. The MGTOW and Incel comunity is growing and men complain about other guys being destroyed in marriages and that being single is much happier and better than be in a relationship. I have never been married so I cannot give an opinion... In the past women had far less rights than today and it seens that divorce used to be much harder to get so I guess that even the ugliest and the worst men got a gorlfriend and wife with relatively ease... By the other hand alimony is much more rare nowadays so alimony after divorce might not be one of the reasons for men nowadays to be antimarriages... -So why is marriage so repulsive to men now but still desirable for women?",,2,sabrynekrystal1992,1704487799.0 +So why is marriage so repulsive to men now but still desirable for women?",,2,sabrynekrystal1992,2024-01-05 20:49:59 PurplePillDebate,18z1044,"Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?","I want to clarify, I am not asking this because I don't believe this really common complain and am trying to have a gotcha moment. I swear. I am asking exactly because I read about it very commonly and have a hard time relating it to real life examples because a) I think a lot of men show emotions pretty freely b) I don't think most women I know havee any issue with it unless the topic/reaction itself is an issue, which is normal @@ -51805,7 +51805,7 @@ But my circle and experiences are not representative of most people. I am aware But since the topic of what being emotional/vulnerable or expressing your feelings can mean so many things, I always feel these conversations lack concrete examples. So if you don't mind being a bit more personal on an anonymous forum, can you share how the whole thing went down, what did you open up about and what was the exact negative reaction you got for it? -Also -I know this is a question for men, but if a woman is answering, maybe you can explain what you mean if you ever felt youd like a man to be more open - in what way did you think he wasn't? Is it an outward demonstration of an emotion like crying, better explanation of what is going on during a certain emotional situation, or more relationship-focused for example being clearer about how he feels for you?",,34,[deleted],1704439218.0 +Also -I know this is a question for men, but if a woman is answering, maybe you can explain what you mean if you ever felt youd like a man to be more open - in what way did you think he wasn't? Is it an outward demonstration of an emotion like crying, better explanation of what is going on during a certain emotional situation, or more relationship-focused for example being clearer about how he feels for you?",,34,[deleted],2024-01-05 07:20:18 PurplePillDebate,18zrrgb,"What does everyone believe with regard to ""trauma"" and male sexual assault?","My main question is, do the people here believe men who have been sexually assaulted in some manner (especially by a woman) have legitimate reason to have ""trauma"" for it? Let's say these men who've been assaulted could theoretically overpower the woman assaulting them. In these cases you could hypothetically argue the men in question let it happen and were never in real danger because they could've always won a physical confrontation if necessary to protect themselves. @@ -51822,19 +51822,19 @@ These are not data driven outcomes, it's based on my experience. But, I think if Males being raped in movies, whether by men or women, is almost always universally portrayed comedically by Hollywood. Including scenes with charlie day being assaulted by his boss, and Jonah Hill being raped by a demon. These scenes are played to be laughed at, and they're abundant. This may reinforce the idea that in real life this topic is a point of comedy and question of validity. -What does everyone else think?",,0,No_Constant7907,1704516474.0 +What does everyone else think?",,0,No_Constant7907,2024-01-06 04:47:54 PurplePillDebate,18ylwzv,"CMV, women have a low tolerance for male vulnerability which perpetuates men not expressing their thoughts and feelings","I remember that when I was first learning how to date, women would seek emotional intimacy and support on the date by telling me something that was making them emotionally vulnerable, but whenever I'd offer up any of my own to commiserate, it would give her the major ick. I then noticed this more and more with women in other parts of my life like platonic friends. With very few exceptions, every woman in my life has had an extremely low tolerance of me sharing any vulnerability or seeking emotional support. They only want me around when I'm fun and entertaining. In fact, I finally shared a minor vulnerability with a girl I'd been dating for over month recently, and she explicitly broke up with me over it despite that very day constantly talking about her not interested in dating anyone else but me. -Women have a very low tolerance for male sadness.",,212,IlIIlIIIlIl,1704397384.0 +Women have a very low tolerance for male sadness.",,212,IlIIlIIIlIl,2024-01-04 19:43:04 PurplePillDebate,18yy4gl,Could be the uprise of men being bad or abusive partners be a result of men leaving the dating scene?,"""As of 2022, Pew Research Center found, 30 percent of U.S. adults are neither married, living with a partner nor engaged in a committed relationship. Nearly half of all young adults are single: 34 percent of women, and a whopping 63 percent of men."" There is been a constant trope about men being terrible partners, manipulative, violent, and neglectful online. You hear the outcries of women all over social media crying about ""where are the good men""? If you look at TwoX, most of their posts have an abundance of terrible instances they have had with men. While it is simply possible that some women are actively choosing partners that are bad for them, I think that a lot of this is a result of a lot of well intentioned gentlemen leaving the dating scene. Men have given up in dating despite their efforts have left these women to deal with lower quality men as a result. It seems that people who were worse dating partners tend to focus more on dating than those who don't, a great example of this would be the ""self-proclaimed incels"". They have an unhealthy fixation on women than a more healthy men who has given up on dating. -I do not believe that there is such a large amount of undatable men in the dating pool, but rather a ton of dudes that aren't dating at all.",,31,KentuckyCriedFlickin,1704429470.0 +I do not believe that there is such a large amount of undatable men in the dating pool, but rather a ton of dudes that aren't dating at all.",,31,KentuckyCriedFlickin,2024-01-05 04:37:50 PurplePillDebate,18yzd7g,A lot of alpha male types are just as desperate and pathetic as anyone else,"Conventional wisdom quite rightly tells us that desperation is an enormous turn off, and thus one of the key reasons why alpha jock types do so well with women is because they show no such desperation and exude the aura that they don't need to gain the affection of any particular lady since they have more options than they know what to do with. In my experience hanging out with these types of guys when I was younger and stupider, from speaking with women about their experiences with such men, and from observing them in the media, the truth is a lot of them are just as insecure, pathetic and desperate as anyone else. @@ -51853,32 +51853,32 @@ Of course there are some natural alpha types who are genuinely confident and don Just some perspective -&#x200B;",,14,StaticNocturne,1704433463.0 +&#x200B;",,14,StaticNocturne,2024-01-05 05:44:23 PurplePillDebate,18yxyqa,Do BP Women actually believe you can be truly egalitarian and 50-50 with children?,"I’m curious about the most major point that is often talked about in RP communities: gender roles and chores within a family unit. I understand the BP folks want egalitarian relationships when it comes to roles and chores. But, honestly, how can this be unless you NEVER have kids? childbearing is the one thing that can’t be “shared” - only women can push a baby out through their vagina. This is a MAJOR burden on the woman relative to the man. -If BPW want to work and split finances, chores, bills, emotional support, sex, etc. - how do you not see that having a kid makes things uneven now? and the biggest burden falls on YOU, and splitting all those chores and roles after a child is heavier on YOU vs the man?",,16,Ok_Mathematician863,1704428964.0 +If BPW want to work and split finances, chores, bills, emotional support, sex, etc. - how do you not see that having a kid makes things uneven now? and the biggest burden falls on YOU, and splitting all those chores and roles after a child is heavier on YOU vs the man?",,16,Ok_Mathematician863,2024-01-05 04:29:24 PurplePillDebate,18yxukg,Are men who do not want to commit to relationships simply risk-averse?,"One of the complaints women have with modern dating is the man they are dating does not commit to a relationship with them and the women is stuck in a 'situationship'. Often, the assumption is that the man is a 'high-value male' and has multiple options hence why he does not want to commit to just one person. However, this is also assuming that man does not want a relationship and would rather 'play the field' / have multiple casual partners. -Speaking from personal experience, it seems most men who have red pill knowledge do not want to commit to a relationship simply because they are risk-averse. Not so much because they want to play the field or because they have multiple options. The average women usually has what is considered red flags in the red pill community - a high body count, revealing photos on social media, past trauma etc. Most men see women like this as a risk and simply don't want to commit. This seems to be a growing trend - men not committing because of the risk. It seems like these 'situationships' have become normal and many women are left frustrated and confused. On the other hand a man who has consumed red pill knowledge believes the average women poses too much risk for a relationship. ",,16,ShelterNo2786,1704428593.0 +Speaking from personal experience, it seems most men who have red pill knowledge do not want to commit to a relationship simply because they are risk-averse. Not so much because they want to play the field or because they have multiple options. The average women usually has what is considered red flags in the red pill community - a high body count, revealing photos on social media, past trauma etc. Most men see women like this as a risk and simply don't want to commit. This seems to be a growing trend - men not committing because of the risk. It seems like these 'situationships' have become normal and many women are left frustrated and confused. On the other hand a man who has consumed red pill knowledge believes the average women poses too much risk for a relationship. ",,16,ShelterNo2786,2024-01-05 04:23:13 PurplePillDebate,18yufbz,Is asking out a friend only going to ruin your friendship if you're not attractive?,"We're all familiar with the dynamic of a guy who has a crush on a female friend but doesn't ask her out for fear of ruining their friendship. Sometimes it ruins the friendship, sometimes she says yes, sometimes she says no but still wants to be friends. -Even when she says no, does her reaction depend on how attractive you are? Is that the difference between ""he likes me, that's sweet but I don't feel the same way"" vs ""EWW he likes me, I'm staying away from him""?",,11,TarJen96,1704418627.0 -PurplePillDebate,18yjxt0,Penetration is essential to most women's complete sexual satisfaction.,"Heterosexual women absolutely *do* want and need penetration in the majority of cases to be fully sexually satisfied, dunno why people online spread this disinformation that they don't. Sure, *only* penetration isn't going to make them orgasm, they need clitoral stimulation too, but I've noticed there's a prevalent opinion (mostly populated by women so the men won't feel too insecure) here that women only engage in penetration for their partner, that it does very little for them and that only digital and oral stimulation are enough, all of which is absolutely false. I have asked this very question on r/AskWomen and searched for similar on r/sex and got the expected results. Most heterosexual women want and need good dicking and feel unsatisfied with just oral and digital stimulation, plus, certain women get ""dickmatised"", when a man fucks them so good, endorphins flood their brains and induce a brainfog for a time being. Sure, the exceptions exist, but they are only that, exceptions.",,43,[deleted],1704392584.0 +Even when she says no, does her reaction depend on how attractive you are? Is that the difference between ""he likes me, that's sweet but I don't feel the same way"" vs ""EWW he likes me, I'm staying away from him""?",,11,TarJen96,2024-01-05 01:37:07 +PurplePillDebate,18yjxt0,Penetration is essential to most women's complete sexual satisfaction.,"Heterosexual women absolutely *do* want and need penetration in the majority of cases to be fully sexually satisfied, dunno why people online spread this disinformation that they don't. Sure, *only* penetration isn't going to make them orgasm, they need clitoral stimulation too, but I've noticed there's a prevalent opinion (mostly populated by women so the men won't feel too insecure) here that women only engage in penetration for their partner, that it does very little for them and that only digital and oral stimulation are enough, all of which is absolutely false. I have asked this very question on r/AskWomen and searched for similar on r/sex and got the expected results. Most heterosexual women want and need good dicking and feel unsatisfied with just oral and digital stimulation, plus, certain women get ""dickmatised"", when a man fucks them so good, endorphins flood their brains and induce a brainfog for a time being. Sure, the exceptions exist, but they are only that, exceptions.",,43,[deleted],2024-01-04 18:23:04 PurplePillDebate,18yxj03,People nowdays just too rigid or arrogant to try and change for someone else,"I dont get it man, everyone thinks they are just the shit already. People are just flaunting their problems on TikTok like they are proud of it because it makes them unique........ WHAT? And why tf does it seem like men and women these days dont put shit of effort into it for their partner? Because everyone just wants sex and doesnt even care... I dont know if thats it, but Im curious -A relationship can be a great vessel for growth and change when its not toxic. I dont understand why more people dont use that for improvement. But it seems like people just walk away with bitterness instead. Honestly, someone has to be pretty fucking arrogant to say they dont want to improve",,8,Hot_Radiosensitizer,1704427614.0 +A relationship can be a great vessel for growth and change when its not toxic. I dont understand why more people dont use that for improvement. But it seems like people just walk away with bitterness instead. Honestly, someone has to be pretty fucking arrogant to say they dont want to improve",,8,Hot_Radiosensitizer,2024-01-05 04:06:54 PurplePillDebate,18z1n64,Make up and women,"So ladies... Question for you all... -So you all like to claim that clothes,cosmetic procedures, and make up are used because of how it makes you all feel... Well then why is it quite a lot of women feel like if they get all dolled up we should be paying for that.... So the question is why say it's for you when clearly a lot of you expect a man to reimburse you via by where you get taken on a date... So call me confuse or a alot of y'all are vane and narcissistic",,0,Gold_Supermarket1956,1704441735.0 -PurplePillDebate,18ynkz0,"Blue pillers, How would you summarize your views?","What does it mean to be blue-pilled, exactly? In your own words",,7,SevereStreet8582,1704401491.0 +So you all like to claim that clothes,cosmetic procedures, and make up are used because of how it makes you all feel... Well then why is it quite a lot of women feel like if they get all dolled up we should be paying for that.... So the question is why say it's for you when clearly a lot of you expect a man to reimburse you via by where you get taken on a date... So call me confuse or a alot of y'all are vane and narcissistic",,0,Gold_Supermarket1956,2024-01-05 08:02:15 +PurplePillDebate,18ynkz0,"Blue pillers, How would you summarize your views?","What does it mean to be blue-pilled, exactly? In your own words",,7,SevereStreet8582,2024-01-04 20:51:31 PurplePillDebate,18yvkij,"CMV/Debate: In this society, neurotypicals who don't follow red pill or intense self improvement ideology are wasting their genetic potential","I do believe that red pill ideology is a little too extreme at times in regards to some of their notions around women. But it is much more realistic for THIS SOCIETY. If you want to improve at life whether it be in income, social life, or romantic relationships, there is no room for being ""mediocre"" or ""average"" in terms of the effort you put in. Our western societies today are so insanely competitive that you need to exceed the average person in order to be seen as worthy for relationships, friends, etc. Hence the need for more extreme or intensive forms of self improvement. E.g. in order to develop confidence to be able to ask for promotions at work or project leadership and dominance, one must actively put themselves in tough situations and speak up (e.g. ). In order to have a better ability to talk to women in a romantic manner, they must consistently and actively go out and practice, going through hundreds of rejections, etc. In order to be seen as physically worthy for a relationship it is almost essential that you regularly go to the gym and invest in skincare and other methods of maximising your appearance. Due to online dating culture and modern day hookup culture, there is absolutely no room for mediocrity. This is very different to society before the internet. So why am I saying that neurotypical are wasting their genetic potential? Most neurotypicals are just born with the natural social skills to be able to socially conform, have a job, meet someone, etc. Basically a normal life. Essentially, most neurotypicals are born with the right genetic tools to be able to maximise the benefits of the red pill. And if they dont, then especially in this society, I personally see it as a complete genetic waste of potential. Regardless of how you look like, neurotypicality is an essential genetic tool to be able to integrate in society. @@ -51887,7 +51887,7 @@ So what do you do if you are an autistic person? I recommend the red pill as wel So if you are willing to accept your disability and thus your limitations, then there is nothing wrong with doing so. And there is also nothing wrong in continuing. Why is this even important? Autistics make such a small proportion of the population dont they? yes they do. But there are huge numbers of us in these sorts of communities as we are more easily lured into ""pill culture"". Hence it is important to talk about this as the toxic rhetoric in TRP communities could lead to very poor mental health outcomes for autistic people who, despite putting in huge amounts of effort, might receive no benefits. -Regardless of the genetics that determined your appearance, if you are a neurotypical, then you can still exceed society's expectations of you. But it must require more intense effort and determination from your part. In no way should you waste your genetic potential and be an ""average"" person.",,3,Business_Window_6232,1704421866.0 +Regardless of the genetics that determined your appearance, if you are a neurotypical, then you can still exceed society's expectations of you. But it must require more intense effort and determination from your part. In no way should you waste your genetic potential and be an ""average"" person.",,3,Business_Window_6232,2024-01-05 02:31:06 PurplePillDebate,18y2ppd,Any explanations as to why dating seems to be feast or famine?," For as long a so can remember dating has been a drought or a deluge (more the former than the latter) and I’ve never been able to explain why. @@ -51903,13 +51903,13 @@ Also it doesn’t seem to be seasonal since it can occur whenever. Has anyone else noticed this shit? -Any theories about what’s going on?",,38,StaticNocturne,1704338016.0 +Any theories about what’s going on?",,38,StaticNocturne,2024-01-04 03:13:36 PurplePillDebate,18yain1,Kin Influence and Sexual Selection,"Throughout most of history, and likely a great deal of prehistory, kin have had a substantial influence on human mate selection. This makes humans unique. It also means that simple Darwinian sexual selection models that apply to other species may not work as well with humans. Male kin had more influence than female kin; and female maters were more subject to kin influence than male. But there was significant influence on both genders by members of both genders. Kin and mating principals did not have perfectly aligned interests. For example, Good Genes (GG) (appearance and some social skill/charisma) preferences were likely stronger in the principals than the kin, and the lineage of the principals was more impacted. Furthermore, it is likely that principals evolved adaptations to better assert their interests (better parental manipulation, etc.) and kind adapted to better protect their own preferences. -In the evolutionary novel modern West, we have not only seen the sudden depreciation of the value of male Provisioning, Protection and Parental Investment (PPP) traits. We have also seen the sudden end of kin influence. The consequences of the latter are rarely discussed, particularly in evolutionary terms. ",,10,WilliamWyattD,1704366041.0 +In the evolutionary novel modern West, we have not only seen the sudden depreciation of the value of male Provisioning, Protection and Parental Investment (PPP) traits. We have also seen the sudden end of kin influence. The consequences of the latter are rarely discussed, particularly in evolutionary terms. ",,10,WilliamWyattD,2024-01-04 11:00:41 PurplePillDebate,18yy8q8,There is nothing wrong with being a side chick if we accept the reality of hypergamy,"Truth is that men are judged compared to other men, and most women prefer traits in men that only a few men have. Most men are somewhat in between, and they can get lucky, but they will never have as much power of choice as women. Even those men who get a wife, they may find that she ask for divorce because ""love went away"", and he may lose all the investment in the relationship, and women are more likely to do such thing. Truth is that the hypergamous reality of fewer men being desirable, undermines monogamy. Those chosen men will have more power to choose women, have side chicks, etc. The problem I find is that **most women seem to have a fixation for monogamy and commitment, and most of them believe they are worthy of it, while mathematically speaking it is unlikely most women will find and keep for them alone the man they truly desire and love.** @@ -51918,7 +51918,7 @@ Of course, some women would rather choose to be alone, and I expect more men cho The only solution I find is women dropping the idea of them being entitled to monogamy, or at least accept they don't have much power over the top men they choose, because other women choose them too. Nothing wrong with that: no group has all power and control on everything in a specific category such as sexual selection. Women should not be mad as this, since they still have it waaay better than most men, and it is clear that plenty of women choose to be a side chick to a desirable man than a woman of an average man. They just hide it for social rejection or false ideas of non-monogamous arrangements. -**TLDR**: Women should not look down on being a side chick, or even the idea of the men they choose having other partners. It is a numbers game, and the least men are desirable, the most power for the men they do choose, and if men can choose other women, then will... just as women choose better men.",,0,EuphoricBrightTipper,1704429841.0 +**TLDR**: Women should not look down on being a side chick, or even the idea of the men they choose having other partners. It is a numbers game, and the least men are desirable, the most power for the men they do choose, and if men can choose other women, then will... just as women choose better men.",,0,EuphoricBrightTipper,2024-01-05 04:44:01 PurplePillDebate,18y06hd,My Take On PPD: No One Is Innocent,"I got a lot of great feedback about a comment I recently left. It was a thought I shared regarding if any of my thoughts have changed/been affirmed since being here. I'll repost below: \---- @@ -51972,14 +51972,14 @@ Overall, I don't think anyone has it easy in the dating landscape. However, I th \--- -**Discussion Point:** My thoughts are that everyone has it hard out there, and no one is innocent in the game of sexual attraction. So his got me thinking... Wouldn't these threads be more productive if everyone was just more direct/upfront? What's stopping this? Is it a fear of social shame? Backlash? Something else?",,46,[deleted],1704331033.0 +**Discussion Point:** My thoughts are that everyone has it hard out there, and no one is innocent in the game of sexual attraction. So his got me thinking... Wouldn't these threads be more productive if everyone was just more direct/upfront? What's stopping this? Is it a fear of social shame? Backlash? Something else?",,46,[deleted],2024-01-04 01:17:13 PurplePillDebate,18yp1d9,Question for women who don’t see sex as an essential part of your relationship,"People can believe sex is as small or big as a priority as they want. People are different and you can have whatever priorities you want in your relationship with your partner. Now with that out of the way, here’s my question: if you are a woman and if you don’t think sex is an essential part of your relationship, are you comfortable with opening up your relationship with a boundary that if sex ever leads to romantic feelings then sex with that third party person will be immediately cut off? Please explain why or why not. This is assuming that you have no medical issue that would inhibit your sexual desire (hormones are in check, no chronic illnesses, etc). The person answering this question is ideally someone who just isn’t super interested in sex. It’s nice when it happens but it’s not your end all be all to an exclusive romantic relationship. -Also assume that you are attracted to your partner and you don’t have any lingering resentment to them. You’re just not a super sexual person �� ie you’re cool with sex maybe once a month.",,3,BuiltForTruth,1704405101.0 +Also assume that you are attracted to your partner and you don’t have any lingering resentment to them. You’re just not a super sexual person — ie you’re cool with sex maybe once a month.",,3,BuiltForTruth,2024-01-04 21:51:41 PurplePillDebate,18yghbu,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -51998,7 +51998,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,2,AutoModerator,1704384012.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,2,AutoModerator,2024-01-04 16:00:12 PurplePillDebate,18xkqyz,"Many women are actually quite distrustful of other women, they just defend the sisterhood in front of men","TRP often talks about how women defend the sisterhood. Yes they do. When men are around. But many women are quite distrustful of other women, anyone who is a victim of a toxic boy mom knows this. @@ -52008,19 +52008,19 @@ It's ALWAYS the MIL , you rarely hear about toxic father in laws. When a man has I think on some level these MILs know that men are dumb as rocks when it comes to relationships , that's why they're so overprotective. Not that I am defending them. -Many women also report feeling more comfortable with male than female bosses. Why? Likely because the female boss will see through all the bullshit lol. It's not internalized misogyny it's the realization that women will not white knight for them.",,119,Novel-Tip-7570,1704292332.0 +Many women also report feeling more comfortable with male than female bosses. Why? Likely because the female boss will see through all the bullshit lol. It's not internalized misogyny it's the realization that women will not white knight for them.",,119,Novel-Tip-7570,2024-01-03 14:32:12 PurplePillDebate,18xx9kb,"The persistent myth of the ""second shift""","It is often claimed by women here and on the internet broadly, that most mothers with children are working 9-5, 40 hours a week, just like their male counterparts, while simultaneously doing the vast majority of housework and childcare. They bemoan the idea that women are broadly working a ""second shift"" and often use this ""fact"" to blame men for being lazy and ensuing marital breakdowns. However, by and large this is not the case. [**A Pew analysis of the American Time Use survey from 2013 found that women with children spent an average of only 21 hours a week doing paid work.**](https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2013/03/14/chapter-6-time-in-work-and-leisure-patterns-by-gender-and-family-structure) This is around half that of their male counterparts, who spent an average of 38 hours every week doing paid work. -The reality is that in most households with children, women do spend substantially less time doing paid work to take over homemaking and childcare duties. By and large mothers are not working substantially more than fathers.",,20,8mm_Magnum_Cumshot,1704323645.0 +The reality is that in most households with children, women do spend substantially less time doing paid work to take over homemaking and childcare duties. By and large mothers are not working substantially more than fathers.",,20,8mm_Magnum_Cumshot,2024-01-03 23:14:05 PurplePillDebate,18xofvy,Has anyone’s opinion or outlook on certain beliefs changed based on engagement here?,"I am pretty liberal with a dash of conservative beliefs based on having an active and present father and watching him being a good representative of manhood by being empathetic while handling his home. I find that some of the ideas presented are so far away from what is actual truth or can be easily disproven. Some of the things I have a better insight on are male loneliness or male insecurities around being neurodivergent and dating prospects -Does anyone here ever take a look at information presented and do some introspection on how they may have misconstrued some things from the other side?",,27,bluepvtstorm,1704302448.0 +Does anyone here ever take a look at information presented and do some introspection on how they may have misconstrued some things from the other side?",,27,bluepvtstorm,2024-01-03 17:20:48 PurplePillDebate,18xpmkn,"How do we know what's natural to each gender, and what is the cause of society?","**#1 Are men providers by nature? Or have women never gotten the opportunity to be providers** Because technically single moms are very good providers to their kids. The love of a single mom for her kids is like no other. Some of them do 2 jobs at the same time and give everything to their kids. No one can say that single moms don't provide to their kids. So women do provide, however when a man is in the family, why does the man usually provide? @@ -52041,7 +52041,7 @@ In most of human history (and now), women have always been kept oppressed. Can't Please feel free to put more questions lilke this in the comments -&#x200B;",,26,Consistent-Gur6932,1704305259.0 +&#x200B;",,26,Consistent-Gur6932,2024-01-03 18:07:39 PurplePillDebate,18yi9y2,Is there ceiling to women's sexual hypergamy?,"A large nationally representative study led by researcher Michael Reece, Ph.D., examined the prevalence of vibrator use among heterosexual men in the U.S. Intriguingly, heterosexual men who had used sex toys with their partners reported lower levels of sexual satisfaction than men who had never used a sex toy with their partners. [Link to the study](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20924935/) @@ -52060,7 +52060,7 @@ Now what I expect raging feminists to say: * Expecting men to sacrifice their sexual pleasure in order for women to gain more (again, expecting more cuck-like behavior) * Expecting men to ""take them as they are"" and ""they should be enough"" yet at the same time promoting the idea that introducing sex toys (for women) are good and incorporating male sex toys is icky. *The main issue here, women enforcing double standards in regards to sex toys and sexual hypergamy.* The answer here is not just replacing both parties with superior technological sex toys, but rather both parties NOT using these toys and enjoying EACH OTHER's real bodies, in my opinion. -So my main question is; why should men accept women who want/require sex toys in a relationship since there seems to be no upper limit to women's sexual hypergamy?",,0,SlowEffective8146,1704388494.0 +So my main question is; why should men accept women who want/require sex toys in a relationship since there seems to be no upper limit to women's sexual hypergamy?",,0,SlowEffective8146,2024-01-04 17:14:54 PurplePillDebate,18xnguz,"Inexperience in older men is a disadvantage, not a death sentence","There's been a lot of talk on here about older men who are inexperienced having no choice but to go for younger inexperienced women because all experienced women will immediately reject a virgin. There is no way for a woman to tell that you're inexperienced other than if you tell her or if you make it obvious through your physical/social qualities, in which case you should work on those if you want to have success in dating. But if you're an attractive guy with decently good social skills, your inexperience is going to be overlooked most of the time. @@ -52069,7 +52069,7 @@ As far as sex goes, it's common to have to take some time to adapt to each other Putting not being upfront with it aside, it's also not true that you'll be rejected immediately by all women with experience. I'm not going to deny that a lot of women are turned off by it, but there are many women who don't mind it either, especially if you can make up for it by being hot/charismatic. The qualities that make you a virgin are way more important than virginity itself, and if those are fixed there's not much preventing you from losing it. -It is very annoying seeing people talking about how inexperienced men have to date younger inexperienced women because they have no choice otherwise. There isn't anything wrong with dating younger women within a reasonable age gap, but don't act like you're doing it because the world forced you to do so. Don't be so afraid of being judged and don't be afraid of failure, and you'll find a lot more women are open to you than you might think.",,13,danielwastaken,1704299468.0 +It is very annoying seeing people talking about how inexperienced men have to date younger inexperienced women because they have no choice otherwise. There isn't anything wrong with dating younger women within a reasonable age gap, but don't act like you're doing it because the world forced you to do so. Don't be so afraid of being judged and don't be afraid of failure, and you'll find a lot more women are open to you than you might think.",,13,danielwastaken,2024-01-03 16:31:08 PurplePillDebate,18xh5pp,"The more you meet women, the more you realize they're all the same","If you meet a woman, and you look at her phone, chances are it's an iPhone. You ask her what music she likes, and it's probably Drake. You ask her what she likes to do for fun, she'll likely mention traveling. This is the sad conclusion you can't help but come to, no matter how hard you don't want to believe it. Suppose you meet a new girl at work or whatever. She seems nice, down to earth, a refreshing change from the ones you've met in your previous attempts at dating. You start thinking that she's special, and that something good can come of this. But then you go on Instagram, you find her account, and you see her half naked, pointing her ass to the camera. And to your dismay, you realize she's just like the rest of them. @@ -52080,7 +52080,7 @@ This explains their taste in music, food, and yes, men. As a man, this is the ma As usual, this is the same tactic employed by the women on this sub: handwave their questionable behaviour by making it look like the man's problem. In this case, the man's a virgin because there's something bad about him caused by his own doing that's chasing women away. No, the women don't want the virgin men for the same reason they don't want some burner flip phone over the latest iPhone 38 or whatever. -For men who are trying to date and run into this type of wall, after meeting enough women, they realize this: either everyone likes you, or no one does.",,13,rejected-again,1704280924.0 +For men who are trying to date and run into this type of wall, after meeting enough women, they realize this: either everyone likes you, or no one does.",,13,rejected-again,2024-01-03 11:22:04 PurplePillDebate,18xlckm,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -52099,7 +52099,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,9,AutoModerator,1704294014.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,9,AutoModerator,2024-01-03 15:00:14 PurplePillDebate,18y68e7,Is a reproductive draft on the horizon?,"As countries around the world become increasingly industrialized, there is a decline in birth rates. This is happening in every industrialized country regardless of culture. Eventually, these countries drop below replacement in births. The countries that have industrialized first solved this problem by supporting immigration. However this is probably not a sustainable practice, as more countries industrialize there will be fewer and fewer countries to acquire immigrants from. @@ -52117,7 +52117,7 @@ Even dictatorships such as North Korea are struggling with birth rates. If a ""( This post is not arguing for, alluding to, or in favor of ""state mandated girlfriends"". I think it is more realistic and likely for governments to endorse artificial insemination as that is more beneficial for the government. With artificial insemination, the government gets to choose which genetics are reproduced. If there is no partner, husband, or boyfriend in the picture that provides the government with significantly more power in child rearing than it otherwise would have. With no father, the government can more readily dictate how children are raised, leveraging state institutions such as day care and public schooling systems. -Thoughts?",,0,Dertross,1704349083.0 +Thoughts?",,0,Dertross,2024-01-04 06:18:03 PurplePillDebate,18wsla4,"So, is talking to women at bars just… over?","After spending my whole life in small towns, I recently moved to a big city full of “young professionals.” I live in a neighborhood with lots of stereotypically attractive 20-somethings. I go out multiple times a week, usually alone, and I’ve noticed that people rarely meet each other at bars. They show up with their groups and stick with them. They don’t mingle. @@ -52132,8 +52132,8 @@ The part that really trips me up: the same women who are so antisocial at a bar This leads me to believe that apps really have overtaken bars/clubs as the leading spots for hookup culture — at least for the vast majority of people. It’s kind of depressing. But maybe this is just a geographic thing. Or something else. -I’m curious what others have experienced.",,162,PericlesOnTheBeat,1704210882.0 -PurplePillDebate,18xytmf,"If you and a friend both like the same guy, would you scheme in a way to get the guy for yourself?","I was wondering if this has happened with you. If you like a guy, and you thought your friend did too, would you either spread bad rumours about your friend or the guy so that one of them would run away from the other, leaving the guy for yourself? Have any of you done anything like this? If not, have you ever considered doing such a thing? How would you handle your friendship under these situations?",,0,rejected-again,1704327509.0 +I’m curious what others have experienced.",,162,PericlesOnTheBeat,2024-01-02 15:54:42 +PurplePillDebate,18xytmf,"If you and a friend both like the same guy, would you scheme in a way to get the guy for yourself?","I was wondering if this has happened with you. If you like a guy, and you thought your friend did too, would you either spread bad rumours about your friend or the guy so that one of them would run away from the other, leaving the guy for yourself? Have any of you done anything like this? If not, have you ever considered doing such a thing? How would you handle your friendship under these situations?",,0,rejected-again,2024-01-04 00:18:29 PurplePillDebate,18y1vaj,The discussion surrounding the chore gap is missing a major question Discussion,"*Repost because apparently mods don't know what neutral means and it's way too much effort to change a post flair* If you look up the gap in household chores you'll see the same thing. Numerous articles which use negative language to say things such as ""Women STILL take on the majority of the household chores"" usually with images of a stressed wife doing some chore with the husband chilling on the couch with a beer. @@ -52151,16 +52151,16 @@ Maybe it's because the chores women do are typically more fun than the ones men The idea that housework is some grueling, thankless task is so childish. It's extremely enjoyable to take care of a home that's yours. Maybe women are doing more housework but are they being forced to like slaves as the popular narrative suggests? Or is it just something they find as a more enjoyable than men? -The answer's pretty clear to me",,0,FutureBannedAccount2,1704335608.0 +The answer's pretty clear to me",,0,FutureBannedAccount2,2024-01-04 02:33:28 PurplePillDebate,18x21rz,Is it wrong for an inexperienced older man to prefer younger women due to them also being inexperienced?,"But let's say a guy is a bit on the older side and still doesn't have much relationship experience. Most women his own age probably won't want to date him because women usually don't like guys who don't have experience. In that case, wouldn't it be better for an inexperienced older guy to date a younger woman who (hopefully) won't be as bothered by his inexperience? -Imo, an older guy dating a younger woman just because she's more attractive/easier to manipulate is much different to an older guy dating a younger woman because he wants someone who won't judge him for his inexperience ",,16,Glass_Bucket,1704233605.0 +Imo, an older guy dating a younger woman just because she's more attractive/easier to manipulate is much different to an older guy dating a younger woman because he wants someone who won't judge him for his inexperience ",,16,Glass_Bucket,2024-01-02 22:13:25 PurplePillDebate,18x19by,Why are ambiguous friendships and unreciprocated feelings causing so much uproar?,"We're all human and we all fall for random acts of kindness at random times. We all have nevroses that make us respond to certain behaviours. We're all trying to stick to conventions while still being emotional lonely messes who will die alone anyway because no one can share how you feel on your last living second on this plane we call Earth. A lot of persons say friendships cannot exist when sexual attraction enters the friendship, and are moreso doomed when the feeling is unreciprocated. -My opinion is that, anyone with a little kind-hearted character can still behave respectfully and contain their passions for the sake of healthy boundaries, and still thrive while having interests in their friends, I find it healthy even. No one should start questioning their friendship because of stupid natural mammal feelings. We are like we are, nothing is linear, tomorrow is uncertain, and instead of being afraid of how chaotic that feels, we should be able to embrace it.",,15,eyewave,1704231752.0 -PurplePillDebate,18wxjau,"If you are currently unsatisfied with your romantic/relationship prospect, what is your next play for 2024?","New year, new me, etc. If you are looking to improve your lot and actually have concrete plans to follow through, what is your next move?",,20,Purple_Cruncher_123,1704222877.0 +My opinion is that, anyone with a little kind-hearted character can still behave respectfully and contain their passions for the sake of healthy boundaries, and still thrive while having interests in their friends, I find it healthy even. No one should start questioning their friendship because of stupid natural mammal feelings. We are like we are, nothing is linear, tomorrow is uncertain, and instead of being afraid of how chaotic that feels, we should be able to embrace it.",,15,eyewave,2024-01-02 21:42:32 +PurplePillDebate,18wxjau,"If you are currently unsatisfied with your romantic/relationship prospect, what is your next play for 2024?","New year, new me, etc. If you are looking to improve your lot and actually have concrete plans to follow through, what is your next move?",,20,Purple_Cruncher_123,2024-01-02 19:14:37 PurplePillDebate,18xxtxu,Why do you think women suffer from postpartum depression?,"The midwife at my workplace says it’s because of: (1) The lack of support from the mother’s friends and family (and unfortunately sometimes their partner) @@ -52171,10 +52171,10 @@ PurplePillDebate,18xxtxu,Why do you think women suffer from postpartum depressio My (obgyn nurse) aunt says it’s because they realized that they picked the wrong man (unreliable, passive, low social status) from her experience. -Have any of you suffered from PPD? If so, what do you think caused it in your situation?",,0,AethertheEternal,1704325033.0 +Have any of you suffered from PPD? If so, what do you think caused it in your situation?",,0,AethertheEternal,2024-01-03 23:37:13 PurplePillDebate,18wid5m,Are men accepting far less these days or has it always been like this?,"This is purely anecdotal, I have no studies or statistics to support this notion. -I was speaking to my friend. He is dating a women who has obvious red flags. He is even aware of them but he still wants to commit to her because he told me he has ""no one else"" and it's ""too hard to find another girlfriend"". I've heard friends say similar things but in different ways. For example another friend I had, his girlfriend cheated on him. He showed me messages of their conversations and it was really clear how much she disrespected him. He asked me if he should break up with her or forgive her. I was shocked that this was even a thought? This was even a question? Moreover, another guy I know - his girlfriend constantly post thirst traps on social media. Many men like and comment on the pictures. He told me how uncomfortable he feels about it and how it irritates him but he has to ""accept it because he loves her"". All these things are just mind boggling to me. As a man I have strong boundaries and standards. I stick to them. But it seems this is rare these days? Has it always been like this? Is it because of the troubles most men face with modern dating? It seems a lot of guys are just choosing to accept situations that are less than ideal because there is no alternative?",,183,ShelterNo2786,1704175679.0 +I was speaking to my friend. He is dating a women who has obvious red flags. He is even aware of them but he still wants to commit to her because he told me he has ""no one else"" and it's ""too hard to find another girlfriend"". I've heard friends say similar things but in different ways. For example another friend I had, his girlfriend cheated on him. He showed me messages of their conversations and it was really clear how much she disrespected him. He asked me if he should break up with her or forgive her. I was shocked that this was even a thought? This was even a question? Moreover, another guy I know - his girlfriend constantly post thirst traps on social media. Many men like and comment on the pictures. He told me how uncomfortable he feels about it and how it irritates him but he has to ""accept it because he loves her"". All these things are just mind boggling to me. As a man I have strong boundaries and standards. I stick to them. But it seems this is rare these days? Has it always been like this? Is it because of the troubles most men face with modern dating? It seems a lot of guys are just choosing to accept situations that are less than ideal because there is no alternative?",,183,ShelterNo2786,2024-01-02 06:07:59 PurplePillDebate,18x28iy,"When women consume media for men, do they wish to be like the MALE main character too?","For example, Breaking Bad is sometimes called a ""power fantasy for men"" Walter goes from being a meek man, to a man that gains power and the ability to stand up for himself @@ -52187,12 +52187,12 @@ When women see a gun fight in shows, do they want the gun fight to end and for s Lastly, if there is a show or video game about a male king taking over kingdoms, do women like the feeling of taking over land and conquering or do women want the show / video game to go towards world peace etc? -Thanks!",,6,Consistent-Gur6932,1704234040.0 +Thanks!",,6,Consistent-Gur6932,2024-01-02 22:20:40 PurplePillDebate,18wuupl,In which countries is it commonplace for women approach men for sex and relationships?,"I live in Brazil and it seems that we still somehow have a culture that men need to approach a woman first if he is interested on her but women approaching men is becoming more common but it is still somehow stigmatized. I have heard that in Europe( mainly Scandinavia) it is common for women to approach men for both dates and casual sex. Is this common in the United States as well? -I have Asperger Syndrome which is a form of mild autism so I struggle to develop relationships and maintain them for years long. So for me the ideal is for a woman approach me. I am handsome so there is no reason to no woman to not have any interest on me 😉. But I will need to try to be more sociable.",,7,sabrynekrystal1992,1704216491.0 +I have Asperger Syndrome which is a form of mild autism so I struggle to develop relationships and maintain them for years long. So for me the ideal is for a woman approach me. I am handsome so there is no reason to no woman to not have any interest on me 😉. But I will need to try to be more sociable.",,7,sabrynekrystal1992,2024-01-02 17:28:11 PurplePillDebate,18wq2mw,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -52211,20 +52211,20 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,1704204016.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,2024-01-02 14:00:16 PurplePillDebate,18w1584,Women saying they hate their husband is so common on Reddit,"It gets thousands of upvotes, but when a man makes post saying he hates his wife everybody tries to frame him as the asshole / abuser. Why? When is this gonna change? -Edit: for those saying this is not that common just type ""i hate my husband"" on the search bar and you will see hundreds of posts with hundreds of women supporting OP's hate for her husband and thousands of upvotes. ",,198,[deleted],1704128949.0 -PurplePillDebate,18xknn4,it is insane for inexperienced men to seek inexperienced women,"what the title says. this is insane and it is the exact opposite of what all men have done since the dawn of civilization. who cares if some slut mistress compares your pp to other mens while shes giving you sexual and relationship experience are you nuts? were talking about some girlfriend, not your wife and the mother of your children. date and fuck some experienced woman for 3 years in your 20s to learn the ropes. what do you think men took as mistresses throughout all of time and history, virgins? a lot of times they were even older experienced women, like a courtesan or a widow. it is BETTER for inexperienced men to learn sex and how to deal with women from experienced women. stop worrying about being ""compared"", youre just going to dump her in a year or two anyway",,0,-Shes-A-Carnival,1704292088.0 -PurplePillDebate,18wbs6l,Was cold appraching more successful before social media and online dating became common?,"Cold approaching In this day in age is usually looked down upon and seen as awkward. Usually when you ask a girl out by cold approaching you get the typical ""I have a boyfriend"" response. Did they typically use that excuse back then as well? Im really curious to know if cold approaching was always this difficult.",,29,Trappedinthesystem,1704156108.0 +Edit: for those saying this is not that common just type ""i hate my husband"" on the search bar and you will see hundreds of posts with hundreds of women supporting OP's hate for her husband and thousands of upvotes. ",,198,[deleted],2024-01-01 17:09:09 +PurplePillDebate,18xknn4,it is insane for inexperienced men to seek inexperienced women,"what the title says. this is insane and it is the exact opposite of what all men have done since the dawn of civilization. who cares if some slut mistress compares your pp to other mens while shes giving you sexual and relationship experience are you nuts? were talking about some girlfriend, not your wife and the mother of your children. date and fuck some experienced woman for 3 years in your 20s to learn the ropes. what do you think men took as mistresses throughout all of time and history, virgins? a lot of times they were even older experienced women, like a courtesan or a widow. it is BETTER for inexperienced men to learn sex and how to deal with women from experienced women. stop worrying about being ""compared"", youre just going to dump her in a year or two anyway",,0,-Shes-A-Carnival,2024-01-03 14:28:08 +PurplePillDebate,18wbs6l,Was cold appraching more successful before social media and online dating became common?,"Cold approaching In this day in age is usually looked down upon and seen as awkward. Usually when you ask a girl out by cold approaching you get the typical ""I have a boyfriend"" response. Did they typically use that excuse back then as well? Im really curious to know if cold approaching was always this difficult.",,29,Trappedinthesystem,2024-01-02 00:41:48 PurplePillDebate,18wefdh,Discussion: Why is the % of men/women who have ever had a biological child so low and delayed? Is this a reflection of the changing dating market and sexual behaviour of people in USA?,"The CDC released a report for 2015-2019 in terms of the rates of parenting biological children by age and gender. What it found was that by the age of 40-49, around 84% of women have had at least one biological child whilst only 76.5% of men in that same age group had ever fathered a biological child. WHy is this number so low? I thought it was low sample size but they used tens of thousands of responses for the data which is a huge number. Also I cant help but notice that by the ages of 30-35, only around half of men ever fathered a child whilst more than 70% of women had. Isnt this like the prime childbearing age where most people have children? The number for men also jumps to 70% from 50% but that occurs in their late 30s. -This is all very confusing to me. I thought that more than 90% of people would have had children by their mid 30s. Why are these numbers so low? Does it reflect the fact that people dont want kids or something else such as a shifting dating culture. Only 3/4 men by their mid 40s will ever father a child which seems very low.",,19,Business_Window_6232,1704163482.0 +This is all very confusing to me. I thought that more than 90% of people would have had children by their mid 30s. Why are these numbers so low? Does it reflect the fact that people dont want kids or something else such as a shifting dating culture. Only 3/4 men by their mid 40s will ever father a child which seems very low.",,19,Business_Window_6232,2024-01-02 02:44:42 PurplePillDebate,18vz03s,Is casual sex worth the risk of herpes?,"I love sex and all, but if herpes were the only STD in the world, I still can't see how casual sex would be worth it. Find a flaw in the logic here please. Stat dump: 15% of people in the US have Herpes. They are contagious about 15% of the time (shedding). Condoms are only 65% effective against it. This brings the chance of infection from a ONE TIME HOOKUP to 1.5%. If it's a long term friend with benefits, you’re definitely getting it while they’re contagious so that person is a 15% chance of getting it. -How is the casual lifestyle worth the risk in any way? If you get it, asymptomatic or not, you’re screwing over tons of other people and yourself.",,7,TruthHurtsPal,1704123029.0 +How is the casual lifestyle worth the risk in any way? If you get it, asymptomatic or not, you’re screwing over tons of other people and yourself.",,7,TruthHurtsPal,2024-01-01 15:30:29 PurplePillDebate,18vwa6j,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -52243,22 +52243,22 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,10,AutoModerator,1704114020.0 -PurplePillDebate,18w98lz,Is there a double standard when it comes to women and men being single? Does one have it worse than the other?,I like to think men don't get judged as harsh but I think there's a lot of guys out there to who view being single as a deadly sin. I've heard stuff to like a single man over 35 has more value and a single women over 35 is becoming less valuable. Don't know how true that is. ,,0,spankyourkopita,1704149490.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,10,AutoModerator,2024-01-01 13:00:20 +PurplePillDebate,18w98lz,Is there a double standard when it comes to women and men being single? Does one have it worse than the other?,I like to think men don't get judged as harsh but I think there's a lot of guys out there to who view being single as a deadly sin. I've heard stuff to like a single man over 35 has more value and a single women over 35 is becoming less valuable. Don't know how true that is. ,,0,spankyourkopita,2024-01-01 22:51:30 PurplePillDebate,18vkg96,Why do feminists and red-pillers make it seem like it's either one extreme or the other when it comes to a woman having a career or a family?,"For instance, you hear a lot of feminists say ""be a boss babe and dedicate your life to career you don't need no man slay queen"". On the opposite side, you have a lot of red-pill men who say ""if women eventually want a husband and kids, they shouldn't try to pursue a career. Else no man is ever gonna want them"". Each of these statements seem somewhat ludicrous to me...why can't a woman have both a decent career and a desire to have a family? You can have a career without making it your whole life and personality...and there's also the fact that a lot of couples don't immediately start having kids straight after they get married. I guess what I'm trying to ask the men in the sub is this: For those of you that are more traditional minded, is it a turn-off if a girl has a career and is self-sufficient? I'm not talking about a girl whose all about her career. Just someone that has a job to sustain their life. -Me personally, I think it's super unrealistic to expect women to just not work and wait until a man comes to them. Particularly in the US, our economy and culture simply doesn't allow for that. Sure, if the girl was rich, she could maybe do it. But that just isn't possible for the majority of women. ",,29,No_Researcher_9726,1704067157.0 +Me personally, I think it's super unrealistic to expect women to just not work and wait until a man comes to them. Particularly in the US, our economy and culture simply doesn't allow for that. Sure, if the girl was rich, she could maybe do it. But that just isn't possible for the majority of women. ",,29,No_Researcher_9726,2023-12-31 23:59:17 PurplePillDebate,18vg91l,Do you that marriage is largely obsolete today now that social norms have been largely relaxed?,"So I personally don't think that marriage should be a legal institution at all, I really don't think that a person's relationship has any business to do with the government. I think the government should stay out of our lives and our bedrooms, and I don't think that it's really any concern of the state whether or not I marry somebody. So the legal aspect of marriage is pretty much bunk and has always been, but I'm talking more specifically about the social aspect of it. Back in the day, you could not reproduce without getting married, or else you were burned at the stake. Women literally were not allowed to leave their homes, and you had to go through the whole courting process and talking to her father and getting permission, everything was very socially rigid around that because marriage was more about families intermingling their wealth rather than love. It was a business transaction, you are exchanging an incubator that could give you Offspring in exchange for your wealth that would go to the father. One of the reasons why wedding rings started to exist was because they were a marker. If a woman had a wedding ring, she was owned by her husband, if she did not have a wedding ring she was owned by her father. It's kind of gross how we've Twisted it into being about romance these days when the origins of marriage are so cold and superficial. But society and general has become a lot more socially liberal since then, and people regularly have kids before marriage and have sex before marriage, so from a social standpoint unless you're very religious, I just don't think that marriage really means anything these days. It's certainly doesn't give your relationship more legitimacy, whatever that means. -I'd like to get people's thoughts down below, do you think that marriage has a place in society today, or do you think that through our more liberal social ideas that we've kind of made marriage obsolete?",,34,Tripp_583,1704054181.0 +I'd like to get people's thoughts down below, do you think that marriage has a place in society today, or do you think that through our more liberal social ideas that we've kind of made marriage obsolete?",,34,Tripp_583,2023-12-31 20:23:01 PurplePillDebate,18vci3c,Double standard with “bum partners”?,"It’s a common gripe to hear women talking about how after a getting married or being in a LTR for a while, their partner lets himself go, becomes lazy, stops making an effort in their appearance, just becomes a total bum, the woman rightfully loses attracted and enthusiasm, and gives the man an ultimatum or ends the marriage or relationship. She is seen as the victim in this case by those around her. When the tables are turned and the woman is the one becomes the bum, there’s always an excuse other than “she became a bum”. “Maybe she’s depressed”, “why don’t you appreciate the things she does do”, “why did you get with her then… you knew what you were getting into” @@ -52269,21 +52269,21 @@ On the topic of depression since it is worth discussing: - I have seen cases around me where when the woman is the “bum”, those around the couple insist she must be depressed but when the man confronts the woman about it, she assures him she’s not depressed but those around them assure him she must be denying it and if not, it must be due to a range of complexities besides pure laziness -Is this purely anecdotal in my circle or does this double standard actually exist? If so, why?",,50,standardissuegerbil,1704043532.0 +Is this purely anecdotal in my circle or does this double standard actually exist? If so, why?",,50,standardissuegerbil,2023-12-31 17:25:32 PurplePillDebate,18vx4gy,Do you feel like the sexual revolution benefits men more than women?,"Do you feel like the sexual revolution and hookup culture was supposed to create equality between the sexes and eliminate stigmas, but ended up mostly benefiting men and letting them off the hook from needing to commit or grow as a person to get sex? I’m curious on your views -Thanks for your input",,0,d4rkw3b5,1704116995.0 +Thanks for your input",,0,d4rkw3b5,2024-01-01 13:49:55 PurplePillDebate,18vbbtq,"How low would autistic guys have to set their standards, if women only date up?","It seems that autistic women go for NT men all the time here according to other autistic guys, so if this is true, and it's almost impossible for autistic guys to get an autistic gf as a result, how low would they have to lower their standards? For example, I know an autistic guy who's wife is in a wheelchair. Not that there's anything wrong with that of course, but I mean that's an example, since most NT guys would date an autistic woman, but they would not compromise on it if the woman cannot walk. That's just one example, but does an example like this show that autistic guys will have more success if they lowered their standards a lot more? Or have most already lowered their standards as far as they can pretty much go, but still no success for most, unfortunately? -",,51,harmonica2,1704040278.0 +",,51,harmonica2,2023-12-31 16:31:18 PurplePillDebate,18vd43g,Has intelligence become less valuable in todays dating society?,"From what I’ve noticed way too many people nowadays can make success in other means beyond education in which was what primarily required education to flourish. -Women particularly want to date for fun or experience rather than security. It makes me wonder if it’s as important nowadays as compared to looks money and status.",,37,MajesticRate1818,1704045278.0 +Women particularly want to date for fun or experience rather than security. It makes me wonder if it’s as important nowadays as compared to looks money and status.",,37,MajesticRate1818,2023-12-31 17:54:38 PurplePillDebate,18wblmh,"Reproducing older is creating a generation of disabled kids, and it is morally abhorrent","Both men and women [reproducing in older ages](https://www.spectrumnews.org/news/link-parental-age-autism-explained/) contribute to a huge percent of kids being autistic. There is virtually no way to know at pregnancy if a kid will be autistic, so there is no way to abort the baby before that. In 2000, 1 in 150 kids were autistic... fast forward in 2020, 1 in 36 is. This is a disaster, an epidemic. @@ -52292,14 +52292,14 @@ These kids will never contribute enough to society, they will create a load to s Why? Only because a few people were selfish enough to have kids over 35. -[https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/autism/data.html](https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/autism/data.html)",,0,EuphoricBrightTipper,1704155629.0 +[https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/autism/data.html](https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/autism/data.html)",,0,EuphoricBrightTipper,2024-01-02 00:33:49 PurplePillDebate,18vi4f7,Why would conservative women be more happy ?,"Why would conservative women be more happy, if they have fully internalized and accepted that their role is to be subservient to men, and to always put their needs last in constrast to their husband's needs always being first ? Why would conservative women be more happy, if they reject divorce no matter how much they are mistreated in their relationships emotionally and physicially, all for the sake of preserving the happy family image they to cast on to the external world ? Why would conservative women be more happy, if they are more likely to never confront the misogyny in their surrounding that's constantly and endlessly drilled into them no matter how much it breaks them to do so ? -I personally see no reason for why conservative women would be happier and less likely to exhibit mental illness symptoms than their non-conservative counterparts if the formers have to resign to accepting all of the self-deprecating non-sense the latter would reject without hesitation. Other than maybe conservative women not being upfront about how tormented they are and being less likely to seek therapy.",,5,shedernatinus,1704059746.0 +I personally see no reason for why conservative women would be happier and less likely to exhibit mental illness symptoms than their non-conservative counterparts if the formers have to resign to accepting all of the self-deprecating non-sense the latter would reject without hesitation. Other than maybe conservative women not being upfront about how tormented they are and being less likely to seek therapy.",,5,shedernatinus,2023-12-31 21:55:46 PurplePillDebate,18uvm7v,All evidence suggests that people prefer a bad relationship to loneliness,"It is almost a mantra to say that ""It is better to be alone than with someone you don't love"". Sure, I get it makes no much sense to be with someone abusive, but clearly many people choose relationships even if there is no love, and rather prefer to stay in some kind of relationship than deal with loneliness. Some examples: @@ -52308,12 +52308,12 @@ Some examples: 2. Plenty of men don't love their wives but still prefer to stay, which may explain why women are the ones that ask for divorce the most. In any case, it seems plenty of people, usually men, prefer a loveless marriage than loneliness. 3. There is social status in being married or being in a relationship. You are also invited and welcome to wider social activities, you have more friends by extension, etc. This is why women often lie about having a boyfriend (that is a fuckboy with multiple women) and why men get depressed after breakups. 4. Plenty of people remain in abusive relationship or stay attached to abusive partners. Sure, you may explain this on trauma or brainwashing, but at the end it seems that they do prefer that over being alone. -5. Plenty of women want relationships but cannot get them, so they use hook ups as a replacement for them, to deal with loneliness.",,63,EuphoricBrightTipper,1703985820.0 +5. Plenty of women want relationships but cannot get them, so they use hook ups as a replacement for them, to deal with loneliness.",,63,EuphoricBrightTipper,2023-12-31 01:23:40 PurplePillDebate,18v3qk4,How comfortable are you dating someone that uses drugs?,"Apart from alcohol? I'm in my 20s a fair amount of my workmates use drugs (20s to 40s). The most commonly used illicit drugs are cannabis, ecstasy, and cocaine. I've asked this question a few times on a womens subs and the majority of the answers were no. I was surprised at that given the demographics of the site (mostly young people). -&#x200B;",,12,laoisekeys,1704012951.0 +&#x200B;",,12,laoisekeys,2023-12-31 08:55:51 PurplePillDebate,18uz1jl,Women suffer from oneitis at least as much as men in my experience,"and for one reason or another it's generally considered a lot less creepy and shameful. In fact I would say it's worse in women's cases purely because most women have far more suitors than most men do, so to that end it makes more sense why a man might become obsessed with a woman who has shown interest in him (which isn't to say that it's a reasonable response but it's more understandable) @@ -52326,7 +52326,7 @@ It always staggers me how such women who have endless options end up getting tun Maybe there's a sociological cause as women still fight the stigma of being devalued for their promiscuity which makes them more inclined to focus on one guy at a time? -I hate to make generalizations because this sort of thing is very individualized but I've noticed that men are often accused of succumbing to oneitis more than women, but I believe this is bullshit, and the nature of the obsession isn't generally any more extreme or creepy either. ",,26,StaticNocturne,1703996085.0 +I hate to make generalizations because this sort of thing is very individualized but I've noticed that men are often accused of succumbing to oneitis more than women, but I believe this is bullshit, and the nature of the obsession isn't generally any more extreme or creepy either. ",,26,StaticNocturne,2023-12-31 04:14:45 PurplePillDebate,18v6dck,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -52345,7 +52345,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,5,AutoModerator,1704024014.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,5,AutoModerator,2023-12-31 12:00:14 PurplePillDebate,18usse2,"One of the biggest miscommunications between men and women is that when a man expresses emotional and sexual interest in a woman, the women assumes he ONLY wants sex.","Emotional attraction and sexual attraction aren't mutually exclusive, but a lot of women seem to think so. No matter how carefully or politely a guy brings up the topic of sex or physical attraction when dating, there's a chance the woman is going to accuse the guy of seeing her as a sex object. @@ -52354,7 +52354,7 @@ Most men want both an emotional and sexual connection with a woman, but when for And men shouldn't have to feel like they need to continously sweep a woman off her feet with romantic gestures and wait until she brings up the topic of sex and never even think of sex until she does. Sexual compatibility is important in any relationship and should be brought up fairly early on. -And even on a more casual basis, if a guy says something like ""X celeb is really hot"" a lot of woman automatically assume that he thinks she's dumb and/or has zero personality. But that's almost never the case.",,51,LogicalLetterhead272,1703978212.0 +And even on a more casual basis, if a guy says something like ""X celeb is really hot"" a lot of woman automatically assume that he thinks she's dumb and/or has zero personality. But that's almost never the case.",,51,LogicalLetterhead272,2023-12-30 23:16:52 PurplePillDebate,18uw6ng,"To women who have had both casual flings and longer-term partners, did your attraction to your long-term partners ever match up to your visceral lust for your flings?","This is for women who have been with guys in both casual and longer-term relationships. With respect to you hook-ups vs. those with whom you had longer relationships (excluding hook ups who later converted to LTR), was your visceral attraction for those you had longer term relationships with ever on par with the initial visceral attraction you had for your short term partners? @@ -52365,7 +52365,7 @@ I ask this because a frequent anxiety among men below the attractiveness thresho The more average, less sexually fortunate men are often concerned they are a de-facto emotional/financial support offering to a girl who has ""had her fun"". They worry that in their relationship, in contrast to the girl's short-term flings, or the relationship of a hookup turned LTR, there will be less frequent sexual initiation, less passionate sex and foreplay, less of a ""sexual charge"" in conversations and interactions, less exciting/varied sex and a higher chance of an eventual ""dead bedroom"" (i.e. periods of no sex for one month or more barring extenuating circumstances). -It would be very helpful for men who believe this to hear a genuine, non-shaming or manipulative rebuttal that properly articulates how a woman's sexuality could reasonably not follow this pattern, which seems to be a frequently observed issue in a number of failed relationships where it turns out the girl was never really that into the guy on a sexual level.",,17,Last-Associate6971,1703987412.0 +It would be very helpful for men who believe this to hear a genuine, non-shaming or manipulative rebuttal that properly articulates how a woman's sexuality could reasonably not follow this pattern, which seems to be a frequently observed issue in a number of failed relationships where it turns out the girl was never really that into the guy on a sexual level.",,17,Last-Associate6971,2023-12-31 01:50:12 PurplePillDebate,18uenoe,Why are people only inquisitive when women fall short?,"I've seen it in real life and constantly on this website. If a woman fails, whether in her career, family, friendships or anything really, society really wants to start asking questions. What's going on with her work/home life? @@ -52386,12 +52386,12 @@ The list goes on and on. But what I do not see, is ANY of this when a man fails. &#x200B; -Why is this? I assume it's because men are just expected to be more accountable but I'm curious if there is a more reasonable/progressive justification.",,88,Im_Unsure_For_Sure,1703939468.0 +Why is this? I assume it's because men are just expected to be more accountable but I'm curious if there is a more reasonable/progressive justification.",,88,Im_Unsure_For_Sure,2023-12-30 12:31:08 PurplePillDebate,18unlic,Would many men still remain anti marriage if new laws were created by getting a divorce harder and abolishing alimony except in truly legitimate cases?,"If new laws were created treating marriage more ""serious"" and preventing people( mainly women because they iniate around 70% of all divorces) of asking for a divorce for any silly reason rather a mature reason( example of a silly reason for a divorce in my opinion is ""my husband has lower sex drive than me"" but a mature and a smart reason a divorce would be "" my husband or wife beat me up and I'm a victim of domestic violence""), would men feel ""safer"" to want to get marriage since women would have less ""power"" to get a divorce? Also many women marry to get money or for finantial security rather than the legitimate reason which is love ( men are less likely to be gold diggers) and many women marry thinking that if they seek a divorce they will get a easily monthly income named alimomy and half of his assets. If law evolved by making alimony an exceptal thing apart from cases that really make sense ( for example a rich guy or woman marry a much poorer person or the ex have already a certain age or a certain condition that make them harder to get a job). In fact I'm not against alimony but it should be only paid if the ex really need it. -Many men complain that women are gold diggers and they don't marry for love but marry for finantial and material gains. If divorce was more seriously regulated would most guys want to get married?",,26,sabrynekrystal1992,1703964759.0 +Many men complain that women are gold diggers and they don't marry for love but marry for finantial and material gains. If divorce was more seriously regulated would most guys want to get married?",,26,sabrynekrystal1992,2023-12-30 19:32:39 PurplePillDebate,18uhk7u,"Q4W: Why is there a ""Fear of crime gender paradox""?","Men are less fearful of violent crime than women despite being at much higher risk of violent crime than women. This phenomenon is termed by researchers as the ""fear of crime gender paradox""¹ because it's irrational. I personally think this is due to 3 main reasons: 1. The threat of sexual violence is way higher for us than for males - some would rather die than be raepd @@ -52404,7 +52404,7 @@ I think because of these 3 things (primarily) our minds are warped into being mo 👉 What are your thoughts on my hypothesis or on this paradox? Do you think fear should be commensurate with reality? -[1] Noon, Michelle (2018). Exploring the fear of crime gender paradox using quasi-experimental methods (PDF) (PhD). Swinburne University of Technology",,31,Windmill_flowers,1703948684.0 +[1] Noon, Michelle (2018). Exploring the fear of crime gender paradox using quasi-experimental methods (PDF) (PhD). Swinburne University of Technology",,31,Windmill_flowers,2023-12-30 15:04:44 PurplePillDebate,18ue4fh,Are young adults infantilized? How does this affect dating?,"I saw a post on Twitter saying something like ""25 yo are still too young to have kids"". What's crazy is that my parents had me when they were 30 and back in the 80s they were considered on the older side as far as parents go...Most of my classmates' parents had them in their mid 20s. Nowadays in the big cities most people don't have kids until they're like 33. Another thing I've noticed is the demonization of small age gaps. I am not talking about like 20 years, but I have seen zoomers say that 5 years between adults is weird. for example if a 28 up dates a 23 yo, the 28 yo is called a creep because apparently people become adults at 25 when the brain fully develops. @@ -52417,8 +52417,8 @@ Moreover, according to this study, 50% of men ages 18-20 are virgins. Even if we And yes being a late bloomer especially as a man can be a bad thing. Not only do these men often develop a weird complex when it comes to women, but women their age are likely to be weirded out if they hear a man is still a virgin in his 20s and this lowers their chances to find a relationship even more. -My guess is that we have seen nothing yet . Marriage rates will hit a new low within the next 15 years. AI girlfriends/boyfriends will be a huge thing. Sex will be seen as a gross act like in Demolition Man and only immigrants will have kids.",,48,Novel-Tip-7570,1703937542.0 -PurplePillDebate,18unbbg,"Uncomfortable Red Pill Facts, yes from multiple studies, For Women. Ladies please explain!","The women on this reddit love to crap all over the so called red pill. Even though there is a wide range of redpill content and beliefs that not even all the red pill content creators come close to agreeing on. There are plenty of red pill creators that believe men and women belong together. All that is neither here nor there. What I want is for some level headed logical woman to explain to me why women only swipe right on 4-6 percent of male profiles on dating apps, and it doesnt seem to change much regardless of the woman's attractiveness level meaning an unattractive woman is swiping on the same profiles as the most attractive women, and why multiple studies show that women believe roughly 85% of the men they view on the apps are average or below average attractiveness wise. Meanwhile these same studies show men swipe on 40-60% of female profles and rate women on attractiveness on a fair bell curve. Are all our profiles still terrible? I feel like thats the usual response. Studies all flawed? Even though a lot of these are done by the dating apps/websites themselves or legitimate social scientists/researchers. Instruct this poor red pilled cretin!",,11,Reasonable-Cookie783,1703964041.0 +My guess is that we have seen nothing yet . Marriage rates will hit a new low within the next 15 years. AI girlfriends/boyfriends will be a huge thing. Sex will be seen as a gross act like in Demolition Man and only immigrants will have kids.",,48,Novel-Tip-7570,2023-12-30 11:59:02 +PurplePillDebate,18unbbg,"Uncomfortable Red Pill Facts, yes from multiple studies, For Women. Ladies please explain!","The women on this reddit love to crap all over the so called red pill. Even though there is a wide range of redpill content and beliefs that not even all the red pill content creators come close to agreeing on. There are plenty of red pill creators that believe men and women belong together. All that is neither here nor there. What I want is for some level headed logical woman to explain to me why women only swipe right on 4-6 percent of male profiles on dating apps, and it doesnt seem to change much regardless of the woman's attractiveness level meaning an unattractive woman is swiping on the same profiles as the most attractive women, and why multiple studies show that women believe roughly 85% of the men they view on the apps are average or below average attractiveness wise. Meanwhile these same studies show men swipe on 40-60% of female profles and rate women on attractiveness on a fair bell curve. Are all our profiles still terrible? I feel like thats the usual response. Studies all flawed? Even though a lot of these are done by the dating apps/websites themselves or legitimate social scientists/researchers. Instruct this poor red pilled cretin!",,11,Reasonable-Cookie783,2023-12-30 19:20:41 PurplePillDebate,18ul706,Should people only date within their leagues or is that unrealistic?,"There are posts on here about how people do not like if autistic people are dating non-autistic because then autistic people do not have as much of a chance. @@ -52438,7 +52438,7 @@ Or should we shame a person for dating someone outside of their age range becaus Or should we 'fat shame' someone, for dating someone who is thin, and calling them a sell out for doing so, etc? -Or is it unrealistic that people can always find happiness if they stick to their own leagues, and therefore, people need to embrace differences when dating because that is the only way we are going to find our special someone?",,9,harmonica2,1703958533.0 +Or is it unrealistic that people can always find happiness if they stick to their own leagues, and therefore, people need to embrace differences when dating because that is the only way we are going to find our special someone?",,9,harmonica2,2023-12-30 17:48:53 PurplePillDebate,18urhlk,Is it worth it dating a super hot girl?,"\- She will have the power of being able to bed a super handsome man instantly. Causing her to try to dominate me or be less forgiving \- The men she will get attention from will make her feel tempted to cheat @@ -52449,29 +52449,29 @@ PurplePillDebate,18urhlk,Is it worth it dating a super hot girl?,"\- She will ha &#x200B; -I don't care if other men try to talk to her. It is up to her to not reply to them. So other men are not a concern to me",,4,Consistent-Gur6932,1703974882.0 +I don't care if other men try to talk to her. It is up to her to not reply to them. So other men are not a concern to me",,4,Consistent-Gur6932,2023-12-30 22:21:22 PurplePillDebate,18ue23v,Dating vs Marriage,"I’ve been around long enough that many of my peers have been divorced, and many are on 2nd+ marriages. One thing all these relationships have had in common is that things were fantastic when both parties could end the relationship and walk away with what they brought in. People tend to be on their best behavior in that scenario. When commitment is made and one party has significantly more to lose, issues seem to start to arise, and the relationship becomes unbalanced. Sex, which was once enjoyed freely together often becomes weaponized for example. Having observed this many times over, I have to admit that as a successful man in today’s society, I simply see massive benefits to keeping a relationship equal(both parties walk away cleanly) rather than entering a contract where the other party is rewarded if the relationship is ended. -Interested in hearing your thoughts?",,27,Ylduts,1703937285.0 +Interested in hearing your thoughts?",,27,Ylduts,2023-12-30 11:54:45 PurplePillDebate,18v63ig,"Nobody ever died from the house not being perfectly clean and tidy all the time, yet women's complaints that the man doesn't help around the house enough are taken super seriously, but a man is called a selfish asshole if he complains about lack of sex","""No-one died from lack of sex"", well no-one died from an untidy house either. I am not saying it's right to be a slob, but I have noticed that if a woman complains on reddit about how the man isn't helping enough with the chores, people take what she says super seriously. But if a man complains about lack of sex he's called a pig and it's assumed everything is his fault. There are people right now, even with kids, who live in messy houses, are perfectly happy with the mess and do chores only once a week. Guess what, nobody died from this even if it's not ideal. -I am not saying you should live like a slob, but why is it perfectly acceptable to stop having sex with your spouse? There are studies that show that sex is associated with better health outcomes and better psychology. The idea that sex is not important is BS, it clearly is important for many people.",,0,Novel-Tip-7570,1704022860.0 +I am not saying you should live like a slob, but why is it perfectly acceptable to stop having sex with your spouse? There are studies that show that sex is associated with better health outcomes and better psychology. The idea that sex is not important is BS, it clearly is important for many people.",,0,Novel-Tip-7570,2023-12-31 11:41:00 PurplePillDebate,18uk3zv,LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD,"&#x200B; [Please Join Us on Discord!](https://discord.gg/3aHh4trC7B) Include your reddit username, pill color, age and gender when you arrive in the welcome mat to introduce yourself and help people get to know you. &#x200B; -You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,9,AutoModerator,1703955684.0 +You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,9,AutoModerator,2023-12-30 17:01:24 PurplePillDebate,18u1bcx,If a man is a late bloomer wouldn’t it be more natural for him to date down in age to where he would be more likely to find someone closer to him experience wise?,"Like a woman who’s dated around for a decade isn’t a good match for a guy who just found his feet. These people would have very little in common beyond their age and besides she’d most likely not even want to date someone who doesn’t match her experience, not in a genuine fashion anyway. -So if let’s say you’re an inexperienced 27 year old guy, isn’t an 19 year old inexperienced girl going to be more compatible with you than a 27 year old very experienced girl?",,106,Pizzashillsmom,1703894108.0 +So if let’s say you’re an inexperienced 27 year old guy, isn’t an 19 year old inexperienced girl going to be more compatible with you than a 27 year old very experienced girl?",,106,Pizzashillsmom,2023-12-29 23:55:08 PurplePillDebate,18ud6uc,"The concept of ""dating"" and having healthy relationships cannot co-exist","""Dating"" is a very American concept, especially for adults in their 20s, 30s and 40s. Having multiple partners, and so many options continuously makes both men and women less tolerant, more picky, more jaded and more damaged when it comes to being committed. @@ -52480,7 +52480,7 @@ Countries that have healthy male-female dynamics generally do not have a heavy " Americans want healthy male-female dynamics and non jaded, non judgemental, non picky men and women but also want a plentiful ""dating scene"" for all ages. -You can't have both. ",,5,[deleted],1703933797.0 +You can't have both. ",,5,[deleted],2023-12-30 10:56:37 PurplePillDebate,18tnyid,Everything about the current dating scene makes it far more likely for sexually successful men to become unempathetic and leave women emotionally hurt," As a man who is above average height and looks so can truly see how being nice vs being selfish /fuckboy affects treatment. There is simply no reason to be selfless at best it’s neutral (rarely), most of the time you are pegged as a weak man and mistreated. @@ -52514,13 +52514,13 @@ I admit it hurts me as a guy seeing how I have to sit there and listen to a perf I think people would be surprised by how many “unempathetic” and “emotionally distant” bad boys started out as selfless men who were extremely romantic and wanted to always give love but found they only got far more occurrences of ill treatment, disrespect and loss of attraction. I admit there were rare cases where I attracted a woman by being as truly loving and selfless as possible but it was far outweighed by negatives, it’s not worth the effort. -My final point. It makes no sense for women to complain about men being emotionally distant and engaging in emotionally hurtful behaviours when that is what is rewarded. Being selfless and kind is evokes revulsion in women. Nothing makes you feel uglier than the look or a woman degrading you when you were only kind. Whereas being a bad boy, women always act right and will constantly try and please you, they’ll fall in line to feel less than you and seek your approval.",,161,Xx-Apatheticjaws-xX,1703859016.0 -PurplePillDebate,18v0n8j,Can a person's sexual body parts be complimented in a non-sexual way?,"For example, it is taken as an offence if a guy tells a girl that she has nice boobs. However, men would take a bulge compliment cheerfully. But both scenarios have sexual overtones. This creates the question: can you see breasts, buttocks, penises and just admire the beauty of them, not sexually? Would we ever live in a society where this is possible?",,0,mortblanc,1704001294.0 +My final point. It makes no sense for women to complain about men being emotionally distant and engaging in emotionally hurtful behaviours when that is what is rewarded. Being selfless and kind is evokes revulsion in women. Nothing makes you feel uglier than the look or a woman degrading you when you were only kind. Whereas being a bad boy, women always act right and will constantly try and please you, they’ll fall in line to feel less than you and seek your approval.",,161,Xx-Apatheticjaws-xX,2023-12-29 14:10:16 +PurplePillDebate,18v0n8j,Can a person's sexual body parts be complimented in a non-sexual way?,"For example, it is taken as an offence if a guy tells a girl that she has nice boobs. However, men would take a bulge compliment cheerfully. But both scenarios have sexual overtones. This creates the question: can you see breasts, buttocks, penises and just admire the beauty of them, not sexually? Would we ever live in a society where this is possible?",,0,mortblanc,2023-12-31 05:41:34 PurplePillDebate,18tmc2b,Have any of the men here just stopped bothering with dating?,"I see this in some of my friends, and also in myself. Dating is (especially as an ND person) extremely mentally and emotionally taxing. There is little payoff and high risk in terms of falling in love then getting hurt. I have plenty of female friends and acquaintances whom I value and enjoy spending time with, before anyone pulls the misogyny card. Perhaps this is a modern thing, but I don't think so- the Romans were making laws trying to encourage marriage 2000 years ago. I'm curious to get any information from other men about this. -Please note, this is not a request for personal advice and support- I am just including this information for the purposes of being truthful: I'm 20 and I work/study full time as well as practicing a combat sport pretty intensely; so it's not like I'm old or asocial.",,139,[deleted],1703853873.0 +Please note, this is not a request for personal advice and support- I am just including this information for the purposes of being truthful: I'm 20 and I work/study full time as well as practicing a combat sport pretty intensely; so it's not like I'm old or asocial.",,139,[deleted],2023-12-29 12:44:33 PurplePillDebate,18ud8yp,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -52539,7 +52539,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,2,AutoModerator,1703934033.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,2,AutoModerator,2023-12-30 11:00:33 PurplePillDebate,18u2ibt,General discussion regarding Red Pill Men,"Hello, I need to clarify that I am relatively new to Reddit and especially this side of reddit but this subreddit has peaked my interest and I've created an alt hoping to have a decent discussion. I plan to discuss a few common points I see by Red Pill Men; from the POV of another man, it's mostly directed to men who 'have taken the red pill"". Just my background; I'm currently a lawyer and in law school I did an extensive study on feminism during Jurisprudence studies. @@ -52567,7 +52567,7 @@ Lastly point 3). The same men who claim they've 'given up' still for some odd re And I have a side question for this discussion; specifically aimed at people who's never been in a relationship. Do you think if you manage to get into a relationship/have sex your entire life will be fixed overnight? Why whenever I read Red Pill Men complain about never being given a chance; it sounds like if they got into a relationship or lost their virginity it would solve everything in their life? You do know if you build it up so high in your head you'll eventually be disappointed when it happens, which then becomes a vicious cycle of just hating women for some unrealistic expectations you built up yourself. -TL:DR: Being Red Pill just sounds like you're being a hypocrite on 'standards', or you've just admitted you've given up but still expect women to give you a chance.",,7,Due-Ruin6119,1703897375.0 +TL:DR: Being Red Pill just sounds like you're being a hypocrite on 'standards', or you've just admitted you've given up but still expect women to give you a chance.",,7,Due-Ruin6119,2023-12-30 00:49:35 PurplePillDebate,18tqvod,"Do men feel ""threatened"" when a more attractive male enters the room?","I read this study about how women treat other women (that they don't know) poorly if she's more attractive. Ostensibly because they feel ""threatened"". (I have been trying to check myself to make sure I don't subconsciously do this to other women) https://www.nytimes.com/2013/11/19/science/a-cold-war-fought-by-women.html @@ -52576,14 +52576,14 @@ The article is fascinating! 👉My question, is it similar for males? -It might be difficult to answer because if I were just presenting with this question, I'd be like, *""No way, women don't do that! I personally would never do that, nor my friends!""* But the women who conducted this study are PhDs, so this isn't some fresh-n-fit broscience BS.",,33,Windmill_flowers,1703866946.0 +It might be difficult to answer because if I were just presenting with this question, I'd be like, *""No way, women don't do that! I personally would never do that, nor my friends!""* But the women who conducted this study are PhDs, so this isn't some fresh-n-fit broscience BS.",,33,Windmill_flowers,2023-12-29 16:22:26 PurplePillDebate,18tjwuu,Men need to stop jumping through hoops for women and stroking their egos just to get laid and get validation.,"I understand why men do this. They cater to women, play the roles expected of them by women and constantly flatter them and stroke their egos because it helps them get laid. But all this ultimately not only amounts to nothing in the end, but it also increases the entitlement and self-centeredness that many women (not all, but many) have. It also oversaturates the dating world with men who don't really know their value and will basically do anything to get laid, which means women begin to have absurd ""standards"" when it comes to men because they essentially want to be put on a pedestal and expect men to simp for them, like many men already do. Men need to also stop paying for dates like women expect them to do. It's 2023, women have jobs and can afford to pay for their own food. Paying for them only increases the entitlement and ego to the point where many women actually find it to be turn off when they have to pay for their own food, which is ridiculous. But men put up with this nonsense just to get sex and validation from women who don't even value them enough to pay for their own food. Not only that, but women care so little for men that not paying decreases the man's chances of a second date or of getting laid, which is actually a sad commentary on women. And yet men jump through hoops for these women. Unfortunately, none of this will change unless men stop pandering and catering to women, and caring so much about getting laid that they throw self-respect out of the window. -&#x200B;",,80,Agreeable-Moment-760,1703844782.0 +&#x200B;",,80,Agreeable-Moment-760,2023-12-29 10:13:02 PurplePillDebate,18twzh7,Where do these things fall in priority to you?,"Simple question just State your gender and age and rank these things accordingy in terms of what you look for in a serious/long-term significant other. 1. Career @@ -52598,7 +52598,7 @@ PurplePillDebate,18twzh7,Where do these things fall in priority to you?,"Simple -Me personally 38 yo M, it goes: 7, 4, 6, 9, 8, 5, 1, 3, 2",,9,McTitty3000,1703882748.0 +Me personally 38 yo M, it goes: 7, 4, 6, 9, 8, 5, 1, 3, 2",,9,McTitty3000,2023-12-29 20:45:48 PurplePillDebate,18u2btt,Is hookup culture accessible to teetotalers?,"I have no doubt in my mind that it is possible for sober men to pick up women. Is it a hurdle or actually a benefit, that’s debatable, but nothing that can be overcome with practice. The issue is that most of the time, this happens in bars or parties where the women are doing some amount of drinking, or daygame where you’re not trying to escalate to sex right away, just escalate to a date later where alcohol will be present and then sex will come into play. It all assumes and needs the other person to be drinking, if not necessarily you, and that’s where the issue is. @@ -52608,14 +52608,14 @@ I believe, as a nondrinker, drinkers are fundamentally unavailable for you to co So that would leave only sober women available for the man. Casual sex is a bigger moral jump than drinking- there’s plenty of people who will drink but not have casual sex, but the overwhelming majority of nondrinkers are not willing to have casual sex (the whole squares vs. rectangles thing). If you are required to pursue nondrinkers, this eliminates almost the entirety of the market out there. Actually, there never was a market for you. Two sober people engaging in casual sex just doesn’t happen. -For a sober man trying to engage in hookup culture, the hurdles are not in his performance, or even necessarily on the availability of sober women, the hurdles are the rules of the game itself. ",,4,Infamous-Classroom82,1703896850.0 +For a sober man trying to engage in hookup culture, the hurdles are not in his performance, or even necessarily on the availability of sober women, the hurdles are the rules of the game itself. ",,4,Infamous-Classroom82,2023-12-30 00:40:50 PurplePillDebate,18tpetz,Should people just give up and learn to be happy alone?,"And I don't mean this in terms of ""learn to be happy alone and wait for romance to come by chance."" I mean genuinely give up, and even if someone approaches you, just reject them. I say this because people talk all the time about how difficult and frustrating dating is, and then also go on to talk about how difficult and frustrating even maintaining a relationship is. Which makes me wonder, what's actually the point of it all then? If the whole thing is so difficult, just to achieve something that's frustrating and unfullfilling, what's the point? Especially if it's possible to be happy alone? Which then brings up the question of whether it's even possible to be happy alone? Do people keep searching for this mythical ""good relationship"" because happiness when alone is impossible? Which makes sense because there's endless studies showing how dangerous loneliness is both for your mental health, but also your physical health. But also those studies are looking at ""loneliness"" and not ""being alone"". Someone can feel lonely whilst having a loving family, wife/husband, kids, and friends, whereas someone can feel belonging whilst having no family, no romantic relationship, no kids, and no friends, just because they fill their time with solitary activities that they find so enjoying that they don't need or want to be around other people. Obviously on a societal scale, people need to reproduce to sustain the population, but I'm mainly talking about in terms of individual fullfillment. -I'm quite undecided on the topic, so I'd like to hear other's opinions.",,16,SmoothForest,1703863089.0 +I'm quite undecided on the topic, so I'd like to hear other's opinions.",,16,SmoothForest,2023-12-29 15:18:09 PurplePillDebate,18u35us,Q4W: Would you want your son/hypothetical son to have children?,"Yes or No? And if yes, would you want him to have his biological children or adopted children/children from a woman's previous relationships? @@ -52623,32 +52623,32 @@ And if yes, would you want him to have his biological children or adopted childr EDIT: you dont need to consider whether your son wants them or not, for this question. This is purely about your own desires. EDIT 2: treat this question as a yes or no question. Or like a poll question. You dont need to consider a 100 other factors relating to your son's wishes, your sons partner, the couple's goals, the childs well being, their financial situation etc etc. That isnt the focus of the question. This is purely about your own desires. Its only that. Part 1: do you want your son/ hypothetical son to have kids , yes or no. -Part 2: if yes, do you want them to be his biological kids? Yes or no.",,2,Tight-Breeder,1703899207.0 +Part 2: if yes, do you want them to be his biological kids? Yes or no.",,2,Tight-Breeder,2023-12-30 01:20:07 PurplePillDebate,18tqlod,"Do you think older, single, childless, ""cat ladies"" are largely happy or not?","Regarding the ""cat lady"" phenomenon, my personal opinion is that since women are significantly more social than men are, they are likely to suffer more without close relationships and bonds with others. This doesn't necessarily have to come in the form of a husband but it is the most consistent option. Friends and siblings can easily grow distant due to relocation, since I think it's very rare in western cultures for adult friends/siblings to make an effort to stay close to one another. And also, if they start families of their own will have less time to spend with you and are more likely to hang out with other families, even if they're still geographically close. Of course I don't have a crystal ball and I think some masculinity influencers who claim that cat ladies are/will be miserable are overconfident in their assumptions. -But this is a fairly recent phenomenon and these women are really pioneers, and it will be interesting to see how they turn out. If anyone has data on mental health and psychiatric drug use for this demographic I would love to see it.",,11,8mm_Magnum_Cumshot,1703866215.0 +But this is a fairly recent phenomenon and these women are really pioneers, and it will be interesting to see how they turn out. If anyone has data on mental health and psychiatric drug use for this demographic I would love to see it.",,11,8mm_Magnum_Cumshot,2023-12-29 16:10:15 PurplePillDebate,18u19vw,CMV: I think most of TRP tenets apply to American women only,"I get this feeling that the postulates of the red pill only apply to American women, which seem to be sluttier and less traditional than women in third world countries. -For the record I love America though, I admire many things about their culture (particularly their traditions of individualism, gun ownership and opposition to big governments), but I think their women have a serious problem that doesn't seem to be there in other places.",,3,SevereStreet8582,1703893992.0 +For the record I love America though, I admire many things about their culture (particularly their traditions of individualism, gun ownership and opposition to big governments), but I think their women have a serious problem that doesn't seem to be there in other places.",,3,SevereStreet8582,2023-12-29 23:53:12 PurplePillDebate,18tvx1h,"Women who go to dance clubs, how often do you and your friends end up meeting and hanging out with other groups of women you didnt know before?","Lots of women, especially young women, enjoy the clubbing experience. One thing I've noticed, though, is that groups of women tend to stick to themselves when they are at the club, unless they end up mingling with a group of guys and sort of hanging out for rhe night. Usually, one or two guys approach/hit on one or two of the women and this pushes both groups together for a while (the guys and women who are less apt to approach sort of follow the lead of their more outgoing friends they came with). So, my question is how often do different groups of girls who weren't already friends or acquinted end up mingling and dancing with each other? Do groups of women kind of avoid each other? -I think men tend to stick to their group when clubbing or bar hopping, but I have seen exception.",,2,PrecisionHat,1703880012.0 +I think men tend to stick to their group when clubbing or bar hopping, but I have seen exception.",,2,PrecisionHat,2023-12-29 20:00:12 PurplePillDebate,18t9c5h,Why do women pick the worst partners?,"In all of my life's experience I always hear about women getting into abusive relationships. They seem to rather pick the normie abusive ones instead of the weird quiet ones. It makes me think they like the abuse. -They have the power feminist imbued into them so why don't they use it to leave the man? Why do they crawl back almost every time?",,102,BringBackTwinShadows,1703809906.0 +They have the power feminist imbued into them so why don't they use it to leave the man? Why do they crawl back almost every time?",,102,BringBackTwinShadows,2023-12-29 00:31:46 PurplePillDebate,18toibu,Which gender deals with more conflicting expectations and scripts?,"Men have to be careful not to look at women for too long if they are not hot and they need to play completely different roles in ordinary niceties and sex. NSFW-Reddit is full of women posting nudes with tags like ""destroy my pussy"" or ""break this body"" and although they are not to be taken literally, it's still an interesting contrast to ordinary expectations of male behavior where men are supposed to downplay their physical dominance the best they can and even act meek towards angry women. -Also men have to go through the delicate neurological process of becoming visibly genitally aroused in the presence of a woman despite being told their whole lives that naked men and their equipment is pretty nasty or comical. Sure a lot of women don't do that but people are likely to remember the negative comments more than the positive and men don't have any realistic way to compensate for the hurt by hoarding validation from women. For men validation is intimately tied to relationship status. Outside of relationship status they are mostly discouraged and might feel like nasty ogres. ",,6,MacaronFinancial,1703860600.0 +Also men have to go through the delicate neurological process of becoming visibly genitally aroused in the presence of a woman despite being told their whole lives that naked men and their equipment is pretty nasty or comical. Sure a lot of women don't do that but people are likely to remember the negative comments more than the positive and men don't have any realistic way to compensate for the hurt by hoarding validation from women. For men validation is intimately tied to relationship status. Outside of relationship status they are mostly discouraged and might feel like nasty ogres. ",,6,MacaronFinancial,2023-12-29 14:36:40 PurplePillDebate,18tj3wp,Men who realised that they were conditioned to be Beta Bucks...,"All the men who realised that your whole life you had been working towards becoming a Beta Bucks without even knowing 1 How old were you? @@ -52659,17 +52659,17 @@ PurplePillDebate,18tj3wp,Men who realised that they were conditioned to be Beta P.S. I'm 28 from India, a virgin with no relationship experience who always focused on education and career. Now in the process of Arranged Marriage. -Reading RP content is making me think that I've just worked towards becoming a Beta Bucks.",,14,VirginBlueballs,1703841588.0 +Reading RP content is making me think that I've just worked towards becoming a Beta Bucks.",,14,VirginBlueballs,2023-12-29 09:19:48 PurplePillDebate,18tegvu,Women will always say what makes themselves look good,"I have seen enough of this that this statement can be set in stone. It's undeniable. Let me gives you a few examples. First off, I used to visit strip clubs in my younger years. I wound up finding a message board dedicated to strippers and the amount of bullshit I saw on those forums was staggering. So many women there in denial of so many things. Like if you saw a topic about strippers going a little further than their job description entails in the VIP rooms to make some extra cash. So many of the posters there denying they ever did it or would ever consider doing it. It was a near consensus on that forum, which was stark contrast with what I knew to be true based on my own experiences at strip clubs. It was like the posters on that forum were competing for the role of head nun of the convent. It was ridiculous. And before you excuse that by saying that strippers are troubled, mentally ill people with daddy issues, I've also seen the same type of behaviour right here on Reddit. Just browsing this sub, you see so much nonsensical hypocritical views. They say one thing in one thread and the opposite in another depending on what makes them look good. Like you would see a woman say ""Women don't care about Chad. What's important is chemistry and compatibility."" Then if you were to come across a thread about the wall, you'll see the same women say ""The wall doesn't exist. Even at my age, I can still fuck Chad."" -Then there's the thread a made the other day. I asked women if they ever took advantage of a simp to get what they wanted. Maybe 90% of the respondents said they never have and they would never sink so low to do this. Again, this is contrary to what I have personally witnessed outside of the internet. You see this is a recurring them of what women do. They will not hesitate to b.s. you to your face if that's what makes them look good.",,23,rejected-again,1703824788.0 +Then there's the thread a made the other day. I asked women if they ever took advantage of a simp to get what they wanted. Maybe 90% of the respondents said they never have and they would never sink so low to do this. Again, this is contrary to what I have personally witnessed outside of the internet. You see this is a recurring them of what women do. They will not hesitate to b.s. you to your face if that's what makes them look good.",,23,rejected-again,2023-12-29 04:39:48 PurplePillDebate,18twanu,Would older women be happier if they lowered their standards?,"When it comes to the topic of men dating younger women, it was brought up in another post about how younger women have lower standards than older in some cases, and hence why it may be easier to date a younger woman as a result, but that this also creates more competition for older women. But if this may make dating younger women easier, then how come older women don't just lower their standards, if they feel their options are more limited compared to before? -Or would they just be less content if they lowered their standards and that will not work?",,0,harmonica2,1703880964.0 +Or would they just be less content if they lowered their standards and that will not work?",,0,harmonica2,2023-12-29 20:16:04 PurplePillDebate,18tjpls,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -52688,12 +52688,12 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,4,AutoModerator,1703844015.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,4,AutoModerator,2023-12-29 10:00:15 PurplePillDebate,18t5rr9,Why doesn't pre-selection affect men too?,"Everyone knows that taken men are more attractive to women, but taken women aren't really more attractive to men. Why? Women are attracted to men in relationships because it means the man's been vetted and is therefore a good partner, but why doesn't this logic seem to affect men? Wouldn't a man see a woman in a relationship and think ""well, if a man decided to be with her, then that must mean she's a good partner""? -&#x200B;",,18,Glass_Bucket,1703800622.0 +&#x200B;",,18,Glass_Bucket,2023-12-28 21:57:02 PurplePillDebate,18t3327,"Why is the term ""Masculine"" or ""Feminine"" suddenly bad when in opposite Genders?","I like watching some RP adjacent channels but it upsets me when they do this. They'll be like ""A Masculine man is Strong, Dependable, Stoic, Stands for whats right and protects those he cares for"" OR @@ -52708,7 +52708,7 @@ And I'm like ""ok I can get behind that"" ""A Feminine Man is Weak, Whiny and Cowardly"" -And I'm like where did all the possitive aspects of Masculinity and Feminity go. To me it's like they're doing those words a diservice when they say shit like this.",,25,JayNaii,1703793832.0 +And I'm like where did all the possitive aspects of Masculinity and Feminity go. To me it's like they're doing those words a diservice when they say shit like this.",,25,JayNaii,2023-12-28 20:03:52 PurplePillDebate,18sx3wv,did something along the way go wrong for human societal development?,"Now IFwe were to take the internet at face value. apparently marriage rates are down, childbirths are down, divorces never really budged. @@ -52732,7 +52732,7 @@ basically what im trying to ask is did something go wrong along the way for huma &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,29,kkkan2020,1703778897.0 +&#x200B;",,29,kkkan2020,2023-12-28 15:54:57 PurplePillDebate,18szic1,Avoiding the Coming Demographic Collapse,"Global birthrates appear to be falling so far so fast that if the numbers hold up, the world will be facing a major demographic collapse later this century. Some will say this is a good thing, that fewer people will help the planet recover. To an extent that is true. @@ -52755,7 +52755,7 @@ I predict countries will be encouraging more and more immigration in the future, How could this issue be tackled in an effective and ethical manner? Can it even be avoided at all or is it something humanity is simply going to have to go through? Or will this even happen at all? -Edit: Added more context in paragraph third from the bottom.",,21,LEDN42,1703784842.0 +Edit: Added more context in paragraph third from the bottom.",,21,LEDN42,2023-12-28 17:34:02 PurplePillDebate,18u43mo,“young attractive women live life on easy mode” - why this is a mislead statement.,"You see this argument a lot in RP/BP/incel spaces, that young attractive women have it easy cause they’re actively taken care of/always given stuff, are always given attention, always praised, etc - “life on easy mode”, is how its put. @@ -52774,14 +52774,14 @@ What’s the result of all this? they get older, they haven’t developed anythi -That’s the sad truth for most attractive young women as they age, and its kinda baffling how the RP/BP expects people who’ve never had agency to have the forethought and wisdom to make better decisions when they’re actively bombarded by the same men reaching after them.",,0,KayRay1994,1703901947.0 +That’s the sad truth for most attractive young women as they age, and its kinda baffling how the RP/BP expects people who’ve never had agency to have the forethought and wisdom to make better decisions when they’re actively bombarded by the same men reaching after them.",,0,KayRay1994,2023-12-30 02:05:47 PurplePillDebate,18sl5zr,"CMV: Women who proclaim ""where are all the good men"", ""there are no good men"", ""I will never settle"" etc are actually red flags and are the loud minority.","This is in context to my recent post. I used to think that women who said that average men weren't good enough or that they couldn't find a man ""on their level"" to date were the majority and that there was an actual problem, but speaking with some of the women online it seems like this is actually more of a loud minority of bitter women who for whatever reason have a disdain for men. Most men and women are fairly good and probably reasonable and willing to ""settle"" happily for each other, but there is a loud minority of women who are actually perpetuating this idea that there is a problem with average guys. -I'm open to healthy discussions/debate on this.",,100,MOProG2,1703738259.0 -PurplePillDebate,18sjf8c,Women give bad dating advice for Men,"Many women generally think Men should ask and listen to women's advice on how to get women. Asking advice from women about women, is the worse thing you can do. This is because most people give advice that's beneficial for them and their morals. For example, women telling you not to approach random women because they personally don't like it at the time. However, logic tells you that the more women you talk to equals the more women you could possibly get. If a man listens to a women he'll end up getting advice like the above which is counter intuitive.",,115,YtBlue,1703732863.0 +I'm open to healthy discussions/debate on this.",,100,MOProG2,2023-12-28 04:37:39 +PurplePillDebate,18sjf8c,Women give bad dating advice for Men,"Many women generally think Men should ask and listen to women's advice on how to get women. Asking advice from women about women, is the worse thing you can do. This is because most people give advice that's beneficial for them and their morals. For example, women telling you not to approach random women because they personally don't like it at the time. However, logic tells you that the more women you talk to equals the more women you could possibly get. If a man listens to a women he'll end up getting advice like the above which is counter intuitive.",,115,YtBlue,2023-12-28 03:07:43 PurplePillDebate,18tobv1,Why aren't large age gap relationships the norm?,"If women's sexual market value is believed to decrease with age, and men's increases, and all women are assumed to be hypergamous seeking the highest value man, it raises the question of why young women and girls typically don't choose to date men significantly older then them? -Instead the average age gap between couples is 1-3 years.",,0,Ok-Map-7596,1703860092.0 +Instead the average age gap between couples is 1-3 years.",,0,Ok-Map-7596,2023-12-29 14:28:12 PurplePillDebate,18sytur,"What do you think people mean when they talk about a ""submissive"" partner?","Whenever the word submissive is tossed around, I noticed that people tend to be operating on different definitions. One side is speaking of being completely dependent on someone else, unable to make decisions for themselves, forbidden to have or voice, their own opinions, or to disagree @@ -52792,7 +52792,7 @@ But I get the sense that the other side doesn't actually mean that NOR want that For those playing Bingo: doormat, pushover, abuse, divorce, Chad, incel -DISCLAIMER: not talking about in the bedroom. Talking about in the relationship ",,3,Windmill_flowers,1703783167.0 +DISCLAIMER: not talking about in the bedroom. Talking about in the relationship ",,3,Windmill_flowers,2023-12-28 17:06:07 PurplePillDebate,18shgf1,Why do women generally view sugar daddies less creepily than older men dating and marrying younger women,"an older man using a woman for her body and paying her is for her time is considered fine by most women and they just think that the woman is just getting her bag, But flip the coin. When an older man dates a much younger woman loves cares for her protects her and cherishes her, eyebrows raise by those same women. @@ -52800,14 +52800,14 @@ isnt there more of a power dynamic in a strictly financial transactional relatio i just feel like women always find something empowering and good if they get money while doing it, that include prostitution only fans as well, its objectification if they get no money form it and its evil men doing it, but as soon as they make money off it its empowering and boss queen shit -&#x200B;",,66,Moneydamjan,1703727181.0 +&#x200B;",,66,Moneydamjan,2023-12-28 01:33:01 PurplePillDebate,18srt91,CMV: It is impossible to be sexually attracted to someone because of their money.,"Sexual attraction has evolved over millions of years, and comes down to in my opinion a combination of looks and behaviour. Behaviour is more subjective as there are ingrained cultural considerations that 100% rewire your brain (for example if you have grown up in a nudist colony you won't be disgusted by someone coming up to you nude, to use an extreme example); but in general it obviously factors in to how you view potential partners. Secondly is looks: this is more subjective, but everyone who is not asexual finds certain people attractive and certain people not. There are general rules for what people find attractive in terms of height, body type, bone structure etc. but these are not immutable. However, the point is that everybody finds some physical type sexually attractive unless they're asexual. Money is not attractive. Nobody is sexually attracted to a man or woman because they are carrying a large briefcase full of cash. At best they will use the rational part of their brain to try to seduce that person so as to get more material stuff for themselves, but there is no element of sexual attraction there. People are attracted to athletes and celebrities because of their social standing which implies positive personality and physical traits, not because of their money. There are many celebrities who have declared bankruptcy and are still seen as attractive, for example. -In conclusion, nobody is sexually attracted to money and the best thing you can do in life is find your niche personality and looks wise, exploiting best the genetic cards which you were dealt to have a happy existence holistically. Money is a means to an end, and obsessing over it unduly will only make you miserable.",,11,[deleted],1703762980.0 +In conclusion, nobody is sexually attracted to money and the best thing you can do in life is find your niche personality and looks wise, exploiting best the genetic cards which you were dealt to have a happy existence holistically. Money is a means to an end, and obsessing over it unduly will only make you miserable.",,11,[deleted],2023-12-28 11:29:40 PurplePillDebate,18tk4bt,"Yes women can find relationships at any age , but their choices over 30 start becoming crappy","Women can find relationships at literally any age , even at 60. However, the older you get the more crappy your choices become. Lets say you're a 35 yo single woman who wants to have kids. These are your choices: @@ -52820,7 +52820,7 @@ Lets say you're a 35 yo single woman who wants to have kids. These are your choi -Younger men. They will likely only want sex and eventually leave you for someone younger. -You get my point. Sure women always have choices but these choices become crappier and crappier as they age. And yes the same is true for men. But men at least can have kids even at 60. Sure it becomes riskier but they at least have a chance. For women the factory closes down at 40.",,0,Novel-Tip-7570,1703845614.0 +You get my point. Sure women always have choices but these choices become crappier and crappier as they age. And yes the same is true for men. But men at least can have kids even at 60. Sure it becomes riskier but they at least have a chance. For women the factory closes down at 40.",,0,Novel-Tip-7570,2023-12-29 10:26:54 PurplePillDebate,18s8d2w,Having a list of positive traits/achievements isn't enough for successful dating.,"Disclaimer: I'm going to repost my old post because it got deleted/archived and I think it's relevent to the recent Q4W. There seems to be a lot of people, who believe that because theoretically they bring a bunch of great things to the table, they shouldn't have any issues with attracting a partner. And if they do struggle with it, the issue is in women/men, a lack of good partners around, dual mating strategy, porn etc. An important notice - **it isn't gendered** and it can affect both men and women. @@ -52832,10 +52832,10 @@ They overlook several important things about dating: 3. A lot of positive traits people list about themselves don't actually play a big role in attracting a partner during the initial stage of dating. When you've just met, your appearance and being likable and pleasant to be around are more important than your degree, career or income. 4. If you can get dates and maybe even some relationships, but they always end in a shit show, you should look at who you're dating and why and how you might be causing the issues in your relationships or how you repel people after a few dates. Your good traits don't substitute actually vetting your partner nor can solve some of your personal problems that can cause your issues like being avoidant, controlling or just poor communication etc. -So just having a bunch of good things about yourself isn't enough. Identifying your issue is far more helpful, than just staying angry with the opposite gender or blaming others for your troubles.",,66,EulenWatcher,1703703959.0 +So just having a bunch of good things about yourself isn't enough. Identifying your issue is far more helpful, than just staying angry with the opposite gender or blaming others for your troubles.",,66,EulenWatcher,2023-12-27 19:05:59 PurplePillDebate,18smyke,Will some women only get into relationships with far above average men?,"Do some women only get into relationships with men that are far above average in some field, for example he is doctor or some other high skilled career, he's rich, he's very physically attractive etc I'm basically saying that do men need to have something that makes then stand out alot from the crowd for some women to find them attractive. -How common is this amongst women?",,9,knowledgeseeker999,1703744140.0 +How common is this amongst women?",,9,knowledgeseeker999,2023-12-28 06:15:40 PurplePillDebate,18s3tci,"Is there truly a large subset of men who are financially stable, emotionally stable, honest, intentional, make the best of their physical appearance (grooming/etc), have interesting hobbies etc that struggle attract their equal?","I contiually hear ad nauseum about how women \*just\* \*cannot\* \*seem\* to find find a guy who fits the \[ref title of this thread\] - and how, there is \*no\* \*way\* a man like that would be single for long or struggle in dating. Women seem to be in complete disbelief that you can have the above qualities and still struggle with dating over many years. @@ -52854,20 +52854,20 @@ So to the women - is this really true? do you rarely run into these types of men * men that have all the supposed ""good qualities"" that struggle are likely dry as a bone or terrible converstationalists * ""every single guy I've met that has those qualities is never single long or is married/in a relationship"" -&#x200B;",,98,Rach1943,1703692461.0 +&#x200B;",,98,Rach1943,2023-12-27 15:54:21 PurplePillDebate,18rynp2,Chasing women is a huge waste of time.,"A lot of men waste their time chasing women just for sex and validation, and most of these women don't even really care about them. Chasing women as a man just makes you another guy in her life who's willing to jump through all kinds of hoops for her, and all for what? Sex, which isn't even that big of a deal at the end of the day, and validation which means literally nothing. Even the word 'chasing' implies that the other person is running away, or at least pretending to not be into it, which is just dumb and childish. If more men spent more time on their hobbies and on reading and becoming better people instead of chasing women, the world would be a much better place. Which is why one of the best decisions a man can make is to stop chasing women and playing the roles they expect you to play (like paying for them on dates and playing the role of 'protector' and 'provider' and catering to them and so on). -Ironically, once you stop chasing women you begin to draw their interest naturally without effort, and even if you don't draw their interest, it doesn't actually matter. Unfortunately, most men are thirsty and have been conditioned to think that sex is the be all and end all of life, which is pretty ridiculous, and it puts them at a disadvantage when it comes to dating where women can easily manipulate them with sex and so on.",,181,Agreeable-Moment-760,1703676534.0 +Ironically, once you stop chasing women you begin to draw their interest naturally without effort, and even if you don't draw their interest, it doesn't actually matter. Unfortunately, most men are thirsty and have been conditioned to think that sex is the be all and end all of life, which is pretty ridiculous, and it puts them at a disadvantage when it comes to dating where women can easily manipulate them with sex and so on.",,181,Agreeable-Moment-760,2023-12-27 11:28:54 PurplePillDebate,18ta75g,Do men really have a longer window to get married and have kids especially later in life?,"I'm 36 and older people tell me all the time thank god you're still single, there's no need to rush. I get told you can have kids when you're like 50, you become more mature as you age, and younger women like you. The only downside is if you have enough energy to play baseball with the kids when you're older. -I'm glad to hear all this but I don't know how true it is. To think things get better as a man or that I have all the time in the world isn't something I'm entirely sure about. Although it is encouraging to know I don't need to rush and that it seems like things get better.",,0,spankyourkopita,1703812252.0 +I'm glad to hear all this but I don't know how true it is. To think things get better as a man or that I have all the time in the world isn't something I'm entirely sure about. Although it is encouraging to know I don't need to rush and that it seems like things get better.",,0,spankyourkopita,2023-12-29 01:10:52 PurplePillDebate,18s6hll,"Marrying and having kids young, risking divorce later vs. waiting till the good men are gone. Which is worse?","It's been pointed out here a lot about how women do not take dating seriously enough when they are young and at their highest SMV, and they feel it's best to wait until later, or she and the guy will have a greater chance of getting divorced/growing apart, if they haven't matured enough yet. But it has also been pointed out a lot about how when women reach their 30s, they feel that almost all the good men are taken, if not all, and I have noticed women in their 30s I know, act like this as well. -So it seems it's either damned if you do, damned if you don't, and there are negative risks to each option but is one more risky than the other, and therefore one is better to choose over the other, in terms of more potential reward?",,40,harmonica2,1703699319.0 +So it seems it's either damned if you do, damned if you don't, and there are negative risks to each option but is one more risky than the other, and therefore one is better to choose over the other, in terms of more potential reward?",,40,harmonica2,2023-12-27 17:48:39 PurplePillDebate,18s1h6y,"How would you feel about a man making you wait to make you feel special because he ""likes"" you too much","Ladies would you be with man to make you wait for a fancy or ""proper"" date? He use to do fancy dates rapidly for other women before but now he thinks those things should come later down in a relationship. He does have the money and time but thinks it's best to wait a little. @@ -52876,7 +52876,7 @@ In his mind he does that because he appreciates you too much and he thinks he sh Then you learn that he used to do these fancy dates for women he says are not relationship material and are ""beneath"" you but the wait is important now because you are special. -Would you be okay with him treating you this way or would you leave because you feel some way about it?",,57,hisdivinity,1703686030.0 +Would you be okay with him treating you this way or would you leave because you feel some way about it?",,57,hisdivinity,2023-12-27 14:07:10 PurplePillDebate,18spj3p,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -52895,27 +52895,27 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,1,AutoModerator,1703754021.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,1,AutoModerator,2023-12-28 09:00:21 PurplePillDebate,18snyg2,The Rise Of Male Subcultures is Disheartening.,"Back in the days of old, people would bond in certain cliques, whether it’s skater punks, goths, emos, rockers, whatever, it was also a way for men to be able to bond with women more, because they were apart of the same clique, so that would lead to a common shared experience, if you were an outcast and she was an outcast, then you both knew what it was like to be ostracised together. Nowadays men have started making their own cliques, it might be a symptom of our lack of a solid monoculture, but men today have now traded those old cliques for new ones, like sigma males, the manosphere and the red pill ideologies that came from things like pick artistry and art of seduction movements. The reason why this is sad is because it makes sense, women’s cliques have existed for years, one of those is the feminist movement, that has since influenced our culture for decades, the only counter revolt it has had was mra’s, but that has always been underneath the shadow of the feminist movement, for years. The red pill and it’s many ideals, became popular because it puts men forward in every way, disagree with the methods all you want but this is the first movement to actually respond to male concerns, the mra movement was just whining, 24/7 while heralding a bunch of whataboutisms, RP spoke to a lot of male insecurities and actually looked at why they felt a certain way, dating for men is a huge uphill battle, that never truly got explored until recently, and it’s also kind of disheartening because this should’ve been a slam dunk for the feminist movement, but they glossed it up so much, the men ended up forming their own groups instead. Every subculture started off, getting hated by the mainstream public, it wouldn’t be a subculture if it didn’t receive backlash, but this one actually does put men in the forefront of the discussion, which is welcomed. -What do you think am I talking out of my rear end or does this make sense, and don’t worry I’ll go into why I feel more disheartened by this as well.",,0,Ceazer4L,1703747786.0 +What do you think am I talking out of my rear end or does this make sense, and don’t worry I’ll go into why I feel more disheartened by this as well.",,0,Ceazer4L,2023-12-28 07:16:26 PurplePillDebate,18rmcsk,This entire sub is based on one thing and one thing alone. 90% of men have to put in work to get laid and 90% of women don’t need to do anything other than show up.,"The issue most men have is the same as the jealousy of a trust fund kid-something for nothing. Men will put up with almost anything to get laid. They ARE ANGRY that to get a woman (that they delusionally think they deserve) they have to be at a certain level that makes them attractive to women- they have to work! Women who want relationships are in the opposite situation, when they click with some man they feel worthy of they secretly know this same guy could likely do better than her and worry about being traded in. This is where the age issue becomes so incendiary. Women know as a 10 at age 40 they are worth a 6 compared to a young 23 yr old. The men these women want CAN and DO date younger. I’m in my 50’s dating women 21-44. Dating has NEVER been easier. I know how they all shift values at various ages just like an athlete does. Who do you want on your team, Joe Montana today or the HS kid? -Women are like NFL athletes- they know their time at being number one is limited and get angry when the new rookies take the field. Men think there is a shortcut, a trick, a hack to get them into the big game. The last thing they want is a reality check that it requires work.",,217,chickenfriedsteakdin,1703635506.0 +Women are like NFL athletes- they know their time at being number one is limited and get angry when the new rookies take the field. Men think there is a shortcut, a trick, a hack to get them into the big game. The last thing they want is a reality check that it requires work.",,217,chickenfriedsteakdin,2023-12-27 00:05:06 PurplePillDebate,18rs845,Complaining about women’s standards while being afraid of being settled for is crazy,"A lot of men on this subreddit are so afraid to enter into a relationship with a woman who settled for them because they were the safe option. On the other hand this subreddit is full of comments and posts were people are complaining about the average woman’s standard, how unrealistic they are and how she should take somebody on her league ie. lower her standards that will result in her settling. -It seems like men don’t actually care for being settled for.",,80,ThrowRAsweeter,1703652801.0 +It seems like men don’t actually care for being settled for.",,80,ThrowRAsweeter,2023-12-27 04:53:21 PurplePillDebate,18sgwfj,Q4W: Why aren't yall just content with sharing a guy that has everything you want?,"If men who satisfy women's demands are rare (rich, charming, successful, funny, kind etc) when you find that guy why not just share him? Like why is that so bad because the way I see some women selpeak about men on here would make me think they should just be happy sharing. For one you don't have worry about clingy guy because he will be too busy. And distance makes the heart grow fonder. So I ask: How do y'all square that circle? Wanting guys that are very rare, but not wanting to share them? I don't get it -I've heard women say average guys are boring. It's like as a man you need to have EVERYTHING to satisfy a woman. Women settle but they usually end up not happy with the choice they made. So why not just share a winner?",,2,MOProG2,1703725658.0 +I've heard women say average guys are boring. It's like as a man you need to have EVERYTHING to satisfy a woman. Women settle but they usually end up not happy with the choice they made. So why not just share a winner?",,2,MOProG2,2023-12-28 01:07:38 PurplePillDebate,18rj8bk,Should guys take it personally if they have to wait till their 30s to have success with women?,"I am one of those guys who did poorly with women in my 20s and then got a lot better once my 30s came around. It makes sense with the red pill because a lot of guys have more success in their 30s and they say that guys between the ages of 20 and 30 have more trouble losing their virginity compared to later stats. @@ -52926,7 +52926,7 @@ However I feel my options are a lot better and feel pretty good at having a lot But a lot of guys feel sour about reading perhaps it also has to do with how women feel about that as well. If a guy didn't have much success in his 20s but then all of a sudden it explodes it was 30's, do most women find this as an attractive quality or do they think it's a red flag if they didn't have as much of a gradual buildup from a young age and it just exploded in their 30s? -&#x200B;",,105,harmonica2,1703627380.0 +&#x200B;",,105,harmonica2,2023-12-26 21:49:40 PurplePillDebate,18rxg95,"Just out of curiosity, how much of modern dating's problems also stem from a lack of inherent hardship in modern society? All perspectives welcome","Just out of curiosity, how much of modern dating's problems also stem from a lack of inherent hardship in modern society? All perspectives welcomeJust out of curiosity, how much of modern dating's problems also stem from a lack of inherent hardship in modern society? All perspectives welcome I know I am making a big a bold suggestion here, however I am **asking this out** rather than trying to insinuate it @@ -52944,7 +52944,7 @@ So now that that's outta way, where do you stand I guess if you wanna full blown nihilistic on this one, one may also ask themselves ""what purpose do relationships serve me in this day and age of rugged individualism and social permissiveness"" -That being said all perspectives welcome, so I am just gonna grab my popcorn🍿",,10,Concerntroll666,1703671816.0 +That being said all perspectives welcome, so I am just gonna grab my popcorn🍿",,10,Concerntroll666,2023-12-27 10:10:16 PurplePillDebate,18rvhc2,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -52963,13 +52963,13 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,1703664025.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,2023-12-27 08:00:25 PurplePillDebate,18rpi78,Men who feel that their wife settled for them as a safe option,"How soon into your marriage did you get this feeling? Who do you feel about it? How do you deal thinking she isn't physically attracted to you? -Edit: I'm from India and very recently got arranged married. If you have any specific perspective to that as well, please share.",,20,MaleFrustration,1703644463.0 -PurplePillDebate,18rqubv,Women: have you ever exploited a man's interest for you own gain?,"As in, if you commented that you need new shoes, and he buys you an expensive pair and you accept this gift despite you having no interest in him. Or he takes you out to dinner and then you tell everyone how nice your bestie was to treat you to dinner at such a nice restaurant. Have you ever done anything of this sort? If he's a simp, do you allow him to be one because you see benefits to it?",,15,rejected-again,1703648503.0 +Edit: I'm from India and very recently got arranged married. If you have any specific perspective to that as well, please share.",,20,MaleFrustration,2023-12-27 02:34:23 +PurplePillDebate,18rqubv,Women: have you ever exploited a man's interest for you own gain?,"As in, if you commented that you need new shoes, and he buys you an expensive pair and you accept this gift despite you having no interest in him. Or he takes you out to dinner and then you tell everyone how nice your bestie was to treat you to dinner at such a nice restaurant. Have you ever done anything of this sort? If he's a simp, do you allow him to be one because you see benefits to it?",,15,rejected-again,2023-12-27 03:41:43 PurplePillDebate,18rode3,Q4M: would you feel disappointed or betrayed that a friend wants to date you?,"There's a girl who you are platonically friends with. She is like a sister to you and you value the friendship. One day y'all get drunk and it comes out that she wants to be with you forever romantically... but lacked the courage to make her intentions known. @@ -52984,7 +52984,7 @@ B. Disappointed and betrayed that she was pretending to be your friend in order C. Indifferent to the interest but understanding of how she needs to cut ties -D. Other",,16,Windmill_flowers,1703641173.0 +D. Other",,16,Windmill_flowers,2023-12-27 01:39:33 PurplePillDebate,18rndmu,Do women use 'casual sex' as a way to 'relationship zone' men? Or do men and women understand 'casual' differently?,"So I was watching a sketch video (will try to find the link) that went like this: A man goes to a woman and says he think they should end their situation because he wants to keep it 100% casual and doesn't feel she does too. The woman replies ""yeah I do but..."" and she proceeds to list of increasingly non-casual request which the man agrees to like: @@ -52999,14 +52999,14 @@ Now obviously this is meant for humor but in all humor there's truth and I've ex So pretty much my question for all is in the title. Do women use casual sex as a way to work towards a relationship in hopes they can trick a man into getting feelings? Or do men and women just have different understandings of what it means to be casual? -&#x200B;",,9,FutureBannedAccount2,1703638340.0 +&#x200B;",,9,FutureBannedAccount2,2023-12-27 00:52:20 PurplePillDebate,18rmh33,Would you be with someone who accuses you of cheating for no reason?,"I find it baffling when I see so many guys be fine with the hypothetical situation of accusing their wife or girlfriend of cheating but cant list you any reason they would suspect infidelity. Not really different from women who dream of their man cheating and having it ruin their day. https://youtube.com/shorts/wKCtg\_Ggi1A?si=i1XQdD9N8CQuSzxm https://youtube.com/shorts/kOHk6VJ5r54?si=DiFJXjtK\_8M6HDpW The whole “women be crazy” stereotype doesnt work when guys act the same way. Hell, atleast her crazy ass has a (stupid) reason for the accusation. What astounds me is when I see people say shit like “Dont government workers ask for your ID” and “would you trust a guy on the first date?”. If you compare your relationship to vetting a stranger, your relationship is shit. -Isnt trust the foundation of a healthy relationship and other types of relationships in general? Who the fuck wants to willingly be around people they cant trust? That’s still Drama Queen bullshit I do not have patience for.",,11,LillthOfBabylon,1703635825.0 +Isnt trust the foundation of a healthy relationship and other types of relationships in general? Who the fuck wants to willingly be around people they cant trust? That’s still Drama Queen bullshit I do not have patience for.",,11,LillthOfBabylon,2023-12-27 00:10:25 PurplePillDebate,18r6khn,Question for those who are concerned about passport bro's leverage...,"So on another thread I got some criticism for defending passport bros as I don't think there's anything inherently exploitative about such situations. The major criticism is that these women are poor so the man has leverage over her. I pointed out that many relationships have some degree of leverage since two people are unlikely to be close in all hierarchies. A richer partner knows they will be more provided for if the relationship ends. A more attractive partner knows they can obtain sex easier. A more charismatic partner knows they can obtain company easier. @@ -53019,15 +53019,15 @@ That got me thinking, because there is a group in the west that is desperate: On Let's be frank, although according to a study many Onlyfans users are actually married, there is a substantial demographic of lonely, unwanted men. Creators hook these guys with pretend girlfriend experiences, often advertsing on Tinder or other dating websites. In some cases they aren't even the people messaging these men. In extreme cases, to the knowledge of the creators, men have run themselves into financial difficulties to pay for these services. -Unlike passport bros, where I can conceive that both parties may well be genuinely happier and in a better place due to such relationships, it's hard to envisage men being benefited my spending money on Onlyfans. Do women think Onlyfans creators exploit lonely men?",,10,HolyPenguine,1703591627.0 -PurplePillDebate,18qynr4,Are male celebrities more likely to date fans than female celebrities?,"A common point of discussion is women being hypergamous. If women won't date men of lower social standing, we should notice a trend of male celebrities being more willing to date fans while female celebrities only date men who are more rich, famous, or otherwise desirable.",,33,TDSinv,1703561588.0 +Unlike passport bros, where I can conceive that both parties may well be genuinely happier and in a better place due to such relationships, it's hard to envisage men being benefited my spending money on Onlyfans. Do women think Onlyfans creators exploit lonely men?",,10,HolyPenguine,2023-12-26 11:53:47 +PurplePillDebate,18qynr4,Are male celebrities more likely to date fans than female celebrities?,"A common point of discussion is women being hypergamous. If women won't date men of lower social standing, we should notice a trend of male celebrities being more willing to date fans while female celebrities only date men who are more rich, famous, or otherwise desirable.",,33,TDSinv,2023-12-26 03:33:08 PurplePillDebate,18qzzxv,Why do men and women feel like we need to rely on some generalizations of the sex we are attracted to?,"I've always preferred taking things on a human by human basis rather than assuming ""most men do X"" or ""most women do Y"" and then going from there when getting to know someone .... but I know that a lot of people find comfort in starting from a baseline set of assumptions first which is why there are schools of thought like the ones on this sub. Why do you think this is though? Time Efficiency? Losing hope/fear? Both? -Genuinely curious on the thought processes here from both sides.",,15,SnooMarzipans6929,1703565997.0 +Genuinely curious on the thought processes here from both sides.",,15,SnooMarzipans6929,2023-12-26 04:46:37 PurplePillDebate,18r2awa,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -53046,7 +53046,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,1703574016.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,2023-12-26 07:00:16 PurplePillDebate,18qz2nr,What is the evolutionary advantage to having the orgasm gap?,"Assumption 1: IN GENERAL women have a harder time reaching orgasm than men do - even without a partner present¹ Assumption 2: This GENERALLY holds true across cultures, societies, and upbringing. Though these things can make it worse @@ -53061,30 +53061,30 @@ DISCLAIMER: Yes, it's different for each woman. I'm talking about IN GENERAL. [1] Frederick DA, John HKS, Garcia JR, Lloyd EA. Differences in Orgasm Frequency Among Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Heterosexual Men and Women in a U.S. National Sample. Arch Sex Behav. 2018 Jan;47(1):273-288. -https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28213723/",,14,Windmill_flowers,1703562964.0 -PurplePillDebate,18qqu9f,Did the behaviour from women in your family confirm or disprove the red pill?,Did you think that the poor behaviour you witnessed from your female family members were one off events? Or do you think that their poor behaviours were a risk that would exist in any potential relationship they formed?,,32,AethertheEternal,1703537523.0 +https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28213723/",,14,Windmill_flowers,2023-12-26 03:56:04 +PurplePillDebate,18qqu9f,Did the behaviour from women in your family confirm or disprove the red pill?,Did you think that the poor behaviour you witnessed from your female family members were one off events? Or do you think that their poor behaviours were a risk that would exist in any potential relationship they formed?,,32,AethertheEternal,2023-12-25 20:52:03 PurplePillDebate,18ru6iw,"I wish men would stop normalizing women approaching them and trying to ""shoot their shot"". Almost every man i've seen feels very uncomfortable with a woman approaching them","My friends are super model gorgeous with stellar personalities- they are constantly getting shot done by men. even if you're the most prettiest girl in the world the man is still gonna be weirded out by it. If a man is interested he's gonna approach and try to get your number. You don't even know if he really likes you if you approach first or if he's just being nice and going with the flow. I mean men on this reddit have got to stop telling women to chase them. It just doesn't work. I have a large group of friends they have all tested this theory and the men were extremely uncomfortable, weirded out etc.. One of my friends said the dude said he lied about having a girlfriend and she found out he was single actually. I mean that is embarrassing. a man really lied about having a girlfriend just to avoid giving her his number. I think I would hide out for the rest of life from embarrassment if they happened to me. Imagine approaching a man and you look like a super model and he's lying to avoid exchanging numbers. I let my friends take one for the team because i damn sure aint approaching nobody and dealing with that treatment they got. I don't look as good as them so i can't even imagine how it would be if i approach men. like if my super model friends are getting shot down left and right then there's hope for us average chicks lmao. I rather wait on a dude to muster up the courage to talk to me because it shows he likes what he sees and is GNEUINELY interested &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,0,Educational_Lab_525,1703659261.0 +&#x200B;",,0,Educational_Lab_525,2023-12-27 06:41:01 PurplePillDebate,18r8ydd,Do you think that it should be illegal for people to charge money for sex?,"I wanted to frame the question this way, because the normal way of asking the question is to ask ""should prostitution should be legal?"", with many women justifying their negative answer by saying that it promotes human trafficking and various other harms against women and that therefore it should not be legal. But from a personal freedom standpoint, do you honestly believe that this freedom, the freedom to charge money for sexual access, should be outlawed, with the justification that it prevents trafficking and other harms? Do you think that preventing these harms makes it worth outlawing a fundamental personal freedom, bodily autonomy? -Edit: And justifying the Scandinavian model is not an answer to this question, as it essentially makes the exchange of money for sex illegal, because if the Scandinavian model were implemented perfectly, the exchange of money for sex would not be occurring. My question essentially is, should the exchange of money for sex *be occurring*?",,0,wtknight,1703599959.0 +Edit: And justifying the Scandinavian model is not an answer to this question, as it essentially makes the exchange of money for sex illegal, because if the Scandinavian model were implemented perfectly, the exchange of money for sex would not be occurring. My question essentially is, should the exchange of money for sex *be occurring*?",,0,wtknight,2023-12-26 14:12:39 PurplePillDebate,18q58ec,Men empathize with lonely women. Women are disgusted by lonely men,"Men know what it's like to be unwanted. I definitely do. There's this girl who's in love with me. She's not my type. Despite how badly she wants me, I still treat her well. I see her as a good friend. Most women are not like this with lonely men. Not even close. With men they don't like, women do not empathize with their plight. They turn their noses up. Upon finding out the man is attracted to her, she is visibly disgusted. She goes from being friendly to him to acting like he is not fit to breathe the same air as her. Women have this bizarre mentality that an unattractive man liking her means she's ugly because the ugly man thought that he had a chance. It's completely non-sensical but it happens. There are many women who think like this. That's why it feels like the mask slips and they suddenly turn nasty. -It's unfortunate that these women can't seem to take it as a compliment that someone likes them. They completely take it for granted. Instead, they act like they are under siege by undesirable men and they cover up for their shitty attitudes by acting like it's the man's fault. So they throw nasty labels at them like ""creep"" or worse. How often do men do this? Rarely, since men don't view a woman's interest as an attack on their desirability and self-worth and they don't view women they're not interested in as sub-human in the way that women do to men.",,265,rejected-again,1703456364.0 +It's unfortunate that these women can't seem to take it as a compliment that someone likes them. They completely take it for granted. Instead, they act like they are under siege by undesirable men and they cover up for their shitty attitudes by acting like it's the man's fault. So they throw nasty labels at them like ""creep"" or worse. How often do men do this? Rarely, since men don't view a woman's interest as an attack on their desirability and self-worth and they don't view women they're not interested in as sub-human in the way that women do to men.",,265,rejected-again,2023-12-24 22:19:24 PurplePillDebate,18r331m,"DISCUSSION: Are autistic men just ""lazy"" when it comes to dating, friendship and employment struggles?","I believe that both sides are correct. Certainly if you are a low support needs (higher functioning) autistic, you should be able to have conversation and do regular tasks. This doesnt automatically exempt you from dating, having friends or finding employment. However, the social skill deficits can cause consistent and destructive failures that can in turn, dangerously lower self esteem and a willingness to try. Basically if you are an autistic male, you need the positive reinforcement of the blue pill to keep you going on your journey of learning social competency whilst also applying red pill beliefs of hard work and dedication. -What do you guys think?",,0,Business_Window_6232,1703577248.0 +What do you guys think?",,0,Business_Window_6232,2023-12-26 07:54:08 PurplePillDebate,18q013n,"The more you understand women, the less you'll fall in love them.","Through my interaction with women in real life and studying about the inter-gender sexual dynamics, I've come to the above conclusion. Through: @@ -53092,7 +53092,7 @@ Through: - realizing that a woman self preservation comes first before her love for the man, - realizing that a woman is likely to leave you once a better options comes knocking on her door, -I find that the more you understand a woman, the less you'll fall in love with them.",,182,Salty-Chef-4814,1703440148.0 +I find that the more you understand a woman, the less you'll fall in love with them.",,182,Salty-Chef-4814,2023-12-24 17:49:08 PurplePillDebate,18pwglm,"Sex work is not empowering for women , its derogatory and benefits no one","Sex-work is not empowering it is derogatory. Displaying yourself like a piece of meat for random men to jerk off to is not ""empowering"". I find it funny how some women like to portray doing porn as as a way of going against ""patriarchy"" when the reality is the complete opposite. Portraying yourself as nothing more then sexual objects for men further amplifies the sexualisation of women in wider society. There is nothing empowering about people being able to see the most vulnerable, private and intimate parts of you for the price of a burger. Women are pursuing these roles because they are either being forced both directly and indirectly ( e.g. have a dire financial need, trafficked, groomed e.c.t ) or brainwashed (by people on social media giving a false idea about the earnings that come with sex work). For example, the Average OnlyFans creator earns $150-180 monthly; the top 1% earn 33% of total revenue yet so many women go into only fans believing earning thousands is the norm. Dont bother talking about individuals you may know who are happy with their decision, the exceptions do not change the reality for the majority. @@ -53107,12 +53107,12 @@ Porn benefits absolutely nobody, its also terrible for consumers (and don't both Porn needs to stop being glamorised by women and encouraged by men. -&#x200B;",,195,Economy-House171,1703428857.0 +&#x200B;",,195,Economy-House171,2023-12-24 14:40:57 PurplePillDebate,18qabke,Can feminine men be in a relationship with feminine women? can masculine men be in a relationship with a masculine woman? or does there always need to be balance,"im a mixture of feminine and masculine but still leaning more towards feminine most days. I tend to attract more masculine men overall, but every now and then i get a sprinkle of feminine men trying to approach me. When looking at relationships I almost never see two masculines or two feminines together like asap rocky is feminine and rihanna is very masculine -&#x200B;",,10,Educational_Lab_525,1703474581.0 +&#x200B;",,10,Educational_Lab_525,2023-12-25 03:23:01 PurplePillDebate,18qcob2,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -53131,7 +53131,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,1703484033.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,2023-12-25 06:00:33 PurplePillDebate,18q3ru8,How do women actually go about guessing a man's wealth?,"I see repeatedly on here that wealth is a factor in dating. But how does this actually work in the real world? How does a woman actually accurately guess a man is ""wealthy"" before dating him? e.g. how does a woman know man is wealthy on a dating app, out in public, etc? I will use myself as an example. I wouldn't consider myself wealthy, but I am wealthier relative to a decent amount of the population. I'm the highest paid employee in the company that I work for, aside from the CEO. My income places me in the top 10% or US earners. I have vested startup equity that will probably be worth between 1\~10 million within the next 4 years. On top of this I invest 50% of every paycheck into the stock market. I have zero debt. @@ -53146,18 +53146,18 @@ Now on the other hand I do see a lot of the following: **For Women:** How do you actually assess if a man is more wealthy **before you date him**? -**For Men:** Do you do anything to project your wealth? Have you a/b tested showing off wealth vs not? Any difference in results?",,9,giveuporfindaway,1703451638.0 +**For Men:** Do you do anything to project your wealth? Have you a/b tested showing off wealth vs not? Any difference in results?",,9,giveuporfindaway,2023-12-24 21:00:38 PurplePillDebate,18pwro5,Question for Women: Would you date somebody who was neurodivergent?,"Basically the title. As a woman, would you date somebody (either male or female) who was ND if they fitted your other criteria for a relationship? Why or why not? Do you find them more or less attractive? I have heard a range of responses both irl and on here, and I have my own personal experience which I will reserve judgement from. -Interested to hear some responses",,21,[deleted],1703429900.0 +Interested to hear some responses",,21,[deleted],2023-12-24 14:58:20 PurplePillDebate,18q37x0,Why are people obsessed with having a large quantity of love interests and being the most desirable?,"\> (Popular group) is always gonna do better than (medicore group). Gonna be honest, Im getting tired of this sentiment. I can’t see how it’s good to live your life “needing” the most validation from people. It has to be desperation for validation. Otherwise, what good is quantity?Having 90 losers rather 9 losers wanting you is only good if you want losers. Similar to quality over quantity, why do people “need” everyone’s adoration? Why not be fine with a few people liking you and leaving it at that? The average person has a family, has friends, has sex, and has a relationship. So what exactly is so bad about not having as much as someone else? Why the comparisons? Because it seems it only leads to misery. -",,7,LillthOfBabylon,1703449893.0 +",,7,LillthOfBabylon,2023-12-24 20:31:33 PurplePillDebate,18q2vnb,Is love just a societal construct that we've been conditioned to believe in?,"First of all, let's talk about the practical side of love. You know how they say that love is blind? Well, let me tell you, it's also deaf and dumb. Have you ever been in a relationship where you couldn't hear your partner snore because you were too busy being in love? Or when you couldn't understand a word they said because you were too busy being in love? Love can make you forget about the little things that really matter. But let's not stop there. Have you ever noticed how love can make you forget about your own needs and wants? You know how they say that love is selfless? Well, let me tell you, it's also selfish. Love can make you put your partner's needs before your own, even if it means sacrificing your own happiness. And let's not forget about the pressure to always be in love. It's like love is this big, looming monster that we have to constantly feed and nurture, or else it will wither and die. @@ -53168,7 +53168,7 @@ But here's the thing. Love isn't overrated because it doesn't exist. Love is jus So why do we continue to perpetuate this idea that love is the most important thing in the world? I think it has something to do with our society's obsession with romance and fairy tales. We're told from a young age that love is this magical, mystical thing that will solve all our problems and make everything right in the world. But in reality, love is just another part of life, no more important than friendship or family or personal growth. -Love is not a cure-all for all our problems, nor is it the only thing that matters in life. We should strive to prioritize other aspects of our lives as well, like our own happiness and well-being, without sacrificing the relationships we have with others. So let's stop treating love like this big, looming monster that we have to constantly feed and nurture, and start treating it like just another part of life that deserves our respect and attention, but not necessarily our obsession. Thank you!",,3,ASHAMED_CRIMINAL,1703448838.0 +Love is not a cure-all for all our problems, nor is it the only thing that matters in life. We should strive to prioritize other aspects of our lives as well, like our own happiness and well-being, without sacrificing the relationships we have with others. So let's stop treating love like this big, looming monster that we have to constantly feed and nurture, and start treating it like just another part of life that deserves our respect and attention, but not necessarily our obsession. Thank you!",,3,ASHAMED_CRIMINAL,2023-12-24 20:13:58 PurplePillDebate,18po79e,Men Who Have Been on These Forums and Have Dated - How do you manage?,"Many of us are still stuck in the conundrum of wondering if we’ll ever get dates or have a girlfriend. I’m hopeful that at some point I’ll be able to go on dates and maybe have a relationship, but I’m very concerned about the endless thoughts that will revolve in my head if that happens. Many of these are ones generated from these forums, such as: @@ -53188,8 +53188,8 @@ How do you guys stay positive and not let these intrusive thoughts cause you to I still rue the day I stumbled across these damn forums. -Also - Happy Holidays!",,43,Disruptiionz,1703394878.0 -PurplePillDebate,18q0epl,What other matchmaking pairing system do you think could replace the current dating system in place?,"Do you folks like the current dating sytem that humans have created so far or would you prefer an alternative to the current system?what i mean by alterantive is people complain about how inefficient our current dating system is in paring people up.so would you prefer the following?1.) using super AI master quantum computer to pair people up based on your psychological profile, likes, dislikes, preferences, stats, basically anything is answerable on paper2.) using the above example but instead of super AI its the government that does the pairing up so in essence GI partners.3.) create your partner from scratch using the latest in genetic cloning editing, pesonality programming techniques where you can create the partner of your dreams using science? (in this case you don't have to wait until your dream partner grows naturally but can be accelerated age to meet whatever age you want in a short period of time)what do you think? or what other dating systems do you see as the ideal system that could be used to replace the current sytem?",,5,kkkan2020,1703441274.0 +Also - Happy Holidays!",,43,Disruptiionz,2023-12-24 05:14:38 +PurplePillDebate,18q0epl,What other matchmaking pairing system do you think could replace the current dating system in place?,"Do you folks like the current dating sytem that humans have created so far or would you prefer an alternative to the current system?what i mean by alterantive is people complain about how inefficient our current dating system is in paring people up.so would you prefer the following?1.) using super AI master quantum computer to pair people up based on your psychological profile, likes, dislikes, preferences, stats, basically anything is answerable on paper2.) using the above example but instead of super AI its the government that does the pairing up so in essence GI partners.3.) create your partner from scratch using the latest in genetic cloning editing, pesonality programming techniques where you can create the partner of your dreams using science? (in this case you don't have to wait until your dream partner grows naturally but can be accelerated age to meet whatever age you want in a short period of time)what do you think? or what other dating systems do you see as the ideal system that could be used to replace the current sytem?",,5,kkkan2020,2023-12-24 18:07:54 PurplePillDebate,18pu3ch,What sapiosexuals actually are attracted to: being mentally toyed with,"After a recent successful date who was a self-identified *sapiosexual* and who responded to me in a predictable way based on certain behavior, I think I have enough of a sample size (yes it is many more than 1) to make an educated guess regarding the real attraction driver here. tl;dr @@ -53287,7 +53287,7 @@ The unfortunate reality here is that while there are a few situations where the Any other experiences to confirm or disconfirm? -&#x200B;",,5,SeveralLiterature980,1703419902.0 +&#x200B;",,5,SeveralLiterature980,2023-12-24 12:11:42 PurplePillDebate,18pmkly,Perspective of a grandfather who married and had a successful wholesome relationship with a foreign women and how it’s shaped my view on the passport bro movement," My grandfather married a Filipino woman before I was born and they had a pretty wholesome relationship for the most part. I always had a bit of a ‘defensive’ spot for guys who marry foreign women and the attacks they get. @@ -53309,10 +53309,10 @@ I would agree that dating apps SUCK in the western world. Everyone I’ve dated Just as a final note to add. I think the reason that the relationship worked was because he had traditional values due to his age, but was also on a more blue pill end of the spectrum. He raised his daughters more like sons and pushed them to do university and taught them the importance of being independent and this was back in the 60s/70s. He was incredible kind, undemanding and patient. I think she loved the relationship so much because it was very opposite to the kind of relationship she would have back in the Philippines. -TLDR: dating someone of a different culture can be a wonderful and beautiful thing. However it’s got a lot of problems and because of that requires so much more work than someone you have the cultural background with. Passport bros honestly seem delusional about this fact and do not think of the long term struggles and the Red pill rhetoric will be it’s demise. If you are / wanna be a passport bro combine a blue pill perspective with a traditional lifestyle to make it work.",,30,thatsagiirlsname,1703389116.0 +TLDR: dating someone of a different culture can be a wonderful and beautiful thing. However it’s got a lot of problems and because of that requires so much more work than someone you have the cultural background with. Passport bros honestly seem delusional about this fact and do not think of the long term struggles and the Red pill rhetoric will be it’s demise. If you are / wanna be a passport bro combine a blue pill perspective with a traditional lifestyle to make it work.",,30,thatsagiirlsname,2023-12-24 03:38:36 PurplePillDebate,18qk751,Men try to demonize women for choosing to be alone because they are projecting their own insecurities,"Everyone knows there’s a male loneliness epidemic. There are several articles and studies on this. I will just link one but you can find several other ones: https://www.healthymale.org.au/news/loneliness-silent-epidemic -A lot of women are content with not being in a relationship because women have hobbies, friends, family, career, other connections that keep them busy and fulfilled in their life. But I’ve noticed men don’t really have that many things going for them and that’s why they are always harassing women on dating apps with a dozens of multiple text messages in a row, when the woman haven’t even responded once. They project the idea that women will die alone with cats so they don’t. That’s why you’ll see more men complain about being lonely and single than woman. I say this as a married woman. On reddit and other social media platforms I’ve only seen men complaining about being alone and single and being desperate of wanting a partner and I’ve never see a woman being obsessed with finding a partner. In real life experiences I’ve also never met a woman that complained about being single or worried about dying alone but I’ve met several men that had this fear. Women have a life, men don’t really have one, all they talk about is girls and sex. Women don’t make being in a relationship their whole life like men do. Women don’t put so much emphasis and desire on being in a relationship, like men do. Even *if* a woman waits longer in life to find a partner statistically she will still find someone than a man will. In reality it’s men that are lonely, single, virgins, and haven’t talked been in a relationship in a long time but women will always have more options than a man. There’s always more men looking for women than women looking for a man. Women choose to be single. Women can get a man easily. Men can’t get a woman easily. Men don’t choose to be single. ",,0,[deleted],1703516384.0 +A lot of women are content with not being in a relationship because women have hobbies, friends, family, career, other connections that keep them busy and fulfilled in their life. But I’ve noticed men don’t really have that many things going for them and that’s why they are always harassing women on dating apps with a dozens of multiple text messages in a row, when the woman haven’t even responded once. They project the idea that women will die alone with cats so they don’t. That’s why you’ll see more men complain about being lonely and single than woman. I say this as a married woman. On reddit and other social media platforms I’ve only seen men complaining about being alone and single and being desperate of wanting a partner and I’ve never see a woman being obsessed with finding a partner. In real life experiences I’ve also never met a woman that complained about being single or worried about dying alone but I’ve met several men that had this fear. Women have a life, men don’t really have one, all they talk about is girls and sex. Women don’t make being in a relationship their whole life like men do. Women don’t put so much emphasis and desire on being in a relationship, like men do. Even *if* a woman waits longer in life to find a partner statistically she will still find someone than a man will. In reality it’s men that are lonely, single, virgins, and haven’t talked been in a relationship in a long time but women will always have more options than a man. There’s always more men looking for women than women looking for a man. Women choose to be single. Women can get a man easily. Men can’t get a woman easily. Men don’t choose to be single. ",,0,[deleted],2023-12-25 14:59:44 PurplePillDebate,18pnycl,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -53331,7 +53331,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,5,AutoModerator,1703394017.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,5,AutoModerator,2023-12-24 05:00:17 PurplePillDebate,18pafa3,Is the attention women receive from men the equivalent of being bombarded with food choices?,"So there is an analogy: A woman is in a buffet full of food she doesn't really want, and the food she wants is all the way at the back. Let's say the smells of the food are compliments from men. As a woman walks through the buffet, she keeps smelling all of these foods, eventually she gets overwhelmed because the smells aren't all that good. By the time she reaches her favourite food and smells it, will it's effect be minimized by the food she already smelled? Will she have lost her appetite? @@ -53346,8 +53346,8 @@ So in the end, does getting non-stop validation and attention from men lower the Thanks! -&#x200B;",,20,Consistent-Gur6932,1703352278.0 -PurplePillDebate,18pl0w0,What does it actually mean to be a non traditional man?,"I see in podcasts and also from real life experience, that many men complain that women demand a traditional man i.e. a man who is a breadwinner, masculine, leader, protector a provider whilst not being traditional themselves. But the question is - what does it mean to be a non traditional man? and is that such a bad thing? I'm assuming a non traditional man would be the opposite of the above. But then wouldn't women not be attracted to non traditional men? i.e. men that are emotional, not leaders, not protectors or providers? Can anyone define a non traditional man and moreover, are women attracted to non traditional men? For example being a stay at home dad whilst the women works? do things like that last long term?",,5,ShelterNo2786,1703383776.0 +&#x200B;",,20,Consistent-Gur6932,2023-12-23 17:24:38 +PurplePillDebate,18pl0w0,What does it actually mean to be a non traditional man?,"I see in podcasts and also from real life experience, that many men complain that women demand a traditional man i.e. a man who is a breadwinner, masculine, leader, protector a provider whilst not being traditional themselves. But the question is - what does it mean to be a non traditional man? and is that such a bad thing? I'm assuming a non traditional man would be the opposite of the above. But then wouldn't women not be attracted to non traditional men? i.e. men that are emotional, not leaders, not protectors or providers? Can anyone define a non traditional man and moreover, are women attracted to non traditional men? For example being a stay at home dad whilst the women works? do things like that last long term?",,5,ShelterNo2786,2023-12-24 02:09:36 PurplePillDebate,18ppuao,"Question for women: Why do you disagree with the manosphere's explanation of the ""MECHANISM"" through which dating apps & hookup culture destroy dating, courtship, and formation of relationships? Do you have alternate explanations?","The premise is that pre dating apps and hookup culture (up until the early 2000s) the societal pecking order was well established. In high school, a boy had to go to a girls house, meet her parents, ask their permission to take her out, which forced him to be selective. The HS jock was never going to visit an unknown, below average looking girls home, meet her father and ask her out on a date, and then have the whole school gossip about them as a couple. He'd only do that for the cute cheerleader...someone he could and wanted to socialize with in broad daylight. Someone whose friends his friends wanted to date. Someone he had things in common with. Someone he could go to prom with. The pecking order was established, everyone figured where they fell on it, and eventually found someone at their level. With dating apps and hookup culture, the HS jock can be completely passive, doesn't have to socialize with the girls he's hooking up with let alone meet their parents, keep the hookups totally secret, while formally dating the cute cheerleader as well. @@ -53360,21 +53360,21 @@ And that throws the whole balance off and destroys dating in 2 ways &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,0,HamzaAghaEfukt,1703401183.0 +&#x200B;",,0,HamzaAghaEfukt,2023-12-24 06:59:43 PurplePillDebate,18ouawm,For those of you who think women can get anything for free?,"Can you walk me through the process of how this works? I’m not asking for advice for myself. But I’m a 33-year-old woman who has never had a man provide for me. Never had a dude offer to pay a bill, never got a free vacation, never even had a dude come up to me in a bar and buy a drink. I had 4 relationships, one that was a year and some change at 17. One that was just short of 2 years at 19. My husband who I was with from 22-28 (who died), then my most recent ex that I dated from 29 to 33. All had long periods of unemployment. None ever made more than $15. The ones I lived with pitched in, but I’ve always paid more of the bills (most I ever made was $60k annually). So when I see guys on here say things like: exist as a woman, don’t be fat, don’t be a single Mom. This is far from my experience . -So I’d like to know how y’all think women do get free things. Like how would one go about it? Do you think guys just show up in DMs, or do women need to be on the apps or sugar baby sites, is it through just going out to clubs and giving random dudes sexy stares, begging on social media? How does it work?",,60,TheMedsPeds,1703294740.0 +So I’d like to know how y’all think women do get free things. Like how would one go about it? Do you think guys just show up in DMs, or do women need to be on the apps or sugar baby sites, is it through just going out to clubs and giving random dudes sexy stares, begging on social media? How does it work?",,60,TheMedsPeds,2023-12-23 01:25:40 PurplePillDebate,18p9xky,AD HOC WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD,"**If there is no stickied comment below, assume it is a free-for-all of relegated topics.** [Please Join Us on Discord!](https://discord.gg/3aHh4trC7B) Include your reddit username, pill color, age and gender when you arrive in the welcome mat to introduce yourself and help people get to know you. &#x200B; -You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,1,AutoModerator,1703350887.0 +You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,1,AutoModerator,2023-12-23 17:01:27 PurplePillDebate,18pvxqt,There are so many single girls who are great catches!,"Hi All, I’ve scrolled through this sub a few times and it’s filled with doomers and gloomers for the most part. I moved to New York a couple of years ago and I feel like the world is my oyster. Note, yes I am college educated, yes I do have a good job, yes I do have a nice apartment in Manhattan. That said, I have several friends who don’t have any of this who have wildly successful dating lives in the city. @@ -53383,21 +53383,21 @@ It is true that young girls are outpacing men in several categories; however, if I see a lot of talk about the 80/20 thing where 80% of women date 20% of men. Here’s an interesting [study](https://datepsychology.com/how-many-sexual-partners-did-men-and-women-have-in-2021/) that essentially debunks that. Also there’s been an increase in men having sex since the year prior but no change for women, as young girls seem to be driving the sexlessness statistic, contrary to popular belief. There’s a large silent majority who are in committed relationships or who are content that we’ll never come across bc they’re enjoying their lives with their loved ones and partner rather than being a doomer on reddit. The people in this sub are a loud minority. Another [link](https://datepsychology.com/how-many-sexual-partners-did-men-and-women-have-in-2022/) you may find interesting. -If you’re a young male and you’re reading this, never give up hope because opportunity is always right around the corner. Remember you just need a single yes to a spouse, a job, and so many other things. And if you simply cannot find it, spend your 20s in a large city - where opportunities are endless, career and social.",,0,Kazoozi,1703427014.0 +If you’re a young male and you’re reading this, never give up hope because opportunity is always right around the corner. Remember you just need a single yes to a spouse, a job, and so many other things. And if you simply cannot find it, spend your 20s in a large city - where opportunities are endless, career and social.",,0,Kazoozi,2023-12-24 14:10:14 PurplePillDebate,18ot72t,Is it common to look up the salary of your date's job?,"https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT89rvPdN/ Saw this TikTok of a woman who is apparently not impressed that his salary was under a certain amount. That's fine - have standards... But my question is... Is this a common thing when dating nowadays? To look up the salary for OTHER people's careers? -IMO, by the time your partner's salary actually matters (family planning and budgeting etc), you should have enough rapport where you can simply ask them about it. Or they'd have told you, right?",,40,Windmill_flowers,1703291315.0 +IMO, by the time your partner's salary actually matters (family planning and budgeting etc), you should have enough rapport where you can simply ask them about it. Or they'd have told you, right?",,40,Windmill_flowers,2023-12-23 00:28:35 PurplePillDebate,18ody5c,A lot of men waste time on women who don't really appreciate them.,"My initial post got removed because ""No non-neutral discussion posts."" So I'll flair this as a debate and risk getting banned. Anyway... I've noticed that many men waste their time, energy and attention on women who don't really appreciate them. Many men jump through hoops for women's attention, they pay for dates, they're always initiating things and try to fulfil women's expectations, and yet many of these women don't really even appreciate them. As a guy, you might go on a date with a woman who expects you to pay, and you'll happily do it because you appreciate her and her spending time with you. But in reality, she doesn't even appreciate you or your time, which is why she would expect you to pay for her. And if you didn't, many of these women would lose interest in you. -In many cases, you're just another man in their life who wants their attention and you're willing to jump through all kinds of hoops for it.",,184,Agreeable-Moment-760,1703248558.0 +In many cases, you're just another man in their life who wants their attention and you're willing to jump through all kinds of hoops for it.",,184,Agreeable-Moment-760,2023-12-22 12:35:58 PurplePillDebate,18ox3jy,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -53416,7 +53416,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,1703304011.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,2023-12-23 04:00:11 PurplePillDebate,18oce4h,Men need to make these dating resolutions in 2024,"A few years ago I made the choice that I wanted to have better relationships and decided to set some new boundaries/resolutions. I think I’m 2024 these are some things men can do to have better relationships. 1. Use the block feature. I never used the block feature until recently when I noticed some girl who had been playing games still was viewing my social media. Very weird, but the response after I blocked her she suddenly started finding ways to weasel her way into my view for attention. I started using it more frequently and it’s kind of insane the flip that happens. (If a woman can explain this please do) @@ -53431,7 +53431,7 @@ PurplePillDebate,18oce4h,Men need to make these dating resolutions in 2024,"A fe 6. Approach more women irl. Go out more talking to a human in real life is much better even if you get rejected. The most common “bad scenario” is you have a short 5 minute conversation, get rejected politely an move on with life -What would you add or take away?",,82,FutureBannedAccount2,1703242779.0 +What would you add or take away?",,82,FutureBannedAccount2,2023-12-22 10:59:39 PurplePillDebate,18ojs72,Why is there a shame in expressing your masculinity?,"I have noticed in both myself and in GenZ males there is a shame in expressing all of our masculinity. We aren't ashamed of being male, we love being male, however these are some behaviours I have noticed: \- Acting docile and submissive in front of women in order to not be ""an aggressive dangerous man"" @@ -53452,8 +53452,8 @@ Why does this phenomenon occur? And have you noticed it? &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,15,Consistent-Gur6932,1703265027.0 -PurplePillDebate,18omn9c,I recently came across a video that says men who want to assume both gender roles in a relationship are inherently narcissistic. Is this true?,"I’m a man and I honestly want a relationship with a woman where masculine and feminine energies ebb and flow between the two. I know I need to step up and get a real job first, and I really want to, it’s just I’m having trouble on setting my sights on what I want/need. I’m attracted to feminine beauty, but I also want someone who could be there to catch me when I struggle in certain areas of my life. Is this too much to ask? Should I keep learning more about masculine vs feminine energies or stop labeling myself, get a job and go with the flow? How can I avoid potential narcissism?",,8,Third_X_the_A_charm,1703272689.0 +&#x200B;",,15,Consistent-Gur6932,2023-12-22 17:10:27 +PurplePillDebate,18omn9c,I recently came across a video that says men who want to assume both gender roles in a relationship are inherently narcissistic. Is this true?,"I’m a man and I honestly want a relationship with a woman where masculine and feminine energies ebb and flow between the two. I know I need to step up and get a real job first, and I really want to, it’s just I’m having trouble on setting my sights on what I want/need. I’m attracted to feminine beauty, but I also want someone who could be there to catch me when I struggle in certain areas of my life. Is this too much to ask? Should I keep learning more about masculine vs feminine energies or stop labeling myself, get a job and go with the flow? How can I avoid potential narcissism?",,8,Third_X_the_A_charm,2023-12-22 19:18:09 PurplePillDebate,18odjm0,"Even the genders' more ""wholesome"" side of attraction is generally different.","Obligatory all of this is generalisation. There are definitely outliers, some overlap, yada yada. So, I like to put it this way: men adore, women admire (their love interest, eg each other). Men's attraction is closer to a feeling of endearment, while women's is closer to a feeling of being impressed. @@ -53468,19 +53468,19 @@ I would say that even this fits into men being more eager and women being more s All of this is still a surface level thing that is not enough to make an actual relationship work long term, just by itself. Couples indeed need to be able to connect on more of a ""regular human being"" level too, but I think a lot of people these days are a little too hung up on that (just like how some are too hung up on the opposite, on surface level differences). When the instinctive sexual connection is there, but the relationship doesn't work, it can appear to be like ""look at that stereotypical, shallow bullshit, it wasn't deep, it wasn't equal, they were not seeing me as a real human being."" Sure, but sheer attraction is not about that. Ultimately, attraction is based on some sort of an internal longing that we have to begin with, before we even meet someone, like some vague blueprint that we seek. It IS actually inhumane, it's a larger than us concept, it's instinctive. And the issue is, the more immature someone is, the more their ""blueprint"" will show, and the more blinded by it they will be. But we shouldn't hate or villainize that aspects of ourselves, we should love it. It's not what makes things work, but it's what it's *about*, it's WHAT we need to figure out how to make work. -So yea, our longings and gendered ideals are predictably kind of different, opposite, even. This is how I see heterosexuality.",,24,FuuraKafu,1703247133.0 +So yea, our longings and gendered ideals are predictably kind of different, opposite, even. This is how I see heterosexuality.",,24,FuuraKafu,2023-12-22 12:12:13 PurplePillDebate,18oj34w,Is it actually possible to have a relationship without any power dynamics and head games?,"It seems like even healthy relationships suffer from some degree of this - one person is usually pursuing harder than the other, one usually feels slightly inadequate, both trying to ensure the other one stays interested and somewhat moderating their behaviour accordingly. Is this just basic relationship dynamics or something which should not feel obvious even if it is occurring once you’ve found the right person? -In other words should everything feel effortless (i dont mean it should be effortless but it shouldn’t feel like hard work right) and there should be no strategic action taken rather just being unapologetically oneself or is that unrealistic?",,9,StaticNocturne,1703263218.0 +In other words should everything feel effortless (i dont mean it should be effortless but it shouldn’t feel like hard work right) and there should be no strategic action taken rather just being unapologetically oneself or is that unrealistic?",,9,StaticNocturne,2023-12-22 16:40:18 PurplePillDebate,18o9yb8,What’s the deal in regards to woman on women sexual abuse being completely ignored?,"All the time you hear about the same topics. Either metoo situations where men in power allegedly abused women. Males molesting or raping women. The epidemic of female teachers molesting boys. You even have a lot of talk about male rape and harassment of boys and men. What about female teachers molesting girls? What about female therapists having sexual with female clients? What about female prison guards abusing female inmates? What about female on female incest? What could be the possible reason why it gets less coverage and articles about it as compared to all the other types of abuse? Is there a way it can be explained instead of the usual turning it against men with the classic argument “well men sexualize lesbianism so it’s not considered real sex”. If that were so the media would have a lot more coverage because lots of pervert guys would want to hear these stories. -I’d love to get real answers from educated women who aren’t going to resort to spinning it around on men. What’s the reason why women don’t care about this more?",,20,lostacoshermanos,1703232670.0 +I’d love to get real answers from educated women who aren’t going to resort to spinning it around on men. What’s the reason why women don’t care about this more?",,20,lostacoshermanos,2023-12-22 08:11:10 PurplePillDebate,18nwwpb,"A man who's sexually inexperienced is not a ""red flag""","You've probably heard women say that they're reluctant to date men who've never had sex/been in a relationship past a certain age (usually post-college). If no one has wanted to be with him by this point, there must be something wrong with him, they say. But is there really? To me this is another example of women's tendencies to gloss over their questionable behaviour by pinning it on the man and thus avoid any accountability for their actions. You might hear a woman try to justify this behaviour by saying she tried giving the virgin a chance, but he was so insecure about his inexperience that she had no choice but to leave him. ""You see, I'm not a shitty person, I was forced to do this by a shitty man"", she says. @@ -53489,7 +53489,7 @@ As usual, women blame it on the man by implying there is something bad about him The reality is, she's not expressing any real concern over a man like this. She actually simply views him as a loser and wants nothing to do with him. Let's face it, women do not actually LOVE men. They view men as a trophy, as arm candy, as a means to an end to impress their peers. A romantically inexperienced virgin does nothing for her. In fact, it's quite the opposite. Such a man is viewed by her as a liability. Her real concern is that he will lower her social standing. And one of the defining characteristics of women is that they are ruthless social climbers. It's why they are known to be particularly cruel to ugly men. They don't want these men near them, so they make every effort to distance themselves from them. -So that is the reason a woman might not want to date you, a virgin or someone who's never had a relationship. Not because she has any real fears that you're a bad person, but because she views you as a loser but is too afraid of looking bad to outright say it, so she will make up an excuse as to why it's your fault that she doesn't like you.",,129,rejected-again,1703191698.0 +So that is the reason a woman might not want to date you, a virgin or someone who's never had a relationship. Not because she has any real fears that you're a bad person, but because she views you as a loser but is too afraid of looking bad to outright say it, so she will make up an excuse as to why it's your fault that she doesn't like you.",,129,rejected-again,2023-12-21 20:48:18 PurplePillDebate,18o8iho,"More feminine type males tend to be attracted to ""alpha"" women?","I don't personally believe in ""alpha"" or ""beta"", but for the purposes of this thread... **""Beta male""** - less assertive, less dominant, willing to let the woman take the lead more often, might be less career focused or ambitious when it comes to financial success, probably feminist @@ -53498,7 +53498,7 @@ PurplePillDebate,18o8iho,"More feminine type males tend to be attracted to ""alp Do beta males tend to be attracted to alpha women? I have heard this mentioned on occasion in spaces like these, but I never examined that claim. What do you think? -DISCLAIMER: Yes, I know there's no such thing as alpha, beta, sigma, etc. See 1st sentence. Inb4 ""it depends"". Inb4 ""everyone is different""",,16,Windmill_flowers,1703226728.0 +DISCLAIMER: Yes, I know there's no such thing as alpha, beta, sigma, etc. See 1st sentence. Inb4 ""it depends"". Inb4 ""everyone is different""",,16,Windmill_flowers,2023-12-22 06:32:08 PurplePillDebate,18o5dcz,"The talking point that ""older men prey on young girls because older women are less willing to put up with their bullshit"" misses the mark.","Often in arguments over age-gap relationships, a common talking point used by women/bluepill to attack men who date significantly younger usually goes something along the lines of **""these men prey on young girls because because women their age won't put up with their bullshit"".** There is a kernel of truth to this rhetoric but it's heavily clouded by value judgements. Let me explain. @@ -53531,7 +53531,7 @@ And ultimately, people want to find others who are willing to overlook their fla &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,26,8mm_Magnum_Cumshot,1703215685.0 +&#x200B;",,26,8mm_Magnum_Cumshot,2023-12-22 03:28:05 PurplePillDebate,18o3h7e,37% of Men have used prostitution: ramifications?,"According to an article on Medium, 37% of men have used prostitution. This is now higher than the percentage in the early 20th century, the previous peak (which was already above 30%). [Men Paying For Sex: New Data Hints At Shocking Increase](https://medium.com/game-global/men-paying-for-sex-new-data-hints-at-shocking-increase-1638e53247ac) @@ -53544,9 +53544,9 @@ What are the ramifications for the rest of never-marrieds, [including the 5.25% What are the ramifications for the overall dating pool? -What are the ramifications for society at large?",,19,FromAuntToNiece,1703209753.0 -PurplePillDebate,18o0xjf,Why does everyone here generalize from a few social media posts?,"I've been following this subreddit for a while and it's shocking to me how many posts start by claiming they saw something said on social media and then go on to act like everyone in the world agrees with it. Even if a post has hundreds of likes and comments those would still represent a tiny fraction of the humans alive and dating. Why would you ever assume that any given TikTok represents all women, or that one nasty comment represents all men? It seems to me that a staggering majority of threads could be dismissed with ""other people being mean on social media is not a reason to get bent out of shape,"" yet this rarely comes up. Why are Red Pill men in particular obsessed with what women they will never date or have the chance to date are saying on social media platforms they don't like? Are they deliberately seeking out content that enrages them?",,27,mr8p6h,1703202356.0 -PurplePillDebate,18nxk02,"Why do women hate the ""what do you bring to the table?""","Women tend to get offended,mad or upset when this question is asked... And most women seem to think they are the prize.... Or that men care that you have a post graduate degree,or that you make good money... We have our own money....we care about shit like are you feminine,are ya gonna be loyal,a good mom,gonna have my back.... Thats what we wanna know we wanna know how you're gonna improve our life with you around not what you have built for your self... So with that out of the way why the hate for such an innocuous question?",,34,Gold_Supermarket1956,1703193368.0 +What are the ramifications for society at large?",,19,FromAuntToNiece,2023-12-22 01:49:13 +PurplePillDebate,18o0xjf,Why does everyone here generalize from a few social media posts?,"I've been following this subreddit for a while and it's shocking to me how many posts start by claiming they saw something said on social media and then go on to act like everyone in the world agrees with it. Even if a post has hundreds of likes and comments those would still represent a tiny fraction of the humans alive and dating. Why would you ever assume that any given TikTok represents all women, or that one nasty comment represents all men? It seems to me that a staggering majority of threads could be dismissed with ""other people being mean on social media is not a reason to get bent out of shape,"" yet this rarely comes up. Why are Red Pill men in particular obsessed with what women they will never date or have the chance to date are saying on social media platforms they don't like? Are they deliberately seeking out content that enrages them?",,27,mr8p6h,2023-12-21 23:45:56 +PurplePillDebate,18nxk02,"Why do women hate the ""what do you bring to the table?""","Women tend to get offended,mad or upset when this question is asked... And most women seem to think they are the prize.... Or that men care that you have a post graduate degree,or that you make good money... We have our own money....we care about shit like are you feminine,are ya gonna be loyal,a good mom,gonna have my back.... Thats what we wanna know we wanna know how you're gonna improve our life with you around not what you have built for your self... So with that out of the way why the hate for such an innocuous question?",,34,Gold_Supermarket1956,2023-12-21 21:16:08 PurplePillDebate,18od3jp,"So what would the dating realm be like if more men practiced self-actualization or at the very least, self-influencing, as opposed to always having that dire need to always impress women/others? Would the pace of competition change?","Self-actualization tends to be a very pretentious term, so let's use the term I used for context sake's, self influencing @@ -53578,7 +53578,7 @@ So if anything today more men live formulaic and domesticated attitudes than say But I think the important question remains, would there be more organic bonding in dating as opposed to the ""forced"" kind we often see out in the open? -**Please actually try to get a grasp of the context, don't just read the thread for reading sake's, I think this is a genuine question that could spark up an intriguing and interesting conversation**",,1,Concerntroll666,1703245501.0 +**Please actually try to get a grasp of the context, don't just read the thread for reading sake's, I think this is a genuine question that could spark up an intriguing and interesting conversation**",,1,Concerntroll666,2023-12-22 11:45:01 PurplePillDebate,18oep6w,Masculine and feminine in a relationship,"So I am a female I am consuming a lot of ""how to be in your feminine energy"" content these days, and my source of information is YouTube. I solely depend on YouTube for whatever I know. These content creators say that, ""being woman is enough to be in a relationship."" @@ -53588,7 +53588,7 @@ A real masculine guy is happy to provide for you, it's the least he can do for y So I am confused. Is it really this way or am I feeding on wrong content. -Just being a woman(healthy feminine energy) is enough to be in a relationship.",,0,PossibilityPretend02,1703251003.0 +Just being a woman(healthy feminine energy) is enough to be in a relationship.",,0,PossibilityPretend02,2023-12-22 13:16:43 PurplePillDebate,18o4uo5,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -53607,18 +53607,18 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,1703214014.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,2023-12-22 03:00:14 PurplePillDebate,18nmhu1,Want to solve the male loneliness epidemic? Stop letting kids play video games and promote outdoor activities instead,"Male friendships traditionally thrived during outdoors group activities like fishing, hunting or even just playing basketball at the local park. All of these activities are systematically undervalued in modern society where we are afraid to let young kids play by themselves at the park and we are suspicious of any male-only gatherings. Instead parents encourage their kids to spend time indoors, with an ipad, Disney+ and video games. Because god forbid you let your kid ride their bike around the neighborhood by themselves. That's dAnGerOUs. (nevermind that previous generations did it with no problem) -This mentality encourages kids to be fearful, stay dependent on their parents for much longer than is necessary and doesn't encourage face-to-face socialization that is fundamental not only for friendships, but also to learn to talk to the opposite sex. ",,66,Novel-Tip-7570,1703163619.0 -PurplePillDebate,18o21sr,"Have You Ever Been Cat Called Or Wolf Whistled, And If So How Did You Respond?","As a man I have been cat called by women, it wasn’t great as I was embarrassed, you get a kind of embarrassed feeling when it happens, but I don’t know how it feels for women, I was told by my sister (a routine Feminist) that it feels demeaning, and it also makes you feel degraded, but then when I tell my cousin, she tells me that she likes getting cat called as it gives her a sense of confidence about herself, so I’m left here thinking, what do most women actually feel about this are the feminists right is it straight up demeaning and there’s nothing else to it, or does it just depend, or should I close my pie hole as I’m not a woman and should shut the f up about this.",,4,Ceazer4L,1703205502.0 +This mentality encourages kids to be fearful, stay dependent on their parents for much longer than is necessary and doesn't encourage face-to-face socialization that is fundamental not only for friendships, but also to learn to talk to the opposite sex. ",,66,Novel-Tip-7570,2023-12-21 13:00:19 +PurplePillDebate,18o21sr,"Have You Ever Been Cat Called Or Wolf Whistled, And If So How Did You Respond?","As a man I have been cat called by women, it wasn’t great as I was embarrassed, you get a kind of embarrassed feeling when it happens, but I don’t know how it feels for women, I was told by my sister (a routine Feminist) that it feels demeaning, and it also makes you feel degraded, but then when I tell my cousin, she tells me that she likes getting cat called as it gives her a sense of confidence about herself, so I’m left here thinking, what do most women actually feel about this are the feminists right is it straight up demeaning and there’s nothing else to it, or does it just depend, or should I close my pie hole as I’m not a woman and should shut the f up about this.",,4,Ceazer4L,2023-12-22 00:38:22 PurplePillDebate,18o1jv9,"Why beautiful women attract men who are shallow and fickle in short, fleeting relationships?","I keep seeing this pattern the whole time, at least in my area. Highly attractive women are often either in short, fleeting relationships or in a rebound phase. Whenever they attempt to date someone, that guy is often a shallow type, fickle, gets pissy whenever she has a lapse on beauty ie a sickness, stress, getting out of shape - and ditches her for the next pretty face. They attract guys who only care about looks *and nothing else*, get bored about those looks and seek the next novelty in chasing a new girl after a short period of time, akin to a gacha game addict. Not all pretty women I observe have this happening, but the occurrence is so regular to me I believe this is a pattern and not a peculiar oddity. -For women out there, I wonder what is really going on in your opinion?",,1,PopularBug5,1703204088.0 +For women out there, I wonder what is really going on in your opinion?",,1,PopularBug5,2023-12-22 00:14:48 PurplePillDebate,18odtwm,Would more women around the world engage in polygamy if they could get the kind of men that they want?,"This is a bit of a weird thought that I had. Just hear me out. I'm talking about women having multiple boyfriends and/or husbands who all know about each other and maybe even live in the same house. @@ -53630,7 +53630,7 @@ On the flip side, men can do it with money and status. If polygamy were legal in So what do you all think about this strange little thought of mine? -EDIT: I get the feeling that some people didn't read the text box. I'm only talking about a ONE woman having MULTIPLE MEN.",,0,shadowrangerfs,1703248147.0 +EDIT: I get the feeling that some people didn't read the text box. I'm only talking about a ONE woman having MULTIPLE MEN.",,0,shadowrangerfs,2023-12-22 12:29:07 PurplePillDebate,18oh68j,"Women are inherently more selfish/self centered. This is evidenced by their lack of ""hero worship"" CMV","It seems that women do not care about other men, OR women's accomplishments, while men revere others who have done great things. Sports are a great example of this: - Recent 5k run event, Female runner Parker Valby was going for an NCAA record. She was lapping several runners and only one woman moved out of her way. The rest of the women stayed in lane 1 and Valby had to run extra wide to gap them (causing her time to be slightly slower) @@ -53641,7 +53641,7 @@ On the mens event, Graham Blanks also set an NCAA record, and every man he lappe - somewhat anecdotal but just day to day conversation. I remember growing up always idolizing other men, thinking of them as ""Gods"", watching highlight videos on youtube which have hundreds of millions of views, and even reading about great scientists/military leaders/ mathematicians and being in awe. It seems whenever I've had a convo with women about someone else's greatness, they would always be put off and disinterested. Personally, i think its inspiring and humbling, but they always just seemed put off. -Why do you think women dont hero worship?",,0,Complete_Baseball_93,1703258100.0 +Why do you think women dont hero worship?",,0,Complete_Baseball_93,2023-12-22 15:15:00 PurplePillDebate,18o6krt,"If your believe system makes you feel good, it no longer is serving you","In this ongoing ramble rampage against all the pills I figure I may as well introduce another counter-intuitive heuristic. Usually, the moment a social value and ***believe*** system you hold starts to feel good and you find yourself able to accurately (in your mind) explain most everything in your world through that lens, is bad. Believe systems occur when you are actively engaged in accepting them as true to avoid discomfort. @@ -53670,7 +53670,7 @@ They Live. (Great movie) [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dN8Z7y\_QcwE](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dN8Z7y_QcwE) -The more you feel like Frank when encountering something, the closer you are to something useful. In TRP's case it means that many of you with the nice guy roots weren't completely wrong in your old beliefs. And that likely hurts the new identity. A lot. Freedom hurts.",,0,SeveralLiterature980,1703219726.0 +The more you feel like Frank when encountering something, the closer you are to something useful. In TRP's case it means that many of you with the nice guy roots weren't completely wrong in your old beliefs. And that likely hurts the new identity. A lot. Freedom hurts.",,0,SeveralLiterature980,2023-12-22 04:35:26 PurplePillDebate,18nn6fo,"Real ""alpha"" male movie portrayals, like in life, the focus is on WINNING, not ""genuine desire""","In real life people who succeed or at least men with a healthy competitive streak *want to win*. That's it, that's all. They define their success based on *real, tangible* outcomes. Then they pursue those outcomes. Mainstream advice/blue pill tends to view desiring *results* from social interaction as just per se bad. Or at least that is what it seems like. We can dismiss that as foolish. @@ -53717,16 +53717,16 @@ Having that ability is generalizable to the rest of life. Women are like...the s * honorable mention is him using every pathetic trick in the book to get Anna to fuck him to sign the divorce papers lol -https://youtu.be/6KWSlV8y4VE?si=OwDOalM3I3mqK3A_",,5,SeveralLiterature980,1703165720.0 +https://youtu.be/6KWSlV8y4VE?si=OwDOalM3I3mqK3A_",,5,SeveralLiterature980,2023-12-21 13:35:20 PurplePillDebate,18n8bdm,Why do fathers react so differently to the idea of their daughters dating?," I was inspired to make this post from this https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGeNWWSbQ/ video but its not like these kinds of videos arent common to see online. Fathers tend to react way differently when it comes to the idea of their daughters versus sons getting older and starting to date. It seems like men have a fear of their daughters not getting treated well or just a fear of something bad happening and they try their best to protect the girl from that. Even the thought of his little girl being in the same situation than her mother (his wife) is making the dad that furious. Why is that? If it’s so horrible why is this man subjugating his wife to it? -If most men were good partners fathers wouldn’t be so worried about the possibility of their daughters dating. Why would they if they knew she has a higher chance of meeting a guy who will treat her well?",,49,ThrowRAsweeter,1703114535.0 +If most men were good partners fathers wouldn’t be so worried about the possibility of their daughters dating. Why would they if they knew she has a higher chance of meeting a guy who will treat her well?",,49,ThrowRAsweeter,2023-12-20 23:22:15 PurplePillDebate,18ngbym,Does Any Man Actually Do Better On Dating Apps Than In Real Life?,"I was curious and interested if any people do better on apps than in real life- like they can't get people in real life but do well on apps or some other situation where they do better online than in real life. I addressed men, because it's almost automatic that women do better on apps than in real life, but you have my permission to post as a woman if you have an interesting story, anecdote or situation. -EDIT: If apps work better than real life for you- what are the issues? Lower quality women, lack of matches? Men here seem to complain on and on about the 80/20 rule, so it sounds like apps don't work at all for normal men?",,12,DaveR_77,1703139755.0 +EDIT: If apps work better than real life for you- what are the issues? Lower quality women, lack of matches? Men here seem to complain on and on about the 80/20 rule, so it sounds like apps don't work at all for normal men?",,12,DaveR_77,2023-12-21 06:22:35 PurplePillDebate,18nglc2,Are men below being proposed to?,"Just watched a video of a lady proposing to her man of I think 3.5 years on Instagram, and read the comments. There was nothing but an uproar of women saying these awfully regurgitated opinions: “Well we know who’s the real man and woman between them….” @@ -53739,7 +53739,7 @@ Imma be honest with y’all, it kinda bothered me. Someone’s gonna say too muc “Do me a favor and think outside of what you've been raised to think and believe for one sec. It's kinda bizarre that the man who's expected to lead you, PROVIDE for you in these times, ensure your safety physically, emotionally, financially, not to mention if you already have kids and/or want kids in the future & everything that entails, just isn't worth getting on a knee and asking to be married. I don't expect y'all to even empathize with this male experience cuz there's nothing incentivizing women to be that considerate of a man's time energy and money, but it's really bothering that a man is expected to do *that much* for another person(S) as well as himself, yet a man of that high a quality/caliber is below getting on a knee and asking to be married, as if a man of that quality isn't rare or to be treasured. Not like there's better shit he could be doing with his time and money, right?...that's really depressing tbh”. -I mean both people could be doing better shit with their time and money of course , but again it’s on US to provide most of the time, regardless of how much money the woman may earn. This post isn’t even trying to get into the “okay a man has to be xyz, what do you bring to the table” type conversation, I just wanna know why outside of outdated traditions that’s been passed down, Disney movies and macho man / “I’m the prize 👸 ” misandrist bullshit, why *most* women never consider proposing to a man.",,10,DevThaGodfatha,1703140692.0 +I mean both people could be doing better shit with their time and money of course , but again it’s on US to provide most of the time, regardless of how much money the woman may earn. This post isn’t even trying to get into the “okay a man has to be xyz, what do you bring to the table” type conversation, I just wanna know why outside of outdated traditions that’s been passed down, Disney movies and macho man / “I’m the prize 👸 ” misandrist bullshit, why *most* women never consider proposing to a man.",,10,DevThaGodfatha,2023-12-21 06:38:12 PurplePillDebate,18obiog,Actually a man still being inexperienced in his 20s can be a red flag...,"I know some men who are late bloomers and have dated some myself. I am talking about men who spent their youth studying hard and started dating in their mid 20s... Here are my observations: 1)Almost all of them had an entitled mentality, believing that because they studied so hard at challenging fields, like STEM, it means they're superior to other people. @@ -53748,7 +53748,7 @@ PurplePillDebate,18obiog,Actually a man still being inexperienced in his 20s can 3)Almost all of them had autistic and narcissistic tendencies. Of course in principle there's nothing wrong with having autistic tendencies, I am like that myself. However, autistic+feelings they missed out in their youth+narcissistic tendencies can be a very toxic combination. It's literally then combo of entitled sociopaths like Elliot Rodger. -4)Even though they made it sound like they didn't date by choice because they wanted to focus on studying, you could tell it was almost never actually by choice. They were just asocial nerds.",,0,Novel-Tip-7570,1703239277.0 +4)Even though they made it sound like they didn't date by choice because they wanted to focus on studying, you could tell it was almost never actually by choice. They were just asocial nerds.",,0,Novel-Tip-7570,2023-12-22 10:01:17 PurplePillDebate,18mzrrw,International dating is generally good for men and a life changing positive event for the women they marry. Scholarly research - mostly by feminists -has repeatedly proved this. Lonely guys should consider it - particularly otherwise successful guys who are a bit socially awkward or shy with women.,"International dating, whatever it is called, should not be ridiculed and condemned. This is one of the most incredible gender issues out there, because the negative attacks on international dating have been emphatically disproved over and over. It is sad that these ugly myths continue to be propagated, because this unfounded criticism is preventing a lot of lonely men from even trying and forcing a lot of women living in extraordinarily patriarchal societies to remain subservient and at risk. @@ -53775,15 +53775,15 @@ And yet, if a man decides to go overseas to find a wife he is often ridiculed as If you want to read a lot of [success stories about international dating you check out this sub](https://www.reddit.com/r/MailOrderBrideFacts/). Dig into the comments and then ask yourself, “Why don't we get this message out to lonely men?” -International dating works and it should not be a secret that lonely men have to dig out on Reddit, but solving the deeper social issues that have caused our current epidemic of loneliness is not going to happen – not fast enough to save this generation of men.",,98,LoveScoutCEO,1703092640.0 +International dating works and it should not be a secret that lonely men have to dig out on Reddit, but solving the deeper social issues that have caused our current epidemic of loneliness is not going to happen – not fast enough to save this generation of men.",,98,LoveScoutCEO,2023-12-20 17:17:20 PurplePillDebate,18o6fyj,Why do men want girlfriends so badly?,"Some men are purportedly so desperate for women, that they want to receive a government-mandated spouse. What would men do with a girlfriend once they have one? Also, if men should ever be entitled to a federal program where spouses are issued, do they expect that they’ll get to pick the one they want? Federal programs usually don’t work like that. Usually, you get what you’re given, and that is it. -If men finally get a girlfriend/spouse after this program is enacted, are you gonna be happy with a Fiona (post-ogre transition) lookalike?",,0,[deleted],1703219277.0 -PurplePillDebate,18n3i22,Why do players keep a harem of girls when he could easily get a girl he wants?,"I don’t understand why a good looking man keeps a harem of girls who are in the range of 5, 6-7, when he can easily get commitment from a girl who he deems as a 8-10. Wouldn’t sex be better for a guy with a girl that he deems as extremely attractive? Do you think it’s because an attractive girl has a higher SMV over an attractive guy?",,48,Spiritual-Fox-1330,1703101889.0 +If men finally get a girlfriend/spouse after this program is enacted, are you gonna be happy with a Fiona (post-ogre transition) lookalike?",,0,[deleted],2023-12-22 04:27:57 +PurplePillDebate,18n3i22,Why do players keep a harem of girls when he could easily get a girl he wants?,"I don’t understand why a good looking man keeps a harem of girls who are in the range of 5, 6-7, when he can easily get commitment from a girl who he deems as a 8-10. Wouldn’t sex be better for a guy with a girl that he deems as extremely attractive? Do you think it’s because an attractive girl has a higher SMV over an attractive guy?",,48,Spiritual-Fox-1330,2023-12-20 19:51:29 PurplePillDebate,18n3aqd,Is women's sexuality more self-centered than men's?,"Many years ago there was a short video on YouTube with a panel of people debating this. It has been deleted long since apparently but I remember some of the conversation. A middle-aged woman said something about Brad Pitt being hot in refutation of the idea that women's sexuality projects outside and a guy objected that she may like a man's looks but still expects to be the center of attention in some way. I cannot remember his exact words. Anyway that was just the opening to the discussion here. This is an issue which has bothered a lot of me for a long time. I remember back in 2010 or so I saw a very long discussion on a message board where a young man said he had asked his partner what she thinks about the male form and his partner had allegedly said that she finds the female body more interesting but likes the man's because of emotional reasons. The man said he broke up with her because of that comment. @@ -53792,7 +53792,7 @@ I can still vividly remember the shaming comments followed including ""You think I recently read a discussion titled ""Do women enjoy watching men's masturbation?"" It seemed positive from a male perspective until I read multiple times that the hottest thing was the woman imagining that the guy was aroused because of her...that was a bit anticlimactic because it implies that even when she wants to see a naked man enjoying himself it still comes back to her being sexy; it's still all about her. Sure men would like to be seen as causing arousal as well but men can separate themselves from the object of their gaze and appreciate females without necessarily having to believe that they have the woman around their finger. -I think a lot of men have been demoralized and frustrated with this concept for a long time even if it's false. What are your thoughts?",,29,MacaronFinancial,1703101376.0 +I think a lot of men have been demoralized and frustrated with this concept for a long time even if it's false. What are your thoughts?",,29,MacaronFinancial,2023-12-20 19:42:56 PurplePillDebate,18n4g39,Most RP tactics and thought process are driven by a man’s abandonment issues.,"The reason why TRP is so appealing to some men is that it appeals it one’s abandonment issues, and it becomes very obvious when you realize how abandonment issues manifest themselves. @@ -53826,7 +53826,7 @@ Now, there is some solid stuff in there - you should work to be your best, and n -Tl;dr - don’t let your abandonment issues rule you, the red pill actively feeds on them and by committing to the red pill you’re entirely letting your emotions of fear and anxiety rule you.",,20,KayRay1994,1703104330.0 +Tl;dr - don’t let your abandonment issues rule you, the red pill actively feeds on them and by committing to the red pill you’re entirely letting your emotions of fear and anxiety rule you.",,20,KayRay1994,2023-12-20 20:32:10 PurplePillDebate,18mt1m4,Why don't alpha women date beta simps?,"[https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGeNkYgxD/](https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGeNkYgxD/) @@ -53834,7 +53834,7 @@ Here is a video of a 38 yo ""leader"" woman who still wants a ""leader"" man and A woman like this could easily date a beta simp. Yet this type of men always seem to be the last choice for women. They either get single moms or they're forced to move to South East Asia and betabuxx a local woman. -To me it's ridiculous. ""Leader"" men usually don't want ""leader"" women. So why do ""leader"" women refuse to give beta cucks a chance.",,84,Novel-Tip-7570,1703073807.0 +To me it's ridiculous. ""Leader"" men usually don't want ""leader"" women. So why do ""leader"" women refuse to give beta cucks a chance.",,84,Novel-Tip-7570,2023-12-20 12:03:27 PurplePillDebate,18nbijc,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -53853,7 +53853,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,1703124006.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,2023-12-21 02:00:06 PurplePillDebate,18mxie8,"When women are afraid a guy is going to leave them after they turn 25, how often has this actually happened to women?","It has been said on here before that women are afraid that the guy will leave a relationship once the woman turns 25, and this is the reason why a lot of women do not take dating seriously under 25, at least according to some things said on here. @@ -53866,23 +53866,23 @@ Also, I have noticed that when it comes to my group of guy friends, it seems to So it seems that in my experiences with people I know, it's actually the opposite and the woman has a much higher chance of leaving if she gets into a relationship young. -But this seems contradictory to a lot of women's fear that the guy will leave them once they turn 25 around.  So is one more true than the other therefore, because it seems that the opposite is much more true, based on couples I know where the woman left the guy.",,17,harmonica2,1703086860.0 +But this seems contradictory to a lot of women's fear that the guy will leave them once they turn 25 around.  So is one more true than the other therefore, because it seems that the opposite is much more true, based on couples I know where the woman left the guy.",,17,harmonica2,2023-12-20 15:41:00 PurplePillDebate,18n2fvv,Who cares more about sex?,"There's this notion that men only care about sex and that men will have sex with anyone if they can. There's also this other notion that women do not like virgin men because they would be bad at sex and the women do not want mediocre sex and are unwilling to teach the man. (and no, this is not about a woman not wanting to be with someone who has never been in a relationship before because being a virgin is about no sexual experience not lack of relationship experience) Based on these notions, men care about access to sex while women care about the quality of sex. Why is one gender (men) made out to be the only people who cares about sex and only see women as sex objects, while the other gender (women) is made out to be the only people who care about the individual when in fact they also care about sex? -Who cares more? ",,4,ZeeMark17,1703099173.0 +Who cares more? ",,4,ZeeMark17,2023-12-20 19:06:13 PurplePillDebate,18mj6lz,"For those of you who can’t get dates/relationships, what are some other goals you have in life?","This has been on my mind recently. I’m 28, and I spent my teens and most of my twenties checking boxes with the notion that I’d easily be able to date and find a partner once I’m set up. Well, here I am and I’m realizing now that isn’t the case. Now that I have a career/house/car/hobbies, I’m finding myself pretty unmotivated because I’m not sure what else I can do. I tried things like traveling and doing things in my city, but going it alone wasn’t enjoyable. -I’d like to know what exactly some of you all strive for in life; what keeps you motivated and driven to not become despondent and hopeless?",,38,Disruptiionz,1703038275.0 -PurplePillDebate,18m7a39,Why don't feminists just stick to dating male feminists?,"Why do feminists not strictly date male feminists or guys who don't embody any of the toxic masculine traits they claim to hate so much? Instead, they continue to sleep with and date conservative or traditionally masculine men who don't identify as feminists, then do nothing but complain about it. Can anyone explain this phenomenon?",,165,DietTyrone,1703006750.0 +I’d like to know what exactly some of you all strive for in life; what keeps you motivated and driven to not become despondent and hopeless?",,38,Disruptiionz,2023-12-20 02:11:15 +PurplePillDebate,18m7a39,Why don't feminists just stick to dating male feminists?,"Why do feminists not strictly date male feminists or guys who don't embody any of the toxic masculine traits they claim to hate so much? Instead, they continue to sleep with and date conservative or traditionally masculine men who don't identify as feminists, then do nothing but complain about it. Can anyone explain this phenomenon?",,165,DietTyrone,2023-12-19 17:25:50 PurplePillDebate,18mf0g1,What are some examples of Blue Pill Media that lied to you about women?,"I often heard this talking point in this sub but I have never seen examples. As a man who leans blue pill, I have never seen media that told me women didn't like men who were attractive, charismatic, fun to be around, and knew how to flirt. -I would love to see some examples.",,37,PPothy,1703026448.0 +I would love to see some examples.",,37,PPothy,2023-12-19 22:54:08 PurplePillDebate,18mdrmu,"Women talking about TRP resembles a creative writing exercise, they're mostly just bullshitting.","**I've browsed TRP occasionally for the past few years, and the shit women here make up about it without citing examples needs to be called out. This post is mainly in response to another one about TRP from a few hours ago.** > ""Redpillers want subservient tradwives"" @@ -53907,7 +53907,7 @@ Lol. I can say I've never seen anyone on TRP advocate for seeking out virgins, t **Anyways, if you disagree with my assertions you're free to provide counterexamples, but IME critics of TRP rarely do because, again, they're just bullshitting and parroting what they hear from mainstream media.** -**And personally, I don't even consider myself RP and lean more towards The-Pill-That-Must-Not-Be-Named. But RP is definitely useful in a practical sense, and it receives a lot of unfair/inaccurate criticism from women using it as a bogeyman for any non-feminist attitudes towards dating that they don't like.**",,30,AI_CODE_MONKEY,1703023149.0 +**And personally, I don't even consider myself RP and lean more towards The-Pill-That-Must-Not-Be-Named. But RP is definitely useful in a practical sense, and it receives a lot of unfair/inaccurate criticism from women using it as a bogeyman for any non-feminist attitudes towards dating that they don't like.**",,30,AI_CODE_MONKEY,2023-12-19 21:59:09 PurplePillDebate,18n6bsj,Older women are way easier to manipulate than younger girls,"I’m 25 year old and few months ago I made a comment on other Reddit subs that I hooked up with a 19 y.o and I attract college girls I got many comments from women saying I’m predator and manipulative to young women… despite them liking and messaging me first lol Anyways after that I realized many older (30+) women are extremely insecure about their age/youth @@ -53915,7 +53915,7 @@ I decided to manipulate older women on dating apps and while on dates to see wha Man all you have to do is make them feel young and say you want same thing they do (relationship, poly 🤢 or whatever their profile says) and they’ll sleep with you lol and do everything for you and then you can ghost them after bcz why the f would a 25 year old guy settle with a 32 year old ? Meanwhile younger girls will only sleep with you if they’re attracted to you and you can just be yourself no need to play games or be manipulative -Another Reddit theory is proven false ime",,0,Fun_Resource7033,1703109253.0 +Another Reddit theory is proven false ime",,0,Fun_Resource7033,2023-12-20 21:54:13 PurplePillDebate,18m31v9,Why men will judge your personality and character based on how you dress and act and why it makes complete rational sense to do so when choosing a 'wifey material' woman.,"(reposted due to mod requesting to reflair as debate) Video here: @@ -53926,12 +53926,12 @@ In essence, women who say that their actions don't define who they are, are bein Edit: I think this thread below is necessary reading for some of the responses in this thread because apparently people are mistaking anecdotes and personal feelings for logical heuristics based on reasonable statistics: -https://old.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/18m31v9/why_men_will_judge_your_personality_and_character/ke2ef7a/",,44,AdmirableSelection81,1702995815.0 +https://old.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/18m31v9/why_men_will_judge_your_personality_and_character/ke2ef7a/",,44,AdmirableSelection81,2023-12-19 14:23:35 PurplePillDebate,18n1thm,What’s with all the eugenics advocacy coming from TRP?,"I’ve experienced a lot of Red Pillers literally advocating for eugenics when selecting a partner. I’m not talking avoiding severe health issues, but things like height, and medical conditions that are well treated and managed through modern medicine. Where is this advocacy coming from? Do you realize that there is another word for outspoken eugenics advocates (hint: it’s two syllables, begins with an ‘N’ and has a ‘Z’ in the middle.) -Is this eugenics advocacy a commonality within the red pill philosophy, or only something a small number of outliers actually believe in?",,0,[deleted],1703097630.0 +Is this eugenics advocacy a commonality within the red pill philosophy, or only something a small number of outliers actually believe in?",,0,[deleted],2023-12-20 18:40:30 PurplePillDebate,18mhqef,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -53950,7 +53950,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,4,AutoModerator,1703034009.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,4,AutoModerator,2023-12-20 01:00:09 PurplePillDebate,18m3rob,Nuances on friendship between men and women,"Friendship between men is possible and can be very rewarding... but first... **This is not for everyone** @@ -53969,32 +53969,32 @@ After that, you can ask why it is worth it. Some answers: \- Friendship is an important value to you.- The person is a great friend that you really vibe with, even if just as friends.- Emotional muscles: my best friend is a woman. The friendship is great, but there was a period where I had to process some jealousy. Through doing that, not only did I gain a good friend, but it also improved my EQ. I am more confident, less attached, and less prone to oneitis or, long crushes, or getting overly attached.- Getting accustomed to the presence of attractive women: If you are like I was, I was shy and intimidated by attractive women. Hanging out with an attractive woman eventually made me feel more normal around women and less easy to impress.- You can meet more men/women through your friend (high energy extroverted friends goes BRRR) -With that said, it's important to know yourself first and foremost and act accordingly. You owe friendship to no one, but be honest and don't manipulate. If you aren't willing to be friends with someone, do not pretend to be willing just to get in their pants, it's a bad strategy anyway.",,25,Aromatic_File_5256,1702997737.0 +With that said, it's important to know yourself first and foremost and act accordingly. You owe friendship to no one, but be honest and don't manipulate. If you aren't willing to be friends with someone, do not pretend to be willing just to get in their pants, it's a bad strategy anyway.",,25,Aromatic_File_5256,2023-12-19 14:55:37 PurplePillDebate,18m9d0d,How much do you think enforced sexual conduct affects men?,"Normally people talk about how conduct affects women. The implication being that people expect or demand that she withholds interest until she ""finds the one"". Basically the body count and virginity type of stuff that are common in these circles. these usually oppress women, limit their options and opportunities. Especially because If she doesn't follow then she gets called demeaning labels. Whore, slut, promiscuous,bitch and more. I feel like the male side isn't talked about much.. Usually if a man isn't showing interest in a way that is wanted then he is demeaned or ostracized. He'll be called gay, limp dick, coward and ect. These expectations and insults, especially on teens seem to affect them in ways that are destructive. They'll tend to want to be interested in women the way ""they are supposed too"" and ect in order to avoid feeling left out. -Like I remember one time as a kid, around 11. My uncle was looking at women's legs and then asked for my opinion. I answered in a way that showed disinterest he automatically began interrogating me on if I was gay. Other shit happened when I didn't reciprocate towards a girl because I wanted to be loyal towards a crush. The girl assumed me gay and coward. If it wasn't for like my general disinterest in their opinions then I feel like it would easily influence anyone to ""prove them wrong."" or other reactive ideas.",,10,_here_ok,1703012012.0 +Like I remember one time as a kid, around 11. My uncle was looking at women's legs and then asked for my opinion. I answered in a way that showed disinterest he automatically began interrogating me on if I was gay. Other shit happened when I didn't reciprocate towards a girl because I wanted to be loyal towards a crush. The girl assumed me gay and coward. If it wasn't for like my general disinterest in their opinions then I feel like it would easily influence anyone to ""prove them wrong."" or other reactive ideas.",,10,_here_ok,2023-12-19 18:53:32 PurplePillDebate,18m7goz,What public figure would you choose to be a role model for the opposite sex?,"It can be a celebrity, politician, social media star, athlete. Pretty much anyone that has a wikipedia page. I know that no one is perfect. But I'm putting you on the spot and making you choose ONE person. Women, choose one guy that you would point to and say to every teenage boy, ""Be like him"". -Men, choose one woman that you would point to and say to every teenage girl, ""Be like her"".",,14,shadowrangerfs,1703007208.0 +Men, choose one woman that you would point to and say to every teenage girl, ""Be like her"".",,14,shadowrangerfs,2023-12-19 17:33:28 PurplePillDebate,18lxwpn,"Women, what is your perception of the male experience? What do you think life is like for us, or in what ways do you imagine or see it differing?","Idk, the floor is yours. choose any topic you want. start wherever. Opinions about optimal cheeses for pizza to gender based taxation policy policy on a national scale. idfk ok not the cheese. I also promise to not antagonize you. -I have no idea how to comment on the automoderator? Also I got banned for Woe is me posting so I cant help here",,32,[deleted],1702977991.0 +I have no idea how to comment on the automoderator? Also I got banned for Woe is me posting so I cant help here",,32,[deleted],2023-12-19 09:26:31 PurplePillDebate,18myfix,Why do men leave their sick wives?,"It's a notorious statistic that men are far more likely to leave their sick wives than women are to leave their sick husbands, something like 6x or 7x more likely. Is this a case of men simply marrying women they don't love that much for wife benefits? Do women just tend to love more deeply than men do? Do men just absolutely hate being caregivers? -Something that I think is also relevant is that men are much more likely to abandon their children, especially when those children have issues like autism. Why do you think it is that men are more likely to leave when their loved ones are sick?",,0,poopy_head4,1703089226.0 +Something that I think is also relevant is that men are much more likely to abandon their children, especially when those children have issues like autism. Why do you think it is that men are more likely to leave when their loved ones are sick?",,0,poopy_head4,2023-12-20 16:20:26 PurplePillDebate,18m8tpb,"If ever, at what age do you think “youth” stops becoming an excuse?","Was listening to the radio and a miley cyrus song came on about how she used was wild and made mistakes but that’s because she was young. Didn’t listen to it cause I’m not a fan but it got me thinking about how valid of an excuse this is. To me it only seems to be afforded to women and affluent men. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard a woman use her young age as an excuse for something. Maybe I could understand if you were like 10 and spilled milk or something but for example slashing someone’s tires when you’re 22 doesn’t seem like youth is a valid excuse. I can’t think of a time youth as an excuse has ever been used yo do anything but take away personal responsibility, almost like someone who does something stupid when they were drunk and says well that was drunk me. -Do you think there is ever an age where youth is valid as an excuse? Do you think that age differs for men and woman",,5,FutureBannedAccount2,1703010657.0 +Do you think there is ever an age where youth is valid as an excuse? Do you think that age differs for men and woman",,5,FutureBannedAccount2,2023-12-19 18:30:57 PurplePillDebate,18m986a,how “male feminists” embody toxic masculinity,"So I was watching a video today about Vaush and his misogynistic tendencies towards non-feminist, non-leftist women, and it got me thinking - these ‘male feminists’ are a good display of what toxic masculinity is (given, they’re not entirely masculine and lots of non-feminist men do have toxically masculine traits, but i wanna get specific with this example) - i also want to be clear, when i say ‘male feminists’, im not saying men who identify with feminist values - im more referring to your classic male feminist (tm) @@ -54008,8 +54008,8 @@ Male feminists engage in a lot of the same faults a lot of such men face, albeit A lot of this sounds like a bizarro mirror image of what the redpill and your classical misogynist likes to do, though the obvious difference is at least these classical misogynists are honest with themselves and those around them. -So yeah, a clear example of how toxic masculinity works and what it is is displayed perfectly by the behavior and words of male feminists.",,4,KayRay1994,1703011677.0 -PurplePillDebate,18m2fhe,What happened to the CMV flair/tag?,"I remember the mods here used to basically turn every post into a CMV (change my view) flair and had really weird rules about engagement, such as supporting comments being required to respond to the auto-mod, and threads being deleted if the OP didn’t respond to comments. Has this sub moved on from that really weird format? If so, good riddance.",,9,iamsobasic,1702994103.0 +So yeah, a clear example of how toxic masculinity works and what it is is displayed perfectly by the behavior and words of male feminists.",,4,KayRay1994,2023-12-19 18:47:57 +PurplePillDebate,18m2fhe,What happened to the CMV flair/tag?,"I remember the mods here used to basically turn every post into a CMV (change my view) flair and had really weird rules about engagement, such as supporting comments being required to respond to the auto-mod, and threads being deleted if the OP didn’t respond to comments. Has this sub moved on from that really weird format? If so, good riddance.",,9,iamsobasic,2023-12-19 13:55:03 PurplePillDebate,18mnvfd,TRP caps your potential and inhibits your ability to effectively pursue what you truly want,"Here's another one to encourage men to think past all the pills: it's hampering your progress and learning. All of them encourage wedding your ego to certain images: being a ""good guy,"" being ""an alpha,"" being ""a Chad."" Why? @@ -54062,7 +54062,7 @@ So tl;dr: * Reality has plenty of examples of men who receive ""genuine desire"" from women without deploying so-called ""alpha"" means * Every man should try to date a woman way 'out of his physical league,' and just treat it like a video game or puzzle or whatever, to see how to best construct a compelling sales pitch * It can't hurt to know how to go after something you want even when your usual path is unavailable. -* This exercise and learning this skill will make you more effective overall in your dating life",,0,SeveralLiterature980,1703053245.0 +* This exercise and learning this skill will make you more effective overall in your dating life",,0,SeveralLiterature980,2023-12-20 06:20:45 PurplePillDebate,18lot2b,Q4W: Women only dance clubs. Genius idea?,"We all know most women who go out clubbing dislike being hit on by males. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8HNwQfM/ @@ -54088,14 +54088,14 @@ There's precedent for women only social clubs¹ in the U.S. so maybe it's an unt 1. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Wing_(workspace) -Edit: changed ""males"" to ""some males""",,19,Windmill_flowers,1702947181.0 +Edit: changed ""males"" to ""some males""",,19,Windmill_flowers,2023-12-19 00:53:01 PurplePillDebate,18mi2o1,"We shouldn't believe in ""pills"" we should believe whatever makes us the happiest","No, this doesn't mean everyone should just take the blue pills and call it a day. If the red pill is working out for you, you should keep taking it. What I mean is that many people believe that the only way to be happy is to be married or engaged, when they don't have to be. I.e I would like a kid someday, but I also know that with Roe and Wade repealed and with how badly pregnancy can destroy one's body. My chance of finding a partner much less a partner that would like to have kids is virtually null, since I am not, and never will be Chad. I would love to have a nuclear family, but with the way things are, my only hope is surrogacy. Maybe they will grow up detached or messed up without their birth mother, but as long as I've passed down my genes and all my accumulated wealth. I can die with a smile across my face. -While I truly think that red pill works and would get me a loving, supporting, and caring wife and give me everything I wanted, I would have work on a 6 pack that I honestly couldn't care about and get plastic surgery that I don't want. So even if I were to succeed, I would still end up less happy than when I first started.",,0,NefariousnessMost660,1703035010.0 +While I truly think that red pill works and would get me a loving, supporting, and caring wife and give me everything I wanted, I would have work on a 6 pack that I honestly couldn't care about and get plastic surgery that I don't want. So even if I were to succeed, I would still end up less happy than when I first started.",,0,NefariousnessMost660,2023-12-20 01:16:50 PurplePillDebate,18lxc9j,Men do you have any natural programmed simp reactions and have you ever gotten away with it?,"I'll use an example for myself I have natural chivalric tendencies that I do without thinking sometimes, for example at a bar once for a girl I was talking to but not interested in I put my hoodie down on her chair when all of the chairs were wet from rain outside. She told me later that it made her like me and she thought that it was cute but honestly I was thinking a lot more rationally about it; I know having a wet ass sucks so it bothered me to let her get a wet ass. I took the wet ass myself because I know I can handle it and it makes me more comfortable to know someone else won't have to experience it. I ask because I'm trying to find out the line between where simping is a negative and where it actually works, as a lot of guys these days think even telling a woman she's cute is simping. On one hand I get where they are coming from but on the other hand I'm the type of person who if I think it I'll say it just for the sake of speaking my mind, not necessarily just trying to gas her up; and I compliment men as well if I really feel like something about their style or whatever impresses me. @@ -54104,7 +54104,7 @@ My main take away is that you probably don't have to force yourself out of chiva If anything general simping stories are welcome too -&#x200B;",,5,Spyro7x3,1702975575.0 +&#x200B;",,5,Spyro7x3,2023-12-19 08:46:15 PurplePillDebate,18mo64c,Why do so many men seem not to know how to hold a conversation? Has covid ruined men's ability to be able to stimulate a woman's mind,"men need to realize if they can stimulate a woman's mind they can get whatever they want from her. Stimulate our mind sex is automatically on the table. Dudes are always giving a boring conversation to women and making the vagina dry right on up. men stop asking women ""wyd"" every 5 minutes. make a genuine effort to get to know her. holy shit. i've never seen a more ""wyd"" generation of men. @@ -54113,7 +54113,7 @@ Articulate your words and have interesting things to talk about and interesting Even the most attractive men will not get women if he is not charming and funny. You can't just stand around looking pretty, women will run the opposite way so fast -I remember not even being that attracted to this one guy but once the conversations started rolling out I was super turned on because he stimulated my mind which= mind blowing sex",,0,Educational_Lab_525,1703054342.0 +I remember not even being that attracted to this one guy but once the conversations started rolling out I was super turned on because he stimulated my mind which= mind blowing sex",,0,Educational_Lab_525,2023-12-20 06:39:02 PurplePillDebate,18m20as,"To 35+F, what do you think of men 35+M who went on strike against you?","Online it often says men desire 20s for youth.. but what if that's not always true? What if some? Men? Don't want 20s, and went on strike against the 30s? What do you think of 35+ men (minority?) who choose not to date 30+ women for other reasons? @@ -54128,21 +54128,21 @@ Verdict of Thread: Based on the replies in this thread, a woman will have no acc Once a cheater, always a cheater. They might reflect in their years that they shouldnt have done it because of lost opportunity, but they won't for the life of them reflect on how their actions harm others. -&#x200B;",,0,RevolutionaryJob7908,1702992863.0 +&#x200B;",,0,RevolutionaryJob7908,2023-12-19 13:34:23 PurplePillDebate,18m1qmg,Is it the norm for woman to feel threatened by men in social settins in the US?,"This may sound delusional, and it probably is. But hear me out, I'm having a hard time understanding the US culture. First of all, I'm from Brazil, the sounthern part. I live in a 25k people town. We don't have malls, college, but we do have hospitals, parties and stuff. Growing up, I've heard the narrative of woman being constantly harrased by men, being raped and so on. And I'm going to say, I've never bought into that narrative. Because, where I live, there's just noone of that. I'm being serious, and with all respect to all the people that suffer and suffered with that. I don't think i've heard of a rape case in my city since forever, I'm 23 and never ever in my life remember about a rapist being caught, or escaping the police. Woman go to clubs here, and it's super super normal, they get hit on, they reject, and the guy moves on. I don't recall my girl friends ever telling us a story about a guy getting rejected by them, and the guy getting aggresive, or calling her a slut or whatnot. So it's really weird for me to hear these stores all over the internet, considering we are not more educated, or less monkey-brained, we are more or less the same society. We also have problems, we are not special. I'm not saying woman don't face prejudice here. They get catcalled (to a much less extend, since the city is also small; we also tend to see the same people over the couse of our lives, so ruining your reputation here is a much bigger deal since everyone knows you), they do have stories of guys annyoing them, or being to straight forward about having sex, but it's never the more harsh stories, like rape, or being touched inapropiatelly. -So yeah, my conclusion is, you guys (mostly girls thought) are completelly fucked in the US. Where I live, the Womans only club from some post ago would never work in a million tries. They are just not worried about men harrasing them in those places, drugging them, and most of them would find that boring as fuck, they do enjoy mens company, and some men hitting on them or having a chance. Not for ego boost, but because, well, they like men. Idk what to add, it's such a similar but different reality at the same time.",,0,Audi_fanboy,1702992066.0 +So yeah, my conclusion is, you guys (mostly girls thought) are completelly fucked in the US. Where I live, the Womans only club from some post ago would never work in a million tries. They are just not worried about men harrasing them in those places, drugging them, and most of them would find that boring as fuck, they do enjoy mens company, and some men hitting on them or having a chance. Not for ego boost, but because, well, they like men. Idk what to add, it's such a similar but different reality at the same time.",,0,Audi_fanboy,2023-12-19 13:21:06 PurplePillDebate,18lbrvc,Did any of your grandfathers ever tell you how much better men have it these days in the same way women's grandmothers did?,"Inspired by a comment from r/Cool_Relative7359, I would like to ask the men what your grandfathers told you about relationships, marriage and education.Many of us women have heard the same thing over and over again from our grandmothers and/or sometimes mothers. ""Make sure you have a good education and a good job and a good income, don't be dependent on a man."" Many older women with many children (I'm talking about 4+ children) also say they would never have had so many children if they had had a choice.Did your grandfathers tell you something similar? -Did your grandfathers always remind you how many more options you have these days and how much better everything is?",,40,oneblackcoffeeplease,1702914324.0 +Did your grandfathers always remind you how many more options you have these days and how much better everything is?",,40,oneblackcoffeeplease,2023-12-18 15:45:24 PurplePillDebate,18le97q,Is there a type of man that you would have fun with but not commit too?,"If so, what kind of men? I work out alot and I'm quite muscular. I've been told by some woman that I look like a cheater and that I look the type that goes on alot of dates. @@ -54150,7 +54150,7 @@ Many women have slept with me but won't take things further. This has confused me for a long time. I think that women view me as a ""fuck boy"" and cheater because of how I look. Realistically without not going to the gym and therefore losing muscle.( which I'm not going to do) -Is there anything I can do about this?",,19,knowledgeseeker999,1702920536.0 +Is there anything I can do about this?",,19,knowledgeseeker999,2023-12-18 17:28:56 PurplePillDebate,18lno1g,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -54169,10 +54169,10 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,1702944010.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,2023-12-19 00:00:10 PurplePillDebate,18l1wlr,"Women narcissistically define ""maturity/adulthood"" based on how they tend to behave and ""immaturity/childishness"" based on how men tend to behave.","Toilet/sexual humor, something associated with children and men, is labelled as ""childish/immature"" because women don't like it. Conversely, frequent crying and moodiness, something associated with children and women, is considered perfectly healthy by them. -Another example, a man who doesn't do a lot around the home would almost always labelled as ""childish/immature"" by women, even if he is the primary or sole provider for the family. Conversely, a woman who earns little or no income is does not face the same stigma. This is indicative of devaluing the male role of a provider, and it makes little sense since it's far more common for children to do housework than it is for them to earn money for the household(at least in the west). So if anything earning income is a better indicator of maturity than doing housework.",,52,AI_CODE_MONKEY,1702879854.0 +Another example, a man who doesn't do a lot around the home would almost always labelled as ""childish/immature"" by women, even if he is the primary or sole provider for the family. Conversely, a woman who earns little or no income is does not face the same stigma. This is indicative of devaluing the male role of a provider, and it makes little sense since it's far more common for children to do housework than it is for them to earn money for the household(at least in the west). So if anything earning income is a better indicator of maturity than doing housework.",,52,AI_CODE_MONKEY,2023-12-18 06:10:54 PurplePillDebate,18l6o9v,Whats the most attractive thing a man/woman can say to you?,"For me itd be: 'I will do all the cooking' @@ -54181,12 +54181,12 @@ Jokes aside, itd probably be something along the lines of 'first time experience Can you imagine hearing the opposite of that? 'I did this and that with this other guy' -Been there fam, MVP did not come out to play and i never saw her again",,6,KeyAcan,1702899477.0 +Been there fam, MVP did not come out to play and i never saw her again",,6,KeyAcan,2023-12-18 11:37:57 PurplePillDebate,18lued1,Will Majors take the RP?,"I'm sure some of you have been keeping up with Jonathan Majors and the trial. Now that the verdict is out. Which is equivalent to speeding ticket or accidentally knocking someone down. Will he keep feeding on the BP? Will he Take the RP and escape the matrix? My hope is that he takes the RP, but don't subscribe to any particular ideology that steams from men getting screwed over by the system. Because the RP is a part of that system of control. It's best to walk away from the system. If I were to advise him. Dump Megan Good... Take a nice vacation in a different country. Somewhere not ultra popular or expensive. Dress normal, act normal and find a partner. Initially don't mention anything about your money, fame or riches. After a year or two once she love him for him and not what he has. And he intends to settle down. Then he reveals to her his past. The case and everything. Ask for marriage, but present a PRENUP! Move to a state or country where the law will respect that iron clad prenup. Make sure she has lawyers present when she signs it. -His career is messed, because of a toxic relationship. He wanted a woman who is as classy, respectful and professional as Michelle Obama. But he picked a toxic chick. He can blame no one else but himself. And he needs to take time, accountablily and reflect on his decision.",,0,lovestocomment,1702964099.0 +His career is messed, because of a toxic relationship. He wanted a woman who is as classy, respectful and professional as Michelle Obama. But he picked a toxic chick. He can blame no one else but himself. And he needs to take time, accountablily and reflect on his decision.",,0,lovestocomment,2023-12-19 05:34:59 PurplePillDebate,18kqwjc,Do you think people find you boring?,"The question many times to degrades to “Do I find normies boring” or “I’m bored”. That’s not the question. The question is specifically if you feel other find you boring/uninteresting. @@ -54197,10 +54197,10 @@ What do you bring to people that prevents their boredom with you? What about yo Why would anyone want to know you? -Hopefully positive replies only.",,35,Geselshaft,1702846210.0 +Hopefully positive replies only.",,35,Geselshaft,2023-12-17 20:50:10 PurplePillDebate,18luncp,"Men should be able to ""emotionally cheat""","If you really think about it, as long as it doesn't get physical it's no different from how women will still have guys chasing her even though she is in a relationship. -Like think of it like this: If shit ever hits the fan and your relationship is looking like it's about to end, she has her replacement bf/husband basically ready on call. Meanwhile it's highly unlikely a guy has the same insurance policy, UNLESS he has an emotional affair partner.",,0,Many_Dragonfly4154,1702964958.0 +Like think of it like this: If shit ever hits the fan and your relationship is looking like it's about to end, she has her replacement bf/husband basically ready on call. Meanwhile it's highly unlikely a guy has the same insurance policy, UNLESS he has an emotional affair partner.",,0,Many_Dragonfly4154,2023-12-19 05:49:18 PurplePillDebate,18ktdu2,Is it that bad for a virgin to have to practice?,"There are threads on here about how virgin guys want virgin women who are also virgins, but of course that is very difficult to find. In my personal experience I was forced to hook up with women that were a lot more experienced than I was when first starting out. @@ -54211,10 +54211,10 @@ Then I was able to make a much better impression on new women after that. But it seems a lot of guys want to skip over the practice process, find a woman who is also a virgin, and hope she will be the one and only for him, without any practice beforehand. -Is this not the best or more practical way to go about it, or does the method I chose to do also have its problems as well and isn't necessarily the more practical method? ",,18,harmonica2,1702852870.0 +Is this not the best or more practical way to go about it, or does the method I chose to do also have its problems as well and isn't necessarily the more practical method? ",,18,harmonica2,2023-12-17 22:41:10 PurplePillDebate,18kzpmj,Question for singles: What do you imagine doing in a relationship?,"I'm mildly curious about this so I figured I'd ask. If you're currently single and want a relationship, what is the thing you want most out of a relationship? It can be a specific act or action that embodies a good relationship to you, or an event or object you want to share with someone, or just a goal you want to reach with another person. -I'm genuinely not trying to judge or prove anything here and mostly just curious as to what the results will be.",,5,NockerJoe,1702872159.0 +I'm genuinely not trying to judge or prove anything here and mostly just curious as to what the results will be.",,5,NockerJoe,2023-12-18 04:02:39 PurplePillDebate,18kp4l0,Does anyone else think flirting is so embarrassing?,"Almost every time I see or hear a person initiating a flirtation, whether in real life or in some sort of fiction and no matter what the outcome is, I get a cringe punch. It just seems so cheesy and forced to me, no matter who does it or how they do it. Do women like flirting? @@ -54226,7 +54226,7 @@ I don't remember a single time in my life when I have flirted and just imagining Anyway... Does it happen to anyone else? What do you have to say about this? -",,22,Phantom-H,1702841541.0 +",,22,Phantom-H,2023-12-17 19:32:21 PurplePillDebate,18l7bph,"Women : would you rather be rather be ""forced"" to work or be forced to marry ?","As we all know, women do not need to marry a provider to survive, because they are now free to work and earn money for themselves. However, as it always turns out with neoliberalism, this ""freedom"" to work has now turned into a necessity. @@ -54242,8 +54242,8 @@ But marriage is all about interdependency anyways. You may get a home to buy a h Getting into marriage for « romance » reasons does not remove that risk Do you not want to marry at all then ? Cause marriage implies dependancy to a man in any case. -Final edit : I get it, it's a hard ""no"" from most of you guys, stop downvoting all my comments already, i was just asking question. You're making me lose my hard earned karma points !",,2,Atrass,1702901831.0 -PurplePillDebate,18khxin,Women who are looking for a father not a partner.,There is a group of men who are being taking to task for waiting a mother not a partner when dating. Ultimately I think it is a fair critique. Now there is a good amount of women that are just looking for a father not a partner. I don't see these women getting the same shit that the men do. It is the exact same mindset. Why do you think this is? I am I just missing the criticism?,,62,meisterkraus,1702821635.0 +Final edit : I get it, it's a hard ""no"" from most of you guys, stop downvoting all my comments already, i was just asking question. You're making me lose my hard earned karma points !",,2,Atrass,2023-12-18 12:17:11 +PurplePillDebate,18khxin,Women who are looking for a father not a partner.,There is a group of men who are being taking to task for waiting a mother not a partner when dating. Ultimately I think it is a fair critique. Now there is a good amount of women that are just looking for a father not a partner. I don't see these women getting the same shit that the men do. It is the exact same mindset. Why do you think this is? I am I just missing the criticism?,,62,meisterkraus,2023-12-17 14:00:35 PurplePillDebate,18ktt4h,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -54262,14 +54262,14 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,12,AutoModerator,1702854014.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,12,AutoModerator,2023-12-17 23:00:14 PurplePillDebate,18kl7m8,When does putting your best foot forward become deception?,"https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8usALh7/ Just saw this TikTok of an exasperated woman fed up with males portraying themselves as better men than they really are. She's driving down the street with a megaphone shouting that men need to be more honest about if they suck. This leads me to my question. People always say, *""Just be yourself""* is ostensibly to ensure that the person ends up liking you for who you really are and you don't have to maintain a facade for the rest of your life. But being your basic self, while everyone else is putting their best foot forward will lower your odds of success. -And then there's the new version of, *""Just be your best self""*. But at what point is your best? Unmaintainable over the long term?",,19,Windmill_flowers,1702831113.0 +And then there's the new version of, *""Just be your best self""*. But at what point is your best? Unmaintainable over the long term?",,19,Windmill_flowers,2023-12-17 16:38:33 PurplePillDebate,18lfsf8,Why are redpillers sore about marriage?,"As a purple pill incel I can only speculate as to the mindset of my fucked brothers and sisters. @@ -54328,7 +54328,7 @@ I think this is what rubs redpillers and divorcees the wrong way, outside of any Fact is Bluepill society tries to present marriage as a net benefit for men. And chides redpillers for having a mercenary attitude about it, ignoring the fact that women by default have a mercenary approach to love and relationship. Ignoring the fact that by signing that document they are essentially putting themselves in a weaker position if they are ""higher earning partner"" -It doesn't at all feel like something done in good faith and the paranoids over at redpill will obviously see this a method to extract the most value out of them at the ""plantation"". At that point I canteven blame them. It absolutely feels that way",,0,AdEffective7894s,1702924275.0 +It doesn't at all feel like something done in good faith and the paranoids over at redpill will obviously see this a method to extract the most value out of them at the ""plantation"". At that point I canteven blame them. It absolutely feels that way",,0,AdEffective7894s,2023-12-18 18:31:15 PurplePillDebate,18l0z0y,Why TRP is misguided about 'betabux',"TRP outlines 'betabux' strategies as a strategies that involve providing care and support for women in non-sexual ways. Typically included in the definition is that the individual providing these resources to the woman is who she chooses *when she decides to settle down*. I've stated several times that money/wealth, *at high enough levels*, is second to **none** for men in securing sexual access to *and so-called submission from the opposite sex.* @@ -54357,7 +54357,7 @@ To sum it up: TRP discourages men from developing themselves as people and instead encourages them to develop themselves solely based around one metric that, at best is limited even for the men who have a strong foundation in this domain, and at worst is completely ineffective and counter-productive for men without any real foundation in this domain. -&#x200B;",,0,SeveralLiterature980,1702876452.0 +&#x200B;",,0,SeveralLiterature980,2023-12-18 05:14:12 PurplePillDebate,18kjous,Q4W: Hinting vs. Telling,"I’ve seen a lot of sentiments online about straight women complaining their male partners need micromanaged, usually it’s implied as ‘mothering’ or some such. **Context:** @@ -54375,30 +54375,30 @@ I’m curious what are your experiences with this dynamic, when does communicati Do you tend to drop hints rather than ask directly, if so why do you think you gravitate to that approach? -Has this dynamic caused you to split with your partner?",,6,innovativesolsoh,1702826848.0 +Has this dynamic caused you to split with your partner?",,6,innovativesolsoh,2023-12-17 15:27:28 PurplePillDebate,18lha3o,If the man doesn't like the woman more the relationship will never work out. Youtubers and red pill men need to stop telling women to pursue men. Men hate to be pursued and feel uncomfortable with a woman thirsting after him,"The only way you will truly know if a man is interested if he approaches you and pursues you in a masculine way. If you approach him and pursue him he's going to be all like "" Well i didn't even approach you and you wanted me first."" It's gonna set the tone to the entire relationship. All my friends that have approached men have gotten shot down because that's not the way its supposed to be. The more you like the man the less he likes you. I don't care how many youtubers wanna make the woman approach first.. that's not the way of the world And I don't speak unless i'm spoken to anyways. If he doesn't approach me i assume he doesn't like me. I give hints like smiling and being friendly but i'm not going out of my way to get a phone number from a grown man -You approach him first better believe he's gonna tell all his homies about how thirsty you are after him",,0,Educational_Lab_525,1702927918.0 +You approach him first better believe he's gonna tell all his homies about how thirsty you are after him",,0,Educational_Lab_525,2023-12-18 19:31:58 PurplePillDebate,18k0t9i,How do you explain your dating struggles to your parents?,"I’d really like to know how those of you who haven’t had much success if any in dating (men/women) explain to your parents/family why you don’t have a relationship or haven’t gotten married. I find it particularly difficult because parents just aren’t from our generation and can’t sympathize with the dynamics of society and how it’s affected dating. It’s sad because my parents are old now and my dad wants grandchildren so badly, and I tell him I’m working on it, but I can’t guarantee anything. -I imagine many of you all face the same conversations regularly, what do you say to your parents?",,76,Disruptiionz,1702761248.0 +I imagine many of you all face the same conversations regularly, what do you say to your parents?",,76,Disruptiionz,2023-12-16 21:14:08 PurplePillDebate,18k8ibb,Do most people settle or just have lowly standards?,"Gauging by how easily the average person seems to find a partner (whether the relationship works out is another story), it leads me to conclude that most people either compromise massively most likely from fear of being alone, or don’t ask for much in a partner. Some get lucky of course but naturally that doesn’t apply to most. Even if you’re really outgoing and going out a lot the chances that you’ll meet someone with strong mutual sexual attraction, emotional and moral compatibility and who’s life journey dovetails with yours (who is single and looking to mingle) still seems very slim. -So do you think most people do compromise enormously or drop their standards or what?",,20,StaticNocturne,1702785142.0 -PurplePillDebate,18k6xpb,Do you think that being rich helps men in terms of dating and finding relationships etc? If so do you think this is to do with the status that comes along with it or the lifestyle and wealth?,I’ve seen this debated here many times about whether or not being wealthy helps attract a partners and such but what do you believe is the most attractive part that comes with that the money and lifestyle or the status? Or maybe something completely differently and I understand that this can’t be generalized into one category and is broader than that,,22,gioirginiano,1702779671.0 +So do you think most people do compromise enormously or drop their standards or what?",,20,StaticNocturne,2023-12-17 03:52:22 +PurplePillDebate,18k6xpb,Do you think that being rich helps men in terms of dating and finding relationships etc? If so do you think this is to do with the status that comes along with it or the lifestyle and wealth?,I’ve seen this debated here many times about whether or not being wealthy helps attract a partners and such but what do you believe is the most attractive part that comes with that the money and lifestyle or the status? Or maybe something completely differently and I understand that this can’t be generalized into one category and is broader than that,,22,gioirginiano,2023-12-17 02:21:11 PurplePillDebate,18k2mx9,How do you approach dating knowing full well you’re going into it with your judgement impaired.,"when we have a crush or an attraction, the neurochemical bamboozlement going on in our brains is a biological impetus to perpetuate our species. It shuts down neural pathways to the parts of our brains responsible for judgement. literally. love makes you stupid. yes. it does. not you. everyone. nature has a job to do. why do you guys even trust your brains at all. -does anyone here ever factor this into how they approach dating? if so, how?",,21,Icky138,1702766548.0 +does anyone here ever factor this into how they approach dating? if so, how?",,21,Icky138,2023-12-16 22:42:28 PurplePillDebate,18jvt7j,Women want to split housework and childrearing but don't want to compromise anywhere else,"I see a lot of women complain that guys just see women as a baby making machine or a bang maid on PPD and Feminism. While I agree that both tasks are strenuous and take a toll on the body, they can also bail anytime they want. If they suddenly change their mind about pregnancy, they can drive to an abortion clinic in or out of state and there's pretty much nothing their husband can do about it. @@ -54411,7 +54411,7 @@ They also don't talk about who's spending more on household expenses and who's m https://financebuzz.com/male-vs-female-spending-statistics#:\~:text=According%20to%20Capital%20One%20Shopping,compared%20to%2033.7%25%20of%20men. -If I was getting a child that was biologically mine, a happy relationship that doesn't end in divorce, and sex on demand. I'd split chores 70 / 30, I'm not even kidding. ",,53,NefariousnessMost660,1702747034.0 +If I was getting a child that was biologically mine, a happy relationship that doesn't end in divorce, and sex on demand. I'd split chores 70 / 30, I'm not even kidding. ",,53,NefariousnessMost660,2023-12-16 17:17:14 PurplePillDebate,18l0956,"Men need to stop using Suicide Rates in the ""Oppression Olympics""","Women come online and says ""yada yada patriarchy blah blah, women oppressed, blah blah misogyny""... Scroll to the replies/comments and you will likely see a man respond 🤓: ""Actually we don't live in a patriarchy because men commit suicide more often."" @@ -54450,14 +54450,14 @@ EDIT: damn, I was hoping people would give me valid counters to the points I mad Pathetic... -*Shout out to the few of you who tried to go address my points. ",,0,More-Tax-62,1702873977.0 +*Shout out to the few of you who tried to go address my points. ",,0,More-Tax-62,2023-12-18 04:32:57 PurplePillDebate,18jrpoq,What can autistic guys do to not make women feel like predators?,"I am trying to help my brother who is autistic, get dates more since he wants a relationship and intimacy.  I am autistic as well, and have a gf, so he does look to me for help on the matter. I tried discussing it with some people I know, but it was mentioned that most women would probably not go out with him because they would feel like a predator. But if that's the case, how can an autistic guy not make themselves out to be seem like prey to women, if that makes sense? -It's been talked about here how autistic women have much more success with NT men compared to vice versa. If that's the case, the guys do not feel like predators, so maybe they are in a different headspace, compared to more women more so?",,43,harmonica2,1702734929.0 +It's been talked about here how autistic women have much more success with NT men compared to vice versa. If that's the case, the guys do not feel like predators, so maybe they are in a different headspace, compared to more women more so?",,43,harmonica2,2023-12-16 13:55:29 PurplePillDebate,18l0q09,CMV: women who get offended by toilet humour are not wife material,"I have a pretty disgusting sense of humour and I'm always making crass jokes, my gf is totally okay with it and even joins in sometimes. She keeps this water bottle at night next to her bed so if she gets thirsty she doesn't need to go all the way to the kitchen to get water, but like she puts these dissolvable vitamin tablets in the water and they make it turn into a clear yellow. I always call it her piss bottle, and always joke when she goes to the toilet that she's going to fill up her piss bottle and when she asks me to hand her her bottle, I say here's your ""piss bottle"". She's started calling it her piss bottle as well, its become like a mutual thing, like an in-joke between us. @@ -54466,7 +54466,7 @@ I also sometimes text her when I do a massive crap and she's like ""good job my It's a thing we have, I can't imagine being married to someone I had to censor myself around. I wouldn't be able to treat her like a friend. I wouldn't be able to be myself around her. I'd have to suppress my own personality and sense of self and sense of humour and it would dampen our relationship. She wouldn't be my real soul mate. -there's a co-worker I know, she's a nice lady but she's single, about the same age as me. Even though she's my friend, whenever i be myself and make some disgusting joke about sex or pissing or shitting, she gets all offended and she reminds me that she's not a guy. She's nice but she's going to be single forever, because no man will want to commit to a woman who censors him and who he will have to constantly watch his mouth around. Imagine sitting at home in your underwear and not being able to fart for knowing your wife might get upset. Whereas me I just rip massive farts while my gf is in the bed with me because we have that sort of trusting loving relationship where we don't have to walk on egg shells around each other and she's not a triggered feminist who hates poo and piss jokes",,0,dbz__f,1702875601.0 +there's a co-worker I know, she's a nice lady but she's single, about the same age as me. Even though she's my friend, whenever i be myself and make some disgusting joke about sex or pissing or shitting, she gets all offended and she reminds me that she's not a guy. She's nice but she's going to be single forever, because no man will want to commit to a woman who censors him and who he will have to constantly watch his mouth around. Imagine sitting at home in your underwear and not being able to fart for knowing your wife might get upset. Whereas me I just rip massive farts while my gf is in the bed with me because we have that sort of trusting loving relationship where we don't have to walk on egg shells around each other and she's not a triggered feminist who hates poo and piss jokes",,0,dbz__f,2023-12-18 05:00:01 PurplePillDebate,18jetpg,Sexual deviancy for men is sexual liberation for women,"Imagine there's a man who decides to go out and masturbate on a public beach. He finishes and then goes on about his business. A little bit later the police come to arrest him because a family with children spotted him doing the deed. What are your thoughts? Is this man a sexual predator? Should he be put on a list? If he is shamed across the internet do you think he would be deserving of that? If that man went on to kill himself would anyone care or even question if the police handled it correctly? Most people would say yes. They would label this guy a sexual predator, meme him into oblivion and thing nothing of it. @@ -54475,21 +54475,21 @@ But what if a woman did the same thing. Do you think people would have the same It's a bit insane that the same things that would have a man labeled a predator are the same things that women say is 'sexual empowerment'. If a man flashes his junk at a crowd everyone goes insane. If a woman flashes her junk there's applause. It's become more prevalent with the rise of the prosex-work ideology, that there are A LOT more female predators than we think. There are women who will intentionally advertise and send unsolicited nudes to minors. There are a lot of female content creators with unhealth connections with their male audience. There are women in positions of power taking advantage of boys. -Female predators are largely ignored in society and it's a problem because it allows them to exist in plain sight",,118,FutureBannedAccount2,1702686920.0 +Female predators are largely ignored in society and it's a problem because it allows them to exist in plain sight",,118,FutureBannedAccount2,2023-12-16 00:35:20 PurplePillDebate,18jvh08,FEMINISM WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD,"&#x200B; [Please Join Us on Discord!](https://discord.gg/3aHh4trC7B) Include your reddit username, pill color, age and gender when you arrive in the welcome mat to introduce yourself and help people get to know you. &#x200B; -You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,5,AutoModerator,1702746095.0 +You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,5,AutoModerator,2023-12-16 17:01:35 PurplePillDebate,18koqj8,Men Have Abandoned Women," You see it all the time, all over social media, all over pop culture and in your personal lives, it’s sad to say but the care we once had for women is no longer there, the feminist movement made it very easy for us to further disregard women in at least a spiritual level, the thing that drove men in the past was knowing that we would fight tooth and nail for them, but this drive is gone, it’s very easy to blame women for this change of heart, but I think it’s mostly the fault of us men alone. Ideologies like the red pill teaches us about, distancing ourselves away from women in an emotional level, but it can also be spiritual too, certain attitudes like actively cheating if you are high value enough, is away for us to not bond with women in a spiritual sense, bringing up things like “body count” is a way for us to other women we see as beneath our sensibilities, because valuing sexual purity over acts of forgiveness and solitude. You see we are told women are like an life altering obstacle course, once we finish, there’s a about at least 10 more obstacles to cross, but is it actually true. I think women are and always made in the image of god, they serve a purpose, and it will always be between them and god, when they decide to terminate an unborn child it isn’t our place to decide for them, it’s between them and god, yet we persist in wanting to know everything there is to know about women, and when we get the answer, we still hesitate to accept it, our understanding of women is minuscule at best because we don’t understand them spiritually, like we used to, so we play all of these tired games to see what sticks, calling ourselves freedom fighters and feminists to win their approval, cheating and or taking advantage of them, ridiculing their past sexual behaviour instead of following god’s teachings of forgiveness, shaming ourselves and thinking that we aren’t good enough and following false idols who think they know more than we do, even though we have god on our side. Look if you aren’t religious then this still applies, we abandoned women in a more meaningful level, the meaning is gone, Why? Because we blamed them instead of asking what we could’ve done differently, it’s not about material items, good looks, stoicism, status or money, it’s about the soul. -(Reposted).",,0,Ceazer4L,1702840516.0 +(Reposted).",,0,Ceazer4L,2023-12-17 19:15:16 PurplePillDebate,18klfxh,The Hottest Women Are MILFS,"Having children makes women MORE attractive, not less. It releases hormones which improve fat deposit locations, enlarging the breasts, thighs, and hips. These hormones also enlarge nipples and labia which many men find to be very attractive. It also gives women a special glow. It makes sense because nature is signaling to men that this woman has PROVEN fertility. She’s a fertility goddess. -MILF is the top porn category for a reason",,0,Sabrepill,1702831740.0 +MILF is the top porn category for a reason",,0,Sabrepill,2023-12-17 16:49:00 PurplePillDebate,18k1r5x,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -54508,12 +54508,12 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,2,AutoModerator,1702764011.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,2,AutoModerator,2023-12-16 22:00:11 PurplePillDebate,18j8sfq,How does anyone connect if no one will chase?,"I've noticed that a lot of dating seems to revolve around the idea of neither side looking ""too needy"" which leads to both genders competing to see who can show the least interest in the other. How exactly is that supposed to work? If neither side is allowed to express their feelings, neither side is allowed to chase the other. Then how do people actually.connect? Something has to give and one side or the other has to give ground. But the advice out there is pretty adamant that neither side should express any real interest in the other. -I believe this attitude leads to a lot of confusion and missed connections that could otherwise happen because both sides are so determined to feign disinterest that one party or the other gives up.",,58,Siliconmage76,1702670343.0 +I believe this attitude leads to a lot of confusion and missed connections that could otherwise happen because both sides are so determined to feign disinterest that one party or the other gives up.",,58,Siliconmage76,2023-12-15 19:59:03 PurplePillDebate,18jiemh,Q4M: a woman being a bad ass... Turn on? Or turn off?,"In this video a woman has come to the realization that the guys that she likes tend to have wives and girlfriends who are nothing like her. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8uUdFkM/ @@ -54528,26 +54528,26 @@ Or she has a big ol' pit bull named Kujo Or she rides a fast motorcycle -You get the idea.",,12,Windmill_flowers,1702698414.0 +You get the idea.",,12,Windmill_flowers,2023-12-16 03:46:54 PurplePillDebate,18jqmon,What would you do if you got a girl pregnant by accident?,"If you got a girl pregnant by accident, and you're not that serious yet (as in you're not married/engaged/cohabitating for several years), what course of action do you think you would take? Would you try to convince her to get an abortion? If not, or if she refuses, would you try to stay with her, be a family, and raise the child together, if you liked her enough? Or would you rather maintain your independence and coparent and/or pay child support? -Personally, I think I would probably [bail ASAP](https://i.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/002/054/274/08a.gif). Relocate as far away as I can, and alter my identity as much as possible, because there is no way in hell I'd willingly pay child support for 18+ years for a child that I never wanted if she wants to keep it. I think the very act of making yourself scarce would usually be enough to incentivize the baby momma to terminate the pregnancy or put the baby up for adoption.",,1,AI_CODE_MONKEY,1702731255.0 +Personally, I think I would probably [bail ASAP](https://i.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/002/054/274/08a.gif). Relocate as far away as I can, and alter my identity as much as possible, because there is no way in hell I'd willingly pay child support for 18+ years for a child that I never wanted if she wants to keep it. I think the very act of making yourself scarce would usually be enough to incentivize the baby momma to terminate the pregnancy or put the baby up for adoption.",,1,AI_CODE_MONKEY,2023-12-16 12:54:15 PurplePillDebate,18izd69,Societies response to anger is gender specific and bizarre,"I came across this post on r/AITAH and I just could not believe the response - a woman had a screaming session at her 4 yo and the VAST MAJORITY of comments were questioning what could have possibly caused this mother to yell at her child. Why is it that when men display anger in a relationship, society will tell their partner to run far and fast - basically assuming that they will be the next target of that anger; but when women get angry, it seems everyone goes out of their way to figure out a justification? [AITAH post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/18imgap/aita_for_recording_my_wife_yelling_at_the_kids/) -&#x200B;",,72,Im_Unsure_For_Sure,1702644626.0 +&#x200B;",,72,Im_Unsure_For_Sure,2023-12-15 12:50:26 PurplePillDebate,18j7oc5,Reassuring your partner about fidelity,"How do you guys reassure your partner that you wouldn’t cheat. My gf brings it up occasionally asking hypothetical questions like “what if a better girl than me hit on you” my only response is that I’d probably become self conscious and try to escape because I’m shy. Lately because of her mother’s fatal medical conditions her father has been touting to his friends he’ll find a young woman the moment she passes. I think it contributes to her feelings. For me dating is so exhausting that if this relationship ends I probably won’t converse with any women I like for like 5 years because life is too busy currently, I jump jobs every 6 months, I’m a year away from my masters in CS, and I have partial ownership of 2 software adjacent businesses that are finally starting to finally see my time investment from awhile ago pay off which is incredibly motivating. -I know she won’t miss a single Tom holland film and my face looks like a mirrored image of his. While she will sometimes get the impression I don’t find her attractive unless I say romantic stuff daily like “your cosmetics skillfully compliments your face”, “your fine feathers make a fine bird”. To me that feels superfluous yet she likes it and I just steal them from Hollywood anyways.",,16,oddkidmatt,1702667309.0 +I know she won’t miss a single Tom holland film and my face looks like a mirrored image of his. While she will sometimes get the impression I don’t find her attractive unless I say romantic stuff daily like “your cosmetics skillfully compliments your face”, “your fine feathers make a fine bird”. To me that feels superfluous yet she likes it and I just steal them from Hollywood anyways.",,16,oddkidmatt,2023-12-15 19:08:29 PurplePillDebate,18jxg5p,"Women generally don't consider a mans potential, and this is causing unhealthy imbalances in the dating market","My last thread had some issues breaking things down so I'll try again. Credit to CustomerSeparate949, OtPayOkerSmay, Dark_Knight2000, Purple_Cruncher_123. Lets try this again without the numbers. [quoting Purple] @@ -54629,7 +54629,7 @@ By doing these things, women can increase their chances of having a healthy and  TO CLARIFY I AM SAYING ACTIVE POTENTIAL NOT RESTING -Active potential for self-improvement is like when you're really motivated and taking action to make yourself better. It's when you're full of energy and actively working towards your goals. For example, let's say you want to learn how to ride a bike. Active potential would be when you're practicing every day, trying new techniques, and putting in a lot of effort to improve.",,0,AFuzzyMuffin,1702751610.0 +Active potential for self-improvement is like when you're really motivated and taking action to make yourself better. It's when you're full of energy and actively working towards your goals. For example, let's say you want to learn how to ride a bike. Active potential would be when you're practicing every day, trying new techniques, and putting in a lot of effort to improve.",,0,AFuzzyMuffin,2023-12-16 18:33:30 PurplePillDebate,18j976k,Is the hope of a relationship more important than the relationship itself?,"From the perspective of average and below average guys (genetically average) it seems as if most guys settle early on for the idea that they need to get a career, be a nice person and somewhere down the line their sexual needs will be met. The idea seems to be that once you find 'the one' a rock will come off your shoulders and you can finally settle in the bliss of mutually satisfying sexual activity and validation. Is this image borne out by the facts though? Are couples really happy? If getting a relationship is not the answer, is the hope of one the one thing that's more precious than the relationship in itself? @@ -54640,9 +54640,9 @@ So I may have softly challenged the point about sexually dismissive relationship Are relationships a consolation prize for average guys? Like doing your best to get a bronze medal? -In a relationship it seems like the guy does not suddenly get chad treatment after the proverbial dragon has been slain but he's just barely keeping his head above the water. Now with that said once he gets over the hump of being completely alone it seems as if his male optimism and hormonal infatuation with not being completely alone makes up for a lot. ",,10,MacaronFinancial,1702671426.0 -PurplePillDebate,18j47cx,What do men want from women in a relationship?,I know it’s different for everyone for how would you answer this question for the general population. I’ve asked people this before but I usually get told something very vague,,19,Jessica_Rabbit69,1702658304.0 -PurplePillDebate,18jj3l3,What's the point of a long term serious relationship for a man?,"Besides an ego boost and constant sex, What's the point of a woman in a man's life? Can any married man give me examples of how a woman consistently benefits your life? ",,1,Lower-Director1043,1702700776.0 +In a relationship it seems like the guy does not suddenly get chad treatment after the proverbial dragon has been slain but he's just barely keeping his head above the water. Now with that said once he gets over the hump of being completely alone it seems as if his male optimism and hormonal infatuation with not being completely alone makes up for a lot. ",,10,MacaronFinancial,2023-12-15 20:17:06 +PurplePillDebate,18j47cx,What do men want from women in a relationship?,I know it’s different for everyone for how would you answer this question for the general population. I’ve asked people this before but I usually get told something very vague,,19,Jessica_Rabbit69,2023-12-15 16:38:24 +PurplePillDebate,18jj3l3,What's the point of a long term serious relationship for a man?,"Besides an ego boost and constant sex, What's the point of a woman in a man's life? Can any married man give me examples of how a woman consistently benefits your life? ",,1,Lower-Director1043,2023-12-16 04:26:16 PurplePillDebate,18ja4x0,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -54661,10 +54661,10 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,5,AutoModerator,1702674012.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,5,AutoModerator,2023-12-15 21:00:12 PurplePillDebate,18ju0m8,"From a cold, practical perspective isn't women's emancipation bad for society if it leads to low birth rates","Whenever birth rates are brought up, people often cite women's emancipation and women's education as one of the core reasons why people are having fewer kids. -Lets ignore the morality of the situation for a moment. Lets also ignore modem technology. Lets assume there is a medieval society with medieval technology. From a practical perspective aren't reduced birth rates horrible? How can a society survive if there are more old than young people? Who will even work or fight or take care of the elderly? Therefore doesn't it make sense that only patriarchal societies survived?",,0,Novel-Tip-7570,1702741943.0 +Lets ignore the morality of the situation for a moment. Lets also ignore modem technology. Lets assume there is a medieval society with medieval technology. From a practical perspective aren't reduced birth rates horrible? How can a society survive if there are more old than young people? Who will even work or fight or take care of the elderly? Therefore doesn't it make sense that only patriarchal societies survived?",,0,Novel-Tip-7570,2023-12-16 15:52:23 PurplePillDebate,18jqjtx,"Alpha and Chad are just security blankets and when combined with ""the Wall"" fantastical wish fulfillment of some kind of cosmic justice doled to women; there is no such thing","tl;dr * The alpha male and Chad security blankets and means vicarious fantasy wish fullfilment of the two main pills are keeping a lot of men from being effective in their romantic lives. @@ -54732,13 +54732,13 @@ So, just trust me that the reality of nature and the natural dynamic between men Most every story you read about Alpha or Chad regarding effortless this, women approach that in hagiographic terms **is incomplete**. I've even heard a few of them from the women (before the deep dive) regarding their husbands, only to later discover that that was just the tip of a very big iceberg. . -",,0,SeveralLiterature980,1702730962.0 +",,0,SeveralLiterature980,2023-12-16 12:49:22 PurplePillDebate,18javwv,"The ""as long as you enjoy it that's all that matters"" attitude towards how people spend their free time is a contributor to the rise in loneliness in society.","I don't think this is exclusively a dating issue but I do think how it relates to social structures makes it relevant for this sub. I get that people say this to be encouraging and there is value in that but the fact of the matter is that there are other things to consider than ""do you like it"" when talking about how we spend our free time. The unspoken underlying logic of this sort of attitude is that nothing really has particularly attributes that make them important and this sort of quasi-nihilistic approach is a problem. People form community around things because those things have value and rejecting that idea for the sake of saying a nice platitude is short sighted and not good for society. It's fine to do these things in moderation but there is a prevailing attitude that there is no meaningful difference between say watching some tv show episode you have seen3 times already and learning to play an instrument and joining a group to jam with or a sports team or whatever. -The fact is there are lots of enjoyable activities that offer little to nothing to build meaning out of, and when we pretend there is no difference between those that do and those that don't we destroy the opportunities on which people from community and in doing so create a society that orients itself towards mass loneliness.",,3,AwayEmotion1234,1702675985.0 -PurplePillDebate,18izszb,Are there more lonely men or lonely women?,"When people talk about loneliness and struggles with dating, especially in these spaces, it's mostly talking about from the perspective of lonely men. People seem to assume that men struggle more with dating than women. It seems that many people in this space assume that loneliness is only or mostly a male issue. I've often heard the ""men are dying of thirst in a desert, women are dying of thirst in an ocean"" metaphor. I'm interested to hear people's thoughts on this topic, especially from people who disagree with the idea that men struggle with loneliness more than women. ",,18,SmoothForest,1702646026.0 +The fact is there are lots of enjoyable activities that offer little to nothing to build meaning out of, and when we pretend there is no difference between those that do and those that don't we destroy the opportunities on which people from community and in doing so create a society that orients itself towards mass loneliness.",,3,AwayEmotion1234,2023-12-15 21:33:05 +PurplePillDebate,18izszb,Are there more lonely men or lonely women?,"When people talk about loneliness and struggles with dating, especially in these spaces, it's mostly talking about from the perspective of lonely men. People seem to assume that men struggle more with dating than women. It seems that many people in this space assume that loneliness is only or mostly a male issue. I've often heard the ""men are dying of thirst in a desert, women are dying of thirst in an ocean"" metaphor. I'm interested to hear people's thoughts on this topic, especially from people who disagree with the idea that men struggle with loneliness more than women. ",,18,SmoothForest,2023-12-15 13:13:46 PurplePillDebate,18isx02,Q4W: For those who have experienced this - why do males approach less nowadays?,"Online dating has been around for 20+ years. Tinder is more than a decade old. But it seems like in the last... 6 years or so there's been a dramatic decrease in males approaching women. So it can't JUST be online dating... https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8u8G1se/ @@ -54747,7 +54747,7 @@ In this tiktok video, a woman is on a treadmill with text overlayed about how sh I'm wondering what other ladies think has caused males to approach in person less often? -(COVID lockdowns and social distancing aside)",,43,Windmill_flowers,1702618585.0 +(COVID lockdowns and social distancing aside)",,43,Windmill_flowers,2023-12-15 05:36:25 PurplePillDebate,18ise6x,Does anybody else feel ostracized from their supposed genders “nature”,"This is genuinely a question I’ve wanted to ask for a while since I’m been on this subreddit because I have never found anyone ( man or woman ) who is similar to me in this sense yet. What I mean by my title is, does anyone else feel like they don’t fit at all into the supposed “nature” of their gender? @@ -54760,7 +54760,7 @@ These “pill” debates rely so heavily on the true nature of the genders, but I feel ostracized from the female community because I’m not like them and from the male community because they immediately assume I’m a stereotypical woman. -It’s very frustrating. It makes me feel like I can’t find a partner because I’m not like a woman should be. I need to know if others have this experience",,20,chickensaucenugget,1702616681.0 +It’s very frustrating. It makes me feel like I can’t find a partner because I’m not like a woman should be. I need to know if others have this experience",,20,chickensaucenugget,2023-12-15 05:04:41 PurplePillDebate,18j6uep,Does my dating story mean other guys can have hope?,"I don't mean to tell this story to discourage anyone but to encourage and have hope. @@ -54770,21 +54770,21 @@ My dating life got much better in my 30s and I have a gf now. We are both autis But since I managed to find one that did and since also how before that in my 30s dating got better for me anyway, does this mean that the red pill is correct for when making me to the 30s and a lot other guys can look forward to it as well? -Perhaps this will be a positive looking forward with confidence for other guys compared to being anxious that it won't work better for them later on?",,0,harmonica2,1702665182.0 +Perhaps this will be a positive looking forward with confidence for other guys compared to being anxious that it won't work better for them later on?",,0,harmonica2,2023-12-15 18:33:02 PurplePillDebate,18id593,"Why do guys take it personally when women see them as a safe option, when guys end up marrying those options as well?","It seems to me that there are a lot of comments here from guys who say that they resent how women see them as a safe option because they failed to lock down the super hot and rich guys. But don't guys do this too?  I have some guy friends who used to go after much hotter women, who were probably a lot more sexually adventurous, but then after failing to lock them down, they end up with a partner who is much more good girl-ish and more plain and vanilla. -So if this is common for guys as well, then how come they resent it from women, if we are all doing it, so to speak?",,63,harmonica2,1702573263.0 +So if this is common for guys as well, then how come they resent it from women, if we are all doing it, so to speak?",,63,harmonica2,2023-12-14 17:01:03 PurplePillDebate,18idif1,Q4W: Do women truly believe men want to remain friends with them?,"A while back I went on a date and everything was fine and we planned a second date until she ghosted. Weird but not unexpected. 6-7 months later I decided to try out IG and she adds me from my number. I ask why she’s adding me after ghosting and she explains she saw my message, thought she replied and was waiting for me to reply. She noticed the next day she didn’t respond, and thought I’d be mad so instead decided to not respond at all. She ends by saying “i actually started seeing someone else but I would still like to be friends with you!” I replied that I was not interested in that, and she says “oh wow. Can I ask why? I thought we got along well” to which I didn’t respond. I’ve always replied no to this question because In high school I learned it’s just a social platitude which benefits the woman. But now that I say no it’s always met with genuine surprise. This friendship makes no sense to me because the personality You like is based on romantic interest not platonic friendship. -Do women truly think men want to remain friends after rejection? Or do you just expect them to say yes just for appeasement then let the relationship die?",,48,FutureBannedAccount2,1702574224.0 +Do women truly think men want to remain friends after rejection? Or do you just expect them to say yes just for appeasement then let the relationship die?",,48,FutureBannedAccount2,2023-12-14 17:17:04 PurplePillDebate,18j0xwv,Women are the ones slowly destroying the dating market without knowing," Keep these value numbers in mind. @@ -54830,19 +54830,19 @@ A 6 locked down who grows into 7 can be a tamed 8. But a 7 who is single will be I think the message of equality of men and women, and women’s current dating strategy of wanting 7s and higher is what is causing this issue, where men get far too high after years of being “invisible” and is causing the dating market to implode slowly. -Women have more value from birth however, once a man his 7 for his age/race/location I think the game is just over. Men have far too many levers to improve at overall and gain exponentially through levels, women have multiplicative value from looks, personality, and small interests.",,1,AFuzzyMuffin,1702649391.0 +Women have more value from birth however, once a man his 7 for his age/race/location I think the game is just over. Men have far too many levers to improve at overall and gain exponentially through levels, women have multiplicative value from looks, personality, and small interests.",,1,AFuzzyMuffin,2023-12-15 14:09:51 PurplePillDebate,18iqi9p,Would you date a women who has lost a significant amount of weight?,"Let’s say 110lbs/50kgs For some men this may be a turn off considering massive weight loss can result in loose skin and stretch marks. While other may not care or see it as a strength in character. -What’s your thoughts on this?",,7,Icequeen343,1702610389.0 +What’s your thoughts on this?",,7,Icequeen343,2023-12-15 03:19:49 PurplePillDebate,18i5s9t,When did small penis become synonymous with insecure?,"I lost my virginity when I turned 20. It was mostly lacklustre, but one aspect that stood out as memorable was the fact that she kept saying I was well endowed, even when we weren't having sex. The thing that was interesting though, was how she seemed surprised; as if having a large penis didn't match my personality. For perspective, I was incredibly socially awkward, shy, never even kissed a girl before her. It was like she expected that a guy with a big dick must inherently also be confident and assured of himself in all metrics of life. As I get older, I notice this same attitude prevalent among the majority of women. If a guy has no self confidence and is incredibly anxious around women - or conversely, if a guy is TOO arrogant in a way where he seems to overestimate his capacity as a man, he is deemed as having 'Small Dick Energy'. On the flip side, if a guy has a chill, laid back demeanour, and a natural air of confidence in himself, he has ""Big Dick Energy"". -To me, this is almost a laughable concept. Why can't guys with massive dicks be insecure loud 'desperate to prove something' guys? Why can't guys with small dicks be completely well adjusted and secure in their masculinity? Do women really think our penis size correlates with our confidence in every facet of life, or is it just some type of fun guessing game?",,125,Salt-Echo-7867,1702549917.0 +To me, this is almost a laughable concept. Why can't guys with massive dicks be insecure loud 'desperate to prove something' guys? Why can't guys with small dicks be completely well adjusted and secure in their masculinity? Do women really think our penis size correlates with our confidence in every facet of life, or is it just some type of fun guessing game?",,125,Salt-Echo-7867,2023-12-14 10:31:57 PurplePillDebate,18ilzq5,"Women Ages 25-30 that are still in the dating scene, has anything changed with how you approach dating?","Can you start by saying your age, and if you have kids as that might affect your dating life some. There has been the same conversation over, and over, and over again of people judging women on their dating preferences. @@ -54860,19 +54860,19 @@ To my fellow men: I feel like the same thing happens with some guys, but some gu Cuz regardless of gender if you can score an 8 overall, instead of a 5, then why wouldn't you go for it? Why are we judging others for trying to get the best? I consider myself a 7, and I just go for what I can get, and try to do my best. However if I see a 10, and she's not interested, I'm not gonna be salty she chooses another 10 to be with. -(Not talking about the ladies that lead guys on, that's a separate issue, I'm talking about the ones that are straight up and reject you, why are y'all mad?",,9,LastBlackSamurai99,1702596751.0 +(Not talking about the ladies that lead guys on, that's a separate issue, I'm talking about the ones that are straight up and reject you, why are y'all mad?",,9,LastBlackSamurai99,2023-12-14 23:32:31 PurplePillDebate,18ioasy,What do women think of men who have cosmetic surgery done?,"Do women typically think positively, neutrally or negatively toward men who have cosmetic plastic surgery done, with the main intent of improving their looks? I recently had a hair transplant to fill in my widows peaks and built a full hairline as well as a reduction rhinoplasty for a more proportionate nose. One of my female friends said that she thinks plastic surgery is “modifying your true self” and wouldn’t date a guy if she knew he had procedures done. -Thoughts from other women?",,5,Disruptiionz,1702603489.0 +Thoughts from other women?",,5,Disruptiionz,2023-12-15 01:24:49 PurplePillDebate,18iaswa,Child support at conception gaining support [Unborn Child Support Act],"Multiple states are tossing around the idea, mostly red states I think. The main argument against it is “how do we know he’s the father?”. There’s two options: Option 1: A prenatal paternity test. It can be done at 7 weeks (https://americanpregnancy.org/paternity-tests/non-invasive-prenatal-paternity-test/) Option 2: The ability to sue for damages after birth if they paternity test is negative. -It would ultimately benefit the child, so they can get good quality prenatal care.",,41,Jessica_Rabbit69,1702566833.0 +It would ultimately benefit the child, so they can get good quality prenatal care.",,41,Jessica_Rabbit69,2023-12-14 15:13:53 PurplePillDebate,18idi7o,"Q4M: What do abusive, manipulative women's standards look like? Like manipulative men, do they seek out vulnerable and desperate men, like the ""lonely male"" crisis types of men?","By manipulative and abusive, I mean someone who is possessive and controlling of their partners. Someone who gets angry at their partner doing anything outside of the relationship (e.g. having friends) or having the mildest disagreements (e.g. having a different opinion on what music is good). Someone who always puts their partner down to feel superior. Someone who even becomes physically and sexually abusive. You probably find this familiar when you hear people talking about abusive partners. When manipulative partners are talked about, typically in the context of manipulative men, they are said to be predators in the sense that they purposely seek out women who are vulnerable and easy to manipulate. The type of women to cling on to anyone that shows them any affection. Additionally, if she has a weak social circle she's far less likely to get out of the relationship. After all, the ""partner"" that they want is specifically someone they can manipulate. In other words, manipulative and abusive men's ""standards"" look something like this: @@ -54888,17 +54888,17 @@ I ask this because part of the ""lonely male"" crisis is that many men, as a res But at the same time, I don't hear lonely men reporting that abusive women are preying on them for someone to control: rather, they tend to report getting *zero* female attention, regardless of whether we're talking attention from good natured women or from abusive, ill-intended women (or anything inbetween). -So given the above, do you believe that manipulative and abusive women, when seeking out partners, would go for lonely men? Just like manipulative men look at lonely women and think ""she'd be great because I now have someone whose life I can take over"", do manipulative women look at lonely dudes and think ""nice, I have someone to abuse""? If not, how are manipulative women's standards different from manipulative men?",,22,brilliant22,1702574208.0 +So given the above, do you believe that manipulative and abusive women, when seeking out partners, would go for lonely men? Just like manipulative men look at lonely women and think ""she'd be great because I now have someone whose life I can take over"", do manipulative women look at lonely dudes and think ""nice, I have someone to abuse""? If not, how are manipulative women's standards different from manipulative men?",,22,brilliant22,2023-12-14 17:16:48 PurplePillDebate,18icwoe,Is “That’s just the way it is” a more valid answer than we’d like it to be?,"I think one of the greatest leaps I made in terms of my relationship with women happened when I absolved myself of the need to perfectly understand them. In fact, I think you can go very far in life once you stop demanding logically consistent, reasonably sound behavior from others *all the time.* Humans aren’t perfect, and we definitely aren’t consistent in our behaviors. Why? Hell if I know—and that’s okay. How could anyone expect logical behavior from an animal with emotions built into their wiring? When there are countless permutations of nature *and* nurture that influence an individual’s thought processes and worldview? I like reading about dating and relationships as much as the next guy, but if I actually tried to derive some kind of consistent, ironclad conclusion about dating behaviors—perhaps the most emotionally dominated aspect of the human psyche—I’d go mad. Considering the fact that we can spend weeks going back and forth about the same topic (staring in gyms, cold approaching in public, makeup for self vs. others, etc.), I think some of you have gone mad trying to find answers. -I know this is a debate sub and some people here expect answers all the time. But in my experience the best answer sometimes is a big ol’ shrug. You’ll get better sleep at night and, ironically, understand more once you realize there’s a lot about people that isn’t for you to understand. Maybe even the quality of debate will improve once you stop trying to find conclusions and settle for acceptance of no conclusion.",,21,TotalTravesty,1702572629.0 +I know this is a debate sub and some people here expect answers all the time. But in my experience the best answer sometimes is a big ol’ shrug. You’ll get better sleep at night and, ironically, understand more once you realize there’s a lot about people that isn’t for you to understand. Maybe even the quality of debate will improve once you stop trying to find conclusions and settle for acceptance of no conclusion.",,21,TotalTravesty,2023-12-14 16:50:29 PurplePillDebate,18ihh0z,Is it generally obvious when a guy is attracted to you?,"Obviously there are some guys that can hide it well, but I think these men are the minority. Would you say, based on your experiences, that it's pretty obvious when a guy likes you beyond just a friend? -Would you also say, based on experience, that men on average are far worse at picking up on signals of your attraction?",,10,OtPayOkerSmay,1702584719.0 +Would you also say, based on experience, that men on average are far worse at picking up on signals of your attraction?",,10,OtPayOkerSmay,2023-12-14 20:11:59 PurplePillDebate,18i7ljh,Robot and AI girlfriends,"I constantly see so many posts on this sub about AI and robot girlfriend being the future of dating. When i read the comments many people in the sub believe that this will somehow level up the playing field in dating or it will be a threat to women. @@ -54926,10 +54926,10 @@ Here is what i think will happen: 6. lastly the anger, envy , jealousy and the feeling of not measuring up will also be worse then it currently is -",,35,GeneralFig6053,1702556993.0 +",,35,GeneralFig6053,2023-12-14 12:29:53 PurplePillDebate,18i6cwk,"Do you feel that growing up in strict, religious environments makes men lack confidence?","When I think about it, every male preacher’s kid I know has struggled with dating. Every guy that grew up strict similar to me seemed to lack confidence as well. -Do you think there’s a correlation or causation?",,30,FullLifeguard,1702552260.0 +Do you think there’s a correlation or causation?",,30,FullLifeguard,2023-12-14 11:11:00 PurplePillDebate,18ih7c3,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -54948,12 +54948,12 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,4,AutoModerator,1702584010.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,4,AutoModerator,2023-12-14 20:00:10 PurplePillDebate,18i6gye,"What exactly do you mean when you accuse men of ""stringing women along for sex"" ? Can you give examples of this behavior?","I have seen women frequently accuse promiscuous men of ""stringing women along"", or ""manipulating women for sex"", or something along those lines. Often times it seems to be the default assumption when it comes to promiscuous men that habitually have casual sex. There is very little elaboration on what exactly he is done that is deceptive, or manipulative. In the absence of such elaboration, it sounds very much like a sense of entitlement to commitment. -**So can you give examples of this behavior? Hypothetical examples are fine, but examples from personal experience or what you've heard from others are ideal. Be as descriptive as possible.**",,18,AI_CODE_MONKEY,1702552743.0 +**So can you give examples of this behavior? Hypothetical examples are fine, but examples from personal experience or what you've heard from others are ideal. Be as descriptive as possible.**",,18,AI_CODE_MONKEY,2023-12-14 11:19:03 PurplePillDebate,18hxey7,Mandatory Paternity Test protect children's mental health [repost under new flair],"After reading this article, I'm not sure how anyone can say paternity fraud does not impact the children who are also victims. This further supports mandatory tests at birth. ""I was devastated to learn that I didn't have this biological connection to my dad, like I had assumed I had my whole life,"" Laratta says. @@ -54964,20 +54964,20 @@ I'm sure many of the detractors in this sub would proclaim that these fathers wh https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2023/12/13/ancestry-dna-horror-stories/71833478007/ -When people say mandatory tests are for the good if the children, it is preventing the long term mental anguish that can result from this discovery.",,53,jay10033,1702518602.0 +When people say mandatory tests are for the good if the children, it is preventing the long term mental anguish that can result from this discovery.",,53,jay10033,2023-12-14 01:50:02 PurplePillDebate,18hx89t,Older men have lots of baggage too.,"Lots of people talk about older women having baggage, but i see very little talk of older men having baggage. Older men have their share too of baggage too. Divorces and , drama, kids and that's just the tip of the iceberg. -I'd go as far as to say that most younger women don't want to be saddled with such baggage, especially during their early 20s, the prime of their life. Why deal with a 40+ divorcee with a bunch of kids (and likely drama) in the prime of your life?",,47,Professional-Cow8913,1702518047.0 +I'd go as far as to say that most younger women don't want to be saddled with such baggage, especially during their early 20s, the prime of their life. Why deal with a 40+ divorcee with a bunch of kids (and likely drama) in the prime of your life?",,47,Professional-Cow8913,2023-12-14 01:40:47 PurplePillDebate,18hovwk,"Woman who complain about ot being able to find a ""good man"" just have very high standards","My neighbor was whining for years about how she would never get married and have kids. Suddenly at 38, she gave a chance to a coworker who had been flirting with her for years. Boom, now she's married with 3 kids. She's not particularly fit or good-looking, just ann average, chubby woman. I know fat, single mothers who find nice, average men with no problem. -Women who complain about not finding a good man just have high stadards. They don't just want an average guy. They want someone who makes as much as they do or more, someone who is tall, someone who is ""a leader"" etc. ",,139,Novel-Tip-7570,1702495620.0 +Women who complain about not finding a good man just have high stadards. They don't just want an average guy. They want someone who makes as much as they do or more, someone who is tall, someone who is ""a leader"" etc. ",,139,Novel-Tip-7570,2023-12-13 19:27:00 PurplePillDebate,18hysr7,what do women gain from being in a relationship with men if they’re seen as valueless after 25?,"this question is more for redpill men but many men, especially men in the redpill community constantly talk about how women 25+ are “used up” and how they only want women 18-24, so what is in it for women to date a man if he’s just going to see her as losing value when she inevitably ages? it just seems counterproductive to me to say this kind of thing because if anything it’ll turn women off dating men. -a lot of people say it’s because of their “biological imperative” but that seems like bullshit to me because especially these days, people more often than not have kids in their late 20s - early 30s, which debunks the myth of women not being able to have healthy pregnancies when they’re past 25.",,15,girlnextdoor_cassie,1702522864.0 +a lot of people say it’s because of their “biological imperative” but that seems like bullshit to me because especially these days, people more often than not have kids in their late 20s - early 30s, which debunks the myth of women not being able to have healthy pregnancies when they’re past 25.",,15,girlnextdoor_cassie,2023-12-14 03:01:04 PurplePillDebate,18hhuha,Guy asks girl who switches up the deal to leave. Subreddit goes wild.,"Just came across this recent post on a popular sub (pasted below). The comments are a mix of calling the guy an asshole or ""not the asshole BUT..."" Thought it would make for an interesting discussion. @@ -54990,7 +54990,7 @@ I've been hanging with this girl (28F) for a few weeks now. We met at a club aft I came back home from a business event at around 9pm a few days ago and I texted her to come over. She came over and we talked for a little bit and I went in to kiss her and she moved away. I made a few advances and she rejected all of them and I asked her what's wrong. She said that I only hit her up when I want sex. I said yeah, that was exactly what we agreed on. We literally had a conversation saying that we will only see each other for sex and we both agreed that was the best thing. She said how she wanted to be more to me than just a hole to put my dick in and wanted to have a conversation. -We talked for a bit about life and it was just awkward at that point. It was getting late so after talking for about half an hour, I asked her if sex was on the table at all and she said no. I asked her to leave if she didn't want to do anything and she kept calling me an asshole for it until she eventually left. I don't see how I can be the asshole here. She knew what it was. If she wanted something more or got attached, she could've just called me and said something without coming over to my apartment at night.*",,139,nippydart,1702477275.0 +We talked for a bit about life and it was just awkward at that point. It was getting late so after talking for about half an hour, I asked her if sex was on the table at all and she said no. I asked her to leave if she didn't want to do anything and she kept calling me an asshole for it until she eventually left. I don't see how I can be the asshole here. She knew what it was. If she wanted something more or got attached, she could've just called me and said something without coming over to my apartment at night.*",,139,nippydart,2023-12-13 14:21:15 PurplePillDebate,18hlnek,What is a the bitter truth for men about dating over 30,"So I'm in my mid 20's and nowhere near where I want to be in life, physically, socially and professionally. I'm also not the most genetically gifted guy, below average in looks, short, thinning hair lol. I pretty much know where I stand in the dating market which is not even in it at all. Realistically, it would take me until I'm 30 if not more to get to a point where I can be at least a bit desirable. I've been doing the ""self improving"" thing for 2 years, and I see progress in each department, more or less, but the rate is simply too slow and I don't think I'll actually enjoy what will be left of my 20s if I'll have to grind for the entirety of it. @@ -55005,8 +55005,8 @@ That's a lot of questions I asked, so if you're not motivated to dive into each Thanks. -Edit: title contains an error and i can't correct it, sorry",,65,Pacman124,1702487430.0 -PurplePillDebate,18hlcg1,Advice for unsuccessful men in romance vs advice for financially unsuccessful people and incel rhetoric vs socialist rhetoric,"Why does the advice given to men usually resemble advice given to financially unsuccessful people so often? Men are basically told to pull themselves up by their bootstraps more or less when it comes to dating, which seems logically consistent if it's advice being given by someone who's financially conservative? But this advice is frequently given to those men by people who are socialists, and essentially believe the economic world is completely rigged against them, which is basically what incels seem to believe about the dating world. Financially conservative people will tell young people struggling with money to not spend so much on avocado toast and Funko pops, and the vast majority of reasonable young people will be infuriated by this advice, or think it's hilarious. But then people will give equally useless advice to young men struggling with dating, like shower more, or simply be more confident.",,53,bossman505,1702486686.0 +Edit: title contains an error and i can't correct it, sorry",,65,Pacman124,2023-12-13 17:10:30 +PurplePillDebate,18hlcg1,Advice for unsuccessful men in romance vs advice for financially unsuccessful people and incel rhetoric vs socialist rhetoric,"Why does the advice given to men usually resemble advice given to financially unsuccessful people so often? Men are basically told to pull themselves up by their bootstraps more or less when it comes to dating, which seems logically consistent if it's advice being given by someone who's financially conservative? But this advice is frequently given to those men by people who are socialists, and essentially believe the economic world is completely rigged against them, which is basically what incels seem to believe about the dating world. Financially conservative people will tell young people struggling with money to not spend so much on avocado toast and Funko pops, and the vast majority of reasonable young people will be infuriated by this advice, or think it's hilarious. But then people will give equally useless advice to young men struggling with dating, like shower more, or simply be more confident.",,53,bossman505,2023-12-13 16:58:06 PurplePillDebate,18hssba,More women (unfortunately) have to accept financial responsibilities if dating/relationships will ever fix itself. [Repost],"When I say accept responsibilities I mainly mean a mindset change. Women can earn damn good wages today and generally prefer their partner to make much more money than them. I am not arguing with the reasons, but rather stating a fact. However, as women become more successful collectively, finding men that make much more than them and wants a LTR gets difficult. I can acknowledge that people with similar or average wages get together all the time, but that's not what she wants. I genuinely think many see it as settling, even if the men make the same amount or heavens forbid less. One of the top reasons for divorce being financial reasons just means the man didn't make enough, or in other words he doesn't make enough to compensate for lack of x. @@ -55015,12 +55015,12 @@ I personally think men should be the one to make more too, but we can't ask for Being indifferent (within reason) towards people in dating would fix a lot of problems. This can apply to other factors like height or social status of course too. -This was inspired by a a convo with a female friend who's making 150k+ in our early/mid twenties and requiring that a guy our age makes just as much or more + is 6'2.",,19,HimNeutron,1702505725.0 +This was inspired by a a convo with a female friend who's making 150k+ in our early/mid twenties and requiring that a guy our age makes just as much or more + is 6'2.",,19,HimNeutron,2023-12-13 22:15:25 PurplePillDebate,18hlng9,"“Self Worth” is a silly concept. Your worth is determined by others, not you.","Often times people will say platitudes such as “you need to improve your self worth”, “be confident” etc. Your worth isn’t determined by you, it’s determined by how much people value you. Try and walk into a company and say “I’m worth 500k”, and see how they react. Try and sell a shitty bike for two thousand dollars and see how much your idea of it’s worth goes. -I’m happy to hear any ideas opposing this view, as I’d like it to not be the case.",,35,HTML_Novice,1702487433.0 +I’m happy to hear any ideas opposing this view, as I’d like it to not be the case.",,35,HTML_Novice,2023-12-13 17:10:33 PurplePillDebate,18i04mr,General question: how do you feel about your SO ‘acting things out’ with an artist/singer on stage?,"The reason why I ask this is because I saw a video of a woman grinding on some latin singer on stage, and the comment section had quite a bit of a heated discussion. I figured it would be an interesting topic to bring up, especially since everyone has their own limits on what they’re okay with their partner doing. @@ -55031,7 +55031,7 @@ Of course, it is worth noting that while this happens far more commonly with mal Speaking for myself, i’m okay with some performance but there is a limit - ex. flirtatious and more innuendo based stuff is okay (ex. an artist holding a girl’s hand, giving eye contact then kissing her hand (Cirice’ing as an example), or Yung Gravy feeding women in the crowd beef jerky, i wanna say? in a suggestive way) is totally okay with me (ngl probably encouraged cause it is a part of the show), but something outwardly sexual like grinding is where i start to have problems. -where does everyone else stand?",,3,KayRay1994,1702527212.0 +where does everyone else stand?",,3,KayRay1994,2023-12-14 04:13:32 PurplePillDebate,18hbu2h,"""Filtering out fuckboys"" is a really dumb excuse for expecting men to pay for nice dinner dates","If you're really that concerned you can just make them wait for sex. Time is valuable, and if a man is just looking to get his dick it's doubtful he will tough it out, especially if he isn't ugly and has options. Expecting men to pay for nice dinners is nothing short of parasitism. And it's not an insignificant expense either, since a full meal with drinks at a nice restaurant for one is easily $60+ in most of the US. @@ -55043,11 +55043,11 @@ And I highly doubt the women here who say things ""if you don't like it then don 1. *Offer to split if she's not interested in seeing him again* 2. *Pay for future dates, or at least make a genuine offer to do so, if she is interested* -*How many women do you know that consistently do these things?*",,119,AI_CODE_MONKEY,1702454254.0 +*How many women do you know that consistently do these things?*",,119,AI_CODE_MONKEY,2023-12-13 07:57:34 PurplePillDebate,18heixq,Being Social does NOT Help Lonely Men in Dating (CMV),"Just as the title says. Using myself as an example, I have not problems being social or connecting with people or friends - never have. I’ve always been outgoing and I have an expansive friend-group, so much so that I often decline opportunities because it’s too much. That has never been an advantage dating though. No matter how many people I meet, connect with, befriend, it has never led to success with dating. At all. -This is a rebuttal to the constant crap spewed by BPers and most women anytime an LVM expresses ire toward his situation: “just get a hobby!” “Touch grass!” “Make friends!” It does not work, and still requires a bunch of superficial BS in order to even attract a woman to begin with, let alone hold and/or maintain her interest.",,63,JDWhiz96,1702465955.0 -PurplePillDebate,18hv7ov,Does Consuming Pop Culture Influence Your Dating Preferences?,"When it comes to dating I think women might be influenced, by certain pop songs, movies, TV or books, they're these stereotypes within these stories about a certain guy that comes by once in a while, and just changes the perspective of the main protagonist, you see it in a tone of rom-coms like 10 Things I Hate About You, Bridget Jones Diary, My Best Friends Wedding or How To Lose A Guy in 10 Days, you know the ""nice guy"" trope or the every man. These films have a certain narrative about relationships, that a lot of women like to watch and might actually follow in real life, these fantasies are also targeted at men as well, like the Manic Pixie Dream Girl trope, a women who is different from the rest and is willing to accept you no matter what you might look like or might have, (could be wrong on that but, correct me if I am) these pieces of media are designed to cater to our deepest insecurities, but is it happening at an equal pace, are men as influenced by pop culture as women are in dating?, look at some of the biggest female pop singers and what they're saying in their lyrics, look at some of the biggest novels or watch some of the biggest rom-coms, most of them target women as a main demographic, now men can also be influenced by pop culture in other ways, I don't think it's trough dating at least as much as women but I could be dead wrong on this, I don't want to generalize so please feel free to call me out, does pop culture influence, your dating preferences in men? ",,6,Ceazer4L,1702512143.0 +This is a rebuttal to the constant crap spewed by BPers and most women anytime an LVM expresses ire toward his situation: “just get a hobby!” “Touch grass!” “Make friends!” It does not work, and still requires a bunch of superficial BS in order to even attract a woman to begin with, let alone hold and/or maintain her interest.",,63,JDWhiz96,2023-12-13 11:12:35 +PurplePillDebate,18hv7ov,Does Consuming Pop Culture Influence Your Dating Preferences?,"When it comes to dating I think women might be influenced, by certain pop songs, movies, TV or books, they're these stereotypes within these stories about a certain guy that comes by once in a while, and just changes the perspective of the main protagonist, you see it in a tone of rom-coms like 10 Things I Hate About You, Bridget Jones Diary, My Best Friends Wedding or How To Lose A Guy in 10 Days, you know the ""nice guy"" trope or the every man. These films have a certain narrative about relationships, that a lot of women like to watch and might actually follow in real life, these fantasies are also targeted at men as well, like the Manic Pixie Dream Girl trope, a women who is different from the rest and is willing to accept you no matter what you might look like or might have, (could be wrong on that but, correct me if I am) these pieces of media are designed to cater to our deepest insecurities, but is it happening at an equal pace, are men as influenced by pop culture as women are in dating?, look at some of the biggest female pop singers and what they're saying in their lyrics, look at some of the biggest novels or watch some of the biggest rom-coms, most of them target women as a main demographic, now men can also be influenced by pop culture in other ways, I don't think it's trough dating at least as much as women but I could be dead wrong on this, I don't want to generalize so please feel free to call me out, does pop culture influence, your dating preferences in men? ",,6,Ceazer4L,2023-12-14 00:02:23 PurplePillDebate,18ho969,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -55066,7 +55066,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,10,AutoModerator,1702494013.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,10,AutoModerator,2023-12-13 19:00:13 PurplePillDebate,18howii,Why is a mixture of masculine and feminine energy more attractive than one or the other?,"I have noticed in myself and others the following: I find women who are mostly feminine, with some masculine traits. I want a woman who can make her own way in the world, uses her body and strength correctly like being able to lift things, work with her hands etc. Also a woman that is slightly assertive with a touch of aggression. She shouldn't just run to her man for everything. @@ -55081,7 +55081,7 @@ If my view is universal, why is it that we find a mixture of these traits attrac Does a couple where the man is 100% masculine, and the woman is 100% feminine belong to a Disney movie rather than real life? -&#x200B;",,6,Consistent-Gur6932,1702495666.0 +&#x200B;",,6,Consistent-Gur6932,2023-12-13 19:27:46 PurplePillDebate,18h0szo,One of the smartest comments on here recently really resonated with me about the current social environment,"""I think the loneliness of men today is from society being isolated overall (more women are lonely today too as a result). The best way to meet people are situations where you are exposed to the opposite sex in no pressure situations and you see the same people over and over again over time so relationships can organically happen. That doesnt happen alot now."" - u/HighestTierMaslow This resonated with me as I feel this is more of my experience. When I look back at my life, the main problem I had(still have) is an inconsistent social environment to meet single women. I manage several people, many of which are in different parts of the US, India or the Phillipines. Many of the guys I work with are in arranged marriages and know nothing about women. I never really meet new people organically and it puts a lot of pressure on having either instantly gratifying looks or personality. Hence a lot of focus on PUA, game, instagram cred or PEDS/Steroids. @@ -55090,8 +55090,8 @@ Instant gratification based environments (Dating Apps, Night Clubs, Bars etc) fo It's hard for those who have access to these environments (read: normies) to see those who don't, hence we kinda talk past each other. Women can still navigate their sexuality in these environments for the most part, but many guys are struggling. Really smart comment by u/HighestTierMaslow as it highlights why many normal seeming guys are struggling with women. This is complicated the fact that the development of instant gratification based attraction (i.e. PEDS, Steriods, game, PUA) is heavily frowned upon and seen as taboo. Social norms are heavily pushed (honestly, kindness, leadership, ""looks don't matter"") that may have worked in a previous environment (i.e. non-instant gratification based) no longer work as the socioeconomic context for that environment has severely eroded. -&#x200B;",,77,GuaranteeThin4918,1702424042.0 -PurplePillDebate,18h004y,Better to lie to Women than be honest,It's better to lie to women than be honest. People generally do things that are beneficial for them. Women tell men to be honest because it's beneficial for them yet not beneficial for Men. For example if most Men became honest and let Women know they only want sex upfront. Many men would be lonely that otherwise would have had a partner or a friends with benefits. In rare circumstances an honest person is rewarded. However the pain it takes to get to that one reward is not worth it.,,74,YtBlue,1702422563.0 +&#x200B;",,77,GuaranteeThin4918,2023-12-12 23:34:02 +PurplePillDebate,18h004y,Better to lie to Women than be honest,It's better to lie to women than be honest. People generally do things that are beneficial for them. Women tell men to be honest because it's beneficial for them yet not beneficial for Men. For example if most Men became honest and let Women know they only want sex upfront. Many men would be lonely that otherwise would have had a partner or a friends with benefits. In rare circumstances an honest person is rewarded. However the pain it takes to get to that one reward is not worth it.,,74,YtBlue,2023-12-12 23:09:23 PurplePillDebate,18i69fl,Lying to Women is okay,"This is for men. I am honest with women but I am actually attractive and being honest helps me filter out low-interest women. @@ -55110,10 +55110,10 @@ Whatever the people say, do it and stop giving a f\* &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,0,Otherwise_Possible2,1702551857.0 +&#x200B;",,0,Otherwise_Possible2,2023-12-14 11:04:17 PurplePillDebate,18h77id,"Passportbros, s*x tourists, or s*xpats of Reddit, did dealing with women overseas mess up your view of women in your own country?","If you're a passportbro, s+x tourist, or s+xpat, does dealing with attractive women overseas mess up your standards for women in your own country? -If you deal with beautiful pleasant women overseas, will you become less willing to settle for ugly or unpleasant women in your own country?",,12,ilike18yoblackpussy,1702437442.0 +If you deal with beautiful pleasant women overseas, will you become less willing to settle for ugly or unpleasant women in your own country?",,12,ilike18yoblackpussy,2023-12-13 03:17:22 PurplePillDebate,18hy5kd,Would you allow your husband to sleep with other women?,"Let's say you meet a guy, and he's everything you want: tall, handsome, wealthy, a provider, kind, masculine, add X quality you like, etc... He is the top of the top in terms of SMV/RMV percentile. The Chadliest Chad. A once in a lifetime opportunity. He is willing to provide for you unconditionally and let you be a SAHM without a care in the world. However, there are stipulations to being with him: @@ -55123,29 +55123,29 @@ However, there are stipulations to being with him: 3. He will never have children outside of the relationship 4. You have to stay faithful -Would you consent to this type of relationship? Why or why not?",,0,Ayaka_Simp_,1702520887.0 -PurplePillDebate,18gq5n5,Men raised by single mothers are the worst kinds of men to date,Mother son enmeshment is a real thing. It is common in men with single mothers. The single mom does not have her own husband so she treats her son like a husband. She will treat her son’s girlfriend like an enemy because she is jealous. She will criticize her son’s girlfriend. The son has been manipulated to put his mom’s need before his wife’s needs. He will date who his mom likes not who he loves. These men have problems with relationships and lots of other unhealthy problems. So many times I see couples with relationship problems it stems from the man’s mother. So many mother in laws treat their daughter in laws like trash. They are misogynists at heart. Agree or disagree?,,82,Training_Evidence416,1702399295.0 +Would you consent to this type of relationship? Why or why not?",,0,Ayaka_Simp_,2023-12-14 02:28:07 +PurplePillDebate,18gq5n5,Men raised by single mothers are the worst kinds of men to date,Mother son enmeshment is a real thing. It is common in men with single mothers. The single mom does not have her own husband so she treats her son like a husband. She will treat her son’s girlfriend like an enemy because she is jealous. She will criticize her son’s girlfriend. The son has been manipulated to put his mom’s need before his wife’s needs. He will date who his mom likes not who he loves. These men have problems with relationships and lots of other unhealthy problems. So many times I see couples with relationship problems it stems from the man’s mother. So many mother in laws treat their daughter in laws like trash. They are misogynists at heart. Agree or disagree?,,82,Training_Evidence416,2023-12-12 16:41:35 PurplePillDebate,18h06ws,Are most women demisexual?,"Demisexual definition: experiencing sexual feelings and attraction only after developing a close emotional relationship and not on the basis of first impressions, physical characteristics, etc. -Do you think this accurately describes heterosexual women's sexual feelings towards men? Discuss.",,19,SmoothForest,1702422909.0 +Do you think this accurately describes heterosexual women's sexual feelings towards men? Discuss.",,19,SmoothForest,2023-12-12 23:15:09 PurplePillDebate,18gknqo,"To most women, a ""real man"" is a man who caters to them and is easy to control.","*""Its simple to analyse this vicous circle: women invent rules, manipulate men to obey them, and so dominate the male sex. Ofcourse these rules in no way apply to women themselves. The male sense of honour for example, is a system invented by women who loudly exempt themselves from it. They renounce the concept of honour and, as a result, manipulate men"".* - Esther Vilar The truth is men have been manipulated from birth (by their mothers and preschool teachers) to view and treat women a certain way which (in the west atleast) benefits women and they use this to their advantage in their relationships with men. Men even judge their own value based on their usefulness to a woman. Most men's ideas of masculinity were given to them by women, so the man women see as masculine is just a result of their manipulation. -Interestingly enough, Esther Vilar received death threats from both men and women when she wrote about all this in 'The Manipulated Man'.",,106,Agreeable-Moment-760,1702383664.0 +Interestingly enough, Esther Vilar received death threats from both men and women when she wrote about all this in 'The Manipulated Man'.",,106,Agreeable-Moment-760,2023-12-12 12:21:04 PurplePillDebate,18h6rrb,Sex on the first date is a good first step to a relationship,"I’ve never had a serious relationship that didn’t start with a hookup or sex on the first date. I can think of only one time where I’ve had a second date after a non-sexual first date. There wasn’t a third. The most common date for me is inviting a girl over to my apartment and cooking a nice meal. I get flirtatious and touchy as we’re cooking and that leads to sex. Another common date for me is going hiking to somewhere secluded. I’ll find a quiet bench where we can makeout. -I’m honestly very confused when people say that they want coffee shop dates, a visit to a museum, or a local festival as a date. To me all those options are too noisy and not romantic at all. I feel they’re more appropriate for couples.",,6,oaklandddy,1702436121.0 +I’m honestly very confused when people say that they want coffee shop dates, a visit to a museum, or a local festival as a date. To me all those options are too noisy and not romantic at all. I feel they’re more appropriate for couples.",,6,oaklandddy,2023-12-13 02:55:21 PurplePillDebate,18gutvx,simple solution,"There's so much talk about male loneliness epidemic in men. How are so many men saying they are lonely and think the first solution is a romantic relationship ? what happened to male friendships ? family relationships ? sibbling relationships ? Pets ? i can honestly say if i wasnt in a relationship right now i would not be lonely as i'm comfortable being alone and i have a great friends group , great family and i also have my 2 cats. -&#x200B;",,20,GeneralFig6053,1702411124.0 +&#x200B;",,20,GeneralFig6053,2023-12-12 19:58:44 PurplePillDebate,18gujkz,What made you join the red pill?,"Genuinely curious as was there any specific incident in anyone's life which kinda made them join the red pill. Also from what I realized after staying in this sub for a little long is that red pill has it's classifications too. One category, for example, has already transcended from the rage phase and is now in the acceptance phase where they're starting to improve and work on themselves. Another category is still kinda in the rage phase and having certain kind of ideologies and theories (mostly similar to the Fresh and Fit podcast or Just Pearly Things on YouTube). So from which category do you belong and why did you join in the first place? -Edit : Okay since some people are saying this, I don't know much about red pill other than what I learnt from surfing on certain subs and YouTube, so it's a given I don't know how to apply the right terminology in certain cases. I'm thankful to peeps for correcting me on the fact that we don't actually exactly ""join"" The redpill. So keeping that in mind I'll just rephrase my question as to what made you interested in or follow the Red pill and in which phase of the red pill you currently relate with? ",,19,[deleted],1702410401.0 +Edit : Okay since some people are saying this, I don't know much about red pill other than what I learnt from surfing on certain subs and YouTube, so it's a given I don't know how to apply the right terminology in certain cases. I'm thankful to peeps for correcting me on the fact that we don't actually exactly ""join"" The redpill. So keeping that in mind I'll just rephrase my question as to what made you interested in or follow the Red pill and in which phase of the red pill you currently relate with? ",,19,[deleted],2023-12-12 19:46:41 PurplePillDebate,18gt6jg,Dating Apps Are a disaster for Relationship,"Dating Apps Are a Disaster for Relationships but A GoldMine for Hookup ( if you are a woman or a good-looking man). Dating apps force the user to enter a ""consumption mode"" where people become disposable. @@ -55178,12 +55178,12 @@ As a woman, if your expectations rise too high, then your expectations won't be &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,20,Otherwise_Possible2,1702406951.0 +&#x200B;",,20,Otherwise_Possible2,2023-12-12 18:49:11 PurplePillDebate,18h6501,Is it true that most women think guys won't take them seriously until after they are 25?,"I am asking women this, but I totally welcome guys' answers as well. When guys say that women in their early 20s won't take relationships seriously because they are going through their 'hoe phase' women on here will respond by saying things like why should I go for a guy in my early 20s, when he will just dump me once I turn 25... However, is this true how most women think though, and they feel that they cannot take a relationship seriously if they are below 25 because they feel they will get dumped, and feel that if they are past 25, then the right guys will see them differently and take them seriously? -And is this true, and women are totally correct in this when it comes to most guys?",,4,harmonica2,1702434315.0 +And is this true, and women are totally correct in this when it comes to most guys?",,4,harmonica2,2023-12-13 02:25:15 PurplePillDebate,18glch9,is hyper-individualism ruining our relationships?,"Hyper-individualism refers to the idea that an individual is in complete control of their life and circumstances. It is the prioritization of the individual over the collective. In interpersonal relationships, this often manifests as a ""what can they do for me"" and ""no one owes you anything"" mentality. It is only natural to want a reciprocal relationship. Still, in the past few years, it seems like many people want to take from a relationship without giving anything in return. And everyone wants their needs met as fast as possible. Social media is full of examples of this. Women stating to never date a man who doesn't spend a minimum amount of money on the first date. Men saying to never date a woman unless she has sex with you within a certain time frame. In this framework, no one considers reciprocity and communication. @@ -55192,9 +55192,9 @@ So why is this happening? My guess is that society as a whole is becoming less empathetic as modern life becomes more fast-paced and disconnected. In [this interview](https://www.apa.org/news/podcasts/speaking-of-psychology/empathy-narcissism) with a psychologist who specializes in empathy and altruism, it was mentioned that empathy levels have been on the decline in the past few decades. There is also some evidence correlating social media usage with decreased empathy and increased narcissism. -Whatever the reason is, it's clear to me that a hyper-individualistic view of relationships is harmful because of how superficial it is. If you are focused on getting your immediate needs met instead of focusing on the long-term happiness of yourself and others then you will end up with superficial relationships that will not fulfill you. In my opinion, fulfilling relationships won't always be easy but they are fulfilling because they contain a mutual give-and-take. Today, it seems that people completely prioritize their hyper-individuality by leaving relationships as soon as there is an issue. Not only does this harm the other person in the relationship, but it also harms the individual because they are denying themselves future happiness by prioritizing momentary happiness (Note: I'm not referring to issues of abuse here).",,53,hannahg000,1702386059.0 +Whatever the reason is, it's clear to me that a hyper-individualistic view of relationships is harmful because of how superficial it is. If you are focused on getting your immediate needs met instead of focusing on the long-term happiness of yourself and others then you will end up with superficial relationships that will not fulfill you. In my opinion, fulfilling relationships won't always be easy but they are fulfilling because they contain a mutual give-and-take. Today, it seems that people completely prioritize their hyper-individuality by leaving relationships as soon as there is an issue. Not only does this harm the other person in the relationship, but it also harms the individual because they are denying themselves future happiness by prioritizing momentary happiness (Note: I'm not referring to issues of abuse here).",,53,hannahg000,2023-12-12 13:00:59 PurplePillDebate,18hu25i,Why do men say women have high standards?,"I hear this statement everywhere. Judging by myself and my female social circle none of us are waiting for “Prince Charming”. We all have different preferences but one consistent thing is that we want at least mildly successful men. Not super rich but someone who’s created a comfortable life for themselves. Besides being a decent person that’s what we want in a nutshell. -I don’t have a height preference (or even a race preference) but I tend to date men taller than me. I’m 5’7. Because what man is trying to date a woman taller than him? People complain about women’s height preference but men also have that. Most men don’t want to date a woman taller than him so really the feeling is mutual.",,0,Jessica_Rabbit69,1702508995.0 +I don’t have a height preference (or even a race preference) but I tend to date men taller than me. I’m 5’7. Because what man is trying to date a woman taller than him? People complain about women’s height preference but men also have that. Most men don’t want to date a woman taller than him so really the feeling is mutual.",,0,Jessica_Rabbit69,2023-12-13 23:09:55 PurplePillDebate,18gbauf,"""No one owes you anything"" is another battle women are going to lose","Feminism at this point is mostly a series of battles fought ostensibly on behalf of women that have resulted in a pretty unbroken string of losses. The latest battle more or less centers around what role feminism or women should have in addressing issues facing men in society. The feminist answer is resoundingly: none. Which is fine, path of least resistance. @@ -55245,8 +55245,8 @@ Internalization of hegemonic masculinity norms, along with gendered masculine-d IN sum -Beyond the illogic of the assertion, the rather than cold tone and casual dismissal of the plight of loneliness men are facing could and likely will go down in history as a ""let them eat cake,"" moment.",,199,SeveralLiterature980,1702348147.0 -PurplePillDebate,18gu8tn,Does Chivalry Still Work in the 21st Century?,"My last relationship was like 2017, I’m what you would call a neanderthal when it comes to modern dating, but what I do know is even back then holding doors, bringing flowers and giving coats, just didn’t improve my dating life. Now it got me noticed, but it just didn’t improve or tarnish, my relationships it was met with an “awww that’s nice thank you” so I ask you girls this, do you still believe chivalry works in a dating climate as war torn as this, I may be out of the loop for like 5 years but it just doesn’t seem like, how it was in our parents/grandparents days, chivalry really does seem super dead, but they’re some women who persist in saying it’s still around or that it still works, does it? I mean even in depictions of modern dating like in books, movies, music and TV it’s no where to be seen, but I want to leave this up to you guys, does chivalry still work in the 21st Century?",,7,Ceazer4L,1702409643.0 +Beyond the illogic of the assertion, the rather than cold tone and casual dismissal of the plight of loneliness men are facing could and likely will go down in history as a ""let them eat cake,"" moment.",,199,SeveralLiterature980,2023-12-12 02:29:07 +PurplePillDebate,18gu8tn,Does Chivalry Still Work in the 21st Century?,"My last relationship was like 2017, I’m what you would call a neanderthal when it comes to modern dating, but what I do know is even back then holding doors, bringing flowers and giving coats, just didn’t improve my dating life. Now it got me noticed, but it just didn’t improve or tarnish, my relationships it was met with an “awww that’s nice thank you” so I ask you girls this, do you still believe chivalry works in a dating climate as war torn as this, I may be out of the loop for like 5 years but it just doesn’t seem like, how it was in our parents/grandparents days, chivalry really does seem super dead, but they’re some women who persist in saying it’s still around or that it still works, does it? I mean even in depictions of modern dating like in books, movies, music and TV it’s no where to be seen, but I want to leave this up to you guys, does chivalry still work in the 21st Century?",,7,Ceazer4L,2023-12-12 19:34:03 PurplePillDebate,18gs12a,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -55265,7 +55265,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,1702404016.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,2023-12-12 18:00:16 PurplePillDebate,18glabp,It is better to be desired than tolerated?,"Would you rather be desired or tolerated? How long should you take to assess if a person truly desires you? @@ -55288,7 +55288,7 @@ This is also interesting, these lists of requirements that women have on Dating So anyway, begging for what you desire is not going to work. Desire cannot be negotiated. So whatever your vetting limit is, say 3 dates. After that, if a person does not create desire, then NEXT them. Why waste your time and resources on a person that does not desire you. Remember, if a person is just using you, they probably won't desire you. -Its the same if you are with a person being intimate (kissing, cuddling, etc), as no means no when it progresses to sex. It is best to just stop what your doing, blow out the candle, switch on the lights and respect their wishes. Begging for sex dos not work. Desire cannot be negotiated. Pushing for sex is just begging really.",,15,[deleted],1702385866.0 +Its the same if you are with a person being intimate (kissing, cuddling, etc), as no means no when it progresses to sex. It is best to just stop what your doing, blow out the candle, switch on the lights and respect their wishes. Begging for sex dos not work. Desire cannot be negotiated. Pushing for sex is just begging really.",,15,[deleted],2023-12-12 12:57:46 PurplePillDebate,18gn0ho,explaining the women are wonderful effect: from the perspective of mating strategies,"note: mods recently told me to post this again after it was shot down if you're male, we generally feel a compulsive need to imagine that women are victims, women need our rescuing, women are more caring and that this makes women wonderful. because we generally want to be ""the good guy"" or the noble knight who rescues her and gets a kiss at the end of the day and gets called a gentleman. if we don't have agency in the story, if we grant her agency, then we fear that we stop being relevant at all, we fear that we disappear and go extinct if we become background characters because most of us know what it's like to be invisible to women. to be laughed at is to become irrelevant. to become irrelevant is to be left on the sidelines and die out. **the man's estimation of the woman's agency and competence doesn't have to be accurate, it's done this way to meet a psychological need.** @@ -55307,7 +55307,7 @@ and due to this competition aspect, we men understand at least subconsciously th and if you're female: you also find this arrangement convenient, because women's strategy as a group is generally to disregard upholding moral standards for individuals in favor of demanding the most concessions you can get as a group! pro lifers and pro choicers both team up to blame men for disagreeing with their respective stances, right wing and left wing women both come together to claim victimhood at the hands of men like it's a trophy, and even when you expect them to disagree, they're all suddenly on team woman and they'll all defend the best and the worst among them alike as if they're possessed by a hivemind. it's why we have millions of male feminists and very few female MRAs. **when there's a man in the room, women of all stripes are suddenly a chorus, even if the chorus is in disharmony and have the collective rhythm of broken glass and screaming cats.** -men don't do this: men are willing to throw punches at their own gender. why? it's not because men are a morally upstanding bunch. it's because as i said, the women are wonderful effect is due to a subconscious need to imagine that women are this way and that all bad behavior can be blamed on some easily-scapegoated men. **this is not a necessarily conscious thought process, however.**",,9,coping_man,1702391052.0 +men don't do this: men are willing to throw punches at their own gender. why? it's not because men are a morally upstanding bunch. it's because as i said, the women are wonderful effect is due to a subconscious need to imagine that women are this way and that all bad behavior can be blamed on some easily-scapegoated men. **this is not a necessarily conscious thought process, however.**",,9,coping_man,2023-12-12 14:24:12 PurplePillDebate,18gaag9,Men who sleep around hate women who sleep around more than incels,"So I know the Internet loves to drag incels as sexless losers who hate women and judge them based on body count, but I believe men who sleep around and have high body counts themselves are the ones who hate and judge women more. I will say incel men do RESENT women more, but they want to love women, they just can’t get them. @@ -55318,7 +55318,7 @@ Where as high body count men, just hate women, use women, and discard women like They are also the men most obsessed with a woman’s body count and the ones who trust women the least because they are projecting their own behavior patterns and transactional nature on to the women they date. -So I feel like a lot of hate directed at incels over body count discourse should be redirected at the man whores who hate and use women",,77,d4rkw3b5,1702345109.0 +So I feel like a lot of hate directed at incels over body count discourse should be redirected at the man whores who hate and use women",,77,d4rkw3b5,2023-12-12 01:38:29 PurplePillDebate,18ga051,Men and women are far more similar than they want to admit.,"Women try to portray themselves as functionally asexual and only interested in emotionally fulfilling sex as a side of a relationship. Men brag about themselves as the opposite - unless they're trying to pretend otherwise for a woman. Both parties usually know whats up. @@ -55333,11 +55333,11 @@ Romantically, both men and women - sexually active or not - suffer from feeling I think alot of men's comments about ""modern women,"" passport bros, etc are really just ways to find a sufficiency masculine way of expressing ""I can't find anyone to have an emotional and intimate connection with."" Which is the same complaint women have. -If men and women acknowledged this things, everyone could find their experiences affirmed without pitting the genders against each other.",,43,EternalBrowser,1702344220.0 +If men and women acknowledged this things, everyone could find their experiences affirmed without pitting the genders against each other.",,43,EternalBrowser,2023-12-12 01:23:40 PurplePillDebate,18ghtax,How detrimental are mismatched libidos in relationships?,"Men and women have naturally mismatched libidos since the average man is much hornier than the average woman. Even when women are ovulating they don't get to the same level of what an average man feels every day.. But i wonder, is it even that important? -Discuss.",,5,Sibito,1702372110.0 -PurplePillDebate,18g1gbq,"Do You Think It’s A Good Idea, To Split The Gym By Gender?","I’ve seen a tone of viral videos, on TikTok of women trying to catch men creeping, or lingering around, while they’re in the middle of a set, some of these are highly exaggerated like some dude, just literally walking passed minding his own business, and the gym girl films him, trying to ratio him on TikTok. Joey Swoll responds to some of the exaggerated examples, you’ll see online sometimes, but they’re some girls, I know who aren’t to keen on going to the gym because men will try to advance or linger around them. Now I offered a solution, let’s split the gyms by gender, and do it for most gyms, they disagreed saying the problem is men and I said okay if the problem’s men then let’s split the gyms, I for one like the idea of having more male only spaces and I’m sure women would like they’re shared space too, clearly the gym isn’t working out as a shared gendered space, so let’s split it up, what do you think?",,40,Ceazer4L,1702322042.0 +Discuss.",,5,Sibito,2023-12-12 09:08:30 +PurplePillDebate,18g1gbq,"Do You Think It’s A Good Idea, To Split The Gym By Gender?","I’ve seen a tone of viral videos, on TikTok of women trying to catch men creeping, or lingering around, while they’re in the middle of a set, some of these are highly exaggerated like some dude, just literally walking passed minding his own business, and the gym girl films him, trying to ratio him on TikTok. Joey Swoll responds to some of the exaggerated examples, you’ll see online sometimes, but they’re some girls, I know who aren’t to keen on going to the gym because men will try to advance or linger around them. Now I offered a solution, let’s split the gyms by gender, and do it for most gyms, they disagreed saying the problem is men and I said okay if the problem’s men then let’s split the gyms, I for one like the idea of having more male only spaces and I’m sure women would like they’re shared space too, clearly the gym isn’t working out as a shared gendered space, so let’s split it up, what do you think?",,40,Ceazer4L,2023-12-11 19:14:02 PurplePillDebate,18gau0y,“Discussion” vs “Debate”,"There seems to be some confusion about what these flairs mean. A discussion post is a neutrally titled post that simply presents information or asks a question. Examples of discussion posts would be presenting studies or articles that you don’t have an opinion about but is relevant to the topics of this subreddit, or asking a Q4PPD where you want others opinions, views, or life experiences. Based on the temperament of this subreddit, these will likely be lower in quantity than debate posts. @@ -55346,20 +55346,20 @@ Debate posts are non-neutrally titled posts, where you state an opinion and expe Additionally, incorrectly flairing a debate post as discussion is also considered circlejerking, and will be moderated. This can include post removal, post banning, and full banning depending on severity. -I’m going to pin over the n-count weekly post so people can read this. Feel free to continue to discuss n-count below.",,8,milquetoastmf,1702346745.0 -PurplePillDebate,18fuys1,Would you date a woman who left-swiped you on a dating app?,"Let's say you meet a woman irl and hit it off. You both like each other and want the relationship to progress. Later, she mentions seeing you on Tinder before meeting. But she left swiped because she didn't find you attractive, but after meeting you in person, she feels differently and likes you. What is your reaction? Are you flattered? Upset? Indifferent? Would you continue the relationship?",,39,Ayaka_Simp_,1702302597.0 +I’m going to pin over the n-count weekly post so people can read this. Feel free to continue to discuss n-count below.",,8,milquetoastmf,2023-12-12 02:05:45 +PurplePillDebate,18fuys1,Would you date a woman who left-swiped you on a dating app?,"Let's say you meet a woman irl and hit it off. You both like each other and want the relationship to progress. Later, she mentions seeing you on Tinder before meeting. But she left swiped because she didn't find you attractive, but after meeting you in person, she feels differently and likes you. What is your reaction? Are you flattered? Upset? Indifferent? Would you continue the relationship?",,39,Ayaka_Simp_,2023-12-11 13:49:57 PurplePillDebate,18fkayi,men only dislike ‘hookup culture’ when they can’t participate in it,"change my mind. i’m a guy, i empathise with most of the male concerns on this sub, but let’s just be honest here. when i was on a hot streak, i wasn’t complaining about hookup culture. i only had an issue with it when i had a girlfriend, or i had situationship drama. -nobody who participates in hookup culture ever complains about it",,305,likeitusedtobe,1702262514.0 +nobody who participates in hookup culture ever complains about it",,305,likeitusedtobe,2023-12-11 02:41:54 PurplePillDebate,18fwx0d,One major issue with dating apps: they keep everyone in their comfort zones.,"Dating apps have a lot of issues; the superficial nature of them, the lack of ‘vibes’ you get from a person and an inability to create spaces where people grow on each other - one issue that i don’t often see talked about though? the fact that they keep everyone in their comfort zones. -When you’re on a dating app (with the intention to actually get into a relationship, not hookup), you’re looking for someone who you think might be a good fit for you - problem is? we’re often uniformed on what that ‘good fit’ is. It isn’t about meeting someone, figuring out who they are and trying to make your similarities/differences work. It’s about having a preconceived notion of what you think you might want and running entirely based on that - and our own ideas of that are partly based off where we’re at in our lives, and this goes doubly so when we’re in unhealthy or turbulent spaces. On top of this, we develop ideas of whether someone is a fit based off what you conclude via their profiles vs your inherent biases tied to these conclusions. In other words, you’re making huge judgment calls on people based off pictures and blurbs, and assuming whether they fit your image of what you might want based on that notion alone. You even start judging people on, frankly, medial shit like their taste in music, whether their hobbies are the same as your hobbies, whether your political views align perfectly, etc. - Of course, a level of commonality is important, but relying on that as the backbone rather than whether your personalities actually work together or not is where things get iffy",,26,KayRay1994,1702308042.0 +When you’re on a dating app (with the intention to actually get into a relationship, not hookup), you’re looking for someone who you think might be a good fit for you - problem is? we’re often uniformed on what that ‘good fit’ is. It isn’t about meeting someone, figuring out who they are and trying to make your similarities/differences work. It’s about having a preconceived notion of what you think you might want and running entirely based on that - and our own ideas of that are partly based off where we’re at in our lives, and this goes doubly so when we’re in unhealthy or turbulent spaces. On top of this, we develop ideas of whether someone is a fit based off what you conclude via their profiles vs your inherent biases tied to these conclusions. In other words, you’re making huge judgment calls on people based off pictures and blurbs, and assuming whether they fit your image of what you might want based on that notion alone. You even start judging people on, frankly, medial shit like their taste in music, whether their hobbies are the same as your hobbies, whether your political views align perfectly, etc. - Of course, a level of commonality is important, but relying on that as the backbone rather than whether your personalities actually work together or not is where things get iffy",,26,KayRay1994,2023-12-11 15:20:42 PurplePillDebate,18g560w,How would you want your son to be raised?,"How would do you expect your son to approach his dating and social life? -Do you expect him to be socially successful and attractive to women or do you expect him to be more average (or below) in terms of his social outcomes? Why?",,4,Ghutom,1702331095.0 +Do you expect him to be socially successful and attractive to women or do you expect him to be more average (or below) in terms of his social outcomes? Why?",,4,Ghutom,2023-12-11 21:44:55 PurplePillDebate,18fkn9q,“Nothing is more unattractive to women than low self confidence”,"This gets said one way or another in every discussion ever had and everyone seems to unquestioningly accept it as the law or the jungle - of course confidence is attractive, and who the hell would want to be with some timid milquetoast who can’t say boo to a goose* let alone offer protection and stand strong as a pillar of support through life’s vicissitudes? Or at least give the impression that they can. There’s a firm biological basis for this in any case. (*Note geese can be extremely aggressive and rather terrifying so this expression isn’t intended to be taken literally) Then your critical thinking kicks in. Or should. @@ -55402,12 +55402,12 @@ At risk of sounding callous, my sympathies are in short supply for those who get I know this all seems idealistic, but the more we accept it without challenge the more it perpetuates the concomitant bullshit and reinforces the wrong behaviours. -Feel free to disagree with all of this",,56,StaticNocturne,1702263587.0 +Feel free to disagree with all of this",,56,StaticNocturne,2023-12-11 02:59:47 PurplePillDebate,18gcix5,How are men supposed to deal with being the hornier sex?,"I think it's common knowledge that men are the hornier sex. And there's a bunch of reasons for it. But for the most part all you need to know is that most guys are full of testosterone. So if a guy is so full of sex hormones and being horny how does the average man deal with it? I know we have simple things like prostitution, porn, masturbation... But those things don't seem to help in the long run when it comes to the male libido. It really hurts knowing that as a man you can go out wanting to express yourself sexually but most of the women you meet will want nothing to do with your sexual desires. -Only time this is fulfilling is if you are incredibly attractive whether it's physically or just career wise. And you will find more than another woman that would be happy to sleep with you but most men arent in this category. So how was the man supposed to deal?",,0,Vegetable-Rub3418,1702351954.0 +Only time this is fulfilling is if you are incredibly attractive whether it's physically or just career wise. And you will find more than another woman that would be happy to sleep with you but most men arent in this category. So how was the man supposed to deal?",,0,Vegetable-Rub3418,2023-12-12 03:32:34 PurplePillDebate,18fz725,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -55426,7 +55426,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,1,AutoModerator,1702314013.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,1,AutoModerator,2023-12-11 17:00:13 PurplePillDebate,18f65dr,"Makeup plays an enormous role in women’s upper hand and allows them to play several leagues up, many of them look unrecognizable without it.","The responses to this subject are always identical: - “Men can wear makeup” 🥴 @@ -55447,14 +55447,14 @@ The vast majority of women not only wear makeup but benefit immensely from using People worship a good number of women calling them 10s unaware that they looking nothing like this, including a good number of celebrities. T4yl0r Sw!ft and Jennifer Lawrence are two prominent examples. -https://ibb.co/fv9s6S3",,92,[deleted],1702222579.0 -PurplePillDebate,18f3jny,Do women really believe that toxic masculinity is the common factor of sexless lonely men?,"I saw in two x chromosome a post about sexless men and the most upvoted post was "" those men are only sexless because of there toxic masculinity "" Am i missing something but that's insane right? Like I know we al lived different lives and we have identity politics that make us live in our own bubble. But like its so oblivious that's not the case right? The typical sexless man is some guy who got bullied in high school , haven't developed a big social life or skills and are ""ugly"" bellow average. Now ofc if that dude decided to go to uni and study gender studies shower with a mask on and get some black and white tattoo of a crying turtle and have a personality that screams ""im an ally of the feminist"" ofc that dude will have higher success then some dude who have a grey sweatshirt .But i mean there is ton of men with traits of toxic masculinity that has no problems with women..",,109,[deleted],1702214642.0 +https://ibb.co/fv9s6S3",,92,[deleted],2023-12-10 15:36:19 +PurplePillDebate,18f3jny,Do women really believe that toxic masculinity is the common factor of sexless lonely men?,"I saw in two x chromosome a post about sexless men and the most upvoted post was "" those men are only sexless because of there toxic masculinity "" Am i missing something but that's insane right? Like I know we al lived different lives and we have identity politics that make us live in our own bubble. But like its so oblivious that's not the case right? The typical sexless man is some guy who got bullied in high school , haven't developed a big social life or skills and are ""ugly"" bellow average. Now ofc if that dude decided to go to uni and study gender studies shower with a mask on and get some black and white tattoo of a crying turtle and have a personality that screams ""im an ally of the feminist"" ofc that dude will have higher success then some dude who have a grey sweatshirt .But i mean there is ton of men with traits of toxic masculinity that has no problems with women..",,109,[deleted],2023-12-10 13:24:02 PurplePillDebate,18fejuf,"Does TRP believe that the best way to solve this dating problem, is too become the problem?","In the redpill it is mentioned on here how dating for most men sucks because usually the top 20 percent of men are getting all the women, and those top 20 percent keep the women on rotation usually and just want to spin plates, as the term is put. However, in the redpill, it is also mentioned how men should try to raise their SMV and try to become men this high and close, and spin plates themselves.  But to me this seems contradictory, or even selling out possibly, because the advice is that the dating game is out of balance, because of this, so the solution is to become the problem and do what those guys are doing, thus increasing the dating game of being thrown out of balance even more possibly.  -Unless I am wrong?",,19,harmonica2,1702245458.0 +Unless I am wrong?",,19,harmonica2,2023-12-10 21:57:38 PurplePillDebate,18fae7q,"Q4W: How would you react if you discovered a man you liked wore a toupee, shoe lifts, etc?","Pretty much the title. Let’s take a hypothetical. @@ -55477,7 +55477,7 @@ Now, what do you do in this situation? - Feel “the ick” and find an excuse to leave? - Call him out on “deceiving” you? -- Just roll with it and continue hooking up?",,20,neinhaltchad,1702234355.0 +- Just roll with it and continue hooking up?",,20,neinhaltchad,2023-12-10 18:52:35 PurplePillDebate,18f8edi,"Q4M: If you have had abusive girlfriends, how do you feel about desperate men being jealous of you? Would you feel offended, or would you emphasize with their desperation in that having an abusive girlfriend is better than nothing?","TITLE TYPO: empathize*, not emphasize I've lurked around forums, including reddit, of manosphere men who are more on the ""depressed"" side than ""angry"" side of expressing their situation. Lots of demoralization, which isn't surprising given their circumstances. But since we're deviating from rage-posting and instead we're going more into the territory of ""my life is shit"" talk, one common theme around these guys is the specific extent of their desperation and the kind of stuff they are willing to tolerate just to avoid being single. @@ -55490,14 +55490,14 @@ It really isn't surprising after all to see sentiments like this, because, well, So my question is directed to you if you're a guy who has (had) a girlfriend that you'd call abusive. Suppose some guy finds out about your situation. He says that he is jealous of you: he knows that this girl is abusive and treats you horribly. But because he's desperate, he wishes that he was dating her instead, because he'd gladly take the abuse over being single. -My question is this: how would this make you feel? Would you feel offended that he's essentially minimizing the effect of abusive partners, or would you empathize with him because you understand that this is what being desperate is like?",,16,brilliant22,1702228888.0 +My question is this: how would this make you feel? Would you feel offended that he's essentially minimizing the effect of abusive partners, or would you empathize with him because you understand that this is what being desperate is like?",,16,brilliant22,2023-12-10 17:21:28 PurplePillDebate,18feixj,What boundaries do you take for granted when you get in relationships? Have you had to come back set them after an unexpected breach?,"I am kinda fascinated for all the common things everyone does in early relationships without taking time to discuss them. In the timeline of a seduction project you often have stuff like first date, first kiss, first sex, and then you navigate social/public behaviours like: in front of whom do you show displays of affection, who meets your partner, do you share instants of your couple on social media, etc... Then only after this initial mess, someone usually the woman will go ""what are we"", and if all goes well you then have the usual wedding kids dogs picket fence scheme, ""like in movies"". But still there, you never 100% know your spouse and they might surprise you in a number of ways. All of it done effortlessly until you realize your partner has done something you don't like and didn't expect at all... I'd be happy hearing stories on this topic. Which of your boundaries were breached before you even got a chance to formalize them? -I am starting: with my ex we started seeing each other in hiding, no one could know... I never could tell her but it kind of irked me how long this period's lasted, even though I found it logical at the start.",,5,eyewave,1702245390.0 +I am starting: with my ex we started seeing each other in hiding, no one could know... I never could tell her but it kind of irked me how long this period's lasted, even though I found it logical at the start.",,5,eyewave,2023-12-10 21:56:30 PurplePillDebate,18fjjq8,Is the Simpsons Frank grimes vs Homer an excellent representation of red pill vs blue pill ?,"Title , Frank - the red pill. @@ -55508,7 +55508,7 @@ Homer - blue pill . Homer is literally vibing, not putting effort in, doesn’t understand franks perspective at all / having to plan / try at things . When Homer passes things due to luck/attractiveness. It’s just how life has been for him , keen rocking and the world will keep rolling. -Cheers.",,1,Grouchy_Cookie_7813,1702260087.0 +Cheers.",,1,Grouchy_Cookie_7813,2023-12-11 02:01:27 PurplePillDebate,18f69u7,Friendzone and dating advice: the elefant in the room that I haven't seen adressed,"(First of all let me clarify that by friendzone I'm using the general definition of ""Unrequited love for a friend"", no ""lead him on"" or ""get into her pants"" definitions that imply some kind of nefarious intent) When discussing about the friendzone, and, more broadly, about dating advice, I've noticed that most people seem to be unaware of a large difference that exists within how people experience the relation between friendship and attraction: @@ -55526,7 +55526,7 @@ However based on my real life friends/acquaintance groups, and also a more criti \-Why the ""friendzone"" can be so frustrating: beforehand you have no way to know if you're dealing with a person of the ""type"" A), B) or C), so you have no way if determining beforehand if you should for example, invite someone to a date soon after meeting them. Women from the A) type would reject you automatically but not doing that with women from the C) type would mean losing a chance. Same works backwards. \-Why is it so hard to empathize with people in many cases: people who belong to A) and develop romantic feelings later are often assumed to be ""trying to get into her pants"", people who belong to C) are ""bitches who prefer the jerks instead of the good guys"" etc. because everyone assumes that the rest works in the way themselves work, and not in the three totally opposite situations I've described. -Unfortunately I hadn't compiled enough data from internet posts to justify my thesis, hope that I can update this post in the future",,13,TannuTuva97,1702222951.0 +Unfortunately I hadn't compiled enough data from internet posts to justify my thesis, hope that I can update this post in the future",,13,TannuTuva97,2023-12-10 15:42:31 PurplePillDebate,18g1do6,"Why are men more similar in most countries, and women are not? Is it due to varying levels of patriarchy?","So you can find the same types of men in most countries. They also have very similar values in regards to dating and their view on women. They want low body count women, they want feminine wives, etc. They also grow up about the same: school fights, getting in innocent mischief, some of them grow up into hyper dominant and some of them don't. Overall, the men all around the world are pretty much the same. @@ -55537,7 +55537,7 @@ This is not a judgement on any behaviour and yes all types of women exist in all I think this is because humans all started the same, and patriarchy decreased at different rates across the globe. Men were never victims of patriarchy so men always ended up being the same -As a follow up question, what is the end result of feminism. When both genders are truly equal, will there be an even distribution of behaviours? As many docile men as docile women, as many aggressive men and aggressive women, as many men who get into fights as women getting into fights. Or does biology come in between feminism where even after reaching true gender equality, some things will differ?",,0,Consistent-Gur6932,1702321869.0 +As a follow up question, what is the end result of feminism. When both genders are truly equal, will there be an even distribution of behaviours? As many docile men as docile women, as many aggressive men and aggressive women, as many men who get into fights as women getting into fights. Or does biology come in between feminism where even after reaching true gender equality, some things will differ?",,0,Consistent-Gur6932,2023-12-11 19:11:09 PurplePillDebate,18f9s56,Why does it matter if Red Pill applies to everyone,"I am going to assume Blue Pilled people are correct in what they say. I am also taking Redpill from a ""Game"" lens. I am not fussed about BlackPill, MRA or MGTOW. Yes TRP has factions, we are not one big happy family. @@ -55556,7 +55556,7 @@ Given the Target Audience for the manosphere, as the name suggests is MAN, then If another methodolgy appeared that claimed to solve dating/relationship issues, like ""Game"" does and yielded great results, then it makes sense men would ditch TRP and ""Game"" in a heartbeat. -Yet BluePill for all there disapproval of TRP are not influencing men to step away from TRP or ""Game"". Like show me evidence, not one offs, not ""Oh I got lucky this one time"". Show me a consistent way of attracting women and making them want to stick around, ie field reports and in-field footage, and explain it step by step without being vague, then sure, you might influence some of us, to turn to the Blue side. But until then, Your mouth is writing checks your ass can't cash.",,6,[deleted],1702232666.0 +Yet BluePill for all there disapproval of TRP are not influencing men to step away from TRP or ""Game"". Like show me evidence, not one offs, not ""Oh I got lucky this one time"". Show me a consistent way of attracting women and making them want to stick around, ie field reports and in-field footage, and explain it step by step without being vague, then sure, you might influence some of us, to turn to the Blue side. But until then, Your mouth is writing checks your ass can't cash.",,6,[deleted],2023-12-10 18:24:26 PurplePillDebate,18f6muw,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -55575,7 +55575,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,1702224014.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,2023-12-10 16:00:14 PurplePillDebate,18eniq2,Research on women's aversion to bisexual men,">[""Heterosexual and gay/lesbian people were less willing to date bisexual people than bisexual people were to date them, consistent with anti-bisexual bias rather than mere in-group preference. **Preferences against dating bisexual men appeared particularly strong, even among bisexual women.**""](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/00918369.2022.2030618) @@ -55585,12 +55585,12 @@ PurplePillDebate,18eniq2,Research on women's aversion to bisexual men,">[""He I think this research should to put to rest the idea that men are the ones upholding masculine norms, not women. -If you're a bisexual guy, and you're not looking to date seriously, it's probably best not to tell women about it.",,151,AI_CODE_MONKEY,1702157204.0 +If you're a bisexual guy, and you're not looking to date seriously, it's probably best not to tell women about it.",,151,AI_CODE_MONKEY,2023-12-09 21:26:44 PurplePillDebate,18f12zn,Prevalence of female-perpetrated sexual assault and domestic violence,"Men are without a doubt significantly more violent than women overall, but the vast majority of this violence is directed towards other men. Generally, men are conditioned from childhood to avoid violence against women specifically. This doesn't mean it never happens, but feminists greatly exaggerate the frequency of it and the proportion of men that perpetrate it. Feminists also ignore the great body of research on the staggering prevalence of [domestic violence](https://web.archive.org/web/20200102220428/https://web.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm) and [sexual assault](https://web.archive.org/web/20140705143404/http://www.dottal.org/LBDUK/references_examining_men_as_vict.htm) perpetrated by women against men, with a lot of studies indicating gender parity or HIGHER levels of female perpetration. In particular, there is [one study](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17395835/) on IPV in young adults with a sample size of over 10 000, found that among nonreciprocally violent relationships(half of all violent relationships) where there is a clear and unambiguous perpetrator and victim, the woman was the perpetrator 70% of the time. -Feminists often cite rates of criminal complaints to argue for these crimes being heavily gendered, but this is ironic given the fact that the same feminists often point out that the majority of sexual assaults and domestic violence incidents are never reported to law enforcement. So how can criminal complaints be an accurate indicator of prevalence?",,9,AI_CODE_MONKEY,1702205619.0 +Feminists often cite rates of criminal complaints to argue for these crimes being heavily gendered, but this is ironic given the fact that the same feminists often point out that the majority of sexual assaults and domestic violence incidents are never reported to law enforcement. So how can criminal complaints be an accurate indicator of prevalence?",,9,AI_CODE_MONKEY,2023-12-10 10:53:39 PurplePillDebate,18eggnk,Single men are bitter. I wonder why?,"I had the pleasure of watching this post evolve in real time : [https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/18dq8nk/why\_do\_single\_women\_seem\_so\_happy\_compared\_to/](https://www.reddit.com/r/purplepilldebate/comments/18dq8nk/why_do_single_women_seem_so_happy_compared_to/) Lots of reasonable comments. But a lot of hypocritical content too. It was all kind of crazy that women were so completely unable to answer why men are so but-hurt about being a genetic dead end. Like no conception of how societal expectations based on gender and failure to reach them doesn't affect us mentally in-spite of their rallying cry against beauty standards and for body positivity @@ -55630,7 +55630,7 @@ Can anyone live with a voice in your head , a multitude outside of it and your &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,246,AdEffective7894s,1702137318.0 +&#x200B;",,246,AdEffective7894s,2023-12-09 15:55:18 PurplePillDebate,18erxik,What are your actual dating requirements? (Single Women Only),"I had a conversation with a single woman today. She tried to sell the impression that the bar is very very low for her. She just asks for 'bare minimum' things and yet she's 42 and still single. If it was so bare minimum maybe she wouldn't be single? I've also heard women online and in this sub make similar claims. @@ -55641,7 +55641,7 @@ Let's settle this. What are your actual dating requirements and what do you bring to the table? -(If you're a married woman, you're not dating anymore)",,16,Da_Famous_Anus,1702170349.0 +(If you're a married woman, you're not dating anymore)",,16,Da_Famous_Anus,2023-12-10 01:05:49 PurplePillDebate,18etk1u,Two leaders in a relationship. Thoughts?,"I just watched this TikTok video of a woman who attempted to secure the services of a matchmaker. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8aXGET6/ @@ -55650,7 +55650,7 @@ She's 38 years old, type A, and wants to be the leader in the relationship. But The woman in the video now claims that the matchmaker is suggesting that she must change or else she's not ""worthy of love"". Something tells me to matchmaker never actually said that. -What do you think about there being two leaders in a relationship? Recipe for success?",,11,Windmill_flowers,1702175716.0 +What do you think about there being two leaders in a relationship? Recipe for success?",,11,Windmill_flowers,2023-12-10 02:35:16 PurplePillDebate,18ela88,"For those women that don't get ""cat called"" / approached by men, does the rhetoric that ""Every woman faces this"" make you feel like 'less"" of a woman?","Hello! I only ask this because I've had similar experiences when people have suggested that ""men"" can walk freely at night without fear for their safety. Of course this isn't true, and I do my best to avoid being out alone at night for this reason (I suspect a larger part of this feeling comes from the area you grew up in though. Who knows). @@ -55661,15 +55661,15 @@ Do you ever feel the same when people suggest that all women are cat called, all For those thinking, ""But all women DO get approached and cat called"", I know women close to me that say they never face this behaviour, and there are [threads](https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/12tfcdp/ive_never_been_catcalled_is_that_normal/) you can find on women-centered subs with similar experiences. -But I thought I'd ask the PPD people anyway!",,22,Think_Day_8061,1702150850.0 -PurplePillDebate,18ek7q5,"Is it true that male ""players"" were shamed prior to the sexual revolution?","I read somewhere that the phenomenon of society lauding men who can get around a lot is relatively recent. According to this theory, prior to the sexual revolution, men who got around a lot were somewhat shunned by society (at least in more advanced civilizations). Although the extent of shaming wasn't as much as for promiscuous women, male promiscuity was still seen as a liability, similar to alcohol dependence. I can actually see this, since in East Asia (which is quite socially conservative compared to the West), promiscuity in men is still often frowned upon.",,21,LeagueSucksLol,1702147872.0 +But I thought I'd ask the PPD people anyway!",,22,Think_Day_8061,2023-12-09 19:40:50 +PurplePillDebate,18ek7q5,"Is it true that male ""players"" were shamed prior to the sexual revolution?","I read somewhere that the phenomenon of society lauding men who can get around a lot is relatively recent. According to this theory, prior to the sexual revolution, men who got around a lot were somewhat shunned by society (at least in more advanced civilizations). Although the extent of shaming wasn't as much as for promiscuous women, male promiscuity was still seen as a liability, similar to alcohol dependence. I can actually see this, since in East Asia (which is quite socially conservative compared to the West), promiscuity in men is still often frowned upon.",,21,LeagueSucksLol,2023-12-09 18:51:12 PurplePillDebate,18ehubq,N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD,"&#x200B; [Please Join Us on Discord!](https://discord.gg/3aHh4trC7B) Include your reddit username, pill color, age and gender when you arrive in the welcome mat to introduce yourself and help people get to know you. &#x200B; -You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,4,AutoModerator,1702141214.0 +You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,4,AutoModerator,2023-12-09 17:00:14 PurplePillDebate,18edo8x,What is the ideal? What works best in a relationship?,"I have read and watched content, studied, debated with friends, evaluated all of these modern relationship issues for years now and I can't help but wonder... what is the \*ideal\* scenario? What actually works in reality in a heterosexual relationship and marriage? I think of it like a pendulum that was too far one way (when women had few options or rights) to too far the other way (hook-up culture, p\*rn, 50/50 dating, women must be like men to compete, etc). I think there is probably a happy medium where men & women's contributions can be equally respected even if they aren't doing the exact same things. I think men and women are different in many ways. @@ -55682,7 +55682,7 @@ Is it ideal for the wife/mother to have an entrepreneurial, small-business pursu I am currently dating and what I have encountered is a man who is established and who has watched a lot of red-pill content. He told me that men don't care about a woman's intelligence (ouch!) and that women should not be entrepreneurs. That they are not natural risk-takers? He wants to be a provider husband and can afford to, but it seems like the traditional gender roles he desires are much more rigid. While I realize this man is likely not the one for me, I also know that I won't get everything that I want. It seems like such a gigantic risk to rely solely on my husband financially. I also would become sad if I was encouraging, supporting, cheering on a man in his pursuits and successes, but he wouldnt be able to support or encourage me in return for my pursuits of a small business that would be small potatoes compared to him. He also says that hypergamy is real (something I agree with to some extent); however, I would never want my husband to think he is ""above"" me and that I ""married up"". I think men and women bring different things to relationships. I think a good match is a balance between what everyone brings to the relationship. -What do you think is the ideal scenario for a happy, healthy (non-toxic) relationship and marriage? If the woman doesn't earn money, people say that she is a golddigger or a freeloader or whatever, even when she is birthing and caring for children and home. If she works outside the home and does the typical maternity leave, it is hard for the family, kids, her, and I think women struggle to take care of themselves in this scenario. I think people get divorced a lot in this scenario. What gives? ",,8,happytosayhi993,1702128711.0 +What do you think is the ideal scenario for a happy, healthy (non-toxic) relationship and marriage? If the woman doesn't earn money, people say that she is a golddigger or a freeloader or whatever, even when she is birthing and caring for children and home. If she works outside the home and does the typical maternity leave, it is hard for the family, kids, her, and I think women struggle to take care of themselves in this scenario. I think people get divorced a lot in this scenario. What gives? ",,8,happytosayhi993,2023-12-09 13:31:51 PurplePillDebate,18efbxo,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -55701,7 +55701,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,5,AutoModerator,1702134013.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,5,AutoModerator,2023-12-09 15:00:13 PurplePillDebate,18f6pag,Guys complaining about no dates/marriage perspective. Do you realize how cool is being single?,"I only realized how happy I was, when I married and our kids were born (that happened quite soon). Let's only consider one factor here: money spending in marriage. Ignore kids (probably you will be lucky and have no kids), ignore nagging and possible divorce - the big bogeyman of modern marriage. @@ -55732,12 +55732,12 @@ Of course, family gives your some chance of raising kids that might help you whe But savings and investment seems to be a better strategy. -If you have no dates and can't find your future wife, think again - maybe you dodged a bullet?",,0,WanabeInflatable,1702224191.0 +If you have no dates and can't find your future wife, think again - maybe you dodged a bullet?",,0,WanabeInflatable,2023-12-10 16:03:11 PurplePillDebate,18e56sn,"Women genuinely, ""settling"" never really works out","This subreddit, across the board, seems to think women overestimate their appeal in the dating market and that their standard are too high, and thus, they should settle. I was told my whole life to settle, to reward ""persistent"" but unappealing men, and so have a lot of other women. I don't really think that's a good idea at all. Every time I have genuinely seen a woman ""settle"" or date someone clearly beneath her, let's say, the guy has almost always gotten insecure, weird, abusive, cheated on her, or otherwise just imploded. Maybe this ties into the RP theory that women want someone ""better"" than them, but I don't think it's that.. I think men just can't feel ""worse"" without imploding in some way, and thus should really try to date someone within their own league. -I don't really think anyone would treat a woman worse than a guy who is insecure and feels blatantly inferior. I don't think anyone should feel, or actually be, blatantly ""inferior"" in a relationship. You should both be relatively equally educated, attractive, in the same financial bracket or at least social class, and have compatible personalities",,29,10throwawayantsy,1702095227.0 +I don't really think anyone would treat a woman worse than a guy who is insecure and feels blatantly inferior. I don't think anyone should feel, or actually be, blatantly ""inferior"" in a relationship. You should both be relatively equally educated, attractive, in the same financial bracket or at least social class, and have compatible personalities",,29,10throwawayantsy,2023-12-09 04:13:47 PurplePillDebate,18eo1c7,To what extent did globalism create the modern dating world? And to what extent will de-globalization reverse it?,"Let’s first define Globalism. It’s the ability for any nation to sell anything to anyone with little to no friction. As an example, a country like Burma can sell a widget to Uruguay with no fears of piracy due to the US Navy operating as the policemen of the world. This is different from what existed before Globalism, which was a collection of empires. Cross border trade was limited to happening within empires. There was little trade between empires. Most trade was domestic. There was nothing resembling a long supply chain. Globalism roughly started at the end of World War II, so most of us have ever only known a globalist world. We take it for granted that the current world is the norm. But as of 2023 the world is rapidly de-globalizing, so we're entering a new era. @@ -55760,7 +55760,7 @@ Globalism roughly started at the end of World War II, so most of us have ever on **7.** Wars will increase all over the world. More men will die. The surplus of men will go down. -**8.** Every nation will need to become more nationalist. This means that there’s now an economic incentive for nationalist politics. As an example it’s now in the interest of governments to favor nationalist laws that [promote higher birth rates for reduced freedom](https://english.elpais.com/international/2023-12-08/abortion-restrictions-and-discouragement-of-female-university-students-moscow-wants-russian-women-to-focus-on-childbearing.html).",,0,giveuporfindaway,1702158719.0 +**8.** Every nation will need to become more nationalist. This means that there’s now an economic incentive for nationalist politics. As an example it’s now in the interest of governments to favor nationalist laws that [promote higher birth rates for reduced freedom](https://english.elpais.com/international/2023-12-08/abortion-restrictions-and-discouragement-of-female-university-students-moscow-wants-russian-women-to-focus-on-childbearing.html).",,0,giveuporfindaway,2023-12-09 21:51:59 PurplePillDebate,18ehns9,The Wall exists but also doesn't,"Some people say the wall exists. But others say it doesn't because their grandma still has lots of men still trying to hit on her. The truth is, the wall exists and doesn't exist at the same time. How can that be? How can something exist and not exist at the same time? @@ -55775,11 +55775,11 @@ On the other hand, the dating market does shrink as women get older. Most women When women are in their early 20s, most early 20s guys want them and a lot of mid and late 20s, 30s and older guys want them too. But when they get into their 30s, some guys in their 30s will be going for women in their 20s. -As women get older a growing percentage of men their age will be going for slightly or much younger women. So, yes, your grandma will still get hit on, but she won't get as much attention as a 21 year old.",,3,ilike18yoblackpussy,1702140698.0 +As women get older a growing percentage of men their age will be going for slightly or much younger women. So, yes, your grandma will still get hit on, but she won't get as much attention as a 21 year old.",,3,ilike18yoblackpussy,2023-12-09 16:51:38 PurplePillDebate,18dq8nk,Why do single women seem so happy compared to single men?," I am going to generalize a bit here, but it seems to me like all the single women I know in my life are perfectly content with being single. By contrast, every man I know who's single is not happy at all with being single, and desperately wants a girlfriend. Even though the stereotype is ""men are players, they just wanna sleep around and not commit"", in my experience it's been the exact opposite. Men DO want to commit, but they often just don't have luck getting into a relationship. I notice this especially online too. There are a lot of online communities (both toxic i.e incels and non-toxic) that are just centered around men wallowing in their loneliness and lamenting their lack of romantic success. By contrast, I rarely see any women online crying about not having a boyfriend. -You might say ""it's because men are horny and they want a woman to fuck"", but honestly, if men are horny, we can just jerk off. It's more like we have a hole in our hearts that can only be filled by a woman's presence. Someone to take care of, someone to do stuff with, etc. I just don't think women yearn for men in the same way men yearn for women. ",,143,Glass_Bucket,1702052040.0 +You might say ""it's because men are horny and they want a woman to fuck"", but honestly, if men are horny, we can just jerk off. It's more like we have a hole in our hearts that can only be filled by a woman's presence. Someone to take care of, someone to do stuff with, etc. I just don't think women yearn for men in the same way men yearn for women. ",,143,Glass_Bucket,2023-12-08 16:14:00 PurplePillDebate,18dy28a,"Real talk, why is RP so obsessed with women’s age?","Before I (no pill woman) even heard of Red Pill, I decided to get a man when I was in love with a man and when I was mentally ready. No problem with that, right? Well after red pill, and hearing all the different variations of narrative that older women expire and get old and ugly and nasty, I fell for the narrative for a little while and worried every single day that my window of time for finding a partner would expire forever. It took my common sensical sister and best friends to un-do me from the brainwash and show me that whoever is negging you isn’t a good partner to start with anyway, and all people of all ages can still find love. Some who disagree with me might say that RP doesn’t nag on the age of women so much as the women whose *personalities* were inherently bad to start with and that their age simply gives a rude awakening because now they look as awful on the outside as in the inside. @@ -55803,8 +55803,8 @@ I’m sorry, but I highly doubt that good women want a man with some Travis bick TLDR: the “men prefer younger” narrative falls flat when you realizes that the redpill movement simply doesn’t know who to for go the good girl or the sluts. Even the young virgins aren’t exempt because to those to men they age making them worthless and they’re still the “bad girls who didn’t get caught,” if you heard this phrase before. -That’s my opinion anyways. What do you think?",,46,fashoclock,1702073320.0 -PurplePillDebate,18ejq4r,Do You Think Being Platonic Friends With Women Is Worth It?,"I can’t find anything interesting when it comes to being platonic friends with women, our lives seem too different. It’s not that it’s impossible it’s more about bothering to even being friends with women, any grievances you might have in your life or any sort of distraught can be discussed by other men, as you share the same life experiences as they do, I find it to be a little more healthy to have a close bond with other men than women. Listen no offence girls, but you can be a bit of handful, especially when it comes to paying for things, I always find myself stuck with the bill even though we’re supposed to be friends, I also think we show our emotions better around other men, as they’ll have a better understanding of what it’s like because man oh man it’s not feckin easy. But am I wrong on this, because the concept of friendzoning is a real thing, and I think it would go over better if we’d just stick with having all male friends.",,1,Ceazer4L,1702146496.0 +That’s my opinion anyways. What do you think?",,46,fashoclock,2023-12-08 22:08:40 +PurplePillDebate,18ejq4r,Do You Think Being Platonic Friends With Women Is Worth It?,"I can’t find anything interesting when it comes to being platonic friends with women, our lives seem too different. It’s not that it’s impossible it’s more about bothering to even being friends with women, any grievances you might have in your life or any sort of distraught can be discussed by other men, as you share the same life experiences as they do, I find it to be a little more healthy to have a close bond with other men than women. Listen no offence girls, but you can be a bit of handful, especially when it comes to paying for things, I always find myself stuck with the bill even though we’re supposed to be friends, I also think we show our emotions better around other men, as they’ll have a better understanding of what it’s like because man oh man it’s not feckin easy. But am I wrong on this, because the concept of friendzoning is a real thing, and I think it would go over better if we’d just stick with having all male friends.",,1,Ceazer4L,2023-12-09 18:28:16 PurplePillDebate,18dwqn5,Choose better is always the response when women are in bad relationships? Do you show the worse parts of yourself when just meeting someone?,"I am of the mindset that men love to tell women to choose better when they are in a situation where they are abused or even treated poorly. I can’t think of any date that I have been on where the man has presented the worst possible version of himself right away. When you are dating, do you show all your worst character traits right away or do you send out a representative depicting the person that gives you the optimal chance of convincing someone that you are worth their time ore effort? If a man goes from a good person to an actual abuser but waits until after she has their first child, at what point should she have chosen better? @@ -55815,14 +55815,14 @@ Do men actually believe that women are actively seeking out potential partners w How do you think a woman can choose better when men are not being authentic? -ETA: What if choose better simply means opting completely out of the dating pool? ",,38,bluepvtstorm,1702069704.0 +ETA: What if choose better simply means opting completely out of the dating pool? ",,38,bluepvtstorm,2023-12-08 21:08:24 PurplePillDebate,18e6nvm,Are my values and preferences too old-fashioned?,"28M here. I’m not quite sure what “pill” I would fall under. This may sound cliche, but I do indeed prefer debt-free virgins without tattoos. So much so, in fact, that I am holding myself to the same standard. I have my life together. I have a pretty damn good job and the only debt I have is on my house. Furthermore, I am saving myself for my future wife. The idea of casual sex is honestly disgusting to me. I want it to be part of the marital bond. Is it unreasonable, in my case, to desire the same out of a lady? Am I too old-fashioned in my preferences? -Edit: my preferences aren’t absolute requirements. It’s more about having values and wanting someone who shares those values. ",,6,Sensitive_Truck_3015,1702100553.0 +Edit: my preferences aren’t absolute requirements. It’s more about having values and wanting someone who shares those values. ",,6,Sensitive_Truck_3015,2023-12-09 05:42:33 PurplePillDebate,18dwt80,What are successful autistic guys doing differently likely?,"I'm autistic and I feel for the other autistic guys who have trouble. @@ -55835,7 +55835,7 @@ I now have gf, who also happens to get autistic as well, which helps too. Some autistic guys seem to have success and there are a lot who do not yet of course. -I am wondering what is it that more successful guys are doing differently most of the time and if those things should be taught and talked about more often therefore?",,19,harmonica2,1702069896.0 +I am wondering what is it that more successful guys are doing differently most of the time and if those things should be taught and talked about more often therefore?",,19,harmonica2,2023-12-08 21:11:36 PurplePillDebate,18ehhtj,"Who do you think needs more attention, males or women? And why?","I'm curious what PPD thinks on this topic. Attention seeking behavior in adults can be a symptom of childhood trauma or being maladjusted. #Males @@ -55848,7 +55848,7 @@ Selfies, loud in groups, wedding ruined if a bridesmaid is prettier, selfies, fi Who do you think needs more attention and why? -DISCLAIMER: ITT we are talking IN GENERAL, it is understood that it doesn't apply to every one.",,0,Windmill_flowers,1702140226.0 +DISCLAIMER: ITT we are talking IN GENERAL, it is understood that it doesn't apply to every one.",,0,Windmill_flowers,2023-12-09 16:43:46 PurplePillDebate,18e9f5d,What does it mean by women want money?,"Let's start with easier question. People want money. @@ -55885,7 +55885,7 @@ So not only women can't easily sell sex and reproductive service, feminists make The truth is, just like most men, most women would sell sex is price is right -https://i.stack.imgur.com/q7Cug.jpg",,3,Confident-Cupcake164,1702112005.0 +https://i.stack.imgur.com/q7Cug.jpg",,3,Confident-Cupcake164,2023-12-09 08:53:25 PurplePillDebate,18ese9v,CMV: buying expensive dinners for your gf/wife is equivalent to cooking for her if not better,"Women are always shitting on a guy who can’t cook. They always say bla bla bla what do you mean your wife always cooks, why do you never cook bla bla bla Thing is everyone can cook. Even a child can cook. A man could easily cook for his gf or wife. And it would probably be edible and she might even like it. But imagine the huge time investment to ATTEMPT to cook a very elaborate meal that would probably not live up to the standards of a professional @@ -55896,7 +55896,7 @@ Now consider that time is money. He goes to work, he wastes his life there, he e If he uses that money that he earned with blood and swear to BUY her a really nice meal, it’s the equivalent of him using his time to MAKE her a nice meal. There’s no valid room for complaint -It’s like if a guy bought jewellery for his wife and she started bitching that he didn’t dig up the ore himself and smelt it and fashion it into jewellery",,0,dbz__f,1702171871.0 +It’s like if a guy bought jewellery for his wife and she started bitching that he didn’t dig up the ore himself and smelt it and fashion it into jewellery",,0,dbz__f,2023-12-10 01:31:11 PurplePillDebate,18ds9z6,How is it that such severely dysfunctional and socially inept people so often seem to be in long term relationships?,"My mind is constantly being blown. Guys who are almost impossible to converse with ( and I considered myself to be a strong conversationalist who can talk to pretty much anyone of any background) and who cant look you in the eye, who give you second hang cringe just being near them, who couldn’t be charming or smooth if their life depended upon it and yet turn out to have a partner who is comparatively normal even attractive. @@ -55905,13 +55905,13 @@ Maybe they just threw shit at the wall until it stuck but they don’t seem outg Or perhaps more insane is the really really dysfunctional folks, addicts and the mentally ill who cannot even care for themselves yet are somehow managing to hold down a relationship. -These aren’t necessarily bad people or unworthy of love, and I’m not sure how healthy their relationships are (probably not very healthy in the case of dysfunctional people) or maybe their partners are enablers or nutcases in their own right but the mere fact they oftentimes even have partners when conventional wisdom tells you that they wouldn’t even be a blip on the radar of the opposite sex, goes to show that most folks here are being WAY too harsh on themselves.",,23,StaticNocturne,1702057606.0 +These aren’t necessarily bad people or unworthy of love, and I’m not sure how healthy their relationships are (probably not very healthy in the case of dysfunctional people) or maybe their partners are enablers or nutcases in their own right but the mere fact they oftentimes even have partners when conventional wisdom tells you that they wouldn’t even be a blip on the radar of the opposite sex, goes to show that most folks here are being WAY too harsh on themselves.",,23,StaticNocturne,2023-12-08 17:46:46 PurplePillDebate,18e5lut,Modern dating is one vicious cycle of overrating oneself and then going after the people better than us.,"Modern dating is one vicious cycle of overrating oneself and then going after the people better than us. And then, we wonder why the people we match with and have conversations with are so lukewarm and non-committal, making it seem like having any sort of conversation feel like pulling teeth. Meanwhile, those amazing people on paper (whom we sought after) are seeking after even better people and getting the same treatment they give us... -Overall, everyone is just unhappy and is in agreement just how much modern dating sucks. The only group of people -- where dating doesn't suck for -- are those people at the top of the food chain (the top 1-3% of both genders).",,2,ktdotnova,1702096720.0 -PurplePillDebate,18dhh7d,“Women are hornier than men”,I saw a post that stated women are much more hornier than men and I was reading the comments and literally most of the women in the comments were agreeing with the post. I then went on tiktok and did a research and there were good amount of posts on there saying that women are much more hornier than men are but they just know how to control it and there are girls in the comment section that agrees but we all know that isn’t true. If women are really hornier than men are then explain why women complain about receiving a dick pic where as a man wouldn’t complain about receiving a pussy pic and not only that if women had the choice they’d literally fuck a dildo over the average guy. Also explain why women in general are more threatened by guys and have the constant fear of being “raped” and even accused most men of being rapists and a threat to them?,,59,imuglyassin,1702020227.0 +Overall, everyone is just unhappy and is in agreement just how much modern dating sucks. The only group of people -- where dating doesn't suck for -- are those people at the top of the food chain (the top 1-3% of both genders).",,2,ktdotnova,2023-12-09 04:38:40 +PurplePillDebate,18dhh7d,“Women are hornier than men”,I saw a post that stated women are much more hornier than men and I was reading the comments and literally most of the women in the comments were agreeing with the post. I then went on tiktok and did a research and there were good amount of posts on there saying that women are much more hornier than men are but they just know how to control it and there are girls in the comment section that agrees but we all know that isn’t true. If women are really hornier than men are then explain why women complain about receiving a dick pic where as a man wouldn’t complain about receiving a pussy pic and not only that if women had the choice they’d literally fuck a dildo over the average guy. Also explain why women in general are more threatened by guys and have the constant fear of being “raped” and even accused most men of being rapists and a threat to them?,,59,imuglyassin,2023-12-08 07:23:47 PurplePillDebate,18ei3ba,Men can succeed very far in this world even while single. Can women do this too?,"If a man and woman are in a relationship, they can move forward as a pair if they don't oppress each other in anyway. The man does all of the ""tough labour"" and the woman does all of the nurturing and home care. Again, let's assume they are doing it out of pure choice, and no one is being oppressed or anything &#x200B; @@ -55924,7 +55924,7 @@ I know a woman can do all of these things, but do women have the ability to get &#x200B; -These are just specific examples. But do women have the capacity to be as successful as a man without the help of any man ever?",,0,Consistent-Gur6932,1702141894.0 +These are just specific examples. But do women have the capacity to be as successful as a man without the help of any man ever?",,0,Consistent-Gur6932,2023-12-09 17:11:34 PurplePillDebate,18dnfjb,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -55943,7 +55943,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,11,AutoModerator,1702044024.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,11,AutoModerator,2023-12-08 14:00:24 PurplePillDebate,18e3nd2,Unmarried childless women are more likely to be unhappy,"A lot of stories have been published in the media in recent years saying that women are happier being single than men. But this claim is contradicted by this study I found online: https://ifstudies.org/blog/who-is-happiest-married-mothers-and-fathers-per-the-latest-general-social-survey @@ -55954,7 +55954,7 @@ Now moving on to unmarried childless people, the data is interesting. Childless In short, it seems that there are more unmarried childless women who are very happy than unmarried childless men. But there are also more unmarried childless women who are unhappy than unmarried childless men. The women seem to cluster more at the extremes of happiness and unhappiness, whereas most unmarried childless men (over 60%) tend to cluster in the middle, saying they're ""pretty happy"", instead of being ""very happy"" or ""not so happy"". -In short, a lot of single childless men seem to be fairly content and happy enough. Whereas there are more single childless women who are very happy, but also more of them than men who are very unhappy.",,0,ilike18yoblackpussy,1702090015.0 +In short, a lot of single childless men seem to be fairly content and happy enough. Whereas there are more single childless women who are very happy, but also more of them than men who are very unhappy.",,0,ilike18yoblackpussy,2023-12-09 02:46:55 PurplePillDebate,18eh69y,"Since men outnumber women, male loneliness is not the fault of women and cannot be solved through partnership with women."," Many assert that male loneliness is the result of feminism and women being hyper selective in mate selection. @@ -55969,7 +55969,7 @@ Considering the numbers, what is the solution to male loneliness? (B) Is male loneliness not a “solvable issue” at all, but simply a result of natural selection. Is it possible that in previous generations, male loneliness existed at the same rate, but without social media to advertise it. -(C) Is male loneliness, an actual issue impacting the top % of viable men who “should” have access to the top% of viable women, but don’t.",,0,Limes-Over-Lemons,1702139326.0 +(C) Is male loneliness, an actual issue impacting the top % of viable men who “should” have access to the top% of viable women, but don’t.",,0,Limes-Over-Lemons,2023-12-09 16:28:46 PurplePillDebate,18d7g8a,Men should not commit to women until they close all their options,"Living in the modern dating world, with modern women, no man should commit to a woman who has not closed off all her options. We live in a unique time were women are no longer shamed, but instead encouraged to keep their options open, even when in relationships. @@ -55992,10 +55992,10 @@ Any time a woman engages in behaviour that is leaving the door open to other men And no matter what they say women will always chase committment, so use that as your bargaining tool. If you are committed and she starts acting out, you withdraw your committment. -This is how you use this power and this is what men need to do in order to get women to act right and properly commit to you. And if she refuses, well then you dont commit to her. On to the next.",,88,Tight-Breeder,1701987971.0 +This is how you use this power and this is what men need to do in order to get women to act right and properly commit to you. And if she refuses, well then you dont commit to her. On to the next.",,88,Tight-Breeder,2023-12-07 22:26:11 PurplePillDebate,18dyd09,How did the patriarchy start in the first place?,"Even RP men will admit that there are some societal advantages that men do enjoy. While the physical strength difference between the genders is a factor in the patriarchy, I don't think it's the only or even main factor. Women and physically weak men are treated very differently by society, and if physical strength was the main factor in the patriarchy, you would expect them to be treated similarly. -Most non-mammal animal species actually exhibit reverse sex size dimorphism, where the female is bigger. Assuming this is the ancestral condition of animal life, how did we even get where we are today?",,0,LeagueSucksLol,1702074154.0 +Most non-mammal animal species actually exhibit reverse sex size dimorphism, where the female is bigger. Assuming this is the ancestral condition of animal life, how did we even get where we are today?",,0,LeagueSucksLol,2023-12-08 22:22:34 PurplePillDebate,18cxuyv,Some trends women are involved in on social media contribute directly to toxic masculinity and justifies the manosphere’s existence.,"Now, I want to be very clear about this - i’m not talking about normal women, or women who mildly use social media to post pictures with their friends or of what they’re doing - hell, i’m sure the majority of women who don’t fit into this. I also want to make clear that the manosphere as a whole is an overall negative space that reenforces a lot of these issues as well. @@ -56010,7 +56010,7 @@ The ick trend is a good example, or women flat out admitting to using men, or wo Now, the women who do partake in these trends are admittedly young and unwise, though their expression of toxicity, shall we call it, reenforces toxic masculinity because the men who consume this context look at and not only believe all women to be like this, but also use such instances to justify being emotionally distant, being extremely materially driven, selling a fake macho persona, justifying manipulation, etc -Is there responsibility on these men to separate this content from reality? 1000% - tiktok isn’t real life, and algorithms do fully form your worldview if you’re not careful. But women usually either turn a blind eye to it, or downplay it. Which, at the one hand, yes, it isn’t real life and shouldn’t be seen as such - but at the same time, if such a thing is many men’s perception of reality, I think it’ll do a lot to dismantle the issue and delegitimize the manosphere content using it to justify toxic masculinity to call it out (especially if she has a platform)",,89,KayRay1994,1701962410.0 +Is there responsibility on these men to separate this content from reality? 1000% - tiktok isn’t real life, and algorithms do fully form your worldview if you’re not careful. But women usually either turn a blind eye to it, or downplay it. Which, at the one hand, yes, it isn’t real life and shouldn’t be seen as such - but at the same time, if such a thing is many men’s perception of reality, I think it’ll do a lot to dismantle the issue and delegitimize the manosphere content using it to justify toxic masculinity to call it out (especially if she has a platform)",,89,KayRay1994,2023-12-07 15:20:10 PurplePillDebate,18czbbb,Why is there such a large double standard?,"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/16yxqdf/aita_for_reporting_a_girl_who_lied_to_me/ https://old.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/184b7hc/aita_for_lying_to_avoid_rejection/ @@ -56021,17 +56021,17 @@ And in the second post, well, the guy did exactly what the girl in post #1 did, What the hell? -Edit: descriptions are in comments of each respective post",,42,Fit_Firefighter185,1701966381.0 +Edit: descriptions are in comments of each respective post",,42,Fit_Firefighter185,2023-12-07 16:26:21 PurplePillDebate,18d4dcf,"Question for men who want ""traditional"" gender norms","I have a good faith question for men who believe society should go back to women marrying young and primarily being child bearers, wives, and mothers. -When you watch The Handmaid's Tale, or exposés about Polygamist groups like the FLDS or The Kingston Clan, or you read news articles about how things are in Iran and Saudi Arabia - is that what you want society to be like? When I think of these societies as a woman, it disturbs me to my core, and I view them as the ultimate goal of returning to traditional gender norms. Do you view these societies as aspirational? If not, how do they differ from your aspirational society?",,20,montana-blue,1701979958.0 +When you watch The Handmaid's Tale, or exposés about Polygamist groups like the FLDS or The Kingston Clan, or you read news articles about how things are in Iran and Saudi Arabia - is that what you want society to be like? When I think of these societies as a woman, it disturbs me to my core, and I view them as the ultimate goal of returning to traditional gender norms. Do you view these societies as aspirational? If not, how do they differ from your aspirational society?",,20,montana-blue,2023-12-07 20:12:38 PurplePillDebate,18dpfd3,The Red Pill claim that modern women are “not held accountable” is completely bogus.,"It is a common sentiment in RP circles that women “aren’t held accountable” in modern society. But not only is this false but RP men also often hold women accountable for men’s actions, thereby absolving men of their wrong doing. For instance if a man is violent and it turns out he does well with women, RP men will blame women for “choosing badly” and encouraging said man to be violent or dangerous. On the flip side if a man is violent and it turns out that he is constantly rejected by women (and perhaps has never even been with a woman) RP men will argue that it’s women’s fault because rejecting said man made him angry and disillusioned. In either situation there is a way to rationalize the man’s bad behavior as being the fault of women which shows that such reasoning is in fact biased and meant to absolve men instead of holding them accountable. Now I understand such takes really only exist in RP spaces, out here in the “Blue Pill” world we rightfully hold violent men accountable for their violent actions but it seems as though RP men consider holding men accountable as “not holding women accountable” because they hold women accountable for the actions of men. And while in the past it was common for women to be blamed for “tempting” men—women were often more policed and punished for being “sexually immoral”—in our modern times this is less so the case. Still even to this day women can rarely use “temptation” as an excuse for anything they do. (A wealthy man pursuing a woman and showering her with gift’s isn’t “tempting her” but a woman posting a bikini pic on instagram is “tempting” men). The very fact that temptation is almost never an excuse for women but is commonly an excuse for men just shows that women are actually not less likely to be held accountable than men are. -RP men simply confuse women being scapegoated less for men’s wrong doings (a result of modern society being more progressive, feminist and less patriarchal) as women “not being accountable”. Classic case of, to the oppressor equality feels like oppression.",,0,YveisGrey,1702049814.0 +RP men simply confuse women being scapegoated less for men’s wrong doings (a result of modern society being more progressive, feminist and less patriarchal) as women “not being accountable”. Classic case of, to the oppressor equality feels like oppression.",,0,YveisGrey,2023-12-08 15:36:54 PurplePillDebate,18ds68a,Can women do/feel these things to the extent men can?,"I am genuinely trying to improve my view of the world and see how similar men and women are, and what things are based on biological difference, so please don't think this is a troll question. This is the only sub where I can really ask this. &#x200B; @@ -56068,7 +56068,7 @@ If a woman were to be betrayed equally by the same gender, and the opposite gend &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,0,Consistent-Gur6932,1702057316.0 +&#x200B;",,0,Consistent-Gur6932,2023-12-08 17:41:56 PurplePillDebate,18d05dc,Do you think it's fair to say that women can never get too much attention from a man they're interested in?,"Dating is often seen as a balancing act for men; show too much attention and it can come across as desperate or manipulative, the woman feels smothered and instinctively backs away and often begins to question the mans value, show her too little attention and she begins to question his feelings for her and can eventually grow resentful and deprived of the attention she feels she deserves and takes off. It seems most guys are more afraid of showing too much attention or too intensely though hence trying to play it cool, take hours or days to reply to texts, going hot and cold and all that bullshit. @@ -56081,7 +56081,7 @@ Does this tend to occur when a relationship becomes more serious or official? Or do most women desire as much attention as they can get from men who they're attracted to? -(Not interested in glib responses like 'good looking guys can get away with murder duh' I want real discussion based on your experiences) ",,15,StaticNocturne,1701968646.0 +(Not interested in glib responses like 'good looking guys can get away with murder duh' I want real discussion based on your experiences) ",,15,StaticNocturne,2023-12-07 17:04:06 PurplePillDebate,18cwdce,"Root cause is not higher libido of all men, but excessive activity of some high-libido men","There is a common misconception that man are hornier than women (and that is the root cause of all the problems in dating). Women complain about dickpics, men pushing for sex on first date, men who want just one thing, men who coerce and ignore word no et.c. Women get insane attention on OLD services, but majority of this attention is sort of spam. On the other hand, if you go to r/DeadBedrooms you might see pretty equal number of threads with complains about low-libido men and women. @@ -56099,7 +56099,7 @@ Men who don't chase women are not seen by women. Men who are obsessed - are seen Yes, not all men are super-horny, but among super-horny people there is more men and such men cause a lot of issues leading to generic misandry and reinforcing double standards that impact all men. -I saw ideas to ""reduce libido of men to fix dating"". No need to fix all men, just a fraction of men who cause majority of problems. ",,23,WanabeInflatable,1701958127.0 +I saw ideas to ""reduce libido of men to fix dating"". No need to fix all men, just a fraction of men who cause majority of problems. ",,23,WanabeInflatable,2023-12-07 14:08:47 PurplePillDebate,18cx656,"Why does it seem ""Wit"" and/or ""Witness"" plays a central part in dating particulary in the Anglosphere?","Hey guys, This is an observation I've made. I'm not saying its not possible to be witty. Which it is hard to attain but definitely possible. However, It is an ""art"" in itself. And it both requires creativity to write the lines and ability to performe the lines. Two separate and different skills that require both effort, time and at the minimum a few years to master. @@ -56114,7 +56114,7 @@ However, based on my observation this is not neccesarily the case. While humor d From my observations with Latin American, Eastern Europe and even Germany. Communication tends to be more ""explicit"" and expectations more ""upfront."" -What do you guys think? ",,6,Marcel_7000,1701960476.0 +What do you guys think? ",,6,Marcel_7000,2023-12-07 14:47:56 PurplePillDebate,18cio92,Why do women never blame Married women for their persistent support of the GOP and the Pro Life Movement like they do sexless/dateless men?,"This is somewhat in response to the claims from women on Reddit who insist that single men and Incels are plotting to strip women of their rights while pinning the Roe Vs. Wade situation on them without using any facts or stats to back it up. Threads like this being a classic example: @@ -56155,7 +56155,7 @@ So, why do women on here and many other parts of social media blame/scapegoat da &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,73,pop442,1701908622.0 +&#x200B;",,73,pop442,2023-12-07 00:23:42 PurplePillDebate,18cv2vo,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -56174,7 +56174,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,1701954018.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,2023-12-07 13:00:18 PurplePillDebate,18cjytd,"There is no presumption of cheating and no paternity test. (That's why, presumption of cheating does not justify being against the test).","Some facts: @@ -56203,7 +56203,7 @@ It is about **PATERNITY** and not of **FIDELITY**. Therefore, it makes no sense for people to say that demanding the test is accusing the woman of cheating. The test is incapable of determining fidelity, it only determines whether the man is the child's biological father and nothing else. Assuming accusations of treason and denying the test only serves to raise unnecessary suspicions and take away the peace of the couple, especially the man who will now have a legitimate suspicion (A woman opposing the test by accusing her husband of distrust is slightly suspicious behavior, it gives the impression that the woman overestimates the chances of the man not being the father, and there is no way for her to know that the man is a chimera when he doesn't even know and the chances are low). -Opposing the test is, at the very least, a lack of empathy, not caring whether the man sleeps peacefully or not.",,8,[deleted],1701912523.0 +Opposing the test is, at the very least, a lack of empathy, not caring whether the man sleeps peacefully or not.",,8,[deleted],2023-12-07 01:28:43 PurplePillDebate,18cin42,5.25% of adults aged 40 and above have never been in a relationship: ramifications?,"Considering what's going on with the male loneliness epidemic right now, I thought I'd bring this up. 5.25% of adults aged 40 and above have never been in a relationship. This is 21% of the 25% of adults aged 40 and above who have ""never married"" status. @@ -56224,14 +56224,14 @@ What are the ramifications for the rest of the never-marrieds? What are the ramifications for the overall dating pool? -What are the ramifications for society at large?",,10,FromAuntToNiece,1701908524.0 +What are the ramifications for society at large?",,10,FromAuntToNiece,2023-12-07 00:22:04 PurplePillDebate,18c6qdo,Do you think there are more men willing to be house husbands or more women will to have house husbands?,"By ""willing"", I mean be happily married and faithful to. I've seen this discussion around the internet. Men think that most women wouldn't be happy long term with a husband who is a homemaker. One who doesn't earn money but does the house work and the majority of the childcare. The women say that it's the men who wouldn't do it because they'd feel insecure or intimidated by having a wife who is the breadwinner. -I'd like to get some opinions on this. What do you think there are more of?",,42,shadowrangerfs,1701877403.0 -PurplePillDebate,18dbcus,The red pill men on youtube have 30 and 40 YEAR OLD WOMEN terrified of aging. Can we please normalize older women being just as beautiful as the 20 something year olds,This is why so many women are getting plastic surgery an botox and everything else under the sun please these youtube channels keep talking about how women hit the wall at 30. please sop making older women feel bad about themselves. plus 30 isnt even THAT old. I'm 30 and i still feel like im 20 at heart. I just like these youtube channels are too toxic and make everyone feel bad about themselves,,0,Educational_Lab_525,1701999299.0 -PurplePillDebate,18ck7e2,"Purple pill women, why are you purple pill?","I noticed there are profiles with “purple pill woman” flair. I’m interested, what makes you purple and not blue pilled? Does it mean you think some ideas from red pill are true?",,4,odd_cloud,1701913247.0 +I'd like to get some opinions on this. What do you think there are more of?",,42,shadowrangerfs,2023-12-06 15:43:23 +PurplePillDebate,18dbcus,The red pill men on youtube have 30 and 40 YEAR OLD WOMEN terrified of aging. Can we please normalize older women being just as beautiful as the 20 something year olds,This is why so many women are getting plastic surgery an botox and everything else under the sun please these youtube channels keep talking about how women hit the wall at 30. please sop making older women feel bad about themselves. plus 30 isnt even THAT old. I'm 30 and i still feel like im 20 at heart. I just like these youtube channels are too toxic and make everyone feel bad about themselves,,0,Educational_Lab_525,2023-12-08 01:34:59 +PurplePillDebate,18ck7e2,"Purple pill women, why are you purple pill?","I noticed there are profiles with “purple pill woman” flair. I’m interested, what makes you purple and not blue pilled? Does it mean you think some ideas from red pill are true?",,4,odd_cloud,2023-12-07 01:40:47 PurplePillDebate,18c8iuo,Staring vs glancing,"Several posts recently about women recording and publically shaming men who ""stare"" at them. One guy was on a bus. Another was on a train, I believe. I have seen a lot of these videos over the past few years, especially the gym influencer ones. @@ -56244,19 +56244,19 @@ If the dude looks away every few seconds, it means, at most, he's checking you o If women go out in public, they do not get free reign to filter the reactions they get from men when those reactions involve nothing more than eyeballs (no words, no actual interaction). If you look attractive, you will get this kind of innocous attention and you don't get to arbitrarily decide it is ok for some people to do it and others not. And you don't get to change the definition of staring to include furtive glances from men who would probably never be able to even work up the nerve to walk up and speak to you. -What do you think?",,9,PrecisionHat,1701882145.0 +What do you think?",,9,PrecisionHat,2023-12-06 17:02:25 PurplePillDebate,18c1h2k,Q4F: Becoming dumb around your crush?,"Hi all, just wanted to ask the women on here about this crazy phenomenon that affects us all. As a male, I very often see men just throw their brains out their window in the presence of an attractive woman. From saying dumb things to forgetting how to human to fumbling the simplest of tasks. I mean, I get it. Nervousness and anxiety can make us fumble at the worst times. Just wanted to hear from women what are some instances of such things ever happening to you in the presence of your crush/someone you find attractive? How did it make you feel and did you try to cover or make up for it? -Tell me your stories!",,11,Dear_Archer7711,1701860129.0 +Tell me your stories!",,11,Dear_Archer7711,2023-12-06 10:55:29 PurplePillDebate,18c6lf7,Should we encourage Peer Pressure?,"Speaking as someone who didn't participate in a lot of the party scene (I went to a few, they weren't all that), should we encourage our children and young adults to actually acquiesce to peer pressure? It seems backwards to me, but these types of scenarios where drugs and alcohol are present provide some of the greatest access to socialization. Regardless of whether you're a teenager or an adult. Is it in the person's best interest to not *always* make the smart decision? In fact, I'm sure there's a saying that encapsulates the benefit of terrible choices when it comes to having stories to tell. Do a few petty offenses or bad outcomes weigh more than having not so much as a speeding ticket to your name? -You hear it a lot here, I think: To be romantically and sexually successful, you need to be someone who's fun to be around. How do you, men and women, measure a 'fun' factor? Are we gimping ourselves and future adults out of love and sex by instructing them to put their noses to the grindstone and to become 'upstanding members of society'?",,2,OnePotatoeChip,1701877014.0 +You hear it a lot here, I think: To be romantically and sexually successful, you need to be someone who's fun to be around. How do you, men and women, measure a 'fun' factor? Are we gimping ourselves and future adults out of love and sex by instructing them to put their noses to the grindstone and to become 'upstanding members of society'?",,2,OnePotatoeChip,2023-12-06 15:36:54 PurplePillDebate,18c2gd1,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -56275,22 +56275,22 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,3,AutoModerator,1701864016.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,3,AutoModerator,2023-12-06 12:00:16 PurplePillDebate,18bhd1l,Can the mods please make a rule that comments saying that somebody is just lying about their personal experience will be deleted?,"This type of behavior is not conducive to actual debate, it’s just creating an echo chamber. Over and over again, you’ll see one person post something to the likes of “All [gender identity] do\think/are motivated by ________.” And then when somebody from the specified gender says that they, somebody of that gender, actually has had the opposite experience in their lives, so the statement is therefore not true of all people of that gender identity, you’ll get people retorting back saying “no, you’re just lying, you actual do what OP says and are refusing to admit it.” -This is not conducive to debate at all, and is quite the opposite. So can there be a rule made about this type of behavior, or at the very least stop calling this a “debate” space?",,49,TidyMess123,1701797607.0 +This is not conducive to debate at all, and is quite the opposite. So can there be a rule made about this type of behavior, or at the very least stop calling this a “debate” space?",,49,TidyMess123,2023-12-05 17:33:27 PurplePillDebate,18btv45,Success with women is influenced by the “observer effect”,"If you don’t know what the observer effect is, I highly encourage you to look it up, as I am not a physicist and only have a layman’s understanding. Nonetheless, as I understand it, the mere act of observing a quantum particle actually affects the state that it is in. I am reticent to say much else because I don’t want to confuse anyone, but I believe this is why many women emphasize confidence. If you approach a situation with the confidence that the outcome will be favorable to you, then such an outcome is also more likely. I am not saying that confidence alone is 100% determinant of an outcome, but I do think it has a significant effect, and I also believe that one’s general confidence has a significant effect on their outward appearance. But I also believe the effect is reciprocal: the more one improves their outward appearance, the more confident they will be, and the more their outward appearance will improve. -Again, this isn’t the only determining factor. There are certainly external factors that can erode your confidence and lead to a negative feedback loop, but guarding your mental health and practicing mental resilience can help overcome those challenges",,7,topplingtyranny,1701830792.0 +Again, this isn’t the only determining factor. There are certainly external factors that can erode your confidence and lead to a negative feedback loop, but guarding your mental health and practicing mental resilience can help overcome those challenges",,7,topplingtyranny,2023-12-06 02:46:32 PurplePillDebate,18bfc10,What is your take on the PPD survey/demographic results?,"[According to the survey results](https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/184sun9/survey_results_new_mods_and_other_jannyisms/), the typical poster/commenter by far in this sub is a: White, single, virgin, middle class male USA-ian between 18-30 y/o who identifies as a non-bluepiller. -I mean, it wasn't really **that** surprising to me, especially looking back at the majority of posts in this sub. Makes more sense now. I'm definitely reading this sub in a different light now.",,35,NefariousnessLife220,1701792336.0 +I mean, it wasn't really **that** surprising to me, especially looking back at the majority of posts in this sub. Makes more sense now. I'm definitely reading this sub in a different light now.",,35,NefariousnessLife220,2023-12-05 16:05:36 PurplePillDebate,18bhhv0,"Let's say there was a reliable test to see if your male partner had ever cheated or would ever cheat on you. Would you use it, and would you judge other women negatively for using it? Also included in the test is if they've ever abused a woman in the past, or will abuse you in the future.","Note: this test is used for people in committed relationships. Not to be used on a first date with a stranger. @@ -56302,7 +56302,7 @@ Or would women just be expected to trust their male partner, and be shamed out o -Edit: for people who will argue ""false equivalency"", the reason women are against paternity tests is because they feel they're being accused of infidelity and being a liar, and that their partner doesn't trust them . In this scenario, women would be ""accusing"" men of infidelity and being a liar. Even worse than that, women would be accusing men of being abusers and assaulters, which presumably men should be offended by? ",,17,Brilliant-Hornet1916,1701797952.0 +Edit: for people who will argue ""false equivalency"", the reason women are against paternity tests is because they feel they're being accused of infidelity and being a liar, and that their partner doesn't trust them . In this scenario, women would be ""accusing"" men of infidelity and being a liar. Even worse than that, women would be accusing men of being abusers and assaulters, which presumably men should be offended by? ",,17,Brilliant-Hornet1916,2023-12-05 17:39:12 PurplePillDebate,18cfx5m,We don’t need Paternity Tests.," **We don’t need Paternity Tests.** @@ -56338,7 +56338,7 @@ Again thank you to those who have debated in good faith, without the use of insu -",,0,TheRedPillRipper,1701901094.0 +",,0,TheRedPillRipper,2023-12-06 22:18:14 PurplePillDebate,18bwy2c,Are women turned off more by guys being okay with their pasts than they let on?,"There is this talk on here about how women hate guys who judge them for having more lovers in their pasts and that they feel guys are insecure for not being okay with it. @@ -56352,11 +56352,11 @@ However, both reacted like they were turned off at me asking to do something to So I wonder, if woman want guys to be okay with their pasts, why would they get turned off at something like this, where the guy is very much okay with it therefore? -Perhaps women are turned on by guys not being okay with their pasts, because that exerts masculinity, which a lot women find attractive?",,1,harmonica2,1701840714.0 +Perhaps women are turned on by guys not being okay with their pasts, because that exerts masculinity, which a lot women find attractive?",,1,harmonica2,2023-12-06 05:31:54 PurplePillDebate,18b0lvb,Women are only “loney” if they choose to be,"Women are always talking about how they can be loney too and how many dont have as many options as we think. Yet we have a woman who went on the whatever podcast yesterday. She weights 400 pounds. She has a BF now. She had had 2 men offer to marry her. She says she has tons of men hitting her up On tinder. She said if she wanted to dump her BF she could have a new one in 5 minutes. -This proves that female “ loneliness or dating problems are all fake”",,98,Spare-Estimate5596,1701740900.0 -PurplePillDebate,18b3vun,Why do men let their gfs push them around?,"Nearly everyone of my friends who is in or was in a relationship basically let their girlfriends tell them when to hangout with them or what they were going to do, or they would bitch at them if they didn’t hangout. The worst part is I can see it plain as day but the guys don’t and either go along their girlfriends demands happily or just make them happy even if they would rather not. What’s weird is the girls never loose attraction like the red pill would have you believe. Was wondering if anyone else has noticed anything like this.",,54,BrightProduct5135,1701751005.0 +This proves that female “ loneliness or dating problems are all fake”",,98,Spare-Estimate5596,2023-12-05 01:48:20 +PurplePillDebate,18b3vun,Why do men let their gfs push them around?,"Nearly everyone of my friends who is in or was in a relationship basically let their girlfriends tell them when to hangout with them or what they were going to do, or they would bitch at them if they didn’t hangout. The worst part is I can see it plain as day but the guys don’t and either go along their girlfriends demands happily or just make them happy even if they would rather not. What’s weird is the girls never loose attraction like the red pill would have you believe. Was wondering if anyone else has noticed anything like this.",,54,BrightProduct5135,2023-12-05 04:36:45 PurplePillDebate,18b0lpo,What are realistic options / solutions for men who can not compete in today's dating market?,"I wanted to raise a discussion about solutions for men who can not compete in today's dating market. This is for men who can not realistically do things to increase their SMV and compete in the dating market. For example a man who is very short, ugly and lacks the intellect/competency to increase his financial status or other areas to the point he is attractive enough for women. @@ -56365,7 +56365,7 @@ What are the options or solutions for men like this? And I mean realistic option So for men like this what can they do? We know there is a mismatch in the dating market (with average women often ignoring their equivalent and seeking men above them) so men like this can not even date women on their level e.g. they can not date below average women as well. So simply ""lowering standards"" also really isn't a realistic option as well. -&#x200B;",,61,ShelterNo2786,1701740888.0 +&#x200B;",,61,ShelterNo2786,2023-12-05 01:48:08 PurplePillDebate,18b9jq2,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -56384,7 +56384,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,10,AutoModerator,1701774033.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,10,AutoModerator,2023-12-05 11:00:33 PurplePillDebate,18ax8sc,"It's honestly extremely based that society is just tearing apart at the seams and neolibs/bluepills are like ""Hell yea man, products to consume""","Posting this here because I was dying of laughter reading someone talking about the severe atomization of modern society on the scale of diminishing friendships and sex rates for both genders (statistically provable) only to be told by other people in this sub >Damn dude why don't you, like, touch grass bro @@ -56413,13 +56413,13 @@ I often talk about how boomers and Gen Xers that post here talk as if the 90s ne Is this genuinely their ideal society? Their ideal world? Is using fucking smartphones for the interwebz greater than all else? -More about the worldview of bluepillers than dating",,84,Turbulent-Fig-3123,1701731516.0 +More about the worldview of bluepillers than dating",,84,Turbulent-Fig-3123,2023-12-04 23:11:56 PurplePillDebate,18anj80,Most advice targeted at men here is to make them wait until they are too old to do anything,"1. **approaching women while young?** *""stop bothering women and work on yourself, the right one will come along one day""* 2. **start hitting your 30s alone and inexperienced** *""lmao don't you have a lawn to mow, pops? why didn't you find a wife in your 20s?""* What is most striking about this women's/bluepill advice is how it mirrors the redpill one: the advice ""work on yourself"" doesn't explicitly instruct not to date before you achieve those 'goals', but its implication are nonetheless that women don't want you because you aren't ""self-actualized"" in neoliberal sense: not having the right career, the right education, the right social life, the right fit body, the right conversation skills, the right emotional intelligence... -Imagine then a guy spending his 20/30s believing he is single and unable to get a date because he is unremarkable and lacking, restlessly improving and grinding, thinking to himself, I'm getting there one day... only to wake up in his late 30s single and inexperienced he certainly won't be in the same ""life stage"" as his dating pool of divorcees and single moms. The way male loneliness is explained is that men are lagging behind women and they need more ""self-improvement"" did at least partially make blakpill stuff like ""looksmaxxing"" go mainstream recently and its only gonna get more toxic I'm afraid.",,305,Napo_De_Leone,1701706363.0 +Imagine then a guy spending his 20/30s believing he is single and unable to get a date because he is unremarkable and lacking, restlessly improving and grinding, thinking to himself, I'm getting there one day... only to wake up in his late 30s single and inexperienced he certainly won't be in the same ""life stage"" as his dating pool of divorcees and single moms. The way male loneliness is explained is that men are lagging behind women and they need more ""self-improvement"" did at least partially make blakpill stuff like ""looksmaxxing"" go mainstream recently and its only gonna get more toxic I'm afraid.",,305,Napo_De_Leone,2023-12-04 16:12:43 PurplePillDebate,18bwzl0,Are men like Androids?,"I was rereading Philip K Dick’s book Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep? and thinking more about who androids are and their essence. It talks about how androids don’t have empathy. Which is part of why they aren’t humans. Another interesting feature is that they can’t sense a presence of another human being. They don’t recognize consciousness…because they don’t have a real Self-consciousness (in a very much Hegelian sense). Yet, they don’t really know it because they don’t know what it feels like to be anything different. Yet, they want to be real and believe themselves to be real. They want to have subjectivity…to be fucking agents and thus pretend to be real. @@ -56430,7 +56430,7 @@ Because modern industrialized capitalistic society is pretty rough on human agen Edit! Since so many people are confused, I’m not only talking about men versus women. I am mostly talking about men who exemplify masculine archetype qualities without having enough feminine qualities in their psyche to balance it out. -Of course there have been plenty creative and sensitive men that became artists, poets, etc. I am talking about masculine men. Men who exemplify masculine archetypical qualities such as: efficiency, action, cold rationality, competitiveness, aggressiveness, manipulation/strategizing, etc. That’s the people whose consciousness is similar to the consciousness of androids. ",,0,Spirited-Reality-651,1701840863.0 +Of course there have been plenty creative and sensitive men that became artists, poets, etc. I am talking about masculine men. Men who exemplify masculine archetypical qualities such as: efficiency, action, cold rationality, competitiveness, aggressiveness, manipulation/strategizing, etc. That’s the people whose consciousness is similar to the consciousness of androids. ",,0,Spirited-Reality-651,2023-12-06 05:34:23 PurplePillDebate,18b17y0,CMV: there should be divorce insurance,"So I just had an epiphany while sitting on the crapper. You know how life is risky and unpredictable. There’s a whole range of events that could happen that could need us to fork out yuuuge sums of money. That’s why we have health insurance in case we need medical care or car insurance incase our car gets wrapped around a tree. @@ -56439,7 +56439,7 @@ Well on PPPD I always see people discussing the risks of marriage and divorce ra There should be insurance plans for this. The insurance company assesses your marriage and risk of divorce and how much you’d lose in such an event and then decides the premium based on this. You pay an annual amount but overall if you do end up getting divorced, it will cover associated costs. -There will be different products, a comprehensive plan will cover all associated alimony costs and child support and asset division while a very basic plan just covers legal fees.",,12,dbz__f,1701742702.0 +There will be different products, a comprehensive plan will cover all associated alimony costs and child support and asset division while a very basic plan just covers legal fees.",,12,dbz__f,2023-12-05 02:18:22 PurplePillDebate,18baa1w,[Science] Study: Marriage and the Economic Well-Being at Older Ages,"""Marriage and the Economic Well-Being at Older Ages""; Julie Zissimopoulos, Benjamin R. Karney, Amy J Rauer; March 2013; Review of Economics of the Household 13(1) (full text available): https://www.researchgate.net/publication/257644181_Marriage_and_the_Economic_Well-Being_at_Older_Ages @@ -56478,7 +56478,7 @@ Another point worth remembering is that at least part of this disparity can be e Edit: somewhat relevant to my older post: https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/13fts1a/some_scientific_results_on_worklifefertility/ -Discuss.",,0,abaxeron,1701776932.0 +Discuss.",,0,abaxeron,2023-12-05 11:48:52 PurplePillDebate,18ap9ff,Why do women friendzone guys who move slowly?,"Seems like my success skyrocket after becoming more sexually forward. But I'm not a sexually forward person. I need a level of comfort of a few dates first, but if my foot isn't on the gas I get the ""I don't feel enough chemistry to continue."" @@ -56487,17 +56487,17 @@ Here's my question: The most common complaint I hear from women is guys being sexually pushy and how they want to get to know someone first. But then those same women friendzone guys who move slowly. -I'm confused?",,58,ElusiveCup,1701711022.0 +I'm confused?",,58,ElusiveCup,2023-12-04 17:30:22 PurplePillDebate,18amhde,The best advice for men when it comes to dating and relationships is to stop chasing and approaching women.,"I know some men won't want to hear this because they know there's a chance that if they stop approaching women, then they'll stop getting laid. But I think it's now time for men to collectively start looking beyond sex and getting attention from women and instead get some self respect and stop chasing and giving attention to people who don't actually even care about you as a person. I say this because, unfortunately, most women only like men for what they can get from them and how they make them feel, rather than who they are as people. The dating market for women is over saturated with men willing to jump through all kinds of hoops for sex and approval, so it's hard for women to actually appreciate men. Men have made themselves way too available to women and have approached and complemented them too much that women don't even really care anymore, even though the attention and complements still make them feel good about themselves. -When looked at objectively, women don't really seem to care that much about men, so the relationship between men and women collectively is starting to look embarrassing for men. Men are tasked with intitiating, approaching women, being interesting and entertaining, paying for dates, providing, and so on. But women just show up expecting the man to pay and be entertaining, and yet most men actually feel happy with this arrangement because they're just glad that the woman is gracing them with her presence, meanwhile they're just another dude in her life who buys her stuff and entertains her .",,63,Agreeable-Moment-760,1701703461.0 +When looked at objectively, women don't really seem to care that much about men, so the relationship between men and women collectively is starting to look embarrassing for men. Men are tasked with intitiating, approaching women, being interesting and entertaining, paying for dates, providing, and so on. But women just show up expecting the man to pay and be entertaining, and yet most men actually feel happy with this arrangement because they're just glad that the woman is gracing them with her presence, meanwhile they're just another dude in her life who buys her stuff and entertains her .",,63,Agreeable-Moment-760,2023-12-04 15:24:21 PurplePillDebate,18b9jst,Why are women said to be more obedient than men and how this obedience trait could be related to the saying women are always right?,"The stuff that we usually hear that girls reach maturity early or women complain that there are fewer restrictions on boys or that girls are well behaved can be used to conclude that women are more obedient than men. The researches say otherwise but a simple explanation from [an article using various studies](https://www.psychologywizard.net/differences-in-obedience--prejudice-ao1-ao2-ao3.html) (which also says both genders have the same level of obedience) quotes ""Navarrete et al. (2012) offer an evolutionary theory called the ""Male Warrior Hypothesis"". They suggest that males have evolved to be hostile towards outsiders but females have evolved a ""tend-and-befriend"" response instead. Navarrete links this to behaviour in chimpanzees, where the males launch attacks on rival groups of chimps."" So how do you befriend someone? Show them respect, accept to some of their demands, try to impress them? Could it be confused with the definition of obedience (compliance with an order, request, or law or submission to another's authority.)? These do fit somewhat. Also, the saying ""women are always right"" which has been used as some jokes throughout our history is somewhat opposite to this nature of obedience (if they obey more shouldn't they also easily accept their mistakes to not upset others?) or Does it stem from this nature itself? How does this stem from the befriending nature that you ask or ponder? It could be attributed that if you want to be loved by someone badly, you will not want to upset them at any cost. So if you do something wrong, you will want to deny it outright not to be seen as a bad person as cited [here](https://econtent.hogrefe.com/doi/10.1024/2673-8627/a000019#:~:text=Results%20showed%20that%20females%20exhibit,Mclean%20%26%20Anderson%2C%202009) ""Results showed that females exhibit higher rejection sensitivity and interpersonal anxiety than males. In general, females appear to experience higher anxiety than males, and they are also more likely to develop anxiety disorders ."" -&#x200B;",,2,thedarkracer,1701774040.0 +&#x200B;",,2,thedarkracer,2023-12-05 11:00:40 PurplePillDebate,18aml25,Watching people be unaware of their type is funny.,"For people who have been actually paying attention to what I have said, I bring up a former friend of mine named Kelly. She always talks about how most men (other than her husband) aint shit, violent, cheats, etc. She never seems to acknowledge that she was once a drug addicted who picked men based on if they would pay for her drug habit. Of course, that would lead her to dating pimps, abusers, and even kidnappers. But apparently, she’d rather blame the whole male gender than the fact her addiction left her vulnerable to predators. @@ -56537,25 +56537,25 @@ and I think the explanation is really good: ***1) become the top 5% man. Get a good looking face, a pleasant tan, a nice haircut, good money, a charismatic fun attitude, good social skills and a cut physique. Then you will have attractive women all over the place looking to fuck you.*** ***2) compromise on what you want.*** ***There is no middle ground.*** -I dont understand why guys keep doing this One-Size-Fits-All dating strategy if it’s not working for them. Like a couple of my guy friends did, you’d probably be better off looking into what particular type of woman you want and focus on what they want in a guy. Also, people generally don’t want to be around someone who will just take anyone.",,32,LillthOfBabylon,1701703764.0 +I dont understand why guys keep doing this One-Size-Fits-All dating strategy if it’s not working for them. Like a couple of my guy friends did, you’d probably be better off looking into what particular type of woman you want and focus on what they want in a guy. Also, people generally don’t want to be around someone who will just take anyone.",,32,LillthOfBabylon,2023-12-04 15:29:24 PurplePillDebate,18apd2d,Doesn't it seem like these days men's perception of other men is getting better?,"Back in the day, men would tell their gfs or sisters stuff like: ""Stay away from that dude. I know how men are"" But ever since the social media ""gender war"", even men's perception of other men is changing for the positive. Back in the day, men who didn't want casual sex were shunned, but these days men acknowledge in each other that men want true love and relationships. I hear more and more men being open about not wanting casual sex. Men are being praised for getting good girls and having beautiful relationships Men are more open to their girlfriend's and sisters having male friends, because men know that we men aren't just some ""lustful crazed beings"". -So yeah, doesn't it seem like men's perception of other men is getting better?",,16,Consistent-Gur6932,1701711294.0 +So yeah, doesn't it seem like men's perception of other men is getting better?",,16,Consistent-Gur6932,2023-12-04 17:34:54 PurplePillDebate,18aqncw,"Women, I have questions","I’ve found that women often become defensive when questioned or critiqued by men. Even if the man isn’t necessarily saying something that is offensive about you in particular. Is this a conscious approach or does it happen inherently? Do you realize how this may be looked at as a negative by men when it comes to dating? Do you find that more often than not, women are more combative than before with men or is that a fallacy? Do you feel like men and women are unnecessarily at odds in dating and in life? You can answer objectively or subjectively. I would also love anecdotal experiences and maybe personal account of the changes or lack there of in the overall interaction between men and women in and out of a dating environment -Before anyone says it, I understand that you don’t like me from previous posts please don’t let that make you start insulting me instead of answering lol. But yes, I’m surely asking because many women take my posts negatively and somewhat personally and I don’t intend for it to be",,13,Ackee_an_Salfish,1701714607.0 +Before anyone says it, I understand that you don’t like me from previous posts please don’t let that make you start insulting me instead of answering lol. But yes, I’m surely asking because many women take my posts negatively and somewhat personally and I don’t intend for it to be",,13,Ackee_an_Salfish,2023-12-04 18:30:07 PurplePillDebate,18bel7f,Why are so many men obsessed with being the top guy when they know most men will never be the top guy?,"Why are so many men obsessed with being the top guy when they know most men will never be the top I never understood this mindset and it seems to be a setup for failure. Also, it seems the guys who envy the top guy the most are the guys doing worse with women than the average guy. They even show “proof” that woman dont find 80% of men appealing, so why are you trying to use your looks to get women if you’re so desperate for a woman? And the desire to only want hookups makes this even worse, because time and time again, its been proven that hookup culture is very lopsided because women do not like hookups that much. Most women try it once, hated it, and dont do it again. Not only do these wants to be the guy that most can never be, they want to participate in a culture most guys barely have luck in? I dont see the point if having these high expectations just to be met with disappointment, especially when the alleged goal is to get women to like them. How are they going to do that by chasing the top guy life when theyre not the top guy? If getting a woman to like them is the goal, shouldn’t they want to look up to normal bottom 80% guys who obtained much easier goals and success? -The only thing that makes sense to me is that these guys never liked women. They admired guys who get women to flock to them and fuck them with ease, not having to “waste time” getting to know women. Perhaps they dont want to be the guy who socialized with average chicks to get sex and love from one of them. Perhaps they dont want to put in the effort to get to know an ordinary woman and only want to fuck hot girls they dont have to care about.",,0,LillthOfBabylon,1701790578.0 +The only thing that makes sense to me is that these guys never liked women. They admired guys who get women to flock to them and fuck them with ease, not having to “waste time” getting to know women. Perhaps they dont want to be the guy who socialized with average chicks to get sex and love from one of them. Perhaps they dont want to put in the effort to get to know an ordinary woman and only want to fuck hot girls they dont have to care about.",,0,LillthOfBabylon,2023-12-05 15:36:18 PurplePillDebate,18b4djv,"If recording random men and putting them on the internet to be ridiculed is ok, how do you feel about creepshots?","I made this post after reading that post about the female that recorded an awkward man and he got blasted on the internet for his “creepiness” None of the female commentators seemed to upset that a man was being recorded without his consent and then plastered on the internet for the world to see -Now if this is okay then I’m guessing creepshots of girls of legal age would also be okay? I mean guys shouldn’t need consent to film or take photos of females in public and put them on the internet, right?",,0,Ass-a-holic,1701752642.0 +Now if this is okay then I’m guessing creepshots of girls of legal age would also be okay? I mean guys shouldn’t need consent to film or take photos of females in public and put them on the internet, right?",,0,Ass-a-holic,2023-12-05 05:04:02 PurplePillDebate,18ask9z,Does your insight into sexual dynamics apply to “most” or “nearly all?”,"For people who believe in the red pill, do you think your understanding of how women work apply to nearly all women? Or just most women? Followup questions for those who believe it applies to “nearly all” women: @@ -56570,12 +56570,12 @@ Followup questions for those who believe it applies to “most” women: 2. If its a numbers game, why act based on the “majority” if the majority is so depressing for you? Why not play the lesser, but happier odds? -3. Dont you think reasoning that most women need excitement, and then playing games with them, “keeping them on their toes” will simply only net you the very women that cause you to feel that disdain? Like if a minority of women dont want to play games, you doing so would just push them away.",,5,grillopie,1701719462.0 +3. Dont you think reasoning that most women need excitement, and then playing games with them, “keeping them on their toes” will simply only net you the very women that cause you to feel that disdain? Like if a minority of women dont want to play games, you doing so would just push them away.",,5,grillopie,2023-12-04 19:51:02 PurplePillDebate,18ao0ah,How many women have you asked out?,"How many women in the last 12 months have you asked on a date? To clarify, I don’t mean just matching on a dating app or vaguely talking to a crush. I mean actually asked out on a date. -Of those, how many accepted and how many rejected?",,10,[deleted],1701707673.0 +Of those, how many accepted and how many rejected?",,10,[deleted],2023-12-04 16:34:33 PurplePillDebate,18ap7ut,"No, men are not ""creating single moms""","I read people commenting, saying that ""men should stop creating single moms"", usually as a response to criticism of single motherhood. Those users are ignoring the huge power women have in reproduction and choice. I notice that society loves to put responsibility on men that they don't have or cannot control. @@ -56588,7 +56588,7 @@ Think about the many privileges and rights women have on choice and reproduction 4. Women can give to adoption the kid with almost no social repercussions. Men can't disavow such responsibility. 5. Women can practice infanticide with fewer legal consequences. -A lot of times the guy did not even want to have children, but she disregarded it and had the child anyway. It makes sense for those men to not be so invested in a child they did not want. Single moms are creating themselves.",,3,Amiskon2,1701710905.0 +A lot of times the guy did not even want to have children, but she disregarded it and had the child anyway. It makes sense for those men to not be so invested in a child they did not want. Single moms are creating themselves.",,3,Amiskon2,2023-12-04 17:28:25 PurplePillDebate,18a80uk,"Paternity tests should not be used as a weapon against opposite sex, but as a logical progression of rights","Truth is that women have always had the privilege to know the child they had is theirs. Except in cases the baby was swapped, women always had the guarantee they are the parent of the baby. If you observe carefully, technology is also an equalizer. War weapons have also equalized strength of men, so basically open-field combat is obsolete now. Machines made heavy work mostly made by machines, rendering the advantage of strength only marginal, which is positive for people who are weaker but also to prevent strong men and animals from being exploited. This shift is also what made women move further into the work force into jobs that made more sense when strength was a huge advantage, but since machines changed that, women can also work in those positions. In the same token, technology has provided women with tools of self-defense that are equalizers, which means a lot of women can defend themselves effectively using them, instead just relying only on authorities or men. Not to mention the huge advantage of smart phones and other communication tools, that make us way safer overall, in the sense we can call authorities or family as needed. @@ -56601,7 +56601,7 @@ Tests have also already evolved to detect conditions of all kind in babies, to q If the paternity test is standard practice, then there is no need for women to feel their partner is distrusting her. In the same token, most women also don't want their brothers or sons to raise kids that are not theirs and are products of adultery or cheating, so I think most women can agree with this from including the perspective of the men their love in their lives. -**TLDR**: I'm sure sometimes paternity tests are used to ""scare"" women, but truth is that the technology is a win win for men, women and children, just as other tests and medical advances, and also it is an extension of a right that women had but men didn't. Less resentful men, children knowing for sure who their father is, medical advantages of having access to close donators, more paternity rights, etc.",,76,EuphoricBrightTipper,1701650397.0 +**TLDR**: I'm sure sometimes paternity tests are used to ""scare"" women, but truth is that the technology is a win win for men, women and children, just as other tests and medical advances, and also it is an extension of a right that women had but men didn't. Less resentful men, children knowing for sure who their father is, medical advantages of having access to close donators, more paternity rights, etc.",,76,EuphoricBrightTipper,2023-12-04 00:39:57 PurplePillDebate,18akbew,"How common are men having ""parallel families""?","I've seen here on PPD several times women parrying paternity test discussions with notion of ""parallel families"" - i.e. married men having and raising children with their mistresses and supporting them financially. I could not find a single scientific paper investigating this phenomenon. Apparently such behavior has never been even attempted to prosecute under monogamy laws (all court cases on monogamy I could find were members of religious communities demanding being allowed to have several spouses; many of the plaintiffs women). While Yes, many men nowadays engage in extramarital sex, and many happen to have ""oopsie babies"" sometimes, I couldn't find any evidence pointing out what share of these men is married and bleeding their resources into raising the illegitimate child. @@ -56612,7 +56612,7 @@ If there is no estimate of how common ""parallel families"" are, I think it's sa Discuss!!! -EDIT: 21 hours in; thus far all we have is anecdotes.",,3,abaxeron,1701696891.0 +EDIT: 21 hours in; thus far all we have is anecdotes.",,3,abaxeron,2023-12-04 13:34:51 PurplePillDebate,18ah17x,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -56631,13 +56631,13 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,1701684028.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,2023-12-04 10:00:28 PurplePillDebate,189vmb7,"Man gets caught looking at a woman in public, gets his face posted on TikTok with thousands now labeling him a ""creep"""," *""no one said you can't look at a woman! you are just being paranoid!!""* [turns out we're already there.](https://www.tiktok.com/@chloemmaarsh/video/7308686819606973728/) what makes this case exceptionally bad is that it [started a trend](https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGeRfWufB/) with the men going viral having their faces posted and being subject to mass mockery and humiliation by strangers online. Women outing men that hit on them while at work just trying to do their job is one thing, but this is next level: she isn't at her job nor is he hitting on her. It is a slippery slope as it is an attempt to stigmatize what used to fall outside ""sexual harassment"" definitions and most people (even on PDD) had you believe its a fringe mindset of neurotic radfems. -the guy getting his face plastered on social media as ""the creepy guy on the bus"" with people calling him a predator , creep or pervert is absolutely wild when tiktok is full of videos of young women hemselves admitting they do this too *""[how I keep staring at a stranger when he's cute](https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGeRfv9po/)"".*",,204,Napo_De_Leone,1701616724.0 +the guy getting his face plastered on social media as ""the creepy guy on the bus"" with people calling him a predator , creep or pervert is absolutely wild when tiktok is full of videos of young women hemselves admitting they do this too *""[how I keep staring at a stranger when he's cute](https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGeRfv9po/)"".*",,204,Napo_De_Leone,2023-12-03 15:18:44 PurplePillDebate,18a4ff2,What really changed,"First of all, I'm not going to take credit for this idea, it came from my wife during a conversation as we were reading comments to me here in this sub. What's really changed is that we've taken the idea of independence and exaggerated it to the point where it's nothing more than a comical exaggeration of what real independence looks like. @@ -56650,28 +56650,28 @@ She's a professional, and I'm a tradesman. She certainly didn't ""need no man"" That's what's changed. No one is looking for the complementary person to share their life anymore. You see men here (this sub) looking to turn back the clock so they can dominate women, because they believe the only way they'll get a woman is if society gives women no choice in the matter, and sadly many are so intrinsically selfish they'd snap up that deal in a heartbeat. You see women here looking to check off boxes, not looking for a human being, but rather a personal assistant who pays them instead of vice versa. -TLDR; You've created an adversarial system where neither side will ever be happy. Change my view if you can.",,52,Bikerbats,1701640306.0 +TLDR; You've created an adversarial system where neither side will ever be happy. Change my view if you can.",,52,Bikerbats,2023-12-03 21:51:46 PurplePillDebate,18a4jip,Do women look down on men who approach them?,"I sometimes approach girls I like, and they are polite, and I get the number 50% of the time, and about 5% of the time it turns into a talking stage. None have become my girlfriend, but 5% ain't bad, I'll take it -However, I always feel like I'm her inferior. Is it okay for a guy to approach? Like is that in our nature? Or will I seem like I have ""lower social status"" than her because I'm the one who approaches",,40,Consistent-Gur6932,1701640621.0 +However, I always feel like I'm her inferior. Is it okay for a guy to approach? Like is that in our nature? Or will I seem like I have ""lower social status"" than her because I'm the one who approaches",,40,Consistent-Gur6932,2023-12-03 21:57:01 PurplePillDebate,18ba34l,The loneliness epidemic is a myth,"Dating isn't hard for the significant majority of people. The average person gets their first kiss at 15. The average person loses their virginity at 17. [The idea of widespread male sexlessness simply isn't true.](https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/the-ideal-number-of-sexual-partners-for-men-women) Go outside and you'll see all types of people in relationships. You'll see pretty and ugly people holding hands, thin and fat, tall and short, well-dressed and poorly dressed, smelly and perfumed, smart and dumb, kind and cruel. I occasionally volunteer at a soup kitchen and I literally see homeless men and women in relationships there. I used to go to a mental health support group and people with BPD, schizophrenia, social anxiety, etc were in relationships. In that mental health support group I was the odd one out with no relationship experience. All of these ""pills"" including the blue pill, red pill, and black pill just seem so silly after seeing this stuff. Dating is literally effortless for the majority of people. Even obese people with mental illnesses just live life and accidentally fall into relationships, yet there's whole hordes of internet people writing essays and reading endless scientific studies to try and figure out how to min-max getting dates, with barely any results to show for it. But it's all worthless when the average person just does it with literally no effort. The idea of a loneliness epidemic is a myth spread in order to escape from personal responsibility. Lonely people want to pretend that our issues are caused by broader societal issues. We want to pretend that it's not our fault. We want to pretend that our issues are the norm. We want to escape from the truth that we're freakishly small outliers. Which makes sense, because accepting personal responsibility amplifies self hatred. But just because it hurts doesn't mean it isn't true. The truth is that our issues aren't societies fault, they're our own fault. I'm not saying this from an outside perspective, so I'm not externally trying to shit on you, I'm with you. I do have issues with loneliness, but I blame it on no one except myself. I'm a shitty person who will never be loved, and it's entirely my fault, not the world's. -&#x200B;",,0,SmoothForest,1701776161.0 +&#x200B;",,0,SmoothForest,2023-12-05 11:36:01 PurplePillDebate,18a4k84,"Do you agree with the following phrase? ""Men protect their emotional sanctity the same way women protect their sexual sanctity?""","I personally found this phrase very spot on, the kind of thing that puts into words something you hadn't manage to properly express, but that you had in your mind for a long time. A variation of this that I've also heard was: ""Emotions are to women, what sex is to men."" The same way women tend to be more shamed by society as """"""""""""""too easy"""""""""""""""" or """"""""""""low value"""""""""" for sleeping with many dudes, I feel that we men are shamed or at least looked down by both other men and women for ""opening up too easily"" or being ""too emotional"". As if we were ""emotional sluts"" in a way. I've read stories on the internet about men feeling ""used up"" when they gave in to the pressure of opening up about their feelings to their GF or fling before being actually comfortable about doing so. This seems eerily similar to the women that feel ""used"" when they realize the guy they were seeing was just interested in some quick sex, or when they gave in to the pressure of sleeping with the guy when they didn't really feel like it. Despite the ""sexual liberation"" occurred in recent decades regarding women's sexual activities, and the increasing demand to men to open up about their feelings, the truth is that lots of people still (even if subconsciously) apply old standards. Many men say they don't care about women's body count, but in reality they kind of do. Many women say that they would love that men open up to them about their feelings, only to be disgusted and even appalled when they actually do. I guess it's just another case of dissonance between what society claims to want versus what it actually wants from people; plus another expression of how selfish and self centred people of both sexes can be with their demands: some men wanting both a ""pure"" woman and a woman that can perfectly please them in bed, and some women wanting both a ""sensitive"" man but only in regards to HER feelings and a man with no doubts, fears nor insecurities of his own. In other words, some men want to ""exclusively possess and use"" their GFs/wives' sexuality, and some women want to ""exclusively possess and use"" their BFs/husbands' emotions. -I find interesting how men and women's problems tend to be kind of ""the other side of the coin"" between each other. ",,17,bruhholyshiet,1701640676.0 +I find interesting how men and women's problems tend to be kind of ""the other side of the coin"" between each other. ",,17,bruhholyshiet,2023-12-03 21:57:56 PurplePillDebate,189y8y3,Why do women in general prefer being an orbiter of a high value man over being in a relationship with a lower value man?,"Women would rather be in a high value man's rotation of women rather than be in a exclusive relationship with a man who is technically at her looks level. This is likely a significant factor in why so many men are single. I'm not saying this just in theory but personally as well, women in my rotation are aware and okay with being there rather than seeking out a fullfilling and exclusive relationship with lower value men. -Why are women okay with being essentially cucks?",,31,jacked_degenerate,1701624160.0 +Why are women okay with being essentially cucks?",,31,jacked_degenerate,2023-12-03 17:22:40 PurplePillDebate,18a46wj,Nice guys/gals don’t finish last people with unhealthy dating patterns do.," Nice guys finish last and the bad boy gets the girl is a narrative as old as time, and there’s some truth to it. I believe people who make these observations have a very superficial view on the situation. @@ -56684,7 +56684,7 @@ Men who try to “save” women usually fall into Co-dependency. Men who are una The authentically nice people when they find another nice person win because they have the best shot at a healthy relationship. -Build yourself up and stay authentically nice.",,9,simplywebby,1701639684.0 +Build yourself up and stay authentically nice.",,9,simplywebby,2023-12-03 21:41:24 PurplePillDebate,189zf0l,Is it true that women's standards for casual are higher than her standards for a relationship?,"There have been threads on here about how guys have to lie to women to get sex and make it seem like they are interested in more than just sex.  However, I find this to be contradictory to what other threads talk about on here where guys say that women are not interested in relationships and want to be riding the 'c#ck carousel'. @@ -56693,7 +56693,7 @@ I bet the response to this I am going to get is, because the women only want to But this makes me wonder, if average guys have to lie to most women to get sex, whereas Chads do not, this means that women have higher standards for one night stands, than they do for dating. -But this seems so backwards to me if this is true.  When it comes to guys, their standards for a relationship are higher than for one night stands or casual sex.  So why are women flipped to where their standards for casual or higher, than for dating?  Unless I am wrong?",,15,harmonica2,1701627346.0 +But this seems so backwards to me if this is true.  When it comes to guys, their standards for a relationship are higher than for one night stands or casual sex.  So why are women flipped to where their standards for casual or higher, than for dating?  Unless I am wrong?",,15,harmonica2,2023-12-03 18:15:46 PurplePillDebate,189q4j1,Are assumptions around women based on lack of exposure?,"This is based off a skit by Brett Cooper where she pretends to meet a modern day woman as a 50s housewife. This “modern” woman: @@ -56723,7 +56723,7 @@ https://publicdomainreview.org/collection/the-relaxed-wife-1957/ The inverse is also true. There’s so much misogynistic content it’s easy to believe all guys want 18 year old virgins and think women are inferior or used up after having sex. -I have enough men in my life I know that’s absolutely not the case. Most guys are pretty normal and don’t believe women expire at 25 and actually love their gfs/wives and want a collaborative partnership, not a yes man. ",,71,AdhesivenessLevel379,1701596144.0 +I have enough men in my life I know that’s absolutely not the case. Most guys are pretty normal and don’t believe women expire at 25 and actually love their gfs/wives and want a collaborative partnership, not a yes man. ",,71,AdhesivenessLevel379,2023-12-03 09:35:44 PurplePillDebate,189sut6,Why do women expect equality in decision making but not equality in paying for things or completing house tasks?,"I see plenty of women saying that the want equality say in everything. They rather not take a submissive role in a relationship but those very same women still a man to do all of the hard tasks around the house and also help with the easy ones? In a relationship with no kids, what duties are more generally expected for women to do? Cooking, washing dishes, sweeping, wiping down surfaces are what I can come up with while men are expected to take care of the car, move anything, hang everything, clean the gutters, take out and bring in trash, mow the lawn, irrigate the lawn, replace anything that needs to be replaced, pay bills. Plus men are often asked to help with the tasks I listed for women. How does this split not put men in a role of service to the woman? @@ -56732,7 +56732,7 @@ I like using the class project analogy: you and another student are tasked with My thoughts are: your input into the project should directly correspond to how much of a say you have in the matter. Pretty much the same in a relationship. If you put up 30% of everything that has to be paid for, you can have a 30% say in the decision making about shit we pay for. If you pay for nothing, and do very little around the house(doing dishes, sweeping, etc for two ppl is NOTHING in the grand scheme of taking care of a house), then you need to compensate by being agreeable, submissive and peaceful. -Imagine paying for someone’s entire life and them telling you “I don’t like these couches, we need to get new ones” and then being mad and saying they should have equal say in the matter after you told them “no”.",,17,Ackee_an_Salfish,1701607773.0 +Imagine paying for someone’s entire life and them telling you “I don’t like these couches, we need to get new ones” and then being mad and saying they should have equal say in the matter after you told them “no”.",,17,Ackee_an_Salfish,2023-12-03 12:49:33 PurplePillDebate,189uynr,Is it possible to be attracted by personality alone ?,"Months ago I was getting hit on by a coworker who pretented she was capable of being only attracted by a male's personality. That she was able to completely ignore his physical attributes. &#x200B; @@ -56745,7 +56745,7 @@ What do you think of this ? Do you think it's possible to discard completely som I obviously think attraction is a combination of both factors. Some people put more emphasis on one or the other. But I don't think one could be entirely ignored.. -&#x200B;",,10,LaTableEstBasse,1701614775.0 +&#x200B;",,10,LaTableEstBasse,2023-12-03 14:46:15 PurplePillDebate,189j1d4,"Trendline established, as of 2023 top 5% responsible for 50% of all sex; sexual loneliness seen as public health concern","* Acknowledges the marked disparity between male and female attention received on apps * Acknowledges the real health concerns that arise due to sexual loneliness * Acknowledges that ignoring the problem will just lead to an increase in violence and extremism @@ -56755,7 +56755,7 @@ PurplePillDebate,189j1d4,"Trendline established, as of 2023 top 5% responsible f [https://www.researchgate.net/publication/367325876\_Sexual\_loneliness\_A\_neglected\_public\_health\_problem](https://www.researchgate.net/publication/367325876_Sexual_loneliness_A_neglected_public_health_problem) -Edit: OP is a little click-baitey, the top 5% stat is actually from a 2010 study regarding the concentration and distribution of sex. The studies showing an increasing concentration of sex partners among the top % of men ran from 2002-2012, so it's still unknown how much that distribution has further shifted.",,89,SeveralLiterature980,1701569266.0 +Edit: OP is a little click-baitey, the top 5% stat is actually from a 2010 study regarding the concentration and distribution of sex. The studies showing an increasing concentration of sex partners among the top % of men ran from 2002-2012, so it's still unknown how much that distribution has further shifted.",,89,SeveralLiterature980,2023-12-03 02:07:46 PurplePillDebate,189rmld,Who does it benefit to say “people on medication are a red flag”?,"Seriously, has no one thought how fucking stupid it is to be vocal about avoiding people on medications? If you already have a problem with how crazy people are, why would make those people feel bad about trying to reach out for help? The main reason these people are on medication is because they werent doing well on their own. By spreading this “people on medication are red flag” mindset, people will think its better to keep pretending theyre normal and hide their problems until an avoidable tragedy happens. “People can like who they want.” @@ -56763,12 +56763,12 @@ Why do you have to be a vocal asshole about it? To feel superior to people with We should be encouraging people to reach out and seek help for their problems, not telling them theyre undesirable for doing so. Would it be better if people self-medicate their issues with drugs, alcholol, and unsafe sex? Im glad my family listened to my cousin’s cries for help before she turned to alcoholism to deal with her depression. Or maybe we were wrong and she would have been less of a red flag being an alcoholic. -",,14,LillthOfBabylon,1701602835.0 +",,14,LillthOfBabylon,2023-12-03 11:27:15 PurplePillDebate,189m2pp,"As long as women expect men to pay for dates, men will always expect something in return.","This seems so simple and obvious, and yet many women don't seem to understand it. If you expect a man to pay for a date and he does, he's obviously going to expect something in return because he's not giving to charity. When people spend money, they expect something in return, and in the context of dating, men will expect sex, or a second date and so on. Intelligent women understand this, and therefore they pay for their own stuff on a date so as to not get the man to expect anything. Unfortunately, an insane number of women don't think like this. They seem to be so self-centred and focused on getting what they want from a man that they never stop to think about how he feels or what he may expect in return. Some women actually think if a man pays for a date then he really likes them and won't just use them for sex, which is stupid. -You would think that considering history, women today would want to pay for themselves on dates and be independent and not need a provider, unlike women in the past who had no choice but nope. It's 2023 and plenty of women still choose to be dependent on men, and they think this is empowering just because the men spend money on them, and yet they're surprised when these men expect things in return.",,36,Agreeable-Moment-760,1701579533.0 +You would think that considering history, women today would want to pay for themselves on dates and be independent and not need a provider, unlike women in the past who had no choice but nope. It's 2023 and plenty of women still choose to be dependent on men, and they think this is empowering just because the men spend money on them, and yet they're surprised when these men expect things in return.",,36,Agreeable-Moment-760,2023-12-03 04:58:53 PurplePillDebate,18adx1v,niceness is not a virtue nor is it an indicator of goodness.,"Niceness as an attribute is inherently self-serving and not an indicator of moral goodness. To be nice means to tend to others’ needs for your own self purpose, whether it be to get others to like you or to get something out of them. Ergo, niceness isn’t an indicator of one’s honest thoughts or feelings, a nice person is usually more concerned with accommodating somebody else than doing what’s right, good or kind. @@ -56781,8 +56781,8 @@ now, you can be nice and good, or nice and kind - as they don’t really contrad With all that being said, what’s the difference between nice and kind? a nice person is accommodating first and foremost, usually for the sake of getting something back. A kind person can be accommodating, sure, but kindness also shows a good natured will for others, ie. expecting nothing in return other than the well being of those you are being kind to. Plus, a kind person is more likely (though not always) to have a backbone and know when to back away, where as a nice person only backs away because they’re told to. -In other words, niceness is a means to an end, and it can be selfish and dishonest if used for the hope of a reward. Plus, it can be patronizing and disrespectful, like you’re willing to be so accommodating that you’re willing to treat those around you as emotionally incapable.",,0,KayRay1994,1701669915.0 -PurplePillDebate,189e04c,"Why do some women object to the stat that women find 80% unattractive, if they also say there aren't enough quality men?","Something I've noticed on social media. Any time you see the stat about 80% of men being unattractive, I'll see women make comments and videos about that stat is wrong, its misleading, it's based on a flawed study. I will also see videos, post in reddit forums, articles and even news reports about women not finding enough quality men. Which is it? Am I missing something?",,98,bison5595,1701553643.0 +In other words, niceness is a means to an end, and it can be selfish and dishonest if used for the hope of a reward. Plus, it can be patronizing and disrespectful, like you’re willing to be so accommodating that you’re willing to treat those around you as emotionally incapable.",,0,KayRay1994,2023-12-04 06:05:15 +PurplePillDebate,189e04c,"Why do some women object to the stat that women find 80% unattractive, if they also say there aren't enough quality men?","Something I've noticed on social media. Any time you see the stat about 80% of men being unattractive, I'll see women make comments and videos about that stat is wrong, its misleading, it's based on a flawed study. I will also see videos, post in reddit forums, articles and even news reports about women not finding enough quality men. Which is it? Am I missing something?",,98,bison5595,2023-12-02 21:47:23 PurplePillDebate,189wy6p,Q4W: How do you feel about other women defending passport bros?,"When I first saw this video, I didn't really know how to react. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8P37kRs/ @@ -56801,7 +56801,7 @@ She was basically defending herself against other women for various comments the Etc -How do other ladies on here feel about her post? Internalized misogyny? Is she blinded because she got lucky and her situation worked out ok?",,2,Windmill_flowers,1701620555.0 +How do other ladies on here feel about her post? Internalized misogyny? Is she blinded because she got lucky and her situation worked out ok?",,2,Windmill_flowers,2023-12-03 16:22:35 PurplePillDebate,189pc2k,"Saying someone has a ""good"" or ""bad"" personality is a very dumb thing to say","First of all, your ""personality"" is comprised of over 170 recognizeable different traits if not more. Everyone has very different aspects to their personality that change depending on your mood, genetics, environment and various other factors. @@ -56810,7 +56810,7 @@ Even the most comprehensive test for supposedly identifying overlapping and cons Given the fact that personality encompasses so many different traits, is highly nuanced and subject to change, it's very dumb and brash to pass judgements on people by labeling their personality as good or bad as if you are the moral arbitor. -I've noticed this is a common trend among lowbrow people who like to label others as having a ""bad"" personality. (all while thinking their personality is top notch, amazing and one of a kind)",,9,steliogural,1701592581.0 +I've noticed this is a common trend among lowbrow people who like to label others as having a ""bad"" personality. (all while thinking their personality is top notch, amazing and one of a kind)",,9,steliogural,2023-12-03 08:36:21 PurplePillDebate,18a2qlo,60% of Millennial women are already nearly infertile. And 80% of childless women regret not having kids. Is this why more women are crying on TikTok than ever before?,"Millennial women are those born between 1980 and 1994 and 35 is an established cut-off for fertility. In reality infertility starts ramping up at 30. Only 6% of Millennial women are still under age 30. So for the vast majority of Millennial women the ship has already sailed. I’m wondering if this is the first sign of the great tipping point where reality starts to settle in for women. There will eventually be a tipping point where a majority of women from a generation can no longer have babies. Since men’s fertility is unaffected by this, men just just date down. @@ -56821,7 +56821,7 @@ Let's consider the facts: * A childless post 30’s woman has about 70 years to live out a life of diminishing looks and dopamine hookups from hedonism. * Post hookup 20’s - a portion of her friends circle will not be able to do girls night out anymore. Essentially your female friends prioritize their children over you. -* The guys that are left are either losers (your words not theirs) or serial players. The A players got married early or continued being Hugh Hefter with younger women. The B players were probably selected as stable providers. No man in his 40s has any reason to compromise his bachelor lifestyle with commitment to an infertile post peak looks woman.",,0,giveuporfindaway,1701636035.0 +* The guys that are left are either losers (your words not theirs) or serial players. The A players got married early or continued being Hugh Hefter with younger women. The B players were probably selected as stable providers. No man in his 40s has any reason to compromise his bachelor lifestyle with commitment to an infertile post peak looks woman.",,0,giveuporfindaway,2023-12-03 20:40:35 PurplePillDebate,1894f1l,"CMV: Most young guys struggle in dating because of the society and time we live in, not because of themselves","I know it probably sounds very entitled and immature to say ""I'm not the problem, society is"", but when it comes to dating, there are a lot of factors that affect dating today that our ancestors simply didn't have to deal with. Of course, a lot of guys struggle in dating because they're just shitty people or undesirable, but I also think there are a lot of otherwise well-adjusted men who simply struggle because of the age we live in. The first and most obvious one is social media and dating apps. Obviously dating apps are bad for men because it overwhelms women with an abundance of options, but social media has also caused a lot of problems as well. @@ -56832,7 +56832,7 @@ On top of that, beauty standards for men have never been higher. Do you think yo Then, there's the economic aspect. A man's economic status and finance is very important to women, but we live in an era in which wages are stagnating while everything else is getting more expensive. A college degree doesn't necessarily guarantee a good job, meanwhile boomers could support a family with just a high school diploma. How are men these days ever supposed to get a relationship if they can't make enough money to be a good provider? -A lot of older guys can attest to this, I've seen so many guys who say ""I'm glad I found my gf/wife before social media and dating apps, the dating scene is a mess these days"" and they're absolutely right. ",,236,Glass_Bucket,1701525838.0 +A lot of older guys can attest to this, I've seen so many guys who say ""I'm glad I found my gf/wife before social media and dating apps, the dating scene is a mess these days"" and they're absolutely right. ",,236,Glass_Bucket,2023-12-02 14:03:58 PurplePillDebate,189hr51,Why do some men demand obedience over collaboration in a marriage?,"**I'm curious about the thinking of a man who believes his wife should be obedient to him.** For the sake of the discussion, there are two ways to go about a relationship: @@ -56851,14 +56851,14 @@ My questions: * What makes obedience superior to collaboration? * What are the drawbacks to collaboration? Why is it inferior? -I'm simply interested in hearing thoughts.",,23,TenaciousVillain,1701565035.0 +I'm simply interested in hearing thoughts.",,23,TenaciousVillain,2023-12-03 00:57:15 PurplePillDebate,189diua,"Why divorce rates initiate by woman are so high, even on lesbian marriages?","Gay man marriage have divorce rates of 25% Men and woman marriage have divorce rates of 50% Lesbian woman marriages have divorce rates of stunning 75%. Also domestic violence (reported ones) are 50% higher on lesbian marriages. -This is all just coincidence? Looks like mens are way more loyal than women, based on statistics.",,44,voidvoices,1701552269.0 +This is all just coincidence? Looks like mens are way more loyal than women, based on statistics.",,44,voidvoices,2023-12-02 21:24:29 PurplePillDebate,189pndb,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -56877,14 +56877,14 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,4,AutoModerator,1701594020.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,4,AutoModerator,2023-12-03 09:00:20 PurplePillDebate,1896vuz,The dating market is saturated for men,"There is perfect competition and no barriers of entry. As you may know in the west; any man can date any woman as long as they are both over the age of 18. For men it’s a relentless corporate rat race where everyone is undercutting each other and pressing the margins to the floor. There isn’t much profit to gain and many are just trying to stay afloat without putting too much effort into their business (their dating life). It also doesn’t help that the customers (women) on the market, are incredibly price-sensitive. They want the highest quality product whilst also paying the least amount of money for said product, which results in the businesses pressing their prices to the floor and making the margins ever so tiny. It’s truly brootal. -Either as a business you press your prices (your standards), to the bottom and date women you don’t see any future with, or you keep your prices at the margins level you want and get eaten up by your competitors who lowers their price. Damned if you do damned if you don’t.",,67,AspiringMogger,1701533325.0 +Either as a business you press your prices (your standards), to the bottom and date women you don’t see any future with, or you keep your prices at the margins level you want and get eaten up by your competitors who lowers their price. Damned if you do damned if you don’t.",,67,AspiringMogger,2023-12-02 16:08:45 PurplePillDebate,189bmzw,CMV: Women complain about the double standards when it comes to sex while also identifying the reason when it’s convenient,"Often times, women will complain about the double standards in society regarding sex. Usually the complaint is something along the lines of how men are applauded for having lots of sex while women are shamed for having a lot of sex. This double standard makes total sense but many women only acknowledge it when it’s convenient to an argument. @@ -56893,7 +56893,7 @@ Edit: removing the vasectomy since people can’t comprehend it so I’ll give a Many women in this sub have justified men needing to pay for dates based on the idea that they take on more risk when it comes to dating and sex -While sometimes people will use the lock and key analogy, the real reason is biological. As a woman the more men you have sex with the greater chance of getting pregnant and the more paternity doubt there is. The double standard makes sense",,27,FutureBannedAccount2,1701546844.0 +While sometimes people will use the lock and key analogy, the real reason is biological. As a woman the more men you have sex with the greater chance of getting pregnant and the more paternity doubt there is. The double standard makes sense",,27,FutureBannedAccount2,2023-12-02 19:54:04 PurplePillDebate,189iuwt,A big problem with dating is that neurotypical people don't know how to vet,"This is something I've slowly come to realize as I've gotten older. Neurotypical people do not vet people. They coast through life purely on vibes when it comes to personal interactions, friendships, and relationships. For instance: 🚩 Spotting red flags is the popular new dating strategy. This is something I've always done unconsciously. I figured everyone did this but apparently not. If I witnessed someone do something cruel, selfish, or at odds with my morals, I would instantly write them off. Why would I want to befriend someone who is casually cruel? If they can do it to other's, they will do it to you. They are broadcasting being a bad person. @@ -56902,7 +56902,7 @@ This problem is especially prominent in women. They will date men who are abuser 🚩 Watch what she does, not what she says is a Red Pill axiom along the same lines. People lie. But their actions always expose who they really are. -If more people knew how to vet for positive and negative character traits, they wouldn't struggle with finding a partner. Controversial opinion: finding good women and men to date is actually easy if you know how to vet. It also saves you a lot of trouble because you can instantly cut off incompatible people without wasting your time.",,10,Captain_Save_A_304,1701568681.0 +If more people knew how to vet for positive and negative character traits, they wouldn't struggle with finding a partner. Controversial opinion: finding good women and men to date is actually easy if you know how to vet. It also saves you a lot of trouble because you can instantly cut off incompatible people without wasting your time.",,10,Captain_Save_A_304,2023-12-03 01:58:01 PurplePillDebate,189gmqi,Affordable paternity tests should be a mandatory part of the birthing process CMV,"This isn't the first time this idea has been expressed on Reddit, but I'm noticing a lot of chatter about these tests, so I thought it would be beneficial to reiterate. The main issue women seem to have with paternity testing is that, when a man asks for one, he is implying he doesn't trust his partner. Fair enough. I can empathize. @@ -56911,12 +56911,12 @@ But, if the decision was out of his hands, there would never be a need for him t He would have the peace of mind that men usually say is the reason they want these tests to happen. If he's not the father, he could righteously leave the relationship before forming a bond with the child or expending resources on offspring that are not his responsibilty. -I think that cheating, or, at the very least, unprotected cheating, would be discouraged simply by this being an accepted standard.",,13,PrecisionHat,1701561489.0 +I think that cheating, or, at the very least, unprotected cheating, would be discouraged simply by this being an accepted standard.",,13,PrecisionHat,2023-12-02 23:58:09 PurplePillDebate,1896rsu,"Social circles is a ""don't shit where you eat"" scenario slightly better than hitting on coworkers","if you aren't conventionally really attractive having a social circle by itself and interacting with women isn't going to help you unless you will actually go out your way and hit on several of them. What women and bluepillers don't tell you is that guys don't passively get dates by playing it safe and not jeopardizing their friendships. This will mean that even hitting on women within your social circle will end up in several ""I don't see you that way"" rejections our familiarity with the people in your social circle is inversely proportional to how good of an idea it is to risk hitting on your friends or acquaintances At least with cold approaches you don't have to see them again, but within a social circle the word will spread around quickly, and the more approaches end up in rejection the more desperate you will look (in women's eyes) developing a reputation for being ""that guy"". -People definitely ""SHIT WHERE THEY EAT"" though, as [43% have married someone they met at work.](https://www.forbes.com/advisor/business/workplace-romance-statistics/) So redditors obsession with not hooking up with coworkers again proves to be terminally online one.",,24,Napo_De_Leone,1701532998.0 +People definitely ""SHIT WHERE THEY EAT"" though, as [43% have married someone they met at work.](https://www.forbes.com/advisor/business/workplace-romance-statistics/) So redditors obsession with not hooking up with coworkers again proves to be terminally online one.",,24,Napo_De_Leone,2023-12-02 16:03:18 PurplePillDebate,189er49,Have you ever questioned your preferences?,"Hey everyone! (@Mods - I am resubmitting and removing the content you highlighted I think. Not sure if this is okay. Quite new haha) I was wondering if you've ever questioned your preferences. **This is not limited to looks, of course.** @@ -56934,7 +56934,7 @@ I have in the past, and I believe it is what led me to eventually not caring abo Diid you find your preferences revealed some inherent sexism to rigid gender roles? Or maybe something else, something positive? Or is it something you don't find valuable to do etc.? -Just interested to read what people's stories!",,7,Think_Day_8061,1701555892.0 +Just interested to read what people's stories!",,7,Think_Day_8061,2023-12-02 22:24:52 PurplePillDebate,1898f0z,High Value Men Aren’t Monogamous?,"The title may be slightly misleading. But stick with me. I know i posted on here a little bit ago. But I want to talk about all these new things and ideas I am being exposed to by my bf. @@ -56949,17 +56949,17 @@ Is it naive for women to expect monogamy out of a high value man? Especially if HVM have committed to just your wife? Do you feel like you have worked hard enough that you have earned having multiple women? -Men who are not high value only have the choice to be monogamous because he has way less options and still want a relationship. Men who do have option’s don’t have a “scarcity mindset.” —-> is another way to interpret this situation.",,12,Significant_You82,1701537720.0 +Men who are not high value only have the choice to be monogamous because he has way less options and still want a relationship. Men who do have option’s don’t have a “scarcity mindset.” —-> is another way to interpret this situation.",,12,Significant_You82,2023-12-02 17:22:00 PurplePillDebate,1897zb1,LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD,"&#x200B; [Please Join Us on Discord!](https://discord.gg/3aHh4trC7B) Include your reddit username, pill color, age and gender when you arrive in the welcome mat to introduce yourself and help people get to know you. &#x200B; -You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,8,AutoModerator,1701536501.0 +You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,8,AutoModerator,2023-12-02 17:01:41 PurplePillDebate,189a06g,"Why are so many men convinced statistical analysis, pattern recognition, evo psych and other analytics can give them an advantage in dating?","It really boggles my mind when I read this sub and others the absolute rock solid faith so many men have that their dating salvation lies in in the study of dating statistics and patterns, shoddy evo psych and other intellectual/nerd methods of analysis. Dating cannot be understood within these contexts because emotions like attraction are not objective values that are quantifiable. They are subjective variables with hidden values one cannot possibly know and each value is entirely random based on each particular individuals psychology. -Sure, some of this pop sci stuff could improve the margins of men who are already successful and knowledgeable about dating and seduction but outside that context most of this analysis is pretty worthless.",,5,Siliconmage76,1701542197.0 +Sure, some of this pop sci stuff could improve the margins of men who are already successful and knowledgeable about dating and seduction but outside that context most of this analysis is pretty worthless.",,5,Siliconmage76,2023-12-02 18:36:37 PurplePillDebate,189aov7,Do men think it's harder to get younger women than it is?,"I am not saying this to discourage men but to encourage them perhaps. When it comes to threads hear about relationships with age gaps, it is said here that it's almost impossible to for older men to get younger women, unless they are rich. It is also said here that most men desire younger women and would want them if they could. However, I am in a relationship myself where my gf is 16 years younger than me, and her co-worker is a woman in a relationship with a guy who is 19 years older than her. @@ -56970,7 +56970,7 @@ There is also a woman I work with who's husband is in his 50s, when she is in he So I feel that if I and two other guys are just average nobodies, with another guy who may also be, than that's at least four average guys who were able to get younger women. So I feel that if guys desire younger women as partners, than it's not near as hard as they make it out to be perhaps, or at least it seems more common than people make it out to be. -So I say maybe guys have more of a chance than they realize maybe, if that is something they desire? Or are me and these guys I know just complete outliers and it's still very extremely rare, despire personal experience?",,3,harmonica2,1701544173.0 +So I say maybe guys have more of a chance than they realize maybe, if that is something they desire? Or are me and these guys I know just complete outliers and it's still very extremely rare, despire personal experience?",,3,harmonica2,2023-12-02 19:09:33 PurplePillDebate,1894yos,Where do people get this notion that dating in your 20s isn’t a struggle?,"I think people are over-glamorizing youth and doing the whole “Grass is greener on the other side”. First, young people don’t know what the fuck they’re doing. That’s why situationships are a thing. Hell, that’s most likely why 60% of young men claim to be single because they’re not communicating with women they’re dating/fucking if theyre serious yet. @@ -56981,12 +56981,12 @@ I roll my eyes hearing people talk about “Dating in your 30s is hard” becaus 3. “Golddigging women” which makes no sense because women in their 20s can also be gold diggers, unless.... 4. People expect you to have some accomplishments like getting a decent job. -Also, it depends on what you're looking for when it comes to dating. ",,6,LillthOfBabylon,1701527567.0 +Also, it depends on what you're looking for when it comes to dating. ",,6,LillthOfBabylon,2023-12-02 14:32:47 PurplePillDebate,1894x84,Q4M: What are the subtle yet tell-tale signs of female attraction?,"For me, I consider things like being receptive to invitations, subtle compliments (I like your shirt, I like your cologne etc), willing to join you for a meal and relying on you for help as signs of attraction. Maybe I’m misattributing trust or general decency as attraction, but if I’m reading things correctly it is more… sweet and personal than just being a decent friend. -What about you guys? Are there signs that you consider tell-tale?",,7,Dear_Archer7711,1701527440.0 +What about you guys? Are there signs that you consider tell-tale?",,7,Dear_Archer7711,2023-12-02 14:30:40 PurplePillDebate,189qrv5,Women are more likely to be lonely than men,"I keep seeing posts on here talking about a ""male loneliness epidemic"". But the truth is, **women are more likely to be lonely than men**. These 2 studies show women are more likely to be lonely than men: @@ -56995,14 +56995,14 @@ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23804458/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33302577/ -When people say men are lonelier than women, they're conflating horniness with loneliness. Those are 2 different things. A man can want to get laid without being lonely. That's why you see some men pumping and dumping. For example, you'll see guys who are married or have gfs banging other chicks on the side. They're not lonely. They're horny.",,0,ilike18yoblackpussy,1701599062.0 +When people say men are lonelier than women, they're conflating horniness with loneliness. Those are 2 different things. A man can want to get laid without being lonely. That's why you see some men pumping and dumping. For example, you'll see guys who are married or have gfs banging other chicks on the side. They're not lonely. They're horny.",,0,ilike18yoblackpussy,2023-12-03 10:24:22 PurplePillDebate,188dhpq,"A lot of men are justifiably annoyed by a culture that blames them for the male gaze yet pumps ""wet ass pussy"" into the airwaves","Twerking, songs about wet pussies, thirst traps, Onlyfans... all of this is inescapable today. When Ben Shapiro raised this issue he became a subject of mass mockery, even if he did it from a conservative angle. Women like Cardi B intimidate misogynist prudes like Ben because they're taking charge of their sexuality and are unapologetic about it, we were told. then on the other hand you get #metoo, sexualisation of women being the problem (no shit), ""male gaze"" is omnipresent, 25% of american millennials now think “asking to go for a drink” is sexual harassment. Supposedly we live under a patriarchy yet there are no men with balls anywhere to be found so women are ending up childless and alone in life. You can't make this up... -&#x200B;",,345,Napo_De_Leone,1701441653.0 +&#x200B;",,345,Napo_De_Leone,2023-12-01 14:40:53 PurplePillDebate,188vha6,Men do not like the “ideal” red pill girl,"men literally do not actually like the “ideal” traditional red pill girl. -virgin to low body count @@ -57016,7 +57016,7 @@ why do you think this is? in my opinion i think it is because most men are not really redpill and actually do look for equals while “redpill” men do not look for equals and want to have more power in their relationships. -thoughts?",,25,lolagizzle456,1701491003.0 +thoughts?",,25,lolagizzle456,2023-12-02 04:23:23 PurplePillDebate,188ska5,"Women vaughly labeling the average guy a ""pushover"" and ""not assertive enough"" is causes men to over compensate in dangerous ways","I think that attitude that being that ""ultra assertive guy who puts up with no shit"" and ""not let anyone walk over me"" gets taken to the extreme more now than I've ever seen it. A great example of this is on the road. So many guys are speeding and cutting each other off because no one wants to be that guy that ""gets taken advantage of by others"" especially if they are driving with their wife or girl or whatever. There's countless other examples like this where Men will go out of their way to avoid looking weak, ovely nice, etc. Men are hyper aware of how unattractive the infamous ""nice guy"" attitude is to women and this why so many look up to the extremes like Andrew Tate, Red pill community, etc. A very large segment of young men think it's better to an arrogant abuser than a nice guy/pushover and I don't blame them since many women view it as literally the most unattractive trait a guy can possess in most cases. @@ -57034,7 +57034,7 @@ I've noticed ALOT of women are very dogmatic and narrow minded as to what specif With that said, I'd like to challenge any woman to give a SPECIFIC example of situation where they feel a guy was actually a pushover. Im genuinely curious to see if the examples will have unaccounted nuance or if the guy was truly just was scared to ""speak up"" aka a ""pushover nice guy."" - this should be interesting 🍿🍿",,33,steliogural,1701481635.0 + this should be interesting 🍿🍿",,33,steliogural,2023-12-02 01:47:15 PurplePillDebate,188yweo,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -57053,7 +57053,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,9,AutoModerator,1701504024.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,9,AutoModerator,2023-12-02 08:00:24 PurplePillDebate,188y5vs,"Q4M: How would you react if a woman asked, ""What do you bring to the table?""","Let's say you are on a date, everything is going well for the most part and then out of the blue she asks you this question. I'm curious how you'd react. I'm not asking you for your answer to the question. I'm more interested in if you would be... @@ -57068,7 +57068,7 @@ No big deal as it's just another question? How would you react? -When I looked this question up on social media, I see a lot of reactions from different women. I'm curious how males would react to the same question being posed to them.",,8,Windmill_flowers,1701500875.0 +When I looked this question up on social media, I see a lot of reactions from different women. I'm curious how males would react to the same question being posed to them.",,8,Windmill_flowers,2023-12-02 07:07:55 PurplePillDebate,1897p86,The manosphere heavily struggles with differentiating vulnerability and weakness,"You see this claim quite often, “i was vulnerable with my girlfriend and she stopped being attracted to me”, “i opened up about my problems and she didn’t like me”, “women don’t like it when men are vulnerable” @@ -57101,7 +57101,7 @@ Now, what can healthy vulnerability look like for men? I think it can look like -Vulnerability is a sigh of strength, but it indeed expresses itself differently across both genders, I think given that men are generally physically stronger and have historically worn the pants in most relationships, the vulnerability a man would express would show itself very differently from that of a woman.",,0,KayRay1994,1701535697.0 +Vulnerability is a sigh of strength, but it indeed expresses itself differently across both genders, I think given that men are generally physically stronger and have historically worn the pants in most relationships, the vulnerability a man would express would show itself very differently from that of a woman.",,0,KayRay1994,2023-12-02 16:48:17 PurplePillDebate,188romn,Why do guys keep complaining about tinder and hookup but keep insisting on participating in both?," Is this a case of guys wanting their fantasies to be a reality instead of adjusting to reality itself? Multiple studies have been done on the topics of sex, tinder, hookups, gender differences in desires, but we still get complaints on why Tinder and hook up culture are both so one sided? (More info to fill up space) @@ -57113,8 +57113,8 @@ https://youtu.be/dKmvvBelNcw?si=3aKS853M9agqCQkR Tinder is 70% male and most women really arent fond of hookups. “But most women have hookups.” No, they have atleast ONE hookup. If you eat broccoli once and never again, that doesnt mean you like broccoli. -So why do guys keep whining about the lopsisdedness of these things when theyre both lopsided by design AND people have proven it?",,13,LillthOfBabylon,1701479054.0 -PurplePillDebate,188sk66,Would you be ok with your wife asking for a paternity test?,"Many men strongly believe that asking for a paternity test is not an accusation of cheating and is for the man’s peace of mind. Imagine a scenario in which your wife thought you were getting too close with a female coworker or friend, working too late, being distant, etc. and you told her not to worry about this person and didn’t change the behaviour much. One day, this woman announces she’s pregnant and isn’t sharing who the father is. Would you be ok with getting a paternity test to ensure your wife has the peace of mind that you aren’t in fact siring and abandoning your child, since your behaviour has been off and the timing is suspicious?",,11,meangingersnap,1701481624.0 +So why do guys keep whining about the lopsisdedness of these things when theyre both lopsided by design AND people have proven it?",,13,LillthOfBabylon,2023-12-02 01:04:14 +PurplePillDebate,188sk66,Would you be ok with your wife asking for a paternity test?,"Many men strongly believe that asking for a paternity test is not an accusation of cheating and is for the man’s peace of mind. Imagine a scenario in which your wife thought you were getting too close with a female coworker or friend, working too late, being distant, etc. and you told her not to worry about this person and didn’t change the behaviour much. One day, this woman announces she’s pregnant and isn’t sharing who the father is. Would you be ok with getting a paternity test to ensure your wife has the peace of mind that you aren’t in fact siring and abandoning your child, since your behaviour has been off and the timing is suspicious?",,11,meangingersnap,2023-12-02 01:47:04 PurplePillDebate,188dq1g,Almost half of the women having a plan B and the 80/20 rule are the legit reasons for a guy to have self-esteem issues and women shouldn't complain about it as they are the reason behind it.,"To start off, I would like to say 80/20 rule is exaggerated but I would out it somewhere 70/20 based on personal experiences, data [from ok cupid](https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/?guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuZ29vZ2xlLmNvbS8&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAAK1hpkcgkYKMQWm3FrPBrb3bECdq91_qKVaQ0y6DyjNZdqPJv8Y3M98sirm8GkdFP9mpPeMllZ8XOqH4abu_oCBxwtKcIOFQLNGGtWa96xilA_IJa61aBB8dcQ9Y4w2EvSdZcUXjID5acM87xZ1SvpAFtLEIzkrpdgl-K-CXjgRo), and about [60 percent women use online dating](https://www.statista.com/statistics/976223/reasons-why-adults-use-dating-websites-apps-usa-gender/#:~:text=U.S.%20online%20dating%20website%20and%20app%20usage%20motivations%202021%2C%20by%20gender&text=According%20to%20a%20survey%20of,find%20an%20exclusive%20romantic%20partner). If someone needs the math here: Online women showed that 80 percent of them find men ugly, so 80% of 60% of all women is 48% of all women (48% agreed that they find the majority of men ugly, not mid, not ok). Now offline is about 40%. @@ -57146,7 +57146,7 @@ Now when women on this sub say that they don't want a guy with low self esteem i As equivalent to when a woman says that men should walk her home, protect her, and make her feel safe from other creepy men, I would like to add that you should put some effort too to help him deal with his self esteem issues which stem from other women and not likely you (as most women on this sub would say they don't treat men like the points I have written). -Edit: A post I was reading [about not being validated by women](https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/5oCgwegpCP). It's completely opposite to what I have posted. The funny part is there women say they will support and stroke their man's ego but here they say they will not entertain him. Ok what?",,51,thedarkracer,1701442241.0 +Edit: A post I was reading [about not being validated by women](https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/5oCgwegpCP). It's completely opposite to what I have posted. The funny part is there women say they will support and stroke their man's ego but here they say they will not entertain him. Ok what?",,51,thedarkracer,2023-12-01 14:50:41 PurplePillDebate,1898l64,"Men and women are both human, but do women want things men do?","So we know men have historically wanted social status, land they can call their's, to work with their hands and shape the environment around them (building, etc) Do women want these things too? Or do women have a different set of needs? @@ -57157,7 +57157,7 @@ Because I've heard women say men who work with their hands are attractive, and m Does it just come down to the strength difference making it easier for men to do physical labour, or is there some biological difference that makes women not wanna do that? -Last example: Men would build a statues in their honour, to be praised, and to gain social status - would women want to do this? Or no?",,0,Consistent-Gur6932,1701538214.0 +Last example: Men would build a statues in their honour, to be praised, and to gain social status - would women want to do this? Or no?",,0,Consistent-Gur6932,2023-12-02 17:30:14 PurplePillDebate,188evra,Why do you think men are more likely than women to be attracted to only one gender?,"There's a lesser known term called ""monosexuality"". As the name implies, ""**mono**sexuality"" means attraction to only one gender: that is, straight **OR** gay. This is contrasted with **bi**sexuality. According to [Wikipedia](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexuality#Demographics), @@ -57190,16 +57190,16 @@ Why do you think this is the case? This is one of those things I find perplexing: given that men are the ""hornier"" gender, why aren't *they* the ones who find themselves with more ""variation"" in their attraction in terms of gender? You'd also think that, if women are seen as the *less* horny gender and experiencing less sexual attraction than men (consistent view in this subreddit), then they would be far less likely than men to experience sexual fluidity. -Men dominate a *lot* of demographics relating to sexual attraction. Men dominate the ""porn watching"" demographic. They dominate the ""interested in hookups"" demographic. Men dominate the ""attracted to fat people"" demographic. Men dominate the ""attracted to watermelons"" demographic. Men dominate the ""[insert any fetish here]"" demographic. So isn't it surprising that, given all those things, they don't dominate the ""bicurious"" or ""sexually fluid"" demographic?",,21,brilliant22,1701445203.0 -PurplePillDebate,188kaa3,How often do men hang out with their female friends? How often do they talk on the phone,My male friend says we only need to talk a couple times a year so no side develops feelings. He said the more exposed you are to your friend the deeper the connection will get. Is this true? How often does everyone hang with their opposite sex friends?,,9,Educational_Lab_525,1701459118.0 +Men dominate a *lot* of demographics relating to sexual attraction. Men dominate the ""porn watching"" demographic. They dominate the ""interested in hookups"" demographic. Men dominate the ""attracted to fat people"" demographic. Men dominate the ""attracted to watermelons"" demographic. Men dominate the ""[insert any fetish here]"" demographic. So isn't it surprising that, given all those things, they don't dominate the ""bicurious"" or ""sexually fluid"" demographic?",,21,brilliant22,2023-12-01 15:40:03 +PurplePillDebate,188kaa3,How often do men hang out with their female friends? How often do they talk on the phone,My male friend says we only need to talk a couple times a year so no side develops feelings. He said the more exposed you are to your friend the deeper the connection will get. Is this true? How often does everyone hang with their opposite sex friends?,,9,Educational_Lab_525,2023-12-01 19:31:58 PurplePillDebate,188x44z,When i think child support laws will chance,"There will be a woman who was the primary bread winner of a family. Hard worker but didn't have enough time for family and upkeeping her marriage. The husband files for a divorce and finds companionship with a woman he met at Tuesday nights at baby yoga. He files for primary childcare and child support and wins. He will get 2398.63 cents a month for child support. And he gets half of all accounts and the newer -The woman can not afford this. This is basically going to make her working poor. She will be left with 2400 a month. Mortgage is 1600 but safe still has to pay back student loans. Sure has to then live in a bad neighborhood. Further away from work and it puts more mileage and use on the older car she was left with in the divorce settlement. Eventually the car breaks down. She can't afford repairs or a new car so she loses her job. She found a new one that provides a car but at a lower wage. She then can't make child support payments. The judge then takes her license away. She can't work, pay rent, she can't live. She finds her way homeless stressed out and eventually commits suicide.. not before recording a tik tok video saying how this is all her ex husbands fault and how the judge is responsible too.. this will cause an uproar. Will be on every news outlet. Online they will say "" child support is r*pe"". They will find the ex husband and bash him for being lazy and good for nothing. The judge would be asked to step down. New local political candidates will make child welfare laws part of their platform. Changing it forever.",,2,applesaucerage,1701496753.0 +The woman can not afford this. This is basically going to make her working poor. She will be left with 2400 a month. Mortgage is 1600 but safe still has to pay back student loans. Sure has to then live in a bad neighborhood. Further away from work and it puts more mileage and use on the older car she was left with in the divorce settlement. Eventually the car breaks down. She can't afford repairs or a new car so she loses her job. She found a new one that provides a car but at a lower wage. She then can't make child support payments. The judge then takes her license away. She can't work, pay rent, she can't live. She finds her way homeless stressed out and eventually commits suicide.. not before recording a tik tok video saying how this is all her ex husbands fault and how the judge is responsible too.. this will cause an uproar. Will be on every news outlet. Online they will say "" child support is r*pe"". They will find the ex husband and bash him for being lazy and good for nothing. The judge would be asked to step down. New local political candidates will make child welfare laws part of their platform. Changing it forever.",,2,applesaucerage,2023-12-02 05:59:13 PurplePillDebate,188fb9x,Why do we hear less about how toxic dating is in real life?,"I've talked to people in real life and online. A few examples 1. Girl in real life told me she plans to marry her boyfriend. They have been together since 19, and are now 23 2. You see many more couples, who act nicer 3. Girls are nicer when you approach them -4. Etc",,9,Consistent-Gur6932,1701446321.0 +4. Etc",,9,Consistent-Gur6932,2023-12-01 15:58:41 PurplePillDebate,1888r0l,Women will not feed a man's ego,"Even if it is her boyfriend or husband. I would even say in a relationship this is more common. Im not sure what the reason is, if it is a power thing or if it is an evolutionary thing. @@ -57220,12 +57220,12 @@ In my opinion, men should pay very little weight to the words of women. I find t Find your own validation and confidence in your own success and achieving goals. Thats much better to develop strong ego. -And no man in 2023 should ever be humble. Those days are over. Yes, be nice in general but never lower yourself or praise someone at your expense. If in doubt, being arrogant is better than being humble.",,20,Tight-Breeder,1701426763.0 +And no man in 2023 should ever be humble. Those days are over. Yes, be nice in general but never lower yourself or praise someone at your expense. If in doubt, being arrogant is better than being humble.",,20,Tight-Breeder,2023-12-01 10:32:43 PurplePillDebate,188z13l,"With everything going on with the world's economics, why does it impact a man's value if he can't support 2 people on his own?","This is mainly concerning younger men like 20-35 let's say. I don't understand the expectation for a man to have his finances and career completely ""put together"" before he's able to enter a relationship, and I *really* don't understand it coming from women who themselves live at home with their parents, or have their rent paid by their family. I also, don't understand the continued expectation for a man to contribute equally to household work and child rearing, IF the wife/mother doesn't work and he's contributing his money alone to supporting her and their children. -Like, it seems obviously uneven considering the rising cost of everything, *especially* housing.",,0,19whale96,1701504568.0 +Like, it seems obviously uneven considering the rising cost of everything, *especially* housing.",,0,19whale96,2023-12-02 08:09:28 PurplePillDebate,188iyoe,Does money and/or status create genuine attraction?,"Often this rhetoric is espoused by self-help gurus like Jordan Peterson or Scott Galloway who roughly say something like ""If you want to be attractive you need to become attractive through adopting responsibility, becoming more competent, making more money etc after which you will have more access to potential mates"" If this was true then you'd think the most powerful people in the world like billionaires would have the most beautiful women, yet a quick google search disproves this immediately plus its 2023 women out earn men and can make their own money pretty easily so the ""money"" part is ruled out @@ -57236,7 +57236,7 @@ however im kind of on the fence about status, humans are social creatures and yo &#x200B; -",,3,Real-Complex-6135,1701455632.0 +",,3,Real-Complex-6135,2023-12-01 18:33:52 PurplePillDebate,1882dl7,"Women, what do women need to improve?","We've heard a lot about what men need to improve. For example: * Be attractive / if not then maximize your looks. @@ -57255,7 +57255,7 @@ Some of the guidelines for this premise are as follows: * External things are not an answer i.e. relocating. They have to be things that women should try to change to better themselves as better potential long term partners who are seeking a relationship with a man. * To be clear, the end goal is finding the satisfying long term relationship that most women say they're looking for. -Edit: It has to be said. A criticism of my list of male examples is not an answer to the question that is clearly being asked. ",,31,Da_Famous_Anus,1701403186.0 +Edit: It has to be said. A criticism of my list of male examples is not an answer to the question that is clearly being asked. ",,31,Da_Famous_Anus,2023-12-01 03:59:46 PurplePillDebate,1888zqh,What’s the magic number?,"“Don’t have sex with a man on the first date!” you cry. Aside from the fact that it’s usually the man putting pressure on the woman to do so (to the point where some of you use it as a shit test) and then you shame her for giving in if she does. @@ -57264,7 +57264,7 @@ One man in here said it’s OK on the **second** date and another says you need Why shouldn’t a woman have sex on the first date if she’s feeling it? -Of course, you’re also the type of men who are then going to complain when that same woman uses sex as a weapon and five years after getting married and popping out a few kids for you, you’ll be posting in the dead bedrooms sub. 😂 ",,7,NefariousnessLife220,1701427733.0 +Of course, you’re also the type of men who are then going to complain when that same woman uses sex as a weapon and five years after getting married and popping out a few kids for you, you’ll be posting in the dead bedrooms sub. 😂 ",,7,NefariousnessLife220,2023-12-01 10:48:53 PurplePillDebate,187yy5m,"You should be honest with the people you care about of the opposite sex, about how your gender typically operates.","Clunky title, pardon me. But why are so many men and women willing to mislead those they care about, in favor of 'solidarity' with their gender? I'm very lucky to have a mother who warned me since I was young that girls in the real world are not like the ones in fairytales. Like any mother she of course looked forward to me finding love, getting married, being good to my woman etc. but she never sugar-coated what the road to it would be like. @@ -57273,12 +57273,12 @@ She warned me that women can and will perform, settle and lie to get what they w My father had equivalent advice for my sister about the nature of men. Me and my siblings were young and ended up having to learn the hard way regardless, but it was at least a relief to know we were warned, and it wasn't like a rug was pulled from under us. -There is so much anecdotal experience and advice from both genders that goes to waste because it doesn't fit their narrative they want to paint about men vs women. You should be treating people who come to you for advice like you're their older brother or sister, not like they're on the opposite side of enemy lines.",,18,[deleted],1701393188.0 +There is so much anecdotal experience and advice from both genders that goes to waste because it doesn't fit their narrative they want to paint about men vs women. You should be treating people who come to you for advice like you're their older brother or sister, not like they're on the opposite side of enemy lines.",,18,[deleted],2023-12-01 01:13:08 PurplePillDebate,187ktw3,"Light ""creepy behavior"" can be flirtatious and playful if she personally finds you attractive","I offered a ride home to my young coworker (f23, her car broke down) home, and as we arrived at her house before she left my car I said something which would be considered a complete faux pass to women here, I said to her *""I know where you live now, you just gained a stalker haha""*, at first she looked at me embarrassed and laughed it off so the next time we worked together I felt a little ashamed of myself so I didn't talk to her the whole shift, when our shift was ending something happened: we were both the last ones to go home, I was preparing the bar for the next day and told her *""you can go, I'll manage this myself""*, she takes her purse and walks past by me but stops and asks *""whatever happened to my stalker, I'm was kinda waiting...you know""* -she lingered as I kept working. My brain is so induced with politically correct online takes her response caught me off guard I couldn't even come up with a witty response. Lesson learned.",,96,Napo_De_Leone,1701357193.0 +she lingered as I kept working. My brain is so induced with politically correct online takes her response caught me off guard I couldn't even come up with a witty response. Lesson learned.",,96,Napo_De_Leone,2023-11-30 15:13:13 PurplePillDebate,1885md3,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -57297,10 +57297,10 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,1701414026.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,2023-12-01 07:00:26 PurplePillDebate,187wpi3,Is the term “pick me” over used?,"I’ve seen it used as an insult like simp. A pick me is a term used for “women that bring down other women for male attention” which I understand but if a woman seems to just say something that is helpful or benefits a man she is a pick me. Such as a woman cooking for her boyfriend she will be called a pick me? -Considering how much women shit talk covertly and snake each other all the time ex:sleeping with best friends boyfriend or exes. Is the term pick me a cope for mentally healthy women that have a positive outlook towards me?",,18,No_Historian_1601,1701387191.0 +Considering how much women shit talk covertly and snake each other all the time ex:sleeping with best friends boyfriend or exes. Is the term pick me a cope for mentally healthy women that have a positive outlook towards me?",,18,No_Historian_1601,2023-11-30 23:33:11 PurplePillDebate,187udun,Are people open to dating others with potential or do they only want the finished product?,"To provide some background for the question in OP let me provide a few common requirements I see here: Confidence - confidence requires past success and positive experience. Someone who hasn't dated before or has very little experiee or a history of rejection won't feel confident. So this filters out for people who are finished products emotionally and who have a track record of success @@ -57319,19 +57319,19 @@ With all these common criteria I read here, are people even open to dating someo Or is the above criteria firm and the only interest these days are in candidates who are the finished product already. -Discuss",,18,uselessloner123,1701381375.0 +Discuss",,18,uselessloner123,2023-11-30 21:56:15 PurplePillDebate,188k8n0,Hypergamy doesn’t really exist but women don’t know what attracts them,"I have so many anecdotes on women being so unpredictable with the person they end up falling in love with. I think they try to subscribe to some societal norms of hypergamy and high social value but ultimately there’s some intangible that hooks them about a guy and they can’t even tell you what it is. Women will date and turn down plenty of high value men then fall in love and marry a goofy/short/chubby/non-high status job guy. I honestly don’t think they’re settling because they seem to really love and be head over heels for the guy in a way they weren’t with the Chad. -I have a surgeon friend who dated plenty of finance dudes and other high status guys. She comes home from one date with this handyman/carpenter and couldn’t stop talking about him. They got married and had kids. What gives? I’ve seen this time and time again in my circles.",,0,snappy033,1701459002.0 +I have a surgeon friend who dated plenty of finance dudes and other high status guys. She comes home from one date with this handyman/carpenter and couldn’t stop talking about him. They got married and had kids. What gives? I’ve seen this time and time again in my circles.",,0,snappy033,2023-12-01 19:30:02 PurplePillDebate,187fnkr,Alcohol is a means of coping with anxiety/poor social skills,"Being drunk is literally the byproduct of poisoning yourself. While your liver somewhat recovers after a night of drinking, alcohol reeks havok on your immune system and causes mass inflammation on a cellular level. Your risk for 100 types of cancer and degenerative dieseases goes up 10x with every drink. This is all so people can feel slightly more at ease while socializing. Bars are an antiqued tradition and the fact much of society relies on them as ""hangout spots"" to meet new people is just really dumb and old fashion for a number of reasons. In 150 years people there will be a much safer and superior way to become inebriated. People will be amazed at how dumb our generation was for poisoning ourselves and damaging our health for very little trade off. -Do people who frequent bars actually enjoy the environment or are they just there to meet people?",,88,steliogural,1701340779.0 +Do people who frequent bars actually enjoy the environment or are they just there to meet people?",,88,steliogural,2023-11-30 10:39:39 PurplePillDebate,18892dj,It is normal for adults to learn about real life through fiction?,"Inspired by this comment: @@ -57347,12 +57347,12 @@ I understand children learning from fiction because they are children. They are It gives off 8th Grade Syndrome vibes and it makes my skin crawl: https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Eighth-Grade+Syndrome -https://youtube.com/shorts/t5U-00hkHuU?si=a9duZw9PqmeOsPsu",,1,LillthOfBabylon,1701428032.0 +https://youtube.com/shorts/t5U-00hkHuU?si=a9duZw9PqmeOsPsu",,1,LillthOfBabylon,2023-12-01 10:53:52 PurplePillDebate,1886nmy,All Double Standards Between Men and Women can be Explained by our Evolution - Change My Mind,"On both side of this debate, the point of double standards is mentioned again and again. Whether it's ""Men sleep around they're studs. Women do it, they're sluts"" or ""Women get away with behavior that would get a man knocked out,"" double standards seem to be at the heart of both feminist and red-pill philosophies. It occurs to me that many (possibly all) of the double standards between men and women, are there because of fundamental differences in our nature. Differences such as physical qualities, mating strategies, and overall relationship dynamics between the sexes. -What do you think? Can you give me some examples of double standards that can't be explained by our nature and/or the environment we evolved in?",,1,mrchoon,1701418126.0 +What do you think? Can you give me some examples of double standards that can't be explained by our nature and/or the environment we evolved in?",,1,mrchoon,2023-12-01 08:08:46 PurplePillDebate,187x02f,Past promiscuity stances from RP are misleading," I've seen this happen many times where women ( and men) who didn't have their hoe phase decided they needed to later on but I'll use one friend as an example. @@ -57408,8 +57408,8 @@ https://medicalxpress.com/news/2018-02-predictors-infidelity-divorce-highlighted So it looks like in regards to marriage....go for a virgin or go for someone with a bit of experience. If you want the virgin, you better be devoutly religious to make it realistic. -In regards to infidelity......go for a woman with a small hoe phase.",,6,Fun_Push7168,1701387966.0 -PurplePillDebate,188aiqh,Are modern women truly independent from men or has male provisioning and protection been socialized to a degree that facilitates that independence.,"From ancient stateless societies to the formation of industrial nation states , there was system of gender roles in which women were never “independent” of men. . Men have the agency of brute force , strength , intelligence , the ability modify and extrapolate their environment etc. Women have the agency of sexuality, reproduction , child rearing and to assist the male under his given leadership. In Turn men become motivated to lead, to provide, too look after women because of her nurturing gender role. Today that has changed, now women make their own money, buy homes, raise children with no father needed, run companies,own businesses, serve as police officers and firemen , in charge of military divisions and much more. So now it appears that women no longer are subordinate to men. But some would argue that the husband has simply be substituted by the state and the state facilitates this independence by collectively socializing male agency. Now she is subordinate to the state apparatus. What do you guys think?",,0,lowlifedougal,1701433092.0 +In regards to infidelity......go for a woman with a small hoe phase.",,6,Fun_Push7168,2023-11-30 23:46:06 +PurplePillDebate,188aiqh,Are modern women truly independent from men or has male provisioning and protection been socialized to a degree that facilitates that independence.,"From ancient stateless societies to the formation of industrial nation states , there was system of gender roles in which women were never “independent” of men. . Men have the agency of brute force , strength , intelligence , the ability modify and extrapolate their environment etc. Women have the agency of sexuality, reproduction , child rearing and to assist the male under his given leadership. In Turn men become motivated to lead, to provide, too look after women because of her nurturing gender role. Today that has changed, now women make their own money, buy homes, raise children with no father needed, run companies,own businesses, serve as police officers and firemen , in charge of military divisions and much more. So now it appears that women no longer are subordinate to men. But some would argue that the husband has simply be substituted by the state and the state facilitates this independence by collectively socializing male agency. Now she is subordinate to the state apparatus. What do you guys think?",,0,lowlifedougal,2023-12-01 12:18:12 PurplePillDebate,187lqkv,Does being an emotional tampon lead to the friendzone? Or only in certain cases?,"When you genuinely care for a girl, you actually want to be her venting board. You genuinely want to hear about her problems to learn about who she is, give her a safe space to express her thoughts and provide solutions if they are wanted Many times men complain that this leads to the friendzone, and the girl ends up ONLY contacting the guy to vent, and then she dissapears @@ -57418,7 +57418,7 @@ Now, is the friendzone a direct result of being an emotional tampon? OR is being Because in many cases, a girl can be romantically interest in a guy who is her emotional tampon. In which case, it's not a bad thing. Both partners can be each other's venting boards -So again, is the friendzone a direct result of being an emotional tampon? OR is being an emotional tampon a symptom of being friendzoned?",,14,Consistent-Gur6932,1701359570.0 +So again, is the friendzone a direct result of being an emotional tampon? OR is being an emotional tampon a symptom of being friendzoned?",,14,Consistent-Gur6932,2023-11-30 15:52:50 PurplePillDebate,187lwjx,Paternity Tests - Catch 22,"Anybody else notice this Catch 22 regarding paternity tests? Based on debates in this forum along withrelated Reddit stories/inquiries. If you request to have the paternity test, that is grounds for divorce as that shows that you do not trust your wife. @@ -57445,7 +57445,7 @@ Solution: Get that test! Be upfront about your desire for it way before you have [WIBTA if I walked out on my child’s life after finding out she isn’t really mine?](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/kvg61n/wibta_if_i_walked_out_on_my_childs_life_after/) -&#x200B;",,10,More-Tax-62,1701360017.0 +&#x200B;",,10,More-Tax-62,2023-11-30 16:00:17 PurplePillDebate,187oevj,To those of you who explain/defend your preferences in a moral light - why?,"You see this a lot, some users on here feel the need to explain their preferences in a way that’s not only defensive, but that also demeans people who don’t fit such a preference. @@ -57455,21 +57455,21 @@ Ex. men who don’t prefer career women because career women are x, y and z and all of these preferences, in a vacuum, are totally fine, to be clear, but i think people take issue when they’re explained in a way that demeans the other person rather than a way that highlights your individual lifestyle. It is no longer a lifestyle choice in this context, it’s the morally correct thing and it shall be defended as such. Why does such a need exist? -(and i want to be clear, this conversation has nothing to do with more… deplorable preferences, you’ve seen them in this sub and you know what they are)",,6,KayRay1994,1701366360.0 +(and i want to be clear, this conversation has nothing to do with more… deplorable preferences, you’ve seen them in this sub and you know what they are)",,6,KayRay1994,2023-11-30 17:46:00 PurplePillDebate,187wy6t,"The Wall ain't real at all, and I say That as a woman who wishes It were the case","Now, I'm going to sound like a piece of shit or a pick-me, but as a woman in my mid-twenties who didn't have much success with men in her late teens because of her social anxiety and family issues, I wish the wall was real. I said it. I really was dumb and would believe incels telling me that these women living their best life in their youth will grow up to be jaded and neglected. Like the dumbass I was, I believed that being a late virgin and not riding the Chad carousel while and glowing up would lead me to not be considered as damaged as these women having a hoe phase. And if I age badly, then so will they, so they will experience what it feels like to struggle with men. BUT this is utter bullshit! Literally all the former hoes that I see are getting married to the best guys (handsome, sweet, great job), while girls like me who were struggling in their teens aren't having it any better. Because contrary to popular belief, MEN DON'T WANT VIRGINS. I even find myself lying about not being a virgin because men would legit turn down a potential relationship with a virgin, thinking she'll be too clingy or have mental issues. I freaking see hoes in their 40s getting wifed easier than a virginal woman my age! The only guys I attract are either pathetic religious nutjobs that hate on women or old creeps! So to men: the desirable Stacy that mogged girls like me and turned you down isn't suffering! She is either already engaged to some Chad or is now having her pick of younger Chads and guys her age. -you guys pretend to be logical and rational yet you live up to the biggest fantasy which is seing the people that looked down on you suffering but it ain't gonna happen. the world is unfair!",,1,rosiivelvete,1701387825.0 +you guys pretend to be logical and rational yet you live up to the biggest fantasy which is seing the people that looked down on you suffering but it ain't gonna happen. the world is unfair!",,1,rosiivelvete,2023-11-30 23:43:45 PurplePillDebate,186rm6l,Most single lonely men are not struggling with women because they're old fashioned misogynists," it has nothing to do with supposedly bitter ""nice guys"" lacking progressive views or having problem with a woman’s autonomy -- most men don't mind women in higher education, most men don't mind women having careers, most men don't mind women making bank, most men don't mind sharing home chores -- this is not the prerequisite most of lonely men failed to accept that would render them unfuckable. In reality women get to be picker more than ever and turns out they're not really picking ""personality"" - their independence didn't make their decision making ""wiser"" where they would now filter the bad, disloyal, toxic jerks out -- rather it turned the world of dating an extension of high school or greek life ""do I really like him or is he just tall hehe?"" -dating apps and social media make sex acessible to women who themselves admit they may just want to satisfy the 'itch' when the dry spell becomes unbearable and good hearted yet average men kinda lose out when it comes to hookups. Situathionships are a prime example of how they’re willing to tolerate or turn a blind eye to commitment and loyalty for a good dicking. This has nothing to do with modern men ending up alone because they are lacking “communication"" skills or believe in cave man era gender roles which is what most [psychology/behavioral experts try to suggest.](https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-state-of-our-unions/202302/why-are-so-many-young-men-single-and-sexless?amp)",,398,Napo_De_Leone,1701270590.0 +dating apps and social media make sex acessible to women who themselves admit they may just want to satisfy the 'itch' when the dry spell becomes unbearable and good hearted yet average men kinda lose out when it comes to hookups. Situathionships are a prime example of how they’re willing to tolerate or turn a blind eye to commitment and loyalty for a good dicking. This has nothing to do with modern men ending up alone because they are lacking “communication"" skills or believe in cave man era gender roles which is what most [psychology/behavioral experts try to suggest.](https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-state-of-our-unions/202302/why-are-so-many-young-men-single-and-sexless?amp)",,398,Napo_De_Leone,2023-11-29 15:09:50 PurplePillDebate,1871n9z,"Women are against the legalisation of prostitution because they want the ""hoeflation"" to continue, and are ok with men being miserable.","And if men want to stop being so miserable they should start by supporting the legalisation of prostitution. As we all know morality has always been weaponized by groups of people to justify putting their interests forward. This is a common tactic that's omnipresent and is used for example in war propaganda, where we will present the intervention in a foreign country as a moral duty and not the greed for oil/power that it actually is. @@ -57480,12 +57480,12 @@ This also means that it is pointless to whine to women about how life is tough a Prostitution is a natural phenomenon that has always and will always happen no matter what you do about it. It is likely that this plays a crucial part in the functioning of a healthy society and a government has no business restraining it from happening, as long as everyone involved consents to it. -Open for debate obviously, that is just my opinion at the moment. ",,63,Atrass,1701295981.0 +Open for debate obviously, that is just my opinion at the moment. ",,63,Atrass,2023-11-29 22:13:01 PurplePillDebate,1878p6c,Makeup is basically a pretence and a sign of insecurity.,"It's a sign that somebody doesn't accept themselves the way they are naturally otherwise, there'd be no point in wearing it. It's basically a sign of insecurity, which shows that the person wearing it is trying to artificially look beautiful. If somebody can pretend to look a certain way, what's to stop them from pretending to be what they aren't? They can pretend to be a good and caring person, which won't be that hard because on the physical level they're already pretending to be more beautiful than they really are. Unfortunately [women are conditioned](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hlsHCqQnGnw&ab_channel=Breaze) from a young age to wear makeup, so much so that some women even feel insecure going out without wearing it. Women's insecurities actually benefit cosmetics and fashion companies. And the thing is, makeup doesn't really hide much. All it does is tell me that there's basically another face hidden behind the mask of the person I'm talking to, which makes them inauthentic. A woman who doesn't wear makeup may look less attractive compared to other women, but atleast she's authentic, which actually makes her more attractive in a genuine way. -The irony is many women say they want a ""real man"", and yet they wear masks that artificially enhance how they look. Meaning they themselves aren't even real.",,25,Jax_Gatsby,1701315182.0 +The irony is many women say they want a ""real man"", and yet they wear masks that artificially enhance how they look. Meaning they themselves aren't even real.",,25,Jax_Gatsby,2023-11-30 03:33:02 PurplePillDebate,1876v85,"Pop culture is more female-oriented in the Gen Z 2020's, which is a big part of the shift.","not my post here is the link Does anybody else feel a general sense of women taking control of the zeitgeist this decade? For the record, I am talking about the communities that drive pop-culture; progressive, urban young people. @@ -57508,7 +57508,7 @@ Does anybody else feel a general sense of women taking control of the zeitgeist \- If you really want to see this trend, look at how a lot more men are becoming insecure, powerless, and vulnerable to far-right movements. This is due to confusion and displacement because all of the above happened in only a couple of years. If we look back to 2019 even; leggings, long hair, edgy memes, trap music, open misogyny, sports, action-packed superhero movies, and other male-oriented things made up the zeitgeist. -This decade will most likely be marked by government policy moving farther into realms of authoritarianism, misogyny, and patriarchy while youth culture pulls in the other direction, even becoming toxic itself. These two will drive the other farther as a reaction. Sentiments like ""any man who has ever been a douchebag before is an irredeemable narcissist who should wallow in shame for the rest of his life"", ""it isn't my job to educate you, be better"", ""If he doesn't understand Barbie, break up with him"", and ""icks"" are going to force more men to the far right. More men signing onto the Andrew Tate bandwagon combined with an overturning of Row v. Wade, ""anti-woke"", ""Get back to the kitchen"" type stuff is going to give young women more probable cause to be weary and show little empathy or understanding towards men.",,25,Snickelheimar,1701310000.0 +This decade will most likely be marked by government policy moving farther into realms of authoritarianism, misogyny, and patriarchy while youth culture pulls in the other direction, even becoming toxic itself. These two will drive the other farther as a reaction. Sentiments like ""any man who has ever been a douchebag before is an irredeemable narcissist who should wallow in shame for the rest of his life"", ""it isn't my job to educate you, be better"", ""If he doesn't understand Barbie, break up with him"", and ""icks"" are going to force more men to the far right. More men signing onto the Andrew Tate bandwagon combined with an overturning of Row v. Wade, ""anti-woke"", ""Get back to the kitchen"" type stuff is going to give young women more probable cause to be weary and show little empathy or understanding towards men.",,25,Snickelheimar,2023-11-30 02:06:40 PurplePillDebate,187bfgd,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -57527,7 +57527,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,10,AutoModerator,1701324024.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,10,AutoModerator,2023-11-30 06:00:24 PurplePillDebate,187926k,Many women take male attention for granted,"A while back, I was discussing dating issues and a woman showed me a post on the Ask Women sub about women's experiences being hit on by men. The idea was to show me a woman's perspective and help me realize that life is not so easy for a woman. I read the comments, and yes there were many who posted stories about being harrassed by (usually much older) men. However, there were also many comments from older women talking about the attention they still receive from men at their age. It sounded like they were bragging about it, as if to say ""I've still got it"". @@ -57538,14 +57538,14 @@ That guy who she thought was a creepy bridge troll who hit her up and who she wi It's like that post on the front page about the woman at the gym who farted on a guy to get him to leave her alone. Will she be passing gas on guys at the gym paying her attention in another 20 years? Probably not. Her butt hole will likely remain clenched at that point. -And make no mistake, these glory years that these women take for granted, where they spend that time chastising unattractive men for daring to look at them, are in fact fleeting. A decently attractive girl who turned me down around just 10 years ago looks absolutely horrendous now. Now what would happen between us? She likely says yes to dating me. But for me, it would be a resounding no.",,8,rejected-again,1701316304.0 +And make no mistake, these glory years that these women take for granted, where they spend that time chastising unattractive men for daring to look at them, are in fact fleeting. A decently attractive girl who turned me down around just 10 years ago looks absolutely horrendous now. Now what would happen between us? She likely says yes to dating me. But for me, it would be a resounding no.",,8,rejected-again,2023-11-30 03:51:44 PurplePillDebate,187699c,"Why do older people seem to give younger men more credit compared to younger women, in dating?","When it comes to the subject of age gap dating there was a thread before, about how women users, and perhaps some men too, chimed in that they were concerned about women in their early 20s dating older men. However, why is it that older people are concerned about young women dating older men, but whenever a young guy is dating an older woman or just having a fling with one, the reaction usually seems to be ""meh, whatever, he can handle it, she's probably doing him a favor"". Why is it that people give young men credit for being able to handle someone older, but young women are considered not as mature in comparison to handle it, or are considered more vulnerable?  It just seems more sexist towards young women compared to young men, unless I am wrong? -But this is the part I find to be sexist towards women and hypocritical is that people think they are the weaker, more vulnerable gender still.",,10,harmonica2,1701308327.0 +But this is the part I find to be sexist towards women and hypocritical is that people think they are the weaker, more vulnerable gender still.",,10,harmonica2,2023-11-30 01:38:47 PurplePillDebate,1873uug,Resilience is probably the most important personality trait you can have as a man dating,"Most of the pills more or less have their mythological characters that are designed for one purpose: a security blanket. If I were \_\_\_\_\_ then \[bad result\] wouldn't happen. @@ -57566,7 +57566,7 @@ So ultimately, the best personality trait to hone as a guy is just resilience. I And if you think a so called 'Chad' just has it super easy...check this dude out. Verified male model, great body, GREAT HEIGHT....and still....tons of rejections -https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x2ozvd9",,15,SeveralLiterature980,1701301682.0 +https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x2ozvd9",,15,SeveralLiterature980,2023-11-29 23:48:02 PurplePillDebate,187pwvg,Low value guys always pretend they're better than low value women and its hilarious.,"# # Options For guys who are “more honest” I see a lot of complaining and blaming society for the shitty women they choose to date/pursue rather than themselves for not preferring being alone. For this reason, these think they deserve pity but not women because “women have options and still choose the bad ones”. Being happily single is an option and clearly these guys prefer the bad option @@ -57589,7 +57589,7 @@ I love this thing where guys commonly berate women for being stupid when it come # # Woe is me -Last but not least: The victim complex. I still don’t understand how guys can sit there, watch how terrible SJWs and Karens are, see how embarrassing and hateful they are…..and then adopt their way thinking but then act shocked you’re just as unpopular. Also, its not other people’s problem if you cant tell the difference between calling out bad behavior and being sexist.",,0,LillthOfBabylon,1701370189.0 +Last but not least: The victim complex. I still don’t understand how guys can sit there, watch how terrible SJWs and Karens are, see how embarrassing and hateful they are…..and then adopt their way thinking but then act shocked you’re just as unpopular. Also, its not other people’s problem if you cant tell the difference between calling out bad behavior and being sexist.",,0,LillthOfBabylon,2023-11-30 18:49:49 PurplePillDebate,186tvhp,For those who believe it’s impossible to find women who aren��t promiscuous - do you believe promiscuity is natural in women then?,"The obsession with female purity, virginity and how many men she’s slept with is pretty evident in any pill orientated spaces. There is a real fear in many men on marrying or getting in a committed relationship with a woman who they deem slutty which can range from them not being a virgin to having slept with over a 100 men. When asked why female promiscuity disgusts them so much, the answer can range from they just find it icky no larger explanation needed, to they believe a promiscuous women lack self control thus will be more likely to cheat, leave them, be less satisfied with the relationship or fear they will be used/settled for by a ‘former h\*e whos done having her fun with chads etc. I think there been lots of threads delving into the reasons why so I don’t want dwell on them too much. @@ -57599,7 +57599,7 @@ Now obviously if you have this distaste or disgust for perceived female promiscu Now in my opinion, if every women you know is promiscuous doesn‘t that logically point to the idea that promiscuity is natural in women? Some will say no, by claiming women outside western countries are not, but couldn’t that be due to them living a more conservative culture but when women are more ‘free’ their behavior tends towards being more promiscuous? I am not saying I agree with this notion but if really so impossible for many men to find a woman who is not promiscuous while it’s super easy to find men who are not, doesn‘t that lead to one to conclude that women are more prone to promiscuous behavior? Of if you have this belief ( it’s hard to find non promiscuous women in the western world) do you believe there other factors that influence women’s behavior that causes them to be promiscuous rather than it being natural? -I think this could be an interesting so I’m open to hear everyone’s thoughts.",,36,SapphireRising225,1701276301.0 +I think this could be an interesting so I’m open to hear everyone’s thoughts.",,36,SapphireRising225,2023-11-29 16:45:01 PurplePillDebate,1874kcb,About being late to respond back to guys’ texts.,"In regards to responding to messages/texts from a man that’s actively pursuing you, based on your own experiences and the experiences of your female friends and circles, which is more generally true for when women are late (depends on one’s subjective threshold, but let’s assume 24 hours) to respond to messages/texts: A) “If she’s truly interested & attracted to you, she will do whatever possible in her busy day to reply. It doesn’t matter how busy she is. If she likes you, she’ll reply. If it takes her (x amount of time) to reply, she’s just not into you.” @@ -57608,7 +57608,7 @@ or B) “No matter how attracted she might be to you, she lives her own life and she has her own things to do. She’ll reply when it’s not disrupting her day, so be patient. Not everything will revolve around you.” -If there’s a third option for men to keep in mind, please feel free to explain (if it’s just a variation of “I’m not interested”, I’d count that as option A).",,7,NARANagi,1701303596.0 +If there’s a third option for men to keep in mind, please feel free to explain (if it’s just a variation of “I’m not interested”, I’d count that as option A).",,7,NARANagi,2023-11-30 00:19:56 PurplePillDebate,186lyxp,Do women act incognizant to avoid accountability?,"Every day there are hundreds of incredibly detailed posts written on reddit advice subs. They are almost always written with a level of detail that would require the writer to know full well what is going on. But for some reason, they are always concluded with - &#x200B; @@ -57617,12 +57617,12 @@ PurplePillDebate,186lyxp,Do women act incognizant to avoid accountability?,"Ever &#x200B; -All I can assume is this is a defense mechanism used to distance themselves from any accountability that would come with being aware of the situation. Is there some other reasoning that I don't see?",,37,Im_Unsure_For_Sure,1701252075.0 +All I can assume is this is a defense mechanism used to distance themselves from any accountability that would come with being aware of the situation. Is there some other reasoning that I don't see?",,37,Im_Unsure_For_Sure,2023-11-29 10:01:15 PurplePillDebate,186t9lk,Do women confirm to hive mind thinking?,"A [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/186osdp/we_should_judge_men_for_their_past/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) today saying about how women should judge men based on their past as if they don't do that already. The one thing that surprised me is like men when judging on the past of the woman tend to evaluate based on the condition on why was the woman rejected? Does she self sabotage? Does she always make bad choices? which are valid questions. When women do they are just like if no woman has accepted the guy, they shouldn't either which also seems a valid point. But what if the guy who has had a multiple failed relationships because he was an asshole? By this logic he still gets a pass because he had a lot of relationships. A [comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/186osdp/comment/kb9wzv8/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) which said women want what other women have also fits the explanation. -So for a man, the traits of women he wants are virgin or a low body count. Some even do date one with a high body count as guys here can say. But no woman wants a virgin but only ones who had been vetted (even though wrongly) by other women in the past. Doesn't that mean women have a hive mind thinking like if one woman thinks a guy is fuckable so every woman will and if a guy has never been vetted by any woman (no questions asked as to why) then he is unfuckable?",,10,thedarkracer,1701274787.0 +So for a man, the traits of women he wants are virgin or a low body count. Some even do date one with a high body count as guys here can say. But no woman wants a virgin but only ones who had been vetted (even though wrongly) by other women in the past. Doesn't that mean women have a hive mind thinking like if one woman thinks a guy is fuckable so every woman will and if a guy has never been vetted by any woman (no questions asked as to why) then he is unfuckable?",,10,thedarkracer,2023-11-29 16:19:47 PurplePillDebate,186tex3,Is much of the incel problem due to highly Trad/Conservative men?,"My instinct is yes, but I do not know the answer. Also, I don't know if the problem is a low pool of conservative women or if it is the values themselves putting women off. @@ -57633,7 +57633,7 @@ Regarding size of dating pool: Here's a long article from putanumonit: https:/ Again, I don't actually know. It's likely a combination of factors like Y=.3(liberal)+.08(gender mix of state)+.3(education and wealth)+.3(attractiveness/health/facial symmetry)+E -**Basically Liberal/Conservative men may be groups that live in totally different dating worlds. I *think* this is the case, but I am interested in unpacking exactly why that is, or even if this is true or not.**",,7,infps,1701275148.0 +**Basically Liberal/Conservative men may be groups that live in totally different dating worlds. I *think* this is the case, but I am interested in unpacking exactly why that is, or even if this is true or not.**",,7,infps,2023-11-29 16:25:48 PurplePillDebate,186rkpr,How many men would a man need to be able to defend against before it's not unattractive to run away?,"I am not an advocate for fights, and I will always try to run. However, if a man is faced against one aggressive man, do women prefer he stands and defends himself physically, or run? @@ -57642,8 +57642,8 @@ What if it's 2 men? 3? When can a man run away without a woman thinking he's unattractive -Women, please be honest. If you feel the ick, it's not your fault. But please be honest. Again you don't control your own icks so please be honest. Thank you",,7,Consistent-Gur6932,1701270486.0 -PurplePillDebate,186rnjb,"If we assume that 20/80 rule is true, how would u describe the top 20% guy (in early 20s)?","Lets take dudes in university age. How would u describe top 20% guy in university. Of course there might be different combinations, rich guy with alot of status will have an advantage over maybe a better looking but poor man, but at the same time, i dont think that things like money are that important when u are a student, especially if u want girls to go for you, not for your money",,4,AntClear933,1701270680.0 +Women, please be honest. If you feel the ick, it's not your fault. But please be honest. Again you don't control your own icks so please be honest. Thank you",,7,Consistent-Gur6932,2023-11-29 15:08:06 +PurplePillDebate,186rnjb,"If we assume that 20/80 rule is true, how would u describe the top 20% guy (in early 20s)?","Lets take dudes in university age. How would u describe top 20% guy in university. Of course there might be different combinations, rich guy with alot of status will have an advantage over maybe a better looking but poor man, but at the same time, i dont think that things like money are that important when u are a student, especially if u want girls to go for you, not for your money",,4,AntClear933,2023-11-29 15:11:20 PurplePillDebate,186w7qx,when is a woman actually good enough to commit to?,"unsure of whether i should tag this as discussion or question for red pill, but i wouldn’t say this question is necessarily aimed at red pillers. although others might see this as an odd question or a question with a obvious answer, but here it is. when is a woman actually good enough to commit to? or why are there such a confusing criteria for what makes a woman good enough to commit to? @@ -57653,7 +57653,7 @@ i feel like i have this question because i had recent realizations about having i’m aware that a low body count isn’t the only thing that makes someone good enough for a LTR. i understand that there are different opinions on what makes someone good enough, cause personal standards, but i guess i ask cause sometimes red pillers act as though men are a monolith. idk -TLDR: according to red pillers, i wouldn’t be good enough for a LTR because i had a hoe phase. but i wasn’t seen as good enough or desired for a LTR before this phase so when is a woman good enough to commit to?",,2,[deleted],1701282057.0 +TLDR: according to red pillers, i wouldn’t be good enough for a LTR because i had a hoe phase. but i wasn’t seen as good enough or desired for a LTR before this phase so when is a woman good enough to commit to?",,2,[deleted],2023-11-29 18:20:57 PurplePillDebate,186uufk,What was your parent's relationship dynamic like?,"Obvious question is in the title, but to give you a place to start if you aren't sure: * Did you see your father flirt with or be physically affectionate with your mother? @@ -57668,7 +57668,7 @@ PurplePillDebate,186uufk,What was your parent's relationship dynamic like?,"Obvi * Did they seem to love each other would you say? * Was there obvious toxicity or abuse that the questions above don't mention? * Were they faithful to each other? -* Would you want a relationship like theirs?",,3,MistyMaisel,1701278673.0 +* Would you want a relationship like theirs?",,3,MistyMaisel,2023-11-29 17:24:33 PurplePillDebate,186ji5d,Attraction cannot be quantified. Discuss.,"Wonderful, wild and weird. Everyone is a pervert in this field of human endeavour, we all have our particularities, expectations and pre conceptions. It is astounding to have women admit the ease they can lose feelings, but then on closer examination, a person with genuine self worth and self respect should lose feelings easy if they encounter a complication rather than an addition to their life, in short ""is my attraction to this individual worth the risk?"" @@ -57676,7 +57676,7 @@ To my own interior world, my life? I use Women as the example because it is they who set the guidelines for men to play around. Attraction no matter how it's played with ""rationality"" is an animal, it is a primal instinct, I think it is a real sizing up sense, so much of it is subliminal communication, a sizing up within our civilisational jungle. -You only choose after you are attracted, women are wiser in this regard, I think, or just I have no standards in the sense that I quite happy to be knocked around as long as I get love now and again.",,13,GlasgaAccentfurYanks,1701241403.0 +You only choose after you are attracted, women are wiser in this regard, I think, or just I have no standards in the sense that I quite happy to be knocked around as long as I get love now and again.",,13,GlasgaAccentfurYanks,2023-11-29 07:03:23 PurplePillDebate,1867iat,Men say they want one thing in women yet their actions say something else entirely,"A lot of men love to talk about and idolise traditional women who are virgins, stay at home moms, feminine ect. They talk about the value of such women and how they are much better then modernised western women. Yet the second a man gets into a position of power or high status and now has access to a large variety of women he nearly always chooses the hottest ig baddie he can find- which are completely against every traditional value they praise they want their women to have @@ -57685,7 +57685,7 @@ What annoys me is that these men will criticse women for having high, superficia Furthermore, men can preach about how much they love modest religious women but at the end of the day all it is, is empty words. These type of women end up getting approached the least since they ""don't give it up easy"" and are a ""waste of time"" compared to other ""easier"" woman who are more willing to date/have sex earlier on. As a ""modest good woman"" who has friends who both sleep around and are also more conservative my ""hoe"" friends get pursued for a relationship much more then me or any of my more traditional friends do. And it isn't about attractiveness since we are relatively similar in terms of looks. (in fact I'd say my traditional friends are objectively more attractive as well) -And please no one complain about this being a generalisation because yes there are exceptions and no I'm not saying every man does this, but enough do for me to highlight the hypocrisy of it.",,69,Economy-House171,1701207432.0 +And please no one complain about this being a generalisation because yes there are exceptions and no I'm not saying every man does this, but enough do for me to highlight the hypocrisy of it.",,69,Economy-House171,2023-11-28 21:37:12 PurplePillDebate,186hqac,Only when you get rejected by a woman do you know who she really is,"I have come to realize that you think you might know her, but only when the truth comes out about your feelings for her does it become apparent who she is. It is only when this happens, do you realize that she is a user who was exploiting you for attention, gifts, etc., or that she is an unpleasant individual who actually is disgusted by your very existence, or any other realities that you hadn't anticipated. Women have a separate persona for their daily interactions with the public, as well as their real self. I have seen this real self first hand and it can be quite nasty. And you can see this real self when things get personal like when romantic feelings are involved. @@ -57694,7 +57694,7 @@ You might be having what you think is a nice conversation and she might come acr You then realize that you didn't know her at all. You only knew what she presented to you, until the mask fell off. And it's like when they realize the ugly man likes them, and it offends every fibre of their being, do they drop any pretense of friendliness. -So I wonder, women, why do you react in such a way? Why does a man you find unattractive, cause such a horrible visceral reaction in you? It's one thing to be uninterested in him, but to treat the guy like a leper and act like you're the victimized party is confusing. Is the idea of an ugly man thinking he has a chance with you really that offensive that it causes you to violently lash out in such a manner?",,11,rejected-again,1701235037.0 +So I wonder, women, why do you react in such a way? Why does a man you find unattractive, cause such a horrible visceral reaction in you? It's one thing to be uninterested in him, but to treat the guy like a leper and act like you're the victimized party is confusing. Is the idea of an ugly man thinking he has a chance with you really that offensive that it causes you to violently lash out in such a manner?",,11,rejected-again,2023-11-29 05:17:17 PurplePillDebate,1861y2b,“modern women” aren’t real. They’re a result of algorithmically driven content consumption.,"“modern women” in accordance to these manosphere definitions - ie. entitled, very high n count, has an OF account, only aims for ‘chad’, will divorce you over nothing, will freak out if you approach them - you know the type. @@ -57702,7 +57702,7 @@ It’s all internet fear porn meant to generate content and views. This ‘moder -There is also something to be said about the advertised Redpill lifestyle (ie. hyper materialistic, shallow, constant and active mind games/manipulation, constantly flaunting) that actively attracts this type of women because you present yourself as that type of man.",,100,KayRay1994,1701193659.0 +There is also something to be said about the advertised Redpill lifestyle (ie. hyper materialistic, shallow, constant and active mind games/manipulation, constantly flaunting) that actively attracts this type of women because you present yourself as that type of man.",,100,KayRay1994,2023-11-28 17:47:39 PurplePillDebate,185x7jk,I think many men want single women to be miserable because it gives them a sense of importance.,"One thing that I’ve noticed when watching and reading redpill content is that there is an obsession with the dating life’s of single women particularly older single women who are perceived to have ‘hit the wall.’ There an entire YouTube channels dedicated, for example, to largely posting out of often time out of context clips of women on social media discussing their dating lives. Here are there channels that I found that illustrate what I’m talking about: (1) [Manosphere Highlights](https://www.youtube.com/@manospherehighlightsdaily) @@ -57727,10 +57727,10 @@ I see these redpillers constantly fantasizing over these scenarios of women who &#x200B; -But that's just my take, Im open to here other perspectives.",,159,SapphireRising225,1701181397.0 +But that's just my take, Im open to here other perspectives.",,159,SapphireRising225,2023-11-28 14:23:17 PurplePillDebate,186v5xz,Attractive women generally have more positive “cold approach” experiences than less attractive women and they also experience fewer men lashing out at them when they reject men.,"Not only that, some attractive women will knowingly engage in behavior they know men won’t like (being led on) because some like having orbiters and many attractive women don’t feel endangered by their orbiters. -Misogynistic men look down on unattractive women and see that as license to be sleazy towards them because it feels like less risk to them. And if they are rejected they will be insulted because they think they are better than the unattractive woman so they lash out as it is a bigger blow to their ego.",,1,thisreallyisnotok,1701279454.0 +Misogynistic men look down on unattractive women and see that as license to be sleazy towards them because it feels like less risk to them. And if they are rejected they will be insulted because they think they are better than the unattractive woman so they lash out as it is a bigger blow to their ego.",,1,thisreallyisnotok,2023-11-29 17:37:34 PurplePillDebate,186hf2g,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -57749,7 +57749,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,9,AutoModerator,1701234015.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,9,AutoModerator,2023-11-29 05:00:15 PurplePillDebate,186dj1s,Are most men actually geared for romance or is it usually just a means to an end?,"There’s an amusing adage that romance for women is roses on a piano whilst romance tor men is tulips on an organ which whilst a bit crass and not completely accurate contains and essential truth I think that men are generally speaking more concerned the carnal rather than emotional elements of a romantic relationship. Of course women like sex and men like feeling wanted and loved, but I can’t help but feel like a lot of outwardly romantic gestures are performed not because of some pure intention to make the other person feel adored but because they think it will help their chances of getting laid or because it’s what they think they’re supposed to do in a relationship, so it strikes me as being performative a lot of the time. @@ -57760,12 +57760,12 @@ Maybe I’m being too cynical though. What do you think? -I",,15,StaticNocturne,1701222652.0 +I",,15,StaticNocturne,2023-11-29 01:50:52 PurplePillDebate,186d8jj,Does the Madonna complex cause relationships to get ruined?,"Whenever I meet a girl, and I have a desire to compliment her beauty or initial sexual talk, I stop myself and literally keep it PG-13. I do this in order to ""impress her"" into thinking ""Wow he's so pure and doesn't think about sex"" But many men and women alike have told me, we are sexual beings. Everyone wants sex. And that one shouldn't be afraid to express the desire. Because obviously a relationship will have sex -This has been the NUMBER ONE reason I always get put into the friendzone by girls who HAVE liked me before",,16,Consistent-Gur6932,1701221853.0 +This has been the NUMBER ONE reason I always get put into the friendzone by girls who HAVE liked me before",,16,Consistent-Gur6932,2023-11-29 01:37:33 PurplePillDebate,186q6fm,"""She cheated on me."" Older men with little or no relationship experience should slander someone to claim experience.","18% of college-educated adults have never been married by the age of 40. This used to be a much smaller number decades ago, well before the male loneliness epidemic. I'm willing to bet that a lot of people in that 18% have no relationship experience, either. @@ -57776,19 +57776,19 @@ Older men with little or no relationship experience should simply slander someon As long as men have at least some dating experience, these words can be uttered. Who doesn't love a good victimhood story? -Oh yes, even limerents can be inspired by their objects of limerence to slander some past failed date elsewhere.",,1,FromAuntToNiece,1701266785.0 +Oh yes, even limerents can be inspired by their objects of limerence to slander some past failed date elsewhere.",,1,FromAuntToNiece,2023-11-29 14:06:25 PurplePillDebate,1868dmz,Q4M: how would you feel if a girl put you on a pedestal?,"We all know how a common mistake that inexperienced makes make is to put women on a pedestal. A male like that would cancel plans with friends to make time for her. Go waaay out of his way to please her. Break his bank account for her. Never contradicts her, never teases her, never challenges her. Etc. Now... what if you met a single woman squarely in your league looks-wise... but instead of acting normal, she put YOU on a pedestal? -Would that turn you off? Give you the ick? How would you respond?",,16,Windmill_flowers,1701209449.0 +Would that turn you off? Give you the ick? How would you respond?",,16,Windmill_flowers,2023-11-28 22:10:49 PurplePillDebate,186bwal,"How come the red pill doesn't believe in PUA to get women, or at least they do concentrate on it much?","In the red pill it's almost always about how much money you make and how often you go to the gym, and although those things are good, I found in my experience that reading PUA books and practicing has helped me a lot. I am autistic and have a gf and trying to help get my autistic brother a gf as well.  So my best bet is to probably have him read and practice from the same books.  The books I read before were The Mystery Method and Double Your Dating.  They helped me immensely.  -But PUA is almost never discussed in TRP, and I wonder, if there is a reason for that?",,10,harmonica2,1701218182.0 +But PUA is almost never discussed in TRP, and I wonder, if there is a reason for that?",,10,harmonica2,2023-11-29 00:36:22 PurplePillDebate,186o2ec,"Guys who focus on single motherhood, paternity fraud, medication use, etc are bad judge of character.","It’s fascinating how guys here will look for indicators instead just observing her behavior. Then I realize, they cant observe her behavior objectively. Theyre most likely the type who simps for a girl and struggle to look at her without rose tinted glassed because he wants her body. I remember guys saying that “its easy to get a paternity test to confirm she’s faithful” because they dont want to put in the time to observe if she’s a faithful person. I roll my eyes when guys will claim “People hates guys with no standards and people hate guys when they do have standards”. One of the problems is certain guys will vet for traits other than personality, and then cry that it’s society’s fault that he didn’t vet for personality and kept getting women with shitty personalities. Though, I also wonder if its a wounded pride thing from desperate men. As long as she’s not a single mom, they’ll put up with a manipulative cheating bitch. As long as she loves her family, they’ll put up with a manipulative cheating bitch. As long she’s not on medication, they’ll put up with a manipulative cheating bitch. As long as long as the child is biologically his, they’ll tolerate a manipulative cheating bitch. @@ -57796,7 +57796,7 @@ In case I still need to fill up more space, here’s some more theories: \- Actually giving a shit about a woman’s personality tires them out. \- These are the only types of hot girls that are willing to hang with these guys. \- His personality isn’t good either so why would a good person want to associate with him? -",,1,LillthOfBabylon,1701260192.0 +",,1,LillthOfBabylon,2023-11-29 12:16:32 PurplePillDebate,186321x,What was your relationship with your mother like?,"Pretty much question in the title, but to give some strands for people who may not know where to begin answering: * Are or were you close with her (talk to her about your life, your problems, did activities together)? @@ -57804,16 +57804,16 @@ PurplePillDebate,186321x,What was your relationship with your mother like?,"Pret * If you were upset by something in life (whatever it is whether it be work, school, girls, friends, or something else) did you share it with her or your father or both? * How did your mother treat you when you were being good or exceptional? * How did your mother treat you when you were being bad or rotten? -* Did your mother do anything special with you or teach/show you anything special or memorable? ",,24,MistyMaisel,1701196401.0 +* Did your mother do anything special with you or teach/show you anything special or memorable? ",,24,MistyMaisel,2023-11-28 18:33:21 PurplePillDebate,1875tmy,Having 0 suitors and 100 suitors is the same thing if you don’t like any of them,"A common complaint here is how women have 100s of suitors while the men are struggling to find one woman willing to be with them. A woman having men she wouldn’t want to touch with a ten foot pole is basically the same thing as not having any options. They feel more like insects you can’t get rid of. -I’m sure men wouldn’t feel flattered if bunch of women they didn’t find attractive would bother them (for more than sex ofc) for love and commitment.",,0,ThrowRAsweeter,1701307116.0 +I’m sure men wouldn’t feel flattered if bunch of women they didn’t find attractive would bother them (for more than sex ofc) for love and commitment.",,0,ThrowRAsweeter,2023-11-30 01:18:36 PurplePillDebate,185w8e5,Where are men finding so many dysfunctional crappy women?,"I just find it fascinating how so many men here seem to only know women who keep dating abusers, bullies, felons, and obviously terrible men. It’s like a weird reality where decent men never get women to love them. And when it’s not her dating awful men, she’s an awful person such as hating men being vulnerable, manipulating guys using her body to get her way, always comparing guys to the shitty men in her life despite him clearly not being shitty, mocks men that dont fit her preferences, always posting thirst traps for attention, and most importantly, can't be trust to not whore and lie about her baby daddy. Also, women who actually follow this AF/BB scenario where she is fucking around with hot douchbags and then settles down with a simp she mistreats are definitely not the norm. In fact, a woman like that would have to be extremely popular with guys to pull that off. -I know people cant control the environment they were raised in, but as an adult, you should definitely have more control of your social circle, especially with the internet where you can find people beyond your local area. You’re telling me that even online, guys can't find women with normal lives?",,30,LillthOfBabylon,1701178682.0 -PurplePillDebate,185xoae,why do you all take the manipulative arguments of the opposite sex so seriously?,"both men and women are constantly trying to manipulate each othe rinto serving their sex's sexual imperative. this happens both on these types of forums and on ""advice"" sites (and even IRL!). when you see men playing the victim they are trying to manipulate you, when you see women shaming your sexuality or getting hysterical over ""approaches"" they are trying to manipulate you. just because someone says something doesnt make it true or in your interest. the sexes have never sought advice from the opposite sex, go ask member of your own sex how to behave and be skeptical of the opposite sex advice like all other humans have since the dawn of time",,22,-Shes-A-Carnival,1701182682.0 +I know people cant control the environment they were raised in, but as an adult, you should definitely have more control of your social circle, especially with the internet where you can find people beyond your local area. You’re telling me that even online, guys can't find women with normal lives?",,30,LillthOfBabylon,2023-11-28 13:38:02 +PurplePillDebate,185xoae,why do you all take the manipulative arguments of the opposite sex so seriously?,"both men and women are constantly trying to manipulate each othe rinto serving their sex's sexual imperative. this happens both on these types of forums and on ""advice"" sites (and even IRL!). when you see men playing the victim they are trying to manipulate you, when you see women shaming your sexuality or getting hysterical over ""approaches"" they are trying to manipulate you. just because someone says something doesnt make it true or in your interest. the sexes have never sought advice from the opposite sex, go ask member of your own sex how to behave and be skeptical of the opposite sex advice like all other humans have since the dawn of time",,22,-Shes-A-Carnival,2023-11-28 14:44:42 PurplePillDebate,185r7dy,The one factor that causes the breakdown of the relationship that we're apparently not allowed to discuss: children. (part 2),"The last time I talked about how things like Dead Bedrooms and relationship dissatisfaction are often caused by children and how TRP never talks about this factor even though they often talk about all other factors. This time I even bring receipts. There are in fact many studies that link having children to relationship dissatisfaction. @@ -57824,7 +57824,7 @@ This time I even bring receipts. There are in fact many studies that link having [https://fortune.com/2016/05/09/mothers-marriage-parenthood/](https://fortune.com/2016/05/09/mothers-marriage-parenthood/) -Your wife didn't lose attraction because you were ""too beta"". She's sleep deprived because she has a baby and is upset that she doesn't get enough support. ",,56,Novel-Tip-7570,1701159760.0 +Your wife didn't lose attraction because you were ""too beta"". She's sleep deprived because she has a baby and is upset that she doesn't get enough support. ",,56,Novel-Tip-7570,2023-11-28 08:22:40 PurplePillDebate,185t3fi,I'm the Founder of an AI companion app and I believe Boyfriend AI will be much larger than Girlfriend AI,"So I founded and run LoverGPT, an AI companion platform where users can dirty talk with AI. &#x200B; @@ -57841,22 +57841,22 @@ There is much better visual adult content out there, compared to what you can ma So why is the convo all about AI girlfriends? Men more techy so earlier to adopt? Women less open about talking about this sort of thing? An agenda to paint men as weirdos? -Keen to hear thoughts.",,33,pornopapi,1701167694.0 +Keen to hear thoughts.",,33,pornopapi,2023-11-28 10:34:54 PurplePillDebate,186pnss,They say that single women tend to be happier than single men. It shows that the problem is men don't learn how to be happy,"Obviously sometimes mental health is hard to fix. but I believe a lot of the unhappy incel problems is on the self. And no I'm not bias you can check some of my other posts I've posted before women sometimes make self crested problems too. Here's my male version. -There exist more happy single women than happy single men. Why? Because men put their happiness in finding a girlfriend. Its on them to go to therapy, find a hobby they like etc .",,0,Logical_Round_5935,1701265323.0 +There exist more happy single women than happy single men. Why? Because men put their happiness in finding a girlfriend. Its on them to go to therapy, find a hobby they like etc .",,0,Logical_Round_5935,2023-11-29 13:42:03 PurplePillDebate,1859irm,Women criticise men for having reasonable boundaries,"As a woman myself I've seen too much criticism for any standards men might have. Not talking about the delusional red/black pillers but normal guys with very reasonable standards. Whenever a guy mentions how he doesn't want his partner to dress in a vulgar way or post bikini pictures or go to night clubs pretty much naked ect, he gets labelled as being toxic, controlling and insecure. Its incredibly hypocritical because these are the same women who then turn around and get mad at their partner for liking pictures of girls dressed in a vulgar way. -I really do think more women need to stop throwing these words around so lightly and more people in general should reliase that relationships require compromises.",,176,Economy-House171,1701108911.0 +I really do think more women need to stop throwing these words around so lightly and more people in general should reliase that relationships require compromises.",,176,Economy-House171,2023-11-27 18:15:11 PurplePillDebate,185kufv,What do you have against men who have android phones instead of iPhones?,"https://old.reddit.com/r/facepalm/comments/1856xbq/apparently_android_phones_are_a_turnoff_for_women/ Sure maybe you don't care what kind of phone they have. But I'm sure you have friends that do it friends of friends that do. ""Green bubble"" phenomenon is definitely real. -Why? What is so bad about using an android?",,26,scwizard,1701137505.0 +Why? What is so bad about using an android?",,26,scwizard,2023-11-28 02:11:45 PurplePillDebate,1855wqw,Women are far more socially brutal than men are,"There are often discussions here on how men can be evil due to violence and crimes etc. I want to point out that women can be just as cruel, but in other ways. @@ -57874,7 +57874,7 @@ Some people might think this isnt as much of a big deal, but i assure you that i And if you think from a primal setting, social exclusion, even without other members attacking you, still meant you would be left on your own to fend for your self. -Even today, social exclusion can come with a lot of negative consequences, and can hurt you financially, emotionally and mentally.",,124,Tight-Breeder,1701099895.0 +Even today, social exclusion can come with a lot of negative consequences, and can hurt you financially, emotionally and mentally.",,124,Tight-Breeder,2023-11-27 15:44:55 PurplePillDebate,185pv7v,Dominance/Aggression are better than being nice or even attractive for casual relationships,"This is in the context of regular men not celebrities. Studies consistently find that while women may not rate these type of men as the most attractive. They are the ones who typically find the most sexual success. Convicts typically have more kids. Taller men, whether ugly or not, tend to have more kids. Men who have more money and flaunt it, have more options. Men at the top of a industry that a woman's interested in, tend to have more success. However nice Men, women may report being more attractive to women, they tend to have less kids and consequently less sexual success. Women have even admitted that they are more likely to think your a virgin, if you are nice. With these facts in mind. Is it really a stretch that woman aren't all that nice and value things that aren't necessarily conducive to a relationship? criminals:https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1090513814000774#:~:text=Convicted criminal offenders had more,transmitted disease than non-offenders. @@ -57885,7 +57885,7 @@ nice guy more likely to be a virgin: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/00926239908404010 -edit: by attractive I mean like facially attractive but 5'4",,8,YtBlue,1701154245.0 +edit: by attractive I mean like facially attractive but 5'4",,8,YtBlue,2023-11-28 06:50:45 PurplePillDebate,1852t2x,"It's almost impossible for a man to ""use"" a woman for sex unless she is mentally challenged or something.","you either consented to have sex with that person or not. Women make it sound like they're owed something in 'exchange' for the sex they give, like it was prostitution. Do they not enjoy sex? I also see this trend that the more empowered and independent women get -- the more they are prone to perceive themselves as victims of circumstances. Everything around them is a ""threat"". Hence why the word ""predator"" is now used not to describe actual criminal behavior, but men who are merely looking to score. What is even funnier is that this description comes at a time when women are nominally against slutshaming women doing hookups. @@ -57893,15 +57893,15 @@ I also see this trend that the more empowered and independent women get -- the m Hegel once wrote that evil resides in they eye which percieves evil all around itself. Which is true for most terminally online crowds here. -",,131,Napo_De_Leone,1701091244.0 -PurplePillDebate,186bd5m,Would you sign a prenup where your husband would require that he gets a custody if you initiate a divorce without him being at fault,"So I'm obviosly not talking about him being a ""bad guy"" but I have met a lot of men lately that got divorced only because their wife just didn't feel happy anymore...while I would understand that and I could wish my soon to be ex wife the best in her life, I couldn't really go over losing my children since courts give the custody mostly to mother. I would like to be able to raise my own children and if I am not guilty of cheating/abuse or whatever I really don't understand why should I lose them.",,0,AreOut,1701216812.0 +",,131,Napo_De_Leone,2023-11-27 13:20:44 +PurplePillDebate,186bd5m,Would you sign a prenup where your husband would require that he gets a custody if you initiate a divorce without him being at fault,"So I'm obviosly not talking about him being a ""bad guy"" but I have met a lot of men lately that got divorced only because their wife just didn't feel happy anymore...while I would understand that and I could wish my soon to be ex wife the best in her life, I couldn't really go over losing my children since courts give the custody mostly to mother. I would like to be able to raise my own children and if I am not guilty of cheating/abuse or whatever I really don't understand why should I lose them.",,0,AreOut,2023-11-29 00:13:32 PurplePillDebate,185ba2o,"What can older guys do to not feel shortchanged in the dating world, like they say?","It was said here in a past thread that a lot of guys are forced to wait until their 30s when dating becomes a lot easier, but that by this time the guys feel shortchanged some have said, because they didn't get to experience women when they were younger and the window of getting an inexperienced or virgin gf is closed by then. I also have found dating to be a lot easier in my 30s now as well. I don't really concentrate on feeling shortchanged as much, but think that the pay off was worth the wait, if there had to be a wait for such a payoff. However, if a lot of guys still feel shortchanged, as it was said, what can they do to feel that they are making up for it? -Can guys make sure that they are making up for it, but in a good way?",,39,harmonica2,1701113209.0 +Can guys make sure that they are making up for it, but in a good way?",,39,harmonica2,2023-11-27 19:26:49 PurplePillDebate,185j80b,Who are the bad boys women like? Confident men or dangerous/evil men?,"If they are confident men, then this includes guys who can approach a woman anywhere and strike up a convo to eventually get a number. This is not the same as a creep making weird sexual comments. This is a normal friendly conversation to see if two people vibe. The number is gotten to continue an emotional connection. I've heard many women say they would love to be approached in such a manner &#x200B; @@ -57910,7 +57910,7 @@ If they are dangerous / evil men, then why are women scared of these men and why &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,13,Consistent-Gur6932,1701132898.0 +&#x200B;",,13,Consistent-Gur6932,2023-11-28 00:54:58 PurplePillDebate,185n0rv,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -57929,7 +57929,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,1701144010.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,7,AutoModerator,2023-11-28 04:00:10 PurplePillDebate,1850zw6,Birth rates are going to keep plummeting,"Because…. -Men nowadays don’t make enough money to even have kids. How are you going to support your partner and a newborn in this economy? @@ -57938,12 +57938,12 @@ PurplePillDebate,1850zw6,Birth rates are going to keep plummeting,"Because…. -A lot of women are too scared to have kids. A lot of us grew up with single mothers and we know how incapable men are at being fathers, thus most women don’t want to risk being a single mother and the stigmatisation that goes along with that. -Overall, I think in the future that only upper class women will be having kids to wealthy men. The rest of women will either remain childfree or the more loose women will have kids with someone genetically blessed aka chad.",,74,Icequeen343,1701085059.0 +Overall, I think in the future that only upper class women will be having kids to wealthy men. The rest of women will either remain childfree or the more loose women will have kids with someone genetically blessed aka chad.",,74,Icequeen343,2023-11-27 11:37:39 PurplePillDebate,185d1g2,What type of men do women not date because she is insecure or intimidated by him?,"I've often heard women say that men won't date certain women because they are intimidated by those women or because he's insecure. Usually it's brought up when talking about financially successful women, women with high body counts, or women who post sexy photos or do stuff like onlyfans. It got me wondering. What is the women's version of that? -Who is the guy we can look at and say, ""He's not getting many dates because women are intimidated by him"". OR ""He's not getting many dates because women are too insecure to date""?",,11,shadowrangerfs,1701117591.0 +Who is the guy we can look at and say, ""He's not getting many dates because women are intimidated by him"". OR ""He's not getting many dates because women are too insecure to date""?",,11,shadowrangerfs,2023-11-27 20:39:51 PurplePillDebate,1859nwz,[Science] Age gap marriages are not uncommon among recently married.,"Found this article that somehow flew under my radar all this time: https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2014/12/04/tying-the-knot-again-chances-are-theres-a-bigger-age-gap-than-the-first-time-around/ @@ -57962,7 +57962,7 @@ EDIT: the post is mostly inspired by this comment: https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/184yukw/it_makes_more_biological_sense_for_an_older_woman/kb02gfx/?context=3 -claiming that age gap marriages are mostly remnants ""from different times"".",,12,abaxeron,1701109254.0 +claiming that age gap marriages are mostly remnants ""from different times"".",,12,abaxeron,2023-11-27 18:20:54 PurplePillDebate,18589p9,It's understandable that women are looking for financial stability / success in men. Most are going about it in all the wrong ways. Let me explain.,"I completely understand why a woman would seek & be attracted to men who have high earning potential, are financially stable, etc. From a evolutionary standpoint, they likely subconsciously select for these traits because if they get pregnant, they need someone who can provide and protect while they are at their most vulnerable. This obviously extends post pregnancy too, as raising young kids is difficult, time consuming, expensive, and is a vulnerable time for mother and child/children. This desire for financial strength isn't the same as ""gold digging"" in my opinion. However, *in my opinion, MOST* women are going about filtering men based on financial stability in all the wrong ways. Let me explain... If you are truly looking for a man that can provide for you and your children (or future children), then it takes more than a surface level evaluation. @@ -57983,7 +57983,7 @@ Therefore, you may want to seek out things that are somewhat counterintuitive to In closing, I would argue that if you are aware / conscious about this but haven't changed your method of evaluation, ***you are more concerned with the perception of wealth / financial stability rather than actual wealth / financial stability.*** -I'd love to hear what others think about this, hoping it turns into a healthy discussion.",,8,helpadudeout9,1701105866.0 +I'd love to hear what others think about this, hoping it turns into a healthy discussion.",,8,helpadudeout9,2023-11-27 17:24:26 PurplePillDebate,185vb4p,Male obsession with virginity is overrated,"Reading PPD, RP you might get an impression, that majority of men value virginity. This is inaccurate to extrapolate to entire men. I made a poll in my community dedicated to gender discussions and asked men whether they prefer a virgin, or is viriginity not important, or would they prefer non-virgin (won't give links it is against the rules). Question assumed they are seeking a girlfriend in their age group, there was a split by age. @@ -58018,10 +58018,10 @@ I didn't split ""prefer non-virgin"" into age buckets, because there was a limit Not a real research, sample is too small, yet it seriously contradicts sentiment on PPD and in manosphere. I doubt that majority of men value viriginity, with exception of very young men who are often virgin themselves. -&#x200B;",,0,WanabeInflatable,1701175845.0 +&#x200B;",,0,WanabeInflatable,2023-11-28 12:50:45 PurplePillDebate,184s0ra,"""Don't listen to what women say, pay attention to their actions""... Is something alot of men should live by","This is mostly a statement using a red pill community. Of course there are extremes of every thing and I know a lot of people are going to take this the wrong way but oh well. A man should usually take what I want to say with a grain of salt. No this is not to say to never listen to him is words. That would be ridiculous. The address of the matter is to not fall for the smoking mirrors of women addressing their wants, their needs, who they're attracted to, and what they want out of the men they date. -Nine times out of 10 if you listen to one man verbatim of what they want / need out of men you will get a lot of answers that will throw you for a loop. And of course this ties down to a lot of women are different and a lot of women are going to give an answer that they feel is correct. But that doesn't necessarily make it correct. Because they never had to pick women up",,62,Vegetable-Rub3418,1701051667.0 +Nine times out of 10 if you listen to one man verbatim of what they want / need out of men you will get a lot of answers that will throw you for a loop. And of course this ties down to a lot of women are different and a lot of women are going to give an answer that they feel is correct. But that doesn't necessarily make it correct. Because they never had to pick women up",,62,Vegetable-Rub3418,2023-11-27 02:21:07 PurplePillDebate,184jllg,Women's struggles in dating are in no way equal to that of men,"""But women have shitty options"" So you are saying EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM doesn't meet your standards? @@ -58040,7 +58040,7 @@ Again, EVERY SINGLE woman is opposed to casual sex and EVERY SINGLE you are ""us &#x200B; -Like seriously, the fact that women are trying to equate their objectively better situation to men is insane. Let me say this very clearly. **HAVING OPTIONS IS BETTER THAN HAVING JACK SHIT. IF YOU WANTED JACK SHIT YOU CAN CHOOSE TO DO SO TOO**. If you were to find a true hypothetical equivalent it would be men getting in relationships easily, but they are all dead bedroom situations (which is clearly not the case).",,175,Many_Dragonfly4154,1701029627.0 +Like seriously, the fact that women are trying to equate their objectively better situation to men is insane. Let me say this very clearly. **HAVING OPTIONS IS BETTER THAN HAVING JACK SHIT. IF YOU WANTED JACK SHIT YOU CAN CHOOSE TO DO SO TOO**. If you were to find a true hypothetical equivalent it would be men getting in relationships easily, but they are all dead bedroom situations (which is clearly not the case).",,175,Many_Dragonfly4154,2023-11-26 20:13:47 PurplePillDebate,184prsg,“80% of women date 20% of men” is BS," The red pillers that constantly spout this belief that 80% of women date the top 20% men” have no idea how the real world works. Not only is there no data to back this up, but every 1/5 man is not some successful entrepreneur with looks. @@ -58048,12 +58048,12 @@ If you go to the female delusion calculator which is conducted by the us census In fact if you’re 5’9, not married, not obese and make 60k a year, you’re a 20% guy according to the female delusion calculator. -Either 95% of women date 5% of men which makes no sense, or the manosphere is deliberately lying to their audience to pump courses and programs for 2000$ a piece",,79,Ok-Hope-8521,1701045223.0 +Either 95% of women date 5% of men which makes no sense, or the manosphere is deliberately lying to their audience to pump courses and programs for 2000$ a piece",,79,Ok-Hope-8521,2023-11-27 00:33:43 PurplePillDebate,184wz3p,Are women turned off by men that dont have friends or other women interested in them ?,"I noticed if woman is interested in a guy but she finds out that he doesnt have friends or/ and other women arnt interested in the guy she loses interest Why is that ? Are you gonna date the other people or the man you like ? -I dont have friends because all the people around me like clubbing and heavy drinking , and other women arnt very interested because im introverted and even if they flirt with me i cant tell",,21,ticaaaa,1701068439.0 +I dont have friends because all the people around me like clubbing and heavy drinking , and other women arnt very interested because im introverted and even if they flirt with me i cant tell",,21,ticaaaa,2023-11-27 07:00:39 PurplePillDebate,1853big,"Is the notion that men will sleep with just about any woman with a pulse misogynistic, misandrist or just accurate?","There is no doubt that the stereotype that men will sleep with more or less any woman given the opportunity exists. Has this notion however sprung from a place of misogyny or misandry or is it just a neutral and very obvious truth? @@ -58062,7 +58062,7 @@ Do men talk about sleeping with just about anyone as a way to keep a woman’s e Is woman talking about men only thinking with their dicks an attempt to dehumanise them as nothing more than sex crazed animals after they have had an isolated experience being used for sex? -Or are men being so horny they will happily have sex with any woman willing to oblige simply truth and it’s neither a misogynistic or misandrist take on things?",,5,Crafty_Letter_1719,1701092786.0 +Or are men being so horny they will happily have sex with any woman willing to oblige simply truth and it’s neither a misogynistic or misandrist take on things?",,5,Crafty_Letter_1719,2023-11-27 13:46:26 PurplePillDebate,184yukw,it makes more biological sense for an older woman to date younger men than vice versa,"in the U.S., women's life expectancy is about 6 years longer than mens. so If a woman dates someone the same age, just going by averages, she will more likely than not have to endure the grief of losing her husband during her final few years, which are already depressing. in my personal life, I know several older widows, but no widowers. Both. my grandpas passed years before my grandmas, and thats what I've observed outside my family as well, though of course, it happens, I'm talking about overall trends here. @@ -58075,7 +58075,7 @@ If a woman dates an older man, she is only adding years onto that and increasing It makes more sense for women to date about 5 years younger so that a.) its a toss up who will outlive the other, b.) both have equal likelihood of having to take care of the other (like say, one spouse gets cancer or some other terminal illness in their 50s or 60s, whichever one it is, the other one will take that on because they actually love them, and that love goes both ways). -Not to mention, something that completely surprised me going into my thirties that no one else told me in the cultural narrative that I expired like old milk on my 30th birthday is...younger dudes are *hitting on me more than I ever could have expected. It's honestly wild. All the old creeps that used to cat call when I was a teen seemed to have disappeared (good riddance)* and been replaced by curious, cute, younger guys offering to help me with stuff, complimenting me, buying me drinks, and so on. *Upgrade!*",,8,Different-Total3557,1701076356.0 +Not to mention, something that completely surprised me going into my thirties that no one else told me in the cultural narrative that I expired like old milk on my 30th birthday is...younger dudes are *hitting on me more than I ever could have expected. It's honestly wild. All the old creeps that used to cat call when I was a teen seemed to have disappeared (good riddance)* and been replaced by curious, cute, younger guys offering to help me with stuff, complimenting me, buying me drinks, and so on. *Upgrade!*",,8,Different-Total3557,2023-11-27 09:12:36 PurplePillDebate,185lkyd,There is nothing inherently creepy about cold approaching and most women’s revulsion with it is unwarranted,"I realise there’s a level of anxiety that arises in most women’s minds stemming from past encounters with disrespectful possibly creepy men and stories we’ve all heard of stalkers and psychos who won’t take no for an answer, but unless the guy is guilty of the above a woman should be flattered when approached, even if the guy is a bit awkward and not quite her type. Yet it seems like many women are against cold approaching on principle, and regard it as disrespectful and slimy, no matter how attractive the guy is. @@ -58094,7 +58094,7 @@ In terms of how to go about approaching, it’s obviously only appropriate in ce Ladies feel free to disagree or advise me on what you think the best approach is -Edit i forgot men who approach women are deranged hideous sex starved creatures who roam the streets looking to pounce on women they’re not even attracted to. Seriously what? I take it some of you have had really negative experiences but that sort of thing is a far cry from a guy noticing an attractive lady, locking eye contact, receiving no outward signs that she’s not interested and walking over to try chatting with her. I understand the initial anxiety but what if you’re also attracted to the guy and he seems friendly and nice? Surely most women have been in a position where they want to talk to a guy they think is attractive but don’t want to make the first move and hope that he does ",,0,StaticNocturne,1701139631.0 +Edit i forgot men who approach women are deranged hideous sex starved creatures who roam the streets looking to pounce on women they’re not even attracted to. Seriously what? I take it some of you have had really negative experiences but that sort of thing is a far cry from a guy noticing an attractive lady, locking eye contact, receiving no outward signs that she’s not interested and walking over to try chatting with her. I understand the initial anxiety but what if you’re also attracted to the guy and he seems friendly and nice? Surely most women have been in a position where they want to talk to a guy they think is attractive but don’t want to make the first move and hope that he does ",,0,StaticNocturne,2023-11-28 02:47:11 PurplePillDebate,185tmyn,"“Mansplaining” is a very real thing that is extremely rude. No, it’s not just women playing the victim.","I am sick and tired of calling out mansplaining when it is happening, and it being treated like it’s this fake thing that women just made up to “play the victim.” That rhetoric needs to stop. Mansplaining is when an individual explains something to a woman in a condescending way that assumes she has no knowledge of the subject. @@ -58111,7 +58111,7 @@ However, this is a regularly occurring phenomena. I’ve had men try to explain Best case scenario when somebody tries to negate being called out for mansplaining, they will say “how was I supposed to know you were an expert in XYZ?” What’s insulting is that you went ahead and assumed I wasn’t, when all you had to do was simply inquire about my knowledge base before explaining something so basic that I already know. Just because somebody’s opinion on something is different from yours, doesn’t mean that they lack knowledge on the topic. -Long story short, mansplaining is a real AH misogynistic move on anybody’s part, and it’s a real legitimate thing. so cut it off with the narrative that it’s not real or it’s just somebody playing the victim card. If you are unsure of a woman’s knowledge base on a subject, ask first rather than just assume she knows nothing about it and start prattling away with your explanation.",,0,TidyMess123,1701169854.0 +Long story short, mansplaining is a real AH misogynistic move on anybody’s part, and it’s a real legitimate thing. so cut it off with the narrative that it’s not real or it’s just somebody playing the victim card. If you are unsure of a woman’s knowledge base on a subject, ask first rather than just assume she knows nothing about it and start prattling away with your explanation.",,0,TidyMess123,2023-11-28 11:10:54 PurplePillDebate,184owd0,Sex Toys,"Picture this: Imagine you’ve been on 3-4 really good dates with a guy. @@ -58175,7 +58175,7 @@ Would you feel ugly? Less desirable? Less than? Inadequate? Or would you gladly stick your hands/face in between his legs and listen to the humming of a machine while you wonder what he’s thinking about and what it really takes to get him to finish because clearly…. -You aren’t cuttin it.",,23,Powerful_Carrot3340,1701042866.0 +You aren’t cuttin it.",,23,Powerful_Carrot3340,2023-11-26 23:54:26 PurplePillDebate,184sun9,"SURVEY RESULTS, NEW MODS, AND OTHER JANNYISMS","So some quick updates for the subreddit in general: * We are going to add a weekly feminism thread into the looks/n-count rotation. There was previously a complete ban on feminism not related to dating, however we are now allowing any kind of feminism discussion in the weekly thread. Feminism posts that specifically relate to dating will still be allowed in their own threads. @@ -58241,7 +58241,7 @@ Regarding comments on the subreddit, they mostly fall into one of these buckets: For those interested, feel free to do some analysis: [Link to Pruned Raw Data](https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1yyr5aQkOwo1ocw1T4HuaSlOFmTmnAFTZD2I-wwXmuRU/edit?usp=sharing) -Have fun in the comments, this thread will again replace the weekly thread this week and then it should be back to it's regular cycle. I'd say I would respond this time, but the mod queue probably has a million things in it because of the holiday.",,8,milquetoastmf,1701054129.0 +Have fun in the comments, this thread will again replace the weekly thread this week and then it should be back to it's regular cycle. I'd say I would respond this time, but the mod queue probably has a million things in it because of the holiday.",,8,milquetoastmf,2023-11-27 03:02:09 PurplePillDebate,184bor6,I complimented women out in public for the past 2-weeks and….it’s fine.,"So, I have been doing some self-therapy for the past month, the results of which have given me a profound break through: shifting my thinking of “what if this or that happens” to “what would happen?”. When you realise there is more to world than you currently understand it to be, your anxiousness turns to wonder. Why is that relevant? Because, like many men I am terrified-although not so much anymore-going up to women in public. I am afraid of being perceived as creepy or such other unflattering ego destroying self-confirming labels-partly because I am not conventionally attractive. In my mind I anticipate: I go up, try to say something, even before I can get the words out I get shunned or given a look or called names, and then I leave embarrassed. Yet, I have not had this play out. All of my attempts have been positive. @@ -58250,7 +58250,7 @@ I have compliment serval girls (and ladies) now at shopping mall, library, recep Few other times, when I was feeling anxious and got stuck in a vicious loop of catastrophic images and thoughts, I have asked them for a small chat. Just going “Hi, sorry to interrupt you, can I ask for a small favour, I am feeling a bit anxious at the moment, would you be up for a small chat? It would help me take my mind of things.” Again, they are taken a back ( rational reaction) and agree but mention they might not be of much help. I reassure them just simply have a honest authentic conversation is enough, and we can stop whenever they like. After this, we proceed to have a interesting deep meaningful conversation. These have been long conversations 45 minutes to 1hr amend half. Typically these happen at the library where we both study, so we end up exchanging numbers and stuff. -I guess it’s not so bad. Curious about you guy’s experiences. Also advise on lines or ways of approaching girls in public would be nice.",,93,Stupid4Knowledge,1701008326.0 +I guess it’s not so bad. Curious about you guy’s experiences. Also advise on lines or ways of approaching girls in public would be nice.",,93,Stupid4Knowledge,2023-11-26 14:18:46 PurplePillDebate,1854lmj,So should 20-25 year olds be trying to only date 35+ men?,"23F here , attractive, and getting more fit in the gym. Per Andrew T and many other redditors, most men become “high value” at around 35 years old (at their peak in terms of wealth, maturity, attractiveness) and they will have an abundance of options to choose from. From those options the younger women are more appealing than the older women. (Because apparently as we all age we get jaded and unhappy and unattractive.) (this is sarcasm. As this is very situational.) Should we young women just do away with young men and only go for the older and richer while we can? This sounds shallow, but we want our kids to have the best possible life as well as ourselves. (I will not explain this any deeper, you can find out why women like rich men/high value men on your own) @@ -58260,7 +58260,7 @@ I always thought that men tend to find their “dream girl” when they are youn Also, you have to factor in attraction. Because as you age the more health problems pop up. Which is a whole other issue. -I could write so much more but less is more. Please advise! I have been attracted to older men before but there tends to be a personality gap that dulls the attraction. (We have completely different childhoods, taste, media habits.)",,1,Significant_You82,1701096389.0 +I could write so much more but less is more. Please advise! I have been attracted to older men before but there tends to be a personality gap that dulls the attraction. (We have completely different childhoods, taste, media habits.)",,1,Significant_You82,2023-11-27 14:46:29 PurplePillDebate,184st36,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -58279,7 +58279,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,1701054017.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,2023-11-27 03:00:17 PurplePillDebate,184sdij,Is the average man really an obnoxious sex pest?,"Comments from female friends and posts here would have me believe they are, especially on dating apps and in bars and clubs - turning every conversation sexual even when it’s completely inappropriate, getting too touchy, trying to drag them away somewhere secluded and having no tact or respect for boundaries or comfort, negging excessively, getting hostile if they’re rejected. Even in the case of dating apps with semi anonymity is it really true that most guys are like this? @@ -58288,25 +58288,25 @@ If so then shouldn’t the guys who conduct themselves with more tact and respec I think it’s fair to say the obnoxious horny cavemen cast a larger shadow than the self composed respectful guys who don’t harass or even have any interaction with most women but even so it seems quite extreme to say that the average guy is a disrespectful womaniser -The only thing I will say is that I’ve been ghosted more for being too reserved than being too sexually aggressive, and I think a lot of guys are terrified of being friend zoned so they overcompensate by being obnoxiously sexual, which many women come to expect and assume a guy isn’t interested if he’s not behaving like he just discovered testosterone, and this forms a self perpetuating shit show.",,5,StaticNocturne,1701052719.0 +The only thing I will say is that I’ve been ghosted more for being too reserved than being too sexually aggressive, and I think a lot of guys are terrified of being friend zoned so they overcompensate by being obnoxiously sexual, which many women come to expect and assume a guy isn’t interested if he’s not behaving like he just discovered testosterone, and this forms a self perpetuating shit show.",,5,StaticNocturne,2023-11-27 02:38:39 PurplePillDebate,184qevf,Rejection Sensitivity,"I actually think rejection sensitivity plays a larger role in Redpill, PPD and relationship content in the manosphere than is credited. And this would be somewhat be more pronounced in us men, of course, given that societal expectation follows that we should pursue and the women either accepts or declines. Therefore, we're probably more frequently exposed to it. I've got a few private thoughts on Redpill being a direct consequence or outcome of the disorder (which is completely understandable, barring the sort of nasty discourse), but that's neither here nor there. But do you feel like there's a way to navigate rejection that doesn't impact the ego or self-esteem? I feel like the sensitivity coupled with the constant comparisons that we draw between ourselves, and others are a primary cause for the bitterness and tone that sort of seeps into these types of conversations. Because, at the end of the day, it's still a woman's right to decline a dude's advances for whatever reason she deems necessary. But it just doesn't serve us to writhe and rage about it, even if our disappointment is understandable and even somewhat natural. The wilds are probably teeming with sexually frustrated animals. Only difference is that, while a bear may feel the effects of his spurned attempts, that's as far as it goes; he won't slink back to his den and bemoan how much of a loser he is. Bears don't have that sort of agency. We kinda do, though, is the thing. -So, is there a way we can navigate rejection better? Or are our ego and self-image just sort of necessary sacrifices in an effort to find a partner? And how do you find it to *make* that sacrifice, if so?",,6,OnePotatoeChip,1701046972.0 +So, is there a way we can navigate rejection better? Or are our ego and self-image just sort of necessary sacrifices in an effort to find a partner? And how do you find it to *make* that sacrifice, if so?",,6,OnePotatoeChip,2023-11-27 01:02:52 PurplePillDebate,1847ry7,"""Never compare yourself to her ex"" but she definitely will","1. before someone mentions the word ""communication"" -- newsflash -- women don't really communicate this stuff, at least not in a frank and transparent manner, they rather keep silently bemoaning the fact that sex is somehow just not as good as with her ex. 2. **Just like women blame their partners for not knowing how to please them, they also hand them all the credit for when she has the best sex she ever had.** They very rarely consider themselves are responsible for the quality of their own sex. 3. Her ex dicking her better will manifest in all sorts of ways: she will be less adventorus with you, she will want sex less often, she will not do the crazy shit she did let her ex do in bed, and women admit this, at least online, just type in ""miss sex with my ex boyfriend"" and all sorts of confessions pop up. 4. the sad fact is that a lot of women are in fact in a deeper, more committed, more loving relationship with their current partner, they guy that fucked them in college just set the standard for what turns them on. -&#x200B;",,98,Napo_De_Leone,1700994091.0 +&#x200B;",,98,Napo_De_Leone,2023-11-26 10:21:31 PurplePillDebate,184d0ht,"""Women dont put enough effort into making it work because they think there's always something better."" ""It's women's fault for staying in a crappy relationship.""","I see two opposing arguments frequently on here and I'd like to ask red pill men specifically how both can be true at the same time. I see it said all the time that its common for most women to ""discard men"" because they think there's a better option out there for them and also common that women are too quick to give up on a relationship. How can both be true at the same time? I'd like to see it discussed among red pill men. What do you guys think? How can a woman simultaneously ""try harder to make it work"" and ""choose better""? Men don't have ""good"" and ""bad"" printed on their foreheads so what other way to find out which one he is without dating him? -This is specifically a question for **Red Pill Men**.",,35,alphamaker420,1701012192.0 +This is specifically a question for **Red Pill Men**.",,35,alphamaker420,2023-11-26 15:23:12 PurplePillDebate,184g0jn,Why is domestic violence funny/acceptable when the man is the victim?,"I've seen this in social media frequently and even in TV tropes. TL;DR @@ -58336,10 +58336,10 @@ When did this become normalized and why? What are your thoughts about this? -EDIT: What do you THINK about domestic violence being funny when the victim is the man. Stop focusing on Chat GPT, it is merely an addition to this topic.",,20,CalmEntrepreneur884,1701020184.0 +EDIT: What do you THINK about domestic violence being funny when the victim is the man. Stop focusing on Chat GPT, it is merely an addition to this topic.",,20,CalmEntrepreneur884,2023-11-26 17:36:24 PurplePillDebate,1843fos,The fact that so many women have a problem with a man who goes 50/50 is proof that most women just want to use men and don't actually care about them.,"Most women are *almost* incapable of genuinely loving a man. They always want something, especially material things like money and the man paying for stuff in return. I just saw a post in this sub where a woman said a man who goes 50/50 is useless, and this is how many women feel, because they don't actually care about men as human beings, they just want to use them for their own benefit like getting free food, getting their bills paid and so on. The man could be kind and compassionate, but if he goes 50/50 then none of that matters, he's useless to her. On the other hand, a guy could be an asshole and even abusive, but if he pays for everything, then that doesn't matter. -This unfortunately means that these women have basically reduced themselves to being prostitutes because they want money/material things for their ""love"", which isn't even really love. If a woman loved a man, she obviously would have no problem going 50/50. Why would she? But, since most women hate going 50/50, this means they don't love men, they just use them. They want to be loved by them, but they themselves don't want to love. They like taking, but they don't care much about giving. And apparently this is what femininity means, just receiving without ever giving anything back.",,155,Jax_Gatsby,1700976154.0 +This unfortunately means that these women have basically reduced themselves to being prostitutes because they want money/material things for their ""love"", which isn't even really love. If a woman loved a man, she obviously would have no problem going 50/50. Why would she? But, since most women hate going 50/50, this means they don't love men, they just use them. They want to be loved by them, but they themselves don't want to love. They like taking, but they don't care much about giving. And apparently this is what femininity means, just receiving without ever giving anything back.",,155,Jax_Gatsby,2023-11-26 05:22:34 PurplePillDebate,184x38p,Do we need new terminology for loneliness ?,"Title, Hey gang , I got this idea while reading the megathread lol. @@ -58362,7 +58362,7 @@ And “Double trouble loneliness” -Thoughts ?",,1,Grouchy_Cookie_7813,1701068878.0 +Thoughts ?",,1,Grouchy_Cookie_7813,2023-11-27 07:07:58 PurplePillDebate,1857e43,"CMV: women have gotten so used to poor treatment, many don't know how to respond when treated well"," In my view, women have had to deal with poor behavior from men for soo long that when they encounter a guy who treats them decently. @@ -58372,19 +58372,19 @@ https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8faE4X9 She is talks about how she was met on a first date by a guy who bought her flowers and opened her door for her etc. Her first reaction was to get on group chat with her friends and say that the guy is weird. -I think this is because of the typical poor treatment we have gotten used to receiving from men. Do you think her reaction stems from something else? What do you think?",,0,Windmill_flowers,1701103709.0 +I think this is because of the typical poor treatment we have gotten used to receiving from men. Do you think her reaction stems from something else? What do you think?",,0,Windmill_flowers,2023-11-27 16:48:29 PurplePillDebate,184vgq1,How come men find youth in women attractive but not vice versa?,"In the red pill a common talking point is that men of all ages find youth and women attractive and sometimes it comes up as a heated topic.But how can women do not find me youth and men attractive it seems? For example you don't see near as many relationships where the woman might be over 30 and the man in his early twenties compared to vice versa where you see it much more commonly in comparison. -But it seems with women that as long as the guy is between the ages of 20 to 50 then he is equally as hot across the board since most women don't seem to go for youth at all.  Unless I am wrong?",,0,harmonica2,1701062712.0 +But it seems with women that as long as the guy is between the ages of 20 to 50 then he is equally as hot across the board since most women don't seem to go for youth at all.  Unless I am wrong?",,0,harmonica2,2023-11-27 05:25:12 PurplePillDebate,184dl15,What percentage of men attract you? What is your opinion of the men who don't attract you?,"I have been repeatedly asked to provide sources for arguments about how women perceive the majority of men. The last user who posted about this topic deleted his post, so locating quotes from women on here regarding their perception of men has been difficult. Thus, I've decided to create my own post. Note: I am not asking *specifically* about looks! (thus, I don't think that this post belongs in the looks megathread) I'd like to know what percentage of men that women here find to be attractive taking into account the full package of what men have to offer. This includes charisma, confidence, status, hobbies, intelligence, education, money, and, yes, looks. More importantly, I'd like to know what your opinion is of the men who you are not attracted to. Do they repulse you? Do you even notice them? Would you be friends with them? Do they have a chance to attract you if they do more things to improve themselves? -The more detail that you can write about your preferences, the better. If certain male qualities attract you more than others, then that is of interest to me too.",,11,wtknight,1701013777.0 +The more detail that you can write about your preferences, the better. If certain male qualities attract you more than others, then that is of interest to me too.",,11,wtknight,2023-11-26 15:49:37 PurplePillDebate,184zjx5,What are the signs you notice from desperate people?,"# Context: People who are desperate to date anyone. The biggest sign I have noticed is thinking the bare minimum is a relationship. @@ -58406,7 +58406,7 @@ This one’s the most obvious sign: ***Refusing to vet people because then you And I like to think this comment is a sign you’re NOTZ dealing with a desperate men. Btw, this comment got downvoted. I wonder why. -> I have been a lurker on this subreddit for a long time and I have never understood how it can really be all that difficult for a man to find some woman that they find attractive to get involved with. I am saying this from the perspective of a man who only gets involved romantically and sexually with submissive woman that are into BDSM that I find alluring. I am dealing with a very small subset of women to begin with, and I do not find it difficult in finding partners that share my proclivities.",,0,LillthOfBabylon,1701079395.0 +> I have been a lurker on this subreddit for a long time and I have never understood how it can really be all that difficult for a man to find some woman that they find attractive to get involved with. I am saying this from the perspective of a man who only gets involved romantically and sexually with submissive woman that are into BDSM that I find alluring. I am dealing with a very small subset of women to begin with, and I do not find it difficult in finding partners that share my proclivities.",,0,LillthOfBabylon,2023-11-27 10:03:15 PurplePillDebate,1848fp0,CMV: Fairness is not code for getting what you want with no inconvenience.,"Bad things happening to good people and good things happening to bad people isn’t fair. Being born with disadvantages is unfair. Being oppressed for being a minority is unfair. Getting what you want does not determined fairness. People not wanting to be around a person who is mean to them is fair. Men wanting to have sex with an ugly girl because she was willing to have a hook up with him is fair. People choosing to stop engaging hook up culture because they don’t see the benefit of it is fair. Just like you have standards that exclude people, people having standards that exclude you is fair. Not wanting someone who is not at your income or educational level is fair. Noy wanting someone based on incompatibility, such as no common interest, is fair. @@ -58421,7 +58421,7 @@ Being forced to pay for a kid that you created is fair. The baby didn’t ask to Fairness can also be about suffering the consequences for your poor decisions. People staying away from an unlikable asshole is fair. Criminals going to jail for a crime they committed is fair. -“Life is unfair” is a lazy come back and it implies that these people are legitimate. No, you not getting what you want does not automatically mean unfairness.",,23,LillthOfBabylon,1700996825.0 +“Life is unfair” is a lazy come back and it implies that these people are legitimate. No, you not getting what you want does not automatically mean unfairness.",,23,LillthOfBabylon,2023-11-26 11:07:05 PurplePillDebate,1840izh,most women don't deserve chivalry from men,"Historically for men , they were expected to behave with chivalry to the women they date this included @@ -58464,7 +58464,7 @@ its not fair to expect men to adhere to old-fashioned courtesies while we move a if you want men to pay for your dates, open your car door, lead, plan everything, propose, financially support. you better have a low body count or a virgin, know how to cook clean, dress modestly not have an only fans etc -and if you do have an only fans, have high body count or dress like a whore on post suggestive photos online, you don't deserve any of these traditional traits from men so you cant complain about it",,71,Moneydamjan,1700966405.0 +and if you do have an only fans, have high body count or dress like a whore on post suggestive photos online, you don't deserve any of these traditional traits from men so you cant complain about it",,71,Moneydamjan,2023-11-26 02:40:05 PurplePillDebate,1845t22,Men's and women's woes are objectively incomparable," No, women don't have it worse. There are thousands of metrics that say otherwise. Life expectancy, suicides, violent deaths, workplace fatalitites, homelessness, killed in wars, conscription (modern day slavery) is almost exclusively male. Education gap. Work discrimination in female-dominated works. Lots of things. Dating issues are somewhere too, but arguably not the worst, just inc\*ls tend to cry about them so much - lacking a date sux, but it is no where near to being dragged out of your home and sent to death in trenches in Ukraine. @@ -58475,28 +58475,28 @@ Can you somehow objectively compare these lists and say what is worse? No. They If you think that one of these lists is less important than the other - you are heartless bigot lacking empathy, or an indoctrinated zealot of gender wars, or both. Reframed yesterday post as CMV. -",,24,WanabeInflatable,1700985466.0 +",,24,WanabeInflatable,2023-11-26 07:57:46 PurplePillDebate,184pfyx,Men value casual sex over relationships,"This is quite obvious by the fact men get offended if they’re called husband material or if a women doesn’t want casual sex with them but a relationship. I think this shows how superficial men are, they would rather be a hot douchebag than a guy that is well rounded. Husband material means a good personality, financially stable and attractive. Guys for casual sex are just hot. So men are showing that their ultimate aim is just to be hot so that they can be picked for sex for a night. -So men shouldn’t be judging women for having casual sex when men would rather be hoes than husbands.",,1,Icequeen343,1701044326.0 +So men shouldn’t be judging women for having casual sex when men would rather be hoes than husbands.",,1,Icequeen343,2023-11-27 00:18:46 PurplePillDebate,183ty89,""" If sex is water, women have to survive on the ocean, men in the desert."" this is worst attempt at equalizing men and women's issues in dating","[this](https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/17v6w48/if_sex_is_water_women_have_to_survive_on_the/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) and similar phrases are always used when a man complains about having no options as a way to conclude that no one has it worse. this phrase tho is pretty misandrist (which doesn't surprise since most people are okay with it) because it assumes that every option a woman has is bad( aka most men are bad"" and every option a man will have it's good (aka every woman is good). if you believe most men are shit and most women are angels then no problem go on telling that to every man who complains on forums! but if you believe that good and bad people can be evenly distributed between men and women then stop using it. and now we have two options either you find something else that equalizes men and women's issues or you admit that men probably have it worse than women edit: i can't believe most of you are saying stuff like ""but in the ocean water is not potable"" the analogy isn't meant to be taken that literally lol, because it would mean that all men are bad. the people who made it probably thought ocean/swamp just because it's the opposite of a desert. - keep coping i guess",,70,G0dZylla,1700947495.0 + keep coping i guess",,70,G0dZylla,2023-11-25 21:24:55 PurplePillDebate,183n2l9,"Women have a tendency to victimize themselves by framing past relationships that didn't work out as involving ""manipulation"" or ""abuse""","1. *""I was really lonely so my standards were in hell because I just wanted some intimacy so I slept with guys I otherwise would never given a chance, they exploited my loneliness and used me for sex""* 2. *""I was young and impressionable and looked up to him, but now that I'm older I would never given him a chance... ""* 3. *""I was overweight and had low self esteem and men exploited my willingness to have sex with them for validation, now that I'm fit I finally feel I have the power to choose who I want to date""* Has anyone noticed this trend? From the young woman who had a fling she now regrets, to the girl with self-esteem issues who slept with trashy men because that was the best she could get at the time -- they all try to kind of retroactively frame their consent at the time as that of arising from circumstances which didn't really allow them to be able freely choose the men they dated/slept with? -everything is retroactively explained using therapeutic vernacular. The fact that the guys POV is never taken into account is also baffling. Maybe sometimes the jerk is just a guy who wasn't compatible with you long term and not a devious manipulator.",,134,Napo_De_Leone,1700928718.0 +everything is retroactively explained using therapeutic vernacular. The fact that the guys POV is never taken into account is also baffling. Maybe sometimes the jerk is just a guy who wasn't compatible with you long term and not a devious manipulator.",,134,Napo_De_Leone,2023-11-25 16:11:58 PurplePillDebate,183vjdc,why do people act like it’s so hard to sexually please women?,"people (mostly men from my experience) act like it’s near impossible for a woman to orgasm. i do so by myself just fine. however, for others it’s like the vagina is this mystery puzzle organ that is so difficult to please. is it really that hard? if you actually listen to your partner when they say something feels good, it’s pretty easy to make them orgasm -on another note, sucking dick isn’t that easy. it’s a conscious effort not to throw up. so many things to be mindful of, like teeth. won’t even start on how bad come can taste. theres so many components to giving head. however, women do so just fine. if we can learn, why can’t men?",,25,sexcmamas123,1700951785.0 -PurplePillDebate,183pz62,Getting a roommate is better than a 50/50 man as a woman,"If a woman can’t attract a man who is willing to pay all or most of the bills it is just better to get a roommate. Preferably another woman. You get the benefit of sharing bills with someone without having to cook, clean, do laundry more than them and have mediocre sex with somebody you are not fully attracted to.",,38,ThrowRAsweeter,1700936633.0 +on another note, sucking dick isn’t that easy. it’s a conscious effort not to throw up. so many things to be mindful of, like teeth. won’t even start on how bad come can taste. theres so many components to giving head. however, women do so just fine. if we can learn, why can’t men?",,25,sexcmamas123,2023-11-25 22:36:25 +PurplePillDebate,183pz62,Getting a roommate is better than a 50/50 man as a woman,"If a woman can’t attract a man who is willing to pay all or most of the bills it is just better to get a roommate. Preferably another woman. You get the benefit of sharing bills with someone without having to cook, clean, do laundry more than them and have mediocre sex with somebody you are not fully attracted to.",,38,ThrowRAsweeter,2023-11-25 18:23:53 PurplePillDebate,184tplg,Conservative men's views will be their own undoing...,"I'm not conservative but in terms of politics I agree with ""them"" (that is the general voters, but not so much the parties) more if I has to choose between them or liberals. If a party wanted to be reducing immigration vs Trudeaus immigration levels I'd choose them. If I had to go all the other side compared to Trudeaus gun policy, I'd choose them. Anyways with that being said I've seen a lot of men jump on women who say there are no good men and assume they are libs. @@ -58505,7 +58505,7 @@ Politically I relate to conservatives. But dating? Not so much. men automatically assume I'm at a bar clubbing. I don't. I don't like clubbing. -Its just an observation but there are way more conservative friends of mine that complain men aren't good any more because they want conservative men. And yes they are hard core christian women who want the whole trad wife thing. Like I said. I relate to conservatives so many of my female friend are. But not the men.",,0,Logical_Round_5935,1701056739.0 +Its just an observation but there are way more conservative friends of mine that complain men aren't good any more because they want conservative men. And yes they are hard core christian women who want the whole trad wife thing. Like I said. I relate to conservatives so many of my female friend are. But not the men.",,0,Logical_Round_5935,2023-11-27 03:45:39 PurplePillDebate,183oetf,"What's your hot taking about dating? Something you believe based on things you've experienced, but would typically go against the grain of what people say here?","Title is essentially my question. I think men and women are very similar, but our circumstances are different. I would argue we're almost entirely the same despite one of us having a clitoris and the other a penis. We both want a partner we're attracted to. @@ -58524,7 +58524,7 @@ We both know if someone is bf/gf material very quickly. We both want someone we can share humor with. -Anytime I'm confused in the dating process I think ""well if the shoe were on the other foot, what would I do"" then their behavior makes sense. ""Yeah she's not interested because if she was I wouldn't be left on read on for 16 hours on her day off.""",,42,ConfectionLimp1114,1700932341.0 +Anytime I'm confused in the dating process I think ""well if the shoe were on the other foot, what would I do"" then their behavior makes sense. ""Yeah she's not interested because if she was I wouldn't be left on read on for 16 hours on her day off.""",,42,ConfectionLimp1114,2023-11-25 17:12:21 PurplePillDebate,183zqtg,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -58543,7 +58543,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,1700964009.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,6,AutoModerator,2023-11-26 02:00:09 PurplePillDebate,184wtgv,"I'm a man and I'll say it. Women overall have it harder than men, ESPECIALLY in dating.","Let me preface this by saying that the majority of men's and women's issues could be fixed by having healthy functional parents who are honest and pass real values. Real values are telling a boy from a young age that he need to be fit in order to be sexually appealing to a majority of women. @@ -58588,30 +58588,30 @@ most parents are failures when it comes to this and raise shit men and shit wome it doesn't matter if you have a shit load of options as a young woman if you haven't been taught and don't have the mental capacity to navigate them properly--- it is a parental failure which is what most of these issues come down to sadly -if a woman isn’t taught from a young age to reject concepts like pre-selection she is doomed from the start",,0,AFuzzyMuffin,1701067828.0 +if a woman isn’t taught from a young age to reject concepts like pre-selection she is doomed from the start",,0,AFuzzyMuffin,2023-11-27 06:50:28 PurplePillDebate,183q3bj,Asking men to stop putting women on a pedestal when they’re as lonely and deprived as they are is impossible and never going to happen,"There’s no doubt that the mass amount of simping and desperation from men is making the dating market significantly worse and harder, but until these men are given the attention they need, it’s never going to end. Asking them to stop is like showing up to a starving shelter with a limited amount of food and asking everyone to act civilized. Will never work -Any guy here that’s experienced years of loneliness understands how strong the feelings that you get with even the slightest amount of attention. People can call me an incel or whatever for saying that, but it’s the truth.",,26,XpHAHAman,1700936952.0 +Any guy here that’s experienced years of loneliness understands how strong the feelings that you get with even the slightest amount of attention. People can call me an incel or whatever for saying that, but it’s the truth.",,26,XpHAHAman,2023-11-25 18:29:12 PurplePillDebate,183ykss,Why alot women use sex in long term relationships like “weapon”?,"So, this happened with me in the past and i heard multiple married friends saying the same. Basically, if woman is mad at her partner for some reason, alot of times she will use lack of sex as weapon. Sometimes this will even be her first response, even before talking about the problem or trying to find solution. Sometimes to “gain” something the partner is not agreeing etc. Sounds like 1 side thing, i never heard married woman saying “my husband was mad at me and didn’t want sex” or “my husband was mad at me and didn’t pay the bills he normally pay”. -Why this happen?",,7,voidvoices,1700960485.0 +Why this happen?",,7,voidvoices,2023-11-26 01:01:25 PurplePillDebate,183xnet,The whole women want to use their 20s to concentrate on their careers seems like an excuse?,"It is often said here that a lot of women want to wait until their 30s until they try their shot at a serious relationship because in their 20s they want to concentrate on college and their career. -However, my gf is in her 20s and in college, and she has time for a bf just fine. So I wonder if this is actually the case therefore with most, unless it really is for most college and career paths? Or if this is not the reason, what is the real reason women say this in order to put off serious relationships until their 30s?",,6,harmonica2,1700957767.0 +However, my gf is in her 20s and in college, and she has time for a bf just fine. So I wonder if this is actually the case therefore with most, unless it really is for most college and career paths? Or if this is not the reason, what is the real reason women say this in order to put off serious relationships until their 30s?",,6,harmonica2,2023-11-26 00:16:07 PurplePillDebate,183ddj8,Men lowering their standards didn’t widen the dating pool so stop doing it.,"Men have often been much looser on standards because of the need to “cast a wide net” as this will allow them to have “options”. This is a false choice in the current dating market. Mens forgiveness of certain traits (being overweight, dressing provocatively, high body count, etc) has not given you more options today because these allowances have enabled women to not see them as shortcomings but as something to embrace. And slowly a new bare minimum is born. -Men, by overlooking qualities in women they are uncomfortable with, are not giving themselves options but making it harder for the next man entering the dating market by instilling a low quality pathology in women knowing good quality men are willing to endure it to enter a relationship. Men need to be disciplined and remain single if their standards are not being met. Yes it’s harder that generations before us but someone needs to correct the market and it might as well start today!",,146,StrugglingRando,1700893299.0 +Men, by overlooking qualities in women they are uncomfortable with, are not giving themselves options but making it harder for the next man entering the dating market by instilling a low quality pathology in women knowing good quality men are willing to endure it to enter a relationship. Men need to be disciplined and remain single if their standards are not being met. Yes it’s harder that generations before us but someone needs to correct the market and it might as well start today!",,146,StrugglingRando,2023-11-25 06:21:39 PurplePillDebate,183kf7m,"Can we just avoid ""but we have it worse""?","Men have issues in dating and in modern society in general. Women have their own issues, problems growing from old patriarchy and some modern. We have different issues. It makes it impossible to compare them objectively. But it is not necessary to know who has it worse. Recognizing woes of each other is a good first step towards improving the situation. -Can we just avoid ""systemic sexism is one way"", ""women can't be lonely because they have lots of matches"" and other oppression olympics? Let's be empathetic to each others issues and not compare the woes.",,32,WanabeInflatable,1700921021.0 +Can we just avoid ""systemic sexism is one way"", ""women can't be lonely because they have lots of matches"" and other oppression olympics? Let's be empathetic to each others issues and not compare the woes.",,32,WanabeInflatable,2023-11-25 14:03:41 PurplePillDebate,183umdu,If women feel they work too much its because sometimes they burden themselves,"OK. Usually I post about what is wrong about discourse that is common on both sides. But I feel this is more of a woman's issue. Just my experience but I'm a pretty chill woman. Yet many other women I've been with including my mom and my sister seem to have this weird mentality that they have to do the dishes etc @@ -58620,19 +58620,19 @@ You don't have to. You don't have to clean up after your man. If he calls you pe I just truly don't understand women claiming they were ""forced to clean up after their man"" -No one pointed a gun to your head. Do the dishes. Tell him, next time you do it. If he doesn't there is no next time. Those frustrations only happen becusse you keep letting it happen",,7,Logical_Round_5935,1700949317.0 +No one pointed a gun to your head. Do the dishes. Tell him, next time you do it. If he doesn't there is no next time. Those frustrations only happen becusse you keep letting it happen",,7,Logical_Round_5935,2023-11-25 21:55:17 PurplePillDebate,183sicr,The Bottom Line,"For me, a girl having done sex work, OF, etc., high body count isn’t an automatic dealbreaker. I’ve been in long term relationships where the girl has had a history and it didn’t bother me that much. She was open about it and I appreciated it. Another hot take is that lying isn’t an automatic dealbreaker for me. My bottom line is lack of self awareness. Someone could be squeaky clean trad wife type but without a certain (pretty high) amount of self awareness I won’t take someone seriously, full stop. -So for other guys with atypical bottom lines, what are yours and why?",,8,strokesfan1998,1700943515.0 +So for other guys with atypical bottom lines, what are yours and why?",,8,strokesfan1998,2023-11-25 20:18:35 PurplePillDebate,184p9kp,Women benefit from porn way more than men do,"Porn has many benefits for women: 1. Their partners don't need to be frustrated if she is not on the mood. They can just j\*rk off to porn. 2. Some women say that porn creates false expectations on men, but actually it is just the opposite... porn can complete the gap between reality and expectations. For example, men can watch porn while fucking their wives. That is why women are getting fatter and fatter and yet have no issues getting men in the age of porn, since men are OK because porn fills the gap. 3. Women that choose OnlyFans or become porn actresses can make good money. This means they pay taxes, can raise their kids, live a comfortable life, etc. 4. Sexually frustrated men can release themselves without bothering women. -5. Women can watch porn too!",,0,EuphoricBrightTipper,1701043843.0 +5. Women can watch porn too!",,0,EuphoricBrightTipper,2023-11-27 00:10:43 PurplePillDebate,183q962,Prostitution should be legalized.,"I am not here to make the argument that legalizing sexwork would erode the significance and influence of women's pussy cartel. I am simply interested in achieving more good. Legalization allows them to unionize and apply for 401k and health insurance. It allows them the ability to seek legal aid an protection. Now it could be that an app comes along that begins jacking up prices like an online pimp but that can be taken care of by legislation hopefully. @@ -58652,7 +58652,7 @@ My counter to that is ""military. I am making a one to one comparison in terms o -IF in-spite of these demerits being a soldier is legal. There is no reason why prostitution shouldn't be legalised",,8,AdEffective7894s,1700937383.0 +IF in-spite of these demerits being a soldier is legal. There is no reason why prostitution shouldn't be legalised",,8,AdEffective7894s,2023-11-25 18:36:23 PurplePillDebate,1843s38,CMV: the Blue Pill/Beta Bux strategy is the best strategy for the vast majority of men,"For this, we will assume that the main goal of the majority of men in the dating market is to get the highest quality partner for a relationship and starting/raising a family. The index of female desirability is looks, youth, and femininity. @@ -58677,14 +58677,14 @@ So *for those men* it makes total sense to utilize a red pill strategy and just The path to the highest quality mate is the blue pill/beta strategy. -&#x200B;",,0,SeveralLiterature980,1700977426.0 +&#x200B;",,0,SeveralLiterature980,2023-11-26 05:43:46 PurplePillDebate,183o4az,N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD,"&#x200B; [Please Join Us on Discord!](https://discord.gg/3aHh4trC7B) Include your reddit username, pill color, age and gender when you arrive in the welcome mat to introduce yourself and help people get to know you. &#x200B; -You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,3,AutoModerator,1700931615.0 +You can also find Mrs\_Drgree on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree) for notifications on when good threads are posted.",,3,AutoModerator,2023-11-25 17:00:15 PurplePillDebate,183enjb,Does demonization of sexuality affect you?,"Demonization of female sexuality is a very old traditional thing, now it is called slutshaming. Women are supposed to be pure and even here many men demand women to have a low number of partners. Slutshaming is horrible and there is a lot of criticism of it. Expressing such views in public is going to have negative consequences for a man. Demonization of male sexuality is different. Men are not shamed for having sex, sometimes on the opposite. I think, thats why many women claim that male sexuality is not demonized but celebrated. @@ -58699,7 +58699,7 @@ Interesting article about demonization of male sexuality: https://medium.com/wtf-moments/a-womens-sexual-desire-is-glorified-and-a-man-s-is-demonized-4e7867e9c5fc -Though, how much it really affects your life? Do you have any real experience and examples of being shamed for sexuality?",,20,WanabeInflatable,1700898488.0 +Though, how much it really affects your life? Do you have any real experience and examples of being shamed for sexuality?",,20,WanabeInflatable,2023-11-25 07:48:08 PurplePillDebate,1833edk,Loneliness has nothing to do with gender,"I recognise that male loneliness is a issue but I'm also sick of watching people act like women are not also suffering from this loneliness epidemic. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UbGZaGzWdfs&t=318s&ab\_channel=HealthyGamerGG](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UbGZaGzWdfs&t=318s&ab_channel=HealthyGamerGG) @@ -58712,7 +58712,7 @@ I think this video really sums up what I want to say, but more important are the ""This one really hit hard. I'm a 23 year old woman, and I haven't had a single friend IRL since I was in middle school. Crippling social anxiety and autistic. All I've done for years is work and come home and waste my time away gaming. Any time I've tried to open up to someone about how isolated and empty I feel, they don't believe it. It also doesn't help that I am asexual, so when the only attention I get is the sexual advances from men, it leaves me feeling even more empty. After so many years of being in my room I feel like it's impossible for me to make a human connection anymore."" -A lot of men try to dismiss female loneliness with the stupid point of ""Uh bu-t-t-t you can sle-e-p with as many guys as you want""-🤓 Being wanted for nothing more then sex does not make you feel better in any shape way or form. Some men literally fuck holes in their bed, being used for sex does not mean ANYTHING if that is the only thing people are interested in you for. Sex without love is nothing more then masturbating with some extra steps, it means NOTHING. ",,63,Economy-House171,1700863322.0 +A lot of men try to dismiss female loneliness with the stupid point of ""Uh bu-t-t-t you can sle-e-p with as many guys as you want""-🤓 Being wanted for nothing more then sex does not make you feel better in any shape way or form. Some men literally fuck holes in their bed, being used for sex does not mean ANYTHING if that is the only thing people are interested in you for. Sex without love is nothing more then masturbating with some extra steps, it means NOTHING. ",,63,Economy-House171,2023-11-24 22:02:02 PurplePillDebate,182zuqg,Why are so many women like this?,"Scrolling Reddit and per usual, I notice the general trend of the typical hypocritical double standards coming from a lot of women when it comes to dating: @@ -58721,12 +58721,12 @@ PurplePillDebate,182zuqg,Why are so many women like this?,"Scrolling Reddit and 2. Also many of these same women: If you are a man and you have used/purchased ОϜ, then I will not date you. If we are in a relationship and you pay for ОϜ, you are basically chеatіng by giving her that kind of attention and paying and seeing her body. Basically: “Like, ОϜ is ok and women should be able to do what they want, but I wouldn’t date you, even though I would call you a ѕехist if the genders and roles were reversed and you were an ОϜ girl and I was a guy”. -Bonus: Why does Reddit (and society at large) usually allow carte blanch for women to generalize men and say hаteful things about them, but if men do the same about women it’s considered hаte speech and people get bаnned or condemned and even jоbs may be lost?",,87,shanshkrishur,1700853898.0 +Bonus: Why does Reddit (and society at large) usually allow carte blanch for women to generalize men and say hаteful things about them, but if men do the same about women it’s considered hаte speech and people get bаnned or condemned and even jоbs may be lost?",,87,shanshkrishur,2023-11-24 19:24:58 PurplePillDebate,182sda4,The thing women don't understand is that there are millions of eligible women out there and a lot of guys can't get ONE (1) girlfriend.,"most of the time it isn't men complaining about not having access to one-night stands. They are literal virgins, or single men going through long periods without any romantic intimacy at all -- think about how absurd it is for so many guys to be unable to land a single date at otherwise a 50/50 gender ratio? There are millions of eligible women out there and a lot of men can't get ONE (1) girlfriend. Not a threesome, just one girl to go out with them. Even online: out of the hundreds of women who they swipe right on it often times doesn't result in a single match, not one girl has thought ""I want to be that guys partner"". -And what do the women do? Tell men to constantly ""improve"" as inadvertedly implying there really is not eniugh to be an average bloke these days. Give them advice, often times completely contradictory; talk to women as people, but make your intentions clear from the get-go, just not too soon because she'll only think you want to put your dick in her, so you need to built rapport first, but don't you even try using this to weasel in her pants that way because that what ""Nice guys"" do and women hate it.",,221,Napo_De_Leone,1700833355.0 +And what do the women do? Tell men to constantly ""improve"" as inadvertedly implying there really is not eniugh to be an average bloke these days. Give them advice, often times completely contradictory; talk to women as people, but make your intentions clear from the get-go, just not too soon because she'll only think you want to put your dick in her, so you need to built rapport first, but don't you even try using this to weasel in her pants that way because that what ""Nice guys"" do and women hate it.",,221,Napo_De_Leone,2023-11-24 13:42:35 PurplePillDebate,183wk0j,"Are higher fertility women harder to have sex with, for anybody?","https://www.medicaldaily.com/science-reveals-mens-ideal-female-breast-size-linked-relatively-high-estrogen-407599 I just realized women with low waist to hip and larger boobs are more likely to get pregnant from sex. Now, the foundation of male attraction is the woman getting pregnant. Our goal is to get you pregnant. Alternatively, getting pregnant is the woman's worst nightmare. This defines why the sexes naturally dislike each other when it comes to casual sex. @@ -58737,7 +58737,7 @@ So my theory is that women with higher body counts have lower fertility levels. So my theory is that they just get pregnant faster than other women and have to stop hooking up to be a good mom, or, they are way harder to get to consent to sex because their fertility causes them to avoid it more and pick out rare guys they deem worthy of themselves. -This adds up to the phenomena of women becoming more sexually active in their 30's when fertility levels are declining. As they probably feel at ease with less pressure to worry about getting pregnant. So the theory goes, the less she has to worry about the higher her body count will be. The more she has to worry about, the more she will only have sex with someone she wouldn't mind if she got pregnant with. Interestingly this can also explain why men dislike high body counts. Perhaps it is a sign that she is infertile if she has high bodycounts and no kids.",,0,Gundam_net,1700954555.0 +This adds up to the phenomena of women becoming more sexually active in their 30's when fertility levels are declining. As they probably feel at ease with less pressure to worry about getting pregnant. So the theory goes, the less she has to worry about the higher her body count will be. The more she has to worry about, the more she will only have sex with someone she wouldn't mind if she got pregnant with. Interestingly this can also explain why men dislike high body counts. Perhaps it is a sign that she is infertile if she has high bodycounts and no kids.",,0,Gundam_net,2023-11-25 23:22:35 PurplePillDebate,183oa2r,CMV: You can still act entitled without saying you feel entitled.,"Actions speak louder than words. In this case, attitude speaks louder than words. It’s one thing to get sad or disappointed, but when the complaints become about finger pointing, it’s a sign of entitlement. Don’t act like society and people not giving you what you want is an injustice. @@ -58765,19 +58765,19 @@ Now let’s address a typical responses: “But when guys have standards/preferences, people hate it.” Two reasons. First, because you guys can’t be quiet about it. You compel yourself to be vocal jackasses about it. [Very few people would have cared that this guy didn’t find Emily Clark attractive if he wasn’t attempting to publicly shame her for aging.] (https://twitter.com/MillerStream/status/1629904921863798784) Second, because you guys are throwing a hissy fit over not getting what you want, which is a sign of entitlement. Most people don’t feel compelled to talk shit about people they don’t find attractive (unless it’s a negative personality trait). -“But when can talk shit about guys they find unattractive and get away with it.”Then find me a popular tweet/post/video of a woman saying terrible shallow things about guys and getting praised by the majority of people. Every time I saw a viral tweet from some height queen, it gets ratio’d with people calling her a bitch. And if talking shit about guys’ height is common behavior for the women in your life, it’s time to ask yourself why do you gravitate towards women like that. My guess is those height queens are attractive.",,0,LillthOfBabylon,1700932013.0 +“But when can talk shit about guys they find unattractive and get away with it.”Then find me a popular tweet/post/video of a woman saying terrible shallow things about guys and getting praised by the majority of people. Every time I saw a viral tweet from some height queen, it gets ratio’d with people calling her a bitch. And if talking shit about guys’ height is common behavior for the women in your life, it’s time to ask yourself why do you gravitate towards women like that. My guess is those height queens are attractive.",,0,LillthOfBabylon,2023-11-25 17:06:53 PurplePillDebate,182qx6p,The one factor that ruins many marriages that we're apparently not allowed to discuss: children,"For every couple I know , their relationship took a nosedive after they had a child. Suddenly you have a little human that requires almost constant care and attention until they're at least 5 year old. Many babies literally scream if mom tries to put them down for a minute. Many babies literally can't sleep unless a parent is holding them. Yet people wonder why sex doesn't happen anymore. If the couple survives the first five years then it usually gets better. But that's a big if. Despite children drastically changing the relationship dynamic, I almost never see TRP discuss them as a possible reason for the breakdown of the marriage. I think there are two possible reasons for this : 1) TRPillers are men so they are not the primary caregiver. This leads them to underestimate the attention that a baby might require. -2) TRPillers tend to be right-leaning and the right romanticizes children and parenthood to an absurd degree. Therefore, nobody is allowed to point out the obvious hardships of taking care of a baby/toddler.",,128,Novel-Tip-7570,1700828463.0 +2) TRPillers tend to be right-leaning and the right romanticizes children and parenthood to an absurd degree. Therefore, nobody is allowed to point out the obvious hardships of taking care of a baby/toddler.",,128,Novel-Tip-7570,2023-11-24 12:21:03 PurplePillDebate,1838bmk,"If women are attracted to the more party animal type of guys, can guys be like that to attract women?","I was asked by my guy friend what I have done to get dates and get a gf, in order to help him out. I then asked my gf and a couple of women friends in the group, what helps me. They said that it was because I am just a part animal and I have so much energy compared to other guys, but also because I am more assertive compared to other guys as well. That and I try to stay in shape too, despite being a party animal. -However, if this is what a good amount of women are attracted to, could other guys be this way, in order to get more dates if that is a good strategy?",,6,harmonica2,1700876658.0 +However, if this is what a good amount of women are attracted to, could other guys be this way, in order to get more dates if that is a good strategy?",,6,harmonica2,2023-11-25 01:44:18 PurplePillDebate,1837ef3,Daily Community Chat Megathread,"This daily thread is designed to be a place for all the funny discussions on PPD. Feel free to post off-topic questions, information, points-of-view, etc... in this thread. @@ -58796,7 +58796,7 @@ If you'd like to see our previous daily threads, [click here](https://www.reddit &#x200B; -Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,1700874014.0 +Also find us on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree)!",,8,AutoModerator,2023-11-25 01:00:14 PurplePillDebate,182xtlw,Average and Just below average men are having a hard time because women are super pragmatic.,"(this is more true as women get older - as they get more jaded a relationship for its own sake is pointless to them.) You know how women say, that men are competing with the solitude they have without us in their lives.... It's not like our presence is some terrible thing. @@ -58811,7 +58811,7 @@ They want an 'equal' relationship of course but with a guy who makes the inves The average man is not terrible. The average relationship is too tedious and the average woman is just too opportunistic for that. -And a below average guy? lol. I guess men like me should just give up and buy an only-fans subscription where they can buy the creator a sex swing so that at least then they can be involved in 'a' sex life",,26,AdEffective7894s,1700848459.0 +And a below average guy? lol. I guess men like me should just give up and buy an only-fans subscription where they can buy the creator a sex swing so that at least then they can be involved in 'a' sex life",,26,AdEffective7894s,2023-11-24 17:54:19 PurplePillDebate,183190y,are women doing okay?,"So most discussions on this sub (or frankly, most internet forums) evolve around “men need help”, “men suck” and “women suck” - but really, things like the collective mental health of women, the strain modern life has on them and so on isn’t brought up often, and when it is its usually berated with “lol you wanted equality well that’s what you get” or women sometimes even deflecting these issues. @@ -58826,7 +58826,7 @@ I think the first step is most women need to accept that as things become more e -So yeah, everyone is in pain, everybody's struggling - there is no point in self victimization, resentment or intense deflection.",,10,KayRay1994,1700857678.0 +So yeah, everyone is in pain, everybody's struggling - there is no point in self victimization, resentment or intense deflection.",,10,KayRay1994,2023-11-24 20:27:58 PurplePillDebate,182ve4d,Undesirable people today are treated as poor working people in Victorian times,"In Victorian times there were very well established social classes based on noble lines, but mainly on wealth and growth. They were early modern times, where everything was started to be invented, so many new rich people and inventions were popping and the wealth inequality was rampant. This also created a very toxic attitude toward poor people ""you are only poor because you choose to"", was probably the most common belief, and so was the belief that even children should be working. In Medieval times at least being poor was associated with where you were born, but in Victorian times it was associated with pure merit. @@ -58841,7 +58841,7 @@ In retrospective, the Victorian view of the poor made more sense than judging pe Maybe humans cannot exist without an underdog, be it ethnic, wealth or looks. -**TLDR**: Undesirable people are the new underdog class, akin to how Victorians used to treat and demonize poor people.",,26,EuphoricBrightTipper,1700841902.0 +**TLDR**: Undesirable people are the new underdog class, akin to how Victorians used to treat and demonize poor people.",,26,EuphoricBrightTipper,2023-11-24 16:05:02 PurplePillDebate,183kxg2,Wives are worth at least $30 million,"Based on this judgement, wives participating in marriage as business partners are worth $20 million just for showing up and $10 million tangibly which sounds like the money men spend on them. https://www.wral.com/news/local/story/9270098/ @@ -58850,8 +58850,8 @@ It sounds like women are worth twice as much as is spent on them, in general as A woman showing up and/or sharing her body is worthy of punitive damages. Men sue other men for money over women sharing their feminine energy. As long as men can sue other men for a woman sharing herself in any way, men and women are not equal unless women can also sue for the same alienation of husbands and win the same punitive and tangible judgements. This is similar to the idea of women being paid the same amount as men. -Does anyone have an example of a woman suing another women for large amounts of money for the alienation of her husband? I would like to see if men ever have worth for just showing up, how much they are worth and what kind of men those are",,0,meme-block,1700922600.0 -PurplePillDebate,183cz2m,Discussion: What are your thoughts on the popularity of Femboys on Twitch?,"Since this is a ""neutral community to discuss sex and gender issues,"" I am curious to hear your thoughts on the popularity of Femboy streamers, such as F1NN5TER and FemboyUK, on Twitch. They have a high viewership, subscribers, and have a lot of followers on Twitch. ",,0,[deleted],1700891863.0 +Does anyone have an example of a woman suing another women for large amounts of money for the alienation of her husband? I would like to see if men ever have worth for just showing up, how much they are worth and what kind of men those are",,0,meme-block,2023-11-25 14:30:00 +PurplePillDebate,183cz2m,Discussion: What are your thoughts on the popularity of Femboys on Twitch?,"Since this is a ""neutral community to discuss sex and gender issues,"" I am curious to hear your thoughts on the popularity of Femboy streamers, such as F1NN5TER and FemboyUK, on Twitch. They have a high viewership, subscribers, and have a lot of followers on Twitch. ",,0,[deleted],2023-11-25 05:57:43 PurplePillDebate,1837tle,Do red pill people switch back to blue pill ?,"Title Do red pill users ever switch back to blue pill at a point ? @@ -58864,7 +58864,7 @@ Same question reversed How many red pills can understand why blue pill is taken // can they see themselves taking it in a different scenario. -Cheers.",,0,Grouchy_Cookie_7813,1700875218.0 +Cheers.",,0,Grouchy_Cookie_7813,2023-11-25 01:20:18 PurplePillDebate,182q051,Where are the impartial women?,"In browsing this subreddit, I seem to find 3 groups of people - 1. Incels/Mysogynists - Women are always evil, Men are always victims, etc. @@ -58873,7 +58873,7 @@ PurplePillDebate,182q051,Where are the impartial women?,"In browsing this subred What I cannot seem to find is the Impartial Women. Rarely if ever do I see a woman critiquing other women. Surely women cannot ALWAYS be in the right - us men certainly aren't. -My assumption is that there are enough men here to support groups 1 and 3 but not enough women to allow for a contingent of neutral women to solidify.",,11,Im_Unsure_For_Sure,1700824960.0 +My assumption is that there are enough men here to support groups 1 and 3 but not enough women to allow for a contingent of neutral women to solidify.",,11,Im_Unsure_For_Sure,2023-11-24 11:22:40 PurplePillDebate,182wyzt,The “men should be able to cheat” argument…,"I see this dumb argument circling the X sphere and it’s not the first time. Let’s put biology aside, because the hardwiring is what it is and just because there is genetic gap and we have not evolved for modern times/tech doesn’t mean it gives one the ability to cheat recklessly. @@ -58884,15 +58884,15 @@ This line of thinking is stupid, however I think it is worth noting where the id Cheating entails two factors: availability and cause. Let’s focus on the former to connect to the latter. Majority of men have access to few sexual options and this likely becomes fewer through the lens of a marriage because (one would think) women don’t want to be home wreckers. -So cause. Wouldn’t a better notion be that a man (and woman, for that matter) should never be in a position in a relationship where cheating is a viable alternative? Again, morality is aside, so saying “well no one should ever cheat” is not a viable response. If you are ensuring that your wife/husband/significant other is sexually satisfied, then wouldn’t this then be the number one way to curtail any potential cheating? Why is this never cited or pointed to in the context of such a problem? Or is the assumption that asking any questions regarding such a scenario is not allowed?",,1,No-Rough-7390,1700846120.0 +So cause. Wouldn’t a better notion be that a man (and woman, for that matter) should never be in a position in a relationship where cheating is a viable alternative? Again, morality is aside, so saying “well no one should ever cheat” is not a viable response. If you are ensuring that your wife/husband/significant other is sexually satisfied, then wouldn’t this then be the number one way to curtail any potential cheating? Why is this never cited or pointed to in the context of such a problem? Or is the assumption that asking any questions regarding such a scenario is not allowed?",,1,No-Rough-7390,2023-11-24 17:15:20 PurplePillDebate,1828ara,Just rewatched Forrest Gump and it made me think about dating a lot,"I watched Forrest Gump a good amount when I was younger but hadn’t seen it in years and watched it again the other day. I know it’s just a movie but the treatment Forrest got from Jenny is not dissimilar to what happens to some men in dating. Throughout the film, Forrest goes from being a kid, to playing college football, to serving in the Vietnam War and winning the medal of honor, earning ping pong sponsorships and much more. Throughout all his accomplishments, he never forgets Jenny and pursues here wherever he is, despite her not reciprocating. While Forrest is out, Jenny is getting with other guys and doing drugs and eventually gets AIDS. It is only when she has a kid and has the virus when she comes running back to Forrest begging for his companionship because she has already lived her life and wanted to leave him with the kid. Eventually she dies and Forrest is left with the kid who may or may not even be from him and may or may not have AIDS. Basically he let her walk all over him, he can’t let her go and never once in the film is Jenny officially his girl. -So with that being said it basically demonstrates being a guy who gets walked over, submits and constantly seeks approval despise Forrest being an accomplished man. It is interesting seeing movies where it doesn’t work out in the typical fairy tale way where everything works out and in that regard I find it realistic. Obviously as I said it is just a movie, but it does show the importance of being respected as a man and how hurtful it can be to be overly pursuant and submissive.",,87,zynandcoffee,1700765928.0 +So with that being said it basically demonstrates being a guy who gets walked over, submits and constantly seeks approval despise Forrest being an accomplished man. It is interesting seeing movies where it doesn’t work out in the typical fairy tale way where everything works out and in that regard I find it realistic. Obviously as I said it is just a movie, but it does show the importance of being respected as a man and how hurtful it can be to be overly pursuant and submissive.",,87,zynandcoffee,2023-11-23 18:58:48 PurplePillDebate,1825kai,"""Treat women as human beings""","First of all, that statement is insulting. Not only does it assume that you are some sort of monster towards women, but it also assumes that you are doing it consciously. Second, it assumes that men treat each other so much better than they do women. But let's think about that for one second, by what metric do men treat each other better than women?... Because a few men hold most of the power in the world? Because those men decide to pass down their power to people like them, i.e. their family/friends/etc.? Rich people stay rich after all. But, by those metrics?... Because I have a lot of stats and history that says otherwise. The only time I could see this statement making some sort of sense is when someone is being awkward, or nervous, with the women they like. But isn't that normal? Why is it so weird for women that a man may be nervous to speak to them? I get it, ""women like confidence."" I don't agree with that though... at the very least, not completely. Women like to think their bf/husband/partner is confident, but the amount of those who show massive insecurities and red flags is astounding. And those things aren't hidden or a surprise to the women they are in a relationship with. They just lie to themselves. -It is ironic that the stereotype of ""thinking with our dicks"" is only attributed to men, when women do just about the same. Aren't we equal/the same after all?",,105,UpstairsAd1235,1700758605.0 -PurplePillDebate,182stqo,How Important Do You Think Your Romantic Life is to Your Happiness?,"For me, it is somewhat important, but not too important. I have other goals, such as becoming a software engineer, and publishing a novel that are more important. Overall, what would you rank as more important: your love life or your career?",,1,yuriw99,1700834693.0 +It is ironic that the stereotype of ""thinking with our dicks"" is only attributed to men, when women do just about the same. Aren't we equal/the same after all?",,105,UpstairsAd1235,2023-11-23 16:56:45 +PurplePillDebate,182stqo,How Important Do You Think Your Romantic Life is to Your Happiness?,"For me, it is somewhat important, but not too important. I have other goals, such as becoming a software engineer, and publishing a novel that are more important. Overall, what would you rank as more important: your love life or your career?",,1,yuriw99,2023-11-24 14:04:53 PurplePillDebate,182divy,"Do you think you are more judgemental of your own sex, or the opposite sex, and why?","I had a moment of introspection today while discussing with one woman, which women I liked in our friend/acquaintance group and why. I realized that women have to do something pretty abrasive for me to not like them. Otherwise I generally like them and have something about each of their personalities that I appreciate. Most are rather friendly to me as a default. @@ -58917,7 +58917,7 @@ ETA; 2. I'm mildly surprised by the variety of answers here, it's fascinating to see all of your POVs. I appreciate the participation. -3. Apologies if any of my responses seem presumptuous, they're meant to just draw out more detail and try to relate.",,14,Fun_Push7168,1700780974.0 +3. Apologies if any of my responses seem presumptuous, they're meant to just draw out more detail and try to relate.",,14,Fun_Push7168,2023-11-23 23:09:34 PurplePillDebate,182bfus,cock blocking your friends against their wishes,"I saw this TikTok video, and I got to thinking about how often it is that people cock block each other. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8yCEjaR/ @@ -58928,7 +58928,7 @@ I'm curious what your thoughts are on this type of behavior. Why would you do this to your friend? -Edit: I'm not suggesting this is a ""huge deal""",,18,Windmill_flowers,1700774982.0 +Edit: I'm not suggesting this is a ""huge deal""",,18,Windmill_flowers,2023-11-23 21:29:42 PurplePillDebate,17yb0wo,The best city for dating men,"According to severals sources, New York City is the wealthiest city in the world with more than 300 000 millionaires living there. We know that women look for financially successful men for relationship. @@ -58939,14 +58939,14 @@ Lets actually dig deeper. The USA is the wealthiest country with the most millionnaires. -As a woman if you can't get a rich man in the wealthiest country, you won't get a rich men anywhere.",,13,Otherwise_Possible2,1700327566.0 +As a woman if you can't get a rich man in the wealthiest country, you won't get a rich men anywhere.",,13,Otherwise_Possible2,2023-11-18 17:12:46 PurplePillDebate,17pdn33,An appeal.,"Please mods, dispense with this horrible idea that you must be appropriately flaired to comment. Half the threads are virtually unreadable with pages and pages of Automod's sterile ""You must be appropriately flaired..."" littering the thread. -How am I supposed to get my daily trainwreck fix with that going on? ;)",,90,Bikerbats,1699306139.0 +How am I supposed to get my daily trainwreck fix with that going on? ;)",,90,Bikerbats,2023-11-06 21:28:59 RedPillWives,1aghos3,How do I find male supportive marriage counseling?,"wise naughty smoggy coordinated doll enjoy plucky berserk sort dazzling - *This post was mass deleted and anonymized with [Redact](https://redact.dev)*",,8,FuriousBugger,1706811687.0 -RedPillWives,1ag9l4s,How to have an emotional connection?,"Well my last post was wildly judged, so I'll try a different route. I (38f) want an emotional connection with my husband (39m); honesty, communication, vulnerability, etc. He says he wants that now (not quite two months into attempted reconciliation), but that previously an emotional connection never occurred to him. He said previously his ideal perception of marriage was sex and no fighting. My concern is that if I do all the things recommended I'll never get an emotional connection because he will be getting that ideal marriage. Important to mention he is severely avoidant and has intense difficulty with emotions. He has been able to get used to it with his sponsor, counselor, and support group, but he says its because they always encourage him and provide affirmation even when he is wildly in the wrong. I don't really know how to encourage him and make him feel good about when he hurts me, so I definitely feel like I'll never reach the level they are at. I would appreciate advice vs judgement please.",,3,Few-Laugh-6508,1706789568.0 + *This post was mass deleted and anonymized with [Redact](https://redact.dev)*",,8,FuriousBugger,2024-02-01 18:21:27 +RedPillWives,1ag9l4s,How to have an emotional connection?,"Well my last post was wildly judged, so I'll try a different route. I (38f) want an emotional connection with my husband (39m); honesty, communication, vulnerability, etc. He says he wants that now (not quite two months into attempted reconciliation), but that previously an emotional connection never occurred to him. He said previously his ideal perception of marriage was sex and no fighting. My concern is that if I do all the things recommended I'll never get an emotional connection because he will be getting that ideal marriage. Important to mention he is severely avoidant and has intense difficulty with emotions. He has been able to get used to it with his sponsor, counselor, and support group, but he says its because they always encourage him and provide affirmation even when he is wildly in the wrong. I don't really know how to encourage him and make him feel good about when he hurts me, so I definitely feel like I'll never reach the level they are at. I would appreciate advice vs judgement please.",,3,Few-Laugh-6508,2024-02-01 12:12:48 RedPillWives,1afytk0,Struggling with dating a high value man.,"I (23F) have been with my boyfriend (34M) for about 2 1/2 years. I would say overall we work really well together and we have the same goals of settling down and having a family. We have lived together for most of our relationship and have a dog and a couple cats! We both also like to have fun and let loose, and I would say we’re (for the most part) sexually compatible. I am new to RPW (like today lol) and the RP methodology in general, my boyfriend is the one who first introduced me to everything. I did not classify myself as a feminist before I met him, but I also did not entirely fit in with “traditional” values either. @@ -58971,7 +58971,7 @@ I’ve talked to my boyfriend about this before and he reassured me that I’m d He has such high standards and expectations for himself and everyone around him, and everyday I feel less and less capable of meeting them. -What can I do besides giving up my dreams? Is there anyone here who has gone through something similar?",,7,LostPlant,1706750953.0 +What can I do besides giving up my dreams? Is there anyone here who has gone through something similar?",,7,LostPlant,2024-02-01 01:29:13 RedPillWives,1afbrxo,I need to forgive his sexual past but don't know how. *Cross posted*,"Edited to add: it was mutually agreed upon that relationships during separation were permissible as part of the legal separation. My (38f) husband (39m) previously had a porn addiction and has been in recovery a little over a year. We separated a few months ago because of his addiction and his constant lying. He finally wanted to change after I slept with someone else and he realized I really would leave. Married 15yr, together 17yr. @@ -58982,12 +58982,12 @@ Here is the issue; he is showing me he really is sorry, but I can't accept it be He says that doesn't matter anymore, that he loves me and never wants to risk losing me again. I want to believe him, but I don't know how. I can't go out in public with him because its too much. I get enraged every time I see a woman that fits his ideal. Also important to the story...we have amazing sex, but I am the high libido partner. He was high libido when it was porn/lust, but is lower when its just me. His isn't low per se, but once or twice a week doesn't bother him in the least. Yes all his levels have been checked and are fine. Yes I have done everything possible to make sure the sex is amazing for him. -How do I even reconcile if I can't move on? How do you move on from this?",,7,Few-Laugh-6508,1706684094.0 +How do I even reconcile if I can't move on? How do you move on from this?",,7,Few-Laugh-6508,2024-01-31 06:54:54 RedPillWives,1afctmc,Struggling to be a good wife while trying to be a good mum?,"So I have a 1.5 year old and I'm a FTM. I've noticed that I have tunnel vision about baby and throughout the day, even while at work (part time for now) I'm thinking about baby, all the time. She is my #1 priority and we have a great little bond. I can tell husband feels a little neglected and I really don't blame him. I just find it very hard to get out of mum mode and into wife mode. I barely have any energy at the end of the day left for him or us. I want to eat, tidy up, watch something silly on YT and go to sleep. -Any tips on how to get out of mum mode and into wife mode?",,2,cyprushomemaking,1706688192.0 +Any tips on how to get out of mum mode and into wife mode?",,2,cyprushomemaking,2024-01-31 08:03:12 RedPillWives,1ablrgm,I’m so tired of being stuck,"My [30F] boyfriend/fiance [26M, let’s call him M] have been together for a 6+ years. We kind of stumbled together when I was looking for someone to move in and share the bills. We had met about 5 months earlier, became sexually actively and hung out so much that when he offered to move in, it made sense (at the time). He was 20 years old and moved from a house of a bunch of guys. He had never been in a serious relationship and was overall very “green” in life. My relationship that ended before him was with a much older, physically abusive guy so when I met M, he was a breath of fresh air. He was so kind, the sweetest guy I ever met. We became close. About a month or two in, I realized that he kept coming up late on his portion of rent. It immediately infuriated me. I grew up very independent and responsible so I couldn’t understand why he couldn’t get his sh*t together. I grew very annoyed and became turned off. So much so, that I told him I want to start making myself available for other men. I told him I wanted an open relationship (in hindsight, I should have broken things completely off. But I was stupid and trying to find a “better” solution). He agreed to it. @@ -59012,7 +59012,7 @@ TL DR - Would I be a cop out for leaving a man who would give me the world if he It’s very hard to sum up our crazy relationship in a paragraph but I tried my best. Feel free to ask more questions if more context is needed. -Any advise, insight, stories are welcome. I just ask that you all don’t be unnecessarily rude. Thank you.",,9,[deleted],1706285101.0 +Any advise, insight, stories are welcome. I just ask that you all don’t be unnecessarily rude. Thank you.",,9,[deleted],2024-01-26 16:05:01 RedPillWives,198vwu9,Coping with the past,"For context my husband and I have been married 17 years. We’ve got 4 kids. Our second oldest isa strong willed 13 year old. I’ve been dealing with his massive tantrums since he was 2. When he hit 7/8 I realized they weren’t normal tantrums. When he was younger my husband and I thought spanking was the way to go since that’s how we were raised and many of the parenting books we had read backed that up. @@ -59039,7 +59039,7 @@ Also for the last 18 months or so I’ve been taking care of my mom who has canc But again - it’s peaceful. There’s no arguing. It’s happy between us. I don’t know. I feel like I can’t be happy and anytime I try I start thinking about whay happened and why I shouldn’t be happy. Or that it all needs to be resolved before I can be happy. -as an aside: my mom‘s most recent scans a few weeks ago show no evidence of cancer in her lungs and her prognosis has totally changed at this point :)",,9,anothergoodbook,1705496119.0 +as an aside: my mom‘s most recent scans a few weeks ago show no evidence of cancer in her lungs and her prognosis has totally changed at this point :)",,9,anothergoodbook,2024-01-17 12:55:19 RedPillWives,198cb9x,Maintaining Attraction While Nursing,"Im posting here as this is really and truly a married/partnered women problem and I am seeking advice from that perspective. How do you go about maintaining desire while breastfeeding a baby? From a biological perspective, nursing a baby floods the female body with tons of oxytocin to help bond mother and baby. This is the same hormone system that is used in pair bonding for women, and it is the rush of oxytocin that we get from orgasms that women tend to crave when wanting sex. Several aspects of intimacy (skin to skin, eye contact, nipple stimulation) stimulate oxytocin, and generally, craving those things from your man comes across as genuine sexual interest (because it is on a very biological level). @@ -59048,7 +59048,7 @@ So while nursing, my body is full of oxytoxin already from nursing around the cl So is my only solution to fake interest and just remind myself to initiate until Im done nursing and that craving desire returns? Or is there something I can do to increase my spontaneous desire? -Note: my partner is not unhappy with the situation, hes very understanding, but I know it means a lot when I initiate and genuine desire is important.",,5,Purple-Poppins,1705435287.0 +Note: my partner is not unhappy with the situation, hes very understanding, but I know it means a lot when I initiate and genuine desire is important.",,5,Purple-Poppins,2024-01-16 20:01:27 RedPillWives,195rk0o,RPW Resources?,"Hello friends and Happy Saturday! Many RPWs share “The Surrendered Wife” and the Bible as a go-to resource for both ourselves and when asked by someone to learn more about our lifestyle. Are there any other resources you would recommend that help teach and expand on Tradwife theories? @@ -59063,12 +59063,12 @@ So it got me thinking, what else would I recommend for her to learn more? Your ideas are greatly appreciated! -Edit: I’ve decided the Bible as a “go to resource” is an overstatement and biased towards my own religion. ",,1,Jcrystal82,1705162691.0 +Edit: I’ve decided the Bible as a “go to resource” is an overstatement and biased towards my own religion. ",,1,Jcrystal82,2024-01-13 16:18:11 RedPillWives,194lkvt,How did you master The Art Of STFU?,"I am tired of nagging and criticizing and sighing and having a bad attitude. My husband has had it. Something needs to change because my marriage is suffering. Please give me all your advice on how you learned to stfu. I don’t just want to be good at it for one or two days. I want it to be a part of who I am, for the benefit of everyone in our family. I’ve read The Surrendered Wife when we got married but it’s been almost 10 years now and I’ve still so much to work on and improve. - *edit:* I just got permanently banned from a motherhood subreddit for posting on redpillwomen.. what is wrong with reddit?",,46,JesusBBackSoon,1705031685.0 + *edit:* I just got permanently banned from a motherhood subreddit for posting on redpillwomen.. what is wrong with reddit?",,46,JesusBBackSoon,2024-01-12 03:54:45 RedPillWives,18t4pda,"Long time commenter, my first post","Hello all, I’ve been thinking of how to turn this vent into asking for a positive actionable solution. @@ -59083,7 +59083,7 @@ And now, my husband is outside w the neighbor, saying words I don’t know, I’ I suggesting this very casually “I hope we aren’t going to need a plumber for this!” And he responds with “me too…” mission failed. -How do those with DIY men convince them it’s time to call in the professionals? SOS!",,8,Jcrystal82,1703797963.0 +How do those with DIY men convince them it’s time to call in the professionals? SOS!",,8,Jcrystal82,2023-12-28 21:12:43 RedPillWives,18q4w3x,The Boulgogi Coup has been cancelled because my SIL just rolled MILs truck.,"She's fine. She is at a great hospital. She broke a couple bones. The truck is of course totalled. I'm waiting for the next update. DH just asked me ""so, do you think we can vacpac and freeze all that marinating meat?"" For all you reading this - It sounds a LOT worse than it is. This is par for the course for her. She is on probation for a DUI and this is not her first ""probation violation"" That being said.... \*deep breath\* @@ -59100,7 +59100,7 @@ Any one know how long you can keep boulgogi in it's marinade in the freezer? I'm Merry Christmas y'all -&#x200B;",,15,IWTTYAS,1703455249.0 +&#x200B;",,15,IWTTYAS,2023-12-24 22:00:49 RedPillWives,18p2wm1,Grace: The Key To True Femininity,"**Grace: What is it?** I have been reflecting upon this recently, ***Grace*** is the key to channeling femininity within yourself. @@ -59167,7 +59167,7 @@ ThatStepford Gal &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,39,ThatStepfordGal,1703327225.0 +&#x200B;",,39,ThatStepfordGal,2023-12-23 10:27:05 RedPillWives,18otlju,Two women who can't cook are gonna shove bread into a bird's butt and we're gonna die. (Do I through a Boulgogi Coup on Christmas?),"I need some help. Do I bring Boulgogi to Christmas? EDIT - THROW. I'm thinking of throwing a Boulgogi Coup @@ -59242,10 +59242,10 @@ Help? Good idea? Bad idea? Don't do it? &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,15,IWTTYAS,1703292548.0 +&#x200B;",,15,IWTTYAS,2023-12-23 00:49:08 RedPillWives,18n9pkk,"Stay at home wives, what do you wear in winter that is comfortable yet feminine?","I am at a loss. We moved somewhere really cold this year and I'm having trouble dressing like I used to enjoy. Because it's cold all I want to wear is yoga pants and sweatshirts around the house. I'm not against pants but I really need to switch it up some because I have been feeling terrible about my style lately -So what are y'all wearing that is both comfortable, attractive, feminine, and warm? Especially if you can recommend me some links to dresses etcs I know a good combo is a maxi dress+ sweater but I'm having trouble finding any ones I like online. 😢",,22,Easywintergardening,1703118477.0 +So what are y'all wearing that is both comfortable, attractive, feminine, and warm? Especially if you can recommend me some links to dresses etcs I know a good combo is a maxi dress+ sweater but I'm having trouble finding any ones I like online. 😢",,22,Easywintergardening,2023-12-21 00:27:57 RedPillWives,18jeds9,That Stepford Gal Gets Married: Microwedding Style!,"Greetings ladies, I cannot begin to even express my absolute excitement knowing that by January (last week), ***I'm going to be married and a Mrs.!*** @@ -59280,7 +59280,7 @@ Things I'm still chasing up: &#x200B; -Thank you for any advice, I'm just simply happy to share this all with you - I'm so looking forward to becoming a loving, caring wife and to a family life together...",,6,ThatStepfordGal,1702685640.0 +Thank you for any advice, I'm just simply happy to share this all with you - I'm so looking forward to becoming a loving, caring wife and to a family life together...",,6,ThatStepfordGal,2023-12-16 00:14:00 RedPillWives,17y2lfi,I am back. Everything I learned.,"Greetings everyone! @@ -59353,19 +59353,19 @@ Being a great space for women to feel understood, heard and to learn, so they ca There's sooo many things I'd like to write about again (maybe relationship values? homemaking tips? life experiences?), I want to share and support everyone here! You'll be hearing more from me soon... -&#x200B;",,25,ThatStepfordGal,1700298684.0 -RedPillWives,17xuwas,"Red Pill Wives, are you still there? Check in!",Pretty much the title. Don't make me feel all alone. 😥,,26,RedditVirgin555,1700270830.0 +&#x200B;",,25,ThatStepfordGal,2023-11-18 09:11:24 +RedPillWives,17xuwas,"Red Pill Wives, are you still there? Check in!",Pretty much the title. Don't make me feel all alone. 😥,,26,RedditVirgin555,2023-11-18 01:27:10 RedPillWives,16zs1gw,Seeking words of encouragement,"Here lately I don’t know what is into me… I am usually always the type of woman who loves my husband, loves serving him, loves tending to our children and loves making a home. However recently I’ve been so bitter and angry. I feel inconvenienced by my children, I’ve been holding onto little irritations I have with my husband, and I��ve been looking at my wife and motherhood duties as like a maid servant and misery more than a joy. -I think part of me just looks at the women around me and I’m the only one who stays home and they all treat me like I’m a victim, like it’s so sad to be doing what I do. (These aren’t friends but rather family and in-laws) And I think over time it’s gotten to me. I think the issue is inside somewhere I worry im missing out and that im doing all of this for nothing but I miss enjoying what I do because I believe it’s important. Any advice or encouragement would be so appreciated.",,18,Bubbly_General_6100,1696437609.0 -RedPillWives,16yjyox,Where can I find a husband like this?,"Is there a certain dating site where these types of men congregate? I'm a divorced 30f (I did have biblical grounds, no I was not at fault). I would really love to be a SAHW or SAHM to a man who is actually faithful and I don't mind being submissive so long as I am treated with basic respect. I'm fine with letting him generally call the shots. I'm new here so please be kind! Thanks!",,30,the_catmom,1696312599.0 +I think part of me just looks at the women around me and I’m the only one who stays home and they all treat me like I’m a victim, like it’s so sad to be doing what I do. (These aren’t friends but rather family and in-laws) And I think over time it’s gotten to me. I think the issue is inside somewhere I worry im missing out and that im doing all of this for nothing but I miss enjoying what I do because I believe it’s important. Any advice or encouragement would be so appreciated.",,18,Bubbly_General_6100,2023-10-04 16:40:09 +RedPillWives,16yjyox,Where can I find a husband like this?,"Is there a certain dating site where these types of men congregate? I'm a divorced 30f (I did have biblical grounds, no I was not at fault). I would really love to be a SAHW or SAHM to a man who is actually faithful and I don't mind being submissive so long as I am treated with basic respect. I'm fine with letting him generally call the shots. I'm new here so please be kind! Thanks!",,30,the_catmom,2023-10-03 05:56:39 RedPillWives,16g3bim,Total win during the weekend,"Yesterday we had a company BBQ hosted at our house. My husband runs a small GC company so it was a total of 5 employees (we have more but many couldn’t make it as it was a last minute event) with their wives and kids. I spent the entire day cleaning, prepping, cooking and hosting the BBQ. All of my food was a complete hit. I had nothing leftover and even the wives were asking me to send them the recipes. I made sure I was attentive and receptive to people’s needs; refilled drinks, cleared the table when they were done with a dish, brought out Turkish coffee, handed out dessert. I was exhausted but it was worth the effort. My husband is a “red-pill” man without the “red-pill”. He organically came to some of the ideas on his own and implemented it into his life. And one of the things I remember him telling me is that men care a lot of about status. A man’s wife is a direct representation of that. And last night he told he always knew he was lucky for having me as his wife and now he’s glad everyone saw it, too. -Thank you, ladies. This group has helped me a lot in my relationship. Long time lurker turned poster. Keep safe and wish you all the best!",,42,KaptynEllie,1694457537.0 +Thank you, ladies. This group has helped me a lot in my relationship. Long time lurker turned poster. Keep safe and wish you all the best!",,42,KaptynEllie,2023-09-11 18:38:57 RedPillWives,16eifbq,My husband and I are on different baby timelines.,"I hope this is an ok question to ask here. I’m newer to this page and appreciate any advice! Just some details. I (30) have been with my husband (31) for 6+ years. We got married in February. Everything is perfect, we’ve got married, bought our first house, saving so much and just enjoying the ‘simple life’. @@ -59378,7 +59378,7 @@ I’ll admit, I got in over my head and got too excited. I’ve looked at nurser So tonight I brought up lightly that I will be ovulating on our honeymoon and that we’ll either need to take precautions or….leave it up to fate. And he basically said that we have to sort out our career concerns first. (Long story short, I own a company that could have an impact on our future finances and life flexibility.) -I know that timeline wise this career concern will be solved in February of ‘25. But, ladies, I cannot imagine waiting until 2025 to start trying. I’ve kept my mouth shut and I understand his concerns (and I agree they’re valid), but I truly don’t know how to patiently wait another year longer then originally planned or help him understand that biologically a year makes a big difference when you’re 30.",,14,[deleted],1694297439.0 +I know that timeline wise this career concern will be solved in February of ‘25. But, ladies, I cannot imagine waiting until 2025 to start trying. I’ve kept my mouth shut and I understand his concerns (and I agree they’re valid), but I truly don’t know how to patiently wait another year longer then originally planned or help him understand that biologically a year makes a big difference when you’re 30.",,14,[deleted],2023-09-09 22:10:39 RedPillWives,16b9c42,Should I ask for flowers or wait?,"Hi so I (f23) got into a relationship recently with a guy - hes my age basically we’re born the same year. I really like him and when we’re out he will get me food or something cute i see :) There was one time at the grocery where he made a joke about how he spends alot on me but usually he doesnt complain. He did say hes gonna save for his own place as he lives with his sister at the moment. @@ -59390,10 +59390,10 @@ Should i communicate or just wait? I dont want to keep feeling sad or weird bc o edit - i have told him and pointed out cute flowers that i like :’))) -Update - asked more clearly, i think it was positive 💕",,1,onogomo,1693970835.0 +Update - asked more clearly, i think it was positive 💕",,1,onogomo,2023-09-06 03:27:15 RedPillWives,16a8k06,About to have our 7th child.,"My due date was Friday and I’m so miserable. :( -Send positive vibes while I wait to go into labor. Praying for a safe delivery for me and baby.",,22,foxymama98_,1693872234.0 -RedPillWives,15zadg0,Can definetly recommend listening to some tunes to make cleaning less boring :) Nature Ambience does it for me (to counter the stress),,https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0Q84EeYgQ2hWgnxF7luDuv,12,TheTownJeweler,1692811396.0 +Send positive vibes while I wait to go into labor. Praying for a safe delivery for me and baby.",,22,foxymama98_,2023-09-05 00:03:54 +RedPillWives,15zadg0,Can definetly recommend listening to some tunes to make cleaning less boring :) Nature Ambience does it for me (to counter the stress),,https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0Q84EeYgQ2hWgnxF7luDuv,12,TheTownJeweler,2023-08-23 17:23:16 RedPillWives,15i3kli,What would the “Surrendered Wife” approach be to husband’s excessive porn use?,"I read Doyle early on in our marriage (we’re 28F and 47M) and was so excited to be in that kind of marriage. I’m a SAHM and we have 2 babies under 2. I do 100% of the cooking and cleaning. He spoils me financially and in our lives, always picking up projects to make me happy and make my dreams come true. He’s extremely affectionate and compliments me often, loves to cuddle and spend time together. From the time I got pregnant with my first, sex has been an issue. I just never felt desired and would be frequently turned down. He’s loving and treats me like his queen in most ways, except in the bedroom. I could walk into the room naked and he wouldn’t even glance up. He doesn’t try to remove my clothes during sex and has almost never touched my breasts/genitals/butt etc in a way indicating that he’s attracted to me. I’ve surprised him with his favorite fantasy roleplay costumes, I’ve offered him head EVERY morning, I’ve done romantic bubble bath massage things and he just goes to sleep, I’ve tried texting nudes.. If you name it I’ve tried it. Basically the only times he’s been excited about sex has been trying to conceive. @@ -59418,7 +59418,7 @@ For instance, when he told me he was into the anime cosplay look I surprised him Following his lead here scares me so badly but taking charge doesn’t seem to be working either. -I vetted him well and read Fascinating Womanhood and Surrendered Wife and Empowered Wife all early and I just don’t know where to go from here.",,17,[deleted],1691163970.0 +I vetted him well and read Fascinating Womanhood and Surrendered Wife and Empowered Wife all early and I just don’t know where to go from here.",,17,[deleted],2023-08-04 15:46:10 RedPillWives,15gsrxl,reconsidering professional school,"hi, ive (23f) been thinking about this alot like a year off of school, i finished my first year of law school and i know i should be grateful to be here in a canadian school where its competitive to even get in 💜 its just in first year like many i felt very lost and sometimes isolated bc of some competitive/alienating peers and honestly the workload was a lot that i could only barely get used to if at all. i also have some mental health stuff that flared up but honestly i think 2nd yr is more chill and it flares up living at home wit parents sometimes anyways @@ -59434,7 +59434,7 @@ maybe it would be worth it? i just like i feel like theres something to look for but idk should i stay for dating sake and also a break from school or should i just dive into more debt (not a crazy amount but substantial) ? i do have friends at law school but it can be a weird environment, although it is getting better! -thoughts?? i get scared of those posts kinda shaming higher educated girls im like what 😭 i dont want it to define me and i dont want to be seen as like this rich girl powrr couple thing idk, i feel like im soft on the inside yknow",,2,onogomo,1691033252.0 +thoughts?? i get scared of those posts kinda shaming higher educated girls im like what 😭 i dont want it to define me and i dont want to be seen as like this rich girl powrr couple thing idk, i feel like im soft on the inside yknow",,2,onogomo,2023-08-03 03:27:32 RedPillWives,15gavva,WWYD: SAHM vs Nice Home,"Summary My partner is earning triple my wage atm (own business) I am on maternity for a year in the UK. Currently have a 3 month old @@ -59472,7 +59472,7 @@ Its a lot to weigh up but we want to decide by March next year as we have 2 year So WWYD? -[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/15gavva)",,3,Funny_Garage3895,1690987739.0 +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/15gavva)",,3,Funny_Garage3895,2023-08-02 14:48:59 RedPillWives,15g1z6e,Therapist in the Way?,"Hi all, I have been a member of this forum for a few months now. I discovered Laura Doyle after I found out that my husband had been cheating on me and told me ‘I had not met his physical and emotional needs, so he became emotionally available to another woman’. @@ -59485,7 +59485,7 @@ So I really feel like it’s me and Laura Doyle versus this therapist! Do I doub Any help, advice or anyone in remotely the same situation please reach out. Feeling very discouraged at times, although I know the husband I love is still in there somewhere! -Thank you ♥️",,5,LetAdventurous6007,1690961106.0 +Thank you ♥️",,5,LetAdventurous6007,2023-08-02 07:25:06 RedPillWives,15aho8v,Meal Box Services are Improving my Relationships,"Over the past few months, I've been trying various meal box delivery services (the ones where you pick your recipes and they deliver you the ingredients to cook yourself). It's been a multi-faceted improvement to my life so I thought I would share my experience: ###Financial: @@ -59510,7 +59510,7 @@ The food is enjoyable and about as complex as what I normally make. Typically ta When I have leftovers, I like to freeze them for my husband to have for lunch another day. He really enjoys these lunches, as I normally am too swamped with the kids to cook much at lunchtime. The meals are fairly healthy so it boosts his mood and energy. -I know this is a bit off topic! Thought I would share in case there are any other women out with similar values who would benefit from this information. It helps my household run a bit smoother and makes the people in my life a little happier.",,12,ArkNemesis00,1690405299.0 +I know this is a bit off topic! Thought I would share in case there are any other women out with similar values who would benefit from this information. It helps my household run a bit smoother and makes the people in my life a little happier.",,12,ArkNemesis00,2023-07-26 21:01:39 RedPillWives,1599gyj,Wish I just didn’t have to work so dang hard in my marriage,"The last 2 weeks have been really hard. My husband doesn’t think so and let me know last night that I was being dramatic about it. Here’s my last couple of weeks: @@ -59539,7 +59539,7 @@ My kids wanted to go out for ice cream. However the entire day they kept pester Through all of this I was just quiet. I wasn’t even angry. Just… done. I wasn’t upset about not doing anything special for my birthday. I wasn’t upset about my husband being withdrawn (he’s had to handle all the other things while I’ve been busy with all my things). But he was angry with me for being tired. “Life is hard for everyone and I should just deal with it and get over it.” He wanted to do something for my birthday and I ruined it by going upstairs. He said I should have had the table clean for him when he got home from work and how dare I be playing a video game that close to dinner when I should have been taking care of the house and making the kids clean. -So I’m at the park daydreaming about someone that wouldn’t be this hard to make happy. And perhaps love me even though I am broken and have adhd so things are messy sometimes. Sorry that’s this is so long. Thank to anyone getting to the end of it.",,21,anothergoodbook,1690293844.0 +So I’m at the park daydreaming about someone that wouldn’t be this hard to make happy. And perhaps love me even though I am broken and have adhd so things are messy sometimes. Sorry that’s this is so long. Thank to anyone getting to the end of it.",,21,anothergoodbook,2023-07-25 14:04:04 RedPillWives,157uv1t,Awkward sex question,"This is a little embarrassing, but hopefully y’all can help me out here. @@ -59548,7 +59548,7 @@ eventually he did finish, but I was really sore afterwards. I thought maybe this was a normal experience for my first time and hoped it would get easier the more we did it an assumed I would loosen up a little after a few times, but that hasn’t been the case. I want to keep my husband happy and satisfied, but am struggling with his size. Any tricks to make sex easier on a very sore newlywed or do I need to just get used to it? -I want to keep my husband happy and satisfied and we’re trying to get pregnant, but I’m really struggling to be joyful about it when it hurts.",,7,NicolaBaileyy,1690157784.0 +I want to keep my husband happy and satisfied and we’re trying to get pregnant, but I’m really struggling to be joyful about it when it hurts.",,7,NicolaBaileyy,2023-07-24 00:16:24 RedPillWives,15416b0,7 Tips to Retain a Loving Relationship with Small Children," 1. Build Good Will @@ -59598,8 +59598,8 @@ Anecdote: I didn't find negotiating personal time to be effective initially. When I first tried this approach, it seemed like my husband dreaded ""mommy time"" more than he enjoyed ""daddy time."" I became frustrated. We argued. When I dropped that idea and gave ""daddy time"" freely and happily, that worked better for us. Then, after a couple months or so, we had a discussion about ""mommy time"" and it went very well. We realized we could sandwich some in over his lunch hour, which worked better for both of us. -I believe building up that good will mentioned in tip #1 culminated in us having more energy to work towards a better solution. And once he became comfortable handling ""mommy time"" on his own terms, it opened the door for us to trade free time. I still like to give him his own time unprompted, but it's nice to know I can now effectively get a break when I need one.",,21,ArkNemesis00,1689787327.0 -RedPillWives,1526ggy,Cotton or cotton blend housedresses for chores,Looking to get a stash of cute but functional and inexpensive house dresses for wearing during the day that wash well. I plan on wearing them with an apron. The search term housedress only returns nightgown-like muumuus. Any recommendations?,,9,[deleted],1689610760.0 +I believe building up that good will mentioned in tip #1 culminated in us having more energy to work towards a better solution. And once he became comfortable handling ""mommy time"" on his own terms, it opened the door for us to trade free time. I still like to give him his own time unprompted, but it's nice to know I can now effectively get a break when I need one.",,21,ArkNemesis00,2023-07-19 17:22:07 +RedPillWives,1526ggy,Cotton or cotton blend housedresses for chores,Looking to get a stash of cute but functional and inexpensive house dresses for wearing during the day that wash well. I plan on wearing them with an apron. The search term housedress only returns nightgown-like muumuus. Any recommendations?,,9,[deleted],2023-07-17 16:19:20 RedPillWives,150zfxs,Snickering at Daughter's Words,"Our 3-year old isn't (technically) ours, biologically she's my sister-in-law's. We do raise her as our own daughter and do our best to ignore SILs microaggressions. My husband's very emotionally tough. From what I know of the family's circumstances growing up, he had to be. @@ -59628,8 +59628,8 @@ H: So, ok, my contribution to you is my wife and this tent? N: Yes, LiteratureOk7716 is the prettiest girl in the whole universe and having her in this tent makes me happy. -I don't know where N got the idea that I'm pretty, much less ""the prettiest girl in the whole universe"" (probably hubby).",,7,LiteratureOk7716,1689491407.0 -RedPillWives,14xcvmx,Household screen rules???,Uhg. I know this is off topic but I am hoping to get opinions and ideas from like minded people. We need so screen boundaries in our house. Our kids (ages 6-10) are reaching for devices and screens constantly and I can’t blame them because so are my husband and I! Do you have boundaries for yourself when it comes to screen use? How do you set yourself up for success with this? Seriously considering just locking them all in a lock box at this point!,,2,kze21,1689133152.0 +I don't know where N got the idea that I'm pretty, much less ""the prettiest girl in the whole universe"" (probably hubby).",,7,LiteratureOk7716,2023-07-16 07:10:07 +RedPillWives,14xcvmx,Household screen rules???,Uhg. I know this is off topic but I am hoping to get opinions and ideas from like minded people. We need so screen boundaries in our house. Our kids (ages 6-10) are reaching for devices and screens constantly and I can’t blame them because so are my husband and I! Do you have boundaries for yourself when it comes to screen use? How do you set yourself up for success with this? Seriously considering just locking them all in a lock box at this point!,,2,kze21,2023-07-12 03:39:12 RedPillWives,14vguen,Looking for advice on managing taking offense.,"Base info: How old are you? 39, husband is also 39 @@ -59658,12 +59658,12 @@ This has been ongoing for years in our relationship, and Ive always tried to ask I think that sums it all up, I just need some clarity. I feel like this may have been addressed in some of my past reading but obviously I’m failing to recall what to do to have my emotional needs addressed/acknowledged and avoid being disrespectful out of reactivity. I want him to be able to talk to me when something is bothering him without worrying there will be emotional fallout, because I’d like to learn to not emotionally fall out over simple things that probably don’t warrant it. -I hope that makes sense and that someone might have some advice to share. Thank you in advance! (And thank you for reading this whole mess)",,4,cathatesrudy,1688954905.0 +I hope that makes sense and that someone might have some advice to share. Thank you in advance! (And thank you for reading this whole mess)",,4,cathatesrudy,2023-07-10 02:08:25 RedPillWives,14ui81u,20F New Homemaker Looking to Build a Sisterhood via WhatsApp !,"Hello all! I have noticed that I am severely lacking a feeling of sisterhood in my life. I have decided I want to do my best to actively change this, and to create some sort of sense of community for anyone interested in sharing their lives in a group chat. I would absolutely love to share about my experiences as a young homemaker in a fresh relationship. But aside from that stuff, we can definitely share other interests too! I have made a group on WhatsApp, which will serve as the host of this group. Message me if you’re interested in joining! :) I also wanna make it clear that I WILL be filtering the people joining. This is so the people in the group can truly feel safe and comfortable conversing. Quality over quantity is important in building friendships. -If interested, please send me a chat with a little bit about you and what you’d like to gain from joining. I am open to ideas and feedback! I truly want this to be a great safe space for us ladies needing extra support and a sisterhood. :)",,13,[deleted],1688857411.0 +If interested, please send me a chat with a little bit about you and what you’d like to gain from joining. I am open to ideas and feedback! I truly want this to be a great safe space for us ladies needing extra support and a sisterhood. :)",,13,[deleted],2023-07-08 23:03:31 RedPillWives,14oq311,What books could help a man and husband to grow?,"My husband and I, both in our 40s, have been together for 20+yrs and have 2 pre-teen kids. We’ve been through highs and lows and have successfully overcome some very challenging moments together. However over the last ca 5 years things have been going downhill. We fight most of the time, there’s no sex life and I’ve realized that I’m losing my respect for him. @@ -59678,7 +59678,7 @@ I’ve thought of separation several times, but given that we have two kids toge I know that he has a lot of inner work to do, but I’m willing to support him if he puts in the work. On the other hand he needs to be willing to do this, so I'm looking for something that would give him the right direction and motivate him to get started and I believe that books would work well for this with him. -Are you aware of any books/resources for men (possibly non-RP) to get him started on a growth and self improvement journey?",,8,MrsUniversity7035,1688309160.0 +Are you aware of any books/resources for men (possibly non-RP) to get him started on a growth and self improvement journey?",,8,MrsUniversity7035,2023-07-02 14:46:00 RedPillWives,14jorac,I keep getting asked “why” with why I don’t want a full time job or career :(,"Hello lovely people! First time in this sub, happy to find you all. @@ -59690,7 +59690,7 @@ I want to cook more, I want to know how to garden, I want to be feminine again a I mention that I’m only part time for one reason or another and they usually say, “Oh, do you have another job?” Or “do you go to school?” And I then have to explain that I am a home maker when I’m not here! But I’m shy and the words don’t come out right. How do I come off as classy when having to deal with this line of questioning? Taking care of hearth and home is its own rewarding job and I don’t want to diminish what I do. Help please! -TL:DR what to I say to people who are confused about me wanting to be a homemaker, or judgmental that I down want to work more? ",,26,Lil_AmberSweet,1687803302.0 +TL:DR what to I say to people who are confused about me wanting to be a homemaker, or judgmental that I down want to work more? ",,26,Lil_AmberSweet,2023-06-26 18:15:02 RedPillWives,149y5gi,Working on Self,"When I was younger, my (single, or probably should have been) mother always told me that when something went awry in my love life, it was invariably not my fault. I met my husband during our PhDs. Through him, I'm learning that time spent assigning fault is better spent solving whatever the issue is. @@ -59703,17 +59703,17 @@ My response was that, ""I can't stop thinking about you"". He went full-on autistic and said ""we see each other often, so it doesn't surprise me that I'm on your mind"". -*sigh* Just when I thought he'd made a breakthrough...",,4,LiteratureOk7716,1686822431.0 +*sigh* Just when I thought he'd made a breakthrough...",,4,LiteratureOk7716,2023-06-15 09:47:11 RedPillWives,149epka,Advice on true masculinity,"Hi all, I am a student (girl, 19), and I am new to RedPillWives. I would like to ask a question. At the moment, I am not married. However, a lot of women arround me are married. They are married with very different types of man. Somethimes, this confuses me. I tried to talk about it for a few months now, but people go easily in defend-mode when you ask about this. -What do you think true masculinity entails?",,5,Wandering_Around1,1686766038.0 -RedPillWives,146jonn,Submitting to sex,"Hello, I am trying to be more submissive to my husband (married 13 yrs) to help strengthen our relationship. One area where i am struggling is with sex. I don’t really have much of a sex drive, have never orgasmed even masturbating, but I would agree to sex more than I do if he would just kind of take charge and I could participate but not lead. As of now we have sex 2x week and I just get so stressed trying to come up with an answer to “what do you feel like?” (I am not that creative!) and it feels uncomfortable for me kind of make something up- he wants me to be the kind of person who is like ooh I want to try this, or touch me here- etc. he’s always asking, did you get off? (I always try to deflect for that q- I will say that felt great, oh wow, that was amazing, etc.) What turns you on? Do you want this or that? What do you feel like tonight? He also likes to go down on me which I don’t like the feeling of but try to go along with sometimes. I will try to ask him what he is excited about but he flips it back to me. I just wish he could accept that I have a lower drive but am happy to be intimate but just struggle to put on an act. I feel like it would be very hurtful to be completely honest with him, but also I don’t know now how to be more adventurous or passionate. I know he wants sex a lot more and I just find myself saying no for the above reasons.",,18,DescriptionGlass1058,1686455399.0 -RedPillWives,13rny5u,I think my wife is crushing on other men,"So we attended a friends wedding reception last week. I’d noticed her face turning red and blushing when the MC was singing. She’d commented her surprise of how good he was. He was a decently good looking and masculine man. I know she has a soft spot for people with a good singing voice - he had that and was also charismatic with his voice. We have four very young boys together. I’m 42 years old and she is 32. We’ve been married for 8 years with four boys. I felt uncomfortable as I’ve noticed her bodily reaction. I’m “redpilled” conditioned, so I’m quite sensitive to these indicators. At one time, she’d even twirled her her hair looking at the guy - to me this is an indicator she’s subconsciously flirty! The female nature is suspect and needs guidance. Help me out. What are your thoughts? I love her immensely. I’m averagely looking at best.",,0,SpinachFalse1784,1685036012.0 -RedPillWives,134duak,"How to stop being mothering towards my husband ? (My problem, not his)","I posted about how to stop mothering my husband and it have been misunderstood, I meant, how can I stop to have this attitude with him, he didn't behave like this, that's just me.",,22,LillithSanguinum,1682919729.0 -RedPillWives,12zkakz,How not to mother my husband?,,,16,LillithSanguinum,1682521634.0 -RedPillWives,12y0b9b,What advice would you give her,,https://i.redd.it/ubbnktffiyva1.jpg,16,Specific_Sun67,1682378298.0 +What do you think true masculinity entails?",,5,Wandering_Around1,2023-06-14 18:07:18 +RedPillWives,146jonn,Submitting to sex,"Hello, I am trying to be more submissive to my husband (married 13 yrs) to help strengthen our relationship. One area where i am struggling is with sex. I don’t really have much of a sex drive, have never orgasmed even masturbating, but I would agree to sex more than I do if he would just kind of take charge and I could participate but not lead. As of now we have sex 2x week and I just get so stressed trying to come up with an answer to “what do you feel like?” (I am not that creative!) and it feels uncomfortable for me kind of make something up- he wants me to be the kind of person who is like ooh I want to try this, or touch me here- etc. he’s always asking, did you get off? (I always try to deflect for that q- I will say that felt great, oh wow, that was amazing, etc.) What turns you on? Do you want this or that? What do you feel like tonight? He also likes to go down on me which I don’t like the feeling of but try to go along with sometimes. I will try to ask him what he is excited about but he flips it back to me. I just wish he could accept that I have a lower drive but am happy to be intimate but just struggle to put on an act. I feel like it would be very hurtful to be completely honest with him, but also I don’t know now how to be more adventurous or passionate. I know he wants sex a lot more and I just find myself saying no for the above reasons.",,18,DescriptionGlass1058,2023-06-11 03:49:59 +RedPillWives,13rny5u,I think my wife is crushing on other men,"So we attended a friends wedding reception last week. I’d noticed her face turning red and blushing when the MC was singing. She’d commented her surprise of how good he was. He was a decently good looking and masculine man. I know she has a soft spot for people with a good singing voice - he had that and was also charismatic with his voice. We have four very young boys together. I’m 42 years old and she is 32. We’ve been married for 8 years with four boys. I felt uncomfortable as I’ve noticed her bodily reaction. I’m “redpilled” conditioned, so I’m quite sensitive to these indicators. At one time, she’d even twirled her her hair looking at the guy - to me this is an indicator she’s subconsciously flirty! The female nature is suspect and needs guidance. Help me out. What are your thoughts? I love her immensely. I’m averagely looking at best.",,0,SpinachFalse1784,2023-05-25 17:33:32 +RedPillWives,134duak,"How to stop being mothering towards my husband ? (My problem, not his)","I posted about how to stop mothering my husband and it have been misunderstood, I meant, how can I stop to have this attitude with him, he didn't behave like this, that's just me.",,22,LillithSanguinum,2023-05-01 05:42:09 +RedPillWives,12zkakz,How not to mother my husband?,,,16,LillithSanguinum,2023-04-26 15:07:14 +RedPillWives,12y0b9b,What advice would you give her,,https://i.redd.it/ubbnktffiyva1.jpg,16,Specific_Sun67,2023-04-24 23:18:18 RedPillWives,12acugw,How to keep minor complaints to myself?,"Like most human beings, I (30F) suffer ailments from time to time. I have a pretty rough first day on my period, one or two migraines a month and I tend to doze off/get lethargic in the evening (after dinner and the kitchen is put to rest!) My husband (32M) is a loving and attentive partner and if ever I'm not feeling well he's always on hand with a hot water bottle or encourages me to go up to bed to get some rest. @@ -59722,35 +59722,35 @@ But lately I've noticed that I am quite vocal when it comes to these regular and In the moment though, I want to let him know how I'm feeling. But I'd rather save it for the end of the day when we're face to face. Or, push through and not have our conversations revolve around my constant state of being. -Are there any strategies you use to deflect this sort of compulsion? Write it down somewhere? I'd rather not just tell a friend instead - same problem but different person I'm even less intimate with.",,20,TeddyPicker916_,1680507007.0 -RedPillWives,120prbc,Curious to know what y'all think of Freud's theory on female psychology,,https://youtube.com/shorts/WR7J-Ee4ji8?feature=share,0,hopefulindiegamedev,1679675923.0 -RedPillWives,11sbjzv,Posted this on r/ask women but Karma was too low! I really need an answer or conversation around this rant :(,,https://i.redd.it/x1lo4zr8t0oa1.jpg,43,Major_Following8268,1678919361.0 -RedPillWives,11h6ow9,Post/Picture of gravestone from maybe 3 years ago “SHE WAS EVERYTHING A WIFE SHOULD BE”,Does anyone have this picture or a link to the post???,,9,merrygoesforever,1677863794.0 +Are there any strategies you use to deflect this sort of compulsion? Write it down somewhere? I'd rather not just tell a friend instead - same problem but different person I'm even less intimate with.",,20,TeddyPicker916_,2023-04-03 07:30:07 +RedPillWives,120prbc,Curious to know what y'all think of Freud's theory on female psychology,,https://youtube.com/shorts/WR7J-Ee4ji8?feature=share,0,hopefulindiegamedev,2023-03-24 16:38:43 +RedPillWives,11sbjzv,Posted this on r/ask women but Karma was too low! I really need an answer or conversation around this rant :(,,https://i.redd.it/x1lo4zr8t0oa1.jpg,43,Major_Following8268,2023-03-15 22:29:21 +RedPillWives,11h6ow9,Post/Picture of gravestone from maybe 3 years ago “SHE WAS EVERYTHING A WIFE SHOULD BE”,Does anyone have this picture or a link to the post???,,9,merrygoesforever,2023-03-03 17:16:34 RedPillWives,11c0flq,New Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle Community,"Hi fellow RP Wives! -A book that gets recommended frequently as excellent Red Pill Reading is ‘The Surrendered Wife’ (which has been immensely helpful in my marriage). So myself and another surrendered wife created a Reddit community for it r/surrendered_wife for women like most of us on this subreddit. If you’re interested in joining, we’d love to have you! I figured having more red pill wife communities is always a good thing!",,26,Ruffleafewfeathers,1677371130.0 +A book that gets recommended frequently as excellent Red Pill Reading is ‘The Surrendered Wife’ (which has been immensely helpful in my marriage). So myself and another surrendered wife created a Reddit community for it r/surrendered_wife for women like most of us on this subreddit. If you’re interested in joining, we’d love to have you! I figured having more red pill wife communities is always a good thing!",,26,Ruffleafewfeathers,2023-02-26 00:25:30 RedPillWives,118xufm,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,10,blushingoleander,1677070871.0 -RedPillWives,118xu1l,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,7,AutoModerator,1677070852.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,10,blushingoleander,2023-02-22 13:01:11 +RedPillWives,118xu1l,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,7,AutoModerator,2023-02-22 13:00:52 RedPillWives,1182vpm,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,6,AutoModerator,1676984445.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,6,AutoModerator,2023-02-21 13:00:45 RedPillWives,11762l5,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,5,AutoModerator,1676898074.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,5,AutoModerator,2023-02-20 13:01:14 RedPillWives,115kgx9,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1676741410.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2023-02-18 17:30:10 RedPillWives,115esrw,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,2,AutoModerator,1676725226.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,2,AutoModerator,2023-02-18 13:00:26 RedPillWives,114w23e,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -59763,34 +59763,34 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,11,AutoModerator,1676664042.0 -RedPillWives,112xfxb,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,2,AutoModerator,1676466011.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,11,AutoModerator,2023-02-17 20:00:42 +RedPillWives,112xfxb,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,2,AutoModerator,2023-02-15 13:00:11 RedPillWives,112xgtk,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1676466069.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2023-02-15 13:01:09 RedPillWives,1124tcu,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,8,AutoModerator,1676379610.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,8,AutoModerator,2023-02-14 13:00:10 RedPillWives,111nhws,Infertility and further study,"Hi everyone, Just wanted your advice on my situation. I am 28yrs old, and got married almost 2 years ago and moved to a new town. My SO is 34 years old. I work from home 10 hours a week, and in the hospital for 8 hours, and am a homemaker the rest of the week. I've found it difficult to make new friends as my SO works anti-social hours, so I can only leave the house for about an hour every other week. I felt like I initially didn't mind this so much, but I always had the hope that I would get pregnant and that I would finally have a purpose. We have been trying to conceive (at least twice a day) for the full 22 months. However I have not fallen pregnant yet, and I just feel like I am going crazy. I often find myself falling into depression. I agreed with my SO that I would eventually take the next step in my career by doing a PhD after children. He believes that doing applying and doing a PhD will affect my chances of getting pregnant. I just feel that my hope is running out, and that I would like to divert my attention elsewhere. But the older I am getting, the more worried I am getting about falling pregnant, and the more worried I get about wasting time, as I could have applied and even done a PhD within that time. I think I just feel anxious about living with regret, and I am surrounded by women at work who have been able to undertake further study while being pregnant and with small children. I think I just feel frustrated with myself that I can't have both either. And I think I just feel incredibly bored nad purposeless too, which I know is not helping! -Any advice? Thank you in advance.",,9,Glum-Sea4408,1676330950.0 +Any advice? Thank you in advance.",,9,Glum-Sea4408,2023-02-13 23:29:10 RedPillWives,1117nr1,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,2,AutoModerator,1676293211.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,2,AutoModerator,2023-02-13 13:00:11 RedPillWives,10zsxrf,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1676136611.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2023-02-11 17:30:11 RedPillWives,10zn2wy,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,5,AutoModerator,1676120409.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,5,AutoModerator,2023-02-11 13:00:09 RedPillWives,10z1e8k,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -59803,7 +59803,7 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,5,AutoModerator,1676059214.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,5,AutoModerator,2023-02-10 20:00:14 RedPillWives,10ydfis,How traditional is too traditional?,"Since my last post got a very negative response here and on redpillwomen, I have to ask this traditional gender roles community - why are my traditions considered wrong? I realize that since this is an American forum, it's dominated by Americans and to be quite honest, despite this forum being ""antifeminist"" 99% of you ""antifeminist"" American women would be considered feminist in my culture. @@ -59814,33 +59814,33 @@ This is extremely common in conservative countries like mine, where feminism has My culture also emphasizes teaching homemaking skills to girls from birth - many girls in my culture get married around 15-16. Some are 14 but that's gotten more rare as the country has modernized. Meanwhile western women aren't even ready to marry until they're 30! Even most ""traditional"" western women don't usually want their daughter to get married as soon as they turn 18. -What's going on in the west?",,25,eveninginthemtns,1675995042.0 +What's going on in the west?",,25,eveninginthemtns,2023-02-10 02:10:42 RedPillWives,10ww42t,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1675861269.0 -RedPillWives,10ww33u,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,1675861212.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2023-02-08 13:01:09 +RedPillWives,10ww33u,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,2023-02-08 13:00:12 RedPillWives,10w713y,I made a homemaking discord server!,"The only homemaking server I found was inactive so I made my own, it has a decent number of people joined, you are welcome to join, share recipes, discuss cleaning tips, and encourage one another! -[https://discord.gg/8X8CZetVtt](https://discord.gg/8X8CZetVtt)",,7,[deleted],1675789591.0 +[https://discord.gg/8X8CZetVtt](https://discord.gg/8X8CZetVtt)",,7,[deleted],2023-02-07 17:06:31 RedPillWives,10w17p4,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,1675774812.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,2023-02-07 13:00:12 RedPillWives,10v60rt,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,1,AutoModerator,1675688411.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,1,AutoModerator,2023-02-06 13:00:11 RedPillWives,10tlzck,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1675531810.0 -RedPillWives,10tl6rg,As it all my fault? Am i the worthless piece of shit he says I am?,,https://docs.google.com/document/d/1E6e6uR1Yd2MWRqdiAwbm5y1rAw7VAWPoxnOVuWYT5-0/edit,5,JULIANNA989,1675529953.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2023-02-04 17:30:10 +RedPillWives,10tl6rg,As it all my fault? Am i the worthless piece of shit he says I am?,,https://docs.google.com/document/d/1E6e6uR1Yd2MWRqdiAwbm5y1rAw7VAWPoxnOVuWYT5-0/edit,5,JULIANNA989,2023-02-04 16:59:13 RedPillWives,10tfv09,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,0,AutoModerator,1675515610.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,0,AutoModerator,2023-02-04 13:00:10 RedPillWives,10stm5y,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -59853,22 +59853,22 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,3,AutoModerator,1675454411.0 -RedPillWives,10qu5ra,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,3,AutoModerator,1675256410.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,3,AutoModerator,2023-02-03 20:00:11 +RedPillWives,10qu5ra,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,3,AutoModerator,2023-02-01 13:00:10 RedPillWives,10qu6oh,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1675256468.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2023-02-01 13:01:08 RedPillWives,10pyf60,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,2,AutoModerator,1675170009.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,2,AutoModerator,2023-01-31 13:00:09 RedPillWives,10p1b5c,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,3,AutoModerator,1675083613.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,3,AutoModerator,2023-01-30 13:00:13 RedPillWives,10nkh0o,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1674927008.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2023-01-28 17:30:08 RedPillWives,10mufq6,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -59881,30 +59881,30 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,3,AutoModerator,1674849612.0 -RedPillWives,10m1rr5,Woman only Discord server for traditional woman,,/r/1950household/comments/10lzgpm/woman_only_discord_server_for_traditional_woman/,4,AireGirl19,1674765326.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,3,AutoModerator,2023-01-27 20:00:12 +RedPillWives,10m1rr5,Woman only Discord server for traditional woman,,/r/1950household/comments/10lzgpm/woman_only_discord_server_for_traditional_woman/,4,AireGirl19,2023-01-26 20:35:26 RedPillWives,10ky3hd,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1674651671.0 -RedPillWives,10ky2la,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,5,AutoModerator,1674651611.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2023-01-25 13:01:11 +RedPillWives,10ky2la,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,5,AutoModerator,2023-01-25 13:00:11 RedPillWives,10k4wwz,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,1674565209.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,2023-01-24 13:00:09 RedPillWives,10jbx1c,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,2,AutoModerator,1674478810.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,2,AutoModerator,2023-01-23 13:00:10 RedPillWives,10hwi76,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1674322211.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2023-01-21 17:30:11 RedPillWives,10hqpa7,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,2,AutoModerator,1674306010.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,2,AutoModerator,2023-01-21 13:00:10 RedPillWives,10h6ljo,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -59917,19 +59917,19 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,8,AutoModerator,1674244812.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,8,AutoModerator,2023-01-20 20:00:12 RedPillWives,10f6uu0,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1674046869.0 -RedPillWives,10f6tvh,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,1674046809.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2023-01-18 13:01:09 +RedPillWives,10f6tvh,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,2023-01-18 13:00:09 RedPillWives,10ebowx,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,2,AutoModerator,1673960412.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,2,AutoModerator,2023-01-17 13:00:12 RedPillWives,10ddyp9,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,1,AutoModerator,1673874013.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,1,AutoModerator,2023-01-16 13:00:13 RedPillWives,10brdas,Men Pulling Away?,"Hi ladies! It’s been a while and I’m getting into the reading some core books about relationships again - - especially Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. @@ -59939,17 +59939,17 @@ They need to actually pull away sometimes, recollect and reconnect with themselv Now I have some ponderings about it since the book didn’t really cover it - how are women supposed to be while he is ‘away’? Let’s say through interactions and maybe even text… The same? Maybe a little distant/aloof as to respect the space there so he can fully experience it? -Any thoughts about this and the book are welcome :)",,13,ThatStepfordGal,1673710762.0 +Any thoughts about this and the book are welcome :)",,13,ThatStepfordGal,2023-01-14 15:39:22 RedPillWives,10bu2ot,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1673717408.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2023-01-14 17:30:08 RedPillWives,10bnvs4,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,3,AutoModerator,1673701210.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,3,AutoModerator,2023-01-14 13:00:10 RedPillWives,10b3woe,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -59962,29 +59962,29 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,2,AutoModerator,1673640010.0 -RedPillWives,10943z2,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,4,AutoModerator,1673442010.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,2,AutoModerator,2023-01-13 20:00:10 +RedPillWives,10943z2,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,4,AutoModerator,2023-01-11 13:00:10 RedPillWives,10944vs,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,0,blushingoleander,1673442068.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,0,blushingoleander,2023-01-11 13:01:08 RedPillWives,10898yb,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,1673355610.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,2023-01-10 13:00:10 RedPillWives,107dtmi,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,2,AutoModerator,1673269211.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,2,AutoModerator,2023-01-09 13:00:11 RedPillWives,105uhkd,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1673112609.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2023-01-07 17:30:09 RedPillWives,105ohn5,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,0,AutoModerator,1673096408.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,0,AutoModerator,2023-01-07 13:00:08 RedPillWives,1053u1e,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -59997,19 +59997,19 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,2,AutoModerator,1673035211.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,2,AutoModerator,2023-01-06 20:00:11 RedPillWives,10335rx,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1672837270.0 -RedPillWives,10334tu,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,2,AutoModerator,1672837211.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2023-01-04 13:01:10 +RedPillWives,10334tu,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,2,AutoModerator,2023-01-04 13:00:11 RedPillWives,1027lqm,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,2,AutoModerator,1672750811.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,2,AutoModerator,2023-01-03 13:00:11 RedPillWives,101c27c,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,0,AutoModerator,1672664411.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,0,AutoModerator,2023-01-02 13:00:11 RedPillWives,1004iv7,How to submit to husband's decision even when I think it might be unsafe?,"How old are you (and how old is your partner) and how familiar are you with RPW? I'm 28 and he's 35, familiar with the basics What is your relationship status? Monogamous married @@ -60026,17 +60026,17 @@ If married or in a committed, monogamous relationship: How long have you been together? 6 years Is your relationship long-distance? No -Do you have an active bedroom life? Yes",,6,morninginthemtns1,1672523230.0 +Do you have an active bedroom life? Yes",,6,morninginthemtns1,2022-12-31 21:47:10 RedPillWives,zzz48l,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1672507809.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-12-31 17:30:09 RedPillWives,zztlq8,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,2,AutoModerator,1672491612.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,2,AutoModerator,2022-12-31 13:00:12 RedPillWives,zz9wvq,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60049,29 +60049,29 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,15,AutoModerator,1672430411.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,15,AutoModerator,2022-12-30 20:00:11 RedPillWives,zx90pf,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1672232470.0 -RedPillWives,zx8zrt,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,1672232414.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-12-28 13:01:10 +RedPillWives,zx8zrt,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,2022-12-28 13:00:14 RedPillWives,zwf42s,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,3,AutoModerator,1672146013.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,3,AutoModerator,2022-12-27 13:00:13 RedPillWives,zvmns1,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,3,AutoModerator,1672059611.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,3,AutoModerator,2022-12-26 13:00:11 RedPillWives,zuefu7,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1671903009.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2022-12-24 17:30:09 RedPillWives,zu9d3y,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,1671886811.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,2022-12-24 13:00:11 RedPillWives,ztr58j,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60084,30 +60084,30 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,5,AutoModerator,1671825610.0 -RedPillWives,zrkxgc,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,4,AutoModerator,1671627611.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,5,AutoModerator,2022-12-23 20:00:10 +RedPillWives,zrkxgc,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,4,AutoModerator,2022-12-21 13:00:11 RedPillWives,zrkz2g,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1671627667.0 -RedPillWives,zq080m,"From a man, just a thanks for giving hope all my hard work could materialize into a future loving wife it can be tremendously hard to see it",,,16,Environmental-Use808,1671476322.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-12-21 13:01:07 +RedPillWives,zq080m,"From a man, just a thanks for giving hope all my hard work could materialize into a future loving wife it can be tremendously hard to see it",,,16,Environmental-Use808,2022-12-19 18:58:42 RedPillWives,zqnuqw,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,1671541212.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,2022-12-20 13:00:12 RedPillWives,zpqxtq,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,2,AutoModerator,1671454812.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,2,AutoModerator,2022-12-19 13:00:12 RedPillWives,zobbwh,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,0,blushingoleander,1671298209.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,0,blushingoleander,2022-12-17 17:30:09 RedPillWives,zo5t2n,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,2,AutoModerator,1671282008.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,2,AutoModerator,2022-12-17 13:00:08 RedPillWives,znnk1w,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60120,29 +60120,29 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,9,AutoModerator,1671220813.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,9,AutoModerator,2022-12-16 20:00:13 RedPillWives,zlqcys,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1671022869.0 -RedPillWives,zlqc0e,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,0,AutoModerator,1671022811.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-12-14 13:01:09 +RedPillWives,zlqc0e,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,0,AutoModerator,2022-12-14 13:00:11 RedPillWives,zkv61p,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,1,AutoModerator,1670936409.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,1,AutoModerator,2022-12-13 13:00:09 RedPillWives,zjyf3s,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,3,AutoModerator,1670850011.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,3,AutoModerator,2022-12-12 13:00:11 RedPillWives,zhy67e,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1670693411.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2022-12-10 17:30:11 RedPillWives,zhrzh8,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,1670677209.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,2022-12-10 13:00:09 RedPillWives,zh728z,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60155,29 +60155,29 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,9,AutoModerator,1670616011.0 -RedPillWives,zf0kb9,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,4,AutoModerator,1670418011.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,9,AutoModerator,2022-12-09 20:00:11 +RedPillWives,zf0kb9,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,4,AutoModerator,2022-12-07 13:00:11 RedPillWives,zf0l84,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1670418068.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2022-12-07 13:01:08 RedPillWives,ze65q4,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,2,AutoModerator,1670331613.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,2,AutoModerator,2022-12-06 13:00:13 RedPillWives,zd661c,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,0,AutoModerator,1670245211.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,0,AutoModerator,2022-12-05 13:00:11 RedPillWives,zblja8,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1670088608.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-12-03 17:30:08 RedPillWives,zbfpul,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,1670072409.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,2022-12-03 13:00:09 RedPillWives,zavvzc,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60190,29 +60190,29 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,7,AutoModerator,1670011213.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,7,AutoModerator,2022-12-02 20:00:13 RedPillWives,z8qx22,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1669813271.0 -RedPillWives,z8qvxg,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,1669813209.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2022-11-30 13:01:11 +RedPillWives,z8qvxg,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,2022-11-30 13:00:09 RedPillWives,z7tey2,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,4,AutoModerator,1669726810.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,4,AutoModerator,2022-11-29 13:00:10 RedPillWives,z6vyqv,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,1,AutoModerator,1669640412.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,1,AutoModerator,2022-11-28 13:00:12 RedPillWives,z5cxmw,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1669483808.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-11-26 17:30:08 RedPillWives,z5703i,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,0,AutoModerator,1669467608.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,0,AutoModerator,2022-11-26 13:00:08 RedPillWives,z4mmx4,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60225,7 +60225,7 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,7,AutoModerator,1669406409.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,7,AutoModerator,2022-11-25 20:00:09 RedPillWives,z316f8,Marriage Advice Please: 12 years married.,"Hi everyone, I’m 34, SO is 35. We’ve been married 12 years and have two children. I have been using advice from Laura Doyle, to help out marriage. I have taken her advice very seriously and it has had benefits. My husband left me and our kids for a week to figure out what he was wanting his life to be. Because he was having urges to want to meet and date and sleep with other women. And then when he returned he let me know how he was feeling and why. @@ -60245,31 +60245,31 @@ He didn’t ever have intimate relationships with anyone else besides me and nei As I said we are in a better place now relationship wise, but he has still not fully committed to me and he still has questions. I rarely ask him about how he’s feeling about our relationship because I am afraid. He has also said he has not cheated on me and I believe him. -Is our marriage save-able if I am the only one working on saving it?",,13,LacesBasis,1669239066.0 +Is our marriage save-able if I am the only one working on saving it?",,13,LacesBasis,2022-11-23 21:31:06 RedPillWives,z2ojjj,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1669208468.0 -RedPillWives,z2oikq,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,1669208409.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2022-11-23 13:01:08 +RedPillWives,z2oikq,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,2022-11-23 13:00:09 RedPillWives,z1szwj,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,1669122013.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,2022-11-22 13:00:13 RedPillWives,z0yeq2,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,0,AutoModerator,1669035611.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,0,AutoModerator,2022-11-21 13:00:11 RedPillWives,yzh72m,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1668879008.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-11-19 17:30:08 RedPillWives,yzb9hv,Help😂,"Ladies I need help, -I work as a carer (UK) and work 48-60 hours a week. When i come home the last thing on my mind is cleaning/cooking but then i feel guilty for my fiancé. Any advice from people who have been in a similar situation on working this many hours and still keeping a clean home?",,4,21Emily12,1668862553.0 +I work as a carer (UK) and work 48-60 hours a week. When i come home the last thing on my mind is cleaning/cooking but then i feel guilty for my fiancé. Any advice from people who have been in a similar situation on working this many hours and still keeping a clean home?",,4,21Emily12,2022-11-19 12:55:53 RedPillWives,yzbc5l,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,0,AutoModerator,1668862809.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,0,AutoModerator,2022-11-19 13:00:09 RedPillWives,yyt3m9,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60282,29 +60282,29 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,9,AutoModerator,1668801612.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,9,AutoModerator,2022-11-18 20:00:12 RedPillWives,ywspzx,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1668603669.0 -RedPillWives,ywsoxr,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,4,AutoModerator,1668603611.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2022-11-16 13:01:09 +RedPillWives,ywsoxr,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,4,AutoModerator,2022-11-16 13:00:11 RedPillWives,yvwj4s,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,1668517210.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,2022-11-15 13:00:10 RedPillWives,yuynmh,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,1,AutoModerator,1668430810.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,1,AutoModerator,2022-11-14 13:00:10 RedPillWives,ytdcc0,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1668274212.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2022-11-12 17:30:12 RedPillWives,yt6euk,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,1668258011.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,2022-11-12 13:00:11 RedPillWives,ysl9tn,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60317,29 +60317,29 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,6,AutoModerator,1668196812.0 -RedPillWives,yqic4z,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,5,AutoModerator,1667998811.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,6,AutoModerator,2022-11-11 20:00:12 +RedPillWives,yqic4z,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,5,AutoModerator,2022-11-09 13:00:11 RedPillWives,yqid7l,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1667998868.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-11-09 13:01:08 RedPillWives,yplhtl,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,1,AutoModerator,1667912409.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,1,AutoModerator,2022-11-08 13:00:09 RedPillWives,yom5g7,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,0,AutoModerator,1667826013.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,0,AutoModerator,2022-11-07 13:00:13 RedPillWives,ymrypr,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,6,AutoModerator,1667649608.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,6,AutoModerator,2022-11-05 12:00:08 RedPillWives,ymyudh,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1667665811.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2022-11-05 16:30:11 RedPillWives,ym793w,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60352,29 +60352,29 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,8,AutoModerator,1667588412.0 -RedPillWives,yk3asw,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,3,AutoModerator,1667390410.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,8,AutoModerator,2022-11-04 19:00:12 +RedPillWives,yk3asw,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,3,AutoModerator,2022-11-02 12:00:10 RedPillWives,yk3bqh,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1667390468.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2022-11-02 12:01:08 RedPillWives,yj6tvw,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,4,AutoModerator,1667304011.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,4,AutoModerator,2022-11-01 12:00:11 RedPillWives,yi9tc7,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,8,AutoModerator,1667217611.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,8,AutoModerator,2022-10-31 12:00:11 RedPillWives,ygo2fq,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1667061010.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2022-10-29 16:30:10 RedPillWives,yght82,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,1667044811.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,2022-10-29 12:00:11 RedPillWives,yfxjau,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60387,7 +60387,7 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,3,AutoModerator,1666983612.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,3,AutoModerator,2022-10-28 19:00:12 RedPillWives,yef9n6,Help! My husband and I are at a complete gridlock as it relates to personal belonging boundaries.,"Hi, this is my first post and I've heavily debated what title I should use... But that is pretty much the largest point of contention in my marriage lately. I hope this is not too long of a post but I do desire to include as much context as possible. Within the last 6-8 months my husband began reading/watching ""Red Pill/Manosphere'' content. It started with Rollo Tomasis's Book ""The Rational Male,"" Andrew Tate's Videos, Kevin Samuel's videos and other articles/opinions on this topic. After all of his research, he (for the most part) adopted this way of thinking and began implementing certain changes in our relationship. @@ -60418,29 +60418,29 @@ Are there other creative ways I can explain to my husband why I want to keep/use I need help! I am unsure how to move forward on this issue. If anyone needs me to further explain something please let me know. If anyone is moved to give me their opinion or advice please feel free to do so. I am very new to this worldview and I do not understand it well- but I am open to learning. -Thanks!",,14,Chapitta,1666835374.0 +Thanks!",,14,Chapitta,2022-10-27 01:49:34 RedPillWives,ydwclc,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1666785669.0 -RedPillWives,ydwbr7,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,1666785611.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-10-26 12:01:09 +RedPillWives,ydwbr7,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,2022-10-26 12:00:11 RedPillWives,yd32o0,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,1666699209.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,2022-10-25 12:00:09 RedPillWives,yc9d8e,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,1,AutoModerator,1666612811.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,1,AutoModerator,2022-10-24 12:00:11 RedPillWives,yas4e9,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1666456211.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-10-22 16:30:11 RedPillWives,yalwt3,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,0,AutoModerator,1666440011.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,0,AutoModerator,2022-10-22 12:00:11 RedPillWives,ya1nts,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60453,29 +60453,29 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,6,AutoModerator,1666378814.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,6,AutoModerator,2022-10-21 19:00:14 RedPillWives,y80un7,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1666180870.0 -RedPillWives,y80tni,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,0,AutoModerator,1666180812.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2022-10-19 12:01:10 +RedPillWives,y80tni,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,0,AutoModerator,2022-10-19 12:00:12 RedPillWives,y75472,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,4,AutoModerator,1666094412.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,4,AutoModerator,2022-10-18 12:00:12 RedPillWives,y69bba,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,2,AutoModerator,1666008013.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,2,AutoModerator,2022-10-17 12:00:13 RedPillWives,y4s966,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1665851411.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2022-10-15 16:30:11 RedPillWives,y4m4l7,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,0,AutoModerator,1665835210.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,0,AutoModerator,2022-10-15 12:00:10 RedPillWives,y428xr,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60488,29 +60488,29 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,2,AutoModerator,1665774014.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,2,AutoModerator,2022-10-14 19:00:14 RedPillWives,y221kk,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1665576071.0 -RedPillWives,y220ny,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,1665576014.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-10-12 12:01:11 +RedPillWives,y220ny,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,2022-10-12 12:00:14 RedPillWives,y178gm,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,1665489613.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,2022-10-11 12:00:13 RedPillWives,y0cy5i,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,5,AutoModerator,1665403215.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,5,AutoModerator,2022-10-10 12:00:15 RedPillWives,xyx0xt,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1665246612.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2022-10-08 16:30:12 RedPillWives,xyr03j,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,1665230409.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,2022-10-08 12:00:09 RedPillWives,xy78g6,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60523,29 +60523,29 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,6,AutoModerator,1665169215.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,6,AutoModerator,2022-10-07 19:00:15 RedPillWives,xw8qh9,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1664971267.0 -RedPillWives,xw8pjl,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,1664971210.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2022-10-05 12:01:07 +RedPillWives,xw8pjl,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,2022-10-05 12:00:10 RedPillWives,xvd8f9,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,4,AutoModerator,1664884812.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,4,AutoModerator,2022-10-04 12:00:12 RedPillWives,xuhh49,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,4,AutoModerator,1664798414.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,4,AutoModerator,2022-10-03 12:00:14 RedPillWives,xszpf7,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1664641812.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2022-10-01 16:30:12 RedPillWives,xsti6o,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,2,AutoModerator,1664625610.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,2,AutoModerator,2022-10-01 12:00:10 RedPillWives,xs9h1z,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60558,32 +60558,32 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,4,AutoModerator,1664564412.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,4,AutoModerator,2022-09-30 19:00:12 RedPillWives,xrooa8,How many of you guys dye your hair/have alt girl styles yet are still conservative?,"Im asking because most girls I met like this are typically immature, rude, and very opinionated ""lefties"". Does this type of RPgirl exist? PS I don't mean to offend anybody with this question sorry if it sounds rude. -\-examples include out there clothes, sublte unnatural (blue, purple, etc.) hair color, dreamcatchers (sounds wierd to include but seems pretty popular), and artsy personalities. ",,28,HanzEscalation,1664501286.0 -RedPillWives,xqasel,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,3,AutoModerator,1664366411.0 +\-examples include out there clothes, sublte unnatural (blue, purple, etc.) hair color, dreamcatchers (sounds wierd to include but seems pretty popular), and artsy personalities. ",,28,HanzEscalation,2022-09-30 01:28:06 +RedPillWives,xqasel,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,3,AutoModerator,2022-09-28 12:00:11 RedPillWives,xqatbz,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1664366469.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2022-09-28 12:01:09 RedPillWives,xpesj6,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,1,AutoModerator,1664280011.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,1,AutoModerator,2022-09-27 12:00:11 RedPillWives,xohagg,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,0,AutoModerator,1664193612.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,0,AutoModerator,2022-09-26 12:00:12 RedPillWives,xmxb23,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1664037012.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-09-24 16:30:12 RedPillWives,xmqz41,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,0,AutoModerator,1664020810.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,0,AutoModerator,2022-09-24 12:00:10 RedPillWives,xm63es,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60596,36 +60596,36 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,7,AutoModerator,1663959617.0 -RedPillWives,xk2xfn,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,3,AutoModerator,1663761614.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,7,AutoModerator,2022-09-23 19:00:17 +RedPillWives,xk2xfn,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,3,AutoModerator,2022-09-21 12:00:14 RedPillWives,xk2yh8,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1663761671.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-09-21 12:01:11 RedPillWives,xj6v9f,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,8,AutoModerator,1663675211.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,8,AutoModerator,2022-09-20 12:00:11 RedPillWives,xi9zuc,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,4,AutoModerator,1663588815.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,4,AutoModerator,2022-09-19 12:00:15 RedPillWives,xgrlam,Communities That Promote Big Families,"Ladies, Is anyone able to direct me to a community/ communities that promote big families? Alternatively; where could I find women who share my desire for a big family? Anything would be great. -All I can find are subreddits for people who hate the idea of kids/big families",,5,ghjkfhjkdnsn,1663433623.0 +All I can find are subreddits for people who hate the idea of kids/big families",,5,ghjkfhjkdnsn,2022-09-17 16:53:43 RedPillWives,xgkmez,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,4,AutoModerator,1663416009.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,4,AutoModerator,2022-09-17 12:00:09 RedPillWives,xgr01p,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1663432212.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2022-09-17 16:30:12 RedPillWives,xfzuha,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60638,29 +60638,29 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,4,AutoModerator,1663354814.0 -RedPillWives,xe03tc,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,6,AutoModerator,1663156815.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,4,AutoModerator,2022-09-16 19:00:14 +RedPillWives,xe03tc,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,6,AutoModerator,2022-09-14 12:00:15 RedPillWives,xe04qk,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1663156870.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2022-09-14 12:01:10 RedPillWives,xd5lqu,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,5,AutoModerator,1663070409.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,5,AutoModerator,2022-09-13 12:00:09 RedPillWives,xcawyt,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,4,AutoModerator,1662984015.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,4,AutoModerator,2022-09-12 12:00:15 RedPillWives,xatkzj,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1662827410.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2022-09-10 16:30:10 RedPillWives,xanmoj,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,1662811211.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,2022-09-10 12:00:11 RedPillWives,xa3kgq,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60673,29 +60673,29 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,14,AutoModerator,1662750016.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,14,AutoModerator,2022-09-09 19:00:16 RedPillWives,x83b4u,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1662552070.0 -RedPillWives,x83a9h,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,2,AutoModerator,1662552013.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-09-07 12:01:10 +RedPillWives,x83a9h,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,2,AutoModerator,2022-09-07 12:00:13 RedPillWives,x78qor,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,4,AutoModerator,1662465613.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,4,AutoModerator,2022-09-06 12:00:13 RedPillWives,x6eg2h,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,6,AutoModerator,1662379215.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,6,AutoModerator,2022-09-05 12:00:15 RedPillWives,x4yk9y,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1662222613.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2022-09-03 16:30:13 RedPillWives,x4spup,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,1662206411.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,2022-09-03 12:00:11 RedPillWives,x49js6,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60708,34 +60708,34 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,6,AutoModerator,1662145214.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,6,AutoModerator,2022-09-02 19:00:14 RedPillWives,x35saf,"Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative Politics","RPW is for anyone who seeks a happy, healthy, gender normative relationship with a solid man. Buuuut we do tend to draw many women who are anti-feminist or christian or conservative. This is a weekly space for you to talk about what's on your mind on those topics. It is not a space for debate from the opposition. While all women are welcome on RPW, we are carving out this weekly post for the women who might have trouble finding other spaces to share their thoughts. Kind and curious engagement is encouraged. Bans from outsiders will be issued liberally. -It is a space for women to discuss ideas that are outside of the mainstream but very common in the RPW sphere. Is there a news story that's bugging you? Having shower thoughts about an article of your faith? This is the place to chat, post and share.",,1,blushingoleander,1662033613.0 -RedPillWives,x2bryg,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,4,AutoModerator,1661947216.0 +It is a space for women to discuss ideas that are outside of the mainstream but very common in the RPW sphere. Is there a news story that's bugging you? Having shower thoughts about an article of your faith? This is the place to chat, post and share.",,1,blushingoleander,2022-09-01 12:00:13 +RedPillWives,x2bryg,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,4,AutoModerator,2022-08-31 12:00:16 RedPillWives,x2bss8,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1661947271.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-08-31 12:01:11 RedPillWives,x1h7sl,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,4,AutoModerator,1661860814.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,4,AutoModerator,2022-08-30 12:00:14 RedPillWives,x0mxje,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,2,AutoModerator,1661774415.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,2,AutoModerator,2022-08-29 12:00:15 RedPillWives,wz14nt,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,5,AutoModerator,1661601609.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,5,AutoModerator,2022-08-27 12:00:09 RedPillWives,wz7324,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,0,blushingoleander,1661617811.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,0,blushingoleander,2022-08-27 16:30:11 RedPillWives,wym90u,My husband keeps swearing at me,"We keep clashing. It's been especially bad for the last 17 months, ever since we had our baby. Tonight he told me I was ""talking a bunch of shit"". @@ -60762,7 +60762,7 @@ We have a 17 month old baby together. We have been together since I was 18 (I'm I want it to work out, I just don't know if it can. I don't want to rip my family apart, but in the meantime I don't want my self esteem to be ripped to shreds either. -Advice - help?",,22,mujercatolica,1661553134.0 +Advice - help?",,22,mujercatolica,2022-08-26 22:32:14 RedPillWives,wyhant,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60775,34 +60775,34 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,2,AutoModerator,1661540414.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,2,AutoModerator,2022-08-26 19:00:14 RedPillWives,wxcbkv,"Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative Politics","RPW is for anyone who seeks a happy, healthy, gender normative relationship with a solid man. Buuuut we do tend to draw many women who are anti-feminist or christian or conservative. This is a weekly space for you to talk about what's on your mind on those topics. It is not a space for debate from the opposition. While all women are welcome on RPW, we are carving out this weekly post for the women who might have trouble finding other spaces to share their thoughts. Kind and curious engagement is encouraged. Bans from outsiders will be issued liberally. -It is a space for women to discuss ideas that are outside of the mainstream but very common in the RPW sphere. Is there a news story that's bugging you? Having shower thoughts about an article of your faith? This is the place to chat, post and share.",,6,blushingoleander,1661428813.0 -RedPillWives,wwhoi7,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,5,AutoModerator,1661342411.0 +It is a space for women to discuss ideas that are outside of the mainstream but very common in the RPW sphere. Is there a news story that's bugging you? Having shower thoughts about an article of your faith? This is the place to chat, post and share.",,6,blushingoleander,2022-08-25 12:00:13 +RedPillWives,wwhoi7,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,5,AutoModerator,2022-08-24 12:00:11 RedPillWives,wwhpfl,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1661342468.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-08-24 12:01:08 RedPillWives,wvmxmm,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,4,AutoModerator,1661256010.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,4,AutoModerator,2022-08-23 12:00:10 RedPillWives,wurpdh,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,6,AutoModerator,1661169613.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,6,AutoModerator,2022-08-22 12:00:13 RedPillWives,wtb97o,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1661013008.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2022-08-20 16:30:08 RedPillWives,wt5dz7,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,1660996810.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,2022-08-20 12:00:10 RedPillWives,wslyiv,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60815,34 +60815,34 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,10,AutoModerator,1660935613.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,10,AutoModerator,2022-08-19 19:00:13 RedPillWives,wrhpii,"Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative Politics","RPW is for anyone who seeks a happy, healthy, gender normative relationship with a solid man. Buuuut we do tend to draw many women who are anti-feminist or christian or conservative. This is a weekly space for you to talk about what's on your mind on those topics. It is not a space for debate from the opposition. While all women are welcome on RPW, we are carving out this weekly post for the women who might have trouble finding other spaces to share their thoughts. Kind and curious engagement is encouraged. Bans from outsiders will be issued liberally. -It is a space for women to discuss ideas that are outside of the mainstream but very common in the RPW sphere. Is there a news story that's bugging you? Having shower thoughts about an article of your faith? This is the place to chat, post and share.",,6,blushingoleander,1660824011.0 +It is a space for women to discuss ideas that are outside of the mainstream but very common in the RPW sphere. Is there a news story that's bugging you? Having shower thoughts about an article of your faith? This is the place to chat, post and share.",,6,blushingoleander,2022-08-18 12:00:11 RedPillWives,wqn60z,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1660737669.0 -RedPillWives,wqn55x,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,1660737612.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-08-17 12:01:09 +RedPillWives,wqn55x,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,1,AutoModerator,2022-08-17 12:00:12 RedPillWives,wpsgac,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,10,AutoModerator,1660651212.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,10,AutoModerator,2022-08-16 12:00:12 RedPillWives,woxt38,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,3,AutoModerator,1660564812.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,3,AutoModerator,2022-08-15 12:00:12 RedPillWives,wnikj6,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1660408207.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-08-13 16:30:07 RedPillWives,wncv4r,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,1660392009.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,2022-08-13 12:00:09 RedPillWives,wmt345,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60855,37 +60855,37 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,9,AutoModerator,1660330813.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,9,AutoModerator,2022-08-12 19:00:13 RedPillWives,wlpnfm,"Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative Politics","RPW is for anyone who seeks a happy, healthy, gender normative relationship with a solid man. Buuuut we do tend to draw many women who are anti-feminist or christian or conservative. This is a weekly space for you to talk about what's on your mind on those topics. It is not a space for debate from the opposition. While all women are welcome on RPW, we are carving out this weekly post for the women who might have trouble finding other spaces to share their thoughts. Kind and curious engagement is encouraged. Bans from outsiders will be issued liberally. -It is a space for women to discuss ideas that are outside of the mainstream but very common in the RPW sphere. Is there a news story that's bugging you? Having shower thoughts about an article of your faith? This is the place to chat, post and share.",,10,blushingoleander,1660219212.0 +It is a space for women to discuss ideas that are outside of the mainstream but very common in the RPW sphere. Is there a news story that's bugging you? Having shower thoughts about an article of your faith? This is the place to chat, post and share.",,10,blushingoleander,2022-08-11 12:00:12 RedPillWives,wkvmcs,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1660132867.0 -RedPillWives,wkvlfx,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,3,AutoModerator,1660132813.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-08-10 12:01:07 +RedPillWives,wkvlfx,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,3,AutoModerator,2022-08-10 12:00:13 RedPillWives,wk1h9c,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,1660046410.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,0,AutoModerator,2022-08-09 12:00:10 RedPillWives,wjfhae,My husband is on a week long work trip. I would appreciate any advice on how to handle the week and his return.,"My husband (40) usually works from home and I (39) am a very happy SAHM to our three boys (9,7,5). We are very close and spend a lot of time together. This is his first trip away from us and we will be missing each other greatly. I want to handle it with grace and make him feel comfortable and confident to travel again when needed. I want him to feel loved and appreciated while away as well. I was wondering what I can do while he is away to show this and what special ways I can celebrate his return. -Any tips and advice is welcome, thank you!",,14,CristinaET,1659981462.0 +Any tips and advice is welcome, thank you!",,14,CristinaET,2022-08-08 17:57:42 RedPillWives,wj72g1,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,1,AutoModerator,1659960013.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,1,AutoModerator,2022-08-08 12:00:13 RedPillWives,whmo8h,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,2,AutoModerator,1659787209.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,2,AutoModerator,2022-08-06 12:00:09 RedPillWives,whsb9h,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1659803410.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2022-08-06 16:30:10 RedPillWives,whbbd6,Secret Redditting Technique,"Most people use apps to Reddit. This doesn't help with that. And if you use the redesign (does anyone use the redesign?) you are out of luck. @@ -60894,7 +60894,7 @@ But if you want to see everything that is going on on a sub, you can add ""comme This shows you everything that is being said in all the different threads. I was gifted this information by a wise woman (PhantomDream09) in the way way back times. It's useful for moderating but it's also helpful with all the automatic posts that we have set up. You can see what is going on without going into every new post individually. -This has been a public service announcement.",,15,blushingoleander,1659747186.0 +This has been a public service announcement.",,15,blushingoleander,2022-08-06 00:53:06 RedPillWives,wh3fio,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60907,27 +60907,27 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,7,AutoModerator,1659726011.0 -RedPillWives,wf4ra8,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,7,AutoModerator,1659528012.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,7,AutoModerator,2022-08-05 19:00:11 +RedPillWives,wf4ra8,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,7,AutoModerator,2022-08-03 12:00:12 RedPillWives,wf4s4u,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1659528069.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-08-03 12:01:09 RedPillWives,we9tn4,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,4,AutoModerator,1659441611.0 -RedPillWives,wd1ny1,Boundaries,,https://i.redd.it/8glbvuydjze91.png,48,blushingoleander,1659308776.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,4,AutoModerator,2022-08-02 12:00:11 +RedPillWives,wd1ny1,Boundaries,,https://i.redd.it/8glbvuydjze91.png,48,blushingoleander,2022-07-31 23:06:16 RedPillWives,wc1enz,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1659198610.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2022-07-30 16:30:10 RedPillWives,wbvwi4,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,1659182410.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,2022-07-30 12:00:10 RedPillWives,wbcuts,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60940,34 +60940,34 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,11,AutoModerator,1659121216.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,11,AutoModerator,2022-07-29 19:00:16 RedPillWives,wa811l,"Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative Politics","RPW is for anyone who seeks a happy, healthy, gender normative relationship with a solid man. Buuuut we do tend to draw many women who are anti-feminist or christian or conservative. This is a weekly space for you to talk about what's on your mind on those topics. It is not a space for debate from the opposition. While all women are welcome on RPW, we are carving out this weekly post for the women who might have trouble finding other spaces to share their thoughts. Kind and curious engagement is encouraged. Bans from outsiders will be issued liberally. -It is a space for women to discuss ideas that are outside of the mainstream but very common in the RPW sphere. Is there a news story that's bugging you? Having shower thoughts about an article of your faith? This is the place to chat, post and share.",,9,blushingoleander,1659009613.0 -RedPillWives,w9cvjf,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,7,AutoModerator,1658923211.0 +It is a space for women to discuss ideas that are outside of the mainstream but very common in the RPW sphere. Is there a news story that's bugging you? Having shower thoughts about an article of your faith? This is the place to chat, post and share.",,9,blushingoleander,2022-07-28 12:00:13 +RedPillWives,w9cvjf,Casual Questions,Do you have relationship questions that don't warrant a full post? Here is the place to ask. Once per week ask your low key questions and we will answer.,,7,AutoModerator,2022-07-27 12:00:11 RedPillWives,w9cwgy,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1658923270.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-07-27 12:01:10 RedPillWives,w8hxfq,The Cute Kid Report,"Do you have cute kids? I do! Oh and sometimes, I have demon children that absolutely take after their father. What did you kids do that was adorable this week? What are your current trials and tribulations of motherhood? What parenthood questions do you just not want to ask your blue pilled friends? -Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,6,AutoModerator,1658836814.0 +Here is a space for all things motherhood, pregnancy and parenting.",,6,AutoModerator,2022-07-26 12:00:14 RedPillWives,w7lxxo,Relationship Challenge Field Reports,"Tell us what challenge you have chosen this week and how it worked out for you. Let us know the good and the not so good. -And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,3,AutoModerator,1658746812.0 +And if you haven't done your challenge yet, don't worry, you have until Friday when we start with next week's challenges.",,3,AutoModerator,2022-07-25 11:00:12 RedPillWives,w681i4,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,10,blushingoleander,1658593811.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,10,blushingoleander,2022-07-23 16:30:11 RedPillWives,w62cj8,Shit Post Saturdays," Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. -Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,1658577611.0 +Have fun and let's all laugh together!",,1,AutoModerator,2022-07-23 12:00:11 RedPillWives,w5ipr5,It's quiet in here - Part 2,"So I finally sat down at my computer. Wait scratch that, I finally have a computer to sit down at. I finally sat down and reviewed the discussion that we had a few weeks ago. I've scheduled a handful of weekly posts (I had to turn on new Reddit to do it. The things I do for you :-P) @@ -60986,7 +60986,7 @@ In addition, link posting and image posting are turned on. This sub is not limit &#x200B; -All this is on a test run, we have so much room here to develop a community that we want to see. I am always open to feedback and suggestions.",,25,blushingoleander,1658517125.0 +All this is on a test run, we have so much room here to develop a community that we want to see. I am always open to feedback and suggestions.",,25,blushingoleander,2022-07-22 19:12:05 RedPillWives,w5ifeb,The Good Wife Weekly Challenge,"Every Friday we will ask the community to suggest a weekly relationship or personal improvement challenge. This should be something small that can be accomplished in a week that will make your relationship just a little bit better. Anyone can suggest challenges below. You are then encouraged to pick what you think would be best for you and your relationship this week and make it a goal. Then on Monday, a ""report back"" post will pop up. You have until next Friday to give us the update on how your challenge went. And hey, if it's bigger than a comment - feel free to write a field report! @@ -60999,39 +60999,39 @@ A few suggestions to get everyone started: &#x200B; -*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,15,AutoModerator,1658516412.0 -RedPillWives,w40wxq,Course on feminine archetype?,Has anyone ever looked into the feminine archetypes and done a course on your archetype from Women Love Power? I think it s a bit otro fue so I’m hesitating but haven’t found any other course on it. Do you have any suggestions?,,11,Snucontreras,1658359772.0 +*The goal of these challenges should be to try things you might not normally do and observe how they help impact your relationship. You can suggest a challenge that you want to try or that you already do but think will help others. Let's all work together to make our relationships more fulfilling.*",,15,AutoModerator,2022-07-22 19:00:12 +RedPillWives,w40wxq,Course on feminine archetype?,Has anyone ever looked into the feminine archetypes and done a course on your archetype from Women Love Power? I think it s a bit otro fue so I’m hesitating but haven’t found any other course on it. Do you have any suggestions?,,11,Snucontreras,2022-07-20 23:29:32 RedPillWives,w3kk55,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1658318471.0 -RedPillWives,w1x3nb,I want to feel more feminine,,/r/femininity/comments/w1w89m/i_want_to_feel_more_feminine/,10,Dapper-Reality-418,1658144149.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2022-07-20 12:01:11 +RedPillWives,w1x3nb,I want to feel more feminine,,/r/femininity/comments/w1w89m/i_want_to_feel_more_feminine/,10,Dapper-Reality-418,2022-07-18 11:35:49 RedPillWives,w0kiee,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1657989008.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-07-16 16:30:08 RedPillWives,vy1iz6,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,7,blushingoleander,1657713670.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,7,blushingoleander,2022-07-13 12:01:10 RedPillWives,vwm5zd,Cleaning… help!,"Hello all! I have been struggling lately with keeping up with all the housework and keeping our home neat. I try my best to stay up to date on laundry and dishes, but other little things seem to slip through the cracks. 1. Do any of you have advice for keeping a tidy home? 2. What are some things that can help a room look more pulled together/less cluttered? -3. Any favorite cleaning products or methods around the house that can help keep things fresh?",,11,Scared-Tea-8911,1657556014.0 +3. Any favorite cleaning products or methods around the house that can help keep things fresh?",,11,Scared-Tea-8911,2022-07-11 16:13:34 RedPillWives,vv5fnp,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,9,blushingoleander,1657384208.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,9,blushingoleander,2022-07-09 16:30:08 RedPillWives,vsply3,Dealing with menopause,"Hi all, -I’m 51 y/o dealing with menopause and find myself getting insecure and anxious over a waning sex drive. I’ve been with my husband for 28 years and he has the virility and sex drive of a 20 Y/o. I’ve always been very sexual and spontaneous with him. Any advice regarding health,mindset , etc. is much appreciated. Currently we make love three times a week.",,7,tiffinyvillar,1657112774.0 +I’m 51 y/o dealing with menopause and find myself getting insecure and anxious over a waning sex drive. I’ve been with my husband for 28 years and he has the virility and sex drive of a 20 Y/o. I’ve always been very sexual and spontaneous with him. Any advice regarding health,mindset , etc. is much appreciated. Currently we make love three times a week.",,7,tiffinyvillar,2022-07-06 13:06:14 RedPillWives,vsocrv,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1657108868.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2022-07-06 12:01:08 RedPillWives,vpvim3,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1656779409.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2022-07-02 16:30:09 RedPillWives,vne504,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1656504068.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-06-29 12:01:08 RedPillWives,vmat6y,It's quite quiet in here,"Hi Everyone, It's been pretty dead in here lately. Maybe we can do something to get things moving again. @@ -61040,13 +61040,13 @@ Who are you and what brings you to RPWives? What sort of stuff would you like to I'll admit that I'm a bit of an absentee landlord over here but so many women on *that other sub* crave a female space without too many menfolk interfering. We have the opportunity to be that if we put our heads together. -Tell me what you are thinking...",,39,blushingoleander,1656379178.0 +Tell me what you are thinking...",,39,blushingoleander,2022-06-28 01:19:38 RedPillWives,vkiqc7,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1656174610.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-06-25 16:30:10 RedPillWives,vi3ked,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1655899269.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-06-22 12:01:09 RedPillWives,vf8to4,Struggling with competing RP advice on when to have sex,"I know this is such a common topic, but I was hoping y’all could help set me straight on how to think about it. There is an article somewhere in our milieu that argues that if you have previously “given it up” quickly to guys, then strategically you kind of have to continue to do that with new guys you date, because if they discovered that you made them wait but didn’t in the past they’ll have their masculine pride wounded. @@ -61060,10 +61060,10 @@ Specifically, I’m an attractive, feminine, but modern and secular girl. I’m When/if the topic came up I explained that the I did it differently this time because I just was enjoying the game of flirting and did what felt right to me— as opposed to making it seem like I imposed an arbitrary rule only on him— would that help? Signed, -A girl who’s tired of letting the advice of questionable dudes on the internet live rent free in my head and needs help slaying some hamsters.",,16,dabadeedabadaa,1655566880.0 +A girl who’s tired of letting the advice of questionable dudes on the internet live rent free in my head and needs help slaying some hamsters.",,16,dabadeedabadaa,2022-06-18 15:41:20 RedPillWives,vf9sz6,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1655569811.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2022-06-18 16:30:11 RedPillWives,veeqz6,Cycle of fighting off and on after birth of second child,"This sucks. I feel like I tried my best to set us up for success before our second baby came (he is 6 weeks old). I determined the several things that would help me feel supported. I typed out a (well received) short list for him because he doesn’t have a great memory. The only chores that have always been designated as his are taking out the trash and mowing the lawn. He thought the list was great and said he was happy to do these few things. Well, he never did them until I freaked out a few times. Now he’s unloading the dishwasher and sometimes offers to watch the kids while I shower. He does check on me and offer to get me water while I’m nursing sometimes. And he takes our toddler outside for about 30 minutes almost daily. @@ -61072,87 +61072,87 @@ We’re fighting every few days. This morning, our baby woke up around 5:30 and I understand that the person I become when I yell is undesirable but I’m tired and angry and sad and lonely. I try my best to be a woman he wants to support but I just feel like I can’t. I do feel like I’m doing a great job handling so much in my own. But then I’m not good enough as hard as I try and I wind up melting down. How am I supposed to avoid this burn out cycle if he’s not willing to help. He’s only interested in working (he’s building a business right now) He doesn’t even really spend much time with our brand new baby. He spent so much time with our first. -He is really a great man. And a good dad. We’re all really lucky and I know this is a hard time but wtf. What can I do? I understand he has a lot of stress right now but if I’m getting little sleep and he’s regularly getting 8 hours, that seems to be an indication that there’s an imbalance. It doesn’t feel fair, please help",,8,lookylolo,1655476938.0 +He is really a great man. And a good dad. We’re all really lucky and I know this is a hard time but wtf. What can I do? I understand he has a lot of stress right now but if I’m getting little sleep and he’s regularly getting 8 hours, that seems to be an indication that there’s an imbalance. It doesn’t feel fair, please help",,8,lookylolo,2022-06-17 14:42:18 RedPillWives,vcsvvm,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1655294469.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2022-06-15 12:01:09 RedPillWives,vaj2x7,Books about emotional awareness and inner femininity?,"Hi ladies! I’ve been in a heartfelt journey understanding my femininity beyond the physical and mental practice to something more emotional. I’ve realised in recent years I may have very feminine appearances, manners and whatnot but I struggle with vulnerability and earnest communication…this is something I’ll expand upon in my blog eventually, but I feel there’s more learning to do… I’ve read: Fascinating Womanhood/series, Attached, Daring Greatly - does anyone have further suggestions? Not books about feminine attitude exactly but the mentality and emotional depth, especially in navigating relationships (all kinds and not merely romantic) and communication, wholeheartedness. -Thank you ✨",,16,ThatStepfordGal,1655029308.0 +Thank you ✨",,16,ThatStepfordGal,2022-06-12 10:21:48 RedPillWives,va15l6,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1654965010.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2022-06-11 16:30:10 RedPillWives,v7nyex,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,8,blushingoleander,1654689669.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,8,blushingoleander,2022-06-08 12:01:09 RedPillWives,v4sgcv,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1654360210.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2022-06-04 16:30:10 RedPillWives,v2fc43,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1654084870.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2022-06-01 12:01:10 RedPillWives,uzqvf2,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,11,blushingoleander,1653755410.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,11,blushingoleander,2022-05-28 16:30:10 RedPillWives,uxfski,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,7,blushingoleander,1653480068.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,7,blushingoleander,2022-05-25 12:01:08 RedPillWives,uuqnif,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1653150611.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-05-21 16:30:11 RedPillWives,utkclw,"For those who are genuinely happy with their careers, what do you do?","I have a nice job (lawyer), but lately I’ve been feeling disconnected from it. Like I don’t really “help” anyone and it fills me with sadness. I’m curious about those of you who are happy with your jobs. I know this is very personal, but I’m open to suggestions, actually I want to change careers. -What do you do? I’m open to be a SAHM as well, just want to see the honest replies.",,24,acgs1995,1653017387.0 +What do you do? I’m open to be a SAHM as well, just want to see the honest replies.",,24,acgs1995,2022-05-20 03:29:47 RedPillWives,usb8oc,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,13,blushingoleander,1652875270.0 -RedPillWives,ur2kqt,When self-care feels like a chore," I'm wondering how women prioritize self-care without feeling like it's a chore. Personally, anything more than basic hygiene feels like a ridiculous amount of effort. I'm lucky if I manage to put on makeup or even shave my legs once per week! I have definitely felt a stronger pull towards looking more put together, and I've always been drawn to a more feminine appearance, but it seems like whenever I try I give up because it's ""too much work"". Any advice or tips?",,17,[deleted],1652725711.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,13,blushingoleander,2022-05-18 12:01:10 +RedPillWives,ur2kqt,When self-care feels like a chore," I'm wondering how women prioritize self-care without feeling like it's a chore. Personally, anything more than basic hygiene feels like a ridiculous amount of effort. I'm lucky if I manage to put on makeup or even shave my legs once per week! I have definitely felt a stronger pull towards looking more put together, and I've always been drawn to a more feminine appearance, but it seems like whenever I try I give up because it's ""too much work"". Any advice or tips?",,17,[deleted],2022-05-16 18:28:31 RedPillWives,upkv6v,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1652545810.0 -RedPillWives,un5ubt,Any other Fascinating Womanhood wives out there?,Just that really - any ladies that follow FW in their life & relationship?,,25,homekeepingheart,1652261029.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2022-05-14 16:30:10 +RedPillWives,un5ubt,Any other Fascinating Womanhood wives out there?,Just that really - any ladies that follow FW in their life & relationship?,,25,homekeepingheart,2022-05-11 09:23:49 RedPillWives,un87bn,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1652270468.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2022-05-11 12:01:08 RedPillWives,ukgy04,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1651941011.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2022-05-07 16:30:11 RedPillWives,ui4y9k,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,7,blushingoleander,1651665669.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,7,blushingoleander,2022-05-04 12:01:09 RedPillWives,ufen58,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,7,blushingoleander,1651336211.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,7,blushingoleander,2022-04-30 16:30:11 RedPillWives,ud1wcp,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,7,blushingoleander,1651060868.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,7,blushingoleander,2022-04-27 12:01:08 RedPillWives,uagkow,Underwear Game,"It's (long past) time for me to get new bras/underwear, and I want to up my underclothing game. I buy my bras from one of those stores where you get properly fitted, and I'd like to get matching sets. However the sets all seem to have full coverage panties, whereas I prefer thongs so I don't have a visible panty line. Which means I could just buy black/beige/white bras and buy thongs separately, but that seems a shame when there are so many pretty patterns out there! -So I'm looking for solutions to my first world problem, but also just general inspiration. I'd love to hear about your undergarment wardrobe, underwear philosophy, and anything else related to under things!",,8,[deleted],1650753292.0 +So I'm looking for solutions to my first world problem, but also just general inspiration. I'd love to hear about your undergarment wardrobe, underwear philosophy, and anything else related to under things!",,8,[deleted],2022-04-23 22:34:52 RedPillWives,uadw5i,How to cut my hair to *exude* femininity,"Long or lob? -When I style my long hair it doesn't last longer than half the day. I could easily style lob everyday but is it less femenine? I feel like I can't get real answers anywhere else.",,6,Smoltardigrade,1650745120.0 +When I style my long hair it doesn't last longer than half the day. I could easily style lob everyday but is it less femenine? I feel like I can't get real answers anywhere else.",,6,Smoltardigrade,2022-04-23 20:18:40 RedPillWives,ua9717,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1650731409.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-04-23 16:30:09 RedPillWives,u9elg2,Feeling like a proud SAHM.,"My husband had some coworkers over the other night and they all commented on how well kept the house was, and how my husband was so lucky to have a wife like me! It made me feel so good! I take a lot of pride in keeping my house clean. I feel like your house should be your sanctuary, and if you're looking around at clutter everywhere that it can contribute to your anxiety and stress. I have a cleaning schedule where I only spend 30 minutes to 1 hour each day cleaning. I used to not do this and my house was always a wreck and so was my mind! -Anyway it felt really nice to have people notice all the work and effort I put into my home especially with having a toddler that is like a mini tornado always running through the house lol.",,87,Nobunnyashh,1650633821.0 +Anyway it felt really nice to have people notice all the work and effort I put into my home especially with having a toddler that is like a mini tornado always running through the house lol.",,87,Nobunnyashh,2022-04-22 13:23:41 RedPillWives,u7uva1,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1650456068.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2022-04-20 12:01:08 RedPillWives,u51gks,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1650126610.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-04-16 16:30:10 RedPillWives,u3ipyn,How do you get back to *feeling* like things in your relationship are ok?,"Married 10 years, both 34, been reading RP content for maybe a year?  From the book list here at RPWives, I've read How to Improve Your Marriage without Talking About It, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, and The Surrendered Wife.  Our relationship is generally really good and stable. He's a really great man.  @@ -61168,10 +61168,10 @@ I've spent the past few days just being quiet and submissive and patient and ava I know how to respond to him and I know things will get better at some point.  I'm owning and apologizing for my mistakes.  I am being patient to not push him to talk about things before he's ready.  I will listen to him and not argue once he does want to talk while also calmly communicating my perspective.  After a decade of marriage, this isn't exactly my first rodeo.  It is though maybe the first time he's been so slow and deliberate and we didn't just immediately hash things out and resolve the problem.  I'm not accustomed to waiting like this.   -So what I don't know how to do is *feel* ok in the meantime.  Our kids come home tomorrow and I need to be back to happy mom.  Do I just fake it?  Or what can I focus on to feel like things are ok with all this still hanging over my head?  How do you fix your own ""feelz""?",,15,throwaway129645723,1649946289.0 +So what I don't know how to do is *feel* ok in the meantime.  Our kids come home tomorrow and I need to be back to happy mom.  Do I just fake it?  Or what can I focus on to feel like things are ok with all this still hanging over my head?  How do you fix your own ""feelz""?",,15,throwaway129645723,2022-04-14 14:24:49 RedPillWives,u2op9q,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1649851268.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-04-13 12:01:08 RedPillWives,u0pzfb,Help Needed with Addressing His Health," * **How old are you (and how old is your partner) and how familiar are you with RPW?** \- We are both 38 and I'm a novice but trying to be as mindful of it as possible within my marriage. @@ -61185,10 +61185,10 @@ RedPillWives,u0pzfb,Help Needed with Addressing His Health," * **How long have you been together?** \- together 19 years, married 13 * **Is your relationship long-distance?** \- no -* **Do you have an active bedroom life?** \- It could be more active, though since coming to the RP side I have been making a conscious effort to initiate more and not refuse his initiation, and I do believe that the problem I'm asking about does correlate somewhat to our bedroom life.",,10,cathatesrudy,1649621736.0 +* **Do you have an active bedroom life?** \- It could be more active, though since coming to the RP side I have been making a conscious effort to initiate more and not refuse his initiation, and I do believe that the problem I'm asking about does correlate somewhat to our bedroom life.",,10,cathatesrudy,2022-04-10 20:15:36 RedPillWives,tzwsms,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1649521810.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-04-09 16:30:10 RedPillWives,typlbu,I’m grateful for this group.,"I’ve been posting on and off for the last 3-4 years. I think at some point I changed my username. I’ve been trying to decide when is the right time to post, but after what happened this evening - I thought now would be perfect. @@ -61217,16 +61217,16 @@ We’ve gotten in arguments and my husband will comment, “oh I’m sure if you While I haven’t taken all the advice I’ve gotten, it’s always made me think. So I’m glad for this group. Thanks. As for resources that helped me immensely: -The Excellent Wife (very religious), anything by Laura Doyle, the book of James and Susan Heck’s Bible study on James, Jordan Peterson, and I’m sure others I can’t think of right now.",,30,anothergoodbook,1649373453.0 +The Excellent Wife (very religious), anything by Laura Doyle, the book of James and Susan Heck’s Bible study on James, Jordan Peterson, and I’m sure others I can’t think of right now.",,30,anothergoodbook,2022-04-07 23:17:33 RedPillWives,txkjkf,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1649246468.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2022-04-06 12:01:08 RedPillWives,tv3byj,Great new homemaking YouTube channel - GWEN,"Less than 3K subscribers so far, but it's a gem -- more people should check her out. Great perspectives. Found her while searching for childless homemaker. -[https://youtu.be/SRYbgxHmP-k](https://youtu.be/SRYbgxHmP-k)",,20,rosebyanyothername1,1648969353.0 +[https://youtu.be/SRYbgxHmP-k](https://youtu.be/SRYbgxHmP-k)",,20,rosebyanyothername1,2022-04-03 07:02:33 RedPillWives,tumu6z,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1648917009.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-04-02 16:30:09 RedPillWives,tu2bvo,Faith based or spiritual weight loss?,"I was wondering if any of you ladies have taken a faith based approach to weight loss and seen any success. I know the basis is CICO but I really struggle with my impulse control and stress eating mostly. @@ -61235,10 +61235,10 @@ I am desperate at this point, and you ladies on here know the importance of keep I also struggle with my gluttony making me a “bad” woman. It’s sinful for obvious reasons but there’s also the added feeling of betraying my partner. -I was just wondering if any of you ladies have any spiritual or religious protocols that help with your weight loss?",,15,heelsarecasualwear,1648849220.0 +I was just wondering if any of you ladies have any spiritual or religious protocols that help with your weight loss?",,15,heelsarecasualwear,2022-04-01 21:40:20 RedPillWives,ts4ukd,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,7,blushingoleander,1648641669.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,7,blushingoleander,2022-03-30 12:01:09 RedPillWives,try0uk,Hiring Cleaning Services?," So I am a married mom of 3 kids, married for 16 years and I’ve always been a stay at home mom. This year my youngest started going to school full time(first grade), and I started feeling bored at home and kind of lonely being by myself all day so I got a little job for something to do/a way to socialize with people. I love it and I am able to take my kids to school, pick them up and be home whenever they are, so I work really good hours. @@ -61252,7 +61252,7 @@ I’ve never hired cleaning services before but I messaged a cleaning company th I just kind of feel a little bad about it, like kind of embarrassed that I am hiring someone to come clean my house. Do any of you here ever hire people to help out with cleaning your home? -I am hoping after tomorrow, I can better stay on top of things and teach my kids how to help out a little more.",,8,sunflowergirls85,1648613613.0 +I am hoping after tomorrow, I can better stay on top of things and teach my kids how to help out a little more.",,8,sunflowergirls85,2022-03-30 04:13:33 RedPillWives,tr0hrc,Help with emotions,"Background: Married 15 years w/4 kids, work part time outside the home. @@ -61288,7 +61288,7 @@ Any thoughts on not letting these emotions control me and regaining control? I’m not asking about how to increase our sex life - because 99.99% of advice has not helped. Once my husband gets his mind set one way, it rarely changes. And he get more stubborn the more someone tries to change him. -Thanks ❤️",,7,anothergoodbook,1648562656.0 +Thanks ❤️",,7,anothergoodbook,2022-03-29 14:04:16 RedPillWives,tqozpk,Non-Obvious Benefits to Staying at Home,"We aren’t all stay-at-home mothers or wives here. But I thought you all might be the group most likely to have thought about these things. We might also be entering a poor economy, and most of these benefits have to do with the inevitability of a SAHM’s or SAHW’s financial state. What have you discovered is an unexpected gift of being a full-time homemaker? Possible benefits: @@ -61307,7 +61307,7 @@ The last one is what I have learned recently. What does a man want a majority o I get that there are definite drawbacks to being at home. Potential stress about money, feeling down or bored, feeling insecure about what you do not have, pressure from society or family or even your spouse to earn money. Probably more. I do understand these cons. -But we do not need excess in order to be happy in the moment. Most of us want these things too, whether we are men or women. It just means that women can provide these simple pleasures at home that are sustainable for several decades or more.",,18,oliveshoot,1648518853.0 +But we do not need excess in order to be happy in the moment. Most of us want these things too, whether we are men or women. It just means that women can provide these simple pleasures at home that are sustainable for several decades or more.",,18,oliveshoot,2022-03-29 01:54:13 RedPillWives,tpmysm,My husband and I are getting divorced... I’d love some advice on healing.,"My husband told me again that he feels no attraction to me and wants a divorce. This has been an ongoing issue that never seems to fully resolve, even when i think we’ve made it past it.. so, I guess I knew it was coming, but I still feel devastated by this. I’m heartbroken and embarrassed and I just feel so lost. I believe in marriage and never even considered divorce an option. At the same time, a part of me is relieved in a way. It’s been so exhausting to constantly try to “fix” myself for someone who continuously reminds me that I’m not enough, to walk on egg shells all the time, to be constantly ridiculed by the person i love most, and I’m just... I’m so tired. @@ -61318,77 +61318,77 @@ I’d just love some hope. I feel so broken right now. Context... I’m 27. We’re going to be living together for the next few months while I find other arrangements. No kids (thank god). I’m not currently working but I’m looking/applying. I have a *lot* of healing to do, because this relationship has left me with a lot of trauma to unpack... -Thank you for any words of wisdom and just for reading this far. 🥺",,24,cheaperthantherapyyy,1648397025.0 +Thank you for any words of wisdom and just for reading this far. 🥺",,24,cheaperthantherapyyy,2022-03-27 16:03:45 RedPillWives,towoma,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1648312210.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-03-26 16:30:10 RedPillWives,tkscb8,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1648036868.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2022-03-23 12:01:08 RedPillWives,tj8q9x,Reducing Work Hours as a Wife,"Hey Ladies ~ I've been married for about a year and a half. I work full time at a hospital and between my commute and my long work hours, I'm away from the home working about 50 hours a week. Because of this, I end up having to rush home and prepare meals for my husband in the evening and spend most Saturdays doing laundry and cleaning my home. My husband does help me out and is understanding, but lately we have been discussing the option of me leaving my current position for a PRN role, which would reduce my hours to about 24-30 hours per week, and it would be at a hospital that is much closer to our house. I am a little worried about the social stigma that will come along with this. We have no children, and a lot of friends and family members have echoed that since we are young we should work and make as much money as we can. But, I know that this lifestyle shift to me having more time at home to cook, clean, run errands, manage the finances, ect would improve both me and my husband's quality of life. -Have any of you done this? What advice do you have? How did you present yourself at job interviews for part time/PRN work?",,35,Exciting_Village_809,1647858760.0 +Have any of you done this? What advice do you have? How did you present yourself at job interviews for part time/PRN work?",,35,Exciting_Village_809,2022-03-21 10:32:40 RedPillWives,tizv2q,What does an average day or week of your relationship look like?,"My husband and I are having a disagreement about how most couples (who live together) spend their time/live their lives, so in terms of your relationship... what does an average day/week look like for you? Also, how long have you been together/lived together (for context)? I’m mostly looking for how often you spend time together, both intentional (shared interests, dates, etc.) or unintentional (doing chores together, doing separate things in proximity to one another, etc.). -Thank you.",,8,cheaperthantherapyyy,1647824999.0 +Thank you.",,8,cheaperthantherapyyy,2022-03-21 01:09:59 RedPillWives,thywtj,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1647707409.0 -RedPillWives,tg16ri,it’s not a normal RPW post but this girl just landed her alpha and she’s sooo excited 🥰 when’s the last time you looked at your wedding stuff???,,https://youtu.be/VBdpWHtVnRI,8,xmissbdub,1647488824.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2022-03-19 16:30:09 +RedPillWives,tg16ri,it’s not a normal RPW post but this girl just landed her alpha and she’s sooo excited 🥰 when’s the last time you looked at your wedding stuff???,,https://youtu.be/VBdpWHtVnRI,8,xmissbdub,2022-03-17 03:47:04 RedPillWives,tfg102,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,8,blushingoleander,1647432069.0 -RedPillWives,teqmaf,"hi there fellow beautiful women. i am a new fan /obsessed with Laura doyle and I read her book ""the empowered wife"", i was looking for fellow non-judgmental women willing to create a free surrender circle on discord??",,,12,toto332,1647355527.0 -RedPillWives,tcnwxe,"Dear fellow red pill women, I have a question! now there is an amazing man who I’m dating but I’m not sure how to tell him I want to be a traditional wife. My mom was a homemaker and possibly I’d love to be one as well. How did you fellow women told this to your partners?",,,13,Hopecreatesmagic,1647110559.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,8,blushingoleander,2022-03-16 12:01:09 +RedPillWives,teqmaf,"hi there fellow beautiful women. i am a new fan /obsessed with Laura doyle and I read her book ""the empowered wife"", i was looking for fellow non-judgmental women willing to create a free surrender circle on discord??",,,12,toto332,2022-03-15 14:45:27 +RedPillWives,tcnwxe,"Dear fellow red pill women, I have a question! now there is an amazing man who I’m dating but I’m not sure how to tell him I want to be a traditional wife. My mom was a homemaker and possibly I’d love to be one as well. How did you fellow women told this to your partners?",,,13,Hopecreatesmagic,2022-03-12 18:42:39 RedPillWives,tclx6i,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1647106211.0 -RedPillWives,tadqc9,"Lol, isn’t this Laura Doyle’s advice???",,/r/toddlers/comments/tacwdd/toddler_says_i_cant_every_time_shes_asked_to_do/,19,lookylolo,1646849185.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2022-03-12 17:30:11 +RedPillWives,tadqc9,"Lol, isn’t this Laura Doyle’s advice???",,/r/toddlers/comments/tacwdd/toddler_says_i_cant_every_time_shes_asked_to_do/,19,lookylolo,2022-03-09 18:06:25 RedPillWives,ta7a5c,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1646830868.0 -RedPillWives,t8qns0,"Mothers, are you worried your role model position is being tainted by various forms of media telling your daughter to ""otherwise""",Young girls are in a much more compromising situation than we were at their age.,,32,RookeyReviews,1646664051.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2022-03-09 13:01:08 +RedPillWives,t8qns0,"Mothers, are you worried your role model position is being tainted by various forms of media telling your daughter to ""otherwise""",Young girls are in a much more compromising situation than we were at their age.,,32,RookeyReviews,2022-03-07 14:40:51 RedPillWives,t7edo4,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,11,blushingoleander,1646501411.0 -RedPillWives,t4ysvi,What are the most important characteristics you vet for when dating for marriage?,"The title explains it essentially, I'm curious what advice you could give me on my search for an assertive and trad man :).",,22,Spacechicken1998,1646223108.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,11,blushingoleander,2022-03-05 17:30:11 +RedPillWives,t4ysvi,What are the most important characteristics you vet for when dating for marriage?,"The title explains it essentially, I'm curious what advice you could give me on my search for an assertive and trad man :).",,22,Spacechicken1998,2022-03-02 12:11:48 RedPillWives,t4zndx,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1646226070.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-03-02 13:01:10 RedPillWives,t22bzv,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,8,blushingoleander,1645896613.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,8,blushingoleander,2022-02-26 17:30:13 RedPillWives,szgxq4,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,11,blushingoleander,1645621278.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,11,blushingoleander,2022-02-23 13:01:18 RedPillWives,swf77p,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,8,blushingoleander,1645291815.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,8,blushingoleander,2022-02-19 17:30:15 RedPillWives,suydwu,What fictional character inspired you to embrace your femininity/reject feminism?,"What fictional female (or male👀) character made you realize the errors in modern feminism? Who spurred you in your journey to become feminine? -Do you have a favorite fictional role model?",,6,RookeyReviews,1645129524.0 -RedPillWives,suyzb3,What can wives do to encourage spending quality time with their husband?,,,6,iHkg31f3,1645131051.0 +Do you have a favorite fictional role model?",,6,RookeyReviews,2022-02-17 20:25:24 +RedPillWives,suyzb3,What can wives do to encourage spending quality time with their husband?,,,6,iHkg31f3,2022-02-17 20:50:51 RedPillWives,stvcz7,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1645016473.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2022-02-16 13:01:13 RedPillWives,st5awg,My defensive walls are ruining the potential for a good relationship..,"Ladies.. This has been the struggle of my life. I’m a 26 year old female, mostly single but have been trying to open up and start dating seriously roughly a year and a half ago. I had a tough childhood where my parents where pretty push and pull, we always moved a lot so a strong foundation hasn’t been present in my life. To sum it up my life has been in constant motion so I’m always in protection mode to help myself from what’s coming around the corner. I’ve really dragged this baggage into my relationships. I have anxiety about how the other person is feeling about me all the time. I feel like a single sentence out of my mouth could be the end of a relationship, that the person could flip immediately and drop me. So I am on constant defense mode. As it progresses the man will start to notice and they don’t enjoy the wall that’s present. -I don’t know if you ladies have any advice on how to be more “open” with the person you are seeing. How do you dissolve past stresses/traumas and present yourself in a good fashion in front of a potential partner?",,14,United-Joke8871,1644938448.0 -RedPillWives,sr94jd,Staying Together for the Kids,deleted,,16,safeashore1992,1644723413.0 +I don’t know if you ladies have any advice on how to be more “open” with the person you are seeing. How do you dissolve past stresses/traumas and present yourself in a good fashion in front of a potential partner?",,14,United-Joke8871,2022-02-15 15:20:48 +RedPillWives,sr94jd,Staying Together for the Kids,deleted,,16,safeashore1992,2022-02-13 03:36:53 RedPillWives,sqwliu,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1644687013.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2022-02-12 17:30:13 RedPillWives,sq44b8,"Help: I've made a lot of mistakes; will my husband ever be okay, or did I break the relationship?","**Hmm** Ladies, I am experiencing a substantial emotional crisis over this, and I feel like I have no one in the real life that I can talk to— in my experience people’s advice is either unsupportive (it’s all that “you go girl! You need to do what makes YOU happy and not worry about anyone else!”) or that people just cannot relate to my outlook/goals in life (RP stuff). This is my first time posting here, I read the rules and hopefully this is okay. Please know I am just very desperate and feel so hopeless about things ever being okay. @@ -61471,34 +61471,34 @@ I feel so helpless and hopeless, and I feel like literally no one can relate to Is there any hope, or do I just need to suck it up, put my head down, and accept things for how they are? -Thanks for anything. This is the first time I have ever really told my story to anyone in all of these years.",,22,Desperate2makeitw0rk,1644598922.0 +Thanks for anything. This is the first time I have ever really told my story to anyone in all of these years.",,22,Desperate2makeitw0rk,2022-02-11 17:02:02 RedPillWives,sp6oeb,Laura Doyle (Surrendered Circle),"I’ve just recently discovered Laura Doyle’s books (The Surrendered Wife, The Empowered Wife) as well as her podcast, which is what led me to discover this group. I’m a very private person, so much so that I barely feel comfortable to talk about my husband with friends or family for fear that it could give off the wrong impression (a negative one). In other words I’m fiercely protective of him, but lately I’ve been feeling the need for some support as a means of self-care. I have plenty of irl friends, but none that I’d like to discuss my husband or any of our recent dissonance with (not to complain to; just seeking to improve myself). -So, all that being said, I saw a post from nearly a year ago about a “Surrendered Circle” group on Discord, but I wondered if it was still around or if there’s interest in starting up a new one?",,23,keepingsecrets-,1644499812.0 +So, all that being said, I saw a post from nearly a year ago about a “Surrendered Circle” group on Discord, but I wondered if it was still around or if there’s interest in starting up a new one?",,23,keepingsecrets-,2022-02-10 13:30:12 RedPillWives,sod1s0,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1644411671.0 -RedPillWives,so40rh,Just a quick question: What books are you all reading?,What books are you all reading? Any good recommendations? I didn’t see any books or reading material in the “About” section.,,10,[deleted],1644379246.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-02-09 13:01:11 +RedPillWives,so40rh,Just a quick question: What books are you all reading?,What books are you all reading? Any good recommendations? I didn’t see any books or reading material in the “About” section.,,10,[deleted],2022-02-09 04:00:46 RedPillWives,sm0hhu,No plus one?,"A mutual friend couple are having a destination wedding in September. My husband is considering (read: will be) going alone due to finances. He expressed concerns about how costly the trip will be for a family of 4 to which I responded “I hear you and I see your concern. I’m saying what’s in my heart and what I would love. And if your concern is money (which is valid) I’m asking can I help you address your concern” the next morning he still is insistent on him going alone is what it’ll have to be/make the most financial sense. 1. I’m very disappointed obviously 2. There are no financial constraints when it comes to friends (he just returned from a weekend trip with friends that was not planned ahead) 3. To address his concern if I work one extra shift before September that would address the financial aspect of the trip with no change or negative impact to where we currently are financially. I did suggest this to him (I know I know bring your captain your problem!) and he still wants to go alone to a tropical wedding of our friends. How do I express my disappointment graciously and respectfully? Any tips or guidance you ladies have? -Edit: he returned to the topic on his own and we’re now booked for the wedding.",,11,meowwrn,1644164301.0 +Edit: he returned to the topic on his own and we’re now booked for the wedding.",,11,meowwrn,2022-02-06 16:18:21 RedPillWives,slcbpe,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1644082210.0 -RedPillWives,sjbezz,How do I find married female friends like y’all in the wild?,,,33,iHkg31f3,1643867407.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2022-02-05 17:30:10 +RedPillWives,sjbezz,How do I find married female friends like y’all in the wild?,,,33,iHkg31f3,2022-02-03 05:50:07 RedPillWives,sio4ph,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,9,blushingoleander,1643806872.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,9,blushingoleander,2022-02-02 13:01:12 RedPillWives,sfmzwz,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1643477411.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2022-01-29 17:30:11 RedPillWives,sd5gwe,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1643202080.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2022-01-26 13:01:20 RedPillWives,sa7gtk,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1642872616.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2022-01-22 17:30:16 RedPillWives,sa5ony,The “You’re not entitled to sex” attitude,"Hey so I’m a guy in a relationship. Don’t know if I’m allowed to post here, but I genuinely want to hear red pill womens take in this. I completely agree that no one is entitled to someone’s body or sex at its core. Somebody can say no whenever they want, and there needs to be consent. @@ -61513,7 +61513,7 @@ Which brings me to my next point. Some women do indeed have responsive desires. I really want to know y’all’s take. What’s y’all’s position in sex for a marriage? How often should you have it? Shouldn’t both parties be up for a more spontaneous sex and romantic life? -Ps. The sex and romantic life between me and my gf is great. I do what I can to show her i love her.",,5,TallSwaggOVO,1642867650.0 +Ps. The sex and romantic life between me and my gf is great. I do what I can to show her i love her.",,5,TallSwaggOVO,2022-01-22 16:07:30 RedPillWives,s94i7v,Dealing with family and friends who do not agree with lifestyle,"Hi ladies! I am glad I found this group. My husband and I are both 33 and have been married for almost 5 years. During the beginning of our relationship I worked but after we married I became a full time homemaker. This has come with great backlash from family and friends alike. If these women downing my lifestyle are feminist aren't they supposed to be supportive of whatever I want to do? I am very frugal and low maintenance and actually have a remote part time job but at this point I don't want to even tell anyone about it after the years of ""why doesn't she have a job?"" My job has been all things homemaking and taking care of my husband not to mention taking care of myself because if I am happy then he is happy. @@ -61526,24 +61526,24 @@ Any advice on how to handle this topic with others. Thanks! \*Context\* -I came into the marriage debt free. We do not have children. No student loans, credit cards, and my car is paid off. My husband has a good job. We aren't wealthy but get by just fine. This was a mutual agreement to be traditional from the jump.",,20,Choice-String-5691,1642747223.0 +I came into the marriage debt free. We do not have children. No student loans, credit cards, and my car is paid off. My husband has a good job. We aren't wealthy but get by just fine. This was a mutual agreement to be traditional from the jump.",,20,Choice-String-5691,2022-01-21 06:40:23 RedPillWives,s837rp,I (18F) want to support my date (18m) but I’m worried he doesn’t want me!,"I am an 18F and I want to ask you all how you deal with a partner who doesn’t want to communicate with you. My date (18M) doesn’t communicate much through text. The problem is that he also has a grandma that has cancer and I want to support him. I want to be there for him, but idk if he really wants me or not. -He also hasn’t planned another date yet at all. I’m worried to leave this man because he is the only one that I have and I don’t think there are any men who want to date me. Any advice on what I should do?",,13,[deleted],1642633160.0 +He also hasn’t planned another date yet at all. I’m worried to leave this man because he is the only one that I have and I don’t think there are any men who want to date me. Any advice on what I should do?",,13,[deleted],2022-01-19 22:59:20 RedPillWives,s7pn7i,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1642597271.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2022-01-19 13:01:11 RedPillWives,s4pdt9,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1642267815.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2022-01-15 17:30:15 RedPillWives,s25qop,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1641992474.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2022-01-12 13:01:14 RedPillWives,rz519t,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1641663019.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-01-08 17:30:19 RedPillWives,rxouyt,"Advice for being more attractive to my husband, while in a body he’s not entirely attracted to?","Confusing title... I have a fair bit of weight to lose, which I’m working on doing. Of course. However, that is something that takes time, and I really want to do things to work on sex/attraction *now*, things I can do immediately to increase my husband’s attraction to me. For context, I am 26, my husband is 35. We are both heavy but working on getting in better shape. In the beginning of our relationship, the sex was off the charts for us both. His sex drive suffered due to life stress, and the feelings of rejection were a big struggle for me. Mentally, I fear rejection and don’t feel sexually attractive anymore. I struggle a lot with that. @@ -61552,19 +61552,19 @@ For context, I am 26, my husband is 35. We are both heavy but working on getting I know the obvious... keep my hair done, light mascara, nails painted, cute clothes, etc., but anything more specific. Like, attitude, how to talk to him, ways to flirt, ways to initiate without initiating (he doesn’t like anything “aggressive” or overtly sexual... he’s very traditional and likes to be the one pursuing, but I don’t quite know how to inspire him to pursue me lol). -Again, a lot of this came easy the first two years we were together, but now my self esteem has taken such a blow over the years that I don’t know how to be who I once was sexually... I’d love some help/advice. I want to feel sexy/attractive to my husband. I want to feel desired by him. Anything would help!",,42,cheaperthantherapyyy,1641502888.0 +Again, a lot of this came easy the first two years we were together, but now my self esteem has taken such a blow over the years that I don’t know how to be who I once was sexually... I’d love some help/advice. I want to feel sexy/attractive to my husband. I want to feel desired by him. Anything would help!",,42,cheaperthantherapyyy,2022-01-06 21:01:28 RedPillWives,rwwtzv,Are There Any Good Dating Apps/Websites?,"Hello, -I'm a young woman (F 20) and am looking for a likeminded man. I've been working on self-improvement and homemaking skills, but most of my social circles are women, and have been struggling to find community events due to the pandemic, but have still been trying to get out to places related to religion and my interests to hopefully meet people. I am feeling a bit frustrated, so I was wondering if dating apps or websites are worth it? I don't think a site like tinder would fit our lifestyles, but at the same time, do apps like bumble or hinge have a different vibe? Is a site like eharmony or match that may work better or are they dead?",,13,Weak_Distribution302,1641416680.0 +I'm a young woman (F 20) and am looking for a likeminded man. I've been working on self-improvement and homemaking skills, but most of my social circles are women, and have been struggling to find community events due to the pandemic, but have still been trying to get out to places related to religion and my interests to hopefully meet people. I am feeling a bit frustrated, so I was wondering if dating apps or websites are worth it? I don't think a site like tinder would fit our lifestyles, but at the same time, do apps like bumble or hinge have a different vibe? Is a site like eharmony or match that may work better or are they dead?",,13,Weak_Distribution302,2022-01-05 21:04:40 RedPillWives,rwmehr,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1641387674.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2022-01-05 13:01:14 RedPillWives,rtnyw2,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1641058219.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2022-01-01 17:30:19 RedPillWives,rr7onm,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,7,blushingoleander,1640782875.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,7,blushingoleander,2021-12-29 13:01:15 RedPillWives,rp2723,Don't know what to do anymore. I need help!,"This is a throwaway, since just need your help with this situation I am in, and my husband knows my main account. So where do I start with this... @@ -61611,7 +61611,7 @@ Please... help me here. What should I do?! I even almost got into his car once b &#x200B; -Edit: I think I just made the biggest mistake of my life. I am so sorry for everything. I can't believe I did it. Please forgive me, everyone.",,7,[deleted],1640541791.0 +Edit: I think I just made the biggest mistake of my life. I am so sorry for everything. I can't believe I did it. Please forgive me, everyone.",,7,[deleted],2021-12-26 18:03:11 RedPillWives,ron45a,How to submit / let him lead when it comes to parenting?,"Letting my husband lead is super easy almost all the time; he's a very competent and doting man. But in the first year of marriage, we had many tearful arguments about expectations for my 12-year-old stepson. He truly has some of the worst manners I've seen -- from embarrassing behaviors at social gatherings (i.e. shouting/reaching over people, complaining about a gift instead of saying thank you, being mean to little kids) to rudeness at home (i.e. calling his dad stupid, calling me a ""hideous old hag"") to really poor hygiene and life skills (i.e. wearing the same clothes without showering for a week, refusing to do basic chores like dishes). @@ -61628,13 +61628,13 @@ But it's hard. The problems are Either I ruin the mood by being the one person to set a boundary (bitch) or I bite my tongue and instead end up having a cold distant tone without anyone knowing why (bitch) or I somehow MAKE myself be enthusiastically warm/loving/sweet when in reality I feel mad and disrespected. -HOW do you surrender around something that feels super charged and that's really negatively affecting you?",,10,Local-Law534,1640485467.0 +HOW do you surrender around something that feels super charged and that's really negatively affecting you?",,10,Local-Law534,2021-12-26 02:24:27 RedPillWives,rodr9c,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1640453419.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2021-12-25 17:30:19 RedPillWives,rm4srv,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1640178073.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2021-12-22 13:01:13 RedPillWives,rjgup6,Engaged Christians & Premarital Sex,"Thank you for any advice. My fiancé and I (both early 30s) are engaged, date is set, we are getting married this summer. Since our engagement, my fiancé is putting a lot of pressure for sex. We are both Christians, I am a virgin, he is not, and waiting is very difficult for both of us. I do not know what to do anymore or who to turn to. I am active in my church, but communicating with other married women there is very challenging because of COVID. Also, not everyone is comfortable talking about sex, regardless of how close they are to you. We do kiss and make out, but are doing our best to stay within boundaries. I now see that his boundaries are moving a lot, since he has more frequently mentioned more sexual activities and cohabitation. In our most recent conversations, I get a sense that not moving my boundaries along closer to his needs leaves him feeling both hurt and disrespected, and that is absolutely not my aim. I am not trying to be frigid, but I know that this is going to be a slippery slope for both of us. However, when I tell him this, he says that my choice for virginity is selfish and was done without considering the man I would end up with. I am far from perfect, 5′ 8, 170 lb, not a looker at all, just lucky to have met my spouse. I go to the gym four times a week, try to live healthy, stay healthy, cook for both of us, pamper him as best as I can. I love my relationship with God, and find that on this issue, I am faltering. I am not the kind of girl that gets offers for relationships frequently, I have no intention to leave him, and I hope that he does not give up on me before our wedding. I love my fiancé dearly and want this to work, but I need help. Thanks for letting me know if you have any suggestions or guidance. **Seeking Advice Q&A** @@ -61648,13 +61648,13 @@ RedPillWives,rjgup6,Engaged Christians & Premarital Sex,"Thank you for any a * If married or in a committed, monogamous relationship: engaged, monogamous and committed. * How long have you been together? 1.5 years * Is your relationship long-distance? Same city -* Do you have an active bedroom life? Clearly not active enough.",,9,Turbulent-Library192,1639862273.0 +* Do you have an active bedroom life? Clearly not active enough.",,9,Turbulent-Library192,2021-12-18 21:17:53 RedPillWives,rjc7rc,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1639848614.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2021-12-18 17:30:14 RedPillWives,rgylc6,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1639573272.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2021-12-15 13:01:12 RedPillWives,rgch26,Subtle signs a man isn't HVM,"Since I'm married already, I'm just posting this to foment discussion in this sub (but it can be very useful for single women). What are some subtle signs that a man **is not** a HVM? @@ -61663,7 +61663,7 @@ I'll start by saying something that can be controversial but: liking anime. This Another one is liking videogames too much. Gaming for some hours (less than 4) during the whole week is one thing, playing videogames everyday is another. I know this one causes a lot of anger, but my experience tells me that. I can be wrong, though. -Your thoughts?",,9,acgs1995,1639502821.0 +Your thoughts?",,9,acgs1995,2021-12-14 17:27:01 RedPillWives,rfk5og,Great Hubby,"So my kitchen faucet has had an irritating drip for months. I spoke to a plumber about it and (naturally) he said I'd need to replace the whole unit. My husband works hard and so when he's home I don't pester him about little household things. I purchased a replacement faucet and tried to line up a plumber but they were all prioritizing bigger and more important jobs. @@ -61698,17 +61698,17 @@ To me, this was one of the moments where the potential balance of an RP man and I chose to complete the work myself. He let me without feeling guilty. Am I comfortable with that? Heck yeah. -PS. To the gentlemen lurkers. If you read this far, yes, he got great sex that night. He didn't even have to fix the faucet to do it.",,35,mama_wren,1639414335.0 +PS. To the gentlemen lurkers. If you read this far, yes, he got great sex that night. He didn't even have to fix the faucet to do it.",,35,mama_wren,2021-12-13 16:52:15 RedPillWives,rep83f,Is this an overreaction?,"I asked my husband if he was interested in doing anything last night. Sex is a big deal between us at the moment and I’ve dealt with a lot of rejection from him. He came upstairs and laid down next to me and put his hands in my pants. No kissing no anything else. Just put his hand down my pants. After like a minute I just wasn’t into it because…well. He obviously wasn’t into it either. I just said, “you know it’s okay. We really don’t have to do anything”. He said, “I thought you wanted to do something?” It was a little back and forth. And it just stopped. And I went to bed. This morning I’m just feeling upset and brought it up. He said basically that I asked to do something and he did so if I feel upset about it all that it’s on me. He said, “I didn’t even feel like it.” To which I replied, “then please just say that. It was just awkward and weird”. He is all upset saying that I don’t care that he is at least trying and I just want “the plane to wreck”. -Is it an overreaction to not just want to be fondled but actually have sex with someone who was wanting to be there?",,21,anothergoodbook,1639316413.0 +Is it an overreaction to not just want to be fondled but actually have sex with someone who was wanting to be there?",,21,anothergoodbook,2021-12-12 13:40:13 RedPillWives,re4hh5,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1639243815.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2021-12-11 17:30:15 RedPillWives,rc0vpy,It's hard to get over feminist indoctrination,"Hi guys! Dija here, I'm a young lady from East Africa. I'm half indian and half arab, so in my community its' not really looked down if you want to be a housewife/homemaker. But I was, for many years, a radfem. They might not tell you, but in radfem circles, they will housewives are treated like shit, bullied, abused, disrespected, the husband is privileged etc. And they mock traditional women as being internalized misogynists etc. So even if a radfem tells you that she/he is fine with you being a homemaker, you'll still feel apprehensive. I'm twenty right now, and I've been with my darling boyfriend for over an year now. We are seeking to engaged before he moves to the US, which is in the next 1-2 years. Also, I told him I want to be a home maker. @@ -61717,13 +61717,13 @@ I want to wake up in the morning and make tea and pancakes for him, I want to ma He tells me he wants to protect me, and provide for me so that I don't ever worry about food or rent or whatever. And he tells wants nothing in return expect me loving him and making the home warm and loving for him. And I will do it to the best of my ability. -He treats me like a Queen and would never hurt me. But for some reason I still \*feel\* oppressed by this idea. I have no idea why, but I think it is the feminist indoctrination I underwent. Any tips on how to pluck it out? Does anyone else have these thoughts?",,43,[deleted],1638997267.0 +He treats me like a Queen and would never hurt me. But for some reason I still \*feel\* oppressed by this idea. I have no idea why, but I think it is the feminist indoctrination I underwent. Any tips on how to pluck it out? Does anyone else have these thoughts?",,43,[deleted],2021-12-08 21:01:07 RedPillWives,rbubks,Do you work?," -[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/rbubks)",,1,acgs1995,1638978931.0 +[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/rbubks)",,1,acgs1995,2021-12-08 15:55:31 RedPillWives,rbqv03,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,0,blushingoleander,1638968471.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,0,blushingoleander,2021-12-08 13:01:11 RedPillWives,ra7rma,Creating less stress in the home?,"*How old are you & relationship status?* 37, my husband is 38; married 15 years @@ -61746,17 +61746,17 @@ Nothing yet as I just noticed this difference in him yesterday. I did text him t *do we have an active bedroom life?”* Not particularly. Probably 2-3 times a month. Our schedules don’t align that well - he will need to go to sleep early on the nights I’m interested and vice versa. He has said that stress has been affecting his libido. I’ve been trying to do more quickies and bj’s to maybe help relieve stress. But he turns me down if it’s too often because he isn’t returning the favor and feels bad. -We just had our 15th anniversary. We’ve been together for 16 years.",,13,anothergoodbook,1638798768.0 +We just had our 15th anniversary. We’ve been together for 16 years.",,13,anothergoodbook,2021-12-06 13:52:48 RedPillWives,r8uj84,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1638639023.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2021-12-04 17:30:23 RedPillWives,r6e8ls,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1638363672.0 -RedPillWives,r5oiry,Items every wife should have?,"What are some items that make your life better and easy? Christmas is coming, it’s a great opportunity to buy useful things.",,10,acgs1995,1638282717.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2021-12-01 13:01:12 +RedPillWives,r5oiry,Items every wife should have?,"What are some items that make your life better and easy? Christmas is coming, it’s a great opportunity to buy useful things.",,10,acgs1995,2021-11-30 14:31:57 RedPillWives,r54edp,Recommendation for RPW friendly newsletters?,"I’m getting a little burnt out on social media. I mostly visit mom type groups here on Reddit and on the What To Expect App. But theres just too much drama. Women arguing with each other, complaining about their MIL, partners, etc. After a long day with my 18mo I find myself getting wrapped up in it mentally. And I know I need to unwind at the end of the day, not get wound up. -I’m looking for recommendations for any daily or weekly emails you ladies enjoy! Anything from fashion and beauty to cooking/cleaning and relationships. Something positive that I can still feel the connection I’m looking for on social. Thanks so much.",,12,lookylolo,1638216543.0 +I’m looking for recommendations for any daily or weekly emails you ladies enjoy! Anything from fashion and beauty to cooking/cleaning and relationships. Something positive that I can still feel the connection I’m looking for on social. Thanks so much.",,12,lookylolo,2021-11-29 20:09:03 RedPillWives,r3olrq,Date night fights. Help!,"I'm hoping I'll make it through the ""new account"" screen. I'm a long time lurker on my main account but don't want to get doxxed so I made a new account. @@ -61779,32 +61779,32 @@ DateNightDeadlock (Did anyone else read advice columns compulsively in the paper as a child?) -(X-posted to redpillwomen)",,16,softerandsweeter,1638051919.0 +(X-posted to redpillwomen)",,16,softerandsweeter,2021-11-27 22:25:19 RedPillWives,r3ibo2,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1638034212.0 -RedPillWives,r2gc4n,Bruno mars tells it like it is.,,https://youtube.com/shorts/XHap2LRWeNI?feature=share,9,5280airsoft,1637906514.0 -RedPillWives,r1iakg,Marriage: good strategy or bad strategy for women? A response to Merav Michaeli’s TedTalk which asserts that marriage is harmful to women.,,https://youtu.be/zwlrXIagGp8,11,QueenAnnesReveng,1637796708.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2021-11-27 17:30:12 +RedPillWives,r2gc4n,Bruno mars tells it like it is.,,https://youtube.com/shorts/XHap2LRWeNI?feature=share,9,5280airsoft,2021-11-26 06:01:54 +RedPillWives,r1iakg,Marriage: good strategy or bad strategy for women? A response to Merav Michaeli’s TedTalk which asserts that marriage is harmful to women.,,https://youtu.be/zwlrXIagGp8,11,QueenAnnesReveng,2021-11-24 23:31:48 RedPillWives,r11alr,Can we talk Christmas?,"How is everyone doing with the fairly imminent arrival? I am sure many of you are doing Thanksgiving, which isnt a thing in the UK, but I wondered what the season will look like for you? What are you struggling with? -Is Christmas planning something you love or something you feel is a heavy weight?",,6,HappilyMrs,1637746115.0 +Is Christmas planning something you love or something you feel is a heavy weight?",,6,HappilyMrs,2021-11-24 09:28:35 RedPillWives,r14olc,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1637758877.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2021-11-24 13:01:17 RedPillWives,qyadme,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,8,blushingoleander,1637429413.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,8,blushingoleander,2021-11-20 17:30:13 RedPillWives,qvyrwq,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,8,blushingoleander,1637154075.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,8,blushingoleander,2021-11-17 13:01:15 RedPillWives,qt5x75,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1636824609.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2021-11-13 17:30:09 RedPillWives,qqtwov,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1636549275.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2021-11-10 13:01:15 RedPillWives,qqco70,"New here, a little lost, finding my way...","Hi, I'm Rose. Somehow, I've found myself here through a strange and confusing path. @@ -61826,41 +61826,41 @@ I feel lost, confused, broken and depleted, yet also relieved, liberated. I feel Sorry for the long post. Thanks for reading! Bye for now =) -Rose",,9,rose_sapphire,1636490184.0 +Rose",,9,rose_sapphire,2021-11-09 20:36:24 RedPillWives,qo3uld,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1636216212.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2021-11-06 16:30:12 RedPillWives,qlsxb1,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1635940878.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2021-11-03 12:01:18 RedPillWives,qj51ol,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1635611414.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2021-10-30 16:30:14 RedPillWives,qgv2ki,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1635336074.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2021-10-27 12:01:14 RedPillWives,qe85lw,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,9,blushingoleander,1635006619.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,9,blushingoleander,2021-10-23 16:30:19 RedPillWives,qd4vok,Classic movies with great relationships/feminine lead?,"Hi everyone! Does anyone have some good movies to suggest that I could watch? In my recent post about nurturing a warm and pleasant disposition..I’ve started reading certain books again but now I also want to watch some good examples. I saw Sound of Music in a new light the previous evening, I’ve also had King and I and White Christmas to my list. -Movies up to 1960s, please recommend? ☺️",,22,ThatStepfordGal,1634861260.0 +Movies up to 1960s, please recommend? ☺️",,22,ThatStepfordGal,2021-10-22 00:07:40 RedPillWives,qbz7rq,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1634731281.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2021-10-20 12:01:21 RedPillWives,q9fdar,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1634401817.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2021-10-16 16:30:17 RedPillWives,q79mb5,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1634126475.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2021-10-13 12:01:15 RedPillWives,q6hwsy,Nurturing a warm and pleasant disposition?,"Hi ladies! I’ve been thinking a lot recently about my values and how I embody RPW in my life and I’ve realised something is missing - I can do and love cleaning, cooking, I’m naturally very domestic and I’ve cared for kids for years but I seem to struggle around peers when it comes to having a *’warm and pleasant disposition’*. At first when I read it somewhere in an RP-related post I assumed I had it but now I think I may be wrong. Definitely, I think it’s connected being raised by a single-father. -Physically I may be domestic but I notice I speak in a very masculine way. I’m horribly blunt in word and tone, I do get aggressive (but not insulting) in situations where’s there’s a disagreement, I care but I feel…I have a macho, tough-guy attitude. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I can start changing, maybe even books/video/media?",,11,ThatStepfordGal,1634029011.0 +Physically I may be domestic but I notice I speak in a very masculine way. I’m horribly blunt in word and tone, I do get aggressive (but not insulting) in situations where’s there’s a disagreement, I care but I feel…I have a macho, tough-guy attitude. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I can start changing, maybe even books/video/media?",,11,ThatStepfordGal,2021-10-12 08:56:51 RedPillWives,q6kjzt,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -61877,14 +61877,14 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,3,blushingoleander,1634040016.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,3,blushingoleander,2021-10-12 12:00:16 RedPillWives,q4opkw,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1633797018.0 -RedPillWives,q3shtw,"Somewhere in Africa…What do you think, how does this make you feel about the engagement ritual?",,https://i.redd.it/sijoimjld6s71.jpg,12,LivingAd6886,1633676544.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2021-10-09 16:30:18 +RedPillWives,q3shtw,"Somewhere in Africa…What do you think, how does this make you feel about the engagement ritual?",,https://i.redd.it/sijoimjld6s71.jpg,12,LivingAd6886,2021-10-08 07:02:24 RedPillWives,q2iz5a,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1633521703.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2021-10-06 12:01:43 RedPillWives,q1uwu6,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -61901,13 +61901,13 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,3,blushingoleander,1633435277.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,3,blushingoleander,2021-10-05 12:01:17 RedPillWives,pzyfw2,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1633192214.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2021-10-02 16:30:14 RedPillWives,pxtw9s,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1632916875.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2021-09-29 12:01:15 RedPillWives,px4u0i,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -61924,22 +61924,22 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,3,blushingoleander,1632830422.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,3,blushingoleander,2021-09-28 12:00:22 RedPillWives,pvodu4,Best day ever,"It's 7am, I thought that yesterday, my weddingday, would have been the best day of my life. But now I am here, in a beautiful hotel room, and my gorgeous new husband is sleeping right next to me. I have to wipe away a tear of joy. This. This right here is the best day of my life. I am truly the luckiest woman alive. -Edit: Thank you for your upvotes and comments, another day on and still so happy. Really enjoying this feeling.",,110,CheeseMonger96,1632637817.0 +Edit: Thank you for your upvotes and comments, another day on and still so happy. Really enjoying this feeling.",,110,CheeseMonger96,2021-09-26 06:30:17 RedPillWives,pva7or,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1632587413.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2021-09-25 16:30:13 RedPillWives,pt61i4,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1632312078.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2021-09-22 12:01:18 RedPillWives,pshzjf,Maintaining a clean home,"Like many people, I have little kids. I have invested a lot of time and money into decluttering and organizing. My home is generally very clean and organized. We have no junk drawers. This is not accomplished on my own steam. I pay someone to help me because I feel so helpless against the wave of childhood chaos. I feel like I have done everything that is commonly recommended. I do toy rotation, we are minimalist, everything has a place, the expectation is to put one toy back before taking out another. All that being said, when I am by myself with the kids and need to take a call, I feel like the house always devolves into chaos. Toys are everywhere despite toy rotation, pillows are everywhere because they've decided to do a pillow pit, clothes are everywhere because everyone is naked and they've changed their clothes 10x. -Does anyone maintain an orderly home with children by themselves? What are your secrets?",,18,SecretFeminine,1632228306.0 +Does anyone maintain an orderly home with children by themselves? What are your secrets?",,18,SecretFeminine,2021-09-21 12:45:06 RedPillWives,psh9qc,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -61956,7 +61956,7 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,5,blushingoleander,1632225616.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,5,blushingoleander,2021-09-21 12:00:16 RedPillWives,ps77pj,"High demand job is stressing me out, and I am having hard time being light to my husband","Hi ladies, I’ve been following RPW for a while now and feel like a lot of my success in my marriage is due to RPW. But I’ve recently come into hard times now because of my high stressful job. It has taken a lot of light away from me, and has made me somewhat anxious. @@ -61967,16 +61967,16 @@ I am struggling here because I feel like I can never let my emotions be. If I fe I am trying to be my husbands light, but after years of focusing on being my husbands light, I am just having a hard time trying to be my own light. -Any recommendations appreciated",,16,CurlsandWaves_,1632183148.0 +Any recommendations appreciated",,16,CurlsandWaves_,2021-09-21 00:12:28 RedPillWives,pqplv4,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1631982614.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2021-09-18 16:30:14 RedPillWives,pp6ki3,Should I go down the road of RP?,"Hello ladies! Thank you so much for reading my post. I (F20) am at a crossroad in my life. I’ve been reading about RP and have been lurking on here and redpillwomen. I want your opinion on if I am salvageable and/or on a path to high value. Currently I’m covered from shoulders down in self harm scars. I broke this habit years ago but unfortunately I still have the scars/keloids. I am in therapy and making sure I don’t fall into those behaviors again. Secondly, I’m currently overweight but on a weight loss journey (CICO, running and body weight workouts). I’m not super attractive and usually men don’t notice me, however I have clear skin, wear tasteful makeup, and dress with a neutral/dark wardrobe. -The point of this post is to ask you all if there is hope for me. What can I do to improve and offset my past mistakes? I need to decide now if I want to pursue the RP/traditional lifestyle or start planning to go through life single, unmarried and childless. Thank you once again.",,9,dil_kee_jana,1631767360.0 +The point of this post is to ask you all if there is hope for me. What can I do to improve and offset my past mistakes? I need to decide now if I want to pursue the RP/traditional lifestyle or start planning to go through life single, unmarried and childless. Thank you once again.",,9,dil_kee_jana,2021-09-16 04:42:40 RedPillWives,pooq3g,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1631707279.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2021-09-15 12:01:19 RedPillWives,po1ciy,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -61993,24 +61993,24 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,2,blushingoleander,1631620814.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,2,blushingoleander,2021-09-14 12:00:14 RedPillWives,pmaizs,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1631377813.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2021-09-11 16:30:13 RedPillWives,pkwdfe,I can't go back to a world without WFH,"I know Covid has been hard on the psyche of a lot of people, but I have loved every second of isolation. I absolutely cannot imagine a world without the home office. I take my 1 hour lunch break and prepare a lovely meal, my husband is there to snuggle, and more often then not we'll feel frisky during a coffee break and get intimate. This is the best I have ever felt. My husband isn't stressed, we're eating homemade food every day, go to the gym regularly because we're not tired from commute and the love is on. -If office work is coming back after Covid, i don't know what to do. How have your experiences with either husband or you or both working from home?",,50,grahamcookiefart,1631188756.0 +If office work is coming back after Covid, i don't know what to do. How have your experiences with either husband or you or both working from home?",,50,grahamcookiefart,2021-09-09 11:59:16 RedPillWives,pkdl1z,What is the appeal of casual sex?,"Thos is something I have never done, I settled down very young and I went on to marry the guy who I shared losing my virginity with. I'm also old enough to theoretically be the parent of tinder users, so the dating world is new to me. I'd be really grateful if anyone could shed some light on to _why_ ONS/tinder stuff is supposedly so great? What are the ""rewards"" that outweigh the risks? I know most women here who have done it in the past likely don't now, but I'm curious about the whys for women. -Thank you",,16,HappilyMrs,1631117465.0 +Thank you",,16,HappilyMrs,2021-09-08 16:11:05 RedPillWives,pk930y,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1631102469.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2021-09-08 12:01:09 RedPillWives,pjoicd,Update to things…,"I wrote a post about how I left and stayed in a hotel and then deleted it. I didn’t want to leave everyone hanging so here I am. I left because I realized I was more angry with myself than anything else. It hit me that for the last 2 years I’ve bent over backwards to make my husband happy. If he was upset or had an unmet expectation I would jump to meet it and make him happy. All the while I was like, “hey, can I get something”? Understandably he’s been angry about things in our marriage, but I couldn’t keep chasing him like a lost puppy. @@ -62027,7 +62027,7 @@ I was surprised that he wasn’t angry and we didn’t argue. We sat calmly and And we was very sweet with me yesterday. Last night he actually played with my hair while we were laying in bed going to sleep (something I’ve done for him but he never responds). -I realized my need to focus on things for me and stop trying to make him happy. Yes there are expectations and things I need to do, but to constantly worry about “does he like me? What did I do wrong that he seems unhappy today?” Is just controlling and exhausting. I’m rereading The Empowered Wife and remembering to focus on my happiness .",,27,anothergoodbook,1631026098.0 +I realized my need to focus on things for me and stop trying to make him happy. Yes there are expectations and things I need to do, but to constantly worry about “does he like me? What did I do wrong that he seems unhappy today?” Is just controlling and exhausting. I’m rereading The Empowered Wife and remembering to focus on my happiness .",,27,anothergoodbook,2021-09-07 14:48:18 RedPillWives,pk61y7,Where do I go from here? (I'm a man),"Quick clarification. I'm a man. If that's a problem, my bad. I'm currently 22 and very successful in the business world, I grew up dirt poor and was homeschooled until HS, then @@ -62041,12 +62041,12 @@ It wouldn't be fair if I only conversed with men on this. I wanna know if anyone here thinks marriage is a viable option for men today. I also want to know what you think I should focus on personally if it's a path I take, as I'm not sold 100% on either side at the moment. But I'm leaning towards not getting married at all as I'm not that affectionate, kind of selfish, possess fidelity issues, and other things. -Sometimes I'll kind of imagine how nice it would be to have a family with a woman, but I try not to dwell on it.",,0,ResponsibleYak724,1631087610.0 +Sometimes I'll kind of imagine how nice it would be to have a family with a woman, but I try not to dwell on it.",,0,ResponsibleYak724,2021-09-08 07:53:30 RedPillWives,pjota8,Why do we control (or feel the need to control)?,"I was listening to one of the recent Empowered Wife podcasts, and it got me thinking about control. What is it in women that makes us have this drive to control? Our husbands, our homes, our kids etc. What is it that lives at the root of the nagging, questioning of other's actions, reminding our husbands to do XYZ? -I'm sure many of you might say you dont do those things, but I know I have an instinctive desire to have things under control, and I'm guessing some of you also do?",,11,HappilyMrs,1631027019.0 +I'm sure many of you might say you dont do those things, but I know I have an instinctive desire to have things under control, and I'm guessing some of you also do?",,11,HappilyMrs,2021-09-07 15:03:39 RedPillWives,pjlnf0,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -62063,14 +62063,14 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,2,blushingoleander,1631016014.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,2,blushingoleander,2021-09-07 12:00:14 RedPillWives,pitoj9,Working on showing more respect is really starting to work.,"Background: 35 F soon to be married to a gorgeous and wonderful 33M. Both highly educated, work fulltime, no kids yet. Recovering control freak with anxiety but working on it. I have been listening to the empowered wife podcast and trying to put things into practise. I am by no means perfect and still struggle to hold my tongue and let him lead. So I am using a lot of 'whatever you think', 'I hear you' and I am apologising if I have been unpleasant or disrespectful. A few days ago, we were talking and I said I like to get his opinion on things, and he said, 'yeah but you're the smart one'. And I looked at him and said: 'Me being smart doesn't make you stupid, I think you're incredibly smart, and I respect you and trust you more than anyone in the world. You're strong and kind and you amaze me.' .. a few days on, he's said that he'd like to learn how to dance for our first dance at our wedding! (which really is not something I asked for because it's so far out of his comfort zone, but I am thrilled because I was hoping he'd want to dance with me but didn't want to make him do anything he didn't want to do) and the bedroom has seen a lot of action... I didn't expect anything like this. I feel so lucky for my man having picked me. He seems so happy lately, I just love to see him smile. Laura Doyle is a genius. I'm not saying anything I don't feel, but I am expressing myself differently and learning to control my impulses. Which is easier said than done, but it's a process. -Edited for minor error and punctuation.",,46,CheeseMonger96,1630908694.0 +Edited for minor error and punctuation.",,46,CheeseMonger96,2021-09-06 06:11:34 RedPillWives,pib076,What do I even do with this information?,"Last night my husband and I were talking about various things. I’ve been less defensive and he’s been more open to talking to me. For back story - we used to have sex 4-5 times a week. We’ve been married 14 years. We have 4 kids. Around our second kid he told me that we weren’t having sex often enough and my attitude (of not seeming into it and just going through the motions) was making him feel unloved/unattractive. At that point we were having sex like a couple times a month. I really put in the effort and we increased our sex to 4-5 times per week. I noticed about 5-6 years ago we weren’t having sex as frequently. Then we moved and the s*it hit the fan . We stopped having sex and he blamed it on anxiety/stress. But we never started having sex regularly after the stress went away. @@ -62085,15 +62085,15 @@ I guess last night I was sort of shocked. This morning I feel embarrassed and a I guess I don’t even know what to think about all of it. -And there are things I feel so damn confused about. He’s brought up ice cream before (that’s my weakness). In losing weight I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve eaten ice cream this summer. We went out as a family to get ice cream and I didn’t get any. He’s like “oh you aren’t having any?” But in a concerned way - like he wanted me to get some. So we went out another time for a birthday and I got something small - he asked me “did you get some” to which I’m like “what’s the right answer? Maybe I shouldn’t have?”. It’s like - make up your damn mind! Ugh.",,37,anothergoodbook,1630839245.0 +And there are things I feel so damn confused about. He’s brought up ice cream before (that’s my weakness). In losing weight I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve eaten ice cream this summer. We went out as a family to get ice cream and I didn’t get any. He’s like “oh you aren’t having any?” But in a concerned way - like he wanted me to get some. So we went out another time for a birthday and I got something small - he asked me “did you get some” to which I’m like “what’s the right answer? Maybe I shouldn’t have?”. It’s like - make up your damn mind! Ugh.",,37,anothergoodbook,2021-09-05 10:54:05 RedPillWives,pi292q,Advice for avoiding burnout?,"Hi y'all! New housewife here (been at it about 3 months now) and wondering what you all do to help prevent burnout? I know being a housewife is a 24/7 job, and I've been trying lately to take some breaks here and there to rest, play video games for a bit, watch a show or movie, go to the gym 4 times a week, etc. but the work never stops. 3 and a half days out of the week I'm helping my boyfriend take care of his daughter while we have her, and if I'm not helping with her I'm cooking (lots of meal prepping!) cleaning, laundry, planning weekly grocery trip, y'all know the drill. I have a good routine down and I'm getting good at prepping and planning things in advance, but, to make a long story short, yesterday was a particularly exhausting day which led to me having a full blown meltdown this morning from exhaustion and being overwhelmed by everything. My boyfriend (who is the sweetest most wonderful man on the planet) had me take the morning to go lay back down and get some rest/gaming time in to help me rest and recharge after breakfast. We talk about how I was feeling and he encouraged me to take more days for myself and time to breathe. I feel guilty taking time for myself but, I know I can't let myself get this burntout to the point of having a meltdown as it's not healthy for myself or my relationship. -This leads me to my questions of: what do you all do to help avoid getting to this point of burnout, and what are some things you all do to help yourself relax and get some self care in? TIA! :)",,12,KittyKim35,1630798950.0 +This leads me to my questions of: what do you all do to help avoid getting to this point of burnout, and what are some things you all do to help yourself relax and get some self care in? TIA! :)",,12,KittyKim35,2021-09-04 23:42:30 RedPillWives,phuqhk,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1630773011.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2021-09-04 16:30:11 RedPillWives,ph95b3,Anxiety,"I feel like I need to bounce my thoughts off someone and you all tend to be very honest and helpful. I have struggled with depression and anxiety on and off over the year. I’ve done lots of emotional work and I cope better than I have in a long time. However covid really made coping difficult and I decided to start taking an SSRI with the advice of my doctor. It was under the idea of being temporary per the circumstances. @@ -62106,15 +62106,15 @@ In many ways I realize while I’m working on weight loss that I avoid uncomfort In many ways I’m thinking going back on the meds will help. But then I’m not confronting the issues at hand that are causing the discomfort- I’m again avoiding them by taking a medication that eases the feeling. -Anyway - any insight or thoughts would be welcome :)",,8,anothergoodbook,1630688152.0 -RedPillWives,pgjlyo,I’m officially a wife!,"We legally tied the knot yesterday, now just waiting on our less official ceremony and party next year. I wouldn’t have made it here without RPW. Thanks y’all ❤️❤️❤️",,94,DancerInTheFlowers,1630594830.0 +Anyway - any insight or thoughts would be welcome :)",,8,anothergoodbook,2021-09-03 16:55:52 +RedPillWives,pgjlyo,I’m officially a wife!,"We legally tied the knot yesterday, now just waiting on our less official ceremony and party next year. I wouldn’t have made it here without RPW. Thanks y’all ❤️❤️❤️",,94,DancerInTheFlowers,2021-09-02 15:00:30 RedPillWives,pg9vxy,New here!,"I’ve read a lot of the posts on here and feel like I belong here, however I’m having a really hard time understanding what red pill wives means? What the msg behind it is? What do red pills Ives stand for? What’s the life style? I know this might be silly considering I read so many posts here but I’m not sure why I just can’t grasp what it means. -Thank you in advance for the answers!",,0,[deleted],1630553921.0 +Thank you in advance for the answers!",,0,[deleted],2021-09-02 03:38:41 RedPillWives,pfsfn6,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,0,blushingoleander,1630497687.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,0,blushingoleander,2021-09-01 12:01:27 RedPillWives,pf4drl,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -62131,19 +62131,19 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,0,blushingoleander,1630411221.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,0,blushingoleander,2021-08-31 12:00:21 RedPillWives,percec,"What are you reading, listening to, watching?","Hey ladies - it’s been a couple of weeks! -What are you currently filling your brains with?",,10,anothergoodbook,1630358016.0 +What are you currently filling your brains with?",,10,anothergoodbook,2021-08-30 21:13:36 RedPillWives,pdhd2a,Surrendered circle support group?,"Hi ladies, -There have been a few posts in this reddit about having a surrendered circle support group based on Laura Doyles 6 intimacy skills. Anyone have an active community or if not, happy to create one on Slack. Please let me know If you’re interested.",,11,lavender8,1630182775.0 +There have been a few posts in this reddit about having a surrendered circle support group based on Laura Doyles 6 intimacy skills. Anyone have an active community or if not, happy to create one on Slack. Please let me know If you’re interested.",,11,lavender8,2021-08-28 20:32:55 RedPillWives,pdczh3,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1630168204.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2021-08-28 16:30:04 RedPillWives,pb9sdv,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1629892876.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2021-08-25 12:01:16 RedPillWives,palwal,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -62160,7 +62160,7 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,1,blushingoleander,1629806423.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,1,blushingoleander,2021-08-24 12:00:23 RedPillWives,pa7o2c,"Help with resentment, please.","Edit: reformatted &; brevity - How old are you (and how old is your partner) and how familiar are you with RPW? @@ -62212,16 +62212,16 @@ No - Do you have an active bedroom life? -No",,11,anothergoodbook,1629749095.0 -RedPillWives,pa5ylo,Traditional Wives,,https://files.catbox.moe/z7qum9.pdf,0,starrychloe,1629743852.0 +No",,11,anothergoodbook,2021-08-23 20:04:55 +RedPillWives,pa5ylo,Traditional Wives,,https://files.catbox.moe/z7qum9.pdf,0,starrychloe,2021-08-23 18:37:32 RedPillWives,p8uiiq,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,0,blushingoleander,1629563414.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,0,blushingoleander,2021-08-21 16:30:14 RedPillWives,p849k3,How are you all doing?,"I feel like it has been a lifetime since I've been here. So much has happened with me, with the world. I thought it'd be nice to catch up. So what's new with everyone? Update on me. I had amazing wedding! I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl and have another one on the way. -So how about you? Lets chat!",,7,LittleMissAfrodite,1629462727.0 +So how about you? Lets chat!",,7,LittleMissAfrodite,2021-08-20 12:32:07 RedPillWives,p7bbh0,Help me be a better wife,"I feel like I'm waking up from a nightmare - my life prior to this awakening was full of angry liberal wokeism, I even thought I was non-binary for a while and shaved my head, got a bunch of tattoos, etc. My husband has stuck with me throughout, though of course he found it very difficult and confusing. Recently I've gone back to the Catholic Church and have been receiving spiritual direction which is helping me discern my true path - and it's taking me the complete opposite of where I was. I feel like I was seeing the world inside out and upside down - now everything is different @@ -62231,11 +62231,11 @@ We've been talking about getting married again in the Catholic Church (our origi Any motivation or words of advice for the road ahead? I had a wobble last night, and am treating it as a wake up up to get back on track. -Tl:dr I've made a mess of myself, my husband has stuck with me but is wary of me. Help motivate me do better.",,29,mujercatolica,1629364365.0 +Tl:dr I've made a mess of myself, my husband has stuck with me but is wary of me. Help motivate me do better.",,29,mujercatolica,2021-08-19 09:12:45 RedPillWives,p6pq3i,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,8,blushingoleander,1629288071.0 -RedPillWives,p6lokh,Smoking husband,"My husband started smoking and I really hate it. I know in theory I should stay 'on my own paper', but his stink gets on mine... Ofcourse I told him I really don't like this. And I get it's an addiction. He does want to stop, but next week or after such and such, and then ofcourse keeps on smoking. What do I do? I don't want to be the nagging wife. But I also really don't like to be near him when he smells of smoke, just like I don't like to sit next to anyone that smells of smoke. Brushing his teeth does not help unfortunately, as it comes from the lungs. It truly takes away from my attraction to him. What to do?",,20,tvapoangnoll,1629268266.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,8,blushingoleander,2021-08-18 12:01:11 +RedPillWives,p6lokh,Smoking husband,"My husband started smoking and I really hate it. I know in theory I should stay 'on my own paper', but his stink gets on mine... Ofcourse I told him I really don't like this. And I get it's an addiction. He does want to stop, but next week or after such and such, and then ofcourse keeps on smoking. What do I do? I don't want to be the nagging wife. But I also really don't like to be near him when he smells of smoke, just like I don't like to sit next to anyone that smells of smoke. Brushing his teeth does not help unfortunately, as it comes from the lungs. It truly takes away from my attraction to him. What to do?",,20,tvapoangnoll,2021-08-18 06:31:06 RedPillWives,p62ceu,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -62252,7 +62252,7 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,2,blushingoleander,1629201616.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,2,blushingoleander,2021-08-17 12:00:16 RedPillWives,p5gd4r,Husband extremely stressed and tired from work. How can I help him?,"My husband got a nice job in January. He is climbing the corporate ladder, but the stress is killing him. @@ -62269,7 +62269,7 @@ I already cook, clean, take care of the house. But this is not being enough. He How can I help him, besides offering massages, being positive? I feel impotent… I feel I’m not being a good wife. -Any advice?",,19,acgs1995,1629121524.0 +Any advice?",,19,acgs1995,2021-08-16 13:45:24 RedPillWives,p5evxm,Tired of mixed messages,"Update: put this in a comment, but thought should add it here. Brought some of my concerns to him (calmly). This is what I understand now after that conversation. “We had a really good conversation last night - and I think some of it is the “Pandora’s Box”. @@ -62331,7 +62331,7 @@ Things I’m doing in there- laundry, meals, grocery shopping, deep cleaning kit I am sorry to go on so long and I appreciate anyone who made it this far. I didn’t realize how angry I’ve been about this. To the point where I’m waking up angry in the middle of the night. If I say anything about what I’m doing (which I truly don’t think he gets) then I hear “so what? You’re doing your role as a wife. I have to go to work”. To which I explain - sure, but I work too on TOP of what I do as a wife. So surely that counts for something, right? -Anyway. I’m not even sure I’m looking for advice. I’m angry and not sure where to go with it. I’m tired of arguing to the point where neither one of us will argue. He’ll go sleep on the couch. I used to go after him. I don’t anymore. I just sleep (something else I couldn’t do if we argued).",,10,anothergoodbook,1629116204.0 +Anyway. I’m not even sure I’m looking for advice. I’m angry and not sure where to go with it. I’m tired of arguing to the point where neither one of us will argue. He’ll go sleep on the couch. I used to go after him. I don’t anymore. I just sleep (something else I couldn’t do if we argued).",,10,anothergoodbook,2021-08-16 12:16:44 RedPillWives,p4u031,Advice needed - considering a breakup,"My bf(35) and I(25) have been in in a relationship for about 6 months. We're christians so as a result we haven't been living together or sexually active. Last week we spoke about marriage and kids and we had a significant disagreement. I'd prefer to be able to stay at home and raise the kids, and be fully present for my family and take on the majority of the housework. @@ -62340,10 +62340,10 @@ He mentioned that unless he hits the jackpot, he doesn't see that happening. He' He told me that we could worry about this later, but I'm worried that this could lead to resentment down the road since I want a more traditional relationship and he wants a more modern one. Also, I mentioned my desire to be a homemaker while were dating and he seemed fine with it then. -I'm considering breaking up and I guess I posted this to either slap me into reality or give me the push I need.",,17,TheShiningSun,1629036217.0 +I'm considering breaking up and I guess I posted this to either slap me into reality or give me the push I need.",,17,TheShiningSun,2021-08-15 14:03:37 RedPillWives,p4b7k2,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1628958613.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2021-08-14 16:30:13 RedPillWives,p3a6n3,Switching out of an academic mindset,"Hello beautiful people! This is my first post here -- but I have been following this community for a couple of months using a different account. Implementing some of the skills of femininity described here has shifted my relationship in small, wonderful ways. I found surrendering, receiving, diverting conversation instead of becoming combative, and generally softening especially helpful. So, while I'm not very well-versed in RP principles, I did go through a period of reading the resources obsessively. @@ -62363,7 +62363,7 @@ Him: ... Because I spend all day reading and writing, and my country is still under lockdown, I can only talk about my coursework on weekdays. I find myself impatient with his lack of engagement. I would like the domestic tranquility I experience when I'm not in that mindset. -I have tried working out before I see him, and mindfulness meditation. Even when I am relaxed, it takes about an hour of time with him before I can switch ""languages"". Do y'all have any advice on how I can switch out of my academic mindset at the end of the day? This is something I would like to work on now, because I imagine I'll always do some form of intellectual work. Also, how do I work on talking about my day when my day consisted of academic writing?",,7,MissWolffe,1628806345.0 +I have tried working out before I see him, and mindfulness meditation. Even when I am relaxed, it takes about an hour of time with him before I can switch ""languages"". Do y'all have any advice on how I can switch out of my academic mindset at the end of the day? This is something I would like to work on now, because I imagine I'll always do some form of intellectual work. Also, how do I work on talking about my day when my day consisted of academic writing?",,7,MissWolffe,2021-08-12 22:12:25 RedPillWives,p2o9z3,Hurt my husband verbally. Help me get back on the right track,"Hi ladies, I'm new to posting but have been a lurker for a bit, reading past posts. I realize I have been doing a lot of this stuff without even knowing there was a word for it or a community. I've always had a more traditional view of relationships despite being raised in a very liberal family. I don't feel comfortable talking to my friends IRL about any of this because we have different relationship views and I don't want to include others (that we know) in our marriage. Anyways, we have a toddler currently but for the two years after his birth, I definitely lost myself, fell into PPD/PPA, and was a terrible wife who lashed out. @@ -62412,15 +62412,15 @@ No * Do you have an active bedroom life? -Yes, 3-4 times per week average plus other stuff. Down for almost anything. He seems happy with it (me too). During the two years after baby, we were only at once a week but are back up again.",,11,dream_sparkles,1628722528.0 +Yes, 3-4 times per week average plus other stuff. Down for almost anything. He seems happy with it (me too). During the two years after baby, we were only at once a week but are back up again.",,11,dream_sparkles,2021-08-11 22:55:28 RedPillWives,p2bo0r,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1628683282.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2021-08-11 12:01:22 RedPillWives,p1x90q,Fascinating Womanhood: Love Booklet,"I thought it might be fun to have a thread where we share those things our husbands/partners do to show us love. For those of you familiar (or well perhaps not familiar lol) with Fascinating Womanhood, one “assignment” is to buy a notebook and keep track of the sweet or endearing things our husbands do for us. Keeping in mind of those things that he does helps keep us going in our pursuit of being fascinating women. -So ladies, what things has your husband/partner/captain done to show you appreciation and love lately?",,12,anothergoodbook,1628626339.0 +So ladies, what things has your husband/partner/captain done to show you appreciation and love lately?",,12,anothergoodbook,2021-08-10 20:12:19 RedPillWives,p1nqr2,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -62437,43 +62437,43 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,2,blushingoleander,1628596811.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,2,blushingoleander,2021-08-10 12:00:11 RedPillWives,p10qpo,Friends disappear after getting married.,"After I got married, my friends changed with me. I noticed I’m always the one reaching out. If I don’t reach out, they take weeks to talk to me and it’s usually to vent about something. My friends are amazing, I love them so much. If I invite them, they always do their best to come over. But our friendship did change… What bothers me is being the one who always initiates things, they are passive all the time. -It is so frustrating and I don’t think this is worthy enough to make me put an end in this friendships, but I can’t get over it. Has someone else gone through this? Any tips?",,10,acgs1995,1628513152.0 +It is so frustrating and I don’t think this is worthy enough to make me put an end in this friendships, but I can’t get over it. Has someone else gone through this? Any tips?",,10,acgs1995,2021-08-09 12:45:52 RedPillWives,p1alyu,Now Find Purple Pill Debate on Instagram and Twitter!,"**You can now participate in the most popular** r/PurplePillDebate **threads on the most popular platforms!** Join us as we debut the official PurplePillDebate [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mrs.drgree/?hl=en) and [Twitter](https://twitter.com/MrsDrgree). I post the best threads and comments from each day, so you can debate with people in real time directly in the comments section or follow the link directly to participate anonymously in the reddit threads. &#x200B; -[Please Join Us on Discord!](https://discord.gg/8dS4wdrmSf) Include your reddit username, pill color, age, relationship status, and gender when you get in to introduce yourself.",,1,Mrs_Drgree,1628543462.0 +[Please Join Us on Discord!](https://discord.gg/8dS4wdrmSf) Include your reddit username, pill color, age, relationship status, and gender when you get in to introduce yourself.",,1,Mrs_Drgree,2021-08-09 21:11:02 RedPillWives,p0p3es,Vent about overwhelm,"Feeling burnt out from the cycle of working full time, managing a house, maintaining a fulfilling marriage, taking care of our health, being part of a church community and taking care of almost elderly parents. -I would love to be a SAHW atleast part of the time but my husband and I did not prepare for this season in that way. We bought our house and built our lifestyle on both of our incomes. I wish someone would have told us that that's not the only option and that we could have done things differently.",,16,_prairiebaby,1628463869.0 +I would love to be a SAHW atleast part of the time but my husband and I did not prepare for this season in that way. We bought our house and built our lifestyle on both of our incomes. I wish someone would have told us that that's not the only option and that we could have done things differently.",,16,_prairiebaby,2021-08-08 23:04:29 RedPillWives,ozwfsd,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1628353812.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2021-08-07 16:30:12 RedPillWives,oyfkkq,My mom finally makes a negative comment about my choice to stay home.,"It's humorous if you knew my mom. So for some context she is a SUPER feminist ""girl boss"" types who in her own right couldn't be a SAHM but wanted to be. We grew up quit poor. She called to catch up and I didn't tell her I left my job really I was planning on it just coming up in conversation and it did a few weeks ago. We'll she called and said ""you know this won't last right. This doesn't work anymore. You'll have to find another job."" 😂🤣 now what do you do as and adult with a very negative toxic mother who isanipluatice and constantly jealous of your life accomplishments? You swing back harder. (Well I do anyway.) I said ""just bc you wouldn't make it work doesn't mean I can't."" And her response is always golden ""whatever. I'm just saying he (my husband) won't be able to do this forever."" I say ""well I think I'm just going to trust him when he says he can provide for us and if anything financial changes then we will discuss that as a couple."" If you knew my mom also these responses which probably seem mild cut deeper than me screaming or cussing at her bc the point of this is she is jealous she couldn't do this and also she is trying to guilt me or make me feel bad about my choice which she didn't get to make for me. So a claim but confident response infuriates her. I got off the phone call and called my sister and we had a good laugh. (My sister has only ever been a sahm and has 6 kids.) It was hilarious. My husband also laughed and rolled his eyes. -Years of therapy have really taught me to navigate how to handle her jabs at my life choices and it's funny bc I'm the only. Hold out of 4 she has an issue with when I make choices for myself that are outside of what she wanted.",,16,Tyla_re,1628162870.0 +Years of therapy have really taught me to navigate how to handle her jabs at my life choices and it's funny bc I'm the only. Hold out of 4 she has an issue with when I make choices for myself that are outside of what she wanted.",,16,Tyla_re,2021-08-05 11:27:50 RedPillWives,oxr6c8,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1628078472.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2021-08-04 12:01:12 RedPillWives,oxb7cy,Would you share him?,"Following on from u/lightandlush 's post about morality and fidelity, I wanted to have a quick straw poll. Imagine you are married to a HVM (we'll assume handsome, lifts, 6ft+, at least 6 inches, 6 figure salary, has ambitions and is fully engaged in life, good dad). He decides that to fulfil his life, he wants to start having sex with other women. It won't take resources from you or lose time with your children. Are you accepting that he is a man with options and strong desires to do this, or is this a hard nope? -The argument is that as he is so high value, your hypergamy will override your thoughts of what is acceptable and you'll stay because you cannot do better than him.",,17,HappilyMrs,1628019773.0 +The argument is that as he is so high value, your hypergamy will override your thoughts of what is acceptable and you'll stay because you cannot do better than him.",,17,HappilyMrs,2021-08-03 19:42:53 RedPillWives,ox4ja6,Balancing emotion and logic,"I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic (as I love discussion here in general). My husband and I got on the topic of logic vs emotion. @@ -62482,7 +62482,7 @@ I mentioned that femininity skews more toward being emotional and masculinity sk He doesn’t see the value in much emotion because he believes it gets in the way of making a logical decision. For example spending money. It doesn’t matter how you *feel* if you’ve made a budget you stick to it because that’s all the money there is. -I suppose my wondering about this topic leads me to when does emotions serve better than logic? How are a woman’s (person’s) emotions helpful - in what scenarios for example would that be of service?",,9,anothergoodbook,1628000615.0 +I suppose my wondering about this topic leads me to when does emotions serve better than logic? How are a woman’s (person’s) emotions helpful - in what scenarios for example would that be of service?",,9,anothergoodbook,2021-08-03 14:23:35 RedPillWives,owmwcn,"Thoughts Morality, Marriage, and the High Value Man","Hi Red Pill Wives, I started writing a comment on the very insightful RP and Cheating Post from yesterday. My comment turned into an essay, so I decided to make it a post, hope that is okay! **Red Pill is Amoral** @@ -62517,7 +62517,7 @@ A High Value Man pleased with his wife that adds value should have no need or de **Conclusion** -The risk of extra-marital affairs will always be there, especially if your husband is high value. Red Pill Wives can minimize that risk by 1) vetting 2) adding value to their husband's lives.",,35,Lightandlush,1627935483.0 +The risk of extra-marital affairs will always be there, especially if your husband is high value. Red Pill Wives can minimize that risk by 1) vetting 2) adding value to their husband's lives.",,35,Lightandlush,2021-08-02 20:18:03 RedPillWives,ox1yy2,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -62534,12 +62534,12 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,1,blushingoleander,1627992019.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,1,blushingoleander,2021-08-03 12:00:19 RedPillWives,owos1s,Brother (23 M) trying to help his sister (20 F( with femininity.,"Hello, I hope I am not invading by posting something here but I honestly wanted some advice to help my sister. My sister and I raised by the same parents have a mom that can be described as your typical boss lady (director of her own private school, makes about six figures) . I came into the red pill within the last year and have been trying to undo what I learned growing up having had a passive and less masculine father. As a result of this upbringing my sister came out with the stereotypical feminist doctrines (privileged white males are bad, racism is why we can’t have nice things etc). I’ve noticed since I’ve had the chance to live on my own that my sister has not womanly skills or for lack of a better word is not in tune with her feminine. She sleeps in all day. Rarely cleans her clothes and lets it pile up on the floor. Does not like to eat healthy or exercise and is very combative to others and won’t take responsibility. -How can I help her? It dawned on me that I have more household skills than her and I don’t want her to keep doing this rabbit hole and struggle to find a good man. Any thoughts? I appreciate any feedback.",,3,[deleted],1627941038.0 +How can I help her? It dawned on me that I have more household skills than her and I don’t want her to keep doing this rabbit hole and struggle to find a good man. Any thoughts? I appreciate any feedback.",,3,[deleted],2021-08-02 21:50:38 RedPillWives,ow5hn3,RP and Cheating During Marriage,"Disclaimer: Firstly this is not meant in anyway to debate core principles of the RP movement, however I will be slightly critical of some of the concepts that I've seen becoming more prevalent, specifically those which conflict with the female RP values. By now we should all know that the men's RP is not conducive to a happy, healthy marriage... nor is that their goal. They're very open and honest about what the goal of their values is, and you may have noticed that it is not what the aim is here for RP women. @@ -62552,7 +62552,7 @@ Lately however I've seen a lot of ""RP"" podcasts and YT videos where the men ar * Secondly, this shows a complete lack of understanding of men, women, and the purpose of marriage. The purpose of marriage is to have offspring, this may not happen for every married couple, but the foundation of having the promise and having the contract is to create the most ideal situation for raising children. Within the marriage there are two main roles, the first being the provider and the second being the caretaker. We as women generally prefer and fulfill the latter role, because in doing so we have locked down the resources required for the children. So what happens if your spouse cheats? The men will rightfully point out that a cheating wife puts the paternity of the children into question, yet they fail to acknowledge that the husband cheating puts the resources for those children in jeopardy. If he was to accidentally knock up his side chick or if his side chick was to threaten his marriage in order to extort him for resources... then that means less is available for the children. * Thirdly, he is no longer committing to the family unit as he is fundamentally supposed to be doing. Time spent distracted by women other than the mother means less time for him to engage in his role as the father. While he may not be the primary caregiver, his presence is still of utmost importance to the children's wellbeing. -So if we know that men's RP and women's RP aren't necessarily compatible why does it matter that I am addressing this? Because this is a problem that will start infecting marriages, which brings it into our space and because RP men will not necessarily announce their beliefs to you (understandably because of how misunderstood it is by the general population). For those of you who are dating for marriage, I highly encourage you to brush up on the men's literature as well. Men who just take the advice to learn how to lead and how to better themselves are fine, but you need to be wary that there is a narrative out there telling men that they can cheat and that it's acceptable in marriage and you do not want to wind up on the receiving end of this. A man who is not ready to commit to monogamy is not a man who is ready for marriage, and it's not your job to try to change his mind, just find someone else who understands that marriage means sacrificing multiple sexual partners in order to create the best situation for children. And as always VET, VET, VET!",,36,Mewster1818,1627870578.0 +So if we know that men's RP and women's RP aren't necessarily compatible why does it matter that I am addressing this? Because this is a problem that will start infecting marriages, which brings it into our space and because RP men will not necessarily announce their beliefs to you (understandably because of how misunderstood it is by the general population). For those of you who are dating for marriage, I highly encourage you to brush up on the men's literature as well. Men who just take the advice to learn how to lead and how to better themselves are fine, but you need to be wary that there is a narrative out there telling men that they can cheat and that it's acceptable in marriage and you do not want to wind up on the receiving end of this. A man who is not ready to commit to monogamy is not a man who is ready for marriage, and it's not your job to try to change his mind, just find someone else who understands that marriage means sacrificing multiple sexual partners in order to create the best situation for children. And as always VET, VET, VET!",,36,Mewster1818,2021-08-02 02:16:18 RedPillWives,ovno8m,Can you suggest some movies/serials about feminine girls?,"Can you suggest some movies where there’s a feminine girl/women? I’m a visual person, so when I watch movies or serials I start to subconsciously copy traits of characters. @@ -62573,14 +62573,14 @@ Also, there’s a saying which I’ve heard recently, something like “behind e So, if there’s anything interesting (movies, books etc) about how woman made man successful, please, suggest me this too. -Great thanks in advance",,14,tagbe2003,1627801989.0 +Great thanks in advance",,14,tagbe2003,2021-08-01 07:13:09 RedPillWives,ova8nx,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1627749014.0 -RedPillWives,ourylp,"RPW/RPGF Soft Skills: Other than being an all around Domestic Goddess, what are some small things, overlooked things or “soft skills” you think more women should learn or utilize?",,,16,-sunshyne-,1627673894.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2021-07-31 16:30:14 +RedPillWives,ourylp,"RPW/RPGF Soft Skills: Other than being an all around Domestic Goddess, what are some small things, overlooked things or “soft skills” you think more women should learn or utilize?",,,16,-sunshyne-,2021-07-30 19:38:14 RedPillWives,ou4bwo,"Wives, how did you meet your husband or bf?","Late 20s single guy here, I’m having trouble meeting women that I actually care to pursue after initially meeting them. All the typical online dating apps, and other online methods I just ended up a waste of time, and my normal day-to-day doesn't involve me interacting with many girls nowadays. -How did you find him? How did your first interaction go?",,10,SplenduhP0py,1627586583.0 +How did you find him? How did your first interaction go?",,10,SplenduhP0py,2021-07-29 19:23:03 RedPillWives,ottnji,Why do people dislike this community so much?,"Context: I’m in a wonderful marriage and very happy. My husband treats me like a Queen, and we have a baby on the way! I recently discovered that the way I treat my husband is very similar to this community and became fascinated with the experiences of other women with similar mindsets. It’s so nice to find a group of women whose focus isn’t on screaming, “All men are trash!” And instead focuses on lifting up our partners! How nice and healthy! :) My husband does the same for me, and it’s wonderful! Recently, in a mom forum here on Reddit, someone made a comment in response to me attempting to invalidate my advice to another mother by saying I’m a member of this forum. I don’t understand why? @@ -62593,7 +62593,7 @@ I don’t get it. When people cite divorce rates, whine about being single, scream about how men suck, and and tote general marital unhappiness, I can’t help but think these people are prideful babies unable to look at and criticize themselves before casting blame on their partners. It takes two to make a relationship work, and from what I’ve found in this forum, it’s nothing but wives willing to work hard on making their home a happy and loving one. What’s so bad about that? We aren’t victims. We aren’t slaves. We’re happily working on our homes and treat our relationships with our husbands with the priority and respect they deserve, just like we hope they do of us. -Can someone explain to me why the RPW way of handling relationships is so frowned upon? To me, it sounds like a misunderstanding and unwillingness to even TRY to understand.",,39,[deleted],1627548377.0 +Can someone explain to me why the RPW way of handling relationships is so frowned upon? To me, it sounds like a misunderstanding and unwillingness to even TRY to understand.",,39,[deleted],2021-07-29 08:46:17 RedPillWives,otgdma,Admiring your husband… ideas? examples? suggestions?,"I realize the topic of Fascinating Womanhood has been talked about a lot and if I search I may find my answer. But I’m on the chapter about admiring your husband and she gives the areas for which he should be admired. But how does one do that without coming off as fake or as someone who may not to it often - disingenuous? @@ -62602,10 +62602,10 @@ With how many Reddit posts I see that come from men feeling frustrated because t Her list is: - 1)His superior strength. 2) His manly courage. 3) His sense of honor and duty in men’s affairs. 4) His leadership ability. 5) His sexual capacities. 6) His determination and power. 7)His devotion to a cause. 8) His mental capacity. 9) His unyielding steadfastness. 10) How clever are his tactics in the world of men. 11) His achievement, success, or excellence. 12) How decisive his judgment and decisions are. 13) How noble are his masculine ideals, standards and aspirations.",,26,anothergoodbook,1627498380.0 + 1)His superior strength. 2) His manly courage. 3) His sense of honor and duty in men’s affairs. 4) His leadership ability. 5) His sexual capacities. 6) His determination and power. 7)His devotion to a cause. 8) His mental capacity. 9) His unyielding steadfastness. 10) How clever are his tactics in the world of men. 11) His achievement, success, or excellence. 12) How decisive his judgment and decisions are. 13) How noble are his masculine ideals, standards and aspirations.",,26,anothergoodbook,2021-07-28 18:53:00 RedPillWives,ot8h5v,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1627473672.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2021-07-28 12:01:12 RedPillWives,oslgf6,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -62622,10 +62622,10 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,1,blushingoleander,1627387215.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,1,blushingoleander,2021-07-27 12:00:15 RedPillWives,oryl5d,What are you reading/watching/listening to?,"Hey ladies! After a week break from social media, I’m back with another installment of what are you filling your minds with? -I’d love to hear what you are reading/listening to/watching the past week or so!",,8,anothergoodbook,1627305687.0 +I’d love to hear what you are reading/listening to/watching the past week or so!",,8,anothergoodbook,2021-07-26 13:21:27 RedPillWives,orop3w,When should I marry and how big should the age gap be?,"I am 17f and I’m trying to figure out what’s a good age to marry by and what age gap is the best “focus on yourself and love yourself before getting in a relationship” @@ -62643,13 +62643,13 @@ I did; I asked him about me getting married at ages 24-26 to a man that’s 5-7 Also TMI but I am practicing abstinence and want to wait till marriage and I won’t know how believable the whole I’m waiting for marriage at 28-30 will be to men Im dating after “living life” especially in this sex positive era TL;DR -When should I marry and how big should the age gap be?",,10,righthand_,1627263309.0 +When should I marry and how big should the age gap be?",,10,righthand_,2021-07-26 01:35:09 RedPillWives,oqtbhx,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1627144212.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2021-07-24 16:30:12 RedPillWives,ooogb8,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1626868874.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2021-07-21 12:01:14 RedPillWives,oo0nk2,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is ""submission"". Some possible points to discuss. @@ -62666,8 +62666,8 @@ This months theme is ""submission"". Some possible points to discuss. Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,9,blushingoleander,1626782412.0 -RedPillWives,onkptg,Banned from the Christian marriage sub because I suggested someone come here.,A wife wanted help to better themself and apparently this sub is incompatible with Christian marriage 🙄.,,29,anothergoodbook,1626721239.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,9,blushingoleander,2021-07-20 12:00:12 +RedPillWives,onkptg,Banned from the Christian marriage sub because I suggested someone come here.,A wife wanted help to better themself and apparently this sub is incompatible with Christian marriage 🙄.,,29,anothergoodbook,2021-07-19 19:00:39 RedPillWives,onsmfk,Own Your Stuff,"Own Your Stuff Hello Ladies, time for another round of OYS. @@ -62678,14 +62678,14 @@ Don't be shy! Bring both the serious and the trivial into discussion. Start with your stats: relationship status/ ages/ kids, how long you have been married or dating, and anything else you deem very important. -For example: Me: 27, Husband 33. 2 daughters, 6 months, 3 yrs, SAHM",,3,Lightandlush,1626746730.0 -RedPillWives,onjdpn,Bettering yourself,,/r/Christianmarriage/comments/onhn98/bettering_yourself/,3,mrshousewife1021,1626717388.0 +For example: Me: 27, Husband 33. 2 daughters, 6 months, 3 yrs, SAHM",,3,Lightandlush,2021-07-20 02:05:30 +RedPillWives,onjdpn,Bettering yourself,,/r/Christianmarriage/comments/onhn98/bettering_yourself/,3,mrshousewife1021,2021-07-19 17:56:28 RedPillWives,omrsur,Sex on command,"I saw something on MRP, a comment that ""Nobody gets BJs on command"". So I thought I would ask here. Is that the case in your house, that sex of any variety is on command? Is this even practical for many? Is it just a case of being clever about it? Do you think it's problematic to have such a set up where one partner commands/asks and the other immediately obliges? -I know we rarely talk about sex here, but I think the balance of power and how this plays out in all aspects of a relationship is interesting.",,27,HappilyMrs,1626619403.0 +I know we rarely talk about sex here, but I think the balance of power and how this plays out in all aspects of a relationship is interesting.",,27,HappilyMrs,2021-07-18 14:43:23 RedPillWives,om7jmb,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1626539413.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2021-07-17 16:30:13 RedPillWives,oldfq0,Where would you not follow?,"Following on from yesterday's post about household voting, I am now curious about where you draw the line. What things would you not follow your husband into? @@ -62696,24 +62696,24 @@ I know it may take a bit of thinking around the ideas that your husband would ne For me, an open marriage is a red line. I have tried having a poly-style relationship with my husband and another woman, and it was a disaster that I would not repeat. Also drug use, and also what to do about an unexpected pregnancy (though I would do my very best to make this a unanimous decision, the ultimate choice would rest with me) -What about you?",,16,HappilyMrs,1626427784.0 +What about you?",,16,HappilyMrs,2021-07-16 09:29:44 RedPillWives,okr2jz,FR: Don't assign him motivations,"I'd like to tell you a little story of my morning. I was sat in the bed after my shower, towel dried hair everywhere. He came in to talk to me and was looking at my crazy hair thoughtfully. My immediate reaction was ""Oh he thinks my hair looks really awful and he's going to make a jokey comment about it"". Normally, I would immediately try to preempt that to protect my ego with either a joke of my own or an accusatory ""You think my hair looks awful!"" But I tried to just pause, not run my mouth. Instead he asked where a brush was, which again I instinctively felt could be a criticism. Instead of being defensive, I asked why. He told me he was wondering because he was going to offer to brush it for me (which he knows I love). So I told him, and he spent five minutes lovingly and slowly brushing my hair, and then kissed my crown. It felt really good, and so intimate. It built closeness. I could have been a bitch. I've often been a bitch. And simply through my own reaction I'd have made him not want to do it, and have made us miss out on a really lovely little moment. -So the lesson is, assume the best of your husband, and don't assign him thoughts and feelings he likely isn't even having. You'll only end up being the loser from it.",,155,HappilyMrs,1626349144.0 +So the lesson is, assume the best of your husband, and don't assign him thoughts and feelings he likely isn't even having. You'll only end up being the loser from it.",,155,HappilyMrs,2021-07-15 11:39:04 RedPillWives,oknpub,Head of household voting,"I've just seen an article where an American politician wants to bring Head Of Household voting in, with the husband having the final say. Here is the link to the article https://19thnews.org/2020/08/on-eve-of-suffrage-centennial-milestone-rnc-to-feature-speaker-supporting-policies-barring-women-from-voting/ I wondered what you think of the idea? Would it work for you? Are you in favour of or against the idea? -Hopefully we dont need to get into political arguments, what I'm curious about is the principle of handing over the decision on who to vote for and how you feel about it.",,5,HappilyMrs,1626333575.0 +Hopefully we dont need to get into political arguments, what I'm curious about is the principle of handing over the decision on who to vote for and how you feel about it.",,5,HappilyMrs,2021-07-15 07:19:35 RedPillWives,ok2vzu,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,7,blushingoleander,1626264077.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,7,blushingoleander,2021-07-14 12:01:17 RedPillWives,ojjg04,Own Your Stuff,"Own Your Stuff Hello Ladies, time for another round of OYS. @@ -62724,7 +62724,7 @@ Don't be shy! Bring both the serious and the trivial into discussion. Start with your stats: relationship status/ ages/ kids, how long you have been married or dating, and anything else you deem very important. -For example: Me: 27, Husband 33. 2 daughters, 6 months, 3 yrs, SAHM",,7,Lightandlush,1626194459.0 +For example: Me: 27, Husband 33. 2 daughters, 6 months, 3 yrs, SAHM",,7,Lightandlush,2021-07-13 16:40:59 RedPillWives,oje3bw,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -62741,14 +62741,14 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,4,blushingoleander,1626177612.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,4,blushingoleander,2021-07-13 12:00:12 RedPillWives,oiske0,Creating an echo chamber- good or bad?,"I’d love to hear everyone’s thoughts on this! I was listening to Suzanne Venker and she mentioned how people our age have it so much differently than say, our mothers and grandmothers. They didn’t have the information overload and varying opinions like we do today. She was talking about how the only opinions you heard were those of your family & neighbors. And we’d be better off by getting rid of social media. But does that create an echo chamber? Do we eliminate those opinions we disagree with and just focus on bringing in information we agree with? I find for myself (because I tend to be so agreeable) I can get tossed around by hearing so many opinions but never make up my own mind and follow through with action in that direction. But would it be prudent to block out all opinions contrary to my own and just focus on what I already believe it/agree with? -Thoughts?",,19,anothergoodbook,1626100712.0 +Thoughts?",,19,anothergoodbook,2021-07-12 14:38:32 RedPillWives,oialro,Loving our new dynamic. So so thankful for this community!,"I’m very tired after a thwarted camping trip (completely rained out) and so a bit over emotional. So bear with me. Many of you have been following along with the things going on in my marriage for quite a while. Well I finally truly absorbed the info and put it into action. @@ -62763,10 +62763,10 @@ I’ve been really stepping up into my place in our marriage. For a long time I We went camping this weekend which usually ends up us irritated with each other at some point. But instead of our usual thing, I asked him what should I do. I typically want to constantly jump in and “help” which pisses him off. He asked me to take care of a few things while he did his thing. Even after getting totally rained out we worked together so well. No irritation, no raised voices. I really took the whole “captain-first mate” thing seriously. I think he was happy to have someone he could rely on. All weekend he was super considerate and thoughtful. I could totally get used to this! I even see a difference in the way the kids have been talking to me. -So thanks for putting up with all my whiny questions and giving me great guidance :)",,36,anothergoodbook,1626030683.0 +So thanks for putting up with all my whiny questions and giving me great guidance :)",,36,anothergoodbook,2021-07-11 19:11:23 RedPillWives,ohlvoo,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1625934614.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2021-07-10 16:30:14 RedPillWives,og4yz5,Just a little insight to the women who struggle with the idea of staying at home vs being a career women.,"I've been looking through posts for a little bit now and I love this sub. However I do notice this idea that if a women who is afraid or nervous to start the homemaker role it's always seen as ""well you don't seem like you hate working you hate your current job."" I've gotten this comment too but I'd like to offer some input from a social anthropological level to this. I grew up in a very democratic home (idk how I became the opposite) and with 2 parents who worked no less than 50 hours a week. Mom included in that. We were all taught to work. Work. Work. Never mind the fact that mom was miserable, we were raised by our ""baby sitting grandma"" (an family friends mom) and the parent kid relationship has ALWAYS been strained. I was nearly forced to go to college despite my best efforts to suggest other wise and when I was 17 I was told I needed to work along side this. I don't nessisarily HATE work sure. My job I just quit was lovely and flexible but I didn't find my value and strength in it and often times held on to it for 6 years bc I feared judgements rather than it fed something in me. @@ -62775,10 +62775,10 @@ My husband, very conservative traditional man who often expressed his want for m All of that said this is a huge cultural barrier some of us have to go through. I didn't HATE my job but I didn't love it. I didn't want it or even need it. I just felt like I had to do it. It's not that some of us who are afraid to make the change don't want to do it or even hate the current job it's just a BIG change and one that often comes with a LOT of stigma these days of female STEM, female career, working mom culture. -Hyper independence and the threat of divorce and a back up plan is constantly instilled in women these days and ""I don't need no man"" attitude. That's not saying it's not true right even SAHW are independent and they DONT ""need"" their husband or bf but the issue doesn't always lie with ""I want to work"" it lies with ""culture tells me I need to work to be valuable."" It's a reaction we often see in an overcorrection culture from past history. We went through women's right fights to give women the CHOICE and the RIGHT to pick that path... to ALLOW us to choose to be house wives or working women, not to force one or the other down the throat of women. So if you too are struggling with this internal battle know that the brave women who fought for the right to go to school and college and have a career didn't intend for today's feminism to force that as your only option. It was meant to give you the freedom of choice. Please trust your wants and needs and if that's staying at home or going to work STAND YOUR GROUND in that choice to anyone who tells you the choice you made was ""wrong"" bc it's not. Career women are amazing and strong and so are the ones who embrace the traditional role of house wife. It's just different not right or wrong.",,14,Tyla_re,1625742365.0 +Hyper independence and the threat of divorce and a back up plan is constantly instilled in women these days and ""I don't need no man"" attitude. That's not saying it's not true right even SAHW are independent and they DONT ""need"" their husband or bf but the issue doesn't always lie with ""I want to work"" it lies with ""culture tells me I need to work to be valuable."" It's a reaction we often see in an overcorrection culture from past history. We went through women's right fights to give women the CHOICE and the RIGHT to pick that path... to ALLOW us to choose to be house wives or working women, not to force one or the other down the throat of women. So if you too are struggling with this internal battle know that the brave women who fought for the right to go to school and college and have a career didn't intend for today's feminism to force that as your only option. It was meant to give you the freedom of choice. Please trust your wants and needs and if that's staying at home or going to work STAND YOUR GROUND in that choice to anyone who tells you the choice you made was ""wrong"" bc it's not. Career women are amazing and strong and so are the ones who embrace the traditional role of house wife. It's just different not right or wrong.",,14,Tyla_re,2021-07-08 11:06:05 RedPillWives,og56nn,What are you watching and listening to and reading?,"It’s time for our second installment - I’d love to hear all about what you’re filling your minds with the last couple of weeks. -Love it? Hate it? Let us know!",,2,anothergoodbook,1625743283.0 +Love it? Hate it? Let us know!",,2,anothergoodbook,2021-07-08 11:21:23 RedPillWives,ofmslv,Husband is more affectionate and tender after I lost my job.,"This is unexpected. I lost my job and while this doesn’t put us in a emergency financial situation, it isn’t a blessing either. @@ -62797,15 +62797,15 @@ I don’t know if he is more caring and loving because I stopped complaining abo He seemed very happy to have me around him all day. Even said “now I can have you for me”. In a sweet way, not in a creepy way, just to make it clear. -Has someone gone through this before?",,61,acgs1995,1625676352.0 +Has someone gone through this before?",,61,acgs1995,2021-07-07 16:45:52 RedPillWives,of3avl,Shocked by another subreddit,"So I found another subreddit where all these mothers complain about their lives/husbands/kids and it's so depressing. So much of it sounds like it would be fixed by a change of attitude, and particularly by applying some Red Pill Wives/Surrendered Wife principles. It made me appreciate the lovely advice and support on this sub and also made me so grateful for my own attitude change as I discovered the female red pill. My marriage went from average with a lot of anger and disappointment on both sides to absolutely amazing, strong and happy when I discovered this stuff! It's been a couple of years since the epiphany and we've never been happier. -As women we are so powerful to make or break our relationships by having a good attitude (without becoming a doormat!) and I wish I could talk some sense into these other ladies!",,22,catcatcat000,1625603067.0 +As women we are so powerful to make or break our relationships by having a good attitude (without becoming a doormat!) and I wish I could talk some sense into these other ladies!",,22,catcatcat000,2021-07-06 20:24:27 RedPillWives,ofhh1c,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1625659276.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2021-07-07 12:01:16 RedPillWives,of4vvy,Own Your Stuff,"Own Your Stuff Hello Ladies, time for another round of OYS. @@ -62816,7 +62816,7 @@ Don't be shy! Bring both the serious and the trivial into discussion. Start with your stats: relationship status/ ages/ kids, how long you have been married or dating, and anything else you deem very important. -For example: Me: 27, Husband 33. 2 daughters, 6 months, 3 yrs, SAHM",,2,Lightandlush,1625607993.0 +For example: Me: 27, Husband 33. 2 daughters, 6 months, 3 yrs, SAHM",,2,Lightandlush,2021-07-06 21:46:33 RedPillWives,oetzz5,Positive updates AND needing help," To start with, an update to surrendering the money… @@ -62837,14 +62837,14 @@ He vented about not having food made for him (like breakfast & lunches). Bu Later when I was folding his laundry and putting it away he says “oh no, you don’t need to do all of that. Just throw it in my drawer”. I’m frustrated by the mixed messages. *What the hell does this man want -from me?!* Should I just continue doing what I have been doing and planning to do (his laundry & meals) or do I just back off and let him do it since that’s what he’s telling me?",,8,anothergoodbook,1625574808.0 +from me?!* Should I just continue doing what I have been doing and planning to do (his laundry & meals) or do I just back off and let him do it since that’s what he’s telling me?",,8,anothergoodbook,2021-07-06 12:33:28 RedPillWives,od1c4i,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1625329815.0 -RedPillWives,ocp54u,Housekeeping help,"I feel like I've really let our new home go. Its an older home built in the 50's. I don't think its most my fault as the people before were horders. I cannot keep floors clean for the life of me. My children love to be bearfoot and so do i. This means our feet a few hours into the day are all dirty. Sometimes like caked on us. I have a bissle crosswave but i don't feel where it works that great. I have a mop, I sweep, I vaccum. Nothing seems to clean it right. My couch is covered in food from toddlers. I have deep cleaned this house so much I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I feel disgusting. Any tips for cleaning old hardwood floors that will stay clean. I'm not mopping every day. I also have a swiffer. I would like to at least just mop once a week.",,9,SillyRabbitBlue,1625279249.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2021-07-03 16:30:15 +RedPillWives,ocp54u,Housekeeping help,"I feel like I've really let our new home go. Its an older home built in the 50's. I don't think its most my fault as the people before were horders. I cannot keep floors clean for the life of me. My children love to be bearfoot and so do i. This means our feet a few hours into the day are all dirty. Sometimes like caked on us. I have a bissle crosswave but i don't feel where it works that great. I have a mop, I sweep, I vaccum. Nothing seems to clean it right. My couch is covered in food from toddlers. I have deep cleaned this house so much I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I feel disgusting. Any tips for cleaning old hardwood floors that will stay clean. I'm not mopping every day. I also have a swiffer. I would like to at least just mop once a week.",,9,SillyRabbitBlue,2021-07-03 02:27:29 RedPillWives,ocgc7f,Advice on biting your tongue,"I’m bad at putting the duct tape on. I jump to defensiveness in disagreements and my husband has pointed it out too. -Does anyone have advice on stopping myself from jumping to an emotionally defensive and reactive place in fights so that I can remain calm, respectful, and dignified? It is like a switch!",,4,roxylemon,1625251059.0 +Does anyone have advice on stopping myself from jumping to an emotionally defensive and reactive place in fights so that I can remain calm, respectful, and dignified? It is like a switch!",,4,roxylemon,2021-07-02 18:37:39 RedPillWives,objwg7,Handed over control of the money and other interesting things…,"For those of you following the saga of my marriage… last night was a bit of a breakthrough. Over the last few months or so I have been realizing how controlling I have been over the course of my marriage. And money has been the worst of it. @@ -62861,14 +62861,14 @@ He also said me making big changes has put him on the defense. He said he likes I cried a lot last night over what I have done and what I have lost. That’s been in the forefront of my thoughts lately - getting older answering missed opportunities and seeing the consequences of younger me’s actions. I have to say I’m thankful for the grace of God and forgiveness. -Thanks for reading if you got this far!",,49,anothergoodbook,1625139220.0 -RedPillWives,oansnx,"What does red pill think of this dating advice? I prefer to bring problems, not solutions, for the most part. A lot of Instagram dating advice is cringey to me. No female mystique or polarity in an equal dynamic",,https://i.redd.it/dudjs7rfgb871.jpg,13,littlegraycellsmonam,1625021071.0 +Thanks for reading if you got this far!",,49,anothergoodbook,2021-07-01 11:33:40 +RedPillWives,oansnx,"What does red pill think of this dating advice? I prefer to bring problems, not solutions, for the most part. A lot of Instagram dating advice is cringey to me. No female mystique or polarity in an equal dynamic",,https://i.redd.it/dudjs7rfgb871.jpg,13,littlegraycellsmonam,2021-06-30 02:44:31 RedPillWives,oavue4,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1625054481.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2021-06-30 12:01:21 RedPillWives,oagavt,Does anyone actually follow the financial plan in The Surrendered Wife?,"I’m rereading The Surrendered Wife and I absolutely love her financial surrendering. I attempted to do that a few years ago and realize now I did it ALL wrong. -I’m wondering if anyone here *actually* does things the way she outlines there - using cash, asking for an “allowance” of sorts. I’m also wondering how you would handle online things - like the kids have “credit cards” that they get their allowance on. But I handle all of those things.",,13,anothergoodbook,1624997730.0 +I’m wondering if anyone here *actually* does things the way she outlines there - using cash, asking for an “allowance” of sorts. I’m also wondering how you would handle online things - like the kids have “credit cards” that they get their allowance on. But I handle all of those things.",,13,anothergoodbook,2021-06-29 20:15:30 RedPillWives,oa6tti,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -62885,7 +62885,7 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,5,blushingoleander,1624968015.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,5,blushingoleander,2021-06-29 12:00:15 RedPillWives,o9of5h,Own Your Stuff,"Own Your Stuff Hello Ladies, time for another round of OYS. @@ -62896,7 +62896,7 @@ Don't be shy! Bring both the serious and the trivial into discussion. Start with your stats: relationship status/ ages/ kids, how long you have been married or dating, and anything else you deem very important. -For example: Me: 27, Husband 33. 2 daughters, 6 months, 3 yrs, SAHM",,10,Lightandlush,1624899417.0 +For example: Me: 27, Husband 33. 2 daughters, 6 months, 3 yrs, SAHM",,10,Lightandlush,2021-06-28 16:56:57 RedPillWives,o9e31b,New Date: Any Potential Here? (Update),"So I may have just had the most awkward 1 hour conversation in my whole life, haha. (Background: I’ve been having a couple dates with a lovely guy but I became concerned when I realised he wanted to travel in the future, I mean hiking and very full-on, while I am basically ready to settle down). @@ -62917,7 +62917,7 @@ He sounded very relaxed and basically said he thought about that already and he “I’m not put away by that.” -I was dumbfounded so after yet another awkward silence I chuckled and said, well let’s continue then. So…I have a fun date this Tuesday that he’s planned, we’re going bowling? 😅",,6,VladNook,1624859530.0 +I was dumbfounded so after yet another awkward silence I chuckled and said, well let’s continue then. So…I have a fun date this Tuesday that he’s planned, we’re going bowling? 😅",,6,VladNook,2021-06-28 05:52:10 RedPillWives,o8c0f4,"Steve Harvey’s Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man..","Hi ladies! What are everyone’s thoughts about this book? I didn’t even realize it had a movie until a friend showed me, but I did have the book and have read it years ago so I picked it up again. It seems to have very sound advice for women about vetting a man well, setting their standards and keeping them safe. @@ -62935,18 +62935,18 @@ I totally love the 90 day rule for the cookie too. He also mentions setting a wedding date but doesn’t really say when to do so in a relationship. It seems blunt just to lay it down when your timeline is and let him react, yet very fair. -Just love to hear everyone’s thoughts.",,15,ThatStepfordGal,1624718303.0 +Just love to hear everyone’s thoughts.",,15,ThatStepfordGal,2021-06-26 14:38:23 RedPillWives,o8e3bf,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,1624725010.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,4,blushingoleander,2021-06-26 16:30:10 RedPillWives,o7vjdk,(6/25) What are you reading/listening to/watching?!,"Alright ladies - let’s discuss what books you are reading (fiction, non fiction, whatever), podcasts you’re listening to, or YouTube videos you are watching! What do you love (or hate) about it? Would you recommend it or tell us to avoid it? -*I am totally NOT a mod so hopefully this is okay 😂. If this goes over well maybe we can make it a regular thing!*",,13,anothergoodbook,1624651948.0 +*I am totally NOT a mod so hopefully this is okay 😂. If this goes over well maybe we can make it a regular thing!*",,13,anothergoodbook,2021-06-25 20:12:28 RedPillWives,o7pg6r,Would anyone be interested in a bi-weekly/monthly “what are you reading & listening to” - type thread ?,"I was thinking about this today and wondering if anyone else would like it or just me 😊. -Edit: started a thread here: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/o7vjdk/625_what_are_you_readinglistening_towatching/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf",,21,anothergoodbook,1624633307.0 +Edit: started a thread here: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/o7vjdk/625_what_are_you_readinglistening_towatching/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf",,21,anothergoodbook,2021-06-25 15:01:47 RedPillWives,o7a0z7,In Praise of my Husband,"I have had a terrible day (pretty much a prefect storm of mini tornados that just sucked): - I’ve been *very* tired the last two weeks or so. So tired I’m making stupid mistakes like flooding my kitchen counter. I’ve been changing my diet and not sure if that’s the culprit. But I have a doctors appointment tomorrow @@ -62965,19 +62965,19 @@ I had texted my husband a couple of times through some of this. Our 11 year old My plan was to go from 5-6 or so that way my husband could get home from work, eat and change. Well here he comes through the door at home at 4! He left early from work so he could just take our son to the meet. I pretty much said thank you a million times. -I’m just so incredibly thankful for this man and when I back off he really shines through. Sorry for the brag!",,38,anothergoodbook,1624568818.0 +I’m just so incredibly thankful for this man and when I back off he really shines through. Sorry for the brag!",,38,anothergoodbook,2021-06-24 21:06:58 RedPillWives,o7ea1z,"Looking for like minded friends in PDX, OR","I apologize if this is not allowed. I am a 23F aspiring homemaker. I would love to connect with some ladies in my area that resonate with RP and who ideally are in their 20’s. I want feminine friends who nurture their softness and beauty. Supportive friends who are interested in talking about RP and the bright side of life. I love the arts, philosophy, nature, among so many other topics. -Please message me if interested! I will be very careful about who I meet in person so don’t worry about me.",,7,littlegraycellsmonam,1624587298.0 -RedPillWives,o7an4v,Having a career/degree is important to men. Share your thoughts!,,/r/RedPillWomen/comments/o7ali6/having_careerdegree_is_important_to_men/,0,Pretykity,1624574537.0 +Please message me if interested! I will be very careful about who I meet in person so don’t worry about me.",,7,littlegraycellsmonam,2021-06-25 02:14:58 +RedPillWives,o7an4v,Having a career/degree is important to men. Share your thoughts!,,/r/RedPillWomen/comments/o7ali6/having_careerdegree_is_important_to_men/,0,Pretykity,2021-06-24 22:42:17 RedPillWives,o6bdjd,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,1624449673.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,6,blushingoleander,2021-06-23 12:01:13 RedPillWives,o5kt6x,Book Recommendation!,"I’m reading The Theology of Home (I & II). They are Catholic which I am not. But if you needed anything to help remind you why you stay at home with your kids or not with kids - these books are for you. I love how the capture the unique gifts of femininity and what we bring forth from just being ourselves. -Theology of Home: Finding the Eternal in the Everyday https://www.amazon.com/dp/1505113652/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_SG411TYVZ30D40668HCF",,6,anothergoodbook,1624361118.0 +Theology of Home: Finding the Eternal in the Everyday https://www.amazon.com/dp/1505113652/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_SG411TYVZ30D40668HCF",,6,anothergoodbook,2021-06-22 11:25:18 RedPillWives,o5lfz1,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -62994,7 +62994,7 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,1,blushingoleander,1624363214.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,1,blushingoleander,2021-06-22 12:00:14 RedPillWives,o5doz0,OYS- Own Your Stuff,"Own Your Stuff Hello Ladies, time for another round of OYS. @@ -63007,7 +63007,7 @@ Start with your stats: relationship status/ ages/ kids, how long you have been m For example: Me: 27, Husband 33. 2 daughters, 6 months, 3 yrs, SAHM -Single ladies are more than welcome to post as well :)",,4,Lightandlush,1624334054.0 +Single ladies are more than welcome to post as well :)",,4,Lightandlush,2021-06-22 03:54:14 RedPillWives,o4vyqt,I need your help… advice on balance?,"I feel burnt out today. And i believe I know why. And I need help (hopefully from someone who has been here? But I will take anything and everything you’ve got!). Some backstory: @@ -63028,7 +63028,7 @@ Edit: there’s 4 kids mixed into all of this as well. They all go to scouts, 2 SORRY for not including that as I realize it changes my above discussion considerably!! -My housekeeping goals are to: have a daily routine in which the kitchen gets cleaned (not deep clean), laundry, and a general tidying happens… I would also would like to begin to beautify my space as well as organizing.",,2,anothergoodbook,1624284568.0 +My housekeeping goals are to: have a daily routine in which the kitchen gets cleaned (not deep clean), laundry, and a general tidying happens… I would also would like to begin to beautify my space as well as organizing.",,2,anothergoodbook,2021-06-21 14:09:28 RedPillWives,o47hj1,Saints of RPW do you have any cleaning tips for a lost cause?,"Hey everyone! I was hoping to gather some advice from some homemaking experts on here. My husband and I got married young (I'm 21) and I'm currently juggling college, a part-time job and well... the homemaking stuff. While I have no issues with cooking - it's the cleaning that I am really bad at. I grew up in a quite pampered household and usually we had someone resident in our home to clean every single day and the house was spotless, i didn't even have to make my own bed (I now regret this lifestyle). I know nothing about cleaning and I would really like my husband to come home to a clean house but I just suck at it so much. @@ -63043,22 +63043,22 @@ I grew up in a quite pampered household and usually we had someone resident in o So, seeing as I will probably never get a hold of the saint of my childhood who kept me in a shiny house for the first 16 years of my life - would any experts here know the answer to these existential questions? -Thank you in advance!",,14,grahamcookiefart,1624201065.0 +Thank you in advance!",,14,grahamcookiefart,2021-06-20 14:57:45 RedPillWives,o3jwgi,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,1624120211.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,2,blushingoleander,2021-06-19 16:30:11 RedPillWives,o3ap2s,New Date: Any Potential Here?,"Hey everyone! Even despite last time I’ve continued to date and I know I just have to keep going. I’ve met this new guy from a dating app, it’s been wonderful since we get along well, have similar humour, perspectives in life and also immigrants but from different countries. We are kinda goofy together but in a very relaxed, comfortable way. We’ve had a coffee date and dinner so far, he’s 5 years above me. I mainly have 1 concern: he’s very nature-y, I mean he likes hikes and camping, which is fine and I do them sometimes, I don’t mind if he does his thing whenever. But more seriously, he still wants to do a lotta travel, like climb 3 more summits. There’s still 1 trip I want to do but that’s it. After I want to settle and have a family basically asap since I feel ever more ready. Should I do something about this now? -Edit: I mean should I bring up this possible mismatch? Perhaps I should wait and not jump it too early..",,0,VladNook,1624088129.0 +Edit: I mean should I bring up this possible mismatch? Perhaps I should wait and not jump it too early..",,0,VladNook,2021-06-19 07:35:29 RedPillWives,o2w8ga,Weekend is coming :D,"What do you all have planned? Is there anything specifically you're giving some energy to in your relationship? We have been having a big move around of furniture and declutter. We found the VHS tape of our wedding video stashed away. It's from 2003, we've never watched it, and I'm not sure it will play. But we picked up a secondhand VHS player today to test it out. That's part of our plan for tomorrow. I think we may also do some gardening and then head out somewhere if its sunny, maybe the beach! -Hope you're all having a good Friday",,9,HappilyMrs,1624039502.0 +Hope you're all having a good Friday",,9,HappilyMrs,2021-06-18 18:05:02 RedPillWives,o2gnc3,How to prepare for becoming a housewife?,"I am new here. I have read a lot of posts so far and this red pill mindset makes a lot of sense to me. I am 23 and graduated 2 years ago, so I am pretty new to the corporate world. I am already sick of it. My relationship: I have been with my 30 year old boyfriend for almost 2 years. He is a high value, masculine man who adores me. We do not live together. He recently bought a house, and told me he will propose by the end of the year. By June of next year, we will be married (according to him). I won’t believe it until I see it, but I have decided to trust him, and to trust the process. @@ -63079,7 +63079,7 @@ I am also working on my femininity, always finding ways to improve my SMV, chara Thanks for reading! -PS. Active bedroom life: yes",,5,littlegraycellsmonam,1623990730.0 +PS. Active bedroom life: yes",,5,littlegraycellsmonam,2021-06-18 04:32:10 RedPillWives,o2hafd,Another update/thoughts about things,"Raise your hand if you are sick of my posts yet! Lol. I felt like I had a lot of write about (based on the last like 3 days) so I decided to make it another OYS update all based on (you guessed it) shit-testing! I know, so different that all my other posts... Without further adieu, @@ -63098,7 +63098,7 @@ Subtle to explain but obvious as it was happening. And it made me feel really a And he said the next step for him is actually to untangle himself from my emotions so that he is not affected my bad moods. -Anyways, what Im worried about is basically that I will end up impossible to please and always be annoyed at something, because he is not (and never will be) perfect or have a perfect ‘frame’. And I obviously don’t want that. We are still in a positive place though, and husband remains confident and optimistic (basically he chuckled and said that his frame will have to be iron clad because I will find and poke every chink in his armor).",,5,Lightandlush,1623993077.0 +Anyways, what Im worried about is basically that I will end up impossible to please and always be annoyed at something, because he is not (and never will be) perfect or have a perfect ‘frame’. And I obviously don’t want that. We are still in a positive place though, and husband remains confident and optimistic (basically he chuckled and said that his frame will have to be iron clad because I will find and poke every chink in his armor).",,5,Lightandlush,2021-06-18 05:11:17 RedPillWives,o28sz1,How to stop seeking validation?,"Laura Doyle says to not mention the changes you’re making. And not to ask how about how different it seems. But… @@ -63107,10 +63107,10 @@ I want the validation!! I want to hear, “yes, you’ve made amazing changes! T I’m trying to focus on the positive affects it’s having and how relaxed my husband seems. But, man! It’s hard. -Help!!",,20,anothergoodbook,1623966449.0 +Help!!",,20,anothergoodbook,2021-06-17 21:47:29 RedPillWives,o281x6,If you could look like anyone in the world...,"...who are you picking and why? -I thought it'd be nice to have a silly sort of post. We will assume that if you got to look like that person, they wouldn't also exist (so you didn't have any paparazzi issues!), and your husband would still find you every attractive.",,3,HappilyMrs,1623964460.0 +I thought it'd be nice to have a silly sort of post. We will assume that if you got to look like that person, they wouldn't also exist (so you didn't have any paparazzi issues!), and your husband would still find you every attractive.",,3,HappilyMrs,2021-06-17 21:14:20 RedPillWives,o1w7tg,Prayer of a Wife,"This is from “A Little Treasure of Prayers” from 1888. It really spoke to me and while I know not everyone here is religious I thought it might be a nice encouragement :) Gracious God, faithful Father! Since Thou hast, through Thy mercy, called me into the holy state of matrimony to be the mistress of a house, in which state I can also serve and please Thee, my God, do Thou bestow grace upon me, Thy servant, that I may at all times sincerely fear Thee, and trust in Thee above all things, O my Creator and Redeemer; and that I may, next to Thee, fear, love and honor my husband, and desire none other besides him. @@ -63123,7 +63123,7 @@ Help that I may be a faithful helpmeet unto my husband, that I may with care gua Protect us against unfaithful and wicked servants, who neglect and waste our property. Give me grace that I may patiently bear the cross in married life, and not so soon become discouraged or intimidated whenever afflictions come upon us; for our faith must be tested through trials and adversities. - O Lord God! Into Thy almighty power I commend myself, my dear husband, all my children and servants, do Thou preserve us from sin, disgrace and all afflictions, through Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.",,10,anothergoodbook,1623933410.0 + O Lord God! Into Thy almighty power I commend myself, my dear husband, all my children and servants, do Thou preserve us from sin, disgrace and all afflictions, through Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.",,10,anothergoodbook,2021-06-17 12:36:50 RedPillWives,o166oj,I need some rpw encouragement,"So my husband lost his job. It's ... complicated...as far as ""fault"" goes. They gave him a negative review after he took (and still worked part time through) his paternity leave. He was also politically outspoke during election season while he was volunteering at a local level. A merger changed the values of the company. Add in his mentor leaving (he didn't like the direction the company was headed). @@ -63140,10 +63140,10 @@ I have not thrown any accusations his way. But I'm not super excited to have him Kick me in the butt Wives. How do I turn this into a positive in my head (and in reality) so I can be pleasant to my husband and kids and not stressed all summer. -(As my flair says, we are 38/40 together for 14 years. I work, we own our house, have savings, two small kids...ask me whatever, I'm all over the place today and he's out with Red (kid #1) so I'm alone with my thoughts while Green (kid #2) naps).",,13,blushingoleander,1623853704.0 +(As my flair says, we are 38/40 together for 14 years. I work, we own our house, have savings, two small kids...ask me whatever, I'm all over the place today and he's out with Red (kid #1) so I'm alone with my thoughts while Green (kid #2) naps).",,13,blushingoleander,2021-06-16 14:28:24 RedPillWives,o137wy,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,8,blushingoleander,1623844870.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,8,blushingoleander,2021-06-16 12:01:10 RedPillWives,o0corh,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -63160,7 +63160,7 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,3,blushingoleander,1623758421.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,3,blushingoleander,2021-06-15 12:00:21 RedPillWives,nzseoh,I hate societal pressure to work a regular job as a woman.,"I guess I need to vent a bit. Not sure if this is the right place for it. I just don't know where else I can ""go"". I'm back home from therapy today. My female therapist said so much stuff today because I said I may not want to work in my life ever. Because I may want 4 kids. @@ -63169,7 +63169,7 @@ She said she believes we as women have to be independent and have a job. That an I'm 27 and there's no way I will see it as a real possibility having my first child at 40. Why would I? I'm in a 2 year relationship right now and hoping to get engaged and married soon if everything is right. And then I want to try for a baby soon. Having my own family is just so important that I can't care about any job. And it's a man's responsibility to provide financially anyways. -I'm so f\*ing tired of unintentionally triggering other women with my non-existent desire to be financially independent. They're just so scared, always thinking about what could go wrong and killing their feminine energy with all this fear. They think they have to do it all. They don't.",,46,lightcobaltblue,1623692599.0 +I'm so f\*ing tired of unintentionally triggering other women with my non-existent desire to be financially independent. They're just so scared, always thinking about what could go wrong and killing their feminine energy with all this fear. They think they have to do it all. They don't.",,46,lightcobaltblue,2021-06-14 17:43:19 RedPillWives,o0578v,OYS,"Own Your Stuff Hello Ladies, time for another round of OYS. @@ -63182,24 +63182,24 @@ Start with your stats: relationship status/ ages/ kids, how long you have been m For example: Me: 27, Husband 33. 2 daughters, 6 months, 3 yrs, SAHM -Single ladies are more than welcome to post as well :)",,6,Lightandlush,1623729684.0 +Single ladies are more than welcome to post as well :)",,6,Lightandlush,2021-06-15 04:01:24 RedPillWives,nz0hpi,Update: Yellow Flag?,"I just wanted to say thank you for everyone sharing their perspectives when I asked for advice. It’s been a couple months since then so I wanted update. We ended up having a couple more wonderful dates, he lead and even I surprised him with a little picnic in a garden where we went. Until an evening we quickly met after work and had dessert, ended up walking me to my car and then got a little touchy. I had to stop him and literally clarify, that I don’t have sex without commitment. He said he’d guessed it’s what I tried saying before though he wasn’t sure, so I confirmed. Then he explained he was concerned because he did have a former relationship where he did that and then all the sex ended up being horrible - I told him I understand why he’d think in such a way after and I respect it, but I have my stance and he needs to think about this coming from here. -Not long after something very personal and heavy did happen to him and he was emotionally affected, from then he stopped asking me to dates and I understood completely. After even a month we’d text everyday but still no initiation, even after I did propose having a quick coffee if he needed to vent emotionally, not a date - he said thank you but refused. After some time I started feeling stale, like this person just lived in my phone and I’m starting to forget the real life interactions, so I started texting less, I just didn’t know what else to say anymore because it felt repetitive and he slowed down too, then suddenly he just stopped replying and that’s it - finished, yay.",,21,VladNook,1623602877.0 +Not long after something very personal and heavy did happen to him and he was emotionally affected, from then he stopped asking me to dates and I understood completely. After even a month we’d text everyday but still no initiation, even after I did propose having a quick coffee if he needed to vent emotionally, not a date - he said thank you but refused. After some time I started feeling stale, like this person just lived in my phone and I’m starting to forget the real life interactions, so I started texting less, I just didn’t know what else to say anymore because it felt repetitive and he slowed down too, then suddenly he just stopped replying and that’s it - finished, yay.",,21,VladNook,2021-06-13 16:47:57 RedPillWives,nyali7,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,1623515418.0 -RedPillWives,nxjsjl,"Laura Doyle's Six Intimacy Skills- Working on them, any advice?",New member here :) I have been reading and re-reading The Empowered Wife and I have been trying the skills in my marriage. I have had some success but I am having trouble staying consistent. I find myself criticizing my husband without even realizing I am. OR I find myself trying to control a situation without knowing I am. I truly want and know this will work for my marriage. Any suggestions on how you may have had success in your marriage using these skills?,,15,ThisGirlCan8898,1623428259.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,5,blushingoleander,2021-06-12 16:30:18 +RedPillWives,nxjsjl,"Laura Doyle's Six Intimacy Skills- Working on them, any advice?",New member here :) I have been reading and re-reading The Empowered Wife and I have been trying the skills in my marriage. I have had some success but I am having trouble staying consistent. I find myself criticizing my husband without even realizing I am. OR I find myself trying to control a situation without knowing I am. I truly want and know this will work for my marriage. Any suggestions on how you may have had success in your marriage using these skills?,,15,ThisGirlCan8898,2021-06-11 16:17:39 RedPillWives,nxc73n,ARPWALT (all red pill women are like that),"What do you think the stereotypes about RP women are? Do you feel you conform to some or all of them? Which ones really get your goat, and which do you find laughable? -What could be done to overcome them, or is it a lost cause at present?",,7,HappilyMrs,1623405181.0 +What could be done to overcome them, or is it a lost cause at present?",,7,HappilyMrs,2021-06-11 09:53:01 RedPillWives,nx0vpz,I have a housekeeping win to report!!,"I’ve been really bad about laundry in the past. We have a basket in our room that my husband and I put dirty laundry. However he got really tired of having to clean laundry. He set his dirty clothes aside to wash. Of course he would forget until the last minute and be up until midnight doing laundry. Fine - I reconciled it with thoughts like “he’s a grown man he can do his own laundry”. @@ -63208,7 +63208,7 @@ But lately I’ve had a nagging guilt over laundry and housework in general. I I have asked a few times if there was anything urgent he needed washed. So this time when I asked, he said they were in *our* basket because I’ve been doing such a great job of getting his stuff taken care of. -I told him last week that I know I’ve made a lot of promises to change the way I do things, but I’ve rarely (if ever) followed through. I told him I wouldn’t make any promises but I wanted to show through my actions I’m changing. And that I understood if he was skeptical and didn’t trust me. So as little as this sounds - it’s sort of like he is trusting me to handle his laundry. And I’m very pleased because of what that means for how much I’ve changed!!",,20,anothergoodbook,1623365426.0 +I told him last week that I know I’ve made a lot of promises to change the way I do things, but I’ve rarely (if ever) followed through. I told him I wouldn’t make any promises but I wanted to show through my actions I’m changing. And that I understood if he was skeptical and didn’t trust me. So as little as this sounds - it’s sort of like he is trusting me to handle his laundry. And I’m very pleased because of what that means for how much I’ve changed!!",,20,anothergoodbook,2021-06-10 22:50:26 RedPillWives,nx7adl,Testing 123,"Excerpt from Fascinating Womanhood: &#x200B; @@ -63235,7 +63235,7 @@ But Im curious if anyone thinks this testing happens in marriage. I know the vi But, do you think husbands will actively test the virtue/character of their wives? -Curious about thoughts on this.",,8,Lightandlush,1623385746.0 +Curious about thoughts on this.",,8,Lightandlush,2021-06-11 04:29:06 RedPillWives,nvroag,BBC article on the workload of wives/mothers,"I saw this and I thought it could be interesting for generating discussion here. https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20210518-the-hidden-load-how-thinking-of-everything-holds-mums-back @@ -63250,10 +63250,10 @@ How do you balance these loads in your household, or do you not feel the need to What do you think of the suggestion in the article that women are judged more harshly on their homes and childrearing than men? Who do you think is the primary source of that judgement? -How do you think the pandemic affected your household in terms of the mental and emotional load you have?",,11,HappilyMrs,1623231116.0 +How do you think the pandemic affected your household in terms of the mental and emotional load you have?",,11,HappilyMrs,2021-06-09 09:31:56 RedPillWives,nvu37c,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,1623240070.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,3,blushingoleander,2021-06-09 12:01:10 RedPillWives,nv2fcb,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -63270,7 +63270,7 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,6,blushingoleander,1623153618.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,6,blushingoleander,2021-06-08 12:00:18 RedPillWives,nuqbjq,Advise for a man about to be married,"Hi a, just stumbled across this thread and could do with some advice (apologies if this question doesn't fit within this group, any redirects to other more appropriate groups would be greatly appreciated) Like the title says in 2 months and a bit I'm going to be married (M- 25 virgin) to someone of similar age and situation as me (F-24 virgin). @@ -63278,7 +63278,7 @@ Like the title says in 2 months and a bit I'm going to be married (M- 25 virgin) I'm here simply to gather thoughts and advise on what you (women preferably) would want/desire/expect from a man who is now your husband. If you could also list these things in priority order (I.e. what qualities you want/desire/expect) the most. I'm obviously not perfect but having lots of info from women from different walks of life I think is useful. Maybe I can find a recurring theme? I've asked my wife to be about this but as she's never married or been in a relationship before I'd prefer if I could gain advise from someone who has been in a relationship as they'll at least be talking from experience. -Many thanks for your help 😊",,9,PunisherH7106,1623107283.0 +Many thanks for your help 😊",,9,PunisherH7106,2021-06-07 23:08:03 RedPillWives,nusu6s,Own Your Stuff,"Own Your Stuff Hello Ladies, time for another round of OYS. @@ -63291,14 +63291,14 @@ Start with your stats: relationship status/ ages/ kids, how long you have been m For example: Me: 27, Husband 33. 2 daughters, 6 months, 3 yrs, SAHM -Single ladies are more than welcome to post as well :)",,6,Lightandlush,1623115174.0 +Single ladies are more than welcome to post as well :)",,6,Lightandlush,2021-06-08 01:19:34 RedPillWives,nub13s,What does your housekeeping look like?,"I’d like to hear what your daily cleaning routines look like that keep your house tidy :) -I’ll share mine in the comments.",,16,anothergoodbook,1623068276.0 -RedPillWives,nurlp0,What is a woman’s value over 40?,"My boyfriend and I were having this discussion, and I was wondering what you all think a woman’s value is after she’s had children and is no longer considered “young.” I’m scared that I won’t be as valuable for him as we get older and I’m not as beautiful as I once was. I don’t have married women in my life to ask this so any perspective is helpful! What do your husbands value in you, as a wife, past your sexual prime?",,1,[deleted],1623111235.0 +I’ll share mine in the comments.",,16,anothergoodbook,2021-06-07 12:17:56 +RedPillWives,nurlp0,What is a woman’s value over 40?,"My boyfriend and I were having this discussion, and I was wondering what you all think a woman’s value is after she’s had children and is no longer considered “young.” I’m scared that I won’t be as valuable for him as we get older and I’m not as beautiful as I once was. I don’t have married women in my life to ask this so any perspective is helpful! What do your husbands value in you, as a wife, past your sexual prime?",,1,[deleted],2021-06-08 00:13:55 RedPillWives,nszjvc,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,1622910613.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,1,blushingoleander,2021-06-05 16:30:13 RedPillWives,nrxbuu,OYS Update,"Hi ladies, I was too busy to post my OYS on Monday, but I finally had time/mental clarity to write it tonight. I would rather share my thoughts now while they are fresh/current rather than wait until next week! Also- if you just want an update on my first post ""Married Red Pill"" about sending my husband the link to r/marriedredpill, just read the ""Relationship"" portion towards the end of this novel I ended up writing lol. OYS 4: Me: 27, Husband:33, Married 4 years, 2 daughters- 6mo and 3yo. SAHM @@ -63335,7 +63335,7 @@ Sex- OMG we have had amazing sex multiple times the last few weeks. I am rarely And, I feel like I have had a first taste of his “frame”. The first glimpse to who he his intrinsically and authentically. Like, I knew things about him: that he was a hard-worker, and adventurous and kind, and he prioritized family, fun, and achievement. But he has always been such a people-pleaser/ peace-maker. And I think that’s part of the reason why I felt like he wasn’t leading our relationship. Because ultimately he just wanted to please me/make me happy in our relationship. -BUT, I feel like I am starting to see his authenticity coming through in his actions and interactions with me. I can tell he is thinking less (sometimes) and doing things that come naturally to him (sometimes). And when he does, OMG its such a turn on and the sex is freaking amazing. 😉",,17,Lightandlush,1622783947.0 +BUT, I feel like I am starting to see his authenticity coming through in his actions and interactions with me. I can tell he is thinking less (sometimes) and doing things that come naturally to him (sometimes). And when he does, OMG its such a turn on and the sex is freaking amazing. 😉",,17,Lightandlush,2021-06-04 05:19:07 RedPillWives,nsa6rm,Also OYS,"I too, missed the last OYS and decided to make a quick post. One of the things I needed to work on is my social media presence. I'm not on Facebook hardly ever, but when I do, I tended to post passive aggressive posts. I know why I did it, but that isn't important because no matter the reason, it was hurting my husband. He actually told me the other day that his boss was scoping my profile, and told him I looked like an honest and faithful wife but the posts did come across as concerning. I had already chosen to stop this behavior and this cemented it for me. However, it isn't enough to just stop and disappear. I want to make my social media a tribute to my husband and family, so everyone who sees it can see it reflects honor on them. I had a Twitter that I've barely used, and I just started an Instagram. My goal is to make posts showing the love and light I bring to my home and the love and light my husband bestows on me. If anyone would like to help me out, please consider letting me follow you so my pages can be filled with red pill inspiration for those who have it. I know red pill women by nature probably don't spend much time online, and for good reason. But for my growth and relationships, this is an important part of my routine for a little while. @@ -63344,7 +63344,7 @@ My Twitter is @2ndShiftWife My Instagram is hearthwarmer -Thank you gals",,0,ezer_kenegdo,1622826635.0 +Thank you gals",,0,ezer_kenegdo,2021-06-04 17:10:35 RedPillWives,nqt7tx,Update to Dog Problem,"Hi ladies, I wanted to post an update to this post I made a month ago. @@ -63370,11 +63370,11 @@ Haha and that was it! I looped him in to some of the techniques and philosophy And honestly, there have been no more issues with the dog. He stopped jumping and my bf started commanding him and taking control of situations. I think the main thing was that the dog thought he was in charge and my bf had no idea. Like he thought it was fine if the dog pulled ahead on walks the whole time and didn’t realize that was signaling to the dog that he was alpha. Im sure there is more training to be done, but once the hierarchy was recalibrated, there were no more major issues. -It was so refreshing to have an issue, bring it up in a non confrontational way, and then have such an easy solution! Thank you all for helping me find my words on how to approach this situation. :)",,23,Hot_Wasabi_4270,1622659935.0 +It was so refreshing to have an issue, bring it up in a non confrontational way, and then have such an easy solution! Thank you all for helping me find my words on how to approach this situation. :)",,23,Hot_Wasabi_4270,2021-06-02 18:52:15 RedPillWives,nqk6f5,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,12,blushingoleander,1622635278.0 -RedPillWives,nqks1n,Mating On Captivity,"Has anyone ever read this? If so, what did you think? I've watched some of Edther Perel's TED talks but I wondered if it's worth getting the book?",,9,HappilyMrs,1622637342.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,12,blushingoleander,2021-06-02 12:01:18 +RedPillWives,nqks1n,Mating On Captivity,"Has anyone ever read this? If so, what did you think? I've watched some of Edther Perel's TED talks but I wondered if it's worth getting the book?",,9,HappilyMrs,2021-06-02 12:35:42 RedPillWives,npscdn,The Scrapbook,"Tell us a story about your life as an RPW. This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: @@ -63391,7 +63391,7 @@ This months theme is vetting. Some possible ideas: Discussions are encouraged. Share stories from your part or just miscellaneous thoughts. -*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,8,blushingoleander,1622548829.0 +*This post will repeat for the month and then there will be a new topic. Feel free to suggest other topics*",,8,blushingoleander,2021-06-01 12:00:29 RedPillWives,np9j7f,Defining the use for a room.,"*Homekeeping is an ongoing art, a process, not an end product. It will never be “all done.” Bathrooms, clothes, and dishes, once clean, have a way of getting dirty again. But home is meant to be lived in, in the fullest, most potentially fulfilling way for everyone in it. That means that every room does not need to be picture perfect and waiting for a perfect display, but rather, each room has a sense of order and calmness to it. The home looks like someone lives there, without appearing messy or cluttered.* ~Mrs’s Dunwoddy’s Excellent Instructions for Housekeeping @@ -63401,7 +63401,7 @@ He talked about our living room that has the school bookshelf and computer in th I was worried about money (we’d like to set up a sitting area) and he said “we will figure that part out - it’s not a big deal”. We came up with a plan to redecorate this room to line it up with our expectations. Of course the other part of this is not having more than we need. Which is definitely a problem for us. I have a hard time saying no - so when friends offer me clothes or whatever hand me downs they are passing along I just quietly accept and we have more clutter. -Anyway so the point of this was discussing the idea of the purpose of a room. What rooms do you have and what are their purpose? Does that help it feel calmer in your home? How do you achieve that lived in, not messy not perfect feel in your home?",,20,anothergoodbook,1622484514.0 +Anyway so the point of this was discussing the idea of the purpose of a room. What rooms do you have and what are their purpose? Does that help it feel calmer in your home? How do you achieve that lived in, not messy not perfect feel in your home?",,20,anothergoodbook,2021-05-31 18:08:34 RedPillWives,np1ryc,Own Your Stuff,"Hello Ladies, time for another round of OYS. This can be a valuable tool to assess your successes and failures over the last week, receive input and advice from like-minded women, share your progress, and prioritize your goals for the coming week. Provide updates about different areas of your life such as homemaking, parenting, relationship with SO, health (mental and physical) , beauty, hobbies, social etc. @@ -63412,20 +63412,20 @@ Start with your stats: relationship status/ ages/ kids, how long you have been m For example: Me: 27, Husband 33. 2 daughters, 6 months, 3 yrs, SAHM -Single ladies are more than welcome to post as well :)",,11,blushingoleander,1622462418.0 +Single ladies are more than welcome to post as well :)",,11,blushingoleander,2021-05-31 12:00:18 RedPillWives,nofcw3,"If MRP is RP on hard mode for men, what is RPW on hard mode?","Something that I started wondering about whilst tackling my weeding. What do you think? Having a man who struggles to fulfil his desired role as provider due to disability and the impact on his sense of self-worth from that? Bad past experiences with men (desertion, adultery, DV)? Something else? -Hope you're all having a good day",,10,HappilyMrs,1622393931.0 +Hope you're all having a good day",,10,HappilyMrs,2021-05-30 16:58:51 RedPillWives,nnr132,Tea Time,"Tea time is a place to spill your guts, tell stories old and new or share some shower thoughts. -So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,14,blushingoleander,1622305814.0 +So how about it RPW, what is on your mind today?",,14,blushingoleander,2021-05-29 16:30:14 RedPillWives,nmzdpn,Dealing with monotony,"Ladies, here’s my struggle. I am working on decluttering and keeping to a routine for keeping my house tidy. How do you deal with doing the dishes *again*? I have PMs and cramps so just pulling myself out of bed was hard this morning. Just to be met with a messy kitchen that needs to be cleaned... again. -I’m trying to find joy in what I do. I’m trying to be content. But it’s really dang hard.",,21,anothergoodbook,1622213080.0 +I’m trying to find joy in what I do. I’m trying to be content. But it’s really dang hard.",,21,anothergoodbook,2021-05-28 14:44:40 RedPillWives,nmtial,Can't be it all,"((As I was replying to u/Lightandlush , I ended up going off on a little musing, and I want to share it here, just to see if it resonates with anyone else too)) The modern pressures of women needing to be everything and do everything is exhausting! @@ -63444,12 +63444,12 @@ I don't want to be both the rock and the ocean. No-one can manage to be both all I don't want that. I want the freedom to live in the femininity my soul has. But the modern world says no, your soul is wrong, you've been conditioned, you've internalised misogyny and hatred of women! But how can I have when I love the facets and flow of being a woman? -I'm not telling any other woman how she should act, or any man how he should counterpart that. I'm not telling anyone their soul is wrong or their relationship is wrong. I'm not telling women they must submit to a man. People are free to follow their hearts and souls. I simply ask that I am still allowed to follow mine, in a world that says I must have it all, whether I want it all or not.",,24,HappilyMrs,1622192121.0 +I'm not telling any other woman how she should act, or any man how he should counterpart that. I'm not telling anyone their soul is wrong or their relationship is wrong. I'm not telling women they must submit to a man. People are free to follow their hearts and souls. I simply ask that I am still allowed to follow mine, in a world that says I must have it all, whether I want it all or not.",,24,HappilyMrs,2021-05-28 08:55:21 RedPillWives,nm3x04,"In the modern era, what should a man's protection actually look like?","We are not in times historical where labour was hard, invaders were a frequent threat, and violence was a daily feature. So much has changed in terms of the challenges of our daily lives, from safety in workplaces, laws, rights, and technology. So what do you see now as the things that men _should_ do in a traditional relationship that provides protection? How does this differ between 2-worker and single-worker families? -Which of these things are important to you?",,33,HappilyMrs,1622109103.0 +Which of these things are important to you?",,33,HappilyMrs,2021-05-27 09:51:43 RedPillWives,nlf7qf,I need to vent about my neighbor for a moment,"This may or may not be the right place, but I’m just so flipping upset. I’m white. Yes this is important later as my neighbor is an African American older woman. @@ -63462,8 +63462,8 @@ I normally block it out, but being called nasty as I’m walking in the house th I’ve gotten into one argument with her where admittedly I did say I thought she needed to see a doctor because she has a mental illness because there’s just something wrong with her. -But seriously - I’m ready to move... but I don’t want one singular person to force us out of our home. Anyway - thanks for reading :)",,20,anothergoodbook,1622030323.0 -RedPillWives,nlr55n,I am about to move in with my bf and I am nervous,"Hey ladies, I'm 22 my bf is 32. We have been together a year. I love him and admire him so much he is amazing. He is a very high earner which is great. Atm I am working full time and earning a decent wage but nothing compared to him. I am living with my parents atm. I am also super excited about being with him all the time! I want to, at some point, give up my job and be a homemaker for him. However I don't want to do that really until we're married or at least engaged and I really want him to propose. He says that he wants to see what it's like living together first which I totally get. But it has made me a bit nervous. I don't know how much he is going to expect of me he really deserves someone to greet him everyday when he comes home and have dinner all cooked and waiting and everything tidy but I'm not sure how I can do that when I am working too and I'm worried that he'll expect more and that he says that he wants to see what its like living together before proposing and I'm worried I'll won't be able to do enough. He can be a bit messy atm but ig all men living alone are. Atm I stay with him about half the time but he will surely expect more when I actually live there. I just don't know how I will be able to cook and clean and make sure I look my best for him everything while also working full time. Any tips?",,0,ImaginaryWeb9546,1622062178.0 +But seriously - I’m ready to move... but I don’t want one singular person to force us out of our home. Anyway - thanks for reading :)",,20,anothergoodbook,2021-05-26 11:58:43 +RedPillWives,nlr55n,I am about to move in with my bf and I am nervous,"Hey ladies, I'm 22 my bf is 32. We have been together a year. I love him and admire him so much he is amazing. He is a very high earner which is great. Atm I am working full time and earning a decent wage but nothing compared to him. I am living with my parents atm. I am also super excited about being with him all the time! I want to, at some point, give up my job and be a homemaker for him. However I don't want to do that really until we're married or at least engaged and I really want him to propose. He says that he wants to see what it's like living together first which I totally get. But it has made me a bit nervous. I don't know how much he is going to expect of me he really deserves someone to greet him everyday when he comes home and have dinner all cooked and waiting and everything tidy but I'm not sure how I can do that when I am working too and I'm worried that he'll expect more and that he says that he wants to see what its like living together before proposing and I'm worried I'll won't be able to do enough. He can be a bit messy atm but ig all men living alone are. Atm I stay with him about half the time but he will surely expect more when I actually live there. I just don't know how I will be able to cook and clean and make sure I look my best for him everything while also working full time. Any tips?",,0,ImaginaryWeb9546,2021-05-26 20:49:38 RedPillWives,nkgszf,OYS 3,"Hello Ladies, time for another round of OYS. This can be a valuable tool to assess your successes and failures over the last week, receive input and advice from like-minded women, share your progress, and prioritize your goals for the coming week. Provide updates about different areas of your life such as homemaking, parenting, relationship with SO, health (mental and physical) , beauty, hobbies, social etc. @@ -63474,7 +63474,7 @@ Start with your stats: relationship status/ ages/ kids, how long you have been m For example: Me: 27, Husband 33. 2 daughters, 6 months, 3 yrs, SAHM -Single ladies are more than welcome to post as well :)",,9,Lightandlush,1621915905.0 +Single ladies are more than welcome to post as well :)",,9,Lightandlush,2021-05-25 04:11:45 RedPillWives,nk4vwp,I am planning on quitting my 6 figure career to be a housewife and I'm freaking the hell out,"Required info: Him 41, Me 38, together 9 years, married 4. Remainder should be below. I'm a bit late to the housewife game at 38. My kids are in fact school age. The reasoning behind this change is my job related stress and anxiety are wreaking havoc on our home life. I have switched my place of employment several times but each time after a year of perfectionism and being labeled the perfect worker I can't keep it up. I become consumed my my job and I cannot seem to find balance. Because I am a practitioner I have so much responsibility and cannot ""leave it at work."" I fret constantly. This pisses my husband off to no end. I come home mentally and physically exhausted and have let cooking, cleaning and even helping my kids with their school work fall apart. I don't know HOW people work full time and cook, clean, raise their kids. I thought it was depression, anxiety, ADHD. I saw a doctor and got put on a slew of.medication which has been modified here and there but frankly I feel more irritable, anxious and just cannot find pleasure in anything anymore. I struggle to transition from being the one in charge at work, calling the shots, and having to be very assertive to coming home and being soft, and feminine. I struggle with anger at how I am disrespected at work a lot for being a woman (example: handed a full urinal by patients instead of them listening to my diagnosis and treatment plan, they assume I am their nurse or aide, while the male social worker is assumed to be the provider, it's exhausting and no matter how many times I explain it they just don't get it). I bring this saltiness home and it's absolutely wrong, I know that. @@ -63489,16 +63489,16 @@ And of course, what if I SUCK at being a full-time wife and mother after all. I Any insight, experience, advice is so welcomed TLDR: -Planning on quitting 6 figure career to stay home and be a better wife and mother and feel guilty, scared and fearful my husband might resent me for it.",,42,iwishiwasamermaid,1621881365.0 -RedPillWives,nk70ic,How to act more feminine?,"I know that looking feminine is the most important thing, but not sure how to come off as feminine in other ways. This is like when you're out and about meating new people I want to come off feminine to people when I first meet them in ways other than appearance. I know etiquette is very important but what else?",,5,AgreeableSpinach6989,1621886827.0 +Planning on quitting 6 figure career to stay home and be a better wife and mother and feel guilty, scared and fearful my husband might resent me for it.",,42,iwishiwasamermaid,2021-05-24 18:36:05 +RedPillWives,nk70ic,How to act more feminine?,"I know that looking feminine is the most important thing, but not sure how to come off as feminine in other ways. This is like when you're out and about meating new people I want to come off feminine to people when I first meet them in ways other than appearance. I know etiquette is very important but what else?",,5,AgreeableSpinach6989,2021-05-24 20:07:07 RedPillWives,njgotq,Meals,"By the end of the day- I am so *done*. I used to be the queen the meal planning and getting dinner on the table and having a healthy family meal. Lately (the last couple of years) - I remember we need to eat at like 4:30 and scramble to put something together. Most people just sort of wander in the kitchen and grab something and wander back to whatever they were doing before. Wednesday, Fridays, and every other weekend are spent at work. I’m homeschooling 4 kids through the day. I am also trying to get more organized and tidy. I need some seriously easy meals that perhaps use ingredients I can use again (like of I cook up a whole bunch of ground beef or chicken breast). -Help!!",,10,anothergoodbook,1621802431.0 -RedPillWives,nji448,I'm struggling with being at home and not really seeing people,"Hey ladies. So atm I'm at uni but, due to covid, doing all my uni work remotely from home at parents house! It has been a bit tough as I don't really agree with my parents on a lot of things. I feel I have been super lazy with stuff like putting makeup on and picking out a nice outfit each day and I justify it to myself as well no one will see me so it doesn't matter but know this is wrong just not sure how to motivate myself to change this? I feel I am also getting a bit depressed at being at home all the time as I really want to meet people and I really want to find a man and move in with him and move out. I am trying to cook everyday at least my mum has never been great at this she works too late and mainly uses the microwave. Just a bit fed up really. I am trying to go for a run everyday and do yoga everyday but I haven't been as dedicated towards this as I should be. I just feel a bit lonely as all my friends are feminists and like I just feel like no guy would want me in this mental state I am a mess and I am struggling to improve.",,5,AgreeableSpinach6989,1621806298.0 +Help!!",,10,anothergoodbook,2021-05-23 20:40:31 +RedPillWives,nji448,I'm struggling with being at home and not really seeing people,"Hey ladies. So atm I'm at uni but, due to covid, doing all my uni work remotely from home at parents house! It has been a bit tough as I don't really agree with my parents on a lot of things. I feel I have been super lazy with stuff like putting makeup on and picking out a nice outfit each day and I justify it to myself as well no one will see me so it doesn't matter but know this is wrong just not sure how to motivate myself to change this? I feel I am also getting a bit depressed at being at home all the time as I really want to meet people and I really want to find a man and move in with him and move out. I am trying to cook everyday at least my mum has never been great at this she works too late and mainly uses the microwave. Just a bit fed up really. I am trying to go for a run everyday and do yoga everyday but I haven't been as dedicated towards this as I should be. I just feel a bit lonely as all my friends are feminists and like I just feel like no guy would want me in this mental state I am a mess and I am struggling to improve.",,5,AgreeableSpinach6989,2021-05-23 21:44:58 RedPillWives,nindb7,Soft Place to Land,"Hi ladies, back to back posts today. But I have been meditating on this phrase from Laura Doyle's Surrendered Wife and thought I would share my thoughts and hopefully get input as well. How can I be a ""soft place to land"" for my husband? @@ -63511,8 +63511,8 @@ How can I be a ""soft place to land"" for my husband? 4. Kids. I want to be a soft place to land for my kids. I had a severe bout of depression at the beginning of 2020. I'm almost glad it happened because the therapy and medication helped me to work on my other issues such as irritability and anger. I don't yell at my kids anymore. But I do still snap at my toddler when she doesn't listen. Any recommendations on how to deal with toddler rebellion? How to parent as a mother instead of as a father? -And any advice or input about being a ""soft place to land"" for your husband?",,26,Lightandlush,1621703855.0 -RedPillWives,nix1sd,There’s no such thing as women’s liberation on the left,,https://i.redd.it/lgnyxpy7wr071.jpg,5,Vintageforestfae,1621733305.0 +And any advice or input about being a ""soft place to land"" for your husband?",,26,Lightandlush,2021-05-22 17:17:35 +RedPillWives,nix1sd,There’s no such thing as women’s liberation on the left,,https://i.redd.it/lgnyxpy7wr071.jpg,5,Vintageforestfae,2021-05-23 01:28:25 RedPillWives,nin5b7,My Anxious Mind/ Shit Testing,"Hi Ladies, I have always had issues with depression and anxiety. And I have relied on my husband to be stronger than me, so when I reach my breaking point, he is there to help and support me. I have noticed that when I sense that my husband is not at his best- when he is tired/ frazzled/ stressed/ frustrated etc, I shit test like crazy (by feeling and acting irritated at him). @@ -63525,8 +63525,8 @@ The crazy thing is that even being aware of all of this, the impulse for me to s Any advice or input? Does anyone else feel they doing anything similar? -Please note I am not trying to justify my disrespectful behavior (it makes me feel INCREDIBLY GUILTY and b\*tchy honestly), but I do feel I am starting to understand the cause...",,10,Lightandlush,1621703231.0 -RedPillWives,nilpbt,How to find a man?,"Hey ladies. I'm 21, just about to finish my degree and could probably go and get a good job. But I feel like my entire life my family have kinda expected me to go and get a good job and a good degree and what I really want is to just start a family and maybe not even work. But I have just no idea where to meet someone who will want this and idk how to get a guy like that attracted to me. I kinda want someone a little older but not too old and fairly good looking and who earns a wage comfortably enough to support a family. I dated one guy for 2 years and he was nice but I don't think he was like that or we really connected.",,2,AgreeableSpinach6989,1621699161.0 +Please note I am not trying to justify my disrespectful behavior (it makes me feel INCREDIBLY GUILTY and b\*tchy honestly), but I do feel I am starting to understand the cause...",,10,Lightandlush,2021-05-22 17:07:11 +RedPillWives,nilpbt,How to find a man?,"Hey ladies. I'm 21, just about to finish my degree and could probably go and get a good job. But I feel like my entire life my family have kinda expected me to go and get a good job and a good degree and what I really want is to just start a family and maybe not even work. But I have just no idea where to meet someone who will want this and idk how to get a guy like that attracted to me. I kinda want someone a little older but not too old and fairly good looking and who earns a wage comfortably enough to support a family. I dated one guy for 2 years and he was nice but I don't think he was like that or we really connected.",,2,AgreeableSpinach6989,2021-05-22 15:59:21 RedPillWives,ngz4a3,Sub related stuff- a new type of field report,"We (u/teaandtalk and I) were chatting about ways to breathe some fresh content into the sub. One thought has been to revamp the concept of the field report. Male ""success in the field"" reports are not quite the same as women's reports and our subs should reflect the difference. So instead of ""yo bro I got laid by an hb10 within 10 minutes of meeting her"", we would create more of a ""dear diary"" field report. Post stories old and new about your relationship interactions. Post shower thought. Post how you got to the big moments (even of those big moments happened a decade ago) or a mundane comment that has rpw relevance. @@ -63538,7 +63538,7 @@ I'm going to follow this with another post that is *one* example of what I mean. Let us know what you think, if the community is interested and what we should call these new field reports. Any feedback is appreciated. -Example. https://redd.it/ngzhdi",,31,blushingoleander,1621514386.0 +Example. https://redd.it/ngzhdi",,31,blushingoleander,2021-05-20 12:39:46 RedPillWives,ngzhdi,Dear Diary / Field Report - Tit for Tat Vacations,"https://redd.it/ngz4a3 This is intended to be a variation on the traditional field report, the link above is for the meta discussion on the new concept. @@ -63555,12 +63555,12 @@ But the tit for tat suggestion really got under my skin. I think every RPW knows The weekends away are the same. Life will afford us different opportunities over the course of it. I can't go away as long right now but that's not his fault. I believe that as long as things aren't entirely one sided (which would be a bad relationship) then it will all even out over our lifetime. -So I lightened my workload for the next few days and I'm making a point to have mommy time with my kids. And J will come back from his trip relaxed and happy. It can be good for all of us without keeping score.",,17,blushingoleander,1621515390.0 +So I lightened my workload for the next few days and I'm making a point to have mommy time with my kids. And J will come back from his trip relaxed and happy. It can be good for all of us without keeping score.",,17,blushingoleander,2021-05-20 12:56:30 RedPillWives,ngsxc1,How do you deal with disappointment?,"Hello! Recently, I've realized that I've been having trouble dealing with disappointment in a mature and collected way, and sometimes blow things out of proportion. For instance, when my mother accidentally bought me the wrong paper the day before my honeymoon trip (I was planning to paint there as well), I got upset, had to spend 15 minutes venting in my diary about this situation, and it wasn't until my husband cuddled me and offered to order the proper paper on the Internet that my mood went back to normal. A similar situation happened yesterday. Me any my husband were planning to visit a café, that (according to my mother-in-law) served the best coffee and cheesecake in our country. Sadly, the place went bancrupt during the pandemic and had to shut down. Upon seeing this, my husband offered to go to a nearby ice-cream shop. I agreed, but still made a rude comment about the government using the pandemic to destroy local businesses and keep people dependant on large companies for income to make them complacent. -How do you deal with similar situations in the moment? Is it best to bite your tongue, and get reflect on the situation after about an hour if it still bothers you, or are there other, better ways to manage them?",,7,golden_eyed_cat,1621492608.0 +How do you deal with similar situations in the moment? Is it best to bite your tongue, and get reflect on the situation after about an hour if it still bothers you, or are there other, better ways to manage them?",,7,golden_eyed_cat,2021-05-20 06:36:48 RedPillWives,nf2ecn,Another Round of OYS,"Hello Ladies, time for another round of OYS- own your stuff! (Not own your sh\*t, because my husband hates when I cuss, and I'm trying to actually work on this, lol.) This can be a valuable tool to assess how you succeeded and failed over the last week(s), receive input and advice from like-minded women, and prioritize your goals for the coming week(s). Areas to include in your OYS can include topics such as homemaking, parenting, relationship with SO, health (mental and physical) , beauty, hobbies, social etc. @@ -63571,7 +63571,7 @@ Also, try include a brief summary at the begging of your OYS, like HappilyMrs di For example: Me: 27, Husband 33. 2 daughters, 6 months, 3 yrs, SAHM -Also, single ladies aspiring for marriage are more than welcome to post as well :)",,11,Lightandlush,1621316353.0 +Also, single ladies aspiring for marriage are more than welcome to post as well :)",,11,Lightandlush,2021-05-18 05:39:13 RedPillWives,ndsfyn,Responding versus reacting?,"I’m sure you all are tired of my posts lol. I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching and Bible study and prayer. This has led me to see where I *thought* I was and where I *actually* am emotionally, spiritually, physically etc. This has all been done at the encouragement of some ladies here and in /r/redpillwomen. So thank you for your honest feedback. @@ -63590,24 +63590,24 @@ I’m sitting here reading a marriage book taking about how we respond to correc But how in the world do I stop becoming defensive? How do I stop and evaluate what is being said and not just jump to “my husband is trying to hurt me”. How do I come to a place where instead of reacting out of emotion, I can start responding intentionally? -Whew that was long ! Sorry!",,14,anothergoodbook,1621183837.0 +Whew that was long ! Sorry!",,14,anothergoodbook,2021-05-16 16:50:37 RedPillWives,nbjd60,Hi! I’m a 22 year old female that has never really dated. How can I know what I want in a man?,"I’m a total rookie! Never even kissed a guy. -I would really appreciate some advice on what I should be focusing on, how to figure out what sort of partner I want, etc.",,27,Cricketymik,1620919934.0 -RedPillWives,nbs10y,Fake lashes,"Sorry if this is a bit basic, but do you wear false lashes? If so, which what type, and how often? Thank you",,3,HappilyMrs,1620941647.0 +I would really appreciate some advice on what I should be focusing on, how to figure out what sort of partner I want, etc.",,27,Cricketymik,2021-05-13 15:32:14 +RedPillWives,nbs10y,Fake lashes,"Sorry if this is a bit basic, but do you wear false lashes? If so, which what type, and how often? Thank you",,3,HappilyMrs,2021-05-13 21:34:07 RedPillWives,nacs23,Own Your Stuff,"Hi ladies, has Red Pill Wives considered doing a weekly check in, where users can comment about their successes and failures of the last week, and list goals for the next week? (Like own your sh\*t in married red pill). I saw Red Pill Women is starting to do that, but personally I would feel much more comfortable on this women-moderated forum with women desiring specifically to improve or enter a long term relationship. I might be a nice way to increase user interaction, get to know each other, and receive ongoing perspective and advice about different areas of our lives. Also, a great opportunity for self-reflecting! -We could even include categories (maybe health/ beauty/ kids if applicable/ relationship/ social/ work if applicable/ homemaking/ hobbies). And individuals could include different categories more applicable to their lives.",,25,Lightandlush,1620781678.0 -RedPillWives,n9iffd,Red Pill dating tips if you're socially awkward and timid? How to let a man lead and when to be assertive/protective of yourself?,,,9,softshadesofcream,1620687009.0 +We could even include categories (maybe health/ beauty/ kids if applicable/ relationship/ social/ work if applicable/ homemaking/ hobbies). And individuals could include different categories more applicable to their lives.",,25,Lightandlush,2021-05-12 01:07:58 +RedPillWives,n9iffd,Red Pill dating tips if you're socially awkward and timid? How to let a man lead and when to be assertive/protective of yourself?,,,9,softshadesofcream,2021-05-10 22:50:09 RedPillWives,n7yvwg,Not wanting marriage due to government,"Hello everyone I’m in a loving relationship with my boyfriend. We’re roughly conservative with family values ? How do I explain that married or not the government will be involved or any other argument to bring to this conversation. He wants to be with me forever so that is not the problem lol . Thank you for reading my posts ladies His views: he is Christian and he basically wants to be married without the contract and service, he feels like us being married “legally “ is another way of the government being in our business -My views: I am a Christian born and raised and always was told the importance marrying in the eyes of God I don’t really care about a “traditional “ wedding and rather get married in a forest chapel since were more countryside kind of people",,5,Vintageforestfae,1620509145.0 +My views: I am a Christian born and raised and always was told the importance marrying in the eyes of God I don’t really care about a “traditional “ wedding and rather get married in a forest chapel since were more countryside kind of people",,5,Vintageforestfae,2021-05-08 21:25:45 RedPillWives,n7a3dx,When Am I Too Much?,"Since having our first child, I initially quit my job and stayed home completely for 6 months. At 6 months someone reached out to me with an opportunity that was amazing and and REMOTE! My husband was completely supportive in that the main thing was I’d be able to stay at home with our son... which was the only way either of us ever considered me going back to work (unless the kids were out of school). The crazy part is that I make more money than my husband.... however .... he provides 100% and the money I make goes into and sit in our account/retirement and pays for fun things..... sometimes he feels stressed financially and refuses to use any money I earn towards our bills because as a man he should provide for him family. Is it wrong of me to try and help him so he isn’t feeling stressed? -Note: when I say I work from home I work a total of 4 hours a day (3 of which our son is napping), I keep our home clean and food cooked... so nothing is lacking in that aspect....",,8,[deleted],1620424529.0 +Note: when I say I work from home I work a total of 4 hours a day (3 of which our son is napping), I keep our home clean and food cooked... so nothing is lacking in that aspect....",,8,[deleted],2021-05-07 21:55:29 RedPillWives,n5bd2c,Help me find an article/blog post please,"I read an article or blog post that was addressed to men about them needing to improve themselves. It was designed to be sent anonymously. It was definitely RP. I cannot for the life of me find it in my bookmarks, and it's very unlikely that I got it from anywhere but reddit as none of my other social media is RP. -Thank you",,10,HappilyMrs,1620204727.0 +Thank you",,10,HappilyMrs,2021-05-05 08:52:07 RedPillWives,n4fu8f,Married Red Pill,"Hi ladies, I am married to my husband of 5 years (with 2 small children). He is so sweet, and kind and hardworking, and he loves me so much. Our relationship is solid with a big ""BUT"". I've always been attracted to more dominant/ take charge men. My husband is like that in his work/ social life/ hobbies etc but for some reason has never been like that with me. We will both SAY that we want him to lead our family, but we can't seem to actually make this happen. He feels that I am making a decision to not be submissive to him. And I feel like he (inadvertently) keeps giving me control/ final say in things regarding our relationship/ kids/ family etc, and that makes it SO HARD for me to TRUST him/ submit to him, when it seems like he doesn't trust himself. @@ -63616,7 +63616,7 @@ Anyways, I discovered TRP and Married Red Pill about a month ago and oh my goodn My question is this: Would you ladies (and men?) recommend me sending my husband to the link Married Red Pill and kind of just telling him... that this is what I want? Do you think that is a terrible idea? -Thank you for your input, and I am happy to be here in this community :)",,29,Lightandlush,1620102150.0 +Thank you for your input, and I am happy to be here in this community :)",,29,Lightandlush,2021-05-04 04:22:30 RedPillWives,n42gl0,Updating “I feel done”,"I so so appreciated the input. I’m glad for this community. My husband and I ended up having a fairly heated discussion about everything I mentioned and more. He said he is committed to me and we both need to practice more grace, kindness, and forgiveness. I said that was hard for me because I’ve been there and been incredibly hurt. So I’ve got my guard up and am quite defensive. @@ -63627,7 +63627,7 @@ I did plan a date for us this weekend which went somewhat okay (a little disagre We were talking at a family gathering and he mentioned how worried he is about an issue in our bathroom. I brought it up later and asked about it. He said he’s trying to just mentally deal with his work and the house(possible bathroom leak) and the kids and our marriage he tends to shut down. He doesn’t want me to be worried about all those things so he doesn’t talk to me about it. -I’ve backed off completely with sex and letting him lead on it. Nothing astounding as it’s been a couple weeks, but figured I’d give a brief update on how things are going.",,17,anothergoodbook,1620064121.0 +I’ve backed off completely with sex and letting him lead on it. Nothing astounding as it’s been a couple weeks, but figured I’d give a brief update on how things are going.",,17,anothergoodbook,2021-05-03 17:48:41 RedPillWives,n14vwt,Advice for juggling ambitious desires and feminine desires,"I read some theory in RPW that everyone has more masculine/feminine energy in them. Masculine energy is defined as being more purpose driven, whereas feminine is being more concerned with relationships. Despite having worked very hard to attain feminine qualities (I made a list in one of my posts), by nature I am very logical and left-brained. I have tried looking at ancient archetypes such as The Sage — the Greek goddess Athena for example was one such example that proves women can be logical and still feminine. @@ -63640,7 +63640,7 @@ Because of this drive inside me, sometimes I feel defective as a woman. I wonder if it’s possible for me to lead a purpose driven life in the daytime and come home and be a nurturer when I come home. Both sides are me. It feels tiring to live with these opposing energies inside me because they are like night and day. There’s like no frame of reference. -Edit: It may be worth mentioning that I’ve tried to play the support role to two ambitious partners before, putting my dreams on hold, and both of them ended up treating me badly.",,17,TranslatedSky,1619704567.0 +Edit: It may be worth mentioning that I’ve tried to play the support role to two ambitious partners before, putting my dreams on hold, and both of them ended up treating me badly.",,17,TranslatedSky,2021-04-29 13:56:07 RedPillWives,mzsx69,Dog dilemma,"I love the advice on this column! I’m curious if there are any red pill solutions for this current issue I have with the man I’m dating. We’re a fairly new couple and have been dating since January, but we are older (36f; 38m), know what we want, and I think we both feel like this could be something real. @@ -63655,7 +63655,7 @@ I’ve been making sort of sideways glances and small comments about how the dog I want to be straight forward but not critical and judgey - even though I am feeling critical and judgey! I don’t really want my kids around the dog. And honestly I want the man I date to have control over his animal. -Also, is this a warning sign (eg what he would be like as a dad) of a bigger problem? Or is just that he doesn’t know what dogs need? When we’ve talked about parenting, he seems like he’s a believer in a fairly strict approach - which is the same as me. But that’s easy to say when you don’t have actually children. What do you all think?",,2,Hot_Wasabi_4270,1619542417.0 +Also, is this a warning sign (eg what he would be like as a dad) of a bigger problem? Or is just that he doesn’t know what dogs need? When we’ve talked about parenting, he seems like he’s a believer in a fairly strict approach - which is the same as me. But that’s easy to say when you don’t have actually children. What do you all think?",,2,Hot_Wasabi_4270,2021-04-27 16:53:37 RedPillWives,myb813,Feeling done,"I’ve been hanging out here for a while (under different names at times). And I’ve been trying to work on myself for the sake of my marriage. But I’m so so tired of doing it and just not seeing him make the same (or even many) efforts. It’s like him saying “I’m trying” is supposed to be good enough. But me saying it is not at all good enough. We’ve been in quarantine the last few weeks. I kept saying how much I looked forward to him being out of isolation and to hug and kiss him. He barely gave me a kiss on the day he got out. We had sex that evening. And that’s about it. Then the kids tested positive and he’s shut me out because of his OCD again. I would ask “you seem bothered by something are you okay” through clenched teeth “I’m fine”. But I get the cold shoulder for 2 weeks. We are seriously living entirely like roommates. We haven’t said I love you in at least a week and there’s been maybe one kiss (just a peck). And maybe a 2 second conversation here or there about household things. @@ -63664,7 +63664,7 @@ In the past I would have been freaking out over what I did and how to fix things I read the marriage books, listen to podcasts, get on forums like this - he doesn’t do any of it. He thinks he can muscle through whatever’s wrong and if it doesn’t work it’s my fault (I’m too picky or want too many things). I’m tired of trying figure out what to wear to bed at night to make him attracted to me. I’m tired of trying to plan date nights that are just not prioritized by him. I’m trying of trying to meet his love language when he can’t be bothered to meet mine (doesn’t come naturally to him - y’know). I’m tired of always walking around like I’m flawed and it’s all on my shoulders to be better, do better... so that he’ll engage or initiate sex or whatever... -Anyway... I’m tired. I have no one else to really talk to here at the moment. And I’m so freaking lonely. AND my period is going to start any day so there’s that on top of everything...",,24,anothergoodbook,1619366476.0 +Anyway... I’m tired. I have no one else to really talk to here at the moment. And I’m so freaking lonely. AND my period is going to start any day so there’s that on top of everything...",,24,anothergoodbook,2021-04-25 16:01:16 RedPillWives,mtqnju,Yellow flag?,"Funny enough some of my past topics in posts have actually become quite relevant as of lately. (Especially the one about commitment and sex!) I’m dating someone at the moment who I find quite wonderful, we have a 10 year age gap but we have similar backgrounds (immigrants from more old fashioned cultures), he’s very much leading and providing through dates we have (though I have surprised him myself with my own treat in between), our conversations are really engaging and we have many similar interests (history and philosophy and we dive pretty deep), we’ve also discussed our families and situations growing up - I must also say that we are quite attracted to each other, though he’s a lot more vocal about that. I still try and compliment when it works smoothly into the conversation. We’ve been going on dates nearly a month. @@ -63675,14 +63675,14 @@ It’s difficult for me too since I like him but even in the moment I can’t br Is this a yellow flag that I’ve had to have this conversation? We’ve met up since then but during the daytime and we’ve only kissed, a slight grab/grope as well in a safe area. We’re still texting well and he’s quite attentive, like he’s been from the beginning. -What do you ladies think?",,6,VladNook,1618797441.0 +What do you ladies think?",,6,VladNook,2021-04-19 01:57:21 RedPillWives,ms8hmu,How is everyone?,"How has your week been? What good things have happened, and what not so good things? What are you looking forward to in the near future? -What are you currently watching/reading/listening to this month?",,17,HappilyMrs,1618595194.0 +What are you currently watching/reading/listening to this month?",,17,HappilyMrs,2021-04-16 17:46:34 RedPillWives,moqgs3,"I need an attitude adjustment, help!!","I’m being petty, irritable, and I can feel the bitchiness under the surface. And I need to switch gears. Here’s what’s happening: I was supposed to go visit my sister after a cancelled trip due to covid. My husband realized he couldn’t taste anything - got a covid test (positive) and my trip is cancelled. That’s the first thing. @@ -63691,15 +63691,15 @@ Here’s where I’m feeling annoyed. He doesn’t have any symptoms except not So now I feel like I’m seething and angry on several levels. And like I said there’s lots of bitchiness just under the surface. We are going to here dealing with this for 10 days (or whatever the quarantine is) and I’m already crawling up the walls. -Anyway - partly I need to vent. And partly I need some input. Thanks :)",,18,anothergoodbook,1618145057.0 +Anyway - partly I need to vent. And partly I need some input. Thanks :)",,18,anothergoodbook,2021-04-11 12:44:17 RedPillWives,mnv0h9,Have any of you done Laura Doyle's program?,"Hello lovely ladies! -I've recently discovered her podcast, which is great. But it does read a little like an informertial for her program. I was just wondering if any one here had done it, and if so if you found it worth while. I've read both ""Surrendered Wife"" and ""Empowered Wife"" but maybe I'm missing crucial information?",,10,somedayimight,1618017137.0 +I've recently discovered her podcast, which is great. But it does read a little like an informertial for her program. I was just wondering if any one here had done it, and if so if you found it worth while. I've read both ""Surrendered Wife"" and ""Empowered Wife"" but maybe I'm missing crucial information?",,10,somedayimight,2021-04-10 01:12:17 RedPillWives,mmq8uc,"Being ""softer""","Hubby and I were talking about gender roles and polarity the other day, and he mentioned casually that he would like me to be softer. I don't want to start making him pull apart exactly what he means, because I'd rather acquire the skills and mindset so it develops more naturally rather than being a checklist. -So what do you think of when ""Being softer"" is the goal?",,29,HappilyMrs,1617883318.0 +So what do you think of when ""Being softer"" is the goal?",,29,HappilyMrs,2021-04-08 12:01:58 RedPillWives,mm7u5y,How to deal with a undesirable MIL behaviour in a graceful manner?,"This may be better suited to one of those MIL subreddits, or the relationships one, but I wanted sensible advice so I hope no one minds me reaching out on here! I'm 22 and have been pursuing the RP lifestyle since I was about 17, and have been with my 23y/o fiancé for the past four years. We recently moved in together - it was supposed to be after our wedding, but the pandemic put a halt to those plans for the time being. &#x200B; @@ -63716,15 +63716,15 @@ I've asked if he'd ask his mum to give us a heads up about the nature and volume &#x200B; -I'm trying to overlook the disrespectful aspect of her food 'surprises', but am struggling to maintain the grace to do that. Any tips on either dealing with the practicality of what to do with the food, or on developing the composure to not feel slighted by her actions?",,12,q-the-light,1617818111.0 -RedPillWives,mlp1j1,Is there a sub like r/cleanlivingkings for women?,"I enjoy lurking on this sub for relationship help, but I would like a positive daily life sub where women motivate each other on their goals. Stuff like school, working out, time management, nofap, self-improvement WITHOUT a focus on relationship hunting. It seems like r/cleanlivingqueens has been banned, is there something similar to r/CleanLivingKings for women?",,22,orangerose18,1617752309.0 +I'm trying to overlook the disrespectful aspect of her food 'surprises', but am struggling to maintain the grace to do that. Any tips on either dealing with the practicality of what to do with the food, or on developing the composure to not feel slighted by her actions?",,12,q-the-light,2021-04-07 17:55:11 +RedPillWives,mlp1j1,Is there a sub like r/cleanlivingkings for women?,"I enjoy lurking on this sub for relationship help, but I would like a positive daily life sub where women motivate each other on their goals. Stuff like school, working out, time management, nofap, self-improvement WITHOUT a focus on relationship hunting. It seems like r/cleanlivingqueens has been banned, is there something similar to r/CleanLivingKings for women?",,22,orangerose18,2021-04-06 23:38:29 RedPillWives,ml0y1a,How do you women vet?,"We talk a lot about surface level vetting but I never see the grimy details. I went on a date a while back and it made me think about how I actually approach vetting during the getting to know each other phase. I always did it unconsciously and I want to try taking a conscious approach. I realised the stark difference between how I talk to men vs women. It’s really different. I am pretty passive with my female friends, let them take the lead, and I am very kind and trusting with them. With men I wait for them to earn my kindness, respect and effort by first figuring out if he is the kind of guy I would want to give it to through his personality, values, and character. So anyways during the date the subject of my loyalty came up with him questioning it light heartedly. The question came from a really silly topic about board games and I thought he was testing me. He seemed wary of women so I wanted to poke around a bit. I acted suprised and joked back, how did you know I was a player? He replied that most women were. I used that as an opening to figure out his views. I suspected it and his replies seemed pretty red pill and jaded. I never get angry or upset when a guy is testing me, or tries to cross a boundary but I remain light hearted but firm. I have realised guys opened up to me faster and laid their guard down when they think I don’t take things seriously. -I also act dumb sometimes. I used to talk to a really manipulative guy once. I told him I don’t have sex before marriage. He seemed very understanding and so supportive I thought I lucked out. He said he was very practicing and felt the same way. So anyways, I think around three months later I told him I loved him too. Not even a day later and he was pushing for sex. I later realised it that he was thinking it would be easier to manipulate me if I fell for him. The more I acted dumb and unaware, the more he tried to take advantage of me. There were many instances he did things like this before I realised I couldn’t trust him.",,14,Pretykity,1617674747.0 +I also act dumb sometimes. I used to talk to a really manipulative guy once. I told him I don’t have sex before marriage. He seemed very understanding and so supportive I thought I lucked out. He said he was very practicing and felt the same way. So anyways, I think around three months later I told him I loved him too. Not even a day later and he was pushing for sex. I later realised it that he was thinking it would be easier to manipulate me if I fell for him. The more I acted dumb and unaware, the more he tried to take advantage of me. There were many instances he did things like this before I realised I couldn’t trust him.",,14,Pretykity,2021-04-06 02:05:47 RedPillWives,mhrdba,My Grandmother’s Rather Wonderful Advice,"So for the last few months I’ve been visiting my grandparents weekly and me being there motivates them to go and have walks since it’s with me. I also just love talking with them and learning their stories, which I’m compiling together in a single anthology. I was speaking with my grandmother today about families and she suddenly brought up a very interesting topic: men and cheating. For context, we come from a cultural background that does have stereotypes about womanisers. She did say, “Do you know why your grandfather never cheated?” @@ -63743,18 +63743,18 @@ Not many people do this nowadays! The more I think about it, I realise it’s so (Note: Well, definitely your husband/partner must have proved himself a good captain first before all this. The advice is considering you already have a great marriage with two mature people.) -What do you all think?",,170,ThatStepfordGal,1617268216.0 +What do you all think?",,170,ThatStepfordGal,2021-04-01 09:10:16 RedPillWives,mhfi4l,We managed to book a venue! I'm officially getting married!,"I (35f) am marrying my absolutely wonderful fiancee (34m) in September and I couldn't be happier. I am so determined to be a good wife and make sure to always support him and create a nice home for us. I feel like embodying this wish, and really going for it, has made it easier for him to take the plunge and decide to marry me. A few days ago, we saw some friends outdoors and he was low-level bragging about some cool things I made for our home (some plant arrangements, fresh bread, great meals etc.) and it just made me feel so proud to think that I'd made him smile about something. It makes me want to marry him even more and lock in all the juices of a wonderful long marriage. I hope I am not breaking any rules. I just wanted to share my joy with you all, as I find it so inspirational to see amazing women on here coming together to support each other and I feel like this community has helped me. ❤ thanks all -Edit: typo's",,55,CheeseMonger96,1617224115.0 +Edit: typo's",,55,CheeseMonger96,2021-03-31 20:55:15 RedPillWives,mhmi9j,Laura Doyle coaching cost,"Has anyone done the Laura Doyle one-on-one relationship coaching? Or happen know what the cost is? The website says four figures, but I'm wondering if that's $1000 or $5000 ballpark. I don't really want to fill out the form and have them try to convince me to buy something I can't afford, but I need some serious help getting my marriage (myself) back on course and this aligns with my values whereas I would have to look hard for a ""marriage counselor"" or a therapist that would be a good fit. -TIA!",,7,tanlahil_icham,1617247304.0 -RedPillWives,mh5qxg,Sidebar posts gone?,"I love referring back to sidebar/wiki posts from this sub, yet some of my favorites-- the psychological femininity post, for one-- seem to have been deleted. Is there anywhere that these posts can be viewed still?",,9,dabadeedabadaa,1617196120.0 +TIA!",,7,tanlahil_icham,2021-04-01 03:21:44 +RedPillWives,mh5qxg,Sidebar posts gone?,"I love referring back to sidebar/wiki posts from this sub, yet some of my favorites-- the psychological femininity post, for one-- seem to have been deleted. Is there anywhere that these posts can be viewed still?",,9,dabadeedabadaa,2021-03-31 13:08:40 RedPillWives,mgrzm8,Am I alone in my beliefs? Where do I go?,"Hi everyone, First, while I may sound like I am lost here, I come with respect for (if not always understanding of) your choices. I came here because I would like to get a fresh perspective from other women on some things I have been thinking about but have not been able to openly discuss in my own environment. I am struggling because I feel I know what I believe, but I cannot relate it to anyone or anything I know. I will explain what I mean and want to ask your community for advice. My main question: do my beliefs fit here? If not, where might they fit? @@ -63769,7 +63769,7 @@ On top of this issue, I have recently become aware of my own submissive nature a I think I believe our society should be less focused on how we are supposedly all the same, and instead acknowledge and integrate our differences, for all our benefit. While personally, I am looking to live a natural life, in which I can both take up my natural role as a submissive wife, and develop my passion for ecology. -This post has become way too long (sorry!), but to return to my question: do these ideas fit into the RPW community? If not, do you maybe know where I might find like-minded women and men, or literature/a community I could explore? I would be very grateful.",,20,pure_prose,1617144176.0 +This post has become way too long (sorry!), but to return to my question: do these ideas fit into the RPW community? If not, do you maybe know where I might find like-minded women and men, or literature/a community I could explore? I would be very grateful.",,20,pure_prose,2021-03-30 22:42:56 RedPillWives,mf9xwq,"Thinking of moving out of a blue state for a more traditional life, 21F","Hi guys, A little about me: I’m a 21 year old girl, finishing up her last semester of college. I live in a VERY liberal part of the country, and it’s making me more and more depressed by the day. @@ -63786,7 +63786,7 @@ Is what I want unrealistic, or should I really make an effort to find what it is Thoughts? -Thanks everyone!",,13,[deleted],1616965494.0 +Thanks everyone!",,13,[deleted],2021-03-28 21:04:54 RedPillWives,me22n0,Need Perspective,"My husband texted me asking for a phone number, at the time I was in the car, so I forwarded the screenshot of the phone number, which was how the person I got it from sent it to me. A few minutes later I got home and was due on a conference call for work, when he called me asking me why I had the nerve to send a screenshot, criticizing me, calling me names.... @@ -63802,14 +63802,14 @@ He asked why I sighed, I said because I was disappointed that that was the only Then he left the house and has barely been speaking to me the rest of the evening because of my “attitude” — which literally was me sighing and saying Ok. -Does the punishment fit the crime here? How do I handle this?",,26,nycgirl777,1616803627.0 +Does the punishment fit the crime here? How do I handle this?",,26,nycgirl777,2021-03-27 00:07:07 RedPillWives,mcy636,"Wives and SAHM's, how do you bring beauty and happiness into your homes?","Other than the obvious of cleaning, preparing dinner etc. How do you fill your home with that extra... homeiness? -Currently renting while we build so particularly looking for inexpensive and temporary ideas please x",,33,[deleted],1616678715.0 +Currently renting while we build so particularly looking for inexpensive and temporary ideas please x",,33,[deleted],2021-03-25 13:25:15 RedPillWives,mcwjnq,"I've hurt myself in the feels, and it's escalated into a row","He made a choice that is entirely his right to make, but I've felt wounded by it. I've blown it out of proportion and made it into him slighting me and not being attracted to me. I went quiet and disappeared out to walk the dog, but brought my clearly butthurt attitude home. When he asked me what was wrong I said nothing. Then he pushed the question. I said I felt hurt and needed time to drill down on what was at the root of it, and asked him to respect that. He was angry about my response to the situation and trying to conceal it. Now he's stormed off out. I've tried to apologise by text. -Any suggestions? Now I feel even more like crap than I originally did.",,3,HappilyMrs,1616673529.0 -RedPillWives,m90uxx,How do I encourage my boyfriend to get healthy and lose weight?,"Me [18F] and my boyfriend [18M] have been in a relationship for 8 months. We are very serious about each other, we plan on getting married in the next few years, and in many ways he is a very high value man (extremely intelligent, and in college for a degree that pays very well) but he just has this one problem- He literally does not care about his health at all!! We are both overweight (He needs to lose 30 I need to lose 15) but I have been losing weight because of eating healthier and getting exercise. However he has actually gained a bit of weight since we started dating, and he did try to exercise but he gave up after only a couple weeks and he refuses to do it again. He spends all of his time being sedentary and he overeats even though he claims that he is eating better. He doesn't care about healthy eating at all and he doesn't know or care how to cook healthy food for himself. It doesn't make him unattractive to me because he is attractive in other ways but I really want to encourage him to live a healthier lifestyle because I really do want to spend the rest of my life with him, and I know I cannot find a better man than him. He is also going through a bit of a depression right now but even though I've explained to him many times that getting exercise, eating healthy and taking care of yourself makes you feel better, he doesn't care. What can I do to help encourage him to start exercising again?",,5,rpwthrowaway12345678,1616219831.0 +Any suggestions? Now I feel even more like crap than I originally did.",,3,HappilyMrs,2021-03-25 11:58:49 +RedPillWives,m90uxx,How do I encourage my boyfriend to get healthy and lose weight?,"Me [18F] and my boyfriend [18M] have been in a relationship for 8 months. We are very serious about each other, we plan on getting married in the next few years, and in many ways he is a very high value man (extremely intelligent, and in college for a degree that pays very well) but he just has this one problem- He literally does not care about his health at all!! We are both overweight (He needs to lose 30 I need to lose 15) but I have been losing weight because of eating healthier and getting exercise. However he has actually gained a bit of weight since we started dating, and he did try to exercise but he gave up after only a couple weeks and he refuses to do it again. He spends all of his time being sedentary and he overeats even though he claims that he is eating better. He doesn't care about healthy eating at all and he doesn't know or care how to cook healthy food for himself. It doesn't make him unattractive to me because he is attractive in other ways but I really want to encourage him to live a healthier lifestyle because I really do want to spend the rest of my life with him, and I know I cannot find a better man than him. He is also going through a bit of a depression right now but even though I've explained to him many times that getting exercise, eating healthy and taking care of yourself makes you feel better, he doesn't care. What can I do to help encourage him to start exercising again?",,5,rpwthrowaway12345678,2021-03-20 05:57:11 RedPillWives,m7umrd,Sex and marriage discussion,"I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. I was venting about the difference between advice given to women and men in the Christian community regarding sex. I was on a fairly “blue pill” Facebook group. Some responses surprised me and I wanted to run it past you here. @@ -63835,7 +63835,7 @@ I am curious to see a more red pill (I suppose conservative/traditional?) take o The question boils down to - how much responsibility does one spouse have to the other in regards to meeting sexual needs? -*again this is really about advice - I would just love to have the conversation about the generalities of this topic* :)",,24,anothergoodbook,1616084841.0 +*again this is really about advice - I would just love to have the conversation about the generalities of this topic* :)",,24,anothergoodbook,2021-03-18 16:27:21 RedPillWives,m5r547,An Update to my Last Post (Being surrendered and sex),"I posted a month ago where I was feeling incredibly frustrated, sad, lonely, etc over the lack of intimacy (physical and emotional) in my marriage. A few things have happened that I figured I would update on. @@ -63852,7 +63852,7 @@ We’ve had a good long look at our conflict resolution skills and realizing nei I’ve also had to give voice to the “stories” I make up about myself and sex (if he is saying no it’s because I’m fat or he doesn’t love me). Instead of stewing in these made up stories I’ve been honest and say “you know when you didn’t respond to my advances this is what goes through my head”. To which he said isn’t true at all. He said he has l trouble just switching modes and if I come on too strong it turns him off. Then I back off feeling rejected, but he just needed more time and to go slower (and if I was honest with him he could have told me that but instead I sulked off and was upset). -So anyhow - I figured I’d let you know how it’s been going :).",,59,anothergoodbook,1615832389.0 +So anyhow - I figured I’d let you know how it’s been going :).",,59,anothergoodbook,2021-03-15 18:19:49 RedPillWives,m5ulhc,Year of Self Care (month 3),"I know, I know I just posted a marriage update. But I’ve been thinking about posting this for a while. I decided that 2021 would be a year of self care after reading a memoir/self help book to the same effect. The author chose a monthly theme with the focus being on self care (like doing daily push ups or stretching). @@ -63889,7 +63889,7 @@ Also things that have happened this year of focusing on taking care of me: - gave up drinking alcohol when I realized it doesn’t do anything good for my health and made me feel terrible -I wrote all of this out because 1) self care may look totally different than you expect (yes I do a lot more of the “indulgent” things too, but this has been hard work!), 2) being open to seeing where you can improve is vitally important, 3) I’m really proud of my work and wanted to share with you lovely ladies who are so supportive and amazing, and 4) maybe it will inspire someone else to evaluate where they need to up their self care.",,18,anothergoodbook,1615841591.0 +I wrote all of this out because 1) self care may look totally different than you expect (yes I do a lot more of the “indulgent” things too, but this has been hard work!), 2) being open to seeing where you can improve is vitally important, 3) I’m really proud of my work and wanted to share with you lovely ladies who are so supportive and amazing, and 4) maybe it will inspire someone else to evaluate where they need to up their self care.",,18,anothergoodbook,2021-03-15 20:53:11 RedPillWives,m54pvp,"Wives who were first-timers, how did you create excitement in the bedroom?","Hi ladies, I'll keep this short and get to the question - my husband is my first partner but I am not his. I can't shake off the feeling that I have little excitement to offer and whatever I do the thought hovers over my head that he's probably tried this before or a previous partner with more experience has definitely done this way better etc... @@ -63898,14 +63898,14 @@ So my question in essence is, how did you ""learn"" new things? How did you make Of course communication is key and it depends on the partner, but I don't want him to stand in front of a board and give me a sex-ed lesson.. I'm quite shy about this and it would be very helpful if anyone has had a similar situation and could offer insights. -Thanks a lot!",,23,grahamcookiefart,1615757275.0 +Thanks a lot!",,23,grahamcookiefart,2021-03-14 21:27:55 RedPillWives,m4b784,How long does it take to adjust to a new baby?,"Hello ladies! We're scheduled to be induced for our first child on Wednesday and so of course I'm a bundle of nerves and excitement. Part of what I'm worried about is staying on top of the household with such a big life change. I've gone a bit crazy with nesting so our house if completely spick and span right now but obviously that won't last long. -How long did it take to get a new routine going with a new baby? And any advice that you can think of? All the other subs are just going to tell me to make my husband do everything or scoff at this rather than offer any real help.",,15,Mewster1818,1615657389.0 +How long did it take to get a new routine going with a new baby? And any advice that you can think of? All the other subs are just going to tell me to make my husband do everything or scoff at this rather than offer any real help.",,15,Mewster1818,2021-03-13 17:43:09 RedPillWives,lzfvmf,The Dating Scene...,"Is making me shake my head! I’m laughing a bit as I write this and somewhat rather surprised at the same time. I’m on a dating app and I literally just got deleted mid conversation by the guy (unmatched) because I said I don’t believe in sex until commitment. @@ -63925,21 +63925,21 @@ Then suddenly the conversation is gone. Deleted from my matches. Look I’m not that bothered though it’s honestly surprising in a funny way that it was the reason? What’s happening to people nowadays and the dating scene. It’s like..you’re a pariah for wanting commitment and a proper way to approach a relationship that is emotionally responsible. My two best friends have their partners and had sex before commitment and sometimes they do tell me to ‘be open to it’ (not in a forceful way) but the idea is just so *wrong* to me. I don’t know what does everyone think? -Anyone been in this position?",,19,VladNook,1615079606.0 -RedPillWives,lx840j,New to tradlife,So I've been dating a conservative traditional man for 7 months me myself being a liberal and I've always wanted to be a traditional housewife weird I know right? How do I start are their any good books to read and especially how can I incorporate it into a dating relationship?,,12,Psychological-Ad3566,1614816652.0 +Anyone been in this position?",,19,VladNook,2021-03-07 01:13:26 +RedPillWives,lx840j,New to tradlife,So I've been dating a conservative traditional man for 7 months me myself being a liberal and I've always wanted to be a traditional housewife weird I know right? How do I start are their any good books to read and especially how can I incorporate it into a dating relationship?,,12,Psychological-Ad3566,2021-03-04 00:10:52 RedPillWives,lweeex,SMV of married women,"Ladies, I’m trying hard to understand the fondamental concepts of RP. Really I am! Now from what I got, from what I read, from the YouTube vids I’ve watched, women get to be at the top of their SMV before 25 yo (having a hard time with this but what ever let’s go on). So what happened to your SMV when you got married and had babies, it just gets in the negative part of the scale? You’re just supposed to drop the SMV scale and get swallowed in motherhood, diapers and children needs. -Please tell me this is not how it’s supposed to be according to RPs. Please.",,15,[deleted],1614724391.0 +Please tell me this is not how it’s supposed to be according to RPs. Please.",,15,[deleted],2021-03-02 22:33:11 RedPillWives,lwezfv,Your thoughts of mid life crisis,"Lovely ladies, I’d like to have your opinions on mid-life crisis for a married woman. Is it something that should be embraced or carefully muffled ? -Have any of you ever experience such phase in life? If so, what did you do?",,4,[deleted],1614726062.0 +Have any of you ever experience such phase in life? If so, what did you do?",,4,[deleted],2021-03-02 23:01:02 RedPillWives,lqvmhb,I’m starting to feel bitter and cold,"I don’t know what to do. Every time my husband corrects me about something I didn’t do right I get angry. I get angry that I didn’t do it right and then I get angry that he has to complain or correct me about it. Along with anger, I feel embarrassment and I start to think and talk badly about myself. Example: mold started forming in our bathroom due to the limited venting and humidity. I tried cleaning the caulk but the mold seems to have penetrated from the inside. My husband told me to let him know what we need in order to get rid of it. I ended up forgetting and today he woke up with an itchy skin. He complained that I didn’t clean and if I did and couldn’t get rid of it, I should have consulted him. He told me he was going to clean it and left to get the cleaning products and told me not to touch the bathroom. I ended up cleaning the tub and when he came home he started yelling and getting very angry because I cleaned when he told me not to, and that he was going to do it. He was saying how I don’t care about him and I disrespect him. Now, I feel like shit and in feeling like this, I’m feeling myself become cold and bitter. To the point where I just want to leave him alone. I don’t want to be this way. Whenever my husband has an issue with me, I take it out on myself and on him, and then I can’t be loving. I can’t be warm and welcoming. I turn serious and cut and dry. -Any advice will be appreciated. Thank you!",,16,[deleted],1614121144.0 -RedPillWives,lpskoz,Being an emotional sponge,"Does anyone else get really easily swayed by their husbands emotions? If he's feeling a bit low or out of sorts, I immediately feel the same. If he then bounces back and flirts or is loving or playful, it's like a light switch and I will just be reset. It's not even happening subtly now, I can feel it start and stop. Am I alone in this?",,21,HappilyMrs,1614011008.0 +Any advice will be appreciated. Thank you!",,16,[deleted],2021-02-23 22:59:04 +RedPillWives,lpskoz,Being an emotional sponge,"Does anyone else get really easily swayed by their husbands emotions? If he's feeling a bit low or out of sorts, I immediately feel the same. If he then bounces back and flirts or is loving or playful, it's like a light switch and I will just be reset. It's not even happening subtly now, I can feel it start and stop. Am I alone in this?",,21,HappilyMrs,2021-02-22 16:23:28 RedPillWives,lo8yia,What can I do that my wife appreciates?,"Hello all! I am a married man and I am trying to become a better husband. Please help: I am doing a lot for my wife, example, she had an errand in a town 6 hours away and she needed to be there for 4 days total. Of course she could have gone alone but I know she hates that so I packed the kids in the car and we all went there together. @@ -63948,7 +63948,7 @@ In my mind I am doing something nice to her but I have now realised that she kin So I am wondering what is it you wife's want from your husbands that makes you feel loved and courted by your husbands? - It seems like acts of service dose not register on my wife. Thanks for the help!",,14,dude777five,1613833653.0 + It seems like acts of service dose not register on my wife. Thanks for the help!",,14,dude777five,2021-02-20 15:07:33 RedPillWives,ln3g41,The Surrendered Wife and Sex,"“Saying what you want means that you’re aware of your feelings and desires and that you’re willing to honor them. It means that you know that you deserve to have new things and things that you love. It means you don’t have to waste energy thinking about how to get what you want by making it seem like it actually serves some other more “noble purpose. You’re not a martyr, and nobody has to guess what will please you. A woman who knows and respects herself simply says to her husband, “I want.”” — The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide for Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace with a Man by Laura Doyle @@ -63960,7 +63960,7 @@ But here’s where I’m going with this. Sex. He’s okay with once a week or That then leads me to allowing him to take the led with sex. Would a surrendered wife step back and let her husband be the lead? Is it controlling to expect certain things from sex? How do I deal with the “unfairness” of sex in this case - when he wants to then I need to say yes, but feel my needs aren’t being met (like in the quote above). Do I constantly say “I would love a great orgasm?” Or “I want to be passionately made love to?” -I feel like this is such a struggle for me because everything else relies on me being on my page and letting him be on his page- but sex is an intermingling of the two pages, right? Ugh. Any insight is welcome.",,33,anothergoodbook,1613699186.0 +I feel like this is such a struggle for me because everything else relies on me being on my page and letting him be on his page- but sex is an intermingling of the two pages, right? Ugh. Any insight is welcome.",,33,anothergoodbook,2021-02-19 01:46:26 RedPillWives,ljug6q,My husband did NOTHING for Valentine’s Day?,"**EDIT: I didn’t end up saying anything. He asked me to keep him company while he ran a few errands and took me to my favorite plant store and told me to pick out any and every plant I wanted. Our hobby this past year has been collecting houseplants and the store had just gotten a new delivery right before we arrived so it was perfect. I don’t think he had necessarily been planning on this, but he noticed I was feeling down and decided to do something about it. He also secured a bottle of my favorite wine which I’m very excited to enjoy with the roasted duck and honey glazed carrots I’m making for dinner. I’ve learned my lesson about communicating my expectations around holidays AND the day has been saved. Thanks for your support, everyone!** **EDIT 2: Okay, I am really eating my words now. He was a professional musician for a while but stopped right before we met so I never got to see him play. I’ve been hassling him to throw “a concert” for me in our living room for months. Last month he finally agreed he would do it for Valentine’s Day and I completely forgot about it until I heard him doing a sound check on a PA system he set up in our living room just now.....** ❤️ **Happy Valentine’s Day!** @@ -63973,21 +63973,21 @@ I guess I did a poor job of noticing that I have expectations and letting him kn Since I woke up this morning, I’ve had to slip into the bathroom to cry several times because I’m just so surprised and sad. I tried to just take care of myself and make myself happy by sewing a new dress and then my sewing machine broke and the repair man needs to keep it overnight. He’s noticed that I’m not myself and asked me a few times what’s wrong and I keep saying it’s nothing because I don’t want him to feel bad. -It’s not the end of the world or anything but I’m taking it really hard right now. ☹️",,31,gold-ee,1613328346.0 +It’s not the end of the world or anything but I’m taking it really hard right now. ☹️",,31,gold-ee,2021-02-14 18:45:46 RedPillWives,lh6rip,Update: potential chronic illness,"Today was the day of my procedure to figure out a diagnosis, but of course nothing can be easy. Evidence was found pointing to one of the worse case scenarios. Biopsy was done, final results by Tuesday at the latest. Husband and I had a sit down discussion about what this means for our future. I am mourning for the future that we will never have. -Edit. Just got the call, confirmed crohn's disease.",,29,blahpunchlineblah,1612998806.0 +Edit. Just got the call, confirmed crohn's disease.",,29,blahpunchlineblah,2021-02-10 23:13:26 RedPillWives,lgzqeo,Expectations for communication while physically apart,"Man here. Hope this is appropriate for this forum. My wife and I occasionally have to spend a week or more apart due to work. It last happened in 2019 and its happening now for three weeks while she cares for sick relatives. We do video calls I see all of her family, etc. I am 100% sure she's caring for them and support her 100%. She's a bit of a butterfly (all over the place, doesn't keep a daily schedule). I'm not a military person but in terms of schedule I am - up early, detailed schedule for working out, work, etc. for 9 hours a day. -Edit: thanks for the responses. I think the consensus was to have a direct conversation and suggest we check in for ten minutes a day when one of us is on the road, and commit to and honor that commitment!",,9,IslandSwim,1612980631.0 +Edit: thanks for the responses. I think the consensus was to have a direct conversation and suggest we check in for ten minutes a day when one of us is on the road, and commit to and honor that commitment!",,9,IslandSwim,2021-02-10 18:10:31 RedPillWives,lely1s,Paying For Dates?,"Hi ladies! It seems I’ve hit a bit of a confusing point in a recent dating experience and I’d appreciate just some advice. I’m very old fashioned, I believe in gender roles to the max (I’m happy to cook and clean in the future for my husband, letting my man lead us, I was raised in a conservative upbringing where this was normal). I see women as nurturers and carers while men are providers and protectors. While I’m not for guys just paying for ultimately everything in a traditional relationship, I want to contribute some as well. It’s not absolute. @@ -64007,16 +64007,16 @@ It’s not that I can’t afford it, it’s the gesture that I could pay for mys I don’t know, he may even ask the paying question, maybe not. I just am not sure what to say if he does. -I wanted to initially talk about it during the meal, apologise for the first date and my answer, if that made him uncomfortable, before we ever get to the bill. Explain my cultural background and beliefs. What do you all think I should do? Say? Thank you all!",,14,VladNook,1612702559.0 -RedPillWives,laulfp,I am in the process of being diagnosed with a debilitating chronic illness that will reduce my quality of life and may cause me to be infertile. How do I move on?,"Basically the title. I (28F) find out on the 10th. Best case scenario is I got a false positive (very unlikely), most likely is a chronic illness, worst case is cancer. My husband is being very supportive, but I don't know what I do from here. We were going to try for our first child in a few months. We are looking for a house. I don't know where to go from here and I feel quite lost.",,21,blahpunchlineblah,1612269589.0 +I wanted to initially talk about it during the meal, apologise for the first date and my answer, if that made him uncomfortable, before we ever get to the bill. Explain my cultural background and beliefs. What do you all think I should do? Say? Thank you all!",,14,VladNook,2021-02-07 12:55:59 +RedPillWives,laulfp,I am in the process of being diagnosed with a debilitating chronic illness that will reduce my quality of life and may cause me to be infertile. How do I move on?,"Basically the title. I (28F) find out on the 10th. Best case scenario is I got a false positive (very unlikely), most likely is a chronic illness, worst case is cancer. My husband is being very supportive, but I don't know what I do from here. We were going to try for our first child in a few months. We are looking for a house. I don't know where to go from here and I feel quite lost.",,21,blahpunchlineblah,2021-02-02 12:39:49 RedPillWives,lavtyu,What does respect mean to you (and your man)?,"I was reading my Bible study this morning and was reminded how we need to be respecting our husbands. Of course anyone who has been here a while has probably read Laura Doyle’s books and she emphasizes respect. What surprises me even after 14 years of marriage (which is shouldn’t I guess) is what I consider respectful versus what he thinks is respectful. -As a discussion I’d love to hear what things make your SO feel respected and conversely what causes them to feel disrespected (or withdraw).",,10,anothergoodbook,1612273736.0 +As a discussion I’d love to hear what things make your SO feel respected and conversely what causes them to feel disrespected (or withdraw).",,10,anothergoodbook,2021-02-02 13:48:56 RedPillWives,l7r2ap,What has made you laugh or smile this week?,"Do please share your stories from the week! -We just got a new (or new to us at least!) car, and the number plate has the letters in it that make it look like it says Captain! Made me smile.",,10,HappilyMrs,1611922399.0 +We just got a new (or new to us at least!) car, and the number plate has the letters in it that make it look like it says Captain! Made me smile.",,10,HappilyMrs,2021-01-29 12:13:19 RedPillWives,l6htyt,"What man is ""good enough""","Hello wonderfully feminine ladies :D Thank you for giving me advice on my last post about vetting a specific man, it really helped me clarify some thoughts. Now I'm vetting a few guys, and I have a new question about whether my expectations are unrealistic. &#x200B; @@ -64069,7 +64069,7 @@ Really tried to accept that most people just want to live normal lives, keep dow &#x200B; -Again, thanks beforehand for your thoughtful advice!",,16,sekoiasan,1611790678.0 +Again, thanks beforehand for your thoughtful advice!",,16,sekoiasan,2021-01-27 23:37:58 RedPillWives,l626w9,Short-term changes when long-term one will take forever?,"Can I get some input on what I can do at present when my long term goal is so far away? @@ -64081,10 +64081,10 @@ But in the mean time, I want to improve in ways that are quicker. In the last fe I listen to the Laura Doyle podcast, and I am implementing ""whatever you think"" and trying to implement the duct tape, as well as trying to always assume his motivations are good, rather than jumping to conclusions. -Do you have any thoughts on what I can be doing for now? Thank you",,7,HappilyMrs,1611745304.0 +Do you have any thoughts on what I can be doing for now? Thank you",,7,HappilyMrs,2021-01-27 11:01:44 RedPillWives,l3pm3d,Would anyone be open to mentoring?,"Hi everyone! I’ve been on RPW for a few years now, usually anonymously and now have decided to come and say hi :) -I’m 27 years old, work part time and also domestic work at home and dating in a city. As of lately I feel I’m just lacking some kind of direction and becoming a bit disconnected with meeting others as well after years of it and getting slightly older. I know what I want and I put in the time however it doesn’t really feel like..anything’s really working. Maybe I’m doing something wrong or missing something in my actual g-game I’m not sure. I’d love to hear from someone who’s married for a while and has very traditional views on relationships, marriage and etc. I’m not religious but I’m open to someone who is and still have some connections there. If you’d like to reach out, I’d be more than grateful and willing to listen and learn!",,16,VladNook,1611452197.0 +I’m 27 years old, work part time and also domestic work at home and dating in a city. As of lately I feel I’m just lacking some kind of direction and becoming a bit disconnected with meeting others as well after years of it and getting slightly older. I know what I want and I put in the time however it doesn’t really feel like..anything’s really working. Maybe I’m doing something wrong or missing something in my actual g-game I’m not sure. I’d love to hear from someone who’s married for a while and has very traditional views on relationships, marriage and etc. I’m not religious but I’m open to someone who is and still have some connections there. If you’d like to reach out, I’d be more than grateful and willing to listen and learn!",,16,VladNook,2021-01-24 01:36:37 RedPillWives,l31x3k,Fashion advice: cute things for grown women,"Hi all, I often receive surprised reactions when I tell people at work that I’m married because many of my coworkers seem to think I am younger than I really am. I am 27. I think I look my age, and it has much more to do with my mannerisms, body language, style, etc. I am wanting to make some life changes in the near future so these are things I know I need to work on. @@ -64093,7 +64093,7 @@ I also adore things that are cute. I love animal sweaters, anything Sanrio, stuf But I am getting ready to invest in some wardrobe updates, and I want to have an age-appropriate style for home, going out on weekends (We *will* be able to go out to restaurants and bars again, someday), etc. I want to dress appropriately for my age and maintain a sophisticated edge, but I still want to wear things that are cute. I recently found a pair of piggie slippers that I thought were sooo cute, and I could use a pair of slippers. I felt kind of sad passing them up but also knew I might feel silly wearing them. -Does anyone have any tips or style inspirations?",,10,katsnackshackysacks,1611364601.0 +Does anyone have any tips or style inspirations?",,10,katsnackshackysacks,2021-01-23 01:16:41 RedPillWives,l1mfzy,RP femininity and Why Men Love Bitches?,"Hi everyone! I’ve been readying WMLB by Sherry Argov about ten years after I first did since I’ve forgotten..I can only recall bits of it that I liked. I’m always a huge supporter of girl-game and I can agree with the book’s ideas on not prioritising or giving too much to guys during dating. There are a couple of points that confuse me though - @@ -64103,23 +64103,23 @@ Now there is something about not wanting to jump in too much I get, though would Wouldn’t this go against what to get? -How would this be incorporated or not at all? I’d love your thoughts ladies!",,13,ThatStepfordGal,1611188258.0 -RedPillWives,l1r37o,Book/ podcast recommendations,"Any podcast or reading recommendations besides Laura Doyle? I have read the ""surrendered wife"" and listen to the empowered wife podcast. Any other sources you ladies love to listen to or read?",,5,anastasia4112,1611203726.0 +How would this be incorporated or not at all? I’d love your thoughts ladies!",,13,ThatStepfordGal,2021-01-21 00:17:38 +RedPillWives,l1r37o,Book/ podcast recommendations,"Any podcast or reading recommendations besides Laura Doyle? I have read the ""surrendered wife"" and listen to the empowered wife podcast. Any other sources you ladies love to listen to or read?",,5,anastasia4112,2021-01-21 04:35:26 RedPillWives,l1elbi,Goddess of fun and light,"I'm listening to the empowered wife podcast. Can anyone give me examples of how you are the GOFL in your daily life please? -Thank you",,8,HappilyMrs,1611165784.0 +Thank you",,8,HappilyMrs,2021-01-20 18:03:04 RedPillWives,l0mtwm,Men should be more emotional,"I hear this a lot. Men need to display their emotions more, and in the positive (read: The way women do) way. But on talking with my husband, we agree that not only does society then mock when men do express feelings, but also that it assumes men have the constant stream of feelings that women have, complete with that need to share those feelings with others. What do you think? Do you wish your husband displayed more feelings, or felt more feelings? Do you feel society is asking men for too much, rather than respecting the way men might prefer to be? Or is there something else on the topic of men and emotion you'd like to talk about? -((Yes, my country is in lockdown, I don't have a lot of friends, and I am quite bored, how did you know?! Hehe))",,15,HappilyMrs,1611072448.0 +((Yes, my country is in lockdown, I don't have a lot of friends, and I am quite bored, how did you know?! Hehe))",,15,HappilyMrs,2021-01-19 16:07:28 RedPillWives,l0gyqa,What do you ladies think of Trump?,"Honestly, I have not followed politics AT ALL my entire life, and so I am in no way qualified to make an assessment of Trump’s presidency. However, a few of the “scandals” which blew up about him didn’t seem so scandalous to me. They all seemed to focus on his tone instead of his content and intentions. Could you ladies enlighten me a bit on the following questions: - Your opinion of Trump and its basis - Why Trump is so hated by the majority (or the very loud) - Is Joe Biden a good man, and Trump is not? I’m so sorry for asking about bottomless pits of topics, but I would appreciate it if I could get the essential points from women with a common sense that I trust. -Thanks beforehand!",,4,sekoiasan,1611050828.0 +Thanks beforehand!",,4,sekoiasan,2021-01-19 10:07:08 RedPillWives,l06vcn,Vetting this specific man,"Hello wonderfully feminine ladies :D # How old are you and how familiar are you with RPW? @@ -64172,7 +64172,7 @@ TLDR: This man I'm vetting qualifies in all aspects of RedPillWives' vetting gui &#x200B; -Thanks beforehand both for your help here, but also for all the amazing posts that you ladies have contributed to this community!",,3,sekoiasan,1611013055.0 +Thanks beforehand both for your help here, but also for all the amazing posts that you ladies have contributed to this community!",,3,sekoiasan,2021-01-18 23:37:35 RedPillWives,kwum3n,What to do when your husband is “manly” when gender roles benefit him and extremely “un-manly” when they don’t?,"I think the title sums it up. We have a very traditional marriage-I’m a SAHM and he’s in the Navy. IMO, I think it’s starting to build a little resentment in him but getting into that can get off topic. @@ -64197,7 +64197,7 @@ Anyway-maybe I’m posting this for validation or to alleviate guilt? Thoughts o Another edit to add: I tried to come onto him while he was fixing the shed this morning to apologize & he totally pushed me away. The kids were occupied & he’s kinky & always trying to get a quickie in during the day. I’m just at a loss of what to do with how he handles anger. -Okay sorry if this post is all over the place. It’s just the headspace I’m in right now. TIA for any input-I’ll find time to read through &amp; do my best for time to respond amongst two demanding small children &amp; a demanding grumpy husband",,9,clitclamchowder,1610585900.0 +Okay sorry if this post is all over the place. It’s just the headspace I’m in right now. TIA for any input-I’ll find time to read through &amp; do my best for time to respond amongst two demanding small children &amp; a demanding grumpy husband",,9,clitclamchowder,2021-01-14 00:58:20 RedPillWives,kvimy6,"Career advice, please?","Hello ladies! This is my first time posting on Reddit so I hope I am doing it right. I have been following this thread for a while and you are all amazing, and I love the philosophy. I am a 25 year old (f), from London. Dropped out of university first time as I did not like my course. I have found my direction now and I would like to be a life coach (the long term vision). I am not sure whether I should go to university to take a psychology or counselling course to do this as it is not actually necessary to coach. I have a lot of pressure from my parents to go back into education as they believe in being “professional”. @@ -64210,7 +64210,7 @@ My dad is saying I am only thinking about what is in front of me and not thinkin Does anyone have any advice on what they think I should do? I know ultimately the decision is my own but I would like to hear some wisdom along with any advice / regrets from their 20’s? -Many thanks!!",,5,awomansinfluence,1610419879.0 +Many thanks!!",,5,awomansinfluence,2021-01-12 02:51:19 RedPillWives,kvcx1l,How to make my home look nicer,"I have got a couple things going on: - we bought our house with the intention of fixing the cosmetic stuff- had the money on hand for it... Other stuff popped up and took our cash (the roof, AC, etc). @@ -64225,8 +64225,8 @@ RedPillWives,kvcx1l,How to make my home look nicer,"I have got a couple things g I just don’t know how to salvage what I have and make it look nicer. Help!! -Edit: to add details: we have a split level house. One the entry level is a somewhat open living room/dining room/kitchen. We have wall to wall carpet that was brand new when we moved in. The intention was to rip it out right away and we didn’t care for it properly. Now 4 years later it really needs to be taken up. We are also on a limited budget....",,10,anothergoodbook,1610401422.0 -RedPillWives,krsu1p,What are your favorites subreddits?,I want to explore some new communities. What is your recommendation?,,18,acgs1995,1609954916.0 +Edit: to add details: we have a split level house. One the entry level is a somewhat open living room/dining room/kitchen. We have wall to wall carpet that was brand new when we moved in. The intention was to rip it out right away and we didn’t care for it properly. Now 4 years later it really needs to be taken up. We are also on a limited budget....",,10,anothergoodbook,2021-01-11 21:43:42 +RedPillWives,krsu1p,What are your favorites subreddits?,I want to explore some new communities. What is your recommendation?,,18,acgs1995,2021-01-06 17:41:56 RedPillWives,kroua9,"I want to get married, but he won't commit","Hi, sorry for the formatting, I'm on mobile. I'm new to red pill, but I'm really into the philosophy and lifestyle, so I'd like to ask for your advice. @@ -64247,14 +64247,14 @@ A few details just for context: -My current income is about double his and we could not afford for me to be a stay at home wife, but that is our long term goal. -We are not intimate and I am sure he is faithful. -So, what do you think I should do?",,9,Thatknow-it-allGirl,1609943148.0 +So, what do you think I should do?",,9,Thatknow-it-allGirl,2021-01-06 14:25:48 RedPillWives,krc5pm,Laura Doyle 5-day Challenge,"So yesterday was the start of Surrendered Wife author Laura Doyle’s free 5-day challenge, which she does biannually. The book is great but it takes much more in depth work to really internalize the skills. For a few months now I’ve been studying w her Empowered Wives Group and listening time her podcast and it’s turning our recent relationship breakdown into a breakthrough. Can’t recommend more and so I thought you ladies would enjoy being part of this free challenge where you get a lot of really valuable info condensed into just a few days/videos. It started yesterday but you can view replays of the videos and there’s a private Facebook group:[here’s the link to join the challenge](https://lauradoyle.org/5day-challenge-fb) Btw I’m not affiliated w LD just a big fan. The RPW community really embraces the teachings and is where I found out about her in the first place. Thanks RPW! -I’ll follow up w my cliff notes from each session in the comments as it helps me work the skills too. But if you have a chance do check out the videos, they’re great.",,28,vintagegirlgame,1609893674.0 +I’ll follow up w my cliff notes from each session in the comments as it helps me work the skills too. But if you have a chance do check out the videos, they’re great.",,28,vintagegirlgame,2021-01-06 00:41:14 RedPillWives,kr9kaf,"Flirting, controlling the pace and setting boundaries","I'm 23, single again after the end of a 3 year relationship. For a lot of men-- even ones who are ultimately good men-- testing boundaries is in their nature. They love to get you to change your mind or make an exception for them. In TRP and other communities, you can see them go into detail on exactly *how* to push a woman's boundaries and get her to sleep with them. In my experience, many men I encounter in the wild like to persuade as well. @@ -64263,7 +64263,7 @@ This shouldn't be a problem for a woman who knows what she wants. She knows her I know that some men will lose interest no matter what if you don't give them what they want. That's more than ok with me. But others just want to see what you'll let them get away with, *expecting* that you'll be an adult and let them know if something doesn't work for you. -Any tips on making it clear to a guy that you're not down for something without killing rapport?",,9,dabadeedabadaa,1609885814.0 +Any tips on making it clear to a guy that you're not down for something without killing rapport?",,9,dabadeedabadaa,2021-01-05 22:30:14 RedPillWives,kpe0ci,When to decide you can't follow his guidelines,"I've been with my Captain 4.5 years. He's made my life so much better in every way; I adore him. He's taught me how to be feminine, a good partner and how to love him in ways he values. My life would be bleak without him and he's made it clear continually that he's keeping me. We had Covid earlier this year. It's been rough; we're both long-haulers. He has more extreme symptoms then I do consistently and we're honestly not sure if he's going to recover. It's been a lot. @@ -64274,15 +64274,15 @@ I also am inclined to think he has an anxiety disorder and that he's currently f I'm also inclined to think that if I decide I can't hold up his protocols, need to not be Covid bonded and need to move elsewhere, then our mutual chance of survival is less. We need each other. And yet... I feel like I'm constantly disappointing him by thinking actions are okay that he declares are outside of boundaries. -I adore him and love being with him. But at what point do I decide I can't fulfill his expectations of me?",,3,sweettansy,1609649527.0 +I adore him and love being with him. But at what point do I decide I can't fulfill his expectations of me?",,3,sweettansy,2021-01-03 04:52:07 RedPillWives,kp3c4z,What skills/abilities a good wife should have?,"Hello! I’m newly married and I wonder what skills a good wife should have. I already am a good cooker (love to cook, so it was a natural thing for me), but I’m thinking about starting sewing. I’m not a stay at home wife, unfortunately, but I still would like to learn some “classic” abilities. -Please, share your advice with me (:",,23,acgs1995,1609614119.0 -RedPillWives,kn4w07,Can y’all tell me your engagement stories while I patiently await for my turn?,We’ve been talking about it a lot lately. I’ve been obsessed with watching proposal videos. Definitely getting a bit overexcited🥰,,36,DancerInTheFlowers,1609344271.0 +Please, share your advice with me (:",,23,acgs1995,2021-01-02 19:01:59 +RedPillWives,kn4w07,Can y’all tell me your engagement stories while I patiently await for my turn?,We’ve been talking about it a lot lately. I’ve been obsessed with watching proposal videos. Definitely getting a bit overexcited🥰,,36,DancerInTheFlowers,2020-12-30 16:04:31 RedPillWives,kl81x3,Hack - what's cookin good lookin,"Mandatory apology for bad formatting due to being on my phone. I think I just might have found the solution to the dreaded ""what would you like for dinner?"" @@ -64323,13 +64323,13 @@ I will share my favorite recipe from each cuisine below. 9) Spanish [No-Brainer Paella](https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://tastesbetterfromscratch.com/paella/&ved=2ahUKEwi_7ef63e7tAhVEUhUIHWyDBZsQFjAFegQIDhAB&usg=AOvVaw3Ju29wnQkQV0vIHBXq_ahj) 10) Greek [Spanakopita](https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/18417/spanakopita-greek-spinach-pie/&ved=2ahUKEwjN8cSj3u7tAhXiURUIHQm1C6gQrbMEMAN6BAgkEAs&usg=AOvVaw2xDDr91nCqB2vzosz0cKT9) with [Halloumi Fries](https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://scrummylane.com/crispy-halloumi-fries/&ved=2ahUKEwiG-6m63u7tAhXzuXEKHXwHBbYQrbMEMAJ6BAgBEBE&usg=AOvVaw3k14GSfM0K7RIiZSQOvDQ9) -Happy cooking! <3",,44,[deleted],1609091992.0 +Happy cooking! <3",,44,[deleted],2020-12-27 17:59:52 RedPillWives,kkiasr,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - December 26, 2020","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,1608987866.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,2020-12-26 13:04:26 RedPillWives,kic41r,"New to this, can I even be a RP Wife?","Originally tried to post this in r/RedPillWomen and then read your title post and decided this would fit better here! So I just stumbled upon this concept. I am a 35 year old woman, married. We have a big blended family. @@ -64346,7 +64346,7 @@ I am better with technology so I handle it all, the bulk of our future career, o Also, the majority of resources I find for respecting your husband are religious, and we are definitely not. Apparently that makes us a minority? -So I guess I'm posting all this to say, what are your thoughts? Is it even possible for me to be a red pill wife? What are some ways I can show my husband respect more?",,9,[deleted],1608665098.0 +So I guess I'm posting all this to say, what are your thoughts? Is it even possible for me to be a red pill wife? What are some ways I can show my husband respect more?",,9,[deleted],2020-12-22 19:24:58 RedPillWives,kg7e0z,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - December 19, 2020","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -64354,7 +64354,7 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,4,AutoModerator,1608383067.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,4,AutoModerator,2020-12-19 13:04:27 RedPillWives,kec2gb,"Newly Married, Need Help Avoiding Judgmental Attitude","Hi everyone, I (F23) am newly married to a great man (M25). The married life has been great so far, but I do feel like it's different and hard because of coronavirus right now. My husband works from home and I am in college, but taking classes from home as well so we see each other almost all day, every day. Additionally, my husband's work goes through busy and slow seasons. Right now they are in a slow season so there's not much work to do. I say all this to provide relevant details for the situation. My judgmental attitude is coming from the fact that my husband sleeps in pretty late. He will sleep until 10am on weekdays, sometimes longer. His work starts at 9, but since it is a slow season many of his coworkers don't sign on until later anyways. However, I can't help but feel disgust when he sleeps so late. Even if he's not required to be to work on time, why is he so lazy? I also probably acquired a ""holier than thou"" attitude because I get up at 5:30am to go to the gym and shower and get ready before my classes start at 9. He hasn't been to the gym since lockdown in March. I am just at a loss for what to do because when I get home at 8 from the gym and he is still sleeping it just makes me so angry. And when I start classes at 9 and he is still sleeping it makes me want to scream at him to get up. I haven't actually screamed at him so I guess that's good, but there will be times I will wake him up and tell him what time it is. We got in a bad habit where I was waking him up every day until I told him I couldn't do it anymore and he should set an alarm instead. However, he often doesn't set an alarm or sets it for 9 and turns it off and goes back to bed. I've tried to just ignore it and not wake him up, but sometimes I just can't resist because it gets on my nerves that he sleeps so late and is missing work. &#x200B; @@ -64367,13 +64367,13 @@ I haven't addressed this issue with him because to me it seems very petty. Plus &#x200B; -Please advise me, what should I do to cope with my feelings?",,7,GreenSweater123,1608135235.0 +Please advise me, what should I do to cope with my feelings?",,7,GreenSweater123,2020-12-16 16:13:55 RedPillWives,kdaefr,DH m/32 says women shouldn’t hold political power," And he says if he had a daughter he wouldn’t want her to take leadership positions. When I told him that wasn’t a nice thing to say, he cut me off and said he is not having this discussion with me. -Wwyd?",,5,invisibleme34,1607991640.0 +Wwyd?",,5,invisibleme34,2020-12-15 00:20:40 RedPillWives,kcx2m1,Small Success- thanks :),"I posted a little while back about balancing chores and work and kids. A few people suggested looking into codependency. I started reading some different books on the topic and it really resonated with me. I was able to see that I was super irresponsible in the beginning of our marriage (money, following through on things I agreed on, chores, etc). I believe we were both codependent. My husband’s eventual way of coping was to not argue with me - just shut up about the stuff he didn’t like. Eventually it built up to the point that when we had some major stressors - he couldn’t hold back all of those years of brushing it under the rug. He was incredibly resentful, angry, and so forth. It shifted into me coping using a lot of codependent habits. Needless to say we were in a really bad place for 2-3 years. Also add in that he has OCD and the stressors triggered hay that as well. @@ -64384,13 +64384,13 @@ But onto the win! Last weekend we attempted to go out for our anniversary. I wa Fast forward to *this* weekend and it was wonderful. Weekends tend to be hard because we eventually argue just being around each other. But... we didn’t. Even when the kids were being loud and frustrating or when things didn’t quite go how we planned. -I guess - my take away is to not give up. It’s taken a long time to say we had just a great weekend. And that I’m so grateful for this community who helped point me in a good direction.",,34,anothergoodbook,1607950324.0 -RedPillWives,kaq4qc,How do you stay on top of your groceries?,"As the woman of the house, how do you manage or keep track of your food inventory? When do you go grocery shopping? Do you spend the same amount of money each time you go to the grocery store? Do you buy the same groceries? How do you keep yourself organized?",,16,[deleted],1607642184.0 +I guess - my take away is to not give up. It’s taken a long time to say we had just a great weekend. And that I’m so grateful for this community who helped point me in a good direction.",,34,anothergoodbook,2020-12-14 12:52:04 +RedPillWives,kaq4qc,How do you stay on top of your groceries?,"As the woman of the house, how do you manage or keep track of your food inventory? When do you go grocery shopping? Do you spend the same amount of money each time you go to the grocery store? Do you buy the same groceries? How do you keep yourself organized?",,16,[deleted],2020-12-10 23:16:24 RedPillWives,k9rg5p,Female version of Rian Stone?,"Hey y'all, new here, found this /r scouring the internet with search terms like ""female version of Rian stone"". I'm trying to find female personalities who are like him but, obviously, for women. ""Like him"" in the sense that they break down what actually works in dating and relationships and overall feminine well being/authenticity. Preferably they have a compelling (not gimmicky like I see so often...Shen Wade Inc I'm lookin at you) writing/speaking style, or a podcast where they do in depth interviews. -If anyone has reccommendations that would be sweet. TIA!",,4,homoscarfiens2,1607518930.0 +If anyone has reccommendations that would be sweet. TIA!",,4,homoscarfiens2,2020-12-09 13:02:10 RedPillWives,k8q9a4,Should I pick up after my teenage step kids ?,"My husband hates messes. They stress him out because he has OCD. Usually before he gets home from work, I quickly go around the house and tidy and clean things. If the house gets too messy (especially the kitchen) his mood plummets. Sometimes it turns into an all out fit and he’ll scold me and the children and very angrily deep clean the kitchen for hours on end, which then becomes really stressful for me (even though I get a *very* clean kitchen out of it). I don’t blame him for reacting this way; he shouldn’t have to tell his daughters and I to clean up after ourselves at this point... I grew up with a pretty strict step dad who came into my life when I was 4, and so he felt comfortable with exerting parental authority. He had the family clean every Saturday morning, and if my brothers or I left a mess somewhere, he would make us stop doing whatever it was we were doing (no matter what it was) and come clean it up. I feel like that helped me at least a little bit (there’s only so many times your shower or nap can be interrupted by someone telling you to go pick up your tennis shoes or do your dishes before you start to at least think about it before you leave them there), even though in my late teenage/ early adult years, when I was living on my own, I was super lazy and messy and could live in absolutely unacceptable conditions without being the least bit bothered. (Although I had a lot of conflict with roommates in my first couple semesters of college!) @@ -64401,12 +64401,12 @@ My step kids aren’t the messiest I’ve ever seen (I’m certainly not bothere I don’t feel like I have the same kind of authority over them that my stepdad had over me, as I came into their lives so much later, and I don’t really want to order them about, otherwise I would reprimand them myself. Sometimes I’ll ask them politely to move or grab something, but usually only if it’s in the space I need to use or if we have guests coming over... I’m currently expecting, and I know I’ll be able to correct my own daughter’s behavior and instill the right habits so that she doesn’t struggle with messiness like I did, but I just don’t have the spine when it comes to children who aren’t mine. (Which is kind of crazy to me, since I can easily order around whole groups of men when I’m doing military service.. guess that also explains why I was never particularly good at babysitting...) -What do you think?",,6,BeruitBody49,1607377426.0 +What do you think?",,6,BeruitBody49,2020-12-07 21:43:46 RedPillWives,k774nm,"Simple Questions - December 05, 2020","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,3,AutoModerator,1607173471.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,3,AutoModerator,2020-12-05 13:04:31 RedPillWives,k4kpgh,Hypothetical questions about cheating:conversations with my husband,"We had an interesting conversation last night after watching a movie and I thought “hey, I bet this would be a cool discussion for here”. The conversation was around something said by the main character in Gran Tarino. He’s making confession and says he kissed another woman but never told his wife. @@ -64415,7 +64415,7 @@ My husband asked if me if I would have wanted to know if that happened. Like we We also talked about cheating “more”. Like a full blown affair and how they develop. I said I think someone is extremely naive or stupid to just sort of “slip” into an affair (like not realizing how far into an affair until it’s “too late”). -I suppose that was two separate questions. Would you want to know if your SO kissed someone else 20 years later. Would it be a deal breaker? *And* how do you think affairs start? Is it gradual and subtle or are there signs that the person is willfully ignoring?",,18,anothergoodbook,1606828917.0 +I suppose that was two separate questions. Would you want to know if your SO kissed someone else 20 years later. Would it be a deal breaker? *And* how do you think affairs start? Is it gradual and subtle or are there signs that the person is willfully ignoring?",,18,anothergoodbook,2020-12-01 13:21:57 RedPillWives,k442ju,My (25F) boyfriend (27M) doesn’t get excited about having sex because jerking off is just easier,"I’ve lurked on this sub for about a year, so I’m fairly familiar with the general concepts. This post is getting a lot of “just dump him” responses, which is not on the table at the moment, so I’m posting it here to get another perspective. We have been dating 3 years, living together for 2 (yeah I know, frowned upon), everything else in the relationship is great and we are compatible, but sex has always been a bit boring/left me feeling less than satisfied. I’m overall happy with my life and I would say our sex life now is exactly fine. @@ -64436,7 +64436,7 @@ There have been a couple times that this gets brought up too close to or during I’m a bit lost at this point; I’ve put in time trying to understand and think about it from different points of view, and I just don’t have ideas for a solution. I know the solution is talk to him about it, and we have, and will again. We are pretty much on the same page about the “facts of the case”, I just am hoping to get input from someone who has gone through something similar and found a solution. Or maybe sees something we don’t see because we are inside the situation. -I know we may just be incompatible, and then I have to decide if it’s a dealbreaker. But for the moment he is on the same page as me about wanting to find a solution.",,10,[deleted],1606767083.0 +I know we may just be incompatible, and then I have to decide if it’s a dealbreaker. But for the moment he is on the same page as me about wanting to find a solution.",,10,[deleted],2020-11-30 20:11:23 RedPillWives,k3bojh,Advice on dealing with problem in-laws?,"My husband's family is.... tricky. Their social/political beliefs are wildly different from ours, they don't like me because of it, and they make it *known*. The trouble is, they're Southern, and they express their distaste in a way that's been too Southern for my East Coast socialization to pick up on. They are always objectively polite and friendly to me, so I've assumed that my discomfort is just a normal part of being around someone else's family and pushed through it, but in recently and especially since we got married in the spring, I've started to see that I'm not uncomfortable because I'm shy; I'm uncomfortable because of their palpable disgust towards me. I told my husband a few months ago that I feel like his family doesn't like me and he was surprised that I didn't already *know* that they didn't like me. Ouch. @@ -64445,13 +64445,13 @@ He's always made sure that I have to be around them as little as possible and li Still.... I feel terrible about it. Thankfully we're skipping out on holidays this year, so I get to avoid being boxed in with them for the near future. I've still been feeling upset about having a whole group of people be so against me, and embarrassed that I've been trying to be friendly with these people who were never open to me. I can't keep resenting my husband's family, I can't keep venting about how much I hate my in-laws to my friends, and I can't keep avoiding them forever. It's especially hard when they say hurtful things to him and I have to find a way to be supportive instead of saying what I want to say, which is ""of course your family keeps saying wild, untrue and hurtful things to you unprovoked, they're crazy!!!"" -Does anyone have advice for how to deal with this kind of weird tension? What could I be doing better? Are there any good books out there about how to deal with problem in-laws?",,13,gold-ee,1606665497.0 +Does anyone have advice for how to deal with this kind of weird tension? What could I be doing better? Are there any good books out there about how to deal with problem in-laws?",,13,gold-ee,2020-11-29 15:58:17 RedPillWives,k2nbhy,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - November 28, 2020","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,4,AutoModerator,1606568664.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,4,AutoModerator,2020-11-28 13:04:24 RedPillWives,k26l7o,Snooped on my boyfriend’s phone - how to make it up to him,"Need some advice from you ladies... I’ve been dating a wonderful man for eight months. We live together and it’s been wonderful. @@ -64474,7 +64474,7 @@ He is still out of town right now which makes this even harder to discuss. He How do I make this up to him? I’ve humbled myself and apologized, asked what he needs from me. He says just time. As insecure as it sounds, I’m terrified he’s going to end things with me over this. -Hellllp.",,9,neonbutterkitten,1606501466.0 +Hellllp.",,9,neonbutterkitten,2020-11-27 18:24:26 RedPillWives,jyae34,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - November 21, 2020","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -64482,27 +64482,27 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,4,AutoModerator,1605963864.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,4,AutoModerator,2020-11-21 13:04:24 RedPillWives,jy1elz,Did any of you become a housewife or SAHM because of the pandemic?,"As horrible as this current pandemic is, I also believe it is a chance for many women to reevaluate the idea of being a housewife or SAHM. I'm not just talking about having to quit your job, I think the time we had/have to spend home together with our families is a great chance to see what really matters in life. A friend of mine recently decided to become a full-time housewife and she has been quite happy with her decision so far. Are there any other women here who had to or wanted to make the same decision? How well is it progressing so far and do you enjoy it? Do you plan on going back to work one day? -I hope all of you stay well and healthy, God bless you!",,19,[deleted],1605919991.0 +I hope all of you stay well and healthy, God bless you!",,19,[deleted],2020-11-21 00:53:11 RedPillWives,jx1lx9,Coping with stress,"Hey :) Long story short - I am feeling incredibly stressed out and I need help coping. Longer story- my husband is the manager of a warehouse where there have been 2 positive covid people and 2 more with symptoms. He hasn’t had an symptoms and has tested negative so far (getting tested again today). However I have been sick (doesn’t seem like covid, but I can’t work until I test negative). He was in close enough contact that the chances are high that he would have caught it. Husband is working longer hours and is very stressed out because they were already short people and now they have 4 people gone (it’s a small place so there are like 3 people there doing the job of like 8 people). I’m stuck in the house with 4 kids who are bouncing off the walls. Neither one of us has any energy for anything at all - even supporting the other person. I know it’s pretty much survival mode for the next week or so - I just dont want to eat my stress. We can’t have any babysitters or anything like that to help us out. -I’d love some input on coping with stress from an outsiders point of view. Thanks.",,6,anothergoodbook,1605787934.0 -RedPillWives,jwd8kw,Should this be a STFU moment ?,"Whenever my partner gives me feedback or tries to ask me to improve something, he always uses irony , like ‘oh sure ... your homework will do themselves ’ it really really annoys me and is really condescending I feel. I wish he would just say ‘babe I think you should do your homework?’ And I’ve raised it and asked him to not be so condescending and just tell me straight up, but it just makes things worse and we end up having a fight . Is this just a STFU moment as he is trying to help me improve on things and has good intentions? And I shouldn’t correct him .",,12,xun1,1605694199.0 +I’d love some input on coping with stress from an outsiders point of view. Thanks.",,6,anothergoodbook,2020-11-19 12:12:14 +RedPillWives,jwd8kw,Should this be a STFU moment ?,"Whenever my partner gives me feedback or tries to ask me to improve something, he always uses irony , like ‘oh sure ... your homework will do themselves ’ it really really annoys me and is really condescending I feel. I wish he would just say ‘babe I think you should do your homework?’ And I’ve raised it and asked him to not be so condescending and just tell me straight up, but it just makes things worse and we end up having a fight . Is this just a STFU moment as he is trying to help me improve on things and has good intentions? And I shouldn’t correct him .",,12,xun1,2020-11-18 10:09:59 RedPillWives,jv7d9c,"Struggling with roles (married 6 years, 1 kid)","I'm happy to find this community. I grew up with more of a ""modern"" family, both my parents worked and had equal responsibility in housework, speaking up, etc. I always wanted to be a housewife when I was young. I worked full-time until I had my baby, 4 months post partum I went to part-time. I currently still work part-time and at home with my daughter the rest of the time. We could afford myself quitting (which I consider all the time) but I do love making the extra money to spend on me and my daughter, and getting out of the house a couple days a week. My husband has always said he likes the traditional role of marriage but doesn't mind me working if I enjoy it. He still expects me to do the all of the household work (minus outdoor chores and dealing with the pets) and take care of our child. He works 40-50 hours a week and is working from home due to COVID. I love the idea of being a housewife but in the back of my mind I have doubts and think of people judging me for having the housewife ideals and being ""under my husband"" (my mother has brought up to me before how she doesn't like how I cater to him). I struggle with the time period when he is done with work and before our daughter goes to bed. I understand he wants to relax and un-wind after working all day , but I feel like he needs to do more because by the time he is done with work I am burnt out and ready to pass out. He will usually just watch TV/movies or play on his phone, we have had the conversation regarding his phone and that has improved but I still get soo annoyed. I feel like he hasn't seen his daughter all day because he was working doesn't he want to play with her and interact?! (mind you he does interact with our daughter and plays with her, but I feel like it needs to be more, a me issue) -Also how do you guys find time to do it all?!! I need my workout time to un-wind. Somedays I will work out after dinner and my husband will be with our daughter, and somedays I wait until she goes to bed if I'm not passed out by then. Am I being too greedy?",,10,pinkmask4you,1605535873.0 +Also how do you guys find time to do it all?!! I need my workout time to un-wind. Somedays I will work out after dinner and my husband will be with our daughter, and somedays I wait until she goes to bed if I'm not passed out by then. Am I being too greedy?",,10,pinkmask4you,2020-11-16 14:11:13 RedPillWives,jue5pb,We need to talk about what to do when things go wrong,"I think it's great that women can talk here about how great their relationships are going and get advice on how to fix their relationships. But I think we also need to talk about what to do when things go wrong, like really wrong. It's true that people break up too easily these days but there are some relationships that are genuinely un-saveable, even with RPW principles, even if its only 1% of relationships. @@ -64511,8 +64511,8 @@ The truth is not every man is a Captain or can even become a Captain. And some C Even worse, some men can pretend to be Captains when dating long enough to pass vetting only to become very un-Captainlike during marriage. Psychopaths and con-men exist. Some serial killers were happily married for years and their arrest took their wives totally by surprise. -These are extreme examples but they exist. And if we don't talk about it I think RPW loses credibility since RPW can't fix everything. So how can women give themselves ""insurance"" in case the unthinkable happens?",,35,[deleted],1605406468.0 -RedPillWives,jto7f9,Would you marry a man that didn't make enough to support you?,I love my SO and I can see us together in marriage but he works in childcare which pays peanuts. I don't mind supporting us both but I'd like to get RPWives stance on it since marriages where women make more money than the man are more likely to end in divorce than vice versa.,,25,[deleted],1605300760.0 +These are extreme examples but they exist. And if we don't talk about it I think RPW loses credibility since RPW can't fix everything. So how can women give themselves ""insurance"" in case the unthinkable happens?",,35,[deleted],2020-11-15 02:14:28 +RedPillWives,jto7f9,Would you marry a man that didn't make enough to support you?,I love my SO and I can see us together in marriage but he works in childcare which pays peanuts. I don't mind supporting us both but I'd like to get RPWives stance on it since marriages where women make more money than the man are more likely to end in divorce than vice versa.,,25,[deleted],2020-11-13 20:52:40 RedPillWives,jsgo4a,Husband won't live by his own standards,"**Edit:** Ladies thank you for your advice! I just wanted to clear up a few things: 1. I gave him a blow job, not hand job. @@ -64557,7 +64557,7 @@ Weeks. *What have you done to resolve this problem?* -I feel like I have really put in an effort to see things his way, and act as we agreed to. I put in the effort to make our sex life more exciting, and the effort to control myself.",,26,FragrantHyd,1605128554.0 +I feel like I have really put in an effort to see things his way, and act as we agreed to. I put in the effort to make our sex life more exciting, and the effort to control myself.",,26,FragrantHyd,2020-11-11 21:02:34 RedPillWives,jr1x3w,Avoiding Burnout?,"I’ve posted a ton here asking for advice on how to better myself. And now I need more help! My husbands biggest complaint over the years in my lack of tidiness. I have been working diligently on it since the quarantine started. It was a challenge then to balance cleaning with going back to work part time and homeschool the kids. And take care of myself. @@ -64570,12 +64570,12 @@ I realize I’m putting myself into only two options, but at this point it’s a I’d love to hire someone to help with the house, but I can’t afford it and my husband is very against it anyway. I just feel stuck and defeated. -Any suggestions?",,15,anothergoodbook,1604942794.0 +Any suggestions?",,15,anothergoodbook,2020-11-09 17:26:34 RedPillWives,jpqid6,"Simple Questions - November 07, 2020","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,1604754283.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,2020-11-07 13:04:43 RedPillWives,jo8cc7,How do you tell your family you're traditional?,"Hi guys, I'm new here. 31 F Single with a bachelor's degree. This past summer I had the bright idea that I was going to make a name for myself by going to law school to become a lawyer and then buy my own condo and eventually get married and have a 2-income marriage blah blah. But within the past couple months I realized that isn't me - it was just a fantasy i created to meet the standards of my ultra-liberal, ultra academia, feminist family. My real dream is to become a wife and stay at home homeschooling mom and once I accepted this I threw my lawyer dream away and have been spending all my extra time cultivating femininity, homemaking, and mom skills. @@ -64584,24 +64584,24 @@ But today my Dad tried to start a conversation with me about speaking to his law Has anyone else had to deal with coming out as red pilled to their liberal family? How do you suggest I do it? I know my entire family will not take it well. -EDIT: thanks for the responses. it's good to have support from like-minded women. hearing your words affirmed to me that given my goals and values, im on the right track. there were however responses that completely caught me by surprise. encouraging a 31 year old aspiring sahw/m to go into debt by going to law school when she's not passionate about it was not something I'd expect to see in a redpilled wives thread.",,33,[deleted],1604535437.0 -RedPillWives,jmw2mu,"Hi mom's, is there any red pill to raise your children?",I'm looking for healthy ways to raise my children. I'm single and also healing from my past. I'd like to be a great mom someday. Any tips?,,5,[deleted],1604350814.0 -RedPillWives,jm6lfj,Hello all. I’m in need of a mentor,"I have so much going on In my life that I’m having a difficult time functioning like a normal feminine woman/wife. I don’t have any older females that I can trust and so I’m wondering if anyone here would be so kind. I’m looking Preferably for an older (over 30) married woman who can help uplift me, motivate me, inspire me, and who can understand me.",,20,[deleted],1604253248.0 +EDIT: thanks for the responses. it's good to have support from like-minded women. hearing your words affirmed to me that given my goals and values, im on the right track. there were however responses that completely caught me by surprise. encouraging a 31 year old aspiring sahw/m to go into debt by going to law school when she's not passionate about it was not something I'd expect to see in a redpilled wives thread.",,33,[deleted],2020-11-05 00:17:17 +RedPillWives,jmw2mu,"Hi mom's, is there any red pill to raise your children?",I'm looking for healthy ways to raise my children. I'm single and also healing from my past. I'd like to be a great mom someday. Any tips?,,5,[deleted],2020-11-02 21:00:14 +RedPillWives,jm6lfj,Hello all. I’m in need of a mentor,"I have so much going on In my life that I’m having a difficult time functioning like a normal feminine woman/wife. I don’t have any older females that I can trust and so I’m wondering if anyone here would be so kind. I’m looking Preferably for an older (over 30) married woman who can help uplift me, motivate me, inspire me, and who can understand me.",,20,[deleted],2020-11-01 17:54:08 RedPillWives,jh8kko,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - October 24, 2020","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,1603544662.0 -RedPillWives,jfw4d6,"One week, one goal","I wanted to make a suggestion for having a one week one goal check in. I was thinking I would set myself one thing in my relationship to improve on for a week, and then see what happens in a week. Would anyone else be up for that?",,18,HappilyMrs,1603357147.0 -RedPillWives,jf8wu5,Stoicism,"Had anyone read or learned much about stoicism? I started reading yesterday and listening to podcasts, and I wondered if any of you have any recommendations? Thank you",,19,HappilyMrs,1603268315.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,2020-10-24 13:04:22 +RedPillWives,jfw4d6,"One week, one goal","I wanted to make a suggestion for having a one week one goal check in. I was thinking I would set myself one thing in my relationship to improve on for a week, and then see what happens in a week. Would anyone else be up for that?",,18,HappilyMrs,2020-10-22 08:59:07 +RedPillWives,jf8wu5,Stoicism,"Had anyone read or learned much about stoicism? I started reading yesterday and listening to podcasts, and I wondered if any of you have any recommendations? Thank you",,19,HappilyMrs,2020-10-21 08:18:35 RedPillWives,jetmlv,Make up & hair help,"I posted a few days ago about being sexier. I asked my husband what things would help. He said being more confident in my looks and my body. And one thing he’d like to see is me wearing make up more often/putting more effort into my appearance. I’m not a total makeup newbie. But I basically have to replenish my make up stores. I would like to see what tips and suggestions you’d offer. I’m busy and don’t have a lot of time/patience for doing make up. What are some essentials I should purchase and what are your “go-tos” for everyday? -Also as for my hair. I have been keeping it shorter because my curls look best when it’s short. Any suggestions for cute things to do with my hair? It is far too short for a ponytail (I keep it short on purpose otherwise up into a ponytail it goes. At least with it short I’m forced to keep up on it looking nice).",,12,anothergoodbook,1603213150.0 +Also as for my hair. I have been keeping it shorter because my curls look best when it’s short. Any suggestions for cute things to do with my hair? It is far too short for a ponytail (I keep it short on purpose otherwise up into a ponytail it goes. At least with it short I’m forced to keep up on it looking nice).",,12,anothergoodbook,2020-10-20 16:59:10 RedPillWives,jelvzq,Managing anxiety,"Anyone else have problems with their anxiety? If so, how do you manage it in a healthy way? Mine is really bad at present, to the point where I am struggling to function and keep up with all my responsibilities in my household and relationships. And then failing at these things is making me more anxious. @@ -64616,7 +64616,7 @@ I have a tendency to turn to wanting sex/flirting as a way of getting out of my I want to be a wife he can be proud of, one who has her sh*t together and isn't always an emotional train wreck. He needs and deserves that. -Thanks ladies.",,8,HappilyMrs,1603184899.0 +Thanks ladies.",,8,HappilyMrs,2020-10-20 09:08:19 RedPillWives,jdqb8u,How to be sexier?,"Okay. My husband and I had a frank conversation about sex (and you can go back and read some of my posts about sex to get background). But a brief history: we dropped from 2-3 times a week sex to maybe twice a month if I really pushed for it. There were lots of extenuating issues that I can clarify, but I don’t think it is relative to this post. He said for the duration of our marriage (almost 15 years) I am more silly than sexy and anytime I try to be sexy it is really hot, but I ruin it by being funny/silly. This came out of a conversation regarding an ex bf of mine who treated me like shit. I was very shy and had “daddy issues” and when a guy showed me interest I latched on and ended up in a 5ish year relationship that was (for lack of a better word) toxic. He constantly told me that I couldn’t find any better. And while I broke free of that for the most part, I think I listened to him because deep down I believed it about myself. So fast forward to today and being flirty and sexy isn’t something I see myself as. @@ -64627,7 +64627,7 @@ Essentially the things I’m trying to overcome are: - we’ve had issues with sex that reinforced everything I already believed about myself (see point #1). And putting myself out there just is the absolute last thing on my list of things I want to do -As a side note - this issue is not the cause of our sex issues. And in fact I was getting more comfortable with my sexual self before the crap the fan and we stopped having sex.",,30,anothergoodbook,1603062062.0 +As a side note - this issue is not the cause of our sex issues. And in fact I was getting more comfortable with my sexual self before the crap the fan and we stopped having sex.",,30,anothergoodbook,2020-10-18 23:01:02 RedPillWives,jcurl1,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - October 17, 2020","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -64635,7 +64635,7 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,7,AutoModerator,1602939869.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,7,AutoModerator,2020-10-17 13:04:29 RedPillWives,jcj7cs,Suggestions for setting up “surrendered wife” support group?,"RedPillWives, I come humbled and in awe at the strength and wisdom I see here. Something rare in many female circles but it’s refreshing to see theres another side to our feminine power and its this empowering energy that society has long put pressures on us to kill and conform. @@ -64669,7 +64669,7 @@ I am nobody. Its the book thats turned my life around. And thats the focus! -Thank you all...",,14,babylonianprincess,1602885691.0 +Thank you all...",,14,babylonianprincess,2020-10-16 22:01:31 RedPillWives,jc8t0s,Resistance to RP ideas,"Does anyone else have some in-built resistance to this? I have lurked and minorly posted in these subs a while, but I feel like I am digging my heels in against it. I see a lot of RP behaviours/feelings in myself, but I also dislike the idea that my love is not the same as my husband's, or that branch swinging is inherent is women, or really anything that lumps women into a set of stereotypes. Yet when I think of the behaviours of women I know, I see so many examples of it. I even have resistance to the idea that men and women are that different. @@ -64678,10 +64678,10 @@ I know that I am most at peace when I know that he is calm and in control. I am This is rambling and incoherent, no doubt, but I am struggling to express it. -Thanks :)",,24,HappilyMrs,1602850900.0 +Thanks :)",,24,HappilyMrs,2020-10-16 12:21:40 RedPillWives,jcc7ou,His indifference is killing our marriage,"I've really tried to give everything I have to our marriage (35/f, 40m, kids). Married 15 years. I feel like white noise in the background most days. I've really started to work on taking ownership of the things that I've contributed to our issues but everything is one sided. Answers consist of ""I understand"" or ""I'll fix this"". Nothing comes of it, I'm not even sure what he means and I've asked. We've been trying to turn this ship around for 5 years and the kids keep me fighting to fix it but it's so disheartening when it feels like every attempt I make to add value to his life and cultivate his leadership is treated with indifference. He appears to careless either way. I have been of a rp mindset for years. He just doesn't seem to get it. - Everything I read says to continue to work on myself but what do you do when all this work is unveiling even more holes in the relationship and highlighting that the harder I work the less he seems to appreciate it? My struggle is that I feel he just doesn't want the captain job and who wants to be on a ship where the captain doesn't want to steer the ship ? I feel like my options are limited other than to accept my fate because of the kids. Anyone been here before? What did you do? How did it turn out?",,8,CinderellainReverse,1602863178.0 + Everything I read says to continue to work on myself but what do you do when all this work is unveiling even more holes in the relationship and highlighting that the harder I work the less he seems to appreciate it? My struggle is that I feel he just doesn't want the captain job and who wants to be on a ship where the captain doesn't want to steer the ship ? I feel like my options are limited other than to accept my fate because of the kids. Anyone been here before? What did you do? How did it turn out?",,8,CinderellainReverse,2020-10-16 15:46:18 RedPillWives,j9c5yg,Dealing with disappointment in marriage,"I am really struggling with feeling let down and disappointed by my husband. The thing is I can never tell if it's rational to feel this way or if my expectations are unreasonable. So then I feel a terrible mixture of disappointment/hurt and shame/guilt for feeling that way. Having expectations leads to these feelings and having NO expectations would be the solution but at one point does that become equivalent to not having standards for my marriage? Basics, he is 40 I am 38. Together 8 years. We have two kids, both boys, 6 and 12. @@ -64706,7 +64706,7 @@ Positives: Neutral: we both suck with housework/cooking. Me especially lately. My job has been horrendously busy/difficult lately and I have been working insane hours and am pretty burned out. But still. Neither of us are pulling out weight. My mom helps out here ...but it's a point of shame for me. I took vacation this week solely to try and get a system going and literally clean and declutter. Any insight or criticism is welcome. I feel confused a lot about what is a valid ""issue"" or not. -I have expressed how I feel but when I do he gets really angry and defensive. I try to be diplomatic and not accusatory but... It doesn't make much difference.",,16,iwishiwasamermaid,1602445919.0 +I have expressed how I feel but when I do he gets really angry and defensive. I try to be diplomatic and not accusatory but... It doesn't make much difference.",,16,iwishiwasamermaid,2020-10-11 19:51:59 RedPillWives,j8xi91,When you feel like your partner is taking you for granted," Hi ladies , I am having doubts about my 2 year relationship recently. @@ -64720,7 +64720,7 @@ I have talked to him about spending quality time together , and yet his efforts I am 31 and want to get married. He says he sees me in his future and yet doesn’t want to get married until He is 35. -I don’t know if I am being anxious over nothing , or this is a real problem. I am really wondering whether this person is the one.",,12,xun1,1602383940.0 +I don’t know if I am being anxious over nothing , or this is a real problem. I am really wondering whether this person is the one.",,12,xun1,2020-10-11 02:39:00 RedPillWives,j8j887,STFU and emotions...,"My husband is happy for like the first time in a couple of years. But it’s over a promotion at work and that’s all he talks about and thinks about. I should be excited (and I have been), but almost every conversation revolves around work. I’ve been keeping my mouth shut and being supportive because I feel like the novelty will wear off. But it’s to where I have to offer information about my day (and it‘S been incredibly stressful and anxiety producing with sick kids, vehicles not working, etc). But his mind is on work. @@ -64728,7 +64728,7 @@ I should be excited (and I have been), but almost every conversation revolves ar Then the icing on the cake is sex. Which we’ve struggled with. And we have like a script written out for how things go. We haven’t had sex in about 2 weeks. I’ve backed off and not initiated as much because he typically declines. But it’s been two weeks so I tried and got turned down (3 times *sigh*). But we also do this cycle and I’m trying to break the cycle. I get annoyed. We argue. And maybe have sex and then go back to not doing anything for 1-2 weeks. But I want to break the cycle. I hate the arguments around it. But I also hate the rejection (and my initial reaction is to retaliate so he can feel as bad as I feel). Ugh. So I’m keeping my mouth shut. - But. All the anger, resentment, frustration, rejection is still there. How do you manage emotions while STFU? How do I not be a bitch doing the silent treatment and be feminine and graceful and kind? It is hard to not withdraw in other ways in the process. Like - no I don’t really want to kiss you goodbye. No, I don’t want to sit next to you and cuddle after being turned down for sex repeatedly...",,17,anothergoodbook,1602331018.0 + But. All the anger, resentment, frustration, rejection is still there. How do you manage emotions while STFU? How do I not be a bitch doing the silent treatment and be feminine and graceful and kind? It is hard to not withdraw in other ways in the process. Like - no I don’t really want to kiss you goodbye. No, I don’t want to sit next to you and cuddle after being turned down for sex repeatedly...",,17,anothergoodbook,2020-10-10 11:56:58 RedPillWives,j7sn49,Laura Doyle teaching discussion,"So I’ve written in the past here how I have dived into all things Laura Doyle, from her books to her podcasts, and it has completely changed my relationship! To be honest I’m a bit in disbelief on how many changes have occurred. I wanted a place where we can talk about this, and men in general. It sometimes takes ALL that I have to shut up and not voice something I feel is a concern, or a helpful comment, or a suggestion, but after reading Laura Doyle’s work, @@ -64736,7 +64736,7 @@ I now understand the long term damage this was causing my relationship. Now a days I just go “My love I 100% support you,” or “ I trust you to make a good decision for us”, and my person literally stops what he’s doing, looks me in the eyes and says thank you. -It is still hard work to decrease my criticism. Anyways I wanted to open up the platform to overall thoughts on her teachings, take aways, has it worked for you, has it not? Let’s discuss.",,31,Kind_Entertainment_6,1602218050.0 +It is still hard work to decrease my criticism. Anyways I wanted to open up the platform to overall thoughts on her teachings, take aways, has it worked for you, has it not? Let’s discuss.",,31,Kind_Entertainment_6,2020-10-09 04:34:10 RedPillWives,j5i7ua,Lounge wear for winter,"Hi All! Hope everyone's week is off to a good start! @@ -64745,7 +64745,7 @@ I need to purge my closet of winter clothes that I wear at home. Right now they' Does anyone have any suggestions? My guys temperature is always higher than mine so simply turning up the heat isnt possible but I dont want to look like a burrito either. -Thanks xox",,15,fairydust91,1601899741.0 +Thanks xox",,15,fairydust91,2020-10-05 12:09:01 RedPillWives,j5hdl8,Tracing the toxic history of feminism?,"Hello everyone! Recently, I have started writing antifeminist egalitarian answers on Quora and they are getting a lot of support! For my next answer, I am consolidating material regarding how feminism's history is littered with misandrist tendencies. @@ -64760,7 +64760,7 @@ I would really appreciate if y'all pooled all the info you know about this topic I would appreciate it even more if the information is from the Indian point of view since my focus is more on that. -Thanks a lot!",,8,Sambhavi_5,1601895735.0 +Thanks a lot!",,8,Sambhavi_5,2020-10-05 11:02:15 RedPillWives,j53zpe,Some advice from a 1918 marriage guide,"So my boyfriend’s grandparents were cleaning out their basement recently, and turns out it was basically a museum of 200 year old Quaker stuff. Among various books, I found “Dr Parker’s New Marriage Guide” by Dr. Thomas C Parker, MD from 1918. As a disclaimer, some googling revealed this dude was also into eugenics, and I want to clarify I don’t mean this as a serious reading recommendation for RPW. It’s just a book related to dating and marriage that has some interesting, amusing, and hilarious-because-they-are-so-wrong bits that I think people here will get a kick out of. @@ -64786,17 +64786,17 @@ Some more serious advice: “The admiration of one single quality in a woman results in many marriages. A person sinking his imagination into the practical, well knows that a small soft hand, or a beautiful face, or a small waist, or graceful carriage, or good talking, will not in themselves indicate the true character of its possessors, and yet how many unions are formed through some one or other fancy; the result almost invariably being a sudden waking up to a realization of the fact that it takes other qualities other than a beautiful hand or face to constitute a happy married existence.” - He puts a lot of emphasis on finding a spouse you are compatible with as far as daily habits, religion, being introverted vs. extroverted. - After finding a compatible spouse, some adaptation will still be necessary: “Difference of opinion in men and women must exist so long as the world stands, but if mutual concessions could only be made from the first day of married life contentions could not exist if the parties were suited to each other. So let each man study his wife’s nature and adapt himself to it as much as he can. In no case can a loving wife bear neglect or unkindness from a husband. On the other hand let the wife also study her husband’s disposition and peculiarities, and adapt herself accordingly.” -- Surrender and the man will want to take care of you. This passage is a little *too* submissive in my opinion, but this is the most RP passage I’ve come across so far. (Based on the chapter this is in, he is talking about sex, but not only about sex, he also means “disagreeable” chores, for example.): “First, to the reluctant wife! For you to yield is to conquer. By showing a desire to do all you can to oblige a beseeching husband, you throw yourself on his generosity, and thereby quell that desire which coldness and refusal would only aggravate. Your cheerful submission to what he knows to be disagreeable, at once excites his pity and gratitude, and thus awakens his higher faculties in your behalf, and subdues desire; because, how can he who dotes on you take pleasure in what occasions you pain? He takes your will for the deed, and loves you therefore too well to insist on so delicate a matter unless agreeable to you also, or to feast himself at your expense. Remember, you must always yield cheerfully, and with a view to please him, or else the whole effect will be lost. Never prove remiss, but do all you can to conform. Thereby you will lay your husband under the highest possible obligations of love and gratitude; whereas the unkind refusal begets increased importunity, and makes him insist on his rights, and threaten you with vengeance if you dare refuse. Abundant excuse, such as the most unreasonable demand on his part, and utter inability on yours, alone should warrant your refusal.”",,35,[deleted],1601836690.0 -RedPillWives,j54bs5,What is the worst marriage advice you ever received?," [u/MissOrion24](https://www.reddit.com/user/MissOrion24/) posted a delightful trip through time, complete with some wretched marital advice. We can excuse these tips (to some degree) due to the year they were written, but what are some modern marriage tips you've gotten that are either a) objectively terrible or b) simply do not work in your own marriage and why?",,13,[deleted],1601837846.0 -RedPillWives,j4gq3w,Fascinating Womanhood from RP perspective,"FW is much recommended reading. Has there been deeper analysis of FW from RP perspective, either here or in manosphere?",,7,Eosei,1601738252.0 +- Surrender and the man will want to take care of you. This passage is a little *too* submissive in my opinion, but this is the most RP passage I’ve come across so far. (Based on the chapter this is in, he is talking about sex, but not only about sex, he also means “disagreeable” chores, for example.): “First, to the reluctant wife! For you to yield is to conquer. By showing a desire to do all you can to oblige a beseeching husband, you throw yourself on his generosity, and thereby quell that desire which coldness and refusal would only aggravate. Your cheerful submission to what he knows to be disagreeable, at once excites his pity and gratitude, and thus awakens his higher faculties in your behalf, and subdues desire; because, how can he who dotes on you take pleasure in what occasions you pain? He takes your will for the deed, and loves you therefore too well to insist on so delicate a matter unless agreeable to you also, or to feast himself at your expense. Remember, you must always yield cheerfully, and with a view to please him, or else the whole effect will be lost. Never prove remiss, but do all you can to conform. Thereby you will lay your husband under the highest possible obligations of love and gratitude; whereas the unkind refusal begets increased importunity, and makes him insist on his rights, and threaten you with vengeance if you dare refuse. Abundant excuse, such as the most unreasonable demand on his part, and utter inability on yours, alone should warrant your refusal.”",,35,[deleted],2020-10-04 18:38:10 +RedPillWives,j54bs5,What is the worst marriage advice you ever received?," [u/MissOrion24](https://www.reddit.com/user/MissOrion24/) posted a delightful trip through time, complete with some wretched marital advice. We can excuse these tips (to some degree) due to the year they were written, but what are some modern marriage tips you've gotten that are either a) objectively terrible or b) simply do not work in your own marriage and why?",,13,[deleted],2020-10-04 18:57:26 +RedPillWives,j4gq3w,Fascinating Womanhood from RP perspective,"FW is much recommended reading. Has there been deeper analysis of FW from RP perspective, either here or in manosphere?",,7,Eosei,2020-10-03 15:17:32 RedPillWives,j4eodp,"Simple Questions - October 03, 2020","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,7,AutoModerator,1601730262.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,7,AutoModerator,2020-10-03 13:04:22 RedPillWives,j1znsi,Solipsism?,"When Laura Doyle advices women on a date to remain quiet and not talk so much, is this a way to engage female solipsism? -Quote from The Surrendered Single: ""Be quiet—let him do most of the talking—so that you can focus on how you feel and what you want.""",,9,Eosei,1601387740.0 +Quote from The Surrendered Single: ""Be quiet—let him do most of the talking—so that you can focus on how you feel and what you want.""",,9,Eosei,2020-09-29 13:55:40 RedPillWives,j16txs,How to get into feminine hobbies / crafts?,"Hi ladies, I really want to develop some typically feminine hobbies / crafts such as sewing/knitting or diy stuff around the house but I have literally 0 experience on this kind of stuff. I was always with my nose in my books and was never the creative type. @@ -64805,16 +64805,16 @@ For those of you that also started from scratch, how did you do it?! Do you have I'd love to start off with a scarf but I am also scared that I'll buy the material and make an absolute mess of it. Is knitting material expensive? How would you recommend I get into knitting or other crafts? -Thanks :)",,8,fairydust91,1601273611.0 +Thanks :)",,8,fairydust91,2020-09-28 06:13:31 RedPillWives,j05obw,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - September 26, 2020","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,1601125466.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,2020-09-26 13:04:26 RedPillWives,iyiu6i,"Welcome to All, Not Just the Wives!","Red Pill Wives (RPW) is a place for like-minded women to discuss sexual strategy from an anti-feminist, traditionalist, and/or evolutionary psychology perspective. We also explore related subjects such as culture, current events, science, history, and philosophy! -**It's not just for the wives, though!** Our name simply speaks to the fact that this subreddit is the only Red Pill space *moderated* entirely by Red Pill Wives. In fact, we welcome all of those who are already married and **anyone who wishes for a Red Pill marriage.** We all need different things in life, at different times, be that nun-mode, singledom, dating, an optimistic LTR, or marriage. If you are in any of these stages, with the ultimate goal of a healthy marriage, we are happy to have you in this space for women, by women.",,48,[deleted],1600894274.0 +**It's not just for the wives, though!** Our name simply speaks to the fact that this subreddit is the only Red Pill space *moderated* entirely by Red Pill Wives. In fact, we welcome all of those who are already married and **anyone who wishes for a Red Pill marriage.** We all need different things in life, at different times, be that nun-mode, singledom, dating, an optimistic LTR, or marriage. If you are in any of these stages, with the ultimate goal of a healthy marriage, we are happy to have you in this space for women, by women.",,48,[deleted],2020-09-23 20:51:14 RedPillWives,iy6ajm,What is RedPillWives? How does it differ from RedPillWomen?,"I was asked by a couple of members here to pin a post explaining the difference between this sub and /r/RedPillWomen. In short - @@ -64841,15 +64841,15 @@ No. As long as you are red pill, a woman, and see the value in marriage you are If you must. If your advice is red pill and beneficial to a woman and her relationship then go ahead. Incels, MGTOWs, MRAs and TRP-flavored men on a crusade against marriage will be banned on sight. -Hope that clears it up a little, and we're happy to have you here!",,146,[deleted],1600849799.0 -RedPillWives,ix9ru8,How to be a more joyful wife?,"My husband just started a very stressful new jump in his career as a professor and I'm a stay at home mother to our one year old child. I'm very much struggling to not be the stereotypical ""exhausted mom that just complains when her husband gets home"". I can tell it's wearing on him and his self esteem - he said last night that he can't imagine having more kids because he can't do much more to help me and it seems like I need more of his help. Looking after a baby is exhausting, but I feel like I'm failing as a wife to provide a sanctuary for my husband. I know that step one is I need to stop complaining to him throughout the day and immediately when he gets home and maybe save it for if he asks, but aside from that, can anyone offer any advice? Thanks!",,42,Fayve27,1600723606.0 +Hope that clears it up a little, and we're happy to have you here!",,146,[deleted],2020-09-23 08:29:59 +RedPillWives,ix9ru8,How to be a more joyful wife?,"My husband just started a very stressful new jump in his career as a professor and I'm a stay at home mother to our one year old child. I'm very much struggling to not be the stereotypical ""exhausted mom that just complains when her husband gets home"". I can tell it's wearing on him and his self esteem - he said last night that he can't imagine having more kids because he can't do much more to help me and it seems like I need more of his help. Looking after a baby is exhausting, but I feel like I'm failing as a wife to provide a sanctuary for my husband. I know that step one is I need to stop complaining to him throughout the day and immediately when he gets home and maybe save it for if he asks, but aside from that, can anyone offer any advice? Thanks!",,42,Fayve27,2020-09-21 21:26:46 RedPillWives,ixe4z0,What books are you reading ATM?,"I love adding to my reading list and would like to know what books you are reading, books you've loved, and books on your to read list! I've just started The Boy Crisis by Warren Farrell and John Gray, it was recommended to me so I thought I'd check it out. I'll report back when I'm done ☺️ One of my all time favourite books is Educated by Tara Westover. I read it before each semester. It makes me thankful that I have the opportunity to go to school. -On my to read list is Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier (since the movie is coming out soon and looks fantastic!), and Sapiens by Yuval Harari.",,8,S-Soda1,1600739004.0 +On my to read list is Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier (since the movie is coming out soon and looks fantastic!), and Sapiens by Yuval Harari.",,8,S-Soda1,2020-09-22 01:43:24 RedPillWives,iww1iz,Which partner/husband is he out of a group of men?,"I discovered TRP because I wanted to be a better woman for my man. I may not have vetted him the traditional RP way but somehow I got lucky in that he was raised in a traditional home and very much understands gender roles. This is one little thought that keeps me going in my journey to submitting and essentially catering to him. @@ -64860,7 +64860,7 @@ Is he the guy that gets to brag about how awesome he gets treated at home? Is he Or is he the guy left to fend for himself, with a woman too engrossed in her own wants, her own responsibilities, to take proper care of her man? Is he the guy that is jealous of the first guy? Is he the guy that secretly wishes his wife was more like the first wife? Is he the guy that's left feeling like hes getting the short end of the stick?! Ouch, right?!?! -I know which one I want him to be and this literally keeps me going on a daily basis. No excuses ladies!!",,29,fairydust91,1600674650.0 +I know which one I want him to be and this literally keeps me going on a daily basis. No excuses ladies!!",,29,fairydust91,2020-09-21 07:50:50 RedPillWives,iwvn6e,"The Wall, by Barney Stinson","Okay so this is not by Barney Stinson, but it is inspired by him. I am currently watching How I Met Your Mother and think its really interesting for someone familiar with TRP. I noticed that he'll walk up to an attractive woman and once she tells him she's 30 or older, he literally turns on his heel and leaves, without saying a single word. 😅 @@ -64878,7 +64878,7 @@ I think the following can indicate you've hit The Wall psychologically: I think it is largely to do with your mentality as well, not just your appearance. I also think a woman hits the wall when she no longer has that trusting naivety that comes with being inexperienced with dating. -What do you think? Is The Wall purely physical? What other non-physical characteristics indicate someone has hit The Wall?",,24,fairydust91,1600672684.0 +What do you think? Is The Wall purely physical? What other non-physical characteristics indicate someone has hit The Wall?",,24,fairydust91,2020-09-21 07:18:04 RedPillWives,iw4c86,Date night ideas for when you can't/don't want to go out!,"I think a lot of folks are in areas where you aren't allowed to go to a cafe or restaurant or bar yet - or if you can, you might not feel comfortable doing so! We've been under quite a restrictive lockdown for a few months, so I thought I'd share some suggestions of what we've done to keep the 'date feeling' alive - even if they were at home! Most of my suggestions involve alcohol, candles, and dressing up - all of which I think really help the magic. \- When we're in 'date mode', there are things we don't talk about. No budgeting, home maintenance discussion, no 'what will we do with mother-in-law at christmas time', no talking about the kids (from a friend's own rules). Think back to when you first dated your partner - were you talking about the plumbing that needed fixing or their rent schedule? No. Hobbies, work, media you've been consuming, all of those are good topics - but keep away from the boring, humdrum life stuff that you do day in, day out. @@ -64893,7 +64893,7 @@ RedPillWives,iw4c86,Date night ideas for when you can't/don't want to go out!,"I \- Make sure you dress up! You don't need to go all out, but being clean and smelling nice and wearing a dress/a little makeup/jewellery really helps elevate the mood and draw a line between 'date night' and 'regular life'. -What are you ladies doing to keep the \~\~date vibes\~\~ going at home?",,23,teaandtalk,1600563397.0 +What are you ladies doing to keep the \~\~date vibes\~\~ going at home?",,23,teaandtalk,2020-09-20 00:56:37 RedPillWives,iw2dx3,Country music got me down,"Hello my wise and wonderful ladies, I'm once again coming to you for advice. I'm 35, fairly familiar with RPW, been with my husband for 10 years, married for 8. @@ -64904,7 +64904,7 @@ I know he loves me. I know he's committed to this life we've built together. I s I could do more to inspire compliments. The baby is almost six months old and I'm a good 10/15 pounds from pre baby. 20 pounds from where I was when we got married. I could take better care of myself but it's hard to find the time. -Help?",,10,somedayimight,1600555601.0 +Help?",,10,somedayimight,2020-09-19 22:46:41 RedPillWives,ivs6mq,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - September 19, 2020","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -64912,10 +64912,10 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,6,AutoModerator,1600520659.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,6,AutoModerator,2020-09-19 13:04:19 RedPillWives,ivol82,Intro thread!,"It's been a while since we've done one of these, let's get to know each other! -Tell us a bit about you, your relationship (or lack of) and what you get up to in the real world <3",,8,[deleted],1600503283.0 +Tell us a bit about you, your relationship (or lack of) and what you get up to in the real world <3",,8,[deleted],2020-09-19 08:14:43 RedPillWives,ivdmqb,Banned from RedPillWomen for disagreeing with TRP,"Anyone else? 😅 https://www.ceddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/iudeid/new_rule_leave_him_is_never_the_1st_option @@ -64928,17 +64928,17 @@ my last comment to /u/CrazyHorseInvincible before he banned me: >This has nothing to do with men wanting contribute more than women do. If you try to enforce a style of RPW that doesn't work for women, the smart women are going to peace out. Imagine if a group of women tried telling the guys at TRP how they should go about spinning plates and censoring their thoughts on it. Do you think many of them would stick around to contribute? ->You guys wanting so much control over this sub has ruined it. It worked just fine before you started trying to force the direction, and you've ended up with exactly what you asked for. A bunch of women who just want to consume the theory with zero drive and ability to generate it.",,46,[deleted],1600459996.0 +>You guys wanting so much control over this sub has ruined it. It worked just fine before you started trying to force the direction, and you've ended up with exactly what you asked for. A bunch of women who just want to consume the theory with zero drive and ability to generate it.",,46,[deleted],2020-09-18 20:13:16 RedPillWives,itw664,"Is it possible to talk here about feelings about TRP, and what it implies philosophically?","I don't mean to debate the core principles, but rather dig deeper in a heartfelt, honest manner. Human nature, love, differences between men and women and all that. I have this deep sadness about men and women not ever really being able to meet and would like to talk about it. The sorrow surfaces every now and then. -I don't know if anyone else cares or is up for it, I suppose it's not a very practical topic, so I'll just wait for responses before opening up more. Or maybe it's been done so many times and I just haven't stumbled upon it. If there are any relevant sources, please do share.",,15,Eosei,1600265135.0 +I don't know if anyone else cares or is up for it, I suppose it's not a very practical topic, so I'll just wait for responses before opening up more. Or maybe it's been done so many times and I just haven't stumbled upon it. If there are any relevant sources, please do share.",,15,Eosei,2020-09-16 14:05:35 RedPillWives,iq7qxk,Permanent link to the Tea Room discord group,"There have been some issues with invite links to the discord I set up some time ago. I wanted to create a new post with the permanent link for new people or people struggling to join to see. I will also update the old post with this link. Sorry to anyone who has had an issue! [https://discord.gg/STf3Ftp](https://discord.gg/STf3Ftp) -Edit: so sorry! Fixed it!",,20,cloudlilies,1599758390.0 +Edit: so sorry! Fixed it!",,20,cloudlilies,2020-09-10 17:19:50 RedPillWives,ipzj65,Dealing with negativity from closed ones?,"Hey ladies! I am a young RPW (I'm only 18) and have only recently gained the confidence to express my views regarding the kind of life I want to the people around me instead of simply agreeing with them. It feels SO much liberating knowing that I am not pretending to be some politically correct, feminist SJW just to avoid confrontations. @@ -64949,7 +64949,7 @@ I get constant taunts and mocking from both of them, especially my mother. She t All of this is really upsetting to me and I feel quite lonely sometimes because I have zero friends who would support my decisions instead of judging me. I would be really grateful if you could tell me how to cope up with this negativity and not let it affect me too much? -P. S. I do have a boyfriend whom I THINK I will marry. However, I am not completely closing off the option of a career JUST in case I do need to work. I am attending college like usual and if I do not marry after college, I will definitely be taking up a job. My mother and best friend's reactions are to the fact that whenever I end up marrying, I would wanna be a homemaker.",,11,Sambhavi_5,1599727225.0 +P. S. I do have a boyfriend whom I THINK I will marry. However, I am not completely closing off the option of a career JUST in case I do need to work. I am attending college like usual and if I do not marry after college, I will definitely be taking up a job. My mother and best friend's reactions are to the fact that whenever I end up marrying, I would wanna be a homemaker.",,11,Sambhavi_5,2020-09-10 08:40:25 RedPillWives,iph9xa,I'm feeling a sort of (very gradually) growing resentment in my 5 yr relationship and I want to quash it before I do anything drastic. Approaching 30.,"How old are you (and how old is your partner) and how familiar are you with RPW? I am 29 (and my partner will be 30 soon) and I found redpill when I started this relationship. I credit redpill to helping me become a better person and letting myself lean into my femininity, and I'm sure it's part of why my boyfriend decided to commit to me. He is definitely a catch - I think when I first started posting for advice, one of the mods cautioned I was close to being Alpha Widowed. Well, five+ years later, we are definitely committed. @@ -64997,19 +64997,19 @@ No Do you have an active bedroom life? We used to but it got pretty bad about two years ago. I gently tried to bring it up but he has been really stressed with work. I didn't want to add more stress on him so I just try to be available for him whenever he is in the mood - maybe once or twice a month? Recently we had a really nice time, so maybe things are improving in this department. -EDIT: Thanks for all of the advice! The questions asking him what's going on are definitely going to stop, and I'm going to think on whether I'm breaking up now or if I'd be ok with a marriage that looks like this. It's hard to envision though, because, as one user pointed out, potentially I wouldn't feel excluded by the mere fact of living together/being married.",,25,nouvelle_rouge,1599662936.0 +EDIT: Thanks for all of the advice! The questions asking him what's going on are definitely going to stop, and I'm going to think on whether I'm breaking up now or if I'd be ok with a marriage that looks like this. It's hard to envision though, because, as one user pointed out, potentially I wouldn't feel excluded by the mere fact of living together/being married.",,25,nouvelle_rouge,2020-09-09 14:48:56 RedPillWives,in0rq9,"Simple Questions - September 05, 2020","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,1599311071.0 -RedPillWives,ik8iol,You’re Not Beautiful or ugly,,https://youtu.be/6uDIPaNpr7Q,7,jay_da_meme_boi,1598914276.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,2020-09-05 13:04:31 +RedPillWives,ik8iol,You’re Not Beautiful or ugly,,https://youtu.be/6uDIPaNpr7Q,7,jay_da_meme_boi,2020-08-31 22:51:16 RedPillWives,iei2jf,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - August 22, 2020","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,6,AutoModerator,1598101472.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,6,AutoModerator,2020-08-22 13:04:32 RedPillWives,ia6zz1,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - August 15, 2020","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -65017,22 +65017,22 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,4,AutoModerator,1597496679.0 -RedPillWives,i4ikj8,How to go from the breadwinner to not working at all?,"For the last decade I made about 3x what my husband made while working in the medical field. Before meeting him I was diagnosed with Ehlers Danlos (a genetic connective tissue disease) and Dysautonomia (dysfunction of the autonomic nervous system). Both were managed fairly well, but all of those crazy work hours and all that crazy call at the hospital wore me down in my early thirties leaving me no choice but to quit. I feel it’s my fault for not slowing down more in my twenties and that is my fault for having a hard time saying no when I was younger. It’s at a point where I never know if I’m going to have a good health day or a bad one. Sometimes it starts out good and then on the middle of the day I’m curled up on the couch. It’s a huge grieving stage that I’m in. My husbands business has been taking off and he is very supportive about me not working, but I think the issue is after being crazy busy for so many years I’m not okay with this and have always took pride in myself on being independent. We don’t have kids after three miscarriages over the years (I’ve made peace with motherhood not being in my future), but with that being said I feel useless. I’m not saying anyone in my position is useless; I’m just saying I feel useless. Has anyone gone through something similar and do you have any advice? Thank you guys in advance!",,30,[deleted],1596677882.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,4,AutoModerator,2020-08-15 13:04:39 +RedPillWives,i4ikj8,How to go from the breadwinner to not working at all?,"For the last decade I made about 3x what my husband made while working in the medical field. Before meeting him I was diagnosed with Ehlers Danlos (a genetic connective tissue disease) and Dysautonomia (dysfunction of the autonomic nervous system). Both were managed fairly well, but all of those crazy work hours and all that crazy call at the hospital wore me down in my early thirties leaving me no choice but to quit. I feel it’s my fault for not slowing down more in my twenties and that is my fault for having a hard time saying no when I was younger. It’s at a point where I never know if I’m going to have a good health day or a bad one. Sometimes it starts out good and then on the middle of the day I’m curled up on the couch. It’s a huge grieving stage that I’m in. My husbands business has been taking off and he is very supportive about me not working, but I think the issue is after being crazy busy for so many years I’m not okay with this and have always took pride in myself on being independent. We don’t have kids after three miscarriages over the years (I’ve made peace with motherhood not being in my future), but with that being said I feel useless. I’m not saying anyone in my position is useless; I’m just saying I feel useless. Has anyone gone through something similar and do you have any advice? Thank you guys in advance!",,30,[deleted],2020-08-06 01:38:02 RedPillWives,i1rwja,"Simple Questions - August 01, 2020","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,6,AutoModerator,1596287133.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,6,AutoModerator,2020-08-01 13:05:33 RedPillWives,hxmdzh,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - July 25, 2020","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,2,AutoModerator,1595682272.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,2,AutoModerator,2020-07-25 13:04:32 RedPillWives,hwp1l1,I FINALLY get to be a Housewife!,"My husband and I have been together for 10 years (since we were 19 years old) we have both worked throughout that time and I completed a college degree. We have had 3 children (ages 8, 5 and 7 months) Today he came home from a work meeting and told me he got the promotion that would let me quit working. I am so excited! Ever since we had our 5 year old I have been begging to stay at home but we just couldn't afford to live on only one income (or he thought we couldn't) -Other than just coming here to shsre my excitement I'm here for a little advice. What are some of your favorite homemaking resources/guides? I never got to figure out how to be an adult before I was forced to be one. I've always struggled to stick with keeping my house clean and tidy and cooking 2-3 meals day.",,126,kmfry333,1595541529.0 +Other than just coming here to shsre my excitement I'm here for a little advice. What are some of your favorite homemaking resources/guides? I never got to figure out how to be an adult before I was forced to be one. I've always struggled to stick with keeping my house clean and tidy and cooking 2-3 meals day.",,126,kmfry333,2020-07-23 21:58:49 RedPillWives,htgaa3,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - July 18, 2020","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -65040,32 +65040,32 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,7,AutoModerator,1595077468.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,7,AutoModerator,2020-07-18 13:04:28 RedPillWives,hq0cxf,Getting annoyed with husband?,"Hi. What are some good strategies when you are feeling annoyed at your husband for things that he does? How to deal with these feelings while still showing him respect/ not being rude/ still being feminine? &#x200B; -I've been married 13 years and am 35 and we have 4 kids. Quite familiar with RPW. I find myself getting irritated at my husband for immature behavior, things that embarrass me, or just when he does things that annoy me. Overall, we have a good marriage. I really want to show him respect at all times, but it's so hard sometimes. I've tried removing myself from the room, deep breathing, reminding myself of what I'm grateful for. It helps sometimes but I was wondering if anyone else here tried things that work.",,10,lexivip,1594582100.0 +I've been married 13 years and am 35 and we have 4 kids. Quite familiar with RPW. I find myself getting irritated at my husband for immature behavior, things that embarrass me, or just when he does things that annoy me. Overall, we have a good marriage. I really want to show him respect at all times, but it's so hard sometimes. I've tried removing myself from the room, deep breathing, reminding myself of what I'm grateful for. It helps sometimes but I was wondering if anyone else here tried things that work.",,10,lexivip,2020-07-12 19:28:20 RedPillWives,hpi6d7,Do redpilled men look for childlike faces and childbearing hips in women?,"Hey loves, I'm 21 years old and I have been investing some time in figuring out what my future husband would want in me. I have asked around and from the data they allowed me to conclude that they are looking for fresh and youthful faces which translates to me into a more childlike woman and after asking this to my dad who is very conservative himself he agreed that he married my mom because she had this cute dimples face and a sweet personality. And from recent trends on instagram where the most sought after women tend to have wide hips and the fact that men look for fertile women I came to the conclusion that childbearing hips are what they are looking for. I've been making effort into coming off more nymphet like and I immediately noticed that guys started paying more attention to me, without me even needing to wear anything revealing. But I'm kind of worried I might be attracting the wrong attention if I only focus on those aspects so how could I improve myself to appeal my future husband? I have been praying more too and been feeling a strong connection with God, it has certainly helped me with the squats. -Love you all",,21,eMotionaldYnamite,1594503063.0 +Love you all",,21,eMotionaldYnamite,2020-07-11 21:31:03 RedPillWives,hm9xvh,Women don't love men like men love women?,"So I was reading elsewhere discussions about how women love men because we love the things we receive (protection, admiration, resources), whereas men love the act of giving and sacrificing for us. Women love our children in the same ways men love us. What do you think? Do you feel your love is different to your husband's love? Or do you feel that it is more down to individual variation, as per the Five Love Languages? A survey done by Hinge showed that both men and women were most likely to have Quality Time as their highest by far, followed by Physical Touch/Words Of Affirmation for men, and Words of Affirmation for women. But a woman selecting Acts Of Service as their love language got 6.6 times as many likes, whereas men who listed Quality Time got twice as many likes. -So how different do you think we are? How do you address the difference, if you believe it exists?",,41,HappilyMrs,1594050053.0 +So how different do you think we are? How do you address the difference, if you believe it exists?",,41,HappilyMrs,2020-07-06 15:40:53 RedPillWives,hm9ona,Communities,"Are you active in your local community? Do you feel it's important to be part of your local community? -Do you think people were previously more active in ways that supported their happiness, or do you feel it was based on social pressure and not really enjoyed?",,7,HappilyMrs,1594049215.0 +Do you think people were previously more active in ways that supported their happiness, or do you feel it was based on social pressure and not really enjoyed?",,7,HappilyMrs,2020-07-06 15:26:55 RedPillWives,hl2zyf,"Simple Questions - July 04, 2020","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,1593867871.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,2020-07-04 13:04:31 RedPillWives,hjy7xf,"Maximising SMV- generic, or to his tastes?","Bit of a fantasy post for me as my journey is going to be long! When looking to self-improve, do you prioritise what your husband likes, or what is conventionally attractive so that you generally have a higher SMV? @@ -65074,20 +65074,20 @@ If he loves short hair rather than long, colours rather than conventional hair, How have you balanced this? -Thank you, hope you're all well",,8,HappilyMrs,1593700819.0 +Thank you, hope you're all well",,8,HappilyMrs,2020-07-02 14:40:19 RedPillWives,hio0t3,Nice article about a UK trad wife,"https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/11991078/quit-job-partners-dinner-table-home-work/amp/ -Her house looks lovely :) I identify a lot with her stance that freedom of choice should mean freedom to be a housewife too",,24,HappilyMrs,1593526098.0 -RedPillWives,hhup26,How to rekindle the sexual energy,"Hello.. I'm 29 . Me and my husband have been married for 7 years now and we have a 9 months old baby boy. My husband was my child hood sweetheart. We have known each other since we were babies coz we used to be neighbors and went to the same school. We had a great bond of attraction, and a huge passion for each other before our marriage. He s still very passionate towards Me just like the old days. Never stops expressing his love and lust . But I started losing the passion and the sexual energy slowly and I have a feeling I'm taking him for granted. I wanna go back to how I used to feel about him back then. I have become a boring and non adventurous person and life got too monotonous. How do I rekindle the passion and build back the sexual tension we used to have during the earlier times of a relationship?",,24,Hippo2rippo,1593411691.0 +Her house looks lovely :) I identify a lot with her stance that freedom of choice should mean freedom to be a housewife too",,24,HappilyMrs,2020-06-30 14:08:18 +RedPillWives,hhup26,How to rekindle the sexual energy,"Hello.. I'm 29 . Me and my husband have been married for 7 years now and we have a 9 months old baby boy. My husband was my child hood sweetheart. We have known each other since we were babies coz we used to be neighbors and went to the same school. We had a great bond of attraction, and a huge passion for each other before our marriage. He s still very passionate towards Me just like the old days. Never stops expressing his love and lust . But I started losing the passion and the sexual energy slowly and I have a feeling I'm taking him for granted. I wanna go back to how I used to feel about him back then. I have become a boring and non adventurous person and life got too monotonous. How do I rekindle the passion and build back the sexual tension we used to have during the earlier times of a relationship?",,24,Hippo2rippo,2020-06-29 06:21:31 RedPillWives,hgt5mb,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - June 27, 2020","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,1593263070.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,2020-06-27 13:04:30 RedPillWives,hg83od,What is life like post 40?,"So I'm approaching 40 in the next few years, and I wondered if any of you ladies are over 40. If so, what advice would you give me for the future. -Thank you :)",,8,HappilyMrs,1593180014.0 +Thank you :)",,8,HappilyMrs,2020-06-26 14:00:14 RedPillWives,hclz0f,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - June 20, 2020","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -65095,7 +65095,7 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,8,AutoModerator,1592658263.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,8,AutoModerator,2020-06-20 13:04:23 RedPillWives,hafbyn,Do I need advice or is it just a bunch of feelz?," * How old are you (and how old is your partner) and how familiar are you with RPW? 24 and 38 respectively. I am not very familiar with this sub. So if I 'm breaking some overt rules please let me know @@ -65109,9 +65109,9 @@ If married or in a committed, monogamous relationship: * How long have you been together? 5 years this August * Is your relationship long-distance? No -* Do you have an active bedroom life? We did before pregnancy complications and then the delivery of our third child. So it's been about 3 months since doing anything.",,1,smartywrapper,1592349876.0 -RedPillWives,h9lhr3,An interesting take on the home economy,,https://unherd.com/2020/01/why-tradwife-just-isnt-trad-enough/,15,[deleted],1592244474.0 -RedPillWives,h12v1j,Tips for Responsible Dating!,,https://bohemiennehopechest.com/2020/05/date-responsibly/,14,jack_hammarred,1591893740.0 +* Do you have an active bedroom life? We did before pregnancy complications and then the delivery of our third child. So it's been about 3 months since doing anything.",,1,smartywrapper,2020-06-16 23:24:36 +RedPillWives,h9lhr3,An interesting take on the home economy,,https://unherd.com/2020/01/why-tradwife-just-isnt-trad-enough/,15,[deleted],2020-06-15 18:07:54 +RedPillWives,h12v1j,Tips for Responsible Dating!,,https://bohemiennehopechest.com/2020/05/date-responsibly/,14,jack_hammarred,2020-06-11 16:42:20 RedPillWives,gz422b,Captain who likes to wing it vs. type A planner first mate,"I'm not having a problem per se, but here's my answers to the questions, followed by further explanation. **How old are you (and how old is your partner) and how familiar are you with RPW?** @@ -65156,12 +65156,12 @@ There's a bit of a rub when I want to do a bunch of research ahead of plans, whi He actively tells me he appreciates my planning, but there have been times where my planning caused us to butt heads, or for him to just let me take over and be passive (which also suggests I challenged his masculinity.) -This is a request for personal accounts/field reports about how this works in your relationship. When I follow the FM/Captain dynamic through logically, I'm sure there must be a way for a first mate who likes to plan and is good at it to use that in a way that compliment the relationship dynamic rather than challenging his authority. I see an opportunity for this to be a reason we work so well together!",,11,dabadeedabadaa,1591638410.0 +This is a request for personal accounts/field reports about how this works in your relationship. When I follow the FM/Captain dynamic through logically, I'm sure there must be a way for a first mate who likes to plan and is good at it to use that in a way that compliment the relationship dynamic rather than challenging his authority. I see an opportunity for this to be a reason we work so well together!",,11,dabadeedabadaa,2020-06-08 17:46:50 RedPillWives,gxqmbn,"Simple Questions - June 06, 2020","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,2,AutoModerator,1591448659.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,2,AutoModerator,2020-06-06 13:04:19 RedPillWives,gvql73,Being disrespectful in front of family/friends,"How old are you (and how old is your partner) and how familiar are you with RPW? 37, 39, quite familiar for me, he's only vaguely heard me mention anything RP What is your relationship status? Married @@ -65182,7 +65182,7 @@ Is your relationship long-distance? Nope Do you have an active bedroom life? Generally yes, but pandemic stress and him being a keyworker has reduced this in the last 4 weeks. -I need help for controlling this behaviour. I suspect it comes from a number of places such as social insecurity and reproducing some of the unpleasant aspects of my parents marriage. I have previous read The Care And Feeding Of Husbands. It helped for a while, but then I returned to this crappy behaviour again. Thank you",,12,HappilyMrs,1591175662.0 +I need help for controlling this behaviour. I suspect it comes from a number of places such as social insecurity and reproducing some of the unpleasant aspects of my parents marriage. I have previous read The Care And Feeding Of Husbands. It helped for a while, but then I returned to this crappy behaviour again. Thank you",,12,HappilyMrs,2020-06-03 09:14:22 RedPillWives,gvjcos,Small Update To Dealing With A Drunk Captain,"u/HornsOfApathy pointed out to me that men on TRP are generally people who have gone through divorce rape and cheaters. I thought about how it would affect my husband if he saw me cheating. I mentioned how I thought about cheating in the post. It's not in my nature to be sneaky. I'm terrible at lying. Even if I wanted to cheat, I would be wrecked with guilt and shame. @@ -65194,7 +65194,7 @@ Man oh man, it was subtle, but it definitely turned a switch in his head. He got I will be lurking here on my main account. -Thank you again, u/HornsOfApathy for the inspiration.",,30,formerlyinfamous,1591143611.0 +Thank you again, u/HornsOfApathy for the inspiration.",,30,formerlyinfamous,2020-06-03 00:20:11 RedPillWives,gtl8o8,Sisters. Who else is on a Glow Up Journey?,"Hello ladies. I am 20 years old, currently a student and on my level up journey. I've struggled with my confidence for years and now I have decided to fight for and become a little high maintenance. @@ -65205,10 +65205,10 @@ Investing in my wardrobe; heels and shoes. I was a bit of a Tom boy growing up and I neglected myself in the feminine aspect and now I am ready to embrace being a lady. -If there any girls on this journey... please share. It would be great to be inspired and tell me what you are doing. We are all on different paths and levels so ladies do share.",,33,Deedee554,1590870757.0 +If there any girls on this journey... please share. It would be great to be inspired and tell me what you are doing. We are all on different paths and levels so ladies do share.",,33,Deedee554,2020-05-30 20:32:37 RedPillWives,gsh6hn,Where do I start?,"Hi y'all, -I'm new to the sub but not the concepts. I was raised in a rather ""conservative"" household and raised with many red pill views on womanhood, motherhood, and femininity. But I think there's much more for me to learn and I'd like my marriage to grow more in the red pill direction. I've looked around a bit. But I'm wondering if there are some good places to start. Thanks in advance!",,6,smartywrapper,1590707801.0 +I'm new to the sub but not the concepts. I was raised in a rather ""conservative"" household and raised with many red pill views on womanhood, motherhood, and femininity. But I think there's much more for me to learn and I'd like my marriage to grow more in the red pill direction. I've looked around a bit. But I'm wondering if there are some good places to start. Thanks in advance!",,6,smartywrapper,2020-05-28 23:16:41 RedPillWives,grzlnf,Encouraging Masculinity through Femininity?,"Disclaimer: I’ve been frequenting RP subs for about a week, so I’m sure there’s bits I’ma get wrong. BG: I’ve been a wreck emotionally lately. It’s driving my husband nuts. Could be COVID, could be something else. I’ve recently been diagnosed w ADHD and the treatment for that helped me do things like actually get my house tidy a couple times a week. I’ve been melting down inexplicably, getting completely overwhelmed by kids whining or the puppy peeing indoors and I know it’s really weighing on my husband. @@ -65225,13 +65225,13 @@ I’m pretty shocked by the results. I think he’s getting the signals I’m tr Note: I have read the posts on transactional thinking and I don’t think this is that. I don’t want to demand that he “become an alpha”, but I want him to know that if he is that way by nature (and I’m pretty sure he is), I no longer desire to change him to cater to my emotional needs. -I’m also convinced RP is basically a science, so is there a guide to RP femininity? Like what does it look like? What to avoid in interactions with the hubs, bc I don’t want to accidentally discourage him. We’re going on our 10th ann’y trip tomorrow for the weekend and I’m so psyched.",,19,FaithfulGardener,1590640894.0 +I’m also convinced RP is basically a science, so is there a guide to RP femininity? Like what does it look like? What to avoid in interactions with the hubs, bc I don’t want to accidentally discourage him. We’re going on our 10th ann’y trip tomorrow for the weekend and I’m so psyched.",,19,FaithfulGardener,2020-05-28 04:41:34 RedPillWives,gp4l0c,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - May 23, 2020","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,2,AutoModerator,1590239075.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,2,AutoModerator,2020-05-23 13:04:35 RedPillWives,gl2huf,New Mother Needing Advice On Coping,"Hi Red Pill Wives! I'm really in need of some advice in this very trying time of my life. Well, I don't know if I need advice, a slap in the face, a shoulder to cry on, or just to commiserate - I guess I just need some context. My husband and I have been married for a year and a half and we have a 7.5 month old son. I'm really struggling with the transition from purely homemaker to include being a stay-at-home-mom. My husband works a great job and we have always been in agreement that our ideal situation would have me staying at home looking after our children. I feel like I'm currently not meeting my own expectations or my husband's expectations of what I should be doing at this point. The first few months were absolutely survival, we both knew that going into it, but now that we've found more of a routine with the baby I'm struggling even more now that there's more expectations of me. The idea that there's zero ""time off"" from motherhood is really eating at me in a way I hadn't anticipated. @@ -65248,7 +65248,7 @@ Anyways all of this aside I just feel like there's a normal amount of adjustment My husband was speaking to an older work colleague over the phone the other day and they were discussing a conference that was moving to online. They have evening discussions and my husband said that he'd try and be present once our baby was down for the night. The colleague was surprised that I wouldn't be able to handle doing that by myself and asked what I would be doing if he was having to travel and be at conferences in person. That's been eating at me for a little bit ever since it came up. The last couple of times my husband had to travel for work, my parents came to stay with me to help out (we're in the US and they're in Canada, so they've had to cancel all pending travel for the time being). -For those of you that have kids, do you have any tips on how to cope with the big life change? Did I just miss the boat on maternal selflessness that other women figured out before they had kids?",,16,Fayve27,1589663573.0 +For those of you that have kids, do you have any tips on how to cope with the big life change? Did I just miss the boat on maternal selflessness that other women figured out before they had kids?",,16,Fayve27,2020-05-16 21:12:53 RedPillWives,gkubqe,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - May 16, 2020","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -65256,10 +65256,10 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,1589634268.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,2020-05-16 13:04:28 RedPillWives,gk8cya,Do you ask your husband for permission?,"I am trying to find the line between being respectful of your partner and maintaining adult autonomy. Obviously, somethings need to be discussed, for example making an expensive purchase with shared funds. But what about going over to a girlfriends or taking a ladies trip? Should you ask or should you inform? Recently, I find myself asking for permission and it makes me feel childish. What are your thoughts? -(No kids so leaving for a night shouldn’t affect him in anyway. Assume you live together.)",,29,Mopolitte,1589546342.0 +(No kids so leaving for a night shouldn’t affect him in anyway. Assume you live together.)",,29,Mopolitte,2020-05-15 12:39:02 RedPillWives,gjq1ui,"What do you do when you REALLY want something, but your husband says no?","* How old are you (and how old is your partner) and how familiar are you with RPW? * I'm 23; Hubby is 48 (please ignore age gap during discussion; it's not important). I found TRP a couple months ago, and have since been lurking on the related subs (TRP, AskTRP, redpillwomen, RPW, etc.) * What is your relationship status? @@ -65283,17 +65283,17 @@ If married or in a committed, monogamous relationship: * Is your relationship long-distance? * No * Do you have an active bedroom life? - * Yes lol",,16,[deleted],1589474939.0 + * Yes lol",,16,[deleted],2020-05-14 16:48:59 RedPillWives,gii09q,Opinions on breast reduction?,"I’m interested to know what you think about a woman considering a breast reduction. Has anyone here had one? What was the opinion of your boyfriend/husband? I’m a 25yo single woman with naturally large breasts (32I). I’m thinking about the possibility of a reduction in the future. It’s not about appearance, rather it’s the back pain, shoulder grooves, and also the fact that bras in my size are expensive. -Thoughts and opinions are much appreciated!",,9,thisisgarbage10,1589310456.0 +Thoughts and opinions are much appreciated!",,9,thisisgarbage10,2020-05-12 19:07:36 RedPillWives,gdz8eg,Is The Surrendered Wife the same as The Empowered Wife?,"I am sorry if this has been answered, I tried to search it but couldn't find the answer. I own the surrendered wife by Laura Doyle and have read it multiple times, just wondered if the empowered wife offers anything new or if it's just the ""update"". Also any other reason similar to this would be welcomed. I read Dr Laura's ""proper care and feeding husband's"" but her overly Christian stance didn't really fit well since I am agnostic and my husband is an atheist, but there were some helpful insights. -Thank you!",,15,iwishiwasamermaid,1588690616.0 +Thank you!",,15,iwishiwasamermaid,2020-05-05 14:56:56 RedPillWives,gdicfq,Conflict advice with blended family dynamic,"* How old are you (and how old is your partner) and how familiar are you with RPW? I’m 30 and my partner is 48. He has been married twice before and has 3 children from two different women. Oldest 19 in college, and two twin 11 year old daughters. I just stumbled upon RPW last night. @@ -65332,12 +65332,12 @@ no yes -Please also include any other information that is relevant in your post.",,6,bklein26,1588620688.0 +Please also include any other information that is relevant in your post.",,6,bklein26,2020-05-04 19:31:28 RedPillWives,gc64jr,"Simple Questions - May 02, 2020","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,0,AutoModerator,1588424664.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,0,AutoModerator,2020-05-02 13:04:24 RedPillWives,galxt8,"RPW Episode 9 - Pregnancy Part 2 - there's a baby in there, now what?!","[**Pregnancy Episode Part 2 - Tonight at 9pm ET**](https://youtu.be/Y7jgGlHTtBc) Good morning RPW! This evening Joe and I will be joined again by my very best friend and Mother of Twins to talk about what happens *during* pregnancy. @@ -65346,26 +65346,26 @@ Or as the title says: there's a baby in there, now what?!?! We'll hit the milestones and decision making with a focus on your relationship and what your man might be going through. -But we also want to know what your questions are. You can join us in the live comments during the show, but we'd also love if you drop us a line here through the day. What are your burning questions about pregnancy. This can be anything from symptoms to relationship issues to book recommendations. It's a big topic and we want to be able to cover what is important to the women in the red pill community.",,3,bsutansalt,1588208665.0 +But we also want to know what your questions are. You can join us in the live comments during the show, but we'd also love if you drop us a line here through the day. What are your burning questions about pregnancy. This can be anything from symptoms to relationship issues to book recommendations. It's a big topic and we want to be able to cover what is important to the women in the red pill community.",,3,bsutansalt,2020-04-30 01:04:25 RedPillWives,g7t6xc,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - April 25, 2020","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,1587819868.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,2020-04-25 13:04:28 RedPillWives,g7lezq,The Red Pill YouTube Channel,"For those who may have missed it, I'm working with the several others in the red pill community to build the [official Red Pill YouTube channel](https://www.youtube.com/c/TheRedPillMedia/?sub_confirmation=1) just for us. Thus far we've created two shows, one for single guys new to the community called Red Pill University, and another show for women called RPW Wednesdays. Three examples of content related to this sub can be found here: Pregnancy & Intentionality - https://youtu.be/IZnfC1o6N5A Respecting your captain - https://youtu.be/DP6aCc6C81I The Wall - https://youtu.be/Qu0F_jW7quE -If you'd like to participate we have open Q&A sessions live on air, and you can also chat with us for a while after the show on the [official TRP Discord server](https://discord.gg/cqDdDSN). Also, if you are a subject matter expert, mod, etc. we'd love to have you on sometime.",,4,bsutansalt,1587780061.0 +If you'd like to participate we have open Q&A sessions live on air, and you can also chat with us for a while after the show on the [official TRP Discord server](https://discord.gg/cqDdDSN). Also, if you are a subject matter expert, mod, etc. we'd love to have you on sometime.",,4,bsutansalt,2020-04-25 02:01:01 RedPillWives,g6su0k,Any interest in a discord server?,"Does anyone have an interest in joining a discord server to discuss rpw, marriage, homemaking, and other feminine topics? Reddit is great, but I’ve been missing a more personal community feel. I have issues finding likeminded women IRL, and I suspect I am not alone. -I’m happy to create one if there’s interest.",,13,cloudlilies,1587669189.0 -RedPillWives,g5ftz8,How important IS vetting?,"Hey ladies, I just have a general question about vetting, and the importance of it. I have been reading and re-reading the Surrendered Wife in the past year and a half, as well as listening to Laura Doyle's podcasts. I just get confused because there's so much in her theories that makes it seem like nearly every marriage situation IS salvageable. She even came out to say that she now doesn't agree with the statements in her first book about not surrendering to men in specific situations, like for example addictions. I've read columns where she interviews women who have never even really respected their husbands from the beginning, and they most certainly didn't vet, BUT they applied the skills and they have transformed their marriages. It seems to me that here in this sub there's a lot of emphasis on proper vetting, and that if you don't do that you can't find a real captain and therefore you really can't or shouldn't submit. So, I'm just wondering if there's gray area with that? Doyle seems nearly totally convinced that any situation can be turned around. What do you all think?",,18,goldensurrender,1587477983.0 +I’m happy to create one if there’s interest.",,13,cloudlilies,2020-04-23 19:13:09 +RedPillWives,g5ftz8,How important IS vetting?,"Hey ladies, I just have a general question about vetting, and the importance of it. I have been reading and re-reading the Surrendered Wife in the past year and a half, as well as listening to Laura Doyle's podcasts. I just get confused because there's so much in her theories that makes it seem like nearly every marriage situation IS salvageable. She even came out to say that she now doesn't agree with the statements in her first book about not surrendering to men in specific situations, like for example addictions. I've read columns where she interviews women who have never even really respected their husbands from the beginning, and they most certainly didn't vet, BUT they applied the skills and they have transformed their marriages. It seems to me that here in this sub there's a lot of emphasis on proper vetting, and that if you don't do that you can't find a real captain and therefore you really can't or shouldn't submit. So, I'm just wondering if there's gray area with that? Doyle seems nearly totally convinced that any situation can be turned around. What do you all think?",,18,goldensurrender,2020-04-21 14:06:23 RedPillWives,g3qffe,Feel like a failure,"I've been a homemaker and mother for 9 years, and without tooting my own horn too much - I'm pretty good at it. I excel at cooking, complicated baking, I knit, crochet and keep myself very active and at my healthy weight. I also homeschool so my children are always with me. @@ -65376,7 +65376,7 @@ He's happy enough to do so, but I know I'm not being as productive as I should, I'm trying to get myself motivated to ""do more"" but my morning sickness is all day and it's all day of fighting the urge to throw up. (Think of bring motion sick but all day) it's exhausting. I'm hoping some meds will help but I'm having a hard time. -How can I keep being a good wife and Homemaker when I feel like I can barely make lunch???",,16,[deleted],1587227758.0 +How can I keep being a good wife and Homemaker when I feel like I can barely make lunch???",,16,[deleted],2020-04-18 16:35:58 RedPillWives,g3n6rc,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - April 18, 2020","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -65384,7 +65384,7 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,0,AutoModerator,1587215064.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,0,AutoModerator,2020-04-18 13:04:24 RedPillWives,g2ntmn,Own Your Shit,"**OYS 1** EDIT 1: I realize now that people don't have any context as this OYS thing is not posted in RedPillWives. I was reading the marriedredpill sub and came accross their ""Own Your Shit"" posts. Here's the most recent one: [https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/g11qmx/own\_your\_shit\_weekly\_april\_14\_2020/](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/g11qmx/own_your_shit_weekly_april_14_2020/) @@ -65429,7 +65429,7 @@ I also need to choose 1 project and complete it all the way instead of bouncing * read NMMNG * Lost 10 more lbs -* Chosen 1 project and gotten it done.",,3,Ana_Compudah,1587071674.0 +* Chosen 1 project and gotten it done.",,3,Ana_Compudah,2020-04-16 21:14:34 RedPillWives,g2ayww,My boyfriend didn't want to buy me a car and now I am insecure in our relationship.,"Okay, that was somewhat clickbait. The story is a little bit different and I really need your advice. I'm so worried that I'm going to come off as greedy. I don't want to take anything from anyone, ever. The problem is that I think I truly deserve more than I'm getting. @@ -65490,7 +65490,7 @@ I hope I was able to explain this situation without sounding horrible. I just fe He's your typical ""I didn't even know there was a problem"" guy. So it's not malicious. He think I'm just contributing to the household. But, no. I'm contributing to HIS household. I get nothing. I have no rights. To anything I'm building. I am an employee. He either needs to pay me like an employee, or have me be part of the team. -Please let me know what you think. How can I bring this up? It's extremely upsetting for me. Like, I instantly start crying because I feel so guilty and vulnerable at the same time. He doesn't want me to feel like this. I just don't know what we should even do about this situation...",,20,Ohboiawkward,1587025368.0 +Please let me know what you think. How can I bring this up? It's extremely upsetting for me. Like, I instantly start crying because I feel so guilty and vulnerable at the same time. He doesn't want me to feel like this. I just don't know what we should even do about this situation...",,20,Ohboiawkward,2020-04-16 08:22:48 RedPillWives,g08ile,How are you staying sane during this time?,"It's easy to see everyone posting on instagram about their baking and homemaking efforts, and to think that other people aren't struggling during this strange period of uncertainty. I certainly am struggling! My anxiety is playing up, and my husband (who is a rock, and supports me incredibly) has his own increased level of stress too. Many of my usual outlets for stress (socialising, going to the gym, spending hours at the library or the op shop) are not an option for me. @@ -65499,7 +65499,7 @@ I thought it would be great to find out what people are doing to 'cope' during &#x200B; -\[EDIT\] A lot of people are talking about what they're doing to fill up their time, or how they're not worrying. I'm glad that you have things to fill your time& aren't worried! Me, well. I've studied public health and epidemiology and I'm a bit stressed. Answers that are just ""don't stress, it's no big deal"" don't really help in the face of emotion!",,12,teaandtalk,1586739083.0 +\[EDIT\] A lot of people are talking about what they're doing to fill up their time, or how they're not worrying. I'm glad that you have things to fill your time& aren't worried! Me, well. I've studied public health and epidemiology and I'm a bit stressed. Answers that are just ""don't stress, it's no big deal"" don't really help in the face of emotion!",,12,teaandtalk,2020-04-13 00:51:23 RedPillWives,fzu6dn,Husband smothering me with his daily family visits,"TLDR: Husband does not want to cut down his family visitations, he wants to visit everyday and doesn't want to spare a day at our own home as he deems it a waste since it can br spent with his family. The only solution we have is for me to stay home when I don't feel like going but I am worried long term how this will affect us in terms of dynamics as I prefer my in-laws be minimally involved and not have too much influence on our life. They currently don't but I am scared of the dynamic shifting to them and that I won't have a say in the future. I am 25 living abroad with my husband for 10 months. We are both arab ethnicity wise but grew up very differently. @@ -65534,23 +65534,23 @@ As much as I love him, I am mentally tired and frustrated, I am scared of these I understand family is family but what more can I do? I have gone along with it for months and I still feel annoyed but not as much as before. He truly thinks that I will like it and be satisfied with having an extended family but frankly it isn't working. -Am I the problem? Is this going to end in divorce, I am truly trying but I can't anymore. What can I do to be okay with this or how can I gurantee that when we have a child that I am a priority and these visitations do not take over my life.",,6,PositiveSeaweed,1586686000.0 -RedPillWives,fxg60q,Femininity: Quaranclean edition,"I recently got to the chapter in Fascinating Womanhood about letting men do manly stuff around the house as a means to show your femininity. My husband and I have been home together for a month, and as I I was doing my usual upstairs cleaning, I thought of an opportunity. I am 36 weeks pregnant and lifting the litter box to sweep under it is difficult - not completely impossible but uncomfortable (don't worry, my husband does change the litter box which is a no no for pregnant women but I've never thought to ask him to set it outside the bathroom so I can sweep under it). Then the lightbulb went off that this is one of those sweet, perfect moments to ask my manly man husband to help me with something. In fact, when he came upstairs to move it for me he said, ""hello! Your strong manly husband is here!"" Definitely be thinking of ways when you go about housework that you can capitlize on your husband's manly qualities. Lifting something heavy, reaching for something high, something that needs to be fixed (I find men who are reluctant to do projects are willing to start small and you can shower them with adoration - he may find it's so rewarding that he starts finding other projects. My husband is now refinishing a table we've needed to have refinished for YEARS). Always follow up with adoration and doting. If you have a husband who tends to be thoughtless or wrapped up in his own universe, now is the PERFECT time to work on ""training"" him to set his adoring gaze on you. It will make both of you very happy!",,27,[deleted],1586384246.0 +Am I the problem? Is this going to end in divorce, I am truly trying but I can't anymore. What can I do to be okay with this or how can I gurantee that when we have a child that I am a priority and these visitations do not take over my life.",,6,PositiveSeaweed,2020-04-12 10:06:40 +RedPillWives,fxg60q,Femininity: Quaranclean edition,"I recently got to the chapter in Fascinating Womanhood about letting men do manly stuff around the house as a means to show your femininity. My husband and I have been home together for a month, and as I I was doing my usual upstairs cleaning, I thought of an opportunity. I am 36 weeks pregnant and lifting the litter box to sweep under it is difficult - not completely impossible but uncomfortable (don't worry, my husband does change the litter box which is a no no for pregnant women but I've never thought to ask him to set it outside the bathroom so I can sweep under it). Then the lightbulb went off that this is one of those sweet, perfect moments to ask my manly man husband to help me with something. In fact, when he came upstairs to move it for me he said, ""hello! Your strong manly husband is here!"" Definitely be thinking of ways when you go about housework that you can capitlize on your husband's manly qualities. Lifting something heavy, reaching for something high, something that needs to be fixed (I find men who are reluctant to do projects are willing to start small and you can shower them with adoration - he may find it's so rewarding that he starts finding other projects. My husband is now refinishing a table we've needed to have refinished for YEARS). Always follow up with adoration and doting. If you have a husband who tends to be thoughtless or wrapped up in his own universe, now is the PERFECT time to work on ""training"" him to set his adoring gaze on you. It will make both of you very happy!",,27,[deleted],2020-04-08 22:17:26 RedPillWives,futdnv,"Simple Questions - April 04, 2020","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,4,AutoModerator,1586005473.0 -RedPillWives,ftxhnv,Social Media Has Destroyed The Modern Woman.,,https://youtu.be/OCTImbVubn8,22,kingbossdj,1585871692.0 -RedPillWives,ft7zih,advice appreciated ❤️,,/r/RedPillWomen/comments/fsupwv/feel_like_everything_suddenly_fell_apart_advice/,2,bitchbaby1,1585773074.0 -RedPillWives,fr08ed,Women: Take Care of Yourself First,,/r/IAMALiberalFeminist/comments/flfg2m/women_take_care_of_yourself_first/,9,ANIKAHirsch,1585457922.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,4,AutoModerator,2020-04-04 13:04:33 +RedPillWives,ftxhnv,Social Media Has Destroyed The Modern Woman.,,https://youtu.be/OCTImbVubn8,22,kingbossdj,2020-04-02 23:54:52 +RedPillWives,ft7zih,advice appreciated ❤️,,/r/RedPillWomen/comments/fsupwv/feel_like_everything_suddenly_fell_apart_advice/,2,bitchbaby1,2020-04-01 20:31:14 +RedPillWives,fr08ed,Women: Take Care of Yourself First,,/r/IAMALiberalFeminist/comments/flfg2m/women_take_care_of_yourself_first/,9,ANIKAHirsch,2020-03-29 04:58:42 RedPillWives,fqjtc0,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - March 28, 2020","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,3,AutoModerator,1585400666.0 -RedPillWives,fpjo6f,14 Strategies for Working From Home Around Children Without Endless Screen Time,,https://thefederalist.com/2020/03/16/14-strategies-for-working-from-home-around-children-without-endless-screen-time/,12,jack_hammarred,1585256777.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,3,AutoModerator,2020-03-28 13:04:26 +RedPillWives,fpjo6f,14 Strategies for Working From Home Around Children Without Endless Screen Time,,https://thefederalist.com/2020/03/16/14-strategies-for-working-from-home-around-children-without-endless-screen-time/,12,jack_hammarred,2020-03-26 21:06:17 RedPillWives,fn21zf,Am I unreasonable and spoiled?,"Hope opinions and actual life experiences can help me navigate this well. I believe it is important to discuss big topics BEFORE marriage and so me and my dear wonderful man are doing it. Recently finances came up...Whenever we talk about the future we generally agree and have a rather traditional relationship even now. My man is the best and even with the little he has has always been generous. BUT when he talks to me about marriage and my new future role as a wife I get anxious and concerned about fulfilling that description. (Sidenote: To be fair, we already lived together for periods of weeks (I'm against cohabitation but for short periods or vacation). I thought I have a good idea of who is responsible for what. He even voiced wanting me to be a stay at home mom. I always was clear family is more important to me and that I will stay and maybe even homeschool the kids. Sometimes he even voiced it more!) @@ -65560,7 +65560,7 @@ As it stands I like my work and would probably continue it on a small scale. BUT I don't believe it is the wife's responsibility to make income for her family. I believe she can and should have the skills and education if need be. Now my SO says he needs me to have an income when we marry. He wants me to share that responsibility with him. I don't know what to do! I can't imagine having kids and working. To be honest, I can't imagine being a good wife and mother and sharing that worry daily. I CAN imagine working and doing what I'm good at...And probably will anyway. I just can't stand the idea that now he will count how much money I'll be bringing in...I find that degrading. I'm scared of having little kids and being in conflict over how much..My income is less or not enough for us! -Am I unreasonable? I hope you understand I find being measured in the same role as a husband confusing.",,9,Maddymadmaddy,1584893460.0 +Am I unreasonable? I hope you understand I find being measured in the same role as a husband confusing.",,9,Maddymadmaddy,2020-03-22 16:11:00 RedPillWives,fmenrr,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - March 21, 2020","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -65568,15 +65568,15 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,6,AutoModerator,1584795871.0 -RedPillWives,fivbx0,Respond Favorably to Bids!,,http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2014/06/wife-test-warm-pleasant-disposition.html,14,jack_hammarred,1584244011.0 -RedPillWives,fgmquo,Struggling with jealousy of a new friend,"Have developed a friendship with my husbands longterm guy friends, girlfriend. So they have been coming over to our house more often. This girl is 4 years younger than me in her early twenties and she just recently scored a job as a property manager soon to be making 6 figures. Yesterday, naturally in conversation she started talking about the stresses of her job, which prompted my husband to politely ask her what she did, humbly she bragged about how she just became a property manager of 30 properties in Miami, replacing someone making 100k a year. My husband is not RP, and he reacted impressed with his friends gf. Meanwhile, I'm busting my ass in a more skillful full-time job making half that. I also am a very skilled homemaker keeping our house in order, raising a one year old, and currently pregnant...I do a lot for the house. I feel like I'm completely overlooked and not praised for the simple things I do to keep this house afloat and our relationship vibrant. I feel 'plain' compared to her. She also brags about being able to get a meal delivery service every single day, she takes really good care of herself with monthly facials & massages, etc. My husband knows all of this. Early on in the relationship he expressed she is cute. She has expressed to me admiration toward my husband too for various things, his handiness. She has tried to come over our house while I was not home so he could fix her phone, we offered to help, but assuming I was there of course. Later she had expressed how impressed she was with his pain tolerance with the comment, ""well damn."" My first impression of her was an event that I was not even a part of but all of our friends hungout and she wore a very revealing bathing suit, that was later received with my husbands comment of her being cute and him being happy for his friend. Maybe I am reading too much into it, or maybe I should see a yellow flag and not let her get too close into our relationship/home? Idk please direct me. I do struggle with insecurity, any constructive criticism is welcome. On a side note, I also know she is not happy in her current relationship, wanting to break free because, ""she wants to move across the country and experience life"" and her bf does not. Her bf has a lot of conservative values, she is not redpill at all. I am mostly inviting her in because I value my husbands friend who has been around way longer than her. I do envy her confidence. How do I become better through this? ",,34,[deleted],1583880507.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,6,AutoModerator,2020-03-21 13:04:31 +RedPillWives,fivbx0,Respond Favorably to Bids!,,http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2014/06/wife-test-warm-pleasant-disposition.html,14,jack_hammarred,2020-03-15 03:46:51 +RedPillWives,fgmquo,Struggling with jealousy of a new friend,"Have developed a friendship with my husbands longterm guy friends, girlfriend. So they have been coming over to our house more often. This girl is 4 years younger than me in her early twenties and she just recently scored a job as a property manager soon to be making 6 figures. Yesterday, naturally in conversation she started talking about the stresses of her job, which prompted my husband to politely ask her what she did, humbly she bragged about how she just became a property manager of 30 properties in Miami, replacing someone making 100k a year. My husband is not RP, and he reacted impressed with his friends gf. Meanwhile, I'm busting my ass in a more skillful full-time job making half that. I also am a very skilled homemaker keeping our house in order, raising a one year old, and currently pregnant...I do a lot for the house. I feel like I'm completely overlooked and not praised for the simple things I do to keep this house afloat and our relationship vibrant. I feel 'plain' compared to her. She also brags about being able to get a meal delivery service every single day, she takes really good care of herself with monthly facials & massages, etc. My husband knows all of this. Early on in the relationship he expressed she is cute. She has expressed to me admiration toward my husband too for various things, his handiness. She has tried to come over our house while I was not home so he could fix her phone, we offered to help, but assuming I was there of course. Later she had expressed how impressed she was with his pain tolerance with the comment, ""well damn."" My first impression of her was an event that I was not even a part of but all of our friends hungout and she wore a very revealing bathing suit, that was later received with my husbands comment of her being cute and him being happy for his friend. Maybe I am reading too much into it, or maybe I should see a yellow flag and not let her get too close into our relationship/home? Idk please direct me. I do struggle with insecurity, any constructive criticism is welcome. On a side note, I also know she is not happy in her current relationship, wanting to break free because, ""she wants to move across the country and experience life"" and her bf does not. Her bf has a lot of conservative values, she is not redpill at all. I am mostly inviting her in because I value my husbands friend who has been around way longer than her. I do envy her confidence. How do I become better through this? ",,34,[deleted],2020-03-10 22:48:27 RedPillWives,feuvax,"Simple Questions - March 07, 2020","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,3,AutoModerator,1583586277.0 -RedPillWives,fefl63,Article About Feminist Lies,,https://thefederalist.com/2019/11/12/4-feminist-lies-that-are-making-women-miserable/,28,Femmeferrette,1583510784.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,3,AutoModerator,2020-03-07 13:04:37 +RedPillWives,fefl63,Article About Feminist Lies,,https://thefederalist.com/2019/11/12/4-feminist-lies-that-are-making-women-miserable/,28,Femmeferrette,2020-03-06 16:06:24 RedPillWives,fcyv3d,True submission or role play?,"**Freedom, responsibility and authority.** Our natural state at birth is to be free. Free to express ourselves as we wish and to use our God given talents to explore and conquer the world. We lose some or all of this freedom when it’s taken from us by others or when we give it up knowingly or unknowingly. @@ -65623,7 +65623,7 @@ In light of the above, two questions arise: I look forward to your feedback. -Cheers!",,18,loneliness-inc,1583259684.0 +Cheers!",,18,loneliness-inc,2020-03-03 18:21:24 RedPillWives,fczk13,Thoughts on humility," I guess in every era of humanity, certain characteristics are more pronounced than others, depending on events, cultural beliefs and societal norms, prosperity (or not), available technologies, and surely a whole host of other influential factors. @@ -65664,14 +65664,14 @@ Muses of humility? * Agafia Lykov, perhaps * ... -I'll add to this list as I think more on the topic. I'm interested to hear others input, so please leave a comment if you have thoughts on humility, modern cultures lack of it, or any muses of humility that you can think of.",,7,[deleted],1583262275.0 -RedPillWives,f9wnux,Postpartum low sex drive,"My husband and I have been married for 6.5yrs, and we have 2 kids- 1 toddler and 6 month old baby. I suffer from a disease that causes me to keep making kidney stones all the time and I was passing dozens while pregnant and still pass a 1-2 a week (6 months later). The pregnancy made the condition worse, but it's slowly getting better again. I had to have surgery on my kidney 2 months after birth to remove a large obstructive stone. During pregnancy, I experienced severe morning sickness that couldn't be controlled with medication and I ended up in the hospital a few times. Also has mastitis 3x in 2 months.8 Needless to say, i've had a pretty rough year. So, all of this together has basically killed my sex drive. This has really affected my husband. We've barely been intimate in the last year. We used to have sex every other day before I got pregnant to maybe once every week or 2. I let him know it's not personal- but he told me he still feels neglected and is starting to feel resentful. It seems like the stars have to align for us to be intimate- kids are asleep, it's not too late, and I feel healthy and in the mood. I want to be intimate, but it feels like a huge hill I have to climb to get there. Plus, honestly knowing he resents me further kills my mood. I'm not sure how to fix this to meet his needs, but not compromise my wellbeing by pretending to be in the mood. Suggestions are appreciated.",,12,Domestic_Vibrator,1582737798.0 +I'll add to this list as I think more on the topic. I'm interested to hear others input, so please leave a comment if you have thoughts on humility, modern cultures lack of it, or any muses of humility that you can think of.",,7,[deleted],2020-03-03 19:04:35 +RedPillWives,f9wnux,Postpartum low sex drive,"My husband and I have been married for 6.5yrs, and we have 2 kids- 1 toddler and 6 month old baby. I suffer from a disease that causes me to keep making kidney stones all the time and I was passing dozens while pregnant and still pass a 1-2 a week (6 months later). The pregnancy made the condition worse, but it's slowly getting better again. I had to have surgery on my kidney 2 months after birth to remove a large obstructive stone. During pregnancy, I experienced severe morning sickness that couldn't be controlled with medication and I ended up in the hospital a few times. Also has mastitis 3x in 2 months.8 Needless to say, i've had a pretty rough year. So, all of this together has basically killed my sex drive. This has really affected my husband. We've barely been intimate in the last year. We used to have sex every other day before I got pregnant to maybe once every week or 2. I let him know it's not personal- but he told me he still feels neglected and is starting to feel resentful. It seems like the stars have to align for us to be intimate- kids are asleep, it's not too late, and I feel healthy and in the mood. I want to be intimate, but it feels like a huge hill I have to climb to get there. Plus, honestly knowing he resents me further kills my mood. I'm not sure how to fix this to meet his needs, but not compromise my wellbeing by pretending to be in the mood. Suggestions are appreciated.",,12,Domestic_Vibrator,2020-02-26 17:23:18 RedPillWives,f7sa2z,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - February 22, 2020","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,1582376664.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,2020-02-22 13:04:24 RedPillWives,f73tbi,Help - Getting back in shape post-baby,"Please share what you did to get back in shape after giving birth. My specific questions: Are there exercises other than the vacuum to help mend diastesis recti? @@ -65682,11 +65682,11 @@ What gets rid of that lower tummy pooch? How do I fix loose skin? -Please share any post-baby fitness tips you've got!",,8,JaneStuartMill,1582249842.0 +Please share any post-baby fitness tips you've got!",,8,JaneStuartMill,2020-02-21 01:50:42 RedPillWives,f5vbly,Springtime musings...,"I'm sitting at the table with my coffee enjoying the sun streaming into my kitchen and feeling so happy and content. Spring is coming in my hemisphere and I couldn't be more thrilled for sunshine and warmth. I took the kids to a park with my dear friends yesterday and they wore themselves out bombing down hills on kickboards and the like. Today is a school day/home day where we will be outside until dark doing projects and playing. Tomorrow we will meet different friends at the park. I feel like my life is just on an awesome repeat right now and couldn't be happier. I garden, clean and putter during the mornings and work on projects and socialize in the afternoons. -What are your favorite things to do in nice weather? What makes you feel grateful and alive today?",,26,[deleted],1582046928.0 +What are your favorite things to do in nice weather? What makes you feel grateful and alive today?",,26,[deleted],2020-02-18 17:28:48 RedPillWives,f4957a,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - February 15, 2020","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -65694,7 +65694,7 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,1581771870.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,2020-02-15 13:04:30 RedPillWives,f3h01c,"Book on low testosterone in men - I want Sex, He Wants Fries","I know this issue is discussed often -- what to do when your sex drive is higher than your husband's, when he doesn't want sex, when he's not as masculine as he used to be, etc. It's a common problem! I've been dealing with this to some degree and just trying to handle it the Laura Doyle way (with lingerie), but I'm still frustrated. It feels like pressing on the gas pedal repeatedly in a car that is just really low in gas. It definitely does something, but it's not like we are going at full speed. @@ -65705,7 +65705,7 @@ My husband has already had a low T result (even compared to the reference range On a related note- -- red light therapy applied to the testicles can be really good for increasing testosterone! See Ben Greenfield, Joovv, etc. It's a possible first line treatment to try before taking actual supplemental testosterone. -Just posting this in case it encourages other women; please don't criticize me for trying an approach other than just being sensual/sexy or sublimating my sex drive.",,33,rosebyanyothername1,1581628444.0 +Just posting this in case it encourages other women; please don't criticize me for trying an approach other than just being sensual/sexy or sublimating my sex drive.",,33,rosebyanyothername1,2020-02-13 21:14:04 RedPillWives,f1bboj,Identity Crisis 2020,"I apologize in advance for this, as it will likely be a long one. Buckle up. TLDR at the end. Where to begin? I don’t really have anyone else aside from my therapist to talk to about all this, so here’s a fair warning of the possible verbal diarrhea that may ensue. @@ -65736,7 +65736,7 @@ I’m also afraid of how my family, his family, and my friends will look at me a Phew. That was a lot. I’m open to any and all comments, suggestions, rebukes, etc. I really don’t want to feel ashamed to become a traditional wife, but I do. -tl;dr - Recently red-pilled public school teacher is having an identity crisis as she decides to leave the profession for a more traditional life, seeks advice from supportive online community.",,15,foxy_heterodoxy,1581267359.0 +tl;dr - Recently red-pilled public school teacher is having an identity crisis as she decides to leave the profession for a more traditional life, seeks advice from supportive online community.",,15,foxy_heterodoxy,2020-02-09 16:55:59 RedPillWives,exrbt6,"Full-time working Red Pill Wives & Moms, How do you keep going, doing it all and not resenting your husband?","Full-time working Red Pill Wives & Moms, How do you keep going, doing it all and not resenting your husband? @@ -65746,7 +65746,7 @@ I discovered Red Pill about 4 years and one baby into my marriage. I am a full t Well after the high of finding RPW I am finding myself at a bit of a decline. The dust is settling and I am still unhappy. There are several things that unfortunately I feel powerless over, even though I know my husband needs me as his right-hand, and I am the best nurturer of the household. As I mentioned before, I am a full time working mother and wife and my career is dependent on our financial security & health insurance for the family. So this comes at a huge cost to being the best wife and mother to our family. Friday for example, I was so sick with the flu & still had to go into work. Meanwhile my daughter got sent home from daycare, my husband will not take off to care for her from his job, and I have done so many times to the point that my boss makes remarks about it. I had no option other than to bring her into my job on Friday so I wouldn’t have to be excused for the day, meanwhile, I’m disgustingly sick from the flu to the point I threw up in my office. This is one extreme example, but the working while sick has happened many many times, but responsibilities still ensue and at the same time none of my own needs are being met. I cannot possibly keep up this lifestyle with no help on my end. -My question is, in my unique situation, what needs of my own can I expect my husband to meet for me? I really have a few none of them are selfish. I have communicated them to my husband, but as a husband he really needs my help and I have to gently remind him, but how many times do I do so before resenting him? One of my needs is that I need 6+ hours of alone time in the house: 1 x a month on a weekend day. I do this regularly and often for my husband by taking trips up to my mothers house with my baby and spending the night so that I can get help with my daughter and she can get time with her grandmother. I am pretty annoyed at the circumstances of everything and feel defeated knowing what my husbands needs and knowing I cannot provide that for him since I am stuck expending all of my energy all week into a job. Also knowing that I will never find rest for this. My husband is also a home body so in order for me to get a break away, I need to leave the house, which is stressful for me and lasts an hour or so. I gave him suggestions on leaving the house, like spending a day at his parents house which is less than 20 mins away from us, so he’s not void out of options. For the record, knowing my husband, this is not worth a conversation about me being a stay at home mom. Those are plans for the future when we have more financial security. How do you keep going doing it all and not resenting your husband?",,15,[deleted],1580662774.0 +My question is, in my unique situation, what needs of my own can I expect my husband to meet for me? I really have a few none of them are selfish. I have communicated them to my husband, but as a husband he really needs my help and I have to gently remind him, but how many times do I do so before resenting him? One of my needs is that I need 6+ hours of alone time in the house: 1 x a month on a weekend day. I do this regularly and often for my husband by taking trips up to my mothers house with my baby and spending the night so that I can get help with my daughter and she can get time with her grandmother. I am pretty annoyed at the circumstances of everything and feel defeated knowing what my husbands needs and knowing I cannot provide that for him since I am stuck expending all of my energy all week into a job. Also knowing that I will never find rest for this. My husband is also a home body so in order for me to get a break away, I need to leave the house, which is stressful for me and lasts an hour or so. I gave him suggestions on leaving the house, like spending a day at his parents house which is less than 20 mins away from us, so he’s not void out of options. For the record, knowing my husband, this is not worth a conversation about me being a stay at home mom. Those are plans for the future when we have more financial security. How do you keep going doing it all and not resenting your husband?",,15,[deleted],2020-02-02 16:59:34 RedPillWives,exjwiu,Tips for finding RPW IRL?,"(also posted to r/redpillwomen but curious for additional answers!) I’m 25F and I’m wondering how to find RPW or like-minded in real life. @@ -65759,7 +65759,7 @@ I figure that a lot of RPW/like-minded women would be found in religious circles In addition to that: Have any of you met RPW IRL? If so, how did you meet? What sort of activities do you do? -Thanks in advance! :)",,17,phoenixtycho,1580622654.0 +Thanks in advance! :)",,17,phoenixtycho,2020-02-02 05:50:54 RedPillWives,exk80e,Babies or back to school?,"How old are you (and how old is your partner) and how familiar are you with RPW? I am 21F, my husband is 29M. I've lurked here as well as RedPillWomen for two years and change. @@ -65780,16 +65780,16 @@ What have you done to resolve this problem? Worried? I've voiced my concerns to my husband, prayed for guidance, and still feel unsure. I applied to the program to see how much transfer credit I would get and my previous college classes cut my remaining credits to graduate in half. I am not going to get a better transfer deal at another university and I am afraid this deal will pass me up. TL;DR -Husband and I are stable, happy, and want to have kids. Do I go back to school now and postpone kids or vice versa? Husband said he does want me to get my BSN (eventually!) so I will have a more enjoyable job 10, 15 years down the road.",,2,[deleted],1580624397.0 +Husband and I are stable, happy, and want to have kids. Do I go back to school now and postpone kids or vice versa? Husband said he does want me to get my BSN (eventually!) so I will have a more enjoyable job 10, 15 years down the road.",,2,[deleted],2020-02-02 06:19:57 RedPillWives,ex5v2b,"Simple Questions - February 01, 2020","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,2,AutoModerator,1580562325.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,2,AutoModerator,2020-02-01 13:05:25 RedPillWives,ewikf3,Help. I hate cleaning,"I hate cleaning and I’m not good at it. My husband loves things clean and I try but its very hard for me. I stay at home with our infant and he works. He’s very helpful and is also very good at cleaning snd enjoys maintaining things so will happily help but we both believe the managing of the home is the woman’s job. Any tips on cleaning and or scheduling maintaining a home. -I always wanted to stay at home after having kids but i am really struggling to juggle it all- esp the cleaning thing",,13,damegolda,1580443726.0 +I always wanted to stay at home after having kids but i am really struggling to juggle it all- esp the cleaning thing",,13,damegolda,2020-01-31 04:08:46 RedPillWives,euxx54,Livestream Schedule,"Updated to reflect some changes... [The Red Pill of Finance](https://www.youtube.com/theredpilloffinance/?sub_confirmation=1) hosts a live call-in show related to personal finance, investing, and entrepreneurship Mondays and Thursdays at 7pm. @@ -65807,15 +65807,15 @@ We are still seeking hosts for the main channel as we fill out the schedule of s * Fitness Expert to co-host ""Training Tuesdays"" * 1 more Red Pill woman/wife to co-host ""Women Wednesdays"" -Contact /u/bsutansalt if interested.",,5,TheRedPillFinance,1580173246.0 +Contact /u/bsutansalt if interested.",,5,TheRedPillFinance,2020-01-28 01:00:46 RedPillWives,etqj3w,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - January 25, 2020","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,3,AutoModerator,1579957462.0 -RedPillWives,ern4f5,Turned our extra day together around!,"Hi everyone! Just a rant about how using what I’ve read from lurking (I keep forgetting to switch accounts to comment and by the time I do, I can’t find the post anymore!) has changed my marriage. I’ve been following some of the common advice from this sub and as a result we’re having much more fun together and feeling much more comfortable with each other like before birth control killed my ability to be a human being. Today he seemed a bit quiet and distant, which made me tense and anxious. He told me twice he was just tired, but I wasn’t sure. We went to see my parents (5-minute drive away), and went home an hour before he needed to work so he could relax for a bit. While he did his thing, I decided to do Wifey things, so I made him a sandwich, put our sheets in the dryer, did dishes, cleaned our kitchen, and folded 2 baskets of laundry. Right before he left, he looked at the nicely folded laundry, the wiped countertops, and the empty sink, and not only visibly relaxed, but smiled and thanked me for Doing Stuff. Normally a day that started like this would’ve ended in tears and an argument. But I think showing that I’m a good partner and wife helped relieve some of that pressure for both of us. Yay!",,38,garbage399,1579569251.0 -RedPillWives,eq4atp,Why I submit to my husband like it's 1959,,https://www.bbc.com/news/av/stories-51113371/submitting-to-my-husband-like-it-s-1959-why-i-became-a-tradwife,62,[deleted],1579285803.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,3,AutoModerator,2020-01-25 13:04:22 +RedPillWives,ern4f5,Turned our extra day together around!,"Hi everyone! Just a rant about how using what I’ve read from lurking (I keep forgetting to switch accounts to comment and by the time I do, I can’t find the post anymore!) has changed my marriage. I’ve been following some of the common advice from this sub and as a result we’re having much more fun together and feeling much more comfortable with each other like before birth control killed my ability to be a human being. Today he seemed a bit quiet and distant, which made me tense and anxious. He told me twice he was just tired, but I wasn’t sure. We went to see my parents (5-minute drive away), and went home an hour before he needed to work so he could relax for a bit. While he did his thing, I decided to do Wifey things, so I made him a sandwich, put our sheets in the dryer, did dishes, cleaned our kitchen, and folded 2 baskets of laundry. Right before he left, he looked at the nicely folded laundry, the wiped countertops, and the empty sink, and not only visibly relaxed, but smiled and thanked me for Doing Stuff. Normally a day that started like this would’ve ended in tears and an argument. But I think showing that I’m a good partner and wife helped relieve some of that pressure for both of us. Yay!",,38,garbage399,2020-01-21 01:14:11 +RedPillWives,eq4atp,Why I submit to my husband like it's 1959,,https://www.bbc.com/news/av/stories-51113371/submitting-to-my-husband-like-it-s-1959-why-i-became-a-tradwife,62,[deleted],2020-01-17 18:30:03 RedPillWives,eqg5e1,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - January 18, 2020","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -65823,33 +65823,33 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,1579352661.0 -RedPillWives,eoemfs,Why not celebrate Little Christmas?,,https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Little_Christmas,4,teaandtalk,1578968246.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,2020-01-18 13:04:21 +RedPillWives,eoemfs,Why not celebrate Little Christmas?,,https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Little_Christmas,4,teaandtalk,2020-01-14 02:17:26 RedPillWives,en1uoa,Scared to have kids?,"Since I was a child I've had the dream of getting married and starting a family. However, in the last 5 years I've spent a lot of time looking after other people's children, and I think it might have scared me off! I worked at a preschool, and I also worked as a live-in nanny for two years, taking care of a toddler and later on a baby for 10 hours a day, five days a week. And that's just the beginning. -Thinking of having kids just makes me shudder now, where it used to be this beautiful dream. Sometimes I feel like it requires a certain amount of naivety to have kids. If all women spent as much time taking care of children as I did, many might avoid it. Any advice on how to cope with these feelings? I still want marriage and a family, but it doesn't look as rosy as it used to.",,18,lucidangevin,1578711896.0 +Thinking of having kids just makes me shudder now, where it used to be this beautiful dream. Sometimes I feel like it requires a certain amount of naivety to have kids. If all women spent as much time taking care of children as I did, many might avoid it. Any advice on how to cope with these feelings? I still want marriage and a family, but it doesn't look as rosy as it used to.",,18,lucidangevin,2020-01-11 03:04:56 RedPillWives,ekfmmw,My husband said he didn’t want kids.,"I’m 28, he’s 32. When we got married we discussed having children when I was 31. Ever since getting married (2 years ago) the timeline for that keeps getting pushed out more and more. Next he was saying “in 10 years” I’d be 38. He couldn’t explain why...originally it was finances but we will be financially stable within a few years. Then, the other day he woke up and said getting a vasectomy was on his New Years resolution list and that he didn’t want kids. -I was completely stunned and didn’t know what to say. I wasn’t stoked on having kids anytime soon, but now I feel like the decision is being taken away from me. How should I go about this?",,30,boop_my_nose_,1578243741.0 +I was completely stunned and didn’t know what to say. I wasn’t stoked on having kids anytime soon, but now I feel like the decision is being taken away from me. How should I go about this?",,30,boop_my_nose_,2020-01-05 17:02:21 RedPillWives,ejweq5,"Simple Questions - January 04, 2020","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,7,AutoModerator,1578143069.0 -RedPillWives,ei76bp,Red Pill Resolutions!,Hi ladies! I’m relatively new to the Red Pill world and am curious if any of you will be making Red Pill oriented resolutions for 2020. Particularly those resolutions focused on enhancing your marriage. Cheers!,,11,caitmckinzie,1577818855.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,7,AutoModerator,2020-01-04 13:04:29 +RedPillWives,ei76bp,Red Pill Resolutions!,Hi ladies! I’m relatively new to the Red Pill world and am curious if any of you will be making Red Pill oriented resolutions for 2020. Particularly those resolutions focused on enhancing your marriage. Cheers!,,11,caitmckinzie,2019-12-31 19:00:55 RedPillWives,egqj56,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - December 28, 2019","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,7,AutoModerator,1577538277.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,7,AutoModerator,2019-12-28 13:04:37 RedPillWives,egg27v,How do you handle those in your life that haven't been Red Pilled?,"Hi! I'm relatively new to TRP community, but only in the manner that I finally know what to call it. I'm 24F, in an LTR with a man (27M) who has a pretty intense backstory on why he swallowed TRP. He has CPTSD (PTSD formed because of his previous long-term romantic relationships) and has openly talked about it and how he has self-sabotaged our relationship because of it, but only in retrospect. Because of this, I have been pulled back and forth quite a bit by my love for him, and the concern of my friends and family. I consider myself a very understanding person, and open-minded. I have experienced a lot, but maybe not to the same extent others have, although it allows for me to empathizewith almost everyone. My boyfriend introduced me to self-actualization and enlightenment, which generally works well with TRP mentality as well as the growth I have been looking for, but didn't even know where to start. Those that I open up to in a lot of ways, have told me how they don't like him, even my mother begged me not to bring him to Family Christmas this year (to limit the drama coming from the rest of the family-they're pretty much all closed-minded, hot-headed, and very opinionated). It seems that only a select few of my friends have understood where I'm coming from and why I not only love him, but keep him in my life when I'm not always treated the greatest. I don't know how to explain to those that don't understand why I stay with him in a way that puts him in a good light because they are all convinced that he's not good for me (mainly because he is quite open about his TRP status and his beliefs/standings, which I am too so I am even more confused and conflicted). My major in college was Communication, I have rarely struggled with how to communicate with those I love, until now.. -My questions is how do you work with the people in your lives who aren't very supportive, besides cutting them out or distancing yourself too much? These people are my family, and until now have been nothing but supportive in my life decisions, even if stern and strict on the forefront. My boyfriend and I have talked about marriage (quite extensively) and raising a family together. It's ultimately my biggest dream to be a wife and a mother, and I can picture it with him, but they don't, and it seems they are trying to take that vision away from me simply because they don't",,3,KaylaLynnDon,1577476990.0 +My questions is how do you work with the people in your lives who aren't very supportive, besides cutting them out or distancing yourself too much? These people are my family, and until now have been nothing but supportive in my life decisions, even if stern and strict on the forefront. My boyfriend and I have talked about marriage (quite extensively) and raising a family together. It's ultimately my biggest dream to be a wife and a mother, and I can picture it with him, but they don't, and it seems they are trying to take that vision away from me simply because they don't",,3,KaylaLynnDon,2019-12-27 20:03:10 RedPillWives,edpp2m,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - December 21, 2019","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -65857,14 +65857,14 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,1576933461.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,2019-12-21 13:04:21 RedPillWives,ec0rui,newly married and newly red pilled!,"hi ladies! I want to start out by saying I do know some things about red pill beliefs in general, I’ve just recently found this subreddit/other groups like this for women in particular. previously I just thought that this was a belief system for supporting men being men in their natural way, which is great, but I was wondering where help/guidance for women came into the picture. so I’m in completely new territory, and really excited. anyway, I got married in August, and it’s been amazing. I love my husband more than anything, and being married is such a unique and special feeling. I’m starting to realize it feels a lot different than dating or being engaged, because it is. things are serious now, like the game is in final mode. and I’ve decided I want to start making our house feel like a home, and the two of us feel like a family, before kids even enter the picture. I think if that foundation is already set and sure it will just be more secure as we build our lives together. so I guess what I’m wondering now, in my beginning steps here and in my marriage, what are things I can start doing to support my husband and make him feel constantly supported? I do want to work on a gym routine and skin care routine so I don’t start lacking in those areas right after the wedding, aside from making sure meals are ready and the place is tidy what else can I do? -tl;dr: super excited to have found red pill women, I got married a few months ago and need some tips on how to be a supportive devoted wife!",,24,lunasretrograde,1576611749.0 +tl;dr: super excited to have found red pill women, I got married a few months ago and need some tips on how to be a supportive devoted wife!",,24,lunasretrograde,2019-12-17 19:42:29 RedPillWives,e7zahe,How honest is too honest?,"I've been into RPW for about 6 months now, though about a month into nun mode. This is a theoretical question, but I'd be happy to answer the obligatory advice questions if the mods feel it's necessary. 20F for reference. My question is this: when you are dating a guy, how forthcoming should you be about your desires for the future? I'm working now, but I want to be a stay at home wife eventually. That said, I don't want to mislead a guy by saying I plan on a career in XYZ when my intentions are different. However, I don't want to scare anyone off by the admission of my real goals. I grew up quite traditional, so I'm not sure how realistic my expectations are @@ -65872,12 +65872,12 @@ My question is this: when you are dating a guy, how forthcoming should you be ab Where I live, becoming a stay at home wife/mother right out of college is seen as a lazy/moneygrubbing kind of thing, even if someone is very productive and hardworking. -Do you have any experience with this? What should I say when people ask about my plans for the future?",,21,AnElaborateHoax,1575838389.0 +Do you have any experience with this? What should I say when people ask about my plans for the future?",,21,AnElaborateHoax,2019-12-08 20:53:09 RedPillWives,e7e2om,"Simple Questions - December 07, 2019","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,1575723884.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,2019-12-07 13:04:44 RedPillWives,e75m6g,Why he doesn't talk to me one-one?,"Hello, I'm a college student and trying to improve my feminine side from the first year until now. I am happy to say that I managed to lose weight, grow my hair, learned how to do make up, now I dress more femininly, smile more and I'm still working on receiving and be more open personality wise. Given that, I think I can say that also because of what I wrote, this semester I've had the opportunity to meet new men and it was interesting since I only knew 2 in total. @@ -65889,25 +65889,25 @@ My friend says that it doesn't seem that I like him so that's why he may be not What do you think? In a situation like this, should I try to talk to me whenever I have the chance or should I just give up since he didn't do any move yet? Maybe I'm just nice but not that good looking to make him interested in me? -By the way, the class we had in common this semester ended and I don't know if we'll do another together...",,6,lamponerosso,1575671215.0 -RedPillWives,e6t4qx,Advice for finding a non-leftist therapist for husband,"Hi everyone, I'm hopeful that someone here will have some advice. My husband and I live in Connecticut, and as we both have ""classical liberal""/conservative-leaning values, sometimes living in this area of the country it's easy to feel like the odd ones out. He told me today he's thinking about trying to find a new therapist, since his is fairly left-leaning and it can make it hard to have a productive conversation because they both just have such different world views and values. Anyone have advice about locating a therapist like this? It's obviously kind of a crapshoot, especially because the mental health field so attracts people on the left. Hope this makes sense, and thanks for any advice.",,15,FuckReddit8567,1575604093.0 +By the way, the class we had in common this semester ended and I don't know if we'll do another together...",,6,lamponerosso,2019-12-06 22:26:55 +RedPillWives,e6t4qx,Advice for finding a non-leftist therapist for husband,"Hi everyone, I'm hopeful that someone here will have some advice. My husband and I live in Connecticut, and as we both have ""classical liberal""/conservative-leaning values, sometimes living in this area of the country it's easy to feel like the odd ones out. He told me today he's thinking about trying to find a new therapist, since his is fairly left-leaning and it can make it hard to have a productive conversation because they both just have such different world views and values. Anyone have advice about locating a therapist like this? It's obviously kind of a crapshoot, especially because the mental health field so attracts people on the left. Hope this makes sense, and thanks for any advice.",,15,FuckReddit8567,2019-12-06 03:48:13 RedPillWives,e3gyjk,Cute vintage homemaking book,"Hi guys! I’ve been a longtime “lurker” here and finally getting to leaving comments! Anyway, I wanted to share a cute book I found, Vintage Course in Homemaking by Abigail Bryce for the kindle (or free kindle app, which is how I read). It’s an actual homemaking course from the 1930s(I think?) and a cool glimpse into how things were done back then in regards to homemaking. I can’t stop reading it. -Anyway, enjoy! I always love reading in the quiet days after Thanksgiving. God bless!",,10,sahmnyc,1575045138.0 -RedPillWives,e1e9g7,Don't shoot your side of the canoe,,http://loydwalker.com/dont-shoot-your-side-of-the-canoe/,19,RedPillWonder,1574678013.0 +Anyway, enjoy! I always love reading in the quiet days after Thanksgiving. God bless!",,10,sahmnyc,2019-11-29 16:32:18 +RedPillWives,e1e9g7,Don't shoot your side of the canoe,,http://loydwalker.com/dont-shoot-your-side-of-the-canoe/,19,RedPillWonder,2019-11-25 10:33:33 RedPillWives,e0hlcv,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - November 23, 2019","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,4,AutoModerator,1574514275.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,4,AutoModerator,2019-11-23 13:04:35 RedPillWives,dydhrb,Redpill woman wants to be future wife but is struggling and needs womanly guidance,"Hello I’m a 24 year old woman, contemplating my future. I’ve always wanted to get married and have children well some part of me. before this point I was scared and kind of didn’t want any. For health reasons, my upbringing and worrying if I’d parent my kid the way my mother parented me as well as seeing her relationship with men. I’ve recently posted a couple of post in the redpill community about being alpha widowed by the man I was in love with, it’s been 4 years since that break up and I find that this relationship and the one with my mother makes it really hard to move forward with anyone else. Even the fact that I need to move on from him I’ve been very stubborn about. I recently started dating someone I didn’t think I would I’ve actually known him for a while but our relationship has become deeper, I’ve had a stint with a couple of dating the wrong men (in compatibility) after my ex but with this guy it’s kind of different, I really like him he seems to like me too but I still feel like it’s going to all fall apart and I still feel the sadness after being alpha widowed, depression has been a thing I’ve been facing for a while. I realized that I’m getting older and time is passing by, my ex hasn’t made any attempt to return in my life, and my biggest fear is settling or letting my loneliness and biological clock drag me into something, that could fall apart in the future. Don’t get me wrong this new guy is great I haven’t had feelings like these in a while, but as I realize I’m trying to move away from the fwb/situationship lifestyle and looking to have something serious I’ve always wanted to get married but now I’m getting scared of it it’s actually something I’ve always wanted but again my insecurities caused me to settle. And when I did find someone I kind let my demons ruin that I chalk it up to my ego and being too young. - Is there any advice you can give, this relationship makes me nervous it reminds me of what it felt like to be with my alpha, but this time I’m realizing the weight of life, again I’m really scared things are gonna blow up. I’m also scared that it’ll be another situationship we’re not really official yet. I’m afraid that I’ll waste time not building the life I’d hope to. While also having the ghost of my last alpha in the back of my mind. How should I go about this ?",,12,Kissingstrangers-,1574128149.0 + Is there any advice you can give, this relationship makes me nervous it reminds me of what it felt like to be with my alpha, but this time I’m realizing the weight of life, again I’m really scared things are gonna blow up. I’m also scared that it’ll be another situationship we’re not really official yet. I’m afraid that I’ll waste time not building the life I’d hope to. While also having the ghost of my last alpha in the back of my mind. How should I go about this ?",,12,Kissingstrangers-,2019-11-19 01:49:09 RedPillWives,dx6nsn,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - November 16, 2019","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -65915,20 +65915,20 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,4,AutoModerator,1573909463.0 -RedPillWives,dsp7z5,Thoughts?,,https://i.redd.it/7xl5u8gwp5x31.png,14,CultistHeadpiece,1573085694.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,4,AutoModerator,2019-11-16 13:04:23 +RedPillWives,dsp7z5,Thoughts?,,https://i.redd.it/7xl5u8gwp5x31.png,14,CultistHeadpiece,2019-11-07 00:14:54 RedPillWives,dqnwg1,Celebrating those amazing women!,"This is the time to remember noteworthy people. My great - grandmother raised my grandfather and his siblings in times of war, poverty and dire circumstances. She worked outside her home in a hard, physical job, she did not want a career, she wanted her family to survive. Her Husband was traumatized by his war contribution and imprisonment in one of the most horrendous American /Allied prison camps. Yesterday they showed a documentation about the Krupps. I was blown away by the strong women who made their Husbands success possible by providing the home, an air of calm and raising the children. There were also some smart decisions made by them that influenced their Husbands/Sons success directly. -which women inspire you? Who does deserve special mention for their deeds?",,17,[deleted],1572717916.0 +which women inspire you? Who does deserve special mention for their deeds?",,17,[deleted],2019-11-02 18:05:16 RedPillWives,dqjvea,"Simple Questions - November 02, 2019","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,2,AutoModerator,1572699856.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,2,AutoModerator,2019-11-02 13:04:16 RedPillWives,do7pfd,Ways to inspire leadership in your man?,"Hello! Longtime lurker, new poster! Sorry for grammatical issues or if this doesn’t read correctly, English is not my first language :) I’m a 25F married to an incredible 28M after 6 years, and we are just about to celebrate our first anniversary! I moved to the United States for him (I’m French) and our marriage is going well. @@ -65939,13 +65939,13 @@ He’s a staunch defender of both me and of family values (we’re pretty conser I guess I am saying I want to inspire more masculinity/leadership in him but am not sure how! He’s not a bad or weak person by any means, but I was not very good at submitting/following him early in our relationship and I think it might have poisoned the well. Is there any hope? -Any advice would be helpful! Thank you, friends!",,45,gildheart,1572263158.0 +Any advice would be helpful! Thank you, friends!",,45,gildheart,2019-10-28 11:45:58 RedPillWives,dndleu,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - October 26, 2019","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,4,AutoModerator,1572095056.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,4,AutoModerator,2019-10-26 13:04:16 RedPillWives,dlex22,6 year LTR-should I stay?,"Hi everyone, I posted in the redpill women sub about 9 months ago and got some great advice. Unfortunately I’m still finding myself needing more help. I’ve spent the time since reading here and elsewhere. That post is in my history and could provide some background if by some miracle you want to read even more of my rambling! Basic Qs are at the bottom. I have been with my boyfriend a long time, and lived together most of our relationship. We have always discussed wanting kids, wanting to live near my family, etc and have the same goals. Money is an issue because while he is successful, his job is a bit “slow burn” and there will be time before he is stable. I have supported him strongly through his career development. A year and a half ago I moved to a foreign country to keep doing so and sacrificed my own career for that. Lots of details on that in my last post, but I wanted to include it here too. In retrospect I shouldn’t have moved with him before I was married, but what’s done is done. 9 months ago I was tired of feeling like I’d sacrificed everything and still didn’t have a timeline and felt like he was comfortable coasting. I talked with him on the advice I got previously and he was taken aback but understood and was on board. He said he hadn’t proposed because he didn’t feel like we were fully happy here. I said I understood and that was true but to me were already past that honeymoon point and dealing with the lows together is part of marriage and commitment. Me being unhappy was mostly because I felt like I was giving lots without getting that commitment. He agreed. We agreed to revisit it in august (our anniversary and the point we’d been here for a year). Over multiple future talks I thought he was indicating he was feeling ready. He told me he had family rings, and hinted he wanted it to be a surprise. I’ve been convinced he was going to propose multiple times over romantic vacations and family meet ups. In this time I’ve also been focused on trying to improve our communication and relationship. Therapy wasn’t really an option in our language because of living in a foreign country, but we read the Love Languages book and discussed together and were working through 8 Dates which I think is fantastic. I thought we were on the same page. I also spent this time trying to be happier in this country. I trained and ran a marathon. I worked on having less anxiety. I fought for and got a raise at work. I’ve tried to complain less. August came and went with him not bringing it up, but I didn’t want to nag and I know he’s going through a ton at work. @@ -65966,10 +65966,10 @@ If married or in a committed, monogamous relationship: How long have you been together? 6 yrs Is your relationship long-distance? No -Do you have an active bedroom life? Used to, but the passion fading is part of my issue. I still make an effort. The sex is present but very vanilla and not as frequent or exciting as it once was.",,18,redchoices,1571732673.0 +Do you have an active bedroom life? Used to, but the passion fading is part of my issue. I still make an effort. The sex is present but very vanilla and not as frequent or exciting as it once was.",,18,redchoices,2019-10-22 08:24:33 RedPillWives,dkidg1,What would you choose? Hypergamy.,"Long story short, I've been with my highschool sweetheart for almost 10 years now. We live together in one of my parents apartments, he ears a salary that is slightly above average household income for my country (which is still not very much) and he pays all the bills, he gives me almost all his wage on payday. We love each other, we've been through a lot, I know he would give his life or me. He is in a job that has decent potential for raises, he could end up with a wage 3 times of what it is now, We are not still married because the financial situation doesn't allow it. Well I've been recently listening to SheRaSeven's videos, and I've been restless ever since. I've resumed contact with a sugar daddy of mine from highschool and he asked me to marry him. He's a millionaire, has a factory, a ship, earns at least $500 000 a year and we were getting along fine. Obviously I do not have romantic feelings for him, but he's funny and I feel at ease around him. -I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place and feel that whatever I would choose I will still be unhappy. Please give some third opinion on my situation.",,0,pink_sugar_,1571570473.0 +I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place and feel that whatever I would choose I will still be unhappy. Please give some third opinion on my situation.",,0,pink_sugar_,2019-10-20 11:21:13 RedPillWives,dk3hzz,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - October 19, 2019","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -65977,8 +65977,8 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,1571490255.0 -RedPillWives,djtksk,How To Be Gentle - elegantwoman.org,,https://elegantwoman.org/how-to-be-gentle,16,[deleted],1571431508.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,2019-10-19 13:04:15 +RedPillWives,djtksk,How To Be Gentle - elegantwoman.org,,https://elegantwoman.org/how-to-be-gentle,16,[deleted],2019-10-18 20:45:08 RedPillWives,dgtbd2,Help me think rationally,"I’m getting married next year and idk if this is cold feet or what but I’m anxious and afraid of the future. I’ll my concerns simple... My fiancé is an awesome person.., kind, calm and never judgmental but I just don’t know where his head is at because he just doesn’t speak much. @@ -65995,12 +65995,12 @@ Like I said its mostly the motivation and job thing that worries me. I’m afrai I’m thinking about confronting him and telling asking him what he plans to do because I’m not marrying someone who going to make my life harder than what it unnecessarily needs to be. If he’s comfortable with the status quo, just be clear with me and maybe I can get the hell out before things get more complicated. -Am I nuts? Call me out if I am. And I did just read the surrendered wife I’m happy to apply it but I just don’t know how in this situation.",,4,Lina4950,1570875470.0 +Am I nuts? Call me out if I am. And I did just read the surrendered wife I’m happy to apply it but I just don’t know how in this situation.",,4,Lina4950,2019-10-12 10:17:50 RedPillWives,dedwly,"2nd wave feminism better without Dworkin, Daly, Steinam and Solanas?","I'm aware I'm asking this on a bias sub reddit, but that doesn't matter to me since there aren't a lot of subs that will accept this submission. Heads up, I'm not a red pill man or 100% anti-feminist. I just acknowledge that the majority of women in the feminists movement are marxists or incel like women who hate all men based on the Y chromosome alone and not how individual men behave. I have a brain, I am not susceptible to cockroach mentalities that liberals and conservatives fall to easily. The women I mentioned in the title viewed all sex between heterosexuals as rape which is obviously fallacious and untrue. These women were also unfortunately victims of bad circumstances in their lives especially Dworkin, I don't think I can say the same for Daly, she was a sociopath. -I personally think feminism would have been more productive if the anti-porn and anti-male movement of these women didn't see the light of day.",,0,[deleted],1570418546.0 +I personally think feminism would have been more productive if the anti-porn and anti-male movement of these women didn't see the light of day.",,0,[deleted],2019-10-07 03:22:26 RedPillWives,ddq710,How to stay attractive and attract your man as you age?,"I'm in a great marriage and don't think my husband would ever leave. However, I guess I have this fear that the tables might turn in 10 or 20 years, where he could be more attractive than I am (he's a really attractive guy and will probably age well ;-), and I might struggle to keep him attracted more than I do now. @@ -66011,12 +66011,12 @@ However, I think it would honestly make me feel more confident if I knew I could Anyone else dealing with this, and how are you coping with it? -Any YouTubers you recommend for beauty over 40 or 50 (I like HotandFlashy)?",,26,rosebyanyothername1,1570296114.0 +Any YouTubers you recommend for beauty over 40 or 50 (I like HotandFlashy)?",,26,rosebyanyothername1,2019-10-05 17:21:54 RedPillWives,ddmzxz,"Simple Questions - October 05, 2019","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,1570280658.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,2019-10-05 13:04:18 RedPillWives,dcem9b,Advice on relocating for a better family enviornment,"Hi all! I'm new to Reddit, and I am not sure if this is an appropriate place to post or not. I hope that it is, though. I am a long time lurker of this sub and I would love to get your lovely advice! :) My husband and I are planning to relocate within the next 5 years. We are both from the Midwest US, but from a large metro area. We are hoping to find a place more congruent with our desired lifestyle. @@ -66039,13 +66039,13 @@ Wants • Mountains and/or forests around the area • Water for kayaking - rivers, lakes, etc -P.S. I am sorry if this is all very off-topic, but we have been finding it very difficult to pin down locations to build our dream home and raise our family. I am a SAHW and I plan on homeschooling our children, and it is very important to me that we live in relative safety and close to nature. Our family and friends are all from the city we live in currently, and they don't understand why someone wouldn't want to move CLOSER to the city and not further away from it. I am hoping that at least a handful of you ladies may understand and be able to help us out with suggestions. Thank you again!",,10,Mangojuice92,1570042504.0 -RedPillWives,dbzohl,Halloween,"I'm over here looking for one of those cheesy midi dresses with a spooky print, ghosts, spiders, what have you, and I thought I would post asking for your best Halloween ideas! What are you favorite tips, tricks, traditions and ideas surrounding Halloween or Halloween-esque holidays?",,8,[deleted],1569963354.0 +P.S. I am sorry if this is all very off-topic, but we have been finding it very difficult to pin down locations to build our dream home and raise our family. I am a SAHW and I plan on homeschooling our children, and it is very important to me that we live in relative safety and close to nature. Our family and friends are all from the city we live in currently, and they don't understand why someone wouldn't want to move CLOSER to the city and not further away from it. I am hoping that at least a handful of you ladies may understand and be able to help us out with suggestions. Thank you again!",,10,Mangojuice92,2019-10-02 18:55:04 +RedPillWives,dbzohl,Halloween,"I'm over here looking for one of those cheesy midi dresses with a spooky print, ghosts, spiders, what have you, and I thought I would post asking for your best Halloween ideas! What are you favorite tips, tricks, traditions and ideas surrounding Halloween or Halloween-esque holidays?",,8,[deleted],2019-10-01 20:55:54 RedPillWives,dbgjlc,Inspiring women,"In my current situation, I don't have many (in which I mean zero) like-minded female friends around so I derive inspiration from online ladies who seem to be similar minded. I thought it would be nice to open a thread where we can share bloggers, YouTubers, et cetera who inspire us in some way toward higher ideals. -Also - hello everyone (I'm new here) and happy Monday :)",,18,[deleted],1569870586.0 +Also - hello everyone (I'm new here) and happy Monday :)",,18,[deleted],2019-09-30 19:09:46 RedPillWives,daik21,Any experiences on hypergamy as a virgin?,"I want to marry a provider and live as a kept woman. I’m 21, intelligent and good looking and working on becoming more feminine and desirable. @@ -66057,13 +66057,13 @@ Although I’m optimistic I’m sometimes afraid a modern day man won’t “tak But I don’t want to pressure myself into adapting to society’s norm just out of fear. So I’d love to hear any experiences of women who have done what I want to do and waited till marriage. -Especially if they did so with an affluent husband or a husband who wasn’t extraordinarily religious. As only religious men are being portrayed as being willing to do the wait.",,15,leinlin,1569689710.0 +Especially if they did so with an affluent husband or a husband who wasn’t extraordinarily religious. As only religious men are being portrayed as being willing to do the wait.",,15,leinlin,2019-09-28 16:55:10 RedPillWives,dafpr5,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - September 28, 2019","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,3,AutoModerator,1569675856.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,3,AutoModerator,2019-09-28 13:04:16 RedPillWives,d7a8be,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - September 21, 2019","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -66071,7 +66071,7 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,3,AutoModerator,1569071055.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,3,AutoModerator,2019-09-21 13:04:15 RedPillWives,d670g0,Not sure how to word this,"Me (F 24 year old) with committed monogamous relationship (M 24 years old) we've been together for about 4 months, our relationship was long distance but then he bought me a plane ticket after meeting me in america (my home country, and australia is his home country )We have an active bedroom life The problem is we strive to be better people and when I looked at his texts when he was visiting in america he was joking with his coworker that he would bring pringles, lots of lube and condoms ( Him and I spoke up and down about our views on sex, morality, philosophy, personal interests and goals and when I see this way he is speaking with one of his ""mates"" I lost all ground I was standing on I thought him and I had together, this was the third day he visited me in America I found out about his communication style with his friend from work... @@ -66082,8 +66082,8 @@ It's been an issue ever since it happened because I don't know how to forgive hi Most important Edit: I think it's a hard choice to leave because I need help scaling pros and cons of this relationship, thanks y'all to everyone who've commented. -Edit: we've been talking online prior to 5 months ago where he came to my country america after talking to me thru a discord app called ""charls.world."" where he showed idiot tendencies back then, an enthusiast of Samuel Hyde.",,5,reneeamelia,1568856789.0 -RedPillWives,d60gdf,Does the TRP lead to toxic men? An analysis,,https://thepowermoves.com/the-truth-about-the-red-pill/,0,lux_7,1568824907.0 +Edit: we've been talking online prior to 5 months ago where he came to my country america after talking to me thru a discord app called ""charls.world."" where he showed idiot tendencies back then, an enthusiast of Samuel Hyde.",,5,reneeamelia,2019-09-19 01:33:09 +RedPillWives,d60gdf,Does the TRP lead to toxic men? An analysis,,https://thepowermoves.com/the-truth-about-the-red-pill/,0,lux_7,2019-09-18 16:41:47 RedPillWives,d534k3,Ladies gatherings...,"Recently I was invited to join a group called Rural Homemakers that meets monthly. I am really looking forward to joining in the fun. Apparently it is a potluck and at each meeting a lady teaches a skill or handiwork. The women in my husband's family also just last month decided to make a monthly meet up for all the women and kids of the extended family so we could stay connected. It will be at a different person's house each month and a potluck as well so it's not an imposition. It is very fortuitous that these women are creating these bonding opportunities I can take part in. My closest aunt, who is in her 70's, meets weekly for coffee with a group of about ten women who are all very close. I have always thought that was very special and when my children started school I tried fairly successfully to mimic them. So now every Thursday during the school year I invite my closest two ""mom friends"" over for coffee or champagne during the day. &#x200B; @@ -66092,12 +66092,12 @@ Since the family gatherings and the Rural Homemakers came to me this last month, &#x200B; -Do you belong to any women's groups? I'm curious as to what other opportunities are available. Bunco, book clubs, church groups, DAR (usa), charities? How do you participate? Do you feel being around other women is valuable to you?",,22,[deleted],1568651521.0 +Do you belong to any women's groups? I'm curious as to what other opportunities are available. Bunco, book clubs, church groups, DAR (usa), charities? How do you participate? Do you feel being around other women is valuable to you?",,22,[deleted],2019-09-16 16:32:01 RedPillWives,d0vqao,"Simple Questions - September 07, 2019","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,1567861490.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,5,AutoModerator,2019-09-07 13:04:50 RedPillWives,cywv78,Changing for A Man,"Counter-feminine dating advice often touts the importance of “not changing for any man”. This can quite obviously be detrimental to girl game, and personal development supposing you are pursuing a man of high value. @@ -66105,9 +66105,9 @@ RedPillWives,cywv78,Changing for A Man,"Counter-feminine dating advice often tou 2. What changes have you made that improved your girl game/SMV/RMV? -3. How have those changes affected you personally, in terms of confidence, self esteem, lifestyle, contentment, etc.?",,16,jack_hammarred,1567467117.0 -RedPillWives,cyws8l,August Relationship Challenge Review!,What positive changes have you noticed because of your efforts in the August Relationship Challenge? What habits will you sustain going forward?,,5,jack_hammarred,1567466689.0 -RedPillWives,cy14ze,These are being handed out at the straight pride parade.,,https://i.imgur.com/qwhAYzq.jpg,4,rockynputz,1567286667.0 +3. How have those changes affected you personally, in terms of confidence, self esteem, lifestyle, contentment, etc.?",,16,jack_hammarred,2019-09-02 23:31:57 +RedPillWives,cyws8l,August Relationship Challenge Review!,What positive changes have you noticed because of your efforts in the August Relationship Challenge? What habits will you sustain going forward?,,5,jack_hammarred,2019-09-02 23:24:49 +RedPillWives,cy14ze,These are being handed out at the straight pride parade.,,https://i.imgur.com/qwhAYzq.jpg,4,rockynputz,2019-08-31 21:24:27 RedPillWives,cwwx4c,The importance of being accepted by partner’s parents- grandiose or small?,"So, in my post history you’ll see that I met a guy that I’m super excited about- things are still going smoothly. Only issue is I’m realizing I’m probably not going to be accepted by his parents. For a few reasons. Despite him not being worried about this, I’m not sure if I should shrug this as a sad reality, or if I should take this more seriously as an obstacle in our pursuit of being together. He comes from a Christian russian family, and as a conservative American who came from a small super loose family, I admire the traditions and culture very much. However, his parents don’t so much admire Americans- they want all their kids to marry other Russians and uphold their traditions. I’m not concerned about inability to uphold the traditions being that I would love to practice what I know so far myself, but I don’t know if that would matter to them. No matter how many small things I could do to hold traditions in the family, I was still raised differently and that will always shine through my personality, and to them, I will still be not-russian. @@ -66123,23 +66123,23 @@ What do you ladies think? Is issues with being accepted by your partner’s pare I would also like to say, I look forward to being part of this community that strives for women to be in healthy marriages- supported by married women and women who want the same thing. Having and raising a healthy family is my main goal, and I look forward to doing that by being a good partner and constantly working to improve myself. For this reason I was studying the RPWomen, and after learning about you guys I will now be looking forward to getting your input from my own situations as well as other ladies here sharing their thoughts and experiences. :) thanks for reading! :::EXTRA INFO::: -Why He’s Not Concerned about this -> traditionally, his parents cut contact with all their kids when they get married and move out- seems that he’s counting on this as a reason we would be unbothered by his disapproving parents. He also thinks that through his siblings meeting me and learning who I am, word would spread to his parents that I am admirable and worthy of being accepted, and that in the future they would come around to accepting me. He’s created this mental picture of how it’d work out and seems confident in it, and I trust he knows how his parents will be. However, I still this this all sounds super messy. I don’t know how I should feel. Would love to hear your thoughts, opinions, and any questions you may have on the subject and/or my situation. Thank you!!!",,14,eatavacado,1567059153.0 +Why He’s Not Concerned about this -> traditionally, his parents cut contact with all their kids when they get married and move out- seems that he’s counting on this as a reason we would be unbothered by his disapproving parents. He also thinks that through his siblings meeting me and learning who I am, word would spread to his parents that I am admirable and worthy of being accepted, and that in the future they would come around to accepting me. He’s created this mental picture of how it’d work out and seems confident in it, and I trust he knows how his parents will be. However, I still this this all sounds super messy. I don’t know how I should feel. Would love to hear your thoughts, opinions, and any questions you may have on the subject and/or my situation. Thank you!!!",,14,eatavacado,2019-08-29 06:12:33 RedPillWives,cuvuq7,How Is Your August Relationship Challenge Going?,"What progress did you make on your first goal? -For this last week, let’s set a new goal. Decide on something you’d like to start doing to build on your progress 😊",,3,jack_hammarred,1566665641.0 +For this last week, let’s set a new goal. Decide on something you’d like to start doing to build on your progress 😊",,3,jack_hammarred,2019-08-24 16:54:01 RedPillWives,cut553,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - August 24, 2019","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,1566651874.0 -RedPillWives,ctjmrc,What's the difference between this subreddit and the RedPillWomen subreddit?,"Hi, I've been following redpillwomen for some time now, and have just discovered this subreddit. After taking a quick peek around, I can't find much difference at all between the two in terms of ideology. I'm just curious- are you guys trying to do something different from RPW? are you in disagreement somehow? are you familiar? Are you familiar of the now quarantined subreddit TheRedPill?",,35,eatavacado,1566406763.0 -RedPillWives,csq82y,Accountability buddy for health?,"Would anyone be interested in being accountability buddies for losing some weight/eating healthy/just getting in better shape? I’m 30, married, and I’m just feeling so FAT! Ick. I have been exercising more and trying to eat better, but I think it would help if I had a buddy to chat with!",,8,Scorpioprincess83,1566261328.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,2019-08-24 13:04:34 +RedPillWives,ctjmrc,What's the difference between this subreddit and the RedPillWomen subreddit?,"Hi, I've been following redpillwomen for some time now, and have just discovered this subreddit. After taking a quick peek around, I can't find much difference at all between the two in terms of ideology. I'm just curious- are you guys trying to do something different from RPW? are you in disagreement somehow? are you familiar? Are you familiar of the now quarantined subreddit TheRedPill?",,35,eatavacado,2019-08-21 16:59:23 +RedPillWives,csq82y,Accountability buddy for health?,"Would anyone be interested in being accountability buddies for losing some weight/eating healthy/just getting in better shape? I’m 30, married, and I’m just feeling so FAT! Ick. I have been exercising more and trying to eat better, but I think it would help if I had a buddy to chat with!",,8,Scorpioprincess83,2019-08-20 00:35:28 RedPillWives,cs519n,Dax Shepard Wasn't Sure He Wanted to be with Kristen Bell,"While not a RP couple, I thought of RP strategy while listening to Dax Shepard talk about his journey to and with Kristen Bell. If you have the time, give it a listen. Only 5 mins. I thought it was a great example of the powers of living by example instead of struggling/nagging/trying to control things about our husbands we can't control. &#x200B; -EDITED TO ADD: Can't tell if the link worked, so adding it here. Sorry! [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P3EQfvEQSWU](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P3EQfvEQSWU)",,19,raspberryjam1,1566153040.0 +EDITED TO ADD: Can't tell if the link worked, so adding it here. Sorry! [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P3EQfvEQSWU](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P3EQfvEQSWU)",,19,raspberryjam1,2019-08-18 18:30:40 RedPillWives,crfx83,How should I handle my husband doing too much for me?,"If I haven't posed this question correctly, please delete. I have tried writing this over and over and I can't find any other way to word this without sounding like I'm bragging: My husband does too much for me and I don't know how I can help him relax more without making him think I don't deeply appreciate all he does for me. Some background: I am 28 and my husband is 30, and we have been together 10 years, married for 3. We have a 2 year old little boy. Due to my son having health problems, I quit my job and became a SAHM (the start of our red pill journey, and the start of the ""problem""). The job market where we are is not awesome, but my husband is steadily climbing the corporate ladder, and has done an amazing job supporting us. He makes enough for us to live on our own, but his parents have health problems and we wanted to save up money for a house, so we have been living with his parents. @@ -66150,7 +66150,7 @@ It is really, really hard some days, and I sometimes slip up and show how overwh I feel guilty that he comes home after a long and stressful day of work and wants to reward ME. I'm here to make HIS life easier, because he takes amazing care of me and our son. Is there a graceful way to get him to just relax and let me take care of things at home? -TLDR: My awesome husband feels the need to ""reward"" me for being a good wife. How do I let him know it's not necessary without seeming unappreciative?",,8,Cha0ticN3utral,1566006896.0 +TLDR: My awesome husband feels the need to ""reward"" me for being a good wife. How do I let him know it's not necessary without seeming unappreciative?",,8,Cha0ticN3utral,2019-08-17 01:54:56 RedPillWives,crlvqt,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - August 17, 2019","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -66158,21 +66158,21 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,1566047063.0 -RedPillWives,cr8po2,What Are Your Interior Decorating Tips?,"Building upon the recent discussion for keeping the home tidy, let’s chat about interior decorating! How do you keep your place gorgeous? Tell us all!",,8,jack_hammarred,1565972671.0 -RedPillWives,cq66sl,What keeps you motivated to keep a clean home?,,https://www.reddit.com/r/homemaking/comments/cq5rr0/what_keeps_you_motivated_to_keep_a_clean_home/,17,teaandtalk,1565766708.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,2019-08-17 13:04:23 +RedPillWives,cr8po2,What Are Your Interior Decorating Tips?,"Building upon the recent discussion for keeping the home tidy, let’s chat about interior decorating! How do you keep your place gorgeous? Tell us all!",,8,jack_hammarred,2019-08-16 16:24:31 +RedPillWives,cq66sl,What keeps you motivated to keep a clean home?,,https://www.reddit.com/r/homemaking/comments/cq5rr0/what_keeps_you_motivated_to_keep_a_clean_home/,17,teaandtalk,2019-08-14 07:11:48 RedPillWives,cot3gg,August Relationship Challenge,"Let’s challenge ourselves in our relationships! Whether we are in a romantic relationship or not, let’s get strategic about how to live out our feminine virtues to upbuild the ones we love ♥️ -This week, let’s focus on doing something “less”. Maybe a bad habit, a coping mechanism that we don’t need anymore, or something counterproductive to our goals, that we can stop doing or do less frequently. After all, less is more 😘 Let’s take this week to purge something so we will have more room for positive addition next week!",,25,jack_hammarred,1565502127.0 +This week, let’s focus on doing something “less”. Maybe a bad habit, a coping mechanism that we don’t need anymore, or something counterproductive to our goals, that we can stop doing or do less frequently. After all, less is more 😘 Let’s take this week to purge something so we will have more room for positive addition next week!",,25,jack_hammarred,2019-08-11 05:42:07 RedPillWives,cliixa,"Simple Questions - August 03, 2019","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,1564837460.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,2019-08-03 13:04:20 RedPillWives,ckgul3,Just want to say thanks,"A few years and profiles ago I came here with my head up my bum. You all straightened me out harshly and it was what I needed. After years of self improvement, took theonk mode advice, changed my perspective and habits, and I am happy to report that on the 21st I married a man I never thought was possible to lock down. -So thank you all. Harshness and honesty and what is hard to hear comes from experience and love. Soak it up. It does help and there are wise women here from many walks of life.",,32,[deleted],1564619014.0 -RedPillWives,cjadk6,"Check out A and B below. Help me reconcile? A- When does my need for my space become important then? Never, just in case his head gets turned? B - where his career tanking has required her to step in and take on these responsibilities... Does not the woman’s burden shoulder become a concern?",,https://i.redd.it/axhbr9lvg8d31.jpg,24,[deleted],1564402072.0 +So thank you all. Harshness and honesty and what is hard to hear comes from experience and love. Soak it up. It does help and there are wise women here from many walks of life.",,32,[deleted],2019-08-01 00:23:34 +RedPillWives,cjadk6,"Check out A and B below. Help me reconcile? A- When does my need for my space become important then? Never, just in case his head gets turned? B - where his career tanking has required her to step in and take on these responsibilities... Does not the woman’s burden shoulder become a concern?",,https://i.redd.it/axhbr9lvg8d31.jpg,24,[deleted],2019-07-29 12:07:52 RedPillWives,cieym1,I’m just a woman standing by a pile of laundry asking my man to notice me...,"The magic of my last post has worn off. Can I vent? Mr Poley is working hard at mo (as he should be and hasn’t always) and studying most nights. I know he has to do this. Im pleased he’s doing it. @@ -66228,13 +66228,13 @@ Then I’ll rub his shoulders, stroke his back, make his coffee and sit fucking Self care self care self care.. only goes so far. I’d love some non self care. -Thanks for listening. Advice? Criticism? Sympathy? Clearly I’m going wrong somewhere and need to do yet more differently.",,36,[deleted],1564215139.0 +Thanks for listening. Advice? Criticism? Sympathy? Clearly I’m going wrong somewhere and need to do yet more differently.",,36,[deleted],2019-07-27 08:12:19 RedPillWives,cih9gi,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - July 27, 2019","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,1564232670.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,1,AutoModerator,2019-07-27 13:04:30 RedPillWives,cfwxug,Laura Doyle deserves a medal,"The changes in my Husband are formidable. I’m seeing aspects of him I’ve not seen in a long time. This is prompted by my return home from a work trip. It’s normal for this to result in total devastation of the house, complete dereliction of any adult responsibilities other than ensuring children are fed and get to school (in however a chaotic manner is required) And a lengthy run down of all the drama. @@ -66252,7 +66252,7 @@ And finally (yes it goes on!) I opened his letter from hmrc (he’s still ignori I’ve moaned about his financial fuck ups before and his usual response to a windfall is ‘let’s go spend this on fun right now’ but instead he’s proposed a plan! A very good one that makes me very happy. And gives me hope! All because Laura Doyle made some good points... -He had nearly killed the goldfish but he’s ok so I’m letting that go...",,31,[deleted],1563698120.0 +He had nearly killed the goldfish but he’s ok so I’m letting that go...",,31,[deleted],2019-07-21 08:35:20 RedPillWives,cfll4u,"SHIT POST SATURDAY - July 20, 2019","Hello Ladies: Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos, tweets, and more in the comment section. Almost anything is fair game, especially if it is anti feminist, anti leftist, and anti SJW. All we ask is that you refrain from anything pornographic or gory, and that you mark things NSFW as necessary. @@ -66260,14 +66260,14 @@ Welcome to Shit Post Saturday!!!! Post any memes, funny pictures, comics, videos Have fun and let's all laugh together! -- RPWi's mod team",,2,AutoModerator,1563627866.0 -RedPillWives,cc58pf,Why do you guys dislike feminism,,,0,funkypatrick,1562900213.0 -RedPillWives,c9wj87,9 Empowering Quotes for Women,,https://i.redd.it/qyqtzoiq15731.jpg,81,ANIKAHirsch,1562435992.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,2,AutoModerator,2019-07-20 13:04:26 +RedPillWives,cc58pf,Why do you guys dislike feminism,,,0,funkypatrick,2019-07-12 02:56:53 +RedPillWives,c9wj87,9 Empowering Quotes for Women,,https://i.redd.it/qyqtzoiq15731.jpg,81,ANIKAHirsch,2019-07-06 17:59:52 RedPillWives,c9tdls,"Simple Questions - July 06, 2019","Hello Ladies: Ask any question that doesn’t require its own post! Subreddit [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/wiki/rules) still apply but the range of acceptable subjects is wider. Anyone can ask, and anyone can answer! Be sure to check for new comments periodically :) -- RPWi's mod team",,3,AutoModerator,1562418280.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,3,AutoModerator,2019-07-06 13:04:40 RedPillWives,c8su4i,"Update. I'm alive, I'm safe. I'm doing better now","Let me start by saying, this can happen to *anyone*. Yes, even you, reading this post now, in a million-dollar home, wearing clothes that cost in the thousands of dollars, who has a prestigious education, who's been married for years, who has the kind of life people would look at and call 'perfect', attractive, smart, successful you. I loved Bill. In many ways, I still do. I still miss him. Most days. @@ -66276,7 +66276,7 @@ But some days things...slip, and it's suddenly like I'm right back there, in my &#x200B; -Anyhow. Just checking in. Maybe one of these days I'll be confident enough again to have a 'captain'. But that still seems a long way off, even if I'm no longer in physical danger.",,37,janeafraid,1562184030.0 +Anyhow. Just checking in. Maybe one of these days I'll be confident enough again to have a 'captain'. But that still seems a long way off, even if I'm no longer in physical danger.",,37,janeafraid,2019-07-03 20:00:30 RedPillWives,c898zq,Appreciate the Man,"An update on progress since my previous post! [https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/bza4cc/feeling\_a\_lot\_of\_resentment\_need\_encouragement/](https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/bza4cc/feeling_a_lot_of_resentment_need_encouragement/) &#x200B; @@ -66304,7 +66304,7 @@ But do you know what, I think we are getting somewhere. So there you go. I can surrender, I might even be able to respect the man in time. -{ Will I be able to respect myself? Different story entirely }",,18,[deleted],1562074220.0 +{ Will I be able to respect myself? Different story entirely }",,18,[deleted],2019-07-02 13:30:20 RedPillWives,c7buoq,Advice on Saying Ouch,"A few years ago I developed a severe allergy to gluten and dairy that triggers life-threatening anaphylaxis. My doctor has recommended I avoid them entirely. It is very difficult to eat out. Although we have a good system in place, I still find it stressful to have to scour the menu online for multiple places to figure out where I can eat. The worst is when we are traveling. It has been a touchy issue in the past as my husband continually suggests places that he likes but that have limited to no options for me. For example, he will suggest a burger joint he loves that would require me to eat a burger with no bun and no cheese. He will accuse me of being picky for not wanting to eat this, even though he would chafe if I suggested he eat the same. I’ve told him repeatedly he’s allowed to go without me, but then he acts butthurt about it or goes on and on about how he “really wants to eat with me.” But really wanting to eat with me doesn’t mean actually suggesting a place where I would enjoy anything. Initially I realize I was trying to control him and he felt limited because HE couldn’t go someplace due to my allergies. In the past 18 months, I have gotten better by being clearer that he could just go without me (saying I won’t go, but he is genuinely free to go without me), so now we just eat apart more often. He also would constantly send me flight suggestions for Switzerland, and I repeatedly had to ask him to stop because going there would make it very hard for me to eat. It took 3-4 times but he finally stopped emailing me although he still mentions it occasionally. @@ -66341,8 +66341,8 @@ It’s not even the food stuff that bothers me so much - it’s that every time He says that my memory is wrong, but I really don’t believe that. Many of our arguments involve him telling me that my memory always makes him out to be the bad guy. This time I explained that I’m trying to be more verbal, because before he told me I need to be better about not bottling things up. There are some cross cultural issues here, and my culture is more inclined to grin and bear it, and then to avoid later. His culture is inclined to lash out in arguments and views my culture as involving “mind reading,” which I would say is just a matter of reasonable emotional intelligence. The problem is that as I grow more verbal, he grows more defensive. When I say what hurts me, he starts insisting that I shouldn’t be hurt. That’s why all this triggers so much stress for me - it’s not just about 1-3 times of him learning “my wife doesn’t want to go to places where she can’t eat food.” It’s that even though I’ve repeatedly told him why I don’t like something, he keeps ignoring me and then blaming me for being too sensitive. -I also considered that maybe I should have let him pick the three options instead? But he was very busy with work this week so I only did that to be helpful. Maybe the answer is just that we shouldn’t help friends on any week that he is too busy to choose.",,6,g_e_m_anscombe,1561892510.0 -RedPillWives,c6mh4k,Making weekend plans?,(Deleted),,6,[deleted],1561740284.0 +I also considered that maybe I should have let him pick the three options instead? But he was very busy with work this week so I only did that to be helpful. Maybe the answer is just that we shouldn’t help friends on any week that he is too busy to choose.",,6,g_e_m_anscombe,2019-06-30 11:01:50 +RedPillWives,c6mh4k,Making weekend plans?,(Deleted),,6,[deleted],2019-06-28 16:44:44 RedPillWives,c6hoa8,Advice on how to be more supportive,"\>How old are you (and how old is your partner) and how familiar are you with RPW? We are both 20 and I discovered this subreddit thanks to him a few weeks ago @@ -66361,7 +66361,7 @@ We've been together for 6 months now, just dating though \>Do you have an active bedroom life? -Only when we are together, which is every few months...",,2,[deleted],1561710351.0 +Only when we are together, which is every few months...",,2,[deleted],2019-06-28 08:25:51 RedPillWives,c5wcn5,Boyfriend will go to a bachelor party in Amsterdam,"&#x200B; * How old are you (and how old is your partner) and how familiar are you with RPW? @@ -66378,8 +66378,8 @@ My boyfriend told me he would be going to a bachelor party in Amsterdam in a few * What have you done to resolve this problem? -I've told him that I didn't like the idea but that I wouldn't control him and tell him not to go. I think the issue is also that we've never been on vacation together and that he won't really take time off or spend money to do expensive things like that with me. Overall it just makes me feel sick and like I'm not that important to him. Is this something that I should be okay with?",,19,notreallyintothat_,1561584947.0 -RedPillWives,c5ctq9,How to lose vanity lbs after kids?,(Deleted),,9,[deleted],1561486988.0 +I've told him that I didn't like the idea but that I wouldn't control him and tell him not to go. I think the issue is also that we've never been on vacation together and that he won't really take time off or spend money to do expensive things like that with me. Overall it just makes me feel sick and like I'm not that important to him. Is this something that I should be okay with?",,19,notreallyintothat_,2019-06-26 21:35:47 +RedPillWives,c5ctq9,How to lose vanity lbs after kids?,(Deleted),,9,[deleted],2019-06-25 18:23:08 RedPillWives,c52mts,Small victory: being a soft place to land,"I still have room to grow here, but I felt we had a victory for our marriage this weekend. My husband comes from a family of complainers. He’s very often right in his complaints (that is to say, he very often gets part of the problem correct), but sometimes that makes it hard to tell when he goes from issuing a correct complaint to becoming personally critical. I come from a debate background and a family that rarely lobs personal criticism so it’s been hard for me to notice this dynamic. @@ -66394,7 +66394,7 @@ Finally I stopped him. “No, you’re wrong. That’s not the problem.” (Here Although I have room to improve on my delivery, I am glad I chose to respond to his unwarranted criticism by instead complimenting him and being a safe(r) space to land. In our first year of marriage, I would have gotten defensive and replied back that I had given him an extra three weeks to practice if he really wanted to learn the Latin and the real problem is that he is too lazy to practice and his best friend from his college a capella group agrees with me, etc. He would have them pinned the problem on me, since I had encouraged him to try it in the first place. -Also, lesson learned: if he complains about something else at church, I’m going to have a boundary for what I will tolerate (“I don’t want to be around someone who complains so much, so I’ll go over to x until you’re ready to talk about something else”) rather than trying to control him by pushing him to do something he doesn’t really want to do.",,13,g_e_m_anscombe,1561437882.0 +Also, lesson learned: if he complains about something else at church, I’m going to have a boundary for what I will tolerate (“I don’t want to be around someone who complains so much, so I’ll go over to x until you’re ready to talk about something else”) rather than trying to control him by pushing him to do something he doesn’t really want to do.",,13,g_e_m_anscombe,2019-06-25 04:44:42 RedPillWives,c56qxk,On communicating during disagreement.,"•How old are you (and how old is your partner) and how familiar are you with RPW? 40 (44) extremely familiar - I used to read it before the subreddit split and people changed usernames due to doxing. @@ -66422,23 +66422,23 @@ I have tried to stay quiet and listen. However, this doesn't do anything to reso If married or in a committed, monogamous relationship: •How long have you been together? over 15 years. •Is your relationship long-distance? no -•Do you have an active bedroom life? yes - and I credit RPW for that. Several years ago I used the advice of having sex even though you're tired because 99% of the time you'll enjoy it and be glad you did. So true. Post kids, it was a boon to our sex life and helped us become closer.",,5,[deleted],1561460220.0 +•Do you have an active bedroom life? yes - and I credit RPW for that. Several years ago I used the advice of having sex even though you're tired because 99% of the time you'll enjoy it and be glad you did. So true. Post kids, it was a boon to our sex life and helped us become closer.",,5,[deleted],2019-06-25 10:57:00 RedPillWives,c406ue,Can I be a traditional mother?,"Ok, so I've been dating this girl for a few years and am confident we can make it work. I love her so much, and want to pop the question once I can afford a ring and a proper wedding. We've already talked about potential parenting and how we hope to raise them to be good and responsible. But theres a thing that worries me. I'm a transsexual woman in a lesbian relationship. I really want to raise kids traditionally, healthy, and am also unsure how effective we could be if the child's only father figure is my lover's roommate. -I want to be a good wife and potential adoptive mother. Would it be possible for someone like me to take an effective role in motherhood?",,2,[deleted],1561271582.0 +I want to be a good wife and potential adoptive mother. Would it be possible for someone like me to take an effective role in motherhood?",,2,[deleted],2019-06-23 06:33:02 RedPillWives,c3pgra,"Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - June 22, 2019","Hello Ladies: Feel free to post your advice, wisdom, or questions relating to all things babies!!! -- RPWi's mod team",,8,AutoModerator,1561208666.0 +- RPWi's mod team",,8,AutoModerator,2019-06-22 13:04:26 RedPillWives,c2k9bh,How to express disappointment respectfully?,"Hello! How do you girls go about expressing disappointment respectfully to your husband or commited partner? When shutting up are enabling a destructive behavior with bad consequences, or when you're very hurt or worried by their attitudes? -Is there any way to do this gracefully?",,10,Glow-and-grow,1560966764.0 +Is there any way to do this gracefully?",,10,Glow-and-grow,2019-06-19 17:52:44 askMRP,82875i,Cut the Shit,"See a lot of bullshit on here. Dudes complaining and not even responding to half the advice they get. Here's a guideline, for anyone considering posting a question here. &nbsp; Take a picture of yourself shirtless and print it out. On this piece of paper: @@ -66505,7 +66505,7 @@ If you do this exercise and still don't have an answer to your dumb fuck questio * Write down what Dread Level you are on * 11 * Write down how many more months you have to go until you are an attractive man with options - * 0",,202,donedreadpirate,1520275325.0 + * 0",,202,donedreadpirate,2018-03-05 18:42:05 askMRP,1ai6sv5,Man-Child looking for ways to stop taking shit tests from wife so personally,"Stats: 26, 2 Kids, Married 5 years, 195 20%BF, Bench: 9x185lb Squat: 10x215lb Deadlift: 3x395lb @@ -66534,7 +66534,7 @@ This morning I came up behind her to hug her while she was in the kitchen, as so Has anyone who has successfully gone through their MAP and had similar issues with not being able to ""turn on"" attractive behaviors with their wife and kill their unattractive behaviors? As I consider all of the content I have read it's difficult to figure out where to focus and start taking action -&#x200B;",,1,MySuperbUsername,1706995922.0 +&#x200B;",,1,MySuperbUsername,2024-02-03 21:32:02 askMRP,1ai46h5,Feeling Stagnated in Life and Relationship,"Looking to improve my life On paper, I should have a good life. Financially, Im well within the top 1 percent of humanity. Im in elite shape. No major health problems. 29 years old. However, for the past couple of months I ve felt insanely depressed and stagnated. **My issues:** @@ -66545,7 +66545,7 @@ The issue is I keep pushing my ""saved up money"" quitting number higher and hig **Relationship**: While I love my wife, we have issues. She is 15 years older. My wife make 2.5 million a year. The income disparity causes a lot of issues. Its odd because for my age, I make more than everyone i know. For her group of people and her age, Im basically poor. Her job also requires a lot of travel, which we fight over. Further, we also have fights over how involved her ex husband should be. She is also way more social than me and has 100x more friends than myself. Again, this isnt a major issue most of the time, but I wonder if their is some resentment on her part that she ""beats"" me in these areas. She also has 3 kids from a previous marriage. Generally, I dont mind the situation, but it does sometimes cause resentment on my part Would rate this 4/10 **Health**: No known issues and on paper, healthier than 99 percent of population Would rate this 8/10 -So there it is. Im looking to primarily improve in my business/financial/Job and social spaces. I think these would tangentially improve my relationship issues, which is why that one is not a focus for the time being. Anyone who has gone through similar things, please chime in. How would you suggest improving on these?",,1,IAM_NOT_GREG_SCHIANO,1706988980.0 +So there it is. Im looking to primarily improve in my business/financial/Job and social spaces. I think these would tangentially improve my relationship issues, which is why that one is not a focus for the time being. Anyone who has gone through similar things, please chime in. How would you suggest improving on these?",,1,IAM_NOT_GREG_SCHIANO,2024-02-03 19:36:20 askMRP,1af0juu,Thoughts on showing vulnerability,"Hi everyone. First time posting here with a question that I’m keen to get some different perspectives on. I discovered MRP 8 months ago, done a lot of the work suggested and it’s undoubtedly improved my outlook on life. Each month I seem to get a new understanding of all this wisdom. I’ve no doubt this time next year I’ll have even more of a deeper understanding. @@ -66570,7 +66570,7 @@ The key, I think, is to share vulnerability when you feel you need to share, but - Labouring over and over (vent or share, discuss the solution and then move past it) - Whining consistently (these should be limited to a handful of times a month max) -Am I completely missing the point with any of this? Part of me wonders whether I’m in some form of denial stage hence why I’m questioning certain MRP ideas, or do you agree that part of the MRP journey is deciding which ideas you accept and which you dismiss?",,9,Click-Foreign,1706651642.0 +Am I completely missing the point with any of this? Part of me wonders whether I’m in some form of denial stage hence why I’m questioning certain MRP ideas, or do you agree that part of the MRP journey is deciding which ideas you accept and which you dismiss?",,9,Click-Foreign,2024-01-30 21:54:02 askMRP,1ae8wpy,Vagiphobia example in NMMNG,"I just finished Chapter 9 in NMMNG and was slightly thrown off by Dr. Glover's example of a ""Nice Guy"" named Allen, hitting on a coworker on a work trip, seducing her, and then refusing to have sex with her after when she asks him up to her room. All because he likes the sexual energy, but doesn't want to mess up the work relationship. I'm struggling to see the difference between Allen's example, and some other writings on Plate Theory and gaming women, which seems to be a common RP practice. Is Allen's example primarily ""Nice Guy Behavior"" because he's acting out of frustration with his wife? Or is there something else about the example that I am missing? @@ -66580,12 +66580,12 @@ Thanks! EDIT: Chapter 9, not Chapter 10, the Audiobook numbering is off because of the preface. -&#x200B;",,12,moog_phatty,1706569066.0 +&#x200B;",,12,moog_phatty,2024-01-29 22:57:46 askMRP,19exgzn,How much time to start on OYS?,"I’ve wanted to start OYS posts for a while, so sometimes I’ll start drafting them in notes during the week, then the weekend comes and there’s no way I can explain how chaotic things go sometimes without spending an hour. Sometimes weekends are boring and not much to report. But for OYS #1, is that normally a first post to fill in all the background or do you guys go search through history to find stuff that’s left out? I’ve already had a few posts here that should fill in some back story, so I’m wondering how much the first few OYS posts should cover. I’ve been lurking for a long time (years, but only started attempting in fall 2023) but I don’t have spare hours per week right now. For those that do look back, no I haven’t quit drinking but I have reduced. Still not to a safe level or one that makes me lose what little frame I have sometimes. We tried couples counseling last year for only a few sessions, then got too busy. Trying again now, only been twice. Currently the solution to my sexual frustration is for me to jump into a bucket of ice, which my wife did purchase and is now waiting for me in the backyard. I’ve told the people that have seen it that it’s to help me recover from lifting. Still doing good in the gym. -TLDR: I want to OMS but I have so little time to fit in so much info I don’t know where to start.",,0,BraveNewWorld1722,1706146409.0 +TLDR: I want to OMS but I have so little time to fit in so much info I don’t know where to start.",,0,BraveNewWorld1722,2024-01-25 01:33:29 askMRP,19dkmkq,How far to push my jealous gf?,"I posted [yesterday](https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/s/Y9yrJeChtv) and received awesome feedback. I’m starting to read When I Say No, I Feel Guilty. @@ -66604,7 +66604,7 @@ This is where I’m not sure where the STFU and “do what you want” come in. So are you saying my goal should be to do this kind of stuff several times in a row until she accepts it? And just accept she will try to destroy me daily for… say… 6 months? And then it gets better? -Thanks for your advice",,0,nelty78,1706002253.0 +Thanks for your advice",,0,nelty78,2024-01-23 09:30:53 askMRP,19cys34,Jealous LTR GF,"I’m super excited to have found this subreddit - I started the red pill about 3 years ago and never looked back. Here’s what I’ve done: @@ -66628,7 +66628,7 @@ My dream is to get to the point where I can go get drinks with a buddy or go on Can MRP help me get there? How? -Thank you",,7,nelty78,1705938929.0 +Thank you",,7,nelty78,2024-01-22 15:55:29 askMRP,19bir8u,"Setting up my business, wife suddenly bitchy","Hey, long-time lurker here. Married for 10+ years with a 3.5-year-old child. I did my homework \~7 years ago and turned around a trainwreck of life and marriage. Almost stopped coming to the reddits, just enjoyed life. Read everything (maybe I need a re-read). Moved from literally a 110lbs twink to 165lbs at 5'8. Very solid finances; we own two properties, no mortgage, with the equivalent of another property in savings. Sex and life, in general, were very good throughout the years, and I had no concerns until now. We were always a crazy couple, much into partying with a big group of friends. @@ -66646,9 +66646,9 @@ I AM partying less, I'll give you that, spending more hours setting up my stuff. Other than that, nothing changed. I'm still having a social life. -What am I doing wrong/not seeing?",,17,i-ohp-your-bench,1705776568.0 -askMRP,19aop3m,Any advice for how to read the sidebar with a degree of privacy?,"I've been putting off reading a lot of the sidebar for years because it just seems fucking awkward to have this pile of books show up on my doorstep for my wife to dig through and evaluate. I realize a lot of these can be pirated as a PDF, and I've done that with some of it, but I'm curious to hear any other suggestions. How did you consume the sidebar?",,11,moog_phatty,1705685786.0 -askMRP,19aab78,Covert contract?,"I pretty new to this and I'm going through NMMNG and though it doesn't seem like me at all there are useful things in it. my question is that expecting a woman who stay s at home willingly to care for a child while you work, expecting her to take care of the house a covert contract? I suspect no but thanks for any input.",,6,[deleted],1705637806.0 +What am I doing wrong/not seeing?",,17,i-ohp-your-bench,2024-01-20 18:49:28 +askMRP,19aop3m,Any advice for how to read the sidebar with a degree of privacy?,"I've been putting off reading a lot of the sidebar for years because it just seems fucking awkward to have this pile of books show up on my doorstep for my wife to dig through and evaluate. I realize a lot of these can be pirated as a PDF, and I've done that with some of it, but I'm curious to hear any other suggestions. How did you consume the sidebar?",,11,moog_phatty,2024-01-19 17:36:26 +askMRP,19aab78,Covert contract?,"I pretty new to this and I'm going through NMMNG and though it doesn't seem like me at all there are useful things in it. my question is that expecting a woman who stay s at home willingly to care for a child while you work, expecting her to take care of the house a covert contract? I suspect no but thanks for any input.",,6,[deleted],2024-01-19 04:16:46 askMRP,199rbsb,Incongruence on desires?,"I believe I am starting to come out of the anger phase. I am beginning to realize that everything is my fault. Things are the way they are because they lacked frame and was unable to enforce boundaries. Now that is changing, I am starting to do what I want when I want to. Lately, I have focused on creating my map and sharing how my girlfriend can fit into it. My vision is to have a captain-first officer dynamic within a power couple framework. (i.e. We are both on an individual quest for self-betterment.) @@ -66673,7 +66673,7 @@ So my question is - for people who went down route 1 - \- How long did you give your SO before deciding to blow everything up?- How did you know that she wasn't going to make the cut?- Did you feel guilty when deciding to break it off? (There is a part of me that believes it will be time to call it off when I don't feel guilty for calling it off bc I will be clear that the relationship isn't working based on clear expectations). (I.e. One doesn't feel guilty for firing someone who hasn't met clear expectations) -Also, feel free to check me if my mental models are fucked up.",,9,alldownhillfrhere,1705587978.0 +Also, feel free to check me if my mental models are fucked up.",,9,alldownhillfrhere,2024-01-18 14:26:18 askMRP,198afij,Improving SMV by exposing wife to beta men,"I usually don't talk about tricks or hacks, but, I've been applying a new type of dread recently. Of course SWOLE is the GOAL and we should be praying at the iron temple, but, there are other moves we can do to increase our relative sexual value in the eyes of our wife. If you try to keep your wife from seeing Alpha men in person or in media and instead have her see more beta men more often it will help her see that your value is much higher than most men. People tend to notice the frequency of things that stand out and get the impression it is more common. So, if she sees alpha men every day, she'll assume most men are alpha. Ideally she sees at least 10 beta men for each alpha man to compensate. @@ -66688,7 +66688,7 @@ Does anyone have any other ideas about their experiences doing this or other way Just sharing notes. Strength Motherfuckers -Edit: forgot the /S",,0,InChargeMan,1705430761.0 +Edit: forgot the /S",,0,InChargeMan,2024-01-16 18:46:01 askMRP,197gom2,"Raising my boy right, and empowering my wife to help","Part of my MAP is to raise my boy to be a confident and kind person that you’d be proud to have on your side. My 8 year old only child gets a lot of attention. @@ -66705,7 +66705,7 @@ She has more of a short fuse so my boy has learned to get his way with her. I’ Are there any books or podcasts you’d recommend? -Have you gone through this",,8,billisdue,1705345194.0 +Have you gone through this",,8,billisdue,2024-01-15 18:59:54 askMRP,194dbbm,Telling how much I make to wife?," What is the approach? I don’t wanna tell but now she is mad because “ I am having secrecy in the relationship “. I tried to keep frame telling her that if she needs anything just let me know but now she is annoyed. @@ -66713,10 +66713,10 @@ For context we have been living together for 5y. I just don’t know what good w What is the correct approach? -Thanks.",,0,fmdfmd01,1705009233.0 +Thanks.",,0,fmdfmd01,2024-01-11 21:40:33 askMRP,1934d3b,What beginner routine did you start with and are you happy with the one you picked?,"Hello, i have been in and out of the gym past 10yrs, never really stuck to it. After finding this sub i can see how important it is. I tried SS a couple times, i think i tried the Reddit ppl a few years ago but it took too long time wise with the job and kids. I do bjj several times a week. -What beginner routine did you pick? Are you happy with the one you chose? What would you have done differently looking back? I saw a post today mentioning phraks workout but after reading reviews people were saying it's not great, but those reviews were from 5-10 years ago",,5,Hatertraito,1704878785.0 +What beginner routine did you pick? Are you happy with the one you chose? What would you have done differently looking back? I saw a post today mentioning phraks workout but after reading reviews people were saying it's not great, but those reviews were from 5-10 years ago",,5,Hatertraito,2024-01-10 09:26:25 askMRP,192hobl,Issues with bitterness with my LTR,"Background: 35M 33F, married 12 years. Together 16. 2 boys and another (boy/girl?) on the way Read: NMMNG,MMSLP, TMM, TSAONGAF @@ -66737,10 +66737,10 @@ Tried to reset it this morning but she is pissed. This is just one example of ho I just started to get to the meat of WISNIFG and literally read about the tools that could have helped last night before going to sleep but man I don’t know what to do. Outcome independence is completely lost on me and I am stuck with a constant angry face. -I’m lifting and reading as much as I can. STFU Seems impossible at the current time as she is pregnant and I don’t want to nuke my marriage for not providing comfort which I am trying to do but it’s just difficult. I take every possible perceived slight personally and I react. This is what I really need help with.",,6,RedRum-My-Ego,1704815230.0 +I’m lifting and reading as much as I can. STFU Seems impossible at the current time as she is pregnant and I don’t want to nuke my marriage for not providing comfort which I am trying to do but it’s just difficult. I take every possible perceived slight personally and I react. This is what I really need help with.",,6,RedRum-My-Ego,2024-01-09 15:47:10 askMRP,190jnea,Selecting a gym,"I found this place 4 or so months ago and started working out on a bowflex that I had stored away in the basement. I’ve seen pretty decent results on it but have maxed out the machine, have a long way to go to achieve my goals and do not want to stall my progress. I’ve been looking into a rack setup for a while, but am not in a position to drop a couple thousand dollars getting what I want. I started looking into a gym membership but I live in a rural area and do not have many options. -There is Planet Fitness and Anytime Fitness in the area. Both are out of my way and not terribly convenient, but was wondering if anyone else can provide any insight into these options. I have never worked out at a commercial gym before, no idea what they have for equipment, obviously going to have to learn my way around new machines. If anyone has any suggestions or links to old posts it would be much appreciated!",,4,nakedjenga92,1704601852.0 +There is Planet Fitness and Anytime Fitness in the area. Both are out of my way and not terribly convenient, but was wondering if anyone else can provide any insight into these options. I have never worked out at a commercial gym before, no idea what they have for equipment, obviously going to have to learn my way around new machines. If anyone has any suggestions or links to old posts it would be much appreciated!",,4,nakedjenga92,2024-01-07 04:30:52 askMRP,18zawfl,How Do You Practically Change Mental Models?,"**Stats:** 23yo 5'8"" 178lbs, 4y married, 3mo daughter @@ -66754,7 +66754,7 @@ I have some anger poking through in my OYS that has been noticed. After some fee The second part to this is that I know if I’m able to respect myself by putting in the work for self-improvement, I won’t care as much when someone tells me I’m “this” or I’m “that”. But at this point, I don’t think I’m hot shit because I’m not. Realistically, if someone says something bad about how socially awkward I am, they’re right, I am a little socially awkward. So how do I take that and not care? I do care and I’m working to improve it, but until I get there, it'll affect the way I view myself. So my question is: What are the practical ways to change a mental model? How do I actually drop my ego to the point of not caring what anyone thinks, regardless of what it is? Do you just repeat it in your head? Write it down a lot? Get in situations that trigger the emotion and talk yourself through it, kind of like exposure therapy? So far, I’ve been doing all of these things, but it’s still an issue for me. I’m wondering if I’m missing something. -",,10,King-Vemtren,1704472128.0 +",,10,King-Vemtren,2024-01-05 16:28:48 askMRP,18z4sdz,Helping My Ex Out Occassionally,"Stats: 5’8 / 156 lbs / Divorcing after 13 years Together Warning, a little bit of Victim Puke, but I do have a question at the end. @@ -66767,7 +66767,7 @@ Last month, she has suggested that we can go out to eat occasionally with our so She has recently asked me for help after we go our separate ways. For now, it’s little things like taking a apart a trampoline we bought for our son for Christmas, and putting it back together again at her new place. She is also taking a job that will require her to work late and so she won’t be able to pick up our son after daycare and has asked if I could pick him up, then she would get him after work. -Do I owe her this much? Do I owe her anything? Again, I only ask because of my drunk captain behavior. When she eventually finds another man and no longer wants me to help her out, do I just suck it up even though it will hurt like a bitch? This would be an easier decision if I found someone else, but I have to work on myself before that.",,7,FlayerofSpiders,1704454244.0 +Do I owe her this much? Do I owe her anything? Again, I only ask because of my drunk captain behavior. When she eventually finds another man and no longer wants me to help her out, do I just suck it up even though it will hurt like a bitch? This would be an easier decision if I found someone else, but I have to work on myself before that.",,7,FlayerofSpiders,2024-01-05 11:30:44 askMRP,18z1mbd,What would you have done in this situation? (Building Frame and failing at it),"Hi Everyone. So lately I have been on this journey of the MRP. @@ -66785,22 +66785,22 @@ When the bill came, I made sure to only pay my half of the meal, even if I was f After that, the girl profusely apologized and gave excuses about it. Now, I really don't mind the money... Wasn't that expensive at all, and I believe she was genuine about the situation but I still feel like shit.. So I wanted to ask you guys is it normal to feel so much like shit when you change your frame and the actions that come with it? And what would you have done? -Edit: Thanks guys for all the replies I do take into account everything you guys say even tho I normally dont reply because its is too much information.",,0,DECRYPT_ERROR,1704441660.0 +Edit: Thanks guys for all the replies I do take into account everything you guys say even tho I normally dont reply because its is too much information.",,0,DECRYPT_ERROR,2024-01-05 08:01:00 askMRP,18ww8jv,Did I Rambo?,"32/ 5’8 170lbs / married 3 years, wife (33), 2 year old daughter I’ve started my MRP journey about 4 months ago, focusing heavily on the pre-requisite materials like NMMNG, WISNIFG, and MMSLP. I was a pushover career beta for most of my life, but made quick changes in regard to recognizing and halting manipulation, putting my own needs first, and lifting. I emphasized a lot of my initial steps on establishing boundaries that were desperately needed against the disrespectful behavior directed toward me. Ive resorted to eliminating DLV behavior like DEERing by just STFU, and not reacting emotionally anymore to shit tests. Wife seems to have been getting more and more angry at this new behavior, “you used to be such a yes man but you’re just a cold asshole now”. She has progressed to saying more and more disrespectful things which I sense could be out of frustration because I’m not DEERing like a child at her anymore. Example: I left my slippers in the middle of the hallway the other day, she reacts “wow I could easily trip over these and die and you would be a screwed single dad having to pay for a baby-sitter”, I responded by just giggling because I find it so absurd. The same day my daughter was whining for daddy and didn’t want my wife, I was doing some Sunday cleaning and was really dirty so I couldn’t get to her before bathing, “she wants you, idk why you don’t even give a shit about her or you’d have some urgency to attend to her.” -These are some just recent examples but I’m noticing the less I react or care about her stupid angry moods, the angrier and more unhinged she is getting with her responded, like she is trying to find a breaking point to get me to react with anger. Did I move too fast or is this a giant shit test on pulling me back into her frame.",,15,testingblocks,1704219770.0 +These are some just recent examples but I’m noticing the less I react or care about her stupid angry moods, the angrier and more unhinged she is getting with her responded, like she is trying to find a breaking point to get me to react with anger. Did I move too fast or is this a giant shit test on pulling me back into her frame.",,15,testingblocks,2024-01-02 18:22:50 askMRP,18wt64x,Wife never wants comfort,"I'm almost 2 years into my MRP journey. Lots of ups and downs but even at its peak and to this day wife never seeks comfort. Meaning very few goodbye kisses sleep on opposite ends of the bed, after sex no cuddling etc. This doesn't bother me and in no way use those things as a source of validation but I'm wondering if this is normal/common? 18 yrs together. Early-mid 40s. -Fwiw, se has a bad case of Napoleon syndrome.",,9,thewayof-vikings,1704212334.0 +Fwiw, se has a bad case of Napoleon syndrome.",,9,thewayof-vikings,2024-01-02 16:18:54 askMRP,18uz0l4,"In YOUR experience, what small, simple changes / mindset shifts created the quickest results in your marriage?","This is not a post searching for a magic pill or a way to avoid doing the work. Don't fool yourself. There are no shortcuts. But for men who are starting to journey, what small changes could they implement RIGHT AWAY to start getting results, based on your personal experience? TLDR: What in your ACTUAL EXPERIENCE (not theory) were the highest leverage, highest ROI changes or tweaks to your relationship? This post is about creating meaningful short term results while we also working on the long term game. -Share below.",,13,hopeunseen,1703995995.0 +Share below.",,13,hopeunseen,2023-12-31 04:13:15 askMRP,18uz4xk,Building meaning - advice for a younger guy,"Ive been following redpill/blackpill/purplepill for awhile now. Current issue: lacking purpose in life. My friends are either partying, travelling or in LTR and Im not fitting in. Im not happy in my own skin. @@ -66830,7 +66830,7 @@ I could venture myself to make more money 100%. I could try and get a new girl. What can I use as motivation to keep going? Whats the purpose of improving your frame and your life if you dont believe in ""love""? It sounds super gay but please be patient (not condescending). -Open to harsh advice and eye opening criticism. Im really struggling with meaning at this stage of life.",,1,RedditSucks369,1703996393.0 +Open to harsh advice and eye opening criticism. Im really struggling with meaning at this stage of life.",,1,RedditSucks369,2023-12-31 04:19:53 askMRP,18tp1xc,Can obligated compliance turn into genuine compliance?,"I had a conversation with my girlfriend about not being ready to propose. She was upset but understood. She promised to finally follow through with the changes I asked her to make. @@ -66847,7 +66847,7 @@ So here is my question - Is the idea that I will turn her into the woman of my d &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,7,alldownhillfrhere,1703862120.0 +&#x200B;",,7,alldownhillfrhere,2023-12-29 15:02:00 askMRP,18sdcs3,Server case of Oneitis or…?," I have finally built enough courage to write to this community as I am asking for help and insights. I already know this is a severe case of oneitis but bare with me as I seem to wrongly apply the rules during this relationship. @@ -66876,13 +66876,13 @@ We shared so much together and I feel like things could work out. But I am ready I lift everyday and very successful financially. -The crazy part is during her travels and because I was very upset with her I met two ladies that I kept on rotation since then. But contrary to what the community says having these (hotter and younger) alternatives didn’t even come close to substitute the feeling I have to her. Not sure how to analyze this.",,0,Livid-Original-2824,1703716639.0 +The crazy part is during her travels and because I was very upset with her I met two ladies that I kept on rotation since then. But contrary to what the community says having these (hotter and younger) alternatives didn’t even come close to substitute the feeling I have to her. Not sure how to analyze this.",,0,Livid-Original-2824,2023-12-27 22:37:19 askMRP,18scby8,"Is there a ""how to"" for field reports?","I didn't find anything on a simple search. What goes into one? Audience: Is it more for international or external consumption? -Thank you in advance",,1,father_of_6,1703714061.0 +Thank you in advance",,1,father_of_6,2023-12-27 21:54:21 askMRP,18lxow2,Practical Female Psychology - Dissociation,"Hi everyone Can someone provide me with more information about this topic? @@ -66893,12 +66893,12 @@ Rian Stone tries to explain a little in his video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=frfzN4T0VrA&list=PLXmCJkDEG4IopqTVgVDr78wUWNRwdJMSD&index=5 -But I don't fully understand the concept yet.",,5,DECRYPT_ERROR,1702977047.0 +But I don't fully understand the concept yet.",,5,DECRYPT_ERROR,2023-12-19 09:10:47 askMRP,18lh5wp,Why is ilybinilwy so impossible to come back from?,"Question In title. Shouldn't coming back from this be the same as any low desire scenario? Increase smv and become a high value individual? -Interested to hear thoughts, I have read through the entire thread around this.",,10,TeBloody9,1702927630.0 +Interested to hear thoughts, I have read through the entire thread around this.",,10,TeBloody9,2023-12-18 19:27:10 askMRP,18keywa,"Neglectful Husband, and Wife Wants a Divorce"," 5’8 / 159 lbs / 43 / 1 Kid / Together 13 years, Married 8 @@ -66920,8 +66920,8 @@ There is a lot more to the story, little details and I’m basically doing all t I’m not really sure what I’m doing right now. I am reading NMMNG and going through the side bar. I started reading MMSLP, but it no longer seems applicable right now as I received the “ILYBINILWY” line last month. My wife has been checked out for a few months now and has rarely shown an emotional response to any of my actions. She has gotten angry with me when I try to bring up the past, or try to fix the relationship. Last thing, I became too open with her over the years and she knows of my past and PUA. This year, I didn’t realize it, but she had been probing me about redpill stuff and I broke the first rule of Fight Club. I think she is trying to run game on me now, but it is fake and I can tell when she is manipulating me. -I’m starting to realize that the relationship is not fixable and am ready to prepare accordingly. But, a part of me is still doing what I can to save the marriage. Right now, we no longer have sex or kiss. I haven't had sex since late November or even masturbated. I do hug her still and cuddle. I have been also trying to flirt with her a little as well...just because that's what I do. She used to wear two rings, but has taken one off after my last blow up. I've been more active around the house, cleaning up and cooking, trying to get into a routine for me. I've also been caring for my mother as well who has been in depression since my dad died in 2020 and is about to lose her home. So, shit is just crazy now.",,0,FlayerofSpiders,1702810755.0 -askMRP,18jskyl,Frame question,"I’m working on building frame. It’s been tough for me. I’m a life long people pleaser and this has been a recurring theme I keep seeing in my life. I’m trying to establish a list of qualities to help me focus better on areas in my life that need adjustment to cut out the people pleasing behavior. For example, I’ve started out working on confidence. I see lack of confidence as a big problem for me. I am defining what confidence means to me. How I could act more confidently. What would I look like if I was more confident. What would I say if I was more confident. I’m looking to repeat this process with other virtues of frame, by journaling, thinking, meditating and practicing. The end result of this is that I’ll be an expert on confidence that will then live out this quality. My question to this sub is what other ideals, virtues or personality traits would you consider to be essential in your building and then maintaining frame? Also helpful would be any ideas that might be helpful in making these frame traits stick in your life. I think of all the aspects of red pill theory I’ve brought into my life, establishing and maintaining frame is where I am need to improve the most.",,5,thunderdan76,1702737618.0 +I’m starting to realize that the relationship is not fixable and am ready to prepare accordingly. But, a part of me is still doing what I can to save the marriage. Right now, we no longer have sex or kiss. I haven't had sex since late November or even masturbated. I do hug her still and cuddle. I have been also trying to flirt with her a little as well...just because that's what I do. She used to wear two rings, but has taken one off after my last blow up. I've been more active around the house, cleaning up and cooking, trying to get into a routine for me. I've also been caring for my mother as well who has been in depression since my dad died in 2020 and is about to lose her home. So, shit is just crazy now.",,0,FlayerofSpiders,2023-12-17 10:59:15 +askMRP,18jskyl,Frame question,"I’m working on building frame. It’s been tough for me. I’m a life long people pleaser and this has been a recurring theme I keep seeing in my life. I’m trying to establish a list of qualities to help me focus better on areas in my life that need adjustment to cut out the people pleasing behavior. For example, I’ve started out working on confidence. I see lack of confidence as a big problem for me. I am defining what confidence means to me. How I could act more confidently. What would I look like if I was more confident. What would I say if I was more confident. I’m looking to repeat this process with other virtues of frame, by journaling, thinking, meditating and practicing. The end result of this is that I’ll be an expert on confidence that will then live out this quality. My question to this sub is what other ideals, virtues or personality traits would you consider to be essential in your building and then maintaining frame? Also helpful would be any ideas that might be helpful in making these frame traits stick in your life. I think of all the aspects of red pill theory I’ve brought into my life, establishing and maintaining frame is where I am need to improve the most.",,5,thunderdan76,2023-12-16 14:40:18 askMRP,18gg3x7,Advice on dealing with depressive wife who seems to want me to manage her emotions,"I’ve gotten a lot better at dealing with shit tests but still struggle with my wife’s depression. In all honesty, had I fully processed how bad my wife was in this regard, I don’t think I would have married her. My wife is highly emotional (more so than other women). She does not handle stress well and tends to either explode (yelling, cursing, slamming doors, occasionally throwing or hitting something), impulsively do something (road trip, quitting job, etc.) or cave in (depressive episode). These are also issues she has had with her exes, some work places, and previous roommates. @@ -66932,15 +66932,15 @@ Historically I have often tried and failed to fix her moods, from frivolous ones I don’t feel comfortable just ignoring someone who is vaguely suicidal even if I doubt that she’d really do it. Also don’t know what to do. Anything I try to say to reassure her she fights back on. If I listen to her vent she goes on for hours and nobody feels better. I also don’t want to spend tons of time and energy playing therapist. I do set boundaries when she’s lashing out now, but she still says that I’m not giving her what she “needs” when she’s upset. -Our bedroom isn’t dead anymore and our relationship has improved a lot, but I’m not sure how to lead here. It’s like she expects me to fix her depression for her. If I can’t or get the slightest hint of upset, she says that I “can’t handle her emotions” and recently “I want someone decisive and strong”. I still don’t know what to do. Any advice or readings?",,9,mdjfodiepcklrn2,1702364571.0 +Our bedroom isn’t dead anymore and our relationship has improved a lot, but I’m not sure how to lead here. It’s like she expects me to fix her depression for her. If I can’t or get the slightest hint of upset, she says that I “can’t handle her emotions” and recently “I want someone decisive and strong”. I still don’t know what to do. Any advice or readings?",,9,mdjfodiepcklrn2,2023-12-12 07:02:51 askMRP,18aloh7,How to mrp with chronic pain,"Hey folks, I've been struggling with chronic Lyme disease my entire life. I've completed years of antibiotics and antivirals and I'm as good as I'm going to get. I balance pain with medical marijuana. I cannot work out crazy hard like red pill side bar prescribes, I end up with injury and staying out of the gym. I need examples of some middle ground here. -FWIW I'm not some roly poly never going to the gym. I'm 6' 170lb, 16%bf. I like the gym and working out I just have lots of pain issues and have to create my own workout plan that allows me to stay in the gym with consistency and no injuries.",,8,Revolutionary-Bud420,1701701100.0 +FWIW I'm not some roly poly never going to the gym. I'm 6' 170lb, 16%bf. I like the gym and working out I just have lots of pain issues and have to create my own workout plan that allows me to stay in the gym with consistency and no injuries.",,8,Revolutionary-Bud420,2023-12-04 14:45:00 askMRP,189kh2c,How Do You Keep Grinding?,"I've never been the person to set an end goal; the goal was always ""do better than yesterday""... That's served me very well for most of my life. Now I'm making $150k/yr after tax, holding about 12% body fat at 5'9 and 205lbs, have 2 houses, and get laid whenever I want... and I'm not sure how to keep on driving now that I'm most of the way to where I want to be. The goal is still ""do better than yesterday"", but I'm slipping an could use some pointers from those who've dealt with this themselves. -So, once you're 80% (arbitrary) of the way to where you want to be, how do you develop the motivation/dedication/commitment to keep grinding?",,11,BecomingABetterMan1,1701574092.0 +So, once you're 80% (arbitrary) of the way to where you want to be, how do you develop the motivation/dedication/commitment to keep grinding?",,11,BecomingABetterMan1,2023-12-03 03:28:12 askMRP,186u3ff,Separation Prep question and suggestions [request].,"In MRP it is suggested never leave your house, I have so much negativity for past couple of weeks that I want to pack my stuff and go vanish. @@ -66952,7 +66952,7 @@ so want to brainstorm ideas about how to tread forward. TL DR, want to run away but have kids and house. If I leave I will be blamed for running away - if I stay I am blamed for ruining everything.",,2,dontgetusetoit,1701276844.0 + if I stay I am blamed for ruining everything.",,2,dontgetusetoit,2023-11-29 16:54:04 askMRP,186a05b,What is love after swallowing TRP?,"Hey all, Simple question here (see title). 33m /6’2/160lb 185BP/155sq. I respect this community a lot and I’ve been red pill aware for several years now. @@ -66965,12 +66965,12 @@ Which makes it VERY hard to get my head in the space of marriage if I know that As veteran MRPers, assuming you didn’t become RP aware after marriage, how did y’all ultimately decide to commit? -Edit: Solid answers here guys. Seriously taking them to heart. Keep em coming. ",,15,Tousen71,1701213321.0 +Edit: Solid answers here guys. Seriously taking them to heart. Keep em coming. ",,15,Tousen71,2023-11-28 23:15:21 askMRP,185nti0,Help finding a post,"There was a post I thought I saved but didn’t… not sure if it was a post or comment But it had an interesting section where the user laid out each book they had read and their biggest takeaway from each book. -If anyone recalls that post please share the link with me.",,4,established_1991,1701146640.0 +If anyone recalls that post please share the link with me.",,4,established_1991,2023-11-28 04:44:00 askMRP,184gmqg,No More Mr. Nice Guy and Healthy Masturbation,"35 years old. 6'2"". 189 pounds. BP- 245 x 5. DL - 335 x 6. Self employed and fairly successful artist. Married with 2 kids and a third on the way. Wife is in first trimester. I'm new to MRP the last few months and have gotten through NMMNG three times so far. I used the audiobook so it's been nice to hear it a few times over at the gym. I've read WISNIFG once but have spent more time digging into NMMNG because I feel there's a lot of work there to do still. @@ -66987,8 +66987,8 @@ I have lived life as a neurotic bundle of sexual shame since childhood and mask I think that this practice could be a very important part of growing and healing old dysfunctional attitudes towards sex and my own pleasure. It has already helped me become more playful about sex with my wife. I feel way less of a hit to my ego when sex is denied. I view it more as fun flirting now and keep having fun even after rejection. Usually she comes around pretty quickly same day after rejection, but the couple times she hasn't.... I've been totally fine. Huge improvement. -I'm in the baby stages of changing old and dysfunctional behavior, but I'm seeing tangible progress on my biggest issue. and I thought that was worth sharing.",,30,Burneraccountzzzzzz,1701021836.0 -askMRP,184u1hv,MAP visual? (Athol Kay),"Does anyone have a visual or an exhaustive list of the Red, Yellow and Green actions of the MAP from Athol Kay?",,2,established_1991,1701057819.0 +I'm in the baby stages of changing old and dysfunctional behavior, but I'm seeing tangible progress on my biggest issue. and I thought that was worth sharing.",,30,Burneraccountzzzzzz,2023-11-26 18:03:56 +askMRP,184u1hv,MAP visual? (Athol Kay),"Does anyone have a visual or an exhaustive list of the Red, Yellow and Green actions of the MAP from Athol Kay?",,2,established_1991,2023-11-27 04:03:39 askMRP,182sipd,LTR broke off/scarcity mindset,"Stats for 1 rep max: BP - 260lbs, DL - 235lbs, OP - 85lbs dumbels, Squats: 235lbs recovering from injury. Books since I started my journey: Models, Robert glover's books, Rian Stone's books, WINIFG (currently reading it), TWOTSM, 3% man, Rollo's book. @@ -67003,7 +67003,7 @@ What books to read or what to do to fix my mindset when everywhere you go women On paper I'm in the top 10% of guys physique and moneywise, but my mindset if fucked, I have become needy like before and the nice guy still dominated me. What to do to fix it? -I deleted my previous post, cause I'm asking different questions. I would ask TRP but its down.",,7,garciast,1700833817.0 +I deleted my previous post, cause I'm asking different questions. I would ask TRP but its down.",,7,garciast,2023-11-24 13:50:17 askMRP,181hv94,Was this a shit test?,"My stats, reading, etc, see: [This week's OYS](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/180ccz4/own_your_shit_weekly_november_21_2023/ka6ho5m/?context=3) for that context Up front: I am a retard, autist, and MRP beginner. I have read the [Shit Test Encyclopedia](https://illimitablemen.com/2014/12/14/the-shit-test-encyclopedia/) three times. I have read and re-read the fitness test chapter in MMSLP. I either still don't understand, or I am just too autistic to recognize the tests, or my wife isn't testing me at all. I'm not sure which. @@ -67018,7 +67018,7 @@ We did end up fucking that night, but it was a 4/10 at best. I felt like it was a test because she called attention to my sexuality and essentially told me I'm unattractive. I figured passing meant owning my sexuality and not giving a fuck. I owned it but I didn't have DNGAF. -Was this a fitness test? If so, what kind? Did I pass? What would you have done?",,4,vitrael2,1700682396.0 +Was this a fitness test? If so, what kind? Did I pass? What would you have done?",,4,vitrael2,2023-11-22 19:46:36 askMRP,180ao74,Should I cut the allowance of my entitled wife?,"Background: me 38M, wife 40F, married for 13 years. Two primary school kids. Been hardcore beta all my life. Started reading on MRP materials around a couple of months ago. Realized that wife had become entitled and openly disrespectful, but I tolerated it for many years because that's what a BP husband was supposed to do. @@ -67037,7 +67037,7 @@ Yes, I realize that desire cannot be negotiated. And I'm probably still in the a Also - while I'm not lacking in money, keeping more of it to myself has the added benefit of retaining more for myself if we do divorce. -Have at me - I'm socially challenged so break it down into simple principles if you can.",,4,AlphaChemical,1700548573.0 +Have at me - I'm socially challenged so break it down into simple principles if you can.",,4,AlphaChemical,2023-11-21 06:36:13 askMRP,17xzna7,How to behave when one is sick,"Monday (regular working day) we realized that my wife got some bug bites type marks on the back. Tuesday morning she went to the doctor and got told that these are bed bug bites. I made lunch. But by evening she started complaining of body ache, internet research told us it may be shingles. Dinner was made by her. @@ -67057,7 +67057,7 @@ This is after I make daily breakfast and help with food, get kids ready for scho Question - I want to fix this situation without divorce. Though I think about it atleast once a month for last 15 years. -TL DR- how to fix shitty tongue, and disrespectful behavior without divorce and shouting.",,0,dontgetusetoit,1700286270.0 +TL DR- how to fix shitty tongue, and disrespectful behavior without divorce and shouting.",,0,dontgetusetoit,2023-11-18 05:44:30 askMRP,17vuwpg,Public Emasculation Shit Test - best response?,"I was re-reading some of Jacktenofhearts posts, (lets call this preventative measures to avoid regression), and one that jumped out at me more than others this time was this one: [https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/30llge/comment/cpu13d6/](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/30llge/comment/cpu13d6/) @@ -67086,7 +67086,7 @@ My 2cs from experience, what kind of worked for me was Agree and Amplify. My wif Just for clarity, I'm not looking for personal advice here. Consider this note swapping. I haven't read anywhere a decent way to deal with this kind of shit test. Inspire me with your creative responses. -&#x200B;",,16,dolanthesemicolon,1700058795.0 +&#x200B;",,16,dolanthesemicolon,2023-11-15 14:33:15 askMRP,17vwhyu,Dated a post wall woman at 24,"I am 25 years old. I just got out of a one year relationship with the crazy BPD Latina. She was officially diagnosed while we were together. She was six years older than me. I met her when I was 24 and she was 30. For the same reasons I stayed, are the same reasons that it fucked me eventually. When I met her I was 23, turn 24. I was in a rampage of fucking different kinds of women living a red pill lifestyle. It wasn’t until I met her where I did fuck her on the first date and I was hooked on her craziness. There were red flags everywhere… the first one being she told me she tried to have a threesome on the first date, the other red flag was after I fucked her, she said, “ so that’s it then” meaning were one and done but getting me to chase her so she wouldn’t feel like a whore… essentially she’s done this so many times. Being the romantic, fuck I was, I was like no it’s not over now we meet again. @@ -67115,7 +67115,7 @@ During our three month break up, she is blocked and unblocked me about 2000 time I’m working right now and living my life travelling and meeting new women and I’m reframing myself to acknowledge that this was just craziness that I was attracted to, and not actually her. -TL;DR dated crazy, and eventually got fucked",,10,Unlikely-Strategy596,1700063262.0 +TL;DR dated crazy, and eventually got fucked",,10,Unlikely-Strategy596,2023-11-15 15:47:42 askMRP,17vvz3t,"Has anyone asked by your wife ""what is your plan for our life/relationship moving forward""","**Edit**. Lifting in fact does...*exhaust the hamster.* @@ -67162,7 +67162,7 @@ So cut me into pieces or ban me. I know there is a lot of hers and she's in this Every hole in my ship I try to patch, she's right there with the cannon to blast another hole in it it feels. -This is a tough week and not being able to post on OYS sucks.",,3,nevertoughever,1700061820.0 +This is a tough week and not being able to post on OYS sucks.",,3,nevertoughever,2023-11-15 15:23:40 askMRP,17v0lnc,Victim Puke - I need help,"EDIT: I really appreciate the feedback. There is great advice given here. Anyone that stumbles on this post should read through them. I have been reading MRP and TRP and trying to apply principles for months but I don’t think anything has been as helpful for my mind space than the response to this post. Without putting in the extremely hard work the rest are just parlor tricks and will not lead to self fulfillment. Accountability from men is important and if you’re lurking you’re not getting it. I will start posting OYS immediately, started lifting this morning and look forward to what comes of it. 35M married 12 years together 16. Two kids with another on the way. 6 feet tall 198 pounds. Been lurking for a few months. Read NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG. Currently reading through the pdf of the sidebar. Working on getting back into lifting. I am going through physical therapy for my shoulder. I am exercising and have lost 30 pounds since the new year. @@ -67177,25 +67177,25 @@ My emotions about this are so strong I am not sure what to do. Do I nuke it? Dan I know I fucked up. I know I have to get lifting quick. I am doing the PT because I don’t want to get the surgery on my rotator cuff if I can put it off so I’mm not entirely out for months. I just feel like I have been without frame for so long that I can’t even fathom being in my own. -I don’t want to rage quit but that is my strongest pull. Seriously how do I get my mind right? I started implementing assertiveness when I first started reading RP stuff and it was amazing. I want the end result of MRP but can barely see through this anger and rage.",,12,RedRum-My-Ego,1699962693.0 +I don’t want to rage quit but that is my strongest pull. Seriously how do I get my mind right? I started implementing assertiveness when I first started reading RP stuff and it was amazing. I want the end result of MRP but can barely see through this anger and rage.",,12,RedRum-My-Ego,2023-11-14 11:51:33 askMRP,17r2dil,Casual conversations with wife,"M40, married to F34 for 15 years, 1 5y.o. daughter, working on our second child. Lifting 6 days a week, visible abs with vascularity. Management career in tech. She's also in tech, individual contributor. As you see, we married early and young. My main issue back then was basically too few male friends, low confident beta, I treated her as a friend in addition to a lover. She's similar: raised by an elderly father and barely engaged mother. So we were doing stuff together: programming and lifting, then we immigrated to Canada together too. -Things started to change big time after our first kid. I started assuming more responsibilities and lead more, lift more, have male friends. She's also becoming more feminine. Seems like we're on a good track, mostly. One of the issues is our evening conversations. She keeps bringing up the work and tech stuff as we used to discuss in the past. Sometimes I draw a hard line that I don't want to discuss that anymore, sometimes I joke about that. But here's the problem, from a guy who's been in this shit for 15+ years: what do I actually talk about with her? We're so busy, we don't watch tv shows. If we're lucky, we discuss her friends or other parents from school. I need options :) Tia and roast me if you want",,15,jgstromptrsnen,1699495864.0 +Things started to change big time after our first kid. I started assuming more responsibilities and lead more, lift more, have male friends. She's also becoming more feminine. Seems like we're on a good track, mostly. One of the issues is our evening conversations. She keeps bringing up the work and tech stuff as we used to discuss in the past. Sometimes I draw a hard line that I don't want to discuss that anymore, sometimes I joke about that. But here's the problem, from a guy who's been in this shit for 15+ years: what do I actually talk about with her? We're so busy, we don't watch tv shows. If we're lucky, we discuss her friends or other parents from school. I need options :) Tia and roast me if you want",,15,jgstromptrsnen,2023-11-09 02:11:04 askMRP,17qu3ai,Sex frequency situation,"M 36, W32 3 kids. lifting since teenager. 6ft6 270 15% bf. Been reading sidebar and lifting consistently last 6 months and have been building my frame, leading more, non reactive, mirroring her emotions and being assertive. Own my shit daily. My question is we have short trips away together for her work. She is super feminine and we fuck like rabbits until I literally am not interested. We then come home and it all stops like a tap has just been turned off. We are super busy with our businesses, work, kids etc. I get it. But for example the sex literally stops for 2 weeks after returning from these trips. she has said she needs more to be MORE connected emotionally. This is frustrating slightly because I feel I’m HV and deserve to be fucked daily without question. I feel like I’m definitely attractive physically , communication wise and emotionally. -lost as to why this js happening. What could be the reason?",,11,Rp_Guar,1699473465.0 -askMRP,17q8u92,What Does Genuine Desire Look Like?,What is the prime example of female Genuine Desire that you have experienced *personally*?,,13,BecomingABetterMan1,1699402591.0 +lost as to why this js happening. What could be the reason?",,11,Rp_Guar,2023-11-08 19:57:45 +askMRP,17q8u92,What Does Genuine Desire Look Like?,What is the prime example of female Genuine Desire that you have experienced *personally*?,,13,BecomingABetterMan1,2023-11-08 00:16:31 askMRP,17p9qgf,Gauging own and wife's sex rank?,"29yo, 6' 4"", South Asian (Pakistani), 262 lb (27% BF) Lifts so far: OHP: 132lb, BP: 175lb, Squat: 220, DL: 264lb As in the title - how does one actually determine their own and their wife's sex rank? -I'm currently reading through MMSLP and there's a bit on sex rank, and it got me thinking about how we actually determine this. How do we know what our sex rank is out of 10? How do we figure out our rank in relation to our spouses etc?",,5,Asianed1994,1699296167.0 +I'm currently reading through MMSLP and there's a bit on sex rank, and it got me thinking about how we actually determine this. How do we know what our sex rank is out of 10? How do we figure out our rank in relation to our spouses etc?",,5,Asianed1994,2023-11-06 18:42:47 askMRP,17muh9n,Restarting life Redill. Balancing kino,"Hi guys, I am from holland so excuse me if I make some typos. @@ -67228,10 +67228,10 @@ I notice she is engaging more and more. She is trying to make conversation and i What can I do. I find it really hard to find a way in my mind to start game and kino etc. I feel a bit lost. I am not mad but is clear to me that she is not attracted to me. I know she loves me but that’s only because I take care of everything -Would love some advice here.",,20,dumbell81,1699016191.0 +Would love some advice here.",,20,dumbell81,2023-11-03 12:56:31 askMRP,17ld6sd,Mission focus and genuine desire.,"I have been with new girl that is 8 years my junior now for nearly a year and our relationship is amazing. Daily sex, she looks after my kids, does nearly all the house work, and the list goes on. This is the first relationship that is totally in my frame and supportive of my mission. I predicated our relationship on that idea and explicitly told her from the beginning that it was going to be my way or the highway no matter how long we are together. How did I achieve this? By staying focused on my damn mission, that's how. Look gents, I was a chump once too and I did all of the beta faggy things that we must unlearn and my relative success took a significant amount of time because I was WAY down into betahood when I began. I started grinding even when I was still married I was getting up at 4AM to train, working all day, taking care of the house, tackling child care and doing much of the childcare and rearing myself, planning dates, and growing my frame outside of the house with new endeavors and political gain. Where most guys crumple in the anger stage I took it as a challenge and worked my ass off everyday without saying a word. The sex with the ex was outstanding but I didn't like her and it became more and more apparent that we simply did not share the same core values when it came to life or raising kids. The point of all of this is that because I was so focused on my mission and not on the constant drama and other nonsense my ex would bring to me as a way to distract me or get attention so when my relationship with my wife began to fail there were several women that made themselves available for WHATEVER without hesitation(no dating, no courting, very little time). Child care, meals made, house cleaned, documents picked up, any and everything that my ex was not willing to do was simply handled so I could keep grinding away at my mission. I have a ton of gratitude for this place and the grind never ends. Focus on your mission and not on women. -(Fitness+ Increasing social status+ Game + Responsibilities handled+ Sidebar repetitions+ Relentless pursuit for 5 years) = Relative initial success. Is it worth it? Only you can decide if feeling like you are getting kicked in the balls everyday as a reliable chump is better than suffering to improve. I do not miss my old life one single bit. ",,27,Ragnardanneskjunior,1698848361.0 +(Fitness+ Increasing social status+ Game + Responsibilities handled+ Sidebar repetitions+ Relentless pursuit for 5 years) = Relative initial success. Is it worth it? Only you can decide if feeling like you are getting kicked in the balls everyday as a reliable chump is better than suffering to improve. I do not miss my old life one single bit. ",,27,Ragnardanneskjunior,2023-11-01 14:19:21 askMRP,17lganj,Wife wants to go out with no explanation,"Currently in process of reading through side bar, watched all BPP stuff and reading No More Mr. Nice Guy now. And I’m currently lifting as well. Been doing this for about 3 weeks to a month now. Last night I took the kids trick or treating after taking photos while wife stayed home to give you candy. We ate dinner and put the kids to sleep and then went to the bedroom. @@ -67241,7 +67241,7 @@ She asked why and I said because I don’t want to. After that we had sex, then Today I went to work and now she asks me to be home on time today, says she wants to go out without kids. This is the first time she’s ever asked to do this in two years (we live far from family and friends and she doesn’t like to go out) - I asked where she was going and she said “out” and I just said did my best to NGAF and say okay. Any advice on what I need to do to handle this, or is just not worrying about it the best option?",,13,woo199112,1698856824.0 + I asked where she was going and she said “out” and I just said did my best to NGAF and say okay. Any advice on what I need to do to handle this, or is just not worrying about it the best option?",,13,woo199112,2023-11-01 16:40:24 askMRP,17lf2p3,When is too late to punish bad behavior and disrespect?,"Yesterday afternoon while we were getting ready to go out for trick or treating with another family my wife was in a horrible mood and being a complete bitch because of some family drama. A lot of it had to do with my family members not minding their own business and trying to find out what is wrong with my relationship. Word got back to my wife that people are asking questions. I didn't tell anybody anything because I don't want anybody to know how much of a screw up I have been. Obviously. @@ -67266,7 +67266,7 @@ I was cheerful and charismatic and having a great time with all the kids when we I just don't know if I got this wrong, but once we got home I did not want to be around her at all. So I took away time and attention and affection. Punishing bad behavior. But did it confuse her because everything was ""good"" in front of the other people? -Maybe I fucked up. I don't know. Let me have it, fellas.",,10,nevertoughever,1698853592.0 +Maybe I fucked up. I don't know. Let me have it, fellas.",,10,nevertoughever,2023-11-01 15:46:32 askMRP,17l7nmg,STFU and my divorce,"I got divorced two days ago. I never really had frame and I need to learn to STFU. I just had a great lesson. @@ -67293,12 +67293,12 @@ Conclusion: My guess is that if I had asked her to come with me she would have s Moral of the story: Shut up and get stuff done. -Edit: that was a mess. It needed the edits.",,0,extrastone,1698828176.0 +Edit: that was a mess. It needed the edits.",,0,extrastone,2023-11-01 08:42:56 askMRP,17jbbvs,Discord or chat? Is there any recommended YouTube channels?,"I've been having some MRP issues at home . I don't know if theres a good chat server, discord or IRC, maybe even reddit chats going on about RP where can have some type of instant chat. Also is there YouTube channels? I see there's a lot of male type channels but some are just OTT. -Down to hear your suggestions.",,12,Wappalot,1698609933.0 +Down to hear your suggestions.",,12,Wappalot,2023-10-29 20:05:33 askMRP,17c5tts,"""Solve the fight"" - learning from a mistake","Stats: 20's, dating this one for 1.5 years, 5'9, 155lbs lean, was spinning plates until I decided I prefer to focus on this ltr. Enjoying the process. Read Book of Pook, NMMNG, WISNIFG, reading TMM @@ -67322,13 +67322,13 @@ Tbh it feels awful. At first I wasn't even remotely invested in this nonsense an Maybe I should've just refused to talk about all of this (verbal intercourse is optional) and disappear for a few days, but in my view if the convo is calm and normal I'm there to have it, why not. -Feels like something is missing for me, I would love to hear some feedback and personal input to learn from the situation.",,5,mrmonbant,1697788616.0 -askMRP,17bmdji,Is Sex the End Game?,My wife wants to fuck me all the time. She doesn’t want to validate me all the time. Having gone from a dead bedroom with my ex to a lively bedroom with a broken bed frame I came to realize that sex is still a means to an end. It’s just another form of validation. Maybe it is the ultimate form of external validation. There is a whole lot more going on with that dynamic than just evolutionary psychology. We don’t just want our wives to put out we want to fuck their brains out and be the best they have ever had so that they will they will be emotionally pair bonded with us. It is possible to give your wife the best sex of her life and still be a needy bitch. Validation seeking behavior should be avoided your our own best interests and not as a ploy so that some solipsistic piece of ass will give you her approval.,,17,Flaky-Daikon-6611,1697730735.0 +Feels like something is missing for me, I would love to hear some feedback and personal input to learn from the situation.",,5,mrmonbant,2023-10-20 07:56:56 +askMRP,17bmdji,Is Sex the End Game?,My wife wants to fuck me all the time. She doesn’t want to validate me all the time. Having gone from a dead bedroom with my ex to a lively bedroom with a broken bed frame I came to realize that sex is still a means to an end. It’s just another form of validation. Maybe it is the ultimate form of external validation. There is a whole lot more going on with that dynamic than just evolutionary psychology. We don’t just want our wives to put out we want to fuck their brains out and be the best they have ever had so that they will they will be emotionally pair bonded with us. It is possible to give your wife the best sex of her life and still be a needy bitch. Validation seeking behavior should be avoided your our own best interests and not as a ploy so that some solipsistic piece of ass will give you her approval.,,17,Flaky-Daikon-6611,2023-10-19 15:52:15 askMRP,17bnc93,Frame in serious life situations,"Hi, there are a lot of examples out there of a good reaction to situations where you can keep your frame while she freaks out. Like, the other day I was reading about how you get kicked out of a club and then you joke about it etc. However, how do you keep the frame in situations that are actually serious. Like, for example, my neighbors' kid the other day was bitten by a dog and it got me thinking. I wouldn't imagine myself joking about it in that moment. Whenever my daughter falls, I usually just STFU and focus on assessing the damage. -Wondering if anyone has examples and suggestions.",,6,jgstromptrsnen,1697733265.0 +Wondering if anyone has examples and suggestions.",,6,jgstromptrsnen,2023-10-19 16:34:25 askMRP,17aym7q,Every question in here can be answered with one phrase,"Your wife does not want to fuck someone they have to validate all the time. All of these victim puke bitchy stories and pointing fingers at every little thing your wife does wrong without owning how the fuck you got their in the first place, is because you built up your whole reality around the desperate need for validation from your wife. If she knows that you are dependent on her for that validation in how you fuck, how much money you make, what car you drive, girls flirting with you, how big your muscles are - it doesn’t matter how good you get at any of those things, she won’t live in your frame for a second if she knows her not acknowledging it can make it all come crashing down. @@ -67336,7 +67336,7 @@ All of these victim puke bitchy stories and pointing fingers at every little thi This is why they emotionally cheat with other guys, or defy your boundaries, even though you’re on here saying “oh I swallowed the pill 3 months ago and I STFU, but I guess I still get mad when she rejects me or doesn’t acknowledge that I cleaned the whole house”. Get the fuck out of her frame and into yours. Try rewriting every story without including “she” or “her” and just talk about what you own and see what happens. -All you need to do is read the sidebar until your eyes bleed, read [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/bh8xko/confronting_the_need_for_validation/), and the works of David Schnarch to understand sex in a marriage. This subreddit will be eradicated if everyone does that.",,36,Boo-urns1,1697656058.0 +All you need to do is read the sidebar until your eyes bleed, read [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/bh8xko/confronting_the_need_for_validation/), and the works of David Schnarch to understand sex in a marriage. This subreddit will be eradicated if everyone does that.",,36,Boo-urns1,2023-10-18 19:07:38 askMRP,179utp7,"First, Buy A Black Fedora. Any reports?","I'm 36, 145lbs, 5' 9"", SQ 170, BP 120, DL 240 Just finished Ian Ironwood's collection of Alpha Moves. While I enjoyed book a lot, and was surprised how much of a difference `Alpha Move: Stand Up Straight` made, the very first move which is `Alpha Move: Buy A Black Fedora` is confusing. On one hand 12 years ago there was one night I put a fedora and boy was it success, but maybe a coincidence. On the other hand - I'm open for experiment again and before pulling a trigger wanted to ask if someone really followed advice, got a fedora and saw any difference? @@ -67344,8 +67344,8 @@ Just finished Ian Ironwood's collection of Alpha Moves. While I enjoyed book a l Links: * [Alpha Move: First, Buy A Black Fedora](http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2011/12/alpha-move-first-buy-black-fedora.html) -* [Alpha Move: Stand Up Straight](http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2012/02/alpha-move-stand-up-straight.html) ",,3,InfamousIncident4018,1697536917.0 -askMRP,176gz76,Hamster spinning too fast,"So, I've been reading the saidebar and working on things. I've been going to the gym,picked up a hobby that really doesn't take much of my time yet,and am going on a work trip for the first time in years. Basic passive dread stuff that makes me feel and look good. Im happier now. However, My wife is going nuts. She'll be happy and doting for a week, then switch to Angry, crying, distant, talking about trust issues. I'm doing my best to stfu, although im not always successful I have been doing good with not Deering most of the time. My question is, when does this stop? She is generally an insecure person who doesnt trust people, so I don't know if I see an end in site. And what is my reaction supposed to be, I can't just stfu and ignore this shit forever, it's hard to be in the house with her half the time but I also need to protect my son from her yelling.",,2,Jacked-More-Gains,1697143531.0 +* [Alpha Move: Stand Up Straight](http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2012/02/alpha-move-stand-up-straight.html) ",,3,InfamousIncident4018,2023-10-17 10:01:57 +askMRP,176gz76,Hamster spinning too fast,"So, I've been reading the saidebar and working on things. I've been going to the gym,picked up a hobby that really doesn't take much of my time yet,and am going on a work trip for the first time in years. Basic passive dread stuff that makes me feel and look good. Im happier now. However, My wife is going nuts. She'll be happy and doting for a week, then switch to Angry, crying, distant, talking about trust issues. I'm doing my best to stfu, although im not always successful I have been doing good with not Deering most of the time. My question is, when does this stop? She is generally an insecure person who doesnt trust people, so I don't know if I see an end in site. And what is my reaction supposed to be, I can't just stfu and ignore this shit forever, it's hard to be in the house with her half the time but I also need to protect my son from her yelling.",,2,Jacked-More-Gains,2023-10-12 20:45:31 askMRP,175o4tr,Advice on dealing with sexual teasing and validation seeking behavior?,"My wife sometimes uses me for validation and attention. This is started in the summer and led me to MRP (I’m new). It has improved since I started my MAP but still happens to a lesser degree. Example 1 from before I found MRP: wife says she doesn’t want sex while we’re kissing. I said I wasn’t horny either. She pinned me down, grinding and shoving her tits in my face, saying “you know you think I’m sexy” and “you really don’t want this?” I said I didn’t and told her to get off of me. This completely disgusted me. I called her out later that night and she claimed not to remember doing this, which pissed me off. @@ -67356,7 +67356,7 @@ I called her out, again. I said something like “I’m noticing that you keep t Example 3, after I found MRP. We’re making out on the bed and as it gets heavier, she hopes out and leaves for the living room. I STFU and stay in the bedroom, doing some sit ups and listening to music. She comes back in and squats over me, putting her ass and tits in my face while I do sit ups. I stay positive while being pissed inside. I don’t show sexual interest. She sucks up to me a bit later that night, saying she loves and appreciates me. -I know, be attractive and don’t be unattractive. I’m working on it. She’s gotten better since I started my MAP about a month ago, but still teases and seeks validation to lesser degrees. I just don’t know how to handle situations where she is using me for attention and would love some advice.",,3,mdjfodiepcklrn2,1697056377.0 +I know, be attractive and don’t be unattractive. I’m working on it. She’s gotten better since I started my MAP about a month ago, but still teases and seeks validation to lesser degrees. I just don’t know how to handle situations where she is using me for attention and would love some advice.",,3,mdjfodiepcklrn2,2023-10-11 20:32:57 askMRP,173t55b,I think it's too late,"In dire need of advice.. feels like an emergency like everything in my head is going up in flames and there's no way to put it out. A few weeks ago I discovered my wife had changed her password on Instagram through her email (which I'm logged in to for bills and such). First chance I got it, I looked in her DMs because (trust but verify). Of course she was talking to another guy. A friend of mine actually. A guy I introduced to her a while ago and we have all been around each other multiple times since thenin public settings (5 minutes of Alpha am I right?) @@ -67387,18 +67387,18 @@ Although I have one itis from hell, there are plenty of girls that I could easil The only thing I can keep thinking of is just going to get sex but it would all be for validation. I'm so horny and frustrated. -Literally the first guy to ever give her any attention she just latches on to it and pretends it's all good and nothing wrong with it. I am so confused and in a haze like how is this my fault. She told me it's my fault. It seems like gas lighting but it is my fault so that's definitely not wrong. Says she wants to work on the marriage and see where things go but that could be just to shut me up. I'm rambling now so tell me to fuck off or give me something to work with please",,18,nevertoughever,1696861530.0 +Literally the first guy to ever give her any attention she just latches on to it and pretends it's all good and nothing wrong with it. I am so confused and in a haze like how is this my fault. She told me it's my fault. It seems like gas lighting but it is my fault so that's definitely not wrong. Says she wants to work on the marriage and see where things go but that could be just to shut me up. I'm rambling now so tell me to fuck off or give me something to work with please",,18,nevertoughever,2023-10-09 14:25:30 askMRP,17043o8,Red Pill therapy,"Does anyone know how to go about finding local therapy or coaching? -I only want someone that is RP that can help me with codependency issues. Ideally someone who can hypnotize me to never feel love again. Lol",,3,NeoMacchio,1696466954.0 +I only want someone that is RP that can help me with codependency issues. Ideally someone who can hypnotize me to never feel love again. Lol",,3,NeoMacchio,2023-10-05 00:49:14 askMRP,16zcapc,Walking out and leaving for the night,"What do we do when a spouse just packs a night bag and goes back to their parent's place after an argument? Seems like the right thing to do here is for the locks to be changed when she returns, or divorce papers ready. -On the other side of the coin, what behavior warrants us as men, up and leaving for the night (or a few)? Dread game somewhat advocates for this. But if so, is there a disparity between the man doing this vs the woman?",,5,czj10,1696389470.0 +On the other side of the coin, what behavior warrants us as men, up and leaving for the night (or a few)? Dread game somewhat advocates for this. But if so, is there a disparity between the man doing this vs the woman?",,5,czj10,2023-10-04 03:17:50 askMRP,16yaugu,Should I STFU or address disrespect?,"I’m new to RP and just found the famous sidebar and lifting as well as STFU. It has helped me so far and I dont believe I have swallowed the pill yet, and i am new to this. But she has seen changes and i belive is testing me. My wife attended a baby shower yesterday and she went with my 6 year old son. She left at 9 in the morning. I don’t know who picked her up but after she left, was surprised to see her car parked outside. I suspect a Chad. I didn’t hear from her all day, and they came back after midnight. I ignored them when they got back last night. She works a 12 hour shift today ao left around 10 and will be back at midnight. She had an attitude this morning - i guess either she is being defensive or she is being confrontational. Background is I suspected cheating and suggested we split and even told her parents. I have attorney who i have paid $7k retainer to- she has advised to wait to file after she gets a new job.. as she will be making significant money when she graduates as a RN in December. So there really isn’t a rush. I think when it comes to kids I should know where my son is and in whose presence especially as we still under the same roof. I believe she did this to test/get an emotional reaction out of me and to disrespect me as she has seen a change in me lifting, Stfu and minding my business.. I see disrespect/red flags all the time before RP.. I used to react but now but I STFU.. seems like these tests will continue but this is my only child and I love him. -How do i address her behavior?",,10,EitherBedroom2341,1696286195.0 +How do i address her behavior?",,10,EitherBedroom2341,2023-10-02 22:36:35 askMRP,16v2jzm,How to keep oneself motivated.,"General question I want to brainstorm with people here. I am not able to keep myself motivated to do anything. @@ -67409,10 +67409,10 @@ In general pushed myself to gym to keep me on discipline and finished my workout I want to know how to have energy and kick to do things whole day. I want to run, gym, play with kids. -Edit - I am 44, 2 kids and with some stress in the marriage.",,1,dontgetusetoit,1695963789.0 +Edit - I am 44, 2 kids and with some stress in the marriage.",,1,dontgetusetoit,2023-09-29 05:03:09 askMRP,16rqd1d,Lack of sex after first kid?,"Successful, attractive dude with high net worth, top 5% in looks and body. I have my shit together so don't post that I need to. This is a question for those married guys out there who have kids: -did your wife just lose interest in sex after the first child? Infant is approaching a year old and we might fuck 3x a month now, and it usually is non enthusiastic. Her excuse is that she just doesn't feel like it, the kid sucks her energy, and she is sleep deprived. Fair points, but it really is starting to affect my happiness as a high libido guy. Anyone else experience this and what was the remedy? Time?",,16,jazerac,1695643998.0 +did your wife just lose interest in sex after the first child? Infant is approaching a year old and we might fuck 3x a month now, and it usually is non enthusiastic. Her excuse is that she just doesn't feel like it, the kid sucks her energy, and she is sleep deprived. Fair points, but it really is starting to affect my happiness as a high libido guy. Anyone else experience this and what was the remedy? Time?",,16,jazerac,2023-09-25 12:13:18 askMRP,16rfnbs,Haven't talked in 5 days,"Hey all, &#x200B; @@ -67471,14 +67471,14 @@ and “above average” looking…. I think lol Need some work on grooming -Make several hundred K a year with a few businesses I own",,7,US_Capital,1695607762.0 +Make several hundred K a year with a few businesses I own",,7,US_Capital,2023-09-25 02:09:22 askMRP,16q2se7,Not seeing purpose in working from home,"TLDR: I am working from home in IT. Feeling like I'm stuck at home and not really building anything. A little background: I (28M) am engaged with a 27F. Read: the rational male, NMMNG and currently in the process of finishing the sidebar. Relationship is 4 years solid, with the last 1.5 years redpilled. I lift (went from skinny 165 lbs and currently at 190 lbs). I work in IT, and it pays really well. As I said above, redpill has been a part of my life for a while. I used to work in an office some time ago, but I chose the position I am currently at because it paid better. Money really is not a problem right now. Thing is the sensation of working from home makes you feel like a lazy piece of shit. I try to go to a coworking space once in a week, and try to do the best I can in IT. Even lifting, going out frequently, doing stuff outside of work, working feels like the easiest part of my day (and it is solid 8hr of my day) -A while ago I considered engaging a military career. I was drafted back in the day and I cannot describe the feeling of mission that military career has. How can I renew my purpose on working from home?",,6,the_chad_smith,1695470692.0 +A while ago I considered engaging a military career. I was drafted back in the day and I cannot describe the feeling of mission that military career has. How can I renew my purpose on working from home?",,6,the_chad_smith,2023-09-23 12:04:52 askMRP,16p5xnz,Asset Protection,"I'm not married or cohabiting for common law but no doubt will in the future. I would prefer not dividing my entire financial empire in two based on her decision, rather some minuscule amount. I wanted to discuss asset protection strategies as some of you might have more knowledge than I do. @@ -67498,13 +67498,13 @@ These unprotected assets can in theory be protected by: Has anyone experience in this topic or utilised one of the above for this purpose? -&#x200B;",,8,IamJacksFailedRep,1695375704.0 +&#x200B;",,8,IamJacksFailedRep,2023-09-22 09:41:44 askMRP,16lcxx5,Any one feel like they started going backwards after lots of progress?," 44, 4 kids. 176.8 lbs 20bf (scale)Been doing side bar lifting etc since last Feb. Seems like last couple months it don't matter anymore, back to where i started. Wife is bitchier than normal. Sex non existent. 1st 6 mo or so was awesome and that was 20 lbs ago. I had ""I win"" kind of feeling as things were happening in the bedroom I was told never would again, and it was easy. Get in shape and don't be the 5th child at home also be fun. I got to the point didn't much care if we screwed and got more into my hobbies and interests. Now a year and a half into it I don't even bother initiating. Wondering if focusing too much on me(while still being present at home) gives out a selfish type of vibe and is a turn off? Is this backwards movement normal? -FWIW, she did go off some happy pills a while back and is happy to have lost some weight. It's nice looking at a 100lb wife with a tight ass again, but she's miserable to be around. I've read the nervous and anxious housewives as well as oldest teenager in the house posts. After typing this I'm wondering if this is the issue. It does fit the timeline of severe attitude change.",,19,thewayof-vikings,1694986593.0 +FWIW, she did go off some happy pills a while back and is happy to have lost some weight. It's nice looking at a 100lb wife with a tight ass again, but she's miserable to be around. I've read the nervous and anxious housewives as well as oldest teenager in the house posts. After typing this I'm wondering if this is the issue. It does fit the timeline of severe attitude change.",,19,thewayof-vikings,2023-09-17 21:36:33 askMRP,16jmuq0,What if you want your wife to lead big parts of your life?,"Short version: I work, she manages the home/kids stuff. But the home/kids stuff is most of our life. Which we like, except the spark is gone. How do I become the captain here? Maybe this is DEER but I like most of the life that my wife and I have built together and a lot of our social life revolves around a community of friends who are primarily connected through our kids, schools, kids sports, and a social/sports club that my wife is way more active in than I could be. It doesn’t seem practical or desirable for me to lead our social schedule or manage the calendar of who is driving to the next soccer practice. I’m not going to join the PTA. I commute to work every day and travel somewhat frequently. But… I know it will never be attractive to just be a passenger on a ship of which my wife is captain. I’m here, and I’m reading, and I’m lifting. But how do I lead without fucking up all the day to day shit that she manages? I plan vacations and plan dates and take responsibility for our finances but I also fall into choreplay to try and be more active in day to day stuff at home and when I try to talk through the calendar she gets annoyed that I’m second guessing her shit. How do I be a leader when so much of our life (which again, we all like) is wrapped up in activities that I’m not able to be the primary on? @@ -67515,14 +67515,14 @@ Married 15 years 2 kids +/- 10ish Lifting 20+ years 5’11”, 175 lbs, 18% bf -Rehabbing some things but roughly 170 bench, 325 squat, 365 DL",,14,[deleted],1694807140.0 +Rehabbing some things but roughly 170 bench, 325 squat, 365 DL",,14,[deleted],2023-09-15 19:45:40 askMRP,16gos8j,"(Off-topic): Anyone having dreams more often, since starting their MRP-journey?","So I labelled this off-topic, since it isn’t necessarily MRP related. The reason I wanna ask this question is I never used to dream. I can probably count on one hand how many times I’ve been having dreams for the last couple of years. However, the last 1,5 months I have been having dreams almost every night. I’m about 4 months into my MRP Journey and can’t help thinking that it is all this behaviour changing which is causing these dreams. -Anyone else having/had the same experience?",,0,Wild-Cheesecake-6465,1694517981.0 +Anyone else having/had the same experience?",,0,Wild-Cheesecake-6465,2023-09-12 11:26:21 askMRP,16g8ov8,An ex-wife that enthusiastically followed?,"Hey all, &#x200B; @@ -67550,8 +67550,8 @@ It all just doesn't make any sense at all to me, and I'm assuming there is a min &#x200B; -Just a final caveat, this IS NOT a post about ""help me use the red pill to get back with her"". That ship sailed and subsequently was burned and sank to the bottom of the ocean, there is zero possibility of reconciliation. My purpose is to see if there is anything of value to learn from this final interaction and have that in the toolbox going forward.",,5,Driven2b,1694469259.0 -askMRP,16drr6f,Behavioral Changes Before Main Event,"Those of you who've gone through a main event, what behavior changes did you notice in your spouse leading up to it?",,6,BecomingABetterMan1,1694220700.0 +Just a final caveat, this IS NOT a post about ""help me use the red pill to get back with her"". That ship sailed and subsequently was burned and sank to the bottom of the ocean, there is zero possibility of reconciliation. My purpose is to see if there is anything of value to learn from this final interaction and have that in the toolbox going forward.",,5,Driven2b,2023-09-11 21:54:19 +askMRP,16drr6f,Behavioral Changes Before Main Event,"Those of you who've gone through a main event, what behavior changes did you notice in your spouse leading up to it?",,6,BecomingABetterMan1,2023-09-09 00:51:40 askMRP,16dg5yz,Where is the sidebar?,"Can someone explain or show me steps to the sidebar ? I’m a total newbie .. (49) 6’2.. 270.. I started the year with the same weight and even though i have not lost any.. i started seeing results about 2 months ago and i look like a tank if i loss the belly fat.. im in the gym 5x a week.. sometimes 2x a day.. im the most beta on here by far.. no need to explain .. 1x a year sex.. paying the bills and Credit cards… babysitting while she out with Chad.. name it.. I just stumbled upon RP prolly a month ago.. reading NMMMG now and Anatomy of Female Power.. I have been lurking here and everyone says sidebar.. STFU.. lift.. I need the links to the sidebar.. I realize I was a drunk captain.. but I believe its too late to fix because the respect is gone.. I confronted her about infidelity.. she called the previous Chad and asking him on speaker.. ’my husband says ur fucking me.. ru fucking me?’ What followed immediately was the most interesting movie.. she called her parents crying that i accused her of cheating.. they called me and accused me of telling them they didn’t raise their daughter right.. then she called my sister and told her I insulted her father.. all of this in maybe an hour… its been one year since and now.. on to her classmate in nursing school.. who is now her coworker.. so she either at school, work, Or library with Chad#2… while I work from home.. or have son. This is her last semester and graduates in Decembe as a RN. I have seen attorney for divorce and i asked for lie detector or divorce and she chose divorce .. but I am not yet in my frame.. i have paid $5k of 7k to lawyer and filling paperwork today as we speak.. @@ -67559,7 +67559,7 @@ I realize I was a drunk captain.. but I believe its too late to fix because the i have been reading a lot and i realize i am a codependent with ‘savior complex’ . I honestly thought everything i did for her i was doing for me.. so i neglected my self.. and kept trying harder… now i realize i was a simp. Lol. Now i started practicing STFU.. less than a month ago and I am seeing changes but she won’t even admit to infidelity. I know there’s no shortcut. I also have been getting attention from other women and last weekend i came home in the morning after hanging out in Atlantic City.. she also doesn’t care and is doing her. -We have a 6 year old son who is my world.. a few weeks ago he told her he hadn’t seen her in 2 days.. i tried to explain the importance of her relationship with him and i have seen her start to spend more time after i told her parents we have agreed to split. We come from a different culture so there’s a traditional marriage before a legal one. I didn’t realize how much of this is my fault and i have been beta for years trying to control her with covert contracts because i paid the bills. Now i have to work on me.. at the same time work on divorce. I don’t think I swallowed the pill yet.. Am i on the right track.. ?",,10,EitherBedroom2341,1694192974.0 +We have a 6 year old son who is my world.. a few weeks ago he told her he hadn’t seen her in 2 days.. i tried to explain the importance of her relationship with him and i have seen her start to spend more time after i told her parents we have agreed to split. We come from a different culture so there’s a traditional marriage before a legal one. I didn’t realize how much of this is my fault and i have been beta for years trying to control her with covert contracts because i paid the bills. Now i have to work on me.. at the same time work on divorce. I don’t think I swallowed the pill yet.. Am i on the right track.. ?",,10,EitherBedroom2341,2023-09-08 17:09:34 askMRP,16dhbl3,"Frame, ego, deer and covert contracts.","I'm trying to wrap my head around something after reading a horns and sepean posts. I have a need to explain everything that's happening all the time. I thought that I was sharing my frame but I just learnt in an old sepean post that this is not what sharing your frame remotely looks like. I then read an old horns post saying that it's a covert contract and an ego thing. I don't understand what that means though? I might be a bit fucking stupid, but I saw some videos from Rian about how jack use to share his frame and I genuinely thought that was what I was doing. I realise that I do have a frame and it's a bloody good 1 that I learnt from many people here on how to be. @@ -67576,7 +67576,7 @@ Just some back story on me. I've been here 5 years, never used OYS and lurked th I don't know my lifts in LBS but here they are in kg Bench: 100kg X5 Squat: 150 X5 -Deadlift: 180kg x3",,7,Relevant-Pollution97,1694195702.0 +Deadlift: 180kg x3",,7,Relevant-Pollution97,2023-09-08 17:55:02 askMRP,1660cah,Talk to me nice or don't talk at all.,"Question on a previous night I had with a FB at a kink/fetish event. During the night, there is some shit tests/cheeky comments w/e I AM/AA. At some point she calls me a bitch (usually will do this after I smack her). It offended me this time, I didn't have any desire to hide it though. Nor to react. Naturally I'm asked what's wrong. Said ""we'll talk later."" Put it to the back my mind until we had time to talk in private. I didn't feel butthurt as I previously have been in these types of situations. Trying to pretend to not be ""hurt"" when I am, and just sulking type of butthurt. @@ -67605,7 +67605,7 @@ Similarly a gymbro had called me a pussy because he believed I had 1more rep on I have my own thoughts, but I want you guys perspective. I'll end up overthinking if I try much, if I failed, I failed. I want my behaviour to work in my favor. -Writing this I realise another OYS is overdue.",,0,NoMoreMrNiceJay,1693454219.0 +Writing this I realise another OYS is overdue.",,0,NoMoreMrNiceJay,2023-08-31 03:56:59 askMRP,1628cyt,Wife wants to have a heart to heart ritual. Advice?,"I am pretty new to MRP and currently in the anger phase. I’m on a solo trip at the moment and am generally trying to work on myself and my other relationships. She misses me when I’m gone and seeks my attention. However, she has mentioned that she feels like our spark has faded and that she wants to feel butterflies. I know that all of this reflects me losing both my alpha and my beta over the last several years. I’ve fixed the beta (used to be irresponsible) and am working on fixing the alpha. I used to be quite romantic, confident, and active and am trying to bring that back in a more mature version. My wife approached me a few days ago saying that she has done some googling. She feels that she has some resentment toward me from things that happened earlier in our relationship. She found a “couples forgiveness ritual” online that she wants to do together, and insists that this is an important step for her to deal with her resentment. She can also tell that I have resentment and wants me to open up as well. We basically are supposed to talk a lot, light some candles, and get rid of some “symbolic objects” from bad times in our relationship. @@ -67614,7 +67614,7 @@ I told her that I would rather move on and make positive memories instead, but s Yet, she wants to do this as soon as possible and really thinks she needs this. She says that her goal is to have a closure conversation about these previous issues and then move on without so much conflict and tension in our relationship. She wants things to feel easy which is fair, as we have argued a lot over the last few years. I don’t think she means anything bad. I believe she is genuinely trying to reconnect. She has also recently hit the gym (after I did) and is sending me a lot of updates on her progress. -I’m a little stuck and looking for advice. Again, I’m new, and learning fast but still working on things. I am planning to hardcore follow my MAP for the next six months and then evaluate divorce. I’m considering doing the ritual with a plan in place for what I’d like to say, going for less rather than more, but I’m not sure.",,10,mdjfodiepcklrn2,1693087904.0 +I’m a little stuck and looking for advice. Again, I’m new, and learning fast but still working on things. I am planning to hardcore follow my MAP for the next six months and then evaluate divorce. I’m considering doing the ritual with a plan in place for what I’d like to say, going for less rather than more, but I’m not sure.",,10,mdjfodiepcklrn2,2023-08-26 22:11:44 askMRP,1617e9s,So I'm the Drunk Captain. How do I know identify structural improvements v. something that only makes me more of a plowhorse?,"If you have examples of each, that should suffice. I can already see getting out of shape as structural, but I'm good on that front, so any other examples would be helpful so I can get an idea of what I should be looking to work on. @@ -67636,7 +67636,7 @@ One thing she's said I've fucked up there is that she feels alone sometimes, whi &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,3,linkofinsanity19,1692988727.0 +&#x200B;",,3,linkofinsanity19,2023-08-25 18:38:47 askMRP,160spbd,Is it as simple as choosing power?,"Is the whole business in this place to simply choose to be powerful as opposed to weak? More and more the matter of my LTR in it self is fading in the distance. It’s just a display of my weakness. @@ -67651,7 +67651,7 @@ There is shit to own and stuff to be learnt, for sure, and none of it is ever a I’ve said it before, things go pear shape for me when I’m triangulating what should I do because I'm afraid of other people's reaction, instead of just doing because I want to. -Those of you that have had success, is that pretty much it?",,5,TitanUranus_88,1692950465.0 +Those of you that have had success, is that pretty much it?",,5,TitanUranus_88,2023-08-25 08:01:05 askMRP,1605sld,"Was this a comfort test, shit test or smth else? And was this progress og regression? And how retarded did I manage it?","So, a situation in my marriage happened appr. 14 days ago. The last couple of years I have been angry and snapping quit often at my wife. But now that I have stopped turning my rage against her, she could suddenly feel herself and basically told me she had a big open wound inside that needed to heal before she could focus on anything else. She felt like she was having a depression. Fair enough, I’ve been a jackass. During the next 14 days I didn’t provide explicit comfort to her and probsbly also turned up my alpha behaviour to not doing as many chores as usual, prioritizing my own needs first and generally just focused on other stuff I suspect. Last night we sat and talked about how things are going and she was super angry in a way I had never seen her before. She was litterally boiling over. Saying all the stuff she wanted me to be, all the mistakes I’ve made during the last month or so - not providing comfort/disinterest in her, only focusing on myself and my own life, not doing stuff that I used too (chore-play). @@ -67660,7 +67660,7 @@ All in all I handled the situation better than expected. I didn’t get offended However, I’m very uncertain how I should understand the whole situation. It felt to me like I fucked up on the initial comfort test these last 14 days ago and now she was so angry it became somewhere between a shit test/mental breakdown. -How do you experienced guys interpret what happened? Is this progression or regression? Am I back to zero?",,8,Wild-Cheesecake-6465,1692892456.0 +How do you experienced guys interpret what happened? Is this progression or regression? Am I back to zero?",,8,Wild-Cheesecake-6465,2023-08-24 15:54:16 askMRP,15z0emw,Questions about my frame.,"Hi Everyone. I have just finished reading Praxeology Volume 1: Frame by Rian Stone, and I have a question about my frame. I am a little retarded and never truly understood frame, even if I have been hearing about it since RSD was a thing, and I still don't! @@ -67698,10 +67698,10 @@ You want the guy that does all of this? either fuck me or go find another one I I have had enough of shit. I believe this is a strong frame if the intention is for her to break up with me. I am not so sure why this isn't a strong frame for me to have sex; instinctively,  I feel that, but I am unsure why. -Does anyone know why this might not be a good frame for sex?",,0,DECRYPT_ERROR,1692788087.0 +Does anyone know why this might not be a good frame for sex?",,0,DECRYPT_ERROR,2023-08-23 10:54:47 askMRP,15us43s,Must read Book for free at the moment,"I’ve seen a lot of people here haven’t read „How to Win Friends & Influence People“, you can get a free kindle copy at AZ for right now. It’s a must read IMO and also named in the sidebar. -Cheers",,12,Meteor1x,1692382835.0 +Cheers",,12,Meteor1x,2023-08-18 18:20:35 askMRP,15ueywn,Manglish/Womanese and Being The Captain (or dick?),"I could use some help with calibration and opinions on if i handled this appropriately. This is also my first field report so if my formatting is shit or whatever - let me know and I'll edit it later. @@ -67753,14 +67753,14 @@ She didn't want to spend the money and upset me. She also didn't want to miss th EDIT TL;DR: -Pretty sure my wife wanted me to say ""yes"" to go to a distant family member's funeral. She knew I was going to say ""no"" but was hoping I'd change my mind, so she decided ""no"" on her own. How badly do I suck?",,3,BecomingABetterMan1,1692348706.0 +Pretty sure my wife wanted me to say ""yes"" to go to a distant family member's funeral. She knew I was going to say ""no"" but was hoping I'd change my mind, so she decided ""no"" on her own. How badly do I suck?",,3,BecomingABetterMan1,2023-08-18 08:51:46 askMRP,15tojkv,Wife is sexual but doesn’t actually want sex?,"My wife often declines sex for reasons that I see through. I get “I’m tired”, “I’m too stressed out”, and “my stomach doesn’t feel good” much more often than not, unfortunately. Working on my MAP to become more attractive. Here’s the thing that confuses me though… she’s very sexual throughout the day. She initiates a lot of physical contact. Cuddling, but also heavy make-out sessions. She’s often feeling around my body and takes off my clothes. She’ll hold me from behind when I’m doing something. She’ll jump onto my lap and grind on me, she’ll pin me on the bed. She’ll call me hot or sexy on a regular basis. It confuses me, because if I actually initiate, then she doesn’t want it. I also get lots of back rubs, head scratches, and other pampering like being given coffee every morning. Yesterday, she even said “sorry I haven’t had much of a sex drive lately, I’m too depressed and stressed out. How much am I allowed to touch you without having sex?” I just said “that’s a pretty shitty question” and left it at that. She felt bad but didn’t take it back. Then she started pawing at me for more physical affection and asking “are you mad?” and I tried to play it off. -Any explanation/advice for this situation?",,7,mdjfodiepcklrn2,1692280970.0 +Any explanation/advice for this situation?",,7,mdjfodiepcklrn2,2023-08-17 14:02:50 askMRP,15thoun,"Off-Topic: I have mission, an amazing life, but still no friends. Fiancee starting to notice","TLDR: I have a job and a fiancee, I go to the gym and I am enrolled in college. Still no friends. Getting a little hard to hide this from fiancee. @@ -67772,14 +67772,14 @@ But things are starting to get a little off: She is starting to notice I don't r I got really well on work. Can get along with everybody. And I can be really extroverted in classes. But things never went on a solid friendship. -How tf can I change this situation? I read a lot of redpill theory about non-dating-strategy (like NMMNG, articles about mission, manliness and stuff).",,10,Imaginary-Cloud-7721,1692262346.0 +How tf can I change this situation? I read a lot of redpill theory about non-dating-strategy (like NMMNG, articles about mission, manliness and stuff).",,10,Imaginary-Cloud-7721,2023-08-17 08:52:26 askMRP,15t3wdf,What's the alternative to acting butthurt when she does something fucked up?,"In some situations, you will STFU, reward her negatively OR set boundaries. These are the three main ways I see of reacting to her bad behavior. But what if none of these fit with the situation? A little background: I (28M) am engaged with a 27F. Read: the rational male, NMMNG and currently in the process of finishing the sidebar. Relationship is 4 years solid, with the last 1.5 years redpilled. I lift (went from skinny 165 lbs and currently at 190 lbs). Let me give some examples: me and fiancee are currently in college (different colleges). There were some times (not many times, kinda rare) when I needed to go the house of a classmate to do some work on projects. And the same thing applies to her, with her female classmates (going to the house of another dude to do college work is already a boundary I set). But one day I got home from work and didn't find her. I called and she said she was at her classmate's house. The fucked up thing was that she didn't told me, and I didn't know how to act on the phone call. Anything I said could be interpreted as butthurt. So I just aksed why she didn't tell me (she said she just went to it and forgot to tell me) and said like ""ok, see you at home"". But I was butthurt as fuck in the inside. -How can I act in these situations? And is it manipulative to want to know where she is? We already had fights because of this kind of question. I saw myself, in the beginning of the relationship, really manipulative in the way of wanting to know where she is. Things are more """"civil"""" rn. ",,7,the_chad_smith,1692223955.0 +How can I act in these situations? And is it manipulative to want to know where she is? We already had fights because of this kind of question. I saw myself, in the beginning of the relationship, really manipulative in the way of wanting to know where she is. Things are more """"civil"""" rn. ",,7,the_chad_smith,2023-08-16 22:12:35 askMRP,15rv9y2,How to handle a disrespectful daughter,"I have an 8 year old daughter who talks back to my wife (and even me on occasion), doesn't obey our instructions to her, doesn't stay on task, is willful and doesn't take correction, etc I am wracking my brain trying to figure out where this behavior comes from or what to do about it. She had bad, disrespectful influences at school, but we homeschool now. @@ -67811,7 +67811,7 @@ We don't spank. I've been against spanking all my life. I was talking to my wife last night and I asked her why she didn't talk back to her mom, she said ""because I was afraid of her"" is that what we're missing? I'm a recovering Nice Guy and while my marriage has improved immensely, I'm wondering if this has something to do with it. My wife is absolutely the type of woman I want my daughters to grow up to be (feminine, respectful, hard working, virgin until marriage) EDIT: update based on responses --im not expecting perfection, but this behavior is chronic",,9,theodorelogan0735,1692111950.0 +-im not expecting perfection, but this behavior is chronic",,9,theodorelogan0735,2023-08-15 15:05:50 askMRP,15qldxc,Betaization or Legitimate problem,"Hey guys, I'm confused about the difference on some situations during a LTR. I know that during the betaization process a girl would manipulate a man to make him feel troubled and feel as if he is not doing enough in some departments. Lets say for instance a girlfriend who is constantly complaining to her man about not getting compliments or ""words of reaffirmation"" or that she ""doesn't feel loved"". How can you know if this is just her trying to weaken you or if you are truly not giving enough attention-love, to your partner? @@ -67824,7 +67824,7 @@ My last relationship ended due to complaints of her supposedly having to beg for &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,7,Jac0bPalmer,1691990754.0 +&#x200B;",,7,Jac0bPalmer,2023-08-14 05:25:54 askMRP,15p8kvi,Wife is angry and doesn't know if she can see me sexually,"Working on myself. Got a big promotion. Got sober except social drinking. Gym five days a week. NMMNG, MMSLP, several times and a stack of other books. Spending time with male friends. Until I fixed up my shit I was fucking shit up with my wife. Married 18 years. @@ -67835,7 +67835,7 @@ Long story short my lack of fucking her has made her feel like shit about hersel I've changed a lot. Worked on my shit, I'm a different person. She's sees this but the problem persists. -Is there any coming back from this shit?",,16,BasicDesignAdvice,1691856844.0 +Is there any coming back from this shit?",,16,BasicDesignAdvice,2023-08-12 16:14:04 askMRP,15kmds9,How to deal with really tough times,"I (28M) am engaged with a 27F. I have read the rational male, NMMNG, and I am currently in the process of finishing the sidebar. We started dating back in 2016, so it's kind of a solid relationship. I asked her in marriage some months ago, and we have a great relationship. I started applying redpill to our relationship back in 2018, when I first heard about the philosophy. I lifted since, and I can say I have a really great body (went from skinny 165 lbs and currently at 190 lbs). So, I am going through some really tough times in my personal life (things which envolves just me, not her), and I don't know how to deal with some situations. In my town, we have an army course that teaches basic things about the military. The course started in march 2023, and basically I have to be there at 6AM, mon - fri. To get things ready, I wake up at 5AM, and the daily course ends at 8AM. It teaches basic things we usually see in the military: gun assembling and disassembling, shelter, physical training and etc. We also have a biweekly overnight staying (24hr), usually at saturday or friday. At the end of the course I will have a military certification. @@ -67844,7 +67844,7 @@ Besides that, I work a 9 to 5, and I am currently enrolled in a CS course. I bas The thing is, routine is tough, and sometimes I have some things to deal with at home. Me and my fiancee usually go out on the weekends, but I will confess that I am extremely tired. The military course ends in December, and if I could, I would literally do nothing besides my routine until the course finishing (no nights out, no compromises in the weekend, nothing). -I am holding myself really hard not to start talking to fiancee about the situation, and I pretend on not telling. Is there an approach in which I could tell her that I don't want any more compromises on the weekend, without telling her that I'm tired and being beta around her? ",,10,the_chad_smith,1691418694.0 +I am holding myself really hard not to start talking to fiancee about the situation, and I pretend on not telling. Is there an approach in which I could tell her that I don't want any more compromises on the weekend, without telling her that I'm tired and being beta around her? ",,10,the_chad_smith,2023-08-07 14:31:34 askMRP,15kycgv,Looking for some perspective. Long post,"Hi, I'm a 25YO dude, mid May I had a breakup with my now ex gf (24). I know this subreddit is for longer term relationships and I dated this girl for only 7 months, but I feel like guys here have the most ""advanced"" views, so I would really appreciate some insight. I know this is a veeeery long post, but I pretty much need as much clarity as I can get, which means giving as much detail as possible. So far i have read Models, 3% Man, Book of pook. @@ -67880,7 +67880,7 @@ Thanks. &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,0,Jac0bPalmer,1691445172.0 +&#x200B;",,0,Jac0bPalmer,2023-08-07 21:52:52 askMRP,15f4bxa,Is it my insecurity or should I check her?,"BG: Mid 20's, in a LTR of 1.5y, read NMMNNG, WISNIFG, 160lbs 13%bf. 1RM: BP 190 OHP 110, DL 230 (no SQ because of leg problems. DL affected as well). @@ -67895,8 +67895,8 @@ Of course if she was f.e posting her boobs I'd very easily tell myself (and her) &nbsp; I'm pretty ashamed with myself that I'm even invested in something like this but it is so I hope to learn a lesson here and not get so confused next time. - Would love to get some advice.",,8,lisguy,1690871510.0 -askMRP,15ed08x,Normal to no longer be attracted to your spouse?,Been actively working towards bettering myself everyday in the past 10 months. The only issue now is I'm not as attracted to my wife anymore. I don't even really want to have sex with her anymore to be honest I just want to caveman and call it good for the night. We have 2 kids so not sure what my angle is here.,,19,Evening_Key9248,1690801300.0 + Would love to get some advice.",,8,lisguy,2023-08-01 06:31:50 +askMRP,15ed08x,Normal to no longer be attracted to your spouse?,Been actively working towards bettering myself everyday in the past 10 months. The only issue now is I'm not as attracted to my wife anymore. I don't even really want to have sex with her anymore to be honest I just want to caveman and call it good for the night. We have 2 kids so not sure what my angle is here.,,19,Evening_Key9248,2023-07-31 11:01:40 askMRP,15e93xc,How do you deal with boundary testing or gray area situations?," After reading nmmng, wisnifg, and most of the sidebar I still have a basic question I don't quite understand: @@ -67911,7 +67911,7 @@ Should I just withdraw attention/affection/commitment? Are there situations when Also would love to read some classic examples or find good posts about what boundary enforcement looks like in general. Would love to get some input. Thanks. -Edit: added and clarified questions.",,5,mrmonbant,1690788478.0 +Edit: added and clarified questions.",,5,mrmonbant,2023-07-31 07:27:58 askMRP,15bgu0v,How to deal with refusal?,"I (33M) am attending a business event next week. I asked my fiancee (27W) to accompany me months ago when I bought the tickets. She was not excited but I bought her ticket regardless. These past 2 weeks she has been arguing with me about going. I initially told her she has to go and I dont want to waste the $500 on her ticket. She got really ugly today and made up some lie involving her parents. She later admits to lying and starts another argument. @@ -67920,10 +67920,10 @@ I told her tonight that I dont want her to accompany me. I have avoided her tod I feel like I did not handle the situation well. I should have just told her she doesnt have to go when she started giving me trouble 2 weeks ago. She has panic attacks from flying and I understand that. her lie today was she needs to fly to her parents, which contradicts her flying issue. Overall frustrated and need some thoughts. -Ive been keeping busy and removed myself from being around her. I have not gotten nasty with her but feel weak for having told her she needs to go. That was my mistake, making her feel like she has some power.",,3,OohWeeStewie,1690500056.0 +Ive been keeping busy and removed myself from being around her. I have not gotten nasty with her but feel weak for having told her she needs to go. That was my mistake, making her feel like she has some power.",,3,OohWeeStewie,2023-07-27 23:20:56 askMRP,15bkles,PreFiltering for dates,"Hey gents. Single as of a month ago and going on dates again. All the girls so far only have like one drink, want to text a bunch, and not do any fun activities. It’s my first time dating in Austin (vs. Seattle where I was before), so could be a culture thing? -Any advice to pre filter for girls who are boring?",,1,Warren_Bateman,1690510394.0 +Any advice to pre filter for girls who are boring?",,1,Warren_Bateman,2023-07-28 02:13:14 askMRP,15aiwzf,Is there a time when it's ok to DEER in a reasonable situation? (Explain),"I (28M) am engaged with a 27F. A little background: we started dating back in 2016, so it's kind of a solid relationship. I asked her in marriage some months ago, and we have a great relationship. I started applying redpill to our relationship back in 2018, when I first heard about the philosophy. I lifted since, and I can say I have a really great body (went from skinny 165 lbs and currently at 190 lbs). I've seen this problem since the beginning of the redpilled start of the relation: there are some times when I tried to apply DARE, but that only resulted in some awful situtations. More specificaly, situations where I needed to explain something reasonable. For example: @@ -67933,14 +67933,14 @@ I've seen this problem since the beginning of the redpilled start of the relatio What should I do on these situations? I feel like DEERing is reasonable, but still, it is some kind of reasoning. How to deal with the bitchy-acting when I DARE her? -EDIT: thanks for the contribution. comments were really helpful",,10,the_chad_smith,1690408172.0 +EDIT: thanks for the contribution. comments were really helpful",,10,the_chad_smith,2023-07-26 21:49:32 askMRP,156knlj,Why are the reasons a Red Pilled men would want to get Married?,"I am currently in an LTR after having most of my life spun some plates. After hitting a rough patch with my LTR, I realized that it really does seem that outside of sex and potentially having kids my LTR really has noting to offer me, no loyalty in the down times, not help in stressful times, she does not cook, she does not clean etc etc. I think however that in the modern times this is what most guys feel! So my question is outside of kids (because you can easily get sex from spinning plates) what would be the reason to stay in an LTR? -If kids is the only reason to get married then how can I possibly do it without getting married or child support raped and emotionally violated? Is it what this sub is really about deep down? No one can get around the fact than to have kids you kinda have to be in an LTR?",,15,DECRYPT_ERROR,1690033781.0 +If kids is the only reason to get married then how can I possibly do it without getting married or child support raped and emotionally violated? Is it what this sub is really about deep down? No one can get around the fact than to have kids you kinda have to be in an LTR?",,15,DECRYPT_ERROR,2023-07-22 13:49:41 askMRP,155lgeu,Male friends,"If this was supposed to be in another place please let me know. I have a hard time connecting with men on one to one level. @@ -67960,16 +67960,16 @@ I maybe ranting here. But this is a big issue for me and i feel like i am missin Anyone faced this issue or any advice? -Much appreciated.",,10,zed_sin,1689939353.0 -askMRP,1529f0f,Going soft during shit test,"I have a curious dilemma. I want to fk my wife but she (says) has a headache. After talking her into taking her clothes off, she just star fishes and tells me to do the fking and get it over with. Unfortunately, this typically makes me soft and unable to perform. One time, however, I was able to perform and my wife got an orgasm from it. So, it’s a shit test , I think, but I’m failing it often. I’m not using porn ( about 30 days clean), but past usage may have residual effects. Usually, if wife is enthusiastic, I deliver. Must be a codependent thing in me. I’m 47 this year, 6’6, 215lbs run 5k and squat 215lbs.",,5,AntiWarr,1689617528.0 +Much appreciated.",,10,zed_sin,2023-07-21 11:35:53 +askMRP,1529f0f,Going soft during shit test,"I have a curious dilemma. I want to fk my wife but she (says) has a headache. After talking her into taking her clothes off, she just star fishes and tells me to do the fking and get it over with. Unfortunately, this typically makes me soft and unable to perform. One time, however, I was able to perform and my wife got an orgasm from it. So, it’s a shit test , I think, but I’m failing it often. I’m not using porn ( about 30 days clean), but past usage may have residual effects. Usually, if wife is enthusiastic, I deliver. Must be a codependent thing in me. I’m 47 this year, 6’6, 215lbs run 5k and squat 215lbs.",,5,AntiWarr,2023-07-17 18:12:08 askMRP,15255mx,I have a drinking problem,"Last night I got really drunk for no real reason, and my wife finally called me out after she caught me drinking straight from the vodka bottle. This has been a problem for me for years and it’s known to my wife and most friends. I’ve been forgiven in the past when I got too drunk but her catching me last night was the biggest embarrassment. I didn’t even remember it until I woke up and found her on the couch and she told me what I did. I know I need to stop this behavior and I should have years ago. I know I need help but don’t know where to get it. I don’t want to go to rehab or AA at this point, but I need to get this under control. -My question is how much of this struggle should I share with my wife? She’s stressed enough with work and kids and can barely handle that, so I feel like adding this may be too much. I want to be honest with her but don’t want to overwhelm her. I was barely skating by with my drinking problem before but now it’s clearly out in the open, so I have to change something. I wish it was as simple as “just don’t drink” but it’s not. I think she could help me if I could talk to her about it but I don’t know if she can handle it or would even care to. With our history this may be the second to last straw before she leaves me. Things have generally been better for the last couple months after I got the ILYBINILWY, but I really fucked it up last night. Is there a way to talk to her about it without stressing her more, or what other option should I pursue?",,8,BraveNewWorld1722,1689607831.0 +My question is how much of this struggle should I share with my wife? She’s stressed enough with work and kids and can barely handle that, so I feel like adding this may be too much. I want to be honest with her but don’t want to overwhelm her. I was barely skating by with my drinking problem before but now it’s clearly out in the open, so I have to change something. I wish it was as simple as “just don’t drink” but it’s not. I think she could help me if I could talk to her about it but I don’t know if she can handle it or would even care to. With our history this may be the second to last straw before she leaves me. Things have generally been better for the last couple months after I got the ILYBINILWY, but I really fucked it up last night. Is there a way to talk to her about it without stressing her more, or what other option should I pursue?",,8,BraveNewWorld1722,2023-07-17 15:30:31 askMRP,1511uui,FR: The dread is real,"Just a small nugget of observation from the field: Yesterday evening, my wife’s best friend told my wife that her husband has been having an affair for the past few months. My wife was visibly quite upset. I didn’t really do much, simply comforted my wife, with some light kino. -This morning, I was in the shower. My wife joined me unpromted and started immediately sucking my dick. Now, I do get all the sex that I want, but my wife is very rarely this direct. The dread is real, and when I have my shit together, I don’t even have to do anything to benefit from it.",,33,HerukaArisen,1689499849.0 +This morning, I was in the shower. My wife joined me unpromted and started immediately sucking my dick. Now, I do get all the sex that I want, but my wife is very rarely this direct. The dread is real, and when I have my shit together, I don’t even have to do anything to benefit from it.",,33,HerukaArisen,2023-07-16 09:30:49 askMRP,151krnd,30 years old virgin male planning to get married next year but mother does not accept my future wife,"Hi I am 30 years old virgin male after years of rejection and pain I found a good girl to start family , I want your help about my situation @@ -67980,11 +67980,11 @@ my mother did not want me to marry this specific girl because she is younger tha I am lost I do not know what to do anymore -can you give me some advice big brothers ?",,0,yowyeah,1689549201.0 -askMRP,14yw4w1,Leaving the house,"Main event cause I can’t keep frame….wife ended up disrespecting me calling me a pussy and to put my big boy pants on, which she’s right as it happened earlier in the day. I came back home after hitting the gym and taking my son from previous relationship to his college class. Now I’m debating if I leave the house for a couple days and crash at my brothers place but she’ll use it against me towards my two girls, 8 and 3, I started to get dressed to head out and she asked if I was leaving and I said yea then she said then tell the girls where you’re going then with a snarky attitude. She was actually gonna leave the house before I got dressed and when I overheard her saying “we’re leaving we can’t be here” it prompted me to get ready and head out. House is in my name and I don’t want to leave my daughters.",,1,danielson686,1689281517.0 +can you give me some advice big brothers ?",,0,yowyeah,2023-07-16 23:13:21 +askMRP,14yw4w1,Leaving the house,"Main event cause I can’t keep frame….wife ended up disrespecting me calling me a pussy and to put my big boy pants on, which she’s right as it happened earlier in the day. I came back home after hitting the gym and taking my son from previous relationship to his college class. Now I’m debating if I leave the house for a couple days and crash at my brothers place but she’ll use it against me towards my two girls, 8 and 3, I started to get dressed to head out and she asked if I was leaving and I said yea then she said then tell the girls where you’re going then with a snarky attitude. She was actually gonna leave the house before I got dressed and when I overheard her saying “we’re leaving we can’t be here” it prompted me to get ready and head out. House is in my name and I don’t want to leave my daughters.",,1,danielson686,2023-07-13 20:51:57 askMRP,14wkb44,Basic Question about covert contracts,"So I'm about a year into my redpill journey and just had a basic question I thought someone could answer for me. Quick background: 27yo male, wife 28yo, married 6.5 years, 2 kids. I'm 6'0"", 200 pounds, been lifting consistently for the last 15 months. -So I've heard rian stone in videos and others on the MRP mention that if you get denied sex or other action you want you can withdrawl your attention, affection commitment. But if its to get the results you want, isn't that a covert contract? At what point is that line blurry or not? Genuinely curious. I appreciate any responses thanks.",,17,COMoparfan392,1689060972.0 +So I've heard rian stone in videos and others on the MRP mention that if you get denied sex or other action you want you can withdrawl your attention, affection commitment. But if its to get the results you want, isn't that a covert contract? At what point is that line blurry or not? Genuinely curious. I appreciate any responses thanks.",,17,COMoparfan392,2023-07-11 07:36:12 askMRP,14vgbmb,Your wife gets first crack at your libido,"Going to try and just lay the facts out. I'm 35. 6'0, 180 lbs, 14% body fat. Bench: 185, OHP 145, Squat: 225, Deadlift: 315. I know I have some work to do and pump up those numbers, but I've been focused on hypertrophy and hitting overhead press heavier. @@ -67995,7 +67995,7 @@ I've hit the point in my marriage where I'm pretty happy with my income, my lift I've heard the phrase s ""your wife gets first crack at your libido"". I realize there's no prescription, but is he suggesting that once you get to the point where your wife rejects you and you know your SMV, you either have to choose divorce or cheating? What exactly does this mean? -Blowing up my family explicitly by filing for divorce doesn't seem like a great outcome, and risking blowing up my family because I cheat also seems like a tough outcome.",,22,LGP69,1688953449.0 +Blowing up my family explicitly by filing for divorce doesn't seem like a great outcome, and risking blowing up my family because I cheat also seems like a tough outcome.",,22,LGP69,2023-07-10 01:44:09 askMRP,14v6qoi,Practical Boundary Enforcement Help,"One of my biggest issues is that I find it difficult to reliably and effectively enforce boundaries with my wife on the spot because I am usually in the middle of something important - either on a virtual meeting at home when it happens or usually dealing with the kids (2.5yo and under 1yo) and in the middle of tasks like laundry, feeding the kids, changing diapers, putting them to sleep etc. Dealing with it later in the evening hours later seems weak and passive aggressive to me. Any practical suggestions? Examples: @@ -68009,7 +68009,7 @@ Her - feeding toddler - “you didn’t do xyz yet, are you going to do abc also Some context: I am learning more about my wife’s upbringing, her parent’s neglect and emotional abuse that has led her to be exceptionally controlling and emotionally immature with anxiety issues. These behaviors have been magnified after the kids. She does the above examples with almost everyone and not just me - a “nothing is ever good enough unless she does it” type personality. This gets bad when something triggers her anxiety completely outside of anyones control. If things go perfectly smoothly (according to her) she won’t be anxious or controlling but that rarely happens. I have been working on myself for months - closing in on a year in a few months. Currently the best I have ever been with my career, lifts, physique, and leadership - still have a looong way to go and no end in sight as far as improvement - still relying on some of the basic sidebar books and struggling with basic concepts like boundary enforcement. -Improving frame needs to happen but the paradox is I need to enforce boundaries better to improve frame.",,8,anonymous50002,1688929487.0 +Improving frame needs to happen but the paradox is I need to enforce boundaries better to improve frame.",,8,anonymous50002,2023-07-09 19:04:47 askMRP,14ubfip,"I am such a looser, how to chart ahead.","Does this looks like a final event This is next part to the below post. @@ -68042,7 +68042,7 @@ This is a pattern - May be I am a super chimp beta. But still head hurts. Now my kids are calling me to join them to a pool party, from their Moms phone. -Solid manipulation. When my daughter calls I just melt .",,10,dontgetusetoit,1688840546.0 +Solid manipulation. When my daughter calls I just melt .",,10,dontgetusetoit,2023-07-08 18:22:26 askMRP,14srg72,So you married an alpha widow?,"I am still very new here, recently posted a ""[victim puke""](https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/14jk883/saw_a_glitch_in_the_matrix_and_now_getting/) and got some good feedback and suggestions for a path moving forward. I continue to lift, read the sidebar, and shovel some dirt on my beta, I'm slowly starting to bury that sad pathetic blue blood boy. One of the things I've learned from reading on MRP and from Rollo is the dangers of the [Alpha Widow](https://therationalmale.com/2019/07/31/alpha-widows/https://therationalmale.com/2019/07/31/alpha-widows/) \- I wish someone had given me Rollo's book at HS graduation because let's just say I married one. A very wealthy successful Alpha (ex-husband) that totally destroyed my wife - a Mortal Combat worthy Fatality. I won't get into the details but lets just say it was some serious dark triad shit that takes a fucked up individual to pull off. @@ -68070,7 +68070,7 @@ What makes marrying or being in an LTR with an Alpha Widow different? &#x200B; -&#x200B;",,8,glitchintheBPmatrix,1688690605.0 +&#x200B;",,8,glitchintheBPmatrix,2023-07-07 00:43:25 askMRP,14rtla0,How to handle this anger and abuse.,"I am age 40 married for 15 years wife 39 two, kids seven and 10. I’m reading various posts, and NMMNG and WISNIFG. I am trying my best to be living a peaceful life, but sometimes I get a brain fog and there’s no one to help me with directions. @@ -68111,12 +68111,12 @@ Will go on for few days until i be friendly and cajole her. I don’t want to go Not lifting as recovering from tail bone injury, But other wise working out everyday. -I am doing side bar, reading books, learning STFU and try passing shit tests but do keep failing.",,8,[deleted],1688606231.0 +I am doing side bar, reading books, learning STFU and try passing shit tests but do keep failing.",,8,[deleted],2023-07-06 01:17:11 askMRP,14rjtg6,How to respond to my wife's genuine anger at my sexual advances?,"Hello all, I'm a newbie to the Red Pill concepts, 46 yo, 215lbs. Squat at 210lbs, run 5ks practically daily. Getting back to lifting. So, I'd say my SMV is now getting higher but not at my best yet. Previously, sex with wife has been averaging around 6-10 times per month. Not really a dead bedroom but close to it. And whatever sex has been happening has been lackluster. However, after I started passing the shit tests, the frequency and, most importanly, quality has been improving as well. However, I've noticed also that the shit test ""quality"" has been increasing. My wife would say things like..""I don't want you to touch me"" , ""get away from me"" and while previously I've jokingly deflected this and had good sex afterwards, I've found that my wife seems genuinely angry at me lately and the joking responses just make things worse. What's curious to me is that after the verbal altercation, my wife and I can calmly talk about various topics like normal. I try not to react in anger or by being upset, it's as if nothing bad happened between us. So, with this small context, what is the best way to handle wife's genuine anger at my advances? -Edit: copied from r/marriedredpill due to violating rule no 8, no value posts.",,16,AntiWarr,1688583314.0 +Edit: copied from r/marriedredpill due to violating rule no 8, no value posts.",,16,AntiWarr,2023-07-05 18:55:14 askMRP,14qtmmj,How did I handle this night (our anniversary) and where to go from here?,"EDIT: Thanks to everyone for your viewpoints and advice. This seemed to be much needed, since I thought I did a lot better, than I obviously did. Today is the 4th of July (no, we don’t celebrate it in my country) also it is 26 years since my current wife and I met eachother and got together, both 18 years old when we met. @@ -68132,25 +68132,25 @@ My two questions are: 1) How did I handle this episode? What could I have improved, what should I not have done, and what did I do correct (if any)? 2) When she comes home tomorrow evening, I know she’ll ask about her hair. Should I not respond/STFU as sort of punishment or is it totally unrelated? Also she will have a new excuse when I try to initiate tomorrow. Is it better to give initiations a break for a while? Or is it better to keep pushing with my gloriuos succesrate of 0%? -Goodnight you dirty f@ckers!",,6,Wild-Cheesecake-6465,1688511519.0 +Goodnight you dirty f@ckers!",,6,Wild-Cheesecake-6465,2023-07-04 22:58:39 askMRP,14qh32x,Jekyl/Hyde type personality,"32 male, 6’1” 210, 230B, 305S, dream job making lots of dough, been in relationship 10 years, not married. Read NMMNG and starting on WISNIFG. Long story short, just bought house with girlfriend (don’t give a shit about the money and made her pay half and you can always sell it), but for a while she has been playing this “wicked step mother” and “helpless child” routine. Where she needs help doing everything and tries to be cutesy about it, but then she will go on these “paranoia” breaks and try to relate how forgetting to get something at the grocery store is “so disrespectful and you never listen to me”. I do have a massive problem saying no to her and expressing what I want, but have just started the journey. I’m following the techniques in NMMNG, but wondering if WISNIFG I’d the right next step to take. She is also super clingy and it might have something to do with me walking out on her a few times (she always gets very angry when this happens unlike some other responses people get on here) and the fact 10 years ago when we first met I was hooking up with some of her friends. Also, we both work from home and she started crying and getting angry when I told her I am being told to return to office. She is saying she doesn’t know how she’ll manage if I’m not around. She grew up very spoiled and mentions how her dad never told her no and she always gets what she wants from him. She even has his credit card to this day and she is almost 30. Sex is barely existent and not what is used to be, but holy shit she has been the best sex I have ever had, just super fun and “experimental” up until about 2 years ago then the drop off has been steep. -What do you think my next steps are? Reading WISINIFG or should I look into something else to read and follow? I just want to take our relationship back to what it was a couple years ago.",,8,[deleted],1688481772.0 +What do you think my next steps are? Reading WISINIFG or should I look into something else to read and follow? I just want to take our relationship back to what it was a couple years ago.",,8,[deleted],2023-07-04 14:42:52 askMRP,14n3twi,What's with all the deleting out?,"I've been around long enough now to start noticing how many accounts get deleted out. The only good reasons I can think to do it are if your account is discovered by your wife, or if you think you are at risk of getting doxxed. These risks should be low/nonexistant if you're careful with what you say and protect your login. I don't think it explains the volume I'm seeing. -The most frustrating part is the content loss. But it's also frustrating because the quality of advice here varies widely, and it would help to be able to see some posting history to help filter. What am I missing?",,8,deerstfu,1688139577.0 +The most frustrating part is the content loss. But it's also frustrating because the quality of advice here varies widely, and it would help to be able to see some posting history to help filter. What am I missing?",,8,deerstfu,2023-06-30 15:39:37 askMRP,14m6dwk,Caught her in a lie,"Should I play this aloof or confront her? -On one end, it sounds like a good idea to say ""Hey, here's the evidence. Drop the act. I'm not putting up with this behavior"" and setting up boundaries. But on the other hand, that seems too overt and maybe not the best way to control frame. Thoughts?",,10,AirForceNerd,1688048723.0 -askMRP,14j9wxh,dont feel like fucking my gf,"i have 2 jobs , am lifting and at the end of the day i dont feel like fucking my gf which is unattractive (170cm 90kg) but i want to stay because she is foreigner so i am immersed in language and am living in a cheap accomodation with good locality with her - help",,0,m812,1687762956.0 -askMRP,14ifb8r,How long did it take from the beginning og your MRP journey until you were in a state where you were no longer a beta with nice guy behaviour?,I’ve started my MRP journey appr. one month ago and consider myself to have only dipped my toes and not even understanding a fraction of it yet. I know it’ll probably be a life-long journey. But I was wondering how long it took for you to get to a state where you were no longer a beta with a nice guy behaviour and your marriage dynamic had changed drastically?,,9,Wild-Cheesecake-6465,1687676073.0 +On one end, it sounds like a good idea to say ""Hey, here's the evidence. Drop the act. I'm not putting up with this behavior"" and setting up boundaries. But on the other hand, that seems too overt and maybe not the best way to control frame. Thoughts?",,10,AirForceNerd,2023-06-29 14:25:23 +askMRP,14j9wxh,dont feel like fucking my gf,"i have 2 jobs , am lifting and at the end of the day i dont feel like fucking my gf which is unattractive (170cm 90kg) but i want to stay because she is foreigner so i am immersed in language and am living in a cheap accomodation with good locality with her - help",,0,m812,2023-06-26 07:02:36 +askMRP,14ifb8r,How long did it take from the beginning og your MRP journey until you were in a state where you were no longer a beta with nice guy behaviour?,I’ve started my MRP journey appr. one month ago and consider myself to have only dipped my toes and not even understanding a fraction of it yet. I know it’ll probably be a life-long journey. But I was wondering how long it took for you to get to a state where you were no longer a beta with a nice guy behaviour and your marriage dynamic had changed drastically?,,9,Wild-Cheesecake-6465,2023-06-25 06:54:33 askMRP,14iwn5j,Girlfriend giving silence treatment,"We've been planning on going on a date for weeks now and the days we agreed to go, i get caught up with work. Yesterday, we agreed to go but was raining where i was and decided we reschedule. She got angry and said ""i always do this"". -Now, she either does not respond to me or i get short answers(fine, okay) to anything i ask.",,0,man_tse,1687725557.0 +Now, she either does not respond to me or i get short answers(fine, okay) to anything i ask.",,0,man_tse,2023-06-25 20:39:17 askMRP,14gjkg0,Advice/Tips on safeguarding RP Lit,"Fellas. Like most of you probably, I'm finding it difficult to safeguard RP Canon from my wife. I really enjoy reading the recommended books and they've already made an improvement. However, the wife is a bloodhound and has already asked numerous questions about TRM and Ethos of Men. Have another couple books on order and I'd like to keep it close hold so she doesn't snoop. @@ -68159,12 +68159,12 @@ I figure I can't hide the fact that I'm reading these books but I'd rather her n Am I overreacting to her seeing the books? Trying to obey the 1st rule of Fight Club, but it's getting hard not to discuss when she sees all this new stuff I'm reading. -Fucking Hamster again....I know",,3,feddyman_1216,1687479321.0 +Fucking Hamster again....I know",,3,feddyman_1216,2023-06-23 00:15:21 askMRP,14gs1mp,Father of the Girlfriend,"Here is a question for fathers of young daughters of marriageable age. I have a thing for a much younger girl I met. I had a good religious reason for not getting her number when we met but that's running out and I'm going to get in touch with her soon. She hinted to me that I can get in touch with her by contacting her father (teaches religion) or the head of her religious school. I'm in good shape so more kids would just be fun for me. -I'm not desperate but I want to take a good shot at this. I'm definitely getting in touch with both of them even though there's an age difference. What would make you think: ""my daughter should date this guy because maybe my daughter should marry this guy?""",,0,extrastone,1687505645.0 +I'm not desperate but I want to take a good shot at this. I'm definitely getting in touch with both of them even though there's an age difference. What would make you think: ""my daughter should date this guy because maybe my daughter should marry this guy?""",,0,extrastone,2023-06-23 07:34:05 askMRP,14f97qj,Medium is the Message or Good Excuse,"New to RP so got some catching up to do. Thanks for any feedback. 40 years old, 6' 215lbs Active Duty Military for 22 years, married 16 years, two kids (15 boy, 9 girl) @@ -68183,7 +68183,7 @@ Although she's told me the story a few times, something still doesn't sit right. I keep trying to play it cool as I have ZERO proof she's done anything. But the ""medium is the message"" right? Any other time she'd go out of her way to contact me and let me know her whereabouts regardless of the condition, but didn't this time. -Do I need to man the fuck up and accept the possibility that she hooked up?",,12,feddyman_1216,1687357651.0 +Do I need to man the fuck up and accept the possibility that she hooked up?",,12,feddyman_1216,2023-06-21 14:27:31 askMRP,14asjnj,I have a new kind of energy. Is this what's called frame?,"I'm not married currently but I'm posting here because I'm a LTR person. Throughout the last 14 years (time really flies) I've had many long relationships, and they all fell down (mainly) because I lost myself and became clingy and jealous because of my fearful attachment. Every relationship started with me not giving a fuck, just living my life, and ended with me obsessing over the other person like an addict. Reacting to her emotions, thinking about a million different ""what if's"", using all my time for her, making her my life. I was always trying to balance it or at least hide it, but that didn't go far. I always wanted to be with a sweet and attractive woman, but every time I got her, I couldn't believe it's true and I started to get paranoid. @@ -68206,8 +68206,8 @@ It's such a strange and new mindset. I love her and she makes me feel good, I lo Currently I am going from side to side. My old mind taking over with it's fear and paranoia and my higher self catching it and returning me to my own energy and life. -So is this what frame means? I've read about it a lot but never seemed to integrate it. Any pointers?",,24,[deleted],1686908888.0 -askMRP,1497rv8,STFU vs NMMNG Advice,Reading NMMNG and was surprised by Glover’s advice to have partner read the book too. Any advice? STFU is serving me well. Why show my cards and have the wifey read the book?,,20,HAPPYDAZEWAZE,1686748940.0 +So is this what frame means? I've read about it a lot but never seemed to integrate it. Any pointers?",,24,[deleted],2023-06-16 09:48:08 +askMRP,1497rv8,STFU vs NMMNG Advice,Reading NMMNG and was surprised by Glover’s advice to have partner read the book too. Any advice? STFU is serving me well. Why show my cards and have the wifey read the book?,,20,HAPPYDAZEWAZE,2023-06-14 13:22:20 askMRP,147zfb1,LTR talking shit things behind my back - how to deal with this women crap?,"Gentlemen, I use temp account for this specific question, there is reason for this. But I would like to have your option on this and how to handle the situation. @@ -68230,8 +68230,8 @@ me: do you have any savings? she: no, just a bit 2k USD But, yearly tax bill, says her earnings/income are just above average to good. Now, we moved recently and I want to buy house, settle etc. we are living in rent temporary, I pay all the stuff, she puts a little bits here and there - like small grocery (not the big weekly ones). Some time ago, I also discovered she has put a lot of money (like literately years of incomes) over last years in to the old house, owned by her mother, she has renovated it completely behind my back. We had a fight about, it's unfair, etc ... she stopped for a while, but yesterday I found out she doing it again - again a project to rebuild the floor and ton of money. -Thanks,",,17,Silent-War-5903,1686608626.0 -askMRP,14774hs,What's the point of an LTR?,"If we're saying they're going to shit test you and continue to butch and complainthen whats the point? I understand if maybe she has your lids, bit other then that what's the point?",,8,zbradigan,1686521712.0 +Thanks,",,17,Silent-War-5903,2023-06-12 22:23:46 +askMRP,14774hs,What's the point of an LTR?,"If we're saying they're going to shit test you and continue to butch and complainthen whats the point? I understand if maybe she has your lids, bit other then that what's the point?",,8,zbradigan,2023-06-11 22:15:12 askMRP,13z4ufj,Fiance told me she’s never had any sexual desire in general,"Been together for 5 years, I’m 30 she’s 26. Lived together for 3. She had no relationship or sexual experience when we met. Over the last few months my fiancé confessed to me that she’s never felt any sexual desire - not just with me, but in general i.e no desire to masturbate and never has done. @@ -68248,7 +68248,7 @@ But I feel it goes beyond me, as she’s also told me that when she was a teen t I’ve suggested she goes to a sex therapist given her hang ups and how she viewed it growing up, and also get a hormone test, which she is willing to do and we have since booked these. In the meantime I’m continuing to work on myself - lift 4x a week (I am by no means strong and my body fat is circa 20%, but this is an improvement from where I used to be at around 25%) and am growing my side business. -The thing I’m worried about is what if this doesn’t work? I know the easy answer is to just leave, but i love her. This is literally the only problem in the relationship, everything else is great. Is there anything else I can do, or just be patient for now and see how therapy/hormone test turns out?",,5,Giveusablowie,1685777727.0 +The thing I’m worried about is what if this doesn’t work? I know the easy answer is to just leave, but i love her. This is literally the only problem in the relationship, everything else is great. Is there anything else I can do, or just be patient for now and see how therapy/hormone test turns out?",,5,Giveusablowie,2023-06-03 07:35:27 askMRP,13wq6df,Power Struggle and Initiations,"Been here for 6 months, lifts are going well, now working on cutting. Have gone through a few cycles of rambo/dread/mini-events. I've noticed something, probably just in my own head, and I'm looking for advice on how to deal with it: It feels to me like there's a power struggle in my relationship, where the one that's the least interested/invested has the power. If I go out to some social event on my own and amp up the dread, I can feel it shifting towards me having the power. But when I actually make the move to initiate with her, it feels like there is a power shift to her because now she can make the decision on whether or not to reciprocate. @@ -68259,7 +68259,7 @@ I know this isn't the best move, and that I should act with an abundance mentali Is it another covert contract? Me having a belief that a rejection shifts power away from me? Or that after a rejection, I should ""reprimand"" her by withholding affection for a bit? -I keep finding myself angry at her for something that happened the day before, and then I withdraw and act standoffish, which then perpetuates an icyness between us.",,15,Brilliant-Recover163,1685548832.0 +I keep finding myself angry at her for something that happened the day before, and then I withdraw and act standoffish, which then perpetuates an icyness between us.",,15,Brilliant-Recover163,2023-05-31 16:00:32 askMRP,13wq085,The sex pattern,"46 year old, married 8.5 years, together 12. 2 kids. I have been in a low sex marriage for a while, which I am working on. I have always tried to be in shape, but got serious about it 3 years ago, starting seriously lifting. Even before reading the sidebar, I was trying things to improve the frequency of sex. My wife seems to enjoy it when it happens, but it always seems like there is a set back. @@ -68272,7 +68272,7 @@ For example, the following month, we went away and she was at a point in her cyc Then I introduce a new possibility and the pattern resumes. -An alternative (maybe better way) of interpreting: we start having sex regularly, I get thirsty, lose frame, start buying her underwear, she finds this unattractive and shit tests me. I fail. We stay in the holding pattern...",,2,SimpRecovery,1685548445.0 +An alternative (maybe better way) of interpreting: we start having sex regularly, I get thirsty, lose frame, start buying her underwear, she finds this unattractive and shit tests me. I fail. We stay in the holding pattern...",,2,SimpRecovery,2023-05-31 15:54:05 askMRP,13skxsd,ILYBINILWY received today,"Things have been rough for over a year, had a few ups but almost always downs. Yesterday my wife was traveling home from a work trip and asked me to send her a naked selfie while she was at the airport, so I did. Then I told her to turn off iCloud sync so it doesn’t show up on our computer where the kids might see it. She then proceeded to accuse me of cheating on her because I know that pictures sync to the cloud when you have cloud sync turned on. Basically the straw that broke the camels back. @@ -68287,14 +68287,14 @@ Basically my only way back is chore play, shrink, and kissing her ass. I don’ Edit to add we’ve been married 12 years. -Edit 2, she cried a lot while she was giving the speech. She also said she cries a lot while I’m not around. I told her I don’t believe that, to which she said how could I love her if I would say something like that. She did not want a hug when I apologized for saying that. Not sure if it matter but the tears seemed real.",,13,BraveNewWorld1722,1685126167.0 +Edit 2, she cried a lot while she was giving the speech. She also said she cries a lot while I’m not around. I told her I don’t believe that, to which she said how could I love her if I would say something like that. She did not want a hug when I apologized for saying that. Not sure if it matter but the tears seemed real.",,13,BraveNewWorld1722,2023-05-26 18:36:07 askMRP,13rgzox,Compliance tests,"Married 8 years , 3 kids. Reading sidebar. Lifting long time. My wife seems to be constantly compliance testing me now that I’m aware of them. Example : I’m in bed and she is showering and asks if I’ll take down our washing basket at 10pm at night… I said “tomorrow” How the fuck can a man live like this lol with this constant bullshit. -Why is she constantly asking me to do these petty mundane tasks all the time? So stones I’ll do them to keep the peace. Sometimes I flat out just say no, but buckle up for the ensuing BS. what’s my options to these compliance tests? Are they shit tests?",,5,Rp_Guar,1685019150.0 +Why is she constantly asking me to do these petty mundane tasks all the time? So stones I’ll do them to keep the peace. Sometimes I flat out just say no, but buckle up for the ensuing BS. what’s my options to these compliance tests? Are they shit tests?",,5,Rp_Guar,2023-05-25 12:52:30 askMRP,13rv0qa,Help with Father in Law,"Long story short. Twelve years ago, in the space of a week, my wife’s father got caught cheating and the family business went into bankruptcy because he was way in over his head in debt. @@ -68302,12 +68302,12 @@ Mother in law stayed with him, there’s nothing in the relationship just compan Went away for the weekend with him and my brother in law and when we’re on the plane coming back home, I go to make conversation with him and see he’s texting his secretary. Calling her “my sunshine” etc. I look away and try not to take notice thinking maybe that’s just normal talk for them but then when I turn back to talk he’s going through his WhatsApp and selectively deleting the flirty messages to her. -My brain tells me to do nothing and stay the fuck out of it, but I’m also acting weird around him. What would you guys do?",,0,thatmattguy21,1685052630.0 +My brain tells me to do nothing and stay the fuck out of it, but I’m also acting weird around him. What would you guys do?",,0,thatmattguy21,2023-05-25 22:10:30 askMRP,13pm2nc,Female emotional connection required for sex,"Married 8 years, 3 kids. lifting long time, read praxeology frame, mmslp, practical female psychology. Taking things slowly trying to get my head around everything. Now I thought I skipped the anger phase but now I’m noticing im fucking angry about female nature and how much damage I have done to my marriage. my marriage is like a roller coaster. I understand to never listen to what women say and go off what they do but my wife has said for a very long time that she requires more emotional connection. Now in practical female psychology this appears to be one of the betaization manipulation criteria. I’m very confused about what my wife means by this? I have read a lot of other blue pill articles (Gottman etc) stating women require emotional connection to get in the mood by listening and a skill called attunement….from a red pill perspective what the actual fuck is this emotional connection???? Beta traits (comfort) or Alpha traits( sexually arousing)???? I do fail shit tests regularly still and pass some. Maybe 50/50 ratio. sex life is up and down like a yo yo aswell. -Frustrated red piller",,10,Rp_Guar,1684842122.0 +Frustrated red piller",,10,Rp_Guar,2023-05-23 11:42:02 askMRP,13po92i,Sticky situation - need opinion from other men,"Hey guys, So I need some opinions from other people than my nearest circle for my situation: @@ -68337,7 +68337,7 @@ What do y’all think of this situation? What would you do? What can I do to make the situation better and fix it to the way that I can build up on my momentum and better myself and get back my attraction? -Thank you in advance.",,3,Cyberrr98,1684847796.0 +Thank you in advance.",,3,Cyberrr98,2023-05-23 13:16:36 askMRP,13oxmtl,I don't want to be a stoic. Any advice for the emotional man?,"I have read about 10 books/series on the MRP sidebar. There seems to be a big stoicism theme. I totally see the appeal of the strong silent type. It's really the perfect foil for the emotional creatures that are women. The problem is that I don't want to become that. I already did it. I find it stifling and I am less successful in my life acting like that in every domain except women. I've been moving away from acting stoic my entire adult life. I was only stoic because of my tempermental, abusive parents. It was the only way to survive. But I'm actually neurotic. And I have found my neuroticism is a value to add to my intelligence. It helps me be more creative and fast in my thinking. When I get excited, I think faster and actually better. Sure, some of the things I think and say are crazy, but it's quickly on to the next idea, and the next, etc, until I have a whole list of brilliant ideas. Throw out the crazy ones. @@ -68352,7 +68352,7 @@ So that's my main question. Is there a good way to be a neurotic man and be suc If you want to try to give me more personalized advice, then here a bit about my situation: -I am married and when I met my wife I was in my stoic phase. She was attracted to that. She is neurotic. And the more I have embraced my own neuroticism, the more insane she has become in her emotional moments. She wants me to go back to being stoic. We've been together over 20 years. And over that time I became ""Dysfunctional Captain #3"" AKA the ""Captain and her husband"". She took complete control of the relationship many years ago. She makes all the money. I gave up my career to stay home with the kids. But I never wanted this, and neither did she. I'm on the red pill journey the last couple months. I want to be a man, not a defective woman. And she wants to be the woman, not a defective man. Our marriage has sucked for so long. But anyway. She has already given me feedback about the way I shut down her shit tests. (I used to fail every shit test before I unplugged). Basically I do it how you'd imagine Tony Stark doing it. I jump up, wave my hands around to shut her the fuck up, and fast talk. She said it makes me like a woman bitching and is not respectable to her. I guess she just wants the stoic thing. If I had to answer my own situation with my limited knowledge I would evaluate it this way: She wants a stoic. I used to be that. But I've blossomed into much more in many ways over the years. She likes those things. She just doesn't like how we butt heads like two women. So the only thing I can do is keep on keeping on with my ""go plan is the stay plan"" by upping my SMV until it is higher than hers. Then if she still won't act right towards me I'll ditch her and find someone who will. Or maybe she'll ditch me first when she realizes she just wants to be her own man, since she so used to it now.",,17,Hairy-Steak-4990,1684777319.0 +I am married and when I met my wife I was in my stoic phase. She was attracted to that. She is neurotic. And the more I have embraced my own neuroticism, the more insane she has become in her emotional moments. She wants me to go back to being stoic. We've been together over 20 years. And over that time I became ""Dysfunctional Captain #3"" AKA the ""Captain and her husband"". She took complete control of the relationship many years ago. She makes all the money. I gave up my career to stay home with the kids. But I never wanted this, and neither did she. I'm on the red pill journey the last couple months. I want to be a man, not a defective woman. And she wants to be the woman, not a defective man. Our marriage has sucked for so long. But anyway. She has already given me feedback about the way I shut down her shit tests. (I used to fail every shit test before I unplugged). Basically I do it how you'd imagine Tony Stark doing it. I jump up, wave my hands around to shut her the fuck up, and fast talk. She said it makes me like a woman bitching and is not respectable to her. I guess she just wants the stoic thing. If I had to answer my own situation with my limited knowledge I would evaluate it this way: She wants a stoic. I used to be that. But I've blossomed into much more in many ways over the years. She likes those things. She just doesn't like how we butt heads like two women. So the only thing I can do is keep on keeping on with my ""go plan is the stay plan"" by upping my SMV until it is higher than hers. Then if she still won't act right towards me I'll ditch her and find someone who will. Or maybe she'll ditch me first when she realizes she just wants to be her own man, since she so used to it now.",,17,Hairy-Steak-4990,2023-05-22 17:41:59 askMRP,13imu12,Explaining my wifes behaviour from a RP perspective and advice on how to “re-evoke” this.,"EDIT: Thank you all for taking the time to write some eye-opening no-BS answers. I shall now deep-dive into MRP material and get into action to create a good life for me! ——————————————— @@ -68376,7 +68376,7 @@ Is there any explanation to these sex crazy outbursts from a RP perspective? I want to re-create some of this sex-craziness in my LTR on a Daily/Weekly basis. However, it is mainly Scene 3 I consider a somewhat “healthy” foundation for this in-flow of dirty sex. The other scenarios seemed quite anxiety-driven. But in what way was the dynamics different in third scenario? Or was it still some sort of anxiety leading to sex? -And Sorry for bad gramma and poor english.",,12,Wild-Cheesecake-6465,1684189882.0 +And Sorry for bad gramma and poor english.",,12,Wild-Cheesecake-6465,2023-05-15 22:31:22 askMRP,13eivf7,Wife wanted an exception to the rule,"Today I got a call at work. My wife’s sister is going through a wicked divorce, it’s just a shit show to watch, also for the family dynamics that are playing out, and how easily it’s dragging everyone, and there ego’s into it. Today I got a phone call a work. “Sorry to bother you with this at work, but this, that and the other thing have happened”. My wife and daughter are not allowed anymore at the SIL house anymore. The soon to be ex-BIL, has cameras through the house, sees her there texts, calls and abuses her. So this has been the rule, but today, with the house going to auction in a month, panic stations have been initiated over getting it ready for the open. “Who else is going to help” and “I have to do it”. I held firm, and I won’t lie, at points I struggled to not lose my temper. I stated that it wouldn’t be happening, there’s nothing in it for us and our family is not going to be involved in this drama. There’s a thousand ways to help, this way won’t be happening. @@ -68387,7 +68387,7 @@ All of this was stressful, not the situation, fuck them and their problems, they Should I have entertained it less words would’ve been better. And should I have entertained as much of it as I did on the phone, again no. -But overall I am not unhappy with it.",,43,disgruntleddigger,1683799671.0 +But overall I am not unhappy with it.",,43,disgruntleddigger,2023-05-11 10:07:51 askMRP,13domv3,Sex initiation guidelines?,"Men. I’m new to MRP, and am forever grateful a community like this exists. I’m reading as much as I can and am starting to practice what I learn — ESPECIALLY some well needed STFU @@ -68403,8 +68403,8 @@ I had a question about initiating sex and if/ how/ when we do it Maybe I overlooked it, but are there guidelines around initiating sex in MRP?? -Thanks for the help",,11,Cultural-Highway3134,1683720341.0 -askMRP,139cdbn,"How maintain ""women in competition"" as a married man?","How does one produce a feeling of competition in one's wife? A core tenant of red pill is that women desire men who are desired by other women. So how does one make his wife feel she is continually ""sexually competing"" for you?",,9,maraschinoBandito,1683348400.0 +Thanks for the help",,11,Cultural-Highway3134,2023-05-10 12:05:41 +askMRP,139cdbn,"How maintain ""women in competition"" as a married man?","How does one produce a feeling of competition in one's wife? A core tenant of red pill is that women desire men who are desired by other women. So how does one make his wife feel she is continually ""sexually competing"" for you?",,9,maraschinoBandito,2023-05-06 04:46:40 askMRP,1380rhs,Went through my GF phone and now I need advice/insight,"Throwaway to reduce risk of blowback, long post with a short tl;dr if you’re not up to it. My gf (26) and I (34M) have been in a relationship for just over a year. I’d describe us both as RP, and we share a lot of the same values. I’d consider myself successful as a consultant making well into six-figures, and she works a remote 9-5 making good money. She’s submissive, cooks, cleans, seems to worship the ground I walk on (her words), and tends to listen to changes I request. When I’m with her, I don’t have to lift a finger. Yesterday, I gained access to her phone and let my curiosity get the best of me. @@ -68422,7 +68422,7 @@ She caught me going through her phone, and I confronted her. I laid all this out All the apologies in the world are not enough for me. I was furious then, I’m furious now every time I think about it. I feel humiliated. She met me late last night and stayed with me for a few hours, repeating how sorry she was. Crying and begging me to see her for who she is now and not how she poorly conducted herself in the past, but I’m broken about this. Yesterday and today, the thought of sex with her is nauseating. I have no idea how to proceed. For now, I told her I need time, and any hope for the future would be her commitment to showing me she has the capability to make sound decisions on the basis of how it’d affect our relationship, but I don’t even know if that’s enough. I love her, I do. She’s been great otherwise. I wanted to marry her. She adores and admires me. But her actions, her past, derail my feelings. If I’m to be a representation of her, and her a representation of me, I look like a complete idiot right now. -tl;dr: Thought I had a trad wife, turns out she’s a young reformed 304 whose past has leaked into our time together.",,6,ThrowawayTrad1029,1683236096.0 +tl;dr: Thought I had a trad wife, turns out she’s a young reformed 304 whose past has leaked into our time together.",,6,ThrowawayTrad1029,2023-05-04 21:34:56 askMRP,136j2er,Relationships with non-romantic female family members,"This question that I have is unconventional. How do you think that the RP has affected your relationship with other women in your life apart from your romantic interests, such as your mother/other female family members. @@ -68437,7 +68437,7 @@ Its funny to see female solipsism in real time though when you take a step back In a nutshell, the conundrum is that frame/lack of vulnerability has made me in a leader role with other non-romantic female family members which is good, but I feel more distant on an emotional and ***human*** level and disappointed in them, as its a one-sided relationship and their clear lack of care into reciprocating a genuine human exchange emotionally. Is this some type of anger phase with non-romantic women, or a genuine problem in how I am perceiving these relationships and how it should be. -Thoughts appreciated.",,10,muh245,1683116737.0 +Thoughts appreciated.",,10,muh245,2023-05-03 12:25:37 askMRP,134zhw9,ILYBINILWY speech,"Fuck. Just heard these words. The infamous ILYBINILWY speech. 43 y/o, 220#, 15# BF and I tell 1000# pussies to fuck off, so its not my looks or lifts. @@ -68452,7 +68452,7 @@ Been together just over 3.5 years. I am locked into my current living arrangemen Just spinning round and round on this. -Not sure where things went so badly.",,11,red-sfpplus,1682971034.0 +Not sure where things went so badly.",,11,red-sfpplus,2023-05-01 19:57:14 askMRP,12zz35o,10 years relationship help," I’ve been married now 10 years, when first together just my accent (I’m Irish, she’s Canadian) was enough to get her wet. When I would leave the house to train she’d beg me to stay home and make her my slut. She was 21 and a virgin when we met, and she was my slut you for the first 2 years of our relationship. @@ -68469,14 +68469,14 @@ While we were split up, I dropped weight for a comp, and every girl I fucked see I’m working my way through RP theory, but my concentration levels and patience are not what they were after a series of concussions the last few years. -Any advice?",,14,[deleted],1682541790.0 +Any advice?",,14,[deleted],2023-04-26 20:43:10 askMRP,12wjz01,Not sure how to approach long overdue conversations while staying in Frame,"I've been doing RP about a month now. Lifting nearly every day, living my life for me, cut out drugs and alcohol. Read NMMNG twice and WISNIFG, and doing the activities. All of this is great. I feel stronger than I have in a decade both emotionally and physically. Wife is still super distant, working a ton. Mostly I'm ignoring it. She isn't going to buy some overnight transformation and I'm saying fuck it. I've failed and won shit tests about 50/50. Not pushing them enough but I've also been ignoring her more so I can own my shit. Now I want to push the limits more. Frankly so much of her complaints are legit. I've been a faggot beta nice guy for years. I want her to get all that shit out on me. I don't even know where to begin with those conversations. I'm already different by action in every way. I just know feel like we're not going to get in my Frame until this happens. -An I even correct about that or an I still not getting it?",,3,SteveGonnaFuckHer,1682272482.0 +An I even correct about that or an I still not getting it?",,3,SteveGonnaFuckHer,2023-04-23 17:54:42 askMRP,12ubf14,MRP Starter Pack,"I have failed. I am divorced. Its a long story but wife had long distance EA, possibly physical once. Not sure. Gave her benefit of doubt on a couple of questionable situations before that. But finally had enough of her generally disrespting boundries and left. Now the why she did that/lost respect for me. I wasn't RP enough and I am still not. I still am 20 lbs overweight. I talk too much with women. Have too many emotions that I shared. I am pretty unsuccessful in my career but have always been employed. But by no means was I ever pulling down proper money--like 200k plus--and all my friends have. Generally failed any and all comforts test from her by being an asshole the last few years as she started pulling away. @@ -68491,7 +68491,7 @@ Former gambling addiction, very cynical personality that turns people off, in my I have read sidebar, but often don't apply sidebar. I need to start small. And I need to put it in writing so thanks for reading my whine fest. Goals: limit masturbation to once weekly. 3 cardio sessions and 3 lift sessions per week. Make 150k by this time next year. Weigh 185 lbs (lose 20) by July. Be less of a slob. Coach a kids team. Be a better person and better man. -Any additional tips for motivation? Was thinking TRT because I am also tired all the time. Just getting it out here to try and hold myself accountable, apologizes for burdening your eyes and minds. Thank you.",,14,Legitimate_Data2714,1682097406.0 +Any additional tips for motivation? Was thinking TRT because I am also tired all the time. Just getting it out here to try and hold myself accountable, apologizes for burdening your eyes and minds. Thank you.",,14,Legitimate_Data2714,2023-04-21 17:16:46 askMRP,12h1jj9,My Internal Thoughts After Wife Discovered My Affair,"**Background** Late 20s M, LTR for 4 years, no kids. 225 bench, squat and DL. Weight: 180lb, 16% body fat. Have read entire sidebar multiple times include NMMNG, WISNIFG, Practical Female Psychology, Book of Pook. 5 years ago, I got into TRP (main subreddit) and used it for validation to game women until I found my LTR. One year ago, I realized I was a drunken captain, found the MRP and since then I've gotten more attractive, dressed better, displayed OI and improved my game for myself while slowly getting rid of covert contracts and the need for validation from other women. @@ -68514,8 +68514,8 @@ Many tears ensued. Eventually I told her we would get through this together and 4. When sex is not feasible because of residency demands, I have discovered intimacy with my LTR through other means like peace of mind, watching movies together, drinking wine, cooking together etc. I want to believe this may be enough to satisfy my needs but the truth is I am not sure and I have some soul-searching to do. 5. I will hold off on saying anything hasty to the plate. I will observe my feelings day to day while keeping her in the dark until I decide what role she will have in my life, if any. 6. It is very easy to DEER when infidelity is caught. I was able to observe, orient direct and stop myself from doing so while she was remonstrating but I still slipped up at times. However, the next few weeks will be a significant test of my frame as my LTR tries to figure out exactly I am thinking. I will not say or commit to anything to make her feel better. I want to be very careful with my word and actions. -7. I will need to read more reports about Catch and Release. I have a lot to learn.",,11,HangisLife,1681087158.0 -askMRP,12b0iff,At-home wear,In relation to dread and being attractive I’d like to ask: what do you wear around the house?,,8,established_1991,1680561502.0 +7. I will need to read more reports about Catch and Release. I have a lot to learn.",,11,HangisLife,2023-04-10 00:39:18 +askMRP,12b0iff,At-home wear,In relation to dread and being attractive I’d like to ask: what do you wear around the house?,,8,established_1991,2023-04-03 22:38:22 askMRP,11zxlu8,Are these nice guy habits or should I do what I feel like doing?,"I've read wisnifg lately, I'm noticing manipulation and I know how to deal with it without guilt, I started putting myself first much more. A lot of times doing so I hear my woman complain that I don't spend time with her and do gym/other things instead, don't listen to her problems, etc... I don't deer, I don't explain myself, but I can't help myself but think ""but I do want to comfort her and be there for her when she needs to talk or give her more time and reassurance, but this is a manipulative behavior and she's mad at me so I need to fog and exit"" (because she does try to manipulate me into giving her more attention and time) and I just shift my mind to dgaf mode. @@ -68523,7 +68523,7 @@ A lot of times doing so I hear my woman complain that I don't spend time with he Is this my nice guy frame talking? All advice here says ""stop giving a shit about her, it doesn't matter how she feels"" but I want to care and sometimes I am worried about her. Isn't this what a good leader does? If my life is in place, shouldn't I care for her well being if it comes from a true place of caring and not from being manipulated? -Please show me the way out of the confusion of techniques and ideas. Thanks.",,13,lisguy,1679605979.0 +Please show me the way out of the confusion of techniques and ideas. Thanks.",,13,lisguy,2023-03-23 21:12:59 askMRP,11yg9b2,Shit tests and fogging through the phone?,"A basic question: Sometimes I can't see my woman for a few days due to work, and when criticism or shit tests are coming through a phone call generally I just fog them or use AM, similarly to what I'd do face to face. Sometimes fogging is not enough and she wants ""to talk about it"", maybe try to get an apology out of me or just rumble and puke her emotions at me, and I wonder where's the line between continuing fogging through a call without making it a big deal and between saying ""No. We won't talk now, we'll do it when we see each other face to face"". @@ -68531,12 +68531,12 @@ Any tips? How do you deal with stuff when you're at work or away and she's throw On another note a lot of times after her criticism and after me owning my actions and fogging I have a hard time dealing with ""if my feelings are hurt, why can't you just say I'm sorry for hurting you?"" even when it's face to face, so I'd love any tips for that as well. -Edit : a clarification - I am not talking about work hours but an evening call after I finished work, going out if I do and everything else",,12,mrmonbant,1679485038.0 +Edit : a clarification - I am not talking about work hours but an evening call after I finished work, going out if I do and everything else",,12,mrmonbant,2023-03-22 11:37:18 askMRP,11t7oo0,"Whats does ""I never loved you mean""?","Said as part of a 'we need to talk' break up conversation after nine years of marriage and two children. Still living together five months later. No romantic physical touch, except for a hug a week or so ago. The hug was part of a continuous trend of improvement. Not sure if that background helps or if the phrase has an established meaning. I'm new to MRP. -Is it the same as ILYBINILWY?",,5,Anyoldname23,1679004065.0 +Is it the same as ILYBINILWY?",,5,Anyoldname23,2023-03-16 22:01:05 askMRP,11larb7,Advice from a 17 Year LTR and 3 kids,"Have been cohabiting for almost 2 decades. Yes we had our ups and downs, but when I read some of the posts here and see something like,,""She is t doing X Y Z, should I DREAD game her"" this and that, like dude,,, the number one advice I can give which always works.. @@ -68550,7 +68550,7 @@ If you notice an issue, CALL HER OUT. That is Bullshit, I call bullshit. Its so Learn how to call out your wife's bullshit and maybe make it as an excuse for a manufactured outrage. -Again,, just my 50 cents. Take it whatever. enjoy.",,19,alphamale_011,1678221885.0 +Again,, just my 50 cents. Take it whatever. enjoy.",,19,alphamale_011,2023-03-07 20:44:45 askMRP,11jk80n,Boundary enforcement/ lies. Did I Rambo?,"25 / 6’1 / 88kg. SBD - 220/135/250. All KG. @@ -68595,7 +68595,7 @@ At one point in the night I see her coming into the room where I was and getting Boundary enforced. Yes this is victim puke, yes I’m being a bitch, but I had a boundary and I had to honour it. -Please tell me if I went Rambo. I just really have a problem with smoking with people I care about. She knows the history.",,26,SirQuads,1678065787.0 +Please tell me if I went Rambo. I just really have a problem with smoking with people I care about. She knows the history.",,26,SirQuads,2023-03-06 01:23:07 askMRP,11k3qlj,"Caugth wife trying to be an escort again, need a kick in the balls Victim Puke","I been lurking a couple of days here, since all this happened, she is no longer allowed in our home, already got her keys back and change the locks jic, i went NC for a week, then i fucked up got dragged into a conversation regarding the kids. Since then she has been calling almost daily telling the usual i love you, my mistake etc etc, last week i made the mistake of stay for dinner at the place she is now, i went to pick up the kids they were having dinner, she invited me and tried to play family while at it, i fell for it for almost an hour, but when i left i was even more angry, couple of days later we had sex, awesome sex but from reading here i now understand its hysterical bonding, and just a way to try to get me into her control again. @@ -68674,7 +68674,7 @@ That's when she encouraged my wife get in contact with the SD, my wife was embar After I found out, my wife went to stay at her mother's house, she says her friend kept making fun of her, and tells her to use this opportunity to make lot of money, she has other people she can introduce to my wife, my take her friend was/is planning to pimp her. -At least from our conversation wife doesn't want to return to escorting or sex work, she wants a regular job, even if we don't get back together, for her escorting is something she did when young not what she wanted to this stage of her life.",,0,pancholafoca,1678120691.0 +At least from our conversation wife doesn't want to return to escorting or sex work, she wants a regular job, even if we don't get back together, for her escorting is something she did when young not what she wanted to this stage of her life.",,0,pancholafoca,2023-03-06 16:38:11 askMRP,11j0bvo,Observations of a dying man,"I debated on emparting this knowledge on this group of knuckleheads, but I think it’s worth is since none of you know me or the man I am talking about. Still, a sensitive subject since death always is; also this is not a criticism of the guy who is passing, just my observations since I figure there could be some value to this group. First let me say, I was not close with the guy in question, but he was my wife’s stepdad for about 10 years before I knew either of them. I have met him once over the course of the last 15 years, and while he was ok he probably is someone I would have hung out with occasionally. I won’t bore you with the full background, not relevant to my observations. @@ -68685,7 +68685,7 @@ He is living with his buddy and his buddy’s wife who are taking care of him an Witnessing the end parts of his life, it struck me how true our Red Pill reality is. No woman that used his protection, resources, or leadership over many marriages and relationships was there to thank him or show any gratitude for what he did do. Some of the children he provided for (like my wife) and fathered did show up, and at lot of his friends did, but not a single solitary woman he was romatically involved even cared enough to call him. -Fairtales are a fantasy boys.. above is the reality.",,17,SnooPets7004,1678031633.0 +Fairtales are a fantasy boys.. above is the reality.",,17,SnooPets7004,2023-03-05 15:53:53 askMRP,11fr0s3,Enforce Boundary or Let It Go,"39yo, 5'6"", 141 lbs, BF 20.5% LTR is 40yo. 2 kids. I had plans tonight to go out to a class (something I’ve been doing to get out of the house more and have more hobbies). @@ -68695,16 +68695,16 @@ I tell her that timing wise there’s no way she’ll be back in time. I ask if Now I feel like I’m mostly overreacting and that I should just let this one go due to the circumstances, but also I can’t help feeling like she’s putting me at the bottom of her priority list. If this was a life or death situation, she would have left work early, which she didn’t. She also had time to pick up our older daughter. But just didn’t have the time to work something out with me so I could keep my plans. -Any advice on how to handle? Half of me feels like I should just stfu and let it go this time and the other half wants to make it an issue.",,5,Brilliant-Recover163,1677726285.0 +Any advice on how to handle? Half of me feels like I should just stfu and let it go this time and the other half wants to make it an issue.",,5,Brilliant-Recover163,2023-03-02 03:04:45 askMRP,11elo7j,NMMNG: Read with her? Or no?,"Super rookie career Nice Guy here. Just starting to learn things here and going to solo therapy. Just started NMMNG today—he’s seriously talking about me. Wish I had found it years ago. Glovers 2nd caution encourages reading with the partner—in this case my wife of 25 years. Is there a recommendation here on this? -Really appreciate the mentorship.",,11,INFeriorJudge,1677622400.0 -askMRP,11ba4q6,fogging,can i get some phrases as examples of fogging. i understand what it is but i am unable to articulate it . a few examples would be very helpful,,7,Lopsided-Mix-4131,1677293825.0 +Really appreciate the mentorship.",,11,INFeriorJudge,2023-02-28 22:13:20 +askMRP,11ba4q6,fogging,can i get some phrases as examples of fogging. i understand what it is but i am unable to articulate it . a few examples would be very helpful,,7,Lopsided-Mix-4131,2023-02-25 02:57:05 askMRP,115cwco,Wife wants a long-distance marriage,"Don’t be me. I have to learn this the hard way it seems. Took the red pill too late and now from sex-starved marriage I’m moving to a long-distance one. She claims that it’s good for her career to go and volunteer in another country thousands of miles away for a year and that she would be fine with a long-distance marriage even if it wasn’t for 1 year, but 3 years or more. Translation into manglish: “I have no desire or respect for you, you’re boring as fuck and I want to get that dopamine from chads while you’re waiting for me like a lapdog, ready to welcome me back with open arms”. -Although I’ve been working on myself for the past 2-3 months with great intensity, I don’t think that even after years of self improvement I can realistically get something better than an overweight single mom. I just cannot make that leap and go from 3-4 SMV to 7-8, I’m a short average looking guy with a small dick, it doesn’t matter how much I earn or how much status I get, or how much muscle I build, compared to chads I’ll just look like a kid in his father’s suit trying to act like a serious businessman - I just don’t look the part.",,10,fijijo,1676718057.0 +Although I’ve been working on myself for the past 2-3 months with great intensity, I don’t think that even after years of self improvement I can realistically get something better than an overweight single mom. I just cannot make that leap and go from 3-4 SMV to 7-8, I’m a short average looking guy with a small dick, it doesn’t matter how much I earn or how much status I get, or how much muscle I build, compared to chads I’ll just look like a kid in his father’s suit trying to act like a serious businessman - I just don’t look the part.",,10,fijijo,2023-02-18 11:00:57 askMRP,110rvch,"(FR) If You Have ADHD, Texting Is Absolutely ONLY For Logistics","If you've been here long enough, you'll often hear ""texting is only for logistics"". As ""boomer-ish"" as that sounds, it is the absolute truth if you have both ADHD and do not have your life on lock. @@ -68717,8 +68717,8 @@ If you have ADHD, check out /u/Mr_Badass [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedP YMMV but as a cautionary tale, she can text you whatever the fuck she wants. It's only when you watch what she does that will really tell you anything. AWALT. -No one cares about you, especially in a car dealership.",,12,BodybuilderHuge9517,1676240104.0 -askMRP,110ruis,"Advice for ""equality"" in the bedroom","So my LTR and I have an awesome sex life, we can't get enough of each other and the relationship is really strong (yes I have been prioritizing myself first, not her). The only minor issue I have is when we have sex, she expects it to be always orgasm-for-orgasm. If I cum and she doesn't, she gets annoyed or begs me to make her cum, or brings it up the next time we have sex. I have told her ""I don't keep score, babe"", but it doesn't really affect things. I love pleasuring my girlfriend, but it's really hard for her to cum from PIV only and I don't like going down on her pretty much every time we do it. I have tried not cumming myself to emphasize the ""I don't keep score"" part but her mindset pretty much stays the same. There's no spontaneous blowjobs or anything because then she expects me to do the same back to her. Advice on how to proceed here?",,0,blaackbackedjackal,1676240041.0 +No one cares about you, especially in a car dealership.",,12,BodybuilderHuge9517,2023-02-12 22:15:04 +askMRP,110ruis,"Advice for ""equality"" in the bedroom","So my LTR and I have an awesome sex life, we can't get enough of each other and the relationship is really strong (yes I have been prioritizing myself first, not her). The only minor issue I have is when we have sex, she expects it to be always orgasm-for-orgasm. If I cum and she doesn't, she gets annoyed or begs me to make her cum, or brings it up the next time we have sex. I have told her ""I don't keep score, babe"", but it doesn't really affect things. I love pleasuring my girlfriend, but it's really hard for her to cum from PIV only and I don't like going down on her pretty much every time we do it. I have tried not cumming myself to emphasize the ""I don't keep score"" part but her mindset pretty much stays the same. There's no spontaneous blowjobs or anything because then she expects me to do the same back to her. Advice on how to proceed here?",,0,blaackbackedjackal,2023-02-12 22:14:01 askMRP,10x2yan,Thoughts on Rocking the (wife's) Boat on purpose.,"I recently called my wife out for slacking off on her duties. I recognize it is in part my fault for not giving a clear direction on important matters that I want her to attend, and acting in a way that shows those things are important, like asking for feedback. I believe calling her out clearly and rationally, and retrieving my attention is a step in the right direction. I'm trying to keep a level head and keep an eye on how it plays out. @@ -68729,7 +68729,7 @@ So this time, I chose to call her out intensely, but clearly and rationally, as What do you think? What do you guys normally do? Do you usually let her do her thing, and then rock the boat intensely? Or do you usually provide the direction in a steady, constant, non-intense manner? -Stats: Early 30's, BP 5x175, SQ 5x245, DL 5x275. Height: 6'2"", Weight 175 lbs. BF 12%. No kids, wife pregnant.",,3,NihlusStylus,1675872706.0 +Stats: Early 30's, BP 5x175, SQ 5x245, DL 5x275. Height: 6'2"", Weight 175 lbs. BF 12%. No kids, wife pregnant.",,3,NihlusStylus,2023-02-08 16:11:46 askMRP,10wp1rk,What Training Split do you do?,"A while back I wrote this split plan arrangement specifically geared towards people who work 9-5 or anyone with a busy schedule. @@ -68826,10 +68826,10 @@ Tip: For employees or for those with busy schedules it would be better to limit -What do you think? Are you an employee? What kind of split do you use?",,0,alphamale_011,1675836236.0 +What do you think? Are you an employee? What kind of split do you use?",,0,alphamale_011,2023-02-08 06:03:56 askMRP,10qwyxs,"Fitness test vs Nagging (aka ""you're never good enough"") - what's a proper response?","I'm quite new to MRP and have been studying the sidebar material for over a month while lifting daily, changing my diet, and improving my social life. It's a rookie question, but I still don't understand how to respond to her nagging (e.g., when I don't wash the dishes or I give her a backrub and then she complains I did it in the wrong way, etc. - basically whatever I do is wrong) vs fitness tests (e.g., ""why are you wearing this colgne tonight"", ""can you really do X"", ""are we going to... X""). -Is that true that only nuking her nagging would be effective? Amused mastery, A and A, as well as fogging can be only applied to fitness and comfort tests?",,11,fijijo,1675264094.0 +Is that true that only nuking her nagging would be effective? Amused mastery, A and A, as well as fogging can be only applied to fitness and comfort tests?",,11,fijijo,2023-02-01 15:08:14 askMRP,10rgjyb,Why no one talks about Roissy's Dread anymore?,"I am quite impressed by how far the RP (prev known as ""manosphere"") has improved. As one of the small contributors to the sphere back in the day and since I moved on to writing about exercise (since those topics are what people from the manosphere found value from my articles), as such I have been friends with writers like Ferdinand Bardamu, The Unmarried Man, Psionoc, Hawaiian Libertarian and the others I cannot recall. But of all the RP writers the one that was most helpful for me and my LTR has been Chateu Heariste(Roissy) he is what I can say really got me into this sphere. @@ -68874,7 +68874,7 @@ Say things like “I really value my independence and freedom” relevant to not Thermonuclear Option: -Have an affair and make sure she finds out about it. Arrange the confrontation so that it does not happen at your place. When she confronts you, don’t get defensive. Don’t speak at all. Let her vent. Let her punch you in the chest and scream obscenities. When she takes a breather, tell her she’s never looked more beautiful and you will never stop loving her. Then without waiting for her response calmly walk out the door and break off all contact for two weeks. When she comes back to you… and she will… you will have a love slave for life.",,0,alphamale_011,1675311740.0 +Have an affair and make sure she finds out about it. Arrange the confrontation so that it does not happen at your place. When she confronts you, don’t get defensive. Don’t speak at all. Let her vent. Let her punch you in the chest and scream obscenities. When she takes a breather, tell her she’s never looked more beautiful and you will never stop loving her. Then without waiting for her response calmly walk out the door and break off all contact for two weeks. When she comes back to you… and she will… you will have a love slave for life.",,0,alphamale_011,2023-02-02 04:22:20 askMRP,10qpf3a,"I fucked up by showing weakness, need advice","When growing up, I was treated without respect by my parents. They controlled me and gave me no freedom, I had to do live by their image. This led to me being a loser. My brother took it differently and became like them. Dominant. He's never been very good with women though. Past 15 years I spent my life studying TRP and turned it around. Made new friends, plated some women. My self confidence grew. People saw me for the new me. I ditched my old friends. But not my family. With them I'm still seen as less than what I have become. @@ -68893,7 +68893,7 @@ I lift. I try to suffer in silence. I still try to act as prescribed. But it's a I don't think there's anything I can do but continue on this path and hope for an occasion to prove my worth again. -Any advice on how to turn this around?",,8,serious_bs,1675244419.0 +Any advice on how to turn this around?",,8,serious_bs,2023-02-01 09:40:19 askMRP,10nuty3,(FR) Posts I Wish I Read When I Started.,"My stats https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/10e73mj/own_your_shit_weekly_january_17_2023/j5azalo/ When I started out, I knew I was a huge ass bitch in relationships so I read the required books and went to work. @@ -68909,7 +68909,7 @@ https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/6lodnt/the_biological_stepmothe Thanks to you cunts, I finally understood NGAF for the first time tonight. Woman said one thing and did another, I didn't get pussy but I wasn't butthurt about it I just signed up for bjj class which I have always wanted to do. I never signed up for bjj because I was afraid of losing to badder motherfuckers on the mat and being exposed as a weak ass fuck. Felt fucking great because I wasn't doing it to spite her, or for her, or for any pussy. I did because I fucking wanted to and it felt great. Fuck me I've been such a pussy. -Special thanks to /u/red-sfpplus for the 2x4 and /u/HornsOfApathy/ for this post https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/p12fuy/retard_science_experiment_the_holy_grail_of_cum/",,22,BodybuilderHuge9517,1674954044.0 +Special thanks to /u/red-sfpplus for the 2x4 and /u/HornsOfApathy/ for this post https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/p12fuy/retard_science_experiment_the_holy_grail_of_cum/",,22,BodybuilderHuge9517,2023-01-29 01:00:44 askMRP,10mbvln,Not scoring until after 1am,"33, Married for 10 together for 12 with 3 kids, 5’11”, 194lbs, Lifts: Bench: 280lbs, Squat: 365lbs DL: 450lbs OHP: 165lbs @@ -68935,14 +68935,14 @@ I love connecting throughout the day (which can involve me listening and some ta If there’s any tricks to bypass all the talking, I need to be enlightened. -So far, my best guess is that she reaaally wants to make sure the kids are asleep. So, maybe if I can get them wound down sooner, it’ll shift the sex sooner.",,1,Visual_Pack_2206,1674793108.0 +So far, my best guess is that she reaaally wants to make sure the kids are asleep. So, maybe if I can get them wound down sooner, it’ll shift the sex sooner.",,1,Visual_Pack_2206,2023-01-27 04:18:28 askMRP,10lsxsx,Married and Lost Desire,"Anybody else here have a happy marriage other than the fact that you’ve lost sexual desire for your wife? We’re married 3 years so far, and about a year ago I started losing attraction to the point that now I don’t even initiate sex anymore. I’d rather rub one out. The only time we do it is when she initiates which is like once a month. I believe it’s the fact that I just despise monogamy and I want variety. I can’t go the rest of my life craving novelty and new experiences with other women. When there’s billions of them on the planet, why would anyone torture themselves to be relegated to 1 woman for life. I made the wrong decision and I’m miserable right now. Luckily we have no kids or property together, so it’s not like she can take anything. I want to live alone, not have anybody walk in on me on the toilet, come and go as I please and enjoy the company of many different females that will ensure my sex drive stays high. -I can’t voice my opinion on any other boards as they won’t allow red pill views and will ban you.",,0,[deleted],1674743046.0 +I can’t voice my opinion on any other boards as they won’t allow red pill views and will ban you.",,0,[deleted],2023-01-26 14:24:06 askMRP,10ld3yy,She had a meltdown and I decided it's crossing my boundaries,"I had this situation now and I'm trying to make some sense out of what happened. Would appreciate some feedback. She called me needing my help with some simple task and plans, being super enxious. So I'm giving comfort, trying to calm her and also suggesting some solutions, and she keeps relying with ""no, you're just making it worse"", or not answering things I say, even telling me to be quiet. It makes me really not wanna be there and help and I feel bad and unappreciated but I tell myself it's now time to step up, fog, help her, and deal with it later. Eventually after like an hour she follows my lead and I guide her to finish her task. @@ -68955,7 +68955,7 @@ I stopped myself at the last moment from deering, fogged a bit and when she fini She left some massages about me being childish, not caring about her, etc.. -I would like to hear some feedback on how I acted, and how would be the healthiest way for me to proceed now. If she wants to really talk about it, will it be right to explain how I felt? Will it be right to refuse to elaborate? Thanks.",,11,lisguy,1674689152.0 +I would like to hear some feedback on how I acted, and how would be the healthiest way for me to proceed now. If she wants to really talk about it, will it be right to explain how I felt? Will it be right to refuse to elaborate? Thanks.",,11,lisguy,2023-01-25 23:25:52 askMRP,10i6h8x,Boundary Enforcement: The place is a mess,"- The Goal: I want the house cleaner/maintained, and that's both yours and my job - Handling: Not great. Average take off, Ordinary flight, Rough Approach, Landed well enough. @@ -69013,7 +69013,7 @@ Stats and Lift's currently: - Program GZCLP 12 months, post ""fuckarounditis"" - Height 184cm Weight 88kgs BF% 18 Navy method - Sidebar read once through, some stuff of it twice. -- Married 3, Together 6, first kid",,3,disgruntleddigger,1674348039.0 +- Married 3, Together 6, first kid",,3,disgruntleddigger,2023-01-22 00:40:39 askMRP,10hokew,"Tried to deal with criticism, feel like I did bad","Me: 20's, dating this one for almost a year, 5'9, 155lbs, lifting for 1.5 years, lean physique, visible muscle, was spinning plates until I decided I prefer to focus on this ltr. Enjoying the process. Read Book of Pook, NMMNG, WISNIFG @@ -69048,7 +69048,7 @@ I don't know when and if it's right to apologize and how to deal with ""why can' On a later call she apologized for making all of this so hard and wanted to hear from me what can she do better next time, so maybe my leading did come through but I don't want to take this as my feedback. -I really would love some of you to give me feedback and help me reflect on my actions. Cheers.",,10,mrmonbant,1674298013.0 +I really would love some of you to give me feedback and help me reflect on my actions. Cheers.",,10,mrmonbant,2023-01-21 10:46:53 askMRP,10cz3mx,Restarting after divorce," I'm a couple of weeks from finalizing divorce. Rambo'd MRP shit w/ a wife with legit childhood trauma/depression/anxiety, FUBAR'd everything. She's done, don't blame her. I've read a lot of the sidebar, understand game (have a lottttt to learn), was always thinking in relation to my marriage. I'm 37, 5' 11"", 195, sq 305, dl 385. Need to lose \~15. Balding. Fantastic ginger beard. Reasonably attractive guy. The very attractive 20 year olds @ my gym don't know of my existence. The Moms are friendly. Make $200k in tech sales. I'm really good at talking to people... analytically. Dress well. @@ -69067,10 +69067,10 @@ Rollo talks about the difficulty of women my age, that 18-23 are the most fun/re My SMV is probably as high as it has ever been, but I'm 13 years removed from the SM. I suppose all there is to do is to put myself out there and see what happens, recalibrate accordingly. Hoping for some guidance from those that have done similar so I can do it more efficiently & effectively. - Appreciate it.",,11,done_failing,1673826839.0 + Appreciate it.",,11,done_failing,2023-01-15 23:53:59 askMRP,10ap6pd,Proper reaction to sexual rejection in a marriage.,"I get rejected all the time. She claims she has a “low sex drive” and only wants it once a week/ once every 2 weeks. So, following that schedule, on Saturday she would initiate that passionless “duty” sex, yet whenever I suggest it I get shot down regardless of how long it’s been. Normally, after getting rejected I cut all my affection towards her - no hugging , kissing, no compliments, etc. it’s my natural reaction, but now that I think about it- isn’t that showing her that you’re “outcome dependent”? How do you even suggest sex in a dead bedroom- do you keep making advances and getting shut down or do you keep working on yourself, adding more alpha traits and wait for her to initiate more? -Most importantly, how do you stop rewarding this bad behavior in a proper way, while still being outcome independent?",,16,fijijo,1673597798.0 +Most importantly, how do you stop rewarding this bad behavior in a proper way, while still being outcome independent?",,16,fijijo,2023-01-13 08:16:38 askMRP,10a9imv,I'm angry and I dont want to be - the 5 columns,"I keep finding while reading the RP books I am getting frustrated that my life is so different than what is described. Additionally I have found that I am a grumpy unfun dude at home - working on getting better. @@ -69232,7 +69232,7 @@ I didnt set the expectation clear enough that I want to be in bed asleep by 10pm **What should I have done, owned or been on top of** ? -If something is a priority I need to communicate it and take action my self. so that means no more coffee after noon, reducing time watching tv each night, setting up for bed myself at around 9 to get the ball rolling. so fucking own my nighttime routine. MRP dudes would tell me to not give a shit what she is doing and do what I need to",,8,[deleted],1673554742.0 +If something is a priority I need to communicate it and take action my self. so that means no more coffee after noon, reducing time watching tv each night, setting up for bed myself at around 9 to get the ball rolling. so fucking own my nighttime routine. MRP dudes would tell me to not give a shit what she is doing and do what I need to",,8,[deleted],2023-01-12 20:19:02 askMRP,10a3lq8,How to proceed,"Looking for advice. Since finding mrp i feel like I've been smacked in the face and woken up from this fucked up situation I'm in. I have learnt alot but i could do with red pill advice. @@ -69246,7 +69246,7 @@ I've never acted like this before, and i can diagnose a severe case of oneitis n Problem is we have been planning to buy a bigger house together and have been house hunting for a few months. And worse problem is as i work in construction i have been doing house repairs here and have major work supposed to start this weekend. I now am concerned at spending more time/energy /effort /hours of my weekend renovating this house that i technically don't own and right now the chance of me leaving is high as i don't see her changing since I've been such a beta bux. -Do i stop all this now and leave or do i stay the course follow my MAP sidebar and lift and hope she follows and becomes attracted to me.",,3,betabuxbitch,1673540480.0 +Do i stop all this now and leave or do i stay the course follow my MAP sidebar and lift and hope she follows and becomes attracted to me.",,3,betabuxbitch,2023-01-12 16:21:20 askMRP,108dm53,Wife feelz constant pressure to have sex,"I am 29 5ft7 151lbs. Skinny fat for certain, started lifting last year but was fuckarounditis for most of that. This week started stronglifts program to actually make some gains. Basically wife of 2yrs and i keep having conversations about sex. I know better than that now than to indulge my hamster and hers and puke about how I'm not getting my needs met. I've been a Nice guy whole life so been working on killing convert contracts and reading. @@ -69256,7 +69256,7 @@ She also has a history of sexual abuse and i have wondered if all that is mental We haven't had sex in about a month and before that it was every 2 or 3 weeks so in my book its a deadbedroom. I'm very attracted to her but I'm feeling less and less interested in staying as time is going on and imagining in a few more years the possibility of zero sex per year is not acceptable. -Guess I'm looking for advice to know what to say to her if anything and also should i bother staying or is it better to just go and focus 100pc on myself and leave her to be alone and sexless. Is this salvageable or has it gone beyond that point?",,8,masonneedsframe,1673367189.0 +Guess I'm looking for advice to know what to say to her if anything and also should i bother staying or is it better to just go and focus 100pc on myself and leave her to be alone and sexless. Is this salvageable or has it gone beyond that point?",,8,masonneedsframe,2023-01-10 16:13:09 askMRP,1042ldh,Getting fed up with constant gaming / affection and no results,"Adding stats since I didn’t last time: I’m 42, 5’11”, 210 lbs, 16% BF (inbody, down from 19% in September), lifting Strong Lifts Madcow 5x5 3x per week, cardio and other lifts 2-3x per week. I have a shoulder injury that affects my bench so I’m not as consistent as I need to be yet, but did 255 x 3 in my SL workout last week. Couldn’t repeat this week. DL 215 x 5, SQ 165 x 5. I obviously need to continue work on legs. @@ -69269,7 +69269,7 @@ We had an unexpected week of good sexual activity the week before and up through The next week things slowed down and I started getting rejected again, nothing over NY weekend, and one lackluster session this past Sunday where I didn’t get to finish. I’ve initiated all week and been rejected. So obviously the good week was a fluke and now I feel like I’m just wasting my time and effort and getting angry again. -I know you’re supposed to “always be gaming your wife”, but is there a limit when she’s not responding? It’s to the point where it’s just adding to the frustration of getting denied and shitty sex when it does happen. What about reduced initiations?",,7,BraveNewWorld1722,1672934633.0 +I know you’re supposed to “always be gaming your wife”, but is there a limit when she’s not responding? It’s to the point where it’s just adding to the frustration of getting denied and shitty sex when it does happen. What about reduced initiations?",,7,BraveNewWorld1722,2023-01-05 16:03:53 askMRP,1038u4z,Open Marriage VS Moving Wife To A Plate,"Im not going to do either of these so this is more about advice that is given out here. It seems by and large this MRP group is against an open marriage (because who wants to invite others dudes to bang your wife?) but are pro demoting your wife to a plate in certain circumstances. @@ -69278,8 +69278,8 @@ Maybe Im a retard that doesnt know shit, pretty damn likely. But I dont see the So if a dude decides on an open marriage why should he care if his wife is banging other dudes? if she is just some lady he is banging now? What am I missing? What is the distinction if any? -Is this just one of the RP incongruencies?",,6,[deleted],1672852061.0 -askMRP,zz5p78,The next time will be better,"I wish I had found this information years ago. I've made improvements that helped me be a better man. Its too late for the marriage. Oneitis is a terrible thing, and I know I deserve better. The information here has saved me but not my marriage.",,11,RPturtle,1672420163.0 +Is this just one of the RP incongruencies?",,6,[deleted],2023-01-04 17:07:41 +askMRP,zz5p78,The next time will be better,"I wish I had found this information years ago. I've made improvements that helped me be a better man. Its too late for the marriage. Oneitis is a terrible thing, and I know I deserve better. The information here has saved me but not my marriage.",,11,RPturtle,2022-12-30 17:09:23 askMRP,zzd2ib,Letter From the Ex-Wife,"Short Story I left my foreign national wife in her country just a few steps away from a visa 5 months ago over taking a girls trip (I'm sure she didn't cheat) against my ultimatum. I blocked her from texting apps since she decided to curse me out. I told her emails only. I asked to apologize if we were to continue to communicate during the process to cancel the visa. She sent a few emails demanding and update on status and I didn't answer her since no apology from her. I know she is wondering what her petition status is, as she needs it cancelled but needs me to tell her what part of the process its in. Sent an email yesterday. Subject Line: 😌 @@ -69328,12 +69328,12 @@ And NO I'm NOT paying her any money back for shit. POST COMMENTS NOTE: I put down over $3.5K equity on a plot of land. Of $16K I left it all to her more than enough to cover de debt if sold. -HappY NEw Year MRP ASKMRP",,0,RP_Savage001,1672438185.0 +HappY NEw Year MRP ASKMRP",,0,RP_Savage001,2022-12-30 22:09:45 askMRP,zydqlp,Giving ultimatums - ever effective?,"I have seen a lot of posts written here about how to deal with ultimatums when they are given by the wife, but not much, if anything about ultimatums given by the man. I get that ultimatums are basically last resorts, but are they always seen as sign of weakness and/or hopelessness? Can they ever be effective? Let’s say she has a serious dealbreaker trait like what appears to be clinical anxiety that is destructive to the family or a gambling addiction or drug issue etc. and you have tried every possible way to address this. As a last resort, sitting down calmly“I need you to… or unfortunately we can no longer continue with this marriage.” And being 100% prepared for divorce if she does not address it. Any first hand accounts of this happening and being effective at changing behavior? -I understand things dramatically vary depending on the value of the man in the wife’s eyes/point the man’s MAP/dread level. So interested to understand points of view if there is an effective ultimatum at different stages as well.",,4,anonymous50002,1672341558.0 +I understand things dramatically vary depending on the value of the man in the wife’s eyes/point the man’s MAP/dread level. So interested to understand points of view if there is an effective ultimatum at different stages as well.",,4,anonymous50002,2022-12-29 19:19:18 askMRP,zwpfw7,Wife jealous of women friends,"32, 6'2"", 280 lbs, 25% bf (navy), BP 305, SQ 355, DL 375 Married 2 kids 7,9 @@ -69344,7 +69344,7 @@ I'll start off OYS that i have a lot of weight to lose. I've been hitting the gy TLDR I'm going to university as well as working full time + a second job. I've made a few women friends at school and my wife is threatened by them. One is a PT and offered a free session with me to improve my squat form because I've been getting back pain (Hip mobility being the culprit). I told my wife and she was mad jelly. Wife wants me to agree to not form friendships with women. I'm not agreeing to that and she's pretty upset about it, picking fights and sabotaging fun times through the holidays. I love her but she's being a pain in the ass. She says if I don't agree to not form friendships with women she wants an open relationship, and I told her I do not agree to that and would rather be divorced than in an open relationship. It's a bit of a red flag for me that she goes there. -Acta non Dicta I guess...",,0,2009p71,1672173421.0 +Acta non Dicta I guess...",,0,2009p71,2022-12-27 20:37:01 askMRP,zv2pke,Childfree Conundrum,"So I'm a fairly attractive 34 year old male, and I've been living quite well on the dating apps and night life, banging my way here and there for the last 2/3 years, but problem is I'm a family oriented man, and I feel like my life is waaay better on a long term relationship, I just feel like the way society is nowadays is forcing me to this way of life. Well recently I found a girl 25 years, different from the others, and we clicked in a very special way, she just feels right, and we are starting in what I feel it's a long term healthy relationship (rare shit nowadays). @@ -69355,7 +69355,7 @@ She is willing to debate and rationaly discuss the problem. Well, we are kind heads over heels for eachother and breaking up is kind of not an option. -Just want to hear my fellow man opinions, so go ahead, because I'm going to need all kind of arguments and points of view and whatnot.",,0,pshylocibe,1671990273.0 +Just want to hear my fellow man opinions, so go ahead, because I'm going to need all kind of arguments and points of view and whatnot.",,0,pshylocibe,2022-12-25 17:44:33 askMRP,zu9fuu,Thank you for ignoring your MS,"I'm 31. Together with wife for 10 years. I've been lurking here sporadically on some different accounts. I've read the game as a young boy and always thought of it as a nice trick book to meet women. And it was. But now I've got MS (disease). For about 5 years now. The up-and-down shifts have been hard. I had gone full bluepill and relied on my wife to carry me emotionally, while I ""carried"" her. Ofcourse this led to a deadbedroom, lots of fights (mostly my beta ass trying to get her approval and support) @@ -69369,7 +69369,7 @@ Last week I truly understood the red pill reference for the first time. I've bou I decided to post a starting-post here now, since my eventual goal might be to help other chronically ill people to be in control of their lives. Getting dumped for a disease is fucked up. But then again, I'd say it's just equally fucked up as [you dont get a break from being the oak](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/cuqa4e/you_dont_get_a_break_from_being_the_oak/) -Yesterday my wife said ""Thank you for ignoring your MS"". I've been on the way of trying to ignore it for a year now. I just started ignoring her shittests for the last 2 weeks and passed a comfort test and apparently she just caught on. Still she did not suck my d*ck afterwards. So here I am.",,10,Henriesbud,1671887073.0 +Yesterday my wife said ""Thank you for ignoring your MS"". I've been on the way of trying to ignore it for a year now. I just started ignoring her shittests for the last 2 weeks and passed a comfort test and apparently she just caught on. Still she did not suck my d*ck afterwards. So here I am.",,10,Henriesbud,2022-12-24 13:04:33 askMRP,zt2ojt,GF and the military,"I'm 18 &#x200B; @@ -69382,7 +69382,7 @@ She’s good for me, down for my program and hasn’t gave me any trouble or not Its almost as if I protect her from herself. -Any guidance?",,0,Major_Ad_779,1671758162.0 +Any guidance?",,0,Major_Ad_779,2022-12-23 01:16:02 askMRP,zr515m,I am very stressed with situation.,"43 (M) married 15 years to wife (38). A typical arranged marriage. @@ -69424,7 +69424,7 @@ Read NMMNG - i think it created problems Reading WISNIFG - i dont argue 99%. Wat TL DR -Need some pointers to get out of the situation.",,7,[deleted],1671582959.0 +Need some pointers to get out of the situation.",,7,[deleted],2022-12-21 00:35:59 askMRP,zqid2q,"I fogged, and fogged, and fogged...","Just now I'm finishing reading nmmng, and in a beautiful way it's time for my first time really needing to use it on that extent. @@ -69446,7 +69446,7 @@ Would love some feedback on this. Me: 20's, dating this one for almost a year, -5'9, 155lbs, lifting for 1.5 years, lean physique with visible muscle, was spinning plates until I decided I prefer to focus on the ltr.",,14,mrmonbant,1671522783.0 +5'9, 155lbs, lifting for 1.5 years, lean physique with visible muscle, was spinning plates until I decided I prefer to focus on the ltr.",,14,mrmonbant,2022-12-20 07:53:03 askMRP,zpz7wl,Connecting the Dots with MRP. Wife of 11 years- Had Affair for 9 Months. 4 Kids in House - How To Deal with Constant Interaction,"Just posted my beta version on another forum. And I need crayons for most of my educational work because I am slow. Wife of 11 years had affair immediately walking into a new job in Sept 2021. Found out in July1. @@ -69479,7 +69479,7 @@ I was already working out - but need to go full hard. I need to pick up the ho Yes. I am dialing lawyers this week for consults and to suck up all the great ones. -So - Again I need crayons. Her Birthday is Dec 23rd. Our fucking anniversary is December 31st. How do I actually act ? Indifferent ? Happy fucking birthday ? ",,20,Tauntsnake,1671474110.0 +So - Again I need crayons. Her Birthday is Dec 23rd. Our fucking anniversary is December 31st. How do I actually act ? Indifferent ? Happy fucking birthday ? ",,20,Tauntsnake,2022-12-19 18:21:50 askMRP,zpx7o0,Brink of Divorce,"Married 10 years. Both early 40s. Have small kids. Alpha frame from start (had spun plates, read roissy, etc) surely eroded over time. Re-centered myself on red pill about 4 years ago, but now realize I never fully internalized it. @@ -69508,7 +69508,7 @@ For the past month I have been upbeat, leading the kids, but also spending more Mediation consult is scheduled for late this week. At what point do I give the final “in or out” speech, or is that silly? -Basically, I see where I need to continue doing the work on my own path. Any suggestions for whether this is salvageable, and what I should do from here: for myself, and to live into my decision I want to remain married if possible?",,13,tkarrde38,1671469685.0 +Basically, I see where I need to continue doing the work on my own path. Any suggestions for whether this is salvageable, and what I should do from here: for myself, and to live into my decision I want to remain married if possible?",,13,tkarrde38,2022-12-19 17:08:05 askMRP,zm00nf,"Starting marriage counseling, any advice?","I’ve been aware of MRP for a few years but did not start doing the work until August, when we had what seems to me like a main event. I’m 42, she’s 43, been married almost 12 years and have kids that are 8 and 10. This is our second time in marriage counseling and we’ll be going to the counselor (male) that I’ve been seeing individually since early September. A couple of weeks ago he said we’re at a point where he can’t do anything else without her being involved. @@ -69525,7 +69525,7 @@ Does anyone have any idea what I can expect? Is there any way it ends with an o UPDATE: I went in my own today because the kids got out of school early and we couldn’t get a babysitter. I’m glad that’s how it worked out. -He told me a little of what they talked about and apparently she thinks things are fine other than our shit sex life, and she’s just being a bitch to me out of spite (he said “stubborn”). I told him I am not taking this lightly and am close to calling a lawyer. He said try to be positive and enjoy the holidays. It’s another few weeks until the next appointment, and I’ll be working on me in the meantime.",,10,BraveNewWorld1722,1671046463.0 +He told me a little of what they talked about and apparently she thinks things are fine other than our shit sex life, and she’s just being a bitch to me out of spite (he said “stubborn”). I told him I am not taking this lightly and am close to calling a lawyer. He said try to be positive and enjoy the holidays. It’s another few weeks until the next appointment, and I’ll be working on me in the meantime.",,10,BraveNewWorld1722,2022-12-14 19:34:23 askMRP,zliikb,She is always late,"I am seeing two women. Let's call the first one Sarah. I am 37years old, 5ft 7inches tall, in decent shape and I make good money. Sarah is 26 years old, very attractive, thin, and about 5ft 9 inches without heels. She does 99% of the texting and calling. She is very laid back, and fun to hang out with. We smash about twice a week depending on how busy I am with work and plans with the other girl. Things are going great, except for one thing: She is always late to our dates or when we are hanging out. I work in finance, so I am a very straight-laced, orderly type of guy. I like being punctual to events. @@ -69546,7 +69546,7 @@ She has initiated almost every interaction I have had with her. Meaning, during &#x200B; -Thanks",,1,CPA_Streeterville,1670995502.0 +Thanks",,1,CPA_Streeterville,2022-12-14 05:25:02 askMRP,zk5elh,Experience with Clomid,"I have lower than I would like T. Not clinically low but low enough I have had ED my whole life (as in from first sexual encounter on) and in the last 4 years it has gotten worse along with lack of focus and discipline. I been trying to raise my T for about 3 years naturally with some success but still have the symptoms (ED and lack of focus). For what it is worth my ED is not the worst you have heard of... with LOTS of effort I could get going and could get going with porn... fathered two kids BEFORE getting it addressed. Additionally, my SHBG is high which means what free T I have is taken up by SHBG resulting in little to no sex drive. @@ -69575,7 +69575,7 @@ If you are here you better pay some fucking attention to your T. Start by making &#x200B; -any other retards tried clomid?",,3,[deleted],1670866167.0 +any other retards tried clomid?",,3,[deleted],2022-12-12 17:29:27 askMRP,zi70sr,"Paying of a debt, was there burning desire...?","SHORT VERSION - Full Story Below if anyone cares. 5yrs ago met and Married(1.3yrs) a (27yrs) young foreigner, US visa was about to happen for her. Left her corporate job. I took in heavy RP content and went Rambo AF. Argued many things like asking having her ask for permission to where she wants to go and a nonsexual picture on facebook that she returned likes to in the comments of strange men. Then, Told me she booked a girl’s trip with her younger sisters and she’s going next week. Responses to my disapproval as usual were met with disrespectful comments and behavior while telling me how antiquated I am(41). I said the trip or the marriage. She took the trip. I stonewalled her and divorced her through email with power a of attorney I left the last time I was in her country to visit her. @@ -69611,7 +69611,7 @@ Deep down I want her to realize that a girl’s trip was wrong and that we could I left a debt in her name for a loan we took out to travel around the last trip I took to go she her, I had agreed to pay back but I honestly feel she should pay for it as I invested enough time and money that I’ll never get back. I left her a plot of land and put over $3.8K of $15k if she wasn’t able to liquidate it then that’s her problem. She claims she lost the land but then asked to have my lawyer draw up papers to put it in her name only. So, I think she still has it. I know it’s very difficult to pay the plot and the debt. She keeps harping for me to “pay what I owe” and I refuse, as going back on this would further put me in her frame. I know that it’s very difficult for her to pay it and I do feel bad that she’ll be financially struggling for Christmas. But to me this is her consequence for her actions and to be honest it’s my piece of red meat. However, I don’t know what owning my shit is in this situation pay it like a man of my word or let her sit on her mistakes and kept my money. Any thoughts on paying that loan or just giving her the monthly payment for Christmas? -Yes, I know I’m in here frame and there’s deeper issues here with me I’m working on it.",,0,RP_Savage001,1670714629.0 +Yes, I know I’m in here frame and there’s deeper issues here with me I’m working on it.",,0,RP_Savage001,2022-12-10 23:23:49 askMRP,ze783p,OYS 12 (posting here for OPSec purposes),"**OYS #12** **Age:** 28, partner 25 @@ -69642,7 +69642,7 @@ This is what I need to do, this is my stay plan is the go plan. I need to develo I've also been going out to work in coffee shops every day, which appears to be inspiring some level of dread, as she was curious as to why I've started going out every day now. -THIS is what I need to capitalise on, this is the action that will positively impact me the most regardless of whether or not my relationship continues or ends. I've been watching a lot of Coach Kyle, which is a great resource. I just need to find somewhere to go to actually start implementing and practicing. My hometown seems like an awful idea, a lack of quality women and a chance of being 'caught'.",,6,AcuminateMind,1670334427.0 +THIS is what I need to capitalise on, this is the action that will positively impact me the most regardless of whether or not my relationship continues or ends. I've been watching a lot of Coach Kyle, which is a great resource. I just need to find somewhere to go to actually start implementing and practicing. My hometown seems like an awful idea, a lack of quality women and a chance of being 'caught'.",,6,AcuminateMind,2022-12-06 13:47:07 askMRP,zdjuyj,cant seem to fidn things for manufactured outrage,"hey took a break from all things red pill (at least in terms of going online) and now im back. gonna start out by calling out the very obvious, I am still operating in my wife's frame but trying not to. @@ -69673,7 +69673,7 @@ Dl 285 1x5 Readings: -Read NMMNG 3x, WISNIFG 2x, MMSLP,, Rational Male Year One, The Mindful Attraction Plan, Smart phone dumb phone, currently reading Sex God Method",,4,[deleted],1670274714.0 +Read NMMNG 3x, WISNIFG 2x, MMSLP,, Rational Male Year One, The Mindful Attraction Plan, Smart phone dumb phone, currently reading Sex God Method",,4,[deleted],2022-12-05 21:11:54 askMRP,z7r1or,"Emotional Cheating, Next Steps","As a backstory, our intimate relationship used to be amazing. I ended the relationship back in 2020 because we just kept butting heads and I couldn't control my anger. We were separated for over a year, in which time she was with somebody else for 8 months. We ended up getting back together, after lots of pushing from her, the feelings were there for both of us, coparenting was going really well, and it just seemed inevitable; we eventually bit the bullet. This is where my problems started, I was wracked with insecurity and jealousy from the period that we were apart, I was asking so many beta questions you wouldn't believe, seeking comfort every other day. Safe to say this killed the intimacy pretty quickly, which led to a vicious circle of negative emotions. @@ -69696,7 +69696,7 @@ Moving forward, I don't really know the best course of action: * End it now mentally, but build your value and wait until July to nuke it (whilst also gaining other options). * Continue going forward and monitor the situation. -We have a tenancy agreement for the next 7 months, and a 3 y/o boy together.",,17,AcuminateMind,1669720114.0 +We have a tenancy agreement for the next 7 months, and a 3 y/o boy together.",,17,AcuminateMind,2022-11-29 11:08:34 askMRP,z6ubsd,Need some advice,"Need some advise on this situation. Me 33 wife 38 married 12yrs with an 11yr old son. So ive been lurking for 9 months. Grew up with Mom leading the family and deciding everything even as bad as what my dad would eat at a restaurant. So the last 33yrs was Women make all the decisions for Everything..Hung around deadbedrooms for a while got super depressed and became super distant. Still in a deadbedroom (my fault i never initiated), been reading sidebar, lifting and STFU. Been passing shit tests and leading the family . Her mood has changed and no arguing anymore. Im so glad i found mrp it has completely changed my life for the better. Now to the main issue. Wife has been super protective over her phone the past 4 months and hiding it when i walk in the room..she's using snapchat as communication with some dude im guessing.2 Assumed it was an emotional thing but now shes goin out with a ""girlfriend"" after work alot. (Dude must be in town or lives here) Shes got everything on lock down so it's tough to verify. She left this morning around 1am to goto the ""Hospital"" (health issues) i know her and she would've waited till morning. So to see if im crazy i drive to hospital and her vehicle isn't there. @@ -69705,7 +69705,7 @@ So to me it seems like lying and cheating is happening. The situation were in fi Looking for some outside eyes to see if im reading this right and where to go from here. -Wrote this on 2hrs sleep..Rereading this wow. Real hamstering/being in her frame..I need alot of work.",,12,Chickensalad9000,1669635580.0 +Wrote this on 2hrs sleep..Rereading this wow. Real hamstering/being in her frame..I need alot of work.",,12,Chickensalad9000,2022-11-28 11:39:40 askMRP,z6pv1x,Newbie questions on MRP praxeology,"As a newbie on the MRP journey, I have a few praxeological questions to help orient my mindset in the right way. 1. Is sex something that a woman ""gives"" you or is it something that a couple ""shares"" together? I think Rollo talked about women as the gatekeepers of intimacy in TRM. And the concepts of game and seduction seem to me to be strategies to ""get"" sex from women, or a conquest of sorts if you will. But then at the same time, how do we not view sex as a ""reward"" given by said women? And how is build attraction --> get sex not a transaction? @@ -69713,7 +69713,7 @@ askMRP,z6pv1x,Newbie questions on MRP praxeology,"As a newbie on the MRP journey 3. Given how illogical and emotional I now understand women to be, how do they even function in everyday life? In their job? In my field (STEM), the women are very logical and calculating. Do they have a switch that they turn on to revert back into silly little girls when they go back home to their partners? Do women only e.g. shit test their partners or romantic prospects, and not their friends or colleagues? This makes me wonder whether I have been engaging women the wrong way at work, or indeed in everyday life. Obviously, I'm not going to hit on a female relative or a female superior at work, but which RP concepts can be applied to women who are not our wives? 4. On the topic of DARE vs. DEER, we use DEER (minus the ""excuse"") with our bosses, our co-workers, our underlings, right? At least I do - defending, explaining, rationalizing is what we do in STEM. But DARE with our wives? It seems that now \*I\* have a switch that I need to turn on and off, which makes me feel like it's not something genuine. How to overcome this? -I'm not even sure if my questions make sense because I don't think I'm internalizing all the concepts correctly. Thank you in advance for any insights you may have.",,4,AnySandwich7450,1669619684.0 +I'm not even sure if my questions make sense because I don't think I'm internalizing all the concepts correctly. Thank you in advance for any insights you may have.",,4,AnySandwich7450,2022-11-28 07:14:44 askMRP,z584gn,Why is STFU so hard? (honest question),"No victim puke but an admission of failure. The importance of STFU cannot be overstated as I have just learned the hard way by once again breaking it. But this time I see it so very clearly and would like to further understand it so that I can hopefully stick to it when the next temptation comes around. @@ -69727,10 +69727,10 @@ I would like to further understand the subconscious processes and weed them out An increased understanding of this might further solidify STFU in my consciousness, make me more careful when such temptations occur and stick to it. It might be necessary to go back to WISNIFG in my studies instead of further progressing. -It would still be very much appreciated if some of you on here could point me to further detailed specific explanations on what is going on with this pattern.",,17,Few-Tree-9946,1669470966.0 +It would still be very much appreciated if some of you on here could point me to further detailed specific explanations on what is going on with this pattern.",,17,Few-Tree-9946,2022-11-26 13:56:06 askMRP,yzg5eb,Arnold or Rambo?," I learned about this place four years ago, made huge progress retraining myself out of massively wrong beliefs I held. It is a long story I will spare you guys. I backslid when I lost my gym during Covid, but hammering it hard now. Are you guys interested in taking shots at the ""new guy"" who is about to blow up a 19 year marriage? It might be entertaining, because I at least have the MRP basic foundation laid. I am still a retard sometimes. -To answer McGill, about me being afraid? You bet your ass I feel apprehension about where I am at right now. I like where I live, almost all of my life is awesome. I have a lot to lose. Deciding to be with another woman is going to come at a very high price. Deciding to stay faithful for the rest of my life with a woman who I find unpleasant to be around, and isn't getting in line, is looking like a higher price. I feel dread about where I am headed. To me dread is the feeling I get when it is leg day, and I'm tired and don't feel like doing squats. I still make myself go to the gym on those days.",,9,FormulaFriday,1668876267.0 +To answer McGill, about me being afraid? You bet your ass I feel apprehension about where I am at right now. I like where I live, almost all of my life is awesome. I have a lot to lose. Deciding to be with another woman is going to come at a very high price. Deciding to stay faithful for the rest of my life with a woman who I find unpleasant to be around, and isn't getting in line, is looking like a higher price. I feel dread about where I am headed. To me dread is the feeling I get when it is leg day, and I'm tired and don't feel like doing squats. I still make myself go to the gym on those days.",,9,FormulaFriday,2022-11-19 16:44:27 askMRP,yxxmkl,Deciding I need to open the relationship up (x-post from MarriedRedPill),"Hi there— new here but been a long time lurker. I’ve done all the things you’re not supposed to, I’ve made all the beta mistakes in the past. But I’m finally turning a new leaf. All the typical things have happened— her sex drive has fallen to hardly never, we have started couples counseling, yadda yadda. It doesn’t look good. @@ -69740,20 +69740,20 @@ We also had a rough period in our early days where I suggested that we open our But now that our daughter is past the toddler years, and our relationship troubles are back in the forefront, I’m feeling the need to tell her that I need an open relationship again. Not only because I need a sexual outlet again, but I think it kicks her ass into wanting me again (or letting me go). -Would love to hear your thoughts— tell me how much I suck, but also some constructive criticism if you can?",,14,mrthaumaturgy,1668709826.0 +Would love to hear your thoughts— tell me how much I suck, but also some constructive criticism if you can?",,14,mrthaumaturgy,2022-11-17 18:30:26 askMRP,yycyps,"Open Relationships, how?","If you opened up the relationship with your wife of many years, were any of you satisfied with the outcome and how did you manage to keep it from being a shit show? Be the man, of course, but what can we learn from his wisdom? -To me, it feels like I am fooling myself into thinking I can limit the consequences of where it looks like I am headed right now. Asking for a friend.",,0,FormulaFriday,1668752297.0 +To me, it feels like I am fooling myself into thinking I can limit the consequences of where it looks like I am headed right now. Asking for a friend.",,0,FormulaFriday,2022-11-18 06:18:17 askMRP,yx4gkl,Hormonal birth control,"I'm new to MRP and have gotten a lot of value out of reading through the sidebar and top posts. One thing I haven't seen is reference to oral contraceptives. I know the focus here is on changing yourself and not worrying about changing her... But damn, stopping birth control was a gamechanger. Energy and sex drive up, weight and bullshit arguments about nothing down. There's a lot of solid science behind why as well. A lot of things I was doing that were in line with red pill philosophy went from having little to no effect to getting strong, immediate positive reinforcement. I suspect that a lot of the bad habits I picked up, especially around covert contracts, DEER and not gaming my wife, would have never developed if birth control hadn't been throttling her libido. -Is this something people here are aware of and talk about and I'm just missing it? If not, is it intentionally not talked about? I keep seeing OYS posts and other stuff and I'll relate and think, ""This sounds like my relationship and all I had to change to fix it was her birth control.""",,6,deerstfu,1668629001.0 -askMRP,yvg8po,Advice needed,"I'm new, I'm in crisis mode. My wife is looking for a break. I feel as if there's no way back. I've been giving her distance for the past two weeks, sleeping in the other room. Traveling with work. Tip toeing around one another. Where as I'd normally apologize and talk her down from the ledge, this time I just STFU. Spoke to her as we needed to, but gave her space and got on with the jobs with the kids and house. Now she's emailed me asking that we take a break for the next few weeks at least. That I give her more space so that i see our lives would be better apart by limiting conversation and contact as best we can in the same house. Although I don't believe she's cheating she add that she has no preference regarding exclusivity for the break. She's considering telling the kids. I'm lost and honestly frightened.",,5,No_Alternative_7463,1668468552.0 +Is this something people here are aware of and talk about and I'm just missing it? If not, is it intentionally not talked about? I keep seeing OYS posts and other stuff and I'll relate and think, ""This sounds like my relationship and all I had to change to fix it was her birth control.""",,6,deerstfu,2022-11-16 20:03:21 +askMRP,yvg8po,Advice needed,"I'm new, I'm in crisis mode. My wife is looking for a break. I feel as if there's no way back. I've been giving her distance for the past two weeks, sleeping in the other room. Traveling with work. Tip toeing around one another. Where as I'd normally apologize and talk her down from the ledge, this time I just STFU. Spoke to her as we needed to, but gave her space and got on with the jobs with the kids and house. Now she's emailed me asking that we take a break for the next few weeks at least. That I give her more space so that i see our lives would be better apart by limiting conversation and contact as best we can in the same house. Although I don't believe she's cheating she add that she has no preference regarding exclusivity for the break. She's considering telling the kids. I'm lost and honestly frightened.",,5,No_Alternative_7463,2022-11-14 23:29:12 askMRP,yv205s,Help me find post/book excerpt (sex denial acceptance/level of commitment),"I am looking for a Reddit post or excerpt in a book (possibly MMSLP or BPP’s Saving a Low Sex Marriage) where it went into detail regarding the general societal acceptance of a wife withholding/denying sex for a lack of emotional connection but not an acceptance of withholding/denying “verbal intercourse” or level of [emotional] commitment by the husband for a lack of physical connection, describing it as cruel and uncaring. It was a rather lengthy piece, and I am not referring to the “Verbal intercourse is optional” post. Something along the lines of “She controls the sex, you control the level of commitment” It specifically referenced the mindset of a counselor or therapist accepting denial of sex, but not denial of attention/commitment. The author then framed the concept in a different context and summed it up by explaining that, even society or a marriage counselor would agree that this action by the husband is acceptable. -Forgive the rough description, it’s fuzzy in my mind but it really struck a chord when I first read it. Thanks",,2,[deleted],1668438241.0 +Forgive the rough description, it’s fuzzy in my mind but it really struck a chord when I first read it. Thanks",,2,[deleted],2022-11-14 15:04:01 askMRP,yosgdj,GF deleted what she is doing on social media.," Hi guys So I’m engaged with the girl I’m with since 4 years. We got an awesome son last year. @@ -69768,31 +69768,31 @@ I retrieved attention immediately. And now I am the bad guy that is jealous bla- How would you react ? What to do? -Thanks a lot.",,18,je2907,1667839157.0 +Thanks a lot.",,18,je2907,2022-11-07 16:39:17 askMRP,yo8h0v,Advice on Applying Book Lessons,"Sidebar and RianStone content have been excellent, comprehensive but overwhelming. I find myself asymmetrically applying certain lessons on frame, not DEERing, lifting etc but I am getting overwhelmed by the sheer number of things I need to change in my life. Simply put, I am wondering how you may have personally synthesized and applied the knowledge acquired from this sub in a way that allowed you to progress and grow effectively as a man, as the captain of your household. - Is it effective to read an entire book or would it work best to discover a new lesson, stop reading and employ it in my life before continuing to read and take notes? This particular question stems from my readings of NMMNG and Day Bang.",,10,HangisLife,1667783216.0 + Is it effective to read an entire book or would it work best to discover a new lesson, stop reading and employ it in my life before continuing to read and take notes? This particular question stems from my readings of NMMNG and Day Bang.",,10,HangisLife,2022-11-07 01:06:56 askMRP,ymxc32,LTR Absent Father,"My girl and I have been together for about a year and things are good but her daddy and abandonment issues are deteriorating our relationship and time together and RP principles seem to be counterproductive when dealing with her feelz. I’ll get into a brief summary but I was hoping to see if any others have dealt with this and what successes and failures they’ve learned from along the way. She shared with me early in the relationship that her dad left the family unexpectedly when she was very young and moved out of the country with little to no contact since (she is 34 now). I’ve dated other chicks whose fathers have left and they all seem to want the same thing out of a current relationship; control. My current girl will shit test constantly, falsely accuse me of things, tell me I don’t care about her and is hyper-sensitive compared to the average. I deal with all this and know how it goes but when it comes to enforcing boundaries like removing attention when she acts up, walking away during irrational behavior and STFU, dread- all these seem to compound her anger and backfire as she takes this as I’m going to abandon her and I’ll get non-stop novel texts and emails telling me the same. All of this seems to get worse as our relationship progresses. These type of chicks seem to be the ultimate red pill test with abandonment and fears always present. It takes her forever to calm down too like days or even a week sometimes and the more I STFU, amused mastery and just do my own thing the worse it can get bc she doesn’t feel like she’s in control and says “I’m never there for her and I don’t take the relationship seriously”. She will constantly blame, shame, emasculate and play the victim to the point it’s exhausting. She also has a hard time maintaining friendships and jobs because of her paranoia and trust issues. -Has anyone else ever dealt with this and have things changed or found some other form of action/communication that works for girls with severe abandonment issues? Much appreciated.",,6,GasOrdinary1237,1667662459.0 +Has anyone else ever dealt with this and have things changed or found some other form of action/communication that works for girls with severe abandonment issues? Much appreciated.",,6,GasOrdinary1237,2022-11-05 15:34:19 askMRP,ym8zoy,Lost attraction,"40 years old, married, one kid. What do you do when you lose attraction for your wife? - wife is loyal and a good mother, wife - I have a plate/gf. - plate is loyal, but young, hot, etc (and for those who know, comes with the common red flags) -Appreciate serious advice",,4,sdthrowawaysss,1667592566.0 +Appreciate serious advice",,4,sdthrowawaysss,2022-11-04 20:09:26 askMRP,ym2c9b,Question regarding a common scenario,"I was doing some reading today and read about an instance of “husband cheating, wife kicks him out of the house.” In this scenario and kids are involved; If the man refuses to move out of the house, so the wife decides to leave instead, but tries taking the kids with her. What would be correct response if the wife insists and can’t be convinced otherwise AND is adamant about taking the kids? -Just doing some contemplation if I were in that scenario and I’m not sure.",,3,[deleted],1667576631.0 +Just doing some contemplation if I were in that scenario and I’m not sure.",,3,[deleted],2022-11-04 15:43:51 askMRP,ylo78m,Boundary Repercussions,"39, married 10y, 3 kids under 8, dead bedroom (1x/month) 4 weeks into MRP. Lifelong lifter, emotional part of frame is weak, intellectual is good. @@ -69805,7 +69805,7 @@ Wife drinks and parties a lot. When she does, she is very disrespectful and dism She is now asking for “space” - not “move out and leave” space, but “I don’t want to talk about it, if we leave it alone it will fix itself” space. Which is fine, STFU is part of the program and I can do that. I am doing that. It’s very clear that she does not see me as the prize, and that attraction is not there. The only thing I want less than a divorce is to continue living in this low connection state. -Question: for those who found themselves here then turned it around, what was the highest impact action you took for yourself first? I’m working on my MAP, doubling down at work, increasing guy time. What else? This is a little bit of a victim puke but fuck it. I never thought I would be as close to ending the marriage as I am these days.",,10,Working-Essay-9868,1667534301.0 +Question: for those who found themselves here then turned it around, what was the highest impact action you took for yourself first? I’m working on my MAP, doubling down at work, increasing guy time. What else? This is a little bit of a victim puke but fuck it. I never thought I would be as close to ending the marriage as I am these days.",,10,Working-Essay-9868,2022-11-04 03:58:21 askMRP,yfajjj,Is she being disrespectful?,"Hey brothers, crazy night. My girlfiriend/fiance and I hyst got in a huge fight and she vomited all over the floor and on top of the bouncers. Not cool. @@ -69820,14 +69820,14 @@ Any thoughts? She's definitely the one for me, and I shower her with love and af We love each other but I often feel like she's just saying stuff. How do you even know? i told her that she completes me, that I can't live without her. She didn't even say anything. Buzz kill. -What should I do? I feel like I""m the perfect ma for her but can be even more perfect.",,0,johneyapocalypse,1666922333.0 +What should I do? I feel like I""m the perfect ma for her but can be even more perfect.",,0,johneyapocalypse,2022-10-28 01:58:53 askMRP,ye154m,Actions Count Most,"A big fail today: - I was getting our oldest kid (2yo) ready for daycare this morning and my wife comes to join me for a few minutes after leaving our bedroom from breastfeeding our little infant who was sleeping on a pillow on our bed. Wife barges in and starts trying to take over me getting the kid ready, I finish up what I am doing and we walk out together, my wife now holding the oldest kid. Wife looks at the baby monitor and sees the infant baby has slipped from the pillow and panics. I am already running late for work at that point and tell my wife to give me the kid and go check the baby. My wife runs to the room and fixes the situation and proceeds to absolutely lose it on me “What kind of father are you?! Work is more important than your kids life blah blah blah”. Reflecting back, I acted like a complete bitch. Basically I said, “give me the kid while I run away from the problem and you go save the day”. My wife lost significant respect for me today. I have not apologized but I did a lot of DEERing like a bitch after a significant fight. She said “what kind of father are you.” And I told her never to say that to me again and that is strike two - strike three will be the end. Further fighting ensued. Anyways, the point I reflected on is we do all of this self improvement so that we can perform in these split second moments. -I don’t really know how to recover from such a bitch display… but that was a lesson.",,12,anonymous50002,1666798768.0 +I don’t really know how to recover from such a bitch display… but that was a lesson.",,12,anonymous50002,2022-10-26 15:39:28 askMRP,ydtu15,The answer is always the same?,"TL DR Be attractive? So I am imrpoving in all areas if my life. My lifts are getting better every week. I am at the gym 3 times a week since 6 months. I got a rise, promotion and I have a job now the makes me meet hundreds of people every week, with trainings presentations consultations conferences etc. I also learn new language, and new work skills apart from work hours. I improved social life, now meeting some friends at least every other week. I have a wife of 3 years, dating for 7. I am 33 yo and wife 31. And I feel she is not putting so much work into relationship or improvement as me. And it makes me angry. I know the best answer probably is to just keep doing what I am doing... @@ -69835,7 +69835,7 @@ But I feel at this moment I should get more from her. I get sex when I generally Talking as You know changes nothing, as I tried that before self improvement journey. And you could say - you get the sex how often you need it so why you think about it? I do not know man, I would like to experience true desire for a moment - that is why I do this self imrpovement journey. -Do you have any tips? Should I just increase my self improvement? What should I do? I already picked so many activities - that I do not know how could I make the dread higher?",,20,dubromx87,1666777237.0 +Do you have any tips? Should I just increase my self improvement? What should I do? I already picked so many activities - that I do not know how could I make the dread higher?",,20,dubromx87,2022-10-26 09:40:37 askMRP,ybj5yq,Wife calls the shots,"Newish to MRP - currently reading WISNIFG and MMSLP. I am a skinny bitch - in shape but have a rock climber physique but lifting again at home to build muscle mass. Married for 3 years and have two kids under the age of 2. @@ -69854,7 +69854,7 @@ I understand I need to build more frame but what is a good way of handling this - sincerely, retard. -Btw - sex is fine as far as I am concerned. She is super submissive in bed and rarely rejects (unless for obvious practical reasons like baby is awake and needs to be fed etc.)",,16,anonymous50002,1666535410.0 +Btw - sex is fine as far as I am concerned. She is super submissive in bed and rarely rejects (unless for obvious practical reasons like baby is awake and needs to be fed etc.)",,16,anonymous50002,2022-10-23 14:30:10 askMRP,yb0gll,I guess I know the answer for this,"TLDR: LTR GF maybe having something with his colleague? A few changes in attitude shows that something is going on. @@ -69868,7 +69868,7 @@ They got the task from their boss to visit an evening boat cruise (it’s an hou Another thing that happened today that we had an afternoon program and we were sitting next to a river I was talking about something and she saw some funny thing related to their inside joke - so she took her phone made a photo and sent him without listening to me or waiting until I stop. -The question is: did she already cheated or just going to do it sooner or later?",,6,davidlaslo,1666477415.0 +The question is: did she already cheated or just going to do it sooner or later?",,6,davidlaslo,2022-10-22 22:23:35 askMRP,y7f44e,Am I misunderstanding what a mission is?,"Just got to the 16 commandments of poon in the reading and the 3rd is about making a mission my life's goal - rather than my wife being the center I have mentally masturbated about this in the past and have a few ideas in my head. So im sharing it here so y'all can shit on me and hopefully provide some direction as well. @@ -69881,8 +69881,8 @@ What this looks like is me trying and doing new things and getting involved in t In terms of sexual strategy this seems great in getting new sexual options but luke warm in terms of exciting a long-term option - outside of the competition angle (there is a term used but I cant remember it - something about girls want the guy other girls want) -I'm going to keep doing these things because I just like them but I wonder if **there is something else in a mission I ought to be considering in terms of a mission?**",,13,[deleted],1666118422.0 -askMRP,y5jrng,Question about OYS,"First off, I’ve been red pilled for about a year now and applying it. I just turned 18 and been in a new relationship for about 4 months (my first relationship ever). Regarding my age and experience level, is doing OYS a option for me on this reddit? A successful LTR and potential marriage is something I’m working towards!",,5,Major_Ad_779,1665934497.0 +I'm going to keep doing these things because I just like them but I wonder if **there is something else in a mission I ought to be considering in terms of a mission?**",,13,[deleted],2022-10-18 18:40:22 +askMRP,y5jrng,Question about OYS,"First off, I’ve been red pilled for about a year now and applying it. I just turned 18 and been in a new relationship for about 4 months (my first relationship ever). Regarding my age and experience level, is doing OYS a option for me on this reddit? A successful LTR and potential marriage is something I’m working towards!",,5,Major_Ad_779,2022-10-16 15:34:57 askMRP,y28xo5,Progress + question about frame/IDGAF with destructive behavior from wife,"TLDR: When I'm not yet fully the captain of the ship, how do I prevent destructive behavior in my wife (that affects the family) without resorting back to beta behaviors like pleading, explaining, rationalizing, bargaining, ultimatums? Hello MRP friends, it's me again with another question for the forum. Brief background: I'm a career beta who is around 6 months into the MRP journey. I've completed NMMNG and MMSLP, currently reading WISNIFG and Rollo's TRM. Have read through some of the sidebar and found some amazing posts by MRP veterans. Started lifting 3 times a week and working on improving style. I'm 36M, wife is 39F SAHM, two young kids. Wife was my first and only girlfriend (oneitis), so I have minimal experience dealing with women. This [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2wc1g0/mrp_beginners_guide_for_the_career_beta/) by SorcerorKing describes me to a T: @@ -69909,11 +69909,11 @@ My question to the forum is, how do you manage to maintain frame/IGDAF with dest Another similar situation that recently has come up: we *finally* managed to find a live-in housekeeper/nanny that my wife was happy with. This freed up a lot my time, and a lot of my wife's time, so that we were both more relaxed and happy. We could have date nights any time we liked, and neither of us had to do any household chores anymore. But now my wife is suddenly mad about some trivial thing (it's not important) that the nanny did and is taking the first steps towards firing her. I tried to IDGAF and tell her ""I don't care, but if you do fire her, I'm not going to help out anymore than I am doing now because this was your decision"". She says she doesn't care, but I know that if she does follow through with it and fires the nanny, she's going to eventually complain and guilt me into doing more than my fair share of work, because it's happened before. I could stand my ground this time and say no, ""I'm the breadwinner and you're a SAHM, you should be doing most of the housework and childcare"", but since I work from home, I'm worried it's going to lead to a toxic environment at home where she resents me for not helping out even when I'm present at home (but working); again I know this will happen because similar things have happened before. A little bit of stress turns her into deeply negative and critical woman, and plus without our live-in nanny it would be much harder to schedule alone time for us anymore so I worry that our relationship would suffer as well. Obviously, I want to keep this housekeeper because it's the best one that we've had, and want to convince my wife to also keep her for the good of the family and our marriage, but I'm not sure how to do it without resorting back to my beta behaviors of rationalizing and pleading, especially because it makes her feel like it's going to be a ""me + nanny"" against ""her"" situation \[nanny is unattractive so no competition undertones\]. This live-in helper is the best that we've ever had, I'm not sure if we'll find anyone as good as her if she is let go. -My broader question is this: how do prevent destructive behavior in my wife without resorting to beta behaviors like coercion, pleading, explaining, rationalizing, bargaining, ultimatums? I mean I know I need to 100% be a better leader but if she doesn't follow in a particular instance, how strongly should I try to ""correct"" her, in order to avoid more disastrous consequences for the family? I don't have the frame to force my family into the direction I want to go just yet. And when our lives are so entwined together, and with the young kids, it's hard to make my wife take ""personal responsibility"" for her errors without the entire family suffering together. I understand that I can't be her savior/white knight each time but I also don't want to put the family through unnecessary stress.",,10,AnySandwich7450,1665593218.0 +My broader question is this: how do prevent destructive behavior in my wife without resorting to beta behaviors like coercion, pleading, explaining, rationalizing, bargaining, ultimatums? I mean I know I need to 100% be a better leader but if she doesn't follow in a particular instance, how strongly should I try to ""correct"" her, in order to avoid more disastrous consequences for the family? I don't have the frame to force my family into the direction I want to go just yet. And when our lives are so entwined together, and with the young kids, it's hard to make my wife take ""personal responsibility"" for her errors without the entire family suffering together. I understand that I can't be her savior/white knight each time but I also don't want to put the family through unnecessary stress.",,10,AnySandwich7450,2022-10-12 16:46:58 askMRP,y0bkwe,Where to to go,"Im a 19 year old that stumbled upon redpill while looking for how to improve my self but i dont know what to do recently ive been trying to improve my life i got a job started swimming and started gym but i dont know where to go like what is sidebar or what to do at the gym ive searched online but i can never tell if its the right thing or it will give me the body i want or books to read how to improve my mindset and stop being lazy i never really had a strong male figure to look up to so im starting from scratch. -I dont know if this is the right olace to post this but im just looking for help because i dont want to live the rest of my life like this",,14,Neither-Repair-674,1665398904.0 +I dont know if this is the right olace to post this but im just looking for help because i dont want to live the rest of my life like this",,14,Neither-Repair-674,2022-10-10 10:48:24 askMRP,xv8m2u,"""Why do you love me so much?""","Thanks to everyone who contributed to my last question in this sub. It was very helpful, and I'm still learning. There's further background in the post history, but basically I'm a career beta who often gets stumped from the dumbest shit, like not knowing when to STFU. I've got another newbie question for the forum: how do I deal with this question ""Why do you love me so much?"" @@ -69924,7 +69924,7 @@ Is it a comfort test? Or is she trying to draw me back into her frame as a puppy What should my response be? Should I reassure her (of course I love you), ignore her, or make my dissatisfaction with her behavior more explicit (e.g. I'm not going to love you if you keep overspending). Keep in mind I'm still fuming at her financial impulsiveness and trying my best to control my emotions and not to blow it up into a bigger fight. -Many thanks in advance, you guys are the best.",,7,AnySandwich7450,1664868960.0 +Many thanks in advance, you guys are the best.",,7,AnySandwich7450,2022-10-04 07:36:00 askMRP,xq2qed,How do you deal with permanent STD and dating,"I'm recently single after divorce. No kids. Union job and have my own business on the side. During my relationship/divorce I got genital herpes (HSV2) from a plate 6 months ago. Now that my marriage is over and I'm going to date it's really hard for to me to think of myself as the prize when I have herpes. I'm still hitting the gym to look better and working to up my income. Also looking to get some coaching to develop game in the future. Which is something I severely lack. @@ -69946,7 +69946,7 @@ When having multiple plates have you transmitted while using condoms? Have you transmitted to a LTR? Have you had children and your wife/ltr and not trasmitted? -Thanks",,13,RP_Savage001,1664339365.0 +Thanks",,13,RP_Savage001,2022-09-28 04:29:25 askMRP,xo2t48,What makes the physical outlook of an alpha ?,"I have read 3 sidebars , not one , I am still in the process of the books recommended in them but please make sure to follow through and tell me what I am missing . &#x200B; @@ -69959,7 +69959,7 @@ askMRP,xo2t48,What makes the physical outlook of an alpha ?,"I have read 3 sideb Now , The voice that is masculine would be anything asssertive , no hesitation or brain farts . Has a sexual drive , is not sedated , oozing sex vibes . Learns martial art and know how to fiight and he has s style -Am I missing anything on the physical outlook of an alpha ?",,1,These-Yak9531,1664149366.0 +Am I missing anything on the physical outlook of an alpha ?",,1,These-Yak9531,2022-09-25 23:42:46 askMRP,xiyigl,First Mate Wanted Me To Hire A Bailing Expert,"# Quick Background: TL;DR: I'm new and retarded @@ -70007,8 +70007,8 @@ Thanks for any advice you guys have. I'm looking forward to getting through the 1. Her mood is not my priority. But it shows that what I'm doing is having some effect, and means I have fewer headaches throughout the day. 2. It was the thermostat. -3. Unrelated question: I don't want to be asked about fight club if it can be helped. How do you guys read this stuff without your wife noticing? Sneak it in the bathroom? At night under the covers?",,9,HamWarrior2K,1663646656.0 -askMRP,x91zzw,Gaming / Flirting with LTR,I’ve been reading a ton on here including the sidebar but I haven’t been able to find much in regards to detailed content on flirting / gaming your wife / LTR. Can anyone point me to some good resources or posts that you know of? Everything has been great in my relationship for the last couple years but the last 6 months have not and I realized it’s bc of me and I’m having a little trouble getting back into the swing of things in regards to the Mack department. Any help would be appreciated.,,12,ketojammin,1662647461.0 +3. Unrelated question: I don't want to be asked about fight club if it can be helped. How do you guys read this stuff without your wife noticing? Sneak it in the bathroom? At night under the covers?",,9,HamWarrior2K,2022-09-20 04:04:16 +askMRP,x91zzw,Gaming / Flirting with LTR,I’ve been reading a ton on here including the sidebar but I haven’t been able to find much in regards to detailed content on flirting / gaming your wife / LTR. Can anyone point me to some good resources or posts that you know of? Everything has been great in my relationship for the last couple years but the last 6 months have not and I realized it’s bc of me and I’m having a little trouble getting back into the swing of things in regards to the Mack department. Any help would be appreciated.,,12,ketojammin,2022-09-08 14:31:01 askMRP,x4uez7,help to recover the capacity to choose and serve a woman after divorce,"I have read the anxious wives series of posts by hornsofapathy. I see the logic in these posts and want to apply them in order to build an amazing relationship. In order to apply the advice authentically, you have to choose the woman. This works for married men who have already chosen their wife. For us that our divorced, we may find ourselves broken and protective of ourself and our future. This creates a barrier in the relationship. A barrier to commitment, a barrier to serve another in love, a barrier to choose a woman. I find myself struggling to remove this barrier and unable to authentically apply horns's advice. Have any others built a barrier post divorce? How did you remove it? @@ -70018,8 +70018,8 @@ I am less concerned about building value in myself or seeking sex. Those are mo Thank you Link to the first post related to anxious wives -https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/asqi8r/depressive_and_anxious_wives_how_its_all_your/",,3,mid-life-restart,1662211580.0 -askMRP,x57kxs,NEWBIE HERE!,Hello gents! I'm kinda new to the red pill praxeology. I'm 32 single and just want to learn the basics. I want to know where should I start reading and what steps should I start taking. Please help. I feel like I've been dropped right in the middle of a advanced level course as a novice.,,0,[deleted],1662246652.0 +https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/asqi8r/depressive_and_anxious_wives_how_its_all_your/",,3,mid-life-restart,2022-09-03 13:26:20 +askMRP,x57kxs,NEWBIE HERE!,Hello gents! I'm kinda new to the red pill praxeology. I'm 32 single and just want to learn the basics. I want to know where should I start reading and what steps should I start taking. Please help. I feel like I've been dropped right in the middle of a advanced level course as a novice.,,0,[deleted],2022-09-03 23:10:52 askMRP,x2f3sh,Dread and OYS questions,"I've been doing self-development for a while now and it's led me to this sphere I found NMMNG before MRP a while back and read it then. Re-reading it now (almost finished again) but taking it in more and making notes etc, more like studying it. I had in mind to read this & WISNIFG before posting OYS is this the wrong attitude should I just be doing this now? Secondly I was having a low level of sex before finding MRP, I see now many mistakes I made (unattractive behaviour) and I'm sure I'll learn many more things I have/am fucking up along the way too. Frequency has since improved greatly. @@ -70028,7 +70028,7 @@ Doing things by myself and building a life outside of her has the wife scared/wo Yesterday I got asked if I'm cheating (I am), I laughed, made fun of her about it and she tried to play it off. Later she says ""I need a clear answer, are you cheating on me? I need you to spell it out"". I lied, I don't remember the exact words but it was to the effect of ""no and don't ask me anymore stupid questions"". I don't feel guilty about deceiving her but the lying gives me pause as it seems cowardly to me. Did I/how bad did I fuck up here? -Don't hold back. Let me have it.",,10,NoMoreMrNiceJay,1661956262.0 +Don't hold back. Let me have it.",,10,NoMoreMrNiceJay,2022-08-31 14:31:02 askMRP,x2l01y,Recognition,"I’ve been a lurker for about 6 months passively applying tid bits with some what good responses. However, I recently just swallowed the damn pill and applying it daily for a couple weeks. I give my wife recognition when shes being good and pull my attention when she’s being bad. My question is do you give recognition for giving damn good sex? @@ -70042,7 +70042,7 @@ I was different in my candor this time. Usually very consciousnesses of her and She doesn’t like to 69 but happens every once in a while but this time she initiated it and started going to town. I was like hell yeah and was close to exploding which I hardly ever do from a oral. Was about to pull back cause I know she enjoys the sex but stayed my course of cave manning and just let it fly. Well to my amazement, she loved it. She loved it so much she kept trucking along and then riding me to hers. -All that to say, I fucking loved it. Part of me wants me to let her know that she did a great fucking job fucking.",,0,[deleted],1661970832.0 +All that to say, I fucking loved it. Part of me wants me to let her know that she did a great fucking job fucking.",,0,[deleted],2022-08-31 18:33:52 askMRP,wyiu80,Jerking off in Bed after Sex Denial,"So last night the LTR denied sex and it's been becoming a more frequent thing compared to before. So she actually fell asleep pretty quickly but I was horny and so I got up and walked to her drawer and got some lube and beat one down and then went and cleaned up in the bathroom. I wasn't trying to be discrete or anything and I could have cared less if she woke up or not. My question is about doing this in the future. If she turns down sex and I say I'm really horny, are you going to help me out (jerk off etc.) and she says no to that, do I just grab some lube and beat off right there? I don't really feel like I would want to go to the living room couch or spare bedroom. @@ -70051,7 +70051,7 @@ Does this go against the ""Be attractive"" mantra? Thoughts? Not really sure what the ramifications of this are or how it fits into any RP stuff. -Thanks in advance.",,22,luzerpatrol,1661544306.0 +Thanks in advance.",,22,luzerpatrol,2022-08-26 20:05:06 askMRP,wyvchc,Need advice on how to proceed,"36M here, with two young kids (4 and 6), wife is 38F. Married for 12 years. I'm relatively new to the MRP journey, and I was a career beta all my life. After reading more on MRP (completed MMSLP and NMMNG so far), I realized that my approaches were 100% wrong. The more I pressured my wife for sex, and the more we argued or negotiated about it, the more defensive and stressed she became about the ordeal and would come up with myriad excuses not to do it (tired, kids, stress, etc.). On average, we have sex around 2 times a month. She does seem to enjoy it when the stars align for us to fuck, and she orgasms each time, but isn't a willing giver sexually (something to work on). @@ -70068,8 +70068,8 @@ Then, I messed up. I reacted like a total beta. I felt hurt that she would say t First question: what are some DARE responses that I could have made to my wife's reply above? (That she wish I would continue indefinitely to not ask her for sex). -Second question: should I begin initiating sex again in September? I know I need to do a better job of OI even if she denies it, but I don't want to ruin what little progress I've made this month by slipping back into old habits and patterns.",,3,AnySandwich7450,1661580800.0 -askMRP,wycpjn,Sex Question,"When I implement dominance with my wife in bed, she goes limp. For example, if we're in missionary or kissing and I pin her hands to the bed by her wrists, she just starts laying there. What's up with this?",,7,Cyrano_deBond,1661529126.0 +Second question: should I begin initiating sex again in September? I know I need to do a better job of OI even if she denies it, but I don't want to ruin what little progress I've made this month by slipping back into old habits and patterns.",,3,AnySandwich7450,2022-08-27 06:13:20 +askMRP,wycpjn,Sex Question,"When I implement dominance with my wife in bed, she goes limp. For example, if we're in missionary or kissing and I pin her hands to the bed by her wrists, she just starts laying there. What's up with this?",,7,Cyrano_deBond,2022-08-26 15:52:06 askMRP,wwojst,"How handle wife pushback when beginning, father of 4 young children.","31m New to MRP, typical stale marriage. I'm curious about a couple basics... We have four children, 2, 3, 4, and 5. She homeschools them. I have a hard time reconciling the fact that she does a lot during the day with some of my MRP goals. There is a limit to how much mission focus I can have because I can't put 100% of the child rearing on my wife when I'm already gone 8 - 5. @@ -70082,15 +70082,15 @@ Similar question, my wife does not do laundry the way I like - the last few week -Thanks.",,7,conditionallyinsane,1661359906.0 +Thanks.",,7,conditionallyinsane,2022-08-24 16:51:46 askMRP,wwp3ae,"I was given oneitis by my ex and only recently coming out of it, please advise.","She got me pretty bad, I even believed all the shit about her being mine that we said to one another during sex. Found out that she was texting her ex whilst we were on holiday together, and that she had dinner with him whilst we were together without telling me. -Obviously we've split and I have an opportunity to leave the country, to travel and explore the world, live wherever I want basically. I could do with hearing from some people on the outside who can tell me how fucking crazy I am to still be thinking about her and the life we could have had.",,0,acuterix,1661361177.0 -askMRP,wwkif8,How to handle the situation,"I’m looking for a starting point. I shared on my post yesterday that I upsettingly asked for a divorce and when I tried to double back she said it’s for the best. She said she needs until about February to move out. She starts her job next week. She’s been cordial and talkative and even helping out more with the house and kids. My question is as I’m working on myself, how do I navigate this situation with her. Do I ignore her attempts for small talk? Stop doing things together? I know I’m going to get killed for this but I’m genuinely asking.",,0,ComprehensiveLuck439,1661350046.0 -askMRP,wvxyz1,I’m just a little bitch,"So I’ve been lurking for about a good year now. Started the sidebar then stopped. Went through hell and back with my wife and our marriage. It’s gotten to the point where I exploded a few days ago and said I wanted a divorce. She cries about it for a few days. We went on a date last night. Got home and I told her I didn’t really want a divorce but, now she says she thinks it’s for the best. What a blow to the ego. I feel like she has one up on me now. I didn’t beg and plead I just told her that was fine and it probably is for the best. We’re cordial right now. Came back to this community so I can get my shit together once and for all. I’m tired of being a beta bitch. Do I want to divorce? No. But, I know the shit I’ve been doing won’t keep me married for long. I’m at the point where need to change for my marriage or my new life as a divorcee. So no more lurking. Time to implement action and stop being a whiny beta bitch.",,1,ComprehensiveLuck439,1661283636.0 -askMRP,wsemex,How to show wealth/status without seeming flashy?,"Moving to a new country with a lower cost of living. Believe it will be easier to pick up girls if they know I have a bit of money. How should I be thinking about demonstrating that I have cash, without being showey and attracting the wrong kind of attention?",,0,hansard2015,1660917261.0 +Obviously we've split and I have an opportunity to leave the country, to travel and explore the world, live wherever I want basically. I could do with hearing from some people on the outside who can tell me how fucking crazy I am to still be thinking about her and the life we could have had.",,0,acuterix,2022-08-24 17:12:57 +askMRP,wwkif8,How to handle the situation,"I’m looking for a starting point. I shared on my post yesterday that I upsettingly asked for a divorce and when I tried to double back she said it’s for the best. She said she needs until about February to move out. She starts her job next week. She’s been cordial and talkative and even helping out more with the house and kids. My question is as I’m working on myself, how do I navigate this situation with her. Do I ignore her attempts for small talk? Stop doing things together? I know I’m going to get killed for this but I’m genuinely asking.",,0,ComprehensiveLuck439,2022-08-24 14:07:26 +askMRP,wvxyz1,I’m just a little bitch,"So I’ve been lurking for about a good year now. Started the sidebar then stopped. Went through hell and back with my wife and our marriage. It’s gotten to the point where I exploded a few days ago and said I wanted a divorce. She cries about it for a few days. We went on a date last night. Got home and I told her I didn’t really want a divorce but, now she says she thinks it’s for the best. What a blow to the ego. I feel like she has one up on me now. I didn’t beg and plead I just told her that was fine and it probably is for the best. We’re cordial right now. Came back to this community so I can get my shit together once and for all. I’m tired of being a beta bitch. Do I want to divorce? No. But, I know the shit I’ve been doing won’t keep me married for long. I’m at the point where need to change for my marriage or my new life as a divorcee. So no more lurking. Time to implement action and stop being a whiny beta bitch.",,1,ComprehensiveLuck439,2022-08-23 19:40:36 +askMRP,wsemex,How to show wealth/status without seeming flashy?,"Moving to a new country with a lower cost of living. Believe it will be easier to pick up girls if they know I have a bit of money. How should I be thinking about demonstrating that I have cash, without being showey and attracting the wrong kind of attention?",,0,hansard2015,2022-08-19 13:54:21 askMRP,wq9dxd,Started off RP for 1.5 years - Then Reverted to BP - Can it be saved?,"Not married but it's an LTR and marriage is the direction that we both want it to head. I have been dating my gf for a little under 3 years. For the first 1.5 years I applied RP principles even though I'm not a true RP. I've wanted to be and was acting the part, but not following through with everything you guys said on here like lifting and making my appearance better. I turned BP after this first phase and did everything wrong as I stopped reading RP and reverted back to my BP ways and made all of the mistakes and now we are not in a good spot which will not be a surprise to any of you. @@ -70125,7 +70125,7 @@ I also realize that maybe it's a lost cause, but either way, my focus is betteri In summary, I've been faking RP stuff for a while...allthough well as it was working extremely well...fell back into BP habbits....but wondering if the relationship can be turned around or if its DOA b/c I have been outed even though she still wants us to date. -Thanks in advance for any advice.",,0,rollermic,1660693387.0 +Thanks in advance for any advice.",,0,rollermic,2022-08-16 23:43:07 askMRP,wlsea3,Starting off wrong?,"Married 11y together 14. 3 kids under 10 About 6 weeks ago wife (35) and I (34) had a serious argument that led to me realizing I was being a beta bitch. Been knee deep in reading ever since. I started with NMMNG before I had the chance to read that we don't talk about fight club. In NMMNG I found I was using sex for validation and led to bad sex. My dumb ass.... I talked to my wife told let her from now on, I don't want her to do anything she doesn't want herself. No sex especially right then. We took 2 weeks off of sex and no initiations from me. When that ended we had damn good sex once. I performed better than normal and lead her to what I want. @@ -70148,14 +70148,14 @@ Some things are different positively, she has slept with her head on my chest wi I'm aware and trying not to go Rambo. I haven't told her she is wrong at all. All I've done is own up to my bullshit and work on it. I still need a mission and to establish frame. At this point I really don't want a divorce and I'm trying to kill the oneitis. If divorce is what needs to happen I'll cross that bridge when I get there but I haven't prepped at all. -Is this too much Rambo or am I par for the course?",,17,RPturtle,1660227150.0 +Is this too much Rambo or am I par for the course?",,17,RPturtle,2022-08-11 14:12:30 askMRP,wjfmy2,Can’t shake the anger,"Hi all. Longtime lurker. Burner account because my laptop at home probably would ping with responses. For the past 9 months, been trying to stick to the RP as much as possible. Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP and the sidebar generally. 32m, wife 29, married 5 years together 10. Discovered this sub through deadbedroom. 165lb, 5’7, bench 225, squat 185. College athlete so generally lean and do a lot of running as well and have been lifting for years. Career beta. Make great money as an engineer. Around month 3, I started seeing some success with sex. More frequency, around 10 times a month. Wife way more into it than ever, dirty talk, generally all the things I like. I don’t know if I eased up or what the problem is, it doesn’t feel like I did, but the last 3 months have been absolutely insane regression. Back to twice a month sex. -This is all to say, because I’m such a pussy and seek one of woman’s validation, after another dry month, I check her phone to discover she’s been watching porn. After being told basically all month she hasn’t been in the mood, needs to feel loved bla bla bla. I absolutely cannot fucking shake the anger. I’m fuming like a bitch for the past 3 days now. So much so that my STFU has been absolute Rambo and been mentioned. I’ve resisted the urge but should I keep the discovery to myself? I can only imagine bringing it up would make me seem like such butthurt loser but at this point I’m at a loss. Aside from the general advice that I need to shake the covert contract, and get out of her frame, any advice on next steps would be appreciated.",,11,[deleted],1659981798.0 +This is all to say, because I’m such a pussy and seek one of woman’s validation, after another dry month, I check her phone to discover she’s been watching porn. After being told basically all month she hasn’t been in the mood, needs to feel loved bla bla bla. I absolutely cannot fucking shake the anger. I’m fuming like a bitch for the past 3 days now. So much so that my STFU has been absolute Rambo and been mentioned. I’ve resisted the urge but should I keep the discovery to myself? I can only imagine bringing it up would make me seem like such butthurt loser but at this point I’m at a loss. Aside from the general advice that I need to shake the covert contract, and get out of her frame, any advice on next steps would be appreciated.",,11,[deleted],2022-08-08 18:03:18 askMRP,wifpi5,How do you punish bad behavior without seeming butthurt?,"Hey (23M) with a (24F) who was showing super high interest. She text me everyday and cooks for me. She is a great person and I plan on getting into a LTR with her until recently. She told me prior to the weekend that her sister in law was coming down to hang out. Then said she wasn’t so I planned something for Saturday. It was a all day thing and I had 3 reservations. Later that Friday she said her SIL was now coming and she couldn’t hang Saturday but she will be gone by Sunday so we can hang out Sunday. @@ -70166,7 +70166,7 @@ Saturday night she tells me that she will be free Sunday and I made plans to pul She sent me a message at 1 in the morning saying “sigh…” but I was sleep so I didn’t see it. Now this morning I’m sitting her knowing she probably gonna cancel on me twice in a row. -How do I punish bad behavior without seeming butthurt about it? I don’t wanna make it seem like I’m mad but I do want her to understand not to do that shit to me. How do I go about it?",,19,Middle_Path_4710,1659878736.0 +How do I punish bad behavior without seeming butthurt about it? I don’t wanna make it seem like I’m mad but I do want her to understand not to do that shit to me. How do I go about it?",,19,Middle_Path_4710,2022-08-07 13:25:36 askMRP,wg1ypj,"Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfish","I lost the password to my previous account. I made this post roughly 70 days ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/uyu47r/what_can_i_do_to_get_special_sex_acts_from_my_wife/ Anytime I initiate my wife is willing to fuck, she makes it clear that she doesn‘t really want to but that she will. I‘ll go for it and she‘ll respond with „I guess we can“ or „that‘s fine“ or „okay“ and then she‘ll be motionless and refuse to make eye-contact throughout the whole encounter and will complain if I try anything other than missionary or doggy or if I‘m too aggressive for her, then after I finish she‘ll storm off to the bathroom and sit in there for 90 minutes to avoid me. This has happened for years. I fuck her about 5x a week and she is always willing. @@ -70177,7 +70177,7 @@ I understand that money wouldn’t turn my wife on, but not having it could resu I personally think my wife has an inability to say no to me. The times when she did in the past I played my „mean card“ and withdrew affection/attention/pouted about it and she has concluded that she‘d rather suffer through frequent sex she doesn’t actually want than not get any attention/affection from her husband. Yes, I mistakenly went from 0 to 100 with this in the past. I think she just resents sex with me altogether and can‘t say no now. There‘s no enthusiasm, and no passion, it‘s completely a duty for her. -Looking for some direction.",,126,yourmomistighter,1659621533.0 +Looking for some direction.",,126,yourmomistighter,2022-08-04 13:58:53 askMRP,wdxlrq,Need advice I guess.,"- Historical context @@ -70235,7 +70235,7 @@ Which leaves the two key issues: 1. I love my kid to bits and I need guidance on how to run this split as amicably as possible, whilst maintaining my parental access. Are there resources for this? -2. My credo in life is that smart people have a duty to have as many kids as possible so as to not be outbred by idiots. I consider myself a smart person, but the idea of marrying again for the purpose of having kids seems suboptimal, putting it very mildly. How do I spread my seed with maximum effect? Are there resources on this? Are there apps for barebacking with built-in STD/STI screens? Knock-me-up apps? What am I missing?",,0,Burn_Rens,1659401321.0 +2. My credo in life is that smart people have a duty to have as many kids as possible so as to not be outbred by idiots. I consider myself a smart person, but the idea of marrying again for the purpose of having kids seems suboptimal, putting it very mildly. How do I spread my seed with maximum effect? Are there resources on this? Are there apps for barebacking with built-in STD/STI screens? Knock-me-up apps? What am I missing?",,0,Burn_Rens,2022-08-02 00:48:41 askMRP,wbbe9y,So. I made a thing some people might find useful. Is this the right place for it?,"**Why here?** Because RP knowledge is applicable beyond merely wife/girlfriend. It is literally reading the matrix (or in my head, the metadata) of social interactions. There will be guys on the MRP forum who are dads of daughters in this scenario. In fact this is likely the *only* place such guys will gather. Dads who aren't redpilled will not be interested. Redpill guys with no kids will not be interested. If there is a better place for this, (does r/redpilldads exist?) I'm all ears. Mods please point me in the right direction - genuine MRP question: is this the right place for this sort of thing? @@ -70278,7 +70278,7 @@ But even though I'm only part of the way through the sidebar I am beginning to s [O — Postimages (postimg.cc)](https://postimg.cc/18KrFGDP) -PS: if anyone wants to offer comment and criticism I am of course open to it - but please make sure you have at least read page A. I have necessarily had to do a lot of generalisation.",,7,SaltyGeekyLifter,1659117468.0 +PS: if anyone wants to offer comment and criticism I am of course open to it - but please make sure you have at least read page A. I have necessarily had to do a lot of generalisation.",,7,SaltyGeekyLifter,2022-07-29 17:57:48 askMRP,w89xio,Journaling habits,"Reading OYS posts, I recognize there is value in journaling about stuff I need to process, stuff I need to work on, and overcome. Which journaling format do other MRP plebs use? @@ -70291,7 +70291,7 @@ Written allows for better flow of thought, but typed can allow for better review Edit: so which do you choose, and why? -(And yes, choosing something is better than nothing)",,3,5ive_Rivers,1658809114.0 +(And yes, choosing something is better than nothing)",,3,5ive_Rivers,2022-07-26 04:18:34 askMRP,w2vtkq,"Living with separated wife - emotionless, but mixed messages","29 years old, married 4 years, 2 kids. 5'10"", 180lbs, don't know bf % but it's somewhere north of 15. @@ -70321,7 +70321,7 @@ So why the change of plans about moving out, the notes left out to see, the gift I should add that although I do not want the divorce, I have not attempted to change her mind at all. I've been implementing the divorce busting 101 rules, and keeping my distance other than necessary communication to do with the kids. -I'm admitting straight up that I'm clueless, and I'm asking for insight.",,21,justfuggmyshidup,1658245419.0 +I'm admitting straight up that I'm clueless, and I'm asking for insight.",,21,justfuggmyshidup,2022-07-19 15:43:39 askMRP,w01qpa,I need advice too,"Hi, I've been in an LTR for 7 years and I can't tell if it's going the way it should. I've been seeing some red flags. Like sometimes she doesn't answer my calls for a few weeks. And on a few occasions when I want to Facetime she won't do it, always saying her makeup doesn't look good or something. I get it, women want to look good for their men. @@ -70336,7 +70336,7 @@ It's got me so up in arms that I've been talking to this girl on Tinder for a co What do you think I should do? Everytime I propose to her or tell her I want to take things further, she just gets distracted and says she's got a call or something to do. I don't know. It feels forced. -Can you give me some guidance? I'm afraid I'll do something stupid and my mother keeps telling me not to blow it.",,26,johneyapocalypse,1657926257.0 +Can you give me some guidance? I'm afraid I'll do something stupid and my mother keeps telling me not to blow it.",,26,johneyapocalypse,2022-07-15 23:04:17 askMRP,vvjs00,advice,"I have had a rough year with my marriage. We've been married 11 years and been together for 14 years. One thing I have prided myself on in our relationship is honesty. In 14 years good or bad we've been honest, brutally honest and it's been welcomed. I've never been upset at her for telling the truth about anything. With that said in May of 2021 I hung out with a new female friend of hers (full disclosure, we moved to a new city during the pandemic, first chance to meet new people) @@ -70355,7 +70355,7 @@ Only since this new friend had she started lying. Rambling I'm sure, but I'd appreciate someone else's perspective on the new found dishonesty. -To note, I hold myself accountable for not being a better man. And have actively started the basic principles of nmmng.",,19,Svakora,1657428353.0 +To note, I hold myself accountable for not being a better man. And have actively started the basic principles of nmmng.",,19,Svakora,2022-07-10 04:45:53 askMRP,vnlkx5,Confronting Black and White Thinking,"Superficially home life is relatively stable and peaceful as divorce looms over us. Wife keeps pressuring me on [terms](https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/vm0chs/advice_with_wifes_ridiculous_terms/), which by and of themselves speak volumes about her relationship with me. I halfway suspect this is another bluff, but fuck, if I call it like I did with her passport ultimatum, she stands to lose bigly. Black and white thinking and the inability to see degrees of possibility is a re-current and debilitating theme in our marriage. Some examples of this binary thinking and absolute need to status-signal include: * $40K wedding / no wedding, only small reception with immediate family @@ -70366,7 +70366,7 @@ askMRP,vnlkx5,Confronting Black and White Thinking,"Superficially home life is r Being under divorce has taught me to just make a decision in spite of her and to not be paralyzed to inaction. The optimal solution is rarely any of her absolute/black-white options she throws out. Prime example is the car I purchased after entering into divorce. Once divorce was entered, I traded in my truck and bought a gem of a used Outback the very next day. She talked shit about the interior when she first saw it, but begrudgingly admitted that I made a good purchase after all. -How do I confront this line of thinking on things that require her involvement or input?",,4,cryptus-maximus,1656524554.0 +How do I confront this line of thinking on things that require her involvement or input?",,4,cryptus-maximus,2022-06-29 17:42:34 askMRP,vl3k39,Does anyone here have a chronic condition?,"Does anyone here have a chronic condition that affects them mentally? If so, how do you deal with it such that you can stay as the oak and Captain of the ship? I was born with congenital hypothyroidism and while I try my best to keep myself in check, especially mentally and emotionally, during the troughs in respect to my health condition I am emotionally all over the place and I become so weak and struggle to keep my head above the waters and staying balanced. @@ -70376,7 +70376,7 @@ This condition is known to cause mood swings and I do engage in a lot of meditat If anyone has a similar life experience and has figured something out in their life, then please feel free to share it. At the moment all I end up doing is withdrawing and closing myself off and staying in my head until I sort myself out or get through the storm. But I know this is unhealthy. -Thanks in advance",,9,Asianed1994,1656246083.0 +Thanks in advance",,9,Asianed1994,2022-06-26 12:21:23 askMRP,vix9p7,Helpful or unhelpful to talk with partner about female psychology,"My wife and I love to talk psychology. That said, I’ve kept what I’ve learned about female thinking in terms of anything redpill etc. out of conversation. @@ -70391,7 +70391,7 @@ Bad idea? Or could that actually prove fruitful in some way? Part of me thinks that my motivation would only be that she might “change” by understanding better. So, perhaps it’s a way for me to avoid my MAP. -Again, just thinking out loud here.",,9,Visual_Pack_2206,1655991805.0 +Again, just thinking out loud here.",,9,Visual_Pack_2206,2022-06-23 13:43:25 askMRP,ve9yq0,"Helpless Initiations, Feeling Stuck","I'm feeling very stuck with my initiations and I am looking for some advice, apologies for the incoming victim puke. Sex has been pretty poor for around the 7/8 months we've been back together, my suspected explanation for this is in my latest OYS. @@ -70412,7 +70412,7 @@ Anyway, you get the point. I don’t know how to break the fucking cycle, when a I began scouring MRP for solutions, and I came across [this post from A\_Rex](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/5ttgz3/married_game_if_youre_not_flirting_withgaming/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf). Low and behold, it’s the same issue I’m having. On paper everything about me is attractive, but my girlfriend still doesn’t want to fuck. INTERNALLY I am often weak and broken (low self-esteem), and I have ZERO game most of the time. I rarely flirt with my girlfriend anymore, I don’t know how to anymore due to fear of rejection. I used to tease her relentlessly, purposefully wind her up for my enjoyment, and play fight. This has all gone, so maybe this is where I need to start. Focus on learning how to game my girlfriend, and being fun again. And accept the fact I’m probably going to be a retard about it for a few months while I experiment. -Any thoughts and feedback would be greatly appreciated, maybe I'm missing something.",,9,AcuminateMind,1655461414.0 +Any thoughts and feedback would be greatly appreciated, maybe I'm missing something.",,9,AcuminateMind,2022-06-17 10:23:34 askMRP,vcvw43,GF's parents suddenly on the offensive about marrying and adopting her son,"**Stats** Me: Late 30s | 5'10"" 195 lbs | DL 405x5, SQ 315x5, OHP 140x5, BP 195x5 @@ -70452,7 +70452,7 @@ I've made great strides creating a frame in my relationship, and that frame work I'll take any advice you have. I figure broken record is my best strategy here, but I'm not sure what I'm being a broken record about. I know my answer is ""because there are red and yellow flags I can't ignore, and I'm not paying child support for another man's kid"", but I don't know how to phrase that to the girl's parents. I also don't feel like I can fog, negative inquiry, and ultimately deflect and leave the conversation with things unanswered. -Thank you for reading.",,12,StanisBot,1655303581.0 +Thank you for reading.",,12,StanisBot,2022-06-15 14:33:01 askMRP,vah4c7,Absolute Mess,"I'm struggling with actioning the sidebar information. Lots of unattractive qualities and I find myself losing track or reverting to old habits without realizing. Does anyone have a good method for keeping on top of it all? @@ -70475,14 +70475,14 @@ Smile Have some wins with these things over the next week and then maybe add something else next week. -People talk like not being shit socially is easy. For most maybe, because they learned the skills growing up and used to be fit, fun and fuck. Not the case for me, advice like ""pick up a hobby"" isn't enough on its own to undo the awkwardness. It's going to take me a lot of time and effort to undo this shit. Any advice beyond rereading NMMNG, WISNIFG, HTWFAIP (i'm rereading all three) would help a lot.",,13,GermanSatay,1655020539.0 +People talk like not being shit socially is easy. For most maybe, because they learned the skills growing up and used to be fit, fun and fuck. Not the case for me, advice like ""pick up a hobby"" isn't enough on its own to undo the awkwardness. It's going to take me a lot of time and effort to undo this shit. Any advice beyond rereading NMMNG, WISNIFG, HTWFAIP (i'm rereading all three) would help a lot.",,13,GermanSatay,2022-06-12 07:55:39 askMRP,v5zplx,When should you actually get into a LTR?,"I'm in my early 20's. Met TRP, improved myself for a few years, now for the first time in my life I get some female attention and I've been dating around a bit. Thing is, every time after a few months of dating a girl she gets feelings and me sleeping around becomes a problem for her. Usually I really like them (or else I wouldn't be seeing her for so long) and maybe getting serious is fun and an opening for adventures but I also like my freedom and flirting with women, even though I'm not some sort of ""big Chad"". I feel like 99% of the people around me would have said ""if you like her and there are no red flags then go for it, why not"", almost like I'm some sort of an outcast in my way of thinking. -Really been doubting lately, and as married men I would love to hear some insight about if or when should I get into an exclusive LTR with a girl I really like, even in the price of leaving my humble single life behind. Thank you.",,16,mrmonbant,1654510599.0 +Really been doubting lately, and as married men I would love to hear some insight about if or when should I get into an exclusive LTR with a girl I really like, even in the price of leaving my humble single life behind. Thank you.",,16,mrmonbant,2022-06-06 10:16:39 askMRP,v1xt4c,Demonstrating Anger,"I was originally going to post this to my [OYS](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/v1ljwh/comment/iap48gt/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3). However, I'm 2 for 6 for catching bans on them and didn't want to risk another Rule 9: I need some advice on something that happened last weekend. I went camping. The weather was supposed to be cold and rainy all weekend. @@ -70495,7 +70495,7 @@ I was beyond butthurt. I was pissed. I considered packing up and leaving. Whe She apologized (a minor miracle). Then I dropped it. If nothing else, I would consider dropping it a win. Normally, I would have acted butthurt the rest of the day. -How did I handle this? How could I have handled it better?",,7,OCBOA704,1654024918.0 +How did I handle this? How could I have handled it better?",,7,OCBOA704,2022-05-31 19:21:58 askMRP,v0q2ng,Question / Field Report on STFU,"Hey what's happening. 5'11, 204, 14% BF Bench 175 x 7, Squat 255x7, Row 185 x 7 OHP 100 x 7 I've been following the subreddit for a while, quietly reading the sidebar and applying as best I can but now I know I need to go all the way with this, what I've been doing hasn't been enough. @@ -70542,12 +70542,12 @@ And she groans and shuts the door. I've been reading **WISNIFG** as we speak. -Can someone give me any feedback or insight as to what I'm facing here or how this resolves? Thanks!",,5,HotFaithlessness7026,1653877392.0 +Can someone give me any feedback or insight as to what I'm facing here or how this resolves? Thanks!",,5,HotFaithlessness7026,2022-05-30 02:23:12 askMRP,uznwbu,Can woman be aroused and excited when having sex with a blue-pilled male?,"One major conclusion of TRP is that a blue-pill beta can only have transactional sex with woman, and red-pills can have validational sex. Validational sex comes from woman's genuine desire. Transactional sex happens when the woman is trying to get some material benefits from blue-pills. According to TRP and Rollo, having validational sex is enthusiastic, while having transactional sex with blue-pill beta is disgusting for woman. For detailed explanation, [see this](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/82trm6/transactional_vs_validational_sex/). -From my observations, it is of course true that having sex with alphas is more enthusiastic. **However**, in many recent observations, I find that **many** female can also enjoy the ""sexual service"" provided by blue-pill betas, and even reach the climax. It seems like woman can also find transactional sex exciting, rather than disgusting. What's your observations? I'll be very happy if you can teach me some facts narrowly defined in this topic.",,10,hunteralliance,1653746318.0 +From my observations, it is of course true that having sex with alphas is more enthusiastic. **However**, in many recent observations, I find that **many** female can also enjoy the ""sexual service"" provided by blue-pill betas, and even reach the climax. It seems like woman can also find transactional sex exciting, rather than disgusting. What's your observations? I'll be very happy if you can teach me some facts narrowly defined in this topic.",,10,hunteralliance,2022-05-28 13:58:38 askMRP,uyu47r,What can I do to get special sex acts from my wife?,"I have an okay sex life. It’s fine most of the time, even great sometimes. But I’m not completely fulfilled as everything is not on the table. We have sex frequently and I rarely get turned down. However, if I ask or imply that I want certain things, that’s when things don’t go my way. When we first met, predictably, she let me do anything I wanted to her. Though after only two years of marriage, now, she whines about blowing me. I‘m not allowed to cum on her face or in her mouth. She doesn’t spit or swallow. Shoves me away when I lick where she doesn’t like. I haven’t even gone for anal but I’m sure that’s a no too. @@ -70556,14 +70556,14 @@ I additionally have read the post “validation needs that can poison your sex l I do not give a shit. I want these special sex acts. Yes, it is a covert contract. -Realistically, what are my options here?",,44,EveryoneConditional,1653642332.0 +Realistically, what are my options here?",,44,EveryoneConditional,2022-05-27 09:05:32 askMRP,uyfkrq,Family drama - wife says I didn't defend her,"6'2"" 285lb SQ 315 DL 315 BP 275 Covid brought some family drama. One day my brother called my wife and spoke to her angrily. I didn't give him shit for it, it's my brother and I trust him. If this was some random guy I would have absolutely let it be known he was out of line in no uncertain terms. (Tbh I would love the excuse) In my opinion, family members should be able to trust eachother and get heated from time to time. -What're your thoughts?",,4,STFUandF,1653593720.0 +What're your thoughts?",,4,STFUandF,2022-05-26 19:35:20 askMRP,uy23f1,Is this an unreasonable amount of shit tests? And was my response valid?,"38, married, 2 young kids. My wife has been out of town for 2 days at a work conference leaving me to get the kids ready for nursery, school, drop them off, pick them up put them to bed for the past 2 days. You know the drill. @@ -70590,8 +70590,8 @@ She then asks me to get them in the car for her. All the while I'm STFU. She the Is this right? I'm doing way more of the parenting than she is and she doesn't seem to notice or give a shit. Sure I'm butthurt which is blue pill shit but at the same time, I shouldn't give her the impression I'm OK with being ordered about. -Listening to NMMNG at present - need to read the rest of the sidebar. But I want to get some views on what I should have done differently this morning / how to set up future mornings so I'm not in the same position.",,2,Necessary-Car-5672,1653550019.0 -askMRP,utj7db,Is there a place on MRP for prevention instead of cure?,"As a young guy in a relationship I am happy in, I often notice that many of the posts on MRP are about guys trying to un-fuck their lives. I have rarely seen guys continue to post whilst in a situation they are happy with, unless they had already gone through the process and successfully come out the other side. I was thinking about sharing field reports as part of an ounce of prevention beating a pound of cure.",,17,IronAntlers,1653013432.0 +Listening to NMMNG at present - need to read the rest of the sidebar. But I want to get some views on what I should have done differently this morning / how to set up future mornings so I'm not in the same position.",,2,Necessary-Car-5672,2022-05-26 07:26:59 +askMRP,utj7db,Is there a place on MRP for prevention instead of cure?,"As a young guy in a relationship I am happy in, I often notice that many of the posts on MRP are about guys trying to un-fuck their lives. I have rarely seen guys continue to post whilst in a situation they are happy with, unless they had already gone through the process and successfully come out the other side. I was thinking about sharing field reports as part of an ounce of prevention beating a pound of cure.",,17,IronAntlers,2022-05-20 02:23:52 askMRP,ur9th2,When touch is not an option,"Hi, 35, 5’6” ~175lb I’m a drunk captain married for 11 years. @@ -70601,20 +70601,20 @@ I am an orthodox jew, so I’m don’t touch my wife during her period until sh Flirtatious touch has worked with her in the past, but now it’s not available to me. “Initiating” is not really a thing. It would require her to count 7 clean days, and then go to the mikvah. Any ideas of what game/initiations would look like? -I appreciate all responses. I know I’m just a fat retard, and you guys don’t owe me anything.",,0,No-Contribution3422,1652746150.0 +I appreciate all responses. I know I’m just a fat retard, and you guys don’t owe me anything.",,0,No-Contribution3422,2022-05-17 00:09:10 askMRP,ujfdk8,"Threat honored, After filing for divorce","A month ago the wife put an ultimatum on me, [sign for our child's passport](https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/tq157l/wife_getting_child_passport_should_i_put_on_the/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) or we're getting a divorce. I opted for the divorce. She then said, if we're getting a divorce, you need to leave the house. I told her I would not be leaving voluntarily and that she would need to pick-up the phone and call the police herself. She was on the phone for a while but the police were taking too long...so I called them myself and successfully thwarted what *would* of possibly been a false DV charge. Since I filed for divorce, my day-to-day peace has improved but it is skewed by the looming divorce and her desire to get full custody and to be seen as super mom. The first couple weeks were tumultuous, but I like the new norm more than pre-divorce. Instead of putting her career first, she does her part in transporting our kid and being out with her after pick-up, she is less critical and I have been enjoying ability to exercise my freedoms without bearing that nagging energy. She's told me that she wouldn't have taken off with our daughter because of the life she's built here and that she wouldn't of called the police without first consulting her lawyer and that I was stupid and paranoid for thinking otherwise (contrary to the exact threats she's given me before). She told me that she was not 100% sure about getting a divorce and that it was *not inevitable* that we would be getting one down the road. My family and family-friends have attempted to intercede. None of that matters, I had one day where I broke down privately, but since then I have been steadfast in proceeding to get a divorce ASAP. I've had a taste of post-marriage life and there is zero chance of going back. -What I find astounding about all of this, is all she had to do to avoid this chain of events was to humor me by agreeing that a 3rd party hold the passport. I would of signed off and she would of been booked for a trip this summer to go see granddad with my daughter. She has tried to guilt me by saying that her dad is sick and that she would never forgive me if he died without seeing our daughter and I simply told her, the power is in your hands. Her unwillingness to allow me any sense of control, *even to her own detriment*, is really amazing.",,34,cryptus-maximus,1651811080.0 +What I find astounding about all of this, is all she had to do to avoid this chain of events was to humor me by agreeing that a 3rd party hold the passport. I would of signed off and she would of been booked for a trip this summer to go see granddad with my daughter. She has tried to guilt me by saying that her dad is sick and that she would never forgive me if he died without seeing our daughter and I simply told her, the power is in your hands. Her unwillingness to allow me any sense of control, *even to her own detriment*, is really amazing.",,34,cryptus-maximus,2022-05-06 04:24:40 askMRP,ugs8og,MAP resources," I am looking for links or other resources to help with my MAP. I have read MMSLP, but this doesn't go much beyond lifting and hygiene, both of which I am already doing . I need frame and a mission, and I also can't see much in NMMNG and WISNIFG. If I have missed it, let me know. -As the responses to my previous post demonstrate, I need to work on me, and this is where it starts.",,14,Scarlet_Thirteen,1651505452.0 -askMRP,uh7c2o,Playfull Seperated Wife,"How do I handle my wife being playfull, teasing, laughing at my silly jokes. We are seperated - she sleeps in a child's bedroom (2nd week) and he by me. Thus far I only played along but no kino.",,0,Radical_Drip,1651549267.0 +As the responses to my previous post demonstrate, I need to work on me, and this is where it starts.",,14,Scarlet_Thirteen,2022-05-02 15:30:52 +askMRP,uh7c2o,Playfull Seperated Wife,"How do I handle my wife being playfull, teasing, laughing at my silly jokes. We are seperated - she sleeps in a child's bedroom (2nd week) and he by me. Thus far I only played along but no kino.",,0,Radical_Drip,2022-05-03 03:41:07 askMRP,uf7k6b,newbie in dire straights,"Hello all, To cut to the chase: 45 years old, @@ -70637,7 +70637,7 @@ I am hoping not initiating will lessen my resentment, as I won't be actively rej 2) how long do I stop initiating? And how do I end the period of monk mode? With an ultimatum? With a request for an open relationship? Physically I am in pretty good shape already, and my career has built significantly since January. So I feel my sexual market value is already higher than hers. But I don't think that is the issue, we just have so much history. -Any thoughts greatly appreciated.",,9,Scarlet_Thirteen,1651310594.0 +Any thoughts greatly appreciated.",,9,Scarlet_Thirteen,2022-04-30 09:23:14 askMRP,u2gxwt,What other weapons in the arsenal?,"What else is there besides nuke? I don't want to be too trigger happy but am unsure how else to establish major boundaries. An example, tonight my wife was pissed at me after I mildly snapped at her and I even owned it right away. About an hour later my wife wanted to revisit and followed me around the house trying to get me to say and agree to all this shit, which I refused. I started helping the 3yr old in the bathroom and she blocks me in there holding the 1yr old. I can't get out. @@ -70656,7 +70656,7 @@ BP = 165 x10, Squat = 225 x 8, DL = 265 x 8, OHP 110 x 7 Married 5 years, together 12. Have 2 daughters 3yr and 1yr. -Have read: 2x NMMNG, 2x WISNIFG, MAP, 50% MMSLP, 16 commandments of Poon, Bigger, Leaner, Stronger, The Way of the Superior man, Book of Poon, how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk, Sex God Method",,6,reborndude,1649820269.0 +Have read: 2x NMMNG, 2x WISNIFG, MAP, 50% MMSLP, 16 commandments of Poon, Bigger, Leaner, Stronger, The Way of the Superior man, Book of Poon, how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk, Sex God Method",,6,reborndude,2022-04-13 03:24:29 askMRP,u0dy2u,Live near her family or mines?,"3 year LTR-thinking of engagement soonish I'm black and my gf of 3 years is white. Im from London and she's from Manchester(3-4hr drive). I met her in Manchester at work and we've been dating for 3 years. I'm 29, she's 26. We both live in Manchester currently @@ -70671,11 +70671,11 @@ I'm having second thoughts and I hate this feeling of what if? What do you guys suggest? I was planning on driving down to london to see family once per month but even I think that's ambitious. Moving somewhere in the middle eg birmingham is not an option -Mature responses only please",,8,bittr_n_swt,1649581964.0 -askMRP,u02c4w,My wife discovered a post on here,So I made a post and then a comment of mine that said I was using her and my son as an excuse to not go to the gym. We all know what I meant by that. My wife discovered post and comment bc I was driving and she grabbed my phone off of my lap i had forgotten to close the app. She’s taking it to heart as if I don’t want to spend time with them. She’s also mad bc she gave me the idea to give ups fB for lent and then I took up Reddit (yes I know I technically have had Reddit for 3 years but got rid of the app about 2.5 years ago and picked the app back up so there’s probably some subconscious geeze does this guy only care about social media (I think) all she said was it didn’t feel good reading that comment) I STFU and we moved on.,,5,XxHuffmaster4000,1649538442.0 -askMRP,tyl2dv,JJ for lifting,So After my wife and I buy a house I want to start JJ. Right now I’m about 15 pounds over weight coming in at 190 Im 5’7. I lift once week (sometimes more) was a solid 3-6 days a week before my son was born. By the time I start JJ I’ll probably have 3 days a week for hobbies. Would lifting one day a week and rolling 2 be ok or should I hold off on the JJ until I’m at my ideal weight. This spring I’ll be getting back into disc golfing but will give that up for JJ. Oh I do have an 8 month old son so not trying to be a dad who just is self absorbed in his own hobbies Thoughts?,,12,XxHuffmaster4000,1649360686.0 +Mature responses only please",,8,bittr_n_swt,2022-04-10 09:12:44 +askMRP,u02c4w,My wife discovered a post on here,So I made a post and then a comment of mine that said I was using her and my son as an excuse to not go to the gym. We all know what I meant by that. My wife discovered post and comment bc I was driving and she grabbed my phone off of my lap i had forgotten to close the app. She’s taking it to heart as if I don’t want to spend time with them. She’s also mad bc she gave me the idea to give ups fB for lent and then I took up Reddit (yes I know I technically have had Reddit for 3 years but got rid of the app about 2.5 years ago and picked the app back up so there’s probably some subconscious geeze does this guy only care about social media (I think) all she said was it didn’t feel good reading that comment) I STFU and we moved on.,,5,XxHuffmaster4000,2022-04-09 21:07:22 +askMRP,tyl2dv,JJ for lifting,So After my wife and I buy a house I want to start JJ. Right now I’m about 15 pounds over weight coming in at 190 Im 5’7. I lift once week (sometimes more) was a solid 3-6 days a week before my son was born. By the time I start JJ I’ll probably have 3 days a week for hobbies. Would lifting one day a week and rolling 2 be ok or should I hold off on the JJ until I’m at my ideal weight. This spring I’ll be getting back into disc golfing but will give that up for JJ. Oh I do have an 8 month old son so not trying to be a dad who just is self absorbed in his own hobbies Thoughts?,,12,XxHuffmaster4000,2022-04-07 19:44:46 askMRP,ty8w7h,Trust and the need to be informed of wife's movements,"Why do I need to know my wife's movements? Why does she refuse to just simply tell me where she will be going? At the same time I track the vehicle movements and blow up her phone when movement is outside the norm. I fear she is meeting / hooking up. -Relationship status - I dont trust her due to her cheating previously. She rejects what should be reasonable behaviour in a normal relationship. Knowing would give me some kind of reassurance that trust is being rebuilt, demonstrate comnitment and I am safe/not threatened. I realise I am too invested. Your thoughts on how I proceed?",,5,Radical_Drip,1649322232.0 +Relationship status - I dont trust her due to her cheating previously. She rejects what should be reasonable behaviour in a normal relationship. Knowing would give me some kind of reassurance that trust is being rebuilt, demonstrate comnitment and I am safe/not threatened. I realise I am too invested. Your thoughts on how I proceed?",,5,Radical_Drip,2022-04-07 09:03:52 askMRP,txz078,Blow job and then divorce,"29, 180cm, 190lbs, 18% body fat Bench 110kg / Squat 140kg / Deadlift 220kg @@ -70704,7 +70704,7 @@ This time, against my instincts, I didn't do any of that. Now, she says she's taking the kids to her parent's tomorrow for an indeterminate amount of time. Again, in the past, I would've demanded or begged her not to do that. But this time I simply said OK. -Why would she give me a blow job and then divorce me like that?",,21,404framenotfound,1649286854.0 +Why would she give me a blow job and then divorce me like that?",,21,404framenotfound,2022-04-06 23:14:14 askMRP,tvlv1e,Phenomenon? Attention acknowledged disappears?,"So, I’ve noticed that when I’m getting attention sexually from my LTR of 10 years (aka wife), if I acknowledge that I’m enjoying it and sort of “give in” to the pleasure (this could be basic sensual touches/flirting), the attention dries up and everything goes basic (i.e., focus is shifted from me getting attention to, “oh, now you pay me attention while I do nothing”.) Is this a thing? And if so, what’s the best way to handle the thing? @@ -70717,13 +70717,13 @@ If so, the game stops because it’s just that—a game to see if the affection I haven’t tried to stop my pleasure response, yet but am imagining that doing so might intensify the attention. -My other thought is that I’m somehow breaking my frame by not responding to the attention in a way that spurs on more desire.",,3,Visual_Pack_2206,1649024828.0 +My other thought is that I’m somehow breaking my frame by not responding to the attention in a way that spurs on more desire.",,3,Visual_Pack_2206,2022-04-03 22:27:08 askMRP,tukyl8,How to best make use of DoD?,"I declared yesterday on the thread, but a little bit confused on how it works. Ive read the original DoD post [https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/41tksq/group\_mrp\_challenge\_60\_days\_of\_dread/](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/41tksq/group_mrp_challenge_60_days_of_dread/) and some of the previous ones, but I don't see the same people contributing to each post and talking about their progress. Is the point to pick that week's focus and then talk about it in the OYS? -Also should the goals for the next 60 days be concrete actionable items, or should it be something more like life skills (mental toughness).",,8,SmileAndBOOM,1648911981.0 -askMRP,tu2yb0,what major challenges or experiences that made you internalize a strong frame ?,What are some experiences or challenges that you passed through that made you internalize a strong frame that you could feel it deep down ?,,5,[deleted],1648850857.0 +Also should the goals for the next 60 days be concrete actionable items, or should it be something more like life skills (mental toughness).",,8,SmileAndBOOM,2022-04-02 15:06:21 +askMRP,tu2yb0,what major challenges or experiences that made you internalize a strong frame ?,What are some experiences or challenges that you passed through that made you internalize a strong frame that you could feel it deep down ?,,5,[deleted],2022-04-01 22:07:37 askMRP,tqs4t9,How to get Cluster - B wife into therapy without using logic/reason?,"**I have a logical problem, and I have a wife. I can't explain the logical problem to my wife. Can you guys help me translate?** My wife probably has a cluster B personality disorder: Probably Borderline Personality Disorder (minus the self-harm) and Vulnerable Narcissism. She has no emotional control, can't tolerate distress, seeks drama and works to keep negativity going for as long as humanly possible. All of her close relationships are 100% one-sided with the other person giving and her taking. She's concerned with status-seeking behavior and is not interested in other people. I won't go on about this, but it's worse than AWALT. @@ -70790,23 +70790,23 @@ I understand that I'm not an intermediate level MRP practitioner yet. I just want her to sit down with someone who specializes in crazy bitches once a week, so that she can start getting a little more contact with reality. And I really don't know how to make that happen. -Maybe I'm doing some ""conscious uncoupling"" She's gonna be my enemy for the next 20 years and I'd like her to not be a nihilistic narcissist/BPD engaged in total war. I'd prefer that she's a slowly reforming narcissist/BPD who wants to find happiness. ....see! I'm still a faggot.",,3,SwordHolder69,1648529786.0 +Maybe I'm doing some ""conscious uncoupling"" She's gonna be my enemy for the next 20 years and I'd like her to not be a nihilistic narcissist/BPD engaged in total war. I'd prefer that she's a slowly reforming narcissist/BPD who wants to find happiness. ....see! I'm still a faggot.",,3,SwordHolder69,2022-03-29 04:56:26 askMRP,tq2e0z,Are all threats honored?,"I’m familiar with the “all threats are honored” maxim but how does this play out in the real world? How does someone using AM or AA honor a threat when they are essentially belittling it, albeit indirectly? - I have a [personal high stakes example](https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/tq157l/wife_getting_child_passport_should_i_put_on_the/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf). Taking a threat at face value or vice versa, especially ones done in the midst of a divorce can end up hurting you when it’s time to negotiate. When do you a call a bluff, a bluff?",,9,cryptus-maximus,1648446277.0 -askMRP,tqp7b1,Will Smith,Whats everyone’s thoughts on this Will Smith shit. pimp or simp,,0,SonnyRue,1648519527.0 + I have a [personal high stakes example](https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/tq157l/wife_getting_child_passport_should_i_put_on_the/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf). Taking a threat at face value or vice versa, especially ones done in the midst of a divorce can end up hurting you when it’s time to negotiate. When do you a call a bluff, a bluff?",,9,cryptus-maximus,2022-03-28 05:44:37 +askMRP,tqp7b1,Will Smith,Whats everyone’s thoughts on this Will Smith shit. pimp or simp,,0,SonnyRue,2022-03-29 02:05:27 askMRP,tpcyey,dealing with past shit bringing up,"I'm a newbie at dread level 1. Married for a year, trying to improve myself but the actions given here are way out of my comfort zone, hence struggling to maintain them. But I know that I'm making progress. Now to the question, most of the time I keep my mouth shut when my wife start bitching, and trying to recognize shit tests so I can respond accordingly. But when she brings shit from the past, for example, there was a problem with the wedding planner, and she still bring that up, I do not know how to respond to that. I keep my mouth shut but some of the things she's saying are unfair, its fucking hard to keep my mouth shut. I feel like stfu and DARE is not working on this. -Any guidance would be highly appreciated.",,5,Rulock_H,1648357330.0 +Any guidance would be highly appreciated.",,5,Rulock_H,2022-03-27 05:02:10 askMRP,tm4swp,Anyone read Practical Female Psychology?,"Saw Rian Stone talking about this book by Joseph South. Worth adding to my sidebar reading or is basically the same concepts we’ve got inside the sidebar? -Edit to add: yes, I see it it the sidebar now 💪🤣",,4,Visual_Pack_2206,1648124120.0 +Edit to add: yes, I see it it the sidebar now 💪🤣",,4,Visual_Pack_2206,2022-03-24 12:15:20 askMRP,ti4bae,Assuming good feelz post shit/comfort test,"I’m trying to figure out how to handle myself after my wife crossed boundaries I’ve set. For example, today she went off about me apparently not getting shorts from the washer into the dryer so the kids could go to sports practice. Honest mistake, but the reaction was over the top. @@ -70825,12 +70825,12 @@ Just wondering if this is good, or if I’m missing something. For example, maybe I should have accepted her call and “sort of” apology and just allowed her to get close to me again and given more feelz. -Just not sure though as I want to see her stop playing the games and just say “I’m sorry I acted the way I did”. Then I’d actually see her as “worthy” of my time.",,5,Visual_Pack_2206,1647722400.0 +Just not sure though as I want to see her stop playing the games and just say “I’m sorry I acted the way I did”. Then I’d actually see her as “worthy” of my time.",,5,Visual_Pack_2206,2022-03-19 20:40:00 askMRP,ti14vb,What to Say When Asking a Father to Marry His Daughter,"Just as the title says. I’m looking for advice and ideas. Plans are for this year. I’m trying to be succinct yet substantive in delivering my message. -Any suggestions through the (married) red pill lens?",,3,youngzari,1647713488.0 +Any suggestions through the (married) red pill lens?",,3,youngzari,2022-03-19 18:11:28 askMRP,tg5kjh,Any advice on going about sexually repressed chicks?,"22, 5'11"", 200lbs, 23% BF, 200 BP - 315 SQ - 405 DL. Have read NMMNG, WISNIFG, Mystery Method, Rian's Blog and channel, Rollo's Blog and channel, most of the significant posts from HOA, SSS, Blarg, red-sfpplus and others on the main sub. I know a chick's sexual repression is also expressed inversely proportional to my own personal value. Sexual repression and all goes out the window if she it is with an appropriately HVM. @@ -70844,7 +70844,7 @@ Any anecdotal (or otherwise) advice from you guys about how you went about solvi (I am posting here because this is the only sub I know which has more people who know what they are talking about than soft-r artists) -Edit: Some proof that I did do the work that I said I did https://imgur.com/a/G5xXROz",,5,[deleted],1647506387.0 +Edit: Some proof that I did do the work that I said I did https://imgur.com/a/G5xXROz",,5,[deleted],2022-03-17 08:39:47 askMRP,tgcra9,Marriage Counseling/Coaching,"I know marriage counseling can be dangerous. But, I signed us up for some online couples coaching/counseling with the wife. We have only had a few sessions, and our coach already recommended I read NMMNG. So, maybe it’s not that bad. The approach based on “Imago” therapy, basically a structured dialogue to concentrate the issues and avoid back and forth bickering. @@ -70863,7 +70863,7 @@ So, my questions are: 2. I get that there are issues with frame, nice guy, boundaries, etc. But, what is the balance between enforcing boundaries/frame and giving something to the relationship? -3. What are some practical ways to respond when you’re getting hit with the shit? STFU – ok, but how far do you take it? At some point you have to communicate.",,1,elvikingogringo,1647530837.0 +3. What are some practical ways to respond when you’re getting hit with the shit? STFU – ok, but how far do you take it? At some point you have to communicate.",,1,elvikingogringo,2022-03-17 15:27:17 askMRP,tcu8nq,We've been dating for three months and all I can get is a kiss,"Hi, I'm new here but I'm experienced. I've been off and on watching RP videos for like 6 years. I started off super weak and srsly way too skinny, but after watching 21 convention Videos along with a lot of ryan stone videos I gained 2 kilos. Also I've been reading a lot of MRP along with the relationship advice sub. My game is solid. @@ -70880,7 +70880,7 @@ Do you have advice? I consider myself a top 5% man and am sure that when I move out of my parents guest house I'll be a top 1% man for sure. It shouldn't even matter with her anyways since we are long distance. So what am I doing wrong? -Perplexed.",,0,judasapocalypse,1647129394.0 +Perplexed.",,0,judasapocalypse,2022-03-12 23:56:34 askMRP,tc4g1p,Can Codependent women work?,"edit: I mean for Family formation I think this is a good reference: @@ -70891,14 +70891,14 @@ My question is, is it easily achievable to have her be low maintenance? (points In other words, would she accept ""no"" for an answer instead of attempting to manipulate? -or is it just good for a temporary ride?",,0,NewBatJoker,1647045573.0 +or is it just good for a temporary ride?",,0,NewBatJoker,2022-03-12 00:39:33 askMRP,t95i8j,Mental point of view check. Am I on the right path? New to RP,"49y, 6'3"", 240Lbs, 5x5 squat 365lbs, part-time healthcare professional making 94k annual. I am a solid multidiscipline leader in the workplace. I have been married to a beautiful Colombian woman for 15 years and have three stepsons, 30y, 26y, and 21y. My life should be a storybook fairytale, but it's not. I started my 15-year relationship as a facade. I was used to seeking women only as entertainment when overseas with the Marines and relied on my physical presence and charisma to give me an abundance of physical activity. In short, I have no game or relationship experience. I picked my wife, a strong, dynamic, energetic, loving woman and a widow, during a hospital rotation during my university education. With reassurance from her and my now mother-in-law, the kids would not be my responsibility. Unfortunately, the situation declined soon, as I have no relationship skills, game, or discipline in our home life. -I am a drunken captain, both literal and figuratively. I have left no foundation for trust uncorrupted. Instead, I walked on eggshells and lied to avoid conflict, avoid responsibility, and supplicate to every request. I blamed her for my lack of character and relationship abilities. I have failed to realize women process through their ego and emotions, and I make things worse by defending, explaining, excusing, and rationalizing with her. I have been a dysfunctional female, even lashing out over text. I have moved out multiple times and have downgraded her to just another one of my plates frequently. My excessive alcohol use and lazy plate management have caused her physical conflict with other plates. The previous behavior is the state of the relationship I created until recently. I have recently found Rian Stone on U-tube and have been consuming his content at a rapid rate finishing coffee break, and 75% through the sidebar. That is how I have found myself here.",,6,LackLusterLizard,1646704222.0 +I am a drunken captain, both literal and figuratively. I have left no foundation for trust uncorrupted. Instead, I walked on eggshells and lied to avoid conflict, avoid responsibility, and supplicate to every request. I blamed her for my lack of character and relationship abilities. I have failed to realize women process through their ego and emotions, and I make things worse by defending, explaining, excusing, and rationalizing with her. I have been a dysfunctional female, even lashing out over text. I have moved out multiple times and have downgraded her to just another one of my plates frequently. My excessive alcohol use and lazy plate management have caused her physical conflict with other plates. The previous behavior is the state of the relationship I created until recently. I have recently found Rian Stone on U-tube and have been consuming his content at a rapid rate finishing coffee break, and 75% through the sidebar. That is how I have found myself here.",,6,LackLusterLizard,2022-03-08 01:50:22 askMRP,t671ui,"MAP assessment, 14 month review","Thanks for calling out my victim puke. In the back of my mind I knew I was going to catch flack but I had to get it out. I'm going to do my best to structure a post that isn't just a stream of bitching and that will hopefully prove productive. Lets go.. **WHERE I AM NOW** @@ -70945,7 +70945,7 @@ I have made alot of progress from the days of my autistic verbal intercourse; gr The issue I am having is that there comes a point where AAing and broken record gets the wife to meltdown like a teenager, usually with my toddler present. Before, I used to engage and sometimes capitulate on the spot because I couldn't take the sensory overload. Now I just calmly exit the scene with my daughter in tow, leaving an atmosphere that remains negatively charged for the remainder of the day. -I don't gym bag it, because I cannot leave my daughter by herself to be exposed to all the expletives my wife is throwing out. There is a serious issue, when a toddler is the one who tries to calm down a grown ass women. So whatever matter was brought up remains unresolved and I believe she me exiting as *retreating*. How do I safely exit on my own terms and isn't there a time and place where she should be reprimanded for outrageous behavior, nevermind to attain closure on the issue that sparked the incident?",,8,cryptus-maximus,1646356947.0 +I don't gym bag it, because I cannot leave my daughter by herself to be exposed to all the expletives my wife is throwing out. There is a serious issue, when a toddler is the one who tries to calm down a grown ass women. So whatever matter was brought up remains unresolved and I believe she me exiting as *retreating*. How do I safely exit on my own terms and isn't there a time and place where she should be reprimanded for outrageous behavior, nevermind to attain closure on the issue that sparked the incident?",,8,cryptus-maximus,2022-03-04 01:22:27 askMRP,t4a3dy,Are displays of anger ever useful?,"5ft11"", 190 lbs, probably about 20% bf. 5 rep max numbers: Bench 110kg, Squat 140kg, Deadlift 220kg. @@ -70954,7 +70954,7 @@ I know around here we value stoicism, being the oak, STFU etc. So usually, displ However, what if you are married to a woman that can't accept STFU, doesn't respond to your oak like behaviour positively? Is there ever a time for a strategically placed outburst or are they always counterproductive? -If they can be useful, how should they be used and what would be an ideal scenario to do so?",,15,myconautix,1646147524.0 +If they can be useful, how should they be used and what would be an ideal scenario to do so?",,15,myconautix,2022-03-01 15:12:04 askMRP,t3pmps,holding frame in an all-female house,"Anyone else struggle to STFU and stay out of the drama in a house full of females? My wife and 2 daughters are super difficult to deal with sometimes. For clarity, I'm the angry and type that will shout and call them out on their bullshit and show zero mercy. I know they're afraid of me when I raise my voice. I'm not proud of being an authoritarian but I'm definitely not getting walked on either. Maybe this is what it takes to survive around so much estrogen? @@ -70963,7 +70963,7 @@ As an example, I often find myself being the referee and breaking up fights betw When the wife is around, I usually delegate that referee nonsense to her. She's a woman. She seems to understand their emotional nonsense more than I do. Happy to let her do it. -Hit me with your best advice or resources on how to STFU and be more stoic. It's easier said than done in my experience. Completely open to hearing what I might be doing wrong.",,2,[deleted],1646081593.0 +Hit me with your best advice or resources on how to STFU and be more stoic. It's easier said than done in my experience. Completely open to hearing what I might be doing wrong.",,2,[deleted],2022-02-28 20:53:13 askMRP,t2jywk,How to breakup with partner of last 5+ years,"**Edit:** I did it about a little over a week ago. Thanks to all who posted here. General MRP advice was actually quite useful, spent a lot of time in the ensuing drama following the golden rule STFU. If I'd felt the need to defend the whole time I probably could have been talked in to continuing to try. STFU!! Me 27, her 25, together >5 years @@ -70974,7 +70974,7 @@ Fortunately we were planning to move interstate soon (she wants to and I don’t I don’t want to work on the relationship or salvage it. This should be a clean break. I’m here to ask how those who have gone before handled it and whether they have any advice/tips. Also I feel like I should tell her now-ish rather than waiting. We share a bed but have a spare room in case things are weird. -Does time/day of week matter? Any wording recommended? Any general advice?",,21,Work_ln_Progress,1645951704.0 +Does time/day of week matter? Any wording recommended? Any general advice?",,21,Work_ln_Progress,2022-02-27 08:48:24 askMRP,t23k8q,"MRP larp post? I larp often I am told, I can't seem to pull my head out of my ass to see it when it happens.","So this post came up https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/t1ys33/oys_and_dtsnear_46_years_married_and_resurrecting/ @@ -70982,7 +70982,7 @@ And was called out for larping and incongruence. These appear painfully obvious I would love your pov on what jumps out as larping here? I ask in hopes of recognizing it when I do it. -What I saw was a guy trying to take a victory lap and feeling good because he is happier with his life now. Also I saw he positioned himself strongly in the post but also showed he is okay with some the shit his wife gives him, very much in her head, and tolerating obligation sex.",,6,[deleted],1645899857.0 +What I saw was a guy trying to take a victory lap and feeling good because he is happier with his life now. Also I saw he positioned himself strongly in the post but also showed he is okay with some the shit his wife gives him, very much in her head, and tolerating obligation sex.",,6,[deleted],2022-02-26 18:24:17 askMRP,t0j9h6,"Out of town for a while, how can I make the best of this?","Due to my job, I need to go out of town for about a month and a half. I won't likely be home the whole time, so that means I'll be forced into the scenario of being in an LDR. I figure while I'm away, I should use the time to focus on myself and do what I can to entertain/better myself. @@ -70995,7 +70995,7 @@ I figure while I'm away, I should use the time to focus on myself and do what I \- Get out on my own -The point of this question is to see if there are any major holes in my game plan, or any big opportunities to being out of the house for a long period of time that aren't immediately obvious.",,1,Hot_Spinach9219,1645731101.0 +The point of this question is to see if there are any major holes in my game plan, or any big opportunities to being out of the house for a long period of time that aren't immediately obvious.",,1,Hot_Spinach9219,2022-02-24 19:31:41 askMRP,sq3jcc,Advice on leading discipline issue," Stats: been at this (9) months, lifts in last OYS. Read 90% of sidebar. Would appreciate feedback on a recent issue. My wife has been vocal lately about feeling less than me or that she is subordinate to me, complaining often about how she does not feel valued or good enough. I see it in the way she acts as she is not opening up and is actually closing off more as I progress lately. Truth is I have closed off somewhat emotionally to focus on myself but I’ve also been explicit to a fault several times the past few months about areas that I am concerned she is not bringing value to my life. For example, I’ve tasked her many times with cooking dinner (I often make bfast during the week for all and cook on weekends, because I enjoy doing it) and frequently she finds excuses not to cook dinner. A few times I’ve noted “I asked you previously to make dinner, I don’t ask much (she’s a SAHM with one kid at home) and you haven’t done it.” But for the last few weeks, I’ve stopped asking or stating anything about it as I see being explicit is not working in my situation. @@ -71008,7 +71008,7 @@ This AM she awoke and made a shitty comment and again insulted me. I said “it I didn’t want this shit going on for another few days and was also doubting myself in how I handled the situation the night before. So later this AM I pulled her aside and said “look, one of the things I admire about you is your ability to often take the high road. I’ve thought about last night and decided I could have handled the situation better and found a solution that worked for all of us. So, I regret that I didn’t do that.” She then explained how she feels undermined like I’m bossing her around, that she talks about this in therapy ever week, then and walked off. I left and went about my day and she is still huffing and puffing and bitching about everything. Oh well. -I would appreciate insight on how I could’ve handled this better? My thought was I needed to lead her out of her shitty mood and also that I could have truly led the decision on the Nintendo like a better captain. For example, I could have discussed with her in a way that led to us coming back to our son on the issue as a team and made her feel valued but at the time I didn’t want to placate her (my ego at work). I now feel this is such a small issue and I need to save boundaries for serious matters and not be so inflexible and such a hard ass with her on something I really don’t care about. I was more concerned in the moment with making sure I was “in charge” and I see now how f’n stupid that sounds.",,9,ryaninthesky123,1644597400.0 +I would appreciate insight on how I could’ve handled this better? My thought was I needed to lead her out of her shitty mood and also that I could have truly led the decision on the Nintendo like a better captain. For example, I could have discussed with her in a way that led to us coming back to our son on the issue as a team and made her feel valued but at the time I didn’t want to placate her (my ego at work). I now feel this is such a small issue and I need to save boundaries for serious matters and not be so inflexible and such a hard ass with her on something I really don’t care about. I was more concerned in the moment with making sure I was “in charge” and I see now how f’n stupid that sounds.",,9,ryaninthesky123,2022-02-11 16:36:40 askMRP,smsuwj,Gangster rappers/musicians/producers,"What is everybody’s take on the worth of gangster rappers or musicians who contribute bangers to society in contradiction to being a peaceful bringer of value to society and humanity. the value of men in the music industry is high, but one must also take into account for one’s own happiness, the value of what they bring to others. @@ -71017,10 +71017,10 @@ the expression of art in all its forms creates connection between humans which s i am also confused as to no moralizing, would someone care to explain -all in all, shall one go for good of self, or good of all.",,0,SonnyRue,1644247720.0 +all in all, shall one go for good of self, or good of all.",,0,SonnyRue,2022-02-07 15:28:40 askMRP,sj1dee,Got In Trouble for Affair with Coworker,"Stats: 56 yo; no lifts; make very good money -Today an affair with one of my coworkers was discovered and now I feel like everyone knows about it. There have been a lot of cases recently at work around sexual harassment and affairs. I was leading a lot of this sensitivity training but now have been found out. I decided to quit to try and save some damage. There are even some photos of me with the coworker around and I'm scared that she might now be fired too. She's also mad this came out and is embarrassed by it. How can I smooth things over so she doesn't leave me? I really don't have anyone else right now and it feels like the whole world is against me. Please help.",,0,ThisIsJeffZ,1643839497.0 +Today an affair with one of my coworkers was discovered and now I feel like everyone knows about it. There have been a lot of cases recently at work around sexual harassment and affairs. I was leading a lot of this sensitivity training but now have been found out. I decided to quit to try and save some damage. There are even some photos of me with the coworker around and I'm scared that she might now be fired too. She's also mad this came out and is embarrassed by it. How can I smooth things over so she doesn't leave me? I really don't have anyone else right now and it feels like the whole world is against me. Please help.",,0,ThisIsJeffZ,2022-02-02 22:04:57 askMRP,shviez,Responding to getting asked for favors with hints for sex,"I’m trying to navigate if this is a power play of some sort or just me being Rambo. In the morning my wife will ask for me to make her a latte. Often, she’ll hint that she will have sex with me if I help “get her going”, which is referring to the coffee. @@ -71033,7 +71033,7 @@ She’s trying to use it as a power play to keep me as her servant. For me, I like to make her coffee, and I also like sex, so I’m cool with it. -But, I’m curious as she LOVES to ask me to do lots of little things should could do herself and I remember reading in one of the resources (don’t remember which) that you shouldn’t be a slave to her every waking desire (e.g. if something is 2 feet away, don’t get it just because she asks),",,6,Visual_Pack_2206,1643723741.0 +But, I’m curious as she LOVES to ask me to do lots of little things should could do herself and I remember reading in one of the resources (don’t remember which) that you shouldn’t be a slave to her every waking desire (e.g. if something is 2 feet away, don’t get it just because she asks),",,6,Visual_Pack_2206,2022-02-01 13:55:41 askMRP,shbwh2,Pulling attention and commitment vs stonewalling like a bitch.,"35 years old, married 6 years, together 7 years, 2 children. Books read: WISNIFG, MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male book 1 @@ -71048,10 +71048,10 @@ After realizing the bitter truth of my validation-seeking behaviors, I find myse This method does result in her correcting her bullshit but I still think I have this dread thing all wrong. -Am I doing this dread thing all wrong? Did I just find a more elaborate way to stonewall like a bitch?",,8,K1ngOfClubs,1643662451.0 +Am I doing this dread thing all wrong? Did I just find a more elaborate way to stonewall like a bitch?",,8,K1ngOfClubs,2022-01-31 20:54:11 askMRP,sgv3d8,NMMNG companion book worth it?,"Noticed that there’s the “No More Mr. Nice Guy: The Heroes Journey” book by Michael Parisner that Glover does a forward for. -Anyone here read it and think it’s worth the 8+ hours audio book?",,7,Visual_Pack_2206,1643612914.0 +Anyone here read it and think it’s worth the 8+ hours audio book?",,7,Visual_Pack_2206,2022-01-31 07:08:34 askMRP,sgl8z3,"Advice? Brand new, but this seems to be working! BUT, I need someone to rate my first-go and tell me what I could have done better…","Listened to The Superior Man, then SGM and then tried practicing dominance on my wife of 10 years in the bedroom in the middle of the day (not normal sexy time for us). Basically grabbed her hair, told her she was mine, and when she resisted, I picked her up, threw her over my knee and spanked her. This seems crazy to me, but she acted like she liked it. I mean, we have sex like 2-3 times a week, but I’ve never seen her enjoy our interaction like that. Our sex has grown sort of boring besides the once every two months wild ride where she seems like a sex goddess. She’s complained of lacking desire and wanting me to be more dominant and less needy. I’ve hated that she hasn’t been desiring me and much of the sex we’ve had seems like she’s just tolerating it. BUT she’s very willing to do that because she loves me. I want more for her for the both of us, though. @@ -71088,7 +71088,7 @@ About 15 mins later I came back and she asked if I was going to pin her up again Again, I’m so new so any feedback is welcome! -**Another update: aimed for sex this evening (same day as the story above) and just could find the gusto to make it happen, which probably sounds crazy considering it went well earlier. Given, she’s been feeling off the last few days as she hasn’t PMDD symptoms (like PMS on steroids), but I don’t like excuses. I think it’s something I did or did not do. I could have just pressed the issue, but felt like if I did the lack of internal energy would have resulting in her getting angry and me probably backing down. I would have used to blame her, which feels horrible. Now I’m blaming myself and asking “why don’t I have the internal force to make this happen”. Part of me wonders if it’s that she doesn’t like feeling like she’s not in control, so it’s a bit of a shit-test 🤷‍♂️",,0,Visual_Pack_2206,1643582903.0 +**Another update: aimed for sex this evening (same day as the story above) and just could find the gusto to make it happen, which probably sounds crazy considering it went well earlier. Given, she’s been feeling off the last few days as she hasn’t PMDD symptoms (like PMS on steroids), but I don’t like excuses. I think it’s something I did or did not do. I could have just pressed the issue, but felt like if I did the lack of internal energy would have resulting in her getting angry and me probably backing down. I would have used to blame her, which feels horrible. Now I’m blaming myself and asking “why don’t I have the internal force to make this happen”. Part of me wonders if it’s that she doesn’t like feeling like she’s not in control, so it’s a bit of a shit-test 🤷‍♂️",,0,Visual_Pack_2206,2022-01-30 22:48:23 askMRP,sfora5,Ready to be Roasted VP,"43 YO, Married 10, together 15. Wife is 39. Where to start... Found MRP in 2016 as BP pussy and went hard for a couple years and made some modest gains. Had to dig deep this morning to find my old handle and my post history was enlightening. Nothing has changed because I completely back slid and am in WAY deeper shit now. @@ -71109,7 +71109,7 @@ Currently 6'1"" 175, 10% BF Cycling and lifting light (nursing a couple injuries), daily meditation, weaning back off alcohol, started a 30 day alcohol detox today and may keep off permanently for the heart. Experimenting with veg diet to appease cardiologist for the last 60 days and cholesterol is now in normal range. Statins have me feeling like shit and constantly sick from kids, not sleeping. -Let the beatings begin...",,16,pildorado,1643482197.0 +Let the beatings begin...",,16,pildorado,2022-01-29 18:49:57 askMRP,ses1y0,"Initiations and ""Playful"" LMR","34yo, 6'0, 179.1#, ~13.1% BF (navy), 2 kids 5/3/1: DL 210x9, OHP 110x3, SQ 215x6, BP 155x8 @@ -71127,7 +71127,7 @@ At this point, I'm just about over it. I love the fun banter and creating that t Has anybody seen a dynamic like this before? I know I'm missing something but I can't see it. Any thoughts are appreciated. -**EDIT: This Bill Burr bit is exactly what I'm talking about: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GZ3QHTpMZgQ",,9,redside_up,1643380128.0 +**EDIT: This Bill Burr bit is exactly what I'm talking about: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GZ3QHTpMZgQ",,9,redside_up,2022-01-28 14:28:48 askMRP,sadurq,“Am I a good wife?”,"Laying in bed yesterday morning and I get this question, second paragraph of words out of the mouth, after “Morning, love you, what’s the plan for today?” Stats: Married 3y - Together 5, No kids yet. @@ -71140,7 +71140,7 @@ In the past I have gotten the “Am I fat?/Do you think I’ve gained weight?” So initially when I got “Am I a good wife?” I STFU. Then I got “I was having a dream, and everyone was telling me what was wrong with me, and that was on the list, so am I a good wife. Again I STFU. We smashed shortly after then I get it again later, a little more prepared I respond “What kind of wife do you think you are?” (Let the hamster do the work) “You could just say yes or no?!”, the follow up “Well I know you know how to be a great wife”. A little arse grab and leave the room. -Even though things have significantly improved, they’re not where I want them yet. Looking to understand if these types of questions are typical and any feedback on how this maps to the typical journey, and if it was handled well. There’s been no blow ups/shit tests since. I really have had struggled with the subtle communication in the past. Thanks",,3,[deleted],1642890336.0 +Even though things have significantly improved, they’re not where I want them yet. Looking to understand if these types of questions are typical and any feedback on how this maps to the typical journey, and if it was handled well. There’s been no blow ups/shit tests since. I really have had struggled with the subtle communication in the past. Thanks",,3,[deleted],2022-01-22 22:25:36 askMRP,s5qftv,Can no longer cope with an aggressive 2nd officer,"I discovered RP recently and have been lifting for the past few weeks at home (beginners bench press, barbell curls, push ups etc). Read about half of NMMNG. M(35) to wife(30) with a kid(6) married for 7 years. I'm 5'6, 180lb. Make about $48k living check to check in an expensive city. USA. Sex is once or twice a month as most of the month is spent receiving the silent treatment or just bitchy attitude in general from the wife(e.g. wife would yell at me or curse me out in front of the kid for small stuff). She has gone from being religious in name to praying 5 times a day and has hard time reciting complicated verses so for a prayer that takes a person 5 minutes, she ends up spending 45 minutes on each x5 so whatever little time she's home after work, she spends praying. We used to go out to the movies once a month or watch our fav shows together and now she tells me its against her religious beliefs and doesn't want anything to do with that. so we don't have anything in common. Long Tanger but the last time we had a fight we didn't talk for over a month and she stays over at her parents house. I'm going crazy missing my kid in another state and then she calls me with a list conditions. ""If you don't start praying"", ""if you don't stop mentally torturing me"" then she's ready to file for divorce. I say what of the child. It's not their fault. She tells me kids can grow up without one parent missing. @@ -71167,12 +71167,12 @@ Wife also wants another child and have given me an ultimatum if we don't plan fo I now regret bringing the kid into such a house as I was stupid enough not to understand the kind of person I tied the knot with beforehand. She doesn't care about the affects on the kid when she's mad and would curse / go crazy full volume while the kid keeps saying they're scared and there tummy hurts. At that point I either leave the house or go to my room to defuse but I know its terrible for both myself and the kid. -I know RP is about improving and saving oneself but do I have any chance of saving this before I'm able to hit my lifting/financial goals (which'll take 6-12 months)",,9,foreverBluePill,1642380426.0 +I know RP is about improving and saving oneself but do I have any chance of saving this before I'm able to hit my lifting/financial goals (which'll take 6-12 months)",,9,foreverBluePill,2022-01-17 00:47:06 askMRP,s3xhp4,Sidebar resources on game,"I've read all the books and resources in the sidebar, except for WISNIFG, which I'm currently reading. There don't seem to be any titles specifically on game. There are pieces in MMSLP, of course, but beyond that, does everyone just recommend the classics, like Mystery, The Game, and Bang? -Thanks!",,4,sk8fuk,1642180553.0 +Thanks!",,4,sk8fuk,2022-01-14 17:15:53 askMRP,s32srf,Beginner question: LTR is moody when accompanying me on work trip,"Hi MRP, long-time lurker here. Not married, but this community is the best I know of for LTR advice. Hoping you can help out a beginner. LTR is great for the most part. Lots of green flags, sex is good, she helps out with my business, cooks a mean lasagna. But like all women these days she is prone to stress and anxiety. She'll get into a funk where she kind of sulks around and watches TikTok. @@ -71183,18 +71183,18 @@ A number of times, the two of us would be out getting lunch or dinner and she'd She's not throwing a big fit or saying anything disrespectful, so it feels like overkill to say anything overt like stop being a bitch. I'll usually start by joking around and seeing if she snaps out of it, but usually she doesn't. The standard advice is to withdraw attention and go do something else, but this is a bit tougher in a travel situation where she doesn't know the area or have any friends here, and often we are sharing a key to the hotel or AirBnB. Since she also chose to come along on my work trip, it feels weird to just send her back to the hotel while I go and enjoy the city on my own after just a mild transgression. On the other hand, it feels wrong to send the signal that it's normal to sulk through our meals together. -EDIT: thanks for the responses. Main point taken is learn to not care if she's being moody. As I said, this is easy at home because I can just go do something else. If she's being sullen in the middle of a meal out I should probably get in the habit of joking around with the wait staff or something else to occupy myself.",,12,Individual-Ranger708,1642089900.0 +EDIT: thanks for the responses. Main point taken is learn to not care if she's being moody. As I said, this is easy at home because I can just go do something else. If she's being sullen in the middle of a meal out I should probably get in the habit of joking around with the wait staff or something else to occupy myself.",,12,Individual-Ranger708,2022-01-13 16:05:00 askMRP,s015vo,LTR not atracttive to me anymore,"Hello askMRP, hope you are doing great Im looking for your objective advice on what to about my situation. I (28M) have been in a long term relationship for almost 8 years and for the past year I have felt that my 33F girlfriend is just not attractive to me anymore. I dont want to fuck and kissing feels forced, she has become lazy and gained at least 20kg 44lb since we met, we share no other hobby than watch netflix, and even when we do that she is on her phone all the time so we dont interact. I have tried to motivate her to change the things above for the last year but nothing, I really cared about her, we laugh a lot and joke around but there is something missing. I excercise regularly and take care of myself, I have even heard my female coworkers talk about me and how good I look. One of whom shared a couple of beers in her apartment (we live in the same building ) and we got really close in a romantic way, probably next time we can get even closer and kiss or have sex. Im not the unfatithful type but is really testing my willpower. -Thank you very much for reading",,8,ikhfd2021,1641761359.0 +Thank you very much for reading",,8,ikhfd2021,2022-01-09 20:49:19 askMRP,rtcv44,The phermonal beta and the pherominal alpha,"In Rational male , there is this passage where he speaks that men who consistently masturbate are essentially broadcasting their status as pheromonal beta . If you are chronically depleted of testosterone, and/or subjected to the calming effects of oxytocin your sexual viability is at a disadvantage. In fact, from an evolutionary standpoint, the Beta males of our feral hunter-gatherer beginnings would be more prone to masturbation as a sexual release since, theoretically, they would’ve had less access to breeding opportunities than Alpha males. It would then follow that definitive, subconscious behavioral and chemical cues would evolve to aid females in selecting the best mate for parental investment. Moreover, In another rewording , Masturbation is a buffer . You are not a man enough to fuck the real women . There is quite the study outthere that people with high testesterone are more likely to have more potential chances with females because they broadcast sexual frame through formones . -In the 4 Hour body , The author experiences that when he starts working to improve his testesterone by actual variables from food , exercises , and some suplements and showering with cold . The side effects is good sex but more is more attention from the females like this is a spell . Have you noticed that in your life ? Can you tell me stories where a beta you know who masturbates is a failing while an alpha who contains his sexual impluse and release it only in sex is ? ---",,0,[deleted],1641016547.0 -askMRP,rqyhqx,Own your shit for TRP?,"Does normal TRP have an own your shit weekly thread? I like the theme of OYS, and want to post on the MRP thread, but I'm not married.",,11,Firebrand-Xana,1640750165.0 +In the 4 Hour body , The author experiences that when he starts working to improve his testesterone by actual variables from food , exercises , and some suplements and showering with cold . The side effects is good sex but more is more attention from the females like this is a spell . Have you noticed that in your life ? Can you tell me stories where a beta you know who masturbates is a failing while an alpha who contains his sexual impluse and release it only in sex is ? ---",,0,[deleted],2022-01-01 05:55:47 +askMRP,rqyhqx,Own your shit for TRP?,"Does normal TRP have an own your shit weekly thread? I like the theme of OYS, and want to post on the MRP thread, but I'm not married.",,11,Firebrand-Xana,2021-12-29 03:56:05 askMRP,rp6zck,Probably a basic question," A month ago my wife told me that I was emotionally absent and she didn’t feel loved by me and that I had pulled away. She wasn’t wrong, for the better part of the last 15 months we put the kids to bed then I disappear into the basement, turn on the television, and drink until I’m tired. She had come to this realization about two months before she told me, at that time she more or less completely shut down, I noticed but didn’t really do anything except pester her about what was wrong. @@ -71203,7 +71203,7 @@ After she told me we had multiple “talks”, I’ve since read NMMNG and every Today she told me that she notices that I’ve made changes but she’s hurting and can’t keep crying herself to sleep every night, that she needs space to heal and that she can’t do it with me constantly there as a reminder of the man who stopped loving her. She wants to separate for some period of time, 3 months or something. This would look like us getting a furnished apartment and sharing that while also splitting time in our existing house with our young children. -Having barely dipped my toe in this I’m not sure where to go from here. This post is pretty much just a hail marry for advice from people who have already made this journey.",,13,Beginingtoimplement,1640556257.0 +Having barely dipped my toe in this I’m not sure where to go from here. This post is pretty much just a hail marry for advice from people who have already made this journey.",,13,Beginingtoimplement,2021-12-26 22:04:17 askMRP,rl5ky1,Am I fucking up?," Age 35, Height: 5’9, Weight: 170, BF \~17% (Comparing images on internet). @@ -71223,7 +71223,7 @@ Tonight, she wanted an apology for me making a dinner for myself while she watch The thing is, she started crying, shaking, and just getting super emotional. Something she hasn't really done in years. I held firm still. She pulled me in the other room so we wouldn't do this in front of our kids and is saying she doesn't want to be with someone who doesn't apologize for upsetting their partner's feeling. I said I do care about her but don't feel I should apologize since I did nothing wrong. She is shaking a lot and after a while I just say I am sorry for upsetting her and go back to making dinner. She stays in bathroom. Like 10 min later I'm ready to eat and need her help watching the kids. She is lying on ground. I asked what she is doing and she said something about being miserable and me not loving her. I told her I love her a lot, kiss her on the head, and walk away. I pretty much STFU rest of night and we both mostly return to normal although you can see in her eyes she is clearly sad. Night ends with me putting our youngest to bed as she says goodnight and goes to bed, no kiss or anything. -My question is if this seems like I am handling this well? Am I going to hard too early? Should I be handling this differently? This exact scenario happened more or less 2 nights ago.",,9,reborndude,1640059129.0 +My question is if this seems like I am handling this well? Am I going to hard too early? Should I be handling this differently? This exact scenario happened more or less 2 nights ago.",,9,reborndude,2021-12-21 03:58:49 askMRP,rkf8ih,"Lurking for a while, thought I'd post something.","Well, this is my first field report so expect fuckery. But I do have a question at the end of it. 6'2"" 130 pounds BF <5% 25 x 10 bench slow reps @@ -71256,7 +71256,7 @@ When does the pain stop? I've quit porn, started working out, eating healthy, and can stand up for myself. But I'm sore from my neck down, and horny as fuck. That, and the people around me hate that I'm not a pushover. I'm being hit from every angle, but girls seem to like me. -So, on top of that, do people stop being retarded, does your body adapt, and why the fuck am I so goddamn horny?",,0,Firebrand-Xana,1639976679.0 +So, on top of that, do people stop being retarded, does your body adapt, and why the fuck am I so goddamn horny?",,0,Firebrand-Xana,2021-12-20 05:04:39 askMRP,rito2q,Falling Off the Wagon,"Married 14 years. I am almost 43. Wife turned 40 this year. 2 Kids, 8yo and 1.5 yo. I am white, she is Mexican. I work, she stays home with kids. Around 3 years ago I got frustrated with my marriage (mid life crisis I suppose). Basic lack of respect, giving up too many things in life (friends, hobbies, etc). Life seemed to just revolve around my wife's plans, taking the kid out...which was fine, but I never really got to do any thing for myself. She tried to get me to attend a church I did not agree with, which was very aggravating. @@ -71273,8 +71273,8 @@ So, somehow later my wife gets suspicious, logs into my email and finds the emai Fast forward a few months and the wife gets pregnant. Somehow sex through all of has been good. Baby girl comes along and I basically fall off the RP wagon. I went pretty beta, balancing her needs with mine. I still managed to get some guitar jamming in and really make gains in my business, but I never really seemed to make her happy. After making it through the newborn phase, it becomes clear that the 2 bedroom house is not going to be enough. So, this summer I managed to buy a much nicer house with some land, not cheap. -Not long after we move in, the shit starts flying again. She still claims I cheated and cannot get over it. She says I do not take her out and “treat her like a woman,” but I have all these other women I flirt with. She basically is super jealous and accuses me of cheated with everyone. We seem to be fighting more than ever. She has threatened divorce many times. I don’t know what to do. I guess it’s a classic problem, but I can’t seem to figure it out. If I go super alpha, DNGAF, etc, I might as well just move out and call the divorce lawyer. If I appease, I might lose myself.",,14,elvikingogringo,1639783490.0 -askMRP,riwd74,Covert contracts,Can anyone share a link where I can learn more about these please?,,5,Weak_Argument,1639791844.0 +Not long after we move in, the shit starts flying again. She still claims I cheated and cannot get over it. She says I do not take her out and “treat her like a woman,” but I have all these other women I flirt with. She basically is super jealous and accuses me of cheated with everyone. We seem to be fighting more than ever. She has threatened divorce many times. I don’t know what to do. I guess it’s a classic problem, but I can’t seem to figure it out. If I go super alpha, DNGAF, etc, I might as well just move out and call the divorce lawyer. If I appease, I might lose myself.",,14,elvikingogringo,2021-12-17 23:24:50 +askMRP,riwd74,Covert contracts,Can anyone share a link where I can learn more about these please?,,5,Weak_Argument,2021-12-18 01:44:04 askMRP,righk4,I can't stop laughing in my wifes face when she's mad AND she keeps increasing the stakes in arguments until I cave in,"Read: NMMNG, ordered WISNIFG. A lot of the posts from the sidebar. Lifting: Barely. Rehab weights due to wrist and knee surgery. Relationship: Together 11 years. I'm 28 she's 27. No kids but she's possibly pregnant now after 5 years of infertility treatments. @@ -71284,11 +71284,11 @@ Two problems. 1. I laugh involuntarily lots of times when my wife is mad. It's mostly really bitching over small problems and I think she's over reacting or it's just a shit test. I do know that it's not about the nail but it doesn't help to laugh in her face as it just gets her fucken fuming. Have anyone else had the same problem? I'd much prefer to be stoic in these instances and control when I'm going for AA or AM instead. 2. The wife is increasing the stakes in arguments until I cave in. It's gotten to the point where she once brought up divorce and just quitting our infertility treatments. We both want children but I want it more than she does. I said she crossed a line to what's acceptable to me in a discussion between us and went to sleep on the couch. She became super soft and begged me to get back to bed so I did (BEEEETAAAAAAA). She's quite manipulative when she wants. -How do I handle these increased stakes? I don't know if she's got any limits for how far she'll go to ""win"" these situations.",,0,SirOYSalot,1639744426.0 +How do I handle these increased stakes? I don't know if she's got any limits for how far she'll go to ""win"" these situations.",,0,SirOYSalot,2021-12-17 12:33:46 askMRP,rgy6az,Any red pilled books/podcasts/youtube channels for expecting dads?,"Read: NMMNG, a majority of the sidebar and some lurking. Lifting: Yes, but really bad numbers. Working on it after recovering from some injuries and surgeries. -I may be way off but does anyone have any tips for youtube/podcast/books for expecting dads? I really want to lead us through this but I've found that a lot of the content for fathers is blue pilled.",,13,SirOYSalot,1639571866.0 +I may be way off but does anyone have any tips for youtube/podcast/books for expecting dads? I really want to lead us through this but I've found that a lot of the content for fathers is blue pilled.",,13,SirOYSalot,2021-12-15 12:37:46 askMRP,rfkjk5,Slipped back into old behavior.,"[OYS history](https://www.reddit.com/user/ackley1900/comments/oe8etb/my_oys_links/) I am on a two-week MRP ban because people with eyes better than mine saw a lot of ""she"" in my last OYS. I read and re-read before posting, and I thought I was recounting events with me as the actor. These two weeks have shown me they were right, and I see it now. @@ -71313,14 +71313,14 @@ I know this is my fault. I let myself suck back into all of this. I know what I EDIT. -I came for advice on my wife. I got advice on myself. [This](https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/rfkjk5/comment/hofdzkm/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) is what I learned. I need to act.",,14,ackley1900,1639415297.0 +I came for advice on my wife. I got advice on myself. [This](https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/rfkjk5/comment/hofdzkm/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) is what I learned. I need to act.",,14,ackley1900,2021-12-13 17:08:17 askMRP,r9z1m5,What are some good book recommendations about arguments?,"30 M 5'5"" 142 lbs 120 OHP 160 BP 180 SQ 330 DL Relevant readings: When I Say No, I Feel Guilty. The way of superior man, no more mr. nice guy. How to Win Friends and Influence People. Issue: STFU was my best asset, but sometimes I want to send a message during arguments - in relationships I have been able to stand my grounds since the people around me already respect me enough to know their lanes. I do have a problem though with general arguments to make my case in a comprehensible way with people I uncommonly meet. It's not like small unimportant talks with a friend of a friend about politics, but rather discussing financial issues with my father, recommending psychotherapy to my brother (despite denial), my sister's need to improve her driving skills before killing someone, and my in-laws when I don't want them to keep their disruptive behaviors away from my kids or personal matters. I need to be frank at such times and that may hurt people, become defensive, and they lose focus on the message and start attacking the messenger. I try to sandwich a negative comment with positive ones, but any talk almost always heats up once that negative comment leave my moth, if not getting interrupted first to hear their side of the story glorifying themselves and brushing their image in my eyes. I wish I could do this in a better way, but I don't know what I don't know. -Q: Since I used google and I find books recommendations for ""Books To Help You Win Arguments"", I realized they target weakling people who wants to win battels, not wars. I'd appreciate any recommendation from redpill perspective",,12,redpillm,1638766627.0 +Q: Since I used google and I find books recommendations for ""Books To Help You Win Arguments"", I realized they target weakling people who wants to win battels, not wars. I'd appreciate any recommendation from redpill perspective",,12,redpillm,2021-12-06 04:57:07 askMRP,r86duo,How intense is my retard? Looking for a reality check.,"Time to let my retard shine. With sex, I have been getting better at going caveman, getting out of my own head, I have been pushing boundaries and stopped chasing her orgasm. I feel more aggressive during sex, and sex is more often now, about 4-6x week. @@ -71342,7 +71342,7 @@ So my questions. How retarded am I? What am I looking at here, I haven't been accused of angry sex before, and I don't think I'm angry. I am enjoying the caveman and letting go during sex, I find it much more fun. -Am I being Rambo?",,4,faltered_complacency,1638557993.0 +Am I being Rambo?",,4,faltered_complacency,2021-12-03 18:59:53 askMRP,r885zq,Creepy coworker at LTRs workplace. Unsure how to proceed,"My LTR (late 20s) works at a gas station. She likes the job, as it is largely a social space for her and her female coworkers. Recently, a new guy has started working there. He has ""accidentally"" groped a number of coworkers, makes overt sexual comments, and causes discomfort among the (largely young, female, attractive) staff. @@ -71356,7 +71356,7 @@ Naturally, I am not looking to mate-guard or white-knight. However, I also do no I lift and can fight, so could beat him if necessary. Pre-RP I might have just told my partner to be careful, report any impropriety to her manager etc. Or I may have gotten jealous and tried to intervene. Neither of these seem consistent with RP philosophy though. -Any advice on how to protect LTR from legitimate danger without mate guarding and beta behaviour?",,3,Anon101918,1638562873.0 +Any advice on how to protect LTR from legitimate danger without mate guarding and beta behaviour?",,3,Anon101918,2021-12-03 20:21:13 askMRP,r6bxn5,Found proof of old cheating and some questionable activity,"Something wasn't sitting right with me for a long time now. I checked her phone tonight while she slept, found a convo with her sister. In it was discussion about how a guy from a Vegas trip 6 years ago (that I was on with her!) messaged her recently and she feels so much guilt and shame over what she did with him. She went out with girlfriends til 5am, trickle truthed me that she went to a guys house solo but never did anything. Full disclosure, she had ditched me that night and I was butthurt so I went out with some girls, some making out, no sex. We both assumed some shit had gone down but neither would admit it, therefore I put it out of my mind. Now I cannot ignore, and she cheated on me when we first started dating, made out with a guy. Part 2. The dick pic guy, some of you might recall from my oys. Turns out she met him before we separated in January 2021, then we separated and they got a raunchy text convo going, him talking about fucking her ass butt plugs, etc. She sent him pics of her in lingerie, nude, buttplugs. This is the guy she was taking pics for while we were separated, and lied and told me she was taking pics just for her. I cannot prove she sent him shit after we got back together, she deleted that part of his and hers convo. From the convo w her sis, they had plans to meet up but never did, she got scared, felt he was a fuckboi, but she was infatuated by him. She still talks to him every couple days. This is the guy who's airbnb we went to with friends a couple OYS ago, when she was texting another guy and I knew something was up. I called her out then, saying any texting to other guys is a deal breaker for me. She agreed, still texts him (non sexually afaik). She obviously deletes some shit off her phone, but I'm not naive enough to think there isn't a 99% chance she fucked this guy too. @@ -71365,13 +71365,13 @@ Our relationship is fucking awful, she isn't attracted to me, she for sure fucke I have cheated in the past also. I've fucked girls when we split up years ago. I can already feel myself wanting to make excuses for her behavior and back out of divorce. I was a loser. I still am, but I told myself if I ever find any evidence of past cheating or less than full effort on this current reconciliation, I'm out. Texting other guys is a deal breaker. -Am I being a faggot for being upset about something I already deep down knew (Vegas) and using this as an excuse to quit the marriage because I'm struggling with my progress? I think I should cut my losses.",,6,DiamondUnlucky9120,1638355077.0 +Am I being a faggot for being upset about something I already deep down knew (Vegas) and using this as an excuse to quit the marriage because I'm struggling with my progress? I think I should cut my losses.",,6,DiamondUnlucky9120,2021-12-01 10:37:57 askMRP,qvzxc5,How should I have handled fight," After a few good weeks of daily sex, a week last Friday night we had sex and she didn’t come. She got very upset which turned into ranting. I mainly listened (STFU) while occasionally reassuring that I do care about her/love her. After an hour or so, I said a few times that I wanted to stop and go to sleep, as it wasn’t going anywhere. When it was still going after 2 hours, after I had said we could continue the next day, I said I was going to put some ear plugs in, and did so. She tried to pull them put of my ears. I’d had enough, and didn’t want to “lose” by me leaving the bedroom, so I tried to pick her up to carry her out of the room, intending to lock the door and go to sleep. She resisted and it turned into a scuffle for a couple of minutes before I stopped. She says she was hurt and has taken it as me having physically attacked her. I have 2 questions: 1. Could I have handled things better? If so, how? -2. She is demanding that I promise I will never physcally touch her (outside of affection etc) again. I have no intention of touching her, and only did so this time becasue of her physically trying to remove my earplugs. However, who is to say she will not do something similar in future, so I do not feel I can promise this. I did commit that I would not be physical, if she is not, but she says that she is scared and needs an absolute promise. Any thoughts?",,7,Alf248365,1637157712.0 +2. She is demanding that I promise I will never physcally touch her (outside of affection etc) again. I have no intention of touching her, and only did so this time becasue of her physically trying to remove my earplugs. However, who is to say she will not do something similar in future, so I do not feel I can promise this. I did commit that I would not be physical, if she is not, but she says that she is scared and needs an absolute promise. Any thoughts?",,7,Alf248365,2021-11-17 14:01:52 askMRP,qslgow,Wife requesting I be more dominant,"When I first got together with my wife he told me she was generally submissive and wanted me to take the lead in our relationship. We dabbled in some bdsm stuff for fun in the bedroom and she seemed to appreciate my confidence and the role I took around others, but once we started living together, things went pretty vanilla and it felt like she pushed away and respected me less overall. After some medical stuff, we went through a year and a half long dry spell. When we started back up having sex again I would typically initiate with massages and the like but after a few times, she approached me and said she really wanted to start up with the power play stuff again as it's the one thing that reliably gets her in the mood. She also mentioned she wants more of that sort of thing in our every day lives as well that isn't just about sex but I honestly don't know what to do with that and it seems to bum her out. She doesn't want to just tell me things as ideas either because she says doing so ruins the effect. @@ -71386,7 +71386,7 @@ I know she wants me to lead, and after googling 'shit-test' because she apologiz I love this woman but it goes against everything I feel like I know about relationships to treat her the way it seems like she wants. I always considered myself very confident but I feel like I am playing with fire here. -Any advice? Any ideas on adding a power dynamic into the everyday that won't make me feel like an abuser? Should I see any of her behavior here as a red flag?",,24,GoDaiKudasai,1636752875.0 +Any advice? Any ideas on adding a power dynamic into the everyday that won't make me feel like an abuser? Should I see any of her behavior here as a red flag?",,24,GoDaiKudasai,2021-11-12 21:34:35 askMRP,qkb7vv,How to get past the cognitive dissonance that is killing me?,"Firstly what a great resource this is for men. I hope to be able to not just ask for help but also provide value to other men at some point. I discovered TRP around 2018. Married with 3 kids, late 30s. Was extremely blue pilled before. @@ -71403,7 +71403,7 @@ By acting on your sexual desires (by plate spinning) you run the risk of being l Would appreciate suggestions/advice. I've flared this as a victim puke because I know that I am acting like a victim here and that I need to accept that this is just the way the world works. But shedding 30-odd years of BP conditioning is proving very difficult. -Thanks.",,8,goatmeistergeneral,1635763280.0 +Thanks.",,8,goatmeistergeneral,2021-11-01 10:41:20 askMRP,qh5qk1,Sex Requires an Emotional Connection,"**The issue:** I’ve been at this since May of this year. Initially, I experienced measurable gains in my relationship using most of the basic techniques found within NMMNG, WISNIFG, and MMSLP. Desire, immersion, and frequency of sex and sexual moods was high for the first month or two. Since then, her desire has gone off a cliff and things are now actually worse than when I started in this area. In response to my initiations, she now states she has to “pay me in sex for things she wants;” that I am ""addicted to sex, or that she cannot be physical with me without an “emotional connection”; or that I am emotionally cold and unavailable unless I have been laid. **Today’s case study \[FR}:** after 3 days of no sex, and me ignoring her or pouting while telling myself I'm not, she tells me she will take care of me. Once the kids are off to school she suggests we go somewhere “to fuck.” We go there. Once we arrive her mood takes a turn, I ask her what's going on and she says she feels like we are not connecting so she cant get in the mood. I tell her ""hey, I don't want to do anything we are not both into, we can do something else like watch a movie, take a nice walk enjoy the day together."" She insists we stay and give it some time so she can ""get in the mood."" We stay, and she continues telling me that my mood is one that I cant think or function without getting laid. I try to stay as OI as I can. She finally makes a move and initiates on her own but throughout I can tell she's not fully engaged. Afterwards, she tells me she feels used. @@ -71433,7 +71433,7 @@ First, revise my MAP with discrete detail and begin focusing on it each day at 5 Along with this, I am planning on figuring out if I actually like her, when sex is not on the table. That is, do I enjoy being around her and having fun with her at a basic level? If so, what works and what does not? With the cloud of sexuality removed my goal is that I will see the marriage for its core without mucking the waters. -**My question:** what are my blind spots and what I am clearly missing?",,12,ryaninthesky123,1635366332.0 +**My question:** what are my blind spots and what I am clearly missing?",,12,ryaninthesky123,2021-10-27 20:25:32 askMRP,qfwpzs,Hysteric bonding,"Per BobbyPeru's advice I'm posting on the retard sub. Quick backstory for those unfamiliar. I've been a retard Rambo for quite awhile. This has resulted in strain on my marriage, and my common law wife started sleeping downstairs 2 weeks ago. I was chatting to other girls for validation, trying to active dread her (retard). It blew up. @@ -71460,8 +71460,8 @@ I currently feel conflicted. On one hand, I do want to keep my marriage. When I The other hand, I haven't shown I have the frame to maintain this reset. I have to focus on myself. I have to do my therapy. I know her behavior is just temporary cognitive dissonance. -Looking for advice on whether I can turn this into a positive, or if I'm fucked and should cut my losses. I'm not asking what you think I should do. I am asking for wisdom and perspectives that I can use to make my own decision.",,15,DiamondUnlucky9120,1635215883.0 -askMRP,qc7cvw,How to Dread Game from a Strong Start?,"I have used dread game to some extent in my marriage (20 years) with some success. I know it's a good tool, but how do you up your game from a strong starting point? I have always been physically active and in good shape and I have my shit together and generally always have. Maybe I'm just lacking imagination, but can I use this tool more?",,4,ChemicalAd1014,1634754144.0 +Looking for advice on whether I can turn this into a positive, or if I'm fucked and should cut my losses. I'm not asking what you think I should do. I am asking for wisdom and perspectives that I can use to make my own decision.",,15,DiamondUnlucky9120,2021-10-26 02:38:03 +askMRP,qc7cvw,How to Dread Game from a Strong Start?,"I have used dread game to some extent in my marriage (20 years) with some success. I know it's a good tool, but how do you up your game from a strong starting point? I have always been physically active and in good shape and I have my shit together and generally always have. Maybe I'm just lacking imagination, but can I use this tool more?",,4,ChemicalAd1014,2021-10-20 18:22:24 askMRP,qae4ns,How to stop micromanaging?,"Not only in my marriage but I find myself doing this a lot at work. But for the sake of example I will use my marriage. @@ -71478,7 +71478,7 @@ I know you’re going to say I’m in her frame but I notice I micromanage a lot I’m very observant and Even at work. I will see people do things wrong and feel the need to correct them. -I am working at being a better leader and I know micromanaging doesn’t make a good one. Anyone have advice on thing?",,12,blackjackjackblack10,1634526773.0 +I am working at being a better leader and I know micromanaging doesn’t make a good one. Anyone have advice on thing?",,12,blackjackjackblack10,2021-10-18 03:12:53 askMRP,q6ofwh,One step away from a cuck,"Been a needy little bitch and basically made her my mission. She knows it , I know it. I was into the Disney fantasy until I found myself in this storm. Searching online for answers led me here. @@ -71499,7 +71499,7 @@ Feels like I have two options right now. So I'm just going to pretend she's dead until my head's a bit clearer. -Also looking for signpost from someone whose already walked this path, basically in the right direction towards reading material , information to digest, regarding getting started on becoming a better man.",,10,flimzillatro,1634051759.0 +Also looking for signpost from someone whose already walked this path, basically in the right direction towards reading material , information to digest, regarding getting started on becoming a better man.",,10,flimzillatro,2021-10-12 15:15:59 askMRP,q40hxc,Is the reason I don't have the sex I'd like because I treat my wife and sex with her as the prize?,"I just had the above occur to me and I have been blaming her for years. Am I the reason for her: @@ -71512,8 +71512,8 @@ Men get 'lucky' if we have sex, it's a privilege to have sex with a woman, you ' I havn't gotten the answer to my question yet, but let's say the answer is yes and if I want the opposite of the above I need to be the prize? -And if the above is true how do you deal with no longer accepting the 'list' from above ... I can already hear it - lift, sidebar and STFU ...",,18,Perfectinmyeyes,1633708239.0 -askMRP,q4cxwn,What does it mean if girlfriend wants to meet your parents," As title says GF want to meet your parents, live together and you met hers and she is very pushy about this?",,0,White_Mlungu_Capital,1633748733.0 +And if the above is true how do you deal with no longer accepting the 'list' from above ... I can already hear it - lift, sidebar and STFU ...",,18,Perfectinmyeyes,2021-10-08 15:50:39 +askMRP,q4cxwn,What does it mean if girlfriend wants to meet your parents," As title says GF want to meet your parents, live together and you met hers and she is very pushy about this?",,0,White_Mlungu_Capital,2021-10-09 03:05:33 askMRP,pynypn,Coping with fear and attachment," I've only recently been introduced to TRP after searching for answers as to my behavior and the way that I am managing my relationship. Even before discovering TRP, I understood that I have been shooting myself in the foot, though I still don't understand what to do about it. All I know is that it’s my problem, something I'm struggling greatly with, and a problem I need to overcome for the sake of my relationship. @@ -71531,7 +71531,7 @@ I have a huge fear that she will leave me or cheat on me. I know a lot of men mi Anyway, I’m in therapy, reading the sidebar, trying to not be a pussy, but I need to make sense of these fears, find ways to manage them, and ultimately find some peace. I doubt that I'm the first person to struggle with this. -I'll also close with this: There aren't any massive read flags or anything, but I witnessed the branch swing once. She was married previously, guy was a complete fuck up, we became friends shortly before she left, though she tried to hang in there for years.",,7,TuffGoose,1633021086.0 +I'll also close with this: There aren't any massive read flags or anything, but I witnessed the branch swing once. She was married previously, guy was a complete fuck up, we became friends shortly before she left, though she tried to hang in there for years.",,7,TuffGoose,2021-09-30 16:58:06 askMRP,pxp6jt,"Inviting another man, shit test?","Update: she just texted me to say that she's been having her feelings for me return and that she's horny. I was refered here. @@ -71550,7 +71550,7 @@ However I would still fail B's shit tests about everyother time. Last week we ha Now this happened. -https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/px4rxm/i_35m_dated_my_bestie_from_work_31f_now_shes/",,7,Careless_Variety129,1632895272.0 +https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/px4rxm/i_35m_dated_my_bestie_from_work_31f_now_shes/",,7,Careless_Variety129,2021-09-29 06:01:12 askMRP,pvuiol,"Some of my thoughts on Frame. Do tell what parts of it you think are good and what parts of it are bad, or if all of it is.","I am posting this in askMRP so as to not add untested/potential garbage in the main sub. I have some thoughts about frame and I would appreciate some critique from all of you: Rian Stone put it in a Rule Zero episode as ""Frame is how you frame things."" You don't have, gain or lose it. Framing things is what you always do to everything. How you conceptualize/frame/model aspects of life and fit your own motivations and boundaries in those models. @@ -71699,7 +71699,7 @@ Here are my thoughts. Please provide any feedback. Thank you. Regards, -BBB",,9,[deleted],1632665223.0 +BBB",,9,[deleted],2021-09-26 14:07:03 askMRP,popy9c,Outcome/Update from Dread & Removing Attention/Affection,"35yo, 6’3”, 210 lbs, 20.7% BF, OHP 3x120lbs, DL 3x350lbs, BP 3x180lbs, SQ 3x300lbs. Found MRP in January 2020. Here goes a bit of a field report, and I’m looking for some input on some things. I’m posting to the retard playpen for a reason, still working on things, have at it. @@ -71768,7 +71768,7 @@ I don’t know if this should be a separate post or not. In the fall, my MIL fou At this point I was sincerely concerned about the health of the baby, so I told her I have never, nor will I ever, cheat on her to help calm her down. I thought that would set me back in the process because at the time I meant it, so I thought she would not be swayed as much by dread. But given last night it seems like that’s been long forgotten. -I’m curious if anyone else has had experience with a ‘mini-event’ that was brought up by something completely outside of your control/influence? It was quite the spectacle but as I said I am hopeful that I got some practice to see how a main event could look. Obviously, I would have to handle a real even much differently.",,22,-craven-moorehead-,1631711875.0 +I’m curious if anyone else has had experience with a ‘mini-event’ that was brought up by something completely outside of your control/influence? It was quite the spectacle but as I said I am hopeful that I got some practice to see how a main event could look. Obviously, I would have to handle a real even much differently.",,22,-craven-moorehead-,2021-09-15 13:17:55 askMRP,po61ed,Stfu or leadership opportunity?,"36, 5'11 179lbs. 14% navy. BP 200x4 SQ 295x3 RDL 315X5 BR 165x8 Arnold press 65x6 Help me parse this. @@ -71784,17 +71784,17 @@ I negatively asserted, ""that was kind of dumb to not text. I'll have to think a I'm trying to decide whether to continue to stfu, or explain to her that she doesn't get to know my whereabouts when she's being unpleasant. I've been focusing on stfu lately, but perhaps a little too aggressively. Last week I was feeling like the prize, like I was seeing some success from my work. This week it feels like I've been a kid with dynamite. I've got these tools and am trying to find what ones work for me. I seem to err on the side of Rambo. I seem to miss a lot of nuance with this stuff. I read stuff in comments, I read it in the sidebar, but misapply it. I'm stfu until I understand it better, but then I stfu about my whereabouts. -Some guidance would be appreciated.",,12,DiamondUnlucky9120,1631636376.0 +Some guidance would be appreciated.",,12,DiamondUnlucky9120,2021-09-14 16:19:36 askMRP,po6hpy,Thought that her changing her last name was important to me but now I am not so sure,"My friend got married and his wife is a ""conservative""...except she is a terrible wife and brags about. Doesn't cook, bosses him around, cheated on him, giant bitch in general...but she changed her last name to his, making her a ""tradwife"". I look at my girlfriend who I will likely marry, and she has said that she believes women shouldn't change their last name. But she is a great woman...virgin when I met her, cooks for me, gives me blowjobs and sex, super supportive of me, great personality. If we do end up getting married and the one ""victory"" she wants to get is keeping her maiden name, I think I would be like ""ok honey, you can be a good feminist and keep your name"". -It's not like good wives grow on trees. Is this a major cope, or am I right that all things considered, changing her last name isn't nearly as important as everything else? Like I don't know...LOYALTY?",,0,Mike_Mercury,1631637749.0 +It's not like good wives grow on trees. Is this a major cope, or am I right that all things considered, changing her last name isn't nearly as important as everything else? Like I don't know...LOYALTY?",,0,Mike_Mercury,2021-09-14 16:42:29 askMRP,pmsl3o,STFU for the first time,"I finally just said ""fuck this"" last night. Got my act together and started solving my problems. Even though there's still bullshit around me, I woke up feeling calm. My mind is quite. Everything seems more quite. My body hurts. It's like I was on this adrenaline I was keeping up with my internal dialogue. I'm crashing pretty hard right now, but in so many years I've never felt more at peace. I don't know who figured out STFU, but it wasn't easy to understand or achieve even once. But I really think I've gotten here. -Anyone else get this crash their first time?",,0,RediculousEgo,1631452935.0 +Anyone else get this crash their first time?",,0,RediculousEgo,2021-09-12 13:22:15 askMRP,plmv6i,changed behavior and silence treatment,"I am posting this question in the retarded playpen because that's where my posts belong. It would be Rule 9 material, so beware of content, but I need help parsing this situation with some tough love. I have been focused mostly on getting my shit together in these months. I think I have made a significant step ahead once I started repeating to myself that I don't have to be afraid of her yelling, although I let myself condition into that over many years. This attitude [started](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/ony06g/own_your_shit_weekly_july_20_2021/h5uwtih/?context=3) as a reactive one (i.e., in response to tests triggered by immediate circumstances), and became a proactive one lately (i.e., I am mostly no longer afraid of telling her things like they are, which means my mind is unimpeded in the thought process and I can clearly convey the content of my position). I reject fights. @@ -71833,8 +71833,8 @@ This was a clear lack of leadership on my side and I dug myself into that hole, All this lack of leadership occurred because I was still afraid of her. I have some thoughts on this process of overcoming fear that I will include in my next OYS, or perhaps in a new post, after I chew on those considerations a bit. -Yesterday morning I really hesitated on clicking the ""post"" button. The payoff has been enormous. Thank you. ",,13,ackley1900,1631286346.0 -askMRP,plfoq8,Women who like guys who chase.,"Some women say they like it when guys chase. Presumably because it satisfies their commitment skepticism bias. But when guys chase too hard, women get turned off. How do men reconcile this, specifically? Just move on to someone who takes less effort? If you're dense like me and want to make the effort, how do you get around it?",,7,[deleted],1631255884.0 +Yesterday morning I really hesitated on clicking the ""post"" button. The payoff has been enormous. Thank you. ",,13,ackley1900,2021-09-10 15:05:46 +askMRP,plfoq8,Women who like guys who chase.,"Some women say they like it when guys chase. Presumably because it satisfies their commitment skepticism bias. But when guys chase too hard, women get turned off. How do men reconcile this, specifically? Just move on to someone who takes less effort? If you're dense like me and want to make the effort, how do you get around it?",,7,[deleted],2021-09-10 06:38:04 askMRP,pjg0xp,Why is there so much hate and negativity here and on MRP sub?,"I get the guys are trying to toughen everyone up. But why does there have to be so much hate and negativity for a sub where men are coming together trying to improve themselves ? The preaching of STFU &amp; FRAME but then calling someone a faggot for being new to the material is just as bad as calling your wife a moron for not doing the dishes. @@ -71851,7 +71851,7 @@ Instead of calling someone an autistic faggot to be a funny tough guy. Why not e I know someone will try to clown this post and make a joke out of it just further proving the point. -But I’m honestly trying to understand and have a serious discussion on why all this negativity is necessary when we’re all men here for a similar purpose/goal in a world where we are already extremely out numbered?",,80,TrenGod37,1630989583.0 +But I’m honestly trying to understand and have a serious discussion on why all this negativity is necessary when we’re all men here for a similar purpose/goal in a world where we are already extremely out numbered?",,80,TrenGod37,2021-09-07 04:39:43 askMRP,pij11b,Building Frame,"First, forgive me if this is overly theoretical. I really needed to write this out. For me the conceptual frame is the first step to me following a programme. I think I have some mistrust in myself and following my own frame. I don't want to just adopt somebody else mind on it, like I have done in the past, but I'd like some feedback on my understanding of frame and what I can expect moving forward. That would help reassure my plan is not self-destructive. I've shut the fuck up, read the sidebar and lifted just enough to know it does works. I'm anxious to understand how. It's kind of like, to look for side effects. I think taking it further means understanding what I'm working with and what to expect. I also want to avoid any major pitfalls, counter-productive things and manage unintended consequences. I've split my effort in understanding and using frame as something like ""organisation"". As an organising principle, thinking for oneself, following ones own path, making your own way, being your own man, making your own rules. I kind of liken frame to the Chinese concept of Qi, which helps me understand it, right or wrong. @@ -71874,7 +71874,7 @@ An example I can give is, just now I was in the shower. I was thinking about a v Up until the age of 16 I had complete trust in myself. Nobody could break my frame. I didn't know at the time why that was, I just thought I was a good talker. Age 17 I had exercise addiction and an eating disorder. I didn't recognise it and it put me into serious illness for 3-4 years. Although I pulled myself out against all odds, and by myself, I still don't trust myself to make decisions. To lead my own life. How can I, when I almost killed myself? I've let the people around me down. I've failed my friends and my family, and I did and said nothing when they failed me. How can I lead my own life? Or ever trust myself again? -The best I could accomplish is using outside help to make sure I have a baseline. But to move forward in my own life... I suppose the alternative isn't pretty either. Maybe it's a black and white, lead or be a slave. But I'd like to follow for a moment. I'd like to listen. I'd like to know what other peoples reasons are for leading their lives. Maybe listening to that I can find a reason in myself. ",,8,RediculousEgo,1630868420.0 +The best I could accomplish is using outside help to make sure I have a baseline. But to move forward in my own life... I suppose the alternative isn't pretty either. Maybe it's a black and white, lead or be a slave. But I'd like to follow for a moment. I'd like to listen. I'd like to know what other peoples reasons are for leading their lives. Maybe listening to that I can find a reason in myself. ",,8,RediculousEgo,2021-09-05 19:00:20 askMRP,pergk8,Cuddles ain't free vs Kino,"Following my last oys, Horns of Apathy gave me some advice https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/paj7qe/comment/ha8phfe/ @@ -71891,7 +71891,7 @@ Also I need to constantly game my wife, ass slaps, sudden kisses, touch, somethi 2 questions. Is my current interpretation correct? -How to differentiate between good Kino and needy Kino? After a week of sexual denials, I feel sexually needy and it comes off in my touch.",,8,DiamondUnlucky9120,1630358340.0 +How to differentiate between good Kino and needy Kino? After a week of sexual denials, I feel sexually needy and it comes off in my touch.",,8,DiamondUnlucky9120,2021-08-30 21:19:00 askMRP,pe52lg,Getting shit together too late - Minimizing collateral,"Resolved: Talk a lawyer first. We have joint accounts so I'm trying to figure this out. At work tomorrow I'm going to contact a couple of divorce lawyers and start figuring out my next steps. @@ -71909,7 +71909,7 @@ At this point I currently don't care if we stay married or not anymore. Now I wa What would anyone that ""gets it"" better than me at this moment start focusing on financially? I'm not even going to pretend that I've internalized all this or that I haven't been fucking up for the last few years.. I was considering opening a 2nd account which I should have done before but didn't (mistake on my part). -Thanks",,13,[deleted],1630275461.0 +Thanks",,13,[deleted],2021-08-29 22:17:41 askMRP,pbsn9r,"While being unattractive, to initiate or avoid ""pressure""","I am curious about what is the best praexology for initiating when trying to get more attractive and on drip feed sex. Having read side bar litterature and posts the opinion @@ -71917,7 +71917,7 @@ seems pretty divided. 1 - Always initiate when you feel like it /want it. It aligns with male nature and is good for training emotional control and OI -2 - Be careful and dont initiate often or just when you are certain to succeed. You dont want to condition your wife to deny you nor scare the cat until you are attractive and your neediness will do more harm than if you just keep your hands away",,16,[deleted],1629953972.0 +2 - Be careful and dont initiate often or just when you are certain to succeed. You dont want to condition your wife to deny you nor scare the cat until you are attractive and your neediness will do more harm than if you just keep your hands away",,16,[deleted],2021-08-26 04:59:32 askMRP,pcc2cl,I [29M] recently broke up with my gf [27F] because i felt like i was not appreciated and my value not seen because of my hyper masculine state of mind after reading TRM. I feel like i fucked up a good thing,"I \[29M\] recently broke up with my gf \[27F\] of about 5 months because i felt like she was not appreciating me and I felt like I was a placeholder until someone she deemed better came along. I admit i was doing blue pill shit in the beginning and I lost frame but quickly fixed that as soon as I realized. So to the actual context. I was having doubts about her on whether or not she valued and appreciated me.. It was an accumulations of small behaviors and incidents that led me to believe that “she was never mine but it was only my turn”. They say to watch a person's behavior and actions than their words. @@ -71976,7 +71976,7 @@ TL;DR Broke up with GF because i didn't think she valued me and felt like I was &#x200B; -EDIT: I do want to clarify that I did have oneitis and idealism in the beginning. The reason I was getting these behaviors from her was because of ME. Because of my blue pill beta ways. I was so brainwashed by the feminist agenda. But I quickly fixed that and I noticed that she was happier and more receptive to me. She wanted to be led and she quickly submitted once i started leading. Everything was fine, but i still couldn't shake her previous behaviors as a result of my prior blue pill ways and broke up with her. I feel like i jumped the gun without giving it a chance with me being red pill",,0,Pristine-Implement0,1630023501.0 +EDIT: I do want to clarify that I did have oneitis and idealism in the beginning. The reason I was getting these behaviors from her was because of ME. Because of my blue pill beta ways. I was so brainwashed by the feminist agenda. But I quickly fixed that and I noticed that she was happier and more receptive to me. She wanted to be led and she quickly submitted once i started leading. Everything was fine, but i still couldn't shake her previous behaviors as a result of my prior blue pill ways and broke up with her. I feel like i jumped the gun without giving it a chance with me being red pill",,0,Pristine-Implement0,2021-08-27 00:18:21 askMRP,paju64,Feedback on constant arguments,"Questions at bottom: I'd like to talk about my relationship with my wife for the first bit, then talk about what progress I've made. @@ -72002,7 +72002,7 @@ So, powered by my confidence from fitness, I've decided I'm tired of being lectu 2. Any suggestions about getting her to own her own shit and diet and make friends and shit 3. I've been really insecure during arguments about maybe her thinking one of her co-workers is hot. She hasn't said anything but I know he's hot and she makes friends with hot co-workers before. I'm 100% positive she doesn't have the interest in cheating, but I find myself extremely insecure by the prospect of even like, a light crush. Tips / tricks here? 4. I do a shit, an absolute fuck ton of validation seeking behavior, especially around being lectured. Any tips to ... stop... Needing that? -5. Part of the reason I've never posted here is I'm scared of her feelings being hurt. I don't want to go to bed sad/angry. But also, my perfect relationship is me as the provider and her cuddling me and me being more alpha and her being appreciative of me providing for her. That would be a total shift. Is that... A realistic thing I'll ever get with this woman? Or should I lower my expectations? I'm not really even considering someone else at this point. (And don't want to!)",,8,throwawaypizza1,1629797124.0 +5. Part of the reason I've never posted here is I'm scared of her feelings being hurt. I don't want to go to bed sad/angry. But also, my perfect relationship is me as the provider and her cuddling me and me being more alpha and her being appreciative of me providing for her. That would be a total shift. Is that... A realistic thing I'll ever get with this woman? Or should I lower my expectations? I'm not really even considering someone else at this point. (And don't want to!)",,8,throwawaypizza1,2021-08-24 09:25:24 askMRP,pa0jms,"How to regain ""honeymoon phase"" levels of attraction with LTR","As stated, the quotations is the acknowledgement that most people in this community believe that the honeymoon phase is a myth and the female(s) in your life are either attracted to you or not. Whether that be the case my question is, as stated above. I've been with my LTR for just under a year and it's become apparent that she has fallen out of the ""honeymoon phase"". We were spending a bit too much time together, and things became comfortable. I consider myself at the time of this phase in the relationship somewhat redpill, redpill enough to exert the traditional alpha-lead style in the relationship, but not redpill adept in relationships. @@ -72011,7 +72011,7 @@ So upon this discovery, I read up on dread game and used it a bit. However as pe So back to the question, for a guy in my situation, what is the strategy do regain that burning desire she had in the ""honeymoon phase""? -We don't live together, ftr.",,20,maisman10,1629727641.0 +We don't live together, ftr.",,20,maisman10,2021-08-23 14:07:21 askMRP,p91tw2,LTR Trying To Leverage The Relationship (Relocation),"**Stats**: 33 years old [6’1, 200lbs~, 13%bf - max BP 210, SQ 300, DL 345, OHP 165] - never married and no kids. **Sidebar**: No More Mr. Nice Guy, Rational Male, Book of Pook, Bang & Day Bang, When I Say No, I Feel Guilty. @@ -72030,7 +72030,7 @@ Over the past month or so, my LTR mentioned to me that she is thinking of reloca I have never been in this situation before, but I’m curious if any of you guys here have been through it. Based on all of the info I have read from the sidebar, it seems like she is trying to leverage the relationship and have me enter her frame. What’s the best way to approach this situation? Do I just accept that she will more than likely move on (i.e. relocate for job, bounce, etc.) if we don’t end up moving in together? Thanks in advance. -Edit: I updated a few things in my post to answer some questions and I fixed my DL number as I noticed I put it in wrong. Thanks for the advice and thoughts!",,12,RoyalPoolMan,1629589252.0 +Edit: I updated a few things in my post to answer some questions and I fixed my DL number as I noticed I put it in wrong. Thanks for the advice and thoughts!",,12,RoyalPoolMan,2021-08-21 23:40:52 askMRP,p92yxl,"I'm always late for stuff in life, so I guess marriage will be delayed as well. What am I missing?","I'm 30. Basically I used to fuck around daydreaming shit all day long, which made me overall bad in everything (thank you ADHD). I've just awakened, it's like life has started again for me since I started working in fixing this aspect (meditation, presence in the moment). My life right now: @@ -72044,7 +72044,7 @@ So, what am I missing? At this point, most dudes my age are married with kids. I don't want that right now, but it feels like every situation I was ever late for. I don't want to jump steps with a random girl, but it feels like it's something I should've already sorted by now. Married guys seem to be much more of a man than I am. I feel like a teenager around them. -Thoughts?",,5,thiikn,1629593647.0 +Thoughts?",,5,thiikn,2021-08-22 00:54:07 askMRP,p8ua8j,Wanting to explode when STFU?,"I’m sure this is due to years of DEERing but there’s has been a lot of instances where when I try to STFU. It literally eats me away inside until I build a resentment and explode. For example. The wife was sick with Covid last week. I took care of the kids. Told her to go rest. Picked her up some food and flowers. Because I wanted to. I knew she felt alone being quarantined and I wanted to make her feel special and they did made her so happy. @@ -72069,7 +72069,7 @@ Now if I stfu and withdrawal my attention. She will come into bed to cuddle ton How in the world can I STFU after that? I just have to stfu and boil inside while she walks around clueless of the annoying shit she does? -It’s causing me to dislike her. I see it as I Do things and get treated like shit. So then I don’t want to do them. Or Don’t do things and get asked why I don’t do things for her. And I have to stfu about all of this? How do you guys do this without wanting to snap?",,7,blackjackjackblack10,1629562616.0 +It’s causing me to dislike her. I see it as I Do things and get treated like shit. So then I don’t want to do them. Or Don’t do things and get asked why I don’t do things for her. And I have to stfu about all of this? How do you guys do this without wanting to snap?",,7,blackjackjackblack10,2021-08-21 16:16:56 askMRP,p8smox,Failed comfort test / failed captain?,"Current situation: Wife has locked herself in the bathroom crying to avoid me after I tried to pass what I believed to be a (pretty major) comfort test by repeatedly insisting that I love her and trying to hold her and giving some very light AM attitude at the same time. Her entire attitude was that it was way too late for that kind of thing, that she wanted nothing to do with me and that I am selfish and heartless and do not care about her. Question: Was this a comfort test and if so, what could I have done better? Or have I in fact fucked up in some deeper way? @@ -72113,13 +72113,13 @@ FUCKED UP? For me, the current situation feels as a failure. At the same time, I have captained to the best of my ability during the week and done good work both in the ""office"" and at home, all while keeping a happy and strong frame and sticking to my reasonable plans. Despite this, maybe I have failed as a captain by not creating the opportunity for my girl to get reasonable rest. Or maybe I did OK and just failed the comfort test? -I feel like I have done much right and still failed.",,0,sgtrokoko,1629556895.0 +I feel like I have done much right and still failed.",,0,sgtrokoko,2021-08-21 14:41:35 askMRP,p6uwf4,Am I missing an opportunity here?,"Been reading and thinking about MRP a lot the last couple days. One thing that has come to mind is wether or not I’m giving my wife opportunities to add value to my life . As a small example… often my wife will ask me if she can make me something to eat or take care of my laundry. I’m pretty independent on these sort of things, I usually tell her “Thanks, but I’ll take care of it”. I do what I want for sure, it’s my choice and there’s not any sort of CC or ego thing going on here. It’s as simple as if I need something I’ll take care of it myself. -I got to thinking, maybe I should be allowing her to do things like this and when they are done well praise can be given. I can’t create a positive feedback loop if I’m not giving chances. If I let her do tasks like that she may feel good about it and find herself wanting to do more?",,16,JustAboutDone3070,1629304766.0 -askMRP,p5udmr,Is there an OYS thread for women?,"So I just discovered TRP about two weeks ago, and so far it's been mind-blowing eye-opening for me. It was a few days after I had a rock-bottom interaction with my SO. I've been enjoying reading the OYS thread and seeing different people on different stages of their self-improvement journey, and I was wondering if the redpillwomen subreddits had something similar but I'm guessing they do not, because they have significantly less members unfortunately. I'm wondering if there are other resources out there for like-minded women looking for a way to help with accountability and improvement?",,8,[deleted],1629165534.0 +I got to thinking, maybe I should be allowing her to do things like this and when they are done well praise can be given. I can’t create a positive feedback loop if I’m not giving chances. If I let her do tasks like that she may feel good about it and find herself wanting to do more?",,16,JustAboutDone3070,2021-08-18 16:39:26 +askMRP,p5udmr,Is there an OYS thread for women?,"So I just discovered TRP about two weeks ago, and so far it's been mind-blowing eye-opening for me. It was a few days after I had a rock-bottom interaction with my SO. I've been enjoying reading the OYS thread and seeing different people on different stages of their self-improvement journey, and I was wondering if the redpillwomen subreddits had something similar but I'm guessing they do not, because they have significantly less members unfortunately. I'm wondering if there are other resources out there for like-minded women looking for a way to help with accountability and improvement?",,8,[deleted],2021-08-17 01:58:54 askMRP,p345bp,I Need Validation,"36 yo 185 lbs, 6'2 married 8, together 16, kids 8 months 4 years Bp 215PR 165 5x5working weight @@ -72152,7 +72152,7 @@ I dont think my life is bad but I have also lived this way for years and dont kn Really Im trying to work out how the fuck to I break away from consciously and unconsciously seeking the validation in every god damn interaction in my life? How do I even fucking know who I am and what I want if all I am trying to do is get validation from others. god damn where the fuck do I even start. -I know this isnt unique to me and I would really appreciate some help breaking out of it. If the answer is to just see it when it comes up/course correct where I can, keep lifting, reading, OYS, and take your time. That is fine and what my current plan is.",,18,[deleted],1628787987.0 +I know this isnt unique to me and I would really appreciate some help breaking out of it. If the answer is to just see it when it comes up/course correct where I can, keep lifting, reading, OYS, and take your time. That is fine and what my current plan is.",,18,[deleted],2021-08-12 17:06:27 askMRP,p213o2,Wife keeps asking if everything is alright,"Every since I started this journey things have been going way better. But lately my wife keep asking me if everything is all right. And is like stressing to keep up almost. I told her what I expected out of the family because she was just laying around. And she started to pick up the pace but now she’s like going overboard. She will call me while I’m at work apologizing that she didnt get a chance to put the dishes away. Or dumb little things. It’s almost like she’s living in fear and it’s giving her anxiety @@ -72168,7 +72168,7 @@ This? Also where does the line get drawn between being a leader and pretending your wife is dead. -I keep questioning myself whether I should be asking her for help or do things. Or Just doing everything on my own. I don’t want this to give her an excuse to be lazy again",,22,blackjackjackblack10,1628638524.0 +I keep questioning myself whether I should be asking her for help or do things. Or Just doing everything on my own. I don’t want this to give her an excuse to be lazy again",,22,blackjackjackblack10,2021-08-10 23:35:24 askMRP,p1cj6g,Title: A dating strategy for older RP men,"This is my first post. It’s about a dating strategy for mature guys – not an OYS and not a victim puke. I hope MRP moderators don’t bury it because it contains material that’s not easily found in RP forums. To be clear, I am writing for a particular audience, not teenagers or 20s-30s, maybe some upper 40s-50s, mostly guys above that age. The rest of the web is totally blue-pilled on the subject. *Background*: I am a 56 year old MD who was red-pilled in divorce court. My kids are in college. My ex did well financially by divorcing a doc after 20 years marriage… ’nuff said. All future contact with her is severed except maybe for graduations and weddings. I found Rollo and TRP too late, after my divorce. I read the sidebar entirely along with other RP literature. I am in excellent health, physically fit, have decent looks for my age. I am pretty marketable. I am not going to provide squat numbers or my N count. Though I am no longer married, and never will be married again, I appreciate MRP for its wisdom and its guidance. @@ -72264,7 +72264,7 @@ Humpty Dumpty egos say I should be more like they are, chasing 20 year old skirt To the younger guys: Get the best education you can. Don’t settle for a pseudo-education at TRP or anywhere else. Don’t date widows until you’ve cut your teeth. -To readers of all ages: TRP leadership is selling you something that benefits them more than you. They use gaslighting and narcissistic tricks to create codependency, but it only works if you let them.",,44,GoingForHundred,1628549527.0 +To readers of all ages: TRP leadership is selling you something that benefits them more than you. They use gaslighting and narcissistic tricks to create codependency, but it only works if you let them.",,44,GoingForHundred,2021-08-09 22:52:07 askMRP,p12fuy,Retard Science Experiment - The Holy Grail of Cum,"What's up retards? You guys doing well in here? I figured this place gives me so much entertainment it's time to give back to the community with hard, long data once again. [Previous science experiments](https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/jea7p5/the_askmrp_science_experiment_has_concluded/) have yielded retarded results, I expect this one to perform the same. The difference this time is that the control subject is not a retard, but ME. But since I'm posting to /r/askmrp.... I guess that makes me a retard wanting to play in the retard playpen. In order for me to run this experiment I needed some retarded sexual strategy to test and the methods to test it must be like an autist retard would. @@ -72296,7 +72296,7 @@ My general side effects: Weird and strong desires to go day-game HARD. Lots of /u/Praexology calls me Hollow Point Horns because he thinks I'm gonna put a hole in the back of her head. -Will report back science experiment data as it intensifies.",,48,HornsOfApathy,1628518948.0 +Will report back science experiment data as it intensifies.",,48,HornsOfApathy,2021-08-09 14:22:28 askMRP,oz98dm,FR - Push Yourself Into Her,"Morning Bitches! Lately, I’ve noticed a complete lack of Field Reports here, especially ones where something actually went well. Here’s mine from last night. Background: Things haven’t been going that well and I haven’t had sex with my wife in 3 months. I know my shit’s fucked, go read my OYS if you want to dig into that pile of shit, that’s not what this FR is about. So, the last few nights I decided to put forth some extra effort on initiations. Shot down with shitty excuses every time. It was so bad that two nights ago my wife literally had an ice pack on her head for her headache. So, yesterday afternoon, I come across this [GEM](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/owz55a/own_your_shit_weekly_august_03_2021/h7nxmhd?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) from [HORNS](https://www.reddit.com/user/HornsOfApathy/): @@ -72321,7 +72321,7 @@ Now I wish I could top this story off with a fantastic over the top story of how Special hat tip to the “think about your favorite body part” portion, that tipped the scale for me. -For those of you with 1000 shitty excuses to not have sex, give it a go, this technique literally washed all that shit away in 15 seconds. In the long run, it's a frame issue, but this is a great technique to ditch your shitty frame for a few minutes. What have you got to lose?",,76,UsefulWalk4,1628264617.0 +For those of you with 1000 shitty excuses to not have sex, give it a go, this technique literally washed all that shit away in 15 seconds. In the long run, it's a frame issue, but this is a great technique to ditch your shitty frame for a few minutes. What have you got to lose?",,76,UsefulWalk4,2021-08-06 15:43:37 askMRP,ozhhul,What do you fellas with kids do in your free time?,"I’m in my early 30s. Besides lifting and reading. I have this underlying anxiety that I am not doing enough. That I’m slacking and could be doing more. I never feel I’m doing enough to better myself. I lift 5 days a week. I read everyday. I’m watching videos/podcast while I’m on the road. I do a lot of mental work. But I feel lack in the action department. I have a 15 month old and when I have him with the wife’s at work (esp on his nap schedule) I am stuck at the house with this feeling like I can be doing more productive things with my time. Find shit to clean. To cook. to do around the house to fill this free time. But I still have this fucking feeling I can’t shake. @@ -72330,7 +72330,7 @@ When the kids up I take him to parks (he can’t walk yet) and for walks. Betwee Idk if I’m being too hard on myself or not hard enough. I’m in recovery for drugs (1 year sober after using for 10 years). And boredom has alway led me back to addiction so maybe this part of my unlying bullshit. Maybe it’s the fear of going back. Maybe it’s trying to make up for lost time. -I guess What I’m asking is. What are productive things you found to do with your free time. ESP if you’re with your children?",,14,Tohnjaylor11,1628290295.0 +I guess What I’m asking is. What are productive things you found to do with your free time. ESP if you’re with your children?",,14,Tohnjaylor11,2021-08-06 22:51:35 askMRP,ozbnlg,Body language post,"I was reading the body language post recently [Let's Talk Body Language : marriedredpill (reddit.com)](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3qkonn/lets_talk_body_language/) @@ -72339,7 +72339,7 @@ tried the scapula back and down positioning and damn does it make a difference, I am able to do this but it seems to take a bit of effort and I cant hold it for more than 5 mins at a time. -The idea is that this should be my default pose (which is great as it instantly fixed my posture) - do I get stronger at this over time to the point I am pretty much always in that position?",,11,[deleted],1628271833.0 +The idea is that this should be my default pose (which is great as it instantly fixed my posture) - do I get stronger at this over time to the point I am pretty much always in that position?",,11,[deleted],2021-08-06 17:43:53 askMRP,oxyv1l,Urgent question after dramatic scene over the phone,"Hi, brothers. Me: 45. Her: 35. 8 years married, one toddler kid. @@ -72365,7 +72365,7 @@ What should I do? * Go live somewhere else? * Something else? -Thanks for your comments in advance.",,11,[deleted],1628101295.0 +Thanks for your comments in advance.",,11,[deleted],2021-08-04 18:21:35 askMRP,owzc1f,Why do I feel so empty inside?,"Ok, so this is going to be a little different. &#x200B; @@ -72407,8 +72407,8 @@ Everything feels kind of bland, even the amazing sex the girl offers does not ex &#x200B; -What the actual fuck is wrong with me, what did I miss?",,21,abratoki,1627980362.0 -askMRP,oss26l,NMMNG sometimes encourages you to talk to your wife about the changes you intend to make - is that compatible with STFU?,"Especially talking about the topic of focusing your activities towards your own happiness instead of hers, and why you're doing it. I feel like this conflicts with the usual mindset here.",,14,qwasd0r,1627409469.0 +What the actual fuck is wrong with me, what did I miss?",,21,abratoki,2021-08-03 08:46:02 +askMRP,oss26l,NMMNG sometimes encourages you to talk to your wife about the changes you intend to make - is that compatible with STFU?,"Especially talking about the topic of focusing your activities towards your own happiness instead of hers, and why you're doing it. I feel like this conflicts with the usual mindset here.",,14,qwasd0r,2021-07-27 18:11:09 askMRP,orzc26,I opted for divorce following Ultimatum,"**Background** 31 yo, 31 yo wife, married 3 years together 4, no kids @@ -72463,7 +72463,7 @@ When I said I had made my decision, she sat up, put her hand in her face and sai I emphasized with her throughout all of this. She did nothing wrong per se, I just changed. It sucks, I wish she didn’t have to live through that, but this isn’t something I’m budging on. This ended at 1:57 AM (I looked at my watch) with her repeating the question “Could you think about it for another day and promise me that you’ll try?” I asked if you’ll let me go to sleep if I say say yes. She agrees, I agree and I fall asleep. This morning I wake up 0630 to get ready for work, she gets up as well and wants to make sure that I didn’t just say that last night to fall asleep and that I'd really think about it. “Promise me that you’ll try.” -After hearing it the third time last, it occurred to me that she could be extending an olive branch. She wants to maintain plausible deniability so she can claim victim later when she finds out I’ve been unfaithful. It’s the only way that phrase makes sense for me when I try to imagine someone telling their spouse to “try to not cheat.” Am I wrong on this? Also, please point out anywhere in this exchange where I read the situation wrong.",,12,[deleted],1627308127.0 +After hearing it the third time last, it occurred to me that she could be extending an olive branch. She wants to maintain plausible deniability so she can claim victim later when she finds out I’ve been unfaithful. It’s the only way that phrase makes sense for me when I try to imagine someone telling their spouse to “try to not cheat.” Am I wrong on this? Also, please point out anywhere in this exchange where I read the situation wrong.",,12,[deleted],2021-07-26 14:02:07 askMRP,orjdtt,Wife continues to complain about how little I’m home when we moved to our location due to the proximity to her worthless parents. Cut the drama and hire a realtor?,"Quick intro: 5’11” 180 @@ -72491,20 +72491,20 @@ I’ve considered hiring a realtor without telling her and telling her on Saturd Any advice is appreciated. -Thanks.",,10,justanoldfarmkid,1627245235.0 +Thanks.",,10,justanoldfarmkid,2021-07-25 20:33:55 askMRP,orhtxx,How to maintain frame,"Hey everyone I’m reading about the redpill more and more and have been finding it very interesting. I want a piece of advice from a red pill perspective from the community. My new girl threw a big shit storm this morning. I had been told by her that she is having a bad week and needs to go out this weekend with me so she can get her mind off and have some fun. Come the weekend I invite her with me to a party at my friends house on Friday. The next day I was swamped with work and tired so when my friends called to go out (it was a last minute plan) and have fun, I told them I had to wake up early and I wouldn’t come out. Instead I just invited my girl over for a chill night to have some dinner and walk around. Next morning she woke up and saw everyone’s insta stories and threw a shit storm that I wanted to go and you lied to me that there was no plan, you are selfish, you don’t care about me etc. -What would be the red pill perspective to maintain frame in this situation",,0,sheikh7777,1627240384.0 +What would be the red pill perspective to maintain frame in this situation",,0,sheikh7777,2021-07-25 19:13:04 askMRP,opookc,While We Wait,"I'll try to keep this quick without engaging my entire life story. I am 36, ~200k salary, very fit and muscular (workout at leas 6x a week), and father of 2 little girls, own a 1.5m house. Lots of drama in the relationship. I am 6 years sober, but had a period where I was a complete piece of shit. Wife knows about me hooking up with escorts, strippers, etc. Also, I've probably failed every comfort test given for the past 10 years. There is a lot of resentment between us that we are working through. I am doing the work, which is hard as I am busy as fuck and figuring it all out is just hard in general Bottom line is I haven't had sex in about a year. Wife has made it pretty clear that it is going to be a while before we get there. She does not feel safe with me. Tenses up when I touch her etc. Thinks I am going to leave her for a young hot 20 year old (which could be true if this continues much longer). I don't want to bust up my family, but also am sick of masturbating. This is not sustainable. -What advice do you other members have of how to deal your sexuality, libido, sexual needs, etc in the meantime, while you are doing the work and things have not improved yet? I am not getting any of this time back, and these are statistically my ""best"" years. Im debating getting a Bumble/Tinder and saying fuck it. But I do care about my partner and my family. Getting caught would devastate them. Does anyone set a timeline for things the change? Im worried I'll be writing this same post 5 years from now.",,20,schmidter7,1626992725.0 -askMRP,opg8cp,Wife knows about dread,"At dread level 3. Wife discovered my sidebar material and did some light reading. Now she is aware of how I'm manipulating her feelz. It's still business as usual for me. I'm happy with the results and dont plan on changing things. Any pitfalls going forward I should watch for. I know it will be thrown in my face repeatedly and I'm unsure how my response should be. Right now I've just been going with ""it worked didn't it""",,14,CyclopsWarrior,1626967996.0 +What advice do you other members have of how to deal your sexuality, libido, sexual needs, etc in the meantime, while you are doing the work and things have not improved yet? I am not getting any of this time back, and these are statistically my ""best"" years. Im debating getting a Bumble/Tinder and saying fuck it. But I do care about my partner and my family. Getting caught would devastate them. Does anyone set a timeline for things the change? Im worried I'll be writing this same post 5 years from now.",,20,schmidter7,2021-07-22 22:25:25 +askMRP,opg8cp,Wife knows about dread,"At dread level 3. Wife discovered my sidebar material and did some light reading. Now she is aware of how I'm manipulating her feelz. It's still business as usual for me. I'm happy with the results and dont plan on changing things. Any pitfalls going forward I should watch for. I know it will be thrown in my face repeatedly and I'm unsure how my response should be. Right now I've just been going with ""it worked didn't it""",,14,CyclopsWarrior,2021-07-22 15:33:16 askMRP,ooo8bn,"Wife (37) can not orgasm, it's complicated - help!","A bit of painfully honest history for context: (Me 36, her 37) We've been married for almost 10 years, together for 16 years. For most of that time, I was a sad sack of shit. I was a total loser Nice Guy without the hint of a frame. A weak, wimpy, skinny fat turd who came after ten seconds into P in V. After our first year, I stopped having sexual interests in my wife. I don't know what it was exactly, maybe because I felt inadequate due to being such a quick shooter (NMMMG would probably agree). But I would rather play World Of Warcraft all day and night and jack off before coming to bed. This went on for years, well into our marriage. @@ -72520,7 +72520,7 @@ I know this is probably something I should just STFU about, but I don't see how You can laugh at me now, as long as you offer some sort of advice with it. -tl;dr: Wife has never orgasmed in her life and doesn't know how - should I try to help her despite her being dismissive?",,13,Stupid_Questions_Inc,1626867979.0 +tl;dr: Wife has never orgasmed in her life and doesn't know how - should I try to help her despite her being dismissive?",,13,Stupid_Questions_Inc,2021-07-21 11:46:19 askMRP,oo33j9,I think I'm autistic with the basics,"Background : Not married but this sub helps a lot, more experienced people and knowledge of relationships here. I'm young. Early 20's. Read a lot, lift a lot (currently still skinny, working on it), working on my purpose. In the implementation of basic things I'm always autistic even after years of reading. @@ -72530,7 +72530,7 @@ LTR asks daily for more attention in days which I dont see her, always asks for In another example she can start a stupid argument like ""Why didn't you invite me to the event earlier?"", ""Why didn't you buy me flowers on women's day? "", ""Why you didn't take me anywhere this week?"" . I don't take this too seriously, I don't DEER, I laugh, I A&A, I STFU, but nothing works she keeps insisting on the 10th time that I answer seriously her questions. There is not a good answer, I just didn't want to go out with her this week / didn't think of getting her flowers / didn't think she deserve more of my attention but she doesn't understand it herself. -Where do I get this wrong? I feel like women are never satisfied, always ask those shit test questions, always try to start some unnecessary drama and they take it so hard when I DARE and actually Exit like hang up the call, or they get mad when I don't take them seriously (""why you can't just answer my question? You're never serious""). I try to focus on what I want and not her feelings but I guess I'm trying to understand if there's a flaw in my frame or actions, it feels like they can never be satisfied and insist on killing good mood.",,3,sobrage,1626791225.0 +Where do I get this wrong? I feel like women are never satisfied, always ask those shit test questions, always try to start some unnecessary drama and they take it so hard when I DARE and actually Exit like hang up the call, or they get mad when I don't take them seriously (""why you can't just answer my question? You're never serious""). I try to focus on what I want and not her feelings but I guess I'm trying to understand if there's a flaw in my frame or actions, it feels like they can never be satisfied and insist on killing good mood.",,3,sobrage,2021-07-20 14:27:05 askMRP,onhfkh,Sex and mind games. STFU or call her out?,"Hi, brothers. Now that we're talking about [calling your wife out](https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/ompljf/new_here_oblivious_wife_is_inconsiderate_and/) or not, I am having a situation and would like to know what the best strategy to follow is (other than STFU, lift and read, which I swear I am doing). Just for the record, I am in my mid-40s, and I am healthy, and decently attractive. She's in her mid-30's. @@ -72559,7 +72559,7 @@ Specific question: NMMNG says that one should be open and honest, and express on &#x200B; -Thanks for your answers.",,30,[deleted],1626711795.0 +Thanks for your answers.",,30,[deleted],2021-07-19 16:23:15 askMRP,omh9tp,"Recently divorced, need advice.","It's been a while since I posted here. I know I can count on honesty from this sub and that's what I need. I need some motivation and assistance. TRP seems to have gone away from Reddit. I (38M) will have my divorce (13-year marriage) finalized in the next week and getting back into the dating market. I'm angry, sad, and really feel worthless. I have a bad case of Oneitis for my X even though I filed, but I am having a hard time getting out there. I have since gone back to the gym, started lifting again, and joined a Krav Maga gym local to me starting on Monday. They have some social events. I realized I don't have any style, so I want to find a personal stylist like Stitch Fix or something. I look in the mirror and looks-wise, it's awful. The haircut sucks, the clothing is shit and still skinny fat. @@ -72569,7 +72569,7 @@ I even joined Tinder and Bumble looking, but it's a shitshow. I think I am bette What I am asking for: 1. What books would you suggest reading to learn to game women? -2. Any suggestions for a clothing service that could help me develop my style?",,9,Annon-1,1626572933.0 +2. Any suggestions for a clothing service that could help me develop my style?",,9,Annon-1,2021-07-18 01:48:53 askMRP,om3rzy,I lost my frame and keep saying sorry to forgive me.,"Week ago i went to my plate house to drink with her after sex we continue drinking again till i passed out, while I'm sleeping she opened my phone and chat my LTR of 1year ""*we should stop seeing each other this is not gonna work gonna miss you bye.*"" @@ -72591,12 +72591,12 @@ So when i tried to hug my LTR she slapped me and told me to leave and don't want After that she blocked me to all social media, **is there anyway to sabotage this? Or i should just move on?.** my ego can't accept that she disrespect me like that and willing to lose me easily. -Note: i stopped seeing my plate she keep saying sorry to me and she don't remember what she's doing cuz she's so drunk and got carried away when she saw the notification of my GF while I'm sleeping.",,5,7udgerKresnik,1626526789.0 +Note: i stopped seeing my plate she keep saying sorry to me and she don't remember what she's doing cuz she's so drunk and got carried away when she saw the notification of my GF while I'm sleeping.",,5,7udgerKresnik,2021-07-17 12:59:49 askMRP,ol1mnl,Just some thoughts about the sidebar books,"Hello just dropping my opinion here and want to see if other members of mrp faced the same problem regarding rational male. I am not a native english speaker. No doubt it is a great book and basically red pill 101 for many, but Rollo seems like a desperate guy trying to appear intellectual and smart by using unnecessary complex sentence formation and uncommon words. The whole book could be written way simpler if he wished to. I had so much trouble grasping the concept of the book. -I have finished NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP and MAP. Fantastic books. I am trying to apply the concepts of the first two. MMSLP was an eye opener. So far my fav.",,15,alphacr7,1626382160.0 +I have finished NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP and MAP. Fantastic books. I am trying to apply the concepts of the first two. MMSLP was an eye opener. So far my fav.",,15,alphacr7,2021-07-15 20:49:20 askMRP,od2z4l,Are you under 30,"If you are — I think you should be reading Jordan Peterson. The sidebar is as astounding and precise as it always was in its main material, NMMNG and WISNIFG. @@ -72617,12 +72617,12 @@ So we succumb and attempt to control not by our direct ordering of it, but by st Striking a deal allows us to avoid dealing with the fundamental axiomatic problem. The deep and original conflict between order in a society which has deemed it immoral. Of course, without using the word immoral to do so. -Or in the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, “society is in conspiracy against the manhood of each man”. I experienced this deep conflict manifest in my LTR, but it runs deeper into the soul of every man and is more timeless than I had realised.",,7,WeakDeludedDisciple,1625335030.0 +Or in the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, “society is in conspiracy against the manhood of each man”. I experienced this deep conflict manifest in my LTR, but it runs deeper into the soul of every man and is more timeless than I had realised.",,7,WeakDeludedDisciple,2021-07-03 17:57:10 askMRP,ocad2f,How has MRP affected your relationship with your parents?,"Towards the beginning, I had more respect for my father for putting up with my mom despite her now obvious problems. The more I learn and read, the less respect I have for a man that was repeatedly emasculated in front of his children by a fat leech. He doubled down by working harder. He would leave before we woke up and came home after dark, but it was never enough. Now I understand why it would never be enough. In the ten years that they have been split up (his choice) he has never said a bad thing about her, while she has trashed him nonstop. I have a difficult time conversing with him now, it's like we speak two different languages. It's like he has been burned but still doesn't know why. I know where I get it from. He has responded to boundaries being set much better than my mother has. I believe that a lot of my issues that lead me here started with her, but really it's both of them. He failed as a leader, but not as an example for me. I don't know how I can grow as a person without cutting my mother out of my life. I am okay with it, my fiance thinks that she should be in my son's life. Her opinion has been noted and defecated upon. The stay plan is the go plan can be applied in this situation, but I wonder if my frame was better that it would even be necessary. -We do the same thing (ideally) with a plate who gets too big for her britches. It just feels wrong when it's your mom. Maybe that's why When I Say No, I Feel Guilty. Because that's what I was taught to feel. It also feels like I'm shifting the blame of my shitty behavior off of myself and chalking it up to ""muh upbringing"" any groups that talk about the childhood shit devolves into victim pukes and pity parties, they are a dead end for me. Do you blame your parents for being here? I don't, but I can see their influence.",,6,ABoxOfPain,1625233360.0 +We do the same thing (ideally) with a plate who gets too big for her britches. It just feels wrong when it's your mom. Maybe that's why When I Say No, I Feel Guilty. Because that's what I was taught to feel. It also feels like I'm shifting the blame of my shitty behavior off of myself and chalking it up to ""muh upbringing"" any groups that talk about the childhood shit devolves into victim pukes and pity parties, they are a dead end for me. Do you blame your parents for being here? I don't, but I can see their influence.",,6,ABoxOfPain,2021-07-02 13:42:40 askMRP,o9elg7,I can never fully wrap my brain around why RP is so anti marriage and LTR,"*About me:* Been red pilled for almost two years, I lived almost half a year following it religiously and got super fit. Ultimately stopped because I no longer fear not being able to get a good girlfriend, I don't enjoy gaming many women, (I dislike most) and lastly- the lifestyle and mentality is down right depressing. If you read the side bar, you know what I am talking about. *I know most of the reasons- it's harder to do dread, marriage has low benefit for men, divorce rape...* @@ -72631,7 +72631,7 @@ askMRP,o9elg7,I can never fully wrap my brain around why RP is so anti marriage Also, *you can eliminate a lot of the cons of marriage by laying clear expectations beforehand and having a prenup.* Not only does this protect you from divorce rape, but it holds her to high standards- unlike a lot of U.S. marriages where women pussy whip hubby and let themselves go. (I'm not advocating that young marriage or having kids is a good idea) -I probably forgot a few things, but I think I spoke my mind. I'm posting this here instead of the regular Red Pill forum because I know you guys will have more insight, and not shit on me for having an unpopular opinion.",,6,Fr1end1yMushroom,1624861887.0 +I probably forgot a few things, but I think I spoke my mind. I'm posting this here instead of the regular Red Pill forum because I know you guys will have more insight, and not shit on me for having an unpopular opinion.",,6,Fr1end1yMushroom,2021-06-28 06:31:27 askMRP,o7t9wf,laundry and logic,"married, 36 years old, wife is 34, 2 kids. 190 lbs, 6 foot 3 inches tall BP 215 @@ -72708,7 +72708,7 @@ B. Did I just bend over with out realizing it? &#x200B; -I get I got a long long way to go and I am still going.",,11,[deleted],1624644941.0 +I get I got a long long way to go and I am still going.",,11,[deleted],2021-06-25 18:15:41 askMRP,o69bzq,Wife is starting to push back,"Hi guys, fresh meat I suppose. I have been a lurker for a while, reading a lot and half-assing stuff. Lifelong beta, semi dead beadroom for years. Been lifting and trying to apply some MRP basics for about six months. Wife is finally starting to respond in some way (I guess ""push back"" is the right word), which is when I realised I probably need to start OYS to get through this. But let's do the victim puke first... Age 39, 186cm, 81kg, 17%BF @@ -72733,7 +72733,7 @@ The question is how much of this is part of dread (level 4? Or 1?) and how much &#x200B; -I guess all this thinking at least proves I'm not in my own frame yet.",,18,TicTac-Throw,1624440329.0 +I guess all this thinking at least proves I'm not in my own frame yet.",,18,TicTac-Throw,2021-06-23 09:25:29 askMRP,o5320v,Wife gets disrespectful when she doesn't get what she wants.,"30yo 270/6’2""/body fat 25%/Bench 250/Squat350/DL315 @@ -72753,7 +72753,7 @@ I've just totally pushed her away after this. I won't talk to her beyond the bas I'm just not getting it from her. I've been through so much I'm really at a breaking point in terms of being able to put up with it. I'm sure she'd say the same thing. I always feel like there's a light at the end of the tunnel though, like things are getting better and I just need to hang in there. But we never seem to emerge. I'm terrified another decade goes by and it's like this and I find myself miserable and even more stuck. -Do I give her another chance and let my guard down, try to reconnect and move forward?",,19,2009p71,1624303097.0 +Do I give her another chance and let my guard down, try to reconnect and move forward?",,19,2009p71,2021-06-21 19:18:17 askMRP,o435jy,Messed up big time,"Looking for some input. Been together with girlfriend for 7 months, we moved in together 2 months ago because and the sex frequency gone downhill and I've gotten insecure about it Fast forward til Friday we were at a party and I got too drunk and basically the anger and resentment because of my needs were not met boiled on the surface and I lost my temper and told her to **** off forever. She left. @@ -72766,10 +72766,10 @@ I am pretty clueless here what to do. I am not interested in friendship and such I am going to the gym from today and will.buy no more.mr nice guy audiobook. -How should I act in this situation in terms of living together and she wanting to spend time but not intimately til i get my shit together?",,6,Shredderick420,1624186579.0 +How should I act in this situation in terms of living together and she wanting to spend time but not intimately til i get my shit together?",,6,Shredderick420,2021-06-20 10:56:19 askMRP,o3acbv,How do you guys deal with recurring problems and frustration?,"I think every marriage/LTR had those. Either she don't like how much time you give her, how much you compliment, the way your sister treats her or whatever. At some point after the same thing was brought up by her the 20'th time the frustration is built so much that every little thing feels for her like it already happened 1000 times and it creates drama. -Now I know not to give drama any room, but I wonder how do you guys deal with the frustration that comes from recurring problems like this. She no longer thinks how to fix this or believes it will change and the reactions become disproportionate.",,12,sobrage,1624086404.0 +Now I know not to give drama any room, but I wonder how do you guys deal with the frustration that comes from recurring problems like this. She no longer thinks how to fix this or believes it will change and the reactions become disproportionate.",,12,sobrage,2021-06-19 07:06:44 askMRP,o2tb1c,Plate brings up the topics of expensive gifts,"consider you are married but spinning plates. one plate brings up a topic as follows @@ -72786,7 +72786,7 @@ I think I should soft next this plate. As this is a red flag. What do you think ? about the situation and the reply I gave her. -Is it normal to buy expensive gifts to a plate ?",,0,iwiml,1624033598.0 +Is it normal to buy expensive gifts to a plate ?",,0,iwiml,2021-06-18 16:26:38 askMRP,o21m9i,Wife wants divorce because of sex life but i don't want to not see my kids everyday,"I lurk on my other main account but created this because i felt i needed to post. My wife (38) has been threatening to leave for years. When have two kids 7 and 12 yo boys. She makes more than double what I make (140-150k to my 65k though I have great benefits and a pension) so is absolutely fine on her own. She also owns a rental property that she asked me to run a while ago and I haven't. It's had vacant units for years because I just blew it off because we are fine financially. She works full time and picks up a few extra shifts for extra money as well @@ -72798,7 +72798,7 @@ She is post wall but has always had beta orbiters that to her credit she blocks/ Bottom.line is she wants to divorce. She says we will.split the kids 50/50. Sell the house/rental property split the money and just move on. I hate the idea of not seeing my kids every day. And it really.bothers me that she is going to destroy.our family over sex. So what can I do? Do i have to become someone else just to appease her? Is there a way to make her happy without imploding my own identity? She's a miserable person to be around. Well.for.me anyways she's great with the kids still (silly, fun saves all attitude for me). TLDR -Bitchy wife wants to leave because I don't fuck her enough but i don't want to not see my kids everyday",,8,throwaway_jaj,1623948157.0 +Bitchy wife wants to leave because I don't fuck her enough but i don't want to not see my kids everyday",,8,throwaway_jaj,2021-06-17 16:42:37 askMRP,nzx0m7,How do I get a life out of the house without my wife resenting me for it?,"TL;DR: SAHM/homeschooling wife spends all day with kids, has started giving me shit for leaving her with the kids ""on short notice"" if I want to do something in the evenings. I spent most of the past year and a half holed up in the house with my family (wife and 3 kids between ages 5-9) and though pandemic was a partial excuse, in many ways it was just a continuation of many prior years spent mostly at home and without many outside interests. @@ -72813,11 +72813,11 @@ In a similar vein, today I told her that I was making plans with my dad to take I'm trying to approach this from my own frame and I am not sure what more I can be doing here. In both situations I felt like I gave as much ""advance notice"" as I could.. it feels more like she is expecting me to ask permission to go out on my own. Her pre-pandemic activities haven't started back up yet, and maybe once she has her own chances to get out on nights by herself without the kids, I won't get as much grief. I get her perspective that she spends all day with the kids for school, and then has to get them dinner and handle bedtime after that.. but that's kind of how our life is set up and won't be changing anytime soon. We haven't gone on a date, or had any time as a couple away from the kids, since pre-pandemic, which is also probably amplifying whatever she is feeling about me getting a ""night off"" without her. -This is all a long way of saying.. I still have a lot of sidebar reading to do, but it seems apparent to me that a big part of being attractive, especially for someone working from home, is finding ways to get out and be an individual and pursue my own interests so that I have something new to bring back to the relationship. I still have a long way to go on that front; telling her what I shot on the front 9 doesn't count for much. How do I establish a life out of the house without feeling like I need my wife's permission?",,18,Cartographer419,1623704730.0 +This is all a long way of saying.. I still have a lot of sidebar reading to do, but it seems apparent to me that a big part of being attractive, especially for someone working from home, is finding ways to get out and be an individual and pursue my own interests so that I have something new to bring back to the relationship. I still have a long way to go on that front; telling her what I shot on the front 9 doesn't count for much. How do I establish a life out of the house without feeling like I need my wife's permission?",,18,Cartographer419,2021-06-14 21:05:30 askMRP,ny7dnv,Initiate or not initiate. Can't get my head around it.,"I'm posting here while I have a little hurdle that's slowing down and interferes with my progress. Came here because of a dead bedroom and resentful wife. Been here, lurking half-hearted for about a year and a serious progress took start about half a year ago. Took care about my severe weaknesses right away. Stopped whining about things and stopped being passive aggressive. Stopped obvious covert contracts like doing more chores with the expectations of getting laid. Learned to STFU and later on fogging, AA and AM as response to shittests. This has been really successful to the point that shittests are very rare nowadays. I am in a total different physique than one year ago and I have myself as a mental point of origin. I stopped falling for manipulation in both my career and social life. The thing that has not been effected is my dead bedroom. In fact I think my wife has started to enjoy shooting my initiations down. I can't fully get outcome independent around this. I tend to calibrate my evenings around sex, as I know I absolutely not should. But I can't do equation work on myself and still initiate often. When I get denied I have no problem to go do something else, but if I hadn't initiated I could do that earlier. -I think it would be much easier to stop initiating for a while and focus entirely on myself. Maybe for a month or two. Would that be a really dumb thing to do? I mean, I would continue the kino as before and I would definitely don't deny her sex if she comes to me.",,13,beardedbaboon,1623506406.0 +I think it would be much easier to stop initiating for a while and focus entirely on myself. Maybe for a month or two. Would that be a really dumb thing to do? I mean, I would continue the kino as before and I would definitely don't deny her sex if she comes to me.",,13,beardedbaboon,2021-06-12 14:00:06 askMRP,nxk5x2,Would Like Some Feedback,"Throwaway because wife and I frequent the same reddit forums. Me: Age 49, 6'2, 210lbs, runner, lift weights 3x a week, run 5+ miles 2 to 3 days a week. @@ -72836,7 +72836,7 @@ It's been about five days since that happened and she's been kissing on me more How did I do, and any thoughts on next steps? -**0 CommentsShareEdit PostSave**",,9,danielthrowaway47,1623429211.0 +**0 CommentsShareEdit PostSave**",,9,danielthrowaway47,2021-06-11 16:33:31 askMRP,nv1a74,Stuck between two shit tests," Me: 37 yo, 176cm, 75 kg, 18% BF, wife: SAHM 32, together 7 years, married 5 of them, 2 kids (G 4.5 yo, B1.5 yo) Reads : NMMNG (x2), MMSLP, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, currently reading The Rational Male @@ -72863,13 +72863,13 @@ If I disagree, I hold frame to my sister, but I don’t in front of my wife. The Where do I stand from my own mental point of origin ? I like the attention of asking me to be godfather, so my ego is flattered. I think I would be a good one, and I’m tempted. On the other hand I am still pissed at my family’s behaviour, except I’d prefer not to make this about them. -This is my situation, not sure how to handle this. Some voice in my head tells me that I should listen to my FO and do the thing I’m afraid of. I don’t want my life to be dictated by my fear.",,5,ImPissedOffALot,1623149453.0 +This is my situation, not sure how to handle this. Some voice in my head tells me that I should listen to my FO and do the thing I’m afraid of. I don’t want my life to be dictated by my fear.",,5,ImPissedOffALot,2021-06-08 10:50:53 askMRP,npfc9h,It is pretty much always wrong to reveal depression or sad thoughts to your wife?,"I know the conventional knowledge is generally no, but is that all there is to it? If you are building your life with someone shouldn't you be able to reveal to them when you have doubts, sadness etc about what is happening in life? -I've be going through some really rough shit with some deaths and falling outs with family and its getting to me, and when I told my wife about some of the depression I was feeling it turned into a small pile-on of other failings she see in me. Needless to say, put me in a worse mood but made me reflect whether you EVER talk about deep emotional shit with your woman.",,48,EX-FFguy,1622500863.0 +I've be going through some really rough shit with some deaths and falling outs with family and its getting to me, and when I told my wife about some of the depression I was feeling it turned into a small pile-on of other failings she see in me. Needless to say, put me in a worse mood but made me reflect whether you EVER talk about deep emotional shit with your woman.",,48,EX-FFguy,2021-05-31 22:41:03 askMRP,np7fps,What is the correct way of dealing with wife/ltr thinking of other men?,"When your wife or LTR has some sexual tension with another guy, maybe from work or something like this, and she understands this is not appropriate and she respects you but has a fantasy for him, and even tells you about it. What is the correct way to handle this? We're all human, after years together with the same partner it makes sense but then how do you deal with her saying or feeling stuff like this? -edit: what is up with all the spam? I think this is a legit question, I didn't find an answer in reading material so I ask here for some opinions.",,17,sobrage,1622478768.0 +edit: what is up with all the spam? I think this is a legit question, I didn't find an answer in reading material so I ask here for some opinions.",,17,sobrage,2021-05-31 16:32:48 askMRP,np9dmu,Ex is slut shaming new girl,"Asking for advice. Background: My ex and I broke things off about 10 months ago. We have a kid together, she ended things, I tried to get her back, didn't work, got angry, got over it. End of story. @@ -72890,7 +72890,7 @@ My thoughts are: 1. it doesn't matter what she did before me. 2. its entirely possible it isn't true. 3. if it is true and confronted, she's likely to lie and tell me what she thinks I want to hear. -4. I'll come off as an insecure jealous bitch if I bring it up.",,0,MPRtA1,1622484100.0 +4. I'll come off as an insecure jealous bitch if I bring it up.",,0,MPRtA1,2021-05-31 18:01:40 askMRP,ndijbg,Accidentally Tripping on the Nuke: Next Steps?,"31y, height: 186cm 83.1kg 15% bf, wife 28 married 2 years, together 7 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 95kg (3x5), Deadlift: 110kg (3x5), Bench Press: 62.5kg (3x5), Overhead Press: 50kg (5x3) @@ -72919,7 +72919,7 @@ Despite our issues, my wife is a good girl, which has made this hard for me. It The feelings are still raw at this point as it was only last night. Probably it’s just my own hamstering, or a feint hope that this can all be reversed and I will get what I want as she throws herself at me to give me anything I want in order to stay. The “stay” married version of MRP end game for me probably would have been one sided open marriage (officially or unofficially). But it would have taken me years of frame building to get to that point. And even if I got to that point with frame, maybe she wouldn’t have accepted it and left. If it is put on the table now, would it be fair for me to accept it? -So my questions for MRP are, what should I expect over the coming days and weeks as we work through our separation? Now that I’m in this position, what blind spots am I missing in which I could still get fucked over? To a lesser point, was it really okay for me to keep staying in the marriage even if I wasn’t all in? I’m focusing on the short term for now, as even still I have feelings of doubt and wonder of what I am doing. But I intend to stay the course and follow through on the divorce.",,16,TheActionNerd,1621147966.0 +So my questions for MRP are, what should I expect over the coming days and weeks as we work through our separation? Now that I’m in this position, what blind spots am I missing in which I could still get fucked over? To a lesser point, was it really okay for me to keep staying in the marriage even if I wasn’t all in? I’m focusing on the short term for now, as even still I have feelings of doubt and wonder of what I am doing. But I intend to stay the course and follow through on the divorce.",,16,TheActionNerd,2021-05-16 06:52:46 askMRP,n9ql71,Overheard my fiancé talking to her sister about our relationship; were LTR & engaged.,"Gentleman… I’m in a bit of a bind and I could use some guidance in the current situation I’m facing. For me, I (age 28 - height: 5’10 - weight: between 180-185~lbs, between 13-14% bf - 3 plate DL, 4 plate squat, 3 plate bench, 2 plate landmine, 2 plate row) have been with my LTR for 3.5 years (26, 5’5, 105lbs) and recently became engaged back in October. I have been reading TRP/MRP material for a handful of years now, prior to my current situation. I have read most of the books on the sidebar. @@ -72928,7 +72928,7 @@ Earlier last week, my LTR/fiancé was having a video call with her sister who li Needless to say, this was a bit of a surprise to hear. I didn’t overhear the entire conversation, but I heard enough to understand that my fiancé doesn’t seem to be fully on board with getting married. We don’t have a set date for the wedding, but we were planning dates for Spring of 2022 the last couple of months back. This has put a bit of a wet blanket on my situation as I’m not sure how I’m supposed to proceed forward. I’m guessing that this is all my fault? I accept that. I’m not really sure what to do from here other than keep focusing on myself. Suggestions, please? -Thank you, gentleman…",,8,Hyyveeee,1620714632.0 +Thank you, gentleman…",,8,Hyyveeee,2021-05-11 06:30:32 askMRP,n4um8d,"She doesn't matter and stop looking at her phone, right?","I remember hearing on the livestream that u/hornsofapathy and u/weakandsensitive want to see people post a pic of their bitch tits when they post on askmrp. [Here’s mine](https://imgur.com/) from \~1 year ago. Also, for u/weakandsensitive, u/PutABabyInThat and all you other [gordian knot cutters](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gordian_Knot) the simple answer that I think I really need is: **She doesn’t matter and stop looking at her phone.** @@ -72979,7 +72979,7 @@ I freaking hate thinking about myself making these statements because, at my sta I was not prepared to receive this overt communication from her like this. When she gets overt, and even if she’s spelling out things that are right, like I’m turning her off with validation seeking behavior, do I need to treat this seriously? Or do I just need to relax and be patient? I’m mitigating a lot of my unattractive behaviors and faking some of the other shit pretty good. I know in a day or two or next week I’m going to be rubbing on her butthole with my thumb and we’ll both be happy. So why should I worry about it at all, right? -My cheat code for this problem, and please tell me if it’s not this simple is: **She doesn’t matter and stop looking at her phone.** Right?",,27,ragnar_Daneskjold,1620150583.0 +My cheat code for this problem, and please tell me if it’s not this simple is: **She doesn’t matter and stop looking at her phone.** Right?",,27,ragnar_Daneskjold,2021-05-04 17:49:43 askMRP,n1yej9,was it a test?,"hey so I have no idea at all how to identify a test with the wife. none. I know they happen and I know I am passing them more now than before I was investing in myself. @@ -73046,7 +73046,7 @@ I really dont mind watching both kids, I mean there is a limit to it of course b &#x200B; -So was this interaction a test? I got no fucking idea because I suck at this. if it was we all laughed at it so I dont think it went poorly but would sure like to see these coming.... they wont all come in the form of a little joke (soft ball for sure)",,0,[deleted],1619802447.0 +So was this interaction a test? I got no fucking idea because I suck at this. if it was we all laughed at it so I dont think it went poorly but would sure like to see these coming.... they wont all come in the form of a little joke (soft ball for sure)",,0,[deleted],2021-04-30 17:07:27 askMRP,n1i4vi,get out of the house... how to?,"may seem like a silly question but a post came up in MRP about get the fuck out of your house to add some mystery. So my wife and I both work from home 2 kids she is on maternity leave.... I work during the day and she watches the youngest. @@ -73055,12 +73055,12 @@ I love the idea of going out but I am not sure where to go, what to do, and how I of course go see the dudes, go for runs, I did go into the office but for a guy that never just went out it would raise some odd looks. -Maybe this is a long term goal vs what I do tomorrow but legit how does one make room to go out? I think my head is filled with beta excuses on this.",,20,[deleted],1619741917.0 +Maybe this is a long term goal vs what I do tomorrow but legit how does one make room to go out? I think my head is filled with beta excuses on this.",,20,[deleted],2021-04-30 00:18:37 askMRP,n0wwvg,Tips for wanting marriage & family life.,"First off, a little info on me… I’m 29 years old (5’11/190lbs/13-14%~bf - lift heavy regularly, and have read most of the books on the sidebar — finished Book of Pook last week actually). Currently, I’m getting myself established in my career and moving forward on that front. My main priority right now is to keep the hammer down on improving my SMV (i.e. via lifting, hobbies, always practicing gaming, etc.) and to go after my goals financially and professionally. At some point, I would like to have a family life. I’m not pushing to get married (not legally through the state) and having kids right now, but I’m open to the opportunity down the road. As of now, I’m spinning plates and dating a bunch of different women. That has all I have really wanted for the last few years. Not to mention, the majority of the girls I have dated haven’t really shown LTR potential, let alone someone I would want to be with long term and have kids. -Since MRP has more experienced guys over here compared to any of the TRP subreddits, I am curious to get some tips around picking a woman that is suited for your lifestyle of wanting family life/kids. What are some good strategies when it comes to vetting women that are wife-stock (so to speak)? From those of you around here that are married and have kids, what were some things you looked for out of your wife before committing and breeding with her? Thanks in advance.",,6,Ted_Turner4,1619671070.0 +Since MRP has more experienced guys over here compared to any of the TRP subreddits, I am curious to get some tips around picking a woman that is suited for your lifestyle of wanting family life/kids. What are some good strategies when it comes to vetting women that are wife-stock (so to speak)? From those of you around here that are married and have kids, what were some things you looked for out of your wife before committing and breeding with her? Thanks in advance.",,6,Ted_Turner4,2021-04-29 04:37:50 askMRP,mxz1ya,Question about being in a relationship/engaged with someone who is hitting the wall?,"A little about me: 35M, 6'1 205lbs (13%bf & finished bulking/lift 4 x a week), excelling in my career (6 figure salary), have a few hobbies I'm working on (one of which is working on my helicopter license). I have read all of the course prerequisites, along with the Book of Pook, 48 Laws, the entire Rational Male series, and 16 commandements. --- @@ -73076,8 +73076,8 @@ Being that she is 30, she probably is about to hit her wall. I’ve noticed more Should I cut ties with my fiancé and pursue these better options, especially since career-wise I could eventually be C-level at my firm? I do feel emotionally connected to her and we are aligned in many ways but I don’t want to be “purchasing” old goods when I have better options physically. She wants to eventually become a mother, I also want kids, but I just want to maximize my options. I understand that I took 4 years of part of her “prime” life, but I also want to keep my options open as my SMV has been increasing a lot over the last few years. -Have any of you been in this situation before? If so, what's the best approach to take when making a decision like this? Thanks!",,2,BuskGlobe,1619318393.0 -askMRP,muq52b,Thoughts on whether to have kids,"GF wants to have a baby. I do like kids but I'm worried about what I have to give up, mainly in terms of sex. Sex live is pretty good currently (every 2-3 days on average) and high quality. Reading up online it sounds like a kid is the fastest way to a dead bedroom. Curious what experiences here have been. Do you regret having kids? Did you have doubts before?",,11,Numerous_Reindeer581,1618924813.0 +Have any of you been in this situation before? If so, what's the best approach to take when making a decision like this? Thanks!",,2,BuskGlobe,2021-04-25 02:39:53 +askMRP,muq52b,Thoughts on whether to have kids,"GF wants to have a baby. I do like kids but I'm worried about what I have to give up, mainly in terms of sex. Sex live is pretty good currently (every 2-3 days on average) and high quality. Reading up online it sounds like a kid is the fastest way to a dead bedroom. Curious what experiences here have been. Do you regret having kids? Did you have doubts before?",,11,Numerous_Reindeer581,2021-04-20 13:20:13 askMRP,mlpm35,Ungratefulness to the MAX,"As time goes on; more and more stuff from TRP begin to click and make sense to me. I've been married going on 2 years now. I am an electrical engineer and my wife is a data analyst. She is older than me and graduated before I did with a math degree. Her GPA wasn't that great and she didn't co op or intern anywhere so finding employment upon graduation went horribly for her. She ended up working at a bank as a teller. Her student loan debt is through the roof. Literally living on the poverty line. Fast forward a couple years later and I am getting ready to graduate. I already have an engineering position lined up; later making 6 figures. Money starts rolling in and life changes over night. I buy a house BY MYSELF for us. Our home is gorgeous and I am very handy. All repairs, tools, maintenance is handled 100% by me. I live there for a whole year before she even moves in (pre marriage). I buy her a ring. I agree to a wedding even though I think it is a huge waste of money. I even convince my company to giver her a shot in an analyst position and now her salary/lifestyle changes overnight. She pulls in about 80k now. @@ -73086,7 +73086,7 @@ Because her debt is so high, I told her all she needs to pay is water/internet. She has yet to change her last name and says she will change it when she is added to the deed of the house. I refuse. She doesn't clean; cooks regularly but that's literally it. I feel as though I have literally pulled her out the gutter but she's never satisfied. How quickly she's forgot what her life was like before I saved us. -Is this normal?",,26,ErrythingPhroze,1617754171.0 +Is this normal?",,26,ErrythingPhroze,2021-04-07 00:09:31 askMRP,migqhn,Lot to unpack here,"**Background** \- 33 years old incel nice guy, beta orbited a colleague for months and got friendzoned. I went no contact with her for a month during which time I discovered TRP and my world turned upside down. Anger phase during that time propelled me to make some massive changes which helped me get her when I came in to contact with her again. Got ED while trying to have sex with her due to massive anxiety and insecurities. But finally did manage to have sex with her using viagra. She got super attached to me during that time which stonewalled me and I started thinking I can do better than her with all this TRP knowledge I got and subsequently I fucked up. @@ -73111,7 +73111,7 @@ Not understanding lot of my emotions. I know it's over but my mind still keeps o I thought I knew what needs to be done but looking at the position I am in I need literal hand holding to move forward. -Reading through all the OYS posts it felt like all kind of guys wash up here and then there's me.",,11,RandomDude11111,1617355564.0 +Reading through all the OYS posts it felt like all kind of guys wash up here and then there's me.",,11,RandomDude11111,2021-04-02 09:26:04 askMRP,meswp1,Sexless in the 20s,"*I've been scouring the forums for about a month here, but I don't think I've read up on a situation quite like mine. Nothing unique here though: Have 3 young kinds, no sex in over a year. Pandemic made everything worse. I need to do something different.* **Background:** Me - 39, 6' 179, second marriage. Gyms all closed so I walk and do yard work (e.g. lost a massive oak and I've turned it into firewood.) Her - 31, 5'6"" Was 140 she may actually be close to me at this point. Married 4.5y dated 3 before that. Twins born 2017, single born last year. @@ -73142,7 +73142,7 @@ She never was a huge shit tester, and I'm 80% sure I'm passing them again. I thi * I've been flirtier with my wife every day since reading back the comments here. She's receptive, so I guess that shows me how useless sitting around waiting has been. So, it's given me the confidence to also try to initiate, with more genuine OI than before, only to find her asleep... on the couch or in bed in the time it takes me to brush my teeth. * Yesterday, she mentioned to my cousin's wife that this kid has been by far the hardest to cope with. Compared to fucking twins, I was kind of surprised. So later I asked her about it -- at a time when I would have tried to make a move. ""I've never been so tired in my life,"" she began... and spent time going through our entire year and how everything that could have been hard about a baby's first year, was. I couldn't disagree. She ended with, ""Thank you. I love your calmness. I love you. I'm going to bed."" * My ""calmness"" is bullshit. I realized I've been so fucking angry this whole year. And she knows it too, despite what she said. Thinking about it, I realized it meant ""your attempt to be 'calm' is cool and all,"" but I gather she saw right through it. -* Finally, fuck all y'all. My neckbeard hobbies are awesome.",,14,PeacockPuncher,1616899683.0 +* Finally, fuck all y'all. My neckbeard hobbies are awesome.",,14,PeacockPuncher,2021-03-28 02:48:03 askMRP,me2h59,What is going on?!,"(36, 5'10, 200, out of shape, not lifting) Just discovered MRP as a newbie and find a lot of the themes do seem on point. Respect to the community for helping men out there. I did some searching through archetypes but I have no clue how to characterize my situation. @@ -73176,18 +73176,18 @@ I'm pretty sure my happiness is capped with this woman. I was kind of pressured I definitely fucked up my relationship in many ways. But at the end of this road I'm more like ""I'm successful. Fine women like successful men who practice game. Fuck it on to the next"" instead of ""Let's salvage this marriage please have sex with me and respect me."" And I do need to work on my fitness and some suboptimal habits that crept in but I'm mostly happy with my approach and situation. -Maybe I'm just a selfish cunt considering I am a father of two. But I'm pretty sure my wife realizes all this and is looking for a way to work her way back in.",,6,MRPisgoodforMe,1616804922.0 +Maybe I'm just a selfish cunt considering I am a father of two. But I'm pretty sure my wife realizes all this and is looking for a way to work her way back in.",,6,MRPisgoodforMe,2021-03-27 00:28:42 askMRP,mcmzwr,Headspace is a little confused right now,"Wife told me a month ago that she doesn't feel an emotional connection with me. We were trying to work on it, she said I needed to give her more words of affirmation. She had gone through some stuff at work, got some counselling, and got back into painting and music as therapy. It made her realize how much she missed it, and that she had only stopped long ago because everyone in that scene was into heroin, and she wanted nothing to do with it. I'm not an artistic guy, nor musical, though I can appreciate it. We had set up a meeting with a marriage counselor, even though I have been trying to work on some of my unattractive behaviors. I even told her (stupid, should have STFU) that I can point to where I changed behaviors when we started dating, because I was worried about the attention I was getting from women, and didn't want to cheat on her. This morning, she comes out with the fact that a month ago she was messaged by her old fiance 12 hours away. It made her realize that I would never have the connection with her that she needed, as he was artistic, etc, and had gotten clean. I responded that it was a load of cliched bullshit, but if that was the case, we might as well split up. I said that we had a connection once, but that it faded and it was up to her if she wanted to try and work on it. She responded that she didn't think that it could be done. Maybe if it had been done years ago. We started discussing the logistics. Neither of us is wanting to screw the other over, there wouldn't be any alimony as she makes not much less than me, and we would split custody. -I get that I was not leading and I was not giving her the feelz and all that other stuff. But my question is, if this is something worth saving, can it be? I can't help but think I should have responded differently",,4,Fixinmashit,1616637373.0 -askMRP,maab26,MMSLP,"It seems like a lot of MRP is based off of MMSLP but I've seen it referenced as ""dancing monkey."" Where does MMSLP get it wrong?",,5,[deleted],1616372882.0 +I get that I was not leading and I was not giving her the feelz and all that other stuff. But my question is, if this is something worth saving, can it be? I can't help but think I should have responded differently",,4,Fixinmashit,2021-03-25 01:56:13 +askMRP,maab26,MMSLP,"It seems like a lot of MRP is based off of MMSLP but I've seen it referenced as ""dancing monkey."" Where does MMSLP get it wrong?",,5,[deleted],2021-03-22 00:28:02 askMRP,m851yo,Is there a masculine version of /r/malefashionadvice ?,"That sub used to be okay but it's been taken over by kids who are going out of their way to look like bums and genderfluid whatevers. -Anyone have an equivalent resource but for men who are working on being men?",,58,sven_igortsen,1616114042.0 +Anyone have an equivalent resource but for men who are working on being men?",,58,sven_igortsen,2021-03-19 00:34:02 askMRP,m5q9e9,Deciding between the single life vs. getting married at 35,"Been a TRP follower for a few years now, and thought for several years there was no way I was going to get married given all the negatives and risks, and how few benefits there are for men. However, after recently hitting 35 and doing well in my career and, I'll admit, seeing so many of friends and colleagues get engaged/married and start having kids in the last couple of years, I started to reconsider if the risks of marriage and kids may still be worth it, as long as they considered and accepted/mitigated up front. I come from a South Asian background, so it's definitely possible to find a virgin or at most n=1 type girl to import. @@ -73196,7 +73196,7 @@ I fully recognize that marriage is TRP on hard mode, and that many people who ge At 35 I feel like I'm at a crossroads, where my SMV is near its peak in terms of youth, physical fitness, career, etc. - all things considered together. I could go down the traditional route (except the part about becoming lazy and fat - no way in hell I'll stop lifting), or just stay single and spin plates for a few more years. -Curious if anyone else went through this 'crossroads' - what did you decide to do and how did you think about it?",,9,ThenIJizzedInMyPants,1615830123.0 +Curious if anyone else went through this 'crossroads' - what did you decide to do and how did you think about it?",,9,ThenIJizzedInMyPants,2021-03-15 17:42:03 askMRP,m5bvr9,Long Puke: Is it possible to fix a marriage in which wife has lost respect/admiration for husband?,"Hi gents, I have been lurking MRP for a while, and appreciate that this forum is here for us neophytes to vent and ask advice of other men on this journey. This is a rant/puke, but also a request for thoughts and advice. @@ -73217,8 +73217,8 @@ All of this reached a peak two weeks ago. I realized I was doing nearly all the I recognize I can't change her, only myself, and much of her behavior is a natural female response to a neutered, weak man. My question is - where do I go from here? I've diagnosed the issues and I'm taking my first steps toward improvement - getting the books, consuming tons of podcasts, and more importantly, making daily changes in every aspect of my life and implementing the advice I read. However, can this marriage be saved and turned around? Or is this a case where it is too late and I need to look past the horizon once I've rebuilt myself as a man? -This may be blue pill or overly emotive, but in my eyes, this woman is still the gold standard, and I'd go through hell and back to save our marriage. Despite all the weakness and personal issues I've shared above, there's still in my soul that core, masculine trait that says ""I'd take a bullet for her and my family, and I wouldn't think twice."" I'm confident I can do the work and improve myself, but haunted by the fear that although it's not too late for me, what if it is too late to recapture the spark in my marriage?",,22,Finding_Fluid,1615779595.0 -askMRP,m49olx,Dread Question,Does a woman need to view the person given attention as the same or higher value as themselves for dread to work?,,3,[deleted],1615652952.0 +This may be blue pill or overly emotive, but in my eyes, this woman is still the gold standard, and I'd go through hell and back to save our marriage. Despite all the weakness and personal issues I've shared above, there's still in my soul that core, masculine trait that says ""I'd take a bullet for her and my family, and I wouldn't think twice."" I'm confident I can do the work and improve myself, but haunted by the fear that although it's not too late for me, what if it is too late to recapture the spark in my marriage?",,22,Finding_Fluid,2021-03-15 03:39:55 +askMRP,m49olx,Dread Question,Does a woman need to view the person given attention as the same or higher value as themselves for dread to work?,,3,[deleted],2021-03-13 16:29:12 askMRP,m47odl,"I might have screwed up, how should I proceed","**TLDR;** I mentioned the captain/first-mate dynamic to my submissive fiance. We already had that kind of dynamic going but saying it out in the open got her defensive. She has brought it up since then when she was drunk. Not sure if I should ignore it and swat down shit tests surrounding it, or if I should approach it directly. \---------------------------------------------------- @@ -73239,7 +73239,7 @@ So I'm just looking for some guidance here. I have been spergy in the past when Now that I put it out in the open should I tell her ""this is how it is, if you don't like it, there's the door"" or should I just try to forget about it and just pass her shit tests surrounding it? My first instinct is to approach it directly, but that may be a big mistake so I am hoping you guys can help me out. The thing is she is submissive to me and we have a household that fits the captain/first-mate dynamic, but now that it was said in the open I may have totally fucked that up. -Thanks guys",,3,Milkman-Of-Chlamydia,1615646856.0 +Thanks guys",,3,Milkman-Of-Chlamydia,2021-03-13 14:47:36 askMRP,m24wbm,Analysis paralysis over focusing on career or trying to start a business,"Note to Mods - I've asked this on asktrp as well but also wanted to get answers from guys who are likely older and (hopefully) wiser than I. &nbsp; @@ -73257,7 +73257,7 @@ This then leads me to business. Obviously the earning potential is immense and w &nbsp; -All in all, I'm at a loss of which route to take. I've been deliberating over this for quite a bit recently and it would be helpful to hear from those who have tread a similar path.",,3,[deleted],1615401415.0 +All in all, I'm at a loss of which route to take. I've been deliberating over this for quite a bit recently and it would be helpful to hear from those who have tread a similar path.",,3,[deleted],2021-03-10 18:36:55 askMRP,m19ddx,Need some advice on my dodgy marriage..,"I’m having problems in my marriage, and feel like I’m stuck in a situation that I can’t move forward on without absolutely destroying everything I currently know and love. We’ve been married for 15 years, and have an eight year old child together. During this time, I know that she’s probably had a fairly serious online (and more?) affair with someone who was my best friend, exchanged erotic emails with someone else, had another ‘emotional’ affair with someone else for a year or so, and my gut tells me she had some kind of fling with a dude she worked with. @@ -73274,10 +73274,10 @@ I know for a fact if I sit down and tell her all of this, she’ll freak out and Any and all advice appreciated… -TDLR; Can’t bring myself to continue a marriage with a women I don’t trust, who doesn’t really love me, and need some advice on how to move forward.",,13,Cultural-Panda-8177,1615305353.0 +TDLR; Can’t bring myself to continue a marriage with a women I don’t trust, who doesn’t really love me, and need some advice on how to move forward.",,13,Cultural-Panda-8177,2021-03-09 15:55:53 askMRP,m0lv9l,Cialdini's Influence,"I just read ""Influence"" by Robert Cialdini and it was illuminating. It was easy to see both my unconscious use of manipulative techniques and susceptibility to them, as well as my desire to socially disconnect when in situations I feel I may be easily manipulated. However, while reading, I had suspicions that while there are similarities, there are also core differences in the way the sexes respond to the various click…whirr influence factors. I wish the research in the book had assessed sexual differences. -I'm looking for well-researched works that explore these topics further and I'm curious if anyone knows of a book/research/etc that explores similar phenomenon but does its examination through a sexually dimorphic lens?",,12,Beneficial_Secret_81,1615226958.0 +I'm looking for well-researched works that explore these topics further and I'm curious if anyone knows of a book/research/etc that explores similar phenomenon but does its examination through a sexually dimorphic lens?",,12,Beneficial_Secret_81,2021-03-08 18:09:18 askMRP,lzi920,Hammer landed on wedding ring,"Last night the wedding ring was hammered into a wedding metal strip. Two weeks earlier: I have been reading MRP and some stories really connected with me, I also had a lazy bedroom and the wife felling entitled to gifts ad praises. I recognized that I have dropped the ball and started to implement what I learned here right away. @@ -73288,12 +73288,12 @@ She responded to my changes by not lifting a finger even more than usual. For ov Yesterday she wanted me to take her to a restaurant for dinner, I could not believe my ears, I responded with STFU and later made a meal only for myself instead. Next thing I know she grabbed a hammer and smashed the wedding ring a few times. -Not sure what that means, time will show. For now I will continue to work on myself and the house.",,20,anm767,1615088182.0 +Not sure what that means, time will show. For now I will continue to work on myself and the house.",,20,anm767,2021-03-07 03:36:22 askMRP,lws7th,Specific shit test response,"So my wife's all-time favorite shit-test is asking/responding with ""why are mad/angry/crabby/grumpy?"" Now, there are times when she is definitely picking up on my actual mood, and I realize there are frame issues I need to fix. However, she asks that at other times where it is a definite shit-test (50-75%of the time). My response has usually been no or some other negative response, occasionally with a joking ""I'm furiously mad"", to which she usually responds with repeating the accusation, ""well, you just seem mad"", and then we just broken record each other 2-4 times each. -So, I ask the sages of askMRP/MRP, is there a better approach/response?",,11,blue_hippocrates,1614772737.0 +So, I ask the sages of askMRP/MRP, is there a better approach/response?",,11,blue_hippocrates,2021-03-03 11:58:57 askMRP,lx8vg5,"STFU, lift, sidebar","It's so important to focus on these things before making any drastic changes to your life or your behaviour. Honestly, the sudden change in knowledge can be arrogance building and it's easy to leave the hard work behind before you are ready. Try to do this as minimally as possible. As we've all seen over and over again, STFU, lift, sidebar, needs to be the focus because I am the problem. @@ -73302,7 +73302,7 @@ And that isn't gonna change without focusing on the material and the actions. An Edit: -Thank you",,0,TakeHimRoundBack,1614819412.0 +Thank you",,0,TakeHimRoundBack,2021-03-04 00:56:52 askMRP,lkkduw,"Not married, but really like a girl who used to want a relationship (and I didn't, long-term) and now she just sees me as a friend who fucks her well. Insight from MRP?","Hey brothers, new here. Familiar with TRP and PUA from the last few years. I'll try to keep this semi-concise: * Dated a girl for a couple months. Took her virginity too. Didn't see a long term future with her (not sure I'll ever marry any girl, but we'll see) and treated her more like an exclusive fuckbuddy / semi-girlfriend. But in the moment we did tell each other we loved each other (and I definitely did feel that romantic love for her, and was fully romantically/sexually satisfied with her). @@ -73320,12 +73320,12 @@ Edit: some of you guys are toxic as fuck and seem to have serious anger issues ( No need for more comments unless you actually have interesting things to say. If you're just gonna call me a faggot, maybe go sort your own life out first -Edit 2: LOOOOL okay ban me for using the word ""faqqot"" in the context of calling out OTHER people calling me that word here. You guys are ridiculous. In any case like I said in multiple places, some of these comments actually helped me figure things out, and I sparked an interesting discussion before the banhammer came down, so I don't really care you banned me, I'm happy I posted. Thanks again to those who legit helped. Lmfao.",,10,purplepilldthrowaway,1613415607.0 +Edit 2: LOOOOL okay ban me for using the word ""faqqot"" in the context of calling out OTHER people calling me that word here. You guys are ridiculous. In any case like I said in multiple places, some of these comments actually helped me figure things out, and I sparked an interesting discussion before the banhammer came down, so I don't really care you banned me, I'm happy I posted. Thanks again to those who legit helped. Lmfao.",,10,purplepilldthrowaway,2021-02-15 19:00:07 askMRP,lgfdwl,Bipolar,"My gf has bipolar disorder and has had some truly evil shit happen to her that made her the way she is. Her parents are also going through a divorce. I have had to wrestle pills and knives out her hand multiple times to prevent suicide attempts stemming from arguments. Lately because of MRP these incidents that would have happened every few days/weeks have only happened once in the past ~4 months. She wasn’t like this the first few months. She used to enjoy intimacy and craved it more than I did. Now it’s almost been 3 years and I feel like I’m just this idiot chasing a fantasy that she’ll return to the woman she showed me before. -Intimacy is a lot better because of this sub but I need to be able to control this specifically. What am I missing? Am I fucking up in some way that causes this?",,7,MarcoDarco333,1612910113.0 +Intimacy is a lot better because of this sub but I need to be able to control this specifically. What am I missing? Am I fucking up in some way that causes this?",,7,MarcoDarco333,2021-02-09 22:35:13 askMRP,lcjy97,What the fuck am I doing?,"Just wrote out a fuck load of text. Deleted it all. Spent a few minutes reading MRP. Saw the action orientation. Now I'm looking around at my own life like, what the fuck am I doing? I need to start taking action because I'm stalling for a good enough reason to take action. @@ -73336,7 +73336,7 @@ I've always loved competing. I've always fought. But lately, I've faced things t Does anybody here know how to come back from nothing when you feel you got nothing left to fight with? I've never felt this depleted in my life. -Holla anyone else who is post narc abuse. The ghosts.",,27,TakeHimRoundBack,1612457313.0 +Holla anyone else who is post narc abuse. The ghosts.",,27,TakeHimRoundBack,2021-02-04 16:48:33 askMRP,ladpsf,What is an acceptable frequency to visit family when married?,"31y, temporary not lifting because of pandemy, good career in technology. .. @@ -73353,7 +73353,7 @@ By the way, I am a only child and She has 3 sisters. I'm very comfortable with v What do you think about it ? -TL;DR Wife complaining about the frequency we see her family and friends. I'm worried that will be worse when we have kids.",,14,vigilantfox,1612212553.0 +TL;DR Wife complaining about the frequency we see her family and friends. I'm worried that will be worse when we have kids.",,14,vigilantfox,2021-02-01 20:49:13 askMRP,l98j52,Views from outside the US?,"Since this is askmrp... Yes, I lift and I have a PT to make sure I stay honest to myself; yes I have read it all and then some; yes, current dread level 7 that I still consider passive; and yes I do have hobbies and friends. I have done my mistakes, and have my shit together in general. Enough to cut the shit short? My question is not about ""why my sex life is bad?"" but about cultural context. A lot of this discussion is rooted in the US culture. The principles of interpersonal dynamics do apply everywhere, but divorce legislation and practicalities are quite different in where I live. Typically both parents work, and in case of divorce it is quite common to have kids 50/50, split of assets that were accumulated during the marriage, and no crippling alimony. Problem cases exist, and your mileage may vary. In general people do not get material reward because of divorce. Typically the quality of life decreases or stays the same - your debt level just goes up. And that's for both. @@ -73362,7 +73362,7 @@ I also feel that our culture is one step behind from what takes place in the US. So, is there a society or sources that would be suitable for environment like this? I love MMSLP and Rollo's first year. Would be great to experience how other people in contexts outside US have experienced all this. Are there sources you can recommend or experiences that helped you improve/internalize or even let you help others to unplug? -In addition to the usual bashing, I expect some nuggets of gold here 😉",,7,Childe-,1612083214.0 +In addition to the usual bashing, I expect some nuggets of gold here 😉",,7,Childe-,2021-01-31 08:53:34 askMRP,l6vxjm,Got married but not feeling it anymore?,"I got married around a year ago. Had to do long distance because my wife and I were sticking during covid. @@ -73379,17 +73379,17 @@ Should I quit? Or just see it out and hope things will change? She does everything a wife should. No bedroom issues etc. -But I don’t enjoy having someone telling me what to do, always in my space etc. I miss being alone.",,0,makes_u_laugh,1611838658.0 +But I don’t enjoy having someone telling me what to do, always in my space etc. I miss being alone.",,0,makes_u_laugh,2021-01-28 12:57:38 askMRP,l6xgf0,Relocation to China,"So apparently China is now doing [Anal Swab COVID Tests](https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2021/1/28/chinese-cities-using-anal-swabs-to-screen-covid-infections) I have my passport and think I can get a VISA very easily. Looking for advice on the best places to get happy ending massages while I am there as well as the best places to get twins. -TIA",,0,red-sfpplus,1611842844.0 +TIA",,0,red-sfpplus,2021-01-28 14:07:24 askMRP,l5wlgy,LTR having a messy living space,"I’m not sure how to handle this situation -Hi, living with LTR for awhile. Things are chill other than she is rather a messy person to live with. I’ve tried communicating that this is a pet peeve of mine and would like for both of us (empathized both because I’m trying to avoid defensive behaviour) to keep the house cleaner. She often uses long work hours and depression as an excuse. I’ve seen on our Wyze camera evenings while I’m at work of her just bulls hitting on the phone. I’m unsure how to approach this to have a successful outcome. Am I just being a bitch about this? Do I need to like scold her or something? I’m lost",,5,unknown8791,1611722682.0 +Hi, living with LTR for awhile. Things are chill other than she is rather a messy person to live with. I’ve tried communicating that this is a pet peeve of mine and would like for both of us (empathized both because I’m trying to avoid defensive behaviour) to keep the house cleaner. She often uses long work hours and depression as an excuse. I’ve seen on our Wyze camera evenings while I’m at work of her just bulls hitting on the phone. I’m unsure how to approach this to have a successful outcome. Am I just being a bitch about this? Do I need to like scold her or something? I’m lost",,5,unknown8791,2021-01-27 04:44:42 askMRP,l4uchv,GF feels pressured into having sex,"I'm not married but posting here because people here seem to know more about relationships rather than just casual dating. Stats: 37/5′ 9/150lbs/I do lift, decent shape, great job. @@ -73420,14 +73420,14 @@ So I'm not sure that increasing dread/game is really gonna fix anything. The other useful thing I found here is that do very much rely on sex as validation, that's definitely something I want to work on to not become as needy in that regard. -Anyway, this hasn't gone on for too long and maybe I should just chill, take off the pressure, work on my stuff, and see at what level she initiates sex at.",,8,CockroachDazzling,1611600169.0 +Anyway, this hasn't gone on for too long and maybe I should just chill, take off the pressure, work on my stuff, and see at what level she initiates sex at.",,8,CockroachDazzling,2021-01-25 18:42:49 askMRP,l307vd,Dominance & affection,"First of all sorry for my English. I just wanted to ask if any of you has seen her wife/gf being much more needy in terms of afection after fucking her in a dominant way. It has already happened to me 2 times out of 2 times I fucked her in a dominant way. It also strikes me because when she loves it when i dominate her but after it seems like she regrets it. My guess is that it is just the hamster since i came in her mouth the first time and gave her a facial the second (both of them things i always wanted to do but she never allowed). -Any thoughts are appreciated! Thank you!",,6,[deleted],1611359007.0 +Any thoughts are appreciated! Thank you!",,6,[deleted],2021-01-22 23:43:27 askMRP,l193n1,Advice on living with ex during divorce,"Hey fellas, The details are really simple. Caught her sexting male colleagues. Filed for divorce. We now sleep in separate bedrooms. We have no kids together. Neither of us want to be together. I don't for obvious reasons and she doesn't because she doesn't want to carry the guilt. @@ -73438,7 +73438,7 @@ My request for advice is living under the same roof with someone I am married to I would benefit from some tough advice and if that results in being called a faggot then so be it, but some practical ""how to be around the house with your ex while holding frame"" would be appreciated. -Sorry if this is a wall of text. I'm on mobile.",,6,S4z3r4c,1611149090.0 +Sorry if this is a wall of text. I'm on mobile.",,6,S4z3r4c,2021-01-20 13:24:50 askMRP,kysl59,Share school fees custody,"Hello guys, Divorced for two years now and have 50% shared custody. @@ -73460,7 +73460,7 @@ Ok guys, I get it that I successfully and easily joined the faggots/retarded clu So if you have something to do with that upvote the other people or if you have a new humiliations, I would be happy to see it. -Otherwise I am asking what are the lessons learned when it comes to extra payments with exs, do you do it normally, what do you take into consideration, law, relation with your frame in dynamics, etc...",,1,[deleted],1610834934.0 +Otherwise I am asking what are the lessons learned when it comes to extra payments with exs, do you do it normally, what do you take into consideration, law, relation with your frame in dynamics, etc...",,1,[deleted],2021-01-16 22:08:54 askMRP,koqjae,Can I have a good life and maintain sexual relationships with TMAU? Feeling hopeless,"I’m not married but I came here because I imagine most men here will be my senior (I’m 24) and I feel the advice I receive here will be better, over at asktrp it usually seems like teenagers that comment. So I have TMAU type 2. TMAU is basically a metabolism defect which prevents me from metabolizing certain substances which in turn make my breath, body and sweat smell pretty bad. At its best it’s a very musty smell at its worst it’s literally garbage. Ever smell a dead mouse? .. yeah.. @@ -73471,7 +73471,7 @@ I have been feeling kind of hopeless lately as everywhere I go I’m treated as Surprisingly since I’ve had this issue I’ve hooked up with one girl and had another show heavy interest but I couldn’t follow through because this just kills my self esteem. -Currently I don’t work, date, have friends or even go to the gym anymore because of this which is a complete 180 to the person I was prior to this beginning. Im hoping I can cure it but if I can’t..I just don’t know how to live the next 50+ years like this and could really use some advice. Thank you.",,20,mytrowawayforstuff,1609560874.0 +Currently I don’t work, date, have friends or even go to the gym anymore because of this which is a complete 180 to the person I was prior to this beginning. Im hoping I can cure it but if I can’t..I just don’t know how to live the next 50+ years like this and could really use some advice. Thank you.",,20,mytrowawayforstuff,2021-01-02 04:14:34 askMRP,kl0emx,[911] Told that girlfriend cheated back home during holidays,"Info on me - 28 years old, 5’10 - 175lbs (12%bf) and read most the books on the sidebar (except 48 laws and mindful attraction plan). I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for over three years now (she is 27F) and we both live abroad (Canada, from Panama). We met back in university over five years ago when we initially were hooking up before we got into a relationship a year or so later. We moved in together earlier this year (February) prior to the lockdowns and pandemic issues that have come this year. @@ -73480,8 +73480,8 @@ A few months back, my girlfriend mentioned that she wanted to go back home for t I got a text from an old friend of mine back home, who was at a small get-together with some friends that my girlfriend was at with a couple of her friends. He texted me saying that my girlfriend was sitting on the lap of a guy there and even made out with her a bit. I asked if he had any pictures or video and he said no, just take my word. I’m not sure what I should do in this situation since I’m prepared on one hand to move out of our place before she comes back next weekend, or stay put for the time being. Have any of you been in this situation before? If so, what’s the best way to go about it? -Thank you.",,9,shauunnn,1609058796.0 -askMRP,khz0jf,Is my marriage salvageable?,,/r/asktrp/comments/khu148/can_i_repair_my_marriage_after_discovering_my/,15,Delicious_Freedom635,1608615050.0 +Thank you.",,9,shauunnn,2020-12-27 08:46:36 +askMRP,khz0jf,Is my marriage salvageable?,,/r/asktrp/comments/khu148/can_i_repair_my_marriage_after_discovering_my/,15,Delicious_Freedom635,2020-12-22 05:30:50 askMRP,kbhvv1,Starting Red Pill with an infant,"Wife and I have a 3 week old infant. Have had sex about 5 times since she got pregnant, last time months ago. Job shifted to work from home in March. Gyms finally started opening up again around here so I'm back to that, although there is tons of resistance with me going to the gym after working all day. I've read NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP (currently re-reading), Rollo, WOTSM and a few others. This year I became very beta especially when my martial arts gym and regular gym closed and I was working from home and just being home 24/7. I am beginning to reread Red Pill material. @@ -73490,16 +73490,16 @@ My question is this: Does anyone have tips on implementing Red Pill lifestyle wh At this point, I don't care to be married anymore, but would like to save the marriage if possible for the sake of my daughter. Is it selfish to hit the gym 3-4x /wk with a newborn? Is the total 180 going to force a break/divorce if I go too hard right now? -Just looking for tips from guys who tried to turn their life around with an infant in the picture. Thanks all.",,14,tabula_rasa_889,1607743939.0 +Just looking for tips from guys who tried to turn their life around with an infant in the picture. Thanks all.",,14,tabula_rasa_889,2020-12-12 03:32:19 askMRP,k5pbwy,Suggestions for getting a life,"I'll cut to the chase. I have no life. Not a lot of friends, and the ones I do have are holed up quarantining. My job shifted to a work from home environment. I've been working from home since March. Wife and I have an infant daughter. We fucked maybe 5 or so times since she got pregnant. Last time was months ago. Yep, I'm a fucking loser. Yeah, I'm pissed, but I'm moving past the angry part, given that I am not attractive, I can see why my wife wouldn't want to fuck me. I now want to just address the problem, apply some real solutions. I was doing kettlebells at home for a while which was ok since I managed to find a 40kg bell which could give an ok workout, but since gyms opened up recently, I'm now back to doing squats, deadlifts, bench and others. Yes I'm still a weak fuck but working on it. -My question is this: What are some good activities to join to actually, you know, have a life? I used to do boxing and muay thai but that gym stopped with covid. Also, as kid gets older, what activities did you find worked with having a kid and an 830-530 job? I know thats super generic, but just curious what you guys do with your time to have a fun life given time commitments to job, kid, etc. especially if you are in a state where a lot of stuff is shut down. Yes I'm desperate to change my life for the better so that's why I'm asking random people on the internet for any suggestions. Thanks.",,5,tabula_rasa_88,1606965923.0 -askMRP,k3bz17,"More muscle growth with high reps lighter weight, or heavy weight, lower reps?","In your experience, which mode of training gave you the greater growth.",,18,Diamondbacking,1606666476.0 +My question is this: What are some good activities to join to actually, you know, have a life? I used to do boxing and muay thai but that gym stopped with covid. Also, as kid gets older, what activities did you find worked with having a kid and an 830-530 job? I know thats super generic, but just curious what you guys do with your time to have a fun life given time commitments to job, kid, etc. especially if you are in a state where a lot of stuff is shut down. Yes I'm desperate to change my life for the better so that's why I'm asking random people on the internet for any suggestions. Thanks.",,5,tabula_rasa_88,2020-12-03 03:25:23 +askMRP,k3bz17,"More muscle growth with high reps lighter weight, or heavy weight, lower reps?","In your experience, which mode of training gave you the greater growth.",,18,Diamondbacking,2020-11-29 16:14:36 askMRP,k1i13m,Logistics of breaking up/nexting LTR,"Haven’t been able to find info via search/sidebar. -I’ve been in an LTR for ~3 years. I’ve come to the conclusion that it is time to move on, as without having kids, living together, or being married, the cost/benefit of attempting to fix this relationship is greater than I want. Is there a guide to breaking up in a mature, reasonable way? Our families are pretty intertwined at this point. I don’t think she is aware that this is coming. My thought is to meet outside her apartment, and just say “I am unhappy and have been a while. I don’t think continuing this relationship will lead to happiness for either of us.” Avoid placing blame/specific grievances and go no-contact afterwards. Any additional tips for the logistics of protecting oneself? While I know hurt is unavoidable I am not malicious and do not want to inflict unnecessary pain. TIA",,6,SleptUp,1606407576.0 +I’ve been in an LTR for ~3 years. I’ve come to the conclusion that it is time to move on, as without having kids, living together, or being married, the cost/benefit of attempting to fix this relationship is greater than I want. Is there a guide to breaking up in a mature, reasonable way? Our families are pretty intertwined at this point. I don’t think she is aware that this is coming. My thought is to meet outside her apartment, and just say “I am unhappy and have been a while. I don’t think continuing this relationship will lead to happiness for either of us.” Avoid placing blame/specific grievances and go no-contact afterwards. Any additional tips for the logistics of protecting oneself? While I know hurt is unavoidable I am not malicious and do not want to inflict unnecessary pain. TIA",,6,SleptUp,2020-11-26 16:19:36 askMRP,k0qxc5,"My victim puke, and advise needed. I was told to post here...","30 years old, 173 cm tall, 32% body fat, 94 kgs @@ -73554,12 +73554,12 @@ Second goal is rebuild my social circle. It's amazing how losing in life can mak 3rd is my life mission. Work, job, vocation, whatever you name it. I want to start my own business, but I discovered that I am scared shit less, a grade A coward. I don't know how to beat this yet, but I plan to, and plan to be more rich and successful. I tasted poverty and tasted having money. Fuck poverty. Currently I am re reading the side bar, devouring the side bar series by Rian stone (that opened my eyes to how fucking weak I was, and what I can do about it), taking a philosophy course, and dabbling in tinder (shit results) and rebuilding my wardrobe/hobbies. -There you have it boys, any advise, any plans, anything is more than welcome. Insults are welcome too, as I grew a thick skin,. Tear me a new asshole, God knows I deserve it.",,29,throwawaypain345,1606305580.0 +There you have it boys, any advise, any plans, anything is more than welcome. Insults are welcome too, as I grew a thick skin,. Tear me a new asshole, God knows I deserve it.",,29,throwawaypain345,2020-11-25 11:59:40 askMRP,jvs06x,How do the older men here avoid dead bedroom situation ?,"A woman's libido starts declining once she's past her peak fertile years and goes through several hormonal changes from her late 20s to 40s/50s i.e till menopause. Unlike women, men don't have fertility window. As long as we are physically active and follow a diet rich in animal foods, we can have sex even in our 80s and 90s. -So what are the challenges did you deal with in sexual relationship as your woman went through these cycles ? How did you avoid or overcome dead bedroom situation esp. with a peri/post-menopausal wife ?",,25,RSK_94,1605615432.0 +So what are the challenges did you deal with in sexual relationship as your woman went through these cycles ? How did you avoid or overcome dead bedroom situation esp. with a peri/post-menopausal wife ?",,25,RSK_94,2020-11-17 12:17:12 askMRP,junjh1,"It's over - my oneitis no longer loves or respects me, and its all my fault.","37. 5'6''. 100kg ~BF35+ (Visual) Lifts(kg) (3×5): SQ120, D110, BP67.5, OP46.25, BR70. NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, WISNIFG @@ -73574,7 +73574,7 @@ But despite all my own shortcomings, I think we would've been fine. What really I'm a fucking loser and I alienated the one girl who was into me, and now I've got to start from scratch. Literally from scratch. Wish I was just coming out of school, because now I'm a single fat guy pushing 40. -Oh yeah, this is the second relationship I've fucked up in this way. I also have a 7 year old daughter from the last one, who I've not seen in a year because I'm too much of a faggot to be able to deal with her psycho mother without sperging out.",,0,[deleted],1605454023.0 +Oh yeah, this is the second relationship I've fucked up in this way. I also have a 7 year old daughter from the last one, who I've not seen in a year because I'm too much of a faggot to be able to deal with her psycho mother without sperging out.",,0,[deleted],2020-11-15 15:27:03 askMRP,juel0z,Things were nuked but not by me.,"Whelp here goes. Did an OYS like two days ago; situation evolved from there and just looking for advice or for a pointer in the right direction. @@ -73591,12 +73591,12 @@ Anyways; she chooses to work things out, so she says. I ask her how she's going Next day I give her two calls; she answers the second, tell her she needs to decide, she agrees to end things over text with Chad. -Fast forward next day; I ask if she's dealt with Chad yet. She decides I'm always angry at her and ends things. There's a lot of shit that could be unpacked from that; but what I really want is advice to move on and rock life without her when I've really fucked myself with her as my emotional center and how to fix that as rapidly and efficiently as possible and how best to pursue an eventual LTR moving forward.",,1,draconis2987,1605408250.0 +Fast forward next day; I ask if she's dealt with Chad yet. She decides I'm always angry at her and ends things. There's a lot of shit that could be unpacked from that; but what I really want is advice to move on and rock life without her when I've really fucked myself with her as my emotional center and how to fix that as rapidly and efficiently as possible and how best to pursue an eventual LTR moving forward.",,1,draconis2987,2020-11-15 02:44:10 askMRP,jthtnm,Working with her shame?,"A pattern I'm seeing is that when I correct wife, she is compliant without protest, and often agrees that what I'm correcting her on needs correcting (e.g., when she's being a teenager). Especially in those cases, during next few hours, she exhibits mild, if any, moodiness. But a pretty significant shit test comes a couple hours later (usually in the form of a windy text that makes some weird unreasonable demand ""going forward""). I think the shit tests are somehow related to the shame of having to be corrected. Maybe she's testing whether I can really keep disciplining her or whether I'll cave, maybe not. I don't mind (and kind of enjoy) these type of shit tests. But I think we'd have a more intimate relationship if she could take the correction without shame (if that's what it is). Do any of you have similar observations about your wife's apparent shame, and have any of you worked with it (whether reducing it or directing it) to improve the relationship? -Also, for those of you who are ""so fucking attractive"" that your wife ""never misbehaves"" because she's ""chasing the prize,"" this post is not soliciting your advice, but we're all glad to see you remind us of this fact anyway. So, welcome. ;-)",,1,fireBadMeGood,1605281918.0 +Also, for those of you who are ""so fucking attractive"" that your wife ""never misbehaves"" because she's ""chasing the prize,"" this post is not soliciting your advice, but we're all glad to see you remind us of this fact anyway. So, welcome. ;-)",,1,fireBadMeGood,2020-11-13 15:38:38 askMRP,jrdx0w,5x5 Stronglift Question,"I've been lifting my own routine for 11 months now and overall pleased with my results, but want to give the 5x5 Stronglift a shot to get similar or better results with 1-2 days less lifting per week. My question is this: should I really start at the ridiculously low numbers that the app suggests? @@ -73605,7 +73605,7 @@ Example: I'm up to 3 sets of 5x215 on my bench press 2-3 times per week. The app For barbell row I'm doing 110x8 three times and the app says to start at 60. -Will I lose muscle if I go this low or am I risking injury if I start at close to my current weights?",,7,keepingittogether20,1604981131.0 +Will I lose muscle if I go this low or am I risking injury if I start at close to my current weights?",,7,keepingittogether20,2020-11-10 04:05:31 askMRP,jr52wv,Arming the nuke,"**Preface - arming the nuke:** OYS doesn’t go up until tomorrow, but I have a timely update and would like as much feedback as possible, and bro-hugs if anyone has them in them. @@ -73692,7 +73692,7 @@ I’m currently a candidate with two companies. I interviewed with a startup tha **Mission:** -Live my life for myself, and share it with others whose company I enjoy. **Be fun.** Remain committed to self-improvement. Enjoy work, challenge others, and constantly evaluate myself. Take risks. Enjoy the world; be adventurous. Lead my family from a place of strength, warmth, and security.",,13,[deleted],1604952175.0 +Live my life for myself, and share it with others whose company I enjoy. **Be fun.** Remain committed to self-improvement. Enjoy work, challenge others, and constantly evaluate myself. Take risks. Enjoy the world; be adventurous. Lead my family from a place of strength, warmth, and security.",,13,[deleted],2020-11-09 20:02:55 askMRP,jr0rrj,More Anal Training,"Happy Monday Apparently it is time for all of us to get fucked in the ass now that our boy Trump lost. @@ -73705,7 +73705,7 @@ Guys will stop fucking the pretty girl if she talks to much. No one likes verbal Even from the commander in twitter chief. -Lets all rub our prostates together in a moment of silence.",,3,red-sfpplus,1604939356.0 +Lets all rub our prostates together in a moment of silence.",,3,red-sfpplus,2020-11-09 16:29:16 askMRP,jqhr3z,Want to buy a boat....wife going thermonuclear,"Stats 43. 3 kids 8-12. Married 15 years. 5 11 192 @@ -73759,7 +73759,7 @@ So gentlemen, my question to you is do I have a blind spot around this boat? Am I making an idiotic financial decision? Am I interpreting her womenese correctly? Does that even matter? -Appreciate the feedback.",,18,Useful-Layer3106,1604863630.0 +Appreciate the feedback.",,18,Useful-Layer3106,2020-11-08 19:27:10 askMRP,jo2zv9,Need Some Advice,"Here Goes Nothin This is my first post ever on Reddit. I am doing it under a brand new username in order to ensure anonymity. I am 46 yrs old. Married 19 years to 45 yr old wife. 2 teenaged kids. Read NMMNG (2x), all of Rollo’s books, WOTSM, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, 12 Rules for Life, MMSLP, Currently Reading: MAP @@ -73776,7 +73776,7 @@ This is all still pretty fresh on my mind and I am not ready to commit to any pa So I realize I am still dealing with anger and a variety of emotions. However, I know that I would have royally fucked this up if I hadn’t found RP before my discovery. I would have confronted her immediately and argued, fought, cursed, made idle threats, etc. In other words, I am grateful for that and I am open to any advice. I have not told anyone about this yet as I am still processing, but I needed to vent here to strangers to get some honest feedback first. I don’t know who I can trust at this point. Shit is crazy in 2020. -My plan before hearing any responses is to keep working on myself. Plus, I am not naive enough to think that I am not naive if that makes sense. My lifting schedule began back on August 1st in my home gym in our basement. I am looking to ramp it up. Looking to shift to something other than 5x5 but not sure what is best, so any advice there would be great. Also, need to read more diligently and really be willing to push some boundaries. Have at i",,16,sucka_chump,1604517568.0 +My plan before hearing any responses is to keep working on myself. Plus, I am not naive enough to think that I am not naive if that makes sense. My lifting schedule began back on August 1st in my home gym in our basement. I am looking to ramp it up. Looking to shift to something other than 5x5 but not sure what is best, so any advice there would be great. Also, need to read more diligently and really be willing to push some boundaries. Have at i",,16,sucka_chump,2020-11-04 19:19:28 askMRP,jn23t6,"To post, or not to post, OYS","I see a lot of OYS posts by people who haven't read the prerequisites - their posts are generally of lower quality. Disclaimer: I'm one of them. @@ -73787,7 +73787,7 @@ Does the MRP community prefer that members like myself who are short on reading/ Just trying to navigate what the right thing is for the community. -5R",,11,5ive_Rivers,1604370758.0 +5R",,11,5ive_Rivers,2020-11-03 02:32:38 askMRP,jn0ug5,Salary negotiation strategy,"So this isn't usually what we talk about here, but fuck it. I need input. Entering negotiations for a position that combines two technical skillsets. This combination is uncommon, so hard to baseline. A few results from glassdoor etc gave me pretty wide margins, based on what looks like the closest match to the skill combination in question. @@ -73796,7 +73796,7 @@ It's also a 100% remote role, so I don't know if I should compare salaries to my I have a bottom line number in mind, based on the margins from research, and my current salary. but I don't want to under-sell myself either. My strategy so far is to try and draw an initial offer out of them and work toward what I want, but I also feel like a more assertive approach might get better results. -Is it better to let them open with an offer and work up to what I want, or should I roll in with a high number up front and work down to my bottom line through counter offers?",,9,ancient_resistance,1604366214.0 +Is it better to let them open with an offer and work up to what I want, or should I roll in with a high number up front and work down to my bottom line through counter offers?",,9,ancient_resistance,2020-11-03 01:16:54 askMRP,jm0l38,Kid can’t spend time with his ill grandmother,"Tl;dr: My mother who lives far away from us has cancer and is getting worse and worse. I want her to spend time with our 1 year old baby. Wife doesn’t like my mother, so my mother can’t see much to our child. Basics: @@ -73850,7 +73850,7 @@ Questions I ask myself and would like your input on: * How can I become more alpha and make my wife take the necessary measures so that my mom can see her grandson? * Is it fair to make my wife visit and stay over at someone who doesn’t treat her well? -* If my mom should pass away without having seen more to my son, I think I would become so resentful to my wife that I would end up divorcing her anyway. Would it be better to just next her now and be more true to my principals and then stomach the fact that that will not increase the chances of my mom and my son seeing each other more?",,6,DigitalDiarrhea123,1604229085.0 +* If my mom should pass away without having seen more to my son, I think I would become so resentful to my wife that I would end up divorcing her anyway. Would it be better to just next her now and be more true to my principals and then stomach the fact that that will not increase the chances of my mom and my son seeing each other more?",,6,DigitalDiarrhea123,2020-11-01 11:11:25 askMRP,jkivun,I feel like a dancing monkey,"**Stats:** Age 37, 5’9”, 187#, 19.5% BF, 40.9% LBM. Married to wife (36) for 11 years, together 18, one child (11). Lifts are @ week 2 of SL 5x5 and still very easy. Squat 70#, BP 55#, BR 75#, OHP 55#, DL 115#. BP is the only lift I’ve pushed outside of the program - 125# 1RM, 5x5x115#. @@ -73873,7 +73873,7 @@ I need to reflect harder on what I want my life to look like if I hope to feel c I was able to dig up [Good sex requires Emotion](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/a9pxnh/good_sex_requires_emotion/), and [The “Dancing Monkey” Attraction Improvement Programme](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/74yepr/the_dancing_monkey_attraction_improvement/), which helped me gain some perspective. -It’s early days for me, so help me find my blind spots. I don’t think what I’m going through mentally is unique to me, especially at this early stage.",,11,[deleted],1604005942.0 +It’s early days for me, so help me find my blind spots. I don’t think what I’m going through mentally is unique to me, especially at this early stage.",,11,[deleted],2020-10-29 21:12:22 askMRP,jjlm18,Completely messed up,"To keep it short, I \[34\] and my wife \[33\] got married 3.5 years back and we know each other from 5 years. After about 6 months in our marriage I got to know that she was fixated on a guy during her teens. It was one sided as she was not able to relay her feelings to him. This led her into severe depression which converted into OCD and psychotic behaviour. Psychiatrist gave her ECT's to help her stabilize. Things got better, she finished her degree and all, got better mentally. 5 years back we met through an acquaintance. We clicked very well. We had good sex, we were happy, it was all love. She proposed me for marriage. But she and her parents never told me about her illness until we got married. After knowing this I lost my control, got super angry. We had fights, she kept talking and thinking about him. And boom, after 6 months in our marriage, she got another psychotic attack where she lost touch of the reality. It was in 2018. I kept calm during her treatment. When that phase ended she blaimed me for everything, sex was gone, we rarely hugged or kissed. I was very much depressed. To give it second chance I started searching internet and landed on RedPill and MRP. Read NMMNG, MAP, MMSLP, joined a gym, got a better job, dressed pretty well. Read the sidebar. @@ -73882,12 +73882,12 @@ Good things came back partially I would say. And then COVID happened. She went t I am not able to comprehend what wrong I did and what can be my plan of action now. I really love her. I know divorce is an option here but my heart and mind is going against it. -P.S: As per her recent diagnosis, her psychosis has developed into schizophrenia. From past 14 years she's on medication. Also, she has never contacted or tried talking to that guy. It was just one sided fixation.",,6,guturgosh,1603882677.0 +P.S: As per her recent diagnosis, her psychosis has developed into schizophrenia. From past 14 years she's on medication. Also, she has never contacted or tried talking to that guy. It was just one sided fixation.",,6,guturgosh,2020-10-28 10:57:57 askMRP,jjfieu,Sidebar link wont load,"In the r/marriedredpill sidebar the first of two links referring to acronyms does not load. The reddit symbol rotates relentlessly. The second link works as do all others. Is this a problem for others, or is it just a massive file to load? -(I'm 2 weeks fresh to MRP and RP in general; currently reading the prerequisites, starting with WISNIFG).",,0,5ive_Rivers,1603851856.0 +(I'm 2 weeks fresh to MRP and RP in general; currently reading the prerequisites, starting with WISNIFG).",,0,5ive_Rivers,2020-10-28 02:24:16 askMRP,jip3pp,"Wife expects me to lead her through nearly all aspects of her life, and gets upset when I am unable to deliver","Recently my wife and I had a baby. before the baby came our relationship was pretty stable, mainly because she had a job, I was at work, and this gave us some independent time and allowed us to experience things throughout our day that we could share with each other when the day was done. She doesn't really have any hobbies, other than watching the office and smoking weed with her friend, as well as going to the gym (which I got her into) and baking once or twice a week. I on the other hand, used to fill my spare time up with weights, hiking, archery, shooting, political debate, cooking, orienteering, mechanics (replaced about every part on my jeep) offroading, and just recently I started learning to code. (trying to balance myself out with some more intellectual pursuits.) I offer to include my wife in all of the above, and she declines. @@ -73902,7 +73902,7 @@ I want to stay married as I got a lot of enjoyment out of marriage, and I truly How do I get her to stop expecting me to handle her entertainment and prevent her boredom when she won't do anything about it herself? -TL;DR: Wife expects me to be responsible for her entertainment. I can't be a husband and entertainer at the same time, when she refuses to develop her own hobbies or take part in mine. please offer guidance.",,17,[deleted],1603752071.0 +TL;DR: Wife expects me to be responsible for her entertainment. I can't be a husband and entertainer at the same time, when she refuses to develop her own hobbies or take part in mine. please offer guidance.",,17,[deleted],2020-10-26 22:41:11 askMRP,jij8lp,Messed up a little . How do I move forward?,"stats: 5' 6"" , 205 lbs , 43 year old . Not doing lifts right now. But for past 6 months working with athlean-x body weight exercises. Am barely able to finish the basic session . Lost 10 lbs in last 6. months/ books: NMMNG - Respect yourself. Make your needs a priority. @@ -73965,7 +73965,7 @@ Bring it on... Edit: Corrected some grammar. Please pardon my bad grammar . English is not my native language . Edit2: Got the message . Am not doing the work . - Action Plan: Get home gym setup and lift. Work on diet , Read MMSL , understand and practice DEER , continue STFU , follow MAP.",,5,asaxena76,1603734323.0 + Action Plan: Get home gym setup and lift. Work on diet , Read MMSL , understand and practice DEER , continue STFU , follow MAP.",,5,asaxena76,2020-10-26 17:45:23 askMRP,ji3uni,Do you have a best friend?,"I don't remember the last time I had a best friend. Curious how many guys have one. I have felt, for many years now, a low-grade depression. I do stuff I like to do, and generally live a pretty health life, lift (I'm on/off on this), and am in control of most aspects of my life. The biggest hole is meaningful male friendships. I have lots of buddies through golf and softball. I had joined a men's group but was too psuedo-spriritual for me. I'm more financially successful than most of the people I know and probably smarter, which makes connection a bit harder. @@ -73974,7 +73974,7 @@ Background I've been divorced for 6+ years now, and went through all the hideous, needy beta shit stretched out over about 8 years prior to that. Divorce was a mercy kill and has been a massive upgrade to my life. Since then I've dated a bunch of women, got my life together on paper - great house, great career, make a ton of money, no debt, hobbies, buddies, good dad, kids like and respect me, etc. Currently dating a women who works hard to keep me happy, I get abundant sex, she's smart, better looking than I am, and generally adds value. -So this isn't about being alpha or holding frame. I think I'm just a little lonely and wondering if this is just how it is.",,22,phil_stein,1603669265.0 +So this isn't about being alpha or holding frame. I think I'm just a little lonely and wondering if this is just how it is.",,22,phil_stein,2020-10-25 23:41:05 askMRP,jh8urw,Fucking confused.,"Stats. No lifts yet (Melbourne Australia is locked down. No gyms. Writing this feels like bullshit.) 175cm. 75kg. 1:30 plank, 15x push-ups, both I’d never tried before seeing mrp. Two sons 9 & 11 from ex wife. Sons struggle with mummyism. Wife 1.5 years married, 5.5 years together. Books. NMMNGx1 and 50% again. MMSLPx1. Dead bedroom fix. Passionate marriagex2 (where I started) @@ -73995,14 +73995,14 @@ How do I tell her that’s what I want? Thanks for the abuse and feedback. I’m expecting both. B -How do I explain that it’s not a competition? That I want both",,9,throwawaywayway998,1603545847.0 +How do I explain that it’s not a competition? That I want both",,9,throwawaywayway998,2020-10-24 13:24:07 askMRP,jgbdie,How to get rid of limiting mindset books or articles.,"During the last months, have been on Lexapro, it really helped me change a lot in my life, the point, I'm getting better but still have problems in financials. As a part of my journey been doing some introspection, before my first divorce money/power was very easy for me, when my divorce happened, financially i was very close to FIRE. After the divorce, whatever money i kept, spent it like it crazy, and been avoiding making money, deep down, my ego keeps associating money/success with divorce/gold digger ex-wife. -I need some recommendations on books/blogs etc on either killing the ego or remove that association.",,6,turbospeedsc,1603409773.0 +I need some recommendations on books/blogs etc on either killing the ego or remove that association.",,6,turbospeedsc,2020-10-22 23:36:13 askMRP,jfy0l4,LTR will not stop complaining about life,"Pre-req: Been reading NMMNG. Bench: 200 | S: 185 | DL: 235 @@ -74014,7 +74014,7 @@ Been with LTR for 1 year 9 months. The beginning 6 months were okay. Ups and dow 3. Hates that I spend time with my brother because he makes fun of her (never happened, she just makes shit about her). -She’s a drama queen. AWALT. I just hate how annoying it is, and I usually eject and STFU, which makes it worse. Calls me a pussy or bitch, or worse, whenever something happens, and I don’t like it one bit. We moved in together before I started reading mrp (3 months ago) and I’m not sure what to do from here to lead a better relationship and have less complaints or intolerable words thrown at me.",,11,AnonDude4Reddit,1603366942.0 +She’s a drama queen. AWALT. I just hate how annoying it is, and I usually eject and STFU, which makes it worse. Calls me a pussy or bitch, or worse, whenever something happens, and I don’t like it one bit. We moved in together before I started reading mrp (3 months ago) and I’m not sure what to do from here to lead a better relationship and have less complaints or intolerable words thrown at me.",,11,AnonDude4Reddit,2020-10-22 11:42:22 askMRP,jfju4j,May Rub Prostate,"Some retard asked what MRP stands for. I will tell you what it stands for. @@ -74039,7 +74039,7 @@ Fuck all this nonsense. You need to fucking lift so you can control your pelvic floor muscles so when that slut of yours goes three knuckles deep, its not a problem. -Now someone sticky this motherfucker and lets get to work.",,44,red-sfpplus,1603308643.0 +Now someone sticky this motherfucker and lets get to work.",,44,red-sfpplus,2020-10-21 19:30:43 askMRP,jea7p5,The AskMRP Science Experiment has concluded. Conclusion: You're retarded.,"The 2020 AskMRP Science Experiment has been officially underway for the last month and is now completed. As a recap, some of the retarded questions asked were: @@ -74076,7 +74076,7 @@ It was so retarded here that the auto-moderator went full retard - approving eve Maybe you'll get some good advice here on a particularly non-retarded question you ask, but the likelihood of you posting here at AskMRP with a non-retarded question is proven to be nearly 0% by this experiment. -So if you want answers, do the work. Get into the OYS thread where you'll likely be banned at least once - and if you want to know why - just head on over here to AskMRP and ask why.",,50,HornsOfApathy,1603139832.0 +So if you want answers, do the work. Get into the OYS thread where you'll likely be banned at least once - and if you want to know why - just head on over here to AskMRP and ask why.",,50,HornsOfApathy,2020-10-19 20:37:12 askMRP,jcmxfh,Feeling Compelled to Leave You... a Love Letter...,"*Hello my darlings, I love you all. I want you to love me, too. I want you to understand me. I need you to understand me.* Such begins the private message I received - yet did not read - from our dear writer - [kendallb183](https://old.reddit.com/user/kendallb183) - [whom I banned earlier for a variety of reasons](https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/jcfqbt/still_learning_stfu/g91yb41/). @@ -74107,18 +74107,18 @@ Anyways, thank you. ----------- -What say you? Shall he sink or shall he swim?",,5,johneyapocalypse,1602900176.0 +What say you? Shall he sink or shall he swim?",,5,johneyapocalypse,2020-10-17 02:02:56 askMRP,jcfqbt,Still learning STFU,"Woke up today to a message from my friends wife about becoming a nurse practitioner, part of OYS is trying to learn for a career. My wife wakes up and sees it and says seriously this is what I wake up to? I finish reading the text I still text back despite my wife reacting. I say nothing. I wait a few minutes and tell her im going to the living room. She says I'm trying to sleep bring the baby. I tell her I've got things to work on I can't watch him. I have bills to make sure are paid ect so I wasn't lying. I've withdrawn attention in the house several times before and it doesn't make a difference. She comes in the living room sits on the other side of the room (out if character for her now she's withdrawing intentionally). I call my cousin and ask if I can walk next door and hang with him and he says sure. I go to find my computer and tell her im headed to aarons. She flips out and says wtf why? And I said whats wrong with seeing my cousin? (Trying to learn pressure flipping) she says we just woke up. I said whats wrong with seeing him when I wake up?(still trying to flip) she goes and pouts on the living room couch. I can't find my computer so she continues to try to rape my attention. She says it's sketchy that I was texting a girl (she ALWAYS gets jealous of this, no matter how platonic the relationship or how far away they live), and then want to go to my cousins. I may have deer'd here, but I said oh you mean my friends wife? Wanna see what we were talking about? And read to her dull monolog of like one line of what I said and what she said. (Very confident I shouldn't have done this, but whats your perspective) Then I find my computer and she asks me to bring the baby with me. I tell her im gonna be busy so I can't. Still true, I got bills to pay over there now. She continues to bitch. "" why are you leaving"" "" your leaving me alone"" "" what the fuck?"" And I just dont respond and head over to my cousins. I know I fucked up a lot probably. I may have gotten some parts right idk. Haze away. -Edit. Alright I'm gonna stop going full retard. Plan, stop blowing this sub reddit up. Post to OYS weekly for feedback, get some of my SMV back before planning on making any moves with the wife but still not try to just let her control everything. I need to go slower and really digest this stuff, see why I am having the same mistakes and work on the rest of me first.",,2,kendallb183,1602874116.0 +Edit. Alright I'm gonna stop going full retard. Plan, stop blowing this sub reddit up. Post to OYS weekly for feedback, get some of my SMV back before planning on making any moves with the wife but still not try to just let her control everything. I need to go slower and really digest this stuff, see why I am having the same mistakes and work on the rest of me first.",,2,kendallb183,2020-10-16 18:48:36 askMRP,jbutjo,"If 5x5 is for strength, why not do 3x10 for hypertrophy?","So, 5x5 is notorious for strength gains and is the staple for RP. But if people are trying to get physically visible results faster aka more hypertrophy why are we not pushing for 3x10 workouts with 2 days 1 day off or 5 days on 2 days off? Doing 5x5 will build more muscle neurons quicker for strength increase and also build more myofibrils in each muscle sarcoplasm... which increases strength but that doesn't equal muscle mass as quickly as 3x10s that increase the number of sarcoplasms and result in a visual of more muscle with strength still gained but more hypertrophy. -Is the goal to look big quick or be strong quick?",,17,kendallb183,1602791275.0 +Is the goal to look big quick or be strong quick?",,17,kendallb183,2020-10-15 19:47:55 askMRP,jay1ns,Physical abuse,"Age 31 Ht 5'9"" Wt 176lb Wife 31 Married 1year, together 3 years. Kids: 7yo daughter (hers from previous ltr), @@ -74137,21 +74137,21 @@ Yesterday she made middle finger gesture to me in front of kids. I dont know what to do, if there is any solution. I dont want to fight in front of my kids. -Sorry for the chaotic post Im at work now.",,10,blantje,1602670866.0 +Sorry for the chaotic post Im at work now.",,10,blantje,2020-10-14 10:21:06 askMRP,jam3ku,Diet template,"Does anyone know a solid high protein diet that supports 5x5 workouts? I'm not asking someone to go out of their way and list their diet, I wanna know if anyone has been using one thats just already laid out in full on the internet somewhere. Im searching myself but idk how good these actually are to follow, so a user tried and approved diet would be amazing. Thanks. Edit -5'10"" 200lbs 25% bf short term goal is 15%. Will be on DNP so my caloric deficit from DNP will be an extra ~2000.",,2,kendallb183,1602622051.0 +5'10"" 200lbs 25% bf short term goal is 15%. Will be on DNP so my caloric deficit from DNP will be an extra ~2000.",,2,kendallb183,2020-10-13 20:47:31 askMRP,jah2li,hernia surgery in the next month,"Looking for some advice and to see if anyone else has dealt with something similar. I developed a substantial hernia in the first few months of of Rona lockdown and have been nursing it as I wait for surgery, I know from previous hernias (born with one and had another when I was 14) that I will be out for 2-3 months from any kind of strenuous activity. this one in particular is going to be a bit worse as it's a abdominal into pelvic one. Rona already has me 15 lbs heavier than I was a year ago. Don't want to just recover and get fatter, but know I wont be doing cardio like I need over the winter or lifting anything worth noting until summer next year. -Any advice, strategy or experience guys.",,0,[deleted],1602607079.0 +Any advice, strategy or experience guys.",,0,[deleted],2020-10-13 16:37:59 askMRP,j92py2,Is this counting as STFU?,"If your wife asks why you did something, and you respond... because I wanted to... is that STFU? If she keeps asking well why or how come... and you respond I don't have to justify what I wanna do... its what I wanna do. Is that still STFU? -EDIT: Rereading WISNIFG... pretty apparent I went full retard on understanding it the first time around. Thanks for the kick in the ass guys.",,0,kendallb183,1602409877.0 +EDIT: Rereading WISNIFG... pretty apparent I went full retard on understanding it the first time around. Thanks for the kick in the ass guys.",,0,kendallb183,2020-10-11 09:51:17 askMRP,j8f9pe,What to do if I am the one with a low sex drive?,"I am not far into the MRP journey yet. I have read and continue to reread all the required side bar contents, been doing so over the past 9 months trying to get momentum going. I own the fact that it has not yet. But there is one big issue I cannot find much information on and really am stuck on: My wife does not have a low sex drive. Her sex drive is huge and she keeps blaming me and getting angry formy lack of sex drive. I know: @@ -74170,10 +74170,10 @@ I have tried purposefully intoxicating and the dissociation does boost my sex dr Any insights would be most welcome. -Disclaimer: I have read the side bar, looked for similar posts and tried to follow policy guidelines with this post. Most things MRP says about me is true and I readily admit I need to work on myself / own my shit. I have tried to do so for the past 9 months, which I know is only beginning and I will continue to stumble over myself until some momentum on my side is reached.",,12,Agitated_Ad_3662,1602309300.0 +Disclaimer: I have read the side bar, looked for similar posts and tried to follow policy guidelines with this post. Most things MRP says about me is true and I readily admit I need to work on myself / own my shit. I have tried to do so for the past 9 months, which I know is only beginning and I will continue to stumble over myself until some momentum on my side is reached.",,12,Agitated_Ad_3662,2020-10-10 05:55:00 askMRP,j7kyy8,Vetting plates for wife material,"I’m in the process of starting to spin a couple of plates, however my longterm goal has always been to have a lovely wife and children. -I was wondering what kind of vetting process did you guys take to find the closest thing to a perfect wife, which red flags did you look out for and what were your standards while picking the best one?",,3,b1nkh4x0r,1602189343.0 +I was wondering what kind of vetting process did you guys take to find the closest thing to a perfect wife, which red flags did you look out for and what were your standards while picking the best one?",,3,b1nkh4x0r,2020-10-08 20:35:43 askMRP,j6t1ca,Tactics for ASD during Comfort Test,"Scenario: She's comfort testing hard because of dread, but dirty talk and rough sex are working in creating desire and submissiveness (AWALT). She (her ASD) comfort tests hard and frequently, overtly focusing on the dirty talk and dominance in sex and wanting covert contracts (keep having more sex if we dial down the D in DEVI - i.e., she says ""dirty talk is a turn off because it makes me feel bad about myself and objectified""). Dilemma: These are clearly comfort tests (always about her feeling vulnerable). And to pass them, comfort needs to be given, but does giving that comfort lessen desire because it also lessens dominance? @@ -74194,14 +74194,14 @@ I had this scenario last night immediately after some sex where I dialed up the Curious if you'd've handled differently. -Editing just to say thanks for all who commented. I do feel like I caught quite a few nice sized fish with this post that will feed me for awhile. For those I threw back too soon, don't be upset. It's my loss. Thanks again.",,5,fireBadMeGood,1602084903.0 +Editing just to say thanks for all who commented. I do feel like I caught quite a few nice sized fish with this post that will feed me for awhile. For those I threw back too soon, don't be upset. It's my loss. Thanks again.",,5,fireBadMeGood,2020-10-07 15:35:03 askMRP,j5ezbt,Pregnant wife,"Hi everyone, I've gone and made my wife pregnant again (yeah, I know, idiot). She is at about 30 weeks. Here's the problem: the sex dried up around, you guessed it, 30 weeks ago. Nada. I've been lifting, stfu-ing and focusing on being a great dad for my older daughter. My chief complaint is that I struggle not to be resentful that she can't do something for me (oral, anything). -I realise what a little bitch I sound, so I want to make clear I really have stfu and not whined after sex. I used to be the man that did that am I'm now embarrassed for past me. I want to know which behavioural tools I can use on myself to kill all this beta behaviour, given that I'll need to be 100% oak for a good while yet.",,2,ska100,1601881804.0 +I realise what a little bitch I sound, so I want to make clear I really have stfu and not whined after sex. I used to be the man that did that am I'm now embarrassed for past me. I want to know which behavioural tools I can use on myself to kill all this beta behaviour, given that I'll need to be 100% oak for a good while yet.",,2,ska100,2020-10-05 07:10:04 askMRP,j4jpsw,How to move forward on deadlift grip strength issues,"Lifting for 16 months, 150 pounds body weight 16% BF. Been posting OYS regularly etc. 165lb x5 bench, 185 x5 squat. Grip strength is an issue on deadlift and I am not sure what to do next. I started using hooks to alleviate grip issues. @@ -74214,10 +74214,10 @@ Today I deloaded and got rid of hooks, and started incorporating some grip train So my choices going forward are: use hooks and keep increasing lift, or stay deloaded and work back upwards while incorporating grip training. Or I can keep using hooks AND incorporate grip training. -As I am still a relative novice, under two years of lift experience, I am not certain what the best course is.",,2,Vegasman20002,1601748277.0 +As I am still a relative novice, under two years of lift experience, I am not certain what the best course is.",,2,Vegasman20002,2020-10-03 18:04:37 askMRP,j4ev80,MRP vs 24x7 married D/s,"As I have been investigation 24x7 married D/s, I see a lot of similarities and not a lot of differences. However, one thing that seems to stand out is the amount of attention paid to the woman. In MRP, it seems that the primary focus is on the man, and actions taken by the man are to draw the woman towards him. ""I am the prize"". However, in 24x7 married D/s, I have seen many statements of ""she is my prized possession"". -I'd love to hear thoughts on this subject. Are these two philosophies two sides of the same coin, or are these very different philosophies altogether?",,3,-TitsandThongs-,1601731127.0 +I'd love to hear thoughts on this subject. Are these two philosophies two sides of the same coin, or are these very different philosophies altogether?",,3,-TitsandThongs-,2020-10-03 13:18:47 askMRP,j2zhmp,"Following the guides, but having ethical/moral issues...maybe identity crisis? Need some Bro Boost.","TLDR: I've been practicing MRP for quite some time and have begun to see moral issues in my wife's responses, and my own. I have read the sidebar, I've ordered and highlighted all the books, I've lifted the heaviest of weights, became the true man I've needed to be, physically, emotionally, and in my businesses, AND I've kept my frame the whole time. I was truly everything that a Nice Guy has ever been when my wife and I met. I did everything, bought everything, and fawned over her. Two kids, dream home, and dream life later I was stuck in a sexless marriage. (OR better yet, a one sided sex marriage) I went to another board and found nothing but sad people...so I kept searching. I found MRP, which convinced me to begin working out. I did. I'm in the best shape of my life. I began working on my frame, attitude, and confidence. All things have been going well until...I realized I don't like this. @@ -74225,7 +74225,7 @@ I don't mind her admiring my physique, I don't mind her calling me sexy all the I just don't like pushing her away, trying to be cold, and being apathetic to her emotions. Somewhere in this mix, I've been torn between being angry at myself, and angry that I've become who she used to want to be with (check out RJOCD). Again, the bedroom, life, and social circumstances seem great on the surface...but I still feel like a lot of this false. I've seen her sacrifice things that I wouldn't want to, make changes that I wouldn't want to, and bend over backwards...for a person that doesn't really exist. It's hard for me to say, but this isn't me...or at least not yet. I'm still fighting back the ""b\*\*\*\* inside"". I can't lose frame with her, but I can lose frame with you guys. Fuck it. I don't care what you throw at me, but I genuinely think it was my physical appearance that made things better in the bedroom, and my attitude toward really enjoying life. I can see the strain on her at times, and that breaks my heart. I don't like seeing her this way. I don't miss the woman that would look over me, but I also don't like the woman that looks like she is about to break from holding on. I've had both, and I'd like somewhere in between. -Thanks in advance for comments, concerns, and insults. All of them, only help to make us better!",,0,[deleted],1601517076.0 +Thanks in advance for comments, concerns, and insults. All of them, only help to make us better!",,0,[deleted],2020-10-01 01:51:16 askMRP,j26ebu,The Challenge?,"Post breakup: Her (38F): @@ -74242,7 +74242,7 @@ Asked here as askmrp better for 30+ “Patrick and Rodgers were first linked in early 2018. He previously dated actress Olivia Munn for three years.” -Edit: If you are looking for insightful comments, the Better Bachelor has now done a youtube post on this story, and it already has 1.2K comments",,0,askmeanything2,1601407885.0 +Edit: If you are looking for insightful comments, the Better Bachelor has now done a youtube post on this story, and it already has 1.2K comments",,0,askmeanything2,2020-09-29 19:31:25 askMRP,j075c3,Death of a parent,"My dad recently passed away. I've been stuck dealing with things as my mom doesn't have the slightest clue as what to do with the estate, vehicles, and upward 200k debt. No will. No plans. Nothing that I have found yet. Still hunting through. @@ -74257,7 +74257,7 @@ I was able to lift the other day and upped the weight because I needed it. Was a Any advice? -Answered - Worry less about what others think. Stay in my frame. Grieve my lose how I need to. Take care of what I need to take care of.",,26,[deleted],1601131121.0 +Answered - Worry less about what others think. Stay in my frame. Grieve my lose how I need to. Take care of what I need to take care of.",,26,[deleted],2020-09-26 14:38:41 askMRP,j07442,A victim puke,"29 years old, 6’ 1”, 230 lbs., married 3.5 ish years. Lifts sort of unknown as I’ve had a wrist injury for a few weeks now. I was able to bench 250 for a rep or two, squat 275ish lbs. and deadlift around the same. I’m feeling really down, fellas. Things were going great between my wife and me as of late. We went to a party last night and had a good time, and we both got pretty fucked up. At around 9:30pm we both got home, and she opened my phone. I guess during my black out I was looking at random internet pics of girls with big asses. @@ -74270,7 +74270,7 @@ Now she’s at work and we’ve been texting back and forth. I apologized to her Now that I got that off my chest I don’t really know what a good way forward is from here. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. -Thank you in advance.",,5,titmouse_,1601131005.0 +Thank you in advance.",,5,titmouse_,2020-09-26 14:36:45 askMRP,iy4ygh,There's always another side... a better side...,"Pussies, with your vaginas in a row, saluting the kings and queens of obsessive-compulsive disorder - and more - you've lost site of the reality... the reality that going your own way chock-full of yummy goodness is paramount to strive for. Something to achieve. Something to want with every nougaty bit of goodness in your nubile young body. @@ -74289,7 +74289,7 @@ The point is this: you should always be looking for your next (r4r) adventure, t Don't worry about the little missus, she's just there now - or maybe there yesterday... who knows, maybe she'll simply disappear. -Ask yourself; is she there tomorrow, when you start your next journey to conquer the world?",,6,johneyapocalypse,1600842520.0 +Ask yourself; is she there tomorrow, when you start your next journey to conquer the world?",,6,johneyapocalypse,2020-09-23 06:28:40 askMRP,ivk9e4,Form Over # of Reps,"I'm realizing and learning that lifting is discipline - in showing up, eating well, learning, and form. Form has been the issue for me of late. I strained my back several weeks back while squatting. I was trying to hit my previous max of 220 (from 30 years earlier). I lost form and bowed my back. Dumb. @@ -74300,7 +74300,7 @@ I had started meditation exercises with an app this week, and today in the gym, Also, in all of this, I see I'm hitting the plateau in my Stronglifts program - Squat, OHP and Bent Row have all had set failures at least once in the last in the last couple weeks, and Bench is close. Working within the context of this edge of goals and failures will now be a regular ongoing occurrence. -I'm curious how others avoid overdoing it, while balancing trying to hit their goals.",,7,[deleted],1600483433.0 +I'm curious how others avoid overdoing it, while balancing trying to hit their goals.",,7,[deleted],2020-09-19 02:43:53 askMRP,iu0gj1,"In My Head, All the Time","Pook said something interesting in the Testosterone episode (YouTube) about Action. It's all about taking Action. I found myself thinking about what that would look like. Then realized, ""That's the problem. You're *thinking* about action, instead of just doing and being in motion."" So I started making mental notes. At the gym, I'm waiting for a slot on the racks. Are those guys thinking I'm being rude? Hovering? Skinnier than they are? Am I coming back to check too often? That guy cut in - did he see me? Did he not give a fuck? Is that Alpha? Am I overthinking this?"" I'm not kidding or exaggerating. That's one example, and that shit's running 24/7. @@ -74311,7 +74311,7 @@ So, I'm seeing now how IN MY HEAD I am all the time. Someone suggested the Wakin My point is that I'm thinking that a lot of my MRP work has been mental for me, not holistic or integrated or authentic. That's not quite the right word, but I don't want to overthink it and try to wordsmith it for anyone's sake. -Anyone else been in this mental-fuck blackhole space? I feel like Neo as they first began to work with him.",,23,[deleted],1600278170.0 +Anyone else been in this mental-fuck blackhole space? I feel like Neo as they first began to work with him.",,23,[deleted],2020-09-16 17:42:50 askMRP,iqqvaz,Tools for Vision and Mission?,"I now see how important vision and mission is, and am working on it. I've researched people who are living a way I like and reference (Michael Hyatt), I've written my own obituary, and I've reached out to a recommended coach and author in this area. @@ -74319,7 +74319,7 @@ I've researched people who are living a way I like and reference (Michael Hyatt) I'd like to hear from any of you that have had success in figuring what worked for you in creating a vision and/or mission statement. TIA, -Sod",,10,[deleted],1599832322.0 +Sod",,10,[deleted],2020-09-11 13:52:02 askMRP,imxtvc,LTR Is An Alcoholic And Out Of Control. PLEASE HELP!!!!,"I know this isn't the place for sympathy and I don't want it I need good solid advice because my LTR is out of control. Me(31) I'm 6'4 and 160 pounds. Skinny I know. I recently turned to the red pill 2 months ago because my gf is literally driving me insane. @@ -74334,7 +74334,7 @@ Fuck all that just forward to tonight...my girl comes over after hanging up on m After hours of her yelling I just left. My own house.. It's not 01:30am and she's been here since 8:30. I tried everything to maintain frame. I didn't engage, I didn't yell, I tried calming her down, nothing worked. This girl is clearly frustrated with me. I was insecure I will admit that before stumbling across TRP and MRP. I know I should've STFU sooner. What the fuck can I possibly do? I know I fucked up by not setting boundaries early on and thinking she cared about my feelings. Is this salvageable or what? I like this sub because it doesn't preach cheating which I really want to do at this point. -Literally hours of someone you love calling you a punk, coward, not a man, I hate you. It fucking hurts like shit. I know only newbs post to askmrp but I need serious help. I care about this girl but I feel like my only choice is to walk away. PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE!!!!",,7,[deleted],1599295419.0 +Literally hours of someone you love calling you a punk, coward, not a man, I hate you. It fucking hurts like shit. I know only newbs post to askmrp but I need serious help. I care about this girl but I feel like my only choice is to walk away. PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE!!!!",,7,[deleted],2020-09-05 08:43:39 askMRP,imr3va,Wife Hates Sex,"Ok- man and wife 44. I’m lifting 4 times a week and showing decent definition, I’m a good looking fella and have an incredibly attractive wife. Getting no sex. WTF is going on? So: I am also incredibly sweet to her, compliment her every day on how pretty she is, rub feet, back and whatever she wants, snuggle into her in bed. But nothing comes my way from her end. @@ -74343,14 +74343,14 @@ I was also posting in dead bedrooms, but it’s depressing and a cry fest. Time to man up and grow a set of balls. I need to game this situation. -Hard ass advice please.",,32,[deleted],1599263505.0 +Hard ass advice please.",,32,[deleted],2020-09-04 23:51:45 askMRP,ik9kbd,"Lost my job today, still have shit together, how to frame this to LTR?","46yo, 1.5yrs into LTR. Got notice that I am being RIF’d from my high paying tech job this morning. They are giving me 2 months paid to find a job, and a decent severance package. I am OK financially, could easily last 6mos without a job, prob stretch that to a year, and I don’t expect to be out that long. I have highly marketable skills. Spent the morning puking to my bro over coffee and having him set my head back on straight, but am still kind of panicky/anxious about this since it’s all new (head straight, “feels” still all over the place). Yeah, I have a new mission now (get a job) but that’s not what I expected when I got up this morning. My first thought was to STFU about it until I have a new gig then celebrate the new job. I know my LTR can feel it when I am anxious and nervous though, and will ask me what’s up if I try to play it off like that. I am confident, but know I will be reeling for the next couple days...and frankly, I don’t really want to hide something like this from her (integrity). -So right now, it’s trying to figure out how to tell her without feeling like a little bitch crying to mommy (yes, I am feeling like a little bitch who wants to cry to mommy at the moment, even though I have a mission and a plan). Maybe just lay it out that this happened and this is my plan? Avoid until the feels are gone? I dunno...throw it at me guys, the blue pill beta bitch is strong in me today...",,23,imav8n,1598918013.0 +So right now, it’s trying to figure out how to tell her without feeling like a little bitch crying to mommy (yes, I am feeling like a little bitch who wants to cry to mommy at the moment, even though I have a mission and a plan). Maybe just lay it out that this happened and this is my plan? Avoid until the feels are gone? I dunno...throw it at me guys, the blue pill beta bitch is strong in me today...",,23,imav8n,2020-08-31 23:53:33 askMRP,ihrgb2,Presenting goals in OYS," My understanding of OYS content can be broken into two parts: @@ -74395,10 +74395,10 @@ Here's where I've been spinning my wheels. 2. Writing a desired outcome as a statement that internalizes to your frame is basically ""fake it til you make it"". It's a fancy way of disclosing your desired outcome. -3. Smaller, achievable goals don't always have context, but does that matter?",,7,edward_durden,1598555765.0 +3. Smaller, achievable goals don't always have context, but does that matter?",,7,edward_durden,2020-08-27 19:16:05 askMRP,ignrkf,Progress blocking?,"I've noticed as I make progress, my wife actually tries to discourage me from getting shit done / improving. I can't remember her really ever doing this before (or maybe I never noticed it), but after thinking on it, I can't come up with any other reason than she's trying to stop me from making progress. Examples of this range from encouraging me to procrastinate chores to asking why I work out so much. -Not much of a bother, but it is an interesting thing I've observed. Have others experienced this?",,15,ErroneousMcGee,1598398554.0 +Not much of a bother, but it is an interesting thing I've observed. Have others experienced this?",,15,ErroneousMcGee,2020-08-25 23:35:54 askMRP,ig3uqo,I've been married for one month. The sex stopped 2 weeks in. Most posts are from men who were married for years. How to address this critical Issue so early? (initially posted in MRP),"The title gives you a good picture. It was the usual story. Met an amazing girl, I knew of the red pill enough to get a decent looking one. Sex was amazing. Best I'd ever had. I'm a practicing Christian and I knew I would be married one day. Since I'd found such a great girl, why not go ahead with her? I am 23, and a college grad. She is 20 and still in school. As a Christian I wanted to marry young so as to not live in sin. We dated 6 months. Fast forward to July. We are married. We go on a great honeymoon and have lots of sex. Returning from the honeymoon I change jobs, there's lots of packing and stress so sex is naturally less frequent. I recognized I was beta backsliding (lost my temper, broke frame, covid left us with housing and employment issues, it was a very bad time in my life) but it was too late, I could tell she was growing disdain for me. @@ -74413,7 +74413,7 @@ TLDR: My wife of ONE MONTH has already started sexual denial and she has stated DO I wait this out for a few months, building SMV or is it reasonable to tell a brand new wife, fuck me or fuck you and divorce within 3-6 months of marriage? -for reference I have read ""When I say No, I feel guilty,"" ""Saving a Low Sex Marriage,"" and am currently working through the ""Mindful Attraction Plan""",,31,dongus88,1598323972.0 +for reference I have read ""When I say No, I feel guilty,"" ""Saving a Low Sex Marriage,"" and am currently working through the ""Mindful Attraction Plan""",,31,dongus88,2020-08-25 02:52:52 askMRP,ieub0f,"Fucked My Ex, Now What?? Do I Plate Her?? What Happens Next??","Hola! Sorry, English isn’t my first language and I struggle with it a bit.. I’m Argentinian. @@ -74424,7 +74424,7 @@ Recently [yesterday], my ex came back to me after no contact for four months to My ex jumped on me kissing, grabbed and sucked my cock, as I fucked her mouth, hard. It was nice. I even fucked her in the ass and grabbed her hair as I cummed in her mouth. I fucked her like a dirty slut. It felt good and hot as hell. After she got cleaned up and dressed up, she clearly stated to me that this would never happen again. She started yelling at me on the porch again with neighbours watching what was going on. She got in her Renault and drove off in force. -What happens next? Do I plate my ex? Should I fuck her again if the opportunity arises? Do I add her to my pipeline? She would be bottom of pipeline if so. I have already been spinning plates and have been seeing a couple of young 20s girls that are hotter and more fun to be around. Have any of you been in this position? This whole situation confuses me… Gracias, chicos.",,16,ArgentinaMRP,1598144721.0 +What happens next? Do I plate my ex? Should I fuck her again if the opportunity arises? Do I add her to my pipeline? She would be bottom of pipeline if so. I have already been spinning plates and have been seeing a couple of young 20s girls that are hotter and more fun to be around. Have any of you been in this position? This whole situation confuses me… Gracias, chicos.",,16,ArgentinaMRP,2020-08-23 01:05:21 askMRP,iduj6a,Doctors Not Big on TRT?,"Had an appt yesterday to get a full panel. The doc asked why and I told him my old running buddy was doing it and TRT strongly recommended it, my mail-in saliva sample gave a score of 91, and shared my lack of energy and sexual desire. Dr: ""How often do you have sex?"" @@ -74435,7 +74435,7 @@ Dr: ""That's totally normal. Nothing to be alarmed about. Sure, 18 year olds are He then around three times to the fact that it might be depression (even though I told him my outlook on life is positive) and that after the results come back, we could pursue that route if my T levels are normal (even though the nurse earlier said ""T has such an incredible range of what's normal..."" -If he says no, I'll go somewhere else. But I'm curious if this pushback is normal, and why there would be pushback.",,18,[deleted],1598007021.0 +If he says no, I'll go somewhere else. But I'm curious if this pushback is normal, and why there would be pushback.",,18,[deleted],2020-08-21 10:50:21 askMRP,idygeb,Setting Boundary or Mate Guarding?,"Hello everyone, new here. I'm 24 - lurked Seddit and TRP for years and started reading MRP half a year ago while transitioning into a LTR (3 months) and since then I've read: The Book of Pook, SGM, 3% Man and TRP and MRP sidebars. @@ -74459,7 +74459,7 @@ Fact is she doesn't normally associate with this kind of people and she only met Anyway I'd like to ask for some help on how to handle this. **TL;DR -New girlfriend planning to hang with a group I don't like at all. Do I check her on it or do I pretend it doesn't bother me?**",,5,Rothwayaw,1598022494.0 +New girlfriend planning to hang with a group I don't like at all. Do I check her on it or do I pretend it doesn't bother me?**",,5,Rothwayaw,2020-08-21 15:08:14 askMRP,id7s8u,Getting more actions in MFF in my LTR,"First threesome we had ages ago I got *all* the attention. They did shit years ago, but didn’t really feel like doing stuff to each other. Eventually we feel out with that friend. @@ -74481,7 +74481,7 @@ Edit: Some funny burns not gonna lie, but y’all are useless as fuck input wise I do think it’s important to get control of the situation. I think watching chicks is hot (girl on girl isn’t cheating... so insecure) but not worth compromising my control of a situation on. -Edit 2: You know I take that back. This is actually useful in its own way. I think you are all right and that this isn’t gonna work and I should abort mission. I’ll own my shit and admit that. It’s been years since we’ve bothered with this, and I’ve been growing via the sidebar since the last time. I’m glad I thought about it more before agreeing to it this time. The packaging of the input is round about and rough, but that’s to be expected here. I’ll keep improving my shit until I’m the center of attention, or not bother at all. Won’t let myself fall into a scarcity mindset. Thanks for helping me get my head out of my own ass on this one.",,4,tmprp,1597919204.0 +Edit 2: You know I take that back. This is actually useful in its own way. I think you are all right and that this isn’t gonna work and I should abort mission. I’ll own my shit and admit that. It’s been years since we’ve bothered with this, and I’ve been growing via the sidebar since the last time. I’m glad I thought about it more before agreeing to it this time. The packaging of the input is round about and rough, but that’s to be expected here. I’ll keep improving my shit until I’m the center of attention, or not bother at all. Won’t let myself fall into a scarcity mindset. Thanks for helping me get my head out of my own ass on this one.",,4,tmprp,2020-08-20 10:26:44 askMRP,ibsyt9,Note on BF via Scale vs Navy Method,"I saw a recent post re: body fat % and thought I'd share a recent insight A few questioned my stats. I get them from my scale that reads body fat % and it's been fairly consistent for a year. Someone suggested Navy Method. I tried it. Here's the difference. @@ -74494,7 +74494,7 @@ My current stats: 186.5 lbs, Squat 200, BP 145, OHP 110, DL 175, Row 110. BF% via Navy Method makes a lot more sense for those numbers. HTH, -Sod",,0,[deleted],1597719515.0 +Sod",,0,[deleted],2020-08-18 02:58:35 askMRP,ibjoxa,Big test over text," Conversation over text: @@ -74547,7 +74547,7 @@ We recently had a sit-down whee I explained some of my hang-ups with myself. And Help guys. I’ve been taking ice baths every night and doing shit, took my car to get the airbag recalled, trying to be my best. Eating more. Spending time with the kids. Yada yada. Did I handle this right? -(Sorry formatting sucks I’m on mobile. Her texts were like four texts each but here they look like one)",,6,LabelOtherSide,1597688549.0 +(Sorry formatting sucks I’m on mobile. Her texts were like four texts each but here they look like one)",,6,LabelOtherSide,2020-08-17 18:22:29 askMRP,ib3xfd,Conflicted about staying together with my LTR or breaking up with her as she approaches the wall — advice needed.,"Hey guys! I just turned 29 years old (5’11, 191lbs, 13% BF, lifting 4X a week on average, and started to hit the sidebar on MRP back in January 2019) earlier this year and have been following RP content for the past few years now. I stumbled upon content on YouTube and a couple of the other TRP subs on Reddit at the time. It really wasn’t until I found the married red pill sub, when I actively went through the sidebar, even though I started out reading all three of Rollo’s Rational Male books when I originally discovered this content. @@ -74570,8 +74570,8 @@ I’ve searched through and read a lot of posts on both this sub and the main MR One of the alarm bells that also goes off for me is knowing that my girlfriend has also entered the epiphany phase, which makes me wonder how quickly she will want me to put a ring on her; especially, if I move her in with me. I have told her in the past that I was not looking to get married and/or having kids anytime soon, even though my thoughts have shifted more towards not having kids and getting married at all. I do consume a steady diet of Rich Cooper’s youtube channel where he talks about marriage being a slaughter house. Even recently, he had a divorce lawyer come on his channel to talk about marriage, family, & common law situations, which was an eye opener for me. I’m also prepared that if she gives me the shit or get off the pot speech, that I will go over and open the door for her to leave. -I look forward to hearing some feedback on my situation; especially, from those MRPers who have been in my situation before. Thanks for reading through my post.",,3,Snow_Bananas,1597624345.0 -askMRP,i9rqwa,Fitness: can you build muscle on paleo,"So wife brought up doing Whole30 (pretty much the same as Paleo diet) and she wants to do it to lose weight. I have done it with her in the past and holy shit did I feel energetic. She lost a lot of weight at the time as well. Well she wants to do it again but my personal body goals are different now. I want to bulk up/build muscle. As they say, muscles are built in the kitchen. Paleo is pretty restrictive, can I bulk up while doing paleo? Cutting out sugars and dairy and crap felt really good last time I did it, just not sure if I should do it again. I want the energy and mental clarity benefits but don’t want to hijack my potential gains. Anyone have any experience with this?",,4,LabelOtherSide,1597430781.0 +I look forward to hearing some feedback on my situation; especially, from those MRPers who have been in my situation before. Thanks for reading through my post.",,3,Snow_Bananas,2020-08-17 00:32:25 +askMRP,i9rqwa,Fitness: can you build muscle on paleo,"So wife brought up doing Whole30 (pretty much the same as Paleo diet) and she wants to do it to lose weight. I have done it with her in the past and holy shit did I feel energetic. She lost a lot of weight at the time as well. Well she wants to do it again but my personal body goals are different now. I want to bulk up/build muscle. As they say, muscles are built in the kitchen. Paleo is pretty restrictive, can I bulk up while doing paleo? Cutting out sugars and dairy and crap felt really good last time I did it, just not sure if I should do it again. I want the energy and mental clarity benefits but don’t want to hijack my potential gains. Anyone have any experience with this?",,4,LabelOtherSide,2020-08-14 18:46:21 askMRP,i944l0,Baby is on the way!,"I made a person. Another little one. This will be child #3 for my wife and I. Last time I had a pregnant lady in my household, I was a blue pill, fatty McLoserFace. @@ -74580,7 +74580,7 @@ A little more than a year into my RP journey, and everything is quite different. Any advice you can offer? I've read elsewhere to put a MAP on hold with a pregnant/nursing partner (which seems silly because like hell I'm going to stop lifting, etc.). -What landmines should I be on the lookout for?",,1,CarelessBowler5,1597339423.0 +What landmines should I be on the lookout for?",,1,CarelessBowler5,2020-08-13 17:23:43 askMRP,i80jkz,advice for my brother who has LTR with 3 kids that is about to go sideways,"My bother is about to break up with his LTR (again). They have been together for over 10 years and they have 3 young kids. It's painful to watch. They broke up something like two years ago and staid apart for a year. But then went back together (I was surprised) and have been together for a year again now. I think she took him back mostly cause she just couldn't raise the kids by herself with her working full time on a job that requires a lot of traveling. If you look at her social media, it's blasted with her and the kids, not a single photo on sight about my brother. When they break up, she is also about to get a lot of my brother's assets as my brother was fool enough not to secure himself and the apartment is on her name although he paid more than half of it. I think she has lost respect for my brother, at least somewhat. They are both in their late 30's. My brother is a difficult and closed-up person and he doesn't want to get advice from anyone. He gets offended if anyone wants to teach him something, so it's hard for me to do anything. But it's so painful to watch and it affects me too as I do business with him occasionally. So I was thinking is there a way I could give him some information in a more 'gentle' way like he would have found it himself or something. I think it's a lost cause but I think I would like to do something as it seems he is doing really counter-intuitive things. @@ -74589,7 +74589,7 @@ I think my brother is a blue-billed, hard-working family man, putting family fir Some time ago I stumbled on a great Reddit post about steps one can take in this situation, in case he still wants to salvage the situation. Like when they have not yet broken up but it seems it's going in that direction. But all these of our subreddits put in quarantine, I cannot find it anymore in Google search. It seems Google has really fucked up Red Pill's findings, only finding the warning articles not to take Red Pill advice :D -The post included obviously dread/lifting/socializing/getting game in order but it was a long and great post. I'm sure there are others like it. Can someone point me in the right direction, please? Would be very grateful!",,4,memoryboy27,1597181320.0 +The post included obviously dread/lifting/socializing/getting game in order but it was a long and great post. I'm sure there are others like it. Can someone point me in the right direction, please? Would be very grateful!",,4,memoryboy27,2020-08-11 21:28:40 askMRP,i7lm1k,How to break up with LTR when she has done nothing wrong?,"32M / 176cm / 77kg I've been lurking in these related sub reddits for many years and its been life changing. Using a new account for op-sec. @@ -74644,7 +74644,7 @@ But then i worry im taking her best years too. She talks about marriage and kids What is the best way to break up? When she has been an excellent partner and im just a broken selfish ass hole who wants to get up in the morning and do whatever i want. Freedom basically. -Im probably overthinking this and thinking my case is somehow special with my unicorn. I just dont know how to 'let her down easy' as the George Michael song goes.",,0,user-havok,1597122292.0 +Im probably overthinking this and thinking my case is somehow special with my unicorn. I just dont know how to 'let her down easy' as the George Michael song goes.",,0,user-havok,2020-08-11 05:04:52 askMRP,i6wkpq,Providing solutions vs leading,"I’m going to speak in generalized terms because I don’t have references for some of the concepts I have read about on this. I believe as a man, where we can go wrong is when we’re trying to provide a solution to a problem our woman may have. I.e., she comes home bitching about co workers or her job and we try to chime in with how these issues can be fixed ... @@ -74659,7 +74659,7 @@ I’m trying to find a balance with my main plate where she dumps all her issues But I also don’t want to sit there like the autist that I am, nodding and saying “oh wow.” -Not sure this is coming across properly, but any reading references would be appreciated.",,10,Unfugwitable,1597027015.0 +Not sure this is coming across properly, but any reading references would be appreciated.",,10,Unfugwitable,2020-08-10 02:36:55 askMRP,i6b4kd,I am no longer interested in getting married and I need advice on what to do moving forward…,"Hello MRPers. First off, I’m on mobile, so I apologize for any formatting issues this post may have. I had trouble logging into my main account that a normally use on my browser, which is why I’m posting on a new account here. @@ -74674,8 +74674,8 @@ To be fair, I was already thinking about proposing to her for a while (up to tha I know that I’m going to be the bad guy and the fucking asshole, but I’m not sure how to approach this situation. Has anyone here had to call off a marriage before? Do I just push back the marriage for the time being to give us some extra time (a couple of years) before getting married? Do I just break up with her completely? I have fucked up here. I know I have gotten myself into this mess all by myself and I own that. I’m just curious to get some outside feedback on how I approach this situation with my fiancé and her family. -Thank you very much, guys.",,12,Johnny10Help,1596937307.0 -askMRP,i69xv7,"Let me know your options, thank you","My wife and I moved to Colchester to work 3 weeks ago. We're both working for a family friend who owns a shop there. It's tough work, we have to do menial labour and jobs that no-one else wants to do. The boss can also be a nightmare to deal with and the wife really has issues with him. We spoke about this at the start and I've been trying to encourage her and reassure her that it'll all be worth it at the end. However she needs to vent out everyday after work and a few days ago I was like there's no point talking about it and just deal with it. Well that pissed her off and she ended up in a sulk, which also just got me rethinking this whole situation. After that I just STFU and only answered her in short sentences, until everything went back to normal. I even had to take the aggressive initiative and started bossing her around until we made an agreement to not act negative with each other from now on. However, honestly that isn't going to last long. I'm pretty sure that this is going to happen again. Now usually it's fine that she goes off on one after work, but right now, we're both working together, so I'm dealing with crap from her at work and after work. It's turning me insane. Therefore I need options. So far I've figured out 3. 1, carry on as usual, carry the whole load for 6 months until she gets the skills needed and move on. 2, I move back to London and do my own thing, while she does hers. Or 3, I end this and move on. Any advice is appreciated.",,1,Jin_Eden,1596932414.0 +Thank you very much, guys.",,12,Johnny10Help,2020-08-09 01:41:47 +askMRP,i69xv7,"Let me know your options, thank you","My wife and I moved to Colchester to work 3 weeks ago. We're both working for a family friend who owns a shop there. It's tough work, we have to do menial labour and jobs that no-one else wants to do. The boss can also be a nightmare to deal with and the wife really has issues with him. We spoke about this at the start and I've been trying to encourage her and reassure her that it'll all be worth it at the end. However she needs to vent out everyday after work and a few days ago I was like there's no point talking about it and just deal with it. Well that pissed her off and she ended up in a sulk, which also just got me rethinking this whole situation. After that I just STFU and only answered her in short sentences, until everything went back to normal. I even had to take the aggressive initiative and started bossing her around until we made an agreement to not act negative with each other from now on. However, honestly that isn't going to last long. I'm pretty sure that this is going to happen again. Now usually it's fine that she goes off on one after work, but right now, we're both working together, so I'm dealing with crap from her at work and after work. It's turning me insane. Therefore I need options. So far I've figured out 3. 1, carry on as usual, carry the whole load for 6 months until she gets the skills needed and move on. 2, I move back to London and do my own thing, while she does hers. Or 3, I end this and move on. Any advice is appreciated.",,1,Jin_Eden,2020-08-09 00:20:14 askMRP,i3bi1v,Drawing Lines/Boundaries,"I posted this in MRP and was told to post it here. Appreciate any input. Last night my wife came back with our 11 and 12 yo and I found that they had gone to a family friend's place (pseudo grandparent types) and joined the divorced son and his 15 yo son in shooting skeet. @@ -74690,7 +74690,7 @@ Obviously I see I screwed up in that I'm not having cool/dangerous/fun things li Secondly, I need to live in general in a way that gives her the feelz so that there's no reason to want to hang out somewhere else. It's one thing that she really likes the grandma person, but the divorced son that lives there is absolutely something I'm not comfortable with tons of time around. -Scott",,12,[deleted],1596510057.0 +Scott",,12,[deleted],2020-08-04 03:00:57 askMRP,i2g9kf,LTR jealous of other relationships,"Plated her for 3 months, made LTR 1 year and 2 months ago. She’s basically on her phone 25/8 and look at other girls’ Instagram all the time. Apparently yesterday was National GF day(?) and I didn’t even notice, now she’s telling me she is jealous of other girls getting spoiled and getting surprises. I still surprise my gf with experiences, not material gifts. She tells me she has to beg/ ask for things from me. I usually say no when she asks for anything out of nowhere that is more than $100, I like to plan it out with my finances and by myself. @@ -74700,7 +74700,7 @@ I told her that I will pay more attention to her wants, but that she shouldn’t Not sure what I should do, I just would like some guidance as I’ve thought I’ve been beta/ alpha, and somehow it doesn’t work. -tl;dr - LTR complains I don’t get her anything, when I buy our experiences, not materials. I tell her I’ll make myself more aware of what she wants, but not to compare our relationship to others.",,0,MRPhercules,1596390546.0 +tl;dr - LTR complains I don’t get her anything, when I buy our experiences, not materials. I tell her I’ll make myself more aware of what she wants, but not to compare our relationship to others.",,0,MRPhercules,2020-08-02 17:49:06 askMRP,i15fnj,Are these my only options?,"A bit of info about me; 24 years old, lift 4 times a week for the past 2 1/2 years. Currently studying my bachelor's degree. While trying to get work as a firefighter. Currently earning good money at the moment though (barring this quarantine). I figured I would post this here as opposed to asktrp. @@ -74716,7 +74716,7 @@ Yet when it comes to finding a woman worth working with. I feel like I'm stuck. Should I just ignore the gross feeling of being branch swung to? It feels like a lose lose either way. -Edit: Thanks for the advice everyone. I guess I just need to continue focusing on what I've been doing. And to not lower my standards.",,11,[deleted],1596192437.0 +Edit: Thanks for the advice everyone. I guess I just need to continue focusing on what I've been doing. And to not lower my standards.",,11,[deleted],2020-07-31 10:47:17 askMRP,i1guqv,My Covert Narcissist Girlfriend,"I've been in an abusive relationship. She has acknowledged the abuse. We are a classic co-dependant / narcissist but it took me so long to discover because she is actually what is called a shy narcissist. There is a heavy amount of manipulation and it turns aggressive. I have read enough to know that my game here is boundaries. I would really appreciate any advice and help I can gain on the situation. She tests me constantly, creating drama, playing the victim/attacking me when i call her on something (calmly) when I assert a boundary, she can try a war of attrition, sometimes for days, where she withholds love and affection, blame-shifting. If she has been aggressive, I kick her out. She punished by ignoring the whole night. It's all very toxic, but I have been able to focus on myself. @@ -74727,7 +74727,7 @@ A little on Narcs. Narcs want SUPPLY. Supply is what they crave to validate thei She is going to call an abuse perpetrator service over the next few days. She has learned to talk about her shame and read no more mr nice guy, and some other books. Will STFU, BOUNDARIES and IDGAF work, as I become less co-dependant and more focused on myself, it is like magnets? Will she then respond to therapy and start to show investment and care? I know this relationship is abusive, but I do want to know I gave it my all and tried everything before leaving it. I may be co-dependant beta, but my devotion to love is real. Even if that person is abusing me? She's literally out to get me, but it's not because she genuinely wants to hurt me. She does this because she is obsessed with power and control. She feels she needs it, and that she needs to manipulate inorder to survive, to fight and manipulate, to bring me down, in order to feel happy. It's a survival thing, even though the choice to become violent is hers, the narcissism is not. If she displays a motivation to go to therapy, as fucked up as this is, I want to support her. As a Narc she is putting up a serious fight for dominance. I feel the one way open relationship will balance this out if she goes for it. I have an idea that if I am alpha, built high value and give stable boundaries and consequences, lovingly, I could watch her slowly improve and start to use her emotional sensitivity for good. -Any advice or yelling would be greatly appreciated, especially MRP dynamics that are at play that I am not seeing, and how they relate to a co-dependant / Narc. Maybe some of you will have the theory that she's only dong this because I am co-dependant beta and she wants to destory me? I don't even know, I haven't had enough experience with LTR.",,0,AddictionForPurpose,1596233959.0 +Any advice or yelling would be greatly appreciated, especially MRP dynamics that are at play that I am not seeing, and how they relate to a co-dependant / Narc. Maybe some of you will have the theory that she's only dong this because I am co-dependant beta and she wants to destory me? I don't even know, I haven't had enough experience with LTR.",,0,AddictionForPurpose,2020-07-31 22:19:19 askMRP,i0pg88,My Wife Asked for Couseling,"Alright guys, this is it. There have been a lot of things I’ve wanted to ask on here over the past few months, but she hit me with this today so I figured the time was right to ask for help. My wife and I were texting today, talking about how our needs were not getting met. @@ -74752,7 +74752,7 @@ I am trying to bulk up, increase SMV (just got a new haircut that looks great) b My fear of counseling is that the counselor will convince my wife that her “needs” are for me to be sweet, mild, agreeable, when actually my wife really just needs me to become the best man I can be. -Come on, bash me. Or give me some advice. I haven’t even responded to her text yet.",,17,LabelOtherSide,1596127638.0 +Come on, bash me. Or give me some advice. I haven’t even responded to her text yet.",,17,LabelOtherSide,2020-07-30 16:47:18 askMRP,hze99b,Do I give my wife the emotional connection she is asking for,"I'm fairly new to RP (read MMSLP, part way through NMMNG) not lifting yet (hurt my arm + gyms closed due to Covid) but cycling 3 times a week, doing stomach crunches and I'm not much overweight. Trying to be more assertive. Overall I think the household culture is improving but still a long way to go (married 24 years and I've always been beta). Last night I tried to initiate sex, after sitting and chatting a little while, and she refused and said she just wanted to chat. I said that it was fine if she didn't want to have sex but that we'd already been talking for 30 mins so I would go and watch TV, which I did. This morning she came to me saying that she needs more emotional connection ie talking without sex on the agenda. @@ -74760,7 +74760,7 @@ I don't have any issue spending time talking with her but I said that I'm not in Should I give her some time tonight or should I do my own thing and wait till she comes to me. On a related note, when people say they reward their wife for good behaviour what does that mean in practice? Finally how do people select a small part of a post to reply to? -Thank you",,9,Alf248365,1595941354.0 +Thank you",,9,Alf248365,2020-07-28 13:02:34 askMRP,hyitf3,I [33M] am 8 months into my MAP and I’m losing attraction & interest for my SO [28F] — looking for some outside opinions.,"**Stats**: - 33 years old @@ -74795,7 +74795,7 @@ I love and care for my SO a lot. She is beautiful, very sweet and caring to me, I would love some outside thoughts on my situation here; especially, from those of you here in LTRs and marriages where maybe you have had to deal with similar feelings and/or situations similar to mine. If you were in my spot, how would you broach the situation as a whole? As I mentioned before in my post, I’m pretty conflicted right now on the relationship as I have been improving my life quite a lot in the last number of months, with a special thanks to this sub and the sidebar. -Thanks for reading.",,12,Mobile1Guy,1595812530.0 +Thanks for reading.",,12,Mobile1Guy,2020-07-27 01:15:30 askMRP,hvt0mg,Married with Children,"I'll try to keep it brief. Married with one 2-year old daughter. I have a good full-time job and my wife is unemployed. I also lift about 5 days a week and she runs occasionally. We are both in our late 30's. You will understand this post better if you have children. The problem is my wife doesn't want to be a mother to our daughter. By that I mean she constantly ignores her and doesn't want to follow ""good parenting"" habits. The ignoring part gets to the point of neglect where I have to fill in when our daughter is calling my wife for something. By parenting habits I mean feeding habits, correcting our child when she does something wrong, teaching our child, guiding her, not arguing with me that it's OK to put lipstick (with chemicals) on her, not trying to make a 2-year old feel guilty about things that are not her fault, protecting her when she's about to fall, etc. My wife's negative behavior is an everyday thing. It's not just a once a week incident. It's not that my wife doesn't know any better, or that she's tired, or that doesn't she have the time, or that she is dumb. It's just that she doesn't want to be a parent. @@ -74804,7 +74804,7 @@ This would be easier to fix if she admitted it, but she doesn't. In fact, she's So I really don't know what to do in this situation. As far as I know, we don't have a problem with sex. And if there were a problem, it would be easy to fix. Just literally leave the house for any reason, and her attitude changes. But I don't know how to change her attitude towards our daughter. I've tried stepping in when she ignores her (in fact I do this every day). I've tried telling her to stop ignoring her, don't feed her junk, stop yelling at the baby, etc. I've tried showing her articles online for specific parenting situations. None of it works. The point is she just doesn't want to be a good mother because there is no apparent threat against her for not being a good mother. She knows I can't just leave and mess up my daughter's life. -So how can I get some leverage over her? How can I make her want to be a good mother or else she'll lose something? I realize that this is not an easy question to answer. At least not for me. Thanks in advance.",,20,simpleguy237,1595421451.0 +So how can I get some leverage over her? How can I make her want to be a good mother or else she'll lose something? I realize that this is not an easy question to answer. At least not for me. Thanks in advance.",,20,simpleguy237,2020-07-22 12:37:31 askMRP,hvpxol,Women hate men especially the married ones in my country. Do single women hate married men?,"Hi all, I am 24 years old and married. I live in a country where most of men acts like beta, get jealous, kill women when they could not get what they want. A 27 y’o single girl was killed by a married guy 5-6 days ago. He cheats on his wife and wanted to date with that girl but he killed the girl when she said she could not date him because he was married. @@ -74819,8 +74819,8 @@ Sometimes you give advices to some men here about dread. How can we apply dread Only way to do that is to tell her that I am single. They always think that we will fuck them when they know we are married. -Sometimes I hate men in my country.",,0,dbayraktar,1595405928.0 -askMRP,hut6ys,Much younger women,I'm 36 and have been seeing a 21 year old girl for a few months now. She's hinted at being exclusive and I am considering it. My parents have a 15 year age difference and they've never had issues. I'm curious what other people's experiences have been with large age gaps.,,6,[deleted],1595277345.0 +Sometimes I hate men in my country.",,0,dbayraktar,2020-07-22 08:18:48 +askMRP,hut6ys,Much younger women,I'm 36 and have been seeing a 21 year old girl for a few months now. She's hinted at being exclusive and I am considering it. My parents have a 15 year age difference and they've never had issues. I'm curious what other people's experiences have been with large age gaps.,,6,[deleted],2020-07-20 20:35:45 askMRP,ht1soe,Don’t Be Like Jack,"Hey guys. As some of you may of remembered, I submitted this [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/hogqiw/so_upset_about_iois_from_neighbour/) last week. I got a lot of good feedback from you guys, which I really appreciate. I wanted to make this post to share what I tired with my SO around her hamster dealing with my neighbour (Jill), but I also wanted to share a story as a little reminder for all of us here (new & old). @@ -74857,7 +74857,7 @@ It seems really clear to me that Jack ~~is~~ **has always been** in the doghouse As I mentioned before, I wanted to share this as a reminder to keep pursuing excellence within your own life and MAKE YOURSELF the priority. Hit the sidebar, lift heavy, and keep improving. Oh? You have done that? Hit the sidebar again, and again, and again, and again. That sidebar is your fucking friend. You fucking hit that sidebar. -Don’t be like Jack.",,34,SamHighway,1595012978.0 +Don’t be like Jack.",,34,SamHighway,2020-07-17 19:09:38 askMRP,hr0lcl,My wife friend,"Hi guys So my wife hase a female friend that told her once that she would be happier if my wife was alone than with me. @@ -74870,10 +74870,10 @@ Yesterday she told me that her friend will come at home the day I am off to chil And that I have the choice either to see her or to leave the house when she is here. -How would you react to this ?",,2,hemodia,1594729702.0 +How would you react to this ?",,2,hemodia,2020-07-14 12:28:22 askMRP,hpr66m,How do you react or respond when someone hits/flirts with your wife?,"You know those situations where when a guy and your wife are having a friendly conversation in a public setting, and they get lost in their own little world. Your name might be mentioned. They look at you, and then they quickly look back at each other. -Should you simply ignore it or intervene at some point?",,14,ShiningShrine,1594543173.0 +Should you simply ignore it or intervene at some point?",,14,ShiningShrine,2020-07-12 08:39:33 askMRP,hpbhjx,Should the wife take a new job during Covid?,"I am 39 and wife is 39. Married 9 years. We have 3 kids: 6, 3.5 and 1.5 years old. I took the pill 3 years ago. Read the side bar 2x and revisit books. STFU. Lift regularly. Have a rack and home gym and have been doing the Arnold lifting for mass program at home. Recently been lifting 5 days a week and added 7 lbs. I took my wife on a date the other week. Didn’t want to do restaurants due to C-19 so put a mattress in the back of the van and drove to a secluded spot overlooking the beach, ate some sushi we picked up. I brought a bullet vibrator; one thing leads to another and we had some fun anal sex in the back of the van. Life has been good thanks to the sidebar and self improvement. @@ -74888,7 +74888,7 @@ Some goals I have are to buy a larger home, stop paying out of pocket medical in As much as I really would like to have the money from her working to put towards my goals and cover my downside, I am concerned that unless she really likes the job she will be resentful for me telling her to take it. In addition, I am aware that adding fatigue and stress into the equation isn’t likely to get me laid more. That said, as the leader of our family I am also thinking about what is the best financial decision. At this time the potential economic impacts of the pandemic are concerning to me and it is very possible that in a year from now I haven’t made much money and we are just burning through cash. -So, I am curious if anyone else has been through this or had any helpful insights?",,3,LaxerCA,1594480009.0 +So, I am curious if anyone else has been through this or had any helpful insights?",,3,LaxerCA,2020-07-11 15:06:49 askMRP,hogqiw,SO Upset About IOIs From Neighbour,"**Rundown**: 32 years old, 6’1, 193lbs, Lifting 4 to 5 times a week, 11% BF (lean/athletic build) **Sidebar**: NMMNG, WISNIFG, RM (#1 & #2), Book of Pook, 48 Laws of Power, and working on The Way of The Superior Man. I am also subscribed to Rian Stone & Rich Coopers YouTube channels. @@ -74921,7 +74921,7 @@ Thanks, guys. --- -**EDIT**: Thanks for all of the feedback & entertaining comments, guys! I will keep in mind everything that was mentioned here. Thank you all for taking out the time.",,22,SamHighway,1594348022.0 +**EDIT**: Thanks for all of the feedback & entertaining comments, guys! I will keep in mind everything that was mentioned here. Thank you all for taking out the time.",,22,SamHighway,2020-07-10 02:27:02 askMRP,hmd749,How to show praise over progress,"My wife has been showing more interest in dressing up, making more sexual comments towards me, and has been reacting warmly to my advances. She has been wearing things I’ve asked her to wear (that she didn’t want to wear years ago) and has been talking about getting in shape after the baby is born. I have been so pleased with her level of enthusiasm. She even recently spent money to buy some beauty products and has been applying them regularly. @@ -74933,7 +74933,7 @@ Today she broke down and said “I don’t want to wear (random item)” and “ Am I not showing enough attention, since that’s her main currency that she wants? Am I not praising her enough? How do I keep encouraging her as she makes these commitments to be an attractive female? -What’s the deal here? She said “your standards are just so high.”",,22,LabelOtherSide,1594060450.0 +What’s the deal here? She said “your standards are just so high.”",,22,LabelOtherSide,2020-07-06 18:34:10 askMRP,hj7xe6,"Hanging on by a thread, must need a MAP","I'm 37, she's 35, we have three kids aged between 3 and 8. About 8 months ago my partner told me out of the blue she wants to break up. It prompted much analysing of myself and a huge number of arguments and me working on improving myself and me spying on her stuff to realise she had been having what redditors appear to call an emotional affair with some guy and the thrust in that relationship seemed to be mainly from her. Though she says it wasn't an emotional affair, but it does seem to &#x200B; @@ -74966,7 +74966,7 @@ But I'm hanging on by a thread here. &#x200B; -Definitely need the MAP but I can't find where to get started with making one, is there a make your MAP guide I'm missing or have I not worked my way through enough of the sidebar yet?",,14,PrinceOfCupsMrp,1593600468.0 +Definitely need the MAP but I can't find where to get started with making one, is there a make your MAP guide I'm missing or have I not worked my way through enough of the sidebar yet?",,14,PrinceOfCupsMrp,2020-07-01 10:47:48 askMRP,hirar0,Doomed to beta-dom?,"Trying to figure out if marriage is recoverable. Wife is ex-slut. I got married to her long before exposure to RP practices, thought having an 'experienced' woman was, like, progressive, or something. @@ -74977,21 +74977,21 @@ Is that the right translation? She did have a history of destructive relationships, which seems to have ended with me. So in a sense, I'm doing my job. I'm keeping her from being an asshole to the rest of the world, it seems. She's actually a very positive influence in many people's lives since our marriage. -Been focusing on getting my shit together for about a year now, some progress. But the question is, even with all this progress, if I've been chosen based on being beta-izable (and clearly exist largely for comfort, to which she is insanely attached), does that even matter? What the hell is going on, what should I do?",,6,zuhal93,1593536456.0 +Been focusing on getting my shit together for about a year now, some progress. But the question is, even with all this progress, if I've been chosen based on being beta-izable (and clearly exist largely for comfort, to which she is insanely attached), does that even matter? What the hell is going on, what should I do?",,6,zuhal93,2020-06-30 17:00:56 askMRP,hfwv20,RP that somehow became BP,"Was RP without even really knowing it throughout my teens and 20s. Did my thing. Lived my life. Hobbies. Education. Career building. Met my wife. Fucked constantly, publicly and dirty. She was happy tagging along and was happy to stay at home and be led. Fast forward to now. Somehow I BPd myself along the way. The sex. The intimacy. My hobbies. Everything got pushed back or dropped until now I do almost none of those things. It got so bad that I actually had 'the talk' with my wife about our sex life. Yeah. I did that. So now I'm waking back up. Rekindling old friendships. Hitting the gym. Reading. Taking up new shit. Trying to find that man again. Dropping the faggotry. -My question is, having started reading actively again, what are some good resources to turn to? I'm pretty new to the active RP community so I'm unfamiliar with the literature. I want to do this right.",,12,Idigabighole,1593128566.0 +My question is, having started reading actively again, what are some good resources to turn to? I'm pretty new to the active RP community so I'm unfamiliar with the literature. I want to do this right.",,12,Idigabighole,2020-06-25 23:42:46 askMRP,hfb81t,Should i tell my Ex about my worries regarding Corona ?,"So my Ex whom i share two kids with doesn't give a fck about corona. She believes in homeopathy and that all this corona thing is a lie. I have asthma and live with my parents in one house and i'm also worried about my children. We live in a small town and my Ex visits her fwb regularly ( who lives 120 miles away, big city ) whenever i have the kids or they are with their grandparents. She takes the train which also increases the risk to get infected. I don't make the intention that i care about that but i told her one time that she should be more careful because of covid and that me, my family and the kids could get covid through her. -Some of my family members even advised me to not take my kids as long as this virus is going around. I really don't want to do that.. What would you do? I will pick up my kids on friday and im thinking about talking to her again regarding this issue. Is this a good idea or unnecessary and what can i do else?",,3,antioch94,1593038661.0 +Some of my family members even advised me to not take my kids as long as this virus is going around. I really don't want to do that.. What would you do? I will pick up my kids on friday and im thinking about talking to her again regarding this issue. Is this a good idea or unnecessary and what can i do else?",,3,antioch94,2020-06-24 22:44:21 askMRP,heto3x,Preparing for divorce,"I am just looking for any pointers or general advice as I get ready to split from my marriage. New to TRP. Have read Rational Male and Preventative Medicine. I’m half way through the sidebar. @@ -75004,14 +75004,14 @@ So counseling has been on hold since quarantine. We’ve been fighting a lot la I’m ready to let her know I’m done. My daughter’s birthdays are in May and June so I’m trying to wait until that’s done. I’m leaving to visit my elderly parents after and will be gone for two weeks. My plan is to come back and have the conversation (again). This time will not be a negotiation but I will try to get her to agree to mediation. If she refuses I will file myself. My oldest daughter will be in college in a year so I would rather not hire lawyers but will do it if needed. -So, anything I need to do? I’m 100% in my head every second of every day. Just trying to actually do this because I’ve been on the fence for years.",,23,The_new_Todd,1592970477.0 -askMRP,hcv8p3,Affection and Flirting,Any idea how much is enough?,,10,[deleted],1592692453.0 +So, anything I need to do? I’m 100% in my head every second of every day. Just trying to actually do this because I’ve been on the fence for years.",,23,The_new_Todd,2020-06-24 03:47:57 +askMRP,hcv8p3,Affection and Flirting,Any idea how much is enough?,,10,[deleted],2020-06-20 22:34:13 askMRP,hcty2k,There was a book recommendation in a post. Cant find it any help?,"It was about the secret inside world of female texts/messaging. -Book shows their their conversations",,0,g4l4xy36,1592687783.0 +Book shows their their conversations",,0,g4l4xy36,2020-06-20 21:16:23 askMRP,hc1rnb,Getting out of the comfort zone,"I am still early on in my journey, I have read NMMNG, MAP, MMSLP. Am working on WISNIFG and Models. I really am only 6 or 7 weeks in and running dread/map. I have been working out and loosing weight (30lbs down). One of my biggest obstacles that I will face coming up is my social anxiety. I have joined a toastmaster club as a start and am enjoying that. But I feel like that while that is a good step, it is just a small one and a start. As I progress I will need to challenge myself more. -I am looking for ideas on ways to get out of my comfort zone and work on my social skills and game. My question is, what clubs, activities, events have you done or would recommend?",,5,Bluejuju543,1592577292.0 +I am looking for ideas on ways to get out of my comfort zone and work on my social skills and game. My question is, what clubs, activities, events have you done or would recommend?",,5,Bluejuju543,2020-06-19 14:34:52 askMRP,hachcn,Young guy (26) has serious problems with Ex ( mom of his kids),"Hi i'm new here. I posted on ASKtrp today and they told me to post my issue here because you guys are more experienced on these kinds of things i guess. @@ -75042,7 +75042,7 @@ So my current situation is: I have 50/50 custody for both kids, i'm working on a My latest problem with my Ex is this : [https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/ha2nei/ex\_behaves\_like\_a\_cunttreats\_me\_bad\_even\_though/](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/ha2nei/ex_behaves_like_a_cunttreats_me_bad_even_though/) -What should i do in this f'd up situation?",,1,antioch94,1592340750.0 +What should i do in this f'd up situation?",,1,antioch94,2020-06-16 20:52:30 askMRP,h0f845,Question: Career Decisions,"I posted this question on MRP the other day, and didn't realise this sub existed, so I'm posting it here on the referral of Horns. To preface, I'm in this sub as a 21 year old guy because I know that the average age of users here is much older than on the main RP Subs, and since this question is one answered from experience, I feel this is the place to go for the best responses. @@ -75057,7 +75057,7 @@ Then, we have accounting. Lots of accounting firms nearby where I live, full tra I understand you'll be making more in all of these positions as you take on a more managerial roles as your career progresses, but I still imagine trends will hold true. -I feel like I'm well setup to go in and smash this shit out of the park, I just don't know where the hell to aim. I'm really willing to put the work in and grind my way, I'm not asking for a freebie here, but does anyone have any suggestions from their experience as to a good area to look at?",,10,Socawo,1591809115.0 +I feel like I'm well setup to go in and smash this shit out of the park, I just don't know where the hell to aim. I'm really willing to put the work in and grind my way, I'm not asking for a freebie here, but does anyone have any suggestions from their experience as to a good area to look at?",,10,Socawo,2020-06-10 17:11:55 askMRP,gyur4m,What's a man to do? (Victim Puke),"**This is my victim puke, there's a lot of puke...plus some vomiting and diarrhea.** Me: Age 34, height 6', weight 183 lbs, 13.5% bf @@ -75122,7 +75122,7 @@ I struggle daily with the cognitive dissonance and incongruence between my value Surely, these were a series of multiple failed attempts to get me to ""kill the puppy"" and perhaps some signs of personality disorder. Or maybe hypergamy and how women won't marry down, only up and across (AP was wealthy). Or maybe I just began to let things slide and became a complete beta-bucks and STBXW is just AWALT. I don't know. I do know that I am tired of being in a constant state of fear, anger, and suffering without much meaningfulness. It's been over a year since d-day and it still hurts like a motherfucker. -Does being better and staying ever work? How do I deal with the crippling pain and all of the intense negative emotions that I continue to experience? What's a man to do?",,5,ragnar_114,1591601986.0 +Does being better and staying ever work? How do I deal with the crippling pain and all of the intense negative emotions that I continue to experience? What's a man to do?",,5,ragnar_114,2020-06-08 07:39:46 askMRP,gv9zin,Cannot stand my pregnant wife.,"I'm 27, 5ft10, 185lbs. Lift 5 times a week. 2 plate bench, 3 plate squat, 4 plate dead. 16-17 body fat. Having sex a 2-3 times a week. @@ -75135,7 +75135,7 @@ But nothing gives her pause to self reflect. She is incapable of realising what If I didn't have a kid with this woman, and another on the way, I would have left by now. -Has anybody dealt with this before? She is pregnant, but the level of abuse and disrespect is nothing short of the product of a diseased mind. The pregnancy cannot be an excuse. I have no idea what to do though.",,13,inshallahmode,1591113778.0 +Has anybody dealt with this before? She is pregnant, but the level of abuse and disrespect is nothing short of the product of a diseased mind. The pregnancy cannot be an excuse. I have no idea what to do though.",,13,inshallahmode,2020-06-02 16:02:58 askMRP,gtl7pc,Turned down sex and really upset him. What can I say to make it up to him?,"I had a bad day yesterday. Like lose my job bad. Sudden, unexpected change of career. He came over and he was upset about his bad morning. I didn’t get the comforting I was hoping for but that’s ok. Then I dropped and broke an antique. Then he tried to initiate rough sex and I wasn’t expecting it. I say I reacted with surprise and a little fear, he says “revulsion and disgust”. He’s so upset. I feel so bad about it. I have a personal policy of never turning him down, but I was woozy and totally caught off guard. I completely deny revulsion and disgust but I accept that that’s what he interpreted. @@ -75144,7 +75144,7 @@ We’ve since had sex, but he’s still all fucked up from the rejection. He doe Besides initiating, reminding him I love and want him and telling him I’m sorry, is there anything I I can do or say to help fix this? -I’m asking y’all because I don’t trust the rest of reddit to give advice to a happy submissive woman about a relationship with a real man.",,0,CeruleanRabbit,1590870660.0 +I’m asking y’all because I don’t trust the rest of reddit to give advice to a happy submissive woman about a relationship with a real man.",,0,CeruleanRabbit,2020-05-30 20:31:00 askMRP,glhe6v,Upgrading my home gym weight set,"I am very close to outgrowing my starter 1"" weight set and looking to upgrade. I did some research and looked at a lot of items but I don't have faith in a lot of what I saw, especially taking price/quality into concern. I was going to buy a 300lb Olympic set with barbell, but that was a)$700 and b) seemed like garbage. So then I thought about a 700lb barbell capacity (which was less than $150 on Amazon) but then need to get a weight set separately. And that was not easy to find either. @@ -75162,10 +75162,10 @@ https://www.amazon.com/CAP-Barbell-Olympic-Weight-Medium/dp/B004X1688A/ref=mp_s_ I am willing to pay $1000 for the whole set up, but is that not good enough for a set up? -Edit: while on the topic of Bigger Leaner Stronger: for leg day he recommends leg press. However I cannot do that because I don't have the equipment and my doctor recommends against it because of my two bad hips. So I have been doing an extra set of squats. Does that make sense or are there better recommendations?",,7,Vegasman20002,1589729734.0 +Edit: while on the topic of Bigger Leaner Stronger: for leg day he recommends leg press. However I cannot do that because I don't have the equipment and my doctor recommends against it because of my two bad hips. So I have been doing an extra set of squats. Does that make sense or are there better recommendations?",,7,Vegasman20002,2020-05-17 15:35:34 askMRP,gikco3,How to deal with irreconcilable differences of opinion on very serious issues,"At the launch of my drunk captain phase, my wife had a potentially serious medical complication during her pregnancy, and she wanted to use a course of treatment that I thought was too risky and I was strongly opposed to. I insisted that she not go through with it, but she decided to anyways, and basically said 'fuck you, it's my body.' For purposes of this question, assume we are both professionals qualified to have a strong opinion in this area. I felt helpless and angry that my wife and child were being endangered, and there was nothing I could do- I had zero input. -I laid out the scientific evidence and argued hard, but never supported her emotionally. I realize that I was aggressive, and fragile when I should have been empathetically assertive. Also, it is her body, and I really didn't have any rights here culturally or legally, despite being the father. But is there anything I am missing about how I could have handled this type of situation better? I feel like the same dynamic keeps playing out in my life, and I keep making the same mistakes.",,16,[deleted],1589317377.0 +I laid out the scientific evidence and argued hard, but never supported her emotionally. I realize that I was aggressive, and fragile when I should have been empathetically assertive. Also, it is her body, and I really didn't have any rights here culturally or legally, despite being the father. But is there anything I am missing about how I could have handled this type of situation better? I feel like the same dynamic keeps playing out in my life, and I keep making the same mistakes.",,16,[deleted],2020-05-12 21:02:57 askMRP,ghfxuh,How to respond to wife when she says she wants me to share more of my vulnerabilities/emotions,"Hey MRP, It's been a while since I've visited the RP community. I got married late last year to a woman that I find very attractive. **The TLDR is that my alpha game (frame, being a strong oak, not being emotionally weak) is strong, but my wife, who is much more emotional, feels that I'm distant when I do that and she feels emotionally weak compared to me. How can I help my wife feel comfortable while at the same time being emotionally very strong? Is that even the right question to be asking or is there a different way to think about it?** @@ -75181,7 +75181,7 @@ My frame contrasted with my wife's feels makes her think that I'm distant and un Lifting stats (I'm on the StrongLifts 5x5): * 5' 10"", 155 lbs -* DL: 305, Squat: 225, Bench: 170, OHP: 115, Bent over row: 195",,15,BayAreaRPChristian,1589167895.0 +* DL: 305, Squat: 225, Bench: 170, OHP: 115, Bent over row: 195",,15,BayAreaRPChristian,2020-05-11 03:31:35 askMRP,gfxo7t,Finally Divorced,"Just a quick update here because some people have been asking about my status. Two weeks ago my divorce was finalized so I'm 100% free and clear. I stayed firm in the negotiations and was able to walk away with a great deal. She didn't ask for much at all. @@ -75190,7 +75190,7 @@ It was definitely the right decision and I should have listened to everyone here For anyone else on the fence I'd say go for it. Separations never work. When women are done they are done. Cut your losses and move on. -Thanks for the help guys!",,39,[deleted],1588959614.0 +Thanks for the help guys!",,39,[deleted],2020-05-08 17:40:14 askMRP,gemf77,Requesting advice on dealing with wife hiding something,"Hello there boys, I need your advice. @@ -75240,7 +75240,7 @@ A big fight with her could have serious consequences for me as I'd be the one le Any advice? -Thank you for reading.",,8,[deleted],1588779803.0 +Thank you for reading.",,8,[deleted],2020-05-06 15:43:23 askMRP,gcmfnv,To Married Men of the RP: How much support in hard times can you count on to get from her?,"tl;dr: How much support, loyalty, understanding do you get from your wives in bad times, when you struggle? Is it a blue pill dream to not see them as just another thing to manage? @@ -75260,7 +75260,7 @@ Now Im left a bit in a pickle. I am wandering how much AWALT is in this behavior Is it a generational thing? Did I just discovered that my girl isnt a person who will be of help in bad times or is it just a normal thing and all women are to an extend the same and you look for support within yourself and in your mates. -tl;dr: How much support, loyalty, understanding do you get from your wives in bad times, when you struggle? Is it a blue pill dream to not see them as just another thing to manage?",,24,[deleted],1588490157.0 +tl;dr: How much support, loyalty, understanding do you get from your wives in bad times, when you struggle? Is it a blue pill dream to not see them as just another thing to manage?",,24,[deleted],2020-05-03 07:15:57 askMRP,gaxzux,Ego validation from her submission,"Hi guys, I've done most of the side bar reading but it's been a while since I've gone over it for a second time. Most recent book was King Warrior Magician Lover. I'm 28, 6'4"" 212 BP: 255, Squat: 366, Dead: 410, DB curl: 45 (lol jokes). Been seeing a girl exclusively for a few months now, been fucking her since last summer. @@ -75271,8 +75271,8 @@ It is sexy as hell when she does exactly what I say, in and out of the bedroom, Additionally, I have covert contracts with how I expect her to behave in bed. If I tighten this rope, blindfold her like this, pull the ball gag just right and rub her clit left to right I will get the response I want. When I don't get this response (maybe she's tired, or I haven't been handling my shit sufficiently, or whatever), my cover contract falls apart, my ego takes a hit, my frame goes to shit and, and I can feel myself wanting to disengage. I tell myself to not be a bitch and make it happen and I'll get my nut regardless, but it is a struggle to keep my head in the game. I was tired the other night and I did disengage during an encounter like this and go to bed, but that threw her for a loop and she asked me if we could 'please have sex'. I told her sure, but she's getting on top and riding me, and I told her what a little slut she was the whole time. She did a damn fine job of it. She woke me in the morning horny as shit too. I almost feel that walking away from the so-so sex worked, but my ego was still tied up in the interaction which let me know I still have a bunch of work to do, regardless of the response I recieved from her. -After having written all of that out it doesn't seem to be any different than most of the problems guys come here with, but I would appreciate the feedback. I've come a long way from where I was when I first joined this site, but some feedback on moving past my ego validation would be greatly appreciated.",,12,RedishPill,1588261182.0 -askMRP,gau51x,How can I get back into the drivers' seat and save my marriage with children,edited.,,19,[deleted],1588247185.0 +After having written all of that out it doesn't seem to be any different than most of the problems guys come here with, but I would appreciate the feedback. I've come a long way from where I was when I first joined this site, but some feedback on moving past my ego validation would be greatly appreciated.",,12,RedishPill,2020-04-30 15:39:42 +askMRP,gau51x,How can I get back into the drivers' seat and save my marriage with children,edited.,,19,[deleted],2020-04-30 11:46:25 askMRP,gae247,Strength and weight loss,"Noticed my weights for lifting are much tougher and I am having to drop weight as my actual body weight dropped below 150. Anything to be concerned about or just standard? Weights are in yesterday's OYS. I may just be tapped out with my workout program (simple 4x10) . Calories may be too low (1400-1500). Carbs maybe too low ? (25% of diet, 55 protein). @@ -75281,7 +75281,7 @@ I know some muscle loss is expected. Edit: thanks to all of you for the help! - My new plan is to go with the Mathews Bigger Leaner Stronger 3day lift plan, with 2100 calories on lift days and 1400 on rest days. Will try for 8 weeks and post results in OYS.",,4,Vegasman20002,1588182896.0 + My new plan is to go with the Mathews Bigger Leaner Stronger 3day lift plan, with 2100 calories on lift days and 1400 on rest days. Will try for 8 weeks and post results in OYS.",,4,Vegasman20002,2020-04-29 17:54:56 askMRP,ga1lrb,Is it worth it?,"A lot has been happening lately, this crap of being in the house most of the time is like RP on ultra hard, been having arguments often, some good, some bad. But this has made me start to wonder if its really worth it, i mean is it really worth it? wife has been great 90% of the time, great sex, sexy, nice food, great with the kids etc. @@ -75291,7 +75291,7 @@ But everything works like a tense peace, if i slip a bit she is like a shark on The years i was single/divorced i used to do beautiful elegant code, because my mind was calm 90% of the time, made money everywhere. The years i have been married/ltr i live in tension, either from going beta and living with a bitch, or keeping my game at all times. -not planning to to MGTOW but started to romantize living without a partner, just plates, have the kid 50/50 and enjoy freedom.",,16,turbospeedsc,1588129377.0 +not planning to to MGTOW but started to romantize living without a partner, just plates, have the kid 50/50 and enjoy freedom.",,16,turbospeedsc,2020-04-29 03:02:57 askMRP,g8n629,MCT Rules for Pandemics,"Hi Faggots, Social Distancing is killing most of you betas out there. Despite what she says about being stressed with homeschooling the kids or adjusting to telework at home, lack of attraction is why you aren’t getting laid. It’s also why she is acting like a sexless cunt and bitchy first mate right now. I already see it happening to friends and coworkers. Look, if you ain’t Gaming, you ain’t Fucking. MRP is red pill on hard mode because you have to find a way to game the same woman every day. Once you find it, you must internalize it as your own so it flows out naturally. @@ -75340,17 +75340,17 @@ If you ain’t gaming, you ain’t fucking. Be safe. -MTC",,35,MrChad_Thundercock,1587937461.0 +MTC",,35,MrChad_Thundercock,2020-04-26 21:44:21 askMRP,g8li76,Sidebar is same one as on other two subs?,"Asktrp, rp and rpw? -Same thing?",,3,mickey__,1587931970.0 +Same thing?",,3,mickey__,2020-04-26 20:12:50 askMRP,g8p0ku,Questions about alphas and betas and AWALT,"So I have a question about betas and alphas. I have understood that women are hypergamous and I agree. They prefer to choose the 20% alphas. So people here teaches men to be alpha. The problem I see is that everybody cannot be alphas, it will always be the best 20% that women will choose. So if every men would apply red pill there would still be 80% of them who stay betas. And I also think that not every men can become alphas even if they follow red pills. It is just not in their character. And why would it be so awful to be a beta, if you don't manage to become an alpha? If you accept yourself as a beta and choose a kind wife, the honest long term hustler type, you can have a happy life. So Red pill is good to understand that women's and mens' sexual strategies are not the same, and to optimize your marriage according to it but I am not sure it can really completly change a man who is not determined to be an alpha. I don't understand AWALT. If women are divided in 4 categories, the long term and short term honest hustler and long term and short term dishonest hustler, how can AWALT apply. Can we say also AAALT all alphas are like that or ABALT all betas are like that? I have also a question not linked to Red Pill: if a man use violence or money to make his wife submissive and accept sex, is he an alpha or a beta? -I am sorry for my English, I am European.",,1,EveryEstablishment2,1587943762.0 +I am sorry for my English, I am European.",,1,EveryEstablishment2,2020-04-26 23:29:22 askMRP,g7xn65,Emotional connection,"Maybe you can remember me as a guy who wanted to make his GF more sexual - so I DID, just talked to her, told her that and voila! Thanks for that Now, something that never worked for me enough to never start thinking and getting it again from females - deeper emotional connecting. I have no idea what it is, but 'feel' it's some shit that I don't know to speak nor understand, it's weird thing @@ -75361,12 +75361,12 @@ Speaking that womanese language and talking to their emotions and mind and not l What do you think of it, what does that mean and how can I implement new knowledge to work on that part? -Any books or posts here from some user or guide? Book Of Pook or Models, anything else?",,7,nrtthrowaway,1587836329.0 +Any books or posts here from some user or guide? Book Of Pook or Models, anything else?",,7,nrtthrowaway,2020-04-25 17:38:49 askMRP,g7ks87,How to make wife stop being a hysterical bitch anytime the kids cry or she is stressed?,"I have three kids, the youngest is 6 months old. It is very hard to raise kids, especially when they're young and cry and nobody is sleeping good. We're both tired all the time but we keep soldiering on. Have had tons of arguments in the last 6 months, screaming at each other, ready to divorce but thinking it'll be better once our youngest isn't so needy. Tonight I'm trying to get my 3 year old to take a bath but she doesn't want to for some reason, and is crying so I dropped it. But my wife is now freaking out and launching into the whole 'I had to work all day and you only get the kids riled up when I'm trying to watch TV and I have to do EVERYTHING around this house and I never get a break RAAAAA' that I'm sure many of you have experienced. -She calls me lazy, because I spent an hour watching the nfl draft last night. Usually I don't get so things on my own without her freaking out that I don't pull my weight. I do at least at much as she does, I'm a great dad. But she still starts attacking every time and I argue right back because she's so fucking wrong. How do I handle this better? It's so hard not to tell her she's an idiot and she's freaking out over nothing.",,22,Psilocybik,1587777498.0 +She calls me lazy, because I spent an hour watching the nfl draft last night. Usually I don't get so things on my own without her freaking out that I don't pull my weight. I do at least at much as she does, I'm a great dad. But she still starts attacking every time and I argue right back because she's so fucking wrong. How do I handle this better? It's so hard not to tell her she's an idiot and she's freaking out over nothing.",,22,Psilocybik,2020-04-25 01:18:18 askMRP,g56nqr,Is therapy cheating?,"I'm struggling. I'm a bitch. 6'0 180lb. 29. 1st year marriage. Together 6. @@ -75377,7 +75377,7 @@ I read the sidebar. Rational Man. 16 laws of Poon. And watched YT vids. Began pu It's difficult to internalize right now. To make it worse I've been gaming my wife for a week but she initiated sex with me after I told her about my emotions. She may be manipulating me but i think she may just be into emotional stuff. She's really close to her dad and her dad is an ultra fag that calls her every 2 hours and vents to her. I'm jealous of the attention she gives him when he vents to her. I used to constantly vent to her but now that I've withdrawn she seemed to get turned on when I game her then rely on her emotionally as well a little. -If I get therapy and the dude teaches me how to internalize, is that cutting corners? I dont want to reinvent the wheel but I also don't want to cheat on homework and fail the test. I have been withdrawing from her and trying to internalize for about a month now and have kind of plateau with how I can deal with shit. I don't currently have anyone to replace her with my emotional problems and have been trying to internalize and rely on myself but am having difficulty. Now coworkers and family members are asking if I'm okay which to me is worse than when my wife asks if im okay. I know im a bitch and should be self reliant.",,8,bourgie_quasar_rune,1587435547.0 +If I get therapy and the dude teaches me how to internalize, is that cutting corners? I dont want to reinvent the wheel but I also don't want to cheat on homework and fail the test. I have been withdrawing from her and trying to internalize for about a month now and have kind of plateau with how I can deal with shit. I don't currently have anyone to replace her with my emotional problems and have been trying to internalize and rely on myself but am having difficulty. Now coworkers and family members are asking if I'm okay which to me is worse than when my wife asks if im okay. I know im a bitch and should be self reliant.",,8,bourgie_quasar_rune,2020-04-21 02:19:07 askMRP,g3fzxf,When am I done?,"I know there's no ""done"" like an end of the line where I can say ""I'm a perfect husband!"" and stop working on myself. I get that. Consider the following (true-ish) scenario: @@ -75396,8 +75396,8 @@ What I want to know is ""what condition do I need to be in, in order to re-engag Whether with my wife, or someone else, I would backslide if I were to re-engage. So I want to know, what are the ear-marks of a man who doesn't backslide? A man capable of being in a relationship and still being able to keep his center within himself (hold his frame)? -What minimum set of conditions must exist such that I can be in a relationship without turning back into a complete piece of shit?",,11,[deleted],1587177491.0 -askMRP,g2sn7o,Sidebar in a PDF?,Is there a single PDF for the sidebar like this: https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/fvgv3p/i_created_a_pdf_of_asktrps_sidebar/,,5,HonkHonkBaby,1587088141.0 +What minimum set of conditions must exist such that I can be in a relationship without turning back into a complete piece of shit?",,11,[deleted],2020-04-18 02:38:11 +askMRP,g2sn7o,Sidebar in a PDF?,Is there a single PDF for the sidebar like this: https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/fvgv3p/i_created_a_pdf_of_asktrps_sidebar/,,5,HonkHonkBaby,2020-04-17 01:49:01 askMRP,g1t275,Victim Puke," Here's my victim puke. It won't be pretty, but it's long overdue. I count on you so you can give me feedback. It may help me to build some accountability too. 38M here. Married (to a 37F) for 8 years after 2 years of relationship. 3 kids (8F, 6F, 2M). 5'11'', 176 lb. 20-25% body fat. Read sidebar twice, have read at least two times NMMNG. Didn´t ever go to the gym before quarantine nor train at all since high school. Right now, during quarantine, I´m doing calisthenics daily, at least for the last 10 days. The focus has been to improve my strength. A lot of field to improve and I\`ve been a slacker a couple of days, but my body hurts every other day, which is at least an improvement. Other part of my daily routine: intermittent fasting 16+8 and Wim Hof Method (all 3 parts). Have my hobbies, spend time with kids, etc. This is what I'm building on, because I do have some messy stuff going on. @@ -75419,7 +75419,7 @@ My plan is what I learned here: the stay plan is the go plan. Fix stuff until I 1. With plate #1: This is the easiest in theory and hardest in practice… I got to STFU and let things cool down. 2. With finances: get my shit together. Money: map-out how bad the situation is and take action. Cut-off expenses. Recover cash that may be available from deals that I can still save. 3. Start Weekly OYS. STFU (again), train and read. -4. Gaming the one that is hard to game and confront what I want to avoid: my wife. Lead her.",,7,UsualDuty1,1586961235.0 +4. Gaming the one that is hard to game and confront what I want to avoid: my wife. Lead her.",,7,UsualDuty1,2020-04-15 14:33:55 askMRP,g1fvcq,Workouts in Exile,"Gentlemen, One of the core principles of MRP is to lift heavy weights regularly. This Quarantine is throwing most people's plans into disarray. How will you adapt? How will you grow stronger? @@ -75428,7 +75428,7 @@ My personal workout plan before lockdown was a Stronglifts 5X5. I miss the rush **Edit: Gym opened, gym closed again. In need of a better setup I purchased a nice set of Olympic Weight, 395# total and was able to get my hands on a Rouge Power rack. I'm set. Some dumbbells would be nice, but not necessary. I hope everyone is getting there workouts dialed back in by now.** -Let's share notes. What are you doing to keep your workouts going?",,7,UsefulWalk4,1586905000.0 +Let's share notes. What are you doing to keep your workouts going?",,7,UsefulWalk4,2020-04-14 22:56:40 askMRP,g1hiyk,I'm considering swallowing the pill. Is her frame bad?,"I haven't lifted in a year. I drink too much beer. I whine and complain. I'm fat. 6' 4"" and 250 lbs. I have a nice cock that cums too soon. 33 yo. Married. 3 kids. &#x200B; @@ -75453,7 +75453,7 @@ Conversely, in certain circumstances, my frame is strong as hell, and I enjoy w Is this the balance of Alpha/Beta? -Is it wrong to actually operate inside of another's frame sometimes? Can one operate in another's frame while maintaining their own frame?",,0,1001290,1586910901.0 +Is it wrong to actually operate inside of another's frame sometimes? Can one operate in another's frame while maintaining their own frame?",,0,1001290,2020-04-15 00:35:01 askMRP,fwvj5g,Is this what maintaining Frame looks like?,"Situation: Me, my wife, and my baby are staying at my in-laws in upstate NY. Normally we live in the city. I was still going in to work until last Friday (job is shutting down for a week and I’m taking vacation). Since my in-laws are >70 my wife asked if I would hop right in the shower when I get home. When I got home Friday I went right upstairs and into the shower. I come down and my wife, baby and in-laws are in the living room/kitchen area. In an accusatory tone my wife says, “where are have you been?” I look at her, STFU and take my daughter from her. She looks at me red-faced and repeats, “where have you been?” only this time with an upward inflection like she’s trying to be nice. I look at her and say you wanted me to shower when I got home, so I did. She gets mad at me, gets up and walks out of the room and calls me a piece of shit…in front of her parents and our baby. I don’t respond. I go upstairs and she follows me up. She throws/slams our baby’s chair on the floor and says, “You know, I don’t have to put with your shit.” I said nothing. @@ -75466,12 +75466,12 @@ The following morning, I wait until our daughter is napping and the in-laws are I tried to use negative inquiry, fogging, and the broken record technique to bring it back to what she said the night before. I told her that when she comes home she looks for things that are wrong, she grills me like the cops, and she doesn’t act like she’s happy to see me. She apologized and told she would try and be more pleasant at the end of the day. She straddled me after that and we talked about having sex. She ended up “not feeling well” later that night so sex didn’t happen. -So, is this a small victory? Did I manage to maintain Frame?",,18,[deleted],1586303274.0 +So, is this a small victory? Did I manage to maintain Frame?",,18,[deleted],2020-04-07 23:47:54 askMRP,fx5t9n,Main Event,"This is a continuation of situation I [posted](https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/fwvj5g/is_this_what_maintaining_frame_looks_like/) about yesterday. Basically, after I posted here yesterday my wife saw a bunch of notification updates pop up on my phone and she read them. She doesn't have my password, but she apparently read enough to come at me at me this morning. This morning she sits me down and asks if I plan to leave her by the end of the year, if someone called her a cunt what would I do, etc. I ask here where she's getting this from, I start to DEER, she asks why I don't talk to her about problems and why I talk to strangers on the internet instead, I DEER some more and tell her I have tried to talk to her. Then I gathered my shit and left. She yelled at me as I left. She blamed me for shit. I didn't yell but I did try and defend myself as I left. So I left my wife, who feels more like a person I live with than anything, and I left my little girl, which makes me really, really sad. I left my wife because she didn't respect my privacy; she didn't respect my boundary. I never told her about Fight Club, but now she knows I'm talking to someone other than her or a therapist. -I'm scared about the future and I really don't care what any of you have to say about that. I'm sad I won't see my little girl.",,1,[deleted],1586349820.0 +I'm scared about the future and I really don't care what any of you have to say about that. I'm sad I won't see my little girl.",,1,[deleted],2020-04-08 12:43:40 askMRP,fubivx,Want to make my girl more sexual and dirty,"Being overly sexual. I hear stories of guys telling how women send them photos, how they call the to say how horny they feel, then they record themselves and send it to the guys. It means that women want to satisfy that guy and make anything he ever want. Especially that this girl is my LTR My girl is not like that, she mostly send photos that aren't considered as dirty, zero nudes so far, no videos, never told me how much she wants my dick or good fuck, never how horny she is but usually with "" I wish you're here, it would be great if you're here while we're quarantined"" etc. not dirty or overly sexual, more like 'love' and not like 'sex' @@ -75484,7 +75484,7 @@ Is it good way to verbalise and say what I want and how is going to be? It seems Everything else is so far good and I'm fine but that part is just stupid and I want to change it if I can, if not, good luck -Also with sex talk it seems I'm the one initiating and she follows but lately it's just her agreeing with stuff I said like ' ohh I would like that(my gif on clit masturbation), she has nothing to add it seems. Also I mentioned in my previous post where I tried to play the game with her and she was like ' I'm not that connected/comfortable with you and you know those sexual things are problem to me ' which I call bullshit, but who knows, I'm not experienced to differentiate now.",,0,nrtthrowaway,1585931514.0 +Also with sex talk it seems I'm the one initiating and she follows but lately it's just her agreeing with stuff I said like ' ohh I would like that(my gif on clit masturbation), she has nothing to add it seems. Also I mentioned in my previous post where I tried to play the game with her and she was like ' I'm not that connected/comfortable with you and you know those sexual things are problem to me ' which I call bullshit, but who knows, I'm not experienced to differentiate now.",,0,nrtthrowaway,2020-04-03 16:31:54 askMRP,ftr3pc,"Recently divorced, end of my rope","EDIT: Thanks to all you who commented, even the not so supportive comments, I was and still am in a dark place, and maybe hugs isn't exactly what I need right now. I know the collective culture of TRP thinks that a man must be a rock and unflinching, but I guess even men are humans, I am not in the state of having ultimate abundance mentality nor the body of a greek god and the mind of a greek philosopher. My current state won't make my ancestors proud, but it is what it is. @@ -75506,11 +75506,11 @@ I need your help brothers, ever since the divorce my motivation is shot, I simpl How can I get over her during a quarantine with no ability to socialize or date? (and honestly, no energy). And how to regain my mission? Right now nothing matters. I want to be a man on a mission, and I know how, just can't find the energy to do it. -Appreciate you help, brothers. I literally have no one else...",,18,throwawaypain345,1585850399.0 -askMRP,ftiqyl,How did you learn good text game?,"I know texting is just for logistics etc, but during these times that doesn't hold as true, so - how did you learn to game girls well over sms/whatsapp/dating apps? ",,6,earlnightingale,1585816518.0 +Appreciate you help, brothers. I literally have no one else...",,18,throwawaypain345,2020-04-02 17:59:59 +askMRP,ftiqyl,How did you learn good text game?,"I know texting is just for logistics etc, but during these times that doesn't hold as true, so - how did you learn to game girls well over sms/whatsapp/dating apps? ",,6,earlnightingale,2020-04-02 08:35:18 askMRP,ft4oeh,Boundary or insecure mate guarding?,"For a potential LTR upgrade I plan on saying ""I dont date girls who keep in touch with exes"" or ""When in a relationship I dont message my exes/flings and I expect the same"" or ""My GF doesnt keep in contact with exes, you cna do what you please but my GF doesnt"" -On one hand its a personal boundary because I cant stand to know/meet any LTRs exes. On the other most women think its normal to stay in touch with an ex.",,10,g4l4xy36,1585763205.0 +On one hand its a personal boundary because I cant stand to know/meet any LTRs exes. On the other most women think its normal to stay in touch with an ex.",,10,g4l4xy36,2020-04-01 17:46:45 askMRP,fstzje,"Anyone get the ""Not tonight, I have Corona Virus starting"" rejection yet?","Edit: I actually want to see what men are going through with Corona Virus, so I am making some edits. The Corona virus fucked up a lot for me, gym closing, near fatty food all the time, and being cooped up with a bunch of little kids is pretty rough. @@ -75561,7 +75561,7 @@ She got up to the bed room, and ... zero coughs for 2 minutes. She walks back ou Now that I am aware of Hypergamy and my years of Beta.... I can see how fucked I truly am.... or am not rather. -Edit #2: I have a lot of work to do to fix myself for sure. As we sit and watch TV, zero coughs for about an hour now.",,20,MassiveLeftist,1585721291.0 +Edit #2: I have a lot of work to do to fix myself for sure. As we sit and watch TV, zero coughs for about an hour now.",,20,MassiveLeftist,2020-04-01 06:08:11 askMRP,fr63so,I am emotionaly cold and unavailable especially in my relationship,"Where my partner feels we're not together if we're not seeing ourselves. Basically there's coldness and distance when we are apart and closeness where we are together It's not single issue with single and particular women, in this case it is with my LTR, and every previous relationship ended because there were no emotional connection and comfort, closeness and familiarity from my side, they felt alone with me, no wonder huh @@ -75578,12 +75578,12 @@ And to all what she said with her deep breaths i lost my frame and was like ‘ It’s not that i’m NEEDY here, this is something that prevents me from enjoying people as they are my whole life and i’m losing people because of it, no gain or mindset like ‘ fuck anyone who couldn’t accept me as i am’ because this version of me sucks shit and i don’t like it -does that pretty tellings and encheering means ‘ i love you, miss you, adore you’?",,4,nrtthrowaway,1585489520.0 +does that pretty tellings and encheering means ‘ i love you, miss you, adore you’?",,4,nrtthrowaway,2020-03-29 13:45:20 askMRP,fp1324,Keeping things fun in quarantine,"Hey MRP, now that the lockdown has been going on for a bit, what are you doing to break up the monotony and keep everyone sane? Here we set up our pop up trailer in the back yard and are going to have a camp out with everyone making their own hobo dinners. I bought the video ""home quarantine"" workouts from a friend who owns a gym so the kids and I can get a 30 minute body weight/cardio workout in together when they start acting like they are ready to climb the walls. Extra TV/video games hasn't been helpful as they seem to just fight more afterwards. -On the list are a few board games we haven't played in a while and a few scale models of ships someone donated to us and has been collecting dust in the garage.",,10,mitch2you80,1585180266.0 +On the list are a few board games we haven't played in a while and a few scale models of ships someone donated to us and has been collecting dust in the garage.",,10,mitch2you80,2020-03-25 23:51:06 askMRP,fnxcpr,Second thoughts on commitment,"Long story short, me (25M) and my 5 years LTR (24F) are planning to move together, we are buying an apartment for ourselves. Im having serious second thoughts, sex is by no means great, shes great (have really good morals, i was her first man, strong family values) she recently gained weight (20lbs) and sexually I'm losing interest. I don't want to break her heart if i say I'm no ready for moving to the next step because it would mean to break up. But also i have this urge to talk to every nice chic i ran into (several have flirted with me but i blew them off). Please help!! What have you done in this cases? Edit 27.03: @@ -75591,7 +75591,7 @@ Edit 27.03: Thanks a lot for your responses. I cleared my mind, had some days off of everything and realized what I already knew, that i have to be true to myself and man the hell up with my live. The truth is that i wasn't afraid to take the commitment, i do not buy by the idea that ""she's the one"", but i do think that she is wife material. I talked to her once i set my mental house in order with What i wanted for my life. That was a relief for me and her, i could see. I realized as another member here told, that she was following my beta behaviors. I told her about my discomfort with her laziness and she started working out every single day since i told her. I also start working out twice a day, restart learning to play the guitar and finish to read a book i left unfinished. -Thank you all!",,19,Nostas01,1585017497.0 +Thank you all!",,19,Nostas01,2020-03-24 02:38:17 askMRP,fkx5sp,RPW Wednesday - Episode 3: Respecting The Captain,"Tonight's show is one for the MRP and RPW crowd that I think everyone can benefit from. Tune in at 9pm eastern as Joe and Stephanie discuss respect, submission, and the captain / first mate dynamic. #### https://youtu.be/DP6aCc6C81I @@ -75611,7 +75611,7 @@ If you miss the live stream, you can find the episode using the above link after &nbsp; -🔔 Subscribe now to the official TRP YouTube channel ► http://bit.ly/37BPXYY",,1,bsutansalt,1584565492.0 +🔔 Subscribe now to the official TRP YouTube channel ► http://bit.ly/37BPXYY",,1,bsutansalt,2020-03-18 21:04:52 askMRP,fkd77d,I'm in the early stages o have alot to work on here's my story.,"Need advice and good reads, podcast, etc about MRP. Work so far: I'm new to this whole thing, I have listened to all for the MRP and just got TWOTSP. In the years I became that drunken captain and she went and found someone else. @@ -75636,8 +75636,8 @@ KICKER: This past December I had the hunch it was over/ending because we are apa So I'm starting to work on the frame, I'm worrying about myself and nothing else, my career and future. I have been messaging women just for the feel good moment, it's almost like I want the reward/practice of alpha. -I just need some advice and thoughts and good reads on this lifestyle fix.",,5,Bluelabelwalker3,1584479520.0 -askMRP,fjys8n,Texting your balls away,"Who else feels like text from SO is a trap? Today I got a bunch of lovey dovey shit and so far haven't replied (not from STBX- she's history probably). In MMSLP Athol said saying I love you is good for the relationship, but is it a sign of weakness? It is showing your feelings and that's always a no no. Women have feelings not men with actual balls. What is your text game and is there any guidelines in the sidebar I missed regarding text strategy? My name is Bootyslayer911 and I am a faggot, red pill date 11/5/19.",,7,[deleted],1584417866.0 +I just need some advice and thoughts and good reads on this lifestyle fix.",,5,Bluelabelwalker3,2020-03-17 21:12:00 +askMRP,fjys8n,Texting your balls away,"Who else feels like text from SO is a trap? Today I got a bunch of lovey dovey shit and so far haven't replied (not from STBX- she's history probably). In MMSLP Athol said saying I love you is good for the relationship, but is it a sign of weakness? It is showing your feelings and that's always a no no. Women have feelings not men with actual balls. What is your text game and is there any guidelines in the sidebar I missed regarding text strategy? My name is Bootyslayer911 and I am a faggot, red pill date 11/5/19.",,7,[deleted],2020-03-17 04:04:26 askMRP,fj8q4i,What advice to give to my dad?,"My dad (45M) has been married for 10 years to his wife (32F). They have a 9 year old kid together. I am his son (22M) from his first marriage and lived with them all upon until now. My dad is a beta and a pushover in the relationship. She's capable of insulting him in front of his employees and friends. He works in show business and helped her rise to relative stardom when she had nothing. They opened a company together and she attributes its success mostly to herself (she does bring in a lot of clients, but she wouldn't be anywhere without my dad investing in her early on and without him handling most of the operations of the business). Their kid (my step brother) sees the mother as the authority, not my father. @@ -75662,15 +75662,15 @@ I told him the following: * TRP resources. I plan on giving him a recommendation for a TRP book. No More Mr Nice Guy or The Rational Male as a start. -I realize that his chances of getting her back are minimal, and he shouldn't be aiming for that anyways, but what other tips can I give my father so he can get back together and reestablish himself as an alpha in the relationship? My dad has gone through a divorce already, and if he gets divorced to his current wife his emotional state will go to shit, he will start drinking heavily, and their business will go to shit also.",,12,DennisErectus,1584306913.0 +I realize that his chances of getting her back are minimal, and he shouldn't be aiming for that anyways, but what other tips can I give my father so he can get back together and reestablish himself as an alpha in the relationship? My dad has gone through a divorce already, and if he gets divorced to his current wife his emotional state will go to shit, he will start drinking heavily, and their business will go to shit also.",,12,DennisErectus,2020-03-15 21:15:13 askMRP,fi057c,Always Prepping...,"Given recent events, I am putting up a thread for folks to discuss what they are doing for coronavirus planning. Normally we like to keep this subreddit on topic, but this is a occasion where exchanging notes is very useful. -Keep the thread on topic, as it will be moderated.",,21,SteelSharpensSteel,1584108295.0 +Keep the thread on topic, as it will be moderated.",,21,SteelSharpensSteel,2020-03-13 14:04:55 askMRP,fg3quk,Suggestions dealing with ambushes,"Things have leveled off, maintaining a strict diet plan , being more social, wife finally got a job, sex life is ramping up again. I been removing myself from the situation when wife goes into bitch mode, normally she is ok when i come back. Her latest tactic, is to start bitch mode when it's hard for me to leave example Sunday late at night, weekdays 7 am, stuff like that, last one i went STFU and just occasionally telling her ok, yeah and stuff like that. -Question, how to deal with this traps, another tactic she uses when i STFU, is start telling me how i have no balls and stuff like that because i allow her to speak to me like that and i don't say anything, as i see it are just baits.",,10,turbospeedsc,1583795017.0 +Question, how to deal with this traps, another tactic she uses when i STFU, is start telling me how i have no balls and stuff like that because i allow her to speak to me like that and i don't say anything, as i see it are just baits.",,10,turbospeedsc,2020-03-09 23:03:37 askMRP,fg3go6,How to tell if this is a divorce shit-test. [long],"Stats: 51 yo, 69kg, 12.9%(?) BF; Squat: 72.5kg; OhP: 40kg; BP: 47.5kg; Row: 55kg; DL: 85kg **Have read:** NMMNG, MMSLP, 16 Commandments of Poon, TBOP, 60 Days of Dread, Steele's guide, MAP by Athol Kay, WISNIFG. @@ -75689,7 +75689,7 @@ This is how I understand the whole dynamic ... I've started to get some discipli How can I tell if this is a divorce shit-test, or if it's for real? If it's a divorce shit-test what approach can I use to de-escalate? -If we continue on our current path then we'll end up divorced and although that doesn't scare me as it once did before MRP, I'd prefer a different outcome. Maybe I'm grasping at straws.",,5,stay_plan_is_go_plan,1583793940.0 +If we continue on our current path then we'll end up divorced and although that doesn't scare me as it once did before MRP, I'd prefer a different outcome. Maybe I'm grasping at straws.",,5,stay_plan_is_go_plan,2020-03-09 22:45:40 askMRP,feghbw,I guess my main event is going to be today.,"I'm using my one victim puke here. This morning I made the apparently unforgivable mistake of waking my wife up with the hair dryer and shutting the front door too loud. @@ -75706,7 +75706,7 @@ For the guys out there who have had their main event, I would appreciate a littl See you guys on the other side. -Edit: I guess she has the papers for me to sign. I'll make her formally serve me, and then lawyer up if she does.",,46,Balls_Wellington_,1583514299.0 +Edit: I guess she has the papers for me to sign. I'll make her formally serve me, and then lawyer up if she does.",,46,Balls_Wellington_,2020-03-06 17:04:59 askMRP,fd9uc6,"Pregnant wife smokes behind my back, shifts blame. How to handle it?","My wife was a smoker before pregnancy. And throughout the pregnancy so far, she sometimes has been leaving the house for 5-10mins, saying ""hormones and such, sometimes I need 5 minutes alone"". I didn't think much of it, but felt weird. Anyway, the gut says she smokes. So I ask her quite directly, ""Do you smoke sometimes?"" She immediately declines, and says nothing. About 10 min of silence, I ask what's wrong, and she says that it was not very nice to ask that. I say it was just a question because I had a feeling I smelled something. Basically DEERing. We were with the inlaws that day, and she didn't talk to me all day, until she broke down crying later at home. Saying I hurt her feelings. I gave her some comfort, telling her it was just a question and didn't mean to hurt her (I feel this was wrong, so hit me, guys!) @@ -75719,22 +75719,22 @@ How would you guys have handled that? My first reaction would've been to explode on how she can be so irresponsible to her and my future child. But this would just bring more defenses. Being understanding of quitting an addiction wouldn't net results. So I am at a loss. -Internally I am battling myself, when I am probably overthinking that.",,10,[deleted],1583308903.0 +Internally I am battling myself, when I am probably overthinking that.",,10,[deleted],2020-03-04 08:01:43 askMRP,fd8rwi,How does your woman add to your mission?,"As a single father, I don’t see what role a woman could possibly play in my life. I have 3 kids and I maintain a household all by myself. Cook, clean, homework, trips, and finances. It’s all me. Woman at this point are only for sex or because I enjoy their company. They are a liability if anything because I finance the dates and experiences I allow them to share with me. I for the life of me cannot imagine what role a woman could play in my life to help me on my mission or to be a second mate. -Can you divorced or post LTR guys shed light on how you’ve vet women that you decided jumping into another LTR would be worth it? What role should a woman play if she’s not the mother of your children?",,12,Unfugwitable,1583302243.0 +Can you divorced or post LTR guys shed light on how you’ve vet women that you decided jumping into another LTR would be worth it? What role should a woman play if she’s not the mother of your children?",,12,Unfugwitable,2020-03-04 06:10:43 askMRP,fcybgg,Is that math correct?,"General question: Started at 160 lbs/29%BF at OYS 1. now am 152/17. Assuming accuracy, that means I lost 12% fat with 7 pounds weight total . Went from 46.4 pounds fat to 26 pounds of fat. Loss of 20 pounds of fat. Does that mean I gained 13 pounds of muscle? -Edit: brag? I thought this was bad which is why I was asking. Seven months of work I thought was going to do more.",,1,Vegasman20002,1583257640.0 +Edit: brag? I thought this was bad which is why I was asking. Seven months of work I thought was going to do more.",,1,Vegasman20002,2020-03-03 17:47:20 askMRP,fc68pv,god saud - evolutionary psychology author ?,"In this weeks Rational Male episode, Rollo mentions someone named ""god saud"" who is apparently a rock star evolutionary psychologist. Who is he referring to ? -https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=61XS_eRgIp0",,8,RPAnon123,1583121426.0 +https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=61XS_eRgIp0",,8,RPAnon123,2020-03-02 03:57:06 askMRP,fb1l4a,Best example of holding frame I've ever seen...,"[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oIhGJyLR6TI](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oIhGJyLR6TI) He wants to go for a drive. He does. @@ -75743,7 +75743,7 @@ She talks non stop. She screams. She pleads. She swears. He grins the entire ti He made his living risking his life, driving hard. Gave her a little taste of what it was like. Appreciation. Respect. -Note how she replies to the track attendant when they go out, like she is in charge. He ignores her.",,16,RPAnon123,1582923833.0 +Note how she replies to the track attendant when they go out, like she is in charge. He ignores her.",,16,RPAnon123,2020-02-28 21:03:53 askMRP,fabxz3,Applying principles in LTR's,"Being mysterious - how if we keep the contact every day, from hers initiating 'good morning' calls to small talk texting throughout the day? I mean, either i will get bored of her or she will get bored of me. I found it much better while we were at plate/fwb phase then this because there's no novelty in it @@ -75758,7 +75758,7 @@ So sometimes i have no idea what to text after its etc. Thanks -Im reading sidebar again btw",,1,mickey__,1582809438.0 +Im reading sidebar again btw",,1,mickey__,2020-02-27 13:17:18 askMRP,f9vr3d,How do I embrace rational egoism while killing my ego?,"/u/SorcererKing argues in [Why you're lost](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4duudk/why_youre_lost/) that we need to embrace rational egoism to fully internalize the red pill. He doesn't flesh out what this means exactly, but I found this on Wikipedia's article on [rational egoism](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rational_egoism): > According to Rand, a rational man holds his own life as his highest value, rationality as his highest virtue, and his happiness as the final purpose of his life. @@ -75767,7 +75767,7 @@ Rollo's term ""enlightened self-interest"" strikes a similar chord [here](https: Contrast this with /u/HornsOfApathy's warning against the [dangers of ego](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/f70l7g/your_womans_most_wonderful_gift_the_epic_test/), and the TRP/MRP prescription for newcomers that we smash our ego with heavy weights, duct tape over our mouths, and reading. -How do these ideas fit together? Are we killing the old, weak, beta ego and rebuilding a new alpha ego? Or maybe different shades of meaning of ""ego"" in each case that resolves the apparent contradiction?",,8,ancient_resistance,1582734356.0 +How do these ideas fit together? Are we killing the old, weak, beta ego and rebuilding a new alpha ego? Or maybe different shades of meaning of ""ego"" in each case that resolves the apparent contradiction?",,8,ancient_resistance,2020-02-26 16:25:56 askMRP,f91ikk,How to deal with Admin. Assistant?,"Lifts: 5x5. BP 225. S 225. (S and DL is low because I’m a pussy and I hate to squat) DL 315. OHP 155. 6’3” 222 @@ -75779,7 +75779,7 @@ Side Bar: Read it. I’ll cut to the point. We got a new secretary, and she has given me the fuck-me eyes since day one. She spends at least an hour in my office everyday. She’s probably a 5 maybe 6. Just a wall-smashed mom. But not ugly. She has started dieting, working out, tanning, etc... All the other employees notice. It’s gotten pretty obvious. She keeps pushing the limits. She finally just asked me to lunch. I said I couldn’t then had a chat with her that I wasn’t comfortable with it. She’s married with kids and the whole 9 yards. As am I. Yet, she sits in my office and tells me how her husband doesn’t do this or that. How he only has his GED. He plays video games and on and on. You get it. He’s everything you don’t want to be. It sure has been eye opening. It’s basically one big picture of women’s hypergamous nature. -I’m not going to lie. I like the attention. I’m a weak little bitch who likes the attention. No doubt. I’m wondering about how you guys have handled these situations? I know, don’t shit where I eat. Although it’s tempting. Do I just need to sit her down and be very frank? Or should I keep letting it roll and flirt always let it be a grey area? If I move jobs, then bang her? Thanks for the advice. And for calling me a faggot.",,15,tablesturnedagain,1582591449.0 +I’m not going to lie. I like the attention. I’m a weak little bitch who likes the attention. No doubt. I’m wondering about how you guys have handled these situations? I know, don’t shit where I eat. Although it’s tempting. Do I just need to sit her down and be very frank? Or should I keep letting it roll and flirt always let it be a grey area? If I move jobs, then bang her? Thanks for the advice. And for calling me a faggot.",,15,tablesturnedagain,2020-02-25 00:44:09 askMRP,f8vjni,It all came to a head,"Hey guys, I think I went Rambo without realizing it. I thought I was doing good in our marriage applying red pill (gym, focusing on my own growth, not being overly attached to her, teasing, etc.) @@ -75826,7 +75826,7 @@ It’s just that her actions show my blue pill treatment of her to be effective. Anybody have some advice of what I should do going forward? Maybe I was using dread and not realizing it? (Fatal during pregnancy, I know.) -Anybody have any ideas what could be going on here? Has this ever happened to any of you?",,11,LabelOtherSide,1582568585.0 +Anybody have any ideas what could be going on here? Has this ever happened to any of you?",,11,LabelOtherSide,2020-02-24 18:23:05 askMRP,f8tqm3,A little help - advice on aftermath of big fight,"Background: 46, 3 kids, married 16 years, red pilled 18 months, DL 4-6, 5x5 SL: Bench 160 OHP 90, BS 275, DL 305. Readings – Pretty much everything recommended, the sidebar, and some other things.  Most recent: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. TLDR: I picked a fight with my wife, it got very ugly, but I think she’s looking for something from me.  How do I stop feeling like a victim and be the oak? @@ -75841,12 +75841,12 @@ What have I done right? – 1) I think I’m willing to recognize her manipulati What have I done wrong? – 1) Victim mentality.  When I think about the fight, I keep thinking about how I was “right”.  This is small, shitty, victim thinking.  The universe gives no fucks about “right”.  The fight was lost because I lost my cool.  2) The episode on the sofa (above) was, I think, good.  But it can’t end there, obviously.  She wants more from me and I don’t know how to get myself in the proper mindset to give it. -My questions – The bottom line is that I’m stuck in a cycle of victimhood.  I’m focused on the ways that I was “wronged” and how I was “right” to say some of the hurtful things that I did.  As if gravity cares about right or wrong when you fall off of a building.  I think she’s looking for something more from me, but I’m not in the proper mindset to give it.  I’m not mad, but I’m also not setting my mind toward a vision for us or how we can move forward together – or apart.  So when we’re silent together, that presence isn’t underlain with anything profound or inspiring to her.  How do I get in the proper mindset to move forward?  What I’m looking for is perspective or perhaps something from the sidebar or other readings that this reminds you of.",,10,IRunYourRiver,1582561814.0 +My questions – The bottom line is that I’m stuck in a cycle of victimhood.  I’m focused on the ways that I was “wronged” and how I was “right” to say some of the hurtful things that I did.  As if gravity cares about right or wrong when you fall off of a building.  I think she’s looking for something more from me, but I’m not in the proper mindset to give it.  I’m not mad, but I’m also not setting my mind toward a vision for us or how we can move forward together – or apart.  So when we’re silent together, that presence isn’t underlain with anything profound or inspiring to her.  How do I get in the proper mindset to move forward?  What I’m looking for is perspective or perhaps something from the sidebar or other readings that this reminds you of.",,10,IRunYourRiver,2020-02-24 16:30:14 askMRP,f86tx8,Emocional mess once again,"Stats weigth, 100kg 1.87, got new work stopped.going to the gym. i know should keep lifting, once i stopped probably the E2 shot up and the T went down again, just need a place to vent, been a insecure bitch with the wife this whole week, going to the gym next week again. -Any of You recommend some beginner meditation books, i need something to calm down the emotional mess, while My T levels go up in the gym.",,0,turbospeedsc,1582446389.0 +Any of You recommend some beginner meditation books, i need something to calm down the emotional mess, while My T levels go up in the gym.",,0,turbospeedsc,2020-02-23 08:26:29 askMRP,f7d9ab,Titrating Comfort,"Hi, I’m MeanPhysics, and I’m an autist. I’ve been running the MRP playbook for 2 years (yeah, I know. I had a long stall before I started posting OYS late last year), and have achieved huge improvements across the board in personal satisfaction, confidence, social activity, relationships. My marriage has improved wildly too, in all the ways that folks talk about here. Respect, attitude, submissiveness, care, frequency and quality of sex, etc. Recently, I realized I’ve been failing comfort tests for a while. I thought I just wasn’t ever getting them because my wife is fairly emotionally closed off. But through talking with folks here, I realized I’d just been consistently confusing her comfort tests with shit tests. I modified my behavior and saw a huge change in attitude from my wife post comfort test. @@ -75861,7 +75861,7 @@ To me, it seems like her hamster has run into a wall that says something like I feel like there’s an opportunity to give more comfort here to show her that she can be confident in opening herself up sexually because I’ll be there to make sure she’s safe, I’ll be there to support her, etc. -What’s the MRP wisdom here? Am I just unattractive and dreadless? Or have I been missing a huge opportunity to provide comfort and security and through that drive desired behavior?",,10,MeanPhysics,1582301292.0 +What’s the MRP wisdom here? Am I just unattractive and dreadless? Or have I been missing a huge opportunity to provide comfort and security and through that drive desired behavior?",,10,MeanPhysics,2020-02-21 16:08:12 askMRP,f6o5md,How did you find your mission?,"I grew up poor and my number one priority was to not be poor anymore. I finished my engineering degree last year and found a job that pays well. I'm new to MRP and I'm fixing the areas of my life one by one, but that is a process that will go on forever. I see improving myself as a prerequisite for my mission, not my mission itself. Now that I have got a job, and have settled down in it, I no longer have a vision of my life. I look at my seniors here, and their life seems kind of flat to me, not something I want to aspire to. I talked to my seniors from college and observed that all of them either go for higher education, or slowly climb up the corporate ladder, both of which are basically the same thing. And I'm stoked about neither. @@ -75873,10 +75873,10 @@ I'm interested in your process, and any exercises or tips you might have for me. 2. How do I find some alternative avenues regarding my career? I'm a Software Engineer and it is a popular choice of career nowadays. But surely, not all people stay in the corporate world. Besides freelancing, I haven't seen anyone do anything else. If you took an unconventional approach with your career, I would like to hear your story. I understand that not everyone is comfortable sharing it here, so please PM me if that's the case. -Thanks for your time.",,14,napthaleneballs,1582175773.0 +Thanks for your time.",,14,napthaleneballs,2020-02-20 05:16:13 askMRP,f5xrpd,Who can I talk to in person about my personal growth/struggles as a man?,"Title say it all. My dad would’ve been a great person to talk to about this stuff, but he died when I was 17. Both of my grandfathers have passed away now. I have guy friends at work but they are all heavily beta. One was cucked recently and is now being divorce raped. Poor guy. I have Christian guy friends at church but when I have brought up things in the past it became obvious that (at least with the few leaders I spoke with) they are blue-pulled in their thinking. “Sacrifice every part of yourself for the woman.” Where do I find someone to talk to when I am dealing with these changes/realizations/red-pill struggles? I know that “men are always alone” in the world. But surely there are men in my community who can lift eachother up? -Btw, all you internet strangers are great, no hard feelings. Heh.",,24,LabelOtherSide,1582056199.0 +Btw, all you internet strangers are great, no hard feelings. Heh.",,24,LabelOtherSide,2020-02-18 20:03:19 askMRP,f5gqfc,Corporate Politics - With Women,"Stats: 35M, 6' 84 kg on a cut, 102.5 kg bench, 280 kg deadlift, 180 kg squat. Sex and relationship life is good. This post is not about that. @@ -75899,7 +75899,7 @@ All of these pretty much got their roles because of affirmative action crap - th It drives me nuts. I don't know how to deal with them all. I have started applying for other jobs and looking around for new opportunities. -Any tips on how to deal with situations like these are welcome.",,16,brattykids123,1581977536.0 +Any tips on how to deal with situations like these are welcome.",,16,brattykids123,2020-02-17 22:12:16 askMRP,f3vn0r,Shit test or owning my mistake,"6'0 337lbs married 7 years together 10 years Bench 275 3 set of 8 Squat 405 3 set of 8 @@ -75910,14 +75910,14 @@ First post been watching for about a month, made a reddit account about two week Woke up this morning to go to work and the kids starts crying, im already awake so i go to take care of him. I move him to the bed with my wife since he had a nightmare and wouldnt let me go but i needed to get my stuff ready for work. I go out into the kitchen and i hear the door open up and my wife saying i need you to get me a diaper his shorts are wet. Realizing i forgot to change his diaper i go and get it. But i figured stfu would be better since it was my mistake and i need to own that. -I have alot to work on i realize i have problem with oneitis, valdiation from sex, and working on my mission. I am thinking if i start posting then i can start owning my shit.",,6,SlightBack,1581701896.0 +I have alot to work on i realize i have problem with oneitis, valdiation from sex, and working on my mission. I am thinking if i start posting then i can start owning my shit.",,6,SlightBack,2020-02-14 17:38:16 askMRP,f2px8h,What to do for Valentine’s Day?,"Okay, I’ve been struggling with how, or even if, this fits in with MRP ... so I’m just going to ask and risk being called an Uber-fag. How does MRP celebrate Valentine’s Day, apart from playing hide-the-sausage? What are some activities that don’t scream I’m-a-needy-beta? *Update:* I thought I'd post an update. I didn't want to do dinner because it's too big of a statement. So, I arranged lunch at a favourite restaurant instead. This morning I said ""I'd like to take you to a mystery lunch."" She immediately said yes, and so we went to lunch. Wife has been cool with me for a long time now, and the lunch was no different. Still polite and pleasant but there's no warmth. It started to get to me during the meal and towards the end I really wanted to ask her where our relationship was going. In the back of my mind I kept hearing STFU, STFU, STFU! So that's what I did. I kept my mouth close, had a nice lunch and went back to work after lunch. I had some lingering bitterness over the situation, which I worked it out at the iron temple after work. -In the end I achieved what I wanted to do which was to say that I care without appeasement or neediness. Small steps. Thanks to everyone for their suggestions and guidance, especially u/Balls_Wellington_ u/part_wolf and u/ancient_resistance ... that thread really helped me sort out my head.",,6,stay_plan_is_go_plan,1581507421.0 +In the end I achieved what I wanted to do which was to say that I care without appeasement or neediness. Small steps. Thanks to everyone for their suggestions and guidance, especially u/Balls_Wellington_ u/part_wolf and u/ancient_resistance ... that thread really helped me sort out my head.",,6,stay_plan_is_go_plan,2020-02-12 11:37:01 askMRP,f1smuv,"I (27M) never wanted to get married, LTR is changing my mind","I'll keep it short and toasty - I fucked up. But hear me out, this isn't another unicorn circle jerk session. I tried plating a female colleague for a few months but she wouldn't budge. She's (23F) a muslim girl, wears a headscarf, the works, she was just awfully sweet, respectful and hides her nice ass which for me was a mindblowing turnon. After about 3 months of me flirting my balls off, we started going out and one thing led to another, we were dating for a year. Fuck. She was a virgin, she wanted to keep herself till marriage, but is in love with me and we had a blood fest on the sheets which to this day I feel a tad guilty about. @@ -75930,7 +75930,7 @@ She's really in love. And when I say really in love, I mean greeting me at the d From your perspective as folks who have dived into the risk pool; should i give this a try? She has never asked me, but I know culturally if I dont marry her I will break her heart for good and I'll have messed her up for taking her virginity before marriage. Im kind of in the shit here. -Anything is appreciated, really. Thanks guys!",,26,[deleted],1581351759.0 +Anything is appreciated, really. Thanks guys!",,26,[deleted],2020-02-10 16:22:39 askMRP,f1orf9,Question," There’s interesting theme i am noticing here... People are using examples of: @@ -75941,7 +75941,7 @@ So shouldn’t the opposite also be true? Sex = validation that u are alpha? -This is a weird dichotomy..",,0,10points4gryffinddor,1581332526.0 +This is a weird dichotomy..",,0,10points4gryffinddor,2020-02-10 11:02:06 askMRP,ezv4g0,"HB7 from the gym coming to my house tomorrow for a playdate with her kids and mine, that she arranged with my wife. How do I not act like a total beta fucktard in front of her?","New here, [OYS#1](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/eyn0ea/own_your_shit_weekly_february_04_2020/fgjnpj1/) **Stats**: 33M/31F | 5'11"" | 188lbs | BF: ~18% | Married 10 years | 4 kids @@ -75971,7 +75971,7 @@ For my own edification, the least-bullshit rundown I can come up with: I try my hardest to ignore her at the gym when she's doing her routine in front of me so I can not look like the beta fucktard that I am, because deep down I really can't get enough of her attention-seeking behavior because I'm even more insecure than she is, which is why I want to be at home and practice game when she's there, so I can get more validation from her attention. In front of my wife and kids, and her kids, on a playdate. -Holy fucking hell, I'm actually laughing out loud.",,0,ancient_resistance,1581008031.0 +Holy fucking hell, I'm actually laughing out loud.",,0,ancient_resistance,2020-02-06 16:53:51 askMRP,ezt6zb,"Trying to make myself work with women, not first time getting into this kind of situation","So again in my life time I’m having issues with women where there’s a gap and lacking of connection on more deeper and emotional level. In this situation I’m talking about my friend, FWB, she’s investing a lot in communication when I’m silent, trying to entertain me and being cute, really like her because she’s a good person to begin with. And she sent me few messages last day and those are the bits(I used to get this in the past too and I need to know what’s up with me) @@ -75992,7 +75992,7 @@ When we go out we usually go every time to some different venue to have drinks, Is she bored with me? Is she telling me about that communication until we see each other? I don’t understand what’s not going ‘naturaly’ here. I know I’m not making her feel good if I don’t feel quite good on day to day basis where I’m experiencing phases of anxiety, depression and stress, emotional instability, seeking to make my shit together. Therefore while I live boring life I have not so much to share. She likes to ask me every time when we see each other all exciting with her eyes striking ‘what’s new, what did you do today, how was the day’? I usually just deflect or change the topic because I’m insecure and she thinks how I’m mysterious and secretive but quite frankly I have no idea what she wants to know, exactly! -Is she asking me to open up, especially emotionaly, so she can connect? She mentioned how we did connect intelectualy, physicaly with a lot of sex and I suppose now comes that emotional connection part? I bet she also want to connect more meaningfuly with me, with a lot of opening up and sharing stuff, to let her come closer to me. I guess that’s why sometimes she get sad when I deflect questions about my school and studying",,0,trpthrowaway95_,1580999734.0 +Is she asking me to open up, especially emotionaly, so she can connect? She mentioned how we did connect intelectualy, physicaly with a lot of sex and I suppose now comes that emotional connection part? I bet she also want to connect more meaningfuly with me, with a lot of opening up and sharing stuff, to let her come closer to me. I guess that’s why sometimes she get sad when I deflect questions about my school and studying",,0,trpthrowaway95_,2020-02-06 14:35:34 askMRP,ezb51g,"Feeling “Flooded”, overloaded with new RP information and scattered about my MAP. Suggestions to simplify?","I’m finalizing my MAP now and there just seems like there’s so much information available from all kinds of mediums, and I’m not sure how best to prioritize. A lot of the materials (like NMMNG) are so rich with life changing info that I’m not rushing through it. Some concepts (like Dread , and Abundance Mentality for example) take me a few days to sit with and think about. @@ -76001,7 +76001,7 @@ Even the MRP sidebar is a maze of links within links and I often get lost/sidetr I realize there’s no MAP template as each one is different (even Athol’s description of the MAP in MMSLP is vague as to structure). But is there a preferred priority of reading, or any structure that makes sense for all? -Reading Lifts Relationship Dread Frame Abundance Mentality Career Plates Finances STFU DEER Divorce Prep No Porn Game Agree and Amplify Amused Mastery Stay plan is the go plan",,7,MentalPointOfOrigin,1580916356.0 +Reading Lifts Relationship Dread Frame Abundance Mentality Career Plates Finances STFU DEER Divorce Prep No Porn Game Agree and Amplify Amused Mastery Stay plan is the go plan",,7,MentalPointOfOrigin,2020-02-05 15:25:56 askMRP,eyua40,Fiancee threw a butter knife at me,"Last night, we were eating a snack together, and the topic of her weight came up. (She was on her period FYI) She gained some weight last year, and made a comment towards the end of summer that she doesn't feel as confident in a bikini as she once did. She's not fat, but it's noticeable from when we first started seeing each other. She said at that point that she would buckle down this past fall and hit the gym as she used to. Obviously, that never happened. I played it cool and kept going to the gym on my own. @@ -76014,7 +76014,7 @@ This morning, I went to the gym, and when I got back and we were both getting re She has yet to apologize for the disrespect. I told her I was sorry for offending her but not for telling the truth before she went to bed. She refused my peace offering of reading her a bedtime story (women = children), which she usually enjoys. -Should I end this relationship?",,21,The_Meissner_Effect,1580840050.0 +Should I end this relationship?",,21,The_Meissner_Effect,2020-02-04 18:14:10 askMRP,ey0o30,Help get that fire back,"Me: 33 Wife: 37 Married 5 yrs and 2 kids 5 & 2. Back when I found TRP and sought advice from the members, I was driven to improve and had made some decent improvements. @@ -76095,7 +76095,7 @@ My biggest and most immediate problem is I don't have anyone to talk to. My best Has anyone here gone through something similar? What advice can you give someone that's trying but really struggling? -Just finally before anyone points out I'm being beta AF or whatever. I feel like everything I'd learned about TRP has just gone out the window and I'm trying hard to spend time re-reading and just starting all over again.",,6,realestillusion,1580700758.0 +Just finally before anyone points out I'm being beta AF or whatever. I feel like everything I'd learned about TRP has just gone out the window and I'm trying hard to spend time re-reading and just starting all over again.",,6,realestillusion,2020-02-03 03:32:38 askMRP,exjbp2,Sinking further in the whirlpool. help,"Since my last post, I've been keeping my head low, avoiding conflict with the wife but things have gotten considerably worse. A brief tl;dr; review of my situation. I'm immigrant in the US, Wife is US citizen. We have a kid \~5yro. Wife is verbally and now physically abusive. @@ -76138,12 +76138,12 @@ This is super petty and I cannot beleive I've been living with someone so petty. I'm at cross raods. On one hand I dont want to live with a physically and verbally abusive person and on the other hand I don't want to leave our kid as the collateral damage if I leave the wife. :( -What should I do?",,4,kundata,1580619665.0 +What should I do?",,4,kundata,2020-02-02 05:01:05 askMRP,ewy0vd,What steps should I take before ending a relationship with a woman I am engaged to/cohabitating with?,"I’ll start off with stating I’ve half assed the side bar and only briefly participated in OYS. I found it difficult to stay consistent when I was lying to myself about what my intentions were. I could go into the specifics, but at the end of the day I’m just not excited for marriage, not exactly happy with my relationship, and fucking myself financially. I’m in no place to lead myself through life, much less another human. Marriage isn’t going to fix this, and there’s no point of considering repairing this after calling it off. I did not propose for the right reasons. I’m 27, she’s 26, we’ve been together since highschool, engaged for nearly 1 year, 7 mos to the wedding. What do I need to consider before moving forward on this? We share an apartment with 6 months left on the lease. She’s on my credit card. We have 2 cats, I would only want 0 or 1 of them. She’s in grad school living off of loans and my assistance. Her parents are broke and she will be a little more than screwed financially for a while, plus they aren’t close to the school so she wouldn’t be able to stay with them. -Then there’s the hooked venue and photographer, ring, DJ, etc that’s been partially payed for. I still care about her, a lot, which is largely what’s made this so difficult to decide on. That and my track record of indecision. There’s going to be significant fallout with friends and family, but that’s just part of it. Go ahead and call me out on my shit, but I’m really looking for some logistical answers here from guys who have done this or gone through a divorce.",,30,[deleted],1580517677.0 +Then there’s the hooked venue and photographer, ring, DJ, etc that’s been partially payed for. I still care about her, a lot, which is largely what’s made this so difficult to decide on. That and my track record of indecision. There’s going to be significant fallout with friends and family, but that’s just part of it. Go ahead and call me out on my shit, but I’m really looking for some logistical answers here from guys who have done this or gone through a divorce.",,30,[deleted],2020-02-01 00:41:17 askMRP,euygd1,Livestream Schedule,"Since it was brought up the other day, here's the tentative schedule for future livestreams: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQ9t6kguLLbq8CqjEKaB7Ew @@ -76158,7 +76158,7 @@ We are still seeking hosts for the main channel as we fill out the schedule of s * Fitness Experts to co-host ""Training Tuesdays"" * 1-2 Red Pill Women to co-host ""Women Wednesdays"" -Contact /u/bsutansalt if interested.",,0,TheRedPillFinance,1580175754.0 +Contact /u/bsutansalt if interested.",,0,TheRedPillFinance,2020-01-28 01:42:34 askMRP,eucrko,Umbilical hernia from lifting,"36y, married 3 years, 1 child (2y) 6'3'' 220lbs @@ -76177,15 +76177,15 @@ This also means shit tests could increase and attraction will decrease. So fucki Anyone had any experience with hernias from lifting? -Edit: I apriciate the answers from you guys. You helped me change my perspective on this.",,9,go-RED-go,1580072141.0 +Edit: I apriciate the answers from you guys. You helped me change my perspective on this.",,9,go-RED-go,2020-01-26 20:55:41 askMRP,eto9dp,David Sinerks (sp?) Differentiation and Developing your Frame Therapy ? BP Professor YouTube..,"At 1:20 of the video below, BP Professor mentions something called ""David Sinerks (sp) Differentiation and Developing your Frame Therapy"" ? What is the correct spelling of David's last name ? -[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaPsgVcjgtk](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaPsgVcjgtk)",,8,RPAnon123,1579940654.0 +[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaPsgVcjgtk](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaPsgVcjgtk)",,8,RPAnon123,2020-01-25 08:24:14 askMRP,ettbk1,Livestream is happening now!,"https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQ9t6kguLLbq8CqjEKaB7Ew -Come say hi and get some questions answered.",,0,TheRedPillFinance,1579971922.0 +Come say hi and get some questions answered.",,0,TheRedPillFinance,2020-01-25 17:05:22 askMRP,etd64j,The red pill on insane difficulty : a marriage story with a progressively debilitating illness – taking suggestions,"Hi guys, Basic Question Now: 36yo 190cm 75 kg ~ skinny fat AF @@ -76239,7 +76239,7 @@ Nuclear shit tests, indicators of disinterest (you disgust me), suspicions of ch As for me, I am in the process of losing a second job (I am doing what I can to keep it, but it is unlikely as I underperformed severely while sick), even though I should be able to find another one relatively easily, and should be able to keep it then, have a strong support network, but a recovering frame weak as fuck. So I am open to any suggestion, to improve the situation. As I am still struggling intellectually and physically I can’t seem to find the way out here. -Thanks guys.",,18,Luftbrucke,1579885458.0 +Thanks guys.",,18,Luftbrucke,2020-01-24 17:04:18 askMRP,ersfcn,"Thanks MRP/ASKMRP, you fixed a man, and a marriage, although i no longer want the marriage.","130 lbs. 5’0” BF 14% (Navy) 38 old Squat: 230 x5, OHP: 108 x5, Rows: 124 x5, Bench: 141 x5, Deadlift: 245 x5. @@ -76292,7 +76292,7 @@ Now i still put my kids at the top, in the grand scheme of life im will accommod When i contemplate the last year, i think its sad that the world is like this, every single mum in the playground picking up their kid has a corresponding man with a similar story no doubt, and every kid from a broken home (and there a a LOT) has a degraded father relationship as a result, but i digress. Im looking forward to what lies ahead of me, i now feel like im living a life rather than just existing, with purpose and direction. -Thanks for reading, hope it helps someone, and now i must continue my path.",,41,fruitylad,1579599974.0 +Thanks for reading, hope it helps someone, and now i must continue my path.",,41,fruitylad,2020-01-21 09:46:14 askMRP,err0zy,Wife found out my account in a website and she wants a divorce,"I am 24 years old and married to a 21 years old girl. (married 1.5 years & no kid) Let me tell you the story; @@ -76307,7 +76307,7 @@ What should I do? I accept some consequences but I don't want to lose her. I lov Need some advices, thanks. -EDIT: Thank you all for your comments. I think I do not care if she will leave me or not anymore. She asked me what I want to eat for dinner. She does not seem like she wants to leave. I think all of her threats are just bluff. I don’t care. All of your comments made me realize again that I should not give a fuck about her. I won't let her to make me feel like I am guilty.",,18,dbayraktar,1579590066.0 +EDIT: Thank you all for your comments. I think I do not care if she will leave me or not anymore. She asked me what I want to eat for dinner. She does not seem like she wants to leave. I think all of her threats are just bluff. I don’t care. All of your comments made me realize again that I should not give a fuck about her. I won't let her to make me feel like I am guilty.",,18,dbayraktar,2020-01-21 07:01:06 askMRP,erd0yw,Need genuine examples for frame and how to hold boundries....,"200 lbs, 315 max bench, 365 max squat, 365 max dead, 8.8% body fat, financially secure, constantly reading sidebar, read most of the books..... Reading my previous posts will add context.... @@ -76328,7 +76328,7 @@ I tell her to get on her knees as stare into my eyes while she licks my cock. S She rushes through foreplay ALWAYS and cums quickly.....no journey. -I instruct her to pleasure herself while I watch, and she ALWAYS has an excuse.",,13,1kdawg1,1579525924.0 +I instruct her to pleasure herself while I watch, and she ALWAYS has an excuse.",,13,1kdawg1,2020-01-20 13:12:04 askMRP,eqmdma,How to be the man that my parents and sister aspire to listen to?,"I seek MRP advice to find better way to execute my plan in a masculine manner, to keep my family respect and lead them to better situation. I understand I have no control over none but myself, and I hope that as a man who would benefit the society, I have to benefit my family first if I can provide a positive example. My friend (divorced 41 M) proposed to my sister (single 27 F) over a year ago. She lives oversees with my parents, while he lives in the states. Now before she even got the visa, she started having cold feet (understood for the age difference). But that's what she told us, not what she does (AWALT), as she went forward to get the visa, and now contacted me to discuss the prenup with the fiance. @@ -76341,7 +76341,7 @@ We had a call to discuss the prenup, but her actual intention was to complain ab I didn't have better strategy to lead her emotions so I was clear and direct. She triggered my resentment because I hate these games women play, even if she's my sister. So for the first time in 4 months, I lost my temper and hanged up the call on her. I didn't want to turn full blue, so I'd rather ramboo the shit if have no arsenal. She was victim puking and I have no tolerance for this BS. STFU was an option, but I didn't want to be an emotional tampon for no woman. Despite all this DEERing, please enlighten me about what should I have done better here? -My plan is to talk with my family again in respect to this topic with more care about temper-triggering BS. I'll propose to my parents that they support my sister to calm down and back off, while suggest to my sister to end the relationship. I don't want pull myself away, even though that's an option, but since she may marry him despite everything, I don't want her to lose me as the only source of support when parents are far away and I'm the only family. Please let me know if my attachment is getting in the way of my own happiness or if I could do better to win everyone, including myself?",,0,mrpmonk,1579381723.0 +My plan is to talk with my family again in respect to this topic with more care about temper-triggering BS. I'll propose to my parents that they support my sister to calm down and back off, while suggest to my sister to end the relationship. I don't want pull myself away, even though that's an option, but since she may marry him despite everything, I don't want her to lose me as the only source of support when parents are far away and I'm the only family. Please let me know if my attachment is getting in the way of my own happiness or if I could do better to win everyone, including myself?",,0,mrpmonk,2020-01-18 21:08:43 askMRP,eqlob9,How to handle this test?,"Just discovered trp/mrp two days ago. Read stuff from hornsofapathy and my father bought me NMMNG for xmas, perfect timing. Anyway, to the point. @@ -76363,7 +76363,7 @@ Her: then fuck off, hope you find someone who puts up with that. I haven’t texted back since this morning. Went to gym, now doing what I’m doing throughout my day, and reading NMMNG after I meal prep tonight. -How would you handle this? Am I handling her words correctly? Will this help me get back behind the wheel and her in the passenger seat? Thanks a bunch. Time to sidebar.",,0,My2020Transformation,1579378554.0 +How would you handle this? Am I handling her words correctly? Will this help me get back behind the wheel and her in the passenger seat? Thanks a bunch. Time to sidebar.",,0,My2020Transformation,2020-01-18 20:15:54 askMRP,epvilb,"Need an exit plan [24 y/o, married 1.5 yrs]","After finishing and beginning to implement the sidebar required reading and getting only 2 weeks of momentum in the Male Action Plan, my wife dropped the bomb on me tonight that she wants to have sex outside of marriage, because she no longer feels safe with me, because she believes I raped her way back when. Our sex life is currently at zero, and has been for a bit. I can't pinpoint what she's talking about, I don't recall any time we had sex where she told me to stop. @@ -76378,7 +76378,7 @@ I'm lifting, cooking, and cleaning, doing all my adult shit I need to be doing. I'm thinking about seeking help myself, this feels like too much to process. But I'm scared any therapist would throw me in jail too. Am I just freaking out here? -What is an actual plan I can follow for a clean exit?",,8,mtrpthrowaway2124,1579235962.0 +What is an actual plan I can follow for a clean exit?",,8,mtrpthrowaway2124,2020-01-17 04:39:22 askMRP,eprp86,Help Me Find My Blind Spots,"Not looking for specifics on what to do, more looking for guidance on where my thinking is flawed or weak/BP. Thanks for your time. @@ -76425,10 +76425,10 @@ I am having my parents draw up a backdated rental agreement, they don't know wha Right now I am focused on STFU and being normal, not doing or saying angry things. It isn't too hard since we don't speak much anyway. That's also part of the reason I don't think this is worth any more of my time or effort - around other people, I am funny, engaging, confident. Being around her is like a black hole for my personality. She doesn't react to anything I do or say the way other people do. I think there is just too much scar tissue... but I'm just a faggot, wtf do I know? Next to nothing. -I am entering a new anger phase for obvious reasons, I know its source is my own skewed expectations that she would follow her word, etc like a unicorn, which she isn't. I am doing my best to channel that anger into preparations for what is to come and continuing my MAP, which will be unaffected by divorce. I was going to start approaching other women anyway once I got to Dread 4 & 5, and would probably have fucked some of them.",,11,AlohaMaui808,1579217539.0 +I am entering a new anger phase for obvious reasons, I know its source is my own skewed expectations that she would follow her word, etc like a unicorn, which she isn't. I am doing my best to channel that anger into preparations for what is to come and continuing my MAP, which will be unaffected by divorce. I was going to start approaching other women anyway once I got to Dread 4 & 5, and would probably have fucked some of them.",,11,AlohaMaui808,2020-01-16 23:32:19 askMRP,epov5b,"Experience with Testosterone Replacement Therapy, specifically if it changes your relationship with your wife.","So I am about to take the plunge with TRT, my bloods were low and tried a month on Clomid which made me a bit of a bitch. Should get my first injection next week. I’ve been consistently lifting for 10+ months with basically nothing to show for it. Hoping this makes a difference there, and with focus/brain fog etc. But my questions for anyone here who is on TRT- did it change your relationship with your wife? I’ve heard anecdotal stories of men saying women are more sexual with them once they raised their T...and god knows it can make your more “Alpha”. I’m not looking for a magic bullet, I am putting in the work, just interested if you fellas have experienced this. -Edit: I’m gonna go back to lurking, I’m not ready for the show.",,10,BlueMyLoad69,1579205727.0 +Edit: I’m gonna go back to lurking, I’m not ready for the show.",,10,BlueMyLoad69,2020-01-16 20:15:27 askMRP,epwli7,Negotiating desire vs. stating your needs,"I'm gonna cut the shit about lifts and all that, this is a general question. I read most of the recommended info, not fully done yet, but this crossed my mind. @@ -76440,7 +76440,7 @@ How do I reconcile the two? For example: I never really told my wife how much I want it. She knows I want sex, but not how much, or in what way. I went nuclear once and literally said, ""You're just laying there"" which ended up in a meltdown, threatening divorce on my part, hysterical bonding for a month, yadda yadda yadda. -I realize, if anything, I should state calm and clear what I want. But, by doing so I am negotiating, am I not? Or is this rule more nuanced that I thought?",,3,[deleted],1579242223.0 +I realize, if anything, I should state calm and clear what I want. But, by doing so I am negotiating, am I not? Or is this rule more nuanced that I thought?",,3,[deleted],2020-01-17 06:23:43 askMRP,ens1sj,How to respond and hold frame.,"I’ll get straight to the point. We had a family holiday booked last November, it was cancelled due to the holiday company going out of business (Thomas cook). We got a full refund but because 200,000 people also had their holiday cancelled, the holiday prices went up so we decided to wait until the new year to book. @@ -76452,7 +76452,7 @@ Half the money is mine but it’s in her bank as she got the refund, I couldn’ I realise this is seriously autistic and no I haven’t been eating paint chips, how do I respond when we talk in person?, if I tell her she can’t go, she won’t but I’m not going to be forced into going now when it won’t be fun. Is it reasonable to say make them wait? -EDIT: I spoke to her about it earlier, I said to her we will start looking at holidays now and put a deposit down if we see something suitable, but we won’t be going until later in the year which gives her time to sort out the issues with her kid, she may or may not do that, but I came to the realisation that, wether she does or not is no real concern of mine. If they can get along, great, if not, fine I’ll still have a good time doing what ever I want to do, kids included. I was giving way to many fucks about this and in hindsight I think ultimately it was one massive shit test to see if I’d step up and lead.",,5,[deleted],1578857365.0 +EDIT: I spoke to her about it earlier, I said to her we will start looking at holidays now and put a deposit down if we see something suitable, but we won’t be going until later in the year which gives her time to sort out the issues with her kid, she may or may not do that, but I came to the realisation that, wether she does or not is no real concern of mine. If they can get along, great, if not, fine I’ll still have a good time doing what ever I want to do, kids included. I was giving way to many fucks about this and in hindsight I think ultimately it was one massive shit test to see if I’d step up and lead.",,5,[deleted],2020-01-12 19:29:25 askMRP,emljgk,How to build social life from scratch?,"My last couple OYS here: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/el8s8z/own_your_shit_weekly_january_07_2020/fdh3iya/ @@ -76469,7 +76469,7 @@ To my question. I’m recently retired. My hobbies are largely cooking, writing, BJJ is out, my skeleton is too fucked up. Although an MMA dude at my gym generously worked with me on hitting the heavy bag. Ditto for say, rock climbing, but that’s exactly the kind of people I like hanging out with. At 56, there’s also the problem that I’d be “that old guy” hanging out with all the young people. Church is out, because I can’t fake believing in the alternative history, science, and the invisible guys. -Help me to get my head screwed on better. I'm experienced with the beat-down style of this forum. Bring it.",,14,Goobergus_Gubbins,1578628977.0 +Help me to get my head screwed on better. I'm experienced with the beat-down style of this forum. Bring it.",,14,Goobergus_Gubbins,2020-01-10 04:02:57 askMRP,elwjmo,How to act sexual?," ~155 lbs. 6’2” 24 y/o married for 2...almost 3 years. We have a 1 y/o son with another baby on the way... @@ -76480,7 +76480,7 @@ I have read WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, working on Mindful Attraction Plan. Going to Actual question: how do we “act sexual” with eachother? We are both goofy during sex, but don’t mean to be. I have recently just started not saying anything because everything out of my mouth is just pure cringe. (STFU?) -The other day we were doing foreplay and she is comparing the few out-of-place freckles on my body to “chocolate chips.” I’m struggling to keep an erection after that. It’s just so...goofy. Not sensual. We could both use help in this area. Is my ego getting in the way of us having a good time? Or should I actually try to fix this, and if so, how? Don’t know how to lead in this area since I don’t really know how to be “sensual” either.",,8,LabelOtherSide,1578507672.0 +The other day we were doing foreplay and she is comparing the few out-of-place freckles on my body to “chocolate chips.” I’m struggling to keep an erection after that. It’s just so...goofy. Not sensual. We could both use help in this area. Is my ego getting in the way of us having a good time? Or should I actually try to fix this, and if so, how? Don’t know how to lead in this area since I don’t really know how to be “sensual” either.",,8,LabelOtherSide,2020-01-08 18:21:12 askMRP,elb6pa,Update 1 to Caught STD (What to tell wife?),"So, I'm the dumb fuck who posted [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/e8ey96/caught_std_what_to_tell_wife) a month ago (TL;DR, I caught an STD from a hooker), and I thought I'd stop by to give you guys an update and another laugh. Before that, some opening comments: To those who thought I was trolling: I really wish I were. But no; it was a real post. I'm usually an intelligent, sensible guy with a responsible job, but you wouldn't know it, would you? @@ -76501,7 +76501,7 @@ Fourth, I told my wife: that I'd paid for a blowjob and contracted herpes as a r Did I need to tell her? Perhaps not. The fact that it was HSV1 \*could\* conceivably have meant that I gave it to myself, or she to me, despite her not giving me a blowjob for nearly a year. However, on top of my feelings of guilt, I would have felt like an utterly cowardly shit if I had kept quiet and passed the STD to her, and she happened to be one of the small % that had particularly bad symptoms. I don't want to be that kind of man. As it is, she now knows there is a risk of transmission but has already instigated sex twice in the past week (which I realize may be more from lack of security than from genuine desire, and which most counselors would say is a bad idea right now, but whatever...) -So, where do we go from here? I'm still trying to work that out. My relationship with my wife has obviously changed, though I don't think it's \*entirely\* for the worse. MRP is indeed RP on hard mode; I just lost a life, but haven't quite figured out where the respawn point is.",,49,RecoveringOxfordBlue,1578401612.0 +So, where do we go from here? I'm still trying to work that out. My relationship with my wife has obviously changed, though I don't think it's \*entirely\* for the worse. MRP is indeed RP on hard mode; I just lost a life, but haven't quite figured out where the respawn point is.",,49,RecoveringOxfordBlue,2020-01-07 12:53:32 askMRP,ekyv05,RP Father's - How far will you go to teach financial independence?,"Finances with my 16yo son have been an issue. I take care of his essentials. He's responsible for anything extra. My desire is to teach him to be more independent. ""Figure it out,"" is my mantra. I have a concern this may have been counter-productive. He has pursued two avenues. @@ -76526,8 +76526,8 @@ Reasons to care: My deep instinct is to confront him and say, ""relying on friends and family to support you financially will only get you so far. You're 16. No driver's license (though he's coming around on this). It's time to start stepping up and being more responsible."" I think at a minimum this is the wise choice. However, I also want to take it further, contact his mother, and ask her to stop (I know she won't). If I did take that route, I know I'd have to leave it at that; mention it once and let it be. -What is the advice of the RP Dad's out there?",,17,ImNotSlash,1578338759.0 -askMRP,ekvv3i,Running MAP on peri menopausal or menopausal women,"I need some advice. Been running the MAP for a year. I know it takes time to see tangible results and I am going to keep pressing on. My wife is almost 48 and I believe she may be going through peri menopause. Thus, this is affecting her ability to respond to the MAP as she has low estrogen. I want to let her get through this phase of her life and see if she will respond once her hormones return to normal levels. I don’t think she has made the connection that she is PM though and I am certainly not going to bring it up to her. I don’t want to come across as trying to fix her. I just want to keep pressing on. But, I don’t think the MAP can play out as normal under the current environment. I would like advice from anyone who has run MAP and encountered this. Thanks in advance.",,9,Brothervoliver2,1578325835.0 +What is the advice of the RP Dad's out there?",,17,ImNotSlash,2020-01-06 19:25:59 +askMRP,ekvv3i,Running MAP on peri menopausal or menopausal women,"I need some advice. Been running the MAP for a year. I know it takes time to see tangible results and I am going to keep pressing on. My wife is almost 48 and I believe she may be going through peri menopause. Thus, this is affecting her ability to respond to the MAP as she has low estrogen. I want to let her get through this phase of her life and see if she will respond once her hormones return to normal levels. I don’t think she has made the connection that she is PM though and I am certainly not going to bring it up to her. I don’t want to come across as trying to fix her. I just want to keep pressing on. But, I don’t think the MAP can play out as normal under the current environment. I would like advice from anyone who has run MAP and encountered this. Thanks in advance.",,9,Brothervoliver2,2020-01-06 15:50:35 askMRP,ejy07g,You’re dismissive. Apologize to me!,"35 yrs old, Together for 7 married for 4, one 3 year old daughter. 6’3, 207lbs, BF: 12-14%, Squat: 305 x5, OHP: 155 x5, Rows: 245 x5, Bench: 245 x5, Deadlift: 335 x5. (Through the rabbit hole of Steel’s detailed guide and links within, NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TWOTSM x2, BP-professor’s YouTube series. Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins <—that’s a bad motherfucker! Give him a listen. I do mostly audiobooks in the gym.) @@ -76548,7 +76548,7 @@ With the reactions I’m getting, you would think I’m having diarrhea of the m I want some guidance on how to navigate these reactions. Especially the complaints on being dismissive and being compelled to apologize under the guise of comfort test. When compelled to apologize, I simply smile and say “I’m not apologizing.” because I don’t think I should apologizing for calmly saying “I know you disagree, but I’m going to work extra to have extra cash in hand. It’s what I’m going to do.” Am I handling that correctly? -With the accusations of being dismissive... I STFU and look at her like I’m brain dead because I literally get stuck like a retard knowing I really am being dismissive. How do/did you handle this?",,5,2wo2wo3hree,1578152082.0 +With the accusations of being dismissive... I STFU and look at her like I’m brain dead because I literally get stuck like a retard knowing I really am being dismissive. How do/did you handle this?",,5,2wo2wo3hree,2020-01-04 15:34:42 askMRP,ejoi0k,Looking for advice on how to recover from an evening of shit tests ... that I failed.,"First time poster. I'm not going to ask for you to go easy on me. Fuck that shit ... tell me like it is. Me: 51, married 14 years, 2 kids (13 and 11). I��m outwardly successful ... strong job skills (mid 6 figure annual income), kids in private school, nice show home. Inwardly, I’m a blue-pill-beta-fag. You’ve heard the story here a hundred time, failed shit tests, drunk captain, sacrificing my integrity and pride “... to do what’s best for the family.” Wife is 48 SAHM. @@ -76571,7 +76571,7 @@ Then she has a couple of wines, and starts the shit tests. One of the guys is a Spent a sleepless night trying to figure all this out, and decided to make my first post on r/AskMRP. Retelling this story has focused my thoughts. I started this by thinking I needed advice, but I've been imagining r/AskMRPs answers as I type and I now have an idea of how to progress ... 1. Don't act butt-hurt ... I fucked up, so I've got to deal with it and suck it up. 2. Regain frame, and get the captain on deck. 3. Start preparing for shit tests based on the new material from last night ... I'm sure it'll come around again. -Thanks for reading. Just typing this shit helps ...",,15,False_Responsibility,1578097393.0 +Thanks for reading. Just typing this shit helps ...",,15,False_Responsibility,2020-01-04 00:23:13 askMRP,ejldin,Help. Just starting the MRP journey. Need advice.,"Blue pill idiot here. Married 19 years, 3 kids, just joined the gym last month and going through MRP sidebar. Finished NMMNG, currently on WISNIFG. I'm looking for some guidance from you guys. I can't believe I'm just learning about RP/MRP and wish I had learned a long time ago. I'm your textbook example of what not to do and I'm just starting to unfuck myself. To make a long story short, I've let my wife control my decision making for the family. She like to argue and yell, I don't and I was never raised that way. I avoid confrontation to the point of agreeing with her in order to avoid a fight, but we all know how that turns out. She comes from a dysfunctional family where she doesn't talk to her sisters, and her mom (my mother in law) was a single mom. I should have seen the red flags. Wife is a total SJW, feminist, and found out I was looking at RP videos and listening to ""offensive"" ideas that are brainwashing me. In a way, I'm glad she learned, I was tired of hiding my path to figuring out why I've been struggling. Her M.O. is also the same in her professional and personal life, if you piss her off, she cuts you out of her life. Anyway, after years of slowly giving in to my wife's attitude, I'm starting to implement some of the MRP theories. On NYE, I was getting some work done on the computer and I hear my wife yelling and screaming at the kids (it happens more often than not). I had to finish my project and when I was done went out to ask what happened. It turns out it all started because my wife asked the kids to wash the dishes and they started arguing about who had done what. Next thing you know she starts screaming at them and tells my oldest to clean the bathrooms. I figured here is my chance to speak up and start implementing some of the things I've learned and let her know the screaming is not an acceptable reaction to the kids. I agreed they needed to help but then she started escalating, and getting mad. Next thing you -know she starts going off on me, this time I didn't back down, but it ruined the rest of NYE at my neighbors house. If her eyes could kill, I'd be dead. I'm glad I let her know how i felt, even if she got pissed. @@ -76582,7 +76582,7 @@ I've laid low, doing chores around the house, making brkfst, putting away all th - Was ""rude, disrespectful, aggressive, self absorbed and insensitive"" like watching an ape pound his chest saying ""i'm master of this jungle look at me in all my glory"", it was uncalled for and pathetic. - ""You don't have your wife's respect because you behave like an effeminate man"" You're so self absorbed in your music, your Youtube channels, your video games, etc. you need to pray. so that God can help you understand that your principle responsibility is to protect your children and wife over all things. Every waking hour is there for you to sacrifice yourself for the well being of your family"". -There's more but I'm looking for any thoughts or suggestions. I work my ass off to help provide for my family, picking up any OT I can get my hands on, she also works full time; Old beta wants to apologize and say sorry, but I'm ready to call her out on her bullshit and do something fun with my kids/hit the gym instead of putting up with BS. Thanks in advance for this community.",,10,joetrader626,1578083985.0 +There's more but I'm looking for any thoughts or suggestions. I work my ass off to help provide for my family, picking up any OT I can get my hands on, she also works full time; Old beta wants to apologize and say sorry, but I'm ready to call her out on her bullshit and do something fun with my kids/hit the gym instead of putting up with BS. Thanks in advance for this community.",,10,joetrader626,2020-01-03 20:39:45 askMRP,eiqcvl,Red pilled 3 months ago. Impending separation. Need some help.,"First post here. I need some help... I'm 43. Together 16 years, married 7. 3 awesome kids. Sex has been bad the entire time. She had childhood abuse and I always chalked it up to that (deep kissing off limits from the start, morning sex a NO, major hesitations on anything submissive). I dealt with it because she is STUPID HOT and figured she would just take a long time to open up. @@ -76629,7 +76629,7 @@ I don't want to lose my wife, or my family. I am ready for that if that's what's I still do wonder how much of our disaster of a sex life was a result of my blue-pill bitchness, or her past abuse and intimacy issues. I suspect maybe 80/20? Saving us is still a bet that she can relax into her feminine in a way she never has. I don't know what's possible with her sexually even if I never break frame for the rest of my life. -I welcome any feedback, resources, your analysis of what's going on, action plans, etc. You may say I deserve this, that I'm still a bitch. Maybe I do and maybe I am. But whether my marriage ends or not, I'm on the same path you're on... committed to being the best man I can be. We start where we start. I'm thinking about my boys. I want them to see a real man, and a real relationship, and that's going to happen no matter what. I'm Just trying to see if I can make it happen with their mom.",,40,2112311username,1577924871.0 +I welcome any feedback, resources, your analysis of what's going on, action plans, etc. You may say I deserve this, that I'm still a bitch. Maybe I do and maybe I am. But whether my marriage ends or not, I'm on the same path you're on... committed to being the best man I can be. We start where we start. I'm thinking about my boys. I want them to see a real man, and a real relationship, and that's going to happen no matter what. I'm Just trying to see if I can make it happen with their mom.",,40,2112311username,2020-01-02 00:27:51 askMRP,eiv43h,Still struggling after significant gains. Military challenges.,"Preliminarily: 35yo. over last two years since finding these concepts, have lost 20 pounds from 195 to 175, from 34-36 waist to 30-32, gained a blue belt in bjj and have competed half dozen times, went from enlisted to officer in military. I recently have begun revamping my wardrobe. I look great. I feel great. Testosterone high. Status high. Have read nmmng, wisnifg, mmslp, and other books. My original problem was not a lack of sex, it was my wife freely disrespecting me, me being in her frame totally, apologizing and reacting all the time, but getting reward sex regularly. I was losing it. She didnt make sense. She was always getting upset over stuff that didnt make sense to me. I went through a long rambo phase and finally began to understand the true dynamics. @@ -76654,7 +76654,7 @@ I said ""its fine. Theresno problem. Im having a great time. Im feeling a little This morning the fight continued. It was just about to start being a screaming match at home because she would just not stop now aggressively coming at me and now with stacks of mistepresented naratives of recent events, stacks of nagging complaints. I have a hard time still with my autonomous systems not taking over over long periods of fighting. -Long story short im now driving 16 hours up the coast to visit my brother. We spoke on the phone and it was all yelling. I told her she has to start being honest about her behaviors and earnestly seeking compromises or the marriage is ove rug. She basically treated it like a bluff. I think it would be easier to start over. We have 3 amazi g kids i love. They are the reason i havent left yet.",,4,lasttuesdaystacos,1577949861.0 +Long story short im now driving 16 hours up the coast to visit my brother. We spoke on the phone and it was all yelling. I told her she has to start being honest about her behaviors and earnestly seeking compromises or the marriage is ove rug. She basically treated it like a bluff. I think it would be easier to start over. We have 3 amazi g kids i love. They are the reason i havent left yet.",,4,lasttuesdaystacos,2020-01-02 07:24:21 askMRP,ei1qyb,Wife of 6 months only just told me that she has debt,"It came up when we were arguing about when to try to have kids. (I want to start now, and she wants to wait til she's out of debt.) She just finished her studies and at some point during those studies (several years ago, before we were even engaged) she ran out of money and needed to get a loan. She hasn't said how much (I didn't ask), but that she can pay it off in 6 months with her new job, so potentially about 10-15k. I would have expected that to go into our joint bank account, and you know, towards a house or car or something unimportant like that. But now it will just be disappearing into thin air. It explains why she was always so reluctant about joining our finances. But we talked about that before and after getting married, and she never said a word about her debt, and even (reluctantly) accepted my offer of a card with access to my bank account after the wedding, and started using it. @@ -76663,7 +76663,7 @@ I don't have any debt. Funnily enough, she did loan me some money during my stud What would you do in this situation? We are devout Catholics, so divorce is not on the table, only annulment in which you have to justify that a legitimate marriage didn't happen. I just know that the fact that she did not communicate with me about such an important thing feels to me like deception. So now I feel that I can't trust her, or at least in her ability to communicate. What if something else happens that she's too ashamed to tell me? At the moment I don't even want to be around her. But she didn't seem to realize the importance of what she was telling me when she mentioned the debt. Or she was just downplaying it. I don't know. Am I making too big of a deal out of this? -Edit: to be clear, we had agreed to join finances after the wedding. I brought this up and she said that she would pay the debt herself. I explained that if our finances were joined, then she is not earning money for herself, but for us. To which she had no response.",,6,DuffBude,1577791807.0 +Edit: to be clear, we had agreed to join finances after the wedding. I brought this up and she said that she would pay the debt herself. I explained that if our finances were joined, then she is not earning money for herself, but for us. To which she had no response.",,6,DuffBude,2019-12-31 11:30:07 askMRP,ei5rpg,Dancing lessons - invite wife or not?," 46yo 6'0"" 190lbs \~24% BF. 120lb Sq 80 BP 90 BR 65 OHP 155 DL. Wife 45yo, married 21yrs, kids 16(m) 10(m) In my [OYS this week](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/ei069l/own_your_shit_weekly_december_31_2019/fcncnr5) I mention that one of my new ideas for expanding my social life *and* conquering an old stupid fear is to start learning how to dance. You can read my background/situation in my first OYS post which is linked in the above linked post. In short, I'm 5-6 weeks since swallowing the pill, my relationship with my wife is cordial on its best day, no sex in ages, and I'm committed to this process of self-improvement. However I'm wary of going off the deep end, and I don't want to miss opportunities to invest in restoring our relationship just to do some virtue signaling that hey-I'm-all-in-on-RP-fuck-everyone-else-always (MRP signaling? Alpha signaling?) I think it's possible to say I'm focused on myself but also invite her along for the ride on certain occasions. @@ -76675,7 +76675,7 @@ The two workable approaches I see are: * Establish that this is something I am **going to do** regardless, and invite her along. Nowhere is permission/validation sought. * Proceed entirely on my own, and assume the benefits will come about consequentially the way they do with lifting and getting in better shape. -Appreciate any alternative approaches, or general insight.",,1,DeadGreek,1577812823.0 +Appreciate any alternative approaches, or general insight.",,1,DeadGreek,2019-12-31 17:20:23 askMRP,eia360,Should I go through with my divorce?,"Age: 28(m), 26F) Married: 1 year together 5 @@ -76698,7 +76698,7 @@ Edit: no kids. Edit: divorce rape advise We both make the same amount of money and with my career I'll soon be making double in 4 more years with a great pension. She has no goals on her career other than having children, I'm suspecting a secret SAHM plan. -We bought the house a year and a half ago when we were engaged. Also bought a commuter for me a year ago. All I want is my car the bed I bought before we were married and one of our dogs we got after marriage. The house is nice and we also have debt for the furniture. Individually we can barely afford the house and all the bills so I was thinking about telling her my bare minimum and giving her the house and shit. But then again the house is nice and I would love to bachelor pad this shit.",,0,[deleted],1577832396.0 +We bought the house a year and a half ago when we were engaged. Also bought a commuter for me a year ago. All I want is my car the bed I bought before we were married and one of our dogs we got after marriage. The house is nice and we also have debt for the furniture. Individually we can barely afford the house and all the bills so I was thinking about telling her my bare minimum and giving her the house and shit. But then again the house is nice and I would love to bachelor pad this shit.",,0,[deleted],2019-12-31 22:46:36 askMRP,ehtxe4,I was caught,"Guys I've fucked up royally. I got drunk the last two nights and started texting the neighbor girl over IG. We sent messages about dreams, sex dreams, etc. It was inappropriate but nothing absolute and too out of pocket. Just stupid. @@ -76722,12 +76722,12 @@ I've probably blown it up. I've had every emotion imaginable go through me today I know I'll have to make preparations no matter what happens. So far, we have agreed to not split up. (We will see) -I guess I'm just typing this out. Someone on here has fucked up like this. I just need guidance.",,13,Stallion--Duck,1577747700.0 +I guess I'm just typing this out. Someone on here has fucked up like this. I just need guidance.",,13,Stallion--Duck,2019-12-30 23:15:00 askMRP,ehmxs4,How Do You Guys Even Trust Your Girl?,"I started reading the Red Pill side bar again a few weeks ago. After reading almost everything there, I wonder how do you guys even trust your girl isn't gonna cheat on you for a guy with higher SMV even if you're doing everything possible to up your own? I know I should NGAF but at the same time I think I'll feel betrayed if I trust my girlfriend and then she does something to betray that trust. How do you deal with that feeling? -Sounds like I have no balls, I know, but I'm just genuinely asking a question about trust here.",,22,AttractiveMofo,1577717515.0 +Sounds like I have no balls, I know, but I'm just genuinely asking a question about trust here.",,22,AttractiveMofo,2019-12-30 14:51:55 askMRP,ehlew6,Caught volition spouse lying - possible infidelity,"Squat 265 lbs Bench 185 lbs Deadlift 335 lbs @@ -76743,12 +76743,12 @@ The only reason why I held off on calling her out is that she needs to sign my s I need those documents signed and I’m stuck. I’m staying cool, not engaging her and letting her blow up. -Need advice",,10,Neilio_Heilio,1577708425.0 +Need advice",,10,Neilio_Heilio,2019-12-30 12:20:25 askMRP,ehimrf,She got invited out for coffee by an old guy friend,"I admit, I can be pretty jealous sometimes and I made the mistake of showing it early in our relationship before reading some redpill. LTR got a text today from an old work friend who basically told her that it's been a while since they talked, he's been divorced a while now, the ages of his kids, where he's living and that he'd like to meet her for coffee. I know this because she told me. She introduced it to me by saying that she felt worried when she read the email because I've been jealous in the past, and she texted him back that she could catch up by phone rather than meet in person. She wanted to run it past me and to see if I was comfortable with her meeting him for coffee. Before I replied she said that she wants to be in a relationship where she doesn't feel worried like that, and wants to have the freedom to have a coffee with an old friend - male or female. I asked her if she thinks he's interested in her, and I mentioned that I think he might be interested because he mentioned in his text that he's divorced. She asked me what she should do? She said that I can tag along with her. I don't want to babysit her and be the 3rd wheel, so I said no it's fine meet him if you'd like, but I have to admit it does bother me. She said okay, and that if he wants to meet her a second time afterwards that I'll come along with her. &#x200B; -So yea, I probably lost my frame by mentioning that it bothered me. I think it's best to be decisive in these situations, either say no I don't date women who meet single men 1 on 1, or say sure go meet him for coffee. Either way, she's probably going to meet him now. How should I deal with this situation in the future? It obviously bothers me.",,10,payperclickwhy,1577688894.0 +So yea, I probably lost my frame by mentioning that it bothered me. I think it's best to be decisive in these situations, either say no I don't date women who meet single men 1 on 1, or say sure go meet him for coffee. Either way, she's probably going to meet him now. How should I deal with this situation in the future? It obviously bothers me.",,10,payperclickwhy,2019-12-30 06:54:54 askMRP,ehc1t1,Moving out during a divorce,"My friend who has been divorce raped by a similar woman to mine and has strongly urged me to move out immediately. Either pay 3-5k in rent or pay 10-15k in lawyer fees. Lawyer said not to move out as STBX loses incentive to finalize the divorce. What are the pros and cons for moving out that I am not seeing? @@ -76763,7 +76763,7 @@ Cons - STBX could drag things out while fucking another man in my bed in a house that I am paying for - New man to replace the selfish dad who abandoned his family - Lose little influence I have left over the kids -- Courts might see it as me being a piece of shit if custody were to become an issue",,13,[deleted],1577655903.0 +- Courts might see it as me being a piece of shit if custody were to become an issue",,13,[deleted],2019-12-29 21:45:03 askMRP,eh2e1l,Fat versus muscle while bulking,"Finished first month of bulking. How do I know if I have gained muscle vs. Fat? Ran a few calculators and it isn't clear. I started at 152 and gained about 6 pounds, but 1.5 inches on belly across the navel. Did I need to record lean mass before starting? (I keep a spreadsheet so can go back and figure it out if needed). And any tips going forward? Plan is to bulk to 170 or 25% BF and then cut again but obviously I am not sure how to evaluate progress and this is first time doing a cycle. Edit with some pertinent stats: @@ -76777,8 +76777,8 @@ Also I gained a lot of excess this week because of the holidays and eating too m Overall I look better (couldn't look worse)have more muscle, still too fat etc. Going to cut calories down to about 2000 (slightly above TDEE ) stick with it for another month and then re-evaluate. -Second edit: I am going to cut calories to below TDEE. Looking at Bulk or Cut Reddit it is clear to me now that I am too fat. Thanks bros for all the input. Going to get back down to 15% range and then re-evaluate.",,4,Vegasman20002,1577599012.0 -askMRP,egva78,"Getting my shit together, but in need of some advice from the pros.","So I've been turning my life around thanks to discovering MRP, three months ago my wife told me she ""loved me but wasnt in love with me"" I moved back to my dads for a brief period while we were on a break (before I unplugged) then I decided that I should never have left in the first place and moved back in, she put up a mild protest, But I didnt back down and she came round almost immediately. Since coming back and implimenting what I've learned, (lifting, being more confident, gaming her daily, no longer having her be my mission) things have improved dramatically. But now that has presented a new problem, turns out I can't last in bed, I read somewhere that you shouldn't jack off before a date or before sex as it kills your game. But the last two times we've had sex I've bust a nut within the first few minutes, or the latest time during foreplay. Now I'm not asking for how to last longer, unless you guys have some secret that I've yet to learn. But I want to know how you guys would deal with the situation afterwards, obviously my wife was disappointed but i held my frame and tried not to give a fuck. That said I feel like I could have handled it better. Any advice is welcomed.",,9,[deleted],1577562754.0 +Second edit: I am going to cut calories to below TDEE. Looking at Bulk or Cut Reddit it is clear to me now that I am too fat. Thanks bros for all the input. Going to get back down to 15% range and then re-evaluate.",,4,Vegasman20002,2019-12-29 05:56:52 +askMRP,egva78,"Getting my shit together, but in need of some advice from the pros.","So I've been turning my life around thanks to discovering MRP, three months ago my wife told me she ""loved me but wasnt in love with me"" I moved back to my dads for a brief period while we were on a break (before I unplugged) then I decided that I should never have left in the first place and moved back in, she put up a mild protest, But I didnt back down and she came round almost immediately. Since coming back and implimenting what I've learned, (lifting, being more confident, gaming her daily, no longer having her be my mission) things have improved dramatically. But now that has presented a new problem, turns out I can't last in bed, I read somewhere that you shouldn't jack off before a date or before sex as it kills your game. But the last two times we've had sex I've bust a nut within the first few minutes, or the latest time during foreplay. Now I'm not asking for how to last longer, unless you guys have some secret that I've yet to learn. But I want to know how you guys would deal with the situation afterwards, obviously my wife was disappointed but i held my frame and tried not to give a fuck. That said I feel like I could have handled it better. Any advice is welcomed.",,9,[deleted],2019-12-28 19:52:34 askMRP,egjh76,Should I be worried?,"Long-time lurker. I'm MRP-aware. @@ -76841,7 +76841,7 @@ But, should I be worried? **Edit 11: Theiiiswh fwwwh babysitter aweu weour seht smiled at me saswey whe imnlove. ** -Edit 12: Damn, I fell asleep. My head is killing me. Christ, I drank too much. Hah. Fucking bitches. No better way to show 'em you don't give a damn than to drink yourself to death, lol. Fuck, I don't even know where my wife is. My father-in-law is bugging the shit out of me. Dick. Where are my kids? Babysitter's gone, too, said I ""reminded her of Jeffrey Dahmer,"" lol, whore. Fucking women, they're all the same.",,11,johneyapocalypse,1577493066.0 +Edit 12: Damn, I fell asleep. My head is killing me. Christ, I drank too much. Hah. Fucking bitches. No better way to show 'em you don't give a damn than to drink yourself to death, lol. Fuck, I don't even know where my wife is. My father-in-law is bugging the shit out of me. Dick. Where are my kids? Babysitter's gone, too, said I ""reminded her of Jeffrey Dahmer,"" lol, whore. Fucking women, they're all the same.",,11,johneyapocalypse,2019-12-28 00:31:06 askMRP,egl392,I want to fuck her so now she doesn't want to fuck,"I want to fuck her so now she doesn't want to fuck That is my current dilemma, well part of it at least. I have had some libido issues but had still been initiating a few times a week. @@ -76872,12 +76872,12 @@ I may be missing some things and this is getting long, so key points from the la I understand how dread works, but should it mean I don't get fucked because I am more present for a short period of time? I took a break from the gym because I needed a deload, and was more available to the family because my kids were out of school. -Is this how this shit works? Can the captain never coast for even a very short period of time?",,5,TRT_Maybe_Deca,1577501500.0 +Is this how this shit works? Can the captain never coast for even a very short period of time?",,5,TRT_Maybe_Deca,2019-12-28 02:51:40 askMRP,eelcqt,Who are we measuring ourselves to?,"Dear wifefuckers, I feel the need of a live rolemodel. When I was working out by myself, I thought I'm a monster until I went to the gym. Even in the gym, my lifting progress profile seems good when measuring myself up to my past until I see the guy next to me warming up with my max weight. All the authors of our sidebar books and the good posts here, talk about their experience as something we should aim for. -I'm in a spiritual retreat trip during Christmas. I listen to plenty of talks and I love how rolemodeling work. Even though some stories get out of context to fit some narratives, people do measure themselves up to these great (and ancient) figures. I also see how Red Pill Christians take Jesus as their role model, from their prospective, as an integrated man who builds society with utmost masculinity. But who do we measure ourselves to?",,8,mrpmonk,1577111823.0 +I'm in a spiritual retreat trip during Christmas. I listen to plenty of talks and I love how rolemodeling work. Even though some stories get out of context to fit some narratives, people do measure themselves up to these great (and ancient) figures. I also see how Red Pill Christians take Jesus as their role model, from their prospective, as an integrated man who builds society with utmost masculinity. But who do we measure ourselves to?",,8,mrpmonk,2019-12-23 14:37:03 askMRP,edqyfv,What was the best way to handle this?,"I've been at this MRP stuff for a month. I've devoured nearly everything on the sidebar. I've read WISNIFG twice, NMMNG, MMSLP, RM, MAP, Poon, and Pook. I'm working my way through the RP sidebar and am audiobooking WOTSM. On day 1 I went to the gym and started Stronglifts 5x5 and haven't missed a workout yet. So Lift/Sidebar/\[try to \]STFU. All this not to say ""Oh I totally GET IT"" but just to give some perspective that I have done some work before putting this out there. Married 21 yrs, 2 boys 16 and 10. This morning we had an encounter fairly typical of the shit that's been going on for over a decade and I need some help deconstructing it. Wife and 10yo were going to an event this morning and my son needed to get some gear together. My wife, who has been a little more pleasant since I started this journey, came out and asked if I could help my son with an unexpected problem he was having with his gear. They were trying to get out the door, she wasn't fully ready herself. I don't find she's much for shit tests, but I did a quick shit test check anyways. The information was new to me; she was occupied with things she couldn't drop; we were in a time-sensitive situation. It's something I would have voluntarily done regardless of her asking. So, to my mind not a shit test at all and just part of participating in a functioning household. I immediately went in and starting helping him with his problem. @@ -76896,7 +76896,7 @@ So question 2 - Even though I can't see that it was wrong for me to make clear t Not looking for any validation here - I can handle the slings 'n' arrows. -EDIT: typos",,20,DeadGreek,1576941070.0 +EDIT: typos",,20,DeadGreek,2019-12-21 15:11:10 askMRP,edd8sv,Making the most of noob gains,"Age: 49 Wife 49. Married 19 years this week, 2 kids 16 and 9. 5'7"" 156. Gained about 4 pounds since bulking started almost a month ago. 2400 calories per day and adding 100 as weight goes up per TDEE. Bench 140 lb5x5, @@ -76934,22 +76934,22 @@ Week after 3x8. Essentially instead of adding pounds to the barbell I am adding reps this week then transition to fewer sets at higher reps, with adding more weight at 3x8 than I have right now at 5x6. -Is that reasonable or stupid?",,6,Vegasman20002,1576863211.0 +Is that reasonable or stupid?",,6,Vegasman20002,2019-12-20 17:33:31 askMRP,ecdf96,What's the best book for building the Oak?,"Would like a text that focuses on being the quintessential Oak upon whom others can rely. -That Jordan Peterson quote, about being the guy at the funeral of your father upon whom everyone else can rely, really resonates.",,13,Diamondbacking,1576679780.0 +That Jordan Peterson quote, about being the guy at the funeral of your father upon whom everyone else can rely, really resonates.",,13,Diamondbacking,2019-12-18 14:36:20 askMRP,ecb09n,Is Keto good for athletes?,"Not sure if this is the right place, but a lot of guys in TRP/MRP seem to swear by Keto. Bottom line: I play ice hockey twice a week in addition to lifting heavy three times a week. Normally I wouldn’t consider Keto BUT, I am trying to lose about 15 lbs of fat at the moment. I’ve heard Keto is great for fat loss but I’m concerned I’ll start lagging behind in hockey. -Anyone with any experience in this?",,4,[deleted],1576665854.0 +Anyone with any experience in this?",,4,[deleted],2019-12-18 10:44:14 askMRP,ebw3nz,Skin Care,"Hello faggots. As I get older (36) I realize we need to take care of our faces as they take abuse. What do you older guys do for a skin care routine. All I ever have done is moisturize my face after I shower or shave with a beard oil/lotion. I started to notice dark circles and bags under my eyes. It seems most of the billion brands of skin care products are bullshit out there so I was wondering what you guys use that works. -Obviously staying hydrated, getting adequate sleep and avoiding alcohol helps.",,10,WolfofAllStreetz,1576591016.0 +Obviously staying hydrated, getting adequate sleep and avoiding alcohol helps.",,10,WolfofAllStreetz,2019-12-17 13:56:56 askMRP,ec4yof,How to minimize risks of divorce?,"I'm trying to put together a list of how I can reduce risk (both the probability and impact) of getting a divorce. I'm afraid of getting divorced (despite being single without a girlfriend - weird I know). I'm told this subreddit has all the answers. What can be done? What can I add to this?!?: @@ -76962,7 +76962,7 @@ What can I add to this?!?: 5. Don't be lazy (ie. be a man of value) 6. Set & stick with my boundaries -7. relationship management: be a man of value, marriage counseling, exercise, etc.",,0,Aspiring127,1576629841.0 +7. relationship management: be a man of value, marriage counseling, exercise, etc.",,0,Aspiring127,2019-12-18 00:44:01 askMRP,ebgh7h,Branch swing to low SMV Beta,"For those of you following my plight I have an update. You guys were right, there was definitely another man involved. I found out she's been sleeping with this dude for a few weeks but the emotionally attachment started months ago (before separation). What has my head spinning is this. He's a married older, fat, slob of a beta who has no money. I'd put her at a 6 or 7 and he's a 1 or 2. @@ -76973,10 +76973,10 @@ How does a branch swing to a lower SMV beta even occur? Needless to say I filed the divorce papers today. -One last question, do I tell his wife and blow up his life too?",,15,[deleted],1576509815.0 +One last question, do I tell his wife and blow up his life too?",,15,[deleted],2019-12-16 15:23:35 askMRP,eact23,Wife spent $9k behind my back,"This evening my wife gave me a letter telling me she has spent $9k for an online class to help her communicate with me. I’m considering divorce. I was not considering divorce before I got the letter. We are far from poor but she has just completed a masters program that I paid for and only works part time. I work a lot. She’s not a good communicator. She did this behind my back. And took out a credit card just to do it. We have two small children. I’m very frugal and this is against what I stand for from the stand point of doing it behind my back and the cost. Thoughts? -Update: Thanks for all your responses. I’m obviously ashamed she wasn’t able to speak with me about this before doing it and there is work to be done there. It’s also by most definitions a scam as it’s an 8 course with some follow up. She’s done a couple weeks and I do have to say I’m impressed by her expression of commitment to me, it’s something that I’ve always seen in her though. I’m not sure if we should call AMEX and dispute the transaction, any thoughts there would be appreciated. One thing that’s always bothered me in her and I relationship is that she feels she has to be the ‘safety net’ when I try take the family in certain direction. Little things like pushing nap time to big things like buying a farm and building a tiny house. She’s got a great family but mom is more the earner and she’s been with some leech guys. She really expressed how I’ve only shown her that I can be trusted and she does, but it’s a change of mindset for her. She offered unprompted to follow me on several things that I had been letting lie. Thanks again for everyone response and word of caution to other posters lots of comments are attacking and extrapolate far beyond reasonable, sometimes they hit truth sometimes they don’t read and make your own decisions just like everything in life.",,19,shouldidrawtheline,1576284610.0 +Update: Thanks for all your responses. I’m obviously ashamed she wasn’t able to speak with me about this before doing it and there is work to be done there. It’s also by most definitions a scam as it’s an 8 course with some follow up. She’s done a couple weeks and I do have to say I’m impressed by her expression of commitment to me, it’s something that I’ve always seen in her though. I’m not sure if we should call AMEX and dispute the transaction, any thoughts there would be appreciated. One thing that’s always bothered me in her and I relationship is that she feels she has to be the ‘safety net’ when I try take the family in certain direction. Little things like pushing nap time to big things like buying a farm and building a tiny house. She’s got a great family but mom is more the earner and she’s been with some leech guys. She really expressed how I’ve only shown her that I can be trusted and she does, but it’s a change of mindset for her. She offered unprompted to follow me on several things that I had been letting lie. Thanks again for everyone response and word of caution to other posters lots of comments are attacking and extrapolate far beyond reasonable, sometimes they hit truth sometimes they don’t read and make your own decisions just like everything in life.",,19,shouldidrawtheline,2019-12-14 00:50:10 askMRP,ea5hce,Asking for advice and another look at my situation,"Tried posting on MRP and was told this was a better place. —— @@ -77002,7 +77002,7 @@ Where did I slip? I spend a lot of time working (regular job and side business). I’m trying to figure out where I went wrong. Sex was good, with regular initiations on both sides. My SMV didn’t drop, my intensity and drive were the same, and I felt like I was GMOW with family right behind me. Should I have paid more attention to the wife with more beta cuddles and time-suck conversations? -Probably more info I can add but see that this is really long. Just looking for another read as I’m so lost right now.",,7,lostcars112233,1576251377.0 +Probably more info I can add but see that this is really long. Just looking for another read as I’m so lost right now.",,7,lostcars112233,2019-12-13 15:36:17 askMRP,e9xpj9,Do MRP members advocate for decades long monogamous LTRs/Marriages or it just the case that everyone on here found TRP too late and were already trapped?,"Hi all. First time poster. ## Context @@ -77025,7 +77025,7 @@ Thanks to everyone who has taken the time to reply and is still engaging in conv 3. If I want to have children this will be rewarding but also lots of hard work. 4. Ultimately it's a cost benefit analysis. Do I want the freedom and casual sex that goes with being single. Or do I want the ability to raise children in a stable environment with a woman that I know will grow older get stretch marks? -Obviously this is a condensation and there's plenty more that I'm taking away from the discussion.",,22,Work_ln_Progress,1576204127.0 +Obviously this is a condensation and there's plenty more that I'm taking away from the discussion.",,22,Work_ln_Progress,2019-12-13 02:28:47 askMRP,e9f2zs,How Screwed am I? How to escape from hell?,"Throwaway for reasons. We've been married for 5 years. We have a kid. Wife is stay at home. I barely make enough to pay for the expensive rented apartment and the day to day stuff. Wife is constantly disrespecting and bullying me in front of the kid. This has been going on for years. I can't afford a lawyer or the alimony or be able to keep paying for this expensive apartment for the wife if I have to move and she keeps the apartment. For a while I've been putting up with the verbal abuse and I planned to move to a cheaper city so I could save a bit on the side and prepare for any fallout but wife doesn't want to move. Her reason, that she can't live alone with me as I'm a terrible person and she needs to stay close to her parents. Thats costing me an extra $600 in rent which I've been paying for nearly 2 years. @@ -77038,7 +77038,7 @@ When I lock the office door so I can work in peace she comes and kicks or punche I'm immigrant. She brought me here and constantly threatens to throw me out of the country. -What should I do? I'm in the US.",,8,kundata,1576106499.0 +What should I do? I'm in the US.",,8,kundata,2019-12-11 23:21:39 askMRP,e9977t,LTR dreads herself about my sexual past,"6’ at 195; back squat 325x3x3 12/9/19. Bjj blue belt (currently practicing), judo black belt, dabbled in muay thai and jkd for about a year each. Read NMMNG, SGM, Models, book of pook, way of the superior man, 48 laws of power, TRM. @@ -77055,7 +77055,7 @@ It seems like the relationship is coming to a close if she can’t come to terms I want a family at some point and I think she would be great as a partner and mother as our values align on most things. I’d appreciate any insight bc I can’t tell if I am lacking somewhere or there is a hole in my frame when dealing w this. I feel bad about the dread she’s dealing with?? Can I help her? Is her dreading herself a bad thing ? -EDIT: Being able to talk through this and get an outside perspective from older and more experienced men has given me much insight. Thank you all and I appreciate the time you’ve taken to help me with this.",,20,Whotheprize,1576081394.0 +EDIT: Being able to talk through this and get an outside perspective from older and more experienced men has given me much insight. Thank you all and I appreciate the time you’ve taken to help me with this.",,20,Whotheprize,2019-12-11 16:23:14 askMRP,e8wfqv,Filing for divorce and the no contact rule,"My wife decided she wanted space and moved out (with her two kids) a little over two months ago. It was pretty rough emotionally but I'm making progress. We were still occasionally hanging out and hooking up until two weeks ago when she called it off 'permanently' in a BPD rage. (A message from a young/pretty female employee came in on my phone late at night and she saw it.) She demanded to see it and I refused out of principle. A week ago she sent me another ""we're over, file the papers"" nastygram because she found out I took a female friend dancing. I'll admit that I thought it was doing well that this kind of hit me hard. I broke down and sent her a love letter(email) this weekend and said I'm walking about, but if she ever wants to get together she should reach out. I plan to go no contact and never reach out to her again. If she wants me back she'll have to do the work and pursuing. @@ -77064,7 +77064,7 @@ I have a divorce lawyer retained and all the paperwork has been completed. I've The question I have is, should I file the divorce papers? -One concern is that divorce proceedings are very public in our state and we haven't told many friends, family, or my employees about it yet.",,0,[deleted],1576010796.0 +One concern is that divorce proceedings are very public in our state and we haven't told many friends, family, or my employees about it yet.",,0,[deleted],2019-12-10 20:46:36 askMRP,e8ey96,Caught STD. What to tell wife?,"Throwaway account, but lurked here for some time. You guys are the only community whose opinion I trust to ask this. 44M, married to 43F, two kids (8f, 10f) @@ -77101,8 +77101,8 @@ Fourth, I told my wife: that I'd paid for a blowjob and contracted herpes as a r Did I need to tell her? Perhaps not. The fact that it was HSV1 *could* conceivably have meant that I gave it to myself, or she to me, despite her not giving me a blowjob for nearly a year. However, on top of my feelings of guilt, I would have felt like an utterly cowardly shit if I had kept quiet and passed the STD to her, and she happened to be one of the small % that had particularly bad symptoms. I don't want to be that kind of man. As it is, she now knows there is a risk of transmission but has already instigated sex twice in the past week (which I realize may be more from lack of security than from genuine desire, and which most counselors would say is a bad idea right now, but whatever...) -So, where do we go from here? I'm still trying to work that out. My relationship with my wife has obviously changed, though I don't think it's *entirely* for the worse. MRP is indeed RP on hard mode; I just lost a life, but haven't quite figured out where the respawn point is.",,33,RecoveringOxfordBlue,1575920953.0 -askMRP,e8h8xv,Am i an idiot WTF is the sidebar I'm on mobile only,Fucking lead a dumbass to the sidebar on mobile.,,0,-TheFalcon-,1575930855.0 +So, where do we go from here? I'm still trying to work that out. My relationship with my wife has obviously changed, though I don't think it's *entirely* for the worse. MRP is indeed RP on hard mode; I just lost a life, but haven't quite figured out where the respawn point is.",,33,RecoveringOxfordBlue,2019-12-09 19:49:13 +askMRP,e8h8xv,Am i an idiot WTF is the sidebar I'm on mobile only,Fucking lead a dumbass to the sidebar on mobile.,,0,-TheFalcon-,2019-12-09 22:34:15 askMRP,e7uwur,Time and attention my only ammo,"Reference post: https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/cwm38o/comment/eyh1nrq?context=3 I believe it’s pretty fucking simple. Wife isn’t attracted. As you can see from a previous post it hasn’t always been this way since dropping the Red Pill. I hit the six month plateau and made the big mistake of making this about her and not me. And it came crashing down big time. Since then working hard with my frame and doing everything for me. Continue on my path of awesomeness and increase my SMV. Gaming women including a 24 HB 7-8. Not fucking them just increase abundance. Nothing I mean nothing changes with the wife. @@ -77113,7 +77113,7 @@ I’ve seen some effectiveness of removing my attention and time. In fact I keep My plan. Remove attention and time. Keep doing my hobbies, gym and friends and wait. What else can I do? -TLDR: Went from 6mo of great red pill gains to at the 9 mo mark seriously stumped on removing time and attention or continue with the same red pill/ alpha qualities that got me to where I then crashed. I believe just need to be doing me and not give one fuck if she ever comes around. Puke over.",,18,Wagzdaddy,1575818634.0 +TLDR: Went from 6mo of great red pill gains to at the 9 mo mark seriously stumped on removing time and attention or continue with the same red pill/ alpha qualities that got me to where I then crashed. I believe just need to be doing me and not give one fuck if she ever comes around. Puke over.",,18,Wagzdaddy,2019-12-08 15:23:54 askMRP,e866pk,"Resenting some physical characteristics in a plate before the upgrade, when to pull the trigger?","Obligatory stats: 29 5'6"" 133 BF16% Navy @@ -77124,7 +77124,7 @@ You married guys sometimes post about how you start appreciate your wives in ama I'm talking about how fair her skin, voice tone, big her butt/boobs, or hair type. But I usually develop oneities, so I don't know better than to accept everything coming from her after 3-6 months. I know life is not meant to be perfect, but I'm sure there is a better way to look at life and choose what to give my fucks about. So far, I can't be yet assertive on my decision to compromise on specific qualities so I enjoy other qualities that please me. If my girl is submissive, feminine and fit and I get horny thinking of her tight pussy, will giving a fuck about her hair curls type get in the way of my happiness? -How to calibrate my bar to accept a girl as she is to join my ride?",,0,mrpmonk,1575872691.0 +How to calibrate my bar to accept a girl as she is to join my ride?",,0,mrpmonk,2019-12-09 06:24:51 askMRP,e7mi07,Wife asking for more kids,"Just had a question here, My wife keeps saying she wants another baby. I have two kids now (4 year old boy and 2 year old girl). @@ -77137,7 +77137,7 @@ I guess I could just say “No more kids, now stop asking me” but I don’t wa Am I doing anything that sounds wrong? Are there better ways to handle this? -Thanks for the help",,6,FiendishFisherCat,1575765072.0 +Thanks for the help",,6,FiendishFisherCat,2019-12-08 00:31:12 askMRP,e781nz,"""You had better do X or else I'll do Y""","Back in the day I was arrested for some petty theft. (I was an idiot 21 year old) I never have bothered to tell my wife what I stole as it is not important anymore. (Electronics, knives and other petty things.) @@ -77158,8 +77158,8 @@ I kept everything light hearted with some C&F The whe thing ended abruptly when one of my kids broke a glass ornament. -What could I have done differently? Or did I handle it pretty decently?",,5,Stallion--Duck,1575683223.0 -askMRP,e74n7c,Menopause and the red pill,"I'm 58, L8TR is post menopausal. Any of the older guys here have experience with how the red pill works in those relationships",,9,learning0007,1575666766.0 +What could I have done differently? Or did I handle it pretty decently?",,5,Stallion--Duck,2019-12-07 01:47:03 +askMRP,e74n7c,Menopause and the red pill,"I'm 58, L8TR is post menopausal. Any of the older guys here have experience with how the red pill works in those relationships",,9,learning0007,2019-12-06 21:12:46 askMRP,e71655,Repost from marriedredpill: Wife doesn't seem to love me anymore. We have a 1yo child. Can it be repaired? Is it even worth repairing at this point?,"Following the suggestion of another redditor, who's advice I greatly appreciated, I'm reposting my desperate plea on this sub. So here's another ""woe is me"" sob story about a broken man. I'm sure some of the responses will be brutal, but here we go. @@ -77173,7 +77173,7 @@ Now this is where things get bad.... Once my wife got pregnant, we stopped having sex completely. In fact, no sexual activity at all. Some of this is explained by the fact that my wife is from Asia, and she's quite traditional in some ways. She's also a prude, so that is factored in as well. After the baby was born, my wife had some physical complications which required a few immediate medical procedures. It was very concerning but successful in the end. That left us a little worried and we decided to hold off on sex for a little while just to ease our minds. As the months passed and we were busy taking care of the baby, my wife told me that she had lost all physical desires. She didn't want sex, didn't want to kiss, hug, or hold hands. She asked if this was okay with me, and I said I can wait. I didn't want to make her feel guilty, even though she was causing this rift. We finally had sex after over a year and a half from the start of her pregnancy. Needless to say, it was less than stellar and she was relieved for it to be over. Since then, it's been zero activity or interest, and it's increasingly feeling like a loveless relationship. She doesn't want to initiate any physical contact with me. If I try to kiss her, she squirms away or gives me a dry peck. She's even asked me many times if we should just be friends (remember, she's Asian and very open and blunt with her thoughts; that doesn't make it right though). Nowadays, all she says to me are points of dictation and criticism. She never compliments me, no warmth or kindness to speak of. I am an eternally flawed man in her eyes, and my words cannot be given serious consideration by her. We're at the point where she will not respect me as a person, and I don't know how to fix that. And it's not like there's something exceptionally wrong with me. I still look young for my mid 30s, stay in shape, don't drink or smoke, no real vices to speak of, straight arrow, I have a decent job that pays the bills and puts food on the table, no debt, and I'm an overall nice person that's easy to get along with. Even my wife's friends say I'm a catch (and it annoys her to hear it). In the end, it just makes this whole thing all the more frustrating. -So somebody please help out this fool. Is it her fault for treating me like shit? Am I an idiot for ending up with a browbeating shrew of a wife? Should I make it work? Should I make her make it work? Should I just fucking escape? I don't know....",,12,redpillthrowaway2115,1575650729.0 +So somebody please help out this fool. Is it her fault for treating me like shit? Am I an idiot for ending up with a browbeating shrew of a wife? Should I make it work? Should I make her make it work? Should I just fucking escape? I don't know....",,12,redpillthrowaway2115,2019-12-06 16:45:29 askMRP,e6ig19,"""You don't show me off enough online""","Things have been crazy busy lately. This past week it's gone alot like this- Get home from work, tidy the house (make the bed, load the dishwasher, etc.) Wrestle with my two boys, make dinner (if wife doesn't beat me to it), read to the kids before bed etc. Yesterday was no different. My first officer works part time so a few nights she gets home after me. Most weekdays, it's almost like we just greet in passing. She is pregnant and and has first trimester tiredness so her mood is always just blah. @@ -77182,7 +77182,7 @@ I'll make attempts to be fun or affectionate and get brushed off or lose to her I started meeting cold and distant with cold and distant in return. Last night before bed, she apologized for the lack of quality time and hit me with ""do you still love me?"" I reply, ""yes ofcourse, *kiss on the forehead followed by ""only when you're not a brat""* then came hints that I don't post about her enough on social media and nobody even knows what she looks like blah blah blah. -These moments happen about once or twice a month. Am I missing something? I mostly responded with intrigued gestures and no words.",,4,Stallion--Duck,1575558559.0 +These moments happen about once or twice a month. Am I missing something? I mostly responded with intrigued gestures and no words.",,4,Stallion--Duck,2019-12-05 15:09:19 askMRP,e64x1y,Thanks for the wake up call,"27m 5'9"" 220lbs 30%BF 5x5 lifts Sorry couldnt recall the other required stats. First off my punctuation sucks so I'm not gonna go back and fix those as long as my words are used properly I think the message will get across fine. @@ -77195,8 +77195,8 @@ I wish I would have found you guys sooner or else I'd still be married. I cant c As of lately when my wife does message me about things regarding the divorce or our kids I am more honest and speak my mind. Considering shes already screwing another guy and is jobless she asked me to take the kids overnight since I'm still at home so it could be more stable so I said fine. But also in relation to her being jobless she also asked if I could print her papers out needed for this job and maybe i should have to help her out being my kids mom but i had to be honest and say I'm sorry I cant do that anymore any extra help im giving you is just making me a doormat. She didnt take it too kindly but I said its the truth . shes gone through many jobs and I would always print things scan them and fax them so she thought this time would be no different. Also she got very heated with me when i typed a formal document to have her sign saying she agrees to let me take the kids in so I could have it in writing and she started saying I hate you and I'm trying to take the kids away and blew up and again just said im sorry you hate me I cant change or fix how you feel but I dont have hate for you and wish you well and ended the conversation. I hope this kind of honesty is the at least the direction i need to be in? -It still sucks all in all but through this experience I am learning I am in control of my own choices and not everyone may like them but I cant run back and cowar my choices. I'll start trying to get the other books as well and do some more self discovery. Thanks",,21,Probles08,1575489816.0 -askMRP,e65dwu,Her grooming,New here. Can you help me understand. My SO is not big on grooming her nether regions. She’s never shaved completely or waxed but does have a bikini trimmer she uses whenever she gets around to it. It just isn’t a priority to her even when she knows I don’t care for hairy thighs. Anyone have experience getting your SO to do something or does it just happen naturally when your SMV is high enough?,,5,Brave-Pirate,1575491602.0 +It still sucks all in all but through this experience I am learning I am in control of my own choices and not everyone may like them but I cant run back and cowar my choices. I'll start trying to get the other books as well and do some more self discovery. Thanks",,21,Probles08,2019-12-04 20:03:36 +askMRP,e65dwu,Her grooming,New here. Can you help me understand. My SO is not big on grooming her nether regions. She’s never shaved completely or waxed but does have a bikini trimmer she uses whenever she gets around to it. It just isn’t a priority to her even when she knows I don’t care for hairy thighs. Anyone have experience getting your SO to do something or does it just happen naturally when your SMV is high enough?,,5,Brave-Pirate,2019-12-04 20:33:22 askMRP,e5hl1w,Need Beta Advice,"My old ass goes to bed around 8pm unless it is a weekend and I am stimmed outta my mind with BP at 150/120. Fuck yeah. Last night one of my bros calls me and tells me that he just found out an old friend of our is currently transitioning from Male to Female. @@ -77213,7 +77213,7 @@ This morning I am unable to workout in the AM. Have a client meeting on the othe Get home this morning after her workout and unloads on me for her shitty sleep, shitty workout and the fact I denied her sex. I just looked at her, sipped my coffee and said ""I see."" -So, my question is - is it still gay to fuck a tranny one he goes post-op, or is that basically Male on Female sex and thus I am not gay anymore?",,0,red-sfpplus,1575382034.0 +So, my question is - is it still gay to fuck a tranny one he goes post-op, or is that basically Male on Female sex and thus I am not gay anymore?",,0,red-sfpplus,2019-12-03 14:07:14 askMRP,e4ki42,Help dealing with withdrawn checked-out and angry wife,"I got temp banned with a Rule 9 violation last week in OYS because I was whining about my wife moving back to the guest room again. I deserved it. I need help though. I feel like I'm not making progress here and looking for some insight. The pattern that keeps repeating is that I take steps to lead my own life and my family and she feels ""disrespected"" that I'm not consulting her on every decision anymore. Then at some point I do something at I want or say no to her about something, and that triggers her victim mentality, she gets angry, lashes out, and moves to guest room. We become roommates at that point and basically she goes to ""her room"" after dinner, I get the kids to bed and we basically avoid each other the rest of the night. If I try to approach her room she'll yell at me to leave claiming that it's her space. @@ -77226,7 +77226,7 @@ The last couple cycles of this I try to provide comfort and end up caving to som Please help me see what I'm doing wrong and how I can break out of this loop. -Background: Married 10.5 years, 2 kids (7 and 3). Beta provider for all of our relationship until I had a crisis leading up to our 10 year anniversary and realized that I'm not getting what I want out of my relationship while her entitlement was soaring. Went rambo at the beginning, then retreated for a bit and things were better for a short time. Started lifting and exercising and am in best shape now since married. Took steps to build my own life outside of her -- bought a 2nd car so we each have independence, got an office so I'm out of the house every day, try to go to events and stuff after work when possible, pushing more of the kids/household duties on to her. My social life is lacking because I'm always working when not doing stuff with the kids/family.",,23,MightBeNiceGuy,1575221600.0 +Background: Married 10.5 years, 2 kids (7 and 3). Beta provider for all of our relationship until I had a crisis leading up to our 10 year anniversary and realized that I'm not getting what I want out of my relationship while her entitlement was soaring. Went rambo at the beginning, then retreated for a bit and things were better for a short time. Started lifting and exercising and am in best shape now since married. Took steps to build my own life outside of her -- bought a 2nd car so we each have independence, got an office so I'm out of the house every day, try to go to events and stuff after work when possible, pushing more of the kids/household duties on to her. My social life is lacking because I'm always working when not doing stuff with the kids/family.",,23,MightBeNiceGuy,2019-12-01 17:33:20 askMRP,e4tqm2,Asking for alpha advice,"Hey guys I know this is the place to hear it how it is from some alphas and I can deal with it but my situation is my wife who i have 2 kids with left me for another guy and I know shes full of shit on her excuses for leaving but basically its that she fell out of love with me and even though I was a guy who made all the changes to be better she couldnt bring herself to still love me. So me I'm a guy who likes to weight lift dabbles in martial arts and is a handy man so I'm not some pushover physically but emotionally I can be only to please. @@ -77235,7 +77235,7 @@ Well this guy is like the tattoo bad boy cholo type guy that isnt as muscular as And for the recore my size is avg about 5.5 so it worked for her before cause once it was up it never went back down . -So yeah what say you guys?",,0,Probles08,1575261386.0 +So yeah what say you guys?",,0,Probles08,2019-12-02 04:36:26 askMRP,e2yc72,Traveling GF.,"What's up guys. I feel like I will get slandered for this but I want to hear some real advice cause I feel this is the only place I can ask and get real advice that will get my teeth kicked in and stop acting like a beta. My girlfriend of 4 months went to the US for a week on Monday. She comes back next Monday. @@ -77248,7 +77248,7 @@ I've become too anxious of this because I don't wanna get stabbed in the back bu Any advice? Any help? -Thanks in advance.",,8,AttractiveMofo,1574949433.0 +Thanks in advance.",,8,AttractiveMofo,2019-11-28 13:57:13 askMRP,e2oxbw,I (M31) cheated on unhappy wife (F30)," I used to love my wife or 6 years very much. She was my dream girl. But once we got married she changed. She became more serious, cared about dollars and cents, wants to have spreadsheets, savings 401k all the serious boring stuff. @@ -77261,7 +77261,7 @@ We also lived in a dead bedroom. I was sick of watching porn. It wore me down. It destroyed my self esteem, A few months back I went out with my buddies and a girl started chatting me up, We exchanges numbers. We started texting and eventually met up for drinks, It felt so good to have a woman give me attention and show me that I am desirable. We had sex. After that I kept going out and was surprised at being successful with women. -Needless to say I have been seeing multiple women over the past few months. I am now not in love with my wife. I know what it feels like to be desired and respected. I don’t want to go back to my old marriage. She knows something is up and all I can do is avoid her. I don’t even feel bad. How do I get out?",,8,cowboy344,1574897549.0 +Needless to say I have been seeing multiple women over the past few months. I am now not in love with my wife. I know what it feels like to be desired and respected. I don’t want to go back to my old marriage. She knows something is up and all I can do is avoid her. I don’t even feel bad. How do I get out?",,8,cowboy344,2019-11-27 23:32:29 askMRP,e2g1uz,Weekly Workout Routine,"Stats: 6'4 235 (about 20% body fat) @@ -77302,26 +77302,26 @@ I've made excellent physical gains over the past 2 months. I'm stronger than I'v **Question:** -While I have lost a good amount of weight, about 30 pounds in the last 3 months I have noticed my cardio is still pretty bad. I get winded from a light jog or running up a few flights of stairs. I do have a spin bike (Pelaton equivalent made by Nordic track) I can use to start building cardio. Would it be wise for me to start adding a 30-45 minute spin on my off days? If not, is there another excise I could add?",,13,redirectedfs,1574861563.0 +While I have lost a good amount of weight, about 30 pounds in the last 3 months I have noticed my cardio is still pretty bad. I get winded from a light jog or running up a few flights of stairs. I do have a spin bike (Pelaton equivalent made by Nordic track) I can use to start building cardio. Would it be wise for me to start adding a 30-45 minute spin on my off days? If not, is there another excise I could add?",,13,redirectedfs,2019-11-27 13:32:43 askMRP,e2bg4u,"Want to move back to my parents house with my wife, stuck due to mother and wife conflict","Long story short. I married 3 years ago and my wife and my mom doesn't go well with each other. They both are manipulative and conspire me against each other. My mother doesn't keep well, so is my father, they are in their 70's. My father is kinda passive and suffered from depression and anxiety (and other age related diseases) since I was a child, so my mother took care of all of us. Just after my marriage, my wife and my mother had lot of struggle, fights, verbal spats and what not, so I decided to move out. I rented a house in the same city, 30 minutes far from them. Since then both my wife and my mother started respecting me, taking care of me, luring me towards them. Now the thing is that, I am thinking of moving back with my wife to my parents house, because my parents are ill and they need some extra care. But again both my wife and my mother are creating issues, bringing up the past and all, and continuously arguing/fighting with me over the same. I also have one other sibling, a younger brother, he is also suffering from mental illness. He lives with my parents. On the other hand, my wife also have panic & anxiety attacks and she is also suffering from OCD. All in all I am stuck with completely dysfunctional people. -About Me: I am 6 feet, good looking, gymming from past 2 years, I eat clean. I earn decent salary, have a good set of friends, a bit emotional though, still learning more about redpill.",,11,[deleted],1574833481.0 +About Me: I am 6 feet, good looking, gymming from past 2 years, I eat clean. I earn decent salary, have a good set of friends, a bit emotional though, still learning more about redpill.",,11,[deleted],2019-11-27 05:44:41 askMRP,e23bpx,"Is this a ""thing"" for body recomp?","I just changed from cut to bulk and while researching I saw one suggestion that you eat for bulk on lift days but eat for cut on rest days. That doesn't seem to make sense unless you lift at least 5 days a week but wondering if anyone has tried it. My bulk plan FWIW is to start with 2250 calories 40/30/30 carb/protein/fat. See where I am at in a month and then adjust up or down. Current stats 152lbs 18%BF MRP since August so been lifting and cutting since then (down from 165ish 28%BF. ) So if anyone has advice on this plan as well I will gladly take it. -Lifts 160 deadlift and squat 5x5, overhead press 80lb 5x5 and 135 5x5 bench. So pretty weak.",,8,Vegasman20002,1574797719.0 +Lifts 160 deadlift and squat 5x5, overhead press 80lb 5x5 and 135 5x5 bench. So pretty weak.",,8,Vegasman20002,2019-11-26 19:48:39 askMRP,e1j5sq,Am I irredeemable?,"I was married to my wife for 25 years. We met at college. We were so in love. Our union was pleasant for the most part. One day, on a whim she expressed a desire to seperate. I made efforts to convince her to attend counselling. She wouldn't listen. I had to give in. We have a son who is in his mid 20s. There aren't very many people i can rely on. I've lost my family. I could've never imagined I'd be deserted by the woman I swore to spend my life with. It's unimaginable. I still am struggling to come to terms with reality. It's a pain unlike any other. My parents are old. They too are shock beyond words with this development. We've been lamenting our fate. Seperation has brought ignominy to me. People suspect I maltreated her. The truth is that there wasn't a day when I ill- treated her. I'm lonely and hopeless. -I meet my son infrequently because he's busy in his life. Friends refuse to spend time with me because I'm unable to become the effervescent self I once was. Every night I lay on my bed,stare at the ceiling and wonder if death would be easier for me. But then it occurs to me that my parents need me. I haven't smiled for months now. I've become skeletal.",,27,Mensa51,1574702315.0 +I meet my son infrequently because he's busy in his life. Friends refuse to spend time with me because I'm unable to become the effervescent self I once was. Every night I lay on my bed,stare at the ceiling and wonder if death would be easier for me. But then it occurs to me that my parents need me. I haven't smiled for months now. I've become skeletal.",,27,Mensa51,2019-11-25 17:18:35 askMRP,dzyqnj,Not looking butt hurt when ignoring wife?,"Last night, my wife got some bad news that one of her friends was diagnosed with terminal cancer. There was a lot of consoling and comforting her and she went to bed fine. This morning, she was non-stop bitching at the kids and me. No problem. I didn’t let it affect me, STFU and ignored her before leaving for work and ignored her messages all day. @@ -77332,7 +77332,7 @@ I laughed it off and sarcastically agreed. There were a few other comments like My question is how not to look butt hurt when ignoring her shitty behaviour? I kept playing with the kids for the rest of the evening, just ignoring her and shutting up. -Thanks in advance.",,24,sash_northpointe,1574415251.0 +Thanks in advance.",,24,sash_northpointe,2019-11-22 09:34:11 askMRP,dzrm5x,So this just happened...,"Things were finally starting to turn around. Family running smooth, I am doing well in the gym, wife has almost got the toddler weaned and hormones balanced which means aunt flow came back. 3 months later, in fact a week ago we went out for some drinks, nachos and cigars. Got home, had the indoor Olympics before sleep. She missed her monthly and the test came back positive today. @@ -77349,13 +77349,13 @@ I feel guilty for the regret. I don't even know if my marriage can take another sexless, stressful hiatus so soon. -But, I still have to own my shit.",,18,DeanMaverick13,1574377020.0 +But, I still have to own my shit.",,18,DeanMaverick13,2019-11-21 22:57:00 askMRP,dz7w8j,When A Request Becomes A Shit Test,"I noticed that my wife asks me for things a lot more than I ask her for things or favors. My question is at what point is what appears to be a reasonable request actually a shit test? -Is this covered in a book in the side bar?",,17,jes484,1574282161.0 -askMRP,dy29jg,Loose Skin from weight loss?,Has anyone here dealt with this? I have seen a lot of posts about dropping a ton of weight but nothing really addressing the skin. I’m approaching 50 pounds down and nothing stomach skin is pretty loose. I have about 30 left to drop and know it will be bad then. Has this affected SMV for anyone? How about at the beach? Just curious if anyone has any experience in this area.,,16,prematureredpill,1574078365.0 -askMRP,dxoyue,Advice on creating a submissive wife in the bedroom,"Swallowed pill almost 2 years ago and it has been going well for the last six months. Sex about once a week and I am fine with that as we are super busy during the week with kids sports and activities (3 boys). Genuine desire to fuck me has returned and she now has orgasms from PIV sex which had never happened in all 15 years of our marriage. I have been working on getting her to be more submissive in the bedroom. Doing things like light spanking, grab and pulling her hair, fucking her face when she gjves me a bj, holding her down a bit when fucking her hard. I have also tied her up and blindfolded her as a natural progression. This is where I fuck up I think. I have invested in some toys (under bed restraints, blindfold,flogger, paddle, vibrator). It seems to really turn her on in the beginning but then she loses interest and wants untied or gets scared that I will do something to her she won’t like. I just can’t seem to get her to fully submit. She loved being blindfolded and restrained but I cant seem to keep that excitement going once she is in place. Any tips or strategies I should try to build up the anticipation and fantasy in her mind? To build up her trust?",,24,buckeyeboy1977,1574009623.0 -askMRP,dxwv6f,Caught sexting what next,"Married and it's been great but I fucked up and started talking to a swingers wife who was pulling me in. Like a bitch I gave into temptation and started sexting her. My wife read it and confronted me this morning. Shes being distant and talking about how no guys can be trusted and how I dont love her. I really fucked up the trust and respect in our relationship and I need to know the RP way to try to damage control. I dont want to get into her frame, but I dont know if saying sorry and telling her I do love her and saying it was a mistake and just ow ing it would be best. Any advice?",,4,kendallb183,1574044322.0 +Is this covered in a book in the side bar?",,17,jes484,2019-11-20 20:36:01 +askMRP,dy29jg,Loose Skin from weight loss?,Has anyone here dealt with this? I have seen a lot of posts about dropping a ton of weight but nothing really addressing the skin. I’m approaching 50 pounds down and nothing stomach skin is pretty loose. I have about 30 left to drop and know it will be bad then. Has this affected SMV for anyone? How about at the beach? Just curious if anyone has any experience in this area.,,16,prematureredpill,2019-11-18 11:59:25 +askMRP,dxoyue,Advice on creating a submissive wife in the bedroom,"Swallowed pill almost 2 years ago and it has been going well for the last six months. Sex about once a week and I am fine with that as we are super busy during the week with kids sports and activities (3 boys). Genuine desire to fuck me has returned and she now has orgasms from PIV sex which had never happened in all 15 years of our marriage. I have been working on getting her to be more submissive in the bedroom. Doing things like light spanking, grab and pulling her hair, fucking her face when she gjves me a bj, holding her down a bit when fucking her hard. I have also tied her up and blindfolded her as a natural progression. This is where I fuck up I think. I have invested in some toys (under bed restraints, blindfold,flogger, paddle, vibrator). It seems to really turn her on in the beginning but then she loses interest and wants untied or gets scared that I will do something to her she won’t like. I just can’t seem to get her to fully submit. She loved being blindfolded and restrained but I cant seem to keep that excitement going once she is in place. Any tips or strategies I should try to build up the anticipation and fantasy in her mind? To build up her trust?",,24,buckeyeboy1977,2019-11-17 16:53:43 +askMRP,dxwv6f,Caught sexting what next,"Married and it's been great but I fucked up and started talking to a swingers wife who was pulling me in. Like a bitch I gave into temptation and started sexting her. My wife read it and confronted me this morning. Shes being distant and talking about how no guys can be trusted and how I dont love her. I really fucked up the trust and respect in our relationship and I need to know the RP way to try to damage control. I dont want to get into her frame, but I dont know if saying sorry and telling her I do love her and saying it was a mistake and just ow ing it would be best. Any advice?",,4,kendallb183,2019-11-18 02:32:02 askMRP,dw8313,A war within myself,"Married 10 years. Two young children; 6 and 8 boys. @@ -77393,7 +77393,7 @@ I did ask her if she gets tired of maintenance sex. She was clueless to what I Also, I have not masturbated in months. -Guys, I am in a deep funk and know I am fucking up myself but cannot get my head around this. I am constantly flirting with other women, and mildly in front of wife. I get so many smiles now and they make my day. I enjoy random conversations with other women but never cross the line.",,13,1kdawg1,1573729783.0 +Guys, I am in a deep funk and know I am fucking up myself but cannot get my head around this. I am constantly flirting with other women, and mildly in front of wife. I get so many smiles now and they make my day. I enjoy random conversations with other women but never cross the line.",,13,1kdawg1,2019-11-14 11:09:43 askMRP,dual26,A kick in the ass to get going?!,"Long time (too long) lurking MRP, Red Pill, Marriedredpill, books, audiobooks etc.., however reading or listening without doing, not owning my shit. I need to get a kick to get into action. Reading all of the sidebars in a consuming way but not practicing, no applying is pointless. @@ -77406,7 +77406,7 @@ many of it is not where I want it to be. Some is (actual some is only the income Still I do not own my shit - wish I can so that change can take place. -Vomit end. Thanks",,0,miguel45,1573387083.0 +Vomit end. Thanks",,0,miguel45,2019-11-10 11:58:03 askMRP,dtmlzn,Shitty Comfort Test?,"Been getting a lot of ‘I feel like you don’t ever say I love you anymore’ and related statements from wife... ‘Do you love me more than anything?’ @@ -77446,7 +77446,7 @@ Bench 230 Press 155 Weighted Chins 65 (done 90x3) -Read all the big parts of the sidebar, working through Bang and Day Bang now.",,12,Reddreng,1573250500.0 +Read all the big parts of the sidebar, working through Bang and Day Bang now.",,12,Reddreng,2019-11-08 22:01:40 askMRP,dt763d,Having issues dealing with anger.,"27 yrs old, 5’ 7”, 145lbs, BF% 17.25, BMI 22.7, Married 4 years, No kids Lifts: @@ -77469,7 +77469,7 @@ Fast forward another year and I'm back here, still up to my old tricks. Today, a I know most of you are not quite in the same situation as I am, but I am sure that some of you must get mad or angry for whatever reason. I don't know what to do about my behavior and I am mentally exhausted. I suppose I am at that point where I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. -Does anyone have any advice on anger management?",,12,[deleted],1573172858.0 +Does anyone have any advice on anger management?",,12,[deleted],2019-11-08 00:27:38 askMRP,drz3jw,What is your deepest purpose? Finding it hard to understand what this could be.,"Current OYS for reference... [https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/drwc5r/own\_your\_shit\_weekly\_november\_05\_2019/f6lhq9t?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/drwc5r/own_your_shit_weekly_november_05_2019/f6lhq9t?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x) Ive read through TWOTSM and found it hard to get my mind around everything he was saying in this book. I've started reading it again and got thinking more about what he's saying about ""deepest purpose"". @@ -77482,7 +77482,7 @@ These are all long term goals, or ""my mission"" in life. But are they a deepest &#x200B; -I wanted to see what you guys thought about this and if you have a deepest purpose in life that's actually different from your mission?",,17,mrbadassmotherfucker,1572960308.0 +I wanted to see what you guys thought about this and if you have a deepest purpose in life that's actually different from your mission?",,17,mrbadassmotherfucker,2019-11-05 13:25:08 askMRP,drj5od,My Lack of Ambition: Can I make this attractive?,"Made account special for posting here. Late 30s. Two step kids. T-levels normal. I've been practicing RP for many years. Sucked at it for most. Posted a few times and got righteously massacred. Finally getting my shit straight. Frame is up and running but not perfect. Body looking better but not mind-blowing. @@ -77512,7 +77512,7 @@ Of course, she is no better than me, and not a very motivated SAHM, and just get I'm pretty sure she resents the traditional direction I took the family in, even though it's inline with our rational side (hers being ephemeral I know.) It's been SO good for the kids. I'm very proud of how they are turning out. Except when she has random anger explosions at them, and I see the looks on their faces like they want to kill her. I think she fantasizes about breaking the family up, throwing the kids to the wind, so she can monkey branch to a guy with more resources so she can have the dream life. -Lately I've noticed she's upped the crazy in what looks like an attempt to make me crack and give her an excuse to say she was once again abused or some shit.",,5,catbundle,1572881410.0 +Lately I've noticed she's upped the crazy in what looks like an attempt to make me crack and give her an excuse to say she was once again abused or some shit.",,5,catbundle,2019-11-04 15:30:10 askMRP,dratda,Help me understand the compulsive cooking and cleaning...,"(40 years old, married 14 years, 4 kids) My wife, I think, really likes to cook and clean (don't ask me, I don't fucking get it) - I've asked for her the prepare less labor-intensive meals and I volunteered to hire a housecleaner (we do pretty well, I certainly can afford it) - and she gets really fuck-off defensive (""i'll work harder, I'll spend more time cleaning!""). She won't even let the kids wash/dry/iron their own clothes. @@ -77535,7 +77535,7 @@ Sunday (today), go to church, get home, take all of the Halloween decor down, va The second she gets home, she starts sweeping the porch, and then she starts fussing that the bathrooms aren't clean and immediately demands the whole family start scrubbing toilets. -I don't fucking get it, y'all. It feels like, no matter what, she throws herself into cooking and cleaning - and every single moment at home must be spent doing it. Even if the house is immaculate, she'll invent shit. Help me understand - what is driving this?",,16,RaymondCortazar,1572833289.0 +I don't fucking get it, y'all. It feels like, no matter what, she throws herself into cooking and cleaning - and every single moment at home must be spent doing it. Even if the house is immaculate, she'll invent shit. Help me understand - what is driving this?",,16,RaymondCortazar,2019-11-04 02:08:09 askMRP,dqvd9r,Took my girl of 6 years on a date. Ended with her slamming the door in my face. I'm trying to soft next for at least a day. She is sitting in front of my house now.,"My girl is feeling down. Pick her up. Bring her to Starbucks. Take her out on a drive in the beautiful fall weather. Ride lasts for about two and 1/2 hours. Take her back to my place. Make a homemade recipe of beef pho. Asian soup dish. Basically cooked homemade for us. We are both doing a low-carb diet. And sticking to my morals I refuse to buy her anything that would break the diet. I am not going to enable her to eat whatever she wants. She wants to go to get donuts. I say I'm not going to buy them and she has to get up and get ready before I will if she wants me to take her. After a bit of that back and forth I hint at sex. She says you'll get what you want if I get what I want. I'm not trying to trade sex. we keep bantering about me taking her for donuts. She gets all pissy and acts like a child. Says she wants to leave. I put my next in action. I say okay emotionless, get up put my stuff on, and we walk out the door she is silent, get into the car she still silent oh, I drive her all the way home, when we get there I open my door and go around the car to meet her and walk her to the door. She gets up and fast walks to the door. I follow her to say good night before leaving. She unlock the door turns around and slams it in my face. I mutter under my breath good night. Get in my car, 30 seconds later she rushes out opens my door and tries to say sorry. I tell her no no slam it again. She gives me a look oh, and I say please close the door after a few times she does. @@ -77554,12 +77554,12 @@ Update 3. she left im going to sleep. i get the oak and rock shit now. thanks fo Last update. Fuck all of you who assume i acted like a little bitch during this shit. it worked. it turned out exactly how i wanted it to. power is in my court. yall need to get off your pillars of my way or the highway. i used a mix of a soft next plus the tree and rock business (thanks for that advice) . got what i wanted from the situation and more. Just cause it works for you dont mean it'll work for everyone. -Not going home meant to her i was gone. it doesnt matter what i was doing it only mattered what she thought.",,8,[deleted],1572752753.0 +Not going home meant to her i was gone. it doesnt matter what i was doing it only mattered what she thought.",,8,[deleted],2019-11-03 03:45:53 askMRP,dqs45x,A woman's goal,"Just scratching the surface of this community but wanted to throw something out there for discussion. So I've been scratching my head about something. It seems like the goal of women in a relationship is to get her guy to commit, which is totally understandable. What I don't understand is if that's the case, why does she resort to desexualizing the relationship when it would be much easier to just give in to a man's needs and provide a constant stream of sex? -Here are my thoughts: From the very moment a woman decides she wants a man to commit, it's her goal to desexualize him to make him worthless on the sexual marketplace. This relieves competition anxiety and ensures that the man forgets how much value he has to other women. If she keeps him low confidence and he gives into her, then she can worry less about him getting picked off by another woman. What they don't realize in doing this, is that they're taking away the very essence of what makes a man attractive, and it eventually ends up backfiring. But then, a woman can put up with a lot to have a sense of security, as can a man.",,11,readypillred,1572736247.0 +Here are my thoughts: From the very moment a woman decides she wants a man to commit, it's her goal to desexualize him to make him worthless on the sexual marketplace. This relieves competition anxiety and ensures that the man forgets how much value he has to other women. If she keeps him low confidence and he gives into her, then she can worry less about him getting picked off by another woman. What they don't realize in doing this, is that they're taking away the very essence of what makes a man attractive, and it eventually ends up backfiring. But then, a woman can put up with a lot to have a sense of security, as can a man.",,11,readypillred,2019-11-02 23:10:47 askMRP,dqsx7w,"Is wife using baby as leverage, or should I just STFU and ride out the storm?","My wife and I are in our 30th. Had our first kid 6 months ago. Been married for a couple of years , and dated for a few years before getting married. Before I met her, I've been intentionally single for a long while. Been actively into pickup, and quite successful at that. Had a fun social life, bunch of friends (male and female), was working full-time, doing grad-school part time. Getting into an LTR was a conscious choice for me. When we were dating, and then got married - little changed in my life-style. Still lots of partying, traveling, hanging out with friends etc. She was a good gf, and a good wife. Sex was good, 2-3 time per week on avg. My sex drive has always been higher than hers though. We had arguments here and there, but I could tell that she didn't want to lose me over some stupid shit, so we were always able to patch things up. We kept our finances more or less separate for as long as it made sense. Signed a prenup before getting married. @@ -77570,8 +77570,8 @@ After the baby was born we had a few months of chaos, but we got though it. Fast My wife is being a good mom. But I feel like she has not been a good wife lately. Sex is not a priority. Couple of quickies per month. I keep it cool when she rejects me and usually just laugh it off - never anything pissy or aggressive. If before she did things for me, now she rarely does anything. And I am talking about small things that a good wife should do: making sure there is food in the house, desire for intimacy, keeping home cozy, etc. Also, a few of our arguments have gone pretty far. ""Divorce"" was thrown around a few times. She also has gotten quite bossy and rude to me and her own parents when we are helping her with the kid and doing something not to her liking. She is very particular about all the things related to baby and gets irritated real fast when somebody isn't doing things her way. I can tell that baby occupies 95% of her mind, and feel like our marriage is becoming a sideshow. -I also understand that women go through a lot during pregnancy, and child birth, and first few months are not a walk in a park either. So I tend to give her a benefit of a doubt hoping that it will all pass, and if I own my shit, STFU, and hold my frame - things will get better. But what if I am in unchartered waters here? What if baby IS a leverage that she didn't have before, and all the shitty tendencies that were controlled by me not giving a fuck in the past, are coming out now? What do you guys think?",,5,mrpillager,1572740067.0 -askMRP,dp04hp,How do things change with a third baby?,Been thinking of growing the family. Wife wants to. Curious if anyone who has 3+ kids has any insights and tips on how things change and with your kids and wife when your family grows to three kids. Current kids are ages 6 and 3.,,19,pursuing_the_ideal,1572400228.0 +I also understand that women go through a lot during pregnancy, and child birth, and first few months are not a walk in a park either. So I tend to give her a benefit of a doubt hoping that it will all pass, and if I own my shit, STFU, and hold my frame - things will get better. But what if I am in unchartered waters here? What if baby IS a leverage that she didn't have before, and all the shitty tendencies that were controlled by me not giving a fuck in the past, are coming out now? What do you guys think?",,5,mrpillager,2019-11-03 00:14:27 +askMRP,dp04hp,How do things change with a third baby?,Been thinking of growing the family. Wife wants to. Curious if anyone who has 3+ kids has any insights and tips on how things change and with your kids and wife when your family grows to three kids. Current kids are ages 6 and 3.,,19,pursuing_the_ideal,2019-10-30 01:50:28 askMRP,dnkya2,Looks like I'm getting divorced,"Looks like I’m getting divorced. The shit hit the fan this morning. My wife suspects cheating, and left the house and hasn't come back (unusual for her). This is a new account so I can't post yet in OYS on MRP. If this isn't appropriate for this, mods let me know and I'll repost in OYS. Mission:  To continue to help the sick the best way I can.  To provide my children with a positive role model.  To be a source of strength, for myself, and for others.        @@ -77626,10 +77626,10 @@ I alternate between feeling fine, and planning what to do next week to move forw I would appreciate any insight you guys have.  I don’t have a lot of people I can talk to about this, which is partly why I’m here. -Edited to add readings.",,33,[deleted],1572129427.0 +Edited to add readings.",,33,[deleted],2019-10-26 22:37:07 askMRP,dniexn,Failed comfort test?,"Wife said she wanted to update resume and leave current job for different career and huge pay cut. I asked if that is what she really wants. Flipped out on me and said I’m not being supportive of her. Thoughts? -I feel like her insecurities are playing into this of not being able to provide for our family.",,6,cheechmo,1572117644.0 +I feel like her insecurities are playing into this of not being able to provide for our family.",,6,cheechmo,2019-10-26 19:20:44 askMRP,dn4q83,Keto / Diet question...,"Not sure if this belongs on MRP but I'm in an LTR and I'm doing this to become a better me and more credible leader (why should my LTR trust / follow a man who doesn't have control over even his own weight?), so I'll give it a shot. For a while, I was sloppy about my eating and it resulted in me ending up 10 kilos overweight and (obviously) I'm not happy with it. To fix it, I've been doing a keto diet for about a month which stabilized my weight (I was slowly gaining before, about 1 kilo per 2 months), then 10 days ago I started a strict keto (basically 1 bowl of tomatoes and cucumbers with oil and salt + 1 - 2 bananas per day) diet that ended yesterday. Here's the problem. I've lost 3 kilos so far (great) but as the diet progressed I got more and more dizzy, to the point where I can't focus on anything, and I did a routine 15 minute (3 km) run yesterday after which I had to lay down as I was on the verge of passing out and it took an hour for that feeling to go away. I'm also getting mild chest pains during the dizziness episodes. I know many people have done strict diets and been fine, so there must be something I'm missing. The only supplement I'm taking is multivitamins. I regulate my water to make sure I am always hydrated. @@ -77638,8 +77638,8 @@ Today the diet ended, and I ate a normal amount of calories with a diverse selec Also, on exercise, I'm only doing routine runs (3 km loop) and a small number of pull ups, both because I don't want to overexert during a strict diet and (sorry lifting bros) both me and my LTR like a light muscular but lean physique. My body responds extremely quickly to weight exercises and any serious lifting will make me look like some kind of wanna-be Arnold Schwarzenegger which is *not* the look I'm going for. -Anyways, anyone have experience with this kind of diet, and anyone have this kind of problem? What do you suggest / recommend in terms of nutrition? Anything that jumps out about how I'm dieting that's a health-problem red flag that I should change? Thanks!",,6,escapethesolarsystem,1572041619.0 -askMRP,dmgm9o,Any experience with therapy?,"Anyone here want to weigh in on going to therapy just for general head check, reset, help with frame? I have an appointment today. I don’t have any chronic mental health issues but would like some expert opinion on building my sense of self.",,3,that2didpass,1571924705.0 +Anyways, anyone have experience with this kind of diet, and anyone have this kind of problem? What do you suggest / recommend in terms of nutrition? Anything that jumps out about how I'm dieting that's a health-problem red flag that I should change? Thanks!",,6,escapethesolarsystem,2019-10-25 22:13:39 +askMRP,dmgm9o,Any experience with therapy?,"Anyone here want to weigh in on going to therapy just for general head check, reset, help with frame? I have an appointment today. I don’t have any chronic mental health issues but would like some expert opinion on building my sense of self.",,3,that2didpass,2019-10-24 13:45:05 askMRP,dm8odj,"Shitty day, shitty question","I feel dumb even asking something so basic Last couple weeks I had been getting a lot done around the house. Not because of any covert contract or dancing monkey. I've just established routines and trying to build good habits. Been leading the kids in healthy habits. Doing exercises and tracking their progress etc. we've made it into a game. It's fun and I don't push them. @@ -77658,7 +77658,7 @@ My question is, should I be like ""I didn't own my shit today. Being tired isn't Im sure in the future I'll have off days. Do I just need to suck it up and own my shit? -I mean, it would be nice to have a woman who actually gave a fuck about me and instead of giving me a hard time asked me how I was doing, if she could get me anything, hope you feel better etc. but that's not the sort of world we live in is it? That's the blue pill ideal. If I want someone to care about me like that I need to develop my male friends for that. As a leader/man of this ship I don't get off days.",,22,Iockpickinglawyer,1571877470.0 +I mean, it would be nice to have a woman who actually gave a fuck about me and instead of giving me a hard time asked me how I was doing, if she could get me anything, hope you feel better etc. but that's not the sort of world we live in is it? That's the blue pill ideal. If I want someone to care about me like that I need to develop my male friends for that. As a leader/man of this ship I don't get off days.",,22,Iockpickinglawyer,2019-10-24 00:37:50 askMRP,dm236h,Filed for Divorce 6 Months Ago - Still in the process but feel weak mentally," 2 years, 1 son I filed for a divorce for what I think was a very valid reason. I found proof to think that my wife was planning to be or was VERY INTERESTED in becoming a sugar baby (prostitute). I found one profile with her picture and information on it. Her initial reaction to the divorce was to laugh and she said it was not a problem. After reading that I accused her on being a prostitute and was looking for full custody, she was upset of course. @@ -77675,7 +77675,7 @@ Idk why I feel so weak mentally. Was expecting to get better and motivated with I am working out- 2/3 days a week but with no motivation. -Ask away.",,6,-xthrowawayx-,1571849576.0 +Ask away.",,6,-xthrowawayx-,2019-10-23 16:52:56 askMRP,dm309c,Two Weeks,"It has been a little over two weeks since my wife moved out and I'm doing great. It's sad, it hurts, but I'm plowing through, moving forward and creating opportunities and abundance. @@ -77692,7 +77692,7 @@ I bought a bad-ass motorcycle because I always wanted one. Meanwhile my wife has been extra cunty. Complaining she has no money. Interrogating me to see if I hooked up with people on my trip. One day saying she'll want to come back soon and the next saying file for divorce now. She wanted to come over this weekend and I did cave and let her. She fucked me like a pornstar and blew me multiple times in a night. Something like that hasn't happened in years. The question is, do I try to keep her around as a plate? -I guess the purpose of this post is to tell people breaking up and getting divorced sucks but if you're in a bad situation the future will almost always be better. Especially if you apply the principles you learn here. In two weeks you'll start forgetting about her and start living a life of abundance and excellence.",,0,[deleted],1571853474.0 +I guess the purpose of this post is to tell people breaking up and getting divorced sucks but if you're in a bad situation the future will almost always be better. Especially if you apply the principles you learn here. In two weeks you'll start forgetting about her and start living a life of abundance and excellence.",,0,[deleted],2019-10-23 17:57:54 askMRP,dkq71u,I let my LTR show me her DM’s after she asked me about it. Does that show weakness on my part?,"When I upgraded her from plate to gf, there were still guys in her DM’s trying to hit on her, guys she has never slept with or even seen in person. She would tell me the messages the guy would send and she would tell them about me being her boyfriend blahblahblah. She even posts pics of me everywhere. Now every month usually has one DM from a guy. One month ago she got a DM from a guy and she told me to open it and reply. I just copied/ pasted what she said to the guy I just mentioned previously. He stopped instantly. @@ -77702,7 +77702,7 @@ Yesterday she kept asking me if I wanted to see messages if a guy is trying to h The few friends she has, her family, and people on social media have known for months that her and I are together. I don’t care if she shows me or not, I told her that I trusted she would do what’s right. I’m curious if you all think letting her show me DM’s when they pop up is a sign of weakness from my end, or maybe i’m just overthinking. -Thanks a bunch.",,14,trpguy123,1571606980.0 +Thanks a bunch.",,14,trpguy123,2019-10-20 21:29:40 askMRP,dki1zy,Value shit test?,"I was on a business trip this week and was catching up on some reading. Mainly I was reading WISNIFG and The Way of the Superior Man. But also some of MRP (like the recent post on Initiate Often, Confident Always). And it occurs to me I'm really failing big time on the initiating and gaming front. So I decide on my return I shall start to work on fixing it. Get home from the trip, and immediately picked up my game, kino, affection etc. Then went to play with the kids for a while, wrestling / boystrous games (I find these great to reset boundaries after my return from a trip... things usually slip on that front when I'm away). I put the kids to bed and then enjoy a glass of wine with the wife. @@ -77713,10 +77713,10 @@ A little later, she randomly brings up a camera I own. It happens to be in view It seemed to work, she was horny as hell later and let's just say we had a good night (cause and effect?). Either way, feedback on if there's a better way to handle these ""value shit tests"", or even what type of shit test is this? -I know this is meant to be the ""kinder"" zone of MRP, but please don't hold back.",,15,dolanthesemicolon,1571568283.0 +I know this is meant to be the ""kinder"" zone of MRP, but please don't hold back.",,15,dolanthesemicolon,2019-10-20 10:44:43 askMRP,dkp6m7,Victim Puke 1st attempt,"I fucking hate how much work I've had to put in and still not get laid. I fucking work my goddamn ass off and I am just as alone as ever. That fucking bitch I dated in high school fucked me up. I was already a shy guy, but at least I wasn't a fucking dodgy shy guy. Why the fuck did it have to be her. Fucking whore. Fucking bitch. -Anyway fuck the shit. I need to keep going thanks for the space to say that, I appreciate the pixels.",,0,Joshua_forever,1571602717.0 +Anyway fuck the shit. I need to keep going thanks for the space to say that, I appreciate the pixels.",,0,Joshua_forever,2019-10-20 20:18:37 askMRP,dkcqjv,Social life question,"Basic question on Dread ~~level~~ week 8 Social life section 4 Hobbies @@ -77726,7 +77726,7 @@ Maybe it's an odd hobby and that's my problem but I enjoy listening to physics p Ideally I would like to have a group of guys who can wear worldviews like people wear clothes. -**My question is where could I even find a group like that? Is that even possible or am I being unreasonable in wanting that?** My question is probably like someone asking how they can find a group of guys that all like dirt bike racing. I don't care for it but a friend of mine loves dirt bikes. He goes to road shows. Clearly a lot of people like dirt bikes because they fill a stadium. But to actually find a group of guys who all like dirt bikes is probably rare. But I guess the reason I feel like I have a big part of my life missing is because this is my religion. And there are no science churches. There's no family of people who love truth and embrace life for what it is. Instead everyone seems like brainwashed individuals with thin skin and no depth of soul.",,3,Iockpickinglawyer,1571533741.0 +**My question is where could I even find a group like that? Is that even possible or am I being unreasonable in wanting that?** My question is probably like someone asking how they can find a group of guys that all like dirt bike racing. I don't care for it but a friend of mine loves dirt bikes. He goes to road shows. Clearly a lot of people like dirt bikes because they fill a stadium. But to actually find a group of guys who all like dirt bikes is probably rare. But I guess the reason I feel like I have a big part of my life missing is because this is my religion. And there are no science churches. There's no family of people who love truth and embrace life for what it is. Instead everyone seems like brainwashed individuals with thin skin and no depth of soul.",,3,Iockpickinglawyer,2019-10-20 01:09:01 askMRP,dj1iel,"LTR insecure about me leaving, how to respond?","I plated this girl in the beginning of this year, made her my gf in May, and considered her (in my head) LTR material. We had sex often, and I always initiated. 1.5 months ago and before I would initiate by fingering, if she told me to stop i’d stop, if not, then try again later, if stop again, then I stop. If she likes it, then you know the rest. @@ -77740,8 +77740,8 @@ I have no clue what i’m doing wrong as I am lifting and reading (WISNIFG, NMMN Is her declining sex often because of my present way of vocalizing me wanting to have sex? Should I just go for my old way and just finger her and find out? -Thanks a bunch. I know this isn’t a marriage, but it’s nearing ltr. Once again, thanks a bunch.",,2,trpguy123,1571288030.0 -askMRP,dipshk,"Suddenly, I'm not as interested in sex","Is this something men commonly go through while changing their mindset? A year ago I obsessed about sex all day long, it was my world, I'd do anything to negotiate desire. 6 months ago I genuinely started not having an emotional reaction to my fiancee turning me down for sex. Sex was wild and fairly frequent at this point. Now I find myself not feeling much of a sexual urge, for my fiancee or anyone for that matter. I'd rather rock climb, lift, read, or go on a hike. I'd like to keep initiating as forcefully/frequently as I had been, because I know the natural urge will come back in full force, and when it does I'd rather it not be a shocking change like it was the first time (even if it was a positive change). Is this just the way of life or is something out of whack?",,30,[deleted],1571234809.0 +Thanks a bunch. I know this isn’t a marriage, but it’s nearing ltr. Once again, thanks a bunch.",,2,trpguy123,2019-10-17 04:53:50 +askMRP,dipshk,"Suddenly, I'm not as interested in sex","Is this something men commonly go through while changing their mindset? A year ago I obsessed about sex all day long, it was my world, I'd do anything to negotiate desire. 6 months ago I genuinely started not having an emotional reaction to my fiancee turning me down for sex. Sex was wild and fairly frequent at this point. Now I find myself not feeling much of a sexual urge, for my fiancee or anyone for that matter. I'd rather rock climb, lift, read, or go on a hike. I'd like to keep initiating as forcefully/frequently as I had been, because I know the natural urge will come back in full force, and when it does I'd rather it not be a shocking change like it was the first time (even if it was a positive change). Is this just the way of life or is something out of whack?",,30,[deleted],2019-10-16 14:06:49 askMRP,dis00m,LTR wants to attend an event with a bunch of guys she has never met,"New here, and to reddit for that matter (created an account just for this post tbh though I have lurked a bit previously), but hopefully this is the right place for my question. To preface this, I will say that I have become redpill aware only a couple of months ago and it was brought to my attention somewhat unconventionally (my LTR of over a year who I live with was dropping buzzwords and a bit of searching on the internet brought me to the redpill and the MRP community which better aligns to my situation and views). Long story short, I am a complete noob. @@ -77756,7 +77756,7 @@ I am in a weird situation here where she is looking for permission to attend thi I trust her in general but I know alcohol will be a factor and these people are guys who she has been talking to for years but never met. She doesn’t hide her conversations with them and has been very up front with the whole dynamic since we started dating so I have trusted her to draw boundaries with them on her own up until now and she has proved by coming to me when she wasn’t sure if something was ‘too much’ that she can be trusted. Should I just let her go and have fun? Am I dumb for even considering this? -Thanks in advance for any advice and insight.",,8,DontWant2FThisUP,1571244359.0 +Thanks in advance for any advice and insight.",,8,DontWant2FThisUP,2019-10-16 16:45:59 askMRP,dhv3ij,Books for her.,"My latest OYS for reference... https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/dbqaao/_/f23duvb?context=1000 @@ -77770,7 +77770,7 @@ Either way, I was interested in if any of you guys had passed on any books to yo I wouldn't tell her shit about RP, fight club right, but is there any material she could read that isn't directly RP? -Cheers bros!",,18,mrbadassmotherfucker,1571079125.0 +Cheers bros!",,18,mrbadassmotherfucker,2019-10-14 18:52:05 askMRP,dh0ukh,How to make her cum vaginally?,"I'm 36, wife also 36, married for 3 years, together for 3.5 years. 1 child (2 year old). Discovered red pill 1y ago. Started serious lifting, but major fucked up with frame building. Went insane butthurt super mega turbo Rambo 10000 and things got a lot worse then they were before redpill. Almost destroyed my marriage. Slowly rebuilding now, without ramboing. @@ -77835,7 +77835,7 @@ Maybe a good way for Immersion would be transferring slut/good girl threesome f I'm really interested in you guys experiences with vaginal orgasms and how the fuck you manage to do it. I appreciate your honest input. Edit: -Thanks for comments. I realize I might be wanting this for all the wrong reasons and that I could adjust my perspective.",,19,go-RED-go,1570914063.0 +Thanks for comments. I realize I might be wanting this for all the wrong reasons and that I could adjust my perspective.",,19,go-RED-go,2019-10-12 21:01:03 askMRP,dgtutb,Bleeding Dick after sex,"Stats: 66 years old, wife 61 and wets up still (thank the gods). Been in the relationship 40 years. @@ -77873,8 +77873,8 @@ Any advice on how to prevent it, apart from not screwing? TIA for any flames, good advice, heckling or support. -Well wishes...",,3,vithus_inbau,1570879184.0 -askMRP,dgmcos,How long did it take to turn things around?,"Once you started reading here/NMMNG/WISNIFG. An explanation of what ""turn things around"" means too.",,4,[deleted],1570832970.0 +Well wishes...",,3,vithus_inbau,2019-10-12 11:19:44 +askMRP,dgmcos,How long did it take to turn things around?,"Once you started reading here/NMMNG/WISNIFG. An explanation of what ""turn things around"" means too.",,4,[deleted],2019-10-11 22:29:30 askMRP,dgk7pb,5/3/1 while cutting?,"5'7"" 155 pounds still skinny fat but making visible progress. Lost two inches on waist since I started lifting a basic program 3 months ago, while building some muscle and getting much better definition. 1600 calories per day diet while cutting. Lifting: 5 days per week. Day one, all 5x5: @@ -77893,7 +77893,7 @@ I was thinking of going to 531. However i am not bulking yet as I still have abo My plan then is to do the 531 for beginners program during my cutting phase and switch to the intermediate plan when I am ready to bulk. -Good plan? Faggot plan?",,3,Vegasman20002,1570823077.0 +Good plan? Faggot plan?",,3,Vegasman20002,2019-10-11 19:44:37 askMRP,dg948b,Only if sexy is on the cards,"I’m still very new and slightly less overwhelmed by all the content here. Slowly but surely making progress everyday albeit its limited to reading. Just a quick question for the MRP gurus. @@ -77904,7 +77904,7 @@ However I don’t want to just easily give that to her because she sure as shit So how can I tell her that the only way she is getting me during business hours is if it’s to have sex? -I hate knowing about TRP/MRP and frame etc but having zero clue on how to implement it. I’m a total rookie at this point in my journey but man these few weeks have really woken me up to reality!!",,7,realestillusion,1570763278.0 +I hate knowing about TRP/MRP and frame etc but having zero clue on how to implement it. I’m a total rookie at this point in my journey but man these few weeks have really woken me up to reality!!",,7,realestillusion,2019-10-11 03:07:58 askMRP,dg1mf7,Differentiating between shit test and comfort test with a depressed wife.,"Hello all. Throwaway since wife knows my main. My wife has a history of depression, which has been well controlled for about 90% of our time together and our relationship has been mostly smooth sailing. She adds a lot of value to my life and generally treats me like a king. For the past month, she's entered a very depressed state. She has talked about potentially starting medication (which she used to take over a decade ago before we met) and I've given her praise for recognizing she has an issue that she may not be able to deal with on her own. @@ -77917,7 +77917,7 @@ I'm fairly new to the redpill (sort of, I actually discovered it about 8 years a All feedback is welcome. Please feel free to rip me a new one if you think that's appropriate. Criticism is welcome. -For reference, I would (being as objective as possible) say that my SMV is about an 8.5-9 and hers is about a 7-7.5. I've read all sidebar material but I find it hard to apply to situations when dealing with a depressed wife. I'm very much a ""fixer"" but I've been trying to take a more be the oak/supportive approach rather than trying to solve this depression problem for her, since I know this isn't something I'm capable of fixing and don't want to foster codependency.",,10,mynewthrowaway1990,1570729573.0 +For reference, I would (being as objective as possible) say that my SMV is about an 8.5-9 and hers is about a 7-7.5. I've read all sidebar material but I find it hard to apply to situations when dealing with a depressed wife. I'm very much a ""fixer"" but I've been trying to take a more be the oak/supportive approach rather than trying to solve this depression problem for her, since I know this isn't something I'm capable of fixing and don't want to foster codependency.",,10,mynewthrowaway1990,2019-10-10 17:46:13 askMRP,dfkdi2,Wife Moved Out,"So for those who have been following me I have an update. My wife of 6.5 years and her two kids moved out this weekend. It was a bit shocking to come home to a half-empty house. I admit I lost it a couple times. Even though she didn't treat me all that well I still have a big sense of loss and sadness. Sometimes I think I miss the life we had more than the actual person. Or at least the person I first met before things went sour a couple years ago. At this point she wants space and doesn't want to give an answer on if or when she'll be back. She doesn't want to lose me and asked me not to see other people and she is doing the same. @@ -77928,10 +77928,10 @@ My next decision will be how long to wait before filing for divorce. I did tell her I'm putting a time limit on the separation. I'm not going to be living in limbo. She complained that I'm pressuring her and giving her an ultimatum. -So my question is, how do I get over her as fast as possible and kill the loss, sadness, and angry in it's tracks?",,26,[deleted],1570642257.0 +So my question is, how do I get over her as fast as possible and kill the loss, sadness, and angry in it's tracks?",,26,[deleted],2019-10-09 17:30:57 askMRP,dfrpkt,How to have children?,"Like knowing your relationship will end, how do u have children and do it right? Any good reads anyone recommends it's hard to find good red pill parenting. Not so much teaching the kids. Just the pathways of navigating life around separation / and all that. All relationships end or massive amount of sacrifices are made, which to me is kind of defeats the purpose of it all. -All in all, just seeing what kind of discussion will become of this.",,1,that_italia_guy,1570675433.0 +All in all, just seeing what kind of discussion will become of this.",,1,that_italia_guy,2019-10-10 02:43:53 askMRP,dfd7ga,Need some advice on how to handle a situation.,"Ok, I am currently reading blue pill professors book about how to save a low sex marriage. There is a part where it mentions to add to Dread (first levels) i should just leave the house and if and when wife asks where I was t just be aloof or possibly answer ""I don't need to answer someone who doesn't find me attractive, my time is better spent elsewhere"". While this part is clear I need some advice on my situation. Every Thursday my girlfriend goes to choir practice and I stay home with my oldest son, make him dinner, bring him to bed. I love doing this because it gives me a chance to bond more with my son. @@ -77962,7 +77962,7 @@ I need some guidance, call me a faggot, I get it. But I need to do this and lear Thank you. -EDIT : thanks for the feedback. I realise I'm still nowhere near where I need to be. Will keep on progressing.",,5,cm3105,1570603224.0 +EDIT : thanks for the feedback. I realise I'm still nowhere near where I need to be. Will keep on progressing.",,5,cm3105,2019-10-09 06:40:24 askMRP,dde10c,Teenage Daughter Wants to Spend Time with Friends During my Parenting Time,"I didn't see any questions about this specific topic in my searches so I'm posting here hoping for some divorce/custody advice. I've been divorced for 11 years. My ex and I share 50/50 custody with a daughter who is now 14 and a freshman in HS. I don't live in the same town where my ex lives (30 min away) and my daughter goes to school in her town. The issue is that lately, my daughter has begun getting invited to parties/sleepovers/activities at friends' houses on weeknight evenings (some Fridays, too) when it's my parenting time. Of course she wants to go even though we typically have a great time together. If she does go, that means I lose my evening parenting time. @@ -77970,10 +77970,10 @@ I've been divorced for 11 years. My ex and I share 50/50 custody with a daughter This issue came up a bit in middle school but, I was able to either just say no and shut it down or we would reschedule a day/night for parenting time at a later date. Now, however, under the influence of her mom, she is saying that she should be allowed to go even during my parenting time and that, further, we shouldn't have to reschedule the parenting time for a later date. I don't want my daughter to start resenting coming to my house (especially because I know that soon enough she'll be able to dictate where and when she goes anywhere) but, I also want to maintain the custody time I have with her for as long as possible, since her mom's household doesn't set the best example for her. None of this would be an issue if her mom wasn't in my daughter's ear about it so, I am also coming up against the shitty influence of my - ex. Anyone face issues with older children who start bucking the custody arrangement and are supported in this by their moms? What actions should I take, if any?",,26,wkndatbernardus,1570225367.0 + ex. Anyone face issues with older children who start bucking the custody arrangement and are supported in this by their moms? What actions should I take, if any?",,26,wkndatbernardus,2019-10-04 21:42:47 askMRP,ddhgm2,Wife sure likes that TV,"I'm out doing my own thing several nights a week. My wife's routine is to ""watch her shows"" while I'm gone, that's fine I don't have any interest in them. But it's spreading into the other nights and times, pretty much whenever she gets time to unwind after the kids are in bed she fires up the TV for some of that sweet dopamine. -I find myself just wanting to leave and do other things because the TV is boring as shit, but that means I'm gaming my wife less and less. I think I need to be the cruise director and come up with nightly activities to keep her off there, and it has to invoke at least as much feels as the TV shows. I have a million fun things for us to do outside the house and we have a great time but it gets too expensive (babysitting needed). What are you doing with your wife on nights in besides sex? Or do you just sit on the couch watching Netflix and initiate during the breaks between shows?",,8,SiegreicherMarsch,1570243085.0 +I find myself just wanting to leave and do other things because the TV is boring as shit, but that means I'm gaming my wife less and less. I think I need to be the cruise director and come up with nightly activities to keep her off there, and it has to invoke at least as much feels as the TV shows. I have a million fun things for us to do outside the house and we have a great time but it gets too expensive (babysitting needed). What are you doing with your wife on nights in besides sex? Or do you just sit on the couch watching Netflix and initiate during the breaks between shows?",,8,SiegreicherMarsch,2019-10-05 02:38:05 askMRP,dcxm2q,When your wife goes to a concert and fucks Chad,"For the first 12 years of my marriage, I mate guarded the ever living fuck out of my wife. I wouldn't let her leave the state to go visit family or leave the country and I got really worried when she would go out with girlfriends and I couldn't get in touch with her. I would get jealous over her past sexual endeavors. I slut shamed her. I cried like a bitch because she used to do stuff with past boyfriends that she wouldn't do with me. She wasn't [giving me her best](https://therationalmale.com/2013/12/03/saving-the-best/). She controlled sex almost 100% and I lived in her frame because mine was so weak. If she asked me to go to a concert in the city with her girlfriend and stay in a hotel for the night I would lose my shit. Not only would I not allow it but I would have probably given her shit and made her feel guilty about it. I would have brought up other guys and and worried I was about losing her to someone else. I did a google search and [found a blog](https://www.thetreeofawakening.com/forums/topic/my-wife-cheated-at-concert-she-says-i-am-perfect-in-every-way/) that relates to the title of this post. It's what I used to fear and what I used to be like. I lived in fear **constantly,** especially about my wife and her emotions. @@ -77990,14 +77990,14 @@ She came over and pulled my pants off and started sucking. Jumped on top and rod Could she cheat? Of course she could. Would she cheat? I highly doubt it. I will be dripping out of her pussy the whole night so whoever fucks her is going to have to swim through all my jizz first. -Moral of the story, fuck your wife really good all the time and she is way less likely to fuck some random dude because he has a southern accent and she catches the feelz for alpha dick. Don't fear Chad, BE CHAD.",,2,[deleted],1570138488.0 +Moral of the story, fuck your wife really good all the time and she is way less likely to fuck some random dude because he has a southern accent and she catches the feelz for alpha dick. Don't fear Chad, BE CHAD.",,2,[deleted],2019-10-03 21:34:48 askMRP,dcmr0o,How to raise a daughter successfully,"I have a 1yo daughter. Common knowledge and reading has made me understand that leading by good example is the best parents can do to raise a child. Now here is the thing, I was an above average rebellious kid. I started drinking, smoking(both weed and cigarettes) having sex etc. Very early. I had a couple parties at home where things got trashed and they obviously lashed out. They tried everything, talking calmly, screaming at me, grounding me, taking me to psychologist etc. And whatever they did I resented them more and more. -Is there any good reading material on how to parent ""correctly""? If she turns out half the asshole I was the challenges will stand in que.",,12,IATAsshole,1570082118.0 +Is there any good reading material on how to parent ""correctly""? If she turns out half the asshole I was the challenges will stand in que.",,12,IATAsshole,2019-10-03 05:55:18 askMRP,dct3wf,Porn Recommendations,"Click-bait title aside, I'm looking for some advice on porn from those that use it as a tool with their wives/LTR. No, it's not for me personally (at least not directly). @@ -78012,7 +78012,7 @@ So I'm thinking I'll start off with ""wife bangs the mailman"", followed by ""ho In all seriousness, I am thinking something soft-core is best here, maybe even a massage scene to setup a joke about past covert contracts/transactional sex of the former me. -What do you guys think? Any advice?",,3,MarkSentinel,1570119373.0 +What do you guys think? Any advice?",,3,MarkSentinel,2019-10-03 16:16:13 askMRP,dbh4ka,Wife Moving Out: An Update,"In case you have not read my initial post, it is here: [https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/cwaqdh/wife\_moving\_out/](https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/cwaqdh/wife_moving_out/) It's been about a month since my wife told me she's moving out. She now has half the house packed up, a lease almost signed, services ordered, and furniture ordered. This past weekend she had her two daughters pack up their rooms. The apartment she picked out is nice, but is over 50% of her take-come income so she'll be broke. @@ -78031,7 +78031,7 @@ Last night I mentioned that if she moves out we are 100% done. This morning she's freaking out and saying she'll stay because I'm forcing her too. She said "" You've created that requirement. You set the boundaries and you said that's how it is for you. You will not work on things without me in the house. That doesn't leave me a choice ."" -Right now I'm a bit lost. Do I let her go?",,25,[deleted],1569872918.0 +Right now I'm a bit lost. Do I let her go?",,25,[deleted],2019-09-30 19:48:38 askMRP,dbftt7,No Sexual Attraction in Marriage,"Hey guys, Cross-posting this from AskTRP as was advised this would be a better forum. So this is very similar to what I posted over there. @@ -78054,7 +78054,7 @@ Will continue to read the side-bar of course. Also, some of ya'll seem to love the word faggot. You need to come out of the closet and let the anger go, you've swallowed the red pill but seem to long to swallow something else. Some serious insecurity goin' on. -**For those that gave genuine advice/guidance - I appreciate it! Best of luck on your mission.** As I read and apply more, I will try and contribute.",,11,RelationshipSOS2019,1569867799.0 +**For those that gave genuine advice/guidance - I appreciate it! Best of luck on your mission.** As I read and apply more, I will try and contribute.",,11,RelationshipSOS2019,2019-09-30 18:23:19 askMRP,db4enh,Comfort or STFU?,"I’m genuinely stumped. I recently went through a shitty comfort test after 6mos of noobie gains. See previous post: /r/askMRP/comments/cwm38o/wtf_happened_worse_before_it_gets_better/eyfdacu/?context=3. Went a wee bit Rambo and implemented the great suggestions. Realized attraction wasn’t there after the 6mo peak of alpha and had to get back to the grind. Backing off and reducing time and attention did wonders. Gave me time to re-evaluate and just do me to work on frame and OI. Unintentional results was wife coming around quickly. The tension was there and we had a few hours while the kid was away and that seems to be when she is the most comfortable. So I initiate and we have insane sex for an hour or so with me including anal in second session. During the noobie period where I reaped my newly found alpha we had anal twice with no complaints and even her getting turned on by it. @@ -78063,7 +78063,7 @@ Now, she texts while I’m at work (not planning texting back) she says that “ My question is I’m really sensitive to what happened recently so do I provide comfort and how? Fuck I’m struggling with the Alpha and Beta mix. I know that by phone is not ideal. When I see her in the morning? -Edit: She is sore. That’s the “uncomfortable” part. She had told me earlier and I commented that it was a hellva session and get some rest. Wtf?",,6,Wagzdaddy,1569806914.0 +Edit: She is sore. That’s the “uncomfortable” part. She had told me earlier and I commented that it was a hellva session and get some rest. Wtf?",,6,Wagzdaddy,2019-09-30 01:28:34 askMRP,dau3g3,Facebook dating... better than Tinder?,"I'm (35M) single, lonely and simply trying to settle down with a nice woman for love and possibly marriage/children. I started the dating site hustle with Plenty of Fish way back in the day. I had one good relationship from it but most of the people I matched with were shallow nutjobs who regularly accused me of only wanting sex. eHarmony and Match were always too expensive so I avoided them like the plague. My next dating site was OKCupid, again, one or two great conversations and maybe one date. Nothing much else. @@ -78072,14 +78072,14 @@ eHarmony and Match were always too expensive so I avoided them like the plague. Tinder was my go to dating site for 6 years, but even there with the sheer number of women seeking serious relationships (almost 3x as many as the other places I tried), I still had trouble meeting people who actually wanted to be with me. Many were tired of unsolicited dick pics and sexual comments and automatically threw me in with the people I've been priding myself on not being. -Now, I use Facebook dating, it's working, but I'm worried that it will end up being like my past experience. Is there anything I can do to improve my self image so that women know I'm not just trying to get in their pants?",,0,dre4mslayer,1569757462.0 +Now, I use Facebook dating, it's working, but I'm worried that it will end up being like my past experience. Is there anything I can do to improve my self image so that women know I'm not just trying to get in their pants?",,0,dre4mslayer,2019-09-29 11:44:22 askMRP,dahdea,Dating after divorce and redefining love,"Long story short, I was married for 9 years and have 2 kids. After last kid, wife turned off the sex and became a nag. I was beta to the max. Discovered TRP, started lifting again 3 years ago, divorced not quite one year ago after just living my life (sex improved but she was just a miserable person to be around). I'm enjoying my new life. And just started getting back out there to meet new people which brings me to my present mindset. I'm in great shape and have no problems talking with women. But I'm having a hard time with the idea of ""love"". I don't need a woman in my life but I value companionship. Most recently went on a date with a woman. Solid 6 but very intelligent and kind... Things I value over straight up sexual appearance. About 7 years younger than me and she has no kids. Lust is lust. Easily defined. What is your perspective on love knowing that a woman will never love you in the way a man wants? Is it just find someone who likes to be around you and will add value to your life? I'm pretty right brained about things and just can't rationalize what love is anymore having left a 13 year relationship with one person. Perspective is appreciated. -Edit: Lots of vomit on my part. I appreciate the dick punch.",,17,Spock_Vs_Spock,1569684225.0 +Edit: Lots of vomit on my part. I appreciate the dick punch.",,17,Spock_Vs_Spock,2019-09-28 15:23:45 askMRP,da2suv,Wife ignoring me after an argument about me being “too easy” on our daughter. Should I just ignore her until she’s done pouting about it? And then ignore her more?,"Long and short of it is this: My wife is hard on our 3 year old daughter. No “old school” hard....but over the top. Yells at her for spilling milk/juice/etc., screams at her if she tells her to do something more than a few times (when my wife is already upset). @@ -78103,11 +78103,11 @@ At the same time, she needs to stop yelling at our daughter UNLESS it’s somet What should I do? -Thanks.",,6,woodhavenapherical,1569601532.0 +Thanks.",,6,woodhavenapherical,2019-09-27 16:25:32 askMRP,d8ubeo,Tell LTR About a Past Fling.,"I know the answer is probably no... But I have a women in a friend group who I had a one night stand with. My LTR and her may intermingle in the future (I am quite sure of it actually), should I be telling my LTR that we fucked (or is this not dread at all)? -So that my LTR is not caught off guard if for some reason this fact gets brought up.",,4,MeansToABenz,1569363076.0 +So that my LTR is not caught off guard if for some reason this fact gets brought up.",,4,MeansToABenz,2019-09-24 22:11:16 askMRP,d8nl9v,Putting future plans on hold,"Been with LTR for 5years now, most of this duration being in college. I was aware of TRP before the relationship started so I always made sure to lift, screen girls, always improve myself etc. As a result, throughout our relationship I’ve always stayed on top of it: I went from 145lbs to 205lbs at 5’11, dressed well (gaining weight to fit in clothes helps!), been social, didn’t take any shit from my GF, and got a great paying career, rarely say I love her (said it for the first time 2 years in and she gets so moved she gets tears in her eyes when I say it). I easily have more SMV than my LTR and she has said it too but not in those exact words obviously, more so in ways such as “you could totally be a contestant in those game show since you’re so outgoing. I definitely could not do it”, things like that. @@ -78119,8 +78119,8 @@ That’s a background of our relationship. However, over the last month she started expressing doubts about living together and marrying soon. She said since we’ll be able to live with each other for the rest of our lives, it may be more fun to try and live independently nearby so we can still see each other more but also have the experience with living with our friends. -Of course I will never live with someone who doesn’t want to live with me, and I’m in no rush to live with her, but it’s alarming for her to back out of these plans. It raises concerns for me when I think about our future and I don’t like how the future of our relationship seems uncertain and like it’s in a gray area. What is the best frame of mind to proceed with? Every few days, I’ll think about the situation and feel contempt towards her",,5,slabsofmuscle,1569333596.0 -askMRP,d7zkyn,Anniversaries.,How often do you guys go out for anniversaries? We are coming up on six months now? Was the fact that we went out for one month and three month anniversaries too much? Am I setting up a precedent that is too much to keep up with?,,0,MeansToABenz,1569201621.0 +Of course I will never live with someone who doesn’t want to live with me, and I’m in no rush to live with her, but it’s alarming for her to back out of these plans. It raises concerns for me when I think about our future and I don’t like how the future of our relationship seems uncertain and like it’s in a gray area. What is the best frame of mind to proceed with? Every few days, I’ll think about the situation and feel contempt towards her",,5,slabsofmuscle,2019-09-24 13:59:56 +askMRP,d7zkyn,Anniversaries.,How often do you guys go out for anniversaries? We are coming up on six months now? Was the fact that we went out for one month and three month anniversaries too much? Am I setting up a precedent that is too much to keep up with?,,0,MeansToABenz,2019-09-23 01:20:21 askMRP,d79rk3,"Still failing, but not as much","Rereading sidebar. Making sure I have not missed anything. Read: MMSL @@ -78149,7 +78149,7 @@ Still feels she only fucks just to fuck and cum, and not due to the littlest des Just this morning I fucked her while she was asleep. Incorporated a bit from SGM....she came hard and I continued to slowly fuck her. She tells me to hurry up. I stopped and told her that was a turn off. No butt hurt and just went on with my morning with a smile. Other times she gets whiny after sex and starts complaining about random shit. -I know Rome was not built in a day, but would like some insight if there is anything I may be missing.",,16,1kdawg1,1569068235.0 +I know Rome was not built in a day, but would like some insight if there is anything I may be missing.",,16,1kdawg1,2019-09-21 12:17:15 askMRP,d77mzp,Divorce threats,"Yes, divorce threats today unless I stop meeting my friend for a coffee, stop the gym, BJJ etc. I'm not ready for this, but held frame as well as possible during the conversation. My wife has told all her family and my parents about my 'midlife crisis' so I'm having to deflect some extra shit. Also got accused of having an affair (I'm not). @@ -78158,7 +78158,7 @@ It's also PMS time. I did my best to offer comfort, but she only wanted complian Fuck that. But I'm still not ready for this situation. My wife is also the primary earner and has added threats related to paying for various shit. Am thinking to arrange a mortgage holiday for 6 months in case she follows through with this. -Thanks for reading my puke. I need some advice. I'm not backing down on my activities, but not sure how to proceed. Is it all bluster? I won't know until next week. Her hamster has gone crazy, linking various shit together and drawing incorrect conclusions.",,6,GoingOnAJourney,1569051950.0 +Thanks for reading my puke. I need some advice. I'm not backing down on my activities, but not sure how to proceed. Is it all bluster? I won't know until next week. Her hamster has gone crazy, linking various shit together and drawing incorrect conclusions.",,6,GoingOnAJourney,2019-09-21 07:45:50 askMRP,d6ndax,"What the hell has happened to the ""manosphere"" ? AJ, RT, RC, etc.","So... the redpill sub got shut down on Reddit. Then Rich Cooper bowed out of the 21 Convention. @@ -78173,7 +78173,7 @@ These guys are ""Patriarchs"" ? WTH ? Anthony Johnson is a ""Patriarch"" ? Ma What the hell is happening out there ? Where is the leadership ? -Thank God that Rollo keeps going because everyone else seems to have lost it.",,5,RPAnon123,1568941390.0 +Thank God that Rollo keeps going because everyone else seems to have lost it.",,5,RPAnon123,2019-09-20 01:03:10 askMRP,d6bl0v,Hormone imbalance?,"Hey Guys, &#x200B; @@ -78204,7 +78204,7 @@ I'd like to know what I'm dealing with here and how I could/should deal with it. &#x200B; -Thanks",,3,[deleted],1568885418.0 +Thanks",,3,[deleted],2019-09-19 09:30:18 askMRP,d6diqk,"As a 23 years old married guy, I don't know how to keep plates in secret. How do you keep your plates in secret?","I got married when I was 22 and now I have got an urge to fuck other girls. I love my wife and I find her very beautiful and sexy. We have sex every day of the week, sometimes 2-3 times in a day. However, I still want to fuck other girls. It makes me feel strong, happy when I got attention from them. Some girls are very willing to flirt with me. I've been trying Tinder these days and I have matched beautiful girls but I can't do anything more than just talking because my wife always wonder about me when I am outside etc. She always calls me and asks me where I am when I am late to the home. @@ -78216,7 +78216,7 @@ She once checked my phone when I was sleeping. So, I wonder how you keep your pl I was having sex with lots of different girls in a month before getting married, but now I only have sex with my wife. That doesn't mean I don't love my wife. I love her and I don't want to get a divorce. It is not easy as said. -Please give me some advice. Thank you.",,0,dbayraktar,1568897098.0 +Please give me some advice. Thank you.",,0,dbayraktar,2019-09-19 12:44:58 askMRP,d5rf56,It *MIGHT* be possible she did not cheat,"Here is a little story I would like you to consider before you: 1. See a lawyer, @@ -78246,7 +78246,7 @@ Moral of the story (in u[/RStonePT](https://www.reddit.com/user/RStonePT/) words **She might not have cheated | Your car might be fine** -.",,29,simbarlion,1568774302.0 +.",,29,simbarlion,2019-09-18 02:38:22 askMRP,d5gzwa,"There's no such thing as ""Redpill Aware"" - Take the first step in owning your shit.","So quit fucking posting shit about this. I don't care if you've been 'aware'. The classic fucking statement, ""Hey I've read \[one or two books\] and have been redpill aware for 6 months"" @@ -78265,7 +78265,7 @@ If you come to AskMRP and instead say, ""Hey guys I'm failing and I don't know w &#x200B; -The first step starts with ownership and letting go of your ego.",,69,UEMcGill,1568726929.0 +The first step starts with ownership and letting go of your ego.",,69,UEMcGill,2019-09-17 13:28:49 askMRP,d5ilfd,Rule Zero on Facebook,"Rich Cooper, Rian Stone, and Jon from Modern Life Dating started a private community on Facebook that's grown to about 700 users in a month. I am a fan of both Rich and Rian and like their youtube content. I almost went to 21 Con because they were going to be there and of all the content creators, they are among the elite bringing concise, relevant, and easily applicable wisdom. @@ -78295,17 +78295,17 @@ Questions 1. What are your thoughts on Facebook groups and privacy? 2. What are the legitimate concerns on getting doxxed? 3. Has anyone HERE actually been doxxed and had legitimate fallout? -4. Is there already an actual ""MRP"" group on facebook already that I just don't know about?",,8,helaughsinhidden,1568734103.0 -askMRP,d5qur8,Christian wife,"When a woman says "" I want my husband to be a spiritual leader"" she means.......",,1,DeanMaverick13,1568771440.0 +4. Is there already an actual ""MRP"" group on facebook already that I just don't know about?",,8,helaughsinhidden,2019-09-17 15:28:23 +askMRP,d5qur8,Christian wife,"When a woman says "" I want my husband to be a spiritual leader"" she means.......",,1,DeanMaverick13,2019-09-18 01:50:40 askMRP,d58zvq,High n count,"On trp and asktrp the general consensus is that an n count higher than 3ish will make a woman harder to be with and more likely to cheat. Ive also seen the other side of that where a girl thats been on the carousel is less prone to cheating since they have experienced that and arent into it. -What is the consensus on mrp? Anyone with a low n count partner worry they want to try cc? Anyone with a higher n count partner care to chime in?",,4,JungleBeanr,1568678635.0 +What is the consensus on mrp? Anyone with a low n count partner worry they want to try cc? Anyone with a higher n count partner care to chime in?",,4,JungleBeanr,2019-09-17 00:03:55 askMRP,d52c9t,T Test Results and options,"Had my first T test and level is 493. I had a torsion when I was a kid so only one of the boys works. This seems low, but based on the acceptable range on the test is is slightly below the middle (264-916 it says). 10.4 Free Testosterone (6.8-21.5 is the range). -Going to chat with doctor, but let's assume he says it's fine. Any experience with non-prescription options? Is this really worth worrying about ? 49yo BTW.",,3,Vegasman20002,1568648147.0 +Going to chat with doctor, but let's assume he says it's fine. Any experience with non-prescription options? Is this really worth worrying about ? 49yo BTW.",,3,Vegasman20002,2019-09-16 15:35:47 askMRP,9xxbt1,Period,"She has the worst. These are not shit tests... she just turns into a raging bitch for 3-4 days. She just dropped something on her own head, and yelled at me for not catching it. -If anyone has any coping mechanisms please let me know.",,17,RobertCarraway,1542469652.0 +If anyone has any coping mechanisms please let me know.",,17,RobertCarraway,2018-11-17 15:47:32 askMRP,9g6ot4,What to do when LTR can't handle dread?,"I secured my LTR after discovering the red pill. As such, I entered that relationship in a way where I had pretty much all the power in the relationship. The problem is that she was anxious as fuck. Constantly comfort-seeking. She never shit-tested. She never got angry at me. She only got sad, upset, hurt, insecure and more neurotic. That is obviously not a fun person to live with. @@ -78316,4 +78316,4 @@ However, occasionally, she becomes less compliant, more lazy, works out less, do What do you do when your LTR can't seem to handle dread? When the dread isn't translating into increased sexual desire but is instead translating into neuroticism, anxiety, and depression. -Are there different types of dread you use in this situation?",,22,redpill_ltr-friendly,1537060203.0 +Are there different types of dread you use in this situation?",,22,redpill_ltr-friendly,2018-09-16 01:10:03