Year: 1863

and as it often happens, will take the road to


ruin, and seek at the ale-house, the gaming
table, or more indecent places, refuge from


domestic broils, the consequences of which,
Though often seen, are too disgusting for de-


tail


" 1t could not be deemed a compliment to


your husbands taste, to suppose he will be


entirely Indifferent to your dress, or pleased


to see you careless in this respect, either at


home or abroad Those wives have not re-


fected much, who think slipshod slattern


hazards nothing of her husbands good opin-


ion; or that the lack of neatness in domestic


dress is not certain indication Of her indo-


lence and the disordered aspect of her habit


alton. If your husband loves you, he could


not but feel somewhat of Disappointment


should the personal appearance Of his 'oite be
much inferior to that Of the girl he courted, or
to the generality Of those females with whom
you may happen to associate. He cannot but
make comparisons, and it should be your care
that they should not result in your disadvan-
tage.


Extravaganza in dress should also. be
avoided as i'll calculated to increase the res
pectability of a married lady, and it sometimes
occasions surlnises nowise creditable to the
female character. Indeed, you ought by con-
sulting your husbands wishes in this respect,
to leave him not doubt that your dress is
fashioned to ueethis appreciation, more than to
attract the gaze or gain the admiration Of any
or every other person. It may be thought
perhaps, by some, that the dress Of the wife
/ is to the husband, matter of very triaing
consequence but rely upon it, the effect Of
disregarding his opinions on this subject, is
not always wholly unimportaur


You have doubtless seen and heard
enough to know, that nothing short of crime
can mere impair the responsibility of a mar
ried lady, than often being seen at public
places unattended by her husband. Should
yours have no desire to be thronged with com
pany at home, nor disposition to seek it abroad;
or should you unfortunately aspire to live in
style inconsistent with his feelings or re-
sources, 1 have already said enough to show
you, that no action of yours savoring Of oppo-
sition, no look soured with disappointment, nor
expression tinctured with reproach, will dis
pose him the more to crafty your wishes.
That such means cannot succeed with man
of sense and spirit, is as obvious as the indis-
cretion through which they are adopted.


Abrupt contradiction Of any one, though
sometimes the effect ofan unguardcd moment,
is generally regarded as a sure indication OF
low and vulgar breeding; but such conduct
in wife toward husband, seldom fails to
render him ridiculous and her contemplate in
the estimation of all who may happen.to wit
ness such an instance of her folly and impru-
dence Much Of the respectabilty of the wife,
is reflected from the husband; and when she,
by her indiscretion, lessons lis, she is sure to
sink her own in public estimation.


"To conclude-I have voluntarily and per-
haps offciously offered you my counsel and
the best my judgment can afford. My mo-
tive is your good but it depends on yourself
whether or not it will be useful to you. But
keep this letter by you, and if at the end of
three or four years, you shall think yourself
not benefited by its contents, you have my
assent to burn it.


That the blessings OF health, peace, and
prosperity may attend you through life, is Il e
sincere wish and earnest hope of your friend"


TURKISH GALLANrRr.-A Mexican, when
you praise his horse, Immediately replies that
the horse is at your service; which means no
more than when in England you write to
man that you are his obedient, humble ser
want A late Turkish ambassador in England |
actually did what the Mexican phrase profess
ses to do. When any lady happened to praise
one Of the handsome shawls that decorated his
person, he Immediately presented it to her
This led to a very general expression Of admi-
ration tor his excellency's shawls, and in con-
to a great diminution of the ambas-
sadorial wardrobe. At last, when his excel
lency's stock was reduced to the one he wore,
upon lady's loudly expressing her admira-
ton of its beauty, instead of his former reply
-' Madame it is at your service" he said,
with Turkish gallantry, Madame, am glad
you like it; shall wear it for your sake"


An ARTrHMErICAL AcTUALITY.-A little fel-
low up town being little Short and lit
tie dry, walked into a store and purchased
three crackers; before paying, seeing that the
storekeeper had cider, he came to the sage
conclusion that he was more dry than hungry,
and asked permission to swap the crackers for
the cider. Biting off the end of the cider with
a smack of the lips, he turned on his heel and
opened the door to go out, when the store
keeper said:


"COme, pay me for the cider"


Didn't swap the crackers for the CIDER"
said the other


"Well then pay me for the crackers" said
the puzzled trader.


Haven't ye got them on the shelf? What
are you hindering me for, ye darned fool?
and off he went.


THE Oldest Of three brothers residing in
N. H, recently married quite
young girl; his next younger brother married
the girls mother, and the youngest took for
bis wife the grandmother. Cupid in our times
seldom brings about such a curious union Of