skysight-inc/HackerNews huggingface dataset:
I'm using Laravel with Hotwire and it's fantastic. Now I want to cry every time I see the mess of overengineering I have to deal with in other projects when they're built with Redux, React, etc, etc.
Singling out dating apps, or worse a single company thinking their monopoly created the problem, is missing the forest for the trees.

The social dynamic exists independent of dating apps which monetize and exploit it.

The dynamic is the same in real life, for example at a nightclub where women drink for free, promoters who bring them get paid per girl, and lonely men pay $40 cover for a chance to shoot their shot
This is chump change for these companies, thanks Wall Street.
Kotlin + SpringBoot + Postgres
TS + React
AWS ECS
Are there any studies linking legal prostitution with less "sexual loneliness"?
Sorry to hear that. Kagi is doing great things. If you really want to work on search (that doesn't suck), maybe reach out to them?
>profit per revenue is up, ie. we're making more money on the money we make.

This makes no sense to me.
> Diffusion models can be compared to a superhumanly talented artist that can be cloned in unlimited fashion by anyone having the software and hardware means.

How can you claim with a straight face that this is a better explanation of what an NN is?

An NN is simply an approximation of a multi-valued function, whose parameters are adjusted by minimizing the difference between the output of the NN and the output of the real function for a certain input. It is much much closer to "a giant archive of compressed images being used to interpolate between them" (though it's not that) than it is to a "superhumanly talented artist".
Yeah, but you don't have deal with her problem which is an inbox flooded with random noise. It might be flattering for a minute but after that I'm sure it's a burden not much lighter than the empty inbox.

Besides, as long as you get those few responses, that will be enough for all but the most active and adventurous daters. There are only so many hours in the day.
This would've been wonderful. The stakes are low for a parking ticket. I don't expect it to work well but it would have been the baseline performance.

edit: apparently they're in the fake it till you make it mode: https://twitter.com/kathryntewson/status/1617917837879963648
Java 21: Performance Improvements Revealed
> in larger cities like NYC it can even be closer to 1:1

I don't know the stats but on places like Blind there's a lot of anecdotes about the dating scene favoring men in NYC and favoring women in SF, due to the gender balances.
(i work at airbyte) this was announced last month at our conf to a very positive response (https://movedata.airbyte.com/, keynote)

The context is that Airbyte is now (after pivoting 3x during YC https://airbyte.com/blog/how-we-pivoted-3-times-in-the-1st-m...) the largest/fastest growing open source community (see our github https://github.com/airbytehq/airbyte) of data pipeline connectors[0], so in a sense they have always been free if you are self hosting. But now using them on Airbyte Cloud is going to be free as well aka "we will do your ELT for free no matter the volume as long as our connectors are not GA yet".

This is a massive commitment to improve the quality of our connectors, which is also something we have been pushing the industry on: https://airbyte.com/blog/connector-release-stages :

Alpha: new, basic docs, works, passes acceptance tests

Beta: Alpha + at least 25 active users + >90% sync success rate + snapshot tests + all streams + severe issues handled + security + supports checkpointing + SLA on cloud

GA: Beta + >99% sync success rate + more than 50 active users + <24 hours downtime + polished docs + performant

It's been going very well; you can see how many connectors we promote to GA each month in our slack (https://slack.airbyte.io/) and changelogs, and our new lowcode CDK (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i7VSL2bDvmw) is helping new connectors insta-promote to beta.

We hope to set the new standard in data integration and this is still only day 1.

[0]: good explainer on why companies are moving towards ELT in the first place for the uninitiated https://airbyte.com/blog/elt-pipeline
The article correctly identifies that lack of intimacy and relationships are serious problems, with sexual loneliness being a related comorbidity (if you will). The comments, so far, predictably drift toward "how do we get everyone laid?"

Giving everyone access to sex will not solve sexual loneliness. And, solving (a lot of) sexual loneliness can be achieved without giving everyone access to sex.

Anecdotally, I spent several years as part of the 5% mentioned in this article (lots of regular sex with several different women, most of whom I had very little in common with). After that, I spent several years having very little sex because my wife and I were living on opposite coasts. My experience of sexual loneliness during those two periods of my life were inversely correlated with the amount of sex I was actually having.

Intimacy and relationship matters. Proposals like prostitution or nonmonogamy fundamentally misunderstand the problem.
> On web forums it’s not unusual for me to get replies and reactions for comments that were made a decade ago

That can be a problem, which is why some web forums lock threads against necroposting.

HN also doesn't allow necroposting. If you view some months-old posting, the reply link won't be there.
We weren’t in a recession then and aren’t in one now. At any rate, your responses were a sidestepping of the issue I brought up and when pointed out to you your response wasn’t to acknowledge this.
Knight Capital will forever haunt fintech engineers... https://www.henricodolfing.com/2019/06/project-failure-case-...
That'd make process startup EXTREMELY slow
ChatGPT codes a jobs website with JSON back end [video]
Developer pretty much just keeps telling ChatGPT what he wants and what has gone wrong, and it keeps spitting out code until the site is complete.
With what I've seen about the scene they were shooting, the gun should have been empty. When gun scenes are short with blanks, its not the practice to have a camera and person directly on the other end of the gun. Instead they are to the side or much further away. That's because, even with blanks its possible for bits of metal to still leave the gun at high speed.
Elixir, Phoenix, LiveView + Postgres

Main reasons are:

- Can build entire app (with SPA-type experience on the FE) in a single codebase

- No need to build any HTTP APIs

- Periodic tasks and managing in-memory state is super easy in Elixir. Eventually you might want to stick state somewhere which survives restarts (eg redis) but for the sake of moving quickly Elixir makes this really easy

- Newer versions of Phoenix/LiveView support html components so building out UIs now feels as nice as some of the tools in the FE ecosystem
You misunderstand licensing. Licensing ensures a minimum of conduct and creates a standard for liability for falling below that level of conduct.
What is the right response?

For a long time the response of men in suffering has been to be quiet, turn anger inward and suffer from suicide, heart disease, drug addiction and other deadly forms of despair.

I'd agree that inceldom is toxic (one of my son's friends fell under the spell of an incel Youtuber and dumped my son as a friend because my son is taller than him and could possibly "heightmog" him.) but the average man has never had a social movement that cares about his plight.

Reading early feminists such as Simone de Beauvoir, Betty Friedan and such I get the impression that their basic rhetorical strategy is to compare the top 0.1% man to the median woman but then implicitly comparing the agency of the average woman to a man who might not have a lot (there is a war on... time to go to war and die)

This conflation of power and gender is structural to discussions of "sexual harassment" which seems to almost always be up and down power hierarchies. Hypothetically it could so sideways and sometimes it must, but you hear about it so little that I think there is some mechanism that suppresses it from being talked about. In this old book

https://www.amazon.com/Affair-Morton-Hunt/dp/B001KNWKK4

nearly every case study involves a woman having an affair with a man who is above her in some power hierarchy but this goes unmentioned by the author.
People that don't, don't stay married long.

I started out married thinking of it as a nebulous thing. My marriage improved when I realized it was all an exchange and I need to make sure I'm always providing my bit rather than just working towards some nebulous idea of love.
I dislike the focus on district shapes in gerrymandering discussions. The thing that matters is how severely the districting process subverts the will of the electorate, and that can be done with squares instead of squiggles.
Perel's argument was the inverse: people who failed their marriage because they are holding too tight on the monogamy ideal, as they expect everything from a single partner who cannot provide everything. Well, I'm not sure what to think of that. I'm just quoting her theory and I feel it's relevant in this discourse.
Porn is ubiquitous which reduces the number of people looking for real-life hookups to satisfy their immediate urges

Why is that a bad thing? For me the problem is the opposite - it might not completely satisfy it, but if it'd completely satisfy the urge, then wouldn't it be a good thing?
Deploy server side Swift applications on Vercel
That’s a fair assessment. Wages have not adjusted uniformly, while inflation tends to hit people fairly equally, so some have benefited significantly more than others, while other have suffered significantly more than the rest.
Sounds like a great way to build a dating pool with even fewer women than the current ones.
Typically I wind up using a different source image for the builder that ideally has (most of) the toolchain bits needed, but the same runtime base as the final image. (For Go, go:alpine and alpine work well. I'm aware alpine/musl is not technically supported by Go, but I have yet to hit issues in prod with it, so I guess I'll keep taking that gamble.)
"lots of countries" To my knowledge only Germany.
That's a pretty definitive and bold assertion. Any source?
BuzzFeed to Use ChatGPT Creator OpenAI to Help Create Some of Its Content
You suggestion kind of sounds like: Let's teach kids how to grow an apple tree by giving them apple juice.

Consuming the benefits of having a woman sexually interested in you is a very different skill from creating that interest in the first place. So they would just pay to skip all the steps that they are bad at, thereby never learning them.
Try Hatchbox https://hatchbox.io/

Makes deployment super easy.
Yeah, an oven you can turn on remotely, I'm glad it's secure but that really should not be a thing, no no and no again.
They’re options that are set to expire, not RSUs. Yes, the employees could exercise them to prevent them from expiring, but then Uncle Sam comes to collect his dues. And that’s where illiquidity burns you.
No because I would rather not have sex than take part in the exploitation of at risk woman. Just because it's legal and regulated doesn't mean there aren't horrible things going on.

> If you're the type of person that wants to have sex with someone, and you're willing to pay for it, and you have the option - you're probably going to.

I am the kind of person that wants to have sex with someone. I'd be willing to pay for it, i have the option. But I'd rather not have sex than be involved in such things. It's an ethical decision no matter how lonely I get.
What's the matter with men today? Well, as a popular Internet meme puts it...

Hard times make strong men,

Strong men make good times,

Good times make weak men,

And weak men make hard times.
Thycotic Secret Server?
Oh man, so happy to see this.

For me right now, Airbyte is that tool I wish we had at my last startup.

We we're pulling data from a lot of weird places (servers in the back of mom and pop vet clinics). This meant writing a lot of one off scripts to populate our databases. We learned the hard way about scheduling, retries, resource monitoring, error reporting etc..

Would've loved to have someone else take care of all that for us.

Anyway love letter over.

I'm currently wondering if I can use this to power some of my web scraping scripts....
Monogamy was a fantastic tool to manage diseases for thousands of years.

Imagine removing antibiotics, vaccines, screening tools, and any other medical treatment.

Anyone who was around for the AIDs epidemic will understand how quickly a large segment of the population can start dying off.

The early portion, it was literally a mystery disease that was killing off anyone that engaged in risky lifestyle.
I don't believe that is correct, even lawyers think so:

https://www.wordrake.com/blog/3-must-know-comma-rules-for-la....

https://thewritelife.com/is-the-oxford-comma-necessary/#The_...
I'm sorry I have to be the one to tell you this but AITA is about as credible as newspaper advice columns and 4chan greentexts, that is to say not at all.
State of Startups 2023 Survey
Hi HN,

I'm interested in putting together a pretty comprehensive set of 2023 benchmarks on things like revenue, headcount trends, fundraising, RTO, benefits, and founder sentiment on the market/outlook for 2023.

The ask here is - will you complete this quick, 2 minute survey? http://pilot.com/state-of-startups-survey

In the end, hoping it'll be an amazing resource for founders and would love the help of the HN community to put it together :)

Thanks
None of ADA_EXEMPT, IS_VEHICLE, or DISALLOW_IN_PARK can be easily formally defined. And the mere mention of "wheelchair" adds an additional ADA-related logic exemption. What about bicycles? Strollers? Unicycles? Shopping carts? Skateboards?

And even if IS_VEHICLE was formally defined, that doesn't help, because the concept isn't reusable. It's perfectly normal for "No vehicles allowed in park" and "No vehicles allowed in playground" to have different definitions of what counts as a vehicle, based on what would seem reasonable to a jury
I am a handsome gay man and I can open up Grindr to pick todays solution to my sexual loneliness at any time. Sometimes I do, because my hormones and lust dictate my actions. Just invite someone over during home
office and fornicate while I carefully listen to Slack sounds in the background.

Generally all it lead to so far was the whole ABC of STDs and even more loneliness. Sex is incredibly overrated and I probably have more experience with it than the vast majority of all humans so I can say that with confidence. The only part of me that would miss it is are my uncontrollable lower animal brain areas and my misaligned pleasure/reward circuits.

Let me repeat: Having lots of great sexual encounters with people you consider very attractive changes nothing in your life. Building and finding friendships, "true connections" and love does, but those generally do not need sex.

At least a few of my (sex) dates turned into lasting friendships.
Americans deserve to know where their tax dollars are being spent
Possibly, as disgusting as it sounds this is a pretty good use case for web3. Federate identity via blockchain to prevent bad actors, require a $1 or so NFT to use the app to prevent scammers from mass-botting, and some regular security and privacy measures = you’re good to go

Expanding user graphs for matches across multiple nodes isn’t just easy, it’s actually way more efficient too. Have nodes calculate match likelihood among their users and verify they’re using the same algorithm with a simple hash. Then you’ve reduced getting matches for user X from the entire population Y (calculating distance, applying filters, and then ordering by compatibility, all expensive tasks) to getting matches for user X from nodes N that are purposely geolocated nearby reducing the search space even more.

Basically not only could you do this open-source and decentralized, it would actually be more secure, safer, and way better both accuracy wise and cost wise at finding matches.
> Given that fact, the only reasonable way forward in my view is that contracts do not hide what should be plainly known to other parties in the contract.

Life would be nicer if everyone wrote with clarity, but given that they don’t, we have a special class of people who went through three years of house training to interpret long-ass documents written to disambiguate any possible ambiguities in advance to a standard the parties can agree to; because if you don’t spell everything out exactly, then you might lose if you have to go to court.

The contracts themselves do have to be within the bounds of what’s legal. So for example, you can’t legally sell yourself into slavery because that would come right up against the law and be an illegal contract. Similarly, NDAs don’t pass muster in California because they’re statutorily limited.

So given that you’re probably not going to get rounded up and made into a Human CentiPad for agreeing to the Apple Music TOS or give up your firstborn to use Gmail, I guess you have to prioritize don’t you? When the stakes are “I’ll lose access to this service”, you better figure out what can cause you to lose it if you value the service. A good place to start is to know what is mission critical, like a web host for your podcast if your business is podcasting and an invoice tracker if you do a lot of billing.

So if you’re doing business and you didn’t review the service agreement ahead of time, that is on you. I work in a small business right now with a very small number of people: we review our service agreements ahead of time before we sign them, and even after we’ve reviewed them we have a lawyer on retainer we run them by even if we’re just changing vendors or adding a new vendor because sometimes vendors try to slip things in. That’s what it’s like to do business. There’s a lot of paperwork too, even if the paperwork is virtual and if you take shortcuts, it might work out for you, but you’re exposing yourself to issues down the road if you don’t do your due diligence.

Life’s tough in the aluminum siding business. I don’t know what else to tell you.
I'm curious how this comment will go over ;).

The answer is not "tinder" and it's not about "sexual loneliness".

Pair bonding weakens as people age and accumulate more sexual partners. We actively encourage people to delay pair bonding - mainly by discouraging "high school sweethearts" from marrying, and instead promoting college and pursuing careers over building families. This leads to atomized, lonely individuals who realize later in life what they missed out on, but now with the odds of age stacked against them. Even if you do find your partner in college, you now have families in vastly different geographic areas with different histories and values, which weakens the support structure around that union. In the majority of cases this is not a positive thing for the couple.

Pornography is also a problem, as it misdirects individuals' sex drive away from finding suitable partners.

The pendulum needs to swing back towards more traditional values from when our societies were healthier and growing. Those values exist for a reason!
It’s bizarre that anyone that supposedly works in technology even thinks this is realistic. This betrays a large lack of knowledge of technology and a child like understanding of the legal system.
>> Lawyers make laws, directly or indirectly

Really? In every country I've live in, politicians write laws, judges set precedents, and lawyers only get to make arguments. True, the first two are often & always former lawyers, but that seems as reasonable as how doctors get to determine best medical practice.
> incels would build confidence and learn to socialize a bit

While there's a perception that incels are ugly, socially awkward nerds, the one's I've interreacted with online (and off) tend to be angry, misogynistic douchebags.

The nerdiest guys I know (IRL) all have significant others. The bitter guys I know (two) IRL are older, have let themselves go and have nothing "going for them". They are both very active online however. This is my personal experience, anecdotal of course.
I've never used it, but I'm curious what makes it difficult?
Netherlands, Germany, Austria, Greece, Turkey, Senegal, Nevada in the US, and various Australian states
> Society has seriously screwed the pooch.

Pretty much all available data says as much, but we refuse to do anything about it. Hell, most refuse to recognize there's even a problem.
A CEO looking at the economic climate of 2020-2021 and thinking they needed to hire to support the growth in demand for their products is not being negligent, they simply lacked the crystal ball that would have told them the Fed was going to slam the brakes on the economy last year. Even the Fed said they wouldn't be doing that. In light of what's happened, companies need to get leaner to survive.

Now if these CEOs don't manage to turn the ship around in the next couple years it probably is in fact time to look for a replacement.
A piece of my soul died just trying to imagine the depths of boredom this would take you.

IBM is a leader in quantum computing. If you find that boring, that's on you.
> Unless you're regularly burning hundreds of calories with intense cardio, you probably don't need that many calories in a single meal.

So spread it over 2 meals? I'm getting the max amount of calories I can when I eat out, because I want value for my money. If I can get 1500 calories for $10, why not?

> A small amount of cheese in addition to that and you're pushing 30-40% of your daily calories with ease.

200 calories is only 10% of your daily calorie requirements, even less if you're a healthy, active adult male. A small amount of cheese does not equal 20-30% of daily calories.
The difference is the engineer is liable... how is an AI going to be liable. What is the point of holding an AI liable? If the company is going to be liable on behalf of the AI, what do you think is going to happen? They aren't going to provide the service...
How would you prove it? "We thought that these stock buybacks we put on the company credit card were for the good of the shareholders long term, it's a coinsidance that it happened to increase our compensation as well, sorry it didn't work out as we thought."
However I'd need to change my orientation first, I think many people would be happy to do so. This should be possible, but isn't yet.
i know women get inundated with messages on dating apps, but I would not blame the structure of dating app for the misfortune of some men.

The #1 cause of men not being datable is the advice they get from other men. Try listening to women instead.

In workplace settings, men tend to speak up whether or not they have something wise to contribute. This communications style carries over into the way men use dating apps.

Also, you can't sell the libertarian techbro thing as attractive. It isn't. Your prerogative to be that way. It doesn't bother me in a workplace setting. But it is a massive turn off. You are lowering your odds. You can find counterexamples, such as that when I was an undergrad, women ran the Objectivist newspaper. But outliers be outlying.