Year: 1867

as the man to do that, and | know of no
woman in the circle of my acquaintance
who would not be content, for the sake of
the man she loved, to cast her lot with him
and make his interest III every way her
own | believe the young woman spoke
the truth When | hear a man living in
chambers and constant in his attendance
at play and opera say | dare not marry,
because | know no woman would be con-
tent TO live as one should have to live,' |
say to myself. it may be true, but 1t looks
very much like old Adam, who ate the APP
pie and then turned around and laid the
blame on the woman. Let this be az 1t
will. Here is the dismal fact staring Us
everywhere in the face, and in no place
more painful than in our own city, that for
social, conventional, or still worse reasons,
the best youth of the country is held back
from its most sacred duty as we'll as its
most perfect felicity-falls into the sad
mistake ola long engagement. in which the
pain and disappointment bears hardest on
the woman; or the young man shuts his
eyes and his heart when the spirit walking
among the golden lamps whispers to him
of some maiden, That is thy wife and
says No, not yet for many a year to come
and so marries at last away on in life,
when both lines have become set in their
own fashion, and their love is hardly long
enough to give them the kindly mutual for
bearance toward what is dissimilar in char
acter and disposition, until they can become


Self-reverent and reverencing each


Alike in individualities'
and the best of the days of the best of
our youth 90 by and find | dare not wait
upon | would


" In the name ofall that is sacred, l ask
why this is, and get for my answer We
cannot afford it The young farmer can
afford it Oh the prairie; the miner on Su-
perior the woodman on the peninsula the
carpenter at his bench the smith at his
anvil: the operative al his frame or loom
the 'longshoreman and the sailor. That
cluster of men down there in Pennsylvania
and those III Yorkshire whose mere young
men were with me long years ago, lost no
time and asked few questions, because some
night instinct told them they must do that
or worse-worse in any and every way they
could look at it and so | can remember,
as if it We're yesterday, how speedily these
found the wife and went to housekeeping
in one room or two. as they could manage
it, and made the hammer ring with new
music, and gradually got their house and
household goods, and the world has never
failed them, no. not for day: but through
dark future and bright and sickness and
strength, they have found the deepest ex-
periences of their life each with the other.
for Great Heart and Interpreter 90 togeth-
er on their pilgrimage, and now they see
their children coming up to manhood and
womanhood about them, with the freshness
Of their own youth in their hearts, and
know, though probably they cannot tell,
the deep content of a life ordered after the
fashion God gave them when he created
them man and woman.


But here are men with noble powers,
with faculties that willinsure them greater
place, living III the most plentiful land on
the globe, evening themselves through the
years OF their youth with the poor lost tribe
OF ballet-singers, the loneliest of all those
to whom God had given a chance, and when
YOU get at their real reason it Is either one
or the other of these. They cannot believe
what, if they have lived in the country,
they have seen twenty times TO be true
uI the blTus tudl snug aDout US every
where: that new exigencies tap new ener-
gies, and the little fellow who. a few weeks
ago. had quite enough to do to take care
of himself, is now caring for a nest-full Just
a. successfully. They do not believe that
the Maker who made their life of itself a
natural prayer for daily bread, has provided
that the answer shall be equal to the cry;
or when they pray they mean by daily
bread board for two at the Sherman, the
privilege to attend parties three times a
week throughout the whole winter, to take
a trip 10 Saratoga in summer, and miss no
chance at any other pleasure, however ex-
pensive Let it be that or shred Of that
which makes this failing in the flower of
the youth of Ameriea--the men from Har-
ward and Yale and all of their fine quality
and the thoughtful cannot but deplore
the education that can curse the blossoming
of youth to come to such an untimey end