Year: 1870

One of the few advantages of
being ''past thirty" is that one now
and then can put in word of good,
motherly advice to the other sex.
So I'll begin at once, and say to
any single gentleman reader of
HEARTH AND HOME who chooses to
listen-Don't stay too late.


At the store or office +? No. You
know very well / don't mean that.
I'm not fighting imaginary dangers,
but real ones. Imean simply don't
stay too late when you go to spend
a Quiet evening with young lady.
It's not fair it's short sighted and
it's pretty sure to wear out your
welcome. Even if the poor thing
is eventually to allow you to stay
until death doth you part, that's no
reason why you should bestow too
much of her tediousness upon her
at the outset When she really
wishes your visits to be longer,
you'll know it and even then be
chary of the moments after eleven.
At any rate don't suffer yourself to
be misled by the usual common
place forms of detention that in nine
cases out of ten, arise from a sudden
consciousness on the lady's part
that she may have been betraying
her weariness rather too plainly.
1t won't hurt you after you are
gone; but beware of ever causing
girl to give sigh of relief when
the hall-door closes after you.
There's sandman for the parlor as
well as for the nursery, and after a
certain hour, except in special cases,
whenever he finds the eyes too we'll
drilled to succumb to his attacks,
he sprinlzles his sand around the
heart. After that, your best efforts
to please are wasted. Every word
will CRATE, every winning attempt OF
yours be Iet only with the silicate
of emotion at best. l know all
about it. I've received young gen
tlemen callers In my day yes, and
enjoyed in receiving them, if ever g
girl did. I'd think all day that per
haps John, for instance, might come
in the evening. and on those occa.
sions I've gone down to tea with g
rosebud in my hair and happy
hutter in my heart. Yes, and I've
started at the ring of the door bell
and when at last he came in, smiling
and bowing, I've looked as if
didn't care single bit, There
were others, too-not Johns by any
means, but friends who were always
welcome, and whom it was righ
good and pleasant to see. But thai
fact didn't make null and void al
fsomnific law; it didn't make father
and mother willing that the house
should be open till midnight; i
didn't make it desirable that ]
should feel rebuke in everybody's
"Good-morning!" !" when, witt
throbbing head and weary eyes,
came down late to breakfast. No
you may be sure it didn't.


Therefore, I learned soon to
honor those who knew enough to
go when half past ten came; while
those who didn't know were thu
bane of my existence. How they
would linger and skirmish, ant
stand up and sit down, and mov'
about and look at the clock, and il
a thousand torturing ways say
"Good by'' without going-forget
ting that l couldn't turn them ou
of the room, yet judging by tina
token that their presence was nectar
and balm for all weariness


Now, never think that these
friends staid from kindliness tt
their weary hostess-not at all
They staid because they didn't know
enough to go. They liked III,
warm room perhaps, and dreaded
the cold street, but beyond that TIL ey
lacked the simple grace Of taking
themselves. off promptly and hand
somely. All! what a Gift that i:
in man or woman, to know when to
go, and. knowing it: to stand no
upon the order of going, but to &C
at once! | know few such per
sons. They radiate peace and rest
fulness, or they sparkle and scintil
late, or they arouse and inspire you
as the case may be. An hour glide:
away, and then another, and in th'
midst of another you are conscious


only of a gentle "Goodby' flash
and they are gone. Then a hun
dred things rush upon you-yol
wish you had asked them this, O.


told them that, you think how
pleasant it was to. meet them, ant
how you long to see them again.


| So. dear single gentlemen who
ever and wherever you are. the mex
time you go out to spend a quie
evening with a lady, remember m,
words. Young girls are human


they require rest and sleep; the,
are amenable to the benefits of do
mestic system and order; they hav


a precious heritage of strength
health, and good looks to guard
Above all, if they are true, sensibl


girls, they secretly respect a MAJ


who does not yield to the tempta
ton to linger past d reasonabl
hour. In word, though they ma,


be glad to see you, an evening visi


is not species of eternity.


Don't 60 too late, and don't g


by inches. "Gocd-by" is the flow


er of welcome. If you wish it t.
retain it's aroma, the fewer le,ves