Year: 1873




] Church discourses as follows on the


question of marriage. It will be seen


that his views differ widely from those


usually entertained: ..t


When man and woman are of mar


riageable age, think it to be, in


general, true and wholesome for Them


to be married It is not necessary


that they should remain single because
they stand in poverty for two can
live cheaper than one, if they live with
discretion, if they live with cooper
ative zeal, if they live as they ought
to live. If the young man is willing
to seem poor when he is poor; if the
young woman being poor, is willing
to live poorly; if they are willing to
plant their lives together like two
seeds, and wait for their growth, and
look for their abundance by and by,
when they have fairly earned it, then
it is good thing for them to come
early into this partnership. For they
adapt themselves to each other in the
early periods of life far more than
they do afterwards They who mar
ry early are like vines growing to-
gether, and twining round and round
each other; whereas multitudes of
those who marry late in life stand side
by side like two iron columns, which
being separateda at the beginning,never
come any nearer to each other. Many
young men feel that they cannot mar
ry until they can support house;
yea, until they can make a show;
until they can live as their kind of
people, the class to which they belong
live, for everybody belongs to a class,
set. When they can do these
things they will marry, but not be
fore. And when they marry, they
make great mistake if they say,
1--WE will not undertake to keep house;
let us board. Then we can have the
comforts, of Life; we will have all the
appearance prouded for us; and I'VE
shall be relieved from thousand |
caresT There is no school thai. God
ever opened which young people can
SO Ill afford to avoid as the school of /
care and responsibility and labor in
the household; and young man and
young woman, no matter from what
source they came together, no matter
how high their fathers have stood, !
one of the most wholesome things
that they can do, having married for
love, and with discretion, is to be
willing to begin at the bottom, and
bear the burdens of household life SO
they will have its education. I tell
you there are pleasures which many
young married people miss. I would
not give up the first two years of mar
ried life for all have now. 1 live in
a big house with stone front. and
very fairly furnished; but, after all,
among the choicest experiences of my
life were those which I passed through
in Indiana, when I hired two cham
bers up stairs, when all my furniture
was given to me, and was second
hand at that; and when the very
clothes which I hadjon my back had
been worn by Judge Birney before
me. We were not able to hire a
servant. We had to serve ourselves.
1t was a study every day how to get
along with our small means, and it
was study never to be forgotten. I
owe many ofthe pleasures which yIhave
had through my life to being wiling
to begin, where Thad to begin and
to fight poverty with loTe,@and to
learn how to live in service and help
fulness and in all the thousand in
genmties which love sweetens and
makes more and more delightful


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