Year: 1870

TO be eOntiHued.)





From the London Saturday Review.l
THE SWEETS OF MARRIED LIFE.
IN What They Consist and How to


Preserve Them.


Marriage, which most girls eonsid-
er the sole aim Of their existence and
the end of all their anxieties, il often
! the beginning of set of troubles
which none among them expect, and
which, when they come, very few ac-
cept with the dignity of patience or
the reasOnableness of common sense.
Hitherto the man has been the suitor,
the wOOer; il has been his meter to
make love, TO utter eXtTavagant pro-
fessiOns, to talk poetry and romance
Of an eminently unwearable kind and
to swear that feelings which, by the
very nature of things, il is impossible
TO maintain at their present state OF
fever heat, will be as lasting as life it.
self, and never know subsistence or
diminutiOn. And girls believe all
that their lovers tell them. They be-
lieve in the absorption of the mans
whole life in the love which at the
most can not be more than q part Of
his life; they believe that things will
90 on forever as they have begun, and
that the fire and fervOr of passion will
never cool down to the more manage
able warmth Of friendship. And in
this belief of theirs lies the rock on
which not a few make such pitiful
shipwreck Of their married happiness.
They expect their husbands to re-
main always lovers. Not lovers only
in the best sense, which, OF course, all
happy husbands are TO the end of
time, but lovers as in the old, fond,
foolish, cOurting days. They expect
a continuance Of the romance, the
poetry, the eXaggeration, the petitS
SONS, the microscopic attentions, the
absorption of thought and interest,
the Capitalization OF his happiness in
her society, just as in the days when
she was still to be WOD, or, a little
later, when, being won, she was new
in the wearing. And, as we said be-
fore, 4 wife's first trial, and her great
est, is when her husband begins TO
leave of this kind OF fervid love
making and settles down into the
tranquil friend instead.


LOVE MUST BE FREQUENTLY TX


PRESSED.


It is the nature of most women to
require continual assurances, Just as it
is with children and a very few be-
lieye in a love which is not frequently
expressed; while the ability to trust
in the vital warmth of an affection
that has lost its early feverishness is
the mark Of a higher wisdom than
most Of them possess To make them
thoroughly happy a man must be
always at their feet; and they are
jealous of everything-even of his
wOrk-that takes him away from
them, or gives him occasion for
thought and interest outside of them
selves. They are rarely able to rise to
the height of married friendship; and
if they belong to q Teticent and quiet
going mana man who says 81 love
you" once for all, and then contents
himself with living a life of loyalty
and kindness, and not talking about
it-they fret at what they call his
GOODNESS, and feel themselves shOrn of
half their glory and more than half
their dues. They refuse to believe in
that which is not daily repeated ; they
want the incense Of flqttery, the ex-
element of love making, and if these
desires are not ministered to by their
husbands, the danger is that they will
get some one else to understand
them, and feed the sentimentality
which dies Of inanimation in the qui-
ct serenity of home. MoOnlights and
a bouquet Of the earliest flowers care
fully arranged and tenderly presented,
and the changing lights on the noun
tain tops, and the exquisite songs of
the nightingale-at two o'clock in the
mOrning-and all the rest of those
vague and suggestive delights which
once made the meeting places of souls
and furnished occasion for delicious
rawlings, become by time and use, and
the wearing realities Of business and
the crowding pressure Of anXieties,
peurile and annoying to the ordinary
Englishman, who is not poet by ma
ture. when all the world was
young by reason of his own youth, [
and the fever Of the love meeting
time was on him, he was quite as
romantic as his wife. But now he is 4
sobering down life is fast becoming ]
a prosaic thing to him; works. taking 4
the place of pleasure, ambition OF I
romance he pooh-poohs her fond re- /
Of bygOne fOllies, and I
prefers his pipe in the warm library 4
to a station by the open window, /
watching the sunset because it looks /
as it dill on that evening, and shiver- |
ing with incipient catarrh. All this .
is very dreadful to her; women, un-
for themselves, remaining 4
young and keeping hold much longer .
than men do.


A GOOD CRY.


The first detection of this kind is a
pang the young wife never fOrgets;
but she has many more, and yet more
bitter ones, when the detection takes
a personal shape, and some pretty lit
tie attention is carelessly received
without its due reward Of loving
thanks. Perhaps some usual form of
caress is omitted in the hurry of the
work, or some gloomy an
of professional trouble
makes him ObliviOus of her presence,
or. fretted by her importunate atten-
tiOns, he buries himself in a book,
more to escape being spoken to than
LOL Luc UuoA ONu u4cLlls. many u
woman has gone into her own room
and had a "goOd cTyn because her
husband called her by her baptismal
Rame, and not by some absurd nick
name invented in the days of their (
folly; or because, pressed for time, he
hurried out OF the house without GO
ing through the established formula
Of leave taking. The lover has merged /
in the husband security has taken
the place of woOing; and the woman
does not take kindly to the transform
alton. Sometimes she plays dan
yerous game, and tries what flirting
with other men will do. If her scheme
does not answer, and her husband is
not made iaalOus she is ravOlted. and