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There are plenty of online support groups for things like depression, anxiety, and bipolar. There’s even a lot of support for parents of children with ADHD. But when it comes to adult ADHD it’s a little harder to find a good support network tailored specifically to us.
It’s awesome and I’ve gone there for support and encouragement for a while now. But even in an amazing community like that there are still limitations I don’t like, and it’s not specifically tailored to adults with ADHD.
Plus they have some rigidly enforced rules you have to abide by when posting.These rules probably make sense in the context of a large community like Reddit, but in a smaller facebook group certain things would be more doable and could spark great conversations.
For example, two of their rules for posting are: No DAE questions (questions like “Does anybody else__?” or “Has anyone noticed__?”) and No Memes unless they’re part of a discussion. Both of these things would be perfectly fine in the context of a tight knit facebook group.
I’ve truly enjoyed using r/ADHD as a support network because people with ADHD are literally the most kind hearted, respectful and encouraging people ever. And I’m not the only one who says this!
I have learned so much from others with ADHD when visiting that sub and have been continuously blown away by the friendliness of everyone involved. Any other sub I’ve ever been on there was always at least 1-2 people who were rude or even flat-out mean. Never has that happened to me when interacting with fellow ADHDers. They’re always nice!
I still felt like I wanted something with a little more freedom and specificity. I wanted to experience a support network where everyone involved was an adult with ADHD. And where all participants could feel free to be themselves and post whatever they want without wondering if they were breaking the rules.
So, I finally decided to create my own support group! And because Keep Calm Grow On is all about Growth, the name ADHD All Growed Up felt right. Not to mention that it’s totally a Rugrats reference for my fellow 90’s kids 😉 Technically the All Growed Up movie came out in the early 2000’s, but whatever.
ADHD can be tough. We can struggle with anything from Anxiety to Depression to OCD. This group is a safe place to come and just get it all off your chest, whatever it is. It doesn’t even have to be specifically about ADHD. Maybe you had a horrible day at work. Your ADHD buddies will be the best buddies to cheer you up, what with all their empathy and sweetness.
Ask your fellow ADHDers if they also leave the house with their slippers on at least once a week. Ask them if they have recommendations for music that helps you concentrate. Ask them whatever you want!
Share your own stories, tips & advice. Share memes, articles, and studies. Share anything you think your ADHD friends will appreciate. If it happens that you share something that isn’t accurate or legitimate, we’ll let you know. But unlike the rest of the internet, your ADHD peeps are super nice and respectful so we’ll go out of our way to prevent your feelings from being hurt of course.
This group is a place for you to let loose and be your truly wild and creative self. You can curse, be silly, be serious, write posts that are wayy too long (that’s me. I do that.)… We don’t want the watered down version of you here. We want the real you. We’re just as ridiculous as you are, so you will be in good company!
So what do you say? Are you as excited about this magical group of ADHD friends as I am? If so, head on over and introduce yourself!
A: Absolutely!! I didn’t really think about it like that, but it truly is empowering to know that I could leave my day job TODAY if I were to want to. I don’t have to be stressed about whether I’m going to receive a 2% or 3% raise at the end of the year for a job well done. I already know I’m doing okay; my clients are happy. That is the most important thing. They’re happy and they continue to invest in the software that my company creates. That’s all the validation I need. Because my income is supplemented in a big way with real estate, I don’t have to push myself or stress about my sales numbers for the company and job. Don’t get me wrong, I do push myself to overachieve again the expectations! As a result, my numbers are good, because I’m not desperate to land the next big contract. I’m more relaxed about things at the workplace. So, yes, that is super empowering!
People frequently talk to me about wanting more time with their families. At the same time, they tell me they want to move up the corporate ladder and land that new promotion. That just happened again. I recently hosted a dinner at my home and a good friend of mine told me how she would love to have more time with her family. In almost the same breath she said she wanted a promotion. I chuckled and she asked me why I was smiling.
“You do realize that you’re not being coherent with what you say you want and the actions that you are taking, right?” Typically getting a promotion higher up the organization doesn’t equate to spending more time with your family. It doesn’t work that way. The higher up on the ladder you climb the less time you will have with your loved ones. That’s just the way it works. Your job, more and more, takes precedent over the other parts of your life. If what you are saying when you tell me you want a promotion is really that you seek to be viewed as more capable by others, you have it all wrong. Self-worth/capability comes from within and knowing you are doing a good job, no matter what, and without having to be promoted.”
getting a promotion higher up the organization doesn’t equate to spending more time with your family. It doesn’t work that way. – Tweet
A: Wow… well, like I said I became driven at a young age because I thought money is what I was seeking. Money would change everything. I could buy cool things and live large. But that’s not it. Today I know that money is simply a vehicle that allows me more time with my family. Having money that I can count on month after month means I can pay for memorable vacations and give to charities, and not compromise when it comes to living a lifestyle my family and I want to live.
Going back to my upbringing, I know what it’s like not to have money, not to have excessive amounts of food in the cupboard and not to have some of the fun extras that the kids from wealthier families tend to take for granted. It isn’t their fault. They don’t know struggle or counting pennies to buy food or pay for bills toward the end of the month. It’s something I do know well. I remember dinners sometimes consisted of cereal. The big dinner question was which cereal we would have… Captain Crunch or Frosted Flakes?!
Q: You know what’s funny? I used to cast a pretty wide net, but over the past 2 ½ years I’ve really honed in not just on my business and my goals, but also on the type of person who is best to work with in my deals. I will not work with just anyone; there is criteria. If I look at my current pool of people that have invested with me, their profiles include these elements.
While this may shock some people, I’ve come to the realization that my clients are typically people who have a minimum of $50,000 to invest in real estate my real estate projects. Life constantly teaches us lessons and I’ve learned that this type of client has a certain level of curiosity and sophistication that allow us to be able to work together and create a win-win. They typically have the same type of very direct, relevant questions that demonstrate that they’ve done their homework. This usually manifests itself in a way that shows they are a more seasoned as an investor.
In my experience, the larger the investment the fewer questions investors ask. Like me, they’ve already been down a few rabbit holes. They’ve made mistakes from which they’ve learned, and they know the questions to ask. They want the upfront paperwork to move quickly yet understand the returns come back to them over time.
I guess you can say that over the past 2 ½ years I’ve figured out my client’s profile… the ideal person with whom I want to work! The ethnicity doesn’t matter; age doesn’t matter; the person’s sex doesn’t matter; their education level doesn’t matter. It’s more of a psychographic or mindset thing that matters. Does the person in front of me or on the phone understand investing at all? Does he/she understand how participating in real estate investing with someone like me, an active investor, benefits their life? Why are they looking to get involved in real estate investing?
If you’re reading this interview and feel like you might be my ideal client and you want to learn more about the different ways to participate in deals, let’s get together. If you’re in my neck of the woods, well, I want to meet you. I run Cashflow 101 games in English and Spanish, so there is plenty of opportunity to get to know one another, plus this is a great way to learn how to do deals in real estate! You can easily sign up to join one of my upcoming games here:
Q: Anything else you’d like to add about how you’ve changed over the past 2 ½ years as a real estate investor and multinational employee (i.e. – corporate warrior)?
A: All I can say is that if you had asked me about my goals when I first started KeePon Cashflow, I would have said that I wanted to quit my job in the next 12 months. I thought it was necessary to be successful in real estate investing. That’s because I was trying to replicate my mentors’ journeys. But that’s their story. Not mine. I’m happy with my work, but will change my role to facilitate more time with my family. I’m happy with where I am as a real estate investor, but I’ll be ramping up my efforts to get the next big multifamily property.
My goal is not to have 300 units (doors) under one roof if at all possible. That means I’m looking for big apartment complexes, which is something a little different for me. There’s no more playing small for me. I know I can reach my goal of 300 units. So why not see if I can get it in one big property? I know how to add value and earn more per door, so there’s nothing holding me back except me. So I’ll make time for that and let that be my goal in the next 12 months.
That said, I’d be perfectly happy to find 2 or 3 more multifamily properties that would bring me up to that 300-unit goal!!
I’m extremely excited about what the future holds for me and my investors, and I’m really happy to be able to help other people reach their goals. If I can be a part of their journey, that makes me smile. To start with me, all they have to do is contact me.
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