Year: 1859

Interesting to Young Men-MatEi.


mony. &c.


Beauty-M;nd-Piety-Ns elevating
influence, Gc.-The following extract
from letter was evidently written by
zone who knows" and abounds in good
sense, as we'll as considerable knowledge
of "human natr,r"-especially the female
portion. We commend it to the perusal
Of all. old and young. married and single
the latter particularly:


In the element of purity doubt not
that women generally, are superior to
men, but it is very largely a negative
or unconscious element, and has not the
power and influence of positive exis-
tence.


Therefore, whenever you seek for
female society as an agency in the eleva.
tion of your tastes, the preservation of
your morals, and the improvement of
your mind, seek for that which is above
you. l do not counsel you to treat with
rudeness or studied neglect such inferior
female society as you are obliged to
come in contact with. On the contrary,
you owe such society a duty. You
should stimulate it, infuse new life into
it, if possible, and do for it what
you would have femele society do for
yourself


The matter of seeking female society
above yourself, carry still farther
Never content yourself with the idea of
having common place wife. You
want one who will stimulate you. stir
you up, and make something of YOU
Don't fear that you can't get such
wife. very we'll remember the reply
which gentleman who happened to
combine the qualities Of wit and COM
mon sense, made to a young man who
expressed fear that a certain young
lady of great beauty and attanments,
would dismiss him, if he should become
serious. "My friend, infinitely more
beautiful and accomplished women than
she is, have married infinitely uslier
and meaner men than you are" And
such is the fact. If you are honest
and honorable, if your character is spot.
less. if you are enterprising and indus.
trious, if you have some grace. and
fair degree of sense. and if you love
appreciatingly and truly, you can marry
almost anybody worth having. So, to
encourage yourself, carry in your mem
ory the above aphorsm reduced to a
| form mething like this:


Infinitely finer woman than l ever
expect to marry, have loved and mar
ried infinitely meaner meu than l
am


The apprehensions Of women are finer,
quicker than those Of men. With equal
early advantages. the woman is.mole of
woman at eighte than q man at
twenty-on After marriage. as gen.
eral thing, the woman ceases to acquire.
81 HaHb that Il s66ouuid be tile case, but sim:
ply state general fact The woman is
absorbed in family cares. or perhaps de-
votes from ten to twenty years to the
bearing aad rearing of children--the
most digni6ed. delightful and honorable
occupation of her life. This consumes
her time, and in great multitude of
instances, deprives her of intellectual
culture.


In the meantime the man is out en-
gagged in business. He comes in daily
contact with minds stronger and sharp
er than his own. He grows and ma
lures. and in ten years from the date of
his marriage. becomes, in reality. new
man. Now, if he was so foolish as to
marry woman because she had pretty
form and face, or sweet eyes, or an ami
able disposition, or pleasant temper, or
wealth, he will find tuat he has passed
entirely by his wife, and that she is
really no more Of companion for him
than child would BE-. I know of but
few sadder sights in this world than that
of mates whom the passage of years has
mis- mated. A woman ought to have a
long start of man, and even then ten
to one, the man will come out ahead in
the race of loug life.


suppose that in every young mans
mind there exists the hope and expecta-
tioa of marriage. When young man
pretends to me that he has no wish to
marry. and that he never expects to
marry, l always infer one or two thi gs:
that he lies, and is really very anxious
for marriage, or that his heart has been
polluted by association with unworthy
women. In thousand cases we shall
not find three exceptions to this rule
A young man who, with any degree of
earnestness, declares that he intends ney.
er to marry, confesses to brutal nature,
or perverted morals.


But how shall good wife be won 4?
l know that men naturally shrink from
the attempt to obtain companions who
are their superiors but they will find
that really, intelligent women, who pos
sess the most desirable qualities. are
uniformely modest, and hold their
charms in modest estimation. What
such women most admire in men is gal
lantry, not the gallantry Of courts and
fops. but bolduess. courage, devotion,
decision. and refined civility. A mans
bearing wins ten superior women where
his boots and brains win one. If a man
stands before a woman with respect for
himself and fearless of her. his suit is
half Won. The rest may safely be left
to the parties most interested. There.
fore. never be afraid of woman. Wo-
men are the most harmless and agreeable
creatures in the world, to man who
shows that he has got mans soul in
him. If you have not got the spirit in
to you to come up to test like this, you
have not got that in you which most
plesses high souled woman. and you
will be obliged to content yourself with