So, you find yourself the way you are, with the options you know of, much time left to explore and no direction?

There seems to be a problem of situational knowledge and direction. You don't seem to know where the tasty options are for you, and when they are best taken advantage of.

For example, travelling alone is best done out of season for tourist heavy locales (which are the places other people want, so you might enjoy). And travel is entirely different experience as a couple, a group or a lone traveller. Such that a couple might have better luck end-of-season, and just before season start is a lucky time for groups.

You can only find out what I'm talking about from doing it. How I know it, how significant a consideration any of this is for a given travel opportunity, do you care for the experience of lone travelling at all, and what with as a couple.

In short, you sound like you're forgetting to spend time outside the house doing things, working your environment for interesting opportunities, making acquaintances and exploring their map of your shared surroundings. No business is going to come to you if you don't hustle for it mate.

I know it's tempting to package your identity and present it in some gallery -- someone might notice, someone might be approving, interested, appreciative. That would be supportive to your self worth. But chances are you won't hear back from any of this, and those are just the chances, even if you're otherwise an exceptional specimen. So if you don't hear back, that is evidence of the base landscape of chance, you shouldn't care. Put 20 more profiles up on other services. Amplify your effort. Still means nothing.

They guy flying a plane is a pilot. They guy commanding everyone's attention is the instructor. The guy discussing his supply with a chinese seller through a translate tab on his side-b's handy at 4am night before product launch is a business man.

Notice, none of these people are comfy at home. They are all engaged in high-stakes environment manipulation.

It's all about how you spend your time.
When you catch yourself having the option and the compulsion to engage in something you don't want to be the -man of, have a ready-good option of doing something that does represent what you think you could be. Could you be the one taking walks? Take a 20 minute walk with no phone or purpose instead of 20 minute coffee with FB/Twitter. Doing so is in and of itself a successful realization of what you think you could be.

And don't be busy or money-tight. People that are engaged in those two have bad luck doing anything else at all.

In general, set time aside to explore. Think about what you like, and how it could be better enjoyed. See where your fear is, what it is, how it would all go bad, how would it be if it didn't go that way. If you think much on some other person and what they want, then try to understand why, try to see if that is something you want at all. Every day you should explore, adjust, assess.

Talk to yourself, ask yourself things. What's next, John?
Are we going to enjoy it? What is the game if not? How will it go, what should I have prepared and on-hand? What will it do, how do we feel about that?

Actually try it. Like, the way I typed it. Quite literally.