skysight-inc/HackerNews huggingface dataset:
It may then be better to say you are untrusting of the family court industrial complex, that is set up to contain the social contagion of the former family unit and to extract as many resources as possible from the carcass as it splits into two taxable households.

It’s very common that a man end up with little time with the kids as the family court system is stuck on 1950s assumption around the woman being a housewife, and because a woman usually marry up also a huge bill every month. I’ve seen people driven near bankruptcy from it.

This is a great podcast for those unaware of how dangerous it is when your family enters the family court system

https://youtu.be/9S60kJA6tic
The single best antidote I have personally found against loneliness is staying busy doing things I really care about. If you would prefer something outside of work/career/projects, there's almost certainly some kind of self-improvement To-Do list you've built-up. Why not start tackling it with gusto?
Wow, what a story. I never really lucked out. I am naturally good at absolutely nothing. Everything I do requires a ridiculous amount of effort and a hideously ugly learning process. It is literally embarrassing. Also I just fail a lot. I think maybe this makes the successes a little bit sweeter?
Leetcode algorithms for backend? I don’t think so, most backend devs should be experts in leveraging their team/project’s chosen DB infra. Which mostly comes down to designing a sane data model and selecting appropriate indexes. And in my experience it’s very hard to find people who can even do that well.

Do you work in HFT? I consider that basically a subspecialty of systems programming.
> Join a meetup for people with similar interests. http://www.meetup.com

This was helpful for me. I joined some groups doing hikes and bike rides in the woods around town. Found I could chose how social to be, be it chatting a lot or just along for the ride.
I think one of the major problems with university teaching at the moment is the strong emphasis on student evaluations.

I don't believe students are necessarily the best judges of learning outcomes. In face I have learned that students tend to be the most conservative entities at university. Try to make any change in a course and they will hammer you on the evaluations. The detailed instruction example is a perfect example of this. In my experience it is not so much that students find creative ways to misinterpret loose instructions, instead I had students literally complain they had to think for labs or homework. I find this attitude very weird, as if when they start working they will always be given the detailed step by step instructions.
> share your skill with people.

Fantastic idea. That also worked for me but I wasn’t smart enough to mention it. Thank you.
Bums me out too...I've been so so disappointed by every change between GPM and YTP/YTM, but I can't pull myself away for anything else. Plexamp is fantastic, but it's not enough catalog for me (yet?), and Family is just too good of a value.
I'm sorry you feel this way! I've felt very lonely in the past and it was among my hardest times--though I'm sure my version of it was different and doesn't have specific applicability, just figured I'd share.

You asked on "tips for giving yourself attention". Can you elaborate on what you mean by that? Are there examples you could give us of what that is like, to help us think of other ideas?

One piece of art that I loved that is about this topic is this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7X7sZzSXYs. Like most art it doesn't really answer your question directly with concrete suggestions, but maybe it will be worth watching anyway.
Well. You got a point... what is a CEO worth. Is Tim Cook worth 100m per year, how can one human create so much „value“.

I don’t know the answer to this question, but i know that Mozilla is a bleeding company, that does not need 10 different nice to have projects, but a strong core product.

I have the feeling that these men and women just milking Mozilla dry. Firefox lost nearly ALL of their market share and I think the salary should be tied to goals. Real goals.
1. Thanks! Investigating that currently.

2. Yes I figured there must be others who face the same challenges. It doesn't seem too difficult from our point of view but not sure from a contractors point of view. Will check those companies out in the meantime.
> how can I learn to be alone without feeling lonely?

I'm not sure you can. Feeling lonely is a natural consequence of being alone, particularly for someone in your situation, who was used to having other people around regularly in the past but now doesn't.

The question is whether you think feeling lonely is a negative, something you need to fix, or not. (Some people don't, btw; there is no rule of the universe that says feeling lonely always has to be bad.) It sounds like, at least right now, you think it's something you need to fix. If that's the case, I think other posters here have given some good advice.
This really isn't that hard to understand, much the same way English was adopted as a lingua franca, Malaysia's Chinese population is itself heterogeneous and so at the national level the lingua franca of the Chinese nation, mandarin, is adopted over that of the disparate dialects that only had local superiority at city level.

A unified Chinese identity takes precedence over the local one, this is even more so when you are at the mercy of divide and conquer techniques. The only other alternative was Cantonese but then why would the Hokkien buy into that and vice versa? Educational resources are thin enough as it is.
With the abysmal reputation of DMVs, even if that were the primary business of government, people would still have a case for reforming government from the ground up.
A long legal battle with your spouse is mutually assured destruction.

The key question to ask yourself is "how does this benefit my kids?"

For the people planning to get married, understand that 50% of marriages end up in divorce of separation, and the median duration is about 8 years. You usually not have much to win by getting married. Plus, divorce rates tend to go up.

If you are already married and plan to stay married, watch this video. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eyty0xb7IMM
I just want to say, you are incredibly talented at your articulation of words and overall sentiment. I appreciate your comment.
Why would contractors especially care about contents of the contract? If everything goes well contract ends when you want it to end, if things go pear shaped you die under Russian mushroom cloud, or retreat as Ukraine is erased from the map. Either way it doesnt matter any more.
> generalisations about groups of people are always a bad idea

I broadly agree with the rest of your comment, but this part is utterly untrue. It's only the wrong generalizations that are harmful.

FWIW, the rest of your comment is kinda a broad generalization about westerners.
I think this is a good thing to be aware of but I don't think it has to be all-or-nothing.

There is a landscape of tribes to become aware of, and there's space for clouds of "familiar travelers" to move in and out of relation with these tribes dynamically. I would also advise that, rather than finding a tribe and staking the bulk of one's identity and relationships with that tribe, one works to form a constellation of relationships that constitute something like a personal tribe.

In other words, I don't think we need to move backwards to something, but that we can be more creative about how we get our needs met. Realizing that society isn't set up to meet those needs is an important step.
That's pretty much how all the docs I saw at Google worked. Written by the team for the team.
Peloton's New Subscription Is a Disaster Waiting to Happen
PS: This may sound weird, but I've heard a lot of folk in western, urban (isolationist) environments explain how the recent Disney/Pixar movie 'Encanto' has moved them deeply because of it's depiction of strong community. If you have not seen it, check it out and see if the lifestyle depicted there in the background to the story calls to you, it might be a good test to see if this is what you're craving or if it's something else.
Long term goals are probably the best things you can have to keep you going through hard times.
This is incredibly naive. Of course this is not immune to SEO but is highly susceptible to SEO. When it is in the financial interests of millions of people with billions of dollars at stake, people will simply tweak the signals going into inputs of your algorithm and "break" your "anti-seo".
As someone else mentioned: yoga. Yoga classes with other people. These are solo ventures with the option of interacting with the other people there. This has similarities with other kinds of social workout classes but the difference is that can be fairly low effort, sometimes half of a yoga class lets you fall asleep!

Now you have a common interest with people that practice mindfulness, which is also something you need. A lot of the people are fit women, some might find it interesting that you are there at all and wonder if you're going down the mindfulness path.

So you can still fulfill your goal of resigning from the possibility of connection while creating the option of being social.
a #TeamPlaybook suggestion: add a copy-and-pasteable monospace markdown text template for #ThreeQuestions in the #TeamHandbook-specified chat #channel for #3qs:

## Date
### Agenda
- 3qs
### @name
Since, Before, Obstacles
Mongodb, Docker and elastic search are not good examples.

Their software was ripped and resold by a billion dollar corps and they could do nothing about it.
One of my best friends volunteers at a technology museum and it seems to me like the healthiest way to interact with other people if your the kind of person who doesn't really like other people that much. I'm super jealous he has the bandwidth for that. Personally long walks in the city or hikes always fill a social need for me even when I'm alone. Or drinking coffee / eating alone at a window table with a notebook open for no reason.
I think you're looking for a game like Teardown. Check it out: https://store.steampowered.com/app/1167630/Teardown/
> Whereas if women mention that they are untrusting of men, nobody will bat an eye.

Well, clearly you and I will. Give it time and keep talking about it. In the aftermath of MeToo, feelings are still running high, but I think we'll see things balance out in the long run.
As someone who's rolled a few custom UDP network stacks I would tend to agree.

UDP is pretty low level(yay MTU discovery) but it gives you most of the tools you need which is why a good number of SCTP implementations are just built on top of it.
Wolverines are what honey badgers aspire to be. A single male can fight off a grizzly, kill an adult bull moose, and they're legitimately one of the scariest animals on the planet.
The lighter shade of blue separating the blue of the title and the white of the line-items really helps readability. The totally white approach in use today makes everything appear as one giant group.
I have just found this document with links to many support groups for dads, including divorced fathers who lost custody: https://mensgroup.com/father-support-groups/. I hope it helps!
Learn an activity that has a community surrounding it. For example, take dance lessons (I suggest swing dancing) -- which is highly technical and is predominantly practiced by techy folks. Or anything that is both structured and social, and the social can help with the loneliness.

Obviously, some of these things are harder to do mid pandemic, but hopefully we're near the end.
Another post has a better link (to the original source):

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=30667406
If it’s not worth it to someone to articulate their thoughts/questions in writing, that is a huge red flag that said person will probably waste much more than a few minutes of my time if I don’t reset their expectations.
Code for producing dynamic 2D Andrews curves
Interesting. I started with ZFS around 2009, and I recall several people struggling to us it on a system with less than 2GB, even after messing with tuneables. That was on FreeBSD though, so maybe implementation specific.
Getting married and having multiple kids cured my loneliness and depression for good.

You already proved you could find a partner and make a family. You can do it again.
quit drinking, pick up surfing
> I see. For laymen it's hard to understand: there are many price levels of DPs and even the most expensive ones don't have big enough samples.

Yes, most of the time.

There are some rare exceptions to this, like Korg Kronos 1/2 (more like a music workstation), which has a built in Intel Atom x86 processor and an 30 GB/62 GB internal SSD.
It has full length grand piano samples (with 8/12 velocity layers) without looping, and the piano samples themselves in this rare occasion is in gigabytes :) (~3-4 gigs per piano sample if I recall, which is very rare in DPs)

So it should sound pretty good for a sample based piano. However the piano action on it is... somewhat basic.
Then there's Korg Grandstage (has ~19gig total sample size, I believe it uses the same piano samples as Korg Kronos (Kronos just has a whole lot of other instruments too)).

That taken into account I just focus on getting great action, and then hook it up to PC with low latency audio drivers.

Honestly that Kawai K-300 Aures sounds like a good deal, an actual acoustic piano, as well as optical sensors to read velocity of hammers and get MIDI output.
I'd probably try to get the Kawai K-500 Aures, the slightly taller model if possible.

Yamaha u3/u5 uprights, properly tuned and well looked after, with front and top panels wooden panels removed can sound fantastic.

>I'm not used to acoustics and the ones I encounter are sometimes sluggish or hard to play for me

Usually long-time DP players struggle with pedaling once they hop on a real acoustic.

This is because DPs are generally speaking very forgiving in terms of sustain pedal use - you can kind of be pretty sloppy
with it and just kind of hold it down for extended periods of time with it rarely if ever getting muddy.

That's enabled by most DPs having a very short decay sound, plus each note is kind of thin/narrowband and isolated, with minimal string resonance (compared to a real instrument).

On a real instrument you kind of get audibly punished for being sloppy with pedalling. :)

And it takes takes a bit of time to re-learn proper sustain pedal use on a real acoustic.

Either way, good luck!
No need for any kind of MAC filtering: MAC is not propagated outside the L2 broadcast domain, so your server will see only the MAC of the default gateway (the router).
Ummm this costs like $100 to use...
Thoughts to consider:

1. What would it look like if you were not lonely?

2. Consider there are 7b+ people out there. Whatever style of friend or companion you are looking for, it exists.

3. Your goal is to be alone without feeling lonely. If you feel lonely perhaps that's your mind telling you that you actually don't want to be alone.

4. Imo, everyone needs a few people to confide in. Generally people know approx 50-100 people, but there are layers. On the inner most layer most people only have 2-3 people they consistently confide in. So you likely don't need many to be satisfied.

5. Relationships come down to proximity, frequency, and intimacy of information sharing. Without these three components you won't feel connected to someone. You can't skip a step and fake it.

6. Unfortunately our society is optimized for efficiency of the production of goods and allocation of capital, which doesn't include any of our happiness.

7. Read old books. Books that passed the Lindy effect (test of time). There's plenty of wisdom in them that will give you comfort will fuller perspective and understanding of human nature and society. A few are Tao de Ching, Meditations, The Republic.

8. There are two ways to solve problems: planning and leaning into mystery. Some people only consider the first option. However doing unplanned things with unpredictable outcomes can lead to the emergence of amazing things. Seek new environments, enjoy exploring them, and don't anticipate how they will give you what you need. You may be surprised.

9. You may already have the people you need around you without realizing it.

10. If you want to be alone, maybe embrace it with a retreat or seminary for a few weeks. May clear your mind and reveal something.

11. Last one since this is getting long. Generaly the formula for a person's happiness is good food, good sleep, good exercise, few good companions, and something in the future to look forward to. If someone checks those boxes usually they are good.

Wish you all the best in your journey. I'm sure this detour will take you somewhere exciting around the corner.
I think Mitchell should pay Mozilla. Not the other way around.

Not because she is a woman, because she is doing a terrible job.

Mozilla will stay afloat so Google can tell their “we have no browser monopoly” story.

Mozilla gets 1.2 BILLION$ for 3 years. Mind blowing ... and they handle a product as a side project. Unbelievable.
Complaints? Unless he lives in a HOA, what right does anybody have to complain?
I can't stand how USA is built, with the exception of few cities (nyc, boston, philly, dc....) rest is horribly desolated place where to do anything you sit in isolated in cars and only human contact is around commercial areas.

Take for example a middle-east or european town/city. Lot of housing/buildings built side by side or so close only a person can walk through, within these narrow streets you have also got all sorts of shops (small grocery store, pharmacy, printing shop, laundry, accountant, cafe, ice-cream shop....) and then there are "car" streets, where you park and drive the car through to the "road".

Kids play in these streets without worrying about cars ever coming in, you can walk to most shops in less than 3 mins, people can sit outside of their house and talk to neighbors, go to cafe at the corner to eat with friends, and more.

I once had to go to suburbs for the job, and everything you do, even buying a gallon of milk required 8+ mile drive to walmart. No parks, no pavements, no sense of community, no shops, just drive drive drive... Literally felt like i was stuck in some sort of weird space ship waiting for the landing to destination and had to endure sitting in my seat for meanwhile.

The sad thing is, city design and housing like this affects, mental health, economical mobility, social life, and everything else..

To contrast what I said

How usually the cities are:
https://earth.google.com/web/@41.39383041,2.16478558,31.9819...

How most of USA is:
https://www.google.com/maps/@27.9718179,-82.4868834,3a,75y,1...
if you don't need a smart fridge (which i wouldn't recommend anyway), i love GE's fridges. we have one. works great. i've also heard great stuff about whirlpool fridges.

note that the appliance industry is incestuous as fuck. it's basically a cabal of six selling stuff at all price points. see here: http://www.appliance411.com/purchase/make.shtml
Sounds like a distraction strategy
I think K8s will become simpler and easier to use. There will be platforms (eg. Knative) on K8s, that will become the norm for starters.
>> but I get into this space where it feels like a biological necessity.

You're not alone in feeling alone. A large percentage of people go through seasons of loneliness at times, and to a healthy degree it signals a need that is OK to have. Doesn't make it feel better in the moment, but I went thru a solid year+ of feeling alone after a big breakup.

>> how can I learn to be alone without feeling lonely? I feel like I need this lifeskill

For the vast majority of people, this is not a thing. Given you're writing this post, it's not you. People know by their 30s if they've got the loner mentality and are completely content in their own world. You're not weak for feeling alone, and it's not a skill you will ever master.

That said, loneliness can be exacerbated by things like shame/guilt that needs healing, poor sleep, excess stress, underlying health conditions, "winter blues", social media, lack of success on dating apps (d-appression), porn usage (interrupts innate intimacy drives), abuse of drugs/alcohol, etc.

Have you taken the opportunity to change after your divorce? Get a new place, find new hobbies, maybe a new job or a move? Some of the loneliness could be you're not listening to yourself asking for the change you really need. Loneliness is always a signal for connection - to connect with yourself, God, others, etc.

>> I have a pattern of loneliness pushing me into making very foolish decisions.

Everyone is like this. The buffalo separate from the herd is prime target for an evening meal. Find your herd.
Realize it's a blessing to be alone.
The most valuable resource – time – is only yours. Nobody can steal it.
Read books of great minds, they will become your friends.
Human is a social animal. So it's in our nature to communicate. Uplift people you meet in your life without expecting anything in return. In general, expect nothing from anybody. It fixes most things including trust issues.
Good luck!
One thing that I have found helpful lately -- forgiving and loving myself, in spite of feelings like intense loneliness. "I forgive myself for feeling lonely", "I forgive myself for feeling sad", etc. has been really helpful to avoid adding extra fuel to the fire of grief during these difficult times.
Just to add a slight counter to this, for some people Linux not being windows is enough. Many people don't remember this, but Microsoft showed us all what they are in the 90s.
I think as a child my mom often asked me if I had friends at school in this worried tone. I suppose I made a decision to hide parts of myself in order to have friends. And it worked for years, up until I got married and realized I've been lying to myself about who I am. I made a person that I thought other people would like. I'm finding that the real me is actually not only not appreciated but not tolerated, in my family and what was once my circle of friends. So, I find myself, first the first time in my life, trying to build relationships from an authentic place in my 30's.
> in the last 30 years those family islands have been actively broken down by our quest for individualism and personal identity

Agree with most of your comment but I feel this is less about "our quest" as it is societal/economic pressure to not have children and push women to work vs focus on raising a family.
Just as another data point, I use and enjoy NewPipe, but definitely experience the first two points listed above- I get crashes and failures to load not infrequently.

Perhaps a hardware issue, or NewPipe handles spotty connections poorly or something.
wow thank you!
Dissecting the “Great Delisting”
Pledge works at the libc level, so behind the scenes libc implementation changes don't cause program breakage.
it's not about women as a class, but about forming a deep connection to someone (regardless of gender or it being a romantic connection or not). when you have a bad experience like divorce or a breakup or a "betrayal" of a friend who you trusted but who decided to unfriend you over some issue, then that can lead to loosing trust.

it takes a new relationship to overcome this and that's difficult when past experience hampers your very ability to form that relationship.
If you're scanning 10 million hosts per second and know the netblock you want to scan it will only take on average a touch under 30,000 years to find the host.

In IPv4 land finding that same host would require scanning a single address.
I think MongoDB and Elasticsearch should be examples of the opposite if anything. They tried to do the whole FOSS thing, but now both use "Server Side Public License", which is generally regarded as source-available, but not open source because of its restrictions.

https://opensource.org/node/1099