Year: 1870




selves to their guests. And we would


respectfully call attention to few sug-


gestions, which if practically regarded,


might contribute little TO the comfort


of those who temporarily sojourn among
us.


Do not urge those TO visit you, either


by letter or by word of mouth, whom


you neither expect nor wish to accept


your invitation. Politeness requires no


such sacrifice Of sincerity.


When friend writes you that he is


coming to make you visit if agreeable,


reply at once, expressing your pleasure,


assuring him that it is quite convenient


and highly agreeable; or, as the case
may be, regreting that just now you can


not make it as pleasant for him as is de-


sirable. Be sure to have it understood


that it is your wish to see him-if you
do-and name some time when you will
J be happy to receive him as your guest.


If possible, meet your friends at the
, station. 1t makes them feel so much
more welcome. Don't begin by asking
them how long they are going to remain.
That will depend somewhat on their en-
joyment.


Don't offer to take their outer gar


ments as soon as they enter the house,
] expecting them to plunge at once into
, hard visiting; but after the first greet


ings are exchanged, conduct your friends
) to the room they are to occupy-having
previously sent their baggage thither
+ and leave them to rest and renovate at
: leisure. The toilette requires attention


after journey /; and no ones feels COM
Portable with the dust and CRIME of tray
ell upon him. A suit fit for travelling
t isn't always quite the thing for a parlor,
r and ladies, particularly, generally like
| to make themselves presentable before
5 being presented to the other visitors you


may happen to have.


9 Give your guests apartments as pleas
r ant and conve-ient as possible, with as
t many comforts as you can command
5 Let them find soap, water, plenty of fresh
t towels, clothes brush, blacking brush,
f matches, etc. Every one is expected to
: carry his own comb, hair and tooth
n brush.


IN No onooppt ;ntruda N ~oo,, y,oa.a
}. upon a guest, unless you have ascertain
it ed that it would be agreeable. A per-
e son of very much refinement Cont enjoy
= bathing and dres ing in the presence Of


spectators, even though friends of long
Y standing. And one must be brave in
/. deed, to attempt it with stranger pres
It ent. Besides the idea of sharing bed
0 with another, provided that the other is
# not of our own choosing, is about as re-


pulsive as an idea can be. But what
0 shall be said of the reality?
IS No guest chamber should be without


a stove, or some facility ior warming in
IS cold weather Dressing in the cold is
s decidedly comfortless though trihe
: more agreeable than running into the
e general sitting room with your hair fly
e ing, and half your clothing in your


hands, to make yourselfu up" there.
st Don't begin by bringing out your


boarded silver and china, and loading
e your table with delieacies: and by and


by come down to your usual style apollo
gizing by saying to your friends that you
+ consider them of the family-a doubtful
q compliment under most circumstances.
~ Entertaining is not always intruding
yourself upon guest every moment
u A quick PERCEPTION will enable you to
le see when your company is desired, and
T when it can be dispensed with.
le Do not allow your children-it is hop
5 ed you possess these treasures-to be
: bores, following a visitor about, even


forcing thems Ives into his room. These
y little folks are not remarkable for dis
III cretion and you have no right to ex.
10 pect others to tolerate their meddling
'' and incessant chatter as you do.
u Be ready to show your guests all the
0e objects of interest in the place where you
oi reside; but avoid that air of patronage
~ which seems to imply that another has
% seen very little of the world, if he hasn't


seen just what you have. In short make
4. it as agreeable for him in every way as
10 possible.


a Don't insist upon friends remaining
he longer than they find it convenient
ie When they go accompany them to the
~ railway station and if you are blessed
:, ~ with an abundance of this worlds good:
Vi and they are not, just place a ticket in


each hand. You can do this in some
III delicate manner and save the offence o.
- seeming charity.


u Follow these rules and your friends
!" will think of their visit as among tht
va pleasantest in their lives. And wher