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I've had both good and bad experiences with meetup.com events.

Usually the problem is you join a group that already met a few (sometimes many) times together and you're the odd one. Of course some groups try to be really inclusive but that's not always the case.
Rarely you feel confident enough to engage in the topics discussed etc.

I guess it might be a cultural thing. Possibly it works better in countries like US.
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Get used to loneliness. I figured it the hard way, the more you try to get out the numbing pain of loneliness by trying to make friends, the more people do not want to make friends with you. Do your stuff, take music classes, listen to good music, become awesome at the thing you're already good at through practice and more importantly stop trying hard to make friends. Then you have a greater probability that you'll make some good friends.
I'd recommend you picking up a hobby where you'll have to interact with people. For example joining a beginner dancing class (salsa/mambo). It's a lot easier to start conversation with people who have common interest. It feels a lot more natural.
I'd also suggest to start working out a couple of times a week. It will make you more confident.
You also mentioned that you do a lot on your own. Don't expect people to invite you to events. Try to plan something on your own and invite them. Like movie/gaming night, barbecue and etc. That will show that you are interested and want to be friends with them.
As an adult it seems harder, but try to change your environment. You will adapt if you suddently live with roommates, and meet a lot of people on a everyday basis. The only hard part is not stopping after the initial failures; the best solution for this is to have no choice : for instance, apply for an internship in a big company for a year. Adaptation will come from effort and environment.

Good luck:)
Whatever your preconceived notions of psychoanalysis or any kind of therapy (the kind not involving drugs), I would strongly urge you to seek out a well-regarded and senior shrink or therapist in your area that you can afford to see at least once a week. I'm not sure how one finds a good shrink in your area. In New York, where I live, it involved reaching out to people I knew who had grown up here—I realize this won't be your strategy, but perhaps there are websites or organizations that can help direct you to a well-regarded counselor.

Think before you choose someone; this will be a person with whom you'll spend a lot of time talking about yourself. Is it a man or a woman? Are they middle aged or perhaps older? Are they also Asian, or perhaps with another background? Be honest with yourself about who you may feel the most comfortable talking to. Take your time choosing somebody, and then see them once a week. Don't expect results immediately, but if you can commit yourself to seeing someone regularly for at least six to twelve months, the results may well be life-changing, as they have been for many people I have known going through similar struggles.

If you are naturally suspicious of counseling or psychoanalysis, think about the definite upside of meeting with a shrink regularly: you'll have a regular opportunity to practice and hone your social and conversational skills, you'll get feedback on those skills from an honest professional, you will improve your ability to express yourself to strangers, and you will work on your general English speaking abilities that you mention are a point of concern for you. If your budget can sustain it, it may well be the best money you'll spend for the time being.
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Its just an "artisan" way of using techniques from industrial food manufacture. So buy junk and preprocessed food if you want the cheap option!
I think babies are the best way, actually. (I'm not advising the OP to have a baby, though, at this particular juncture, though it'd definitely keep him busy.)
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The first thing I would to is to become interested in your co-workers. Ask them about their lives, how they got to your company, why they came to your company, what they did before. Ask them about their views on current events. This is how humans connect, by being interested in one another. You might also want to read "http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influenc....

The second most important thing is to ask for people for advice (which is what you're doing right now). It can be work-related, life-related it doesn't matter. By showing that you are open for advice, you show that you value their point of view and you give them the opportunity to communicate what they're best at.

Regarding how to find the right girl, check out the Youtube channel from RSD Julien, the co-founder of Real Social Dynamics who is talking a lot about self-improvement and how to constantly expose yourself to things you are afraid of. But all in all, it's not about the girls, it's about you. So don't chase after girls, chase after your own best self and the right girl that loves you exactly the way you are will come automatically. He started out similar to you, not having many friends and being afraid of talking to women. Have a look here at his story https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GGp25fn25Cs
A few thoughts coming from a guy who used to be a shy introvert.

- Making friends involves truly connecting with people. Connecting with people means caring about them. The first step is to give a damn about everyone around you. How are they doing? What do they care about? What makes them tick? What problems might they be having?

- People love to talk about themselves. Ask them good questions, and actively listen (because as we said above, you care about them!). The more you get someone to talk about themselves, the more they'll usually end up liking you.

- Help people. It might be an old lady across the street. It could be a co-worker. Or, the person moving into your apartment building. When you can, help people (again, because you care about them :))

- Notice a trend here? I'll repeat it again. You are doing things because you care about others. The best way to stop being an introvert is to get out of your own head, and get into the head of others.

- Lastly, you'll be uncomfortable a lot. Some conversations will fizzle out. Some people might think you are weird. You might be out at a bar and have no idea who to talk to, or how to start talking to someone. Spend time being uncomfortable. Learn to deal with it. Sooner or later, you'll make small bits of progress. When you do, repeat what you did to make that bit of progress.

Hope this helps some!
Personally, I prefer paying (cash), because it changes the nature of the situation. As a free guest, you are - or can be - expected to participate in the hosts' events, such as meals, touring the city, etc. That may be great, and I might still want to do it, but I'd rather keep my options open in case I don't get along with them or I have different plans.
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> Value for who?

Well they sure as hell aren't passing it on to their employees; meanwhile, their stock is doing quite well...

> Wal-Mart delivers value for shareholders because they attract customers because they're cheaper and more efficient.

> (And the grocery market in general is anything but low-competition.)

Okay, so you've double turned yourself. Walmart faces lots of competition from local chains, which prevents it from screwing consumers on prices. Competition is good.

I'd argue they compensate by leveraging their market position to place pressure on their increasingly de facto vertical supply chain and by poorly compensating their employees.

> by spending more money on manufacturing and transportation costs and on people working at cash registers.

Of course, this ignores that many of those poor are the ones in the factories, warehouses, trucks and behind the cash registers.
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First of all, it's not lightyears, usually only a factor of two.

That's true if you're running java on the jvm, android uses dalvik which is nowhere near as performant.

https://code.google.com/p/android-benchmarks/
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That didn't last long. I remember reading about it for the first time on HN about 2 weeks ago.
But it does have a fairly tight integration with clojure, and also uses the JVM-based closure compiler. However, I'd way rather see a clojurescript runtime for v8 than another language "inspired by" clojurescript.
Yes, I agree. I was just explaining how it works :)
Uh, Aluminium/air batteries are one time use (not "rechargeable", rather replaceable) or there is major new chemistry. See my other comment re Al smelting and energy/CO2.

Edit: This is discussed in the previous thread, abalone posted a link to it.
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I doubt Safari would be foolish enough to not just redirect to google based on your DNS server telling them the domain does not exist. That would mean locally configured domains wouldn't work.

Check your DNS settings please, before making these kinds of statements.
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Hey, I feel you. I'm not Asian, but I'm introvert. I'm a tad younger, at 20 years old. I'm also unemployed (yay!).

Anyway, I've never have tons of friends, but after finishing high school, I've cut almost every relations that I've had with others (on one side, I've never had a friendship outside school, on the other side, it's my fault since I'm not good at maintaining relations).

So you could say that I'm currently in a similar situation to you. I don't have much to say but the usual suggestions that everyone will give you, since really isn't much to say.

If you have any hobby, it might be worth searching for local shops or local meetups for it. If you like card games and/or board games, you'll always find some shop in a city. If you like sports, join a local club, it's usually a decent way to make friends. Conventions seems to be rather frequent in america, so you can try and go to those.

Getting friends in a skill that you have to develop over time. Many, many people just take it for granted, since most are born with it, but for some it takes years to master.

When you meed people, try to not be shy. Talk, look at them and not elsewhere/the floor, don't cross your arm. In short, watch your body language.

If you have nothing to say, ask them about themself. Most people just love to talk about themself. Don't be shy to ask, at worst they'll just shrug it off and switch the arguments to something else.

Try to remember their names, it's a nice thing that most people will appreciate. Also, after you've made a bit of conversation and you like them, try to maintain that relations. Ask them a contact, and contact them from time to time (just don't be overwhelming, otherwise you'll look like a creep). If they're interested, you get someone to talk, otherwise it's not hard for them to not reply.

Someone is suggesting you to get a dog, and I can say that it's a wonderful way to have random small talks (especially if you have some kind of rare dog). But remember that getting a dog is not something you can do lighthearted, it will take tons of efforts.

As for your English, just try to speak with other people, most will not mind your bad english as long as it's not painful to understand (and given how you write, I don't think it is). And you'll get better over time.

That's mostly what it comes to my mind. It might work or not, but it's the usual suggestions you'll read over the internet. I can say that I'm a better listener after following those, but my introversion is still blocking me from joining a club (but I've started running, maybe I'll get to know someone with it?).

If you want to talk, my email is in my profile page. I can't do much (especially since there is an ocean between us), but I find that just writing something helps a lot to get your ideas clear.
I have no problem making friends and speaking to people. I'm an introvert who became an extrovert as my confidence increased. And, I just wanted to really back up the 'uncomfortable' comment. Even with close friends the conversation can die completely and not come back for a while, because we run out of things to say. So if that does happen to you, be aware, it's completely normal, and happens to everyone.
Funny that this is called Modernist Cuisine. It's very ornamental and inventive. Most Modernist movements had their heyday in the early 20th century. Maybe it is because of the technological focus.
- What was it that your startup lacked while you were in charge? Be honest with yourself so you can learn from this experience and do it better next time.

- Perhaps this will come across as cynical, but your current position has several advantages too: a) you don't have much to lose, b) your potential is higher than what you're currently going through, so it's likely that your situation will improve, c) you are experiencing a situation that is very common these days, it might inspire you to create something that will be of use to many people

Find yourself a job to stay afloat and plan for the future. Of course you can do it again!
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> Wal-Mart delivers value for shareholders because they attract customers because they're cheaper and more efficient.

That doesn't really follow; it could also be, for example, that Wal-Mart delivers value for shareholders because they drove out all the competition and attract customers because they are the only place to shop at.

I'm not saying that's necessarily true for Walmart, but it's obviously true for US internet providers, to give just one example.
As someone who was, and because of moving places frequently, becomes in your situation. Here is my advice and what have worked for me.

Your situation is special. Most people at this age have friends. Most people are not looking for new friends or are not willing to invest in a new relationship.

You need to know that because it'll save you lots of time, effort, money and pain.

You need to find people who are in your situation. They do exist and they are everywhere. Starting a relationship with them works most of the time, because they are looking to hang out with someone. They are willing to invest regardless of the language barriers or the cultural differences.

How to find them? You need to become more visible, and have an instinct at knowing who these people are. Never invest, or try to invest into someone who has lots of friends.

They are in the coffee, the street, the gym club, library, shopping mall, the nearest park, events, internet...
At first I was like 'wow' !

But actually, the dark-hair woman in the "f" picture doesn't seem so correct. Too much "guessing", totally different faces I suppose.
Lawrence Krauss talked about this in his entertaining and famous talk, A Universe From Nothing[1].

[1] - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ImvlS8PLIo
Cool, but I thought "follow-me" technology was already pretty advanced. Does this do anything different?

I'm a rower and a few people are looking at using follow-me drones for rowing training and coaching. Here's one example (not follow-me, but shows observation from a drone):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0XfL_2EzEHI

The theory is that a drone follows the rower, maybe moving around the subject for different viewpoints, and the (possibly remote) coach can examine the footage afterwards. A coach can advise many rowers without needing to be on hand (or even in the same continent) for all of them.
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For a second I thought wisp was http://will.thimbleby.net/misc/ but nope.
The language 'problem' is covered by quite some meetups, I found one [1] pretty quickly that looks like fun in SF, but there will be more.

Another thing that helps me connect to people quickly is the local couchsurf community. Just show up at one of their meetups, in general it's all people from around the world that are easy-going and up for fun. Plus they're interested in different cultures so you can learn them a thing or two as well :-)

Regarding girls and cars, that's just crazy talk. Just say that you're an environmentalist if anyone ever asks.

[1] http://www.meetup.com/languageloverssf/
I would add that taking a social dancing class is a good idea because OP stated he wanted to meet women. So, that's kind of built in to the process...

In my experience ("lindy hop" swing, tango) social dancing has LOTS of engineers/scientists so the communities are very accepting of the social awkwardness.

And assuming the OP is Korean based on his handle, lindy hop is incredibly, incredibly, popular back at home...
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Any examples where you're saying no is too many. Always go!

I have made it a point to always say yes and it has made a huge difference for me. I am also very shy.
Eating raw potato worked too. Eastern Europe, not so long time ago. :)
No, see https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Critical_point_%28thermodynami...
And as a bonus you often make friends in english classes because basically you spend all your time speaking to them.
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>Proposition B passed in SF just this month

Preventing the erection of yet more high rise condos will do nothing to solve San Francisco's acute shortage of affordable housing.

Those who care most about affordable housing in SF are, in any case, leaving in droves or have already left.

>This is the system working as intended

Hardly.
Try and get interested in something outside of the tech bubble, preferably something which takes you outside.

Brush up on conversational English. Don't sweat the fact you don't have a car. If people don't want to hang out with you because you don't have a nice car, find different people.

The advice here is good - learn to be happy and comfortable on your own. That doesn't mean wallow in your loneliness, but don't think that someone will come along and magically make you happy. It doesn't work that way. If you are comfortable on your own, you'll be the kind of person that other people are interested in. It's only difficult to meet people/women if your life isn't worth being a part of. Make your life interesting enough for yourself that other people will want to take part.

Good luck. If you want to talk more, I'm at fareeddudhia at gmail.com
As you say, it's an interesting tech demo (which looks like it would be even more fun if you coupled it with a physics engine btw), but not particularly practical.

The way I could see it working though (without a significant change in OS UI) is by arranging your 2D desktop across multiple virtual 2D screens in 3D space, ie a bank of monitors angled towards you. You could use a conventional keyboard and mouse to navigate the 2D space (with perhaps mouse movement assisted or replaced by hand/head/eye tracking), and drag windows between screens, set programs to open on certain ones, with full screen clipping to screen edges - all basically as many OSes do already.

But because they're virtual, you could resize, split and merge screens, curve large ones, have ones which float in front of your vision to use for toolbar windows and HUDs. You could even use existing technology like VMs or VNC to use multiple OSes at the same time.

Mount your keyboard and mouse to a swivel chair which tilts, and you could comfortably have a 360 degree working area (assuming you can touch type) 4 or so screens deep, which would put traders' setups to shame (and at a fraction of the price). Throw in some panoramic backgrounds and you can move your office to a forest or a beach. Take it further you could even set up some sort of virtual office, being able to virtually get up from your desk and visit the workspaces of remote-working colleagues and friends to collaborate.

The exciting thing is that none of this is a massive leap from where we are now, and it would map pretty seamlessly to the software and UI we already use. The main thing holding it back would seem to be the resolution of 3D goggles, but with 4k rising, even that can't be too far off.
This is your chance. The best way to meet friends as an adult is to have a common activity. Learning English is an excellent way for you to meet other people also interested in learning English. Jump online and find English learning groups, English classes, etc. You should also look for meetups for people of your native language so you can go to them as well. The next step is go to the meetings even if they suck, even if you feel lonely and bored. The best way to meet people is to get out there, you don't meet anyone in your house. If you have an interest in a sport that's a great way too, however I would say the more unusual the sport the better. With common sports like Basketball or Soccer people often join in groups and it's harder to make new friends. Something like Fencing or Archery would probably be better. I went through the same thing in a different country, I made my few friends through board games, d&d, and fencing.
> "To be successful you set your overall KPI(s), then you forget about it and focus on smaller things that will over time incrementally add to your overall goal."

I don't see how this works in practice. Once you expose KPIs like this, then everything in your org works to increase them. Promotions probably get handed out on this basis. As you say, this leads to exploding cars and bad tools. The challenge (which you don't mention) is how you create an environment that doesn't hold the metrics higher than other things. I'd argue that values-driven orgs probably do this better but I'm not sure.
I have not used the word monopoly and was merely talking about the right for people to work together. Do you have anything against that?
This is actually an incredibly good point; although counterintuitive. However, OP, you should focus on your advantages and why they make you fucking awesome. At this point, I am not sure if you are being a friend to yourself. It is possible that your ethnicity, your accent/lack of it, your assets are hindering you from making friends with some people. However, this is a planet of six billion people. Find out what makes you truly happy and make peace with yourself. Seek out things that make you happy. At that point, you will attract people around you who truly enjoy your company. Be patient. Superficial relationships are easy. Making really good friends/strong relationships is incredibly hard. For everyone.