So maybe I can give a little perspective to some of you, from someone living something like this.

Me and my wife are atheists. We don't believe in god. There is no element of Christianity or traditionalism or any of that in our lives. We are a mixed race couple, our kids are not white and there's nothing about "creating more white babies" or any of that nonsense in our outlook or approach. I'm sure that kind of stuff is out there, but by and large I think that stuff is overblown by people who feel uncomfortable with the idea that any woman would want to focus on the happiness of people she loves instead of the demands of people she doesn't. I'm sure we are a bit unorthodox in that we aren't religious conservatives, but that's not really a requirement to want these things either.

Neither one of us come from millionaire families, she comes from a working middle class family and I come from the mud. Neither one of us has beyond a high school education, although we are both very read and have a good understanding of things we are interested in. I sold my youth to put myself where I am today, and risked (and experienced) homelessness to put myself in a position where I could have something more than the corporate ladder. I clawed my way into a position where I could afford a low stress, family focused life, I did it for kids I didn't even have yet, for a woman I didn't even know yet, and I did it without ever taking advantage of another person.

Our main approach is cost cutting. We simply have rich, rewarding lives by getting rid of all the distraction. We eat really good, healthy, delicious food by not relying on others to make it for us. We keep our housing modest, a place to provide us with the shelter and facilities we need to maintain hygiene and take care of ourselves and our kids. It really is very, very easy to have a rewarding life for cheaper than a supposed rewarding but in reality soul crushing life in the rat race. It appears to me, people are convinced that their lives are meaningless unless they're pursuing careers, living in a "tier 1 city" or other marketing propaganda designed to get people to unwittingly dedicate their lives to other people's ambitions. My view is that what really matters in life is cooking good food and spending time with the people you love. You can have a bigger impact on the world by raising competent and healthy children than by working in an office and sitting in traffic.

I think that there are a lot more women in the world that feel guilty or inadequate for wanting to play with their kids, teach them to read and cook them good food rather than pursue some higher ambition that amounts to subservience to a corporate machine, than a lot of people would like to admit. All it takes is that they acknowledge that it isn't some lesser role, it's a higher purpose, it's more rewarding and the path they've been sold is empty. A lot of people don't like seeing it nowadays, hence the constant association with alt right, religious fundamentalism, controlling husbands and all that stuff. In reality, all that is just noise. You'll not wish you spent more time in the office on your deathbed, your kids need a loving person to teach them more than they need a bigger room and a remodeled kitchen down the street from the mall. There's room for personal ambition, but the only rewarding way to pursue that is on your own terms.