Year: 1878

some /. -ES Advice y,"n 90 n Newly Married


DEAR OGRL:-It is to be presumed
that you have chosen a wife after mature
reflection, and not alone from selfish
impulses. Nevertheless, do not imagine
that you can possibly have foreseen all
the duties, responsibilities and even
trials to which married life may render
you liable. In your intimate relation
ship and companionship you and your
wife will appear TO each other in an en-.
tirely new light. You will find defects
in her and she in you, which can only
be properly met by one course, and that
is mutual conciliation. Strive to sec
which can exercise the greatest leniency
toward each other. The secret of hap.
piness in married life is mutual conf,
dence. Trust one another. Have nc
secrets from one another. By all means
never call in third party to interfere
in any way in any family jars. You will
be more than human if you and your
wife can always perfectly agree; but
while you cannot prevent differences,
you can prevent any evil consequences
arising from them. If you have
trouble keep it to yourself and wife.
Compromise will secure you undoubted
happiness. By all means never allow g
quarrel to last over night. There is
mischief in brooding and pouting.
Don't be ashamed by yielding when you
are in the right. There is no sacrifice
or self-denial in yielding only when
you are in the wrong. You must
consult your wife's whims and caprices
as we'll as her reasonable desires. Man
kind is generally governed by the pas
sions, not by the reason. There is no
excuse for tramping upon wife's de-
sires because you think them unreason-
able. Women have at times the priv.
lege of being unreasonable.


Avoid personal ha abits which are Of
fensive to your wife; or, if you cannot
avoid them altogether, avoid them in
her presence. Keep clear of your
wife's relations and have her keep
clear of yours in all business mat
ters, if possible. If either of you
should form antipathies to the rela-
tions Of the other those antipathies
must be consulted, and if not removed
must be respected, or else your family
| jars will be numerous and irreconcilable.
Let your married life begin with sys-
tematic frugality. Devote a specific
proportion of your income to the future
of your family. Your savings will in
this way augment almost imperceptibly,
and place you above asking favors.


Live within your means and nobody
will know how much you have ahead
bat the moment you borrow a cent peo-
pie know how poor you are.


The duties of house and family will
come soon enough. Therefore, take it
easy while you may in your early married
life. ... .... .....


Be patient, and wait and watch and
pray. just previous to the birth of
your child you will possibly find your
wife fretful cross, peevish, pouty and
troublesome, just as many good, kind,
amiable and loving women have been
before her. If such should be the case
don't get mad, don't expostulate, don't
rebuke or reproach her. The best
thing you can do is to grin and bear it.
The first smile of the baby will stop it
and pay for all you have endured.


Don't think yourself immaculate and
set yourself up as pattern for your wife.
If she wants to go to church and you
don't, remember that it may not do you
any harm to go to church. Don't scold
your wife, and don't beat your children,
if you have any. Teach your children
by example. Be copy for them. Ex-
cuse them for such of your faults as they
inherit. Don't bequeath them hasty
temper and then whip them for it.
Don't gossip before them and punish
them for gossiping. Don't prevent
them from romping or having minds of
their own. Don't frighten them with
ghost stories. Don't lie to them.
Don't you neglect to give them anything
you promise them-even punishment.
Don't forget that you were child once,
and do as you would have others do to
you.


Don't get crazy if you have few but
tons off your shirts. Remember all the
time that you are a poor, weak mortal,
liable to err, and in all probability no
more perfect than your wife.


Bathe often, look to your health, and
never go home drunk. Yours, Gus
ST. Louis Times.


The Big Bonanza Mine.