Year: 1874

Under date of August l6, 1865, she
speaks of Colonel Sawyer, who has


made many gallant speeches to her
which she did not like. She says, in con-
clusion, that SIZE dees not care how much
man loves her, nor how many adore
her; bat when man begins to talk at
her, then she does not like it. She was
willing that all the men should love and
adore her if they did not express that
love and alteration to her by words.


8 On the 22d Of August she again writes
that Hugh sends his letter with kiss to
baby. Hugh would be so delighted to
have child. There is no tie between
married persons like child. The ahec-
tions center mutually on their offspring,
and bridge is formed between the par
ents hearts that nothing can break down
or weaken. Nit


At the st. Charles hotel in New Or
leans, August 27 she writes: Hugh left
for Canton to-day. When Hugh is at
home she has nothing to do but to please
him. He spends all his time with her
at home, and they do nothing but eat
drink, sleep, and love. She speaks of
her loneliness in the great hotel, know
ing no one, but feels better satisfied than
in St. Louis. She goes on to say Hugh
leaves nothing undone that could in
any way contribute to his wifes
happiness. In New York all was
luxury, but ahe did not appreciate it.
Hugh had their rooms in the st. Charles
painted, and told her to buy some new
carpets. She felt that it was wrong to
encounter acquaintances under false
name. She would be tortured con-
stantly. Hugh has bad set Of fellows
about him, who eat, drink, smoke and
win his money at cards. She records
the fact that she had taken an oath that
she would never permit Hugh to play
cards again. 1t is sinful to thus fritter
away his time and waste his money.
Biography teaches that no good man
can raise bad associates to his level.
They always drag him down to theirs.
Hugh never looked into French book
after he went away from her. They be-
gan German, but Hugh soon tired Of it.
Still she thought that Hugh desired to
improve himself. The great drawback
to improvement is selfindulgence and
riches. A rich man has no occasion to
be self-reliant. If Hugh were only poor
how much better he would be. Work
brings the most happiness, for man
who is busy has no time to be unhappy.
She goes on by saying how much she
wishes that Hugh would take up the
study of some familiar science with her,
so they could always work and study
together, and never be separated. Well
chosen acquaintances are doubtless an
assistance, and influence man for
good. One of the greatest banes of
wife's life-which sometimes wholly de-
stroys her happiness-is the club,


Under date of September I, 1865, she
records that she has written the first ten
pages in her journal since she took upon
her the title Of wife. 1t is only three
months since their marriage.


September 9 she writes that she spoke
to Major Lanier about saddle horse,
and he said that he would procure her
one and would ride with her. She adds
that her situation is very embarrassing
here lat the St. Charles HoteL) She
would go to Europe alone, but she knew
that if she did Hugh would gamble away
every cent he had, and she would have
to beg her way home. She loved to pic
ture the future, when she and Hugh
would be united, never to be separated
again. All their troubles would then be
over, and they would be supremely
happy. Their marriage had been a
marriage of love- they had every
pleasure that money could buy, and
they should be happy in the future
Then she soliliquizes, ITO be happy
together we must forget the bad and
remember the good. / love to bear with
his faults, and he has to bear with mine.
/ will study his DESIRES and try in every
way in my power to add to his pleasure
l may sometimes be sorely vexed at his
opposition to my desires, but should
take no pleasure in anything that he
objected to. We all have faults, and we
are certain to disagree at times; but we II
kiss and make up, and love each other
all the better afterward." ~


Again, under date of October l6, she
says that the link between man and the
brute must be very close one. Great
Heavensl who could disguise their con-
tempt for dissipated persons2 She adds
that she feels so sorry to see Mr.. Brink
ley associated with such prodigate men,
She speaks of the marriage of dear
lady friend to a rake named Burns.
Afterwards she says the hotel is becom-
ing quite gay. She describes supper
that Major Lanier gave in his room, and
relates how he seemed smitten with the
charms of young French lady.