Year: 1869

LOVE AND MARRIAGE.-That love is the leading
element of the highest happiness in marriage;
that love, while it lasts, covers a multitude of
errors, privations, misfortunes-even sns-I do
not doubt. But the question is, how far is love,
when unaccompaned by any other of the condi-
tions which have mentioned as belonging to a
perfect marriage, itself justification of marri-
age. True love works wonders but it cannot
prevent the physical and mental ailments which
develop themselves in people of feeble organism.
1t cannot supply lack of intelligence, want Of
force in either husband or wife and, as all
housekeepers know, it cannot "make the pot
boil.n Love alone, when consider its pro-
verbal instability, and the small chance it has
of surviving under bleak conditions is certainly
an insufficient capital upon which to commence
the partnership of marriage. This is true of
| even the highest and strongest love; how much
more so of the haSty and passionate attachments
which lead to many thousands of marriages
There is an infinity of false sentiment about the
passion of love- While would not cast doubt
upon the existence of noble love, of devotion,
and of passion, which no sorrow or trial can
tire which is even refined and strengthened by
suffering yet the value, the Office, the very ma
ture of love in our ordinary life sgreatly mis-
understood. Love is the most exaggerated pas
sion in literature. 1t holds in our imaginations
a position which it does not hold in the life of
one man or woman in thousand. Being
the supreme passion of modern art, )" says re-





high its praises. We should suppose, if we read
only novels and poetry. that the one thing in
teresting in life is the relations of the sexes and
the anxieties Of pairing Many young people
are so dizzy with love that they are unable to
go on with the other interests of life. They can
not see they are engaged in their daily
work pursuing their various ends, and living a
multifarious life, of which love is but single
element" Our regard for the passion oversteps
the healthy limit, and becomes morbid ; we judge
of it untruly; we read it incorrectly; we attend
to its promptings with absurd expectations
we teach ourselves that the passion is uncon-
trolable and regard it as kind of fate and we
glorify the supremacy of first love, as If the
heart did not require training rs varied as the
intellect Considering the widespread misery
which our misconceptions of love has wrought,
we might doubt whether this passion was not
the greatest misfortune as well as the greatest
blessing in the world. We may conclude, in
spite of Chaucer, that Loves allegiance is not
the only thing needful to make permanently
happy marriage.-Gatd1y.


ETIQUETTE OF INTRoDuCrIoN.-There many
persons, says an exchange, who would do al
most anything rather than to introduce persons
to each other. Many are SO embarrassed in the
attempt as to suddenly forget the name of one or
the other parties, and oftentimes of BOTH There
are certain rules of etiquette in regard to intro
duction which, if studied would lessen in a
great degree the embarrassment consequent upon
the performance of the ceremony. To introduce
persons unknown to each other is to undertake
serious responsibility, and always involves the
Endorsement to each of the other. This respon-
sibility should never be undertaken without first
ascertaining whether it will be acceptable to
both parties to become acquainted with each
other. Always introduce the gentleman to the
lady-never the contrary. This rule is to be OBJ
served everywhere, socially or otherwise. The
chiyalry of etiquette assumes that the lady is in
variably the superior by the right of her sex,
and that the gentleman is honored by being pre-
sented. Where the sexes the same present
the younger to the elder, the unmarried to the
married, or the inferior in social rank or talent
to the superior. A gentleman should never be
introduced to lady without first asking her per,
mission.