skysight-inc/HackerNews huggingface dataset:
to correct me: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prostitution_by_region
>It feels like 90% of women on there are chasing the top 10% of dudes and not settling for anything else.

It feels that way because it is that way (stats from OKCupid, but I suspect the effect generalizes):

https://archive.is/lGIdO
One potential danger here is single friends seeing you/your partner on the app. In the ideal world they'd bring this to your attention and you'd be able to explain it away easily. In the real world it's absolutely how vicious rumors start.
The OP frames sexual loneliness as a problem. I don't think it's a huge leap to say porn is part of the reason why people are having less real-life sex. Morally I have no issue with it, but ease/speed/price are important factors in market behavior. It's why I'm more likely to flop down on the couch to watch Netflix than drive across town to watch a movie at the cinema, or listen to Spotify vs attend a live music performance. The cinema and the rock concert are probably better experiences, but streaming makes everything so easy and cheap I don't often seek out those experiences.

Porn access as a causal explanation also helps explain why we see the same problem happening even in Nordic countries where access to abortion/contraception is not a problem and parental leave benefits are far superior to the US.
> On the other hand, I always worry about the "escapism" of video games in the way they might provide a safer and more comforting activity than tackling the real problems that lead to the stress and anxiety.

Let people escape, dude. I'm not gonna tell a guy who works several shitty jobs to barely make rent that he's not allowed to de-stress via his method of choice because he should just be "tackling the real problems". It's not your place to impose a value judgment about how people deal with stress.
You have proof of continued identity with nostr thanks to the keys but you still have the challenges around linking keys to people which were a major struggle for GPG. The solutions for that tend to involve social media or DNS (checking a personal domain).

This seems like a good area to improve since things like code signing could also benefit. One of the big problems I see is bootstrapping your network initially and also solving the lost phone problem without setting up a system which phishers and spammers would have a field day with.
I honestly cannot believe that Rails doesn't have this built in. This was something that was in Django for as long as I can remember; I was looking at it in I think 2006 and it existed at that point in a very similar state to what I've seen lately.

Not a dig on Rails, like "Oh, Rails is so bad they don't even have..."; rather, Rails is extremely capable, and so are Rails devs, so I legitimately don't understand why this isn't there already, 15+ years after Django.
If dynamic in real life is 1:2 then it’s 1:1000 on dating apps. Also I would actually blame MatchGroup here, they’ve been fighting dating apps with better models for years, every company they swallow has adopted the same bad ethics (case and point Hinge), and the only company that’s managed to stay afloat away from them (Bumble) is suing them. They are most definitely a major component of the problem
But weren't harems typically reserved for the unimaginably wealthy, even back then?
The team over at Swift Cloud keep putting out great open source Swift packages. I love it
Interesting. I hope OpenAI is charging them for all that value they’re skimming off of OpenAI’s model.
the context might be different for people in different countries. SAP is more important for me than lets say Meta.
Well like I said above:

> it’s because they’re trying to turn their Podcast app into YouTube for Podcasts with an App Store model which is just on its face total crap

C’est la vie. I would give Spotify kudos but their own podcast foray is what caused me to quit them.
This is hilarious. They found that young men are having less sex, young women are not having less sex, and some young men are having way more sex. And they conclude the problem is "loneliness". No, dude, the problem is young men are increasingly not worth having sex with.

This of course has precedence in the natural world. Not every male is always having sex. Most often, a smaller number of males that are considered the most desirable sire more children. It's a Darwin thing: you mate with the most successful of your species to carry the best genes and adapt to your environment better to survive longer.

But it doesn't have to be that way. More males could simply become more attractive partners. Or more females could lower their standards (but honestly I think their standards have been low enough... I mean, have you seen my gender, next to its opposite?).

Rather than treat sexual loneliness as some kind of unfortunate but normal condition, let's encourage these people to make themselves more attractive. And by attractive I mean the general concept of desirability, which encompasses the entire spectrum of the human condition, not just the body or some societal trope of gender norms.
Close enough, adjust it slightly and you get a morbid but slightly funny and topical joke:

> Today, Israeli forces killed nine Palestinians during West Bank raid.

> Israeli authorities are being criticized for being too brutal, and Palestinian parents are being criticized by Israeli authorities for having too many kids.
100% this. How many acts of violence by lonely men would be avoided if they had just had the opportunity to go out, drop $150 and have sex. Especially sex that catered to whatever fetish they happened to indulge in. I have no scientific numbers to back this but I am willing to be the answer is "a lot". I feel like if an isolated, angry virgin was able to have sex in a non judgmental environment they would lose their hostility and likely be all the better for it.
> The human in me says "thank God".

You're more charitable than me: I assume there will be infinitely more times where the imprecision is used for probable cause for a stop, than there will be times where someone was going to pull you over because you properly responded to a road hazard
>This leaves (making up numbers) 80% of women wanting 20% of men. Where as men tend to be less discriminating in their choices of women.

Well... kind of. Except that men also tend to all be looking at the same pool of younger women, while women tend to look for men closer to their own age, according to OKCupid's data.

https://www.businessinsider.com/dataclysm-shows-men-are-attr...
Humans hallucinate too: https://youtu.be/lyu7v7nWzfo

We are unique in the universe but not important to its existence. Our automated inference technologies are accurately representing is; I read half a dozen STEM papers last year, even more during lockdown. Comma splices, grammatical errors everywhere. ChatGPT is us in the aggregate.

Even the geniuses of our species are imperfect and hallucinate being better than they are given their accomplishments relative to the laymen.

The court of law is itself an ephemeral hallucination which fails all the time; given the number of people proven innocent, it’s been suggested through analysis up to 25% or more may be incarcerated incorrectly. Drug laws are just one instance of humans hallucinating correct application of courts. YT broke a while back when it AI got hung up on circular logic in a debate about copyright (easily googled).

The burden of proof of “correctness” is on humans to prove their society is not merely a titillating hallucination.

We made computing machines before we had all the abstract semantics to describe it. Do those semantics mean anything to the production of computing machine or are they just a jargon bubble for a minority to memorize and capitalize on relative to those who have no idea wtf they’re talking about.
Or how much the "game" influences it. People tend to want what they can't have and reject things that come too easy.
Ancient wisdom… easily forgotten.
AI "artists" are commissioners in my view. If the learning and creating is done by the model, the model is the rights holder. Can't have your cake and eat it too.
Pelosi…

https://www.usnews.com/opinion/blogs/peter-roff/2010/03/09/p...
Those 10% dudes are smart enough not to settle for a 90% woman for more than a few dates when they can pull a new one off the app at a moments notice. In the end they are the only winners in this situation.
How is this known upfront? I've lived for over a decade in this country without knowing this, until I actually applied for my citizenship last year. I'm just lucky I never went to court to contest a speeding ticket(because I never got any) or I could have screwed myself over without even knowing.

Also define "small group" - nearly 200k people apply for British citizenship annually, and I bet most of them have no idea contesting a traffic ticket can cost them a chance at becoming citizens.
So what? Free software was literally created in reaction to copyright protections getting extended to software. They make no sense in a world without copyright.

By the way, it would also kill proprietary software as a concept. Source code leak? It's no longer a crime to use it. We'd never have to read licensing nonsense ever again.
Money has been cheap since the aftermath of the 2008 crisis, it wasn't just COVID, it's been that way for more than a decade.
While the 80/20 stuff is true i think another under-explored aspect is that there just isn't many non-bot women on these dating apps, after all their business is exploiting men for these gold memberships/boosts. Most women i know in their 20s easily get attention on a daily basis through posting on Instagram, working a retail orwaitress job or simply walking into a bar, they also have social groups and hobbies so they aren't really using Tinder.
> Time to get rid of people they don’t want, without them look bad since everybody is doing it, and also they’ll have an excuse if financial results aren’t very good.

This is IBM's classic modus operandi. I worked there from 2001 - 2013 and survived 17 rounds of deep layoffs during that time. IBM constantly manipulates their financial results on the backs of their employees.
I suppose, but one can also creatively define 'what gets used in the rust file'. If you somehow need to interface with both of those packages, you can say `md_5 = { package = "md-5" }`, and now in your code it will be renamed `md_5`.
It would be interesting to know what phases our brains go through that 'settle' emotional / social reflexes.

I had a strange life due to pre-wired issues, until 30 when a few traumatic event (including a first relationship that was as positive as negative) completely altered my reality. I was very surprising to say the least how one day you cannot exist socially (total shut-in with obsessive painful thoughts on a daily basis), and the next one you see colors and friendliness everywhere. Deep in your guts, something that really lifts your mind, imagination and heart solidly, not just a philosophical understanding.

I had a year of socially vibrant emotions but gradually went back to my old self (avoidant) but I still remember that my reality is somehow altered and very far from what others can experience or what is healthy.

If anybody has resources to read or places to monitor I'll be glad to know.

ps: I have a ton of questions regarding the neurology of the perception of "the self" and others for the lack of better terms. if any neuroscientist has time to waste, my email is in my profile, feel free to spam.
I dont enjoy the buying experience at the dealership but when it comes time to have it serviced I am very happy not to have to put it on a trailer to be sent out of town to be fixed, and then wait weeks to get it back
> The issue is simply that modern day life is typically TOO easy for most people and gives back very little deep meaning.

Any references that people were less depressed when things were more difficult?
I fucking hate the "It's because of security" excuse companies default to so god damn much. Really burns my hide. 99% of the time it isn't. It's just an excuse to cover lazy or poor product management and engineering.

I'll at least give this company credit for giving an example, but like usual, the response is flimsy. There's almost always much better ways to handle situations these companies claim they're covering.

I recently discovered I couldn't change my email address at Target.com. When I asked the rep why, they responded "It's because of security." I told them, "I know you have nothing to do with the policy, but please let your managers know there's better ways to handle this. One thing you guys can do is never again hire an MFA as a CISO in the future."
And still the style does not go to 11.
You made me chuckle :)
> While women can get attention from thousands of men online in just a few hours, men are lucky if anyone is interested in them

When it comes to dating apps, everyone I know falls into one of two categories:

The first group invests time into generating a good profile. They put the effort into getting get photos of themselves and presenting the photos properly. They write a good bio, avoiding the tired tropes ("love food and travel"), and they iterate on their bio based on responses. They go out on dates with an open mind and are willing to give people a chance.

The second group grabs random, unflattering pictures of themselves and throw them into the app without much consideration. They do things like use group photos where it's hard to even tell whose profile you're viewing. They grab a lot of silly or exaggerated pictures that make them look immature or present an image that doesn't match their personality. They write a short bio with useless tropes copied from other profiles. They make up their minds about people before even going on the first date.

The first group isn't finding their soulmate in the first month, but they do well. I've attended a double-digit number of weddings from people in this group. The second group is just relentlessly cynical and disappointed. I know a group of people, some of whom are classically attractive women, who have been doing online dating for years while complaining about the lack of good matches.

Online dating is a tool. Like any other tool, people get out of it what they put into it. You don't have to be in the top 10% of most attractive and successful people to match with others, but you do have to get over the cynicism and put in some effort.
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Yes, this is what I was getting at. You see this information released once per quarter in a very regimented and tightly controlled way, with lawyers triple-checking everything first. You're just not gonna materially significant numbers released off-cycle. You would simply wait for the end of the quarter.
Open a PR! This will fix the problem if its a bug/oversight or if its intended to be that way, force somebody to comment on it for a future person who is puzzled by this choice.
It's been a while since I've done any Ruby/Rails development, but just curious why they chose to use a Debian/Ubuntu based image in the default Dockerfile instead of an Alpine based image?
Door - is a website made for SEO spam.
That’s preposterous. An intelligent agent, human, mineral, or otherwise, would respond that this is a ridiculous idea and ideally explain the reasons that such is the case. Imagine you are a student and you asked this amazing AI sone question of similar if mildly ridiculed and turn imagine the student didn’t already know the answer. Would you think this kind of response would be an example of an intelligent AI?

If it cannot deal with such things without being prompted in such a way that the prompter knows the answer already, how could it deal with complex legal situations with actually intelligent adversaries?
Are you talking about the free to use ChatGPT application or the paid APIs? Very different things.
Nothing I've said is incorrect. I'm just using colloquial language to describe the issue.

You are just being an asshole by trying to show off your technical knowledge in the subject, which is not helping anyone.
The classic formula for hooking up is time and proximity - throw people together in the same space and wait - people will start hooking up. No app can provide this - they are designed with the exact opposite scenario in mind.

This is why people meet in high school (4 years)/college(4 years)/at the office (40 years). With the move to remote work in many places we've cut off the office part - where people had the most time to find a partner. What replaces that? Nearly everyone I know who is married met in one of those 3 places. I met my wife in the office before remote work was common (today we are both 100% remote).
> I really get the feeling that many companies are just blindly doing whatever other companies do.

You're not on your own with that idea. It's the blind leading the blind.
I think that may happen in some cases but they would also learn that sex is likely not what they imagined it to be. Its just something that people do together sometimes. I think there would be emotional growth after the fact.
Thanks, I'll keep that in mind next time I travel. Last time, the country didn't have Apple Pay.
All the indicators except the mortgage to income ratio that has grown seemingly exponentially the last few months. A housing bubble alone is capable of setting off a recession certainly, and we are in a huge one.
I remarked on the supplement in another comment.

The medical procedure was TMS - I spent ~6 weeks coming in every weekday, had my head strapped into a magnet helmet, and the magnets stimulate the parts of the brain associated with depression. I understand it to be vaguely like jump-starting an engine with a dead battery.

I just had my last session yesterday, and I see huge changes from December.

Crucially, I underwent TMS in 2019 and saw almost no change. At that time, I was still in the abrasive career situation, and wasn't on the supplement, so my hypothesis is TMS had very limited benefit because I didn't have sufficient quantities of neurotransmitters for stimulation to do anything, and any possible benefit was being immediately eroded by the circumstances that created my problems in the first place.

I also had undiagnosed autism (which came with hardcoded limitations I'd been treating as personal preferences or bad attitude), and ADHD (which I was diagnosed with as a kid, but didn't understand how it manifests as an adult). Both of these tax executive function (neurotransmitters) heavily, and the MTHFR mutation handicapped how much executive function I had to go around in the first place. My particular neurodiverse needs appear to be at odds with the typical SWE work environment, so every day I was powering through my special needs, until my brain couldn't take it anymore and simply gave out.
While I prefer python for everything else, I'd go with Laravel Jetstream[1] for an MVP, just like I did with the last one I had to build. It's laravel, you can use Vue (React or Svelte) for your views instead of the blade templating language that comes with the framework. Jetstream also comes with Auth, user login and subscription and other useful stuff.

And for the flavor, I'd just go with DaisyUI[2] again, since it's based on tailwindcss and it's what I've been using lately.

In my experience, I can build MVPs real fast with the stack described above.

[1] https://jetstream.laravel.com
[2] https://daisyui.com/
But it's not a person doing it. It's a machine learning model owned and operated by a company. It doesn't have capacity to "think", claiming otherwise is highly dubious since anyone truly "learning" from art wouldn't also replicate watermarks in their "original" work. More importantly, people have limited output capacity and it's why copyright was invented in the first place, i.e. scale.

Current trajectory will only harm original creators, there is zero consideration or benefit for them. On the other side you have companies that stand to make billions off of their work.

Arguing in favor of such a system is, in my mind, appalling. Either ensure that copyright law prohibits unauthorized machine learning from valuable original art or abolish it completely.
So the problem about 1930s-style relationships, is that a lot more of them were held together by fear and taboo than people would care to admit. Abusive relationships usually aren't known by the public. Someone might try to leave an abusive relationship, but be shamed by the public for not being "committed enough" or even get excommunicated from their church.

I'm now happily married, and I hope to remain so for life. But the difference between the 1930s and now is that not only am I aware that if I'm a bad partner, she can leave me, but I accept that as a reasonable recourse.

Long-term marriage is absolutely possible today, but people who want that have to work for it. It's not automatic anymore because people are less scared of being branded for leaving a bad situation.

"Roles" is a very loaded term, but I think there's a definite place for understanding who is handling what. The key thing is understanding roles change, and in a good marriage, both partners will take whatever role serves the family unit. They shouldn't be attached to the gender of the partner, and can move as needs change.
In case I were a VC, or Angel investor, I would have. And right on top of said list would be, when we talk about hardware, proper engineering education. And ideally experience.

Funny, how due dilligence seems to have gone right out of the window in the last couple of years, only to be replaced by having the right connections.