Year: 1859




Something is the matter; has the servants
worried you?' No. impatiently, as.if you
were tired of the questioning, well, what
is it ? something is wrong Nothing Get
up now and walk to some other part of the
room; be busy about anything or nothing, it
makes no difference what, ifyou but show
your indisposition to converse farther. But
Ihave no doubtyou have accomplished your
end, in so far as that end hes, in making him
uncomfortable. he will scarcely attempt
another conversation, though I opine his in.
ternal sentences rival yours in brevity,
though they be of the ejaculatory order, and
pronounced with an emphasis, thatyou would
deem neither hattering nor commendable.-
I would not like to accompany you through
the intermediate stages of coldness, sullen-
ness, peevishness, fretful pickering, sarcas.
tic recrimination; it is picture too abhor-
rent to contemplate. In sueh a household
the altar fire soon burns out, and from Its
ashes arises devouring element, that con-
sumes all the holier feelings of your nature.
But your grievance,is not fancied one; !;
there is 'head and front to the offending.
Then ten-fold is the necessity of loving
frankness. Tell him honestly, tell him can
didly; not in fretfulness; not in anger, but
with your hand in his; with your arm around
him, and you have conquered. Do not say
my nature is sensitive and proud. I cannot
sue where. I should assert, l cannot plead
where I should be interceded. Danish that
word pride from household vocabulary
when you are Independent of his love, in
dependent OF his care, Independent of his
trust, then you can glory in the unwomanly
trait, and exercise it to the utter annihila-
ton of all domestic happiness. To those
who are ambitious Of ruling, and consider
domestic life to be battle for supremacy
that makes one party odious, the other ty-
raunical, have nothing to say. There. is
but one thing worse than defeat which at
tends such pitiful, ambition, that is-an
!, ,inglorious: victory. ,Ye are to be pitied,
though despised. How can you respect
when you command! There is, however, a
gentle way of ruling, which involves no loss
of respect, and never fails with any gener-
sous nature to gaipits end. Would you learn
it2 Always giveup. Merge your own will
in his; you can do this without loosiug your
own individuality. It does not follow, tina,
you are to become either an ,automaton or a
parrot; you still have the privilege of assert.
ing your own opinion, but with an unwaver.
ing Difference to his, which will as surely
lead to consideration of your wishes, and
in this way woman may 9stoop to conquer.


And you, father, are not exempt from the
duty, nor should you exempt yourself from
the pleasure of making home happy Do
not bring your business cares and perplexi.
ties around yourhearth. Do not always. find
your children trouble, and frighten them
from you by harshuess and frowns. They
will love you if you let them; let not your
coming be- a signal for a quiet that is unnat'
ural, and often for tears. If your meals are
delayed by untoward circumstances, is it
kind to manifest impatient fretfulness? Try
if little encouragement would not cheer
the wife and mother, who has toiled as ear
nestly as you, and been subjected to griev-
ances which are to her as annoying as your
care has been perplexing. You have no
idea what tonic lies in your sympathy
Though many can feel for her, you alone
can feel aoiM her and knowledge that you
see and appreciate her endeavors, strength.
ems her for more strenuous exertions, and
gives her cheerfulness that robs her duties
Of half their burdens. Speak to her. when
you come in, if it is only to say well wife; !
or if arrived at matronly years, give her the
household name of mother The name to
her is. synonymous. with union, with dignity,
with affection. 1t is an acknowledgement
of your respect and love. Tell her some of
the current news of the day, or some matter
relating to your business interests she will
appreciate your desire to interest her and if
she, cannot direct you by prudent counsel,
she will encourage by afectionate sympathy
When disposed to chide her for frequent
tears, think if you do all in your power to
make her home happy. Perhaps you took
her from. happy household; how willingly
she resigned all for your love, you should
bost know. She sometimes in her loneliness
wonders if you have lost your love for the
wife you vowed to cherish, and sadly gazes
upon her pale face, and wishes for fresh
roses to WOO you-back. Gould you under
stand the bitterness of the tears, the dreary
loneliness, the painful dread she is not all
you wish or expected her to be, the woman's
fear, you would pity, you would do more, you
would encourage and sustain her. You
would find your reward in the cheerful house
hold, the happy hearth her joyous love
would make for you as we'll as in the peace
of your own conscience.


Exercise, patience and gentlencss with
bear and forbear with each other;
do not expect to find perfection this side of
heaven, but remember your own failings
when you would condemn each other, "a fel-
low feeling makes us wondrous kind,' and
your home will be, what it should be, an
abode of affection, of order, of comfort, and
of peace.


THE BANK OF ENGLAD.-The buildings
Of this great bank cover about three acres
Of ground. Many of its rooms are copied
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