skysight-inc/HackerNews huggingface dataset:
Many are saying probably there’s nothing wrong which can’t be farther from the reality of these apps.

There’s plenty wrong with dating apps. Each of these apps are designed to be toxic. As in the company puts an effort to make the experience toxic and sluggish. You have to spend hours uselessly. You have to get frustrated.

Limits are usually designed in such a way that it hurts one sidedly.

In in person dating at least to some extent you could expect “you take a step, I take a step”, but on dating apps you’ve to do everything - especially in the beginning and this pressure is almost entirely on one gender.

Usually you’ve one shot and that too for a fraction of a minute of just few seconds to pitch your deck.

You have to be a funny person, a stoic, a wise person, playful, mature, all probably in one message; while coming across as athletic, well groomed but not full of yourself, maybe homely, and down to earth as well in your pictures. You’ve to take the initiatives and also develop a radar to read minds.

This is more gender specific than usual: if you’re lucky enough to meet people you are supposed to be a feminist who believes in equality but also a chivalrous person who opens doors and shit.

Then you get some response and it is so limited that you try to trudge along with whatever you get but sooner or later realising “fuck, all this effort for such low quality interactions?” and then the disappointment and rut sets it with a fatigue where you don’t want to do it anymore but you keep doing it anymore.

They do nothing for spam, harassment pretty much. Quality and veracity of profiles is deliberately left unchecked to increase the volume.

Tricking and messing with users with dark patterns (in some cases even fake profiles).

Among things listed ghosting is the only one I consider something that has remained almost same from the non-dating app dating (and tbh it just needs to be dealt with in one way - that there’s nothing worth doing anything there). Everything else is either new with this trend or much worse.

From my personal perspective this pandemic made it worse when too much audio and text started happening without meeting in person and you started building connections (sometimes breaking) without interacting with the other person physically/in person.

All this just pushes the two groups apart and slowly it spreads as the dating is moving more and more to the online world.

I think limiting the number of matches (at a time), not just daily matches can be a good start - you only get more if are done with your current matches - aye or naye, but that would look bad on the PMs’ clickstream dashboards.

Biggest drawback is - designed to be completely opaque in everything! And that too after having so much of your most personal data.
Ask HN: Why do HR / recruiters care so much about gaps in employment?
I noticed this activity has decreased due to COVID, but still the question itself is annoying.

Here is Reddit's take, but I wanted to know about it in tech
https://www.reddit.com/r/jobs/comments/7wv4o3/why_do_hr_recruiters_care_so_much_about_gaps_in/
There appear to be a few people who are intentionally excluded from the list. Notice for example that pg himself is not listed, despite having 156,000+ karma.
Just needs integration with e.g. OpenRGB to change the colors of the physical keys on supported keyboards :)
> Then on top of that giving people independent, client-based, advanced AI powered tools en masse, and making sure they know how to use them and why, for accurate elected censorship on their own devices of things they personally find detrimental to their mental health. Basically, do what you can to allow for the censorship of the influence of the people with money, onto the people without it.

I lay blame for a lot of the bipolarism of modern discourse on the ability of people to filter the ideas to which they are exposed to a great degree. Combine that with the ability to create larger audiences than ever before, and that's exactly how the us/them dualism takes root. Echo-chamber was a big buzz word not that long ago.
I once owned most of the Wired magazines from 1995-1999. I stupidly sold them on eBay.
I feel that nation could not censor its way back to anything good, whether it’s cultural health or anything else. The only place where censorship thrives is a totalitarian society, whether Socialist or National Socialist on the spectrum.
No plans to force anything. She comes to me. Great. We have fun.
Yes, the notion that one mistake (or even behavior over a period of time) is forever irredeemable does not forge a path to a more enlightened civility.
The disturbing minority has always been there, we just didn't used to take those fringe ideas seriously. 'Compromise' with the radical fringe is not inherently required.
>Almost all of the men participating in online dating are interested in hooking up or a longer term relationship but a lot of young women sign on just to get an ego boost from getting a lot of matches, then they ghost them all.

Got any data to back up this assertion?
1. Think of yourself as a small business, not an independent contractor.

2. Only then, book 1 client. It doesn't matter for how long, it just needs to be at a reasonable rate for something you're confident you can deliver on time for <20hrs/week.

3. Only then, in your remaining weekly capacity, start the sales process to land a second client (at a higher rate), and start setting up your business admin processes (invoicing, budgeting, accounting, etc)

4. Only then, pick up a copy of Alan Weiss's Consulting Bible or Million Dollar Consultant - for tips on pricing your services & writing proposals.

At this point, if you find out you don't enjoy sales or high rates - partner with a consulting firm. Otherwise, keep going.
Experimental depression treatment uses electric currents to bring relief
There is nothing wrong with the situation, even if it doesn't sound good.

Tech in dating should increase participation, access, reduce friction and assist with creativity and social engagement.

All of these are being worked upon and likely a lot of opportunity exists for more creative ideas (which may or may-not be "vc type" scale)
I think a P/E of 16 is too low for Facebook now. Others think it’s too high. That exact disagreement is what makes the market.
It would need the support of textbook companies to print it, school boards to buy into it, teachers to deliver it, and students interested in taking it. There's a whole marketplace of ideas out there, and the course you're proposing simply wouldn't survive it.
So much that they even end up repeating exact phrases in their seemingly independent broadcasts, as seen in https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QxtkvG1JnPk
Exactly. There's a really good article about the problem by the founder of OKCupid from 2010. This is not a human problem, it IS a tech problem that can be solved. I couldn't find the original but here's a copy:

https://www.gwern.net/docs/psychology/okcupid/whyyoushouldne...
It takes discipline.

You have to love your work.

And that, my friends, is why many people will not be able to remote work. All the stories you read in the comments here so far are for people who really love their jobs. You can feel it in every word that's lovingly typed. Families. Spouses. Nature. Inspiration. etc.

But for many people who absolutely don't like their jobs (most people), remote work is not a panacea. Without the structure and discipline of the office, they cannot and will not cope. And that's the dirty little secret of remote work.

For every person who sings the praises of remote work. There are 10 people who slack off with Netflix, YouTube, friends, etc. during work from home.

Lets keep it 100 guys.
An article expanding on this comment:

https://www.harvardmagazine.com/2020/06/how-harvard-handled-...
You only need one good one. (well, that depends if you're dating to increase your score or not)

IIRC from that OKCupid research, women only rated 20% of men as attractive, but then their attractiveness rating didn't actually affect who they responded to, so it didn't really matter.

Also, women know better than men that attractiveness is a thing you do not a thing you are.
NY Public Library has a video on the exhibit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kulk7IPTL10
I've been an independent software developer for the past 3 or 4 years and I took a path that can be done by good software developer who is good at talking to clients. Talent agencies like Toptal and A.team are great to get started since you don't need to find customers. You can make $150 or more per hour which makes for a pretty comfortable living. Feel free to email me at dan@axelby.com if you'd like more specific advice or just to chat.
I don’t care, Spotify is free for me even if it wasn’t the controversy is just noise. My problems with Spotify are related to paid playlists placement and shit discovery
Leaving the date is fair.

On the other hand if somebody has gotten 200 matches it's also fair to say they need to see somebody in order to keep getting matches and probably possible to enforce that.
Liero can be played in browser now, for those who remember

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=22980676
But aren’t bouncers a sign of a very popular bar? I don’t think that makes the point they’re targeting as an analogy.

Good comment though.
While I agree with this sentiment, there was a lot of harassment and toxicity with the old version. It made it too easy to find someone's profile if you knew them in real life. This reminds me of the "old facebook" too, which I miss, but stalking was a problem and it's probably for the best that things changed.
+1 for https://www.quantamagazine.org/

nature can be a little heavy

I also enjoy https://www.sciencedaily.com/
I thought I was sick of remote work until I tried going back to the office.

Here's what I had forgotten:

1. Foul air in unnecessary air-tight buildings without a single open window.

2. Time wasted in making people believe you are working when you cannot work.

3. Blinding bright lights on at full power the entire day.

4. So much noise.

The pandemic made me lose my ability to not be miserable in an office, and I think I'm better without it.
I think you'll find that backpropagation was essentially developed (multiple times) during the 60s in the field of control theory and first implemented in the early 70s.

Indeed. The book Talking Nets: An Oral History of Neural Networks[1] covers a lot of this ground. Read it and you'll see many people who were involved in the early history NN's mentioning how backprop was discovered and re-discovered over and over again.

[1]: https://www.amazon.com/Talking-Nets-History-Neural-Networks/...
That's a quotation from Lord Farquad, the villain in Shrek.
No, they're probably married. The terminally unpleasant cynical people actually seem to be on here less than they used to - and the ones still here I assume are crypto millionaires now, which always helps.
Umm... Yeah... I think you might be shadow banned.
> Anyone who says they can write a compiler in a year should be fired." Roger himself held the same opinion, a couple of years later

Nonsense.

Three of us did it in a year compiling a language similar to PL/M written in Bliss 36 on a PDP-10. And that was when compilers were much harder to do then than they are now.
One caveat that I found: I practiced typing on workman for about a week, and was able to type regular sentences at okay speeds (maybe 30wpm vs 100wpm on qwerty). But then it dawned on me that I would have to relearn all vim, vscode, and window manager shortcuts too. Especially the vim shortcuts really hurt a lot (navigation keys are pretty random), and so I stayed with qwerty.
That's not at all clear.
This is the most ideological time of my life (I’m in my 40s). Every non trivial thread on HN has comments that could be fairly characterized as political in some way.

My real world experience is not quite that extreme but it’s certainly more so than it used to be, particularly in any gathering that includes twenty-somethings.

Maybe the 60s were like this, I’d be interested to hear a comparison from someone that lived through them.
There is a bit of “parent in absentia” needed for the grownups who look after the students. And the kids can do crazy things.

Calling the police is definitely not the right way to handle things in a lot of kid situations.
My memory of okcupid was all the features gave people anxiety, i.e. the heavy users spent all their time on personality quizzes not going out. I also matched 100% with someone I knew who wasn't my type.

I think a better feature would've been teaching people how to take better selfies with 2000s cameras.
Been working from home for 12+ years now. I can't imagine going back to an office.

I get more work done at home than I ever did in an office and I have 7 kids and we homeschool.
> People also need to accept the virus as part of their lifes and stop throwing a fit, because someone else is unvaccinated, because it is obvious (and not misinformation) that the vaccines do not prevent that almost everyone will be exposed to the virus.

I'm glad my parents' and grandparents' generations didn't share this attitude, for the obvious reasons of smallpox, polio, and MMR being practically nonexistent in my time, and with comparatively little fuss about mass societal uptake. [n.b. I am aware of the various efficacy rates of the vaccinations above, I'm just bookending this reasonable conversation we're having]
This is the solution but the pandemic crippled it's practicality as a huge census shifted to WFH. It's been 2 years now and even in Texas, which has aggressively "reopened", most social stuff has been slow to come back and quick to be paused. I dine out a lot but pretty much with a small family circle these days, minimal work meals & entertainment.
It will never be perfect, there'll always be someone trying to exploit a power vacuum, but we'll see how things go. There's a possibility some changes could make our situations improve more than they deteriorate. It's worth being a little optimistic...
I think this always applies. For instance the border on this textarea is 1px. There's nothing the OS can do, it's a physical issue. If UI scaling is 1.5, the correct answer for the size of the border is now 1.5 physical pixels. The best you can do is color the first pixel black and the second pixel the average of the first and third pixels. I might be wrong on this but I can't imagine what else it could do (other than mis-sizing the element).

I do agree that it probably looks fine and you wouldn't actually notice, unless you had an @2x monitor right next to it (of which there are sadly very few options)
One might say that online dating is an example of technology being a problem, not being a solution.
First time: severe headaches, severe chills (like ice cold in a 68℉ room), annoying gastrointestinal issues. Lasted 72 hours. Very early in the epidemic. Didn’t know to check SpO2 or temperature. Only diagnosed as Covid retrospectively when comparing symptoms I’d reported before we knew what Covid was.

Second time: approximately four months after first bout. Lost sense of smell for 48 hours. Winded walking up stairs or walking briskly. Temperature barely moved. Had “brain fog” for about three months.

Neither infection has been formally confirmed, by the time I took an antibody test over a year had passed from the first infection and close to eight months from the second.

Have since been vaccinated with Moderna, haven’t had any noticeable symptoms since.
JavaScript is the new Punk Rock (2012)
I haven't written a description yet. Here's a diagram I just made (I'm on my phone rn, please forgive any spelling issues) https://owo.whats-th.is/56opvAS.html
Quite a few people have remarked on the performance problems. For the spacing thing, the use of Adwaita doubled the minimum width of things like the Fill & Stroke panel because of its excessive button padding, so that on my Surface Book (effectively 1500×1000) with the typical layout, I would end up with something like a 35–40% reduction in available canvas width (and maybe 10–15% for the height); but even the common resolution of 1920×1080 is going to suffer a fairly significant reduction in available width, compared to the Win32 theme.

But I couldn’t even properly switch back to the Win32 theme because of severe bugs that rendered it very problematic on all displays and basically completely unusable after a bit on any comparatively small high-DPI displays like my Surface Book’s. I don’t know if any of these issues have been fixed; I did try Inkscape 1.0 final briefly but decided it was still just too bad compared to 0.92. And now I’m back on Linux and so, like the Inkscape developers, don’t care all that much about Windows any more.

(https://gitlab.com/inkscape/inbox/-/issues/879 was my initial report, including explanation of some of the major Win32 theme regressions. Given the adjacent topic in this thread of GTK 4, the mention of overlay scrollbars in that thread points to a mess too; https://wiki.archlinux.org/title/GTK#Disable_overlay_scrollb... says: “as of GTK 4, the overlay nature of the scrollbars is part of the toolkit.” Ugh, GTK is obviously not interested in being a native look-and-feel toolkit if they deliberately remove the ability to control scrollbar overlayedness at the system level or in the theme. If you require the app to switch it on, it might as well not exist. Sounds like they’re continuing with the sabotage.)
I’m hoping that uptick in the past of politics hitting the front page was an aberration and we’ll now trend back towards the mean.
In the US, the birth rates are so low we are rapidly going extinct, literally. So, from that fact, it is fair to conclude that there are some serious problems with dating. In particular, there are a lot of weak, sick, dead limbs on the tree.

Well, likely not nearly for the first time, Darwin is on the case and working on a solution, in this case, likely just a routine application of some old, well proven techniques.
People say either tech increases or decreases atomization. Maybe math will help convey this best:

let's say you have x meaningful relatinoships and y is your desired minimum number of meaningful relationships. Ignore that I'm overlooking here the very real possibility of having more connections than you'd like.

- you're all good if x / y is about or more than 1

- you're lonely if it's noticeably less

That y is kind of a function of many influences though. In particular social media encourages you to form more connections. y value goes up, so x/y probably goes down, because you probably aren't making connections as fast as you desire greater connection. Because social media technology can't magically convert your wish for greater connection into actual valuable human relationship, it just makes you lonelier. The wider a net you desire to cast, moreso. And dating apps.. you are probably swiping like on dozens if not hundreds of people before meeting up.. that x/y value is gonna hit the floor

But you know what I'm just realizing? What if there were apps that made you less lonely by making you set your y=x.. can't tell if it's bleak or healthy to reduce your expectations for connection in that way, lol..

Online isn't real, tech is not life, and probably industrial forms of economies hinder your ability to meaningfully spend sufficient amounts of time not directed towards economic output so that you could increase that x value without making a disciplined effort if it's quite low to start with.
All planes are only stable within certain flight parameters. The problem wasn't that the plane was unstable, it was that the stability region was different than that of previous 737s. If the plane had been given a different name and required simulator training, none of this mess would have ever happened.

(Or if they'd just correctly classified MCAS as a safety critical feature and made it have redundant inputs).
Education funding and teacher pay are really different things. I’d look forward to a detailed chart of accounts that derive each of them.
£200 p/m Cloudflare Business plan. Urgent issue. How have they performed?
I think even highly skilled typists usually don't exceed 130wpm or so, except for competitive typists that are copying texts. Maybe changing your writing style could give better gains?
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=30197656
I actually think this article is a pretty standard and trivial reading of the situation. I don't think its particularly thoughtful, and is probably upvoted because it conforms to the already-held views of many of the upvoters. Oh? So you were warning the left about censorship, for its own good? I *have* heard that one before.

I'd prefer it stays flagged.
I prefer to make the question moot and conduct auditable elections, even if everything has been fine so far.
I don't think anyone truly does that 100% of the time.
I've been coding a dating app in my free time and there's a lot of really interesting problems in the dating space imo. I did a lot of user interviews, and one of the frustrations I heard over and over again (across genders) is that dating apps today are largely about creating an image for yourself in the form of a profile... so your success largely comes down to your physical appearance, your ability to take good photographs, and how you portray your personality and personal life. Which means that people who become successful have to learn how to game the system, and someone with a great personality may have a harder time in apps if they don't look a certain way. It's a bit like how engineers have to learn how to succeed at interviews, which can be a separate skill from their day-to-day job.

I like what Lex has done - it's a queer dating app that's designed to look like those old personal ads in papers. There's no images, and you're limited to four posts in a month to encourage higher quality posts.

One person told me that they've had way better success meeting people through their professional life or hobbies, because you get to know someone better by working on tasks or playing games together. She said that she wishes she could just play a game with a stranger and then have the option to chat with them after - there's an app or two I've seen in development that take a similar approach. Not sure how viable it is, but it's interesting.

Ultimately I think that there's a lot of dating issues that can't be solved with technology (say, racism) but a well-designed app can influence behavior to mitigate some issues (e.g. bumble).
You have my respect. No way do I think I could manage the time commitment and work needed to effectively homeschool.
Do you have a website with more information about your company/opportunities?
I think Google API error messages are pretty awful. Good run for the money against SF,
Very true. I’m a fan of Siemen’s push into the market.
After a decade of research showing they impair productivity, an Open Office Plan is just insulting to my intelligence at this point.