Year: 1867

Weddings.


Faith" in the Independent, discourses
thus of Weddings:


Did any of you ever think for an in
stant, what prompts nine-tenths of the girls
to marry, anywhere from eighteen to TWEEN.
ty-fve? Is it because they are 'sdead in
love" with the object of their choice p
" Nothing OF the sort = rather from this
truth-that they'd Idle before they'd be
old maids" Then, too, its grand, very
nice thing to have an elegant wardrobe,
not to mention the sensation they make
when they are married. Shame colors nv
cheek ut the remembrance that my own
sex are not truer to their higher princi-
pies in this matter. And. much as dis
like to say it, will in justice to the race,
affirm that more men marry for love than
women. The great mistake of both par
ties is: They marry for halcyon days alone;
they think of naught but the ruby.hued
joys they may quaf while the sun shines.
The evil days-when the bright cheeks
pale. teeth gone, hair thin a, d gray--are
not reckoned as part of their lot. They
query not Of their own hearts Is your
love and devotion wide and strong enough
to endure to the end No it's not those
thoughts that fill their minds. IT. our
house, our carriage, our servants we will
keep now, or some time when the papas
die and leave the pockets. Isn't it so, girls
and boys? The woman rarely hears the
"still. small voice" that asks Should your
husband prove unsuccessful in his future
business career, could you, with bonny
sweet smile say, Never mind, we'll
climb the hill together n and doing your
part well, make life blessing to both p
No }; she doesn't entertain that, or the still
more important query, "If temptation as
sail the partner of your joys and sorrows,
and, he proving weak, fall into error, is
there love and devotion enough to sustain
you without ainching till you win him
back from sin and dissipation |" The con-
hict will be fearful and long hence, be
prepared, my sisters, to conquer in these
struggles, it they are sent upon you, ere
you promise to "love, horor and obey
And the husbands he quite sure that,
if the wife fades early and loses much Of
her girlish beauty, or if the hand Of dis
ease is laid heavily upon her, and she be-
comes lifelong invalid-is thix man sure
that he can resist the temtper and remain
devoted to his early love /? "Appear an
swer, man and wife," We young folks
are not wholly to blame-nay, indeed
Our fathers and mothers are greatly in
fault. They bring us girls up to suppose
that we must marry and start in life just
whore they are ending it and that it wo'd
be positive abuse to permit us to wed
man who would allow Us to keep house in
anything less than two stories, with the
same number Of hand-maidens. Well,
there are not many Of US who could do
with less for the proportion is small
of those who know how to perform the
slightest household duties. Save your
hands, girls always dress up early in the
morning, and keep so all day, lest you fail
to marry q fortune. The boys are no bet
ter of. A family is deeply afflicted if
their promising son-their hope, Joy and
pride--casts an admiring glance even on
an honest girl who sustains herself. No
style, no fortune, "no nothing p "Sparo
us this disgrace; my son y And he gen.
orally complies, and marries Flora, the
dear girl who has nothing to wear
No matter If the pas and mas did use to
work that's by-gone-so let it remain
Oh, indeed, there's SO much to say that one
needs huge book wherein to place it all.
and tremble lest I've already weaSied
you with that which, assure you, Is only
meant in kindness. But leave you now
to your own reflections, hoping that some
grains Of good may fall in rich soil, and
bring forth some tempting fruit.