Year: 1869

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sweetheart! Prudence is good; but
is prudence servant or queen! is It
the dry calculation of the head leagued
with the pocket? Is there no pru-
dence in taste, nor prudence IN the
inspiration of a generous love? Is
there no prudence in the faith by
which, banded, two young persons 60
down into the struggle of life, saying:
Come veal, come woe, come storm,
come calm, love is match for circum.
stances, and we will be all to each
other ?" Woe be to that society IN
which the customs and the manners
of the times put on, beyond the peri
cd of romance and affiancing, the
wedding. You have adjourned the
most important secular act OF mans
life. You have adjourned it out Of
Eden into the wilderness! The girl,
next infected (and even women falD
with the public spirit, too often waits
to be wooed by those who can place
her again, in the very beginning of her
welded life, where she was when she
was broken off as branch from the
parental tree. But graft should
always be willing to be graft, and
wait till it can make its own top by
legitimate growing. And voc is the
day when every girl says: al will
not marry until my husband in the
beginning has as much as my father
had at the end of his life" For she
what is she? Who was it that Ju-
piter won in shower of gold? Who
ever it was, that is the type. She
whose heart is won by abundance;
she whose heart is bought into matri-
mony by house and land; she who
marries for genteel wealth-she it is
who that Jupiter seduced by gold.
For all wedlock is adulterous in which
it is not the heart that inspires mar
riage. Noble is the young spirit,
which, seeing, and loving, and choos.
ing, and silently biding her choice, is
won and chosen, and giving herself
freeley, romantically, if you will,
(God be thanked for the romance),
goes down to the level of her hus-
bands nothingness and poverty, that
she and he may, with willing hands,
from the bottom build up their estate.
Blessed is that woman who sees that
in going down she is going up, and
that it is the losing of life that saves
it. Blessed is that woman who car
ries with her into married life all that
she learned in the refinement of her
fathers family; who proves that she
i. woman in this: that gentleness
and praise and abundance and luxury
even, ministered to the better bart Of
her nature, and prepared her to 60
forth and minister earnestly aud per-
manently in the midst OF difficulties.
Thousands there are who, when once
they are called, and know their mas
ter, Love, 60 cheerfully out with the
young man and take part and lot with
him. Oh! that young men would
trust them more, and prove them bet
ter, and see if this is not so. How
noble a thing it is to see the cultured,
the polished and the refined, 60 down
to the very beginning of things, led
by love, fed by love, and at last re.
warded by love!


Live together alone. il you have to
go into the desert for it, and feed on
herbs Abhor Sodom and Gomorrah
or boarding houses! Men some
times speak of the meagre and pinch
ed fare. These are not worthy of
notice 1t is not these. 1t is that
men learn selfindulgence there. Men
learn there not to be householders.
And all that various discipline, all
that ministration of care, all that drill
of contrivance, all that social inde.
pendence, all that subtle atmosphere,
indescribable and nnanalyzable, which


belongs to the solitary household, they


miss. No man and woman can make
husband and wife, father and mother,
and householders, on the pattern of
their fathers, who begin and continue


their married life in this hot-bed style
of existence. And yet they are un-


willing to take house that they can
afford and they cannot afford to take


house that they fain would live in,


because furniture is so dear and virtue
: is cheap; because society requires a
certain amount of appearance, you


know; because it would not do to go


to the outskirts of the town! A log
cabin is better for young married peo.
pie than the Fifth Avenue Hotel would
be if they had the whole of it for
nothing What you get for nothing
is the least valuable to you of any


thing. What you earn is a value.


Under these influences the whole of


life is written in the wrong key. Men


having started on the false principle,
they do not get over it. They are


perpetually tempted to over-lie by


their very affections. If there is any.


thing that an honorable and sensitive


mans nature feels and cannot stand,
it is the silent comparison, on the part


of the wife, by look even, of the
way in which she did live, and the


way in which she does live. How


does this drive men into dishonesties !!


How does it drive them out of SIM
! plicity and out of bold willingness to
live according to their circumstances |!
How does it teach them to live for


other peoples eyes, and not for their


own actual needs How does it teach
them to be more subject to vanity
than to love! Such life is hollow.
Ostentation takes the place of SINGER
ity. And so, ere long, man is edu-
Gated to be rogue, and steals. And
woman takes on unvirtue, because that
pays the bills of extravaganza quicker
than anything else.


y A Scotch professor, in his walks
!, about Aberdeen, met well known


habituc of the town, of weak intellect.


Pray" said the professor, accosting