Year: 1871

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tits generally observed fact, that, in


this country, a very large proportion of


the successful men are either the sons of


poor parents, erorphansrror half errhans;


and that compafaHfely Few sons of rich


men amount TO much IN any business or


profession, notwithstanding the superior


advantages they have of education, posi-


ton, and an inherited capital to start with.


The exceptions are usually, of course not


always, the Oldest children Of those who


have gradually grown up to wealth-Athose


who received their bent while the parents


were themselves too thoroughly occupied


to carry their children, and too economical


themselves to allow spendthrift habits in


their children. Another thing we have


observed is, that, other things being equal,


successful men come from large rather


than from small families. Threefourths


or more of the rich men, and the inhuen-


tial men of this city, today, have risen to


their present positions from very INDECENT


circumstances in early life. Why is, this


sop Is it necessarily so9 Must the we'll


to.do parent feel that after all his efforts
to acquire for himself and his family the
position that wealth gives, there ia some
compensating decree of Providence which


ordains that his sons must enter upon a
descending scaleY


Our observation has led as to the con-
clusion that two of the strongest elements
of success are, courageous Self-relidace, and


economy. The boy left poor orphan has


to fight his own battles. No rich father


furnishes him a carriage to ride, and so he


must walk--and he learns to walk. No


one reaches out friendly hand to lead


him, and he learns to GO alone With a


scanty supply of pocket-money, he is COM


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cling to him. "The boy is father to the


man" is trite saying. The poor boy comes


up to manhood, and instead of leaning
upon some one to aid him, or of waiting
for some one TO come TO his help, he strikes
out with feeling that, TO use vulgarism,
he must root, hog or die, and he roots
away. Look where You will, and you will
find that ninety-nine out OF every hundred
successful men are inspired with Just this
Sefretidnt feeling It is at the very foun-
dation of the go-ahead and getahead-your-
self spirit that animates them. The man
who was helped by his father when boy,
whose school expenses were paid by father
instead Of having to earn them himself,
whose expenses in preparing for his pro-
fessiop, or whose capital in starting bust
ness, came from some paternal bank, be-
gins life with dependent feeling, and it is
next to impossible for him to strike out
into the world with the.feeling thatwhat-
ever 1 am l must make myself; whatever 1
get | must get for myself The only son,
petted and aided as he could not be if he
were only zone of several" lacks this ele-
ment of self-reliance. Even in his Sums"
and his other school lessons, he is helped
out by his mother or sister, or perhaps by
father, or subservient teacher. 1t is a
very strong objection to private or home
schools and tutors, that with few pupils,
the teacher helps the children too much,
and they also lack the stimulant of compe-
tition. In large families of children they
have each to fight his own way along
among compeers, and thus healthful self
reliant spirit is acquired. .ts..-


We have said enough to illustrate our
idea. Let every parent consider the sub
ject well and see what he can do to culti-
vate this self-reliant spirit in his children.
Let the training begin in very early life.
Every time we see mother sit down to
work out the boys Sums for HIM, and
help him dig out his other lessons, we feel
that she is by so much teaching him to
lean upon others, and lessening his manly
If he is overtasked to alb
solute despair, let the task be lessened an
other time, but in every case let him pad
die his own canoe" Kindly encourage
him to do it, but do not do it for him.
While still very young, give him full
charge of some work that he must accom-
plish entirely without aid from others.
We think it well to give every boy on a
farm at least small plot of ground in the
care and direction of which he is to be alb
solute sovereign, suffering its losses and
enjoying its profits. In it's management
let him have little of your aid or even ad-
vice. He will thus both learn self-reli-
ance and be led to plan and study for
himself. Though there be q ascore of servants
in the house, the child should not harbor
the idea that he can run to them for every
thing wanted. In short, whatever the sta
tion, let the children have a considerable
number of duties and cares that they must
attend to without leaning upon any one


With this courageous self-reliance secur-
ed, a habit of economy-not mean or
miserly parsimony-will go far to ensure
mans success. We believe every boy
should have a money purse, and always
have something in it. If you can only
spare him three cents a month, let him
earn TO spend but two of them, and to
keep an account of the expenditures 1t
IS as important for him to do this, for the
habit it begets, as for the millionaire to
enter sale of hundred thousand. A
business man of our acquaintance, possess
ID of large wealth, came to this city almost
Denniless and engaged to work for q very
small salary. Himself and wife took apart
nents that allowed them to save 5000
year. While his fellow clerks tooka three
shilling noon lunch, he contented himself
with one costing half that sum, but quite
rs nourishing The money saved by these
,wo economies was just what he needed
when little business enterprise opened to
him, that laid the foundation of his present
wealth. Getting rich depends not so
much upon what man receives, as upon
what he saves The sons of the rich sell
lom acquire these habits of economy, but
where their fathers leave off,
hey retrace his steps, and they leave off
where he began-at the small end of the
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