(EDIT: Deleted my original reply because I made the mistake of trying to reply to the text in earnest despite your complete disregard for what I said in all of your replies so far. This is still said in earnest but I won't bother trying to continue the game of talking past each other and instead address the elephant in the room directly.)

> You want these people out of prison and moved right next door to me and my family.

Now, ignoring that this barely even counts as a strawman because it bears so little resemblence to anything I ever said, this also jumps out to me as an interesting point: you're demonstrating a high level of aggression to me as a perceived threat despite nothing you accuse me of saying being what I actually said and you instantly frame it as protecting yourself and "your family".

Reiser was hardly a family man but what led him to murder his victim was her decision to leave him with their children which he also had been neglecting. In other words, he reacted with immense aggression to a perceived threat to "his family" even though it was specifically his (ex-)wife, a threat from within. As I pointed out elsewhere, he still refers to his victim as "my wife", thus clearly re-asserting his framing of his relation to her and her role in "his family" despite her demonstrated wish to end this relationship. Just as murdering her served to establish his authority and control over "his family", her death now continues to be used by him to maintain this fiction despite his status completely removing him from "his family".

I'm not saying you'd kill your wife if she'd try to leave you and take the kids. I'm saying while you're afraid of me because you catastrophize about imagined scenarios I might advocate for, women are afraid because of people who talk like you do.

Intimite partner violence is more widespread than stranger danger. Most sexual abuse happens between acquaintances or in relationships. Most child abuse and child sexual abuse is inflicted by close relatives. The greates predictor for Antisocial Personality Disorderd (ASPD, which is colloquially often called "psychopathy" or "sociopathy", which are themselves not formally defined conditions) is early childhood abuse, sexual abuse and parental emotional neglect and authoritarian overprotection.

I can't change the US penal system. Neither can you. I can point at statistics and research and other countries implementing more humane systems with better or comparable levels of recidividism and lower crime rates and I'm sure you can derail them or shoot them down by appealing to moral outrage and telling me to kill myself in as many words, again (because yes, that's what telling me to surround myself with untreated violent criminals you think are habitual reoffenders after explaining how "my" way of thinking leads to people ending up in a ditch after implied sexual abuse, is).

But what I can do is tell you to treat your children as humans, not inferiors. Their brains don't work right yet and that's fine. They need what humans need and they want to be treated like humans want to be treated. Think of them as you would think of yourself (or your spouse if you already think of them like you think of yourself) after a brain injury and with more limited mobility. You don't want to have arbitrary rules imposed on you that you don't understand and that change seemingly at random. You don't want to be held down or hurt or yelled at, especially when you don't understand why. You want to feel safe, not through displays of violence and threats against others but by being accepted for who you are and held and knowing you won't be hurt. They're your children but only in the sense that they depend on you and your care, not that they owe you anything or that you own them in any sense of the word.

There's so much fear and evilness in the world, let's not bring it into our families, not even under the guise of protection. Learn to let your guard down and genuinely love people. Allow yourself to be human and to see the humanity in others, not just as a hollow phrase. Accept your spouse and your children as genuinely human persons with their own internal lives and desires and accept it when they make choices you disagree with. It's okay to go against your children's wishes when they're too young to understand the bigger picture but let them live their lives and be who they are. Make sure they know they're safe to come back to you when they screw up rather than trying to lock them in figurative cages and trim their wings.

I'm not saying you would kill your spouse if she left you. I'm saying you sound like the person I would be afraid of doing that. Most femicides happen in relationships. Men are rarely well-equipped to handle rejection, especially by intimate partners. Most child abuse happens in families. Life can be stressful and viewing children through the lens of discipline and obedience deeply poisons any chance of a healthy relationship. Most family abuse is carried from one generation to the next. Let's break the cycle, even if the abuse is subtle enough others might dismiss it as "traditional parenting". Keep them safe and be safe for them.