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Submitted by Ngorana of Sinivit, South Coast Baining, Papua New Guinea on August 7, 2012 - 7:49pm

I agree that some cultures and child rearing and discipline can be restrictive, but brought up in a similar manner does not mean that we do not value our upbringing - and i do not see it as 'dull' or 'boring' or 'wrong'!
From what I think, in the western society, perception of play and the correct form of discipline to be practiced on children is very different from the most cultures in the east.

I must say, that in the previous works stated in the essay, of the Baining people saying little or nothing in interviews is due to the fact, that if you are not a member (specifically foreigner) of the concerned society amongst the Bainings, than you do not necessarily need to acquire knowledge of their cultural or philosophical way of life - except if you are 'married' into the society, adopted or asked to be part of the society.
Baining people are very careful with what they say, and to who, especially about cultural practices - it is a taboo to inform foreigners about this.
We are people of little talk. We believe more in actions, and that people must read and interpret them correctly. Something of which our children are taught.

For Baining's of Sinivit of the south coast for example, play is accepted and taken as time-out.
However, adults instill in children that working such as chopping fire wood, diving for fish, gardening, building houses, hunting and gathering is crucial in sustaining your self and your land - especially for males at a later age.
Children are taught to be independent and self sufficient and less dependent on their parents or elders at a very young age. This whole concept of not allowing play in our daily lives to me is WRONG.
The notion of them becoming young women or men one day is embedded into our thoughts by our elders, and that how we are brought up by them will determine what type of adults we will become.
In return, the very existence and state of our land (our heritage) and its affairs depend greatly on our actions. We are taught to become hard workers and very private about our cultural affairs.

You see, before the colonial era, we the Baining's inhabited the whole of the land of East New Britain.
Invasion by a neighboring cultural group - the 'Tolai' people, forced us into the jungles and coastal area due south of the province.
Our forefathers lost most of our valuable land, and people to cannibalism, practiced amongst these invaders.
Then during the colonial area, the Germans enslaved them, forcing them into mining our alluvial gold and carrying them hundreds of kilometers inland and storing them away, in what was considered as sacred land - biding us against our cultural beliefs.
Stories of these past events have further created a sense of secrecy in protecting our cultural ways (specifically the fire dance), and our land especially.

Baining people do not depend on other related societies to survive out in the natural environment, and land and sea is seen as a commodity of which is treasured and priceless. 'You reap what you sow', is highly emphasized in our cultural society - something of which may be deemed archaic in biblical times....

And so, in my opinion the essay composed by Dr Grey based on some the works of Fajan's is quite biased if you ask me.
People do not have the right to be 'frustrated' when studying foreign cultures - you simply have to endure it, or stop wasting your time.
Culture is not just something you record, observe and interpret over time, its how well you integrate yourself into the traditions, beliefs and practices of the people of that particular heritage and understand it and its people.
Most importantly, you must respect these aspects, as not one culture no matter how much you see it as perfect, is seen as perfect or the correct practice for different cultural societies.