It splits two ways.

There is the effect that pornography has on the people who work in the industry and there is the effect that it has on other people.

Working conditions could be good in the industry for some people some of the time but they frequently aren't. The consent behind it might very well be regretted in the future.

To me it's just common sense that any harm to women outside the performers is mediated by harm done to men. Even in the stereotypical scenario that pornography viewing led to a rape or other violence, a man who was driven/enticed/... into the action was (by definition) harmed first.

Part of the "looking in the rear view mirror" effect is that we're still stuck on this paradigm of women being victims and men being victimizers.

I don't like the "wrong/right" dimension in polls, I would much rather see the question phrased as "harmful/not harmful". One reason why traditional moralists have lost their moral authority is that they insist on using the first and not the latter.

One odd thing I've experienced whenever I've shown some pornography to my wife is considerable problems in hermeneutics, even with carefully curated images. Seen from the outside the world of pornography is hermetic: for instance if I showed her a typical porn site she'd have a hard time finding the image that is supposedly the subject surrounded by other pornographic images for other photo sets and all of the ads. It is like the image at the top here

https://techcrunch.com/2014/05/16/the-app-store-is-proof-wer...

When she looks at anime porn that's been carefully selected she always wants explanation of the ubiquitous visual codes such as the anatomically incorrect cutout from inside the woman's body, etc. This is not a jumping off point for a discussion of sex but rather a lot of work has to be done just so she can "unsee" the conventions of the genre.

As for the dangers of camgirling/onlyfans there is one word to know: "simping",

https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/simp-everything-know-2020-st...

It is bad enough to witness a woman in real life who is stringing along a number of hapless guys (one lives up the road, she was talking a big game about "polyamory" but boy did she shrink away when my wife and I demonstrated that we were a polyamorous couple.) When it is scaled up to the point of 10,000 men simultaneously simping for one women it's disgusting to see so many boys that are never going to grow up. The harm to women is vastly greater than traditional feminist critiques, stuck in an obsession with "violence", would allow -- there are many things that real women would like to get from men that they will never get because men are stunted in their growth.

Some apologists will claim that the performer is a "transitional object" that will help the victims grow up and eventually develop real relationships but I don't believe it. It might help men weather their teens and 20s but when women are interested in settling down they find nothing but overgrown boys. Not only do the new forms suck more money from men (in the sense that video games with loot boxes are considered harmful) but the parasocial relationship satisfies more needs in the short term and is more effective at diverting energy from maturation and real relationships.

So far as the loss of reality in the media goes that can be traced back to the 19th century, see Madam Bovary but I would say social media is already dramatically more harmful than the old media. There always was a distance between the star and the audience that gave space for critical distance but in social media people get captivated by images created by people they know or almost know.