Being a binational, I can't help noticing that, once again, as long as "nudity" is censored or "under control" - then the children are supposedly safe.

Not that pornography is not a true problem. I really think it damages kids and even teens in their slow awakening to their sexuality.

But if they receive pictures of teens or children killed in Ukraine with gory details, that's all fine?

Kids and teens will share dirty pictures anyway. If their phones are totally "secure", they'll print the pictures.

The true questions are, IMO:

1/ education: all parents must at an early age talk more freely about sexuality. About respect, boundaries, the difference between having sex and making love, etc, and tell the kids & teens the truth: there is plenty of pornography on the internet and this is not good for you.

Because they will watch them. Through friends or unwillingly by trying to illegally download movies or cracked games.

I'd prefer that psychologists set up officially authorized websites where teens could watch adults making love explicitly but respectfully, with romance and feelings.

They want to watch anyway and they will find a way. But they will stumble onto violent scenes with psychopathic behaviors like incest, ten males onto one much younger woman.

Of course parents ought to have a way to block those websites. But they could also parameter their teens' computers to watch things that psychologists chose for their age.

Love movies to fight pornography. Explicit but insisting on the feelings and not the organs.

If parents can't accept that, well... their kids will watch brothers and sisters making anal sex in a way presenting it as "normal".

I think parents should enlist to night courses to learn how to deal with pornography. Censorship won't work.

It looks that parents want to be able to lie to themselves, eg being able to say "we did everything in our power" while knowing perfectly well that their teens will be confronted anyway to porn.

2/ As societies, we should reflect on pornography itself. Why are we collectively allowing large corporations making loads of money by producing violent, devious, unrespectful, illegal even (under age, incest, violence) porn.

I'm sure "free speech" is so large in the US that no law would hold. But that is not so in Europe - for the better IMO. Of course, laws would be transgressed like all laws are, but that would be a minority and that can be punished.

I'm not a prohibitionist, but I don't understand why well-known companies are still allowed to shoot scenes were women are objectified to the point of dehumanization, where they are insulted, abused, raped (even if it is "fake").

I don't believe an instant that laws and cops will suffice to stop degradating porn to circulate. But at least, maybe 80 or 90% of explicit scenes will be "normal people making love" and not a bunch of 50-year guys destroying a young tern.

So teens will more likely find "explicit decent love making" and not "gang bangs". At least, they would have a realistic idea of what sex is between non-pathologic, respectful, consenting adults.

That's the only way IMO to prepare them for the inevitable, e.g. gore porn they will find if they really try to (using tor or whatever forums). At least, they will be educated enough to tell themselves that what they are watching is not "normal".

Note that my definition of "normal" is rather broad. Oral sex is normal, in the sense of a common practice. But the ways it is practiced vary a lot. It can be either showing a woman following her own desire or a girl being forced to. Not at all the same thing.

The importance is not the nudity or to see organs in action. It's all about the relationship, adults asking to each other if they feel like practicing this or that and being said "no" regularly. That's education.

Of course, it's super difficult to judge when a specific teen is mature enough to watch a specific scene. There are gender issues too, which is a super delicate matter.

In all cases, we are failing our children by not putting up laws that define boundaries to porn movies. It will be difficult to agree on those in Europe. But how can we make a difference if we don't challenge ourselves?

The whole point is to make most of the porn something just respectful to women, with consent explicitly given and sometimes refused (and obeyed!) and with feelings. Nudity is not the issue.

And yes, there should be punishment for sending unwanted nudes.

In the US, I can't see a debate even possible with the current radicalization of the GOP around their so-called Christianity (which they know very little about or they would find Bernie not radical enough).

Let's make sex great again, let's change pornography! And educate our children and teens according to their own maturity but before they watch gore porn.

Any adults in this world??? Where are our political "leaders" about this? Yeah, we give the power to start wars and launch nuclear missiles to "adults" who don't dare step up to the reality of teens' sexual curiosity. Unbelievable. Don't look up! ;-)