I'll share another story as an example. Late last year I started having trouble swallowing. It started as a discomfort, and eventually turned into trouble breathing and inability to eat solids. I went from perfectly healthy (literally ran a triathalon two months before this, and a marathon a few months before that) to unable to eat solids and bedridden within ~3 weeks.

I visited the ER a total of 5 times during those 3 weeks (having never visited the ER one time in my previous 35 years of life). Each time I was told to go home and rest. I received no care. I was unable to stay awake for more than a few hours and eventually became unable to talk and too weak to walk. I was unable to talk, eat, stay awake, and even drinking water was miserable. I lost 30 lbs in 1 month. I had to go on disability from my job (Site Reliability Engineering Manager). Life was so bad.

Over the course of the next 10 months I visited a dozen different specialists. Most of them weren't even worth the copay. A lot of doctors are absolutely worthless. I did eventually build up a team of talented and caring doctors. But 80-90% of the doctors I saw had zero care of my wellness. I am 35 years old, 6 ft, 180 lbs. I am very healthy. I eat tons of veggies, i don't do drugs, I drink rarely (socially a few times a year).

The specialists continued to rule out specific diseases within their respective line of specialty, but they kept suggesting I rule out more general stuff from my Primary Care Physician. But my primary care doctor would continue to shrug off suggestions I had and tests I requested. The fact that I had researched things on the internet would ensure that he wouldn't want to encourage it. He would shrug off symptoms telling me they were irrelevant or that I just had to deal with them or that its just part of me "getting older" (i'm only 35...). I had asked for basic tests like a metabolic panel or other broad tests to give us somewhere to look and he truly didn't care. He just wanted to send me to a different specialist and have them worry about me.

After 10 months of this I found a new primary care physician. I explain my symptoms to him and he truly listened and cared for the first time since this whole thing started. He listened to my actual problems and the timeline of the events and within one visit he took a bunch of blood and sent off for a host of tests. Within a week of that visit I discovered I had severe Vitamin D deficiency and B12 deficiency. I took vitamin supplements for these two vitamins and within a week I was about 50% better. It took about a month and I was about 80% better and another month and I was 95% better.

The cure to my disease was $20 worth of vitamins that you can buy at a corner market. I was on disability, I actually came close to dying a few times and racked up $150,000+ in medical procedures (luckily I have amazing insurance so it cost me my out of pocket max of $3,500). All of this for what was cured with vitamins and a simple blood test. A single visit from a caring doctor found this problem, but I suffered for a year because I couldn't find a doctor that cared enough to actually listen and take me seriously.

The stickler is this. I wondered about a vitamin problem at the beginning and my original primary care physician told me specifically not to take a multi-vitamin because "it might make things worse". I had also explicitly requested a general vitamin and metabolic panel on my first visit to the emergency room and also on my first visit to the PCP, of which I was denied both times. I even specifically mentioned a vitamin B12 deficiency during my first visit with the PCP, but when he asked why I suspected it and I mentioned that I read about it on the internet and my symptoms matched up, he was determined to convince me that I was wrong and it couldn't be that.

Not only did I effectively lose a year of my life and career and thousands of dollars. But I still might have some lingering permanent effects from this. Nothing like what I went through initially, but still lingering issues nonetheless.

The lack of compassion or care in the medical community astounded me. I have been very healthy my whole life and haven't had to deal with a lot of doctors. I always looked up to them as intelligent and respectable people. But this experience really gave me a more cynical experience of them. I realize they are just shooting from the hip and guessing as much as anyone else. Yes they went to medical school and have that knowledge to fall back on, but they are still just guessing. They just want to get you out the door, just like when you have someone come into your office to talk about something. You want to make that person happy, but you also just want to get them to move on and stop bothering you. Most doctors have this same approach. You are a customer, and most doctors don't truly care about you more than that. They don't see you as a person with a life, who may actually die from these decisions you are making or make have serious repercussions (like taking disability off work or suffering daily).

Yes, i'm American. So this is the American medical system I am talking about. But I doubt it's really that much different elsewhere in the world (minus the outrageous prices).