Year: 1874

Law upon--as q matrimonial considera.
tion. II may he taken for granted,
though ! do not positively assert il, that
girls sre not In the least grateful to be
married without Il; for the very reason
that Il Is human nature--masculine, o.
we'll o. feminine nature-to believe that
we are chosen and accepted for our in.
trinsic merits.


Now, Q portionlers girl is pretty sure
to believe that her attractions in other
respects quite account for the circum,
stance of husband not wanting dover
with her.


But still. To put the argument on a
low ground, IL is unque-tionsbly not the
hest policy to get married simply for q
fortune. The cases where men have
paid oti their debts by this process do
not look well when closely investigated !;
for, after the debts are paid of, there is
still the wife to live with. who will
never forget the boon which she has con.
ferred.


A suitable woman, with money, has
an additional charm, especially If she be-
long to class who do not regard il as
the one great aim, object and result Of
life.


A good man and worthy husband will
know how to treat, and will treat good
and worthy wife with love and respect.
Her image Is reflected in him. No mat
ter how great q man may be. no matter
how austere and strong-minded he may
be, 50 that he loves her. II u then,
when inspired with divine passion and
divine tenderness for her, that he feeIs
her influence every day. A power
within him, which otherwise might have
slumbered unknown or unforgotten, is
exerted by her loving words, and her
womanly dependence upon him for
strength.


In the language of Bulwer: "Her
image CLOSED in his soul, lures him on
to those inspiring tolls by which man
masters men,


To the potent influence Of either a
wife's or a mothers love, how many Of
our greatest statesmen and sublimest he
roes attribute their success.


II il not woman alone who must have
something to love. Man needs the same
stimslant to raise him from the state Of
thraldom in which the cares and ankle
ties of an every day life usually plunge
him. What friend can take with him
the place of q wifei Who can sdminis-
ter consolation ~ she does, 20 free from
suspicion or the hope OF interestedness
other than that of holy and tender de-
sire and deep anxiety to make him hap
pyf Let all the world forsske and
abandon him, let trial come upon him,
let calamiiies befall him, yet in her
presence. and crowned with her fond af'
fiction, q harbinger of truth and love
and devotion can always b. found.


Some women forget thae men have 4
yesrning for disinterested love. All!
once convince 4 man that he Is loved for
himself. independent of his wealth, or
his sta ton, or any of the advantages of
which he may he possessed-let him see.
say. that he is beloved for himself, and
you eau make him your slave for life?
Men are more generous than women
they are more susceptible, more con-
& ling, more tender, more faithful, more
sincere.


Bless good man, or even bad one,
with noble woman for a wife. and you
will see that he is capable of performing
things that would discourage him had he
not some one to offer him those little
words of consolation and cheer, that
have lightened the burden of many q
heart. Never mind the odds against
you! I'm here, believe in you, j love
you"


A man who possesses the affection and
the respect of his wife, POUNDS his do
nestle happiness upon a rock which
withstands all storms. And the fault
lies at his own door if he ia Is to attain
eminence and honor But if a man
marriss, and, by deed or incompatibility,
dicovered to late-fails to possess or to
retain her love; if there are no loving
eyes to watch for his coming, no loving
arms to encircle his neck, no loving lips
to give him greeting when he retires
from the cares and tolls OF the day. let
women rest assured that to that ambi-
ton and hope and peace and content
ment are lost mirages that float above
the desert-sands Of barren and sterile
life-a life that has no "beyond" bright
er than the grave.


And now about a house.


In the first place it should not be too
large; a husband should never be able
to hide away from the smile or the kiss
of his fresh young wife. Nsr should it
be too elegant for the "wear and tear
of every day life. The more sunlight
the more joy. 1t should have no dark
ened state chambers--no company ele-
gance. Everything for thee and me,
should be the happy thought whatever
door opened or closed.


There should by all means be pet
bird, a pet cat and pet dog about the
premises. These attach one to domestic
life.