There's a good point to this I want to mention. THere is a good way to tell when you're a prefectionist. (Evefybody goes through this, some more than others.)

I am righjt now in the I-dont-careab-out-perfection mode, which actually feels nice. This is so because I had a boring winter break without much contact with people, so when college started up again, I didn't care ab out being obsessed over stupid things, I'm just happy to be taking a lot of classes, where the fine details are just so minute to me right now.

So I can tell you right now that yes, acceptance of yourself (e.g. confidence) is true. Another is trusting your intuition 100%. Inotherwords, I had decided to let my left-brain just take care of things without worrying about the beautiy, structure, form, etc that the right-brain always doubts us to. The more we learn about what it takes to be a professional in something, the more our right-brain tries to stop us. So I thought I should just trust my left-brain to just do whatever tasks my eyes and brain remind me to do, and it's been working great. Feels liberating.

But here's the point of what I wanted to say. HEre's how you can tell when you're in the perfectionism zone.

It's when you constantly notice people nitpicking you, and you actually realize that it is happening, and you point it out. All three things happen.

Lets go over them each one.

First, I said nitpcking, not just someone actually giving true, very useful differences. For example, I wrote spring semester instead of winter semester in the top half of this comment. Since I'm ignoring stupid spelling and minor grammar errors for now (Something I never do, if you read my other posts) to prove a point, I still changed spring to winter because that was a genuine thing that was a problem or a bug with the comment. I also just now rearranged some wording a few sentences prior, where i moved the parenthesis--because it was confusing. I didn't care that thew ord Something was capitalized for on reason. But a big grammar mistake, sure that's importnat to fix because it means hte reader has to read over three times to understand, but itf its just a spelling mistake, then its okay.

So what I notice happening is that people are constantly nitpicking by saying things that were clearly not thought out, either jokes or trying to show how smart they are by saying do x , y or z. In all those cases, they were not actual useful feedback, but just a way for a person to feel like they're contributing or smart. So that stuff you can ignore. The point is that when ur not a perfectionist, as I am not right now, then you notice this.

Number two, you point it out, like I said. You feel comfortable expressing confusion (what an idiot the person is for suggesting somethign that is the same thing but said off the cuff, what a waste of my time, if it's insulting), or SUnday and today, there was a girl who just would not stop nitpicking or be quiet. SO I would tell her she was controlling and annoying and I Just said it straight up. She literally would not stop 4 or 5 times in both cases to keep making some nitpicking in something, giving wilder and crazier things.

ANd the last thing would be of course to realize it's happening, which most people don't. THere's notnhing more freeing than to know that what you juts did is of value and easy to understand, and if there's one or 400 spelling errosr its okay. Of course in this case im overdoingit. And the flow of text is easy to follow, as I fixed any big mistakes. But I am not modifying things because of being insecure or worried, any changes I made were because something I wrote, if I left it like that, would be tought to parse. So I hope this helps and of course I"m not going to sepnd 1 hour (seriously, thats what I do sometimes) fixing a post.