Thanks I was having a bit of a moment - one thing I noticed is I have to be very careful if I meet people from the US in a neutral country such as Europe or Asia - the reason is that we speak the same language and are culturally simular enough that when there is a cultural difference it can result in a HUGE misunderstanding all the more because we can relate so easily.

One time I was in Yunnan province in China and it was an americans birthday in the local cafe that served coffee and was frequented by expats and english teachers and so on - he told me this absolutely amazing story about some of his travels and it was so great and such an impressive story, and I felt close to him so I said ...

"You're full of it right?"

"Excuse me?"

"Oh that story is totally full of shit!"

He stares at me a bit. I'm smiling and looking at him.

He begins crying, turns around and begins walking out the door and up the street at a fast pace. I chase behind him. He's saying "go away go away", I say "I'm not sure what's happened are you ok?" "You said Iwas full of shit" "Oh that's an expression I meant I loved your story so much it couldn't be real". Needless to say that relationship did not go anywhere unfortunately. He was a good guy who had some awesome experiences. AND IT WAS HIS BIRTHDAY.

He was from California if that means anything.

Moral of the story: I think it's ok for an australian to be australian in Australia or the US but on neutral terrirtory could lead to misunderstandings wuickly. By the way, I was a grade below in high school with "Nat" from "Nats what I reckon" it was a relatively privileged school in Sydney known for its alternative student lead projects and lack of marks - Nat is a classic at swearing - he grew up in Surry Hills a trendy part of the inner city fringe my dad ran a Graphic Design business there. HE is a an unique character who me and my best male friend looked up to - we caught the same bus home every day - we'd practice guitar and drums and then listen to him drumming on the bus with pencils and it was better than what we could do with drumsticks and a proper kit! my other friend had some success in music too, so its' an alternative kind of school (Steiner/Waldorf) in the sense that if parents could send their kids there they were ok with them getting into arts and so on - and if you are curious - this is what cultured (in the sense of artisanal and developed) swearing is like https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_WrvFvzdhCo

(he was known already around the warehouse and music scene here as a bit of a character but didn't hit big fame until the pandemic)

From what I understand the misunderstanding I had with "The American" in Yunnan might be ok in like New York or Jersey or something where they have what's called "busting your balls" ... e.g. Elaine in Seinfeld saying "GET OUT" and pushing a guy. I dunno.

I also seem to with some frequency have some big cultural misunderstandings with americans of about the same age, gender and cultural class on neutral territory - to the point I now avoid talking to Americans of the same age and gender! "I'm afraid of americans" by David Bowie, highly relateable hehe I thin of it like siblings - we are actually quite close but those little differences can lead to huge misunderstandings.