Year: 1871

'Set down your foot, aud then you'll
get 1t" said one lady to another the
other day In regard to buying sct Of
new elegant furniture for her parlors.
The lady had been purchasing the
"moss beautiful carpets you ever saw"
and now che was telling her friend how
much she wanted All entire set of new
furniture 70 match them. Her husband
Thought the old as good as lie could
afford for tho present, but the lady was
diAatlAiled. Ono new thing suggested
another, and such elegant csrpOts. mus'
have golden drsr<ry curtains, and th'
richest Of furniture to match. Wha
VIVA 10 he done? Must she ''set her foo
down" In order I" compel her husband
to buy what he felt he could i'll afford
Ii this the way the women OF tn,
present day are running their husbands:
Is this the example they are setting
their daughters, while training them In
their turn to become wives" Is 1t this
that causes 10 many family embarrass-
ments, % many quarrels, so many bust.
ness failures OF young men, so many
defaicationsS Is it the unwillingness OF
wives to conform to tho circumstances
Of their husbands, that causes half the
turmoil of the domestic circle?


think this Is a serious evil. 1t is the
chief reason why so many OF our young
men arc afraid to marry. Young men.
weli-born, high toned, and talented
among them sons Of our clergymen, and
literary men, who will not marry
beneath them attracted to the love
ly young ladies they meet In society;
but they sec them dressed like queens,
living In their palace homes tilled with
every luxury, and they are too proud to
ask them to share their small income,
and commence married life in a simple
transformations sty le, and wait patiently
for All honest man to acquire slowly an
honest fortune.


Take a physician, for instance, high.
torn, highly educated, ski!ful IN his
profession, but just beginning his prnc-
tice. with no pay from the poor. and lit
tie from the rich; how can he start in
life with wife? Evidently he cannot;
he must go without one until he has
earned enough 10 begin in style. II Is
the same with the young lawyer, and
with most OF our really valuable men;
they must all wait until they are able Ia
have showy wedding; take the fashion
able wedding tour; and then board ut a
costly place, or keep house IN the style
to which the fair one has been accus-
toned In her fathers home.


Now there nre ladils who perhaps
would sny they are willing to deny
themselves their accustomed home luxu
rics for the sake of q faithful loving hus-
band; but those men who would seek
such, are afraid to ask them, and afraid
to trust them. They so little know and
realize what it is to economize In perso.
nal and domestic expenditures, that II
would be dangerous to try them. The
wise young man Is fearful he would be
brought into perplexity.


How shall this state Of affairs DC ROM
edied? Cannot mothers fit their girls to
become wives of good, honest, talented
young men, who must work their way
up In the moreyed world little by little
and yet be considered highly respected
members Of society?


And yet how often we hear young
ladies exclaim, II sban't marry till can
marry money!" Young men stanG in
fear ofsuch girls; they are not worth
having. There 10 something wrong In
their training, or wrong In their charac-
ter. Become acquainted wi,hthe moth
Or Of the lady you may desire for wife,
study her well learn her views Of life,
and you will be pretty sure to find the
words Of Scripture, "As is the mother so
is the daughter" MATER.