Year: 1863

insure The affections of the husband; for
when the causes subside, the effects must
necessarily cease, and then misery and
Iwretchedness will become the inmates of
your household.


"More of the happiness Of married people
is involved in their conduct during the first
year than in any succeeding period of their
connubial association. There are probably
but few instances where persons newly
married do not discover, and that too in an
early period of their matrimonial relation,
each in the Other, some trait of character
which had before escaped their observation
and much, very much, of the felicity of
their lives, depends on the course they may
pursue on those occasions. Should the
newly discovered faults or follies of the
husband appear to be such as to preclude
the hope of their being corrected, however
unpleasant the task, the wife's easiest course
viii be to endeavor 10 accommodate herself
to them. If she cannot bring her circum-
stances TO her mind, the alternative is to try
to bring her mind to her circumstances
Custom and habit tend to lessen the effect
of evils which cannot be DESTROYED; and
common prudence will induce her to conceal
from her husband her knowledge of those
faults of his which she cannot expect to
obviate, because it will not increase his
affections for her, should he think III It hers
for him are on the wane. If a woman would
correct the faults or follies of her husband
she should reflect that she can only do it by
means of her influence over him--that she
has, in general. no other influence than what
arises from his affections for her-that The
continuance Of these depends on the contin-
uauce of the causes by which they first were
kindled and you may rest that whatever
female patience, mildness, good-hnmor, and
tender aft ction cannot accomplish with
husband, frowns, sulks, sharp reproofs, and
ill-natured reproaches never can achievr.
BY the former he may be soothed and soft
ened into complisance, and willingly led to
abandon foible or fualt but the latter
will inevitably tend to sour his mind, to cur
die all the milk of human kindness in his
bosom, warm his resentment, excite his op-
position, and confirm him in error.


"My acquaintance with your husband,
has induced me to believe, that his whole
heart and soul accompany his affections and
aversions; and that it depends much or
mostly on the exercise of your prudence and
discretion, whether he will be to you kind
and tender husband, or an unpleasant and
nninteresting associate, Perhaps you are
row about to ask, if the ife must make all
and the husband no sacrifice to promote con-
nubial concord and domestic peace? /
mean no such thing-on the contrary. so
much depends on your mutual endeavors.
that without the husbands, the wife's can
not succeed. But the path have pointed
out for you to take, is the snrest, nav the
only one to be pursued to produce or continue
tn him the disposition to corresponding
course Of measures. Can that be cal ed n
sacrifice which promotes domestic bliss
As well may he be said to sacrifice his
money who gives it for larger sum.


" You will be disappointed if you expect
your husbands face always to be the sport
ing place of smiles and graces. or his mind
at all times attuned to the soft melody of
harmonious strains


'As well expect eternal sunshine cleudles. skies,


As men forever temperate, clam and wisc


Sickness, disappointment, and erplexity
in his business, and thousand nameless
causes, cannot but sometimes operate to
disturb his mind, depress his spirits, and
becloud his visage; producing, perhaps un-
usual taciturnlty, or a strain of language
MT remarkable for its mellifuent cadences.
This is not the occasion on which he is to
be met with a corresponding department on
the part Of his wife. It is rather the time
when the exercise of all her philosophy is
indispensable, time when her temper is to
be tried her heart probed, and her affections
put to the test the time when by her kind,
soft, and sympathizing language, and a coun-
,enance and conduct bearing testimony TO


its sincerity, that he is to be comforted at


least with the reflection. that he has friend


in adversely as well as in prosperity, part
ner in his sorrows as in his JOYS. l may
possibly be singular in the opinion, but /
could never entertain the fullest confidence
even in the Uirtue of that female whose
sympathies could not be excited 10y the
sorrows of o heis; and surely wife can
never appear so interesting and amiable in
the eyes of her husband, as when he sees
her melting with kindness to him, and sor-
rowing for his sorrows. In short it should
be The object OF your unrt mittrd attention.
to make him feel that his home is place OF
refuge from his cares, a sanctuary from the
frowns of adverse fortune. and he will seek


II as naturally as he would desire his own
felicity. But when a husband ceases TO
regard his home as the happiest place on
earth, he will shun it as he would fly his
troubles; and as it often happens, will take
the road to ruin, and seek at the ale-house,
the gaming-tabie, or more indecent places, a
refuge from domestic broils, the consequent
crs of which, though often seen, are too
disgusting for detail.


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