Year: 1859

1t is compliment to him. 1t displays a de-
sire to maintain the charms which first attract
ed him, and to keep in tact the silken bonds
which her tasteful girlhood had fastened to his
fancy.


have seen things managed very differently
from this. have known an undl lessed head OF
"horrid hair'' worn all day long because nobody
but the husband would see it. l have seen
breakfast dresses, with sugar plantations on
them OF very respectable size, and most disagree
able sickness. In Short l have seen slatlerns,
whose kiss would not tempt the hungriest her
nit that ever foreswOre woman, and was sorry
for it. have seen them with either collar or
zone. with person which did not possess a
single charm to husband with his eyes open,
and in his right mind. This is all wrong, young
wife, for there is no being in the world for whom
it is so much for your interest to dress as for
yolr husband. Your happiness depends much
on your retaining, not only the esteem of your
husband, but his admiration. He should see no
greater neatnesS, and no more taste as to mate
rial and fitness, in any woman'S dress than in
yours and there is no individual in the world
before whom you should appear with more thor
ough tidiness of person than your husband
If you are careless in this particular, you ahso
lutely throw away some Of the strongest and
most charming influence that you possess.-
| What is true Of your person is also true to your
| house, Ifyour house I've disorderly, if dust COW
er the table, and invite the critical finger to
write your proper name; if the furniture look
as if it were tossed into a room from a cart; if
your table cloth have a more intimate acquaint.
ance with gray than with soap, ard from cellar
! to garret there be no order, do you blame hus-
band for not wanting to sit down and spend his
evenings with you? I should blame him, ol
are not so sensitives as am. should entertain
all proper excuses.


Still again. have YOU anything to talk about


anything better than scandal--with which to
interest, and refresh his weary mind? l be-
levc in the interchanging Of caresseS as have
told you be fore but kisses are only the spice o
lie. You cannot always sit on your husbands
knee, for in the first place it would tire him,
ana in the second place he would get sick Of it.
You should be one with your husband, but ncv-
er in the shape ofa parasite. He should be "a
BILE to see growth in your SOUL independent of
him; and whenever he feels that he has receiv-
ed a stimulus to progress and to goodness, you
have refreshed him, made a great advance to
his heart.


He should sec that you really have strong
desire to mike him happy, and retain forever
the warmest place in his respect, admiration
and affection. Enter into all his plans with in
terest. Sweeteh all his troubles with our sym
pathy. Make him fee that there is one ear al
ways open to the revelation of his experiences
and there is one heart that never misconstrues
him; thai there is one refuge for him in all cir.
cumstanceS and that in all WEAKNESS o body
and soul, there is one warm pillow for his head
beneath which a heart is beating with the same
unvarying truth and affection, through all glad
ness and sadness. A husband who has such a
wife as this, has little temptation to spend much
time away from home. lie cannot stay away
from home. He may meet man. but the
man will not long retain him from his wife. He
may go to the "post office" but he will not cal
upon the friends wife on the way. He can dt
better The great danger is that he will love
bis home too well--that he will not be willing
to have you visit your aunts or cousins, nor
without a groan, accept an invitation to tea, a
your neighbor's