Year: 1862

/ There are certain young ladies in the


world who hold peculiar notions as to the


attentions they receive from gontlemen.-


They seem to think that if man is polite


and agreeable to them-if he appears to take


pleasure in their society, and visits them


two nights successively, he is bound to pro-


pose marriage. Strange to say. some mann


mas labor nder the same delusion. A short
time ago a friend of ours visited young


lady three Or four evenings in succession,


and as he was leaving the house the last


time, the mother called him quietly into the


parler, and asked him what bis intentions


were Our friend promptly responded that


he had no intentions whatever, and politely


wishing the lady goodnight. left the house
! forever We live in fast age, and it won Id


seem that courtship must be conducted with


the same railroad speed as other things


nj arrlage is serious matter requiring long
and earnest confederation. Two young peo-


pie may be every thing that may be wished


for, they may be miable. affectionate, in
disposition, and yet, because their tastes do


not assimilate, they will live very unhappy
life together. How are. these young folks
to find out each others temper and disposi-


ton, if it is not by time spent in each others


company before marriage There can be no


doubt that The numerous unhappy marriages


which are made in the present day, arise
entirely from the fact that tho courtshIp is


too short. Marriage is not regarded with


sufficient reverence; it is often hurriedly
entered into and speedily repeDted, Truth
compels US to state that this is caused in
great m easure by our young ladies'. As we
have Just stated, they appear TO think that
if man is polite and agreeable to them, he
is in love, and is bound at once to declare
his intentions. They forget that in seeking
for wife, a man ought to look for some
thing more than bright eyes. brilliant
complexion and white shoulders. These
are all very we'll in their way but beauty is
evanescent, and the day will come when
other qualities are found necessary to bind
household together. There should be
congeniaitv of mind. temper and disposi
ton; there must be mn.ual epepdence an
mutual forbearance, all of which can not be
disc c,vered in the short courtships of the pre-
sent day. A girl. too. should remember that
patent leather boots, we'll fitting coat, and
unexce ptionable whiskers, are not the only
IN ings requisite for her future happiness Il
Her lover may be ''perfect duck" but it is
also necessary that he should have a little
manhood about him. or four weeks OF ma
trimony will dissipate her dreams, and she
will be compelled to settle down to the con
vjction that she has married a dolt, whom
sb @ must despise. The attributes of man
hood are not to bediscovered in two or three
intervie ws. II requires months to find out
osr.on's character and disposition. Com
plant is often m ade bv ladies that gentle
men are not polite to them and do not show
that respect which is dueto their sex. We
are ungallant enough to believe that the
fair sex have only themselves to blame in
the matter IF they would allow social in.
tercour.e, without expecting any thing m ore
from their visitors; if they would put down
politeness and agreeabeness for what it is
worth: if they would what read pro-
posal to everv compliment paid to them
.a~- -...~'I -.je,1;fe more: they would have
much better opportunities of judging of
mans real character. and by entertaining a I
larger rumber of visitors, increase their
chances Of meeting with men who assim late
10 themselves in disposition. and who would
make them loving, affectionate and devoted
husbands.